Valuetainment - Why Selfish People Are Better For Society

00:00:00.000 Yesterday, we're having a conversation about who's a bigger net positive to society, selfish people or selfless people.

00:00:05.000 And I wish you were there to listen to where this conversation went because it was so entertaining.

00:00:09.100 No way, we need more selfless people. There's a lot of selfish people. 1.00

00:00:11.780 But by the time the conversation was done, everyone said, maybe we kind of need more selfish people in the world.

00:00:17.000 Because the world is revolved around selfish people.

00:00:19.960 Hang tight before you judge. Watch the whole thing. I'm going to make the case to you at the end.

00:00:24.440 If you say, Pat, you have no clue what you're talking about, thumbs down.

00:00:27.160 If you say, this makes sense, give it a thumbs up.

00:00:30.000 And subscribe to the channel. Let's get right into it.

00:00:39.860 So before I show this chart to you, let me tell you a story about Mario Aguilar.

00:00:42.820 Mario has been with me now for 18 years.

00:00:45.500 Mario just had a wedding. He got married this past weekend at my house.

00:00:48.360 Beautiful wedding. We had a great time.

00:00:49.520 But I want to tell you about a conversation I had with him five years ago.

00:00:51.880 We're sitting down in the office in Dallas. I said, Mario, why don't you own a car?

00:00:55.380 Cars don't move me. How come you don't own a watch?

00:00:57.580 I don't need to have a nice watch.

00:00:58.720 How come you never have money in savings? I don't care if I have money.

00:01:01.040 If I have it, I give it to other people.

00:01:02.400 And I'm going through, like, what selfish goals do you have in place?

00:01:06.020 Nothing. I said, you realize by you being that way, you're not positive to the world.

00:01:11.680 He says, what do you mean?

00:01:12.380 I said, if you're slightly more driven, other people win.

00:01:16.060 I win. You win. Your family wins.

00:01:18.700 Your peers win. Your legacy wins.

00:01:20.580 Your future kids win.

00:01:21.860 Everybody wins.

00:01:22.660 If you have something you're going after, the world is a better place if you're in the hunt for some of your selfish goals.

00:01:30.040 So he sits there and he starts thinking about it.

00:01:31.660 This guy's Ubering around all over the place.

00:01:33.340 He's wearing the same thing pretty much every day.

00:01:34.780 Same shoes, same shirt, same pants.

00:01:36.340 Maybe changes it up here and there.

00:01:37.740 But it's pretty much the same routine things.

00:01:39.400 There's nothing exciting going on that he's looking forward to except for his job.

00:01:43.580 We have this conversation.

00:01:44.820 Mario starts making changes.

00:01:46.900 He makes a video about alcohol.

00:01:48.100 I think the last time Mario drank alcohol was three and a half years ago.

00:01:51.100 The video inspires a bunch of different people.

00:01:53.000 And then he says, Pat, I want to buy this.

00:01:54.780 He buys a nice red Challenger.

00:01:56.760 Car comes in.

00:01:57.500 It's in the back of the building.

00:01:58.400 I see his eyes light up.

00:01:59.560 So look at what it feels like.

00:02:00.620 Then a watch.

00:02:01.280 Then a nice suit.

00:02:02.000 Then nice shoes.

00:02:02.680 And he starts saving money.

00:02:03.860 Fast forward to today.

00:02:05.340 He's been living on the water in Florida for a few years now.

00:02:08.320 Drives a nice car.

00:02:09.380 Has more savings than he's ever had in his life.

00:02:11.960 And I'm talking a few hundred thousand dollars of savings.

00:02:14.220 Just three years ago, he had $1,000 in the bank.

00:02:17.140 He's got $300,000 in savings today.

00:02:19.180 Doing good for himself.

00:02:20.260 Just got married.

00:02:21.080 About to be a father.

00:02:22.020 Parents was here.

00:02:23.120 Family was here.

00:02:24.080 They're looking at him.

00:02:24.840 So proud of him.

00:02:25.580 What happened to this guy?

00:02:26.800 Just in five years.

00:02:28.020 We don't recognize this guy anymore.

00:02:29.680 What happened to this guy?

00:02:30.620 He finally chose to be a little bit more selfish.

00:02:32.460 So watch this.

00:02:33.260 I create this chart yesterday.

00:02:34.520 I want you to think about it and kind of grade yourself as well.

00:02:37.020 Then I'm going to give you different levels to it.

00:02:38.540 Say we have a chart.

00:02:39.780 In this chart that you're looking at, on the top left, this is a person that's 100% selfish

00:02:45.020 and there's zero selfless.

00:02:46.760 The center where the two collide is 50-50.

00:02:49.680 Meaning they're 50% selfish, 50% selfless.

00:02:52.580 And then the person on the top right is a person that's 100% selfless.

00:02:57.220 Meaning they don't care anything about themselves.

00:02:59.780 Everything's about other people.

00:03:01.220 And in the bottom right, it's somebody that has zero selfish genes.

00:03:04.480 Meaning all I care about is as much as I do for you, I don't need anything from anybody.

00:03:08.540 So then we continued this conversation and we said, so which one is more realistic and

00:03:13.460 which one doesn't exist?

00:03:14.640 So we created a chart and gave it a name with 11 different levels on where people would be

00:03:18.420 based on their breakdown.

00:03:19.400 And here's what we found out.

00:03:20.460 On the top and the bottom, if a person is 100% selfless and 0% selfish on the bottom,

00:03:26.240 that's non-existent.

00:03:27.560 It's a myth.

00:03:28.300 You know why?

00:03:28.840 It's impossible for a person not to be selfish.

00:03:31.560 If you're not selfish, you don't eat, you don't drink, you don't take care of yourself,

00:03:35.180 you don't wash, you don't do anything.

00:03:36.960 You don't exist.

00:03:38.200 So that's a myth.

00:03:39.280 A person cannot be 100% selfless.

00:03:40.940 You have to be selfish in order to live or else you're dead.

00:03:44.500 However, at the top, when you look at the person that's 100% selfish and 0% selfless,

00:03:49.160 those people can actually exist. 0.99

00:03:50.760 Some of them are criminals, sociopaths. 0.95

00:03:52.960 They're a danger to society because they're willing to sacrifice friends, family, relative, 1.00

00:03:57.860 business, career.

00:03:59.060 It doesn't matter.

00:04:01.280 They're 100% all about themselves.

00:04:03.500 However, we looked at the different tiers and here's what we came up with.

00:04:06.640 So the next level would be somebody that is 10% selfish and 90% selfless, meaning they're

00:04:11.020 selfish enough to eat, to shower, to have a job, to do the basic type of things, but

00:04:14.580 they'll agree with anything anybody tells them. 1.00

00:04:16.680 These are people that are weak-willed and generally cowardly. 1.00

00:04:19.640 They're a net negative to society. 0.99

00:04:21.900 One minute, they're having a conversation with somebody saying, did you hear what that

00:04:24.680 person said?

00:04:25.160 Yeah, yeah.

00:04:25.500 Oh, yeah.

00:04:25.900 Wow.

00:04:26.180 I can't believe it.

00:04:26.840 Then they'll go to the next person who completely disagrees with that person.

00:04:29.280 No, that person said, oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:04:30.840 Zero backbone.

00:04:31.760 Okay.

00:04:31.980 There's other words for it, but that's the level of 1090.

00:04:34.160 The next person is somebody that's 2080.

00:04:36.640 These are folks that are indecisive.

00:04:38.080 They're conforming to everyone.

00:04:38.960 They can't make a decision.

00:04:39.960 I don't know.

00:04:41.480 Yeah, I don't know.

00:04:42.780 They're afraid to make selfish goals and selfish dreams.

00:04:45.040 And I don't know if this is good for me.

00:04:46.940 I don't want to offend anybody.

00:04:47.820 I'm just kind of like conforming and I'm indecisive.

00:04:50.440 I'm staying out of it.

00:04:51.160 No problem.

00:04:51.540 The 3070, these are people that are passive, meek, submissive, tame, still a little more 0.98

00:04:57.580 selfish than others, but not enough yet.

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00:05:15.140 To start getting some kind of progress about them, they're still more in the net negative

00:05:19.240 community.

00:05:20.220 Then you have 4060 supporting cast.

00:05:22.480 Very good supporting cast.

00:05:23.760 Very helpful.

00:05:24.880 They're great people to be having in business to help out with different structures, but they're

00:05:28.760 in the 4060 mode still.

00:05:30.260 And in the middle is thinker advisor.

00:05:32.220 These are people that are 50-50.

00:05:33.600 They're good thinkers.

00:05:34.320 What do you think about this?

00:05:35.200 I think we should do this.

00:05:36.020 What about that?

00:05:36.520 I don't know.

00:05:36.900 Let me think about the other person's side.

00:05:38.400 Well, you know what?

00:05:39.040 Their side is this.

00:05:40.160 This side is that.

00:05:41.040 So they get you to think because they can both be selfish and they're selfless.

00:05:44.880 So they're actually a good person to have on the team because they can give you both

00:05:48.200 sides of what to do and what not to do.

00:05:50.160 The synergist and the great teammate is the 6040.

00:05:52.940 They have goals.

00:05:53.800 They have dreams.

00:05:54.560 They go out there and get it done.

00:05:55.780 They push other people.

00:05:56.760 They're somebody that you're going to want in any great organization because they are

00:06:00.200 6040 and they have their own things that they still want to drive to improve the company,

00:06:03.860 improve themselves.

00:06:04.640 They're reading.

00:06:05.260 They're improving.

00:06:05.900 They're doing all that.

00:06:06.540 They're not content with where they are.

00:06:08.220 So they have bigger selfish goals than being selfless.

00:06:10.540 Then you have the kingmaker, the driver.

00:06:12.220 These people are misunderstood.

00:06:13.980 These people are going to be pushing everybody, raising standards, disturbing people.

00:06:17.920 But at the same time, they are selfless enough.

00:06:20.680 It's about a bigger dream, a bigger cause, a bigger vision where everybody wins instead

00:06:25.480 of just being about themselves.

00:06:27.560 That is the 30% mixture of selfless and selfish to be able to drive the organization to the

00:06:32.940 next level.

00:06:33.800 The next one is a solopreneur, 80-20.

00:06:36.000 Selfish, 20% selfless.

00:06:37.780 They're still a net positive to society.

00:06:39.660 They set an example of success, but they're bad at duplicating.

00:06:42.320 Meaning, look, I'm good.

00:06:43.900 I'm not disrespectful to you.

00:06:45.400 I don't hurt you.

00:06:45.960 I don't take advantage of you, but I'm just taking care of myself.

00:06:48.200 You do you.

00:06:48.660 I do me.

00:06:49.260 And I'm still a net positive to society.

00:06:51.020 Not a great leader.

00:06:52.260 Not great at driving other people, but they're good at for themselves.

00:06:55.740 Then you have the next level, which is 90-10.

00:06:57.680 This is a narcissist.

00:06:58.780 The world revolves around them.

00:07:01.320 And a narcissist is actually not a net positive to society. 0.92

00:07:04.340 They're bigger net positive to society than the weak-willed cowardly, but they're not 0.80

00:07:08.980 a net positive to society.

00:07:10.620 It's purely about them, and they're willing to do it generally at all costs.

00:07:15.060 They'll use you as a pawn.

00:07:16.400 They'll look at you as a way to get what they can get out of you.

00:07:18.780 It's not about how they can help you.

00:07:20.000 It's what they can get out of you, rather than making everybody win at the same time.

00:07:23.540 So when you look at this chart here, some people will come back and say, I can't believe

00:07:26.660 you just said that, Pat. 0.85

00:07:27.540 You mean to tell me somebody that's this, their weak-willed cowardly? 0.98

00:07:30.560 Yes. 0.94

00:07:31.180 That's generally what happens.

00:07:32.300 You just called me out, Pat.

00:07:33.660 I don't like this feeling you've given me.

00:07:35.080 I'm not doing this to make you feel good.

00:07:36.540 When I create charts like this, I go and think about myself, how I was at 18, then 28, and

00:07:41.620 what I had to choose to change, and it wasn't easy, then 34, then 35.

00:07:45.080 The only reason I'm looking at this, because the last 20 years, and having been in the insurance

00:07:48.720 industry, having trained 40,000 different licensed agents in the insurance industry, you

00:07:53.140 look at traits of qualities, and you say, man, that guy could have been very big.

00:07:56.320 But man, it was all about him.

00:07:57.800 That person could be very big.

00:07:59.080 But dude, he couldn't get over the fact that his wife kept telling him, you got to come

00:08:02.000 home early.

00:08:02.340 You got to come home early.

00:08:03.020 He wanted to please everybody.

00:08:04.100 She could have been amazing. 1.00

00:08:05.440 But her mom made her feel so guilty all the time, and she fell for it.

00:08:08.660 That person could have been amazing.

00:08:10.260 They could never make up their minds.

00:08:11.800 It was always one day this, one day that.

00:08:13.180 That person was an incredible driver, and they built so many different leaders.

00:08:16.460 They pissed a lot of people off, but they also built a lot of different leaders.

00:08:19.280 So if you judge them on success, they helped a lot of people become financially free.

00:08:22.860 These are case studies on different people.

00:08:24.140 Now, somebody may say, well, Pat, does this apply to every aspect of your life?

00:08:27.140 You know, as a mother, if I'm pregnant, shouldn't I be selfless?

00:08:29.480 Yes, this applies to business.

00:08:31.300 Let me read a quote to you that maybe this makes sense to you.

00:08:33.660 And this is by Nassim Taleb.

00:08:35.180 He wrote a book called Skin in the Game, and he said this.

00:08:37.440 He said, I am, at the federal level, a libertarian.

00:08:40.340 At the state level, a Republican.

00:08:41.720 At the local level, a Democrat.

00:08:43.120 And at my friends and family, a socialist.

00:08:44.700 Pretty weird, right?

00:08:45.420 Wait a minute.

00:08:45.860 You can be a socialist, and you can be a libertarian, and a Republican, and a Democrat?

00:08:49.180 Yes, at different levels.

00:08:50.200 I'm simply giving you who benefits if you are somebody that you have some selfish goals.

00:08:55.320 Your wife wins.

00:08:56.060 Your husband wins.

00:08:56.720 Your kids wins.

00:08:57.380 Your last name wins.

00:08:58.120 Your family wins.

00:08:58.760 Your heritage wins.

00:08:59.360 The company you're working for wins.

00:09:00.820 The industry wins.

00:09:01.620 Everybody wins.

00:09:02.400 The challenge with this conversation is this.

00:09:04.000 You ever rented a car, and you're like, this is supposed to go 120 miles an hour.

00:09:08.580 How come when I go to 80, it goes back down?

00:09:10.340 That car is a speed governor.

00:09:11.640 And what it does is it doesn't allow to go over 80 miles per hour, right?

00:09:14.580 And the rental companies do this so they don't have too many accidents, because it's expensive.

00:09:18.860 And they've done the research to know what the numbers they don't want drivers to go

00:09:21.920 about, because it's not their car.

00:09:23.100 They don't treat it like their car.

00:09:24.460 The reason why this chart is being shared with you is you may be watching this, and you

00:09:28.240 may say, man, I'm kind of part of the narcissist community.

00:09:31.060 No problem.

00:09:31.580 Bring your governor down to 70, okay?

00:09:34.780 And know, anytime you go above 70, people don't like to be around you, because it's all

00:09:38.200 about you.

00:09:38.580 But you may be somebody that's at the other level. 1.00

00:09:40.420 You're a little bit of a cowardly, weak-willed, or you conform. 1.00

00:09:43.660 Maybe you need to bring your governor up and start talking about your selfish goals, like 1.00

00:09:47.280 Mario did.

00:09:48.160 You know what happened to his life?

00:09:49.220 It changed.

00:09:49.820 Almost everybody I know that's bitter, they tend to come more from a place of selfless

00:09:55.180 than a little bit of selfish.

00:09:56.480 The world is a better place if you have a little bit more selfish gene in you than selfless

00:10:01.160 gene in you.

00:10:01.780 Everybody around you wins if you have that.

00:10:05.060 So if you want the net positive index chart sent to you, text the word SELFISH to 310-340-1132.

00:10:12.060 Once again, text the word SELFISH to 310-340-1132.

00:10:16.520 We will send the PDF to you so you can take a look at it and score yourself.

00:10:20.700 Having said that, the video I want you to watch is a video I've not recommended before.

00:10:24.220 It's Mario's video when he talks about what happened the day he chose to stop drinking

00:10:29.320 alcohol.

00:10:29.900 If you've never seen this video, this is a perfect example of somebody who can go from having

00:10:34.160 a life that was chaotic, to now having an amazing wedding, one of the most beautiful

00:10:37.820 weddings I just had, went to, this past Saturday, which was phenomenal.

00:10:42.440 The man's life has changed because of the decisions he made.

00:10:45.040 If you've never watched it, click here to watch the video.

00:10:48.140 And if you love the video, send Mario a direct message at Aguilar Social, either on Twitter

00:10:53.100 or Instagram.

00:10:54.240 Take care, everybody.

00:10:55.040 Bye-bye, bye-bye.

Valuetainment - April 13, 2023

Why Selfish People Are Better For Society

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