“You Sound Like A Victim!” – EXPLOSIVE Debate Over WSJ Report That Women Are QUITTING Marriage
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American women are giving up on marriage, that s not good for me, especially if you want one. Ladies, if you haven t given up on marrying, you re single. You re taking care of yourself, and you re into good looking, young, funny Assyrian men? Please Manek Vinny, Adam, and Adam. Also, as a gay Jew, allegedly, I ll take what I get.
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Wall Street Journal story, American women are giving up on marriage.
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This is not good, bro, especially if you want one, like, let's read this story.
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Ladies, if you haven't given up on marriage, you're single, you're, you know, take care of yourself,
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and you're into good-looking, young, funny Assyrian men, please Manek Vinny.
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And if you have a friend, maybe you're married, and you have a girl that you want to introduce Vinny to,
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Now, ladies, if you're young, barely out of college, bad relationship with your father.
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It's a very different community we got, but you guys get that.
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Also, fellas, as a gay Jew, allegedly, I'll take what I get.
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American women, American women are giving up on marriage.
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Andre Vorlesek, 29-year-old boss, Andrea, I'm sorry, Andrea, Andrea, old Boston, 29-year-old Boston accountant said,
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I'm financially self-sufficient, enough to do what things myself, enough to do these things myself.
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Opening to House Hunt solo and consider kids alone, admitting I don't want to sit here and say I'm 100% happy,
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Daniel Cox of the American Enterprise Institute.
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The numbers aren't netting out with more women than men are attending college, buying houses and focusing on their friendships and career over dating and marriage.
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As 51.4% of women 18 to 40 were single in 2023.
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Vinny and Adam, you guys pay attention to this part.
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51.4% of women ages 18 to 40 were single in 2023.
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Surveys show shifting attitudes with a 2024 AEI poll finding over half of single women said they believed they were happier than their married counterparts
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A 2022 Pew survey revealing only 34% of single women were looking for romance compared to 54% of single men.
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Vinny, your thoughts on this since you did a lot of research on this.
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I'm just, I think just with, especially when you have girls like the Rachel Zegler, that their attitude is guys pursuing, you know, girls, it's stalker mentality.
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I mean, I have, I have, Pat, I went from military to no birds and the bees talk with my dad.
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I don't know if you, did your dad ever give you the talk?
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He would just call me and leave a message in the army and I would say, uh, Tico,
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He would send me condoms as gifts when I was in the army.
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My dad would send me boxes of condom for when I was in the army.
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So then I went from not knowing to military, you know about that.
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But I think just the sentiment now, the, the, the, I think it's a mind shift and it's a culture
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shift because at the end of the day, you know, we're made to put, put here to do what?
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And I mean, listen, it's, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm in line and I'm just, you know, I'm biding
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Well, first of all, Adam's going to clean up guys.
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Well, unfortunately, these numbers, unfortunately, the numbers were real starting about, starting
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with the number of women that are in college versus men that are in college.
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There are shifts that are happening all over the place and, and, you know, there's, we
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could do a case study on this, but there has been the emergence of the, and it's over,
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um, I think it's 18 years because that goes back to 07 is the emergence of the hookup culture.
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And so the hookup culture and temporary relationships, the changing demographic of who's in college
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and women, but there are other, so all that's very real.
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I'm not going to say that's not real, but there are other stats out there that talk
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about satisfaction, having children with a married partner.
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They talk about that the truth, that there is happiness and satisfaction.
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But is there an ultimate joy in knowing that you're building citizens of the future and
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And so for every article that talks about one side of it, there's a lot of other data that
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talks about the other side, but unfortunately, a lot of the things they're talking about are
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And today's single people are having greater challenges than ever before finding people
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that think and feel the same way they do, that they feel that they could trust, trust,
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You know, when Chelsea Handler, my ex, you know, when we had that internet beef three
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years ago, it's because I was citing a report from Morgan Stanley called the She Economy,
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not the economy, but the She Economy, and basically saying by 2025, which the year we're in now,
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they anticipate that 45% of working women between 18 and 40 will be childless, no married, no kids.
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Well, the report was wrong because they said 45%.
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51% according to the American Enterprise Institute.
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However, 51% of women have nothing going on, no marriage, no kids, no nothing.
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So Chelsea Handler, you might want this no kid, all drugs, all sex toy thing going on in
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And that's great because you're famous and you're a feminist and you got millions in the
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But my question is this, for the 38-year-old woman who's making 60 grand a year working as
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whatever job, for the 34-year-old woman who's basically focused on her job and not a family,
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for the 44-year-old woman who's now considering having a baby with herself, did modern feminism
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So I would argue that Chelsea Handler has been the poster child for what is wrong in America,
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A woman has one job that she can do better than a man.
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What's her face in the WNBA that's going on strike?
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So there's been this conflation of that men are women and women are men.
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You have this magical, amazing ability to have children and give birth.
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And then here's the funniest thing is they say things like, you know, I don't want no man
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Listen, bitch, you don't want your husband telling you what to do, but you'll have a
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The happiest, in my opinion, that women were was when they were focusing on family, having
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I'm not saying that they shouldn't work, but prioritize kids and family.
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Honestly, with the way your take, I'm surprised you're single, not married.
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We're not going to play this game because I was married 10 years ago to a woman.
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She wanted to get married, but she wasn't willing to be a wife.
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So I sent her back out to the pasture, figure it out.
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There's not a lot of good wives out there.
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You know, we're talking about inflation in America today.
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Are you familiar with another term called hoflation?
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The price you pay for an average wife, for a woman who used to be a wife, is much greater
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The concept of men having to work 20 times harder than their grandfathers for women that
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But now you're starting to see things like, do you know who, this is a weird thing we were
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talking about, I was actually talking about it with Andrew Tate.
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You could just maybe hit an image and hit a blurt.
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Okay, go to that image right there so you can see.
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That's her after being with, let's just say, the starting five for the Lakers and then
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juxtapose that with getting married to some dude.
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Hey, guys, would you please respect the fact that I'm married now and maybe delete all
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the scenes I've done on the internet because I've grown now and I want to be respected.
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So here's this cuck marrying a literal porn star and basically saying, don't worry about
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It's okay that you've been filled more times than an Exxon gas pump, okay?
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Hey, mom, I want to introduce you to my new girlfriend, Riley Reid.
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So the only people you're ever with is with nightlife people.
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The point is you don't know what it's like to be single out there.
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And see, half the girls you meet are doing OnlyFans.
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Who do you think has more credibility on this topic, me or you?
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No, but if you're asking me who has more credibility, you do in this area, but also-
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I'm saying the challenge that young men are facing.
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It got canceled because, I don't know, for whatever reason-
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Because I stopped talking about money because someone encouraged me to start talking about
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Okay, okay, so for you, how old are you right now, bro?
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This is what's going out there in society at this point.
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What percentage of women did OnlyFans 20 years ago?
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What percentage of women did OnlyFans 20 years ago?
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Do you know how long prostitution's been around?
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The trait of prostitution or whatever you want to talk about it.
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You sound like a little victim is what you sound like.
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You're making this about me and I'm making this about society.
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Any guy who listens to this and buys into the rhetoric that's being sold, hear them out.
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When somebody talks like that, everybody's this and everybody's that and everybody's
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It's like when I ran an insurance business for longest time and my guys would come to
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me Monday morning and they would say, you know what it is?
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There are no more people that want to buy life insurance.
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And they're just life insurance has been declining.
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You know, when I started a life insurance company in 2009, do you know what was going on in
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Do you know what was happening with insurance companies like AIG?
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Do you know what data came out saying that the life insurance industry went from 500,000
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Because the old timers that made a lot of money, guess what they're not doing?
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You're never going to be able to get women to sell insurance.
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Well, look, I mean, I saw how buyers and customers will receive the sale coming from a woman versus
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If there's 174,000 agents right now, we used to have a half a million more, there's got
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to be a major demand for insurance because I looked at the data and I said, that's what
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While my competitors were saying there's no more market for life insurance, we licensed
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50,000 people and sold the business for a quarter of a billion dollars.
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While I'm around people that sound like you talking about insurance and there's no more
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Is what you're saying with Tinder, with all these dating apps, making it tougher for guys
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You don't know how many people they've been with.
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If I go on a date right now with Tinder and the script is, you know, you know, you're the
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Versus if I'm really interested in wanting to get married, guess who I'm talking to?
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The people around me, I'm getting in different communities, I'm going to different markets
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just like if an insurance, if you want to sell a $20 million life insurance policy and
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you want to go to people that are rich, do you think you're going to find them at a night
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club or do you think you're going to find them at a country club?
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Do you think you're going to find a $20 million life insurance policy going to a Starbucks
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or do you think you're going to find it going to the hotel we were at, which was whatever
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If we go to Four Seasons or if I go to networking at Mar-a-Lago, if I go, where do you
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think I'm going to find these types of clients?
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Do you think having lunch at Mar-a-Lago, maybe I'm going to be around some clients that can
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So your points you're making, although they may be valid because accessibility is more
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prevalent today than ever before, but prostitution and all this stuff has been around for a very,
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To sound like a victim and revert back to the sauce talk talking point that you had 24-7,
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By the way, I don't care if you never get married, but the idea of playing the position
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of, I want to have a family, and then you talk like this.
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I want to have a family, and then you talk like this.
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Who are you, like, you know, we had this conversation a year and a half ago when I said the following,
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it's so hard to do, it's so hard to do this message here.
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Whenever you give a message and you watch, like we're in a room and I'm talking to my guys
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and they're saying to me, well, Pat, we don't think we should have a full-timers meeting on
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Every year on January 1st, I would host a full-timers meeting on the 1st at 8 a.m.
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And I'm running an office, sales agents that are mainly in their mid to late 20s, some of
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Who the hell in their 20s wants to go to a manager's meeting with a freaking crazy guy
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named Patrick, but David, January 1st at 8 a.m.
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But that was my way of lowering the number of DUIs my guys would get, because I know what
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happens on December 31st, because I used to party a lot back in the days.
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So, you know, when we're having a conversation, you know what the conversation will be like.
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So, what time do you think we should have this meeting?
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I think we should do barbecue and start it at 10 a.m.
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Yeah, I think we should play that new one and do barbecue for everybody.
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And then you know how many people in the room would agree that we should do it at 8 a.m.?
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It was always the best meeting ever because it would be a high level of preparation.
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Be very careful who you're entertaining that's validating your point to make you feel like you're validated.
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Be very careful what mob makes you think you're right.
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Be very careful what community gives you the attention you need for you to feel like you're the right guy.
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There are certain people that have no interest in winning over.
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You know, and this has been around for a long time.
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When I didn't want to get married, guess what I want to go to?
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When I eventually wanted to, I wanted to find a different community.
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Different people that have made different choices.
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And then you sit there like, okay, let's see what's going on here.
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So, you can go off and say all this stuff and, you know, entertain and so awesome and all this other stuff.
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I know you're not going to like me saying that to you.
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And this is what the single guys are going through.
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And yes, I am the face of the single guys that agree with me on this here.
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There's nothing like you working hard to find something you're looking for and having to go against 80% of people that disagree with you.
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If this doesn't work out, you will never see me get married again.
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But the audience and the victim of language, I don't recommend it to anybody.
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Because, dude, if there's anybody that can take heat, it's this guy over here.
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Because, Pat, if I'm going to listen to you, I'm going to say entrepreneurship, building
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a business, marriage, kids, there's values, principles, religion, God.
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There's so many things I'm going to listen to PBD on.
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This is the girl that most guys are dealing with these days.
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And I'm not going to say you're right because you're my boss.
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I'm dealing with either a boss babe who doesn't want to deal with an average guy because they're
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So you have a girl who's more focused on her career.
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And based on hypergamy, if you don't make a certain amount of money, you don't quite.
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But then the second one is, you're dealing with a girl who's doing all the ho stuff out
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Because the internet's only been around for 20 years.
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Why do you think Andrew Tate has such a big following?
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Because he's talking about getting married and living happily ever after?
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Or he's basically saying, guys, the hoes are out there.
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He just had a viral clip go out there with our friend Sean Kelly.
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He goes, they're going to do what they're going to do.
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But don't make the mistake like that schmuck who married Riley Reid and bringing this chick
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You're taking the exception and making that the majority.
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Adam, the more and more I think you're about to have a breakthrough, the more easily you're
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flattered and influenced and revert back to old way of victim thinking.
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I'm going to do what I want to do, and I'm going to be okay.
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And they're dealing with women who are basically saying, unless you have a yacht or a boat or
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First of all, the general man in society is not living near somewhere where there are yachts.
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Okay, unless you have a pontoon in Lake Minnetonka, I'm not hanging out with you.
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Yeah, Adam, whatever you're talking about, that's victim language to me forever.
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No, no, because when I was 23 years old, I said I would never meet at 23 years old.
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If my daughter came up to me and said, they're dating me at 23 years old, I would say, I'm
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If you increase your market value, your options go higher.
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A guy who's made it in his life that has status, that has money, that has credibility.
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Instead of being this arrogant, entitled victim.
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If a guy comes out and is sitting there and talking about, well, you don't know what the
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Sitting in a plane, you know, video games three hours.
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If you're sitting out there getting 75 pounds and you're fat and you're saying the market
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If you're not improving reading books, instead you're reading some nonsense.
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Because I've done all the things that you've told people to do.
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So now I'm receiving the benefits of doing that.
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No one's, Adam, the biggest criticism towards you is your level of hypocrisy and not being
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For example, if you say, I want to be a playboy the rest of my life, keep living a life you're
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But don't sit here and say, well, let me tell you this one girl used to be this.
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And just a week ago, I had a conversation with you about how we talk over certain things.
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After Sarah Huckabee Sanders looked up, I told you, I don't like that.
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So if you want to go do something else on somewhere else, do it.
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You lack respect in the way you communicate sometimes.
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How long ago was this when I had this conversation?
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It's like the guy's got two daughters sitting here.
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There's a part of a little bit this that respect goes a long way.
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And by the way, I can sit here and talk to Andrew Tate.
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And I can sit there and say, that's what you choose to live.
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Why don't you push Andrew Tate like you're pushing me right now?
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No, because for you, you want to have the family.
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I respect anybody that believes in whatever they believe in.
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It doesn't mean I have to choose to live the way you live.
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What is the word that you're easily influenced?
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What is the word that somebody can easily change their minds on, not impressionable.
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Like, you can go hang out with a group here, and then you'll change.
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And you can hang out here, and then you'll change.
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You go hang out over there, you'll change.
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Every freaking week, you change to somebody new.
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Because I say, one day I would like to have a family, you're using that as against me
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to be like, well, where's your damn family already, bro?
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Give Vinny the same vibe that you're giving me.
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Keep that energy with Vinny when you're trying to get him a girlfriend on my neck.
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But Vinny, the difference between you and Vinny is Vinny wants to have a family,
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and Vinny doesn't want to go to the clubs, 11 nightclubs, 24-7.
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I respect his choice because he's standing his ground that this is what I want to do.
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Not because I told him to read the Bible, because I don't read the Bible in the morning.
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I'm not the guy that says, you better read your Bible in the morning.
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So I can't sit there and claim to do something that I'm not doing myself.
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Biggest criticism to you is make up your damn mind and stand up for something already.
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Make up your damn mind and stand up for something already.
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The audience is sitting there saying, well, let me tell you.
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You don't know what the girls are like out there.
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Girls have been like that for as long as I've known girls.
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They've been like this for as long as I've known girls.
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Pat, I wish I could just have that in my DNA to say, look, Pat's my boss.
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If I disagree, I'm going to say I fully disagree.
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This is one of our key words on the freaking company is debate, but respectful.
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The way you're presenting your argument is disrespectful.
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But my argument is not wrong because I cursed one time.
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Your argument for a person that wants to live that life is not wrong.
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If you're like, I'm going to get back out there, doffed up myself, and get out there, you'll be fine.
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Give the ownership for that woman to see me as a victim.
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So for you, you're saying, well, let me tell you all the girls, it's all the girls, all the girls.
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So whatever you guys did in the back, it just popped here for me.
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I think this was a very much needed conversation.
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I think the way that you and I interact on camera, even off camera, is very important.
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I mean, we can have a great time together, and then we can argue, and we can go back to neutral.
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I had a conversation, okay, with a couple friends this last week.
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And I told them very simply a word that gets me to realize who I can trust more or less.
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You know what is the, for me at least, this is going to sound weird.
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Some are going to say you're crazy, and I don't blame you.
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The older you get, you ought to have some values and principles that you're willing to die for.
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And the older you get, you should have things you stand for.
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For me, my number one is seeing another man that has a fear of God.
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And when you see another man fear of God, there are certain decisions they're going to make because they fear God.
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You get somebody else that doesn't have that fear, they're reckless.
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When I have kids, I went on a date with my daughter the other night.
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We set the phone aside, and she sat right here.
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It was a father-daughter dance, whatever you want to call it.
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When she grows up, she may marry a guy like me, a guy that probably has a strong personality, a guy that's probably going to be within my community where they're at.
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I pray to God for her to have good people in her life.
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My job is to do whatever I can to make that environment more protective of her, hopefully set an example so later on she's able to make some good choices in her life.
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It's so much easier and attractive to just live a life of just for me.
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If I right now chose to drop everything I got going on with the family and the kids and everything, I would have way more time to run my companies.
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I'd probably make a lot more money, and I'd probably have a more fun life, living a selfish life.
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There's no way in the world it's going to be fulfilling.
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Until you can't get a paper and pen and write down what you stand for, and everything's about,
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they're this, let me tell you, Pat doesn't know this, and da-da-da-da-da.
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And the way you live, you're going to attract that audience.
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Whoever connects you, you're attracting people like yourself.
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What you tell them, you're going to get them to live the life that you've lived.
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Versus giving them a different direction and saying, you may want to consider this.
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A guy comes up to me saying, hey, you don't like Adam.
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I will tell you that the respect part is very important to me, and I've told you this many times.
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Respecting the audience that comes and tunes into us.
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It's a lot of shows that's like, fuck this, screw this, if this, that's a, it's not, this is not the show.
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It's to show that let's try to make our argument in the most reasonable fashion and be entertaining at the same time if we can.
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I get a lot of my next, a lot of questions about people telling me, Pat, you know, I'm at a point in my life where, you know, I just can't find myself to get to the next level.
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But I'm just having a hard time getting out of bed.
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I'm having a hard time identifying what I need to do next.
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And I tell him, every single one of them, I said, get off this Manect.
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When I wrote this book, I wrote it because over the years I've done a lot of business plans for a lot of different people.
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Six of them are emotional blocks and six of them are logical blocks.
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Most people do business plan, not only one or the other.
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If you've not yet read it, this is the National Reading Month.
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