00:06:46.180And I once did a news program with Fox News, and producers for Fox News infiltrated in the late 90s the church in Atlanta, Georgia.
00:06:59.500And they actually were able to get recordings of what that discipleship was like and how they would talk to you.
00:07:08.360And specifically, they're training and they're saying to someone, you need to consider leaving your boyfriend, they're telling a female producer at Fox.
00:07:18.600Because he isn't coming along with the program, and therefore you need to get rid of him.
00:07:25.600And that kind of inner discussion that is not heard by the general public and not known when you become involved with the church is what really makes it tick, that kind of control.
00:07:39.600And I can remember I was retained by Fox as an analyst and consultant, and the producers would actually call me to be debriefed.
00:07:50.660Because even though they knew that the group was a cult, they would say to me, Rick, I feel like I'm getting taken in.
00:07:57.500I feel like I'm starting to become a believer.
00:10:08.240There was something shocking that they witnessed that was not according to what the group said they were about.
00:10:14.420And they were disturbed by it, or they're just plain exhausted, worn out from working so hard for the group.
00:10:21.180And they leave, and I think that many people, when they leave, leave thinking, well, there's something wrong with me, I'm ashamed of myself, I failed, I let God down, et cetera.
00:10:36.640And they don't really understand, no, it wasn't about me doing something wrong or me being to blame.
00:10:45.000It was the group, and that the group had predatory practices, and that the group leadership wasn't ethical, and there were conflicts that I had as a person wanting to be ethical and reasonable with what I was being told to do in the group.
00:11:03.080And so I think for everyone that leaves a group, you have to go through a process of unpacking your experience, looking at it, understanding it.
00:11:13.760And I would say it's very similar to being in an abusive, controlling relationship.
00:11:20.900The person who is the abusive partner is very effusive, and they tell you how much they love you, and you go through this honeymoon period.
00:11:29.100But then comes the abuse, and you don't want to believe it.
00:11:33.700And your partner is telling you, it's your fault.