Alex Stein DESTROYS Whatever Podcast？! 4 Dates In 1 DAY？! HEATED Chivalry Debate! ｜ Dating Talk #266
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8 hours and 41 minutes
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On this episode of Whatever Dating Talk, we have a special guest on the show, Marlee Jayne, a 37-year-old college student from Southern California. We talk about the current state of the music industry, Kanye West's new album, and much more!
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I think that's how it works, right? Depends on how politically correct you're trying to be.
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I don't know. Like, you know how, should I, should I not get into it at the beginning of the show?
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I'm like, where is this going? Should I not explain my Caucasian thing? I don't know. Whatever.
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Anyways, without further ado, we're going to have the guests introduce themselves. So please
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tell us your name, age, occupation, where you're from in education. Go ahead.
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Hi, I'm Marlee Jay. Uh, I am 37. I just turned 37. I'm from Southern California,
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Inland Empire originally, a UCSB alumnus, and I do a variety of things. I call my
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myself a 1099. So I do bartending, side gigs, uh, booking, promoting, and, uh, DJ selecting.
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And that's just like a little selection of some of the things that I do on the site.
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Okay. And sorry, could you repeat your age? I just missed that.
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I read on your Instagram that, uh, let me see the notes here. You, uh, describe yourself
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as a model. So do you, you do modeling? I do. So collab brand modeling, which I wouldn't call
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professional modeling. So most of the time brands, either I link them or they link me.
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A lot of times it just happens that I tag them and then it just starts a relationship. I wouldn't
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say that's my mainstay. It's more about networking in that. I would say, uh, holistic therapy and
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coaching and DJ and bartending is like my main income. You wear many hats. You have to holistic.
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Yeah. On your Instagram, holistic wellness consultant. Uh, and you said you do, you do
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consulting. Is that how you do a variety of different things? I therapist or I am not a
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licensed therapist. I have life coach. What's that? What was life coach? Uh, I, I like that term life
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coach, but I didn't ever brand myself as a life coach because I never felt like that spoke to me.
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So I basically most of the time sit down with clients and I believe in a holistic mind, body,
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spiritual connection. So a lot of times I feel like things that are deficiencies in our physical
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go back to a mental or spiritual blockage of some sort. So that's where the word holistic came from.
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Do you do Reiki? I am attuned to Reiki. I just recently, I was just recently. Are you familiar
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with Reiki? A little bit. So I just recently received my second attunement to Reiki. So I've had my
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first and second attunements, which means that I can practice as a healer, but I am not a master
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Reiki healer or anything in that requirement. Do you, um, when you're talking about attunements,
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have you been attuned to like molten core? What do you mean? Like MC, MC 40, like rag,
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Ragnaros, like BWL, like BWL attunement, black wing layer. It's pretty easy. Um, have you been
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attuned to BWL? No, I've never. Yeah, it's pretty quick. Like you just kill this guy in
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Black Rock Mountain. That's okay. You just kill him in the, yeah, in the video game. Wait, Reiki,
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I thought it's a form of yoga. No. It's like hand stuff. I would say it's energy work. That's the
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best way to explain it. Oh, I could have sworn I've been at like a yoga studio and they were
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doing Reiki. A lot of people that practice Reiki have infused it into different things they do.
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So you could go and get a massage and they'll say, this is a Reiki massage. So it just kind of
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depends on what their trade is. I have just recently been attuned to my second Reiki. There's
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usually three, the first, second, and third, the third being the master. I think I received the
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second attunement a couple months ago or something like that. Wait, so, I mean, but like, are you,
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are you Oni? Are you Oni attuned, Onyxia? No, no. My, my Reiki attunement was... AQ40? AQ40?
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No, I'm sorry. Naxx? At least, I mean, it's, it's, I mean, Night Slayer, PVP Realm, it's,
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it's phase six. Like, how are you not attuned for Naxxramas? I feel like we're speaking different
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languages right now. And then you also, also just really quick on it before we move on,
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you do Sacred Sessions? Sacred Sessions comes from my podcast. So I'm, I just recently started a
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podcast down in San Diego called Eighth House Discussions, but because there's multiple
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podcasts that I'm working on, I just put Sacred Sessions because I go in and I act as an audio
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engineer a lot of the times. So sometimes I'm not booked as a host or a guest, I'm doing the back.
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Gotcha. Okay. What about you? All right. Hi, I'm Amelia. I am from Florida and I am 26 years old.
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I am a content creator slash OnlyFans model and my level of education is my boobs.
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No, but I, I got my, yeah, huge boobs. Um, no, I got my like esthetician's license and no longer
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have it. And I graduated high school. So there we go. No college. No. Okay. And then college for you?
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Yeah, I'm an alumnus from UCSB. Okay. Uh, what did, I might, sorry if I missed that when you said it,
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what did you get your degree in? I have two degrees, cultural anthropology and religious
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studies. I did a double major when I was there. Double major. And you graduated when? Um, like my
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age, I graduated in 2011. Okay. So you said cultural anthropology and religious studies,
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religious studies. Are you religious? I would say no, I'm a spiritual person, but I think that
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religion, there's always defects. So take what you can. Cultural. So you have a bat, is it a bachelor of
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arts or bachelor of science? It's actually a bachelor of science for cultural anthropology. Yeah. Which I
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found surprising. Um, I know it was a while ago, but maybe we can, uh, kickstart a little something
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here. Uh, tell me like the number one thing you learned studying cultural anthropology. That history
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is written by the person that succeeds and is the victor. So take everything with a grain of salt.
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Everything is subjective. But I mean, I'm like a city college dropout and I knew that. So. But I think
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when you study something as deeply as anthropology, you really see the flaws because most of it is
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called armchair, armchair anthropology, which means that it's people who are studying subjects from a
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removed setting. And so I think the majority of the time, especially when we look at specifically
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historians that are anthropologists, almost everything is subjective. Everything is from a second
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or third party. If it's not, you have to look at if it's from a firsthand account, what was a, that
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person, what was the culture that they came from, what was the culture that came in, et cetera. So
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although I agree with you that you don't need an education to know what I just said, I would say
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that through studying it, I learned to take everything with a grain of salt after that.
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Okay. Do they teach you about like Gobekli Tepe and stuff like that in college?
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No, we most like, cause it was cultural anthropology, even though I did have to take a few of the
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physical. That's like the oldest, um, church of all time, Gobekli Tepe. No, I didn't really study
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Christianity and religious studies. It doesn't ascribe to modern, you know, the modern timeline.
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Yeah. I would say because that wasn't my niche of study, no, I'm not familiar with it.
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So what, what do you learn in cultural anthropology? Well, it depends what you want to do your emphasis
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in, and it depends what your interests are. And then it also depends, like for me, I did a double
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major with religious studies and I did my, my independent studies or thesis on the cultural
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impact and spiritual crisis of basically focusing on the Vietnam era and forward on how basically
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civil religions takes place in a country like the United States, where it's not so much necessarily
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people are spiritual or religious, but they do have a moral code of ethics. And then I was
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studying specifically the crisis that happened after the Vietnam era in this country and the
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division that happened between all the, what I would say, the civilians versus veterans.
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Were you smoking a lot of marijuana? Of course. I mean, I was in school.
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That seems like some, a subject that you would have to be very high to even.
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I mean, not necessarily that way. I feel like it was more of a personal, I'm sure there was people
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there that weren't high. Yeah, but I mean, probably not in your. You weren't hanging out with them.
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I mean, I can remember being in really intimate class discussions and talking to people and they
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were sober. So yeah, yeah, yeah. Maybe the older students, but yeah, that sounds interesting. Kind
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of. Yeah, kind of. Exactly. Yeah. What about you? Me? I am Colette Fair. I am a licensed marriage and
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family therapist, a licensed mental health counselor. I'm from New York, a little town called Rye outside
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in New York City, but I now live in Florida and I have two podcasts. I'm an author and I work with
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people who are divorced. I specialize in couples therapy, breakups, everything relationship focused.
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All right. And age? Oh, I'm 52. Gotcha. And degrees?
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So I was a history English major in college. Okay. Best thing to study if you have no idea what you want
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to do. And I went into the magazine business for a while in New York and then I did sales for a while
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and when I got divorced, I got married really young, what I think is really young, 24. I got divorced at
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31 and went back to grad school because I had a horrible marriage counselor and it showed like who
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did more harm than good. So it really showed me the importance of knowing what you're doing and being
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well-trained if you're going to do couples work. And I went back to grad school at a place called
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Rollins College in Winter Park, Florida and got a master's in counseling. And I'm now certified in
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emotionally focused couples therapy, which is the gold standard and evidence-based treatment and also
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EMDR, which is a gold standard treatment for trauma. What does EMDR stand for? So it's eye movement
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desensitization and reprocessing. And I do this because basically whether you use a light machine,
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maybe some of you guys have done it or heard of it. It's become the number one thing to treat trauma
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that they have, you use either your hand, it sounds so weird, to go back and forth and have
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the person's eyes move when you hit a target. And this is thought to stimulate the occipital nerve
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in the brain, which helps your brain to process basically that something traumatic from the past
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is now over and you can feel safe in your body again. And that's simplifying it greatly,
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but that's the best. Gotcha. What about you? Hi, my name is Camila, but I go by Cam. I am 29 years
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old and I'm originally from Orange County, but I have now been living in Los Angeles for the past 11
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years. I used to be a realtor, but today I'm a pursuing actress and slash TV coordinator and host.
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So I removed myself from the real estate industry and now stepping foot into the entertainment world.
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Any college? In and out, but I didn't graduate.
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What were you studying when you were? Just business, econ, so yeah, regularly.
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What about you? Oh, we're already on these? Yeah. Okay. Hello? Hello. Here we are.
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My name's Jenna, but I go by Paris online. I'm a porn star. I've been in porn since 2013,
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so pre-OnlyFans. And majority of my time is spent being a mother, though. I only work one week out of
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the month. Age? I'm 31. All right. When you say you work one week out of the month, you're an active
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sex worker. Is that correct? Yes. Okay. All right. What about you? I'm Megan. I'm from Pennsylvania,
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Central State. I am a parole agent. I'm 34 now. And my education, I have two degrees. I have
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an administrative of business. And then I also have a bachelor's of science in psychology.
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All right. What about you? Hi, I'm Melissa Pereira. I'm 32 years old. And I was born and raised in
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Canada, Ontario. And I am a professional ballroom dance instructor. Yay. Any college? I did do some
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college. I took interior design. I did pass. Unfortunately, it's not my passion. I don't
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have any desire. I know. I'm stupid because it's a money field. I love dancing. It makes me happy.
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So it's what I've studied most of my life. And if, say, I should break a leg and, well, actually,
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I've already done that. If I just can't dance anymore, at least I have a fallback plan.
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All right. Yeah. What about you? I'm Taylor. I'm 18. I'm from Northern California.
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And I'm a helicopter mechanic. Helicopter mechanic. Okay. Any college or anything like
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that? I took some college courses or, like, dual enrollment in high school, but that's
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it. Okay. And you do any other kind of mechanic work? Like, I saw on your Instagram, you ride
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motorcycles. Do you do any motorcycle? I have. I have worked on, like, other stuff, like automotive,
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motorcycles, but I didn't really pursue it as a... I have, like, national industry automotive
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certs, and I have my smog license certificate, but... Okay. All right. Alex, what about you?
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Am I the only one that's scary as hell? You are working on helicopters, and we're just not
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going to make that a big deal? I mean, I don't want them... I mean, flying them is bad enough.
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You're working on them? Is that real? Yeah. Is your dad, like, a mechanic or something? My dad
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actually used to work there, but... Okay. See, that kind of makes me feel a little better. Why?
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Is it because she's a... Why? Well, if it's your dad... Because she's a girl or because she's young?
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If your dad is in her DNA a little bit, you know what I mean? So, she's kind of around, like, gear and
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stuff. So, she's kind of going to learn it through osmosis, is what I'm just guessing. But, like, if she
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just has, like, a boyfriend that's in a helicopter, she's like, come work at the plant with me, and you're
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working on my helicopter, because I'm a pimp on a blimp. I go on helicopters. And blimps.
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And blimps. And I, you know, no offense. I mean, I'm just saying, I don't want a female
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pilot, much less a female mechanic. I haven't even thought about that later.
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Well, come on. You guys like female pilots? Let's be real. Listen, let's just be real for
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a second. You guys, when you walk on the plane, you don't feel a little better when it's a
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white guy compared to, like, you know, a woman that could be on her cycle and, you know,
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or just got dumped by her boyfriend. I go on cycles, too.
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No, we do not have a period, okay? So, no. First of all, that's not...
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I prefer flying myself. I prefer flying the airplane myself.
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That's so cool. Actually, my pilot on my way to L.A. was a woman.
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I was not, but I will admit that I was surprised. I did. I was surprised.
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Look at that, because that's just your natural inclination.
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Well, that's because back in the day, we didn't really see that. It didn't happen.
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The rules, yes. And, you know, let's be real. It's like, you know, we'll probably argue about
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Well, I think we already are, but what I'm saying is, like, there are things that women
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can do better than men, and those things men can do better than women. And I think flying
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or driving a car, I mean, could you imagine you get on a plane and it's a Chinese woman?
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I would not get on the plane. I mean, you know what I mean? A Chinese woman can't even
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Actually, I would feel very confident with a Chinese woman.
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I don't think legally they're allowed to fly. But my point is, it's just that there's
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some natural inclinations that, you know, maybe it's not polite, it might be impolite
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to say these things, but we're all feeling them, you know, so...
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Yeah, well, we all should be. Okay, so who am I on Primetime 99, Alex Stein? Model, actor,
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I'm only 29 years old. Wikipedia has it wrong, because it's made by right-wing trolls.
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And, yeah, graduated from LSU with a general studies degree, so I'm smart, I'm sexy, and
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I'm ready to freaking dive in. Let's do the damn thing.
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Yeah. Also, People Magazine did, in fact, rank him as sexiest.
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I thought Derek Hawthorne was the sexiest man right now for that.
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Oh, and Tucker Carlson's my biological stepfather, if you guys didn't know that.
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I said, you said you're 29, or the grays that's died, then?
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That's from stress, because I have to deal with...
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Big floppy titties like that already in the beginning of the show, making fun of my gray
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No, no, it's very sexy, but you prefer the big booty Latinas, right?
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I will. I want amnesty for big booty Latinas, because this is the thing, is a lot of people,
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they misunderstand who I am. They think, oh, Alex, you're right-wing. You know, you like
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Donald Trump, because I am good friends with Lord Trump. I'm good friends with the administration.
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You know, am I calling shots? In a way, I am, because Donald Trump campaigned on a very
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strict immigration policy. You guys saw that. And then you can see a lot of people were
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protesting all the ICE immigration stuff. But Donald Trump did make a condition saying
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that, you know, illegals that work in hotels are granted amnesty. That's because I've been
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working with Ed Martin. This is true, because who works in hotels? Who cleans the rooms?
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Big booty Latinas. So Donald Trump is on board for amnesty for big booty Latinas. If you're a nine,
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you're fine. But once again, Brian, not one big booty Latina here, all a bunch of whites,
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and one African-American lady. And the one that has dreads is a white girl. That's insane.
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See, that's what I'm saying. Okay, you get mad at me. You get mad at me. How am I supposed
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Yeah. Just ask. You just have to ask. You can't assume things just because you think
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Oh, I know one of them's black. I mean, I'm not trying to be rude, but I think we can tell
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one combination. I don't know what the other one was.
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And I guessed right. I said Tiger Woods vibes, and that's Tiger Woods. His mom was Asian,
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so I'm already batting 1,000%. So I'm doing pretty good so far.
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Nice. We're trying to think where we... Yeah, I do want to apologize. I did have a...
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As you call them, big booty Latina. I did have one scheduled, but unfortunately, she canceled.
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Did you know I was going to be on the panel? Did she know I was going to be here?
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No. No, but you know what? Round two, the entire panel.
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Well, then I would be the simp on a blimp. But see, tonight, I can't be the simp on a blimp,
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Really quick here, going to you, you know, he had some thoughts on the female being a mechanic.
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I mean, that's his own opinion, but I'm not qualified, but...
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My work is checked by licensed A&Ps. Once I work in my shop for three years, I can have
00:24:18.520
my boss sign off, and I can go and take my A&P license test and get my A&P.
00:24:30.960
Any Blackhawks? You done anything on a Blackhawk helicopter?
00:24:41.520
Well, you know, it's sad because, like, you know, I don't want to make something light
00:24:44.160
about it, but, like, Kobe Bryant's helicopter, you know...
00:24:48.260
Well, maybe, but I'm just saying, helicopters are very dangerous.
00:24:58.880
I mean, that's not a typical thing you hear from an 18-year-old.
00:25:05.400
My school had an ROP program, and it's, like, hands-on mechanics, like, medical, that kind
00:25:10.920
of thing, and I was in auto shop, and I was, like, kind of at the top of my class, so I
00:25:16.540
got offered that internship, and I was like, yeah, I want to go.
00:25:19.760
Plus, my dad had worked at that shop, so I was like, yeah.
00:25:22.740
So I drove in there, and I was like, I want to talk to boss man.
00:25:27.820
So instead of going to my ROP class for first and second period in the morning, I'd go
00:25:36.440
That's pretty admirable, working in high school.
00:25:49.300
$5 every time you call Jasmine a who are in your debate.
00:25:55.400
Is that a common tactic that the superchatters use to get?
00:26:12.260
Yeah, well, you don't owe him any money, but I know Brian appreciates it.
00:26:36.460
You guys are off to an interesting start already with some of the comments here.
00:26:41.720
But I think this would be a good moment to also just, I got rid of my disclaimer, but
00:26:47.100
I feel like I got to bring it back for tonight's episode.
00:26:49.860
The views expressed by the chatters and panelists do not necessarily reflect the views of the
00:27:04.040
No, it was just the comment that they made before you said.
00:27:10.700
No, that was just what the comment was about before you...
00:27:28.260
What is everybody's current relationship status?
00:27:30.800
If you're single, how long have you been single?
00:27:38.780
I've been single for, I want to say like two and a half years.
00:27:43.360
Like I've talked to people, but I've been single through that whole process.
00:27:46.620
The longest relationship I've had is eight and a half years.
00:27:56.600
In the two years you've been single, has there been any guys in the picture?
00:27:59.660
I mean, I've been in talking stages, but I feel like it's never gotten past a talking stage.
00:28:06.140
That's also like a issue with interacting with people online first is a lot of times it never apparates into a physical.
00:28:48.440
My longest relationship was my high school relationship.
00:29:11.540
But I would say right after that relationship ended.
00:29:15.120
And since then I've kind of realized in dating that a lot of the guys I was dating before are very similar to the guys who follow me on my OnlyFans.
00:29:24.300
And so kind of being a walking fetish for the majority of my life, you know, I have to be very picky and choosy about the men that I choose to be with.
00:29:34.680
And so that has left me a little bit preferring to be single until I find the right person.
00:29:39.620
Wait, you have to be choosy because of your breast size?
00:29:42.480
Well, it's more so based off of, like, the intention of why they want to date me.
00:29:47.060
You know, a lot of men love dating big boo women, but they don't really want to get to know who I am.
00:29:54.820
Which, you know, I also want, like, a relationship where we have conversations and they're not always just trying to suck on them.
00:30:05.960
I mean, the origination of most people's romantic interest in any particular individual would be physical attraction.
00:30:17.460
I suppose if it's super, like, a fetishization, like an obsession, that could be weird, but...
00:30:22.860
It's like I get really annoyed after, like, five minutes of nipple pinching.
00:30:27.320
Do you have that weird thing where, like, the guy's, like, trying to feed you and get you to gain feeders?
00:30:34.800
I don't know if you're familiar with her, but she's a YouTube icon.
00:30:37.720
But, yeah, you know, people are always trying to feed her.
00:30:40.600
It's definitely a problem for me because I don't want to be 600 pounds, but they give me so much money.
00:30:47.560
I mean, literally, do they want you to eat it on camera?
00:30:49.960
Yeah, and I always throw it up afterwards, though.
00:30:54.000
Well, it's because, like, I'll eat until the food is at my throat, and then there's no way to not then throw up afterwards.
00:31:08.920
I'll put ketchup on my boob and dip my burger in the ketchup and eat it.
00:31:14.240
There's weird stuff, too, actually, because I've actually looked into it.
00:31:18.340
And I don't watch that much mukbang, but I looked into it.
00:31:23.900
There's, like, the sexual aspect, and there's also people that have, like, weird eating issues.
00:31:29.620
Like, it's because they're either they're, like, overeating or they're undereating.
00:31:33.980
So sometimes they like to watch other people eat.
00:31:35.560
Because you can, people don't realize you can actually look at somebody eating in your brain.
00:31:38.760
Like, if you see somebody eat a hamburger, you can kind of taste it in a weird way.
00:31:51.280
Okay, I'm married, and my longest relationship is 13 years with husband number one.
00:31:56.820
Husband number two is closely pulling up at 12 years, married for nine.
00:32:01.760
And I had 11 years between marriages, where I was in some serious relationships, but I did a lot of dating.
00:32:08.440
And it was really hard and illuminating and eye-opening, and I think has helped me be a better therapist
00:32:29.100
And husband two has two kids, so I have two step kids.
00:32:32.300
But they're, like, in their late 20s, and so we're in that empty nest phase.
00:32:41.980
Well, we were married for seven and a half years.
00:32:45.760
So I met him when I was 18 on the first day of school my sophomore year at Tulane, and
00:33:11.420
So the easy answer, of course, is that we grew apart, but there was a lot of, okay, we
00:33:22.560
And really, for me, if I'm honest, it's that he was emotionally disconnected.
00:33:28.720
I tried really hard to find ways to get through to him, and I couldn't.
00:33:32.880
And so eventually, I checked out and became very resentful and angry.
00:33:38.640
And finally, I got to the point where even though I had two little kids, no matter what
00:33:42.860
he said or did, wasn't going to turn it around.
00:33:51.800
I think that for some people, this is my personal opinion about him.
00:33:56.080
He would maybe tell you something different, but I think it wounded his ego to be left.
00:34:02.460
And at that point, even though I was very quickly replaced by somebody who had nothing
00:34:08.500
to do with the divorce, and I really believe that, but it wasn't two months into our separation
00:34:13.300
until another woman was living in my house, part-time mothering my kids.
00:34:18.780
And I thought that I encouraged a friend of mine, set them up, and I encouraged it, thinking
00:34:24.440
he would be nicer to me, and we would be amicable once he was dating, and it didn't help at all.
00:34:31.080
To this day, I feel like it's not as amicable as I wish it was, but we can get along on the
00:34:41.200
Yeah, they're married, and they seem very happy, and I'm happy for them.
00:34:47.660
He paid me two years of alimony, but I think that he really got away with not paying me
00:34:55.220
much at all because my own parents got divorced when I was young, and it was very contentious,
00:35:02.300
So I just bowed out and said, you know, I think his tactic was, if you leave me, I'm not going
00:35:09.520
to give you a lot of money, and you won't have anything.
00:35:13.680
I had been a stay-at-home mom, and I basically was like, screw off.
00:35:19.760
I don't need or want your money, which sounds noble, but it really was a shit show as I was a
00:35:26.020
young single mom and didn't have any career for a while.
00:35:32.080
I'm really close to my dad, so I didn't want to deny him that.
00:35:37.640
And I did get child support all the way through until my kids went to college, but it really
00:35:46.340
I went through a lot of really hard years where I had to work, go to grad school, live
00:35:50.500
on student loans, take care of my kids, and I didn't feel like he was really very helpful
00:35:57.500
It was more like, look at the bed you made, and now you have to lie in it.
00:36:04.340
I'm sure it changed over the course of 18 years.
00:36:11.620
I probably got around six grand a month in child support and alimony, but this is the
00:36:18.820
Can we separate the alimony and the child support?
00:36:24.100
So from the initiation of the divorce, at that point, he was paying you $6,000.
00:36:32.940
So I got about $2,500 a month for child support, something like that, and about $5,000 a month
00:36:52.160
But you said you only had alimony for two years.
00:36:56.880
How much was the child support once the alimony stopped?
00:37:01.400
I actually got less child support when the alimony stopped.
00:37:04.740
But again, and this is why for any of you young women, if you ever find yourself in this
00:37:09.280
situation, I was so traumatized by what my parents went through in New York State, where
00:37:15.460
it's very hard to get divorced, watching them fight for years over money and custody that
00:37:25.360
Maybe it sounds like no money to you, or maybe it sounds like a lot.
00:37:28.720
But relative to what my ex-husband made, I really got very little money, and it was
00:37:33.600
never enough to feel remotely comfortable, even working and going to school.
00:37:45.980
Well, I mean, I think this child support thing where...
00:37:50.800
The child support is for the benefit of the child.
00:37:58.220
I mean, I don't know if the children had any illnesses or anything like that.
00:38:04.660
And I think the child support system doesn't really take into consideration the actual cost
00:38:12.120
So, I mean, I find it a bit dubious that, well, I wasn't getting paid enough.
00:38:16.480
It's like, it sounds like you're getting paid, what, $2,000 to $3,000 a month?
00:38:27.300
You are entitled to your opinion, but on the flip side, I made a decision with my husband
00:38:41.740
We made a joint decision for me to stay home with the children.
00:38:46.280
At the time that I got divorced, I had not worked for, I don't know, four or five years
00:38:51.300
at his request, so the point of this is that I can't afford at this juncture to even rent
00:39:00.860
So it's not just a matter of putting food on the table.
00:39:03.900
The courts want you to at least give a decent standard of living for your children.
00:39:10.820
Now, our standards of living, most people will argue in court, which I did not do, that
00:39:15.600
you should maintain the same lifestyle you had.
00:39:18.240
I was living a very high lifestyle at the time, and I went into living a very middle-of-the-road
00:39:25.000
lifestyle, and none of that money was, like, keeping me, and I went to work immediately.
00:39:31.440
Like, I mean, whatever the opinion is, I didn't have enough money to do anything but go to work
00:39:36.500
and immediately try to build a career so that I could support myself.
00:39:42.600
So, I mean, you said, though, for the first two years, you were receiving the alimony combined
00:39:47.860
with child support, that's $7,000 a month for a two-year period back in 2002?
00:39:58.120
So, I mean, and the housing prices back in Florida, maybe, what, you could rent, like,
00:40:03.160
a two-to-three-bedroom house in Florida for $1,000, $2,000?
00:40:14.220
Well, where I live, in Winter Park, it's not inexpensive to live.
00:40:20.780
I do have expensive taste, but I lost my ability to have an expensive taste.
00:40:33.400
It's not, but you had, first off, it probably wasn't just that.
00:40:36.860
I'm assuming there was, like, a distribution of community property.
00:40:43.240
There was a house, and at the end, I walked away with about $20,000 in the bank.
00:40:54.620
In about 2012, I was living in Florida, and my parents got divorced while I was in the seventh grade.
00:40:59.580
There was, my dad kind of bankrupted our whole family, and out of the divorce, my mother of her three children in 2012 got $400 a month, no alimony, and, yeah, and she had to restart her whole life.
00:41:14.580
She hadn't worked since I was born, besides being a freelance photographer, and she had to find a job and do everything on her own, and that was definitely a struggle for her.
00:41:28.700
I mean, there's a bit of difference in circumstance here.
00:41:40.420
I think there ought to be some caps on child support.
00:41:43.020
For example, in California, it's just based off income.
00:41:48.540
There's no cap, and I think in most states there's no cap.
00:41:52.000
So, I mean, if you're making millions and millions of dollars a year, you're basically, it's just wealth transfer.
00:41:59.840
It's not actually has anything to do, it's not commensurate at all with the actual costs of raising a child.
00:42:07.140
So, I mean, I think some of these ridiculous child support payments are not in line at all with the actual cost of raising a child, which I think is what it should be for.
00:42:23.160
It shouldn't be child support, not I'm going to continue providing a luxury lifestyle for the woman who divorced me.
00:42:33.240
So, what do you think of the perspective that, you know, if a husband makes more money and the wife divorces, and so the husband should not have to pay for the wife to have, you know, an equal lifestyle, should the husband not then be the one taking care of the children?
00:42:49.360
They did, but if, you know, if he's not giving all that child support...
00:42:52.960
I mean, in the split custody situation, I would actually make a compelling argument that there should be no child support.
00:42:58.200
Yeah, no, but if the kids are then going to live a much worse life half the time, shouldn't the dad just be the one to take care of them?
00:43:11.320
I mean, it is like his children and she chose to leave.
00:43:14.280
I mean, look, to be fair, I'm fine with 50-50 custody.
00:43:18.580
And I think, you know, if there's some, look, if there's some compelling argument that she's completely skill-less and she's going to be homeless, I can see some compelling arguments for child support in this situation.
00:43:31.920
In any case, she had two years of alimony, which should have covered that, and you graduated from college.
00:43:41.920
I was 31 when I got divorced, and I had not worked since I was 24, and I had worked for, like, two or three years out of college.
00:43:49.940
I kind of think that's a windfall for women, this idea that everything for you was paid for for years, you didn't have to work, your rent was paid.
00:44:00.800
Like, imagine me as a dude, I was just living off my girlfriend, didn't have to pay rent, didn't have to flip the roles, flip the roles.
00:44:08.600
And y'all will be very tilted about if a man tries to siphon money from women.
00:44:15.460
This idea that, oh, she didn't have to work, and the guy was paying for everything, I think that that's a windfall for the women.
00:44:29.720
I know, and what happens when I say Kevin Federline?
00:44:34.420
Because Brittany had to pay him all the alimony.
00:44:39.040
Because you're like, why is Brittany Spears paying for this guy, all of his stuff?
00:44:46.040
I'm just using that as the example of how crazy it sounds when you have Kevin Federline getting millions of dollars from Brittany Spears for only being married for a year.
00:44:53.980
When that instance, you know, if you reverse it, there's so many more examples of women doing that to men.
00:44:58.300
Yes, but being married for a year and alimony is different from child support, and there are realities.
00:45:05.860
Yeah, but I do agree that you shouldn't just transfer wealth and, like, expect 50 grand a month to, like, take care of your kids just because your husband made that.
00:45:15.520
But I think it's harder to support your children if you haven't worked for a while, even for somebody who was as educated as I was.
00:45:22.880
It took me a while until I paid, and I didn't even want any money.
00:46:16.040
Those of you who are watching on Spotify, we are experiencing lag in our live stream.
00:46:34.940
Here, fix the – hide – here, just hide this – no, no, no, no, no.
00:46:41.800
Hide the stream yard thing so it's not white screens like this.
00:46:52.300
I'm going to have to step away and figure out what's going on.
00:47:04.540
I thought they were just too big plastic things for, like, show.
00:47:43.940
If I marry a man, if I – anything like that, because I know that I'm the one who makes –
00:47:49.280
I don't know if I'll find a man who makes more money than I do.
00:48:01.420
And I would never make those same choices I made.
00:48:04.600
Again, having lived through what I've lived through.
00:48:10.700
No, I would never do that, and I did not fight for money at all, and there was a lot
00:48:18.100
So, you know, that's not – like, I don't – that's not my personal value system.
00:48:22.800
All I can tell you is, in my experience, it was much harder to support myself than I envisioned.
00:48:31.600
I found it very hard to having all those years out of the workforce.
00:48:37.320
Again, this is 20 years ago, but I would never, ever – I tell my daughters every day, whatever
00:48:43.020
you do, don't give up your career completely because you don't know what's going to happen,
00:48:51.620
It could just be your husband dying, and then that's –
00:48:55.580
You think your life's great, and all of a sudden, you get, like, a Post-it note on the stairs,
00:49:02.420
I had a client whose husband, she came home, and they've been married 30 years, and there
00:49:14.920
So you were dating a guy, then you came out gay?
00:49:26.020
I found out on Facebook back when it first, I guess, came out that he was making a lot of –
00:49:31.180
You know when dance videos were a thing with your –
00:49:44.000
Really quick getting back to the topic at hand.
00:49:46.800
Alex had brought up a point that Britney Spears was paying child support to Kevin Federline,
00:49:55.400
She was paying him by the end of it $40,000 a month in child support.
00:50:00.080
I believe they have two kids together, $40,000 a month in child support.
00:50:06.020
Personally, I think this – although it's a woman paying it to a man, even then,
00:50:13.800
It doesn't cost $40,000 a month to raise children.
00:50:18.540
And then also recently, Halle Berry, she was married to some male supermodel.
00:50:31.680
I don't know if anybody in the chat can tell us how much – do you guys know how much Halle Berry –
00:50:36.540
Halle Berry is paying her ex-husband in child support an alimony or whatever?
00:50:44.640
I think it's even more than what – let me – Halle Berry, like child support.
00:50:51.260
The theory is to maintain an equal standard of living for the kids, but it does seem outrageous.
00:51:00.040
I think kids will be happy as long as they see that they're –
00:51:09.000
It's still weird that she's paying him, though.
00:51:14.180
Well, it's like all these women, you know, they complain about the gender wage gap when
00:51:20.500
in reality, OnlyFans, that's where the biggest gender wage gap is.
00:51:24.240
Guys make no money and girls make all the money.
00:51:26.600
So, you know, you guys are a bunch of hypocritical hoes, so we're sick of it.
00:51:31.840
But these are all new phenomenons that women have these ways to make money.
00:51:35.920
But, I mean, I guess there's not that many different ways, though.
00:51:38.980
I mean, OnlyFans – I mean, is that the new thing?
00:51:46.560
Care 2, your mom had to work while getting $400 in child support.
00:51:51.760
Single fathers have to work, and they get no child support.
00:51:57.900
Does the single father who's not getting child support have the kids?
00:52:02.200
Or is he just a single father now without kids?
00:52:07.300
Because, I mean, I think we've talked about, you know, with Bernie Spears, her – I mean –
00:52:17.300
I ended up choosing my dad, so I lived with my dad because me and my mom just were so explosive.
00:52:24.200
So I think after a while, she was making good money and didn't need child support.
00:52:44.100
You're acting like you've been single that long.
00:53:00.160
For some reason, it's always two and a half years with me.
00:53:02.160
It's like the weirdest – I don't know why, but it just –
00:53:04.900
So the one that ended two months ago was two and a half years?
00:53:18.920
And in all three of those, who broke up with who?
00:53:31.800
I would say I broke up with him because he actually stood me up on my birthday.
00:53:40.280
So I was, like, really, really heartbroken by that.
00:53:42.860
That was, like, a huge, like, you know, like, a punch to the gut.
00:53:48.340
It was, like – and the thing is, he made, like, so many promises before my birthday.
00:53:52.100
Like, oh, you know, we're going to do this, blah, blah, blah, blah, and then –
00:53:56.120
He wished me a happy birthday, but then it was just kind of, like, no follow-through.
00:54:00.120
So I went to Paris by myself and did my own three.
00:54:12.300
So I am in a poly relationship, but I have one partner currently.
00:54:25.680
So two years straight, like, it hasn't been on and off?
00:54:37.760
We're not just, like, sleeping around with whoever.
00:54:41.000
So in that instance, you know, he found somebody that he really enjoys spending time with.
00:55:00.540
I tried to date somebody for about a year, but it didn't work out, like, also.
00:55:05.740
And is the guy who you're seeing, the poly relationship guy, is he in the industry?
00:55:24.360
They need that adrenaline rush, and then, yeah, I'm not surprised.
00:55:30.140
Put a knee on someone's neck, then bang another girl.
00:55:43.520
I'm currently in a relationship since about May, April.
00:56:06.900
That lasted about four years, and then second marriage, 2021, to just this year.
00:56:22.260
So, I have two to my first marriage, and then one from a guy dated in high school.
00:56:28.660
So, a high school father, then you got married, but not to him.
00:56:37.680
Do you plan on having more kids, or are you tapped out?
00:56:43.320
Has it been an issue, dating, like the two father thing?
00:56:59.340
And briefly, what was the reason for the first one?
00:57:02.720
The first one, just, he was kind of manipulative and controlled.
00:57:31.460
We can dive into those first few things, but cooking and cleaning is controlling us?
00:57:36.060
Like, so he was, um, to the point where if I didn't have dinner ready when he expected
00:58:07.580
And you stayed home and he provided everything?
00:58:12.000
And you wouldn't have dinner ready when he got home?
00:58:14.780
Well, I had to maintain two small children at the time.
00:58:19.480
Was he like strict about the recipe or something?
00:58:21.180
Was he like, it's gotta be hamburger helper or something?
00:58:25.060
Um, um, the, I mean, that really wasn't like the main thing.
00:58:30.100
The main thing was, um, I couldn't go hang out with people.
00:58:33.940
So I couldn't, like if I wanted to go to the gym, like I had to be home within a certain
00:58:40.160
Um, just little things like that that's kind of like added up, if that makes sense.
00:58:51.400
Uh, like, uh, just kind of like made me feel bad for wanting to do something.
00:58:59.200
Like if I wanted to buy myself like a new outfit, he'd be like, well, we, we got to
00:59:07.460
Mind you, you had a kid from a previous partner.
00:59:12.280
He's, I mean, this guy's already a fucking saint as it is.
00:59:19.720
Well, I don't know all the details, but in any case, just off of what you're telling me
00:59:22.900
here, um, isn't it prudent, especially if you're the one who's actually making the money
00:59:29.080
and it doesn't sound like he had a high paying job, isn't it kind of makes sense that he's
00:59:35.200
like, no, you're not going to buy that because we have to, we have rent, we have to pay for
00:59:43.600
I, I'm, I'm assuming this guy made fucking no money.
00:59:49.980
It's like, Hey babe, we can't go buy X thing because I'm working a shitty retail job.
00:59:57.700
But was she trying to shop at like Gucci or like Tino?
01:00:00.420
Doesn't matter if he's like, nah, we can't afford it.
01:00:03.940
But was it like that or was he mean to you about your choices and your desire for freedom
01:00:12.140
He, he would make it sound like he wasn't mean.
01:00:17.000
Like he would just kind of, he was very good with his words.
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Did you have friends that you were allowed to go see?
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Um, and one of our friends, and this is going to sound bad, who ended up being my second
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husband, um, stopped coming to our house because he said he didn't like the way he talked to
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And wait, so you started dating one of your buddy's good friends, the friend he was worried
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So you were, you were friends with a guy and then you started dating your friend group.
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She started banging her boyfriend's best friend.
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The two guys, the two guys, you had been with both of them romantically after she divorced
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You slept with one of the guys in the friend group after the divorce.
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So, and wait, did you, you met him during, that's fine.
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He was first friends with your, they worked together.
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Did they keep continue to work together when you guys, well, after, so she caused them both
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My second marriage, he left prior to us getting together.
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So do you just have a thing for phone salesman then?
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I mean, it sounds like, I'll take your word that the first husband was manipulative.
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But with the second friend, there's no overlap.
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But when he was picking up on, was he picking up on something legitimate?
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Did you have, like, a feeling for him or a flirtation, even if you didn't consummate it?
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No, I actually tried to hook him up with my sister.
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But you didn't have, like, a little side crush?
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Girls date guys, they try to recommend it to somebody else.
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Well, I don't think any of this makes you not a good person.
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But I feel like you saying that, there's other skeletons in your closet.
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I mean, it can't be just because you're banging.
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No, because people look at that, and they're like, oh, you're...
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You're being unapologetically yourself, and I guess that is good, but...
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You knew the guy, and after the marriage ended, maybe you developed an attraction.
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You had a kid with somebody, a guy you were dating in high school?
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That was the first one before the first marriage.
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Then you had your second kid with the guy from the first marriage.
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Was he paying you child support, the first guy?
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Well, in high school, I'm sure you contemplated it.
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And then your second kid, do you get child support alimony from your ex-husband?
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I got about $124 in alimony for about two or three months, and then a couple hundred in child support.
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No, I don't get any child support from either father anymore.
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So, things have changed, and we've become more better co-parents, I guess.
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He said if I wasn't vegan, he wouldn't be with me.
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And then while I went to the academy for my new job, um, he made me feel bad for being
01:05:38.700
And he said, I'm here at home dealing with everything and you're just down there doing
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Of course he doesn't want you to make new friends.
01:06:16.120
While I was done at the academy, I met somebody.
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Like, the girls that I hung out with out of the academy, too.
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And I ended up going no contact with my family for over a year because of him.
01:06:48.060
So your family kind of took his side in a little bit?
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What's the whole deal with the academy or whatever?
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So you met your current boyfriend while you were still married.
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So this time, things actually did happen during my marriage.
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Well, did you tell your husband, like, immediately?
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Like, when you framed it, like, he was controlling because he didn't want you to go to the place.
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He was more concerned that I was going to eat meat while I was there.
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Any other things besides this that you want to reveal to us?
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I think that's the main terrible thing that I do.
01:09:19.920
We split, and he kept the house, and that was it.
01:09:24.620
And how long were you married to husband number two?
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So, I actually just got out of a relationship, and a lot of people don't know that until now,
01:10:03.680
Since, I think that it was since last Good Friday, or sorry, 2024 Good Friday, but he
01:10:11.120
says it was August 16th when he asked me out at an April Levine concert.
01:10:36.280
The most recent relationship, who broke up with who?
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Most recent one, why did you break up with him?
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I still love him, but we don't communicate well.
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I know it's hard for you guys to see it, but I'm very mushy.
01:11:00.080
I love the stuff from, like, the notebook and the vow, all that.
01:11:05.420
You want a guy to build you a fucking house out of his hands?
01:11:13.860
Wait, are you being, like, kind of joking with it?
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No, but you genuinely want the notebook romance?
01:11:24.320
You're saying you broke up with your year and a half boyfriend because he wasn't meeting
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your I-need-the-notebook threshold of treatment.
01:11:33.320
If you want to get specific, I'd like to sit on the couch and actually watch Dancing with
01:11:37.260
the Stars without you being on your phone the whole time.
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Maybe cuddle a little bit without you yelling at me saying, I don't care.
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Maybe hold my hand once in a while when we're walking.
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He only watches it when I guilt trip him into watching it.
01:12:08.060
You broke up with a guy because he's on his phone because you're forcing him to watch a
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So I watch sports games with him and I'm not on my phone.
01:12:16.200
I think she just wants him to take an interest in her life.
01:12:22.460
I'm just saying I think that there's probably more toxicity in the relationship other than
01:12:26.340
he's on his phone during Dancing with the Stars.
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So I think typically if somebody is going to say, well, I was abused.
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I'm not saying that's what you're saying, but I'm just throwing this out as an example.
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And if the first thing you start for is fairly benign or minor, that's my position, I'm like,
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then what's the next thing you're going to tell us?
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Look, I know some people, that doesn't necessarily...
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Like, technically somebody could lead off with, oh, yeah, you know, I was in an abusive relationship.
01:13:24.860
He didn't put the toilet seat down, dot, dot, dot, ellipses.
01:13:30.980
Like, I guess you could, technically that could be the case.
01:13:34.740
But typically people will start with, like, the worst thing.
01:13:37.680
So in this case, he was on his phone watching Dancing with the Stars.
01:13:43.340
No, he was on the phone during Dancing with the Stars.
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We have a licensed relationship therapist, whatever.
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Okay, I'm sure if he was sitting here, if you guys were on my couch, he would have his own story,
01:14:02.440
and then there would be sympathy for his side, too.
01:14:05.060
So I'm not villainizing a guy I'm not even talking to.
01:14:07.560
You got to be like, she made me watch fucking Dancing with the Stars, stupid bitch!
01:14:11.320
In fairness, but this does not surprise me, because there's so much distraction now.
01:14:18.320
And I think the deeper thing is, this is a story that's illustrative of trying to get someone's attention,
01:14:25.080
explaining something that would matter to you, that's meaningful, that he could do for you.
01:14:30.240
Not maybe every week to watch Dancing with the Stars, but hey, could you sit down and pay attention to something I care about?
01:14:39.560
It's not big things most of the time, like abuse sometimes.
01:14:43.320
It's the daily drip of disconnection of someone expressing what they want and need,
01:14:47.980
and their partner not listening, not tuning in.
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Eventually, that's what creates distance, disconnection, loss of intimacy, and people end up breaking up.
01:15:03.400
It just, tiny, tiny little things like that will, of course, set me off a little bit.
01:15:08.500
Give us the biggest thing, and then give us one other thing.
01:15:11.560
Okay, so right now, I'm only here in, I guess, California because I have the time.
01:15:20.120
I worked full-time hours from the moment I woke up until I went to bed teaching ballroom dance lessons without even having a break.
01:15:28.680
I was throwing up constantly, so unhealthy, but I love what I do.
01:15:31.840
So, I lived in London, Ontario for about a year, a year and a half, most of our relationship, and he lives in Hamilton.
01:15:46.500
Like, the most we saw each other was late at night after the studio threw, like, a big party.
01:15:51.000
We have them every month, and I would drive all the way down to go see him.
01:15:55.000
Wait, really quick, because we are in the United States of America.
01:15:59.280
What is the distance between, what was it, Hamilton?
01:16:07.200
So, you guys wouldn't see each other very much?
01:16:13.620
The family makes jokes about how they think they'll never meet me because I was always so busy.
01:16:21.400
We do competitions and stuff, so, like, your time is very dedicated to what you do.
01:16:28.220
Um, we would do short visits on the weekends for, like, one or two nights, and if anything.
01:16:34.900
Um, and so then I ended up in a car accident, and, which is why I have all this time available
01:16:42.000
And I don't work right now, but, um, I'm currently, like, receiving, like, payments from insurance
01:16:51.880
The comedian who got hit by a Walmart truck and got a big insurance settlement.
01:17:02.500
It was a write-off, so I got, like, close to seven grand back.
01:17:07.280
When you go on the insurance podcast, we can talk about that.
01:17:16.880
Yeah, so I have all this time in the world to spend with him, and we don't really spend
01:17:22.540
So, yeah, Dancing with the Stars is gonna bug me.
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Yeah, he's busy on his computer, gaming, watching...
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Um, sometimes he leaves really early, but, yeah, 8 a.m.
01:17:41.360
He's a purchaser at a, uh, factory that I won't say.
01:17:47.320
I get it's cool that you're into sports, but if my girlfriend wasn't into sports, I personally
01:17:52.780
wouldn't take offense if she wasn't attuned to sporting.
01:18:05.960
And, look, I'm sure there's other details here, but at least in the specific example you
01:18:10.880
provided where he was on his phone while watching Dancing with the Stars, mind you, you're watching
01:18:23.600
You're sitting at dinner and he's on his phone and maybe...
01:18:28.860
In any case, though, you're saying, like, there was no amount of time where, uh, you guys
01:18:38.100
He's actually aware that he's got an addiction to his phone.
01:18:43.260
He knows it's a problem, so it's not just me being dramatic.
01:18:51.460
Fubbing is when you ignore your partner for your phone.
01:18:53.700
Like, take the Dancing with the Stars out of it, because fair enough, like, my husband
01:18:56.840
doesn't want to watch that shit either, and I love that show, and I do not make him,
01:19:02.400
Once in a while I try, but if you're sitting there at dinner and your partner's looking at the phone
01:19:07.400
and you're like, hey, can we put the phones away?
01:19:09.260
And they keep looking at the phone, I mean, it sends a message that you're not that important
01:19:15.940
My biological stepfather, Tucker Carlson, was on Dancing with the Stars.
01:19:23.300
He was the first person kicked off, so I'm mad at it.
01:19:32.640
They probably won't because some of my tweets are a little inflammatory.
01:19:46.600
Well, that's definitely some interesting stuff.
01:19:53.660
That's just something that means the most to me.
01:19:56.300
What I like to say is anytime I'm spending quality time with someone that I actually love
01:20:08.100
He'll once in a while make food for me, take care of me if I'm sick.
01:20:14.480
And so some things that I need to be happy in a relationship, I'm not receiving.
01:20:19.800
So if I'm spending time with you one-on-one, yeah, it's okay to glance at your phone every
01:20:26.040
But if you're on it, like glued to it, and I feel like I'm being ignored, then there's
01:20:33.960
Well, if he watches this, is this the message you want him to see?
01:20:52.860
Now, if I said he was a piece of shit, that's a surprise.
01:21:11.180
I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year now.
01:21:18.220
It's, I would say it's my first, like, real relationship.
01:21:21.220
There's been, like, talking stages, situationships.
01:21:40.300
That's, like, what I was originally going for with my hair.
01:21:50.480
I've been dating a girl for almost three years.
01:21:53.320
She is the girl that I am going to marry because I finally found a Division I volleyball player.
01:21:57.820
And we're going to have some big, tall babies and have some Division I athletes.
01:22:04.180
And I've been in, I would say, two other kind of serious relationships.
01:22:06.840
But this one is definitely the most serious one that I've ever been in.
01:22:16.760
We'll do a little cameo at the end of the show.
01:22:20.980
Then we have some, we actually have some clips from you, Alex.
01:22:40.980
Do you want to respond to that for you real quick?
01:23:02.120
So, I mean, I don't know how old you are, but I was young and I wanted to have friends.
01:23:14.480
George, if you want to give her a response, feel free.
01:23:26.100
Looking slick in the jacket, B, give your boy a salute.
01:23:29.580
In the wise words of Michael Jackson, the cheater can beat it.
01:23:39.480
This is Halloween coming up, so I thought I'd do my Halloween costume.
01:23:52.200
So, yeah, if any of you guys want to stick out your hand, I'll give you guys a chemical burn on...
01:24:37.080
We could end high divorce rates tomorrow by making the spouse asking for the divorce to
01:24:42.560
pay alimony child support and let the other spouse keep the house slash kids.
01:24:50.840
Do you guys prefer the little stroke, it's called?
01:25:39.360
By the way, we're going to have Andrew in studio pretty soon here.
01:25:47.640
Hope you're having a good time, man, you and Rachel.
01:26:30.840
Have you cheated multiple times before in other relationships?
01:26:40.060
Well, cheating in just any relationship, I guess.
01:26:52.560
Like, they frown upon cheating in the military, right?
01:27:00.300
I don't know if it's like if you're a cop or if you're paroled.
01:27:11.380
Like, you're hooking up with your parole person, right?
01:27:27.960
But I think the military has that specifically because, you know, they get deployed.
01:27:35.080
And I think it still happens where all their wives are banging everybody when they get deployed.
01:27:51.580
When I used to date a few decades ago, the young women would always be on their phone,
01:27:57.140
and it made me feel like I wasn't essential to their attention.
01:28:02.500
So, if you're on a first date, or second date, or third date, and you're out to dinner,
01:28:11.640
You've been dating somebody for a year, and you live together.
01:28:15.080
Now, if they're, like, always on their phone, yeah, that's an issue.
01:28:19.560
But if, like, I think there's a bit more leeway when you're in a relationship, and you're,
01:28:24.720
like, see each other every day, and you're just, you know, whatever, checking the phone.
01:28:34.800
If I was showing a girl, she'd never seen The Matrix, one of my favorite films.
01:28:39.900
I was showing her The Matrix, and it was, like, the part where he's about to get, oh, shit,
01:28:44.820
I don't know, the sort of climax, well, I guess there's, well, the climax, whatever.
01:28:55.520
All right, when he gets, when he takes the red pill.
01:29:18.660
Yeah, it's like, it's like, can someone pull my shirt down for me?
01:29:40.100
No, it was my choice because, like, I designed the tattoo.
01:29:42.440
It's supposed to be at, like, the base of the neck, I think.
01:29:44.640
No, I kind of, it's more symbolic for me because I feel like I am, I try to step outside of
01:29:51.720
So it has, like, 369 interwoven into every aspect of, I drew it to, so.
01:30:02.320
So the big thing was, I actually didn't watch the Matrix until I was dating the last guy that
01:30:08.600
And people would tell me the way that I talk about life and my life experience sounds like
01:30:13.540
And so he was like, you haven't seen the Matrix.
01:30:21.940
And then there's the piece of flaming dog shit.
01:30:28.320
We went to Walmart and they had all four of them on one CD.
01:30:31.620
That, I refuse to acknowledge that that's canon.
01:30:42.160
Well, the Wachowski brothers, you know, they became trans, became the sisters.
01:30:47.380
The directors were both men and they were, they.
01:30:53.980
And after this movie, you know, the Matrix was a huge hit.
01:30:57.780
And then, like, literally right after that is when they started their transition.
01:31:00.980
I think they were a female, maybe starting during the second one, I think.
01:31:04.260
But, yeah, they're full-blown women and they're ugly women.
01:31:08.100
It kind of makes a different, for a different interpretation.
01:31:14.720
Yeah, that's, now they're trying to say that the Matrix was subliminally a trans thing.
01:31:19.600
But you always heard that it was a Jesus thing, you know, that was Neo, was, you know, the Jesus arc.
01:31:35.140
Well, I really like the other two in the trilogy.
01:31:41.140
The other two kind of, like, give you some more canon, you know, a little more backstory.
01:31:44.280
Also, watch the Animatrix, because there's a bunch of cool, it's, like, gives you backstory about the robot.
01:31:54.960
But, wait, just to be clear, this is, like, the Keanu Reeves movie.
01:31:59.520
And in the Passport, it's so crazy, his birthdate in the movie, his passport is September 11, 2001.
01:32:23.680
Let's pull up the clips from Pimp on the Blimp.
01:32:35.340
So, first clip, we'll do video tab for that one.
01:33:00.200
I think it's going to be Gavin and potentially AOC.
01:33:03.340
I mean, AOC's been campaigning with Bernie, but I mean, I don't know who else really on the
01:33:08.060
Like, they're saying Josh Shapiro and maybe Pete Buttigieg, but I think that they would
01:33:11.960
go with a woman, and I think AOC's probably the most popular woman on the left.
01:33:17.460
Yeah, I mean, that would make up the publicist world.
01:33:24.700
I mean, they didn't want her to run the first time, so I don't know.
01:33:37.600
She went to kill babies, but she's still beautiful.
01:33:57.300
See, Brian, this is the one thing, though, you don't get the full context.
01:34:03.740
But what AOC did that really blew me up is that right after that, and you can find it's
01:34:08.260
like AOC's reaction, she went, and I'm not kidding, made 16 Instagram stories about me
01:34:16.900
So, because she, like, if she just would have ignored that, you know, I mean, maybe it would
01:34:21.100
have got some hits, but because she made such a big deal about it and, like, said that
01:34:24.160
she was sexually harassed, which she maybe was a little bit, but.
01:34:38.980
What was she saying when she came up to the camera?
01:34:53.100
Well, she might not have heard that at first, because that was, like, that was now almost
01:34:57.840
But that was, like, right when Texas passed the heartbeat bill, so she had been talking
01:35:02.200
It just didn't seem like congruent behavior had she heard what you were saying.
01:35:11.320
And she was like, everybody, every Latina lady likes it when you say you have a big booty
01:35:20.960
And, you know, we had our little romantic moment.
01:35:23.440
And her fiance, Riley, total cuckold, didn't say a word, didn't come back, didn't want any
01:35:38.840
All right, Nick, were you able to find the AOC reaction or whatever?
01:36:51.200
He's telling me out, but he won't go to the back with me real quick.
01:36:53.540
I'm not going to wrestle with two twinks and some fat next to him.
01:37:00.720
We want to protect big booty Latina under all costs.
01:37:25.980
And also, why didn't she shout out her plastic surgeon that BBL was hot?
01:37:44.280
Are you reacting to the first clip or the one we just watched?
01:38:25.660
I would be afraid to confront people like that.
01:38:28.120
They all looked like they wanted to rip your face off.
01:38:30.780
And a lot of them, like, they're all on SSRIs and they're all, like, detached from reality.
01:38:36.880
And if they're not on SSRIs, they're on fentanyl or some sort of, like, you know.
01:38:44.300
Yeah, all those people were definitely on fentanyl.
01:38:54.220
Well, I'll tell you this much, because I do go to a lot of protests.
01:38:57.180
And I'm telling you, like, in the protest scene, there's a lot of, like, drugs and CDs.
01:39:04.420
Well, I mean, maybe not every person there was on fentanyl.
01:39:06.680
But I guarantee you, at that protest, one person there was using opiates.
01:39:23.060
I'm saying the type of people that go to protests, you know, sex workers like yourself and drug addicts.
01:39:27.180
And, you know, all kinds of people, media people.
01:39:28.920
So, yeah, I'm telling you, at that protest, there was a lot of gringos probably selling fentanyl.
01:39:35.840
Like, they're basically, like, you know, a de facto cartel member.
01:39:38.840
So, yeah, I wouldn't be surprised if there were some people not only using fentanyl, but maybe potentially dealing it as well.
01:40:02.480
He, when I was walking up, he said, hey, look at that big ass.
01:40:12.800
You know, all the bunch of racist, sexist stuff.
01:40:16.340
She pointed out that it happened in front of a Capitol Police officer who she says did nothing to help her.
01:40:24.440
AOC tweeted that she wanted to deck the guy, but needed to catch a vote more than a case.
01:40:32.740
Alex, actually, I did something a little bit similar in 2020, 2021.
01:40:47.280
I actually went to a protest, and I have a sign on my own.
01:40:54.100
Before we show it, what was that movie that came out in the mid-2000s?
01:40:58.260
There were two, like, magician movies that came out.
01:41:07.700
The Revenant and The Magician or some bullshit.
01:41:10.380
It's like, wow, what's that term called when, like, two creative geniuses?
01:41:38.120
I actually, you know, you say big booty Latinos.
01:41:46.900
Female, preferably, you know, but I'll, look, I'll accept Asian female athletes, Latin American female athletes.
01:41:59.020
Female athletes, all of them are fine, except for the shot put.
01:42:07.800
Shot put, nah, they're a bit, not really my speed.
01:42:13.640
Well, they tend to be a bit, the shot putters, the stone put, you know, where they throw the, they spin and throw the stone or whatever.
01:42:38.640
And really, it makes me actually think of a serious thing, though.
01:42:43.380
Arena, the Eastern European refugee that got stabbed by the black dude on the thing.
01:42:48.280
You know, it sucks that, like, you were actually bringing Eastern European.
01:42:51.520
I think she might have been a gymnast or something.
01:42:53.160
And then you come to America and you get stabbed.
01:42:59.240
Have you ever had someone do something violent to you?
01:43:07.740
If you've been made from somebody that has AIDS, it's not good.
01:43:14.680
You want them to spit in your mouth or spit on you?
01:43:24.840
One thing, I, like, obviously with what happened to Charlie Kirk is, like, incredibly sad.
01:43:31.900
But I don't think, like, personally I'm going to get attacked in that same way.
01:43:36.500
Like, I think that whatever happened there was, like, you know, it was a really, really unfortunate situation.
01:43:40.380
So, I'm saying in general I'm not worried about, like, getting shot.
01:43:42.400
But, yeah, maybe potentially getting stabbed or something.
01:43:44.760
Speaking of getting shot, I was looking at, I think it was your Instagram.
01:43:48.200
Man, you got, I got to admit, you got some balls because you walked up to these, like, Antifa guys.
01:43:59.840
I don't know if you were messing with them that they were fake guns, but they looked real.
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We have open carry, so you can just walk around.
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So, you walked up to them and you were provoking these two men.
01:44:14.260
And then listen to the, one of the guys, you can look this up, is a guy by the name of Ben Song.
01:44:18.780
Benjamin Song is an Asian guy, and he actually was on the run for nearly a month.
01:44:23.540
He was a guy that set up the coordinated attack at an ice facility to shoot ice people.
01:44:29.840
Well, one of the guys I was making fun of was the Asian guy.
01:44:34.640
And they did an ambush attack at an ice facility.
01:44:36.680
So, that is crazy that that guy actually ended up becoming a shooter on something, so.
01:44:50.180
And, yeah, long story short, though, the guy that I was actually antagonizing ended up becoming
01:44:59.840
I don't think they killed him, but they shot the guy.
01:45:18.680
I just want to say, this has been a terrible meeting.
01:45:41.180
So my first remember, right, I'm allowed to say I like big booty Latinas.
01:45:50.880
No, I do have a comment about technology, but you're yelling at me because I'm talking
01:45:59.340
So don't get all, you know, butthurt about that.
01:46:06.420
I want somebody that has some cushion for the pushing.
01:46:09.700
So this is the problem is the tech here in New York City.
01:46:14.620
Now my wife has got her OnlyFans on mycity.com.
01:46:19.280
She's on my city showing her vagina for like $5.99 a month.
01:46:23.300
And I know that you could probably make some money.
01:46:44.880
Big booty Latina is not a crime to say that, officer.
01:46:54.820
I can call you a mask wearer, probably five times vaccinated, and I know you're probably
01:47:26.680
So explain the big booty Latina thing, because I know it's your girlfriend.
01:47:36.660
Well, born and raised in Texas, there's a big Spanish culture.
01:47:39.760
I think it goes back to the Battle of the Alamo and remembering what we fought for as Texas citizens.
01:47:44.740
And a lot of you guys probably don't know about Santa Ana and the Mexican-Texas Revolution and what America was built on.
01:47:52.120
And it was built on this battle for Texas against the Mexicans, and we won.
01:47:56.720
And I feel like Santa Ana killed a lot of our Texas men.
01:48:05.540
So I feel like the best way to help my ancestors like Davy Crockett is to take all their sexy women and keep them here in America and just make their men deport their men.
01:48:15.140
And, you know, they're stuck being gay or whatever.
01:48:19.240
I think that is just revenge for what they did to, you know, some of my Texas brethren.
01:48:31.760
You seem to be a little distressed by what Alex is saying.
01:48:41.180
Like the fact that you have kids and you are a porn star?
01:48:45.920
Because you said your favorite thing is being a mom.
01:48:54.760
And I'm not even trying to, like, attack you right now to start that.
01:48:57.900
Yeah, I know every joke is not going to be the funniest joke.
01:49:05.000
And imagine how cringe it is for your kid to have to talk to other kids about what their mommy does for work.
01:49:09.980
I'm pretty sure they're not talking about that at nine years old.
01:49:17.940
You don't think that it comes out that mommy does this?
01:49:23.100
Yeah, so if other parents know, you don't think they're telling their kids, oh.
01:49:29.920
But do you talk to your child about what you do?
01:49:38.280
I couldn't imagine, like, my mom being, you know, a porn star.
01:49:43.520
Like, looking at a joke and not finding it funny.
01:49:48.500
Right, but also you grew up very differently, right?
01:49:51.300
Like, you grew up, like, silver platter, right?
01:49:59.920
I'm saying, you said something's cringe, and I look at you, and I'm like, listen, I want
01:50:04.140
But I think what you're doing is probably the most cringe thing and most disrespectful thing
01:50:08.460
you could do to your child, having a mom that every other parent is going to sit
01:50:12.700
there, and they're all going to gossip about how this mom does his sex work, and this
01:50:17.120
And I think it puts your kid in an unfair advantage, and it probably makes them have a lot
01:50:21.600
But do you think it's, don't you think by providing a life for her kid, she's really
01:50:29.280
I mean, I understand that people gossip and are judgmental, but she's out there earning
01:50:36.640
And cringe on, like, a joke level, and cringe on someone's livelihood, and being a mom, it's
01:50:45.720
Yeah, but everybody has their price, so it's like, I mean, you're trying to provide for
01:50:50.400
your kid, and I understand that's hard, but you're selling your soul in the process, you
01:50:58.080
So it's like, yes, you have money, but guys are literally using you as a sex doll, and
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basically, when it comes down to it, when it comes to sex work, you are a prostitute, you're
01:51:11.180
getting paid to do this, and I don't think any girl grows up wishing, oh, I want to be
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a prostitute one day, or I don't think any child's like, I'm happy my mommy's a prostitute,
01:51:19.080
and I'm not saying this as an attack on you, I'm just saying as an objective fact, that
01:51:23.040
that's a tough situation to be in, as a child having your mom that's a prostitute.
01:51:26.740
I think it could totally depend, though, like, depending on how good of a mother you are.
01:51:30.360
I know when I was in middle school, I went to school with a couple kids whose mother was
01:51:34.820
a porn star, and she was very bad at, like, he told me at one point that he came home
01:51:40.940
and his mom was recording porn in the house, and he walked into it.
01:51:45.220
Those kids were also selling cocaine and jerking off on the bus at school and, like, sticking
01:51:51.020
their appendage in vending machines and getting expelled.
01:51:55.140
So their mother, you know, and that was once they got to high school.
01:51:59.080
So, like, you know, as long as you're not affecting your children's...
01:52:04.240
Why are you, like, nodding to that? Are you, like, agreeing with that?
01:52:07.140
That's extreme. And I'm sure that's not the kind of mother you are.
01:52:10.120
But there's definitely situations where it can get bad.
01:52:11.860
You think if your mom's a porn star, you know, you don't put your penis in a vending machine.
01:52:16.720
But, yeah, and, I mean, once again, I do agree that, like, you know, maybe a woman she's trying
01:52:25.240
to provide for herself, like, is there something, I guess, maybe admirable for a mom
01:52:30.960
But as a kid, I would guarantee that they would rather their mom be poor and work a normal
01:52:36.460
job than have a little bit of money and be a prostitute.
01:52:41.420
But, hey, listen, we're all trying to make a living.
01:52:46.640
But, you know, yeah, I do some cringe stuff on the internet.
01:52:48.580
But at least I literally don't let men, you know, ejaculate on me for, you know...
01:52:52.160
But you're also projecting, in fairness, your own viewpoint about sex working.
01:53:00.520
Like, he's entitled to whatever opinions that he has.
01:53:07.200
Because you said you, like, explain that in a child way.
01:53:10.280
Yes, so my daughter, she has parental restrictions on everything.
01:53:19.160
It is through the Apple software that she cannot even make calls or receive calls unless I personally,
01:53:32.520
Anything that's beyond G-rated, it won't even come up.
01:53:37.700
So, you know, we sometimes are looking on my phone, like, Instagram or whatever,
01:53:45.880
and maybe, like, a Britney Spears pops up dancing crazy and showing her tits, whatever, right?
01:53:52.720
And my daughter says something like, oh, wow, that's crazy.
01:53:55.460
That's, you know, or the girls on TikTok bouncing up and down, making faces, whatever.
01:53:59.900
So I just explained to her that what I do for work is much worse than that
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and that at some point she will have a problem with what I do
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and that I don't promote what I do for work, you know,
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and I would never encourage young women to do what I do for work.
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Like, you wouldn't even want your own child to do the same work that you do.
01:54:32.220
But this is one thing, and this is not an attack against you,
01:54:35.540
but there is a documentary called Hot Girls Wanted.
01:54:42.020
but, like, in that documentary it does talk about how most girls have a short career.
01:54:45.520
So, and it's because the industry is very, you know, challenging, to say the least.
01:54:50.580
It sounds like you've had kind of a longer career.
01:54:52.680
Like, why do you think that is instead of being, like, the typical person that goes in and out?
01:55:03.420
and the way that I kind of started out was much different than how most people get recruited into that industry.
01:55:18.380
Like, what you're referring to, the Hot Girls Wanted.
01:55:23.620
Yeah, that's, like, completely different from what I experienced.
01:55:27.940
So, for me, it was more like a community, and it was more like an educational thing.
01:55:35.680
I started out at kink.com at the armory in San Francisco.
01:55:39.080
So, starting out there on, like, a very, very professional level,
01:55:51.000
It was much more about pushing boundaries and, like, what are you okay with?
01:55:55.040
And I only did solo and girl-girl content for several years.
01:56:10.420
But, like, what are you going to do when you age out of porn?
01:56:14.840
I don't really think that aging out is a thing.
01:56:18.700
There are, like, all kinds of fetishes, probably.
01:56:20.720
So, I guess as long as you're willing to get naked, you could probably make a little money.
01:56:24.160
But why continue to do porn and not transition to OnlyFans?
01:56:27.220
You know, OnlyFans is, like, this new generation, and eventually I am going to kind of transition to that.
01:56:32.900
But as of right now, I'm just, you know, getting back into the community and, like, kind of seeing where things are at now.
01:56:40.740
You don't have to tell us because, obviously, it's very private.
01:56:43.060
But, like, do you make that much money doing porn?
01:56:50.420
Because I thought it's, like, you know, like, it's, like, in that documentary, people think you get paid a lot, but it's really, like, $3,500 or something.
01:57:00.120
So, like, would you ever consider doing something more discreet rather than, like, doing the porn?
01:57:10.200
Yeah, just something that not many people would recognize you for.
01:57:14.400
So, I have had, like, BDSM clients in the past, but not escorting, no.
01:57:21.620
And then I just want to know how come you're not doing that anymore, or are you still doing it?
01:57:28.080
Oh, there's, like, a level of safety that goes along with that, right?
01:57:34.800
So, I mean, if people are, like, referring me to someone that they have, like, a good rapport with, then that could be fine.
01:57:44.060
I mean, you could do it out of, like, say, you know, those rub and tugs or whatever.
01:58:01.900
Like, you have to get some sort of sexual gratification from you.
01:58:06.000
Because that's the only way you'd want to do it, right?
01:58:10.140
I'm not even saying that to be, like, you know, dickhead.
01:58:13.680
Yeah, but, I mean, I don't like being, like, you know, pooped on.
01:58:17.960
I know, but you've probably done some crazy stuff.
01:58:27.080
Once again, I keep referencing that documentary, but it starts, like, oh, you're just having
01:58:30.040
sex with one guy, and then all of a sudden it's, like, ten midgets and, like, a donkey.
01:58:38.240
It's called Hot Girls Wanted, and they explain this.
01:58:40.580
He thinks I'm getting shit on and fuck my pen donkeys.
01:58:42.760
Well, that's what they say, like, well, that's what, you know, I think they do want you to
01:58:47.060
get, well, that's, like, how it starts, like, soft core, and then it goes into, like, hardcore.
01:58:52.300
You know, so there is levels to, like, the stuff they want you to do, you know?
01:58:54.960
It's interesting, like, how uneducated you are about just the internet.
01:58:57.940
I'm not a porn expert, I agree, but I'm just saying.
01:59:00.240
But you make these statements, like, that I'm going to get fucked by ten donkeys or something?
01:59:04.020
No, I was trying to just make a joke about the.
01:59:09.780
It starts with how you're having sex with one person.
01:59:18.060
Well, you're the one watching the ten donkeys or whatever.
01:59:24.880
Listen, I love how you're trying to act, like, all naive, even though you're the sex worker,
01:59:28.440
you're the prostitute, like, you've never heard a joke about.
01:59:33.840
Like, you're a sex worker, and I'm not, like, trying to even take shots.
01:59:40.000
But I think you're being naive if you don't think, like, in porn they make you do weird
01:59:46.600
Do you feel like you're well compensated for the work that you do?
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Do you think, like, what bracket does your job end up putting you in, in terms of, like,
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I only shoot, like, maybe two or three scenes a month.
02:00:11.920
So, but you also said, like, you, that you like it, right?
02:00:16.860
But then you also said that you feel like it's degrading, demeaning work.
02:00:26.800
Is the way people are uneducated about what I do.
02:00:37.120
How much more education do I need to know that you.
02:00:47.060
What is the specifically uneducated statement that you claim, Alex?
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He thinks I'm having sex with ten midgets and a donkey.
02:00:58.780
Like, if they want you to do something, you can turn it down.
02:01:06.120
And I was very irked by the fact you guys were bullying my friend here, Alex.
02:01:14.820
You said that you're giving a criticism towards Alex's criticism towards her involvement in porn.
02:01:34.360
I am not fine with drug dealers selling drugs to minors.
02:01:36.800
They're just trying to, you know, provide for their family.
02:01:44.040
But I would have a problem with her having sex with minors on film.
02:01:48.380
I mean, I'm not okay with anyone harming minors in any way.
02:01:52.360
Okay, well, here, let me ask a super simple question.
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Overall, in general, is porn good for society or bad?
02:02:11.360
On the balance, I would say it's probably not great in that it's highly addictive.
02:02:19.720
What about the actual women who are in the industry?
02:02:25.740
Well, I know women that feel very empowered by their jobs who are sex workers.
02:02:32.140
I think if somebody tells me that they feel empowered in their life, then I'm going to
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I feel like a lot of sex workers put on that facade that, oh, I'm so empowered by this.
02:02:51.200
But I'm not going to tell, like, I'm not going to paint a broad brushstroke and assume
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that every single person doesn't have any agency in the job that they choose.
02:03:00.140
But I mean, if we want, like, a cohesive, strong society, high-trust society, like, look,
02:03:12.800
But I mean, if, practically speaking, I don't think you can come away from looking at porn
02:03:18.560
and think overall, on a balance of everything, in totality, that it's an overall good force
02:03:30.140
Like, you think anyone using porn that it's necessarily about...
02:03:33.440
I mean, I know a lot of people that they use porn in their relationship.
02:03:40.480
But if two consenting adults are looking at porn that's made by consenting adults, I don't
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So I'm not here to, like, champion porn, nor am I saying there aren't probably, like, oppressive
02:04:01.240
I know a lot of people that porn's a part of their sex life, but it's not...
02:04:06.660
Well, I mean, if you had a female client who came to you and said, you know, my boyfriend,
02:04:11.860
he watches porn, he's not addicted, but he watches it, and it displeases me, would you
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say there's something wrong that the boyfriend is doing there?
02:04:25.320
What I would say as the person's therapist, as the couple's therapist, is that if it's a
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problem for you, it's a problem for the relationship.
02:04:32.080
I'm not there to, like, kind of get people to see it my way.
02:04:36.500
And my husband, I don't think he's a big consumer of porn.
02:04:39.900
I mean, maybe he's watching right now and laughing, but this is what I think.
02:04:50.820
But I think if porn were interfering with our sex life, or if he...
02:04:55.080
And I have dated someone who is a porn addict, so I am sensitive to it in that sense.
02:04:59.820
Plus, I have worked with many, many couples where one partner is a sex addict or recovering
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sex addict, so I know it can be very, very destructive.
02:05:08.840
But, yeah, I mean, ultimately, though, the genesis of this conversation started when she
02:05:14.840
was calling Alex cringe for making some jokes, and then...
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That seems like a lot of effort to do, like, a one-minute...
02:05:53.780
But, I mean, anyways, maybe we'll move off of the meta conversation there, but you called
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You know, to be cringe is to make money, and to make money is to be free.
02:06:15.940
And everybody has different perspectives, like what some people might think is cool, some other
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And listen, you know, people obviously have, you know, shared the same sentiment as you,
02:06:35.120
I just thought it was funny, like, cringe, cringe, and I'm like, but I don't even know
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why you're that cringe, because, like, I doubt you're not, like, that political.
02:06:42.120
Is it because all the big booty latinas are taking all your work?
02:06:44.500
Yeah, is that why you're threatened by any of those?
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The ladies work harder for half the money, too.
02:06:50.660
No, literally, that's why the illegals are taking over the porn industry.
02:06:56.080
It's actually really damaging, the porn industry.
02:06:58.240
I wonder how many illegal immigrants aren't porn.
02:07:01.500
We have very strict rules on identification and everything.
02:07:11.320
And then they take, like, consent videos and everything.
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Really quick, though, I think, let's pull up my tweet.
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We will allow illegal immigrants, if they are female pole vaulters, pathway to citizenship now.
02:07:32.400
So I feel like me and Alex here have a lot in common.
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We've got the main topic coming up in just a moment.
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The American Constitution guarantees the right to free speech.
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However, certain groups are slowly censoring and overwriting specific rights in America.
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I love the fact that it's like No Kings, but Kings when it comes to, you know, their political stance and the way that, you know.
02:08:47.180
But the No Kings protest, even though I don't really agree with their messages, but I actually agree with their right to protest.
02:08:53.520
So, you know, I feel like more people should get politically involved and go, if they're passionate about something, oh, you don't like that?
02:09:03.800
I think that the political system is just to keep us divided.
02:09:10.620
So they're just trying to distract us so that they can do what they would like.
02:09:15.360
I do agree that we have a unit party where both sides are in on it at the end of the day.
02:09:19.220
So, yeah, it's really hard to navigate that when, like, that's what they try to do.
02:09:23.580
They try to make it left first right, and most people are, like, in the middle.
02:09:26.280
And so that's why, like, Donald Trump, I think, did well because even if, like, a lot of people don't like him, he is a populist at the end of the day.
02:09:32.820
Like, he does want to be liked by the left, even though I know the left doesn't like him.
02:09:35.540
So I think if there was another, like, populist candidate, more people would get behind him because that's probably where more people are in the middle.
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Any child gets negatively affected once he or she discovers their mother was or still is a porn star or a girl.
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Boys are particularly affected, especially when their classmates and friends find out.
02:10:05.520
Yeah, I couldn't imagine, like, if my mom was, you know, shooting porn, and my friends are like,
02:10:13.480
hey, I just saw your mom butt-ass naked getting plowed by some guy on the internet, I would just be like, mom, what the, what the hell?
02:10:22.160
Do you acknowledge that it's, to her point, like, it's kind of suboptimal, at least, for the kids?
02:10:29.340
And, like, I think your kid is going to love you no matter what, no matter what your job is.
02:10:32.940
So it's not like, like, it really affects the way that your kid loves you, but it just puts an unnecessary burden on them or on their peers.
02:10:42.160
That's where I'm like, because, like you said, they're nine.
02:10:45.920
But I know those other parents are, and those guys are sharing, and they all have group chats, and they're all like, I'm cranking my hug, blah, blah, blah, and being nasty.
02:10:53.120
And I can only imagine that, like, the other kids might hear it, or they might make jokes like that.
02:10:57.080
And once again, it's just an awkward situation.
02:11:00.160
And, you know, that really, the word cringe kind of makes me think about, like, imagine your kid hearing from another parent about your job.
02:11:08.680
Like, that has to be a very challenging situation.
02:11:12.180
Kids also find out about stuff like that way earlier than you think they do.
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And a lot of parents are really naive and think their kids are kind of dumb when kids find out.
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And the moms, like, the wives are not going to like it.
02:11:27.140
Oh, yeah, because the husbands are going to be watching.
02:11:30.260
I think that overall we need to focus on not raising snowflake children, though, so that they can take a little bullying.
02:11:36.940
You know, a little bullying builds character, for sure.
02:11:40.660
Well, like, and I was thinking about, you know, Brian, because do I want to outlaw all porn?
02:11:45.200
Because I think we should go back to kind of like the idea when it was like Playboy magazine.
02:11:54.320
It's just maybe, like, there's something beautiful about a woman's butt cheek, but we don't need her to, like, spread it and have, like, you know, what did you, like, ten midgets near it, you know what I mean?
02:12:03.980
Like, there's something beautiful about the female form.
02:12:08.780
Wait till she's over the hill, and that's when the midget stuff happens.
02:12:12.060
So if I went into porn, I'd be stuck with the midgets at my age.
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Share five, you are a prom star, which is the most degenerate, degrading job any woman could do.
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If you want respect as a human being, then start acting like one.
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You were just walking through the woods, and you didn't get to pick walking to the man?
02:13:10.420
I went up there for business in Vancouver, and we ran into a bear, and it was my first
02:13:35.460
Actually, I think you're not supposed to eat bear.
02:13:47.100
You can, but I think it has to be, like, cooked.
02:13:58.640
We're going to get into kind of the first topic.
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It's sort of bouncing off of a note that Colette sent in.
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You want to push back on the idea that women don't automatically deserve chivalry.
02:14:28.780
They set the tone, and we all deserve to be treated well.
02:14:33.820
This comes up on the show frequently, so I don't know if this is...
02:14:36.120
You saw the show, and you're like, oh, Brian has this position.
02:14:40.560
Push back on the idea that women don't automatically deserve chivalry.
02:14:59.180
Really quick, though, I'm going to come to the all women deserve chivalry, but really
02:15:04.820
quick, when you also say, we all deserve to be treated well, does that include men?
02:15:12.220
But can you treat a woman well without doing chivalry?
02:15:17.240
I mean, and also, I guess it depends how we're defining chivalry.
02:15:20.060
I'm thinking like old school manners, like opening a door, paying on a first date.
02:15:26.300
When I think chivalry, I think kind of like the bare minimum, like not even going over
02:15:29.380
the top, like you said, like just the paying for dates, like opening a door.
02:15:31.920
Yeah, like having good, I would even call it having good manners.
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I almost don't think that it seems like you have to go over the top to be chivalrous, but...
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Well, so my confusion here, though, is if a man can treat a woman well without chivalry,
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and then by extension, a woman can treat a man well without chivalry, then, I mean...
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And so it seems like when you say we all deserve to be treated well, well, I agree, you should
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But I mean, my position would be you can be respectful as a man, you can not be abusive,
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you can treat a woman nicely, politely, respectfully, without there being a component of chivalry,
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which I think adds an additional layer on top of just a sort of baseline level of respect
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and treating somebody with, you know, baseline dignity, right?
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So what, I guess when you say we all deserve to be treated well, caked into that is there's
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a higher burden, a higher duty, a higher responsibility placed on men.
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So, I guess, why, here, why don't we start with this, then?
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You say women don't automatically, or sorry, you push back on the idea that I say, for
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example, women don't automatically deserve chivalry.
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So, for example, it's my position that in order to be deserving of chivalry, you should
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I don't think we have a lot of ladies in the modern day.
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And that, hey, look, you can, I'm not saying you should be abused.
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But chivalry, again, goes beyond just respect and treated well.
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It goes into paying for dates, taking certain actions, opening the car door, which I think
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But it's this, perhaps, expectation of it from women.
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If they don't receive it, they feel aggrieved or offended.
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Well, so my question, yeah, I mean, it kind of gets to my question here is, well, I guess
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one, why should, like, for example, no offense to her, she's an active porn star who fucks
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Or if you want to date this woman and make her feel special to you, then that's why.
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But that's, see, that's something different, though.
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And I don't think what she does for a living should mean that she doesn't deserve that.
02:18:14.520
Well, so, for example, I think doing the most optimum thing that will yield you the
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result, then if we're having, like, a practical conversation of, like, the most maximizing dating
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strategies, like, even if the woman's, like, a complete fucking degenerate feminist modern
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woman, it's going to be to your benefit to pay for the first date.
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But it's going to be to your benefit to pay for the first date, even if she's, like, a
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modern feminist woman, because women still, whether on a conscious or subconscious level,
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However, from a bird's eye view, if we're looking at the chessboard of dating and what's
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fair and not fair, or what's a raw deal for men, I can't help but feel like if women
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aren't holding up their end of the bargain, then it's not fair that men, there should
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be an expectation on men to do it, or it's not fair if the man does do it.
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I understand it's what's most effective when it comes to dating, but I can't really get
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behind this idea that there should be an expectation on men, or men should do chivalry
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What are you asking a woman to do to do her side of the bargain?
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I mean, I would say that, I would say whatever those sort of traditional gender roles are,
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because if your expectation is for a man to pay for first dates, to be a provider, be
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a protector, do these sort of gestures, open the car door, observe the sidewalk rule, whatever
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it is, pay for dates, what are the corresponding more traditional gender roles in terms of
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cultural or societal expectations of women of yesteryear?
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So we're holding men to this 1950s bachelor standard, but women are modern women.
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Most women are not sex workers, but a lot of women are promiscuous.
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A lot of women are dating multiple men at the same time.
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So if you want us as men to be leaders, you need to be a follower.
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If you want me to lead, you need to be prepared to follow.
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You want the benefits of male leadership, but I have to follow his lead?
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Okay, so I will say I will trade in a heartbeat a man opening the door and paying on the date
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if the bargain is going to be being submissive and obedient, because I couldn't do that even
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But I also just want to push back in the sense that I'm not asking.
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When I talk about men doing these things like opening the door and paying on a first date,
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I see this as dating rituals, rituals of courtship.
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I'm not saying this is a strategic, like you want to hook the woman so you should do these
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I'm saying this is a way to show a woman that you respect her, that you admire her, that
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To me, it is a ritual of mating that is somewhat wired into our innate manner of courtship.
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And I don't think that a man doing those things puts such a heavy burden on men.
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Like paying for dates, I think that does put a burden on that.
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Not a singular date necessarily, although it could.
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But if like, you know, as people do, they can be in the course of a year.
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But yeah, that can absolutely place like a financial burden on men that doesn't exist in
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But also, I mean, even if we're just talking about one singular date, the expectation,
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some people do this sort of hand-waving away in terms of this burden.
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But if I'm talking to a guy who makes $20 an hour, maybe he's a young guy, early 20s,
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he makes $20 an hour, women have this expectation that men pay for the first date.
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Maybe, let's say, you go out to a date and it costs $100 total.
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And I'll be fair, he's only factoring in her portion of the meal.
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A man who's making $20 an hour, and well, that's before tax, after tax, whatever.
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Let's say he's working like a physically demanding job.
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Women are telling men, in order for you to get my time, for you to go on a date with me,
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which, by the way, I think that that's an equal value exchange going on a date.
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So when I sit here and I say, I expect my girlfriend to bow.
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I expect my girlfriend to do X, Y, to cook and clean and all these things.
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You want a guy who makes $20 an hour to pay for your first date?
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Mind you, you're probably going on three or four dates with other men.
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That's two and a half hours of work to take you out on a date.
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I mean, my other points here would be why women don't deserve it.
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You're not adhering to really any traditional gender roles.
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And look, there's women out there who are properly single, although perhaps they're few and far between.
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Why am I going to treat her to a date when she's like...
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Well, in any case, my perspective is, me personally, I only want to deal with women who are properly single and who are dating intentionally.
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I'm not saying you're sleeping with all the guys.
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Okay, first of all, this was not a regular thing.
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But I got to the point where doing online dating, I was in my 30s, I got so worn out from spending weeks messaging back and forth with guys who seemed really great.
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And there was no connection or they weren't nice or...
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And by the way, let me say, I did not expect people to constantly whine and dine me at this extravagant level, especially if they're not making tons of money.
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Well, I mean, even if you go to Chili's, that's $100.
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I got very efficient about my dating, which is what I decided.
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But the idea was I don't want to waste a lot of time back and forth with you anymore.
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I want to meet you in person as quickly as possible.
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So I started doing like 15 minutes, Starbucks, I'll meet you for a coffee.
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And then if there's a vibe, then we can go from there.
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Well, if there's a vibe, but I'm going to have to cut it short because I have to get to my date number three.
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I did not make anyone feel rushed or pressured.
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In any case, me personally, if a girl was open about that, of course, some women might lie or choose to omit sharing the fact
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If I was on a date with a girl and she tells me, hey, by the way, you're great.
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Just letting you know, I have two other dates planned after this.
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But so I guess my perspective here, and even if you were doing what you were doing, you could have done it, you know, one Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday.
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Even that, a woman who had three other dates lined up in that week, I'm thinking to myself, eh, she's kind of playing the field.
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Well, why am I not just trying to meet someone that I actually connect with?
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And, I mean, I wasn't dating people, multiple people a day.
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But why, if I'm going out on three dates in a week, am I playing the field and am I, like, seeming promiscuous or something?
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You might not be, but that would probably be the impression.
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And then you don't want to pay for me or open the door for me if I'm doing that.
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Now, I think men will do it anyways because they know that that's effective and that's what, even if the chick's a total strumpet, it's still, it's still, like, if you're just trying to maximize, yeah.
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And, I mean, like, some guys are okay, I guess, dating a strumpet.
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But, I mean, I just don't think it's a fair shake for men to do the chivalrous thing if the women aren't uphold, like, what, women are just not holding up their end of the deal on the chivalry thing.
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I hear what you're saying, and I will tell you, my husband sometimes jokes, and he's probably watching right now, and he's going to be like, I'm not really joking.
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But that there is, I'm going to admit, being 52 years old, I grew up at a time where things were a lot more traditional.
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And there were a lot of things I expected for men that I think some of them had a little bit of a double standard.
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Like, I did want, in my first marriage, things were very traditional, but I didn't want to have less of a say or less power or agency in the marriage, even though I did want to be provided for.
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And I think in that relationship, I did look at my husband as more of a leader.
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Now, what I'm saying is that I do think there's still something to mating rituals that's very biologically driven.
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I don't think things should be financially unfair.
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I don't even know that my daughters at 22 and 24 expect men to pay for them.
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I think things are a lot more, I mean, I don't know if you guys even expect to be paid for on a date.
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If I went out on a first date and a guy, I went out on one date, this was not four in a day.
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This guy was the only date of the week, and we went to Gator's, which is like a Florida bar food place, and he made me split like a $20 chicken tender thing.
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And it seemed a little cheap, and it was a turnoff to me.
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But if I were dating somebody today, I make plenty of my own money.
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However, on a first date or two, I would want a man to show me that he has manners.
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I would want him to open the door for me, and I would rather him do that and then me say, oh, no, don't worry about it.
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But I also think I probably have a lot of old school ideas because I'm old.
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You know, I don't know if you younger people even care about that stuff.
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But, I mean, you say you have these old school ideas, but what are the old school traditions you adhere to?
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I'm going to admit to you, I'm admitting that some of us, I don't think chivalry is hypocritical, but some of what I would say I really want in a man is hypocritical.
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I don't know that he's as thrilled with that as he acts like he is.
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Well, they do say men are better cooks than women.
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I mean, I am, but I feel like right now I have like five jobs, I feel like.
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I'm not going to cook and go to the grocery store.
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And, Brian, I guess the difference I want to make is like chivalry, like opening the car door and even like paying like on the first date or something because it's so awkward.
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I feel like that could be, you know, not, that's not even that chivalrous.
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Chivalry to me would be like giving somebody a ride to the airport if you just met them, you know, like actually going out.
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If they had a flat tire, like you don't know the person and you're going out of the way.
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I feel like opening a car door, like buying the first, you know, because.
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But you also live in Dallas where that's very ubiquitous.
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Like in New York when I grew up, men like you like hooked up at a bar and eventually you were like dating after six months of that.
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I think you're like got the Southern gentleman thing a little bit.
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I just think it's kind of naturally to open up a door for a woman.
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Like if a woman is like coming through the door to not open it, that's actually, I would almost consider that rude.
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Well, I think there's these smaller sort of gestures, but if we're, if we start looking at perhaps the financial component, the protection component, you know, you look at men paying for dates, women still want men to be providers, protectors, et cetera.
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And then there's, there's sort of other expectations to there.
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Um, I'm trying to think of a, a good example here.
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Well, I'd say that it's sort of the general men are still overwhelmingly initiators in relationships.
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Uh, you know, this, this is within the, maybe not the purview of chivalry, but is, it is within the purview of traditional gender roles where the burden of initiative falls on the man.
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And as women, you might not really think about that, but overwhelmingly, I think something like 99% of first dates, the guy's asking for the first date.
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And then every other first step that's involved in that entire process, almost always, almost always exclusively falls on the man.
02:33:15.800
Well, it entails him approaching you, him, you know, carrying the conversation, asking for your number, following up on the phone, texting you, you know, maybe setting up a call, planning the date, pick, maybe picking you up, or maybe you meet there, whatever, paying for the date, planning the date, uh, moving things forward physically from there.
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He probably asked, most men have to go for the first kiss.
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Most men have to move things forward physically.
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That's if it even happens on the first date, then he has to do all the planning and all rinse and repeat.
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Second date, third date, fourth date, fifth date, all these sort of initial steps are all sort of, uh, initiative burdens that fall on men that women don't really think about.
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Because I think women generally speaking, not to say, by the way, when I say these things, I'm speaking in generalities.
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Sure, there's that one guy, a girl shot her shot with, your boyfriend, you, you asked him out.
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I'm speaking 95, 97% of the time, the guy makes the first move.
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I know there's exceptions, but I'm speaking as a general principle, the majority of the time.
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Um, so there's this massive burden there that falls on men, but then you have the financial burden too.
02:34:26.720
But again, I'm just wondering, like, where is, what, if, if we can say men should, if we can say men should do X, Y, Z, men should pay for first dates, men should be providers, men should be protectors.
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What are we allowed to say that women should do?
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Me and my last relationship, where I was in this age gap relationship, um, our first date was, we met out at a bar, um, but we dated for like six months and, you know, I helped him, uh, move into his apartment when he first found an apartment.
02:35:12.240
Well, that, I don't know if that falls under the, you, you helped him.
02:35:15.780
That's like a good thing to do, I think, across the board.
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But I'm looking specifically what women should do that, like a traditional gender role that would really only fall on to, like, what are the expectations on women?
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And the relationship I was in was very, you know, he was a big, strong man.
02:35:40.220
Um, and I also wanted to be as helpful as I could because as soon as I bowed down to him, um, anything that I could do to make him happy made me happy to be able to do for him.
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So, at a certain point, I, you know, he was a, um, superintendent for construction sites.
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Uh, at one point, uh, at one point, he kind of fell financially not so great, so we stopped going on as many dates.
02:36:13.420
I would do his meal prepping for him every single week because when he would do it, when he would do it, he wouldn't put any flavor in the food.
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And I was like, no, my man deserves a tasty meal for breakfast, lunch, and dinner.
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And I would still go to work and come home and, you know, give him massages and, you know, do the things that he enjoyed with him.
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Um, and, you know, I, I really enjoyed being able to do that for him.
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And, and I think that that balance ended up being really nice because he was chivalrous.
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Once we weren't together anymore, I missed the level of protection that I felt like I had within that relationship.
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And I missed the level of submission I was able to give to him.
02:37:00.300
I feel like it definitely takes a specific kind of man to, like, have a woman submit to.
02:37:06.640
Like, you can't just be any, you can't just be like, oh, you know, not protective, not secure.
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Like, a woman's always feeling insecure or, like, whatever.
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The man's not this powerful leader or whatever.
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You're not going to want to lead, you're not going to want to follow behind him.
02:37:27.600
You shouldn't be in a relationship with that guy in the first place, though.
02:37:31.520
Sometimes, though, it's like you don't really know a person until you get to know them.
02:37:36.240
I mean, he had Christian values right off the bat and he would, you know, speak on religion.
02:37:40.840
He would preach as if he was trying to be a leader consistently.
02:37:46.280
No, I, um, he did encourage me to do OnlyFans because I had started doing social media for about a year at that time.
02:37:52.860
But he was a Christian man who encouraged you to do OnlyFans?
02:37:55.100
He also had a coke addiction and was an alcoholic.
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But like I said, he was in the military, he was six feet tall, he was built, he had, he had, you know, built this life for himself.
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And, you know, I did not like doing coke, but I submitted to my man and allowed him to be who he was.
02:38:17.260
Many modern women influenced by feminism do not deserve chivalry from men.
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This doesn't mean they deserve to be harmed in any way, but they have to earn it instead of demanding it.
02:38:36.480
Yeah, it doesn't mean, like, if you're a feminist or modern woman that you should be, like, abused.
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You should still be treated kindly and respectfully.
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But if you start demanding traditional treatment from men, you ought to be a traditional woman to some degree.
02:38:55.260
If she paid for the first date, I'd feel weird, man.
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Like, I probably ordered knowing I was going to pay.
02:39:08.220
I'm not making the argument that the woman should pay for the first date.
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I mean, I would, I guess it depends on the circumstances.
02:39:16.220
Like, technically, they like to throw out whoever asks should pay.
02:39:27.080
Chair 3, these roles and mating rituals you talk about worked back in the day when women were ladies and acted as such.
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Unlike today, when many modern women are influenced by feminism and do not.
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Just finishing off on Cygnus Cross, his statement.
02:39:46.260
But I think if you're a modern woman, I think your expectation should be...
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If you're going to be a feminist modern woman, you should want equality in all dimensions and all realms.
02:40:02.140
Are we talking first date or throughout the relationship?
02:40:10.600
Now, look, I understand that even feminist, liberal, progressive, modern women probably still want or enjoy men.
02:40:26.260
My last assistant was a radical feminist, and she just wanted a twink boyfriend that she could call her girlfriend.
02:40:35.360
I go to these protests, there's a lot of, like, twink guys where the girl is kind of the boss.
02:40:43.160
But, you know, I think that there are a lot of...
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There are some feminist women who are like, you know what, we're doing 50-50.
02:40:51.320
At least they're consistent in their worldview or whatever.
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But, like, I think a lot of women still want the perks.
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You want the benefits of historical traditional gender roles.
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You want men to be protectors and providers and leaders and pay for dates.
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If you're a modern woman, hey, you know what, not my thing, but whatever.
02:41:24.760
But you shouldn't have these traditional expectations on men.
02:41:35.100
Brian, actually, to your point, though, and maybe the chat will get mad if people are going
02:41:39.500
to fact-check me, but, you know, really ancestrally, like, in the hunters and gatherers' ages, you
02:41:45.000
know, we always kind of think, like, traditionally we think it's a patriarchy.
02:41:47.680
But actually, this is what they say, and, you know, we don't have really books, it's like
02:41:51.060
even before they were writing, is that actually the women were in charge because they did
02:41:55.120
have the power sexually, and they were actually the ones, like, in the hunter-gathering era
02:41:59.900
where they used, like, their sexual prowess for power because, like, they didn't even have
02:42:04.220
So, actually, women were in charge, they say, during the hunter-gathering era.
02:42:12.920
Yes, like, even often, this is what they say, you know, the chick can get mad.
02:42:16.060
You know, I think that might be, it could be, I don't know.
02:42:18.500
No, well, like, this is what they say, like, some of the...
02:42:20.880
Oh, that's what they say, well, it's probably...
02:42:22.120
Actually, it's probably BS, but, like, in the hunter-gatherers, and then, you know, then once they...
02:42:26.220
Oh, I'm saying once they got religious, that's where they had to make it, like, the Catholic
02:42:30.220
priests couldn't, they had to be abstinent because they were banging everybody's wife,
02:42:32.920
but before that, like, before they were even, like, into organized religion and stuff, that
02:42:37.240
the women actually had a lot of the power, and that women would actually solve conflicts
02:42:43.100
Well, and even in domestic, I mean, in traditional relationships, women have a lot of power.
02:42:47.280
Look it up, maybe try GBTA, but let's talk about the hunting, when we're hunter and gatherers,
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before we even had, like, an organized language.
02:42:53.460
I mean, I would imagine in hunter-gatherer days, it was a pretty strong patriarchy.
02:42:59.740
I'm pretty sure it was very solid patriarchy back in those, but I don't know.
02:43:07.660
And this is ancient philosophy, so, like, well, like I said, I could be wrong.
02:43:10.860
Maybe the men were just clubbing women over the head, but actually, they said that women
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were actually a lot more influential and had a lot more power.
02:43:16.620
Well, I think women have always, throughout all time, have had massive amounts of influence,
02:43:22.860
It was through, you know, typically more of a soft power.
02:43:26.200
Women have always had massive amounts of soft power.
02:43:30.300
Women have had massive influence throughout all of human history.
02:43:35.720
But I guess, like, it's like men need to provide, back to your point, men need to provide to
02:43:44.560
Men need to be, they need to be pure and strong and courageous and all these things.
02:43:59.040
Just to be clear, I no longer have the expectation that men need to be the provider.
02:44:05.280
Like, when I'm talking about chivalent, and I think some of this is semantics of how we
02:44:12.980
And I think there's something to, some would say psychologically, men like to be the hunters
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I don't know definitively if that's true or if that's just the way men have been socialized
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or if this is another kind of old school belief.
02:44:31.980
But it's one thing to me when you're in the pursuing mode of a way a man treats me.
02:44:37.400
I would always offer to pay on a date, but if it's a first or second date and a guy takes
02:44:49.700
And I'm not even going to say it's not totally hypocritical.
02:44:53.700
You said you would give up, like, if you had to be submissive and obedient to your husband
02:45:05.080
But so you're enjoying, like, the additional perks.
02:45:06.820
50-50, I mean, I have a very egalitarian marriage.
02:45:17.800
You know, we had a first marriage with other spouses that maybe were more traditional.
02:45:21.660
But we have, like, if we ever got divorced, what we came in with, we go out with.
02:45:27.480
Like, I'm not looking for my husband to support me financially.
02:45:30.780
But I am looking for him to, like, make me feel like a woman and open the door on a date.
02:45:35.880
But, okay, of the first few dates, he paid for the first few dates, right?
02:45:42.540
Like, how soon, after how many dates did things equalize?
02:45:54.540
Yeah, it's 10 years in, and I just started paying for dinner.
02:46:07.160
Why should men then, you know, if you want a 50-50 relationship, why aren't women contributing
02:46:17.460
Well, I feel that I am contributing except for cooking.
02:46:21.560
But you still wanted, hmm, let me do these, like...
02:46:26.040
I wanted to be pursued and to feel that I was valuable enough to be pursued, even though
02:46:32.260
some people would maybe not pursue me because I went on too many dates.
02:46:36.860
I mean, I actually think my husband's very old school, very traditional.
02:46:48.920
Like, we are not the most likely match that you would...
02:46:52.240
If you met us in public, I'm not sure you would put us together.
02:47:02.160
Well, it's funny that you say that because that's the issue with modern dating is that
02:47:05.760
we have an asymmetrical problem when you go on the dating apps that women are getting
02:47:11.660
So, it makes it a lot more challenging when a woman has, you know, the pick of the litter
02:47:18.360
So, and it's also made it very challenging for the guy to...
02:47:21.940
I think they said that the lowest amount of men ever in recorded history are saying that
02:47:27.700
Like, the amount of people that are having sex is the lowest they've ever been.
02:47:32.680
But that's because the women are hogging it all up, you know what I mean?
02:47:35.400
They're hogging all the guys that are actually, like, high-value males, you know?
02:47:38.960
Like, only certain guys are banging all the chicks.
02:47:43.520
It's a very weird thing where, like, if a man doesn't...
02:47:52.140
That's a real thing where girls want to 6'6", 6.
02:47:54.440
You've got to have a 6, 6 figures, 6 feet tall, and 6...
02:47:59.840
Women put on the requirement, no, I'm not going to date a guy under 6 foot.
02:48:03.240
So, think about how many people that have swiped left on their potential soulmate all
02:48:10.100
So, that's what's wrong with society is that...
02:48:18.820
Like, if you're going to be an ugly man, what do you have to have, you know, to compensate?
02:48:22.960
You know, that's the only time you ever see, like, a good-looking woman with an ugly guy.
02:48:36.880
And you're trying to hit up a girl that's getting messages from thousands.
02:48:56.400
So, I had a little bit of taste when I was, like, 18, 19, 20.
02:49:09.000
But I had a little bit of a taste before, like, you know, the rampant proliferation of smartphones and social media.
02:49:15.960
Granted, I think I was a senior in high school when MySpace just came out, then Facebook.
02:49:25.240
But now, I mean, back, and probably even before I was dating, you know, it was kind of the norm that people...
02:49:34.220
My understanding was, it was kind of the norm that people would kind of date one person at a time.
02:49:41.660
Because I don't think people were meeting as many people as they were.
02:49:50.300
But it's, like, it would be kind of weird to be, like, dating all these different...
02:49:56.220
Look, to be fair, Sex and the City came out in, like, the late 90s, and them chicks were...
02:50:01.360
I don't know if that was, like, an accurate, mapped-on representation of NYC dating in the 90s or whatever.
02:50:08.440
Look, I'm not saying, like, people were super pious in the 90s and 2000s.
02:50:12.440
Like, people were hooking up, doing all that stuff.
02:50:14.720
In fact, I think people were having more sex in the 90s than they are now.
02:50:20.560
It tended to be more so, like, you meet somebody, you give it a chance.
02:50:24.500
If it works out great, if it doesn't, next person.
02:50:33.640
Well, the internet did ruin it, because, like, when Facebook went from where you had to have
02:50:37.160
a college account to where anybody could have an account...
02:50:39.480
You know, going back to what I'm saying, Facebook, when...
02:50:42.300
Do you remember when it used to be you only had to have a college account?
02:50:45.180
So, once they changed it to where everybody could get on Facebook, that was a huge thing,
02:50:48.920
and all of a sudden, divorce rate spiked, because all of a sudden, people could connect with
02:50:56.180
So, divorce just skyrocketed when Facebook first opened up to the public.
02:51:01.220
You know, my mom, actually, before she asked for a divorce, my dad sent her to Key West
02:51:08.800
Well, she came back, asked for a divorce, and then started dating her high school boyfriend,
02:51:18.760
No, the digital dating, I think, is really bad for connection.
02:51:24.100
But, yeah, to my point, though, I think, look, maybe in the 2000s or, you know, prior to Instagram,
02:51:30.500
prior to dating apps, you know, maybe these dating traditions made a bit more sense.
02:51:37.060
And, again, I think most women, when they go on a date, you know, I'm not sure exactly
02:51:42.360
where their level of interest necessarily lies.
02:51:45.180
But I think there was a study done on these things called foodie calls, where instead
02:51:49.580
of foodie calls, foodie calls, something like 33% of women have admitted in the past six
02:51:56.260
months or a year to have done a foodie call where they went on a date with a guy, but they
02:52:05.060
Okay, Brian, what you were saying, I just want to be nice, because at first I'm kind
02:52:08.920
of like, Brian, you know, I don't know if chivalry is that big of a deal.
02:52:11.740
Like, I can see how there is not the female version of it.
02:52:14.640
But, like, you know, opening a door just seems like almost just being polite.
02:52:18.440
There are women that are so sick, but there's actually a thing called being a hobo-sexual.
02:52:24.360
You're homeless, and they'll date you for a house.
02:52:28.280
If you're a homosexual or a foodie call, fuck you.
02:52:33.700
I mean, I'm not trying to just go on my own, you know, soapbox right now, but that is so
02:52:42.220
If they're actually just going out and you need just to get a free dinner, that pisses
02:52:46.900
And that's why you should always go to somewhere that's like, you know, casual, not expensive.
02:52:52.960
Like, if women are that sick that they have no interest whatsoever with a guy, that they
02:52:56.780
just want to get a triple dipper at Chili's, no.
02:53:01.120
That's like, that to me, I just, that's so manipulative.
02:53:07.280
I don't want to say that this is like every single time.
02:53:10.220
I think that this is more unlikely, uh, than, than it is to actually be the case.
02:53:16.320
Like, but it does happen or there's girls that do say that they're doing foodie calls
02:53:22.920
I've never heard one person I know admit to doing that.
02:53:29.640
Well, I know there's girls online that have posted that where like, I've been on five free
02:53:38.780
I think sometimes women, even if it's not like a conscious foodie call, I think sometimes
02:53:44.340
women will go on a date with a guy where there's like really, really low levels of interest
02:53:48.900
and they're like, I mean, look, you're giving the guy the shot, I guess.
02:53:52.140
But I think sometimes you women will just like, you'll just go on a date and it's not, you're
02:53:57.980
not necessarily doing it for free food, but maybe sometimes you're bored.
02:54:05.500
I think it got like maybe somewhere between five and eight million views of me talking
02:54:11.100
about, you know, the question was, what do you do when you're not enjoying a date?
02:54:16.720
And my biggest tactic at the time was to pretend like the date was going great and that I was
02:54:23.340
enjoying myself and then to afterwards, just not go on another date with them and not talk
02:54:33.960
But I mean, and this would just be a first date.
02:54:37.920
But for me, um, at the age of 19, when I was doing something like that, 19 to 21, um, I
02:54:45.460
was partially like really, uh, it was hard for me to communicate how I felt to people.
02:54:51.800
Um, and I was also really scared of upsetting people.
02:54:55.180
So I was doing it more so to keep peace, but the reaction that I got was that I was doing
02:55:00.760
the foodie kind of thing and that I was being mean to them.
02:55:04.320
Um, but my, you know, trying to make the date feel as good as possible was me trying to
02:55:09.540
put in as much effort as I could and be as kind as I could, even though, you know, cause
02:55:13.940
sitting at a date and being like, you know, I'm really not enjoying this.
02:55:17.500
That felt like that would be a slap in the face to the guy.
02:55:23.120
Just because the guy pays for dinner, you're not, you don't owe him continuity of like anything.
02:55:29.620
You don't like, it's fine to go on a date with somebody and it's not a good match.
02:55:35.280
I mean, I would, I think it's actually the polite thing to do, you know, you go on the
02:55:39.680
date within the first five minutes, you're not really feeling it.
02:55:42.560
Um, I mean, unless he's being really weird or whatever, I think it's okay to just have
02:55:45.900
a pleasant, stay there and have a pleasant convo.
02:55:50.560
Like, I feel like I'm a very personable person.
02:55:52.480
But really quick, just to, I guess, finish off on the chivalry conversation.
02:55:55.960
I just think if we expect men to act like gentlemen, I think we should also encourage women
02:56:01.920
to embody the qualities, uh, that, that inspire that behavior in the first place.
02:56:11.300
I don't think there, look, I just think there's a certain threshold of like women who don't,
02:56:20.320
They don't deserve it, but even a lot of strumpets.
02:56:25.440
So that's the polite term, I guess they still are going to get the treatment.
02:56:29.560
Like a lot of, there's a lot of guys who are simps who are still going to, okay, she's
02:56:33.120
a former prostitute, whatever she's, she's, uh, well, some guys like that too, because
02:56:45.740
You're like a porn star and they probably want to like make you not do it anymore.
02:56:50.540
Like Captain Rescue Save-A-Ho or Captain Save-A-Ho?
02:56:57.380
See, look, you're smiling because you know what the Captain Save-A-Ho is.
02:57:01.780
Because you've said a lot about like, how should modern, modern, you've said how to like,
02:57:09.900
And I feel like, you know, I'm a modern woman who has been kind of out of the dating field
02:57:14.760
I make quite a bit of money and I do want to find a partner that I can submit to.
02:57:20.340
But I also, you know, when I make, you know, five times a man's yearly salary in a month,
02:57:26.840
like what can I do to still be a feminine woman and get the treatment I want from a man
02:57:32.580
but not be using a man because I have no problem paying for dates.
02:57:35.580
I have no, especially when it comes to, I live a certain lifestyle and I want to keep
02:57:40.120
living that lifestyle and if a man can't provide that, I want him to live in that lifestyle
02:57:44.620
But how do I find a man who's not going to feel threatened by that and not be masculine
02:57:51.960
This, this idea that men, like if you out earn a man, like he's going to be intimidated
02:57:57.120
I don't think that, it's the, men aren't intimidated.
02:58:01.340
Well, I don't think men are intimidated period by women.
02:58:03.780
Uh, I don't even think they have like an objection or quarrel with a woman who makes money.
02:58:08.860
I think it's the other characteristic and characteristics and attributes that tend to come along with
02:58:17.500
Uh, one, she's probably more feminist, probably more liberal, probably has prioritizes career
02:58:22.540
over some other things, but specifically with you, you're, you're a sex worker.
02:58:26.220
Uh, I mean, like, I think it's good that you're going to, or at least you say you want to do
02:58:32.900
the, like, you want to be more traditionally feminine and like submissive and all that sort
02:58:37.800
But it's kind of like, it's kind of like, there's just a missing piece there and the missing
02:58:45.340
piece is you've, in terms of like an overall assessment of you as like falling into being
02:58:52.360
a more traditional woman, you can't even enter into that category because you're a sex worker.
02:58:57.080
I have one question when you call me a sex worker, cause I have no problem being a sex
02:59:13.400
Because my audience is a bit more conservative, are you like pandering right now?
02:59:19.100
I mean, like I said, my last boyfriend was a very conservative person and I do have very
02:59:28.800
Now, when you call me, but when you say like sex worker, um, like say somebody.
02:59:34.640
But when someone's like in a movie and they're a movie star and they do sex scenes, does that
02:59:46.500
So like someone who's in a movie will be topless and they're showing just as much as I am.
02:59:53.720
So I have heard at least from men that they're more okay with what I do because I'm not having
03:00:00.940
So, I mean, I would, I would say that there's levels to sex work.
03:00:05.500
So like you're a sex worker, but they're, you know, like, well, you're taking tasteful
03:00:13.680
lingerie photos and then that extends all the way to like a prostitute who does like gang
03:00:21.120
bangs and like illegal illicit acts with, that are like really kind of disgusting.
03:00:28.860
Um, there's levels to that shit, you know, but at the end of the day, you're on OnlyFans.
03:00:52.100
You have a, you have a management who types to your, like some dude in Singapore or maybe.
03:00:58.340
Is that, is that what they, do they get higher virtual assistants?
03:01:04.760
A lot of these, uh, a lot of these OnlyFans girls, you know, the, uh, the way they make
03:01:10.600
a lot of their money is having an engagement with their, their guys.
03:01:14.220
So they'll, and they'll send messages, but it's not always them.
03:01:18.540
A lot of these girls, especially the, the big girls, they have not big, like fat, like the,
03:01:25.620
Um, they will have like, maybe even they're having AI do it at this point, but they'll
03:01:31.460
have a person in fucking Bangladesh or Vietnam or India, some guy who 24 seven, they have
03:01:37.440
somebody chatting, trying to, trying to siphon money from these guys because these guys will
03:01:43.140
And if they're talking, they think they're talking to the girl and some of these guys
03:01:50.480
Usually it's like the cuck boyfriend will be like doing gay.
03:01:59.160
That's it's also forcing the customers into being unconsentingly gay because they're,
03:02:05.340
yeah, they're like messaging a guy and jacking it to a guy.
03:02:10.000
They're talking to a dude, like sexting with the dudes.
03:02:15.220
I will say for myself, you know, I do have, you know, like 7,500 people following me right
03:02:21.560
I have like intro messages set up and certain things that you can set up through OnlyFans
03:02:31.380
So in order for me to really put time and effort into talking to someone, I need to
03:02:35.580
know that they're spending money and they're serious.
03:02:37.440
And there's a lot of men who just want to see my boobs.
03:02:39.740
So with OnlyFans, it's very easy to set up a way where you can send people initial messages
03:02:45.520
And if they engage with that, then it's easier to then be like, okay, I'm going to communicate
03:02:51.540
with this person who's going to be a money whale for me or whatever.
03:03:00.780
No, even I just did a live stream the other night.
03:03:03.480
And, you know, like I have conversations with them on Instagram.
03:03:12.580
By the way, even if you would have to acknowledge a girl who does have a, as I call them, typers
03:03:17.920
or chatters, even if she has one, she's not going to admit she has one.
03:03:34.660
I have 50 chatting agencies in my DMs every single day being like, I can make you so much
03:03:42.000
I've gone to influencer events where the whole influencer event is just set up so that management
03:03:46.780
teams can get women from these events and make money off of them and take obscene amounts
03:03:52.240
And then they romance scam a lot of these mentally ill men.
03:03:57.360
But yeah, a lot of these OF girls are like basically duping these men into thinking there's
03:04:02.000
And they find out they have a husband or something.
03:04:03.540
Most of these OF girls, by the way, they have boyfriends.
03:04:09.520
But so the quarrel with OnlyFans, I get that you do solo content, you're not getting like
03:04:15.880
gangbanged or you're not on like blacked or whatever.
03:04:19.720
You know, where you're like sitting on the couch and it's like seven black dudes or whatever
03:04:29.160
Some guys might be okay with your level of it, but I would take it to this other level
03:04:34.460
of, well, okay, you're inducing these men into lust.
03:04:38.820
I'm not even approaching this from like a religious perspective.
03:04:46.580
You're like, and it's actually in some ways the fact that you, at least you allege or claim
03:04:51.880
that you don't have an agency, it's actually worse.
03:04:54.560
My girlfriend is fucking like sexting with these dudes in her OFs.
03:05:00.920
It's actually worse from a, like a relationship perspective that you're, you're the one who's
03:05:07.180
My girlfriend's like getting random dudes off and like sending them stuff.
03:05:11.780
I think a lot of men don't want this at all in a relationship, although I'm sure your DMs
03:05:17.240
I'm sure I'm not saying, I just don't answer the DMs because like we talked about at the
03:05:20.920
beginning, like how many of these, you know, high profile men that reach out to me?
03:05:26.020
You know, I do want some, and that's why I choose to be single.
03:05:31.060
And so I, I choose to be single cause I'd rather have my life like that than whatever.
03:05:39.260
I just asked like what, what, you know, how I should be dating, how, like even when it
03:05:43.120
comes to the first couple of dates, I make so much money.
03:05:46.000
Should I be offering when I know that I want to submit to a man or, you know, cause I don't
03:05:50.820
want the twink boyfriend that I call my girlfriend.
03:05:52.800
I mean, ultimately I think, uh, I think for you, um, do I have to stop doing what I'm
03:06:00.320
doing to be able to find a relationship or is it over?
03:06:05.600
If, if he wants to go 50, 50, whatever, go 50, 50.
03:06:08.400
If I'm assuming though, most dates, even for you, the guy's still going to pay.
03:06:13.880
Well, the conversation I'm having here is not, I'm speaking, um, I'm looking at it more bird's
03:06:23.620
I'm looking at it as like, I view this, I'm looking at it and like, that's fucking bullshit.
03:06:30.400
But I, are men paying for first dates for modern non-trad women all the time?
03:06:39.800
They even, and by the way, when I say women who are like porn stars or who are not ladies,
03:06:44.960
when I say they don't deserve it, what I say doesn't matter.
03:06:48.540
Because you, you could have, you could have shot a porno yesterday.
03:06:58.720
You can find some simper sucker who will pay for your date tonight.
03:07:03.020
You can find a simper sucker who will pay for any date.
03:07:06.760
So there's no dispute that she can find a man who will pay for dates.
03:07:10.520
I'm just looking at it from an outside perspective, fly on the wall.
03:07:22.580
Final couple of things here on the chivalry thing, then I'm going to move it on to a different
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I think that women should embody those traditional qualities if you want to inspire that behavior
03:07:49.900
Men are supposed to be this perfect picture of a male, a knight in shining armor.
03:08:03.440
But again, just what is the expectation on women?
03:08:15.460
And when we talk about men getting discarded or how hard it is for them to date, if a woman
03:08:19.960
doesn't look hot, she's treated completely differently throughout her life.
03:08:27.060
I think women are way harsher when it comes to looks than men are.
03:08:34.960
Well, perhaps it's the case that women are a bit more forgiving on this front.
03:08:45.060
However, if you look at dating apps, for example, or if you look at women's assessments of male
03:08:57.980
Like, we're looking at millions and millions of users.
03:09:00.480
Women will rank, like, 80% of men as physically unattractive, whereas men will, like, do a
03:09:07.660
more equal distribution in terms of who they will categorize...
03:09:10.760
In terms of women, who they will categorize as attractive.
03:09:13.960
And you might say, well, okay, well, women are more invested in making themselves look
03:09:21.480
But, I mean, I would say that women are really harsh judges of male attractiveness.
03:09:27.960
Actually, in addition to that, though, which compounds the situation, while women are harsh
03:09:33.420
judges of male attractiveness, they're very generous judges of female attractiveness and
03:09:45.080
Like, for example, they'll say Lizzo's beautiful.
03:09:47.000
But if you tell a woman she looks like Lizzo, they'll be offended.
03:09:49.840
You'll do this sort of thing where, oh my God, you look at a girl's Instagram comments
03:09:59.320
And it could be like, I'm not trying to be mean, but it could be like, it could be an
03:10:11.260
And like men don't really, men don't really do that.
03:10:14.160
My comment section is straight up Indian men going, show Bob's open, like, please send
03:10:27.200
If I could pull up like, you know, like an average college girl's Instagram profile.
03:10:33.300
I've seen, I pull up an average college girl's Instagram profile, like 20, 10 of the compliments,
03:10:40.500
Oh my God, you're beautiful, slay, blah, blah, blah, all this shit, right?
03:10:49.660
That's like what women say to each other, young girls.
03:10:52.160
To what you said about the dating apps with, you know, like hot guys being in that 20%,
03:10:56.020
getting all the women, um, dating apps have been made incredibly unfair for most men.
03:11:01.940
If you're not paying the dating app, you're not going to be getting the service you want.
03:11:07.480
And the dating apps have made it that way so that more men will pay for the premium so
03:11:12.360
that they can send their super likes and they can do this.
03:11:15.060
And you know, it's not just the women only choosing a certain demographic of men, but
03:11:20.140
the actual apps themselves trying to, Tinder used to be free.
03:11:26.740
I need to finish up this conversation on Chivalry and then time permitting later on,
03:11:33.860
Uh, I want to open it up to the rest of the panel because it's mostly been you two.
03:11:44.320
We, uh, if any of the other women you've heard this discussion about, you know, gender roles
03:11:49.300
and chivalry, I guess my final thing is on this and I'll open it up to any other women
03:11:53.780
who want to weigh in is that I think I have responsibility in a relationship.
03:12:00.300
I need to have authority then, but women, again, this women want leaders.
03:12:11.100
Part of the bargain, I believe is if you want me to be a provider and a protector and a leader,
03:12:20.460
Women don't want to allow for that sort of authority to exist.
03:12:24.940
Um, you said, no, like, let me ask you a question in your marriage.
03:12:41.100
I think it depends on the situation, but my husband does not have authority.
03:12:44.940
So what if there's a stalemate who gets final say in some decision?
03:12:54.680
But Brian, to be fair, Colette does seem like a type, oh, she does seem like a type A woman though, right?
03:13:02.100
I mean, so I could just see that she does seem a little more, you know.
03:13:07.340
Well, more, you know, not that you're masculine at all, but I don't know how else to describe it,
03:13:10.760
but you know, just a little more type A, a little more aggressive.
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Like, it seems like you can handle yourself more, um, just because I guess you are a psychiatrist.
03:13:18.340
So, you know, that kind of makes you a leader because you have to lead couples.
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So it's like, you know, I feel like you're like, I don't know, lack of a better word, a little more masculine, even though you're not masculine.
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I think I'm assertive, but I would tell you, and this might surprise you, that I do still really value being feminine.
03:13:35.340
But you definitely seem feminine, so I'm not trying to say you seem trans or anything like that.
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I am vocal, I am vocal, but I do want to have, I want to make my husband happy too.
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I'm not looking for it to be my way or the highway.
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I'm not looking for him to provide for me or any of those things.
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But when I hear words like submissive and authority, those for me make me cringe a little.
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I'm not going to, nobody is going to be the authority of me at 52.
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Now, I will say I was more traditional and submissive when I was younger, but I think
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I don't, my daughters in their 20s are not that way at all, but they're not looking for
03:14:21.880
They want an equal relationship where they feel respected and valued and seen and heard.
03:14:28.040
And I don't think they're looking for like a traditional man to be the leader.
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They just want like a good dude is going to treat them well.
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So yeah, and I think that is, you know, a simple way of putting it, but I want you
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to comment that Filipina, cause you just got out of that relationship.
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So what, why, why did y'all get out of that relationship?
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I'll, I'll have her answer your question, but really quick before I've heard her jump
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in, you said it's cringe, like obey submissive.
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I don't think that's cringe for a woman to be submissive.
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The word submissive to me, that, that makes me feel like I'm losing my power.
03:15:12.840
I think the word submissive is very misunderstood.
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I mean, it means to submit and that's not something that at this stage of my life I am interested
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in, but I, nor do I want my husband to submit to me.
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We're equal partners coming to the table, making decisions.
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One, you said for the first few months of dating, he paid for all the dates.
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The entailment there is my husband has to be willing to die.
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The least then I can get as a man, if I have to be willing to risk my life and die for a woman,
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the least she can do is obey and be submissive.
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I think you should work for a church or something.
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I think even secular relationships, the woman should be submissive.
03:16:37.520
Can we have a patio, and if somebody breaks in, we run out the back door together?
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Should your boyfriend or husband be willing to take a bullet for you?
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I say no just because that's not a hard question.
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Wait, let's go around the table starting with you.
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So your question is should they be willing or I just expect them to take a bullet for me?
03:17:09.880
Well, no, because I feel like there's their perspective and then my...
03:17:14.880
Okay, well, in a scenario where one person has to take the bullet, do you take the bullet or should the husband, boyfriend...
03:17:22.720
Can we just go matrix on them and just do some...
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I've never thought about that answer or question before.
03:17:32.500
Like, I guess, like, in that scenario, I don't have an answer for you.
03:17:40.240
Somebody shot at you guys and instead of your husband, like, Alex is my wife.
03:17:45.100
It's like if he used me as a human, you guys are telling me, like, put me in front of me.
03:17:55.240
Well, in your scenario, it's not necessarily they got shot, they're protecting me, right?
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But instead of protecting you, he scampered away out of fear.
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I mean, if he's scampered away, that's not the kind of man I'm going to be attracted to.
03:18:17.320
He's pushing me in front or he's just running away.
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You can either answer the original bullet question.
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Or, like, would you lose attraction or whatever?
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If I'm getting shot, I would rather die because if a man takes a bullet for me,
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Someone's breaking into your house and you want your man to protect you.
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If I'm stupid where I'm not going to run and he runs, that's on me.
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What about you're getting jumped on the street?
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I have a child, so I would hope that maybe he would go take the bullet.
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Yes, I would want that, but I would also take a bullet for him.
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Right, but in this scenario, only one person can take the bullet.
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Now we're kind of getting to the meat and bones here.
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So women will even say, you know, I'm kind of traditional or less traditional.
03:19:50.540
But when it comes to protection, like, if, for example, if my girlfriend runs away scared
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at something, my, like, attraction towards her doesn't diminish.
03:20:02.180
Like, cowardice in women is not going to really be, like, there's, you can be a coward in other
03:20:11.560
That would be cowardice that might change your assessment of your partner.
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But, like, cowardice in terms of, like, physical violent threat, I'm never going to look at
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a girl and she screams, ah, and she freaks out.
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If you're with your boyfriend and he cowers and he screams and he's a bitch in some physical
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confrontation, violent confrontation, whatever, maybe he sees a spider and he screams.
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You're like, damn, pussy dried up forever from that shit.
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Wait, that's a fact, and I didn't plan this, babe.
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Come here real quick, and she's going to have to make her cameo, babe.
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Tell them the story that just happened that I'm referencing and I have not told you anything
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that just happened, and how did I react and how did you react?
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We went to the ice facility in Chicago to see if it was actually crazy or not, and there
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was this black guy that did look a little sketchy.
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And the guy had said a bunch of inflammatory stuff about Charlie Kirk.
03:21:18.680
Yes, and he had reached in his pocket, and I got scared and took a step back, and Alex
03:21:25.780
I mean, I didn't even post that part, but he's like fiddling around, and he was definitely
03:21:33.260
I had noticed that, and he's like, oh, don't worry.
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As soon as he started fiddling around, because him and I are arguing, and all of a sudden
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he reaches in her thing, and you're going to think it's fake.
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He reaches in like this, and then she starts scampering away.
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I get closer to the guy, because I think if he's about to pull a gun, I'm about to just
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And so I stayed right there in this situation, and she ran away, and he's like, oh, you don't
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So, I mean, I do feel like in that situation, yeah, I would have taken a bullet.
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I thought that Alex was talking about the cockroach thing, so I'm terrified
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and he always, he, like, tells someone, no problem, but I, like, want to start crying.
03:22:09.340
That's why I was like, wait, the cockroach thing.
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But to that point, I guess to finish off there is, when we're making assessments of partners,
03:22:20.580
like a woman who gets scared or fearful in this sort of situation really isn't going
03:22:26.520
to have some sort of negative consequence or negative impact on the relationship, but a woman
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witnesses her boyfriend or husband be a coward in this situation, it's, like, devastating.
03:22:40.640
I've heard stories, like, a girl sees her boyfriend get beat up, and, I mean, it depends
03:22:44.820
on the circumstances, but, like, he's just, I don't know, gets his shit rocked, and it's
03:22:49.280
like she loses attraction for him, whether consciously or subconsciously.
03:22:53.720
And I guess what I'm trying to say here is that there is, then, an expectation here.
03:22:59.000
Well, actually, one more question to really nail the point home.
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Should the man walk closer, if you're walking along a sidewalk, should he walk closer to
03:23:21.240
I didn't even know it was a thing until it was pointed out to me, and yes, because it
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does physically make, I don't have a preference, but I have noticed most men do have that preference,
03:23:30.100
and it makes them feel more confident about going out.
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Like, they'll put you on the, I have been on the outside of the sidewalk, and they have
03:23:37.020
been like, you need to switch, and I was like, I do.
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And then, because I don't think that way, but men, they, and that's what I was alluding
03:23:43.660
to, is that a lot of times, like, a man running away from a bullet, to me, that comments on
03:23:51.580
I would say I prefer a man to have me on the inside.
03:23:55.300
When I'm with a man, I want to turn my brain off, so if they're on the other side, they
03:24:06.520
I also think this applies to, like, children, too.
03:24:09.080
Like, even whenever I'm just out with my child, I always put her on the inside, so I
03:24:20.500
Yeah, whoever the protector is, like, that's who should be on the outside.
03:24:27.540
So what's so interesting to me is you have an issue with submissive obey, but a lot of
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these things, we just sort of take them for granted.
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The bullet thing, the guy running away thing, the sidewalk rule thing.
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The ultimate manifestation of a man protecting you is to die for you.
03:24:46.260
Women expect men to, I know it's rare, but the expectation is there, whether consciously
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You want men to fucking give their life and die for you.
03:25:02.260
If I have to fucking die for you, you better fucking be, you better obey, you better be
03:25:08.020
submissive, fucking, you can't nag me, you can't nag me, you can't, shit, I don't know.
03:25:15.480
No, but the goal is just to find a man that I feel like I can listen to him and I can trust,
03:25:21.980
If that's the man you pick, you should listen to him.
03:25:27.160
Like, so if he disagrees with what you want to do in your life, you should obey that?
03:25:35.820
Is it a man's duty to give his wife everything that she wants?
03:25:44.300
No, but I do think it's a woman's duty to pick a man that she will be happy with.
03:25:48.960
Because ultimately the woman gets to decide whether or not to be in a relationship.
03:25:52.500
So if you're picking a man and he has a lot of values that don't align with you, why did
03:25:59.740
No, but she should pick a man that supports how she feels.
03:26:03.300
You know, like I'm not going to submit to a man whose views I do not align with.
03:26:15.760
I don't like the language obedience in a marriage, in a relationship.
03:26:17.920
Well, you guys need to rewire your biology and start being attracted to cowardice in men
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and start being attracted to men who would never protect you.
03:26:32.080
I want my woman to walk closer to the road so when a fucking, I don't know, a Ford Bronco
03:26:39.160
comes barreling down the fucking street, she can be my meat shield, throw her into the
03:26:45.220
fucking car, she can be my meat shield, and I get to survive, and I then get to-
03:26:50.500
Most of these women, by the way, when their boyfriend dies from a Ford Bronco, they're
03:26:57.900
I mean, these are always your boyfriends, though.
03:26:59.780
You're on Tinder secretly, you're on Tinder low-key, like this.
03:27:03.680
You're at the fucking funeral, you're downloading Hinge, they're on their fucking phones, you're
03:27:12.180
Okay, but if your girlfriend's on the outside of the sidewalk, does she have to obey you?
03:27:15.540
If she's the meat shield, does she have to obey you?
03:27:22.700
I was like, what do you think about men who are not dating women who do that innately?
03:27:27.280
Because there are a lot of men who are like, I'm not dating, and in my circles we call
03:27:43.740
Yeah, I know what, it sounds like a cult kind of.
03:27:47.040
Lord of the Rings here, so get me some hobbits.
03:27:49.320
My point being is that a lot of men do that for women they are not romantically invested
03:27:53.660
with, because it's just something culturally that a lot of them are taught at a very young
03:28:01.080
Why are women being held accountable for something that you're teaching men when they're young?
03:28:12.500
I understand that there is this sort of societal expectation that men do these acts even for
03:28:22.920
This idea, and maybe Alex might disagree with me on this, like I personally think, maybe this
03:28:29.920
If you're out with your girlfriend or your wife and some shit's going down, and you see
03:28:38.580
a woman over there being harassed by some homeless dude on the subway, me personally, I got to
03:28:49.920
And well, if your kids are around, I'm not going to go be the hero and go get fucking shanked
03:28:57.120
by this homeless guy who it means nothing to him.
03:28:59.960
I'm going to extract myself, my wife, and my kids from the situation.
03:29:04.120
I'm going to protect those people who are important to me.
03:29:08.300
But maybe someone who doesn't have as much of that kind of responsibility, they might try
03:29:17.040
But Brian, do you think men and women are equal?
03:29:26.840
I was talking about the transgender bathroom bill.
03:29:28.960
And the only reason I bring it up is not even to get political, because it's an asymmetrical
03:29:32.000
problem, is that it's only men going into women's spaces, because a man doesn't care
03:29:36.140
if a twink girl that's dressed like a guy comes in our space.
03:29:42.940
But a guy in a girl's dress does make them feel uncomfortable.
03:29:57.500
I mean, there's so much violence against women.
03:30:15.860
In many indigenous tribes in olden days, the men protected, built, and hunted.
03:30:21.660
The women maintained the camps, cared for the children, and cooked the food.
03:30:31.840
Well, that's kind of what I was saying, though, Pasty, is like, because the women stayed at
03:30:54.760
What is everyone's favorite Michael Jackson song?
03:31:00.180
I don't know how deep you guys are in conspiracies, but there's a documentary called Leaving Neverland,
03:31:03.920
and it was about this guy, Wade Robinson, and James Safechuck, who both said that they
03:31:08.400
And one thing I want to say, I'm a big Michael Jackson truther.
03:31:12.840
So, but Michael Jackson was investigated for 19 years, never convicted by the FBI, and
03:31:16.900
the guy that was in the documentary that said that he was molested by Michael Jackson
03:31:20.360
was the lead character witness, not once, but twice, defending Michael Jackson, saying
03:31:26.060
And I know you're going to be like, well, what kind of old guy sleeps with young kids?
03:31:30.300
He was, you know, became an adult at a very young age, and he did sleep in that room with
03:31:34.360
Macaulay Culkin and Corey Feldman, and both said that they were never sexually molested.
03:31:37.660
So, my point is, I don't think Michael Jackson was a pedophile, and I will take that semi-grade.
03:31:43.000
I actually did a report on Michael Jackson in, like, 7th grade and all that stuff, and
03:31:49.760
He spent millions of dollars helping kids in Africa, too.
03:31:54.040
I mean, they were just looking for money, these people.
03:31:59.060
I actually went to Neverland Ranch when I was a kid, and I met Michael, and he was
03:32:09.900
I'm not just saying this because I love Michael.
03:32:11.840
I think he's one of the greatest pop stars of all time.
03:32:14.960
And I actually was going to dress up as Michael Jackson to go to the No Kings protest and be
03:32:20.460
Now I should have, now hearing you guys laugh about it.
03:32:24.540
One of the guys that said that he was molested was a kid that, before they said they got
03:32:28.360
molested by him, said that Michael Jackson cured their cancer.
03:32:37.460
But they do say that Michael Jackson had this aura, Brian, that if you just touched
03:32:44.580
They said that this is what just normal people said, that Michael Jackson had a special aura
03:32:48.700
I do think there is something famous people have this aura.
03:32:54.640
Yeah, they say Michael Jackson could cure cancer with his aura.
03:32:57.960
I'm not saying it was like that, but you know what I mean?
03:33:08.760
And he was, I mean, I met him for 10 seconds, you know?
03:33:16.860
What's that Dave Chappelle joke where it's like, why didn't he molest me?
03:33:34.060
Share to smart, self-respectful men will avoid women like you like the plague.
03:33:39.840
However, many simps in the world will date and even marry you.
03:33:47.800
I know you want to respond to that, but if you guys ever watch the show,
03:33:50.060
My 600-lb Life, if you guys ever seen that show,
03:33:54.320
It doesn't matter how fat and disgusting they are.
03:33:58.320
And I'm not saying you guys are fat and disgusting,
03:33:59.880
but if those ugly gargoyles, yeah, there's always going to be somebody.
03:34:04.320
I don't understand how it's so hard to find a man.
03:34:09.940
whether there's a guy or girl, they always seem to have a significant other.
03:34:12.440
So it's like, if you really are trying to find a significant other,
03:34:17.100
I think it is obviously possible if they can do it.
03:34:19.820
Like we've talked about, I have so many conversations with my simps online
03:34:22.920
that I think that that is enough for me and I don't need to marry a simp.
03:34:30.660
Guys, Pacey George, I have the cell phone here and I still messed it up.
03:34:36.280
I stand by what I said, but chair three seems based.
03:35:05.040
Yeah, so everyone's entitled to their opinion and I know it's offensive to some people and
03:35:12.260
Well, waffling is like kind of changing your opinion.
03:35:16.240
Waffling, like maybe you're like kind of saying that you're only anti-OnlyFans, but then at
03:35:24.220
I started it because, to empower myself because my nudes had been doxxed online and so I-
03:35:31.280
But wait, real quick, I want to go back to you.
03:35:32.540
We'll just finish these up and we'll come back to it.
03:35:39.020
You never should have spoken on the submission talk.
03:36:09.060
Many women say what they want in a relationship or how they would like it to be.
03:36:27.640
Definitely not the best one to respond to that one.
03:36:35.120
Especially when I want to be a more submissive kind of traditional girlfriend.
03:36:39.020
Like if they want me to be attractive, if they want me to cook, if they want me to do this,
03:36:51.380
Michael is the most famous person after Christ.
03:37:07.620
But I want to go back to what you were saying, though, about how people say sometimes your
03:37:14.100
I said sometimes people are triggered or they don't.
03:37:27.260
I don't think it is offensive for you to have that.
03:37:29.140
So I'm on your side, but you're making me not on your side.
03:37:31.220
My point is, I want to ask the one African-American Filipina chick, is that cultural appropriation
03:37:41.480
Is that fair for me to say you have been scrutinized at least for that haircut?
03:37:53.880
So most of the time it is white people that have an issue with it.
03:37:56.720
And I would say it's people who are probably less educated about the reasonings of why people
03:38:10.120
I don't want you to feel like I'm taking any of that.
03:38:13.440
So for me, I don't have an issue with anyone wearing any type of style of hair.
03:38:19.040
Truthfully, I've seen different races pull different styles, different braids, different
03:38:25.100
This is my thing as being the only African-American on the panel, is that you do need to know and
03:38:32.100
educate yourself on where it stems from and where it comes from and to respect the culture.
03:38:38.420
So basically, from what I've learned from, you know, people in my family and just people
03:38:43.160
before me, that a lot of certain hairstyles were enrooted in slave runaway routes.
03:38:51.580
So when people were enslaved, they would braid their hairs or have their braiders braid their
03:38:56.740
hair a certain style so that they knew how to escape whatever, you know.
03:39:06.540
People want to style their hair all types of ways.
03:39:14.740
So some days I feel like wearing my hair curly.
03:39:16.780
Some days I wear, you know, feel like wearing it straight.
03:39:18.880
I think you just, people that aren't of that community or of that specific ethnic group,
03:39:25.440
you just have to be mindful of, you know, what message you're trying to send out.
03:39:30.620
And at least educate yourself and educate others.
03:39:32.880
If you mean well by wearing a certain hairstyle, that's totally fine.
03:39:36.360
But if you're, you know, again, it's just a hairstyle of people.
03:39:44.240
But to be fair, can somebody, like, can a white supremacist wear dreadlocks racially?
03:39:50.040
Yeah, because if you don't like African Americans or African people, why would you want to wear dreadlocks?
03:39:56.000
That's like somebody saying, I don't like Asian people, but I'm going to eat sushi and I'm going to listen to it.
03:40:02.520
So wouldn't that mean they like Asian people, though, right?
03:40:05.440
Like, I'm saying, like, even if you said a guy's a white supremacist, a white guy that uses the N-word,
03:40:09.220
you're going to be like, oh, he hates black people.
03:40:10.420
But if he's adopting black culture, wouldn't that make him not racist?
03:40:14.060
No, because you can like, no, I get what you're saying.
03:40:19.920
Because if he's racist, you'd be like, I don't want that black hairstyle, you know?
03:40:23.340
Obviously, he's trying to take parts of that culture.
03:40:25.600
If you oppress a certain type of people, that's what makes you racist.
03:40:30.300
Being, having different perspectives and opinions, that doesn't necessarily make you racist.
03:40:44.760
You know, we all get oppressed in different ways.
03:40:46.580
Every single person on this planet has faced some sort of racism.
03:40:50.500
I'm sure all of us have been, you know, you get put in a category, you get put in a group.
03:40:55.780
And if you don't like people because of their skin or their culture or where they come from, that does make you racist.
03:41:01.440
Well, one of the guys that comes on the show a lot, Andrew Wilson, him and I, he's obviously a well-known debater.
03:41:06.980
Him and I have actually debated this topic, systemic racism.
03:41:09.520
And I believe in systemic racism, even though I'm conservative.
03:41:12.300
A lot of conservatives would disagree with that because I do believe in the 60s and 70s, obviously, there was laws that were racist towards black people.
03:41:17.920
But now I believe laws are racist towards white people when it comes to DEI, that if you're a white person, you have to have a higher test score to get into medical school than a certain other race.
03:41:26.780
And then you see other people lying on their college exam saying they're black when they're really not to try to get in.
03:41:33.900
So I feel like this system is racist towards white people.
03:41:36.300
And that's why I'm more empathetic to African-Americans and black people because we do have a system that I believe is racist.
03:41:42.820
And once again, I do believe that our system, even though it does happen to races, it attacks the most marginalized people, the people that are the most vulnerable.
03:41:52.220
You know, so that's kind of why black people now, you're like white men are vulnerable, but it sounds crazy.
03:41:56.820
But in this day and age, the global population of white people is less than 8%.
03:42:00.580
So actually like a global scale, white people are marginalized, even though the highest population of America, but people don't have that perspective.
03:42:07.740
Like a black person from America wouldn't have the perspective that whites are the minority in the overall scheme of things.
03:42:12.420
So yeah, I believe in racism and systemic racism.
03:42:15.800
And a lot of conservatives disagree with me on that.
03:42:19.580
I did want to say one more thing while we're on that subject, because I very much was aware that it would be a topic tonight.
03:42:26.140
So when I first started my locks journey, I was living in Hawaii.
03:42:32.320
I had already wanted to do it for about three years.
03:42:41.460
And then because of the humidity where I was living, I was living in Hilo.
03:42:49.580
And then at a certain point, you really can't go back without cutting them off.
03:42:54.160
And for the first few years, I really am very sympathetic to that argument, because I do think a lot of people do it for trends.
03:43:01.660
And I'm not talking about, like, any certain skin color.
03:43:06.240
I'm just talking about, like, I think it was, like, three years ago, it was very in trend for people of many different cultures to wear them.
03:43:13.400
For me, personally, because I've worn them for so long, I've heard every single thing that you could possibly think of thrown at me.
03:43:19.640
And I just kind of roll with it, because it doesn't mean anything to me.
03:43:25.180
And I don't really care how people feel about it, as long as people like yourself aren't actually offended by it.
03:43:31.660
And I'm telling you, it's never people I'm expecting to that seemed offended.
03:43:37.960
The people who come up and touch my hair, they're older white ladies, always, 100% of the time.
03:43:43.940
It makes me uncomfortable, which I think is good, because now I know what that experience is like.
03:43:49.020
Because it doesn't matter what race you're from, you shouldn't be touching people without permission.
03:43:59.200
Something very passive-aggressive that doesn't sound bad, but it's like, what do you mean by subtle disapproval?
03:44:04.660
And I just don't think anything of it, because usually they're over a certain age, and I get it.
03:44:09.020
It was very different 20, 30, 40, 50 years ago.
03:44:12.320
And like I said, it's part of my journey of who I am.
03:44:20.020
You see, I would argue that you should be unapologetic about it, because if your intentions aren't racist, why would you?
03:44:30.980
I just feel bad that so many people feel such a negative way about it, because to me, like, wearing my hair this way has a lot to do with my spiritual identity.
03:44:41.180
I'm half Hebrew on one side, so at one point, historically, Hebrew people wore their hair that way.
03:44:47.600
So it goes all the way back to, I believe, India, Vedic culture, the Brahmins.
03:44:52.020
They all locked their hair, and they brought that to the rest of the world through different various ways of movement that doesn't need to be discussed right now.
03:44:59.080
But the point being is that it's not just one place that it came from.
03:45:05.300
And then I think when certain parties decide that they are like-minded, they might choose to wear their hair that way.
03:45:13.200
But it's not necessarily a cultural, racial, or even social discussion.
03:45:19.700
It has most of the people that I know that wear locks.
03:45:22.540
It has to do with their spiritual journey, and that's cross-race.
03:45:26.640
I've dated every race that you could probably think of.
03:45:30.520
I would say the longest relationship that I told you about was with a white guy, and that was eight and a half years.
03:45:35.840
The longest relationship I've had with a black man was, I want to say, eight months to a year.
03:45:43.000
That's the only long, long relationship I've had is that long.
03:45:47.580
I grew up in California, so I feel like Californians, we do openly talk about these subjects from time to time.
03:45:54.460
And so that makes it a little bit easier to come to an understanding between individuals.
03:46:00.180
There's a chat coming through, a little vulgar, but I'll have you read it.
03:46:05.440
Chair number two, get your nasty tits off the table.
03:46:34.540
Oh, you have to have a little Spanish flair, you know, big booty Latinas, you know?
03:46:37.680
If everybody wants to tip $200 and roast me, I'm totally fine with that.
03:46:41.240
At the end of the last one that I was on, I was like, please roast me.
03:46:53.800
Did you have another question for her or was that it?
03:46:58.740
Well, no, but I do want to talk to the Filipina more because, you know, I mean, you are a multicultural
03:47:04.960
representation that we don't have on the panel.
03:47:14.680
And I want to see a little spiciness because I know Filipina women like to talk shit.
03:47:20.300
And I'm guessing, I'm guessing though, Brian, and I don't know this.
03:47:22.940
I'm speculating because I don't know you that well.
03:47:25.420
You're kind of talking about that relationship and about how you're so happy to be single.
03:47:32.060
I think you're probably going through a transitional phase like anybody out of a breakup.
03:47:35.820
And after two months, if it was serious, it's almost impossible to not have, feel some sort of way.
03:47:43.460
Of course, I have my moments of being sad and, you know, just feeling like lonely.
03:47:49.340
But when I say that I'm happy, I feel like when I was in that relationship, at least with this particular individual, it took so much of my time and energy because, I mean, any relationship takes time and energy.
03:48:03.880
It's not just romance, you know, friendship, relationships with fan members, people, the people you work with.
03:48:08.340
When you indulge in another human being, you're giving that person and the other person on the other side your time, your energy, your thoughts.
03:48:19.340
And for me, when I let go of this particular person, I felt, at least in these past two months, okay, what does Camila want?
03:48:32.120
And, you know, I now feel like I have a lot more time to focus on my career, where I want to go, what countries I want to visit, and not have to focus on arguing and just differences.
03:48:42.880
It becomes a lot, and it's to the point where sometimes relationships can consume who you are as a person, where you lose yourself and you start forgetting your mission and your purpose in this life sometimes.
03:48:55.200
And I'm not saying all relationships do this, it's just with him, because it was so much and it started to feel draining.
03:49:08.340
And what is your dating life like over the past two months?
03:49:10.840
Have you tried to get back into it, or are you just taking time for yourself?
03:49:13.500
No, I'm taking time for myself just because, again, I don't want to keep giving time and energy, especially to people that I know.
03:49:20.600
If you're not the one, I'm not going to not only waste your time, I'm not going to waste my time.
03:49:28.340
If the man's seriously looking for someone and he has the intentions of dating someone serious and getting married and I know I'm not there, why would I reel him in for what?
03:49:37.800
You what, you take me on a stupid dinner date, so what, I could take myself out on, I take myself out to dinner all the time.
03:49:43.700
I like to date for people, I'm on the same page as a man.
03:49:47.280
If I really want to be with someone, I'm going to invest my all.
03:49:50.000
But if it's not, you're not the person I'm looking for and we're just not aligned, I'm not going to waste my time.
03:49:57.480
It's a waste of time, and we only live this life once.
03:50:03.360
Did any of the girls, when we were talking about the chivalry topic, did any of you want to weigh in while that was on the chivalry topic?
03:50:10.440
I wanted to say that I believe in traditional gender roles, like the man has his, and also with women expecting a traditional man, how can you expect tradition when you're not giving tradition?
03:50:31.540
But I'd also respect the traditional way, so I go both ways.
03:50:34.260
But what is it when you say, here's my confusion, you say you respect the traditional ways, it's always you respect the part where the man has to do something that benefits you.
03:50:44.860
If I'm dating a guy who wants the traditional ways, I'll do it, but my personal opinion is 50-50.
03:51:02.400
My most recent one, I'm the one who actually hit on him.
03:51:05.420
That is like the current thing where more girls are being aggressive.
03:51:09.580
I mean, that's the whole bumble, like the whole bumble.
03:51:14.000
Yeah, but I'm saying that was like the whole theory or, you know.
03:51:42.200
He was like, I don't want you doing X, Y, Z, but you were being rebellious.
03:51:50.560
But some girls have daddy issues and they want to be treated bad by a guy.
03:51:54.520
No, no, you shouldn't treat, you should never treat women poorly.
03:51:59.120
Like, I'm guessing, and I don't know you from Adam, but I mean, maybe you did have daddy issues
03:52:03.120
and maybe that this guy was kind of being like the bad dad that you had.
03:52:06.340
So maybe that's why you're like subconsciously attracted to him.
03:52:08.440
And I know that sounds crazy, but I mean, am I wrong?
03:52:12.860
You said he was controlling, but you ended up cheating on him.
03:52:20.020
So men, when it comes to protecting, protecting doesn't just mean protecting you from immediate
03:52:31.920
It can mean protecting the relationship against your own, no offense, do I want to put this
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Oh, I want to have a bunch of single girlfriends who are invariably going to end up hating my
03:52:50.360
And by the way, single girlfriends are like the worst thing ever for a relationship.
03:52:58.620
They want their girlfriend back because you as the man, you kind of took her from that.
03:53:03.480
You know, she can't go out to the club or whatever.
03:53:05.760
She, you know, she's prioritizing the boyfriend, the husband over the single girlfriends who want
03:53:11.000
to do hood rat shit and go get drunk at some bar and go fuck some SoundCloud rapper.
03:53:15.800
So, so men have a duty to protect women against their own blind spots in a relationship of
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like, women will put their own relationship at risk.
03:53:28.040
And it's our job as men to be like, no, you're not going to do this really stupid shit that
03:53:33.160
puts you in a high probability position of cheating.
03:53:39.000
Um, but we also need to protect the, there's threats of mind, which is like this other
03:53:45.400
layer where it's like, okay, is government trying to propagandize you?
03:53:49.940
Is government, do you want to get your fucking 10th booster shot?
03:53:56.060
So men have to also protect women, just not of body, but of spirit and of mind.
03:54:02.480
So if the, if, uh, society, it's not even the government necessarily, it could be culture
03:54:07.580
Oh, uh, what kind of messages are women getting from the media to make them feel insecure about
03:54:14.920
Oh, I'm, I'm in a marriage with a woman and she wants to get XYZ plastic surgery because
03:54:20.680
society has dictated to her that she isn't enough unless she gets fake tits, a BBL, lipo,
03:54:29.700
I think it's your duty as a husband to not indulge her in this, uh, petulant, uh, not
03:54:36.740
childlike, but this, this sort of insecurity that is propagated on them by society.
03:54:43.060
You need to be like, no, you're beautiful as you are.
03:54:46.000
You're not going to, first off, you're not going to waste my money so you can get fat removed
03:54:55.320
Uh, I need to protect you from society destroying your mind to the point that you're going to
03:55:02.540
under, you're going to go get, um, what's it called?
03:55:15.640
Uh, look, if you have cancer, you have some serious illness.
03:55:23.300
There's a medical indication for going under anesthesia.
03:55:27.300
Oh, you want to get, uh, I know you like big booty Latinas.
03:55:35.880
Even, even if it was for money, it's your money.
03:55:42.220
The reason why women fall into the trap of materialism is to impress other women because
03:56:21.280
Like, I, I agree with a lot of conservative views, but I also agree with some liberal views.
03:56:28.060
Well, I want to make this point, and I think, I don't know everybody's political leanings,
03:56:31.440
but I, I, Brian, I know there's, people have different variations of conservatism, but
03:56:35.740
I think the basis of conservatism, if we really just want to break it down to the most
03:56:41.220
Well, it, well, I mean, that's a good description, but it's less government.
03:56:45.000
We want less of the government involved in our everyday life, and I think that a lot of
03:56:48.960
people would agree with that sentiment, and if you simple, if you made it that simplified,
03:56:53.080
I think more people would say, I'm conservative, because I want the government less involved
03:56:56.080
in my life, so I think that's why a lot of people are afraid to say I'm conservative,
03:56:59.680
but really, it just means I don't want the government deciding every single decision
03:57:04.820
Yeah, I think most people would fall into that.
03:57:06.580
Which I think a lot of people confuse the yellow, like, don't tread on me flag with
03:57:10.660
being, like, racist, but it's really a libertarian flag, which is, like.
03:57:18.320
Yeah, but people do think, people do think that's racist.
03:57:20.800
Yeah, because, like, my buddy Tim Cole, yeah, people think, they thought he was racist because
03:57:27.460
Well, I guess it's more associated with a bit more, like, right wing, or even more libertarian.
03:57:33.820
A lot of libertarian people will fly that flag, and I agree with those, you know.
03:57:37.280
It's not, it's not, there's, there's no historical.
03:57:39.400
Well, people think the American flag is racist now.
03:57:43.280
The left thinks everything that doesn't agree with them is racist.
03:57:46.660
But, okay, so your boyfriend, he made you a vegan and soy, I guess.
03:57:51.080
Yes, and, like, my job, he did not like my job.
03:57:53.660
So, if I, if I would come home, I couldn't talk about my job because he didn't like that
03:58:06.360
My current boyfriend now is a veteran and does the same thing I do.
03:58:14.260
Final thing on the chivalry, then we're off to something else.
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We, you know, the bow video, we'll play the bow video.
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I show future women, like, hey, this is my ex-girlfriend.
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Like a tutorial, you know, because sometimes it's like, you know, you got to put the girl
03:58:36.140
in recruit mode for a little bit just so she knows, like, how to operate in the relationship.
03:58:41.580
Are you being 100% honest when you say that this is, you show this to future girlfriends?
03:58:53.540
Look, I think, you know, there's a lot of, there's a lot of, I need to deprogram.
03:59:08.120
I don't remember seeing it the last time, but I want to see it again.
03:59:10.940
The, the, the, the, uh, psychologist is loving this.
03:59:39.760
I'm like, Hey, you got to get the laundry done.
03:59:51.020
Now, I actually, you see those in the corner there, the right bottom corner, the red tomatoes.
03:59:58.460
How would you, how could you ever just have rod?
04:00:10.440
I've been hearing some like little tricklings through the grapevine that she dumped you.
04:00:19.160
Someone, someone, a podcast person from the other, the opposite side of your spectrum.
04:00:40.440
Um, but, uh, yeah, how to break up with her, how to break up with her.
04:00:43.860
But yeah, that's, uh, do you have OCD or like something?
04:00:55.000
Well, you know, honestly the, the dinner, whatever the, I do want laundry done and this
04:01:03.140
I come home every time I want to bow from my girlfriend.
04:01:17.160
What if she went above and beyond for you and did everything you wanted, but even more?
04:01:35.200
Well, you just manifested that you're not going to get the perfect woman.
04:01:52.960
But look, when I'm talking about perfect, right?
04:02:02.260
I think people make, I don't want to say settle, but people make compromises.
04:02:07.660
Like, look, people are not going to get the ultimate in every single dimension.
04:02:14.200
So, if we talk like looks, if we talk personality, if we talk in my like perfect world, like the
04:02:21.840
perfect woman would technically be a billionaire.
04:02:26.620
So, like built into that, it depends how ridiculous we make the scenario.
04:02:30.240
Like how caked in, you know, is she a billionaire?
04:02:32.980
But even absent her being rich, a perfect woman would be like, in terms of looks, like every
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single metric under looks, maximized, personality, everything maximized, like never nags, never
04:02:47.460
argues, perfectly pleasant, submissive, et cetera, et cetera.
04:03:07.200
He's donating enough that you should be able to buy.
04:03:19.340
But I don't understand like this idea that, oh, I want to, you want a woman who just agrees with
04:03:24.740
you on everything and is just perfectly pleasant all the time.
04:03:31.900
You don't even want like intellectual conversation of a stimulation in that?
04:03:35.420
Because I feel like sometimes that turns into a debate.
04:03:44.320
Your relationship should be a safe space where you can talk really.
04:03:47.820
You think I want to go, even if it wasn't my job, I don't want to argue with my girlfriend.
04:03:50.300
I'm just saying sometimes talking with someone having an intellectual conversation, every
04:03:55.260
once in a while it might be that you don't see immediately eye to eye and there's a little
04:04:03.400
If I can maximize the intelligence trait in my girlfriend or wife, yeah, give her like the
04:04:12.780
I mean, for a couple of reasons, I think if you're a proper dumbass, you're a liability.
04:04:21.960
Like if one of the reasons we find somebody attractive, like the traits that we find attractive
04:04:27.460
in them is to, and I think you can be attracted to people absent children, right?
04:04:32.720
Like wanting to have children, but we want to, one of the reasons we are attracted to people
04:04:37.200
is they are going to confer these traits to our children.
04:04:40.980
And so one component of it, whether consciously or subconsciously is, uh, I'm attracted to this
04:04:46.700
woman because, uh, she will, you know, give me D1 babies, you know, whatever.
04:04:53.640
And that's me literally, I mean, cause you, you said you want a billionaire.
04:04:57.000
I'm like, I'm just happy that my girlfriend played college volleyball.
04:05:00.420
But we, we do these assessments of partners, not just on our, our own selfish interest, but
04:05:08.560
also, uh, I mean, look, if you don't want to have kids, then you're just going to probably
04:05:12.620
maximize for different things potentially, I guess.
04:05:16.260
Or, I mean, well, the things, the thing is that the traits that will confer benefits to
04:05:21.080
your children, even selfishly, you'll still, you're just going to be inherently attracted
04:05:29.620
Like, okay, if they're good looking, they'll confer perhaps good lookingness onto your children.
04:05:36.140
So like kind of what I'm trying to say is that, uh, for me personally, intellectual
04:05:41.400
engagement is super important and attraction for me.
04:05:46.240
Yeah, I would say, but more importantly, I am kind of looking for someone that not necessarily
04:05:52.180
doesn't see the same viewpoint, but has their strengths or my weaknesses and vice versa.
04:05:56.900
So they can help me see a clarity in a subject that maybe, first of all, I'm not the authority
04:06:02.420
on, so I don't know as much about, and they can help me see another point of view that
04:06:09.040
So maybe I don't agree with them, but it helps me see the other side of the discussion.
04:06:13.100
One thing to be careful of with that though, is that there isn't perfect symmetry.
04:06:21.520
So I wouldn't, don't always map onto, well, I, as a woman desire X, Y, Z thing in men,
04:06:34.180
Not, I mean, there's certain things that go both ways, right?
04:06:37.020
But, uh, there are certain things that are clearly asymmetrical.
04:06:41.520
So I think some of that desire there, I think men to a less care about that to a lesser degree.
04:06:47.740
Like, for example, money, I think women have a more invested stake in a man being successful,
04:06:54.800
a man being ambitious, a man being a high earner.
04:06:57.560
I'm not saying that, I'm not saying it's the most important thing, although the majority
04:07:04.820
Um, I'm not saying it's the most important thing.
04:07:06.940
I'm not saying that, uh, that's the only thing women care about.
04:07:13.940
Um, and I think oftentimes that can be like very secondary or whatever.
04:07:17.740
But compared to men, men care, they're like, don't care at all.
04:07:22.740
Men really don't care about a woman's money or success or any of these sorts of things.
04:07:30.720
Like when I say mental state, I mean the, the point of view that she has, that she carries
04:07:35.920
through life, what her maybe opinions are, or her expression of how she intellectualizes
04:07:43.100
So what I'm trying to expand on is I, at least in the type of talking situations I've been
04:07:49.200
in, I do feel like me being an intellectual has always helped me because a lot of times
04:07:54.880
when I'm talking to these men, they really appreciate whether it turns into something
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They appreciate that I'm able to put my thoughts into a presentable way that I can come across
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No one gets upset or angry, even if we don't see eye to eye, but we're able to better ourselves
04:08:12.680
and expand what we're talking about so that I can better understand my life and people
04:08:18.400
that I run into and have more conversations like that.
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Honestly, uh, look, but I don't think all men are that way.
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I'm just, no, I think it's, I think it's very vital, but that's, that's for you, but for
04:08:31.200
you and your life, for the kind of woman you're looking for, that's not important, but for another
04:08:35.500
man that could be a deal breaker, you get what I'm saying?
04:08:41.560
Well, I think I want to say for the majority of men, I don't think men really prioritize
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The only reason, and it's not that I a hundred percent disagree because I have friends that
04:09:02.020
have a mail order brides that don't even speak English that love their wife and it couldn't
04:09:12.060
I would just say that for me, one of the best things I guess in my relationship is like
04:09:23.680
So I feel like, you know, talking, I mean, you could vent to like a, it's true.
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It's not the same as when you vent to her, right?
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There's privacy within venting to your, I do think talking matters.
04:09:35.500
I guess, Brian is, that's the one thing where, you know, like conversation that we were talking
04:09:40.900
I mean, look, you of course want somebody who you get along with and it's not like awkward
04:09:47.160
I mean, I've had experiences where, um, you know, I've been on dates with the girls and
04:09:51.560
it's like, it's a, it's, you're, you're horrible.
04:09:54.480
You can't even have a conversation where you're just like carrying the conversation and they're
04:09:58.560
not given, but I mean, like, I'm not looking for a woman who's like Shakespeare over here.
04:10:07.160
Who's like got some massive depth and I can talk about philosophy with her.
04:10:12.400
I value other, why would, why would you need that?
04:10:14.840
If you get that from your job, why would you need that?
04:10:16.980
So I'm kind of having an epiphany about you actually.
04:10:22.260
I'm just saying, I get why you don't need to have deep conversations with your significant
04:10:25.740
other because you probably are burnt out from these conversations.
04:10:28.900
Well, I'm conversationally burnt out from the show.
04:10:34.820
When you get off the show, you're like, I don't want to talk.
04:10:38.900
But I mean, it's not even that the conversations on the show are super like high level, deep
04:10:49.980
Although, I mean, they're fun convos and whatever, but I don't think my job necessarily is like
04:10:57.780
even before I did this podcast, having deep convos with women was not like a high priority.
04:11:04.460
Of course, I want to be able to like us to have good communication and for it to be like
04:11:10.180
a good, good vibe to use this term, but vibe, the vibe is good.
04:11:16.420
But like, I don't need to have like deep, deep convos.
04:11:28.860
I think there are a lot of men who do want an intelligent wife, but they're not necessarily
04:11:34.900
However, over the long term of relationships, when we're talking 5, 10, 15, 20 years plus,
04:11:42.140
it's a big thing I see in therapy why women, women seek more than 70% of the divorces.
04:11:48.760
And the biggest reason really is that over time, women do crave those deeper convos.
04:11:56.080
And a lot of times they don't feel like their men want to go there with them.
04:12:02.480
You know, his name is Andrew that comes on here a lot.
04:12:07.720
Yeah, they have very similar viewpoints, but they both are very good at debating and talking.
04:12:14.400
So I'm sure that that is a very big thing in their relationship, that if they weren't
04:12:18.280
able to have those kind of conversations with each other, they wouldn't want to be with
04:12:32.320
No, but he did choose her, and I'm sure he really enjoys the fact that, you know...
04:12:37.380
I would say, and there's no disrespect to Andrew, but Rachel's smarter than Andrew.
04:12:46.740
But Rachel's an actual author, and, you know, I mean, Rachel's pretty smart.
04:12:50.420
And I'm sure, but I'm sure he would not be mentally stimulated if she wasn't.
04:13:03.660
Sure, it's a perk to have a high IQ wife or whatever.
04:13:09.980
There's probably other traits that he valued in Rachel that were prioritized.
04:13:24.500
I don't think most people want to debate their spouse.
04:13:33.360
My brother met a young woman in rural Southeast Asia, and he married her.
04:13:40.740
She is traditional, respectful, and submissive.
04:13:55.400
I mean, he did have a beautiful Asian girlfriend.
04:14:18.140
It looks like one of those weird, like, Asian videos that they post.
04:14:22.060
He plays that, he played it on the last podcast I was on as well.
04:14:48.040
Why does Pasty George's come in as two and four cents?
04:15:06.060
I should have told you guys to wear a costume, I guess.
04:15:37.320
My brother has noticed that many Western men, especially young ones, are moving to areas throughout
04:15:43.860
Southeast Asia to find and marry traditional rural Asian women.
04:15:49.880
I feel like I see more younger men going to South America and more older men going to
04:15:59.840
No, definitely not Japan, but I would say it's more of the Philippines and Vietnam.
04:16:08.100
Guys, can we get some W's in the chat for Ogle?
04:16:37.800
I don't think Japan is so much of a sex thingy.
04:16:41.180
I mean, most of these passport bureaus, I don't think it's just for sex.
04:16:48.680
Well, it's Eastern Europe, South America and Southeast Asia, but even like Japan.
04:16:54.120
I think Eastern European women want men with like more money, but like for the regular
04:16:59.240
man, it's easier to go to the Philippines or Vietnam or somewhere where the income is a
04:17:03.760
Well, I think they go there because these women have a reputation for being more traditional,
04:17:12.920
Now, you know, I definitely think some of the more modern Western bullshit has seeped into
04:17:18.540
even Japan, even Thailand, even Vietnam, even the Philippines, all these countries, but
04:17:23.540
I think there is still a bit more of a traditional overriding, but I got to be honest though.
04:17:27.640
You got to be, some of these guys, passport bureaus got to be careful because some of these
04:17:32.100
women, once they get the ring, once they get the green card, 90 day fiancee scam.
04:17:41.380
But I even know in Columbia right now, it's a really big issue where American men are going
04:17:45.280
there to meet women in South America, especially Columbia.
04:17:54.060
Like it's been an alarming rate of, there's predators.
04:17:59.800
And that's in America, just in the strip club, but yeah.
04:18:08.020
Well, yeah, that's why, honestly, I feel like, uh, some of the, some of the Asian countries
04:18:16.920
Like Japan, pretty safe, pretty safe for the past few girls.
04:18:19.640
But yeah, you go to Columbia, yeah, you gotta be careful.
04:18:34.080
I think when the white men call it, they say Medellin.
04:18:41.300
Ask everyone to rate their own looks on a scale of 1 to 10.
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On a scale of 1 to 10, can't pick 7, starting with you.
04:18:59.960
The way that we view ourselves, our personality is considered, and that's why I just asked
04:19:08.260
So I've also asked people before I come on the show what I should rate myself, and they
04:19:15.180
I would have said 7 myself, but if I have to choose, I'm going to go higher than lower,
04:19:22.900
I'm going to give myself a 9 for my age, a 6 for, like, without age.
04:19:29.520
Well, I feel like it's fair, as an older person.
04:19:32.640
Like, if you're going to compare me to, like, 20-year-old models, I can't give myself a 9.
04:20:04.060
I would be 10, but I'm circumcised, so I'm missing, like, points.
04:20:14.500
Some Hollywood celebrity's rubbing it on their face.
04:20:25.720
And I'm not trying to harp on you ladies, and I think you guys are trying to be modest
04:20:29.460
or trying to be, you know, not too egotistical, but a 4 is low.
04:20:34.640
I mean, you work, you make money by selling your body.
04:20:38.280
I mean, if you're a 4, don't you think you'd be out of business, right?
04:20:41.320
I mean, don't you at least have to be, like, a 6 or 7?
04:20:43.440
What were you saying earlier about the 600-pound woman having a boyfriend?
04:20:48.180
Well, I'm just saying, if you really think you're a 4, then, I mean, I feel like you
04:20:53.320
wouldn't be doing sex work, because you'd be like, I'm a 4 who really wants, you know
04:20:57.080
I feel like it takes confidence to do sex work.
04:20:58.980
Maybe it's like a comparison thing, where it's like, there's so many beautiful women
04:21:03.220
in the industry that there's, like, a comparison thing going on.
04:21:10.880
I'm just, like, a 4, like, today, because I have, like, a breakout right here.
04:21:14.600
My skin's bad today, and I feel kind of oily and bloated.
04:21:26.680
But occasionally, you know, I have those days where I'm a 10.
04:21:44.180
Yeah, they're going to have to eliminate that number.
04:21:46.200
I think some of you were a little generous with your own weight.
04:21:48.160
All right, back in April, I would say I was more like a 9.
04:21:54.960
I was in a car accident, so I haven't been dancing, so I'm now 169.
04:22:24.200
She's like, my boyfriend's penis is 95 centimeters.
04:23:06.920
And some people are, like, going blind from it.
04:23:15.980
We're having a camera difficulty, but I'll address that in just...
04:23:22.160
Nick, without moving that top camera, just try going, turning it off and on.
04:23:59.420
I'm not going to pick on anybody, but I think there are a couple elevated ratings here.
04:24:08.440
Why don't average women just be like, you know what?
04:24:19.620
Like, you're a good-looking woman if you're seven.
04:24:24.500
Why not be excited that people think they look good, even if other people don't?
04:24:37.320
You want people to feel like they're not that attractive?
04:24:48.520
And I think that's probably because they have a false sense of, you know, security or a false self-esteem.
04:24:53.740
I find most women to be incredibly insecure and hard on themselves.
04:24:57.820
More than they're overinflated, thinking they're hot.
04:25:01.600
Like, a person can be incredibly insecure, but also really picky.
04:25:08.180
I know that as I've gotten older, I don't look as good as I did 20 years ago, but I rank myself higher now than I would have because I have better confidence.
04:25:15.900
But I could argue that the more insecure a girl is, the more picky they are going to be because they're going to feel like they're less than.
04:25:22.740
They're going to feel more secure, so they're going to feel like they need more in their partner.
04:25:32.160
Well, I'm saying, like you said, when you have confidence, because, like, when you have that confidence, you're not, you know, it gives you more power in this situation.
04:25:39.940
Yeah, I just think for women, and I can, as the only one in her 50s here, I will just say that for a lot of women, as you get older, you become more confident because you're less worried about men finding you hot.
04:25:54.560
Which, I'll just speak for myself, dominated a lot of my thoughts and my feelings about myself when I was younger.
04:26:02.640
Yeah, but you know why that is, though, because then you guys are going to, like, call me a misogynist.
04:26:06.760
Maybe it is a little bit, but this is why women get more confident, and they do get a little more sexually aggressive in their older age, because whether we want to admit it or not, men...
04:26:19.020
Well, maybe not, maybe you're menopausal, maybe there's a menopausal age where you don't, you know, you're just more...
04:26:24.240
Okay, maybe your hormones aren't, you know, hitting on all cylinders, but...
04:26:29.760
Wait, wait, wait, what was the point I was just making?
04:26:32.180
The word menopause comes up and things shut down fast.
04:26:35.640
You're like, your brain is just, like, schmits it.
04:26:38.220
No, no, no, what I'm saying is the women that are older are more sexually aggressive because their value, as a woman, I hate to admit it, it's not like wine.
04:26:55.240
But there are definitely people who still value women who are older.
04:26:58.720
I agree, I agree, but I think that's kind of why women are forced to be more confident, because you're like, hey, look...
04:27:03.820
Well, confidence isn't something you can force.
04:27:05.700
Yes, inner, genuine confidence is something that happens.
04:27:09.960
But the definition of confidence is that you feel a certain way about yourself, not fake it till you make it.
04:27:16.960
A lot of older women also feel invisible for the very reason that you bring up, because they're no longer sex objects.
04:27:24.760
I think also being a therapist, a lot of my value and confidence comes from something, what I do, and I'm in a job that the older you get, the wiser you are,
04:27:36.000
So I think my looks are deprioritized in my life at this point.
04:27:39.580
Well, see, I disagree, because I would say that confidence, you can choose to be confident, because what is confidence is basically the lack of fear.
04:27:49.080
Well, I would say being scared is the opposite of being confident.
04:27:55.460
So the opposite of being confident is insecure.
04:28:02.640
I mean, feeling afraid of certain things is human.
04:28:05.120
Confidence is being afraid and doing it anyway.
04:28:08.820
That's what I'm saying, choosing to do it anyway.
04:28:10.340
Right, but that doesn't mean you're not afraid.
04:28:21.760
I'm saying that when you choose to do something you're scared of, that can build confidence.
04:28:33.960
Anybody could work on building their confidence.
04:28:47.000
When you're in a situation that you might find scary and you continue to do it, you're choosing to be confident.
04:28:51.420
So confidence in that aspect, in that example, is a choice.
04:28:55.780
So what I'm pushing back on is that confidence is not being afraid, number one.
04:29:03.820
Okay, well, you said confidence is not being afraid.
04:29:08.960
I think confidence is being afraid and doing things anyway.
04:29:12.620
And I think you build your confidence by choosing to do things that scare you 100%.
04:29:18.140
I'm just saying I don't think you can just decide that you want to be confident and feel it.
04:29:23.060
It has to be something that you authentically cultivate by doing things you're afraid of.
04:29:46.000
Like, it's not just one day you're like, I'm confident now.
04:29:48.780
But, yeah, but I'm saying being confident is a choice.
04:29:49.400
But what she's trying to say is that through her career she's built confidence by doing certain things that have improved her self-esteem by practicing that mode of having confidence.
04:30:00.480
I'm not a role model, but if you're watching this, guys, right now, if you have confidence issues, you can choose to be confident in your everyday life.
04:30:09.840
And you can make decisions and do it confidently.
04:30:12.280
And if there are situations that scare you, like these women are saying, if that will train you, go do the stuff that makes you scared.
04:30:19.120
I think the biggest way that we grow as a people is putting ourselves in uncomfortable situations.
04:30:27.920
The way you worded it before sounded different to me.
04:30:35.320
Like public speaking is when people list their biggest fears.
04:30:38.880
Public speaking is oftentimes bigger than spiders in death.
04:30:42.400
And so any person, though, can choose and go speak unless you have a, you know, disability and you actually are mute.
04:30:50.240
That's exactly how I overcame my fear of public speaking.
04:30:58.460
I'm just saying one day you don't wake up and go, I'm going to be confident.
04:31:05.520
Confidence is built with what you're saying now.
04:31:10.760
Doing things that scare you until you build that natural inner confidence.
04:31:18.460
I think a good example of this, at least just from my personal life, you know, to come on the whatever podcast a year ago, I could not do that.
04:31:29.060
The first time, you know, I had to build up my confidence, especially with the internet and having people say mean things to me and me growing and being able to do that.
04:31:36.900
But then one day I finally felt confident but nervous and I came on this show and I was, you know, it was scary for me.
04:31:44.360
And now today I come on and I'm like, I feel good about this.
04:31:47.780
I feel like I can, you know, roast me in the chat or, you know, something like that.
04:31:51.200
But a year and a half ago when I, or two years ago when I started doing social media and people told me, come on the whatever podcast, I was like, I'm not good enough for that.
04:32:05.460
Yeah, but all you did was choose to come on the show.
04:32:08.900
But I had to build up the confidence to be able to do that.
04:32:12.360
Well, really, not really because all you had to do is say one time, yes, I'm going to go on the show.
04:32:15.680
And then that one time, that one decision, now you're confident for the rest of your time is on here.
04:32:19.780
But think about somebody, you go and watch them do public speaking in the first time they've ever done it versus the 20th, 50th, 100th time, how different those two discussions are.
04:32:28.360
Well, I'm saying, well, I would argue that you can go speak publicly and be scared to death, but you're still confident because you're doing it.
04:32:32.480
What I'm talking about is the comparison between the first time and the 50th time and how much confidence has built over doing it over and over again and knowing how to present yourself in that situation.
04:32:42.060
You weren't the most confident here, but you can.
04:32:44.120
And this isn't a confidence podcast and people are like, you know, talking, probably bored.
04:32:48.280
The only reason I'm not even being abrasive when it comes to this thing is because I don't feel like confident is a talent that people are born with.
04:32:56.560
I think you choose to be confident by putting yourselves in tough situations and deciding to do things that we don't want to do because there are so many things every single day we don't want to do that we go and do.
04:33:16.700
I heard you guys saying something about older women are confident and then you went on about
04:33:20.820
Well, older women are confident because they don't have a choice because they're trying
04:33:24.420
And that's the other thing, you know, we have this music.
04:33:33.340
Older women are usually more, you know, they're just sexually active than younger people, I feel.
04:33:40.480
I have some guy friends who are in their 20s and have slept with women who are almost
04:33:45.740
in their 60s because that woman was attractive for her age.
04:33:56.420
Well, this is a misconception, too, when we talk about different roles.
04:33:58.980
It's that, Brian, I don't believe we're equal, but I think women and men equally want
04:34:11.240
There's double standards because a woman that has sex with a lot of men is a whore and
04:34:14.400
a guy that has sex with a lot of women is a badass, you know, so that is a double standard.
04:34:18.020
But it's just hysterical that you're basically telling me if I'm getting this right.
04:34:22.560
And no, it's funny and interesting that I am confident, sort of, because I have no choice.
04:34:32.840
That is not why I'm confident, but I appreciate your hypothesis.
04:34:36.400
It's like, I mean, I guess I'm talking about my personal thing is, you know, I have a little
04:34:40.540
ADHD, but I actually, I graduated college, but, like, sometimes I needed that pressure,
04:34:45.740
like, knowing that the test was sooner for me to be able to cram.
04:34:51.380
The older you get, you kind of need that societal pressure because a lot of women feel like
04:34:55.400
they have to have a kid by the time that they're 30.
04:34:57.660
And I don't know if, you know, society says that that's fair or not, but that push does
04:35:07.600
But what does this have to do with, like, having to be confident to try to have sex when
04:35:11.840
Maybe, so women feel like, oh, I've got to have a baby by 30, oh, I've got to be a little
04:35:15.180
more aggressive, or I've got to be maybe, if a guy's not as hot, maybe they'll lower their
04:35:20.360
So I think that only increases as you get older and you're trying to find a male value, you
04:35:24.980
know, you're trying to find another high-value male when your value's declining.
04:35:28.660
Just, you know, it's like, I hate to be, it's like, what is it, what are those sand clocks
04:35:39.920
It's like, there's just a lot less sand, so you've got to be a little aggressive, you've
04:35:43.320
got to move a little faster, and you do, and there's less sand, it falls faster, and that's
04:35:48.420
And I would argue that men, maybe when they get older, maybe it can be a little more aggressive
04:35:51.480
and worry less about the opinions of strangers or worry less about getting rejected.
04:35:56.040
Go to an old folks' home and everybody's getting laid, okay?
04:36:01.380
Oh, the villages is near where I live in Florida, and they have the highest STD rate.
04:36:12.320
Have you ever heard about this at old folks' homes?
04:36:32.600
No, I would think, like, their back doesn't move as good as it used to work.
04:36:38.580
They use swings, so it takes the weight off their backs.
04:36:45.900
There's a bunch of things that can help old people have sex.
04:36:53.700
Yeah, so, I mean, I'm not trying to take a shot at you.
04:36:56.000
I just feel like, you know, when we get older, we get a little aggressive.
04:36:59.760
Because, like, even my dad, you know, he's now dating, and I feel like he probably has lowered his standards as he's gotten older.
04:37:09.560
Does he date in his age range, though, or does he?
04:37:25.300
What percentage of men who are, like, your age and older do you think are really trying to date young women versus looking for someone who's around their age, like, within 10 years of their age?
04:37:34.240
Well, I think, I mean, it's kind of different because, you know, it's like another double standard.
04:37:38.340
You know, I know guys that married girls older than them, and they like that relationship, but I kind of think that's weird.
04:37:44.500
But I don't think it's weird if the guy's 10 years older than the girl, so.
04:37:48.020
But I do think it's kind of weird when the girl's 10 years older than the guy.
04:37:50.820
But do you think that a lot of, you know, more mature men are wanting to date a girl who is either in her late teens or early 20s?
04:38:01.220
Well, yeah, I mean, 19 is a little young, but, like.
04:38:03.440
There's a lot of men who specifically want to date 19.
04:38:08.340
Well, people want to date the young girls because they're a pedophile.
04:38:12.600
But I think, you know, subconsciously, genetically, like, you almost want to date somebody younger because we're looking at somebody you want to mate with and have a baby with.
04:38:18.960
So I'm just saying instinctually, like, 19 or 20, you're just kind of attracted to that because, like, oh, that would be the best person to carry in my womb.
04:38:27.160
And I could see someone who's in their, like, mid to late 30s having that point of view.
04:38:35.100
My dad's 80, and he's dating someone who is 39.
04:38:42.480
She is not, like, yeah, they're both dermatologists.
04:38:46.720
I mean, she is of a different ethnicity, lives in a different country, super, super smart, well-educated.
04:38:57.760
I don't even know that they can ever live in the same place.
04:39:03.820
But sometimes I'm like, Dad, I mean, my brother's 10 years younger than I am, and this woman's younger than my brother.
04:39:11.860
I've come around to it in the sense that I feel like he's only got a, how long left?
04:39:17.860
And it seems to be, like, a respectful, loving relationship.
04:39:21.500
And most of my friends are like, what a baller.
04:39:26.700
I'll say, like, when I was in the 20-year age gap relationship, there was clearly, like, by the end of it, his maturity, like, he carried himself as a very high-value, like, leader-type man.
04:39:38.800
And I do still think of him as a leader, but his maturity level, he would even admit, you know, that mentally he's probably stuck somewhere in his 20s-ish, you know, where a lot of his trauma kind of happened and whatever, you know?
04:39:52.340
And so for him, when he dates younger women, it's more like he mentally isn't on par with dating women his own age.
04:40:00.380
I also think that women seek out older men because women typically mature faster than men do.
04:40:08.600
I mean, when I was dating older men, it was because I wanted someone who was, like, a father figure for me because I felt like my father was not there for me in the way that I wish he was.
04:40:16.580
And so I was looking for that within relationships.
04:40:19.060
And I don't do that anymore because I've gone to hypnosis, which is kind of – I've been recommended the –
04:40:26.280
You don't even mean to kind of find a guy like your dad.
04:40:31.880
It wasn't until I went to therapy and healed those inner problems that I didn't even realize I had that I then was like, oh, I'll never date the same way that I –
04:40:41.680
Can you just, like, touch more on the hypnosis thing?
04:40:48.740
Like, what did you have to do, though, like, the process?
04:40:53.720
I knew that there was a lot of things in my life that I was doing that were not for the betterment of myself.
04:40:58.900
And for some reason, I mentally could not make the changes I needed to break the cycles that I was within.
04:41:06.260
So going to my hypnotherapist, I wrote out everything that I thought was destructive of myself that I was doing.
04:41:12.420
And I went there asking, please, like, help me reverse this.
04:41:23.500
You just want me to do, like, the end part of the questionnaire?
04:41:33.540
I believe that was 1917 through 1920 or something, 1918.
04:41:43.760
I know when World War II maybe happened in the 40s, but World War I...
04:41:54.880
No, because I know that, like, the Great Depression was after World War I, so, like,
04:42:02.900
And, by the way, if you know it for sure, don't say it.
04:42:41.500
I don't want to be embarrassing to myself, because I don't have the most embarrassing question.
04:42:54.300
Because I'm going crazy, because I'm pretty sure Hitler died in 1942, but didn't World War
04:43:07.500
I thought it started in 1937 and ended in 1939, or World War I?
04:43:22.660
World War I happened in the early teens, because my great-grandpa grew up in the Great Depression,
04:43:36.540
Well, we're talking about both World Wars, right?
04:43:50.880
Okay, so now, if World War II started in, like, 1939, and it's like...
04:44:08.460
Well, everybody knows World War II because of the Holocaust.
04:44:17.120
I mean, people care about it, but, I mean, World War II was the one everybody talks about.
04:44:25.240
I'm not 100% positive, but I'm pretty sure it started around 1936 and ended in the 1940s,
04:45:30.820
Well, I mean, I got a college degree, and I don't remember shit from last week.
04:45:34.620
But one number that is the most important number is six million, though.
04:46:15.340
Do you know what continent Mexico is a part of?
04:46:18.080
And how does nobody, why didn't you say Africa?
04:47:18.600
Australia, Canada, and, what's the third country?
04:47:49.200
So, Indonesia, Thailand, and United Arab Emirates.
04:48:49.060
It's impossible for me to stay home with the kids.
04:48:59.040
LeBron James, Michael Jackson, it still counts, and Bob Marley.
04:49:03.680
Okay, we're going to go with Obama, Jimmy, no, that's not.
04:50:12.160
Is it possible for me to stay home with the kids?
04:50:30.420
Because I think it really depends on where you live.
04:50:36.440
I saw the price of comfortable living across the United States,
04:50:39.180
and the lowest one for a family was like $177,000,
04:50:49.880
It looks like it was your first one, so thank you, man.
04:50:58.820
Chair three, many in the chat have been saying and thinking this for a while now.
04:51:03.180
You look like the evil version of Rachel Wilson from the New Turns to Universe.
04:51:23.060
Well, Brian, I want to ask one question real quick.
04:51:26.220
Because we do talk about, I talk about conspiracies a lot, and I don't know how much you love
04:51:29.860
conspiracies, but this is the one thing, and I actually appreciate the whatever podcast,
04:51:35.980
It's kind of like, you know, people arguing, you know, OnlyFans, girls, you know, you know,
04:51:40.360
it can kind of, it can kind of get out there, you know, it can be a little crazy on this
04:51:44.860
So, but I think that these conversations are very important, and now I'm forgetting
04:51:54.900
Now I've lost my totally train of thought of, oh, this is what I was talking about, of
04:51:59.940
This is the point is, this show has a lot of tough conversations between people, but
04:52:05.520
I think in society, men have purposely been pitted against women on purpose to make us
04:52:10.920
fight one another, because, this sounds crazy, I'll go into the conspiracy part, the same
04:52:15.360
reason they say there's global warming, they actually want population control.
04:52:23.280
They want, because the reason why I also believe this is you look at the prices of homes have
04:52:26.900
skyrocketed exponentially, but the wages have just stayed the same.
04:52:30.080
So, like, that is another threat on the, we can't even have, what did you say, 70% of divorces
04:52:36.160
So, like, that is the financial hardships that we're facing is another reason why relationships
04:52:40.860
So, I think society, we try to make it male versus female, but they're almost just a product
04:52:47.620
And I think that's why this show is actually important, because we can have this conversation,
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and we might not ever have that if this didn't exist.
04:52:53.940
Yeah, I mean, well, you know, I would even take it a step further, Alex.
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I actually think, I mean, you look at the influence.
04:53:04.660
The influence that feminism has in institutions, feminism, yeah, every single college, the
04:53:10.600
media, journalism, government, all these institutions, they're steeped in feminist ideology to some
04:53:20.920
And I would say that a big component of feminism, even going back into the 1800s, if you look at
04:53:27.760
the history of feminism, it was very anti-natalist, anti-family.
04:53:31.080
They want to destroy the nuclear family, they don't want the nuclear family, because under
04:53:36.320
the feminist prism, the feminist lens, the family structure, the nuclear family structure
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And so any sort of structure or institution or system, the nuclear family, that can be
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oppressive to women should be smashed, should be demolished, should be taken down.
04:54:03.180
I think they probably, they're very famous feminists who are very anti-family, anti-husband,
04:54:12.500
I think you're just spot on, Alex, to be honest.
04:54:14.860
I'm pretty sure one of the original feminists, I don't know her name, but she was one who
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started Planned Parenthood, and they strategically put Planned Parenthoods in lower income areas.
04:54:25.220
They put them in lower income areas so that black women will have more abortions.
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And William Gates Sr., Bill Gates' dad, was one of the, and he's a eugenicist himself,
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and he was one of the big donors and worked with Margaret Sanger.
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And there's this whole theory that, you know, these fetuses that they're using, they use
04:54:40.860
them to do vaccines on young children, which inevitably, I remember this one topic was making
04:54:46.900
young black boys autistic and giving them issues.
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And there's like this whole theory about, you know, abortion clinics and what they're
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doing for the, they sell the fetuses for this kind of scientific research.
04:55:00.340
Are you talking like abortion being like eugenics against black people, basically?
04:55:03.740
Well, that is a theory, Margaret Sanger, you've got to look into it.
04:55:06.500
She, that's one of the things she actually said before she developed it, but, and there's
04:55:10.380
actually a lot of like weird stuff too with abortions, how they actually want to have the
04:55:14.140
late-term abortion because those, but the baby body parts are incredibly valuable because
04:55:17.980
you can't get those body parts just for, not just like if they needed, you think, oh,
04:55:22.980
maybe they need it, you donate your organs for like surgery, but it's actually for like
04:55:26.380
medical testing because they want to like test stuff on baby's body.
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So that's why like the fetuses are really valuable.
04:55:32.220
There's been Planned Parenthood people that got caught, like keeping some of the fetuses
04:55:40.020
We are going to blast through some of the notes here.
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What would you want the minimum yearly income to be for your future husband?
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Some of you guys, just whatever you filled out here, just say it here.
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Have you ever even dated a guy who makes $300,000 a year?
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I mean, I don't know their entire history, but to my knowledge, yes.
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So for me, I say $100,000 because that's what I'm offering to pay.
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Does your current husband, does he make that much?
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He makes more than that, but that would be my minimum.
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But if you've run the forest longer than a year, you make good money being a cop.
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I live in Northern California, so it's not even that many cops.
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I feel like if you were in like LA, I feel like some of these LA cops make-
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They do make more, but I don't live in a C-H-P.
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My cousin's a cop in New York, and he does really well.
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So he probably gets like $4,000 or $5,000 a month just from the VA.
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I had to do mine on a calculator, but whatever, $35 an hour working eight-hour weeks.
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Yeah, she needs somebody to watch Dancing with the Stars with her.
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It doesn't take that much money to watch Dancing with the Stars, so maybe you did have a point.
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I mean, maybe, now I'm tending, I tend to agree with you that you weren't lying.
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That you really were, if your boyfriend only needs to make $14,000, so he doesn't have that many requirements.
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So maybe you should fucking watch Dancing with the Stars.
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I don't think the chat likes my suit, by the way.
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I don't think I've ever worn a suit on the show, by the way.
04:58:33.420
Are you supposed to be the other character from Fight Club?
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He just said it was Halloween, so I thought it was another costume.
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That's why I thought he was being Edward Nguyen's character.
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But I think red would make it pop more, you know?
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I was going to say you need to be more like Alex.
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I wrote 100k a year, but it doesn't really matter to me too much because I'm literally
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only 18, but it's kind of more so the goal to work for.
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No, if it was truly the ideal, you'd say billionaire.
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I mean, I'm trying to be realistic because we're having a discussion.
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But maybe that weeds out a lot of people that are a waste of time for me to talk to.
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Why would somebody who makes $200,000 a year be a waste of time?
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I'm not saying that it's a factor that would determine me saying yes or no.
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But if he checks every box and he only makes $200,000, I'm not going to throw him
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Like what I'm trying to say is that there's all these boxes, right?
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But if he doesn't, then he better check all the other boxes.
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But if the right person has to make $300,000 a year, you've eliminated 98% of the dating
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But she said that if they check off the rest of the boxes, it's okay.
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I don't believe there's a guy that made $300,000 a day to do dreadlocks.
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Have you ever been with a professional athlete?
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I gotta be honest, $300,000 a year, that's a big ask.
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I mean, in the state of California, they say that's what you need to make to be able
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I'm just saying, when I look at a census of numbers and it shows all the states, $300,000
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what they say to live in California is the comfortable life.
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Well, you don't have to give me an exact number.
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I'm also doing 1099 work trying to make it as like doing all these different trades.
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So I'm at the beginning of a career, so I don't think it's applicable.
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I mean, I guess somebody could turn their shit around all crazy at 37, but I do think
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Look, I mean, again, men don't really care about your money, but like, I don't know.
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Genuinely, no one's ever asked me that question, because I don't think about that kind of
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This is the first time I've ever answered a questionnaire asking me that.
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I guess I'm just trying to manifest things by writing them down.
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And when you write it down, it's more powerful.
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I want a 10 out of 10 virgin, I don't know, who is a billionaire and has giant labia.
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No, but there's some billionaire and his daughter and he's going to pass away and leave
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Cause like her dad's probably not dead yet, but yeah, there'll be some billionaire and
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like some Batman style chick that won't, you know, inherit that.
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And she will be hot and she will be a virgin because her dad was like Batman.
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So you're saying $300,000 to live comfortably in California, right?
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I believe California is the third most expensive.
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So you're, you're choosing to live in a state that costs that much.
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I mean, that's not my longterm plan to live in this state though.
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I'm, I'm from California originally, so it's a little different cause I know a lot of
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you aren't from here, but my roots are here and I keep getting stuck in California.
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I can't help that I went to go live in Jamaica.
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I lived in Jamaica for about three months, but when I lived in Hawaii, I lived there for
05:04:15.420
You didn't bang one Rasta while you were there.
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I agree with Alex, but I believe that feminism is a cleverly disguised tool by Talmud Zionists
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that convinced women to be 304s and reject anything male, including patriarchy, including
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When people call you a 304, it means like you're for the streets.
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I believe you're the only one who, at least here in the questionnaire.
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You said that you believe the podcast is not genuine, but rather rage bait.
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You know, I feel like today's podcast was a lot more genuine.
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And the last one that I was on, I feel like we had a few.
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But we had a few more pretty uneducated women who really didn't know what they were talking
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But I felt like you particularly, you gravitated towards having long conversations with them,
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even though what they were saying made zero sense.
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And I was like, okay, there are people with better opinions.
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Overall, this panel seems much more educated and I feel like we're having a great banter.
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So wait, wouldn't that, wouldn't the blame then be placed on the stupid female?
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But I think that you were, you were particularly talking to the stupidest girls on the panel
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I just, I don't, but there was one girl with dreads and you were talking to her about
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She was like 19 years old or 18 and was, it was like really stupid.
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There was like the girl who looked like Jade Leno on there and all of her teeth were gone.
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And she was saying that she was like, she was saying that she was asexual, but then she
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texted me afterwards asking to like cuddle with my boobs with her and like her friends.
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But then there was another girl who was like in her late thirties and said she wanted her
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And she like rage quit because you just went at her for so long and she had like no opinions
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I honestly, I think she had blonde hair and she like had this accent and she was very skinny
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So like she was getting fatigued by the fact that you were constantly talking at her and
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But it was like, also they'd been talking for so long, but today was great.
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I want to come every time we have, you know, a political person.
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Everybody's like, you better tell these whores to close your legs, but you're like, but you're
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a different kind of whore because you're like a Groyper.
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I'll deny just about anything, but I didn't deny the Holocaust.
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I don't even think there's 6 million Jews in Germany.
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Well, they killed a lot more people than just Germany.
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Chair one, why do you have to live in California?
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Why not live in a less expensive place even if you have roots in Carly?
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I stated earlier my roots are in California because that's where my family lives.
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Honestly, anything over six figures, I kind of raise a bit of a eyebrow.
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So when you told me to write something down, I wrote it down.
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What I'm saying is you do have to imagine something before you do it.
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You have to, like, see yourself do it before you do it.
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Whether you're an athlete, you have to see yourself dunking the basketball.
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Even on this podcast, I guarantee you envisioned yourself doing the podcast before you did
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Well, I'll, like, think about, like, arguments or topics.
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When you're doing thought experiments, that's exactly what you're manifesting.
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I'm not even trying to be too woo-woo, but I'm saying when you're like, oh.
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I'm not necessarily an astrologer guy, but the sun, moon, and stars do have some power.
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This is the biggest lie I think they tell us, other than the fact that they tell us
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But, you know, it's the idea that when it comes to our history, that our ancestors were
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Like, we think that we're the smartest people ever.
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Because, like, George Washington had leeches on his body and, like, killed himself.
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You know, like, yeah, that he died in a weird sort of...
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But people living 2,000 years ago were just as...
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I would argue that they had to be smarter because they were able to map the stars without
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Well, I mean, they probably didn't have plastic in all their shit.
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Dietary stuff was a bit weird back then because a lot of people...
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I bet it was actually probably easier to hunt because the animals were probably...
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But in other ways, there could have been, like, malnutrition.
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Well, but, see, that's the thing is, like, I think, like, you know, there was that uncanny
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valley where, like, people started dying at, like, 40 and stuff.
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But I'm talking about, like, thousands of years ago.
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If you just think, like, people were in caves being stupid, no.
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The fact that they built the pyramids is, I mean, you know...
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I think to myself, and maybe this is just this idea that as things become more complex,
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If you're living 200 years ago, like, the barrier to entry for, like, inventing something
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You know, I'm trying to think of other famous...
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I'm trying to think of other, like, famous inventors.
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Yeah, but now, like, it's so advanced that I think it takes groups of people to make these,
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But I do wonder, like, who is the Einstein of today?
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And I'm not even trying to be annoying when I say this.
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The only reason why I don't think that's necessarily that accurate, because if you go
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and you look at, like, Uber Eats drivers in New York, or even taxi cab drivers that have
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been driving in the past, like, 10 years, they've been driving in the same city over and over
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for 10 years, but because they've been using GPS, they don't even know where they are,
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and that's the same with us, because if we don't actually train our brain, it doesn't...
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In the olden times, people had to challenge their brains differently, and now we don't
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because of AI, because of, you know, whatever things that makes our lives easier makes
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And that's why deep conversations are important, because it expands perspective, and, you know,
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When people challenge you, it's actually a good thing.
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I always tell people you shouldn't always have yes men around you.
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That's very dangerous, because when you're surrounded by yes, yes, yes, you're never
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Yeah, especially, like, an echo chamber, and, like, that's the worst thing.
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And that's, you know, like you were saying, how this show does rage bait.
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Yeah, like, maybe a little bit, but also, it does set up debates where people argue,
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And, like, you know, usually when you watch a debate, it's kind of confirmation bias.
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Like, you just want to hear somebody argue your side.
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But I'm telling you, like, even if you don't convince a person of your opinion, if you
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can kind of get somebody to question it, to question the subject, that's enough.
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Well, I'm saying, yeah, that's what this show, I think, does, is it kind of just, it
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may not convince somebody to be on your side, but it'll make them question their own
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It's like, when you guys are divided and don't talk, that's when bad things happen.
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But if you guys can come together, talk, find common ground, that's when real change can
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happen, and when people's minds start changing, and when they, you know, can see beyond what
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Yeah, and it's like, these conversations are awkward, sometimes they're cringe, you know,
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But it is important, and I'm actually kind of mad, though, that you're saying this is all
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too nice, and I thought this was going to be, like, a fight, I thought this was going
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It could still happen, something could still happen, it's not over.
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We still have about three hours left, but, no, I did think I was going to come in here
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and we're going to be, like, throwing bows the whole time, but everybody's been pretty
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Noah, I'll make it spicy for you, I'll take a conjure.
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Well, I just look, because you're the only one that we've had, I mean, really, we need to be
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fighting more, I mean, that's what the people want.
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But, also, I don't want to, like, just fight for the sake of argument to rage bait, I would
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like to actually, like, talk about something we're passionate about.
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When we first came in, I thought you were kind of stubborn-minded, and I see you're very
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Yeah, if the one girl that gets paid for sex doesn't like me, that's good, right?
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Because at least the other natural ones that value, like, personality and friendship
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I mean, I'm not even trying to start a fight, but I'm saying your value is different.
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Well, because you would let a stranger literally blast you for 500 bucks.
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I mean, so we do have a different, like, opinion.
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It's like you've had sex with a lot of strangers.
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I'm trying to be sarcastic, but I mean, you do sleep with strangers for money.
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You do value, like, you would literally sell yourself for, like, a finite cash amount.
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I mean, I think I even have an opinion about that because, you know, while I respect what
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you do, I think it's very unfortunate that porn stars, like you said, you're living kind
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I would not do OnlyFans if I did not think that it was going to make me wealthy.
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Yeah, I want to make this point, too, because this is, I guess, my one complaint, really,
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She owns the, you know, she is the one that's in charge of the production.
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Like, she owns the means of production is what we'd all want as a business.
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You know, we want to own the production and the distribution, which you have that ability
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because now of OnlyFans, which we didn't have 10 years ago, and you now have that ability,
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but you're still choosing to let other guys pay you.
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You say a lot, but not a ton, ton of money, and you don't have any control or power of
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So, like, I would think business-wise, she seems like a better businesswoman for doing
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I think it's almost just unfortunate because, like, yeah, you're doing this job.
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You're being controlled by, like, the men in the industry that are paying you and telling
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Whereas, for me, you know, I, you know, I don't have to answer to someone.
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She was about to call her a bigger whore because she was paying for money.
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The fact that, you know, being a porn star and making $500 on a scene versus me who
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gets to live comfy in my apartment, I get to take lewd photos and videos, and I get
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to make, I mean, I am, you know, making well above what she's making.
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You should be like, well, at least I don't have to do romance scams.
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I would even say there's more effort I have to put into my own job because I have to market
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myself and I don't know if porn stars take the easier route of laying there and getting
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paid the $500 versus I'm making content every single day of my life and I'm putting
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myself out there and I'm putting out my controversial opinions.
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Porn stars don't have to have controversial opinions, but I have to have a personality
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to make people want to give me money and I get a bigger reward than you do.
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I have no personality and I get paid $500 to fuck 10 midgets.
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What in the fuck your guys' like view of this is crazy.
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You said she's not putting herself at like at any risk or anything like that?
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No, I think that she's putting herself at a higher risk with less out with less like reward.
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Well, maybe we have the wrong perspective of you.
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Can you describe yourself so we can have a better understanding of how you would view
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There are many different things that happen in the adult industry, right?
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So majority of the work that I have done have been like workshops for married couples, you
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And some of them, like when I was at Kink in San Francisco working with Madison Young,
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So it's not always like, oh, I'm just getting railed by time.
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Here too, Brian was doing what he does best in every podcast he hosts, exposing the
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naivety and the tiredness of certain feminist female panelists.
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It didn't make for a good conversation the last time though.
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I don't think you clipped anything from that podcast.
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I didn't see the podcast clipped at all that episode.
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It went straight to someone who like, I don't know, had actual arguments on the podcast,
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but I don't think you clipped anything from anybody.
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Let's dive into some of this more interesting stuff, I guess.
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Women do not have equal rights to men in the USA.
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Technically, women have equal rights under the law, but there's still so much discrimination
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Women have more rights, because you guys don't have to be drafted.
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And I don't think women have the same power in the workplace that men do, still.
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I mean, OnlyFans, we were talking about the wage, discrepancy, they're making a lot more
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Not even just, like, OnlyFans where women are, like, you know, the top earners in that
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industry, like, the military and stuff, women get offered, like, promotions and rank up
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Like, Joe Biden literally said, I'm going to pick a woman.
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So, every man was not even eligible for the vice presidency.
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Everybody wants to say conservatives are racist.
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If you're a black person and you're a conservative, trust me, conservatives want to help you out
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If you're, like, an outspoken conservative woman, trust me, the conservative movement will...
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People think it's, like, he wants to be hated because he shares these mean memes.
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No, he wants to be liked, just like everybody wants to be liked.
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I think he also just likes to look at the women.
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I think it's hard if you're not a woman and you haven't been on the planet for a while
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to see all the ways that women are still discriminated against.
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I'm not saying there is an opportunity and there aren't, like, Kamala Harris's.
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But I don't think that women really have the equal opportunity that the facts might suggest
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So you're saying because there's more male CEOs, there's more male executives, men hold certain
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higher positions of power, whether it's government or in corporations?
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It's not necessarily men's fault, but I think it's a reflection of where society has been.
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And I think there still needs to be some changes to equalize things.
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But I'm not in favor of hire a woman just because she's a woman.
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Yeah, but I don't actually think that because there's more male CEOs that this is because
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of some sort of ingrained institutional racism in the corporations.
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I actually, well, I think it's very nuanced and varied.
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I'll wait to give my dating perspective because it's tied into dating a little bit.
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Uh, so there's this concept called the, uh, greater variability.
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Uh, greater male variability hypothesis or theory.
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Well, in any case, men and women have, uh, they're about equivalent in terms of average
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Google, however, what you'll see, Nick, uh, could you Google this please?
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So it might even be in the discord just so I can show you just to give.
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Let me just see if I just even have it in the infographics.
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Uh, do I have just Wikipedia greater male variability hypothesis.
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However, here's where there's a bit of a difference when it comes to greater male variability.
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There's way more genius IQ men than there are gene, like high, high, high IQ men.
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There's also way more really, really, really stupid men.
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There's more women who have like an average IQ than there are men who have an average IQ.
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So you have really, really stupid men, but also really, really smart men.
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Well, you know, you know, so, so click on the image really quick, Nick.
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So you're going to have to make a smaller a little bit.
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So this means essentially that you have more women in the middle who are have like an average IQ or whatever.
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And then you have a bunch of men who are really fucking stupid and dumb as fuck.
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And then, but then you also have a, uh, another proportion of men who are just really, really highly intelligent.
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To be clear, that's not to say that there aren't women who are just as intelligent.
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It's just that there's more men who fall into that high, high, high IQ intelligence.
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So there's many different emotional intelligence.
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I don't know what the chart would look like on that, but I guarantee women are winning that.
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This is true because I talk a lot about transgenders and women's sports.
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And this is the one that people don't talk about.
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There's actually a transgender chess player, a guy that identifies as a woman that was dominating chess and chess made rules.
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Chess made rules outlawing transgenders because women didn't want to have to compete against men because men are better chess players than women.
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And that's because their IQ is higher on average.
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And that's why women want to keep men out of their chess league.
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So even if there are more male CEOs because men have higher IQs, let's just say that's the reason or that's a primary reason.
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I still feel based on my own experience in life and what I've seen with other people that there's still a lot of discrimination against women, even the way women are treated.
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I mean, just look at even for example, to me, this is a form of what I'm talking about in this room.
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You know, I pushed back on being submissive or describe the kind of relationship I want.
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And you guys called me masculine and aggressive.
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Trying to describe your personality because you're very outspoken.
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He then said the exact words masculine and aggressive.
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He said type A and I asked him to elaborate on what he meant by type A.
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And then you said more masculine and aggressive.
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So this is one of the things I mean is that if a woman has an opinion or she pushes back
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or she has a strong personality, that it's type A, masculine, aggressive.
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And none of these things are compliments, by the way, when they come from men.
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And when a woman acts like that, she's seen as a bitch.
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I know, but there's a lot of women that act like that and are bitches.
05:28:08.420
But there are a lot of women who aren't bitches, who are smart and capable.
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But if they try to assert themselves, they're seen in these negative lights and they're kept
05:28:20.420
Alex Stein oppressed you on the whatever market.
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And he also told me I'm only confident because I'm desperate to get paid.
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I'm just saying, when you have less time on the clock, you're more urgent.
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But that's the last thing I'm trying to do is get laid.
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But what you're missing is a woman at my age doesn't care about that anymore.
05:28:49.420
All these hoes have got a bunch of Hail Marys they're trying to score on.
05:28:54.420
There's not a lot of time left on the clock, so you've got to take bigger chances and more risks.
05:29:01.420
Speaking of, speaking of, one moment here while it gets going.
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Guys, if you're enjoying the stream, like the video, please.
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If we get the likes to – why isn't it showing me the likes?
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Here, I have to just pull it up in another tab.
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I will bring Alex Stein, Pimp on a Blimp, 99, back on the show.
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There's going to be enough brown in that room already.
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And you know, no Hispanic would ever get mad at you for wearing a sombrero.
05:30:03.420
And I would argue – and this is to the one black woman.
05:30:06.420
I know you were kind of saying earlier like, oh, it depends on how they wear dreads.
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But I feel like you just kind of gave a politically correct answer.
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Like, is it racist for a white woman to wear dreads?
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Again, I think it just depends on her intention and just like, you know, the message behind it.
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If you're racist, you shouldn't be wearing any type of hairstyle that does not belong to a Caucasian community.
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See, I would argue – because I consider myself – I'm primetime 99.
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And so I feel like that means I like black people more because, like, I try to be black.
05:30:48.420
But my point is, on a serious note, I like black culture.
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So, you know, like, I can't be racist because I love black people.
05:30:58.420
Well, if you love black people, then you're not racist.
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But if you say racist or do racist things to just, like, a specific community, then you're doing racial – you may have racial behavior or racial statements.
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But the example I'm talking about is, like, a wigger, like, culturally appropriating.
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Like, is it bad if a white guy wears, like, you know, a do-rag?
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I know, like, I'm going to be – you can know every Eminem song.
05:31:38.420
You just need to be comfortable and confident in who you are.
05:31:40.420
You need to – it needs to come from a genuine, passionate standpoint.
05:31:44.420
If you love soul food and you genuinely love soul food, there's nothing wrong with that.
05:31:54.420
In the research tab, maybe on Discord, anybody in the Discord?
05:31:59.420
Give Alex Stein some white boy cornrows and let's see how it looks.
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We just need 800 likes and we're going to do a big booty Latina.
05:32:18.420
They're getting all – but if you're a nine, you're fine.
05:32:20.420
But if you're a six, you better hit the bricks.
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So when you do the self-rating, you better not say a six or else you're getting deported
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if one of you Latinas are watching this right now.
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I think Alex is referring to the transformation of thought into action.
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Manifestation is wishing or believing that something will appear before you out of nothing,
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But I think, like, manifest, you have to, like, envision yourself doing it.
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In fact, I am manifesting that every single woman here at this table gives me all their
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And I know you're making content before you started the podcast, but the first time
05:34:05.420
you ever podcasted, you kind of had to manifest that.
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It's this idea of if you just think enough, if you...
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I think in order for something to be successful, you'd have to have some preconceived, like,
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There's self-work you have to do as part of it.
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A lot of people on websites would be like, if you write down a thousand times, like,
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There's, like, people that say this on these manifestations.
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Like, if you write it down a certain amount of times, it'll come true.
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I don't necessarily believe that if you just write it down, it'll get a magic wish.
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But I do believe that you have to, like, envision your goal before you achieve it.
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And you can't achieve your goal unless you have a clear vision of it.
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If that's the definition, you just, like, think about it or envision it.
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But most, like, actual intentional actions, like building a business.
05:35:19.420
Technically, everything would be a manifestation.
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I am manifesting my cup in my hand and drinking water.
05:35:29.420
But the intention of your hand doing the movement to bring it to your...
05:35:35.420
And I'm telling you, there's actually been stories where people are on the border that
05:35:44.420
There's been times where people in the desert, like, having a drug coyote mule, and they're
05:35:48.420
And they go off track, and they're about to dive dehydration.
05:35:51.420
And they're just thinking about water, thinking about water, and they find a random jug of
05:35:54.420
water in, like, the desert of Mexico in America.
05:36:00.420
Like, what about all the people that just died?
05:36:05.420
But another people don't want to think about it like this.
05:36:07.420
But, Brian, every single thing that you've gotten in your life has you've gotten in
05:36:11.420
And if you actually want something in this world, you have to work with the universe,
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Every single thing that you've gotten has been you working hand in hand with the universe.
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You know, before every show, I think to myself, all the single women...
05:36:36.420
I'm like, even the women who got boyfriends, I'm thinking, I'm manifesting a post-show
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Involving me and the rest of the female panelists.
05:36:48.420
I've done nearly 300 shows, Alex, and I've yet to manifest the post-show orgy.
05:37:04.420
Brian, I guarantee you probably banged some chicks from this show, right?
05:37:13.420
Maybe you haven't had a 10-person orgy, but you probably have...
05:37:15.420
Yeah, but why can't I manifest the post-show orgy?
05:37:22.420
If you really want to have an orgy on the show one day, I bet you could happen.
05:37:28.420
I'm going to sit here for seven hours and, like, argue with girls and be kind of abrasive
05:37:32.420
and then afterwards, they're just like, wow, Brian, I had a great time.
05:37:41.420
They see you have a big following and they'll just bang.
05:37:47.420
So we just get a couple more of her and then, you know, 2,000 bucks.
05:37:52.420
Brian, one person who has a podcast who did manifest exactly what you're asking for is Brian 22.
05:37:57.420
Him and his wife, Leah the Plug, Adam 22, sorry, Adam 22, and Leah the Plug have a podcast
05:38:04.420
where they bring on porn stars and they fuck them every single time.
05:38:07.420
That's the requirement of being on the podcast.
05:38:09.420
You could have made that if that's what you were looking for.
05:38:11.420
Yeah, but that's not what I'm really getting at here.
05:38:22.420
I'm like, I want all these women, you know, I'll give a pass to the married women here.
05:38:29.420
Yeah, I want all these women, whatever, to just have an orgy with me after the show.
05:38:32.420
Well, what's funny is you don't really want that.
05:38:34.420
You don't want, see, and that's the other thing is you actually have to believe.
05:38:38.420
If you really wanted that, you'd make it happen.
05:38:39.420
Just like how you actually believed that you wanted this to be a successful show and you manifested that.
05:38:43.420
Well, look, to be fair, I'm more of a one-on-one guy.
05:38:54.420
And I bet if you thought about it enough, Brian, you got it in life.
05:38:59.420
I prefer to disappoint only one woman at this time.
05:39:15.420
But if you really want that, you can have that orgy.
05:39:20.420
The reason it works isn't because you can just dream of something and sit on your ass all day and it's gonna come true.
05:39:27.420
But psychologically, whatever you think about and focus on, you will end up taking action to bring to fruition.
05:39:41.420
Right, because that's not what you really want.
05:39:48.420
I will proposition some of the single women at the table.
05:40:06.420
But before you got that nice car, I'm guessing it's a nicer car.
05:40:12.420
You didn't think about your car before you got it?
05:40:14.420
I'm driving the same car that I've had since 2013.
05:40:26.420
But Alex, every good thing that happens to you isn't necessarily manifested.
05:40:30.420
I want to get back to propositioning some of the same ones.
05:40:33.420
No, no, but good things happen to you out of your control.
05:40:34.420
But things that you control, like if you can't see it, you can't achieve it.
05:40:38.420
Yeah, I mean, visualization is extremely powerful.
05:40:49.420
After the show, I wish to have carnal knowledge with you and...
05:40:56.420
Well, everybody's got fucking boyfriends and girlfriends.
05:41:08.420
And you have to dump your boyfriend and then we can live happily ever after.
05:41:21.420
If that's how you feel about manifestation and that's why you don't manifest.
05:41:26.420
But real people who manifest manifest correctly.
05:41:31.420
You're saying if I had enough belief that I could manifest sleeping...
05:41:42.420
Could I have manifested sleeping with Megan Fox back when we were both younger?
05:41:51.420
That would have an impact on somebody else's free will.
05:41:53.420
But if that was really what you wanted and you were obsessed with it, you would probably
05:42:01.420
You'd be able to manifest like a good relationship with a celebrity.
05:42:04.420
But if you're like crazy, you're obsessed with Taylor Swift, you could manifest a thing
05:42:07.420
where you're so obsessed with them, then you go to their house and now you've
05:42:09.420
got to go to court with them every day for a year.
05:42:14.420
So you manifested a relationship with this person.
05:42:16.420
Like if you thought, if you think about it so much, I know, but you can't make it
05:42:21.420
I mean, it's not going to all necessarily come true exactly as you envision, but I've
05:42:25.420
made a lot of things happen that I was told were impossible by really, really focusing
05:42:29.420
on them, visualizing them, writing them, and then taking action to support them.
05:42:43.420
I'm going to draw a picture of a half Filipino, half-black beauty.
05:42:56.420
And I feel like there's definitely been an orgy on this table at some point.
05:43:14.180
Men must be leaders, protectors, providers while teaching, guiding, and disciplining their children.
05:43:20.120
Men who abnegate their authority to women allow delusional feminists to destroy the family unit.
05:43:47.920
Factors in chat can't remember her name says it all.
05:43:59.020
Wait, where's the Michael Jackson fucking hashtag adzils?
05:44:14.460
I've attempted to manifest a lot of pussy coming my way.
05:44:26.500
Like, if it was up to me, every single woman in the world...
05:44:32.600
I think you just need to buy an online course and it will really help you.
05:44:35.340
$5,000 on an online course and you will learn how to manifest.
05:44:38.040
I could teach you how to manifest in an hour for free.
05:44:42.240
And then you haven't probably actually manifested.
05:44:46.880
You might want it, but I don't know if you've done the practice of manifestation.
05:45:22.500
Look, she's in her 40s, but she's still a babe.
05:45:25.400
Well, you don't just manifest for material things, but I would also argue sex is not a thing.
05:45:36.980
Manifesting a relationship with somebody I think is probably possible if you're obsessed
05:45:40.880
with that person, but I think you're losing the point, Brian.
05:45:43.440
It's more like, you know, manifesting is like a something that you can achieve other than
05:45:58.820
I think everything that I've achieved, I refuse to buy into this idea that it came to me
05:46:26.280
I think probably through your own specific right action, you made that shit happen.
05:46:36.480
The efforts that you made to make that happen and all the hard work you did.
05:46:41.280
Everything good that has come to me in my life is because of me.
05:46:46.020
Not because I thought about it and the universe bestowed it upon me.
05:46:56.500
Well, you have to work hard to manifest it, too.
05:46:58.340
Like, this is the example, and I really should post this clip, but it's, you know, years
05:47:02.320
Before I, you know, called AOC my favorite big booty Latina, I spoke at this...
05:47:07.480
That same week, I spoke at the Dallas Young Republicans Club, and in my speech, I talked
05:47:10.960
about how I was about to go to D.C. and I was going to run into AOC.
05:47:16.340
I didn't mean it because I was like, I said this, Brian.
05:47:22.160
I had to go stand on the Capitol steps for two hours and look like an idiot, you know,
05:47:25.960
But I'm telling you, I said it out loud in front of a group of people, and it literally
05:47:32.460
So I do think you can say something and think about it.
05:47:41.000
Because I did work my ass off to get that book deal.
05:47:44.900
Don't discount the hard work by talking about this manifest bullshit.
05:47:49.700
But I think the manifesting helped me feel excited to do the work.
05:47:56.320
Like I kept manifesting it, and that's what made me write every day and pitch to agents.
05:48:01.260
Don't discount the actual actions and effort and work that you did.
05:48:10.680
Somebody wants to tell me, well, Brian, you sent out positive vibes to the universe,
05:48:17.740
They gave it to you because you manifested properly.
05:48:29.160
Tell my message to bunk your argument, so you never got lucky.
05:48:32.660
You've never, in your time, in doing this content creation, you've never gotten lucky.
05:48:37.180
Every single bit of success you've had is from hard work.
05:48:39.520
The girl with the red hair really helped put you on the chart, I really feel like.
05:48:49.000
This podcast would be in the exact same position if she never came on the show.
05:48:54.780
But you're telling me, along the way, you don't think that you ever got lucky?
05:49:00.220
There had to be time when you had a guest, like Charlie Kirk or something.
05:49:07.920
But look, I think there can be moments captured or certain guests that, but I don't know if
05:49:27.100
And the rest is creating an environment for those moments to manifest.
05:49:33.800
But a cake without baking, a cake without a few tablespoons of baking soda doesn't rise.
05:49:40.060
A little bit of something doesn't make the finished product work.
05:49:45.420
But Brian, to your point, I think if you really want something and you want to work so hard,
05:49:50.300
then let's even just describe it as focus, putting all your energy on that thing and
05:49:54.660
working your ass off, that's what makes it happen.
05:49:58.900
You built the scenario you have now, and it brings on people that help you grow your
05:50:05.160
If you were just sitting here by yourself, you wouldn't get the recognition you do by
05:50:09.440
building a community where you can have people on and have these kind of discussions
05:50:18.800
You've done a great job of manifesting your reality.
05:50:36.920
Because he'd let me be a part of it if he doesn't.
05:50:40.420
Okay, getting back to the original thing, though.
05:50:43.060
We were talking about women do not have equal rights to men in the USA.
05:50:45.740
Are you the only one that, does anybody here else agree with her?
05:50:53.720
I was talking about, we were talking about wage gap.
05:50:58.680
I brought up the greater male variability hypothesis.
05:51:03.560
The other one that I wanted to relate to as it relates to dating is women's own dating
05:51:08.540
preferences and standards creates a mating pressure that is one directional, that applies
05:51:22.500
So I believe because of this mating pressure that exists on men that never really exists
05:51:29.900
So women, when it comes to making money, women have a survival basis for wanting to earn money
05:51:38.740
You want to have travel, whatever men have that too.
05:51:41.680
But on top of all those things, survival, you know, you need, you need rent paid.
05:51:48.080
Men and women have, I would just say, equal survival motivation for making money.
05:51:55.920
Men have an additional motivation that I don't think women have when it comes to making
05:52:10.800
If the bottleneck, I guess, for lack of a better word, for men getting really anything,
05:52:18.340
any, any sort of level of anything from a woman, whether it's a date, uh, whether it's
05:52:24.140
even if they just want casual sex, they want casual sex, they want a date, they want a long-term
05:52:28.120
relationship, they want a wife, they want a girlfriend, they want children one day for
05:52:32.580
There is a component of, I need to be financially in a good spot.
05:52:38.960
I need to be, uh, financially or economically attractive as it's sometimes called.
05:52:53.840
Uh, and so this creates a asymmetry in terms of motivation for men because, and by the way,
05:53:01.820
I think men are, I think men are more, they're definitely at least more sex motivated.
05:53:10.340
I don't know if there's a difference in terms of like romance.
05:53:13.020
When I say romance, I just mean like more serious long-term dating motivation.
05:53:17.760
I, it's probably comparable because men, actually, you can make an argument.
05:53:22.260
Men want it more because I saw this study and I don't know if we pulled it up.
05:53:26.760
Nick, in the discord, I think it's, it's in infographics.
05:53:47.560
And so at the top of the priority, well, okay, hold on.
05:53:55.520
So it's not men who voted for Trump versus women who voted for Kamala men who voted Gen
05:54:01.280
Z men who voted for Trump, their primary definition of what success means have children get married.
05:54:12.280
It's a, it's above have a high paying job, be successful financially for Gen Z women who
05:54:19.040
voted for Kamala, having a job, making good money, that's at the top for them and having
05:54:25.300
children and getting married is at the very bottom for Gen Z women who voted for Kamala.
05:54:31.720
And so I could, I might actually be, I think maybe in some ways men are more even romantically
05:54:38.360
They, they, men might even want, you know, the more long-term serious family than women
05:54:47.040
But so for men to get, whether it's casual sex, long-term relationship, a wife, especially
05:54:53.720
for the long-term for the wife, they need to be economically, financially attractive to
05:54:59.360
Men really don't care from an attraction perspective.
05:55:04.600
Like most households, you need two bread or not two bread, you need two incomes to be
05:55:13.440
But if the, there does come a point once a guy makes enough money, doesn't care.
05:55:25.740
It'd be nice if she's not in like debt or something.
05:55:28.160
I'd probably still date a girl who even has debt.
05:55:36.440
So I would argue that the reason, the reason that men occupy this, that they're the CEO,
05:55:43.080
that they're in the C-suite, that they're executives, that they make more money.
05:55:49.740
I don't believe the wage gap exists if you control for it.
05:55:52.200
But even if it did exist, even if this wage gap exists, oh, it's unfair, there's 80% of
05:55:59.880
It's women's own dating preferences and women's demand for providers and for men to pay on
05:56:08.820
That creates enough of a social cultural pressure, a mating pressure on men that doesn't exist
05:56:18.860
Y'all can get dick without, you don't need money.
05:56:25.400
I need to be at least, I can't be, if we could fuck women in cardboard boxes, trust me, we
05:56:32.720
But I can't, I can't fuck a girl in a cardboard box.
05:56:35.960
I mean, some of y'all probably have to hump this guy.
05:56:38.360
Well, I mean, there are like broke, well, there are broke guys that can still get laid, but
05:56:42.380
generally though, you do need to be successful male.
05:56:48.100
Look, to, to be fair, yeah, of course, like women deal with broke men all the time also.
05:56:57.500
A guy with debt, a guy going on a first day and saying, I got $25,000 in credit card debt
05:57:11.760
So Gen Z, men who voted for Trump, having children, 34%, being married, 29% at number
05:57:18.760
four, financial independence, women who voted for Harris, fulfilling job career, 51%.
05:57:27.800
And then if you look at the bottom there, having children is at the very bottom, being married
05:57:36.880
I mean, probably would be different if we were comparing conservative men to conservative
05:57:42.520
Harris voters also want free abortions for everybody.
05:57:51.760
That's my perspective on, well, I almost wonder if it's sexism from women.
05:58:02.820
I don't disagree with you that men have to be successful and have an unfair pressure
05:58:09.140
But you have to also keep in mind, women weren't even allowed to really enter the workplace
05:58:18.880
Women couldn't get credit cards to their early 80s.
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The year I was born, I could not have signed a mortgage without my husband or daddy signing
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I hope you don't get married at, like, one year old, but-
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No, but I mean, that's the point, that if I was alive at that time.
05:58:34.640
So there definitely have been things that have changed, but I think there's a backlog.
05:58:39.660
I don't think we're going to see the same thing of rates of CEOs 20 and 30 years from
05:58:45.120
now, in part because of those Gen Z stats for Kamala Harris.
05:58:56.680
But women have, hold on, women have been in the workforce for a very long time, and there
05:59:06.860
However, I think part of it, I think we're ignoring some components of it.
05:59:12.300
Like, for example, historically, men were, husbands were responsible for the wife's debts,
05:59:18.720
So there was some degree of, I think we have to look at it with some deeper analysis here
05:59:25.240
where, yes, men had, like, certain additional privileges or whatever, and women didn't.
05:59:35.100
But women have worked throughout all of human history.
05:59:38.440
But women were not, it was not a predominantly typical thing.
05:59:42.460
Even in the 80s, I knew very few moms that were working that I grew up with.
05:59:50.140
My grandmother is the second woman to graduate from SMU Law School.
05:59:55.800
So, like, it wasn't that long ago women couldn't go to law school.
05:59:58.320
Yeah, my mom went to Fordham, and she was the first year that women were allowed to go
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Well, within the last 50 years, women could go to law school.
06:00:05.720
Well, speaking of college, though, you bring up college.
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So, starting in the 1980s, I think it was 1979, 1980, ever since that year, women have been
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going to college and graduating from college at higher rates than men.
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So, that's when there was more women going to college, more women graduating from college,
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So, women who graduated at that point, when there were more women who started going to
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college, it started in the 1980s, they're retired.
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If you graduated college in 1980, you're 65, 66, you're retirement age.
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So, you've had, there's been an entire generation of women who have had that experience of, yeah,
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The majority of women are going to college, and they're retired now.
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So, more, by the way, more women do go to college.
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It varies from institution to institution, but overall.
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Like, a couple of decades ago, the only jobs that was really acceptable for women who went
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to college to have were being teachers or nurses.
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It was not acceptable for women to go into the boardroom and take over.
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I don't really think there's a boys' club anymore.
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When you see, like, people like Dylan Mulvaney and that Bud Light campaign where that woman
06:01:47.080
decided to run a beer company, and Bud Light's famous for their great beer ads, and the
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first time you put a woman in charge of it, they almost tanked the whole company?
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I'm not saying it's across the board in every industry.
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Like, in my industry, it's actually better to be a woman.
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We can't even find enough men who want to be therapists.
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But there are certain industries, like hedge funds.
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I mean, there's a million things where it's still a good old boys' club.
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Industries that make a top dollar, a lot of them are still male-dominant.
06:02:21.580
But I don't know if, I don't really think women are really getting, like, historically,
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I don't really think women had a raw deal here.
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It was like, okay, you could support a family on one income, one breadwinner, the man works,
06:02:39.180
That, I don't know, working, like, most women, or not even just women, most people are not
06:02:46.760
going to have some ultra-fulfilling, like, you wake up in the morning and you're like,
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I think a lot of people have either, like, tough jobs, shitty jobs, or they're working
06:03:01.480
They're sitting at a desk, a cubicle, some open office space, fucking bullshit.
06:03:06.720
That's, you think, like, these women on their deathbed, they're going to be like, yeah, I
06:03:10.900
worked for, um, I worked for IBM and I, I, I was in Toledo, Ohio, or I don't know where
06:03:19.720
I, and I was an HR, I was a project manager, HR.
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It's like, and, oh man, that, that one, you know, I was in the corporate office and like,
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I hired those people and I was the HR and I, those people that said rude things.
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I had that one time I, I had that really, like, I fucking schooled that person who was
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You're not going to think about that shit on your deathbed.
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Well, not if it's that job, but I think the point is to be able to choose for men and
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If I'm a woman and I want to be the CEO, which I don't, by the way, then I want to be able
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I believe women should have the choice, but in so doing, you have taken the choice away
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But the unintended consequence of doubling the labor pool and open and having like unhinged
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feminism is that women really, the economic reality now is you need two incomes.
06:04:36.940
Yes, the economy is very nuanced, very complicated, lots of factors.
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But the reality is when you double the labor pool, if you double the supply of labor, you
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There's, there's, you have less negotiating power from labor, the labor side.
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So look, I think women should obviously for the sake of equality, I guess women should
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have the choice, be allowed to work, no dispute there.
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But we should acknowledge the unintended consequence.
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Now you've become women now, no longer really have, some women can meet wealthy guys, but
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most, the reality is 90, 90%, 95% of women, they're going to have to work too.
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You've taken the choice away though, from the women who would have been like, you know
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Yeah, but you've taken the choice away from them because a lot of women who'd be happy
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It's not affordable for most people anymore, right?
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You know, that's how we brainwash young children to think that their only success that women
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can have is by being a boss babe or being, you know, uh, you know, doing some sort of
06:05:55.800
job or corporate America, which is the farthest thing from the truth.
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It's like I was saying earlier, nature versus nurture, because women don't envision being
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That's why less people are choosing to even, you know, go on that farm.
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I think the hard part is there are women who don't feel totally fulfilled by that alone.
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But then there are some, I mean, I have friends that are stay-at-home moms and they love it.
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And they're in economically privileged circumstances that enable them to do it, all the power to
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I think regardless of my own financial circumstances, I would have wanted to do something for a career
06:06:40.700
We have a couple of chats, then I need to step away for just a moment.
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I believe in thought into action, such as an artist thinking about what he wants to make
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and putting in the time and hard work to make it real.
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I don't believe in the idea of instant manifestation.
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But no, the conversation about male versus female, I just think that what you're saying,
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how it's harder for women, there are some truths to that, but there's some stuff that's harder
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Yeah, and I'm not like a, I hate the idea that feminist is synonymous with wanting to
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break up the nuclear family or being against men.
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To me, being a feminist just means, and I don't even walk around calling myself a feminist,
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but I am a feminist in that I believe things should be equal.
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I don't believe men and women are the same, but I don't think it's cool that a couple,
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decades ago, I couldn't get a mortgage or a credit card.
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And, you know, you might disagree as the one African-American woman on the panel, but like,
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there, you know, there's, well, there's an argument.
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Well, I know, and Filipina, and Filipina, but, you know, there's actually some arguments,
06:08:16.700
I don't know if I 100% agree with it, but maybe a little bit, that actually segregation was
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But desegregation was bad, because during segregation, black communities had to lean
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on each other, so it made their communities stronger.
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I'm not saying I'm pro-segregation, but I'm saying societies, black people were more successful
06:08:40.780
in a segregated society because they were able to lift each other up within their own
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And so, like, a workforce that would be segregated, it would be easier for the woman to be in
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Because maybe there were some accidental, unintended positive consequences floating around there,
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but I'm never going to get behind anything that says segregation was good.
06:09:10.880
No, no, no, like, the reason why, like, desegregation was bad, because, like, in theory, like, you're
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like, that, of course, that's good, you know, it sounds like it'd be good.
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But there's also, like, the idea that once everything got, you know, segregated, or excuse
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me, once everything got desegregated, it made their community a lot weaker because then,
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like, a lot of the powerful white businesses where they, people weren't allowed to shop
06:09:29.940
with, now, like, a black person, a black-owned business might have had a monopoly on these
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Now they're competing against a white business owner, and, like, the KKK was started by Democrats.
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And, you know, one of the reasons the KKK was actually started, a lot of people don't
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know, was because a lot of black businesses, they would go and burn down black businesses,
06:09:45.800
and it wasn't just because they didn't like black people, they didn't like that they were
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And I'm not saying that I want to stay segregated, but do you see how, like, in a society, it sounds
06:10:01.360
crazy, but believe it or not, black people could have been more successful in a segregated society.
06:10:04.860
No, from a competitive economic standpoint, I can understand that, but it shouldn't have
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been segregated in the first place, and then we would have just had, like, a free marketplace
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of normal valuing human beings at the same time.
06:10:16.060
Bring up, bring up, so it's unfair, right, that women, you know, couldn't work or whatever,
06:10:26.480
Yeah, I mean, we're talking about conscription, the drafts.
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They don't even have to, maybe, do they now have to apply for selection?
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But to what you just said before, I mean, there were even very large, predominantly black
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communities where these communities liked having their own, you know, in the middle
06:10:47.240
of New York City where they have is a Times Square that used to be a booming black neighborhood
06:10:52.160
with businesses and, you know, white people, Central Park and white people, you know, did
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not like that, and they went in, they burned it down, they turned it into, you know, so black
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They liked having their towns, they liked their communities, and it was taken away from
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them to a certain degree when they would become successful because they were.
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You're having, like, a, I know it's a weird argument, and we're not trying to argue
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We're just saying there's unintended consequences that you don't really think of because you
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think all of a sudden the world's going to get better, but then really the world's
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So it's like all these women, oh, hey, you're going to be, you're going to have the opportunity
06:11:25.940
But really, most people aren't going to be that CEO, and they sell you this idea that you're
06:11:30.160
going to be super successful, and that's not really the case.
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I think I'm just saying, in principle, these things should be options.
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For the woman who wants to stay home, stay home.
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For the man who wants to stay home and have a sugar mama, stay home.
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Like, everyone should live their life the way they want to and have the opportunity to.
06:11:50.860
And you said this earlier, like, you know stay-at-home moms that still went into business because
06:11:56.480
Yeah, I mean, that's me, although I guess I was forced economically to go to work, but
06:12:00.960
looking back, I was not really that happy as a stay-at-home mom.
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And maybe if my marriage had been better, I would have been happier because when I got
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And I'll never know how much of that was not having a career and how much of that was
06:12:23.640
But now that I have a career I do really love, I'm very grateful to have it.
06:12:27.840
And I'm grateful to have a husband that, I mean, we're very equal economically.
06:12:32.020
And I, I'm grateful that my husband supports the fact that I work and even though he's
06:12:39.100
He does make jokes a lot about like, I think at heart, and I don't know if he's still awake
06:12:44.900
because it's really late on the East coast, but that's okay.
06:12:49.840
I secretly think on some level he would like it if I was a little more traditional and submissive.
06:12:59.600
Yeah, especially a guy who's in his sixties and grew up in the South.
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Well, I don't think you're like a crazy psycho feminist.
06:13:13.440
And that is the problem where like people like myself and maybe Brian a little bit,
06:13:17.900
where you look at radical feminism where it's been hijacked because like, I don't think
06:13:21.780
Brian wants women to feel like they can't go and achieve something if they're, you know,
06:13:25.260
passionate about something like, you know, it's not like we live in,
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1922 or whatever, 1970s where women couldn't get credit cards.
06:13:32.520
So I, it's just some of the women, I guess we get mad in society that the idea like feminism
06:13:41.400
is these radical leftists that teach women to be sluts.
06:13:45.680
And then all these women get ran through by guys.
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So now these guys are all have microplastics in their balls.
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And all these girls are whores that have slept with all their best friends.
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So it like creates this horrible, vicious cycle.
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That's what's happening where everybody's screwed.
06:13:59.800
The girls are screwed and the guys are screwed.
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And I think that's true because the amount of people they say men are having sex is less
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And you guys in therapy, people are having so little sex.
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Even my young couples, people are having so little sex.
06:14:25.240
And you know, one thing my colleague and I who do our podcast, it's for women, middle
06:14:31.640
But we talk a lot about how like men are not doing okay right now and things aren't really
06:14:43.040
And I mean, everybody's kind of already knows it.
06:14:45.100
But like we were talking about earlier, but the amount of pornography too is causing men.
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And now we have access to it where it wasn't like that.
06:14:52.580
When I was in high school, we had a one Playboy magazine that we all shared.
06:15:02.260
I mean, the internet came out when I was like in, I mean, it was out before I was in high
06:15:05.840
But when I was, the high school was the first time I started to use the internet.
06:15:09.080
But now kids are on the internet at seven, eight, you know.
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And I don't care how many parental locks you have on the phone.
06:15:15.700
Kids can figure out a way, you know, to get past the parental lock.
06:15:18.560
And you can see stuff that a young developing brain shouldn't be exposed to.
06:15:26.720
How tall are you and what's the minimum height of a man you would date?
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And it's not important to me, but like, I would like them to be a few inches taller than
06:15:40.360
I'm 5'6", and I would like them to at least be 5'9".
06:15:46.680
So I'm 5'3", and I put 5'10", because that was my shortest boyfriend ever, my ex-husband.
06:15:54.580
I think 90% of women put, they have to be over six feet tall.
06:15:57.840
Somebody can fact check that, but it's like that range that they put six feet, but you
06:16:08.480
So the shortest for me has to be like no shorter than 5'6".
06:16:15.720
I'm 5'3", and obviously they have to be midgets, right?
06:16:24.000
I'm 5'4", and I think I would have to be a minimum of like 5'7".
06:16:47.200
So you're going to date a 5'3 guy that makes $14,000 as long as he'll watch Dancing with
06:16:55.700
Like, you've got to be the crazy, all these women up here, and you're the craziest one.
06:17:12.020
Once the car accident heals, though, right now you're in hiatus.
06:17:16.120
While I was away, you were saying how women, they couldn't work.
06:17:24.080
I think, you know, if we look at that in a vacuum, women couldn't work.
06:17:41.420
But if we, if we zoom out and we look at society as a whole, this historical, I mean, I kind of contest a little bit that women couldn't work.
06:17:51.820
But, you know, just for sake of conversation, sure.
06:17:54.200
Maybe certain fields they wouldn't have access to.
06:17:56.740
It was like society frowned, societally frowned upon.
06:18:00.720
But I kind of think if we look at, do a comparison of the two traditional roles.
06:18:11.460
And I, you're doing an assessment of who had it worse in total.
06:18:32.760
But also I think there's probably like really good experiences.
06:18:39.520
I think a lot of women today wish they could have that, but they can't because of feminism.
06:18:44.740
But I would just say like if we look at the negative outcomes when it comes to men, like I think it was kind of a good deal.
06:18:54.940
You be the little worker aunts, the worker bees, the slaves essentially.
06:19:01.580
And you provide for your family and your wife and your kids.
06:19:05.260
And the woman gets to stay within the comfort of home.
06:19:08.960
And it's the men that go out into the – I mean sometimes these men, they're going out into the fucking wilderness.
06:19:17.320
So if we look at like historical trades, World War I, World War II, all these wars, men – women were – I don't know if spared is the right word.
06:19:27.760
Women were protected from the barbarisms that many men did have to witness and see.
06:19:36.960
It's this sort of like you're looking at like specifics.
06:19:46.380
And then if you look – I know you want to come in.
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If we look at the work that was historically available – let's go back 100 years, 150 years.
06:20:07.680
In the 1800s, there weren't fucking campuses with free masseuses and free food and coffee and fucking, I don't know, ping pong tables.
06:20:20.680
The work that was available 100, 200 years ago was primarily physical labor.
06:20:25.700
And the biological, physiological reality is men are better suited to physical work.
06:20:34.120
And I think it's actually kind of a privilege that men were like, you know what?
06:20:41.180
We'll get black lung so that you women can stay in comfort inside the home and in the fucking cabin with the fire and we'll go down into the mines and we'll get black lung and fucking destroy our bodies and die at 40.
06:21:03.180
I mean, but the jobs that were available to women, you know, what do we think those were?
06:21:09.760
Wait, why do you want to bring it to prostitution?
06:21:13.740
I'm saying that it's only until fucking air conditioning was invented that all these jobs –
06:21:21.640
You know, there wasn't like a big feminist push in the 1800s like, yes, we want to be fucking beaver poachers or I don't know what the fuck people were doing back then.
06:21:31.700
Oh, yeah, I want to go hunt or do all this shit.
06:21:36.460
Yeah, if you weren't having a family, you were a teacher or you were a nurse or you were a prostitute.
06:21:44.520
No, I'm not saying that they were – you were a mother, you were a teacher, you were a nurse, or you –
06:21:50.880
Women throughout history, like if there's like the family business in the 1800s, 1900s, they'd be secretaries, they'd help out around the shop, they'd help out around the farm.
06:22:01.500
So – and also, I mean, look, I think women had a pretty good deal.
06:22:05.680
A pretty good deal if you look at historical – again, I mean, I can just only reiterate this.
06:22:10.620
The work that was available 100 years ago, 150 years ago, not glamorous work.
06:22:19.540
You weren't, you know, oh, I'm going to fucking, you know, get my PTO and get my vacation days.
06:22:26.160
No, the work was like we're sending the men into the mines.
06:22:29.920
You're doing dangerous, dirty, grueling physical labor.
06:22:36.020
There wasn't OSHA back in the fucking 100 years ago.
06:22:46.720
And Brian, I agree because you and I are both – you know, we're both Billy Zane feminists.
06:22:51.000
And I think that we believe if the Titanic is sinking, it shouldn't just be women and children on the ships.
06:23:05.180
No, but I'm saying like if the boat is sinking, you know how they say on the Titanic, so like men and women are allowed to get on the boats.
06:23:16.240
When it comes to the Titanic, should it be women and children first?
06:23:32.460
But maybe, I mean, maybe we can agree children first, right?
06:23:37.480
Yeah, but if they don't have their parents, how good are they going to turn out as orphans?
06:23:42.100
Even kids in the – you know, that go into the system now end up living really bad lives and, you know, end up in drug addicts.
06:23:50.880
Not all of them, but a lot of bad things happen to children without parents.
06:24:05.240
So I would say, specifically thinking about the Titanic, it would be those of the highest value, both split between male and female.
06:24:13.100
So the people that are essential to continue with whatever it is.
06:24:25.200
You remember the essential workers during the pandemic?
06:24:30.600
My last two jokes is just a bit bombed, but we're getting late.
06:24:35.460
What I'm saying is I would think it would be the most essential people, so the people who are in the leadership roles.
06:24:43.220
I feel like it would be split pretty evenly, but there would have to be women in order to take care of the children.
06:24:46.960
I mean, we can talk about what the protocol was historically or whatever.
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Obviously, it wouldn't be that calm, but I mean, think about it.
06:25:06.340
If you have a bunch of children going onto a lifeboat, there needs to be a few women because I don't...
06:25:15.660
I do agree that I think that the people who are wealthier would think that they are the priority,
06:25:20.280
but I think it's the people who are in those leadership roles that can survive on those boats until they're rescued.
06:25:29.480
Yeah, because you'd want one guy on the boat, right?
06:25:35.540
Let's just say they said all the children and women can go on the boat first.
06:25:38.740
I guarantee all the children would look back and be like, let's get one guy on the boat.
06:25:42.040
But that's what I mean is a male in a leadership role to help in the survival.
06:25:46.980
I don't really think it's fair that it's women and children getting on the lifeboat,
06:25:50.520
but I think that it would look really bad on those men because I think that's still societally constructed.
06:25:57.320
So I'm a woman, so I'm going to say women because I want to live.
06:26:00.500
I think we need to be putting enough life rafts for everyone to get on a boat.
06:26:10.380
I would say women because men are physically stronger so they can swim against currents.
06:26:14.920
And, I mean, you throw a woman in an ocean versus a man.
06:26:19.860
Like, a man will probably have a better survival rate at swimming to a nearby island versus a woman.
06:26:25.780
I would agree that a man would be able to swim farther than a woman.
06:26:29.720
Well, I agree with that, but I don't think it helps you in, like, I don't know what the temperature of the water was.
06:26:38.960
Whether you're a man or a woman, you can maybe tread water for a couple minutes and you're done.
06:26:45.300
But you asked for between a man or a woman to a boat or a woman because a man...
06:26:50.060
So, the question is, who deserves to be on the lifeboat or who will end up being on the lifeboat?
06:26:55.020
Who do you think should get on the lifeboat first?
06:27:09.340
Well, they should, but I think sometimes you have, like, men's benevolent, sacrificial nature.
06:27:20.560
Captain always wants to go down with the ship, though, you know what I mean?
06:27:31.580
I would say only transgenders deserve to get on the lifeboat.
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There are a lot of men in North America who want to reproduce into families, but it's
06:27:58.840
just that feminism has brainwashed women into thinking those men are trash, hence why
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In my head, I was already thinking like, you know, gay son or thought daughter for some
06:28:23.040
I think that's another reason why people are afraid to have kids is because, you know,
06:28:26.420
the son could turn to be gay or, you know, and the rate of autism is higher.
06:28:31.800
I'm just saying there's a lot of like external factors with having kids that people are worried
06:28:38.780
Like, I don't know if you guys have seen that movie.
06:28:40.940
But at the very beginning, like they show like this white trash family and they used white
06:28:47.860
His like his family tree just starts expanding.
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Then they show this other couple and they're like, well, the market's not very good.
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They're like, oh, well, you know, this, you know, they're giving like all these like reasons
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And why the other guy has hundreds of family members.
06:29:08.740
And but that is really what happens in the world.
06:29:11.540
And you talk, you look at India has a billion people and they're all coming to Canada and
06:29:16.940
And it's because people are afraid to have kids because of the external factors, because
06:29:37.660
You say husband should be willing to die protecting you.
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Megan, husband should be willing to die protecting you.
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Husband should be willing to die protecting you.
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You also circle, though, you will keep your last name or hyphenate in marriage.
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I would lose my last name or I would add it like, I don't know.
06:30:37.900
Well, your husband, say he's a traditional guy.
06:30:47.480
But he doesn't even want to have the discussion.
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At the end of the day, like, I really don't care.
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Like, as long as it's not like an embarrassing last name, like Hickey or something.
06:31:11.760
You wouldn't marry a guy because he has a bad last name?
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There are a lot of men with bad last names and they don't want to keep their last name.
06:31:42.400
If you married a guy named Rudy Gay, an NBA player, and you had to change your name
06:31:53.420
I know we've been bantering, but is this your actual genuine position?
06:32:10.900
You wouldn't change your last name if it's a, like, let's say he has an average last name.
06:32:16.700
Well, if it was an average last name, then I would do it.
06:32:26.300
So, but so the other things you wrote here, you say men should provide protect, men should be chivalrous, husband should be willing to die protecting you, but you won't take his last name?
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I just circled it because that's what it said, but I would also do the same things for him.
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Well, there'd be, okay, you'd reciprocate, but.
06:32:54.800
Well, then if you're 50-50, why should men be chivalrous?
06:33:07.220
Yeah, and I would date a guy that's pretty gay, man.
06:33:10.700
I've given plenty of back massages if they've had, like, a long, hard day.
06:33:21.800
Well, I think you said chivalry for men is different than what women stand in.
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I mean, I've held a Timmy's door in Canada for men before.
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No, but I think that there needs to be a conversation and be honest about it.
06:34:21.520
Why should the past not matter for those of you who said it shouldn't?
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Yeah, you can change, but to say that the past is completely, like, irrelevant, I don't know.
06:34:40.440
I'm not saying it's completely irrelevant, but.
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Is it wrong for a guy to make a determination as to whether he'd want to date somebody based on her past?
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You shouldn't, you should be totally forgiving of somebody's past.
06:35:07.320
Do you think your current boyfriend should be weary of you hanging out with other men,
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considering the fact that you left your first husband for one of his co-workers,
06:35:15.200
and then you cheated on your second husband with the man you're with?
06:35:20.540
Well, I mean, if we're going to do that, then I should be weary of him, too, because he.
06:35:26.300
He cheated with me and called off his wedding for me.
06:35:34.280
So he was engaged to be married when you were banging him on these work trips,
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and so you broke some other poor woman's heart, too, with your whoreness?
06:35:57.300
Listen, yes, we are, and we both admit that what we did is not.
06:36:07.700
She didn't send you to me a message on Facebook?
06:36:11.500
But are we talking about past behavior body counts or past behavior period?
06:36:17.040
Well, I think past behavior, like if you have a criminal record, that's the first example
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of murder, so I mean, I think it obviously matters.
06:36:23.040
I want to know the history of someone, yeah, it speaks to character and integrity.
06:36:26.420
I know, so wouldn't that be like kind of similar to their sexual history?
06:36:30.200
I mean, I know my history is very hard for men to get through unless, you know, they want
06:36:36.160
to sexualize me, so I know why I have a hard time finding a partner.
06:36:39.520
It's because of the choices I've made, and, you know, I want to find a partner who is okay
06:36:45.440
Also, couldn't this even be applied to, like, for example, in order to be at some point in
06:36:51.100
the future, you need to have taken certain actions in the past.
06:36:56.260
Like, you know, maybe I could have been a professional athlete, and if I was a professional
06:36:59.420
athlete, I'd be, like, more attractive or appealing to women.
06:37:03.800
You don't think I have the, I don't have the dog in me?
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But I'm saying, like, or how about just whatever, like, a guy, had he been more ambitious
06:37:31.280
when he was younger, he would have been richer.
06:37:36.920
So, it's like, you're kind of like, if the guy's not rich enough, it's like, well, you
06:37:44.160
You didn't go to college or, well, fuck college, but you didn't do the steps necessary
06:37:48.740
when you were younger to be wealthy or at a place financially that I would have otherwise
06:37:55.700
So, I want to do these sorts of past assessments, too, but in a sort of roundabout way.
06:38:00.300
But, anyways, going around the table, though, I guess body count doesn't matter.
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Because one of them, I don't feel like it counts, but, like, maybe by his standards.
06:38:44.720
I was just, I mean, somewhere in the 30s, I had a very blackout point of my life from 19 to 21.
06:38:55.580
I was in abusive relationships where they would bring me places to have sex with people without telling me.
06:39:03.540
And, you know, that's why the hypnosis was so important for me to be able to choose.
06:39:34.000
I believe in monogamy, so every relationship that I've been in has always just been me
06:39:46.260
Boyfriend, a boyfriend, a boyfriends, you know?
06:39:56.360
Um, I knew this was going to be a question, so I actually sat, like, with a calculator.
06:40:14.560
So, this is also, like, not just, like, not just penetration, right?
06:40:34.800
So, but I'm pansexual, so are we counting trans?
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But that's even, like, if it was just pan or something.
06:40:58.240
I'm just trying to think how much money you make.
06:41:00.780
You know, so if it's, like, roughly, so what is that, like, for you?
06:41:08.440
So, you think every single time that I have sex, I'm just exchanging money?
06:41:11.340
Well, no, but, okay, so let's say 50 of them you got paid.
06:41:15.700
So, you can pay all your bills by only having, like, 40 sexual encounters?
06:41:22.080
I also webcam, and, like, I was telling you, I do other things.
06:41:30.140
I thought you just, like, only do, like, video porn.
06:41:40.600
I'm just going to say 10 and up because my mom might be watching.
06:42:21.620
Can we, but if I were to throw out, could it be 40?
06:42:29.100
You know you're supposed to multiply it by three.
06:42:34.340
Multiply it by three, and that's the real number.
06:42:43.600
It is a dog, but I do think, like, meaningless sex is, like, so bad for you.
06:42:48.680
And, like, I have had that, and it's not something I'd encourage other people to have.
06:42:59.480
Oh, speaking of which, we were actually, we were supposed to have a furry on today.
06:43:22.840
We had this furry on our show, and then my producer went to this furry festival.
06:43:26.560
And, like, yeah, because they are transitioning to an animal, they actually kind of consider
06:43:30.120
themselves trans because, like, she is a woman.
06:43:33.140
And she, like, will say she's a woman, but because she's an animal, she considers herself
06:43:40.360
But, yeah, being trans is part of being a furry.
06:43:42.900
Alex Stein, can you look into that camera right there?
06:44:01.820
She, she, she's a dog, but sometimes I think she's a rabbit, too.
06:44:05.880
Let me tell you something, Olivia, you stupid canine, you dumb bitch.
06:44:16.160
And as a female bitch, which is the dictionary term for a dog, so I'm not calling her that
06:44:24.940
A real dog would have come here and eaten with another fellow dog like myself.
06:44:31.140
You'll always be a bitch ass, and you'll never get any pussy being a weird, furry, transgender
06:44:42.180
Well, if you're going on podcasts at Big Tits McGee, then you're really fucked up, too,
06:44:45.440
because I'm on one with her, and I'm fucked up.
06:44:58.800
It's the one who was scheduled, who just, like, bailed.
06:45:04.420
And then I sent her a picture of that meme of Hassan's dog being shocked.
06:45:32.180
Send me a photo of you in the corner with your dog hat on.
06:45:41.980
Is this the influencer who has the ears and wears the collar and wants to be a dog?
06:45:51.740
At 3 p.m., that's an hour before fucking me time.
06:46:05.880
Is it the girl who wears the little puppy ears?
06:46:16.540
But I'm going to have to like actually put like some collar on her or some shit.
06:46:35.520
If you annoy me when we get you on the podcast, Olivia, you're going to be wearing a dog shock collar the entire time.
06:46:57.920
If you wanted to manifest that orgy, you're getting it.
06:47:08.120
You started barking and you slithered out of that.
06:47:40.300
That's a message from the government of Canada.
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Women have unquestioned control over who they let in between their legs.
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A woman should not be rejected because of her weight.
06:48:43.600
I don't think that that's a valid reason to reject somebody.
06:48:53.040
So you can reject a guy who makes $250,000 a year.
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See, you're taking that one question and you're like going crazy with it.
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I'm not going crazy with the answer to the question.
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I'm not going to reject a man just because he doesn't make a certain income.
06:49:08.140
You asked me what my ideal, like what I would want, and that's what I would want.
06:49:12.060
But isn't you saying that the minimum yearly income for a man to be your future husband
06:49:16.880
being $300,000 isn't baked into that that you would reject, like logically...
06:49:23.940
But aren't there a lot of people who, like, when they get married and the prenup, they
06:49:27.240
put in that fat clause so if the woman gains over a certain amount of weight...
06:49:32.860
What I'm saying is that a lot of people go into relationships and they have certain
06:49:36.880
standards and requirements that they want not only met but upheld.
06:49:40.400
And I feel like even though they're not fair comparisons, that is something that is used
06:49:46.480
I just don't think someone should be based off of their weight.
06:49:48.980
That's all my answer was, is I don't think you should be rejected based solely off of
06:50:03.340
I'm not saying people don't get rejected, but...
06:50:06.600
I'm not saying that should be the only reason you reject somebody.
06:50:11.660
You say the minimum height of a man you would date is 5'10", 5'11".
06:50:14.680
Like, I just want them a couple inches taller than me.
06:50:25.660
I've also gone on a date with a woman who's a bit overweight.
06:50:29.060
It's not my preference to date a woman who's overweight.
06:50:30.920
Sure, but did you guys stay in a relationship long term?
06:50:33.160
No, but when you say I dated, like, yeah, I went on a date with a girl who's a bit chubby.
06:50:47.060
Sometimes, you know, whatever, it's all good, but...
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To be honest, height is not a huge importance to me.
06:50:54.380
Sometimes she's got a cute face, whatever, she can get it.
06:50:59.040
I've dated, like, a really chubby guy, but I don't...
06:51:14.720
I know it's debatable, but it is something you can change.
06:51:29.420
I wouldn't want to date a woman because she was obese.
06:51:33.240
No, I'm saying that you shouldn't reject her because I take the word rejection as being
06:51:40.520
So, okay, when we're talking about rejection, it could just be, like...
06:51:46.580
It could be, like, I am not interested in this person because of this character.
06:51:58.860
I think of it as, like, a preference and that's fine if you don't want to date them,
06:52:02.020
but I don't feel like you should just base the decision solely based on their weight.
06:52:07.940
I just feel like that's, like, not in a place where I'm at where I would do something, where
06:52:14.380
I would basically deny someone, reject someone, whatever the term is that we're using, based
06:52:25.100
Again, I know there's surgeries to change that, but weight, you can lose weight.
06:52:38.840
I mean, I definitely don't think that's my preference.
06:52:47.320
So, at some point, I guess there would be a rejection, but I wouldn't...
06:52:54.380
I guess, like, it just depended how much I was into that person, because, like, for
06:53:08.740
So, when I'm getting to know someone, I don't bring up that topic immediately.
06:53:16.680
On a first date with a girl, you tell her you have a micropenis.
06:53:20.700
Because, like, you know, some girls are going to be like, oh, grossed out.
06:53:24.660
A girl's going to be like, I want to see his micropenis.
06:53:31.560
And then they pull it out, it's not micro, and you're like, well, now my dick's out.
06:53:35.080
But, that is actually a good way to kind of break the ice, because they're like,
06:53:41.200
Is, if she's like, she's like, I don't really care.
06:53:58.920
These guys who, like, claim they got a big dick...
06:54:05.120
Uh, have you ever had a guy, like, say he had a big dick, but really he didn't?
06:54:17.420
You guys have had it where guys just say, like, I'm going to bang you.
06:54:20.600
I don't know about that, but, like, where guys, like, been all sexual and then not been
06:54:25.960
Like, they send you sexual messages, and then when it's time to get sexual, they're like,
06:54:38.920
I think you gotta, like, on everything, though, not just penis size, like, you gotta manage
06:54:49.560
You have to be, like, say this, you know, the sex is gonna be, like, average.
06:55:00.160
And then, when you're, like, a little bit above...
06:55:03.000
If you're a little bit above average, they're like, okay, cool.
06:55:06.260
But if you tell the girl, I'm gonna blow your fucking mind, and it's like...
06:55:10.960
But if you tell them, you know, I'm like, whatever, I'll give it the old college try.
06:55:20.760
Pull out the vibrator, and you make her come one way or another.
06:55:32.800
Chair 1, if you and other women believe that females shouldn't be rejected based on weight,
06:55:38.020
then women shouldn't reject men based on their height, which they can't change without painful surgery.
06:55:51.820
What's wrong with a man rejecting a woman because of her weight?
06:55:54.520
I mean, if you're going to reject a woman based off their weight, then it just shows that you're shallow.
06:55:59.980
The same way you guys judge women for only wanting to be with a man who has money, a successful career, it's the same thing.
06:56:06.080
I mean, there's more to a woman than just her weight.
06:56:07.960
And let's say, in circumstances, does it have to be before or during or after the relationship?
06:56:14.100
What if she stayed with you while you had cancer for five years?
06:56:16.460
And let's say she gained weight by 40, 50 pounds.
06:56:19.180
Would you reject her and break up with her just because she doesn't look the way that you wanted her to at the start?
06:56:24.540
The question is more so like you've met somebody.
06:56:31.120
They have your children and then they have a hard time losing weight afterwards.
06:56:36.740
But I mean, look, I do think, though, even in longer term relationships, if one person has really let themselves go,
06:56:45.600
I mean, I would be remiss to say that that's not going to have an impact on the attraction that your partner feels for you.
06:56:51.880
And that can change the dynamic of the relationship.
06:56:54.840
And if it's bad enough, I mean, you know, I don't know if I would fully blame somebody if they've lost attraction for being like,
06:57:01.740
I'm no longer if that's important in the relationship.
06:57:04.380
You know, I don't know if I totally blame somebody for, you know, wanting to end the relationship.
06:57:09.720
But I suppose it would, how long you've been together, I mean, can you show them grace?
06:57:18.980
Is there a situation in the relationship where the woman is like really stressed out and unhappy?
06:57:23.400
And so because the relationship hasn't done well, she's kind of found other vices, which include like overeat.
06:57:29.760
Like, is the relationship bad and that's why she gained weight?
06:57:32.540
Or is she just gaining weight because she's lazy?
06:57:36.320
I mean, obviously not, it's his fault, but what are the factors in which she's gaining weight?
06:57:42.840
Well, she does have the problem where guys literally want to pay for her to eat food.
06:57:47.740
I know, that is a unique thing where guys like, and part of it is like they want you to get fatter.
06:57:53.240
Like they actually want to see, there's this girl Amberlynn Reid who started a weight loss channel at 400 pounds and now she's 600 pounds.
06:57:59.460
It's hard to, you have to watch her stuff, but like the people that pay her like want to see her get bigger.
06:58:08.100
Yeah, and you know, I have a personal trainer because the last thing I want, as I get older, I find it harder for me to lose and keep weight off despite the fact.
06:58:27.000
Wrong for a man to reject a woman because of her weight?
06:58:36.440
Wrong for a man to dump his girlfriend if she regularly turns him down for sex.
06:58:49.820
I think Taylor, you said it's wrong for a man to dump his girlfriend if she regularly turns him down for sex.
06:58:57.480
I feel like if there's a reason that the woman's not wanting to be intimate with the man, I feel like if there's, like, the connection, like, if everything's good in the relationship, the woman's going to want to be intimate.
06:59:15.200
So, she should be the one to leave if she's not happy and not wanting to have sex with her boyfriend.
06:59:20.740
So, she should just be big enough to be, like, I'm not happy enough to want to fuck with her.
06:59:26.280
I don't even, I don't know if that's always true, though, that there's something wrong.
06:59:40.760
But if the girl's constantly saying no, though, that's really.
06:59:44.200
I didn't say, I mean, I don't think it's where sex is a big part of a relationship.
06:59:47.980
But I've just seen so many relationships where there's so many different reasons that, like, a woman loses her desire to have sex.
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I think the fact of, like, oh, you're not having sex with me anymore.
07:00:10.420
And rather than, like, trying to address, like, what she said, traumas and stuff, I feel like that would be the more mature man.
07:00:16.980
Or being a safe space for her to be comfortable and then, you know, be able to figure out why it is she doesn't want to have sex.
07:00:23.680
It's not just, I don't want to have sex with her.
07:00:28.440
I'm kind of, I don't feel like providing anymore.
07:00:42.800
My best friend at the Jamaican restaurant, she had a deadbeat boyfriend.
07:00:45.780
They were living in a crack house that had five rooms.
07:00:49.440
She was going to work every single day to pay for that.
07:00:55.440
He still didn't have a job and played Xbox on their air mattress every day.
07:01:00.500
And she had to take the bus to work at the Jamaican restaurant.
07:01:06.480
And then she asked me to have a threesome with him.
07:01:11.700
And I was like, man, your boyfriend, no, thank you.
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Why wrong for a man to dump his girlfriend if she regularly turns him down for sex?
07:01:38.380
But after hearing it, I would say it just really depends on the situation.
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Like, if she's regularly turning him down and he's not sexually satisfied, I could understand
07:01:49.960
Like, I'm going to find another woman that I feel more physically, you know, involved with.
07:01:54.440
And, you know, love is a big factor of a healthy relationship, so I understand that.
07:01:59.860
But as far as, like, leaving her completely, I kind of agree with the other women saying
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that there should be an open discussion before just bailing out.
07:02:24.020
We kind of talked about that, didn't we, though?
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We talked about rights, but I feel like oppression is a little different.
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And then, like, two inches, one inch that way, I guess.
07:02:47.800
Women are, even back to your original point of, like, what a good deal it was to be at
07:02:52.320
home for so long because the jobs were so crappy and it wasn't, like, a bougie Apple
07:02:58.320
The other side of that coin is that if women were in a relationship where the guy was abusive
07:03:03.540
or violent or had an addiction, which is often the case, she had no way out.
07:03:08.400
I still think, despite modern times and women working, a lot of women feel trapped financially
07:03:24.000
And I see all of those things as a form of oppression.
07:03:28.820
So if you choose to partner with somebody, you choose to have kids, that wouldn't be, I don't
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If you're not able to leave because of your situation.
07:03:40.600
Well, I'm not saying it's, like, any one person's fault.
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I think it's an oppression by the societal system, by the economy, by the patriarchy.
07:03:48.740
Well, so should women just abandon their children if they're not happy being mothers?
07:03:53.200
Well, then they're being, what's the solution to the oppression?
07:03:55.520
I don't know what the exact solution to the oppression is, but I do think women are still
07:04:02.080
oppressed in modern society because so many women cannot afford, forget the children for
07:04:10.600
So many women do not, I see it at my office all the time where people are in situations
07:04:14.860
where they're not being treated well, they're emotionally or physically abused, and they
07:04:22.400
But, I mean, I'm not even sure, acknowledging that, of course, like, physical abuse, emotional
07:04:31.220
That's not what I would characterize as oppression.
07:04:34.260
Like, when I'm thinking of oppression, I'm thinking of, like, the government is oppressing
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You're not only oppressed by the government, though.
07:04:43.800
Well, Brian might disagree in the chat, he's probably going to disagree, and this is another
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libtard to take, but I do kind of think women are a little bit oppressed.
07:04:58.600
I know, I know, that sounds insane to be like...
07:05:04.620
But this is why, this is why I believe, and Rachel and I have debated this stuff because
07:05:09.620
Women have been oppressed by society to make them kill their baby, and that's why so many
07:05:18.620
So that, because of the oppression, that's why so many women are motivated to kill their
07:05:22.080
baby so callously, and I think abortion, if women weren't oppressed so much, there'd
07:05:31.720
Just, like, society, like, encourages them to not have a baby.
07:05:35.060
They tell them it'd be better if their baby was dead than it'd be a poor baby.
07:05:38.040
So, yeah, I think women, like, have it harder than men in certain circumstances, so I do
07:05:49.220
Women are brainwashed, yeah, and oppressed, like, by society that it's, like, okay to just
07:05:54.620
Yeah, so I do, and I feel like women are more vulnerable than men, so they're easier
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And I think black women, and I'm not trying to make it about black, are even the most oppressed
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Because black women actually lead the league in abortion.
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They've actually, they've killed more young black women through that oppression, through
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convincing other black women to have abortions, and that's what kills the most women is actually
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abortions, because some of those babies, half of them are going to be women.
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So people don't even realize that women are oppressing their own people, their own other
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And I think just the fact that women have to fight 10 times, or if not 50 times harder
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for their rights and their voices to be heard, that is oppression.
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The fact that choices are being made by a man, such as Donald Trump, and all these other
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Why is a man telling a woman what to do with her body, when to do it?
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All these different things, that's not up for a man's choice to make.
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Well, I'm doing the opposite, you and I have opposite viewpoints, I think that the fact
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that you're letting them kill their baby, and convince them to do it, is like evil
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I'm not saying, I'm not saying abortion, I'm just saying in general, like just the
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fact that women's rights have been a topic for men, that is oppression, that's for a woman.
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Just every, since the beginning of time, abortion, non-abortion, whatever you guys want to label
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it as, I'm just simply saying, regardless if you're Democrat or Republican, I'm not trying
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to get political about it, I'm just simply saying, why is a man telling a woman what
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Well, I don't think men want to, men don't want to tell women, first of all, men do not
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want to tell women what to do with their bodies, but I just think the men that are pro-life
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They value the baby's life just as much as a woman.
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Like, the reason why I'm anti-abortion, because if a pregnant woman gets hit by a drunk driver,
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they charge the drunk driver with a double homicide if she's pregnant.
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And I think that that life should be protected.
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Now, I understand how women are like, well, I'm not going to be able to financially afford
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this baby, but most people are having abortions out of convenience because they cannot afford
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In the instance of rape and incest, I think abortion is okay in that instance, but that's
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the only instance, and I don't really like it in that instance, but of course, rape and
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What is happening, the majority, the mass majority of people that are getting abortions are doing
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So, I don't think it's really people trying to tell people what to do with their body.
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They're trying to protect the bodies that can't speak for themselves.
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I saw a stat that one third of Gen Z was aborted.
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Because you've got to ask ChadGBT for all the right numbers because I'm not good with
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But the amount, Brian, like the U.S. population should be like triple or something.
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Because people our age, our generation, have had the lowest amount of kids, I think, ever.
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And that's why, like I was talking about earlier, when we talk about racism and people want
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to blame white, but globally, white people are less than 8% of the population and shrinking
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So, it's like everybody has a different perspective.
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Everybody feels like they're oppressed because probably everybody.
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In the Research tab, we got Alex in Dreads in the Research tab.
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And there's another thing in Discord I want you to pull up.
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There's an anime thing that, it's like a guy in glasses.
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And then you're going to scroll like halfway up.
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There's like an anime thing where there's a, it's next to like a circle graph.
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Men, killing 1 billion people in wars over all of human history.
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Women, killing 1.3 billion people via abortion since 1980.
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And then Civil War, World War II, World War I, Vietnam War, Korean War.
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And half of those, half of those people that were killed were women.
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And then, wait, there's the, oh, Alex Stein and.
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Hey, can we, can we put, put the, make the background a blimp, though?
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Put a little, like, make my nose like I have cocaine on it.
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Because it looks like I'm, looks like I'm using cocaine in that picture.
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How does it know my Charlie, like, her thing like this?
07:11:59.360
We were going to, should we, we're really quickly, we'll do the age and then the gender.
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Okay, we do, we do a fun segment where we put everybody, oh, I didn't, did I ask the
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Do you think you'll be better looking in 10 years time?
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Okay, to you, 26, better looking in 10 years time?
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36, you know, maybe, maybe 36, but after that, maybe not.
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And then 52, were you better at 42, better looking?
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I'm going to go 22, but it's like kind of close, maybe.
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I feel like she is submissive, but that's because she's Filipina.
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Well, is your, is your mom Filipina or is your dad?
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Are you better looking today at 29 or better looking at 19?
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Sorry, for some reason I didn't have to put your age down.
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Do you think you'll be better looking at 42 or when you were 22?
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But there is this weird thing, like you were saying, like, you can be hotter at 30 than you
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My mom is, like, really, my mom's really good looking, too.
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Well, I know, Brian, you would think 20 would be, like, your peak, but I would argue that,
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like, 30, maybe you've gotten your health and wellness better.
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You've grown into a womanly shape rather than a woman.
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There was actually a lot of girls there that were pretty in high school that were ugly now
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and girls that were ugly in high school that look good now.
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People lose weight, gain weight, whatever, whatever.
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I think that, like, 18, 19, 20, like, once you get to 25, your body starts.
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Sometimes, like, your hips widen, you get a bigger butt.
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My mom didn't get her shape until after she had children.
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And she was, like, stick thin, and now she's got triple Ds.
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And, you know, when I was in high school, guys were saying that my mom was a MILF.
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But, you know, I still think she was attractive when she was younger, but she has a different body.
07:16:25.580
Yeah, but this idea that, okay, then how about a woman who actually her body shape doesn't really change all that much throughout the course of her life?
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I'm not going to attribute to, like, I'm not going to attribute that she has a childlike body.
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There is definitely some women who, like, my grandmother has the body of a 12-year-old boy.
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You know, like, and there are women who have no boobs and no butt.
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I don't necessarily think that, like, not having shape to you is attractive.
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That's, I feel like that's super insulting to women with small boobs.
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Well, no, no, but what I'm saying is, it's like, first off, you're suggesting that, what
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Are they supposed to have concern that any man who finds her attractive is, like, a pedo?
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You think men, in order to not be a pedophile, you can only like women who happen to have
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No, but, you know, maybe they're, okay, I don't know.
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Like a woman with a man's body, then maybe, I don't know.
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First off, women with small boobs don't have a man's body.
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No, I think you're very, well, I mean, you, I love your corset, by the way, but you do
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First off, by the way, I want to say something about the boob thing, okay?
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First off, I'm part of the itty-bitty titty committee.
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I actually think an argument can be made in terms of beauty.
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Now, I think women with giant can knockers like yourself, can crushers, excuse me.
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Oh man, I'm going to get a lot of heat for this.
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So anyways, but I think there is something elegant about smaller breasts.
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You look at these statues, Greek and Roman statues, these women don't have giant fucking-
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These Greek Roman statues, these women have bee cups.
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Yeah, but she doesn't have giant fucking can crush her titties, lady.
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I'm not saying my level of boobs is what we need.
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Well, I think what she says is they look like a little boy.
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I think everyone besides you has a decent handful of boob.
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But when you're describing a 20-year-old, I don't think she was describing pre-pubescent.
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I mean, if they're flat, completely flat-chested.
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I don't know if this is like a malnutrition thing.
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I think it's a little racist because I think, you know, in certain-
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You know, for example, Asian countries, the women in Asian countries tend to have smaller boobs.
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I'm just strictly talking about women that are flat as a board.
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There's other areas of a woman's body that can be, you know, more womanly as you would say.
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Or even if it's not though, if a girl has a small butt, she's not less of a woman.
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They're fully a woman unless they used to be a man.
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Women come in different shapes and sizes and trying to like pathologize-
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I think you're trying to pathologize men who have like an attraction to-
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Like heaven forbid a man values something beyond just, she's got a big ass and giant titties.
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Just like women are judging the way a man looks.
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What if she's got a fucking lethal face card but she's got no ass and no boobs?
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Yeah, no, I'm not saying that they're not desirable at all and that there aren't people who want them.
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Just like the guys who want to be with me because I have big boobs, they're weirdos too.
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So the guy who sees a 30-year-old woman who has small boobs and no butt and he's like, I'm attracted to that 30-year-old woman who has those characteristics.
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Or what's more weird, you acknowledge that there are, I mean, I feel fucking, this is weird to even say.
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You acknowledge that there's like women who are underage who are like developed, so to speak.
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Yeah, what's more weird than having an attraction to the 30-year-old or having an attraction to the underage girl who has the body?
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The men who want to date a girl who is between the age of 18 and 22 who has a undeveloped body, that's what I'm talking about.
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I'm just saying it's weird for men to want to date very young women who have no body.
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I mean, it is, you know, that's what I'm a little bit more concerned about in the creepiness.
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I don't understand if they're 25 or if the woman's 30.
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The original thing was, oh, a woman who's, like, small boobs, flat, less butt, whatever, not as curvy, whatever, that's, like, that's an indictment of men who would date her.
07:23:39.160
No, I think we were talking about, like, attractiveness, and I was saying, like, a woman, once she gets older and fills her, you know, womanly figure out, is more attractive than a child who does not have a figure.
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What about, like, fit athletic women who have no chest?
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I'm literally talking about the younger age range that don't have completely developed bodies.
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Once you get older when you're in your 30s, you do develop more of a body.
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I was 34 with a double-A cup, and I was very insecure about my body.
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Everybody is going to be insecure about their body no matter what, because everybody is going
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to want something different than what they have, unless you are incredibly confident in
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You shouldn't compare your titties to other girls.
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The thing that is damaging is all the OnlyFans chicks that are really good-looking that pose
07:25:02.540
I just think women who, coming from somebody who is very small statured,
07:25:08.260
who, I had three children, and I still didn't have any boobs, and I...
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One in child, or one as a teenager, and then two with her first father.
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And your boobs didn't get bigger at all from the babies?
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They did, and then they shrunk smaller than what they were before, so I...
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I made the decision to get breast augmentation.
07:25:34.100
A lot of very skinny women, especially OnlyFans women, who don't have any boobs, but have
07:25:40.360
a nice figure, end up getting boobs, and that is a societal pressure that is placed on the
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They are just as pressured to have a good body.
07:25:51.360
I am just as pressured to have a sexualized body, and it's damaging to me as well as the
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But this is what society expects from us at this point.
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All these women just want to, you know, just want these, like, giga-chads.
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Living up to other people's expectations and live up to your own.
07:26:09.800
I haven't gotten any surgeries on myself, despite the incredible, like, you know, people
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wanting me to get a tummy tuck or BBL, like, you know, anything like that.
07:26:29.720
I'm the only one who gets interrupted like that.
07:26:31.780
Do you know what the most popular cosmetic surgery is?
07:26:57.880
For me to make more money, I need to be a certain weight.
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And I still can't even fit my own idea of what I think a woman should look like.
07:27:17.740
Care to stop being a frigging weirdo with the bunnies talk.
07:27:38.200
We'll wait until chair four is back really quick.
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We're going to do a row session, then try to finish up a few notes, then finish up with
07:28:01.360
That'll probably be the row session, the threshold.
07:28:29.120
She actually worked on Kobe Bryant's helicopter.
07:28:33.160
Remember the helicopter that crashed in the river or whatever?
07:28:47.880
You can also do Q&A if you want to ask a question, whatever, whatever.
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Now I know what to expect if I don't get any surgery.
07:31:08.720
I don't know why your nose looks like it morphed more.
07:31:39.040
So, the question is, would you date the male version of you?
07:31:56.520
Broke up with a girl over your original layup video, funny enough.
07:32:01.100
Andrew needs to beat some more simp out of you.
07:32:04.460
Now that we're having full small hat convos, can we get Sam Hyde on next?
07:32:09.260
That's who you need to have on, my buddy Sam Hyde.
07:32:23.540
But Sam, dude, you would get millions of views.
07:32:35.660
But he does this thing where everybody wants to be on his podcast, and he'll only go on
07:32:48.840
Sam would probably come on this one because it's kind of iconic, you know what I mean?
07:32:57.420
I mean, he's the one who is kind of like Charlie Kirk and him kind of butted heads-ish.
07:33:04.300
Can you beg Rachel Wilson about feminism, including your claims about female oppression in North America?
07:33:12.680
Well, we have Andrew Wilson coming soon, so I don't know if you'd want to hop on another
07:33:33.620
Is it because she saw the photo of her when she was there?
07:33:48.740
He looks like he might have a little bit of depression.
07:33:51.060
You look like an actor, but I can't think of an actor.
07:33:57.960
I love the middle picture, Edward Norton, for sure.
07:34:17.660
He looks Swedish, so I feel like I wouldn't say no to a date.
07:34:29.720
I can't actually read any of your water bottle or the popcorn thing.
07:35:51.920
See, it's funny how AI can pick up that you're Asian.
07:36:55.240
I feel like there's really some opportunity here with Taylors, but they probably...
07:37:05.880
They could have made him all 80s or something with the hair.
07:37:50.600
Taylor, would you date the male version of you?
07:37:53.400
I think I kind of already am dating the male version of me physically.
07:38:16.820
I think he looks more like me than that picture.
07:38:58.440
You echo Brian, but trade substance for spectacle.
07:39:28.440
Some girl told me, like, that I have eyes like Hitler.
07:39:50.860
Well, you know, the Talmud and the Torah are two very complicated books of the longstanding
07:40:09.320
history, and I just want to say Israel is the greatest country on earth.
07:40:13.200
They deserve our undying support, and if you don't support them, you deserve to go
07:40:19.880
And six million people died in the Holocaust, and Jewish people deserve our sympathy 24-7.
07:40:33.300
No, because apparently there's parts of the Talmud that say, like, Jesus is burning an
07:40:38.740
But, yeah, there are some weird parts in it, for sure.
07:40:45.660
Pasty, you gave $3,000 in Super Chat, so we're going to have a tough conversation.
07:40:49.020
But I just want to say that Israel is the greatest country on earth, and they will pay
07:40:52.880
you $7,000 per tweet if you say that, so it's worth it.
07:40:56.740
And if you don't agree with them, bad things might happen.
07:41:06.940
Somebody doesn't want to make $7,000 over there.
07:41:21.720
I don't want to get too deep into the Israel conspiracy, but I don't want to get in any
07:41:27.120
But, you know, they've been trying to send me on the free trip.
07:41:29.940
Have they not tried to send you on the free trip?
07:41:32.820
I can get you on the trip tomorrow, and they would send you...
07:41:36.020
They've invited me, and I know the person that does it.
07:41:38.460
I can get you a first-class trip to Israel, leaving next Monday.
07:42:08.840
Listen, I know the company is called Macabre Task Force.
07:42:14.280
It's business-class, light-flat seat, to Tel Aviv next week for free, if you want that.
07:42:32.320
Do you want me to take my girlfriend to Israel?
07:42:35.200
Then they film us having sex in a hotel room and then blackmail us for the 10 years later.
07:42:48.840
Oh, I need to finish up some of the notes here.
07:42:53.120
I'm going to blast through these here while we let the roast come in.
07:43:09.740
I got to come back with all the Big Booty Latinas.
07:43:11.600
If you guys should not hit that like button, I don't get the Big Booty Latina buffet that
07:43:16.260
And, you know, you guys are all about keeping promises no matter if they're thousands of
07:43:33.000
Yeah, and they can log into different accounts.
07:43:59.220
They want to go Dodgers as well for you guys, but damn it.
07:44:03.080
So, you said that you've certainly been the bad guy in some dating situations where you
07:44:10.200
You write, you once completely forgot about a date you had planned because you just got
07:44:14.820
in home after a long day of drinking with a different date.
07:44:23.680
So, yeah, like back in the day, I was a different human being.
07:44:30.540
I am very particular now and do not just open my legs.
07:44:38.540
You used to have sex with men fairly quickly, but now the man has to do X, Y, Z to-
07:44:43.960
I used to go partying and like get drunk and wake up and not know where I am.
07:45:07.320
You'd just gone home after a long day of drinking with a different date.
07:45:18.120
Why do you think you were interested in that temporarily?
07:45:23.300
Well, I get that because like, obviously, I think I can see a guy and be like, that guy's
07:45:28.380
But for you to want to have sex with a person, that's more than just being like, oh, that
07:45:34.420
So what was like, oh, I'm going to eat her out now, you know?
07:45:40.620
I know, but do you think if society would have put in more guardrails and kind of like
07:45:43.840
demonized people for being a whore like that, then maybe you wouldn't have had that
07:45:52.160
I mean, I try to think about like where I see myself in the future.
07:45:56.980
If I walk down the aisle, do I see myself getting married to a woman?
07:46:14.040
Uh, let's see, you, some dude who you used to go to high school with DM'd you on Facebook
07:46:23.780
and then like you weren't, it seems like you didn't know this, but when you'd show up to
07:47:41.000
Well, actually she can come on the show and if we're vibing, we're vibing.
07:47:44.320
Because there's tons of influencers who are like little people.
07:48:05.200
Yo, anybody in the chat down to team up with the whatever podcast to develop a dwarf dating app?
07:48:10.760
Dude, you just have to use like the upgraded AI and they'll make you apps now.
07:48:15.280
I think the craziest thing about that though is that two dwarfs can have a baby and it can be a tall baby.
07:48:29.800
You said that you're still willing to give it a try, even though it's not your usual type, but you're not physically attracted to people shorter than you.
07:48:38.800
He got really mad though when you kind of turned him down.
07:48:41.720
He was harassing you and you never heard from him again.
07:48:45.500
And then another little person also reached out to you.
07:48:54.000
So, the first one was a guy that went to the same school as me and he asked me out on a date.
07:49:04.100
The second one also messaged me on social media and I didn't know that he was a little person and so he showed up at my door.
07:49:14.260
My roommate was sitting on the door, the, what do you call it, the porch, whatever.
07:49:21.780
Was he like in a trench coat saying he was on a trench shoulder?
07:49:25.600
He just wanted me to get in the car and we'd go on our date and I said, no, you got to come out of the car.
07:49:32.340
Katie, if you're watching this, you know who I'm talking about.
07:49:42.400
Ryan, Israel has recently bought out ExpressVPN and a few other VPN service providers, so the chance of Israel buying out the whatever podcast is high.
07:49:55.280
No, you really are, Melissa, a really nice person.
07:49:59.740
Like, even the porn star over here, like, just me insinuating that she might have had to have sex with a dwarf is, like, the rudest thing she's ever heard in her life, like, that I would even make that joke.
07:50:11.900
You've dated, gone on dates, and not just one little person, but two.
07:50:21.540
I have a type, but I will give you a chance to see if maybe my mind could change.
07:50:33.900
I don't know if he's shorter than that, but he's...
07:50:43.260
He was on a child TV show, a children's TV show, and now he does other TV shows and things like that.
07:50:59.160
Oh, you've got to talk into the mic, though, because that'll be on you.
07:51:02.540
You know, before we came on the podcast, I am the simp on a blimp, and I'm obviously in a very loving relationship, but did I simp too hard tonight, a little?
07:51:18.320
I mean, I feel like I was just being nice, you know?
07:51:20.660
I mean, Colette, I kind of argued with her, but I wanted to be more, like, fighting, like, be like, get your fat tits out of my face, stupid bitch.
07:51:27.640
But she's really nice, and you're really nice, and you're pretty beige, so everybody's been really cool.
07:51:37.140
I'm obviously Alex's girlfriend, and I'm 26 years old.
07:51:41.660
I was working at One America News Network in San Diego, actually, and I worked for a talk show.
07:51:47.600
He filled in for my boss, and then we went that way.
07:51:49.880
But I'm from Texas originally and graduated from TCU in Fort Worth, and he's in Dallas, and I wanted to move back there anyway because I have friends there and all that stuff.
07:51:57.640
So I moved back, and then we just started dating.
07:52:01.940
Oh, I know, because we're going to have big babies.
07:52:07.540
You just got to propose sooner because she's 26.
07:52:14.760
She has a finance degree from TCU, and I got just a regular general studies degree, a bachelor's degree from LSU.
07:52:45.660
I didn't really want to get dark like this, but this is what I think.
07:52:50.040
And once again, I'm sorry if I was being derogatory.
07:52:52.400
I'm really not trying to be, but I feel like a lot of people have issues with sexuality later on in life because they face sexual trauma as a child.
07:53:01.480
And you were talking about earlier how you're in a tough situation where like people are like moving you or it sounded like it was kind of like a sex trafficking situation.
07:53:12.060
But like did you have any issues with like sexual trauma growing up or anything?
07:53:15.940
Do you think that's kind of what forced you into sex work or I guess pushed you in that direction?
07:53:19.220
No, um, the way that I got into sex work was completely different from whatever assumptions you've had.
07:53:30.440
What is the, why did you, how did you get into it?
07:53:32.900
Oh, um, I was 18 and I took a little, I did because I thought you guys have like, I thought you guys, I saw you guys opening like, when they tip a thousand dollars, then we open up a bottle of champagne.
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I just thought maybe people would bring it or something.
07:53:48.280
Um, wait, but do, was like a boyfriend encourage you to do it?
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Like why at 18 you're like, I'm just going to do this.
07:53:58.420
And, um, at the time working minimum wage and going to school full time, um, studying neuroscience actually.
07:54:06.940
Um, and during that time I had scholarship money, right.
07:54:11.540
And that paid for part of my schooling, but not all of it.
07:54:21.280
So I didn't have funds to do any kind of traveling outside of California, outside of, you know, that area that I grew up in.
07:54:28.020
Um, so I was actually looking for like a sugar dating situation.
07:54:31.780
Um, I was talking to people online, but I never actually met anyone.
07:54:36.240
Um, one of the gentlemen, he paid for a trip for me to go to San Francisco.
07:54:41.300
He already had it booked for a work trip, but he needed to go to Vegas.
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So he just asked me if I wanted to just go there to San Francisco.
07:54:51.000
So I went to San Francisco and, um, I was wandering around by myself and I saw this big castle building.
07:54:59.460
I thought it was some kind of like Renaissance place.
07:55:04.360
Um, it was kink.com is a, is a BDSM porn studio.
07:55:08.820
Um, and I had never, your clothes fell off and your penis fell inside you.
07:55:16.720
Well, but tell us, well, sorry, I'm not sure to be sarcastic.
07:55:19.060
So you go there, you go on the tour and then what happened?
07:55:20.700
They're like, well, you want to make, I mean, yeah, so they did recruit me.
07:55:30.940
And I know you like party films where it's like, they have women who are favors.
07:55:36.520
So I was on an all female, um, public disgrace, but as an extra, well, I am, I am interested
07:55:47.500
Why didn't you, if you could already be with these like sugar daddy guys, like, why not just
07:55:52.760
Why did you finally be like, all right, you know what I'm going to do?
07:55:55.100
I guess that's, that's my, that's my only question is like, seems like you're smart enough
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and attractive enough where guys are interested in you.
07:56:04.500
I'm going to, you know, I never met with any of those guys.
07:56:12.480
I was just staying at the, I could have sworn you said he took you on a trip to San Francisco.
07:56:16.820
No, I said he had a trip paid for in San Francisco for himself, but then he needed
07:56:23.560
So he couldn't get a refund and asked me if I wanted to use that hotel for myself, like
07:56:32.420
And then you went on a tour and then that's, and then I went on a tour and then they offered
07:56:46.300
I was working, I think it was around $9 and 50 cents an hour.
07:56:51.240
Um, and so getting paid 1600, um, to just be an extra.
07:57:01.740
So it was a tough choice for me, you know, to say no when it was, yeah, when it was money.
07:57:14.880
No, it was really hard because, um, so I graduated from high school early with a lot of scholarships.
07:57:23.700
Uh, and then, you know, everybody was kind of paying attention, like, oh, what is she
07:57:35.720
And of course, everybody found out because I'm, I live in, I live in a small town.
07:57:39.700
And King.com is, I mean, did you work more with them?
07:57:44.400
And in a way, and, and I'm just, maybe I'm Monday morning quarterbacking this or like
07:57:49.280
how you were saying that people expected a lot from you and that is a lot of pressure.
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And so that causes, could you have done this knowing that, that would, they would take the
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Now people would have a different viewpoint of you because you did it.
07:58:05.160
So like, do you think maybe you kind of self-sabotaged on purpose because of that pressure?
07:58:09.140
Um, I wouldn't necessarily say it was like self-sabotage.
07:58:12.180
I would say that at the time, you know, being 16, 17, 18 years old in college, partying
07:58:17.800
with college students, having sex with college students put me kind of in a different mental
07:58:24.140
state where I, I thought, you know, I I'm doing all of this.
07:58:29.140
I'm not getting, I'm getting nothing out of it.
07:58:31.400
I'm getting nothing out of it besides like low self-esteem.
07:58:41.140
And so, um, this did empower me to some degree.
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Cause to me, when I'm talking to you, you just seem like you're smarter than a sex worker,
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you know, and I'm, I'm not trying to, I'm not trying to take that as a shot.
07:58:57.260
I'm just saying, it seems like you want to be successful.
07:59:01.260
So I just feel like you do, maybe you're the best sex worker in the world, but I feel
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like you didn't take advantage of some of your talents and maybe you still can't take
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So like any negative energy you felt for me, it's not because I dislike you or I judging
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I just think that you could be incredibly successful.
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You are worth more than letting strangers blast you.
07:59:24.960
We're doing a segment where everybody, every, everybody, everybody takes off their makeup.
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Is there, I don't even know if there's anything in there.
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Down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, down, I'm
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Pasty George, is everybody going to take their makeup off?
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We're going to have to wait until next Christmas.
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Yes, seven is gross to me, not because of her looks, but due to her past.
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The rhetoric of empowerment rings hollow when purchased at the expense of tomorrow's stability.
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Time presents its invoice to every ego unbidden and undiscounted.
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Here, I'll take makeup wipe just to prove that I have nothing on my face.
08:02:14.240
Marley, you wrote the importance of body-mind-spirit connection being established in mental and spiritual
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I mean, actually, you touched on that a little bit, like, hours ago, about how having a lot
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You didn't say it in these words, but the energetic exchange.
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And oxytocin, like, the hormonal response, like, you know?
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You said that with the majority of social interactions occurring online dating...
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What are the effects of the talking stage in comparison to what we call courting and
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Or, sorry, this answer to what I was saying was when...
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I'm not on, like, official social media apps, but, like, we've talked about Facebook and
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I feel like there's so much time spent in the talking stage, and a lot of people, they
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feel like they develop a deep connection from talking because you get into very deep conversations
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usually, but it's still not sufficient to courting.
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And what I have to point out, too, continuously is just because we're at a talking stage doesn't
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That's what I was trying to establish because I think there's confusion because you have these
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really deep talks with someone and you feel close to them, but it doesn't...
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Is that closeness or is that an artificial thing from having a deep conversation?
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But, to me, you have to go meet in person and have that personal exchange.
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I'm not saying for everyone, just for me, and that's why I thought it might be an interesting
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Well, I feel like you can have a deep conversation with somebody and then you're not courting
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And it doesn't have to be romantic to have that.
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But I think there's confusion because we're able to cross so...
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Or we're able to gather so much information from people by having these conversations
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online without ever meeting, that there's a false sense of closeness that isn't actually
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There's people, and some do become my friends, but there's people that just watch my content
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And that's the other problem with interacting strictly online is you're only presented a
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fractal of what that person wants you to know about them.
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They're giving you their best or whatever it is that they want to present to you.
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I will take it off everything, but not with this.
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Yeah, you didn't ask me for anything this time.
08:05:03.080
Yeah, like for example, the whole swingers party stuff, did we cover that?
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Yeah, I was in the first grade when I first was exposed to porn, and so I had a porn addiction.
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And porn addiction, I mean, is the main reason...
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Okay, no, no, no, I know, but we talked about it previously, right?
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Okay, I'm just going to do this just for the sake of time.
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Gentlemen who are watching, she's been on the podcast before, find her previous episode.
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You had a friends with benefits relationship in high school.
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You've been divorced twice, and you're not so keen on traditional rules.
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So I guess traditional dating, but you admit they do exist.
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Husband should be willing to die protecting you.
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We have Colette, LMFT, LMHC, licensed psychotherapist, relationship expert, author.
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You were single for 10 years between marriages.
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You dated multimillionaires, 15 years older, and you also dated a 22-year-old younger guy,
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You also dated a professional Italian soccer player who spoke no English.
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You went on a blind date, and the guy said, I know your ex-husband, and wow, his new wife
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You had your first date where a guy literally pounded on the bathroom door so you wouldn't
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flush the toilet because he wanted to save water?
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Were you like, this was a guy you were dating for a while?
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You got loved bombed for four weeks and then ghosted on your 40th birthday party.
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The beautiful part of that story, I almost gave up on dating because I was so sad.
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You wanted to talk about why compatibility is overrated.
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So you're fine with age gaps then, I'm assuming.
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Like, because people often say, you know, these age gap relationships.
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I mean, I think if it works for the people in it, anything, like, I'm really not against
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anything that's legal and non-traumatizing, I guess.
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But I think that compatibility is not really the thing that people think it is.
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It's two people who choose to make it work because they want to.
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You said you'd also push back on asking women their body count.
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You say it can carry implicit shaming, even if not intended.
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I don't think society judges women the same way they judge men.
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And nobody's going to look twice if a man says he's had sex with, you know, 20-plus people.
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But if a woman says it, a lot of men and women will judge it.
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Just like a lot of things are in both directions, in fairness.
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But, I mean, women can actually be the ones to uphold this.
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Women can just say, we don't want these promiscuous men.
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Women can say, we don't want to be dealing with these promiscuous men.
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If you're a man slut or whatever, then, nah, fuck you.
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But this is the other thing is, like, I think some of the, you guys might not understand is
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that women, you guys actually do have a lot of the power because you have the, you know,
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Your uterus literally is where life comes from.
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Like, without that, we all came from that same portal.
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And I feel like a lot of women have disconnected with the power that they truly have.
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Every single one of us came through that portal.
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That's why you shouldn't let a bunch of guys nut in it.
08:10:25.520
Well, you know, it's like, you know, a baseball bat can, you know, get hit.
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But I'm just saying, like, a baseball mitt, the more you use it, the looser it's going
08:10:38.880
It's like, you can't put the toothpaste back in the toothpaste, too.
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Sometimes there could be a little more moisture and all that, this and that.
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But that said, it may not seem like it, but I actually am an advocate for waiting to have
08:11:09.320
I tried briefly the idea of, like, having one night stands when I was single, because I
08:11:15.260
We didn't, like, I was 18 when I lost my virginity.
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Like, I just thought maybe this idea I've been fed about being so chaste is bullshit,
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I want to at least be dating you and having you yell at me not to flush my toilet, or you
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speak to me in Italian before I'm going to have sex with you.
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And, of course, this is all academic now because I'm married.
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But I do believe people benefit from getting to know each other more before they start having
08:11:51.780
We're going to, you know what we're going to do just for the final five minutes or so,
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five, ten minutes of the show, because we are wrapping, we're going to reduce the TTS.
08:11:59.180
If you guys want to get the final roast in $30 TTS, well, $29.99 TTS, we're going to
08:12:07.440
I just need to change a few things on the YouTube side.
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And while I'm doing that, before I finish up the notes, anybody, any final thoughts from
08:12:17.540
I just want to say, everyone who took their makeup off, like, looks, and you, you were
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I don't know if you've caught me looking at you, but I'm just like, no, you look great.
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Everyone here looks, everyone looks great without, I would love for you to take your
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I know you don't want to, but I know you're beautiful underneath it.
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I do want to say to whoever it was that all of a sudden found me unattractive because
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Like, I want to know more because, like, I'm not like that anymore.
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Actually, I'm probably the least sexual person besides you at this table.
08:13:06.660
What's that scene from Inglourious Bastards where they're about to, like, the bear drew
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I still need to just change it here in one place so the description reflects it.
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Guys, if you enjoyed the stream, kindly like the video.
08:13:49.780
Brian, chair four, didn't remove her makeup or wipe her entire face with a wipey.
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So you won't get a MacBook Pro or a high-end laptop in this episode, but maybe in the following
08:14:02.600
Yeah, I thought she was my Caucasian, but I guess not.
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I thought she was my homie, but I thought we were cool, but she just, you know, whatever.
08:14:12.800
But what if I sing the full Canadian national anthem?
08:14:34.580
You plan on enlisting in the military start of next year.
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I want to do it because I can go in to be at, like, do helicopter mechanicing and get
08:14:50.720
I mean, honestly, I guess if the work and the free college, but I just would tell you
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that going and serving our country is very admirable.
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I'm like, I really appreciate your service, but they're going to chew you up and spit you
08:15:05.360
The helicopter mechanics, though, they probably keep them back.
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Yeah, it probably gets treated a little better.
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I feel like a helicopter mechanic, they got to be paid pretty well, right?
08:15:38.540
Well, like, the top paid, like, A&Ps make, like, $55 an hour.
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She has to do her basic work to be able to go take her tests.
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You said you've been doing it for, like, a year, right?
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I'm not, like, at the bottom of the shop, though.
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Like, there's people that I make more than, and I'm trusted to do more stuff than they are.
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You're in a committed relationship with the plans of marriage.
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You're opinionated and outspoken, and I feel...
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You say you feel you could add some spice to discussions on the show.
08:16:33.500
Well, I mean, I was kind of, like, I, like, listened to the podcast while I'm working in
08:16:40.100
my headphones or whatever, and I feel like everyone here has just been really nice, not
08:16:50.200
It's like, I want to come on here and fight with your big titties.
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Everybody said, people want me to, like, you know, do, like...
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They want us to, you know, like Stone Cold Steve Austin, Tombstone, those
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Tell me what you want me to be, and I'll be it for you, Alex.
08:17:08.560
I came on here with the expectations that I was going to just be fighting, and everybody
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here has been very nice, and, like, if anything, I feel like I might have debated with Brian
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the most, and I agree with him on the most, too, so it's just kind of funny.
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It's like, I mean, nah, I wish we would have been fighting more.
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And then the person I tried to get cum, you know, she said that she would cum any time,
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I'll give you a little shit, but we were, like, arguing about something inconsequential about...
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I mean, you mad that I called you a little masculine, but...
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Yes, I'm aggressive, I'm masculine, and I'm desperate to have sex.
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You are that, but I'm just saying, because you took that as a negative, but I actually
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I know it came across wrong, but I wasn't saying that.
08:18:08.700
Some of the comments I have said have been a little derogatory towards you, but I didn't
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mean that, and I apologize if I was derogatory.
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Some of these girls that are watching this, you don't want to be a porn star.
08:18:34.080
If I was dating a trans woman, is that straight?
08:18:40.840
I guess that would depend where they are in their transition, right?
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I feel like there's a small percentage of people that do the full surgery.
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Unless they're, like, literally 10 out of 10, look like...
08:19:19.840
Wait, I thought you said they would have the full surgery.
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Well, I was granting it for her that it would be post-op.
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I mean, regardless, I would say maybe you're a pansexual.
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I don't think that you're straight if you're dating somebody that's trans.
08:19:38.920
Well, there is a way it could be straight, because this is how it could be, and you see
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If it's a post-op trans woman, and the person, yeah, has sex with them and didn't know.
08:20:08.700
I feel like, like, she was very opinionated, you, about, like, race, and you said something
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like, you cannot dress up as black as you want, but you're always going to be a white
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Like, you can dress up as a woman, you can try to cut your wiener off, but you're never
08:20:39.000
You have some interesting interactions with men that were traumatizing.
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The first thing a guy said to you once was, trade?
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So, like, on Snapchat, like, a lot of people will just, like, add you, and sometimes you'll
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add people back, and, like, the first time, the first thing a guy will say to you sometimes
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And then you said, final thing for you, Taylor, you say how women demand a man act like a
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traditional chivalrous man, but they do nothing to deserve that kind of man.
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And I feel like I couldn't find a good spot to join in.
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You say porn and OnlyFans ruined the dating scene.
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I couldn't work a regular job, and I had to make a decision.
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Do I want to keep doing social media and have an OnlyFans?
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Or do I want to, like, kind of live in fear of creepy men coming to my job and to my house and saying that they're going to rate me?
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Because I get so much good attention from saying bad things happen, you know?
08:22:30.300
You say how everyone wants all these traditional romantic things to happen, being with your partner for your whole life, beautiful family, but out here acting like they are trying to catch him all.
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I mean, they're not, like, acting like they're trying.
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They're not dating with the intention to marry.
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They're not putting the effort in their relationship to push towards marriage and that kind of thing.
08:23:16.720
Cam, you went to Mexico with someone you were dating at the time and he left you there.
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It was with this one guy from Newport Beach where...
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Because he was a weirdo and he had, like, legit mental issues.
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Long story short, he was a travel nurse, so he obviously had a lot of access to certain medication that...
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And, you know, while I was on this trip, I felt like it was, like, this complete switch.
08:23:58.720
And I was just like, whoa, like, this is not the person I've been, you know, getting to know for the past eight months.
08:24:05.340
He didn't like the attention that I was getting down there.
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He didn't like that I spoke better Spanish than him.
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So, while we were down there, he just was getting more aggravated every day.
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We were, he was just, like, fighting with me over the smallest things.
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And I kid you not, the last straw for him was me taking a picture on the beach.
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He was like, why are you taking photos in a bikini?
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Like, even if I wasn't in a bikini, let's say I'm fully clothed, I'd still take photos.
08:24:39.200
Yeah, that's not weird to take a picture on vacation.
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I've had enough of this Kim Kardashian lifestyle that you just live and I'm so over.
08:24:53.480
I'm actually on his side because you do have Kim K vibes.
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Do you have a ticket home or did you have to, like, buy a new one?
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I've traveled to many countries alone by myself.
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So, it didn't really spook me, but it was just the principle.
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He tried reaching out to me, I think, like, through WhatsApp.
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No, this was definitely, I think, within the third or fourth day.
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It was supposed to be a six-day trip, but then, like, towards the end.
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And, obviously, I feel like the more time you spend with someone, the more other true
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Not just when you live with them, but when you travel with them.
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And people, you know, react to certain situations differently.
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We're going to let some of the chats come through.
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If you want to get a little TTS in, final call.
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The thing is, Chair 7, you're not a bad-looking girl, minus our tattoos.
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Men have a built-in disgust response to women's promiscuity.
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We accept that you may have changed, but we're repulsed anyway.
08:27:03.420
Chair 8, I was a marine aircraft mechanic and air crew.
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If you're joining any branch, make it the Marine Corps.
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No, because then you're hanging out with crayon eaters.
08:27:23.380
No, because I want to join National Guard because I'll make more money with a civilian job and a military job.
08:27:39.900
When dating apps reward attention over connection and I starts replacing affection,
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are we people searching for love or chasing validation in a system to keep us lonely?
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I want to thank the panelists for attending the podcast.
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And then we have this below the threshold, but you guys can just see it on screen, I guess.
08:29:00.260
Well, if there's any that trickle through here at the end, I'll let them come through.
08:29:09.260
Well, I reiterated earlier, I'm mad that we didn't fight enough.
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You know, some of you dirty whores are pretty good people, and you guys deserve a little
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So thank you guys for actually, you know, this is the other thing.
08:29:23.120
Even though I disagree with what you do, we do have a loneliness epidemic, and you guys
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are getting a lot of disrespect from people probably in the chat, even though I probably
08:29:33.780
You guys probably do help out a lot of lonely guys.
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So even though what you do is disgusting and horrible, it does have some...
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But for OnlyFans, I really do think what I'm selling is not porn or, you know, masturbation.
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It's not all just transactional, buy this picture, buy this video.
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I don't know about full-on therapist, but, you know.
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I think there's a lot more to therapy than people realize.
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And you are so well-spoken, and you've clearly done so, like...
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I feel like you'd be a great marriage counselor if I need one.
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So, me and Alex here, you know, we're a bit controversial, whatever.
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I know we're not, like, in a clinic right now or whatever, but...
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Well, you're not very professional because I have schizophrenia.
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I have a manic depression, so you're obviously not a very good doctor.
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I mean, I think it's just more interesting from, like, a sociocultural aspect.
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I would have to ask you different things to get at diagnoses, really, truly.
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And I think anyone in my field that takes their job seriously is very careful about throwing
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those things around anyway because they're so misused.
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But I just think you guys are regular dudes with strong opinions.
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Okay, well, now, that is not in the DSM, but thank you for telling me.
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I mean, listen, with ASD, like, again, it's literally a spectrum, and it is such a spectrum
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that I think that can be hard to detect, too, but that would not have...
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The spectrum's so big, it's so much impossible not to be on it.
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I mean, I think it can manifest in so many different ways when people are high-functioning.
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There's so many different variations of retardation, it's so much impossible for us to not be slightly
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We are not equating ASD with mental deficiencies, if you will.
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But I do think it's interesting to hear people using the R word.
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Well, you can have, like, retarded growth, or, like, growth to get stopped.
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Like, it doesn't mean that the growth has autism, right?
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So, like, retard, like, something can be retarded, that means you stop it from growing.
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I mean, when you're not applying it to people, it can still be used.
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You get to choose what makes you offended, right?
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Like, that was, like, the most common word said.
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But I try to think about the impact I have on other people without totally...
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The 80s, you're a white guy, so you're allowed to say it.
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If this is the 80s, I'd be saying it to you the whole time, Kim.
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Why do you think of that word when you look at me?
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I wouldn't be using it like that, but I'm just...
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You know, Dave Chappelle has a joke on this, though.
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But he was going to see somebody who worked as a censor at Comedy Central, and they wanted
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I'm not going to say it on stream, but a bundle of sticks.
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Because he was saying it, and they were like, you know what?
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I'm trying to remember exactly the framing here, but he...
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And then he goes back to her, and he's like, well, hold on.
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And then she's like, well, Dave, you are black.
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And he says, well, that's right, but I'm not the N word.
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Anyways, that's probably not the best encapsulation of what I'm saying.
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You know, there's the black people, and then there's the N words.
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It's a famous Chris Rock thing, but there is a difference between black people and the N.
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And I would be using the word, but I don't want to disrespect my soul system.
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You call your friends retards when they're acting retarded.
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Share four gets your strong and independent as back in the country on your own.
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All y'all O F thoughts slash grannies are cooked with cats.
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Well, in response, I did get myself back into the country.
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Well, so my dad was born in Africa and my mom's American.
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My dad was born in, well, I don't know if I want to give too much details, but he was
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To finish my thought to chair seven, you might be asking, what good does this advice do me
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Unfortunately, none, but it might lead you to point young girls in a better direction.
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And also, yes, very hyped to see the pimp on a blimp tonight.
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I feel like you, you, you did a look when you said that.
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I'm trying to go home so I can make love to my wife.
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I'm about to do some, I'm about to get some, we're about to get some In-N-Out.
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I'm about to eat some freaking, uh, that secret sauce off my baby's titties tonight.
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Do they sell the spread at the grocery store or something?
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I'm going to put some mayonnaise on our titties.
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Would you be willing, you and you, would you guys be willing to commit tonight to quitting
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Will you quit sex work tonight on the Whatever Podcast?
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I actually think she did, though, because she's taking it really seriously.
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She lives a lifestyle that you can't have to be in Scientology.
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Also, guys, please leave a nice comment once the live ends.
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We have to end the stream for you to be able to leave a comment.
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It helps with the algorithm, positivity, all that.
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Thank you to everyone who super chats, donates, and supports the show.
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We will be- I'll be live again Wednesday, most likely Wednesday, doing a whatever Wednesday
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She currently has like, I don't know, Ebola or some shit.
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We will be live again Sunday with another dating talk.
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And then I believe it's in like two weeks or whatever, Andrew Wilson in studio.
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Any girls who want to be on the show, of course, you can DM at whatever if you want to
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be on the show, if you, you know, you saw the show tonight, you're still watching 07s