In this episode of the Whatever Podcast, the Whatever crew is joined by the hosts of Women on Men and The Crucible to debate whether or not the Red Pill is a poison or a poison itself. In this episode, we discuss the dangers of Red Pill ideology and the role gender roles play in perpetuating it.
00:08:27.500date and whatever so here's an easy one i guess let's start with whatever because i'm intricate
00:08:37.900i'm pretty familiar with the content here um so what is the message that's being put out there
00:08:45.100um there's a lot of misogynics the messages that come out of this podcast and i have let's start
00:08:49.720with what is misogyny misogyny is the hatred or dislike of women the active dislike of women
00:08:55.840uh plural women yeah correct the entire so not the active dislike of a woman no not typically so it's
00:09:03.720just women yeah okay so misogyny is the active hatred or dislike of women yeah got it all right
00:09:09.360and fresh and fit is another big let's start with whatever okay yeah so what is the misogyny or the
00:09:16.540dislike of women which is promoted on this channel every day it's presented as a dating podcast but
00:09:21.100it's really not um the topics that typically come up on this podcast what makes it not a dating
00:09:25.960podcast i'm about to go into that oh okay go ahead um a dating podcast should not discuss whether or
00:09:31.500not women should be submissive whether women should vote on sunday sunday show you ask women how many
00:09:37.660pumps after they tell you to stop is it grape that's not a dating podcast that's one of the
00:09:42.600craziest questions i've ever heard um you basically say divorce hurts men marriage is pointless i don't
00:09:49.300know how that's helping your audience i don't know how military conscription has anything to do with a
00:09:53.400dating podcast i don't know how uh you know guests being shown a submissive ex-girlfriend and saying
00:10:00.040would you bow to your husband would you bow to your husband that's not a dating podcast that is
00:10:04.460promoting hatred of women and misogyny as well female guests are pressured to reveal their body
00:10:09.880count and then mocked if they don't reveal they're interrogated until they reveal um women with only
00:10:16.600fans are moralized and told to quit um male promiscuity is excused and celebrated um women are asked about
00:10:23.880their peak looks age and questioned incessantly segments like man bear versus woods mock women's very
00:10:30.240real fears about male violence even though statistical realities are ignored and dismissed as irrational
00:10:36.060um the super chat roast um the guests love to shit on these women every chance they get
00:10:41.940and on this show feminism and women are blamed for most of men's problems
00:10:45.860and i have a do you have a copy of that i'd like to see it the thing because you just shotgunned a
00:10:55.860bunch of points and andrew might you want yeah you can have it one by one i also have peer-reviewed
00:11:00.580studies if you want those too yeah if you have uh any especially if they have a meta-analysis i'd like
00:11:05.660to see them and and just to be before you give your response andrew my understanding here for the
00:11:10.500the debate was primarily going to be about feminism not specific criticisms of the well i mean this is
00:11:17.020the prompts were about manosphere and red pill yeah so this is i'm actually fine with this right so
00:11:23.960um why it's not a really a dating podcast whether women should be submissive um why i don't understand
00:11:31.560why would that not be relational to dating what does submission have to do with dating well because
00:11:37.720dating is a especially on a dating show you would be significantly talking about people's preferences
00:11:42.820when it came to the the social experiences they're having with the opposite sex you're not talking
00:11:48.000about your preferences you're talking about their preferences because when you talk about submission
00:11:51.180you're talking about from your worldview women should be submissive okay but what from their worldview
00:11:55.540that they could also have maybe a counter to that why they shouldn't or uh also a lot of them say yes
00:12:00.940they should so the idea here for submission especially would be i don't i don't see how that's not dating
00:12:07.120related i i don't know how submission comes up on any sort of date i don't know if you've ever been
00:12:11.660on a date in the last 20 years okay so if i ask you what type of woman do you want and you go through
00:12:19.960the traits and you say i'd also like a submissive woman does that make sense to say as a trait sure
00:12:25.240i don't know many people that would just offer that up as one of the first things they want a woman but
00:12:28.920maybe those are the people you hang out with who said is the first if you're at if i'm asking if you
00:12:32.520ask somebody i'm asking what's your dynamic and one of the answers is a submissive woman yeah that
00:12:37.920comes up all the time for men in dating okay in your circles perhaps i mean no just in what it
00:12:44.060well how many dating podcast sample sizes do you have here i listen i'm i'm on a dating podcast i made
00:12:50.400one i listen to a lot i listen to a lot of your shows i listen to a lot of everything that's out
00:12:53.780there i don't understand any of the dating podcasts that come up when you ask men yeah their preference
00:12:59.280they've never once says i would prefer to have a woman who's more submissive the topic of submission
00:13:03.860only comes up on red pill podcast no it doesn't only come up where else does it come up it's been
00:13:08.940on dr phil it's been everywhere dr phil talks about submission every episode every episode i didn't
00:13:13.860say every episode he's not doing a dating is he doing a dating podcast don't mention dr phil's a
00:13:18.560dating show then doing don't mention dr phil's a dating show that's not a dating show you asked where
00:13:22.940else it's mentioned as a dating show that is not a dating yeah so in any in any case any of the
00:13:27.920dating podcasts that i've seen is a very common answer to say if they want to name another dating
00:13:32.040podcast and here's the other thing to dive into this name another dating here's the other thing
00:13:35.640to dive into this well you got to name another dating podcast okay fresh and fit happens there
00:13:38.900all red pill content exactly as i said okay so when you're talking about a dating podcast what do you
00:13:44.460mean by that something a little less i don't know misogynistic perhaps what does that mean though
00:13:49.240i've already explained it to you and defined it if any man has it has a dating podcast is it
00:13:54.560uh red pill i have a dating podcast and it's not misogynistic i see and let me ask you a question
00:13:59.320what kind of questions you ask in your dating podcast i ask them what are their priorities in
00:14:03.000a man i ask them do you have advice for men and how many uh how many men have you had on zero it's
00:14:08.660called women on men oh i see so you're a misandrist absolutely not well i don't understand why don't
00:14:13.520you want a man's opinion because i want to ask women specifically that has nothing misandry involves
00:14:18.180hate i don't hate men oh okay i got it so so you only have on women correct and you don't ask them
00:14:23.940when you ask them about preferences yeah right did they say that they want things like assertive men
00:14:29.740no do they say that they want less assertive men i give them a list of 10 traits and say rank these
00:14:35.620between your top three and your bottom three okay so you're you're giving them the answers i'm not
00:14:40.520giving them the answers they take a lot of time to think about it but you just said you gave them
00:14:44.48010 traits yeah that's not the answers those are options yeah that's the answers that are options you
00:14:50.180can choose from it's a multiple choice that's not answers yes it's answers okay their answers
00:14:55.120andrew yeah you give them 10 answers and say choose from these and then they sort them yeah but that
00:14:59.520doesn't mean that's their answers you're making them choose from answers that you give them okay so
00:15:03.180you're literally feeding them their answers and then they choose them yep and they don't come and say
00:15:07.840man i wish you would have had this on well how can why is it then well how long have you been
00:15:11.300doing it can we get back yeah no can we get back to misogynistic podcast if it is the case can we get
00:15:15.600back to misogynistic podcast no we're not it is the case that it is your criticism can we get back
00:15:19.960to misogynistic if you're gonna have criticisms for whatever i'm gonna have criticisms for your
00:15:22.980podcast you haven't even listened to it so don't don't talk about it do i need to pull it up and
00:15:26.520listen to it to it from you go ahead pull it up on youtube i can listen to it go ahead and pull it
00:15:30.060up on youtube you have not watched my podcast so don't sit here we're not going to critique my
00:15:33.240podcast why not because you haven't even watched it let's watch it go ahead pull it up so if we
00:15:37.520pull up 45 minutes 45 minutes 45 minutes put on two times speed and then we can critique my podcast but
00:15:43.160until then tell me about another yeah non-misogynistic red pill podcast well i don't think any of those
00:15:47.680are misogynistic podcasts yeah of course not you got to demonstrate that they actually hate these
00:15:51.420women by their actions by the things everything that's happening right there so so let's go through
00:15:56.900some more of these when myron gains has a has a college uh table that says women deserve less
00:16:02.660you don't think that's a little misogynistic is that during his podcast he is one of the red pill
00:16:08.040content creators that we're talking about be a podcast dude i thought i had to be a podcast
00:16:12.960can you act like an adult that is the most childish thing i've ever seen in my whole life
00:16:17.660you put the you gave me the criteria the criteria is the content creators including myron gains yes
00:16:22.220i've always said that so nothing's changed so as we're talking about dating podcasts the idea of
00:16:27.120dating correct is it also possible there's just not that many yeah there's not a lot of red pill
00:16:31.440podcasts no no just dating podcasts there's a ton of dating okay name some mine name some other ones
00:16:37.180um there's a guy named man we're in trouble um there's um ev edit there's uh ev edits a uh dating
00:16:47.020podcast yeah she talks about dating and men and say dating podcast though yes so they have this
00:16:53.100isn't a dating podcast so they have this isn't a dating podcast so on ev edit they have uh every
00:16:58.680single time they come on they have multitudes of people on with them and all they talk about
00:17:02.360necessarily say they have guests i'm not talking about the format i'm saying that's what the content
00:17:05.920that comes up is men and women and this is not a dating podcast that we're currently so you're just
00:17:09.420talking about for you a dating podcast just anybody who's talking about dating this is not a dating
00:17:15.200podcast that we're currently on well prove it i just did how let's go through more you want me to
00:17:21.340read them so here why don't we do the first one whether women should be submissive i don't i don't
00:17:26.920understand how again how would that not yeah actually how would that not be a decent question
00:17:33.720to ask for dating i don't get you ask on your first dates what if a woman would be submissive yeah
00:17:38.720no exactly because it's not a dating question why would that wait hang on let's back up let's assume
00:17:44.360for a second that anything that i would ask a woman on the first date isn't something you would ask
00:17:49.460a woman on the first date what does that prove i'm saying the things you guys do how do you think
00:17:53.580you're gonna look better in 10 years do you think you're gonna look better in 10 years is that
00:17:56.780something you ask on the date my question what's your body count you ask that on the first date
00:18:00.040can you answer my question you ask what's a body count on the first date before it before you start
00:18:03.460yeah you have different questions before you start shotgunning questions you have different
00:18:06.840questions i'll never answer one of yours if you never answer one of mine go ahead andrew so so here
00:18:11.760here we go again what does it actually prove what does it prove that if i asked a whole sequence of
00:18:19.600different questions from you on my first date what does that prove yeah you're not asking these
00:18:25.680questions on your first can you answer my question did what does it prove it proves that you're not
00:18:29.940asking these questions so it doesn't prove anything it does prove it what does it prove that you're not
00:18:33.880asking these kinds of questions on your first date what is that proving outside of that it proves that
00:18:39.460these are more misogynistic does it also hang on does it also prove that i don't ask any other
00:18:43.420questions other people would ask that you're not asking here i have no idea if it proves like it's just so
00:18:47.420stupid dude it proves nothing okay what does it prove what do those questions prove nothing they
00:18:53.420don't prove anything okay this is just a pure dating podcast dating is about your preferences
00:18:59.280anecdotes experiences yeah it's about how many pumps after she says stop is grape that's a dating
00:19:04.800podcast do you think that when people hold on answer that question i'll answer it i don't think
00:19:08.860you are you have to stop talking i can't answer it so stop talking okay i'll answer it is it the
00:19:15.000case that when you have uh you know half a dozen people who are sitting at a table and they're
00:19:19.960building a rapport with each other that they crack jokes you think that's a joke yeah how many pumps
00:19:25.200after a woman says stop is a grape is a joke yeah who laughs at that uh lots of people i think it's
00:19:29.840funny i i'm not surprised i think it's funny i think you think it's funny i'm sure you think it's
00:19:33.960funny it is funny but do you know why it's funny what makes it funny because you're a little
00:19:37.240misogynistic no no no it's because a feminist on this program uh-huh a few months ago i remember i
00:19:42.620saw yeah yeah so i don't so it's a call back to that it's not a call back to that yeah it's a
00:19:46.740call back to that because that was not about stopping yeah it was about consent yeah but that
00:19:50.580was about your wife sleeping and you banging her while she's sleeping but that does if she says stop
00:19:54.980and you keep going is that consent that well the idea there is how long after is is are you violating
00:20:00.740consent that's the idea yeah that's a dating podcast topic right of course no yeah of course people
00:20:04.840talk about that all the time right do you think that in the age in this modern age where
00:20:10.120intersexual and interpersonal dynamics between men and women are so fucked up and they are
00:20:14.780fucked up you're contributing right do you think that the idea when you have tons of people who are
00:20:20.620out there talking about consent do you have feminist academics who are talking about if two people are
00:20:25.300drunk and they have sex are actually technically raping each other raping each other right do you
00:20:29.560really think that these are inappropriate questions to ask during a dating podcast in modernity
00:20:34.640i absolutely believe it's inappropriate to say how many pumps after a woman says stop is it grape
00:20:41.200yeah why it's inappropriate why because it should just well how many she says stop tell me how many
00:20:45.280i'm not going to answer that question you're not going to answer it no because it's a stupid ass
00:20:47.840question i don't know i think it's a fair question of course you do because you're misogynistic what's
00:20:50.940misogynistic about it because that is great you're talking about grape in such a light-hearted manner
00:20:54.920how does that just answer the question how does that prove i hate women dude we can go down the list
00:20:59.720of things you've said go down the list out of your 5 000 debates go down the list do you like
00:21:04.720women at all love them oh you love them sure yeah yeah you know you know i know it's so funny to
00:21:09.720talk about you know how i know it's so funny do you know i know i like them more than you the fact
00:21:13.060that you would laugh at a great question shows that you don't like women i laugh oh hang on hang
00:21:16.900on are you saying i hate men because i laugh about prison grape no you don't i don't get it
00:21:21.100though that's a double standard you don't hate men you don't you love you only care about men
00:21:25.240so if i make light of a man getting raped yeah you don't see that's that's fine you don't see
00:21:30.340it the same and it's not you don't see it i don't know how do i see it you tell me you see women is
00:21:33.940so much less than prove it i'm looking for the demonstration not the assertion just watch just
00:21:38.720watch just watch the assertion just watch andrew's videos just watch it yeah exactly yeah don't prove
00:21:44.580no evidence just watch yeah no i'm making it up i'm making it up so just tell me real quick
00:21:48.880how can you uh affirm that i hate women because i might make light of a grape joke for women but i
00:21:56.160don't hate men if i make light of a grape joke for men i'm not sure you know i know you're not sure
00:22:00.100because that makes no fucking sense okay so moving on to the next one um as we go through this uh
00:22:07.440whether women should vote so in modernity women's voting habits right uh have a lot to do with the
00:22:14.720modern state of society don't they sure and they have to do with um with the state of of people who
00:22:21.880want maybe patriarchy or they want highly religious women who allow men to lead uh or women who will
00:22:28.380turn over their ability to vote to their own husband and say you just tell me where to vote yeah
00:22:32.880you agree with all of that sure okay so then why wouldn't it be pertinent to ask women what they
00:22:39.780think about women's voting patterns and voting habits because you talk about revoking the right
00:22:45.060for women to vote so so it's just just an easy conversation don't people have should women
00:22:49.680vote that's just something that people talk about around their dinner table right it's okay do you
00:22:53.660think that was an easy conversation when you were talking about whether or not it was okay for white
00:22:58.320women to vote to date black men i think what was an easy conversation that conversation sure pre
00:23:04.280pre-miscegenation was pretty hard conversation right but do you think that it was pertinent to dating at the
00:23:08.820time sure okay so then if that was pertinent to dating at the time and they were talking about
00:23:14.040all the reasons you should or shouldn't do this the danger and it's a political and it's a political
00:23:17.960ideology yeah but on both sides right why is it not appropriate for us to have a conversation about
00:23:24.340women's voting patterns when it comes to relationships it's not women's voting patterns it's
00:23:28.760should women vote yeah that's not about patterns yeah that is the question about women well how would
00:23:33.600you determine if they should or shouldn't i just think everyone should oh you just think that yeah
00:23:38.420tell me why i don't need to you don't need to no okay so the thing is is um i'll i'll just i'll just
00:23:45.320release you from this i'll just let you skip out on giving me no justification for why everybody
00:23:50.360should be able to vote i don't i don't need what i want to know i would like to know you don't need
00:23:54.360one i don't need a justification i don't need justification i don't need justification to ask
00:23:58.420a woman uh if if she thinks other women should have the right to vote in order for me to judge whether
00:24:03.200or not she's a submissive woman or not sure but that's not a dating topic that's just you being if i want to
00:24:07.140judge that's just you being political you guys push your conservative agenda on this channel and
00:24:11.060that's what you do do you think that i want to live in it well i do yeah you do and that's not
00:24:15.000my channel jim bob i know because homie just sits back and chills brian's chilling he's eating popcorn
00:24:20.060while you ask these questions yeah it's right i mean i literally have made it's his podcast it's a
00:24:25.100never made any qualms that i'm here to represent my worldview i know but it's a dating podcast you're
00:24:29.500asking these crazy questions they're not crazy they're absolutely should women vote is a crazy
00:24:34.060question in 2025 can i also ask you this do you think that men and women getting and when they're
00:24:41.080in relationships get into political arguments often sure constantly right i mean theoretically
00:24:46.540if you're dating somebody with the same values you're not if you marry if you marry a woman
00:24:50.240and she votes against your vote would that create marital issues maybe but i don't think you probably
00:24:57.940would have ever married that person to begin with because you don't probably not you know why
00:25:01.300because you asked her what she thought about the right to vote and she said i want women to have
00:25:05.140the right to vote and so he didn't fucking marry her he didn't date her because she doesn't align
00:25:08.960with you politically does that you know do you know people that do that do you know people that say
00:25:13.300i won't marry this woman because she thinks i won't marry an overly assertive woman who thinks
00:25:18.040that she's going to be politically dominant my home of course doesn't do about politically
00:25:21.080dominant you said if i ask a woman do you think women should vote and she says yes i'm not going
00:25:25.880to date that person and then but hang on but then you ask her why no i don't ask her i know but if
00:25:30.740you were going to date her you should no because i think women should vote i know you think that and
00:25:35.980you're not every man who lives wow how many men don't think women should vote i have no idea but at
00:25:42.180least a significant significant amount yeah i do but give me a percentage of how i have no idea throw
00:25:47.200it out you're a smart guy that would be impossible throw it out you're a smart guy you can you can
00:25:51.260assume how many men you want a number throw a percentage in your gut in your heart of hearts how many men
00:25:55.520don't want women to vote i'll throw that out if you throw out how many do okay okay you first how
00:26:00.860many men want how many men want women to vote i say at least 90 based on men i know so that's it
00:26:07.460yeah so based on exactly just like i'm asking you to do yeah that's why i wouldn't give you one yeah
00:26:12.060because i don't deal in anecdotes no no we don't deal in anecdotes at all you deal in anecdotes all
00:26:16.280the time but no i don't unless you're asking me about something anecdotal okay so anyway um yeah
00:26:22.200there's no reason there's actually no good reason that you've given me yet for why it's not pertinent
00:26:27.000inside of a man's dating life if he wants a submissive woman why he she wouldn't be politically
00:26:31.200aligned with his ideology okay so just pointing that out sure you actually still haven't given me
00:26:37.140a reason yeah on sunday's show you asked why i didn't ask this so i don't know anything about it
00:26:41.720how many pumps after a woman uh says stop before it becomes grape i didn't ask that i know but it's
00:26:50.220that's why this isn't a dating podcast because you made a joke that's not a joke yeah it's a
00:26:54.380callback joke it's like it's very clear to me that it's not it's not clear because it's a totally
00:26:58.380different scenario okay even even though you see you really don't think that that's about consent i
00:27:03.580know what the joke was i remember it was i thought it wasn't a joke debate you're i thought it wasn't
00:27:08.300a joke i'm talking about the callback i'm saying this is not a joke so so what makes it not a joke
00:27:13.900because it's not funny oh so you don't find it funny so nobody's not funny nobody was laughing
00:27:18.580not a single person so if i would so if i go back to that time stamp and i look at it go please do
00:27:23.020and nobody's gonna say anything now nobody's gonna say anything the only person that kind of
00:27:26.140chuckled was brian so then it was a joke no then why did brian laugh i'm not sure because he thought
00:27:33.620it was funny perhaps if the joke teller thinks it's funny that's that's a problem why because if
00:27:39.340no one else is laughing except the joke teller that's a problem that just means it's a bad joke
00:27:42.760not that it's not a joke okay it's so funny yeah you're right yeah but i mean can people tell bad
00:27:47.320jokes sure and nobody laughs yeah bad jokes about but if you tell the joke and then you laugh do you
00:27:53.260think it was intended as a dating podcast yeah do you think it was intended as a joke no i don't
00:27:58.260so why did he laugh i'm not sure yeah that's very maybe out of awkward maybe out of insecurity
00:28:03.700maybe yeah people laugh in uncomfortable circumstances you do it all the time yeah but
00:28:08.240when i asked you why you said because he thought it was funny i said maybe it's insecurity i have no
00:28:12.900idea maybe it's way to change your answer bro oh yeah i can change my answer new information how
00:28:17.120about that yeah it's your information how is it new the next one is divorce hurts men marriage is
00:28:23.760pointless what that's literally the opposite of my message no well he's saying that's one of the
00:28:30.540reasons how the show is not a dating podcast you're when we talk about divorce you're actively promoting
00:28:37.400people you're actively saying why should men get married that's a common talking point no i usually
00:28:42.140ask why secular men should why should anybody get well this is super important so this i don't even
00:28:48.720think you would argue that this is isn't dating related so the span and spectrum between religious
00:28:54.740and the religious who want to get married in their preferences and secularists want to get married
00:28:58.020in their preferences like fucking night and day and so i always draw this parallel out when i ask
00:29:03.860religious people why do you want to get married right especially religious women and then you hear
00:29:08.720this answer right you know i want to fulfill my obligations to god or i want to you know
00:29:13.440live a certain lifestyle which is based on my ethical system that's why i want to get married you ask
00:29:18.280secularist women why you want to get married and oftentimes they'll give you a whole complete class
00:29:23.420list of i want more resources or i would like security or they're not unreasonable right but they
00:29:31.580definitely have a completely distinct distinction and opinion for why they want to get married that is
00:29:37.440i don't even think you could disagree that that's 100 valid for dating talking about marriage is
00:29:42.880fine discouraging it's not when when do i ever just this podcast discourages marriage all the time
00:29:48.260when when have i ever discouraged marriage i didn't say you did i said this podcast i have always
00:29:53.240maintained to try to throw you like as much of an olive branch as i can i've always maintained that to
00:29:58.280me i can't create justifications for secular marriage well by the way we're also talking about
00:30:03.080red pill manosphere myron gains is also someone else another popular he also can't create so i've
00:30:08.200had conversations with myron about this yeah okay he also is in the same boat that i am in that for
00:30:13.720secularist men because what myron says is from the religious standpoint makes sense especially if
00:30:18.320there's an ecclesiastical authority which can help govern it right um but he's the same place like
00:30:23.240from the secularist standpoint justifying it for men is very difficult when he's talking about not
00:30:28.520getting married he never caveats it about being secular he says why would men get married they
00:30:32.680don't get anything out of it it's stupid and this is the same message that red pill content creators
00:30:36.280are promoting to their people and that's why they are actually that's why they're alone and that's
00:30:40.100why they're isolated so i'll seed some ground here okay that um he probably does talk like that
00:30:45.920but he's a secularist okay so when he's when he's referencing men right he's thinking of it from
00:30:51.960that view what does andrew tate think about marriage again what does that do with myron gains
00:30:56.700one at a time don't pivot don't red hair wait and also i just want to come in here
00:31:00.680andrew wilson is not andrew tate so why is andrew doing a defense of andrew tate he's doing a
00:31:06.280defense of red pill manos for your content yeah they are content creators of that i'm fine i'm fine
00:31:11.160doing this so uh andrew tate is looking at things also from the perspective of um muslim and um he's
00:31:20.980looking at things from he has a like a variance perspective that's kind of interesting but
00:31:25.720um discouraging i actually understand why it is that secularists discourage marriage for men
00:31:33.200uh that makes sense to me and i actually understand why it is that tate would discourage
00:31:38.600uh marriage for men as well that also makes sense to me but since his conversion he actually seems to
00:31:45.780discourage it less but says instead that there needs to be reforms and changes to the way that the
00:31:50.500laws are done so that men don't take as much risk in marriage okay so going back to my opening statement
00:31:55.580three of the biggest podcasts that promote red pill content whatever fresh and fit and andrew tate
00:32:00.880most of them excluding you and jim bob discourage marriage typically so that's my point that i've
00:32:07.180been making this whole time that you guys these content creators are discouraging men and women
00:32:11.860from getting together because it benefits them but i need you to tell me this okay now okay i'm going
00:32:16.680to actually concede this point so that you can tell me why the fuck that's bad for men do you think
00:32:21.840men shouldn't get together with women i'd have no i would love to hear your justifications for why it
00:32:27.360is that secularist men ought to get married to secularist women go ahead i think that red pill men
00:32:34.360especially the incels of the world 95 of them report severe depression and they're lonely so these kinds
00:32:41.840of podcasts promote people being alone and that is dangerous to men you're right but have you looked
00:32:47.420at the unaliving rates for divorced men they're high but no how much higher 80 of all on the lives
00:32:56.40080 of all on the lives are men 80 of all on the lives and by the way why didn't you throw in uh
00:33:02.360because you're only giving one side of this right i've read probably all of these studies in fact you
00:33:07.560can give me the list i bet you i have you had the list here's what's interesting in the study that
00:33:13.100you're citing specifically especially when it comes to unaliving studies yeah especially when
00:33:16.880it comes to unaliving which demographic unalives the most it's those who cohabitate the cohabitating
00:33:23.500men who are unmarried right they actually unalive more than the men who are married or the men who
00:33:31.840aren't married including these depressed men and cohabitation seems to be like kind of the number one
00:33:36.620thing that secularist push right go ahead and cohabitate and go ahead and live together there's no
00:33:41.220reason for you to have any type of moral standards there's no reason for you not to go ahead and move
00:33:45.800in with with your girlfriend that's what they push do you know who's getting married more right now
00:33:51.080than anybody any other demographic who college educated people yeah that's true mostly secularists
00:33:57.280so i don't know what you're talking about they're not secularists aren't pushing don't get married
00:34:02.340what does that have to do with anything this idea that you're saying secularists have this non-moral
00:34:05.760code where they're saying just cohabitate it doesn't matter that's not what's happening because
00:34:08.900they're actually getting married yeah because women who are in college have access to much
00:34:13.500higher status men than women who are in college college educated people are also getting divorced
00:34:18.120less yes because you have that the high status man that you want who has lots and lots of money
00:34:25.000yes that's the way that works the women are also making a lot of money do you know how no not no so
00:34:30.220here's the thing that's so funny here's what you what you didn't include here so when it comes to the
00:34:34.920middle right you're right that the the middle class which i would argue you're saying i'm right a lot
00:34:38.760which which probably doesn't exist i appreciate you saying i'm right well the thing that's so
00:34:42.840fun about making a concession to a point is that it makes it easier for me to destroy it oh yeah so
00:34:48.400here's what's funny about this you are correct that the middle class does get divorced a bit less
00:34:53.240or i'm sorry get married a bit less right um in some cases a lot less depending on depending
00:34:59.200on what's going on but here's why you can only usually get a guy or a woman based around the social
00:35:06.620dynamics and social circle that you're in right sure they don't they only have access to women
00:35:11.100or men who are roughly making around the same amount or not the same amount as them and usually
00:35:15.800they meet them at work thing college educated women different now they have access to this
00:35:20.120kind of wider pool of much more wealthy men right and so yeah of course of course they marry them
00:35:25.860more often they have a higher status there for them to go after that's why they do that i like how you
00:35:30.680think women are just going after high status men when they make up 45 of the workforce 43 of
00:35:35.440entrepreneurs they're making their own money and can you tell me though what the disparity is
00:35:39.040between the amount of money that these college educated women make compared to their college
00:35:43.900educated husbands sir i'm not sure but yeah you're not sure i'm not sure oh that's such a shock well
00:35:49.340let me tell you because i am sure right a significant it's a significant amount number then
00:35:55.920if you know so much give me a number because i don't remember if it's significant i don't remember
00:35:59.660if it's between 0.5 or one but it's at least at least 0.5 more okay at least okay so it's like i
00:36:08.040don't i don't even know what you're arguing yeah i'm arguing here that secularists still get married
00:36:11.600and you're making the stupid point that they're promoting cohabitation even though that's i would
00:36:15.320say that if it were the case that the middle class had access to the same amount of wealth
00:36:20.000as the college educated women do that they would be getting married at the same rates to those men
00:36:24.940okay well why aren't they getting married then because they don't have access to those men
00:36:28.040okay can you tell me why that's wrong no i think no you can't can you because it makes sense doesn't
00:36:34.480i'm about to okay why do you think there's such a gulf between relationships right now that you
00:36:38.480actually encourage i don't what gulf do i encourage you encouraged on pearl davis's show just this week
00:36:43.300what that the gulf she said men and women are dating you said good yeah no no no are you serious
00:36:49.920yeah you're you're gonna lie right here right in front of my face no i don't think i did say that
00:36:53.520yes you did you said it's good because they're gonna no i'll tell you what you said you said
00:36:57.460they're gonna hold out because you think women are gonna cave first so that we could start creating
00:37:01.180these general roles again ah yes so you're talking about my internal critique of pearl davis pearl
00:37:06.300davis said men and women aren't dating and you said good and this is why it's good yeah that's not
00:37:10.300an internal critique this is why it's good that's not an internal yes it was the entire conversation
00:37:14.420with pearl was an internal critique that specific conversation was not an internal the whole
00:37:18.940conversation was an internal critique that's a very likely story it's not only a light but listen
00:37:23.460do you do am i do i am i a person who debates utilizing internal critiques sure yeah and do i
00:37:28.960use that my do i have a staple for utilizing internal critiques sure okay why is it though that for some
00:37:34.960reason you think with pearl davis i wouldn't use internal because throughout the i will admit
00:37:38.580throughout the podcast you were but this specific point you weren't this was this was your own
00:37:42.640personal belief that is a good thing that men and women are dating because you only want christian
00:37:46.500people dating no no you only want christian people dating and having babies circulate my point
00:37:50.400themselves my point there but no this is off the top of my head right and i think it's unfair for
00:37:55.920you to hold me to the standard of this debate that i had that went on for hours i can't remember every
00:38:00.020detail of it but if i remember this correctly what actually happened there was we were discussing
00:38:06.320secular marriage and if the gulf got too wide right then people are going to divert themselves over
00:38:11.820to other x thing but i don't remember nothing to do with secular it's like you keep throwing that word
00:38:15.900in front of what these people are saying because it just helps your argument but that's not what you
00:38:19.780guys were discussing i don't remember women are dating do you admit that men and women are dating
00:38:23.540currently that it's do you know men 18 to 2400 ask a woman out in real life did you know that yeah
00:38:29.000so no well no that's not correct okay correct me then yeah no show me show me the show me any data
00:38:34.240that shows that in your packet it's probably not in that packet because it's not true okay then what's
00:38:38.720the what's the statistic i don't have to give you a counter i just can tell you that that's not true
00:38:42.260unless you demonstrate demonstrate it okay i'm the one who actually brought something did you bring
00:38:46.080any did you bring any demonstrate any statistic you've thrown out what what statistic have i thrown
00:38:50.660out demonstrate any statistic you've got out statistic have i thought about how much more men in college
00:38:55.080make than their their wife you demanded that i give you a number what did i say i don't actually
00:38:59.760know significant i said i don't actually know other than it's significant right well then show me the
00:39:04.140proof of that yeah but i don't that's all i know shut the fuck up yeah so here here just real quick
00:39:08.920just demonstrate it demonstrate it i got your data packet let me ask you something are men and
00:39:14.060women dating less hold on if you got to answer his question i don't have to answer questions
00:39:20.060hold on if you're going to cross-examine him he's going to cross i asked him initially how many people
00:39:25.680are dating and then he said what most of your questions he has not answered what was the question
00:39:29.300he said you've asked a bunch of you've shotgunned a bunch of questions he asked you a question back you
00:39:33.680should respond oh my god this fucking room is cooking can you open that door up it is pretty hot in here
00:39:37.980yeah it's fucking cooking both of them holy shit this is like peak bad dude all right it's got to
00:39:48.120be like a fucking hundred degrees it's hot room dude uh so anyway where were we what were we talking
00:39:52.680about i asked about men and women dating and the gulf between them yeah what about it do you admit
00:39:58.500that that's happening that there's a gulf between dating yeah the men and women are dating less by
00:40:04.140what in general what does that mean what are you asking me do you think men and women are dating
00:40:09.840less yes or no yes and you think that's a good thing um contextually it could be a good thing
00:40:18.540what do you mean by contextually well it could be that people are selecting for better better mates
00:40:23.800for instance and so they're dating less because they have much more criteria for them to go off of
00:40:28.440maybe it you could possibly see these results of that less single motherhood there could it could
00:40:33.860be a good thing do you think there are more involuntary celibate men than ever no you think
00:40:40.360this is definitely not you think this is not an anomaly that's happening right now no when when else
00:40:44.840in history do you think that was so throughout most of history only about 40 percent of men ever
00:40:48.600reproduced and we know this because of we can we can check our ancestry and see how many more uh female
00:40:55.900ancestors the male we have so yeah most men were not able to reproduce they were expendable they
00:41:00.940were used as soldiers used as this uses that uh so no actually more resources to reproduce i can get
00:41:06.440i can get i can see that yeah you'll concede that point right so yeah i don't think that this is like
00:41:10.980so you don't think there's a gulf in the male loneliness thing you don't think that's a real thing
00:41:15.340yeah well i didn't say that though what did i actually say no i'm asking do you think so what i
00:41:19.980actually said was i do i do think it is the case that no you are incorrect and that this is not the
00:41:26.560worst it's ever been i would say that the interpersonal sexual dynamics might be the
00:41:30.580worst they've ever been but i also think that feminism and single mom caused that that's an
00:41:35.900interesting why do you think that caused it because all the stats show that uh every single rate that
00:41:41.500you can imagine a metric which is horrific on young men uh usually comes from single mother homes we're
00:41:47.780talking everything from homelessness on up um like almost everything is another term for single
00:41:53.540mother homes fatherless homes sure so why do you put it on women because it's usually women who
00:41:59.320initiate being in the fatherless relationship not men and why do they initiate being a fatherless
00:42:03.580relationship the number one answer from women is that uh irreconcilable differences so do you know
00:42:09.100anyone in a woman in your life has ever been divorced sure do they say hey we got divorced because
00:42:14.400we couldn't reconcile our differences or do they say another reason uh usually well i mean they they
00:42:20.300have all sorts of reasons yeah but they don't say we couldn't reconcile our differences right yeah
00:42:24.140yeah that's true well what's your point why do you use that as a reason women are that's the reason
00:42:28.620they give is irreconcilable that's not that's the reason they give in court but what do they give
00:42:32.740in real life what's the real reason they have a they have a varying a varying uh degree of things but
00:42:37.900here's what's not happening what they're not actually giving in real life is he was abusing me he was
00:42:42.840beating me up he was doing this he was doing that usually the top three reasons women file for
00:42:47.700divorce infidelity emotional neglect and poor communication followed by finances what's the
00:42:53.280top three though that's the top three i just said no it's not yes it is no the top three is not
00:42:57.640infidelity yes infidelity emotional neglect and poor communication followed by finances oh so what's
00:43:03.760the number one reason i just said fidelity infidelity i just said infidelity is number one reason
00:43:07.900correct okay which one of these studies proves that did you bring any studies just tell me what don't you
00:43:12.380know what don't say any facts for the rest of this debate if you're not going to show me a study how
00:43:15.980about that bro listen don't show no more facts no more facts you gotta stop interrupting him dude
00:43:22.300every time did i make you literally were interrupting his talk did i make the boy yeah you gotta get your
00:43:26.900boy's back did i make the claim or did you it's called yo it's called moderating the show you've been
00:43:31.100interrupting the entire time okay if andrew interrupts you i'll say the same thing to him yeah but just real
00:43:35.840quick um did you make the claim or did i make the claim i made the claim okay great can you show it
00:43:40.660i don't have the data point in front of me but i looked it up prior to this and you can do it
00:43:44.260after okay what if we do it now go for it sure and where can i find this data i liked it around
00:43:53.200no you looked it up i have a lot of data man i don't know exactly each source where i got it from
00:43:57.300this is more about single mothers you can look at that one if you want to talk about single motherhood
00:44:08.240yeah we can get into that but again this is just wild to me i thought i thought you were going to
00:44:13.980tell me that that was the number one reason okay well you can't use any facts if you don't have any
00:44:18.040the number one reason that i'm seeing is lack of commitment well that's infidelity and also
00:44:22.040and also emotional neglect okay what does lack of commitment mean to you andrew i have no idea
00:44:27.120what it means you tell me it's not infidelity right because infidelity doesn't show a lack of commitment
00:44:31.740does infidelity show a lack of commitment so it's not coming home by fucking 10 okay what are you
00:44:37.720talking about okay so tell me what does that mean lack of commitment you tell me i you're the one who
00:44:42.840made the claim you're the one who said it was irreconcilable differences that's the number one
00:44:47.300reason they file divorces yeah but that's not the reason people actually file for divorce okay so
00:44:51.800the reasons that they give you're saying that the number one reason women women give is infidelity
00:44:57.140infidelity emotional neglect and poor communication okay where can i find the statistic i don't remember
00:45:02.280man i brought all the statistics you didn't bring any i didn't need to bring it yeah because you're
00:45:06.720making shit up what am i making up anything you say because i can you can't prove it what have i said
00:45:11.080that i made up about the finances that how do i make something up when i say i don't know for sure
00:45:15.400okay well you said it's significant that is true it is significant okay well how can you prove that
00:45:20.120well what does significant mean uh let's see statistically let's just see if we can find this
00:45:26.140i am not seeing infidelity is number one answer on any of these okay
00:45:31.320um do do do do do number one reason i'm seeing is financial problems that's not the number one
00:45:42.000reason and you've also said it's not the number one reason that's what i'm seeing okay but i'm ready
00:45:46.580for a counterfactual okay fine let's just concede that i don't know what i'm talking about the point
00:45:50.780is it's not irreconcilable differences people file for a reason well we're talking past each other
00:45:55.040because you we were talking about divorce right and i said that that they file for irreconcilable
00:45:59.620differences right you asked for the meaning behind the irreconcilable difference i'm fine with that
00:46:03.940i just don't think it's infidelity i think that's incorrect and when i just looked it is you made the
00:46:08.780claim that it is but you can't tell me where you're blaming women for filing for divorce making it sound
00:46:14.460like it's just some fly by the night thing they decided to do there's typically a reason and you read
00:46:19.020some not saying that there's not reasons okay the question why do you blame women for single
00:46:22.900motherhood the question is whether or not there's good well first of all can you be a single mother
00:46:26.700and never be married sure but where's the father in this scenario yes well here's the thing don't
00:46:31.760courts adjust towards women even when they aren't married do you know one in three children born out
00:46:38.460of wedlock don't see their father past the age of three did you know that why you tell me i'm i'm
00:46:46.300waiting no you tell me why do i need to tell you when i ask you a question why because single
00:46:50.840motherhood is not just a female problem okay but why do they not have access because men tend to
00:46:55.800abandon children can you demonstrate that i think i just did how 33 percent of children don't see
00:47:03.780their father past age three yeah but that doesn't prove that it's because the men don't want to
00:47:07.960okay how many men file for custody of the child in a in child court uh i don't know the stats off the
00:47:16.280top of my head we can look 95 percent of them are filed uh without contest from the father and the
00:47:21.340four percent that do typically do get it so if 95 percent of men are fighting for the child i think
00:47:25.700you can look at men for the problem oh i see okay so let's back up um tell me something who can
00:47:33.540actually have children men or women women okay are these women being raped no okay so they have uh the
00:47:41.200responsibility of making sure that they don't get pregnant right i think two people have the
00:47:47.180responsibility to make sure they don't get somebody pregnant but do you agree with me that it is the
00:47:51.020case that most men will sleep with most women but most women won't sleep with most men so what
00:47:58.580so if that's the case right then women have greater access than men do don't they sure so so if that's the
00:48:06.480case why are they granting access to men who abandon their kids how do they know they're going
00:48:10.880to abandon their kids well hang on that's so weird though wait a second let's back up they they're the
00:48:17.260ones who have the sexual access right so if they don't if they don't know why are they sleeping with
00:48:21.820these men they're the ones who get pregnant not the men and men are the ones that get them pregnant
00:48:26.200yeah so what they're a part of the equation so what that's a part of the equation but women are the
00:48:32.720ones who get to access that and men are the ones that access it okay can men can men have abortions
00:48:38.540no can men force women to have abortions no do you believe women should be able to have abortions yes
00:48:43.100well if that's the case right that you believe women's women ought to be able to have abortions
00:48:48.560men ought not to have any say on whether or not women have abortions then women are the ones who
00:48:53.600ultimately have 100 access around reproduction not men so men have no responsibility in your eyes how
00:48:58.760could they have a responsibility if they're not allowed to make the choice of if the child's even here or not
00:49:02.380if you got somebody pregnant would you abandon them do i form a secular worldview or do i form a
00:49:06.760christian one do christian people abandon their children no no they don't all christians are
00:49:11.840perfect no no no under christian ethics you're not to abandon your children sure okay so only secular
00:49:18.120people abandon their children no that's not what i said what did i just say christian ethics bans you
00:49:22.480from under christian ethics you ought not do that right is ought not the same as do they don't should
00:49:28.320anyone do that do do i think so yeah under christian ethics no even secular do you think
00:49:33.560people should even if you're secular under christian ethics i don't think secular people should and i
00:49:37.060think secular people also don't think they should abandon their children so what's the point but they
00:49:40.820can kill them i don't think it's killing oh i know right we're not gonna say you don't think it's
00:49:45.280killing no it's not it's not okay got it they say kill them but they think that they shouldn't
00:49:49.240abandon it's a horrible framing that's a horrible framing great compelling reason here the idea is
00:49:54.400that um that these women they're getting they're getting knocked up they're the ones who have
00:49:59.660complete and total access to who sleeps with them they're not getting raped and they have the choice
00:50:06.160as to whether or not they abort or not abort yeah but someone also was but does the man have a choice
00:50:11.700the man was does the man have a choice to not impregnate a woman now what if the man the man has a
00:50:15.760choice to keep the baby not if the woman does the man have the choice to make the woman pay him
00:50:21.520child support and keep the baby how much is the average child support can you answer my question
00:50:24.820no just wait how much no no answer my fucking no i just i just said no okay okay let's back up how
00:50:31.440about then how about you listen yeah okay let's back up well i said can you answer my question and
00:50:36.140you said no you can see how i could perceive that as you saying i'm not going to answer your question
00:50:40.000right yes no even the moderator thought that was the case okay so let's back up you do
00:50:45.640believe that it is the case that men can't force women to have their children correct but women
00:50:52.060can force men to take care of their children that's correct okay how is that fair i'm not saying it's
00:50:58.640fair okay so then what is the so then if men didn't want to have that child why should they be held to
00:51:04.640account take care of it because it's their child what because it is their child i'm super confused but
00:51:12.400they didn't have a say doesn't matter it's their child should they be able to have a say i don't
00:51:16.140think so but you just said it's not fair yeah it's not fair so what they had a child that's their child
00:51:23.620they should take care of it not abandon it so okay so to get this right then women should be able to
00:51:28.240kill men's children if they want right i or framing it as killing or hang on or keep them if they want
00:51:34.860and the man has to pay child support for the child that's correct right that's correct and you think
00:51:39.100women should get to make that choice a hundred percent why should we let women make that choice
00:51:42.840because they're the ones that have to you know conceive so got it so they're the ones have to
00:51:47.960conceive so they're the ones making the choice yep so therefore it's their responsibility anything
00:51:51.960else no because the father is also part of the responsibility wait i'm sorry who's making the
00:51:57.440choice they can have the child but the father should take care of their child and you don't disagree
00:52:02.420with that do you wait do you disagree with me or not do you disagree i can't justify it from a
00:52:06.540secular angle why not because it makes no sense it makes total sense if you have a child you should
00:52:11.660take care of it well let's try this again i just walked you through the logic though fuck the logic
00:52:15.100i'm asking you do you think do you think a secular person should take care of the child that they have
00:52:20.080does a christian think that of course and you don't think secular people do well i can't see how
00:52:24.840secularists could justify it no not if you're making the claim so you made the claim here my worldview if
00:52:30.080you have a child you should take care of it period why because that's my worldview okay why though
00:52:34.180because it's your child you'll just you're a part of me i don't need to justify right because when
00:52:38.120we walk around the logic here's what we end up with you say women have complete and total access
00:52:42.200should be able to kill a man's kid right or should be able to bring it to bear and make sure that the
00:52:48.140man takes care of the kid but the man can't tell the woman that she has to have the kid even when
00:52:53.800she's pregnant that's correct and if there's a child in the world that that man contributed to he
00:52:57.840should take care of it okay so just to make sure that we got this right it's an uneven standard
00:53:01.880for men versus women if that's the world we live in yeah so justify why it is that men shouldn't
00:53:07.280say fuck that i don't need to did okay well then when you ask me andrew don't you think x and i say
00:53:14.320well you say i can't and when i say from a secular point of view i actually can't answer the
00:53:19.640justification just remember that neither can you and i would say most secular people also believe
00:53:23.540you just take care of a child from the christian ethical angle of course of course you're supposed
00:53:28.160to take care of your children but from the christian ethical angle it's also completely
00:53:31.480appropriate right to put significant pressure on women to not have abortions meaning men get a say
00:53:37.060in the choice right what's wild to me is that you're complaining about single motherhood and
00:53:40.680then you're sitting here saying well men should say fuck it which is just wild that men should say
00:53:45.160fuck it if they want did i say when you said so men should say fuck it right i'm sorry do you know
00:53:49.500what an ought is versus a descriptor what's an ought an ought is i don't know did i say that
00:53:55.380secondary men ought do that or did i say i can't i can't think of a justification you can't think of
00:53:59.820a justification but neither can you but you also don't think single motherhood is a good thing
00:54:03.420correct that's correct so why don't you encourage men to take care of the children should we force them
00:54:09.120to i think so okay so you think that we should force men to take care of the kids correct that's what
00:54:15.840child support is but no no no no no that's not well that is true that they take it by force
00:54:21.940i guess yeah that's what you said but what i'm talking about force is like should we make them
00:54:27.240participate as a father yes we should force that and so as long as the court rules that they should yes
00:54:33.860no that's that's different i'm not asking about what the court rules i'm asking do you think we
00:54:39.940should force men to participate i think they should force at least child support and if no no that's not
00:54:45.460my question well that's what i'm saying should they force men to participate in being a father
00:54:50.340no being a father no no no no no not at the father if a father's gonna be a shitty father then
00:54:57.280can you explain to me how it is that if the woman can get child support from the guy right and you
00:55:05.360are not going to force any participation aren't you pushing single motherhood no you're blaming women
00:55:11.020for single motherhood yeah and you're you're saying the ones who have all the choice by your
00:55:14.980own admission but the fathers have no part to play in it and single motherhood fathers can't make the
00:55:20.560determination as to whether or not they can even have the kid and only the woman can you you hold an
00:55:25.660uneven playing field i have at least a consistent view that women should not be allowed to abort and
00:55:31.040men ought to actually be made to participate in their own children's life that's my consistent
00:55:37.840worldview your worldview is inconsistent okay you're making things yeah totally inconsistent i said that
00:55:43.440if a man you're just giving privilege to women if sure if a man has a child they should take care of
00:55:48.960it do they that's a different story if i'm saying they should if women have children should they take
00:55:53.000care of it yeah can they give it up for adoption sure okay can the man make the woman give or why can't
00:55:58.740the man give up his parental rights and just walk away if the woman can if the woman does then he can
00:56:04.860well wait that's really weird i don't get it if it is the case that the mother has guardianship of
00:56:11.740the father's child she can still put the child up for adoption right sure okay but he can't if he
00:56:18.800has guardianship of the child he can if he has guardianship well so he can too but if she's a
00:56:22.860single mom what gives him guardianship well he doesn't have guardianship i'm saying if a if a father
00:56:27.620has guardianship he can also put up the child for adoption it's not just a mother but who does it
00:56:31.420default to why does it default to women because that's the way the system is set how is it set
00:56:36.660that way because it's it has become matrilineal rather than patrilineal what does that mean what
00:56:42.380does that mean it means it means from the father from the mother no i know the definition you always
00:56:46.220use those words it means that the property but why is the family court yeah why is it giving it
00:56:50.220because feminists have made huge pushes in order to make it that way feminists have pushed that women
00:56:55.720get custody of the child yeah are most judges in family court men or women and family court they're
00:57:02.360men and so they're influenced by feminists sorry wait a second are you saying that men can't be
00:57:08.400feminists i'm saying that i doubt that the majority of family are you saying that men can't be feminine
00:57:12.800i'm saying that i doubt all the family court judges are so influenced by family court judges have to adhere
00:57:18.020to the law or do they make the law i'm not sure if they make the law or not they have to adhere to the
00:57:23.160law they don't make it right yeah so family court judges are just adhering to the law right and
00:57:27.180what's the law say yeah the law you so here's what happened you just have what are called coverture
00:57:31.340laws coverture laws actually forced men to take care of their families that very same thing that
00:57:36.080you want right of course this also made children their property and women right were also part of
00:57:42.780the man then right that was how it went but guess what they had to take care of their family or they
00:57:47.760went to fucking jail that's what happened marriages stayed together about 90 95 and you know what
00:57:52.860happened feminists really pushed real fucking hard for the average default laws and here's where the
00:57:58.540average default laws were oh the average default laws were saying basically on average the default
00:58:04.980is going to go to women right now there's a whole series of laws i can pull up and go through but yes
00:58:10.080this was pushed by feminists so that there was default laws which pushed pushed literally that women
00:58:17.060default by default had custody yes that is correct that is not how it works because if a father
00:58:22.380if a father uh-huh tries to get custody of the child they often do get it but now but most they
00:58:28.380do now so feminists have failed then no bro there's been since men's rights movement started especially
00:58:33.740in about the mid-2000s there have been reforms to the laws male custody has quadrupled because of
00:58:40.880men's rights advocacy groups and yes quadrupled and yes i can grab you that stat if you want it i'm not
00:58:46.340saying it has quadrupled because these laws have now begun to get rolled back but it used to actually
00:58:53.000just be a straight default a straight default because i my understanding of this is most fathers
00:58:59.400aren't filing for custodial guardianship you're talking you have to understand that you're looking
00:59:05.380at it from a historic prism that doesn't make any sense you're talking about modern laws and the way
00:59:11.180that modern custody arrangements happen it wasn't always this case the case used to be actually
00:59:16.340that children went to the men that was the that was the old laws under coverture laws right that
00:59:23.400changed with feminism and radical feminism pushing for those laws to be changed so you're saying there
00:59:29.080was a time when the children were raised there were more single fathers than single mothers no there
00:59:33.700just wasn't really any erosion of marriage okay then why did you say that why did you make that point
00:59:37.820you made the point that back in the day men were getting custody of the children but then
00:59:42.160there were still more single mothers no there wasn't very many single mothers either okay but
00:59:47.520they outnumbered the single fathers no there wasn't there you listen these marriages stayed together
00:59:52.780but under the law it was true under the coverture laws that the child was the property or was at
00:59:59.380least associated property to the father yes i'm glad we're having this discussion because it goes back
01:00:03.580to the point that i've been trying to make can you explain though your logic there i'm trying to
01:00:07.080understand the logic no i want to get back to the thing we're talking about no no i want to get
01:00:11.100back to the thing we're talking about no no i'm not hanging on it's not about escaping let's escape
01:00:15.220i just want to get back to this logic this is the point that i'm trying to make why would it be that
01:00:19.400there was that i'm trying to make i don't want to i just want to finish i want to get back to the
01:00:23.580thing last question i don't give a shit we can i want to get to the next thing why won't you answer
01:00:27.560my because the whole point i've been trying to make this whole is that any chance you get
01:00:31.580you blame women yeah any chance you get you blame women single mothers what for everything you blame
01:00:37.760women for the downfall of society what if it is that let me ask you this you blame do you blame
01:00:41.860women for the downfall of society no i don't blame it for the downfall of society the current
01:00:45.720trend of society you don't no you never said that no what i blame women for specifically
01:00:52.020right is feminism and feminist marxist ideology i do blame them for that yes okay and as you said
01:00:59.140feminism is the reason there's so many single mothers right i think it's a core reason yeah
01:01:02.700okay so is that contributed to the downfall of society sure so through that logic women are
01:01:07.460contributing to the downfall of society yeah but men would also be contributing to the downfall of
01:01:10.920society okay so you blame women mostly for the downfall of society feminism yes the ideology of
01:01:16.320feminism which is the ideology so you're just asking about the execution it's like are you blaming men
01:01:23.360for the downfall of society of a society which is mostly communists or would you be blamed because
01:01:29.940they're enforcing everything or would you be blaming the ideology you're blaming can you answer my
01:01:34.820question no you're blaming you're not blaming the ideology because women are the ones so i'm gonna ask
01:01:40.040the question again till you answer it okay so you have a communist country right and the men are are
01:01:45.100doing most of the bad stuff in the communist country would you blame the men or would you blame
01:01:49.440communism i don't think feminine answer my fucking question answer the question yes or no you don't
01:01:55.140i don't know i don't know i don't know okay i'll just start answering that because you're saying
01:01:59.200feminism the ideology in its own feminism the ideology on its own you lived in a communist country
01:02:05.080and it was mostly the men enforcing the communism you don't know if you'd blame the men or the ideology
01:02:10.260really you don't know i probably blame the men at that point you blame okay well then so you're
01:02:15.440saying that i should blame women no i'm saying that you do i blame the ideology no you're blaming
01:02:20.520the women every chance you get the only consistent thing you could actually say here would be i blame
01:02:26.840communism for the way these men are behaving unless you innately think men are bad
01:02:31.180what about like do you innately think men are bad what about feminism is bringing about the downfall
01:02:36.520of society you mean what what is it contributing to yeah it's not just contributing to single
01:02:41.740motherhood it also contributes to these two income households it's contributing to well it
01:02:47.180contributes to the fact that we even need two income households but one of the major things it
01:02:51.000contributes to is taking mothers out of the home that's the biggest way that it contributes to the
01:02:56.120downfall of society is taking mothers out of the home don't you agree i don't agree but this goes to
01:03:01.860the point that do you think how does this change what i said that you blame feminism for the downfall
01:03:05.560of society well you didn't say that you said i said that initially and i said that in my opening
01:03:09.320statement you said i blame women who who implemented feminism yeah so well that was a bunch of rich
01:03:14.460corporatists and then sure and then it was also a lot of women who were in bed with no it really was
01:03:19.380it was rich corporatists was it men that implemented feminism it was both okay yeah it was both but what
01:03:24.860do you think i but back to this i just i just want to make sure right why would it like how would
01:03:30.680it even track that i would blame women for the i or or hate women i'm sorry hate women i do blame
01:03:38.700them for if they're feminists for holding that ideology but that's not all women that's not me
01:03:43.560hating women you made the distinction earlier that if i hate an individual woman right that's not that's
01:03:49.860not misogyny right i wouldn't say on an individual level no yeah so then if i hate all feminists
01:03:57.440that's only hating individuals with an ideology right if most women are feminists wouldn't that
01:04:02.600be misogynistic i'm not sure that most women well i don't know that's hard to say but if it is the
01:04:09.520case no actually even if it was the case that most women were feminists and you hated all women who
01:04:15.820were feminists you still wouldn't hate women you would only hate feminists that's an easy way out of
01:04:19.800that one well i mean it's true though right no no it's not true okay then explain the logic to me
01:04:23.820because if women are feminists and you hate feminism then you hate women no no you hate feminism okay
01:04:29.740yeah so here's the thing and i can prove it i hate men who are feminists too oh are you looking at one
01:04:37.380yeah so so here's the thing if that's the case then would that make me a misandrist i don't think so
01:04:43.120what if most men were feminists which you said it's about 80 percent so then i hate 80 percent of men
01:04:50.760by that logic so i'm a misandrist right if you hate them for that for that yeah sure okay so then
01:04:56.540i'm a misandrist and a misogynist then yeah you hate so i just fucking hate everybody i mean i
01:05:02.200wouldn't say most i just fucking hate everybody i wouldn't say most men are feminists you said 80
01:05:05.660percent i i'm granting your hypothetical you weren't granting a hypothetical you i asked you the
01:05:09.940question you said 80 percent agree with me no i don't think and you're a feminist i don't think
01:05:13.48080 percent of men are feminists okay how many i don't know i have no idea i'll throw out a number i'll
01:05:18.360say maybe 30 percent 30 percent yeah and how many women um i have no idea maybe 80 so a lot more
01:05:25.600yeah and you think that that shouldn't come up during a dating talk huh i'm not saying it should
01:05:30.440i'm saying that you don't blame feminism you don't think which by default you blame women so if men
01:05:34.860women are in the workplaces men and women are so ideologically split on like almost a as like a 60 20
01:05:40.960playing field you don't think that's pertinent to dating i'm not saying that i'm saying that you
01:05:45.260blame feminism for the downfall of society i did not not just feminism okay yeah but i do blame
01:05:51.140feminists for their part of the downfall of society yeah including going to work including going to
01:05:55.900college including all the idea of separating mothers from children that was the worst by going to work
01:06:01.420and going to college and that's a it's terrible idea right don't you think it's a better who well
01:06:07.340like why is it a better idea for you to send your kid to away from you to like a fucking nanny or
01:06:15.540something to raise the kid instead of you how's that better i don't know you don't know you don't
01:06:21.900know well you can do you want to give a response no because because because it's not fucking better
01:06:26.380is it i'm not going to get into that yeah because it's not better is it it's not going to get into it
01:06:30.420yeah because it's is it better though is it better do it is it better to send your kid off the
01:06:35.340fucking katuela who knows maybe it's better for that family i have no idea you're making these
01:06:39.520big broad generalizations about how life should you live i just want to know do you maybe for
01:06:42.840some families do you think on average that it would be better if mothers raise their children or
01:06:47.120outsource the raising of their children they're not outsourcing it maybe it's for part of the day
01:06:50.520andrew that's outsourcing it that's not outsourcing it because they're still the rest of the day
01:06:54.020okay so how much time on average is it that you think that mothers are spending with their
01:06:59.320children in comparison to how much they used to spend with their children before they were in the
01:07:02.340workforce i have no idea you don't know no what if what about throwing one of those numbers out
01:07:06.480what would you say what would you think well how about this how about we'll just make it easy
01:07:09.400more or less less less they're spending less time with them now right do you think that that's good
01:07:15.780i think each individual family has their own do you think that that's good i think each individual
01:07:21.060family has their own it's good for society mothers are spending less you think okay got it got it
01:07:26.560well we'll come back to that we do need to let a couple chats come through we have quite a few who've
01:07:30.920collected so we have nasha nabu thank you appreciate it nashu nabu donated two hundred dollars the lead
01:07:40.500attorney a divorce attorney speaks on why men do not fight for their kids judges go off precedent
01:07:46.940because of this lawyers tell fathers not to fight for their kids because they lose
01:07:51.600you know i don't even i don't even want to grant that like i don't even think you need to grant it
01:07:58.880if the idea is just that women are completely in charge of all reproductive rights period um and
01:08:05.500you can't justify why men need to take care of their fucking kids then who gives a shit if i can
01:08:10.140respond to that um quick response if you can yeah the majority of fathers that do contest tend to get
01:08:16.040uh their child at least in modern times okay uh nashu appreciate that we have uh son coming in
01:08:23.740thank you sir lofson donated one hundred dollars thank you this guy is a hypocrite critiquing andrew
01:08:30.800for pushing a worldview when he does himself this guy can't make any prescriptive statements he is a
01:08:37.400progressive feminist this reduces to emma preferences to my preferences yeah my i came here to say let's
01:08:44.500try to get men and women dating again but we ended up talking about single motherhood okay well let's let's
01:08:48.800get into that let's get let's go through the chat let's get through a few more chats but we can come
01:08:52.100back to it um uh son appreciate that we have stream thank you man stream rift donated one hundred
01:09:00.100dollars women will like cheat and steal to hurt a father by fighting over custody the question
01:09:06.680shouldn't be why men don't fight for their kids it's why do single moms make them fight to begin with
01:09:12.640if you care about your kids you'll fight for them i don't care the reason is the obstacles because my
01:09:17.340opponent over here demonstrated for you women should have the complete and total right over
01:09:21.640all men's children including the right to kill them and should be able to force them to pay support
01:09:26.840for those children long term and can't even justify why he can't even tell us give us a single reason
01:09:31.960why i did give you a reason okay what if you have a child you should take care of it why reason because
01:09:36.700you should why because you should oh because you should because you should because exactly you should
01:09:42.220give me a hundred dollars okay well i won't yeah but if you said you could but you should okay you
01:09:47.400should yeah but you should they should raise their children yeah but but why should fight for the
01:09:50.660why because it's their child why there doesn't need to be anymore that's a sentence you're just saying
01:09:55.120dude that doesn't that doesn't say anything yeah okay it doesn't say anything it says nothing
01:09:59.740fathers should just not take care of the children no but here's the thing it's interesting right it's
01:10:03.500like you're doing everything to enable women to kill men's children i don't agree with that framing but
01:10:08.980go for it well i mean here's the thing right can men say anything about it nope well then there's
01:10:13.800nothing there's no framing here to disagree with yeah it's not killing quick uh clarifying question
01:10:17.640for you just uh because it's come up a couple times do you want to just state your quick position
01:10:22.140on abortion are you pro pro choice i'm here to talk about i'm here to talk about abortion we don't have
01:10:27.700to get into abortion but that's what always happens on this show it's like we're here to talk about
01:10:31.560red pill manosphere and we're talking about abortion it's just really fast well well hang on there's a
01:10:35.620bunch of different when you yeah when you ask when you ask a bunch of different questions and i test
01:10:39.660your logic and it moves into that what's unfair about that well it's because you lose the point
01:10:43.560of what we're here to talk about i'm not losing any yeah you are you lose the point of what we're
01:10:46.980talking about this is what this is this is why your debates take five hours is because you get into
01:10:50.620all these stupid little side arguments that don't go into what we talked about opening statement let's
01:10:54.400do it this way you ask a question i ask a question you answer i answer how's that and then we can't
01:10:59.700deter it you want to do it that way i'm i'm i'm i'm following brian's moderation i'm fine with
01:11:05.200that if you guys want to go you want to do that and forth you think i'm trying to be evasive with
01:11:09.360you no it's not about evasive it's just that every time maybe you just want to filibuster i have
01:11:13.620nothing about filibustering i'm you're doing most of the talking bro it's been pretty bro i think
01:11:19.720really it's been yeah you guys have both talked a good amount okay all right here we got more chats
01:11:24.220though then we'll get into some of the debate stuff we have christopher thank you christopher
01:11:27.620appreciate it christopher scott donated 100 thank you man just because men don't file for custody
01:11:34.100doesn't mean they abandon their children there could be an agreement outside of court for shared
01:11:38.720custody that's fair but statistically more men abandon the children than women
01:11:42.800okay uh we have jason cassell thank you guys by the way if you want to get one in uh streamlabs.com
01:11:51.280slash whatever we're doing a hundred dollars but the thing is so funny about that is like
01:11:55.440but you advocate for a society where the women own the children so i keep for a society where women
01:12:01.440get to make the decision whether or not they have a child so they own the child no they they own
01:12:05.300their pregnancy yeah so they it's so they own the right over the life of the man's child literally
01:12:09.840by the owner pregnancy and the father should take care of it after that but what if the man so but
01:12:13.700if the woman doesn't want to take care of it she gets now if the father doesn't want to take care
01:12:17.220of it he does not right correct so then the ownership of the child and life and death of the child
01:12:22.280and life and death of the father falls to the woman okay life's not fair yeah so so don't you
01:12:28.740think women have a greater responsibility here for reproduction than men i think women have a
01:12:33.320responsibility for their pregnancy and then a father and mother have hold on i'm talking and
01:12:37.320then the father and the mother have a responsibility to raise a child okay that's not my question repeat
01:12:41.340my question that's my stance repeat my question yeah but that's my stance okay so i'm gonna ask the
01:12:44.580question again then actually answer my question don't you think that if it is the case that you
01:12:48.480advocate that only women can have the right to terminate a pregnancy and that only women can have the
01:12:53.600right to bring it to bear and that affects the man's life and it affects the child's life but
01:12:59.060the sole decision is on her for reproduction why doesn't she have a greater responsibility to who
01:13:04.840she fucking reproduces with why because the other person was involved just as much i don't know
01:13:10.780what to fucking do with fucking so stupid yeah it's stupid so way more so so she has way more
01:13:17.240privilege right way more privilege privilege yeah way more privilege so much but for some odd reason
01:13:23.780no greater no more no no not even equal responsibility like it's fucking wild to me yeah so let me just
01:13:31.500make sure well can you say it for me one more time say it for me one more time that women right even
01:13:37.640though they get to determine the pregnancy the entire time right have no greater duty or responsibility for
01:13:43.320who they reproduce with correct even though they're the gatekeepers of reproduction because someone
01:13:48.580else was a part of that birth even though the gatekeepers of reproduction gatekeeper okay well
01:13:52.940they literally someone entered the gate andrew don't they have responsibility they could just kill
01:13:56.900whoever came through whatever they can the result of that yeah but someone walked through the fucking
01:14:00.880gate right yeah how could i don't know how you can possibly uh make this claim consistent for me
01:14:06.500how do they not have a greater duty when they are the ones who can reproduce men can't reproduce
01:14:12.560they don't have the option of saying no afterwards they have the greater duty of the pregnancy and
01:14:18.940then after that the mother and the father should raise the child together that's my stance okay well
01:14:23.700let me ask you this no we're moving on do you think that in dating no no yeah go ahead do you think do
01:14:30.520you think in dating right that it would be like a really big deterrent if i knew that if i had sex with a
01:14:38.300woman even if i cared about her right and she got pregnant that i would have zero choice over the
01:14:46.400health and welfare of my child but she would have 100 of the choice over that isn't that how it is
01:14:52.600today yeah so what's the difference yeah so so right now today don't you think that that would act as a
01:14:59.380massive deterrent in dating which is the thing you want men and women to do again what's what's
01:15:03.700changed about that when when when hasn't that been the case when's the last time that wasn't the case
01:15:07.820what that women had scenario yeah so before the 60s okay well people were still dating right yeah but
01:15:14.500don't you think that abortion had an arc where previous generations were not as accustomed to it
01:15:19.700as they are now and before there wasn't that many people resisting it and now many many more we have
01:15:25.400it's the age of the internet right so you don't think men are dating because they're afraid women are
01:15:29.300going to abort their child and say do do you think do you think any reasons a monolithic one
01:15:33.900not necessarily no yeah so so i could have many reasons right okay but you're asking about this
01:15:39.340one yeah so that's right this one in particular do you think that that would cause incentive
01:15:43.400more incentive at least for men to be very wary of the dating market if it is the case that women
01:15:49.360can have the choice over the reproduction of their child no i don't why because it hasn't really
01:15:56.240changed that much since the 60s oh so i don't i i really don't understand this it even if it is a
01:16:04.480case that boomers right who didn't really have to deal with this problem as much as it's it's done
01:16:09.480i mean it's casual now it's casual like do you think in the 60s and 70s that women were female
01:16:15.940comedians were televising their abortion like sarah silverman no but you said it's more casual right
01:16:20.980yeah what are that their abort their abortions are more casual and sex is more casual too
01:16:25.800yes so that doesn't seem like much of a deterrent what do you mean guys are still banging sex
01:16:31.840yeah correct yeah the sex isn't a deterrent the sex is regardless of relationships the sex is what
01:16:36.940causes the child andrew the sex is what causes the child dating so if more casual sex is happening
01:16:41.160then it's not much of a deterrent if you're dating a woman is that casual sex no we're talking about
01:16:45.580that's what i'm talking about dating yeah say the word it's obviously not if people are having
01:16:50.320casual sex i don't need to say shit yeah if people are having more casual sex yeah then they're
01:16:55.000obviously not that deterred by the idea of this woman could terminate the pregnancy so i'm talking
01:16:58.400about dating those i asked you about that word dating you say casual sex but the casual sex not
01:17:05.020dating so that you shouldn't logically put that in it makes no sense so we're talking about dating
01:17:09.560do you think if you're dating a woman right that you would be deterred from dating the thing you want
01:17:15.440to do by the fact that she has complete and total control over reproduction no because i don't think
01:17:20.260men are avoiding dating because they're like oh man she might abort my child but really but i thought
01:17:24.780you just said that there was an uptick in casual sex there is instead of dating not instead of dating
01:17:30.100i'm saying there's been casual sex for a long time up or down dating is down is casual sex up or down
01:17:35.220it's about the same as it was probably whenever we were in college no okay no do you think that casual
01:17:42.240but even if that was the case dating is down casual sex the same so that would it still mean that
01:17:47.980people are having more casual sex than they're dating right yeah but i don't think there's not
01:17:51.000dating because they're afraid they're going to have a child you don't even think it could be
01:17:54.060possibly a contributing factor no you wouldn't even grant a contributing factor no okay what about
01:17:58.660for the religious is a contributing factor for them i think they're probably not having premarital
01:18:02.520sex to begin with oh dude just because you're religious right you can you can still give it into
01:18:08.260temptation right okay don't you think that would be a deterrent i think they're more abstinent than a lot
01:18:15.020of secular people sure but wouldn't it be a deterrent no no so i don't think a religious
01:18:21.280person would get an abortion what the hell are you talking about what because you're religious the
01:18:26.040person you're dating has to be i would imagine if you're dating a religious person you're probably
01:18:31.440religious too no that's not the case especially not for christian men okay they date secular women
01:18:36.040constantly okay and it's a it's a fear they talk about often that hey if i slip up and she gets
01:18:42.620pregnant she can actually just take out my kid there's nothing i can do about it but i want to
01:18:47.160get which is why they date less and less secular women trying to move more and more towards christian
01:18:50.980women doesn't that lower the chance of dating no that doesn't okay i know you want to ask a
01:18:58.220question we'll finish off the chats and you can ask the question here we have jason cassell a really
01:19:03.600quick kai baka i don't know if you're still watching on twitch it won't let me trigger the gifted
01:19:08.840subs i think you sent in 40 uh gifted subs on twitch thank you so much kai baka appreciate it
01:19:13.920we have jason here thank you man appreciate it jason castle donated 100 to the feminist man you may be
01:19:21.500one of the dumbest individuals to debate andrew you don't know what an ought is you don't know what
01:19:27.380descriptors are and you said f the logic you are beyond dumb he did say fuck the logic i did
01:19:33.840i absolutely did why would you say fuck the logic because that's not what i'm here to talk about
01:19:39.340i'm here to talk about that red pill people are not dating and i don't think it's helping them
01:19:44.060yeah i know talk about okay it's well here let's let's get through the chats all right i'm gonna have
01:19:49.600a smoke real quick okay uh and let's see we have jason castle again here jason castle donated 100
01:19:56.920and you'll be back feminist man the reason the feminism movement has gained the power it has is
01:20:03.040because of weak dumb men like you way to go dummy you want to respond to jason um i'm glad that the
01:20:10.400feminist movement has gained as much traction as it has all right thank you jason appreciate that we
01:20:16.040have uh chef dill pickles coming in here uh thank you for that chef dill pickles appreciate it
01:20:24.360chef dill pickles donated 99 feminist would you say it's about 13 percent of the father's leaving
01:20:32.760uh the last stat i have is one in four households are uh fatherless so that sounds about 25 percent
01:20:40.140all right we have ogle coming in here uh dill pickles thank you for that question we got ogle if you guys
01:20:48.020want to get a chat in it's uh hundred dollar 99 tts thank you ogle underscore glue dot net donated
01:20:57.160100 100 fella on the right is a good heart it's in the right place but his brain isn't working
01:21:03.660properly unfortunately hopefully today's talk at least gives him food for thought over the next few
01:21:09.780weeks all right ogle uh i appreciate the half compliment i mean i'm not a debater but i literally
01:21:16.700am here to try to help people get out of depression and get out of the red pill space that's what i'm
01:21:22.160trying to do all right uh we have ogle thanks again we have uh stream rift here thank you stream
01:21:30.580rift donated 100 dollars two attorneys a law firm and a sitting judge violated the law to intentionally
01:21:38.520keep me a dad away from my disabled daughter cuck you for blaming men eastern district of virginia
01:21:45.860colon one colon 25 cvo 0572 i just want to be clear that sucks man i i that sucks like you can't
01:21:56.280be with a child i don't know the whole situation i want to be clear i'm not blaming all men but i'm
01:22:00.340saying that you can't blame single mothers when you're not looking at the fathers too all right
01:22:05.380stream rift sorry to hear about uh your situation and he included the uh case number two uh lulu here
01:22:11.520thank you appreciate it lulu donated 100 can this guy debate in good faith instead of resorting to
01:22:19.540this just my stance the end you came on this podcast to debate so do it when you can't defend
01:22:26.960when your ideas are challenged why you here okay yeah um so no i came here with an agenda for sure i'm
01:22:36.500not the best debater this is only my second debate ever um so yeah maybe i miss up on some logic but
01:22:42.180i am here with an agenda to try to help people get out of the red pill that's all i'm doing
01:22:45.800all right we have christopher scott here christopher scott donated 100 this dude is such a petulant
01:22:54.580child no i'm not gonna answer butterfly logic quit whining kitten you want to oh it trans it was
01:23:05.360it it said it said pussy but it it automatically changes it i don't know why christopher do you
01:23:13.360want to respond to christopher nah you're good okay uh can you pop the doors open and there's a
01:23:18.280i i know you said you were hot there's an ice pack there for you if you need it or no i'm good okay
01:23:22.460mary just grab that ice pack uh once you get a moment all right and then we have some super chats
01:23:26.960we need to get to it could be i'm red i have the asian flush from the whiskey i think the whiskey
01:23:31.740might have heated you up i got the asian flush did did i get the asian flush you're uh irish right
01:23:37.700they're they're kind of asian yeah well they call it the asian flush okay yeah no i've heard of that
01:23:43.840all right we have emotional damage i once knew a guy who talked uh mary the just on the corner of
01:23:50.180the table here can i read this yeah go for it i once knew a guy talked like this dummy he's now
01:23:55.580divorced and happily broke while his wife is living in his house and driving his car he still
01:24:00.900feels content in his life because he gets to pay her can you take that one because he gets to pay
01:24:06.560her half of his uh salary lost custody of his kids such a proud feminist emotional damage good to see
01:24:12.920in the chat thank you thank you sad for that guy but i'm happily married and i don't see that as my
01:24:17.240outcome how long you've been married for uh coming up on three years together about eight or nine
01:24:23.520congratulations thank you and may you have many children that your wife can determine whether she
01:24:28.820wants she wants to abort we don't want children but we're not worried about that that's not
01:24:32.980why am i not sure are you an anti-natalist no no okay all right we have lucas here uh it looks like
01:24:39.740there's a string of them one what the concept of submission outlined in ephesians 5 22 wives submit
01:24:47.260yourselves to your own husband as you do to the lord is not pertinent to intersexual dynamics
01:24:53.460question mark oh but wait only in your small circle andrew that small circle representing 62
01:24:59.040percent of the population of the u.s population this guy is a woke clown but let me guess kamala voter
01:25:05.640yes or did you vote definitely definitely 100 sorry champ my wife and i vote maga unapologetically
01:25:12.600good-looking wife by the way lucas lucas is uh you know he's gonna have some good-looking kids
01:25:18.320yeah yeah yeah see he's married he watches the podcast they watch the podcast together that's
01:25:23.900good do you would you say most of your audience is married most of mine is would you know i heard
01:25:28.100you say that would you say that she is a misogynist i won't i don't know anything about her is lucas
01:25:33.280let me caveat it it may not be most of them are married but most of them are in marriageable age and
01:25:40.800a significant portion is married okay well let me ask you this do you think of the content creators that
01:25:45.360we're talking about including the audience here would you say most of them are married or in a
01:25:50.120relationship or would you say the majority aren't of the viewers yeah i haven't pulled them i wouldn't
01:25:55.020know do you have like i'll go ahead and grant probably the majority of them probably aren't
01:25:58.780married why would that matter i'm just or in a relationship i don't know i haven't pulled my
01:26:02.840audience i mean we're kind of about to reach a threshold soon where most of the population is not
01:26:07.700going to be married or in a relationship the whole point that i'm trying to make is that i think red pill
01:26:11.840content is furthering that divide yeah because it makes people not want to date actually i wanted
01:26:16.740to wait let me just finish the chats but all right just if you want just write a note all right we'll
01:26:21.700get it in oh wait i need to finish lucas hold on just ogle i'll come back to that one in just a
01:26:26.940moment let me finish up lucas's uh so sir simple lot can you square this circle for me i'm a happily
01:26:32.860married red-pilled christian nationalist maga voter so based based uh so is my wife so is my wife by the
01:26:40.940way on each of the preceding fronts and yet according to you he's a i'm a radicalized
01:26:47.580miserable incel loner misogynist do you want to respond i would love to the studies show that most
01:26:55.400people who consume red pill content are becoming isolated angry mad at women and they're dating less
01:27:01.300you are an exception yeah could you say the same about like feminism though which of the studies show
01:27:05.660that by the way all the ones i gave you the case of misuse of evolutionary psychology and online
01:27:12.140manosphere communities yep the case for female uh all three things i just cited different studies yeah
01:27:18.240can you tell me though you didn't you didn't put in who the people were for the studies because
01:27:25.580oftentimes you can click i'll send you the electronic file well have you heard have you heard of what's
01:27:30.560called publishing bias sure let's not trust that no no it's not it's not about that listen like hear
01:27:37.360me out here okay um there's something called the replication crisis you ever heard of that
01:27:42.920the replication crisis no when you go back to redo sociology studies the vast majority of them can't
01:27:48.960be replicated okay the vast majority and that would be psychology and sociology would you say that these
01:27:55.180studies that you gave me are mostly sociological yes okay and would therefore suffer from the
01:28:02.980replication crisis and that would mean that there's a good possibility that up to 60 percent of what you
01:28:08.900just gave me here will never be replicated i think when you have so many studies saying similar things i
01:28:13.880don't think that's an issue i also think that you can grant that most of the red pill community are
01:28:18.920potential like incels is a there's a venn diagram of people in the right but that's where publishing
01:28:22.980bias comes in hold on in the red pill community incels are a big part of the red pill community
01:28:27.820what is an incel someone who's involuntarily celibate meaning they can't have sex even though
01:28:33.120they'd like to okay so they can't get a hooker i i guess but maybe they don't want to maybe they
01:28:39.060want a real relationship they're not involuntarily celibate do you not believe in incels so they're
01:28:42.080not involuntarily celibate well i'm just i'm asking you a question why are you asking me a stupid
01:28:46.040question no do you not believe in incels can can an incel buy a hooker sure okay and you say they don't
01:28:51.640want to potentially so how are they involuntarily celibate you think they should buy a hooker no i'm
01:28:57.640asking how they're involuntarily celibate because they can't get someone to date them andrew but that
01:29:02.020wouldn't be i'm sorry what does celibacy mean this is the same bullshit you do what are we talking
01:29:08.540about important if you don't acknowledge that incels are real just say that but don't try to
01:29:12.720play this game don't play debate club with me don't play debate club with me debate clubbing nothing
01:29:16.860i'm making sure semantics are straight no it's not see your semantics are a big debate club thing
01:29:21.260semantics are part of debate do you believe that incels are real do i it's hard to say oh yeah of
01:29:28.040course you can't just say yes it depends on what you can't just say yes because this is what you do
01:29:31.780i will say yes or no if you just clarify for me that an involuntary celibate is a person who just can
01:29:39.540never get sex no matter what that's typically the definition yes okay can these people get prostitutes
01:29:45.480can they buy prostitutes who knows you don't you don't know if they can maybe they don't have
01:29:49.940money i have no idea oh okay do incels exist by that definition not my definition do incels exist
01:29:57.280well it depends well do incels exist from my definition this is some bullshit game my definition
01:30:03.080of yours anyone's definition just bro i don't know why you don't understand what semantics are i don't
01:30:08.960understand why you can't answer the question i don't need to be walked through it i don't want to
01:30:12.620play your game i'm not playing a game yes you are do incels exist oh not by your definition i have
01:30:17.280no idea if incels exist how could i even admit to oh my god okay let me ask you a question do
01:30:21.220leflipidus exist not that i know of wait wait what's a leflipidu who knows then how the fuck do
01:30:27.500you know if they exist or not have you read a study on leflipidus well why would that matter
01:30:32.540okay i did do leflipidus exist or not okay andrew anyway what i mean by leflipidu what i mean by
01:30:40.380leflipidu is yes if you have a proprietary definition yeah okay you can't so this this
01:30:45.620is what's called equivocation it's fallacious argument it's called debate club that's what
01:30:49.120you're doing it's equivocation it's called debate club are you in a debate i don't think so i think
01:30:53.260we're having a discussion no why because we're having a discussion about red pill communities
01:30:57.120before the show didn't you say i'm an excellent we're having a discussion about red pill we're
01:31:00.400having a fucking but now you're saying that red pill communities don't have incels which is
01:31:03.980complete what i said well they don't exist in your world not what i said either you're trying to get
01:31:07.820some stupid definition that doesn't exist listen i'm trying to explain this no you're not trying
01:31:11.220to do shit except avoid the question when you're done i'll explain you're not trying no i don't
01:31:14.400need to be excellent i'm gonna explain it anyway well so just let you understand definitionally
01:31:18.920things can be here's the debate club 101 everybody if you want to be in the debate club listen everybody
01:31:23.180because this is super important it's right important incels don't exist we're in a debate
01:31:26.480incels don't exist by the way we're in a debate all you incels out there it's not true all you
01:31:31.500incels i'm sorry andrew doesn't believe you exist he doesn't think you exist well when when you're done
01:31:35.640i'll explain i'm not i'm done okay but i'm not gonna listen so i'll explain so if if you're an
01:31:40.220incel he's not gonna let me speak no if you're an incel andrew doesn't think you exist he thinks
01:31:45.020you should just go buy a hooker just fyi which would definitely which would andrew just go ahead
01:31:49.500which if you could buy a hooker by his definition wouldn't make you an incel so how this works is
01:31:53.720if somebody has a definition of something is proprietary right i don't know what he means by the
01:31:59.520thing he's asking so i asked him does that just mean you can't get sex under any circumstances yes
01:32:04.500okay can they buy a hooker yes well then they can't they can get sex under some circumstances
01:32:09.480so incels don't exist stop bro so by your logic they wouldn't be incels now if you have a different
01:32:14.900definition than that and you want to give it to me i'm willing to engage with it in good faith
01:32:19.760you're not arguing in good faith this is complete and utter bad you're not you're not making an
01:32:23.740argument at all i'm saying incels exist and you're saying well what do you mean by incels yes
01:32:27.460it's important no it's not important it's proprietary definition is proprietary no it's not important
01:32:32.260you're making it important it's not okay the fact that you deny that incels exist is so silly not
01:32:37.500what i did hold on okay so let me read a couple chats and if you guys want to continue talking
01:32:41.940about that specific thing we will ogle thank you for the gifted 50 memberships thank you so much man
01:32:47.360really appreciate it guys w's in the chat for ogle he just gifted 50 to the uh whatever community
01:32:52.680thank you man appreciate it very much we have a couple chats here coming through we have ogle
01:32:58.340speaking of ogle underscore glue dot net donated 100 it wasn't meant to be a dick i appreciate people
01:33:07.620who have good intentions and act on them there's just the road to hell is paved for a reason is all
01:33:13.520i'm saying thanks ogle and honestly man i really am here to try to help as many people as i can that's
01:33:20.000really all i'm here for i'm not here to win a debate and you know be in debate club i'm trying
01:33:23.640to really help incels and people in the red pill community who feel lonely and depressed yeah but
01:33:28.220andrew wants to play definitions all right yeah i know it's terrible i want you to clarify what you
01:33:32.640mean by things no you want to play a definition game 17 years seven lawsuits filed against me
01:33:39.140grandparents filed three protection orders three false arrests untold thousands of dollars
01:33:47.220i won but it almost killed me i don't blame guys he sent one in earlier right was this the same guy
01:33:53.900who included the case number no that was stream rift uh well it seems like there's some ghost he had
01:34:00.620another poor experience i assume this is related to divorce proceedings child custody proceedings
01:34:06.600uh ghost really started to hear that same and honestly man i appreciate that you fight for your
01:34:11.700children that's all i'm asking for is that men who want to be with their children they fight for it
01:34:15.900i'm sorry it's so hard that it shouldn't be that hard but that's all i'm saying it should happen
01:34:20.060should you have a child it shouldn't be so hard it shouldn't be i don't think so okay i you know
01:34:26.360what great this is great red pill talking point wait let me let me okay go ahead go ahead go ahead
01:34:32.540they also they also don't believe that it should be so hard and so they're fighting tooth and nail
01:34:38.260especially um you know men's rights advocacy mras men's rights advocacy groups so that's not so hard
01:34:44.480that's one subsect of the red pill community but again as we established the red pill content
01:34:49.460creators that we're talking about promote uh promiscuity well you only mentioned two uh i
01:34:54.440mentioned three who andrew tate yeah fresh and fit yeah this podcast this podcast does not promote
01:35:00.320but i'm trying to avoid it because i like brian no no no this podcast does not promote promiscuity
01:35:04.360okay i would like i need it doesn't promote marriage yes it well you do but i'm not saying you do
01:35:10.760well wait a second i'm sorry i thought it was supposed to be about dating your whole time
01:35:14.220wasn't enough about dating it doesn't does it need to promote marriage it doesn't promote marriage
01:35:18.840does it need to i should it you don't think people should get married should it should well should
01:35:23.260the dating podcast promote marriage i think so the date the dating podcast should promote marriage i
01:35:29.540think so yeah i think that isn't that the point you can't ask questions but you can't ask questions
01:35:33.300about abortion at the point of dating why do you date if you're not going to try to get married
01:35:36.220can't ask why do you date if you're not going to actually there's a lot of people who want to get
01:35:39.180who date without getting married yeah okay but should you i don't think so okay well then shut
01:35:44.060up but don't you no i think i think people should get married if they want to get married that's
01:35:48.440what i think yeah so then they should be able to date without getting married sure if they'd like
01:35:52.380to so then what are you even bitching about i'm not bitching i'm saying that that's
01:35:55.560podcast that's like circular retard shit andrew tate fresh and fit and i'm sorry brian brian doesn't
01:36:02.680believe in marriage and these people and you're promoting neither do you you don't believe it
01:36:06.540either yeah i don't i just you just said you literally just said i think people should get
01:36:10.900married if they want to okay oh great so is that a promotion of marriage they should get married if
01:36:16.020they want to is that promoting marriage is it sure andrew and answer my question is are you promoting
01:36:23.400marriage by saying hey everybody you should get married if you want to it's not not promoting
01:36:28.440marriage well i tell you what it's a lot less than what i promote i'm not saying you
01:36:33.440me a staple of this show here we'll get we got a couple more chats here guys almost done we got
01:36:39.460jason cassel oh boy okay here he goes jason cassel donated one hundred dollars i would keep an eye on
01:36:47.120your wife even feminist women really want real men unfortunately for you you are a feminist so you
01:36:53.940will probably be okay with it because you don't want to tell her what to do i'd love jason to uh
01:37:00.020define what a real man is so if he can send in another hundred dollars a real man is a guy who
01:37:05.120sends in another hundred dollars or champagne pop that's that's an option you know maybe a little
01:37:09.660liquor for jason or a real man sends in a champagne pop a little liquor maybe uh i don't know if he'll
01:37:14.800get things a little more aggressive and then i'll make sure that he doesn't get any
01:37:19.260you'll drink you'll pound the whole bottle all right we got red fox here thank you man thank you
01:37:25.840jason good to see you man red fox donated one hundred dollars thank you man if your goal is
01:37:30.780to convince people away from red pill why don't you just talk to andrew and thoroughly think through
01:37:36.240your position instead you divided the audience you seem like a useful idiot i would love to talk
01:37:43.200about just the red pill but andrew puts conversations into all kinds of different things we'll talk about
01:37:47.880abortion we're talking about single mothers we'll talk about all this stuff even though i'm trying
01:37:52.080to pull people out of this so i'm i'm trying to give a justification for red pill ideology and one
01:37:56.760such justification would be that women have reproductive control which could create incentives
01:38:01.780for men to not want to be with women in modernity now you literally told me that is in no way shape
01:38:09.260or form because i asked you five i wrote it down five times and you said that if that is in no way
01:38:14.260a contributing factor do you think right now anybody should ever take anything you fucking
01:38:18.300say seriously after you said that yes absolutely okay because i'm trying to help people get out of
01:38:23.360this thing you're just trying to keep people divided okay christopher scott donated one hundred
01:38:27.360dollars thank you christopher you're not here in good faith you won't answer questions you whine
01:38:32.260about everything and act like a child man up you want to respond to that or no okay uh christopher
01:38:39.460thanks for the soup chat we have lucas here and then we'll get back to the debate portion lucas
01:38:43.920uh pink hat wearer i have an honest question for you you say you have a podcast of female guests
01:38:48.680geared towards helping men do you truly believe right of center men align with your positions
01:38:54.380or is your target audience white dudes for kamala genuine question from lucas there i appreciate the
01:39:01.120genuine question um i only started a month ago but i've gotten over a million views and i've gotten a lot
01:39:05.840of messages from people who are in red pill and they say you're giving me hope that all the stuff
01:39:10.840that they say out there about a man has to be six foot tall a man has to make six figures a man has
01:39:15.860to have six pack abs those are the only guys that women want and the women i interview are definite
01:39:20.840especially the the uh married ones are saying that isn't the case that's black so a lot of people
01:39:25.680a lot of people have said thank you so much i appreciate it our fathers have reached out to me and said
01:39:31.700hey i appreciate what you're doing my sons are going to watch your videos because i really hope
01:39:36.720they don't go down the red pill rabbit hole so it has nothing to do with left ascent i'm not a
01:39:41.100political person i mean i am personally but my podcast has nothing to do with politics it really
01:39:45.380is let's help these guys see that women aren't the you know pariahs that podcasts in the red pill
01:39:51.940space make them out to be you're talking about black pill descriptors i'm talking about people who
01:39:56.080listen to red pill content yeah i know but that's not even even the guys that you just stated tate all those
01:40:00.480guys they don't say that that's all women want what they say is that if you want to heighten your
01:40:04.700chances for dating the type of woman that you want right you would work on male self-improvement and
01:40:10.280here's things that you could do to do that that is not what they say yes it is what they say you
01:40:13.880should if women only want high status men that's what they say no they don't say only either yes they
01:40:18.380do okay so listen do you understand that like if you work at a fucking starbucks as a woman and you're
01:40:24.300dating a janitor he's high status to you right what yeah did you hear what i said
01:40:30.380if someone's working at starbucks and they're dating a janitor that man's high status yeah if
01:40:33.660he's making twenty nine dollars an hour as a fucking janitor and you're a barista he would
01:40:37.580be high status right i i don't know that they'd see it like that but okay okay yeah well how do
01:40:41.940they see it you tell me it is like i like this guy i don't want to date him i think that's what
01:40:45.280they see okay no no how do these red pillars see it they see it as no one who works as a janitor
01:40:50.080will get a woman no they don't see it that way they do no you're totally they do you're totally
01:40:55.480wrong on this i know i'm not guys so have i who which one the people who write
01:40:59.500oh you talk about the content creator i'm talking about the people who follow this yeah i'm talking
01:41:02.220about the content creators you're talking about i'm talking about the actual people who listen to
01:41:05.540it and they write me and they say there's no way a woman would date somebody who works at mcdonald's
01:41:10.300and that's not true and they are listen i don't know what these individuals are telling you talk to
01:41:14.940the individuals i'm going to tell you what the content creators are saying okay and by the way i also
01:41:18.780watch what they say okay well here's here's what they say here's what myron gains would agree to and i
01:41:23.260guarantee andrew tate would agree to it i guarantee you that that both of those guys would and i know
01:41:27.440brian would as well okay they're trying to say that of course men should work on male improvement
01:41:34.380that doesn't mean that you're all women on planet earth are only going to want you if you're in the
01:41:40.300top one percent to the top 15 percent that's fucking absurd you can watch that's absurd tell me why
01:41:47.060every red pillar i come across believes that they don't they do they don't every red pillar i come
01:41:52.060across believes you know what show me a message i'll show you go through my tiktok just go to my tiktok
01:41:56.060right now scroll through my comments no no just show me a single dm i didn't say dm i said comments
01:42:01.100oh in the comments yeah so what so what that doesn't count people red pillars can't comment
01:42:05.440oh yeah no you're not sure you're not sure they can write the words the words aren't there trying
01:42:09.500to answer no you're not i'm not i'm not sure that it's legitimate no because yeah that it
01:42:14.900legitimately comes from myron gains who would not tell you that a janitor can't date a woman at
01:42:20.660starbucks that's fucking crazy would never say it in million years i know the guy he would
01:42:25.000never say that shit i'm telling you that when i ask women would you date someone under six foot
01:42:29.360tall every guy in there says that's just not true that's just not true that's just not true
01:42:33.240because they believe the shit that they're seeing from this stuff that's bullshit no it's not it's
01:42:37.480not bullshit it's true and this is the point i'm trying to make every guy who listens to red pill let
01:42:41.700me tell you something the fact that you don't care about these fucking guys i don't believe it you
01:42:44.880don't care about these guys leave you andrew let me tell you something do you think there's a
01:42:48.320problem with man male on the lives in this country yes okay do you what are you doing about it
01:42:53.200well i mean the first thing i did was advocate an anti-war position because ptsd is what led to a
01:42:58.420lot of the unaliving stats that's some of the stats but there's other people that aren't in the
01:43:02.040military what was your question what do you do to help these people and do you think that advocating
01:43:07.080for an anti-war stance that doesn't help people when someone has what happened let's say there is no
01:43:12.620more war and people still have ptsd what do they do well they get treatment okay so you believe in
01:43:17.960treatment for ptsd there's lots of men's groups which are good for treatment do you believe in
01:43:22.080treatment for severe depression in some cases what cases wouldn't you advocate for it depend it would
01:43:28.680depend on the criteria for severe what how what what do you mean i can't get out of fucking bed in
01:43:34.880the morning and all i think about is unaliving myself yeah like the incels yeah 95 of them report
01:43:39.480that you may have to have medical no they don't yes they do don't report that they can't get out of
01:43:43.820bed in the morning 95 oh that's severe depression yeah of course you do because you don't give a
01:43:48.580shit about people because it's not true you don't care about people that's literally not true do you
01:43:52.360believe in therapy in some cases therapy can be helpful and in other cases it fucks people up okay
01:43:59.060what cases is therapy messing well so psychology okay let's get into it psychology is the study of
01:44:04.340the mind can you tell me what is the disease process for you to diagnose a person with a
01:44:09.180psychological disorder i don't know but i do know that because it doesn't fucking exist okay so what
01:44:13.480doesn't mean therapy doesn't work okay how does it work have you looked in the studies about cbt
01:44:17.700uh cbt like the marijuana stuff no that's cbd what is cbt you don't know about cognitive behavioral
01:44:24.200therapy no what is it well then what is it it's one of the most successful versions of therapy that
01:44:29.660have helped a lot of people get out of depression okay what does it do it's a talk therapy that
01:44:33.760basically shows cognitive distances so it's a study of the mind it's not a study of the mind yes well it
01:44:38.540has to be because no it's talk therapy we're talk therapy doing what to help you get elevate your
01:44:44.700mood and get you out of bed and could you go with like i don't know an instrument and do a little
01:44:51.540test on a guy and be like oh your depression level was here and now it's here do you know how people
01:44:58.080answer my question do you know how do you know how people typically and then ask no because that's not
01:45:03.300how it's tested yeah right exactly because it's not because that's not how it's tested it's not a
01:45:06.000fucking because that's not how it's tested you said answer the question and then i could say so
01:45:09.680here i am saying that's not how it's tested yeah because it's not a disease depression is not a
01:45:14.140disease no this is why i know that out there if you're depressed andrew doesn't give a shit about
01:45:18.220it's not a disease doesn't give a shit about you if you're depressed it's not a disease it's just
01:45:22.160something in your head i will bet you a hundred dollars right now you can get your cell phone
01:45:26.080look up if depression is actually a classified disease for the record if you have if you have
01:45:31.720depression bet if you have depression andrew doesn't care it's not a disease cognitive behavioral
01:45:36.540therapy doesn't work is it a disease bet a hundred bucks yes okay then then go grab your phone
01:45:42.000no i'm not grabbing you're not gonna bet no because it's not a fucking disease so people
01:45:45.140aren't there's not there's not a disease look at if you're gonna like talk to the audience yeah
01:45:48.800if andrew if you have severe depression andrew doesn't care if you get help he doesn't he
01:45:54.160doesn't think you should get help because did i say that because depression isn't real by the
01:45:57.820way depression is not a real thing it's not a disease it's not a disease so that means you
01:46:02.280shouldn't get it treated because it's not what i consider a disease so okay so i don't understand
01:46:06.880how do we get from depression's not a disease and that means that depression doesn't exist
01:46:13.640you don't believe in the treatments for it no no what i was trying to demonstrate to you is that
01:46:18.200psychology is a study of the mind and because of this you can actually do interventional treatments
01:46:22.600on people which do more damage than good because tell me a study that it does more damage than good
01:46:28.460do you know what so you want psychologists to start studying in their own field where 60 70 percent
01:46:36.140plus the studies can't be replicated and govern their own field by telling you that the studies
01:46:41.540that they're making are bad therapy isn't real to andrew because you can't replicate it therapy is
01:46:45.880bullshit yes psychology is bullshit i asked him if he thinks therapy is bullshit i said i asked him
01:46:51.500if therapy is really said some instances now it's bullshit the real truth comes out there can be
01:46:55.260therapeutics that work yes but therapy by and large in and of itself as an occupational is bullshit
01:47:00.360and psychology is bullshit yeah there are several studies that show the improvement there's several
01:47:03.920studies that are done by the same people who are studying the mind if you're depressed andrew
01:47:08.360doesn't care about you i just want to point that out i don't understand what when did i say depression
01:47:12.460is not real you don't care about the treatment yeah when did i say that i don't care about the treatment
01:47:16.800you don't because you don't believe it exists do you know that you can treat depression with things
01:47:20.840like hormone replacement therapy that's one avenue yeah so i don't understand um if i would
01:47:26.820recommend that you would you would do things like hormone replacement therapy under the guide of an
01:47:31.260actual medical doctor right who didn't get a fucking arts degree in psychology by the way but
01:47:35.800an actual md right who gives you something like hormone replacement that stuff is truly effective
01:47:42.360for treating this type of stuff there can be hang on there can be limited instance of men's groups
01:47:47.500which seem to help with ptsd and things like this but by and large psychology is a fucking crock of
01:47:53.880shit go ahead and demonstrate for me why it's effective okay so if you have severe depression maybe get some
01:47:59.580hormone therapy that's what andrew's recommending no instead of going what are you recommending
01:48:03.020to seek out a therapist read a book what's the cure rate for the severely depressed cbt has
01:48:08.900significantly improved people with severe depression cbt has how many i don't have the study in front of
01:48:16.460me but it's significant how much it's significant just like you said earlier you said earlier significant
01:48:20.940i doubt it that was an acceptable answer before it is now too i doubt it of course you do because you
01:48:24.860don't think you don't you don't care about people with i don't believe you yeah you don't care about
01:48:28.060people with severe depression what are you talking about you don't care about them because so many
01:48:31.560people in the red pill community have severe depression and you don't care so many people
01:48:35.840in the red pill community have severe depression and you don't give a shit so i you have to understand
01:48:40.700how illogical this is how much it doesn't make sense yeah because it's all bullshit saying that
01:48:44.560you should be guarded in the treatment of psychology means that i don't care about people i have depression
01:48:48.560can you explain that logic to me you don't care about the treatment you don't believe that the
01:48:53.540treatment is real and you think the only thing you should do is go to hormone treatment therapy and
01:48:57.620And also you think that PTSD, also you think that people with PTSD, it kind of works there, but if you have severe depression as an incel, it won't work there.
01:49:54.280Well, especially for people, so the ones that I'm familiar with are people who have PTSD and there seem to be therapeutics which work inside of these like groups who've gone through very similar experience and then being able to discuss and form communities around these types of things.
01:50:10.720But I'm not sure that it's because of the discussions as much as it is about the community they're forming.
01:50:17.280So what is your solution for the vast number of people who consume this content that are reporting severe depression?
01:50:28.340Well, first of all, you haven't demonstrated that's the case.
01:51:43.440Yeah, but I thought that women having control over men's kids didn't have anything to do with why men didn't want to get into the dating market.
01:51:53.560That's not the reason people aren't dating.
01:51:56.020No, you don't think that a big contributor...
01:51:57.900That's not the reason people aren't dating.
01:51:59.100So the reason you think that people aren't dating and marrying is because men are terrified that women will divorce them and take their kids?
01:52:06.320No, I don't think that's the reason they're not dating.
01:55:38.140Well, if it's the case that you think dating leads to cohabitation before marriage, and their prescription doesn't lead to that, then they're saving a lot more fucking lives than you.
02:12:27.040You are creating a straw man character of what the red pill is.
02:12:29.540As Andrew said, the intellectual godfather of the so-called red pill, Rola Tomasi, is in a 30-year marriage with a 20-something-year-old married daughter.
02:12:38.780For that matter, I would consider my...
02:29:10.060Feminist, what is the role and duty of women?
02:29:12.720In fact, my religion, we venerate the Theotokos.
02:29:15.600You know, that would be the mother of God.
02:29:17.540But, you know, the thing is, is even though I talk about this all the time, discuss how much we need matrons in society, how important it is, I just hate all fucking women.
02:45:00.660So if you were to, like, I don't know, ask a woman, for instance, about her political takes, and they were completely the opposite of yours.
02:45:24.260No, the only people who think women shouldn't vote are red pill people.
02:45:28.400So I'm saying if they can get out of the red pill community, they wouldn't think like that.
02:45:31.220Yeah, but you just said that preferences are a thing which are completely fine, and you have no problem with anybody's preferences about anything.
02:45:39.680If they're like, hey, I don't think women should have the right to vote, or I don't think women should work, then, yeah, go ahead and whittle those people out of your life.
03:08:40.360That's how a lot of people have conversations, Andrew.
03:08:42.180Listen, even inside of conversations, all you're really doing is debating.
03:08:46.900It's just that you refuse to formalize it because you're terrified of where your fucking thoughts lead.
03:08:52.920So what you do instead is filibuster, refuse to answer questions, refuse to allow me to even understand what it is that you're talking about with a proprietary definition.
03:09:01.360Well, I also have seen enough of your debates that I know when you go down the morality rabbit hole, what morality do you subscribe to?
03:10:43.600If you have male virtue, right, and female virtue, all virtues are going to be united in the way that men and women both need to have courage, for instance.
03:10:54.300But if it is the case that the effects on society, when one gender specifically lacks whatever that virtue is over the other, and the results are either more devastating or more positive, that would be a masculine trait versus a feminine trait.
03:24:04.340If the red pill is working for you, by all means, continue consuming the content.
03:24:07.820But if it's not, I implore you to seek other alternatives.
03:24:10.820If you are depressed, if you're lonely, I encourage you to seek help because a lot of the people in this community are struggling and I hate to see it.
03:24:21.180And the people I talk to that are in this community that say, you know, you're giving me hope for the first time, that's all I'm trying to do.
03:24:27.420And maybe I didn't make the best argument because I'm not a debater.
03:24:30.140I came here for the specific purpose and it's to try to help men in the red pill.
03:25:34.980The truth is, is that you, all of you in this audience, are a threat to progressive ideology.
03:25:40.920And so they're going to tell you that the people who are the closest to your ideology, who represent your worldview, are the bad guys and the enemy and this and that.
03:25:49.800And then when they give you their prescriptions, what do they give you?
03:28:11.940Well, let me ask this last question then since I get the last word on this one.
03:28:15.580So what if it's the case that Christianity was ten times more oppressive towards women than anything the red pill wanted to do, but it made men feel a lot better?
03:32:02.920But if that same person comes in for a job at your company and you say, no, I'm not going to hire you because of this, that's what I consider racist.
03:33:33.120I don't think I agree with that, but I haven't put any more thought into it.
03:33:36.100But I just feel like if men are the mass casualties of war, then they're probably the biggest victim, I would imagine, just from a quick thought.
03:33:44.560Really quick, though, before we do that, guys, Venmo, Cash App, WhateverPod, if you want 100% of your contribution to go towards the show, like the video, please.
03:33:52.020Also, Mary, if you can pull up Twitch, guys, go to twitch.tv slash whatever on your way out.
03:33:56.160If you're leaving the stream, you know, maybe me and Raphael are going to get into a little debate here.
03:52:49.360But the internet back then wasn't what it is today.
03:52:51.660In the 2000s, the internet, there was some crazy shit.
03:52:54.600Yeah, I mean, the thing is, even, like, to get a little more serious, but, like, the people that are finding red pill is because the YouTube algorithm is often recommending it to people.
04:06:13.580Although, shouldn't it – perhaps it's not a duty for all women, but, like, would you say maybe the majority of women should have children?
04:06:20.740I wouldn't – again, I wouldn't say should.
04:06:22.900I think the people who are deciding to have children today often are people who have made the calculated economic decision to do so, and they are in a better position to be good parents, in my opinion.
04:06:34.000So, I think we're not necessarily looking for numbers and volume.
04:06:36.980I think we're looking for good parents and good families.
04:06:50.260How do you define male privilege, women being oppressed, sexism, or feminism, if you don't believe in our – have definitions for sex or gender?
04:06:59.700I would say male privilege is mostly because we have – men have mostly been the people in power, so they are less likely to have ever been oppressed.
04:07:08.860I mean, I know men go through oppression as well, but if you look at it from a perspective of women, they have been far more oppressed than men.
04:08:38.640And so it's interesting conveniently for women, and I suppose feminists, that they got the right to vote right after the – at least at the time.
04:08:50.280World War II had a higher casualty count, although you could argue that in many ways World War I was much more brutal in many ways.
04:08:59.960And the soldiers were on the front for way longer than – they'd be like in perpetuity on the front, whereas like in World War II, they'd shift out.
04:09:14.600But the most barbaric war that had ever been seen up until that point, most casualties, et cetera, et cetera, women conveniently secured the right to vote right after it because one of the concerns of the suffragettes was, well, if we secure the right to vote as women, we're going to be subject to military conscription.
04:09:35.180Feminists were able to secure the right to vote without any corresponding responsibility, and that responsibility, duty would be having to go to war.
04:09:57.440There were other differences too, but I mean this idea though that men for like millennia had – like all men.
04:10:07.840I will actually grant to you that like throughout most of human history, the men, which by the way was a very, very small percentage, like 0.001% of men had power.
04:10:22.940But so like the top apex of men, yeah, they're the ones who did have power, but like that doesn't speak to the 99.99% of men who were just as oppressed and who had – honestly, I would argue throughout history, at least my big argument here was as it relates to warfare.
04:10:41.000Women have often been shielded by the barbarity of war.
04:13:10.580For example, a father in his will could bequeath to say he only had daughters if it was actually true that women could not own property or own land.
04:13:23.220In the event that a father of only daughters, and he has, say, three or even one remaining heir, one daughter, two daughters, three daughters, where would the property go to?
04:19:50.100My stance is if I believe men should be the ones doing most of the combat.
04:19:55.500If women want to volunteer in support roles, they can.
04:19:57.540But if we're talking about a forced draft of women, which I don't advocate for, if we do a forced draft of women, I don't advocate for them being in combat roles.
04:20:06.500I advocate for them being in support roles.
04:20:19.180One slash let me steal when your position dot men have duties slash obligations.
04:20:23.820BC, they should just do the right thing.
04:20:26.200But women shouldn't have any duties to society whatsoever.
04:20:30.440In other words, a definition of feminism.
04:20:32.840I mean, I think when people are talking about women's duties, what are they actually talking about?
04:20:39.740Besides going to war, which I think most of us agree that that's not what we're trying to do, the only other option that I hear as like a duty for women is forcing them to have – or they should have a duty to have children, and I don't believe in that.
04:20:52.020So unless you can come up with another duty that you think women should do, I'm open to it.
04:26:30.300I think if the woman and the man agree that he can, you know, forego his paternal rights and, you know, payment, the child support payments,
04:26:41.600which, by the way, I want everybody to know their only average child support payment is $440.
04:27:24.940And I think if a man, I mean, if you guys are also, you know, against promiscuity, I mean, men should know the risk of potentially impregnating somebody.
04:27:34.600And I believe that a man should take care of a kid if he has one.
04:27:38.120Now, if they agree that, hey, I don't need you to be in his life or her life, it's totally fine.
04:28:42.440I guess, though, when it comes to the men having the right to escape child support for a child that they didn't want,
04:28:49.360like, what would you, if there was a man sitting across from you, sitting right there, and he was like, Raphael, look, man, I'm 21 years old.
04:30:06.720If it's before 20 weeks, to be consistent, I would say, I don't think you should have the child because I don't think, I don't agree.
04:30:13.620My goal is children raise in great homes.
04:30:16.780And if you are not ready to raise a child and that child could have a bad life,
04:30:20.800I don't believe in just breeding for the sake of breeding.
04:30:24.480So if that child is not going to have a good life due to the circumstances, I don't think it's, I think she should be able to get a termination of pregnancy.
04:30:32.140And the guy who you were giving advice to, would you maybe have, you might say to him, for example, you should have thought of that before you had sex.
04:30:58.180But don't you think, for the sake of equality, men should be granted, in instances and cases in states where women do have abortion rights, men should have a corresponding right, it's often called by men's rights activists, as legal paternal surrender.
04:31:13.960The more, the other term is paper abortion, they typically don't like that term, but legal paternal surrender.
04:31:19.740Essentially, as a man, you could say, hey, I didn't want to have the kid, I don't want to be financially responsible for 18 years, I don't want, I relinquish any paternal rights, parental rights that I have, but I don't want to be financially responsible for the kid.
04:31:35.260It seems to me, if you're saying to the woman, well, you have this exit of, and you didn't like this, the way Andrew categorized this, he considers it murder.
04:31:48.000If the woman can murder the child, the unborn child, what would actually be wrong with then men wanting to just not have to be financially tied to the child once it's born?
04:32:02.540Well, I want to clarify that I'm not necessarily saying equality, I'm saying equal opportunity, and men do not have the opportunity to be pregnant.
04:32:09.740So I think women have that, that's the sole thing they have the opportunity to do, so if they make the decision to keep the child, that is a risk men take if they impregnate somebody.
04:32:17.640And I think, again, from my worldview of masculinity, doing the right thing would be taking care of that child.
04:32:29.080Well, just one point of clarification.
04:32:31.820When you say you're against third trimester abortion, do you say, like, for your own, like, in terms of your own view, but, like, let's say a woman, she wanted a third trimester abortion, would you, like, by law, do you think those should be precluded?
04:33:01.900And let's say there are, there's a cohort of women out there who, if they were pregnant and if they were in the third trimester and if they wanted to get an abortion, you would not have any guardrails or laws or anything like that preventing them from getting the abortion, say, at nine months.
04:33:22.300I would need to understand, I think, the medical aspect of that a bit more, because I know most abortions that take place early are done through pills and there's very, it's, it's quite simple of a process.
04:33:32.500If it's that late, I think it enters kind of a territory I'm uncomfortable with.
04:33:36.920So I'd have to, I'd have to understand that a bit more.
04:34:18.920But yeah, and it's hypothetical, you know, it is tough.
04:34:21.640I, I definitely think if you're at 20 weeks and you haven't made a decision or you change your mind, I mean, that's a bad, that's a bad place to be.
04:35:58.120You should pick people based on your preferences.
04:36:01.180Wait, I think during the show, Andrew might have asked you this, but I know you're married, but if you were single or when you were single, would you, like, let's say you knew, like the girl told you or something.
04:36:11.680She has a body count of, he said like a thousand or something.
04:36:16.120I think he said like five, five figure, 10,000.
04:59:38.420But all of that reinforces it, in my opinion.
04:59:40.440You know, I think people who watch my show, they actually love women more.
04:59:46.700They love women more because they, you know, you got to go into something with your expectations managed.
04:59:57.020And the blue pill thing is, is you're going to have a sense of what your experience is going to be with dating.
05:00:04.260But if you go into dating, knowing full well what that's going to entail, then you're not going to be surprised when certain things happen.
05:00:15.540And which will enable you to have an understanding of women and have your expectations managed.
05:00:25.100And if your expectations are managed and you don't believe in this Disney fairytale bullshit when it comes to dating.
05:00:31.920And I think women have a lot of, this isn't just men's view of women.
05:00:36.860I think women need to lose the Disney bullshit too when it comes to men also.
05:00:42.360Yeah, I think they have, I think some of them have lofty expectations of what women have of dating.
05:00:47.240But I think both men and women have been sold this like Disney-fied sort of ideal, which is just not realistic whatsoever.
05:00:54.960And so for this reason, I actually think if you're going into dating or your encounters with your girlfriend or whatever it is with managed expectations, you're not going to end up disappointed.
05:01:10.560Because you know exactly what you're getting into.
05:01:12.980And I think that that makes for a much healthier relationship than having these unrealistic expectations, whether you're a man or a woman, when it comes to dating and relationships.
05:01:24.020I think there's a fair point in what you're saying.
05:01:25.880I think, you know, let's dispel the fairytale.
05:01:30.620That there are people out there that have shitty ideals, shitty preferences.
05:03:14.160Not to say that they wouldn't date a guy who's 5'9", but generally, if they had, like, a choice between the guy who's 6'3", versus the guy who's 5'9", they probably pick the 6'3".
05:03:24.000But it's the same way guys would rather have Sydney Sweeney than, you know, some girl they just met on Tinder.
05:03:29.400Like, men have the same kinds of preferences in terms of the extremes.
05:03:47.420But then they might meet somebody in the street, and just because they don't look like that or feel that, they don't feel like the attraction.
05:04:07.700I think porn is setting men up for unrealistic expectations for the world.
05:04:11.680And so, they get upset because they feel rejected, but they see women have these preferences for what they consider giga chads.
05:04:17.820And it's like, yeah, if a woman had all the say in the world, she'd probably want to be with that.
05:04:22.140But the guy she ends up with is probably not going to be that.
05:04:25.040And you're missing out, I think, on great opportunities to meet women and have a good relationship.
05:04:28.800Well, I do want to address your, I guess, comment or perhaps criticism of you said that you do these street interviews, and the answers that the women give you, you're saying that they're counter to some of the narratives.
05:04:41.220For example, when it comes to height, right?
05:04:43.560And the rebuttal that you probably receive is, look at what women do, not what they say.
05:05:56.280But we've also had women who are like, well, I'm 5'4", and I would date a guy who's 5'6".
05:06:02.200And then they're like, well, my last three boyfriends were all six foot three.
05:06:06.420So it's like, well, that's a really small percentage of men in that, in terms of the, what's the term, percentile, the height percentile, like six foot three, you're in, like, the 99th percentile.
05:06:22.740But, again, I think women will often say the politically correct, feel-good answer to these things.
05:06:30.340And I don't always think that they're honest about it.
05:07:19.240And their actual preference was more towards physical attraction as compared to what their stated preferences were.
05:07:25.320And the other thing, final, I know you want to respond, last thing on this, is just, if you ask women if they think Lizzo is beautiful, they'll say yes.
05:07:36.080I mean, I don't know if you're a chubby chaser.
05:07:37.440I don't want to put words in your mouth.
05:07:38.940I'm just saying, when it comes to physical attractiveness, I think it's a tough sale to say that somebody who's, like, I'm not saying this to be insulting towards Lizzo.
05:07:48.900I don't know she's just factually morbidly obese, or maybe she's been losing weight a little bit, too.
05:07:54.320I think most people, when it comes to appraisals of physical attractiveness, are not going to say, like, somebody who's morbidly obese is physically attractive.
05:08:13.640No, I think you're on to a lot of things.
05:08:16.140And I don't disagree that maybe some of these women are answering this way, but that's why on my long-form podcast, I interview married women, because I want to interview women who are actually, you know, putting their money where their mouth is.
05:08:27.880A lot of the women I interview have either said, I have dated men under six foot, or one of my more popular videos is, would you date a man who earns less money than you?
05:08:37.980And that woman was, you know, being honest.
05:08:40.500That woman was being honest, which I appreciate.
05:08:42.260When I did the six foot video, the last woman I interviewed, she was like, well, clearly, and she points to her husband, who's like, her height, you know, and it's just like, this is great.
05:08:50.880It's a great, it's a, so I do see that women are putting their money where their mouth is.
05:08:55.020Now, in that study, if I remember correctly, they listed their preferences, but then they were shown photos.
05:09:01.760And I think photos is always going to be a bit superficial.
05:09:04.760Like, I think photos, like, kind of like Tinder and all that stuff, it's very superficial.
05:09:08.520I think what makes somebody attractive isn't necessarily just looks.
05:09:11.200I think looks are the first thing you notice.
05:09:13.180But I asked another question to women, what's more attractive, looks or confidence?
05:09:20.280But I think a confident man who's average looking has a shot if he has got a, if he approaches a woman with confidence, has some personality, has a sense of humor, he's got a shot.
05:09:29.620I'm not saying more than the giga chad or whatever they call him, but he's got a shot.
05:09:34.120And a lot of women end up marrying those kinds of guys.
05:09:36.940And I think the stats alone speak to it.
05:09:39.120I think only 14% of the population is over six foot tall or six foot and over.
05:09:44.940But about 50% of households are married.
05:09:47.580So, obviously, women are marrying guys who are under six feet tall.
05:09:51.700I would say most people, probably a good amount of people in terms of getting married, it's actually, if we're talking about socioeconomics, they're marrying people or in their socioeconomic class.
05:10:41.560I mean, but they're not totally wrong.
05:10:43.420Like, if you're really unattractive and you're the most confident guy ever, I'm not saying you're not going to get a girl, but, like, this idea that confidence is, like, the cure-all for getting, like, it's some magic wand for getting any woman.
05:11:17.820The issue is, though, is that the majority of people, at least from what I've seen, are meeting online.
05:11:24.400So that confidence, that personality doesn't really translate.
05:11:28.440And so if people are meeting on Instagram, dating apps, et cetera, and my understanding from some statistics I've seen, maybe it's wrong, the majority of people are meeting online in some capacity.
05:11:54.000They're going to see the hot guy first.
05:11:55.620And, look, if he's, like, a little bitch, then, yeah, he's going to be in trouble.
05:12:00.200But if he has, like, a modicum of ability to have a conversation with a woman and he's good-looking and she's already physically attracted to him, he's going to do okay where even if his confidence maybe isn't, like, exceptional.
05:12:44.300So I want to encourage more people to go meet people in real life because that's when your personality can shine and that's when your confidence can shine.
05:12:51.380That's when your sense of humor can shine.
05:12:52.720And if you feel like, I don't have enough money or I don't have enough this, it's like, honestly, there are guys at McDonald's that are married.
05:12:57.900There are guys at Walmart that are married.
05:12:59.220There are guys at gas stations that are married.
05:13:00.900And I'm not saying that's the norm, but it's possible.
05:13:04.240And I think people can find love and partnership, and that's all I'm trying to push for.
05:13:07.760That's really it because I'm not saying like I'm like a huge natalist, but I think there's a common ground in what a lot of the red pill and a lot of these other people think is that at the end of the day, we do want to have a thriving population.
05:13:45.460And I know a lot of men feel that way.
05:13:46.820So I just want them to not feel like if you don't have six figures, six foot, six pack abs, and no woman's ever going to like you because I just don't think that case because average men are – and I go to Disneyland.
05:13:59.700I go to all these places, I look around, and I'm like, look at all these people in relationships.
05:14:33.380There is, though, a cohort of both men and women who, with their own dating experiences, are encountering certain things as it relates to – it's not all women.
05:14:45.560But there are quite a few women who have, let's say, delusional expectations as it relates to their dating prospects.
05:16:24.020And so what you have happening is essentially you have women who have sexual access, limited sexual access because they're not getting commitment, but they have limited sexual access to men outside their league.
05:16:49.920And these men – and look, here's – prescriptively, I don't think men should sleep with women if they don't have a genuine bona fide intention of being in a relationship with that girl.
05:17:06.700But in a situation where we have completely – we have a global sexual marketplace, things are completely liberated.
05:17:16.140Women can hop on a dating app and fuck a really attractive guy, and it can be done without, like, the prying eyes of their social circle and their peer group.
05:17:25.100You have women who are going to hook up with these men.
05:17:27.480You have men who are also going to hook up with these women for a different reason.
05:18:13.240People who live in the same room as you and you share a bathroom with three people.
05:18:17.480Similar to that, if a woman has dealt with a certain caliber or tier of men, it's going to be kind of like – you're like, okay, this is my league because I can sleep with these men.
05:18:46.080So for this reason, there's this differential that exists between men and women where, essentially, you do have a cohort of women who's like, well, I'm – they're perpetually chasing men who are out of their league because it's like the breadcrumb of, like, I can get a guy who's more attractive.
05:19:40.200If I step to a girl who's clearly out of my league, I'm not – she's not going to be like, well, for example, if I'm offering her on a silver platter sex,
05:19:52.680But, like, as a woman, if you offer a guy who's more attractive than you on a silver platter, you offer him sex, he might take that opportunity.
05:20:02.100So women have at least limited sexual access to men outside their league, and so essentially it creates a completely different – a massive difference.
05:20:12.120No, and I think you're absolutely right.
05:20:14.100There's nothing – everything you said was absolutely correct.
05:20:15.840But I think what happens here, yes, I think online women and men have unrealistic expectations of what they can get, and women have more access to those unrealistic expectations.
05:20:45.720They really do want someone to just sit on the couch and watch Netflix with, you know, and they want to go get in and out and, like, do that kind of stuff.
05:20:52.520So – but I totally agree that maybe there's some misguidedness on, like, our expectations because of the internet.
05:20:58.540But I also think that part of the frustration that men feel is that imbalance in the sexual marketplace.
05:21:05.800And so men are frustrated because women do have access to that, and they don't.
05:21:10.000And that frustrates them because they want access to those same women, but they can't get them.
05:21:14.280And so there's a frustration that comes from that that I think what happens is online that starts to build as they continue to, you know, consume content that basically tells them that's all you should be is this because if you're not that, you're never going to get anybody.
05:21:27.320And I think that message is pounded into men's heads so much so that when I'm talking to them, I'm like, it's not like that.
05:21:41.120But I was getting my hair cut for this podcast, and I was getting my hair cut, and I was telling them I was coming on here, and one of the girls was like, oh, I'm single, you know.
05:21:49.680And I was like, well, you know, do guys ask you out?
05:25:27.840And the family law attorney does not have like a good prediction for how it's going to go.
05:25:35.860And that men face certain challenges when it comes to custody disputes and this sort of thing.
05:25:45.120And so a lot of men just, I mean, they're like, man, I'm going to spend all this money with a really low chance of getting a positive outcome.
05:25:56.440One of the other things that often frequently happens, and I don't know if this is the case for ghosts, I don't recall his points, is, and I'm not saying all women do this, but this is actually, and I think this is something that's been studied.
05:26:07.080But the incidence of false accusations once a custody dispute has been initiated, and if the man challenges the dispute over custody, it's frequently seen, almost exclusively on the women's part, for various accusations to manifest themselves out of the ether once the man starts fighting for custody.
05:26:34.560For example, there will be accusations of verbal abuse.
05:26:39.880There'll be accusations of emotional abuse.
05:26:42.120There'll be accusations of physical abuse towards the woman.
05:26:47.240But then if the woman doesn't get her will, there will be further accusations that are even more sinister and malevolent.
05:26:54.560She'll start accusing the man of abusing the child, physically abusing the child, and I think the worst, of the child.
05:27:05.080And these manifest as attempts at leveraging these sorts of accusations to either destroy the morale of men who are attempting to fight for custody of their children,
05:27:22.900or to paint a picture of the man as being essentially, well, abusive, and precluding him from getting any degree of custody.
05:27:36.460And I'm not, look, there are genuine instances of abuse, but this is seen, and Lucas is an attorney, I don't know if he can weigh in on this,
05:27:45.240and I don't know if this is his area of practice with, well, I don't think it's his area of practice, family law,
05:27:50.540but this is seen frequently in custody of dispute situations, which tend to end up, when there's a mutual custody dispute,
05:27:58.720oftentimes are very, very, what's the term for, like, with a legal thing, if it's contentious.
05:28:06.480Very contentious, very, get very nasty, and when people are fighting over their children, which I think is really unfortunate,
05:28:14.560oftentimes in furtherance of, if it's expedient to throw out a false accusation in the hopes of either making the court believe that these abuses are real,
05:28:28.200or demoralizing the man to cease their pursuit of custody, it's actually effective, sadly.
05:29:15.880And I don't know if that's a ghost situation, but there was, like, I think two separate guys who sent in messages
05:29:21.500who were saying they had, like, these just catastrophic, like, months or even year-long custody.
05:29:27.900These disputes, it's just, you know, it's actually interesting is I actually sat in, I was, like, preparing for a small claims case I was dealing with,
05:29:38.620and I just went to the courthouse, and I sat in in one of these court proceedings,
05:29:45.120and I watched, like, three separate divorce slash child custody, child support, and it's really sad.
05:35:17.020There is child support dollar at play.
05:35:19.000The child support money is typically not specifically earmarked for the kids, so it can.
05:35:25.220You know, really quick, I'm going to let the rest of the viewers come through.
05:35:27.340This is actually a men's rights position.
05:35:29.820In the same way with food stamps and SNAP benefits, like food benefits, you can only, like they give you a card, you can only spend it on food.
05:35:39.300You can't, like, go buy, like, I don't know, like alcohol.
05:35:44.640You can't go and buy, like, electronic device.
05:39:32.360And I think one of the things, though, at least as it relates to marriage, which is one of the things men should potentially look out for, is I think once you're married, I think the woman has more leverage.
05:39:44.820Because if you're the breadwinner, if you're the breadwinner as the guy and you're getting into alimony territory, then it's like she's kind of got you by the balls.
05:39:59.160It can be, but I could be wrong, but I think, again, I might have been wrong about some of my stats, but I believe only 10% of marriages end up with alimony payments, I think.
05:40:09.120I think it's something along those lines.
05:40:10.620Yeah, I don't know what the statistics are on it.
05:40:13.320Obviously, if you've been married for a short time, my understanding is if it's below a certain threshold, you'll pay alimony for a duration that's proportionate to the length of, you know, the marriage.
05:40:26.820It's not like, I don't think it's, you've been married for three years, you pay alimony for three years.
05:40:31.000I think it's maybe, I don't know, it's different in different jurisdictions.
05:40:45.380Well, I personally believe, you know, if you're really worried about, if you really have a lot of assets and finances and you're worried about alimony, I mean, if, you know,
05:40:52.900I think a woman can understand a prenup, prenup, I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
05:40:56.320Yeah, but there's concerns with prenups too.
05:41:06.020And then it can, oftentimes it can, I think, Lucas, correct me if I'm wrong, it only applies to that which occurs, or it can only exclude that, like, assets or money that existed prior to the marriage.
05:41:21.620But anything earned during the marriage, I don't think.
05:41:26.020I think legally you could still exclude things during the marriage.