Whatever Podcast - October 16, 2025


Candace Owens DESTROYS Whatever Podcast FULL VIDEO


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1 hour and 48 minutes

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202.02605

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22,017

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1,843

Misogynist Sentences

127

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103


Summary

On this episode of Whatever Dating Talk, host Brian Atlas sits down with three young women to talk about their experiences as sex workers, Twitch streamers, and other forms of media they work in. They also talk about how they got their start as content creators, and how they came up with the idea for their new podcast, Convicting a Murderer.


Transcript

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00:00:28.540 Welcome to the Whatever Dating Talk podcast.
00:00:32.240 Thank you for tuning in tonight.
00:00:33.120 You could have been anywhere in the world
00:00:34.080 but you're here with me.
00:00:34.920 I appreciate that.
00:00:35.940 We are coming to you live from Santa Barbara, California
00:00:38.500 every Sunday and Tuesday at 5 p.m. Pacific.
00:00:41.840 I am your host, Brian Atlas.
00:00:44.320 Without further ado, we're going to have the guests
00:00:45.940 introduce themselves one more time.
00:00:47.460 So please tell us your name, age and occupation.
00:00:50.060 Go ahead.
00:00:50.700 My name is Azalea.
00:00:51.580 I'm 31 and I'm a flight attendant and content creator.
00:00:54.460 What kind of content do you?
00:00:56.660 Twitch streaming, OnlyFans and yeah.
00:01:00.380 All right.
00:01:00.980 What about you?
00:01:01.620 My name is Lexi.
00:01:02.700 I am 22 years old and I'm a full-time sex worker.
00:01:06.220 Okay.
00:01:06.600 And when you say sex worker, what do you mean?
00:01:09.180 I do content creating like on OnlyFans
00:01:12.240 as well as stripping at strip clubs.
00:01:14.660 And I work as a legal courtesan in Nevada.
00:01:18.820 A courtesan.
00:01:19.740 Meaning a legal prostitute.
00:01:21.840 Okay.
00:01:22.360 So is there, have you ever been to a court?
00:01:26.420 No.
00:01:27.260 Not like for criminal reasons, but like a, have you ever been?
00:01:31.600 You know what I meant.
00:01:32.500 No, no, no.
00:01:32.860 But like courtesan, you know.
00:01:35.380 I mean, there's, there's still Kings out there that have a court.
00:01:38.980 So you could like the Philippines, do they have a King?
00:01:43.640 Do you know?
00:01:44.100 I don't think so.
00:01:45.620 There's some Kings out there.
00:01:47.220 There's the King of Sweden, King of, so like an actual, you know, court.
00:01:53.860 Courtesan.
00:01:54.760 Okay.
00:01:55.120 All right.
00:01:55.440 She's a courtesan folks.
00:01:56.680 Okay.
00:01:57.120 What about you?
00:01:57.600 Illegal prostitute.
00:01:58.580 That's the term for it.
00:01:59.840 Okay.
00:02:01.360 Hi, my name's Pixie.
00:02:03.280 I'm 24 years old and I stream politics on Twitch.
00:02:07.700 All right.
00:02:08.120 Welcome back.
00:02:09.860 I'm Essie.
00:02:10.760 I'm 24.
00:02:11.720 I have two jobs.
00:02:13.040 My passion is social media management and then I do OnlyFans as well.
00:02:18.380 Hey there.
00:02:19.220 I'm Olivia Bentley and I am an intimacy coach.
00:02:22.100 I am a legal sex worker and I am an OnlyFans content creator.
00:02:27.260 Did you say age?
00:02:28.840 46.
00:02:29.560 46.
00:02:30.180 Okay.
00:02:30.380 Got it.
00:02:32.160 Hi, I'm Tara.
00:02:33.480 I'm 22 years old and I'm an EEG technician and research assistant in the field of clinical
00:02:39.620 neuroscience.
00:02:42.700 I'm Lily.
00:02:43.780 I'm 23 years old and I'm a couple of things.
00:02:46.440 I'm a student at Belmont.
00:02:47.620 I'm graduating soon and I'm a personal trainer and my goal is to be a worship artist.
00:02:53.120 Got to make money though.
00:02:55.060 I am Candace Owens.
00:02:56.660 I'm a wife.
00:02:57.500 I'm a mother at first and I also obviously have a political podcast, documentary filmmaker
00:03:03.800 and I just create a ton of content regarding what's going on in the media landscape.
00:03:08.360 Sweet.
00:03:09.360 Sweet.
00:03:09.540 And you have tomorrow a documentary coming soon.
00:03:14.220 Yes.
00:03:14.780 Convicting a murderer.
00:03:15.980 Very excited about that.
00:03:16.960 What time does it drop?
00:03:18.460 You can watch it live on X tomorrow night.
00:03:20.820 So we're super excited about that.
00:03:22.080 It also will be available on Daily Wire Plus.
00:03:24.280 The first two episodes will be free.
00:03:26.580 And yeah, it's jumping into kind of building on Netflix made Making a Murderer.
00:03:30.960 Made it seem as if Stephen Avery was guilty.
00:03:32.780 I don't know if you guys watched that.
00:03:34.500 It was very, everyone was obsessed with this idea that the justice system got it wrong.
00:03:39.520 We kind of went in, re-examined the case and created Convicting a Murderer, which is a
00:03:44.660 10-part series, first docu-series I think we've ever done at the Daily Wire.
00:03:48.580 I'm extremely proud of it.
00:03:50.020 It's apolitical first and foremost.
00:03:52.140 And it's, you know, it's been a labor of love.
00:03:55.520 So I'm super excited to bring it to everybody and to change people's minds about what they
00:03:59.540 thought they originally knew about the case.
00:04:01.240 So, yeah.
00:04:02.700 And you went, if I, you went boots on the ground in, was it Manitowoc County?
00:04:08.560 Went to Stephen Avery's.
00:04:10.220 The junkyard.
00:04:11.420 The junkyard.
00:04:11.920 Yep.
00:04:12.340 And, yeah, just, I like to get my hands dirty in terms of really understanding what's going
00:04:17.320 on and talking to people in the town and seeing how they are impacted.
00:04:20.720 Because for us, we scroll through our cell phones aimlessly and we comment on these cases.
00:04:25.580 But real lives are impacted when something goes viral and especially when something goes
00:04:29.000 viral and produces the wrong answer.
00:04:30.840 Lives can be destroyed.
00:04:32.340 And in this particular circumstance, you have a man and his nephew that are in prison and
00:04:35.980 they get love letters and they've got fiancés and adoring fans and people writing songs
00:04:40.180 about them.
00:04:40.800 And that's all because Netflix was able to produce a docu-series and people believe that
00:04:45.660 everything they watch is real.
00:04:47.680 And so I'm really interested in dissecting the deceptive media narrative in a bunch of
00:04:53.100 different circumstances.
00:04:54.260 Just, you know, what they're feeding people, what people think is the norm, what people
00:04:58.260 think will bring them happiness, what people think is true.
00:05:00.580 And so that's kind of been my schtick, so to speak, for the last 10 years.
00:05:05.260 I remember seeing Making a Murder when it came out, I think it was 2015.
00:05:09.980 Correct.
00:05:10.560 And then they came out with like a part two a couple years later.
00:05:13.960 And basically, my understanding is your documentary is saying, nah, he did that shit.
00:05:19.620 Is that about...
00:05:21.520 And that's the most eloquent way to put it.
00:05:22.940 I mean, there's obviously, you go into some details and you've reanalyzed the court footage
00:05:29.380 and the documents and...
00:05:31.260 Yeah, just showing people what they didn't want you to see, essentially.
00:05:34.320 Because when people decide in a narrative, the media gets fully behind it.
00:05:37.920 It's a full court effort.
00:05:39.440 It's supported by the usual pundits and suspects.
00:05:42.800 Alec Baldwin got behind the Stephen Avery innocent train.
00:05:45.780 Nobody thought about the woman who actually was killed and murdered.
00:05:48.120 Trevor Noah got behind it.
00:05:49.340 You know, I kind of say anything that goes from Netflix to Alec Baldwin to Trevor Noah,
00:05:53.240 you should immediately have your radar up and just go, am I hearing the truth?
00:05:57.060 Or am I listening to propaganda?
00:05:59.100 And I'm fascinated by the impact of propaganda.
00:06:01.340 I've been impacted by propaganda.
00:06:03.120 You know, I'm obviously a person that started with liberal tendencies.
00:06:06.640 I think everyone knows that part of my story.
00:06:09.080 I was left-leaning, so to speak.
00:06:11.480 And now I'm super conservative.
00:06:13.760 So it's right on par with everything that I do and everything that I've learned in my life
00:06:17.840 about, you know, not just accepting what the media is trying to spoon-feed you.
00:06:23.340 One question, so, and I don't know if you want to save some of this for what's in the
00:06:27.600 actual documentary, but what would you say is, like, the most egregious thing making a
00:06:33.460 murderer did that they just either, something that was deceptive or something that was omitted,
00:06:38.240 if there's one thing that was just the biggest smoking gun?
00:06:41.600 Yeah, well, I think I can definitely tell you this because this will be, within the next
00:06:44.600 24 hours, people will be able to see this.
00:06:46.140 But just skipping over who he was before he, they believed, was wrongly convicted of this
00:06:52.820 murder, people tend to tell you who they are early on.
00:06:55.620 And a person that's torturing animals and cats and dogs and, you know, in a relationship that
00:07:02.900 is, you know, with a minor who's crying and talking about that.
00:07:06.840 You know, he just had a very long, thick packet of crimes that they decided not to mention or to
00:07:11.840 entirely diminish and make it seem like, oh, that was nothing.
00:07:15.020 Yeah, so what?
00:07:15.600 He threw a cat in the fire and doused it in gasoline, the family pet.
00:07:19.940 And not normal behavior, not something that we do when we have a couple of drinks.
00:07:23.700 And I think that was kind of the most egregious thing, really unpacking everything that they
00:07:27.980 chose to leave out about who he was.
00:07:30.020 Can I make a pitch to you and to the Daily Wire for the next documentary?
00:07:34.620 Can you guys look into the Tiger King?
00:07:38.800 Could you guys maybe put Matt Walsh and Michael Knowles on it?
00:07:42.420 Oh my God, Matt Walsh and the Tiger King needs to happen.
00:07:44.940 I'm fully behind you on this pitch.
00:07:46.800 Yes.
00:07:47.280 I will bring this to the right people who can make the right decisions.
00:07:50.200 Please, please.
00:07:50.520 Can I get like a little special thanks in the...
00:07:52.620 Matt Walsh and the Tiger King is irresistible.
00:07:56.560 Do you think that Matt Walsh would be the best at the Daily Wire to tackle the...
00:08:01.760 Yes.
00:08:02.060 Okay.
00:08:02.560 There's just something about the fact that Matt's a cat and he always kind of gives you
00:08:06.480 the impression that he doesn't want to be there and he just has to kind of lecture us
00:08:08.960 all.
00:08:09.440 Like he's like the classic dad.
00:08:11.140 Right, right, right.
00:08:11.500 And I just find him to be so funny even when he's not trying to be funny.
00:08:14.760 Okay.
00:08:15.140 Yeah.
00:08:15.480 Nice.
00:08:16.580 Nice.
00:08:17.240 Cool.
00:08:17.480 Well, we'll go around the table once more.
00:08:20.100 So what is your, everybody's current relationship status?
00:08:24.900 So are you single?
00:08:27.080 Are you in the talking stage, situationship, friends with benefits, relationship, married,
00:08:32.200 polycule?
00:08:33.900 Are you, whatever, maybe.
00:08:35.860 So if you're single, how long have you been single?
00:08:38.360 And what's your longest relationship?
00:08:40.500 Starting with you, go ahead.
00:08:42.140 I'm in a relationship.
00:08:43.320 I have been for about a year and a half.
00:08:45.260 And my longest relationship is two years.
00:08:48.520 Okay.
00:08:51.700 I am single.
00:08:52.660 And my longest relationship was probably about four years.
00:08:56.820 How long have you been single?
00:08:59.280 I've been single for about, I want to say a year now.
00:09:04.320 Okay.
00:09:06.020 I'm single.
00:09:07.640 My longest relationship was like around three to four years.
00:09:11.180 And I've been single since like February around there.
00:09:15.260 Okay.
00:09:16.620 I'm single.
00:09:17.740 Um, I've been single for six years almost now, so.
00:09:22.620 Since you were pretty much 18, you've been single?
00:09:25.060 Right.
00:09:25.300 Okay.
00:09:25.620 Gotcha.
00:09:27.220 Has, did you have like a high school boyfriend or anything like that or?
00:09:30.820 Yeah, I think I dated two guys in high school, but it was very brief.
00:09:33.600 At the same time?
00:09:34.660 No, definitely not.
00:09:35.400 Oh, separately.
00:09:35.520 Okay.
00:09:36.300 Okay.
00:09:36.700 Okay.
00:09:36.780 Gotcha.
00:09:37.480 What about you?
00:09:38.200 So I just got out of a relationship of six months with a federal agent and I am single.
00:09:44.180 Ready to mingle.
00:09:45.160 Federal agents.
00:09:46.220 Yeah.
00:09:46.440 CIA, FBI, Coast Guard.
00:09:50.140 Oh, wait, that's not it.
00:09:50.920 Nevermind.
00:09:51.540 Federal agent down in Texas.
00:09:54.700 So, yeah.
00:09:55.480 Got it.
00:09:57.060 Um, and what's your longest relationship you've ever had?
00:09:59.740 Um, I would say seven years.
00:10:03.620 Seven years.
00:10:04.260 Were you married or?
00:10:05.480 I was.
00:10:06.000 Okay.
00:10:06.320 Gotcha.
00:10:07.700 All right.
00:10:09.320 I'm currently single.
00:10:10.820 My longest relationship was a little over a year and I've been single for about one year.
00:10:16.440 Um, I just started talking to somebody a couple of weeks ago, but I guess I'm single and my
00:10:24.440 longest relationship was about three years.
00:10:27.740 Wait, sorry.
00:10:28.500 You, you just started talking to somebody, but you're.
00:10:31.680 I'm, I've been single since February, 2022.
00:10:34.840 And so this is, it's really fresh.
00:10:37.780 Okay.
00:10:38.200 I would still consider myself single.
00:10:39.260 It's early on.
00:10:39.860 Okay.
00:10:40.820 Uh, Candace.
00:10:41.860 I'm married.
00:10:42.500 I'm married.
00:10:43.120 Third child on the way.
00:10:44.660 Third child will be here in 10 weeks.
00:10:46.700 Oh, you're pregnant right now.
00:10:47.620 Yes.
00:10:47.960 Are you kidding me?
00:10:48.440 Very pregnant right now.
00:10:49.460 Okay.
00:10:49.740 Uh, but it's good of you not to assume, right?
00:10:52.060 Yeah.
00:10:52.220 I don't want to, I don't want to, yeah, I don't want to get into any trouble.
00:10:56.180 Um, you're how far along?
00:10:58.860 30 weeks.
00:10:59.760 30.
00:11:00.160 Oh, wow.
00:11:00.580 Okay.
00:11:00.940 Yeah.
00:11:01.620 Any thoughts on the, is it a boy?
00:11:03.940 Thoughts on whether it's a boy?
00:11:05.080 No, I have a biological understanding that it's a boy.
00:11:08.780 Okay.
00:11:08.980 Um, no, I didn't mean it that way.
00:11:12.020 I didn't mean it that way.
00:11:12.640 It's definitively a boy and, uh, I have one boy already at home who's two and I have a
00:11:19.220 little girl that's one.
00:11:20.660 So we're on the back to, I've basically been pregnant for three years.
00:11:23.500 So this is kind of my permanent state at the moment.
00:11:25.940 Yeah.
00:11:26.680 Wow.
00:11:26.940 I mean, it's, yeah, congrats.
00:11:28.520 And, uh, it's certainly impressive that you still, uh, are, you're working like crazy
00:11:33.620 and, uh, yeah.
00:11:34.460 Well, otherwise you'll just drive yourself crazy.
00:11:36.500 Yeah.
00:11:37.820 Sweet.
00:11:38.440 Um, and how long have you been married for?
00:11:40.320 Four years.
00:11:41.120 Four years.
00:11:41.760 Gotcha.
00:11:42.640 Okay.
00:11:43.800 And you, you said, um, earlier on that you used to be kind of left-leaning or super left-leaning?
00:11:52.840 Definitely left-leaning.
00:11:53.840 Okay.
00:11:54.200 Yeah.
00:11:54.820 Which I think is pretty.
00:11:55.420 Like nose ring, pink hair?
00:11:56.300 No, no, there's no, there's no old photos that are going to surface of me in a pussy hat
00:12:00.260 screaming about aborting my children.
00:12:02.720 I'm safe in that regard.
00:12:04.080 But, um, I mean, I would say, uh, I was definitely on the left, held liberal perspectives, which I think
00:12:10.660 is actually really normal when you're young.
00:12:13.060 I think when you're young, you kind of associate liberalism with freedom and you're like, well,
00:12:17.460 I mean, even the word sounds better to be a liberal than to be a conservative.
00:12:20.280 Um, so I, I think that's, that's why they have that quote that if you're not a liberal, when
00:12:25.440 you're young, you don't have a heart.
00:12:26.560 If you're not a conservative, when you're older, you don't have a brain.
00:12:28.860 So it turns out I had a heart and I do have a brain.
00:12:30.760 Uh, so now I'm a conservative and, um, but I, I'm actually happy that I used to be a liberal
00:12:37.040 because I, I think I understand why people gravitate toward it and, uh, it helps me better
00:12:43.800 able to communicate to people because I can understand where they're at.
00:12:46.760 Got it.
00:12:47.660 And since, uh, we, I feel like politics is sort of related to dating because obviously you
00:12:54.880 want, I assume most people want to date and partner with someone who has shared values.
00:13:00.220 So let's go around the table.
00:13:01.820 What's everybody's politics?
00:13:03.320 Would you consider yourself, let's say liberal, moderate, conservative, apolitical?
00:13:10.300 I mean, I guess I would have liberal stances or what people would call liberal stances.
00:13:14.060 I don't like to call myself a liberal, but that would be where I guess.
00:13:18.680 Progressive would be a good word for it.
00:13:21.160 Yeah.
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00:14:22.060 I guess liberal.
00:14:28.640 Okay.
00:14:29.200 More liberal.
00:14:30.400 Okay.
00:14:31.280 I consider myself a progressive.
00:14:34.560 Okay.
00:14:36.000 I would say I'm an independent where it's like in between.
00:14:40.860 But kind of more so leading right just based off of how I was raised.
00:14:47.280 How were you raised?
00:14:48.720 Super conservative.
00:14:50.000 Super religious.
00:14:51.840 Okay.
00:14:52.120 So maybe moderate politically.
00:14:55.860 Maybe.
00:14:56.640 Are there some things you're a bit more progressive on?
00:15:00.040 Other things you're a bit more conservative on?
00:15:01.580 Yeah.
00:15:01.800 Okay.
00:15:02.760 What about you?
00:15:03.180 So when I started out in my early 20s, I can relate to Candace.
00:15:08.020 I was a little bit more on the left.
00:15:10.080 And then as time has gone on and I've worked real jobs and I've been out in the real world,
00:15:15.140 I'm more to the right.
00:15:16.540 I am independent and I don't like our two-party system.
00:15:20.000 I think it's failed.
00:15:20.700 But I would say I lean more to the right.
00:15:25.100 Okay.
00:15:27.360 I was raised very liberal, but I found myself becoming more conservative, especially over
00:15:32.380 the past three years.
00:15:33.260 But I wouldn't fully call myself a conservative yet.
00:15:35.020 I would just say I'm still centrist.
00:15:37.400 Good place to be.
00:15:40.200 Same.
00:15:40.700 I used to be pretty liberal, but I am very, very conservative.
00:15:44.140 Oh, you already answered.
00:15:48.140 Okay.
00:15:49.120 Okay.
00:15:49.580 Cool.
00:15:50.460 All right.
00:15:51.420 So I have a first question here.
00:15:54.120 So I'm trying to hold on.
00:15:59.880 I'm seeing where I want to start here.
00:16:01.020 Actually, wait, we had one chat come in.
00:16:02.760 I'll just read it while we have it.
00:16:03.700 Goodness, boy.
00:16:04.480 Thank you for being on the show, Candace, but the world is effed.
00:16:07.240 Can already tell from the panel that your views will not change their outlook.
00:16:10.160 Never say never.
00:16:11.180 Brian, you could be an amazing psyoper.
00:16:14.400 Just saying.
00:16:15.820 I've had a couple accusations that this show is a psyop.
00:16:19.520 By the CIA, believe it or not.
00:16:21.480 I've had a couple.
00:16:22.280 You have any show that is an accusation that you get.
00:16:24.880 Have you had any?
00:16:25.780 Oh, my God.
00:16:26.060 Yeah.
00:16:27.500 Candace Owens' show is a psyop.
00:16:29.660 By who, though?
00:16:30.720 Who is psyoping?
00:16:32.360 Okay.
00:16:33.500 But Goodest Boy, thank you very much for that.
00:16:36.520 And then we had a couple.
00:16:39.060 We had this one.
00:16:40.400 Seven deadly simps donated $200.
00:16:42.700 Nick, can you boost the audio a little?
00:16:43.920 Dear Candace, what are your thoughts on Proverbs 2119?
00:16:48.520 Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife.
00:16:52.540 Also, 777 decillion 777.
00:16:57.080 No, million, seven hundred and seventy.
00:16:59.580 Why?
00:16:59.960 What is that?
00:17:02.020 He's just kind of a joke.
00:17:04.260 He's kind of memeing.
00:17:05.000 I don't know.
00:17:05.740 Because the TTS voice will read anything.
00:17:10.860 Quadrillion, seven hundred and seventy-seven quadrillion.
00:17:11.860 But so, thank you, seven deadly simps.
00:17:14.820 Seven hundred and seventy-seven billion seven hundred and seventy-seven thousand seven hundred and seventy-seven thousand seven hundred and seventy-seven.
00:17:21.880 Welcome to the whatever podcast.
00:17:25.320 So, your thoughts on Proverbs 2119?
00:17:28.000 I like that we just jumped right into the Bible.
00:17:30.500 That's awesome.
00:17:30.940 Yeah, there you go.
00:17:31.460 I would say, yeah, you should aspire to marry the right person.
00:17:35.200 Definitely.
00:17:35.940 Okay.
00:17:36.860 Without question, you should aspire to marry the right person.
00:17:40.300 And part of that is making sure that when you're dating, you're dating somebody of value.
00:17:45.780 And that also, when you're considering looking for someone of value, you also take a second to measure yourself and see if you are a person of value that's worthy of marrying.
00:17:54.400 Because I think people forget that part.
00:17:56.660 And that's almost the most important part.
00:17:58.940 Got it.
00:17:59.440 So, recently, a video went pretty viral on the Internet.
00:18:03.700 And, Candice, you actually tweeted about it.
00:18:05.500 Something about Shashuka.
00:18:07.140 I don't know if I'm saying that right.
00:18:09.120 So, Nick, if you can pull up the video, we're going to just have the panel react to it.
00:18:12.000 And then, before you go full screen on that, so, Matt Walsh posted it.
00:18:15.600 And I saw this everywhere.
00:18:16.900 I saw it yesterday.
00:18:18.240 Her life doesn't revolve around her family and kids.
00:18:20.680 So, instead, it revolves around TV shows and pop stars.
00:18:23.660 Worst of all, she's too stupid to realize how depressing this is.
00:18:27.480 And then, Candice, quote, X'd it.
00:18:31.100 Quote tweeted.
00:18:31.700 I don't know anymore.
00:18:32.400 X'd it.
00:18:32.900 Okay.
00:18:33.540 Quote X'd it.
00:18:34.700 This is what was future.
00:18:38.000 Wait.
00:18:38.340 This is what was.
00:18:39.840 This is what a future.
00:18:40.600 This is what a future.
00:18:42.420 Sorry.
00:18:43.340 Future depression, Xanax, and wine combo nights alone looks like.
00:18:47.340 But, hey, the Shashuka.
00:18:49.500 That's going to be amazing.
00:18:51.160 So, let's play the video.
00:18:53.120 Nick, if you can go full screen on it.
00:18:54.880 And then, we'll get the panel's reaction.
00:18:56.460 Xanax wine nights.
00:18:58.180 It's 10.45 a.m. on a Saturday.
00:19:00.180 I'm 29 and single, and I don't have kids yet.
00:19:02.900 Here's what your Saturday morning looks like when you're single at 29 and you don't have a kid running around the house.
00:19:08.940 I didn't rise from my bed until 10.15.
00:19:11.780 Every time I thought, I should probably get up and do something, I thought, why?
00:19:15.420 Nobody's making me.
00:19:16.360 I'm not missing out on anything.
00:19:17.740 I went to Beyonce last night, and I didn't get home until 1 a.m., and I danced and drank my little heart out, and I didn't pay a babysitter to watch my kids as I did that.
00:19:25.400 And I woke up a tad hungover this morning, which is probably why I was in bed for so long.
00:19:29.260 And I was just scrolling on my phone, and I saw a picture of Shashuka, and I thought, you know what sounds really good?
00:19:34.500 Maybe I'm going to learn how to make Shashuka today.
00:19:36.760 Because I have no plans, and I don't have kids, and I don't have a husband, and I don't have errands to run.
00:19:41.700 I can go to the grocery store and learn how to make Shashuka, so that's on my agenda today.
00:19:45.960 Also on my agenda, probably a rewatch of some Real Housewives of New York.
00:19:49.320 I'm also doing a rewatch of Normal People on Hulu, which is really spicy and I highly recommend.
00:19:53.920 Weirdly, I'm into this documentary on Netflix about Blue Zone countries, so I've got a pretty stacked day.
00:19:58.960 Anyway, I say all this to say, whenever I'm hard on myself about why I'm not married, and I don't have kids,
00:20:04.640 and I should be further along at 29, almost 30, I wouldn't want to do anything else this Saturday.
00:20:10.500 I know that you can do all these things when you have kids, and you're married, and I understand.
00:20:15.820 But the effortlessness and ease of my life, just kind of focusing on myself,
00:20:20.660 and the Shashuka I want to make, or the Beyonce concert I want to go to, really pays off when
00:20:26.520 I'm hard on myself for not being where society tells me I should be in life.
00:20:31.240 I thought it was going to be really her going,
00:20:33.760 Sha, Sha, Sha.
00:20:36.160 So, what, why do you guys think that this video went kind of crazy viral, and what's the analysis here?
00:20:44.500 I mean, it went crazy viral because Matt Walsh tweeted it, let's be real.
00:20:48.960 That would have just gone into the ethosphere on TikTok, and no one would have talked about it
00:20:53.380 had he not picked that up and tweeted it.
00:20:55.440 Well, was Matt, I don't know if Matt Walsh was, like, the first person.
00:20:58.140 He was.
00:20:58.340 Oh, was he? Really? Okay, I didn't, I didn't know that.
00:21:01.460 But, I guess my, what's interesting to me is that this woman has actually even said, you know,
00:21:08.160 she gives herself a hard time.
00:21:09.740 She wants to be married.
00:21:10.920 She wants to have children.
00:21:11.840 So, I don't think that it's right to demonize her and act like she's going to have a depressing life
00:21:15.980 when she just hasn't found the right person because, clearly, she wants those things,
00:21:19.280 and she's trying to make herself feel better, and other people in that community feel better
00:21:22.960 about not being that far along.
00:21:24.900 Because, like you said, you wanted people to settle down with the right person,
00:21:28.640 take their time, figure out if that's the right person.
00:21:31.040 So, just because she's 29, you're saying that it's, like, too late for her,
00:21:33.740 and she's going to be doing Xanax and drinking wine at night because she hasn't reached that point yet.
00:21:37.560 I didn't say that. That's not what my tweet said.
00:21:40.220 That's not what my tweet said.
00:21:40.760 You said the future.
00:21:41.420 Yeah, because she's obviously a narcissist, right?
00:21:45.400 Why would you think that?
00:21:46.220 First and foremost, let's not pretend this is one video that she made.
00:21:49.180 It's her brand on TikTok.
00:21:50.540 It's her brand on social media.
00:21:52.320 She talks about these are this community known as Dinks.
00:21:55.100 We're happy and we're childless.
00:21:56.460 She talks about how great it is to be childless.
00:21:58.020 So, she has developed a social media influencer that talks about childlessness.
00:22:01.940 So, let's not pretend this is one woman making a video who just said,
00:22:04.680 oh, I had a great Saturday.
00:22:06.140 There's absolutely no reason if you had a great Saturday at 29 years old,
00:22:09.420 and you learned to make shashuka, and you slept in at 11, until 11, 15, or 10, 15, whatever she said,
00:22:15.120 that you need to bring up children.
00:22:16.580 There's absolutely no reason.
00:22:17.440 You just say, here's what I did today.
00:22:18.600 I laid in all day.
00:22:19.880 I did this.
00:22:20.820 I did that.
00:22:21.800 The fact that she has to correlate it to saying,
00:22:24.400 and this somehow makes me better than people that have children is the problem.
00:22:27.460 She started, she literally goes on to talk about not having children.
00:22:32.080 It wasn't necessary in this video.
00:22:33.380 So, it's not like people are just shaming single women on the internet.
00:22:35.580 You could go on right now and talk about what you've done all day,
00:22:38.580 and there's no reason to bring up having a child or not.
00:22:42.300 She's actually doing the shaming, and now we're trying to pretend that she's the victim.
00:22:45.840 She's not.
00:22:46.380 She has a brand where she talks about childlessness,
00:22:48.980 and she talks about leaning into selfishness,
00:22:50.680 and all the things that are amazing about not having children.
00:22:53.260 Again, this is not the first video that she's produced.
00:22:55.680 So, the reason why, and if you're a man watching this, don't marry this woman.
00:22:59.460 She's basically telling you she's selfish.
00:23:01.440 She's telling you she's a narcissist.
00:23:02.940 Everything she says is about me, me, me, me.
00:23:04.980 Even if you're single, you don't have to make your whole day revolve around you.
00:23:07.960 You don't have to.
00:23:08.760 You can get up in the morning.
00:23:09.940 You can go help others.
00:23:10.860 You can do other things.
00:23:12.180 You can say, now that I have free time as a single woman,
00:23:14.800 I can go dedicate time to the church.
00:23:16.900 I can sing.
00:23:18.100 I can do this.
00:23:19.040 I can help people find God.
00:23:20.720 That particular woman that you just looked at is a selfish bitch,
00:23:23.260 and men should not marry her.
00:23:25.020 That's my personal opinion.
00:23:26.240 You wanted to come in really quick?
00:23:27.380 Yes.
00:23:27.800 I wanted to answer your question real quick as to you said why it went viral.
00:23:32.380 I think it went viral because it's like nowadays it's like it's relatable in our day and age.
00:23:42.380 You know what I mean?
00:23:42.980 Like 22, 23 years old.
00:23:44.960 I don't know how old this girl is, but like 29 or whatever.
00:23:48.960 But in my day and age, like it's relatable to be like, ha ha, we don't got kids.
00:23:54.160 Like quote unquote fuck them kids.
00:23:56.280 You know what I mean?
00:23:56.800 It's like.
00:23:57.480 I'm glad you're admitting that.
00:23:58.380 It's like that.
00:23:58.940 I'm glad you're admitting that.
00:23:59.940 It's like a term that people use.
00:24:01.940 You know what I mean?
00:24:02.660 And it's like, it's just relatable.
00:24:05.820 Like that's why it gets so many views is what to answer your question.
00:24:09.720 I think that's really honest of you to say that.
00:24:11.520 You want them to come and go.
00:24:13.340 Fuck them kids.
00:24:14.100 Yeah.
00:24:14.380 No, I said quote unquote.
00:24:15.660 That's what they say.
00:24:16.560 Yeah.
00:24:16.800 But you're admitting that that so that she's starting the fight.
00:24:19.580 You're looking at people that are moms.
00:24:20.840 That are trending.
00:24:21.400 I don't, when I, when I'm with my kids, I don't post videos and say F them single chicks
00:24:26.660 with no kids.
00:24:27.380 Right.
00:24:27.700 She did the baiting.
00:24:29.080 Okay.
00:24:29.480 And we responded.
00:24:30.740 That's it.
00:24:31.060 I don't know.
00:24:31.460 Like it's a new trend.
00:24:32.180 The first thing I was going to say.
00:24:32.940 Hold on.
00:24:33.220 Let's just let Essie go ahead.
00:24:34.520 Go ahead.
00:24:34.640 The first thing I noticed about the video was that she was putting people with kids down.
00:24:39.180 It'd be fine if she was talking about how her day was and sporting it differently,
00:24:42.340 but it seemed like almost immediately from the beginning of the video that she was belittling
00:24:45.800 people with kids, which I think is like the part of the problem.
00:24:48.880 Pixie, go ahead.
00:24:49.700 Yeah, no, I think this is like up to interpretation because personally, when I saw that video,
00:24:54.340 my interpretation was like, oh, she's putting herself down because she's saying like, oh,
00:24:58.440 you know, when I tell myself, why am I not further along in life?
00:25:01.780 You know, it's okay because at least I'm enjoying these things.
00:25:04.500 So I could definitely see like, depending on how you're looking at it, or if you have
00:25:08.060 further context, why you would think she's putting kids down.
00:25:10.900 But when I saw that video by itself, I was thinking like, people are kind of going a little
00:25:14.660 bit overboard in the sense that she says she's being harsh on herself.
00:25:18.680 She doesn't have children.
00:25:19.860 And these are just the things that have made her happy today.
00:25:22.820 And I don't think that by itself without additional context is inherently wrong.
00:25:29.080 Anybody?
00:25:29.740 Tara, did you?
00:25:30.460 Yeah.
00:25:30.840 Did I say it right this time?
00:25:31.720 Yeah.
00:25:32.020 Okay.
00:25:32.340 Okay.
00:25:32.440 I mean, I don't know the background of what other types of content and messaging she puts
00:25:37.400 out, but just from that video alone, I don't think she ever, to me, I never got the impression
00:25:42.560 she was shaming people that did, that women that were married had kids.
00:25:45.780 It felt like she felt bad that she wasn't already there and she was just trying to be
00:25:48.880 optimistic about it.
00:25:50.800 And so I think it sounded more like her content was about making women who are childless and
00:25:56.380 not married yet and are approaching the end of their reproductive years to like look on
00:26:00.940 the bright side.
00:26:02.040 But I really, and I'm the, I, all my friends know I'm like so eager and ready for like marriage
00:26:07.880 and kids, but, um, I, I really honestly just didn't get that impression from that video
00:26:12.200 alone that it was, she was in any way.
00:26:14.000 So when she was talking about, I got to go to a Beyonce concert and I didn't have to pay
00:26:17.260 for a babysitter.
00:26:18.140 You don't think that was the little, it's so, she was obviously, she was selfish of her
00:26:21.220 to say that.
00:26:21.680 Yeah.
00:26:22.020 She's being selfish and she was being rude.
00:26:24.360 And if it was flipped and a conservative woman with children said the opposite of that
00:26:28.640 to single women, it would blow up.
00:26:30.160 It would blow up.
00:26:30.880 And they would say, how rude of you to, why are you even mentioning single women?
00:26:33.320 Just say you had, you had a good day with your kids.
00:26:35.200 That's fine.
00:26:35.540 And I feel like nowadays it's like, okay, chill.
00:26:39.560 Why are you correlating it to children?
00:26:41.440 It doesn't, you know, it doesn't make any sense.
00:26:42.680 So, and like I said, she's produced more content so that the context is important.
00:26:46.880 She's leaned into this as a brand and as an influencer.
00:26:49.460 So, you know, then you're going to expect the people that influence people to have families
00:26:52.560 to respond, Matt Walsh being among them, me being among them.
00:26:55.920 And I do would like to, again, mourn men against marrying a woman who holds those sorts of
00:27:00.920 perspectives because she's ultimately just selfish.
00:27:03.020 Like I said, you can have a day and you can be single.
00:27:05.920 You don't have to dedicate your whole, it's me, me, me, me, narcissist, me.
00:27:09.100 Here's what I did for me.
00:27:10.400 It's just not a woman that you want to marry full stop for leaving apart, leaving the kids
00:27:14.740 totally separate from it.
00:27:16.080 I wouldn't marry a woman like that.
00:27:17.400 Go ahead.
00:27:17.960 And all I'm saying is like, it is, it's sad, but it's crazy that like, it's a trend.
00:27:23.000 You know what I mean?
00:27:23.500 Like, that's why they're getting so many views on TikTok or Instagram or whatever they're
00:27:28.380 posting these things on.
00:27:29.940 It's like, it's a trend.
00:27:31.980 And yeah, you know, it's crazy.
00:27:34.860 Just a show of hands.
00:27:36.180 Who here wants to have kids one day?
00:27:39.060 More?
00:27:39.500 Yeah.
00:27:39.880 It's my third, but.
00:27:43.000 Besides Candice, does anyone here have kids?
00:27:45.820 I do.
00:27:46.260 You got kids?
00:27:46.800 How many?
00:27:47.320 I have a son.
00:27:48.680 He's 21.
00:27:49.600 Okay.
00:27:50.060 Gotcha.
00:27:50.620 He's perfect.
00:27:51.700 And I'm good.
00:27:52.920 Okay.
00:27:53.540 But one thing I notice, a trend, like I agree that it's a trend and she's doing that to
00:27:59.460 brand herself and go viral and get a lot of attention and maybe monetize that.
00:28:04.360 When I talk with other girls and they're younger and I'll say, are you married?
00:28:08.680 Are you planning on having children?
00:28:11.080 Sometimes that's a hot button for them.
00:28:13.060 And it's maybe perhaps, you know, these kind of trends are like the, it's a rebellious
00:28:19.420 thing because sometimes it's expected for, for people to, to get married out of the gate
00:28:25.140 and have children and that kind of traditional lifestyle.
00:28:28.100 If it's an expectation that parents have that they put on, on their children and younger
00:28:32.940 generations aren't having it, especially these days when it's so hard to, I mean, it's
00:28:38.200 so expensive.
00:28:38.780 People are having to work a lot, you know, I mean, that's just one thing I've noticed.
00:28:43.060 A little pushback on that question, even when I ask it.
00:28:46.020 And, and I love children.
00:28:47.800 Gotcha.
00:28:48.320 And did, I don't recall if you had a response to Candace or.
00:28:53.520 I mean, I was just going to say the opposite content does exist.
00:28:55.960 And I would say that it's more prevalent and usually there's more of it than there is the
00:29:00.820 opposite.
00:29:01.520 And whatever community she wants to represent, I think that somebody that is single and
00:29:05.480 obviously, like I said, she closed out the video saying, I know that women that are married
00:29:09.460 and have children can do all of these things as well, but this is what makes me feel better
00:29:12.760 because I'm not that far along.
00:29:14.520 And I think if she's giving comfort and solace to women that want to be in that position and
00:29:18.080 aren't quite there yet, whether you took it that way or not, I think that that's okay.
00:29:22.320 I don't think anything that she did in there was meant to be charitable.
00:29:24.780 It was all about her.
00:29:25.700 So, I mean, just a different, different interpretation.
00:29:28.140 But I'm just happy that you were honest and admitted that it is becoming trendy to put down
00:29:32.060 women.
00:29:32.540 It's like, yeah.
00:29:33.300 Yeah.
00:29:33.580 And, but by the way, speaking to what you were saying about it being an act of rebellion,
00:29:37.640 I used to be a feminist.
00:29:38.820 If you had found me, you're 22, right?
00:29:40.620 Found me at 22.
00:29:41.440 I would have probably had the same perspectives as you about family.
00:29:45.360 It is something different.
00:29:46.300 And you will realize that when it's someone that's 29 years old and saying that it's not
00:29:50.280 the same intention.
00:29:51.020 It's not, I'm young, I'm free, I'm wild, and I think I'm going to live forever.
00:29:54.400 What she's doing is something different.
00:29:56.420 And also just recently today, actually, Emily, Emma, Emma Roderick-Jakowski came out with a
00:30:01.540 quote about, I think getting divorced before you're 30 is chic.
00:30:04.440 That's something else.
00:30:05.500 And that a woman at 22, a woman at 29 saying something that is appropriate when you're at
00:30:11.180 21 or 22, it's a little different.
00:30:13.180 And she knew what she was doing.
00:30:14.360 It was intentional.
00:30:15.320 And like I said, if you look into our content, this is not some innocent woman that was posting
00:30:19.020 just to boost herself up on the internet.
00:30:20.880 She's trying to get clicks.
00:30:22.000 She's trying to get views.
00:30:22.840 And she got them, for better or worse.
00:30:26.200 I want to come back a little bit now to people's relationship status.
00:30:33.500 So, or not even so much relationship status, but perhaps it's related.
00:30:37.500 So, both of you do court, courtship, courtship, courtesan, that's an old-fashioned historical
00:30:50.980 term.
00:30:51.760 Okay.
00:30:51.920 Back in the day, courtesans were able to own property, whereas the Little Miss didn't
00:30:58.660 have that ability, the way the laws were written back in the day of ancient years.
00:31:04.280 Like, the wife was toddlerized.
00:31:07.160 And then the courtesans were able to go and attend the meetings with the politicians and
00:31:13.220 the business owners and actually state their case and be influential.
00:31:17.300 But, okay, so I'm just trying to differentiate here because courtesan, that's, when I think
00:31:24.180 of it, I think of people who are in the court, typically, there's a kingdom.
00:31:30.460 There's a kingdom, there's a monarch, and there's, you know, maybe some of them are dukes, maybe.
00:31:37.240 It's from that era.
00:31:38.420 There's viceroys.
00:31:39.840 There's some viceroys in there.
00:31:42.060 There's a couple of, I don't know, some other terms.
00:31:46.100 Lords.
00:31:47.460 Lords, ladies.
00:31:49.400 But, okay, so you guys work in Nevada, is that correct?
00:31:53.540 In, what's the place that you guys work at?
00:31:56.320 There's different brothels.
00:31:57.580 The Bunny Ranch, I've been at the Bunny Ranch.
00:32:00.120 We've both been there.
00:32:01.280 We've both worked at the world-famous Mustang.
00:32:04.240 Okay.
00:32:05.300 Those are more normal.
00:32:05.960 Oh, so you guys both don't work there, or you don't work there anymore.
00:32:08.900 Do you still work at the, what is it called, the Bunny Ranch?
00:32:11.440 So, hold on.
00:32:12.600 We're independent contractors.
00:32:14.500 Take your time.
00:32:15.260 So, like, when we're on tour, we contract ourselves out, you know, with whomever.
00:32:22.160 Okay.
00:32:22.520 So that might change.
00:32:23.840 Sure.
00:32:24.080 So, a couple questions here.
00:32:26.340 So, I don't know, maybe it's changed throughout the course of your life, but how many, maybe
00:32:33.660 you see men, maybe you see women, how many per day or per week, do you call them clients?
00:32:39.540 What do you call them?
00:32:40.440 Tricks?
00:32:40.940 Clients, friends.
00:32:41.960 No, not tricks.
00:32:42.520 Marks?
00:32:43.600 No.
00:32:44.200 No?
00:32:44.540 Okay.
00:32:44.800 I don't know.
00:32:45.240 I don't know the terminology.
00:32:46.520 I'm not in the world.
00:32:47.060 I mean, some providers may, but they're not maybe the most respectful.
00:32:50.760 I like to deem them friends as soon as I get to know them.
00:32:54.600 And we are, like, friends.
00:32:56.600 Sometimes we're, like, married couples.
00:32:58.320 But it can be, it depends.
00:33:01.900 Anywhere from, like, two to three a day, that's a lot.
00:33:06.560 Two to three a day.
00:33:07.140 Maybe five a week.
00:33:08.540 Okay.
00:33:09.700 What about you?
00:33:12.100 So, anywhere between two to three.
00:33:16.840 Oh, sorry.
00:33:17.580 It's fine.
00:33:17.880 Anywhere between two to three.
00:33:19.280 Okay.
00:33:20.200 And sometimes four or five, depending on.
00:33:23.860 Sure.
00:33:24.360 Per day.
00:33:25.060 Yes.
00:33:25.820 Do you know what the most is in one day?
00:33:29.520 Like, was there one day of this?
00:33:30.640 It always fluctuates.
00:33:31.740 Okay.
00:33:32.120 Is there ever, like, a ten?
00:33:33.840 A dozen?
00:33:35.180 I don't, yes.
00:33:35.960 I mean, yeah.
00:33:37.060 Baker's Cousin?
00:33:37.540 It can, it can happen.
00:33:40.600 Sure.
00:33:40.800 I don't personally do that.
00:33:41.940 When, coming off the heels of Dennis Hoff's cat house, there were, I mean, ten.
00:33:48.120 Hold, hold, hold, hold.
00:33:48.360 Nick, Nick, Nick.
00:33:48.820 Hide, hide, hide, hide, hide, hide.
00:33:59.120 Okay, cool.
00:33:59.780 Okay, we're fine.
00:34:00.500 We're fine.
00:34:01.100 Okay.
00:34:01.520 All right.
00:34:02.020 Good.
00:34:03.800 All right.
00:34:04.360 Welcome to the whatever podcast.
00:34:05.960 That's always something.
00:34:09.340 Where were we?
00:34:10.940 I was mentioning, after Dennis Hoff did his famous show, Cat House on HBO, he drummed up
00:34:18.660 a ton of mainstream media.
00:34:20.720 He got one of the girls on Oprah and whatnot.
00:34:23.300 There were so many people coming in.
00:34:25.140 Those were the days where maybe you'd be seeing, like, ten clients, twelve clients in a day.
00:34:30.360 Okay.
00:34:30.940 Gotcha.
00:34:31.180 That was, that was a lot.
00:34:32.520 Gotcha.
00:34:32.800 Gotcha.
00:34:33.060 And for, for you two, has, being involved in prostitution, has it had any impact when
00:34:40.900 it comes to your romantic prospects?
00:34:43.340 Yeah.
00:34:45.760 Yeah.
00:34:46.560 They've, I've got to be able to be, I've got to be able to be myself and fully disclose,
00:34:51.060 and I need that person to accept me for who I am.
00:34:54.240 Bottom line.
00:34:54.960 Um, I have had no issues doing, uh, being a legal prostitute.
00:35:04.000 Um, I've had no issues being a legal prostitute just because I haven't been dating anybody,
00:35:08.280 um, within this time for that year.
00:35:11.620 Mm-hmm.
00:35:11.920 Uh, as for everything else, um, it's hard dating, um, I've ran into a lot of insecure
00:35:19.760 men.
00:35:20.580 Typically, those are the ones that can't handle me doing what I do for work.
00:35:25.260 And, um.
00:35:27.040 Well, just a point of clarification.
00:35:28.500 So, you've run into a lot of insecure men, and are they insecure because they don't want
00:35:35.260 to date you because you are currently active as a prostitute?
00:35:38.200 No, I'm saying I've never dated a guy while I was, uh, working at the brothels at the
00:35:44.360 Bunny Ranch or the Mustang Ranch, but I've been dating guys, like, between me doing camming
00:35:49.400 and dancing, so that's what I'm talking about.
00:35:52.400 But you, you mentioned insecure men.
00:35:55.000 What, what make, what specifically are they doing that makes them insecure?
00:35:59.740 Is it because they're insecure about your work?
00:36:01.900 Yes, like, uh, I've had exes in the past that would cry about me going to work to dance
00:36:06.960 at the strip club.
00:36:08.480 Um, I've had guys try to control, like, what I wear and, uh, say that I can't work at strip
00:36:15.200 clubs or do OnlyFans or whatever.
00:36:18.080 Is it, oh, sorry, was there more?
00:36:19.960 No, and that's.
00:36:20.920 Okay, is it because they're insecure, or is that just them having boundaries and standards?
00:36:25.700 I feel like that's, I mean, you knew what I was doing before you met me, right?
00:36:32.300 Right, so all of them knew exactly what I was doing before they met me, which brings
00:36:37.520 it to, yeah, if you have a problem with what I do before you meet me, maybe don't get involved
00:36:42.540 with me.
00:36:43.300 Sure.
00:36:43.640 I'm very open.
00:36:44.620 I'm a very honest person.
00:36:46.700 Um, you knew what I was doing before you met me.
00:36:49.640 If you don't like it, there's the door.
00:36:52.860 Nobody's making you stay.
00:36:53.960 I think, too, um, gentlemen love the idea of dating us, and then once we go to do it,
00:37:00.700 then it's not really realistic.
00:37:03.160 Right, it's almost like fetish, fetish, fetish, right, it's like, oh, it's so hot, I have a
00:37:10.340 girlfriend that does this, that, and the other, and then when they're really at home and I'm
00:37:15.040 like on OnlyFans or on a call with a client or whatever, they're like, no, this is weird,
00:37:20.720 this is weird, you know what I mean?
00:37:21.980 And that, I think it's an insecurity, yes, because you knew where I was coming from, you
00:37:29.580 knew what I was doing, and you weren't okay with it, then you should have made that a point.
00:37:37.040 I mean, I suppose you have a point that, I mean, if they knew going in that you, this
00:37:41.820 is what you do for work, you're a stripper, or you're doing OnlyFans, or you're doing sex
00:37:46.360 work, then I think it's a little bit of a stretch that all of a sudden, a couple weeks
00:37:54.000 or months into a relationship, then they start changing up.
00:37:56.440 But I think to differentiate the conversation a little bit, for example, like let's say,
00:38:01.620 and I don't know if you mentioned this, when it comes to like posting, perhaps revealing
00:38:05.180 photos online, not intended for commercial, like they're just on Instagram, but they're
00:38:11.080 not monetizing it, they're not content creators, or like, for example, if they go to the bar,
00:38:17.140 club, party a lot, would you consider it insecure if a guy, maybe three months into a relationship,
00:38:25.000 at that point he started having issues with you or with another girl?
00:38:30.980 Well, hey, he started saying, hey, I don't, I don't want you to go in the clubs and bars
00:38:34.820 anymore, I don't want you to.
00:38:35.900 And he already knew?
00:38:37.140 You're saying he already knew this?
00:38:39.000 Well, like, I assume he knew, yeah.
00:38:43.260 So, if he already knew, then?
00:38:47.900 Well, I guess my framing is, prior to dating, he had no problem with you or with another girl
00:38:53.500 engaging in what he considered to be single behavior at the time.
00:38:57.340 But once you, or whoever it is, started dating, he wanted his partner to act in a way that
00:39:03.680 he thought was more consistent with being in a relationship.
00:39:07.140 So, perhaps it's okay to go out to, me personally, even if I'm single, I'm not really interested
00:39:11.700 in going to bars, clubs, and I don't post revealing photos online, but I don't know, I feel like
00:39:17.600 that men don't do that too much.
00:39:19.260 I mean, there's certainly men that post like, whatever, anyways.
00:39:21.160 But, once you get into the relationship, there's expectations that certain things change.
00:39:29.980 Well, with the sex worker?
00:39:31.780 Well, yeah, I mean, I'm just differentiating when it comes to like, posting, revealing
00:39:35.100 photos, if it's not for your work, or going to bars and clubs.
00:39:39.400 Then, yeah, like, I can separate my work identity from my personal life.
00:39:43.420 Go ahead, do you want to come in?
00:39:44.480 I think, I mean, if we're talking to somebody that's not a sex worker and is posting, revealing
00:39:48.080 photos, I think that that's something that you talk about before getting into a relationship
00:39:51.960 with somebody, because then, if you're talking, you know, and a guy is like, you know, my expectations
00:39:57.620 for my girlfriend are X, Y, Z.
00:39:59.500 I don't like these kind of revealing photos for my girlfriend.
00:40:02.380 I don't like you going out all the time.
00:40:04.720 And then, I think from then on, that's when you decide whether to make a relationship serious
00:40:07.920 or not, because if she doesn't want to restrict where she's going or what she's doing
00:40:12.000 or the type of photos she's posting for him, then that's her decision.
00:40:14.700 But I don't think that it's wrong for a partner to ask her, you know, hey, if we're in a relationship,
00:40:20.700 this is what I expect.
00:40:21.560 And then, you know, she makes the decision, yes, I will do those things or no.
00:40:24.720 But do you think that so early on, like, say, on the first date or second date, that there's
00:40:30.460 enough of a relationship established for a guy to have enough, I don't know if leverage
00:40:37.920 is the right word, but, like, enough pull or influence to be like, hey, listen, I don't
00:40:44.260 want you doing this anymore.
00:40:45.920 Absolutely not.
00:40:47.340 Absolutely not.
00:40:48.120 But that's, I mean, she just said that you should early on, you should say, I don't...
00:40:52.600 Early on, not date number one.
00:40:53.680 Date number one, not date number two.
00:40:56.600 That is wild.
00:40:56.920 I mean, okay, wait, wait, I think there's two things going on here.
00:41:01.420 I think you can date someone, and then as a relationship evolves and changes, some things
00:41:06.560 that you thought you were comfortable with, you're like, hey, I'm not really comfortable
00:41:09.700 with this anymore.
00:41:10.660 I think that's reasonable.
00:41:12.380 But I think that's very distinct than going into a relationship thinking, oh, I don't like
00:41:17.400 the fact that she posts these types of photos, I'm going to make her stop, you know, I'm going
00:41:20.720 to change her, basically.
00:41:22.140 Because you're setting up, I think, everyone for disappointment.
00:41:24.500 You're setting up yourself, her, there's a difference between going into something, having
00:41:28.920 feelings change, talking from there, and intentionally trying to change before you even date, really.
00:41:33.920 I have a question.
00:41:34.880 If you ever fell in love with somebody, would you be willing to delete all of your stuff
00:41:39.300 if they asked you?
00:41:40.360 Would I be?
00:41:41.580 Yes.
00:41:42.460 If you, as a sex worker and everything that you do, if you fell in love and you found
00:41:46.440 someone and they asked you to stop.
00:41:49.140 So with that being said, I am currently single because of what I do for work.
00:41:54.500 I am very much so busy doing my work and I am full throttle, like, wanting to make money
00:42:00.680 and capitalize off of this industry to the best of my ability and make it to the point
00:42:06.060 where I can retire.
00:42:08.060 And then it's like, also making this much money and doing what I do for work, it puts
00:42:12.340 me in a position to be able to meet the type of guys that I want to meet, right?
00:42:16.300 Um, the higher end type of guys.
00:42:19.060 And maybe later on down the line, not anytime yet, uh, I would be open to it.
00:42:25.980 If I find everything happens for a reason, you know, never say never, but like, if I
00:42:32.560 found Prince Charming or something one day and he didn't want me doing this anymore, like
00:42:39.440 the, or I wouldn't be doing this anyways.
00:42:41.940 I want to retire from it at one point.
00:42:44.320 And then, yeah, eventually maybe.
00:42:47.220 And when you say high end men, what do you mean by that?
00:42:49.900 Like, like high value men or men with a lot of money?
00:42:55.720 High value.
00:42:56.620 Okay.
00:42:57.600 I have a question for you two here.
00:43:00.080 Uh, so both of you do OnlyFans, having done OnlyFans, continuing to do OnlyFans, has it
00:43:07.480 had any negative impacts on your dating prospects?
00:43:11.400 Does it make it harder to date?
00:43:12.680 Has it been maybe non-issue at all?
00:43:15.240 Some guys like it.
00:43:18.220 I've never had an issue with it dating wise.
00:43:21.140 No one has ever, cause I'm very upfront too, you know, first date.
00:43:24.780 If this is what I do, if you don't like it, this is how I make my money.
00:43:27.920 Unless you're going to pay me the same amount of money I'm making, then I'm not going to
00:43:31.900 stop supporting myself.
00:43:33.700 Um, but yeah, I never really ran into issues, but again, I don't do full pornographic content
00:43:39.100 or anything like that.
00:43:40.040 So it probably is a little bit different for somebody on OnlyFans that does do that type
00:43:44.240 of content.
00:43:45.520 Um, but I personally have never ran into an issue.
00:43:48.200 My boyfriend at first was, you know, I told him and he was like, okay, well, if I'm going
00:43:52.260 to date you, I have to be okay with this.
00:43:53.880 And that was that.
00:43:54.680 And it's never been an issue.
00:43:55.660 Sorry, um, sorry, I was asking a question.
00:43:58.520 What kind of content do you do on OnlyFans?
00:44:00.340 Uh, mainly topless content.
00:44:01.860 Okay.
00:44:02.300 So you currently have a boyfriend?
00:44:03.740 Yes, I do.
00:44:04.340 Okay.
00:44:05.800 Just that's the extent of it.
00:44:07.900 Yes.
00:44:08.180 Okay.
00:44:08.980 What about you, Essie?
00:44:10.020 Um, I've also never had an issue, um, in my dating life.
00:44:13.940 I don't date that often though, but, uh.
00:44:15.360 Right, cause you've been single for six years.
00:44:17.000 Yeah.
00:44:17.020 But, but it might not necessarily be related to that.
00:44:21.540 You're now doing OnlyFans.
00:44:22.480 Yeah.
00:44:22.760 I also don't do, um, nudes on OnlyFans.
00:44:25.940 So it's just like lingerie content.
00:44:27.580 Oh, okay.
00:44:27.980 So I think that also maybe helps cause I, I, so.
00:44:31.080 Sure.
00:44:31.680 Yeah.
00:44:32.240 Okay.
00:44:32.900 Um, question here for Candace.
00:44:34.900 So, um, what are your thoughts on OnlyFans, uh, sex work?
00:44:41.800 And do you believe that, uh, a woman doing OnlyFans or porn might have an impact on her
00:44:47.340 future romantic prospects?
00:44:49.000 Uh, and if so, how and why?
00:44:50.680 I can repeat it.
00:44:51.600 That was a lot.
00:44:52.300 So let me know if you need me to repeat anything.
00:44:53.640 Um, I, I've talked about this extensively on my show.
00:44:56.220 I mean, the truth is that if you are going to engage in sex work, you are going to probably
00:45:01.400 make a lot of money, especially if you're young, um, you're on a very tight rope as
00:45:05.580 you get older, your value goes down and men are going to want women that are younger and
00:45:09.700 available to them.
00:45:10.840 Um, I'm talking about in terms of just making the person who will subscribe to your OnlyFans
00:45:14.940 page, you know, obviously women, it's, you're, you're declining as you age as, and, um, the
00:45:20.080 truth is, is that high value men don't want to date women that are sex workers or even
00:45:23.340 women that aren't sex workers and lean into the whole talking about how sexy and then
00:45:29.020 are really, are freely available on the internet for other men to see.
00:45:32.040 What we're talking about is biological proclivity.
00:45:35.100 Um, what men are doing when they first say, uh, ah, this sounds amazing.
00:45:39.080 Did you date a stripper or did you date a prostitute or did you date a sex worker?
00:45:41.900 Is there, there's this instinct to have sex.
00:45:44.260 It's going to be amazing.
00:45:44.900 We're going to have sex all the time.
00:45:46.020 But then when they realize that actually a form of wanting to be in a relationship is
00:45:50.520 feeling that there's a mystery to a woman, that there's something that's yours, there's
00:45:54.460 something that's sacred, there's something that's powerful and beautiful that just
00:45:57.440 do share. And when they realize that they have to share that with other men, it
00:46:00.840 completely diminishes the man. Um, a recent cultural example of that obviously is
00:46:05.240 what's happening with Nina Agdahl. Uh, she's not a sex worker by any means.
00:46:08.620 This is, she just kind of said some sexy things on the internet, um, about wanting
00:46:13.060 cock and look at what was not expecting that from Kansas. I'm just, I'm quoting
00:46:18.660 her directly. So this is purely academic, purely academic and look at what
00:46:24.460 happens. You know, now Logan has become the lot laughing stock of other men as
00:46:29.160 they piece together everything that she's ever said that's overtly sexual.
00:46:32.680 And again, she's not a sex worker, but what happened is her value just completely
00:46:35.920 plummeted because, uh, you know, they're this thing that men need to feel. Um, and I
00:46:43.080 don't want to say possession in a way that sounds bad because it's not bad.
00:46:46.580 It's actually really beautiful. Um, and I'm lucky and fortunate that I get to
00:46:52.240 experience that in my marriage, you know, and, and it's, it's something that women
00:46:55.700 should strive toward women that make those exchanges in their youth. I think
00:46:58.760 that's sad. And I do feel bad for me to Agdahl is because she said a lot of those
00:47:02.340 statements when she was really young. She's probably your age. Um, and she had a
00:47:06.300 camera and she said it and it lives forever. And now every man that she dates is
00:47:10.560 going to say Dylan Danis has made her available to everyone. And it's, it's, I hope
00:47:16.640 things work out between her and Logan, but if you don't think that that's going to
00:47:19.560 impact Logan or that's not actively impacting him as a man, it is. Um, so
00:47:25.080 with women, it's a trade-off. First thing you said was I make money. This is
00:47:28.980 about money. It's about money. But when it comes down to marrying these women, men,
00:47:33.040 men just don't want it.
00:47:33.860 And that's exactly why I said that in this industry, I'm single until I retire.
00:47:39.860 I don't, but it will still matter.
00:47:41.260 I don't plan on doing this or getting married or finding the love of my life
00:47:46.640 until I retire. Like truthfully. And then after that, you see what happens to
00:47:50.160 Nina Agdahl. No, no, no. And then after that, I will be honest and truthful with
00:47:54.100 the person that I will be getting married to or whatever. And it'll be up to him to
00:47:58.400 accept that. Right. So, and I'm just saying that men's natural proclivity is to not
00:48:03.400 accept that because it brings them shame. Um, men are biologically proud creatures.
00:48:09.100 I understand, but not everybody can be like that. No, I know. I'm not, I'm just telling
00:48:12.820 you what is happening and why people are talking about cultural events, Nina Agdahl thing. And
00:48:17.740 if you look at people like Emily Rajkowski, she's obviously hot. Um, but this is a woman
00:48:22.740 who's now trying to make divorce chic. And I think that the understanding is in Hollywood
00:48:26.980 is, you know, sleep with her and move on. She's not marriage material. Um, her husband,
00:48:31.660 when he had her cheated on her because they didn't have that thing. She was, I feel like
00:48:36.360 I've, I've slept with the girl. I've seen her naked so many times. Right. So there's
00:48:39.500 nothing special about Sebastian bear marrying her because we've all seen her
00:48:42.620 naked. There's nothing sacred in that relationship. And I'm just speaking on
00:48:47.720 telling you, you know, this is why women struggle to get married when they've made
00:48:52.880 themselves available on only fans because other men don't want to share. They
00:48:57.080 don't want to share their wife. They maybe will share their girlfriend. They might
00:48:59.540 think it's fun to date a stripper for a little bit. They might think, Oh, this means
00:49:02.340 I'm going to have sex 12 times a day. But then when it gets down to just their
00:49:06.340 biological instinct, it's, it's actually quite embarrassing for them as a man
00:49:09.920 because they can look up your girl and here she is, you know? So that's what I
00:49:14.620 think is happening. Yeah. I'm, um, I'm just curious about your opinion on this
00:49:18.800 because I've seen like a couple of people in like Red Spill spaces, like
00:49:22.300 Tate's or people similar to that talking about how they should marry a young
00:49:27.020 woman. Would you agree or disagree that that might not be the most like
00:49:31.040 rational course of action? To marry a young woman? What do you mean by that?
00:49:34.600 Yes. That I hear a lot of men talk about how a woman inherently loses value as she
00:49:39.440 gets older. And that's why that they should seek out young women.
00:49:42.720 Um, well, I live in the South and a lot of people get married young and I think
00:49:46.420 it's really beautiful and wonderful. They're, they preserve this sort of
00:49:48.880 innocence. I have people that work for me that want to get married at 22. They drop
00:49:52.560 out of school. So I don't think there's anything wrong with marrying when you're
00:49:55.960 young. Um, I'd have to see the full context of what they're talking about because I do
00:50:00.640 think obviously the longer you wait and especially in this society that's creating
00:50:05.860 the simulation that sexuality equates to freedom when it doesn't, um, that what he
00:50:10.400 might be suggesting is that the longer a woman runs free, the more partners that
00:50:14.880 she's gathering and her, her worth is being diminished. And I think that there is
00:50:18.580 some veracity to that. Um, but you know, if it's said in a way that sounds a little
00:50:22.960 crass, like seek out younger women because they're not as used and I can see why people
00:50:26.320 would be offended by it, but there that might be underpinned by a little bit of
00:50:29.980 logic. So I'd have to see the clip in its entirety. Yeah. The reason why I'm
00:50:33.460 asking is because in general, I think, um, men do have a biological
00:50:37.360 proclivity, proclivity, I can't pronounce that word. Proclivity. Um, you
00:50:41.620 know, to seek out like youth and beauty. But I also think when it comes to like
00:50:44.820 settle down, um, you want a mother who's going to be responsible and good
00:50:49.260 towards her children. So I think the idea that like men seek out beauty is true, but I
00:50:54.400 also think men seek out a level of like responsibility and maturity that only comes
00:50:58.340 with age. So I was just curious because of the other stuff I've heard from people.
00:51:02.080 And also it's like, they, sex is just sex. Like it's just sex.
00:51:09.000 Huh? And when you have a partner, you have an emotional connection with them. And so
00:51:16.920 like the guy on your last podcast, the, he was on here a few days ago, he was saying
00:51:22.020 how like men for men, sex is just sex. But like spending time with a woman and like
00:51:28.740 buying her things and like going on trips with her is like different than having sex
00:51:35.460 with just random people. And that's why they were like in an open relationship or
00:51:40.080 whatever.
00:51:40.240 Can I just have you scoot your mic that way a little bit?
00:51:42.460 Yeah, perfect.
00:51:43.240 I mean, I definitely wouldn't say that like swapping DNA is like just sex. I mean, a man
00:51:48.120 leaves a piece of himself inside of you, but man, that's the way they think. And like
00:51:52.340 for women, we get attached to them emotionally having sex with them, which is why it's more
00:51:58.700 of a, when women have a lot of partners, it's, it is different. It's, it's, it is worse in
00:52:05.240 a way. And people don't want to admit that, but because we are more emotional, there is an
00:52:09.560 attachment. It isn't just sex for women. Um, you know, I think women are damaged by those
00:52:15.320 relationships. Um, women like to think because of the social simulation that it can just be
00:52:20.860 sex. It's whatever non-committal. The only people that benefit from that lie are men.
00:52:26.020 You know, it, it is not great to have sex and have a man not call you back. It doesn't feel
00:52:30.900 good. It doesn't matter if a Buzzfeed article says it does. I had a wonderful weekend and
00:52:34.580 this is why I had sex and didn't worry about it. You feel used. And especially I would say
00:52:40.840 if you're not a sex worker and you're, you just, a man does that and never calls you back
00:52:44.760 and you don't even have money to show for it. I think it diminishes your, your self-worth
00:52:49.620 even more than your worth to a man.
00:52:51.740 The reason why I say sex is just sex is because in our line of work, we see it as transactional,
00:52:58.140 right? Especially when we're working. And then at the end of the day, they go home to their
00:53:02.640 wives or whatever. Right. And it's like emotionally, you're emotionally being there for them and
00:53:09.480 taking care of them and doing all this, that or the other. So then sex clearly isn't just
00:53:13.620 sex. It's also emotional. It can be. Yeah, it can be. Yes. But I was saying, according to
00:53:20.100 the guy that he had on the last podcast, he said that for men, um, sex is just sex and
00:53:25.760 that I kind of, sorry, I disagree with the idea that sex doesn't harm or casual sex wouldn't
00:53:31.760 harm a man or does harm women or that sex is just sex. I think a lot of people tell themselves
00:53:35.920 that, but I think it can like lead to a lifestyle of just like pure hedonism, whether you're
00:53:40.760 like a man or a woman. And that can be like dangerous because then you're losing, you know,
00:53:45.120 sight of other things that you value or other aspects of life. So I don't really think like
00:53:49.260 for, I think for some people that can be true, but I think for the majority of people, like
00:53:53.640 there's a reason why a lot of people are only into monogamy or why that's been like the
00:53:57.260 norm for a lot of cultures. And I think most people are a little bit hardwired to kind of
00:54:01.600 seek out those intimate relationships. And I'm not saying it's impossible. I'm like, I'm
00:54:05.320 just saying, I think that's how most people are where casual sex can be. Yeah. And I
00:54:09.100 think it can definitely be harmful for men. I want to be clear. I I'm saying that it's
00:54:12.860 different for men and it's different for women, but I don't agree with the statement
00:54:15.840 sex is sex. It's just sex at all. And it's natural to be like attracted to a lot of different
00:54:22.240 people. You know what I mean? So it's like, but that comes with self-control. I think
00:54:27.960 attraction is one thing and acting on those needs or wants by sleeping with multiple people
00:54:34.400 to, I just, I don't understand that.
00:54:38.020 Did you want to come in on this?
00:54:40.040 I guess I don't, what do you mean?
00:54:41.320 Like I don't understand why would you.
00:54:42.260 Well, not in response to her, but just the.
00:54:44.280 In general?
00:54:44.800 Yeah.
00:54:45.420 I mean, I don't necessarily agree with the idea that sex is just sex. When I was younger,
00:54:49.820 I definitely had a lot more, you know, like casual sexual relationships, not one night
00:54:54.200 stands or anything by that measure, more like situationship. And as I got older, you know,
00:54:59.860 my views on it kind of changed and, you know, you do feel differently when, like you were
00:55:03.500 saying, it doesn't feel good to hook up with somebody and not have them call you back.
00:55:06.560 So I actually was celibate for about two years before I met my partner, doing OnlyFans and
00:55:11.500 everything else.
00:55:11.920 Your current partner.
00:55:12.720 Yes.
00:55:12.900 Okay.
00:55:13.400 I wasn't sleeping with anybody. I like stuck to it very hard because I just didn't really
00:55:18.080 like the feeling of sleeping with somebody and then getting an emotional attachment to
00:55:21.560 them. So I, I think that certain people, because everybody is different, I don't think that
00:55:27.160 it's that black and white. Um, but I think to some people and to some women and to some
00:55:31.700 men, casual sex really is just sex, whether they're leaving DNA or not. I think that there
00:55:35.820 are people that do actually feel that way. Cause I've met women that are like that, but
00:55:39.920 for me, it is not that simple. And I don't think that it's that simple for most women.
00:55:44.280 Can I raise a possibility just because it's something that I've sort of seen? Um, so I
00:55:52.780 do think it's possible that for some people, sex may be detached from romantic emotions with
00:56:00.120 that person. But I do think there may always still be an underlining part, an underlining
00:56:06.360 psychological part there of at least an ego boost, at least some sort of like grab for
00:56:12.280 validation, some sort of grab for emotional intimacy. Even if you're telling yourself,
00:56:19.160 I'm just doing this because having casual sex is empowering and sex is just sex. I think
00:56:25.520 even in most of the cases where that's where people genuinely believe they're just having
00:56:28.820 sex because it's sex. If they ask themselves a little further, why am I really doing this?
00:56:35.660 Is it just for, is it perhaps just, you know, to placate my ego or for some sort of male validation
00:56:40.720 or for some sort of like intimacy or connection? Cause I, maybe I'm not getting it romantically
00:56:45.600 otherwise. Um, and more in a more like serious relationship. I am, um, I would also press for
00:56:53.400 that as a possibility, even in those cases of people who genuinely do think for themselves
00:56:58.020 that it is sex is just sex.
00:56:59.600 Well, I mean, I guess we can look to the people that do it professionally. I mean,
00:57:02.900 do you feel that there's some underlying male validation in your work or no?
00:57:06.380 I find it very meaningful. I find it meaningful when couples come in and they want to work
00:57:11.260 on something, they're working on a goal. Maybe he's got a mental block and we're working on that.
00:57:16.460 Um, the gentleman that comes in, that's having issues with erectile dysfunction and he's trying
00:57:21.420 to troubleshoot that and we, and we actually create success for him. Um, it's, it's meaningful to me.
00:57:28.300 Wait, just one point of clarification. So you're, you're a sex therapist?
00:57:31.900 As, as sex workers, we're basically sex. I mean, I, I don't have a counseling degree. I have,
00:57:38.380 I have a master's degree in education. We have an article. You recently kind of went viral. Uh,
00:57:43.420 Nick, can you pull up the article? Like I, New York post, um, uh, New York post. I'm a sex therapist.
00:57:53.020 I sleep with clients to save marriages. They went crazy. Did you, you reacted to this?
00:58:01.660 I almost did, but I'm here. You're here now. Uh, can you, can you pull up the article really quick?
00:58:07.420 Yeah. One more. Uh, sex therapist, Olivia Bentley, wait, wait, takes a hands-on approach with her
00:58:15.660 clients by sleeping with them. I've saved marriages. The Boise, Idaho native told Kennedy news, calling her
00:58:21.740 life, her work life-changing. I get physically involved with the majority of the people I see.
00:58:25.820 I think that's part of the appeal. The veteran sex worker who spent 15 years in the industry
00:58:29.420 claims that women have asked her to demonstrate sex acts on their husbands while some wives grant
00:58:34.300 their eager hubbies a hall pass to pay Bentley a visit. Um, good times. Yeah. Is that pretty accurate?
00:58:43.180 I mean, so you, so you save marriages by having sex with the husband? Well, I think the, the tabloids
00:58:50.860 went a little crazy with the whole, you know, but New York post is known to, uh, yeah. Okay. Uh, they
00:58:56.620 really, you know, went wild with it, but, um, I do help a lot of couples that come in. Um, one right now
00:59:03.660 is asking me to, to lend a hand and he's more of a beta and she'd like him to be more of an alpha. And she
00:59:10.300 wants me to work with him on, on being more just outwardly in control and aggressive in the bedroom,
00:59:16.540 things like that. Um, there's, there's a lot of different psychological needs and reasons why
00:59:22.220 people would want to come and work with professional sex worker. Sure. Uh, Candace,
00:59:26.860 it sounded like, seemed like maybe you had something. I think it's the most outrageous thing I've ever heard.
00:59:31.740 It, it, it, it's so in the realm of like dragons and mystic, mythical creatures that it's, mythological
00:59:41.260 creatures that it's, it's hard to respond to the idea that she's saving marriages. Um, it's just,
00:59:48.620 there. You're in disbelief. I'm actually in utter disbelief that she is saving marriages. Here's another
00:59:55.340 example. Sure. So like, and this has been, there's multiple, um, clients that do this where the wife
01:00:02.220 will not have sex anymore. She went and said, look, I, um, you know, during the, when they were
01:00:08.060 courting each other, she was down for sex. She was a sexual person. She was all about it. Then let's
01:00:13.580 fast forward. They're married. We're married now contract solidified. I don't want to have sex anymore.
01:00:19.900 Ew. Oral sex is gross. Oh, that's demeaning if you're asking me to do that. So you're not saving
01:00:26.540 marriages. You're helping people to keep up a farce that they are in a marriage. Because at the
01:00:30.060 very moment that you let someone else into your marriage, it's no longer a marriage. No. Yeah.
01:00:33.580 And these women have turned around and said, I will allow you to see a professional. So they are not
01:00:39.660 in a marriage. That's the point. As soon as you lend your spouse out. Some of their wives are like dying
01:00:44.300 from cancer and this, that, and the other. If I'm dying from cancer and my husband goes to sleep
01:00:49.740 with somebody else, it's sort of gone. Hold on. Just one at a time, please. Um,
01:00:56.220 Candace, were you, I just would like to make the point that at the very moment that you loan your
01:01:00.860 spouse out, especially if you're dying of cancer so they can get, you know, get off, you're no longer
01:01:06.460 in a marriage. So it's just a farce. It's like when you, it's a comical, you're pretending for people
01:01:10.620 that you're in a marriage, that you're in a loving relationship. That's not what a marriage is.
01:01:14.060 So to say that I help marriages, no, you help destroy marriages and they can go out and say
01:01:18.620 that we're still married because what we've done is we've essentially said, you take care of this
01:01:23.820 aspect of the marriage. It's like saying you raise the kids, you have sex with him. This isn't a
01:01:28.300 marriage. It's the whole thing is fake, right? What do you think that they should do?
01:01:31.740 I'll bring you in next. What do you think that they, they should work on their marriage together.
01:01:35.900 The union between a husband and a wife should work on their marriage together to fix it. You don't
01:01:40.140 bring out an outside person to sleep with your husband or your wife. But if she's saying,
01:01:43.100 I'm not down for sex and she might be down for a divorce. I want to outsource the sex.
01:01:47.420 What if she's going to die from cancer and she wanted him and she allowed him to do that because
01:01:53.260 he needed to get off some way or she, while he was, while she was dying of cancer, one of the last
01:01:57.980 things on her mind was. This is a real life. This is a real life. This is a real life.
01:02:03.500 Uh, yeah, this was a real, I'm asking you. Is that what he told you? Yeah. So his wife
01:02:07.740 that's dying of cancer wanted him to come have sex with you? Not with me. One of like, this is
01:02:13.020 from what I've heard. Yes. Somebody told you that, that there's that as a dying wish.
01:02:16.700 My dying wife said, please go have sex with a prostitute at a brothel. I saw it on TikTok.
01:02:21.020 I'm just going to call bullshit on that altogether. No, because it does happen.
01:02:24.540 I just don't think when you're dying of cancer, going through leukemia. People will literally
01:02:27.740 bring their guys here. Please bring them on the podcast. I just want to say,
01:02:31.820 go ahead. It's an absurd scenario I've ever heard in my life. There's a lot of crazy
01:02:35.980 shit. There's marriage counseling where they can take you through sex therapy, where you don't
01:02:40.620 have to sleep with somebody else. If it's about a woman not wanting to have sex anymore,
01:02:44.140 what's the underlying reason? Are hormones messed up so she's not wanting to be sexually active?
01:02:48.860 Is there not enough foreplay when they're having sex? Like there's other avenues you can take for
01:02:53.180 sex therapy. Yeah, there's like normal couples counselors. Yeah, real couples counseling, where you try to
01:02:57.580 solve the problem and you release it and you don't just source it out to a prostitute.
01:03:02.140 Go ahead. The cancer thing is crazy.
01:03:05.340 The cancer thing is crazy. But outside of that, I don't think that it's up to any of us what
01:03:11.580 constitutes a marriage because every relationship is different. The Bible. If a husband, okay.
01:03:16.220 His words have meaning. But not everyone is religious. Well, wait, hold on. Is that a cross
01:03:20.540 necklace? It doesn't constitute, like what do you mean? Okay, really quick. Not everybody's religious.
01:03:24.540 We're talking about religion really quick. Okay, you have a cross necklace, but then your shirt says
01:03:29.020 made in hell. Yes, it does. I'm a little confused. I'm a little confused. Can you,
01:03:33.660 I'm a little confused. The stone is red, so it matched, you know.
01:03:38.700 Why are you wearing a cross on your neck? Are you color coordinating with your neck?
01:03:41.340 Because I don't see a cross as religious, so. Okay. I feel like you don't see a marriage as
01:03:45.020 religious. I don't think that a marriage has a meaning. This is why it's like people are out of
01:03:48.700 stage. People are like, what is a woman? Because they just go, well, we're going to call it a marriage,
01:03:51.820 but we're going to sleep with other people. We're going to bring in prostitutes. We're going to
01:03:54.460 outsource raising the kids, or we're never going to have kids. You're calling it a family. It's not
01:03:58.140 a family. And this is what it is. They just, the words have no meaning, right? I'm wearing the cross.
01:04:02.060 Why? I don't know. I don't, I don't think of it as religious. Okay. Well, Jesus Christ died on the
01:04:05.660 cross. You think that. That's what you think. It's been proven. So why are you wearing the cross?
01:04:10.220 Because I think it's cute. Because I think it's cute. You just think that the design is cute.
01:04:12.780 Yeah. Wait, wait, wait, really quick. I grew up like I was religious and I'm not anymore. I don't
01:04:17.180 have to believe in what you believe. And I can say that if somebody. I didn't say you had to leave.
01:04:20.700 I asked you a question. I said, why are you wearing the cross? Okay. And you're saying that the
01:04:24.300 religious aspect of marriage is the only thing that matters. It's not because people don't follow
01:04:28.220 what you believe. Okay. I asked you why you're wearing the cross and you said because you thought it
01:04:31.740 was cute. Yeah. I'm glad we got an answer. She's wearing the cross around her neck because she thinks it's cute.
01:04:36.940 I do. I'm not religious. Would you also wear like a Star of David? It's cute.
01:04:40.780 Well, because if it was cute, would you wear it? Well, okay. Well, I don't know where we're going.
01:04:44.140 I'm asking that because I wonder, like, my guess is that you would think that maybe you wouldn't
01:04:49.020 wear a Star of David because you're like, oh, this is maybe like disrespectful to people who are Jewish.
01:04:52.940 Are you making the argument? Maybe, I mean. No, I'm just. It's a very good question.
01:04:57.740 I'm just saying. Devil's advocate here. Secular argument. Someone might just say that the cross is just,
01:05:03.420 maybe it's more aesthetically pleasing even for an atheist. I don't know. Sure, but livers are all
01:05:09.500 about like having respect and tolerance. So I'm just like wondering if you think it's. I'm asking if
01:05:14.220 you wear a yarmulke. I think those are very different things. Oh, are you talking like blasphemy?
01:05:17.260 Why is the cross different from the yarmulke? I'm just, I mean, I was raised Catholic and I,
01:05:21.100 that's just not the thing that I believe anymore. Would you wear a yarmulke if you thought it was cute?
01:05:23.260 No, I wouldn't. I mean, a yarmulke is completely different than a cross that's been adapted.
01:05:25.420 You can buy a cross necklace anywhere. The argument of why it's different basically would come down to
01:05:34.140 like how Catholicism has been practiced versus Judaism in the sense that like Catholics did
01:05:38.300 use the cross symbol, tried to place like an indigenous populations, tried to spread it as
01:05:42.460 much as possible. And that's why in modern day, a lot of people think that's like more okay because
01:05:47.340 it was meant to be popularized. It was meant to be a symbol that the masses should look up to and
01:05:52.940 should see in general versus Jewish symbols. Okay. I would argue didn't go through that.
01:05:57.740 I think we're kind of derailing a little bit. Yeah. You wanted to come in and go ahead.
01:06:00.700 Yes. So back to the interesting brothel stories. I wanted to say, uh, we do actually have men
01:06:06.860 coming in with their parents. Yeah. This actually happens. So I had a time where
01:06:15.420 a guy came in with both his parents all the way from England to come to the Mustang ranch because he
01:06:22.780 wanted to lose his virginity and his parents paid for him to have sex with legal prostitutes.
01:06:37.820 I want your stance on that because what's your stance on that?
01:06:41.580 And if I may, and wait, now, can I just say that for me, I enjoyed the experience sex workers,
01:06:47.420 not prostitutes. Yeah. Wait, I'm sorry. She said prostitute. Yeah. It's because they keep,
01:06:52.700 yeah, prostitutes a little bit more question. Is it like a, well, she said that she said legal
01:07:00.140 prostitute is prop. I don't want to offend anybody. Is prostituted like a, it's old school. It's still on
01:07:05.500 the books, like on Nevada's books, but like the, the hipper, the hipper way to say it is sex worker.
01:07:12.220 But here's the thing with sex workers. Personally, that can me, you can call me a legal prostitute.
01:07:17.740 Yeah. I got you. Um, but the, the thing with the term sex worker is that is such a broad,
01:07:25.100 it includes strippers. It includes women who take, uh, lingerie photos who aren't naked. Um, wait,
01:07:31.740 question. Stewart is stewardess. Okay. Cause you're a flight attendant. So I'm just curious.
01:07:36.060 It's not the term that we would be offended. If someone referred to you as a stewardess,
01:07:39.980 you get any older, older people do all the time. Doesn't, doesn't bother you. No. Okay. All right.
01:07:44.620 Just curious. Just want to make sure since we're, yeah. Okay. It's not a big deal. Earlier. It was
01:07:49.580 like talked about like how, you know, sleeping or letting your husband or wife sleep with someone
01:07:54.140 else is like irresponsible or it's not a marriage anymore. Like I'd be kind of curious of what you believe
01:07:58.940 of responsible marriage is like, or I understand that you have a religious view on marriage,
01:08:03.500 but when I think about marriage, I think like I could see somebody saying they're married. If
01:08:07.980 it's like completely romantic, like you're not allowed to do romance with anyone else.
01:08:11.900 Like basically what does responsible marriage mean to you? Marriage is not just a contract. Like
01:08:16.860 it wasn't just like the government came up with the contract people to get married. You know,
01:08:20.140 the history of marriage, you can't separate that from the church. The problem is people are trying to
01:08:24.540 make things cool and trying to update and make them modern. And now people are saying you can have a
01:08:28.620 polygamous marriage and you can bring in other people on the outside of a marriage. What's the
01:08:32.300 point of getting married? Literally, I'd like to ask the question. If you think that you can,
01:08:37.020 if you want to marry somebody and then outsource the sex, you know, outsource the responsibility,
01:08:43.340 outsource what the labor of love is actually supposed to be about. Why not just stay single?
01:08:47.980 So you wouldn't do a threesome with your husband? Absolutely not. Because he's my husband.
01:08:52.940 Do you believe you have to ask that to get the answer? I mean, there's married couples that want to have
01:08:58.460 threesome and some of these ladies are bi-curious. And you should jump into those
01:09:02.140 Reddit threads because every single time that marriage ends in divorce, there's so many Reddit
01:09:06.380 threads. No, they don't. And a lot of them actually do really well too. I have regulars of over five
01:09:10.460 years. Okay. There's some that do really well. Do you believe atheists can get married? I think
01:09:15.260 atheists get married because they want a tax break. I don't see the point in an atheist getting married.
01:09:19.500 Why don't you just live with your partner? Okay. Whatever it is that you're dating,
01:09:22.860 you're at the stage you said, I don't know if you live with your boyfriend or whatever it is.
01:09:25.980 Why take the next leap? If you're wearing crosses for fun and, you know,
01:09:30.300 I mean, if you're actually asking the question, I mean, because then I would just be pledging the
01:09:34.860 fact that I would want to be with them forever. I don't really, you can just be with them forever.
01:09:38.300 So why, what is it that you crave that when you, when you want to get married, what's that next step
01:09:42.220 for you? What does it mean? What's the difference between dating and marriage? Because it's a commitment.
01:09:45.660 It's dating, not a commitment. It's a commitment, but it's saying it's solidifying it. Okay.
01:09:50.700 It's solidifying what? Because it's solidifying a bond between two people that love each other.
01:09:53.980 Okay. But what is solidified? If you can then jump into that next commitment,
01:09:58.140 which is the exact same as dating and you can sleep with other people and you can put topless
01:10:02.220 photos on the internet, what are you getting married for? Pictures on Instagram to say you did
01:10:06.300 it? I mean, I'm not sleeping with other people. What's the difference for you between dating and
01:10:10.380 marriage? I just told you it's a bond between two people. You're solidifying that by law.
01:10:13.980 You're literally making it known. I want to be with this person forever. It isn't just a simple
01:10:17.500 breakup. Oh, I can go and do whatever the fuck I want and leave. It's a partnership. It's a bond.
01:10:21.340 It's forever. But there's no difference between dating and marriage other than the idea in your
01:10:25.580 head that it's a bond because you're saying also- But it's not an idea in my head. It's on paper.
01:10:29.660 Okay. It's the paper. And that was the point I would make it. It's a piece of paper.
01:10:32.060 But I'm saying it's not a tax break. It's a legal thing. I'm connecting to somebody for the rest of
01:10:36.300 my life. Yeah. Well, I think for people that think about marriage and don't think about a cross as
01:10:41.100 something funsy to wear, it's not a piece of paper. It is a union between a man and a woman,
01:10:47.980 a sacred union that should be protected from external forces. Definitely not something that
01:10:52.860 you open up. I would feel disgusting if my husband ever came to me and said,
01:10:57.260 I want you to sleep with another man or sleep with another woman so that I can fill my sexual
01:11:02.300 fetish. I mean, it's an utter perversion of what it means to be married. And it will lead to divorces.
01:11:09.260 People that have this perspective will, and I'm not saying that if you don't do it, you won't get
01:11:13.500 divorced 100%. But I do want to say that there is probably a reason that a lot of sex workers
01:11:22.380 struggle to find people that want to marry them. Well, can I say a lot of the perversion that comes
01:11:27.980 if you are not going to be acceptant with your partner, if he comes to you and is like, hey,
01:11:32.780 uh, I really like getting pegged. I want you to peg me. And you're like, ew, that's so disgusting.
01:11:38.940 Like, I would never do that. You want me to eat your ass? I would never do that. Well then,
01:11:44.620 okay, what are you going to do? Divorce him? Or what are you going to do? Realistically,
01:11:48.620 I'm asking you and I'm asking, hold on. I really want to, I want to know, what are you going to do?
01:11:53.100 That's your husband. He's like, hey babe. I think one of the things about marriage
01:11:56.380 that's really beautiful is I know what my, my husband before we got married, I think I, I know
01:12:01.580 who he is. But things change and maybe he wants to start exploring. He wants to start doing what?
01:12:05.420 Uh, so say, so he wants to start exploring and he's like, oh my gosh, maybe I do want you to like
01:12:10.380 eat, eat my ass. And I kind of, and I kind of want you to peg me. Like I'm kind of,
01:12:15.660 I kind of want anal penetration from you because you're my wife and you're so beautiful and hot
01:12:20.460 and we're married and we have kids together and I'm, and I'm feeling a little bit kinky. And I,
01:12:24.460 with you, since we have this special marriage and bond, how would you feel if we could just try this
01:12:29.660 out? Just this one time, babe, please. I think it would probably indicate to me that my husband
01:12:33.660 was involved in some perverse world, whether it was through pornography, that something else was
01:12:38.620 happening on the side, because these aren't normal things that people just think of when they wake
01:12:42.300 up. So what's your next move? Like, hey, I'd really like a strap on dildo. Okay. Right.
01:12:45.180 So what's your next move? What's the ultimatum? He's going to divorce me if I don't peg him.
01:12:50.700 Uh, I would think that that individual would probably need therapy and not the kind that you give.
01:12:55.900 Okay. And, but, but you're going to stay with this person? You don't, you don't immediately
01:12:59.980 divorce. Okay. Marriage is about working through issues and working through problems. You don't
01:13:04.060 immediately divorce them. And this gets back to what she was saying about if your husband, if
01:13:07.900 suddenly a woman doesn't want to have sex, which would be another huge issue in a relationship,
01:13:11.660 I would hope that my husband wouldn't instantly divorce me, but I would hope that they would take
01:13:15.260 Well, some guys are terrified of that. And some guys don't even feel like they can open up to their
01:13:19.180 wives about that, about that. Sounds like they need therapy. Yeah. You got to work on your marriage.
01:13:25.100 But the thing is, is that they'll come to us talking to us about that. You know what I mean?
01:13:30.300 So it's just like, I don't know. And I think that that's unhealthy. And I think that, you know,
01:13:34.540 the fact that sex workers exist as this, what you believe to be a solution when in fact that's a
01:13:40.780 detriment because you're getting in the way of the wife and the husband being able to communicate.
01:13:44.700 Um, and so I would much rather my husband go, if there was an issue and your wife's not having
01:13:49.980 sex, I'd rather him go talk to a priest. I'd rather him go talk to another male when males sit down and
01:13:54.940 talk about, Hey man, you should talk to her about this. I'd rather him, no, let me finish my statement.
01:13:59.420 I'd rather him, what do you mean bros talking to each other about things? That's a normal,
01:14:03.420 I'd rather if I have an issue of my, it's pretty normal. I'd rather go talk to my sisters about
01:14:07.980 things that are going on. There's a lot of steps you can take before you talk to a prostitute
01:14:12.460 about your marriage. I just, maybe I'm crazy. Maybe I live in such a crazy.
01:14:15.260 Well, I'm saying what man is willing to do that?
01:14:16.940 I don't know. I turn on a Taylor Swift song, cry a little bit in my room. I don't know. There's a
01:14:21.980 lot. I would turn to Taylor Swift before I would go to a prostitute about my marriage.
01:14:26.060 I know, but you're not a male. So I'm just saying like,
01:14:27.980 Men can talk to other, what are you talking about? There's all of these podcasts of men talking,
01:14:33.020 you know, talking to men and being inspirational and talking about porn addiction and talking about the
01:14:37.420 things that are, are, are corrupting men's minds that's out there.
01:14:40.700 Okay. And those are, those are, I would much rather my husband listen to those men
01:14:44.460 and look for guidance, whether it's in the church, whether it's on a podcast,
01:14:47.900 whether it's a spiritual leader, then to turn to a prostitute in a brothel.
01:14:51.020 I hear you.
01:14:51.660 So there's a lot of steps that you can take from we're having an issue in our marriage
01:14:56.540 to my husband's at a brothel laying next to a prostitute talking about issues in my marriage.
01:15:00.140 Actually, let me, let me just step in really quick. I do think though, I would like to redirect
01:15:04.940 the conversation because I do think it's probably a very small portion of people who are married
01:15:11.020 are seeking to bring in a prostitute to, for the husband. It just seems like such a small
01:15:20.300 kind of, I don't know. What's that really quick?
01:15:22.220 Uh, statistically married men are actually the highest number of clientele for prostitutes.
01:15:26.460 Yes. And that's why I'm saying, please listen for me. I'm literally telling you guys,
01:15:31.420 males come to us and say all this stuff, which is like, they're first scared of you guys because
01:15:36.780 how you might react to, they feel like they can't be honest and open with you guys. That's why they
01:15:41.900 result in coming to places.
01:15:43.420 Just so you guys know that statistic doesn't mean that the majority of married men go to
01:15:46.540 prostitutes.
01:15:47.020 I didn't say that.
01:15:47.740 No, I know. I'm just letting her know because she said like, yes, like it was, if it was a debunk.
01:15:50.620 No, no, no, no, no.
01:15:51.900 The majority of married men don't turn to prostitutes. So they might be a law contingent
01:15:56.780 and they might be majority married.
01:15:58.300 That's what I'm saying.
01:15:58.940 Yeah, I get that.
01:15:59.740 Okay.
01:16:00.060 I think that's a good reason to have, um, I guess to, on that point of like,
01:16:05.500 something was brought up earlier about like, what is like a responsible marriage to you? So part of
01:16:09.660 being a good partner as like a wife or a girlfriend to whoever you're with is making them feel
01:16:16.140 comfortable telling you anything, especially if it's something that they think is serious enough to
01:16:20.940 consider leaving like their relationship with you for, like if it's serious enough that they
01:16:26.300 would consider divorcing you, if they can't explore the sexual fantasy or anything like that.
01:16:30.300 I think that's just a part of being good on the, um, I, I, I agree with what you're saying here,
01:16:36.140 that they, um, that these men don't feel comfortable that they could tell their wives.
01:16:41.180 And I guess that's just a part of being, not that it's justifiable that you as a wife,
01:16:46.140 you should give in to any sexual fetish your partner brings to you.
01:16:50.220 It's whatever you're comfortable with and wherever your boundaries are.
01:16:52.620 But, um, I guess that's a part of that continuous conversation with them so that they always feel
01:16:57.260 comfortable bringing up anything to you as a friend, as like a confidant and knowing they're
01:17:01.820 not going to be judged, but that they'll be a partner with you in favor.
01:17:04.460 I do have to, I do have to move on.
01:17:06.060 So we have a couple of chats here.
01:17:07.100 I want to try to get through.
01:17:08.140 We have beaten cheeks.
01:17:09.580 Candace Owens, do not hold back on these libs.
01:17:12.060 Wipe the floor with your intelligence.
01:17:13.740 Congrats on being prego again.
01:17:15.660 Be easy with my Essie though.
01:17:17.100 She's about to get retired out soon.
01:17:19.100 Okay.
01:17:19.500 First of all, we, I have beef with beaten cheeks because he asked me on a date and then posted
01:17:23.340 a photo with another girl on Twitter.
01:17:25.740 So are you guys, are you guys loyal?
01:17:28.780 I mean, he asked you on a date and you guys are committed to, you're committed to beaten
01:17:33.100 cheeks with his ridiculous name.
01:17:35.020 We're basically together.
01:17:35.900 So he's posting photos with another woman right after asking me out.
01:17:38.780 Beat in cheeks.
01:17:39.500 He's literally breaking my heart.
01:17:40.780 He's breaking my heart.
01:17:41.420 Commit this act of infidelity on Essie over here, who you've never met yet.
01:17:45.100 Okay.
01:17:45.260 We have Frankie K.
01:17:46.140 Um, hey, thank you, man.
01:17:47.420 You know, what's funny about Beyonce?
01:17:48.700 She encourages single ladies to have fun, supports promiscuous behavior in her music and perpetuates
01:17:53.820 the, I don't need a man mentality.
01:17:55.260 And when she's done recording, she goes home to her husband and her children who, by the
01:17:59.580 way, I did her Jay-Z cheated, right?
01:18:01.900 Yeah.
01:18:02.140 All right.
01:18:04.460 All right.
01:18:05.260 Good.
01:18:05.500 Good point, Frankie.
01:18:06.220 Thank you, man.
01:18:06.700 We have Canada, the Jay Candace, the honey badger queen.
01:18:10.300 Is that your nickname?
01:18:11.260 I don't know.
01:18:11.980 Or did you just get bestowed?
01:18:13.020 I just got bestowed.
01:18:14.060 Uh, thank you for your voice and being on this wacky space is a cultural battlefield that
01:18:18.540 somehow pushes beyond ideal ideological bubbles.
01:18:22.060 When are Jeremy and Ben going to make Brian an offer?
01:18:24.940 Seriously.
01:18:25.420 Think about it.
01:18:27.420 I'll bring it to them.
01:18:28.220 I've got a lot to bring in them.
01:18:29.340 Yes.
01:18:29.660 The tiger King.
01:18:31.020 Yeah.
01:18:31.340 Tiger King and Matt Walsh.
01:18:32.460 There you go.
01:18:33.260 All right.
01:18:33.500 We have a travel trades here.
01:18:36.540 Oh, wait, I'll just read.
01:18:37.900 Hi, Brian.
01:18:38.380 Long time.
01:18:38.860 No see.
01:18:39.420 Hopefully I can come on once I'm back from Kuwait.
01:18:41.820 Hi, Candace.
01:18:42.300 Thanks for being a voice.
01:18:43.100 When I felt odd having conversation, I felt odd having conservative behaviors.
01:18:47.580 Excuse me.
01:18:48.300 Your bravery has helped countless people become comfortable with being conservative.
01:18:53.420 Thank you.
01:18:53.820 That's so sweet.
01:18:54.540 Thank you.
01:18:55.100 We have travel trades.
01:18:55.980 People in this day and time are exceedingly haughty and refuse to pursue the abolition
01:19:00.460 or even suppression of ego in their everyday lives.
01:19:03.100 People appeal to, uh, people appeal their own wants, needs, opinions, ideas, et cetera,
01:19:08.060 above all else, instead of appealing to something greater from travel trades.
01:19:11.900 Hey, thank you.
01:19:12.300 Appreciate it.
01:19:13.100 And then lastly, we have society, I, that's probably not, I don't know.
01:19:19.020 Panel, please listen to everything that Candace says.
01:19:21.660 You have a rare opportunity to see what a high value woman is and learn from her as she's intelligent,
01:19:27.580 respected, respected, and accomplished.
01:19:29.660 You can't justify and make excuses for your lifestyles.
01:19:34.700 Anybody got a response to that one?
01:19:36.140 So that one.
01:19:36.860 Thank you.
01:19:39.020 Oh, okay.
01:19:39.580 There you go.
01:19:39.980 All right.
01:19:40.140 I like my lifestyle.
01:19:41.260 I love my lifestyle.
01:19:42.860 I could change it at any time.
01:19:45.260 These, being in this industry, you don't run out of opportunities.
01:19:50.780 Men are coming all the time.
01:19:52.860 If I wanted to settle down with one of them, I think, I think that could have happened.
01:19:57.900 Yeah.
01:19:58.140 Wait, when you say men are coming to you all the time as clients, right?
01:20:01.660 Yeah.
01:20:02.140 And you said if you wanted to settle down with any of them, you could, but do you find the men
01:20:09.100 who come to you attractive?
01:20:11.500 Because I mean, I've heard from a lot of women who do OnlyFans or even women who are exotic
01:20:16.620 dancers, strippers, whatever, and women who do porn or even adult content, that the men
01:20:22.220 that typically like are the fans or consume the content or come and see you, your clients,
01:20:28.380 a lot of these women don't view these men like just by virtue of them coming to you or by virtue
01:20:34.060 of them subscribing to your OF, like that in and of itself makes them not a prospect for
01:20:40.620 any like long-term relationship.
01:20:41.900 No, these are normal guys and some of them are hot.
01:20:43.900 So I'm a fitness competitor.
01:20:45.260 Okay, all right.
01:20:45.900 I'm 46 years old.
01:20:47.500 I figured I was going to age out of the industry.
01:20:49.900 What has happened?
01:20:50.940 MILFs are all, all the, all the thing.
01:20:53.740 They're the cat's pajamas right now.
01:20:55.260 So I'm getting a ton of I'm getting a lot of young'uns coming, the young'uns, young'uns,
01:21:05.260 young'uns, young' gentlemen, tons of them.
01:21:07.260 And, and then, you know, fitness competitors, judges that, that judge in the circuits.
01:21:13.340 And then they'll say, Hey, I, you know, you're looking good or tighten this up.
01:21:17.900 So there's a lot of opportunities to meet a lot of individuals now to meet them though.
01:21:22.860 But I mean, when it comes to them and when it comes to long-term commitment, I mean,
01:21:27.820 I think they want, well, they, I, I agree.
01:21:30.300 What I, what I encounter, um, and something what Candace said is these guys, they are prideful.
01:21:36.060 So once they start dating you, they do, in my experience, they do want you to maybe consider
01:21:41.980 settling down.
01:21:43.180 Now I've done real estate.
01:21:44.780 I was vice president of business growth at an active, um, wealth management company during
01:21:49.740 COVID.
01:21:50.300 I have a master's degree.
01:21:51.820 I can do different things.
01:21:53.340 What do you have a master's in?
01:21:54.460 Education.
01:21:55.260 I got straight A's.
01:21:57.020 Yeah.
01:21:57.340 So, and I taught for a while.
01:21:59.260 So I, I come in and out, I'll go into white colored work and then I'll go back into the
01:22:02.940 industry because it's fun for me.
01:22:05.100 I enjoy it and, and it is good money and it's an adventure.
01:22:08.620 I enjoy going out with these guys and being a travel companion and getting to go on vacations.
01:22:13.980 No, I just wanted to ask you as a, the man sitting at this table, are you attracted to
01:22:21.420 their lifestyles?
01:22:22.620 Do you think men are attracted to their lifestyles?
01:22:26.220 Uh, I'm just curious about your opinion, just to hear a male.
01:22:29.580 Good thing I don't care.
01:22:30.300 I don't care.
01:22:31.820 Well, that's so rude.
01:22:32.620 No, I mean, good thing.
01:22:35.180 I don't care for what an other male has to say about my industry though.
01:22:39.100 But he's been asking you questions about what you think about men.
01:22:41.900 No, I'm going to listen to him.
01:22:43.020 I'm asking you questions about your life.
01:22:44.380 And the first thing, when I ask one question to him, you say, I don't care.
01:22:47.740 I feel like that's, I'm very hurt.
01:22:49.740 I want to know.
01:22:50.300 Yeah, but why interrupt that?
01:22:52.700 Like when he asked you a question, what if someone said, I don't care what she says?
01:22:55.420 You know, I think that's just a little rude.
01:22:57.020 I'm saying like, because everybody's always out here.
01:23:00.060 I see your faces that you're giving her and stuff like that.
01:23:02.220 No, I just, I'm saying like, I'm letting her talk, but I just wanted to hear his opinion
01:23:05.980 on it.
01:23:06.140 So I just, was that like a little bit of insecurity to just jump and say, I don't
01:23:09.420 care.
01:23:09.660 Can I poach Candace from the daily wire?
01:23:12.060 Well, it was just a little rude.
01:23:16.060 We've all been letting people talk with different perspectives.
01:23:18.380 So I just thought it was like, suddenly he hasn't even said anything and you've already
01:23:21.580 been diminished.
01:23:25.980 So it's okay.
01:23:27.020 I just want to hear like, we've been all talking about our opinions.
01:23:30.780 I'm trying to let Brian continue and you're, you're still talking.
01:23:34.140 Okay.
01:23:34.460 A little bit of insecurity coming out over there.
01:23:36.300 I'm not sure where it's coming from, but go on.
01:23:39.580 Go ahead, Brian.
01:23:40.940 Oh, do I have your permission?
01:23:42.140 Is it okay?
01:23:43.660 Okay.
01:23:43.900 Okay.
01:23:44.140 Okay.
01:23:44.220 Cool.
01:23:44.460 Cool.
01:23:45.500 So sorry.
01:23:46.220 Can you just repeat the question one more time?
01:23:47.740 Yeah.
01:23:47.900 I was just saying like, it's interesting because we're all women and we're giving different
01:23:50.940 perspectives and the female perspective on this topic.
01:23:54.140 When you hear what she just said about sex work and how she feels about sex work, or you
01:24:00.700 hear what she's saying, or you hear what she's saying, what is your honest opinion as a man?
01:24:06.380 Because what we're trying to get to, I think the nucleus of is, you know, high value women,
01:24:12.620 high value men, what creates that, how men respond to that.
01:24:15.100 And we have the opportunity to hear a man.
01:24:16.940 I mean, I personally would not date a woman who is involved in sex work in any of its various
01:24:24.700 manifestations.
01:24:27.180 Just, I mean, it's kind of, there's, I, I'm not really like a hater if people want to
01:24:35.260 do that sort of thing when on a societal level, I don't know if it's, you know, the best thing,
01:24:41.020 but I'm kind of like, hey, whatever, go do your thing. But as far as my own personal preferences,
01:24:48.060 standards and boundaries, when it comes to a relationship, I don't foresee myself wanting
01:24:53.820 to get involved with someone who does sex work.
01:24:56.540 And why do you think that is? I think most men would agree with you. I think, and I think that
01:25:02.860 makes sense to me, but why is that? Because I think it's just interesting to hear a male perspective,
01:25:06.940 that's all. Sure. I mean, well, kind of going back to there being different levels to it.
01:25:13.740 So, I mean, if she's a prostitute or was a prostitute, I mean, it's kind of, I feel like
01:25:20.460 that's just common sense. Like, I wouldn't, no offense, I just wouldn't date a woman who's a
01:25:27.020 prostitute. I'm not offended, like I said. And probably they wouldn't want to date me. I don't
01:25:30.700 know. It's fine. It's cool. But yeah, I wouldn't, I know if you're, because I would want monogamy,
01:25:37.340 I'd want loyalty. And even though it's for work, and they're just doing it for money,
01:25:43.820 my view of sex is not, I don't think you can, well, people do, but I don't think you ought to detach
01:25:50.780 intimacy from sex. And people who engage in a lot of casual sex or people who do it for work,
01:25:55.660 you've essentially just detached intimacy from sex. So, um, definitely not a prostitute.
01:26:03.260 Um, I mean, not a stripper, not a OnlyFans. No. I feel like that was just like an unnecessarily
01:26:10.140 long way to answer. Like, no, no dude's going to want to date a hooker. I don't know. It's like,
01:26:14.060 I don't think it's like that. Yeah. And I said, I don't care because it's like, and you're like,
01:26:19.100 no, don't take offense. Like, I'm not going to take offense to something I don't care about.
01:26:22.460 That's why I'm like, no, it's just the preempt. And you stated, you were like, and you looked at
01:26:26.380 me and you said, and don't take offense. Like, baby, I'm not offended by any means.
01:26:31.340 You know what I mean? Okay. Okay. I'm not looking for, I'm not, I'm not trying to offend you.
01:26:37.180 She was just asking me. Yeah. I literally was just asking a question. No, I know. Yeah. Yeah.
01:26:40.700 Yeah. Earlier it was like talked about like promiscuity. Like I'm assuming you guys believe
01:26:44.940 like promiscuity is like bad or shouldn't be encouraged in society. I was wondering if what specific
01:26:49.900 factors do you think encourage it most? Do you believe it's like media? Do you think like birth
01:26:53.500 control has anything to do with it? Do you believe like, I want to know what your top factors
01:26:58.620 of promiscuity are and what you believe it is? Yeah. So I would say number one contributor is,
01:27:03.420 is culture and the education system. So I remember when I was left leaning, a lot of my ideas came
01:27:08.700 from the school system and just what you're talking about, Planned Parenthood in the classroom,
01:27:12.380 that effort began in the seventies. The majority of high schoolers were graduating with their
01:27:16.220 virginity intact in the seventies before they started, um, teaching health class,
01:27:21.020 which was teaching people that everybody's doing it. And actually they weren't. And within
01:27:25.100 one decade, it completely flipped. And the majority of teens were now graduating, having lost their
01:27:29.740 virginity. Um, so we ceded a lot of that to the education system, which when, when parents had more
01:27:36.460 control over their children, what was happening in the classroom was based on arithmetic and not cultural
01:27:40.460 issues and focusing on engineering children to think that sex is this positive.
01:27:45.180 Um, it, you know, it's, you just do it. Everybody's doing it. It doesn't matter if you have multiple
01:27:48.620 partners, you combine that with feminism in the classroom. I, I was forced in college to take
01:27:53.100 a feminism 101 course and they kind of made you think that, yeah.
01:27:57.740 Beat in cheeks donated $200. Candace, please tell these women their past promiscuous matters to
01:28:04.940 be with a decent guy that will not be beta males. SC, that was just a friend. We still on relax.
01:28:11.980 Just to answer my text and we good, I promise equals D.
01:28:16.380 All right. Thank you. Um, was there a question here for Candace or
01:28:22.300 wait, can I, do you mind if I push back a little bit on the education system comment? Sure. Okay.
01:28:27.500 Cause at least from the things that I've read and that I've studied, it seems like that is true,
01:28:31.900 but in a very particular context and that very particular context was like basically abstinence
01:28:37.500 only education, which I don't know about you guys, but makes complete sense to me because if you tell
01:28:41.980 teenagers like, don't do this thing, this thing is like super, you know, like don't do it. Um,
01:28:46.940 it feels super good, but you're not supposed to do it or whatever. If you phrase it that way,
01:28:50.700 then teenagers are going to go out and do it. Cause like at least everything that I've seen
01:28:54.140 recently has been talking about how, um, if you talk about proper sex ed and people who have more
01:28:59.420 access to contraceptives as well, as well as better sex ed tend to have like a lower body count than people
01:29:04.620 who are like in like lower education, less sex ed, less access to contraception. So I was just
01:29:09.340 wondering like your thoughts on that. I'm just, I'm telling you it's not true factually in the 70s
01:29:14.060 before they got Planned Parenthood went in the classroom and started funding initiatives. Um,
01:29:17.980 and they started teaching sex education. They used to know, they used to not be sex education in school
01:29:22.700 and the way that they got it into the classroom in the 70s was by saying, you know, it's better to teach
01:29:27.420 them, which is what you're saying, because then they'll be more responsible. It actually, within one decade,
01:29:31.500 it flipped. The majority of high schoolers were graduating with their virginity before there was
01:29:35.180 sex education. And then when they put sex education in the classroom, the majority of them within 10
01:29:39.660 years were, were not graduating with their virginity. So it actually sexualized children.
01:29:43.820 Yeah. My understanding, but the reason why was because the first manifestations of sex education
01:29:49.500 was abstinence only. And it was working is what I'm saying to you. Oh, yeah, it was working. So they,
01:29:54.460 abstinence, it used to be, you know, considered and I'm not at all trying to, I'm just telling you what the facts are here.
01:29:59.580 Um, like when people, when abstinence was the cultural simulation, when everyone said you
01:30:04.940 should be abstinent, you should not get, you should not have sex before marriage. That idea
01:30:09.420 was permeated throughout culture. It was reflected in culture. There were no sex ads. There weren't
01:30:13.180 people naked on the internet and people lived their lives. It was considered a big thing, you know,
01:30:18.780 to lose your virginity. You were actually considered someone that maybe a guy wouldn't want to marry
01:30:21.980 because you lost your virginity. That was, that was the cultural understanding, like, you know,
01:30:25.660 in the fifties and the sixties. And then in the seventies, you had this fourth wave of feminism
01:30:30.140 that reared its ugly head and started associating sexual promiscuity to freedom and things completely
01:30:35.900 flipped. Again, I'm just giving you a historical analysis of what happened in the classroom.
01:30:39.740 Yeah, I'd be interested. Without commentary. Yeah, it's okay if you, sorry, I'll just finish.
01:30:43.900 Make it quick if you can. Yeah, I'd be interested to see, like, where exactly you're getting that from.
01:30:48.140 If, like, later you can tell me or whatever. Thomas Sowell inside the education system.
01:30:51.820 Okay. And he has all of the sources listed in the back of the book. Okay. Because
01:30:55.580 at least in modern day, do you think that any of that has flipped or no? No, I think we've become,
01:31:00.380 you know, there was, to use a term, I was, I was actually talking about this yesterday on a podcast.
01:31:03.900 I thought it was pretty brilliant, but Paul Joseph Watson, I love his YouTube stuff. And he started
01:31:07.820 talking about hoflation. That is, that's a thing. Actually hilarious, which he's saying that men
01:31:14.380 used to have to do a lot less and get a very high value women. He's like, so think about your
01:31:18.620 grandparents and your grandmother. She was a high value woman. She, you know, she raised the kids.
01:31:24.300 She was conservative. She was beautiful, all of these things. And now we live in this moment where
01:31:28.780 everyone's kind of a hoe and you have to work harder to get a woman that doesn't have any self
01:31:32.860 respect or any value. And I just thought it was really interesting video. It was obviously funny,
01:31:37.100 but he was saying something and we live in, we live in hoflation now where everybody in their own
01:31:41.820 capacity is selling their, selling their bodies. And unfortunately, this, these are the options
01:31:46.780 that men have. No, I'm not saying it's stunning to me that women talk about what men need to be
01:31:51.420 and what men need to be. But I think just kind of the complete disintegration of when I look at,
01:31:56.300 you know, what my grandpa, my grandmother looks like in pictures, she passed in 2013 and just how
01:32:01.500 classy and how beautiful and how much I wanted to be like her. And now I look at, you know, women today
01:32:05.820 and I just think, man, I feel bad for guys, like, you know, that the pool is getting smaller,
01:32:10.460 but also it's really positive for women that are conservative and, you know, who, uh, it means
01:32:15.820 that you're a part of, you know, maybe a smaller pool of individuals. I see it a lot more in the
01:32:19.980 South and that men should aspire to pursue those women. Absolutely. Um, to raise their families
01:32:25.100 and, you know, to raise their kids. Do you, do you cosign on the, the hoflation? Oh yeah,
01:32:29.580 I believe. Yeah. The women I today are very low value. And so it's funny because the simulation is like,
01:32:35.020 men ain't shit is kind of the thing. Everybody's saying don't need a man. And it's funny that
01:32:39.740 someone brought up Beyonce because she's living the exact opposite of what she's singing. She's
01:32:43.180 just making money because she's making, knows how to make money in a hoflationary environment,
01:32:47.580 you know, smart woman. She's like, I'm just going to pretend to be a ho, but then actually privately,
01:32:51.180 I'm going to be like super, like, hold on. Um, you wanted to come in, then you please, if you can,
01:32:57.500 try to keep it brief. Cause I need to get to chat. Oh, I was just going to say that my version of sex
01:33:02.220 educator, my sex education was literally them showing us a birthing photo or a video. Sorry. Yeah. In
01:33:07.980 fourth grade. That terrified me. And I was like, actually, I don't think I'm going to have sex for
01:33:11.260 a long time. I think I'm good. And like, speaking of hoflation, I mean, we're common,
01:33:17.660 we're always trending apparently. Right. Because hoes, because without us hoes,
01:33:24.220 you wouldn't have like that many views to be watching. Right. You have hoes come on the podcast
01:33:30.060 to talk about our, I'm not knocking hoes. I'm saying you have hoes. And when I say you have hoes coming
01:33:36.780 onto the podcast, you, you know, you're a ho. Do you mean a literal ho or like more of a
01:33:41.100 the colloquial? That's Brian's dream. You know what I mean? You have hoes, Brian. So you sit here and
01:33:45.980 you want to bash sex workers, but you know, we come on here. When did I bash anybody? I don't think
01:33:50.460 anybody is bashing. He's bringing you on here and giving you a platform to speak. So I think that
01:33:55.020 if he was going to be bashing you, he wouldn't even allow anybody on. The hero of hoes, if you will.
01:33:59.100 Wait, what do you mean making, making, making what? Making a scene. I'm not making anybody seem
01:34:04.780 any sort of like. No, I'm just talking about a video. We're a trending topic. So it's relevant
01:34:09.420 to speak on. Because it's interesting. It's fascinating. I am fascinated by hoes. I'll say it.
01:34:14.140 I'm absolutely fascinated by the way the whole mind works, the way the whole hive works. I'm
01:34:19.180 fascinated. Next documentary. I cover it on my show. You are correct. It is trending. When Emma gets up
01:34:24.380 and does a video and says something like, you know, I'm, it's chic to be divorced before you're 30. It is
01:34:28.940 absolutely fascinating to see how someone's mind can be so warped, you know, in the same way that
01:34:34.380 I think it's, it's fascinating when anybody does anything crazy or says anything crazy and I cover
01:34:37.980 it on my podcast, you know, I am not knocking it at all. I just tell people what the facts are.
01:34:42.860 You can choose this lifestyle. And here is where you are 99.9% likely to lead into in your life,
01:34:49.260 right? You are probably not destined for marriage. You're not probably not destined for a stable
01:34:53.660 relationship. Men are going to not want this long-term. You can say it a thousand times,
01:34:57.100 you can have a thousand cultural examples and women's still got to go out there and be hoes,
01:35:01.020 you know, because they're about they money and about a Cardi B song or whatever it is. So yes,
01:35:05.740 I think it is fascinating. And it is why I wanted to, you know, this is why I talk about on my podcast
01:35:12.060 and why I'm very interested to talk to you guys. I hope you guys feel that I've been respectful
01:35:15.260 and listening to, you know, your lifestyles, even though it's so different from mine. And so I appreciate
01:35:19.980 Brian for hosting. Well, thank you for coming, Candice. Let's see, I have a couple chats here and then I
01:35:24.700 have one more question. And then I think Candice will have to leave here in a moment. We have
01:35:30.300 Yvonne. Oh, okay. Modern life dating donated $199. Hey, Candice, thank you for being a voice of
01:35:38.940 common sense and a good representation of being a decent woman in today's modern perverse time.
01:35:44.540 What are your thoughts on the passport bro movement of men leaving America for better wives abroad?
01:35:49.980 Hey, John, thank you very much for the TTS. Maybe a brief little snippet on this if you can.
01:35:55.580 Yes. Yeah. I think that you can find higher quality women in other places. Like I married
01:36:01.260 an Englishman. I'm, I think America. Are you a passport, not a bro, but like a passport sis?
01:36:07.980 Passport sis. There you go. Yeah. I think that America has really lowered the cultural standards
01:36:13.900 for women more than any, you don't see this kind of, even the way women dress in America compared to
01:36:18.940 England fascinates me. And so, yeah, I, I think find a wife, do what you gotta do, but also don't discount the
01:36:24.540 South because there are so many good women in the South in America come to Tennessee. They're wonderful.
01:36:31.260 I have heard something kind of interesting on this is that, uh, you have a lot of men in the West,
01:36:37.260 a lot of men in the U S going overseas to try to find perhaps a wife who's a bit more feminine or,
01:36:43.820 you know, whatever they're not finding here in the, in the West, but you don't hear of men
01:36:49.020 from other countries in droves coming to the U S to find a wife here.
01:36:56.300 You don't really hear that. So, um, all right, we have Yvonne, Yvonne St. Simon is Kansas. I know
01:37:03.420 you're listening to these women with a realization that this country is doomed. How will you help your
01:37:07.820 son navigate the swamp before you right now? And if we can just try to be, I moved to the South.
01:37:14.940 As soon as I got pregnant, the first time I moved where my values aligned and my son will be just fine.
01:37:19.580 Perfect. We have a goodest boy. One of them is too young to remember the movie. Pretty woman.
01:37:24.540 Imagine a guy just wanting a better life for the both of you and maybe even a family. Again,
01:37:28.700 the world is effed. Hey, goodest boy. Thank you. Uh, Yvonne Candace. Do you think Lyndon B.
01:37:33.580 Johnson has anything to do with the fact that these women that have an only fans are actually able to
01:37:38.300 find a relationship with a man? I don't know how we correlated Lyndon B. Johnson to the only fans account.
01:37:43.500 LBJ? Yeah. Are you familiar with anything with LBJ? Of course. Okay. Yvonne St. Simonis.
01:37:53.260 Candace, what specific steps will you take to ensure that your daughter does not
01:37:56.940 become one of the women sitting at the panel right now? It would just be impossible in my household.
01:38:02.300 We keep her away from this kind of secular living, keeping them away from tablets, not letting them be
01:38:07.820 raised on Instagram and social media and TikTok, making sure that they have family values instilled in
01:38:12.940 them, that they know what the cross represents. Um, and that, you know, they're, they're church
01:38:18.220 going children and it's all about who you hang out with. You be, you will become the average of the
01:38:21.980 people you spend your most time with. And I, you know, I appreciate the time here, but I would
01:38:27.020 definitely would say that, you know, I want my kids to be in a different climate. All right. We have
01:38:31.660 the cast man 777 marriage must be a closed and permanent relationship between two people for the
01:38:36.700 purpose of raising children without this definition. Marriage just becomes dating with a contract,
01:38:42.220 sending your husband to a sex therapist for sex is just prostitution with a loophole. Hey,
01:38:48.140 the cast man 777. Thank you very much for your comment there. Uh, final question here before,
01:38:53.820 uh, Candace has to take off. Uh, so, um, would any of you date a trans person?
01:39:01.500 Yes. Yes. Yes. Yeah. I feel like if I say no, I'm going to get a lot of backlash. Well,
01:39:09.820 I think my personal preference, I would say no. Okay. That's fine. No, no, no. Well, you're married.
01:39:16.060 Um, me, me personally, I, I, I would not. Um, my question to you guys is, would any of you object
01:39:23.740 to a man not wanting to date a transgender woman? I think everybody has their own personal
01:39:31.180 preferences. And if there's one thing you're allowed to be super picky on, it's who you date.
01:39:35.900 Like, you know, I think that's the only thing that you can 100% have free reign on. You can date
01:39:41.180 who you decide. Any, I would completely agree with her. Like we talked about before, I think that
01:39:46.940 everyone should have boundaries, you know, and as long as that person's upfront and honest and they can
01:39:51.580 have like a adult conversation that isn't rooted in hatred, I don't think there's anything wrong with
01:39:56.140 preferring somebody that isn't trans. Okay. I have a question. So, and we, this has been like a thing
01:40:01.900 that's gone viral on this podcast before. Um, and it's always seems to spark quite a debate. So
01:40:09.180 would you consider it to be gay for a man to date a trans woman? Yes. For a man to date? No, personally.
01:40:18.940 Would he, would you categorize him as straight? Um, probably, yeah. Because what is it?
01:40:26.540 I'm sorry. This is like too technical. I mean, I'm like, I just. If you don't want to answer,
01:40:32.140 that's fine. Go ahead. If you don't want to answer, that's fine. Go ahead. I'm with Pixie.
01:40:35.420 I don't think that that makes me gay at all. What do you, Essie? I have no clue.
01:40:39.500 For not to answer? Yeah. Okay. Um, question. I mean, does your answer change based on the
01:40:45.100 stage of transition? Like what if this is before any transition has occurred at all,
01:40:49.900 but the person has come to the realization that they are transgender? Well, I would assume that
01:40:57.500 you have some level of like homosexual inclination. If you're a man attracted to a person who looks and
01:41:03.180 represents as a man, you know, like if you're saying pre-transition, I would say like you're,
01:41:08.460 if you're attracted to those components of that person. But pre-transition, if you are transgender,
01:41:13.740 are you a woman? Pre-transition, you're a woman who hasn't transitioned yet. So you're presenting as
01:41:19.740 a male. What if there hasn't been any bottom surgery? What do you mean? Like there's still
01:41:27.180 an appendage. So you're saying they transitioned everything, but they're bottom. I there, maybe
01:41:34.540 they're in the process of transitioning. Let's say, fine, everything, but the... Okay. I feel like
01:41:39.900 I'm kind of confused here. So I'll just leave it in the, in these sentences. It seems really technical.
01:41:43.420 Two people that have penises. I don't care how you feel on your inside. I don't care if you dress
01:41:47.900 and you wear a dress, you wear a wig. If you come together and you have sex, you're gay. And I
01:41:53.340 think that is homosexual, right? So I know that people are trying, it's, it is convoluted. So I understand
01:41:58.860 why you're like, they're trying to make it something else and it's in your head. And well, what if you feel like a woman?
01:42:04.140 It's very simple. If you are a man and you are having sex with a man, irrespective of how you
01:42:09.020 feel or whether or not you've mutilated your body or you've chopped something off, it doesn't make you
01:42:13.660 not a man. You are your man. And two men coming together to have sex with their appendages intact,
01:42:20.460 obviously is homosexual sex. So yeah, I think, um, you know, it's different if you're presenting
01:42:26.060 completely different because at that point, like, you know, you have men who say that they've been
01:42:30.540 trapped or whatever. And I'm like, that person is straight. They literally slept with someone who
01:42:34.700 was like presenting as a woman, looked like a woman they couldn't tell. Like, I wouldn't consider
01:42:38.940 that gay. Um, but at the end of the day, like, honestly, I don't really care about people's sexual
01:42:43.580 orientation that much. I feel like this is like kind of a culture war issue. And for some people,
01:42:47.660 culture war issues are important, but I'd rather talk like policy about something. I don't know if that
01:42:51.820 makes me boring here, but. Well, I'm not sure I'm totally following, but I guess, so what is a woman?
01:43:04.460 I've answered this question before on the podcast. Here, I can start with Azalea. Did I say your
01:43:08.140 name or I'm sorry? No, you never do, but it's okay. Okay, go ahead. So what is a woman? I mean, I think that
01:43:15.020 gender is a spectrum. I obviously know that you do not agree with me and a lot of the conservative
01:43:18.620 people here won't agree with me, but I guess it's just how you present and how you feel.
01:43:22.540 I mean, I don't really, again, I don't like to structure things that way and like make it so
01:43:26.220 black and white. I think that people should represent themselves and be what they want to
01:43:29.820 be. And it's nobody else's business, to be honest. A female is somebody that has a vagina.
01:43:34.940 That's what it says in the book, right? Okay, cool. The Bible? The health ed book.
01:43:42.860 Gender and sex are two different things, so. Okay. You answered the question correctly,
01:43:47.020 so I don't want you to feel like you didn't even treat it wrong. What is a woman?
01:43:49.900 A woman is somebody. I'm like, this is so complex. I'm scared.
01:43:51.980 It doesn't need to be. It doesn't need to be. A woman is somebody who presents or acts as
01:43:56.300 the social construct of women. And the reason why I don't say biology is because whenever we look at
01:44:00.780 biology, the truth is, before coming to this room, I did not look at anybody's genitalia here. I did not
01:44:06.300 look at any of your chromosomes. I just assumed you guys were women because of how you dress and act.
01:44:10.940 So I think that maps on more to our reality of how we use the word woman.
01:44:16.700 Essie? This is so controversial. I'm very, like, a man and a woman. Man has a penis. Woman has a vagina.
01:44:25.740 Biologically, man and a woman. I agree. I think that it's like whatever biologically and anatomically
01:44:32.700 what you've got going on. I feel like what brings out my feminine qualities the most is the thought
01:44:41.740 of being a mother in the future. So I guess I associate being a woman with being a mother in
01:44:47.820 all aspects of that. Okay. Your gender is decided before you're born, when you're born, and for the
01:44:56.620 rest of your life. I'm having a little boy. The doctor knows that. I know that because he's got a penis.
01:45:02.700 It's growing inside of my stomach right now, which is kind of tricky to think about.
01:45:06.620 If I get onto this table and I start meowing like a cat, I don't suddenly become a biological cat
01:45:11.500 because I present like a cat and wear a tail and say meow, meow. That probably means that I need to
01:45:17.420 talk to a therapist. Not you. Not you. But yeah, it's not that difficult. It doesn't need to be
01:45:24.460 convoluted. It doesn't need to be controversial. A woman, to answer your question, is an adult female.
01:45:30.780 Adult human female. It is an adult human female. And that is the answer to something that it's just
01:45:38.220 shocking to me that every person knew, every child, every, and then within just a couple of cultural
01:45:44.300 years, everyone is so confused about, you know, water being a liquid. It's very, again, I'm fascinated by
01:45:51.740 it. So I love to talk to people that are confused by that. But if you were born with a vagina,
01:45:56.620 you are a female. And if you were born with a penis, you are a male. And if you had some rare
01:46:03.900 thing happen, which hardly ever happens, but people always talk about it, where you're born with both
01:46:08.780 parts, you might be intersex, hermaphrodite. But generally speaking, I think we know that that
01:46:15.100 means that something genetically went wrong and we are born either male or female.
01:46:19.500 Pixie, do you object to her definition? Yeah, because I think, I understand where you're coming
01:46:24.620 from. But I think when it comes to day-to-day use of words, they have to map onto our reality somewhat.
01:46:29.900 And the truth is like, as I didn't check anyone's like biology or chromosomes before coming here,
01:46:34.780 you can say it's an act. But the truth is, that's, it's an act that everybody plays into. Everybody looks
01:46:39.740 at how a person looks like and says, oh, they're a woman or male based off of that. And you can say,
01:46:44.620 oh, that person is putting on a disguise that doesn't change their real gender or anything.
01:46:49.580 But everybody acts that way. So to me, it's like, no, like the word that maps or the definition that
01:46:55.660 maps most onto reality, onto our day-to-day usage is appearance based.
01:46:59.660 Uh, Candace does have to take off here. Do you have a final response to her?
01:47:05.020 Yeah, I just, if you grow an afro and wear a wig and put, you know, a lot of black makeup on,
01:47:09.740 you're not a black woman, you know? So your appearance doesn't actually mean anything.
01:47:13.820 You are, you're, you're not black. Um, and the same way that I'm not white. So how we,
01:47:19.900 if we can trick someone, you might be able to trick me. I think Roy Richard Dolezal did a really
01:47:23.420 good job tricking people into believing that she was black for a long time, uh, by darkening her
01:47:27.820 skin, getting super tan and wearing fake wigs, but she wasn't actually a black woman. So how you feel
01:47:32.460 on the inside and how you present, you might be able to trick people, but that makes you a liar,
01:47:36.700 not a woman. So, um, yeah, that's what I would say in closing. Yeah. If you want, you could direct
01:47:42.540 your further comments to me afterwards, but, um, guys, please be sure to check out Candace Owens'
01:47:48.700 documentary. Yes. Convicting a murderer. You guys will love it. Tomorrow. It's not political.
01:47:53.020 Yeah. I'm going to watch it tomorrow. It'll be live on X. Live on X and the dailywire.com.
01:47:58.060 Okay. Yeah, cool. Um, yeah, be sure to check that out guys. Well, Candace,
01:48:01.900 thank you so much for coming. Thank you guys for having me. And honestly, I really did appreciate
01:48:04.540 talking to you guys. I thought it was fascinating. And I think everyone was super respectful. So
01:48:07.740 I really appreciate it. And you, cause you're so young, I'm just going to say a prayer for you
01:48:12.300 because I, I do think, I really do believe that in there, there's just a different life for you.
01:48:17.900 And I'm just going to say a prayer for you tonight. And I just wanted to say that because I felt
01:48:21.020 for me tonight. I mean, cause I don't know what that prayer entails.
01:48:24.300 Well, I'm going to say it anyways. Yeah. Someday you might.
01:48:27.820 Are you, you're rejecting the prayer. Prayer is rejected. Okay.
01:48:30.860 I am rejecting your prayer. The show goes on, but Candace is, is leaving guys.
01:48:35.100 Give me just a sec to say goodbye. So nice to meet you guys.
01:48:37.900 Yo guys, W's in the chat for Candace. W's in the chat for Candace. 07's in the chat for Candace.
01:48:42.700 Sorry. Let me, I'll scoot over a little bit. Yeah. If I want to be a ho, I'll be a ho.
01:48:46.940 Guys, give me just a sec while I say goodbye. And then we'll, we'll continue with the stream.