Whatever Podcast - Dating Talk #1

00:00:00.000 Can we get a one in the chat if you can hear and see us?

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00:00:06.960 In any case, welcome to the whatever show.

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00:02:58.400 Without further ado, let's get right into it.

00:03:02.680 So we're going to have the guests, the panel, introduce themselves.

00:03:05.780 So please tell us your name, age, occupation, relationship status, starting with you.

00:03:13.020 Okay.

00:03:13.900 Hi, I'm Jane.

00:03:15.560 I'm 21.

00:03:16.560 No, I'm 23.

00:03:18.980 It happened in COVID.

00:03:20.480 So I'm 23.

00:03:21.180 I do OnlyFans and modeling, and I'm single right now.

00:03:29.320 Hey, I'm Maya.

00:03:31.400 I'm 20 years old, and I'm currently a volleyball coach, and I'm single right now.

00:03:38.200 Hi, I'm Kate.

00:03:39.560 I'm 21.

00:03:41.220 I'm a student and social media person.

00:03:45.380 And I'm single.

00:03:49.700 Age?

00:03:50.780 21, I would just say.

00:03:51.880 And you said social media, like, so what?

00:03:54.860 Instagram.

00:03:56.060 Okay.

00:03:56.520 And are you in school right now?

00:03:58.020 Yeah, I'm in college.

00:03:59.920 Studying?

00:04:00.640 Studying psychology.

00:04:02.100 Okay.

00:04:02.900 And you're in college too, right?

00:04:04.120 Did you say what your major was?

00:04:05.180 No, I'm a psychology major.

00:04:06.640 Oh, wow.

00:04:07.220 Okay.

00:04:07.480 I'm Elyse.

00:04:10.300 I'm 19.

00:04:11.640 I'm taken.

00:04:13.020 And I'm a business major.

00:04:14.380 No, I'm a biology major, and I am a student athlete.

00:04:19.540 I'm Rachel.

00:04:20.980 I'm 35, and I have an art business, and I'm single.

00:04:30.560 Hey, I'm Hensley.

00:04:31.920 I'm 22.

00:04:33.040 I am currently a stripper, and what was the other one?

00:04:36.520 Oh, and I'm single.

00:04:37.480 At school at all, or?

00:04:40.540 Yeah, I go to school too.

00:04:41.760 I'm in college.

00:04:42.260 And do you strip at the Spearmint, or where do you strip?

00:04:45.260 Yeah.

00:04:45.760 I do too.

00:04:47.080 Really?

00:04:47.420 I'm also a stripper.

00:04:49.420 I didn't know this.

00:04:50.500 Do you guys know each other?

00:04:51.240 Oh, yeah.

00:04:51.840 Just a little.

00:04:52.380 Okay. 0.99

00:04:52.880 I've seen her tits. 1.00

00:04:54.300 Okay. 0.98

00:04:55.280 And by the way, for anyone who doesn't know the Spearmint Rhino here in Santa Barbara,

00:04:59.440 it's a gentleman club, gentleman's club.

00:05:02.120 Come support us.

00:05:02.780 I'm working to take your money.

00:05:05.280 Is it?

00:05:05.820 Is it full nudity?

00:05:08.920 Yeah.

00:05:09.640 Coochie out. 0.97

00:05:10.660 And so that means, by the way, just talking to the microphone.

00:05:13.000 Oh, coochie out. 1.00

00:05:13.480 Yeah.

00:05:13.580 Right up to the mic.

00:05:15.340 So does that mean that you can't serve alcohol there because it's full?

00:05:18.780 No alcohol, but a lot of fun.

00:05:20.860 Okay.

00:05:22.380 Okay.

00:05:22.840 By the way, we got our first super chat.

00:05:25.440 Chris, can you just highlight the super chat you showed on stream?

00:05:32.280 Six four, but still getting no play.

00:05:34.680 Hey, man.

00:05:35.360 That's tough.

00:05:37.300 That's unfortunate.

00:05:39.720 Sorry.

00:05:39.960 Anyways, okay.

00:05:45.220 So quick, light, fun question.

00:05:47.680 By the way, guys, this is our first show, so we appreciate you just kind of taking it easy

00:05:52.600 on us as we're figuring out the kinks here.

00:05:55.360 Quick, light, fun question just to start us off.

00:05:58.960 So let's say the guy's chatting you up at the party, club, bar, Trader Joe's, probation

00:06:06.140 office, because, I mean, there's a criminal element amongst this panel, I can feel.

00:06:11.720 And you like him, right?

00:06:13.560 He's good looking.

00:06:14.300 He's your type, whatever.

00:06:15.920 He asks for your number, right?

00:06:18.220 And he reaches into his pocket and pulls out a flip phone.

00:06:25.480 Do you reconsider giving him your number?

00:06:28.420 No.

00:06:29.120 No.

00:06:29.740 No way.

00:06:30.820 You give him your panties then at that point.

00:06:33.360 You give him the panties. 0.51

00:06:34.460 Oh, absolutely.

00:06:35.240 The flip phone, yeah.

00:06:36.760 Okay.

00:06:37.160 Panty dropping.

00:06:38.140 Okay.

00:06:39.000 But it wouldn't deter you.

00:06:41.000 I would be deterred, just because I don't know if you could have any apps on a flip

00:06:45.900 phone, and I like to Snapchat and do Instagram instead of text.

00:06:49.960 Okay.

00:06:50.840 Okay.

00:06:51.440 I like a man with no social media, so I would like that.

00:06:54.980 Okay.

00:06:55.400 Yeah.

00:06:56.020 Yeah, I agree with Maya.

00:06:57.300 No social media is, like, the best.

00:06:59.520 Yeah.

00:07:01.360 He could have multiple phones.

00:07:03.460 I mean, I know a lot of drug dealers.

00:07:06.200 Okay.

00:07:06.680 So it could be a trap phone.

00:07:07.780 Well, it would be one of my normal day-to-days to know somebody who has multiple phones, and

00:07:16.220 you're not always going to buy an iPhone, right?

00:07:18.940 Right.

00:07:19.380 Just for texting.

00:07:20.680 Okay.

00:07:21.420 What about if he pulled out this phone?

00:07:27.100 Here, we'll start here, with Jane.

00:07:31.180 Yeah.

00:07:31.520 Hell no.

00:07:32.940 Just, like, walk away.

00:07:35.060 Run, actually.

00:07:36.100 Run away.

00:07:36.820 Can we get a close-up on the phone, Chris?

00:07:40.280 This looks catchy.

00:07:42.880 It's an 80s.

00:07:43.520 Okay.

00:07:44.800 Any thoughts?

00:07:46.100 Yeah.

00:07:46.580 No, thank you.

00:07:47.940 Okay.

00:07:48.540 No.

00:07:48.960 It's a deal breaker.

00:07:49.640 All right, guys.

00:07:51.100 That's a red flag.

00:07:51.980 It's a red flag.

00:07:53.280 Got it.

00:07:53.500 Yeah.

00:07:53.680 I don't feel like a knipper.

00:07:56.060 Got it.

00:07:58.380 Okay.

00:07:59.120 So, first question of the night, and this is sort of the namesake of the title of the show.

00:08:05.880 Does a guy's height matter?

00:08:09.640 And, Hensley, we're going to start with you.

00:08:11.940 Um, well, I think a guy, if he's short, he can't be skinny, too.

00:08:19.620 Like, he can be my height or a little shorter, but he has to make up for that in girth, not sexually. 0.99

00:08:27.280 So, penis size. 0.99

00:08:28.920 No. 1.00

00:08:29.640 Oh, girth.

00:08:30.580 Like, just, oh, muscularity, physique.

00:08:33.640 I want you to pick you up.

00:08:35.180 Yeah, absolutely.

00:08:36.420 Throw you around.

00:08:37.260 Okay.

00:08:38.060 Got it.

00:08:39.100 So, height, not such a big deal.

00:08:41.320 Well, at least, is your height or taller, or you're a short guy?

00:08:44.480 I mean, it can even be a couple inches shorter, as long as it's not short and skinny, because then you're just small.

00:08:49.840 You're not short.

00:08:50.560 Okay.

00:08:50.800 So, manlet.

00:08:51.780 Like, a short, just ripped guy will do it for you.

00:08:54.760 Okay.

00:08:55.500 Oh, no manlets.

00:08:57.040 So, a manlet is just short, but super jacked.

00:09:00.540 Yeah, I can see that.

00:09:01.280 That's fine.

00:09:01.860 Okay.

00:09:02.300 Got it.

00:09:04.720 Rachel.

00:09:06.520 To the mic.

00:09:07.800 Height matters.

00:09:10.840 Okay.

00:09:11.320 Um, I guess I just don't want to kiss down.

00:09:16.980 Like, I'll take care of you, baby.

00:09:21.880 So, like, what, I guess, ideal height for you.

00:09:24.860 Imagine he's, like, which is cute, like, a model type with, like, the body and everything, but I'm, like, curvy, and so I don't think it would fit.

00:09:34.660 He'd be, like, wouldn't look right.

00:09:37.280 Okay.

00:09:38.480 Got it.

00:09:39.460 Not that I care what other people think.

00:09:41.460 It's just, I see myself in him in my mind, and if it's wrong, I just...

00:09:48.720 Okay.

00:09:50.560 I'm talking, like, at least two inches shorter or more.

00:09:56.560 It's, that's the cutoff.

00:09:58.140 But, so, you would date a guy like your height?

00:10:00.660 Um, yeah, my height.

00:10:02.100 Or above.

00:10:03.160 And how tall are you?

00:10:04.700 Five, seven.

00:10:05.520 Five, seven.

00:10:06.000 Okay.

00:10:06.600 Got it.

00:10:07.780 Yeah, height definitely matters.

00:10:09.300 I'm 5'11", so I need a guy who's taller than me so we can have some B1 babies. 1.00

00:10:14.180 There you go.

00:10:14.800 How tall is your current boyfriend?

00:10:16.820 Uh, six, two.

00:10:18.220 Six, two.

00:10:18.920 Yeah.

00:10:19.100 Okay.

00:10:20.100 So...

00:10:20.540 Have you ever dated a guy shorter than you?

00:10:22.220 Ever.

00:10:22.920 Never?

00:10:23.360 Never.

00:10:23.680 Okay.

00:10:23.920 Only tall guys.

00:10:24.960 Only tall guys.

00:10:25.700 Yeah.

00:10:26.160 I can't do short ones.

00:10:27.220 Got it.

00:10:27.540 It's just so unfortunate.

00:10:28.800 Okay.

00:10:29.040 Uh, I think, um, height is measured to me, and I like the guys, like, uh, six feet and

00:10:36.080 taller than me, because I'm myself 5'9", and I, like, I don't know how to explain it,

00:10:43.720 but I, like, feel like a little girl when a guy, like, taller than me, and he, like, can

00:10:48.300 pick me up, carry around, you know?

00:10:51.160 So, I like this feeling.

00:10:52.760 Okay.

00:10:53.560 You know, be protected also.

00:10:55.780 Got it.

00:10:56.180 Um, I don't personally care that much.

00:11:00.080 A lot of my exes have been really short, but not shorter than me.

00:11:04.760 That's, like, my cutoff.

00:11:06.220 Okay.

00:11:06.540 Not shorter than you.

00:11:07.280 But I don't really care.

00:11:08.640 I think you just need confidence, and that's okay.

00:11:13.100 Um, yeah.

00:11:13.840 I definitely agree on the confidence.

00:11:15.620 Um, I've dated some short kings, and I'm 5'3", but I like to wear heels all the time.

00:11:21.080 But if I'm taller than the guy with heels on, I'm totally fine with that.

00:11:25.320 Um, I think it's kind of hot to, like, switch it up.

00:11:28.540 Um, so, yeah, I've never cared.

00:11:30.560 As long as, like, you can't be short and insecure.

00:11:32.700 You have to own your shortness, because you can't change it.

00:11:35.260 So, you just, you have to own it.

00:11:38.300 So, various dating apps.

00:11:42.380 Are any of you on any dating apps?

00:11:44.500 Maybe a show of hands.

00:11:45.440 Just, are you on a dating app or have been on a dating app?

00:11:49.420 Yeah.

00:11:50.060 Okay.

00:11:51.040 So, I, I don't know, um, if Tinder, is anyone on Tinder right now?

00:11:55.740 Yeah.

00:11:56.000 Do they have a height section?

00:11:57.280 Because I haven't been on Tinder in a minute.

00:11:58.780 I think on Hinge.

00:12:00.480 I don't know about Tinder.

00:12:00.880 I know on Hinge.

00:12:01.800 I know on Hinge they have a...

00:12:02.900 It's in Bumble.

00:12:03.040 Yeah, Hinge and Bumble, they have a height section. 0.95

00:12:07.600 But, do you, what do you think about if, you know, in the same way that there's a height

00:12:13.320 field on Bumble and Hinge, if there was a weight field, what do you, what do you think about

00:12:19.740 that?

00:12:20.040 Jane, let's start with you. 0.99

00:12:20.880 Um, I personally think that height and weight are just things that don't matter to me necessarily.

00:12:26.440 Like, I'd like to meet the person first and see how we vibe.

00:12:29.160 Um, so I personally wouldn't put my height or my weight on a dating app.

00:12:33.140 I think that's, like, kind of weird.

00:12:34.620 Like, no one needs that info.

00:12:35.840 You can just meet them in person first.

00:12:37.920 Um, but if it matters to some people, then I hope you find that.

00:12:43.520 Yeah, I agree with that.

00:12:44.800 I don't think weight really matters.

00:12:47.260 Neither does height.

00:12:48.200 And I think if you like their photos and they're not a catfish, then it really doesn't matter.

00:12:54.460 Uh, I mean, I rely on his personality.

00:12:57.920 And I don't really care much about weight.

00:13:01.140 At least, I mean, how he treats me.

00:13:04.420 Okay.

00:13:05.340 I mean, to be honest, it's all about preference.

00:13:07.340 See, like, height and weight.

00:13:09.000 I mean, everyone's different.

00:13:10.120 So I think if they're going to put height, they might as well put weight.

00:13:13.220 If you're going to care about one thing, you might as well care about the other.

00:13:15.900 Got it.

00:13:16.220 Um, I think I'd just get confused if they put weight, and then I'd have to think about a

00:13:23.220 whole nother thing.

00:13:24.740 Height, I'm sure about, and whole ratio thing of, like, how much he should weigh if he's

00:13:30.940 6'4 versus 5'8 is too complicated for me.

00:13:37.060 So I'd rather not see it.

00:13:38.900 Might scare me off.

00:13:40.100 Um, I feel like those on dating apps, it kind of goes by if you want to volunteer that

00:13:46.580 information.

00:13:47.200 And I feel like the people who would want to volunteer the information of their weight

00:13:50.720 are probably the guys that are a little too much into their weight.

00:13:54.860 So for me, it would almost be like a red flag.

00:13:57.260 If you put your height and weight, it'd be like, we get it.

00:13:59.200 Okay, cool.

00:14:00.320 Could have found that out myself.

00:14:01.600 Got it.

00:14:02.980 Got it.

00:14:03.680 Okay.

00:14:04.700 So you would all be in favor of a weight field on a dating app for both men and women, like

00:14:16.320 a weight, you know how there's a height and weight field?

00:14:19.380 I think it's just a red flag.

00:14:21.020 Like she said, somebody put a weight in their profile.

00:14:25.060 Okay.

00:14:25.320 I feel like maybe they're lying.

00:14:27.480 Like most guys lie on Tinder about their height.

00:14:30.320 About the height.

00:14:30.800 Yeah.

00:14:30.940 Yes.

00:14:31.740 They round up.

00:14:32.720 They round up.

00:14:33.480 Yes.

00:14:34.360 You.

00:14:35.300 Okay.

00:14:36.920 So next question, sort of related to the height thing.

00:14:40.720 Does a guy's size matter in the bulge?

00:14:46.880 Start with over here.

00:14:50.460 It's the motion of the ocean kind of thing.

00:14:52.980 I know that's a lame answer, but I mean like, yeah, it's more how long they last and what they

00:14:57.400 do with it.

00:14:58.100 It's kind of like with the height, if it's too far off, it can be a problem, but for the

00:15:07.220 most part, there's like a really big zone.

00:15:10.280 It's fine.

00:15:12.060 Big zone?

00:15:12.880 Yeah.

00:15:13.760 Like the zone is big.

00:15:16.340 There's a zone of like, that's okay.

00:15:23.900 Normal is like a flexible.

00:15:28.340 Okay.

00:15:28.820 I think it just depends, like how you work with it.

00:15:35.300 That's all that really matters.

00:15:36.540 I don't think it matters.

00:15:37.880 So yeah.

00:15:38.420 I just think it matters and all, all matters how he use it because it can be small or big

00:15:48.800 and he can know how to use it or not.

00:15:52.180 So I think it does matter.

00:15:55.240 I don't, it just has to be above average.

00:15:58.640 And yeah, it's about the motion of the ocean, but with the size.

00:16:05.000 Yeah. 0.99

00:16:05.440 From experience, I've literally been with a guy with like a micro dick and I've been with 0.99

00:16:10.360 guys with like huge cocks and like both of them have been awesome. 0.99

00:16:16.800 It just depends what else they do.

00:16:19.420 Like, it's not just about what's in their pants.

00:16:21.400 Um, you have fingers, you have like toys and stuff.

00:16:25.040 Um, so yeah, I think it doesn't have to matter if that's not the only thing that you're working

00:16:30.760 with.

00:16:35.120 So if he wasn't quite packing in the bulge department, maybe the, let's say the first

00:16:44.080 hookup, it wasn't great.

00:16:46.640 Aside from the bulge thing, if, if a guy's performance first time, isn't great.

00:16:51.400 Will there be a second date?

00:16:54.980 Or so first time you hook up with the guy, but the performance wasn't great, but you

00:17:01.420 know, who knows, maybe it could get better down the road.

00:17:03.980 Certainly that's something that you guys could practice.

00:17:07.480 If the performance, the first time that was bad, is it just, that's a wrap like onto the

00:17:11.780 next one or you're going to give the guy a chance?

00:17:14.000 I mean, yeah, like unless they have like a really awesome personality, um, that's, I'm

00:17:20.780 kind of over it, you know, like that's it.

00:17:22.460 We tried it.

00:17:23.520 Yeah.

00:17:24.100 Okay.

00:17:25.400 Yeah.

00:17:25.860 I'd probably give them a second chance.

00:17:28.840 Probably.

00:17:30.060 Well, he was nervous and that's why he didn't perform well.

00:17:33.900 So it could be, I would give a chance for sure.

00:17:38.060 Yeah.

00:17:38.460 I agree with like personality.

00:17:40.040 If it was like, he had a great personality, I would probably definitely go back for a

00:17:44.000 second chance.

00:17:46.660 Yeah.

00:17:47.160 I'm a Libra.

00:17:48.200 So that's fair.

00:17:51.440 A Libra. 0.78

00:17:53.540 Just a show of hands, like at the table, who here believes in astrology?

00:17:59.340 That's so general, like there's so many things that matter in the way.

00:18:07.300 There seemed a bit of hesitance.

00:18:10.580 Gray areas.

00:18:11.280 Just, just, just speaking to the mic.

00:18:12.820 There's gray areas, like with religion.

00:18:17.960 This is so touchy, but like you can believe in astrology without believing in everything

00:18:24.740 everybody says about astrology.

00:18:26.780 And so what is your, what, like, what's your sign or?

00:18:34.220 Um, Libra.

00:18:36.160 Oh, Libra.

00:18:37.020 Okay.

00:18:37.800 Got it.

00:18:39.100 Yeah.

00:18:40.160 Um, and did you, sorry, did you answer the previous thing about?

00:18:43.720 No.

00:18:44.560 Um, I could be convinced to go on a second date.

00:18:48.200 The first one, I like give them the credit and, or give myself all the credit.

00:18:51.500 I'm like, wow, I'm fantastic.

00:18:53.440 And then the second time, if they still suck, then I'm like, yeah. 1.00

00:18:56.780 Suck. 1.00

00:18:58.340 Oh, wow. 1.00

00:18:58.900 Okay.

00:18:59.280 So it's kind of like.

00:19:05.840 They're just, they're gone.

00:19:07.120 I don't know if you've seen 300.

00:19:08.100 Anyways, by the way, chat, chat.

00:19:10.580 So can you, everyone in chat, can you type a one if you're getting a bit of echo on the

00:19:18.480 soundboard here?

00:19:19.080 I'm just going to play one just so, you know, uh, let's see, uh, just one in chat.

00:19:28.120 If you hear a bit of an echo on the soundboard stuff, we're still troubleshooting that.

00:19:32.100 Um, did we get a couple of super chats, Chris, we got three or, oh, wow.

00:19:41.260 Okay.

00:19:41.620 As a five, five male, I can't change my height yet can be instantly filtered out in apps.

00:19:50.460 An overweight person can change, which is why I think it makes even more sense to list

00:19:54.080 weight over height thoughts.

00:19:56.080 Uh, $10 from Steven Krug.

00:19:58.120 Thank you for the super chat, man.

00:20:00.160 Five, five male.

00:20:01.260 Um, well, first off, bro solidarity, dude.

00:20:05.260 Um, yeah, uh, that's tough.

00:20:09.840 Um, I, it is sort of like interesting though, like you said, you don't really have control

00:20:16.640 over your height, but like you do have control over your weight, but, um, I feel like with

00:20:22.400 weight, you can sort of suss that out from a photo, you know, whereas height, it's a bit

00:20:27.180 more hard to tell.

00:20:29.300 So, um, yeah, but I guess sort of to reframe your chat a little bit and I'll ask the panel

00:20:37.660 this, um, do you think it's okay and I, I think it's okay, um, to some degree if women 1.00

00:20:46.940 have a height preference and we'll start with you, Jane, do you think it's okay if a woman's 1.00

00:20:54.260 like, I'll only date a guy who's six feet and above?

00:20:56.800 Yeah, I mean, I think it's fine.

00:20:58.600 Like everyone gets to have whatever preference they want to have.

00:21:01.540 Um, like I think everyone has preferences, so yeah, it's okay.

00:21:06.540 Like you might find less people or whatever, but everyone like has bias, so yeah.

00:21:13.060 Yeah, exactly what she said.

00:21:15.400 I think it's fine.

00:21:15.600 I agree with her.

00:21:17.460 Yes, I agree.

00:21:19.520 Mm-hmm.

00:21:20.720 Okay.

00:21:21.540 I think everyone can have a preference, but you get sweeped off your feet by people you

00:21:25.880 didn't think would, like they'll just walk down the street and you're like, oh, wow,

00:21:29.360 didn't expect to be attracted to them.

00:21:31.120 And then you are.

00:21:32.300 I mean, I've definitely had some people where I'm like, they're definitely not my type, but

00:21:36.820 for some reason I'm attracted to them.

00:21:38.400 Right.

00:21:39.220 That was a good answer.

00:21:40.460 Um, so then would you guys similarly, would you not object to if a guy had a similar preference

00:21:49.860 where he's like, listen, I will only date a woman who's 120 pounds or less.

00:21:56.460 Would you object or would you find that off-putting or offensive?

00:22:00.460 Um, I think it's how you frame it. 0.97

00:22:04.980 Um, not being a dick about it. 0.98

00:22:06.820 Yeah, like he did. 0.71

00:22:07.660 I don't know if y'all ever saw that show.

00:22:09.040 I think it was like, love is blind, but Shaq, he just, every person like this one guy talked

00:22:13.380 to, he's like, could I carry you on my shoulders?

00:22:16.100 Like, and then if he couldn't do that, he just cut him off and everyone was like, oh, 1.00

00:22:19.700 you're a dick. 0.99

00:22:20.680 Like, but I think it's just how you approach it basically. 1.00

00:22:25.400 Mm-hmm.

00:22:26.120 Um, I don't think it's fair to cut somebody off, uh, based on their weight, no.

00:22:32.340 Mm-hmm.

00:22:33.060 But you're, but, but so you're okay with the height one?

00:22:37.020 Well, life is really long and weight fluctuates, but height doesn't, so.

00:22:43.400 But couldn't someone make the argument that weight is something that is more in someone's

00:22:48.620 control, whereas height, that's just kind of like, you can't really change.

00:22:52.000 I mean, there's a very invasive surgery that I think, I don't know the exact procedure,

00:22:57.280 but like they lengthen your legs or something, but I mean, that's super intense.

00:23:02.740 So, I mean, could we potentially even say that it's more superficial to have a high preference

00:23:09.240 versus having a weight preference just because that's something within people's control?

00:23:15.220 Um, sure.

00:23:17.860 I don't want to argue that point, I guess.

00:23:20.060 It's okay to disagree, by the way.

00:23:22.020 You can feel free to disagree.

00:23:23.260 I'm not going to be upset, just stoking conversation.

00:23:27.480 I mean, anybody can really tell anybody that they're not attractive to them because of height

00:23:32.460 or weight.

00:23:33.080 I just wouldn't.

00:23:34.540 That's what I mean.

00:23:36.200 Got it.

00:23:36.740 Because, um, especially if somebody started out one weight and then I saw them again and

00:23:40.960 they were a different weight.

00:23:42.080 I mean, it really depends on how much you like them.

00:23:44.900 Okay.

00:23:45.220 Yeah, weight does fluctuate and there's so many like components to weight, like hormones

00:23:49.920 and X, Y, Z.

00:23:51.240 So, I mean, I get it.

00:23:53.180 It is preference, but at the end of the day, sometimes people cannot control like how much

00:23:57.480 they're weighing.

00:23:58.620 Okay.

00:23:58.940 Uh, I think, I mean, depends because, I mean, we have a preference on height and they have

00:24:06.960 preference on weight and I feel like it's a right to have a preference and also like sometimes

00:24:15.280 we can also control the weight, like based on the height or hormones or diets or genetics

00:24:21.940 also, but I feel like, yeah, people should have preference, you know, not only girls.

00:24:30.240 Um, I personally, I would care because I would see that as somebody only being attracted to

00:24:37.840 someone based on what they look like, which is the opposite of what I find in attraction

00:24:42.600 of people and people.

00:24:44.700 So, I wouldn't be necessarily offended, but I would be like, okay, yeah, I'm not going to

00:24:49.920 be your friend or talk to you in that way.

00:24:53.840 Yeah, I definitely agree.

00:24:55.120 I'd say like, you're fair to, you can have whatever preference you want, but like if your

00:25:00.920 preference is all centered by weight or height, honestly, like I'm probably not your girl.

00:25:06.460 Okay.

00:25:07.420 Got it.

00:25:08.460 Got it.

00:25:09.300 Chris, can we pull up that other super chat?

00:25:11.760 I think we, I missed that one.

00:25:14.520 Just Lucas.

00:25:15.420 Yeah, we can show that one.

00:25:16.320 Lucas Schlater.

00:25:18.380 Thank you for the five euro, man.

00:25:20.080 Really appreciate it.

00:25:20.780 Thank you for the support.

00:25:22.940 Um, and there's actually Chris, there's been some funny chats that have been popping up in

00:25:27.260 just the non super chats.

00:25:28.960 So, um, maybe we can just read a few of these just for fun.

00:25:32.880 Rainbow hair is the winner so far.

00:25:35.540 Uh, yeah.

00:25:35.960 Check out her only fans.

00:25:38.760 Wait, can I say, can I say something?

00:25:40.720 Go ahead.

00:25:41.140 Yeah.

00:25:41.300 I just want to respond. 0.98

00:25:42.440 I saw a comment saying I was like promoting my only fans and capping about the micro dick, 0.95

00:25:47.780 but it is on my only fans. 0.98

00:25:50.080 So I wasn't capping.

00:25:51.840 You can see it if you want.

00:25:53.800 Just putting that out there.

00:25:55.760 No cap.

00:25:56.360 What's, sorry.

00:26:01.580 Yeah.

00:26:02.180 I just thought.

00:26:04.160 And just out of curiosity, what kind of content, cause some people cook on only fans.

00:26:10.000 What kind of content are we talking about?

00:26:11.600 I don't cook.

00:26:12.740 Okay.

00:26:13.400 So nudity.

00:26:14.680 Yeah. 0.79

00:26:15.060 And sex. 0.91

00:26:16.040 Oh, so you have a, do you have a partner? 0.72

00:26:18.300 Whoever wants, like if anyone wants to join.

00:26:21.140 Oh, wait.

00:26:22.200 So your, so your subscribers can.

00:26:25.180 If, if I like them, if they're hot, then yes, they can. 1.00

00:26:28.980 You will, you will fuck your. 1.00

00:26:30.280 Theoretically. 1.00

00:26:30.920 Your. 1.00

00:26:31.360 I will fuck a subscriber. 1.00

00:26:33.080 Okay. 1.00

00:26:33.820 If.

00:26:34.240 Potentially.

00:26:34.660 They're hot.

00:26:35.300 After they spend a bit of money.

00:26:36.680 If they pay me.

00:26:37.760 Yeah.

00:26:38.340 Okay.

00:26:39.540 Okay.

00:26:40.980 Is that a crime?

00:26:42.500 Technically?

00:26:43.620 No.

00:26:44.480 If.

00:26:44.760 Oh, well, no, it's porn.

00:26:45.860 Yeah.

00:26:46.100 It's not prostitution. 1.00

00:26:47.460 It's porn. 0.86

00:26:47.940 There's this great family guy clip where it's like some police breaking into a hotel 0.98

00:26:52.640 room and they're like, it's a prostitute and they're like, hands up. 0.97

00:26:56.760 And then they're like, oh no, there's a camera over there. 0.90

00:26:59.000 And then they're like, oh, okay.

00:27:00.680 Nothing to see here and walk away.

00:27:02.200 So it's just kind of funny how prostitution.

00:27:05.740 Yeah.

00:27:06.120 How prostitution is legalized.

00:27:07.660 But if you just put your iPhone on a tripod, all of a sudden it could be legal.

00:27:11.820 To me, that's a bit.

00:27:12.560 I agree.

00:27:13.040 I don't think prostitution should be illegal.

00:27:15.560 While we're on the topic.

00:27:16.780 Very similar.

00:27:16.980 Should prostitution be legal or illegal?

00:27:22.860 And you kind of already answered it.

00:27:24.300 I think it should be legal.

00:27:26.260 Okay.

00:27:26.580 Honestly.

00:27:27.860 In a safe way.

00:27:29.260 If they're being safe.

00:27:29.840 That's a good question because if I'm from prostitution, that's illegal there. 0.98

00:27:35.620 But it's like, I don't know, honestly.

00:27:40.500 I don't know.

00:27:41.720 Can I answer that?

00:27:42.440 Also, with that, sex trafficking, it's hard to draw a line of what actually is their choice

00:27:52.320 and what they're actually being forced to do.

00:27:54.700 So I think it's really hard to tell which is.

00:27:58.780 So it's a little hard to choose.

00:28:01.120 Yeah, I actually was just in Europe and in Amsterdam, they have the red light district where prostitution is totally legalized.

00:28:08.660 But because of that, it's really safe in that district.

00:28:12.200 So everyone gets tested.

00:28:14.220 You're all registered.

00:28:15.900 There are certain places where like the girls can go and do their thing. 1.00

00:28:19.540 So I think if prostitution was legalized somewhere like here, California, like that, it would feel really safe.

00:28:27.680 But unless they want to help make sure that there's free testing and access, there's no point in legalizing it because it's not going to be safe for everyone that way.

00:28:38.580 Yeah, I think it should be legal and it should be safe work.

00:28:42.020 So I agree.

00:28:43.720 Yeah, like Las Vegas where you have to register and they have panic buttons and that just seems more reasonable.

00:28:54.720 Yeah, it's going to keep happening whether it's legalized or not.

00:28:57.820 I think it's just whether you want to take a safe route or not.

00:29:00.220 But also, if anything, it should at least be decriminalized because we all know it's going to happen.

00:29:06.060 Like at this point, it's just whether like it's like a if you get caught kind of thing, which isn't cool.

00:29:10.540 I mean, we already have enough of a overload in jails and prisons.

00:29:14.240 It's just it's a silly thing to criminalize people for.

00:29:18.960 I'm in favor of prostitution. 0.86

00:29:22.400 I don't know if I would engage in it, but I do think it it should be should be legalized.

00:29:29.980 So, Chris, can you pull up that super chat I missed?

00:29:36.820 Stephen Krug again.

00:29:37.940 Thank you.

00:29:38.380 I think Stephen sent the other one.

00:29:39.780 Stephen, thank you so much, man, for the $10 super chat.

00:29:42.520 What's more important, wealth or height of a guy?

00:29:45.600 If you had to have an opinion.

00:29:47.480 Hensley, let's start with you.

00:29:49.460 Wealth.

00:29:50.740 Wealth, okay.

00:29:57.480 Height.

00:30:01.480 Wealth.

00:30:02.120 You can't do this.

00:30:03.580 So height for you?

00:30:04.960 Height.

00:30:05.520 Okay, height's more important.

00:30:06.560 I have the big one.

00:30:07.120 Okay.

00:30:08.180 Wow.

00:30:09.140 Wealth, for sure.

00:30:10.360 Because I want to be very successful and take care of my friends and family.

00:30:15.460 So wealth, for sure.

00:30:18.340 Can I say?

00:30:19.620 Yeah.

00:30:20.220 I think wealth because myself, I want to be successful and reach.

00:30:25.440 And also I want to have a partner that's also on the same level as me.

00:30:29.080 Yeah, wealth, for sure.

00:30:32.900 Yeah, also wealth, definitely.

00:30:36.620 What do you think, Andrea?

00:30:39.800 Can we get a close-up on Andrea?

00:30:42.620 Andrea.

00:30:44.700 Not to be confused with Andrea.

00:30:46.180 Okay.

00:30:47.160 She's shy.

00:30:49.400 Next question.

00:30:52.940 So I think someone commented this because they were curious.

00:30:57.660 I don't remember where the comment was.

00:30:59.140 Don't worry, Chris.

00:30:59.620 You don't have to try to pull it up.

00:31:01.320 So starting with Jane, on a scale of 1 to 10, what do you rate yourself?

00:31:13.700 Like, is this, like, everything included in the package?

00:31:17.500 Let's just say, like, looks, strictly.

00:31:20.240 It depends.

00:31:20.300 And if you want, you could even break it down, like, face, body.

00:31:23.600 Okay.

00:31:24.220 Or you could just do overall.

00:31:25.700 I'd give myself an 8. 0.99

00:31:27.140 Like, I'd say I have, like, really good tits and a cute ass and a good smile. 0.99

00:31:32.920 So I'd say an 8. 0.99

00:31:33.960 But I don't know.

00:31:35.180 I'm, like, completely natural.

00:31:36.560 And I feel like it changes if girls have stuff done, which is totally cool.

00:31:40.180 But, yeah, an 8.

00:31:43.540 I think that changes every day.

00:31:46.140 How I think I would rate myself on a good day, I can go for a 7.

00:31:51.120 On a bad day, it can be really low, below 5, below 3.

00:31:56.420 But that's just, you know, your own issues, your own insecurities.

00:32:00.460 And, yeah.

00:32:01.420 So what was the question?

00:32:03.140 How would you rate yourself?

00:32:04.420 On a scale of 1 to 10, what would you rate your physical attractiveness, your appearance?

00:32:11.040 I think I would rate myself as, like, 8.

00:32:15.280 Like, my physical appearance, my personality, 10.

00:32:19.680 Personality, 10.

00:32:21.940 Yeah.

00:32:22.420 Okay.

00:32:22.820 Got it.

00:32:23.740 And sorry, and you rated, did you give a rating or is it, you said it fluxed?

00:32:27.900 For my personality or for looks?

00:32:29.920 For looks, I mean.

00:32:30.680 Yeah, it changes every day.

00:32:32.460 It's not really a set number.

00:32:34.180 Got it.

00:32:34.860 Okay.

00:32:35.780 I kind of agree.

00:32:36.740 But I think, like, just based on looks, I'd probably say, like, 6.5.

00:32:42.620 10.

00:32:43.840 10.

00:32:44.360 10.

00:32:44.440 And, like, it's hard to tell.

00:32:47.760 Like, everyone has different reactions to me.

00:32:49.980 I'm not everyone's, like, taste.

00:32:51.940 So I would say maybe 7-ish.

00:32:55.620 Um, as royalty, I wasn't trained to talk about my appearances.

00:33:06.040 She does have a tiara.

00:33:07.980 There is a tiara, so.

00:33:10.560 I'll have to omit my.

00:33:12.980 You're omitting.

00:33:14.000 Okay.

00:33:15.660 That was a good answer.

00:33:17.400 Um, I'll give myself a 9.

00:33:19.820 I'm pretty confident.

00:33:20.540 Okay.

00:33:21.360 All right.

00:33:22.380 Okay.

00:33:24.760 Do you, uh, let me see.

00:33:26.280 Hold on here.

00:33:31.740 Do you know women who think, maybe a friend or something, who think they're more attractive 0.66

00:33:38.180 than they actually are?

00:33:44.720 I mean, I think confidence is attractive.

00:33:46.960 I think if you have confidence, you're attractive.

00:33:51.040 There's beauty in everybody.

00:33:52.440 It's really hard to just say one person's not beautiful, one person is beautiful, because

00:33:56.600 it comes with everything.

00:33:57.920 Your personality, how you treat others, the contributions you've done for the world, just

00:34:04.200 everything.

00:34:05.400 Yeah.

00:34:06.380 Got it.

00:34:07.940 Uh, Chris, you want to pull up the super chat?

00:34:09.780 Oh, I'm five, six, but the money make it six, four.

00:34:20.500 Okay.

00:34:20.920 There you go.

00:34:22.440 Uh, I don't know if you guys seen, there's this trend on TikTok.

00:34:24.940 It's like sort of a, a template.

00:34:27.340 Um, trying to find it here.

00:34:30.660 Let's see.

00:34:32.700 So it's like, and maybe we could like go around the table and try.

00:34:36.380 So, uh, I don't know about this, but so it holds the format.

00:34:42.980 He's, he's a, for example, he's a 10, but he has like either X negative quality or X positive

00:34:51.040 quality.

00:34:51.500 And then you readjust his score based on, you know, what, what that, if that's a detractor

00:34:59.420 or a negative.

00:35:00.120 Um, so he's an eight, but he wears flip-flops.

00:35:06.180 Hensley.

00:35:07.920 Oh, socks, no socks.

00:35:10.600 Socks with the flip-flops shorts.

00:35:13.420 Oh, that boosts.

00:35:14.940 Okay.

00:35:15.240 Okay.

00:35:25.240 Flip-flops are okay.

00:35:26.720 It's California.

00:35:28.260 Right.

00:35:30.120 I'd say 10.

00:35:34.280 I love socks and sandals.

00:35:35.580 I rock that every single day.

00:35:37.000 Okay.

00:35:37.280 Make some a 10.

00:35:38.100 Okay.

00:35:38.560 Uh, I guess like six.

00:35:40.620 Cause, uh, I'm not big fan of flip-flops even when I wear myself, but I think it would

00:35:46.420 be attractive if you've got a bird on a date.

00:35:52.100 Definitely a 10.

00:35:53.580 No question.

00:35:54.860 Yeah.

00:35:55.400 I'd say 10 too.

00:35:56.440 I think it's funny.

00:35:57.320 Okay.

00:36:00.660 Good to know.

00:36:01.640 Good to know.

00:36:02.200 How about he's a nine, but he will not go down on you.

00:36:07.400 Zero.

00:36:08.220 Hold on.

00:36:08.800 That's a rip-flops.

00:36:10.200 Zero.

00:36:10.840 Yeah.

00:36:11.360 Zero.

00:36:12.280 Negative one.

00:36:13.360 Yeah.

00:36:13.660 Yeah.

00:36:14.340 He just dropped that in my book.

00:36:17.000 Do the hands like play a part too, or is it just all extras outside of sex or bad?

00:36:24.300 He, he will, he just doesn't like to give head, but he'll use toys.

00:36:29.740 He'll use hands.

00:36:31.660 I don't know if this will adjust it for you guys either, but.

00:36:33.880 It wouldn't drop him too much lower, maybe like a seven.

00:36:36.960 Okay.

00:36:37.500 Yeah.

00:36:37.760 I'd change my answer to like six, five.

00:36:40.080 Okay.

00:36:40.620 For sure.

00:36:41.260 Maybe I should reframe this question a bit differently.

00:36:43.980 Would it be a deal breaker for you if a guy did not want to go down on you?

00:36:49.260 And we'll just start here again.

00:36:50.880 It depends on his reasons.

00:36:52.320 Like if he's just like, yeah, no, I'm just not a fan of it.

00:36:54.940 I'd be like, okay. 0.99

00:36:55.440 But if he's like, nah, like pussy smell. 1.00

00:36:58.080 And they're like, then I'd be like, okay, like fuck off. 1.00

00:37:00.980 Sorry. 1.00

00:37:01.740 Um, get out or something like that.

00:37:04.000 That's a good take.

00:37:04.840 Like, yeah.

00:37:06.220 Yeah.

00:37:06.580 I want to know why.

00:37:08.580 And, um, also, you know, maybe he's saving it till marriage.

00:37:13.320 I don't know. 0.97

00:37:15.580 He's saving the oral for marriage, but is he having sex before then? 0.97

00:37:21.800 No. 0.97

00:37:22.320 Like, what is the reason?

00:37:24.980 Because if you're having sex, why don't you want to be down there?

00:37:30.940 That's a mystery. 0.65

00:37:31.840 That's the mystery.

00:37:34.400 Okay.

00:37:35.320 Deal breaker.

00:37:36.280 For sure.

00:37:36.740 Deal breaker.

00:37:37.300 A hundred percent.

00:37:38.080 What if, what if he has a good reason?

00:37:40.940 What's the reason?

00:37:42.400 Because I'm not going to believe it.

00:37:44.800 He has a speech impediment.

00:37:48.360 It doesn't affect that. 1.00

00:37:50.000 His tongue's all kinds of fucked up. 0.99

00:37:51.800 You can get that clipped. 1.00

00:37:53.300 Clipped?

00:37:53.980 Tongue tied?

00:37:55.020 Snip it.

00:37:55.840 There's a, there's a surgery for that?

00:37:57.760 Yes, there is. 1.00

00:37:58.520 Oh, shit. 1.00

00:38:00.180 Okay. 0.99

00:38:00.620 I'm trying to think of like a reason a guy wouldn't want to do it.

00:38:05.220 He doesn't have a tongue.

00:38:07.620 Trauma?

00:38:08.200 Yeah.

00:38:09.000 Like when he was, there's just a very bushy time and, but I just speak into the microphone.

00:38:17.700 Uh, maybe trauma or something else.

00:38:20.660 Okay.

00:38:21.940 But I would definitely would be like a deal breaker.

00:38:26.200 Deal breaker.

00:38:26.820 Okay.

00:38:27.040 I mean.

00:38:29.780 Yeah.

00:38:30.920 Deal breaker.

00:38:33.280 Yeah.

00:38:33.680 I can't think of like a good excuse.

00:38:35.240 So deal breaker.

00:38:37.240 Um, yeah.

00:38:39.340 Wait, can I interrupt?

00:38:40.140 I got one.

00:38:40.680 Sure.

00:38:40.900 Sure.

00:38:41.180 His ex grinded on his face so hard.

00:38:43.780 It broke his nose.

00:38:45.640 Oh.

00:38:45.660 Yeah.

00:38:46.680 That's a pretty good excuse.

00:38:48.200 That is.

00:38:49.660 Trauma.

00:38:50.060 First hand experience.

00:38:52.180 No.

00:38:52.460 Okay.

00:38:54.260 Okay.

00:38:55.120 Got it.

00:38:55.820 Hmm.

00:38:56.600 Good to know.

00:38:58.340 Um, so I, I have a confession to make to the, to the panel.

00:39:03.340 Okay.

00:39:04.340 Related to the last question I just asked.

00:39:07.700 Um, I'm going to admit it.

00:39:10.180 I, I don't like it.

00:39:11.880 Okay.

00:39:12.260 I don't like to do it.

00:39:13.820 Um, I haven't gone down on a girl since the Bush administration and that's. 0.98

00:39:18.500 Um, that that's, when was that?

00:39:23.400 2008.

00:39:24.380 So, um, I get that sort of kind of, I, it is a bit different.

00:39:38.120 What's your issue?

00:39:39.240 What's my issue?

00:39:40.040 Like, what's your reason?

00:39:41.280 So, you know, it's a couple of things.

00:39:44.140 Um, I've got neck, I've got a neck problem.

00:39:47.540 Um, Chris, Chris can, well, Chris can't attest to it in that context, but I've got neck problems

00:39:53.780 and, uh, there's different positions.

00:39:56.100 I would say here's, I guess it also depends.

00:40:03.160 I, I, maybe I should qualify the previous question because let's say a guy's not willing

00:40:09.240 to go down on you like the first time you guys hook up, but like once you're in a monogamous

00:40:14.220 relationship, maybe what, so would that be a deal breaker?

00:40:17.940 Well, would you expect head from her while you're not giving her head?

00:40:22.260 I wouldn't expect it, but I would say that it's a bit different in so far.

00:40:26.940 Well, in so far as what one person finds they're not comfortable with, maybe the other person

00:40:35.240 that it doesn't have to be a tit for tat thing in the same way, for example, and by

00:40:39.260 the way, I'm not saying that it wouldn't be an expectation if, if I didn't want to do

00:40:43.040 it.

00:40:43.160 And the girl was like, well, I don't want to do it.

00:40:45.520 Like what if the girl had already given you head and then she was like, okay, it's time

00:40:48.640 to switch.

00:40:49.220 So she was expecting it.

00:40:50.160 And then you were like, oh, I actually don't do that. 0.99

00:40:52.240 And then she's like, oh, well fuck, I'm out then. 0.99

00:40:54.280 And like, not going to continue the act. 0.99

00:40:57.160 How would that make you feel?

00:41:01.240 Um, I mean, I guess the thing I would compare it to is let's say, let's compare it to like 1.00

00:41:08.900 anal sex. 0.99

00:41:09.940 Some women would not be comfortable having anal sex, even though that's something the 1.00

00:41:13.360 guy would enjoy doing. 0.99

00:41:14.900 I know it's a, it's a bit different, but I think everyone has their own, uh, boundaries

00:41:20.860 and what they like or don't like, and I don't think it has to be a tip for tapping, but I

00:41:25.240 would totally understand if a girl was like, well, if you're not willing to go down on

00:41:27.700 me, I won't go down on you.

00:41:29.500 I understand it.

00:41:30.040 But I don't think that necessarily has to be the case.

00:41:33.840 I think just make sure you're getting her wet. 1.00

00:41:35.980 If you're not going to go down on her.

00:41:37.680 She comes first. 0.81

00:41:38.700 That's my rule.

00:41:39.880 She has, she has to come first. 0.86

00:41:41.740 I don't always succeed.

00:41:43.960 But if you can expect a girl to give you a hat, so you also should give her a hat too. 1.00

00:41:50.860 You know what I mean?

00:41:53.540 I mean, let's be fair. 1.00

00:41:55.700 She give you a blowjob and you eat her pussy. 1.00

00:41:59.140 So I will say I, it takes me being a certain level of comfortable with someone before I 1.00

00:42:05.040 even get pleasure from head, honestly.

00:42:07.100 So that wouldn't be necessarily a deal breaker for me, but I really, I'm very confident in

00:42:11.480 my head game.

00:42:12.280 So like, I love giving head because I know what I'm capable of.

00:42:15.820 Um, so like for me, like I kind of like the idea of like, yeah, we don't do that until

00:42:20.400 we're like a lot closer with each other.

00:42:21.760 Like I'd be cool with that.

00:42:24.520 Would anybody object?

00:42:25.740 Like if the guy, the first time you're hooking up, he's like, I only want to do that in a

00:42:30.580 relationship or when we're monogamous.

00:42:33.200 That's fair.

00:42:34.020 I think that's fair.

00:42:34.980 I wouldn't want to do it on the first hookup with like a rando.

00:42:37.320 So, yeah, no, yeah, okay.

00:42:40.380 Okay.

00:42:41.220 Oh man.

00:42:41.880 I'm got some, got some hate on that one.

00:42:48.600 Let's see.

00:42:49.440 Um, okay.

00:42:51.920 Did I miss any super chats, Chris?

00:42:55.020 No.

00:42:55.560 Okay.

00:42:55.960 We're good.

00:42:56.340 Uh, what are some challenges that you guys face in dating?

00:43:03.960 Jane, we'll start with you. 1.00

00:43:05.000 Um, I feel like definitely just meeting people.

00:43:09.080 Um, like I've been in Santa Barbara for six years and it's kind of a weird age.

00:43:14.260 Cause like I already graduated, like don't want the college hookup life.

00:43:19.600 Um, but there's like a big older population in Santa Barbara too.

00:43:24.280 Like it's kind of weird for people in like their mid twenties.

00:43:28.160 Um, so I guess like that's a struggle just finding places to meet people besides dating

00:43:33.560 apps.

00:43:35.000 Um, I think trusting people.

00:43:38.880 I've had really bad experiences with exes with like trust issues and cheating and whatnot.

00:43:45.380 So I think trusting somebody and getting, allowing myself to get close enough with somebody to

00:43:50.320 trust them.

00:43:51.000 Cause I won't trust them.

00:43:53.100 But yeah.

00:43:53.360 Uh, for me it's important as trust before I even like let them to see my body and have

00:44:00.560 like intimacy because from my past experience that when you give your like, you know, you 0.99

00:44:08.740 give you like pussy to a guy, he just, uh, kind of take advantage of that. 1.00

00:44:13.660 And secondly, it's just sex is not that good. 1.00

00:44:18.420 I'm sorry.

00:44:19.420 I'm sorry.

00:44:20.420 Sorry.

00:44:21.420 Continue.

00:44:22.420 Continue.

00:44:23.420 i'm sorry sorry continue continue you're good at least um communication is like also leading

00:44:35.520 to trust if you don't have communication it's super hard to be in a relationship

00:44:39.160 i agree with that and um trust and everything everybody's been saying because i want to feel

00:44:48.580 like i know somebody truly um before i get there so it might take a while but um depends how much you

00:44:58.240 hang out and how much you communicate um for me i think the hardest thing is that most people that

00:45:06.440 are really out there looking for a relationship or something serious they're looking for their

00:45:10.400 other half but the thing is i am 100 of a person and i don't want half of a person where they're

00:45:15.560 going to take away from me to fill their voids and fill their needs i want another human being who

00:45:21.620 is evolved and independent and loves themselves so much where they're not asking of me to love them

00:45:27.960 because they are lacking it in themselves got it next question do you believe that women shouldn't 0.99

00:45:37.740 be judged by the amount of men they've slept with in other words like body count

00:45:42.680 i don't think you should be judged hold on sorry let's start over here with jen i mean everyone's

00:45:50.720 fair to like have their own judgment so if someone isn't comfortable with the number that a girl has

00:45:56.520 been with or a guy then you don't have to get with that person but i mean i do think like it's in your

00:46:03.360 past how many people you've gotten with so it doesn't necessarily matter to me let me just reframe the

00:46:10.020 question should body count matter or should the amount of people you've slept with in your past

00:46:16.680 matter no like as long as you're clean and like healthy with all that i don't think it matters

00:46:22.640 okay so no no um i'd say no i mean i would understand some feelings towards it like i don't want to

00:46:32.460 necessarily be with somebody who's constantly getting with other people because then i just wouldn't feel

00:46:37.760 special in a way but i wouldn't be too upset i would just say no yeah no uh i think it shouldn't

00:46:45.820 matter because it's a past and plus it's no no none of their business you know it was how it can like

00:46:54.940 affect your like relationship with this person like it's just a like it's just number it's nothing

00:47:01.460 yeah i don't think it matters and it if it does matter it should go both ways like the girls count 0.98

00:47:09.020 matter then the boys counts matter as well okay yeah honestly i don't know who's gonna ask like who

00:47:16.320 is this guy who's trying to date me and then ask me how many men i've slept with in the world before

00:47:22.280 i met him a number i think it goes back to kind of like the last answer i gave where i'm like it

00:47:30.120 really depends on what you're doing it for like if you really enjoy sex and you've slept with 200

00:47:34.000 people do it but if you're doing it to try and fill some type of void or like something within

00:47:38.900 yourself then that's where you kind of have to and i think you can really tell the people who are

00:47:43.400 sleeping with a lot of people because they're missing something in themselves compared to people who

00:47:47.000 just like to have sex um so i think like not from a place of judgment i just think there are two

00:47:53.060 different views you can take from it of someone who is very open about having a high number okay

00:47:58.300 so it seems like it's a pretty resounding doesn't matter from from the panel so my follow-up question 0.91

00:48:05.600 would be if if you're brave enough to answer what's your body count i think i'm at like i have a fuck list 0.96

00:48:15.060 um you all girls and guys or just guys uh let's do the two i guess 25 total okay how do you know 0.98

00:48:25.620 the breakdown between i think it's like nine women and the rest guys okay got it

00:48:31.500 what was the question uh what's what's like how many people have you hooked up with

00:48:38.260 i knew it wasn't that question um i have never like tried to think about it but it's got to be

00:48:47.080 less than a dozen okay i plead the fifth plead the fifth but wait hold on hold on didn't you say it

00:48:55.740 doesn't matter or shouldn't matter uh yeah but so if it doesn't matter why why plead the fifth

00:49:01.320 because that's nobody's business but okay okay uh you go um it's a secret it's a secret

00:49:13.280 okay yeah i'm gonna keep that one private that's oh wow okay a lot a lot of people pleading the fifth

00:49:21.760 thing um i never finished my book list so probably around the same like around 25 30 but

00:49:28.900 i kind of lost track and i think that should be i think that should be totally chill you know like

00:49:35.880 have fun okay so i guess my follow-up question would be um you know one if if body count really

00:49:46.140 didn't matter wouldn't you want to be the change that you want to see in the world because if if

00:49:51.480 there's why is it that there's hesitation and by the way you you guys are free to not answer the

00:49:56.900 question but i'm curious what is the hesitation in in revealing we're women i mean there's a huge

00:50:04.040 social difference i mean there's this one video but it's like you ask a bunch of girls does body

00:50:08.420 count matter we'll say no it's fine as long as they're safe and clean you ask a guy they'll tap

00:50:12.480 out at three they'll say four they're they're way harsher on us and that's because of like all these

00:50:17.960 standards and expectations you know like all of this stigma that's surrounded around sex but only for

00:50:23.820 women so i mean i see like we're entitled to our privacy because that's not something we get 1.00

00:50:29.200 encouraged to say or we get boosted up or get prided on whereas men when they're they have a

00:50:33.580 high number it's like yeah dude you know it's it's the cliche kind of thing so you you think there's a

00:50:39.960 bit of a double standard oh absolutely between men and women in terms of their how it how they're

00:50:46.800 yeah they're standard i heard i've seen this video on tiktok when they ask girls and men

00:50:52.760 they body count and the guys just say three or two or five and girls that they don't care

00:50:59.120 so yeah so you guys wouldn't be concerned like let's say a guy you were just seeing

00:51:08.740 either i don't know what the context would be of him revealing it but

00:51:13.460 you knew that he had slept with say a hundred women would this be off-putting to you in any way

00:51:19.460 um i have an ex whose body count his was like 200 and it just came up randomly one night

00:51:25.720 um and he was the first and only guy to make me squirt so i think that much sex taught him how to do it

00:51:32.680 in a good way um yeah i don't know to be honest i've never met somebody who has or hooked up with

00:51:44.460 that has that i know of at least i think it'd matter how far apart like there was a lot within one week

00:51:52.560 i would be a little questionable make sure they're clean go through processes and steps to make sure

00:51:58.700 they're clean but yeah depends i mean i never met a guy that has like 100 body count

00:52:06.920 uh but i guess i wouldn't judge if we even have like 100 body counts because it's all matter his

00:52:15.680 personality how he treats me yeah i don't think it would matter like i said body count doesn't matter

00:52:22.640 so your boyfriend he reveals to you and maybe you already know the answer but he says i've slept with

00:52:27.320 300 women not like unfazed doesn't bother you no no okay 1.00

00:52:32.540 it matters to me i guess i would probably wonder if they were a player and have a hard time trusting

00:52:41.660 them if it was that high i say if he has a high number and he wants to add me to the roster i'm

00:52:48.320 gonna make him work very hard for it but it wouldn't necessarily deter me it would just make it more of a

00:52:53.700 game got it okay so i guess we can kind of go into a bit of the double standard and i guess

00:53:01.760 why it exists because i do think and you guys can feel free to disagree with me but i think the double

00:53:07.120 standard is as such so a guy who sleeps with a lot of women is sort of big upped that's awesome good

00:53:14.080 for you like he's a player he's a stud whatever but if a girl like hooks up a lot of guys she's going 1.00

00:53:19.860 to be viewed if she's promiscuous she's going to be viewed in a negative light she's a slut all this 1.00

00:53:26.220 stuff right um and could part of that be well i shouldn't maybe i shouldn't phrase this as a 0.99

00:53:36.140 question but could part of that be because it is more difficult for men to get laid than it is for

00:53:42.780 women and you might disagree with that that premise that it's more difficult for men to get laid than 0.82

00:53:52.100 it is for women but so you you would agree though that it is more difficult for men oh i mean men are

00:53:58.160 the easiest thing on earth like how many guys have i wanted to get with i've gone with every guy i've ever

00:54:03.700 wanted to be with how many guys that want to have wanted to get with me have actually gone with me

00:54:08.000 very few you know like like me and khalifa said it correctly like there's been a few dusties that 1.00

00:54:13.440 have caught me slipping that have gotten in but in reality like yeah no it's definitely what is a dusty

00:54:18.860 by the way i'm an old man so you know i'm not hip to the you can make your assumptions the dusty is

00:54:25.200 just someone who probably shouldn't have made it but they got sure okay anyways we'll continue here

00:54:30.940 i don't even know what to say about this one come back to me

00:54:36.460 um what was the question yeah i kind of forgot

00:54:41.420 um i think oh so talking about double standards um there was sort of like an intermediary question

00:54:51.900 that came in there uh do you think that men have or i guess i could frame it who has more difficult 0.76

00:54:58.280 time when it comes to getting laid getting sex men or women um yeah probably men because women 0.87

00:55:04.280 i feel like just have so many more options and it's just so much easier oh i i think men because

00:55:10.840 um they have to like impress or do something to like you know to get laid and girls for girls we have a lot

00:55:21.220 of options for sure and be more like picky so i mean depends on girl too and guys yeah it's hard for

00:55:31.220 them to get laid okay it's very just picky garner yeah definitely men it's harder for them

00:55:40.660 jane yeah yeah i guess like it could be harder for a guy to get a girl um but i mean

00:55:47.460 yeah you mean i mean if you disagree with anyone by the way feel free yeah i mean like i guess it's

00:55:55.140 i don't actually if you're like putting yourself out there and just being yourself i feel like

00:56:02.100 i i don't know i would hope that like you'd find someone

00:56:05.300 okay got it got it um so i'm trying to bring it back i'm i also kind of forgot what

00:56:16.340 my reset there uh we were talking about double standards and oh right so the double standard as

00:56:24.820 it relates to you know men are big big up if they've slept with a lot of women and women are 0.93

00:56:31.140 kind of shamed if they've slept with a lot of women and but do you feel that that is justified or

00:56:37.300 do you think that no like that shouldn't be a double standard yeah i think it shouldn't be a double

00:56:43.940 standard um like just as we were saying earlier how like dudes are like applauded if they've gotten

00:56:51.140 with a lot of chicks but then if girls have gotten with a lot of guys or like other girls or anyone 0.86

00:56:56.100 um they are often slut shamed but i mean for me like i just like to own it um but it shouldn't

00:57:02.980 be a double standard i mean like humans like sex so why does it matter if you do it a lot 0.59

00:57:10.500 completely agree kind of said it better yeah i i'm a gruesome yes i agree too

00:57:18.260 yep i agree perfect i'll second that okay got it got it chris how are we doing on uh super chats do we

00:57:30.260 have any i think we if it's more than two she's for the streets come on man that's why you can only pay 1.00

00:57:42.180 two dollars you pay for this two dollars to say this man every day our every day edgar every day

00:57:53.620 edgar he's a handsome guy look at that guy oh man there's glasses i agree with you edgar oh my gosh

00:58:01.380 anyways um so we have two girls wait so we have two girls who strip on the panel hensley and jane 1.00

00:58:09.700 uh but hensley do you do only fans or just stripping just stripping just stripping okay all right um so

00:58:19.620 i think a lot of guys would be curious to know a little bit since you're both

00:58:23.300 strip is stripper the appropriate term do you prefer exotic dancer no stripper strip okay 1.00

00:58:32.500 what and if you guys are uncomfortable sharing this but like we're pretty confident yeah okay

00:58:38.900 so like are you guys down to talk a little bit about money in terms of like what you make

00:58:44.020 in the night how kind of like i know there's you get private dances maybe that's where you

00:58:49.140 make a bit more than you do the show on the i've been there like twice ten years ago

00:58:54.500 people will you could come tonight oh you guys are i'm working after this okay anybody watching in santa

00:59:00.820 barbara jane will be at the spearmint rhino dancing anyways um so jane why don't you start off uh tell

00:59:10.340 us a bit about money well so basically i graduated from ucsb last year and i was a dance major so like

00:59:16.980 hence the dance background um i feel like it really depends on the night and that's why a lot of us have

00:59:23.700 day jobs too just because like one night you'll make a thousand my best nights ever had been on

00:59:30.340 monday nights i made three thousand dollars on two different monday nights just because like one guy

00:59:36.260 came in and just like was with me the whole night but that's rare i mean like right now i've been

00:59:41.860 averaging probably like 400 a night so 3000 versus 400 is a big difference so that's why i also do only

00:59:49.940 fans and other side gigs just to keep money going when it's not a good day or month okay and you said

00:59:58.100 you had a regular that used to come and but he's not coming anymore that was just like usually like

01:00:03.380 when it happens like that it's like a random business guy like this guy was just coked out and

01:00:08.340 maxed out his card the whole night with me and i just like he would have done that to any girl i just

01:00:12.740 got lucky that i was the one working there um and i feel like that's kind of how it goes for most of

01:00:17.380 us there and we all try to support each other like if one guy's spending a lot we'll kind of

01:00:22.020 try to pass him around and stuff okay yeah so about 400 a night right now we're in a little recession

01:00:29.940 so like last summer i was making like a thousand a night was like my goal every night and this summer

01:00:37.620 i haven't made a thousand yet in one night at the club and i feel like strippers all around america

01:00:43.220 all around america are actually like feeling this issue right now like we've all talked about it

01:00:48.900 so yeah okay and um yeah i mean she definitely covered a big part of it uh i normally have been

01:01:01.060 working like since i started 10 months ago i always did tuesdays and thursdays and made pretty good money

01:01:07.380 like around 500 a night 400 a night and then the last like month i decided to try and start doing

01:01:12.740 fridays because i know they get way busier what i didn't realize is fridays is when all the college

01:01:17.700 kids come in and all the young guys are just passing and want to party and they don't spend money but

01:01:22.260 like you know you go in on like a thursday or tuesday and it's just these businessmen and then

01:01:27.300 they're getting all the vips and that's where the real money comes in which is a lot of fun

01:01:31.620 and how much i mean is it three four hours you guys are working or i normally only do like three

01:01:38.660 and a half hours four hour shifts yeah it depends i mean like on the weekends the clubs open until 4

01:01:43.620 a.m so welcome bobby got it to the haters i support entrepreneurship respect people that put down other

01:01:52.660 sorry let me read this properly stephen krug thank you for the 10.69 uh super chat much

01:02:01.460 appreciated uh to the haters uh i support entrepreneurship respect what whatever is

01:02:06.660 doing people that put down others there's no excuse these women could probably buy every day 1.00

01:02:14.180 every day edgar's family okay so there's apparently there's a little a battle in the chat between

01:02:20.420 stephen krug and another super chatter um let's chris let's get caught up on some super chats really

01:02:27.700 quick uh stephen krug with the 25 donut thank you man uh every day edgar is probably poor hey we wow

01:02:39.300 there's a battle between them in in the super chats um uh you know let's let's not be too mean to

01:02:45.940 every day edgar what did he say something offensive it's more than two oh stephen is mad that every day

01:02:54.820 edgar is not super chatting more i think that's what i think that's uh stephen krug's uh objection

01:03:03.460 uh was there i think there was another one chris did should prostitution be lee i think we 1.00

01:03:09.140 will smith um sorry about what happened with you and jada um but uh so

01:03:16.820 uh what what what was the question should prostitution be illegal in the u.s or 0.97

01:03:25.460 we already talked about it yeah we yeah if you want to just scroll back we talked about but i think

01:03:31.620 overwhelmingly the panel said that uh yes it should be legalized and uh yeah so thank you will smith for

01:03:40.340 the one dollar ninety nine super chat oh chris okay so

01:03:50.580 are you going back to live sorry guys first time we're doing it live we're figuring it out but

01:03:56.100 and actually chris before we adjust um just let's show a little love to our people on twitch

01:04:10.420 that are watching so chris can you just pull up the window mode

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01:04:36.100 twitch.tv slash whatever uh we're streaming live there twitch the quality on twitch is actually a bit

01:04:42.420 better so oh look at that we just got a follow derpatron underscore thank you for the follow

01:04:49.220 mr teeny corn dog sorry about your teeny corn dog thank you for the follow bep is me thank you for the

01:04:55.460 follow really appreciate guys appreciate the support um and yeah we can switch on back to uh regular mode here

01:05:05.540 so going back to only fans so how much money you making from only fans um it also really like stuff

01:05:16.660 like that just depends monthly um but for only fans it's hard because i try to make them pay me like

01:05:22.980 through cash app and stuff instead so that i don't have to split it with only fans um so that that must

01:05:29.060 be against the terms of service it totally she didn't say it it totally is she didn't say whatever

01:05:34.820 um whatever but um yeah i mean i know some like sex workers that literally keep like monthly charts of how

01:05:43.060 much they make they document all of it i don't i just have my money and i just hope that it keeps on

01:05:50.500 coming okay got it can we highlight this will smith comment chris

01:05:59.700 oh it was a gi jane joke will will smith you know you've fallen from the men in black days okay next

01:06:10.740 question for the panel do you like bad boys and hensley we'll start with you i do if they have a

01:06:20.020 sound cloud and no bed frame i'm right there for them

01:06:27.700 sounds fun uh it's a little too arbitrary for me what do you mean bad uh yeah i guess that could be kind

01:06:35.940 of interpreted i mean whatever your general sense of what a bad boy is well i do love a mystery so if

01:06:48.100 he's serious um i don't want him to be like mean to people but um if he's bad because he like pushes the

01:07:01.700 limits with i don't know um things that don't hurt people okay like like comedy okay so he's got a

01:07:14.100 leather jacket and a motorcycle is that does that qualify as a bad boy i don't think so but i mean i

01:07:22.020 ride horses so they like move around and think for themselves i don't really think that um leather

01:07:28.820 jackets are scary um but yeah i could go for the bad guy i guess i just want somebody to be um

01:07:39.380 confident and uh step out of the lines if that's okay for comedy or a fun thing to do like cool dates

01:07:50.500 are usually a little bit bad but other than that i don't want him to be like going to jail sounds like

01:07:58.580 a problem yeah i kind of like the vibe where he's kind of mean to everyone not mean mean but like

01:08:04.260 mean to everyone else but me like he has a soft spot for me so yeah okay uh i like bad boys i think confident

01:08:13.540 straightforward and more like i don't know they just uh like straightforward and i like about them

01:08:22.180 and also like nice guys too but i prefer bad boys over nice guys so yeah

01:08:29.220 i like a nerdy man i do like nerdy weirdos i don't really want a bad boy who's like popular

01:08:38.740 and yeah do you want a nice guy yes or nerdy not too nice but not too nice okay yeah you don't want a

01:08:45.940 guy who's whipped no okay a little bit but a little whipped okay um i've dated a bad guy that actually was

01:08:55.700 a murderer and i didn't know i know and like i wish i was making this up i didn't know until

01:09:02.820 i already like thought i was in love with him and then he told me um and i i just couldn't do it

01:09:08.420 anymore it like changed my whole perception but yeah he was like motorcycle guy tatted in a gang

01:09:14.420 and like all that was hot like that was all good but not the murder part that ruined it so not that bad

01:09:20.580 you know you so you hold on you dated a guy who who murdered two people well when you said not while

01:09:30.100 dating me like this happened in his past so i didn't know about it and then we had like a talk

01:09:34.900 and like it came up and then i had like a panic attack and broke it off

01:09:42.980 so hold on let's just clarify something when you say murder do you mean he killed people in

01:09:46.260 self-defense or he murdered no it was like gang murders in la gang with like a club in la you 0.94

01:09:52.900 know it's like gnarly shit that i was never like obviously into that but and so was he an ex-convict 0.97

01:10:00.500 was he a convicted of the murders or i don't think he ever served time for it no wow yeah okay and so 0.98

01:10:08.340 did that make him more attractive to you then no that made me be like get the out of my house

01:10:13.380 oh so but you like i liked the whole motorcycle bad boy thing until i found out he murdered people

01:10:19.060 and then that was like too bad for me then i was like no no no we stopped it there at the murder

01:10:25.940 okay so were you again how long were you dating him or was it just we dated twice oh you just went

01:10:32.980 on two dates no no no no like we like dated like two separate full relationships so because i did take

01:10:38.740 him back but i broke up with him again

01:10:45.220 and he actually just got married to a really different girl from me a little christian girl

01:10:50.660 in his hometown shout out he just got married this week and i saw it on facebook so i guess he's changed

01:10:57.220 wow okay and but that wasn't a red flag the whole murder thing well that was the red flag but the

01:11:07.060 yeah but i did go back yeah it didn't seem like it was enough it was a red flag for like two years

01:11:13.140 and then i got a little bored and slid into his dms again is this is this legit no this isn't

01:11:18.980 literally this is my any of my friends will vouch i have more stories that i wish weren't true

01:11:24.660 but yeah this actually happened okay wow good times good times i do think i mean

01:11:35.620 i guess sort of related to this would you guys would it be a deal breaker red flag if you knew that

01:11:43.380 it the guy had a criminal history now as a changed woman i would say yes i would not do a murderer again

01:11:57.460 okay yes agreed

01:12:01.940 agree by the way is this beyond the statute of limitations with this guy what do you mean

01:12:08.340 well i mean so i think for murder it's right yeah murder should have been are you sure you should 0.85

01:12:14.420 be i mean i don't give if he gets caught now i don't give a fuck but i wasn't like a part of any 0.92

01:12:19.700 of that we don't know who it is this happened in the past like don't say his name i'm not saying his 0.57

01:12:24.580 name it's totally good he's healed since then yeah he's christian now he's he's good he's with the

01:12:29.780 lord exactly yeah um sorry did you finish your answer to that or yes

01:12:37.780 yes i said i agree yeah same the same it's a deal breaker i actually have talked to somebody who

01:12:45.540 accidentally murdered somebody for speeding and i had to he's out of jail now i really hope he's not

01:12:53.300 watching but um yeah i had to block him on everything so i was like nope can't do it sorry

01:13:00.260 uh yeah i wouldn't date a murder but like criminal record it varies so like i would probably not be a

01:13:08.980 deal breaker for me but no murders

01:13:13.700 yeah i want to know what he's a criminal for there's a lot of white collar criminals that

01:13:20.660 it's not quite as scary um it's something that they paid for and it was a mistake you know and they've

01:13:28.020 repented but um definitely not violent crimes

01:13:35.540 definitely down for a dude with the record absolutely do you want the guy that i dated

01:13:43.140 i wouldn't be i really would i mean i have a record

01:13:48.260 it's fine it's whatever so and i mean you're so you're down for a guy who has a criminal element yeah as

01:13:56.980 long as it's not domestic violence i feel like that's okay straight up one where you're gonna be

01:14:00.500 like i know where this is leading some people are into that it could have been situational i don't

01:14:05.060 know and have you dated a guy who's a murderer not yet okay what about how do you know

01:14:13.380 they maybe tell i feel like you don't know until they tell you yeah

01:14:16.420 or you get murdered okay it's a fun little flip of the coin although i suppose you can sort of tell

01:14:24.260 if somebody's capable i'd be like a ted bundy i mean i've never been best friends with somebody i

01:14:32.500 thought was capable of killing somebody else and isn't dating sort of like being best friends yeah

01:14:39.060 rachel i know that we we had spoken previously and let me know if you don't want me to we don't have to

01:14:43.860 you don't want to talk about that i know there was a situation in the past you don't want to go

01:14:49.860 there because that could be an interesting story to relate but you would have to um talk with me in

01:14:57.380 private because i'm not interested in sharing that's fine that's fine so um let's see

01:15:06.420 related to the whole bad boy thing i guess why do you think it is that it does seem to 0.99

01:15:19.540 be a sort of trope of that women find bad boys attractive jerks assholes whatever why do you think 0.98

01:15:26.660 that is start with hensley i mean if you want to get freudian there's probably a lot to do with the 0.99

01:15:35.620 parents but i think at the end of the day it's something to chase and it's something that we

01:15:40.820 know isn't going to turn into like a marriage or you know that kind of stability like chasing a bad

01:15:45.460 boy is kind of just a endless endeavor of you know ups and downs and the ups are really fun and the downs

01:15:52.500 are really shitty but like when you have just a nice guy that's just steady and it's boring and

01:15:57.780 you know it's normally it takes us to a certain age or a certain mental state where we want boring but 0.88

01:16:02.180 you know i think most of us are in our 20s and that's not what we're looking for we want to have

01:16:06.900 a lot of fun and get with the motorcycle dude who's murdered people sometimes you know

01:16:10.420 if boring means that they're reliable and don't stress me out all the time then um yeah i'm over

01:16:25.860 the bad boy or whatever um i mean like since i'm in a relationship i really like steady and like trusting

01:16:35.220 but you know it's not always like boring because otherwise i would break up with him it's really fun and

01:16:40.180 like it's so nice to be with someone you can always trust but definitely having like bad boy vibes is

01:16:45.780 daddy issues so for sure yeah um i think like with the bad boy is just like it's a roller coaster it's

01:16:56.340 like up and down and it's never stable so i rather prefer have like serious relationship with someone that

01:17:06.500 stable and i can communicate and trust and also i don't know like with like boring like i mean it's

01:17:16.260 nice to have something stable right well like i don't know i just rather go as a nice guy than bad boy

01:17:24.820 i'm so sorry what was the question

01:17:32.020 well yeah what was the question can anybody help me uh like all the whitey girls go for bad boys yeah 0.92

01:17:37.460 why do you think um i actually don't know because i don't necessarily but i don't maybe for that chase

01:17:46.660 or that feeling of like if he's mean to other people but nice to you i get it you feel special

01:17:53.700 so maybe something like that yeah i feel like it just feels naughty and rebellious um it's kind

01:18:00.260 of just like a cliche you know like the girl next door and then the bad guy okay all right have any of you

01:18:10.500 i guess i'll add my two cents so i think part of it is an excitement thing and typically guys who are 0.98

01:18:19.620 like more bad boys jerks assholes whatever um it can sort of be viewed in the frame of confidence whereas 0.97

01:18:26.900 like i think a lot of women don't want that guy who's kind of too nice you know like it's a bit of a 0.99

01:18:33.780 uh almost a needy thing and they i think and i you could disagree with me i do think generally

01:18:41.860 women really want a guy who's confident and they not all women but i think a lot of women

01:18:47.620 want a guy who will be assertive who's maybe dominant who takes charge who can lead and if it's

01:18:55.780 if you're always like you know if the guy's always deferring to you on stuff you kind of like 0.91

01:19:04.180 what's this guy gonna do in a zombie apocalypse like what the fuck so i think there's like 0.82

01:19:08.500 i also think there's a they've done studies on this where they've found that women do seem to 1.00

01:19:14.260 find men generally speaking uh who displayed dark triad personality traits i think that's

01:19:20.420 machiavellianism narcissism and psychopathy there is like they it is attractive um not all i'm not

01:19:30.740 saying everyone but they've done they've done studies on it so i i think related to that it all relating

01:19:38.900 to the criminal element aspect of it there is the um ability to the ability to be violent so in like

01:19:50.420 if he needed to protect you in some way whereas if a guy's kind of wimpy or too nice you're gonna be

01:19:55.220 like this guy's not gonna be able to protect me and like you know some goes down so that could be

01:20:01.700 part of it um let's see

01:20:07.220 different topic moving on actually chris let's pull up the super chats sorry guys this is our first live

01:20:12.740 stream i'm i'm getting used to it so chris i think you said i missed one about i missed a couple

01:20:20.180 right just uh we'll look at all of them whoa dude where's the beard i know i was growing it for nine

01:20:26.980 months i got rid of it um i kind of regret it but yeah i just need a change but i'm gonna grow it back

01:20:33.380 out so it's coming back will smith i think we got that one

01:20:42.500 lucas schlater uh 4.99 super chat uh or 4.99 euro thank you man

01:20:48.580 uh super chat is not letting me use some words and that is bad colorful hair lady is sexy i think 1.00

01:20:54.740 you're talking about jane right you think so uh she's got her instagram is in the description 0.97

01:21:01.860 if you want to send her a dick pic uh next super chat don't do that i'm joking um will smith 199 what 0.98

01:21:09.220 are your deal breakers in a relationship do we will smith i feel like we kind of talked a little 0.98

01:21:16.500 well i think the question was what are some difficulties that you um we'll do that one

01:21:21.380 right now will smith's he's been very generous uh we'll start with you jane what are your deal

01:21:26.100 breakers um i think a deal breaker would just be someone that's not adventurous um yeah i feel like

01:21:32.420 one of my love languages is quality time so like i want to go out and do stuff i don't want to just

01:21:36.900 be like on the couch hanging out all day so i'd want someone to go adventure and be like my adventure buddy

01:21:42.580 um i would say mommy and daddy issues it's a pretty big deal breaker for me when they don't cheat you

01:21:53.140 well so not for it uh the one that has like a lot of like traumas he doesn't want to go through and

01:22:02.660 and the one i can trust and communicate and also boring so it's a deal breaking for me i don't think

01:22:12.420 i have a lot of deal breakers but definitely like hygiene is like a deal breaker for me good ones

01:22:20.100 yeah i think um just speaking to the microphone bad communication is a deal breaker if i just don't

01:22:26.740 feel like i can trust them to communicate in a way that doesn't make us fight all the time or not

01:22:32.820 communicate um that's a problem um one for me i guess is like codependency like if they're very

01:22:41.780 codependent on me that's immediately something that's like i get it i'm not a big fan of

01:22:48.660 someone else being reliant on me and especially in a relationship i'm i think that's probably a

01:22:53.460 lot of the reasons i go for the bad boys with all the traits of sociopathic c and stuff like that

01:22:59.060 where they're like yeah i'm good on my own i'm like all right cool me too we'll work great

01:23:07.540 hennessy hennessy do you prefer hennessy or hensley whatever you can remember okay i was yeah um you've

01:23:14.820 got some really based answers i like the answers you've you've brought so far no um so somewhat related

01:23:21.540 to the whole jerk uh bad boy thing um would you guys say that you have different set of rules

01:23:30.500 for depending on who the guy is so like let me frame it this way um have you ever had a thought 0.99

01:23:38.180 about a guy like i really like this guy so i'm gonna make him wait to have sex 0.95

01:23:45.140 yes like i really i really like him so i'll wait i want to make him wait um i just recently

01:23:54.500 started doing this because for a long time i didn't realize you could do that and my way of

01:23:58.660 forming connection was like okay well i know you want sex so let's just get that out of the way and

01:24:03.460 more recently i started trying to hold off and be like hey i actually don't want this to be the main

01:24:08.820 priority or give myself to you like that because a lot of times i wouldn't come it would all be for

01:24:13.140 the guy i'd be so i could be this hot person to him so i could have good reviews and then

01:24:17.780 i did a little switch where i like you know wasn't just sleeping with guys because i wanted them to

01:24:22.260 like me and it's turned out with two very different scenarios the first scenario the guy totally talked 0.98

01:24:28.420 shit on me he was like good luck fucking her she's fucking weird you know and i was like i had we had a 0.99

01:24:34.660 really good time like i know you nutted in your pants when we made out but like i didn't think you're 1.00

01:24:38.340 gonna hold that against me and then the other guy totally respected my boundaries and i ended up

01:24:42.900 really liking him because sex was the main priority but then he ended up falling in love and it wasn't

01:24:48.420 just because of sex and then it's a whole other thing but it was really it was nice to see someone

01:24:54.740 could like me and it meant so much more because they liked me and it wasn't based off sex

01:25:00.180 what was the situation there was there was a guy and he was telling another guy or yeah um so

01:25:06.980 one of the guys like we had gone on a few dates and like they were fine dates it's just we didn't

01:25:12.500 seem very interested and i took no like offense to it i was like yeah okay we're just gonna kind

01:25:16.980 of like go our separate ways and then one of his friends like uh the second guy that i actually ended

01:25:22.260 up getting with was talking to him because they were friends and he was like hey i think i really like

01:25:26.260 this girl are you still talking to her i just don't want to step on any toes and he without warrant

01:25:30.900 just goes off on this rant about how like i'm just so weird and like all this and like even the

01:25:37.140 guy like i was seeing after i ended up seeing after him was like that was really weird if you just bring

01:25:41.380 up and especially since like y'all are considered friends like it like kind of hurt my feelings to

01:25:47.220 hear that but at the same time i'm like i don't really want to surround myself with ingenuine people

01:25:51.300 so it's just people showing themselves so i was cool with it but it was definitely something that i was

01:25:56.500 like oh man like especially because he was the first one i was trying to test out the no sex thing

01:26:01.060 on i was like man guys really like that is such an important aspect to him so it was really nice it

01:26:05.620 was followed up by someone who truly fell in love with me and sex had nothing to do with it why did

01:26:11.780 he think that you were weird did did he tell you i wouldn't honestly like we like went on like three

01:26:17.780 dates and like the vibe was fine it was clearly like no spark no connection but it was nothing like

01:26:22.820 bad or anything like that it was just you know you're it was like three first dates so like it

01:26:27.380 didn't get less awkward kind of but there was nothing like weird we still had fine conversation

01:26:32.260 you know and like we continued to be friends and like everything was chill and then i started seeing

01:26:37.140 the next guy and i kept telling the next guy you know oh i'm friends with him or i'm friends you

01:26:42.740 know like we talk every once in a while and finally he was like i just i like i don't want to

01:26:46.820 shit on him or anything but like he said some really mean stuff about you are you sure y'all are 0.99

01:26:51.220 friends and i was like well fuck i thought we were like i don't know it was a weird scenario but sex 0.99

01:26:57.380 played a part in it because i didn't immediately sleep with them got it rachel can we go back to 0.98

01:27:04.180 the question sorry that was a long answer yeah yeah so uh the question is you know have you ever had

01:27:10.980 the thought about a guy or you encountered a guy you're like i really like this guy so because i really

01:27:16.900 like him i you maybe actually hold off on having sex whereas in other scenarios you might just have

01:27:24.660 sex sooner um i guess i've always taken practice and pushing them away first it's part of how it goes

01:27:35.620 um i don't know i suppose even at a young age i got used to saying no for at least a while um to find a

01:27:47.220 while to um couple days like i know him this wraps into an old question of ours like you know how when

01:27:55.940 is comfortable well comfortable for me is when i feel like i know i don't know their family a little bit

01:28:03.940 or just not close but i know how many brothers and sisters they have or something about them

01:28:11.380 makes me feel like i can trust them so i'm just living that road i also grew up in vermont and in

01:28:20.660 the woods so um give me a break you guys i'm not like 20 20 material all the time okay one question

01:28:29.620 so have you ever had a one night stand like first time meeting a guy stranger what's that with a

01:28:39.300 stranger like yeah that's what a one night stand yeah like the first time you whether it was a you

01:28:44.740 know there was a date or you met at a bar or club or anything have you ever hooked up the guy the same

01:28:49.620 night that you met him no it just so happens that i've lived kind of a sheltered quiet life and so i

01:28:56.100 liked the guys that i slept with first and knew them pretty well and since i've moved out of my

01:29:02.660 hometown i still just don't feel like doing that with a stranger so okay got it just so happens i'm

01:29:10.660 not against it like there's definitely imaginary scenarios in my mind where that could happen but um

01:29:19.460 okay the clouds have imparted i guess for somebody to scoop me up like that okay make me feel safe in

01:29:27.540 one night got it oh i guess it like depends on every girl's answer i mean everyone's gonna have

01:29:33.460 a different answer but i would personally wait like for a minute like a long minute okay till i give it

01:29:40.980 maybe yeah i feel like the question's a bit it's a bit of a difficult question answer maybe i'm just

01:29:44.660 going to reframe it here so how long do you typically wait before having sex with a new 0.94

01:29:52.500 person very long like what like very long like months months really oh wow damn so your current 0.98

01:30:02.420 boyfriend was just tortured for months okay got it but have you ever broken that you know has there 0.96

01:30:08.820 ever been it was that one night foam cannon party cancun nope shout out rollo tomasi okay um yeah so

01:30:19.140 me personally i would wait for a guy and would get him know before giving all myself and usually

01:30:29.620 i mean depends maybe five days or months because i want to know how this person feel about me and also

01:30:36.340 get emotionally attached to him you know what his intentions are too so basically yeah i would wait

01:30:45.060 if i really like him i see him like as a boyfriend i would wait or even i don't say i would still wait

01:30:52.020 okay so five you said five dates or a couple months yeah or one month would be fine oh wow okay yeah i

01:30:59.540 learned it wow yeah so what let me ask you this what is the shortest amount of time uh i think like

01:31:07.700 have you had a one night stand i had okay so one or two dates it's just like one or two days what's the

01:31:14.100 longest that you've made a guy wait i guess like a couple like five or six dates okay that's yeah that's

01:31:22.420 reasonable yeah that's reasonable but i learned that you have to like wait and sure like you know

01:31:28.420 know this guy before you all yourself right okay um i also wait a while before doing anything i don't

01:31:39.780 think there's a specific time frame it's more about how comfortable i am with that person and that's

01:31:45.700 that's definitely changed that's not how i always have been but that's how i am now and i'm just

01:31:51.620 trying to find somebody that i actually can connect with and spend a lot of time with so i'm down to

01:31:57.380 wait and if they're not down to wait then they're not the right person so it's whenever i'm comfortable

01:32:03.140 trust them trust they trust me it goes both ways so shortest you've ever waited shortest amount of time

01:32:13.940 um i mean it's in the past it's been a shorter time but okay no judgment judgment free zone okay

01:32:22.580 what's the longest like yeah months months okay got it um yeah i don't usually wait

01:32:32.340 um to me like sex and that compatibility is really important to a relationship so if i'm having a good

01:32:39.460 time with them like maybe we'll go out to lunch and then just have sex after one of our places

01:32:46.500 um it doesn't to me like it doesn't have to be anything serious it could just be for fun

01:32:51.460 um and i think sex is just another way to vibe check the person just like getting to know

01:32:56.100 their personality so yeah i usually don't wait because i'll only go out with guys i'm attracted to

01:33:01.380 anyway um but yeah okay got it got it chris any uh super chats

01:33:12.820 okay five dollar from i don't sorry i don't know the blue hair lady is also sexy 1.00

01:33:18.740 you're it seems like the chat is liking jane no it's andrea oh yeah that's cool i'm the orange

01:33:27.780 beard bitch yeah i mean there's a bit of blue and there's some blue yeah i think we should give that 1.00

01:33:33.380 one to andrea okay yeah sorry yeah i forgot she's here she's very quiet she's very shy um so yeah i will get 0.95

01:33:41.140 a microphone soon though but uh uh next one bill gates i'm a bad boy i stole from steve jobs um here

01:33:52.580 let's ask you guys a question um would you guys date bill gates very rich man one of the richest man in

01:33:59.700 the world yes yes seems like a resounding he's very wealthy yeah okay he's wealthy charitable gonna die

01:34:08.740 soon so it's all perfect oh wow okay he's not bad bad looking he's kind of cute he's you know

01:34:21.700 rachel you going for bill gates i've had multiple offers from bill gates huh from

01:34:29.620 multi-millionaires almost billionaires it's not an interest to me i want to love someone

01:34:38.100 and so bill gates says listen i'm taking you to seattle i've got a yacht i don't know 0.94

01:34:46.900 i don't know why seattle's not like the most swanky fucking place ever i will pay for everything 0.99

01:34:53.460 you don't have to work another day in your life no go just to go to seattle 0.98

01:34:58.180 well i mean you know it's a nice city it's a depressing you know but you're in a mansion

01:35:09.060 or whatever his super house there's no oh no he he wants to get up on top of you and do

01:35:15.380 baby style no no he wants partner partner no i don't need um his company okay hensley

01:35:29.540 yeah bill gates is cool i'd prefer elon but bill gates okay prefer elon okay they were recently in

01:35:36.660 a bit of a twitter battle bill gates and elon yeah so apparently uh bill gates shorted uh tesla stock

01:35:47.460 anyways they got into a a big fight and ellen kind of dunked on bill so ellen i don't know how to 1.00

01:35:54.420 pronounce his name listen listen i just want to say and maybe you guys have heard occasionally i stutter

01:36:00.900 i'm an esl student english is my second language so that's my cop out um for my poor pronunciation

01:36:08.260 of his name uh french i was born in france and then i moved to the us when i was five yeah so

01:36:16.180 so i'm my french is terrible but i just that's my cop out for my stuttering

01:36:22.180 beautiful that was great just like the french said um all right uh any more super chats chris

01:36:33.220 okay walker 11 thank you for the is that pound that's pounds right yeah 179 pounds is it true

01:36:43.700 i'm gonna pass on that one is it true is it true 80 percent of men are unattractive to women that's

01:36:51.220 actually a good question um i suppose we can ask the panel let me think about how i would frame this

01:36:57.540 question um throughout your day-to-day just like walking around of the men that you see like what

01:37:06.740 percentage of them would you say like you find them attractive or let's you can also do that with

01:37:12.420 dating apps too so now this is a bit of a tough question but um of the men you see like day-to-day like

01:37:19.140 how many of them would you want to hook up with or would you find attractive probably closer to like

01:37:24.980 five percent five percent of men that you see day to day okay rachel yeah i'd say i don't find an

01:37:33.700 attractive guy daily in santa barbara i don't know what's going on it is a bubble it's hard to meet

01:37:39.460 people we were talking about this earlier there's like an age gap that's not around here and it's like

01:37:46.500 after they graduate college they go away because they can't save money here it's too expensive to

01:37:52.180 live and then they come back when they have money and wives yeah yeah that's true yeah i'd probably say

01:37:59.300 like three percent i find three three percent of men you see i'm like okay got it i think 10 10 of men

01:38:06.820 okay yeah yeah i'd say 10 percent 10 so 10 of men that you see day to day just you don't think

01:38:15.220 they're attractive in santa barbara like three percent there's some babes and sent like some hot 1.00

01:38:20.580 hot dudes oh in santa barbara girls are hot okay but the men not too much okay yeah i think ucsb is

01:38:31.460 always like voted hottest student body or whatever but um yeah i'd say like five ten percent and i think

01:38:38.020 like style matters a lot and in santa barbara people just don't tend to like try hard with what they're

01:38:44.580 wearing it's kind of like board shorts and flip flops even at the strip club so it's kind of hard 0.82

01:38:50.900 to gauge god damn with socks okay god damn what that's it seemed like everyone was about like under 0.64

01:38:59.700 ten percent it sounded like that's rough that's rough guys that is the dating market for men in 2022 0.95

01:39:08.900 um yeah i i guess um i guess i'll sort of ask a follow-up question um agree or disagree would you

01:39:19.060 say that most women could sleep with most men but most men cannot sleep with most women or did i say

01:39:27.220 that right most most women could sleep with most men but most men could not sleep with most women 0.97

01:39:36.260 agree or disagree we'll start with you i think most guys guys just aren't as picky it seems like 0.98

01:39:44.260 like most guys would find a girl to fuck if they're horny enough and i feel like women just tend to have 1.00

01:39:49.060 higher standards so i feel like most women would not find as many guys attractive okay 0.98

01:39:56.980 uh yeah i think that's true and like i already mentioned girls are more pickier than men so yeah

01:40:07.220 oh yeah i agree

01:40:10.980 yeah it's definitely harder for men everybody seems to agree with that

01:40:18.020 men are easy but you also skipped one oh who did we skip yeah i agree oh okay easy okay got it got it

01:40:27.540 yeah it's uh i think it's definitely tough out there and uh you know guys i think there's a lot of guys

01:40:34.980 struggling with dating and i you know i think that's why there's a proliferation of pornography

01:40:42.020 only fans no offense i you know none of but i i do think i do think if guys were

01:40:48.500 having an easier go at it there we wouldn't see as much uh stuff going on with only fans i mean you

01:40:56.820 guys have clientele that are coming into the strip club and i you have to wonder like i'm not i'm

01:41:02.020 certainly not criticizing what you guys do but you have to wonder would there still be a market for that

01:41:07.060 if it was easier for guys to get away like i guess the clientele and you don't have to you know

01:41:14.580 dox anybody but the clientele that you guys have at the club uh would you say that these are guys

01:41:20.580 that are like getting women or are they more like lonely dudes yeah mostly lonely but a lot of married 0.87

01:41:27.940 guys like they'll keep their rings on come to the club so yeah tell you all the issues with their

01:41:34.740 wife yeah it's always fun when they they're like oh i have a daughter your age it's like don't tell me

01:41:39.940 like please don't oh god we don't want to know and are a lot of the men like are some of them almost

01:41:48.500 confiding in you or do you have regulars let me ask that first yeah hensley no regulars for you

01:41:56.100 how often do you work i work one day a week oh just one day a week why not more i don't have to

01:42:03.220 okay interesting and jane i work usually like three nights sometimes i like i try doing six nights

01:42:09.860 a week once and like i literally couldn't do it like the ick got too bad should we shout out the

01:42:16.260 night that you're usually in there do you want people to come in and uh yeah come through on

01:42:20.420 thursdays what time uh i'm the early shift so i do the seven o'clock to midnight this is the spearmint

01:42:26.820 rhino in santa barbara guys i think anyone's in the chat if there's anyone watching from santa

01:42:31.220 barbara galita isla vista area just let us know um but yeah hensley works thursdays thursdays

01:42:38.340 okay so is there like a coupon code if they say whatever they get no but if you get there before

01:42:44.820 nine the entrance fee is only seven dollars and after nine it goes to twenty seven dollars

01:42:50.660 okay so got it okay um wow okay so oh yeah so are any of the guys coming to you guys just

01:43:02.100 they don't even want to dance but they want to just talk to you yeah do you get guys like that oh yeah

01:43:06.580 and what are they typically talking to you about um all about themselves like they'll just talk

01:43:11.860 about their struggles like their dream girl it's kind of just fun to play into it play therapist for

01:43:19.940 a little bit yeah okay got it yeah agree yeah agree okay and have you ever dated a customer

01:43:32.020 jay and you know him yeah i've dated a customer which is like not allowed um and then we have a

01:43:42.340 rule of like no boyfriends or like you know anyone like that coming into the club and um once i broke

01:43:49.140 up with him he still came and i had to get him like kicked out of the club and everything and it was

01:43:53.540 really dramatic so yeah hensley uh no

01:44:02.980 it always goes bad it always goes bad but i mean wouldn't you also just say like

01:44:09.780 are you turned off by the men that come and see you because like they're kind of

01:44:13.860 what's what's the term tricken is that as white as wide as i can sound um like it's not that i'm

01:44:20.260 turned off that they come to the club or anything it's the men coming to a strip club or normally not

01:44:24.980 men within your age range or right older right yeah okay or even just like on your level or on your

01:44:32.420 base really um so yeah there's not a lot of guys that come in that i'd want to date but i'm also very

01:44:38.500 anti-relationship in general so it's like i'm i'm not at work looking for a relationship even if

01:44:44.580 they are attractive have you ever hooked up then with no any customers okay no anytime they ask for

01:44:50.660 like my number or something i'll be like you get one number per dance and then you give them a wrong

01:44:54.420 number okay i probably shouldn't be saying this since we just said what days i'm working does it does

01:45:00.500 it go down in the champagne room we don't have a champagne there's no champagne room okay there is a

01:45:07.140 private yeah room though we have a vip and it's just a longer dance you do the same stuff you would you

01:45:13.060 just get naked and dance but it's not that kind of it's not that private okay it's like a curtain

01:45:20.420 yeah okay yeah you don't do that has anybody like have you heard stories maybe not you guys but some

01:45:25.620 of the other girls guys will always try to like do more but i feel like all of us are really empowered

01:45:31.780 strong women and we have like the managers right there on our side the door guy um like i actually 1.00

01:45:37.300 feel really safe when i'm at the club um so yeah the guys will always try stuff but we're not

01:45:42.100 gonna let them do it okay is there any sex going on at the spearmint no okay just curious yeah just

01:45:51.220 curious okay very interesting very interesting chris uh super chats right let's just finish up what we

01:45:57.940 started uh lazar is broke tell him to get who is who's lazar was he another chatter

01:46:06.260 uh yeah don't worry um oh man there's some fighting in the chat come on guys we're we're a

01:46:14.260 family here uh bill gates thanks call me i that was when we were uh i think talking about the bill gates

01:46:21.700 thing niche which thank you for five dollars seven sure sm7b's in the stream deck xl this is a high

01:46:29.380 quality production welcome back by the way thank you thank you yeah we've been working on this for

01:46:35.140 chris right six months um and i've been you know i was planning even before that for three months so

01:46:41.300 uh there was a lot of work that went into getting the studio set up and maybe went a little overboard

01:46:48.500 but uh we wanted to you know produce a decently high quality show so really appreciate the support

01:46:54.260 thank you for the super chat bill gates again with the 199 bill gates first off let me just

01:47:00.500 criticize you a little bit here bill gates mr gates mr billionaire with your 199 super chats

01:47:07.620 uh come on come on bill gates let's i think also just we are getting a lot of lower super chats um

01:47:15.620 chris i think from here on out uh let's do 10 and up for if we're gonna we'll display all super

01:47:20.580 chats but for reading them we'll just do 10 and up uh so bill gates sell some of your microsoft

01:47:25.380 shares um would you avoid a guy if he used an android phone so basically like their text messages

01:47:30.180 come through green i would definitely avoid it's a red flag to me okay i wouldn't like we just wait

01:47:37.860 it's a hold on wait wait we'll come back it's a red flag if if a text message comes through green

01:47:42.980 yes okay so if he has an android phone yes because i think uh iphones uh the best um have a better

01:47:52.180 quality camera and a lot of options so and i'm on apple side okay um i would not think it's weird okay

01:48:07.620 i kind of would like it yeah i feel like the only inconvenience is not getting the airdrop

01:48:12.180 that's like the only annoying thing yeah and like facetime would be annoying because you can't

01:48:16.340 do that but it's fine yeah it is a bit off-putting when it comes to green i will admit it it wouldn't

01:48:22.660 be a deal breaker for me but it's a little like what's going on um well we said yes to flip phone so

01:48:30.020 android is up there you know yeah yeah rachel i think you come through green do i do you have an

01:48:37.380 android do you have an android i don't know no no i have an iphone and it's not a deal breaker for me

01:48:45.780 and i definitely think that if somebody had an android it would be a source of us joking i'd probably

01:48:53.060 make fun of them a lot until they switched yeah yeah i gotta agree with you um it's not a deal

01:49:01.780 breaker but it will be brutally harassed yeah okay okay uh next super chat radioactive panda two dollars 0.94

01:49:14.180 thank you uh what is your dream job profession if not stripping so for the two strippers here um 0.80

01:49:22.500 i want to have my own show on like viceland or something um and i also want to open my own dispensary

01:49:30.580 yeah um i probably want to start a rehabber sober living and if not that a tattoo parlor or

01:49:39.300 combined of the two send the sober people to my dispensary all the people that relapse i'm like

01:49:44.980 i got a great place yeah yeah oh we didn't i don't think we mentioned that hensley does uh

01:49:50.340 tattoo do you do you charge people or is it just friends that you tattoo or it's a very low price

01:49:55.700 i only charge for materials because i get practice in so i'm like a scratcher tattoo artist but i'm not

01:50:02.340 bad do you tattoo yourself no i'm picky about my tattoos but you do have tattoos yeah okay got it

01:50:09.140 got it got it uh next one chris marcel pete 20 super chat thank you for the 20 super chat marcel much

01:50:17.060 appreciated i'm by the way i like your shirt in the thumbnail i don't know if that's you marcel but

01:50:22.820 i'm in a wheelchair i'm pretty attractive never had problems with getting a girl in the past so what is

01:50:28.100 it the wheelchair or the sex and is it shallow what is it a woman wait marcel i'm gonna have to 0.54

01:50:36.740 apologize i don't understand uh your question exactly i'm in a wheelchair i'm pretty attractive

01:50:41.860 never had in the past is it are you saying that before you were in the wheelchair you never had

01:50:48.100 problems but now that you're in the wheelchair you're having problems um also i suppose you could

01:50:53.860 be in the wheelchair and still be functioning sexually but or you could be paralyzed and have

01:51:00.900 no function so uh yeah yeah yeah go ahead okay so i actually dated a quadriplegic for like eight months

01:51:12.260 um so that means he basically got in a car crash um and like lost mobility of his legs but also mostly

01:51:18.420 like of his arms too um so he was like you know like pretty paralyzed bound to his wheelchair um and

01:51:25.060 yeah that just like wasn't a deal breaker for me at all like we still had fun sex um and yeah i mean

01:51:33.460 like it did make stuff like i guess like different or like to some people hard like i had to drive i

01:51:39.700 like crashed his car once because it was like this big car like there was a minivan to have his wheelchair 0.99

01:51:44.420 go in and i didn't want to drive it and i had to um so yeah like i feel like it makes things harder

01:51:49.860 in that sense but i mean he was a really cool guy and the wheelchair never seemed to like like i would 0.50

01:51:56.340 have liked him either way you know so i feel like you have hope okay does anybody else want to i it's not

01:52:03.700 immediately clear uh what that question is marcel if you want to post a just a regular if you want a

01:52:08.900 regular comment maybe just clarifying your question a bit and we'll try to keep an eye out in just the

01:52:13.620 regular chat and uh just clarify your question a little bit um was there another super chat chris

01:52:20.020 or is that that's it blake e what's jane's only fans uh it's so we have her instagram tagged 0.99

01:52:30.740 in the description do you have like a link tree on your no but it's i could just dm you or whatever

01:52:37.060 but it's sativa underscore blue sativa underscore blue uh and there's one more super chat right chris

01:52:46.260 oh big 50 donation niche which thank you man much appreciated really

01:52:53.540 got to drop the air horn for you i'd like to but i'd like to apologize on behalf of bill gates what a

01:52:59.060 stingy billionaire here's some support 44 for brian and split the rest with your guests yeah i'm gonna 0.99

01:53:05.940 keep that shit fuck that um sorry guys the microphones have to be paid for um but definitely 0.99

01:53:12.660 check out their uh only fans and whatnot um i'm a i'm stingy like microsoft and uh yeah from from now on 1.00

01:53:21.540 let's do 10 and over for the super chats um so let's uh do the next question um

01:53:31.860 so everyone says i'm capping and like i'm really not but well was it like with the guy in the

01:53:37.780 wheelchair was it a sugar daddy situation he was genuine he did like i don't want to say too much

01:53:43.060 about him like but he like went to ucsb for grad school and like we met in santa barbara and

01:53:49.300 literally like knew his mom like dated for eight months um yeah i'm not capping but

01:53:59.060 okay so i had a better version of this question but um and we're gonna start over here with hensley 0.90

01:54:08.340 have you ever had a ho phase yeah they come yearly i hate to be a bitch that's like maybe it has 1.00

01:54:17.780 something to do with the moon but now that snapchat does those flashbacks i'm like it's funny every

01:54:22.180 time around may i just my body count goes up a lot more than the rest of the year

01:54:30.180 you know what's funny so okay i don't know if you remember this hensley we met i think exactly

01:54:34.740 a year ago i was out filming on fourth of july i was i don't know it was del playa it was on del

01:54:40.260 playa oh sorry i should be deltopia was it deltopia or fourth of july okay my friend was getting a

01:54:46.180 public intoxication right next to me and you're like can we pull you for the interview and i'm like

01:54:50.660 yeah yeah yeah yeah no so i remember meeting you and i remember specific i don't know why i remember

01:54:58.580 this but i remember you specifically saying maybe i'm mixing this up with somebody else but you

01:55:03.220 you you said that you were for the streets do you remember do you remember that yeah yeah okay

01:55:08.260 so you're for the streets yeah okay that's it okay

01:55:15.380 but is it true that you're for the streets or were you just you were just joking it wasn't a cap like

01:55:20.340 i it's um the men come in waves like there'll be like spots where it's just like oh no interest and

01:55:26.420 then you meet one that's nice and then like for some reason as soon as like you start considering one

01:55:31.220 three other great options come along and it's like yeah we'll just try out all the options

01:55:37.700 at least though i mean i have to give you props for the self-awareness you know so that's good

01:55:47.140 rachel i went to a pimps and hoes party once and i dressed as a pimp so i guess i'm adam 0.98

01:55:56.180 okay at least um i mean i plead the fifth once again okay yeah i kind of have this phrase but now i'm

01:56:10.740 over so no more um i would say not really every high schooler kisses people more than they probably do

01:56:23.300 now so that's like what i would say i wouldn't really say it's a ho phase more just less than

01:56:31.940 i think yeah yeah i feel like freshman year me at ucsb was like my biggest ho phase i don't think

01:56:38.980 i'll ever beat that um wait your freshman year at ucsb yeah and i graduated last year so that was like

01:56:45.460 what 2017 2018 and i that whole year was just like in the ho phase like never slept in my dorm room one

01:56:54.100 night basically so it was fun you know what at ucsb is it quarter or is it it's quarter it's quarter

01:57:01.780 okay so semester or quarter how many bondies did you put up your first quarter of my freshman who

01:57:09.220 ha um i don't know i mean like once again i i actually back then i kept a good list i feel like

01:57:15.780 it was more of like getting with like the same group of guys multiple times you know but yeah it

01:57:21.140 was like that freedom right like broke up with the call with the high school boyfriend went to college

01:57:26.340 you know so you were seeing a few guys concurrently yeah yeah okay i would like choose based on like

01:57:33.700 oh do they have a house on dp like then i'll get with them okay yeah so how many would you say

01:57:40.660 how many men concurrently what was the most at the same time i mean probably not more than like juggling

01:57:48.740 like four or five guys at once because you have to like you have to keep up with them you know

01:57:56.180 that's a rotation also like i don't know back then i thought i was hot and like i really wasn't

01:58:01.220 actually back then so it's just it's the confidence i was really confident when i was like 18.

01:58:09.140 god damn okay cool yeah good shit good times um so kind of going on to a totally different thing 0.51

01:58:20.340 this is more like more so with people that you've dated a bit or it could actually be shorter term but 0.98

01:58:27.140 would you say more often than not that you're the one ending things or is it men ending things with

01:58:33.700 you be it short term or long term hensley or no sorry jane we'll start here um i feel like i usually

01:58:41.860 end things before i know my heart's gonna get broken which is like something i you know i want to work on

01:58:48.660 but like i feel like if i find it getting like too serious i'll just end it i'll get cold feet um yeah

01:58:55.700 so more often than not actually my my last one he ended it with me and like i'm still sad but

01:59:02.100 if you could give it like maybe a percentage like of the times there's been a scenario again whether

01:59:08.020 it's short term or long term where there's like an ending my last guy was like the first guy to end it

01:59:14.260 and i feel like my ego is still like crushed because i usually end it you usually end it so he

01:59:19.060 beat you to the punch he beat me we were in an open relationship and he stuck with like the og girl 0.99

01:59:25.780 she's cute i'm not gonna lie but i was never allowed to meet her so okay i didn't like it got it

01:59:34.180 um i mean i haven't been broken up with but i've had really good reasons to have to break up with

01:59:41.700 somebody which is kind of worse in my case because i got cheated on like a really long relationship

01:59:48.820 so that hurts so you have to break up with them and yeah i just ended when things get toxic or if

01:59:55.780 they're controlling and just not good for my mental health yeah so overwhelming when you say you're the

02:00:02.100 one who ends things yes okay yeah same here i usually the one dancing or the guy ants is just uh

02:00:11.860 it's rare it's usually me okay uh i really never got in a relationship where someone has a breakup or

02:00:18.500 anything like it's never that deep this is like my first relationship where it's actually like boyfriend

02:00:22.500 girlfriend okay so but has there ever been any short-term things where

02:00:28.020 like there was some communication like hey it was nice meeting you but i don't think it's gonna work

02:00:33.540 or i don't want to see you anymore no not really it's usually just like over text and then it's like

02:00:38.900 oh we don't see each other or just a ghost okay rachel um oh i hate being a heartbreaker

02:00:48.420 i don't want to admit it i don't want to admit it i've never been broken up with but i'm single

02:00:55.140 right now so that tells you the answer and how many people

02:01:02.340 ballpark how many people have you broken up with or ended things with i think i've had maybe

02:01:08.020 five or six actual boyfriends okay so that's how many but um some of them just naturally ended just

02:01:21.140 speak into the microphone some of them just naturally ended so um sometimes it's amicable okay it's not

02:01:27.860 always too much of a heartbreak got it um i would say when it comes to relationships because i'm not a big

02:01:36.020 relationship person if it's a relationship i get broken up with and then but if it's like casual i'm

02:01:42.740 the one who ends things okay got it got it yeah i i'll actually answer the question i would say

02:01:51.940 that yes for me i've broken up or ended things with a couple girls but probably the majority

02:01:57.940 i got dumped i'm gonna hey i'll take the l i'll admit it um so i definitely do think there's an

02:02:04.900 interesting difference there uh and i do think they report that something like 80 percent of divorces

02:02:13.780 are initiated by women uh which is maybe i i don't know guys don't don't get married okay

02:02:23.140 so let's see um that guy's right we do need an energy drink i know i want some i'm feeling if anyone

02:02:32.260 wants to tip us so that we can buy some weed oh boom there you go oh after this yeah we could podcast

02:02:42.100 that too so here's a common trope i see in dating profiles um you know dating apps just to show of

02:02:51.780 hands again who who's currently on a dating app rachel no okay so here uh what do girls mean when they write 0.98

02:03:06.340 take me on an adventure what what does that mean going outdoors outdoors that's that's an adventure

02:03:18.340 maybe go on a road trip do something fun and cute don't just sit on netflix and chill

02:03:25.940 i'm the type of girl that would say that

02:03:27.700 and i feel like it's like hot springs hike or like like it has to be something that

02:03:35.700 it's the highlight of their week they're like oh my god like i worked all week and then this guy took

02:03:40.260 me to do this fun thing um so not like dinner date or like movie like it has to be something

02:03:46.660 bigger like unique like snorkeling okay got it or like skydiving sky hold on skydiving yeah oh that's

02:03:56.100 a good one oh here's a good question what is the most overly elaborate or like extravagant

02:04:04.500 first date first time meeting up that a guy's ever done or taking you on

02:04:16.660 so

02:04:35.300 sorry guys technical issues um i'm pretty sure they

02:04:39.140 heard the question though uh so hensley i'll start with you could you repeat the question

02:04:46.260 yeah so what what is the most overly elaborate or extravagant uh first first date a guy has ever

02:04:54.580 taken you on and sort of a secondary question have you ever been flown out could i get the cricket sound

02:05:01.700 effect thank you um i haven't been on very elaborate first dates um not that i can think

02:05:11.940 of over the top of my head and just like never flown anywhere i hear about those dates and i'm like

02:05:16.100 where are you meeting them that sounds so fun has a guy ever offered to fly you out anywhere

02:05:22.580 maybe but nothing that was taken seriously like that's another thing is like you get a lot of these

02:05:27.620 grand gesture offers but that none of them are serious it's just an attempt to get you talking

02:05:32.660 to them because i think their personality is gonna win you over got it normally doesn't if they start

02:05:38.660 by lying about trips to places but got it okay yeah i've been asked to go on trips on flights with

02:05:48.340 people and it's never been for first date like right first date okay and it never appealed because

02:05:55.380 that sounds like kidnapping tilt the mic up a bit towards you yeah thanks ensley

02:06:01.300 sorry keep going um it sounds like kidnapping if it's a first date and you're going on a flight

02:06:07.940 okay so it's just too wild for me but my first actual like adventure date that was really cool

02:06:17.540 uh was learning to surf um another really cool first date was getting taken up to the river

02:06:24.980 in um big sur and the guy like there's chairs up there i don't know there's like a couple hotels

02:06:33.060 that do crazy things up there one of them puts um picnic chairs in the river and then there's tables

02:06:40.180 in between it so you can like set up lunch and eat in the river that was pretty cool but they weren't

02:06:47.460 like crazy adventures just more than usual drop it yeah i've never been on a crazy first date it's

02:06:55.060 always just pretty basic and pretty basic parking lot the guy's 99 miata yeah so true okay uh i've never

02:07:03.700 been in the crazy days just like they would take me on the dinner like restaurants or nice cafes or places

02:07:10.580 but mostly like skydiving or something else like you know diving yeah it's always just been going to

02:07:20.580 the bar going to dinner nothing too crazy okay hopefully that changes but yeah yeah nothing like

02:07:28.100 crazy either i mean yeah i feel like the outdoor adventure ones are fun but speak speak a bit more

02:07:33.860 into the microphone the outdoor adventure ones are fun but i mean that's stuff that i would do like with

02:07:40.260 or without a date so okay yeah got it so no offers to be flown out anywhere okay got it uh hmm

02:07:52.980 oh chris by the way um i don't know if any of you else on the panel here it's pretty hot in here yeah

02:07:59.540 chris do you think you could try to finagle the air conditioning if it's too loud we'll turn it off

02:08:06.180 but it's super toasty in here and i'll continue on um hold on sorry let me take over here one sec

02:08:16.020 and did you lower the temp yeah okay i it might by the way we so everyone in the chat we just

02:08:35.460 uh turned on the air conditioning there's a bit of ambient noise can you let us know one in the chat if

02:08:40.740 you heard that or if it's not affecting the volume at all okay um let's do super chats really quick

02:08:53.140 i don't know if we have any um any new ones uh noah vega with the nine or the ten dollars super chat

02:09:02.020 thank you man appreciate the support uh brian brickson uh what's your only fans so if you actually go in the

02:09:09.300 description um i have my only fans linked there it's um me and andrea here we uh we put on a show

02:09:18.820 we put on the show and you know she's gonna appear a girl girl she's gonna and it's gonna be a collab

02:09:25.940 with our only fans so uh yeah check it out it's in the description uh by the way all the girls are 1.00

02:09:32.660 terrified of of this sex doll by the way she's nice okay she's shy okay uh next one 0.96

02:09:46.420 uh steven krug ten dollar super chat thank you man appreciate it women carry more risk in 1.00

02:09:50.100 reproduction evolutionarily evolutionary speaking because of time investment nine month pregnancy

02:09:57.300 etc etc father could leave without doing anything i.e women naturally are more selective because risk 1.00

02:10:02.500 i agree with that i mean there's certainly yeah there's certainly a biological element in our lizard

02:10:09.140 brains where it's like hey if i mean you know birth control came out in the 60s and now that's a bit less

02:10:18.180 of a concern but still in our lizard brain we're like hey we have the risk of a pregnancy here so

02:10:23.780 it makes sense it makes sense but i i do gotta say 10 guys 10 of men you find a track okay anyways it

02:10:32.660 was less less less than 10 percent they're very picky um so okay is that it for the super chats chris

02:10:42.100 uh let's just uh go to window mode let's uh just give a little shout to our twitch

02:10:46.660 homies homies okay oh sweet uh thank you iceman 102 to i i'm dyslexic here english as a second language

02:10:58.420 guys thank you for the uh tier one sub much appreciated and uh thank you guys for the follow

02:11:03.060 much appreciated um oh i can hold on i'll just do them okay um oh wow okay so

02:11:11.540 next question sorry guys first time we're figuring it out we're doing it live uh

02:11:22.180 do you guys think it's wrong for a guy to hook up with a girl and then ghost her

02:11:28.100 let's start with jane um i think ghosting whether it's like the guy or the girl i think it's just

02:11:33.380 better to like be honest um if you're not feeling it just let them know so that they can move on

02:11:39.940 okay i agree with that but i have ghosted because sometimes awkward to be honest with people and

02:11:48.420 let them down but overall ghosting is just worse than just being honest and having healthy communication

02:11:53.940 but yeah i don't i don't i don't like it yeah same as here and i don't like when people ghost

02:12:03.300 yeah i agree with my i've unfortunately done it too but it's like i shouldn't have been i should have

02:12:09.380 been open yeah i'm from such a small town that it's not possible to ghost each other so now that 0.62

02:12:17.620 i'm in the world it's just so fucked up it's not cool um i think like there could be a sentence or 0.98

02:12:27.380 two of explanation it doesn't even have to be nice just but i think from moving on it can be a lot 0.97

02:12:32.660 better but i think we definitely have a bad tendency of being like they should have got the vibe like

02:12:37.700 girls are very dependent on our body language and our tone and our fluctuation of voice for 1.00

02:12:43.140 how and we expect guys to kind of perceive that as like dude we're not ndo yeah but guys are not the

02:12:49.620 brightest so i think for them it can be easier if you just let them get the point by telling them you

02:12:56.180 know i'm good thanks okay got it so next question do you have different sets of rules for different guys

02:13:07.220 guys based on their attractiveness or tolerate certain behaviors for men that you wouldn't

02:13:12.900 otherwise based on their attractiveness

02:13:18.020 ensley um

02:13:20.980 i i mean i think just every relationship's different it can't necessarily be

02:13:24.980 by rules or numbers or statistics or anything it's really how you feel them out i think we all

02:13:29.860 just have the one standard of like don't hit us kind of thing like don't assault us

02:13:34.660 um and the other rules i think it fluctuates for everyone it's just subjective

02:13:41.700 okay rachel i agree it's too subjective

02:13:46.820 yeah i'd probably say the same thing but i would like to think i'd probably treat everyone like the

02:13:51.540 same yeah same here i agree with this i agree with elise

02:13:58.260 yeah like i know how i want to be treated and how i deserve to be treated so no matter how hot

02:14:04.820 or not hot a guy is like if he's not going to treat me like that then i'm not going to be with him

02:14:10.420 okay got it so again totally new topic and i think we're going to probably wrap up here guys in about

02:14:20.820 15 20 minutes uh so if any of you have a question just submit it super chat and we'll get to it before

02:14:27.540 the end of the show uh so who should i'm trying to think how i want to frame this question so

02:14:37.940 amongst your friend group group of friends do you guys share a lot with them about someone like guys

02:14:47.380 you're dating do you guys get advice or do you just share a lot yeah i mean like we share everything

02:14:54.420 um like before one of us goes on a date with a new guy we'll share our location you know like just to

02:14:59.780 make sure we're safe we'll facetime about it afterwards um yeah i think it's like fun you know

02:15:05.300 to like it's like girl talk it's like a sleepover yeah i agree with that i think it depends also with the

02:15:13.380 relationship you have with that person a lot of the times i don't want to share what i wouldn't be

02:15:19.060 comfortable with them sharing with their friends so i do like have that line of what's okay what's not

02:15:24.900 but with your like best best friend yeah everything yeah same here i i mean if i go on a date i usually

02:15:33.620 share location with my friends and also tell them my experience how was that uh but also

02:15:45.700 i'm i'm trying to like you know stay safe and you know anything could happen on the date so yeah i

02:15:53.700 keep like only best friends like really close people in my life so i share everything about the date like

02:15:58.900 their name everything um what the friend's willing to hear so yeah true i don't want to say too much

02:16:09.220 um but i do tell my girlfriends a lot especially the ones that are still back in vermont and we're

02:16:15.940 staying in touch and whatever what's the harm i share with my friends either the really good experiences

02:16:23.140 or the really bad experiences except for my best friend natalie she gets all of it and i'm sorry

02:16:28.660 natalie okay and so how quickly and this could be an assumption but how quickly after you the first

02:16:37.860 time you've hooked up with a guy within 24 hours do you do your girlfriends know the size of the man's 0.59

02:16:44.740 penis yes or no does it curve does it curve in a certain direction like i said if it's either really 0.84

02:16:54.020 good or really bad okay so they know then if it's in one of the extremes yeah but if it's just an average 0.99

02:17:03.140 so if it's a large penis yes or a small penis they will they will know okay okay um can i say 0.96

02:17:11.860 okay yeah i think i would share with only my very close people like those pasty friends okay if they 0.95

02:17:22.020 ask for sure so okay i think probably if you asked i don't see why i just say it unless it's like

02:17:31.860 what she said really good really bad sure probably say something but yeah more if you ask um yeah i i

02:17:40.340 guess like what hensley said like if it's crazy big or like really teeny like i definitely talk about

02:17:46.500 it if not if it's average if it's average it's average like you don't talk about average things you

02:17:52.020 know okay um do you guys ever get nervous about what details a man that you're dating or even hooked up

02:18:01.540 with might share with his friends i mean honestly guys don't really talk to their guys about that

02:18:10.260 that's true that's true like do you say anything because like honestly i do but he's like i really don't

02:18:16.820 say it like they're pretty respectful if they're in a relationship like it's super respectful but

02:18:21.460 if it's not a relationship i don't think they like over explain because boys are just not like that

02:18:26.020 yeah it's respectful but it's also like dangerous right somebody could steal you away if they like

02:18:33.300 talk too good about you which is what i was going to say about the last question like i never talk about

02:18:39.940 my boyfriends or somebody i'm with especially if it's really good because then it's just like a wet

02:18:46.900 dream for whoever else and that's not right you're going where i forgot the questions yeah so good

02:18:56.980 question do you ever like i guess let me also kind of maybe reframe it would you be nervous about a guy

02:19:04.980 or uncomfortable with a guy you're dating or hooked up with talking to his guy friends in the same way

02:19:12.100 that you talk to your girlfriends in terms of disclosures i think it depends on who because i've

02:19:20.340 been with somebody who i'm really close with friendship wise and i'm friends with i'm really

02:19:24.820 close with his homies so like in that case yes it's kind of weird for like your brothers to know

02:19:31.700 specific information about you but other than that i don't really care okay as long as it's good

02:19:37.620 got it if it's not then yes i care yeah i mean especially as like someone who's open about sex

02:19:43.860 work i feel like often guys will brag to their guy friends after they get with like me or like one of

02:19:50.180 my co-workers and i i don't know i feel like that's kind of lame like if you're just like bragging about

02:19:56.420 fucking a stripper like i don't know like that stuff's lame to me but if they're gonna just like 1.00

02:20:02.100 talk about like what they did with me or whatever i i'm talking about it too so like that's fine 0.99

02:20:08.500 okay got it so i'm gonna i'm gonna give the at least my take and i think the guy's take we don't

02:20:16.660 say shit really um i think if a guy if a guy friend was they don't even know who i'm seeing 0.79

02:20:25.940 dating they probably don't know their names unless it's like super long term they might not know 0.99

02:20:30.820 um if a guy knows that i was on a date somehow he might he might be like how'd the date go and i

02:20:36.740 might just be like i was good that's it or it wasn't it was bad like that's it even if we hook up

02:20:44.900 like i'm i'm not gonna talk about her labia and you know i don't know i i think i do think it's maybe

02:20:59.700 and it's sort of just taken for granted i feel like but to me it seems a bit lack of discretion 0.95

02:21:10.020 because like damn this girl like she knows she knows all this like her friends know and i just 0.94

02:21:16.180 i'm like uh yeah like i'll know her in that way but she knows anyways whatever um 0.99

02:21:25.300 so but you guys would you guys i guess follow-up question would you be upset if a guy was like yeah 0.99

02:21:31.940 her pussy smelled bad or something like that well going back to what you said first of all let me 0.99

02:21:38.580 just say like if my boyfriend was like don't talk about it like i wouldn't like it's also about 0.99

02:21:43.860 respect and i'm sure we wouldn't say anything if the guy said like hey like i'm uncomfortable

02:21:48.500 like with you sharing this like i would never do that to someone yeah same here okay i feel like um i

02:21:56.580 wouldn't share at least someone like one of my best ask about that and secondly i feel like guys

02:22:04.900 don't really always share things and if you're gonna like share stuff like something like bad about

02:22:11.460 me yeah i think i would be upset okay got it i think i'd just be embarrassed honestly if they said

02:22:20.500 something but like i went on a date the other day and i was texting at least the entire time just

02:22:26.820 keeping her updated so i can't really be hypocritical and say i care about them saying something but i can

02:22:33.060 say everything right so you know okay yeah got it um i think we're gonna do maybe the last question

02:22:42.180 here or actually before that chris do we have any know what we'll actually save these super chats for

02:22:46.980 the uh i think for the very very end and then we'll wrap up um so who would you guys say when it comes to

02:22:55.940 dating who has the burden of initiative when it comes to dating men or women

02:23:06.820 when you say burden of initiative like who has to ask out who yeah um i mean it i've definitely

02:23:14.660 been confident enough where if i see someone i'll walk straight up to them and start the conversation

02:23:18.580 i have no issue with that but if it's also like a mutual situation like i just got into one where we

02:23:22.820 were both talking it was very flirty and i was like yeah we should hang out and we both followed

02:23:26.900 each other on instagram i wasn't texting him first like i was like no i want i want you to text me first

02:23:31.860 for sure yeah let me actually just reframe the question um so do you prefer it when a guy takes

02:23:40.740 initiative and i think you kind of answered that so oh yeah for sure rachel yes okay

02:23:46.500 yeah i also prefer but i have no problem starting either okay yeah i prefer when the guy takes first

02:23:56.660 yeah i like confidence so yes yeah i mean like you want to feel wanted um but also like it's kind of

02:24:05.620 cool i feel like as the girl i feel like it stands out if you do text first or like make the date um just

02:24:12.020 because i feel like that's like kind of non-conventional um so then guys will remember you

02:24:17.140 more okay got it yeah is there and never mind sorry guys it's scorching in here it's super hot

02:24:30.180 i think we're all all of us are kind of uh low energy um so i think we're gonna wrap up here pretty soon

02:24:35.460 uh but before we do that let's just go around the panel uh would any of you like to pose a question to

02:24:42.260 the panel or to me we'll start with hensley um

02:24:56.980 i i do guys worry about labia size good question good question uh so do guys worry about i can't speak

02:25:09.220 for other men and certainly okay so i'm probably i may very i may very well be an outlier in this

02:25:16.500 regard but i'm gonna just be honest i actually kind of like a girl with a bit of labia some big 1.00

02:25:24.260 lips you know what i'm saying i i'm a fan i'm a fan and i think and actually i'm starting i'm announcing

02:25:31.620 this right now thank you hensley for intro and we just everyone know this was not uh pre-planned um

02:25:38.660 i'm starting a non-profit organization called the american network against labia plaisty okay

02:25:47.460 ain't anal for short and i think i think it's unfortunate and i'm i'm kind of joking around but 0.98

02:25:54.020 uh i do think women get shamed for if they have a large labia and i think that's unfortunate um 0.98

02:26:02.260 because that's something you're born with you can't change in the similar vein i i don't think

02:26:05.940 we should be shaming guys if they have a small peen you know uh you know uh small peen solidarity but

02:26:14.740 i'm average okay i'll admit average but uh so i would say i i actually like not to say that i wouldn't 0.98

02:26:23.620 hook up with a girl if she had the normal let's not say normal but like smaller labia i guess but

02:26:28.900 i'm a fan i'm not gonna lie i'm a fan of the large labia and i do think it's unfortunate that 0.73

02:26:36.500 there's a lot of shaming language like you know there's beef curtains meat flaps so labia love that's 1.00

02:26:42.420 my message but uh i think most guys are just most most there's definitely some guys out there that'll

02:26:48.660 shame a girl for that but i think most guys are just like you know happy to be being intimate with

02:26:56.340 somebody you know so i also have a question uh we'll come to you related to her thing or

02:27:02.900 it's a different different okay we're just gonna go around but we'll get to you rachel rachel

02:27:09.620 um does anyone think that there's long-term damage in the relationship if uh the relationship becomes open

02:27:21.220 and then maybe when you get older you know there's not as many options

02:27:26.500 because this is really common um moving from new england to southern california i come up against it

02:27:34.820 a lot where open relationships are really casual and predominant actually and so i'm not really sure

02:27:45.620 whether i'm old school and thinking that there could be potentially long-term damage that you could never

02:27:54.980 really close it in the future when you're older but so are you saying that it can be cause like

02:28:04.340 psychological harm to be in an open relationship or i'm just trying to any sort of damage that makes you

02:28:12.260 not last the ages because you opened your relationship or do you think that it's totally

02:28:18.500 closable again and um i don't know what are people's thoughts on open relationships in the long term of

02:28:27.140 like a whole lifespan okay uh all of it i'll let the rest of the panel answer and then i'll give them my

02:28:33.460 answer i think a lot of people who are like very pro monogamy or like anti open relationships it's funny

02:28:42.660 because then they'll cheat you know what i mean like open relationships are there for a reason and

02:28:47.300 they do have a lot of potential but they're just as much work and just as hard i think as monogamy

02:28:53.940 um because there does have to be a lot of open communication there are going to be feelings of

02:28:57.940 jealousy like no matter what and but they also i think are becoming really popular because they

02:29:04.100 have a lot of potential in them i'm pro monogamy but i'm also open to like open relationships like

02:29:10.820 i'm not closed off to it like we're so young and like i know i don't want my boyfriend's probably not

02:29:15.860 going to be interested like that in me that my whole life like we're going to be alive till we're like

02:29:20.580 50 60 70 whatever so like i'm open to like trying something new always

02:29:28.260 ah so i have a question so before we get to your question um so we were

02:29:36.420 we're we'll come back to it but do you want we'll do you want to answer hers or we can just skip you

02:29:42.020 uh no no she just came to zero okay do you want to go ahead um i'm not against it but i am

02:29:48.500 i am the jealous type and i personally don't think i could do it i think i would go a little

02:29:55.460 crazy and just get a little jealous so i for myself i wouldn't do it i think that would

02:30:01.620 harm me mentally um yeah i've been in different open relationships i feel like the ones that worked

02:30:08.100 for me were the ones that everyone was in the same relationship like polyamory and so like we all

02:30:14.740 loved each other and that really worked for me and it was really honest and open um the ones that for

02:30:19.940 me personally like don't work is when someone has like a separate partner that like you get no contact

02:30:25.460 with because to me like that doesn't feel as open um but yeah i do think it has become a lot more popular

02:30:32.020 um and i think it takes like double triple however many partners are involved that much more work

02:30:38.660 to make it successful and you have to be like really secure and honest with yourself okay yeah

02:30:45.140 thank you so i'll answer the question so it's it's do open relationships cause harm to the relationship

02:30:55.620 if it were to close again or just um i mean i think if you're in a monogamous i think if you're in a

02:31:04.100 monogamous relationship and then you open it up but if i was dating a girl and it was monogamous and 0.98

02:31:10.980 she came to me and she said i want to open this up she's done just it's it's over you know like i just

02:31:20.820 that's a bad sign i think that's a bad omen like i'm breaking up with her can i ask why if because if

02:31:28.580 why does she want to open it up i mean she wants to essentially she'd want to she wants to sleep 0.99

02:31:35.460 with other men what if she wanted to add a woman yeah um i'd rather i'd rather disappoint only one

02:31:42.980 woman at a time you know you know the whole threesome thing but i mean i suppose i'd be okay

02:31:50.900 with that if it's a woman if it's yeah why not do you think it's like you wouldn't be threatened by

02:31:56.260 another girl but you'd be threatened by another guy oh i would never have a threesome with another

02:32:00.660 guy like not even threesomes but open like if she wanted to go off and have a separate relationship

02:32:05.140 with another woman you'd be fine no i i wouldn't be okay with that okay yeah i wouldn't be okay with

02:32:10.740 it um yeah i i mean i think it really comes down to just the couple being able to come to a mutual

02:32:18.820 understanding and agreement if that's what they both want fine but uh i mean the rec i mean i don't

02:32:25.860 recommend if if your girl comes to you and she's like i want to open this relationship bro 0.81

02:32:32.020 fucking yeah she already has someone lined up it's over like it's done like she ain't feeling you 1.00

02:32:38.900 anymore um anyways yeah or sorry at least if you have a question or i mean no for the panel okay go 1.00

02:32:48.180 ahead yeah yeah i have a question sure when a guy hit a girl let me like have a sex in the first date 0.58

02:32:54.100 does he lose interest does he lose interest after like he had sex with her 0.88

02:32:59.860 okay so you're asking me just me yeah yeah as a guy yeah so um i i think i may be a bit of an

02:33:11.460 outlier on this one so if a girl sleeps with me on like the first time i'm not gonna be like oh she's 1.00

02:33:18.260 not worthy of like relationship or commitment some guys there are some guys though like if you hook up

02:33:23.060 with them too quick they're gonna feel a certain type of way about it they might not they might not

02:33:27.860 take you seriously for me i don't i don't think that's really an issue i wouldn't it wouldn't be

02:33:35.460 a deal breaker but there were there could be potentially other things that are problematic like

02:33:41.780 if you're annoying then then yeah maybe i won't i wouldn't be interested again but um yeah and also i

02:33:48.660 mean i don't know i don't need to sleep with the girl on the first day like if it's the no it's

02:33:54.660 just like a question yeah just a question yeah it's kind of a tough spot because on one hand if you wait

02:34:00.260 too long then the guy might just be like i don't want to wait find somebody else and then and then or

02:34:06.420 he does wait and then you hook up once and then i don't know if any of you guys have had that experience

02:34:10.820 where you wait you hook up and then that's it so it is you are kind of in a tough spot where it's like

02:34:18.100 is he gonna want to continue seeing me and so yeah but uh for me it's not i don't i don't mind i

02:34:26.340 typically typically i'll wait till like the second date um but yeah could i step in for a sec too

02:34:33.220 what my grandma always said is like especially with like when you sleep with a guy on the first night 0.99

02:34:37.780 even if it's not something you do a lot men have a tendency to never think they're special so they

02:34:43.460 think if you do it with them you do it with everyone and they yeah yeah that's what i heard

02:34:48.660 too it could it could also be though that you found him so incredibly charming and attractive

02:34:56.420 that you broke a rule for him so it could be viewed that way so it could also be uh flattering

02:35:03.780 like oh normally i mean how would the guy know but so it could also be viewed in the flattering way like

02:35:10.580 oh she's so into me whatever but um i don't really have any questions okay jane yeah um i guess like

02:35:18.580 because this is your first podcast ever yeah what is something you'd want to try next time

02:35:25.780 try next time like like what's something like what did you learn from this very first podcast

02:35:31.620 that you'd like take with you okay yeah good question thank you uh a couple things um

02:35:37.060 um put the air conditioning on first off um it got got very toasty um i think i would have liked

02:35:45.620 to have a mouse so i could be better prepared be a little bit better prepared with the questions you know

02:35:50.820 it's first time so i'm this is new to me and i definitely appreciate you guys's patience just with

02:35:55.780 everything um i definitely want to add some different sort of segments to the show besides just asking

02:36:02.100 questions i think it could definitely be interesting since there's a dating and relationship show

02:36:06.740 would be to like somehow dive into the like have a girl like connect her well maybe not connect her 0.99

02:36:14.660 phone but take screenshots of the dating apps and then we could like do some sort of review or something

02:36:20.900 that could be fun but uh i want to get more tuned in with the soundboard and get some more sounds going

02:36:29.060 but uh yeah i'm still figuring it out so yeah it's just going to be a learning experience yeah but

02:36:34.820 uh yeah um chris do we have any super chats brian needs a co-host i agree i mean i do think i want

02:36:42.660 to co-host but no no chris no super chats okay or are you sure it looks i don't know if we

02:36:51.140 but we have uh someone on twitch though give you 100 bits oh okay yeah pull just pull up the twitch

02:36:59.460 really quick oh oh it looks like he used he cheered like 600 bits progressive alter ego hey man thank

02:37:09.220 you for the bits really appreciate it thank you for the support um all right guys well uh why don't we

02:37:14.580 bring it back to just the so um that is it for the show thank you guys so much for tuning in

02:37:23.460 really appreciate it uh it's our first show we're still figuring out the kinks uh we're aiming to

02:37:29.620 switch to tri-weekly so we're going to be doing sunday tuesdays thursdays 7 p.m we're i'm not sure

02:37:35.460 if we're going to immediately get into that schedule but that's sort of the end goal sunday tuesday

02:37:39.380 thursdays tri-weekly uh thank you guys so much for tuning in be sure to like check out um you know

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Whatever Podcast - January 29, 2023

Dating Talk #1

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