Dating Talk #1
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2 hours and 38 minutes
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161.16055
Summary
Join us live from Isla Vista, California as we introduce ourselves, introduce our first guest, and talk about what we like and dislike about dating and relationships. We hope you enjoy this episode and can't wait to do more!
Transcript
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Can we get a one in the chat if you can hear and see us?
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We're coming to you live from Isla Vista, Santa Barbara County, California.
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Joined by my co-host, Andrea, not to be confused with Andrea.
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This is the dating talk show where we talk about dating, debauchery, and relationships.
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Shout out to Fresh and Fit for the inspiration.
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This is our very first show, and we're doing it live, so I appreciate your understanding
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if we're still working out the pacing and if we have any audio and video issues.
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A few quick announcements before the show begins.
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All the money I make, I pour back into making videos.
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I want to get more camera angles, more mics, so we can get some more guests on.
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Or if you want to pose a question to the panel here that we'll introduce shortly, that works
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It's going to be $10 and up for now for super chats.
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Follow at whatever on all the other social media platforms.
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Also, we're going to need chat mods for future shows.
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And also, lastly, like if you're a girl, you want to come on the show, and you're here
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So we're going to have the guests, the panel, introduce themselves.
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So please tell us your name, age, occupation, relationship status, starting with you.
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I do OnlyFans and modeling, and I'm single right now.
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I'm 20 years old, and I'm currently a volleyball coach, and I'm single right now.
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No, I'm a biology major, and I am a student athlete.
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I'm 35, and I have an art business, and I'm single.
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I am currently a stripper, and what was the other one?
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And do you strip at the Spearmint, or where do you strip?
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And by the way, for anyone who doesn't know the Spearmint Rhino here in Santa Barbara,
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And so that means, by the way, just talking to the microphone.
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So does that mean that you can't serve alcohol there because it's full?
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Chris, can you just highlight the super chat you showed on stream?
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By the way, guys, this is our first show, so we appreciate you just kind of taking it easy
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Quick, light, fun question just to start us off.
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So let's say the guy's chatting you up at the party, club, bar, Trader Joe's, probation
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office, because, I mean, there's a criminal element amongst this panel, I can feel.
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And he reaches into his pocket and pulls out a flip phone.
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I would be deterred, just because I don't know if you could have any apps on a flip
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phone, and I like to Snapchat and do Instagram instead of text.
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I like a man with no social media, so I would like that.
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Well, it would be one of my normal day-to-days to know somebody who has multiple phones, and
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you're not always going to buy an iPhone, right?
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So, first question of the night, and this is sort of the namesake of the title of the show.
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Um, well, I think a guy, if he's short, he can't be skinny, too.
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Like, he can be my height or a little shorter, but he has to make up for that in girth, not sexually.
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Well, at least, is your height or taller, or you're a short guy?
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I mean, it can even be a couple inches shorter, as long as it's not short and skinny, because then you're just small.
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Like, a short, just ripped guy will do it for you.
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Imagine he's, like, which is cute, like, a model type with, like, the body and everything, but I'm, like, curvy, and so I don't think it would fit.
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It's just, I see myself in him in my mind, and if it's wrong, I just...
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I'm talking, like, at least two inches shorter or more.
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But, so, you would date a guy like your height?
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I'm 5'11", so I need a guy who's taller than me so we can have some B1 babies.
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Uh, I think, um, height is measured to me, and I like the guys, like, uh, six feet and
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taller than me, because I'm myself 5'9", and I, like, I don't know how to explain it,
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but I, like, feel like a little girl when a guy, like, taller than me, and he, like, can
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A lot of my exes have been really short, but not shorter than me.
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I think you just need confidence, and that's okay.
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Um, I've dated some short kings, and I'm 5'3", but I like to wear heels all the time.
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But if I'm taller than the guy with heels on, I'm totally fine with that.
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Um, I think it's kind of hot to, like, switch it up.
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As long as, like, you can't be short and insecure.
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You have to own your shortness, because you can't change it.
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Just, are you on a dating app or have been on a dating app?
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So, I, I don't know, um, if Tinder, is anyone on Tinder right now?
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Yeah, Hinge and Bumble, they have a height section.
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But, do you, what do you think about if, you know, in the same way that there's a height
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field on Bumble and Hinge, if there was a weight field, what do you, what do you think about
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Um, I personally think that height and weight are just things that don't matter to me necessarily.
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Like, I'd like to meet the person first and see how we vibe.
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Um, so I personally wouldn't put my height or my weight on a dating app.
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Um, but if it matters to some people, then I hope you find that.
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And I think if you like their photos and they're not a catfish, then it really doesn't matter.
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I mean, to be honest, it's all about preference.
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So I think if they're going to put height, they might as well put weight.
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If you're going to care about one thing, you might as well care about the other.
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Um, I think I'd just get confused if they put weight, and then I'd have to think about a
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Height, I'm sure about, and whole ratio thing of, like, how much he should weigh if he's
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Um, I feel like those on dating apps, it kind of goes by if you want to volunteer that
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And I feel like the people who would want to volunteer the information of their weight
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are probably the guys that are a little too much into their weight.
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If you put your height and weight, it'd be like, we get it.
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So you would all be in favor of a weight field on a dating app for both men and women, like
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a weight, you know how there's a height and weight field?
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Like she said, somebody put a weight in their profile.
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Like most guys lie on Tinder about their height.
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So next question, sort of related to the height thing.
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I know that's a lame answer, but I mean like, yeah, it's more how long they last and what they
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It's kind of like with the height, if it's too far off, it can be a problem, but for the
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I think it just depends, like how you work with it.
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I just think it matters and all, all matters how he use it because it can be small or big
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And yeah, it's about the motion of the ocean, but with the size.
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From experience, I've literally been with a guy with like a micro dick and I've been with
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guys with like huge cocks and like both of them have been awesome.
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Like, it's not just about what's in their pants.
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Um, you have fingers, you have like toys and stuff.
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Um, so yeah, I think it doesn't have to matter if that's not the only thing that you're working
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So if he wasn't quite packing in the bulge department, maybe the, let's say the first
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Aside from the bulge thing, if, if a guy's performance first time, isn't great.
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Or so first time you hook up with the guy, but the performance wasn't great, but you
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know, who knows, maybe it could get better down the road.
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Certainly that's something that you guys could practice.
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If the performance, the first time that was bad, is it just, that's a wrap like onto the
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next one or you're going to give the guy a chance?
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I mean, yeah, like unless they have like a really awesome personality, um, that's, I'm
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Well, he was nervous and that's why he didn't perform well.
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So it could be, I would give a chance for sure.
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If it was like, he had a great personality, I would probably definitely go back for a
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Just a show of hands, like at the table, who here believes in astrology?
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That's so general, like there's so many things that matter in the way.
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This is so touchy, but like you can believe in astrology without believing in everything
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And so what is your, what, like, what's your sign or?
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Um, and did you, sorry, did you answer the previous thing about?
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Um, I could be convinced to go on a second date.
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The first one, I like give them the credit and, or give myself all the credit.
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And then the second time, if they still suck, then I'm like, yeah.
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So can you, everyone in chat, can you type a one if you're getting a bit of echo on the
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I'm just going to play one just so, you know, uh, let's see, uh, just one in chat.
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If you hear a bit of an echo on the soundboard stuff, we're still troubleshooting that.
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Um, did we get a couple of super chats, Chris, we got three or, oh, wow.
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As a five, five male, I can't change my height yet can be instantly filtered out in apps.
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An overweight person can change, which is why I think it makes even more sense to list
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Um, I, it is sort of like interesting though, like you said, you don't really have control
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over your height, but like you do have control over your weight, but, um, I feel like with
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weight, you can sort of suss that out from a photo, you know, whereas height, it's a bit
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So, um, yeah, but I guess sort of to reframe your chat a little bit and I'll ask the panel
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this, um, do you think it's okay and I, I think it's okay, um, to some degree if women
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have a height preference and we'll start with you, Jane, do you think it's okay if a woman's
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like, I'll only date a guy who's six feet and above?
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Like everyone gets to have whatever preference they want to have.
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Um, like I think everyone has preferences, so yeah, it's okay.
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Like you might find less people or whatever, but everyone like has bias, so yeah.
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I think everyone can have a preference, but you get sweeped off your feet by people you
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didn't think would, like they'll just walk down the street and you're like, oh, wow,
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I mean, I've definitely had some people where I'm like, they're definitely not my type, but
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Um, so then would you guys similarly, would you not object to if a guy had a similar preference
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where he's like, listen, I will only date a woman who's 120 pounds or less.
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Would you object or would you find that off-putting or offensive?
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I think it was like, love is blind, but Shaq, he just, every person like this one guy talked
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to, he's like, could I carry you on my shoulders?
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Like, and then if he couldn't do that, he just cut him off and everyone was like, oh,
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Like, but I think it's just how you approach it basically.
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Um, I don't think it's fair to cut somebody off, uh, based on their weight, no.
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But you're, but, but so you're okay with the height one?
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Well, life is really long and weight fluctuates, but height doesn't, so.
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But couldn't someone make the argument that weight is something that is more in someone's
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control, whereas height, that's just kind of like, you can't really change.
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I mean, there's a very invasive surgery that I think, I don't know the exact procedure,
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but like they lengthen your legs or something, but I mean, that's super intense.
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So, I mean, could we potentially even say that it's more superficial to have a high preference
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versus having a weight preference just because that's something within people's control?
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I'm not going to be upset, just stoking conversation.
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I mean, anybody can really tell anybody that they're not attractive to them because of height
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Because, um, especially if somebody started out one weight and then I saw them again and
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I mean, it really depends on how much you like them.
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Yeah, weight does fluctuate and there's so many like components to weight, like hormones
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It is preference, but at the end of the day, sometimes people cannot control like how much
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Uh, I think, I mean, depends because, I mean, we have a preference on height and they have
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preference on weight and I feel like it's a right to have a preference and also like sometimes
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we can also control the weight, like based on the height or hormones or diets or genetics
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also, but I feel like, yeah, people should have preference, you know, not only girls.
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Um, I personally, I would care because I would see that as somebody only being attracted to
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someone based on what they look like, which is the opposite of what I find in attraction
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So, I wouldn't be necessarily offended, but I would be like, okay, yeah, I'm not going to
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I'd say like, you're fair to, you can have whatever preference you want, but like if your
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preference is all centered by weight or height, honestly, like I'm probably not your girl.
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Um, and there's actually Chris, there's been some funny chats that have been popping up in
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So, um, maybe we can just read a few of these just for fun.
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I saw a comment saying I was like promoting my only fans and capping about the micro dick,
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And just out of curiosity, what kind of content, cause some people cook on only fans.
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If, if I like them, if they're hot, then yes, they can.
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There's this great family guy clip where it's like some police breaking into a hotel
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room and they're like, it's a prostitute and they're like, hands up.
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And then they're like, oh no, there's a camera over there.
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But if you just put your iPhone on a tripod, all of a sudden it could be legal.
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That's a good question because if I'm from prostitution, that's illegal there.
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Also, with that, sex trafficking, it's hard to draw a line of what actually is their choice
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Yeah, I actually was just in Europe and in Amsterdam, they have the red light district where prostitution is totally legalized.
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But because of that, it's really safe in that district.
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There are certain places where like the girls can go and do their thing.
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So I think if prostitution was legalized somewhere like here, California, like that, it would feel really safe.
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But unless they want to help make sure that there's free testing and access, there's no point in legalizing it because it's not going to be safe for everyone that way.
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Yeah, I think it should be legal and it should be safe work.
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Yeah, like Las Vegas where you have to register and they have panic buttons and that just seems more reasonable.
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Yeah, it's going to keep happening whether it's legalized or not.
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I think it's just whether you want to take a safe route or not.
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But also, if anything, it should at least be decriminalized because we all know it's going to happen.
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Like at this point, it's just whether like it's like a if you get caught kind of thing, which isn't cool.
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I mean, we already have enough of a overload in jails and prisons.
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It's just it's a silly thing to criminalize people for.
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I don't know if I would engage in it, but I do think it it should be should be legalized.
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So, Chris, can you pull up that super chat I missed?
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Stephen, thank you so much, man, for the $10 super chat.
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What's more important, wealth or height of a guy?
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Because I want to be very successful and take care of my friends and family.
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I think wealth because myself, I want to be successful and reach.
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And also I want to have a partner that's also on the same level as me.
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So I think someone commented this because they were curious.
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So starting with Jane, on a scale of 1 to 10, what do you rate yourself?
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Like, is this, like, everything included in the package?
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And if you want, you could even break it down, like, face, body.
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Like, I'd say I have, like, really good tits and a cute ass and a good smile.
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And I feel like it changes if girls have stuff done, which is totally cool.
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How I think I would rate myself on a good day, I can go for a 7.
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On a bad day, it can be really low, below 5, below 3.
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But that's just, you know, your own issues, your own insecurities.
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On a scale of 1 to 10, what would you rate your physical attractiveness, your appearance?
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Like, my physical appearance, my personality, 10.
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And sorry, and you rated, did you give a rating or is it, you said it fluxed?
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But I think, like, just based on looks, I'd probably say, like, 6.5.
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Um, as royalty, I wasn't trained to talk about my appearances.
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Do you know women who think, maybe a friend or something, who think they're more attractive
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I think if you have confidence, you're attractive.
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It's really hard to just say one person's not beautiful, one person is beautiful, because
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Your personality, how you treat others, the contributions you've done for the world, just
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Oh, I'm five, six, but the money make it six, four.
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Uh, I don't know if you guys seen, there's this trend on TikTok.
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So it's like, and maybe we could like go around the table and try.
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So, uh, I don't know about this, but so it holds the format.
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He's, he's a, for example, he's a 10, but he has like either X negative quality or X positive
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And then you readjust his score based on, you know, what, what that, if that's a detractor
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Cause, uh, I'm not big fan of flip-flops even when I wear myself, but I think it would
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How about he's a nine, but he will not go down on you.
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Do the hands like play a part too, or is it just all extras outside of sex or bad?
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He, he will, he just doesn't like to give head, but he'll use toys.
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I don't know if this will adjust it for you guys either, but.
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It wouldn't drop him too much lower, maybe like a seven.
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Maybe I should reframe this question a bit differently.
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Would it be a deal breaker for you if a guy did not want to go down on you?
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Like if he's just like, yeah, no, I'm just not a fan of it.
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And they're like, then I'd be like, okay, like fuck off.
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And, um, also, you know, maybe he's saving it till marriage.
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He's saving the oral for marriage, but is he having sex before then?
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Because if you're having sex, why don't you want to be down there?
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I'm trying to think of like a reason a guy wouldn't want to do it.
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Like when he was, there's just a very bushy time and, but I just speak into the microphone.
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But I would definitely would be like a deal breaker.
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Um, so I, I have a confession to make to the, to the panel.
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Um, I haven't gone down on a girl since the Bush administration and that's.
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So, um, I get that sort of kind of, I, it is a bit different.
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Um, Chris, Chris can, well, Chris can't attest to it in that context, but I've got neck problems
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I, I, maybe I should qualify the previous question because let's say a guy's not willing
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to go down on you like the first time you guys hook up, but like once you're in a monogamous
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relationship, maybe what, so would that be a deal breaker?
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Well, would you expect head from her while you're not giving her head?
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I wouldn't expect it, but I would say that it's a bit different in so far.
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Well, in so far as what one person finds they're not comfortable with, maybe the other person
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that it doesn't have to be a tit for tat thing in the same way, for example, and by
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the way, I'm not saying that it wouldn't be an expectation if, if I didn't want to do
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And the girl was like, well, I don't want to do it.
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Like what if the girl had already given you head and then she was like, okay, it's time
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And then you were like, oh, I actually don't do that.
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And then she's like, oh, well fuck, I'm out then.
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Um, I mean, I guess the thing I would compare it to is let's say, let's compare it to like
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Some women would not be comfortable having anal sex, even though that's something the
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I know it's a, it's a bit different, but I think everyone has their own, uh, boundaries
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and what they like or don't like, and I don't think it has to be a tip for tapping, but I
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would totally understand if a girl was like, well, if you're not willing to go down on
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But I don't think that necessarily has to be the case.
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But if you can expect a girl to give you a hat, so you also should give her a hat too.
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So I will say I, it takes me being a certain level of comfortable with someone before I
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So that wouldn't be necessarily a deal breaker for me, but I really, I'm very confident in
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So like, I love giving head because I know what I'm capable of.
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Um, so like for me, like I kind of like the idea of like, yeah, we don't do that until
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Like if the guy, the first time you're hooking up, he's like, I only want to do that in a
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I wouldn't want to do it on the first hookup with like a rando.
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Uh, what are some challenges that you guys face in dating?
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Um, I feel like definitely just meeting people.
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Um, like I've been in Santa Barbara for six years and it's kind of a weird age.
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Cause like I already graduated, like don't want the college hookup life.
00:43:19.600
Um, but there's like a big older population in Santa Barbara too.
00:43:24.280
Like it's kind of weird for people in like their mid twenties.
00:43:28.160
Um, so I guess like that's a struggle just finding places to meet people besides dating
00:43:38.880
I've had really bad experiences with exes with like trust issues and cheating and whatnot.
00:43:45.380
So I think trusting somebody and getting, allowing myself to get close enough with somebody to
00:43:53.360
Uh, for me it's important as trust before I even like let them to see my body and have
00:44:00.560
like intimacy because from my past experience that when you give your like, you know, you
00:44:08.740
give you like pussy to a guy, he just, uh, kind of take advantage of that.
00:44:23.420
i'm sorry sorry continue continue you're good at least um communication is like also leading
00:44:35.520
to trust if you don't have communication it's super hard to be in a relationship
00:44:39.160
i agree with that and um trust and everything everybody's been saying because i want to feel
00:44:48.580
like i know somebody truly um before i get there so it might take a while but um depends how much you
00:44:58.240
hang out and how much you communicate um for me i think the hardest thing is that most people that
00:45:06.440
are really out there looking for a relationship or something serious they're looking for their
00:45:10.400
other half but the thing is i am 100 of a person and i don't want half of a person where they're
00:45:15.560
going to take away from me to fill their voids and fill their needs i want another human being who
00:45:21.620
is evolved and independent and loves themselves so much where they're not asking of me to love them
00:45:27.960
because they are lacking it in themselves got it next question do you believe that women shouldn't
00:45:37.740
be judged by the amount of men they've slept with in other words like body count
00:45:42.680
i don't think you should be judged hold on sorry let's start over here with jen i mean everyone's
00:45:50.720
fair to like have their own judgment so if someone isn't comfortable with the number that a girl has
00:45:56.520
been with or a guy then you don't have to get with that person but i mean i do think like it's in your
00:46:03.360
past how many people you've gotten with so it doesn't necessarily matter to me let me just reframe the
00:46:10.020
question should body count matter or should the amount of people you've slept with in your past
00:46:16.680
matter no like as long as you're clean and like healthy with all that i don't think it matters
00:46:22.640
okay so no no um i'd say no i mean i would understand some feelings towards it like i don't want to
00:46:32.460
necessarily be with somebody who's constantly getting with other people because then i just wouldn't feel
00:46:37.760
special in a way but i wouldn't be too upset i would just say no yeah no uh i think it shouldn't
00:46:45.820
matter because it's a past and plus it's no no none of their business you know it was how it can like
00:46:54.940
affect your like relationship with this person like it's just a like it's just number it's nothing
00:47:01.460
yeah i don't think it matters and it if it does matter it should go both ways like the girls count
00:47:09.020
matter then the boys counts matter as well okay yeah honestly i don't know who's gonna ask like who
00:47:16.320
is this guy who's trying to date me and then ask me how many men i've slept with in the world before
00:47:22.280
i met him a number i think it goes back to kind of like the last answer i gave where i'm like it
00:47:30.120
really depends on what you're doing it for like if you really enjoy sex and you've slept with 200
00:47:34.000
people do it but if you're doing it to try and fill some type of void or like something within
00:47:38.900
yourself then that's where you kind of have to and i think you can really tell the people who are
00:47:43.400
sleeping with a lot of people because they're missing something in themselves compared to people who
00:47:47.000
just like to have sex um so i think like not from a place of judgment i just think there are two
00:47:53.060
different views you can take from it of someone who is very open about having a high number okay
00:47:58.300
so it seems like it's a pretty resounding doesn't matter from from the panel so my follow-up question
00:48:05.600
would be if if you're brave enough to answer what's your body count i think i'm at like i have a fuck list
00:48:15.060
um you all girls and guys or just guys uh let's do the two i guess 25 total okay how do you know
00:48:25.620
the breakdown between i think it's like nine women and the rest guys okay got it
00:48:31.500
what was the question uh what's what's like how many people have you hooked up with
00:48:38.260
i knew it wasn't that question um i have never like tried to think about it but it's got to be
00:48:47.080
less than a dozen okay i plead the fifth plead the fifth but wait hold on hold on didn't you say it
00:48:55.740
doesn't matter or shouldn't matter uh yeah but so if it doesn't matter why why plead the fifth
00:49:01.320
because that's nobody's business but okay okay uh you go um it's a secret it's a secret
00:49:13.280
okay yeah i'm gonna keep that one private that's oh wow okay a lot a lot of people pleading the fifth
00:49:21.760
thing um i never finished my book list so probably around the same like around 25 30 but
00:49:28.900
i kind of lost track and i think that should be i think that should be totally chill you know like
00:49:35.880
have fun okay so i guess my follow-up question would be um you know one if if body count really
00:49:46.140
didn't matter wouldn't you want to be the change that you want to see in the world because if if
00:49:51.480
there's why is it that there's hesitation and by the way you you guys are free to not answer the
00:49:56.900
question but i'm curious what is the hesitation in in revealing we're women i mean there's a huge
00:50:04.040
social difference i mean there's this one video but it's like you ask a bunch of girls does body
00:50:08.420
count matter we'll say no it's fine as long as they're safe and clean you ask a guy they'll tap
00:50:12.480
out at three they'll say four they're they're way harsher on us and that's because of like all these
00:50:17.960
standards and expectations you know like all of this stigma that's surrounded around sex but only for
00:50:23.820
women so i mean i see like we're entitled to our privacy because that's not something we get
00:50:29.200
encouraged to say or we get boosted up or get prided on whereas men when they're they have a
00:50:33.580
high number it's like yeah dude you know it's it's the cliche kind of thing so you you think there's a
00:50:39.960
bit of a double standard oh absolutely between men and women in terms of their how it how they're
00:50:46.800
yeah they're standard i heard i've seen this video on tiktok when they ask girls and men
00:50:52.760
they body count and the guys just say three or two or five and girls that they don't care
00:50:59.120
so yeah so you guys wouldn't be concerned like let's say a guy you were just seeing
00:51:08.740
either i don't know what the context would be of him revealing it but
00:51:13.460
you knew that he had slept with say a hundred women would this be off-putting to you in any way
00:51:19.460
um i have an ex whose body count his was like 200 and it just came up randomly one night
00:51:25.720
um and he was the first and only guy to make me squirt so i think that much sex taught him how to do it
00:51:32.680
in a good way um yeah i don't know to be honest i've never met somebody who has or hooked up with
00:51:44.460
that has that i know of at least i think it'd matter how far apart like there was a lot within one week
00:51:52.560
i would be a little questionable make sure they're clean go through processes and steps to make sure
00:51:58.700
they're clean but yeah depends i mean i never met a guy that has like 100 body count
00:52:06.920
uh but i guess i wouldn't judge if we even have like 100 body counts because it's all matter his
00:52:15.680
personality how he treats me yeah i don't think it would matter like i said body count doesn't matter
00:52:22.640
so your boyfriend he reveals to you and maybe you already know the answer but he says i've slept with
00:52:27.320
300 women not like unfazed doesn't bother you no no okay
00:52:32.540
it matters to me i guess i would probably wonder if they were a player and have a hard time trusting
00:52:41.660
them if it was that high i say if he has a high number and he wants to add me to the roster i'm
00:52:48.320
gonna make him work very hard for it but it wouldn't necessarily deter me it would just make it more of a
00:52:53.700
game got it okay so i guess we can kind of go into a bit of the double standard and i guess
00:53:01.760
why it exists because i do think and you guys can feel free to disagree with me but i think the double
00:53:07.120
standard is as such so a guy who sleeps with a lot of women is sort of big upped that's awesome good
00:53:14.080
for you like he's a player he's a stud whatever but if a girl like hooks up a lot of guys she's going
00:53:19.860
to be viewed if she's promiscuous she's going to be viewed in a negative light she's a slut all this
00:53:26.220
stuff right um and could part of that be well i shouldn't maybe i shouldn't phrase this as a
00:53:36.140
question but could part of that be because it is more difficult for men to get laid than it is for
00:53:42.780
women and you might disagree with that that premise that it's more difficult for men to get laid than
00:53:52.100
it is for women but so you you would agree though that it is more difficult for men oh i mean men are
00:53:58.160
the easiest thing on earth like how many guys have i wanted to get with i've gone with every guy i've ever
00:54:03.700
wanted to be with how many guys that want to have wanted to get with me have actually gone with me
00:54:08.000
very few you know like like me and khalifa said it correctly like there's been a few dusties that
00:54:13.440
have caught me slipping that have gotten in but in reality like yeah no it's definitely what is a dusty
00:54:18.860
by the way i'm an old man so you know i'm not hip to the you can make your assumptions the dusty is
00:54:25.200
just someone who probably shouldn't have made it but they got sure okay anyways we'll continue here
00:54:30.940
i don't even know what to say about this one come back to me
00:54:41.420
um i think oh so talking about double standards um there was sort of like an intermediary question
00:54:51.900
that came in there uh do you think that men have or i guess i could frame it who has more difficult
00:54:58.280
time when it comes to getting laid getting sex men or women um yeah probably men because women
00:55:04.280
i feel like just have so many more options and it's just so much easier oh i i think men because
00:55:10.840
um they have to like impress or do something to like you know to get laid and girls for girls we have a lot
00:55:21.220
of options for sure and be more like picky so i mean depends on girl too and guys yeah it's hard for
00:55:31.220
them to get laid okay it's very just picky garner yeah definitely men it's harder for them
00:55:40.660
jane yeah yeah i guess like it could be harder for a guy to get a girl um but i mean
00:55:47.460
yeah you mean i mean if you disagree with anyone by the way feel free yeah i mean like i guess it's
00:55:55.140
i don't actually if you're like putting yourself out there and just being yourself i feel like
00:56:02.100
i i don't know i would hope that like you'd find someone
00:56:05.300
okay got it got it um so i'm trying to bring it back i'm i also kind of forgot what
00:56:16.340
my reset there uh we were talking about double standards and oh right so the double standard as
00:56:24.820
it relates to you know men are big big up if they've slept with a lot of women and women are
00:56:31.140
kind of shamed if they've slept with a lot of women and but do you feel that that is justified or
00:56:37.300
do you think that no like that shouldn't be a double standard yeah i think it shouldn't be a double
00:56:43.940
standard um like just as we were saying earlier how like dudes are like applauded if they've gotten
00:56:51.140
with a lot of chicks but then if girls have gotten with a lot of guys or like other girls or anyone
00:56:56.100
um they are often slut shamed but i mean for me like i just like to own it um but it shouldn't
00:57:02.980
be a double standard i mean like humans like sex so why does it matter if you do it a lot
00:57:10.500
completely agree kind of said it better yeah i i'm a gruesome yes i agree too
00:57:18.260
yep i agree perfect i'll second that okay got it got it chris how are we doing on uh super chats do we
00:57:30.260
have any i think we if it's more than two she's for the streets come on man that's why you can only pay
00:57:42.180
two dollars you pay for this two dollars to say this man every day our every day edgar every day
00:57:53.620
edgar he's a handsome guy look at that guy oh man there's glasses i agree with you edgar oh my gosh
00:58:01.380
anyways um so we have two girls wait so we have two girls who strip on the panel hensley and jane
00:58:09.700
uh but hensley do you do only fans or just stripping just stripping just stripping okay all right um so
00:58:19.620
i think a lot of guys would be curious to know a little bit since you're both
00:58:23.300
strip is stripper the appropriate term do you prefer exotic dancer no stripper strip okay
00:58:32.500
what and if you guys are uncomfortable sharing this but like we're pretty confident yeah okay
00:58:38.900
so like are you guys down to talk a little bit about money in terms of like what you make
00:58:44.020
in the night how kind of like i know there's you get private dances maybe that's where you
00:58:49.140
make a bit more than you do the show on the i've been there like twice ten years ago
00:58:54.500
people will you could come tonight oh you guys are i'm working after this okay anybody watching in santa
00:59:00.820
barbara jane will be at the spearmint rhino dancing anyways um so jane why don't you start off uh tell
00:59:10.340
us a bit about money well so basically i graduated from ucsb last year and i was a dance major so like
00:59:16.980
hence the dance background um i feel like it really depends on the night and that's why a lot of us have
00:59:23.700
day jobs too just because like one night you'll make a thousand my best nights ever had been on
00:59:30.340
monday nights i made three thousand dollars on two different monday nights just because like one guy
00:59:36.260
came in and just like was with me the whole night but that's rare i mean like right now i've been
00:59:41.860
averaging probably like 400 a night so 3000 versus 400 is a big difference so that's why i also do only
00:59:49.940
fans and other side gigs just to keep money going when it's not a good day or month okay and you said
00:59:58.100
you had a regular that used to come and but he's not coming anymore that was just like usually like
01:00:03.380
when it happens like that it's like a random business guy like this guy was just coked out and
01:00:08.340
maxed out his card the whole night with me and i just like he would have done that to any girl i just
01:00:12.740
got lucky that i was the one working there um and i feel like that's kind of how it goes for most of
01:00:17.380
us there and we all try to support each other like if one guy's spending a lot we'll kind of
01:00:22.020
try to pass him around and stuff okay yeah so about 400 a night right now we're in a little recession
01:00:29.940
so like last summer i was making like a thousand a night was like my goal every night and this summer
01:00:37.620
i haven't made a thousand yet in one night at the club and i feel like strippers all around america
01:00:43.220
all around america are actually like feeling this issue right now like we've all talked about it
01:00:48.900
so yeah okay and um yeah i mean she definitely covered a big part of it uh i normally have been
01:01:01.060
working like since i started 10 months ago i always did tuesdays and thursdays and made pretty good money
01:01:07.380
like around 500 a night 400 a night and then the last like month i decided to try and start doing
01:01:12.740
fridays because i know they get way busier what i didn't realize is fridays is when all the college
01:01:17.700
kids come in and all the young guys are just passing and want to party and they don't spend money but
01:01:22.260
like you know you go in on like a thursday or tuesday and it's just these businessmen and then
01:01:27.300
they're getting all the vips and that's where the real money comes in which is a lot of fun
01:01:31.620
and how much i mean is it three four hours you guys are working or i normally only do like three
01:01:38.660
and a half hours four hour shifts yeah it depends i mean like on the weekends the clubs open until 4
01:01:43.620
a.m so welcome bobby got it to the haters i support entrepreneurship respect people that put down other
01:01:52.660
sorry let me read this properly stephen krug thank you for the 10.69 uh super chat much
01:02:01.460
appreciated uh to the haters uh i support entrepreneurship respect what whatever is
01:02:06.660
doing people that put down others there's no excuse these women could probably buy every day
01:02:14.180
every day edgar's family okay so there's apparently there's a little a battle in the chat between
01:02:20.420
stephen krug and another super chatter um let's chris let's get caught up on some super chats really
01:02:27.700
quick uh stephen krug with the 25 donut thank you man uh every day edgar is probably poor hey we wow
01:02:39.300
there's a battle between them in in the super chats um uh you know let's let's not be too mean to
01:02:45.940
every day edgar what did he say something offensive it's more than two oh stephen is mad that every day
01:02:54.820
edgar is not super chatting more i think that's what i think that's uh stephen krug's uh objection
01:03:03.460
uh was there i think there was another one chris did should prostitution be lee i think we
01:03:09.140
will smith um sorry about what happened with you and jada um but uh so
01:03:16.820
uh what what what was the question should prostitution be illegal in the u.s or
01:03:25.460
we already talked about it yeah we yeah if you want to just scroll back we talked about but i think
01:03:31.620
overwhelmingly the panel said that uh yes it should be legalized and uh yeah so thank you will smith for
01:03:40.340
the one dollar ninety nine super chat oh chris okay so
01:03:50.580
are you going back to live sorry guys first time we're doing it live we're figuring it out but
01:03:56.100
and actually chris before we adjust um just let's show a little love to our people on twitch
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that are watching so chris can you just pull up the window mode
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and just so we can give some shout outs to anyone on twitch yeah not too much um by the way guys just
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follow really appreciate guys appreciate the support um and yeah we can switch on back to uh regular mode here
01:05:05.540
so going back to only fans so how much money you making from only fans um it also really like stuff
01:05:16.660
like that just depends monthly um but for only fans it's hard because i try to make them pay me like
01:05:22.980
through cash app and stuff instead so that i don't have to split it with only fans um so that that must
01:05:29.060
be against the terms of service it totally she didn't say it it totally is she didn't say whatever
01:05:34.820
um whatever but um yeah i mean i know some like sex workers that literally keep like monthly charts of how
01:05:43.060
much they make they document all of it i don't i just have my money and i just hope that it keeps on
01:05:50.500
coming okay got it can we highlight this will smith comment chris
01:05:59.700
oh it was a gi jane joke will will smith you know you've fallen from the men in black days okay next
01:06:10.740
question for the panel do you like bad boys and hensley we'll start with you i do if they have a
01:06:20.020
sound cloud and no bed frame i'm right there for them
01:06:27.700
sounds fun uh it's a little too arbitrary for me what do you mean bad uh yeah i guess that could be kind
01:06:35.940
of interpreted i mean whatever your general sense of what a bad boy is well i do love a mystery so if
01:06:48.100
he's serious um i don't want him to be like mean to people but um if he's bad because he like pushes the
01:07:01.700
limits with i don't know um things that don't hurt people okay like like comedy okay so he's got a
01:07:14.100
leather jacket and a motorcycle is that does that qualify as a bad boy i don't think so but i mean i
01:07:22.020
ride horses so they like move around and think for themselves i don't really think that um leather
01:07:28.820
jackets are scary um but yeah i could go for the bad guy i guess i just want somebody to be um
01:07:39.380
confident and uh step out of the lines if that's okay for comedy or a fun thing to do like cool dates
01:07:50.500
are usually a little bit bad but other than that i don't want him to be like going to jail sounds like
01:07:58.580
a problem yeah i kind of like the vibe where he's kind of mean to everyone not mean mean but like
01:08:04.260
mean to everyone else but me like he has a soft spot for me so yeah okay uh i like bad boys i think confident
01:08:13.540
straightforward and more like i don't know they just uh like straightforward and i like about them
01:08:22.180
and also like nice guys too but i prefer bad boys over nice guys so yeah
01:08:29.220
i like a nerdy man i do like nerdy weirdos i don't really want a bad boy who's like popular
01:08:38.740
and yeah do you want a nice guy yes or nerdy not too nice but not too nice okay yeah you don't want a
01:08:45.940
guy who's whipped no okay a little bit but a little whipped okay um i've dated a bad guy that actually was
01:08:55.700
a murderer and i didn't know i know and like i wish i was making this up i didn't know until
01:09:02.820
i already like thought i was in love with him and then he told me um and i i just couldn't do it
01:09:08.420
anymore it like changed my whole perception but yeah he was like motorcycle guy tatted in a gang
01:09:14.420
and like all that was hot like that was all good but not the murder part that ruined it so not that bad
01:09:20.580
you know you so you hold on you dated a guy who who murdered two people well when you said not while
01:09:30.100
dating me like this happened in his past so i didn't know about it and then we had like a talk
01:09:34.900
and like it came up and then i had like a panic attack and broke it off
01:09:42.980
so hold on let's just clarify something when you say murder do you mean he killed people in
01:09:46.260
self-defense or he murdered no it was like gang murders in la gang with like a club in la you
01:09:52.900
know it's like gnarly shit that i was never like obviously into that but and so was he an ex-convict
01:10:00.500
was he a convicted of the murders or i don't think he ever served time for it no wow yeah okay and so
01:10:08.340
did that make him more attractive to you then no that made me be like get the out of my house
01:10:13.380
oh so but you like i liked the whole motorcycle bad boy thing until i found out he murdered people
01:10:19.060
and then that was like too bad for me then i was like no no no we stopped it there at the murder
01:10:25.940
okay so were you again how long were you dating him or was it just we dated twice oh you just went
01:10:32.980
on two dates no no no no like we like dated like two separate full relationships so because i did take
01:10:45.220
and he actually just got married to a really different girl from me a little christian girl
01:10:50.660
in his hometown shout out he just got married this week and i saw it on facebook so i guess he's changed
01:10:57.220
wow okay and but that wasn't a red flag the whole murder thing well that was the red flag but the
01:11:07.060
yeah but i did go back yeah it didn't seem like it was enough it was a red flag for like two years
01:11:13.140
and then i got a little bored and slid into his dms again is this is this legit no this isn't
01:11:18.980
literally this is my any of my friends will vouch i have more stories that i wish weren't true
01:11:24.660
but yeah this actually happened okay wow good times good times i do think i mean
01:11:35.620
i guess sort of related to this would you guys would it be a deal breaker red flag if you knew that
01:11:43.380
it the guy had a criminal history now as a changed woman i would say yes i would not do a murderer again
01:12:01.940
agree by the way is this beyond the statute of limitations with this guy what do you mean
01:12:08.340
well i mean so i think for murder it's right yeah murder should have been are you sure you should
01:12:14.420
be i mean i don't give if he gets caught now i don't give a fuck but i wasn't like a part of any
01:12:19.700
of that we don't know who it is this happened in the past like don't say his name i'm not saying his
01:12:24.580
name it's totally good he's healed since then yeah he's christian now he's he's good he's with the
01:12:29.780
lord exactly yeah um sorry did you finish your answer to that or yes
01:12:37.780
yes i said i agree yeah same the same it's a deal breaker i actually have talked to somebody who
01:12:45.540
accidentally murdered somebody for speeding and i had to he's out of jail now i really hope he's not
01:12:53.300
watching but um yeah i had to block him on everything so i was like nope can't do it sorry
01:13:00.260
uh yeah i wouldn't date a murder but like criminal record it varies so like i would probably not be a
01:13:13.700
yeah i want to know what he's a criminal for there's a lot of white collar criminals that
01:13:20.660
it's not quite as scary um it's something that they paid for and it was a mistake you know and they've
01:13:35.540
definitely down for a dude with the record absolutely do you want the guy that i dated
01:13:43.140
i wouldn't be i really would i mean i have a record
01:13:48.260
it's fine it's whatever so and i mean you're so you're down for a guy who has a criminal element yeah as
01:13:56.980
long as it's not domestic violence i feel like that's okay straight up one where you're gonna be
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like i know where this is leading some people are into that it could have been situational i don't
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know and have you dated a guy who's a murderer not yet okay what about how do you know
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they maybe tell i feel like you don't know until they tell you yeah
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or you get murdered okay it's a fun little flip of the coin although i suppose you can sort of tell
01:14:24.260
if somebody's capable i'd be like a ted bundy i mean i've never been best friends with somebody i
01:14:32.500
thought was capable of killing somebody else and isn't dating sort of like being best friends yeah
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rachel i know that we we had spoken previously and let me know if you don't want me to we don't have to
01:14:43.860
you don't want to talk about that i know there was a situation in the past you don't want to go
01:14:49.860
there because that could be an interesting story to relate but you would have to um talk with me in
01:14:57.380
private because i'm not interested in sharing that's fine that's fine so um let's see
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related to the whole bad boy thing i guess why do you think it is that it does seem to
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be a sort of trope of that women find bad boys attractive jerks assholes whatever why do you think
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that is start with hensley i mean if you want to get freudian there's probably a lot to do with the
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parents but i think at the end of the day it's something to chase and it's something that we
01:15:40.820
know isn't going to turn into like a marriage or you know that kind of stability like chasing a bad
01:15:45.460
boy is kind of just a endless endeavor of you know ups and downs and the ups are really fun and the downs
01:15:52.500
are really shitty but like when you have just a nice guy that's just steady and it's boring and
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you know it's normally it takes us to a certain age or a certain mental state where we want boring but
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you know i think most of us are in our 20s and that's not what we're looking for we want to have
01:16:06.900
a lot of fun and get with the motorcycle dude who's murdered people sometimes you know
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if boring means that they're reliable and don't stress me out all the time then um yeah i'm over
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the bad boy or whatever um i mean like since i'm in a relationship i really like steady and like trusting
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but you know it's not always like boring because otherwise i would break up with him it's really fun and
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like it's so nice to be with someone you can always trust but definitely having like bad boy vibes is
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daddy issues so for sure yeah um i think like with the bad boy is just like it's a roller coaster it's
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like up and down and it's never stable so i rather prefer have like serious relationship with someone that
01:17:06.500
stable and i can communicate and trust and also i don't know like with like boring like i mean it's
01:17:16.260
nice to have something stable right well like i don't know i just rather go as a nice guy than bad boy
01:17:32.020
well yeah what was the question can anybody help me uh like all the whitey girls go for bad boys yeah
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why do you think um i actually don't know because i don't necessarily but i don't maybe for that chase
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or that feeling of like if he's mean to other people but nice to you i get it you feel special
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so maybe something like that yeah i feel like it just feels naughty and rebellious um it's kind
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of just like a cliche you know like the girl next door and then the bad guy okay all right have any of you
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i guess i'll add my two cents so i think part of it is an excitement thing and typically guys who are
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like more bad boys jerks assholes whatever um it can sort of be viewed in the frame of confidence whereas
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like i think a lot of women don't want that guy who's kind of too nice you know like it's a bit of a
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uh almost a needy thing and they i think and i you could disagree with me i do think generally
01:18:41.860
women really want a guy who's confident and they not all women but i think a lot of women
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want a guy who will be assertive who's maybe dominant who takes charge who can lead and if it's
01:18:55.780
if you're always like you know if the guy's always deferring to you on stuff you kind of like
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what's this guy gonna do in a zombie apocalypse like what the fuck so i think there's like
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i also think there's a they've done studies on this where they've found that women do seem to
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find men generally speaking uh who displayed dark triad personality traits i think that's
01:19:20.420
machiavellianism narcissism and psychopathy there is like they it is attractive um not all i'm not
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saying everyone but they've done they've done studies on it so i i think related to that it all relating
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to the criminal element aspect of it there is the um ability to the ability to be violent so in like
01:19:50.420
if he needed to protect you in some way whereas if a guy's kind of wimpy or too nice you're gonna be
01:19:55.220
like this guy's not gonna be able to protect me and like you know some goes down so that could be
01:20:07.220
different topic moving on actually chris let's pull up the super chats sorry guys this is our first live
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stream i'm i'm getting used to it so chris i think you said i missed one about i missed a couple
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right just uh we'll look at all of them whoa dude where's the beard i know i was growing it for nine
01:20:26.980
months i got rid of it um i kind of regret it but yeah i just need a change but i'm gonna grow it back
01:20:33.380
out so it's coming back will smith i think we got that one
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lucas schlater uh 4.99 super chat uh or 4.99 euro thank you man
01:20:48.580
uh super chat is not letting me use some words and that is bad colorful hair lady is sexy i think
01:20:54.740
you're talking about jane right you think so uh she's got her instagram is in the description
01:21:01.860
if you want to send her a dick pic uh next super chat don't do that i'm joking um will smith 199 what
01:21:09.220
are your deal breakers in a relationship do we will smith i feel like we kind of talked a little
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well i think the question was what are some difficulties that you um we'll do that one
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right now will smith's he's been very generous uh we'll start with you jane what are your deal
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breakers um i think a deal breaker would just be someone that's not adventurous um yeah i feel like
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one of my love languages is quality time so like i want to go out and do stuff i don't want to just
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be like on the couch hanging out all day so i'd want someone to go adventure and be like my adventure buddy
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um i would say mommy and daddy issues it's a pretty big deal breaker for me when they don't cheat you
01:21:53.140
well so not for it uh the one that has like a lot of like traumas he doesn't want to go through and
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and the one i can trust and communicate and also boring so it's a deal breaking for me i don't think
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i have a lot of deal breakers but definitely like hygiene is like a deal breaker for me good ones
01:22:20.100
yeah i think um just speaking to the microphone bad communication is a deal breaker if i just don't
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feel like i can trust them to communicate in a way that doesn't make us fight all the time or not
01:22:32.820
communicate um that's a problem um one for me i guess is like codependency like if they're very
01:22:41.780
codependent on me that's immediately something that's like i get it i'm not a big fan of
01:22:48.660
someone else being reliant on me and especially in a relationship i'm i think that's probably a
01:22:53.460
lot of the reasons i go for the bad boys with all the traits of sociopathic c and stuff like that
01:22:59.060
where they're like yeah i'm good on my own i'm like all right cool me too we'll work great
01:23:07.540
hennessy hennessy do you prefer hennessy or hensley whatever you can remember okay i was yeah um you've
01:23:14.820
got some really based answers i like the answers you've you've brought so far no um so somewhat related
01:23:21.540
to the whole jerk uh bad boy thing um would you guys say that you have different set of rules
01:23:30.500
for depending on who the guy is so like let me frame it this way um have you ever had a thought
01:23:38.180
about a guy like i really like this guy so i'm gonna make him wait to have sex
01:23:45.140
yes like i really i really like him so i'll wait i want to make him wait um i just recently
01:23:54.500
started doing this because for a long time i didn't realize you could do that and my way of
01:23:58.660
forming connection was like okay well i know you want sex so let's just get that out of the way and
01:24:03.460
more recently i started trying to hold off and be like hey i actually don't want this to be the main
01:24:08.820
priority or give myself to you like that because a lot of times i wouldn't come it would all be for
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the guy i'd be so i could be this hot person to him so i could have good reviews and then
01:24:17.780
i did a little switch where i like you know wasn't just sleeping with guys because i wanted them to
01:24:22.260
like me and it's turned out with two very different scenarios the first scenario the guy totally talked
01:24:28.420
shit on me he was like good luck fucking her she's fucking weird you know and i was like i had we had a
01:24:34.660
really good time like i know you nutted in your pants when we made out but like i didn't think you're
01:24:38.340
gonna hold that against me and then the other guy totally respected my boundaries and i ended up
01:24:42.900
really liking him because sex was the main priority but then he ended up falling in love and it wasn't
01:24:48.420
just because of sex and then it's a whole other thing but it was really it was nice to see someone
01:24:54.740
could like me and it meant so much more because they liked me and it wasn't based off sex
01:25:00.180
what was the situation there was there was a guy and he was telling another guy or yeah um so
01:25:06.980
one of the guys like we had gone on a few dates and like they were fine dates it's just we didn't
01:25:12.500
seem very interested and i took no like offense to it i was like yeah okay we're just gonna kind
01:25:16.980
of like go our separate ways and then one of his friends like uh the second guy that i actually ended
01:25:22.260
up getting with was talking to him because they were friends and he was like hey i think i really like
01:25:26.260
this girl are you still talking to her i just don't want to step on any toes and he without warrant
01:25:30.900
just goes off on this rant about how like i'm just so weird and like all this and like even the
01:25:37.140
guy like i was seeing after i ended up seeing after him was like that was really weird if you just bring
01:25:41.380
up and especially since like y'all are considered friends like it like kind of hurt my feelings to
01:25:47.220
hear that but at the same time i'm like i don't really want to surround myself with ingenuine people
01:25:51.300
so it's just people showing themselves so i was cool with it but it was definitely something that i was
01:25:56.500
like oh man like especially because he was the first one i was trying to test out the no sex thing
01:26:01.060
on i was like man guys really like that is such an important aspect to him so it was really nice it
01:26:05.620
was followed up by someone who truly fell in love with me and sex had nothing to do with it why did
01:26:11.780
he think that you were weird did did he tell you i wouldn't honestly like we like went on like three
01:26:17.780
dates and like the vibe was fine it was clearly like no spark no connection but it was nothing like
01:26:22.820
bad or anything like that it was just you know you're it was like three first dates so like it
01:26:27.380
didn't get less awkward kind of but there was nothing like weird we still had fine conversation
01:26:32.260
you know and like we continued to be friends and like everything was chill and then i started seeing
01:26:37.140
the next guy and i kept telling the next guy you know oh i'm friends with him or i'm friends you
01:26:42.740
know like we talk every once in a while and finally he was like i just i like i don't want to
01:26:46.820
shit on him or anything but like he said some really mean stuff about you are you sure y'all are
01:26:51.220
friends and i was like well fuck i thought we were like i don't know it was a weird scenario but sex
01:26:57.380
played a part in it because i didn't immediately sleep with them got it rachel can we go back to
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the question sorry that was a long answer yeah yeah so uh the question is you know have you ever had
01:27:10.980
the thought about a guy or you encountered a guy you're like i really like this guy so because i really
01:27:16.900
like him i you maybe actually hold off on having sex whereas in other scenarios you might just have
01:27:24.660
sex sooner um i guess i've always taken practice and pushing them away first it's part of how it goes
01:27:35.620
um i don't know i suppose even at a young age i got used to saying no for at least a while um to find a
01:27:47.220
while to um couple days like i know him this wraps into an old question of ours like you know how when
01:27:55.940
is comfortable well comfortable for me is when i feel like i know i don't know their family a little bit
01:28:03.940
or just not close but i know how many brothers and sisters they have or something about them
01:28:11.380
makes me feel like i can trust them so i'm just living that road i also grew up in vermont and in
01:28:20.660
the woods so um give me a break you guys i'm not like 20 20 material all the time okay one question
01:28:29.620
so have you ever had a one night stand like first time meeting a guy stranger what's that with a
01:28:39.300
stranger like yeah that's what a one night stand yeah like the first time you whether it was a you
01:28:44.740
know there was a date or you met at a bar or club or anything have you ever hooked up the guy the same
01:28:49.620
night that you met him no it just so happens that i've lived kind of a sheltered quiet life and so i
01:28:56.100
liked the guys that i slept with first and knew them pretty well and since i've moved out of my
01:29:02.660
hometown i still just don't feel like doing that with a stranger so okay got it just so happens i'm
01:29:10.660
not against it like there's definitely imaginary scenarios in my mind where that could happen but um
01:29:19.460
okay the clouds have imparted i guess for somebody to scoop me up like that okay make me feel safe in
01:29:27.540
one night got it oh i guess it like depends on every girl's answer i mean everyone's gonna have
01:29:33.460
a different answer but i would personally wait like for a minute like a long minute okay till i give it
01:29:40.980
maybe yeah i feel like the question's a bit it's a bit of a difficult question answer maybe i'm just
01:29:44.660
going to reframe it here so how long do you typically wait before having sex with a new
01:29:52.500
person very long like what like very long like months months really oh wow damn so your current
01:30:02.420
boyfriend was just tortured for months okay got it but have you ever broken that you know has there
01:30:08.820
ever been it was that one night foam cannon party cancun nope shout out rollo tomasi okay um yeah so
01:30:19.140
me personally i would wait for a guy and would get him know before giving all myself and usually
01:30:29.620
i mean depends maybe five days or months because i want to know how this person feel about me and also
01:30:36.340
get emotionally attached to him you know what his intentions are too so basically yeah i would wait
01:30:45.060
if i really like him i see him like as a boyfriend i would wait or even i don't say i would still wait
01:30:52.020
okay so five you said five dates or a couple months yeah or one month would be fine oh wow okay yeah i
01:30:59.540
learned it wow yeah so what let me ask you this what is the shortest amount of time uh i think like
01:31:07.700
have you had a one night stand i had okay so one or two dates it's just like one or two days what's the
01:31:14.100
longest that you've made a guy wait i guess like a couple like five or six dates okay that's yeah that's
01:31:22.420
reasonable yeah that's reasonable but i learned that you have to like wait and sure like you know
01:31:28.420
know this guy before you all yourself right okay um i also wait a while before doing anything i don't
01:31:39.780
think there's a specific time frame it's more about how comfortable i am with that person and that's
01:31:45.700
that's definitely changed that's not how i always have been but that's how i am now and i'm just
01:31:51.620
trying to find somebody that i actually can connect with and spend a lot of time with so i'm down to
01:31:57.380
wait and if they're not down to wait then they're not the right person so it's whenever i'm comfortable
01:32:03.140
trust them trust they trust me it goes both ways so shortest you've ever waited shortest amount of time
01:32:13.940
um i mean it's in the past it's been a shorter time but okay no judgment judgment free zone okay
01:32:22.580
what's the longest like yeah months months okay got it um yeah i don't usually wait
01:32:32.340
um to me like sex and that compatibility is really important to a relationship so if i'm having a good
01:32:39.460
time with them like maybe we'll go out to lunch and then just have sex after one of our places
01:32:46.500
um it doesn't to me like it doesn't have to be anything serious it could just be for fun
01:32:51.460
um and i think sex is just another way to vibe check the person just like getting to know
01:32:56.100
their personality so yeah i usually don't wait because i'll only go out with guys i'm attracted to
01:33:01.380
anyway um but yeah okay got it got it chris any uh super chats
01:33:12.820
okay five dollar from i don't sorry i don't know the blue hair lady is also sexy
01:33:18.740
you're it seems like the chat is liking jane no it's andrea oh yeah that's cool i'm the orange
01:33:27.780
beard bitch yeah i mean there's a bit of blue and there's some blue yeah i think we should give that
01:33:33.380
one to andrea okay yeah sorry yeah i forgot she's here she's very quiet she's very shy um so yeah i will get
01:33:41.140
a microphone soon though but uh uh next one bill gates i'm a bad boy i stole from steve jobs um here
01:33:52.580
let's ask you guys a question um would you guys date bill gates very rich man one of the richest man in
01:33:59.700
the world yes yes seems like a resounding he's very wealthy yeah okay he's wealthy charitable gonna die
01:34:08.740
soon so it's all perfect oh wow okay he's not bad bad looking he's kind of cute he's you know
01:34:21.700
rachel you going for bill gates i've had multiple offers from bill gates huh from
01:34:29.620
multi-millionaires almost billionaires it's not an interest to me i want to love someone
01:34:38.100
and so bill gates says listen i'm taking you to seattle i've got a yacht i don't know
01:34:46.900
i don't know why seattle's not like the most swanky fucking place ever i will pay for everything
01:34:53.460
you don't have to work another day in your life no go just to go to seattle
01:34:58.180
well i mean you know it's a nice city it's a depressing you know but you're in a mansion
01:35:09.060
or whatever his super house there's no oh no he he wants to get up on top of you and do
01:35:15.380
baby style no no he wants partner partner no i don't need um his company okay hensley
01:35:29.540
yeah bill gates is cool i'd prefer elon but bill gates okay prefer elon okay they were recently in
01:35:36.660
a bit of a twitter battle bill gates and elon yeah so apparently uh bill gates shorted uh tesla stock
01:35:47.460
anyways they got into a a big fight and ellen kind of dunked on bill so ellen i don't know how to
01:35:54.420
pronounce his name listen listen i just want to say and maybe you guys have heard occasionally i stutter
01:36:00.900
i'm an esl student english is my second language so that's my cop out um for my poor pronunciation
01:36:08.260
of his name uh french i was born in france and then i moved to the us when i was five yeah so
01:36:16.180
so i'm my french is terrible but i just that's my cop out for my stuttering
01:36:22.180
beautiful that was great just like the french said um all right uh any more super chats chris
01:36:33.220
okay walker 11 thank you for the is that pound that's pounds right yeah 179 pounds is it true
01:36:43.700
i'm gonna pass on that one is it true is it true 80 percent of men are unattractive to women that's
01:36:51.220
actually a good question um i suppose we can ask the panel let me think about how i would frame this
01:36:57.540
question um throughout your day-to-day just like walking around of the men that you see like what
01:37:06.740
percentage of them would you say like you find them attractive or let's you can also do that with
01:37:12.420
dating apps too so now this is a bit of a tough question but um of the men you see like day-to-day like
01:37:19.140
how many of them would you want to hook up with or would you find attractive probably closer to like
01:37:24.980
five percent five percent of men that you see day to day okay rachel yeah i'd say i don't find an
01:37:33.700
attractive guy daily in santa barbara i don't know what's going on it is a bubble it's hard to meet
01:37:39.460
people we were talking about this earlier there's like an age gap that's not around here and it's like
01:37:46.500
after they graduate college they go away because they can't save money here it's too expensive to
01:37:52.180
live and then they come back when they have money and wives yeah yeah that's true yeah i'd probably say
01:37:59.300
like three percent i find three three percent of men you see i'm like okay got it i think 10 10 of men
01:38:06.820
okay yeah yeah i'd say 10 percent 10 so 10 of men that you see day to day just you don't think
01:38:15.220
they're attractive in santa barbara like three percent there's some babes and sent like some hot
01:38:20.580
hot dudes oh in santa barbara girls are hot okay but the men not too much okay yeah i think ucsb is
01:38:31.460
always like voted hottest student body or whatever but um yeah i'd say like five ten percent and i think
01:38:38.020
like style matters a lot and in santa barbara people just don't tend to like try hard with what they're
01:38:44.580
wearing it's kind of like board shorts and flip flops even at the strip club so it's kind of hard
01:38:50.900
to gauge god damn with socks okay god damn what that's it seemed like everyone was about like under
01:38:59.700
ten percent it sounded like that's rough that's rough guys that is the dating market for men in 2022
01:39:08.900
um yeah i i guess um i guess i'll sort of ask a follow-up question um agree or disagree would you
01:39:19.060
say that most women could sleep with most men but most men cannot sleep with most women or did i say
01:39:27.220
that right most most women could sleep with most men but most men could not sleep with most women
01:39:36.260
agree or disagree we'll start with you i think most guys guys just aren't as picky it seems like
01:39:44.260
like most guys would find a girl to fuck if they're horny enough and i feel like women just tend to have
01:39:49.060
higher standards so i feel like most women would not find as many guys attractive okay
01:39:56.980
uh yeah i think that's true and like i already mentioned girls are more pickier than men so yeah
01:40:10.980
yeah it's definitely harder for men everybody seems to agree with that
01:40:18.020
men are easy but you also skipped one oh who did we skip yeah i agree oh okay easy okay got it got it
01:40:27.540
yeah it's uh i think it's definitely tough out there and uh you know guys i think there's a lot of guys
01:40:34.980
struggling with dating and i you know i think that's why there's a proliferation of pornography
01:40:42.020
only fans no offense i you know none of but i i do think i do think if guys were
01:40:48.500
having an easier go at it there we wouldn't see as much uh stuff going on with only fans i mean you
01:40:56.820
guys have clientele that are coming into the strip club and i you have to wonder like i'm not i'm
01:41:02.020
certainly not criticizing what you guys do but you have to wonder would there still be a market for that
01:41:07.060
if it was easier for guys to get away like i guess the clientele and you don't have to you know
01:41:14.580
dox anybody but the clientele that you guys have at the club uh would you say that these are guys
01:41:20.580
that are like getting women or are they more like lonely dudes yeah mostly lonely but a lot of married
01:41:27.940
guys like they'll keep their rings on come to the club so yeah tell you all the issues with their
01:41:34.740
wife yeah it's always fun when they they're like oh i have a daughter your age it's like don't tell me
01:41:39.940
like please don't oh god we don't want to know and are a lot of the men like are some of them almost
01:41:48.500
confiding in you or do you have regulars let me ask that first yeah hensley no regulars for you
01:41:56.100
how often do you work i work one day a week oh just one day a week why not more i don't have to
01:42:03.220
okay interesting and jane i work usually like three nights sometimes i like i try doing six nights
01:42:09.860
a week once and like i literally couldn't do it like the ick got too bad should we shout out the
01:42:16.260
night that you're usually in there do you want people to come in and uh yeah come through on
01:42:20.420
thursdays what time uh i'm the early shift so i do the seven o'clock to midnight this is the spearmint
01:42:26.820
rhino in santa barbara guys i think anyone's in the chat if there's anyone watching from santa
01:42:31.220
barbara galita isla vista area just let us know um but yeah hensley works thursdays thursdays
01:42:38.340
okay so is there like a coupon code if they say whatever they get no but if you get there before
01:42:44.820
nine the entrance fee is only seven dollars and after nine it goes to twenty seven dollars
01:42:50.660
okay so got it okay um wow okay so oh yeah so are any of the guys coming to you guys just
01:43:02.100
they don't even want to dance but they want to just talk to you yeah do you get guys like that oh yeah
01:43:06.580
and what are they typically talking to you about um all about themselves like they'll just talk
01:43:11.860
about their struggles like their dream girl it's kind of just fun to play into it play therapist for
01:43:19.940
a little bit yeah okay got it yeah agree yeah agree okay and have you ever dated a customer
01:43:32.020
jay and you know him yeah i've dated a customer which is like not allowed um and then we have a
01:43:42.340
rule of like no boyfriends or like you know anyone like that coming into the club and um once i broke
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up with him he still came and i had to get him like kicked out of the club and everything and it was
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it always goes bad it always goes bad but i mean wouldn't you also just say like
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are you turned off by the men that come and see you because like they're kind of
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what's what's the term tricken is that as white as wide as i can sound um like it's not that i'm
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turned off that they come to the club or anything it's the men coming to a strip club or normally not
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men within your age range or right older right yeah okay or even just like on your level or on your
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base really um so yeah there's not a lot of guys that come in that i'd want to date but i'm also very
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anti-relationship in general so it's like i'm i'm not at work looking for a relationship even if
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they are attractive have you ever hooked up then with no any customers okay no anytime they ask for
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like my number or something i'll be like you get one number per dance and then you give them a wrong
01:44:54.420
number okay i probably shouldn't be saying this since we just said what days i'm working does it does
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it go down in the champagne room we don't have a champagne there's no champagne room okay there is a
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private yeah room though we have a vip and it's just a longer dance you do the same stuff you would you
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just get naked and dance but it's not that kind of it's not that private okay it's like a curtain
01:45:20.420
yeah okay yeah you don't do that has anybody like have you heard stories maybe not you guys but some
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of the other girls guys will always try to like do more but i feel like all of us are really empowered
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strong women and we have like the managers right there on our side the door guy um like i actually
01:45:37.300
feel really safe when i'm at the club um so yeah the guys will always try stuff but we're not
01:45:42.100
gonna let them do it okay is there any sex going on at the spearmint no okay just curious yeah just
01:45:51.220
curious okay very interesting very interesting chris uh super chats right let's just finish up what we
01:45:57.940
started uh lazar is broke tell him to get who is who's lazar was he another chatter
01:46:06.260
uh yeah don't worry um oh man there's some fighting in the chat come on guys we're we're a
01:46:14.260
family here uh bill gates thanks call me i that was when we were uh i think talking about the bill gates
01:46:21.700
thing niche which thank you for five dollars seven sure sm7b's in the stream deck xl this is a high
01:46:29.380
quality production welcome back by the way thank you thank you yeah we've been working on this for
01:46:35.140
chris right six months um and i've been you know i was planning even before that for three months so
01:46:41.300
uh there was a lot of work that went into getting the studio set up and maybe went a little overboard
01:46:48.500
but uh we wanted to you know produce a decently high quality show so really appreciate the support
01:46:54.260
thank you for the super chat bill gates again with the 199 bill gates first off let me just
01:47:00.500
criticize you a little bit here bill gates mr gates mr billionaire with your 199 super chats
01:47:07.620
uh come on come on bill gates let's i think also just we are getting a lot of lower super chats um
01:47:15.620
chris i think from here on out uh let's do 10 and up for if we're gonna we'll display all super
01:47:20.580
chats but for reading them we'll just do 10 and up uh so bill gates sell some of your microsoft
01:47:25.380
shares um would you avoid a guy if he used an android phone so basically like their text messages
01:47:30.180
come through green i would definitely avoid it's a red flag to me okay i wouldn't like we just wait
01:47:37.860
it's a hold on wait wait we'll come back it's a red flag if if a text message comes through green
01:47:42.980
yes okay so if he has an android phone yes because i think uh iphones uh the best um have a better
01:47:52.180
quality camera and a lot of options so and i'm on apple side okay um i would not think it's weird okay
01:48:07.620
i kind of would like it yeah i feel like the only inconvenience is not getting the airdrop
01:48:12.180
that's like the only annoying thing yeah and like facetime would be annoying because you can't
01:48:16.340
do that but it's fine yeah it is a bit off-putting when it comes to green i will admit it it wouldn't
01:48:22.660
be a deal breaker for me but it's a little like what's going on um well we said yes to flip phone so
01:48:30.020
android is up there you know yeah yeah rachel i think you come through green do i do you have an
01:48:37.380
android do you have an android i don't know no no i have an iphone and it's not a deal breaker for me
01:48:45.780
and i definitely think that if somebody had an android it would be a source of us joking i'd probably
01:48:53.060
make fun of them a lot until they switched yeah yeah i gotta agree with you um it's not a deal
01:49:01.780
breaker but it will be brutally harassed yeah okay okay uh next super chat radioactive panda two dollars
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thank you uh what is your dream job profession if not stripping so for the two strippers here um
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i want to have my own show on like viceland or something um and i also want to open my own dispensary
01:49:30.580
yeah um i probably want to start a rehabber sober living and if not that a tattoo parlor or
01:49:39.300
combined of the two send the sober people to my dispensary all the people that relapse i'm like
01:49:44.980
i got a great place yeah yeah oh we didn't i don't think we mentioned that hensley does uh
01:49:50.340
tattoo do you do you charge people or is it just friends that you tattoo or it's a very low price
01:49:55.700
i only charge for materials because i get practice in so i'm like a scratcher tattoo artist but i'm not
01:50:02.340
bad do you tattoo yourself no i'm picky about my tattoos but you do have tattoos yeah okay got it
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got it got it uh next one chris marcel pete 20 super chat thank you for the 20 super chat marcel much
01:50:17.060
appreciated i'm by the way i like your shirt in the thumbnail i don't know if that's you marcel but
01:50:22.820
i'm in a wheelchair i'm pretty attractive never had problems with getting a girl in the past so what is
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it the wheelchair or the sex and is it shallow what is it a woman wait marcel i'm gonna have to
01:50:36.740
apologize i don't understand uh your question exactly i'm in a wheelchair i'm pretty attractive
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never had in the past is it are you saying that before you were in the wheelchair you never had
01:50:48.100
problems but now that you're in the wheelchair you're having problems um also i suppose you could
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be in the wheelchair and still be functioning sexually but or you could be paralyzed and have
01:51:00.900
no function so uh yeah yeah yeah go ahead okay so i actually dated a quadriplegic for like eight months
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um so that means he basically got in a car crash um and like lost mobility of his legs but also mostly
01:51:18.420
like of his arms too um so he was like you know like pretty paralyzed bound to his wheelchair um and
01:51:25.060
yeah that just like wasn't a deal breaker for me at all like we still had fun sex um and yeah i mean
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like it did make stuff like i guess like different or like to some people hard like i had to drive i
01:51:39.700
like crashed his car once because it was like this big car like there was a minivan to have his wheelchair
01:51:44.420
go in and i didn't want to drive it and i had to um so yeah like i feel like it makes things harder
01:51:49.860
in that sense but i mean he was a really cool guy and the wheelchair never seemed to like like i would
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have liked him either way you know so i feel like you have hope okay does anybody else want to i it's not
01:52:03.700
immediately clear uh what that question is marcel if you want to post a just a regular if you want a
01:52:08.900
regular comment maybe just clarifying your question a bit and we'll try to keep an eye out in just the
01:52:13.620
regular chat and uh just clarify your question a little bit um was there another super chat chris
01:52:20.020
or is that that's it blake e what's jane's only fans uh it's so we have her instagram tagged
01:52:30.740
in the description do you have like a link tree on your no but it's i could just dm you or whatever
01:52:37.060
but it's sativa underscore blue sativa underscore blue uh and there's one more super chat right chris
01:52:46.260
oh big 50 donation niche which thank you man much appreciated really
01:52:53.540
got to drop the air horn for you i'd like to but i'd like to apologize on behalf of bill gates what a
01:52:59.060
stingy billionaire here's some support 44 for brian and split the rest with your guests yeah i'm gonna
01:53:05.940
keep that shit fuck that um sorry guys the microphones have to be paid for um but definitely
01:53:12.660
check out their uh only fans and whatnot um i'm a i'm stingy like microsoft and uh yeah from from now on
01:53:21.540
let's do 10 and over for the super chats um so let's uh do the next question um
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so everyone says i'm capping and like i'm really not but well was it like with the guy in the
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wheelchair was it a sugar daddy situation he was genuine he did like i don't want to say too much
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about him like but he like went to ucsb for grad school and like we met in santa barbara and
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literally like knew his mom like dated for eight months um yeah i'm not capping but
01:53:59.060
okay so i had a better version of this question but um and we're gonna start over here with hensley
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have you ever had a ho phase yeah they come yearly i hate to be a bitch that's like maybe it has
01:54:17.780
something to do with the moon but now that snapchat does those flashbacks i'm like it's funny every
01:54:22.180
time around may i just my body count goes up a lot more than the rest of the year
01:54:30.180
you know what's funny so okay i don't know if you remember this hensley we met i think exactly
01:54:34.740
a year ago i was out filming on fourth of july i was i don't know it was del playa it was on del
01:54:40.260
playa oh sorry i should be deltopia was it deltopia or fourth of july okay my friend was getting a
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public intoxication right next to me and you're like can we pull you for the interview and i'm like
01:54:50.660
yeah yeah yeah yeah no so i remember meeting you and i remember specific i don't know why i remember
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this but i remember you specifically saying maybe i'm mixing this up with somebody else but you
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you you said that you were for the streets do you remember do you remember that yeah yeah okay
01:55:08.260
so you're for the streets yeah okay that's it okay
01:55:15.380
but is it true that you're for the streets or were you just you were just joking it wasn't a cap like
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i it's um the men come in waves like there'll be like spots where it's just like oh no interest and
01:55:26.420
then you meet one that's nice and then like for some reason as soon as like you start considering one
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three other great options come along and it's like yeah we'll just try out all the options
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at least though i mean i have to give you props for the self-awareness you know so that's good
01:55:47.140
rachel i went to a pimps and hoes party once and i dressed as a pimp so i guess i'm adam
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okay at least um i mean i plead the fifth once again okay yeah i kind of have this phrase but now i'm
01:56:10.740
over so no more um i would say not really every high schooler kisses people more than they probably do
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now so that's like what i would say i wouldn't really say it's a ho phase more just less than
01:56:31.940
i think yeah yeah i feel like freshman year me at ucsb was like my biggest ho phase i don't think
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i'll ever beat that um wait your freshman year at ucsb yeah and i graduated last year so that was like
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what 2017 2018 and i that whole year was just like in the ho phase like never slept in my dorm room one
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night basically so it was fun you know what at ucsb is it quarter or is it it's quarter it's quarter
01:57:01.780
okay so semester or quarter how many bondies did you put up your first quarter of my freshman who
01:57:09.220
ha um i don't know i mean like once again i i actually back then i kept a good list i feel like
01:57:15.780
it was more of like getting with like the same group of guys multiple times you know but yeah it
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was like that freedom right like broke up with the call with the high school boyfriend went to college
01:57:26.340
you know so you were seeing a few guys concurrently yeah yeah okay i would like choose based on like
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oh do they have a house on dp like then i'll get with them okay yeah so how many would you say
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how many men concurrently what was the most at the same time i mean probably not more than like juggling
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like four or five guys at once because you have to like you have to keep up with them you know
01:57:56.180
that's a rotation also like i don't know back then i thought i was hot and like i really wasn't
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actually back then so it's just it's the confidence i was really confident when i was like 18.
01:58:09.140
god damn okay cool yeah good shit good times um so kind of going on to a totally different thing
01:58:20.340
this is more like more so with people that you've dated a bit or it could actually be shorter term but
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would you say more often than not that you're the one ending things or is it men ending things with
01:58:33.700
you be it short term or long term hensley or no sorry jane we'll start here um i feel like i usually
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end things before i know my heart's gonna get broken which is like something i you know i want to work on
01:58:48.660
but like i feel like if i find it getting like too serious i'll just end it i'll get cold feet um yeah
01:58:55.700
so more often than not actually my my last one he ended it with me and like i'm still sad but
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if you could give it like maybe a percentage like of the times there's been a scenario again whether
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it's short term or long term where there's like an ending my last guy was like the first guy to end it
01:59:14.260
and i feel like my ego is still like crushed because i usually end it you usually end it so he
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beat you to the punch he beat me we were in an open relationship and he stuck with like the og girl
01:59:25.780
she's cute i'm not gonna lie but i was never allowed to meet her so okay i didn't like it got it
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um i mean i haven't been broken up with but i've had really good reasons to have to break up with
01:59:41.700
somebody which is kind of worse in my case because i got cheated on like a really long relationship
01:59:48.820
so that hurts so you have to break up with them and yeah i just ended when things get toxic or if
01:59:55.780
they're controlling and just not good for my mental health yeah so overwhelming when you say you're the
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one who ends things yes okay yeah same here i usually the one dancing or the guy ants is just uh
02:00:11.860
it's rare it's usually me okay uh i really never got in a relationship where someone has a breakup or
02:00:18.500
anything like it's never that deep this is like my first relationship where it's actually like boyfriend
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girlfriend okay so but has there ever been any short-term things where
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like there was some communication like hey it was nice meeting you but i don't think it's gonna work
02:00:33.540
or i don't want to see you anymore no not really it's usually just like over text and then it's like
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oh we don't see each other or just a ghost okay rachel um oh i hate being a heartbreaker
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i don't want to admit it i don't want to admit it i've never been broken up with but i'm single
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right now so that tells you the answer and how many people
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ballpark how many people have you broken up with or ended things with i think i've had maybe
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five or six actual boyfriends okay so that's how many but um some of them just naturally ended just
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speak into the microphone some of them just naturally ended so um sometimes it's amicable okay it's not
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always too much of a heartbreak got it um i would say when it comes to relationships because i'm not a big
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relationship person if it's a relationship i get broken up with and then but if it's like casual i'm
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the one who ends things okay got it got it yeah i i'll actually answer the question i would say
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that yes for me i've broken up or ended things with a couple girls but probably the majority
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i got dumped i'm gonna hey i'll take the l i'll admit it um so i definitely do think there's an
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interesting difference there uh and i do think they report that something like 80 percent of divorces
02:02:13.780
are initiated by women uh which is maybe i i don't know guys don't don't get married okay
02:02:23.140
so let's see um that guy's right we do need an energy drink i know i want some i'm feeling if anyone
02:02:32.260
wants to tip us so that we can buy some weed oh boom there you go oh after this yeah we could podcast
02:02:42.100
that too so here's a common trope i see in dating profiles um you know dating apps just to show of
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hands again who who's currently on a dating app rachel no okay so here uh what do girls mean when they write
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take me on an adventure what what does that mean going outdoors outdoors that's that's an adventure
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maybe go on a road trip do something fun and cute don't just sit on netflix and chill
02:03:27.700
and i feel like it's like hot springs hike or like like it has to be something that
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it's the highlight of their week they're like oh my god like i worked all week and then this guy took
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me to do this fun thing um so not like dinner date or like movie like it has to be something
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bigger like unique like snorkeling okay got it or like skydiving sky hold on skydiving yeah oh that's
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a good one oh here's a good question what is the most overly elaborate or like extravagant
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first date first time meeting up that a guy's ever done or taking you on
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sorry guys technical issues um i'm pretty sure they
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heard the question though uh so hensley i'll start with you could you repeat the question
02:04:46.260
yeah so what what is the most overly elaborate or extravagant uh first first date a guy has ever
02:04:54.580
taken you on and sort of a secondary question have you ever been flown out could i get the cricket sound
02:05:01.700
effect thank you um i haven't been on very elaborate first dates um not that i can think
02:05:11.940
of over the top of my head and just like never flown anywhere i hear about those dates and i'm like
02:05:16.100
where are you meeting them that sounds so fun has a guy ever offered to fly you out anywhere
02:05:22.580
maybe but nothing that was taken seriously like that's another thing is like you get a lot of these
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grand gesture offers but that none of them are serious it's just an attempt to get you talking
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to them because i think their personality is gonna win you over got it normally doesn't if they start
02:05:38.660
by lying about trips to places but got it okay yeah i've been asked to go on trips on flights with
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people and it's never been for first date like right first date okay and it never appealed because
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that sounds like kidnapping tilt the mic up a bit towards you yeah thanks ensley
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sorry keep going um it sounds like kidnapping if it's a first date and you're going on a flight
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okay so it's just too wild for me but my first actual like adventure date that was really cool
02:06:17.540
uh was learning to surf um another really cool first date was getting taken up to the river
02:06:24.980
in um big sur and the guy like there's chairs up there i don't know there's like a couple hotels
02:06:33.060
that do crazy things up there one of them puts um picnic chairs in the river and then there's tables
02:06:40.180
in between it so you can like set up lunch and eat in the river that was pretty cool but they weren't
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like crazy adventures just more than usual drop it yeah i've never been on a crazy first date it's
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always just pretty basic and pretty basic parking lot the guy's 99 miata yeah so true okay uh i've never
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been in the crazy days just like they would take me on the dinner like restaurants or nice cafes or places
02:07:10.580
but mostly like skydiving or something else like you know diving yeah it's always just been going to
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the bar going to dinner nothing too crazy okay hopefully that changes but yeah yeah nothing like
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crazy either i mean yeah i feel like the outdoor adventure ones are fun but speak speak a bit more
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into the microphone the outdoor adventure ones are fun but i mean that's stuff that i would do like with
02:07:40.260
or without a date so okay yeah got it so no offers to be flown out anywhere okay got it uh hmm
02:07:52.980
oh chris by the way um i don't know if any of you else on the panel here it's pretty hot in here yeah
02:07:59.540
chris do you think you could try to finagle the air conditioning if it's too loud we'll turn it off
02:08:06.180
but it's super toasty in here and i'll continue on um hold on sorry let me take over here one sec
02:08:16.020
and did you lower the temp yeah okay i it might by the way we so everyone in the chat we just
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uh turned on the air conditioning there's a bit of ambient noise can you let us know one in the chat if
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you heard that or if it's not affecting the volume at all okay um let's do super chats really quick
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i don't know if we have any um any new ones uh noah vega with the nine or the ten dollars super chat
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thank you man appreciate the support uh brian brickson uh what's your only fans so if you actually go in the
02:09:09.300
description um i have my only fans linked there it's um me and andrea here we uh we put on a show
02:09:18.820
we put on the show and you know she's gonna appear a girl girl she's gonna and it's gonna be a collab
02:09:25.940
with our only fans so uh yeah check it out it's in the description uh by the way all the girls are
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terrified of of this sex doll by the way she's nice okay she's shy okay uh next one
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uh steven krug ten dollar super chat thank you man appreciate it women carry more risk in
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reproduction evolutionarily evolutionary speaking because of time investment nine month pregnancy
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etc etc father could leave without doing anything i.e women naturally are more selective because risk
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i agree with that i mean there's certainly yeah there's certainly a biological element in our lizard
02:10:09.140
brains where it's like hey if i mean you know birth control came out in the 60s and now that's a bit less
02:10:18.180
of a concern but still in our lizard brain we're like hey we have the risk of a pregnancy here so
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it makes sense it makes sense but i i do gotta say 10 guys 10 of men you find a track okay anyways it
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was less less less than 10 percent they're very picky um so okay is that it for the super chats chris
02:10:42.100
uh let's just uh go to window mode let's uh just give a little shout to our twitch
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homies homies okay oh sweet uh thank you iceman 102 to i i'm dyslexic here english as a second language
02:10:58.420
guys thank you for the uh tier one sub much appreciated and uh thank you guys for the follow
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much appreciated um oh i can hold on i'll just do them okay um oh wow okay so
02:11:11.540
next question sorry guys first time we're figuring it out we're doing it live uh
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do you guys think it's wrong for a guy to hook up with a girl and then ghost her
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let's start with jane um i think ghosting whether it's like the guy or the girl i think it's just
02:11:33.380
better to like be honest um if you're not feeling it just let them know so that they can move on
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okay i agree with that but i have ghosted because sometimes awkward to be honest with people and
02:11:48.420
let them down but overall ghosting is just worse than just being honest and having healthy communication
02:11:53.940
but yeah i don't i don't i don't like it yeah same as here and i don't like when people ghost
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yeah i agree with my i've unfortunately done it too but it's like i shouldn't have been i should have
02:12:09.380
been open yeah i'm from such a small town that it's not possible to ghost each other so now that
02:12:17.620
i'm in the world it's just so fucked up it's not cool um i think like there could be a sentence or
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two of explanation it doesn't even have to be nice just but i think from moving on it can be a lot
02:12:32.660
better but i think we definitely have a bad tendency of being like they should have got the vibe like
02:12:37.700
girls are very dependent on our body language and our tone and our fluctuation of voice for
02:12:43.140
how and we expect guys to kind of perceive that as like dude we're not ndo yeah but guys are not the
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brightest so i think for them it can be easier if you just let them get the point by telling them you
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know i'm good thanks okay got it so next question do you have different sets of rules for different guys
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guys based on their attractiveness or tolerate certain behaviors for men that you wouldn't
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i i mean i think just every relationship's different it can't necessarily be
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by rules or numbers or statistics or anything it's really how you feel them out i think we all
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just have the one standard of like don't hit us kind of thing like don't assault us
02:13:34.660
um and the other rules i think it fluctuates for everyone it's just subjective
02:13:46.820
yeah i'd probably say the same thing but i would like to think i'd probably treat everyone like the
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same yeah same here i agree with this i agree with elise
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yeah like i know how i want to be treated and how i deserve to be treated so no matter how hot
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or not hot a guy is like if he's not going to treat me like that then i'm not going to be with him
02:14:10.420
okay got it so again totally new topic and i think we're going to probably wrap up here guys in about
02:14:20.820
15 20 minutes uh so if any of you have a question just submit it super chat and we'll get to it before
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the end of the show uh so who should i'm trying to think how i want to frame this question so
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amongst your friend group group of friends do you guys share a lot with them about someone like guys
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you're dating do you guys get advice or do you just share a lot yeah i mean like we share everything
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um like before one of us goes on a date with a new guy we'll share our location you know like just to
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make sure we're safe we'll facetime about it afterwards um yeah i think it's like fun you know
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to like it's like girl talk it's like a sleepover yeah i agree with that i think it depends also with the
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relationship you have with that person a lot of the times i don't want to share what i wouldn't be
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comfortable with them sharing with their friends so i do like have that line of what's okay what's not
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but with your like best best friend yeah everything yeah same here i i mean if i go on a date i usually
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share location with my friends and also tell them my experience how was that uh but also
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i'm i'm trying to like you know stay safe and you know anything could happen on the date so yeah i
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keep like only best friends like really close people in my life so i share everything about the date like
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their name everything um what the friend's willing to hear so yeah true i don't want to say too much
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um but i do tell my girlfriends a lot especially the ones that are still back in vermont and we're
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staying in touch and whatever what's the harm i share with my friends either the really good experiences
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or the really bad experiences except for my best friend natalie she gets all of it and i'm sorry
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natalie okay and so how quickly and this could be an assumption but how quickly after you the first
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time you've hooked up with a guy within 24 hours do you do your girlfriends know the size of the man's
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penis yes or no does it curve does it curve in a certain direction like i said if it's either really
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good or really bad okay so they know then if it's in one of the extremes yeah but if it's just an average
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so if it's a large penis yes or a small penis they will they will know okay okay um can i say
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okay yeah i think i would share with only my very close people like those pasty friends okay if they
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ask for sure so okay i think probably if you asked i don't see why i just say it unless it's like
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what she said really good really bad sure probably say something but yeah more if you ask um yeah i i
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guess like what hensley said like if it's crazy big or like really teeny like i definitely talk about
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it if not if it's average if it's average it's average like you don't talk about average things you
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know okay um do you guys ever get nervous about what details a man that you're dating or even hooked up
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with might share with his friends i mean honestly guys don't really talk to their guys about that
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that's true that's true like do you say anything because like honestly i do but he's like i really don't
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say it like they're pretty respectful if they're in a relationship like it's super respectful but
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if it's not a relationship i don't think they like over explain because boys are just not like that
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yeah it's respectful but it's also like dangerous right somebody could steal you away if they like
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talk too good about you which is what i was going to say about the last question like i never talk about
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my boyfriends or somebody i'm with especially if it's really good because then it's just like a wet
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dream for whoever else and that's not right you're going where i forgot the questions yeah so good
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question do you ever like i guess let me also kind of maybe reframe it would you be nervous about a guy
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or uncomfortable with a guy you're dating or hooked up with talking to his guy friends in the same way
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that you talk to your girlfriends in terms of disclosures i think it depends on who because i've
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been with somebody who i'm really close with friendship wise and i'm friends with i'm really
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close with his homies so like in that case yes it's kind of weird for like your brothers to know
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specific information about you but other than that i don't really care okay as long as it's good
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got it if it's not then yes i care yeah i mean especially as like someone who's open about sex
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work i feel like often guys will brag to their guy friends after they get with like me or like one of
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my co-workers and i i don't know i feel like that's kind of lame like if you're just like bragging about
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fucking a stripper like i don't know like that stuff's lame to me but if they're gonna just like
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talk about like what they did with me or whatever i i'm talking about it too so like that's fine
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okay got it so i'm gonna i'm gonna give the at least my take and i think the guy's take we don't
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say shit really um i think if a guy if a guy friend was they don't even know who i'm seeing
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dating they probably don't know their names unless it's like super long term they might not know
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um if a guy knows that i was on a date somehow he might he might be like how'd the date go and i
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might just be like i was good that's it or it wasn't it was bad like that's it even if we hook up
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like i'm i'm not gonna talk about her labia and you know i don't know i i think i do think it's maybe
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and it's sort of just taken for granted i feel like but to me it seems a bit lack of discretion
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because like damn this girl like she knows she knows all this like her friends know and i just
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i'm like uh yeah like i'll know her in that way but she knows anyways whatever um
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so but you guys would you guys i guess follow-up question would you be upset if a guy was like yeah
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her pussy smelled bad or something like that well going back to what you said first of all let me
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just say like if my boyfriend was like don't talk about it like i wouldn't like it's also about
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respect and i'm sure we wouldn't say anything if the guy said like hey like i'm uncomfortable
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like with you sharing this like i would never do that to someone yeah same here okay i feel like um i
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wouldn't share at least someone like one of my best ask about that and secondly i feel like guys
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don't really always share things and if you're gonna like share stuff like something like bad about
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me yeah i think i would be upset okay got it i think i'd just be embarrassed honestly if they said
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something but like i went on a date the other day and i was texting at least the entire time just
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keeping her updated so i can't really be hypocritical and say i care about them saying something but i can
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say everything right so you know okay yeah got it um i think we're gonna do maybe the last question
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here or actually before that chris do we have any know what we'll actually save these super chats for
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the uh i think for the very very end and then we'll wrap up um so who would you guys say when it comes to
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dating who has the burden of initiative when it comes to dating men or women
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when you say burden of initiative like who has to ask out who yeah um i mean it i've definitely
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been confident enough where if i see someone i'll walk straight up to them and start the conversation
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i have no issue with that but if it's also like a mutual situation like i just got into one where we
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were both talking it was very flirty and i was like yeah we should hang out and we both followed
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each other on instagram i wasn't texting him first like i was like no i want i want you to text me first
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for sure yeah let me actually just reframe the question um so do you prefer it when a guy takes
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initiative and i think you kind of answered that so oh yeah for sure rachel yes okay
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yeah i also prefer but i have no problem starting either okay yeah i prefer when the guy takes first
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yeah i like confidence so yes yeah i mean like you want to feel wanted um but also like it's kind of
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cool i feel like as the girl i feel like it stands out if you do text first or like make the date um just
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because i feel like that's like kind of non-conventional um so then guys will remember you
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more okay got it yeah is there and never mind sorry guys it's scorching in here it's super hot
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i think we're all all of us are kind of uh low energy um so i think we're gonna wrap up here pretty soon
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uh but before we do that let's just go around the panel uh would any of you like to pose a question to
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i i do guys worry about labia size good question good question uh so do guys worry about i can't speak
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for other men and certainly okay so i'm probably i may very i may very well be an outlier in this
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regard but i'm gonna just be honest i actually kind of like a girl with a bit of labia some big
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lips you know what i'm saying i i'm a fan i'm a fan and i think and actually i'm starting i'm announcing
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this right now thank you hensley for intro and we just everyone know this was not uh pre-planned um
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i'm starting a non-profit organization called the american network against labia plaisty okay
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ain't anal for short and i think i think it's unfortunate and i'm i'm kind of joking around but
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uh i do think women get shamed for if they have a large labia and i think that's unfortunate um
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because that's something you're born with you can't change in the similar vein i i don't think
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we should be shaming guys if they have a small peen you know uh you know uh small peen solidarity but
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i'm average okay i'll admit average but uh so i would say i i actually like not to say that i wouldn't
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hook up with a girl if she had the normal let's not say normal but like smaller labia i guess but
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i'm a fan i'm not gonna lie i'm a fan of the large labia and i do think it's unfortunate that
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there's a lot of shaming language like you know there's beef curtains meat flaps so labia love that's
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my message but uh i think most guys are just most most there's definitely some guys out there that'll
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shame a girl for that but i think most guys are just like you know happy to be being intimate with
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somebody you know so i also have a question uh we'll come to you related to her thing or
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it's a different different okay we're just gonna go around but we'll get to you rachel rachel
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um does anyone think that there's long-term damage in the relationship if uh the relationship becomes open
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and then maybe when you get older you know there's not as many options
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because this is really common um moving from new england to southern california i come up against it
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a lot where open relationships are really casual and predominant actually and so i'm not really sure
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whether i'm old school and thinking that there could be potentially long-term damage that you could never
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really close it in the future when you're older but so are you saying that it can be cause like
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psychological harm to be in an open relationship or i'm just trying to any sort of damage that makes you
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not last the ages because you opened your relationship or do you think that it's totally
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closable again and um i don't know what are people's thoughts on open relationships in the long term of
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like a whole lifespan okay uh all of it i'll let the rest of the panel answer and then i'll give them my
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answer i think a lot of people who are like very pro monogamy or like anti open relationships it's funny
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because then they'll cheat you know what i mean like open relationships are there for a reason and
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they do have a lot of potential but they're just as much work and just as hard i think as monogamy
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um because there does have to be a lot of open communication there are going to be feelings of
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jealousy like no matter what and but they also i think are becoming really popular because they
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have a lot of potential in them i'm pro monogamy but i'm also open to like open relationships like
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i'm not closed off to it like we're so young and like i know i don't want my boyfriend's probably not
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going to be interested like that in me that my whole life like we're going to be alive till we're like
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50 60 70 whatever so like i'm open to like trying something new always
02:29:28.260
ah so i have a question so before we get to your question um so we were
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we're we'll come back to it but do you want we'll do you want to answer hers or we can just skip you
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uh no no she just came to zero okay do you want to go ahead um i'm not against it but i am
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i am the jealous type and i personally don't think i could do it i think i would go a little
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crazy and just get a little jealous so i for myself i wouldn't do it i think that would
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harm me mentally um yeah i've been in different open relationships i feel like the ones that worked
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for me were the ones that everyone was in the same relationship like polyamory and so like we all
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loved each other and that really worked for me and it was really honest and open um the ones that for
02:30:19.940
me personally like don't work is when someone has like a separate partner that like you get no contact
02:30:25.460
with because to me like that doesn't feel as open um but yeah i do think it has become a lot more popular
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um and i think it takes like double triple however many partners are involved that much more work
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to make it successful and you have to be like really secure and honest with yourself okay yeah
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thank you so i'll answer the question so it's it's do open relationships cause harm to the relationship
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if it were to close again or just um i mean i think if you're in a monogamous i think if you're in a
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monogamous relationship and then you open it up but if i was dating a girl and it was monogamous and
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she came to me and she said i want to open this up she's done just it's it's over you know like i just
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that's a bad sign i think that's a bad omen like i'm breaking up with her can i ask why if because if
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why does she want to open it up i mean she wants to essentially she'd want to she wants to sleep
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with other men what if she wanted to add a woman yeah um i'd rather i'd rather disappoint only one
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woman at a time you know you know the whole threesome thing but i mean i suppose i'd be okay
02:31:50.900
with that if it's a woman if it's yeah why not do you think it's like you wouldn't be threatened by
02:31:56.260
another girl but you'd be threatened by another guy oh i would never have a threesome with another
02:32:00.660
guy like not even threesomes but open like if she wanted to go off and have a separate relationship
02:32:05.140
with another woman you'd be fine no i i wouldn't be okay with that okay yeah i wouldn't be okay with
02:32:10.740
it um yeah i i mean i think it really comes down to just the couple being able to come to a mutual
02:32:18.820
understanding and agreement if that's what they both want fine but uh i mean the rec i mean i don't
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recommend if if your girl comes to you and she's like i want to open this relationship bro
02:32:32.020
fucking yeah she already has someone lined up it's over like it's done like she ain't feeling you
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anymore um anyways yeah or sorry at least if you have a question or i mean no for the panel okay go
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ahead yeah yeah i have a question sure when a guy hit a girl let me like have a sex in the first date
02:32:54.100
does he lose interest does he lose interest after like he had sex with her
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okay so you're asking me just me yeah yeah as a guy yeah so um i i think i may be a bit of an
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outlier on this one so if a girl sleeps with me on like the first time i'm not gonna be like oh she's
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not worthy of like relationship or commitment some guys there are some guys though like if you hook up
02:33:23.060
with them too quick they're gonna feel a certain type of way about it they might not they might not
02:33:27.860
take you seriously for me i don't i don't think that's really an issue i wouldn't it wouldn't be
02:33:35.460
a deal breaker but there were there could be potentially other things that are problematic like
02:33:41.780
if you're annoying then then yeah maybe i won't i wouldn't be interested again but um yeah and also i
02:33:48.660
mean i don't know i don't need to sleep with the girl on the first day like if it's the no it's
02:33:54.660
just like a question yeah just a question yeah it's kind of a tough spot because on one hand if you wait
02:34:00.260
too long then the guy might just be like i don't want to wait find somebody else and then and then or
02:34:06.420
he does wait and then you hook up once and then i don't know if any of you guys have had that experience
02:34:10.820
where you wait you hook up and then that's it so it is you are kind of in a tough spot where it's like
02:34:18.100
is he gonna want to continue seeing me and so yeah but uh for me it's not i don't i don't mind i
02:34:26.340
typically typically i'll wait till like the second date um but yeah could i step in for a sec too
02:34:33.220
what my grandma always said is like especially with like when you sleep with a guy on the first night
02:34:37.780
even if it's not something you do a lot men have a tendency to never think they're special so they
02:34:43.460
think if you do it with them you do it with everyone and they yeah yeah that's what i heard
02:34:48.660
too it could it could also be though that you found him so incredibly charming and attractive
02:34:56.420
that you broke a rule for him so it could be viewed that way so it could also be uh flattering
02:35:03.780
like oh normally i mean how would the guy know but so it could also be viewed in the flattering way like
02:35:10.580
oh she's so into me whatever but um i don't really have any questions okay jane yeah um i guess like
02:35:18.580
because this is your first podcast ever yeah what is something you'd want to try next time
02:35:25.780
try next time like like what's something like what did you learn from this very first podcast
02:35:31.620
that you'd like take with you okay yeah good question thank you uh a couple things um
02:35:37.060
um put the air conditioning on first off um it got got very toasty um i think i would have liked
02:35:45.620
to have a mouse so i could be better prepared be a little bit better prepared with the questions you know
02:35:50.820
it's first time so i'm this is new to me and i definitely appreciate you guys's patience just with
02:35:55.780
everything um i definitely want to add some different sort of segments to the show besides just asking
02:36:02.100
questions i think it could definitely be interesting since there's a dating and relationship show
02:36:06.740
would be to like somehow dive into the like have a girl like connect her well maybe not connect her
02:36:14.660
phone but take screenshots of the dating apps and then we could like do some sort of review or something
02:36:20.900
that could be fun but uh i want to get more tuned in with the soundboard and get some more sounds going
02:36:29.060
but uh yeah i'm still figuring it out so yeah it's just going to be a learning experience yeah but
02:36:34.820
uh yeah um chris do we have any super chats brian needs a co-host i agree i mean i do think i want
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to co-host but no no chris no super chats okay or are you sure it looks i don't know if we
02:36:51.140
but we have uh someone on twitch though give you 100 bits oh okay yeah pull just pull up the twitch
02:36:59.460
really quick oh oh it looks like he used he cheered like 600 bits progressive alter ego hey man thank
02:37:09.220
you for the bits really appreciate it thank you for the support um all right guys well uh why don't we
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bring it back to just the so um that is it for the show thank you guys so much for tuning in
02:37:23.460
really appreciate it uh it's our first show we're still figuring out the kinks uh we're aiming to
02:37:29.620
switch to tri-weekly so we're going to be doing sunday tuesdays thursdays 7 p.m we're i'm not sure
02:37:35.460
if we're going to immediately get into that schedule but that's sort of the end goal sunday tuesday
02:37:39.380
thursdays tri-weekly uh thank you guys so much for tuning in be sure to like check out um you know
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