Dating Talk #21
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2 hours and 22 minutes
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169.88272
Hate Speech Sentences
117
Summary
It's the first week of classes at UCSB, and the cops are out in force! In this episode, we're joined by a few guests to talk about what it's like to be a student in Isla Vista, California and dealing with the aftermath of a night out.
Transcript
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La donna è mobile, qual piuma al vento, muta d'accento e di pensiero.
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Sempre un'amabile, legge addroviso, impianto in riso e menzognero.
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La donna è mobile, qual piuma al vento, muta d'accento e di pensiero.
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La donna è mobile, qual piuma al vento, muta d'accento e di pensiero.
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Qual piuma al vento, qual piuma al vento, qual piuma al vento.
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Fiuma al vento, qual piuma al vento, qual piuma al vento, qual piuma al vento.
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all links for that are in the description. Eric, if you go ahead and hit that join button there,
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we are also streaming to Twitch right now, simulcasting, twitch.tv slash whatever. Drop
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us a follow slash prime sub. Free way to support the show. Also, please support my non-profit
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organization, the American Network Against Labia Plasty, or anal for short. We empower women who
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may feel self-conscious or insecure about their labia. Can we get some hashtag all labia matter
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in the chat? Okay, if you want to be on the show or help the show, DM at whatever on Instagram.
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Eric, if you want to just pull up the Instagram, thank you, and yeah, shoot us a message. We're
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looking for a talent coordinator, and also, Eric, if you want to go ahead and bring it back to center
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here. It's the first week of classes at UCSB. A lot of freshmen are about to get minor in possession
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of alcohol citations. So I'm announcing my Isla Vista. Jesus, I'm butchering the name of this.
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Sorry, guys. English is my second language. My Isla Vista Benevolent Reimbursement Fund. As you
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guys know, I'm a philanthropist. If you live in Santa Barbara, Goleta, Isla Vista, and you received
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any petty alcohol-related fines like open container, under 21, possession of alcohol, maybe you're
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throwing a party and got a noise citation, DM at whatever on Instagram a photo of your citation
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in store, and you may be selected to have your fine paid for in full by me. So we're going
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to have the guests introduce themselves. So please tell us your name, age, occupation,
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My name is Ari. I'm 19. Right now, I'm a student, but I'm also working at a restaurant in Montecito.
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I believe you got everything. You're not in school, right?
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Hi, everyone. My name is Kara. I'm 18. And my occupation is a model and fashion content
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creator. And also, I'm a student in USSB. And my major is communication. Thank you.
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Hi, I'm Hensley. I'm a stripper. And I also study psychology with a minor in philosophy and
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drug and alcohol counseling. Age? 22. Hi, I'm Natasha. I'm 19. And I do content creation.
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Hi, I'm Kate. I'm 23. I go to UCSB. And I intern at the ER.
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Hi, I'm Larissa. I'm 19. I'm a PCA. And I'm a sociology major.
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Hi, I'm Katie. I'm 21. And I'm a fourth year psychology major at UCSB.
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Hey, y'all. I'm MJ. I'm 20. And I'm a student at Ventura College.
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Oh, I'm a student athlete. And I'm studying early childhood development.
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Okay. Welcome, everybody. Everyone's Instagrams are in the description. Show them some love.
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Give them a follow. Yeah. So I know today is a impromptu show. Normally, we do not do shows
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on Sunday. I built this entire day around a group of five girls who contacted me who wanted
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to all come together on the show. And I said, well, I can't get you on a Tuesday or Thursday,
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but I can accommodate you guys on a Sunday. And then two hours before the show, they flaked.
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So I want to thank everyone who kind of came in as last minute replacements here. So thank
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you guys. So let me see. We're going to go around the table once again. Current relationship
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status, longest relationship, and are you on the dating app?
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My current relationship status is a single. My longest relationship I've been in is two
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I have been, actually. I don't want to say it was for fun because my friends made me do
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it, but it was for fun for me. Um, but I did delete it, end up deleting it. Yeah, it was
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your, your friends made you do it. No, I definitely did it myself like to have fun.
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Oh, okay. So you're, you were saying, I'm not going to say, yeah, I'm not going to say
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my friends made me do it because I definitely did it myself for myself. Okay. Respect.
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Because I've definitely seen like a lot of people on the dating apps cope and they're just
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like, Oh, you know, my friends. Yeah. Yeah. So yeah, go ahead. Uh, I'm not single. I'm
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dating someone. And, um, my longest relationship is a year and I'm not on the dating app.
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Um, single 10 months and yes, I'm single. My longest relationship was a year and a half
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and I am on a hinge, but I don't use it. Um, my longest relationship was a little closer
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to my, my longest relationship was five years. It just ended and five years. Yeah. And I'm
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single and I tried dating app and it's scary. The dating apps are scary. Well, scary. Which
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ones did you try? I'm scared of Tinder. So just Bumble and Hinge right now, but I don't
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know. You're scared of Tinder. Why is that? Just cause men. I don't know. Like, yeah.
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What? Wait, what? What about men? No, no. But what, what about, what do you mean? Well,
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I started. Cause there's men on Bumble and Hinge too, if I'm not mistaken. Yes, but I don't
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know. Five years. Like if you, I was 18 last time I was in a relationship, like I started.
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So now I'm like completely new to the game. Very different. Last time I was in it. So
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it's an experience. Okay. Yeah. Um, my status is complicated. My longest is two years and
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Chad, can you guys hear her by the way? Here, can you tilt the microphone down towards you
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just a little bit? Perfect. Um, my status is complicated. My longest is two years and
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last question. I'm not on dating apps. What do you mean by complicated? Complicated is like
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we're not dating anymore, but you're also not my ex. So you guys are still hooking up. I
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mean, somewhat, but you guys aren't together anymore, but you're still hooking up. How does
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that? Okay. Okay. Just 2022 things. Okay. Kitty. I'm not single. Um, I'm not on dating apps and
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my longest relationship was half a year. Okay. I'm not single. I have a girlfriend. Um, my longest
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relationship was two years and I'm not on a dating app. Wait, you're, so you're not single. I'm not
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single. Okay. Got it. And so you said your longest relationship is two years. Is that your current
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relationship or? No, that's not my current relationship. Okay. Got it. And I am single. Uh,
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my longest relationship was like, like two year weird span of like on and off. And then, uh, what was the last
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question? Uh, are you currently on a, I am, I'm on a Tinder and it's a, like you said, it's a weird,
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scary place. Okay. Any other dating apps or is that it? Dude, I actually like, I downloaded Hinge
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for a little bit just cause I, I like reading and like Hinge is like, you can read people's like life
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and it's kind of interesting. So that was like something I realized I was just like doing because
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I was bored and then I was like, this is kind of stupid. So I deleted Hinge. So. Okay. Good times.
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Good times. Good times. So first question I'm going to ask, and I've asked this before,
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I think this is a good introductory question. So before I get into my questions and a couple
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of video reactions we have, is there anything dating related that you want to get off your
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chest? Maybe you recently had a bad date. Men are pissing you off in some way, or women are
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pissing you guys off in some way. There's a trend in dating that annoys you, something you just
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hate about how dating works or dating apps, whatever it may be. So just anything you'd
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Nothing. There's nothing that bothers you about dating.
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I don't know. I guess. I don't know. Can I think about it? Can you come back to me?
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Um, I would say just for like dating culture right now, stop being in a rush to fall in
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love. Like it's kind of inevitable when you're young, you're going to fall in love again.
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But I feel like everyone is just in such a hurry to get into a relationship. They'll make
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anything work or fit. And then it just leads to relationships that are either meaningless
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I think I've said this before, but I think what bothers me about dating is people's indecisiveness,
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not knowing whether they want to be with someone and kind of messing around with someone or keeping
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them on a leash, um, to use them for relationship benefits, but not actually commit to them.
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Um, I agree with that. Just the whole holding you, but not really having a label or anything
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Um, hold on, but I do want to get into that a little bit. What do you mean by using you?
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Like, okay. Like the apps, you know, men, they just, you know, like,
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Kind of all of them, but I've realized basically.
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What about the guys over here? Do you guys, what are you guys looking for?
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Well, you're in a relationship, right? So let's say before you were in your relationship,
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were you always relationship minded or did you ever have a ho phase?
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Um, I think everybody, whenever they become single after a long relationship,
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you got to admit it, you kind of have a little ho phase, but, um,
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man, I mean, like after I got out of my relationship, I was like, fuck this.
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I'm not going to get into a relationship like ever again.
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And I came out here to California, uh, not looking for anything.
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And I feel like that's how it's supposed to happen because that's how, um, I don't know.
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I mean, so many people are trying to go out and, like, find a relationship and, like, find that one thing.
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But it'll come to you, I feel like, if it's right.
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I mean, definitely, like, what she said about, like, don't be so quick to fall in love.
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Like, if I, like, find a girl that I really like, like, I want to give her my all in that moment.
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And then, like, like a month or two goes past, you guys talking, and it just becomes, like, stale.
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And it's like, like you said, after that, you're just like, all right, fuck this.
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But, um, yeah, definitely don't fall in love too quick because, like, you got fucking years of your life to find your person.
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And there's, like, a billion of your people that you can find.
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So your primary complaint is that men just want to fuck.
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I'm just learning right now because it's so fresh.
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So just understanding the dating game in 2022 just also just got out of something.
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You said you were in a five-year relationship, right?
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There was just so much going on in my life, personally, that I just could not handle.
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And so I felt like it was right to just be like, I can't.
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Because it was just so much happening, personally.
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So it's hard to be there for someone fully and then be there for you while you're going through so much stuff.
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And in that situation, who is the one like reinitiating?
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It's kind of both of us, just wanting to make it work.
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And now we're both like, we really don't know ourselves.
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And when it was off, who was breaking up with who?
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So coming back to just the current dating, I know you've only been in it for a month,
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But I think right now, I just feel like when you're going through so much stuff, you can't
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No, so like when it comes to dating, is there anything dating related that you want to get
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Second of all, I feel like you have to stop trying to make things work when they're not
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Like sometimes you have to just accept the fact that shit ain't gonna work.
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And so your experience has been like when going on dates, the guy is late for the date.
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So we're gonna come back to you because you skipped.
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I think it is very valid that you should not be late to dates.
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And then I would say a complaint I have is like controlling, like being a control freak
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So we're getting some comments in the chat that there's mics off.
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All of the comments started for the shared mic.
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I'm trying to figure out how I want to deal with this right now.
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I was going to say, we can all move one down, too.
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Let's, I mean, can you just try to unplug that thing and plug it back in?
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They're doing like all caps on the comment station right now.
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Well, I think if it's all right, we'll move the microphones.
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We could just have you three just share this one.
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And then put, if you want, if you, or you don't have to unplug it, but just put that one on
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Go ahead with your answer, if you can just repeat.
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I said, be on time to dates and stop being a control freak about your girl.
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Showing up on time and not being a control freak.
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Can you give us an example of what you mean by being a control freak?
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Like, if she wants to go out with her friends, like, don't be texting her.
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Like, show me videos, like, 360s of where you are to make sure there's, like, no other
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And are you talking about, like, in the confines of a relationship or?
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So, you've encountered a situation with, was it a boyfriend or a guy you were seeing
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who took issue with you going out and partying?
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And did he communicate that that was an issue to you at the beginning of the relationship
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I feel like it kind of built up to that point, but I didn't know my standards well enough to,
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Did he tell you, I don't want you going out, and then you went out anyways, or how did
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Like, I was a senior in high school, and then I moved to IV, and I was, like, still dating
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So, I was a senior in high school, and then I started dating him.
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And then I moved to IV, and I was a freshman, and we were still dating, and I wanted to go
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out with my roommates, and he was not having it at all.
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And so, like, not even a month into my freshman year, we broke up, because it was, like, too
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So, you valued going out over your relationship?
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Like, he was worried about me, and I wasn't even, like, worried about him, because I trusted,
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Okay, so do you think that maybe his controllingness was him projecting?
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Um, and he asked all of his friends to un-add me on Snap, and, like, Insta, and then, so
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I, like, had a Finsta, and looked them up, and I saw a prom picture, and he took another
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Yeah, I just think about, uh, what she was saying.
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Um, probably the thing is, like, don't try to, you know, like, devalue a girl.
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Like, when, like, for example, if you're being with a guy, he's just, like, show off, like,
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oh, I can do this, I can do that, I can do everything, but you, you, you're not, like,
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without me, you're a piece of shit, like, kind of like this, you know?
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So, this, like, girl was, like, oh, I can't, like, live without you, like, you're everything
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It sounds, like, you guys made people, like, made from euphoria.
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So, like, yeah, I had, I only have one ex-boyfriend and he's, like, a little, a little, like, kind
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But the whole relationship only lost, like, two months because, do you, do you guys know
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Like, like, he was a senior and I was a freshman and he's, like, oh, I, I knew everything here
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And, you know, and I was so innocent and I just, like, it was the first time I came to
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this country, so it's kind of, like, I don't know, he's kind of, like, controlling my life
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So, he kind of, like, took advantage of you in a way.
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I said he kind of took advantage of you in a way then, right?
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And the, I don't know, the craziest thing is, like, I just moved into a new apartment
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and I got randomly assigned with a roommate and we were just talking about, like, ex-boyfriend
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And found out my ex-boyfriend was, like, talking to my new roommate last month.
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And my new roommate, she's, like, oh, I didn't, like, continue to talk to this guy because,
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like, this guy just feels like he's not a good person, like, been lying the whole time
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Did, Joseph, did you, did you two guys get a chance to answer the question?
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So, do you have any gripes when it comes to dating, relationships?
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I just want to say, when you're, like, talking to someone, and I think it's, like, in our
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culture, like, men are supposed to, like, I heard you say on another episode that men
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Like, if you're going to talk to someone on social media, like, talk to them the same
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Just, like, if you're going to have, like, in-depth conversations in real life, but then,
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like, you see that person in a group setting around people, and you don't really talk to
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It's, like, that's the one thing I've always had a pet peeve with.
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It's, like, because you're super excited about a girl that you talk to through social media,
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this and that, and then comes to, like, reality, and it's, like, did I do something wrong?
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And it's just, that's one thing I've always, like, and it goes both ways, too.
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It's, like, you can't, as a guy, you can't do that to a girl.
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Is there, like, a specific scenario that you had?
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I think it was a girl I was talking to, like, about a, like, just a little closer.
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I was a girl I was talking to, like, two years ago before I started dating my ex-girlfriend,
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and, like, she was, like, super cool, super, like, interesting to talk to.
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I'm not saying that girls aren't interested to talk to, but, like, certain people through
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social media are just not fun to talk to, because there's just, you know, their replies
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are blank, but she, like, actually had some interesting thoughts, and we, like, had good
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conversations, and then, like, it came time for us to hang out around a group of people,
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and she was just, like, like, didn't even talk to me at all.
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And, like, I get it, it's, like, I don't know, maybe it's, like, the first jitters,
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whatever, but it was, like, one of those things, like, the first time it happened,
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I was, like, okay, she's just nervous, and then the more we hung out with people and
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whatnot, it was, like, the same thing, and I was, like, it's so pointless.
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Is it, like, you know, so I was, like, that's the one gripe I have with, like, just dating
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I'm, like, the worst person to talk about dating, because I haven't dated anyone in, like,
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a while, but that's, like, the one thing, like, moving forward with, like, whoever I'm
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interested in in the future that I want to make sure that they're humans in real life,
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Yeah, by the way, if you guys just turn the microphone.
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Brian, you have to find a balance between wannabe gangsters and femboys.
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Mike Davis, I've seen him comment on a bunch of stuff, and he's, like, the ultimate troller.
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Hey, but I think this was directed at you, so do you want to fire back at Mike Davis?
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Mike Davis, my entire life, bro, I've heard, like, I'm adopted by white people.
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I grew up in a white culture, but I've also, like, learned to enjoy, like, my black culture
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as well, and I've learned to balance, like, what I like, you know what I'm saying?
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I don't feel like, it sounds corny to say, like, fitting in a box of gangster.
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So I like these earrings, and sorry you don't like the Mike Davis.
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Okay, Mike Davis with the other $10 super chat.
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Have you thought about starting in OnlyFans, by the way?
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You know, it was like a very quick thought in my head, but I have a lot of friends who did it.
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Also, I've had friends where it's been, like, their OnlyFans has been caught by parents or by employees.
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And I like stripping more because it also, we have security.
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Like, we have security guards, like, where it's, like, if any guy oversteps bounds, we can be like, oh, leave.
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But online, you know, like, there's still going to be trolls online, even for, like, OnlyFans thing, I feel like.
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No, it was never, like, a really high thought in my head.
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On the topic of OnlyFans, I'd like to take this moment to announce that I have acquired OnlyFans.com slash whatever.
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I don't know what I'm going to put on there yet, but maybe Kiki is going to make an appearance.
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I'm never going to be featured on anything like that.
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But shout out to OnlyFans for hooking it up with the username.
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So really quick, just on the topic of OnlyFans, thank you, Mike Davis, once again, for that soup chat.
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Have any of you guys here considered, thought about, or even have an OnlyFans?
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I have thought about getting an OnlyFans, but I have definitely thought over, like,
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Hensley said, it being on the internet forever.
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And also, yeah, I'm just not trying to put that out for myself.
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And actually, it was funny that there were several OnlyFans agency reached me out on Instagram.
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They were like, oh, with your pretension or something.
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I think it's, like, two months ago or something.
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And then, Hensley, you kind of already answered that.
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I think that every girl probably has considered it because, you know, you see these girls on social media,
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and it's, like, it's kind of life-changing money sometimes.
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You know, girls can make five figures, six figures, millions, and it's just, like, insane.
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So, it's really tempting, but I don't have one, and I'm not sure that I'd start one anytime soon.
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I've thought about it, but also just the safety thing.
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I think I wouldn't do it, so I've never done it, but.
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I have thought about it, but I have not done it, and I don't think I will do it because of, like, the professional aspect,
00:32:37.860
But I have had some fake accounts, like, use my pictures, and that whole nine.
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Sorry for everyone in the chat who was looking forward to his OnlyFans.
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I think when I found out about OnlyFans, like, a year ago, and my friends were like,
00:32:59.960
yeah, you should do it because you feel you could do that, and then I made, like, one thirst drop for TikTok,
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I just started laughing at myself, so I don't think I could do it in that aspect just because it's like, I don't know.
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Oh, let me get the super chat while we have it.
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My guy, Joseph, Mike Davis, thank you for the $10 super chat.
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My guy, Joseph, you pulled up with that blonde-dyed hair, earring and nose ring,
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and the girl understood that the assignment that she's the beard.
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And the girl understood that the assignment that she's the beard?
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That's something that a gay person uses to hide that they're gay.
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Apparently, he owns like a couple subways on the East Coast or something.
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If y'all were able to wake up tomorrow as the opposite gender,
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knowing what you know now as your current gender,
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do you think your life from there on would be better or worse?
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Do you think your life would be better or worse?
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There would be like, I don't know, benefits and also like a lot of like,
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not repercussions, but like just, dude, I play sports and guys are fucking weirdos.
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Would you, would you still be, can we say that you're on the team?
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So, I said, would you still be playing football?
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Dude, it's, because I played in high school like for like two years as a girl on our team
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and she played wide receiver and then I got to the senior year and it's just like,
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I think right now where we're at, like in just how the game is, that like the physical
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aspect of it would be a lot for like some women.
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I know some women who are like extremely jacked and can bench press me, like there are some
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physically gifted like women like that, but I think football is just like, just a very
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I lost like my knee, I had a full knee surgery before the football and it's like, you know,
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So, that, in that aspect, I don't think I'd still be playing football.
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I know I could get into like every club I wanted to though, because I don't know, I feel
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like girls get into like places like that super easy, just because like I said, guys
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it's just all girls' attention, but like, like I said, with like playing sports and
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just being around guys a lot, like a girl can't walk past and the whole team turn and
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Does that weird you guys out whenever that happens?
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Just like, I don't know, like the constant attention like from guys, whether it's your
00:36:38.660
breast, your butt, you know, your face, like I feel like that would just weird me out.
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Like, just like, I don't know, especially being down here in Santa Barbara, like the
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foreigners, like they stare a lot, and I'm from like Northern California, and it's like
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one of those things, like what are you staring at?
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Like, I love people, but it's like, I don't know like why are you staring at me, but I
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feel like as a girl, like knowing someone's like watching you like walk away all the
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time, I feel like I'd be like watching to see who's there.
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Would it be uncomfortable for you because you're a straight man, but you're a straight man,
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then you become a woman, but you're still, would you be, see that it's like, cause like,
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See, that's the, maybe I'm, maybe I'm a lesbian.
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If I'm a lesbian, I definitely like wouldn't want guys' attention, but if I'm a straight
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woman tomorrow, I think there are some guys that are like attractive.
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I'd be like, yo, this nigga cool, like, I don't know.
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I mean, like Joe said, I feel like there'd definitely be the ups and downs of both sides,
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On the opposing team, and I mean, man, that's like my life.
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And like Joe said, if I woke up tomorrow, a woman, I mean, you just couldn't like be
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on a football team and like have the same experience, I guess I would say.
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You could get into places, you could do a lot of things that you couldn't do before.
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And like about the football thing, it's not mean to say like girls are like physically
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It's just like, I think too, with football, how it is today, there's like no opportunity
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Because like, I know like in my experience, like especially with a girl being on my team,
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she wanted to play that senior year, and they wouldn't really let her.
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So, it's just like, I think it's just, that's where the game is at too.
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It's like they won't, there's not a lot of opportunity in that aspect for girls to play.
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I think if I woke up a man tomorrow, the 21 years of me being a woman would definitely
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have helped or benefited me, because I feel like any different perspective helps you
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I feel like life would definitely be a bit easier, like you said, like having already
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Try to line up with the microphone just like straight on like this.
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I feel like life would be like a lot easier waking up tomorrow, like having that advantage
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of like already being a woman, but I feel like it'd be boring at the same time.
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Like I very much have a lot more fun being like a girl, like being able to like get ready,
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go out, pregnant with your girlies, go out for lunch, do all those fun things.
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I feel like as a guy, like life would just be like easier, but like not as worth it.
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I also wouldn't want to be spoiling anybody else than myself, so it's also that thing.
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Like I love spoiling myself, and I feel like as a guy, you can't like spoil yourself as
00:39:53.180
much and like still like have like a good image.
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Like if you have a girlfriend, you have to spoil her more.
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So your concern would be if you were a guy, you would no longer be the one getting spoiled.
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You would have to be the one doing the spoiling.
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Yes, because like now as a woman, like if I spoil you, it's like, whoa, but if like if
00:40:15.440
I'm a man, I spoil you, it's like, oh, you already expected that.
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Like I don't even get a little praise or anything.
00:40:29.240
How would you be, in what ways would you be spoiled?
00:40:35.180
Are you talking, the guy just pays for everything?
00:40:43.760
So like literally all of that, like pay for my dates, give me a massage after, then even
00:40:53.420
So you said all five of the love languages are your languages, but is that responsible?
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Like there's certain ones that I definitely like, like I'm a very touchy person.
00:41:13.840
So like my love language is like, I also love being touched.
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I feel like there's certain things that like, I definitely like giving more.
00:41:23.500
Like for example, like even though like love, like one of my top tier love languages is
00:41:31.300
Like I love giving massages, playing with your hair, doing that type of stuff.
00:41:34.880
So it's like, I have like rankings and like what I like giving and what I like receiving
00:41:45.000
Um, so you mentioned, I want to come back to that.
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I think just once again, sorry, I'm going to go safety wise.
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I think it would be easier as a man in terms of like, in terms of like going out, just
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Just as a woman, like, I feel like we're, you know, like you said, like guys kind of,
00:42:13.400
it makes you uncomfortable or whatever sometimes.
00:42:15.880
So just, I feel like it'd be safer, but also I feel like it'd be boring because, because
00:42:24.600
Because personally, it's like she said, it's really fun to, okay.
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But like me personally, like, I think it's, I don't know.
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Like, just like dressing up, having fun with your friends, going out.
00:42:42.300
It's easier going out, but it's not safer going out as a girl.
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It actually is safer to be, to go out as a woman.
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So men, men are more often the victims of violent crime than women.
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Just because you feel less safe doesn't mean in actuality you are less safe.
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The fact of the matter is if you, how many of you go out to Isla Vista?
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Most of the fights you're going to see are just some fucking random junk, drunk guy getting
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So from a pure physical safety standpoint, men are actually at a greater risk than women.
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There's a higher incidence rate of physical violence than there is of sexual assault.
00:43:36.600
That crime takes a lot more time to kind of enact, though.
00:43:41.120
Like, to rape a woman is going to take a lot more energy in trying to hide it up or cover
00:43:44.740
it or make sure you don't get caught than just getting in a drunk fight on Isla Vista.
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If we're talking statistically of just physical violence compared to sexual violence, yeah,
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We can talk about the discrepancies in terms of S.A., let's just call it.
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But the fact of the matter is, as a man, you are, in terms of your physical safety,
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you are at a greater risk than a woman walking around at night.
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And also the fact of the matter is, let's say you're a woman and you're just walking around
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If you get attacked by someone, let's say you get attacked by a man,
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If I'm walking around in Isla Vista and someone tries to attack me,
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ain't no strange dudes coming and protecting me.
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But if any one of you, one of the privileges women has,
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Other men, if they see a woman being attacked by a man,
00:45:10.740
So you are much safer just walking around at night than men are.
00:45:18.680
Also to an extent, because for example, if it's the guys,
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like the perpetrator, if it's his friends that are around,
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do you really think they're going to intervene and try to defend you?
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and I've gone with so many women to get kids, to get help.
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Like, and it takes how long for that to go through,
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and get yourself to report it, you know, like, I don't know.
00:45:58.560
Yeah, I mean, sexual assault's an egregious, terrible crime.
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But I mean, when we're speaking about safety, physical safety,
00:46:12.780
But what I'm saying is, is that two girls walking down the street
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the two guys are at a greater risk of some sort of violent crime occurring to them
00:46:26.120
And this is backed up by statistics from the FBI
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and other crime statistics at the state level and federally.
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like, a lot of things in my life come way easier
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And that's just, that's just how I feel about it.
00:47:07.000
But I think that being a girl and growing up as a girl,
00:47:10.480
it definitely would help me if I were to be a man
00:47:19.260
you need to surround yourself with a lot of other guys
00:47:22.680
who will support you in whatever you do in your life.
00:47:47.180
I think a lot of aspects of life, like, I feel like, cool.
00:47:50.280
But as far as, like, hitting on women, I don't know.
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because they, like, do put their ass on the line a lot more
00:48:12.880
But, like, yeah, I don't know how well I would thrive
00:48:29.620
because, first, I think being a girl is sexy and good.
00:48:50.320
like, I just, like, men are physically attractive and sexy.
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But then I would want to go back to being a woman.
00:50:14.560
so he doesn't have any interest in a relationship
00:50:50.600
But not because of like the anxiety and depression, right?
00:50:57.120
Not because of like the anxiety and depression, right?
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He probably is like a casual sex person or something.
00:51:07.520
I'm going to get the soup chat while we have it.
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Like, you're the biggest troll ever and I love it,
00:51:49.000
So, I guess just to riff off of Mike Davis here
00:51:53.440
we'll come back to the question I had just asked is,
01:38:43.920
people can be like like the whole Johnny Depp case
01:50:46.200
so you think so just to answer the question who has more access to hookup
01:50:52.740
culture you think it's men or it's women yeah I think it's men men have more
01:50:56.000
access to hookup culture okay guys do you want to come in on this
01:51:03.340
because I feel like if a girl is trying to like get with a guy
01:51:09.600
like just in general I feel like the guy would not say no compared to like a girl
01:51:17.260
like I feel it could be way harder for the guy to make that happen than a girl
01:51:25.100
because like she said there are so many guys are just fiending bro
01:51:29.300
it's it's kind of crazy especially playing on a football team like
01:51:34.620
you go to a party or anything guys are just super easy and it's
01:51:38.400
I don't know I don't I don't like it being that way like
01:51:41.020
but I think it's definitely girls have and they can girls can when it comes to
01:51:45.000
access they can say yes or no whenever they want
01:51:47.420
I think guys have to like work for if they want to hook up with a girl
01:51:52.860
so you think it it's easier for women to get laid
01:51:59.120
we'll go around the table again on that because that's a slightly different question
01:52:12.540
because they can decide I feel like women also have a lot more options
01:52:16.360
than guys would and it's probably easier for them to get those options as well
01:52:21.220
actually you know what I want to start over here
01:52:28.920
oh just is it easier for men or women to get laid
01:52:35.380
definitely women also I've heard on dating apps too
01:52:41.060
sorry they literally just swipe like right on everything
01:53:00.540
yeah I think guys kind of just swipe a bit more indiscriminately
01:53:18.460
Eric before you switch it over to the window tab
01:54:30.760
and I feel like I have definitely dated like a catch