Whatever Podcast - Dating Talk #36

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00:00:35.360 La donna è mobile, qual piuma il vento, muta d'accento e di pensiero.

00:00:48.220 La donna è mobile, qual piuma il vento, muta d'accento e di pensiero.

00:01:18.200 Every Tuesday and Thursday at 7 p.m. Pacific, I'm your host, Brian Atlas.

00:01:23.100 I'm joined by my co-host, Kiki.

00:01:26.520 She's a bit shy.

00:01:27.860 A few quick announcements before the show begins.

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00:02:39.820 Anyways, we're going to have the guests introduce themselves.

00:02:42.820 So please tell us your name, age, occupation, and your school major.

00:02:46.720 Go ahead.

00:02:47.420 Hi, I'm Emma.

00:02:48.940 I'm 22 years old.

00:02:51.040 I'm a recent UCSB graduate with a Bachelor in Communication.

00:02:55.840 Currently occupied in downtown Santa Barbara as a stylist.

00:03:00.520 Did you go to school for that?

00:03:02.400 No.

00:03:02.800 Because you said you graduated from UCSB.

00:03:04.500 With a Bachelor in Communication.

00:03:06.400 Okay.

00:03:07.120 Putting it to good use.

00:03:08.560 Clearly.

00:03:09.100 Yeah.

00:03:09.420 Clearly.

00:03:09.780 There you go.

00:03:10.220 Cool.

00:03:11.080 Hi, everyone.

00:03:11.920 Whatever.

00:03:13.960 I'm from Australia, and I moved to LA about four months ago.

00:03:18.800 I'm a best-selling author with nine books, and I've written two books about dating and ghosting.

00:03:24.360 Where'd they go?

00:03:25.540 And hashtag Insta lovers.

00:03:27.160 I'm a TV host, radio announcer, and mom, actually.

00:03:31.420 You said you wanted our age.

00:03:33.500 I'm going to be 50 in July.

00:03:35.960 What's up, Eric?

00:03:37.600 Mom, you're doing that thing again.

00:03:39.500 Sorry, guys.

00:03:41.260 Hold on.

00:03:41.540 We're having technical issues.

00:03:43.440 Can you not see anything?

00:03:44.980 Yeah, I can't.

00:03:45.900 Okay.

00:03:47.360 Continue on with the introductions, but guys, are your books available on Amazon?

00:03:52.660 Yeah, you can get my books on Amazon or my website.

00:03:55.820 But yeah, I was just in the middle of telling you my age, and then I thought that's what

00:03:58.780 made the technical thing, issue.

00:04:01.300 You almost turning 50 just sent electricity through the air and fried our, I'll fix it.

00:04:10.500 Can you just tell us about the books real quick?

00:04:13.260 Where'd They Go just went on an American tour, and I went on all the TV shows.

00:04:17.140 It's about ghosting, like ghosting culture.

00:04:19.240 Literally, people just disappearing into thin air.

00:04:22.060 There's stuff in there about when they resurface.

00:04:24.200 So sometimes they'll just watch your Instagram stories, and they'll orbit.

00:04:27.060 So I call that orbiting, just to let you know that they're still around.

00:04:32.040 And then, yeah, this one's about digital dating.

00:04:35.720 Hashtag Insta lovers.

00:04:38.600 We've stopped the show.

00:04:40.680 Go ahead, Sydney.

00:04:42.060 Hi, I'm Sydney.

00:04:44.120 I'm 21 years old.

00:04:45.680 I am from Nevada, and I'm out here for college.

00:04:48.440 I'm an acting major, so I'm studying acting, and I go back and forth between here and LA

00:04:54.020 a little bit for that.

00:04:55.060 But I think I touched all the bases.

00:04:58.780 My name is Jubilee.

00:04:59.880 I'm 19, and I'm not in school, but I am a nail tech.

00:05:04.760 I'm Savannah.

00:05:05.740 I'm 18.

00:05:06.560 I'm not in school, and I'm just working at a restaurant right now.

00:05:10.780 Brandon, age 40, tattoo artist, club promoter for the Spearman Rhino, Santa Barbara County,

00:05:16.660 and I just started a hauling business, LLC.

00:05:21.220 Hauling?

00:05:21.780 What does that tell me about that?

00:05:23.380 People that have access, trash, roofers, yard waste, stuff like that.

00:05:28.420 The truck will come, grab it, take it to the city landfill for a fee, back and forth, back

00:05:33.040 and forth type thing.

00:05:34.660 And that's your business you started?

00:05:36.020 I just started it.

00:05:36.880 I just got my LLC from the Secretary of State.

00:05:39.260 Actually, I just got my DUNS number for business yesterday.

00:05:42.260 Exciting.

00:05:42.620 And so now I'm just looking for a truck.

00:05:44.540 Yeah, I got my loan.

00:05:45.480 I'm looking for a truck.

00:05:46.840 Cool.

00:05:47.700 Congratulations.

00:05:48.100 Yeah, I'm stoked.

00:05:50.840 We will wait.

00:05:54.080 All right.

00:05:54.600 Sorry, guys.

00:05:55.080 We're having technical difficulties.

00:05:56.600 We can't even see the monitor.

00:05:58.120 This is the first time this has ever happened.

00:06:00.780 Chat, can you just say one in the chat if you can at least still see and hear us?

00:06:05.380 One in the chat if you can see and hear us.

00:06:14.740 Okay, chat.

00:06:15.680 Sorry.

00:06:16.000 It's going to take me one to two minutes to address the issue.

00:06:18.920 We are live.

00:06:20.920 Why don't I have everyone go around?

00:06:22.660 Tell me your current relationship status.

00:06:27.200 Longest relationship.

00:06:28.400 Current relationship status, longest relationship, and are you on any dating apps?

00:06:32.840 Do I start?

00:06:33.640 Yes.

00:06:33.920 I am currently single.

00:06:37.280 My longest relationship, 10 months, I think, and I am on the dating app Hinge.

00:06:48.240 Ah, the relationships app.

00:06:50.420 The one designed to be deleted.

00:06:52.880 Unfortunately, I know all too well all of the dating apps.

00:06:55.600 I know all of them.

00:06:56.140 I wrote a whole book about it.

00:06:58.040 Hinge is a great one.

00:06:59.020 I am actually on a couple of apps at the moment.

00:07:03.100 Happily single, dating, although I am looking for the love of my life.

00:07:07.620 I'm using The League and Raya, although I think that they're both not really working very well.

00:07:13.960 And, yeah, just kind of seeing someone at the moment.

00:07:19.820 That's it.

00:07:20.540 Oh, longest relationship was 13 years with one person.

00:07:23.620 And besides that, two months.

00:07:27.180 We definitely have us beat there.

00:07:28.860 I'm not sure if you guys can see me, so I'm Sydney again, but I'm single.

00:07:35.640 I'm not seeing anybody.

00:07:37.540 My longest relationship was six months in high school because I haven't really, like, dated that much.

00:07:43.380 And I'm currently on Tinder, but I don't use it too much.

00:07:49.460 I am currently single.

00:07:51.360 My longest relationship...

00:07:53.380 Am I possibly single?

00:07:56.320 Not sure.

00:07:57.660 And my longest relationship was about a year, and I'm on Bumble.

00:08:04.480 I'm single right now, and my longest relationship, I think, was, like, a year and a half.

00:08:09.620 And then I'm not on any dating apps right now.

00:08:13.380 Brandon, I'm 40, and I promote...

00:08:20.680 I'm sorry.

00:08:21.840 Let's back up.

00:08:23.220 Longest relationship, six years.

00:08:25.980 Currently single, and no dating apps.

00:08:33.520 I wonder what Kiki's been on.

00:08:36.080 Everything.

00:08:37.080 Look at her.

00:08:37.860 She's medicated.

00:08:38.420 All right, guys, we're having major fucking technical difficulties,

00:08:41.500 so I'm still trying to address it.

00:08:43.980 We kind of have something here, but we're having a lot of issues.

00:08:48.600 So I can't host and also try to handle the technical issues at the same time.

00:08:56.940 So, yeah, I don't know what to do, guys.

00:09:01.400 Restart.

00:09:01.840 You want restart?

00:09:04.620 I don't think that's really an option at this point.

00:09:08.400 Let's see.

00:09:16.340 It seems like all the guests are, like, able to see and all of that sort of thing,

00:09:20.280 so that's pretty cool.

00:09:21.080 Yeah, guys, I don't know if you guys can start it.

00:09:35.580 You guys can't see what's going on on your end, but it's, like, scuffed on our monitor.

00:09:40.520 Eric, it's scuffed on his monitor, so, yeah.

00:09:44.080 It looks fine from here.

00:09:47.000 No, well, they don't see an issue, but there's an issue on our end, so, yeah.

00:09:55.360 Do you want us to just banter for a bit while you?

00:09:57.680 Yeah, if you guys can.

00:09:58.940 Okay, I'll go over.

00:10:00.220 I'll take over.

00:10:00.900 I'm a little bossy, so I can come in handy with that.

00:10:04.040 So.

00:10:04.280 Go, Sydney.

00:10:04.780 All right, we'll start this way down.

00:10:07.100 What was one of your, like, worst Tinder or, like, dating app experience?

00:10:11.040 Or best, I mean, I'm out in Santa Barbara because I matched with a guy on Tinder,

00:10:14.840 and now I'm, like, I hit it off with him, and so, okay.

00:10:19.700 So, for me, I ended up, so I'm from Reno, Nevada, which is, like, near Tahoe,

00:10:24.620 and I ended up matching with a guy on Tinder, and we went on a date in Reno,

00:10:29.100 and just, like, hit it off.

00:10:31.140 He's, like, oh, like, I'm not looking for anything.

00:10:33.000 Like, I like you, but I leave for school out in Santa Barbara in, like, two weeks.

00:10:38.080 So we were just friends, then I came out, and I visited him here as a friend.

00:10:41.780 And then I, like, fell in love with it, and a year later, I live here.

00:10:45.280 So I'm on, I'm in Santa Barbara, like, living, like.

00:10:48.460 What happened to him?

00:10:49.600 We're still friends.

00:10:51.200 We're honestly still friends, but it's funny because, like,

00:10:53.300 I came out to live in Santa Barbara, and then we just swapped.

00:10:55.860 So now he lives in Reno.

00:10:58.200 No way.

00:10:58.760 Yeah, which is kind of funny.

00:11:00.060 So, but, like, I made it out to Santa Barbara because of Tinder.

00:11:03.920 I've had, like, really good, like, Tinder experiences, which is, like, crazy.

00:11:07.780 But, I mean, in my career path being acting, it's all about, like, connections and stuff.

00:11:11.960 So, like, the more people you meet, the better you go.

00:11:13.960 Right.

00:11:14.740 Emma, your turn.

00:11:16.140 What's one of your, like, craziest or, like, best dating app experiences?

00:11:19.820 I guess, like, craziest in terms of, like, unpredict, like, spontaneity is I had been

00:11:29.340 talking to a guy on Hinge for, like, less than 24 hours.

00:11:33.020 There was definitely some flirty chats going on, but nothing serious.

00:11:37.060 And then that night, he booked me a flight to come see him in L.A.

00:11:42.980 So, he flew me out, coach, nothing crazy.

00:11:46.340 And when I got there, I was, like, texting him, like, I landed, like, is the car going

00:11:53.720 to come pick me up and take me to your place or the hotel or what's going on?

00:11:57.760 And basically, he just wasn't responding.

00:12:02.020 So, I ended up just going out in L.A. by myself.

00:12:06.440 And I actually had the best night.

00:12:09.400 I went to a club, and I met a bunch of people, and I ended up just partying with them.

00:12:14.600 And then the next day, he texted me, like, sorry, I got too messed up.

00:12:19.460 Let's try, let's, like, try for brunch in L.A.

00:12:22.760 And I was, like, I'm out of here, buddy, but thanks for the flight.

00:12:27.180 Wait, so he flew you out to L.A.

00:12:30.860 From where?

00:12:32.420 Santa Barbara, which is a private airport.

00:12:34.700 So, I flew from this tiny little airport, Santa Barbara, to LAX.

00:12:38.760 So, wait, you flew private?

00:12:42.240 Santa Barbara's not a private airport.

00:12:43.980 No, it's just a really small, small airport.

00:12:46.420 We live here.

00:12:47.640 We know.

00:12:50.540 Yeah, so it was just, like, a domestic flight, like, literally from Santa Barbara to L.A.,

00:12:54.360 like, an hour and a half flight.

00:12:55.720 But he paid for it.

00:12:56.840 Yeah.

00:12:57.580 And then he was a no-show.

00:12:59.560 So, yeah, I guess he was, you know, either drunk, asleep, something, I don't know.

00:13:05.400 But I didn't get a text until, like, 3 or 4 a.m.

00:13:08.260 And I was out at that point.

00:13:09.540 I was at Poppy and I get a text, like, oh, sorry, like, I just, like, saw this.

00:13:14.120 Like, where are you at now?

00:13:16.180 I was, like, out.

00:13:16.560 That's a yikes.

00:13:17.720 Yeah.

00:13:17.900 That's a yikes.

00:13:18.420 So, did you end up meeting up with him eventually or not?

00:13:20.580 No.

00:13:21.040 But I had such a fun night and I actually met two of my really good girlfriends that I'm

00:13:25.080 still friends with now that are from L.A.

00:13:27.960 And we still see each other and I still see them in L.A.

00:13:30.820 So.

00:13:31.980 So, he paid for the, it's weird that he paid for a flight instead of just, do you have a car?

00:13:39.180 No, I don't drive.

00:13:40.540 You don't?

00:13:40.920 Why?

00:13:42.320 Many reasons.

00:13:43.600 What are the, DUI?

00:13:45.600 Do I what?

00:13:46.820 A DUI.

00:13:47.520 Do you have a DUI?

00:13:47.980 Oh, no.

00:13:48.420 DUI conviction.

00:13:49.320 I mean, for one, when I, I used to, I have my driver's license, which I shouldn't, but

00:13:53.860 when I did drive, back when I had a car, like, in high school, one of my classic, like,

00:13:59.340 Emma examples of how I would act on the road, I used to reverse on the freeway when I would

00:14:06.040 miss my exit.

00:14:07.640 That's literally in the permit test of what not to do.

00:14:10.840 I didn't read it.

00:14:11.940 How did you pass?

00:14:13.080 I don't know.

00:14:13.740 Oh, my God.

00:14:14.120 But I did.

00:14:14.800 With flying colors, I barely made any mistakes.

00:14:17.460 Clearly, I didn't go.

00:14:17.980 They didn't go through.

00:14:18.300 And they gave me my driver's license and a car, but then I got taken away.

00:14:22.720 Yikes.

00:14:24.040 Wait, so your driver's license is revoked?

00:14:26.260 No, my car got taken away, but I still got my driver's license.

00:14:29.640 Maybe it's good you're not on the road, babe.

00:14:31.360 Exactly.

00:14:32.040 That's why I think it's irresponsible for me to have a car.

00:14:35.460 Wow.

00:14:36.660 Yeah.

00:14:36.980 Eric, is the audio muted?

00:14:40.040 Can you click that button on the keyboard?

00:14:41.760 Because I'm not getting any audio from my soundboard.

00:14:45.400 I'm getting it.

00:14:46.780 You're hearing this?

00:14:47.760 Yeah, I'm hearing it.

00:14:49.600 Oh.

00:14:52.560 Yeah, we're not getting audio either.

00:14:54.080 Sorry, guys.

00:14:54.520 We've had some technical, been having technical difficulties on our end.

00:14:59.300 I've addressed it.

00:15:00.760 Everything's working now, but we're still having some audio issues.

00:15:03.600 I'm going to have to go check on that really quick.

00:15:06.160 But yeah, so that's quite interesting that you, one, you don't drive because you reverse

00:15:11.680 on that.

00:15:12.720 Yeah, I guess I fit the stereotypes.

00:15:14.580 So why instead, why not just get off on the next exit?

00:15:19.440 That's what the, oh, so I didn't realize.

00:15:21.760 That's what the police officer told you.

00:15:22.940 No, that is what the person in the passenger seat told me was like, well, first of all,

00:15:26.700 they were, after they were done screaming, they were like, well, you realize that this

00:15:30.160 is like not how you drive.

00:15:32.140 And I was like, I don't know.

00:15:33.140 I just kind of make my own rules.

00:15:34.700 It's, I kind of just like, I get behind the wheel and I disassociate.

00:15:39.000 That's a yikes.

00:15:39.940 Yeah.

00:15:40.840 Do you, in what other scenarios do you disassociate?

00:15:44.120 Just driving.

00:15:44.940 I think that's, okay, well, because it's so important to be focused as a driver.

00:15:49.360 And that's where I just like, la, la, la, go on my phone, get from point A to point B

00:15:53.600 and I don't remember me out.

00:15:54.780 You know, you, you can't even get on your phone when you drive.

00:15:57.140 You hold it.

00:15:57.720 There's cameras everywhere in Australia, just looking down at you.

00:16:00.620 Yeah.

00:16:00.960 See, for me, driving was like the perfect time to go on my phone.

00:16:04.700 Have you ever committed the crime of vehicular manslaughter?

00:16:07.660 No, I have not.

00:16:08.720 And I do not condone it.

00:16:10.320 And I do not condone.

00:16:11.120 You don't condone vehicular manslaughter.

00:16:12.720 I do not condone vehicular manslaughter, nor do I condone texting and jiving.

00:16:17.400 Okay.

00:16:17.700 But I'm going to be, I'm going to come clean and say I have, I have texted and jive.

00:16:21.800 That's good that you don't condone vehicular manslaughter.

00:16:23.940 No, yeah, I would say I'm pretty start, startly against it.

00:16:27.620 Okay, cool, cool.

00:16:28.700 So I apologize to the panel.

00:16:31.220 I missed your relationship status.

00:16:33.460 So who's single?

00:16:34.280 Just a show of hands real quick.

00:16:35.380 Who's single?

00:16:36.900 Everybody.

00:16:37.560 I mean, I'm sort of seeing someone, but I'm single.

00:16:39.520 You're single until there's a girlfriend question.

00:16:44.420 Wait, you're, repeat that?

00:16:46.340 I was just saying you're single until there's a girlfriend question.

00:16:49.160 No, you're single until there's a boyfriend question.

00:16:51.120 Yeah, both.

00:16:51.600 Yeah.

00:16:52.000 The girl, the girl should initiate that conversation.

00:16:54.180 Both.

00:16:54.240 I mean, either works, but like you're single unless, yeah.

00:16:57.780 Okay.

00:16:58.240 Unless clarified.

00:16:59.600 It's kind of interesting to me though, that you can be single and like also have been sleeping

00:17:03.600 with multiple people at the same time.

00:17:06.340 That's kind of strange.

00:17:08.020 Mike Davis is back.

00:17:09.600 Hey, Mike Davis, what's up, man?

00:17:11.000 Here, let me get this super chat really quick.

00:17:14.160 And by the way, Michael Trilstein, I don't know if you're still in the chat, but thank

00:17:17.260 you for the five gifted memberships before the show started, man.

00:17:20.840 Much appreciated.

00:17:22.800 All right.

00:17:25.320 By the way, everyone's Instagrams are in the description.

00:17:28.680 Show them some love.

00:17:29.440 Give them a follow.

00:17:30.680 Yeah, sorry, guys.

00:17:31.420 I was super flustered there.

00:17:32.460 We've never had that happen before.

00:17:35.740 Just guys, don't buy, don't buy a Dell.

00:17:39.160 Don't buy a Dell.

00:17:40.500 It's dog shit, dog tier computer.

00:17:42.860 Okay.

00:17:43.360 So we're going to get into our first topic here.

00:17:49.000 And this is sort of related to your book.

00:17:51.500 Right.

00:17:52.060 So you wrote a book, one of, one of which is about ghosting.

00:17:55.540 Which one's that?

00:17:56.440 Which book is that?

00:17:57.300 Where'd they go?

00:17:58.260 Did they die?

00:17:58.960 We'll never know.

00:18:00.060 It just vanished.

00:18:01.280 Okay.

00:18:01.600 We're going to talk about ghosting here in just a second.

00:18:04.520 Let me get the soup chat while we have it pulled up.

00:18:06.120 Eric, can you just pull that back up real quick?

00:18:08.740 All right.

00:18:09.180 So Mike Davis with the $10 soup chat.

00:18:11.280 I'm in a bad mood.

00:18:12.040 Some bitch stole out my register today.

00:18:14.100 I'm going death con three on women today.

00:18:16.880 Putting this pack on notice.

00:18:18.320 And if any of them step out of line, bringing out the flamethrower.

00:18:21.580 Eric, can you pull up the Burger King?

00:18:26.880 Oh, Jesus.

00:18:31.700 Wait, that's the button?

00:18:35.800 Did you press six again?

00:18:37.840 Okay.

00:18:38.200 Go back.

00:18:38.620 Go back.

00:18:39.220 All right, guys.

00:18:39.900 OBS is fucking up, too.

00:18:41.240 Sorry, dudes.

00:18:41.760 Guys, so, okay, I need to step up to, guys, sorry, the show's going to be a little janky

00:18:50.040 today.

00:18:50.320 I need to get up and deal with the technical issues that we're having.

00:18:55.260 But Mike Davis, thank you for the soup chat.

00:18:57.240 Let me pull that up once more and just finish this off.

00:19:00.560 So, yeah, dude, A, Mike Davis, if it's any consolation, I had three girls flake on me

00:19:04.660 last minute today to come on the show.

00:19:06.540 So it is what it is.

00:19:07.880 Did you see where the-

00:19:08.700 Mike Davis.

00:19:09.340 Should we?

00:19:09.720 Let's bring the-

00:19:10.500 Mike Davis, for sure.

00:19:11.600 Yeah.

00:19:12.840 Can we lower her arm, too?

00:19:15.720 We'll put this.

00:19:17.240 We'll put this here.

00:19:18.080 Actually, can you-

00:19:18.760 Wait.

00:19:19.240 There he is.

00:19:20.740 Yeah.

00:19:22.400 Handsome fella.

00:19:23.920 Same picture.

00:19:24.920 Yeah.

00:19:25.080 All right.

00:19:26.000 He's part of the panel.

00:19:27.620 All right.

00:19:27.860 Thank you, Mike Davis, for the $10 soup chat, man.

00:19:30.400 Much appreciated.

00:19:31.620 Yeah, I want you to bring it, dude.

00:19:32.800 Death Con 3.

00:19:35.040 All right.

00:19:36.480 By the way, just a reminder, guys, all soup chats will be read.

00:19:40.040 Well, sorry.

00:19:40.820 All soup chats will be displayed, $10 and up to be read and answered by either me or the

00:19:46.440 panel.

00:19:47.620 So, ghosting.

00:19:50.540 You wrote a book on it.

00:19:51.860 You're the expert.

00:19:52.860 Ah, yeah.

00:19:53.880 Unfortunately.

00:19:54.980 So, who do you guys think ghosts more, men or women?

00:19:59.980 You go first.

00:20:00.600 Go ahead.

00:20:01.980 Men.

00:20:03.740 Oh, no.

00:20:04.300 It's everybody, and it doesn't just happen on dating.

00:20:06.380 It happens in business and friendship, too.

00:20:09.660 Depends on the situation, yeah.

00:20:12.280 I-

00:20:12.780 But you're not leaning in any-

00:20:15.140 Like, I-

00:20:16.180 I probably ghost more, personally.

00:20:23.420 Okay.

00:20:24.120 I agree.

00:20:24.600 I tend to ghost quite often.

00:20:26.680 Okay.

00:20:27.020 Yeah, I agree with them.

00:20:28.680 I ghost a lot more than the guys I talk to.

00:20:31.380 Hmm.

00:20:32.040 Brandon, thoughts?

00:20:33.100 I definitely ghost, and I definitely have been ghosted, so it goes both ways.

00:20:38.600 Yeah.

00:20:38.880 Hmm.

00:20:39.460 Hmm.

00:20:39.720 Okay.

00:20:42.600 What about you?

00:20:44.640 He doesn't.

00:20:46.260 I would say, I don't ghost.

00:20:49.400 Ever.

00:20:50.180 I-

00:20:50.480 No, I have.

00:20:51.320 Hmm.

00:20:51.860 But it's-

00:20:52.440 I-

00:20:52.640 It's rare.

00:20:54.520 When you did, was it-

00:20:56.140 She was crazy.

00:20:57.040 Okay.

00:20:58.060 Crazy.

00:20:59.600 Super weird.

00:21:00.380 So, she deserved it, because you were feeling unsafe.

00:21:04.900 To a degree.

00:21:06.000 Okay.

00:21:06.400 To a degree, but she's just, like, being ridiculous.

00:21:08.480 She wouldn't take no for an answer.

00:21:10.160 Like, I tried to do a proper, like, I'm not interested.

00:21:12.860 Mm-hmm.

00:21:13.300 But she just was way too persistent with it, and then-

00:21:16.680 I ghosted an Australian.

00:21:18.440 Mm.

00:21:19.260 You ghosted a what?

00:21:20.360 An Australian.

00:21:21.480 How dare you, sir?

00:21:24.200 I think there's times when ghosting's good.

00:21:26.100 There's a chapter in my book about that, and that's when you're feeling unsafe or disrespected.

00:21:29.920 For sure, you can ghost.

00:21:32.140 Yeah, I definitely think that there's circumstances and situations where it's justified.

00:21:36.360 But I'd say, probably most of the time, it's just people being cowardly.

00:21:42.660 Right.

00:21:43.220 And disrespectful.

00:21:44.640 Well, they just don't know how to have a sweaty palm conversation, or they're not picking up on the yellow and orange flags.

00:21:49.400 Right.

00:21:50.120 Yeah.

00:21:50.560 Good point.

00:21:51.260 Good point.

00:21:52.860 So, you know, I think that ghosting is a bit proportional to your level of narcissism.

00:22:01.860 Okay?

00:22:03.960 Because narcissism's a whole other thing.

00:22:06.360 That is a whole other thing.

00:22:07.200 It's really important not to just label somebody that, unless you actually have, you know, a psychologist.

00:22:14.440 Diagnose them with that label.

00:22:16.040 There are narcissistic traits, and some people can be, you know, narcissistic in their behavior, but it doesn't mean they're narcissists.

00:22:25.100 Why don't we do this, though, while I address the technical issues, why don't you tell us, give us a little plot synopsis, cliff notes on your book about ghosting.

00:22:35.180 Okay.

00:22:35.660 Well, basically, it's something that either, as you can see, everybody has either done or had it done to them.

00:22:41.860 Has anybody been ghosted?

00:22:43.860 Yeah?

00:22:44.300 Everyone?

00:22:44.980 Yes.

00:22:45.600 You have.

00:22:46.100 What happened?

00:22:46.580 I mean, I'm never really too forward.

00:22:49.820 I'm pretty much a gentleman if I get asked somebody, and I'm interested in them, and if they're not receptive to it, then, you know, I'm not going to sit there and ask again.

00:22:59.120 You know what I'm saying?

00:22:59.800 If they're sweet and nice, and they're maybe just, you know, who's, God, what's up with all these, your eye and all this shit, and I'm looking at your profile, like, ah, you know what I'm saying?

00:23:09.880 But when people get to know me, when they get to talk to me, it's like, oh, like, cool.

00:23:14.240 Nice.

00:23:14.680 You know, even if it's just for good friendship, you know what I'm saying?

00:23:16.700 I'm picky with the people I bring into my world.

00:23:19.480 Yeah.

00:23:19.660 So if you don't strike me as genuine.

00:23:21.740 Yes.

00:23:22.240 Then we're not going to go too far.

00:23:24.740 Right.

00:23:25.080 It's, the conversation's going to go to a certain point to where it's like, I'm going to start saying things that the person's not going to appreciate, however it may be constructive, or a positive opinion in my, in my perspective.

00:23:38.020 But, I mean.

00:23:40.620 And you're saying it's because you feel like you get judged because of how you look.

00:23:43.720 I mean, I don't really care.

00:23:44.780 I mean, I didn't do all this in fear of being judged.

00:23:46.840 I don't really care.

00:23:47.700 Yeah.

00:23:47.800 But it's, like I said, the people I bring into my world, you know, yeah, I mean, the only people I've ever ghosted were people that were just, you could tell they're psycho.

00:23:59.900 Right.

00:24:00.280 You could tell they're just like, whoa, like, er, like, we're already talking about all this.

00:24:03.820 We haven't even met or nothing, and you're getting into, you know, what your ex did to you and why you're all messed up in the head.

00:24:10.480 Like, I feel bad for you, girl.

00:24:11.780 Rule number one, don't talk about your ex on dates, right?

00:24:14.500 Right.

00:24:14.820 That or, you know, just don't tell people you never met personal things.

00:24:18.260 It's just going to turn off.

00:24:19.780 But what you said, though, and girls, did you hear, you said, because I'm a gentleman.

00:24:23.880 I mean, this is the whole thing, is that when people decide to be gentlemen and have quality communication, you'll usually just say, hey, I'm not feeling it or whatever.

00:24:32.640 The only time you'll ghost is when they're crazy, as you say.

00:24:35.780 If they get psycho and they're just, or they call me like, whoa, like, you know, if I didn't respond within 10 minutes and I'm getting a phone call from them, it's like, you know, how do I, I'm done off top.

00:24:49.020 Yeah.

00:24:49.120 But how do I, how do I do that in a nice way without having to waste more of my time thumbing through texts and shit like that?

00:24:54.500 It's not my thing.

00:24:55.060 But for the, like, average person, people are getting ghosted through business, through friendships, through dating, right?

00:25:01.460 And it can be really haunting, like, pardon the pun, if you don't deal with that disappearance.

00:25:06.540 Like, so many people are actually describing it as worse than death who do get ghosted.

00:25:10.920 Worse than death?

00:25:11.760 Yes, because, Brian, at least with death, some of my readers are like, you know, thank you for writing this because at least when somebody dies, you know they're gone.

00:25:20.600 You can grieve it properly.

00:25:21.720 But with ghosting, when somebody ghosts you, they actually, you don't know if they're still around, what actually happened, how do I get closure?

00:25:29.440 And I teach you to go, well, do we actually care?

00:25:31.900 Because clearly you dodged a bullet.

00:25:33.360 You don't want to be with somebody that doesn't know how to communicate, right?

00:25:37.680 But so many people say that it really messes with their self-esteem and their confidence.

00:25:42.400 Maybe they got ghosted because they compared it to death.

00:25:45.020 Wait, worse, worse than death, like, worse than death as in you dying or someone you know dying?

00:25:51.300 Well, they're not just able to put closure to that interaction that, at least when they're saying, and this is what the reader said, one reader said, that when that person died, they knew that they were gone and they could grieve it.

00:26:03.460 But with the person that ghosted them, they really never had the closure because they don't know whether they're still around, like what actually happened.

00:26:10.860 I think that's the issue.

00:26:11.200 I think I'd rather, go ahead.

00:26:12.680 No, sorry, I think that's the issue with the whole semantics in the context of ghosting is that we project so much expectation on this person that may even be like a parasocial relationship, like someone we've messaged on a dating app a couple times.

00:26:26.460 And I think that burden is, like, heavy to carry.

00:26:30.040 I understand what you're saying.

00:26:31.180 Like, yes, it's a very extreme metaphor, but, like, I think people project so much onto getting ghosted and, like, what that means, like, for them and for that person.

00:26:45.020 For me, I've never, like, personally, I don't think I've been in a situation where I've been ghosted, so to say.

00:26:52.820 I think the issue is that.

00:26:54.820 You kind of just told us an example where you got ghosted.

00:26:58.320 Well, they texted me back, like, five hours later.

00:27:01.820 Okay.

00:27:02.420 I've never had someone, like, proverbially disappear from my life.

00:27:06.640 And you never heard from them again?

00:27:07.260 And never heard from them again, no.

00:27:09.000 I think it's just a matter of that there's very telling signs and there's pretty glaring cases.

00:27:15.020 Cues of people that kind of will come at you with this angle of pursue and withdraw.

00:27:20.620 So a lot of the times, like, guys will, you know, show you affection or, you know, communicate with you or give you this just enough so that you are able to project, oh, you know, a certain amount of potential with them.

00:27:35.660 And then I think when that potential or that expectation isn't met, then we on the receiving end will be devastated and almost, like, to the point where it's, like, not, it's so out of scale and it's so blown out of proportion.

00:27:52.400 The level of emotional investment that I think a lot of girls, women put into these, like, ghosting experiences where it's, like, I think from the jump, I can tell if someone's coming in with that angle of pursue and withdraw.

00:28:06.640 I can tell if someone's going to, like, the tricks are pretty easy.

00:28:10.580 They're pretty elementary.

00:28:11.760 They're pretty, like, you know, they think they might be able to pull one over on you, but I think it's just a matter of.

00:28:18.420 In the context of ghosting, what do you mean?

00:28:20.300 In the context of, like, because the whole thing about why ghosting has such an impact, I think, on so many people is that I thought I had potential with someone.

00:28:29.040 I thought I had something with someone.

00:28:31.920 Mike Davis, we're laughing at your chat.

00:28:33.580 We'll pull it up in a sec.

00:28:34.680 Go ahead.

00:28:34.880 I think I had this something with someone and then when that's not met by them, when that's why I'm saying I think that the responsibility is on both people, the person that got ghosted and the person that's doing the ghosting.

00:28:48.620 I don't think we should necessarily, like, villainize this person that's doing the ghosting because a lot of the time, the person that's being ghosted is overburdening or has unrealistic expectations.

00:29:00.460 So I think expectation is kind of the key concept.

00:29:05.680 We do got to keep in mind that this is an artificial world that we are communicating in and speaking from, you know, someone born in the early 80s.

00:29:16.000 Now, in 2022, the generations after, they don't really understand.

00:29:24.460 They do understand, but they, you know, being born into social media, born into the cell phone, there's no real time to take into account, like, what should you really get emotional over and what should you not get emotional over.

00:29:38.620 So if the interaction is not face-to-face and you didn't fall in love with this person face-to-face or you didn't garnish respect for this person face-to-face, how can you feel disrespected after a certain point of, oh, you fucker, but, like, to, like, you know, adopt misery over it?

00:29:58.100 This person had been in a six-week relationship.

00:30:00.320 They had met each other's friends and all of those things.

00:30:03.120 And just to quantify it all, I don't agree that that person should feel that way.

00:30:07.500 That's why I wrote the book.

00:30:08.700 There's 50 ways to deal with disappearance and to realize that you're so much better off and get the closure on your own.

00:30:14.480 But as you say, we're in a world now where we feel like we're having a relationship via text, via dating apps, and we're actually not.

00:30:22.520 It's not real, right?

00:30:23.820 I mean, it's not, and I just want to, you know, ask a question for the panel if I could.

00:30:29.080 Who agrees that we live in America currently in a failed society?

00:30:35.880 I just moved here, so I don't think so.

00:30:38.080 It's pretty failed.

00:30:39.240 I'll raise my hand to that, I reckon.

00:30:40.860 Wait, so I just want to go back to the whole, so can you just repeat that it's ghosting is, for some people, is what?

00:30:49.220 Worse than death?

00:30:50.340 One reader told me that they felt that way.

00:30:53.480 Okay, a singular reader.

00:30:54.780 Yeah.

00:30:54.920 Okay, okay, thank you for clarifying.

00:30:56.360 Because I was about to say, like, I think I'd rather get ghosted than have someone I know die.

00:31:03.100 But we don't understand her situation.

00:31:05.340 She may have, as I said, you know, been in a relationship and felt like she was really connected to that person.

00:31:10.520 And that's why it felt like that, for her, you know.

00:31:13.620 But I'm suggesting that we shouldn't feel that way, that we should count our blessings.

00:31:18.600 I think if you're dating someone and they cheat on you, then you should ghost them.

00:31:23.940 Oh, yeah.

00:31:24.320 That's a good reason to ghost.

00:31:25.520 I think that'd be, like, a justified ghost.

00:31:27.940 Even if you've been dating for, like, three years.

00:31:30.020 All right.

00:31:30.700 Goodbye.

00:31:31.460 That's, like, the most gangster way.

00:31:33.480 There's nothing else to say?

00:31:34.320 Yeah, it's not even, like, oh, let me, what's the word, like?

00:31:40.160 Explain or justify?

00:31:41.540 Yeah, I don't want to have an argument with you.

00:31:43.340 I don't want to have a big blow-up fight with you.

00:31:46.120 I'm just going to fucking ghost you.

00:31:47.780 It's a wrap.

00:31:48.620 Yeah.

00:31:48.760 You can think why, you can wonder why I ghosted you, why you've been together for three years.

00:31:55.620 But, yeah, I think that'd be a scenario where you could ghost.

00:31:58.520 You should have done that.

00:32:00.160 Yeah, what happened with you?

00:32:01.460 What was the story with you?

00:32:02.480 Oh, I was dating this guy for about five months.

00:32:05.420 There's a whole story of how I found out he was cheating.

00:32:07.720 He came to surprise me for a day after he moved for, like, a month.

00:32:11.700 And he left my house in the middle of the night.

00:32:14.180 And I had his location.

00:32:15.440 And I went there.

00:32:16.020 And I heard him having sex with another girl from the sidewalk.

00:32:19.440 Nice.

00:32:20.220 Good times.

00:32:20.760 I heard.

00:32:22.020 Yikes.

00:32:23.160 Oh, my God.

00:32:24.420 Did you wait?

00:32:25.340 So.

00:32:25.800 I waited there.

00:32:26.360 Did you see him, like, through the window?

00:32:28.460 No, I heard it.

00:32:29.300 I heard it.

00:32:29.940 You heard the audible noises.

00:32:31.260 Yeah.

00:32:31.680 Did the rhythm match up with, like, the rhythm with you?

00:32:35.300 You know, you said you heard the, like, was that his pace?

00:32:39.060 Like, was that.

00:32:39.720 I don't know.

00:32:40.320 Because it could have been somebody else.

00:32:40.780 Maybe it's my name.

00:32:41.560 No, no.

00:32:41.860 I waited after, like, he walked out of the house.

00:32:45.200 But, like, you didn't see him.

00:32:47.620 And without confirming, like, if it was.

00:32:49.680 Oh, no, he told me he did.

00:32:50.640 Was it?

00:32:50.960 Oh, okay.

00:32:52.020 I got confirmation.

00:32:53.240 I got confirmation.

00:32:53.540 That's when she should have died.

00:32:54.480 If the pumps per minute were, like.

00:32:56.540 He didn't have sex with me.

00:32:58.240 If it was off, like, it could have been someone else.

00:33:01.260 Oh, I don't know.

00:33:01.980 I think you should give him a second chance.

00:33:03.440 I did.

00:33:03.920 Jubilee.

00:33:04.360 Oh.

00:33:04.540 He cheated on me again.

00:33:06.900 Wow.

00:33:07.180 Oh, Jubilee.

00:33:08.180 Wait, okay, okay.

00:33:09.380 All right.

00:33:09.820 So, she should have ghosted him is her point.

00:33:12.220 I did for a little bit.

00:33:13.140 Okay.

00:33:13.560 And then, why did you take him back?

00:33:15.460 Were you dickmatized?

00:33:17.120 No.

00:33:17.880 We didn't have, we didn't really have sex.

00:33:19.320 Okay, it's a whole thing.

00:33:20.020 You didn't have, wait, hold on.

00:33:21.000 You didn't have sex with him.

00:33:22.400 But he was sleeping with someone else.

00:33:25.020 Wait, he didn't want to fuck you or you didn't want to fuck him?

00:33:27.720 Or it was a dead bedroom?

00:33:28.920 Well, he said he was gay at the end of our relationship.

00:33:31.820 And then, you caught him cheating, sleeping with another woman.

00:33:35.300 Do you have a penis?

00:33:37.420 I don't think so.

00:33:37.980 Because, I mean, you said he's gay, right?

00:33:39.860 I don't think I do.

00:33:41.900 He could be bi.

00:33:42.980 He told me he was, and then, like, after we watched Glee together, he was like, I'm gay.

00:33:46.520 You watched what film?

00:33:47.540 Glee.

00:33:47.820 Glee.

00:33:53.420 He's not your person.

00:33:56.500 Oh, my God.

00:33:57.460 He told me, because, okay, he told me he was bi when we first started dating.

00:34:01.600 He's like, if we watch, and then we broke up in July a few months before that, we started

00:34:07.220 watching Glee.

00:34:07.800 And he's like, hey, after we watch Glee, I think I'm going to be fully gay.

00:34:10.420 Yeah.

00:34:10.980 And I thought he was joking.

00:34:12.500 But after we finished it, he's like, I'm gay.

00:34:14.160 And I was like.

00:34:14.540 Honestly, Glee was a sexual awakening for me, too.

00:34:17.180 I get it.

00:34:18.240 Wow.

00:34:24.740 No, okay, okay.

00:34:25.560 I think he told me he was gay, but he cheated on me with women the entire time.

00:34:29.320 He was so gay.

00:34:30.180 Babe, he's not gay.

00:34:30.800 That's the gayest man I've ever heard.

00:34:33.300 He's a liar.

00:34:34.160 He's so gay, he cheated on you with other women.

00:34:36.600 I know.

00:34:37.360 Wow.

00:34:37.940 Just to prove it to himself, right?

00:34:40.060 Goddamn.

00:34:40.660 Yeah.

00:34:41.780 That's a sad thing.

00:34:45.220 Jubilee.

00:34:46.620 He's the one living at my mom's house.

00:34:48.420 He lives with your mom?

00:34:50.300 We've talked about this before.

00:34:51.860 It's been a while, though.

00:34:52.700 You've got to refresh the viewers.

00:34:54.200 Yeah, he lives at my mom's house.

00:34:56.000 Well, because he told me he was gay.

00:34:57.480 I was like, okay, well, we ended on good terms.

00:34:59.920 And then, yeah, and he lives at my mom's house.

00:35:03.700 Has your mom hooked up with him?

00:35:06.120 In a different state?

00:35:06.940 Yeah, in Colorado.

00:35:08.060 Why does he live with your mom?

00:35:09.520 Because we agreed on that one.

00:35:11.160 Because he lived with me.

00:35:11.880 We moved there together.

00:35:12.940 Is your mom single?

00:35:13.860 Is she hot?

00:35:14.800 Is she hot?

00:35:15.560 My mom's not single.

00:35:16.240 Well, my mom has a husband.

00:35:17.640 I think they're happily married.

00:35:19.560 Huh?

00:35:22.500 No, I don't think they hooked up.

00:35:24.280 I hope not.

00:35:26.640 No, because when he told me he was gay, I was like, okay, we moved to Colorado.

00:35:31.100 And he was like, oh, like, we established that he was gay or whatever, quote, unquote, whatever.

00:35:36.060 And I was like, okay, well, I can't live with you anymore.

00:35:38.580 So he drove me all the way back here with my dog.

00:35:42.060 And then he flew back to Colorado.

00:35:43.840 And then we kind of went back and forth on being friends and being not.

00:35:47.120 And now I haven't talked to him in a bit.

00:35:51.080 Speaking of.

00:35:51.880 Now I can't go see my mom.

00:35:53.740 Jeez.

00:35:54.480 He's currently living.

00:35:55.740 He's currently there right now.

00:35:56.780 With your mom.

00:35:57.640 Well, like, at my mom's house.

00:35:59.500 Like, they don't.

00:36:00.100 Why?

00:36:01.400 Because he's homeless.

00:36:03.300 And he's a drug addict.

00:36:04.620 And so if he moved back here, he would have died.

00:36:06.720 And I'd rather.

00:36:07.600 Wait, so you got him linked up with your mom?

00:36:09.400 Or your mom was just feeling generous and wanted to help him out?

00:36:12.020 Oh, so my mom's just really nice and will help anyone.

00:36:13.540 There's, like, multiple people living in her house right now.

00:36:16.300 Multiple homeless drug addicts living in her house?

00:36:18.260 No, no, no, no.

00:36:18.720 There was a couple that lived downstairs in her house while she was traveling that were

00:36:24.020 watching her dogs while I was there.

00:36:26.620 And they moved upstairs into my room.

00:36:28.560 Your mom has, like, no boundaries.

00:36:30.520 Yeah, there's also, like, a 16-year-old girl, like, living there, too, that, like, needed help.

00:36:34.480 There's, like, it's going from, like, generous to, like, yo, she's.

00:36:38.000 It's in a hotel now.

00:36:38.900 That's just, wait, but speaking of your boyfriend, quasi, maybe gay boyfriend sort of thing.

00:36:47.240 A girl was previously on the show.

00:36:49.280 Can you tell us about that?

00:36:50.620 Okay, so I was supposed to come on the show, and I couldn't because I was working.

00:36:55.260 Yeah, because I was working at that time.

00:36:56.660 And I saw who was on it, and I saw the Instagram username, and I knew exactly who was right

00:37:03.300 away because she had previously stalked me for months, and her, I don't know if it was

00:37:07.660 her best friend or her really close friend, was in a relationship with my boyfriend while

00:37:11.780 I was dating him and living with him.

00:37:13.600 And she called me twice, and I saw, I recognized the area code because it was the same area code

00:37:20.140 of the girl that he was, like, with.

00:37:22.340 Like, I thought they were just friends, and I found out it was a lot more than just friends

00:37:25.380 who had met.

00:37:27.120 He met her while he moved for a few months during the winter season to work at a ski resort.

00:37:31.200 So he met her, moved back in with me.

00:37:33.240 I thought they were friends, but this girl, I recognized the area code.

00:37:36.620 I showed him.

00:37:37.480 I was like, hey, do you know who this is?

00:37:38.580 He told me to block the number, and I was like, why?

00:37:40.980 He's like, just block it.

00:37:41.720 And I was like, no, I'm not going to do that.

00:37:43.460 And so I looked up her number on Cash App because you could find, like, their name.

00:37:48.620 Found out her name, and I realized she followed me on Instagram the same exact time she had

00:37:52.120 called me, around, like, the same 10, 15 minutes, whatever.

00:37:55.900 What a detective.

00:37:56.980 Oh, yeah.

00:37:57.540 Oh, I'll go deep.

00:37:58.500 And then she followed my nail account, and then my main account, and then unfollowed both,

00:38:03.140 and then would kind of refollow and unfollow, like, all my pictures, like, my stories, and

00:38:06.280 then unfollow.

00:38:07.420 And then for months, she watched all my stories without following me.

00:38:12.640 Until even recently, she followed my nail account again.

00:38:15.100 That's called orbiting.

00:38:17.580 Yikes.

00:38:18.020 Orbit.

00:38:18.520 And so she, and I texted her the next day.

00:38:21.500 I was like, hey, like, sorry, Mr. Cawthorne's about work, because I was like, let me just

00:38:24.040 Wait, is this the girlfriend?

00:38:25.660 No, this is her friend.

00:38:28.040 The girl that was on the show, her friend was in the relationship with my ex.

00:38:34.600 Okay.

00:38:35.480 And she, like, wasn't, she, like, didn't, I think she, like, met him.

00:38:38.140 No, but okay, so there was a girl on the show.

00:38:40.640 Yes.

00:38:41.100 Her friend was sleeping with your boyfriend at the time.

00:38:44.880 Yes.

00:38:45.340 Okay.

00:38:45.980 And so, but she knew everything.

00:38:47.200 And she knew you.

00:38:48.500 Yes.

00:38:49.360 Okay.

00:38:49.820 So you're upset at her because she didn't tell you that her friend.

00:38:53.820 She just was, like, stalking me.

00:38:53.980 It was, like, a weird situation.

00:38:54.940 It's like, why are you watching my every move and not saying anything?

00:38:59.740 And she commented on my story one time, and I saw it.

00:39:02.120 I just didn't respond.

00:39:03.200 But she's like, hey, like, is he there with his dog?

00:39:05.180 And I was like, the dog that we got together?

00:39:06.960 Yeah.

00:39:07.180 What if she thought that her friend was the girlfriend, and you were the side piece?

00:39:14.160 I doubt it.

00:39:15.020 That would explain it, because she was checking up on you.

00:39:18.160 Yeah.

00:39:19.000 I don't know.

00:39:20.040 Wait, but did the girl that was hooking up with him, did she know that you were the girlfriend?

00:39:27.840 Yes.

00:39:28.040 And this is why she was supposed to ghost.

00:39:34.760 Bye.

00:39:36.080 Jubilee.

00:39:36.840 Jubilee, Jubilee, Jubilee.

00:39:38.940 We need some bath water or something.

00:39:41.000 Some holy water.

00:39:41.900 Some holy water.

00:39:43.440 All right.

00:39:43.860 Let me get these soup chats here.

00:39:45.480 All right.

00:39:45.560 I did ghost someone recently, though.

00:39:47.200 Let's see.

00:39:47.780 We have Mike Davis here with the $10 soup chat.

00:39:49.780 Thank you, man.

00:39:50.120 Appreciate it.

00:39:50.560 Brandon, I can help you kickstart your business, but I'm going to need some form of alternative

00:39:54.500 payment.

00:39:54.920 I'll get you that dump truck, and you'll get a BBL package deal.

00:40:00.220 I'll take the BBL.

00:40:02.680 Bam.

00:40:03.460 There you go, Mike.

00:40:07.600 All right.

00:40:08.160 Mike Davis, $10 soup chat.

00:40:09.420 I love it when women ghost me.

00:40:10.920 My goal was to dash and dine, hit and run.

00:40:13.860 I don't want to talk no more.

00:40:17.100 Glad when the problem takes care of itself.

00:40:19.500 Yeah.

00:40:19.740 I mean, sometimes it's, you know, who needs the whole, oh, I don't want to see you

00:40:24.820 anymore.

00:40:25.100 Sometimes it's good.

00:40:25.880 It's just, eh, ghost.

00:40:27.280 Do a ghost.

00:40:27.820 Sometimes it's better, you know?

00:40:29.920 I don't need closure.

00:40:30.780 In that case, she picked up on the red flags and left.

00:40:34.020 No, Mike Davis has no red flags.

00:40:35.880 Doesn't he?

00:40:36.440 Andy, how dare, I need you to apologize to Mike Davis for even suggesting that such a

00:40:42.560 great man could have red flags.

00:40:46.120 Here, pull up the burger.

00:40:47.120 When he doesn't, but when Mike doesn't like the girl, that's when he gives them off so

00:40:50.820 that they can go.

00:40:51.740 Eric, can you pull up the burger?

00:40:54.580 He's a cutie.

00:40:55.500 He's actually really cute.

00:40:56.420 I need you to apologize to him.

00:40:58.300 Oh, yeah.

00:40:58.780 I'm very sorry.

00:41:01.080 That's him.

00:41:01.680 He owns Burger King.

00:41:02.960 Right on.

00:41:03.600 I can tell.

00:41:04.300 He's great.

00:41:04.680 He doesn't, but.

00:41:05.860 No, he does.

00:41:06.580 Okay.

00:41:07.420 He says he doesn't, but he does.

00:41:08.840 Okay.

00:41:09.240 He does.

00:41:10.340 He's trying to keep it on the DL.

00:41:12.180 Low profile.

00:41:12.780 He's the king.

00:41:13.460 He's the Burger King king.

00:41:15.360 So, okay.

00:41:17.400 Where were we?

00:41:18.980 Oh, here we go.

00:41:19.800 We got Stifler here.

00:41:21.400 Ask everyone to write their looks on a scale of one to ten.

00:41:24.340 Yeah, we can do that.

00:41:25.040 Go ahead.

00:41:26.840 My, like, objectively.

00:41:27.800 Your appearance.

00:41:29.480 One to ten.

00:41:33.160 This is hard.

00:41:34.540 It's a number.

00:41:35.420 Pick a one to ten.

00:41:35.880 I have self-esteem issues.

00:41:37.560 You have self-esteem issues?

00:41:39.540 Tell us about your self-esteem issues.

00:41:41.580 I'll tell you that some days it's like a ten and some days it's a four.

00:41:48.200 Okay.

00:41:49.640 So, what is it now?

00:41:52.320 I think I'm sitting at a solid, like, six and a half.

00:41:58.060 Okay.

00:41:58.520 Seven.

00:41:59.400 Okay.

00:41:59.800 You know what?

00:42:00.400 Self-love.

00:42:01.140 Seven.

00:42:02.360 Wow.

00:42:03.320 Go ahead.

00:42:04.560 I think if you're ever going to rate yourself, you should always rate yourself a ten.

00:42:08.620 Because you become more attractive when you hear how a person thinks.

00:42:12.800 When somebody starts to show you how they think, they're hot, right?

00:42:17.980 Sydney hates this question.

00:42:19.800 But, okay.

00:42:20.300 So, you think you're a ten.

00:42:21.980 Okay.

00:42:22.620 Sydney, what about you?

00:42:24.360 Ten.

00:42:25.460 Sydney.

00:42:26.140 I do it every time.

00:42:27.580 I thought you would have learned by now.

00:42:29.780 Do you not agree?

00:42:30.580 That you, like, say a crappy lesson with it?

00:42:32.700 Yeah.

00:42:33.060 I've learned that part.

00:42:33.780 Okay.

00:42:34.060 So, you're still a crappy lesson.

00:42:35.400 It's a fantastic lesson.

00:42:36.620 It doesn't change.

00:42:36.900 Okay.

00:42:37.040 So, you're a ten.

00:42:38.000 Yeah.

00:42:38.380 Okay.

00:42:38.520 She's a ten.

00:42:39.220 Jubilee?

00:42:40.660 Seven.

00:42:41.560 Okay.

00:42:43.400 I don't know right now, because I had an allergic reaction, like, a month ago, and it still

00:42:47.400 hasn't cleared up that much.

00:42:49.320 Let's just say pre-allergic reaction.

00:42:51.960 But, wait.

00:42:52.320 Why isn't she hot with the allergic reaction?

00:42:54.380 It just messes with my self-esteem a lot, and I don't really like it.

00:42:57.400 But, before, maybe, like, a seven and a half.

00:43:05.820 Maybe an eight.

00:43:06.760 Kiki?

00:43:07.840 It will.

00:43:08.880 A no.

00:43:09.980 Okay.

00:43:10.380 She declines to answer.

00:43:12.640 Brandon?

00:43:13.580 A solid eight.

00:43:15.380 Oh, come on.

00:43:16.700 I give myself a 6.9 on a good day.

00:43:22.580 Oh, you guys.

00:43:23.540 I like the 6.9.

00:43:24.600 Does anybody want to revise their answer?

00:43:30.380 I have some makeup remover here.

00:43:32.820 Oh, we can't see that, but.

00:43:34.600 Oh, 6.9.

00:43:36.380 Huh?

00:43:37.180 So, some days it's a 6, some days it's a 9.

00:43:39.640 Wait, it's upside down.

00:43:40.680 Wait.

00:43:40.920 No.

00:43:41.200 What?

00:43:41.600 I'm going to be an 11 if you give me that Neutrogena makeup remover, because I look better

00:43:46.460 without makeup.

00:43:47.560 I'm not wearing any.

00:43:48.380 Because I'm, like, nearly 50.

00:43:49.480 You're wearing some.

00:43:50.500 I'm wearing eyelashes.

00:43:51.240 I put them on yesterday.

00:43:52.380 Oh, yeah.

00:43:52.620 She did my lashes, too.

00:43:53.700 Well, that's.

00:43:54.180 And my nails.

00:43:54.980 Oh, wow.

00:43:55.780 Yeah, by the way, guys, Jubilee.

00:43:58.940 Jubilee does nails in Santa Barbara.

00:44:01.100 So, if you need your nails done, fellas, Mike Davis, and you're ever in Santa Barbara,

00:44:05.580 hit her up.

00:44:06.220 She does a great.

00:44:06.600 I'll do them on the show.

00:44:07.320 I'm doing them on the show.

00:44:08.000 Yeah, she's.

00:44:08.420 I guess.

00:44:08.960 I'm going to paint them.

00:44:09.560 Yeah.

00:44:10.840 Okay.

00:44:11.560 It was your idea, not mine.

00:44:14.520 Okay.

00:44:15.080 So, okay.

00:44:15.600 We have how many tens at the table?

00:44:17.760 Two.

00:44:18.260 We got two tens at the table.

00:44:19.620 I got a roast.

00:44:21.420 Forgive me, Sydney.

00:44:22.100 I'm both from Sydney.

00:44:23.840 No, no, no, no.

00:44:24.920 Because her name.

00:44:26.860 And you're from Australia.

00:44:28.720 I'm from Sydney.

00:44:30.320 It's a thing.

00:44:32.240 Nice.

00:44:32.820 Okay.

00:44:33.100 So, you guys are tens.

00:44:36.080 So, that means that there are no women that are more attractive than you.

00:44:39.440 Correct?

00:44:39.960 No, because everybody.

00:44:41.480 This is just showing you everybody's self-esteem.

00:44:44.120 Like I said.

00:44:44.360 Everyone's a ten.

00:44:45.300 Everyone's a ten in my books.

00:44:46.800 We are all beautiful and worthy of being in love and loved and all of those things.

00:44:51.700 I just think it upsets me when everybody says that they're lower than a ten.

00:44:54.780 Like, come on, guys.

00:44:56.100 I mean, that's just delusion.

00:44:57.880 If everyone's a ten.

00:44:59.020 Of course.

00:44:59.460 It's just delusional.

00:45:00.760 Well, we shouldn't be rating each other in the first place.

00:45:02.800 We should be loving ourselves exactly the way we are.

00:45:05.560 Well, we all make judgment calls about people's various traits and either physical characteristics.

00:45:13.520 It's not good?

00:45:14.420 No, not at all.

00:45:15.760 So, you have no standards or boundaries when it comes to who you pick to date?

00:45:21.020 The guy said on your looks.

00:45:23.620 Yeah, your looks.

00:45:24.220 That's a huge thing for both men and women.

00:45:26.860 Yeah.

00:45:27.200 I mean, there is things like talent crush, people who make you laugh.

00:45:32.060 You can find somebody so attractive in so many different ways.

00:45:36.640 I mean, I've dated everyone.

00:45:38.100 Like, somebody who is paraplegic in a wheelchair to dwarfism.

00:45:42.360 I don't care.

00:45:43.400 I just think we're all beautiful and this shit needs to stop.

00:45:46.540 I'm sorry.

00:45:47.660 Well, I mean, that's a very idealistic.

00:45:50.040 I mean, and perhaps you're an outlier.

00:45:51.560 But, the fact of the matter is, is that for most people, for both men and women, looks play a pretty major factor in picking a partner.

00:46:00.520 I don't think it's sad.

00:46:02.500 I think you should look at other things too.

00:46:05.800 Yeah.

00:46:06.460 But.

00:46:07.060 Absolutely.

00:46:07.800 And it's nice to take care of yourself.

00:46:09.860 Don't get me wrong.

00:46:10.480 I'm a health and wellness expert.

00:46:12.240 But, at the end of the day, our intentions and our hearts are what's beautiful.

00:46:18.100 Bottom line.

00:46:18.720 I'd like to revise my answer then.

00:46:20.580 Good.

00:46:20.900 What?

00:46:21.600 I'm an 8 with a great ass.

00:46:24.160 I have a really good ass, so I'm going to round it up.

00:46:27.400 A lot of good asses.

00:46:28.200 Fit check?

00:46:29.440 Fit check?

00:46:30.360 I mean, you can't say that and then not.

00:46:32.340 Absolutely not.

00:46:33.720 No.

00:46:34.200 Follow my Instagram.

00:46:35.220 Anyone else want to revise?

00:46:37.100 I thought you were going to revise to a 10.

00:46:39.560 But, okay, no.

00:46:40.160 But, if everyone's a 10, if everyone's a 10, then.

00:46:45.220 Great.

00:46:45.740 What a happy growth.

00:46:46.020 Okay, then.

00:46:46.740 But, okay, here's the thing.

00:46:47.920 Okay, if I think I'm a 10.

00:46:49.840 I want to date a Victoria's Secret model.

00:46:54.020 Well, all of a sudden, everyone wants to date someone who thinks they're a 10.

00:46:57.640 Right?

00:46:58.380 What?

00:46:58.480 Your confidence is what's attractive about you.

00:47:00.600 You say you're a 10.

00:47:01.300 And I'm like, fuck, I need that guy now.

00:47:03.160 Because it's your confidence that makes you hot.

00:47:05.880 Yes, sir.

00:47:06.920 No, that's pride.

00:47:09.200 That's ego.

00:47:09.540 That's hubris.

00:47:10.600 Try it.

00:47:10.880 She does kind of got a point, Brian.

00:47:12.200 No, I think you should believe in yourself.

00:47:15.080 Yeah.

00:47:15.320 But, to the point of delusion and pompous.

00:47:18.540 I think Sidney said it.

00:47:19.600 I think Sidney said it one time, fake it till you make it.

00:47:22.900 I mean, to a certain degree, that is true when it comes down to if you project how other

00:47:28.800 people are going to perceive you based on how you carry yourself with confidence, eventually

00:47:32.140 they're going to have to eat it.

00:47:33.500 They're going to have to accept it because you're not giving them anything else to chew on.

00:47:36.040 Because everything's energy.

00:47:37.520 Right.

00:47:37.860 We're all energy.

00:47:39.320 So, when you said, I'm a 10, even though he said, you said as a joke, I was like, oh.

00:47:44.860 Like, I just felt that from you.

00:47:46.920 Do you know what I mean?

00:47:48.560 It's just, and he's talking about it with such, like, do you want to revise your answer?

00:47:53.660 No, I still feel like I'm honestly an 8.

00:47:55.540 Brandon, you're a 10.

00:47:56.700 No, I'm a 10.

00:47:57.400 Come on.

00:47:58.260 Brandon's a 10.

00:47:58.820 Shake off the tattoos, grow some hair out, slick it back.

00:48:01.560 I would love to hear what all the viewers.

00:48:03.260 Maybe somewhere in the nine ballpark.

00:48:04.380 No, you don't.

00:48:04.460 You do not want to hear the viewers.

00:48:06.620 No, yeah.

00:48:07.520 I don't think looks or confidence matters.

00:48:10.380 Oh, what matters?

00:48:11.480 Having a driver's license?

00:48:12.600 My ass.

00:48:14.560 If you're just looking for somebody to fuck, then yes.

00:48:17.620 Wait, your ass?

00:48:18.140 Absolutely.

00:48:18.420 That's what matters?

00:48:19.300 What?

00:48:19.420 But if you're looking for someone that you actually want to.

00:48:21.040 I didn't say that.

00:48:21.920 Why did you say that?

00:48:23.160 You said your ass.

00:48:23.980 No, I didn't.

00:48:24.460 You literally just said my ass.

00:48:27.560 Wait, what?

00:48:28.360 Yes, you fucking did.

00:48:30.320 I think she drank too much of your wine, Brandon.

00:48:32.360 It's good wine.

00:48:35.700 Okay, no, but.

00:48:36.400 It's a great wine.

00:48:39.600 Okay.

00:48:39.980 Let it go.

00:48:40.980 It's not going to change.

00:48:42.360 I'm going to.

00:48:43.640 One of these days, Sydney.

00:48:44.500 Because you do this every time.

00:48:45.620 Every time.

00:48:46.240 Sydney, Sydney, one of these days I will.

00:48:47.360 Then you can rate us.

00:48:48.360 Go ahead.

00:48:48.560 No, hell no, he cannot.

00:48:50.180 Hell no, he cannot.

00:48:51.760 Sydney, one of these days I'm going to be able to articulate such a convincing point.

00:48:55.360 Let me know when you do.

00:48:56.800 An argument that I will be able to change your view on this.

00:49:00.720 Okay.

00:49:01.140 Here, let me try.

00:49:02.200 Let me do an attempt.

00:49:03.560 So, you two are 10s.

00:49:07.740 Where's the magazine covers?

00:49:10.080 That's the problem with the magazine covers.

00:49:12.580 Okay.

00:49:13.380 I've been on some billboard covers.

00:49:15.600 Does that count?

00:49:16.380 It's not a magazine, but like.

00:49:18.300 Billboards?

00:49:18.980 Yeah, for my.

00:49:19.620 It's a start.

00:49:20.460 Yeah, for back at home in Reno, Shield.

00:49:24.040 It's like the same sporting goods store.

00:49:25.260 Okay.

00:49:25.940 Now, hold on though, because Shields is like the largest sporting goods store in the world.

00:49:30.560 You're a Reno 10.

00:49:31.760 No, but.

00:49:32.740 Yeah, Reno's a little ghetto.

00:49:34.700 But, no, so Shields is like the largest sporting goods store in the world.

00:49:38.320 Well, we had the largest ones in Reno alone, but it's like in Texas and like multiple states.

00:49:43.280 I got to be on that.

00:49:44.220 That was cool.

00:49:44.840 That's not like a.

00:49:45.880 That was cool.

00:49:46.620 I just want to throw that out there.

00:49:47.480 Okay.

00:49:47.920 All right.

00:49:48.300 I guess you're a supermodel then.

00:49:50.160 Thanks.

00:49:50.480 But, okay.

00:49:51.400 Here's the thing.

00:49:52.160 Like, if you're a 10, then you're not able.

00:49:55.260 You're not, you don't have an accurate self-assessment of where you stand on the sexual marketplace,

00:50:00.900 on the dating marketplace, in the relationship marketplace, in the marriage marketplace.

00:50:05.140 Wow.

00:50:05.380 Not for you.

00:50:06.120 Yeah.

00:50:06.440 Wow.

00:50:06.720 Listen to where his headspace is coming from.

00:50:08.460 No, but you just, you don't have a reasonable assessment of where you stand.

00:50:12.640 Good to know where your headspace is at.

00:50:14.360 Where's my headspace at?

00:50:15.740 Exactly where you said it.

00:50:17.480 What?

00:50:18.480 I'm just being realistic here, though.

00:50:20.020 Is that where his confidence is?

00:50:21.280 Where he just placed his headspace?

00:50:22.600 Yeah.

00:50:22.620 And you date at the level of your self-esteem.

00:50:24.540 You want to date a Victoria's Secret model?

00:50:26.480 By the way, they're all different shapes and sizes right now.

00:50:29.940 Okay.

00:50:30.200 But I, look.

00:50:32.160 Well.

00:50:33.200 So, this is.

00:50:34.000 Are they?

00:50:34.580 Are they doing like the fat Victoria's Secret models?

00:50:35.900 We are redefining beauty.

00:50:38.300 Right now, we are.

00:50:39.580 This is a very old conversation.

00:50:41.360 Delusion.

00:50:42.460 Slave mind.

00:50:44.040 Slave programming.

00:50:46.740 We're redefining beauty.

00:50:47.700 We are rewarding obesity is what we're doing.

00:50:50.820 Listen.

00:50:52.040 You're talking about the like overweight, obese women who are.

00:50:56.260 It doesn't mean that those women aren't beautiful or deserve love.

00:50:59.300 That's not what I'm saying.

00:51:00.440 And also, a healthy body looks different on every person.

00:51:03.580 I'm sorry, but if you're obese, you're not healthy.

00:51:05.240 But you can be also fit and lean and not necessarily well.

00:51:08.900 Sure, but if you're obese, you are necessarily unhealthy.

00:51:13.220 But are you hot?

00:51:14.740 No.

00:51:15.520 Oh, I'm so sorry, but that's ouch.

00:51:19.240 That's yikes.

00:51:21.360 That's, I mean, that's my personal view.

00:51:23.540 I don't find.

00:51:24.480 And so, isn't it beautiful that everybody has different tastes in colors, sizes, ages,

00:51:30.160 all that sort of thing?

00:51:30.900 And this is what makes us so gorgeous is because what you think is hot is different.

00:51:34.640 And so, when you say rate yourself, this is why I say everybody just needs to rate themselves

00:51:38.180 a 10 because what we like, what you like, everyone likes different things.

00:51:42.180 But most people can probably agree.

00:51:44.560 Most.

00:51:44.740 Most.

00:51:44.920 Yes, most men don't want to date obese women.

00:51:48.940 And I would say most women.

00:51:50.100 Wow.

00:51:50.280 Most women don't want to date obese men.

00:51:53.640 Do you realize how unhealthy being obese?

00:51:57.280 How is this shocking to you for someone to say that?

00:52:00.480 I'm a health and wellness coach.

00:52:01.520 I've seen a lot of people who are very overweight.

00:52:05.520 Who are unhealthy.

00:52:06.360 Having an amazing sex life, a very healthy relationship.

00:52:09.900 Sure.

00:52:10.120 Even more so than people who look like magazine cover models and not necessarily happy or in

00:52:15.500 loving relationships.

00:52:16.600 I have no problem with people who are overweight or obese, having a partner, finding love,

00:52:20.920 being happy.

00:52:20.960 That's what we're talking about, rating.

00:52:22.760 No, but that's fine.

00:52:24.420 But you cannot say that someone who's obese is in good health.

00:52:28.660 I didn't say that.

00:52:29.460 We're talking about rating ourselves in terms of sexual attraction.

00:52:32.120 But you asked if I was, what did you ask?

00:52:34.000 If I was attracted to...

00:52:35.400 Yeah, we're talking about sexual attraction.

00:52:36.660 We're not talking about health.

00:52:37.680 You asked if I was attracted to women who are overweight and obese.

00:52:43.780 My answer was no.

00:52:45.100 No, I didn't.

00:52:46.180 But it's okay.

00:52:47.580 We're all attracted to different things.

00:52:50.120 What do you want to say, Emma?

00:52:51.320 Go ahead.

00:52:51.700 Come on.

00:52:51.900 Nothing.

00:52:52.360 I have no thoughts.

00:52:53.380 You have thoughts.

00:52:54.160 No, none.

00:52:55.500 You've got thoughts.

00:52:56.900 No, I like obese people.

00:52:58.180 They're cool.

00:52:59.640 Question.

00:53:00.180 It's not...

00:53:00.780 Let me just finish this.

00:53:01.640 I don't dislike...

00:53:03.640 I don't dislike...

00:53:05.800 Go Lizzo.

00:53:07.680 I don't have a hatred of obese people.

00:53:10.400 I don't find...

00:53:12.060 I'm not attracted to obese women.

00:53:14.900 That's okay.

00:53:15.680 Why is this a hot take?

00:53:17.000 Like...

00:53:17.280 No, that's not a hot take.

00:53:18.760 And women can have the same exact standard.

00:53:21.020 I don't have a double standard on this.

00:53:22.400 If a woman doesn't want to date a guy who's obese, that's totally fine.

00:53:25.900 We all have preferences.

00:53:27.460 We all have preferences.

00:53:27.980 Okay.

00:53:29.440 But I don't see why there's such a pushback on me having...

00:53:32.760 See, this is the thing.

00:53:33.640 Men are not allowed to have boundaries, preferences, and standards.

00:53:36.360 No, you had boundaries, and you've told me what you like.

00:53:39.440 And I also think it's important that you have your own preference.

00:53:42.200 But the point is about rating.

00:53:44.320 We're all talking about rate yourself.

00:53:45.760 Okay, let's...

00:53:45.780 We can go back to rating.

00:53:47.020 Sure.

00:53:47.300 That's why...

00:53:47.920 In context, that's what we're talking about.

00:53:49.460 And what I'm saying is the obese woman can be a 10.

00:53:53.700 That's all I'm saying.

00:53:54.620 And your preference and your decision is different.

00:53:58.520 But that's what's so beautiful about us all, is that we all like different things.

00:54:02.700 But we're all still a 10.

00:54:05.060 I mean, perhaps for some people, someone who's obese could be a 10.

00:54:09.260 But there are generalized beauty standards.

00:54:13.880 You can line up 100 people, and they can all kind of come to a bit of a consensus over,

00:54:20.080 you know, ranking and determining someone's physical attractiveness.

00:54:24.620 And I'd say if you line up 100 men, probably 95, 90% of them are going to say,

00:54:30.760 I'm not attracted to women who are overweight or obese.

00:54:33.460 I think it's so sad.

00:54:34.540 It makes me sad.

00:54:35.560 Why?

00:54:36.240 Some of my most beautiful friends aren't a size 8, and they are stunning.

00:54:41.040 And her partner, for example, is a hot...

00:54:43.840 It's a preference.

00:54:44.480 Tell you what.

00:54:44.980 It's a preference.

00:54:46.000 As soon as women start dating men shorter than them, fine.

00:54:49.400 I have.

00:54:49.960 I have.

00:54:50.640 The last guy did shoot it on me with his ex.

00:54:52.560 I'm 5 feet, and I have.

00:54:54.340 Good girl.

00:54:55.360 No, it's not a good girl thing.

00:54:56.620 You've dated a guy who is 4'11"?

00:54:59.900 Okay, well, I mean, that's like a point...

00:55:01.620 They're hard to find, too.

00:55:02.880 ...0.01 percentile.

00:55:03.500 That are my age, that are, like, shorter than me.

00:55:05.400 Yeah, no, I know.

00:55:06.280 It's a very small percentage.

00:55:07.500 I know.

00:55:07.900 I'm short.

00:55:08.680 I'm kind of tiny.

00:55:09.760 But, like, you know, like...

00:55:11.160 Okay, but you're going to tell me that, broadly speaking, women don't have a height preference

00:55:16.860 for men who are taller than them.

00:55:17.520 Everyone has a different preference.

00:55:19.300 Yeah.

00:55:19.760 You guys don't want...

00:55:21.240 Go yell it back at her.

00:55:22.580 I'm not of this.

00:55:23.100 I'm not yelling.

00:55:24.020 I'm just, like, we're having a debate here.

00:55:26.260 I said we move on.

00:55:27.560 I don't want to hop on that.

00:55:27.660 No, no, we'll continue.

00:55:29.000 You continue.

00:55:30.460 Like...

00:55:30.740 You wanted debates.

00:55:31.540 You wanted different opinions.

00:55:33.100 No, I'm not upset.

00:55:33.940 I'm just engaging in the debate.

00:55:35.620 Good.

00:55:36.920 But...

00:55:37.520 And I don't know who your audience is, but I'm sure that there are some people that

00:55:41.300 are overweight, and it's important for them to understand that they're also a 10, and that's

00:55:46.360 what I care deeply about.

00:55:47.460 You're not...

00:55:48.560 No, okay.

00:55:49.540 I don't...

00:55:49.980 Because you're basically labeling them that they should rate themselves.

00:55:53.380 Whoever asked that question, they're the ones that we should be yelling at.

00:55:56.920 Okay, so...

00:55:57.340 Because we shouldn't be rating ourselves.

00:55:58.240 I mean, if you want to break down...

00:55:59.800 If you want to break down the rating thing, we can look at face.

00:56:03.740 We can look at physique.

00:56:04.700 We can look at various factors.

00:56:07.800 It's getting worse.

00:56:08.440 It's not worse.

00:56:09.320 I mean, we all make these sorts of judgments.

00:56:11.700 It's a natural human process.

00:56:13.100 Well, I met a guy with dwarfism.

00:56:16.360 He, like, you want to break him down?

00:56:19.640 He's one of the hottest men that I've met since I've been in L.A.

00:56:22.780 He's got the most beautiful heart, and he said to me at the age of 11, he considered

00:56:27.460 committing suicide, and he is so glad that he's still around today.

00:56:31.460 And that conversation I had with him on the red carpet of a pre-Emmie soiree has stuck

00:56:36.240 with me now, because that is hot.

00:56:38.840 Somebody who decides to love himself and rates himself a 10 and decided not to take his life.

00:56:44.380 That's hot.

00:56:45.620 I'm not advocating people should delete themselves if they don't consider themselves a 10.

00:56:51.280 But, like, let's be realistic here.

00:56:53.440 Most women are not going to date a guy who is a dwarf.

00:56:58.000 Whoa, okay, that needs to stop.

00:57:01.280 What?

00:57:01.860 No, I agree with him.

00:57:03.980 Most women can't believe it.

00:57:05.220 So here's the thing.

00:57:06.360 But yes, and so if you believe that, then why not use your platform in a positive way

00:57:12.260 to change that?

00:57:13.640 Because that's the reason why that guy wanted to take his life at the age of 11 in the

00:57:17.200 first place, because of this conversation.

00:57:20.080 On an individual level, people are free to have the preferences, standards, and boundaries

00:57:24.240 they want.

00:57:25.260 Some women...

00:57:26.000 I'm not telling you to date him or die.

00:57:27.960 I'm just saying consider him as an attractive person when you get talking to him.

00:57:32.040 But attraction...

00:57:33.240 When you say attraction, that's something that somebody else feels.

00:57:37.660 Nobody is owed attraction.

00:57:40.140 I know, but that's the problem is we don't give men a chance.

00:57:42.620 Sydney doesn't owe me her attraction.

00:57:44.600 I know, but so many women don't give men a chance, because they won't even get to know

00:57:48.300 them.

00:57:49.540 Just have a conversation and watch their eyes light up.

00:57:51.940 I think we're talking about physical right now.

00:57:53.540 We're talking...

00:57:54.380 Yeah, we're talking about physical.

00:57:55.380 I just want to make sure, because...

00:57:56.420 Oh my God, you guys are...

00:57:57.720 No, well, you're like...

00:57:58.780 Shallow.

00:57:59.180 It's not shallow.

00:58:00.220 We're also just like...

00:58:00.840 It's not shallow.

00:58:00.920 We're talking here about physical, and you're like...

00:58:03.340 I agree with your points.

00:58:04.200 But you're coming in, and you're just like, oh, well, this gentleman was talking about

00:58:07.440 this, and he almost took his life at that.

00:58:09.200 His heart was so beautiful.

00:58:10.500 We're just talking physical lines.

00:58:12.260 Okay, so you said we're shallow.

00:58:14.420 The conversation is becoming shallow.

00:58:16.720 Yeah.

00:58:16.920 Do you have fake tits?

00:58:18.820 What about how...

00:58:19.880 Before we went...

00:58:20.660 Do you have plastic surgery?

00:58:21.300 What about before we went on air, you told me to take off my jacket.

00:58:25.060 I'm not criticizing you.

00:58:26.360 No, because you know what sells.

00:58:28.300 You're a smart guy.

00:58:28.900 I know what sells, and I put the heater on, so it was going to get hot.

00:58:32.260 Exactly, so I can take off my clothes.

00:58:33.820 You're talking...

00:58:34.620 I'm not...

00:58:34.920 I'm smart.

00:58:35.460 I know what's going on.

00:58:36.040 I'm 50, man.

00:58:37.380 Like, seriously.

00:58:38.880 Okay, but you're accusing us of being shallow, and I'm asking if you have plastic surgery.

00:58:42.740 That you find that this to be one of my most attractive qualities.

00:58:46.820 I'm a NAS guy, first off.

00:58:48.160 But what I'm saying is that when you get...

00:58:50.960 But if you have a BBL, it's a wrap.

00:58:54.660 I don't...

00:58:55.280 No BBLs for me, natural.

00:58:57.320 Let's talk about your dick.

00:58:59.040 Wow.

00:58:59.560 Let's...

00:59:00.120 I'm okay.

00:59:01.180 Let's pass over that.

00:59:02.120 Okay.

00:59:03.420 I am okay.

00:59:05.220 We're done here.

00:59:06.080 I think you guys are doing great bantering, though.

00:59:08.080 We can leave if you would like.

00:59:09.620 No, I think I'll leave, and you can all talk.

00:59:11.300 Keep going.

00:59:12.000 No, I'm...

00:59:12.880 But, okay, you've accused...

00:59:14.140 Here's the thing.

00:59:14.660 You've accused...

00:59:15.860 You've accused me.

00:59:17.140 You've accused some of the other people.

00:59:18.540 Accused of what?

00:59:19.460 Of being shallow.

00:59:20.700 I'm saying the conversation is getting shallow if we keep talking about only superficial.

00:59:25.360 But that's just the flow of the conversation, and I'm asking...

00:59:28.440 You're talking about superficiality, but you have plastic surgery.

00:59:33.660 No.

00:59:33.960 I'm not saying...

00:59:34.420 I don't think we should use plastic surgery against that.

00:59:36.760 I think it's also an age gap thing.

00:59:39.180 Yeah, that's exactly right.

00:59:40.360 We're all in our 20s, so yes, we are superficial and shallow.

00:59:44.140 I'm 33.

00:59:44.920 Well, why is this thing that has been said so far?

00:59:47.300 I'll be real.

00:59:48.520 I'm 22.

00:59:49.420 I like looks.

00:59:51.380 I like things that look good.

00:59:52.740 There's nothing wrong with that.

00:59:53.960 I like hot guys.

00:59:55.440 I like hot girls.

00:59:56.580 And that's the stage of life that I'm in right now.

00:59:59.680 Maybe in two or three decades, I will be looking for someone with a golden heart.

01:00:03.840 Right now, I'm looking for...

01:00:05.780 Not that.

01:00:07.160 But there's nothing wrong with that.

01:00:11.420 There's nothing wrong with that.

01:00:12.840 I don't think there's anything wrong with it either.

01:00:14.320 No.

01:00:14.340 And you know what?

01:00:15.960 She's right.

01:00:16.700 That's really an intelligent answer because when you do live a little bit more life and

01:00:21.820 you go through a lot of hardship, trauma, life experience, whatever it is that you go

01:00:26.760 through, you start to realize what's important.

01:00:31.440 That was the longest answer you ever got from that question, huh?

01:00:34.700 Ever.

01:00:35.800 Bruh.

01:00:36.800 Can we ask the question?

01:00:37.820 Can we ask the question, you know, does this depend on if people are looking for a partner

01:00:43.280 or an accessory?

01:00:45.320 Because there is a huge difference.

01:00:48.740 So the perspective before you really start splitting hairs on this topic, are people just

01:00:53.180 looking for someone that looks good, they can bring around, have sex with, and not really

01:00:57.400 care where it goes?

01:00:58.380 Or are they looking for a righteous partner, someone they can pair with and be with and

01:01:03.240 have all these type of energies, exchanges you're talking about?

01:01:06.720 If you have sex with someone and you want to, and I always say do it safely, like wear

01:01:11.600 protection.

01:01:13.060 If you're going to rent a car, at Rent-A-Car, do you want to get a beat-up ride or do you

01:01:16.660 want to get something?

01:01:17.560 I've had intimacy with somebody who is a model, but they look at themselves in the mirror when

01:01:24.420 they're doing it.

01:01:25.660 What?

01:01:26.360 Yeah.

01:01:26.780 What?

01:01:27.720 Yeah.

01:01:28.320 So just because they're magazine cover hot.

01:01:31.980 They look at themselves having sex in the mirror?

01:01:33.780 Yeah.

01:01:34.120 Like they're attracted to themselves.

01:01:35.320 That's kind of cool.

01:01:35.780 But what I'm saying, by the way, I just, what I'm saying is every single scenario is

01:01:44.240 unique, right?

01:01:45.800 It's like, you can't just pinpoint and package it up and go just because this person's hot

01:01:51.900 is going to be like that and this person's overweight, therefore it's going to be like

01:01:54.660 that.

01:01:54.980 You just got to look at everybody in an individualistic way.

01:01:57.420 But that's how it usually starts is most people are looking at looks first and then we start

01:02:02.560 assessing personality and other traits too.

01:02:05.100 Yeah, but you're saying that people don't find overweight women hot and that's where

01:02:09.040 I'm...

01:02:09.380 Generally, yes.

01:02:09.560 Generally speaking.

01:02:10.020 But that's where I have begged to differ.

01:02:11.700 Like I said, one of my best friends is not a size eight.

01:02:14.580 Okay.

01:02:14.940 Here, let's ask the chat.

01:02:16.060 Chat.

01:02:16.420 Yeah, but that's not the world.

01:02:17.960 That's fine.

01:02:18.240 We'll ask them anyways.

01:02:18.880 That's not your whole world.

01:02:19.820 One in the chat, if you are not attracted to obese women, two in the chat, if you are

01:02:25.320 attracted to obese women.

01:02:28.300 The way you word it, you're getting the answer that you want because you're calling it a obese.

01:02:32.540 So you're not looking past anything else.

01:02:35.400 What?

01:02:36.100 You know, one woman might have the biggest ass ever and the tiniest waist and the hottest

01:02:42.000 face, whatever you decide.

01:02:44.260 Like you're visualizing something that is like, I don't know what you're even trying to...

01:02:48.380 Obesity is a very specific...

01:02:51.140 This is almost...

01:02:52.340 It's medical terminology.

01:02:55.000 We went from rating to obese, medically obese.

01:03:01.600 And yes, they're...

01:03:03.020 We were just playing with numbers.

01:03:04.060 Yeah, and he's also playing with words.

01:03:05.140 We just wanted to play with numbers.

01:03:07.160 Now we're here.

01:03:08.080 It's just word semantics, really.

01:03:09.600 It's just words.

01:03:10.140 I mean, I go for...

01:03:11.320 I mean, the first thing you see is their looks.

01:03:14.440 Like a personal experience.

01:03:16.080 There's this guy.

01:03:16.640 He was six foot nine.

01:03:18.240 Loved it.

01:03:18.820 Had a great time.

01:03:19.720 There's obviously a lot of passion behind where she's coming from.

01:03:22.840 She's coming from a very passionate point of view and I can respect that.

01:03:26.160 But I think Brian generally is just, you know, black and white.

01:03:29.680 Like I said, you know, when you're...

01:03:31.040 If you had a lineup of people and you pick a date, are you going to go out of your way

01:03:34.860 because you want to be a humanitarian about it and be nice and pick somebody that would

01:03:38.460 be not who you really want to date based on attractiveness?

01:03:41.460 I'm saying people want to date people who are overweight.

01:03:45.620 I'm saying that people actually find overweight people attractive.

01:03:49.060 And not just beyond a fetish, right?

01:03:51.020 We're not talking about it.

01:03:51.980 We're going in circles.

01:03:53.080 I'm like bored about this.

01:03:54.840 Exactly.

01:03:55.840 Okay.

01:03:56.420 So are there people that find overweight or obese women attractive?

01:04:02.780 Yes.

01:04:03.580 And you're only saying women.

01:04:05.020 How many people on this panel or on your audience are actually overweight and not with a six

01:04:09.480 pack?

01:04:09.940 I don't know.

01:04:10.480 We can't see them.

01:04:11.340 But do I think that they're not hot and I should rate them less than a 10?

01:04:14.760 No.

01:04:15.360 End of story.

01:04:16.360 Great.

01:04:16.760 Next topic.

01:04:17.360 Next topic.

01:04:18.060 End of story.

01:04:18.780 No.

01:04:18.880 Sydney, stop.

01:04:19.620 Okay.

01:04:20.160 Okay.

01:04:20.940 He doesn't want me to have the last word.

01:04:22.660 No, no.

01:04:23.120 I'm just going to respond.

01:04:24.060 There is no last word.

01:04:25.040 I'm just going to respond to what you just said.

01:04:27.000 So I just repeat what you said again.

01:04:30.620 Sorry.

01:04:31.160 It's all right.

01:04:32.480 The listeners got it.

01:04:33.720 We can move on.

01:04:35.240 No, but just repeat it again.

01:04:36.600 No, it's okay.

01:04:37.120 I've said it.

01:04:37.520 You can play it back.

01:04:39.180 I can't play it back, but okay.

01:04:41.420 So I'm saying that the listeners on your show don't all have six packs and I feel that

01:04:47.800 they should still rate themselves a 10 in terms of how they feel they look in terms of

01:04:52.640 attractiveness because there's someone out there for everyone and just because they don't

01:04:56.660 look like a model with a six pack doesn't mean that they're not hot and I can tell you

01:05:00.760 right now that they deserve all the love and confidence because everyone finds everything

01:05:05.740 different.

01:05:06.880 You like this.

01:05:08.140 He likes that.

01:05:09.200 She likes this.

01:05:10.040 So there is going to be someone that actually finds that person attractive too.

01:05:14.600 And that's the end of the story.

01:05:16.380 Sure.

01:05:16.700 Yes.

01:05:17.200 You can.

01:05:17.960 There are people out there.

01:05:19.120 There are people that will find someone who's, for example, obese, attractive.

01:05:24.000 That's, that's fine.

01:05:25.720 But I'm speaking in, we have to speak in generalities here.

01:05:30.460 You're using the word obese, but I never said obese.

01:05:32.680 I just said in terms of rating someone.

01:05:34.920 The way we got to it was, I said, I said that I would, the, I don't think I'd be able to

01:05:40.900 score a Victoria's Secret model.

01:05:42.760 But a Victoria's Secret model is also overweight.

01:05:45.520 And then you started saying, and I'm not privy.

01:05:48.240 I'm not caught up on the, who's Victoria's Secret model right now.

01:05:52.360 I know Calvin Klein has some obese, overweight models.

01:05:55.360 Well, Victoria's Secret banned.

01:05:57.440 I don't look.

01:05:58.380 Eight size eight models.

01:05:59.500 Since the pandemic, it was gone.

01:06:01.260 Think of.

01:06:01.840 No, but I'm just keeping you up to date because you said you don't know.

01:06:04.640 And, and it's a thing.

01:06:05.740 I don't know what the woke.

01:06:06.580 They're not allowed.

01:06:07.020 I don't know what the woke companies.

01:06:07.440 Size eight models, underweight models are no longer attractive, honey.

01:06:11.520 I don't know what the woke companies are doing with getting.

01:06:13.780 I'm telling you.

01:06:14.620 I'm keeping you up to date.

01:06:15.580 The plus size models.

01:06:17.700 I don't know.

01:06:18.880 But I'm thinking like when I say a Victoria's Secret model, I'm talking, think 10 years ago.

01:06:23.860 Before that, the whole, let's just get plus size models thing was a thing.

01:06:28.040 Again, I'm not going to land.

01:06:30.560 Who's, who's a fucking notable Adriana Lima?

01:06:34.100 I'm not landing Adriana Lima in her prime.

01:06:36.980 Not with this attitude.

01:06:37.400 She won't find it hot.

01:06:39.200 Bro, you don't.

01:06:40.780 It's not about my attitude.

01:06:42.460 Like it's no, it's just, it's a status thing.

01:06:46.160 It's a physical appearance thing.

01:06:47.540 Let's talk about something else.

01:06:48.540 No, no, no.

01:06:48.800 We know what you like now.

01:06:50.560 I just feel like I can't even speak on this because I'm skinny.

01:06:54.400 You're, I mean, you can have an opinion on something even if you're not.

01:06:58.040 So, okay.

01:07:01.060 I don't think we're going to come to a common ground on this.

01:07:03.880 I'm just going to say that this is why you basically have women who are chasing after the top 10 to 20% of men

01:07:11.380 and wondering why those men won't commit to the, to those women.

01:07:16.220 Because if, if you have women who just all think they're 9s and 10s,

01:07:20.340 they think they're deserving of a guy who's a 9 or a 10.

01:07:24.400 So, it's just delusion.

01:07:27.880 Average women are not attracted to average men.

01:07:30.660 I just told you you were hotter when you said you were a 10.

01:07:33.320 Just think about that.

01:07:35.300 Okay, but I'm, I'm a, I consider myself like a pretty modest, humble person.

01:07:40.140 It's got nothing to do with that.

01:07:41.180 I'm never going to say I'm a 10 because there's certain aspects of my facial features.

01:07:46.340 I'm very, like, I can articulate why I don't think I'm a 10.

01:07:50.120 You're not going to convince me that I'm a 10.

01:07:52.260 And that's why you won't be with Adriana Lima and the likes.

01:07:55.500 Okay, even, even if I think I'm a 10.

01:07:59.200 Even, it, even my self-perception doesn't change my outward-facing appearance.

01:08:07.040 I'm, you can talk about the secret and putting it down into the universe.

01:08:11.340 I'm not going to, even if I consider myself a 10,

01:08:14.320 I'm not going to be able to get every single woman.

01:08:17.740 No, this isn't, this is, the opposite is what's wrong with the world.

01:08:21.100 People having an over-inflated sense of self and thinking they're hot shit when they're not.

01:08:26.260 That's ego talking.

01:08:27.300 I'm talking from a real heartfelt space.

01:08:31.000 I think I'm a good person, but I have a reasonable self-assessment of my physical attractiveness

01:08:36.400 and where I stand on the sexual marketplace.

01:08:38.800 Whoever you decide to shack up with, make sure she thinks you're a 10.

01:08:43.600 And then you believe her.

01:08:45.820 I don't even, I don't even need the girl I'm with to think I'm a 10.

01:08:49.020 Then stop rating.

01:08:50.400 Bottom line.

01:08:51.360 Like I said, if anyone's going to have an argument here,

01:08:53.720 it's with the person who said, all rate yourself.

01:08:55.760 Because that is so yesterday.

01:08:58.400 Seriously, I'm done with rating.

01:09:00.720 I mean, look, you can say that, but it's a natural human process to make assessments

01:09:07.440 about potential partners, potential people we're going to sleep with,

01:09:11.520 potential people we're going to hook up with, a potential wife, potential husband.

01:09:16.220 We, maybe for you, that's fine.

01:09:19.800 Maybe you want to view things in that way.

01:09:21.740 That's totally fine.

01:09:22.860 But we have to operate in reality here.

01:09:25.560 Most people care about looks and appearance.

01:09:28.180 Okay, wait.

01:09:28.960 Sorry.

01:09:29.660 Can I jump in?

01:09:30.540 Go ahead.

01:09:31.180 For, just because I want to like turn this on its head,

01:09:34.700 does anyone have like hot take 10s?

01:09:37.600 Like someone you think is a 10, which is a hot take?

01:09:41.360 Well, look at Arnold Schwarzenegger, who landed up having an affair with his maid.

01:09:46.960 Was she a 10?

01:09:50.840 What?

01:09:51.260 No, she was convenient.

01:09:53.140 Yes.

01:09:53.700 But you're going to, but you're going to write, but he, he thought she was a 10.

01:09:57.480 She was there.

01:09:58.500 He was fine.

01:09:59.220 And that's a 10.

01:10:00.140 There's a difference between fuckable and dateable.

01:10:02.020 That's what I'm saying is like 10 could mean anything.

01:10:05.480 Exactly.

01:10:05.880 Someone might be a 10 when you're in a certain mood at a certain time in play.

01:10:11.340 Yeah, girl.

01:10:11.900 Okay, but you could survey a thousand people and show them a, a series of photos of people

01:10:18.280 of supposed varying degrees of attractiveness.

01:10:21.100 He said Trump 2020 fool.

01:10:24.040 You could do that.

01:10:25.320 And people, some people, there might be some slight differences in how they rate, but most

01:10:31.220 people are probably going to like, okay, this, this one, she's really attractive.

01:10:35.180 This one more average.

01:10:37.420 People are going to have to some degree, a consensus.

01:10:41.400 I mean, we can all agree.

01:10:44.000 Like Brad Pitt in his prime wasn't, and even today at 58 or whatever is an exceptionally

01:10:50.260 physically attractive individual.

01:10:53.220 You ask most people that they'll say yes.

01:10:56.480 Not my type.

01:10:58.020 Cool.

01:10:58.480 Brad Pitt in his prime.

01:10:59.360 Okay.

01:10:59.580 What's your type?

01:11:00.620 Not blonde.

01:11:01.620 Okay.

01:11:03.040 I'm a mild.

01:11:03.740 She wouldn't date Brad Pitt.

01:11:04.960 Okay.

01:11:05.440 And this prime, okay.

01:11:06.300 I like blondes.

01:11:07.540 I don't care.

01:11:08.080 Oh my God.

01:11:08.820 We were just watching the movie Hairspray and we both agreed that Zac Efron in that.

01:11:13.620 Oh my God.

01:11:13.940 Yeah.

01:11:14.060 Zac Efron in that movie.

01:11:16.060 Zac Efron in anything.

01:11:17.140 Zac Efron now?

01:11:17.860 Zac Efron in nothing.

01:11:18.580 Yeah.

01:11:18.600 Did you see he fucking butchered his looks with plastic surgery and shit?

01:11:22.480 Back in 2007?

01:11:24.120 Is that true?

01:11:24.740 He got plastic surgery?

01:11:27.420 Because I saw him earlier.

01:11:28.420 I love his jaw.

01:11:29.100 That's right.

01:11:30.040 That's what I thought.

01:11:30.240 He's on like fucking gnarly steroids and shit.

01:11:32.380 He's got roid gut.

01:11:33.580 Yeah.

01:11:34.020 And his face, his proportions look kind of weird.

01:11:36.620 I just want to add, I would actually date a dwarf.

01:11:39.280 Just saying.

01:11:39.700 I'll throw that out there.

01:11:41.180 They're hot.

01:11:42.320 Oh my God.

01:11:42.860 They're hot.

01:11:43.080 They're hot.

01:11:43.100 My DMs are open.

01:11:44.660 I would date a dwarf, so I don't want.

01:11:46.240 You got the verified check mark.

01:11:47.500 I can help you out.

01:11:48.360 Whatever has the verified check mark.

01:11:49.240 If you know a dwarf, a female dwarf in Santa Barbara.

01:11:52.400 Oh, they're in LA.

01:11:53.820 LA.

01:11:54.220 Okay.

01:11:54.240 Tell them to commute and all that.

01:11:55.400 Okay.

01:11:56.320 Got it.

01:11:56.680 All right.

01:11:56.940 My DMs are open.

01:11:57.580 I'll send them, yeah.

01:11:58.760 My DMs are open, but yikes.

01:12:03.400 Okay.

01:12:03.700 I mean, but okay.

01:12:04.700 What you have, actually, we have some, the girls were nice enough to provide us with their

01:12:10.320 dating profiles.

01:12:11.000 So we're going to do, guys, we're going to do a review of their dating profiles.

01:12:15.340 No.

01:12:16.620 Yeah.

01:12:17.320 And, uh, but here's what's going on on, on dating apps is, and this sort of relates to

01:12:25.160 the whole rating thing is that on dating apps, the top 10, top 20% of men on dating apps

01:12:33.780 are sleeping with all the women.

01:12:36.780 Can you click?

01:12:37.100 What does top 10, top 20% mean?

01:12:39.180 Just like in terms of their appearance, because Tinder is-

01:12:42.700 Wait, is there like statistics of like, wait, I'm just confused.

01:12:46.140 What do you mean when like, so there's a pool of men, there's a top 20 or top 10, top 20%

01:12:51.440 of men that are the hottest?

01:12:53.080 Yes.

01:12:54.200 Where do I find that?

01:12:55.480 On Tinder, the top, on dating apps, the most attractive men get all the women.

01:13:01.760 There's a literal like pool of 10 to 20 of the top.

01:13:08.480 Let's say there's, okay.

01:13:09.280 Let's say there's a thousand guys, a thousand men and a thousand women all using Tinder.

01:13:17.540 Let's say, so the top 10%, a hundred of those guys are going to be sleeping with 800 of the

01:13:25.680 women.

01:13:25.960 Yeah, I see what you mean.

01:13:26.980 800 of the women are going to be chasing after the top 100% of those men.

01:13:31.900 So there's not like a literal like pool of them, but there's like people that are like

01:13:36.000 reaping more benefits because they're like getting more success on those apps.

01:13:40.580 And it's like a small amount of people.

01:13:42.540 Because men will gladly sleep with women who are less attractive than them.

01:13:46.460 Right.

01:13:46.980 Okay.

01:13:47.860 I see.

01:13:48.160 Men will sleep down, but they won't commit to you.

01:13:51.160 They'll sleep with you, but they won't commit to you because it's easy access to sex.

01:13:56.760 You listening girls?

01:13:58.380 You're going to give it up?

01:13:59.300 You're going to give up the sugar?

01:14:01.760 What's that?

01:14:02.440 I do that too.

01:14:03.540 What do you do?

01:14:04.320 I sleep with people who are like less attractive than me.

01:14:07.700 Do you?

01:14:08.540 Oh.

01:14:08.900 Yes.

01:14:10.400 Yes.

01:14:10.860 I regret a lot of them, but.

01:14:13.460 Well, okay.

01:14:14.380 What is the circumstances in which you're.

01:14:16.540 Um, I mean, it was, one of them was my childhood crush and he's just ugly now, but I did still.

01:14:22.960 But okay.

01:14:23.380 There's a, so there's another other factor there, right?

01:14:26.460 Well, yeah.

01:14:27.100 And then there's the, there's two others who I just slept with them.

01:14:31.360 They convinced me to, but they were not attractive.

01:14:35.460 Okay.

01:14:37.140 Anyways.

01:14:39.200 Let's stop talking about attraction.

01:14:41.460 We're moving on from the.

01:14:42.840 There's one guy.

01:14:43.560 I slept with him just because he was six foot nine.

01:14:45.320 Well, that's a physical, I mean, a man's, a man's height is a, is a, uh.

01:14:50.640 UCSB baller?

01:14:52.560 Baseball.

01:14:53.340 Oh.

01:14:53.820 I was going to say the UCSB, um, basketball team has been like seven foot.

01:14:58.580 Okay.

01:14:59.140 So for women, height is an attraction trigger.

01:15:03.040 So, I mean, that's a physical attraction.

01:15:06.680 I just was six foot nine.

01:15:08.020 That's insane.

01:15:08.960 How did he fit in the bed?

01:15:09.460 How big was his peen?

01:15:10.780 He also was on a bunk.

01:15:15.960 Jesus Christ.

01:15:17.460 On the top?

01:15:18.380 Yeah, the top bunk.

01:15:19.960 What?

01:15:21.100 All right.

01:15:21.480 He was like texting me.

01:15:22.400 I was like, I don't know.

01:15:22.580 Jubilee, you're a degenerate.

01:15:24.120 You're such a degenerate Jubilee.

01:15:25.660 I'm kidding.

01:15:26.100 I'm kidding.

01:15:26.560 Much love.

01:15:27.500 Okay.

01:15:28.320 Um.

01:15:30.440 Okay.

01:15:30.840 Let's do some super chats.

01:15:31.960 Then we'll, we'll react to the, the, uh.

01:15:35.420 Dating profiles of the girls on the panel.

01:15:38.380 This is our first time doing that, by the way, guys.

01:15:40.080 Okay.

01:15:40.320 So we have, I believe, uh, yo, Leonardo Nocaprio.

01:15:44.620 Thanks for the 10 Canadian dollars.

01:15:46.460 Jabba, you poor thing.

01:15:47.380 Your beloved ex was co-opted by ominous forces.

01:15:51.860 His tragic demise is a common tale.

01:15:55.080 It's not an accident.

01:15:56.680 Okay.

01:15:57.260 Leonardo Nocaprio.

01:15:58.160 Thank you for the, uh, uh,

01:16:00.080 He's been hating on me.

01:16:00.920 Merci beaucoup pour, uh, pour le dis, uh,

01:16:07.060 I don't know how to say.

01:16:08.580 Merci.

01:16:09.100 Okay.

01:16:09.880 Uh, Miguel Cisneros.

01:16:11.220 Thank you for the $10 soup chat.

01:16:12.440 Appreciate it.

01:16:12.980 Seems like the Aussie has really great assets.

01:16:15.080 Fit check.

01:16:16.180 Um.

01:16:20.280 Andy.

01:16:21.200 Oh, thank you for your compliment.

01:16:23.140 Okay.

01:16:23.480 You want to do a fit check?

01:16:24.620 All right.

01:16:25.160 Leonardo Nocaprio.

01:16:26.300 Merci beaucoup.

01:16:27.460 Uh, thank you for the $10 soup chat.

01:16:29.800 Uh, crikey, that Aussie is a milk.

01:16:32.100 Who piped it down better?

01:16:33.320 Tyrion Lannister or Officer Joe Swanson?

01:16:36.220 Wait, what?

01:16:38.360 Oh, I should get the, wait, yo.

01:16:40.880 Um.

01:16:42.160 Can I just say, you're a genius in terms of good cop, bad cop, banter.

01:16:46.500 Amazing.

01:16:47.080 This is why you've got the YouTube awards all around you.

01:16:50.060 Oh, thanks.

01:16:51.300 Thanks.

01:16:52.500 Um, actually, wait, Sydney, could you grab something from the bathroom for us?

01:16:57.660 Yeah.

01:16:58.140 Do you know what I'm talking about?

01:16:59.000 Could, could you grab that photo of the.

01:17:01.180 Yeah.

01:17:01.560 In the bathroom.

01:17:03.080 Okay.

01:17:03.420 Leonardo Nocaprio.

01:17:05.220 On va retourner à ça.

01:17:07.820 Eh bien, Mike, Mike Davis with the $10 soup chat.

01:17:12.440 I love, I love obese people from my, why am I still speaking?

01:17:16.880 Okay.

01:17:17.160 I love obese people from a business perspective.

01:17:19.360 Those fatties put bread in my pocket so I can't complain.

01:17:21.720 I might have to create a quadruple whopper for some of those creatures.

01:17:26.120 Um, Andy.

01:17:34.340 I was checking him out.

01:17:35.300 Actually, wait, hold on, hold on.

01:17:36.200 No, no, no, hang on a second.

01:17:36.960 I was checking him out.

01:17:37.600 Pull up the tab.

01:17:38.200 Pull up the Burger King tab really quick.

01:17:40.600 Wow.

01:17:41.440 Pull up the, wait.

01:17:47.200 And here we have Mike Davis.

01:17:48.780 See, he agrees with you because he's in, he's a proprietor.

01:17:52.920 It's obvious.

01:17:53.320 He owns seven Burger Kings.

01:17:55.140 He's benefiting from it.

01:17:55.960 He's benefiting from the obesity.

01:17:57.660 That's why I question everything.

01:17:58.780 Yes, it's the Matrix has us.

01:18:02.380 Okay.

01:18:03.020 Um, so Andy.

01:18:03.960 Checked him out already when I was in the bathroom.

01:18:06.120 Speaking of little persons, would you, would you have sex with him?

01:18:12.320 I would love to get to know him.

01:18:13.540 Would you pipe?

01:18:14.240 Would you pipe?

01:18:15.380 Andy.

01:18:16.100 I hope that you're not making fun of this gorgeous man and I would definitely go on a date and get to know him.

01:18:21.120 I would never make fun of someone with a crossbow.

01:18:25.040 Okay.

01:18:26.240 And he is in your bathroom.

01:18:27.720 Why is he there and not out there?

01:18:28.680 And Peter Dinklage is a fantastic, well, cause I don't know, I don't want to spoil anyone for Game of Thrones, but yeah, here it is.

01:18:35.860 Uh, this is in my bathroom and it's kind of nerd comedy.

01:18:40.700 Okay.

01:18:41.200 Anyways, moving on, moving on.

01:18:43.040 Beautiful.

01:18:43.640 Thank you, Sydney, for grabbing that for me.

01:18:45.520 Much appreciated.

01:18:46.700 All right.

01:18:46.940 We got, uh, let's just bring this back up for context.

01:18:50.200 Okay.

01:18:50.680 Oh, wait, we got that one.

01:18:52.640 Robert Gardner.

01:18:53.480 Merci beaucoup for the, what?

01:18:56.220 Oh, this is the rating from the right.

01:18:57.720 Six, two self-involved, six cute, but not 10, five, four, too many tats.

01:19:01.740 No offensive to guy there.

01:19:03.060 I don't know my right or my left.

01:19:04.500 I'm not sure.

01:19:04.960 Yeah.

01:19:05.140 Um, but Robert, thank you for the, I guess the official rating of the night.

01:19:09.440 Every day I grow a $10.

01:19:11.000 Thank you, man.

01:19:11.620 Appreciate it.

01:19:12.020 Sorry, Brian, you're wrong here.

01:19:13.060 I prefer my women with type two diabetes, hypertension, and increased risk of stroke.

01:19:19.660 How do we know that he's not suffering from cardio, whatever, myocarditis from whatever else that's going on this day and age?

01:19:26.380 So just because, are you talking about the, yeah, the juice, the juice?

01:19:30.920 We're talking, we're talking about the vaccine.

01:19:32.540 What juice?

01:19:33.820 Oh, I thought, nevermind.

01:19:34.720 No.

01:19:35.040 Okay.

01:19:35.940 Um, but there's a lot of myocarditis going around.

01:19:38.860 Yeah.

01:19:39.540 Everyday Edgar, can you confirm or not if you have, uh, heart issues?

01:19:44.320 Um, yeah, we really want to know.

01:19:45.460 Uh, DJ Burnout, merci beaucoup pour le Canadien, uh, 10, uh, vraiment, c'est très bien, merci beaucoup.

01:19:54.540 Eh bien, uh, c'est, it's not about overweight women, it's about overweight people.

01:19:59.180 You can find them attractive, but it's down to your own preferences.

01:20:02.580 That girl is just being sad.

01:20:05.000 C'est vrai, but I'm not sad.

01:20:08.420 Okay, she is not sad.

01:20:09.620 Uh, by the way, guys, get your, uh, your super chats in here and, um, we will get to them shortly.

01:20:18.200 Okay, let's do the, very excited for this.

01:20:21.160 Um, hold on.

01:20:22.400 Don't pull it up quite yet, Eric.

01:20:24.280 Um, so, uh.

01:20:30.920 Guys, we are going to review the girls dating app profiles.

01:20:35.800 This is going to go wild.

01:20:37.100 Okay, Eric, if you want to go ahead and pull it up.

01:20:42.700 Okay, so we have Jubilee here.

01:20:44.940 We have Jubilee here first.

01:20:46.600 This is, this is from her Bumble profile.

01:20:49.300 Um, okay, this is her first one.

01:20:51.880 She, she has her pronouns in the bio there, so that's already kind of an eyebrow raise, I guess.

01:20:57.600 Um, just kidding, I'm kidding.

01:20:59.280 Uh, we got, uh, okay, she does nail artists at her home.

01:21:04.480 Um, and, uh, golden hour photo there, so her, you know, she's not as pale.

01:21:10.420 I took that picture.

01:21:11.000 She doesn't look quite as pale as she does in, and you see all her tattoos.

01:21:15.600 Uh, next one, Eric.

01:21:16.300 And then, this is her profile.

01:21:23.280 Uh, take me to Olive Garden, and you automatically win.

01:21:26.300 DMs are open.

01:21:27.100 Java underscore 31.

01:21:28.480 Okay, so, so that means, that means that, uh, she's honestly just trying to grow her Instagram following.

01:21:37.440 If her Instagram is in the thing.

01:21:40.220 She's 5'6", she's a Gemini, yikes.

01:21:43.160 Um, not that I believe in that bullshit.

01:21:46.020 Um, she's a college dropout, apparently.

01:21:49.460 She smokes weed frequently.

01:21:50.980 She smokes cigarettes.

01:21:52.780 She's looking for something casual, which means...

01:21:55.980 I'm too slow with this.

01:21:59.440 Sorry, guys.

01:22:00.280 She belongs to the streets.

01:22:01.920 And she does not want children.

01:22:04.900 No, thank you.

01:22:05.560 And apparently, she likes takeout, hip-hop, country, comedy, and dogs.

01:22:08.460 Mm-hmm.

01:22:09.120 Um, so you don't want children ever?

01:22:10.980 I, I don't see them in my future.

01:22:12.940 I love working.

01:22:14.460 Oh, okay.

01:22:14.920 And then the something casual thing.

01:22:16.940 I don't know where I, like, I don't want, I want a relationship.

01:22:20.780 I don't, so I'd rather just have something casual and just see where that goes.

01:22:25.140 Okay, so, you just want to hit and quit it?

01:22:29.620 No, no, no, no.

01:22:30.680 No, no, no.

01:22:31.440 I made something kind of casual right now-ish.

01:22:34.000 With how many people?

01:22:35.560 Just one?

01:22:36.220 Mm-hmm.

01:22:36.340 Only one?

01:22:37.040 Yeah.

01:22:37.860 Okay.

01:22:39.000 Let's see the next one.

01:22:42.640 After work, you can find me getting tatted.

01:22:45.340 Exhibit A over here.

01:22:47.480 I got one on Sunday.

01:22:48.980 No, yeah.

01:22:49.800 Bring it back.

01:22:51.120 Next one.

01:22:53.840 Okay, next one.

01:22:54.980 These are probably just photos at this point, but keep going.

01:22:58.720 Okay.

01:23:00.280 Next one.

01:23:02.320 Okay.

01:23:02.980 Next one.

01:23:03.600 All right.

01:23:05.460 And stay here for a sec.

01:23:06.720 So, okay.

01:23:08.220 Chat, do you swipe left?

01:23:10.580 So, wait.

01:23:11.140 Left is no.

01:23:12.180 Left is no.

01:23:12.940 Right is yes.

01:23:14.200 Chat, do you swipe yes or no on Jubilee?

01:23:17.600 Is that Goku on your fucking ankle or shin?

01:23:21.180 It's a-

01:23:21.780 Is that Goku Super Saiyan?

01:23:23.420 No.

01:23:24.120 What tattoo is that?

01:23:25.480 It's a skull.

01:23:26.040 My artist designed it.

01:23:26.980 Nah, bruv.

01:23:27.500 That's fucking Goku Super Saiyan level two.

01:23:31.300 Okay, chat.

01:23:32.320 Do you swipe left or right?

01:23:34.720 Oh, the chat is saying.

01:23:38.460 Oh, man.

01:23:39.520 Jubilee, unfortunately.

01:23:41.440 It's a no.

01:23:42.140 It's a no, I guess.

01:23:42.580 It's a no.

01:23:43.720 Okay.

01:23:44.560 I get some good methods.

01:23:45.640 Thank you to Olive Garden.

01:23:46.420 Yeah, we're-

01:23:46.820 I will-

01:23:47.260 Let's get the spread sticks, girl.

01:23:48.440 I would swipe right.

01:23:49.500 Yeah.

01:23:50.260 Let's get one.

01:23:50.840 I'm there.

01:23:51.940 Eric, can you open one of the doors, please?

01:23:55.060 I know.

01:23:55.300 I get some good.

01:23:55.980 People love the tattoos.

01:23:57.000 I don't know.

01:23:58.040 That's like the one that all the guys talk to me about.

01:23:59.740 I'll be walking on the street.

01:24:00.500 That's all people talk to me about.

01:24:01.920 Hmm.

01:24:02.200 So.

01:24:03.760 Eric, can you go to the next one?

01:24:08.300 And now we have-

01:24:09.460 Oh, okay.

01:24:09.820 Next one.

01:24:10.160 My music.

01:24:12.380 All right.

01:24:12.760 Now we have Emma here.

01:24:13.800 This is her Hinge profile.

01:24:15.600 Go, girl.

01:24:16.380 All right.

01:24:16.620 She's got her pronouns in the bio, just in case you have questions about her gender.

01:24:22.520 She's 22, 5'3".

01:24:24.300 I don't know what the emojis are.

01:24:28.040 She would order for the title.

01:24:29.060 I would order oysters and martinis.

01:24:30.620 Ah, okay.

01:24:31.220 Cool.

01:24:31.840 All right.

01:24:32.240 Next one.

01:24:34.700 She's a personal stylist.

01:24:37.660 Ooh.

01:24:39.060 Graduated from UCSB, putting it to good use.

01:24:41.380 From Marin County.

01:24:43.840 That might be a red flag.

01:24:46.040 And this is her-

01:24:48.720 What do you-

01:24:49.320 What is-

01:24:50.020 What is the photo?

01:24:51.000 What's going on here?

01:24:51.960 I'm in a Rolls Royce with the stars on the roof.

01:24:54.440 Your sugar daddy?

01:24:55.720 No.

01:24:56.540 Actually, my best friend Talia.

01:24:58.320 Shout out Talia if you're watching-

01:24:59.460 She has a Rolls Royce?

01:25:00.800 Her sugar daddy does.

01:25:02.660 Her sugar daddy.

01:25:03.520 Of course.

01:25:04.240 The truth reveals itself.

01:25:05.660 Okay.

01:25:06.060 It's not mine.

01:25:06.220 But it's your friend's sugar daddies.

01:25:09.580 Correct.

01:25:10.540 Next one.

01:25:11.220 Go ahead.

01:25:13.280 Do you only hang with guys who have Rolls?

01:25:15.540 LOL.

01:25:15.980 And then you responded, yes.

01:25:17.060 Okay.

01:25:17.780 She's got memes on her dating profile.

01:25:20.060 Next one.

01:25:21.880 I'm looking for an absolute lover boy.

01:25:25.200 Okay.

01:25:25.700 And then this is you.

01:25:26.620 It looks like a little event.

01:25:28.100 Looking, doing the over-the-shoulder, little cute little look there.

01:25:31.680 Okay.

01:25:32.400 Wait.

01:25:32.760 So, when you say you're looking for an absolute lover boy, what does that mean?

01:25:38.120 Someone who's obsessed with me.

01:25:40.300 I don't really get that from the lover boy thing, but okay, you're looking for someone

01:25:43.660 who's-

01:25:43.940 Like a lover boy.

01:25:44.280 Like someone who's in love with me, worships the ground I walk on.

01:25:48.840 From the jump?

01:25:50.320 I don't know.

01:25:51.080 Eventually.

01:25:51.780 Oh, okay.

01:25:53.400 All right.

01:25:54.020 Let's do the next one.

01:25:58.080 Okay.

01:25:58.720 IG.

01:25:59.800 That's my Instagram.

01:26:00.860 And how do you say your last name?

01:26:03.960 Hanako.

01:26:04.640 Hanako.

01:26:05.040 Like Hanako, but with an O, it means flower girl in Japanese.

01:26:08.140 So, you're half white, half Japanese?

01:26:09.940 I'm Japanese, Irish, American.

01:26:11.480 Okay.

01:26:11.980 Rock and roll.

01:26:12.560 Rock and roll.

01:26:13.460 Is your, your dad is-

01:26:15.920 Irish, American.

01:26:16.900 And your mom's-

01:26:17.900 Japanese.

01:26:19.400 But you're-

01:26:19.960 Wait.

01:26:21.300 Are your parents still together?

01:26:22.460 No.

01:26:23.700 Did you revert to your mother's last name?

01:26:27.020 Hanako is my middle name.

01:26:28.780 Oh, okay.

01:26:29.440 Yeah.

01:26:29.520 That's not, that's not your last name.

01:26:30.860 No, yeah.

01:26:31.420 I go by my middle name because nobody can pronounce, spell, or say my last name.

01:26:35.180 Sure, sure, sure, sure.

01:26:35.880 Yeah.

01:26:36.160 Okay.

01:26:36.640 Cool, cool, cool.

01:26:37.720 Next one, Eric.

01:26:39.640 Wait.

01:26:39.980 Actually, hold on.

01:26:40.620 Stay on this one.

01:26:41.500 So, the IG thing in the dating bio.

01:26:44.900 Yeah.

01:26:45.260 When I see that, that suggests to me, you're just trying to get some followers.

01:26:49.740 No, I just, I don't have that many pictures up.

01:26:51.820 And I have way, I have like, you know, a bunch of pictures on my Instagram.

01:26:54.960 So, check me out there.

01:26:55.880 I like to stalk.

01:26:56.960 I feel like guys do too.

01:26:57.920 I think it's really important for people to actually present their other forms of social

01:27:02.240 media to ascertain whether the person's a fake profile or not because you could be chatting

01:27:05.920 to someone on a dating app and not realize that they're not even real.

01:27:09.920 So, at least she's being transparent and you can check her out and see she's a real person.

01:27:13.600 And I rather talk in the DMs than like on the dating app.

01:27:16.360 I look better on Instagram too.

01:27:17.860 This is just, you know, five pictures and two memes.

01:27:20.800 Okay.

01:27:21.400 All right.

01:27:22.720 Next one, Eric.

01:27:24.580 And a picture.

01:27:26.300 This could be us.

01:27:27.220 Okay.

01:27:27.420 So, you want, are you the cat or are you the dog?

01:27:31.900 You're the kitty.

01:27:32.480 She's the little spoon.

01:27:33.600 Yeah.

01:27:34.380 Okay.

01:27:34.880 Good to know.

01:27:35.540 Good to know.

01:27:36.580 Go ahead.

01:27:37.420 Or wait.

01:27:38.060 Sorry.

01:27:38.400 Stay on this one.

01:27:39.260 Or actually, can you go back?

01:27:40.540 I don't know if you can go back.

01:27:41.660 Fuck.

01:27:41.800 I don't know the code for it.

01:27:44.440 I guess you can go out of F11 and then you can, and then you can go put it back on like

01:27:51.720 one of her photos, I guess.

01:27:52.820 So, we'll ask the chat.

01:27:55.520 Okay.

01:27:56.120 I mean, they're already.

01:27:58.160 I don't think the chat could handle me to be fair.

01:28:01.140 Okay.

01:28:01.720 Chat.

01:28:02.680 Do you swipe yes or swipe no?

01:28:04.340 Do you swipe left or swipe right on?

01:28:06.460 Well, I think on hinge it's X or heart.

01:28:10.520 So, yes or no.

01:28:11.800 Chat, do you swipe yes or no on Emma?

01:28:16.100 Wait.

01:28:16.460 Is it yes or no or left or right?

01:28:17.960 Left is no.

01:28:18.920 Left is also a no just because hinge is a bit different, but god damn.

01:28:24.580 Y'all are brutal.

01:28:25.420 Oh, my God.

01:28:26.320 There's a couple rights.

01:28:27.520 There's a couple rights.

01:28:28.180 I thought I was going to find the love of my life in this chat.

01:28:30.820 My heart's broken.

01:28:32.100 Your heart is broken.

01:28:33.360 Unfortunate.

01:28:33.920 Where am I going to find my lover boy now?

01:28:36.220 That's a good question.

01:28:37.260 Not here.

01:28:38.020 Yeah.

01:28:38.620 Okay.

01:28:38.940 Let's go to the next one.

01:28:39.940 All right.

01:28:42.920 We have Sydney here.

01:28:44.200 Yeah.

01:28:45.100 Big Sydney in the house.

01:28:46.800 That's a gorgeous photo.

01:28:48.280 Thank you.

01:28:49.280 Big dog, Sydney.

01:28:50.420 Okay.

01:28:50.800 Sydney, this is her Tinder.

01:28:53.180 So, we're doing a hat trick here of all the different dating apps.

01:28:56.940 Gym Junkie, always down for random adventure.

01:28:58.880 Oh, well, I think this will be in your bio.

01:29:00.520 So, next photo.

01:29:04.120 Sydney, actress at Actress, goes to UCSB.

01:29:07.660 What year are you?

01:29:09.000 This will be my last year.

01:29:10.700 Okay.

01:29:11.060 Tilt the microphone up towards you just a bit.

01:29:12.840 This will be my last year.

01:29:13.620 And also, I did just take it out of my bio like a few days ago.

01:29:17.740 But it used to say, like, I like dates, just at the end.

01:29:21.520 You like dates?

01:29:22.380 I like dates.

01:29:22.900 I think they're fun.

01:29:23.740 Okay.

01:29:24.660 So, she's a gym junkie.

01:29:26.200 She's always down for random adventures, whatever that means.

01:29:29.380 She's a sports photographer.

01:29:31.300 And she includes her Instagram.

01:29:33.400 She does not pet-free.

01:29:35.220 I don't know if that's, you dislike pets or you just don't have any pets.

01:29:38.000 I'm not a crazy pet person.

01:29:40.360 Okay.

01:29:40.600 That's fun.

01:29:41.940 And her interest, Netflix travel, foodie, movies, and her anthem, Some Dude I Don't Know.

01:29:48.540 Okay.

01:29:49.400 Next one.

01:29:51.920 Okay.

01:29:53.900 Filter.

01:29:54.620 All right.

01:29:55.020 Next one.

01:29:55.300 Yeah, that was the only one a long time ago.

01:29:59.900 Okay.

01:30:00.600 That's her next photo.

01:30:01.640 All right.

01:30:03.580 Next one.

01:30:06.440 Okay.

01:30:07.060 Next one.

01:30:07.580 That's you taking a gym mirror selfie.

01:30:12.620 Next one.

01:30:14.540 Next one.

01:30:16.940 Next one.

01:30:18.940 I think this is the last one, so we'll pause here.

01:30:21.780 Repping the whatever background there.

01:30:26.000 So, guys.

01:30:27.460 That needs to be the first photo.

01:30:29.800 Cute.

01:30:31.200 Left or right.

01:30:32.260 Do you swipe left or right on Sydney?

01:30:34.320 Yes or no.

01:30:35.000 Left or right.

01:30:36.520 Yes or no.

01:30:37.640 On Sydney.

01:30:39.220 Or Thickney, as she's sometimes called in the chat.

01:30:42.520 Let's back that up.

01:30:43.620 What?

01:30:43.920 What was that?

01:30:45.020 That's what they call you, Thickney.

01:30:46.400 When has anyone called me that?

01:30:48.080 That's what they call you.

01:30:49.160 What the hell?

01:30:49.920 I've never heard that.

01:30:51.340 Everyone in the chat is always like, Brian, bring Thickney back on.

01:30:54.820 That's what they call me?

01:30:55.980 You're Thickney.

01:30:57.520 I mean, have you seen yourself?

01:31:01.040 It's a compliment.

01:31:02.420 Shit.

01:31:03.040 I've never, I didn't know I was called that.

01:31:05.000 Damn.

01:31:05.400 You're Thickney.

01:31:06.500 All right.

01:31:06.860 It's your official name.

01:31:09.640 Okay.

01:31:10.080 Well, it looks like you're getting some yeses.

01:31:15.080 I don't know.

01:31:16.040 A lot of Thickneys.

01:31:17.160 Okay.

01:31:17.660 Rock and roll.

01:31:18.280 Rock and roll.

01:31:19.500 Okay.

01:31:19.900 So we have a next one.

01:31:24.260 All right.

01:31:24.740 We have Andy's profile here.

01:31:26.580 What, what dating app is this?

01:31:28.740 I forget.

01:31:29.580 No, just kidding.

01:31:30.940 I, I, I've just never been on this one.

01:31:33.220 It's called the league.

01:31:34.000 The league.

01:31:35.200 All right.

01:31:35.800 So Andy, 49, Beverly Hills, five, seven.

01:31:38.580 I'm not your average unicorn.

01:31:40.840 Okay.

01:31:41.320 And often get told I look 15 to 20 years younger.

01:31:44.160 Okay.

01:31:45.060 Wellness is my life.

01:31:47.860 And then because it's this like league app, it just automatically takes everything from

01:31:52.760 your LinkedIn profile.

01:31:54.080 Oh, that's weird.

01:31:54.840 Yeah.

01:31:55.000 It's really weird.

01:31:56.220 I didn't, I only just screenshot one photo for you.

01:31:58.380 Okay.

01:31:58.700 And then next one.

01:32:00.580 There's no photo.

01:32:01.500 It just goes into bio.

01:32:02.520 Yeah.

01:32:02.700 We'll see the bio.

01:32:03.660 Go ahead, Eric.

01:32:06.160 Oh yeah.

01:32:06.720 There's not much else there.

01:32:07.800 Um, okay.

01:32:10.120 So yeah, go back to the other one.

01:32:16.220 And there's just two for, for this one.

01:32:19.380 All right.

01:32:20.720 Um, okay.

01:32:21.840 So you're, you're not your average unicorn.

01:32:26.640 Yeah.

01:32:27.180 Because the thing is, I'm, we're all unique, but I feel like I'm really unique in terms of

01:32:32.040 I'm obviously older, but look younger.

01:32:35.000 And so my energy's much younger as well.

01:32:38.520 And I do attract younger men and they just match my energy.

01:32:42.880 I haven't dated somebody.

01:32:45.400 I haven't actually dated somebody my own age ever in my whole life.

01:32:49.580 Yeah.

01:32:50.760 Even.

01:32:51.360 So you have a kid, correct?

01:32:52.900 Yeah.

01:32:53.700 So.

01:32:55.180 I took some milf.

01:32:56.420 Hold on.

01:32:57.860 But you were, were you married to.

01:32:59.900 Yeah, I've been married before, but anyone that I've ever been with.

01:33:02.380 How many times have you been married?

01:33:03.800 Once.

01:33:04.420 Okay.

01:33:04.620 Just once.

01:33:05.240 But anyone that I've ever been with.

01:33:07.160 Was younger than you.

01:33:08.060 Was always younger.

01:33:09.260 By, what was the closest age gap?

01:33:12.020 Probably the closest is six years, five to six years.

01:33:15.840 And the largest age gap is 22 years.

01:33:19.560 Wait.

01:33:20.000 So hold on.

01:33:20.480 When you were 18.

01:33:22.240 No, no.

01:33:23.020 I'm not telling you when that gap was.

01:33:25.460 I'm just saying that.

01:33:26.700 But when you were like 18, you said you've never dated anyone.

01:33:29.880 Anyone older than you.

01:33:30.600 I didn't start until I was 22.

01:33:33.680 You didn't start dating until you were 22.

01:33:35.880 I didn't have anything intimate until I was 22.

01:33:38.500 Okay.

01:33:38.840 Oh, so you lost your virginity at 22.

01:33:40.740 I lost my virginity when I was sexually assaulted when I was eight.

01:33:44.380 You pushed.

01:33:45.400 I told.

01:33:46.360 Okay.

01:33:46.820 All right.

01:33:47.180 All right.

01:33:47.700 So.

01:33:49.440 So I'm not your average unicorn.

01:33:53.540 Yep.

01:33:54.400 Bump, bump.

01:33:55.080 No sound effects for that one, is there?

01:33:57.160 But okay.

01:33:57.800 So most of the men that you date are younger than you.

01:34:01.440 Yeah.

01:34:01.760 And I think giving you a little bit of that history, because obviously I've had to do a

01:34:05.220 lot of deep work and, you know, some growing and evolving around the very sad act of being

01:34:12.080 a survivor.

01:34:12.840 However, it does attract people who are younger than me, not just because of what I've had

01:34:19.340 to go through, but also because of how I look.

01:34:21.720 I look younger.

01:34:22.620 I act younger.

01:34:23.440 And I attract younger.

01:34:24.820 I just haven't met anyone that's my age that has the same energy.

01:34:29.360 Oh, hold on.

01:34:29.960 Yeah.

01:34:30.320 I don't know why we were still on that.

01:34:32.140 Wait, did we do?

01:34:33.220 No.

01:34:33.520 Oh yeah.

01:34:34.420 We should have.

01:34:35.160 Sorry.

01:34:35.360 I wasn't paying attention to the monitor guys, but, oh, did we do a swipe?

01:34:39.420 Did we do the swipe thing?

01:34:41.340 You guys saw it.

01:34:42.560 Swipe left or swipe right?

01:34:43.680 Well, I don't think it's appropriate to talk about after a heavy thing, but yeah, that's

01:34:47.360 the reality.

01:34:48.040 You brought it up.

01:34:48.580 Well, of course, because this is a show about it's live.

01:34:52.480 You've got to be real.

01:34:53.520 And it's been a very difficult life journey, but here I am.

01:34:58.520 And I think it's half the reason why I'm aging slower because I've been able to deal

01:35:05.280 with trauma and turn my trauma into wisdom.

01:35:09.740 Okay.

01:35:10.400 So the unicorn thing though, let's talk about that.

01:35:12.700 So you're a unicorn.

01:35:13.640 I think that just answers it though.

01:35:15.160 So it's just basically, it's my way of describing that I'm different, you know, and we all are.

01:35:21.720 Okay.

01:35:22.280 Yeah.

01:35:23.160 Hold on.

01:35:23.880 What's the definition of a unicorn in like urban dictionary?

01:35:27.040 It's like sexually oriented, isn't it?

01:35:30.060 Is it?

01:35:30.400 Well, no, there's the unicorn thing where it's like someone looking for a third in their threesome.

01:35:35.940 Yeah, that's what it was.

01:35:36.480 But that's not what I'm talking about.

01:35:37.820 Oh, wow.

01:35:37.860 That's different interpretations.

01:35:40.160 Maybe they're horny?

01:35:41.440 What the...

01:35:42.320 I don't know.

01:35:44.020 I know that...

01:35:45.380 I think it's like Scotland or something.

01:35:47.280 That's their like national animal.

01:35:49.060 I don't remember where...

01:35:50.060 Wait, what?

01:35:50.640 Scotland?

01:35:51.580 Yeah, there's...

01:35:51.740 I don't know if it's Scotland or not, but there's somewhere with the national animal

01:35:54.600 of a unicorn.

01:35:56.220 Oh.

01:35:57.100 It's amazing.

01:35:58.060 Okay.

01:35:59.760 Anyways, whatever.

01:36:00.640 Unicorn.

01:36:01.220 Okay.

01:36:01.500 That kind of ties into the whole time thing.

01:36:02.840 I guess everybody has a different definition of how they describe themselves because, you

01:36:07.140 know, Emma was saying what that meant for her.

01:36:10.340 Remember when you were...

01:36:11.600 You weren't me?

01:36:12.620 No, not...

01:36:13.220 Are you horny right now?

01:36:14.900 No, I thought we were talking about the unicorn.

01:36:16.400 It's okay if you are.

01:36:17.340 No.

01:36:18.840 She's had some wine.

01:36:19.820 It's okay.

01:36:21.220 She's wine drunk.

01:36:22.460 Okay.

01:36:22.800 No, I just thought we were talking about the unicorn and what it meant.

01:36:25.160 No, when she said lover boy, like her definition of lover boy is different to my definition

01:36:29.300 to your definition and my definition of unicorns about being really unique and different.

01:36:34.300 Totes.

01:36:35.440 Totes my goats.

01:36:37.480 Good times.

01:36:38.100 It's okay.

01:36:40.080 I've never been more confused on this show.

01:36:42.680 This is my fourth time on and I'm struggling to keep up just a little bit.

01:36:48.960 You drank too much of the wine, Sydney.

01:36:50.620 I only drank water.

01:36:51.740 How dare you?

01:36:53.040 Okay.

01:36:53.300 So, we have a video from Andy.

01:36:57.700 We have a video from your TikTok we're going to react to.

01:37:00.260 Don't worry.

01:37:00.600 It's a good one, I think.

01:37:02.020 Where did you find that so quickly?

01:37:03.900 It's on her TikTok.

01:37:05.140 If you...

01:37:05.360 Eric, can you pull up the video and play it?

01:37:10.900 By the way, I hardly...

01:37:12.400 There's three common mistakes that people...

01:37:14.520 Oh, yeah, this one's good.

01:37:15.660 Oh, I'm excited.

01:37:16.580 I need to learn.

01:37:18.640 I hardly use TikTok, but I'm trying to.

01:37:20.700 Some mistakes that you can make on their dating app profiles.

01:37:23.140 Don't ever put, if you can make me laugh, then we'll get along.

01:37:27.020 It's not about what the person can do for you, but rather what you can actually contribute

01:37:31.780 to the relationship.

01:37:32.520 What are you bringing to the table as well, instead of always looking for what they can

01:37:36.720 give to you?

01:37:38.020 Don't start off the conversation with a compliment about their aesthetics.

01:37:41.500 People feel more connected and drawn to you when you give them a compliment about their

01:37:45.660 character, and that's what we're all looking for now.

01:37:48.780 Real connection.

01:37:50.680 Don't waste hours, days, or weeks chatting to someone that you haven't even ascertained

01:37:54.820 if they're a real person.

01:37:56.240 Always suggest a video call to make sure that not only they're not a fake profile, but also

01:38:01.280 that you do have connection before meeting up.

01:38:03.840 No, no, no, no, no, no.

01:38:05.900 It's so true, though.

01:38:07.480 Somebody, one of the, you know, audience said something like, just because you go to their

01:38:11.320 Instagram doesn't mean that they're a real person.

01:38:13.180 That is so true, because a lot of people make fake Instagram profiles, too, to try and pretend

01:38:19.300 that they're a real person.

01:38:20.360 So you have to pick up the phone and do a video call with them, and every dating app

01:38:24.200 always has that now.

01:38:25.760 And then you don't have to give out your phone number, so you can feel safe.

01:38:28.940 Snapchat's fine, too.

01:38:29.800 Huh?

01:38:30.440 Snapchat?

01:38:31.120 Yeah, Snapchat.

01:38:32.000 Personally, I'm not FaceTiming someone before the date.

01:38:34.560 Like, I'm not, like, I only FaceTime people that I'm very comfortable with, but before

01:38:38.160 first date, I'm not FaceTiming anyone.

01:38:40.000 I feel like that's what the first date is for.

01:38:42.720 And I don't know, like, I always have, like, these, like, certain, like, Tinder rules,

01:38:46.380 but, like, public place, not nighttime, you know, like, no hiking, like, shit like that.

01:38:51.120 But I am not, I'm not FaceTiming somebody before I go on a date with them.

01:38:55.220 I don't want to go, that's a little bit awkward.

01:38:57.220 Like, I'm just not, that's not for me.

01:38:59.680 Did the full video play, by the way?

01:39:01.340 I think, yeah.

01:39:02.320 Did you watch the full thing?

01:39:03.340 Yeah, that's not for me.

01:39:05.080 We're just talking about how to ascertain if they're a fake profile on a dating app before

01:39:10.820 you meet up, and you could just video call them, and Sydney was saying she doesn't like

01:39:15.320 doing that.

01:39:15.660 She likes to be the surprise when she meets them in real life.

01:39:18.260 Well, not necessarily the surprise, it's just, like, it's awkward enough to have a first

01:39:21.140 date, and, like, you can vibe off of that.

01:39:23.080 I'm not going to, like, prop my phone up and have a conversation with a person like that.

01:39:26.780 I don't even like doing that with some of my friends, let alone a guy.

01:39:29.140 I agree with you that.

01:39:30.500 FaceTime, Sydney, and it's fine.

01:39:31.720 I don't answer you.

01:39:32.240 Yeah, so, all the other stuff, I mean, I actually agree with you pretty much on everything in

01:39:36.580 the video.

01:39:38.240 I don't like to do, before a date, I won't do a FaceTime, but I will do, I'll try to

01:39:42.220 get their Instagram, so I can see their Instagram.

01:39:44.700 Because you can tell if it's pretty fake than that.

01:39:45.700 I'll do a phone call.

01:39:47.200 I like to do a phone call, but FaceTime, that's kind of weird.

01:39:50.320 I'd rather the first time, like, we see each other, that's face-to-face, but I'll do a

01:39:53.800 phone call before a first date.

01:39:55.340 So, if I have their Snapchat, they send me a picture or whatever, then I'm like, okay, cool.

01:39:59.240 I mean, most of the time, it's, I mean, just statistically speaking, it's unlikely that

01:40:05.260 in any given scenario, you're getting, like, catfish, or it's, like, a fake, but a phone

01:40:10.820 call, and when, at least for me, if it's a woman's voice, like.

01:40:15.760 You're fine.

01:40:16.680 What if it's an obese woman, Ryan?

01:40:18.240 I'm probably okay.

01:40:18.800 Then I'm in trouble.

01:40:20.960 Then you gotta find out.

01:40:22.980 That just reminded me of something.

01:40:24.960 I, when, a few years back, when I first came to America, I went on Tinder, I matched with

01:40:30.260 this amazing-looking guy with a six-pack.

01:40:33.040 He was a violinist, a professional violinist, and the guy that I was staying with said, don't

01:40:38.220 you actually want to bring him to the house so I can check him out before you actually

01:40:41.540 meet him?

01:40:42.040 I was like, good point.

01:40:42.760 I'm gonna make him pick me up here so that you can meet him, and we can suss him out for

01:40:46.400 half an hour.

01:40:47.180 So, he came over, and he was actually very overweight.

01:40:51.920 He did not look like his photos, and I remember at the time, like, looking at my friend going,

01:40:59.440 wow, like, because people put old photos of themselves or filters, but old photos is a

01:41:04.500 whole thing as well.

01:41:05.560 I still went out with the guy, and we ended up dating, had the best time.

01:41:08.960 I didn't even care what he looked like, because, like, he was the hottest violinist, sexy,

01:41:14.140 tall, whatever.

01:41:15.220 Okay, so he didn't have a six-pack anymore.

01:41:17.320 Wasn't a thing.

01:41:18.620 But, I'm just saying, make sure that you're okay with the person not looking like their

01:41:23.160 photo, and so that's why it's really good to just do a video.

01:41:25.760 Wait, so he looked much different than how he did in his photos?

01:41:28.740 So much.

01:41:29.140 Well, I mean, besides you not caring, but from a physical perspective, to me, that's like

01:41:35.620 a deception there that on its face, on its own, is kind of like...

01:41:40.140 But because he rocked up to the house and had, like, a half-hour chat with my friend,

01:41:44.220 I thought that was being honest and real, too.

01:41:46.280 So I think it was a bit circumstantial.

01:41:47.820 I kind of gave him ten points for that.

01:41:49.080 All right, you gave him a pass on the catfishing, but, you know, whatever.

01:41:52.740 And I asked him about it, and he said he was on some kind of, like, I don't know, those

01:41:56.480 meds that make you shredded and stuff, and I'm like, good on you for not doing that

01:41:59.960 shit anymore.

01:42:01.320 Okay.

01:42:02.120 All right.

01:42:03.220 Interesting.

01:42:03.840 Interesting.

01:42:04.140 I kind of understand that, like, I've been on, like, those dates, like, I'm, like, when

01:42:08.360 I moved to Santa Barbara a year ago, like, I was bodybuilding, and so, like, I was a

01:42:12.320 lot, like, slimmer then than I was now.

01:42:15.300 What?

01:42:15.980 Nothing.

01:42:18.000 No, I was.

01:42:18.660 I was bodybuilding for a year when I first came out here, and then I, like, hit college,

01:42:22.120 and I was like, I can't do that anymore.

01:42:24.140 But then, yeah, I don't know.

01:42:27.320 I can understand, like, the whole, like, getting to know person before you go on the date.

01:42:29.720 Like, the other night, I, like, had a phone call with someone, but, like, FaceTime

01:42:33.080 is just, like, it's just awkward.

01:42:34.620 I can't.

01:42:35.360 I can't.

01:42:35.800 Like, I feel like that's what the first date is for, you know?

01:42:37.680 That way you do it in a public place at a restaurant, and then you always, like, text

01:42:40.920 your girlfriend, like, an emoji to call you and get you out of there.

01:42:43.000 I've definitely had to do that a few times.

01:42:44.520 I was on a date, like, two weeks ago.

01:42:47.600 You know everything happened.

01:42:48.600 And I knew exactly what he looked like.

01:42:51.320 Everything was cool.

01:42:51.820 He was really attractive, and I met up with him.

01:42:54.300 His personality was too much.

01:42:56.020 It was, like, a lot, but he was really attractive, but I still, like, didn't talk to him anymore

01:42:59.880 because his personality, like, we just did not vibe right.

01:43:03.760 But he was attractive, but that didn't matter to me.

01:43:06.660 I was like, his personality was just off.

01:43:09.740 So, you could still be attracted to someone, but their personality is just like, no.

01:43:14.220 How was he being too, whatever, articulated?

01:43:20.360 I don't know if he was nervous or what, or that's just his personality, but he didn't

01:43:25.920 really let me get a word in, and he was just talking a lot and kind of just about the most

01:43:30.840 random things.

01:43:31.960 He didn't let you get a word in because you're pretty talkative.

01:43:36.840 Yeah, I know.

01:43:37.840 That's what I was thinking.

01:43:39.440 But he kind of started talking about the most random things ever.

01:43:43.220 Like what?

01:43:44.220 Just anything that was on top of his head, like, and they're just, like, talking out

01:43:48.600 loud, like, thinking out loud.

01:43:51.280 He must have been nervous.

01:43:52.800 Yeah.

01:43:53.820 But.

01:43:54.760 Yeah, I mean, that's definitely a yikes when the person's just, all they're doing is talking.

01:44:00.440 I mean, I talk a lot, but I was just surprised that, like, he seemed, like, cool.

01:44:04.760 We were texting for days before then, and then, but my main point is that you can still think

01:44:09.560 someone's attractive, but personality-wise, it's like.

01:44:11.820 You know what, though?

01:44:12.460 I think men might fall into talking too much because a lot of men's experiences on a date

01:44:20.520 is they show up, and the conversational burden falls on the guy.

01:44:25.800 Like.

01:44:25.900 No.

01:44:26.960 Yeah.

01:44:27.560 I talk a lot, so it's never a problem for me.

01:44:29.520 If I show up on a date, and I do what most girls do, which is just show up, if I didn't

01:44:35.400 say anything, the girl would not say anything, and it would be an awkward silence.

01:44:40.060 But do you think that's because he's a good communicator?

01:44:42.380 I have the opposite problem.

01:44:43.560 You're a good communicator, though.

01:44:45.000 Maybe they're expecting that from you because they know you're a good communicator.

01:44:48.420 Am I, though?

01:44:49.340 I go and I talk a lot.

01:44:51.480 I talk a lot.

01:44:52.280 So I was surprised that he, like, would not let me get a word in.

01:44:55.100 And, like, everything was fine.

01:44:55.980 Like, he, like, got me some Chick-fil-A.

01:44:57.420 I was, like, fine with that.

01:44:58.340 Yeah.

01:44:58.600 But also, it was, like, raining, so we couldn't really do a lot, but.

01:45:01.400 I honestly like it if the girl's just talking the entire time.

01:45:04.140 That's literally, that's my problem.

01:45:05.580 Yeah.

01:45:05.600 I rather talk.

01:45:06.940 It's, like, at the end of the date, I'm like, God, it was so great.

01:45:09.400 Like, oh, what's he like?

01:45:10.680 I have no idea.

01:45:11.780 I've talked about myself the entire time.

01:45:14.080 I don't know.

01:45:14.280 We were, like, talking about his friends.

01:45:15.360 It was just, like, a weird date.

01:45:17.780 And then we just not, we didn't talk after that.

01:45:20.720 Oh, wow.

01:45:21.860 Yeah.

01:45:22.400 So you guys hooked up then?

01:45:23.680 No.

01:45:24.600 No?

01:45:25.020 No.

01:45:25.540 He got you Chick-fil-A.

01:45:27.360 He did.

01:45:28.600 That wasn't, that wasn't enough to seal the deal?

01:45:31.360 No.

01:45:32.000 Jabba.

01:45:33.880 Love you, my Chick-fil-A, though.

01:45:35.360 Okay.

01:45:36.400 What was the first part of the video?

01:45:38.200 It was something about standards, right?

01:45:40.340 Oh, it was, like, people in their dating profiles, they often list, here's what I'm looking for.

01:45:46.640 Here's what I want.

01:45:47.580 If you can make me laugh, then we'll get along.

01:45:50.380 A lot of people do put that.

01:45:51.540 They're, like, make me laugh, and then we'll be an item.

01:45:54.780 It's, like, what are you bringing to the table?

01:45:56.480 Yeah.

01:45:56.880 Like, you should be advertising yourself instead of saying...

01:45:59.600 What can you make me do?

01:46:01.000 Here's what I want.

01:46:02.440 Instead, you should say, here's how I'm cool.

01:46:05.100 Here's...

01:46:05.220 Yeah.

01:46:05.380 I'm going to contribute to this.

01:46:06.900 I mean, I have to pick me to Olive Garden, so...

01:46:09.160 Yeah.

01:46:11.260 I've gotten offers.

01:46:13.120 Is that...

01:46:13.680 Are you memeing, or is that legit?

01:46:15.160 No, I love Olive Garden.

01:46:16.220 I really want to...

01:46:16.780 What?

01:46:17.160 Yeah, I don't...

01:46:17.880 Olive...

01:46:18.520 Hold on.

01:46:19.020 Oh, she's very serious.

01:46:20.580 Hold on.

01:46:20.840 Oh, I'm really serious about it.

01:46:21.960 You're telling...

01:46:22.860 You're telling me you like Olive Garden.

01:46:25.680 Yeah.

01:46:26.560 Oh, yeah.

01:46:27.920 Are you sure?

01:46:28.900 Yeah.

01:46:33.300 Yeah.

01:46:36.500 I love it.

01:46:37.400 It's so good.

01:46:39.160 They've never had any pasta right now.

01:46:40.960 I'm not changing my mind.

01:46:48.640 Okay.

01:46:49.780 Okay.

01:46:50.640 All right.

01:46:50.980 I'll make her drag me there.

01:46:51.860 If you say so.

01:46:52.680 If you say so.

01:46:54.180 Okay, so, question.

01:46:57.620 Let's speak a bit about standards, right?

01:47:00.920 Who do you think has more unrealistic standards, men or women?

01:47:03.880 Let's start over here with you.

01:47:05.400 Actually, let's start with Brandon.

01:47:07.500 No, wait.

01:47:08.500 Let's do the girls, then we'll do Brandon.

01:47:09.840 Go ahead.

01:47:10.140 Why do I want to do Brandon?

01:47:11.540 I don't want Brandon to...

01:47:12.660 I kind of want to hear what he has to say.

01:47:14.100 Huh?

01:47:14.540 I kind of want to hear what he has to say.

01:47:15.960 Actually, we can...

01:47:16.680 On this one...

01:47:17.060 I think a lot of people want to hear what they got to say.

01:47:18.460 A lot of people want to do Brandon.

01:47:19.740 So, first and foremost, right?

01:47:22.080 Everybody's talking about this fake, artificial world of, you know,

01:47:26.560 communicating via your cell phone, your laptop, whatever.

01:47:30.560 It's fake.

01:47:31.720 It's fake.

01:47:32.380 It's fake.

01:47:32.940 It's fucking fake.

01:47:33.800 There's real people on there posting stuff.

01:47:36.460 They may have actually went to a place and took the picture,

01:47:38.780 but in general, anybody can fake a life they're having online.

01:47:42.980 Oh, yeah.

01:47:43.200 So, to sit down and have a real conversation about real values

01:47:47.120 and real things that people are interested in or not interested in,

01:47:51.060 going off a demographic of fake,

01:47:53.640 of an artificial world that people can create and make whatever they want,

01:47:57.600 does no one justice.

01:47:58.980 And you're never going to find an answer,

01:48:00.420 and that's why you go around and around in circles over it,

01:48:02.700 because there's no real way to get any kind of justice out of being real from a fake platform.

01:48:09.520 You know what I'm saying?

01:48:09.720 Some people are real about their shit, but 90% of the people are fake as fuck.

01:48:13.760 You know what I'm saying?

01:48:14.960 And, you know, that, for me, is a turnoff.

01:48:19.980 It's a turnoff.

01:48:20.700 It's not real.

01:48:21.300 I'm not interested in it.

01:48:23.780 You know what I'm saying?

01:48:25.120 And, you know, there's people dropping chats.

01:48:27.240 I'm sorry, but I had to read a couple of them.

01:48:28.600 You know what I mean?

01:48:29.020 But, you know, yeah, that's it for me, man.

01:48:33.060 I mean, when it comes down to social media, it's fake.

01:48:36.820 I don't take it serious.

01:48:38.580 When I came out of prison and people were texting me,

01:48:40.580 man, don't text me.

01:48:41.320 I don't like that.

01:48:41.880 I don't know what you mean by that.

01:48:43.900 Are you serious?

01:48:44.940 Was that an insult?

01:48:46.260 Was there a smirk behind it?

01:48:47.580 So, for a lot of people and people that take life, you know, serious,

01:48:53.040 but not so much themselves, that's a hindrance.

01:48:56.700 You know what I mean?

01:48:57.900 And, you know, yeah, there you go, Jerry Arctic.

01:49:02.180 Fake, fake, fake.

01:49:03.140 You know what I'm saying?

01:49:03.700 So, don't expect realness out of something that's fake

01:49:07.020 and something that's a platform where everybody can go and just shit in it

01:49:10.380 and make whatever they want to be true and lie about who they are

01:49:13.800 and lie about where they're at.

01:49:14.960 And you're going to get the majority of that on social media.

01:49:18.180 So, to try to pull realness out of that, wasting your time.

01:49:22.000 Are you talking about, like, dating apps or what?

01:49:24.060 100%.

01:49:24.460 Dating apps, the majority of social media.

01:49:27.440 I personally follow Sydney.

01:49:29.460 I like her posts.

01:49:30.560 I think they're very authentic.

01:49:31.720 I think they're real.

01:49:32.560 I don't think she's putting too much on her posts and stuff like that.

01:49:36.040 I would.

01:49:36.820 I just don't know how to edit.

01:49:38.540 I'm not a technology person.

01:49:40.180 I can't edit for shit.

01:49:41.660 So, thank you.

01:49:42.980 Personally, I'm glad that you don't because if you did do stuff like that,

01:49:45.580 I probably wouldn't follow because I'd see right through it, like,

01:49:47.660 oh, she's just being like every other girl.

01:49:49.240 You know what I'm saying?

01:49:49.880 Yeah, thank you.

01:49:50.500 But I don't see that, particularly from her posts.

01:49:53.860 So, don't expect something real out of a platform that's fake.

01:49:58.280 Word?

01:49:59.260 Word?

01:50:00.440 Yes.

01:50:00.880 Not that everyone that's on there is fake.

01:50:02.500 I'm on there.

01:50:03.060 But the majority, anyone can lie about it and who's going to know?

01:50:06.060 You know, so.

01:50:06.600 Yes, Sydney's a real one.

01:50:10.400 She's been on the show four times.

01:50:11.980 Sydney's a real one.

01:50:12.960 All right.

01:50:14.340 Let's not think that.

01:50:15.700 Yo, chat.

01:50:16.660 Can we get just thick knees in the chat?

01:50:18.860 No.

01:50:19.980 That's all right.

01:50:20.340 I want to see the chat spam thick knee.

01:50:22.280 Okay.

01:50:23.160 So, just going back to the question.

01:50:25.060 So, who do you think has more unrealistic standards, men or women?

01:50:28.120 I mean, I know for myself, I have pretty unrealistic standards just because I saw my parents' relationship

01:50:34.980 and it was really, really bad.

01:50:36.760 And I've just based my standards off of that.

01:50:39.160 So, I know they're very, very high and much higher than the people I've talked to.

01:50:44.300 But I think overall, like, I don't know, women tend to have higher standards.

01:50:49.820 Okay.

01:50:50.440 Which, I mean, I kind of like that because guys kind of suck.

01:50:55.780 What?

01:50:55.960 And, like, you're going to have to qualify that statement.

01:51:01.040 What do you mean guys kind of suck?

01:51:02.540 The last few guys I've, like, talked to, they, the last one in particular, I really am having

01:51:09.980 some stuff with him.

01:51:10.880 I really don't.

01:51:12.100 Yes.

01:51:13.780 He led me on for, like, four or five months and was, like, saying, oh, I want a relationship

01:51:20.260 with you.

01:51:20.740 Like, you're so amazing.

01:51:21.820 And his parents came into town to meet me and so did his grandparents.

01:51:24.300 And then three days after that, he ghosted me for a week and then told me, he called

01:51:29.680 me and told me he didn't want a relationship.

01:51:31.340 And then I found out through one of his best friends that he was fucking his ex.

01:51:37.080 What?

01:51:37.820 Was this after he ended things with you, so to speak?

01:51:41.520 No.

01:51:41.680 Or before?

01:51:42.360 Before.

01:51:42.740 But before, had you guys had a conversation about being monogamous and exclusive?

01:51:50.660 Yeah.

01:51:50.880 Okay.

01:51:51.060 We were like, yeah, we're not in a relationship.

01:51:53.120 Like, I'm not fucking anyone else.

01:51:54.940 You're not fucking anyone else.

01:51:56.000 We want to keep it that way.

01:51:57.160 And that was overt communication?

01:51:59.140 Yeah.

01:51:59.480 You guys had that conversation?

01:52:01.180 Yeah.

01:52:01.600 Okay.

01:52:02.400 So that was the last guy.

01:52:03.500 Then you said there was a couple more.

01:52:05.720 Yeah, they were, they just cheated on me a bunch.

01:52:10.160 Okay.

01:52:10.720 And, I mean, that was kind of, I like to say it's my fault because I kind of, I guess,

01:52:16.660 let them do that.

01:52:18.500 I stayed with them after they did that and was like, yeah, no, it's fine.

01:52:22.460 Just like, if you're going to do it, like, please, like, tell me if you do.

01:52:28.440 Because I kept on finding out through other people and I didn't fuck with that.

01:52:31.300 That's a yikes.

01:52:32.260 I know.

01:52:32.640 That's yikes.

01:52:34.480 Okay.

01:52:35.460 Could it be possible that it's happened to be the guys that you've just, I mean, those

01:52:43.140 are the guys you've chosen.

01:52:44.340 Oh, no.

01:52:44.640 I go for assholes.

01:52:45.920 I've noticed that.

01:52:46.740 It's a pattern.

01:52:47.340 I go for assholes.

01:52:47.980 Should we ask the question?

01:52:49.080 Should we ask the golden question, Brian?

01:52:50.560 Go for it.

01:52:50.900 Go for it.

01:52:51.920 Why is it for the majority of girls, why is it that when you treat girls like dirt,

01:52:58.720 they stick to you like mud?

01:53:00.240 They feel like they can't do better.

01:53:02.640 I mean, you just admitted, though, that you go for-

01:53:12.200 Not that I agree with that, but it is what it is.

01:53:15.340 Well, I mean, I feel like personally, like, when they, like, tear you down enough, like,

01:53:20.160 you genuinely feel like you can't get out and you can't do better.

01:53:22.380 So you stay and you handle it because you're like, oh, well, like, no one else will put

01:53:26.620 up with me like that.

01:53:27.540 But you're also attracted to guys who are like that from the jump, too.

01:53:33.440 Yeah.

01:53:33.460 It's scary.

01:53:33.760 I don't know why.

01:53:36.040 So, okay.

01:53:36.520 You said all of them were assholes.

01:53:38.100 No.

01:53:38.940 Yeah.

01:53:39.640 That's, like, a place.

01:53:40.220 Were they exciting?

01:53:41.980 They were just very, very charming at first.

01:53:44.380 Like, way too charming and I didn't see through it.

01:53:48.800 I really should have.

01:53:49.320 Okay.

01:53:49.340 Too charming.

01:53:50.060 What else?

01:53:50.660 What other traits?

01:53:52.100 Were they good looking?

01:53:53.640 Or-

01:53:53.880 Yes.

01:53:54.600 Very.

01:53:55.280 Very good looking.

01:53:55.900 Actually, the short dude I was talking about earlier is one of them.

01:54:00.020 Okay.

01:54:00.320 He's a Chad.

01:54:01.320 Yeah.

01:54:01.660 I don't like him.

01:54:02.080 Short King Chad.

01:54:03.640 He's an asshole.

01:54:04.860 Okay.

01:54:05.680 Yeah.

01:54:05.860 They're really charming.

01:54:06.920 Digmatized?

01:54:08.120 Digmatized, too?

01:54:08.740 Yeah.

01:54:09.160 Okay.

01:54:09.400 They're, like, super charming and they're, like, exactly like you.

01:54:13.440 Like, their personality.

01:54:14.520 Like me?

01:54:15.240 No, no, no, no, no.

01:54:15.980 Like, um.

01:54:17.260 Wait, what?

01:54:17.800 Hold on.

01:54:17.920 Like, if I'm talking-

01:54:18.680 You did just say, like me, right?

01:54:19.760 No, no, no.

01:54:20.060 Like me.

01:54:21.000 Wait, but you said, like you.

01:54:22.500 Are you talking about me?

01:54:23.360 No, no, no.

01:54:23.840 Me.

01:54:24.580 Like, okay.

01:54:25.220 If you're talking to-

01:54:25.840 They flatter you down and tell you what you want to hear.

01:54:27.960 Mirror your ass.

01:54:29.120 Yeah.

01:54:29.240 Compliment you by behaving like you.

01:54:30.700 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

01:54:31.340 Okay.

01:54:32.400 No, no, no.

01:54:33.060 Not you.

01:54:33.420 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

01:54:34.180 Okay.

01:54:34.500 There's a term for when men treat the women so small, like what Sidney was saying, and

01:54:40.160 they stick around.

01:54:40.680 It's called gaslighting.

01:54:41.880 Oh, yeah.

01:54:42.440 Yeah.

01:54:43.040 But women also stick around when men treat them nicely, too.

01:54:48.400 Do you really just-

01:54:49.120 You just play-

01:54:49.620 I think a lot of girls that have a big ego like that.

01:54:52.740 They like the challenge because most guys simp for them.

01:54:55.980 New word in my vocabulary, that in cap.

01:54:58.760 They kind of just bow down to their shit, but someone who kind of really treats them off

01:55:02.720 because no one else gives them any kind of challenge, they kind of welcome that.

01:55:06.080 Like, ooh, really?

01:55:07.060 Like, okay.

01:55:07.820 Like, I got to get over on this guy because he's treating me differently like dirt than

01:55:14.100 all these other guys that just bow down to my shit.

01:55:16.020 Right.

01:55:16.400 So, there's a character flaw from the gate.

01:55:23.000 So, again, to try to pull reason out of something that's flawed from the gate, you're going to

01:55:26.460 go in circles.

01:55:27.080 It's insanity.

01:55:27.780 Sometimes it's just that beautiful dance between like the cat and mouse as well.

01:55:32.300 Especially when you're younger or dealing with a younger vibe.

01:55:35.320 Yeah, it's, you know, the life is caution to the wind, whatever.

01:55:40.940 So, but ego is the base of a personality that thrives off that, ooh, is that a challenge?

01:55:47.500 Is it-

01:55:47.840 So, you're saying I'm not all that?

01:55:49.140 Like, let me prove you wrong.

01:55:50.600 Let me make you behave the way these other 10 guys behaved by the time I was done with

01:55:55.140 them.

01:55:55.320 And when you don't break and you, man, fuck you or you just-

01:55:57.620 And that is desire.

01:56:00.020 That's what creates desire.

01:56:01.320 Yeah.

01:56:01.740 That's toxic.

01:56:02.540 It's, it's, it's, it's one ego banter after another.

01:56:05.420 And it's never, you're never going to come to a healthy relationship with that being,

01:56:10.540 in my opinion, you're not.

01:56:12.660 Okay.

01:56:13.120 So, you're saying when it's like really bad, you're treating them really bad.

01:56:16.000 Definition of toxic.

01:56:17.000 The sex may be fucking great.

01:56:18.680 Right.

01:56:19.100 But if you guys try to sit down and have a conversation, a decent dialogue, you know,

01:56:23.240 having dinner or with friends, there's always an argument.

01:56:25.980 One person's been hitting the other one.

01:56:27.820 Yeah.

01:56:27.920 It all comes from that, that who's got the power.

01:56:31.540 Whoever, it was in a movie, right?

01:56:34.180 In any relationship, it's sad, but it's true.

01:56:36.960 Whoever cares less has the most power.

01:56:40.140 Wow.

01:56:40.580 In a relationship.

01:56:41.480 Whoever is the first, whoever's the one that's like, well, fuck you more than the other one.

01:56:46.100 They have the power.

01:56:48.380 And I think that's where a lot of that, treat them like dirt, they stick to you like mud,

01:56:51.720 especially if they're insecure, or they've had a couple relationships where they got cheated on.

01:56:56.160 What did I do?

01:56:57.060 How did I fuck up?

01:56:58.240 They're not going to say that, but that's how they feel, and their actions towards that person

01:57:01.900 they're with, they're playing that game with, is going to reflect on how they've been hurt,

01:57:07.220 how they've been.

01:57:08.160 Yeah.

01:57:08.760 I agree that.

01:57:10.180 There's also definitely, like, Brandon, like, I don't know if you've ever had an instance

01:57:14.080 where, like, maybe a girl's been acting up, let's say, and you check her, and then she's,

01:57:19.860 like, turned on, like, she becomes more attracted to you when you check her, and sometimes they'll

01:57:25.620 do that shit intentionally to fucking test you.

01:57:28.000 Girls do that.

01:57:29.240 A hundred percent.

01:57:30.500 A hundred percent.

01:57:31.040 But it's like, to me, that's like, you want to be put in your place.

01:57:34.980 Subconsciously, women, okay, so way back in the day, and not that I'm campaigning for it.

01:57:39.960 It turned into hate.

01:57:40.460 I'm sorry.

01:57:41.000 It turned into hate.

01:57:41.660 I'm sorry.

01:57:42.520 I had to say it.

01:57:44.200 Can you guys just be well-adjusted human beings?

01:57:46.140 Back to the caveman days.

01:57:47.060 Back to the caveman days.

01:57:48.120 What did they do?

01:57:48.800 They took the woman, beat her over the head with the club, drug her in the cave.

01:57:51.640 I texted you about this, right?

01:57:52.660 Goddamn.

01:57:53.640 They drug her in the cave, made her his.

01:57:56.020 Not that that's where shit's supposed to be or where it needs to be, but genetically,

01:57:59.280 women have a programming in their mind where they're expected, at some point, to be dominated,

01:58:04.500 whether it's in the bedroom, being slapped, choked, whipped, all that shit, or, hey, check,

01:58:09.860 you know what, don't, like, verbally check them, maybe not embarrass them or belittle them,

01:58:15.300 but fucking put them in their place.

01:58:17.280 Subconsciously, I feel women desire that.

01:58:20.740 He's kind of not wrong.

01:58:22.060 And if women don't get it in a dialogue, in a social dialogue, they're going to get it in the bedroom.

01:58:27.420 They're going to get fucking dominated one way or the other, or they're just not satisfied, period.

01:58:31.860 It turned into hate sex.

01:58:33.420 Caveman slave.

01:58:34.860 A one.

01:58:36.000 Yeah, we're taking it back prehistoric.

01:58:37.500 No, no, I'm not saying that, like, this is what should happen.

01:58:40.640 This is right.

01:58:41.300 But it's what the cavemen did, so we should do it.

01:58:43.680 No, it's not really what we should do.

01:58:46.000 It's genetically.

01:58:46.820 But it's in our minds.

01:58:47.740 We can't get rid of it.

01:58:48.780 Right, right.

01:58:49.440 I can't unprogram my cavewoman mind.

01:58:52.600 You can't.

01:58:53.260 I just want to get clubbed.

01:58:54.440 Brandon, can I ask you a question?

01:58:55.500 You want to be dominated.

01:58:56.560 Oh, wait, you were talking, you were talking about when you drink.

01:59:02.720 I don't know.

01:59:03.000 Do you want to be dominated?

01:59:04.080 No, no.

01:59:05.620 Wait.

01:59:06.080 Brandon just, no, he just, he does.

01:59:07.800 He loves it.

01:59:08.400 He just came out in the woods.

01:59:10.160 What?

01:59:11.800 I was going to ask, totally fucking derailing the conversation.

01:59:15.400 By the way, I like how classy this wine is, this wine is here.

01:59:18.880 Do you, when you drink the wine, do you take, is your pinky out?

01:59:22.040 Like, how do you do it?

01:59:22.580 I could.

01:59:23.300 How do you do it when you drink?

01:59:24.420 I just do a little pinky out.

01:59:26.060 A little whiff, a little sip.

01:59:27.340 Oh, classy.

01:59:28.780 Warm up.

01:59:29.420 Okay.

01:59:30.340 You guys need to get a room now.

01:59:32.020 Whoa, whoa.

01:59:33.140 Take Kiki with you.

01:59:34.560 Oh, jeez.

01:59:35.980 Devil's threesome if there's ever been one.

01:59:38.320 Back to being dominated.

01:59:40.340 What about women who like to dominate men?

01:59:42.940 Not my tango.

01:59:44.380 But I've done it.

01:59:44.900 I feel like Sydney wants to just, like, put on a black spandex suit and just dominate dudes.

01:59:51.080 Are you programming her?

01:59:51.740 I get that impression from her.

01:59:53.620 Right, Sydney?

01:59:54.420 No, no, no, no, no.

01:59:56.500 How do you girls feel about what I said?

01:59:58.020 Can I ask that question?

01:59:59.040 How do you feel about what I said?

02:00:00.420 Do you find it offensive or do you think there's truth behind it?

02:00:02.160 Yeah, let's start with Emma.

02:00:03.140 What's your take on?

02:00:04.780 On what?

02:00:05.440 On what Brandon is saying.

02:00:07.160 Specifically?

02:00:08.780 Yes.

02:00:09.120 How women genetically have it in their mind.

02:00:11.060 They're hardwired.

02:00:11.880 At some point, they need to be dominated.

02:00:13.540 Even if they resist it.

02:00:14.620 Like, fuck men, pro women.

02:00:15.960 Like, I'm all for it.

02:00:16.600 Whatever.

02:00:16.940 Women power.

02:00:17.680 Sure.

02:00:18.320 But at some point in time, they're not going to be satisfied unless they're dominated either socially or in bed.

02:00:24.240 Okay, but what is that based in?

02:00:26.020 Based on, like, you're saying based in biology and, like, evolution-wise, it's something that we have hardwired in us?

02:00:32.340 Do you think that's an offensive point of view for a guy to say or do you think there's some truth to that?

02:00:36.820 I don't think it's – I'm not personally offended by it and I see where you're drawing that from.

02:00:42.220 I just don't think – I think there's quite a logical fallacy behind that.

02:00:45.300 I don't quite follow it.

02:00:45.700 Explain that fallacy.

02:00:46.420 Just briefly.

02:00:47.260 I would say that there's a lot of things that back in caveman days we were hardwired and programmed for that we –

02:00:54.380 That was a very loose analogy.

02:00:56.480 Right, but in terms of evolution and how society is advanced, like, there's a lot of things that we've outgrown and, I mean, I think at the end of the day, like, sure, we have very primitive urges.

02:01:07.940 The urge to procreate, the urge to, you know, survive, all these things are basic survival instincts.

02:01:15.420 Um, I would say, um, as generally speaking, I don't think that I can confidently say every single woman has the urge to be dominated.

02:01:29.200 No, just you. Just you.

02:01:30.700 Personally, yeah, personally, I prefer – I prefer a man that's dominant.

02:01:35.180 Um, but, again, I would say that with my personality, I'm pretty abrasive, so I kind of like to be – I kind of like to be the boss.

02:01:47.020 I kind of like to run the show.

02:01:48.440 Pull your dick out sometimes and, like, wave it around?

02:01:50.500 If it's a big dick contest, I'm winning.

02:01:53.000 Okay.

02:01:53.560 I think I can put a man in his place just as much as he can put me in my place.

02:01:55.900 But when you're in the bedroom, if you meet a guy and he's not willing to choke you or pull your hair or get very physical with you –

02:02:03.180 I like to boss you and I like to boss guys around.

02:02:05.160 In the bedroom?

02:02:05.920 No, and then in the bedroom.

02:02:07.880 That's the only time where I'm not.

02:02:10.680 I don't know if we should clap for the first part, though.

02:02:13.180 Oh, okay.

02:02:13.700 Second part.

02:02:14.380 The latter, yeah.

02:02:15.340 Second part, fine.

02:02:16.200 That's keeping the first part.

02:02:17.160 That's the cat and mouse dance that he's talking about.

02:02:19.220 That power play, that dance.

02:02:21.720 Isn't that where the word game comes from?

02:02:24.220 He's got no game.

02:02:25.160 She's got no game.

02:02:26.100 This is the game we're talking about.

02:02:27.500 It's the game that we're talking about, absolutely.

02:02:29.840 I think if I can say for myself, I think the best intimacy has been when –

02:02:37.360 because as I was healing as a survivor, I needed to be the dominatrix to feel safe.

02:02:43.240 So I was really enjoying myself in that moment and that's probably why I attracted younger partners

02:02:49.160 who didn't have baggage and all that sort of stuff.

02:02:51.120 And personally, I don't like to be choked.

02:02:52.760 But if I'm in a safe and healthy relationship that's respectful, a little bit of slapping,

02:02:58.940 all that sort of stuff's really healthy.

02:03:00.860 And that – I think the best times I've ever had is where it's a mutual exchange.

02:03:05.300 Okay.

02:03:06.800 Oh, and can I just say sorry?

02:03:08.220 Go ahead.

02:03:08.420 I saw something.

02:03:09.460 I think even going one step further is this psychology where the man actually allows the

02:03:15.540 woman to feel like she's in control, but really he's the one that is.

02:03:19.840 I kind of think that's what's hot.

02:03:21.380 I saw something that said like how it's always like a joke about like, oh, like he wears

02:03:25.500 the pants.

02:03:26.220 Like one of my girlfriends said like, he wears the pants, but I sew him.

02:03:31.020 Or what about – it doesn't matter where –

02:03:32.320 Women don't really sew anymore.

02:03:33.880 I do.

02:03:34.340 I sew.

02:03:35.040 What?

02:03:35.340 Really?

02:03:35.720 Yeah.

02:03:36.200 Really?

02:03:36.440 With a needle?

02:03:37.020 Sure.

02:03:37.600 I mean, not very well, but –

02:03:40.100 I took home egg.

02:03:42.480 Oh, wow.

02:03:43.080 In school.

02:03:43.680 Wow.

02:03:45.000 I cook, I clean.

02:03:46.600 What about it doesn't matter where you get your appetite from as long as you eat at home?

02:03:50.340 Have you heard about that one?

02:03:52.080 On the basis of flirtation?

02:03:53.560 It doesn't matter.

02:03:53.880 Sounds like cheating to me.

02:03:57.400 What'd you think, Sydney?

02:03:59.380 I zoned out a little bit about the –

02:04:01.840 About what I said about how women genetically –

02:04:04.700 Yeah, no, I mean, personally, like I do prefer – I'm trying to figure out my words.

02:04:11.960 I do prefer like a guy that's a little bit more on the dominant side just because like

02:04:15.260 I am bossy and I am controlling and I've like come to terms with that.

02:04:18.920 But I do definitely like to kind of be put in my place in a way because like if like

02:04:24.840 I have ADHD, like I'll just like spiral and if I'm not like, you know, like like put

02:04:28.960 in my place, it like makes that difference, you know?

02:04:30.700 And then it's also that like safety factor.

02:04:32.940 Yeah, so like it gives like a sort of like protection and a sort of safety.

02:04:37.840 So there's a right way –

02:04:38.940 It's like check me but just as quick I can check you.

02:04:40.680 There's a right way – agreed, there's a right way for a guy to go about it and there's

02:04:44.780 a wrong way for a guy to go about it.

02:04:45.580 Yeah, exactly.

02:04:46.520 Can you give me an example of a right way for a guy to check you in a wrong way?

02:04:51.020 So like obviously like –

02:04:53.100 You know what?

02:04:54.740 I'll let you go in.

02:04:55.960 Yeah, you go ahead.

02:04:56.140 The thing is though is that like today a lot of girls will be like – they'll be more

02:05:01.680 attracted to you.

02:05:02.400 They'll be kind of turned on if you check them but there's kind of this new narrative

02:05:07.700 now.

02:05:09.040 Despite that, they're probably still going to be upset at you when you check them.

02:05:12.740 They're going to – well, they're going to feel like – like yeah, their dick's going

02:05:15.640 to come out and they're going to want to –

02:05:17.260 What does check mean anyway?

02:05:18.840 Shut up.

02:05:20.000 Put in your place.

02:05:21.440 I wasn't telling you to shut up.

02:05:22.940 No, so you're telling me –

02:05:23.420 Pretty much, yeah.

02:05:24.020 When somebody checks you, it means like oh, shush.

02:05:26.860 I mean kind of like if I'm arguing with – like I'm very single but like if I'm arguing

02:05:30.500 with my man and – if I'm arguing with my man and we're just like going back and

02:05:34.460 forth and he's just like – he just like puts me in my place or like – I don't

02:05:37.240 know, like kisses me, shuts me up, like something like that, then that's a good

02:05:39.440 way to like check you and like put you in your place.

02:05:41.240 That's nice.

02:05:41.860 I don't think it needs to be like even like insulting.

02:05:45.000 No, it doesn't need to be insulting at all.

02:05:46.080 A lot of the times a good check is like Emma, you're Emma-ing and then I'm like okay.

02:05:50.100 But if they check you with a kiss, that's beautiful.

02:05:53.060 A check can be a look.

02:05:54.300 It can be a –

02:05:54.740 It can be like anything just like kind of like –

02:05:56.580 You know.

02:05:57.180 That's not good wording.

02:05:58.760 Just to like – like next.

02:06:02.480 I liked that.

02:06:03.700 I learned some things.

02:06:04.400 I liked it too.

02:06:05.620 It was going good.

02:06:06.820 Dominant-wise, I mean my last relationship, I was the dominant one.

02:06:09.280 I'm not in bed, but –

02:06:11.040 Have you ever pegged a guy?

02:06:12.340 No.

02:06:12.700 I've been asked.

02:06:13.500 Do you like that?

02:06:14.480 No.

02:06:14.920 I've been asked some guy.

02:06:15.800 I was like, can you peg me?

02:06:16.800 Do you like doing it or just –

02:06:18.240 Pegging?

02:06:18.900 Yeah.

02:06:19.340 What do you mean?

02:06:20.000 Why are you asking?

02:06:20.940 I want to know where you're –

02:06:22.000 It's part of the questions of the podcast.

02:06:23.800 Because my ex was gay, so I thought I'd buy why he's asking.

02:06:26.740 No, he wasn't.

02:06:27.560 Yeah, that's why I was just curious.

02:06:28.760 I've been asked, but you might be bi-curious and there's nothing wrong with that.

02:06:32.880 I'm just asking.

02:06:33.680 Bro, the fucking shade.

02:06:36.120 But I'm just –

02:06:36.800 Good job, Brian.

02:06:38.540 Wasn't the original question about standards?

02:06:41.620 Yeah, I'm trying to get back to that.

02:06:43.720 He's very interested in Pegging.

02:06:45.120 I have more to say.

02:06:46.140 Oh, boy.

02:06:46.440 Okay, so –

02:06:48.000 Bottom line, it's just like if they just come up to you and shut you up in a dominant way,

02:06:54.300 not anything bad, but a dominant way or kiss you or grab you and shut you up that way.

02:06:58.860 You know what, though?

02:06:59.760 I'll tell you this.

02:07:01.360 What's hot?

02:07:03.180 You know what's really attractive for us?

02:07:06.680 Can we have a drum roll, please?

02:07:07.760 What's really attractive is when we don't have to check you in the first place.

02:07:14.480 When a woman simply shuts you.

02:07:15.900 But the nugget's boring, bro.

02:07:17.520 No, no, not for me.

02:07:19.440 Women hate boring.

02:07:19.700 But you have a boy –

02:07:20.600 You have admitted in the past that your love life is a little –

02:07:24.020 Rocky.

02:07:24.680 To each their own, a little bland.

02:07:26.420 It's a little bland.

02:07:27.220 Hold on.

02:07:27.520 What do you mean by bland?

02:07:27.720 And it really irritates me.

02:07:28.920 What do you mean by bland?

02:07:29.600 You don't talk about it.

02:07:30.580 No, it's not that he doesn't talk about it.

02:07:31.900 It's like he's mentioned like, oh, if my girl wants to go out to the club, by all means,

02:07:35.300 I'm not going to go.

02:07:36.220 I'm not interested in that.

02:07:37.300 Done.

02:07:37.480 I'd rather stay in on a Friday night and read a book.

02:07:40.180 Done.

02:07:40.620 Like, to each their own.

02:07:42.000 Everyone has their own.

02:07:42.760 It's a little bland.

02:07:44.560 A little vanilla.

02:07:46.100 Let me just correct you.

02:07:47.900 You like vanilla ice cream, huh?

02:07:49.360 That's your favorite, huh?

02:07:50.200 Are we talking about sex or are we talking in general?

02:07:52.360 What's your favorite ice cream?

02:07:53.380 It reflects.

02:07:54.260 Let's talk about it.

02:07:57.160 I'm just saying because some of the stuff you've said in the past.

02:08:00.980 And again, to each their own.

02:08:03.060 I'm on some top G.

02:08:05.720 I know you are.

02:08:06.300 Shit.

02:08:06.880 Top G.

02:08:07.380 I know you are.

02:08:07.900 You're like, you probably take like, I'm done roasting you.

02:08:10.720 Continue.

02:08:11.560 It's going good.

02:08:12.340 Don't stop.

02:08:12.700 Okay, Sydney.

02:08:13.640 First off, you said, if my girl went to the club, hold on.

02:08:17.960 She would not be my girl if she went to the club.

02:08:20.140 That's exactly where I was going with that.

02:08:22.440 Because that's not something, and to each their own.

02:08:24.320 That's not boring, though.

02:08:25.380 That's being a fucking G.

02:08:28.120 Tell Andrew Tate goes.

02:08:29.180 Not dealing with a girl that's doing the nightlife thing.

02:08:32.560 That's a W in my book.

02:08:34.420 That's exactly, in your book, for like us, for like me, I like going to the club.

02:08:38.120 Dude, that's an L for dudes.

02:08:39.940 If their girl is at the club, that's an L.

02:08:42.160 Take it with you.

02:08:43.020 Aren't you a club promoter?

02:08:43.580 I don't go to this.

02:08:44.240 Okay.

02:08:44.900 Well, Spearman Rhino.

02:08:47.120 Strip club.

02:08:48.080 That's a fancy club.

02:08:49.180 A bit different.

02:08:51.160 Look, for a long-term serious relationship, if my girlfriend's going to the club every weekend,

02:08:56.360 she's not my girlfriend.

02:08:57.320 And that's your thing.

02:08:58.200 She's not my girlfriend.

02:08:58.960 Absolutely.

02:08:59.200 That's your preference.

02:09:00.220 It all depends.

02:09:00.560 Because I don't go to the club.

02:09:02.360 We're going to get you to go to EO's.

02:09:03.660 Take him to Rhino and have him a good time.

02:09:07.560 I'll get you a table, bottles.

02:09:09.540 I don't drink.

02:09:10.600 You don't have to drink.

02:09:11.360 You can look at it.

02:09:13.460 Take him to Rhino and have a blast.

02:09:14.640 It's probably that nasty tap water at EO's.

02:09:17.660 We'll get you some VG.

02:09:18.740 I'm going to need some bottles.

02:09:20.020 Is he a conspiracy theorist?

02:09:22.100 No, it's just like, I'd rather masturbate with sandpaper than go to a...

02:09:29.120 Semen retention, bro.

02:09:30.280 It's a real thing.

02:09:30.920 Oh, I'm on it.

02:09:32.420 I'm on it.

02:09:33.180 But when it comes to going to the nightclub, I would rather masturbate with sandpaper.

02:09:37.400 But the whole point of going to the nightclub all the time isn't to fuck.

02:09:40.020 It's to have a good time, let Dan fucking shingle, to meet people.

02:09:42.640 That's not his good time.

02:09:43.860 It's not a good time.

02:09:44.400 Everyone has, like, some people like to read a book.

02:09:46.460 Is there a good time?

02:09:47.380 It's not a good time.

02:09:48.800 Brian, has your lady department been a little low lately?

02:09:51.640 Has it been on, like, been very dry?

02:09:53.600 But why do you assume that?

02:09:54.920 At a 6.9, you think it's low?

02:09:57.960 You think?

02:09:58.560 Yes.

02:09:59.220 Is your...

02:09:59.560 Is your...

02:10:00.020 Are the ladies not coming in?

02:10:01.420 What?

02:10:02.820 Are you saying that because I don't like to go to the club?

02:10:05.300 Like, what does that have to do?

02:10:06.080 I don't know.

02:10:06.780 Just...

02:10:07.260 You said your mother would masturbate with...

02:10:08.680 What else is there to do in Santa Barbara?

02:10:09.780 No, it's because he rents himself in eight.

02:10:11.000 The beach, the club.

02:10:11.800 That's it.

02:10:12.320 We're not going back to that.

02:10:14.940 Okay.

02:10:15.420 So, I don't know what you're talking about.

02:10:18.020 I'm trying to ask a question.

02:10:19.200 Ad hominem, but...

02:10:21.920 I don't even know...

02:10:22.740 Where the fuck were we going?

02:10:23.800 Standard.

02:10:24.060 Standard.

02:10:24.460 Standard.

02:10:25.020 I want to get into that.

02:10:26.220 No, Sydney.

02:10:26.900 I got to respond to Sydney.

02:10:27.960 Okay, you think I'm vanilla.

02:10:29.700 I'm not vanilla.

02:10:30.940 I will have you know.

02:10:32.280 The rocky road.

02:10:32.920 I'm kidding.

02:10:33.600 Have you know.

02:10:35.040 Honestly, you...

02:10:36.140 Club chicks...

02:10:36.380 On a rocky road right now.

02:10:37.280 Club chicks are the vanilla ones.

02:10:39.920 You think a little hair pulling makes you fucking kinky.

02:10:42.660 Nah.

02:10:43.000 No.

02:10:43.300 Fuck that shit.

02:10:44.960 Spit in my mouth.

02:10:46.000 Oh.

02:10:47.120 He choked...

02:10:48.280 I like to get choked and have my hair pulled.

02:10:50.700 I'm so kinky.

02:10:51.720 Fuck that shit.

02:10:52.380 You ain't kinky.

02:10:54.060 What is kinky?

02:10:55.560 He likes it.

02:10:56.740 We need a Brian definition of what is kinky.

02:10:59.440 All right.

02:10:59.600 I'm going to reveal it.

02:11:00.480 I want to tie you up and we're going to use some toys.

02:11:02.420 There's going to be some crazy shit.

02:11:04.720 Tie up toys and...

02:11:05.860 Tie up toys.

02:11:07.720 Dom sub.

02:11:08.760 Dynamic.

02:11:09.380 Okay.

02:11:10.380 Asphyxiation.

02:11:10.820 But not like dom sub.

02:11:12.920 We're going into it.

02:11:14.160 A lot of people think like...

02:11:15.240 A lot of these girls say, I want a dom.

02:11:18.640 They don't...

02:11:19.240 They're not really into BDSM in that way.

02:11:21.600 They want a guy who's dominant in the bedroom.

02:11:23.580 But like a dom extends beyond just a guy who fucks you rough.

02:11:27.320 Right.

02:11:27.680 Right.

02:11:28.000 Right.

02:11:28.200 But there is a line.

02:11:29.740 There's a line to...

02:11:31.360 So did you say you're dom or they have to be dom?

02:11:33.820 I'm dom.

02:11:34.420 Wow.

02:11:35.360 Roll the girl around.

02:11:36.980 He's a top player in jiu-jitsu.

02:11:38.420 No, it's not even...

02:11:39.240 No, it's not even a physical thing for me.

02:11:41.860 Actually, me being dom is more of a...

02:11:44.320 In the mind.

02:11:46.380 Oh, I need a physical dom.

02:11:47.720 Like, toss me around.

02:11:49.560 Nah.

02:11:50.320 I ain't catching a case.

02:11:52.460 Caveman.

02:11:52.860 I'm not catching a case for some sexual gratification.

02:11:56.620 I met a guy recently.

02:11:58.460 He has a tattoo BDSM bold letter like this big on his ass.

02:12:02.440 That's fucking weird.

02:12:03.180 And it wasn't even a dare or anything.

02:12:04.840 Can I say that?

02:12:06.020 I went...

02:12:06.800 Okay.

02:12:07.360 If you see this, this is going to be out.

02:12:08.840 Say it.

02:12:09.220 I went with my two guy best friends when I lived in Reno.

02:12:11.920 And they got like fat ass tats.

02:12:14.460 Like probably like each a cheek.

02:12:15.800 And then I got like my like little like heart on my hip.

02:12:18.920 But I just...

02:12:19.480 We were talking about ass tats.

02:12:20.180 How much wine did you have tonight, Sydney?

02:12:21.820 None.

02:12:22.240 I drink water.

02:12:23.000 I don't drink that.

02:12:23.380 She had the headache tablet.

02:12:25.060 That's what she had.

02:12:26.280 She took Tylenol.

02:12:27.920 She took the drug.

02:12:29.540 I wish I had something else.

02:12:31.120 I just took Tylenol, y'all.

02:12:32.460 Like and water.

02:12:33.240 There may be White Claw in the fridge.

02:12:35.080 Oh, shit.

02:12:35.640 White Claw's are kind of gross.

02:12:37.800 Maybe after the shit.

02:12:39.640 Okay.

02:12:40.060 Let's get back to the standards thing.

02:12:41.520 You answered.

02:12:43.180 Okay.

02:12:43.500 So you dated a bunch of asshole guys.

02:12:45.540 Blah, blah, blah.

02:12:46.080 Not a bunch.

02:12:46.680 Right.

02:12:47.020 So let's keep you around.

02:12:48.140 We know my standards.

02:12:49.580 We clearly...

02:12:51.920 But okay.

02:12:52.760 Who do you think has more unrealistic standards?

02:12:54.840 Men or women?

02:12:55.720 Woman.

02:12:57.060 Definitely.

02:12:59.040 Okay.

02:13:00.820 And that's that.

02:13:01.920 Oh.

02:13:02.560 Are you guys going to the bathroom?

02:13:03.860 Yeah.

02:13:04.200 Together.

02:13:04.620 Just going to the bathroom.

02:13:05.500 Okay.

02:13:06.160 I'll just talk about cavemen dominating...

02:13:08.660 Let's talk shit about Sydney while she's gone.

02:13:10.700 Thick knee.

02:13:11.300 Oh, thick knee.

02:13:11.900 Oh, thick knee.

02:13:11.920 Thick knee breaks.

02:13:13.420 So, okay.

02:13:15.260 Where were we?

02:13:15.980 I forgot.

02:13:17.060 Standards on men.

02:13:18.180 Standards.

02:13:19.480 Who do you think has more unrealistic standards?

02:13:21.440 Men or women?

02:13:22.100 Okay.

02:13:22.320 Andy, what do you think?

02:13:24.640 I can't...

02:13:25.480 I'm not a divisive person.

02:13:26.900 Be divisive.

02:13:30.160 Where'd they go?

02:13:31.300 Wait, what is the title of that?

02:13:32.700 Oh, that's a ghosting one.

02:13:34.000 Where'd they go?

02:13:34.300 Okay.

02:13:34.520 But isn't like in America now, you guys are all about sort of non-gender, you know, like

02:13:41.320 neutral gender stuff?

02:13:42.900 Not this American.

02:13:43.820 I know, right?

02:13:44.440 So, this is what I'm trying to learn is that there's 50% of Americans who are really like

02:13:49.160 bringing that on and then there's still the other 50% that are still talking about men

02:13:54.260 and women and I'm just sitting here observing.

02:13:57.440 So, I don't really have an opinion on whether it's men or women.

02:14:02.280 I think it's, yeah, hard for me to say.

02:14:04.420 Are you talking about the theys?

02:14:06.120 Yeah, maybe.

02:14:06.620 Are you talking about the theys?

02:14:08.020 The theys.

02:14:08.860 The theys?

02:14:10.660 Maybe.

02:14:11.540 Oh, geez.

02:14:12.060 Maybe.

02:14:12.320 But I'm tipping that's not your audience.

02:14:15.020 No, I don't think so.

02:14:16.360 So...

02:14:17.000 My audience is probably not on the woke.

02:14:19.680 Yeah.

02:14:19.880 Mad TV audience.

02:14:21.620 The woke side.

02:14:23.340 So, expectations.

02:14:24.360 I mean, isn't it best just to not have so many expectations, sit in the moment and just

02:14:28.940 have fun with what's going on in the now?

02:14:30.740 Let's go back to ghosting for a little sec here.

02:14:34.420 Do you think it's wrong for a guy to hook up with a girl and then ghost her?

02:14:39.700 It can be hurtful, but I think the best thing that I write about in the book is to not let

02:14:45.560 it hurt.

02:14:46.080 To just go, you know what?

02:14:47.640 Were you safe?

02:14:48.420 Did you have fun?

02:14:49.880 Did you dodge a bullet?

02:14:50.840 Is it great that they've moved on?

02:14:52.900 Because now you get to go and find what's more suitable for you.

02:14:57.380 And they also do the same.

02:14:59.000 I think at the end of the day, my philosophy is to try and leave a person better than you

02:15:03.560 found them.

02:15:04.320 If you're going to have any kind of interaction with them, try and leave them better than you

02:15:07.800 found them.

02:15:08.240 But if that doesn't happen and you don't get the closure chat, just make sure that you

02:15:12.840 heal yourself so that you can pass on good juju to the next person that you're with.

02:15:18.840 You know?

02:15:19.340 I talked to you when you asked me to bring someone on why we're not friends anymore.

02:15:25.460 I had hooked up with someone multiple times and he went to her and like cut me off and

02:15:33.360 like went to her instead.

02:15:34.600 And hooked up with her.

02:15:35.740 Wasn't she freshly out of a relationship?

02:15:37.760 No.

02:15:38.300 Or she was in a relationship?

02:15:40.540 But like he told me he didn't want a relationship with me.

02:15:42.540 I thought she was in a relationship.

02:15:44.500 V word?

02:15:47.180 Whatever.

02:15:47.700 Just fucking Vivian.

02:15:48.600 Whatever.

02:15:49.420 Who cares?

02:15:50.660 But yeah, we haven't talked.

02:15:52.120 So I like hooked up with him a few times.

02:15:53.520 I started to like him, but he didn't want anything more.

02:15:55.700 So I didn't push anything.

02:15:58.100 And then they hung out without saying anything to me.

02:16:02.480 Wait.

02:16:03.300 I could have sworn.

02:16:04.060 No, she was not.

02:16:04.920 She came on the show and she said that she had a boyfriend.

02:16:07.540 No, she had like months ago.

02:16:09.080 Like I don't even know.

02:16:09.780 They broke up a while ago.

02:16:11.460 I'm pretty sure she said she had a boyfriend.

02:16:13.300 I was about to tell her.

02:16:14.240 So is she dating him now?

02:16:15.600 I don't know.

02:16:16.040 I don't talk to her anymore.

02:16:16.580 I cut her off because I started to like him and she went behind my back and she knew.

02:16:21.660 She knew.

02:16:22.040 Like, you know.

02:16:23.080 Didn't she have like a super low body count?

02:16:24.820 Yeah.

02:16:25.940 Is it higher now?

02:16:27.140 I don't know.

02:16:27.440 I don't talk to her.

02:16:28.080 You don't talk to her?

02:16:28.800 I don't talk to her anymore.

02:16:29.680 Shit.

02:16:30.460 But anyways, so he, so talk about like whenever like a guy hooks up with you and ghosts you,

02:16:35.380 a guy hooked up with me and went to my best friend.

02:16:38.400 Ah, Jabba the Hutt.

02:16:39.560 That one hurt.

02:16:40.260 That one hurt.

02:16:40.880 Jabba.

02:16:42.200 What's going on with you, Jabba?

02:16:43.840 I don't know.

02:16:44.960 We got to figure out what your problem is.

02:16:46.480 I know.

02:16:47.280 Find me a man.

02:16:48.020 What's wrong with you?

02:16:49.520 Put her on my dating show in that.

02:16:51.040 I, okay, I don't have, I mean, I don't, I'm talking to someone.

02:16:54.280 Because you seem nice.

02:16:55.560 I am.

02:16:56.120 Are you just crazy?

02:16:58.660 I think a little bit of what your mom does is just lets everybody in is rubbed on.

02:17:02.380 I won't show the chat.

02:17:03.560 Can you, you're talking to a guy right now, right?

02:17:06.080 Yeah.

02:17:06.220 Can you give me your phone and can I see your text messages with him?

02:17:09.180 Wow.

02:17:10.240 Can I, can I make sure there's nothing bad in there?

02:17:12.500 That's a bold question, Brian.

02:17:13.360 You don't have to.

02:17:14.200 Oh, he texted me.

02:17:15.780 Nice.

02:17:16.080 Oh, wait, what did he say?

02:17:17.560 He's, he's kind of sick right now.

02:17:19.380 Oh, let me, he says, is he?

02:17:20.800 No, okay.

02:17:21.460 I think he's in, I think he's in.

02:17:22.320 Oh, finally Michael Trillstein shows up.

02:17:26.180 What's up, Michael?

02:17:26.940 Good to see you, man.

02:17:27.960 I think everything seems fine.

02:17:29.500 I don't know.

02:17:29.960 Did you send nudes?

02:17:36.300 No, no, that's why I checked.

02:17:37.740 Okay.

02:17:38.940 I had to check.

02:17:40.180 It's like normal conversation and that's about, he's just sick.

02:17:42.080 I was like, hey, do you want me to bring you any like soup or venison or anything?

02:17:46.680 Here, I'll just look at your most recent ones.

02:17:49.160 He just texted me and he said he was sick.

02:17:51.460 He's sick?

02:17:52.280 Yeah.

02:17:53.780 COVID?

02:17:54.560 No.

02:17:55.600 It's like frat flu type shit.

02:17:57.200 The fuck?

02:17:57.760 He's in a frat.

02:17:58.400 And you saw him recently?

02:18:00.800 How dare you?

02:18:03.480 Yeah, your text messages seem normal.

02:18:06.760 Yeah.

02:18:07.440 Allegedly.

02:18:08.220 Yeah, they are.

02:18:08.940 I mean, you didn't go too deep.

02:18:10.260 I only took a cursory glance at your messages.

02:18:13.680 These are pretty boring lately, but.

02:18:16.580 Yeah, you're okay.

02:18:17.940 I don't know.

02:18:18.680 I don't know either.

02:18:19.200 I don't know.

02:18:19.780 They're fine.

02:18:20.340 I was really nice.

02:18:21.440 I was just trying to like ask me if he wants medicine and soup and something to take care

02:18:24.680 of himself and he, I don't know, kind of dogs out.

02:18:26.840 He doesn't want to date.

02:18:27.740 His mom, though.

02:18:30.240 Whoops.

02:18:30.660 No, we want nurturing.

02:18:31.800 That's what I was going to say about standards.

02:18:34.080 Yeah, but like sometimes if it's like that too much and they haven't.

02:18:38.640 I'm just saying.

02:18:39.260 Yeah, but I was, because he lives in IV.

02:18:41.000 So I was like, hey, I'm coming out there.

02:18:42.040 I could drop by some medicine for you because if you don't want to get.

02:18:45.120 Some medicine.

02:18:48.160 Maybe.

02:18:48.760 Okay.

02:18:49.080 But I was like, hey, do you want any like night cool, day cool?

02:18:51.760 I have some at home from like two weeks ago when I was sick.

02:18:53.700 So I was like, hey, do you want some?

02:18:54.800 Because he woke up and he's like, hey.

02:18:57.360 Okay, that's fine.

02:18:58.240 I know, but I'm just saying like it's sweet.

02:19:00.200 It's actually sweet.

02:19:00.880 Yeah, that's just me being nice.

02:19:01.760 I think I'm a nice person.

02:19:03.540 Okay.

02:19:04.260 All right.

02:19:04.500 That's what I'm saying.

02:19:05.660 Oh, Kirkland.

02:19:07.040 Okay, so Sydney.

02:19:09.720 Thank you.

02:19:11.460 Hi.

02:19:12.000 Who do you think has more unreasonable standards, men or women?

02:19:15.080 Women.

02:19:16.660 Emma, who do you think has more, sorry, unrealistic standards?

02:19:23.480 I think it's equal.

02:19:25.040 Equal.

02:19:26.100 Circumstantial.

02:19:26.720 Okay.

02:19:27.240 All right.

02:19:27.520 So going around, what are your standards and preferences?

02:19:33.600 What does it take for a guy to get you?

02:19:36.600 Just list off some traits, some characteristics.

02:19:41.040 Can I go last?

02:19:41.980 Mine's probably long.

02:19:43.760 What's that?

02:19:44.460 Mine's probably long.

02:19:45.360 Let's start with you then.

02:19:47.060 Okay.

02:19:47.460 Is it like my type on paper?

02:19:51.220 Just like what ticks my boxes?

02:19:52.900 Sure.

02:19:54.160 Physically or?

02:19:54.980 Yeah, I was going to say.

02:19:55.860 Physically, personality.

02:20:00.680 It's kind of hard to narrow it down because I guess it depends on how I'm meeting them.

02:20:04.600 If it's a dating app, I think I have more boxes that need to be ticked.

02:20:11.180 Whereas organically, I think you can kind of vibe with someone a lot easier.

02:20:17.460 I don't think I really have like a certain, I mean, I have standards.

02:20:23.540 Okay.

02:20:24.120 Come on.

02:20:24.660 Give us some.

02:20:25.220 Say more.

02:20:25.940 Let's hear.

02:20:29.620 God, I think a lot of it is.

02:20:35.400 Oh, it sounds.

02:20:36.800 I know.

02:20:37.880 It sounds so corny, but like vibes, like they have to keep up.

02:20:40.940 They have to be intellectual.

02:20:42.580 They have to be able to have good chat.

02:20:44.760 They got to be able to talk shit to me.

02:20:46.200 They got to be funny.

02:20:47.780 Like, I think I've.

02:20:49.740 Is there more?

02:20:50.840 Well.

02:20:51.520 Physical stuff.

02:20:52.200 Physical stuff.

02:20:52.760 Physical stuff.

02:20:54.040 Do they have to be taller than you?

02:20:55.900 I'm short.

02:20:57.040 So, yes.

02:20:58.080 I'm 5'3".

02:20:59.320 Okay.

02:20:59.800 I mean, that's just an inch below the average female height.

02:21:02.980 So.

02:21:03.420 Yeah.

02:21:03.740 You're not that.

02:21:04.220 Is it actually?

02:21:04.580 5'4 is the average?

02:21:05.760 5'4 is the average female height in the U.S.

02:21:07.720 I'm not that far.

02:21:08.980 You're close, Sydney.

02:21:10.400 Okay.

02:21:10.680 What else?

02:21:11.800 They got to be taller than you.

02:21:12.700 They got to be taller than me.

02:21:15.000 Muscles.

02:21:15.760 Good little bod, at least.

02:21:16.980 It doesn't have to be muscles.

02:21:17.980 A good little bod.

02:21:18.300 But, like, a nice.

02:21:19.540 Dad bod?

02:21:19.720 Like, in shape.

02:21:20.860 Yeah.

02:21:21.080 Dad bod.

02:21:21.560 Whatever.

02:21:21.960 It doesn't matter.

02:21:22.640 Yeah.

02:21:22.940 It's just, like.

02:21:24.280 Okay.

02:21:24.780 Something I'm attracted to.

02:21:26.040 I mean, I'm going to be.

02:21:26.720 What else?

02:21:27.320 If I'm going to be.

02:21:28.140 Keep it going.

02:21:28.920 What else?

02:21:29.360 Okay.

02:21:29.420 Here, go.

02:21:34.900 What were the personality traits again?

02:21:36.820 I think personality.

02:21:38.340 Like, you got to be fucking funny.

02:21:40.160 Got to be funny.

02:21:40.800 You got to be funny.

02:21:41.660 Got to be funny.

02:21:42.380 Have to be funny.

02:21:43.160 You have to be funny.

02:21:44.380 Are you funny?

02:21:45.980 I think I'm a fucking hoot, but.

02:21:48.200 You're a hoot.

02:21:49.140 Okay.

02:21:49.820 That's fine.

02:21:50.240 I think you have to think I'm funny because I have a very certain type of humor that.

02:21:54.960 Okay.

02:21:55.380 So, funny.

02:21:56.060 What else?

02:21:56.840 Good vibe.

02:21:57.860 What else?

02:21:58.320 Good vibes.

02:21:59.000 Smart.

02:21:59.600 Smart.

02:22:00.260 Intelligent.

02:22:00.880 I mean, I've dated dumb guys, but I mean.

02:22:02.780 Would you date a broke guy?

02:22:04.320 Sure.

02:22:05.040 Okay.

02:22:05.520 Yeah.

02:22:05.920 That's fine.

02:22:06.620 I mean, I think at the end of the day, like, dating and hooking up with is very different.

02:22:10.600 So, it's like, I've hooked up with dumb guys, but I think dating, like, you got to

02:22:14.140 have a good head on your shoulders.

02:22:16.900 Yeah.

02:22:17.320 No, man.

02:22:18.040 That sounds like a lot of work.

02:22:21.860 Yeah.

02:22:22.340 Okay.

02:22:23.160 Andy, what about you?

02:22:24.180 What are your standards and preferences?

02:22:26.560 What do you look for in a guy?

02:22:29.160 I think it just keeps changing because I've been around for so long, but what it is right

02:22:35.740 What it is right now is probably attitude because I really like alpha energy, like alpha male

02:22:47.560 energy.

02:22:48.400 You like alpha males?

02:22:49.420 Yeah.

02:22:49.900 Really?

02:22:50.580 I do.

02:22:51.180 Oh, okay.

02:22:51.880 Yeah.

02:22:53.320 Because you're kind of an alpha woman.

02:22:55.780 Yeah.

02:22:56.140 Maybe that's why.

02:22:58.640 And somebody who is really, I guess, ambitious, but wants to do good things for the world.

02:23:06.180 So, when I speak of ambition, it doesn't necessarily have to mean currency in money, but just like

02:23:14.160 what they're bringing to the world.

02:23:16.700 And I like what you said about being funny because we all need to lighten up, let's face

02:23:21.240 it.

02:23:21.500 So, it's good to have a laugh.

02:23:22.700 I like someone that's like my kind of funny, like the kind of funny that only I think is

02:23:26.960 funny, but you will also think it's funny.

02:23:30.420 Okay.

02:23:30.760 Hard to find that someone.

02:23:32.620 Sydney, what about you?

02:23:34.320 What are your standards and preferences?

02:23:37.500 I like gym rats.

02:23:39.880 So, I'm in the gym like every day.

02:23:41.700 So, I like, I don't know, like I like a big back.

02:23:44.440 I like, I like brown eyes.

02:23:46.640 Brown eyes.

02:23:47.320 Brown eyes.

02:23:47.780 I learned that.

02:23:48.320 Brown eyes.

02:23:48.820 Brown eyes.

02:23:49.460 I like a big back.

02:23:50.760 I like, yeah, he has pretty eyes.

02:23:53.680 I like, I like brown eyes.

02:23:55.540 He does.

02:23:55.960 Yeah.

02:23:56.440 And so, I like, definitely a guy that can make a laugh.

02:24:00.040 You have blue eyes, right?

02:24:01.700 I have hazel.

02:24:02.520 Oh, okay.

02:24:03.000 They change.

02:24:04.220 But funny and like a good person.

02:24:06.840 Like if he's nice to other people, that's a big thing for me because I've dated some guys

02:24:10.820 that have not been nice.

02:24:12.080 Sounds like a lot of work.

02:24:13.900 Okay.

02:24:14.980 Thanks.

02:24:15.760 Jubilee?

02:24:17.040 I don't know.

02:24:18.020 What are your standards and preferences?

02:24:20.360 What does a guy need to bring to get you?

02:24:24.020 A pulse?

02:24:25.380 Yeah, honestly.

02:24:27.020 Honestly, just a pulse.

02:24:28.560 I've gone real low lately.

02:24:30.960 Okay.

02:24:32.020 What about you?

02:24:34.620 I don't know.

02:24:35.300 I really like when they're smart and have like a plan for their future and taller than

02:24:40.600 me.

02:24:40.900 And if they like cats.

02:24:42.380 I fucking love cats.

02:24:43.880 I have too.

02:24:45.100 And if they don't like cats, I just, I can't be.

02:24:47.400 My mom said never trust a man that doesn't like cats because he doesn't like things he

02:24:51.200 can't control.

02:24:52.180 Cats are evil.

02:24:53.200 If someone doesn't like my dog, my dog is my child.

02:24:55.860 If someone doesn't like my dog, it's over.

02:24:58.400 If someone doesn't like my cat, I can't be around them.

02:25:00.340 My dog is her best friend.

02:25:01.720 I love her dog.

02:25:02.280 So men can't control you?

02:25:04.580 What?

02:25:05.220 Well, you said.

02:25:06.480 My mom used to tell me, because men who don't like cats don't like cats because they're

02:25:10.500 not like dogs.

02:25:11.340 Dogs are very like lovable and easy and will love you no matter what.

02:25:14.300 Whereas cats are kind of assholes.

02:25:15.700 They're, I would say, yeah, I'm like a cat.

02:25:17.660 I'm, I'll give you so much affection, but it's on my terms.

02:25:20.460 And so you're like a cat.

02:25:22.500 A lot like a cat.

02:25:24.880 Okay.

02:25:25.640 Yeah.

02:25:26.460 All right.

02:25:28.700 Nice.

02:25:29.820 I'm not a fan of cats, but we definitely have to say dogs over cats.

02:25:34.420 At the end of the day, dogs actually care about a human being.

02:25:38.700 Cats really can care less as long as you're feeding them and giving them attention.

02:25:41.760 Yeah.

02:25:42.300 They're on it, but a dog will, will know when you're hurting and know when you, when

02:25:46.800 you, when you, when you, a person will feed and give water and shelter to a dog.

02:25:52.240 And the dog will be like, oh my God, this person feeds me, shelters me.

02:25:55.560 This person is God.

02:25:56.780 You can feed and shelter a cat.

02:25:58.640 And this cat will be like, oh my God, this person feeds and shelters me.

02:26:01.380 I am God.

02:26:02.720 Also, also when you, if you die in your residence, the cat will eat you.

02:26:09.240 So will dogs.

02:26:09.740 I don't know about that.

02:26:10.660 No, the dog will just kind of be like.

02:26:11.840 There's good stories of dogs eating people.

02:26:13.240 Can someone lower that purse from another purse?

02:26:17.080 It's behind you, Sydney.

02:26:17.940 Oh, sorry, mine.

02:26:18.760 Yeah.

02:26:19.840 It's blocking our lovely neon sign.

02:26:22.040 How dare you, Jubilee?

02:26:23.120 I'm sorry.

02:26:23.600 Come on, James.

02:26:23.900 How dare you ruin the decor of the studio?

02:26:27.540 Okay, sorry.

02:26:28.300 How dare you, sir?

02:26:30.300 Deeply hurt and offended.

02:26:32.000 If I cry, my dog cuddles with me and just like lays on me.

02:26:34.440 How frequently do you cry?

02:26:36.040 I haven't cried in a while, actually.

02:26:37.920 In a while?

02:26:38.740 Yeah.

02:26:38.880 So like a fortnight ago?

02:26:39.900 Maybe a little more than that.

02:26:42.100 14 days ago?

02:26:42.880 Wait, no, I cried when the guy chose my friend over me.

02:26:47.100 Why?

02:26:47.700 So recently.

02:26:48.420 So like recent, actually, never mind.

02:26:49.800 But it wasn't too bad.

02:26:50.860 It was a little bit.

02:26:51.520 Oh, gosh.

02:26:52.640 Okay.

02:26:52.980 It wasn't the worst.

02:26:53.740 God damn.

02:26:54.640 Like a really crazy cry, not in a while.

02:26:56.660 Brandon, what about you?

02:26:57.600 What are your standards and preferences?

02:27:01.160 In a woman?

02:27:02.160 Yeah.

02:27:02.680 Or a man.

02:27:03.060 You know, just one thing I find really attractive when I meet a girl and I get to know her and

02:27:12.500 stuff like that is when she's able to look past a man's history and whatever he's been

02:27:22.060 through and she's like, she starts to encourage like, man, you know, you really, you could

02:27:26.220 do this and you can do that and I see it and I, she wants to, she's excited about encouraging

02:27:32.960 you to be a better, a better man.

02:27:35.220 You know what I'm saying?

02:27:35.780 And not really just better because she wants you to be hers and be better for her, but she's

02:27:40.940 righteously excited about meeting you and she can see that, you know, with the right

02:27:46.020 support and the right type of, you know, companionship, you can, I could be better of

02:27:53.000 a man than I am.

02:27:54.180 That is hot.

02:27:55.900 She's not too wrapped up in herself or too preoccupied with other miscellaneous shit in

02:28:01.400 her life to where she doesn't really give a shit about what you, what you do or how

02:28:05.440 you are.

02:28:06.200 She's obsessed is different.

02:28:08.460 You don't want someone who's obsessed, but somebody who really cares about, you know,

02:28:13.480 behind every righteous man is a strong woman.

02:28:17.380 That's, that's just my, that's my philosophy.

02:28:19.480 You know what I'm saying?

02:28:19.960 Behind every solid all the way around man, there's, there's, there's a righteous, a

02:28:25.540 righteous woman that like has, you know, cause men, men are strong, but men, men are weak

02:28:30.620 too.

02:28:31.020 We have fragile egos where we have our own insecurities, whatever they are.

02:28:36.000 And, uh, a woman that dials in on that and really, uh, tends to, you know, strengthen

02:28:42.200 you and bring you up.

02:28:43.400 That's, is that a standard?

02:28:45.180 I think it's hot as fuck.

02:28:46.520 Um, you know, be excited about life.

02:28:50.220 Good standard, be attractive, be excited about life, have ambition, have a goal.

02:28:57.120 Um, love the beach.

02:28:58.660 If you don't love the beach, you're not, you're not my friend.

02:29:01.420 Um, so, okay.

02:29:02.500 Andy has to leave soon, right?

02:29:04.780 Yeah.

02:29:05.160 So let's just do a video reaction and then we'll get you out of here.

02:29:08.060 How's that sound?

02:29:08.600 Thank you.

02:29:09.320 Um, Eric, can you pull up a Tate clip?

02:29:11.980 Good, sir.

02:29:13.800 All right.

02:29:14.540 Uh, let's see.

02:29:17.480 You're going to have to open up the folder for it.

02:29:19.480 Yeah.

02:29:20.820 Let's do body count.

02:29:28.600 You know what's so attractive about a lot of these dudes talk about fertility and looks

02:29:33.680 and stuff.

02:29:34.200 I don't actually miss that.

02:29:35.500 I think that in the modern world, in the days of old, right, you meet a woman, you get married,

02:29:39.820 you do whatever.

02:29:40.560 In the modern world, if I meet a girl who's 33 and single, I know the amount of dick that's

02:29:45.000 been through her before me, it's just simply unattractive.

02:29:47.920 I don't care how nice you are, but you're 33 years old.

02:29:50.880 How many men have fucked?

02:29:52.140 If I get a 19 year old girl, I might be your second or third man, right?

02:29:54.620 I'm going to be dude number fucking 29 and all the trauma and heartbreak and bullshit they

02:29:59.360 put you through, you're going to try and bring to my door.

02:30:01.960 Like, well, if my last man cheated, I'll give a fuck.

02:30:04.600 Like, I don't care.

02:30:05.620 Like, why is that my problem?

02:30:06.700 So if you pick up older women, you have to accept they've been on the carousel longer.

02:30:10.560 They've had more fucking rides, more spins.

02:30:13.320 I don't want that shit.

02:30:14.380 And when I see a beautiful young woman, I know that she has a very low body count.

02:30:17.960 And that, and also, no, no, but the truth is this, women's mentality is absolutely connected

02:30:23.260 to sex.

02:30:23.840 If a woman sleeps with a bunch of men, it's harder to penetrate her mind and make her fall

02:30:27.620 in love with you.

02:30:27.640 It is unattractive.

02:30:28.700 And it's unattractive.

02:30:29.480 It is.

02:30:29.700 But if she's, if she's had 30 dudes inside of her, she really didn't think, you know

02:30:33.340 what, this guy's so, so, so special.

02:30:34.900 Or she didn't think, you know what, he talked to me real quick, I'll just go get a new guy.

02:30:37.020 Whereas if a woman's only been with a few guys, she's much more likely to fall in love

02:30:39.460 with you to be a better partner.

02:30:40.260 So the likelihood of her falling completely in love with you and staying loyal to you,

02:30:44.380 and really believing you're the only man for her, after being through so much trauma

02:30:47.540 and so many men, and sleeping with so many dudes, and having her heart broken, and having

02:30:51.020 those memories of her ex, and all that crap she's been through, is far less likely than

02:30:54.760 meeting a nice, young, beautiful girl who hasn't been with many men.

02:30:57.060 And she goes, you know what, this is the guy, I like him.

02:30:59.380 Every woman who knows this, and every man who watches this, to be honest, women fall in

02:31:02.040 love with the person they lose their virginity to, or the second or third guy, they really

02:31:04.540 remember them, they really love them.

02:31:06.020 Any woman who slept with 50 dudes, she doesn't even remember who most of them are.

02:31:08.200 She doesn't care.

02:31:09.000 If a woman slept with a bunch of men before you, she's less likely to stick it out through a difficult period

02:31:12.280 of relationships, it's more likely to be saying, you know what, new answers we get.

02:31:14.980 That's a pretty good answer.

02:31:15.860 And that's the truth.

02:31:16.740 Let me make something clear.

02:31:17.640 If I meet a beautiful 30-year-old woman, I'm not saying I won't sleep in it.

02:31:20.100 That's pretty fucking old.

02:31:21.280 Yeah.

02:31:21.840 30?

02:31:22.520 I know.

02:31:22.940 What are you, crazy?

02:31:24.680 There's been times I was drunk.

02:31:26.740 Okay.

02:31:27.460 Your reaction to it, then Andy will let you go, and then after you give your reaction,

02:31:31.060 you're free to take off.

02:31:33.180 Emma, go ahead.

02:31:34.000 What do you think?

02:31:34.800 I always forget he's British.

02:31:36.800 Well, he's American, and anyways.

02:31:39.720 Wasn't that a British accent?

02:31:40.860 I don't think so.

02:31:41.760 Disregard the nationality.

02:31:43.200 What's your reaction to what he said?

02:31:48.060 Like the whole body count discussion?

02:31:54.860 Yeah, that thing.

02:31:56.080 Yeah.

02:31:56.400 I mean, hold that same energy for men.

02:31:58.620 Okay, so you want him to also adhere to those standards, not be a hypocrite.

02:32:07.540 I'm just saying, if you're disgusted by a woman that has a high body count, why can't

02:32:11.720 we be turned off by a man with a high body count?

02:32:14.060 Okay.

02:32:14.500 I'll respond to that afterwards, but I do have a response to that.

02:32:18.140 Andy, go ahead.

02:32:19.060 Honestly, I checked out, because all I could think about is my beautiful 12-year-old boy

02:32:22.660 that I can't wait to be home with.

02:32:24.040 Okay.

02:32:24.060 Then go ahead.

02:32:24.760 Okay.

02:32:25.060 See you.

02:32:25.700 Thanks, guys.

02:32:26.360 Bye.

02:32:26.600 Bye.

02:32:26.780 Thank you.

02:32:28.580 Thank you.

02:32:31.960 Sydney, your response.

02:32:37.860 Yeah, I think it is definitely a double standard for sure, because I don't know, it's two people

02:32:43.360 taking part in the sex.

02:32:44.580 Take the books off the table.

02:32:49.660 Take the books off the table.

02:32:52.280 Yeah, I guess you could put that.

02:32:54.680 Put it on the ground if you, yeah.

02:32:56.940 Thank you, Sydney.

02:32:57.760 You're welcome.

02:32:58.820 Appreciate it.

02:33:00.820 Okay, go ahead.

02:33:03.480 Yeah, no, I just, I do definitely think, like, it's two people, like, having sex.

02:33:06.560 Like, the body count raises for one or the other.

02:33:09.220 Like, why is it such a big deal if, like, women have a higher body count, and then men

02:33:12.680 have, like, say, like, men have a higher body count.

02:33:15.400 Like, why is that not as judged versus if women have a higher body count?

02:33:19.140 Like, that's more judged.

02:33:20.340 Okay, well, I'll just, since that's kind of both your thing.

02:33:22.420 Yeah.

02:33:23.080 Can I just put...

02:33:23.760 I just don't agree with it.

02:33:24.700 Well, because it's harder for men to get laid.

02:33:27.280 That's the primary thing.

02:33:28.760 What?

02:33:29.420 Here, put...

02:33:31.420 What, what, you gave me a look.

02:33:32.540 Well, do the look again, just so that...

02:33:34.180 I mean, it depends on what they look like and what they, like, their personality.

02:33:39.400 Because if you're hot and you're a dude, you can, like, fuck a lot of girls.

02:33:43.140 Even an average-looking girl can run circles around a top-tier guy.

02:33:49.240 But we don't.

02:33:50.520 But you can.

02:33:51.820 But we don't.

02:33:53.140 But you do.

02:33:54.280 But we don't.

02:33:55.940 But, yes, women do.

02:33:56.520 I think the guy that's a five is gonna fuck exponentially more women than a girl that's

02:34:01.740 a seven or an eight.

02:34:03.020 You think a guy who's a five...

02:34:06.020 Guys will get who they can when they can in any circumstance.

02:34:11.080 Women sleep with who they want.

02:34:12.780 Yeah.

02:34:13.220 Men sleep with who they can.

02:34:14.920 Yeah.

02:34:15.740 So you're proving my point.

02:34:17.180 You just said a guy who's a five can sleep with more women.

02:34:22.560 I say...

02:34:23.020 I'm saying a guy that's a five will sleep with more women.

02:34:25.920 Will.

02:34:28.360 Yes.

02:34:28.900 I mean, if a guy was given the option...

02:34:31.080 I'm saying in my experience...

02:34:32.640 I'm saying in my experience of very mediocre men, especially in Isla Vista specifically,

02:34:38.440 guys that you could find a dime a dozen of them have...

02:34:42.360 Two, three times my body count.

02:34:45.320 Whereas, you know, I'm not hideously ugly, but my body count's pretty low just because

02:34:50.820 I don't choose to do that.

02:34:53.340 But...

02:34:53.740 A guy who's a five is not gonna outperform a woman who's a seven.

02:34:59.320 But he did.

02:35:01.360 Okay.

02:35:01.700 There's outliers.

02:35:02.580 He slept with, like, all of Isla Vista.

02:35:04.940 I kept it.

02:35:06.400 Guys can...

02:35:07.400 I kept my circle tight.

02:35:08.240 I will grant you this.

02:35:09.360 Guys can make up for their bad looks in other ways.

02:35:12.340 That's true.

02:35:12.640 So if they're incredibly charismatic or they have social status or if they have money,

02:35:17.900 those are ways in which guys can kind of make up for it.

02:35:22.080 But when it just comes down to it, it's harder for men to get laid.

02:35:28.760 Yeah.

02:35:29.220 Point blank, period.

02:35:30.140 Yeah.

02:35:30.580 But you disagree.

02:35:31.440 No, I'm not agreeing against that.

02:35:32.360 You disagree that it's...

02:35:33.140 I disagree.

02:35:33.840 You think it's easier for men to get laid?

02:35:35.760 I mean, in my own personal experience, I disagree.

02:35:37.920 I don't know about, like, in general, but I've found it that guys get laid easier than,

02:35:42.560 like, I do.

02:35:44.100 Really?

02:35:44.640 Jubilee, what do you think about this?

02:35:46.360 I mean, you were saying how a guy's looks can...

02:35:50.860 Or a guy's...

02:35:52.540 Other things can make up for his looks.

02:35:54.120 I agree with that.

02:35:56.340 I'm saying with the guy I'm talking to or whatever, he's, like, not, like, the hottest

02:35:59.620 guy ever.

02:36:00.540 He's not the hottest guy ever.

02:36:01.760 But his personality makes up for it.

02:36:04.740 Okay.

02:36:05.360 So, but...

02:36:06.880 I mean, I think it's a lot easier for girls to get laid.

02:36:09.780 Yeah.

02:36:10.000 Okay, but...

02:36:10.720 So you said in your experience...

02:36:12.220 In my experience.

02:36:13.860 I don't know about everyone else's, but in mine.

02:36:15.680 I think if you used your power, too, though, because I have this argument back and forth

02:36:18.840 with one of my, like, with one of my guy friends, and, like, we've argued about this,

02:36:22.160 but he said, he's, like, if you text a guy and you're just, like, hey, you want to come

02:36:24.740 over tonight?

02:36:25.200 Like, point blank, period.

02:36:27.020 Easy.

02:36:27.820 Easy.

02:36:28.460 But, like, women are pickier with it.

02:36:30.620 Like, I'll, like, have that thought, but I'm, like, that's a lot of effort.

02:36:32.620 I don't want to do that.

02:36:33.320 Like, I'm just...

02:36:33.820 I don't do the hookup thing.

02:36:35.760 But women...

02:36:36.280 Really?

02:36:37.200 Yeah.

02:36:37.560 You don't do the hookup thing?

02:36:38.460 No, I don't.

02:36:39.140 I'm just...

02:36:39.500 That's not something I'm, like, interested in.

02:36:41.480 Are you sure?

02:36:42.600 Yeah.

02:36:44.500 I'm just...

02:36:45.360 It kind of gives me the creeps a little bit.

02:36:47.640 Like, I think about it, but then I'm just, like, I can't.

02:36:50.600 I think guys just place a lot...

02:36:54.660 I think guys place a lot more importance and power on the body count number, whereas women

02:37:06.340 don't, because I've had a guy tell me, personally, the same guy that was a five that was, like,

02:37:10.780 sleeping with half of Vila Vista, has literally told me directly, like, the thing that makes

02:37:15.140 you attractive to me or the thing that makes you more attractive to me is how low your body

02:37:19.580 count is.

02:37:20.420 That's right.

02:37:20.900 So, that's where it's, like, it's the same thing as, like, Madonna and whore complex,

02:37:26.360 where it's, like, a man wants a woman that's, like, motherly and a Madonna, but then at the

02:37:30.200 same time, he wants a whore that's going to do the nasty things for him.

02:37:33.300 And so, there's a very fine line.

02:37:35.200 Well, yeah.

02:37:35.620 I mean, you're right that men generally care more about body count than women.

02:37:40.380 Right.

02:37:40.520 And I think, well, I think what was funny to me was that, like, okay, yes, I have a low

02:37:43.940 body count, but for me, it's because I am more of a relationship person.

02:37:47.920 Not to say that I haven't, I've had hookups before, but for me, I just didn't really understand,

02:37:53.660 like, okay, yeah, so my body count's, like, this number, and it's low, but it's because

02:37:57.920 I've been with the same person.

02:37:59.120 And what makes me different for having sex with the same guy 20 times versus a girl

02:38:04.880 that's had sex with 20 different guys?

02:38:06.900 Yeah, like, I agree with the logic there.

02:38:08.900 There's a huge difference.

02:38:10.240 No, there's not.

02:38:11.720 So, for men, I guess, generally, it's just a session.

02:38:16.100 But for girls, it's an experience, whether they liked it or not.

02:38:19.760 It's a whole different perspective.

02:38:21.200 Guy, I hit it, and whatever, wham, whatever.

02:38:23.220 Yeah.

02:38:23.420 But for a girl, it's like, this fool's on me, like, he smelled a certain way, like,

02:38:27.240 he rubbed me, he was good in the beginning, and then it got kind of weird.

02:38:29.760 Like, they, girls dial in when guys just look at it like just another hole or holes.

02:38:36.240 But, like, I think, like, with this guy, he was like, oh, like, you know, girls in

02:38:39.340 Isla Vista, they'll go out and, like, fuck, like, 30 guys, 40 guys.

02:38:43.420 And it's like, well, like, yes, I was with one guy, but I fucked him 30, 40 times.

02:38:48.280 So, how does that make me, like, my value or my, I don't know.

02:38:52.540 That, well, I mean, there's a whole lot.

02:38:55.020 It doesn't.

02:38:55.320 That's great.

02:38:55.980 There's a whole lot there, but in the same, okay, I would rather a girl sleep with one

02:39:03.780 guy 300 times than sleep with 100 guys three times.

02:39:08.400 Why?

02:39:09.940 Because it's a different guy each time.

02:39:11.340 I have to articulate why I'd prefer not to sleep with someone that's, okay, I'll articulate

02:39:16.460 it.

02:39:17.000 Yeah.

02:39:17.180 No, go ahead.

02:39:17.580 I think what I, what was articulated to me, I'm sure there's, like, so many more reasonings

02:39:21.840 behind this from the male perspective, but what was articulated to me is, like, oh, well,

02:39:26.140 like, I wouldn't want you sleeping with a bunch of different guys because then that makes you

02:39:28.960 loose.

02:39:30.300 But, like, how would.

02:39:31.200 Like, your pussy?

02:39:32.220 I guess.

02:39:32.780 I don't know.

02:39:33.380 That's what he said to me.

02:39:34.800 And it's, like, how am I tighter or looser based on the amount of times I've had sex,

02:39:40.540 whether it's the same person or different people.

02:39:42.760 It's different people.

02:39:43.100 That's, I'm pretty sure that's a myth.

02:39:44.880 Unless you're, like, really fucking super rough with a guy who's really well endowed.

02:39:50.820 Otherwise, like, you being, I'm pretty sure that's the cap, that whole thing.

02:39:57.200 And, um, he might have meant it, he might have meant loose in the colloquial sense.

02:40:02.140 Yeah.

02:40:03.120 But.

02:40:05.340 I mean.

02:40:05.980 I don't know.

02:40:06.620 I just think it was really weird to hear, to be put on a pedestal for a number, like,

02:40:12.180 my body count, and then hear him and, like, his guy friends trash other women for their

02:40:18.420 sexual behaviors.

02:40:19.640 They're just a weird.

02:40:20.580 Or, like, can't it just be equal for everybody, basically?

02:40:23.420 Yeah.

02:40:23.740 Yeah.

02:40:24.080 I don't know.

02:40:24.560 Same energy is all I'm saying.

02:40:25.480 As far as the whole, like, what's the difference between having a whole bunch of sex with one

02:40:30.520 guy and having sex once or just a few times with a bunch of guys?

02:40:35.020 So, I mean, here's a couple reasons why body count matters.

02:40:38.900 STDs, more baggage.

02:40:40.920 The more men you deal with, the more, you know, more likely to have baggage from past

02:40:45.400 relationship, some sort of trauma, whatever.

02:40:47.860 You start losing, you start chipping away at your ability to pair bond.

02:40:53.600 You, you remove the intimacy from the act of sex.

02:40:58.380 If sex is just sport to you, if it's just sport fucking, then it's no longer going to

02:41:03.340 be this cherished, special, intimate thing that you do with someone that you care about.

02:41:07.620 And either have an emotional connection with or love.

02:41:11.500 That's, that's fine.

02:41:13.200 But the reality is, if you just fuck 300 dudes, you think number 301 is going to feel special?

02:41:19.620 Yeah.

02:41:19.940 No.

02:41:20.860 Also, it just, it's, it says something about your behavior, your decision making, your

02:41:28.200 temperament.

02:41:28.760 It suggests to me that you're an impulsive individual.

02:41:31.660 If you have a high body count, if you have a high body count, it sort of necessitates that

02:41:37.240 you take part in hookup culture, you're probably less likely to be concerned about stuff like

02:41:43.640 STDs.

02:41:44.480 I mean, if I'm going to roll the dice, if I'm a roll the dice and sleep with the, if

02:41:48.680 I have to choose like which one's more likely to have an STD, there's the girl who slept

02:41:52.080 with one guy and then there's a girl who slept with a hundred guys.

02:41:55.360 So it comes down to who you'd rather not wear a condom with.

02:41:57.980 I mean, body count, I don't think it matters as long as you're safe.

02:42:01.140 You get tested, whatever.

02:42:01.900 That's not how STDs work.

02:42:05.160 That's not how STDs work.

02:42:06.560 I mean, I think it was also just like when I, when this was a situation between me and

02:42:10.480 this guy I was seeing is that like, um, the way they were talking about other women that

02:42:15.480 were like, oh, well, all Isla Vista girls are sluts.

02:42:18.220 Like you're not a, you know, you're not a slut.

02:42:20.160 And it's like, what?

02:42:21.460 I'll like, I'll be a slut.

02:42:22.640 Like I can be a slut for one guy.

02:42:25.020 Like maybe I'm not a slut for everyone, but I, I don't know.

02:42:28.700 I just think there's like very, you, you need not be like a sexually reserved prude.

02:42:35.020 Yeah.

02:42:35.440 You can have a low body count and be sexually open and have a fulfilling sex life.

02:42:41.640 Yeah.

02:42:42.120 I think that's what was getting blurred was that like there was a certain, like being

02:42:45.880 put on a pedestal of, oh, well, like you're holier than thou.

02:42:49.160 And it's like, no, I, that's not who I am at all.

02:42:52.000 And these girls that choose to participate in hookup culture, I don't think that they're

02:42:56.000 scum of the earth or whatever.

02:42:57.980 So I think that these labels kind of get like really stuck on a person based on their body

02:43:03.300 counts.

02:43:03.880 And I don't think that that same assertions apply to men.

02:43:07.560 That's all.

02:43:09.580 I'll say for me, like a high body count that suggests impulse control issues.

02:43:14.720 Also like a lack of ability to commit for me.

02:43:17.320 Okay.

02:43:17.540 So for me, I'm not interested in one night stands.

02:43:20.260 I'm not interested in just fucking one time.

02:43:23.180 Yeah.

02:43:23.500 It's pointless to me.

02:43:24.540 Are you, are you interested in like a relationship?

02:43:27.380 I prefer relationships.

02:43:29.580 Yes.

02:43:29.800 Short term, long term.

02:43:31.560 I mean, preferably long term.

02:43:33.720 You're looking for a long term relationship.

02:43:35.760 Sure.

02:43:36.240 Okay.

02:43:36.500 Well then that makes more sense for that content.

02:43:38.420 Well, even here's the thing though.

02:43:39.920 Even if I was so inclined to have a one night stand or have a short term relationship with

02:43:45.400 that even in a one night stand, I'd still prefer to get with the girl with the low body count.

02:43:50.120 Yeah.

02:43:50.360 I think the context is so, especially here in Isla Vista, everyone's fucking.

02:43:54.160 I think that it's so, so common culture for guys and girls to just go crazy with hookup

02:43:59.580 culture, which is neither here nor there.

02:44:01.580 But I mean, I think moving out of Isla Vista and being an adult and in the dating world

02:44:09.060 that, I mean, like what you did in college or how you were in college still like has meaning

02:44:15.140 and follows you.

02:44:16.000 So it's just interesting.

02:44:17.260 I mean, I would, I would just say that someone who has a high body count, both men and women,

02:44:22.480 higher, there's a higher likelihood of infidelity.

02:44:25.280 So that's one, uh, there's a higher likelihood of the relationship not working out.

02:44:31.140 And if you're married, that might result in the divorce.

02:44:34.260 So especially for something really long-term life partner marriage, you're probably going

02:44:39.200 to want to find someone with a low body count, your life partner.

02:44:43.080 So I was just talking about this with someone.

02:44:44.640 And I think a good way that we defined it is instead of like putting it in these boxes,

02:44:49.200 like these terms of body count or slut, or I think it's more of like for us,

02:44:54.340 we were like, you know what the issue is?

02:44:55.480 Like, I want someone that isn't for everyone.

02:44:58.000 You know, I think that's a good way of putting it of like someone that is for everyone.

02:45:02.500 It doesn't ascertain to sex or their behavior, or it's just like, you know, someone that is

02:45:08.980 devoted to like, you know, in your circumstance, a long-term relationship or an exclusive, whatever

02:45:15.880 it may be.

02:45:16.980 But it's just, I think there's a difference between someone that is for everyone, someone

02:45:20.760 that is like, doesn't know what they want or is open to whatever it may be.

02:45:25.300 What's that tattoo on your wrist?

02:45:27.120 It's a stick and poke.

02:45:28.440 Is it, is that astrology sign?

02:45:30.480 What is that?

02:45:30.820 Yeah.

02:45:31.660 Unfortunately, we're Gemini's.

02:45:33.600 Oh, okay.

02:45:34.040 I'm going to get canceled.

02:45:35.360 I'm not really, you're going to get canceled for being a Gemini?

02:45:37.280 A Gemini, yeah.

02:45:38.180 I don't know.

02:45:38.560 I'm not really.

02:45:38.820 I guess it means something.

02:45:39.880 I'm not into astrology.

02:45:41.120 Me neither.

02:45:41.520 My friend stick and poked it on me for funsies.

02:45:43.560 Okay.

02:45:44.020 Wow.

02:45:44.860 Wow.

02:45:45.140 Okay.

02:45:45.560 So we got, we got, we'll come back to the body count thing, but initially what set that

02:45:50.180 off is we were talking about, I said, I forgot exactly what the question was, but you said

02:45:55.540 that it's easier for men to get laid than it is for women.

02:45:59.620 Okay.

02:46:00.000 So my goal tonight is to try to change your mind on that.

02:46:02.680 Wait, did you say opposite?

02:46:04.300 No.

02:46:04.540 No.

02:46:04.640 No.

02:46:04.740 She said it's, she thinks it's easier for.

02:46:07.060 For, in my experience.

02:46:08.320 And you said, was it you who said a guy who's a five?

02:46:11.360 I said he did for a man.

02:46:12.360 Who, who's the one who said like.

02:46:13.520 It was a woman.

02:46:13.840 I said it's the woman.

02:46:14.320 Who said the one, who, who's the one who said that a guy who's a five can get with

02:46:18.600 a.

02:46:19.220 That was me.

02:46:19.860 That was you.

02:46:20.480 Okay.

02:46:20.720 You still think that.

02:46:21.940 I think, okay.

02:46:22.820 Let me, I think a guy with mediocre looks and mediocre personality, especially in this

02:46:30.900 area and in this generation can fuck so easy.

02:46:35.640 What are you, a guy like, trust me, I've seen it.

02:46:41.720 I've, there's a, there's a lot of truth to that.

02:46:43.620 I, especially here, maybe it's different across like a, you know, like global context, but

02:46:49.240 in this cultural context in Isla Vista, I see men that look like my fucking foot and

02:46:54.460 I see them like, fuck everything that moves without even trying.

02:46:59.180 It's about game too.

02:47:00.240 No, with no game, with no game, with no riz, with no personality, with no looks.

02:47:05.540 It's just, it's the, it's the ratio here.

02:47:08.580 There is, there are girls who are eights, nines, tens, throwing themselves at these mediocre

02:47:13.620 ass men, especially if they're in a frat, especially if they're assholes, like men that

02:47:17.420 are just subpar that are getting so much action.

02:47:20.920 No, they do it in packs too.

02:47:23.300 I've noticed.

02:47:23.800 The fuck in packs?

02:47:24.660 Like, no, like if they're trying to like get at women, like they have a.

02:47:28.420 Okay.

02:47:28.900 I'll give you that.

02:47:29.840 Yes.

02:47:30.080 In college, it's a bit easier.

02:47:32.240 Yeah.

02:47:32.580 But it's easier for everyone in college.

02:47:34.280 Especially when we're all neighbors.

02:47:35.200 We're all neighbors.

02:47:36.160 Yeah.

02:47:36.260 Stop, stop playing with that.

02:47:37.560 We saw it.

02:47:37.820 We saw it.

02:47:38.540 It's, it's a bit easier in college, but I mean, it's a social environment that is conducive

02:47:45.100 to people interacting and communicating.

02:47:48.280 It's just, yes, it is easier in college.

02:47:50.060 However, if we're speaking in generalities here, even in college, it is harder for men

02:47:55.760 to get laid.

02:47:57.620 It's harder for men.

02:47:59.620 And okay, you want to use numbers.

02:48:01.460 I know that.

02:48:02.180 Thank God she left because she would have flipped her shit about all the fives and the

02:48:05.760 sevens.

02:48:06.560 They're all tens.

02:48:06.940 That's all I mean.

02:48:08.760 It's extremely difficult for a man to get a lot of girls, but it's incredibly easy for

02:48:15.100 a woman to get a lot of guys.

02:48:18.760 Like if a guy texts me at like midnight or whatever, like come over, I'm not going.

02:48:24.480 Well, especially a guy you've never hooked up with before, correct?

02:48:27.960 Even if I have.

02:48:29.320 No, no, but more specifically, a guy you've never hooked up with before and he's like,

02:48:33.980 hey, come over.

02:48:35.820 I'm not going.

02:48:36.480 It's not happening.

02:48:38.040 But if I do the same, they're coming right over.

02:48:40.740 I've said this before and I'll say it again, guys, it's 10 p.m. on a Tuesday in Santa Barbara.

02:48:45.680 All four of you, if you were so inclined, could fuck a guy, a brand new guy that you've never

02:48:51.840 even talked to tonight.

02:48:53.680 Doubt it.

02:48:55.040 Shut up.

02:48:55.560 You think so?

02:48:56.720 Doubt it.

02:48:57.520 Emma, I could be.

02:48:58.560 Based on this chat, I think I'm so insufferable that not even, even if I was a 10.

02:49:03.840 I lived with you.

02:49:03.940 Even if I lived with you.

02:49:06.060 Emma.

02:49:06.740 I had a long-term abusive relationship for all of college.

02:49:10.700 I had no fun.

02:49:11.120 What do you mean you lived with her?

02:49:12.440 We were roommates.

02:49:14.040 I dated a 27-year-old with mediocre looks who was mean to me.

02:49:17.720 No.

02:49:17.940 Was he mediocre, Sydney?

02:49:20.440 I don't want to comment on that.

02:49:22.300 I don't know.

02:49:22.720 But I had a guy text me yesterday around like 7 p.m.

02:49:25.540 I'm like, I'm not going to.

02:49:26.520 You say, here's the thing, right?

02:49:27.940 You say you're abrasive, but just to get laid, just, sure, that might preclude guys from wanting

02:49:34.180 to wife you up.

02:49:35.440 Yeah, but me getting laid would have to be me shutting the fuck up for at least more than

02:49:39.620 five minutes, which I simply cannot do.

02:49:41.640 Guys will tolerate a lot to get some pussy.

02:49:44.200 I'll say that much.

02:49:45.300 You know what?

02:49:45.740 That's very true.

02:49:46.880 Oh, I love how outspoken you are.

02:49:49.440 Emma, I love you.

02:49:50.960 You're such a strong, independent woman.

02:49:54.340 That's what they're going to say.

02:49:55.500 You have so many opinions.

02:49:56.980 Guys, oh, you're great.

02:49:59.180 I like, oh.

02:50:00.040 She's giving me PTSD.

02:50:01.700 No, like, guys will lie to get laid.

02:50:05.900 Yeah.

02:50:06.840 Guys will never be honest about what they actually want.

02:50:09.420 That's very true.

02:50:10.120 They'll be like, oh.

02:50:11.180 Girls will lie to avoid getting laid.

02:50:14.040 That is so real.

02:50:15.620 Oh, yeah.

02:50:15.900 That is true.

02:50:16.360 Okay, that right there is the realest thing, I think.

02:50:18.240 Okay, let me, I'm trying to think how I'm going to, are you currently seeing someone

02:50:21.960 right now?

02:50:22.780 No.

02:50:23.380 Nobody.

02:50:24.560 Sydney, confirm or deny?

02:50:26.500 Well, you guys are no longer.

02:50:27.820 What's seeing?

02:50:29.000 Hooking up with somebody.

02:50:30.160 No, I haven't had any, so much as a kiss with anyone.

02:50:34.520 In a fortnight?

02:50:35.980 Since my ex, yeah.

02:50:37.620 Since when?

02:50:38.120 Um, we broke up in, fuck, July.

02:50:43.520 Yeah, July.

02:50:44.900 Oh, shit.

02:50:45.480 Okay, that's, that's a good.

02:50:47.460 July.

02:50:48.020 Good period of time.

02:50:48.820 Yeah.

02:50:49.020 Wait, okay, so let me just go around once more.

02:50:52.260 Is it easier to get laid as a guy or a girl?

02:50:55.160 As a guy.

02:50:56.140 Girl.

02:50:57.280 Girl.

02:50:58.260 Guy.

02:50:59.100 Okay.

02:51:01.180 So.

02:51:02.660 You have to put in more work as a guy.

02:51:06.020 Experiment.

02:51:06.380 Emma, will you have sex with me tonight?

02:51:12.260 Maybe.

02:51:13.140 Oh.

02:51:13.860 Okay, so y'all can mingle in.

02:51:15.880 Yeah, ask, ask after the second, second drink.

02:51:19.260 We can head out.

02:51:21.020 Yeah, we can leave.

02:51:21.880 We can all leave.

02:51:22.280 It's actually past my bedtime.

02:51:24.760 Like, we'll keep it rolling.

02:51:27.480 Honestly, all those compliments earlier, that, that made me feel good.

02:51:31.780 I gave you compliments?

02:51:33.040 Yeah, see, it's that easy.

02:51:34.640 It's that easy, guys.

02:51:35.720 Wait, did I, what?

02:51:37.060 I don't know.

02:51:37.400 I gave you compliments?

02:51:38.600 What did you call me, like a girl boss or something?

02:51:40.700 You're saying I'm outspoken.

02:51:42.580 Oh, you mean literally like two minutes ago?

02:51:45.260 Oh, okay.

02:51:46.060 All right.

02:51:46.560 Tell me I'm outspoken, guys, and I could be yours.

02:51:48.620 Can you put your hair down?

02:51:50.780 Oh, my gosh.

02:51:51.180 Can I put my hair down?

02:51:52.180 Yeah.

02:51:52.720 Okay, I just dyed it.

02:51:53.840 You should have had it down the whole show, by the way.

02:51:55.700 I mean, I didn't, because it's a mess.

02:51:57.740 Why?

02:51:58.200 I don't, it's, you know, hair.

02:51:59.940 Okay, guys, it's coming down.

02:52:01.420 Hold on.

02:52:03.120 Oh, I would, if my hair's in a bun, oh, it's not coming down.

02:52:05.000 I know.

02:52:05.520 Well, that's what I'm saying.

02:52:06.200 It's going to be all fucked up crazy.

02:52:09.000 Okay.

02:52:10.200 Oh.

02:52:11.440 Give it a minute.

02:52:12.420 Give it a minute.

02:52:13.940 She's got the mane.

02:52:14.640 The mane.

02:52:15.100 Oh, I have really thick, long hair.

02:52:18.000 Yeah, I do, too.

02:52:18.700 My hair does that when I take it out.

02:52:20.540 You're not even going to let me, like, sit.

02:52:21.600 Oh, it's bad.

02:52:22.660 Oh, it's bad.

02:52:23.640 I've been a bun for days.

02:52:27.340 Give it, like.

02:52:28.200 We'll give it time.

02:52:29.120 Give it some time.

02:52:29.520 I'm dyeing my hair soon.

02:52:31.120 I'm looking like a different person in two weeks.

02:52:33.520 It's a baby for you, bro.

02:52:37.260 Well, I feel like she might be saying that just to challenge my point.

02:52:42.860 Challenge it upstairs.

02:52:44.080 Maybe not.

02:52:44.400 The door's open.

02:52:45.000 The door's slightly cracked.

02:52:47.140 Anyways, so we'll get back to it.

02:52:49.080 So, any one of you could get laid tonight.

02:52:54.360 Yes.

02:52:54.940 Yes.

02:52:55.260 It's hard for a dude on a Tuesday at 10 p.m.

02:52:59.100 I could do it.

02:52:59.460 To be like, yo.

02:53:01.320 Even on Tinder.

02:53:02.580 No.

02:53:02.940 To get a girl to be like, to come over.

02:53:04.580 You'd be surprised.

02:53:04.740 It'll be Tuesday at 10 p.m.

02:53:05.980 And I'll hit someone up for companionship.

02:53:08.480 Like, literally.

02:53:09.300 Just like, hey, want to hang out?

02:53:11.040 Can you put your hair back in the bun?

02:53:12.480 I'm sorry.

02:53:14.960 It's just.

02:53:15.680 Well, it's all over the place because it's been in a fucking bun, my guy.

02:53:18.540 You probably need about five minutes in the bathroom to get it.

02:53:22.100 Can I get five minutes?

02:53:22.860 No, no.

02:53:23.200 It's fine.

02:53:23.620 Just leave it.

02:53:24.360 It's good.

02:53:24.760 It's good.

02:53:25.160 It looks good.

02:53:26.220 That's rude to a girl.

02:53:28.160 If you said it to me, I'm out of here.

02:53:30.020 I'm sorry.

02:53:31.040 I'm out.

02:53:31.520 It's tasteful teasing.

02:53:35.760 Yeah, I think I'm doing okay for myself.

02:53:38.040 I don't think anyone else could take their hair out of a slicked back bun in two seconds

02:53:44.320 and be fine.

02:53:45.220 Okay, let me get soup chats and we'll come back to the easier thing for a little bit.

02:53:49.160 All right, we got.

02:53:49.900 Yeah, roast me guys.

02:53:50.980 Did we do this?

02:53:51.720 Mike Davis, thank you for the $10 soup chat.

02:53:53.700 Appreciate your support, man.

02:53:54.540 50 got played.

02:53:55.320 Big boy used fake pics to get his fat ass through the door and then used his personality to stay.

02:53:59.700 If a woman pulled that shit on me, she's getting the door slammed.

02:54:04.300 No Uber or taxi.

02:54:07.600 Red Misfit with the $10 soup chat.

02:54:09.160 Super excited to see Brandon back.

02:54:11.980 Fan favorite.

02:54:12.780 Such a great addition.

02:54:14.000 You and Chase are the best.

02:54:16.200 Brian, can you go around and ask the panel if they're bi-curious?

02:54:18.620 Sure.

02:54:18.900 Thank you, Red Misfit, for the soup chat.

02:54:20.780 Really quick, are you bi-curious?

02:54:22.680 I am bi.

02:54:24.180 I think at one point I was.

02:54:25.780 I don't think anymore.

02:54:27.540 Yeah.

02:54:28.060 Sydney?

02:54:29.700 Emma, you're bi, right?

02:54:31.700 Pansexual.

02:54:32.620 Turn the mic straight on.

02:54:34.460 How did the mic?

02:54:35.240 I was reading.

02:54:36.840 Oh, just so you could read.

02:54:37.940 Okay, got it.

02:54:38.480 Pansexual.

02:54:39.580 All right.

02:54:40.740 I don't think anyone on this side of the table is.

02:54:44.320 Don't lie.

02:54:45.340 Don't lie.

02:54:45.620 It's okay.

02:54:46.220 Y'all could be open.

02:54:46.740 This is a safe space.

02:54:48.180 No, I'm straight.

02:54:49.660 Brian, do you have a brush?

02:54:51.940 I don't think so.

02:54:53.300 Sorry, I just have to work with you.

02:54:54.440 Just, just.

02:54:55.600 It looks good.

02:54:56.320 It looks good.

02:54:56.860 It looks fucking shit.

02:54:58.200 More lying from Brian.

02:55:00.460 More lying from Brian.

02:55:01.220 You've kind of got that, like.

02:55:02.480 More lying from Brian to get me in bed.

02:55:04.340 You've got that, like, 80s, 90s glam look going.

02:55:08.800 All right.

02:55:09.680 I reckon.

02:55:10.840 What?

02:55:11.400 What is she?

02:55:12.300 Okay.

02:55:13.560 We have Hobosexual here with the $10 Soup Chat.

02:55:16.500 Put some respect on my guy, Brian's name.

02:55:18.720 This is when Sydney was roasting me, I think.

02:55:20.900 Like, it's always the, it's always the ran-throughs that have something to say.

02:55:26.640 Okay.

02:55:27.160 Hobosexual.

02:55:28.240 All right.

02:55:28.760 Shooting shots.

02:55:29.540 Love that.

02:55:30.320 Michael Trilstein, thank you for the $10 Soup Chat.

02:55:32.040 Good to see you, man.

02:55:32.900 Donnie T, going to free Joey E, so Joey B should pardon.

02:55:35.980 I can't believe he came from what, Florida?

02:55:38.960 Trilstein?

02:55:39.420 Yeah.

02:55:39.840 Oh, you saw that?

02:55:40.440 Yeah.

02:55:40.740 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

02:55:41.740 He might be coming back, too.

02:55:43.320 That's crazy.

02:55:43.720 He actually told me that he has a crush on you.

02:55:45.920 Does he?

02:55:46.360 Yeah, are you down to meet him?

02:55:49.320 He's looking for his third girlfriend, though.

02:55:51.300 I'll meet him, but I don't think I'll go any further than that.

02:55:53.960 Oh, okay.

02:55:54.520 I see.

02:55:54.960 Oh, my God.

02:55:55.200 Someone said, some guy texted me.

02:55:56.580 He's like, I saw you on the pod.

02:55:58.000 Like, right now.

02:55:58.460 He was on it with Marley, the other guy.

02:56:01.740 Oh, 60 Cal, the rapper?

02:56:03.120 Yeah.

02:56:03.300 He texted me.

02:56:04.620 He hit you up?

02:56:05.520 I hit him up.

02:56:06.900 Oh, you hit him up?

02:56:08.660 He gave me his number.

02:56:09.680 He texted me.

02:56:10.160 I kind of never text him back.

02:56:12.140 Do you like black guys?

02:56:13.980 Yeah.

02:56:14.640 Okay.

02:56:15.180 Yeah.

02:56:15.360 Because didn't you say your ex was black?

02:56:17.300 He's white.

02:56:18.120 Oh, okay.

02:56:18.760 I don't know why.

02:56:19.860 But he texted me.

02:56:20.700 He's like, are you on the pod for a little bit?

02:56:22.140 Yeah, he was cool.

02:56:22.740 He's been trying to hang out with me.

02:56:23.680 I just haven't.

02:56:24.000 He was cool.

02:56:24.560 Yeah.

02:56:25.200 Marley's cool, too.

02:56:26.180 Yeah.

02:56:27.400 He looks like someone I used to.

02:56:29.540 He looks like someone that you actually hooked up with?

02:56:32.180 As in you hooked up?

02:56:33.120 Are you saying you hooked up with Marley?

02:56:34.960 No, no, no, no.

02:56:36.060 I just, he's, okay.

02:56:37.080 I didn't hook up the guy that he looks like, but the guy he looks like was someone that I know.

02:56:41.280 And it's always tripped me out.

02:56:42.840 I've seen him multiple times.

02:56:43.820 He just doesn't know who I am.

02:56:44.740 Okay.

02:56:45.320 Hobosexual here.

02:56:45.980 $10 soup chat.

02:56:46.760 Thank you, man.

02:56:47.340 These chicks really don't understand the struggles an average man goes through just to get boxed.

02:56:51.100 Even once a year, men will F women they don't like.

02:56:54.900 Women don't F men they don't like.

02:56:56.500 Very good point.

02:56:57.580 Hobosexual.

02:56:57.940 And that will bring us back to me trying to convince these girls that it's harder for men to get laid.

02:57:05.040 You know what?

02:57:05.540 Let's do another Tate clip, right?

02:57:07.020 Maybe he can come in with the assist.

02:57:10.440 Eric, can you pull up the video tab really quick?

02:57:12.620 I got to be up early to work.

02:57:16.640 We'll be done.

02:57:17.360 Don't worry.

02:57:17.720 Don't worry.

02:57:18.400 We're going to wrap soon.

02:57:19.400 Oh, do you want to watch the Tate clip or where are you going?

02:57:21.600 I'm fixing my hair.

02:57:22.440 No, your hair's fine.

02:57:23.680 Don't worry.

02:57:24.280 No, it's fucked.

02:57:26.180 Let me get 30 seconds.

02:57:30.120 Okay.

02:57:30.480 I will continue the conversation then.

02:57:32.760 Let's react to some regular chats while we're...

02:57:35.480 Let's just do some regular chats here.

02:57:37.660 People are hate-mobbing.

02:57:38.160 Yeah, no, they don't work.

02:57:38.780 Okay, people...

02:57:39.820 Okay, I talk weird sometimes.

02:57:40.760 This one, Java is like 60 IQ.

02:57:43.380 I just can't get my words out properly and so people just hit on me.

02:57:46.780 She's a royal painter.

02:57:47.820 Sounds like I have a retainer.

02:57:49.140 Let's get loose.

02:57:49.780 Okay, fine.

02:57:50.380 All right, guys, get your regular chats in.

02:57:52.880 We're going to just read a few.

02:57:56.740 By the way, can we get some ones in the chat for...

02:58:01.380 Emma?

02:58:03.220 For Eric.

02:58:04.300 Guys, Eric has been the fucking top G.

02:58:07.780 Yeah.

02:58:09.540 Eric's a fucking legend.

02:58:11.160 You got to get him on here.

02:58:12.040 Sit down for a second.

02:58:13.340 I think I invited Eric to be on the panel once, but then...

02:58:16.540 Yeah, can we get...

02:58:17.140 No, sorry.

02:58:17.580 Can we get some Ws in the chat for Eric?

02:58:19.520 And if you're a member, can we get some Pepe Crown emojis for Eric?

02:58:24.280 We need some fucking...

02:58:25.540 There we go.

02:58:26.320 Ws in the chat for Eric.

02:58:28.760 Fs in the chat.

02:58:29.340 I did his B-real today.

02:58:30.680 He's a cool guy.

02:58:31.260 Fs in the chat for Chris.

02:58:33.920 But yeah, Eric's the fucking legend.

02:58:39.540 And he's a really nice guy.

02:58:41.340 And he has a huge penis.

02:58:42.980 I'm kidding.

02:58:43.660 Actually, wait, he does.

02:58:44.380 Have you seen it?

02:58:44.820 No.

02:58:46.040 You sure?

02:58:46.460 Are you sure, Brian?

02:58:48.020 I'm sure.

02:58:48.640 Okay.

02:58:49.260 Huge.

02:58:50.320 Huge.

02:58:51.840 Huge.

02:58:52.800 It's giant.

02:58:54.680 Have you tried hooking up with anyone?

02:58:56.540 Wait, say it louder, Eric, so they can hear you.

02:58:58.320 It's true.

02:58:59.400 Eric, have you ever gotten with any of the girls on the pod?

02:59:03.380 No.

02:59:04.560 Eric has...

02:59:06.460 Do you have a girlfriend?

02:59:09.060 No.

02:59:09.560 Oh.

02:59:11.120 Boyfriend?

02:59:11.560 But when he was in...

02:59:12.340 Are you asking if he wants to play?

02:59:13.980 What's going on?

02:59:15.780 Wait, Jabba, can I hook you up with Eric or what?

02:59:19.340 I don't know.

02:59:20.180 No.

02:59:20.760 Oh.

02:59:20.960 Okay, okay.

02:59:21.620 That's fine.

02:59:22.040 That's fine.

02:59:23.480 Oh, God damn.

02:59:25.640 God damn.

02:59:27.080 I was going to say, he's handsome.

02:59:28.220 Go for it.

02:59:28.760 But he shot you down way too quick.

02:59:30.060 Eric was quick.

02:59:30.320 It's okay.

02:59:30.940 Everyone does it.

02:59:31.660 Everyone does it.

02:59:32.280 It's fine.

02:59:32.820 I'm used to it.

02:59:33.360 We're back.

02:59:33.880 All right.

02:59:34.220 We're on my hair, guys.

02:59:34.860 Emma's back.

02:59:35.800 We will...

02:59:36.160 Cute.

02:59:37.120 Love it.

02:59:37.900 All right.

02:59:38.160 Let's pull up this tape clip.

02:59:39.300 We're going to do the lonely one.

02:59:45.340 I'm real lonely.

02:59:46.880 It's probably at the bottom, towards the bottom.

02:59:48.820 Let's do the...

02:59:49.740 We'll do the FNF lonely.

02:59:53.500 I don't think most women can actually genuinely understand how lonely...

02:59:58.740 This is for you, sorry.

03:00:00.940 You need to truly understand your jokes.

03:00:03.260 It's a few hard times.

03:00:04.440 Average in nearly every way.

03:00:06.600 In Starbucks, working.

03:00:07.940 Well, you ain't getting...

03:00:09.840 Ever.

03:00:11.700 Two girls...

03:00:12.180 Two girls will never be lonely.

03:00:15.180 As much as you might be unhappy with the possible suitors, you can at least fuck about

03:00:19.900 and flirt if you feel sad.

03:00:21.700 There are men out here in the world who have genuine moments.

03:00:26.480 I mean, I can prove this statistically.

03:00:28.500 Why do you think it's all the men killing themselves compared to the women?

03:00:31.980 Oh, shit.

03:00:32.860 Okay.

03:00:33.580 Well, shout out...

03:00:33.940 Killing themselves.

03:00:34.940 Shout out to Fresh and Fit.

03:00:37.200 Check them out on YouTube.

03:00:38.120 That's a clip from their podcast with Andrew Tate.

03:00:41.000 He didn't really drop a whole bunch of bombs, but look...

03:00:45.940 Men just don't express themselves.

03:00:48.900 Like, they could be lonely.

03:00:49.900 You just don't know, of course, but it's like...

03:00:51.140 Men are expressing themselves.

03:00:53.260 Not that I see.

03:00:54.120 They're expressing themselves.

03:00:55.280 It's not that men aren't trying.

03:00:57.220 Men are trying.

03:00:58.000 It's just women are rejecting them.

03:01:00.360 Think of the guys that you reject, that you turn down.

03:01:04.060 Most other women are also rejecting them, too.

03:01:07.840 Sucks for them.

03:01:08.940 I give them a shot.

03:01:09.800 But that's why it's harder for men to get laid.

03:01:13.800 You don't think so.

03:01:17.060 I don't think that.

03:01:17.400 Okay.

03:01:17.800 Let me ask.

03:01:18.480 Have you ever made a guy wait for sex?

03:01:21.640 I mean...

03:01:22.620 What do you mean?

03:01:24.140 Like, first time meeting him, he's like, yeah, I want to fight.

03:01:27.520 I'm like, no.

03:01:28.060 Okay.

03:01:28.080 Have you ever...

03:01:28.660 Okay.

03:01:29.020 Have you ever been talking to a guy you just met, first date, and you don't want to...

03:01:35.640 You know he wants to sleep with you.

03:01:37.360 Maybe you're making out.

03:01:38.480 He's trying to go for it, and you're just like, no.

03:01:40.380 Has that happened?

03:01:43.840 No.

03:01:44.480 So, every time...

03:01:45.760 Okay.

03:01:46.000 So, and that's fine, but every time the guy goes for it, you fuck.

03:01:49.220 No, they usually don't.

03:01:50.800 They don't go for it on the first time?

03:01:51.980 I don't let...

03:01:52.660 I don't really like that shit, so, like...

03:01:54.800 You don't like when guys...

03:01:55.860 No, no, no.

03:01:56.300 ...try to sleep with you?

03:01:57.940 Not after, like, a first date or anything.

03:01:59.960 Like, I'd like to get to know them first.

03:02:01.800 He just doesn't want to get to that point of them doing it.

03:02:04.180 I don't let them get to that.

03:02:05.820 Thank you for proving my point.

03:02:07.300 You don't let them get to that point.

03:02:09.840 Like, do you think they want to?

03:02:12.040 Yeah, I'm amazing.

03:02:14.540 You are.

03:02:15.280 But you're proving my point.

03:02:17.480 Okay.

03:02:18.080 You're proving my point.

03:02:19.240 I'm starting to see your side of the story.

03:02:21.360 Okay.

03:02:22.000 Jubilee.

03:02:23.060 Have you ever made a guy wait for sex?

03:02:25.420 Yes.

03:02:26.700 Okay.

03:02:27.540 Sydney.

03:02:27.700 Yeah, good 24 hours.

03:02:28.620 Emma.

03:02:29.020 Have you ever made a guy wait for sex?

03:02:30.700 Yeah.

03:02:31.260 Okay.

03:02:32.140 Has a guy ever made you wait for sex?

03:02:34.360 Yes.

03:02:34.980 Yes.

03:02:35.160 The first time?

03:02:35.860 Yes.

03:02:36.080 First time?

03:02:36.740 Yes.

03:02:37.100 Actually, a few times.

03:02:40.100 I don't disbelieve it, but that's some outlier shit.

03:02:45.040 But okay, fine.

03:02:46.360 Jubilee.

03:02:47.380 Has a guy ever made you wait for sex?

03:02:51.040 Depends on the situation.

03:02:52.200 Like, am I going over there knowing that we're just going to hook up?

03:02:54.920 Or is it-

03:02:55.200 This is the first time ever.

03:02:56.480 I'm not talking like-

03:02:57.280 Oh, no.

03:02:58.140 I'm not talking like you've already hooked up.

03:03:00.340 I'm talking the first time.

03:03:02.480 Oh, then I would like to redact my statement.

03:03:05.440 Well, first time after-

03:03:08.080 Okay.

03:03:09.500 Go ahead.

03:03:10.340 After, like, a few dates and I've wanted to have sex with them, they've been like, no.

03:03:14.360 But, like, first time, no.

03:03:17.220 No, but I mean, okay.

03:03:18.240 Had you guys already hooked up before?

03:03:21.560 Okay.

03:03:21.840 So then you all of a sudden wanted to fuck, and they didn't?

03:03:26.020 Yeah.

03:03:26.460 But were you-

03:03:27.420 Let me clarify.

03:03:28.580 Were you pushing for it?

03:03:30.300 No.

03:03:31.740 I would never push for it.

03:03:33.160 That's like, fuck.

03:03:33.660 No, okay.

03:03:34.240 I don't mean push for it, but like-

03:03:36.320 Clarify.

03:03:37.020 You clarify what you want to have it.

03:03:38.580 What I'm saying is that-

03:03:39.320 Yeah.

03:03:39.940 It's one thing if you want sex, but if you don't communicate that, whereas guys will,

03:03:44.340 like, guys, we will initiate, and then the girl will say no, and then, you know,

03:03:49.060 we'll obviously wait till next time or whatever.

03:03:52.060 So, you said you, did you, okay, you wanted to have sex, did you make a move on the guy,

03:03:59.660 and he said, no, no, no, let's keep waiting.

03:04:01.760 Yeah.

03:04:03.860 That's cap.

03:04:04.540 Come on.

03:04:04.940 Stop the cap.

03:04:06.200 Come on.

03:04:07.060 It's only happened a few times, though.

03:04:09.540 All right.

03:04:09.960 I mean, I don't think that's an impossible scenario, but it's probably an outlier situation.

03:04:15.700 To be fair, I've only been on a date with a very few amount of guys.

03:04:19.620 I've only, like, had sex with a very few amount of guys, so my, like, perspective on

03:04:28.300 all this is very, like, slim.

03:04:31.360 Okay.

03:04:32.160 Fair enough.

03:04:33.860 I met, I mean, the guy I'm talking to, I barely met him, like, last weekend, and, like,

03:04:39.640 he, we were, like, making out or whatever, and he's like, let's go to my room, and I

03:04:42.100 was like, okay.

03:04:42.980 Didn't do anything.

03:04:43.620 I told him, like, hey, I'm not gonna, I'm not gonna have sex with you.

03:04:46.220 And he's like, okay, that's fine.

03:04:46.980 I left, whatever, next, next day, see him again.

03:04:49.800 I said, hey, I'm not going to.

03:04:51.200 Didn't.

03:04:51.900 Woke up in the morning, caved.

03:04:53.320 But, like, that's because I wanted to.

03:04:55.580 But, like, I still, I still made a wait.

03:04:57.360 I made a good, like, 24 hours.

03:04:58.900 But, roles reversed.

03:05:03.700 I can't remember me, I don't think a guy, I mean, guys will fuck anything.

03:05:09.320 Like, they just want to, in general.

03:05:12.540 But, no, I don't think it's, I don't think a guy's ever telling me, like, no.

03:05:16.540 Like, we're gonna wait.

03:05:17.540 Is it attractive when you're kicking it with a guy, and he's not going out of his way to

03:05:22.100 try to fuck you?

03:05:22.720 100%.

03:05:22.920 Yeah, love it, love it.

03:05:24.920 Isn't that why you fucked him after the third day in the morning?

03:05:28.800 Um, no.

03:05:30.860 I just wanted to.

03:05:35.980 Sydney?

03:05:36.300 Once.

03:05:39.180 Once.

03:05:41.420 Once with my, um, my, like, ex thing.

03:05:45.440 Yeah, like, we were, like, but, like, I liked how slow he went.

03:05:48.000 Like, he didn't even kiss me until, like, the third or fourth date.

03:05:51.240 So, like, it was, like, almost, like, really, like, like, it was, like, I was slightly irritated

03:05:56.080 because I was, like, why is nothing happening?

03:05:58.020 But then I was also, like, this is really nice that it's, like, going so slow.

03:06:01.240 You know what, though?

03:06:02.040 I do think you guys are a bit on the younger side, so I do think that there's an explanation

03:06:07.100 to these guys taking it slow.

03:06:09.980 When guys are really, if they're inexperienced, or maybe they're scared to make a move, then

03:06:17.880 they just won't make a move.

03:06:20.380 So that could be perceived as making you wait.

03:06:23.680 Yeah.

03:06:24.080 So if these were, like, younger relationships.

03:06:26.960 Which is how it was with my, yeah.

03:06:29.100 Yeah.

03:06:29.520 Like, I mean, I remember when I was 17, 18, like, it took me a little longer to, you know,

03:06:36.600 make a move to go for the kiss because I was a bit more nervous about it.

03:06:39.980 But now it's just, like.

03:06:41.560 Yeah.

03:06:43.600 Yeah.

03:06:44.520 Yeah.

03:06:45.200 You know.

03:06:45.580 Yeah.

03:06:45.920 What are you going to say, Juby?

03:06:47.020 Yeah.

03:06:47.400 I mean, like, definitely, like, not on the same, but I was saying, like, guys making their

03:06:52.240 first move and girls making their first move.

03:06:54.420 Girls don't really make the first move.

03:06:55.480 Oh, I do.

03:06:56.200 Yes, we do.

03:06:56.400 I've done it so many times.

03:06:57.340 It's so fun to do it.

03:06:58.140 Oh, I do it.

03:06:58.860 I love it.

03:06:59.820 I prefer doing it.

03:07:00.660 You do it?

03:07:02.320 Occasionally.

03:07:02.720 I don't like doing it, but occasionally, yeah.

03:07:04.360 Oh, I'll do it if a guy's not doing it.

03:07:05.760 I'll go for it.

03:07:06.300 I do it majority.

03:07:07.940 Okay.

03:07:08.300 So you think it's easier for, again, for.

03:07:12.060 In my life.

03:07:13.680 In your life.

03:07:14.140 In the people I know.

03:07:15.120 No, but I'm speaking in general.

03:07:16.120 Generally, I don't know.

03:07:18.220 I would say, like, I don't believe that it's easier for men.

03:07:22.580 Even in your life to get laid.

03:07:25.240 Okay.

03:07:26.220 Because you, maybe you don't.

03:07:30.900 You could get laid super easily.

03:07:33.740 Do you disagree with that?

03:07:35.740 No.

03:07:36.320 You don't think so?

03:07:37.940 No, I agree with you.

03:07:38.780 You're on a dating.

03:07:39.440 Have you ever been on a dating app?

03:07:40.600 I have, but I deleted it after like a week.

03:07:42.560 Okay.

03:07:42.880 Well, dating apps would be a good way to do it.

03:07:46.460 But, like, we could walk.

03:07:48.640 We could go outside right now on the street right here.

03:07:50.620 This is the main thoroughfare.

03:07:52.240 Hold on.

03:07:54.140 I could walk with you.

03:07:55.680 I could pretend to be your gay best friend.

03:07:57.660 And I could get you laid for you.

03:08:00.220 I'd be like, I'd go up to, here's what I'd do.

03:08:01.960 I'd go up to a guy.

03:08:02.920 Be the gay best friend.

03:08:04.120 Hey, do you see that girl over there?

03:08:05.300 Hey.

03:08:05.720 I mean, this would work better in a party type environment.

03:08:08.080 It's a fucking Tuesday.

03:08:09.160 But I could still do it.

03:08:10.380 I'd go up to a guy.

03:08:11.100 Be like, hey, do you see that girl over there?

03:08:12.320 She thinks you're cute.

03:08:13.880 She's down.

03:08:14.920 Just play, you know, play your cards right.

03:08:16.740 Just say what's up.

03:08:17.360 Go introduce yourself and boom.

03:08:19.540 Yeah, no, no.

03:08:20.000 I agree with you.

03:08:20.860 A girl could not do that to a guy.

03:08:22.900 Like, for example, none of you could be my agents in getting me pussy.

03:08:28.520 Yeah, I could.

03:08:29.340 Why?

03:08:30.280 You could not.

03:08:30.980 Okay.

03:08:31.160 You could not go up to a girl on my behalf and say, do you see that guy over there?

03:08:37.180 Yeah, I could.

03:08:37.800 No, because he's a coward.

03:08:38.720 He doesn't say it himself.

03:08:39.880 Sydney, that's what, yeah, that's exactly what I'm about to say.

03:08:42.040 If you went up to a girl on my behalf, the girl would be like, he's a pussy.

03:08:46.960 Why isn't he just coming up to me?

03:08:48.900 Why does he need you?

03:08:50.200 She's immediately going to be like, nah.

03:08:53.420 Don't get me wrong.

03:08:54.580 Like, I understand both point of views.

03:08:56.240 Like, I go out to the bar on college night with, like, one of my guy buddies and, like,

03:09:01.460 we, like, wingman each other.

03:09:03.420 But, no, like, coming from, like, as a woman, like, if another girl came up to me and be

03:09:07.380 like, oh, my God, like, hey, that guy over there, he's, like, really into you.

03:09:10.220 Like, you should, like.

03:09:11.720 Immediately.

03:09:12.280 I'd be like, well, come to me and, like, say it yourself.

03:09:14.180 Like, it's different than me as a woman, like, going up to him and shooting my shot versus

03:09:17.620 another girl being like, hey, you should go shoot your shot.

03:09:20.200 Because it's like, well, why doesn't he want to do it to me himself?

03:09:22.680 Sydney, did you say you've made a, or a guy made you wait?

03:09:25.320 Yeah.

03:09:26.040 Okay.

03:09:26.820 What about you?

03:09:28.280 Well, I literally, actually, I need advice on this.

03:09:32.920 All right.

03:09:33.780 Okay.

03:09:34.880 Okay.

03:09:35.460 Are you talking about me right now?

03:09:36.540 No, no.

03:09:37.020 Are you talking about this thing right here?

03:09:37.940 On the panel.

03:09:39.980 Sorry, that's my alarm.

03:09:41.840 Go ahead and continue.

03:09:43.160 For your birth control?

03:09:44.280 Birth control alarm.

03:09:45.640 Is it?

03:09:47.080 Well, because.

03:09:47.740 Hold on, wait.

03:09:48.740 Hold on.

03:09:49.480 Do you have to turn off your birth control alarm?

03:09:50.800 You don't score until you score.

03:09:54.060 That's right, baby.

03:09:54.860 Okay.

03:09:55.780 Go ahead.

03:09:56.020 Um, obviously I've never had a guy make me wait, but, uh, my last like situationship,

03:10:02.720 it was a situation where there was a lot of like physical chemistry and a lot of sexual

03:10:08.420 chemistry.

03:10:08.880 Um, but, and like, it's not, we, I think we were both really horny for each other and

03:10:14.560 really down for each other.

03:10:15.760 But when it came down to having sex, he was like, no.

03:10:19.380 Wait, so you're, you said you were asking for advice.

03:10:23.620 Yeah.

03:10:23.980 Like what's up with that?

03:10:25.140 Wait, hold on.

03:10:25.640 Your, your ex was it?

03:10:27.540 Well, no, it was a guy I was seeing after my ex.

03:10:30.360 It was like a situation ship.

03:10:32.660 And obviously.

03:10:34.640 Okay.

03:10:34.820 Yeah.

03:10:35.260 Yeah.

03:10:35.340 It was just a very strange situation because he didn't want to have sex.

03:10:41.120 Wait.

03:10:41.780 So how many dates or how many times did you hang out before?

03:10:47.320 We basically hung out consistently for like two weeks.

03:10:51.220 We hung out with each other every single day and like stayed over at each other's places

03:10:56.600 like every single night and not to get like too graphic, but like for most of our like

03:11:02.340 cuddles and stuff, like we obviously like made out and had cuddles.

03:11:06.300 And that was really graphic.

03:11:07.920 I mean, my guy was bricked up the whole time.

03:11:10.020 Like there was no issue down there.

03:11:13.260 I'm going to pretend like you didn't just make my dick go soft.

03:11:15.820 Wait.

03:11:16.100 So, okay.

03:11:16.520 Hold on.

03:11:16.960 So.

03:11:19.680 It was.

03:11:20.160 You guys were cuddling.

03:11:21.000 Okay.

03:11:21.240 So this is like recent because I was like not ready to see anyone after my ex.

03:11:24.820 And then I like recently clicked with someone where it was like out of nowhere.

03:11:29.000 It was just like, oh my God, this guy's so cute.

03:11:31.700 Like he's so, I'm so into him.

03:11:33.320 He's so into me.

03:11:34.300 We hung out.

03:11:35.200 We were like inseparable every day for like two weeks.

03:11:38.320 So into each other.

03:11:39.760 And then I was like, okay, when I was finally like, okay, I'm ready to have sex with this

03:11:43.700 guy.

03:11:43.920 Like it's been a while.

03:11:46.680 He was just not for it.

03:11:48.660 Just wasn't happening.

03:11:49.460 So you overtly asked him what's up or?

03:11:54.360 I didn't want to pry because I feel like in those situations, men do get like performance

03:12:01.080 anxiety.

03:12:02.080 And I've had situations where men like aren't able to perform because.

03:12:06.040 Like you're too pushy or too aggressive.

03:12:09.300 Or just like overbearing.

03:12:10.820 Like I, my first ex was like, I thought it was, I literally like point blank was like,

03:12:16.400 what, like, why aren't you performing?

03:12:18.940 And he was like, honestly, like you scare me.

03:12:22.820 He's like, oh, I haven't been like with a girl.

03:12:26.160 That's like this hot.

03:12:27.800 Like intimidating is what he said.

03:12:30.140 And I was like, you're intimidating.

03:12:31.700 I don't.

03:12:32.100 Bullshit.

03:12:32.660 I don't think so.

03:12:33.680 Like, I don't think that's a legitimate reason.

03:12:36.080 That's such an L to say that to.

03:12:38.160 I've never met a guy.

03:12:39.340 It's like, that's such a weird.

03:12:40.860 I have never met a guy.

03:12:42.060 I've met a lot of guys.

03:12:42.360 There's just like no reason for it.

03:12:45.100 So it's like.

03:12:45.760 It could be a soy boy.

03:12:46.320 I think, I think, I think that kind of dude watches too much porn, jerks off too much.

03:12:50.220 And when it comes down to actually.

03:12:51.620 That's what I'm saying.

03:12:52.140 Like from a girl's perspective and from a guy's perspective, what is the real deal?

03:12:55.360 What is the real thing that I'm not being told that they're telling me?

03:12:58.060 Oh, I don't want to like.

03:12:59.820 Okay.

03:13:00.220 Let's start with the first scenario that you gave.

03:13:02.620 So you were kind of doing these cuddle sessions, hanging out all the time with this guy.

03:13:07.800 Yeah.

03:13:08.000 All the time.

03:13:09.020 And.

03:13:10.040 So into each other.

03:13:11.060 Were your guys' clothes off or clothes on?

03:13:14.900 Like.

03:13:15.300 You were making out.

03:13:16.720 Yeah.

03:13:17.220 Making out.

03:13:17.800 Bits and bobs.

03:13:20.820 And he just wasn't escalating things forward.

03:13:23.880 Like he wasn't taking your clothes off or what?

03:13:25.640 No, there.

03:13:26.000 It was like that where it was like.

03:13:27.520 There was like a situation where it was like.

03:13:29.120 Was there heavy petting?

03:13:30.100 Yeah.

03:13:30.360 Heavy petting.

03:13:31.360 And like there was a certain point.

03:13:32.900 Hands being used.

03:13:34.080 Yes.

03:13:35.060 And there was like a situation where I was like.

03:13:36.800 I decided to escalate it because it would get like right up into that.

03:13:41.060 Like right up to that point.

03:13:42.500 Except not that point.

03:13:44.120 Fellatio?

03:13:45.300 Did you go down on him?

03:13:50.200 Yes.

03:13:52.340 But like.

03:13:53.580 Maybe.

03:13:54.040 Wait.

03:13:54.460 I know what.

03:13:55.460 I think I know.

03:13:56.740 What's the issue?

03:13:57.360 You gave him head, right?

03:13:58.420 Yeah.

03:13:59.640 You're a blowjob Eddie.

03:14:02.060 He just wanted head.

03:14:03.560 No, it's like.

03:14:04.760 He didn't want to fuck you.

03:14:05.520 He just wanted head.

03:14:06.120 No, he.

03:14:06.600 No, it wasn't that.

03:14:07.720 It was like that.

03:14:08.560 There was like literally.

03:14:09.580 I'm.

03:14:10.020 I'm not a dummy.

03:14:10.860 Like I know when a guy just like wants head or wants to like whatever.

03:14:13.840 But there was like clearly such an emotional connection.

03:14:16.140 And like the fact that he was like always horny around me.

03:14:20.180 And then like except for physical sex.

03:14:23.540 I don't want to like say his side of the story.

03:14:25.900 Because I feel like that would like expose a private part of what he was struggling with.

03:14:31.200 But like the story he gave me of like why he couldn't have sex or like he basically his whole.

03:14:38.140 Probably gay like my.

03:14:38.780 Well, that's what I said.

03:14:40.180 I was like, is he gay?

03:14:41.760 Like I was like, I literally dead ass was like at the end.

03:14:44.460 Are you gay?

03:14:45.260 Like what's going on?

03:14:46.580 Like.

03:14:47.160 But wait.

03:14:47.520 So you.

03:14:48.140 Okay.

03:14:48.320 How many.

03:14:48.920 How many total times did you hang out with him?

03:14:51.680 Total days.

03:14:52.660 14.

03:14:53.440 14.

03:14:53.800 Two weeks.

03:14:54.400 Every day for two weeks.

03:14:55.920 A fortnight.

03:14:56.720 Every day for two weeks.

03:14:59.360 Do you guys not have jobs?

03:15:00.880 Like what?

03:15:01.980 Yeah.

03:15:03.820 But like we were.

03:15:04.800 Even if I really fucking love a girl.

03:15:06.580 I don't want to see her more than twice a week.

03:15:08.360 It was so like.

03:15:09.680 Twice a week.

03:15:10.720 That's it.

03:15:11.020 He would like come have lunch with me.

03:15:12.260 I would go over to his house after work.

03:15:14.120 And it was like we were on dates.

03:15:15.640 Just sounds like a very special guy.

03:15:17.800 I think.

03:15:18.560 That's what I'm saying.

03:15:19.380 Like what?

03:15:21.480 Short bus.

03:15:22.480 Special.

03:15:24.280 There's just.

03:15:25.080 And like I didn't want to make it.

03:15:27.520 Like make me insecure.

03:15:29.900 Everybody knows you never go full re-time.

03:15:32.860 I like.

03:15:33.600 I've never had that issue before.

03:15:35.580 So.

03:15:36.020 Wait.

03:15:36.320 Okay.

03:15:36.560 So.

03:15:38.120 You gave him head.

03:15:40.420 Did he climax?

03:15:41.700 Okay.

03:15:42.420 Did he climax?

03:15:43.580 Okay.

03:15:43.940 Not to get into the nitty gritty.

03:15:45.540 But like the thing was like we would try to have sex.

03:15:50.340 Okay.

03:15:50.800 So you tried.

03:15:51.600 We would try.

03:15:52.460 And he would lose?

03:15:53.900 Yes.

03:15:55.000 Essentially.

03:15:55.440 Like.

03:15:57.600 Yeah.

03:15:58.060 Okay.

03:15:58.340 I was like he's gay.

03:15:59.660 That's what happened to me.

03:16:00.740 I mean he could.

03:16:02.080 It could be nerves.

03:16:03.080 Was it performance anxiety?

03:16:04.340 He was hard.

03:16:05.100 And then when he started it he got soft.

03:16:06.500 And he couldn't.

03:16:07.260 Like what?

03:16:07.440 Was that like he was like oh I have a lot of performance anxiety.

03:16:10.620 And also be stuff from a previous.

03:16:12.160 Too much porn.

03:16:12.180 Too much jerking off.

03:16:13.100 That's it.

03:16:13.400 That's his problem.

03:16:14.840 But that's what I want to.

03:16:16.400 Like that's what my.

03:16:17.340 Hold on.

03:16:17.620 Hold on.

03:16:17.900 Hold on.

03:16:18.840 You said that he was bricked up.

03:16:20.820 That's what I'm saying is he obviously doesn't have problems down there.

03:16:23.140 Because he was so horny for me and all the time.

03:16:25.100 Like anytime he'd see me with my clothes like half off or off he'd be like oh my god.

03:16:29.160 Like I want you so bad.

03:16:30.540 So you guys did have sex.

03:16:32.720 You technically.

03:16:33.640 Like be honest.

03:16:34.500 It was inside of you.

03:16:36.600 Like you tried right?

03:16:38.480 But is it sex with you?

03:16:39.400 That's a body.

03:16:39.960 That's a body.

03:16:41.240 No.

03:16:41.960 See that's what like girls will claim like that's not a body.

03:16:44.540 But like y'all fucked.

03:16:46.060 But he lost it right?

03:16:47.380 Yeah.

03:16:49.020 While he was inside you?

03:16:50.300 Well no.

03:16:50.960 It was basically like.

03:16:52.280 Or would it be.

03:16:53.640 And I'm not judging you.

03:16:54.700 But okay.

03:16:55.080 So maybe you'd give him head whatever he's bricked up.

03:16:57.320 And then as you were like getting on top or like going for it.

03:17:00.200 He would lose it.

03:17:00.960 So basically.

03:17:02.780 Premature.

03:17:03.220 This is so.

03:17:04.500 No this is so.

03:17:05.840 Too much porn.

03:17:06.200 This is so graphic.

03:17:07.240 But like the time we did try where it did.

03:17:10.320 Go.

03:17:11.600 In.

03:17:12.100 You guys fucked.

03:17:12.900 Okay.

03:17:13.160 So you did fuck.

03:17:14.040 Well you went in and he was like.

03:17:15.380 It's too tight.

03:17:16.120 It's too tight.

03:17:16.600 Like I gotta.

03:17:17.240 I gotta get out of here.

03:17:18.460 So.

03:17:18.740 Oh he was gonna bust.

03:17:20.240 You got that gorilla grip pussy.

03:17:23.640 He was gonna.

03:17:24.480 It was just too.

03:17:25.480 You got that unicorn magical sugar ball pussy.

03:17:28.220 But.

03:17:28.360 But I feel like that's not.

03:17:29.200 That's not like the.

03:17:30.480 There's more to it.

03:17:32.620 No.

03:17:32.820 It was probably like.

03:17:34.280 He need.

03:17:34.920 Your pussy was so magical.

03:17:36.500 He was like.

03:17:37.240 I don't think that's it babe.

03:17:38.960 It was like upon entry.

03:17:40.240 He's like.

03:17:40.620 I'm gonna come.

03:17:41.440 This is gonna be embarrassing.

03:17:42.320 Let me pull out.

03:17:43.040 Which.

03:17:43.560 Oh.

03:17:44.020 I get.

03:17:44.680 But then like.

03:17:45.280 Why not like.

03:17:46.060 Why just like.

03:17:47.280 Why not just bust.

03:17:48.620 Or I don't know.

03:17:49.540 Like why.

03:17:50.340 Why is that.

03:17:51.120 Like why is that so taboo.

03:17:52.440 Like why can't he just like.

03:17:53.420 Tell me that straight up.

03:17:54.320 Why does he have to like.

03:17:55.120 Say all these things.

03:17:56.520 And like make it weird.

03:17:57.520 For both of us.

03:17:58.280 When I'm the one.

03:17:59.140 Trying to make it not weird.

03:18:00.200 I'm like.

03:18:00.560 It's okay if.

03:18:02.200 You know.

03:18:02.680 This or that.

03:18:03.360 But.

03:18:06.820 Girls are getting restless over here Brian.

03:18:08.460 I don't know.

03:18:09.380 I don't know.

03:18:10.120 Be polite.

03:18:11.020 We want In-N-Out.

03:18:12.060 I have to work.

03:18:12.700 In-N-Out.

03:18:13.100 I have to work in the morning.

03:18:14.140 In-N-Out closes at 1 p.m.

03:18:17.020 I have to wake up at 8 a.m.

03:18:18.180 We'll wrap soon.

03:18:18.780 I need my eight hours.

03:18:19.800 We'll wrap soon.

03:18:21.360 We'll wrap very soon.

03:18:22.820 Okay.

03:18:23.160 So.

03:18:23.380 That's my tale of woe.

03:18:26.740 Let's talk about that after the show.

03:18:28.220 They gotta.

03:18:28.800 They gotta leave.

03:18:29.580 We'll talk more about that after the show.

03:18:30.880 So honestly I think.

03:18:32.040 Maybe if you're staying right here with him anyways.

03:18:33.620 You guys can talk.

03:18:34.480 Y'all can talk.

03:18:35.560 Wait what?

03:18:36.780 Honestly.

03:18:37.260 I honestly might text him and be like.

03:18:39.160 Hey.

03:18:39.580 So.

03:18:40.740 You gotta be like.

03:18:41.320 Hey.

03:18:41.600 Come over.

03:18:42.280 And then you're gonna be like.

03:18:43.220 Yeah.

03:18:44.240 No.

03:18:44.660 I'm gonna.

03:18:44.960 I'm gonna text that guy that I didn't work out with.

03:18:46.860 I'm gonna be like.

03:18:47.400 We got to the bottom of it.

03:18:48.520 We figured out.

03:18:48.900 I thought I'm about Brian.

03:18:50.000 Everything's okay.

03:18:53.020 Well.

03:18:53.820 Okay.

03:18:54.340 Turned out to be therapy on tonight's show.

03:18:56.220 Right?

03:18:57.620 Dr.

03:18:58.080 Phil over here.

03:18:59.780 Fill him up.

03:19:01.580 Well you did recommend we should get more into the.

03:19:04.300 I want to take you to the club bro.

03:19:06.060 We got to get you out of the studio.

03:19:08.020 Yes.

03:19:08.480 Two CEOs.

03:19:09.080 With the promoter.

03:19:09.860 With the club going.

03:19:11.000 Yeah.

03:19:11.540 Right?

03:19:12.140 And.

03:19:13.040 And what?

03:19:13.860 Bring the camera.

03:19:14.720 Bring us on.

03:19:15.760 And we'll have a fucking great night.

03:19:17.520 Then we'll go to the Rhino.

03:19:18.380 Set the pod in.

03:19:19.380 We should do it there.

03:19:20.580 The viewers will love it.

03:19:23.280 I don't.

03:19:24.080 I'm a man of principle.

03:19:25.600 Oh.

03:19:26.100 The principle of going out.

03:19:27.160 I'm a man of principle.

03:19:27.420 Look at the podcast that we do.

03:19:29.060 This is a little.

03:19:29.640 We're a little raunchy right here.

03:19:31.600 I feel like it won't hurt.

03:19:33.040 That point.

03:19:33.280 That point right there.

03:19:33.880 Right?

03:19:35.120 In the flesh.

03:19:36.060 At the club.

03:19:36.900 Santa Barbara downtown.

03:19:38.340 With the camera.

03:19:40.080 A special.

03:19:41.180 Don and Leo.

03:19:41.840 Can I do the video where I go up to you guys like what the fuck?

03:19:45.640 And then.

03:19:46.480 Can I help you?

03:19:46.940 That would be fucking awesome though.

03:19:48.560 Actually before you guys leave.

03:19:50.020 Just to put a.

03:19:50.840 Put a cherry on top of the hole.

03:19:52.720 Is dating easier for men or women thing?

03:19:54.740 That was not what it was.

03:19:56.020 It was.

03:19:56.480 It was sex.

03:19:57.480 Well okay.

03:19:57.900 Dating.

03:19:59.000 I mean it's.

03:19:59.960 Both.

03:20:00.360 Both are easier.

03:20:01.160 Both are easier.

03:20:01.580 Yeah.

03:20:01.900 Both are easier for women.

03:20:03.060 But whatever.

03:20:03.480 Yes.

03:20:04.000 Okay.

03:20:04.640 Both are easier.

03:20:05.580 But okay.

03:20:06.060 Brian.

03:20:06.500 Take a fucking chance buddy.

03:20:07.720 Go hang out with the ex-con Brian.

03:20:09.080 It's not.

03:20:12.240 It's not you.

03:20:12.920 It's just.

03:20:13.240 I don't like to go to clubs.

03:20:15.040 I know.

03:20:15.400 It's not.

03:20:15.880 It's not me.

03:20:16.700 It's you.

03:20:17.380 But okay.

03:20:19.580 Eric.

03:20:20.000 Can you play the Andrea asking for excess of video?

03:20:24.740 I want to.

03:20:25.360 Can I do it?

03:20:26.400 Sure.

03:20:26.640 We'll get you to do it.

03:20:28.680 I will go up to anyone.

03:20:30.080 I don't care.

03:20:30.560 Would you have sex with me?

03:20:32.060 I want to do it.

03:20:32.980 I want to do that.

03:20:36.080 Oh my God.

03:20:39.080 Yes?

03:20:41.720 No?

03:20:43.440 Ready please?

03:20:45.720 You can just kind of lay there.

03:20:47.080 And I'll just do my thing.

03:20:50.100 Why not?

03:20:50.800 Okay.

03:20:51.360 Let's go.

03:20:53.180 This girl's really cute.

03:20:53.980 I just want to ask you guys if you would be down to have sex with me.

03:20:57.860 I would be down to have sex with you.

03:20:59.600 Like right.

03:21:00.060 Like literally right now.

03:21:00.920 Where do you want me to go?

03:21:01.860 Your house is like right over there.

03:21:03.060 I'll go with it right now.

03:21:03.860 Right now?

03:21:04.360 Right now.

03:21:04.580 Are you down?

03:21:05.240 Yeah.

03:21:05.540 Why not?

03:21:05.960 Let me know if this is too forward.

03:21:07.700 If you would have sex with me.

03:21:08.760 If I were to have sex.

03:21:10.700 Hold on.

03:21:11.280 I'm on the.

03:21:11.620 Mom, can I call you back?

03:21:13.640 Maybe you'd want to have sex with me.

03:21:16.720 Yes.

03:21:17.300 Yeah?

03:21:17.800 Yes.

03:21:18.400 Like right now?

03:21:19.140 Like literally my house is like right over there.

03:21:21.160 Sure.

03:21:21.620 You want to have sex with me?

03:21:23.120 Are you out of your mind?

03:21:25.300 Maybe a little bit.

03:21:26.480 You're a dragon?

03:21:27.060 In kind of the best way.

03:21:27.820 Oh, no.

03:21:28.260 I'm completely sober.

03:21:30.780 You out of your mind?

03:21:33.000 In the best kind of way.

03:21:34.200 Come to my house, you're once.

03:21:35.500 Okay.

03:21:35.760 You want to have sex with me?

03:21:39.880 Please.

03:21:40.780 What?

03:21:41.180 Yes.

03:21:41.920 I'm serious.

03:21:42.980 Like my house is like right there.

03:21:46.040 Hey, hi there.

03:21:47.340 Alright, come down.

03:21:48.120 Okay.

03:21:48.540 Let's do it.

03:21:49.740 You want to have sex with me?

03:21:51.200 Yeah.

03:21:51.860 Am I out of your mind?

03:21:52.500 I don't know if this is serious.

03:21:57.440 Would you like to hang out with us first?

03:21:59.420 Um, no.

03:22:00.060 Do you want to run out?

03:22:00.880 So, yeah, it'll be like really quick, like 15 minutes.

03:22:03.020 That's totally fine.

03:22:04.040 Okay.

03:22:04.660 Alright, ready to go?

03:22:05.660 Yeah, let's go.

03:22:06.340 Okay.

03:22:06.900 I better not be getting robbed right now.

03:22:10.780 Okay.

03:22:11.380 I come out of a bush.

03:22:13.100 So that's the girl version.

03:22:15.080 That was in Isla Vista, by the way.

03:22:16.420 That was a video that we produced many years ago.

03:22:18.800 Eric, can you play my version?

03:22:20.480 Did you speak English?

03:22:28.660 Yeah.

03:22:30.160 I just thought you were really cute.

03:22:32.260 And I want to know if you wanted to have sex.

03:22:36.060 No.

03:22:36.980 Okay.

03:22:38.220 Quite rude.

03:22:39.080 I just thought you were cute, and I want to know if you wanted to have sex.

03:22:43.840 No.

03:22:44.700 No, I never thought you were really cute, and I want to know if you want to have sex with me.

03:22:49.020 I just thought you were cute, and I just wanted to know if you wanted to have sex.

03:23:16.880 I'm fine, my friend.

03:23:18.200 I thank you.

03:23:18.860 I thank you.

03:23:19.860 Alright, I have sex with me.

03:23:22.080 Are you stupid, or are you not?

03:23:23.620 I'm a little stupid.

03:23:24.760 Well, you want to lie on the ground or not?

03:23:26.880 Right now?

03:23:27.700 Yes.

03:23:28.300 What do you mean, lie on the ground?

03:23:29.980 Then we're going to slap you very hard, yes?

03:23:33.520 When I'm on the ground or not?

03:23:34.620 That's not what you're going to ask, lady.

03:23:36.780 No.

03:23:37.580 Oh.

03:23:38.500 I'm not from around here, so I don't know the custom.

03:23:41.120 Anyways, does that change?

03:23:45.740 Why didn't you do it in IV?

03:23:47.660 Well, I did do it in IV, but just the clip that I have, I did it once in IV, and then

03:23:53.440 once in Amsterdam and France.

03:23:55.720 So a few of those clips were from France, but I did do it in IV, and the results were

03:24:02.200 pretty bad.

03:24:04.880 Pretty, pretty bad.

03:24:06.480 And when I say bad, I mean zero out of a hundred bad.

03:24:10.760 Sucks for that.

03:24:11.260 And then I had another guy do it, who I think is more attractive than me, also zero out of

03:24:18.140 a hundred.

03:24:19.360 I think if I went out right now and said, do you want to have sex with me?

03:24:22.200 I don't think anyone would say yes or no.

03:24:24.160 I think they'd be like, are you crazy?

03:24:26.660 They might ask, why are you filming a whatever, are you filming a whatever video?

03:24:32.640 I mean, it is kind of a very blunt way to say it.

03:24:37.540 Hey, do you want to have sex with me?

03:24:38.740 But if you played it more like, hey, would you be down to hook up?

03:24:42.580 That, like, even the phrasing would probably change it.

03:24:45.340 If it's positive that, like, women that are partaking in hookup culture are so gross and

03:24:49.260 stuff, then, like, why would anyone want to hook up with me if I was just putting it

03:24:52.340 out there?

03:24:52.480 Well, that would bring it back to body count, right?

03:24:56.260 That would bring it back to the body count discussion.

03:24:59.080 I think if you did walk around, you're a club promoter, aren't you?

03:25:03.400 I mean, you could probably sleep with 90% of the guys that come to your, is the club

03:25:08.380 a bar?

03:25:09.180 Which bar is it?

03:25:10.200 Eos.

03:25:11.200 Yeah, you could sleep with, you're an attractive woman, you could sleep with, like, 90%

03:25:14.440 of the guys in there, for sure.

03:25:16.780 Most of them are married.

03:25:18.640 You could sleep with 90% of them in there.

03:25:21.960 Probably.

03:25:22.600 90% of them are married?

03:25:23.740 Okay, not 90, but we get a lot of, I do, like, table reservations and bottle service,

03:25:28.640 and a lot of them are, like, bachelors.

03:25:30.980 Most of our crowd is, like, 30, 40% bachelors.

03:25:34.400 Like, bachelor parties?

03:25:35.980 Exactly.

03:25:36.540 Well, I'm sure so.

03:25:37.100 And most of our high rollers are all married men, so they basically, they like a little

03:25:43.400 flirt and a little tease.

03:25:44.480 Why would you go to the club if you go, if you're married?

03:25:46.260 I would divorce them so fast.

03:25:46.640 It's a little escape.

03:25:47.640 It's like, they like a little flirt and a tease, but nothing more.

03:25:50.240 Wait, why would you divorce?

03:25:51.720 They don't want to break their holy.

03:25:52.360 I don't want my husband to go to a club.

03:25:53.520 Why not?

03:25:54.020 If he's having a guys night and he goes to a club, what's wrong with that?

03:25:56.600 Fuck no.

03:25:57.280 Why?

03:25:57.500 So, let's wrap it up on this.

03:25:59.100 You brought it back to the body count thing there for a little bit.

03:26:03.040 Should body count matter?

03:26:04.220 Final question of the night.

03:26:06.540 Let's start here.

03:26:07.960 No.

03:26:08.740 No.

03:26:10.140 In certain contexts, yes.

03:26:13.440 Brandon?

03:26:14.400 Depending on what you're looking for, but in general, no.

03:26:17.440 Okay.

03:26:19.040 So, body count shouldn't matter.

03:26:21.600 What's your body count?

03:26:24.740 I stopped counting.

03:26:27.120 You stopped counting?

03:26:28.260 Yeah.

03:26:28.660 But, hold on.

03:26:29.760 I've had four serious relationships.

03:26:33.280 Um, so I know that much, but.

03:26:38.340 You said earlier that you have a low body count.

03:26:41.780 Yeah.

03:26:42.660 But you said you stopped counting.

03:26:44.180 Yeah.

03:26:44.380 I mean, I don't keep a record.

03:26:46.540 But, okay.

03:26:46.980 If you, if you have a low body count.

03:26:48.660 If I were to ballpark it, it would probably be.

03:26:51.460 But, okay.

03:26:53.020 If I've slept with three people.

03:26:54.920 Yeah.

03:26:55.260 I've slept with more than three people.

03:26:56.940 Right.

03:26:57.240 But I'm going to remember.

03:26:59.440 I'm not going to lose track of the three people I've slept with.

03:27:02.300 It's not that I've lost track.

03:27:03.120 It's that I don't tack them down.

03:27:05.380 Like, I don't have a notes app in my phone.

03:27:08.260 Well, no.

03:27:08.880 You don't, you don't need to, you know.

03:27:11.460 You want me to just ballpark it?

03:27:13.180 Sure.

03:27:13.960 Okay.

03:27:14.260 I would have four serious relationships.

03:27:17.440 Plus, I would say, a handful of hookups.

03:27:23.560 Okay.

03:27:25.040 In between.

03:27:27.320 Okay.

03:27:28.100 So.

03:27:28.720 So, that's not really a ballpark.

03:27:32.460 I mean, I've had less than ten hookups.

03:27:36.220 But, probably more than five.

03:27:38.380 Somewhere in between there.

03:27:40.380 So, between five and ten total?

03:27:43.380 Or five and ten hookups plus the four?

03:27:45.320 Plus the four.

03:27:45.960 Yeah, I've slept with my serious boyfriends, obviously.

03:27:49.920 So.

03:27:51.040 Okay.

03:27:51.880 And then, a few other.

03:27:54.020 Sure.

03:27:54.600 Situation chips.

03:27:56.160 Okay.

03:27:56.760 Sydney?

03:27:57.940 I don't say mine.

03:27:59.980 Just for, like, my own.

03:28:01.480 You've revealed it before, though.

03:28:03.140 Haven't you?

03:28:03.680 On my first show, I, like, ballparked it.

03:28:06.300 But I don't.

03:28:07.520 Just for, like, my own, like, personal, like, privacy.

03:28:11.520 Okay.

03:28:12.220 Jubilee?

03:28:13.580 Said it once.

03:28:14.480 Don't need to say it again.

03:28:15.340 Say it again.

03:28:15.800 Say it again.

03:28:16.100 Come on.

03:28:16.420 Don't need to say it again.

03:28:16.860 Say it again.

03:28:18.180 Jubilee.

03:28:20.220 Jubilee.

03:28:20.760 Why do you say my name like that?

03:28:21.920 Can you say what it is?

03:28:24.380 It's, like, 30.

03:28:26.620 Well, wasn't it, like, 33 the last time you were on?

03:28:29.100 I said it was, like, 30.

03:28:30.720 So, has it grown?

03:28:34.000 It's grown, like, one.

03:28:36.560 Or two.

03:28:39.320 One or two.

03:28:40.800 I'm trying to count.

03:28:41.880 I'm, like, okay, wait.

03:28:43.160 Wait, wait, question.

03:28:43.680 So, you're just, you're 19, correct?

03:28:47.680 Correct.

03:28:48.860 Okay.

03:28:51.700 I'm just trying to do the math here.

03:28:53.340 Okay.

03:28:53.820 When did you lose your virginity?

03:28:55.540 I was 14.

03:28:56.300 14.

03:28:56.860 Okay, so you've been active for?

03:28:59.020 Five years.

03:28:59.700 Five years.

03:29:01.880 So, by the time you're 30, do you think your body count will be, like, 100?

03:29:07.940 No.

03:29:08.940 Because right now it's 33 at 19.

03:29:11.380 So, projecting, if my math, if my math.

03:29:15.380 Well, I can stop.

03:29:16.500 I'll stop.

03:29:17.540 You're going to stop.

03:29:19.040 You're going to stop.

03:29:20.360 Jubilee.

03:29:21.300 Huh?

03:29:22.300 Okay, so.

03:29:23.160 You don't know.

03:29:23.480 I'm going to do a serious relationship.

03:29:25.860 Jubilee.

03:29:26.700 I want you to get in touch with me when you're 30.

03:29:28.920 Okay.

03:29:29.500 And I want you to tell me what your body count is.

03:29:32.480 Okay, 10 years.

03:29:33.240 I'll let you know.

03:29:34.140 If it's less than 100.

03:29:35.780 How much do you owe me?

03:29:37.680 I'll get you a double-double it and an hour.

03:29:39.700 I'm going to go get it tonight.

03:29:41.900 Can I come?

03:29:42.340 You have to take me to Olive Garden.

03:29:44.080 Okay, I'll take you to Olive Garden.

03:29:45.440 How about that?

03:29:45.900 That's fair.

03:29:46.960 Not a date, though.

03:29:48.280 No.

03:29:48.540 Like a platonic.

03:29:49.180 No, no, no.

03:29:49.520 I'm okay.

03:29:50.280 No, no.

03:29:50.740 It would be very platonic.

03:29:51.980 Platonic.

03:29:52.440 Very platonic date.

03:29:53.280 I'm okay.

03:29:54.340 I think it's, like, seven or eight.

03:29:56.360 You'd think?

03:29:57.560 Yeah.

03:29:58.120 I feel like if it's that low, don't you?

03:29:59.660 Wouldn't you know?

03:30:00.500 I don't know.

03:30:00.980 Okay, you think it's seven or eight?

03:30:02.480 Yeah.

03:30:02.840 Okay.

03:30:03.860 All right.

03:30:04.260 That's all right.

03:30:05.720 So.

03:30:06.800 Brian, your turn?

03:30:08.240 What?

03:30:08.940 I mean, Brandon, do you want to share your body count?

03:30:14.160 Just into the microphone.

03:30:16.380 I mean, 11 years of not being around women, period.

03:30:21.000 Well, can you really quickly tell us, remember that story you told me over the phone when we

03:30:24.620 were speaking a couple weeks ago with the guard?

03:30:27.440 Can you reveal that or the story?

03:30:31.620 Yeah.

03:30:32.060 There was a female CO when I was in prison in Saladon, and she was actually my supervisor.

03:30:37.420 I was her porter.

03:30:38.160 I worked in the building.

03:30:39.820 And she was a beautiful woman.

03:30:41.660 She was green, meaning she was very fresh.

03:30:43.980 She had only been a CO for, like, two years.

03:30:45.980 I'm already nine, ten years into my term, so I'm a seasoned convict.

03:30:49.140 And, you know, we, there was a mutual attraction, and it went beyond the other staff.

03:30:56.940 It went beyond, you know, my Sally or my homeboys telling them anything.

03:30:59.980 We were, we were, we were just very into each other.

03:31:06.300 There was a lieutenant that was into her and started to notice I was a little too close

03:31:10.940 to her.

03:31:12.680 Put me in a situation where I actually ended up in the hole for about six months behind

03:31:17.640 it.

03:31:17.900 And I got out of the hole, went to a different yard.

03:31:22.940 She found out I was on that yard, put in to get her transfer from where she was to where

03:31:28.040 I was.

03:31:29.040 And then we were just on the yard for about a year, just like, like, in love with each

03:31:36.100 other, but could never express it, could never have a private moment, could never, it was

03:31:40.560 always just, she would get off her shift at two o'clock, and right at, like at one o'clock,

03:31:46.140 she would start circling the track backwards.

03:31:48.180 There's a big track in the prison yard.

03:31:49.700 She would walk backwards with her partner on purpose.

03:31:52.480 I would finish my workout and walk the opposite way so that every time we hit the track twice

03:31:57.120 in a row, we'd, we'd, you know, she'd sip some water.

03:31:59.960 She'd sip some water and throw her eyes to the left to look at me, and I would do the

03:32:03.220 same through my glasses, and that's, that's all we ever had.

03:32:06.660 How cute.

03:32:07.340 I hope that when I go to prison, someone will want to hook up with me.

03:32:10.940 It was, I mean, everybody hated her because she was such a bitch, but it was a front, and

03:32:15.360 I seen right through it, and I just.

03:32:16.840 Did you just say same?

03:32:18.440 I said same.

03:32:19.560 Anyway, no, it's actually a long story.

03:32:21.540 There's a lot of little things that happened in between that.

03:32:23.400 I checked her a couple times, and she loved it, and right then and there, I knew, like,

03:32:28.340 if, if I was in the street, I could, she, she, she would be mine.

03:32:31.320 I would be hers.

03:32:31.680 Can you tell us about, wasn't there like a other CEO that was feeling her, and he made

03:32:38.220 your life hell, right?

03:32:39.320 He was a lieutenant, and he just was a little prick type dude, and he would see me go in

03:32:44.780 her bathroom because I would clean her bathroom.

03:32:46.460 I actually waxed it up and painted it all sick and shit.

03:32:49.100 We were on lockdown, so I just went nuts with the paint and hooked it up for her.

03:32:52.360 You actually cleaned her bathroom?

03:32:54.380 Well, that's like.

03:32:55.040 I thought that was prison slang for something else.

03:32:56.300 That's, that's, that's like our, our job as porters is to clean the day room, the showers,

03:32:59.640 and then there's a staff bathroom.

03:32:59.920 I thought it was like cleaned her bathroom.

03:33:01.720 No, there, there, there's a staff, there's a staff restroom behind the, behind the, the

03:33:05.680 CEO's office, and I would go in there.

03:33:07.380 She wouldn't let nobody in there but me.

03:33:08.920 Oh, that's hot.

03:33:09.380 Because, you know, she had like her purse and private shit, and she don't trust anybody.

03:33:12.880 Where's she at?

03:33:13.520 But she trusted me.

03:33:13.800 Are y'all nothing?

03:33:15.620 When I paroled, I never, I never, I never, I never heard.

03:33:18.080 Oh, no.

03:33:18.580 God damn it.

03:33:19.040 Just gone.

03:33:20.660 Aw.

03:33:22.360 Yeah, pretty much.

03:33:23.500 All right.

03:33:23.940 No soup chats here.

03:33:25.340 Last thing, Jabba, do you want to say anything to the friend who backstabbed you?

03:33:30.680 I don't know.

03:33:32.620 I don't know.

03:33:33.240 I guess I like her, love her.

03:33:35.460 It just kind of fucked up what she did.

03:33:36.740 I don't know.

03:33:37.960 It's kind of annoying.

03:33:39.440 I just didn't think she would do that.

03:33:40.960 What?

03:33:41.400 I just didn't think she would do that.

03:33:43.000 Oh, she took your man.

03:33:45.360 She stole your man.

03:33:46.800 Well, he wasn't my man, but I wanted to be.

03:33:48.080 Well, but yeah, but you were there first.

03:33:49.660 The thing was that he didn't want anything with me, but then I was like, hey, because,

03:33:52.460 he called me and was like, hey, like, I know you found out about it, but I wanted to talk

03:33:56.420 to you about it, see how you feel.

03:33:58.180 And I was like, hey, she's not a hookup person.

03:34:00.100 Like, she's not going to just hook up with you.

03:34:01.860 Yeah.

03:34:02.160 I know that.

03:34:02.700 I'm like, you're going to have to try.

03:34:03.560 He goes, I know.

03:34:04.080 I'm like, so, but you didn't want anything else more than with me, but you want more

03:34:07.380 with her.

03:34:08.140 That's what fucked me up.

03:34:09.560 Damn.

03:34:10.180 Anyways.

03:34:10.460 We know how to do things.

03:34:15.080 Okay.

03:34:15.740 We're going to wrap up there.

03:34:17.000 Any last opportunity, final thought, anybody?

03:34:19.520 No.

03:34:20.000 Final thought, anybody?

03:34:20.940 Final thought.

03:34:21.460 Like I was mentioning before, social media, there's a lot of real, everybody's real, but

03:34:31.640 the vibe can be fake.

03:34:33.560 Like, until you meet somebody and get a feel for who they are, like the real them, don't

03:34:39.880 make any kind of serious judgment calls on yourself, how they make you feel, if they ghost

03:34:44.540 you or vice versa.

03:34:45.800 Like, remember, it's fucking AI.

03:34:48.400 It's artificial intelligence.

03:34:50.460 And if you're not seeing somebody face to face and expressing real human shit, don't put

03:34:56.720 that much into it.

03:34:57.720 Just take it with a grain of salt.

03:35:01.220 All right.

03:35:02.040 Good times.

03:35:02.640 Good times.

03:35:03.100 All right, guys.

03:35:03.980 We're going to wrap up.

03:35:04.700 Thank you guys so much for tuning in.

03:35:06.780 You could have been doing anything else, but you're here with me.

03:35:09.320 I appreciate that.

03:35:10.600 We will be live again Thursday at 7 p.m. Pacific.

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03:35:38.300 Brandon will-

03:35:38.760 Yeah, if you want to know my real body count, DM me.

03:35:41.120 What?

03:35:42.780 Okay.

03:35:43.380 You could be next.

03:35:44.520 Sweet.

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03:35:48.000 Oh, I already said that for the algorithm, whatever.

03:35:50.200 Yeah, thanks again to the panel.

03:35:51.780 Thanks for watching.

03:35:52.480 And we will see you next time.

03:35:53.820 Good night, guys.

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03:36:16.000 And tonight.

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