Whatever Podcast - Dating Talk #41

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00:02:33.340 So, guys, without further ado, we're going to have the guests introduce themselves.

00:02:37.040 So, please tell us your name, age, occupation, and or school major.

00:02:40.200 Go ahead.

00:02:40.460 Hi, I'm Jade.

00:02:43.820 I go to UCSB, and I'm a pharmacology major.

00:02:48.040 And I'm an OnlyFans content creator.

00:02:51.040 So, you can go ahead and check out that link at really.jade with three L's.

00:02:57.360 Hi, guys.

00:02:58.180 I'm Alexis.

00:02:58.840 I'm 26.

00:02:59.980 I'm an admin assistant for a city here in the area.

00:03:04.440 And what was the other question?

00:03:07.200 It was just name, age, occupation, and or school major.

00:03:10.060 Oh, I already graduated in business management.

00:03:12.520 From where?

00:03:13.400 Fresno Pacific.

00:03:14.380 Okay.

00:03:14.900 Yeah.

00:03:15.160 Sorry.

00:03:16.760 Yeah.

00:03:17.200 About the Fresno.

00:03:18.500 Hey, I love it.

00:03:19.140 It's my hometown.

00:03:19.880 Oh, it's your hometown.

00:03:21.160 It's my hometown.

00:03:21.520 Yeah.

00:03:21.820 Love the people.

00:03:22.480 Okay.

00:03:24.020 All right.

00:03:24.560 Go ahead.

00:03:25.760 Hi, I'm Maya.

00:03:26.620 Sorry about the podcast.

00:03:29.180 Sorry.

00:03:29.840 Sorry about the podcast?

00:03:31.560 Well, I mean, you roasted Fresno.

00:03:33.420 Can I roast the podcast back?

00:03:35.980 Oh.

00:03:36.480 All right.

00:03:36.860 I guess not.

00:03:37.520 She's sorry about the podcast.

00:03:38.580 I'm so sorry.

00:03:39.460 Um, I go to UCSB and SBCC, and I'm a poli-sci major.

00:03:45.100 Um, I currently am unemployed.

00:03:48.140 Yeah.

00:03:48.900 That works.

00:03:49.820 I'm Jasmine.

00:03:51.380 I go to SBCC.

00:03:53.520 I'm an early childhood education major, and I work as a receptionist at an else one.

00:03:58.140 Um, I'm Tara.

00:04:01.060 I'm a senior at UCSB studying philosophy and psychology, and I'm working as a waitress at, like, a local restaurant.

00:04:11.340 And you got, you, this is your fourth time back on the show.

00:04:15.560 Yes.

00:04:15.920 You got into some beef last time.

00:04:17.940 Can you, did that materialize the beef?

00:04:20.520 Like, you and Kiko, she banned you. 0.99

00:04:23.660 I mean, I haven't seen her, I haven't seen her since.

00:04:24.820 She banned you from, uh...

00:04:26.380 Wait, she banned you because you guys got into beef on the show?

00:04:29.460 Yes.

00:04:29.560 Oh, is this the girl from the club?

00:04:30.860 Yes.

00:04:31.320 Oh.

00:04:32.200 That'll do it.

00:04:33.040 Yeah, she banned me from backstage on Saturday nights. 0.96

00:04:36.520 Wait, I think I know who you're talking about.

00:04:38.560 Really?

00:04:39.240 Yeah.

00:04:40.380 Wait, did she?

00:04:41.180 I, I, maybe it was just in the heat of the moment.

00:04:44.000 I'm not gonna test it, honestly.

00:04:46.060 I'm just gonna go somewhere else this night.

00:04:48.300 We can test it.

00:04:48.960 We can go on Saturday.

00:04:50.280 Yeah, we'll go together.

00:04:50.920 We'll go together.

00:04:50.980 We'll go together.

00:04:51.720 We'll go together.

00:04:53.360 Yeah.

00:04:53.940 See what happened.

00:04:56.100 Like the camera.

00:04:57.580 Oh, God.

00:04:58.740 She's chill.

00:04:59.480 She's chill, I think.

00:05:00.200 Um, by the way, guys, we've been experiencing some issues with the gifted membership.

00:05:05.320 So, uh, you need to opt in to receive a gifted membership.

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00:05:22.920 and then gift settings.

00:05:25.260 It's so convoluted.

00:05:26.260 I don't know why YouTube does it like that.

00:05:27.880 But on, on Twitch, it's, um, totally different.

00:05:31.880 Even if you're not even in the stream, they'll allow, uh, memberships.

00:05:36.080 So, anyways, um, by the way, guys, all the girls' Instagrams are in the description.

00:05:40.700 So, please.

00:05:41.460 Oh, are they?

00:05:42.320 Yeah.

00:05:42.860 Yeah.

00:05:44.020 Great.

00:05:44.500 So, guys, show them some love.

00:05:46.420 Give them a follow.

00:05:47.540 Sugar Daddies, you know what to do. 0.94

00:05:50.980 Mindstagram is there, too.

00:05:52.460 So.

00:05:53.500 Sugar Mamas. 1.00

00:05:54.760 Hit them up.

00:05:55.220 Yeah, if there's any sugar mamas, which is probably, like, 1% of all sugar people in 1.00

00:06:00.260 the world. 0.92

00:06:01.640 I guess, uh, instead of any sugar mamas, if there's any women with large labia, DM me. 1.00

00:06:06.240 Okay. 0.99

00:06:06.700 Moving on.

00:06:07.420 He'll get into that.

00:06:08.480 Yeah.

00:06:08.780 Yeah.

00:06:09.440 411 large labia queens. 1.00

00:06:11.960 Okay.

00:06:12.740 Um, so, current relationship status, longest relationship.

00:06:16.280 Are you on any dating apps?

00:06:17.860 And that includes seeking.

00:06:20.000 Go ahead.

00:06:21.100 Okay.

00:06:21.560 Well, I'm technically single, but, um, it's a situation ship.

00:06:27.800 Um, I am on a dating app, but, like, I don't really go on it because, like, it's kind of

00:06:32.000 lame, kind of boring.

00:06:33.980 Um, and then my longest relationship, I think, has been, like, a year and a half.

00:06:38.560 Most of them have cheated on me.

00:06:39.860 So, like, we kind of end it right away once we find out that they cheat.

00:06:43.780 So.

00:06:44.200 Who's we?

00:06:44.780 You and your split personalities, or?

00:06:46.540 Yeah.

00:06:47.200 No.

00:06:48.260 Your multiple personalities?

00:06:49.700 I just like to, you know, all my different types of personalities that I have, you know,

00:06:54.400 I like to call myself we.

00:06:56.340 Okay.

00:06:56.700 You don't like that.

00:06:57.340 Yeah.

00:06:57.760 No, it's fine.

00:06:58.560 It's fine.

00:06:59.780 Um, so you said most of your relationships you've been cheated on?

00:07:04.140 Yeah.

00:07:04.960 Um. 0.99

00:07:05.080 That sucks. 0.98

00:07:05.680 Sorry to hear that. 0.99

00:07:06.540 I mean, you know, men will just be men.

00:07:09.800 Like, I mean, how many of you guys have been cheated on?

00:07:13.460 Yeah.

00:07:14.920 Everyone here has, have you never been cheated on?

00:07:18.460 Um.

00:07:19.440 You probably just don't know.

00:07:20.780 It could be the case that I don't know.

00:07:22.400 It could be the case.

00:07:23.620 Women are a lot better at covering it. 1.00

00:07:25.060 I was going to say, we tend to be a little bit more loyal.

00:07:27.120 Actually, I saw a study that's, I saw a study that said that women cheat more than men.

00:07:32.580 Don't doubt it.

00:07:33.320 Yeah.

00:07:33.680 I'm sure that's why.

00:07:34.420 Because men are everywhere, like.

00:07:35.640 Yeah.

00:07:36.000 Not, not by, not by a large margin, but they do edge out men a little bit more.

00:07:41.320 Yeah.

00:07:41.360 A little bit more.

00:07:41.940 And so, you're, you're in a complicated relationship.

00:07:46.480 Uh, yeah.

00:07:47.600 Well, so like, I met a guy here and I just don't want to commit because my last relationship,

00:07:53.200 I, it was a guy I met my first year of college and he kind of just roped me in real quickly.

00:08:00.380 Um, and I, he just like would not let me go out by myself, like very controlling, very manipulative.

00:08:05.080 And so, I wasn't able to get out of that relationship until I, it was the summer and I was like away from him.

00:08:12.160 So, I broke up with him and now I kind of just want to be single, but like I love to have emotional connections with people.

00:08:18.680 And like, I like to have a particular person I'm with, but I just don't want to have the title, I guess.

00:08:24.320 So, how long have you been seeing this curtain, curtain?

00:08:28.500 I hope he's not a curtain.

00:08:30.020 This, this certain thing.

00:08:32.480 Uh, thing?

00:08:33.640 Thing.

00:08:34.800 This situation.

00:08:36.000 Well, have you guys established that like you're only seeing each other?

00:08:39.580 Um, I think we both, yeah, kind of.

00:08:42.200 I, I tell him that like, I don't see anyone and I don't think he sees anyone else, but like, we both are like, we don't want to be in a relationship because like, we both came out of a relationship not too long ago.

00:08:52.520 So, I think we both kind of understand that with each other, but I'm pretty sure we're both only seeing each other.

00:08:59.200 Pretty sure.

00:09:00.100 Any, any dating apps, did you say?

00:09:02.760 Dating apps, right?

00:09:03.820 Yeah.

00:09:04.120 I'm on Tinder.

00:09:05.460 Seeking?

00:09:05.860 Have you been on Seeking at all?

00:09:07.860 The Sugar Daddy website?

00:09:09.120 I've thought about it.

00:09:10.160 Yeah.

00:09:10.300 It takes a long time.

00:09:12.000 Really?

00:09:12.380 I'm not going to lie.

00:09:13.060 Because you have to like weave through the guys that are like just trying to text you and then you have to weave through the guys that are like actually going to pay you.

00:09:19.960 To go out.

00:09:20.560 Yeah.

00:09:21.100 Do you not, do they not pay like just to talk to you?

00:09:24.020 No.

00:09:24.180 You have to find the right ones.

00:09:25.140 Yeah, it takes a while to get something like that.

00:09:26.600 You have to weave through them.

00:09:27.500 I was going to say, because like on OnlyFans, guys just pay to talk to me.

00:09:31.020 Yeah.

00:09:31.160 So, but I have thought about doing that because I think that'd be fun, honestly.

00:09:38.060 Pay me to go out to dinner with you and you pay for dinner.

00:09:41.960 Double whammy.

00:09:43.160 Yeah.

00:09:45.220 What about you?

00:09:46.480 Right now I'm single.

00:09:48.780 I was in a two-year relationship that just recently ended.

00:09:52.980 The relationship, I would say, was fairly great.

00:09:56.100 But I think I just kind of wanted to get my career going.

00:09:59.260 And again, being in Fresno, there wasn't that much opportunity.

00:10:02.260 So I wanted to move out here and I scored the job.

00:10:05.320 We tried to do long distance and he was super supportive about it.

00:10:08.960 Never once did he fight me about it, which I honestly greatly support.

00:10:13.380 I think it's awesome that he did that for me.

00:10:15.800 But again, the distance was hard.

00:10:17.300 I wanted to see him all the time.

00:10:18.500 Gas was taking, God, outrageous amounts.

00:10:21.640 Because it kept on increasing.

00:10:24.180 Oh my gosh.

00:10:24.660 So then it just didn't work out, which was unfortunate.

00:10:28.600 But yeah.

00:10:29.760 And with the dating apps, I used that to kind of meet people out here.

00:10:33.660 Because I didn't know anybody.

00:10:34.640 I have no family, no friends out in Santa Barbara.

00:10:36.940 So that gave me some outlets for seeing some cool spots out here.

00:10:42.140 So that's primarily why I used the dating app.

00:10:45.160 But I noticed that it wasn't really successful in the long-term relationships.

00:10:49.600 Definitely.

00:10:50.060 So you were previously on the dating app, but no longer?

00:10:52.520 No longer.

00:10:52.820 Okay.

00:10:53.280 Yeah.

00:10:53.640 Okay.

00:10:54.240 Got it.

00:10:54.920 And then seeking arrangements at all?

00:10:56.880 I didn't even know what that was.

00:10:58.140 Okay.

00:10:59.460 I really didn't.

00:11:00.300 Have you ever had a sugar daddy situation?

00:11:02.380 No.

00:11:02.860 Okay.

00:11:03.300 No.

00:11:03.740 Okay.

00:11:04.580 All right.

00:11:05.160 What about you?

00:11:06.140 I'm single.

00:11:06.980 I think my longest relationship is about nine months.

00:11:11.500 And I'm on Tinder, Hinge.

00:11:13.780 I have been on seeking arrangements.

00:11:15.080 But I found that they're easier and safer and better ways to find what you need to find

00:11:20.920 regarding that platform.

00:11:22.160 So have you found what you need to find off of not on seeking, but more organically?

00:11:29.620 Yeah.

00:11:30.220 So you have a sugar daddy? 0.78

00:11:32.660 Not currently.

00:11:33.660 Oh, but in the past?

00:11:34.960 Yes.

00:11:35.280 Okay.

00:11:35.960 Okay.

00:11:36.200 All right.

00:11:37.840 How successful was that?

00:11:40.860 Yeah.

00:11:41.140 Can you tell us about...

00:11:42.560 How'd you find him?

00:11:44.400 Can you tell us about the arrangement?

00:11:45.480 TikTok, actually.

00:11:46.520 No way.

00:11:47.520 I posted a video on TikTok.

00:11:50.600 I was a minor at the time.

00:11:51.940 It was a month before my 18th birthday.

00:11:53.280 That's a nice...

00:11:53.600 You're like, you gotta wait a month.

00:11:54.780 Listen, listen.

00:11:56.120 I posted a video and I was wearing this dress and I didn't really watch it. 0.92

00:12:01.900 I swear to God, I watched it a million fucking times before I posted it because I'm obsessed 0.93

00:12:04.720 with myself. 0.96

00:12:05.120 And obviously I want to watch the video.

00:12:06.980 And so I just...

00:12:07.840 It was like a little dancing video.

00:12:09.180 And all of a sudden I realized I was getting like a lot of views and a lot of likes. 0.99

00:12:12.920 I was like, what the fuck? 0.98

00:12:13.700 Like, this is so random. 0.99

00:12:14.660 Like, and then I go and I look and everyone in the comments is like, turn your screen up,

00:12:19.520 like turn your brightness up.

00:12:20.580 And I had a nip slip.

00:12:23.080 Oh, no.

00:12:24.500 Oh, my God.

00:12:26.280 That's a yikes.

00:12:27.200 It was yikes.

00:12:27.580 That is a yikes.

00:12:28.440 It's a yikes.

00:12:29.100 You know what?

00:12:29.640 That's a yikes.

00:12:30.040 A month later, I was getting paid $1,000 a month to just talk to him.

00:12:35.380 And I used Bella Thorne's feet pics. 0.96

00:12:37.980 No way.

00:12:39.320 He was like, send me some feet pics.

00:12:41.080 Yeah.

00:12:41.260 I was like, don't worry about it.

00:12:42.080 You're like, okay, here you go.

00:12:43.100 She's got some.

00:12:44.360 We love a good foot fetish.

00:12:45.560 Are your feet pretty similar to Bella's?

00:12:48.600 Not at all.

00:12:49.360 No.

00:12:50.940 Okay.

00:12:51.720 He didn't know.

00:12:52.460 He wouldn't know.

00:12:53.840 He wouldn't know.

00:12:54.400 Yeah, he wouldn't know.

00:12:55.200 He wouldn't know.

00:12:55.820 Yeah.

00:12:56.280 So he was paying you $1,000 a month just for you to send him feet pics.

00:12:59.380 Feet pics.

00:12:59.940 Constantly talked to him.

00:13:01.100 Unfortunately, I did have a full-time job at the time and I was in school.

00:13:04.440 So it was just kind of a lot.

00:13:05.380 Yeah.

00:13:06.020 When they're constantly texting you, like I'm on my shift and they're like, no, you need

00:13:09.200 to call me now.

00:13:09.740 No, you need to call me now.

00:13:10.560 It's like, no, I'm.

00:13:11.340 I'm working.

00:13:12.280 I'm working.

00:13:12.660 I'm working and he's like, well, this is work.

00:13:13.940 I was like, you're right.

00:13:14.840 Goodbye.

00:13:15.280 I'm like, quit.

00:13:16.000 Like, did you ever meet up in person or was this all digital?

00:13:18.820 He lived two states away.

00:13:20.660 Two states.

00:13:21.080 Never saw him.

00:13:22.080 You should have told him if you want me to text you that much, then you need to up my

00:13:26.100 payment.

00:13:27.060 I did.

00:13:27.500 And he was like, no.

00:13:29.280 And I was like, well, that's great.

00:13:31.220 That's final.

00:13:32.040 I'll keep getting $1,000.

00:13:33.540 Yeah.

00:13:34.200 Okay.

00:13:34.980 And so you guys, did he ever push for the meetup or no?

00:13:38.840 He asked a few times, but I just, I don't know him.

00:13:42.140 Okay.

00:13:42.420 I'm not going to get flown out.

00:13:44.100 So you just sent him feet pics or did you send him nudes too?

00:13:47.820 No nudes.

00:13:48.660 No nudes.

00:13:49.400 Just feet, a couple feet pics?

00:13:51.260 A ton of feet pics?

00:13:51.760 I would find like pictures off.

00:13:52.740 Well, I did send nudes, but they weren't ever mine.

00:13:54.600 Oh, they were just.

00:13:55.080 I was about to ask that.

00:13:56.600 Wow.

00:13:56.960 Oh, yeah.

00:13:57.240 They were never mine.

00:13:58.320 That's great.

00:13:59.140 The finesse.

00:13:59.560 Do you want to give him my eyes?

00:14:00.960 The finesse.

00:14:01.260 I mean, do you hold my shirt?

00:14:02.560 Like, it's weird.

00:14:03.740 Scammers of the world unite.

00:14:06.060 Scammers.

00:14:06.500 Here.

00:14:06.920 Wait.

00:14:07.200 Hold on, Eric.

00:14:07.880 Exactly.

00:14:08.740 Go.

00:14:09.180 Yeah.

00:14:09.840 Scammers of the world unite.

00:14:11.200 Yeah.

00:14:11.660 We accept all credit card payments.

00:14:13.140 What is the art underneath?

00:14:15.360 What is that?

00:14:15.700 Oh, I don't know. 0.79

00:14:16.060 Some demon child.

00:14:17.340 With some like, he's plotting.

00:14:19.660 He's cute.

00:14:20.520 I couldn't tell you.

00:14:22.080 Sorry.

00:14:22.480 I was trying to show your shirt.

00:14:24.440 And so you were 18, though, when you were sending all this stuff.

00:14:27.220 Okay.

00:14:27.520 Okay.

00:14:28.120 Okay.

00:14:29.800 And that was your only arrangement with someone?

00:14:32.740 Yeah.

00:14:33.000 You've had others.

00:14:33.480 I just like, you know, you get kind of bored. 1.00

00:14:34.740 You just want to fuck with someone. 1.00

00:14:35.860 Yeah. 1.00

00:14:36.340 I got paid.

00:14:37.260 Have some fun. 0.99

00:14:38.120 Damn. 1.00

00:14:38.520 A thousand dollars? 1.00

00:14:39.440 What do you think?

00:14:40.860 Not even my pigs.

00:14:42.380 Yeah.

00:14:43.520 To me, it's, I don't see the benefit of that.

00:14:47.880 What do you think was his motivation for him?

00:14:50.760 Well, what, the benefit for me or for him?

00:14:52.860 No, for me, like, as a guy, it's like, here's a girl.

00:14:56.500 She lives two states away. 0.99

00:14:58.640 A thousand bucks for a couple of pigs. 1.00

00:15:00.400 I think it's. 0.93

00:15:00.740 Like, I know there's guys that do this, right?

00:15:02.800 But I'm trying to understand the motivation.

00:15:04.720 I actually have thought about this a lot myself.

00:15:06.440 And I genuinely believe it's something going on with them.

00:15:09.160 I feel like if they're paying you, then they have this sense of control.

00:15:12.180 And usually it's a problem.

00:15:13.560 Like, it's someone with deep-rooted issues, whether that comes to women or their own security.

00:15:18.680 And this is an assured way to have a pretty girl constantly talking to you. 1.00

00:15:23.100 And they have to.

00:15:23.960 The attention.

00:15:24.720 Because you're paying them.

00:15:25.540 So it's control, it's attention, and it's just constant reassurance.

00:15:28.440 Exactly.

00:15:29.140 I think, honestly, no offense to anyone in the chat here.

00:15:31.800 I think anyone with a foot thing, off-rip, there's a little something funny going on.

00:15:37.840 Oh, yeah.

00:15:38.420 Excuse me.

00:15:39.400 What?

00:15:39.540 You definitely came all the way backwards.

00:15:40.680 What?

00:15:41.320 I mean, pretty feet, of course.

00:15:43.520 But what's wrong with liking feet?

00:15:45.260 There's nothing wrong with it.

00:15:46.040 I'm not going to lie.

00:15:46.840 Some feet can be cute.

00:15:48.380 But other feet are horrendous.

00:15:50.560 And you never want to see.

00:15:51.800 Completely agree.

00:15:52.620 But, like, you like, okay. 0.98

00:15:54.440 I like large labia. 0.97

00:15:55.500 Exactly.

00:15:56.360 Some guys would probably not want that.

00:15:58.740 But then, like, some guys want big feet or nice feet, ugly feet.

00:16:01.420 Well, you're right there.

00:16:02.320 There's definitely a lot of guys. 0.97

00:16:03.100 You know, like, I do like a good toe sucking. 0.90

00:16:05.360 I'm going to be honest. 0.92

00:16:06.080 No way.

00:16:06.560 Okay, you have a foot.

00:16:07.480 So you have a foot fetish. 1.00

00:16:08.260 I will not suck on someone's toes. 1.00

00:16:10.860 I could never. 1.00

00:16:11.760 But someone can suck on my toes. 1.00

00:16:12.900 That's all they want. 0.99

00:16:13.720 I've had someone suck on my toes. 0.98

00:16:15.100 It's not. 0.98

00:16:16.000 I'm horrible. 1.00

00:16:16.540 Fuck with it. 1.00

00:16:17.480 Okay. 1.00

00:16:17.840 It also might not be your, like, people's fall if they have a foot fetish. 0.54

00:16:22.720 Because, like, in your brain, where, like, your brain processes touch of your genitals,

00:16:28.220 your feet are actually located right next to where the genitals are located. 1.00

00:16:33.080 Like, a map in your brain of where you feel touched.

00:16:35.820 So some people just, like, have their brain, like, accidentally associate, like, feet with

00:16:42.200 their genitals because they just have a new brain next to each other. 1.00

00:16:45.060 I guess that makes sense. 0.97

00:16:46.380 I shouldn't judge.

00:16:47.260 I guess I shouldn't judge.

00:16:49.340 Should we judge?

00:16:53.940 I don't know.

00:16:54.500 Anyways.

00:16:55.660 Okay.

00:16:56.080 So that's your only sugar daddy situation, though, that you've had.

00:16:58.840 Yeah.

00:16:59.220 Two states away, a thousand bucks a month, feet pics, convo.

00:17:02.920 Nudes.

00:17:03.260 Okay.

00:17:03.480 How long did it last?

00:17:04.860 Three months.

00:17:05.860 Two and a half months?

00:17:06.260 Only three months?

00:17:06.840 Three.

00:17:07.000 Yeah.

00:17:07.280 I was pretty sick of it.

00:17:08.180 So did you make...

00:17:09.000 Because I think he was catching on.

00:17:10.720 Like, it was a lot of the same pictures.

00:17:12.400 He did, like, the Google reverse image search.

00:17:17.360 Oh, he definitely isn't smart enough to do that.

00:17:18.940 He's like, yo, this is Bella's search.

00:17:21.040 Wait, how old was he?

00:17:23.260 Probably, like, early 50s, late 40s.

00:17:26.060 That's not bad.

00:17:26.860 Yeah.

00:17:27.280 That's not bad.

00:17:28.680 It could be older.

00:17:30.040 It could be worse.

00:17:30.540 Yeah.

00:17:32.180 All right.

00:17:32.680 What about you?

00:17:34.180 My longest relationship was shy of two years.

00:17:37.780 I'm currently single.

00:17:41.060 Ish.

00:17:41.720 Kind of.

00:17:42.280 I have a sneaky link, but we're not sneaky.

00:17:45.760 But, like, we're both not ready to be in a relationship.

00:17:48.820 So, I don't know.

00:17:50.640 I'm single.

00:17:51.480 And then, what was the other one?

00:17:53.980 Or is that it?

00:17:54.800 Dating apps.

00:17:55.240 Dating.

00:17:55.680 Oh, dating apps.

00:17:56.740 I was on Tinder, but I'm currently...

00:17:59.880 It's deleted.

00:18:01.000 I only downloaded it again so I could send pictures to...

00:18:05.560 Yeah, you'll catch on later.

00:18:06.460 And then, yeah.

00:18:08.320 No, not on dating apps.

00:18:10.460 Okay.

00:18:13.280 I'm single.

00:18:14.600 My longest relationship was a year.

00:18:17.720 And I'm not currently on dating apps.

00:18:21.280 Okay.

00:18:21.880 So, those of you who said you're single, do you have a sneaky link, though?

00:18:27.080 Yeah, technically.

00:18:28.260 I mean...

00:18:29.260 I'm sorry.

00:18:30.600 What is a sneaky link?

00:18:31.980 It's like a consistent hookup, but it's the same person.

00:18:34.560 Yeah. 0.98

00:18:35.460 Shoot.

00:18:36.020 No. 0.99

00:18:36.300 I wish, honestly.

00:18:38.780 So, there's not been any guy recently?

00:18:42.280 No.

00:18:43.060 No.

00:18:43.660 No.

00:18:44.240 Yeah.

00:18:44.700 No.

00:18:45.320 We love an independent woman.

00:18:47.520 Yeah.

00:18:48.060 I mean, I wish that kind of would change, honestly.

00:18:51.600 Okay.

00:18:52.060 Her DMs are open.

00:18:53.100 Yeah.

00:18:54.360 Yeah.

00:18:54.880 You...

00:18:55.080 Oh, go ahead.

00:18:55.540 Do you have a sneaky link?

00:18:56.320 Do you have a sneaky link?

00:18:57.280 You got a guy you're seeing.

00:18:58.660 What's the situation?

00:18:59.380 I think you do.

00:19:03.160 Yes and no.

00:19:05.300 I wish I didn't.

00:19:07.500 But you know what?

00:19:08.280 It's just so reliable.

00:19:09.620 It's like, I'm not...

00:19:10.440 You wish you didn't.

00:19:11.100 Let me call you up.

00:19:12.300 He's all right.

00:19:13.940 He's a little annoying, but you know what?

00:19:15.820 He does a job.

00:19:16.220 Do you think he's watching right now?

00:19:17.880 Probably not.

00:19:18.920 How would he feel, though, if he was watching and he heard you just say those things? 0.98

00:19:22.940 He'd be like, I fucking knew it. 0.84

00:19:24.640 I knew she felt that way. 0.99

00:19:29.560 Okay.

00:19:30.840 Good times.

00:19:31.720 Well, we know you have a sneaky link.

00:19:33.320 Yeah.

00:19:35.800 No, I wouldn't say, like, sneaky link how you mean sneaky link.

00:19:39.600 Okay.

00:19:39.960 I guess I wouldn't mean it that way, either, technically.

00:19:43.920 Well, she's not seeing anybody.

00:19:45.460 I think that's what I'm getting from that.

00:19:46.740 I'm just going on, like, dates, but it's not, like, someone I have sex with.

00:19:51.880 Okay, yeah.

00:19:52.240 Right early or anything like that.

00:19:53.500 Just, like, first, second dates.

00:19:56.760 Okay.

00:19:57.480 Good times.

00:19:58.560 So, are any of you getting a little cold?

00:20:01.880 Eric, can you maybe close one of the doors?

00:20:06.040 All right.

00:20:06.740 So, first topic of the day.

00:20:12.360 Can men and women actually be just friends?

00:20:17.740 Let's start with you.

00:20:19.640 Okay.

00:20:20.180 Well, I feel like women can be friends with guys,

00:20:22.060 but guys can't be friends with girls.

00:20:24.380 Exactly.

00:20:24.680 With girls.

00:20:25.380 Because I feel like guys tend to put themselves around girls they already find attractive.

00:20:30.500 So, there's already, like, some sexual intention behind that.

00:20:33.680 And I feel like girls tend to become friends with guys who want to get with them,

00:20:38.480 but they don't want to get with them.

00:20:39.620 Yeah.

00:20:40.100 Yeah.

00:20:40.300 I feel like that's so common, like, because when I was friends with people in high school

00:20:44.300 who were guys, like, they all obviously wanted to sleep with me, and they would make it really

00:20:48.400 obvious, but I wouldn't want to get with them.

00:20:51.140 So, I, that, that's my opinion on that.

00:20:54.400 I don't know.

00:20:56.720 It's kind of hard to say, because originally I would probably say, no, they can't be friends.

00:21:00.720 I think most cases, like, you always develop feelings, whether it's one-sided or not.

00:21:05.820 However, like, I do have one guy friend, and we've always remained friends for the longest time.

00:21:12.580 There's never been, like, any tendencies, and he just recently got engaged, and we're still friends.

00:21:17.540 And I'm cool with his fiancée, and all that's great.

00:21:21.300 But, like, I think that's just, like, a rare, rare instance, but I feel like most cases it never works out that way.

00:21:28.960 Yeah.

00:21:30.980 I have many male friends. 1.00

00:21:32.560 I have no intention of having sex with them, and they don't want to fuck me. 1.00

00:21:35.140 So, yeah. 1.00

00:21:36.340 Yeah.

00:21:36.760 I mean, it's not, like, it's quite a middle school question you had there.

00:21:40.200 Yeah.

00:21:40.360 Well, ad hominem, but okay.

00:21:44.720 Yeah.

00:21:45.460 I don't think if you are into someone that you're friends with, then you're not friends with them.

00:21:52.280 So that's a whole other situation.

00:21:54.000 If you're friends with someone, then you're friends with them.

00:21:55.780 If you're into them and attracted to them, that's not a friendship.

00:21:58.200 That's a crush, and they're friends with you.

00:21:59.920 Yeah.

00:22:00.340 So that's a completely different category.

00:22:03.940 Yeah.

00:22:04.260 Yeah.

00:22:04.600 I mean, you can say that, but the thing is, is that a lot of, and I sort of agree with her on this, in that women, I suppose, could be friends with men.

00:22:17.900 And this isn't everyone, right?

00:22:20.160 But I think a lot of the times when you have male-female platonic relationships, you often find that the guy secretly wants to get with the girl.

00:22:34.900 I'm sure you guys have maybe had instances where you've had male friends, and you might be friends with them, but you know, if given the opportunity, he would sleep with you.

00:22:44.540 Well, yeah, and then I wouldn't be friends with them.

00:22:46.460 That's part of the point.

00:22:47.720 If a man wants to sleep with me, I'm not going to be friends with them.

00:22:51.080 But they might not be upfront about it.

00:22:53.580 Oh, yeah.

00:22:54.140 We always know.

00:22:55.680 We pretty much always know.

00:22:57.420 We always know.

00:22:58.100 Yeah.

00:22:58.720 Do we really act on it, though?

00:22:59.940 Or do we, like, continue to let it slide?

00:23:02.440 And then he gains more feelings.

00:23:03.900 I don't know.

00:23:04.360 I've been in that situation, too.

00:23:05.480 I'm like, maybe I should have just, like, cut it earlier.

00:23:07.720 I don't know.

00:23:08.460 That's how I feel right now, because, like, it's funny that you brought this up, because I used to have, like, a whole group of guy friends.

00:23:14.820 And I generally, none of them wanted, like, I didn't want them.

00:23:18.180 They didn't want me.

00:23:19.140 Maybe, like, one.

00:23:20.540 But I had already known that, and we had already, like, been through it.

00:23:23.520 We knew that that was out, and, like, whatever.

00:23:26.040 But then the other day, like, or, like, two weeks ago, I started talking to this guy again, and, like, we were friends.

00:23:31.300 And he made it very, very known that, like, I'm not, like, trying to sleep with you or get with you or any type of way.

00:23:38.280 And I was like, okay, yeah, cool.

00:23:39.640 Like, me either, you know?

00:23:40.780 But then, like, he started to give those hints that, like, oh, but I know that you're so, I know you have such nice facial features.

00:23:49.720 And I'm like, why is that the way you're going to tell me I'm pretty?

00:23:52.480 Like, you were going to say I have nice facial features?

00:23:55.100 And then, like.

00:23:55.580 Someone complimented my eyebrows.

00:23:56.620 He was like, your eyebrows, they're so nice.

00:23:58.720 I was like, yeah, I know I do them myself.

00:24:00.540 And, like, yeah, because then you go on to the topic about, like, you know, but do I let it slide?

00:24:06.400 And, like, I have been letting it slide this past couple of days. 0.98

00:24:09.280 And, like, literally last night, I think he invited me over, and he was like, honestly, like, I'm going through shit. 0.89

00:24:14.680 Like, I just want someone to, like, talk to. 0.90

00:24:16.620 And I was like, you know what?

00:24:17.340 Yeah, like, I also do need someone to talk to.

00:24:19.300 But then he turned it into, like, I want someone to cuddle with.

00:24:22.300 And I'm like, eh, not answering your text message anymore.

00:24:25.380 Call your mom.

00:24:26.600 T-Dog, what do you think?

00:24:27.880 Um, I heard a quote in time that I do think is true.

00:24:36.300 It was something like, um, your guy best friend or the girl best friend for guys is just, like, the stand-in until you get a boyfriend.

00:24:45.720 Yeah.

00:24:46.620 And I'm, I don't, I kind of think, I don't know, I feel like that kind of happened to me, like, at one point.

00:24:54.160 Not, it might not be, like, as, like, it might even not even be intentional.

00:24:58.840 Yeah.

00:24:59.260 But just having guys, I don't know, having friends of the opposite sex, I gotta be honest, I feel like it fills in that, like, validation, attention gap that is a win-win for both people. 0.99

00:25:11.480 But I do think there's always, like, inherent sexual attraction there.

00:25:14.780 And then that's part of what makes, what is a friend?

00:25:17.140 It's someone you enjoy being around.

00:25:18.420 So, honestly, maybe you enjoy getting that, like, validation and attention from someone from the opposite sex.

00:25:24.720 I feel like it just also depends on your personality.

00:25:27.000 Because, like, me, when I get with someone, I cut off anyone that I have feelings for in, like, a sexual sort of way.

00:25:33.040 Yeah. 0.99

00:25:33.360 Because, like, I don't even want to give myself the chance to, like, fuck, mess up. 0.99

00:25:37.380 Yeah. 1.00

00:25:37.620 Yeah.

00:25:38.440 So, I think it just depends how you are as a person, like, who you choose to surround yourself with.

00:25:43.420 Yeah.

00:25:43.740 Because, you know, you don't always have to surround yourself with people that, like, you're going to find sexually attractive.

00:25:48.400 If you just have a good time, you can just be friends.

00:25:50.420 Yeah.

00:25:51.080 Also, with that, like, personality thing, it does depend on your personality.

00:25:54.220 I, when I go to a guy, they'll know if I like them.

00:25:58.560 Yeah. 1.00

00:25:58.860 And they'll know if I'm, like, you're my fucking boy. 0.99

00:26:01.180 Like, it's not hard. 1.00

00:26:02.180 How would they know?

00:26:02.700 What?

00:26:03.200 How would they know?

00:26:03.980 What would you do for them to know?

00:26:05.720 It's just how you come off.

00:26:06.500 If a guy comes to you and he's, like.

00:26:07.700 Like, hey, do you want a drink?

00:26:09.220 And then there's, like, hey, can I get.

00:26:10.640 It's just, it's subtle.

00:26:11.600 I mean, like.

00:26:11.940 It's subtle.

00:26:12.320 And they know.

00:26:13.260 Sure.

00:26:13.760 And they do, too.

00:26:15.160 If I come to him, like, yo, what's up?

00:26:17.560 Exactly. 0.99

00:26:18.040 Let's go fucking toss around the, like, pigskin. 1.00

00:26:20.260 I don't know. 0.98

00:26:20.720 Like, that's very different than, like, you want to come over later?

00:26:23.600 Yeah.

00:26:23.620 Do you toss the pigskin?

00:26:24.920 Yeah, regularly.

00:26:25.680 Okay.

00:26:26.120 It's funny, though.

00:26:26.820 I feel like most girls actually talk more like a man when they're trying to establish that friendship zone.

00:26:32.120 Because you have to.

00:26:33.180 Yeah.

00:26:33.200 They're like, hey, bro.

00:26:33.660 It's like.

00:26:33.820 Yeah, you have to.

00:26:35.020 You can never be caught dead saying that in public, like, on a normal day.

00:26:37.880 But, like, when I'm trying to establish that friendship.

00:26:39.520 What's up, man?

00:26:40.280 Like, I'm just trying to smoke a doobie, dude.

00:26:42.100 Yeah.

00:26:43.360 And then you guys also find it unattractive.

00:26:45.700 Like, if you speak like that. 0.89

00:26:47.040 So many guys have been, like, she talks like a doobie.

00:26:48.700 Be turned off.

00:26:48.840 Be turned off.

00:26:49.540 Be turned off.

00:26:51.360 Some guys might misinterpret that, though, and think you're being, you're interested.

00:26:56.160 Maybe we're not getting it.

00:26:58.540 Maybe we're just not getting it.

00:26:59.300 But, okay.

00:26:59.640 So, there's a bit of division here on this one.

00:27:03.780 So, who thinks that men and women can be just friends? 0.58

00:27:08.020 It depends on the situation.

00:27:09.340 Okay, it depends.

00:27:10.080 I generally think.

00:27:10.800 Is anyone willing?

00:27:11.700 Do any of you have, like, one or two really close guy friends?

00:27:14.900 I actually do.

00:27:16.400 Would you guys be willing to text them right now and say, hey, are you down to hook up?

00:27:21.460 Or something like.

00:27:22.140 I could never.

00:27:23.100 Organic.

00:27:23.820 Why?

00:27:25.260 Because if they say yes.

00:27:26.560 Because I feel like they would all say yes.

00:27:29.560 If they say yes.

00:27:30.120 Definitely say no.

00:27:31.220 If they say yes to hooking up with you, are they really friends?

00:27:35.440 Okay, well, I'm not going to say that because they are friends with me and they would run 0.99

00:27:39.020 in the other fucking direction. 0.99

00:27:40.340 No, you don't get it. 1.00

00:27:41.300 They would fucking run in the other direction. 0.99

00:27:43.660 Why don't you just tell them? 0.99

00:27:44.680 Why wouldn't you just?

00:27:45.480 Why don't you just?

00:27:45.900 You could just tell them, like, in two hours, like, hey, that was, like, for the podcast.

00:27:48.720 You could literally see me on the podcast being asked that.

00:27:51.120 Oh, I don't think she's worried about the repercussions.

00:27:53.540 No, I'm just worried about them being, like, that's weird that you would text me.

00:27:57.440 Like, that's weird that you would choose me.

00:27:58.860 Well, they won't think it's weird if you just tell them, like, someone told me to.

00:28:01.180 I mean, they would if you're, like, oh, I'm doing a podcast.

00:28:04.080 Ha ha ha.

00:28:04.280 I mean.

00:28:04.680 Do you want to pop?

00:28:04.960 But then you have to wait, like, a little bit.

00:28:06.820 I mean, you don't even necessarily have to do it.

00:28:10.620 But think in your mind, if you texted some of your male friends and you said, hey, you

00:28:15.240 down to come over, cuddle, hang out, however you would word it organically, how many of them

00:28:21.600 would say yes?

00:28:22.440 No, they would ask if I was drunk.

00:28:24.220 I would certainly ask if I was drunk.

00:28:26.000 No, they would be down for me.

00:28:28.320 And it's weird because I literally only go over.

00:28:30.980 I sit on his bed.

00:28:32.560 I watch Netflix while he sits on his computer and plays games.

00:28:36.060 Like, we're cool enough to, like, we just want each other's presence.

00:28:38.940 And then, like, eventually we'll talk.

00:28:40.720 But then, like, we're disconnected because I'm on Netflix.

00:28:43.440 He's playing games.

00:28:44.600 And then, no.

00:28:45.540 But I know that, like, if I text him that, like, he's like, where you at?

00:28:49.360 Yeah, I used to be friends with, like, this big group of guys when I was with my ex last

00:28:54.920 year and I hung out after my ex and I had broken up, I started hanging out with my one of my

00:29:01.520 guy friends from my friend group.

00:29:03.440 And I, like, saw that he was trying to make moves.

00:29:06.380 And, like, there was one point where, like, watching a movie together, we're on the bed

00:29:09.540 and I wanted to sit, like, not on the bed.

00:29:12.300 And he's just like, you know, I want to stretch my legs out.

00:29:14.780 Can we go the other direction?

00:29:16.120 And I'm like, okay.

00:29:18.180 So, like, I don't know.

00:29:20.300 It depends.

00:29:20.980 Like, sometimes the guys won't act like they want you.

00:29:24.660 And then once you're available, they'll be like, hop on that, you know?

00:29:27.960 Because, like, as soon as they find out you don't have a boyfriend, then they're, like, quick with it sometimes,

00:29:31.640 I feel like.

00:29:33.000 Because they know that they're the placer or, like, they're the holder until you get into another relationship.

00:29:38.000 Okay.

00:29:40.020 So, is anyone down to test that out right now?

00:29:43.080 I can do a little quick text message to one or two of your guy friends.

00:29:47.820 Don't make it seem like, make it seem like it's legit, you know?

00:29:55.440 So.

00:29:55.760 And if it's legit, it's going to take me a minute.

00:29:57.800 I would be like, hey, what are you doing?

00:29:59.920 And then, like.

00:30:00.640 Yeah, yeah.

00:30:01.580 I feel like it would be, it's hard to, like.

00:30:03.940 Bam, you know?

00:30:04.700 If they was, yeah.

00:30:05.440 I don't think they would believe it if she was, like, would you be down here?

00:30:07.980 And I feel like him reading it would be, like, something, someone stole their phone.

00:30:11.460 Or you could be, like, are you down to come over tonight?

00:30:13.540 What about, like, a what are you doing tonight, winky face?

00:30:17.140 Yeah, I guess that makes more sense.

00:30:18.360 What are you doing later tonight, winky face, where it's not, like, super overt, but it's kind of.

00:30:23.320 Yeah, do you want to come over later? 0.63

00:30:24.080 Oh, my God, this is so embarrassing.

00:30:25.520 Because, like, the group of guy friends I have, they're all besties.

00:30:28.600 So, I know damn well they're going to take a screenshot and send it to their group chat.

00:30:32.100 But you can explain it later.

00:30:33.440 His contact name is dad, who's obviously not my father.

00:30:36.260 But you can explain it later.

00:30:37.200 Do you want to do it?

00:30:38.220 No, I mean, literally, if I did it, it would not serve a purpose, like, at all.

00:30:42.860 Oh, my God.

00:30:43.000 So, they would say yes.

00:30:44.240 He would say definitely no, and he'd be thrown off.

00:30:46.880 His fiance would probably send a text to me now.

00:30:48.700 Oh, yeah, no, don't do that.

00:30:49.680 His fiance, this is what I got.

00:30:51.880 No, no, no, no, no.

00:30:52.460 Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on.

00:30:54.540 Yeah, I'm like, I'm pleased now.

00:30:56.380 I'm talking about your single male friend.

00:30:58.640 Oh, oh.

00:30:59.720 I got an answer.

00:31:00.960 Single male friends.

00:31:01.860 Sorry, no, no.

00:31:03.580 Obviously, your male friends that have partners are going to, I mean, more than likely.

00:31:08.900 I don't know.

00:31:10.140 What did he say?

00:31:11.740 He said, huh, and then he sent a picture of Luke Skywalker and then said, no, you're autistic. 0.82

00:31:17.280 Okay.

00:31:17.780 Oh, my God.

00:31:18.400 I like it, I like it.

00:31:19.840 Okay.

00:31:20.720 So, there you go.

00:31:21.480 I don't like the last part, but.

00:31:22.080 What did you write?

00:31:22.880 I said, are you down to hook up?

00:31:24.100 I'm free tonight, LOL.

00:31:26.480 Okay.

00:31:28.040 Straightforward.

00:31:29.000 Okay.

00:31:30.440 That's nice, though.

00:31:31.260 It kind of confirms it.

00:31:32.980 I'm going to say purr.

00:31:34.100 Do you want to try it?

00:31:35.120 I don't have any guy friends.

00:31:36.400 Oh, you don't have any guy friends.

00:31:37.620 Okay.

00:31:37.900 No.

00:31:38.360 What about, hmm.

00:31:39.400 I literally texted him.

00:31:40.540 I was like, hey, what are you doing?

00:31:41.480 I mean, what are you doing later tonight with the winky fest? 0.99

00:31:43.740 He said, who is this?

00:31:45.400 That's a yikes.

00:31:46.400 Because we're not like that.

00:31:48.820 He said, no, I'm gay.

00:31:50.120 See?

00:31:50.340 We're not like that.

00:31:52.340 Okay, wait.

00:31:52.900 I'll try someone.

00:31:53.840 Okay, try someone.

00:31:54.880 Do you want to try?

00:31:55.500 I don't have any, like, guy friends at the moment, or I'm not guy friends with him.

00:32:00.420 He's guys that I would be friends with, I do actively know, would probably just want

00:32:04.520 to get with me.

00:32:05.340 So, yeah.

00:32:07.000 Candice in the chat says that you ruined it because you said LOL.

00:32:12.720 Okay, Candice.

00:32:13.780 What's up? 0.99

00:32:16.880 Shout out to Candice, the fucking top, one of the top mods. 1.00

00:32:21.300 Okay, we're going to move on from that, but sort of related, and if you guys want to send 0.90

00:32:25.780 the text and let me know once you get a response, but do you guys, related to this, do you think

00:32:32.280 it's kind of a red flag or a concern if someone that you're pursuing has a really close friend,

00:32:39.400 a best friend, maybe, that's of the opposite sex?

00:32:42.100 Is that a deal breaker or a red flag?

00:32:45.940 Oh, I say yes, personally.

00:32:46.920 We'll start over here.

00:32:48.620 Yeah.

00:32:49.700 Because I've been there.

00:32:51.120 I've been the girl best friend.

00:32:52.420 I was, like, I, like, had, you know, just guy friends for a while, and, yeah, no, honestly,

00:33:00.840 it is, it is, it's us.

00:33:03.120 They're probably, yeah, yeah.

00:33:04.500 But especially if it's a best friend, like, yes, that's my answer.

00:33:07.600 I say also yes, because, like, the guy I was talking about that, like, I lay on the

00:33:13.200 bed, and then he watches, or he plays games, like, we've had a thing for, like, a while.

00:33:18.720 Like, we go off and on to, like, being hookups, and then, like, he's in a relationship, I'm in

00:33:22.660 a relationship.

00:33:23.120 As soon as we both break up, like, that's our, like, we're go-tos, but we're also best friends.

00:33:27.340 Like, when we're in relationships, we're still cool, and we respect each other's boundaries,

00:33:31.080 but then as soon as, like, you know, you're ended, then, like, we get together, so, like,

00:33:35.520 I just don't trust it, because, like, I just feel like you never know if it's a best friend,

00:33:40.020 and, like, you guys are best friends for a reason, and, like, maybe you don't see each

00:33:44.280 other physically, but then eventually, like, maybe at one point, like, you like each other's

00:33:48.300 personality so much that, like, something could happen.

00:33:52.020 Yeah, that makes sense.

00:33:52.920 No, I don't know.

00:33:54.420 I think it depends on both the person of the opposite sex in question and the person

00:34:00.380 that I'm interested in.

00:34:01.320 If I trust this person completely, and I know their personality is, like, oh, this is just

00:34:05.680 a person I'm friends with, or if, like, you're kind of one of those playa guys, and we're in

00:34:11.500 a relationship, and your best friend's, like, a cute little blonde, that's a no from me. 1.00

00:34:16.400 Okay.

00:34:17.080 Yeah.

00:34:17.500 I would say the same, best friends, total suss.

00:34:20.040 And, in fact, I felt I've been the girl best friend, and that's the one, the fiancé.

00:34:25.000 Yeah.

00:34:25.200 And I had to establish such a hard, like, I was very, like, adamant about establishing

00:34:29.500 a friendship with her, because I just did not want her to think, like, there was going

00:34:32.440 to be something.

00:34:32.980 It was like that, yeah.

00:34:33.580 That was going to turn up a bit, and, yeah, but, again, I think it's just a circumstance

00:34:37.740 of who it is.

00:34:39.160 Yeah, I feel like you can tell by, like, the guy you're trying to get with, and, like, who

00:34:42.940 the girl is.

00:34:43.480 Like, if you were coming up to me as, like, the girl best friend, and were like, hey, I want

00:34:47.560 to be friends with you, I'd be like, I'd feel more comfortable.

00:34:50.760 Yeah.

00:34:51.020 You know, I would appreciate that, because you're understanding that it could be a weird

00:34:54.640 circumstance, and you want it, you're acknowledging it, so it makes me feel more comfortable.

00:34:58.960 Yeah.

00:34:59.200 And, like...

00:35:00.260 You know, though.

00:35:01.040 You can know.

00:35:01.780 Yeah, you do.

00:35:02.580 Yeah, you do.

00:35:02.940 Yeah, you can know.

00:35:04.780 There was a girl, girlfriend, you know, homegirl that one of my, like, exes used to have,

00:35:09.880 and one time, I'm in my boyfriend at the time's room, like, under the cover.

00:35:14.440 She doesn't know I'm in there.

00:35:15.620 She comes in drunk, comes in, like, super drunk, sits on his lap, is like, oh, I love

00:35:20.800 you, blah, blah, blah, like, my ex's name, and he's like, whatever, just sits on his lap.

00:35:26.220 I, sorry for slamming the table, I literally get up, walk out there, and I slam the door,

00:35:31.580 like, and she tries to, like, come in to put her phone, like, she's like, can I charge

00:35:35.120 my phone in your charger?

00:35:36.440 I pick up the phone, I go outside, I say, I'm sorry, his, he's, like, using his phone

00:35:39.980 right now.

00:35:40.600 The charge is broken.

00:35:41.620 Like, you can have it back.

00:35:42.460 Like, just, yeah.

00:35:44.200 No.

00:35:44.620 I'm just saying, you can.

00:35:45.680 Just, you can, right?

00:35:46.500 You're so pretty.

00:35:47.440 Yeah.

00:35:48.840 I just want the girls that go out of their way to, when they first meet, be like, oh, 1.00

00:35:52.980 my God, you're his girlfriend, like, you're so beautiful, I've heard so much about you. 0.69

00:35:56.600 I just want you to know, none of us girls that live with him would, like, see him that

00:36:01.540 way at all.

00:36:02.460 That's the girl that's trying to get with your girlfriend. 1.00

00:36:04.200 It's like, no one was implying that.

00:36:05.380 Why are you bringing it up?

00:36:06.280 Yeah, the girl who brings it up is the girl getting with your boyfriend.

00:36:08.060 That's, like, totally different.

00:36:10.240 Yeah.

00:36:10.420 Because if you're already acknowledging it, you're like, why are you even thinking that?

00:36:13.680 Right.

00:36:14.160 Especially if they're drunk, I just feel like a lot of the time it's, like, the drunken

00:36:17.140 truth, or, like, they're just trying to, they're drunk and, like, have their true intention

00:36:21.440 kind of come out.

00:36:21.740 Words are sober thoughts.

00:36:22.800 Yeah, exactly.

00:36:23.980 So, like.

00:36:24.540 Unfortunately.

00:36:25.320 Yeah.

00:36:26.640 Yeah, I agree.

00:36:27.640 I think it's a pretty big red flag if they have, like, a really close male best friend.

00:36:33.740 Best.

00:36:34.140 Just, I'm using quotes here on the friend part because I had a recent experience, actually.

00:36:39.520 This girl told, I'd seen this girl for a little bit.

00:36:42.120 This, I don't know, it was probably a couple months back.

00:36:44.460 And she said she had a really close male friend.

00:36:48.440 And they've known each other for years, blah, blah, blah.

00:36:51.000 Just platonic.

00:36:52.360 Oh, no.

00:36:52.740 Right.

00:36:52.980 I've seen her for three months. 1.00

00:36:55.140 And then, but, like, there's some, like, kind of shifty shit. 0.98

00:36:57.940 I was, like, some weird shit going on. 0.98

00:37:01.040 Just, like, I don't know. 0.97

00:37:02.780 And so, turns out, he had a major thing for her.

00:37:08.700 And then, like, they end up, he asks her out.

00:37:11.900 And then they end up being, they start dating.

00:37:15.420 They start dating.

00:37:15.980 Yeah.

00:37:16.360 Just friends, by the way.

00:37:17.360 They were just friends.

00:37:18.040 But then they start dating.

00:37:18.860 And obviously, it ends with me and her.

00:37:20.780 But, so.

00:37:22.300 That's so sad.

00:37:23.240 I'm so sorry. 0.98

00:37:25.080 Damn. 0.99

00:37:26.020 It's over for her. 1.00

00:37:27.660 Did she have a big labia? 1.00

00:37:30.080 Was she 4'11"? 1.00

00:37:30.780 4'11"?

00:37:31.260 She didn't have a big labia, but she was, like, 5 feet. 1.00

00:37:34.320 So.

00:37:35.140 Not 4'11, unfortunately.

00:37:38.080 She was too tall for me.

00:37:39.480 I think that's the big issue there.

00:37:41.520 You need to look up to her.

00:37:42.680 Yeah.

00:37:43.080 Yeah.

00:37:43.640 Yeah.

00:37:43.800 Yeah.

00:37:44.340 Way too, way too.

00:37:46.000 Yeah.

00:37:46.800 We're going to react to this next thing here.

00:37:48.380 Eric, can you pull up the Kim K thing?

00:37:50.100 It's the Fortune website.

00:37:52.080 I'm not going to lie.

00:37:53.020 I love Kim Kardashian.

00:37:55.200 I love all the Kardashians.

00:37:56.900 That's a yikes.

00:37:57.800 Eric, can you make sure?

00:37:58.540 Is the audio on 80?

00:38:00.720 Not Caitlyn, though. 1.00

00:38:02.040 Fuck it. 1.00

00:38:02.220 Fuck it. 1.00

00:38:02.240 Actually, Eric, before you pull it up, let me get these soup chats. 1.00

00:38:06.420 I'll get that one next.

00:38:08.880 Hold on.

00:38:10.480 We got Janvier.

00:38:13.040 Sorry, I can't pronounce that.

00:38:14.040 Thanks for the $10 soup chat, man.

00:38:15.280 Appreciate it.

00:38:16.640 What do guys feel about...

00:38:18.840 Oh, my...

00:38:19.540 Hold on. 1.00

00:38:20.100 Let me read this in my mind before I read the rest of this shit. 0.99

00:38:24.080 I feel like guys are always pursuing... 0.99

00:38:25.780 Oh, okay.

00:38:26.300 I think this is maybe a fair question.

00:38:28.900 What do guys feel about black women? 0.98

00:38:31.200 I mean, bro, you're digging here for something.

00:38:33.400 I feel like guys are always pursuing blonde white girls and not consider other options.

00:38:37.180 Should men try to expand their options? 0.99

00:38:39.140 Of course.

00:38:41.120 Yes.

00:38:41.560 Why not?

00:38:42.100 Yeah.

00:38:42.700 Well, they've been shown that.

00:38:43.860 That was the beauty standard for so long.

00:38:45.700 Definitely.

00:38:45.960 And if you grow up with this being the beauty standard, a blonde white woman, obviously, 1.00

00:38:50.100 you're going to approach that.

00:38:51.020 So all we need to do is put the blondes to the side for a couple minutes. 1.00

00:38:54.880 Like, it's okay.

00:38:56.200 I mean, you're all right.

00:38:56.840 Yeah, that's fine.

00:38:57.280 But...

00:38:57.640 I think...

00:38:58.440 She's not... 0.99

00:38:59.040 You're not actually blonde. 1.00

00:38:59.480 Those are highlights.

00:39:00.900 Those are highlights.

00:39:01.360 Yeah.

00:39:02.800 Or are you proper?

00:39:03.400 No, but it's not even that.

00:39:03.880 It's just like we're constantly showing like in Victoria's Secret.

00:39:06.860 Didn't even say anything, but go over.

00:39:08.860 No.

00:39:09.880 Go.

00:39:10.280 Say it.

00:39:14.340 Say what?

00:39:15.220 Oh.

00:39:16.140 She's... 1.00

00:39:17.220 Shots fired.

00:39:18.320 No.

00:39:18.760 Okay, no.

00:39:19.240 I'm not saying anything about you specifically.

00:39:21.520 I'm saying about the representation in the media is consistently Caucasian, blonde, skinny

00:39:26.380 women. 0.81

00:39:27.200 I agree.

00:39:27.360 And that was a good point with Victoria's Secret for the longest time.

00:39:30.320 I mean, Jesus Christ.

00:39:31.080 They had like a black woman on their, what, like five years ago? 1.00

00:39:33.460 Wait, what?

00:39:33.880 Then they started.

00:39:34.800 They just started having bigger women in Victoria's Secret and men are shown, well, this is Victoria's

00:39:39.980 Secret.

00:39:40.280 This is what hot women are. 1.00

00:39:41.480 Like, these are Victoria's Secret models.

00:39:43.040 Well, hold on.

00:39:43.760 I'm not sure about that one.

00:39:45.140 What part of it?

00:39:45.780 Like...

00:39:46.260 You said the big women thing in Victoria's Secret?

00:39:49.660 There's no big women, really. 1.00

00:39:51.220 No, there's one.

00:39:52.140 The race thing.

00:39:52.400 Paloma, Alessar, or Essler.

00:39:54.220 The girl that was on Sports Illustrated.

00:39:55.900 Yeah.

00:39:56.360 Yeah.

00:39:56.700 She was in there.

00:39:57.300 I don't think we should be glamorizing obesity.

00:40:00.200 I didn't at all say that.

00:40:01.160 That's not even what it is about.

00:40:02.180 I'm simply saying that...

00:40:04.420 There are naturally big women. 1.00

00:40:06.700 Obesity, I'm saying that we're shown skinny, white, blonde girls. 0.99

00:40:10.380 That's all we're shown.

00:40:11.360 So that's all we think is pretty.

00:40:12.980 Now?

00:40:13.800 Yes.

00:40:14.140 Even me growing up.

00:40:15.520 I was like, I have naturally curly hair.

00:40:17.340 It takes a lot for me to lose weight.

00:40:19.360 I am a brunette. 0.99

00:40:20.420 And I am white, which is already privileged. 0.97

00:40:22.640 But growing up, I literally fucking hated myself because I wasn't like these skinny, 1.00

00:40:25.520 little, white, blonde bitches. 1.00

00:40:26.500 Exactly. 1.00

00:40:26.800 I think, yes, media still continues to push white, skinny, blonde women. 1.00

00:40:34.720 But I think our generation is trying to change that.

00:40:39.160 I think we're still struggling to establish that other than that standard is beautiful.

00:40:45.480 Exactly.

00:40:46.060 But I think there's an attempt to kind of bring that more to media and more to the beauty

00:40:50.400 standard because I think all people are beautiful.

00:40:52.280 And also, it's not even just, I think the fact that we have to even acknowledge that

00:40:57.060 like, oh, we should be paying more attention to people of color, people of minorities.

00:41:01.280 It's just like, I think even just, go for it.

00:41:04.600 Shouldn't we be past that already, though?

00:41:06.640 Why is it even an argument?

00:41:07.820 Why is it even a conversation?

00:41:09.000 Why do we need to rebuttal that complete statement that is completely necessary?

00:41:13.880 I mean, we, as white people in the world, like, we're a minority.

00:41:18.600 Do you know how many Asians there are? 0.99

00:41:20.000 Way fucking more than us. 0.99

00:41:21.060 So why are we the people to dictate what's going on? 0.98

00:41:27.200 Wait, I'm confused.

00:41:29.280 What about the Asian people?

00:41:30.480 No, I'm simply saying.

00:41:32.900 What about the Asian people?

00:41:35.300 What?

00:41:36.100 I'm just saying, if you look at races, white people, there aren't the most white people

00:41:40.720 in the world.

00:41:41.300 You know what I mean?

00:41:41.920 In the United States?

00:41:43.000 No, in the world.

00:41:44.240 Okay.

00:41:45.540 There's more than the United States.

00:41:47.340 Yeah.

00:41:47.520 We are, yes, white people are amongst the world population.

00:41:51.160 We are a minority.

00:41:51.840 Yes, 100%.

00:41:51.940 But in that world population, we aren't the majority.

00:41:56.740 Yes.

00:41:56.840 So what I'm saying is.

00:41:58.340 Anymore.

00:41:58.880 Well.

00:41:59.640 We never, we've never been the majority.

00:42:01.980 I feel like.

00:42:02.940 No.

00:42:04.280 Probably not.

00:42:04.660 The Chinese population is over a billion.

00:42:08.220 The Indian population is over a billion.

00:42:10.380 Exactly.

00:42:10.620 White people have never been the majority. 0.86

00:42:12.620 That's exactly what I just said.

00:42:13.960 So thank you for questioning that.

00:42:14.600 But okay.

00:42:15.160 So what, what's your point?

00:42:16.680 Well, my point is I'm confused as to why we have to push us being the beauty standard.

00:42:22.340 And it's not like, this is where this conversation comes from, where it's like, well, we should

00:42:25.940 have more people of color in there.

00:42:27.940 We should have more people.

00:42:28.760 We do.

00:42:28.860 Have you seen television ads in the past year?

00:42:32.400 It's like.

00:42:32.740 It's increased like crazy.

00:42:33.720 You actually.

00:42:34.680 Try finding a white male. 0.87

00:42:37.060 I never said.

00:42:37.700 In a TV ad in the past two years.

00:42:39.700 But then.

00:42:40.280 OxiClean.

00:42:42.480 OxiClean. 1.00

00:42:43.060 Like, are you fucking with me? 1.00

00:42:44.180 I love that shit. 1.00

00:42:45.000 But then if you think about it, how long were, was the, were white people being pushed into 1.00

00:42:50.400 advertising and all of that?

00:42:52.580 Well, I mean, the United States is predominantly white.

00:42:57.740 Well, I know, but at the same time, as what you're saying right now is like, well, we

00:43:01.400 have them.

00:43:01.880 So what's the problem?

00:43:02.960 That's what I'm hearing from you is like, well, they're already there.

00:43:05.180 So what's the problem?

00:43:06.060 That's not what I said.

00:43:07.160 Well, that's what I'm hearing.

00:43:08.060 I don't have, if you want to put a person of color or a woman in an ad, that's totally 1.00

00:43:13.060 fine.

00:43:14.340 No, I know.

00:43:15.100 But you're saying, well, we already have them there.

00:43:16.980 So what's the problem?

00:43:18.260 That's kind of what I'm getting.

00:43:20.920 I think he was just saying that like recently it seems like less, like there have been a lot of

00:43:24.920 advancements and it's like lesser problem as it would have been like.

00:43:27.740 Yeah, 20, 30 years ago.

00:43:29.720 So you're saying like this question.

00:43:30.940 I'm saying, you're saying that maybe growing up, you didn't see a lot of dark haired women 0.82

00:43:38.420 or women of color or whatever it is in advertisements. 0.99

00:43:42.040 And that certainly might've been the case in the past, but I think it's changed.

00:43:45.800 There's quite a bit of diversity in advertisements, in media.

00:43:50.340 Well, yes, but that doesn't change how people feel.

00:43:52.640 Because personally, like.

00:43:53.740 What are we talking about?

00:43:54.640 I'm just saying that doesn't change how.

00:43:56.460 That doesn't change how.

00:43:56.480 That should men date. 0.64

00:43:57.600 Women. 0.81

00:43:58.060 Oh yeah, the super chat.

00:43:59.940 I mean.

00:44:00.220 Yeah.

00:44:01.020 I mean, yeah.

00:44:01.720 What's stopping you?

00:44:02.940 Why does it just have to be white and black girls? 1.00

00:44:05.060 Yeah.

00:44:05.180 Because I'm Native American.

00:44:06.080 I have yet to see like commercials and stuff advertising my culture.

00:44:10.840 I've never seen a Native American person on a runway or anywhere.

00:44:14.880 Yeah.

00:44:15.080 I only have one girl that I know that is actually well known in the community where she is on

00:44:19.860 billboards and is in runways.

00:44:22.120 But that's only one out of how many?

00:44:24.560 Like.

00:44:24.860 Yeah.

00:44:25.400 I have yet to see that.

00:44:27.340 So I don't know.

00:44:27.920 So you think that we should like be not just including like African American people, but

00:44:34.040 also the other minorities that might not always get enough attention.

00:44:37.560 Indian, Native American, Asian, like all of them.

00:44:40.560 And I just don't have yet to see.

00:44:42.500 I feel like it's just turned into more of like pushing colored people means pushing like 1.00

00:44:48.620 black people. 0.73

00:44:49.220 I'm not trying to like be messed up, but like. 0.99

00:44:50.660 Oh no.

00:44:51.060 I hear what you're saying.

00:44:52.580 Well, just because like I have yet to see a Native or an Indian or an Asian and like

00:44:57.000 they're not in it as much.

00:44:59.460 Does this mean like you mean like black people are being racist by like.

00:45:03.880 No, not at all.

00:45:04.740 No, not at all.

00:45:06.060 No, no, no, not at all.

00:45:07.360 I'm just kidding with you.

00:45:08.540 But like I get like what you're trying to say, but like, yeah.

00:45:12.420 I also feel just like as a white person, I don't feel educated enough to like be talking

00:45:17.320 about like statistics.

00:45:18.460 I feel like I probably can't have the best answer about like what I see in media because

00:45:24.440 probably what's advertised to me is white girls because that's probably the products 1.00

00:45:29.820 I'm going to use.

00:45:30.280 If I'm going to buy makeup, it's going to be makeup that is to my skin tone.

00:45:34.340 That's a good point.

00:45:35.140 Well, I think my original kind of like thing was not about race as so much as you mentioned

00:45:41.060 Victoria's Secret and you mentioned overweight, obese women. 1.00

00:45:45.900 I never said obese.

00:45:47.360 I said bigger.

00:45:49.080 And they're not obese.

00:45:50.640 They're just.

00:45:51.080 I'm bigger than her.

00:45:52.140 Am I obese?

00:45:52.580 I mean, you're wearing a XL t-shirt, so I can't really assess you, but I don't, I don't

00:45:58.140 suspect you're obese. 0.90

00:45:59.720 Thanks.

00:46:00.200 You don't look obese.

00:46:00.740 But I wouldn't be in a Victoria's Secret ad.

00:46:03.700 You might.

00:46:04.400 What do you mean?

00:46:04.800 You wouldn't be.

00:46:05.440 I would not fit the requirements to be in a Victoria's Secret ad and I'm not obese.

00:46:08.980 No.

00:46:09.020 I am bigger.

00:46:09.880 Well, actually women. 1.00

00:46:11.140 Victoria's Secret was canceled.

00:46:12.080 So I think like that was it.

00:46:13.420 But even not just like.

00:46:14.240 For what?

00:46:14.840 So then learn.

00:46:15.420 Even in anything. 0.99

00:46:16.300 It packs up like any fucking ad. 0.99

00:46:18.180 Like it's just. 1.00

00:46:19.100 Yeah.

00:46:19.360 I think we have made.

00:46:21.020 I mean, have you seen like the Victoria's Secret ads recently?

00:46:23.820 Calvin Klein.

00:46:24.500 Made like a. 0.96

00:46:25.240 I've seen the Calvin Klein, yeah.

00:46:26.840 They have like made like a really active push to have like bigger women on there, women 1.00

00:46:29.600 of color.

00:46:30.160 The one one.

00:46:30.820 But they still have standards to be like how tall you are. 0.99

00:46:34.580 They're only doing that because they've been literally egged on for fucking years. 0.97

00:46:37.880 They're not doing this out of the kindness of their own hearts. 0.96

00:46:39.740 They're doing this to make money and to hope that people come to their stores again.

00:46:43.020 Yeah.

00:46:43.240 They are businesses.

00:46:44.620 Yeah.

00:46:44.860 Yeah.

00:46:45.060 But to me, I think it's pretty shocking that, I mean, when you think of a Victoria's

00:46:51.100 Secret model, you think of a certain thing.

00:46:53.500 I mean, what was the thing with the Sports Illustrated?

00:46:55.460 I don't think that's shocking at all.

00:46:56.460 No.

00:46:56.620 Because they all look the same.

00:46:57.620 They all do look the same.

00:46:58.220 That's exactly what you do.

00:46:59.740 There are requirements on their website.

00:47:01.260 I'm talking about like the overweight.

00:47:03.840 There was a runway model who's Victoria's Secret recently.

00:47:07.820 Why do you have to say overweight?

00:47:09.120 No.

00:47:09.240 Why can't you say bigger or like.

00:47:10.840 It was no runway for Victoria's Secret that's overweight because Victoria's Secret stopped 1.00

00:47:14.820 doing runways years ago.

00:47:16.320 Yeah.

00:47:16.680 Because they got canceled for years.

00:47:18.260 Years ago.

00:47:18.540 I'm pretty sure, Eric, can you try to find there's like.

00:47:21.300 Can we like see a photo?

00:47:22.620 Victoria's Secret.

00:47:24.740 What about the Fendi shows?

00:47:26.640 Like those are.

00:47:27.040 But that's different.

00:47:27.860 That's Rihanna. 1.00

00:47:29.300 That's Rihanna. 1.00

00:47:29.440 That's Rihanna. 1.00

00:47:29.480 She's trying to push it.

00:47:30.740 I mean, look at how many.

00:47:31.600 She's doing it.

00:47:31.980 Look at how many shades she made. 0.99

00:47:33.940 Like if you look back because she knew.

00:47:36.500 She was a woman of color.

00:47:37.940 I'm not a representative of VS guys.

00:47:39.760 I was just saying, like, isn't that a good thing that Fendi is like popular?

00:47:42.520 It is.

00:47:42.980 But you also have to understand that it didn't come from Rihanna.

00:47:46.520 And she knew that there were so many different.

00:47:48.860 I don't think she's trying to like go against it.

00:47:50.400 I think she's trying to bring up a company.

00:47:51.800 I was just saying, like, isn't that great that like.

00:47:53.380 Well, I was also going to bring up like.

00:47:54.720 It definitely is.

00:47:55.360 Like we have black owned businesses.

00:47:56.620 Yeah.

00:47:56.960 Leading the beauty industry.

00:47:57.960 That's good thing.

00:47:58.140 I was going to bring up Skims. 1.00

00:47:59.640 Eric.

00:47:59.940 Skims. 0.86

00:48:00.400 Because she also kind of does like the same thing.

00:48:01.900 Hold on, guys.

00:48:02.820 Eric, can you pull up.

00:48:03.740 Actually search for the Calvin Klein, say, plus size ad and just show us all the search results

00:48:11.460 under images.

00:48:16.660 What?

00:48:17.800 Oh, sure.

00:48:19.560 Scroll down.

00:48:22.620 Pull up that very first one.

00:48:24.720 The New York Post one.

00:48:25.740 All right.

00:48:27.800 She's obese. 1.00

00:48:29.920 What classifies obese?

00:48:31.600 She's obese. 1.00

00:48:33.340 I mean, you're.

00:48:34.580 Do you have her doctor on the line?

00:48:36.040 She is.

00:48:36.840 I have eyes.

00:48:38.660 Oh.

00:48:39.880 So I don't think we should be glamorizing obesity.

00:48:42.900 I don't think anybody's glamorizing obesity.

00:48:45.260 You just have to understand that there are certain.

00:48:47.100 There are so many people that will look just like her.

00:48:49.860 That doesn't mean she's obese.

00:48:51.140 But then you also need to remember.

00:48:52.740 She is, she's by definition obese. 1.00

00:48:55.880 There are people that also, that are her size, that also want to buy Calvin Klein. 0.92

00:48:59.920 And before they couldn't.

00:49:00.920 And now they're advertising that they actually are capable of putting out production of that.

00:49:05.760 You just said it yourself.

00:49:07.080 They're businesses.

00:49:07.880 So they're going to advertise in the way that'll make them money.

00:49:10.600 A lot of their clientele are people of this size.

00:49:12.740 So why would they not put them in their ads?

00:49:14.680 Exactly.

00:49:15.380 What is only white skinny people are allowed to buy. 0.58

00:49:17.420 What does obese have to do with anything?

00:49:18.700 Yeah.

00:49:19.160 It's just, that's the size she is. 1.00

00:49:21.260 You want to see your size also being represented and know that you can also go and buy the same products as other people.

00:49:28.140 Yeah.

00:49:28.540 I get what you're trying to get at.

00:49:29.880 Cause I know, I know what Brian's trying to get out of here, but I feel like this is a bad example.

00:49:32.840 Cause like Calvin Klein, like is like, they're just selling to their audience.

00:49:36.760 If their audience is fat or like, oh, like weighs more than they like are advertising people that weigh more.

00:49:42.440 I know you're talking about glamorizing, which is like, let's talk about finances.

00:49:46.020 I'm not even convinced that, that this is necessarily going to make them more money.

00:49:53.140 I realize that their businesses and it's corporations and obviously they want to make money, but you have to understand that corporations have been infiltrated by these sort of, uh, by the, the woke movement.

00:50:06.800 And by the, these diversity, what is it?

00:50:10.700 D D E I diversity, equity include, I don't know what it's called, but, but so it's not clear to me that they're actually making more money by doing this.

00:50:22.460 I think it's about acknowledging inclusivity.

00:50:25.400 I don't, I don't think it's glamorizing whatsoever, but it's acknowledging like, Hey, you can still buy from us.

00:50:31.780 We want to make sure that, you know, you feel comfortable and that you're included in what we're trying to sell.

00:50:37.480 And I think that's why they're promoting more with girls who are bigger than like the normal size or girls who aren't just white.

00:50:47.160 Okay.

00:50:48.080 I'm sorry.

00:50:48.840 I totally agree with that, but I think it's a Donovan effect, especially with businesses.

00:50:52.460 I, I agree with you.

00:50:53.640 I don't think that necessarily it will increase their, um, revenue.

00:50:58.180 However, I do think the media affects their whole business.

00:51:02.620 If the media doesn't agree with you, they will rip you to shreds and goodbye to your business.

00:51:06.560 If they go along with what people want you to be advertising, then maybe they'll buy your product.

00:51:11.860 But that consideration is worth something versus a just an no.

00:51:16.840 Okay.

00:51:17.320 I have a question for you guys.

00:51:18.840 Um, say that like, if you're a smoker and you feel like shamed in society, should we have

00:51:27.680 like advertisements glamorizing like cigarettes and things like that to make people who do

00:51:33.400 smoke feel more glamorous, feel like more welcomed and like they can just, they can live their

00:51:39.800 life how they want to live their life.

00:51:41.120 Even if it's actually killing them.

00:51:42.120 I personally think that is a completely far-fetched comparison.

00:51:45.960 I don't.

00:51:46.740 Smoking is a substance.

00:51:48.560 It's a chemical.

00:51:49.520 Obesity.

00:51:49.720 It's a chemical.

00:51:50.500 Excuse me.

00:51:51.660 Smoking is a substance.

00:51:53.060 Obesity is something that you live with every single day.

00:51:55.100 Yeah, we don't, we don't need the attitude.

00:51:56.540 We don't need the attitude.

00:51:57.680 What attitude?

00:51:58.080 There's no attitude.

00:51:58.740 There's no attitude.

00:51:59.320 She's just trying to say.

00:51:59.880 Yeah, just the way you said, excuse me, just like if I interrupted, that's fine, but go

00:52:04.900 ahead.

00:52:05.560 I don't need the attitude.

00:52:07.400 Go ahead and continue.

00:52:08.400 Okay.

00:52:08.960 Just the way you said, excuse me is like, go, go on.

00:52:12.120 I was, okay.

00:52:13.180 Continue.

00:52:13.900 Anyway, I feel like smoking is a substance and yes, food is a substance as well.

00:52:18.320 It's something that you ingest and you choose to do, but you don't walk around and you don't

00:52:21.900 look at someone.

00:52:22.580 If they don't have a cigarette on them, you don't know they're a smoker.

00:52:24.980 If you look at someone who's obese, you know they're obese.

00:52:27.820 So they live with that constantly all the time.

00:52:31.160 But why, why is, if it's something they can control and they can like not be obese, if

00:52:35.620 they want to not be obese, then.

00:52:38.480 But it's not that easy.

00:52:39.980 A lot of people can't actually because of severe mental illnesses.

00:52:42.180 It's not, it's not easy to quit smoking either, but that doesn't mean we should be glamorizing

00:52:45.840 smoking.

00:52:46.640 Exactly.

00:52:47.360 But do you, but you agree we're glamorizing people who are like overweight or also like

00:52:53.080 I don't think we should put a negative connotation on calling someone fat.

00:52:55.760 Like, I think it's our choice to, if you're fat and skinny are just descriptive words,

00:53:00.160 I don't think there needs to be a negative connotation.

00:53:02.120 So like if a woman is fat, like that doesn't necessarily mean it's a bad thing. 0.99

00:53:05.320 I don't feel like advertising women who are fat or overweight, like I don't feel like it's 0.79

00:53:10.660 glamorizing it.

00:53:11.880 And just like, I don't think personally, I don't think putting a skinny woman is glamorizing 0.97

00:53:17.040 it either.

00:53:17.500 But like, that's just how media portrays it.

00:53:19.720 If you don't think putting skinny women and only skinny women as models and ad isn't glamorizing

00:53:27.040 being skinny, then I thought, I thought that's what we were saying earlier is that we grew

00:53:30.480 up in the 2000s.

00:53:31.520 Everyone in a magazine was skinny and to us that felt like glamorizing, that's what we

00:53:34.420 thought was okay.

00:53:35.560 Because I feel like once you get to a certain point.

00:53:37.040 Glamorizing and enforcing a beauty standard are very different things.

00:53:40.340 And also to a certain point after so many years of pushing that like standard, then like

00:53:45.940 why can't we have more of a diverse community being shown and portrayed?

00:53:51.040 Because that's what you walk around with every single day, but that's not what you see in

00:53:54.260 ads.

00:53:55.520 Yeah.

00:53:56.460 So we should, so like, so does that mean we should have ads for like other things that

00:54:04.060 are just unhealthy?

00:54:04.900 My thing is just like the unhealthy part of it.

00:54:06.900 So like, that means it's important to have ads with people doing heroin.

00:54:10.840 A certain population of the like, a certain percentage of the population does heroin.

00:54:15.420 Like, does things that are like plenty unhealthy, does that mean that that's what we should

00:54:18.900 be like promoting an advertisement?

00:54:21.460 But that's also completely different.

00:54:22.540 No, but that's very different.

00:54:23.980 I don't understand how heroin and being larger.

00:54:24.480 Because like heroin you can get addicted to, but like when you're also obese, some people

00:54:28.580 are just naturally born like that.

00:54:30.360 And when they grow up, they end up, they just can't get out of it because that's what they've

00:54:34.000 been born into.

00:54:35.780 And that's all they know.

00:54:36.960 Or chronic illnesses.

00:54:38.020 Or they don't have the ability to lose weight.

00:54:40.140 PCOS.

00:54:41.380 But a lot of women know about that. 1.00

00:54:42.960 But eating disorders, binge eating disorders, those can stem from other places that aren't

00:54:49.440 addiction to food. 0.94

00:54:50.340 It can come from serious shit that happened in your childhood, and you rely on this to 0.99

00:54:53.720 help you. 0.99

00:54:54.160 It's an illness, agreed, but it's not completely the same as things like a cigarette.

00:55:01.680 They're two definitely illnesses, definitely substances, but they're two very different

00:55:05.760 things.

00:55:06.260 Well, I think the cigarette comparison is actually quite apt because we've taken steps

00:55:14.700 to stop cigarette advertisements.

00:55:18.280 Yeah, good point.

00:55:19.180 Because we have, okay, so we saw that, okay.

00:55:22.940 Let me just add one thing really quick.

00:55:24.640 And then I'll, and I think you can actually make the argument that obesity is a much bigger

00:55:29.140 problem now than cigarette smoking.

00:55:31.900 It's a, it's a far greater cause of early mortality.

00:55:36.860 I think.

00:55:37.120 I haven't looked at the stats, but I'm pretty sure more people die of obesity.

00:55:41.220 Yeah, definitely.

00:55:41.660 Than of like lung disease from smoking.

00:55:45.140 Yeah, sure.

00:55:45.780 So if we talk about like the United States, go back 50 years, maybe, and everyone, a vast

00:55:53.680 majority of the population smokes.

00:55:56.340 Everyone goes along with it.

00:55:58.420 It's glamorized.

00:55:59.620 It's normal.

00:56:00.540 It's, you know, people can't help it, whatever.

00:56:03.040 We finally have research that shows how bad it is for your health.

00:56:06.120 And then we go on decades long campaign that takes a long time to get smoking out of Calvin

00:56:12.280 Klein ads because it's not, you know, it's not something that should be glamorized.

00:56:16.200 We put education in school so people understand how bad it is for you.

00:56:21.020 And, but now we know that being overweight and obese has similarly catastrophic effects

00:56:28.260 for your health.

00:56:28.940 Why are we not on a campaign now of like encouraging people in every domain to avoid having this

00:56:35.640 lifestyle habit or something like that?

00:56:38.880 I think we definitely are encouraging it.

00:56:40.940 Just like we encourage people not to do heroin.

00:56:43.140 It's putting an obese woman on a billboard of Calvin Klein. 1.00

00:56:47.200 I don't think it's encouraging you to want to be fat.

00:56:49.380 I don't think it's encouraging, but it's not discouraging it.

00:56:52.740 Well, I think it's more about...

00:56:54.020 No one, if you're a fat person, never do you see an image of another fat person and say,

00:56:59.500 thank God there's another fat person. 0.97

00:57:01.300 I feel so great about being fat now. 0.67

00:57:02.780 I thought you guys just told me that was the whole point of having overweight women in advertising. 1.00

00:57:08.120 No, it was about, it was about being, I'm not the only one.

00:57:10.760 It's about showing that, you know what? 0.99

00:57:12.060 Other people can do this and they can be pretty and you still feel like shit. 1.00

00:57:15.400 You still feel like shit. 0.98

00:57:16.320 So if the ads don't do anything, why do we have them up there? 0.99

00:57:18.560 If it doesn't make people who look like that feel them. 0.97

00:57:20.880 I don't know.

00:57:21.400 I'm not an obese person.

00:57:22.700 So I have to think, I do think they want to feel included.

00:57:25.560 And I do think they want to see that, that image of themselves.

00:57:29.460 And I do feel like validation.

00:57:30.760 Yeah, and I do think that makes them feel good to see it.

00:57:32.900 And on your point, I do agree on a health standpoint, we shouldn't be promoting that.

00:57:37.740 But it's like, where is the line where when people are being called unbeautiful or not beautiful,

00:57:43.180 like, and we're supposed to agree with you, them and say like, okay, you're not just because you're overweight.

00:57:48.300 But yeah, on a health standpoint, I do agree.

00:57:50.300 Like at that sense, yeah, it's not healthy.

00:57:52.360 So like, how do you market that and get someone to be like, I feel good.

00:57:57.200 And it's okay for me to be that way. 0.99

00:57:59.300 Or they feel like shit at the end of the day. 0.99

00:58:01.080 I agree that I do. 0.99

00:58:02.780 I don't think like shaming people, calling them ugly is a way to make people healthy.

00:58:05.980 I do strongly feel like you to get to health, like get to a healthy weight.

00:58:11.100 It has to come out of self-love, not self-hate.

00:58:13.420 But I don't think like the more that we say it's okay to be obese, you can feel welcome and included in like American society.

00:58:20.340 Being obese, I just, you know, I don't know if people understand how diabetes, you can lose your limbs when you have diabetes.

00:58:29.720 It's something that I just don't think.

00:58:31.780 Sometimes it's not a choice though.

00:58:33.100 Yeah.

00:58:33.620 Sometimes you just end up with diabetes.

00:58:35.860 But I don't know, I don't think 60% of Americans have no choice but to be obese.

00:58:41.200 I don't know.

00:58:41.560 I feel like there is room there to, it takes a lot of work.

00:58:44.760 It takes a lot of motivation, but demotivating, I cannot be, cannot be.

00:58:49.560 Ultimately, look, the whole thing, some people have health, there's genetic predispositions.

00:58:56.880 But for the vast majority of people who are overweight, it's calories in, calories out.

00:59:02.600 It's about choices.

00:59:04.060 So you can, I have mild hypothyroidism.

00:59:07.520 That makes it more difficult for me to lose weight.

00:59:09.620 But ultimately, if I'm not adhering to a strict diet, I'm going to gain weight.

00:59:14.880 So a lot of people, some people have, I've got injuries too.

00:59:19.340 That limits my ability to be more active, burn calories.

00:59:23.900 So, but look, it's ultimately, there's very rare diseases or medical conditions which would result in you being overweight and you having no control over it.

00:59:35.680 So calories in, calories out, calorie deficit, it's all that.

00:59:41.420 Let's move on just because we've been on this for a while.

00:59:44.620 He's, Jan Vier there really managed to get us going.

00:59:48.600 Okay, we've got Red Misfit.

00:59:49.560 Thank you for the $10 soup chat, man.

00:59:51.000 Thank you.

00:59:51.340 Appreciate it.

00:59:52.180 For all the ladies at the table who say they're straight, how straight are you from a 1 to 10? 1.00

00:59:55.880 And if not 10, this is a fucking complicated question. 0.99

01:00:01.700 How about just, are they, ask their sexual orientation. 0.99

01:00:04.500 How about that?

01:00:04.980 Are you bi, straight?

01:00:06.700 How do you, how do you lean?

01:00:08.200 I identify as demi-pansexual.

01:00:11.000 So I, I know I've been talking about guys a lot, but I wasn't sure how deep we were going to get into this.

01:00:16.280 I like all people, no matter how they choose to identify.

01:00:21.500 Girls, women, they, them, you know, whatever. 0.98

01:00:23.620 And I tend to have like, I like emotional connections with people.

01:00:27.460 So I like to get to know their personality and like who they are as a person.

01:00:31.020 If I actually like to be around them before I get with them.

01:00:34.860 Okay.

01:00:35.400 What about you?

01:00:41.460 Let's see.

01:00:42.440 Straight, bi.

01:00:43.080 Well, sorry.

01:00:43.840 Sorry.

01:00:44.140 I totally blanked on the question.

01:00:45.040 I am completely straight.

01:00:46.600 Oh, okay.

01:00:47.640 Sorry.

01:00:49.740 I was listening to her.

01:00:52.720 What about you?

01:00:54.180 Um, I like guys and girls.

01:00:56.540 Okay.

01:00:57.760 Yasmin?

01:00:58.420 Bye.

01:00:59.260 Bye.

01:01:00.260 I'm straight.

01:01:01.700 Okay.

01:01:02.760 Rock and roll.

01:01:04.180 Sorry.

01:01:04.640 We can't do the one to 10.

01:01:05.900 I feel like that's a bit much.

01:01:09.480 Thermal.

01:01:09.960 Thank you for the $10 soup chat.

01:01:11.160 Appreciate you, man.

01:01:11.780 Brian, how committed are you to the splitting dates argument?

01:01:14.200 Is it mostly a talking point?

01:01:15.720 You say you want a traditional woman stays home. 1.00

01:01:17.740 Soft spoken.

01:01:18.280 Shouldn't you act like a traditional man? 0.99

01:01:20.620 Uh, so.

01:01:22.160 He doesn't even like his women sleeping over. 0.96

01:01:25.260 Wait, what?

01:01:26.300 I feel like we need some insight.

01:01:27.760 You have one.

01:01:28.080 Well, there's a lot of, there's a lot of things there, but, um, I don't think I've ever actually

01:01:33.100 said that I necess...

01:01:34.600 Well, the stays home thing, I don't, I don't really care.

01:01:39.540 I'm, I would do a 50-50, um, with the right person.

01:01:44.000 I would not, I also wouldn't have an issue being the sole breadwinner and providing and

01:01:48.340 having a stay-at-home wife.

01:01:49.600 I'll do either.

01:01:50.280 I'll do 50-50.

01:01:51.100 I'll provide.

01:01:52.200 Um, but, uh, okay, so.

01:01:56.760 Would you be the stay-at-home?

01:01:57.520 So the splitting, what's that?

01:01:58.660 Would you be the stay-at-home?

01:02:00.800 Probably not.

01:02:02.160 I mean...

01:02:02.660 But would you?

01:02:04.080 Well, he said probably not.

01:02:05.660 I, I would potentially be open to it, but I have my own business, so.

01:02:10.180 She would have to be making a substantial amount among me.

01:02:12.840 This is your business.

01:02:17.340 Well, yeah, but I mean, I wouldn't be, like, not working prime, I wouldn't be the primary

01:02:22.000 caretaker of the children, let's say.

01:02:24.180 Okay.

01:02:24.800 Um, I mean, she would probably have to be making a substantial amount of money for me to be willing

01:02:28.820 to stay at home, but, like, the thing is, though, is, like, it's kind of, it kind of,

01:02:35.340 most women would not be okay with that arrangement, so it's, like, most women are not going to

01:02:41.260 be okay wanting to be the sole breadwinner and have their husband be a stay-at-home father.

01:02:46.460 Why not?

01:02:47.060 Some women are. 1.00

01:02:47.800 I mean, yeah.

01:02:48.940 The vast majority of women are going to have a serious... 1.00

01:02:53.120 Most women are going to have a serious issue with that. 1.00

01:02:54.960 Where is this information?

01:02:57.120 I, I, I would...

01:02:58.100 Most women are going to have a major issue with, with that. 1.00

01:03:04.020 I think if it's, like, if you forced it upon them, they would have an issue.

01:03:07.400 Yeah.

01:03:07.680 I don't think...

01:03:08.100 But if they're willing to...

01:03:08.420 Just, like, a man would be, like, well, I can't... 0.77

01:03:10.920 If you don't have the facilities to completely provide for your family, you'd be really upset

01:03:15.220 if your mom was, like, well, you're not mom, excuse me. 0.99

01:03:17.340 If your wife was, like, you know what, fuck it, you can do this yourself. 1.00

01:03:20.160 Like, that's, that's messed up. 1.00

01:03:22.780 But I wouldn't have a problem providing for a man. 0.73

01:03:26.460 It's, there's always something else in the relationship that they're doing.

01:03:29.700 I mean...

01:03:29.920 I mean, you can say that, but...

01:03:31.160 That quintessential stay-at-home...

01:03:32.360 Well, you say most, but, like, I have no idea who you're talking about.

01:03:34.620 Well, okay, here's, here's one thing, right?

01:03:36.380 So, I would say most men can't even do the one income household thing in today's society.

01:03:43.620 Yeah, exactly.

01:03:44.040 Because in today's society, unless you're a majorly high earner, you need two incomes to

01:03:51.680 raise a family, to buy a house. 0.97

01:03:53.840 So, even, even with two incomes, a lot of people can't, well, especially in fucking California, 0.99

01:03:59.180 good luck getting a house. 0.91

01:04:01.700 So, most women, though, are not, even if they're high earners, are not gonna go for a guy that's 1.00

01:04:11.480 gonna want to be in that situation.

01:04:14.960 I mean, maybe I'm biased because my mother was a main breadwinner, and my grandmother,

01:04:19.300 and my great-grandmother, so, I don't know.

01:04:21.660 So, was your dad a stay-at-home dad?

01:04:23.400 No, they were never together.

01:04:24.740 My mom had a husband. 0.94

01:04:27.320 Wait, your mom had a husband?

01:04:29.180 Yes.

01:04:30.100 That was not my father.

01:04:31.560 But what did he do?

01:04:32.780 Nothing.

01:04:33.620 He stayed at home?

01:04:34.440 Yep. 0.99

01:04:34.900 He didn't do shit. 0.92

01:04:36.760 Wait, so then how? 0.95

01:04:37.560 And she's actually still paying him money because they got a divorce, so. 1.00

01:04:40.100 But how did he, like, how did, how was, like, how did she, they pay for things?

01:04:45.760 Wait, I'm confused.

01:04:46.080 Through my mom.

01:04:46.620 She was the breadwinner.

01:04:47.440 What kind of work was she in?

01:04:49.200 Vice president of a bank.

01:04:50.960 Okay.

01:04:51.240 Yeah.

01:04:51.500 All right, so she was a high earner. 0.81

01:04:53.340 Yeah.

01:04:53.760 Okay, so.

01:04:56.000 Wait, so, but you said, you said your, you said that you're, your bio father, not in the

01:05:02.740 picture.

01:05:03.620 No.

01:05:03.740 Was he previously married?

01:05:04.820 He's in the picture, but he's just not in that relationship.

01:05:07.520 Yeah, he's a wife and. 1.00

01:05:08.800 He got divorced.

01:05:09.920 They were never together.

01:05:10.900 They were never together.

01:05:11.720 But okay, so you're, and then your mom remarried.

01:05:14.280 Yes.

01:05:14.540 Okay, got it.

01:05:15.180 So did my father.

01:05:16.380 Okay.

01:05:17.460 So your stepfather doesn't do anything.

01:05:21.120 No.

01:05:21.560 No job.

01:05:22.180 I don't think he even has a job now.

01:05:23.460 I think he's still living off my mom through the divorce.

01:05:25.680 Okay.

01:05:26.160 That's it.

01:05:26.680 Well, I will say that's, that's exceedingly rare.

01:05:31.460 It's not that rare.

01:05:32.500 I know a lot of people actually.

01:05:33.660 It's very rare.

01:05:34.280 Yeah.

01:05:34.400 It's very rare.

01:05:35.660 Well, I mean, it also depends on.

01:05:37.520 It doesn't, I'm not saying it doesn't happen. 0.98

01:05:39.460 Oh, a hundred percent.

01:05:40.120 Yeah.

01:05:40.440 It certainly happens, but it's outliers.

01:05:42.780 I wouldn't like prefer to be the sole breadwinner of my family.

01:05:45.620 Like I'm already raising, I'm already giving birth to this child.

01:05:48.320 Like, I don't think, I mean, this is an easy question.

01:05:51.300 Like why, why would anyone prefer to be the sole breadwinner when, you know, I would,

01:05:55.440 for security reasons.

01:05:56.500 You would.

01:05:56.820 I mean, I've seen so many like men just leave their, leave their wives and they have nothing.

01:06:01.020 Like I'd rather be the sole breadwinner than be the stay at home.

01:06:04.540 It's actually the reverse.

01:06:06.160 Women leave their husbands. 0.99

01:06:08.300 It's more often than men leave their wives.

01:06:11.480 I'm not saying all.

01:06:12.740 I'm saying this happens.

01:06:14.000 But okay, you've seen men.

01:06:14.900 Just like I'm not saying every single woman wants to be the breadwinner. 0.99

01:06:17.580 I'm saying this happens.

01:06:18.380 Just like you said about my case.

01:06:21.080 Yeah.

01:06:21.380 So, okay.

01:06:22.160 Look, the thing is, is that you can say that yes, it happens, but most women are going 1.00

01:06:28.780 to have an, most women are not attracted to men.

01:06:33.000 You, you ask a lot of women what they're attracted to.

01:06:35.320 So, ambition, successful, career, high earner, career, ambitious, all these things, right?

01:06:42.280 You, you hear that all the time.

01:06:44.880 I mean, here, here's the difference.

01:06:46.800 A man who's an attorney, a man who's a doctor, he'll date a barista.

01:06:52.720 He doesn't care.

01:06:55.800 A woman who's an attorney or who's a doctor, most women in those positions, they're not 1.00

01:07:03.960 going to date down.

01:07:04.780 They're not going to date a barista. 0.98

01:07:05.980 They want to date someone on their level or higher.

01:07:08.940 What are you getting at?

01:07:09.760 I'm answering.

01:07:12.500 I think what he's saying is that like, which I personally don't agree with because like

01:07:17.820 I, as someone who's continuing to pursue a career, I don't really care about like what

01:07:22.960 the guy does as long as like he's healthy and happy and like doing something within

01:07:26.700 his life to succeed himself, not necessarily that having to be a job, but something else

01:07:30.960 that he's continuing to pursue.

01:07:32.940 But I'm guessing what you're saying is that women who tend to be in like a higher income 0.99

01:07:39.520 job will also look for a partner who is also in a higher income job.

01:07:44.180 Yes.

01:07:44.840 Yeah.

01:07:45.100 A woman who's a litigation attorney is going to want to pair off with someone on her level 1.00

01:07:49.880 or higher, generally speaking, whereas a litigate, a male litigation attorney, he'll date the baddie 0.79

01:07:55.280 that works at Starbucks. 0.97

01:07:56.560 He does not care.

01:07:57.960 Well, I feel like that points out what women and men prioritize. 0.97

01:08:01.020 Yeah.

01:08:01.380 That says more about men don't care.

01:08:03.560 Like, for me, it's like, I think nothing's wrong with that.

01:08:07.040 I don't think there's, I think the women are smart for searching out for a man who makes 1.00

01:08:10.860 money or whoever makes money.

01:08:12.360 I mean, aren't you guys capitalizing on that all the time?

01:08:15.100 Man like paid you a thousand dollars a month just to talk to you?

01:08:18.200 Like, yeah.

01:08:18.820 And I stopped because I wanted to do other things with my life.

01:08:21.040 I wanted to be the one paying.

01:08:23.480 Okay.

01:08:24.540 You can do that.

01:08:27.320 I'm a, I'm going to.

01:08:29.180 Um, yeah, that, I'm going to be honest.

01:08:34.260 Like I'd be very happy supporting just myself.

01:08:36.920 And like, if my husband wanted to be a stay at home dad or something, like you'd be okay

01:08:40.840 with that.

01:08:41.140 Yeah, no, totally.

01:08:42.000 If we are, if it is financially stable to have that decision be made, then yeah.

01:08:46.160 Okay.

01:08:46.380 Then even when you're, do you want to have kids?

01:08:49.800 I want to, I want to adopt.

01:08:51.220 Yeah.

01:08:52.080 Okay.

01:08:52.920 Cause I mean, for a lot of women, they want to take a bit of time off during the pregnancy 0.99

01:08:57.440 after the pregnancy.

01:08:59.280 So.

01:08:59.640 You kind of have to take some time off.

01:09:00.900 Yeah.

01:09:01.340 Well, that's PTO.

01:09:02.500 Yeah.

01:09:02.640 So if you're the sole breadwinner during, and let's say you want to have multiple kids,

01:09:06.780 that kind of.

01:09:11.040 Yeah.

01:09:11.680 Understandably so.

01:09:12.300 If you're the sole breadwinner, that means you're probably in a very high income job.

01:09:16.920 There are very, very rare amount of high income jobs where you can't get paid for your pregnancy

01:09:22.900 and for that time off.

01:09:24.560 You will get paid.

01:09:25.500 It's called PTO.

01:09:27.260 It's, I mean, if you break your leg, have a baby, it doesn't matter.

01:09:29.960 You can get paid.

01:09:30.560 And if you're in a very high income job, like likelihood is you'll get that money.

01:09:34.760 Can I ask you guys a question?

01:09:36.320 And I know some of you are young, so you might not care so much about this, but let's say

01:09:40.180 like, think you two are like 19, right?

01:09:45.280 Let's say maybe, maybe this, you might, it might be a big deal for you now.

01:09:49.900 Would you date a guy who lived with his parents?

01:09:53.100 No.

01:09:54.060 Right now?

01:09:54.820 Or like, what do you, you can, you can answer now and you can also say in like five years

01:09:58.880 in the future.

01:10:00.080 Well, it depends if like the parents are living with him, but, uh, no, he doesn't, he's not

01:10:05.820 making enough, he's, he's not making enough money.

01:10:08.700 So he lives with his parents.

01:10:09.800 Yeah.

01:10:10.280 I feel like at a certain point in your life, you should be doing something to pursue.

01:10:14.260 Okay.

01:10:14.640 What about you?

01:10:15.260 Actually, I think it completely depends on the situation.

01:10:18.300 I mean, I know a lot of people who are going through a lot, let's say they were a big lawyer 0.98

01:10:22.200 once and now they have no fucking money. 0.99

01:10:24.360 They went bankrupt. 1.00

01:10:25.020 Something happens.

01:10:25.480 They're living with their parents or they were an addict and they were in rehab and they

01:10:28.740 need to get back on their feet.

01:10:29.760 There's so many things about that can be honorable about your personality.

01:10:36.200 Your living situation is really one of the last things that's going to interest me.

01:10:40.940 I hope this isn't controversial, but honestly, drug addict is not, is still not my first choice

01:10:46.140 for like, well, no, but there are things can happen to people where they have to get back

01:10:49.620 up with their feet. 0.99

01:10:50.080 If you're a complete loser and you're rude and you have no motivation and ambition, then 1.00

01:10:58.060 no, I'm not going to date you if you live with your parents. 1.00

01:10:59.680 But that goes for a woman that lives with their parents. 1.00

01:11:01.900 I'm not going to date you.

01:11:02.800 It's not just about men for me and my own case.

01:11:05.340 I agree.

01:11:05.900 If you're not doing something to get out of a situation where you can be independent

01:11:09.240 and on your own.

01:11:10.020 Okay.

01:11:10.320 What about you?

01:11:10.840 Would you date a guy who lives with his parents?

01:11:12.660 I have.

01:11:13.780 Yeah.

01:11:14.040 Was it, okay, but is it ideal?

01:11:16.740 Would you have a preference for someone who has like their own place?

01:11:19.480 I mean, it's nice if they have their own place, but at the same time, like literally

01:11:23.400 people go through different situations that like, it's okay if you live with your parents.

01:11:28.000 It's not the biggest, like, oh my God, you live with your parents.

01:11:30.420 Okay.

01:11:30.600 I can't talk to you.

01:11:31.400 Like the, I mean the whole drug that's that, that is an example.

01:11:36.720 That's its own red flag.

01:11:38.240 That's its own red flag.

01:11:39.500 It doesn't have to be, but it doesn't have to be a red flag because there are someone, someone

01:11:42.960 who's previously.

01:11:43.680 My parents were addicts and now she's a VP of a bank and my dad owns one of the most

01:11:47.880 successful businesses in Philadelphia.

01:11:49.260 Like I, we're fine.

01:11:50.580 I don't think that's a red flag.

01:11:51.820 No, I don't think so either.

01:11:52.020 They lived with their parents trying to get back on their feet.

01:11:53.940 That was simply something I threw into the air.

01:11:56.160 It was not the prioritized category.

01:12:00.400 Like it's.

01:12:01.100 Can people turn their lives around?

01:12:02.600 Yes.

01:12:02.820 But yeah, I think for me and for a lot of people, if you were previously a drug addict,

01:12:07.900 that's a red flag.

01:12:10.020 Well, I'm not completely understand that.

01:12:11.560 Addiction, like it's a problem and those traits will stay with you, of course, throughout

01:12:16.120 life.

01:12:16.340 So I do agree with that.

01:12:17.200 A hundred percent.

01:12:17.780 If someone was previously addicted to heroin and they're getting clean, no offense.

01:12:23.760 I'm not pursuing that person.

01:12:25.360 They shouldn't be in a relationship at that point either.

01:12:27.540 You choose what you take on.

01:12:29.460 Yeah.

01:12:29.700 But, okay, so we were talking about, man, we were, we were talking about, um, would you,

01:12:39.500 would you date a guy who lives with his parents?

01:12:42.120 No.

01:12:42.940 Okay.

01:12:43.440 So, I mean, right away we're, you're making a, most guys, if she's attractive and if she's

01:12:53.400 lit, she's 20, 21, she's living with her parents. 0.99

01:12:56.180 We don't give a fuck. 0.99

01:12:57.500 Actually, that's probably better. 0.99

01:12:59.840 Why?

01:13:00.560 If she's, it's better.

01:13:02.020 Cause she probably, she's probably not honed around as much. 0.98

01:13:06.020 I mean, it helps a bit.

01:13:10.540 It might help a tad.

01:13:11.300 So that makes you feel better.

01:13:12.440 Like, do you feel like very insecure in your relationship?

01:13:14.940 So if you see like a woman living with her parents, you're like, oh, maybe she won't 1.00

01:13:18.180 cheat on me this time.

01:13:18.940 Is that kind of what I'm hearing?

01:13:19.760 It has nothing to do with insecurity.

01:13:21.880 Well, I mean, I think it does because I don't understand how a woman living with her parents 1.00

01:13:25.760 has to do with her having sex.

01:13:27.720 I don't bring people over to my house when I hook up with them.

01:13:30.980 I go to their house.

01:13:31.800 That's not what I'm trying to say.

01:13:32.480 But if, if you're still living under your parents' roof, they still have some degree

01:13:35.840 of influence over you.

01:13:37.580 No, they don't.

01:13:38.100 I don't think so.

01:13:38.720 At all.

01:13:38.920 They have some degree. 0.99

01:13:39.620 I'm going to be dead ass right now. 0.99

01:13:40.360 I live at home. 1.00

01:13:41.820 My dad has no shit to tell me. 0.99

01:13:44.080 I walk in the door. 0.99

01:13:45.120 He's like, hey, I'm like, hey, that's it.

01:13:47.400 That's the only conversation we have.

01:13:48.680 I love that for you.

01:13:48.700 Yeah.

01:13:49.220 He has no influence under me at all.

01:13:51.240 He's home.

01:13:51.900 I'm home.

01:13:52.720 We literally, we don't even eat dinner together.

01:13:54.760 We don't talk to each other.

01:13:56.180 That's a yikes.

01:13:56.540 That's a major yikes.

01:13:57.980 Yeah.

01:13:58.220 I'm not.

01:13:58.780 You're an adult.

01:13:59.740 You're a fully grown adult.

01:14:01.020 I'm a adult. 0.99

01:14:01.300 I'm just being dead ass right now. 0.98

01:14:02.440 You just said, you just said with your own father, you don't have, you don't talk to him. 0.99

01:14:07.520 You don't eat dinner with him.

01:14:08.860 No.

01:14:09.660 That's sad.

01:14:10.460 Baby girl.

01:14:10.980 That sounds sad.

01:14:11.340 But that's also under my circumstances.

01:14:14.100 It could be cultural.

01:14:14.820 It's only ever been me and my dad.

01:14:16.960 And to a certain point, my dad has problems.

01:14:19.180 I have problems.

01:14:19.920 We've never really had an actual sit down dinner.

01:14:24.160 I mean, we won't have to, we won't get into that.

01:14:26.620 I'm just being honest though.

01:14:27.620 That has, but parent, me living with my dad has no like connection with my, with what I go out and do.

01:14:34.900 And he has no influence into it either.

01:14:36.900 I'm not saying it's a guarantee that if a woman lives with her parents, she's not a, she's not a hoe. 1.00

01:14:42.160 That's not, I'm not saying that, but her parents can still be a positive influence in her life.

01:14:47.100 But it could be a positive influence.

01:14:49.180 Could be.

01:14:49.400 It's not a guarantee.

01:14:50.220 But just because it's a positive influence doesn't mean it is an influence where she's not going to be a hoe. 1.00

01:14:54.700 Cause they can still have a positive influence and still go out and do what they want and come home.

01:14:59.840 I mean, if, if her father was a adult role model in her life, then.

01:15:04.940 Moral of the story, anyone can be a hoe. 1.00

01:15:06.640 Anyone can be a hoe. 1.00

01:15:07.480 It doesn't matter if they live at home or not.

01:15:09.480 Next question.

01:15:10.060 Look, all right.

01:15:10.660 So we'll get back to the, oh wait, hold on.

01:15:12.700 Let me, let me address the super chat though.

01:15:14.640 So we, okay.

01:15:16.140 We were talking about, you asked multiple questions here.

01:15:20.020 So, um, shouldn't you act like a traditional man?

01:15:23.020 Let me just, we'll, we'll remove the middle part because that's not, I've sort of addressed it, but how committed are you to splitting dates argument? 0.79

01:15:31.700 So I'm pretty fucking committed to it.

01:15:34.180 Um, so the only scenario where, where I will pay for the first date where I'll pay for her is. 0.65

01:15:44.640 And if I significantly out earn her or she's just a young woman, you know, she's 2021, she's in college or whatever.

01:15:53.840 And I'm surprised to hear this.

01:15:56.700 I didn't know this was your thought.

01:15:57.800 So you don't, um, you wouldn't pay for a girl's meal on the first date?

01:16:03.500 No.

01:16:04.500 Oh, really?

01:16:05.500 We'll split.

01:16:06.660 Okay.

01:16:07.100 I'll split the bill.

01:16:08.520 Do you tell her this beforehand?

01:16:10.200 No.

01:16:10.760 Okay.

01:16:11.160 That's what I have the issue with.

01:16:12.320 I feel like if you acknowledge it beforehand, I think it's fine.

01:16:14.980 Yeah.

01:16:15.380 But if, if, if I also go by the role of like, if whoever is asking out the other person pays, so if I ask out a guy, I'm going to pay.

01:16:23.780 Yeah.

01:16:24.360 I like splitting.

01:16:25.460 Yeah.

01:16:25.700 I think it's like.

01:16:26.280 I split.

01:16:26.700 Yeah.

01:16:27.200 I'm fine with splitting.

01:16:28.100 Splitting is fine. 0.99

01:16:28.720 Just let her know.

01:16:29.180 Especially if it's the first date, like you were saying.

01:16:31.640 Don't let her know.

01:16:32.220 If you don't know each other, why are you paying for this person?

01:16:32.920 I would let a guy know.

01:16:34.240 I'd be like, hey, can we split?

01:16:35.120 Do you let the bill come and then you let her know? 1.00

01:16:37.900 No, I do some gangster shit. 1.00

01:16:39.140 What do you do? 1.00

01:16:40.140 All right.

01:16:40.420 Here's what I do.

01:16:41.020 First off, I might arrive five minutes early or I might arrive on time.

01:16:45.800 And I know she's going to be 10 minutes late because that's, that's how, that's been my experience.

01:16:51.240 Y'all be late for first dates.

01:16:53.620 Yeah.

01:16:53.840 You don't come pick her up? 1.00

01:16:55.640 Fuck no. 1.00

01:16:56.300 I don't pick her up. 1.00

01:16:58.260 What did she ask?

01:17:00.200 Nah, I'm not picking her up.

01:17:02.420 I'll tell him.

01:17:03.080 She can, she can meet, she can meet me, she can meet me there.

01:17:08.240 No, it's just like, if, if the girl wouldn't be comfortable going over to my place for the 1.00

01:17:12.500 first date, I'm not comfortable.

01:17:14.460 If the date goes bad, I'm not comfortable being your ride.

01:17:18.200 Okay.

01:17:18.640 That's what I can understand.

01:17:20.440 I don't want to, like, if you're uncomfortable coming to my place, coming to my place on the

01:17:24.340 first date, I'm uncomfortable picking you up at your address, you getting into my car.

01:17:28.400 Like we can meet in public for the first time.

01:17:31.380 That's how I would always do it.

01:17:32.800 Just safety.

01:17:33.540 Yeah.

01:17:33.740 I think that's fine.

01:17:34.560 I don't think, I don't think a guy, I certainly don't think guys always have to pay on the,

01:17:39.400 I don't think it's a red flag.

01:17:40.200 Well, let me give you my reasons.

01:17:41.280 At any point.

01:17:41.800 Yeah.

01:17:42.520 But it's a really good sign.

01:17:44.340 Some women. 1.00

01:17:44.960 That's really thoughtful.

01:17:45.980 That shows he's caring and generous.

01:17:47.500 Oh, it's, by the way, this loses me women that I'm not willing to pay, but it's the,

01:17:52.240 it's the hill I'm willing to die on.

01:17:53.740 So, okay.

01:17:54.440 Here's what you do, right?

01:17:55.700 You get there five minutes early.

01:17:57.980 Boys, listen up.

01:17:59.400 Listen up.

01:18:00.300 You get there five minutes early.

01:18:02.800 If it's a sit down place where a waiter comes, sometimes I don't do dinner, no dinner dates,

01:18:07.600 guys.

01:18:07.760 But sometimes there's drink places where a waiter will come, like someone will come and serve

01:18:11.780 you at a table.

01:18:12.780 So if it's like that, when the waiter comes, you're there early.

01:18:15.840 You're the only one there.

01:18:16.600 You tell him, Hey, we're going to do separate checks, separate checks.

01:18:20.320 You tell him ahead of time.

01:18:21.940 That way, when he, when you ask for the check or whatever, boom.

01:18:25.840 So you're too afraid to tell them.

01:18:27.860 I just don't understand why you're afraid to tell them.

01:18:30.000 Yeah.

01:18:31.140 I wouldn't have a problem with someone saying we're spending a check.

01:18:33.680 Yeah.

01:18:34.220 I would offer it personally.

01:18:35.740 What are you trying to like figure out why not telling them?

01:18:38.200 Is this a reaction?

01:18:40.100 It's just, there's less.

01:18:41.060 If you wait until, if you don't establish that before the, your date comes, then there's

01:18:47.900 just like an opportunity for a miscommunication or a mishap.

01:18:51.380 So I just tell the waiter up front, Hey, we're going to be splitting checks from the get

01:18:55.000 go.

01:18:55.680 I'm just curious.

01:18:56.320 Has a girl ever like, I don't have cash or like, has she ever like responded or denied

01:19:00.660 to pay the payment?

01:19:01.920 I mean, have you ever had trouble with that?

01:19:03.920 No, no, no.

01:19:04.840 I think there's never been an issue.

01:19:07.160 Oh, I don't have a wallet.

01:19:09.280 I had a, I had a roommate back at home and she told me a horrific story where she went 0.99

01:19:14.660 on a first date and this guy, you know, same principle.

01:19:17.160 He was like, I planned on a swing to payment, but he took her to like a group event where

01:19:21.460 he had all of his friends and their girlfriends.

01:19:23.600 Oh yeah.

01:19:23.900 So they're sitting at a round table, checks come in.

01:19:25.960 So they're going to do the split payment thing. 0.99

01:19:27.560 And he basically was like, Oh crap.

01:19:30.240 I totally forgot my wallet. 0.90

01:19:31.860 Oh, oh yeah.

01:19:33.060 I've had guys forget their wallet.

01:19:34.560 I haven't forgotten mine.

01:19:35.500 You know, and he explained afterward, he was, he was thinking we're going to split it.

01:19:39.160 So he assumed that she had the money and she had to like tell this waitress, like I did 0.99

01:19:44.020 not bring my wallet.

01:19:45.440 No, I don't.

01:19:46.640 And so like all these people at their table are just like looking at them super awkward,

01:19:50.580 but I don't know.

01:19:51.660 I just feel like that could totally been alleviated.

01:19:54.360 If someone just says, Hey, just bring, you know, everybody just make your payment.

01:19:57.680 Like, I don't know.

01:19:58.820 Pay half.

01:19:59.900 Here's another method.

01:20:01.620 If it's not a situation where there's a waiter that comes up, like it's a bar, you go up,

01:20:06.800 you'll go up to get the drink.

01:20:08.640 Again, you arrive early, you get your drink.

01:20:10.840 I'm not a big drinker.

01:20:11.940 I'll have maybe one drink max.

01:20:13.580 That's it for the night.

01:20:14.500 I'm not going to keep a tab open.

01:20:16.040 I'm going to get my drink.

01:20:17.380 I'm going to sit down somewhere else.

01:20:19.200 Not, not at the bar.

01:20:21.080 And then she comes in, you know, she's late, right?

01:20:23.600 She's going to be late.

01:20:25.300 And then I'm like, Oh, Hey, I already got my drink.

01:20:28.920 If you want to go ahead and get, get a drink.

01:20:31.100 Boom.

01:20:32.440 It's figured out.

01:20:35.640 That's actually pretty solid.

01:20:37.580 That's, that would give me a pretty good indicator that I'm going halves or yeah.

01:20:41.760 Yeah.

01:20:41.980 Why don't you just communicate this to her?

01:20:43.740 I think that's very, what?

01:20:45.940 Like before the day, before the front, before we even, no, when, before we even meet whenever

01:20:52.360 you want.

01:20:52.940 I mean, I'm not on your date with you.

01:20:54.880 So it's kind of up to you and how you feel about that person and being like, Hey, like

01:20:58.900 just in your conversation, be like, Hey, is it okay if we split the check?

01:21:03.480 I think that's weird.

01:21:04.300 If you like, so it's better to just not tell them and then let, no, it would be weird.

01:21:08.460 I mean, wouldn't, I would think every girl would like assume that you're, no, I feel

01:21:13.540 on the wording.

01:21:14.080 If they're like, can I take you out to dinner?

01:21:16.420 Like, I mean, like go to a group of girls and be, most of them are like, Oh, what did

01:21:19.600 my boyfriend get me?

01:21:20.520 Or what did my side guy get me?

01:21:21.920 And all that.

01:21:22.400 It's all about, you know, materials, like what they have, what they're going to get.

01:21:24.640 I mean, that's, I'm going to be very frank.

01:21:27.300 No, there's no way that they are going to want to pay anything.

01:21:30.520 And most chances are, they're probably not going to bring their wallet.

01:21:33.820 So I think this principle here is going to come with a bunch of like roller coasters.

01:21:39.660 I've maybe lost some women because of it, but it's, it's honestly not been a major issue.

01:21:44.640 And most, most women bring their purse on a date. 0.99

01:21:48.360 I mean, they, I'm not picking them up.

01:21:50.140 Right.

01:21:50.380 So they, they've driven themselves or they've taken an Uber. 0.99

01:21:53.860 They've got their, whatever, Apple pay or whatever bullshit it is.

01:21:56.740 So, uh, food, I don't do food dates that occasionally, maybe I'll do it, but, um, a simple drink date. 0.95

01:22:04.140 Brian, I feel like you're living out of a scarcity mindset here.

01:22:08.100 No, I'll tell it.

01:22:08.760 Well, I'll tell you the reason why I, why I do that.

01:22:11.600 Um, like maybe if you're going on like hundreds of dates a week and like you really like, it's

01:22:17.040 taking a huge dent in your like finances that you need to like plan it out that much.

01:22:22.020 It's not about the money.

01:22:23.040 It's about the principle.

01:22:24.480 Okay.

01:22:24.940 It's about the principle.

01:22:25.980 But I think they would argue that that would be a principle.

01:22:28.900 What's the principle?

01:22:29.320 Because I, I don't even know what the principle is.

01:22:30.740 What is the principle?

01:22:31.960 I'll sit down with the girl and they'll be like, oh, um, he didn't pay for my dinner.

01:22:35.500 And they'd be really pissed off about it.

01:22:37.220 They'll never see the guy again.

01:22:38.380 That's fine.

01:22:38.760 And they'd be like, it's the principle.

01:22:40.520 But it's so funny.

01:22:41.460 You say that it's the principle and she'll say it's the principle.

01:22:44.100 What's the principle?

01:22:45.120 What's the principle?

01:22:46.280 Well, let me tell you the scenarios in which I would pay.

01:22:50.880 Okay.

01:22:51.200 So if I'd got the sense that she was traditional, if she was traditional and probably, okay.

01:23:01.440 Also, if she's younger, 19, 20, 21, whatever.

01:23:06.020 Um, she's in college, she's in college, then I'm going to pay, then I'm going to pay.

01:23:13.640 But if I'm going out with a litigation attorney, that's making $300,000 a year, I'm not going

01:23:18.420 to pay.

01:23:18.620 No, but, but I've, I've gone out.

01:23:20.860 I've, I've met, there was a litigation attorney that I went out with and she making probably

01:23:25.920 200, $300,000 a year.

01:23:27.500 This was like 10 years, no, sorry, not 10 years, five years ago.

01:23:30.860 Um, she, she was like, oh, I want to be wined and dined and treated like, and I'm like, bro,

01:23:37.480 you make $300,000 a year.

01:23:40.600 Like, no, I'm not going to pay for you.

01:23:43.380 No, that would make sense.

01:23:44.560 I think that would be understandable.

01:23:46.000 I guess the, the age thing does apply.

01:23:48.360 Yeah.

01:23:48.560 That makes you more sense.

01:23:49.800 It'd be dusty, Brian.

01:23:53.320 What's up?

01:23:53.840 Of like, uh, if like, because if I go out on a date with a guy who's a couple of years

01:23:59.920 older, like I'm still college and I do like, you know, I don't have a real job and he, even

01:24:05.220 on principle, like wanted to split the check.

01:24:07.560 Like, even though I'm fine paying for my own meal, I'm not going to expect you to, that's

01:24:11.500 just sort of, that's, that's, principle's going a little too far there at that point.

01:24:15.180 Like if you have a real job and I'm in college and that's sort of like, yeah.

01:24:18.180 Well, that's, that's what I just said though, is that if she's in college.

01:24:21.480 You got it right.

01:24:21.860 I was worried.

01:24:22.300 No, if she's in college, not honestly, most of the women I date are like mid, mid to late 1.00

01:24:30.500 twenties, early thirties.

01:24:31.860 So like career in their careers, but like occasionally, yes, maybe grad student, for example, even

01:24:37.520 grads, you know, grad student could be mid, late twenties, um, grad students a bit, if you

01:24:43.160 know, I don't know, I, even then she, you know, undergrad, sure.

01:24:47.940 Grad student, nah.

01:24:49.040 You don't know they're striking the grad students strike right now.

01:24:53.360 They're homeless and starving.

01:24:55.100 So actually please buy their food.

01:24:57.440 Over 18.

01:24:58.120 But okay.

01:24:58.820 Look, I have more money than the grad students right now.

01:25:01.920 I can tell you that.

01:25:02.820 So perhaps, perhaps, but look, it's just the, look, if she's in her career, look, I've dated 0.99

01:25:12.500 nurses, I dated more, more, more fucking nurses than I can count. 1.00

01:25:17.580 I've dated a, what is it? 1.00

01:25:20.380 Pharmacist dated a, um, shit. 1.00

01:25:24.120 What is it? 1.00

01:25:24.560 Uh, I did a physician's assistant.

01:25:27.640 I dated a doctor.

01:25:28.440 I've dated a chick who was an architect. 1.00

01:25:30.280 I've dated researchers, all like career women making six figures. 0.94

01:25:36.000 I'm not paying for you on the first date. 1.00

01:25:37.960 Fuck out of here with that shit. 1.00

01:25:39.280 So the prince, so I'm guessing the principle is, Hey, if you have the money, you know, 1.00

01:25:43.740 pay your own shit. 0.99

01:25:45.380 Is that the principle of both sides? 1.00

01:25:46.240 And also, also here's the thing.

01:25:47.760 Yeah.

01:25:48.060 Is that it?

01:25:48.820 Well, also we're in, okay, here's the thing, right?

01:25:51.420 I, we're in California.

01:25:53.220 Most of the women I date, I say are pretty left leaning liberal women. 1.00

01:25:56.700 I'd say I'm like center, center left.

01:25:58.720 Let's not get into politics.

01:26:00.060 Right.

01:26:00.660 Um, center left.

01:26:03.040 Cent, what?

01:26:03.840 Okay.

01:26:06.380 Let's not get into it.

01:26:07.340 Let's not get into it.

01:26:08.280 Right, right, right.

01:26:08.720 Let's not get into it.

01:26:10.520 Be glad that I'm not far, far right.

01:26:13.420 But okay.

01:26:14.000 Um, so if I'm dating a liberal woman, she probably believes in gender equality. 1.00

01:26:20.600 Okay.

01:26:21.240 You can't be a feminist. 1.00

01:26:22.500 You can't be for gender equality until the check comes. 1.00

01:26:26.020 Equality is not a buffet.

01:26:27.460 No pun intended that you get to pick and choose which, uh, what equality that you want and

01:26:33.620 don't want.

01:26:34.220 If you believe in gender equality, when you go on a date with a guy, you pay for your food, 0.99

01:26:39.260 he pays for his.

01:26:40.560 I feel like there is no issue with that.

01:26:42.300 I think it's personal preference.

01:26:44.060 I'm going to be honest the way I like to do it.

01:26:45.780 If I go on a first date, they pay for my meal and I choose that I want to go on a second

01:26:49.560 date.

01:26:49.740 I'll pay for their meal.

01:26:50.740 What if there's no second date? 0.98

01:26:52.260 That sucks. 0.97

01:26:53.400 Okay. 0.98

01:26:53.800 So he just, right.

01:26:55.500 So he made an investment that is not going to be, there's, there's not going to be a second

01:26:59.860 date.

01:27:00.080 So he spent money on you that has in essence gone to waste.

01:27:05.180 So to speak, he had a lovely experience with me.

01:27:09.320 So I don't know what you mean.

01:27:10.360 It went to waste.

01:27:11.660 You both had a lovely experience.

01:27:13.980 Yeah.

01:27:14.780 Did you?

01:27:15.700 Did you?

01:27:16.320 Why isn't there a second date then?

01:27:18.740 So you're, so what you're saying is your time, if, if a guy wants to get your time,

01:27:24.420 he has to pay for it.

01:27:25.740 No, I don't think anyone's saying.

01:27:26.720 He doesn't have to, but like if a guy, if a guy wants to pay for my meal, how I like

01:27:31.460 to like approach it is if he pays for my first meal and then we, and he's choosing to pay

01:27:36.760 that on the second meal, if we go on a second date, I'll pay for that.

01:27:39.940 That's how I choose to make it equal.

01:27:42.300 Cause I don't want, I, one, I want to show that I can also provide and two, I don't want

01:27:47.180 to make them feel like they have to pay for my time.

01:27:49.940 Yeah.

01:27:50.300 Okay.

01:27:50.720 So can I ask you a question?

01:27:51.980 Yeah.

01:27:52.440 How many first dates do you go on?

01:27:54.300 Um, and I, I, again, I know you guys are in college, so I feel like a lot of people

01:27:58.980 in college, it's much more casual.

01:28:00.820 Hey, let's, it's like, no, but I'm not, I'm not, it's more like, Hey, let's meet at a party.

01:28:05.220 Let's meet out.

01:28:06.040 Like, it's not so much, Hey, let's meet out for dinner, for a drink.

01:28:10.160 I feel like that starts becoming more of a thing as you get out of college.

01:28:14.380 But I mean, how many of your first dates that you've been on have only been like first dates

01:28:21.240 and didn't proceed any further?

01:28:23.540 Um, I wouldn't say like a lot.

01:28:25.100 I just don't choose to date a lot either, but I've had guys and I like, I will choose not

01:28:29.740 to go to expensive restaurant.

01:28:30.920 Cause like, I think it'd be stupid to be like, Oh, I'm going to go to this restaurant that 0.88

01:28:34.420 I couldn't even afford.

01:28:35.360 Why would I expect someone who's around my same age to be able to do the same thing?

01:28:38.760 You know, so I feel like I try to be courteous about like where we're going to eat.

01:28:42.860 Like you can take me to In-N-Out and I'll be happy.

01:28:45.720 Like spend $10 on your meal and my meal and I'll be very happy.

01:28:49.640 Okay.

01:28:50.500 So I guess, okay.

01:28:52.060 My question is who, who should pay on the first date?

01:28:54.700 We'll go around the table on this.

01:28:56.740 Either or I don't think it matters.

01:28:58.520 Well, you said whoever asks.

01:29:00.260 Yeah.

01:29:00.420 If you guys want to split it, then yes, you can.

01:29:02.540 If one, if the guy wants to pay, he can pay.

01:29:04.220 If the girl wants to pay, he can. 0.96

01:29:05.380 Like I said, I think it depends who asks the person out.

01:29:08.760 If I'm asking a guy, I'll pay.

01:29:10.220 But okay.

01:29:10.580 So if the guy asks, he should pay.

01:29:12.500 If he says, can I take you out to dinner that I'm going to be expecting, he's going to pay

01:29:15.860 for it.

01:29:16.340 Well, if he says that, then yes.

01:29:18.080 But if a guy, for example, let's say a guy worded it, worded it like this.

01:29:22.260 Would you like to grab a drink or would you like to grab food?

01:29:25.440 I wouldn't expect him to be paying for my meal.

01:29:27.380 Okay, guys, that's how you should be asking.

01:29:29.080 That's how I ask.

01:29:30.340 I'm not like, can I please take you to dinner?

01:29:33.280 No, it's like, do you want to grab food?

01:29:35.820 Yeah.

01:29:36.180 So I think phrasing can be important there.

01:29:37.880 But yeah, I would definitely agree with that as well.

01:29:42.680 So whoever I should pay or?

01:29:44.660 No, it's, oh, yeah.

01:29:45.680 So I guess the way.

01:29:47.260 Depends on how he phrases it.

01:29:48.440 Depends on how you phrase it.

01:29:49.500 I can't, I can't say the other word.

01:29:50.520 Cause like in some cases men are more dominant too, where they're just like, I'm going to

01:29:54.080 pay.

01:29:54.280 Give me the check.

01:29:54.820 And it'll just like grab it like right away.

01:29:56.360 Um, but in other cases, like if it was asked that way, I would totally be willing to go

01:30:01.020 50, 50.

01:30:01.840 Okay.

01:30:02.220 What about, what do you think?

01:30:04.320 Um, I don't know.

01:30:06.080 I don't really go on a lot of dates with checks.

01:30:08.920 I usually like to picnic.

01:30:10.280 Well, you're, you're in college.

01:30:11.400 So it's, I feel like it's a bit more, Hey, let's hang out.

01:30:14.100 Let's go to a party kind of thing.

01:30:15.740 Um, I'd be fine with paying if they offer to pay and they want to, that's cool.

01:30:20.120 But I would just default split.

01:30:22.860 Okay.

01:30:24.080 For me, it's mostly like who asks who, because the majority of the time, if he asked me, then

01:30:30.360 he does end up paying.

01:30:31.280 But if I asked them, then like, I do offer to pay and they're like, okay, yeah, cool.

01:30:34.320 Cause like I did ask them to go out, but if they do ask me in like the way you asked,

01:30:39.100 like, Oh, do you want to go grab a drink?

01:30:40.680 Most of the time when that has happened, they pay anyways.

01:30:43.040 Like I've, yeah, guys will still pay in that circumstance too.

01:30:46.940 And like, I don't know, like the only time where I was paying most of the time was because

01:30:51.440 I knew that like, he's, um, the guy I was dating before he was going to be a lawyer and

01:30:57.880 like, he didn't have a job.

01:30:59.120 Like he was literally working on Fridays for two hours and like, I'm working every single

01:31:02.780 day, 10 hour shifts.

01:31:03.620 So like I have the money to pay.

01:31:05.120 So I'm like, Oh, you want to go to dinner?

01:31:06.680 Okay.

01:31:06.920 Like I can take you out to like, we both go get like a $60 plate and like I can pay, you know,

01:31:12.620 like, I don't know.

01:31:14.180 I feel like that's fair.

01:31:15.120 Yeah.

01:31:16.840 How I like to do it is just always like offer to be like, Oh, like how much, like should

01:31:25.260 I have a year or whatever?

01:31:26.180 And they'll pretty much always, pretty much always be like, no, like you're not paying

01:31:29.500 me anything.

01:31:30.060 And then I just like insist on paying like a cash tip or something so I can show how much

01:31:34.160 I appreciate.

01:31:35.580 If they pay for it, I will be like, do you want me to pay tip?

01:31:37.740 Yeah.

01:31:39.120 Yeah.

01:31:39.680 So I can show, you know, that I really appreciate that they took care.

01:31:42.300 But do you think whoever asks should pay?

01:31:50.860 Come on.

01:31:51.440 Don't.

01:31:51.780 No, not like all of it.

01:31:53.980 I don't think, I honestly don't think there's any instance where I would pay for a guy's meal.

01:32:00.320 Even if I was the one who asked him.

01:32:01.940 But okay, let's say the guy, the guy asks you out, but there's no, no, what if the guy

01:32:08.160 asks you out, should he pay for, um, for the drinks, for the food?

01:32:13.420 I don't think he has to like, I'm there.

01:32:14.980 I'm enjoying my time.

01:32:15.560 I'm not going to make him like pay for both of it.

01:32:17.880 It's just an incredibly great, good, like green flag.

01:32:20.540 If he's like, no, you're not paying anything like that shows.

01:32:22.400 He really appreciates me.

01:32:23.640 He understands my value.

01:32:25.180 He's generous.

01:32:26.740 Okay.

01:32:27.620 It's just like a major green flag.

01:32:29.980 Okay.

01:32:30.340 It's not like a red flag.

01:32:32.720 If he expects me to pay for his meal, you can, by the way, if you disagree with me, you can

01:32:36.680 say it's a lot, a lot of women disagree with me on this.

01:32:41.200 Disagree with what?

01:32:42.120 That a guy should always say?

01:32:43.180 That, that even in the instance where the guy suggests going out or suggests, Hey, let's

01:32:47.660 grab food.

01:32:48.380 The guy is asking for the date.

01:32:50.080 I mean, we'll get into that in a sec, but suggesting that it should still be split.

01:32:57.580 Oh, well, like I said, even.

01:33:00.340 No matter who asks out, I'll always like offer to split, but guys almost always are

01:33:06.680 like, no, don't pay.

01:33:07.960 You're going to.

01:33:08.340 Okay.

01:33:08.460 But you're going to feel a certain type of way.

01:33:09.960 I feel like you, you'll feel a certain type of way if the guy says, okay, let's split.

01:33:14.440 Well, I mean, it's a little, it's a little bummy.

01:33:17.660 Maybe.

01:33:18.100 I don't know.

01:33:18.700 Okay.

01:33:19.300 There we go.

01:33:19.980 Well, it's more just like, you know, there's a lot of guys who would.

01:33:26.160 Would what?

01:33:27.040 For my food.

01:33:27.600 Yeah.

01:33:27.620 That's a really good point.

01:33:29.200 I don't know.

01:33:29.500 It goes on a scale at that point then.

01:33:30.800 I mean, you know, I'm looking for a specific type of guy who's like very generous provider.

01:33:34.840 So it's more like, it's more, yeah, maybe it does.

01:33:37.640 I'm not hating on your view.

01:33:38.900 No, I know you're not hating on me, but yeah.

01:33:40.660 I know you're more traditional.

01:33:42.100 So.

01:33:42.380 Yeah.

01:33:42.580 Well, I'm just sort of, this honestly hasn't come up.

01:33:44.700 It just really hasn't really been the case where I'm like, I'll split.

01:33:47.920 I'm not going to be like an ungrateful little child and like throw a hissy fit about it,

01:33:51.520 but it'll be noted.

01:33:53.920 I don't know, but yeah, it'll be noted.

01:33:56.880 It'll be noted.

01:33:57.480 If he isn't in the, but yeah, the person I'll end up dating probably will be the guy who like

01:34:03.880 will gladly and like easily like pay for my food.

01:34:07.620 Interesting.

01:34:08.700 I mean, that makes sense.

01:34:09.540 Probably.

01:34:10.340 Look, so, okay.

01:34:10.820 As far as the, whoever asks should pay thing, look more often than not, men are asking women 0.93

01:34:17.220 out.

01:34:17.540 Women are not asking men out, generally speaking.

01:34:19.960 So de facto, if whoever asks should pay is your answer, your answer might as well be

01:34:26.420 men should pay on the first date because women really aren't asking guys out like that for 1.00

01:34:31.940 the first date.

01:34:32.700 Well, I think it's also the way, I mean, still I would, like I said, default to splitting,

01:34:37.020 but I think it's a way of how you say it.

01:34:39.380 If someone's like, please let me take you out.

01:34:42.220 Like, let me take you out on a date versus do you want to go out?

01:34:46.460 Yeah.

01:34:46.880 That's very different.

01:34:47.780 That's saying I'm going to take you.

01:34:49.500 So you're going to come with me and we're going to do this.

01:34:51.820 You know what I mean?

01:34:52.320 So I hope to God you're going to pay for me.

01:34:54.180 I mean, I'll still pay, like I don't care, but I think it's also about how you word it.

01:34:57.420 Actually, you do raise a very good point.

01:34:59.380 So if as the guy you worded in such a way where there could be an implication that you're

01:35:06.360 taking her out, like you're treating her, then yes, you should, obviously you should pay.

01:35:12.300 If, if, if how you worded it, then you should pay.

01:35:15.800 But if you're, if it's more just like, if you're a guy and you're like casually, if it's more like, Hey, do you want to grab a drink sometime?

01:35:24.800 You want to grab food?

01:35:26.260 If you're framing it like that, then I don't necessarily think that there should necessarily in that situation be an expectation that the guy should pay.

01:35:36.200 Well, you still can, but those instances, like where I've had people ask me like, Oh, you want to go grab a drink?

01:35:41.360 Then like, I'll either buy our first set of drinks or they'll buy the first set of drinks and then we'll just like go back and forth.

01:35:47.620 Like I buy one, they buy one and like we pay for each other, but it's still back and forth.

01:35:52.120 The only caveat I have though, dinner is one thing, you know, like that's food.

01:35:56.400 But when it comes to alcohol, I will never pay for my own alcohol, but I also just don't like to drink.

01:36:02.700 So if a guy's offering to take me up to drinks, he probably knows I don't really like to drink.

01:36:06.020 Like there's always like, he probably, he will probably maybe benefit, you know, if I'm like intoxicated.

01:36:12.500 I'm like, if you want me to drink, like you can go for it.

01:36:15.760 But I don't like drinking.

01:36:16.620 So I will, I, if I go to a bar, like for some reason, like I'm not bringing my wallet with me, but that's just because I can have like a great time in a bar, like drinking water, but I'm not going to pay.

01:36:26.120 That's the only time where I will like never pay for it.

01:36:29.700 I guess that's the difference because like, I know I can drink and I know I like to drink.

01:36:33.220 So I know that like, they can't be buying all my drinks.

01:36:37.760 Yeah, we're going to get a couple rounds in, like you know how much you're going to drink.

01:36:41.580 Really, really quick, just to wrap up on this question here.

01:36:44.720 Have you ever asked a guy out?

01:36:47.640 You know, I was actually going to bring this up.

01:36:49.280 You might be surprised to know.

01:36:50.280 I actually just asked someone out.

01:36:53.640 Okay.

01:36:54.160 Yes.

01:36:54.480 Like, like I think yesterday.

01:36:56.840 Yeah.

01:36:57.360 I was just like, do you want to go on a date this weekend?

01:36:59.600 Is that what you said?

01:37:00.600 I did.

01:37:00.860 That's exactly what I said.

01:37:01.840 Where are you taking him?

01:37:03.340 I'm not taking him.

01:37:05.180 No, but it's not, it's not like, I'm not the type to like offer.

01:37:08.540 But are you paying?

01:37:09.420 I'm not going to take him.

01:37:10.560 I was just going to be like, we should go ice skating or something.

01:37:12.700 Is this a first date?

01:37:14.760 It is a first date.

01:37:16.000 Yeah.

01:37:16.580 So you said, I already know.

01:37:17.800 What did you say?

01:37:18.280 He really likes me.

01:37:19.180 So he like made the first pursuit for sure.

01:37:21.900 It's more like, oh, I know this guy likes me.

01:37:23.840 I think he's nice.

01:37:25.580 Obviously he's going to say yes.

01:37:26.660 Like if I didn't, if I didn't think a guy would say yes, I might not be asking out guys

01:37:31.280 on dates, but if I know they're going to say yes, I'll be like, would you like to do something

01:37:34.140 follow me this week?

01:37:34.700 I know it is different.

01:37:35.440 That's different.

01:37:35.620 It's not really, it's not like, yeah.

01:37:37.100 Yeah.

01:37:37.260 It's not like shooting your shot where you're not sure.

01:37:40.060 Yeah.

01:37:40.480 Yeah.

01:37:40.720 Okay.

01:37:41.160 It's more like, yeah.

01:37:43.100 Okay.

01:37:44.200 Have you ever asked a guy out on a date?

01:37:46.200 Yes.

01:37:46.740 I actually, well, it doesn't really count, I guess now.

01:37:49.100 First date.

01:37:49.840 First date.

01:37:50.220 First date.

01:37:51.520 Yes.

01:37:52.120 Twice.

01:37:53.380 Scoot the microphone that way. 0.90

01:37:55.580 Yeah.

01:37:56.200 Keep going.

01:37:56.620 Keep going.

01:37:57.020 Twice.

01:37:57.600 Keep going.

01:37:58.200 There you go.

01:37:58.640 Good, good, good.

01:38:00.220 Okay.

01:38:00.900 Twice.

01:38:01.500 Twice.

01:38:01.680 Did you pay?

01:38:03.480 Or split?

01:38:04.380 What did you do?

01:38:05.000 I think we split.

01:38:06.220 Ah, okay.

01:38:08.480 Yo, Flan Life, thank you for becoming a member.

01:38:10.260 Much appreciated.

01:38:10.960 And by the way, guys, oh wait, I don't know if you're able to do it, but you can opt in

01:38:18.760 to receiving gifted memberships.

01:38:20.480 You might be able to do with that.

01:38:22.760 Go ahead.

01:38:23.760 Have you ever asked a guy out on a date?

01:38:25.740 It's usually me.

01:38:27.260 Yeah.

01:38:27.760 I always make the first move.

01:38:29.620 I can see that.

01:38:30.740 If I see someone and I like, even at a party or something, if you just want to initiate

01:38:33.940 something, like I'm not going to like sit around and look pretty and wait for someone

01:38:37.060 to hit on me. 0.99

01:38:37.600 Like if I think you're cute, I'm going to shoot my shot. 1.00

01:38:39.220 And if you say no, that's great. 0.99

01:38:41.080 Out of the way.

01:38:42.100 Cool.

01:38:42.740 Rejection done.

01:38:43.580 I have taken guys.

01:38:45.180 All right.

01:38:45.400 Not taken. 0.99

01:38:46.580 I can't fucking drive. 0.99

01:38:47.860 So they'll pick me up, but I'll choose the place. 0.98

01:38:51.680 I've definitely taken guys or asked them out.

01:38:55.720 I have paid a couple times just being like, let me just do this, whatever.

01:39:00.300 And they've definitely paid for me and we've definitely split.

01:39:03.860 Yeah.

01:39:05.220 Okay.

01:39:05.720 What about you?

01:39:06.180 I've never asked a guy out, but I have approached a guy.

01:39:09.140 So if I saw someone really cute, I'm not going to like, you know, pass up on that.

01:39:12.760 I'm going to say, what's up?

01:39:13.940 You approached a guy?

01:39:15.240 Yeah.

01:39:15.720 I'll say hi.

01:39:16.400 Multiple times you've done that or was it just once?

01:39:18.920 Just once.

01:39:19.500 Once or two.

01:39:20.080 I would say like maybe three times.

01:39:21.880 Here.

01:39:22.080 What did you say? 0.91

01:39:23.360 Shoot.

01:39:23.800 I don't know. 0.99

01:39:24.320 Pretend I'm the guy that you were hitting on.

01:39:27.200 Oh my gosh.

01:39:28.480 I don't know.

01:39:28.640 What did you say?

01:39:30.160 Hey, Alexis. 1.00

01:39:31.100 I think you're really cute.

01:39:32.380 And then.

01:39:32.700 Where was it?

01:39:33.600 Was it at a bar?

01:39:34.600 Oh, at a bar.

01:39:35.000 You know, so it's kind of easy.

01:39:36.020 Like Trader Joe's?

01:39:37.160 Is that a bar?

01:39:38.940 Trader Joe's is such a great place to get people.

01:39:41.960 I don't know.

01:39:42.240 So it's very flirty energy.

01:39:43.520 It's very flirty energy.

01:39:44.580 But no, it's always been like a party type environment.

01:39:49.320 Yeah.

01:39:49.580 So it's kind of more social, easy to like approach someone like that.

01:39:52.700 Sure.

01:39:52.820 But never in like a very like sit down setting.

01:39:54.900 No.

01:39:55.380 Okay.

01:39:56.040 And yeah, I've asked out guys for sure.

01:39:58.240 I think guys tend to ask me out more, but I have asked guys out and I do pay for their

01:40:03.260 dinner.

01:40:03.700 Okay.

01:40:03.720 All right.

01:40:04.000 There you go.

01:40:05.160 Good times.

01:40:05.900 Good times.

01:40:07.000 All right.

01:40:08.760 Where?

01:40:10.800 Hold on.

01:40:11.440 We got this.

01:40:12.020 I need to kind of put a, oh wait, this one.

01:40:15.420 My bad.

01:40:15.900 We're going to get to the super chats guys.

01:40:17.220 Sorry.

01:40:17.440 We got, okay.

01:40:18.560 So shouldn't you act like a traditional man just to wrap up on the super chat? 0.88

01:40:23.220 Well, I'm just going to wrap it up here.

01:40:26.000 So look, here's the thing, right?

01:40:29.020 I'm not going to adhere to my traditional gender roles with a woman who's not traditional 1.00

01:40:34.880 and no offense, newsflash.

01:40:37.840 Most women, especially in California, especially in Santa Barbara are not traditional women.

01:40:42.660 So what's traditional?

01:40:44.160 Yeah.

01:40:44.720 Like, uh, like, okay.

01:40:46.460 So, I mean, one would be feminine. 0.99

01:40:50.840 So someone who's not masculine, not a hoe, low body count. 1.00

01:40:56.340 Probably doesn't want to be like the breadwinner.

01:40:59.840 Yeah.

01:41:00.020 Like the stay at home mom. 0.95

01:41:01.640 She does like the PTA meetings, like, it's not even, I mean, it's, it's not even like

01:41:08.500 so much of that.

01:41:09.800 Like, I think you can be, still be very feminine and want like, well, some guys might disagree

01:41:15.880 with me.

01:41:16.280 You can still be super feminine, but also do like 50, 50, have a job, but you know, all 1.00

01:41:22.120 that shit. 0.99

01:41:22.720 But what was my point? 1.00

01:41:26.620 Oh, right.

01:41:27.160 Most women are not traditional women. 0.93

01:41:30.900 So I'm not going to adhere to my traditional gender role of being the provider off rip and 0.96

01:41:36.140 paying for your stuff.

01:41:37.860 That's me.

01:41:38.920 Okay.

01:41:39.280 A man paying on the first date is him adhering to his traditional gender role. 0.97

01:41:43.760 You, and here's the big thing that I often think of a lot of people in 2022, and this

01:41:49.080 actually applies to both men and women.

01:41:51.360 When you're on a first date with someone gone are the days of people only talking to one person

01:41:56.540 at a time, I don't want to pay for a girl. 0.99

01:42:00.380 I don't want to be a provider for a girl who just fucked a guy the night before. 0.99

01:42:04.440 There's no way I can know, but I have to. 0.93

01:42:06.860 Do you know that?

01:42:07.580 You said that you would pay for the date though, if she was a traditional woman, right? 1.00

01:42:10.920 What if she acted on traditional?

01:42:11.680 But you just also said, so you don't know this woman, it's the first date, correct?

01:42:15.100 Yes.

01:42:15.680 But you just said on a first date, what you do is you go to the waiter and you say already

01:42:20.160 that you're splitting a check.

01:42:21.040 So what do you do?

01:42:21.520 Just run back and be like, no, she's all right.

01:42:23.320 Like, I mean, look, there, I, I sort of outlined a few different ways of how you go about it.

01:42:31.940 You can either, I mean, the big one is you arrive early, you go to the bar, you get your

01:42:37.180 drink, you go sit at the table.

01:42:38.920 I mean, I'm going to sort of have a bit of a sense.

01:42:41.620 I've felt her out a little, felt her out a little bit before meeting in person.

01:42:47.240 I'm always going to have, like if I meet her on a dating app, for example, I'm always going

01:42:50.180 to have a phone call with someone before I meet them in person, because I want to like

01:42:55.380 get a feel for it.

01:42:56.900 And I also want to give her an opportunity to opt out.

01:42:59.800 Maybe she doesn't like the sound of my voice.

01:43:01.300 Maybe she, for whatever reason, like she doesn't do that.

01:43:04.080 That would suck if you're on a podcast.

01:43:05.460 Well, one, what's that? 0.96

01:43:07.180 That would suck if you're on a podcast and she doesn't like your voice. 0.99

01:43:11.100 I suppose, I don't know.

01:43:12.540 But, but I mean, it could be, uh, yeah, I'll always do a phone call.

01:43:17.900 One, it kind of eliminates the chance of it being some sort of catfish thing.

01:43:22.260 You can detect if there's any, like, I've, I've had phone conversations with girls that 1.00

01:43:26.900 I was otherwise planning to have dates with.

01:43:28.940 And then I just wasn't feeling it.

01:43:30.960 And I was like, I canceled the date.

01:43:34.580 No, it was just like, well, just the conversation.

01:43:38.400 You can tell, like, it was mostly, they were like soup. 0.99

01:43:41.440 I could tell they were fucking emotional vampires, like just negative. 0.97

01:43:44.840 I don't know if you've ever like encountered people. 0.99

01:43:46.680 They're just like, you can sometimes just hear in the tonality of their voice. 0.99

01:43:50.020 You just feel like shit too. 1.00

01:43:50.900 Yeah. 0.99

01:43:51.140 And they're just like, really like, I'm like, yo, you're, and Hey, some people are going 0.99

01:43:54.840 through some shit. 0.99

01:43:55.500 That's fine. 0.99

01:43:56.120 But like, I'm like, no, I'm evacuate.

01:44:00.060 I'm out.

01:44:00.740 Like, I'm not going to go on a date. 0.98

01:44:02.720 I'm not, why I wouldn't say that, but I'm like, I'm like, I'm fucking out. 0.90

01:44:06.820 Um, and no, but I'll have a pleasant conversation. 0.84

01:44:10.580 Of course, I'll be respectful, but I'll just be like, Hey, you know, I won't pursue setting

01:44:16.360 up an actual date with her.

01:44:17.820 Um, but yeah, always a phone call.

01:44:19.680 And like I said, it gives them an opportunity to opt out because if they can suss out from

01:44:23.840 the phone call that they're not feeling it great.

01:44:26.720 Saves me time saves, saves her time, saves me time.

01:44:30.240 So guys with the dating apps do, do quick little 15, 20 minute phone call.

01:44:34.440 I've never had a guy do that, like call me before.

01:44:37.520 Like if we're going to meet up or like, I think it's good.

01:44:40.980 I always just text and then like we meet up.

01:44:43.620 It's, it's like, I mean, one also it's like, it, it takes a little of the pressure off the

01:44:48.360 date too.

01:44:48.920 Like you've had like a conversation cause like people can be real clever over text message,

01:44:54.140 but then like, you don't know how they're, the vibe is going to be.

01:44:58.440 And the vibe could be a bit different in person, but having that phone conversation, you'll

01:45:02.640 feel it out a little bit and you can either say, Oh, this is going to be great.

01:45:05.860 Or I want to feel it out a bit more or just, Hey, I want to opt out.

01:45:09.060 Boom.

01:45:09.420 Done.

01:45:09.660 So I always recommend 15, 20 minute phone call, get acquainted and maybe, maybe you guys disagree

01:45:15.480 on some things you can, and it saves you from having to go out to, you know, honestly

01:45:22.780 do it.

01:45:23.140 Be like, Hey, you down, you down to hop on a phone call.

01:45:25.580 Yeah.

01:45:26.020 I always appreciated the guys that would ask to go on a zoom call or a FaceTime and

01:45:32.940 like seeing them, it would be a lot like better than having to like, you know, just randomly

01:45:37.260 meet them.

01:45:38.060 And that's awkward too.

01:45:39.080 If you're just not hit, it's just not working when you see them like catfish.

01:45:42.660 And I feel like it breaks the ice a little bit.

01:45:44.660 Cause now you're like, know what each other looks like.

01:45:46.380 You understand how you conversate a little bit.

01:45:48.440 It kind of like you catch a vibe.

01:45:50.420 And then also if you don't catch a vibe, then you're able to know before you guys kind

01:45:53.820 of waste your time and go out on a date.

01:45:55.580 That's not really worth it.

01:45:57.660 But yeah.

01:45:58.000 So just to wrap up the whole thing, if she's not traditional translation, she's sleeping

01:46:05.400 with other men.

01:46:08.060 What?

01:46:08.640 I don't want to pay for someone who's sleeping with someone else. 0.59

01:46:13.720 And also the, the other reason why I think men should be more hesitant to pay is foodie

01:46:20.800 calls, not all women, but there are some women that will go on a date just for a free 1.00

01:46:26.160 dinner.

01:46:26.680 You're laughing because have you done it?

01:46:33.520 Okay.

01:46:33.980 She's done or she knows someone who's done it.

01:46:36.220 Look, maneuver how you're going to maneuver, but us men, we're catching up.

01:46:41.440 We're figuring out that, Hey, sometimes you're not necessarily going on a date with us and

01:46:47.120 it might not lead anywhere.

01:46:49.580 I mean, you might just want an experience.

01:46:53.000 You might just want free food.

01:46:55.080 Also people have so many more options.

01:46:56.880 So the likelihood that any one given date is going to proceed is going to go the distance.

01:47:02.200 Let's say is so greatly diminished.

01:47:04.300 So yes, men do have to go on much more dates and women too, to find that person.

01:47:09.920 And then, you know, even 10, 20 years ago, the likelihood of any one given date actually

01:47:15.920 like maybe proceeding is that was much higher.

01:47:18.800 I mean, and if you go back into, you know, 1950s, you might go on one, two, three dates

01:47:25.200 and then you're married.

01:47:26.400 Yeah.

01:47:26.980 People go on three dates and people go on three dates in a week, a month in today.

01:47:35.180 So, uh, but the big thing is, yeah, if you're sleeping with someone else, I have to like,

01:47:41.160 it's unfortunate, but like, yes, if I'm going on the first date with a girl, I'm going to 0.81

01:47:44.700 assume that you're fucking two other dudes and I'm going to treat the situation. 0.99

01:47:48.300 I'm going to assume the man taking me out. 0.99

01:47:50.060 I'm going to assume they're doing the same.

01:47:51.520 I'm actually going to assume maybe it's around five.

01:47:54.140 Yeah.

01:47:54.760 No.

01:47:55.120 I mean, this is Santa Barbara.

01:47:57.360 Forget where we are.

01:47:58.480 Women, women can assume the same thing. 1.00

01:48:00.500 Um, but I'm, I'm going to assume that I'm going to assume, Hey, you're sleeping with

01:48:04.920 other people. 0.99

01:48:05.580 So I'm not going to adhere to my traditional gender roles with someone who fucked a guy 1.00

01:48:11.680 yesterday. 0.99

01:48:12.220 Like I honestly, I would rather even not go on a date with you, but there's it.

01:48:16.820 I can't necessarily know.

01:48:18.540 I mean, I'm going to try to suss out if I'm, if they're like that or not, there, there

01:48:24.160 are some indicators to see if like, what are they?

01:48:27.020 Oh, I mean, there, there's a bunch, but I mean, name one to see it.

01:48:32.000 Well, um, is she a big partier?

01:48:33.960 If she parties a lot, if she drinks a lot, there's greater likelihood that she's probably

01:48:37.640 engaging in casual sex, but don't get me wrong. 0.99

01:48:41.020 Some of these shy chicks, they be fucking, you never know. 1.00

01:48:46.760 You really never know boys. 0.99

01:48:48.260 Anyone can be a hoe, but like, and here's all the, also the big thing. 1.00

01:48:52.440 And I, I've given this anecdote, anecdote, anecdote before, um, that's a, it's a big 0.98

01:48:58.160 fucking L as a guy. 0.97

01:48:59.460 If you pay for a girl's dinner, don't do dinner dates guys. 0.99

01:49:03.400 But if you do, a lot of guys do, if you pay for her dinner and then, Oh, you have a really

01:49:08.460 nice day, really good conversation. 0.99

01:49:10.240 She gives you the ass out hug, you know, the ass out hug gives you a little kiss on the 1.00

01:49:14.840 cheek, whatever you part ways. 1.00

01:49:16.720 She goes over to the dude's house that she's fucking, who never has paid for her. 0.99

01:49:21.240 She, by the way, she took a doggy bag. 0.99

01:49:23.580 Are you speaking from experience?

01:49:25.060 Because I have no idea.

01:49:27.540 Hold on.

01:49:28.140 I don't think I would, would any of us do that?

01:49:31.400 I mean. 1.00

01:49:31.860 Bro, girls do this shit. 1.00

01:49:32.880 Okay. 1.00

01:49:33.200 You're going to get a to go bag with the food that he paid for.

01:49:36.760 Take it to the other guy's house. 0.99

01:49:37.600 You're going to take it to the guy's house who you're fucking. 0.99

01:49:40.060 Give him the leftovers. 0.99

01:49:41.360 He's going to eat the food. 1.00

01:49:42.100 Then he's going to fuck the girl. 1.00

01:49:43.180 I'd never feed a man for free, even if I didn't pay for it. 1.00

01:49:46.640 If I'm taking a doggy bag, it's for me and me only.

01:49:50.000 Yeah, exactly.

01:49:51.000 Why would I give that to another dude?

01:49:52.000 Okay, fine.

01:49:52.940 It's for you only.

01:49:54.280 You, you eat it. 1.00

01:49:56.100 You eat it at the guy's house and then you fuck him. 1.00

01:49:59.400 Fine. 1.00

01:49:59.660 He didn't get the guy that you're fucking. 0.99

01:50:01.180 That's just, no. 0.99

01:50:02.400 Dirty.

01:50:03.280 Honestly. 0.97

01:50:03.920 People be, I mean.

01:50:05.720 People, but I think you're talking like this is a generalization.

01:50:08.320 It is a generalization.

01:50:09.080 I'm very much stressing this topic as then you think that this happens more often than

01:50:12.800 not.

01:50:13.680 Honestly, I'm sure.

01:50:14.320 I don't think that it does happen.

01:50:15.720 I think it happens.

01:50:16.940 I think it definitely does.

01:50:18.300 Why wouldn't it?

01:50:18.800 But I think that just simply what I'm getting right now is you think that this happens more

01:50:25.280 than it not happening.

01:50:27.080 No, I think it's, I certainly think it's not, how, what is it?

01:50:32.780 It doesn't happen more often than it doesn't happen.

01:50:37.640 Yeah.

01:50:37.920 But I'm going to avoid the situation entirely by just not paying for a girl on the first 0.99

01:50:44.980 date.

01:50:46.600 Yeah.

01:50:47.260 In this day and age, I think Brian's onto something.

01:50:50.660 I'm letting his male audience not do like food deeds.

01:50:54.140 But unless of course it's like a great girl who might be like more traditional and really

01:50:59.880 appreciate something like that, then you should because you're risking like losing a girl you

01:51:05.420 might really like by being like, I would never take you out on like a dinner date.

01:51:09.400 Like that could be like, there's a risk there obviously, but I mean, you know, I would trust

01:51:14.000 your judgment.

01:51:14.640 I think guys are good at figuring out which girls are like, I lose girls by not being 0.99

01:51:21.020 willing to pay for the date.

01:51:23.360 I don't think it's the, you not wanting to pay for it. 1.00

01:51:26.620 I think it's the fact that you think you're a whore. 1.00

01:51:30.480 Why would I pay for you? 1.00

01:51:31.400 I'm fine with you not paying for me. 0.98

01:51:32.620 But if your rationale is that you believe I'm a whore and that I'm not this traditional 0.96

01:51:38.060 women or woman, that's the problem. 1.00

01:51:40.740 It's not that you're not paying for me.

01:51:42.520 I don't care about that.

01:51:44.040 Well, I've already articulated my other rationales for it.

01:51:46.740 That happens to be one of them.

01:51:48.820 And I don't think it's, uh, I think it's, it's actually a smart thing to go into a first

01:51:55.800 date with someone.

01:51:56.460 And instead of being all like, Oh my God, she's the best.

01:52:00.300 Oh my God.

01:52:01.100 I love her.

01:52:02.160 Or just like being really caught up in this one girl.

01:52:04.820 Like you got to realize, and I'm sure you guys, like you guys have girlfriends, maybe

01:52:09.300 your own experiences. 1.00

01:52:10.100 You guys know dudes that are fucking players and fuck boys, whatever it may be. 1.00

01:52:15.040 You know how it is out there in 2022, how people are dating, how people are fucking around. 1.00

01:52:20.360 Like people are seeing multiple people. 0.95

01:52:24.020 They have a roster.

01:52:24.940 They have a rotation, both men and women.

01:52:27.620 I think it's more women than men, but both men and women have, are seeing multiple people.

01:52:34.220 I also think it's more of an age thing.

01:52:36.300 See, if you continue to go on dates with people our age, then obviously that's going to happen.

01:52:40.660 Like at our age, we're in college.

01:52:42.540 We're here to experiment.

01:52:43.820 I have no idea what my type even is like, obviously I'm going to go on a lot of dates,

01:52:47.740 but if you you're 33, right?

01:52:49.360 If you continue to date people in your age range, that might change.

01:52:53.100 I'm predominantly dating people between I'd say the age of 25 and 34 and you'd be surprised.

01:53:00.780 You'd be very surprised.

01:53:01.960 So, okay.

01:53:02.200 I recently went, well recently, maybe this was six months ago.

01:53:05.160 I went on a date with this woman who, I think she worked in the hospital. 1.00

01:53:12.700 She, six figures, whatever.

01:53:14.840 32, 33 my age, right?

01:53:18.100 She told me on the date, and by the way, she's not like, she's 33, fairly average, like not a stunner,

01:53:27.100 like average looking, right?

01:53:31.540 Unremarkable, let's say.

01:53:33.360 She told me, she had just downloaded, I met her on Hinge.

01:53:37.660 She told me that she had just gone Hinge and she had been, I was her, she had just been on Hinge for three days.

01:53:46.820 I was her second date and she had three dates planned for the weekend.

01:53:50.380 33 year old woman, average, five dates in a week, like set up. 1.00

01:53:57.680 She already did two. 0.98

01:53:59.600 So, most, her male looks equivalent, like don't take this the wrong way, lady, if you're reading this.

01:54:07.240 Her male looks equivalent could not secure that level of immediate scheduling of dates. 0.76

01:54:14.220 Well, she's got to be doing something else.

01:54:15.660 Well, it's easier for women to date than it is for men.

01:54:20.000 I'm so sorry.

01:54:21.800 You should, yeah, apologize.

01:54:22.940 How dare you?

01:54:24.140 How dare you?

01:54:25.640 Look, the reality is it's very easy for women to secure dates with men. 0.73

01:54:31.300 It's very easy.

01:54:32.760 Because I feel like guys tend to ask girls out more.

01:54:35.780 And so then if guys are asking girls out more, then girls are going to go out on more dates.

01:54:39.940 Well, yeah, women are, especially on dating apps, I mean, you guys are inundated. 1.00

01:54:44.560 You guys are on dating apps.

01:54:45.900 Actually, we should do the dating app review.

01:54:48.400 Inundated with suitors on dating apps.

01:54:52.320 If you were so inclined, I think every single girl at this table could have a date every single night of the week.

01:54:59.640 You might not have time to do it, but you could do it.

01:55:04.040 Most men, the vast majority of men, the vast majority of men would not be able to have a date every single night of the week.

01:55:12.340 Maybe the top 10% of men, top 20% of men, maybe.

01:55:16.140 Most men cannot do that.

01:55:17.700 But the average woman could have a date every single night of the week. 1.00

01:55:21.340 The average man could not do that.

01:55:23.160 I kind of agree with that, to be honest.

01:55:25.340 Because I also think that just like, if you're a really pretty guy, then like you probably could.

01:55:32.340 But like if you are an average looking guy, you're probably not getting asked out as much.

01:55:35.960 Or whoever you are asking might not always be telling you yes.

01:55:40.380 I think it's just like because girls always tend to get the offer, they can choose whether or not they want to say yes or no.

01:55:46.080 Yep.

01:55:47.120 Yep.

01:55:48.580 Okay, let's do some more super chats.

01:55:50.320 We've been, I've been super caught up.

01:55:52.200 By the way, guys, get in your super chats here.

01:55:55.160 The super chats have been kind of directing the entire conversation.

01:55:57.960 But let's see, you got to have some top game to get away with the splitting move and not lose the girl.

01:56:04.380 Not one girl in the pod has had a positive reaction to it.

01:56:08.860 I think we all just had a pretty positive reaction.

01:56:11.460 I think some of them were open to it.

01:56:14.600 By the way, guys, keep in mind, if you're in Florida, don't do this.

01:56:17.800 If you're in Texas, probably don't do this.

01:56:19.680 Also, I'm willing to, like, a lot of the women in California are pretty reasonable, like 50-50 type girls, like more left-leaning. 1.00

01:56:32.060 So, like, a lot of them are fine with it.

01:56:35.500 Some aren't.

01:56:36.260 Even left-leaning liberal women. 0.83

01:56:38.040 Some women are still going to be like, nah. 1.00

01:56:42.360 Okay.

01:56:43.360 Thermal, thank you for the $10 soup chat.

01:56:45.520 Flan Life, thank you for becoming a member.

01:56:47.000 Appreciate it.

01:56:47.520 And then we have, let's see, when a trans woman says she's fine, does that mean she's had bottom surgery? 0.84

01:56:55.180 This isn't really related to dating, Flan Life.

01:56:59.140 Thank you for that.

01:56:59.720 Is this...

01:57:00.240 Are any of us trans?

01:57:02.500 Is this Leonardo DiCaprio?

01:57:04.280 I don't know what the commas think I am, though.

01:57:07.680 Well, thank you for the Canadian $10 soup chat. 1.00

01:57:10.920 Oh, that shit. 1.00

01:57:11.980 Does that mean she had... 1.00

01:57:13.540 I would assume yes.

01:57:15.700 I would assume yes.

01:57:18.080 Yeah, I think that's what that means.

01:57:19.560 Fully transitioned, I'd assume she's had... 0.99

01:57:21.560 Yeah.

01:57:22.120 Yeah.

01:57:22.880 Okay.

01:57:23.840 Moving forward.

01:57:24.480 Moving forward.

01:57:25.160 Moving forward.

01:57:25.920 Moving on.

01:57:26.880 Moving on.

01:57:28.060 Eric, what did I ask you to pull up?

01:57:30.000 Was it the Kim K thing?

01:57:31.560 Oh.

01:57:32.460 Didn't you say you like Kim K?

01:57:33.760 I love all the Kardashians.

01:57:35.640 Oh.

01:57:36.380 Yikes.

01:57:37.100 I love them.

01:57:38.320 All right, leave it there, Eric.

01:57:38.980 I'm obsessed with them.

01:57:39.900 I watch every single Wednesday at 9 p.m.

01:57:45.080 Wait.

01:57:45.480 I'm over Travis and Kourtney macking it and like tongue licking. 0.99

01:57:48.820 Get over it.

01:57:49.540 Why?

01:57:50.340 Why?

01:57:51.580 I need some more drama.

01:57:52.440 Send the asteroid.

01:57:53.400 Send the asteroid.

01:57:54.540 Okay.

01:57:54.900 I'm not the only one.

01:57:55.840 Okay, so Kim Kardashian will get $2,000 a month in child support from Ye as the couple 0.88

01:58:02.160 settle their divorce.

01:58:04.680 She also got the house next door that Kanye bought in the divorce, too.

01:58:09.520 By the way, I don't know if you guys...

01:58:10.680 Oh, hold on.

01:58:11.100 Let me turn that off.

01:58:11.640 I don't know if you guys know, but Kim Kardashian actually, her net worth is more than Kanye. 0.96

01:58:19.480 Yeah.

01:58:19.780 Oh, yeah.

01:58:20.160 She's like $1.7 billion. 0.99

01:58:21.780 Well, Kanye lost a lot of stuff.

01:58:22.740 Well, yeah, especially now.

01:58:24.680 Yeah.

01:58:24.900 Especially now.

01:58:25.440 Everything he has to say.

01:58:26.560 But it's interesting to me that even though that she, obviously, I'm assuming she has

01:58:32.180 a greater deal of custody of the children now that they're divorced, but she has $1.7

01:58:37.820 billion.

01:58:39.660 Does she need child support? 1.00

01:58:41.520 What do you guys think?

01:58:42.920 No, but I think...

01:58:44.320 It's not just about child support.

01:58:45.580 It's not about the money.

01:58:46.540 It's about what Kanye's done. 0.99

01:58:48.180 I think it's a good fuck you, and I think it's... 1.00

01:58:51.780 I would do the same shit. 1.00

01:58:53.180 After everything he's put that family through. 1.00

01:58:56.140 Yeah.

01:58:58.140 Well, you think...

01:58:59.000 Well, you think about it, too.

01:59:00.440 I mean, she's put that family through some stuff, too.

01:59:02.860 I know that you're probably a fan of hers, but I'm just saying.

01:59:05.560 I mean, she's no saying either.

01:59:06.640 Like, the videos and stuff?

01:59:07.920 I'm not going to be a huge fan of hers.

01:59:08.100 No, just like in general.

01:59:09.580 I mean, there's probably way more than that, but...

01:59:13.300 But I feel like with more with him...

01:59:14.880 The way you're saying that he loves Hitler is a little different. 0.99

01:59:16.980 No, the guy, I think, has a very serious mental health issue. 0.99

01:59:20.980 Yeah. 0.71

01:59:21.560 Interesting question.

01:59:22.920 Yeah.

01:59:23.880 So, a lot of Kanye's issues probably come from his bipolar disorder.

01:59:29.140 If it was the wife who had a mental illness, bipolar disorder, would she still have to be 1.00

01:59:35.040 the one paying $200,000 a month to her ex-president?

01:59:38.540 Would we treat that the same way, even though?

01:59:41.620 I don't think it's about the disorder.

01:59:43.120 I think it's about what he's done.

01:59:44.420 I have serious mental health issues as well, and you don't see me spewing about Hitler.

01:59:48.240 What do you got?

01:59:49.300 I don't think that's something that I would share with you.

01:59:52.100 You don't want to talk about it?

01:59:52.700 I mean, I don't personally like you.

01:59:53.240 You don't want to talk about it?

01:59:54.060 Oh, no.

01:59:55.780 Okay.

01:59:57.500 But I think it's not about the disorder.

01:59:59.400 It's about what you do. 1.00

02:00:00.300 This man is rich as fuck. 1.00

02:00:01.680 He has all the resources in the world to get his shit together and do this. 1.00

02:00:05.280 And if I can do it myself... 1.00

02:00:06.480 You think money can get rid of, like, a bipolar disorder?

02:00:09.240 No, I think he can give you a lot of resources that a lot of lower-income people cannot have.

02:00:14.780 But also, I also think on top of it is that I think a lot of Kim's problems have been in

02:00:19.780 the past, and, like, yeah, there are some, but it doesn't, like, level the same way that

02:00:24.680 Kanye's still doing it to this day.

02:00:27.100 He still, like, is pushing a lot of other stuff.

02:00:31.680 No, I believe that.

02:00:32.800 No.

02:00:33.240 But you know what?

02:00:33.940 It comes to a point, like, okay, so you see all these famous people committing suicide

02:00:37.060 and stuff.

02:00:37.600 That comes from mental health, and they have all the money in the world.

02:00:40.060 They never seek help.

02:00:41.200 You would think they have all the friends in the world, right?

02:00:43.300 So, I mean, clearly that doesn't bring you happiness and all the resources in the world.

02:00:47.800 I don't think that provides that.

02:00:49.160 But I think the greater issue is the fact that, you know, is this mass amount of money worth

02:00:55.120 this divorce?

02:00:56.700 It's not about, you know, I could cheat on my husband, and he could pay me out after

02:01:00.700 the divorce all he wants, and all my friends would back me up.

02:01:03.540 So, I mean, I guess, like, the issue of, like, why the relationship ended is not the principle.

02:01:08.760 It's about the kids and what is needed for them to conquer and, like, you know, have a

02:01:13.500 good living life.

02:01:14.640 And that's what this whole court system is supposed to provide. 0.99

02:01:18.000 They have the money.

02:01:18.940 Do I think that this girl needs that much more? 0.99

02:01:21.160 No, I don't fucking think that. 0.98

02:01:22.520 She's well-sufficient. 0.99

02:01:23.640 It's child support.

02:01:24.020 It's child support.

02:01:25.100 Yeah, and those children have so much.

02:01:26.480 It's not for her.

02:01:26.500 It's for the kids.

02:01:27.200 Exactly.

02:01:28.080 But, yeah.

02:01:28.680 No, you can't even spend it on yourself legally.

02:01:30.640 You would be sued for that.

02:01:32.280 You can't.

02:01:32.740 This is not going into her pocket.

02:01:34.140 It's not going to go to her.

02:01:34.840 I hear you.

02:01:34.880 I hear you.

02:01:35.580 I hear you.

02:01:36.020 But it's like, does his kids need $200,000 a month?

02:01:39.060 They have that.

02:01:39.720 Kids are expensive.

02:01:39.960 In a different wallet.

02:01:41.140 In a different saving account. 0.99

02:01:42.640 In a different, I don't give a shit. 0.99

02:01:44.360 They have it. 0.99

02:01:45.100 Okay?

02:01:45.280 Yeah, also, I'm not trying to take away from them.

02:01:46.940 If you haven't, if someone's going through a public mental health crisis, I don't know if

02:01:52.200 they're taking, like, and they've just lost all their money, I mean, does that seem fair

02:01:56.520 to take hundreds of thousands of dollars away from them, like, every month?

02:02:00.300 Like, their child will survive and be well-supported on less than that.

02:02:04.160 So, I think, like, why we're bringing it up here is, you know, like, it's just an interesting

02:02:07.740 gender thing, you know? 0.68

02:02:09.040 Because traditionally, in American courts, women get almost always, except in extremely 1.00

02:02:14.380 rare circumstances, women always get the majority of the child support to pay, custody, 1.00

02:02:19.920 and, yeah, in this case, the custody thing, it makes sense, you know, if you're going

02:02:24.400 through, you know, one of the parents has mental health problems, that makes sense,

02:02:27.420 but it almost seems like it's, like, $200,000, though.

02:02:31.020 I don't know if that's fair, especially for someone who's, like, going through healing.

02:02:33.820 In this circumstance, I feel like it doesn't make sense.

02:02:36.480 He's not healing, though.

02:02:36.920 He's not.

02:02:37.020 He's taking no steps to do that.

02:02:38.620 I don't care if, like, you can have a very severe...

02:02:40.220 Well, it'll certainly be harder now than it would have been before. 0.99

02:02:43.160 I don't think he really gives a shit. 0.99

02:02:44.620 I don't think he's really focused on his kids at all. 0.99

02:02:46.420 I don't even know actually why we're having this conversation about two famous people. 0.99

02:02:49.620 Like, who gives a shit? 0.96

02:02:52.460 I'm sorry. 0.98

02:02:53.240 Like, I don't know why I'm getting passionate.

02:02:54.500 I honestly have nothing to add.

02:02:55.720 Like, I just don't really think this topic is very relevant or something that needs to

02:03:00.520 be talked about for, like, an hour.

02:03:01.700 I genuinely don't see either the $200,000 either going to be in Kanye's pocket or it's

02:03:06.120 going to be in Kim's pocket.

02:03:07.040 Either way, the kid's going to get it.

02:03:08.740 I don't really, like, okay, Kim has it.

02:03:11.560 Okay, but it's also Kanye's fault for losing all of those, all that money.

02:03:15.900 But at the same time, Kanye wasn't upset about it.

02:03:18.320 He literally posted a video how he was like, I'm happy nobody's hurt because that's actually

02:03:23.240 what I wanted to happen.

02:03:24.960 So.

02:03:25.380 Yeah.

02:03:26.380 What did I miss?

02:03:28.180 A lot.

02:03:28.940 That's the next topic.

02:03:30.980 They didn't, they didn't like that topic.

02:03:32.740 What, what did you say?

02:03:34.080 Did you, did you, did you upset them?

02:03:36.040 I didn't necessarily upset them.

02:03:37.640 I guess the question upset them.

02:03:39.460 Oh.

02:03:39.940 Yeah.

02:03:40.480 I think it just, like, I mean, I'm gonna be honest.

02:03:43.760 If Kim kind of did the same exact thing in Kanye, I feel like it'd be fair the other

02:03:46.740 way around.

02:03:47.660 I feel like it would be.

02:03:48.940 Yeah.

02:03:49.340 If she did exactly what he did.

02:03:51.440 And, like, I feel like she has tried so hard to kind of, like, distance herself from that

02:03:55.320 sort of drama.

02:03:56.080 And, like, he, at least I don't know currently, but, like, in the past of what I've read,

02:04:00.560 like, he kind of continues to put that burden on her.

02:04:04.020 And drag her into it.

02:04:05.080 Yeah.

02:04:05.560 So, I feel like, I don't necessarily think she needs the money or the kids need the money

02:04:10.180 because she can definitely provide for them.

02:04:12.200 But, like, I guess it kind of makes sense.

02:04:14.540 Yes.

02:04:15.140 But if the roles were reversed, I think that would make sense if she was paying $200,000. 0.69

02:04:20.700 It might make sense, but I think, like, the point I'm trying to make is I do not think

02:04:25.460 in an American court system that would ever be the case.

02:04:28.020 Where, like, if the mother was the one who had a bipolar disorder and did the exact same

02:04:32.820 thing, she'd be paying $200,000. 0.99

02:04:35.440 No, I agree.

02:04:36.440 I don't think that would be the case either.

02:04:38.140 But, you know, the system's messed up.

02:04:40.240 We can't do anything about that.

02:04:41.580 It's probably going to be messed up for a very, very long time.

02:04:44.760 Well, we can do stuff about, like, our kids.

02:04:46.380 Yeah.

02:04:46.840 Not saying that we can't.

02:04:47.700 But it's not going to change overnight.

02:04:49.160 Yeah.

02:04:49.480 Exactly.

02:04:49.880 It's going to take a lot of time.

02:04:51.260 Yeah, sure.

02:04:51.680 But it's good to talk about it in the same way that, like, we wanted to talk, you know,

02:04:54.860 you wanted to talk earlier about the importance of having diversity in advertisements.

02:04:58.320 It's also important to have, like, you know.

02:05:00.600 Yeah.

02:05:01.320 Just legal gender. 1.00

02:05:05.940 Equality.

02:05:06.600 You know.

02:05:07.660 When it comes to child care, too.

02:05:10.180 And so this Kim K example is obviously just a spotlight, you know, big celebrity example

02:05:14.800 of something that doesn't get talked about that maybe should.

02:05:17.720 Kanye West in the chat.

02:05:21.820 Okay.

02:05:24.580 Oh, gosh.

02:05:26.140 Hold on.

02:05:26.740 We'll get to that.

02:05:30.120 That's probably all the money he had left, too. 1.00

02:05:31.700 Oh, shit. 1.00

02:05:32.340 Whoa. 1.00

02:05:32.940 Just $10.

02:05:33.800 No, not his shade as, you know.

02:05:35.420 Oh, because not the actual.

02:05:37.560 Yeah, as if it was Kanye.

02:05:38.720 Yeah, yeah.

02:05:39.200 It was just, yeah.

02:05:40.180 Broke Kanye joke.

02:05:41.120 Yeah.

02:05:41.940 Gotcha.

02:05:44.000 Would any of you, the Vitaly ZDTV asks,

02:05:47.200 that's his mugshot, by the way.

02:05:49.120 Would any of the girls date a felon?

02:05:50.980 What did you do?

02:05:51.960 I think I have.

02:05:52.920 You have.

02:05:53.800 I think so.

02:05:54.800 I don't think I have.

02:05:56.660 No.

02:05:57.400 No.

02:05:59.080 Turn the microphone.

02:06:00.060 Yeah, yeah.

02:06:00.460 Yeah, no, I have not.

02:06:01.720 Okay.

02:06:02.620 What about you?

02:06:03.380 I, without knowing it, went on a first date with someone who was, I think it was a felon.

02:06:11.260 I don't know.

02:06:11.620 I think it was a felon.

02:06:12.620 Like, he had an ankle monitor.

02:06:14.540 And I didn't realize.

02:06:15.580 Oh my, and.

02:06:18.340 That's hot.

02:06:20.660 Yeah.

02:06:21.240 Some Lindsay Lohan, but.

02:06:22.980 Such a green flag if someone shows up with an ankle monitor.

02:06:26.360 Yeah.

02:06:26.600 It's just the light screen.

02:06:28.040 My friends will literally never let me let it down.

02:06:31.180 I don't know if Oliver let myself let it down.

02:06:33.600 So, I should have done more background research there.

02:06:36.080 So, the ankle monitor was a no.

02:06:38.160 It wasn't an accessory.

02:06:40.040 No second date.

02:06:40.660 Not ideal.

02:06:41.300 No, no.

02:06:41.800 Not ideal.

02:06:42.340 What if he was like, but at least he didn't make me split the check.

02:06:45.240 Yeah.

02:06:45.500 Oh.

02:06:47.300 Not enough to outweigh the unfortunate red flag of an ankle monitor, but.

02:06:51.860 Did you find out what he did?

02:06:53.800 Yes.

02:06:54.380 What did he do?

02:06:55.440 Yeah.

02:06:55.740 He was, he explained it to me.

02:06:57.820 I hope this is the truth.

02:06:58.700 But he was explained, like, his friends got into a fight and he jumped in the fight and

02:07:04.140 was just, like, swinging at anyone who wasn't his friend.

02:07:07.220 The cops got involved and he accidentally swung at a cop.

02:07:10.660 Oh.

02:07:10.960 And so, because swinging at a cop, I'm pretty sure.

02:07:13.460 Yeah.

02:07:13.600 That'll do it.

02:07:14.780 That'll do it.

02:07:15.560 And so, then he had an ankle monitor.

02:07:17.400 So, unfortunately, I won't be seeing him again.

02:07:19.520 Aw.

02:07:20.140 We wish you well.

02:07:20.960 Yeah.

02:07:21.320 But, I, yeah, I, I wouldn't have known unless he brought it up, so. 0.99

02:07:27.040 Damn. 0.97

02:07:27.500 I'm glad he was honest, but, yeah, I should have probably done some background. 0.99

02:07:30.120 We do appreciate the honesty.

02:07:31.840 Yeah.

02:07:32.200 Yeah.

02:07:32.560 My bad.

02:07:33.120 Yikes.

02:07:33.420 And splitting the checks, though.

02:07:34.520 Would you, Brian, ever date a felon?

02:07:37.700 A woman? 0.80

02:07:38.520 A woman felon? 0.92

02:07:39.380 I would be scared.

02:07:40.200 I'm gonna be honest.

02:07:41.280 Like.

02:07:42.080 Uh, depends.

02:07:43.020 I guess it depends what for.

02:07:44.140 Probably not, though.

02:07:45.460 Yeah.

02:07:45.620 Probably not.

02:07:46.440 Depends, but probably not.

02:07:48.480 Okay.

02:07:48.840 Okay, we have Rain Jim 65.

02:07:51.700 Ladies, if you want a man with thick hands, look for the dude coming to fix stuff in your 1.00

02:07:55.040 house.

02:07:56.420 Thank you for the super chat, man.

02:07:57.600 Appreciate it.

02:07:58.600 Were we talking about thick hands?

02:08:00.240 I'm just kind of confused.

02:08:01.320 Oh, man.

02:08:01.460 I think so. 0.99

02:08:02.160 As long as their butt crack doesn't come out. 0.99

02:08:03.960 What the? 0.99

02:08:04.440 I think he.

02:08:05.160 I think thick hands, in his perspective, is like a strong dude.

02:08:08.880 Like a guy with thick hands is strong.

02:08:11.580 That's what, I think that's what he's implying.

02:08:13.280 No, I think it's like fingering.

02:08:14.820 Oh.

02:08:15.800 Oh.

02:08:16.820 I mean, that's like usually like.

02:08:18.840 Yeah.

02:08:19.160 Oh, poor Brian.

02:08:19.760 Look at Brian.

02:08:23.180 I think he's coming for you.

02:08:24.780 Well, we did a segment on last show because we, I had another guy on the show with me 0.98

02:08:31.000 and he's this jacked fucking massive bodybuilder. 0.98

02:08:34.100 Yeah. 0.99

02:08:34.700 Zach, yeah. 0.94

02:08:35.580 And he's got like these big fucking super strong, big man hands and I have like piano 0.98

02:08:41.680 fingers. 0.97

02:08:43.020 You know, piano fingers are nice too. 0.99

02:08:45.780 Words per minute fucking on fire, right? 0.98

02:08:48.380 But, but no. 0.98

02:08:50.240 So we did this kind of meme sus segment where we compared, we asked the girls to pick just

02:08:55.800 based off the hands.

02:08:57.300 Oh.

02:08:57.660 So I think that might be in response to that.

02:09:01.060 I see, I see.

02:09:01.860 All right.

02:09:02.040 We have Kanye West.

02:09:02.920 Thank you for the Canadian $10.

02:09:04.120 I know this.

02:09:04.520 I think this is a Leonardo DiCaprio.

02:09:06.080 Not Kanye. 0.99

02:09:06.760 Mental health problems. 0.94

02:09:08.020 More like a mental leap in awareness. 0.95

02:09:09.680 Scammers of the world.

02:09:10.520 You would know.

02:09:11.080 See Kyle.

02:09:11.760 Tell him I said, yo.

02:09:13.240 Hi, Kyle.

02:09:14.160 Who's Kyle?

02:09:15.000 Hey, Kyle.

02:09:15.620 How you doing?

02:09:16.700 Okay.

02:09:17.900 Thank you, Kanye.

02:09:19.680 Raingem65.

02:09:20.300 Thank you for the $10 soup chat, man.

02:09:21.660 Appreciate it.

02:09:22.240 Why didn't you ask a question?

02:09:23.440 I think maybe just supporting.

02:09:24.680 By the way, you can give some memberships too if you just want to support.

02:09:29.620 Think about it.

02:09:30.260 Can you pull up the Twitch?

02:09:31.820 Let's shout out the Twitch.

02:09:32.740 If there's anybody on Twitch.

02:09:33.900 Guys, if you have a Twitch Prime sub available, if you have a Twitch, is it Twitch Prime, Amazon

02:09:38.520 Prime sub, go over to Twitch. 0.93

02:09:41.660 Eric, can you?

02:09:43.380 Oh, did we?

02:09:44.140 Okay.

02:09:44.400 We got, yes.

02:09:45.400 Hell yeah.

02:09:45.820 One follower 13 minutes ago.

02:09:48.520 What is that?

02:09:49.200 Maui?

02:09:49.820 What is that?

02:09:50.580 Maui 66?

02:09:52.460 Maui, like from Moana?

02:09:54.240 That looks like Maui, but the U is uppercase, so it's throwing me off.

02:09:57.220 66.

02:09:58.000 Yo, thank you for the follow.

02:09:58.960 Guys, if you have an Amazon Prime sub, twitch.tv slash whatever.

02:10:05.220 Twitch.tv slash whatever.

02:10:07.620 Head on over.

02:10:08.220 It takes two minutes to get it set up.

02:10:09.480 If you have an Amazon Prime, right here.

02:10:12.600 Drop us a follow.

02:10:15.120 Drop us a Prime sub.

02:10:16.200 Anyways.

02:10:17.160 Do it.

02:10:17.860 All right.

02:10:18.200 We have, let's see here.

02:10:19.380 We got Shine.

02:10:22.400 Shane, M, $10.

02:10:25.720 You know damn well 2.4 mil isn't being spent on the kid per year. 0.66

02:10:28.760 That is theft. 0.94

02:10:29.540 Yep.

02:10:29.860 Pretty much.

02:10:30.460 I mean, she doesn't like, she's, why?

02:10:33.680 I don't know. 0.98

02:10:34.300 It's ridiculous. 0.98

02:10:34.400 I mean, maybe she puts it in like the kid's piggy bank. 0.99

02:10:37.220 Something.

02:10:38.040 She's got $1.7 billion. 0.85

02:10:40.180 Like.

02:10:40.600 I mean, like the outfit is Stormy, her kid.

02:10:43.560 Is that?

02:10:43.900 Oh, that's Kylie.

02:10:45.120 That's Kylie.

02:10:45.400 Who's her kid?

02:10:46.220 It's Palms, North.

02:10:47.180 North.

02:10:47.680 I swear North is like fashionista.

02:10:50.600 So like, just the stuff she wears, I'm sure is over like $1 million.

02:10:56.100 Like, I'm sure.

02:10:57.060 It doesn't matter what you think.

02:10:59.440 Also, I don't think.

02:11:00.340 I don't think.

02:11:00.460 I don't think.

02:11:00.560 I don't think.

02:11:01.100 Kanye literally just took a ride out to go shopping.

02:11:03.560 Okay.

02:11:04.000 I'm no, I'm no, um, Kardashian expert, but I don't think it's Palms.

02:11:10.340 I think it's like Psalms.

02:11:11.460 Like from like, oh, the Bible.

02:11:14.000 Interesting.

02:11:15.200 I like that.

02:11:15.600 I like that.

02:11:15.900 Thank you for that clarification.

02:11:18.720 Hold on.

02:11:19.640 I don't.

02:11:20.220 I'm not religious like that.

02:11:21.380 So I don't know. 1.00

02:11:22.620 Shit. 1.00

02:11:23.660 Insane. 1.00

02:11:25.320 I'm spiritual.

02:11:26.760 I did just come from church.

02:11:28.280 Like right before this.

02:11:29.180 So I was late.

02:11:29.940 That's why you're at church.

02:11:31.020 Church.

02:11:31.940 Were you at mass?

02:11:32.960 I was at daily mass.

02:11:34.580 Yes.

02:11:35.060 Ooh.

02:11:37.440 Okay.

02:11:38.620 Rain Jim, would you date a guy like me?

02:11:43.140 Be honest.

02:11:44.180 It's the fish photo.

02:11:45.400 It's the fish.

02:11:46.260 It's a no for me.

02:11:47.020 Hell yeah.

02:11:47.280 Thank you for the super chat.

02:11:48.060 $10.

02:11:48.880 Thank you for the super chat, but.

02:11:50.100 I would date you, Rain Jim.

02:11:52.260 Aw.

02:11:52.900 That's adorable.

02:11:54.240 I don't know anything about you, so I don't know how to know.

02:11:57.440 Rain Jim, you're going to have to tell us a little more about yourself, you know.

02:12:01.040 He has big hands.

02:12:01.820 We know.

02:12:02.960 Not with the fish.

02:12:05.840 Not with the fish.

02:12:06.760 Not with the fish.

02:12:07.740 I don't know.

02:12:08.020 That's a no.

02:12:08.520 Fish is podcast.

02:12:09.400 I don't think so.

02:12:10.920 That's so crazy.

02:12:11.900 I take it back.

02:12:13.300 But yeah, yeah.

02:12:14.160 Rain Jim, why don't you.

02:12:15.160 65.

02:12:16.840 Maybe there's some information in the name, like Rain Jim 65, that he was born in 65.

02:12:21.060 So he's 63.

02:12:24.220 Quick maths.

02:12:24.600 Three?

02:12:25.220 Quick maths.

02:12:25.820 Quick maths.

02:12:26.380 Just math.

02:12:27.160 Yeah.

02:12:27.540 Two plus two.

02:12:27.960 Uh, yeah, no.

02:12:31.240 It's a no for me.

02:12:32.340 Okay.

02:12:32.440 Uh, yeah.

02:12:33.760 Rain Jim, let us know some more details.

02:12:35.180 Daral, thank you for the nine British pounds, I believe.

02:12:38.760 Aw.

02:12:39.000 This one's for Tara.

02:12:41.500 Wow.

02:12:42.140 Tara. 1.00

02:12:42.560 Fuck. 1.00

02:12:43.160 You always do that. 1.00

02:12:44.260 Last time I had my, my, me and my friend were on here, her name's Aja, what were you calling

02:12:48.460 her?

02:12:48.840 Asia?

02:12:50.500 I think I was calling her Anakin Skywalker.

02:12:52.620 Okay.

02:12:53.180 Um, something like that.

02:12:55.000 Thank you.

02:12:55.380 I really appreciate that.

02:12:57.140 Yeah.

02:12:57.760 You have some fans.

02:12:58.940 I don't know how to pronounce it, but thank you.

02:13:00.580 You, you have some fans.

02:13:01.600 Do you know that?

02:13:03.360 You got fans.

02:13:03.880 What do you mean?

02:13:04.560 You got fans in the chat.

02:13:05.600 They, well, I saw some people defending me last time when the only fans girl was saying 0.83

02:13:12.860 I'd make $5.

02:13:13.940 That would hurt.

02:13:14.480 That was funny.

02:13:15.240 That's, that's rude.

02:13:16.820 I'm just kidding.

02:13:17.520 I obviously didn't take it seriously.

02:13:18.940 I'm, I know that's not the case, but that was, that was pretty, that was pretty good.

02:13:22.980 She probably was just intimidated.

02:13:25.160 Like, let's be honest. 1.00

02:13:26.040 I think she was just roasting, like she's just fucking around, you know? 0.97

02:13:29.540 All I said was I wouldn't personally do OnlyFans. 0.98

02:13:32.160 Genuinely.

02:13:32.780 All I said.

02:13:33.240 There's nothing offensive about that.

02:13:34.760 If you said that to me, I'd be like, okay, yeah.

02:13:36.040 I was like, cause I, I'm really close to my brother.

02:13:37.940 I'm close to my family.

02:13:39.620 I'm not going to do that to him.

02:13:40.760 Yeah.

02:13:40.980 I mean, also like there's other reasons, but that was just like the first one that,

02:13:43.540 that's the only one I shared with them is like why I wouldn't do it.

02:13:46.300 That makes sense.

02:13:46.900 On the topic of OnlyFans, you have an OnlyFans, correct?

02:13:49.520 I do.

02:13:50.220 Anybody else at the table have an OnlyFans?

02:13:52.260 Okay.

02:13:55.180 How much do you make?

02:13:56.260 Are you, can you share that on OnlyFans?

02:13:58.840 I personally don't like to talk about like specific numbers, but I will say.

02:14:03.500 Range?

02:14:04.000 Range.

02:14:04.480 Um, my, my, uh, net per month is over, is about like 3,000.

02:14:11.440 3,000.

02:14:12.040 Okay.

02:14:12.300 That's pretty, for me, that's pretty good.

02:14:13.860 Cause I already like, I don't have a following.

02:14:15.500 So like making that, I feel happy about.

02:14:17.900 Okay.

02:14:18.340 Um, and it's also my only job that brings in an income, but I don't plan on doing it for

02:14:22.540 like the rest of my life.

02:14:24.900 I'm just doing it to pay for college right now.

02:14:26.540 So how often do you post?

02:14:28.860 Uh, I post, I try to post daily.

02:14:30.880 Um, I do solo and BG videos.

02:14:34.400 Uh, you should go check it out.

02:14:35.900 There's two videos up right now.

02:14:38.060 Um, I do pay-per-view messaging.

02:14:40.680 So that's where like a lot of my income comes in.

02:14:42.960 And then, uh, also the subscriptions, but I try to post at least like almost every day.

02:14:49.280 If not, like, I'll, I just like will post like a comment or something.

02:14:53.920 Just try to like interact with my fans, you know?

02:14:57.080 Okay.

02:14:57.580 Yeah.

02:14:58.400 Well, it sounds like it pays for your rent.

02:15:00.140 I imagine.

02:15:00.700 Yeah, exactly.

02:15:01.580 I mean, everyone's pretty respectful on there.

02:15:03.380 And so like, it's super nice.

02:15:04.680 It's a fun job, but I wouldn't recommend it if you're not comfortable posting stuff like

02:15:09.580 that on there.

02:15:10.160 Cause it can be a little bit intense.

02:15:12.380 Right.

02:15:12.920 What is, what is a BG video?

02:15:14.780 Uh, boy, girl video.

02:15:16.320 So yeah.

02:15:17.380 Uh, boy, girl.

02:15:18.480 And then I want to do some girl, girl collabing, but I haven't met up with anyone yet.

02:15:23.100 Yeah.

02:15:23.760 Nice.

02:15:24.040 Um, when you do BG, is it with just one person or is it with new guys?

02:15:28.820 Um, I've done it in the past.

02:15:31.360 What was the look?

02:15:33.060 He gave a look.

02:15:34.200 Why are you asking Brian?

02:15:35.260 Um, I have done it with different guys currently.

02:15:39.480 I'm doing it just with one guy in particular, just cause I like to have, if I'm like doing

02:15:45.180 a collab with someone, I like them to do like STI testing and STD testing.

02:15:49.860 Cause like you want to be safe about it.

02:15:51.500 Yeah.

02:15:51.780 Um, so I just choose to do it with one person normally for like a long period of time.

02:15:56.960 Yeah.

02:15:57.460 Okay.

02:15:57.700 Makes sense.

02:15:58.360 Got it.

02:15:58.640 Okay.

02:16:00.420 We got another soup chat here.

02:16:01.580 We got Shane M thing for the $10 soup chat.

02:16:04.220 Tara.

02:16:05.180 Did I?

02:16:05.980 Yes.

02:16:06.320 You finally got it.

02:16:07.020 Ah, finally.

02:16:07.940 20th times the charm.

02:16:09.100 20th times the charm.

02:16:11.680 Tara's based.

02:16:12.680 Oh no.

02:16:13.380 That only fans model was cringy.

02:16:14.900 Not you.

02:16:15.640 Yeah.

02:16:16.020 Yeah.

02:16:16.420 Yeah.

02:16:16.560 Thank you, Shane.

02:16:19.340 She was funny.

02:16:22.040 Oh my gosh.

02:16:23.220 Thank you.

02:16:23.600 Honestly.

02:16:24.200 Thank you, Shane.

02:16:24.720 I thought she was pretty cool, but she didn't think I was.

02:16:27.080 Do you want to like give a little wink to Shane?

02:16:31.580 Boom.

02:16:32.080 Oh, that was adorable.

02:16:33.900 Thanks, Shane.

02:16:34.780 An attempt was made.

02:16:36.340 All right, cool.

02:16:37.180 Um, let's do a video reaction.

02:16:38.420 Eric, can you pull up the video tab?

02:16:40.620 All right, we're going to.

02:16:42.660 Oh, what? 1.00

02:16:43.740 Oh shit. 1.00

02:16:44.440 Oh, wow. 1.00

02:16:44.940 I need to be shouting this out more. 1.00

02:16:46.860 Fuck. 1.00

02:16:47.080 I've been. 1.00

02:16:47.560 Holy shit. 1.00

02:16:48.140 Wait. 0.99

02:16:49.740 Uh, scroll down a bit. 0.99

02:16:51.600 Damn. 0.98

02:16:51.880 Thank you to all of you who followed. 1.00

02:16:53.280 Holy shit. 0.98

02:16:53.640 I should be. 0.99

02:16:54.180 I should have been shouting this out like more.

02:16:57.320 41th, 40, 41st show.

02:16:59.860 Wait, you can watch this on Amazon?

02:17:01.540 Uh, Twitch.

02:17:02.320 It's on Twitch.

02:17:03.120 Yo, RC Panda.

02:17:04.260 Thank you for the follow.

02:17:06.380 Igneous Rock. 0.53

02:17:07.060 Thank you for the follow.

02:17:08.800 Roncine File.

02:17:11.620 Thank you for the, uh, Prime Sub. 0.99

02:17:13.520 Holy shit. 0.99

02:17:13.980 Oh, RC Panda. 0.99

02:17:15.060 Thank you for the, uh, Prime Sub.

02:17:16.240 Appreciate it.

02:17:17.180 Thermal Heat.

02:17:17.760 Thank you for the follow.

02:17:18.580 Uh, scroll down just a bit.

02:17:20.000 Let me get these other people.

02:17:21.680 Zatch Bell.

02:17:22.300 Thank you for the follow.

02:17:24.660 Leel.

02:17:25.360 Thank you for the follow.

02:17:27.240 Ghost Boy Ghoul.

02:17:28.220 Thank you for the follow.

02:17:30.200 Uh, Roncine File.

02:17:32.180 Thank you for the follow.

02:17:33.220 Dominion XP.

02:17:34.500 Thank you for the follow.

02:17:35.660 David Choi.

02:17:36.320 Thank you for the follow.

02:17:36.920 And I think we're caught up.

02:17:38.700 Guys, twitch.tv slash whatever.

02:17:40.980 If you have an available Prime Sub, go over there.

02:17:43.620 Show some love.

02:17:45.220 Drop a, drop a Prime Sub.

02:17:46.720 Also, if, if not, just, hey, give us a follow.

02:17:48.620 Also, the stream quality is way better, way better on Twitch than it is on YouTube.

02:17:53.620 So if you want a little better quality, watch it on Twitch.

02:17:57.120 Um, yeah.

02:17:58.300 Twitch.tv slash whatever.

02:17:59.600 Drop us a follow.

02:18:00.880 Drop us a Prime Sub if you have it available.

02:18:03.620 Thank you very much, guys.

02:18:04.580 Okay.

02:18:04.860 So let's pull up the video.

02:18:07.660 Thank you for, by the way, Eric, thank you for pulling that up.

02:18:10.220 Appreciate it.

02:18:12.460 Uh, let's do the Emrata Mia Khalifa thing.

02:18:15.600 Uh, actually, before you play it, let me, let me, hold on.

02:18:18.420 Um, so Mia Khalifa was recently, I guess, Emily Ratatouille, as we'll call her.

02:18:24.460 Uh, she has Emily Ratajkowski. 0.99

02:18:27.460 Um, she has like a podcast, had Mia Khalifa on as a guest.

02:18:31.220 Mia Khalifa, no stranger to controversy.

02:18:34.280 She had this recent take, uh, and I wanted to react to it.

02:18:37.720 Um, I have my take, but we'll have the girls react to it first. 1.00

02:18:40.160 Eric, go ahead.

02:18:40.880 Any guy who goes after a girl significantly younger than them is severely lacking in their

02:18:53.540 life.

02:18:54.120 And I, I mean that confidence wise, I mean, like they are falling short in so many places

02:18:59.960 that that is the only place they can turn to, to feel like they have, they have something

02:19:06.420 on the scale of power.

02:19:08.140 And it's, I mean, ultimately it's predatory.

02:19:10.420 I mean, there's just no way to kind of, because you're manipulating someone who is not aware

02:19:15.320 of what they're giving you.

02:19:17.120 And it's unfair.

02:19:19.860 Your reaction.

02:19:22.520 Um.

02:19:23.460 Agree, disagree, thoughts?

02:19:25.800 I kind of agree.

02:19:26.700 I don't feel like it's very weird if like a 30 year old who's like in their young thirties

02:19:30.300 is dating someone in their like mid young twenties, like actually, actually no, if they're dating

02:19:35.480 in mid twenties, I think that's fine.

02:19:36.660 If they're dating in young twenties, I think it's a bit weird because there's so much development

02:19:40.580 in your ears until you're like 25.

02:19:44.500 Um, so I personally think it's a little bit odd, but I don't necessarily think it means

02:19:49.840 you're failing in life.

02:19:52.680 I think it's based off maturity.

02:19:54.420 I feel like if an older man is going after a younger girl, I don't think it's about a

02:20:00.240 dominance thing or manipulation thing.

02:20:02.540 I think it's honestly a sexual attraction.

02:20:04.860 I think young women look good. 0.71

02:20:06.920 Yeah.

02:20:07.240 Um, and I think it's okay to like a young woman and cause she's hot and I get that. 0.99

02:20:12.540 Um, so, but I mean, there is a line to that.

02:20:15.460 There is some perverts out there, so watch out for them ladies, but I don't think that's 1.00

02:20:19.140 always the case.

02:20:20.980 Okay. 0.98

02:20:21.420 Um, I mean, personally, I would never date someone that's over 10 years, fucking like 0.98

02:20:32.500 five years, five years older than me. 0.76

02:20:34.680 I don't feel comfortable with that.

02:20:36.420 I think one, there will be a disconnect to it is a little creepy, especially giving my

02:20:40.900 age.

02:20:41.240 I was literally a minor like a year and a half ago, so it's pretty close to the edge.

02:20:45.860 I mean, I would say a year and a half ago.

02:20:47.560 So you're nine, you're 19 and a half.

02:20:49.320 Yeah.

02:20:51.500 Pretty close.

02:20:52.460 I mean, okay.

02:20:53.340 You're, you're an adult.

02:20:54.600 Yeah.

02:20:55.040 So it's not pretty close to, you're an adult.

02:20:57.400 Yes.

02:20:57.840 I'm an adult, but it's still like, I, I would not feel comfortable doing that.

02:21:03.180 I also think that men, I mean, this goes for younger men going for younger women, like

02:21:08.460 a senior going for a freshman or a 25 year old going for a high school student.

02:21:12.800 And why can you, hold on, hold on.

02:21:15.560 Okay.

02:21:15.900 We're talking about adult relationships.

02:21:18.160 We're not 18.

02:21:18.760 Yeah.

02:21:18.980 But 18, 18.

02:21:20.260 Yeah.

02:21:20.540 Yeah.

02:21:20.880 It's still, yes, I'm aware.

02:21:22.580 But what I'm trying to say is that I could get it under some circumstances, but it's also

02:21:30.100 like, why does he need to go for younger women?

02:21:32.760 Can he get older women? 1.00

02:21:34.540 It's, I mean, I feel like a lot of guys who go for younger women just can't get women their

02:21:39.820 age.

02:21:40.180 And that's a red flag to me, unless it is genuinely just a sexual, sexual, sexual preference.

02:21:44.880 And you just like younger girls. 0.68

02:21:46.740 Well, just on, on that point, I would, I would argue that actually for a guy say in his early

02:21:53.780 thirties or whatever, to be dating a woman who's say 1920 or 21, he actually has to be much

02:21:59.980 more attractive to get a woman that young than to be dating a woman his age.

02:22:06.140 I mean, yes and no, I think it's more about being attractive.

02:22:10.000 I think it's about that success.

02:22:11.440 And when you're younger, it's kind of cool to be like, yeah, my boyfriend's older and 0.95

02:22:15.840 yeah, my boyfriend's a big time lawyer and he does all this shit and you have to be older 0.98

02:22:19.820 to do a lot of those things. 0.98

02:22:21.420 So maybe he has to be super attractive, but I don't think it's just about that.

02:22:26.800 Well, I mean, attractive, it could be physically attractive. 0.99

02:22:29.680 It could be status, it could be personality, it could be, um, finances, but, uh, shit. 0.98

02:22:39.320 I, sorry guys, I lost my train of thought. 0.99

02:22:40.940 It happens to me too.

02:22:43.580 I feel like, I don't know.

02:22:45.520 It's just, I personally wouldn't date anyone probably over 27 maybe.

02:22:49.700 And I'm 19.

02:22:50.860 I just turned 19.

02:22:52.440 So that's just my personal preference.

02:22:55.000 I don't want a guy who's like super overly like much, like mature than me and has so

02:22:59.580 much life experience that like I feel inferior.

02:23:02.100 Yeah.

02:23:02.720 Like I want to be able to grow with the person I'm with, not feel like I'm like bringing

02:23:07.660 them back to their younger age.

02:23:08.940 Like I don't want to feel like that.

02:23:10.180 My parents are 22 years apart.

02:23:13.460 My dad's 22 years older than my mom.

02:23:15.040 So I always am on the side of it's not predatory because I don't believe my dad's a predator.

02:23:23.260 Yeah.

02:23:23.400 So I can see that too.

02:23:24.840 Cause my parents are 10 years apart, like to the day, but at the same time, I do see

02:23:30.440 some tendencies with guys where it is more predatory rather than like, cause like how

02:23:35.740 she said, like, why aren't they dating people their own age?

02:23:39.100 And like, yeah, okay.

02:23:39.960 Maybe it is sexual.

02:23:40.820 And like, that makes sense.

02:23:41.760 But at the same time, like I do see some guys only wanting to date younger women.

02:23:45.840 So they feel like, like Mia said that like have some power over them or kind of be a little

02:23:51.020 controlling.

02:23:51.580 Yeah.

02:23:52.660 And if like, that's the motive, then that's not good.

02:23:54.800 Yeah.

02:23:55.020 No, definitely not.

02:23:55.720 Okay.

02:23:56.040 There's always going to be cases where like men are predatory, they're pregnant or girls.

02:23:59.700 But what Mia Cleefa said was any guy who goes for a woman significantly younger is predatory.

02:24:05.100 My mom is objectively significantly younger than my dad.

02:24:08.020 My dad is not a predator.

02:24:09.760 My dad loves my mom and they just fell in love.

02:24:12.160 And we're.

02:24:12.640 Yeah.

02:24:13.280 Well, I mean, like, would we say it's weird if an older woman was going for a younger guy? 0.95

02:24:17.400 That happens all the time.

02:24:18.420 Good point.

02:24:18.820 San Diego is huge.

02:24:19.940 Like they, there's so many guys out there that go to this certain club that have these

02:24:24.800 cougars out there.

02:24:26.400 Yeah.

02:24:27.040 And yeah, they love it.

02:24:28.820 They loved it.

02:24:29.400 And the girls love it too.

02:24:30.820 They're all about it.

02:24:31.700 So, I mean, like, again, maturity, preference, I think sexual.

02:24:35.800 There's a lot of factors.

02:24:37.020 Yeah, exactly.

02:24:38.080 Yeah.

02:24:38.360 Exactly.

02:24:38.820 Yeah.

02:24:38.960 And it is interesting that she's, she left out men there.

02:24:42.420 She said it's men who go after young women.

02:24:45.500 That's predatory.

02:24:46.520 She didn't, there was no caveat like, oh, also women too. 1.00

02:24:50.440 So there, there does seem to be a bit of a double standard there.

02:24:53.260 I mean, it was a 20 second clip.

02:24:54.740 I would like to see more of what they were saying.

02:24:56.300 Into the mic.

02:24:56.700 Into the mic.

02:24:57.340 Oh, sorry.

02:24:58.440 It was a 20 second clip.

02:25:00.300 I mean, that was kind of just like a little sound, but you can do whatever you want with

02:25:03.460 it.

02:25:03.720 I, I'd like to actually watch the full thing and then I judge it, but yeah.

02:25:07.580 Yeah.

02:25:07.920 There, maybe there's more context.

02:25:09.380 Unfortunately, that was all that was available.

02:25:12.060 It was on like, their podcast isn't on, the whole video wasn't released yet.

02:25:18.640 It was just like, they released these snippets like previews or whatever.

02:25:21.680 So, um, but I, I'm going to assume that's most of the conversation around that, but, um,

02:25:27.080 but yeah, certainly perhaps they did add some additional caveats or whatever, but also just

02:25:33.300 to clarify, I, I didn't mean to, uh, I wasn't trying to like convince you that you were wrong

02:25:40.400 for having a preference.

02:25:41.200 You're totally free to have your preference of, Hey, I'd rather date someone, you know,

02:25:45.240 within five years of me.

02:25:46.260 That's totally fine.

02:25:47.260 Um, I was just more wanting, wanted clarification on why you think it's creepy.

02:25:54.560 I, that's my preference.

02:25:56.280 It's like, I would feel creepy.

02:25:57.360 Okay.

02:25:57.720 I'm not saying everyone else.

02:25:58.860 Sure.

02:25:59.080 Like it's creepy.

02:25:59.840 Like I would be creeped the fuck out.

02:26:01.300 Okay.

02:26:02.000 Yeah.

02:26:02.560 Like if a 19 year old wants to date a 40 year old and like, as long as all of it's consensual,

02:26:08.040 it's safe.

02:26:09.020 Then go for it.

02:26:10.460 Like, I mean, sometimes I don't even think that it's always guys going for girls.

02:26:13.940 Like, I think that tends to be the case, but I mean, some girls do prefer older guys,

02:26:19.100 guys who have their life together.

02:26:20.620 Yeah.

02:26:20.760 I have a close friend of mine who actively goes out of her way to like date men who are

02:26:27.280 in their forties.

02:26:28.340 Yeah.

02:26:28.940 I'm not going to lie.

02:26:29.640 And she's like in her young twenties.

02:26:31.180 Yeah.

02:26:31.440 When I just like right shortly after I turned 18, I tried to pursue a guy that was like 28,

02:26:38.600 29.

02:26:39.480 And like, that was me trying to be with him.

02:26:41.860 And then like, it worked out and yeah.

02:26:45.000 So I don't know.

02:26:45.940 It's not always the guy pursuing the younger girl.

02:26:49.320 Good point.

02:26:50.280 Good point.

02:26:50.920 Just being honest.

02:26:52.300 Yeah.

02:26:53.820 I'm trying to think what I was going to go for.

02:26:57.060 I'm kind of actually surprised by a lot of the answers because you often get quite a

02:27:01.180 bit of pushback on this one, but there's some pretty good answers there.

02:27:08.700 Okay.

02:27:09.380 So losing your train of thought.

02:27:11.860 A little bit, a little bit.

02:27:13.580 No.

02:27:14.160 So I would say, yes, generally men are attracted to younger women for a myriad of reasons.

02:27:21.840 Me personally, most of the women I did, I'd around my age range, I'd say 25 to 33.

02:27:26.940 I dated a 30, I dated a 45 year old.

02:27:33.340 So, I mean, I'm open, but generally speaking, in terms of the women that I would say I find

02:27:40.520 the most physically attractive 18 to 25, and they've done studies on this, men all the

02:27:46.860 way from age 18 to 65, they survey them.

02:27:50.940 They say, what demographic of women in terms of age do you find most physically attractive? 1.00

02:27:55.600 And they all, it's usually, it's between the age of 18 and like 22, 23.

02:28:01.380 So.

02:28:01.840 Yeah.

02:28:02.700 That makes sense.

02:28:03.120 Well, I'm getting.

02:28:03.900 You don't look happy with that one.

02:28:06.400 Oh, no.

02:28:06.920 I don't.

02:28:07.060 Oh, you're just, you're just reading the chat.

02:28:08.940 I mean, like, if we think about it, like, historically, like, it kind of like follows a pattern because

02:28:16.000 like historically, like 30, 40 year old men were marrying 14 year old girls.

02:28:22.500 Yeah, literally.

02:28:23.100 So like, not saying that that should be a thing.

02:28:26.880 It should definitely be two adults consenting into a relationship or whatever they're doing.

02:28:31.240 But like, historically, it kind of makes sense why men tend to be attracted to younger women.

02:28:37.300 Don't, Eric, don't show that.

02:28:39.620 Oh.

02:28:40.920 But yeah, like, it makes sense historically, like, why that pattern would continue to follow through.

02:28:48.960 But I personally, my own preference, like, I wouldn't date anyone who's much, much older than me.

02:28:57.080 Word?

02:28:58.400 Word?

02:28:59.300 Period.

02:28:59.620 Period.

02:29:00.420 Yeah.

02:29:01.240 Yeah, no, I mean, you were on the panel last time when, I mean, most of the show, I think we were debating about that.

02:29:08.920 It spiraled in a word.

02:29:10.420 You could, like, call it that.

02:29:11.640 We took a jump from, like, the jump went from, like.

02:29:16.860 Adult relationships to pedophilia.

02:29:19.040 Oh.

02:29:19.960 Yeah.

02:29:20.400 No, pedophilia is not okay.

02:29:22.060 It's what the jump went to.

02:29:23.000 Yeah.

02:29:23.340 But it was like, and then it was a whole, like, how is this the same thing?

02:29:27.680 Like, I brought up the same point about my parents.

02:29:30.120 Yeah.

02:29:30.420 So I'm like, how is that, like, the same thing?

02:29:32.300 Like, yeah.

02:29:33.500 And then, and then, and then.

02:29:35.740 People just don't know.

02:29:36.440 Just watch the episode.

02:29:37.040 It's a good one.

02:29:38.160 Just go watch it.

02:29:39.020 Yeah, I, people just, I don't know.

02:29:41.840 It's, it's a mess.

02:29:43.480 Um, but yeah, I mean, the, in the clip, they say, hey, that's predatory.

02:29:49.480 That's, what were the, what was, he doesn't, what is, he doesn't have his life to, I don't know.

02:29:53.960 What did she say?

02:29:54.800 Like, yeah, he doesn't, there's something wrong with him that he needs to have power over something in his life.

02:29:59.860 And that could be true.

02:30:01.640 That could be true.

02:30:02.560 But I don't think it's always true.

02:30:04.260 Do you think Leonardo DiCaprio has something wrong with him?

02:30:07.120 Nope.

02:30:08.160 I think it's weird to, like, if you're spending so much time with a woman and, like, you're.

02:30:14.400 What's, what, what's up, come on, what do you think?

02:30:16.200 What do you think?

02:30:16.640 What's with the faces?

02:30:17.880 Nothing.

02:30:18.440 No, it's just, I'm just thinking right now, like.

02:30:20.640 What are you thinking?

02:30:21.320 Tell me what you're thinking.

02:30:22.000 I mean, it's just an interesting age range that you have.

02:30:28.180 No, just us.

02:30:29.840 Oh.

02:30:30.220 And that, like, we're all very, very young.

02:30:32.600 No, this is not about you, like, being creepy or anything.

02:30:34.680 Wait, what?

02:30:35.380 No, I'm just saying, like, we're all very young.

02:30:37.820 Like, it's just interesting that you don't have other women on this podcast that are, like, 30s. 0.97

02:30:41.460 And maybe they could have a more.

02:30:42.720 I'm 26.

02:30:43.400 She's 26.

02:30:43.960 Yeah, you're 26, but, like.

02:30:45.600 I've had a.

02:30:46.160 I've been on.

02:30:46.820 Wait, how old are you again?

02:30:48.120 I'm 21, but I've been on panels before.

02:30:50.060 21, 19, 26.

02:30:52.580 I mean, look.

02:30:53.880 Santa Barbara's a college town.

02:30:55.240 Yeah.

02:30:55.700 There's much more college students than there are, I would say, professional.

02:31:01.460 It just happens to be the case that most of the people that end up on the show probably do skew a bit, like, college age.

02:31:11.980 But, I mean, I've had, we had, I think, some of the oldest, probably women in our 40s. 0.95

02:31:17.600 We've had.

02:31:18.280 The last episode, didn't you have a bunch of 30-year-olds?

02:31:20.640 No?

02:31:21.120 Were you on that one?

02:31:22.000 No, on Tuesday.

02:31:23.160 I mean, it varies.

02:31:24.460 Like, we'll have, jeez, Tuesday.

02:31:27.420 What did we?

02:31:28.700 Because I feel like I started watching it, and everyone started saying that they were, like, older.

02:31:32.820 I mean, yeah.

02:31:33.580 We get a variety, but sometimes we'll have, like, let me see.

02:31:36.780 Who did we have?

02:31:37.240 Yeah, it's a college city, like.

02:31:38.920 Okay, well, we had a mom on, who was, like, in her, who was 33. 0.99

02:31:44.140 We had a 35-year-old.

02:31:46.000 We had a 23, 23, and a 19-year-old.

02:31:48.780 Before that, we had a 28-year-old, oh, that was the one you were on.

02:31:56.040 Loey was 28, I think.

02:31:59.900 27.

02:32:00.620 I mean, yeah, so.

02:32:01.800 I mean, maybe it's just the ones that I've watched, but.

02:32:05.300 I'd say, yeah, it skews.

02:32:06.420 They vary.

02:32:06.620 It skews.

02:32:07.140 It skews, yeah.

02:32:07.420 A little younger, but.

02:32:09.360 No, I was just thinking, like.

02:32:10.720 It's a college town.

02:32:11.460 I don't know.

02:32:11.880 I know, I know.

02:32:12.420 I'm just saying, like, maybe a better take.

02:32:15.440 Not, like, me.

02:32:18.200 What's the word?

02:32:18.960 Trying to give you advice.

02:32:20.020 I was just, like, oh, like, if I was older, maybe I would have something better to say

02:32:23.440 about this with my experience in life.

02:32:25.220 Yeah.

02:32:25.340 Sure, sure.

02:32:26.880 Okay, fair enough.

02:32:28.900 But, yeah, no, I mean, like, ultimately, one of the reasons, or probably one of the big

02:32:36.500 reasons that men prefer young women, it's just hardwired attraction traits.

02:32:40.800 It's rooted in biology, evolutionary.

02:32:42.800 Young women are more capable of bringing a pregnancy to term, so they're more likely 1.00

02:32:48.240 to get pregnant.

02:32:49.680 They're more likely.

02:32:51.380 Bleed it.

02:32:53.760 She's fertile, apparently. 0.91

02:32:57.820 Once you hit 35, you're getting into geriatric pregnancy territory, much more likely for birth

02:33:04.860 defects.

02:33:05.360 Wait, which age?

02:33:06.340 35 and up.

02:33:07.240 Oh, okay, okay, okay.

02:33:07.660 Yeah, 35 and up, much more likely to have birth defects, much more likely to have difficulty

02:33:12.620 actually getting pregnant.

02:33:15.420 You can get tested and check how likely.

02:33:19.760 But, yeah, like, around the age of 35, like, your ability to get pregnant and have a healthy

02:33:24.400 pregnancy does lower significantly.

02:33:26.180 It's declining.

02:33:26.800 Yeah.

02:33:26.960 Yeah, and then there's a greater likelihood of miscarriage, so men, for evolutionary reasons,

02:33:35.360 have found youth to be an attraction trigger.

02:33:40.240 Yeah, you're attracted to fertility. 1.00

02:33:41.640 Yeah, attraction to fertility.

02:33:43.760 Not saying you should go for...

02:33:45.680 No, no, no.

02:33:46.180 Yeah.

02:33:46.580 When I say youth, I mean young women.

02:33:51.320 So, yeah.

02:33:54.140 And, I mean, women also have biological evolutionary attraction triggers for men. 0.60

02:34:00.360 So, for example, tall men.

02:34:02.420 Yeah.

02:34:03.380 Articulate to me what precisely about someone who's tall makes them more attractive.

02:34:09.060 Okay.

02:34:09.300 Like, tall babies.

02:34:11.740 Basketball babies.

02:34:12.600 That's what I say.

02:34:13.560 I'm a basketball baby.

02:34:14.200 Growing up being 5'7", like, I was always taller than all the guys that I grew up in school

02:34:19.720 with, which sucked, right? 0.61

02:34:21.200 So, I...

02:34:22.180 And I used to get made fun of, like...

02:34:23.660 5'7"?

02:34:24.640 Yeah.

02:34:25.000 That's not...

02:34:25.800 It's not that tall, but, like...

02:34:27.400 It's taller than the average.

02:34:28.520 Yeah.

02:34:28.740 Understand that.

02:34:29.280 I was 5'7 at 7th grade.

02:34:32.240 Yeah.

02:34:32.600 So, most guys get that skirt way later in life, right?

02:34:36.040 So, I was just there.

02:34:37.200 I don't know what happened.

02:34:38.120 You were the tall ones.

02:34:38.800 I was eating good, yeah.

02:34:41.240 But, yeah, it sucked, because dances, that plays a primary role in the height situation,

02:34:46.360 which I think, honestly, just carried on.

02:34:49.700 I don't really think it was, like...

02:34:51.060 It always had to be a preference for me, because it was forced on it, and guys didn't

02:34:54.720 want to dance with me because they were shorter than me.

02:34:57.260 Stop it.

02:34:57.780 And so, like, I always felt like, man, I'm not going to go out with a guy who's not 0.58

02:35:01.700 going to be interested in my height and think I'm, like, an ogre, you know what I mean?

02:35:05.020 Not to get science-y and boring, because I don't know if, you know, the audience

02:35:08.800 don't actually care about this, but...

02:35:09.960 Let's hear it.

02:35:11.240 Let's hear it.

02:35:11.860 So, the reason why, like, girls want a guy who's taller, there's nothing that means

02:35:17.280 you're, like, necessarily more of a man by being taller and more of a woman by how short 0.98

02:35:21.760 you are.

02:35:22.300 No.

02:35:22.640 But, in, like, human mating psychology, I mean, this is a case for, like, most primates

02:35:28.460 or, like, any species, but there's something called sexual dimorphism, so it's wanting

02:35:32.700 to feel, like, women...

02:35:34.920 The most opposite.

02:35:36.040 As different you feel as a woman than to, like, the guy, you feel more feminine, and

02:35:40.740 that makes...

02:35:41.580 You're more attracted to a guy who's more different than you and less similar to you,

02:35:45.500 and a male's more attractive to a woman who is more different than him.

02:35:49.860 So, why, like, there's typically a societal preference, or, like, women prefer to, like, 1.00

02:35:53.520 feel, you know, some women want to be... 1.00

02:35:56.380 Want to shave, and men... 0.83

02:35:57.660 Yeah.

02:35:58.080 Like, it's the women have the long hair, men have short hair. 1.00

02:36:01.080 Yeah.

02:36:01.320 Women paint the nails, guys don't. 1.00

02:36:03.700 Males have the body hair, but women don't. 1.00

02:36:05.540 Even if that's not natural and we exaggerate it, it's because we...

02:36:09.540 You know, sexual dimorphism being, like, as different as possible between the sexes...

02:36:13.540 Yeah.

02:36:14.440 ...is we find more attractive.

02:36:15.920 In those cases.

02:36:16.180 Would any of you guys date someone who's shorter than you?

02:36:18.820 I have.

02:36:19.840 Okay.

02:36:20.580 Yeah, because I have, too.

02:36:21.880 But I'm gonna be honest, if a guy's shorter than me, then I want him to have, like, a

02:36:25.240 lot of muscle.

02:36:26.740 Like, I'm gonna be completely honest.

02:36:28.500 The guy I was with, he had a really great personality, so I was like, okay.

02:36:31.900 Yeah, or if you'll just, like, love them, like, can't really...

02:36:34.220 Yeah.

02:36:35.400 You want a manlet. 0.99

02:36:37.140 A what?

02:36:37.920 A manlet.

02:36:39.300 What is that?

02:36:39.820 Like a nugget. 1.00

02:36:40.160 A short guy who's just fucking... 1.00

02:36:41.740 Well, I'm fine if he's tall, too. 1.00

02:36:43.540 No, but... 0.74

02:36:44.140 No, but you said if you do date a short guy, you want him to be jacked. 0.60

02:36:47.480 Yeah. 0.72

02:36:48.500 Okay, full of muscle.

02:36:49.700 I just want him to be able to lift me up.

02:36:51.520 Okay.

02:36:51.860 Yes.

02:36:52.140 Okay.

02:36:52.560 Yes.

02:36:52.980 That's such a turn-on.

02:36:53.940 Men, if you can lift up your ladies... 1.00

02:36:55.160 Throw me around that shit. 1.00

02:36:56.300 They'll love it. 1.00

02:36:56.780 Talk to me around.

02:36:58.100 And that's exactly...

02:36:59.480 Oh, gosh.

02:37:00.000 Should I bring it back here?

02:37:01.420 Oh, gosh. 0.99

02:37:02.500 I'm just saying, Victoria's Secret, they're fucking up. 0.99

02:37:04.400 Okay. 0.98

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02:37:09.500 Very much appreciate the support, man.

02:37:13.900 Thank you.

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02:37:15.400 Oh, Crispy Kim got a gifted. 0.97

02:37:16.940 Your boss, Kai, got a gifted.

02:37:18.500 Flip.

02:37:19.080 Oh, voice crack.

02:37:21.140 Excuse me.

02:37:23.180 And then who else?

02:37:24.440 Oh, BKU.

02:37:25.800 Yeah, thank you for the gifted memberships, man.

02:37:27.860 Much appreciated.

02:37:28.560 By the way, guys, listen to George Ontiveros.

02:37:33.520 Be sure...

02:37:34.280 We'll pull that up in just a sec.

02:37:36.140 George Ontiveros, make sure to opt in for gifts.

02:37:38.800 So you should be able to do it if you click on the green icon there at the top of the chat.

02:37:44.280 Below it, it should say, like, allow gifts, opt, something like that.

02:37:48.780 So in order to receive a gifted membership, you have to do allow gifts.

02:37:53.700 Yeah.

02:37:54.580 We've been having some issues with the gifted memberships.

02:37:58.260 But Eric, can you pull back up Twitch, por favor?

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02:38:13.220 Fuck. 1.00

02:38:13.620 I don't know if I... 1.00

02:38:14.600 Okay, wait.

02:38:15.480 Go down.

02:38:15.960 Go down.

02:38:17.960 I'm just gonna go down a bit.

02:38:21.960 Yeah, you said this once.

02:38:22.680 Yeah, we left off at Leel.

02:38:23.640 Okay, so let's say...

02:38:25.260 Go back.

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02:39:32.400 Okay, so, is there anything dating related that you want to get off your chest?

02:39:38.980 Maybe you've been on a bad date recently.

02:39:40.860 Maybe you have something that you dislike about dating.

02:39:46.320 I'm gonna be honest.

02:39:47.020 There's something going on with men.

02:39:48.680 I feel bad when, like, I go out on a date with, like, a guy who's super sweet and, like, super nice,

02:39:54.620 but I just don't get that connection with him, that spark.

02:39:57.920 And, like, how are you supposed to break that to him?

02:40:00.300 Because there's nothing wrong about him.

02:40:01.740 You're just, like, not sexually attracted to him.

02:40:04.620 Like, how do you approach that?

02:40:06.260 I actually just did this today.

02:40:08.400 Oh, gosh.

02:40:09.140 So, there was...

02:40:09.980 Sorry.

02:40:10.820 There was this guy.

02:40:12.280 He's very sweet.

02:40:13.240 He's very tall. 1.00

02:40:14.240 Weird as fucked up. 1.00

02:40:15.000 And he happens to be my neighbor. 1.00

02:40:16.740 He lives two doors down.

02:40:17.860 So, I see him all the time.

02:40:19.360 And he was really nice. 0.97

02:40:20.580 And there was, like, a couple of nights where I was, like, really fucked up. 0.99

02:40:23.600 Oh. 0.98

02:40:23.980 And I hooked up with him.

02:40:25.080 By hookup, we just, like, made out in the Senate.

02:40:26.860 That's all.

02:40:27.460 But then we left for break.

02:40:29.340 He's texting my friends, like, I miss Maya so much.

02:40:32.500 Like, everything about her is so amazing.

02:40:34.340 And then he sent me videos being, like, I'm gonna be so real.

02:40:37.160 I just, like, want to be with you right now.

02:40:38.740 And he's genuinely a great person.

02:40:41.660 And I just left him on read.

02:40:43.080 And I feel, like, in this day and age, we're so conditioned to ghosting people.

02:40:47.260 Instead of being, like, look, I'm not interested.

02:40:49.460 And I don't think I've ever been taught or really learned how to do something like that.

02:40:53.180 Yeah.

02:40:53.420 Because I've always been ghosted.

02:40:54.740 Not, like, oh, I don't want to be with you. 0.97

02:40:56.240 It's always, like, you'll never fucking see me again. 0.84

02:40:58.580 So, for me, I just talked to him literally today. 0.95

02:41:02.000 I was, like, look, like, I'm really sorry.

02:41:04.300 I'm just not interested in you.

02:41:05.980 I think you're really sweet and you're really nice.

02:41:08.240 But I don't see anything happening between us.

02:41:10.880 Yeah.

02:41:11.420 Hope we can be friends.

02:41:12.420 I mean, there's not much you can do.

02:41:13.600 He's gonna have us feeling spiritually.

02:41:15.280 Just be straight up.

02:41:16.240 Yeah.

02:41:16.400 Just be straight up and be nice.

02:41:18.580 Yeah.

02:41:19.640 I mean.

02:41:20.180 So, were you straight up?

02:41:21.500 Because you were turning him down, right?

02:41:22.900 Yeah.

02:41:23.740 I was like, yeah, I'm just simply not interested in you.

02:41:25.500 I think you're really sweet and you're a really great person.

02:41:27.540 And if you like to be friends, that's cool.

02:41:30.260 But.

02:41:31.760 So, that's what you said?

02:41:33.020 Yeah.

02:41:33.120 Verbatim?

02:41:33.740 Okay.

02:41:34.380 I'm gonna be honest.

02:41:35.340 I just ghosted the guy.

02:41:37.000 Yeah, that's what I.

02:41:38.320 Ah.

02:41:39.240 Just one guy, though.

02:41:40.540 But I felt bad.

02:41:40.940 Nice guys finish last, boys.

02:41:42.820 That's how it works.

02:41:43.620 No, it can be nice.

02:41:43.960 No, just the weird ones.

02:41:45.840 See, I kind of like a weird guy.

02:41:47.660 I like weird men.

02:41:49.280 If they can be a little goofy with me, I like that.

02:41:52.260 But you said you went on a date with this guy.

02:41:54.560 He sounded like he was perfectly.

02:41:56.460 I didn't like.

02:41:58.160 He was a little boring.

02:41:59.760 Ah.

02:42:00.460 He was boring.

02:42:00.560 Yeah, I didn't feel the spark.

02:42:01.640 Because he was nice.

02:42:02.740 No.

02:42:03.220 Nice guys finish last.

02:42:04.640 I love dating nice guys, nice people.

02:42:07.740 But I didn't feel the chemistry.

02:42:10.700 I feel like.

02:42:11.680 Because you could be with someone who's like a great person.

02:42:13.900 But if there's no chemistry, like there's no point in being with him.

02:42:16.380 Was he attractive physically?

02:42:18.040 Yeah, he was like pretty decently attractive.

02:42:20.440 But he was boring.

02:42:22.440 Yeah, I didn't feel the spark.

02:42:23.480 I was like the conversation was fine.

02:42:24.780 I guess I got like a friend vibe with him instead of a like boyfriend sort of vibe.

02:42:29.380 That's interesting because I'm looking for someone who's like my best friend.

02:42:34.100 So I've had like lots of guys, you know, I've gone, you know, on dates and they're nice.

02:42:40.540 They seem like they're they're great guys.

02:42:42.820 They're kind to me, they're cute, but just none of them have felt like best friend.

02:42:48.880 And not that like your boyfriend has to be your best friend.

02:42:50.980 But it's nice.

02:42:51.480 It's nice.

02:42:51.980 Like someone you can never get bored of.

02:42:53.960 You see like that's I'm looking for like if I that's how I'm like learning how to weed out which of these people, you know,

02:42:59.920 I would see again or go on a second date with or something.

02:43:02.600 It's like if I wouldn't be their friend outside of this, then that's how I know I like shouldn't, you know, go on a second date or something.

02:43:11.660 Yeah.

02:43:12.200 The last guy I was dating, he I did not feel a spark the first time we hung out.

02:43:17.240 Like because we met at a bar and like I was had my drunk goggles on and I was like, you're cute. 0.98

02:43:22.760 And then I was sober and I was like, damn.

02:43:28.060 But then the first time like I didn't feel a spark like I felt very much friend vibes. 0.99

02:43:32.560 But then I was like, you know, I'll give him the benefit of the doubt.

02:43:35.240 Like I'll go out with him again.

02:43:36.540 I went out with him again.

02:43:37.480 Still kind of felt that way, but felt more like intrigued by him.

02:43:40.260 And then by like third, fourth date, I was like, OK, yes, I do like him.

02:43:43.460 I just take a little time.

02:43:46.020 You followed through.

02:43:46.740 Yeah, you were a trooper.

02:43:48.500 You're a better woman.

02:43:51.080 Yeah.

02:43:52.000 I mean, what's have you guys had like such a terrible date before?

02:43:56.000 Like what's been the worst date you've ever gone on?

02:43:58.120 Oh, my God.

02:44:00.980 Wait, sorry.

02:44:01.820 I just want to.

02:44:03.460 We'll get to that.

02:44:04.680 I just realized I just realized that I didn't miss a couple of super chats.

02:44:08.800 So let me just get them.

02:44:09.780 I'm sorry, guys.

02:44:11.360 Hyun.

02:44:11.840 I'm going to brood.

02:44:14.560 Hyun Wook Soul. 0.91

02:44:15.760 Thank you for the $10 soup chat, man.

02:44:17.900 Appreciate it.

02:44:18.740 I'm Korean, man, and I live in Arizona.

02:44:20.760 I subscribed your channel more than five years.

02:44:23.220 But my question is how to get American girls. 1.00

02:44:26.940 Is this my preference is white girls? 1.00

02:44:28.960 But honestly, it is so hard.

02:44:30.500 Any recommend?

02:44:31.240 And first off, work on your grammar a little bit.

02:44:35.280 No, I'm kidding, man.

02:44:35.940 Thank you for the soup chat.

02:44:38.160 Yeah.

02:44:38.420 So the Asian men definitely struggle when it comes to dating outside their race. 0.99

02:44:45.520 Honestly, you're going to just have to, you're going to have to level up, get your finances right, get fucking fit. 0.98

02:44:58.420 Just make yourself as attractive as possible.

02:45:00.480 But yeah, I do think a lot of people do seem to have a, I don't know.

02:45:07.440 I don't know.

02:45:08.280 We'll ask the girls. 0.97

02:45:09.500 Like, I've heard a lot of women say that they don't find themselves. 1.00

02:45:15.100 Oh, shit. 1.00

02:45:15.960 Flan Life. 1.00

02:45:16.480 What's up?

02:45:16.860 We'll get to that in just a sec.

02:45:22.960 Flan Life, I see you.

02:45:23.840 Thank you, though, man.

02:45:26.480 I've heard a lot of women say that they just, and I think it's okay for people to have preferences, right? 1.00

02:45:30.960 But I've heard them say, hey, I just don't find Asian men attractive.

02:45:36.280 I pretty much only like Mexicans, so yeah. 0.95

02:45:39.060 I mean, my last ex was Asian, so.

02:45:41.720 Okay.

02:45:42.420 I'm Korean, by the way, but my preference is white as well.

02:45:46.040 Wait, did I pronounce his name right?

02:45:49.820 Do you know?

02:45:50.460 No, I don't know how to pronounce his name.

02:45:51.980 Sorry, man.

02:45:52.620 I don't know how to pronounce his name, but I am Korean.

02:45:55.200 Are you full Korean or?

02:45:57.020 No.

02:45:57.520 Half?

02:45:57.860 I'm half Korean, half Mexican.

02:45:59.240 Do you speak?

02:46:00.000 No, I don't.

02:46:01.020 I wish.

02:46:01.820 Yeah.

02:46:01.960 Oh, okay.

02:46:02.780 All right.

02:46:05.240 Okay, so.

02:46:06.840 Yeah.

02:46:09.420 I'm sure there's a white girl out there that will want you, man. 1.00

02:46:11.480 Just keep trying.

02:46:12.520 Definitely.

02:46:13.020 Times are changing.

02:46:14.260 Yeah.

02:46:14.700 Times are changing.

02:46:15.240 Just keep going out there.

02:46:16.220 Be persistent.

02:46:17.080 Don't be too persistent.

02:46:18.020 That's weird, but you'll get there.

02:46:19.140 It seems desperate.

02:46:21.920 Any thoughts on?

02:46:24.400 If you want, all I can.

02:46:26.560 Oh, sorry.

02:46:27.060 Do you want to go?

02:46:27.600 Go ahead.

02:46:27.860 Okay.

02:46:28.680 I didn't think.

02:46:29.440 I didn't.

02:46:29.960 I didn't seem like you're going to say anything.

02:46:31.360 Sorry.

02:46:31.500 If I, if he's, if the question is how to get like American girls, I don't know, maybe make 0.98

02:46:37.740 them feel like special and cool, like play the foreign card that you seem like, oh, American

02:46:46.160 girls are, I love your accent.

02:46:48.220 I don't know.

02:46:48.820 Actually, I wouldn't recommend acknowledging that you're an American girl. 1.00

02:46:52.600 That might make them feel like you're trying to exotify them.

02:46:55.400 Yeah.

02:46:56.280 Exotic fight.

02:46:57.080 I don't, you know what I mean.

02:46:58.320 Yeah.

02:46:59.480 Um, dating apps.

02:47:01.920 Yeah. 1.00

02:47:02.360 Fuck it. 1.00

02:47:03.380 I mean, there's someone out there for everyone. 1.00

02:47:04.900 You just have to weave through.

02:47:06.180 You'll get your white girl. 0.94

02:47:07.160 Yeah. 0.57

02:47:07.360 You'll get you.

02:47:09.660 My suggestion.

02:47:13.180 If they like BTS, you've got an in.

02:47:16.600 You've got an in. 0.99

02:47:17.480 I'm just saying you're going to have to do the little frilly feminine hair shit or whatever 1.00

02:47:22.440 that they do. 0.99

02:47:23.300 But, um, uh, yeah.

02:47:26.040 And you probably, I don't know.

02:47:27.100 Plastic.

02:47:27.440 Or don't they all have plastics?

02:47:28.900 I don't know.

02:47:30.000 They're just pretty.

02:47:31.100 But, uh, yeah.

02:47:34.600 Okay.

02:47:36.360 Interesting question.

02:47:37.620 I recently read a statistic, though, that, um, I think Asian men do tend to struggle a

02:47:43.380 bit more when it comes to dating than their female counterparts, than Asian women. 1.00

02:47:47.700 Um, there's something like, uh, Asian women are about twice as likely to marry outside of 1.00

02:47:54.720 their race as Asian men.

02:47:56.080 And I think the number is something like, there's a Wikipedia page on this.

02:48:00.960 I don't know if I can, if it's worth pulling up.

02:48:03.320 But basically, I think it's like, if there's 150,000, uh, Asian women in the U.S. who are

02:48:08.780 in interracial marriages, or sorry, excuse me, if there's 300 million, or sorry, if there's

02:48:14.920 300,000 Asian women who are in interracial marriages, there's only 150,000 Asian men who

02:48:21.340 are in interracial marriages.

02:48:22.800 And I think looking at those statistics would confirm that it's a bit more difficult for

02:48:29.040 Asian men to, uh, date, date outside of their race.

02:48:32.440 I feel like that's culturally, too.

02:48:33.600 Like, I feel like they're comfortable.

02:48:35.240 I think they, I, I can't speak for everyone, but I just feel like I notice that Asians tend 0.93

02:48:43.900 to kind of like hang out together and kind of, you know, date each other.

02:48:48.560 And even in high school, we, we had an Asian tree and like, that's, and it's so funny to

02:48:53.200 say that, but literally it's because they all hung out there and they all like hooked up

02:48:56.840 with each other and, you know, grew on, you know, but I, I do feel like it's a cultural

02:49:00.760 thing.

02:49:01.000 I don't think they just all chose to do that.

02:49:02.580 I think it's naturally, they feel comfortable.

02:49:05.600 Do you think that, and also maybe we should clarify, cause he's, um, he's not Asian American.

02:49:11.820 It sounds like he says he's Korean, but he's living in Arizona.

02:49:15.440 So I definitely think that could be another factor because, um, I mean, judging by his

02:49:21.420 grammar, maybe he's not as proficient in English.

02:49:25.540 I mean, speaking and writing are two different things, but, um, yeah, I think there's probably

02:49:31.800 an even greater disadvantage for him because he's, uh, foreign born instead of being Asian 0.73

02:49:38.960 American.

02:49:39.720 Like, right.

02:49:40.340 Yes, absolutely.

02:49:41.420 So, uh, there's a barrier.

02:49:44.360 Yeah.

02:49:44.780 And I know you mentioned that there was like, uh, what did you say?

02:49:48.020 A troop or something?

02:49:49.140 A tree.

02:49:49.860 It's a tree and it's in high school.

02:49:51.480 You know how you have your cliques?

02:49:52.780 Everybody's in high school.

02:49:53.440 Yeah.

02:49:53.720 Well, they had a tree where they would actually sit and hang out and eat lunch at.

02:49:57.080 So we called it the Asian tree.

02:49:59.280 Oh yeah, I know.

02:50:00.700 But wait, you called it that or other people, other people, you go to high school.

02:50:06.800 I'm not even playing with y'all.

02:50:08.140 Y'all know how it is in high school.

02:50:09.480 It's all cliques.

02:50:10.180 It's all established by years prior to you.

02:50:12.820 And there's a, it was a tree established.

02:50:14.500 Okay.

02:50:14.880 There was a beater table too.

02:50:16.020 And I was, you, you were part of both factions.

02:50:21.000 Yeah.

02:50:21.360 I was.

02:50:21.780 Yeah.

02:50:22.200 Okay.

02:50:22.600 Jew crew. 0.89

02:50:23.040 If that makes any sense.

02:50:24.340 There you go.

02:50:25.060 Yeah.

02:50:25.560 That's just high school.

02:50:26.640 I don't know.

02:50:28.400 Chat.

02:50:28.880 Be careful.

02:50:29.400 Um, careful chat.

02:50:32.640 Um, okay.

02:50:33.300 So we have red misfit here with the $10 soup chat. 0.99

02:50:37.020 Is it me or do women make everything ambiguous and complicated, including their sexuality? 1.00

02:50:41.600 I think it's because a lot of their decisions have to do with their emotions, feelings.

02:50:45.580 What do you think?

02:50:46.760 Brian?

02:50:47.720 Red. 1.00

02:50:48.220 Well, damn it. 1.00

02:50:50.280 Red. 0.99

02:50:50.560 Um, the girls kind of had a reaction to your soup chat.

02:50:55.520 So why don't I open it up to them first before I give you my answer?

02:51:00.340 Be careful.

02:51:01.120 Don't make any words with emotions or feelings.

02:51:06.120 Um, I, I'm going to be honest.

02:51:08.420 I feel like systematically women are told they can express their emotions more than men.

02:51:15.420 Um, so I feel like that's why we tend to come off as more emotional because we were raised

02:51:20.200 to kind of embrace that side of ourselves where like men aren't always when they're younger

02:51:25.220 they're most of the time they're told like, don't cry, like don't be emotional.

02:51:28.040 So I think that kind of has a factor in it where like women kind of embrace that side 1.00

02:51:32.800 of themselves more.

02:51:34.140 Um, I don't know what you mean about including their sexuality though.

02:51:38.600 Like he might be implying that we're confused just because we're wishy-washy with our emotions.

02:51:44.460 Oh, might it, might he be suggesting that there are more women who are bi-curious than there

02:51:49.960 are men who are bi-curious, for example.

02:51:51.800 I think that's also has to do a lot with kind of with that men are kind of taught or expected

02:51:59.340 to be not emotionless, not emotionless, but very macho and very masculine and very strong.

02:52:05.200 And apparently somewhere down the line, emotions became a feminine trait. 1.00

02:52:10.040 I don't know how, but here we are.

02:52:12.080 And I think that we have allowed ourselves to explore our sexuality more.

02:52:18.420 And I feel like a lot of other men, if they had the ability to do so, you would find are

02:52:23.600 also bi.

02:52:24.380 I genuinely believe it's not just women.

02:52:26.780 I think it's that men are afraid to and almost expected not to and feel like as if they're not

02:52:33.180 allowed to explore their sexuality.

02:52:36.340 I agree.

02:52:37.260 I agree.

02:52:38.960 Um, well, I guess you asked me so I can give you my, my take.

02:52:42.640 I mean, I would say generally speaking, uh, in terms of making everything ambiguous,

02:52:48.000 men and women tend to communicate differently.

02:52:51.500 Men, men communicate overtly.

02:52:53.960 We're more, we're more overt communicators.

02:52:56.660 Women are more covert in their communication. 1.00

02:52:59.960 Um, in the, in the sense that like, I don't know, have you guys ever had a situation where

02:53:05.140 there's like a, maybe you've, maybe not you, but you've seen like a female friend and you're

02:53:10.560 super pleasant to her. 1.00

02:53:12.740 And the minute she leaves, you're like, fuck that bitch. 1.00

02:53:15.520 A fake person. 1.00

02:53:16.400 Okay. 1.00

02:53:17.520 I mean, men, okay, whatever stereotype, Brian, because I know that bitch is acting the same 1.00

02:53:27.640 way with me. 0.99

02:53:29.200 Okay.

02:53:29.580 So you've had that where they're to your face. 0.99

02:53:31.740 They're like, Oh, and then they're talking shit behind your back or whatever. 0.98

02:53:35.340 So it's also like to keep the peace. 1.00

02:53:37.060 Like not everything's about like, you're a bitch, you're a bitch. 1.00

02:53:39.120 I'm not going to talk to you. 1.00

02:53:39.780 Well, if you're in like a workplace setting or if you're mutual friends with this person

02:53:43.900 or you have a lot of connections, like, you know what, just bite the bullet and be like 1.00

02:53:47.540 a fake bitch for like five seconds. 1.00

02:53:48.940 It's fine. 1.00

02:53:49.560 Yeah.

02:53:49.840 It's better than creating excess drama.

02:53:52.580 That's fair.

02:53:53.300 Yeah.

02:53:53.580 All right.

02:53:53.780 We got range in 65 here with a $10.

02:53:55.800 Thank you, man.

02:53:56.200 Appreciate the super chat.

02:53:57.160 Would date, would date a guy that could, could, would, could, would.

02:54:02.100 Oh, that's a new one.

02:54:02.960 Could, would cook Mexico. 0.89

02:54:04.040 Is this like Dr. Seuss?

02:54:05.520 What's going on here?

02:54:06.120 It's, it's, it's, uh, sushi and Italian food, 31 years old and J I play guitar and

02:54:11.360 sing very, Oh, okay.

02:54:12.100 He's like, Oh, remember we told him to get more information.

02:54:15.060 Oh, more.

02:54:15.520 Oh, okay.

02:54:16.660 Um, he cooks Mexican food, sushi and Italian food, 31 years old and, uh, New Jersey.

02:54:21.880 I play guitar and sing very well thinking about joining a band.

02:54:26.540 I got one lined up.

02:54:27.900 What was the original?

02:54:29.460 Uh, Oh, would you date a guy like me?

02:54:32.480 Yeah.

02:54:32.920 Yes.

02:54:33.360 If you had correct grammar and range him, you're going to have, I play the drums.

02:54:40.000 We can start a band.

02:54:41.420 Ooh.

02:54:41.740 Okay.

02:54:42.360 Tara.

02:54:42.720 I got lights.

02:54:43.840 I got a speaker.

02:54:48.460 New Jersey's a little far.

02:54:50.220 He cooks.

02:54:50.860 The cooking's nice.

02:54:52.580 I like a man who can cook personally range him.

02:54:56.220 Would you be down to fly any of these girls out for a date? 0.99

02:55:00.280 Wow.

02:55:01.200 Fly all of us out.

02:55:02.600 Oh yeah. 0.98

02:55:04.300 That's orgy territory. 0.85

02:55:06.620 Good luck, Jen. 0.92

02:55:07.960 Um, okay.

02:55:08.780 We got Shane here with the, uh, $10.

02:55:11.180 Thank you for the $10 soup chat, man.

02:55:12.580 Appreciate it.

02:55:13.480 To be honest, I'm just disappointed that Mike Davis hasn't been in chat for weeks.

02:55:16.940 Yeah.

02:55:17.080 Where's Mike Davis been?

02:55:18.400 Yeah.

02:55:18.700 Eric, pull up the Burger King photo.

02:55:21.880 Pull it up.

02:55:22.680 Who's Mike Davis?

02:55:23.460 How dare he? 0.99

02:55:25.480 That degenerate. 0.97

02:55:27.240 Not being in the chat.

02:55:28.100 Mike Davis.

02:55:28.660 Mike Davis.

02:55:30.360 Honestly, I might, I might have to take it down.

02:55:33.060 He hasn't been in chat for a little bit.

02:55:34.540 Uh, yeah, this is Mike Davis.

02:55:35.780 If you guys don't know, he on, he's a proprietor.

02:55:38.220 He owns, uh, many Burger King establishments on the East coast.

02:55:42.760 So if you guys, he's like a big supporter of the show.

02:55:45.440 So if you guys are ever, you know, on the East coast, let me know.

02:55:49.680 I'll get in touch with our boy, Mike D. 0.98

02:55:52.520 He'll hook it up with some fucking Burger Kings whenever you want. 0.99

02:55:54.940 Mike Davis, thank you. 0.99

02:55:57.160 All up and down the East coast.

02:55:58.700 He's, he's got the hookup.

02:55:59.860 So, um, yeah.

02:56:02.160 What's that?

02:56:02.900 I said a whopper.

02:56:04.160 He'll, he'll give you a whopper.

02:56:07.200 You don't have Burger King here.

02:56:09.440 We used to, I think.

02:56:10.500 Yeah.

02:56:10.720 A long time ago.

02:56:12.100 Is he, is he?

02:56:13.000 Look at, look at them right here.

02:56:14.300 Look at this. 1.00

02:56:15.160 Look at this fucking guy. 1.00

02:56:16.320 Look at this fucker. 1.00

02:56:17.140 Look at that guy. 1.00

02:56:19.400 How dare he?

02:56:20.900 Mike Davis.

02:56:21.640 If you're, if you're, uh, secretly watching.

02:56:25.220 Yeah.

02:56:25.640 He's, he's in his burger.

02:56:26.960 We changed it.

02:56:28.480 It used to be his normal photo, but, um, Mike Davis, if I don't see you next show by next

02:56:35.340 show.

02:56:39.140 It's coming down.

02:56:40.120 We'll send a search party.

02:56:41.080 Yeah.

02:56:41.560 We're, I think we need to send a search party.

02:56:43.260 Thank you.

02:56:43.600 Thank you for the assist there.

02:56:46.480 Okay.

02:56:46.880 So we have big flan life here with the, uh, Canadian $100.

02:56:54.480 Merci beaucoup.

02:56:55.380 C'est vraiment très génial.

02:56:57.740 Merci.

02:56:58.520 You probably don't even speak French, but whatever.

02:57:00.480 Tu parle français?

02:57:01.840 Oui, je parle français.

02:57:02.760 Toi aussi?

02:57:03.580 Oui.

02:57:04.240 Merde.

02:57:05.680 Oh.

02:57:06.980 Putain.

02:57:07.640 Putain alors.

02:57:08.460 Bonjour.

02:57:09.500 Sorry for the cringe earlier.

02:57:11.120 I instantly regretted it.

02:57:13.040 Hope everyone has a good night.

02:57:14.600 You're all beautiful.

02:57:15.440 You too.

02:57:16.220 Brian.

02:57:16.940 Thank you, man.

02:57:17.360 Appreciate it.

02:57:18.160 I forgot what he sent earlier.

02:57:20.080 I think it was the trans stuff.

02:57:21.460 Oh, no.

02:57:22.340 Is that?

02:57:23.400 Um, by the way, is this Leonardo NoCaprio?

02:57:26.100 Flan life?

02:57:26.660 Come on.

02:57:27.760 Yo, flan life.

02:57:29.040 Um, thank you for the big $100 Canadian.

02:57:32.800 How much is that?

02:57:33.380 Let's convert though.

02:57:34.520 We should control them.

02:57:35.380 Let me do conversion.

02:57:36.080 100 Canadian.

02:57:37.080 100 Canadian.

02:57:39.260 Bruv.

02:57:41.100 Abusing?

02:57:41.980 Chat is...

02:57:42.700 Okay, so, um, Eric, can you just type into Google 100 Canadian so we can show the chat?

02:57:48.500 I think flan life is kind of abusing here.

02:57:51.320 He's abusing.

02:57:52.260 Chat, is he abusing?

02:57:54.260 Um...

02:57:54.780 It's like $5.

02:57:56.060 Wait, really?

02:57:56.880 I thought it was like $80.

02:57:58.580 It's, uh, 74.

02:58:00.340 Chat.

02:58:01.560 He's kind of abusing the, the red, uh, you know, just saying.

02:58:06.300 No, I'm kidding, man.

02:58:08.900 Thank you.

02:58:09.200 Thank you for the support.

02:58:10.320 Um, yeah, maybe one day the Canadian dollar will equalize a bit better.

02:58:14.360 But, um, yeah, I appreciate the support, man.

02:58:16.100 Um, confirm or deny.

02:58:18.040 Are you Leonardo NoCaprio?

02:58:19.460 Okay.

02:58:20.020 Uh, we have flan life here with the subsequent, uh, Canadian $10.

02:58:24.420 So the $7.

02:58:25.720 How dare you, sir?

02:58:26.520 Um, I'm kidding.

02:58:27.460 Uh, do women find redheads slash gingers attractive? 1.00

02:58:31.520 I do.

02:58:33.780 Nah.

02:58:34.340 Uh, okay, so, I'm gonna be so real.

02:58:37.100 Like, I think ginger women are attractive, but for men... 1.00

02:58:41.900 Why did you point to her?

02:58:42.880 I'm not ginger.

02:58:43.260 Because she's ginger.

02:58:44.120 I mean, I'm not a redhead.

02:58:46.000 That's just dyed, right?

02:58:47.100 Yeah.

02:58:47.340 Are you...

02:58:47.740 Um, I believe the only people who can have, like, this natural hair is if, like, they're,

02:58:52.800 I'm pretty sure if they're, like, Mexican or, like, Latino, and they have the, um, like,

02:58:57.460 ginger hair gene. 0.89

02:58:58.680 Oh.

02:58:59.040 Yeah.

02:58:59.400 So my dad is actually a redhead with full body freckles. 1.00

02:59:02.840 Oh, shit. 1.00

02:59:03.580 Right? 1.00

02:59:03.660 Yeah.

02:59:04.340 Okay.

02:59:04.640 And it's actually from his Korean side, believe it or not.

02:59:06.540 Oh, wow.

02:59:07.400 Interesting.

02:59:08.480 Sorry, go ahead.

02:59:10.120 Yes, sometimes, but more often than not.

02:59:12.600 For some reason, when I was really young, I did, and I think that's because I had a thing

02:59:15.680 for Ronald Weasley.

02:59:17.740 Oh, God.

02:59:18.960 But now...

02:59:20.720 I mean, honestly, no, I really don't care.

02:59:23.740 There's no one that I, like, specifically don't find attractive, but more often than not,

02:59:26.880 I haven't been attracted to them.

02:59:28.440 Most of the time, I'm like...

02:59:29.840 I don't know why I played that.

02:59:32.400 Most of the time, I, like, dyed red hair, but most of the time when I've seen natural

02:59:39.160 redheads, I just don't think they're attractive. 1.00

02:59:43.940 I like...

02:59:44.660 I think it's cute.

02:59:46.360 Aw.

02:59:46.600 Thank you, Genders.

02:59:47.460 And freckles.

02:59:48.200 Yeah, the freckles are adorable.

02:59:49.880 I like freckles.

02:59:49.900 I like freckles.

02:59:49.920 These curly hair.

02:59:50.220 I like freckles are nice.

02:59:50.960 Yeah.

02:59:51.120 Flan life.

02:59:52.240 Her DMs are open.

02:59:53.300 Okay. 1.00

02:59:54.720 Shoot your shot. 1.00

02:59:56.620 Okay. 1.00

02:59:56.940 So, let's get back.

02:59:58.640 Anything dating related that you want to get off on your chest?

03:00:01.420 I think you, you, did you say, you said something, right?

03:00:05.320 I was, yeah, asking about everyone's, like, worst date, like...

03:00:08.320 Okay.

03:00:09.160 We could, we could do that really quick.

03:00:10.820 Yeah.

03:00:12.980 Do you want to start?

03:00:14.220 Oh, gosh.

03:00:14.820 What has been the worst date I've ever gone on?

03:00:17.400 Honestly, I've been on pretty decent dates.

03:00:20.560 The only...

03:00:21.320 I don't know.

03:00:23.500 Could we come back to me?

03:00:24.440 I need to think about it.

03:00:25.680 Oh, come on. 0.87

03:00:26.140 You asked the question.

03:00:27.060 I know.

03:00:27.360 But we'll move on.

03:00:28.080 Go ahead.

03:00:28.200 Okay.

03:00:28.580 So, I really, like, this guy and I just didn't vibe right.

03:00:32.240 Like, he initiated the date.

03:00:33.980 We met up at a bar.

03:00:35.080 Both playing our own tab, by the way.

03:00:36.480 Just fine.

03:00:38.660 And...

03:00:39.100 Equality.

03:00:40.500 I ordered my mark.

03:00:41.560 We're having some good conversation.

03:00:43.280 It's going to the part where we're just getting to know each other.

03:00:46.060 He immediately was like, well, meanwhile, back in the ranch, you know, me and my boys,

03:00:50.060 my aunt, Mama Jo, like, we went in, we went to the farm and did all this stuff.

03:00:54.320 And I'm like...

03:00:55.000 And it just came out of nowhere.

03:00:56.220 Like, the slang came out of nowhere.

03:00:57.920 And I'm like, okay, like, turn off there.

03:01:01.900 And then it kind of just persisted on to him showing me his guy's group chat.

03:01:08.100 Like, I know men have group chats, but, like, I'm not supposed to be seeing it.

03:01:11.340 Like, I know I'm not supposed to be seeing that.

03:01:12.500 You don't want to.

03:01:13.340 And this is a first date.

03:01:15.200 So, and he's, like, has five guys in this chat.

03:01:17.020 He's like, yeah, let me show you what me and my boys are talking about today.

03:01:20.060 And I'm like, okay.

03:01:21.400 So, you're scrolling.

03:01:22.580 Instantly, I'm seeing the nasty...

03:01:25.000 I mean, you guys know.

03:01:26.040 Like, no, like what?

03:01:26.800 And I literally tell him, like, look, you know, I appreciate the date and everything.

03:01:31.520 I'm having a good time for right now.

03:01:32.820 But I really feel like this is getting really appropriate.

03:01:35.040 I'm kind of feeling uncomfortable.

03:01:36.900 I even told him, I was like, if we can, like, change the topic, that would be great.

03:01:40.040 If not, I'm not going to finish my drink and I'm going to leave.

03:01:44.460 And he didn't like that.

03:01:45.700 I could totally understand that.

03:01:46.800 And I was trying to, you know, relieve the situation and be like, look, I had, you know,

03:01:51.060 we could just try to, like, start new conversation.

03:01:53.800 It just continued on.

03:01:57.280 And I ended up just leaving my drink and leaving.

03:01:59.720 And that was the first and only time I've ever done that and left somebody at the spot.

03:02:03.440 Good for you, though.

03:02:04.180 I mean, that's hard.

03:02:05.540 It just felt inappropriate.

03:02:06.620 I mean, I felt like no guy would want to share that information.

03:02:09.800 One, because that's his friends telling their private life.

03:02:13.260 Yeah.

03:02:13.620 Two, it really shows what kind of person you are.

03:02:15.800 And three, I'm not even in your circle yet.

03:02:17.700 First date.

03:02:18.380 Shouldn't be seeing it.

03:02:19.920 Yeah.

03:02:21.640 Yikes.

03:02:23.380 I wouldn't, well, I don't have a group chat, so I wouldn't be, but that, yeah, that's not

03:02:27.660 a good move.

03:02:27.940 Brian, you're friends, though.

03:02:30.420 What friends? 0.98

03:02:31.740 I'm a loser. 1.00

03:02:33.200 Lone wolf. 1.00

03:02:34.040 Lone wolf.

03:02:36.800 Bad date?

03:02:38.020 Bad date?

03:02:39.980 One.

03:02:40.380 Let's try to keep it short, though.

03:02:41.640 Oh, this is very short.

03:02:42.560 I remember once I was in Philly over the summer, and I was going out with this guy, and I think

03:02:48.840 it was, like, our second date.

03:02:50.240 It was kind of like, it was, there was always, like, this weird, awkward tension, like, we

03:02:53.440 can never really click, whatever.

03:02:55.480 We were in Rittenhouse Square, and we're sitting on this park bench, and I go to kiss him, but,

03:03:02.420 like, my hand, like, spazzes or something.

03:03:05.960 And, like, so I, like, put my hand on him like this, and then I just kind of, like, slap 0.94

03:03:10.280 him. 0.99

03:03:10.540 And he was, like, what the fuck? 1.00

03:03:15.780 And I was, like, oh, oh, I started freaking out. 1.00

03:03:18.140 I was, like, oh, my God.

03:03:18.720 It was an accident.

03:03:19.540 I was, like, no, there was, like, there was just a bug on your face.

03:03:21.960 Like, there's just something on your face, and then I just kept, like, touching his face,

03:03:24.380 and I was, like, I got it, I got it, I got it.

03:03:25.900 So that was bad.

03:03:26.660 And then after that, I found out that his brother was this guy who I hooked up with a

03:03:34.780 year before.

03:03:35.740 No.

03:03:37.240 That's embarrassing.

03:03:37.560 So that wasn't fun.

03:03:38.820 Yeah. 0.98

03:03:39.060 I know they're talking shit about me. 0.99

03:03:43.320 Wow. 1.00

03:03:43.780 Okay.

03:03:45.740 A bad date I've been on.

03:03:47.320 I had known this guy that I worked with before, and we had gone on, like, two dates before.

03:03:51.840 We stopped talking for, like, two years.

03:03:53.520 He asked me out again.

03:03:54.740 He was trying to be, like, oh, like, I want to buy you a new outfit so you can go out with

03:03:59.300 me, he sends me 50 bucks, and I was, like, uh, I'm going to need at least 100, so then

03:04:05.760 he sends me another 50.

03:04:06.940 I'm, like, okay, I guess.

03:04:08.220 He drives, he picks me up.

03:04:10.000 We drive all the way to Oxnard, and we go to Gen Korean Barbecue, so you, like, cook in

03:04:13.880 front of you.

03:04:14.260 So the whole time, like, he's just trying to be, like, all close and, like, touchy-feely

03:04:18.000 and, like, touch my leg, and I'm, like, okay, like, can we wait at least if you want to act

03:04:22.440 like that?

03:04:23.260 Whatever.

03:04:24.440 We leave.

03:04:25.520 We're in the car.

03:04:26.620 I tell him to put a song on that I love, and then I, you can tell if you don't know a song,

03:04:32.620 and he just tries to start singing the song, and, like, it was the cringiest moment of my

03:04:38.440 life, and he was, like, like, a second, like, completely off, and I was just, like, okay,

03:04:44.780 no.

03:04:45.180 He parks by the beach, and he's, like, so what's up?

03:04:48.000 And I was, like, uh, no.

03:04:50.720 I was, like, honestly, at this point, like, at this point, if you can't even sing the song

03:04:54.480 I like, and you're acting like you're trying to sing the song, like, take me home, and he

03:04:57.560 was, like, what?

03:04:58.600 Like, I bought you a new outfit.

03:05:00.640 I took you to dinner, and now you're acting like this, and I was, like, I'm gonna act

03:05:04.880 like this, because you're taking me home, and then he just got mad, and I was, like, well,

03:05:08.840 that's that, and then he just took me home.

03:05:11.480 Rip. 1.00

03:05:12.060 Damn. 1.00

03:05:14.780 Shit, I mean, like, if at the end of the date, someone, like, tries to guilt trip you into 1.00

03:05:20.380 being, like, well, I paid for you, it's, like, what am I, a fucking prostitute? 1.00

03:05:23.280 Like, that means nothing. 1.00

03:05:24.360 I still have choices.

03:05:25.780 If I'm not comfortable, I will leave.

03:05:27.500 Yeah, we don't like the manipulation.

03:05:29.260 No.

03:05:29.580 Uh-uh.

03:05:30.640 I don't have, mine, I don't have any, like, dates that went really bad, just, um, it's

03:05:39.200 just a bad date when you, like, think you're on a date, and then find out that it's not

03:05:43.080 a date.

03:05:43.640 That's the only bad dates I've been on, is, like, going on things that you, like, I, like,

03:05:47.120 thought were dates, and then.

03:05:48.520 So you're, like, when you friended a guy, and it's kind of like, ugh.

03:05:51.520 Oh, yeah.

03:05:52.300 That's when it happened?

03:05:53.300 Yeah.

03:05:54.200 Yeah.

03:05:54.680 That's tough.

03:05:55.340 I think, like, the only, like, worst thing that's happened is, like, a guy, like, him

03:06:00.040 not really wanting, like, saying he wants to go out on a date, and then he's just, like, 0.99

03:06:03.120 oh, like, you get there, and he's just, like, so, like, you down to fuck. 0.99

03:06:06.080 Like, date means have sex. 1.00

03:06:08.260 Yeah. 0.73

03:06:08.360 Like, that's what I don't like.

03:06:09.300 I'm, like, oh, I thought we were gonna, like, have a nice evening together, and, like, get

03:06:12.680 to know each other, but, okay.

03:06:14.900 Like, I think that's probably been the worst experience I've had.

03:06:18.580 Wait, he just was super blunt?

03:06:20.760 Oh, yeah. 1.00

03:06:21.060 He was, like, so, like, are you down to fuck? 1.00

03:06:23.120 And I was, like, uh, I'm, like, I don't even know you. 0.99

03:06:26.100 You're, like, you just picked me up five seconds ago.

03:06:28.440 Yeah.

03:06:29.500 No, or, like, when you're expecting, like, you, I feel like it's when you're not, you haven't

03:06:34.560 come up with a distinct plan, but you're expecting, like, either to go out to dinner

03:06:38.360 or, like, go and do something.

03:06:39.580 Yeah.

03:06:40.140 And then, oh, I actually, I do have a worst date.

03:06:42.760 I'll make it quick.

03:06:43.840 I was supposed to go on a date with this guy, and I had left my house and gone to get coffee,

03:06:48.560 and it was, like, nine o'clock at night, and I, he was supposed to be ready at eight,

03:06:52.420 so I went and got coffee, and I was, like, oh, I'll just, like, sit in the coffee parking

03:06:56.240 lot, and I'll, like, drink coffee and wait for him.

03:06:59.300 I waited in that parking lot for three hours until 12 o'clock, and I had,

03:07:04.560 I had been talking to this guy for, like, a couple months, and he just completely ghosted

03:07:07.840 me after that.

03:07:08.980 What?

03:07:09.560 Yeah.

03:07:10.640 I would, and it was really sad, because, like, the first time him and I ever hung out, like,

03:07:14.100 nothing happened.

03:07:14.900 Like, it was really great, and I was really enjoying his company, and then, like, all

03:07:17.960 of a sudden, like, he just ghosted me.

03:07:20.320 Yeah.

03:07:20.880 Wait, it was, so it was the second date?

03:07:22.820 Uh, we had been on, this would have been the third date, actually.

03:07:26.240 Third date.

03:07:26.520 What?

03:07:26.940 Yeah, and, like, the night before, he had been texting me, and, like, he was drunk, and he was

03:07:30.820 just, like, I like you so much, like, I'm so into you, I can't wait to see

03:07:33.820 you tomorrow.

03:07:34.620 Like, yeah, so I'm assuming that he's into me, because why would you tell someone that

03:07:39.340 if you're not?

03:07:40.300 And then, next day, like, I got all ready for this date.

03:07:43.520 Like, I bought a new outfit and everything. 0.99

03:07:45.520 Holy shit. 0.99

03:07:45.840 You should have told him to buy it. 0.99

03:07:47.180 I should have, but, yeah, and he ghosted me, and I waited in that parking lot for three

03:07:51.460 hours.

03:07:52.600 Yeah. 1.00

03:07:53.500 Damn. 1.00

03:07:54.000 Yeah. 0.99

03:07:54.680 That's where I would have left.

03:07:55.700 I know, I should have left.

03:07:57.480 20 minutes, yeah.

03:07:58.580 See, I really liked him.

03:08:00.440 Yeah.

03:08:00.600 Wait, did y'all, y'all smashed?

03:08:02.380 No, we didn't.

03:08:03.100 You didn't smash?

03:08:03.400 You didn't smash?

03:08:03.420 The second date, we made out, and that was it.

03:08:06.060 You didn't smash?

03:08:07.260 No.

03:08:07.900 No one?

03:08:08.200 Because I was really trying to get to know him, and he didn't seem like he was expecting

03:08:10.720 to smash.

03:08:11.420 First date, nothing happened.

03:08:13.180 Okay.

03:08:13.760 Nothing at all.

03:08:14.100 Kissed on the second.

03:08:14.980 Kissed on the second.

03:08:16.100 Like, made out more so. 0.99

03:08:17.800 Like, you know, grinding and shit, but then I thought on the third date we were going 0.98

03:08:23.560 to sleep together. 0.99

03:08:24.100 I was so down for it, but then he ghosted me, so.

03:08:27.140 Yeah.

03:08:27.820 Yeah. 1.00

03:08:28.420 Sucks for him. 0.99

03:08:28.960 He didn't get it. 0.88

03:08:29.840 So, did you ever get back in touch with him?

03:08:32.540 He did.

03:08:33.140 He hit me up.

03:08:33.800 He had my bathing suit.

03:08:35.860 Yeah, and this is back in Sacramento.

03:08:37.480 Maybe he had a girlfriend or something.

03:08:38.880 That's what I'm thinking.

03:08:40.020 He definitely just had a girlfriend.

03:08:41.320 He was like, no, like, it was fun to pretend I could do this, but.

03:08:43.920 Yeah.

03:08:44.220 Yeah, well, and then he texted me because I'm like, hey, can I have my bathing suit

03:08:47.480 back, please?

03:08:48.020 I'm going back to Santa Barbara, and he texted me, like, a month later after that, after I

03:08:53.760 sent that text, and he's like, oh, sorry, I was out of the country.

03:08:56.780 No.

03:08:57.260 Can I get back to you?

03:08:57.840 And I was like, don't lie to me.

03:08:59.600 Like, what?

03:09:00.580 Wait, so, but he, okay, so he ghosted you.

03:09:04.020 On the third date, he ghosted you.

03:09:06.200 Yeah.

03:09:07.640 And there was no communication with him until the bathing suit thing.

03:09:11.680 Yeah, and that was it.

03:09:12.060 He acted like nothing happened.

03:09:14.840 That's really weird.

03:09:15.840 I think so, too.

03:09:16.480 That's super weird.

03:09:16.960 I think so, too, because I thought we both had been, like, talking for a long time, and,

03:09:21.400 like, we had been going on these dates.

03:09:22.500 Like, I thought, I wasn't expecting anything serious, but, because I was going back to

03:09:27.140 Santa Barbara, and I think he was going back to Santa Maria, but.

03:09:30.740 That's weird, right?

03:09:31.800 Oh, he lived in Santa Maria.

03:09:33.460 That was your first red flag.

03:09:34.320 Well, no, he actually lived in Santa Barbara.

03:09:36.700 He lived in Sacramento and went to CC here, so we both would have been staying in the same

03:09:41.220 place at the same time.

03:09:42.180 How old was he?

03:09:43.500 Oh, gosh.

03:09:44.080 How old was he?

03:09:44.660 I think he was, like, 20.

03:09:47.540 So, same age.

03:09:48.100 So, he, did he meet up with you to give you the swimsuit, or what happened there?

03:09:51.220 No, I'm still, I texted him, I was like, he was like, oh, hey, sorry, out of the country.

03:09:54.820 I'm like, okay, when can I get my bathing suit?

03:09:56.260 He's like, I can drop it off soon.

03:09:57.920 I was like, okay, I live here.

03:09:59.880 Can you drop it off?

03:10:00.700 And then he also just hasn't responded yet.

03:10:03.060 Was this recently?

03:10:04.060 Yeah.

03:10:04.600 It was, like, two weeks ago.

03:10:06.480 Yeah.

03:10:06.660 No, I'm being serious.

03:10:07.660 It's been a Fortnite. 1.00

03:10:08.760 Yeah, I was about to say, damn, girl. 0.99

03:10:09.760 I didn't even tell. 0.99

03:10:10.400 Oh, my God.

03:10:11.020 I mean, I did get a new bathing suit, but I still wanted my bathing suit back, because

03:10:15.280 it was an expensive bathing suit. 0.99

03:10:18.120 Damn. 0.99

03:10:18.220 I was really sad. 0.99

03:10:19.000 Yeah.

03:10:19.260 I asked him on, like, Cash App or something.

03:10:21.240 Huh?

03:10:21.460 Yeah.

03:10:23.060 No, I don't want anything to do with him.

03:10:24.600 Why would I want to acknowledge anyone who, like, does that type of stuff?

03:10:27.740 Did you ask him, like, yo, what happened?

03:10:30.020 I did, and then...

03:10:31.140 He just never...

03:10:31.840 No, he just never acknowledged it.

03:10:33.720 Yeah.

03:10:34.620 That's a yikes.

03:10:35.560 I know.

03:10:35.800 I know what's bad, though.

03:10:37.460 Like, I feel so terrible at that, but I'm thinking, like, I know girlfriends who...

03:10:41.120 Girls should have to guys on a daily basis, like, really lead them on, like, because 0.99

03:10:46.140 they like them, but, like, you know, like, think they're going on dates, and then we'll

03:10:51.440 just ghost, like, out of nowhere.

03:10:54.020 So, I guess, like...

03:10:54.860 I wouldn't go that far along in ghost.

03:10:56.560 I would ghost when it's, like, appropriate.

03:10:57.980 But she... 1.00

03:10:59.100 Not only did she get ghosted, she got stood up. 1.00

03:11:02.180 Yeah, that's fucked up. 1.00

03:11:03.120 That's fucked up. 0.99

03:11:03.680 I think that's, like... 0.99

03:11:04.460 Standing up part is bad.

03:11:05.280 No, and, like, him and I had been, like, texting that night, and then all of a sudden

03:11:08.120 just complete ghost.

03:11:09.340 I mean, you shouldn't have waited three hours, though.

03:11:12.520 I know, I know. 1.00

03:11:13.000 Yeah, what the fuck? 0.99

03:11:14.440 Listen, I understand. 1.00

03:11:16.100 I know.

03:11:16.820 What are you thinking at two hours?

03:11:17.660 I'm a simp.

03:11:18.280 I am such a simp. 0.97

03:11:19.180 You're a simp. 0.87

03:11:19.540 I am a simp, yeah. 0.90

03:11:21.080 Huh?

03:11:21.500 Well, I mean, probably not after that guy.

03:11:23.160 He's probably...

03:11:23.660 That's some baggage right there.

03:11:24.820 I'm still a simp.

03:11:25.560 Okay, well, in any case, as far as people being late on dates, like, I think 30 minutes

03:11:30.100 max, and then...

03:11:31.300 You're out.

03:11:32.160 30 minutes max, and if they're 10 minutes, 15 minutes late, like, you need to be hitting

03:11:38.080 them up, ETA, like...

03:11:39.720 Yeah.

03:11:40.500 Are you gonna...

03:11:41.100 Are you still coming?

03:11:41.800 Are you gonna be here soon?

03:11:42.720 Give them a call.

03:11:43.620 Yeah.

03:11:43.980 But, yeah, 30 minutes maximum, and then you just leave.

03:11:47.700 I've learned my lesson.

03:11:48.580 You just leave.

03:11:49.320 It's funny, because his excuse was that...

03:11:50.600 Three hours?

03:11:50.980 His sister was at the house, so I should have known from then.

03:11:55.520 Maybe he gave your...

03:11:57.520 I didn't have it my...

03:11:59.380 Would that be a big L, like, if he gave your bathing suit to, like, a new girl he was dating?

03:12:02.720 Oh, my God.

03:12:03.120 Such an L. 1.00

03:12:04.140 Such...

03:12:04.540 Oh, God.

03:12:06.080 He's like, here, babe.

03:12:09.280 I got you a new bathing suit.

03:12:10.840 I got you a bathing suit, babe.

03:12:12.480 I love his sis.

03:12:14.340 Oh, my God.

03:12:15.560 All right, before I give you my worst date, I'm gonna do a couple soup chats.

03:12:18.160 Actually, before we do...

03:12:20.060 Before I do soup chats, can you pull up Twitch really quick, Eric?

03:12:23.840 Let's see who we got.

03:12:25.120 Twitch.tv slash whatever, boys.

03:12:28.740 All right, we...

03:12:29.800 Oh, wait.

03:12:31.060 Oh, okay.

03:12:31.500 I don't know.

03:12:31.960 Wait.

03:12:32.500 Did I...

03:12:32.920 Wait.

03:12:34.100 Was it this long ago?

03:12:35.980 Did I get caboose?

03:12:37.940 Scroll down.

03:12:41.100 Did I...

03:12:42.100 Scroll down.

03:12:43.980 Did I get caboose?

03:12:45.400 Are you sure I got caboose?

03:12:47.200 I don't know if I got caboose.

03:12:49.400 Scroll down just a bit more.

03:12:50.540 A bit more.

03:12:50.860 A bit more.

03:12:53.220 Dragomatic. 0.81

03:12:53.680 Thank you, Dragomatic.

03:12:55.160 Thank you, caboose, for the follow.

03:12:56.900 Thank you.

03:12:57.340 Wait, wait, wait.

03:12:58.120 Caboose for the tier one prime.

03:13:01.680 Or, sorry.

03:13:02.800 Wait, no.

03:13:03.480 Wait.

03:13:03.840 I did get caboose, right?

03:13:05.040 Five gifted subs.

03:13:07.080 Well, caboose, thank you for the five gifted.

03:13:08.580 Jay Pickles, thank you for the follow.

03:13:09.740 Dural, thank you for the follow.

03:13:10.880 Wreck...

03:13:11.400 Okay, I got these.

03:13:12.400 My bad. 0.99

03:13:12.720 I'm fucking up. 0.99

03:13:13.200 Go up. 0.98

03:13:15.140 Captain Brian, thank you for the follow.

03:13:17.000 Sour Milk and Pennies, thank you for the follow.

03:13:20.520 Sorry, tongue twisted here.

03:13:22.280 Josh on Gosh, thank you for the follow.

03:13:23.960 Guys, twitch.tv slash whatever.

03:13:25.980 We are currently live there, too.

03:13:27.420 The quality is way better on Twitch.

03:13:29.520 Drop us a follow.

03:13:30.520 Drop us a prime sub if you have it.

03:13:31.940 Totally free.

03:13:32.480 Amazon Prime.

03:13:33.160 Link it up.

03:13:34.780 Quick, free, easy way to support the show.

03:13:36.480 Okay.

03:13:37.280 So, let's see.

03:13:38.420 We got a bunch of super chats here.

03:13:40.340 We got Azul69.

03:13:45.200 Girl on left, so fine. 0.66

03:13:46.620 Just want to be her best friend.

03:13:49.960 Hold the door open for her. 0.97

03:13:51.200 Pay for her dinner. 0.98

03:13:52.780 Hold on.

03:13:53.300 Before...

03:13:53.860 Hold on, guys.

03:13:56.140 That is so beautiful.

03:13:57.960 Thank you.

03:13:58.880 He'll pay for your dinner. 1.00

03:14:00.440 I got to read this shit with a fucking fedora. 1.00

03:14:08.760 Okay. 1.00

03:14:10.560 Girl on left, so fine. 0.66

03:14:12.480 Just want her to be her best friend.

03:14:14.520 Hold the door open for her. 0.97

03:14:15.640 Pay for her dinner. 0.98

03:14:16.540 And turn my body into a human bridge.

03:14:18.960 So that she can walk across puddles. 0.92

03:14:21.440 Brian, take me out with an uwu. 0.96

03:14:24.380 Please.

03:14:25.120 Hold on.

03:14:25.360 I got you.

03:14:25.880 Hold on. 1.00

03:14:27.080 Fuck. 1.00

03:14:27.760 I'm fucking up. 1.00

03:14:28.480 All right. 0.99

03:14:32.200 Azul69.

03:14:32.680 Thank you, man.

03:14:34.180 Thank you.

03:14:35.220 Oh, my God.

03:14:36.140 That was so sweet.

03:14:37.560 Walk across those puddles.

03:14:39.180 So romantic.

03:14:40.960 All right.

03:14:42.080 Thank you, Azul.

03:14:43.420 All right.

03:14:43.680 We got Shane M.

03:14:44.940 $10 soup chat.

03:14:45.780 Thank you, man.

03:14:46.080 Appreciate it.

03:14:46.540 I'll be your friend, Brian.

03:14:47.320 Thank you, man.

03:14:48.580 I'm lonely.

03:14:49.920 I'm lonely.

03:14:50.880 Okay.

03:14:51.220 We got Dural.

03:14:51.860 Thank you for becoming a member, man.

03:14:53.060 Appreciate it.

03:14:53.520 We got Flan Life with the big $50 soup chat. 0.99

03:14:56.920 Yeah, you're fucking legend, dude. 1.00

03:14:59.600 Grats me, boys. 1.00

03:15:02.360 Mike D.

03:15:03.000 I want some burgers, bro.

03:15:04.220 Yeah, Mike D.

03:15:04.800 Where are you at?

03:15:05.440 Where are you at, dude?

03:15:07.640 Unfortunate.

03:15:08.360 Lukewarm with the $10 soup chat.

03:15:10.240 Thank you, man.

03:15:11.020 To the panel, do you think the opposite sex has it easier in general?

03:15:13.840 If so, would you trade places?

03:15:16.140 Lukewarm, let me, I'll pull this back up in a little bit just because it's a question.

03:15:20.340 We will get to it, though.

03:15:23.200 Eric, remind me if I forget, but we will pull this back up.

03:15:27.360 Dural with the $10 soup chat.

03:15:28.680 I'm Asian, or sorry, 10 British pounds.

03:15:32.060 I'm Asian, Indian, and had no issue attracting white girls. 0.99

03:15:35.160 Improve yourself.

03:15:35.760 Hit the gym.

03:15:36.300 Learn how to talk to women.

03:15:37.660 Go out and get rejected as much as Brian did.

03:15:41.240 Great example.

03:15:42.380 Yes.

03:15:42.940 I am the most publicly rejected man.

03:15:46.320 I'm the most publicly rejected person in the history of the world.

03:15:50.220 Have you guys seen those videos?

03:15:51.940 Uh-uh.

03:15:52.900 He walks up and, like, asks.

03:15:54.840 Well, okay, it was a set of social experiments. 0.89

03:15:56.800 We had a girl go up to guys, ask them straight up, hey, do you want to have sex? 1.00

03:16:00.780 Yeah. 0.91

03:16:01.400 Did that in IV.

03:16:03.180 She got a bunch of yeses.

03:16:04.740 I did the same thing, just going up to girls being like, hey, do you want to hook up? 0.92

03:16:08.080 Do you want to have sex? 0.96

03:16:09.660 No. 0.97

03:16:09.940 I got, well, I did it two times, once here in the U.S., once in Europe.

03:16:13.640 I got one yes in Europe out of 200, and none in the U.S.

03:16:18.100 So, technically, I'm the most publicly rejected human in the history of the universe. 0.97

03:16:24.520 That's a fucking Guinness World Record right there. 0.95

03:16:27.180 But, yeah, guys, you got to level up. 0.99

03:16:30.880 Hit the gym.

03:16:31.580 Get your money right.

03:16:32.580 Get your game right.

03:16:33.420 And it's a numbers game, guys.

03:16:36.120 It doesn't matter if you're white, black, whatever.

03:16:38.240 It's a numbers game when it comes to women. 1.00

03:16:40.200 You got to just got to be fucking doing, fuck, what is it, quantity? 1.00

03:16:44.800 You got to have the riz. 1.00

03:16:46.300 The riz. 0.66

03:16:46.980 The riz. 0.66

03:16:47.660 The riz. 1.00

03:16:48.680 Yeah, guys, you have to be, fuck, there's a term for it. 0.99

03:16:51.500 You got to be working quantity. 1.00

03:16:53.140 You have to be just, yeah, anyways.

03:16:56.280 Okay, Eric, can you pull up in the Dropbox podcast folder, can you pull up Habsburg Jaw?

03:17:11.040 Because I'm going to tell you one of my, I'll do two.

03:17:14.780 Okay.

03:17:15.340 I'm going to do the, what's it called?

03:17:20.640 Apparently, he was talking about a few people that were in it.

03:17:22.760 What?

03:17:23.520 Who?

03:17:25.160 Flanlife?

03:17:26.280 Oh, yeah.

03:17:29.780 Oh, girl on the, oh, I thought he was talking to Tara.

03:17:34.200 Did I, did I say it right?

03:17:36.100 Tara?

03:17:37.400 Oops, my bad.

03:17:38.420 You go back and forth on it.

03:17:40.020 Oh, I thought.

03:17:40.480 He does. 1.00

03:17:41.500 Oh, shit. 1.00

03:17:42.220 Okay. 1.00

03:17:42.840 I didn't know what he was talking about.

03:17:44.480 Did you pull up the Habsburg Jaw photo?

03:17:48.500 It's the Habsburg Jaw photo.

03:17:50.480 It's a photo.

03:17:51.120 It's like the guy, the painting, green.

03:17:53.740 Look for a green background.

03:17:55.160 Yeah.

03:17:55.680 One sec, guys.

03:17:59.360 We're just getting this pulled up here.

03:18:02.600 All right.

03:18:03.520 Oh, wait.

03:18:04.140 Hold on.

03:18:05.300 Just get it ready.

03:18:06.020 Just get it ready.

03:18:06.580 I'll just, I'll just tell the story.

03:18:08.120 Okay.

03:18:08.340 So, um, I think I've told this before, long time ago.

03:18:12.380 Uh, don't pull that up.

03:18:13.540 Don't pull it up. 1.00

03:18:14.040 Oh, fuck. 1.00

03:18:14.660 All right. 1.00

03:18:15.820 Okay. 1.00

03:18:16.400 Um, fucking Eric. 1.00

03:18:22.100 What are you? 1.00

03:18:22.360 That's a fucking 50 DKP minus. 1.00

03:18:27.820 What the fuck was that shit? 1.00

03:18:31.540 Okay. 1.00

03:18:32.200 Um, Eric, you're loot band for the week.

03:18:34.300 You're benched.

03:18:35.200 You're not getting, you're not getting your, uh, Eric, what class do you play in World of Warcraft?

03:18:41.180 Admit it.

03:18:42.020 Tell us the truth, Eric.

03:18:44.740 Eric, you, you play, you play a paladin, don't you?

03:18:48.740 I'll play a, I'll play a wizard.

03:18:52.180 There, there's no, there's no class.

03:18:53.420 Come on, Eric.

03:18:54.300 Come on.

03:18:54.920 Come on.

03:18:55.380 Okay.

03:18:55.820 Um, one of the worst dates on, on the hinge.

03:19:00.080 I think I met her.

03:19:00.820 No.

03:19:01.220 Yeah.

03:19:01.580 It was hinge.

03:19:04.120 Agree to meet up at a bar.

03:19:08.080 8 PM or it's like 7 PM, 8 PM.

03:19:12.140 Sure.

03:19:12.520 I don't know if I said sharp.

03:19:13.560 I probably didn't say sharp, but I said eight, 8 PM.

03:19:17.120 Right.

03:19:17.780 She texts me at 8 PM.

03:19:20.820 I'm already there five minutes early BTW by the way, because I'm punctual and for other

03:19:26.440 reasons, she texts me at 8 PM and says, Hey, I'm running a bit late.

03:19:34.740 I'm like, well, you could have texted me that 10 minutes ago before I left, but okay, whatever.

03:19:40.320 So I'm, I'm there waiting.

03:19:41.580 Right.

03:19:43.060 8 15.

03:19:44.120 She says, I'm getting in the Uber now.

03:19:48.060 I'm like, okay, she's coming from downtown.

03:19:49.980 Right.

03:19:51.360 8 30.

03:19:52.080 She arrives.

03:19:54.340 Something that I value a lot is someone who's punctual first date, first impression.

03:19:58.980 If you're going to be 30 minutes late, that that's a problem.

03:20:04.000 I'm a, I'm a be like, feel a certain type of way about that.

03:20:06.760 And it's okay if they're a bit late, like, and if they let you know ahead of time, but

03:20:10.380 she didn't really, she sent me two texts and she didn't let me know ahead of time.

03:20:14.140 But the big thing is when she showed up, there was no apology.

03:20:20.740 There was no, it didn't need to be, I didn't need like a, oh my God, Brian, I'm so sorry.

03:20:26.800 I just needed like, Hey, sorry, I'm late.

03:20:28.700 How's your night going?

03:20:29.640 There wasn't a token apology.

03:20:31.400 So I was like, okay, I'm going to torpedo this date and she was catfishing because she 1.00

03:20:42.000 was doing some crazy angle shit with her photos. 0.91

03:20:44.060 I mean, is that catfishing though? 0.95

03:20:46.720 If you know your angles, well, hold on because Eric, pull up the photo.

03:20:53.900 Zoom in, Eric, zoom in, zoom in.

03:20:55.860 Get that, get that nice.

03:20:57.300 Yep.

03:20:57.620 Keep going.

03:20:58.000 Keep going.

03:20:58.400 More, more, more.

03:20:59.420 Wait, less.

03:21:00.260 Yeah, there we go.

03:21:00.960 Yes.

03:21:01.860 All right.

03:21:02.880 I think she might've been like a descendant from the Royal line because she was, she looked

03:21:08.320 inbred.

03:21:09.080 I'm going to say it.

03:21:09.860 She, she literally had a jaw just like this. 0.98

03:21:14.620 She had a, it's called a Habsburg jaw. 0.98

03:21:17.480 Look it up on Wikipedia.

03:21:18.900 Okay.

03:21:20.000 And I was like, she looked inbred.

03:21:24.420 I'm going to say it.

03:21:25.260 I didn't, you look upset.

03:21:30.420 Okay.

03:21:30.940 Okay.

03:21:33.460 Yeah.

03:21:33.860 Don't worry.

03:21:34.280 We're, we're done soon.

03:21:35.060 We're going to be done soon.

03:21:35.840 But so I was catfished.

03:21:38.120 She was late.

03:21:40.440 So I forgot exactly what I did, but she was like,

03:21:44.060 I didn't even want to get a drink at that point.

03:21:45.500 She's like, do you want to get a drink?

03:21:46.460 I'm like, nah, I'm kind of, I don't really feel like drinking.

03:21:48.780 Like, let's just talk, whatever.

03:21:51.020 And then I don't know what I said, but yeah, let's just say like, I think we only hung

03:22:01.320 out for like 30 minutes and then the day was over.

03:22:04.320 Cause I was like upset.

03:22:05.700 I wasn't upset.

03:22:06.820 What did you say?

03:22:07.500 You know what you said to her.

03:22:09.080 I know you know. 0.99

03:22:09.700 I was just like, I was a little fucking like, I was like, all right, you're fucking 30 minutes 0.98

03:22:14.440 late. 0.98

03:22:14.940 Like you didn't even have the courtesy to let me know ahead of time.

03:22:18.240 You knew you were, oops, you knew you were going to be late.

03:22:20.840 You didn't even do like the polite thing, which would be if you're 30 minutes late to

03:22:25.480 apologize, let me go ahead.

03:22:29.240 I mean, I was kind of like a little bent out of shape, not going to lie.

03:22:32.320 And, uh, I didn't feel like drinking anymore.

03:22:36.000 And she was like, Oh, I really want to drink.

03:22:37.620 And I was like, okay.

03:22:40.080 Um, I didn't really say anything rude.

03:22:41.660 I was just like, I don't know.

03:22:44.540 I probably honestly, like I threw the vibe off cause I was already upset and like, maybe

03:22:48.560 I shouldn't have gone. 1.00

03:22:49.580 I wasn't like, fuck you. 0.99

03:22:50.860 But I was just like, I was kind of like standoffish. 1.00

03:22:55.580 You're upset.

03:22:56.560 Yeah.

03:22:57.020 A little bit.

03:22:57.660 Right. 1.00

03:22:58.000 But not, not upset in the, in the way of like, fuck you. 1.00

03:23:00.820 You're so rude. 1.00

03:23:01.660 I was just like, I was not impressed.

03:23:04.340 I was not impressed.

03:23:05.360 I'm like, okay. 1.00

03:23:06.000 And then you're fucking catfish and all this shit. 1.00

03:23:08.180 It's a lot added up. 1.00

03:23:09.280 Yeah.

03:23:09.760 I feel like it sucks that she didn't say sorry.

03:23:12.420 Cause like, I feel like not even acknowledging that you were late.

03:23:16.220 Like that's just weird.

03:23:17.720 My go-to would have been like, Oh, I'm so sorry.

03:23:19.700 Like, have you been waiting here long?

03:23:21.740 And then.

03:23:22.300 Yeah.

03:23:22.700 Or it'd have been like, thank you for me.

03:23:24.100 Or like something like definitely apologize first.

03:23:25.780 How late was she again?

03:23:26.800 30, 30 minutes late.

03:23:28.420 Yeah.

03:23:28.820 I think that 30 minutes late warrants an apology.

03:23:33.000 Again, I wasn't like expecting her to like get on the floor and beg for my forgiveness, 0.73

03:23:38.160 but just like, uh, as she was approaching, be like, Hey, sorry, I'm running.

03:23:42.380 I was running late.

03:23:43.220 How's your day going?

03:23:44.120 Yeah.

03:23:44.340 But it wasn't even that she just showed up and she was like, didn't acknowledge it.

03:23:48.240 And that not acknowledging it.

03:23:50.640 If she had said, Hey, Brian, I'm sorry.

03:23:53.180 I would have been like totally fine.

03:23:55.760 I would have been like, she was late, but Hey, whatever it happens.

03:23:58.340 She said, sorry, that's okay.

03:24:00.640 But not acknowledging it. 1.00

03:24:02.040 Then I'm like, okay, now you're a dickhead. 1.00

03:24:04.100 Yeah. 0.99

03:24:04.580 And I, and I think within a first date, first impressions are everything.

03:24:07.520 You know, that doesn't go, that goes along with just like on a first date to meeting

03:24:11.040 someone casually, you know?

03:24:13.140 So I think that carries on with everybody.

03:24:15.180 And I think, you know, especially in your, in your circumstance, like having that happen

03:24:20.300 in a first date, why would you want to carry on any longer?

03:24:23.660 You know, you're, you're faking it at that point and you're wasting your time.

03:24:27.100 I've had guys end it just because like I'm 15 minutes late and they said, I'm sorry,

03:24:31.680 but I genuinely, um, what is it called?

03:24:35.100 I value my time more than for you to be late.

03:24:38.000 So I'm just, I don't want to see you.

03:24:40.260 So I'm just going to leave.

03:24:41.160 And I'm like, I feel on my way, but okay.

03:24:43.860 I feel like if you do it respectfully, if like, you're like, Hey, I don't, or like,

03:24:49.120 could we reschedule or like, if it's really worth it, they'll want to reschedule.

03:24:52.880 But like, I feel like if you're running 30 minutes late, like that's, that's pretty late.

03:24:58.080 Yeah.

03:24:58.340 Eric, is the audio on 80?

03:25:00.400 Can you just check?

03:25:01.280 It sounds a bit, for some reason it sounds low.

03:25:03.400 I don't know.

03:25:03.860 But, um, yeah, that's, uh, it's definitely pretty bad if they're, if they're running late

03:25:09.580 like that. 0.98

03:25:10.180 And, uh, shit, I had something I was going to say, but it just slipped my mind. 0.99

03:25:14.360 You were saying something like you went on a date with a guy. 0.98

03:25:17.920 What happened?

03:25:19.580 Right now?

03:25:20.500 No, you went on a date with a guy, but you were running late.

03:25:22.680 Oh yeah.

03:25:23.280 It's, I think you said something.

03:25:25.340 It's the first impression, right?

03:25:26.780 Yes.

03:25:27.460 And if, if some people are kind of pretty mellow, like some people don't,

03:25:31.260 they don't care about that.

03:25:32.040 They're like, eh, whatever.

03:25:33.020 I'm just, but for me, like someone, someone being punctual is really important to me because

03:25:38.260 one, like one, it's just a disrespect thing.

03:25:40.600 You're 30 minutes late.

03:25:41.460 This is our first date.

03:25:42.480 You should be trying extra to be like, yes.

03:25:46.340 But oh, first date, 30 minutes late and Santa Barbara, like, come on 8 PM, 7 PM.

03:25:54.920 Like, come on.

03:25:55.960 There's not traffic at this hour.

03:25:57.580 Santa Barbara is a small town.

03:25:58.780 It takes 10, 15 minutes to get like, so it's just first impression.

03:26:02.540 It's already just no go.

03:26:04.280 And it's funny to me, like how, and I don't want to go back to it, but like how we, we

03:26:07.960 worry about like who's paying for the dinner versus like, Oh, how do I show this person 0.90

03:26:11.800 is that I'm actually giving a shit about meeting them and wanting to know a little bit more 0.97

03:26:15.360 about them. 0.98

03:26:16.140 And I think punctuality does show that.

03:26:18.420 Um, but it's, it's funny how we just value that so less.

03:26:21.920 And she could have totally was like, I'm so excited to meet this guy.

03:26:25.160 I'm really into him.

03:26:26.160 And she just took a little bit too long on her hair, but it's, it's the, it's the principle

03:26:31.360 of respecting people and putting others first.

03:26:35.740 And that's challenging within its own self.

03:26:38.080 I understand.

03:26:38.840 But yeah, I think that's where it all, it's the principle.

03:26:43.280 All right.

03:26:43.760 We have, uh, Shane M $10 to check.

03:26:47.620 Can we have a petition to have Eric on the show?

03:26:49.280 I just said that before I was like, before we started, do we do faith face reveal?

03:26:54.480 I was going to say, do we, do we do a face reveal?

03:26:57.120 Should we, should we do a voice reveal?

03:26:59.600 Eric, try to speak into that microphone right there.

03:27:02.580 Wait, no, don't, don't move it.

03:27:04.220 You can still speak into it.

03:27:05.820 Hello? 0.99

03:27:06.880 Oh shit, guys. 0.99

03:27:08.460 Contain. 1.00

03:27:08.880 I can't hear myself though on the headphones.

03:27:11.420 Oh, you should, really?

03:27:12.500 Yeah.

03:27:12.960 Um, wait, you can't?

03:27:14.940 Not if I go, yeah, no.

03:27:17.340 Oh, chat.

03:27:18.520 Can you hear Eric?

03:27:20.340 I bet chat can barely contain themselves.

03:27:22.560 Someone said Eric is handsome.

03:27:24.780 Eric is a handsome man.

03:27:25.840 Eric was made for television.

03:27:26.960 Because we can.

03:27:27.660 Yeah.

03:27:29.300 Yo, flan life.

03:27:30.920 Oh, Eric, did you want to?

03:27:34.980 I'll give my Instagram a shout out if you want to.

03:27:37.220 No, don't, Eric, don't, don't expose yourself.

03:27:39.900 Stay, stay, stay anonymous.

03:27:43.100 I'm on, um, a few of the stories.

03:27:45.700 Eric.

03:27:47.000 Well, Eric, don't expose yourself.

03:27:49.080 Stay anonymous.

03:27:49.840 Stay non.

03:27:50.320 Trust me.

03:27:50.800 Trust me.

03:27:51.540 Um, they're going to come for you.

03:27:53.020 The matrix.

03:27:53.520 Um, but, uh, yo, flan life.

03:27:56.520 Thanks for the big Canadian, uh, last, last time, dude. 0.98

03:28:00.300 Last time what?

03:28:01.120 What do you mean?

03:28:02.520 Wait, did he send another one?

03:28:03.800 He sent a hundred and then 50 and then a hundred.

03:28:06.340 Okay.

03:28:06.680 So I already got the previous last time, dude.

03:28:09.260 What?

03:28:09.780 Wait.

03:28:09.880 I think like.

03:28:10.600 Is.

03:28:10.900 Last time sending a hundred?

03:28:11.980 Yeah.

03:28:12.260 Oh, is.

03:28:13.380 Am I.

03:28:13.840 Was.

03:28:14.360 Was I abusing?

03:28:15.740 Eric, pull back up the Canadian conversion.

03:28:17.040 Oh, you did call him out.

03:28:18.200 You did call him out.

03:28:19.420 I'm kidding.

03:28:20.020 Flan life.

03:28:20.560 Change the name to Eric's show.

03:28:21.900 Wait, Eric, can you pull back up the conversion?

03:28:29.460 Just can a hundred Canadian. 0.96

03:28:32.880 Am I abusing chat chat?

03:28:35.600 Am I.

03:28:36.460 Was I abusing chat chat? 0.99

03:28:39.640 Um, shit. 1.00

03:28:42.480 Okay. 1.00

03:28:44.320 I'm kidding.

03:28:45.100 Flan life.

03:28:45.520 You know, I love you.

03:28:45.980 Thank you, man.

03:28:46.320 Appreciate the big Canadian, a hundred dollar soup chat, man.

03:28:48.540 Appreciate it.

03:28:49.480 Okay.

03:28:49.900 Um, so the, just to wrap up.

03:28:51.900 Wrap up.

03:28:52.340 Well, not to, sorry.

03:28:53.160 Not guys.

03:28:53.760 We're not wrapping yet soon, but not yet.

03:28:56.340 Um, the question was, is there anything dating related that you want to get off your chest?

03:29:02.100 You went.

03:29:03.140 Right.

03:29:03.700 I went.

03:29:04.620 You went.

03:29:05.400 Yeah.

03:29:05.660 I remember the guy.

03:29:06.780 Um, I met him at the bar.

03:29:10.020 Okay.

03:29:10.440 So, but that was in response to her, the bad date.

03:29:12.500 Do you have something to say?

03:29:14.000 Like, is there something about dating that frustrates you or is there something dating related you

03:29:18.020 want to get off your chest or men are pissing you off in some way?

03:29:21.160 You know, right now, everybody's been on my good side for the most part.

03:29:24.940 I really appreciate that.

03:29:26.580 Um, yeah, no.

03:29:28.300 Okay.

03:29:28.660 So far so good.

03:29:29.420 Anything dating related or any topics you want to bring up or.

03:29:33.240 I don't know.

03:29:34.260 Everything's going really well.

03:29:35.340 There's this one guy though, who I'm obsessed with and he will not let me hit. 0.87

03:29:37.980 So it's like really just super fucking aggravating.

03:29:41.180 I mean, for like very good reason, but.

03:29:43.640 Send him to this video.

03:29:44.760 He'll know now.

03:29:45.540 Oh.

03:29:51.260 So he's not letting you in.

03:29:53.940 Are you talking about pegging?

03:29:56.240 Pegging?

03:29:56.940 No, let me hit. 0.99

03:29:58.480 Oh.

03:30:00.000 But you said let you in.

03:30:02.080 No, let me hit. 0.99

03:30:04.060 Oh, I thought you said let him in.

03:30:05.560 No.

03:30:06.340 I don't know.

03:30:07.300 No, let her hit. 1.00

03:30:08.800 Like. 1.00

03:30:09.400 Like sex. 1.00

03:30:10.140 You wish to hit. 1.00

03:30:11.800 Yeah.

03:30:13.080 That's exactly what I wish to do.

03:30:14.880 She's going for it.

03:30:15.560 And you've been trying and he's just. 0.99

03:30:17.980 I mean, like we had a little thing for a minute, but then I did some like little psycho shit. 0.97

03:30:21.740 Oh, so have you guys. 0.99

03:30:23.220 I can't fucking tell you. 0.99

03:30:25.220 Can't spasm. 0.99

03:30:27.700 Tell us what happens.

03:30:29.420 No.

03:30:30.340 I literally can't tell you because his friends are probably watching this and they definitely know it was me.

03:30:36.920 Wait, have you guys hooked up before?

03:30:39.220 Yeah, like lately.

03:30:40.080 Like we never like had. 0.52

03:30:41.320 Sex. 0.98

03:30:41.840 Sexual intercourse. 0.99

03:30:42.960 Had the sexual intercourse? 0.99

03:30:44.260 Yeah. 0.98

03:30:44.400 Formal word.

03:30:45.480 Yeah.

03:30:45.940 Okay.

03:30:46.200 Professional.

03:30:48.200 But so what did you do? 0.99

03:30:49.980 Um, it was a couple things actually, but I just got really, fuck off. 0.97

03:30:59.160 I just, I got pretty drunk a couple of times and like was a little like annoying. 0.99

03:31:07.360 Um, that's some weird shit. 0.95

03:31:10.280 What did you say? 0.99

03:31:11.200 What did you say? 0.99

03:31:11.800 I can't fucking tell you. 0.99

03:31:12.800 Come on. 0.99

03:31:13.140 Give us one.

03:31:13.780 Can you give us one?

03:31:14.640 Give us one or two or three or the whole story.

03:31:20.380 Let me think about it. 1.00

03:31:22.060 Shit. 1.00

03:31:22.520 I can't remember. 0.99

03:31:23.140 I remember there was something around Thanksgiving.

03:31:24.920 I was like going around trolling people on my phone and I said something sexually Thanksgiving

03:31:31.740 related.

03:31:34.580 That would have been way better.

03:31:36.520 Wait, I think I know.

03:31:38.620 Was it, if your left leg is Thanksgiving and your right leg is Christmas, can I visit you

03:31:44.420 between the holidays? 1.00

03:31:45.640 No, but fuck. 1.00

03:31:46.320 I should. 1.00

03:31:46.780 Great.

03:31:47.200 That's a great pickup point.

03:31:48.700 I've seen.

03:31:49.320 No, but I was like trolling a lot of people.

03:31:50.960 So then I tried to play it off.

03:31:52.920 Like.

03:31:53.580 What did you say?

03:31:54.320 Come on.

03:31:54.980 Come on.

03:31:55.220 No, I'm not going to tell you.

03:31:56.500 Spill the beans.

03:31:57.040 He said something.

03:31:58.940 Wait, closer to the mic.

03:32:00.260 I cannot.

03:32:01.140 Okay. 1.00

03:32:02.020 Damn. 0.99

03:32:02.480 Anything dating? 0.99

03:32:03.240 So is that what you wanted to get off your chest?

03:32:05.400 Yeah.

03:32:05.600 Yeah, just like let me hit. 0.51

03:32:07.640 Do you think he's watching?

03:32:09.940 Definitely not.

03:32:10.620 He has much better things to do.

03:32:11.760 No offense.

03:32:12.360 But like.

03:32:12.660 He wouldn't want to watch me.

03:32:14.660 Send him the link.

03:32:15.900 Okay.

03:32:18.500 Not really.

03:32:19.720 I just.

03:32:20.500 How do I.

03:32:21.440 Oh my God.

03:32:22.760 How do you talk about pegging your boyfriend?

03:32:25.460 How do I turn my sneaky link into my boyfriend?

03:32:27.500 Wait.

03:32:28.060 Say that one more time.

03:32:28.920 Oh.

03:32:29.120 How do you turn your sneaky link into your boyfriend?

03:32:31.840 Oh.

03:32:32.360 Sneaks.

03:32:32.560 Is that what.

03:32:33.280 You want that.

03:32:33.860 I'm assuming.

03:32:34.640 Does he want that?

03:32:35.980 He does.

03:32:36.920 But he was in a five-year relationship.

03:32:39.060 And he thinks that like.

03:32:40.360 He's like traumatized from that.

03:32:41.920 Because she cheated on him. 1.00

03:32:43.320 And he thinks that I'm going to cheat on him.

03:32:45.540 But I'm not.

03:32:46.900 And like.

03:32:47.180 I don't know how to.

03:32:48.100 That's his own issue.

03:32:49.060 Wait.

03:32:49.280 Posture check.

03:32:50.060 Pull the chair in a bit closer to the table.

03:32:52.000 Wait.

03:32:52.400 Can you pass that water bottle over here by the way?

03:32:54.260 Just.

03:32:54.560 I feel like that's an issue.

03:32:57.820 He needs to get over.

03:32:59.580 You know.

03:32:59.920 Like he needs to resolve that issue on his own.

03:33:02.040 Like.

03:33:02.300 And also he can't like put his past trauma like against you.

03:33:06.220 Yeah.

03:33:06.640 He's actually doing you a favor.

03:33:08.120 Not.

03:33:08.560 Yeah.

03:33:08.920 Doing that relationship right now.

03:33:10.540 I think he needs some time because all he's going to do to you is just question everything

03:33:15.280 that you're doing.

03:33:15.980 Where you're at.

03:33:16.740 And you don't need that.

03:33:17.260 He's going because like we'll get drunk and then like he will go fully like tell me everything

03:33:22.480 how he feels about me and how he is ready but he's not.

03:33:27.080 But like I don't know.

03:33:28.140 Do you think he's like playing with your emotions kind of?

03:33:30.620 No.

03:33:30.980 I don't think so because like we're both.

03:33:32.480 I think you're not intentional.

03:33:32.860 Yeah.

03:33:33.280 But we're both also not seeing anybody else.

03:33:35.960 Like we do hang out and like we do go out to dinner and like we do go get drinks and

03:33:40.340 like you know like hotel rooms together.

03:33:43.000 So you guys are like dating without the title pretty much.

03:33:45.900 Yeah.

03:33:46.200 Okay.

03:33:47.260 I don't know.

03:33:48.640 It sounded like you wanted to.

03:33:50.640 Well yeah.

03:33:51.480 I don't know.

03:33:51.940 I mean his relationship thing in the past is different but I always I could be wrong

03:33:57.520 but I kind of feel like if you're already if you're just like casually hooking up with

03:34:01.900 each other I don't know how to like I feel like the time might have passed.

03:34:06.380 I don't know.

03:34:07.140 But that might just be me.

03:34:08.340 Like I feel like the easiest way to clearly get to get someone to be with you is to set

03:34:13.720 boundaries really early on of like either you're well because I think it's hard for a guy to

03:34:20.200 take you seriously in like the girlfriend way if they're already he's literally getting

03:34:23.800 everything he wants from you now isn't he.

03:34:25.820 So it's because in the beginning.

03:34:26.900 Not that he's just trying to take something from you but you know what I mean.

03:34:29.440 Because in the beginning it wasn't like we were just sneaky links and then we both admitted

03:34:33.600 that we do actually have feelings for each other and that we do both want to have a relationship

03:34:37.520 but we're both not completely ready because I'm not going to lie I'm not completely ready

03:34:41.240 to be in a relationship but I'd like to know that like we are actually only seeing each other.

03:34:46.380 Wait.

03:34:46.780 So you don't want to be in a relationship?

03:34:50.200 I do.

03:34:51.520 But you just said you aren't ready.

03:34:54.320 Not completely ready but I'm like pretty close so that's why I'm like.

03:34:57.720 When would you be ready do you think?

03:35:00.500 It just depends on how we go and like what happens.

03:35:05.840 What?

03:35:08.840 Can someone translate the?

03:35:11.040 It's complicated.

03:35:12.220 Yeah.

03:35:13.340 Situationship.

03:35:13.960 You can want something and not be ready for it. 0.98

03:35:15.900 Like I want a car but I certainly can't fucking drive. 0.96

03:35:21.900 I feel like you guys just. 0.98

03:35:23.020 It's not going to work.

03:35:23.580 I think you guys just need to communicate.

03:35:24.480 Wait you can't drive?

03:35:25.320 No.

03:35:25.720 Yeah.

03:35:26.160 What you don't have a license or DUI?

03:35:29.080 No.

03:35:29.720 Why would you automatically assume that?

03:35:31.700 You lost it or what happened?

03:35:33.280 No I just like don't.

03:35:34.540 I'm not good at driving.

03:35:36.180 Are you a bad driver?

03:35:36.500 Yes.

03:35:36.780 I'm a really bad driver.

03:35:38.220 I have really bad driving anxiety.

03:35:39.660 At least you admit it.

03:35:40.740 Some people would be like I'm a good driver and then they're like.

03:35:42.980 No.

03:35:45.900 Okay so you want him to commit to you?

03:35:50.900 What do you want?

03:35:52.780 Yes.

03:35:54.020 But you guys are not exclusive.

03:35:56.160 No.

03:35:56.840 But we.

03:35:57.080 So you're seeing other guys?

03:35:58.740 No I'm not.

03:35:59.800 He's seeing other girls?

03:36:01.000 No.

03:36:01.800 How do you know?

03:36:02.860 Because we've talked about it.

03:36:04.100 And this probably isn't a good backup but like his friend has told me too that like that's

03:36:11.300 not a good backup.

03:36:11.920 Never mind.

03:36:13.960 Not the homeboys.

03:36:15.220 Yeah. 0.99

03:36:15.820 Every single fucking time. 0.99

03:36:17.300 He would probably be covering. 1.00

03:36:19.680 Yeah.

03:36:20.560 So.

03:36:20.880 I would say you should just like take some space from this maybe.

03:36:25.660 He doesn't have any incentive whatsoever to commit if you're basically dating.

03:36:31.420 If you're not seeing anyone else.

03:36:32.960 You're having sex with him or whatever. 0.98

03:36:35.120 You know. 0.99

03:36:35.220 I mean you know hooking up with him.

03:36:37.320 You clearly care about him emotionally.

03:36:39.900 So.

03:36:40.900 Yeah.

03:36:41.120 I don't really think he has any.

03:36:43.460 Yeah.

03:36:43.980 Well it's because last weekend I also.

03:36:46.160 Kind of the same thing that happened with you.

03:36:47.600 Like you got drunk and you like.

03:36:49.160 That happened.

03:36:49.900 I got so drunk.

03:36:52.160 Yeah.

03:36:52.460 Like. 0.97

03:36:52.840 I don't remember doing that shit. 0.99

03:36:53.960 I don't either. 0.98

03:36:54.800 I don't either.

03:36:55.580 My friend was like oh girl.

03:36:56.900 I don't remember.

03:36:57.780 And I woke up the next morning.

03:36:58.720 He was like look what you did.

03:36:59.620 And he had three videos of me.

03:37:01.000 And I was.

03:37:01.920 Wait. 0.99

03:37:02.680 Fucked up. 0.99

03:37:03.400 And I was just talking into the camera. 1.00

03:37:05.380 And I was just like.

03:37:06.320 Oh my god.

03:37:06.800 I was like.

03:37:07.820 Where's your boyfriend?

03:37:09.420 Where's your boy?

03:37:10.180 Where's your man?

03:37:11.480 And like.

03:37:11.960 He was like laughing.

03:37:13.140 But then the next day.

03:37:14.420 I told him.

03:37:15.120 I was like honestly.

03:37:15.960 After this has happened.

03:37:16.860 Like you can ghost me.

03:37:17.640 You don't have to talk to me.

03:37:18.380 Like it's totally fine.

03:37:19.160 Like I get it.

03:37:19.900 And then.

03:37:20.720 The next day he was like.

03:37:21.740 How are you feeling?

03:37:22.500 Like are you feeling okay?

03:37:23.560 And I just.

03:37:24.060 I don't know.

03:37:24.460 Like that kind of.

03:37:24.900 Yeah.

03:37:25.160 Like you know.

03:37:25.480 Wait that's sweet.

03:37:26.200 Because I thought he was going to actually ghost me.

03:37:28.040 But he didn't.

03:37:28.680 And then we.

03:37:29.680 Now we took it every day.

03:37:30.740 So I don't know.

03:37:31.980 I feel like.

03:37:33.600 You guys need to put a definition on like.

03:37:36.520 Because what changes from you guys not being with each other.

03:37:39.560 And being boyfriend and girlfriend.

03:37:40.560 Like what changes?

03:37:41.540 Because if it's nothing.

03:37:42.400 Then you're giving him too much.

03:37:44.260 For like.

03:37:45.040 What you deserve in terms of like a title.

03:37:47.120 What is she giving him?

03:37:48.420 Well like I'm just saying.

03:37:49.500 Like there is.

03:37:50.680 Technically for him.

03:37:51.520 There is no incentive to like ask you out at this point.

03:37:53.580 Because you're giving him a hundred percent.

03:37:55.300 Like.

03:37:56.880 Because you guys have hooked up.

03:37:57.960 Like maybe like.

03:37:59.080 For example.

03:37:59.680 A thing could be like.

03:38:00.280 Oh.

03:38:00.640 Once you guys like become boyfriend or girlfriend. 0.95

03:38:02.600 Then you would have sex. 0.94

03:38:03.580 Like that. 0.99

03:38:04.120 Yeah.

03:38:04.280 Not saying that.

03:38:04.900 That's what you need to do.

03:38:05.780 But.

03:38:06.480 That would be an example.

03:38:07.820 Like if you give yourself too much.

03:38:08.960 A guy might not find an incentive.

03:38:10.880 To like maybe want to make you his girlfriend.

03:38:12.800 I mean that ship.

03:38:13.480 That ship has sailed.

03:38:14.760 I assume.

03:38:15.900 So.

03:38:16.620 Okay.

03:38:17.600 We'll see him tomorrow.

03:38:18.380 We'll see.

03:38:18.680 Well yeah.

03:38:21.600 I mean.

03:38:21.980 You have to ask yourself.

03:38:23.340 In today's.

03:38:24.020 Today's day and age.

03:38:26.540 What.

03:38:27.540 Do men.

03:38:28.640 Get.

03:38:30.060 For.

03:38:31.580 A label.

03:38:32.700 For commitment.

03:38:33.820 For marriage.

03:38:35.320 I don't want to talk about marriage.

03:38:36.740 I don't like.

03:38:37.060 I hate marriage.

03:38:37.960 What's that?

03:38:38.380 You don't want to talk about marriage?

03:38:39.300 No.

03:38:39.700 I hate marriage.

03:38:41.260 Right.

03:38:41.740 But like.

03:38:42.720 Men.

03:38:43.120 Men are getting. 0.94

03:38:44.440 The things that were previously reserved.

03:38:46.940 For.

03:38:47.760 Marriage.

03:38:48.180 And then it's.

03:38:49.220 Previously reserved.

03:38:50.000 For long-term committed relationships.

03:38:52.840 Men are getting that. 0.66

03:38:56.100 On the first.

03:38:57.140 Second.

03:38:57.720 Third date.

03:38:58.800 So.

03:38:59.640 What's.

03:39:00.480 The.

03:39:01.200 Incentive.

03:39:03.720 Your commitment.

03:39:04.900 I don't know.

03:39:05.200 It sounds like you guys already committed to each other.

03:39:07.060 I mean.

03:39:07.480 Yeah.

03:39:07.820 I think you.

03:39:08.720 You may as well be boyfriend and girlfriend and everything but in name.

03:39:12.720 Yeah.

03:39:14.280 But what.

03:39:14.980 What would change if you took the next step?

03:39:17.520 What would be different? 1.00

03:39:18.940 Would you go on fucking cutesy dates and shit? 1.00

03:39:21.580 Yeah. 1.00

03:39:21.860 Why do you.

03:39:22.240 Why do you.

03:39:22.780 What are you like wanting that you feel like you're lacking?

03:39:27.220 I guess just the title. 0.99

03:39:29.220 Well then that's stupid and you like shouldn't worry about it. 0.99

03:39:31.420 Or not. 1.00

03:39:31.660 Or maybe just.

03:39:33.120 Invalidate your emotions but.

03:39:34.040 Yeah.

03:39:34.500 Just.

03:39:35.040 That's not.

03:39:35.960 Yeah.

03:39:36.060 That's not really substantive.

03:39:37.400 If you're.

03:39:38.120 If genuinely what you want is to have intimacy with this person.

03:39:41.660 To feel emotionally connected with them and to spend time with them.

03:39:43.380 You have everything you want.

03:39:44.120 So just like.

03:39:45.120 Don't make a problem out of something that doesn't need to be.

03:39:47.900 Have you asked him like hey do you want to be official or do you want to be boyfriend girlfriend?

03:39:53.140 He said yes but he wants to wait for the times right.

03:39:56.580 He's not that into you.

03:39:58.160 No.

03:39:59.120 He's not.

03:39:59.780 Yeah.

03:40:00.200 I don't think he's that into you.

03:40:02.400 I don't know.

03:40:03.420 I feel like there's so much we don't know.

03:40:05.700 Yeah.

03:40:06.020 Already.

03:40:06.620 Like there's so much substance behind it that we don't know.

03:40:09.640 How long have you been seeing him?

03:40:11.480 Two months.

03:40:12.840 That's not very long.

03:40:13.380 I mean it's still kind of early.

03:40:15.240 When did you bring up that you wanted to be whatever?

03:40:18.320 Like three to four weeks ago.

03:40:20.940 Okay.

03:40:21.380 I feel like you have so much time.

03:40:23.600 Because like you don't even really get to know a person until like three months in.

03:40:26.160 But it's because we also knew each other in high school.

03:40:28.360 Oh.

03:40:30.700 I don't know.

03:40:31.100 It's so complicated.

03:40:32.220 It's pretty early.

03:40:33.420 I don't know what to say.

03:40:34.640 It's pretty early. 0.99

03:40:35.540 I'm a psychopath. 0.96

03:40:36.260 No one said to me. 0.91

03:40:37.060 That's why I was like.

03:40:39.380 Yeah.

03:40:39.780 It's pretty early.

03:40:41.180 It's pretty early.

03:40:42.280 But if he gives you that answer at like three, four, five, six months in.

03:40:46.540 Mm-hmm.

03:40:47.420 He wants to keep you around.

03:40:49.560 But I don't think he wants.

03:40:52.460 That's what I would be nervous about.

03:40:54.040 Like as a girl. 0.80

03:40:55.580 Like he's.

03:40:55.620 That's why because like I don't want to keep going into it just for me to have more feelings.

03:40:59.180 And then in the end him being just like, oh, I'm just kidding.

03:41:02.920 You know?

03:41:03.960 Yeah.

03:41:04.880 I feel like you've given him.

03:41:05.980 I'm just kidding.

03:41:06.520 Once you're actually ready to commit.

03:41:08.740 You're not in like your limbo area still.

03:41:10.480 Mm-hmm.

03:41:10.620 Once you're ready, if he's not ready by that point, I kind of would put it on the back burner.

03:41:14.100 Also, if you say that you're not ready for a relationship, then one, I wouldn't worry

03:41:18.060 about like feeling like you need one.

03:41:19.900 And two, I don't know if I would be seeing someone as if you were in a relationship if

03:41:23.540 you aren't ready for one.

03:41:25.140 But I'm also like right now not seeing it as in we're in a relationship because like

03:41:29.000 if guys hit me up, like I'll text back, but I'm not going to go over and like.

03:41:32.780 Well, I wasn't saying that.

03:41:34.040 I just mean like if you're in a place where you're not ready for a relationship, maybe you

03:41:37.300 should just take some time like without guys at all.

03:41:39.540 Mm-hmm.

03:41:41.020 Is what I was like.

03:41:42.700 Yeah, maybe like take a break from him.

03:41:44.900 See how he reacts.

03:41:46.460 Yeah.

03:41:46.900 Because I feel like that will maybe it'll put some clarity for yourself and for him.

03:41:50.620 Mm-hmm.

03:41:51.100 You know?

03:41:51.680 I don't know if that's no offense.

03:41:53.480 I don't think that's good advice.

03:41:54.760 If a girl says, at least for me, if a girl says, I want to take a break. 1.00

03:42:00.320 I wouldn't say take a break.

03:42:01.160 It's a wrap. 0.72

03:42:01.680 I would just ghost him.

03:42:02.580 No.

03:42:02.940 Oh, that's okay.

03:42:04.660 I meant like I don't know how much time you guys are spending together, but like maybe just

03:42:08.540 like take a little bit less time.

03:42:10.120 Like, I don't know.

03:42:10.620 If you're seeing him every day, then maybe don't see him every single day.

03:42:12.900 No, I don't see him every day.

03:42:13.440 Okay.

03:42:14.380 No.

03:42:14.580 Honestly, I would just, I just don't, I don't know if it's, um, I definitely just would

03:42:20.720 not get your emotions attached.

03:42:22.160 I don't think it's, this is hard.

03:42:23.960 This one's a hard one to like come back from.

03:42:26.420 If he's telling you he has like relationship trauma, you're not ready for relationship.

03:42:31.580 I just like would not get your emotions involved in this.

03:42:34.260 Yeah.

03:42:34.480 Yeah.

03:42:35.360 But you like him as a friend, right?

03:42:36.920 I do.

03:42:37.360 Then hang out with him.

03:42:38.460 Take it day by day.

03:42:39.580 Cause we've told each other, like we have fun with each other and like, we genuinely

03:42:42.740 like each other's company and it's not about like, yeah.

03:42:46.360 All of the other stuff.

03:42:47.480 It's just like, all right, let's move on.

03:42:52.320 Uh, do you, do you have a, something dating related that you want to get off your chest?

03:42:56.740 I have one thing.

03:42:58.100 Let's, let's hear it.

03:42:59.260 I have a newfound respect for all guys and just everyone in general who shoots their

03:43:08.000 shot, but especially guys, because like we always say, there is like more guys are mainly

03:43:12.740 the ones doing it because I recently shot my shot with someone and I had a crush on him

03:43:18.880 for like, it took like a couple of weeks and it took, it took me three weeks to get the

03:43:27.140 courage to shoot my shot and my heart was like pounding.

03:43:31.020 I was like so nervous, like kept wanting to do it and then I would chicken out and like

03:43:35.080 another person would come and I would just, I would just chicken out, but it took, took

03:43:38.200 like all the balls I had and yeah, everything, everything.

03:43:42.780 I mean, it was absolutely terrifying. 0.96

03:43:44.580 And then.

03:43:45.920 Did he say yes?

03:43:48.920 So yeah, all I asked was just, you know, to like hang out sometime, you know, and that's

03:43:57.140 worked out like he did, but it wasn't just us.

03:43:59.360 So it wasn't like officially a date, you know, there was also like my friend there.

03:44:03.820 And so like, we didn't, what did I mess up, Ryan?

03:44:09.060 Okay.

03:44:09.800 Well, I just didn't, you know, we just coordinated like, oh, we'll both, you know, maybe we'll

03:44:13.760 get drinks or like he was saying he was going downtown for drinks.

03:44:18.640 I was like, oh, I'm going downtown.

03:44:20.640 Just to clarify, you asked him to go on a double date or you just did this in front of a friend?

03:44:23.840 No, I just, I thought, I thought it was like, we were both going to have friends.

03:44:27.360 We were both going to like happen to meet up in the same place, same time, like both

03:44:33.000 having friends, but it ended up just being the three of us.

03:44:35.240 Oh.

03:44:35.920 Yeah.

03:44:36.820 Which was fine.

03:44:37.640 I mean, I enjoyed it.

03:44:38.360 I got to spend one-on-one time with him.

03:44:39.940 That's all I wanted.

03:44:40.520 It was just like, get to know better.

03:44:41.520 I'm not going to like fall in love with a guy I haven't gotten to spend that much time

03:44:43.980 with.

03:44:44.280 Yeah.

03:44:44.540 That's smart.

03:44:45.080 But so the only thing is that like, I don't know, he might not know yet that I'm into him

03:44:49.960 like that because we didn't kiss, obviously it was like, it wasn't even, it wasn't even

03:44:55.900 a full first date.

03:44:56.680 It was like a half first date.

03:44:58.540 So yeah.

03:45:00.300 But we, we.

03:45:01.240 Is he watching the show?

03:45:02.640 I doubt it.

03:45:04.920 Wait, you didn't kiss?

03:45:06.120 No, we didn't even kiss or anything.

03:45:08.280 But he knows you're into him?

03:45:09.740 No, I'm saying he might not even know I'm into him.

03:45:11.860 Because I just, I tried to, I was, my heart was right.

03:45:15.240 I was like so worried as that I, I was pretty subtle with it.

03:45:18.860 Yeah.

03:45:19.060 Like he might just think it was a friend thing.

03:45:21.200 Yeah.

03:45:21.800 Yeah.

03:45:22.320 But we like sat on the beach and just talked for until like 1am in the morning and that

03:45:28.400 was really sweet.

03:45:29.460 That's cute.

03:45:30.420 Yeah.

03:45:30.760 Yeah.

03:45:31.200 I don't, I feel like he definitely has a hint.

03:45:34.020 You guys, hold on, hold on, hold on.

03:45:36.680 Y'all sat on the beach and talked.

03:45:39.180 You've never done that.

03:45:39.920 That's pretty intimate.

03:45:44.760 I mean, if you can have conversation like that, that's where it's challenging.

03:45:48.360 Especially if you were just at the club and then you're drinking and then you're like

03:45:51.380 let's go walk to the beach.

03:45:53.560 But I still, we weren't at a club or anything like that.

03:45:56.420 Well, like at a bar.

03:45:58.020 Yeah.

03:45:58.440 But I, like, I still don't know.

03:45:59.780 I'm still nervous because I still don't know if he's into me or not.

03:46:02.560 And yeah.

03:46:04.000 So that's for him.

03:46:04.760 But it took everything in me just to ask this person, like hang on sometime.

03:46:07.120 Well, props to you for making me.

03:46:09.480 So now I have respect for everyone who shoots a shot.

03:46:13.520 It took you three weeks?

03:46:14.900 It took me three weeks to get the courage.

03:46:16.740 Wow.

03:46:17.240 But you didn't even really ask him out though.

03:46:19.680 I know.

03:46:21.420 I didn't even do that.

03:46:22.420 I was just like, do you know?

03:46:24.800 Like, you said, oh, maybe we can hang out in a friend group.

03:46:29.020 But I was like, oh, my friends, I'm going, I'm going like.

03:46:34.140 But then so what?

03:46:34.840 He ditched his friends to go hang out with you.

03:46:36.820 Yo.

03:46:37.180 So this is, okay, let me tell you what happened.

03:46:39.460 And I hope he's not watching.

03:46:40.280 This is what happens.

03:46:40.940 And you guys can tell me if you think, is he into me or not?

03:46:43.320 So he lives in Ventura.

03:46:45.080 He drove.

03:46:46.000 I thought he was going to come with friends.

03:46:47.820 But he drove all the way to me and down, me and my friend in downtown.

03:46:52.800 And we, you know, got some drinks.

03:46:53.960 And then he was like, there's no way I'm letting you girls like have to pay for a $30 Uber. 1.00

03:46:57.320 So first of all, he buys our drinks.

03:46:58.440 And then he drives us all the way to IV and then drives.

03:47:04.400 And then, yeah, we see it.

03:47:05.980 Then it's just me and him, you know, talking.

03:47:07.980 And then he drives all the way from IV to Ventura.

03:47:13.360 That sounds like he's into you, girl.

03:47:15.800 Yeah.

03:47:16.320 Definitely.

03:47:17.240 Girl, stop acting clueless.

03:47:18.580 Yeah. 1.00

03:47:18.960 Like, shut up. 1.00

03:47:20.080 You know he wants you. 1.00

03:47:21.100 You just do your thing.

03:47:21.400 Well, okay, here's the bad part, though.

03:47:24.000 I don't know.

03:47:24.720 I hope no one I know is watching this.

03:47:26.500 It would just expose everything.

03:47:28.760 But he is, I think he's seeing someone that I work with.

03:47:34.540 And so, yeah.

03:47:36.300 So that's why.

03:47:37.500 So, yeah.

03:47:39.440 Well, he still wants to hang, right?

03:47:42.960 I feel like he might be responsible enough to not want to, like, start drama.

03:47:47.500 So he wouldn't.

03:47:48.180 Oh, he doesn't care about the drama.

03:47:49.580 I think he's down.

03:47:50.560 He probably would have told you.

03:47:52.200 He's probably nervous.

03:47:52.400 He probably would have told you, hey, I don't think it's a good idea to go hang as friends.

03:47:57.540 Yeah.

03:47:57.840 If he even had that slightest, like, question.

03:48:01.400 But I think he's kind of curious.

03:48:03.560 Yeah, definitely.

03:48:04.440 Where's your phone?

03:48:07.380 Take your phone out.

03:48:09.120 Oh.

03:48:10.480 All right.

03:48:11.080 Send him a text right now.

03:48:13.000 OMG.

03:48:13.600 Okay.

03:48:14.480 Send him a text. 1.00

03:48:16.580 Fucking point blank. 1.00

03:48:17.840 No bullshit. 1.00

03:48:20.220 I don't know. 0.95

03:48:20.760 You guys can get feedback on what exactly she should send.

03:48:23.620 But, like.

03:48:24.100 I mean, from a guy's.

03:48:25.000 Just be straight up.

03:48:25.380 Just be like, yo.

03:48:27.440 Would you like to.

03:48:28.860 Okay.

03:48:29.420 This is the other thing.

03:48:30.540 Oh, what's.

03:48:31.360 This is the one other thing, you guys.

03:48:33.900 He does work with me.

03:48:36.920 Oh, my God.

03:48:37.260 So I.

03:48:37.980 I know.

03:48:38.460 So I'm like, he's a nice guy.

03:48:40.520 I had so much time talking to him.

03:48:42.460 But, I don't know.

03:48:43.540 I feel like.

03:48:44.160 I feel like doing anything with a coworker is just not worth it.

03:48:46.480 Like, it's not worth pursuing.

03:48:47.580 And you also work with this other girl. 0.92

03:48:49.740 And I work with a girl that he might be seeing.

03:48:51.040 That's the key factor in this.

03:48:53.120 And his ex-girlfriend used to work where I work.

03:48:55.940 So all our coworkers know her.

03:48:58.040 Nah.

03:48:58.140 Drone.

03:48:58.720 Okay.

03:48:59.160 I'm so sorry.

03:49:00.220 I hope he's not watching.

03:49:00.980 But the group decided.

03:49:02.540 It's a no-go.

03:49:03.560 Yeah.

03:49:03.920 There's so many other men you could have.

03:49:05.800 See, the girls vetoed it. 1.00

03:49:07.160 I mean.

03:49:07.440 They think it's too much.

03:49:07.860 Where do you work?

03:49:09.620 Oh, now I'm not.

03:49:10.760 Now I'm really.

03:49:11.360 Sorry, sorry.

03:49:12.180 What.

03:49:13.780 Is it a restaurant?

03:49:14.840 What do you do?

03:49:15.440 It's a restaurant, yeah. 0.99

03:49:16.720 Who gives a fuck? 0.99

03:49:18.040 It's not a corporate job. 1.00

03:49:19.600 It's a fucking restaurant. 1.00

03:49:20.740 You can go get a job. 1.00

03:49:22.120 Some other bullshit restaurant. 0.99

03:49:23.780 So when you score him, you two get out. 1.00

03:49:27.260 Wait, what?

03:49:27.960 I said when you guys.

03:49:28.720 When you score him, then you guys can both go out.

03:49:30.940 Like, out.

03:49:31.920 Like, work somewhere else.

03:49:33.380 Oh.

03:49:33.880 Yo.

03:49:34.200 Okay.

03:49:34.760 Let's ask the chat.

03:49:35.600 I love my job, though.

03:49:36.420 Yeah.

03:49:36.660 I don't know, chat.

03:49:37.380 What do you think?

03:49:38.080 He's a great guy.

03:49:39.780 One in the chat.

03:49:40.620 Should she text him right now?

03:49:43.100 Should she text him right?

03:49:44.280 One in the chat.

03:49:44.820 If she should text him right now.

03:49:46.180 And confess her love.

03:49:48.860 I'm not in love with him.

03:49:50.200 Admit it.

03:49:50.760 I'm not going to be in love with him.

03:49:51.420 I know you love him.

03:49:52.320 I'm going to be in love with someone I like.

03:49:57.080 What does the one mean?

03:49:58.180 Wait, what are the ones for him?

03:49:59.420 One.

03:50:00.040 That means you have to text him.

03:50:01.640 You have to text him right now and be like.

03:50:03.260 Oh, my God.

03:50:03.640 One.

03:50:04.140 I don't think it would hurt.

03:50:06.340 What if it doesn't go?

03:50:07.880 What if it's awkward?

03:50:08.920 And then I work with him.

03:50:10.140 It's only awkward if you make it awkward.

03:50:12.260 Yeah, that's true.

03:50:13.620 Period.

03:50:14.320 Oh, my God.

03:50:14.920 You guys.

03:50:15.360 Okay.

03:50:16.400 You could quit.

03:50:18.060 But wouldn't you rather know than tiptoe around it?

03:50:21.160 He could quit.

03:50:22.720 Yeah.

03:50:23.660 He could do it.

03:50:24.860 Just do it.

03:50:25.780 Oh, she's going to do it.

03:50:27.180 Oh, my God.

03:50:27.520 Bullying, she's going to do it. 1.00

03:50:29.060 Okay.

03:50:29.720 What does she send?

03:50:31.320 She sends.

03:50:31.560 See, don't do it for real.

03:50:33.480 Work relationships never work.

03:50:34.940 That is true.

03:50:35.020 It's not like I'm interested in, like, casual sex. 0.77

03:50:37.220 I'm not looking for someone to, like, have sex with.

03:50:39.280 How long have you known him?

03:50:41.300 Like a month.

03:50:43.420 Here.

03:50:44.200 Just.

03:50:45.420 YOLO.

03:50:45.920 Just send W-Y-D. 1.00

03:50:48.740 What?

03:50:49.300 W-Y. 0.51

03:50:49.740 That's not my style, Brian.

03:50:50.880 What you doing?

03:50:51.360 Like I say, what you doing?

03:50:52.540 Yo, it's 11.11 p.m.

03:50:54.140 Okay.

03:50:54.440 This is.

03:50:55.280 Do you want to.

03:50:55.740 Should I say the text I sent and you can tell me if I was giving my friend vibes?

03:51:01.080 Listen.

03:51:01.500 Just be like.

03:51:02.100 Voulez-vous coucher avec moi ce soir?

03:51:03.900 Oh.

03:51:04.080 A little rendezvous.

03:51:05.520 That's so sexy.

03:51:06.340 A little rendezvous.

03:51:07.180 But you don't think it's like.

03:51:08.380 So, if I just be like, would you like to go, like, go on a date?

03:51:11.720 I don't know.

03:51:11.860 You know what?

03:51:12.300 I'd rather it be him.

03:51:13.240 I think you're overthinking it too much.

03:51:14.280 Bruv.

03:51:14.900 For.

03:51:15.200 Okay.

03:51:17.300 One, you work with him.

03:51:18.380 One, he lives in Ventura.

03:51:20.260 Yeah.

03:51:20.540 Yeah.

03:51:20.720 Listen.

03:51:21.000 I don't want to drive more than 20 minutes.

03:51:23.600 I don't know about you.

03:51:25.200 But, like.

03:51:26.000 Well, he does drive into town for.

03:51:27.720 Wait.

03:51:28.000 Hold on.

03:51:28.300 He works at a restaurant?

03:51:29.400 Yeah.

03:51:30.020 He commutes.

03:51:31.580 For a restaurant?

03:51:32.540 To work in a restaurant.

03:51:33.480 Is he the manager?

03:51:34.820 No.

03:51:35.140 Well, kind of.

03:51:36.040 He's just a bartender.

03:51:36.840 He's the lead bartender.

03:51:38.120 There's not bars in Ventura?

03:51:39.760 Literally.

03:51:40.080 I don't know.

03:51:40.920 Don't ask me.

03:51:41.800 He really likes to sell bars in Ventura.

03:51:42.740 Why would you commute to a restaurant job?

03:51:47.120 Like, that doesn't make any sense.

03:51:48.420 I don't know.

03:51:49.020 I don't know.

03:51:49.820 I'm not going to.

03:51:50.720 I mean.

03:51:51.300 Yeah.

03:51:52.220 Unless he couldn't get a lead bartender job up there, I guess.

03:51:55.800 I guess.

03:51:56.380 I don't know.

03:51:57.540 Okay.

03:51:58.040 Yeah.

03:51:58.280 But that's kind of like, what?

03:52:00.220 Are you going to send it?

03:52:01.140 Someone said 11-11.

03:52:02.360 It's a sign.

03:52:03.000 I'm not into astrology, but.

03:52:07.320 Okay.

03:52:07.600 So, sure.

03:52:08.460 I'll text him.

03:52:09.300 I'll text him.

03:52:10.040 I'll text him.

03:52:10.540 All right.

03:52:10.880 Text him.

03:52:11.140 Because I love this podcast.

03:52:12.280 You guys are my favorite people.

03:52:13.160 Oh, thank you.

03:52:14.020 Thank you.

03:52:14.340 I trust all of you.

03:52:15.920 Wait.

03:52:16.160 Did she dip? 1.00

03:52:17.320 How far is that drive?

03:52:19.000 That drive's like 45 minutes.

03:52:22.340 From Ventura to Santa Barbara.

03:52:23.940 Did she just dip? 1.00

03:52:24.620 I don't think she would just dip. 0.99

03:52:27.340 Yeah.

03:52:27.700 I think she probably just went to the bathroom. 1.00

03:52:29.460 No.

03:52:29.660 The bathroom door.

03:52:30.740 What's her name?

03:52:31.300 Maya?

03:52:32.260 Yeah.

03:52:32.820 Maya.

03:52:34.480 Maya.

03:52:35.180 Hello.

03:52:36.640 Eric.

03:52:37.120 Just go check.

03:52:38.780 I think she dip, bruv. 0.97

03:52:40.720 Okay.

03:52:41.820 I mean, she did say.

03:52:42.780 I mean, she did say it's getting late, but.

03:52:44.220 It is.

03:52:47.880 Self Castle.

03:52:48.940 Is there white purse over there? 1.00

03:52:50.780 All right.

03:52:52.800 I would have figured.

03:52:53.560 I mean, it's okay if she had to go.

03:52:55.680 Oh, dang.

03:52:56.640 She could have just been like, oh, hey guys, I gotta go.

03:52:58.820 Did she really just walk out? 1.00

03:53:00.460 Well, I think just like, whatever.

03:53:02.840 It's almost 12.

03:53:03.720 I mean.

03:53:03.920 It's kind of, yes.

03:53:04.900 Well, 11.

03:53:06.720 Thursday night, though, by the way.

03:53:07.960 Hello.

03:53:08.500 College student, by the way.

03:53:09.500 Okay.

03:53:10.800 Got a last question here.

03:53:12.500 Stifler asks.

03:53:14.620 Ask the ladies to rate themselves on a scale of one to ten. 0.98

03:53:17.220 It's unfortunate that she left.

03:53:18.320 I would have liked to hear.

03:53:20.840 Self Castle?

03:53:21.680 I don't think so.

03:53:22.320 I think she's just.

03:53:23.240 I don't know.

03:53:24.160 Kind of weird, though, that she didn't at least say bye, but whatever.

03:53:28.380 What do you rate yourself, looks-wise, on a scale of one to ten?

03:53:31.120 Looks-wise?

03:53:31.400 I would say like a 7.5.

03:53:32.980 I would say a 7.5.

03:53:34.620 Okay.

03:53:35.220 A 7.

03:53:36.220 I'd say 7.

03:53:40.740 I'd say 8.

03:53:42.100 Okay.

03:53:42.620 Yeah.

03:53:43.180 That's pretty good.

03:53:43.900 Pretty good. 0.98

03:53:44.560 Damn, I wanted to do one tape video, but she left. 1.00

03:53:47.340 Well, fuck it. 1.00

03:53:48.660 We'll do one tape video, and then we'll wrap. 1.00

03:53:50.160 Um, Eric, can you, uh, pull up a-

03:53:52.780 All right.

03:53:55.200 Let's do, uh, let's do, uh, let's do, uh, do you think she's just, like, outside the door, Eric?

03:54:07.300 Or Eric?

03:54:08.000 Maybe.

03:54:08.680 That's what I'm thinking.

03:54:09.860 But that's why I said, I think she left, gotta be honest.

03:54:13.060 I'm pretty sure she just did.

03:54:14.800 Yeah, I think this podcast has been, like, four hours, I'm sure.

03:54:17.240 I'm sure she did.

03:54:17.960 Yeah, it's-

03:54:19.120 She was tired, like, I think she was honestly, like, almost falling asleep.

03:54:22.480 Yeah.

03:54:22.580 Like, maybe she didn't know she could, like, just, like, say bye.

03:54:27.040 Yeah.

03:54:27.560 Yeah, I think she was just like, oh, I'm not out.

03:54:28.800 I mean, that just seems like the polite thing to do, just be like, hey, guys, sorry, gotta go, bye.

03:54:32.880 But whatever, whatever it is, what it is.

03:54:34.280 I feel like she probably didn't know.

03:54:35.380 Yeah.

03:54:35.760 Yeah, that's whatever.

03:54:36.760 Um, whatever.

03:54:38.160 Okay, so let's do this tape video.

03:54:39.660 No, she would have been given a great reaction, but let's do the, uh, go back to the video.

03:54:46.660 Yeah, we are running.

03:54:47.920 Well, we're running a little behind, but, yeah, we're getting up there.

03:54:50.700 Um, go, just do the, uh, oh, God, I don't know, scroll down a little bit.

03:54:56.880 Loyalty.

03:54:57.420 Scroll down, scroll down.

03:55:00.380 Uh, let's do, scroll up, scroll up.

03:55:03.780 Let's do-

03:55:04.700 Let's do the, uh, here.

03:55:09.280 Or, all right, why not, we'll-

03:55:10.780 Oh, my God.

03:55:13.040 Up, down, down.

03:55:16.420 Hold on.

03:55:17.400 I like that it's, like, toasty in here now.

03:55:19.960 I know, it is pretty toasty.

03:55:21.360 It was so cold before.

03:55:32.140 All right, pull that up, Eric, if you can.

03:55:33.800 That was smooth.

03:55:40.240 Azul69.

03:55:41.620 Thank you for the $20 super chat.

03:55:44.180 Beautiful angel.

03:55:45.260 If he curves you, my arms are waiting for you.

03:55:48.580 And all you D-gens in the chat need to stop requesting that this beautiful goddess remove her sweater. 1.00

03:55:53.400 Have some respect for a woman's body. 0.94

03:56:00.460 Max.

03:56:02.520 Yes, I was noticing, don't worry, guys, I was noticing all of your comments to take off my, my, um, what do they call it?

03:56:09.440 Baggy sweater.

03:56:10.980 But, um, I know deep down you don't want me to.

03:56:15.720 So I won't.

03:56:16.440 Oh, wait, last thing, Eric, can you pull up the Twitch?

03:56:18.580 But also, thank you so much.

03:56:20.360 Azul69, thank you, thank you for the super chat.

03:56:25.040 All right, um, I don't know if this is any more.

03:56:27.860 Treleba, thank you for the follow.

03:56:29.100 Josh, I'm going, uh, extinct.

03:56:31.260 O-W-M-59, thank you for the follow.

03:56:35.440 Dural247, thank you for the prime.

03:56:37.840 Korn.com, Korn, I don't know.

03:56:40.560 Thank you for the follow, man, appreciate it, guys.

03:56:42.700 Um, we are live on Twitch right now.

03:56:45.500 Twitch.tv slash whatever.

03:56:48.200 Drop us a follow, drop us a prime sub, Amazon Prime, totally free.

03:56:51.820 Um, if you have Amazon Prime, link it to your Twitch.

03:56:54.480 You can sub every single month, totally free.

03:56:56.780 Easy way to, quick, free, easy way to support the show.

03:56:58.900 And I will ask him out before I forget.

03:57:01.680 I'm, I'm, text is not my style, but I'll do it in person.

03:57:04.560 Oh, you didn't do it?

03:57:05.420 I didn't do it, I didn't send a text.

03:57:06.580 I'm, I'm working with him on Saturday.

03:57:08.240 I will be like, let me know if you want to go out sometime.

03:57:12.980 Maybe we can get some dinner in Santa Barbara.

03:57:18.100 Whatever you guys think.

03:57:19.140 Okay.

03:57:19.380 Go out for coffee.

03:57:20.020 Leave a comment what you think I should tell them.

03:57:21.680 Yeah, we'll tell them on Saturday.

03:57:22.680 Okay, all right, nice, nice.

03:57:24.840 Uh, let's do this, uh, take clip real quick. 0.94

03:57:26.580 And then we'll, uh, let's do the, uh, which one is it?

03:57:30.780 Scroll down.

03:57:32.160 Let's do promiscuity.

03:57:33.520 Why not?

03:57:36.300 Have you had a serious relationship?

03:57:38.380 I have many concurrent serious relationships as we speak.

03:57:42.320 Are you Polly?

03:57:44.100 No, because that means they can talk to other dudes. 0.99

03:57:46.140 That's fucking haram. 1.00

03:57:48.240 That's atrocious. 1.00

03:57:49.180 That's disgusting. 0.67

03:57:50.260 Yeah. 0.79

03:57:51.100 Agreed.

03:57:51.540 Throughout the majority of human history, female promiscuity has been absolutely frowned upon. 0.99

03:57:56.000 Only in the Western world we're going to pretend it's an okay thing.

03:57:58.160 Every single culture since the dawn of human time and every single place on the planet has 0.98

03:58:01.960 said that female promiscuity is disgusting to the point where females were executed for it. 1.00

03:58:06.080 Yeah. 0.99

03:58:06.220 And most of the world today...

03:58:07.340 As they should be.

03:58:08.540 Get the rocks.

03:58:09.700 Yeah.

03:58:10.000 Abdul? 0.88

03:58:10.720 Yeah.

03:58:11.120 Get the rocks.

03:58:11.700 Get the rocks.

03:58:13.160 And most of the world today, it's still frowned upon.

03:58:15.820 It's unacceptable.

03:58:16.500 Whereas every single king insulted in shakes as the dawn of human time had multiple women. 0.91

03:58:20.960 Men are allowed multiple women. 0.71

03:58:22.200 Women are not allowed multiple men. 0.99

03:58:23.420 Because if a woman has multiple men, you cannot ensure paternity. 0.90

03:58:25.640 I could walk and have 10 wives behind me. 1.00

03:58:27.380 That's perfectly acceptable. 0.98

03:58:28.440 If a woman has 10 men, it's disgusting. 1.00

03:58:31.380 Absolutely vile. 0.98

03:58:33.480 Okay.

03:58:34.200 You had quite a facial reaction to that.

03:58:36.700 Any...

03:58:38.200 Whoever the guy was that said women should be executed for sleeping with multiple men?

03:58:45.800 What? 0.94

03:58:46.800 I think it's hyperbole.

03:58:48.900 I do not care.

03:58:51.600 I'm sorry.

03:58:52.400 I'm just like...

03:58:52.940 I don't understand it because if you're expecting...

03:58:55.720 If you can expect yourself to sleep with multiple women, why can't women do the same exact thing? 1.00

03:59:00.820 I don't understand it.

03:59:02.860 Well, there's...

03:59:03.540 You're talking about the double standard?

03:59:05.740 Yeah.

03:59:07.280 It's kind of justified though.

03:59:08.940 How?

03:59:09.180 No, it's not.

03:59:09.460 Tell me how.

03:59:10.440 Tell me how.

03:59:10.980 It's kind of justified.

03:59:11.920 How?

03:59:12.180 Because it's very easy for women to sleep with men, but it's very difficult for men to sleep 0.97

03:59:17.500 with women.

03:59:18.560 Relatively.

03:59:19.560 What?

03:59:19.900 Disagree?

03:59:20.460 Yeah, totally.

03:59:21.980 You think it's easy for men to get laid?

03:59:25.800 That's fine if you think that.

03:59:27.280 It's hard to...

03:59:28.380 Okay.

03:59:28.960 Yeah.

03:59:29.480 I guess the argument is...

03:59:31.280 No, no, no.

03:59:32.100 Stick to your guns.

03:59:33.500 Don't...

03:59:34.180 If you genuinely believe that.

03:59:36.220 Well, the way that you said it now, it sounds like...

03:59:38.480 Oh, I've rephrased it.

03:59:39.100 You rephrased it.

03:59:40.020 It made it different for some reason.

03:59:42.100 Yeah.

03:59:42.560 I don't know.

03:59:43.620 Okay.

03:59:44.300 Well, so I think the original thing I said is it's very easy for women to get laid. 0.98

03:59:48.560 It's very difficult for men to get laid.

03:59:50.380 Yeah.

03:59:50.740 I don't think it's difficult.

03:59:52.640 Do they come by it?

03:59:54.760 Sorry.

03:59:55.440 I don't think it's difficult, but do they like...

03:59:58.360 I don't know.

04:00:00.020 They shoot their shot more.

04:00:01.060 They...

04:00:01.460 Yeah.

04:00:02.020 They shoot their shot more.

04:00:06.040 Ah, gosh.

04:00:06.860 I don't know.

04:00:07.400 I don't want to say that it's...

04:00:09.400 They don't get the opportunity.

04:00:11.840 It's there.

04:00:12.680 I just feel like there's just certain other factors that portray that, just as much as

04:00:18.040 women do. 1.00

04:00:18.980 I mean, guys have just as much, like...

04:00:22.400 I don't know.

04:00:25.220 I don't know.

04:00:25.600 I'm trying to think of the best way to say this.

04:00:26.940 Like, guys look down on certain factors that women hold. 0.99

04:00:31.620 Like, for instance...

04:00:33.780 Such as?

04:00:34.760 I don't know.

04:00:35.460 Just, like, what they do as a profession.

04:00:37.400 You know, they put a lot of judgment on that sometimes.

04:00:39.880 Men?

04:00:40.360 Yes.

04:00:40.760 Care about profession?

04:00:41.740 Yes.

04:00:42.500 Yeah.

04:00:42.860 Are you talking about sex work?

04:00:45.480 Yes. 0.69

04:00:45.800 Sex work. 0.99

04:00:46.480 Okay, sure.

04:00:47.300 Yes, I agree with that.

04:00:48.580 So...

04:00:49.220 I was going to say, most men, we don't... 0.99

04:00:50.520 Honestly, we don't give a fuck. 1.00

04:00:51.600 But you do give a fuck. 1.00

04:00:53.460 No, we... 1.00

04:00:53.900 Sorry.

04:00:54.140 Not about sex work, but we don't care about, like...

04:00:57.400 This sort of goes back to income and earning.

04:01:00.300 Like, we...

04:01:01.440 If you're a...

04:01:02.300 If a woman is a doctor, like, that doesn't make you more attractive. 1.00

04:01:06.680 No.

04:01:06.800 Like, that's not, like, in the same way that a guy who's a doctor, a lot of women would 0.76

04:01:09.880 be like, he's a catch.

04:01:11.600 Like, for a guy, like, if you're a female... 1.00

04:01:14.180 If you're a doctor, that's good for you.

04:01:16.400 But, like, we just don't...

04:01:17.740 Like, we don't care.

04:01:18.800 Yeah.

04:01:19.280 But I'm not sure if that's what you were getting at.

04:01:21.000 No, it's not really what I was getting at.

04:01:22.660 I think...

04:01:22.960 Okay.

04:01:24.000 Let's continue.

04:01:24.920 Continue.

04:01:25.320 I'll add more.

04:01:26.500 But, no.

04:01:26.980 Okay.

04:01:27.220 So, you were saying that one of the things is that men don't care about...

04:01:32.000 Or men do care about the type of work women do as it relates to if they're doing sex work. 0.98

04:01:36.900 Yeah.

04:01:37.580 As it pertains to them.

04:01:39.520 Wait.

04:01:39.860 So, what was that tied to?

04:01:42.300 Because we were talking about the double standard and how it's harder for men to get laid than

04:01:47.680 it is for women to get laid. 1.00

04:01:49.160 Thus, the double standard is justified.

04:01:51.800 Right.

04:01:52.200 I really don't know, really, what I was going over that.

04:01:55.200 Now that I was talking it through, and I'm like, man, I just got myself into, like, a

04:01:58.620 hole there.

04:01:59.900 But, yeah.

04:02:00.320 No.

04:02:00.620 I don't know.

04:02:01.620 I don't think it's hard for men to get laid.

04:02:05.320 Okay.

04:02:05.700 And I don't necessarily think it's, like, easy for women to get laid. 0.82

04:02:08.940 I think just women tend to be sexualized a lot in society. 1.00

04:02:13.780 Cool.

04:02:14.880 And, I mean, I know I'm in...

04:02:16.840 People are probably going to come for me in the chat and be like, oh, but you do OnlyFans.

04:02:20.280 It's like, yeah, I'm aiding to the opportunity that men will pay me to see me naked.

04:02:25.100 I'm seizing that opportunity.

04:02:27.540 But, as I was saying, I don't think it's necessarily that, like, women can just get laid whenever 0.92

04:02:32.980 they want to.

04:02:33.720 I mean, I think men just, like...

04:02:36.500 If a woman approaches you and is like, oh, I want to have sex, like, they might say yes. 0.99

04:02:39.840 And I think it just is how you come off with it. 0.81

04:02:42.460 I'd be kind of weirded out if, like, anyone came up to me and was like, have sex with me. 0.91

04:02:46.800 And I'd be like, ooh. 0.85

04:02:47.360 I think that's where I was getting at.

04:02:48.360 Like, some guys would say no to that instantly.

04:02:50.820 And some girls would say no instantly based off certain things. 1.00

04:02:53.480 I mean, I use sex work as a topic.

04:02:55.440 But that's basically how the two relate.

04:02:58.560 Okay.

04:02:58.860 So, you think it's not much easier for women to get laid than men?

04:03:05.040 I think it's not as, like, big of a difference as people make it out to be.

04:03:09.820 But I would say...

04:03:11.140 But, like I said before, I mean, like, women probably go out on more dates than men do

04:03:15.260 because they get asked more often than, like, a girl asking a guy out or a girl saying yes

04:03:19.820 or no.

04:03:20.140 Because if a guy's asking, she has a choice to say yes or no.

04:03:24.060 Okay.

04:03:24.420 I'll put it to you this way as far as the discrepancy and easiness when it comes to

04:03:29.460 getting laid. 0.67

04:03:30.500 An average woman has an easier time getting laid than a male model. 1.00

04:03:39.420 A really, like, a top-tier guy, she has an easier time getting laid than a really attractive 1.00

04:03:47.980 dude.

04:03:48.800 Why do you think that?

04:03:50.800 Because...

04:03:51.300 Girls, I completely agree.

04:03:52.960 And I think, like, we just have no idea how hard it is for guys.

04:03:58.660 Like, I just...

04:03:59.700 I don't know why it's so...

04:04:03.480 There's such, like, a difference there. 0.72

04:04:06.300 But, like, my girlfriends have a harder time not having sex than having sex. 1.00

04:04:13.400 That is not, like, a guy problem.

04:04:15.940 Well, no.

04:04:16.560 As in, like...

04:04:17.260 Yeah.

04:04:17.540 No, I mean as in a choice.

04:04:18.560 But as in, like, they have to, like, stop themselves.

04:04:21.660 Because if they wanted sex, they could easily have it.

04:04:23.640 But they're, like...

04:04:24.260 They have to...

04:04:25.020 I don't know.

04:04:25.400 For whatever reasons they want...

04:04:26.200 I think those are your friends, though.

04:04:27.980 Like...

04:04:28.400 Well, yeah, sure.

04:04:29.180 But I'm also saying...

04:04:30.080 I'm just using that as, like, a hyper example here.

04:04:32.120 But, like, that...

04:04:32.860 Like, that would never be...

04:04:35.000 I cannot fathom that being a case with guys where, like, only the top, like, 1, 1, 1, 1% of guys are...

04:04:41.240 Whereas...

04:04:41.360 But there's plenty of girls who, like, try to be, like... 0.99

04:04:43.940 Who, like, try to, like, stop themselves from having sex.

04:04:47.040 Because they don't...

04:04:48.500 I don't know.

04:04:48.880 I just don't know how it gets to that point, you know?

04:04:50.560 I know that someone's attracted to me.

04:04:51.860 And they're like, baby, I want you.

04:04:52.840 Baby, I want you.

04:04:53.600 I'm not stopping myself from pulling my pants down.

04:04:56.400 I'm telling you, no, I'm not interested.

04:04:58.760 Yeah.

04:04:59.160 There's a difference.

04:04:59.960 Like, I feel like it takes two to tango.

04:05:01.780 Okay.

04:05:02.200 And I just don't think, like...

04:05:03.580 Sure.

04:05:03.780 But anyways, like, genuinely, if a girl...

04:05:07.120 If a girl asks, like... 0.94

04:05:09.780 If a girl asks a guy to, like, have sex, like, he will probably say yes. 0.99

04:05:14.800 Like, to most any guys.

04:05:16.960 But that just would not be the case with, like, guys.

04:05:19.460 Let me ask the girls. 1.00

04:05:21.080 Have you ever made a guy wait to have sex?

04:05:24.240 No.

04:05:26.160 Never?

04:05:27.420 No.

04:05:28.200 Never.

04:05:28.880 Okay.

04:05:29.260 I mean, some people are fine just immediately having sex. 0.74

04:05:32.760 I don't really care, yeah. 0.53

04:05:33.160 Yeah.

04:05:33.560 Okay.

04:05:34.640 Never?

04:05:35.660 I, like, honestly can't think of a time I've ever made a guy wait, yeah.

04:05:39.460 So...

04:05:40.060 I know. 0.94

04:05:40.640 I like sex a lot, so... 0.97

04:05:42.240 Okay. 0.98

04:05:44.180 I mean, that's fine.

04:05:45.500 But, okay, so even, like, your first time, the guy was, like...

04:05:51.500 The first time meeting up?

04:05:53.040 No, the first time having sex.

04:05:54.660 Oh.

04:05:55.900 Even then, you didn't make the guy wait, or...?

04:05:57.840 I mean, I was really young.

04:05:59.940 So, yeah.

04:06:01.460 We...

04:06:01.700 I don't feel like that's something we need to get into, necessarily.

04:06:04.400 But, no, I...

04:06:05.360 Yeah.

04:06:06.920 Okay.

04:06:07.240 So, have you ever made a guy wait for sex?

04:06:09.460 Yeah. 0.61

04:06:09.740 A guy... 1.00

04:06:10.160 A guy wanted to have sex with you, but you said, let's wait... 1.00

04:06:13.020 Yeah. 0.99

04:06:13.700 Wait until the next day, or whatever.

04:06:15.880 Right, right.

04:06:16.380 What about you?

04:06:17.140 Mm-hmm. 0.99

04:06:18.160 Have you made a guy wait for sex? 0.83

04:06:19.540 Yes. 0.61

04:06:20.100 Okay.

04:06:21.500 Has a guy ever made you wait for sex?

04:06:24.860 Yes.

04:06:25.160 Oh, come on. 0.87

04:06:26.560 Yeah.

04:06:26.800 Even I, I actually have had one time where...

04:06:30.080 Yeah.

04:06:30.300 One time.

04:06:31.020 Yeah.

04:06:31.440 Okay.

04:06:31.800 But it was...

04:06:32.580 I honestly had zero times for that happening.

04:06:34.960 Okay.

04:06:35.200 I've had times.

04:06:36.240 All right.

04:06:37.520 Stop it now.

04:06:38.580 Come on.

04:06:39.660 I talked about it last time.

04:06:40.660 But it was shocking.

04:06:42.180 The first time having sex. 0.54

04:06:43.940 Sometimes I got... 0.97

04:06:44.780 My first time having sex?

04:06:45.760 We both waited.

04:06:47.300 No, no, no.

04:06:47.660 Not, like, the first time, but the first time having sex with a new partner.

04:06:50.300 Yeah, we both waited.

04:06:51.440 Okay.

04:06:51.800 All right.

04:06:52.140 Fair enough.

04:06:53.840 Look, any girl at this table right now, if you're so inclined,

04:06:56.580 look, it's 11.30 p.m. on a Thursday, you could download the dating app.

04:07:02.440 It might not be necessarily the suitor of your choice, but you could get laid tonight.

04:07:09.860 Within two minutes.

04:07:10.660 Within two minutes.

04:07:11.200 At 11.30.

04:07:12.920 Who...

04:07:13.440 Maybe.

04:07:14.460 A dude?

04:07:14.960 A guy?

04:07:16.140 Yes, you can.

04:07:17.140 You could definitely get a not-so-pretty girl that has never seen attention. 0.85

04:07:20.940 Maybe a librarian, and she would be down. 0.99

04:07:23.220 Dude, librarians fucking get it. 1.00

04:07:24.620 I'm sure they do. 1.00

04:07:25.740 I'm sure they do.

04:07:26.740 Yo, I'm telling you, watch out for the quiet, shy chicks. 1.00

04:07:29.180 Yeah, and that's what I'm trying to...

04:07:30.420 But no, no, no.

04:07:31.200 Those girls are... 1.00

04:07:32.140 No.

04:07:32.840 I'm going to tell you right now.

04:07:34.000 I think maybe they're going after the wrong girls.

04:07:36.140 Sorry.

04:07:37.420 Look.

04:07:38.020 All right.

04:07:38.400 Look.

04:07:40.040 A guy cannot download Tinder at night and get laid that night.

04:07:47.080 If we're going to go, like, minutes and hours, okay, yeah.

04:07:49.920 Exaggeration like that?

04:07:50.700 Probably not.

04:07:51.420 Here's how it plays out for the vast majority of men on dating apps.

04:07:56.020 And probably, well, in person, there's the opportunity for one-night stands.

04:07:59.480 But like, okay, on a dating app, you match with a girl.

04:08:02.640 You're probably going to have to carry the conversation.

04:08:04.480 You're going to have to initiate the first date.

04:08:06.020 You're going to have to set up the date, ask for the number, make the plan, et cetera, et cetera.

04:08:10.080 First off, you have to get the match.

04:08:12.800 Then you have to shift through the girls that are just there for their Instagram followers 1.00

04:08:17.380 and who just want validation.

04:08:19.200 A lot of girls aren't just on the dating apps. 1.00

04:08:20.740 Just a lot of girls, oh, I'm just...

04:08:22.700 I've never gone on a date with a guy from a dating app, but I'm just...

04:08:25.080 I'm on it for attention, validation, et cetera.

04:08:28.020 Instagram followers, whatever that may be.

04:08:32.160 And then, okay, then you have to plan the date.

04:08:36.180 She's not going to be free that day.

04:08:38.080 Probably the weekend.

04:08:39.040 And, okay, or maybe tomorrow or the next day.

04:08:42.200 So from there, probably 50% chance if you do set up a date, she's going to flake. 1.00

04:08:47.640 A lot of girls will flake and they'll flake. 1.00

04:08:49.740 They're not going to flake 48 hours notice.

04:08:52.420 They will flake day of.

04:08:54.800 If you have a date set up with a girl on a Friday, I'd say 50% chance she's going to just flake. 1.00

04:08:59.720 She's going to say two hours before, three hours before, hey, oh, I've got a headache.

04:09:03.960 I'm not feeling...

04:09:05.120 Well, change of mind, right? 0.90

04:09:06.500 A lot of women don't realize how that's a pretty big dick move because as a woman, you could get a new dude on a Friday. 1.00

04:09:15.780 Most men are not going to be able to secure a Friday or a Saturday date the day of, a few hours before. 0.87

04:09:22.420 I see.

04:09:22.640 So, okay, 50% chance it's going to flake.

04:09:25.560 All right, then you meet up. 0.99

04:09:27.800 Probably a good chance she's not going to be down to fuck that night. 1.00

04:09:31.840 Very good chance she's not going to be down to fuck. 1.00

04:09:33.740 I mean, especially if you're not a big drinker. 0.99

04:09:37.300 Like, if you're not a big part.

04:09:39.600 No, not like that.

04:09:40.480 But, like, I don't know.

04:09:42.180 When you get alcohol involved, people get more a little loose or whatever.

04:09:45.700 But, like, if it's more like sit down, if you get dinner, if you, you know, have one drink, it's not like that sort of vibe.

04:09:53.360 But, okay, she's not down for the first night.

04:09:56.020 Then, okay, schedule permitting.

04:09:58.140 Then it's going to be a week down the road.

04:10:01.420 Second date.

04:10:02.420 She doesn't want to go all the way.

04:10:04.000 Maybe the third date.

04:10:05.420 Maybe.

04:10:05.920 That's not all women, but that's a lot of women. 1.00

04:10:08.100 They're not going to give it up on the first, second, or third date.

04:10:10.180 Right.

04:10:10.540 That's my experience with a lot of women. 1.00

04:10:12.860 It's not the first night with a lot of women. 0.93

04:10:16.040 And I think maybe where I'm getting, like, kind of wishy-washy is because I'm in the know with girls.

04:10:22.700 And they tell me that they do this stuff.

04:10:26.220 And it's like.

04:10:26.680 Yeah, they do.

04:10:27.620 You know?

04:10:28.260 And I'm just assuming.

04:10:29.780 And maybe I'm wrong.

04:10:30.960 Maybe you're right.

04:10:31.660 But I just kind of thought it was just as easy. 0.97

04:10:34.280 Because, like, some girls just want to have sex. 1.00

04:10:36.480 Yeah, definitely. 0.82

04:10:37.140 And they're really just okay with that.

04:10:38.440 And they voice that.

04:10:39.660 And I'm different.

04:10:41.780 But, like, I have to assume, like, it's not that hard.

04:10:44.760 Again, that's why I say you're not reaching the right girls. 0.98

04:10:47.340 Because there's girls for that. 1.00

04:10:49.100 And if you really just want to have sex, if that's your primary goal is sex.

04:10:52.980 And not really just trying to build a relationship and grow with somebody.

04:10:56.800 Then, yes, I think you're searching for the wrong person.

04:10:59.320 You're not going to get what you want. 0.96

04:11:00.500 But don't tell me that there's not someone out there that's willing to give you sex that minute.

04:11:04.900 You just didn't find it. 0.83

04:11:05.960 Just because you.

04:11:06.540 And that's all, like, on a statistical level based off app.

04:11:10.040 And that's probably ruining your.

04:11:11.960 So, yeah.

04:11:13.100 But that is the difference, though.

04:11:15.160 Any woman can find it. 1.00

04:11:18.300 Most men cannot find it.

04:11:22.380 They can't.

04:11:23.240 A guy can't.

04:11:23.920 Like, for a guy to get laid.

04:11:25.980 I don't know.

04:11:26.620 Same night.

04:11:28.160 He has to get lucky.

04:11:30.080 A woman, she doesn't need to get lucky to get laid. 1.00

04:11:33.900 But I just also think that's because girls are also pickier. 0.85

04:11:36.800 And because so many people have to say, like, oh.

04:11:39.920 Like, literally, like how we just watched that video. 0.98

04:11:42.320 He was saying, like, if she's fucking a bunch of different guys, then, like, oh, like, that's a bad thing. 0.97

04:11:47.460 But then also, like, it doesn't that make us feel like then that's what we're supposed to do. 0.99

04:11:51.540 We're supposed to make them wait.

04:11:52.780 Like, we can't just give it up that easily.

04:11:56.080 But then also, I feel like we're also, as girls, like, we are picky.

04:11:58.980 And, like, we're not just going to.

04:11:59.880 Women are selective. 1.00

04:12:00.940 But then also men, like, they.

04:12:02.900 Eric, can you pull up the infographics charts?

04:12:07.240 Pull up, let's see, pull up the two hypergamy, hypergamy, hypergamy two, and then pull up. 1.00

04:12:15.320 Shit, what is it? 0.97

04:12:18.040 Do OKC, OKC1, OKC2, and OKC message. 0.98

04:12:23.840 And then just have them pulled up in just a sec.

04:12:26.440 Um, so will women have one night stands or sleep with a guy quick? 1.00

04:12:33.600 Yes, but they're going to do it with probably the top 10 or top 20% of men. 0.93

04:12:40.440 Yeah.

04:12:40.900 Because women, 80% of women are chasing after the top 10% of men. 0.98

04:12:45.400 So are there men on the dating apps that can get the casual sex?

04:12:50.120 I mean, even honestly, top tier guys, it's still, it's still going to be a bit harder.

04:12:53.820 But, but why do you think that is?

04:12:57.580 Because women, I mean, it's sort of a. 1.00

04:13:00.760 You're saying it's the availability is really what you said, that guys can't find that.

04:13:06.140 Girls, it's easy.

04:13:06.940 It's available.

04:13:07.460 So it has to be an availability thing that is the issue.

04:13:10.360 Well, let's compare.

04:13:11.340 OK, let's compare average women to average men. 1.00

04:13:14.920 Most average men are not going to be. 0.99

04:13:17.380 An average man cannot be a slut. 1.00

04:13:20.100 He could. 1.00

04:13:20.820 Actually, well, no, no, no, no. 1.00

04:13:22.300 Average men are not, can not even approach the degree to which a woman could be a slut, 1.00

04:13:31.260 so to speak. 0.99

04:13:33.220 An average girl, unremarkable in every way she could be. 1.00

04:13:37.760 Could easily rack up 10 bodies in a month with like.

04:13:41.920 Every day.

04:13:42.740 Zero effort.

04:13:43.320 I mean, I truly, like, I agree with you.

04:13:45.040 I think it, it depends on like what the man is choosing, because I'm going to be honest.

04:13:48.400 I, I tend to go for guys who aren't like, tend to be as attractive as me or like.

04:13:55.600 The exception doesn't make the rule.

04:13:57.960 Well, I'm just saying that like the guys might not be going for the right girls if they're

04:14:02.280 trying to just hook up.

04:14:04.020 You know, like there's people that do just want to hook up.

04:14:06.960 But, okay, the point is, is that an average guy does not have the degree of sexual access

04:14:14.000 that an average woman has.

04:14:17.120 Average dudes can't be man hoes. 1.00

04:14:20.060 They really can't.

04:14:23.440 Average, like, I don't think you understand.

04:14:25.660 I think it's challenging.

04:14:26.520 I think you're right.

04:14:27.940 I think if I'm stepping back, I'm sure it's very, very challenging.

04:14:31.540 I think where I'm. 0.99

04:14:33.400 Any girl could be a slut. 1.00

04:14:34.980 That's where I'm thinking it's impossible and it's like not reachable. 0.98

04:14:38.600 And I think that's where my argument is.

04:14:40.180 And you're right.

04:14:40.660 It's probably, it's just probably very, very difficult to where that stat is accurate.

04:14:45.880 I don't know.

04:14:46.440 Yeah.

04:14:46.620 Maybe I, I don't know.

04:14:47.580 I'm not in the men's world. 0.99

04:14:49.840 Uneducated.

04:14:50.240 Let me ask.

04:14:51.240 Do you, how many, do you get DMs at all from guys who are, it seems they're interested in

04:14:55.720 you?

04:14:56.360 Uh, yeah.

04:14:57.400 Okay.

04:14:58.940 Do you, do you go out to bars or parties or?

04:15:02.160 No, I'm not that person.

04:15:04.080 You're not a partier.

04:15:04.720 Okay.

04:15:05.000 That's fine.

04:15:05.680 What about you guys, bars, clubs, parties at all?

04:15:08.880 I like to go out.

04:15:09.740 Do you get hit on at all when you get up?

04:15:11.320 Yeah.

04:15:11.500 When you go out?

04:15:12.260 Yeah.

04:15:12.720 Okay.

04:15:13.120 How many of the men that hit on you, would you say you're turning down?

04:15:19.540 I would say about eight, uh, probably like 90%.

04:15:22.520 90%.

04:15:23.380 Okay.

04:15:25.600 When I'm going out.

04:15:26.980 Okay.

04:15:27.160 All, almost all the other women, all the men that you're turning down, all the other 0.99

04:15:32.860 women are also turning them down too. 0.99

04:15:35.900 I hear you.

04:15:36.600 Okay.

04:15:37.040 Okay.

04:15:37.360 They're getting, well, they're getting rejected too.

04:15:41.320 I get it.

04:15:42.060 Okay.

04:15:42.500 I see it.

04:15:43.400 So.

04:15:43.800 Like even what, how we say, I just thought about this now when you brought up that phrase,

04:15:47.720 but like the term like get lucky, like if I want to think about whether or not I'm having

04:15:51.660 sex, it, luck is not something.

04:15:54.660 Yeah. 0.61

04:15:55.800 For a guy.

04:15:57.360 Yeah.

04:15:57.660 I guess guys do have to like get lucky.

04:16:00.080 But if a girl wants to have sex, it's not a matter of luck. 1.00

04:16:02.400 Let me ask this.

04:16:03.040 Like that doesn't even apply to women. 0.99

04:16:04.800 Let me ask you this.

04:16:05.920 If, if you go out to a bar or a club or a party type environment and let's say your goal,

04:16:11.120 I'm not saying it would be, but your goal for the night, I want, I'm getting laid tonight.

04:16:15.600 Do you know with certainty that you could get laid?

04:16:22.240 Yes.

04:16:22.740 If I just wanted to get laid to answer your question, but if I had to be specific in who

04:16:28.260 it was, that totally changed the game.

04:16:30.160 But yes.

04:16:30.640 Well, that's what we're not considering. 0.90

04:16:31.840 It's not, would you want to have, do women have sex with the people they want to have sex 1.00

04:16:36.560 with as much as men do? 0.97

04:16:38.500 It's do women, could women have sex with anyone as much as like men could have sex with anyone? 1.00

04:16:45.600 Which is just not, I mean, I would, I would argue that a woman need not even necessarily 0.94

04:16:50.240 looks wise.

04:16:51.860 A woman need not even really go. 0.99

04:16:55.080 She doesn't need to go after some like really unattractive dude to get laid. 1.00

04:16:58.400 She can still go after like a fairly, I would say at least a guy who would be her looks 1.00

04:17:05.200 equivalent.

04:17:05.960 You can get him.

04:17:07.180 Yeah.

04:17:07.680 Yes. 0.99

04:17:08.240 For sex. 0.99

04:17:08.920 Yes. 0.99

04:17:09.380 Yes.

04:17:09.640 Right.

04:17:10.420 For example, for me to get laid, even a girl that's, I would consider on my level, there 0.98

04:17:16.360 is no fucking guarantees I'm getting laid.

04:17:19.640 I'm, if I, I, first off, I don't go to bars, I don't go to clubs, I don't party, I don't 0.97

04:17:24.440 really drink.

04:17:25.600 Um, but you know, when I was in college, I'd go out to parties and stuff more likely than

04:17:31.900 not, I wasn't, I was not going to get laid.

04:17:36.520 Yeah.

04:17:37.040 Like that's, if that was my, no, but if that was my intention, like I want to go out, I

04:17:43.800 want to get laid tonight. 0.53

04:17:45.060 That's not a given as a woman. 1.00

04:17:47.240 If you want to get laid, I can make it happen.

04:17:49.660 You could make it happen if you wanted to.

04:17:51.580 I hear you.

04:17:52.220 Okay.

04:17:53.040 So also here's another test.

04:17:55.340 Here's another test.

04:17:56.420 Um, Alexis, right? 1.00

04:17:57.820 Alexis, would you like to have sex tonight with me? 1.00

04:18:01.000 No. 1.00

04:18:01.980 Okay.

04:18:02.560 There we go.

04:18:03.860 Point proven.

04:18:04.940 See?

04:18:05.420 All right.

04:18:06.120 Boom.

04:18:06.740 I was literally going to say that earlier.

04:18:08.540 I was like, not to call anyone out or make anyone uncomfortable, but if any of us wanted

04:18:14.600 to not leave this building, like, like we didn't even, we wouldn't have to leave the

04:18:18.880 building if like an upset, that is just not a male experience.

04:18:21.960 Like, like if any woman could look, you're just in the, in the middle of a busy street,

04:18:26.200 you're in the city.

04:18:27.420 A woman within like, I'm convinced a like 10 foot radius around her would be able to 1.00

04:18:33.280 have sex with someone within a 10 foot race around her. 1.00

04:18:36.020 Well, they'd be down to have sex with you. 1.00

04:18:37.640 Didn't you do like that? 1.00

04:18:38.640 I hate that.

04:18:39.680 You hate that.

04:18:40.640 I hate that.

04:18:41.420 I would say yes.

04:18:42.460 Why do you hate it?

04:18:43.280 Well, cause I don't want to, I don't want to be just sex to like someone around me.

04:18:49.440 Well, you have a choice.

04:18:50.600 Well, well, I mean, obviously.

04:18:51.940 Yeah.

04:18:52.440 But like, that's like kind of, I don't know.

04:18:54.520 I don't want someone's first impression.

04:18:55.760 Like when they say, I'd be like, Oh, well, I mean, that, that's less the point.

04:18:59.140 The more the point is just like, can we all acknowledge it's easier for girls to get 0.95

04:19:04.060 sex? 0.99

04:19:04.720 Yeah.

04:19:05.380 Well, like you said, didn't you do like a test?

04:19:07.280 You went out and then another one out and she was getting all these hits and you got 0.98

04:19:10.660 nothing.

04:19:11.160 I got nothing.

04:19:11.820 Yeah.

04:19:11.920 Sorry for the reminder, but I think that just honestly plays exactly into what we're

04:19:17.880 just talking about right now.

04:19:18.740 Going in, I knew what the results were going to be.

04:19:20.700 Like you can't just point blank ask most women, Hey, do you want to hook up?

04:19:25.720 They're not going to, they're going to feel a certain type of way about that.

04:19:28.380 They're not going to be, they need you.

04:19:30.580 You, they need a little something before, like you can't, I don't know.

04:19:36.900 Um, I like that comment. 0.99

04:19:39.440 A woman has sex whenever she wants. 1.00

04:19:42.000 A guy has sex whenever he can. 1.00

04:19:44.100 Yeah. 0.99

04:19:44.500 Oh, the one I often hear is women sleep with who they want. 1.00

04:19:48.000 Men sleep with who they can. 0.99

04:19:49.540 Oh, okay.

04:19:50.920 Yeah.

04:19:51.360 You are, you are the gatekeepers. 0.99

04:19:53.860 Women are the gatekeepers of sex. 1.00

04:19:56.060 So. 0.99

04:19:58.040 I just.

04:19:59.240 What's up?

04:20:00.100 I don't know.

04:20:00.600 I just feel like it sexualizes women. 1.00

04:20:02.580 Wait, don't you have an OnlyFans?

04:20:03.940 Aren't you used to it?

04:20:04.900 I know.

04:20:05.100 Yeah.

04:20:05.220 She already talked about that.

04:20:06.260 She's capitalizing on men. 1.00

04:20:08.120 No.

04:20:08.580 Whoa.

04:20:08.920 I wasn't hitting.

04:20:09.740 I was just like.

04:20:10.240 No, but I'm just saying she already said that.

04:20:11.740 This isn't the work that I want to be doing.

04:20:13.800 I'd rather be working in a laboratory like I want to, but it makes me money and I know

04:20:17.380 I can make money off of it.

04:20:18.400 So I'm going to.

04:20:19.420 Yeah.

04:20:19.820 That's why I do it.

04:20:21.880 What's your point about sexualizing?

04:20:24.200 I don't know.

04:20:24.580 I was just surprised.

04:20:25.660 I didn't think you'd be surprised by like what I was saying about like the 10 foot.

04:20:28.420 I thought, I just assumed you would like.

04:20:30.360 About, surprised about what?

04:20:31.640 About like the 10 foot like radius.

04:20:34.160 I know.

04:20:34.300 Not that I'm surprised.

04:20:36.120 I just don't like that personally.

04:20:37.520 I don't like that women can be overly sexualized. 1.00

04:20:41.580 Definitely.

04:20:42.400 I don't, I don't, I'm not even trying to understand what you're saying though.

04:20:45.060 What do you mean overly?

04:20:46.180 Like because they have an easier time having sex?

04:20:50.380 Well, it's like, oh, a woman can like get with whatever she wants. 1.00

04:20:54.240 Like.

04:20:54.820 Sure.

04:20:55.720 Like, I don't know.

04:20:56.360 It just like doesn't sit right with me, I guess.

04:20:58.620 Cause like.

04:20:59.240 Because you disagree, you don't, you disagree with the premise?

04:21:01.800 No, you've definitely changed my mind.

04:21:03.320 I do, I do agree that I'm starting to agree with you that it probably is much harder for

04:21:08.280 men to get women to sleep with them. 1.00

04:21:11.200 Unlike for women, they probably can get whatever they want if they wanted to. 1.00

04:21:15.540 But I just like the idea that like men would only seek an opportunity with a woman in terms 0.68

04:21:24.520 of that, like that kind of just grosses me out a little bit.

04:21:27.020 Well, I don't think that's what we're saying.

04:21:29.000 I forget what exactly what you said, but it, yeah.

04:21:31.880 Was it men sleep with who they, sorry, women sleep with who they want, men sleep with who 1.00

04:21:36.640 they can?

04:21:37.760 Yeah, I don't know.

04:21:38.240 What, was it the radius thing?

04:21:39.500 I'm just.

04:21:40.520 I mean, the radius thing is like, whatever, maybe, but I get like, would make girls uncomfortable

04:21:45.140 for safety.

04:21:45.700 But yeah, I just, I was just surprised.

04:21:47.220 Cause like if you, I mean, clearly it's profitable, literally for you that like women are sexualized, 1.00

04:21:52.820 like a man in your.

04:21:54.360 It is profitable.

04:21:55.220 Do I want the world to be that way?

04:21:56.640 No.

04:21:57.220 But you're benefiting.

04:21:58.360 I am benefiting from that.

04:22:00.140 Yeah, that's true.

04:22:01.280 But it doesn't mean I like love it.

04:22:03.400 I don't think any woman would love. 1.00

04:22:05.240 Well, that's convenient.

04:22:06.160 Don't you think?

04:22:06.580 I know I do.

04:22:07.100 I think it's very hypocritical, but why wouldn't I profit off of that if the world is that way?

04:22:15.100 Why wouldn't?

04:22:16.560 Okay.

04:22:17.260 Yeah.

04:22:18.240 If I'm able to profit off of it, then why wouldn't I?

04:22:21.500 Well, but I mean, if you're engaging in it, is it really something that you ought to be

04:22:26.380 criticizing?

04:22:27.020 I mean, and I'm not even sure it's like women have agency. 1.00

04:22:32.240 Women have sex. 1.00

04:22:36.380 So what? 0.99

04:22:38.040 I get what you're saying.

04:22:38.840 You're making a silver lining out of this situation.

04:22:42.920 Do you disagree?

04:22:45.900 No, no.

04:22:46.740 I'm just...

04:22:47.240 That's fine.

04:22:47.680 I think women tend to become a sex symbol more than men. 0.97

04:22:51.940 I think that's true.

04:22:53.360 Well, if women... 1.00

04:22:54.700 Here, I'll say this.

04:22:55.940 I agree. 0.99

04:22:56.060 If women are sex objects, then men are success objects. 0.99

04:23:01.180 Oh, I don't think women are sex objects. 1.00

04:23:05.760 I think we're portrayed in society.

04:23:07.780 We can be portrayed in society like that.

04:23:09.760 And I don't think all men sexualize women.

04:23:12.480 And I don't think every single person in society does that.

04:23:16.400 But I think there is a tendency to sexualize women. 1.00

04:23:20.440 But you do that yourself.

04:23:24.460 Like, you're sexualizing yourself.

04:23:26.800 I mean, yeah, but I make profit off of it.

04:23:28.560 Is it something I want to do?

04:23:29.540 No.

04:23:30.440 But I do make good money off of it, so I'm going to do it.

04:23:33.440 I don't necessarily have to like the process of it.

04:23:35.980 I make good money in my job if you want to start working.

04:23:38.860 I mean, yeah, I'll happily come work over there.

04:23:41.040 Yeah.

04:23:41.560 Yeah, there's like...

04:23:43.500 If you're telling us like right now you don't want to be doing what you're doing,

04:23:47.940 I can promise you there's ways for you to make money, like good money that aren't that.

04:23:53.100 No, I understand that.

04:23:54.340 No, I don't...

04:23:57.320 Here, let me clarify this.

04:23:59.820 Oh, sorry, my bad.

04:24:01.800 I enjoy my job.

04:24:03.600 I don't enjoy always being sexualized.

04:24:07.140 I'm fine with being sexualized occasionally because I like feeling sexy.

04:24:10.580 I do.

04:24:11.020 As a woman, I love feeling sexy.

04:24:12.680 Do I want that to be my only thing that I'm known for?

04:24:15.400 No.

04:24:16.720 But, you know, I think it's a bit of a benefit or a privilege to have agency due to your sexuality 0.99

04:24:26.980 insofar that most men could not start an OnlyFans and make money posting fucking... 0.98

04:24:35.300 Like, there's not a market for it. 0.97

04:24:36.720 There's really not a market on the women's side for desiring male men on OnlyFans 0.95

04:24:44.580 for the same reason why there's not a lot of male prostitutes. 0.77

04:24:48.340 There's not a lot of... 0.95

04:24:49.320 There's barely any male strippers.

04:24:52.640 So, I mean, you have agency.

04:24:59.400 Uh-huh.

04:25:00.220 And that's why...

04:25:00.720 It's a beauty of sexuality.

04:25:02.580 But what I'm...

04:25:03.780 I don't feel like you guys are exactly hearing what I'm saying.

04:25:06.540 I'm doing it because I know that I can profit off of it.

04:25:09.620 I know that there are men who are going to be intrigued and will pay money to see me doing

04:25:14.380 all that stuff.

04:25:15.280 Is it a society that I want to have those views?

04:25:19.720 I just know.

04:25:21.000 Because when I look at a man, I'm not thinking, oh, like, I want to bang him so badly.

04:25:25.520 Or, like, I don't have those thoughts about when I just see a person.

04:25:28.880 I don't immediately just think that stuff.

04:25:31.460 I know that people would think that.

04:25:33.420 And, like, I don't think that's, like...

04:25:35.500 I don't know.

04:25:36.080 Would you always want the people around you to be like, oh, wow, you're, like, so sexy. 0.99

04:25:39.620 I'd bang you. 0.97

04:25:41.600 No, I wouldn't. 0.99

04:25:42.620 No, but I'm just...

04:25:43.520 I'm just...

04:25:44.000 I'm just confused.

04:25:45.920 Sorry.

04:25:46.180 If you don't...

04:25:46.820 If you don't like being sexualized all the time...

04:25:48.920 All the time, yeah.

04:25:49.920 But...

04:25:50.520 Then...

04:25:50.540 I don't...

04:25:52.660 I mean, in, like, not...

04:25:53.640 You can choose to not do work that isn't sexualizing.

04:25:54.820 I'm not saying me specifically.

04:25:56.880 Yeah, no.

04:25:57.240 And I'm not saying just me specifically.

04:25:58.780 I mean, just, like, in terms of, like, society as a whole, women do tend to be sexualized 1.00

04:26:02.020 more.

04:26:02.200 And I wish it wasn't that way.

04:26:03.780 I see.

04:26:04.320 But it's a point of empowerment to capitalize on it.

04:26:06.340 It can be.

04:26:06.780 Yeah, no, totally.

04:26:08.000 Sure.

04:26:08.140 Or, like, taking over, like, what your sexuality is.

04:26:10.760 Like, that is empowering.

04:26:11.920 But it's when it's negatively viewed is when I don't like it.

04:26:17.260 So, wait.

04:26:18.340 Just so I'm understanding here. 1.00

04:26:21.500 It's wrong that men want to fuck you. 1.00

04:26:28.960 Can we go to the next topic? 1.00

04:26:30.140 Yeah, can we change topics?

04:26:31.740 I feel like we're diving.

04:26:32.680 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

04:26:33.240 Just go into circles.

04:26:34.460 All right.

04:26:34.640 It's not that big.

04:26:35.140 Last super chat here.

04:26:36.080 We got Shayna, Tara.

04:26:38.140 Tara?

04:26:38.900 Tara.

04:26:39.620 Tara, Brian.

04:26:40.680 Tara.

04:26:41.140 I'm not coming on again.

04:26:42.140 Sorry, my bad.

04:26:42.980 Is asking this guy out.

04:26:44.480 She better pay for his dinner. 0.88

04:26:45.720 Hashtag equality.

04:26:47.000 Okay, guys, we're going to wrap there.

04:26:48.740 Big thank you to the panel for running a bit late on the show.

04:26:54.020 We've always running over.

04:26:57.140 I need to do time management better.

04:26:59.980 I need to do time management better.

04:27:01.640 So, yeah.

04:27:02.200 Thank you guys for staying late.

04:27:04.940 I'm tired myself.

04:27:06.360 So, guys, thank you for tuning in tonight.

04:27:09.600 You could have been doing anything else, but you were.

04:27:12.120 Oh, wait.

04:27:12.520 Last thing.

04:27:13.580 Last thing.

04:27:14.320 I swear.

04:27:15.700 Last thing.

04:27:16.480 Okay.

04:27:16.620 So, it's sort of related to the money thing, right?

04:27:26.020 So, we were talking about, like, does it shock you guys?

04:27:29.240 And this will take two minutes.

04:27:30.300 Does it shock you guys that men, we don't really, like, a woman's finances, like, it doesn't make a woman more attractive?

04:27:40.920 Like, if she's successful or as ambitious or has high earning potential or is a high earner.

04:27:47.260 Is it, does it bother us?

04:27:48.620 Does it, does that bother you?

04:27:50.360 I would, if you don't mind me going, yeah, I don't, it kind of does bother me.

04:27:54.260 I feel like I work really hard and I would want that to be seen and I would want that to be valued.

04:28:00.300 Yeah.

04:28:01.740 Otherwise, what's the point of me working so hard and going to school and getting an education to do better?

04:28:06.680 For myself, for one, but I want, I plan on getting married and I would hope that, you know, my future husband would be appreciative that I have that drive and I'm willing to work.

04:28:16.020 Okay.

04:28:18.600 For some situations, for some relationships, I think it's, maybe I shouldn't say some, it might be a majority, but some people don't have an issue with that.

04:28:30.300 But the thing is though, it, it doesn't, it's not necessarily a con or a negative.

04:28:36.220 It's just, it doesn't, it doesn't make you more attractive to be like super successful. 0.77

04:28:42.400 Like for example, Oprah Winfrey, she's not like guys aren't banging down the fucking door because men and women are attracted to different things.

04:28:51.100 She's, she's incredibly wealthy, but like, she's not like an appealing match for the vast majority of men because, well, for a few reasons, but let me, let me give an example, right? 0.90

04:29:07.460 Would you date, should I do, I don't know.

04:29:09.860 It's a little, it's a little late.

04:29:11.480 It's a little late.

04:29:12.120 It's so late.

04:29:12.780 I'm tired.

04:29:13.480 But I was shocked when you told me, I think the first time I heard something like that was from you where you were saying, or maybe you and Chase or something where like men do not, you said, you know, you said the Chipotle baddie thing.

04:29:26.640 A guy would date a baddie who worked at Chipotle and I have not stopped thinking about it ever since you said that.

04:29:32.900 That was actually mind blowing for me to like realize that like, yeah, guys, I, I'll date a, someone who works at Chick-fil-A.

04:29:40.920 I do not like it.

04:29:42.480 It's not, but I, I would, I would hope that, you know, someone who has a good job, that that would be appealing and somewhat attractive.

04:29:51.900 Yeah.

04:29:52.440 If it's not, that's okay.

04:29:53.960 I just, I would, I would think though that you would rather value someone that is in a better profession or aiming to that.

04:30:02.900 It doesn't make you, it doesn't make you hotter or more attractive.

04:30:07.340 Well, I don't know.

04:30:08.780 Why would that make it?

04:30:10.840 Then that's, I mean, unless you're getting a physical change to yourself, then yes, that would be applicable to that.

04:30:16.860 But then, you know, it doesn't make you more of a catch.

04:30:19.580 Whereas like you ask a lot of women and you say, this guy's a doctor, this guy's an attorney, this guy's this career, whatever it may be.

04:30:28.180 A lot of women are going to be like, based off of that, and there's obviously other considerations besides just his career.

04:30:35.820 They're going to say, he's a catch.

04:30:38.480 That's a catch.

04:30:39.140 He's a doctor.

04:30:39.760 He's a catch.

04:30:40.520 So a guy's not going to be like, oh, she's, you know, a VP of a company.

04:30:46.420 She's a catch. 1.00

04:30:47.820 They're not going to start with that.

04:30:49.420 They're going to go towards her looks and then what she brings to the table. 0.99

04:30:53.020 And then maybe that's a plus at the end of the tunnel.

04:30:55.880 Is that what you're saying?

04:30:56.160 Beauty, fertility, youth.

04:30:58.160 So that's last.

04:30:59.040 So femininity. 1.00

04:30:59.920 Women and men prioritize different things then. 0.99

04:31:02.040 Yeah.

04:31:02.580 Okay.

04:31:03.200 Yeah.

04:31:04.660 Men and women are not the same. 0.99

04:31:06.720 Like we have, we're attracted to different things.

04:31:09.880 Yeah.

04:31:10.080 Yeah.

04:31:10.360 I think we all know that.

04:31:12.380 Like women, most women probably want a guy who's taller than them. 1.00

04:31:15.140 Like guys, we don't really give a fuck about a girl's height. 0.96

04:31:17.340 Like don't care. 0.97

04:31:18.220 Like, so it's just a difference.

04:31:22.400 But you said the VP thing.

04:31:25.780 I would say the one thing with that is a woman who's super ambitious, super career oriented. 1.00

04:31:34.720 In order to succeed in the corporate environment, you do tend to take on more masculine traits. 1.00

04:31:46.000 You know, boss, boss bitch, right? 1.00

04:31:47.960 Like, so a lot of men are going to, and that's fine. 0.99

04:31:52.780 Like get your money, go for it.

04:31:55.040 But a lot of guys are going to view a really masculine woman and probably be, it's going 0.99

04:32:01.280 to be a bit of actually a detriment.

04:32:03.420 It might be a turnoff.

04:32:04.200 But I can see that she brought up earlier about how women and men are, they want like opposites. 0.99

04:32:11.440 Or I don't know how you said that.

04:32:12.220 Yeah.

04:32:12.420 So masculine men don't want masculine women. 1.00

04:32:15.220 Yeah.

04:32:15.420 But why does like them being in a position of power make them masculine?

04:32:19.140 Because it requires certain traits to succeed in the cutthroat corporate world.

04:32:24.320 So you're saying that when a woman can like get to that point in like a business world 1.00

04:32:32.360 or whatever, like she has to have masculine traits. 0.99

04:32:35.020 Like why can't she have feminine? 1.00

04:32:35.860 I don't think he's saying it's right.

04:32:37.220 I think he's just saying, which is something that's just surprising to women.

04:32:40.500 Because I feel like I, at least I feel like I grew up in a very, you know, girl boss mindset 0.84

04:32:46.100 that like it's, it's hot to own your own company, which, you know, it's hot to like

04:32:53.020 girl to girl, it's hot to own your own company, like go you girl boss. 0.70

04:32:56.360 But that guys like do not care.

04:32:58.500 Like it does not make you like more attractive than a girl that looks just like you because

04:33:03.760 you're making, you're like more successful or more, more higher up in your career.

04:33:09.540 It's just, it's just, I think girls just don't realize how little it matters to guys.

04:33:13.380 That's so shocking.

04:33:14.160 But you know what?

04:33:15.060 Honestly, I feel that, but come marriage, you're gonna, you're gonna want that to matter.

04:33:19.840 Just wait.

04:33:20.760 I feel like when it's all on you, that's when you're going to be cheating on your wife

04:33:24.520 because you're stressed out because you couldn't make the payment on the house.

04:33:28.180 You have crying kids.

04:33:29.400 I gotta be honest.

04:33:30.300 I feel like it might be more likely that a guy, if a guy has like a litigation attorney

04:33:34.240 wife, I feel like that's more likely to lead to cheating than like, what?

04:33:38.800 Because her, he, she's too poor. 1.00

04:33:40.960 I just mean like, I don't think the cause of cheating is because like your wife is poor.

04:33:44.920 Okay.

04:33:45.300 We went specifically on that.

04:33:46.760 The downfall of like a marriage.

04:33:47.700 The downfall of a marriage really highlights and ends on there.

04:33:50.660 And I've known many married men that are just like, oh man, my wife is just sitting on 1.00

04:33:56.520 her ass all day, just eating and getting fat and just watching the kids. 0.99

04:33:59.500 And I come and work at eight to five and I have to support the house. 1.00

04:34:02.360 Yeah. 1.00

04:34:02.520 That shit gets old. 1.00

04:34:03.640 Trust me. 1.00

04:34:04.020 That shit gets old. 1.00

04:34:04.780 But I don't know. 1.00

04:34:05.500 It's, I guess it's everybody's preference.

04:34:06.680 Well, I mean, just really quick on the divorce thing.

04:34:08.720 So, um, 50% of marriages and in divorce, 80% of divorces are initiated by women. 0.60

04:34:15.860 That number rises to 90% if she's college educated, explain that one. 1.00

04:34:21.540 Um, so college.

04:34:25.600 So, okay, 50% of marriages and in divorce, 80% of marriage or sorry, 80% of divorces are

04:34:32.700 initiated by women.

04:34:34.380 That number jumps to 90% if she's college educated. 0.95

04:34:39.740 One of the, one of the number one predictors for divorce is if the woman out earns her husband. 0.89

04:34:45.420 She, uh, you're more likely to get divorced if the wife is the breadwinner. 1.00

04:34:49.780 Um, that's so interesting.

04:34:54.960 Maybe we can unpack this more next episode.

04:34:57.940 Yeah.

04:34:58.160 Yeah.

04:34:58.600 Yeah.

04:34:58.960 Yeah.

04:34:59.220 We will.

04:34:59.760 We will.

04:35:00.240 Um, but, uh, should I do the, I'm going to go.

04:35:05.260 I'm okay.

04:35:05.860 We'll wrap.

04:35:06.820 All right.

04:35:07.320 Hold on.

04:35:07.680 We'll wrap.

04:35:08.120 All right, guys.

04:35:09.280 Thank you for tuning in.

04:35:10.380 Like I said, you could be doing anything else, but you're here with me.

04:35:12.760 I appreciate that.

04:35:13.400 Thanks to everyone who super chat supports the show.

04:35:15.220 I really appreciate you.

04:35:17.060 Um, thanks to our chat mod, Zach, Candace.

04:35:19.360 Good to see you guys.

04:35:20.320 Thanks, Eric.

04:35:20.980 Top producer.

04:35:21.960 Thank you once again to the panel.

04:35:23.220 Sorry.

04:35:23.460 We went late guys.

04:35:24.320 Just, I said, I'd ended an hour ago, an hour ago.

04:35:28.220 Okay.

04:35:28.480 Um, we will be live again Tuesday at 7 PM Pacific.

04:35:31.460 We might do a Sunday show.

04:35:32.660 Maybe, I don't know, but we'll see.

04:35:34.320 Anyways, guys, we'll see you next time.

04:35:35.620 Good night, guys.

04:35:36.200 Have a good night.

04:35:37.620 We'll see you soon.

04:35:38.400 Bye.

04:35:39.040 Bye.

04:35:39.280 Bye.

Whatever Podcast - February 04, 2023

Dating Talk #41

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