Dating Talk #50
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3 hours and 51 minutes
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176.12926
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269
Summary
In this episode of Whatever Happens in the State of California, we have a full house on the show, and it's all because we invited three girls to come on and talk to us about what it's like to be a college student in the Bay Area.
Transcript
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La donna è mobile, qual piuma al vento, muta d'accento e vita in sieno.
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Sempre un'amabile, legge addroviso, impianto in riso e menzognero.
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La donna è mobile, qual piuma al vento, muta d'accento e vita in sieno.
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La donna è mobile, qual piuma al vento, muta d'accento e vita in sieno.
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La donna è mobile, qual piuma al vento, muta d'accento e vita in sieno.
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She's, if you can just kind of move, like kind of, there, yeah, she's, there she is.
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So anyway, a few quick announcements before the show begins.
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And last, well, second to last, third to last maybe.
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Any girls who want to be on the show, DM at whatever on Instagram, Carson.
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And if you're in Santa Barbara, I'm looking for a talent booker and potentially a co-host.
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And I want to do a quick thank you to a few people.
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Zach, Candice, Nemesis, Urameshi, Blair, Michael, Matroke, the fourth.
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Anyways, without further ado, we're going to have the guests introduce themselves.
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So please tell us your name, age, and occupation.
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I'm 18, and I'm studying communication at UCSB.
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It's my third year, and my major is econ and accounting.
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I go to UCSB as well, and I'm an economics major.
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That's what they call me on these YouTube streets.
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Happy to be in the great state of California with you, buddy.
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By the way, guys, me and John, we will be doing a one-on-one interview tomorrow, guys,
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Perfect, and we're going to get into some juicy stuff.
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So, and you will be joining us on the Tuesday Dating Talk Show, too, correct?
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Now, over the winter break, I posted a TikTok featuring Natasha from our show, and it kind
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And Natasha, do you want to address anything related to that?
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Natasha's, I don't know if she likes that she went viral.
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Yeah, so this isn't the video, but the original, like, two, almost 300 people reacted to it.
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I don't think it's good for women, and I don't think they really need to be using it, honestly.
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Makeup is, it's capitalizing on women's insecurities when it's something that they can easily fix.
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I think it takes away from a woman's natural beauty, and also, it is so bad for you.
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When you read the ingredients on a foundation bottle, what is in it?
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It's a bunch of crap that you're putting on your face.
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So you have to keep buying more foundation to cover up what it's creating.
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Maybe I should have saved that for later, because maybe some of the girls here at the table might have a response to that.
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But, so, it got like 11 million views on TikTok.
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Instagram, I think one page got 10 million, too.
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I think it was something along the lines of, I think it was something like,
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I'd like to take this chance to apologize to absolutely nobody.
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So, we'll come back to the makeup thing, because we'll have the girls maybe react to that.
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So, we're going to go around the table once more.
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What is your current relationship status and longest relationship?
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I'm single, and I've never been in a relationship before.
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What is the longest period of time that you've concurrently been seeing a guy?
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But, I assume maybe there's a guy you dated for a month or two.
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Have you never hung out with, never dated a guy?
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But, have you done anything romantic with a guy?
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That's not a question I'm comfortable answering.
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Well, I mean, even if it's not that, I mean, you could have.
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And, how long would you say that talking stage lasted?
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We just kind of went our separate ways because I was going to college, so.
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I mean, well, I would have graduated high school.
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My last relationship, probably a little less than a year.
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I broke up with him because he cheated on me, so.
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I am single, and my longest lasting relationship was a little bit over nine months.
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I am in a relationship, and the longest I've been in one, I would say about a year and a
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How long have you been seeing your current guy?
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Well, we were best friends for about a year, and then we just started dating.
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Um, I'm single, and I've never been in an official relationship.
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What, how would you define an unofficial relationship?
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Um, you were basically, you were basically his girlfriend.
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If he just keeps coming back, that means he likes you.
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Well, so my question is, did you, was there ever a time where you said, hey, I want this
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Well, because it was from high school, senior year.
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Um, but we've been official for like two weeks.
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It's like my first real relationship, honestly.
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Um, I'm very single, and, um, my longest relationship was my first relationship.
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So when you say you're very single, what, what is the very, like how, how, explain that?
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So, does that mean that you're just not even hooking up with anybody?
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But I think a lot of people that are like relationship quality, it's just, it's not here.
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When you say you're hooking up with people, do you mean multiple people?
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There's some people that I keep in contact with to hook up with.
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As of currently, I'm just hooking up with like two, three people right now.
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So, there's this three dudes that you're seeing at the same time and sleeping with all three
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I never really talked about it with them, but...
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I never really talked about it with them, but I'm assuming they're seeing other people
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You almost have to go in assuming that people are seeing other people.
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Current relationship status, longest relationship?
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I'm currently single, and the longest relationship I had was roughly a year and a half.
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I've been in my current relationship now two years.
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And you said your current relationship, are you monogamous?
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But I don't like to go out and, like, you know, parade around and say that.
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So, you have a main chick and occasionally side chicks?
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I feel like the quality of women is going down.
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So, it's just getting harder and harder to find somebody that's, like, just cool.
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But I will say, though, as I'm getting older, I'm kind of, like, wanting now.
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I now realize, like, the whole, the, like, the hot girl summer, the hot dude summer, all that stuff, it's a lie.
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Like, the more fulfilling stuff comes with common relationship and family down the road.
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But that's where I'm kind of, like, anti-degeneracy, like, too much sexual degeneracy and stuff like that.
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Six years in Tokyo in a row, and then one year in Osaka, and one year in Saitama.
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Because they tax you wherever you go on the planet.
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Yeah, I still pay taxes in America and in Japan.
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Have you ever thought about, what is it, revoking your, abandoning your U.S. citizenship
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There's like St. Kitts, and then there's a couple Eastern European unions.
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And do you, so are you able to stay in Japan full time or do you have to like come back
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So I had a five-year visa for right now, and then now I'm switching my visas, and so it's
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And then if I can't get that, I'll figure out another visa.
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All right, so by the way, guys, we had, I think this is a record, only one girl flake
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So I want to thank everyone who was able to make it tonight.
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And so we're going to go around the table on this really quick.
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Okay, we might pull up, we might pull up a little dating app reaction review from the girls.
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So some of them were so kind to share their dating app hijinks with us, so we might do
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Are any of you, have any of you ever had a sugar daddy?
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How many of you, a lot of you are in college, right?
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How many of you, and UCSB, most of you go to UCSB, right?
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So, I mean, UCSB, SBCC, pretty big party schools.
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UCSB is frequently ranked the number one party school in the U.S.
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How many of you party Thursday, Friday, Saturday?
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I mean, definitely Friday nights, definitely partying, but we got our priority first, so.
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I'll, like, drink with my friends, but I'm not really the type to go out and do all that.
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Yeah, I actually don't party here as much as I used to back home.
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Yeah, I don't go out every weekend, but if I do, it's not three days in a row.
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We're actually roommates, and so sometimes we do go out.
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Sometimes we just hang out with our friends, kick back, drink, but we usually don't do
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that three days in a row because we got school and shit.
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Just the occasional thing with my friends, you know?
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Not as often as I used to, but when I do, man, just watch out.
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These days, I was partying with the boys in Miami for their one million subscriber.
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So, it seems like there's a little difference here in terms of people's proclivity for partying.
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And I encountered this recently where I was talking to this girl, and I was trying to
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plan a date with her for like a Friday, like a week down the road.
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And I've actually encountered this quite frequently.
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Their Thursday, Friday, and Saturday is just spoken for.
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It doesn't like, even if you ask to make a plan, they already know they're already going
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to be partying Thursday, Friday, Saturday, sometimes Sunday.
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So, first off, I think that immediately if a girl tells me that she's partying, I'm already
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But if I'm asking you on a Monday, are you free Friday?
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And she already knows she's just going to do her basic normal party thing.
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So, my question to you is, let's say you were talking to a guy and you're really interested
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in him and you wanted to angle for a relationship.
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One of his conditions for exclusivity was that you stop going out and partying.
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Or do you say, hey, you're not going to control me.
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Personally, I wouldn't accept that just because I think a huge part of partying, at least for
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Like, I love going out with my friends, my guy friends, my girlfriends.
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It's just always a fun night, like, no matter where we go.
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Even if we don't find a party, it's just the whole spending time with them and just bonding.
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I mean, we all, we hang out outside of partying too, but I think that that would make me a
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little bit upset because he's taking away time from my friends.
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But I understand if my kind of goal going into partying was, oh, I'm going to go to
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But for me personally, I party with my friends, so.
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Can you tilt the microphone down just slightly?
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Well, if it's like a condition, like you have to, I would say no.
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But at the same time, like, I would be down to probably like hang out with like my boyfriend
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or the guy I'm talking to instead of like going out on Friday night.
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But it can't be like every Friday night, I'm just going to give up having fun with my friends
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Even if he is my boyfriend, am I going to marry him?
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So if I want to go out with my friends and party, I'm going to go out with my friends and
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I really don't care if he's telling me not to go because nine times out of ten, he's
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probably going to bars and party and is probably partying with his friends.
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So I'm guessing that exception is probably just for me.
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Is he also going to, is that not allowed for him either?
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Is he also going to go party or is he, is that just for me?
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If it's the same way and if he's not going to go party, then maybe.
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Um, yeah, I do want to be loved, but I'm not going to go make these exceptions for a
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He's not telling you to accept some like abusive standard.
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You're like, well, it'll let men tell me what to do.
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Like, well, yeah, because if he's already trying to control what I'm doing and who I'm going
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out with, what I'm doing in my free time, that, that's might be the start of something
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toxic and I don't want to put myself in that situation.
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If a man is telling me, I'm sorry, no, you can't go out and drink with your friends.
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And I'm, I immediately would lose that interest because I'm not going to, I'm sorry, but I'm
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I have free will and I don't think I would really love somebody enough to just be like,
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We can address it really quick since it's interesting.
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Um, so you said that you wouldn't change any of your behaviors when you get into a relationship,
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For example, you no longer sleep with other people, assuming you're in a monogamous relationship.
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You, I think it's best to grow when you're in a relationship.
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It's only, it's, if you're benefiting and you're growing in a relationship, good.
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But if you are unhappy and if you're not happy, like staying home with that, with your man
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and not going, you would rather be partying, break up with him.
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Because if you'd rather be partying, go do that.
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It's doesn't, you're not committed to be stay at home girlfriend with your man and just
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listen to your man because is that man providing for me financially?
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And I don't think I'm going to find a high value man at this age because there isn't any
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Well, I mean, it's actually at 21 years old, that's the best time to be looking for a high
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Who's the guy that made you, made you like this?
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So you're just born with all this angst and hatred in your heart?
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Because I have value, like values that aren't traditional.
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Listen, just because I'm wearing a suit doesn't mean.
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Just because I'm wearing a suit doesn't mean I'm traditional.
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So all I'm trying to say is he asked you like a very simple question, but you came back
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with like a fiery, emotionally charged answer that was kind of like a little bit anti-male.
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And so I'm kind of trying to figure out like, yeah, like what happened?
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I've only really ever been in one really serious relationship.
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And I was the one who ended it because I thought that it would be more fun to be single.
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Yeah, I've been on like dating sites, but if you look at the people that I match with
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or the people that I like my messages, there really isn't none because I haven't found
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that high value male that I want to marry or pursue or even sleep with.
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High value men, nine times out of 10, they're not on dating apps.
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Just like high value women, nine times out of 10 are not on dating apps.
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Yeah, modesty in character, modesty in appearance, modesty in her demeanor.
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You just don't like it when a woman is outspoken.
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And you're already starting to say, you just called me a bitch.
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Yeah, no, it seems like you're intimidated by somebody that speaks the truth.
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That modesty, that is, okay, that is your concern, modesty.
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So, yeah, you just said that, a high-value woman, the first thing that came out of your
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There were multiple things that came out of your list.
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Can we just lower the temperature a little bit?
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I would say, John, but just maybe refrain from ad homily.
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Right, but at the same time, you don't know me, so you've talked to me for like a few
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minutes, and you swear to God, you have like my entire ideology summed up.
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So, okay, so you were talking about how, and it's, if you want to do the hot girl summer,
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Yeah, so like, you're saying, hey, if you're just going to go to the clubs.
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I'll go and drink with my friends, but I'm not going out in big groups.
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No, but you just said that you just turned 21, and you're.
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I'd like to keep it as an option, but I haven't gone yet.
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Oh, wait, so I'm not really sure what we're arguing about, but.
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So your main thing is that you would not tolerate a guy saying, hey, here.
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Yeah, I personally, I don't really, maybe in the future, I'll go to bars with my friends
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once they're all 21, but if a man is telling me, hey, don't go out to the bar, don't go
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drinking with your friends, don't do this, and he's already putting these restrictions
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I forgot what I was saying, but she even frazzled the camera guy.
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So, what I was saying is, if a man is putting those restrictions on me, saying, hey, you
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can't go party, you can't do this, you can't do that.
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Hey, maybe, yeah, there's like those basic things like, don't text other girls.
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Those basic unspoken things that you already are supposed to do in a relationship.
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But if a man is telling you, hey, don't go party with your friends, what is the reason?
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Is it because he's scared that you're going to go hook up with another guy?
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Let me ask, would you, let's say your boyfriend was going to the strip club two times a week.
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Yeah, because I feel like that's already an unspoken rule in a relationship.
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Well, you shouldn't go to the bars and clubs when you're in a relationship.
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You shouldn't really be like partying with your single female friends or single friends for that matter if you're in a relationship.
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Maybe that's what you think in your own dating life, but we're young.
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So that your entire argument just went down the trash.
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If you don't want to be in a relationship and you just want to party, that's fine for you if that's your choice that you want to make.
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Some guy's going to be compromising when he dates you, for sure.
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If I want to go have fun with my girls, I want to go have fun with my girls.
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I'm not going to go stay at home at 21 just because a man told me to.
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So why am I going to go listen to another man just because I like him right now?
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So why am I going to make these restrictions for him?
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Why do you frame it as I'm not going to listen to a man versus just I'm not going to listen
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There seems to be a slight animosity there with the...
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But so you would have an issue with your boyfriend going to the strip club.
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Even though, well, I would argue that the chance of your boyfriend being able to sleep
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with one of the strippers is far lower than your chance to sleep with a guy when you've
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I'm just going to get drunk and sleep with whoever.
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Do people make better decisions when they're drunk or worse decisions?
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Well, there was a study where this one person...
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Oh, so you're impervious to judgment decisions that are caused by alcohol?
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I believe people make some bad decisions while they're drunk, but don't get to that level.
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If you're going out to have fun, then you're not going out to like...
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Maybe, yeah, if you want to black out, go black out.
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But if you want to go and just have fun and drink casually with your friends, that's okay.
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If you're really going to go drink and cheat and use...
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If you're going to cheat at the bar, that is your own decision.
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In the history of all infidelities that have happened all throughout history, do you think
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I'm sure maybe somebody has regretted it and they lost that person and they were like,
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Well, they regret it because they got caught, you know?
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Well, I mean, even if they don't get caught, sometimes you make...
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Drinking and going out and seeking a guy to sleep with, that's a conscious decision.
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I've been, you know, like, I've been intoxicated well past my capacity to do that.
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And I could still make conscious decisions, you know?
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So I was even thinking in those instances, I was like, oh, wow, people really use that
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excuse of being drunk as a way to, like, kind of justify them sleeping with other people
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Alcohol doesn't really affect that, in my opinion.
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I want to give everyone an opportunity to answer the original question.
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I actually kind of agree with what she was saying to some extent.
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I wouldn't be okay with a guy putting restrictions on me.
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How long have you been dating your current partner?
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Listen, my personal take is, if it's every once in a while, whatever.
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But if it's like, you know, there's a birthday party.
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But me personally, if it's like a one-time thing.
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But otherwise, she doesn't party or go to clubs.
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But if it's like, she wants to party every weekend, that's a major issue.
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And I'm not going to let whoever I'm dating dictate that.
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Why are you insecure that I'm going out to party?
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Is it insecurity or is it just having a boundary?
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Because their idea of partying, they're connecting that with hooking up.
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And you can have fun at a party without hooking up.
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And I have been out, like, partying, just with friends, having fun.
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What you call insecurity, I call having a boundary.
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Well, I was going to say that boundary also comes from wanting respect.
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So you going out and not partying and drinking and getting drunk and having all these men be attracted to you.
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Sometimes I go to clubs, and I go with him, too.
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And if I were to tell him I just feel like going out with my girlfriends, he would be okay with it.
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And if he were to tell me I just want to go with my girlfriends, I would be okay with it.
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And if we don't trust each other, then why the fuck are you in a relationship?
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By the way, can I have everyone, just all of you on that side, push your cups further into the table, please?
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Sounds like you're mad if he can't let go of it.
00:40:26.600
If your boyfriend said, hey, I don't want you going to bars and clubs.
00:40:38.420
I don't want him to think he has control on other aspects after that.
00:40:47.160
So obviously I'm not going to be going out like every weekend and stuff like that.
00:40:51.380
But I shouldn't be restricted from going out at all.
00:40:54.980
Or if I feel like, oh, going two weekends in a row, I shouldn't be giving shit for it if I decide to do so.
00:41:00.220
Would you give a guy shit if he was paying for another girl's OnlyFans while dating you?
00:41:25.160
Is that a problem if he goes to the strip club twice a week?
00:41:27.420
Okay, so I have older brothers and they're married, you know, they go out and things like that.
00:41:31.820
I'm not opposed to the strip club as long as they're not paying for private dances.
00:41:41.020
Okay, you wouldn't mind the strip club, though.
00:41:42.460
Your boyfriend's going to the strip club twice a week.
00:41:46.040
Like, I'm not going to be going out every weekend.
00:41:48.440
I'm not expecting him to be going out every weekend.
00:41:58.460
I'm not, like, a fan of an ultimatum like that.
00:42:01.760
But I don't really care if other people want those boundaries.
00:42:07.940
If other people want to do that in their relationships, that's fine.
00:42:13.780
I'm honestly, like, still new to the whole scene of going out.
00:42:22.940
I'm not, like, super interested in going out and getting super drunk anymore now that I'm
00:42:27.880
Just because I feel like I get annoying and I start spam texting that person.
00:42:52.120
Like, if he just comes up to me and he's, like, don't go to parties, it's different than
00:42:57.040
if we're sitting down and we're just having a conversation and he's, like, hey, it makes
00:43:00.620
me a little uncomfortable or I don't feel, like, too good with it.
00:43:04.020
It's two completely different situations and two completely different reactions that I'm
00:43:14.200
You said a guy I was seeing at the time, right?
00:43:17.200
So let's say you were, like, hey, I want to be monogamous with you and he's, like, that's
00:43:22.260
fine, just you seem to party a lot and if, like, I'm not prepared to commit to you if
00:43:28.940
you're partying all the time, going out every weekend.
00:43:32.260
I mean, first off, I would understand where he's coming from, but personally for me, I
00:43:37.780
view going out, like, partying every weekend, like what she said was connecting with my friends
00:43:43.100
and it's just a social thing that I want to do with my friends to keep in touch and get
00:43:52.860
Yeah, I wouldn't be okay with that because I just feel that as a social gathering, hanging
00:43:58.960
And if you're restricting me hanging out with my friends, that's not cool.
00:44:06.120
I think that the situation is very situational, but I would say that I'd be okay with it because,
00:44:11.840
one, I don't really enjoy parties at, like, me personally, right?
00:44:15.920
And I would understand it because, you know, men understand what goes on at parties and I
00:44:21.420
I don't think Brian's talking about the wholesome parties that you guys are talking about, like,
00:44:25.760
I think he's talking about the ones where, you know, you drink a lot and you're surrounded
00:44:28.640
by a lot of guys and there's a lot of, like, you know, different things going on that aren't
00:44:35.160
So knowing that, like, if he came to me talking about how he doesn't really want a girl at
00:44:41.040
parties and is being sought out by different guys and potentially seeking out different
00:44:51.680
Flann Life, thank you for the 10 gifted subs or memberships.
00:44:58.640
Uh, I just think that boundaries are good for relationships.
00:45:03.060
I know most people here haven't had a relationship over two years, but, um, like, you have to
00:45:08.080
understand that the boundaries, a lot of people think boundaries for relationships are to keep
00:45:13.020
the woman trapped and oppressed and, like, some sort of just, like, subjugation, but reality
00:45:19.000
it's to protect your relationship for the two of you.
00:45:25.460
It's the guy's not there just trying to, like, control you and be like, oh, you must
00:45:31.600
I think a lot of you girls, like, take it that hard left extreme or hard right, whatever,
00:45:44.280
You just seemed annoyed right when I opened my mouth, but maybe it's because...
00:45:50.040
We knew you were going to have something to say no matter what.
00:45:52.280
Maybe it's because for literally, since civilization, women have been oppressed by men.
00:46:03.380
Maybe in our households or other things we've seen, we've seen relationships where the man
00:46:09.560
has been toxic and has been controlling to women.
00:46:20.760
It's okay for you to also have those personal boundaries.
00:46:24.560
Yeah, there's boundaries in a relationship, but you must also put personal boundaries within
00:46:31.200
Because if you're just, like, with this man, you're just going off whatever he's saying
00:46:42.440
And you end up losing those boundaries and you end up getting used as a stepping stool.
00:47:02.540
No, but I'm saying in general, I have friends that have seen maybe toxic relationships in
00:47:09.840
Maybe their friends have been in toxic relationships.
00:47:18.240
Yeah, you have a very negative perspective on a lot of things.
00:47:27.700
So, you think men wanting their girlfriends, partners, wives to not be partying, going out
00:47:39.080
to bars and clubs, you think that that's oppression?
00:47:44.280
I said women have been oppressed since the beginning of time.
00:48:01.080
No, if I'm not going to explain to myself who are...
00:48:03.980
Listen, in normal conversation where people aren't sitting around and patronizing you because
00:48:08.560
you're loud and obnoxious, and a lot of people don't want to confront you and tell
00:48:11.860
you that, but I'll tell you that right now, young lady, you're very loud and obnoxious
00:48:28.080
Now, what I'm saying is in conversation, when you bring something up, you can't just state
00:48:33.940
something as fact and then not defend it and then say, oh, well, if you don't know, it's
00:48:39.320
just because you're X, Y, Z, because that's what you're doing right now.
00:48:42.180
So, you said women have been oppressed by men since the dawn of civilization.
00:48:50.800
If you don't know that, I'm not going to explain to you.
00:48:54.000
Bro, just put a big L in the chat for her, guys.
00:49:08.420
I was invited here to give my opinion, and that's exactly what I'm going to do.
00:49:13.420
And you're not going to shun me, and you're not going to shut me out and call me obnoxious
00:49:17.400
because, mister, I can say the exact same thing about you.
00:49:21.820
You come in here, and you're just going to talk to these 18, 19, really early 20-year-old
00:49:34.520
You're not going to come here and call me obnoxious.
00:49:39.980
If you're going to come here onto a dating show and talk to me, a 21-year-old girl that
00:49:47.600
You don't have any privilege just because you're a 21-year-old girl.
00:49:56.720
You have used a couple ad hominem attacks on her.
00:49:59.380
You called me a bitch, and never once did I cuss on you.
00:50:02.420
So, maybe you should rethink the way you're speaking to me, and then I will give you that
00:50:16.380
No, I would encourage you to address her arguments rather than-
00:50:28.080
Right, but you still can't name anything that women were oppressed by men since the dawn of
00:50:39.140
Are we already getting into the feminist stuff here?
00:50:47.540
You are part of the problem if you don't think women were ever oppressed.
00:50:51.980
You are part of the problem, and that scares me because you said that you have a fan base
00:50:55.700
in America, and that really scares me for the men that are looking up to you, the young
00:51:00.040
impressionable boys that are looking up to you.
00:51:05.580
I don't even have to know because the fact that you're saying right now, you're coming,
00:51:11.540
You are talking to a group of women, and you're telling us that we've never been oppressed?
00:51:16.500
You're telling us that we've never been oppressed?
00:51:22.440
You're telling me to give you answers, so it's like you don't believe that we've ever been
00:51:31.500
Like, you could read the chat, and nobody here wants to speak up, but...
00:51:36.760
Okay, it's like probably like, what, 14, 15-year-old little boys?
00:51:42.100
Everybody who oppresses you or is against you or is oppressing you, and you're the eternal
00:51:58.740
If I was here to play the victim, I would be quiet, and I'd be playing the victim.
00:52:04.220
I'm here, and I'm talking to you, and I'm using my voice, and I'm here to stand up for
00:52:08.480
all these girls that maybe don't want to say anything because you're coming off as this
00:52:25.780
Okay, can we all agree to turn down, both of you, turn down the heat a little bit on
00:53:04.660
So, we'll come back to the oppressed thing later on in the show because we can have a solid
00:53:20.000
Everyone got to give their little piece, right?
00:53:23.040
So, it seems like the consensus for most of you is that it would be an issue if your partner
00:53:30.120
or before you got into a relationship with a guy said, hey, if you want to be serious
00:53:36.440
with me, monogamous, I don't want you going to bars, clubs, parties anymore, you would
00:53:47.600
I mean, I don't think it would be like an issue if he's willing to give up on partying or going
00:53:56.500
I think we should like communicate about like boundaries and what we're comfortable doing
00:54:01.720
and what we're not and kind of both compromise.
00:54:11.520
So, it seemed like most of you were okay with...
00:54:14.060
Or, sorry, most of you would have an issue if your partner said, hey, not comfortable with
00:54:17.780
you going to bars and clubs and parties anymore, you know, going out with your single girlfriends,
00:54:26.880
When you do go out, do you go out to meet men or are you going out...
00:54:40.120
And I think that this argument, it can change depending on where you are in life.
00:54:44.980
Like, if I'm older, I'm living in a city, I'm living by myself, I meet a guy, I'm dating
00:54:52.040
I would understand where he's coming from in a sense.
00:54:55.100
But right now, I wouldn't accept that because I'm not looking for a relationship.
00:55:00.260
So I guess it just kind of depends where you are, what you're looking for.
00:55:08.940
So I guess maybe I'm not in the right place to argue about this and my side.
00:55:15.000
For me, I definitely go and party with my friends.
00:55:19.100
My goal isn't to be like, by the end of the night, I want to hook up with a guy.
00:55:33.000
I go out to be with my friends, not to go meet a guy.
00:55:37.940
Yeah, and go out to be with my friends and dance, not look for men.
00:55:49.100
I guess friends, but I'd say a lot of girls do go out to find guys.
00:55:55.620
And I know some of you aren't going to bars and clubs yet because you're not 21.
00:56:01.360
If it's just to meet with your friends, why not just meet at one of your houses?
00:56:18.960
I know some of you aren't going to bars yet, but if you go to bars,
00:56:29.040
So why go out if it's just to hang out with your friends and have a good time?
00:56:51.060
John is a multimillionaire with countless accomplishments.
00:56:57.380
The fact that bangs slash lashes can make a statement ABT oppression
00:57:01.160
and not substantiate it is a serious problem in our world.
00:57:09.740
By the way, guys, do you like the new TTS voice?
00:57:14.120
We will come back to that later in a little bit, but continue with your point.
00:57:20.400
I don't even remember what I was saying, but, yeah,
00:57:23.080
I usually just stay at home with my friends, and that's what we do.
00:57:29.240
I live in a hick town in San Inaz, so there really isn't any partying.
00:57:33.800
I don't live in Ivy where there's, like, parties all the time,
00:57:38.880
But, personally, I'm 21, and I feel like the majority of the people partying in Ivy
00:57:45.080
is, like, a lot more younger kids, so that's not what I'm doing.
00:57:49.500
And most of my friends aren't 21 yet, so I'm not really going out to bars just yet.
00:57:56.200
But it's more fun when you're, like, dressing up and, like, going out and, like,
00:58:03.380
you know, like, you're getting ready with your friends, you're pre-gaming,
00:58:06.380
and then you're going to go out, you know, it's just more fun.
00:58:11.740
I would much rather be going out to the bar than being at my house.
00:58:18.380
Yeah, no, I personally don't really enjoy house parties
00:58:28.800
But when I go to clubs, I go for the environment.
00:58:31.440
So it's usually, like, a club that I really like to go to in my hometown
00:58:35.540
where they play music in Spanish and they play reggaeton.
00:58:41.680
You really can't have a fun night going to the club,
00:58:44.320
and the environment's way different than just being at home
00:58:46.500
drinking with your friends, which I also do enjoy,
00:58:53.880
I'm not opposed to, like, hanging out with my friends at home
00:58:58.380
I think it's just, like, the process of, like, getting excited,
00:59:01.780
you know, pick out an outfit, do your hair, do your makeup,
00:59:09.320
And I feel like most of the time, that's the funner part of it
00:59:15.500
Yeah, I personally do prefer, like, really more chill kick box
00:59:20.740
Like, I prefer that over a bar experience most of the time.
00:59:24.440
But I would say, like, it's a trade-off if you're going to go out.
00:59:30.240
it might be easier in a lot of ways to just make drinks
00:59:36.820
But, like, you're trading that for the convenience
00:59:41.880
or, like, the party atmosphere is already there.
00:59:47.040
I guess it just depends on which you're willing to give up.
00:59:54.120
It's just a whole atmosphere of getting ready to go out,
00:59:56.580
and that's the fun part of it, and going there.
01:00:03.940
So that's why I would prefer going out in that sense.
01:00:12.280
I understand the experience and all that stuff,
01:00:13.780
and I think it is fun as well to get dressed up
01:00:22.860
because sometimes girls will dress really, you know, revealing,
01:01:00.400
Really quick, I just want to address what you just said.
01:01:30.700
and I think even adding a little bit more blush
01:01:40.780
Yeah, I definitely don't do it for anybody else,
01:04:10.300
but I would never mind splitting the bill at all
01:04:13.560
and I would never mind paying for it myself either.
01:09:43.660
So those of you who said whoever asks should pay.
01:10:10.000
Have you ever asked a guy out for the first date?
01:10:15.760
Well, I mean, it's certainly convenient to say whoever asks should pay
01:10:32.220
and perhaps more money getting ready than men do?
01:10:39.680
Women will typically put on makeup before a date,
01:10:45.060
Men are obligated to pay because we get ready for them?
01:10:48.440
I've heard that argument from some women before that...
01:10:55.320
but me, personally, I would just rather have the man pay
01:11:09.120
How can you complain about women being oppressed
01:11:30.020
Yeah, I have the right to complain about women being oppressed.
01:11:32.900
There's literally, like, laws trying to ban abortion.
01:11:44.040
Why do I even have to explain that oppression...
01:11:54.700
I'm here to stand up for women that are oppressed.
01:12:00.840
I feel like I'm kind of getting picked on here.
01:12:16.160
So, how do you reconcile believing in gender equality,
01:12:19.360
but also holding men to their traditional gender roles
01:12:29.180
Being a feminist is just doing whatever you want to do
01:12:38.860
Like, standing up for, like, women's, like, rights
01:12:51.040
You almost very knee-jerk when I asked who should pay.
01:12:53.940
You said that men should pay immediately, right?
01:13:04.120
No, because my main concern with gender equality
01:38:41.320
I'm not planning on forcing you to rate yourself.
01:38:47.820
it kind of seems like you're telling me I'm not a ten,
01:39:12.560
I've got to just say whatever she wants me to say,
01:39:29.760
I think everyone has different perspectives on beauty.
01:39:37.460
that you can judge yourself objectively versus subjectively.
01:40:27.240
Whenever I see a guy that is really attractive,
01:40:41.220
I feel like I don't really just see a guy and be like,
01:41:07.200
isn't that going to have an impact on the types of men
01:41:28.280
I'm never going to get a Victoria's Secret model,
01:41:34.720
let's say a Victoria's Secret model like 10 years ago,
01:41:49.020
are you putting yourself in the position to be let down
01:43:07.060
can you think of like a famous guy who's a ten?
01:43:32.440
I feel like I'm beating a dead horse here a little bit.
01:43:49.660
Just the guys that I have talked to just happen to be six,
01:43:55.720
so you're talking about like you're the boyfriends or people you've hooked up with?
01:44:11.360
It just happens to be the case that all the guys you've gotten with.
01:44:21.960
what you're getting from me is that I'm trying to pursue a guy,
01:44:26.920
I'm not going out of my way trying to look for a guy and looking at all these things that he needs to have.
01:44:36.020
only 15% of the population is six feet or above.
01:45:01.440
Am I really going to be crying over a guy that's five,
01:45:07.900
but you said that you had an issue with the rating thing.
01:45:39.620
but I would prefer someone that's not shorter than me.
01:46:13.020
I feel like I don't want to feel like their child,
01:46:16.020
I know that like other people don't feel that way.
01:46:30.600
I've typically found myself more attracted to guys who are taller than me.
01:47:15.600
But if I'm going to go back to my dating history,
01:47:25.360
I was going to kind of tie that up to the rating thing,
01:47:29.640
that is literally a numerical measurement of a male's supposed attractiveness.
01:47:42.040
but I feel like when you ask us to rate ourselves,
01:47:44.480
I feel like it's mostly for these guys on here to be like,
01:47:52.840
Because you're asking us to rate ourselves right here.
01:47:56.320
where these people are going to judge us and just pick us down for saying anything.
01:48:05.880
if their sense of your rating aligns with your own self-assessment,
01:48:10.900
I don't think they would intentionally try to peg you down,
01:48:21.160
I just feel like you're really bothered with me rating myself a 10.
01:48:33.200
There's a difference between confidence and basically thinking you're on par with the most attractive women in the world.
01:48:44.720
And still have a reasonable self-assessment of your own physical attractiveness.
01:49:08.240
Maybe we have different views about confidence.
01:49:21.900
It takes me like two to three years to find a good,
01:50:00.360
would you want to give us a percentages on this?
01:50:41.660
These girls are like solid nines and tens and stuff.
01:50:53.980
I don't want to hammer on too long on this one.
01:51:41.820
Would the men be okay with going to a girls only bar?
01:51:51.600
it's not good for building something long term.
01:52:46.140
cities are not conducive for healthy relationships in general,
01:53:02.980
how do they feel about men being kept from their kids,
01:53:06.860
and there's a difference from confidence and delusional,
01:53:25.620
there's definitely discrimination against men in the family court system,
01:53:39.160
I definitely think they need to rework the laws in the United States,
01:53:45.560
I think it should be assumed split 50-50 custody,
01:54:02.720
maybe something that frustrates you about dating,
01:54:29.500
if there's like a situation you want advice on,
01:54:53.780
and I feel like if we just stop giving men pussy,
01:55:14.520
I feel like it'll kind of put men in their place,
01:55:57.160
I don't know if we're going to talk about this,
01:56:13.380
maybe some girls are gaining something like sexual pleasure,
01:57:30.720
why is it that women are attracted to shitty men,
01:58:49.740
but I don't think it's particularly fulfilling,
02:00:53.460
he can't just hook up with three new girls a week.
02:01:07.980
average men do not have access to hookup culture,
02:01:21.420
basically 80% of the women are all chasing after the top 10,
02:01:33.100
that hookup culture is bad for everybody in general.
02:01:35.800
The number one people who suffer the most from hookup culture is women.
02:02:19.860
Do you think that the women in the WNBA should be played,
02:02:38.020
that's a tricky question because I feel like you're trying to trick me with that because
02:02:56.040
like are more people watching the woman or more people watching the men?
02:03:16.680
I feel like I'm saying something wrong towards woman.
02:03:58.600
what was the fucking question I was originally going around the table on?
02:04:04.080
it was something you wanted to get off your chest.
02:04:11.940
but I do want to give everyone an opportunity to speak.
02:04:14.120
I actually don't have any concerns at the moment.
02:04:28.080
might as well just get out of my relationship right before college,
02:04:31.900
and everyone's going to be partaking in hookup culture,
02:04:54.080
All the women on the panel are definitely attractive,
02:05:08.560
Ask the chick with the bangs if she's an advocate for abstinence,
02:05:36.280
That's why am I going to be telling somebody else to not have sex before marriage.
02:05:44.560
they're asking if you defend that standpoint though.
02:05:48.960
do you defend abstinence before a relationship as in getting to know someone,
02:06:02.820
or maybe it doesn't even have anything to do with hookup culture,
02:06:05.860
but if you're hooking up with a guy on the first date,
02:06:20.820
or I waited a very long time to have sex with him,
02:06:26.180
I've loved girls I've slept with on the first night.
02:06:59.020
Because when you have sex with somebody on the first day,
02:07:51.320
Who here thinks hookup culture is a good thing?
02:08:09.000
I personally don't participate in hookup culture,
02:08:17.140
I'm not going to judge girls that participate in hookup culture.
02:08:33.760
I don't personally believe in having sex before,
02:08:40.200
I don't think I'm going to hook up with someone unless I know,
02:08:49.380
America leads the world in divorce and broken families,
02:09:00.100
Because people are getting married at a very young age,
02:09:08.180
so I feel like everybody kind of just gets stuck in this little hole,
02:09:15.880
and they're kind of just so bored with their lives.
02:09:22.920
and they're still with their high school sweetheart,
02:09:34.780
maybe there is more to life than being with my high school sweetheart.
02:09:46.080
do you know what the average age of marriage is in America?
02:09:58.820
I've seen a lot of people get engaged and married at a very young age.
02:10:08.800
because you seem like you come from a married household.
02:10:17.080
Why do you think relationships in America are kind of falling apart?
02:10:24.560
I think people are getting married soon after they meet people.
02:10:33.860
you want to spend the rest of your life with them,
02:10:36.440
But I do think sometimes hookup culture maybe has something to do with it.
02:10:41.680
Maybe not giving the relationship as much time as it needs before jumping into it,
02:10:46.720
because you're always going to run into problems.
02:10:48.480
But some people just aren't meant for each other,
02:10:50.620
and I think a lot of people don't give themselves the time to figure that out.
02:10:56.700
I feel like definitely hookup culture has something to do with it.
02:11:12.400
I think people tend to rush into relationships,
02:11:26.940
figuring out how to sort through disagreements.
02:12:12.740
I don't know if people are getting married too young.
02:12:14.880
I'm not sure if I agree with that on a huge basis,
03:11:18.060
needed please don't please don't procreate oh okay he's advising to not procreate okay so your
03:11:38.460
laugh at me and I'm kind of just done with it so
03:11:40.500
I'm you should you shouldn't I'll police a little bit let's try to look I know there
03:11:50.500
was a heated moment there between you two again
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the show I've been I think there's a little okay I would encourage both of
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you to try to again turn the volume knob down on the on the heat there a little
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bit guys so you mentioned toxic masculinity do you think that's a sexist
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term would would you say sexism causes toxic masculinity okay
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um I don't know how deep how far down the the rabbit hole I want to go on toxic masculinity I
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could um do you think there's toxic whiteness I don't know okay she doesn't want to talk about
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it don't ask me these questions all right okay so look my basically my thing is is that um I
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don't think we need to pathologize maleness or masculinity I think I think it does a disservice
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because and perhaps you might have a definition of toxic masculinity where it's it's here are the
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unhealthy gender norms that uh or gender expectations on men but I think a lot of times it's used in a way
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where it's almost demonizing all masculinity and a lot of men interpret it that way and men and boys
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are taught that somehow innately they are toxic just by virtue of having been born as men and I don't
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think it's a particularly productive or helpful uh term I think it's really divisive I think we ought to
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just address toxic behavior and I I do think though that perhaps toxicity maybe manifests itself
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in men or in women in their own sort of ways differently but I just think toxic masculinity is
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so is pretty divisive so but um it's it's kind of a buzzword so um it's only in America because
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they're running out of shit to teach in college so they're turning people on each other now
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it's it's maybe a psyop just turn the men against the women listen America people from the outside
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are looking in at America and laughing okay Chinese the Russian the Japanese the Koreans all these people
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watching us over here fighting each other talk about shit that doesn't fucking matter real the reality
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is you should just be living your life to be a happy individual and make sure you're contributing and
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giving back to society not being a net negative but a net positive if you can have kids and make sure
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they're contributing members to society yeah I mean as far as terminology goes it's it's it's all this
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shit is for people who have too much time on their hands and just want to sit around and feel oppressed
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for fucking no reason because they got their life too good their bills are paid they don't have to
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worry about lack I've been super chatted 49 and 99 cents bangs if you're going to use words like
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oppression and toxic masculinity you better hold your feet to the fire and be ready to back it up with
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hard facts it is disrespectful to insinuate men in for enforce involuntary servitude to this day
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yeah do you have a response to alvin no okay all right um I don't even know how we got to toxic
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masculinity what we were talking about there is a question that said it said no there is a question
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that said um oh it was a super chat yeah it was something about saying yeah okay um so we have uh
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oh right I don't know if everyone else well let's just keep it moving okay we have uh afg crypto thank
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you for the 20 to chat guys get your soup chats in we're gonna wrap here pretty soon can the panel
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including brian rate me one to ten I'm a full-time engineer and pilot on the weekends six figure post
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tax income six figure net worth you'll have seven figures by age 30. decent looks with mad riz yo
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26 year old but I'm only 5 7 also brian I'm chase's buddy what's up man hey afg crypto thank you man
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uh no photo though rip um the girls really quick I mean just based off of the description do you want
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to give them a rating on one to ten one to ten just quick knee knee jerk eight
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I honestly cannot rate him I have to like look at him and have a conversation first okay same I have to
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see a picture all right go ahead just based off of what you see there five foot seven 26 decent
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looks he's a full-time engineer pilot on the weekends six figure tax a post-tax income as well
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so he makes over and he's friends with chase that's important
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okay well I mean he sounds like a good like promising partner but then I would have to
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see like his personality but as like what he's mentioning he sounds like he has so one
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future and one to ten what would you give him I really can't without a personality like without
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knowing his personality okay um based on his description the solid eight I don't know you
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but I hope you can be a ten for someone and Tasha seven okay all right yo got Mangu King thank
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you man $20 super chat I'm Dominican and I have seen more machismo from women to women than from
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the actual men she's Mexican question mark Mexican men are the most enslaved to their wives in the
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world there's good and bad people everywhere okay uh do you response to Mangu it's not even worth the
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time even saying that like even responding to it there's good and bad Mexican men are the most
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enslaved to their wives as it should be that's all I have to say okay uh so when men are enslaved it's
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okay but when women it's not okay all right yeah go cry about it
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okay Chris Piceno with the $20 soup chat hey brother love the show still waiting on that invite
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cough cough I would love to hear more opinions from the other women third from the right is acting
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rude and entitled it is not her show do you have a response to Chris Piceno um well nobody else is
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really talking maybe I'm just the only one that's really talking to be honest I feel like when we go
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around no offense to but when we go around you guys kind of just give like little short answers
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I feel like I'm kind of bringing some heat are you are you carrying this kind of interesting are you
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carrying most of these most of these comments that I've been reading have been about me or like the
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people paying they have been about me they love you yeah they love me or hate me these are probably
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like 15 14 year old little kids and there's I know there's people from my hometown watching and that
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makes me happy that they're watching because I'm on here so I I would say that I've looked at my
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YouTube analytics and my demographic is like 24 I think it's it's the two primary demographics are
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in this order 25 to 34 and 18 to 24 men primary demographic there's a couple women thrown in
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there too but mostly dudes because yeah still some people behind the screen maybe there's some 15
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15 year old gamer chads watching them with the credit cards and they're ready they're ready
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dollars just to throw away they're ready to go oh god Xavier Foster what is a woman okay let's avoid
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the uh thank you for the $20 super chat but um let's not derail the conversation more than we need to
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um so guys get your last minute super chats in I want to open it up to you guys really quick uh any
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final thought or question before I ask my one or two last questions anything Lexi okay
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anything I know you got something you've been you've been cooking this entire time there's
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something oh okay all right okay I feel like I haven't besides you I haven't really been able to
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really fully engage with any of you really well so I feel like I need to ask some college type
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questions like what do y'all think of fuck boys I need to get you guys you know on something that you
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can like properly speak on I mean in Santa Barbara especially like UCSB and SPCC there's a lot of
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fuck boys um it's also the fact that maybe it's like a party school a lot of people just want to
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party and have fun um I would say the same for girls too a lot of people are a lot of girls are
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looking for hookup culture here so yeah but yeah I don't really like fuck boys the only reason there's
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a bunch of fuck boys because there's a bunch of girls out there giving away pussy for free no that's
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the only reason they're there what you disagree I disagree because I feel like people coming in college
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like especially guys their goal is to like fuck as many girls as they can you know like brag about
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it and you know kind of get out of that I live at my mom's house and now I'm kind of like a little
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closer to the mic but keep going I kind of like moved to college and I'm kind of like you know having
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girls all over it's to brag they don't have their mom telling them what to do anymore so they want
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they don't want anybody else having to tell them what to do I don't think of reading too much into that
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they just want to have sex so we at the very beginning of the show we talked about hookup
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culture whose fault is hookup culture oh women's women well let's let the girls answer first go
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ahead men or women whose fault is hookup culture can I go like I would like to get Lexi uh an opportunity
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to answer she's deep in thought pensive one eternity um if I really think about it I think
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women slowly moved away from traditional relationships as maybe I'm not saying hookup
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cultures like I'm not trying to dictate women's actions but men become fuckboys because there's
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girls to fuck and because there are girls out there and it's there's a very much a balance
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you can't have hoes without fuckboys and you can't have fuckboys without hoes technically so it's very
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much a balance but I don't really know I don't really know who kind of initiated hookup culture
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okay we'll go around the table on this whose fault is hookup culture actually I do have a question
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why do we call like a guy that fucks a lot of girls fuckboy and why do we call a girl that
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fucks a lot of guys a whore or like a hoe or slut yeah because it takes skill to get pussy I don't
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think a fuckboy is a positive term though it's definitely not degrading as like hoe or but but
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here's another question why is fuckboy an acceptable term to use but slut isn't I feel like fuckboy is less
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degrading but but women will willy-nilly just throw out he's a fuckboy he's a fuckboy even in
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like a mixed group you guys will say fuckboy if a guy was talking about a girl being a slut in like
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mixed company yeah that's a yikes he's gonna get in trouble like something's gonna happen also
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probably in the classroom I feel like if a girl said fuckboy like there probably would be no
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repercussions but like if a guy started talking about sluts like welcome to the dean's office
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so women can shame men but it's like if a man shames a girl watch out you're gonna you're getting
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canceled you're getting there's repercussions I mean I've met guys that have been called fuckboys
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and actually liked it like not liked it but kind of like or like yeah I am they own it they own it
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it's an accomplishment it is some of the guys like really don't mind but I know definitely
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girls do mind what's what's the greatest prize a man can get in this life the greatest pride yeah
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a fish to accomplish whatever he wants no no just for the like a big trout no no no like the like
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for the average man what is the average man's great accomplishment in life
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that's like a big victory in a guy's life to get a woman
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right and so that's like you're like oh look at this guy he's such a fucking winner
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you know this guy's gotten so many girls that you can't shame him but
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the thing is you girls know like inherently giving pussy away too easy
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you know doesn't make you look the best and that's the difference there another thing is this
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too because you girls know I mean how many of you got hit on today to show our hands
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no nobody got hit on today digitally dms oh yeah of course oh yeah we got to do the instagram
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right so you guys get hit on like on a daily basis but it takes a lot of effort for the guy
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to actually catch your attention and to give you like maybe to give him the chance right
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because if you give it to him too easy what's gonna make it look like
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women have high standards to give away their sexuality
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right yes so if she's just if women is giving her sexuality away easily typically means her
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standards are lower standards are lower technically not necessarily high quality individual
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for a serious partner they might have different standards than
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as partner just sure but guys listen guys guys are not going to judge a woman for a high body count
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if she's just a casual hookup but if he's like I want to make this woman the mother of my children