Dating Talk #66
Episode Stats
Length
3 hours and 56 minutes
Words per Minute
178.44035
Hate Speech Sentences
247
Summary
In this episode of Whatever Happened, Brian and Kiki are joined by a new co-host, and they talk about what they are up to now and what they plan to do in the future. They also talk about a recent injury to Brian's neck, and how to deal with it.
Transcript
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Thank you for tuning in tonight. You could have been anywhere in the world, but you're
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here with me. I appreciate that. We're coming to you live from Santa Barbara, California
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every Sunday and Tuesday at 7pm Pacific. I'm your host, Brian Atlas. I'm joined by my co-host
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Kiki. She's somewhere back there. She's a bit shy. Guys, a few quick announcements before
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So maybe that might mitigate it a little bit. Uh, so yeah. And then please see the description
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Go subscribe. Uh, last thing here. Uh, I don't know if you guys noticed, I got this goofy thing on my
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neck. Um, I've been having some ongoing neck and back issues for a couple of years now. Um, you've maybe
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noticed the ice packs and shit I have during the shows, uh, tweaked my neck pretty bad about 10 days ago,
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powered through the last two shows, but, uh, pretty bad flare up. So it might be worse than my initial
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neck injury. So yeah, it's been, it's been a little rough, you know, having slept much in the past 10
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days, some muscle, muscle, uh, spasms. So, uh, I'm going to try to get through this show and the
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Tuesday show. I don't know if you guys can hear my voice. It's kind of scuffed, but, um, yeah. So,
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and then I'm going after the Tuesday show, I'm probably going to take two, three weeks off. Maybe I'll try
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to, I mean, maybe I can bring in someone to a host in my absence, but yeah, I'm probably going to take
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at least two to three weeks off while I try to recover from that. Um, but yeah, you know, if,
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if I could build a team around me to kind of handle everything and then, uh, get a host to come in,
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that could be cool. But, uh, yeah, so, but we will be back guys. Um, anyways, without further ado,
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after that thoroughly long winded introduction, I'm going to have the guests introduce themselves.
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So please tell us your name, age, occupation. Go ahead. My name is Avery. I'm 28 and I do social
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media and only fans. When you say, okay, you do social media. Okay. Yes. Only fans. Any other
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kind of adult content or strictly only fans? Just only fans. Okay, cool. My name is Missy. I'm 30.
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I do, um, a lot. Actually I bartend, I do only fans and I also do tattoo modeling for clothing brands.
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Rock and roll. Hi, I'm Hannah Jo. Um, I'm college aged and I do only fans.
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College age? Yes. Okay. All right. Fine. Whatever. Okay. What about you? Uh, my name is Kenny. I'm 32
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and I work for the government. The government? I do. I'm an investigator for the government. You're
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an investigator? Yeah. You didn't know that yet. I'm terrified. Um, what, like, are you,
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when you say investigator, what, what are we talking about here? Uh, I investigate, I have to,
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there's some words I can't use, but internet crimes against children. Yikes. Okay. Um,
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and so are you, uh, is it, is it like a state agency, local Santa Barbara agency or? Uh,
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it's a government agency. Okay. You want to keep it maybe a bit? Yeah. Fair enough. FBI? I work
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closely with the FBI, but I am not FBI. Wow. But I know a lot of special agents, so be careful. No,
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I'm just kidding. Oh, fuck. Okay. Already regretting me. No, I'm kidding. Uh, go ahead.
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Hi, I'm Violet. I'm 24 and I do social media marketing and brand building. All right. Welcome.
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Hi, I'm Gabby. Um, I'm an actress and model and I'm also a full-time college student studying
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journalism. Age? Oh, I'm 29. 29. Okay. Yeah. Uh, my name is Marie. I am not nearly as interesting
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as all these other beautiful women. Um, but I'm an HR manager, uh, here in Goleta. Um, yeah.
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Did you say your age? Sorry. I'm 32. 32. Yo, Eric, this pen is scuffed. Can you go grab
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me, keep it center and just grab me a different pen? It's under the, uh, island. What about
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you? Um, hi, I'm Curia. I'm 19. I'm an admin in investment banking, a full-time college student
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pursuing economics, and I create home content on TikTok. Home content on TikTok? What do you
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mean by what? Um, like cleaning, cleaning and household tips, home decor, et cetera. Did
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you say your age? 19. 19. Okay. Hi, I'm Edie. I'm 23 and I'm a tattoo artist. You said 23,
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yeah? Mm-hmm. Holy shit, all these pens are scuffed. Okay. Um, cool, cool. Guys, everyone's
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Instagram is in the description. Go check them out. Give them a follow. Um, okay. So
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we're going to go around the table one more time. Uh, what is your current relationship
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status? You know, are you single? You got friends with benefits, talking stage, situationship,
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relationship, engaged, married, et cetera. And what is your longest relationship you've
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Okay. I'm single. I was in a situation ship like last week, but trying to stay away. So
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we're going to go with single. Um, you're trying to stay away. Yeah. He keeps texting me, trying
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to reel me back in, but I'm resisting. So how long was this, uh, situation ship going on
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for? It was like three months. And I was like, all right, this is about the time when you start
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dating, but, um, he, he didn't want to put a label on it. So I was like, I don't just
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want to be a situation ship. So, so you wanted to put a label on it. Yeah. Okay. And you actually
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talked to him. Yeah. I was like, I, I, cause I've just been in so many situationships and
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I feel like three months, maybe, I don't know, maybe I shouldn't have these time limits, but
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I feel like three months is about the time when it should start turning into something.
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And if it's still like these once a week nightly hangouts, that's when I think, yeah, this
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is not going anywhere. So you brought up a conversation about wanting more. Yeah. And
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he said, no, he's like, no, I'd like to just keep it when it's at. Okay. But he's still
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sliding back and he's like, you know, if you want to like come over and watch Marvel movies
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and do our usual thing, like I'm down. Okay. I'm like, no, I really want to finish the
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Marvel series, but I can't do it. Okay. So single freshly out of a three month
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situationship. What's your longest relationship you've had? Four years. Four years. Okay.
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Got it. Okay. What about you? I am talking to somebody. Um, how would you classify it?
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Situationship, talking stage. We're on the talking stages. Okay. Um, he doesn't live in
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the same state. Yikes. Okay. What state Montana? Uh, more like the Mormon state. Oh, what? The
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Mormon state. Utah. Okay. So is he Mormon? No, he's definitely not Mormon. No. He gets
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asked that question a lot. How long have you been talking to this guy? I'd say like a month.
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A month. Okay. And then your longest relationship? My longest relationship was about four years.
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Four years. On and off. Yes. Okay. Rock and roll. Uh, did you guys, how did you guys meet?
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Was it here? Instagram. Through Instagram. He slid into your DMs or? I slid into his. You slid,
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you slid into his. Does he have a blue check mark? He does. Yes. Athlete? Uh, I don't know.
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Musician? No. Like bodybuilding. Bodybuilding. Okay. So like Natty or like, is he, is he on some like
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trend? Uh, I don't think so. I think it's all natural. All Natty? Okay. All Natty. All right.
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Well, you've narrowed it down. He lives in Utah. Natty bodybuilder. I think the chat's probably
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going to figure out. Okay. And you said you've been talking to him for a month. Yeah. Um, you,
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you slid into his DMs, correct? Correct. Okay. How did you, did you just stumble on his thing?
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Were you stalking him for months? What was the, somehow I found him on the explore page
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and, uh, I follow like every hot tattooed guy that I see on my explore page and, um, just
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started. Okay. Would I have a question for you? Okay. What would that stop if you were in a
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relationship? Yes. Okay. Okay. All right. Moving on. Go ahead. I am in a relationship. Okay. How long
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have you been in said relationship? Four years. Four years. So is that your longest? So far. Yeah.
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Relationship. Okay. Are you guys going to get married? You think? I hope so. You want to? Yeah,
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I do. But he wants me to propose to him. He wants you to propose to him. Yeah. Okay. Cause he's
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already been engaged once before and he doesn't want to do it again. And I think, I also think it
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would be adorable to propose to him. You think it'd be adorable to propose to him? Yeah. Okay. Here.
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Can you use this ring here to do it? To do it? To propose to him. To propose to him? I'll give it to
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you after the show. How about that? Oh, sure. Okay. I thought you meant right now. Oh, do you think
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he's watching? Does he? Um, I don't know if he's watching. Here. I want you to look into this camera
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right here. Stare deeply into the camera. Deep. And I want you to say, Cornelio. That's
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his name, right? We'll say it's Cornelio. Okay. Yeah. Just to keep, just to keep his identity
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safe. Uh, Bert. How about Bert? I don't like that. I like Cornelio. Okay. Fine. We'll propose
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to your. Can I have the ring? Sure. Can you pass that along? You're close enough. What am I
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doing? Cornelio, love of my life. Will you marry me? I'll make you cookies if you say yes. Oh,
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hold on a minute. I think, I think we actually have him, um, tuned in here to the, uh, he's
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in via discord. That's his response. I'm sorry. He rejected your proposal. Okay, cool. All right.
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You can send it back this. Um, okay, cool. What about you? Um, I am single. Yes. And my
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longest relationship was about four years. What's okay. Y'all, everyone's been four year
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relationships so far. Okay. How long have you been single? Oh gosh. A couple months. A couple
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months. Okay. Got it. Um, all right. What about you? I'm single. Um, my longest relationship
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was seven years. All right. Oh, I'm single and my longest relationship was six years.
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Uh, I'm in a relationship. Um, a little less than a year. I know I'm going to marry this
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man. Um, and yeah, uh, before this I was in a 10 year relationship. Wow. Okay. So
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you know, you're going to marry him. Have you guys had that conversation? Yes. Um, we've
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had that conversation. He didn't want kids before me, but now we've decided we want kids.
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I want kids. So, um, it's the healthiest relationship I've ever been in and yeah. So he didn't want
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kids, but you convinced him or just, you're so fantastic. No, he realized that he, no, I
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not to sound like that, but he, uh, didn't realize he didn't want to seek someone out or
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he didn't want to be with a woman that was just trying to find someone to have a baby with.
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And that was his fear. Um, and, uh, I think just being with someone in a healthy relationship
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made him realize that he wants my kids. Got it. What about you? I'm seeing someone and
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my longest relationship was a little over two years. How long have you been seeing this new
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guy? Um, is it two years? No, uh, we went on our first date last week. And so I guess since
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then, I guess since then, sorry. Okay. What about you? Um, I'm single. I'm single and my longest
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relationship was about two years. Single, two years. Okay. All right. Okay. So we have
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one, two, three, four, five people who are single here. So, um, I guess in today's day and age, what
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does single actually mean? And I kind of prompted it initially, you know, are you single friends
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with benefits talking state situation ship? Cause a lot of people would categorize themselves
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as being single, but hooking up with someone being in the situation ship, but because there's
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no label, you still consider yourself single. So you said you're just got out of a situation ship.
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So is there, have you lined up a rebound or I've been swiping on the dating apps, but haven't found
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something better yet? So it's hard. Okay. So that's why I keep going back to his text messages.
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Okay. So you're in a talking stage sort of with a, have you met in person yet? Yes. Yes. Did you fly
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there? Did he fly here? I flew there. Okay. Wow. You're pretty into the sky. Savage. Okay. Uh,
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what about you? You got, got a little hookup thing here? No. Friends with benefits there? No,
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not really. That just, I'd rather just, I like to be alone. It's either I have a boyfriend or I'm
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alone. I don't really like to date. I don't like to hook up. It happens. It happens. Yeah.
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Occasionally. Occasionally. Time to time. Okay. Cool. Same. Yeah. I like sex. Same. Yeah.
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So. As you should. Vouch. Vouch. I really, really though? Yeah. Yeah. You think? Okay. Yes. Do
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you not enjoy sex? I don't follow the logic on that one, but what do you mean? But she said
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she enjoys sex and you asked really? Oh no, I meant really as in compartmentalizing. So in other
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words, not going on dates, not hooking up outside of a relationship. Cause I mean, it, it seems
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to me, I mean, most adult relationships, it's not, let's go on seven dates, wait to have sex
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and then get into a relationship. It's typically people hook up fairly early on and they continue
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hooking up having sex and then they find themselves in a relationship. Right? Yeah. I'd say that's
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how it goes. Yeah. Yeah. I've never done that. You've never done that? I'm the opposite. I'm
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like by third date. Yeah. We got to see if we connect in that way. You've, you've never
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done that? No. Stop the cap. Come on. No cap. I'm so serious. You've never had a one night
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stand. I didn't say that. It's the same shit. Hold on. I don't like, I don't really believe
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in casual sex, so I don't hook up with people. Like. Didn't you say you had a one night stand
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though? It's happened. Oh, it's happened. Okay. One time. One time. In my life. Yeah. One
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time. Yeah. But like on a regular basis, I don't believe in casual sex. Like I just, I don't
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know. Multiply it by three and that's the real number. I have a vibrator for that. I
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mean, I've only had one boyfriend and I'm 29. So. You've had one boyfriend and you're
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29. Yeah. It was the six year one. What was the, uh, from what age to what age was your
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six year relationship? Uh, 22 until like, I don't know, like last year, a little bit
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of double backing, but. What's that? What do you mean? Like, okay. So we broke up, uh, last
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year, but you know, kind of went back, got like started talking to each other again,
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but not really got back together, but I don't know. I'm so like attached. So I don't know.
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Okay. Yeah. All right. Sorry. What were you saying? I, you said something I wanted to touch
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on, but it slipped my mind. Sure. What, uh, should I just repeat myself? Sure. Yeah. I
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said, usually I don't have a lot of casual sex, but you know, three dates in you want to
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see if you connect with somebody. Sure. Okay. I think sex is important in a relationship.
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It's not number one, but it's top three. So yeah, I'd like to know if we can connect
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cause I've had some bad sex, you know? Oh yeah. Congratulations. Good times. Good times.
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Yeah. Well on that note, so you said by date three, that's usually mine. Yeah. Yeah. I've
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definitely heard that people will have like a three date rule and if it doesn't happen by
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then I typically hear this more so from the guy's end where the sex doesn't happen by the
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third date, it's like, she's just not interested or just like, you know, whatever. But, um,
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I mean, yeah, we're all different. We're all, yeah, not every single woman is going to be the
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same, but that's how I view it. Okay. Got it. Got it. Well, on that note, let's go around the
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table on this. Um, how long do you think you should wait before hooking up with someone before
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having sex? Go ahead. Oh, be honest to be honest. See, I've made the mistake of hooking
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up after the first date and it does not ever go well for me personally. So I'm trying to
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learn from my mistakes now. Um, I think, I think third date, I think third date. Yeah. Third
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by the third date, the third, after the third date, like if you guys go out to dinner, then
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maybe afterwards I would. So you would wait until the third date? Yeah. Okay. Okay. What
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about you? I feel like for me, I don't know. It's hard to say for me. I'd personally wait
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maybe like a month, let's say a month just to see if I can test myself. Well, yeah, this body
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filter, right? Well, we were, we were talking for a little bit beforehand before I decided
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to fly out there. But when you did fly out there. Oh, it was like, yeah. Question on that
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from the point that you first actually met in person, what was the duration of time that,
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that occurred? An hour. Before y'all got to it? An hour. Okay. So, so, so long as you've talked
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online for a period of time, you've, I mean, did you guys have any phone conversations? Yes. Okay.
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Yes. Okay. So you wait until the third date? Yeah. Have you always had that standard? No,
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I used to do it right away. Cause I, I just am a people pleaser. And I used to think that
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sex would make them fall in love with me. So I was like, yeah, you know, um, I just wanted
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to do a really good job. I thought if I did a really good job, then it would make them fall
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in love with me. Obviously that did not work out. So what about, you said you were just out
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of a, uh, situationship. How long did you wait with this guy? It was the third date, third
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date, but it still didn't work out for me. Still didn't work out. So maybe we need to
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move it to the fifth date now. I don't know. Yeah. Yeah. I think women in some ways are
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kind of damned if damned, if they do damned, if they don't, because on one hand, even if
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you do wait, it doesn't necessarily guarantee that the relationship's going to work, obviously,
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you know, but, uh, but yeah, it's kind of on one hand, you wait too long and that could
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be an issue. But if you too quick, some guys might view it negatively. So it's, uh, it is
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a bit of a difficult, uh, position. Um, okay. So how long do you think you should?
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I don't think I can give an answer because I think it's entirely circumstantial. Like
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you're not going to have the same connection with everybody. So with one person, you might
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feel more comfortable waiting. And with one person, you might feel more comfortable just
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jumping right in. I think it's, it's, there's no rule. When you say more comfortable just jumping
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right in, do you mean that you recognize that perhaps, for example, maybe some girls
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here have had this experience that if you don't hook up with him, maybe he's like really
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attractive, like a high status or whatever it may be really attractive. You're concerned
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that you might lose him or not get him because if you don't sleep with him too quick, I don't
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do that. No. Okay. Cause there's definitely guys like if they're, they don't want to wait,
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you know, so. If he's worth keeping around, he'll stay around. I won't have to make him
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with my body. Okay. Were you about, were you about to do some snapping? What about you?
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Yeah. No, I would say I'm usually about three dates. Oh yeah. Yeah. Okay. Three dates.
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But I agree. I think there's circumstances where in which you might wait longer and or quicker.
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Yeah. Just depends. Say your friends beforehand. Right. I mean, how long does that last?
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So just jump in in that situation. Maybe. I don't know. Yeah.
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Sure. Yeah. I don't know. It's up to you. Sure. There's always variables. What about you?
00:23:34.560
Yeah. I mean, when I go on dates, I tend to have that conversation pretty early on
00:23:39.000
on what my partner's comfortable with and what they would desire and vice versa, what I'm looking
00:23:44.920
for. And if I don't feel that connection or spark on the first date or second date, I prolong
00:23:49.900
it until I get to know that person. I become more comfortable with them.
00:23:54.340
Um, I think it just depends. Like I really just go off a vibe. Like, I don't know, but
00:24:01.140
the last relationship I was in, we didn't have sex for like three months. I feel like
00:24:06.300
if when you feel like a connection with the person, then that's when it happens. I don't
00:24:12.340
know. I don't put like numbers or dates to it. It's like a feeling.
00:24:15.900
Okay. Yeah. I completely agree. It's all, um, depending on the situation and like what
00:24:24.060
you want out of it. I mean, if you are connecting with someone and you can really see this like
00:24:28.940
lasting a long time, sex shouldn't make that, shouldn't make any difference really. Um, but
00:24:36.000
if you're like, this guy's cool for a hookup, then so be it. Sure. Um, yeah. Um, I think
00:24:43.760
that you guys are right. It's completely circumstantial and we all differentiate. However, me personally,
00:24:50.620
three to six months personally, three to six months. Yes. Oh, did you want me to like say
00:24:57.600
why or elucidate it? Oh, okay. Um, mostly cause I did experience what you experienced and I did
00:25:03.960
think that doing certain things would make whoever fall in love with me until I, you know, figured
00:25:09.040
out, no, this is not how to do it. This is not the way to go about it. Thankfully it only happened
00:25:13.600
once. Um, so with my last relationship, I made him wait about three to four months, mostly because
00:25:20.780
that's when the honeymoon, the three to four months after exclusivity. So again, that could also range,
00:25:26.880
but that's when the honeymoon phase ends. So I feel like that's a good time to like lock it in,
00:25:32.040
you know, like this is like the last step before, you know, cause I date to marry. So it's like,
00:25:36.720
I don't know. I don't know if I explained that right, but I feel like you guys understand what
00:25:40.360
I'm trying to say. But so you said that previously, this is a new rule of yours waiting three to six
00:25:46.060
months, correct? Um, well it happened after that one occurrence. Yes. That one occurrence where you
00:25:52.800
hooked up too soon and he ghosted you or what? Um, no, it was more like a friends with benefits
00:26:01.360
situation with a guy too old to be doing that with someone my age at the time.
00:26:06.600
What do you mean? How old were you? How old was he?
00:26:09.400
I was, I just turned 15 and he was a junior in college.
00:26:21.880
Oh my God. I thought it was going to be like you're 19, 18 and he's like in his thirties.
00:26:31.040
That's a, Jesus Christ. Okay. So what, and besides that one example, were there, uh,
00:26:40.940
were there other situations where you were hooking up with people kind of more quickly or?
00:26:46.460
Well, if I'm being perfectly honest, after that occurrence has ended, what, what, when it did end,
00:26:52.660
I didn't think that I was worthy of love at all after that. Cause you know, I get, like she said,
00:26:58.280
I was a victim or whatever. So I didn't really think that, you know, I was already scarred. I grew
00:27:03.000
up very religious. My virginity was gone. So I kind of hooked up a little bit and then I found
00:27:08.480
religion again. And I know this is like, I'm not a born again virgin or anything, but then I found
00:27:13.420
myself again and I was just like, yeah, this isn't going to work. So whenever I was in the mindset to
00:27:18.360
date again, that was the rule. So my first and only boyfriend, I did wait. And then now I'm going
00:27:24.980
to wait with the next one. Okay. Okay. Got it. Can I ask a question? Yeah, go ahead. Yeah. Um,
00:27:32.260
is this solely based on like sex or the control that you want with it? You mentioned that you made,
00:27:38.360
you mentioned that you made him wait six months. Oh, I didn't like, I mean, I had a conversation with
00:27:43.100
him about it. Like once I was comfortable enough and I was like, okay, I'm not really comfortable
00:27:48.340
having sexual relations with you. Uh, I didn't tell him what happened. I just wasn't comfortable
00:27:53.280
with it. And then he was just like, okay. And then I, whenever I was comfortable with it,
00:27:57.360
we just did it. Um, but he never really initiated anything like that. Yeah. Okay. I'm sorry. I was
00:28:05.660
just curious. No, that's fine. Uh, what about you? Um, I typically like to talk to someone for a good
00:28:13.640
amount of time and get to know them before anything happening. Into the mic, please.
00:28:19.180
Before anything happening. So how long? At least a month of like talking. At least one month. Yeah.
00:28:27.720
Like one, two, three months talking, getting to know them. I like to talk to someone for like maybe
00:28:34.000
a few weeks before even meeting up with them just to like test the waters of like who they are or
00:28:38.780
stuff like that. But have you had any previous experiences where you just hooked up really quick?
00:28:46.300
Um, I had, yeah. Okay. Like I sometimes called like a ho phase party phase, you know, you know,
00:28:54.300
you don't like that. Of course I did. Yeah. Oh, oh, okay. I thought you were like grimacing at the
00:28:59.340
term ho phase, but guys can have ho phases too, I guess. Um, so everyone, everyone's had ho phases,
00:29:05.460
I guess. I don't know about everybody. I wish I had one. What's that? I wish I had one. Oh my,
00:29:09.840
don't say that. That's okay. Yeah. The audio is kind of seems a bit low. I don't know if you can
00:29:15.720
boost it to 80, Eric. Um, one quick reminder, and I do want to hit on this topic. Um, guys,
00:29:22.600
TTS is through stream labs only just a reminder. TTS is through stream labs only now. Um, here,
00:29:28.540
let me just get this one though. Just to clarify James Wilson. Thank you for the Canadian 140 man.
00:29:33.240
Appreciate it. Uh, yeah. Maybe, sorry if this, you thought it would go through as a TTS, just,
00:29:38.700
uh, only through stream labs where is TTS question for Brian and in, and in know that you've said this
00:29:46.060
before. However, you have a lot of new viewers, subscribers. So can you please explain the seven
00:29:50.560
on the collar for everyone? Cheers. Uh, I might reveal that maybe on episode 77, maybe we'll see.
00:29:59.660
Uh, but, uh, yeah, it's kind of a mystery. So, um, don't worry. It's not like some cold shit,
00:30:05.080
but, uh, yeah, it's just, anyways. Um, okay. Thank you. Thank you, James. Merci beaucoup pour le
00:30:10.600
Canadian. C'est vraiment, tu es vraiment génial. C'est bien ça. Okay. Um, so I kind of wanted to come
00:30:18.720
back to what you said and a couple of you said. So shifting standards on this, which I think is kind
00:30:26.780
of interesting. Um, so my feeling on this is, and it rubs me the wrong way and I want to make it
00:30:35.800
clear. Like, obviously it's totally, you know, if you want to wait until marriage and you previously
00:30:40.960
slept with a hundred people, that's your call. However, like I think a lot of men and a lot of
00:30:47.020
guys are going to look at that and be like, well, you had one standard before and now you've shifted
00:30:52.820
it. And again, a hundred percent your call. It's, it's your call, but men are also free to
00:30:57.320
like feel a certain type of way about this shift in the same way that, for example, I guess I could
00:31:02.760
give a, maybe a somewhat equivalent. So let me get your thoughts on this guys. Let's say you've been
00:31:10.900
in a relationship with a guy for six months. Sorry, excuse me, situationship with a guy for six
00:31:15.380
months. You really like him. You want him to commit to you, but he says he likes to take things slow.
00:31:21.300
Somehow you find out that the last three girls he had a committed relationship with,
00:31:26.840
he initiated the commitment conversation after only three weeks of dating. Would that make you
00:31:32.720
feel a certain way? Yeah. Yeah. You'd feel like, well, what, why don't you want to commit to me,
00:31:40.760
but all these, your previous ex-girlfriends. No, I think that's showing growth and change.
00:31:45.600
Yeah. Cause maybe it obviously didn't work out for him. So maybe he's trying something different
00:31:51.100
now. How does that reflect the person that he's dating now? It's showing growth that he previously
00:31:57.440
had long-term, he, he got into long-term relationships early and now he's in a perhaps
00:32:04.540
non-monogamous situationship with you for six months. I'm not sure I see how that's growth. I'm not
00:32:10.480
saying that that's a wrong thing necessarily. Well, I guess that's fair. It could be the other
00:32:16.720
way. It could be negative, but at least he's trying something different. I mean, he's showing
00:32:21.240
habitual patterns that he's not currently interested in. So he's showing a pattern of
00:32:26.280
behavior that, and it seems to be that he is non-monogamous in this situationship is what you're
00:32:34.880
stating. Am I wrong? What's that? Am I, am I wrong to assume that this individual is not
00:32:39.940
participating in monogamy in this situationship? Well, it's a situationship. So I mean, maybe it's
00:32:45.280
monogamous, maybe it's not. It's fluid. Okay. Um, yeah, I would consider it a red flag. If you're not
00:32:51.040
sure about how you perceive me or want to be with me six months in and you're still wanting to see other
00:32:57.640
people and you have previous record of doing something otherwise, then no, your, your habit is off and I'm
00:33:04.020
not interested. Yeah. I would think he's playing games. Like what's up? Well, being in a
00:33:11.220
situationship for six months is ridiculous in itself. Not the fact that it's passed. It kind of
00:33:17.440
is, but I think people find themselves. If it's a problem for the girl, then it depends on the
00:33:21.640
communication. Sure. Right. I mean, here's, did you guys have one to come in on this? I just, I was in a
00:33:28.420
situationship for two years once. So to me, like six months is, it's not okay. It just, it sucks. And
00:33:35.760
then to hear that, that, that he was doing something different before, it just seems like she's not the
00:33:39.660
right girl then. Here, here's maybe a better example than this. Um, so let's say you've been dating a guy
00:33:48.220
for six months. Let's say, let's say it's a relationship. Uh, he's kind of a home body. He,
00:33:56.940
uh, doesn't really like to go out too much. Maybe occasionally you guys get dinner, but he doesn't
00:34:01.060
really take you out. You, you like him and he likes you, but doesn't really take you out. Doesn't get
00:34:06.420
you gifts, no vacations, anything like that. You find out that the last three relationships he had,
00:34:13.020
he treated his girls all the time to fancy dinners. He, he paid for vacations. He'd get them
00:34:22.900
gifts, all his previous relationships, but with you, he doesn't feeling on that. No, that would
00:34:31.960
make me really sad. That would make me feel like I'm, I'm like the least special out of everyone he's
00:34:35.660
dated. Sure. You get friend zoned after that. Yeah. Like you're just a homie. The guy who gets
00:34:42.000
friends. Yeah. Like if you like, yeah, we're just homies then. Okay. What about you? I don't know.
00:34:47.040
I feel like it depends on the person. It depends. You can't let's, let's try to avoid it. Depends.
00:34:52.100
Okay. Well, it's just like everything. I think it's, I think it's unfair to judge somebody on
00:34:56.700
their past. Um, if he did treat all his past girlfriends like that, then the best thing you
00:35:01.060
can do is just ask him why. If it's an issue with the relationship, then lay your grounds for what
00:35:05.680
you expect from each other. If not go your separate ways, in my opinion. Um, it could be that he's
00:35:10.800
feeling like hurt still from the last experiences. Like he gave too much of himself to those girls
00:35:15.320
and he's afraid to do it again. If that's the case, he should communicate it, but that won't
00:35:19.440
happen unless you address what's making you uncomfortable. Like, Hey, I found out you did
00:35:23.180
all these things for these girls. What's different about me? Do you not see a future with me? And if
00:35:28.880
he can't answer that. Is it? I don't know. I was thinking maybe it's a little unhealthy to compare
00:35:35.100
yourself to his past relationships. So maybe just stick to the own standards that you have set.
00:35:39.880
So if you're like, okay, I like these certain things, you know, and he's not doing it, then
00:35:47.580
that's a problem. But if you don't care about that stuff, then why does it matter? That's
00:35:52.880
true. I mean, for me personally, like I, I'm like a big adventure bug. I love to travel.
00:35:59.180
I love to like get out and do things. And if he's a homebody, like that's not going to work
00:36:04.280
out as is. And it like, aside from the gifts, like I could afford my own stuff, you know,
00:36:10.080
I don't need the gifts, but it's like the, the, the, the big red flag for me would be
00:36:13.740
the homebody aspect, you know, cause I like to get out. I like to go travel and I want
00:36:19.360
Sure. Okay. Then let's, let's perhaps exclude the homebody component and just, he bought all
00:36:25.220
his ex-girlfriend's gifts. He paid for, he paid for dates, he paid for vacations, but with
00:36:30.720
you, no. He probably realized he was tracking, attracting the wrong women with all of that.
00:36:35.560
Yeah. I feel like in a relationship, it should be like a 50, 50 split. Like, you know, I like,
00:36:40.720
I like to spoil my dudes too, you know, like when I'm dating someone, I genuinely like to
00:36:45.320
pay for dinner. I like to pay for concert tickets. I like to be out and do things that are fun.
00:36:50.580
Okay. And I have no problem buying. I'll have, I'll have you answer it, but really quick,
00:36:54.360
you mentioned 50, 50 relationships. Uh, who here is in favor of 50, 50 relationships?
00:37:02.380
Is this actually, can I say I prefer a hundred, a hundred? Nobody should be giving
00:37:06.280
semantics, but okay. Um, but, uh, just another show of hands. I didn't see every, uh, who believes
00:37:15.200
in 50, 50, a hundred, a hundred relationships? What does that even mean though? Wait, so hold
00:37:20.240
on, keep your hands up. Do you mean like money, like materialistic things? Well, I mean, I think
00:37:24.420
that's often the paradigm in which it's, it's viewed in. Um, but I mean, it could come down to,
00:37:30.980
uh, household labor, uh, in that way. Um, I often hear though, I mean, when it comes
00:37:39.900
to 50, 50, usually the protection component is not part of it. So for example, like the
00:37:46.120
expectation that your male partner protect you in, in the event of a home invasion, for
00:37:51.920
example, or killing spiders that typically. Oh, I need that. I need protection. I can kill
00:37:58.640
spiders. Okay. All right. Yeah. Hell yeah. There you go. Um, but, uh, so you didn't
00:38:07.320
Are you talking more about like roles? Into the mic, please. Are you talking more about
00:38:10.320
like roles in the relationship where it's like 50? I suppose. Yeah. Okay. So like, I mean,
00:38:15.380
the obvious ones that occur to me is paying for the first date, providing. So do you want
00:38:21.900
to be 50, 50 with the person? Do you want maybe, you know, in a long-term relationship, you
00:38:27.100
know, some arrangements, there's a partner that's staying, stay at home, taking care of
00:38:32.040
the kids, the family, whereas the other person's the breadwinner. So yeah, I didn't see everyone
00:38:40.600
who was raised their hand for 50, 50, but yes, 50, 50. No. So you two, no on 50, 50. No, no
00:38:52.780
50, 50. I don't agree with all the qualities. Don't agree. What about you? No, no, absolutely
00:38:58.780
not. Absolutely not. Go into that a little bit. Why? Sure. I think nowadays, um, I'm not
00:39:05.600
going to say all men, but a lot of men look to women to be everything, right? We have to
00:39:11.820
have jobs that make a lot of money. We have to, well, most men that I talk to do, I see
00:39:17.840
your face. Like most men that you talk to, well, if we're talking about 50, 50, if they're
00:39:22.660
paying half the rent, they better have some money under their, under their hands. Right?
00:39:26.740
So if we're going 50, 50, no, I think that's bullshit. As a woman, I'm coming in there like,
00:39:32.600
okay, I'm literally going to do everything and anything you want. Okay. In the bedroom,
00:39:37.380
I, you know, blow jobs are jobs, honey. So yeah, absolutely. I want you to pay for all of
00:39:43.360
my shit. Wait, hold on. Feminism. Feminism. That's feminism. Oh, here we go. Before I
00:39:55.780
responded, one, maybe you guys had a response over here. Um, okay. Sorry. Um, so when you
00:40:04.380
sit, I'm just piggybacking off what you said. Yes. Um, so a lot of the men, especially the
00:40:09.480
men who like to watch the show love to like throw crap onto feminism and I'm not a feminist
00:40:14.680
myself, so I can see both perspectives. However, men are also victims of feminism or the feminist
00:40:21.620
movement because the feminist movement tells women that, you know, I mean, inadvertently.
00:40:27.040
So because you could be everything, you could be anything you want to be now, you know, we're
00:40:31.620
equal with rights and all that fun stuff. We could be anything we want to be, but we are
00:40:37.060
interpreting it as we need to be and do everything. And the men are also now interpreting it like
00:40:43.320
that. So I just, I don't believe in 50, 50 relationships and I personally want to be a
00:40:48.360
stay at home mom one day. So it's just, it's not going to cut it. It's not going to work out,
00:40:53.220
you know, like what the woman's supposed to pay half the bills and do all of the housework. That
00:40:57.860
just doesn't make sense. That's like 70, 30. Yeah. That's more what I'm talking about. Like
00:41:02.180
at least pay maybe 30% of the bills and she does more of the housework. Like it has to
00:41:07.140
be a certain, you know, just can't be like, you know what I mean? Yeah. I feel like kids
00:41:10.520
make a huge difference in this conversation. Absolutely. So. And we're usually the ones
00:41:15.960
having kids. So we're the only ones having kids. I mean, we're spending nine, 10 months
00:41:22.360
really. And you're going to base your relationship off of that, even if you don't plan to have
00:41:26.200
kids with this person. No, but I think, you know, feminism isn't a bad thing. Of course,
00:41:30.860
there's always going to be extremists, right? That are like, oh, just hate men, just hate
00:41:34.920
men. I don't believe that. But isn't feminism all about equality? No, it is about equality
00:41:39.640
for sure. But I think there's more to it. We've been completely erased from history.
00:41:44.520
And now. Meronious! Meronious! And now. Hold on. Wait, no, no, no. Feminism's about equality.
00:41:50.520
Let me, just hold on. Just hold on. Even now there have studies that have been shown that
00:41:55.760
quite literally show that when women start dominating a man's career, the cost of that
00:42:03.540
job goes down, right? So once women go into the field, how much they're making goes down. Because
00:42:09.420
it's women now, right? They don't really care about us as much. I mean, you can see that now
00:42:15.100
with just health care, you know? I mean, I can't go to every state and have necessary health care.
00:42:19.840
That's really scary for me, right? And that's where I'm coming from, is like, no, we should have,
00:42:25.880
you know, the same. You're talking about abortion laws, right? Yeah, abortion laws, yes.
00:42:29.380
Yeah, and also, at the same time, it's becoming more dangerous for women. Because in certain fields,
00:42:36.580
like, I forgot the statistics, but in certain fields, women do make the same amount as men. And I'm
00:42:42.660
from New York. So in New York specifically, women out-earn men. In the age group from 20 to 40,
00:42:49.460
women out-earn men. We're more educated, too. Yeah, that's it. So all educated women in
00:42:53.940
Manhattan alone out-earn men. And this is, at least over there, it's making it really dangerous
00:42:59.780
for women because men still want to feel dominant. And they will inadvertently try to dominate the
00:43:05.100
woman in another way, like a domestic violence thing, you know, or emotional abuse to try to be
00:43:10.240
like, you know, I'm the man, even if you're making them more money. Because even if you're not
00:43:13.080
emasculating him, if you're making more than him, and you're still, like, splitting it 50-50,
00:43:17.540
you'll have more saved, you'll have more invested, and you'll feel bad. Depending on the man,
00:43:22.160
but I'm pretty sure this is most. I definitely respect that. But what you have to understand
00:43:25.420
is globally, men hold far more money than women ever will. So, well, maybe not will, but right now.
00:43:34.460
80% of consumer spending is done by women. Women hold the majority of debt. Yes. So.
00:43:39.960
But, I mean, the most billionaires, millionaires are men. I mean, that's the apex fallacy.
00:43:45.740
You're looking. Tell me about that. The apex fallacy. You're looking at the top percentage
00:43:49.380
of men, which happen to be a very small proportion of men, and attributing to that as, to men as a
00:43:55.400
class, as a group. But don't you do that when it comes to, I can't bring it up. I'm about to use a
00:44:02.020
P word that we're not allowed to use. Oh, my God. I don't see how that's at all relevant.
00:44:06.720
Oh, I do. Okay. So, 99% of sexual perpetrators are male, and. That's false. No, look it up. Look
00:44:14.240
it up right now. What about all these women teachers that are. Right. Let me get into that,
00:44:18.320
because this is quite literally my background. This is what I do for a living. So, I can tell you that
00:44:23.620
it is 99% of sexual perpetrators are male. You can look that up right now. That's false. Yeah.
00:44:28.460
And I'm telling you, this, this is what bugs me about men who say things like that. That is
00:44:32.740
willful ignorance. You can absolutely look that up and educate yourself right now, and you don't.
00:44:38.080
Why? It's not true. It is true. On its face, it's not true. Oh, my God. You have to look it up. How
00:44:44.560
can you say that's not true? What's your background? Where are your statistics coming from? It also
00:44:48.380
doesn't help that when a young man is, like, assaulted by an older teacher, instead of getting
00:44:52.080
support, you see the comments full of, wow, he should feel grateful. What a lucky boy. And I'm not saying
00:44:56.320
that men cannot be raped. They are absolutely being raped, but they're being raped by other
00:45:00.540
men. And they don't stand up for victims. Yes. So, women can absolutely rape. I've seen bad
00:45:06.540
cases in the cases that I've worked on with women, but this is a real statistic, and I'm
00:45:11.640
going to say it again, and you're going to say that's not true, but you can easily look
00:45:14.460
it up. So, that's willful ignorance if you don't want to. 80 to 90% of sexual, or excuse
00:45:20.160
me, child, you know what I'm saying, are male. 99% of sexual prostitutes are male. See,
00:45:27.240
you've just given me two different numbers. Previously, you said 99%. Yes, but we're talking
00:45:33.160
about pedophilia. Yes, we're talking about pedophilia alone. I specifically instructed
00:45:37.300
you before the show. Not to say it, and then when I looked at you and tried to say it, you
00:45:41.240
looked at me weird. I don't see how that's relevant to the conversation we're having. It is relevant
00:45:45.120
to the conversation. We're talking about men and women. Men have a far. But you're totally
00:45:49.100
derailing the conversation. We were previously talking about the wage gap. Of course.
00:45:55.120
Somehow. Absolutely. And now, and I'm talking about the apex fallacy. Right. And you want
00:46:00.140
to talk about something totally unrelated. And then it got into feminism, right? So, then
00:46:05.440
we were talking a little bit about feminism, and then I'm coming on here saying, okay, we're
00:46:09.800
looked at as women, as these horrible, awful people. And yet, what are you talking about?
00:46:15.220
It's a big difference between saying that. Who? Okay. Look at the chat. Oh, is everyone's
00:46:20.660
like hating me. It's okay. It's okay. Your viewers don't like us. Yeah. It's something
00:46:25.320
you can easily look up. I'm not sitting here saying like, oh, okay. We're not going to talk
00:46:29.360
about that statistic. Sure. Okay. Okay. Fine. Let's take children out of it. That's fair. And yes,
00:46:36.800
yes. But still, based off of that, 99% of sexual perpetrators are male. That's a real
00:46:42.700
statistic. I don't see how that's at all relevant to this conversation. Right. But we're
00:46:48.300
talking about men and women. I'm failing to see. Okay. Right? Yeah. I don't see how that's
00:46:54.280
relevant at all. Oh, see, I do. I think there's a big difference there. And are you just trying
00:47:02.120
to point out that men do bad things? Like, I don't understand. Okay. Yeah. Maybe I have
00:47:07.940
derailed the conversation a little bit and I can definitely respect that. I think I'm coming
00:47:11.820
more from a, you know, a different background, right? I've seen the worst of humanity. And
00:47:17.760
so I'm coming forward saying, oh, all these people are like hating on women saying X, Y,
00:47:22.520
and Z about women. But there's so much more to the story. If they directed their energy
00:47:27.560
that they use to fuel hate towards women who live sexually fulfilled lives towards men who
00:47:32.580
sexually assault. I don't know. I just feel like that's a better way to funnel all that
00:47:36.120
energy. The fuck are you guys, I don't even know what you guys are talking about. Like,
00:47:41.340
I'm, I, I literally don't see your question then. Yeah, that's fine. Let's go back to your
00:47:46.020
question. We were talking about 50, 50. Correct. Okay. Yes. And then we got into feminism.
00:47:50.180
We got into other things. Things got derailed. Yes. No, I don't believe in 50, 50,
00:47:54.600
but you're a feminist. Yes. How do you reconcile that? Uh, no, I respect that. I re I think when it
00:48:01.360
comes to, you know, parenting shore, I think it should be 50, 50, obviously. Uh, but do you most
00:48:08.020
feminists are not in favor of shared custody default 50, 50, wait, hold on. What do you mean?
00:48:15.520
Feminists are not for 50, 50 when it comes to raising, when it comes, for example, if there's
00:48:20.140
a custody dispute, most feminists are not in favor of 50, 50. In fact, in Florida, a feminist
00:48:25.760
organization, I believe it's called now the national organization of women fought against
00:48:31.040
a bill that would have given men, uh, men and women, uh, presumptive 50, 50 custody of children
00:48:37.640
in the case of a divorce, for example. Yeah. Women fight against that. Feminists, sorry, excuse me,
00:48:43.300
feminists fight against that. Well, of course, I think there's always going to be an extreme
00:48:46.200
feminist and maybe I am one, right? I can certainly look at that based off of my background. Um,
00:48:51.640
all for women. No, I'm just kidding. But, uh, uh, yeah, no, I think in, isn't it in California?
00:48:57.400
It's like, uh, not 50, 50 custody, but 70, 30, as far as how much men pay in child support. I think
00:49:06.500
it's something like that. Like men only pay 30% of their entire income and women, it's generally like
00:49:12.880
far more than that. Well, I, child support and payments overwhelmingly go from men to women,
00:49:22.820
not from women to men. Correct. I've never heard this stat of when a woman has to pay child support,
00:49:28.740
she's paying 70% of her income. I've, I don't know where you're pulling this. This is like ridiculous.
00:49:34.300
It's care towards the child. So the woman is tended, tends to put 70% of her income towards that child
00:49:40.200
where the male is putting 30. Like they only legally have to put 30%. And they're legally obliged. The
00:49:46.420
woman is not obliged to put any income necessarily. Right. But she is putting 70% where the man is
00:49:52.160
legally obliged to put 30. Correct. And some men, when they get divorced from their, this has happened
00:49:58.640
to my friend. Hold on. Oh. Male man donated $100. This lady is completely insane. Number one,
00:50:06.940
she's wrong. Number two, no other woman is standing up against this claim. Yeah, I'm, I'm all alone
00:50:12.420
today. This is a silent confirmation bias. You see it when a group of women all say they are a 10
00:50:18.300
pure delusion. None of us said that. I don't think I'm a 10. You just, you just think we're
00:50:24.820
narcissists because you feel insecure when you look at us. I think he thinks he's a 10. Yeah.
00:50:29.600
No, that's funny. Um, okay, let's, okay, let's go back to your questions then. This is too intense
00:50:34.360
for you. So 50, 50, you're, you, you say you're against 50, 50, yet you're a feminist. Yes. Isn't
00:50:41.020
feminism supposedly about equality? Uh, yeah, I think it is equality. And once we, you know, as
00:50:46.980
women do have more equality, then it should be more 50, 50, but what do you mean by more equality?
00:50:54.260
Sure. Because all the law, you know, we have everything in America. Oh my gosh, of course. No,
00:50:58.220
I'm not saying that we're like living in Iran or something like that or India, right? Which are just
00:51:03.180
like so awful against women. But I still think that there are issues in this country against women.
00:51:08.820
Absolutely. And abortion being one of them, which I know is like a tough subject, but, uh, and I'm
00:51:15.160
totally pro-life pro-choice. It's up to you. I just think that as a woman, if I go into 161 donated
00:51:24.700
$100. Hi, Brian. Sorry about your neck and the people at the table being a pain in the neck.
00:51:31.160
How can women keep their body count low? If men don't want to wait beyond three dates for sex,
00:51:36.640
can women show their interest in another way? Yo, Al, thanks for the donation, man. Um,
00:51:42.260
appreciate the kind words. Uh, as far as the body count thing goes, um, I mean, my, you, I think you
00:51:48.340
can hook up with a girl can hook up with a guy relatively soon and still keep a low body count.
00:51:53.620
I mean, that comes down to vetting the guy, talking to the guy. Is he, is there, is he going to be
00:52:00.160
leaving the state soon? Are you traveling? Don't hook up when you're traveling. I mean, there's definitely
00:52:04.440
ways to keep a low body count, but thank you, man. Appreciate it. Continue with your point.
00:52:08.160
Uh, wait, I'm sorry. I already forgot what I was talking about. You're, um, telling us the rights
00:52:12.620
that we have or the rights that we need. I'm sorry. Yes, absolutely. No, I'm not saying, yeah,
00:52:18.100
I'm saying we do live in a first world country where, you know, we do have rights. I'm allowed to
00:52:22.400
vote. Um, can have, but I mean, it wasn't until like 1970 something that women could open up a credit
00:52:28.680
card without their husband's signature before that we couldn't. Right. So these are all brand
00:52:34.320
or not brand new, but relatively new, right? These things have happened in modern days. This was back
00:52:39.780
in the seventies. Our parents were alive in the seventies. You know, you know what else happened
00:52:44.000
in the seventies, the Vietnam war where men were exclusively drafted. Yeah. Pol Pot also was really
00:52:50.980
bad during that time. Well, yeah, there's, okay, sure. So yeah. What, I mean, you say that we don't have
00:52:58.180
equality yet between men and women, correct? To me, correct. In the U S correct. Okay. So name one
00:53:05.180
right that a man has that a woman doesn't, uh, again, healthcare. So right. If I, let's say I'm
00:53:10.940
pregnant, God forbid, I lose my baby and I go to Arkansas. Uh, I do not have access in Arkansas to
00:53:18.820
legal, legally go into a clinic and get an abortion, which, you know, would happen if my baby was
00:53:24.940
unfortunately dead inside of me. Right. Um, so those types of things, right? Let's say I was
00:53:30.640
bleeding out or something and it was from, uh, you know, something happened in the birth canal,
00:53:37.120
all that stuff. Like we don't get that. Right. That's scary to me. That's scary to my children
00:53:41.740
for my kids, you know? Okay. So I would want to prompt you to give me one example outside of
00:53:49.580
reproductive rights because men have no reproductive men have no reproductive rights in this country.
00:53:54.320
So it's not clear to me if that's an equality issue. Um, so besides and Roe v. Wade just pushed
00:54:02.820
it back to the States. So right. It's up there. Some States where you still have that, right? So
00:54:08.340
besides that, the only thing that occurs to me, one right that went, that men have that women don't
00:54:16.280
is in, in some States it is criminalized to be topless. I know that sounds silly, but that's
00:54:24.980
honestly the only, and it's not some States you can be topless as a woman. Um, that is honestly the
00:54:30.680
only right that I can think of that women, some women in some States do not have. Right. But so I
00:54:37.900
asked you again, what right do men have in this country that women do not? Uh, yeah. Based off
00:54:45.520
of laws. Yeah. It's mainly abortion. Right. But again, it, we've gotten these rights really recently.
00:54:52.520
Again, we couldn't own a home by ourselves until like 19 something. Right. I'd have to fact check
00:55:00.400
that. Exactly. Okay. So you are into fact checking. That's a good thing. Um, so yeah, that's just mainly
00:55:06.260
where I'm coming from. Yeah. I think, you know, abortion is a big topic for me because of my
00:55:12.300
work that I do. You know, a lot of children do become pregnant and I think legally they should
00:55:19.100
not have to carry that baby. So do any of the girls on the side of the table want to address that?
00:55:24.360
Uh, abortion? Yeah. Yes. Oh man. Not to stir the pot or anything. Yeah. Stir the pot. No. You can
00:55:33.360
stir the pot. Go ahead. Please stir the pot. Please do. No, I love hearing that. Yeah. I love hearing
00:55:37.740
from women like what they think. I am more so into the mic. I'm more so pro-life. Sure. Um, so I believe
00:55:46.300
there are steps that you could take before it comes to that. 100%. You know, like, uh, is it religious
00:55:52.500
due to your beliefs? I am religious. Okay. Um, but also personally, like, I don't think anyone should
00:55:57.740
have the right to decide if a baby who can't decide for itself whether they can leave. Would you, would
00:56:05.520
you keep a child that, you know, you got pregnant because you were assaulted? Um, that. Would you keep that?
00:56:12.800
Honestly, I think I would, but that percentage is very low in terms of who goes and gets an
00:56:20.880
abortion. Like statistically speaking through, but how many people don't those individuals
00:56:27.140
deserve access if they do not want that child? I think that could be a topic that, um, we
00:56:31.220
could talk about. Like there could be like, uh, uh, like for those people. Um, but it's
00:56:40.280
like once you let something, once you let something be so easily accessed, there is really hard
00:56:48.360
to draw a line of like when it stops or like when the cutoff is, you know, people are not
00:56:53.420
getting abortions for fun. I can promise you that. I know, no, no, no, that's not what
00:56:56.700
I'm saying at all. Uh, but I'm just saying economically, it's really economically. Let's
00:57:03.400
say you couldn't take care of it. You don't have the family, you don't have the foundation
00:57:07.060
and that you're now in a state that abortions are not available to you. You would still keep
00:57:12.280
that child even if it ends up with you two on the street? First of all, I wouldn't. You're
00:57:18.740
disproportionately putting that child at a disadvantage. No, personally, first of all, I wouldn't have
00:57:23.020
a child if I'm not able to, uh, you didn't get a choice in the matter. You got pregnant due
00:57:27.320
to assault. I think, I mean, she spoke about certain steps that you adopted. I would be down
00:57:32.440
to adopt. Actually, I really do want to adopt. It's actually really hard to adopt. There are a lot
00:57:37.180
of kids in foster homes who just never end up getting adopted because there's just so many of
00:57:41.300
them. There are, but I think there's also a lot of programs that are working towards helping these
00:57:46.160
children. But they're not quite there yet. So as of now, all I'm saying is I think people should
00:57:52.040
not resort to abortion as a plan A. Okay. And there's just steps. I would agree. That's what
00:57:59.460
I'm saying. I understand what you're saying. Yeah, for sure. Okay. Kyria, right? How do you say
00:58:04.100
your name? Kyria. Kyria. You're Christian. Yes. Do you have thoughts on this? Yes. So I have two
00:58:10.860
points. On the first point, the statistics of women who get abortions after a sexual assault are super
00:58:17.120
low. And honestly, personally, if I wasn't financially stable myself, I wouldn't be having
00:58:24.100
sex. And I personally would never let a man who wasn't financially stable fuck me. Oh, I'm sorry.
00:58:30.160
I'm sorry. I didn't know. You know, I wouldn't do that. So like there are ways to prevent it is what
00:58:36.480
I'm saying. Like if you know that you're not supposed to have, you're not in a place where you can have a
00:58:41.680
child and bring a child into a stable environment, then there are ways to avoid that. There are so many
00:58:46.820
ways to avoid that. Like the pill itself is revolutionary. I don't take it, but I'm pretty
00:58:51.860
sure it is. Can I ask you a question? Yeah. What about married couples who are not financially
00:58:57.300
stable? Should they just stop having sex? You can use a condom. Condoms aren't 100%
00:59:03.020
though. They break. Condoms break. Yeah, but there's both. You can also track your cycle. There's only one
00:59:07.940
week where you can fertilize it. There's no method. That's 100%. There's not a single method of birth
00:59:11.700
control. That's 100%. So you can try them all. If you really, really, honestly don't want to have a
00:59:16.800
kid. You could try them all. You can try them all, but things happen. I just think once you're
00:59:20.880
actually engaging that activity with someone, you're automatically knowing what could happen.
00:59:25.580
So you should be prepared. It's like you're doing something. I don't think sex with a spouse
00:59:29.780
should come with the punishment of a child that you can't take care of. Okay, but why do you think a
00:59:34.300
child is a punishment? Children aren't punishments, you know? Because if you're not ready for a kid,
00:59:38.620
it can be seen as a punishment to a lot of people who just, they're not financially able,
00:59:42.840
emotionally able, or they just don't want to put their body through that. Yeah, but as an adult or
00:59:49.080
as a married couple, you're engaging in a certain activity to instantly gratify you and just being
00:59:57.020
completely ignorant of the consequences. And there are ways to go about it. There are many different
01:00:02.100
ways to not get pregnant. And not all of them are 100%, though, is what I'm saying. Okay, so we're just
01:00:08.060
not having sex. Not having sex is for sure 100%. Exactly. So you know what I mean? Even if I was
01:00:14.520
in a marriage. In a marriage, yeah. If you weren't ready to have a kid, you would just put off having,
01:00:18.000
you would just tell your husband, no, we can't have, we can't have sex right now. Because we're
01:00:21.620
not in a place. If we weren't ready. Like financially ready. If you're not, if you were in a place where
01:00:25.860
you and your husband, you know, you, you, somebody got laid off. Somebody was sick. Bills were coming in.
01:00:31.260
You guys are both in debt. You obviously can't take care of a kid at that point. You don't want to put
01:00:35.040
yourself through that. Would you just stop having sex with your spouse? Okay, so I'm 19, right? I
01:00:40.660
want to get married. I want to get married early. I want to have kids early. But with that being said,
01:00:46.740
because I want those things, and because I have that teleology already in place in my mind,
01:00:52.100
I don't have any debt. I'm paying school out of pocket right now. The person that I, my future
01:00:55.780
husband, hopefully he won't have debt. If he does, I will help him. I personally have a good job right
01:01:00.380
now. And hopefully he does too. So there's certain steps that I would never make myself get into a
01:01:04.980
position that bad and marry into that position or bring a child into that position. There's
01:01:09.800
certain steps that you could take now. I'm always planning for the future. Well, that's good
01:01:12.920
for you, but there are married couples who are financially well off. I know, but you ask me
01:01:15.420
personally. You know what I mean? Like, what if somebody gets cancer? What if somebody's sick?
01:01:18.520
What if somebody, like the pandemic? Okay, if you get cancer, you can't carry a baby. Okay, well,
01:01:22.500
what if somebody's sick? How sick are we talking about? You're asking a lot of what ifs,
01:01:25.400
which is in catering to her, which was your original question. Do you come from a place of,
01:01:29.400
personally view of privilege? Cause you said it, um, when it talks about financial stability,
01:01:35.620
because you said you have set yourself up in a specific manner and are able to follow it thoroughly
01:01:40.040
and wouldn't deviate from that. There's people that don't have that same, if it is financial or you
01:01:46.880
have a security belt that don't have, I don't have a, I don't, I mean, I do, I, you know, I'm an
01:01:51.740
emergency fund and all of that, but are you asking if I grew up? Like parents and things that you,
01:01:57.520
a fallback plan? Cause there's some individuals that end up pregnant that don't have that same.
01:02:01.780
Yeah, no, I've been living alone since I was 17. I don't have a fallback plan.
01:02:04.960
Kudos to you. Thank you. And no, I didn't grow up in privilege either. It's just, you know,
01:02:10.320
I, I'm a friends with a lot of older people and I like to learn from their mistakes.
01:02:14.080
Totally. You know what I mean? So whatever they say, don't do, I don't do. If that, so everything is
01:02:19.860
set up because I really want a husband and I really want a family. So I'll make sure that it gets
01:02:24.780
there, but that's me personally. And I know a lot, not a lot of women want children and I'm not
01:02:28.880
saying you have to have children, but there are ways to not have children. So that's good for you
01:02:34.720
that you're stable, but do you think your beliefs should affect whether or not another woman has
01:02:38.300
the right to choose? That's why we're just saying it's our belief. Yeah, it is our belief. A lot of
01:02:43.740
people who believe that will like lobby for and support anti-abortion laws. So where would you stand
01:02:49.220
there? I don't think, I still don't think that it's okay for you to decide to kill a life because
01:02:56.360
if you, have you seen a 15 week fetus? Have you seen it? I don't care to, no. Well, exactly. So
01:03:02.620
like, if you don't care to know, then that's what it is, but it's still a baby. And I mean,
01:03:05.300
I definitely have, but I'm saying it's, it's, you know, it's not a baby and that's just my belief.
01:03:09.700
So it looks exactly like a baby. It looks like an actual baby you can carry, but you don't think
01:03:14.500
it's a baby is what I'm hearing. Like, I don't, it definitely can survive out of the womb. Okay.
01:03:19.940
It can't survive out of, yeah, but it's still your child. So you would, you would vote against
01:03:25.100
other women having the right to choose because of your personal beliefs and your situation.
01:03:28.800
But she chose to have sex. But she did not choose to get pregnant. And yes, it's always a risk,
01:03:33.800
but I'm saying what if somebody is taking all the precautions, taking all the birth control,
01:03:37.220
they possibly can. It's like a 99.9%. So when that happens, then we can have this discussion,
01:03:41.240
I think. Yeah. Okay. But do you personally taking birth control and that happens? That's not a lot
01:03:47.300
of people, but if there's a lot in place to stop them from doing so, why should we wait until it
01:03:51.600
comes to that? Okay. But on, if we're, you're, you're talking about, you know, the 0.001% chance
01:03:58.320
that it happens if you take all the precautions, right? Like that's what you're asking. Do you
01:04:02.960
honestly, do you honestly really think I'm not, I'm not shitting on women right now. I'm not,
01:04:07.580
but do you honestly really think that all these, like all these women are taking every single one
01:04:11.360
of those precautions or are responsible enough to take all of them? No, I don't think they're all
01:04:14.220
taking precautions, but I don't think it matters because it's her right to choose. At the end of
01:04:18.980
the day, it's her body. If she doesn't want to gestate a baby and damage her entire pelvic floor
01:04:23.000
delivering said baby, she shouldn't have to. But then why did she choose to have sex knowing
01:04:28.480
the consequences? Because humans were built to piss and shit and have sex.
01:04:31.320
They were made to procreate actually. They were made to procreate. We were also humans
01:04:38.880
and dolphins are the only two mammals who have sex for recreation. Dolphins. Dolphins. Yes.
01:04:44.920
Dolphins. Dolphins have sex for recreation. We should know what we should talk about. We
01:04:47.800
should talk about dolphin mating. Let's talk about it. Welcome to the whatever podcast where
01:04:53.540
we discuss the mating rituals of aquatic animals. All right. Let's move it on. Let's move it on
01:04:59.640
from this. Let's keep talking. Well, I'm going to bring it back to the 50-50 feminist thing.
01:05:05.960
Oh, sure. So I wanted a bit of more clarity on that. So you're against 50-50 relationships,
01:05:13.040
but consider yourself to be a feminist. Yes. I'm a radical feminist, meaning that I think men
01:05:23.760
should do everything for me in life and I shouldn't have to lift a finger. I'm totally messing with you.
01:05:30.360
What the fuck? I bet all your viewers are going to believe that. Oh my God. I'm just kidding.
01:05:36.240
No, there's some truth there, right? Yeah, absolutely. No, I definitely, I can tell you this.
01:05:40.980
Listen, I've gotten got by a man before. I've had, yeah, I paid this guy's rent for a long time,
01:05:46.580
right? What a legend. Exactly. And then after that, you're like, yeah, I'm never doing that again.
01:05:51.220
So if any man wants access to me, like I'm not going to pay his rent. I'm not going to do that
01:05:55.560
shit. I would never ask someone to pay my rent. But initially, I think if I recall what you said,
01:06:00.920
you said something along the lines of, well, I'm doing all these sexual things for the guy.
01:06:11.400
I understand. I think I meant that more in like a joking way. Like BJ, they don't call
01:06:18.000
But yes, but I can, I do know that, you know, a lot of women during sexual intercourse don't
01:06:25.660
actually come, right? So already here, we're, we're, we're not having as much fun.
01:06:35.920
They should transfer you to the USPS. You're a bucket of bad ideas. God luck with your future.
01:06:46.800
Daddy government, cat shelters, and Pfizer are cheering you on.
01:06:52.100
Marquavius. Hi, Marquavius. I love you. Um, no, I'm not, I'm not a fed. Um, I am a government
01:06:57.940
employee. Uh, yeah, you try doing the work that I do, and then we can talk about it. Love you.
01:07:07.500
Oh, I'm sorry. I keep coming back. I don't even know what I'm talking about.
01:07:12.340
Yeah, no. Uh, okay. So I should, I'm, I'm going to base this off of my own familial, uh,
01:07:18.240
interactions. Okay. So growing up, my mom not only had a full-time job, but she also raised that,
01:07:24.400
raised my brother and I, I have an older brother and did everything in between. My father went to
01:07:30.220
work and worked on his cars, you know? And if it was like, Oh, you know, can you help with the kids
01:07:35.560
here? No. In fact, my dad went to pick me up in kindergarten. They wouldn't let him take us home
01:07:41.980
because they didn't believe he was our father because he had never, they like never saw him
01:07:45.960
so much. Right. So that's what complexion was a bit different. Uh, well, he kind of does look
01:07:50.840
Middle Eastern. I won't lie. Okay. But, uh, yeah, it was, it was different. He even had to like show
01:07:56.540
his ID and everything. It was really funny, but see, that's more where I'm coming from. Whereas,
01:08:02.040
you know, I felt like my mom did absolutely everything growing up and my father was just kind
01:08:07.000
there to be like, yeah, cool. I'm down with that. Was your mother the breadwinner? Uh, technically
01:08:13.080
my father made more, but probably only like 50 K difference, 50 K difference a year, a year.
01:08:21.120
Correct. That's a pretty substantial. How much? Okay. So how much, how much was he making? How much
01:08:27.600
was she making? I would say he was probably making two 50 and my mom was probably making two
01:08:33.160
two 50, 200. Okay. Well, I mean that. Yeah. It's pretty high income for both of them. Exactly.
01:08:38.860
Once you get up there. Um, was he working more than she was? Uh, well, he technically had longer
01:08:45.180
hours, but again, I think that was to avoid the kids cause he would wake up and leave the house at
01:08:50.800
seven and we couldn't home, wouldn't come home to like seven or eight. Yeah. So, but so, okay.
01:08:57.140
Anonymous donated $100. She was just a diversity hire. Okay. We're not getting paid to
01:09:03.140
be here. We're not, this is for you. No, I think he's talking about your job. Um, okay.
01:09:09.700
So, uh, but your dad was working more than your mother, correct? More hours. More. I mean,
01:09:17.340
I, I don't know. This was like nineties fun. They were at the golf course, you know, my mom
01:09:24.400
was like in biotech and my dad was in sales. So it was very different. But you said he would
01:09:28.900
leave home at 7am. Right. I mean, in between he'd go to the gym in the morning, then he'd
01:09:34.320
go to work, then he'd go to lunch. Then after he'd go to golf, you know, I mean, it wasn't
01:09:38.620
like he was working 24 seven. Did, did he work more than your mom? I would say no. You. Okay.
01:09:46.620
I'm getting a little conflicting information. My mom worked eight hours a day. My dad worked
01:09:49.920
eight hours a day, but my mom came home and took care of us, which she is not compensated
01:09:56.020
for. Okay. So yeah. Well, they were, you had a dual income household, but I would say, I
01:10:02.840
mean, he was out earning your mom. So, I mean, there is an argument there for, hold on.
01:10:10.000
Martin donated $100. Thank you. Mark. I'm a multimillionaire with businesses across the Southeast,
01:10:15.920
hundreds of employees, post lady. What do you do that? I couldn't do drunk as hell blindfolded.
01:10:22.560
Like a woman. Come on. Watch child pornography for eight hours a day. Yeah. That's what I
01:10:27.660
have to do, honey. Yeah. Can you avoid using like, it's just like, oh, geez. Okay. Um,
01:10:35.100
bro. Okay. So it would seem to me that male man donated $100. What a sad time we live in.
01:10:49.140
People are literally fighting for the right to kill their babies just so they can run the
01:10:53.460
streets and take raw meat with zero consequences. Also, they don't want 50 50. Feminism isn't
01:11:00.360
about equality. It's about superiority. I would like to be superior. Thank you. No, I'm just
01:11:07.600
kidding. It's so funny listening to them cry. And a lot of these laws that are in place were
01:11:13.020
put in place by men. So what, I mean, there's actually more women who are, if you're talking
01:11:18.760
about the pro-life stuff, there's more women who are pro-life than, of course, no, I agree
01:11:24.940
with that. So it's not like a man thing. Right. But I mean, not a lot of women have been making
01:11:31.460
laws for too long. Right. We didn't have the right to do that. Like the past, like 50 plus
01:11:37.160
years, the past 50 plus years. Probably. Yeah. Women have been, when did we have like the first
01:11:45.320
Congresswoman? Yeah. That's a good question. Or the first, we haven't had a female president
01:11:51.820
yet. We have a vice president, which is nice, but we just, we haven't hold, we haven't held
01:11:58.060
those seats. Right. Hold on. Hide that. Tipoki Smith donated $100. She likes her job. Disgusting.
01:12:08.080
Actually, they tend to hire women more than men. So less liability. Okay. So can you please
01:12:17.420
clarify, you've said you don't believe in 50, 50 yet you're a feminist? Yes.
01:12:25.940
Because of how I was raised again, just, I saw my mom do so much more. I mean, according
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to you, so your assessment of it, it wasn't a 50, 50. Correct. And that's what I, okay.
01:12:34.980
Oh, I'm sorry. I apologize. I should speak better, speak more better. I saw that it wasn't
01:12:42.200
50, 50 in my household. Yes. I would want 50, 50 when I'm dating you, I would want you
01:12:48.800
to, you know, provide. I want to see if you're a good provider. Why? Because isn't that, I
01:12:56.220
mean, what men want to be? I mean, most like, look at Andrew Tate. Isn't this guy like, you
01:13:03.580
know? Where are we? I know. Wait, you just went back on that now and saying that if you
01:13:09.960
are in a relationship, you do want 50, 50? So you said like when you're in a relationship
01:13:14.200
short, get married, you want it to be 50, 50. Yes. However, during the initial courtship
01:13:20.140
process, you want the guy to pay for everything. Not necessarily pay for everything, but potentially
01:13:26.080
do a little bit more. Yeah. How so? Yeah. So I mean, okay. So the last guy I dated was a
01:13:32.260
little like contentious because I only took him on a couple of dates and we had probably
01:13:38.020
been dating for six months. And out of those six months, I think I took him out maybe two
01:13:42.200
or three times. He was very upset by that. He thought that like as many times as he took
01:13:47.120
me out, I should take him out. I guess I'm just old school. I don't believe that. I think
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a man should be taking the woman out more. So you want equality only when it benefits you?
01:13:58.420
Yes. I'm just kidding. But it's like, how do you reconcile believing in feminism, believing
01:14:05.580
in gender equality, but saying that you want the guy to take care of it? You want the guy
01:14:14.620
to adhere to his traditional gender roles during the initial courtship. That doesn't make sense
01:14:19.640
to me. Yeah. No, I think that's what I believe. I think gender norms in the beginning make sense.
01:14:24.680
But yeah, as you get to know each other, they go away. Right. Okay. So traditional gender
01:14:28.620
roles, when it benefits you and then those disperse when they don't benefit you.
01:14:36.280
Okay. Let me be a little more careful with how I'm saying things. So in the beginning,
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I think it's up to a man to woo a woman, right? He should be the one that takes her out. He should
01:14:50.260
be the one that wants to do all these things for her. Right. That's not very feminist of
01:14:55.040
you, but okay. Yeah. And I respect that. Right. But again, feminism is a spectrum, right? And
01:14:59.680
we're all in certain places in the spectrum. I disagree. I think equality is black and white.
01:15:06.040
There is no feminism. Isn't well, I mean, I don't, I personally don't think feminism is
01:15:11.220
an equality movement, but that's the more generate, like that's how some people will describe feminism
01:15:18.380
is it's about equality. But through the movement, we have gotten equality. We have the right to vote
01:15:23.540
now, which we didn't get until like what, 1915, 16, something like that. Uh, we couldn't, you know,
01:15:31.700
buy our own, or excuse me, take out our own credit cards without a man's signature until like
01:15:36.800
the 1970s. Right. I would have to fact check that. Yeah. And you can, you absolutely can.
01:15:41.280
Would you reiterate your view on feminism? What's that? Would you reiterate your view
01:15:44.940
on feminism and how your generous view you give it? Sure. So feminism, the most generous definition
01:15:54.440
I would give it is it's a woman's advocacy movement. That's the most generous definition
01:15:59.780
I would give it. However, my view of it, what it actually is, is it is a women's advocacy
01:16:09.460
movement. However, the rhetoric and the ideology is steeped in man-hating and conspiracy. Hold
01:16:20.920
Typical government stuff. Everything they say never makes sense.
01:16:24.700
Yeah. So that's my view of feminism. Sure. Women not advocate for themselves. I didn't
01:16:32.360
say that there's nothing wrong with women's advocacy. However, but to portray feminism as
01:16:37.980
an equality movement, hold on to portray feminism or to suggest that feminism is a movement about
01:16:43.540
equality is on its fit. It's just wrong. There's nothing wrong with women's advocacy, women's
01:16:49.640
rights. That's great. However, feminism has gone way beyond that. And throughout its entire
01:16:56.380
history has quite frankly, been a man-hating ideology.
01:17:00.300
So you're saying we can support one side without bringing down the other?
01:17:03.920
Well, that's called egalitarianism. And I consider myself an egalitarian.
01:17:09.040
So I can agree that it's derailed. I don't think that its original root was to hate on men
01:17:15.600
directly. Well, I mean, its original root was also deeply racist. I would agree with
01:17:20.080
you there. I would agree with you there. Absolutely. But it's always been a man-hating
01:17:24.420
ideology. Well, here's why. No, I think that's changed recently. Yeah. You think it's, that's
01:17:31.720
recent? The core... I think it is more, yeah, I think it is more recent. Well, the core tenet
01:17:36.480
of feminism is this conspiracy theory called the patriarchy theory, which posits, I mean,
01:17:42.920
she's laughing. It's not a conspiracy. It is a conspiracy theory. You're saying that men
01:17:48.720
as a class throughout all history oppressed women as a class throughout all history. That's
01:17:53.920
not true. Quite literally, we were erased from history. We weren't allowed to do jobs that
01:17:58.500
men were doing. We weren't allowed to become doctors until like the late 1800s, you know?
01:18:04.580
I don't see, that's not really related to patriarchy theory, but... Correct, but also... Yeah, go
01:18:10.380
ahead. Not entirely. I don't think women were completely erased from history. I think when
01:18:15.400
it valued the education system for women to be put in a place of a submissive nature, then
01:18:21.860
it was taught and it was educated. Women got us to the moon. Okay. Yeah. You're talking about
01:18:32.580
that lady who did like the whole stack of code. That was Jack Black's mom. Really? Yeah. Isn't
01:18:37.260
that crazy? Isn't that crazy? I mean, I just reject outright that women were oppressed and
01:18:44.260
men were the oppressor. I reject it. I believe... There's historical evidence that that's happened
01:18:50.700
due to religion being one of the predominant factors of how we viewed society. Men have a divine
01:18:56.240
right over women. I've never heard that. That happened in like medieval times, but yes.
01:19:02.300
You've never seen... King... Have you not heard of King Henry VIII? And he went to the Catholic
01:19:07.920
church... I've seen the Tudors. I have no idea. And he went to the Catholic church and said,
01:19:11.540
I don't see how the fuck that... I don't see how the fuck that... Yeah. The Tudors is a great
01:19:15.020
show, but I have no idea how that's... It is a great show. You said a bad word.
01:19:21.180
Go ahead. Are you asking me to continue? Yeah, you were asking me something.
01:19:24.120
Well, just if you date back far enough that you see that women were put in a place to be very
01:19:29.900
submissive. So their role was to be mothers and caretakers. They were not given the opportunity
01:19:35.540
or even considered intelligent enough or able enough to do chores outside of that.
01:19:42.780
Well, I reject that, but I mean, couldn't... First off, there's a few considerations biologically
01:19:49.580
that you have to think of. First off, there's certain sanitary realities, and then there's also
01:19:54.760
birth control. So... And, you know, we have such conveniences that have come about in the past
01:20:03.500
hundred years. Life was incredibly difficult hundreds, two hundreds of years ago. So, I mean,
01:20:09.900
there is a certain component of, you know, and obviously the risk of death during pregnancy,
01:20:15.580
if there was an expectation to continue the human race and women were the ones that gave birth,
01:20:22.520
and if there was a high probability that you could die during childbirth, wouldn't it almost
01:20:29.460
make sense to invest, for example, educational opportunities in men who don't have that additional
01:20:38.980
And a lot of women my age, like in their 30s, actually sometimes don't get hired because we're
01:20:44.580
technically in an age where we will have kids, and they don't want to have to pay for us to go
01:20:48.820
and have kids, right? Because usually, if you're...
01:20:51.800
Now, I acknowledge that maybe some women don't want to have kids. However, historically, there were
01:20:58.940
certain gender expectations, and, you know, things were very different.
01:21:06.380
But when we say, okay, we want a man to provide, which is what they have been doing for thousands
01:21:11.140
of years, all of a sudden, like, that's not okay, right?
01:21:14.840
But if you're expecting that from a man, shouldn't he expect you to act as the traditional form of
01:21:24.620
I have traditional behaviors, yes. I would say so.
01:21:28.980
Yeah. You can talk to any of my exes if you want.
01:21:34.980
I like to cook. Cooking. Woo-hoo! Feminism. No, I'm just kidding. Yeah, I like to cook.
01:21:42.560
I actually have to get going. So, sorry, this isn't going to be as much fun anymore. Everyone's
01:21:47.600
loving me. Yeah, they love me. Okay, I have to get going. But, yeah, this was actually really
01:21:54.420
fun. I think we should sit down and have more conversations about feminism, but I think that
01:21:58.900
might be the only... I might be the only one who wants that.
01:22:04.240
Yeah, I do have to go. I have a job tomorrow doing stuff for the government.
01:22:09.040
Okay, so before you leave, I guess, and I will touch back because you were asking me
01:22:16.960
a question, so I'll touch back on that. I just, again, you've said that you believe
01:22:22.520
in 50-50, yet... Or sorry, excuse me, you don't believe in 50-50, yet you describe yourself
01:22:29.580
as a feminist. No, I do believe in 50-50, but not in the beginning. Right, that's what
01:22:35.280
I mean. Yes. Mm-hmm. Okay. So, would you take an issue with a guy wanting to split the
01:22:46.700
But we're all different, see? But it, I just, I have difficulty reconciling your, I assume
01:22:53.060
you believe in gender equality, right? Yeah, of course. And feminism, that's the supposed
01:23:00.360
Yeah. It's also just romantic for a guy to woo a woman. Yeah, to woo a woman.
01:23:05.780
Yeah. I will say, there's often men that complain about women being in their highly
01:23:10.660
masculine energy, right? Sure. And they want them to be more feminine, so they, if you do
01:23:16.240
take up those traditional roles, you may allow that partner you're trying to pursue to lean
01:23:21.520
into that feminine energy a bit more, where if you don't, she may feel the need to continue
01:23:26.500
to present more masculine. And that's okay if she wants to present in that masculine
01:23:30.360
nature. But if you are looking for a feminine woman, you should take up those roles and give
01:23:36.400
her that space of safety. Exactly. See, she explained that far better than I ever could
01:23:41.380
have. That's why I tried to get on the podcast. Not saying that you didn't, but that's one
01:23:44.360
of the reasons I wanted to come on the podcast. Okay, so I have a question for you. So you
01:23:49.760
mentioned, I think we had spoke before the show, you said you're harsh on men. What do
01:23:53.700
you mean by that? I am harsh on men. I think, again, just my background, you know, I think
01:23:57.480
when you're just watching men do really bad things to children all day, it tends to, yeah,
01:24:03.520
it tends to, and okay, if you want to come and do a day at my job, you absolutely can.
01:24:08.300
I'm good. Yeah, exactly. That's what I thought. Okay, ladies, you guys are beautiful and wonderful
01:24:13.220
and I love you all. I'm sure I will. Okay, bye guys.
01:24:16.060
To Dorothy Smith donated $100. She's so annoying. I'd delete myself if I was married to her.
01:24:23.660
All right, that's Frank Castle. All right, what's the number on that microphone?
01:24:28.420
It's a number seven. Does that mean we're going out on a date? Uh-oh. You and I?
01:24:36.480
You're going to have to pay for the date and it's going to happen. That's fine. I'll pay
01:24:45.600
for this date. I just won't be feminine. Yeah. Lovely. Yeah. All right. It's a date. It's
01:24:50.820
a plan. Okay, bye guys. All right, thank you for coming. Can I have you put the microphone
01:24:56.320
on the ground, please? All right, bye guys. Have a wonderful night. Bye. It was nice meeting you.
01:25:04.780
Did you enjoy your roller coaster? Yeah, that was a heated, okay. So.
01:25:12.740
Martin donated $100. Let's hear more scholarly ideologies from Bella Thorne's special needs
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Hispanic second cousin. The one with bad hair and worse ideas. Tell us more eyelashes. You're
01:25:38.160
coated heavily in the devil's war paint. I bet you're even more stunning underneath.
01:25:54.920
Okay. All right. Oh, shit. I lost some of the recent events. Oh, well. Okay, so. I'll do a
01:26:01.940
couple. We'll hold off on the super chats. Oh, fuck. Bro, she's, oh, I got to leave
01:26:06.620
at 930. Okay, whatever. Consensus on her? I think she's great. I play the fifth. Come
01:26:15.180
on. Yeah, me too. Yeah. Not touching that with a 10-foot pole. She's fun. Avery? I think
01:26:23.240
it made the stream a little more interesting. For sure. She's a fireball. Yeah. Exactly.
01:26:29.940
Is that not fun? What's the, I don't think it's fireball. What's the word? Fire, I don't
01:26:34.620
know. Firecracker. Firecracker. She's exactly what you need on a podcast, though.
01:26:38.520
Wishing somebody to challenge you. Yeah. She should have stayed longer. I agree. All
01:26:46.060
right, guys. I'm going to take it off. I'm going to take it off members only for a little
01:26:49.700
bit here, guys. Okay, so. Wow. It got very heated almost immediately. Eric, can we, I'm
01:26:59.840
going to ask the girls a question? So, try to bring a little levity back to the show.
01:27:07.180
Would you date the following man? Eric, can you pull up the Instagram? Oh, before you
01:27:12.580
pull it up, scroll down so you don't see the bio on the guy's Instagram. Did I, did I pull
01:27:20.760
it up? I think I did. Yeah. Scroll down so you don't see the bio. Okay, so. Would you date
01:27:27.700
this guy? Scroll, scroll down, Eric? No. I've already dated somebody who looks just like
01:27:37.760
that, actually. Yeah, he looks familiar. Yeah. Keep scrolling. Keep, keep going down. Yeah,
01:27:42.380
I want to see more. No. Keep going down. Oh, this isn't getting better. Aw. Wait, I like
01:27:46.420
the ears photo. Yeah, the ears is cute. No. All right. Keep going. And he's a gamer. Bonus
01:27:53.800
points. That's what, I kind of like the silly faces. He doesn't take himself, himself too
01:27:57.660
seriously. So, his name's Zach. Okay. Uh, he's like, he's like Chad World of Warcraft
01:28:07.140
gamer. Okay. Nice. Yeah. Uh, would you guys date him? I actually would. Yeah. I like nerdy
01:28:14.040
guys. Yeah. He's in Texas. Okay. I can get you guys linked up if you're down. I'm actually
01:28:19.400
down. Oh, yeah. Let's go. I need to try something new. Eric, can you lower it a little bit while
01:28:30.440
I play this? Um, so, okay, Avery. Oh, my God. You would, you would date Zach? Yeah. What
01:28:36.280
about you? Would you date Zach? No, thank you. No go? No, thank you. Sure. I mean, I think
01:28:41.740
it's unfair to do that based on his appearance only. But yeah, like I said, I've literally dated
01:28:46.500
somebody who looked exactly like him already. Okay. So, yeah. What about you? No. Not your type?
01:28:52.760
No. He looks like a sweet guy, but not my type. Yeah, not based on the looks, but, um, I'm not a
01:28:59.000
big fan of gamers, so that's like a no-go for me. Sure. No. Mm-hmm. I'd probably say no. Okay. All
01:29:06.880
right. So, Eric, can you just pull, scroll up a little bit so we see who it is? Oh, my God. Uh,
01:29:13.800
this is Zach. He's, his name's Asmongold. Uh, very popular Twitch streamer. Probably
01:29:19.420
one of the top Twitch streamers. Uh, owner of OTK. He's probably making, like, millions
01:29:24.280
of dollars a year. Does that change anything for any of you? No. No. No. No. Makes
01:29:29.360
me less likely to want to date him, actually. Why is that? I don't know. I like somebody
01:29:34.020
with humble beginnings. You want someone, a broke guy? No, not broke. Not broke, but
01:29:38.940
maybe not a millionaire. Okay. I don't think I could see myself with a millionaire. Would
01:29:43.460
you take care of your partner? I'm just curious. I currently do. Oh, okay. I like, I like
01:29:47.960
that. Um, I've been financially abused before, so I like the situation I'm in where I pay the
01:29:53.140
rent and I pay for everything, and he's offered to help, and I told him no, because I like that
01:29:58.300
I have some control for once in my life. You like to pay for the rent? I do. Okay. Would you say
01:30:03.660
you're more masculine? No. Okay. All right. Okay. Um, man. I'm still kind of overwhelmed
01:30:15.500
by the girl over there. Okay. Jesus Christ. All right. Um, here, let's do this. By the
01:30:23.500
way, guys, just to, oh, Eric, can you pull up the Twitch? I need to shout out the Twitch
01:30:26.800
homies. All right. Yo, guys, go to twitch.tv slash whatever. Open up another tab. Go give
01:30:32.860
us a follow. If you have a prime sub, drop us a prime sub, twitch.tv slash whatever.
01:30:37.320
If you have Amazon prime, you link it to your Twitch. It's a quick, free, easy way to support
01:30:43.000
the show. Oh my God. You guys are on fire. Look at all these people following. Thank you
01:30:47.480
guys. Uh, yeah. You link it to your, yo, Bert, thank you for the gifted. Yeah. You basically
01:30:52.720
you lit you, uh, oh my God. Sorry. Getting tongue tied. The link is in the description. Uh,
01:30:58.000
otherwise twitch.tv slash whatever you link your prime Amazon prime to your Twitch. It's
01:31:02.620
free. Uh, yo lost pod. Thank you for the prime, man. Appreciate it. Thank you guys so much,
01:31:07.400
man. Uh, nebulas. Thank you for the prime, the prime. Uh, okay. So by the way, I think
01:31:13.340
there are, how many people are watching? Oh my God. There are 6,000 of you. The chat is on
01:31:18.480
fire. Thank you guys so much. Uh, really appreciate it. Um, and yeah, just a reminder again, uh, TTS
01:31:25.740
is stream labs only. Uh, sweet. Let me get a couple of the super chats here, guys. Okay.
01:31:31.360
We have this one came through Mr. Cappadocia. Hey, thank you for the 50. She knows women are
01:31:38.760
significantly less likely to be prosecuted for it. However, she brought up air. Can you
01:31:43.800
hide the Twitch overlay really quick? Uh, it's, uh, the Twitch alerts. Yeah. Just hide that
01:31:48.700
momentarily. Uh, however, she brought up the discussion to shame him into submission. Boys
01:31:54.380
as young as 13 have had to pay women child support. Yep. That's definitely true. Um,
01:31:59.380
sorry, I didn't read these, uh, while she was still here. She said she could stay until
01:32:03.500
like nine 30, but then she dipped an hour earlier. So speedy, the unsilent. Thank you
01:32:08.840
for the 50 man saying it's not a life is a lie. It's a coping mechanism to justify your actions.
01:32:12.960
When you hook up, you are taking responsibility for what happens after lack of accountability.
01:32:18.700
Word? Word? Okay. Thank you, man. Richard Contini Jr. Thank you, man. Not only is the
01:32:26.060
fed a liar, but she has daddy issues too. She, she's definitely not worth having on a second
01:32:30.700
time. Can't stand a liar. Okay. Uh, Nobunaga. Thank you for the hundred man. Red haired girl
01:32:36.520
should understand when she says the child can't actually, you know what you read this. Go ahead.
01:32:42.000
I don't have my glasses on. Um, red haired girl should understand when she says the child can't
01:32:49.900
live on their own inside the womb. Would it be okay to do to, to do post abortions on adolescent
01:32:56.600
children then? Also people have been raising kids since the stone ages. So the money issue is null and
01:33:01.900
void. Well, it's not really the stone ages anymore. No, is it? Oh, fire. Okay. Um, Eric, can you show,
01:33:09.260
uh, the Twitch overlay again here? Thank you guys so much for the, uh, super chats guys. If you want
01:33:14.000
get your, uh, super chats in $50 and up and then instant TTS a hundred and up everything else. It's,
01:33:20.400
uh, stream labs only though for the TTS. Thank you guys. All right. We have, yo, we got to swap this
01:33:24.840
chair. Can you take her chair? Yeah, it's squeaking. So, uh, get rid of that chair.
01:33:31.900
All right. Sorry guys. We're doing little musical chairs here. All right. So Stifler asked the
01:33:39.620
ladies to rate their looks on a scale of one to 10. Okay. We're going to start over here. Go ahead.
01:33:44.060
It's every podcast. This is the worst. Go for it, Avery. I believe in you. Um, okay. I'm going to
01:33:52.000
like, like, so a 10 to me is like a Victoria's Secret model. So that's why I'm comparing myself. I
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would say a six. Okay. Seven. Like appearance wise or everything? Looks. Just looks. Looks.
01:34:08.880
Seven. Hold on. Anonymous donated $100. Oh, who's the audio?
01:34:13.980
Before. Feminist from all races or religion would be so embarrassed. I'm 25 and some of you women are
01:34:21.780
old on this panel and you're embarrassing. I tell myself one day I'm going to be on the panel.
01:34:28.120
Stupid woman equals broken society. I'm woman BTW. She's a woman. BTW.
01:34:35.700
Your grammar sucks. So I think you might be one of those stupid women.
01:34:39.100
Um, yeah, I'm intelligent. I don't know what you talk about. Shots fired. Okay. I'm pretty smart.
01:34:44.860
What do you rate yourself on a scale of one to 10? Seven. Um, I want to say like, um, eight or nine.
01:34:54.520
I want to say 10, but I'll say eight or nine. Okay. Uh, I hate this question. Um, I guess a seven.
01:35:02.480
Um, I would say six. I would say seven. Safe seven. All right. A lot of angel numbers here.
01:35:11.980
There you have it. Stifler. Okay. Um, so let's see here. We had, we had one other thing to react to.
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Let me see if I have it. Um, okay. I think we were going around the table on something.
01:35:24.940
It was the 50, 50 thing, but we can move on from that. Uh, does anybody have anything dating related?
01:35:29.860
Did they want to get off your chat, their chest? Maybe there's a frustration that you experience
01:35:34.340
when it comes to dating men are pissing you off in some way. Uh, just anything you wanted to get
01:35:40.800
off your chest. And Avery, I want to prompt you really quick. I saw on your Instagram that you
01:35:44.880
were thoroughly traumatized by one of your previous partners. It was in one of your clips or whatever
01:35:51.200
on Instagram. Oh yeah. Wait, which one? Oh, there's been a lot of multiple of a lot of trauma.
01:36:00.160
Like just like fuck boys. What are we talking here? Yeah, man. I just want love. I don't know
01:36:05.480
why. I don't know if it's Los Angeles, probably Los Angeles. Yeah. Probably Los Angeles. It's just,
01:36:11.960
yeah, men haven't been, haven't been great to me. So, and to be fair, I've accepted that.
01:36:17.660
Like I accepted not being treated great. So I know a lot of it is my fault, but I don't
01:36:23.400
know. Has there been, has there been a pattern of men not treating you well? Yeah. Okay. Um,
01:36:30.720
do you think part of that is because of the men that you find yourself attracted to? I do think
01:36:37.200
yes, which is why I'm trying to be attracted to something different. But I think, especially
01:36:42.460
with dating apps, you're getting like the hottest matches ever. And that just doesn't ever go well
01:36:48.140
because that's profound. Yeah. So I'm, I'm thinking dating apps aren't just not going to work
01:36:55.480
because you can't help but swipe on the hottest people. Right. Yeah. But then they're douchebags.
01:37:01.940
So what do we, I'm just, I think I'm just going to delete them. Do you do most of the guys you meet?
01:37:06.600
Are they from dating apps? Yes. Okay. Because I don't know how else to meet people. I work from home.
01:37:11.640
Um, what, what are we supposed to do? Like, does it, can I find a husband through this podcast?
01:37:18.320
Oh, I don't do church. The grocery store. Where? The grocery store. Will you marry me?
01:37:25.940
Oh my God. Really? That's so sweet. Yeah. Oh wait, fuck. I didn't. There we go.
01:37:31.340
Oh my God. I'm going to cry. It's the sweetest moment I've ever experienced.
01:37:37.820
You're going to leave me hanging here. What's up? I accept. I accept. Can I just throw it at you?
01:37:44.660
Catch it on your finger. Okay. Oh my God. Oops. Eric, it's under the desk. That was a terrible throw.
01:37:53.360
I broke my ring. That was a great throw. That was a great throw. Did I break it? No, it's good.
01:37:58.340
Okay. I don't think it's. You just made my whole, my whole life. Thank you. Eric, can you just hand it to her off? Yeah. Or Avery, maybe you can do a little reach for it.
01:38:08.400
Can I wear it? Yeah. Put it on. Bro, you put that on your right hand. What are you doing, dork?
01:38:14.540
Get it together, Avery. Oh, I look so cute. I'm so happy. Okay. You're dead. All right. But I mean, you said, so you said you're looking for other dudes. So maybe Zach, the Asmongold, he's an option, you know?
01:38:32.420
Yeah. I mean, look, whoever thinks, I just want to be with someone that thinks I'm special. So whoever is going to.
01:38:40.060
That thinks you're special? Yes. I think you're special.
01:38:43.040
So if you think I'm special. The short bus. Hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on.
01:38:53.040
Thank God, Margot Robbie from Wish Self-Deported. Disrespecting the rules of your house and bogarting the convo with those Sam Paku eyes.
01:39:01.740
Facts. Let's hear more from Harley Quinn and the girls in the back corner. FJB Trump 2024. Jesus is king.
01:39:09.860
Okay, Persian, hey, thank you for the $100 donation. And thank you especially for the 69 cents on top of it. Much appreciated.
01:39:18.180
Yeah, I mean, I do feel bad. Like, I feel like she did kind of dominate the conversation. Maybe I should have been like, okay.
01:39:23.380
I think you were giving me daggers for a little bit during that.
01:39:27.600
Or I don't know if you were just kind of like, what the fuck is going on or?
01:39:34.760
Do you agree with the majority of your viewers and the perspectives they share?
01:39:38.120
Do you, do you, you guys, you got beef? What do you want? Tell me how you really feel.
01:39:49.600
And I give credit to Tupac who said this in the 90s.
01:39:53.480
He said something along the lines of, I am only responsible for the words that come out of my mouth.
01:39:58.640
I can't, I do not take ownership of what other people say.
01:40:01.960
I don't claim to know the position on various political issues and social issues that all my viewers hold.
01:40:09.500
I'm sure I have a diversity of thought when it comes to my viewership, so it's hard to say.
01:40:14.400
I haven't taken a poll on what specifically my viewers think.
01:40:17.980
You would have to ask me specifically what you think my viewers think, and I could confirm or deny whether I agree or disagree with them.
01:40:25.560
I'm just curious if you've noticed a string of either hate or disrespectful comments coming from your viewership, just genuine curiosity, and if you support that sort of behavior and demeanor.
01:40:42.420
Well, I mean, you'd have to tell me which specific comment.
01:40:45.040
I'm not, we get something like over 10,000 chats a show.
01:40:49.180
I don't read all the, I don't, actually, really, I just see the super chats and the TTS.
01:40:53.740
I know you said not to read the chat, but every time I look over, I see somebody calling us sluts.
01:41:05.560
I mean, so as far as, again, you'd have to tell me a specific comment that someone makes.
01:41:13.520
I'm not responsible for the words that somebody else says.
01:41:18.780
I would say, though, sometimes, yeah, the super chats, they maybe can be insulting.
01:41:26.240
Sometimes they're just playful roasting, but, yeah.
01:41:29.180
I feel like they try to be witty, and they try to be insulting, but it kind of flops.
01:41:34.040
I'd like to see somebody make me laugh with one of them.
01:41:36.920
Like, banter should be encouraged in any setting like this, but I'm just curious.
01:41:43.160
Well, I mean, I would just, I would say what I told you before the show is that the internet, because of the anonymity, people are, you know, people are going to be, like, say fucked up shit.
01:42:00.640
We're pretty lax when it comes to the chat moderation.
01:42:03.580
Unless there's something really egregious, we don't really, you know, like, you know, people are going to have their opinions, and we just kind of free flow, you know?
01:42:13.200
They don't like us, and there's nothing that we can say to make them like us, because you have a pretty wide range of opinions and backgrounds sitting here at this table.
01:42:20.320
But to your viewers, we're all hoes, and there's nothing we can say to change that.
01:42:24.560
If we give an answer they agree with, we're lying.
01:42:38.560
Well, I mean, we could, you know, assess the degree to which.
01:42:52.140
It is a justified body, or excuse me, justified double standard.
01:42:56.560
Because emotional attachment and psychology would say otherwise.
01:42:59.580
I have no idea what you mean, but we're going to get into that.
01:43:12.580
It should be a conversation of discussion between you and your partner.
01:43:31.360
You wouldn't want to know the guy's body count?
01:43:33.360
Okay, let me just make the question a bit more precise.
01:43:37.540
Do you have an issue with men who, would you take quarrel with men having, ah, fuck, sorry,
01:43:47.340
Do you, would you take quarrel with a man caring about your body count or a woman's body
01:43:53.480
Wait, do I have quarrel with someone else's body count?
01:43:57.440
Would you take quarrel for, because I think men tend to care about this more than women
01:44:02.080
There's certainly women that do care about their partner's body count.
01:44:05.200
However, I think men have more, and there's reasons for this, men care more about it than
01:44:14.620
You, for example, the previous question I asked is, should body count matter?
01:44:19.040
And you could view that as, well, I don't care about body count.
01:44:21.920
However, I guess the way I want to get to the bottom of this is, do you think, or do
01:44:27.480
you have an issue with men caring about body count?
01:44:30.780
Do you have an issue with that preference that men have?
01:44:33.940
Oh, so if a man's going to be upset with me for my body count being too high, you're saying
01:44:40.220
Would you take issue with a man having a preference for a woman with a low body count?
01:44:44.820
Do you think that's a wrong preference to have?
01:44:50.600
It's just that I also don't like being judged because when I was more promiscuous, I was
01:44:57.740
going through a really hard time and I was depressed and like, that's how I dealt with
01:45:06.860
So that's why I just, I wouldn't want to be judged, but I understand if they would have
01:45:11.340
a problem with it and then they're not the right guy for me if it's too high for them
01:45:19.860
Like everybody has their boundaries and that's fine.
01:45:24.440
But show of hands, who says body count does matter?
01:45:32.940
So for those of you who said, and perhaps the ones who also said it should matter can
01:45:38.680
For those who said body count should not matter, does not matter.
01:45:56.860
Honestly, to tell you the truth, I don't really know and I'll tell you why.
01:46:01.240
There was a lot of years that I was using and drinking.
01:46:04.180
I'm like two and a half years of sober sobriety.
01:46:10.660
So there's a lot of situations where I don't remember.
01:46:45.600
And you need to scoot the mic that way, please.
01:47:06.600
I can give you the fact that I was in a seven-year relationship and I was engaged.
01:47:17.000
Oh, I thought you were saying just the people that said body count didn't matter.
01:47:27.440
I lost my virginity when I was 22 and I've been in one relationship.
01:47:36.880
Use your little calculations and figure it out.
01:48:27.320
Multiply it by three and that's the real number.
01:48:41.320
But if you pressed us for hours, why won't you give yours?
01:48:50.880
Three people raised their hands and said it mattered.
01:49:21.360
I think often men want women to have a very low body count.
01:49:27.720
And when a woman objects to a man having a higher body count, it's seen, like, it's absurd.
01:49:35.960
Because men are praised for having sexual interactions while women are demeaned for having more sexual interactions.
01:49:45.520
Yeah, I've heard this also go something along the lines of, you know, when a woman sleeps with a lot of men, she's viewed as a slut.
01:49:54.420
But when a guy does the same thing, he's viewed as gay.
01:50:01.520
Yeah, because when a man sleeps with four men, oh my God, they're gay.
01:50:07.520
But that's, that really just comes down to it's easy for women to get laid.
01:50:23.540
Respect you for coming on and sharing your views.
01:50:30.700
Do you respect a guy with purity values who respects women?
01:50:39.040
Would you date a virgin and would you date a guy saving himself for marriage?
01:50:44.340
Here, let's just go around the table really quick.
01:51:03.000
Oh, I just explained the disparity between the two of them.
01:51:06.020
Well, you got interrupted there, so if you could just maybe rewind five seconds.
01:51:14.940
Okay, I was saying that women are often chastised or demeaned because they have a higher body
01:51:23.260
count where men are praised for having a higher body count, and there is a stark disparity
01:51:30.200
That's because, well, the reason why men are praised is because it's hard for men to get
01:51:39.420
Women are the gatekeepers of sex, but it doesn't mean that it can't be taken from you.
01:51:45.560
I met plenty of women, and many men are very manipulative with their intent, and I met
01:51:51.840
Y'all love to derail the conversation with this.
01:51:58.300
Love him or hate him, Brian, always spitting straight facts on this podcast.
01:52:18.440
Because I would rather have a discussion than you feel that I'm derailing the conversation
01:52:23.900
But, okay, we're talking about the double standard, and now you want to bring up SA?
01:52:40.800
Most women who have high body counts, it's not due to SA.
01:52:49.000
So I don't see how it's at all related to the conversation.
01:52:55.280
I don't get this whole thing about guys get laid less than girls.
01:53:00.660
How men always have someone to cheat with, though.
01:53:04.840
They don't have, if they don't get as much girls, or the whole scenario, if that's true, how
01:53:19.160
I've never been cheated on personally, but I see it all the time.
01:53:41.980
I don't think it's as hard as they make it seem, like.
01:53:46.320
No, I think it is really hard, because I like girls, too, and I can't fucking talk to them
01:54:02.020
I would agree that men have it harder, but it is a specific percentage of men that have
01:54:11.680
Right, that percentage is large that have it harder, but that top 1%, which, I'm not going
01:54:18.220
to lie, that women tend to be panning for, have a much higher body count than the everyday
01:54:23.720
woman, because they have that access, because they've built that access for themselves.
01:54:37.620
Are there men that are running through chicks who are top tier, really attractive, high
01:54:50.440
I know people down the street that work at the grocery store and still have a girl to
01:54:55.420
So, he's not a top earner and he still has someone to sleep with on the side, outside
01:55:02.120
But it's over, are there men that are promiscuous?
01:55:22.460
You take an average dude, an average dude, bro, he's going to struggle to get a girlfriend
01:55:29.740
An average chick, if she was so inclined, could sleep with three new guys a day.
01:55:39.540
So, the standard stems from jealousy then is what you're saying?
01:55:46.540
So, that's why men are praised for it, because it's viewed as...
01:55:49.060
Because it's more of an accomplishment for them.
01:55:54.080
Like, I'm sure that's incredibly frustrating, but I don't think it's fair to be so hateful
01:55:59.160
to the women who are able to have sex, like, that's somebody else's life, not yours.
01:56:08.840
I'm saying, like, in general, like, if a guy sees, like, a woman and, like, his immediate
01:56:13.280
thought is, oh, she's a ho, she has an active sex life.
01:56:18.680
At the same time, you're not actively sleeping with her.
01:56:22.400
Why does somebody else's life and their choices affect you so deeply that you have to direct
01:56:28.420
Well, I mean, there's a couple questions there, but, I mean, I think, generally speaking,
01:56:32.200
there's kind of a counterculture going on where people are not particularly enthused with
01:56:41.980
But I don't think name-calling and singling out women to shame them for their private
01:56:55.780
Honestly, I think women need to start shaming women on this one, I think.
01:57:00.800
Because we are the ones that, we are the ones who decide outside of, you know, the other
01:57:08.820
We are the ones who decide if a man is going to sleep with us or not.
01:57:12.900
If you would say no, like, for example, the cheating thing, like, men would not be able
01:57:18.520
to cheat on their girls if there wasn't a woman that was willing in saying yes.
01:57:26.860
We're the ones who control a hookup culture or whatever you want to call it.
01:57:35.940
I won't shame anyone, man or woman, because I feel like people's private lives are exactly
01:57:40.760
They're private lives and it doesn't involve me.
01:57:43.300
But that's only if you have a problem with hookup culture.
01:57:45.320
Like, if you don't care, like, if you're for it, then whatever.
01:57:50.040
But for people who, you know, have a problem with it, just know you as a woman, you're
01:57:54.700
the one who has the control over that, like, a hundred percent.
01:57:58.820
I don't partake in hookup culture, but I think, like, generally, I don't think anyone should
01:58:10.040
Well, you previously partook in hookup culture.
01:58:15.040
There's not many times that I'm not in a long-term relationship.
01:58:17.580
Excuse me if I'm misquoting, and I'm not saying this to attack you, but didn't you
01:58:26.280
I mean, I don't suspect all of those were long-term relationships.
01:58:30.600
Obviously, I did have hookups, but it's not a regular thing I would ever partake in.
01:58:35.300
There's definitely girls who are more consistent in participating in hookup culture.
01:58:40.220
You know, again, like, that's their private life and that's their business.
01:58:42.960
And I don't think anyone should shame anyone, even if you disagree with hookup culture.
01:58:46.180
At the end of the day, you lay in your bed and you have your own thoughts and issues
01:58:56.080
You know, like, you can't change what somebody wants to do with their body.
01:59:01.620
And I think a lot more people need to be focusing on themselves rather than what others are doing.
01:59:06.820
So, to bring it back to the double standard, one of the reasons why there's a different
01:59:11.120
standard on this is because it's very easy for women to get laid.
01:59:24.460
I don't think all, like, I don't think all women have it easy.
01:59:30.340
I think, again, it's like a top percentage that predominantly are viewed as attractive
01:59:36.400
I would say, like, almost barring, like, morbid obesity or, like, severe, like, I'm
01:59:46.400
talking, like, bottom one percentile in terms of physical attractiveness.
01:59:53.540
I would say the top 90% of women could, like, fuck a new dude every single day of the week.
02:00:01.160
Like, on Tinder, we had a girl, okay, we had a girl last show who, pleasant girl, I'm
02:00:06.680
not saying this to be insulting to her or to denigrate her in any way.
02:00:18.960
She said that she, her body count was 136, something like that.
02:00:23.280
And she was, at one point, sleeping with, she had slept with, I don't know how consistent
02:00:27.860
it was, but at one point, she was able to sleep with six men in one day.
02:00:33.160
In order for a male to do that, you need to, I don't even think, like, a top tier guy, just
02:00:39.920
solely on top one percent of physical attractiveness could do that.
02:00:44.700
In order for a guy to do that, you need status.
02:00:49.500
You need to be a male celeb, like, top tier athlete, musician, or actor to sleep with six
02:00:57.500
I don't even, like I said, I don't even think a top tier male who doesn't have status could
02:01:02.840
So, and she's like a below, I'm not saying this to be mean, but just to articulate my
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But most men struggle to get a match on Tinder, to get a date off of Tinder.
02:01:34.120
Yeah, I completely agree with you when I'm saying it, because men, as long as they're
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Unless they're looking for a relationship, and that's a good situation.
02:01:45.660
Any single girl at this table, and to be fair, we've got some attractive girls at
02:01:50.800
Any single girl at this table could download Tinder right now.
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You could get laid tonight if you were so inclined.
02:01:59.560
If you were so inclined, you could download the dating app and get laid tonight.
02:02:04.360
Most guys cannot answer that question confidently.
02:02:09.080
Most guys cannot say, on a Sunday at 9 p.m., it's going to be hard for me to fuck a girl
02:02:35.660
But you still think that it's easier for men to get laid?
02:02:39.380
I just, I don't think it's as hard as, I don't know, maybe it's the type of guys that
02:02:45.820
I don't know, maybe that's it, because I'm mostly around people in the entertainment
02:02:50.200
So maybe that's what I'm seeing, but I don't know.
02:02:53.580
Like I said, I know people from my hometown that are not, if you want to put rates to
02:03:00.500
it, below average or not, regular men, and they still have multiple people to sleep with.
02:03:10.320
It's like, okay, there's statistics, and then there's what I've seen in my life.
02:03:15.480
So besides looks, men are able to be attractive to women in other ways besides just their physical
02:03:32.040
On one hand, I think I got a couple moves here and there.
02:03:37.640
On the other hand, I'm like my own biggest cock block, because I say some ridiculous shit.
02:03:48.400
One in the chat, if you guys think I'm autistic.
02:04:02.760
No, no, no, I literally just learned what that was on TikTok, so don't, I was 29, so we're
02:04:10.880
I want to say I've probably talked myself out of pussy more than I've ever talked to you.
02:04:21.180
There's probably, I don't know if there's any girls watching, but.
02:04:26.720
It's like, no matter, it doesn't matter what you say, it's like they're always, they're
02:04:30.220
going to find a way to be like, you're either capping or you're disgusting or you're wrong.
02:04:35.700
Basements and keyboards are a thing for a reason.
02:04:38.640
To answer your question, especially living in Santa Barbara, which is a really liberal
02:04:46.840
Yeah, definitely like girls have like checked out my podcast and been like, yeah, I don't
02:04:51.220
know, Brian, it's a little controversial, you know, so it is what it is like, but honestly,
02:05:01.800
Well, I guess, but in the romantic realm, definitely women have been like.
02:05:07.940
Bro, I mean, I have like, because I've brought on like more conservative, excuse me, conservative
02:05:13.540
people and they're like, oh my God, fucking Michael Knowles and shit, what the fuck?
02:05:17.240
And they're like, I'm not even, I don't, I consider myself pretty moderate, but they
02:05:22.600
see, oh, he has conservative people on, he must be like hardcore, conservative, whatever.
02:05:28.900
You know, I would, I'm not going to get into politics.
02:05:31.320
I'd have to go through, excuse me, I'd have to go through each of my political stances one
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I, in any case, but yeah, definitely I've lost some girls because of the podcast, but
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well, I would contribute to like woke culture and the change and that like people just look
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at politics as whether it aligns with them or not.
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And they're not willing to see you pass that at all.
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And well, in addition to that, there's definitely girls who are like, whoa, you're kind of out
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there in the public and like, I don't know if I'd want to be dating someone who's kind
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of, you know, some corporate chick works in fucking HR at some fucking tech company in
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I'm literally an office and HR manager at a tech company in Goleta.
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I'm sorry, but you seem based, but still a girl in HR, that's red flag.
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Also travel nurses and, uh, air, uh, what is it?
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Um, so, but in the same way, like I'm getting the experience that I think only fans girls
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get because there's guys who don't want to date women because they do only fans.
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I'm sure you guys have maybe had that experience.
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Some guys might have an issue dating you because of that.
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I don't feel like I've adequately addressed your, your, uh, argument.
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Oh, I was, it was more to inquire whether or not you believe there is one.
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And then secondly, there is one, but it's justified.
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But is it like, are you going to really care that much?
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Um, in your dating life, what is a okay zone for your person you're pursuing to have a
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Like, what are you okay with before it becomes an issue?
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So it's, uh, and she, but, but would, would that, would I find that more attractive?
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I don't, I don't believe that men really want virgins as a 22 year old who was a virgin.
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Cause then you have to learn everything and it's, it takes practice to be good.
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There's a lot of men that would rather have the ego boost of you learning from them and
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There's so many out there that take that in such stride.
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And I'm not saying I agree, but repetitively I've heard it.
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The, the, the idea is appealing to have good sex, right?
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But more often when men are dating for long-term commitment, they're looking for somebody
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with that lower body count so that person can learn with them and be more submissive towards
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Sex is not a complicated, sex is not a complicated procedure.
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Like, especially as a guy, because even with women who are experienced sexually, they're
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still going to be looking to the guy to lead in the bedroom.
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Generally speaking, like most women, even if they do have experience, don't want to fuck
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So your experience when it comes to sex is kind of irrelevant.
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And like, as a guy, if you're a leader and you have experience when it comes to sex,
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you can take a girl who you've, who's a virgin and have great sex with her.
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Cause that woman's going to lie from you and what you want.
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I don't mind a guy who's, I don't mind a guy who's inexperienced.
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So you, that goes without saying, but I'm saying you said that woman wouldn't want a
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guy who's inexperienced, but that doesn't bother me.
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It wouldn't bother you if your partner couldn't perform good oral on you.
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If they're inexperienced and they, they haven't had the practice, like sure.
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However, most women don't want to teach men how to fuck them.
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But most women want men who come pre-assembled.
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You're generalizing women and then you don't like it when we do that back to you.
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Well, I mean, if we're going to have a productive conversation, there needs to be some degree
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Otherwise, we can talk about, hold on, we can talk, we can talk about the dating, the dating
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Otherwise, we can talk about non-binary biracial dwarves and their asexual dating for them.
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I'm saying I disagree with your generalization.
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I think that comes from a place of personal bias.
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Anyways, I don't think most women mind a guy who's inexperienced.
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I haven't, I, like, I've known hundreds of women in my lifetime and I've heard, I've heard
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every opinion from, I want a guy who knows what he's doing to, I want a virgin and everything
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So I don't think it's fair to make that generalization.
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Most women would prefer men who are sexually experienced in bed and know what they're doing.
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I'm, you might be willing to do it, but at some level, it's going to be a turnoff if
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However, generally speaking, I would say like it's because women, typically when it comes
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to sex, women do, there's a dom sub component to it.
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Generally speaking, are there some women who are dominant and who are fine teaching and
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But I would say generally speaking, women want men to take charge and take the lead when it
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Cause most women that I speak to, they don't want to date virgins.
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They want, you know, someone who's experienced and most of the guys that get all the girls
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What is your reasoning on the, on the virgin preference?
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Men, men find low body count and sexual purity attractive.
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So, I mean the, the chief, the chief thing, I don't think it's the, let me preface it
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by saying, I don't think it's going to be the most compelling argument that I can tell
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you that I don't think you're going to be like, Whoa, I'm convinced Brian.
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However, I think it's probably one of the strongest things as to why men care about body count.
02:13:49.640
So aside from avoiding STDs, um, it comes down to paternity guaranteeing paternity.
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So it's evolutionary psychology, biological reasons.
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If a woman has 10 husbands and she's sleeping with all of them concurrently, who's the father
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That doesn't undo hundreds of thousands of years of evolutionary hardwiring.
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Did you know they like, if you enter into a monogamous relationship with somebody who's
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So if you're monogamous with that person from that point onwards, you know, if she gets pregnant,
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The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.
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So if someone's previously promiscuous, they're more likely to cheat.
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I just said somebody who's not a virgin because you said you prefer a virgin.
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Well, what if somebody's, you know, been in long-term relationships or they've been married?
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And that's more preferable than a woman who's been with 10, as is a woman who's been with
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10 is more preferable than a woman who's been with 20, et cetera, et cetera.
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I'm just saying like, if like, why, why is a total virgin preferable then?
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Would it be, okay, so, well, it's just like, wouldn't it, here's a comparison.
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Wouldn't it be preferable to date a guy who has $300,000, who makes $300,000 a year?
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Wouldn't it be preferable if it was 400, 500, 600, a million, et cetera, et cetera?
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So obviously the lower the body count, and that goes, that extends all the way to zero,
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Is that because you see them as damaged goods every time they get a new body?
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Ladies, you've got thousands of men watching right now shocked at how utterly wrong your
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Your fathers and brothers completely failed you.
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Elon, create a time machine so we can go back in time and slap the fuck out of these men.
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I can't understand you with Elon's dick in your mouth.
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Um, needing a woman that has a lower body count due to the fact that you have to figure
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Generally speaking, do most women prefer to date men taller than them?
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Your argument about that whole, like, there are tribes out there that literally women
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Because the whole tribe wants to raise the child as one.
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You're going to tread in a, if you say it's disgusting, you're going to tread danger.
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If you're, you, you were, I just thought maybe you were treading somewhere.
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What would it be if I was about to say what I was about to say?
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It would go against a lot of traditional historical behaviors that have been.
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It's okay for them to have done that for generations.
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You're telling me that they can't keep their belief systems?
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I was about to say, if a woman is sleeping with an entire tribe, I think that's disgusting.
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Even if that's the tribal beliefs of their group and that's been staying there for hundreds
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As, as a rational individual who's capable of thought, I'm, I'm entitled to, hold on,
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I'm entitled to making judgment calls about different cultures.
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Would you be, would you feel the same way if the tribe's belief was centered around one
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Would you still feel like it was disgusting if the genders were reversed in this situation
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and the tribe was one man sleeping with all of the women in his tribe?
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So first I would say women are more than capable of having the same position as me.
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So if a woman was disgusted by that, I think that's totally fine.
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Now there are certain biological differences in the example that you gave, uh, from a practical
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point of view, I think I'm in favor of monogamy for both men and women.
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I, so practically speaking, I think that would be disastrous for the tribe because whoever
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that one dude is, who's fucking all the chicks, the other men in the tribe are going to fucking
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Like you're, you're bringing like jealousy and all kinds of stuff that wasn't a thing
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But the whole reason why they did this is because they didn't, they wanted a child to
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be able to have the traits of all of the men in the tribe.
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And so they wanted it to be as diverse as possible.
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And no man could have a specific say in anything or more than anyone else.
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And so it, it, it, it's just like, it's tribe mentality.
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Like in the, in the seventies when your neighbors had to watch neighborhood kids and help, you
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In the Western, I don't know what some tribe in Ethiopia, I don't know what some tribe somewhere
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What I can speak about is broadly speaking in the Western and Eastern world, monogamy has
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been the norm, perhaps in some Muslim countries there, there's polygamy.
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However, monogamy has been valued up until very recently.
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You know, we had Christianity, chastity and monogamy was valued for both men and women.
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So virginity, bringing it back to that has been valued for the past 2000 years in both
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And it's only until very recently where we've pretty much destroyed the social order.
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So I can't speak to some tribe how, I don't know.
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I'm just saying that's not, that's not everything.
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It was more of his opinion of that scenario that I disregarded.
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Well, I think just on a general level, I think promiscuity is disgusting.
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For my, okay, for myself, it's like the idea of sleeping with a woman who just slept with
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If a woman would be disgusted sleeping with a man who just slept with another girl, I think
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But, but you can't, in order for, if a hookup culture exists, if promiscuity exists, having
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a high body count exists, you, you can't object to me finding that gross.
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I didn't object to your opinion of you having a preference in your dating mannerisms.
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Yeah, I thought that what you were saying was just like, you know, that.
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Increased divorce likelihood and relationship dissatisfaction with increased number of partners.
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I'll go back to the, he kind of articulated a lot of the things.
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But basically, men have an evolutionary reason for, that doesn't exist in women.
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Because if a man has 10 wives and they all get pregnant, you know who the father is.
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However, if a woman has 10 husbands and she sleeps with all of them, you can't guarantee who the father is.
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The more promiscuous you are, the more likely you are to have or get an STD.
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But I'm telling you why men care about body count.
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So, you can definitively say that it's just about these disgusting factors or what you think is disgusting and whatever versus like a control aspect and wanting to mold someone into what.
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Because I feel like that's an underlying aspect that like is hard to deny.
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What you call controlling, I just call having a preference.
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So, you're taking advantage of her inexperience.
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How is it, how is it taking advantage of someone?
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Having a preference for someone with, who's, has less light, who has no STD, if we're talking about virgins, who has less likelihood of an STD, who's more capable of pair bonding.
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There's a less, a lesser likelihood of infidelity.
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There's a, there's a lesser likelihood of, of relationship dissatisfaction.
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The more premarital sexual partners you've had, the greater likelihood of divorce, the greater likelihood of infidelity, the, and the greater likelihood of reporting relationship dissatisfaction, marriage dissatisfaction.
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I feel like this just goes back to what I said, which is exactly, do what you want, do who you want, what you're comfortable with, and let others do the same.
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But I'm being called selfish for thinking everybody should just do what they want and not judge others, which I find interesting.
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I think it's actually selfless to just exist in your own space and just be at peace with the world.
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You know, you don't have to have an opinion about everybody else.
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There are a lot of times in my life where I'll see somebody doing or saying something I disagree with, and I've found the most peace in just accepting it.
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I've already been, like, released from the obligation to have a take by Marcus Aurelius.
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I don't have to feel any kind of way about anybody or what they're doing, and I don't find that selfish at all.
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I'm saying it's, it's interesting that we can't just all coexist and let people do what they want.
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Um, like, if somebody prefers a virgin or prefers, you know, somebody with experience, that's fine.
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I accept, I accept that people are promiscuous.
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We're here to have a conversation and a debate, and so we're pushing back on certain things.
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But what I do think is unfair, if you're going to call something, like, disgusting, I think that's...
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Why is he not allowed to say that, based on your, your whole theory right now?
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Well, he is, but at the same time, I'm saying, I'm saying, wouldn't it bring you more peace just to not judge others?
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Well, I mean, I, I don't spend my time thinking about all the people that are, um, getting herpes out there and that are, you know, destroying their ability to pair bond with future partners.
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I don't really give it a whole bunch of thought outside of this podcast, but we're having a conversation about it, so I'm engaged in the conversation.
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I don't spend my time, like, oh, my God, these fucking people are just fucking, like, crazy.
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Like, I don't really, like, I accept that people are promiscuous.
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Well, it's, it's not so much you, in particular, it's your, your viewer base, it's, like, they can't.
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Good, no, no, I'm not saying you, you interrupted me.
02:26:10.240
I'm saying they just see us as hoes, no matter what we do, when it's, like, you guys would all find a lot more peace if you just let people exist.
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I wouldn't take what they're saying personally, like, who knows who these people are, like, what they're going through.
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I don't, I don't, I don't have a discussion, person, person, why are we basing this off of the comments?
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I mean, the comment, the people in the chat might be, like, talking about, like, biracial towards you.
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I just think it's a greater indicator of, like, where we are, like, societally, is that everybody is really happy to bring everyone else down.
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As the female receptive partner, you are 47% more likely to catch chesty eyes.
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The total skin area and thinness of the vaginal walls is far more susceptible to disease than is the penile skin.
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If you can provide me with a source, I'll believe you.
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Mark Wavius, I guess she's asking for a source.
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Oh, I was just saying, like, I wouldn't, like, take this narrow group of people and compare that to society as a whole.
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Like, my entire life, it's like, I've just wanted to exist and make friends and have a good time.
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And it's, like, over and over and over again, I'm just, I'm faced with this judgment just for being a woman.
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As a child, I'm saying, like, starting from, like, age 12, I want to say, is when it started.
02:28:10.360
It's, like, automatically they see a woman and their first thought is, oh, she's a hoe.
02:28:15.620
That's not my first thought when I see a woman.
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I'm saying that's a lot of people because they've been conditioned to just think negatively of women without getting to know them.
02:28:23.980
But if you're okay with yourself and the choices that you decide to make in life, you shouldn't be concerned what anyone else thinks of you.
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Like, be okay with yourself and be okay with who you are.
02:28:35.700
The people that are supposed to be in your life, you will draw those type of people.
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The people that, like, you know, are giving you a hard time or you're getting that negative...
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But I'm saying for the sake of discussion, I think it is interesting and sad seeing how so many people treat each other.
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It won't ever change, but neither will promiscuity, neither will hookup culture.
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Yeah, I think it's just natural for people to have opinions on things and have beliefs.
02:29:16.300
Brian, do you possess the evidence that I am a Mensa member and a team research leader at a think tank in Tennessee?
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I have countless published studies and white papers on these topics.
02:29:34.480
I mean, that should do something for his credibility.
02:29:41.020
Mark Wavius, you need to expand your franchise ownership.
02:29:50.140
By the way, Eric, that was a very good little hide there of the Twitch overlay.
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Link your Amazon account to Twitch, and every month you can sub to us totally free.
02:30:18.780
It's a quick, free, easy way to support the show every month.
02:30:24.680
So, just, like, a really easy way to support the show if you don't want to, like, you know,
02:31:04.880
Oh, I'm just saying body count should be discussed between your partners, and if the person objects,
02:31:09.500
do not continue to engage, because it's going to create further conflict down the line.
02:31:13.720
If you are somebody that wants less, c'est la vie.
02:31:16.740
If you are somebody that does not care about past history, do understand, because you mentioned,
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what was, you used a specific term of connection.
02:31:29.100
Just, I would highly encourage people that don't know what pair bonding is to study it
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just a little bit, because no matter your sex, it can affect your future relationships.
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The more sexual partners you've had, the lower your ability to pair bond with future partners.
02:31:52.920
Well, I mean, an easier way to look at it would be the ability to bond and pair with
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And this can occur whether you're a male or female, or spectrum-wise.
02:32:09.580
The more partners you do have, psychology would say that it does make it more difficult for
02:32:16.520
you to bond with a singular individual, um, due to your experiences and how you perceive
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I think it, the more partners you have, it does make it more difficult for you to form,
02:32:37.060
I don't think that overarching body count matters too much, but psychology would tend to disagree
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in some aspects, and I can't argue with, I study, I can't argue with psychology necessarily.
02:32:53.200
Yeah, I mean, there's, I guess I'll add one thing, there's also this concept, and I think
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it typically is, I suppose it could happen to men, sort of, but it would be a different
02:33:05.100
term, I guess, but there's this concept called alpha widow, where once you've hooked up
02:33:11.900
or slept with or been in a relationship with a certain tier of man, a certain attractiveness
02:33:19.120
of man, a guy who fucks you just right, it's going to be really hard to pair bond with a
02:33:31.120
And here's where women get in trouble on this and men don't.
02:33:34.100
As we already discussed, it's much easier for women to get laid than it is for men.
02:33:38.180
So, here's where women can get in trouble on this.
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An average woman can sleep with a guy who's of a higher status than her, who's more wealthy
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than her, who is more physically attractive than her, because men will sleep down, yeah,
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men will sleep down, whether that's socioeconomic status, whether that's looks, because we welcome
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So, the difference there between men and women is, as a woman, for you to want to sleep with
02:34:11.080
a guy, even for a one-night stand, he has to be at least attractive enough physically for
02:34:18.900
He might not be relationship material, but he has to at least be physically attractive enough
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Whereas men, we will sleep with women who we would never be in a relationship with based
02:34:32.160
solely on their physical attractiveness, but we welcome the easy access to, not all men,
02:34:38.400
but men welcome the easy access to sex, so they'll sleep with a woman that they would
02:34:41.760
never be in a relationship with based solely on their physical attractiveness.
02:34:46.020
Don't you have a diagram that you believe shows this accurately?
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I don't know if I have a diagram on this, but basically.
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I'm not going to pull anything up right now unless you can maybe more precisely tell me
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what the diagram is, but, so, as a woman, if you hook up with a really top-tier guy in
02:35:11.780
terms of physical attractiveness, you're not, like, when, here's the thing.
02:35:20.040
You could, like, hook up with a dude who's an eight, right?
02:35:30.320
He might just sleep with you a couple times, string you along.
02:35:34.040
That's where situationships typically play out.
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Then, when you look at the guy who's actually on your level, who's prepared to commit to you,
02:35:44.200
who's prepared to be in a relationship with you, who's prepared to marry you, even though
02:35:48.940
he's actually your looks equivalent, your socioeconomic equivalent, you're, you think
02:35:56.660
Now, luckily, I think most of the girls at this table, none of you considered yourself
02:36:00.300
to be tens, but we've had girls come on the show who, they say, I think I'm a ten.
02:36:08.200
Maybe they've been able to hook up with really attractive guys that never committed to them,
02:36:11.920
but that's where, again, that's where women get into trouble.
02:36:14.620
They're able to hook up with guys of a certain status or certain physical attractiveness,
02:36:18.340
and then they think, oh, that guy was a ten who I hooked up with.
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Thus, I must be a ten too, but that's not how it works.
02:36:26.260
So then, you look, let's say you're a seven, you look at the guy who's actually, in reality,
02:36:30.480
a seven, you think you're settling for him, even though that's your looks equivalent.
02:36:40.400
I'm just saying, the whole concept of looks being so predominant on the scale system,
02:36:47.900
like this arbitrary scale, it's so, like, looks are in the eye of the beholder.
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There's so many people that have separate, different preferences.
02:36:59.040
Sorry, they really like interrupting you, by the way.
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I have dated girls who say under 5 and 1's over 40 partners.
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If they are still wanting to be in a whole phase, then hard pass.
02:37:25.400
But I would reiterate again, I appreciate your donation.
02:37:30.560
Past behavior is a great predictor of future behavior.
02:37:34.440
So, if you were promiscuous in the past, the likelihood that I, you're more likely to cheat.
02:37:47.480
Let's say you found out that you're talking to a guy, and you found out that in all his past relationships,
02:37:56.220
keyword, past relationships, he cheated on every single one of his partners.
02:38:03.180
Should it, is that not going to be part of the calculus for you?
02:38:09.120
Like, I agreed, like, the cheating thing is a red flag, but, like, for instance, I've hooked up with more people than I'd like to,
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Like, I was on drugs, doing all this crazy shit.
02:38:24.920
But I'm just saying, like, I've hooked up with only a few people in the past couple years.
02:38:28.680
Most of what I did was when I was a different person.
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So, like, I think it's sad that you would judge me on who I was when I'm a totally different person now, you know?
02:38:40.460
So, certainly, it's, if you had to choose between two women, one who is currently promiscuous,
02:38:47.520
and one who is no longer promiscuous but was promiscuous in her past, the choice is obvious, right?
02:38:56.480
Are you trying to state, like, the lesser of two evils opportunity?
02:38:59.800
But you said, you didn't say promiscuous, you said cheating.
02:39:02.160
If somebody cheated on all of their past partners, that's very different.
02:39:07.640
Yeah, that's, like, loyalty and, like, other, like, characteristics.
02:39:16.560
You said promiscuity is a great indicator for how they will be in their future, but then
02:39:21.120
You flipped the script, and you said, what if they cheated?
02:39:23.920
Past, past behavior is a great predictor for future behavior.
02:39:27.640
Sure, that's true, but you didn't, you didn't say promiscuity, you said specifically cheating.
02:39:32.680
If somebody specifically cheated on all of their partners, then yes, I would assume that
02:39:37.720
But you can make the same argument, well, it was my past, I made mistakes, I'm a different,
02:39:49.880
It would be a difficult conversation that we would have to have.
02:39:52.360
Right, and I realize these two things are not entirely the same, but you're looking
02:39:57.740
at their past, you're making a judgment call on their past behavior, and you're thinking,
02:40:02.260
because of that past behavior, what does that say about them potentially moving forward?
02:40:08.600
Well, promiscuity doesn't imply that they'd be so willing to break a boundary.
02:40:12.140
If they were promiscuous, fine, but if they were cheating, then that's a boundary broken,
02:40:15.700
as opposed to them living a single and consensual life.
02:40:23.240
If they're promiscuous in their past, sure, you can have your reservations, you can be
02:40:29.360
wary, but I think it's a lot different if they're cheating, then they're openly showing
02:40:32.840
you that they've repeatedly broken a specific person's boundaries.
02:40:36.120
If they're promiscuous in their past, I don't think that's necessarily to say, it's not an
02:40:41.040
indicator that they'll cheat on you, is what I'm saying.
02:40:56.020
A key that opens many locks is better than the lock that opens up to many keys.
02:40:59.960
It's been about five years since I've considered dating.
02:41:03.020
I feel like I'd marry anyone who's just sensible at this point.
02:41:16.500
If it's been so long since you've dated anybody and it's likely because you think everybody
02:41:20.680
is like us and promiscuous, you're looking in the wrong places.
02:41:29.960
I tell people on my OnlyFans, people have come to me and been like, I'm addicted to you.
02:41:36.640
Or people who have told me, like, I would like to find an actual relationship.
02:41:40.720
Just because I'm doing it doesn't mean you have to support what I'm doing.
02:41:53.500
You are not going to find somebody long term on the internet like this.
02:42:05.140
The men who think all women are like us, I strongly recommend you find somebody innocent.
02:42:20.500
The men who think we're all hoes, though, it's like, okay, if you want to find somebody genuine.
02:42:25.240
And I'm just saying, if you want to, if you want, if it's been five years and you've had
02:42:28.320
no luck with somebody, it could be that you're, you're looking in the wrong places and maybe
02:42:37.660
Question for you guys, since you guys do OnlyFans.
02:43:06.680
Like, what kind of content is on your OnlyFans?
02:43:16.680
What's that fucking closed nightclub in New York?
02:43:35.040
And we've also done videos with other couples that do OF.
02:43:41.320
And how long have you guys been doing OnlyFans?
02:43:49.960
Have any of you done like traditional adult content or just OnlyFans?
02:43:58.880
I mean, stuff of mine has been leaked and I've let it stay up there because it brings good
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Yeah, because everyone knows I'm the one that spills.
02:45:14.360
So I'll reveal how much I make on OnlyFans if you guys reveal how much you guys make.
02:45:48.540
Not so much anymore since the pandemic, but I did.
02:45:51.600
OnlyFans, I will say my favorite purchase is I got myself a grand piano.
02:46:04.580
Sorry, I'm going to get caught up on the super chats.
02:46:14.160
If that crazy government cheese pizza watching blood challenged Brian, then she lost.
02:46:22.700
These ladies say you have to bring out their feminine energy, but would dump a man if he
02:46:27.600
showed up to the date in a dress and said the same.
02:46:44.920
Young lady in the white top, please move to the right side of the table because I'm about
02:46:49.180
to rain fire on the red-haired side of the table.
02:47:21.840
Men and women are not the same when it comes to sex and relationships.
02:47:31.820
Women control access to sex, so therefore they bear responsibility.
02:47:44.580
Yo, James Wilson, merci beaucoup pour le Canadien 140.
02:48:01.600
I'm the only sexually active man where all my dudes and they can't even get a date.
02:48:06.820
They don't understand that because I'm 6'2 and confident and slightly attractive that
02:48:14.200
Yeah, so this is, excuse me, getting tongue-tied here.
02:48:17.080
This is in response to our conversation where we were talking about men struggling to get
02:48:23.400
laid and you, I don't know if I convinced you yet, but you said that men have it easy
02:48:33.460
I just said that I don't think they have it as hard as people make it seem or like,
02:48:38.660
I think they have it harder than people make it seem.
02:48:46.760
I most men that I know that are sexually active are having sex, so...
02:48:53.540
Well, most of the men you know that are sexually active are having sex.
02:49:02.060
Like, they just go to the club and take a girl home.
02:49:19.600
I don't know, because I'm not on social media like that, so I don't...
02:49:36.520
Most men won't even get that in their entire lives.
02:49:41.220
Most men won't even get a DM in their entire lives.
02:49:46.900
Okay, of the 10 men that message you a day, how many of them do you respond to?
02:49:55.720
I'm not going to respond like, as in like, entertain actually meeting up.
02:50:01.560
Oh, then I don't really like entertain anybody, but I'm nice.
02:50:04.240
Like, if someone compliments me, like I'll respond to that.
02:50:06.820
And when I say the men who DM you, I'm speaking specifically of the men that are messaging
02:50:11.680
you, where it's kind of clear that there's perhaps a romantic interest.
02:50:41.680
Of the men you see on dating apps, how many of them do you swipe no on?
02:51:31.340
Because, you know, Hinge has the prompts and stuff.
02:51:33.380
So, if I didn't like what they said in the prompt, then I'd just be like, no.
02:51:40.560
Because certain prompts just did not sit right with me.
02:51:55.300
Because still, what I said, though, was, okay, if it's so hard for men to get girls or whatever,
02:52:02.280
then how do they always find someone to cheat with?
02:52:11.740
How many men are you referring to in your own life?
02:52:23.600
That I've seen throughout life cheat, but I've also seen a lot that haven't.
02:52:37.100
So, you think it's kind of easy for guys to get laid, or it's not as hard as people are
02:52:43.600
The reality is, most men are invisible to most women.
02:52:58.040
There's an infographic that shows the discrepancy between...
02:53:05.340
I think it's the frequency, the sex frequency one from the Washington Post.
02:53:12.760
Maybe that was what I was referring to earlier.
02:53:28.280
You actually know they don't cheat, or you just think they don't cheat?
02:53:36.440
Have any of your friends ever cheated that you know of?
02:53:46.140
My loyalty is to my friends, not my friend's girlfriend.
02:53:48.620
Right, but do you support your friend cheating?
02:53:53.860
I don't think I've ever had a friend come to me and say,
02:53:59.160
I don't know, maybe I'm just surrounding myself with decent people.
02:54:03.840
I've been brutally cheated on, and I still have faith in men.
02:54:06.140
Well, I would say it is important who you surround yourself with,
02:54:08.560
and if you say that, then I would credit that to your character.
02:54:14.180
but I just think there's a high percentage of men who do cheat.
02:54:18.540
And I'm not saying that it's a bad or a good thing,
02:54:29.340
I'm surprised that you guys don't see that as well.
02:55:00.580
It was from a general social survey that they do, like, every 10 years or something.
02:55:05.520
So, share of men and women between the ages of 18 and 30 reporting no sex in the past year.
02:55:12.440
So, in 2018, there's a 10% difference between men and women.
02:55:18.620
So, 10% more men are reporting having not had sex in the past year.
02:55:33.200
I mean, that would probably be social collapse if that shit was happening.
02:55:46.460
I'm not sure what the antidote is to that, but I think a return to perhaps more traditional
02:56:01.520
Out of love, women become entirely what it is that they are in the imaginations of the
02:56:07.480
Of the men you love and love you, how does he imagine you?
02:56:19.100
Here, the big thing is there's a 10% discrepancy between men and women, but note the change
02:56:37.440
Eric, if you can search up like Pew Research DBE, by the way, thank you for the donation.
02:56:49.180
Of the men you love and love you, how does he admit?
02:57:00.220
I think it was a Yahoo article that we had previously looked at.
02:57:30.260
Do 2023 single men, women, something like that.
02:58:16.740
Is this a study where far more women are stating that they're in relationships?
02:58:34.300
In any case, basically, they found that it was really good, too.
02:58:45.740
So what you're saying is that people are not having sex nowadays?
02:58:50.860
More men than women are not having sex nowadays.
02:58:56.980
I think it's the age group of between 18 to 29.
02:59:00.020
You have women in that age group who are reporting being in relationships.
02:59:05.920
I think it's like 60% are reporting being, I don't know what the exact number.
02:59:09.740
Whereas there's like 20% of men in that same age group that are reporting being in relationships.
02:59:17.640
The women are dating in that age group, are dating older men.
02:59:26.440
So you'll have a girl who's dating a guy who has like three girlfriends or some shit.
02:59:32.600
Wouldn't that further support that men are not struggling getting women?
02:59:56.060
I mean, if you're going to sit around and complain about top tier men pulling all the women,
03:00:10.260
Some people are going to have to be garbage men.
03:00:13.440
Some people are going to be working in fast food restaurants.
03:00:18.420
The difference is, is an average woman who works at McDonald's can fuck seven dudes a week.
03:00:23.700
And an average dude who works at McDonald's ain't no chance in hell he's fucking six chicks a week.
03:00:51.800
Those imaginary names we give to these imaginary people who threaten our security.
03:00:57.940
It's just an easy way to basically say like a really attractive guy.
03:01:02.420
Somebody who's a Chad to one person won't be a Chad to everyone.
03:01:05.520
If you line up 100 women or 100 men and you say, OK, look at these people, there's going
03:01:14.340
to be some degree of consensus forever donated one hundred dollars.
03:01:18.500
Brian stays awake at night, rocking back and forth in the dark, thinking about all the
03:01:23.820
alphas and players smashing all the laptops in four and Santa Barbara while he's on the
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But seriously, guys have to put in work to get laid versus girls.
03:01:39.320
Yes, I'm I'm I'm I'm having like fucking panic panic attacks at night thinking about
03:01:48.960
Grinders are find the earth of quality women dated hundred plus.
03:02:06.780
OK, Eric, were you able to find it, by the way?
03:02:17.440
It might have been that Valentine's Day one, but I could have sworn there was another
03:02:21.540
Can you just pull up the Valentine's Day one really quick and then?
03:02:31.820
It is a Valentine's Day one, Eric, if you could pull it back up.
03:02:34.220
Yeah, it says, New York Post, six out of ten young men are single.
03:02:40.900
So it's 63 percent of men under 30 nowadays are electively single.
03:03:10.980
So I'm looking at the, let's see, percent of U.S. adults who say they are single.
03:03:26.980
OK, so if you scroll down just a tad, Eric, just a little bit.
03:03:31.160
So where it says men ages 18 to 29, 63 percent of men in that age group are reporting being single, whereas women in that same exact age group, if you look below, it says ages 18 to 29, 34 percent are reporting being single.
03:03:47.660
So, again, that, to me, that just makes me think they're either dating older men or what I think is more likely a large proportion of women are dating the same guys.
03:04:00.120
And I think a lot of women would rather share like a really top tier dude than get commitment from.
03:04:07.860
The Pew Research is a really reputable statistics and data.
03:04:20.860
Like, women have a naturally hypergamous nature.
03:04:42.820
Um, women naturally just tend to gravitate towards men who can either provide for them or protect them.
03:04:53.560
It's like, it's like the, also, it falls under women won't date men who are in the same socioeconomic status, but they prefer to date men higher as men could date lower or the same.
03:05:16.040
This is so off topic, but you have the best doe eyes, like, ever.
03:05:24.160
That's funny you say that, because I was literally sitting here, like, studying you, trying to figure out how you do your eyeliner.
03:05:41.400
And show them with physical and emotional support.
03:05:43.960
Have good sex, cook the meals, make them feel like men, have good conversation, and be a good listener.
03:05:59.240
I know so many women that have been so good to men, and they get fucked over, so I don't know.
03:06:13.680
We need boundaries, so it won't be a culture, like hookup culture.
03:06:18.160
We can stop hookup culture by at least trying to tell other women to stop increasing body count.
03:06:26.860
Yo, Lucia, thank you for the 800,000 Indonesian, I don't know what route.
03:06:51.800
Well, I told everybody to list a fun fact, and we started talking about eyeliner.
03:07:02.160
As soon as I leave, there's no organic conversation.
03:07:34.700
I see all of you as beautiful women, even if I don't agree with you.
03:07:38.340
As an average dude who's on the spectrum, hey, buddy, I've given up on finding a wife.
03:07:46.160
Yeah, on the topic of like being neurotypical, and here's another advantage women have.
03:07:51.400
Even a woman who's not neurotypical, bro, she could put up some bodies.
03:07:57.580
But like a dude who's autistic or has Asperger's, good luck dating.
03:08:24.920
Like I see it more and more on like Twitter and stuff.
03:08:27.600
Like girls are simping for autistic dudes because they're genuine and they're quirky and they're cute.
03:08:34.400
Most autistic men struggle severely when it comes to dating.
03:08:38.620
Well, they struggle in in-person interactions in general.
03:08:45.540
But I guess the point I'm trying to make is that same difficulty is not going to present itself for women who are autistic.
03:09:00.380
But again, like there's all sorts of realms where you can like handicap.
03:09:06.880
And I'm using like the golf term, not the disabled term, I guess.
03:09:16.040
Like you would have to severely handicap a woman.
03:09:22.580
Like a chick in a wheelchair could fucking put up some bodies, bro.
03:09:31.700
I'm just saying like she could, she could get, get some.
03:09:46.400
Brian, I think a lot of us agreed with you that.
03:10:03.960
Do you think it's overstated the degree to which men struggle to get women?
03:10:19.140
Because I think in some cases, people get very self-pitchous.
03:10:52.100
Sorry, I was homeschooled, so I learned, I learned the pronunciation of most things like
03:10:56.960
So, do you want to know really quick how I thought fatigue was pronounced until I was
03:11:08.860
I think, yeah, sure, it's definitely harder for men to get laid.
03:11:11.580
However, I think a lot of people tend to wallow in that fact instead of thinking, okay, how
03:11:18.780
And, you know, like, yeah, even if it is harder, it doesn't mean you should fall into
03:11:24.380
that trope and stop and abandon taking care of yourself and give up.
03:11:28.080
Well, I agree with you that you shouldn't just wallow in self-pity and you should try
03:11:35.120
However, I do think there are certain realities when it comes to the dating dynamics that make
03:11:41.500
it incredibly frustrating for some men, especially men who are, for example, really unattractive
03:11:51.020
These men have genuine concerns when it comes to dating.
03:11:54.100
Are you saying, like, somebody who's short, like, they can't change that?
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Like, people who can't, people who can't level up.
03:12:06.480
Like, people who have no choice but to accept, accept that they'll never be top tier because
03:12:13.000
Well, I mean, there's certain, there's just certain realities to, for example, facial
03:12:17.720
You know, there's just the way your face is, like, that you can't really change.
03:12:25.020
And, I mean, literally, like, a few, I don't know what the term would be, like, a few cubic,
03:12:40.220
Like, the smallest amount of bone and meat could, like, transform someone's face.
03:12:45.960
But if you're lacking in that way, there's really not much you can do to make up for it,
03:12:51.580
Now, no matter who you are, whether you're already really attractive or you're not, you
03:12:58.640
But some men are going to struggle more than others.
03:13:01.280
And we're seeing that play out in actuality, in real time, in the dating marketplace, where
03:13:06.120
you basically have swaths of men that are basically invisible to women.
03:13:11.760
But all of this doesn't have to, it's not about looks.
03:13:14.820
It's about how men talk to women and lack thereof.
03:13:24.420
I just think so much of this is not based on looks and whatnot.
03:13:30.120
It's about how men just, like, literally don't know how to talk to women.
03:13:34.340
I mean, perhaps that's a component, but I mean, looks is the first thing.
03:13:40.940
To get up the nerve to do it, to actually know what to say, to not have some terrible
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And the burden of which falls almost exclusively on men.
03:13:53.740
I think women do as well, but you can have a...
03:13:58.960
Women don't really initiate to the same degree that men do.
03:14:07.740
So, you just said, oh, they don't know how to talk to guys, but, like, I could probably,
03:14:12.120
we could run through this experiment right now, like...
03:14:26.620
No, I've definitely turned off more than one person just from being weird.
03:14:34.840
Like, a guy on a lower end scale of looks or whatever, if he's talking to you, if he's,
03:14:43.440
If he's intriguing you, that will outshine anything.
03:14:47.600
Yeah, but the basis for both men and women, the first thing is physical attraction.
03:14:54.220
If you have, like, dynamo game or riz or whatever bullshit term, yeah, you can make up for your
03:15:01.820
If you have status and you have wealth, you can make up for your lack of looks to some
03:15:08.420
If you're meeting someone at a bar, like, everything is on the line of what you're going
03:15:16.820
Fine, but if you're engaging in that person in the way that is intriguing the woman, that
03:15:25.020
People can get over, like, how you look and they can grow to love you and accept certain
03:15:30.640
Then why is it that women only swipe, like, a couple of you answered this question.
03:15:34.840
Most of you said, oh, I only find, like, 10, 15% of the dudes on dating apps attractive.
03:15:39.540
And the data from the dating apps themselves say that women swipe on, like, they swipe no
03:15:48.360
So if it really wasn't about looks, then why is it the case that women on dating apps where
03:15:53.560
most people meet seem to care quite a bit about physical appearance?
03:16:02.440
No, I'm just saying, I think, I mean, I'm a little bit on the opposite side where I
03:16:16.320
Red-haired girl, you mean like the feminist victimhood tropes you've been throwing out
03:16:37.220
I just think if more men who were not in the top tier knew how to speak to women more
03:16:48.580
And women are able and willing to, like, adapt to what their normal standards...
03:16:56.620
Women are able to adapt their normal standards of what they think is attractive based on
03:17:08.660
But I think most women don't care about looks anyways.
03:17:14.060
I was reading this book and they said that most women, they're seduced by words.
03:17:24.120
I agree that women are seduced by words, but it is initiated by physical attraction.
03:17:33.980
But why are women not even willing to engage in this conversation?
03:17:55.840
Um, I don't know if I would, like, be attracted to him, but I would not...
03:18:03.380
No, because I don't stop that from, like, me giving somebody a chance.
03:18:07.900
You would date someone you're not attracted to?
03:18:10.840
But just because I gave them a chance to actually get to know him, and I actually, like...
03:18:19.560
You said you had one long-term relationship, correct?
03:18:28.940
The one guy you did have a long-term relationship happens to be...
03:18:36.640
Girls say this all the time, but then I ask, well, what is...
03:18:39.580
Of all the men you've dated, they're like, oh, 6'3", 6'4".
03:18:45.600
I would date a short guy, but all my boyfriends have been 6'5".
03:18:51.200
I wouldn't let that stop me from giving somebody a chance.
03:18:55.880
I think women actually care way more about looks than men.
03:19:03.300
If you're talking about, like, long-term, men would care about looks more.
03:19:13.120
I also think, though, dating apps nowadays make it really focused.
03:19:20.140
I think nowadays, dating apps make it really focused on looks.
03:19:26.760
You could write whatever caption you want to write, but...
03:19:30.700
It relies solely on looks, and looks can be manipulated on photos.
03:19:35.500
Well, like Avery said, if something's not working for you, maybe try something different.
03:19:40.120
Are you going to say my physical appearance as well?
03:19:41.720
Like, I could get surgery or something like that.
03:19:56.060
I have pictures on my Instagram with no makeup on.
03:19:58.240
Most of the men don't even notice when you're not wearing it.
03:20:01.880
Okay, I need to get these, because they didn't come...
03:20:07.560
I don't know why they didn't come through as TTS.
03:20:19.100
If our men put more of their time and money into improving themselves than spending it
03:20:25.920
watching Slash Off and playing video games, they'd get the high-value females they are
03:20:32.720
Yeah, but men are checking out of the dating marketplace because it's just the...
03:20:38.220
It's the juice isn't worth the squeeze, I guess.
03:20:46.740
Literally, it's just like, men are like, shit, I have to do all this work.
03:20:52.500
For certain women, it depends on what type of women you're going after.
03:20:58.880
Well, it's coming from the whole woke feminist movement, I think, too.
03:21:02.740
But what is the so-called work that you're describing?
03:21:06.000
What is all this work that they have to do to date?
03:21:09.400
Men, overwhelmingly, when it comes to courtship, do the heavy lifting.
03:21:14.300
Men, I don't know if you're familiar with it, I've said this before, there's a video game term called carrying.
03:21:20.960
So in the video game, when you're carrying somebody, they suck at the video game, you're presumably good at the video game,
03:21:27.500
or at least you know what you're doing, and you're carrying them to the win, to the victory.
03:21:32.380
So that's how a lot of men feel when it comes to dating.
03:21:37.940
That they're the ones having to withhold these conversations for a long run.
03:22:06.240
Well, let me just add to that, and then you can ask.
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At almost every single step along the way, generally speaking, are there some women that approach guys?
03:22:20.160
Are there some women that go for the first kiss?
03:22:23.080
Are there some women that will carry the conversation, and try to set up a date, and plan it, and meet me here, I'll do this.
03:22:37.420
So, we have to look at what's happening, generally speaking.
03:22:42.400
So, as a guy, typically the burden is on you to, let's say it's on a dating app.
03:22:49.100
You're going to have to send the first message.
03:22:50.560
You're going to have to carry the conversation there.
03:22:55.800
You're going to have to plan the date, set up the date, pay for the date, and then move things forward physically.
03:23:05.540
Okay, do we, how am I going to try to get her back to my place?
03:23:17.200
Some do, but I'm assuming most of you, your experience is the guy goes for the kiss first.
03:23:25.680
No, and that's where I was going to pose a question to the group.
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Just in general, how many of you guys have initiated dates or intimacy with a partner and been that person?
03:23:37.680
The question should be, more often than not, who is initiating?
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It doesn't matter if once you saw some really hot dude and you asked him out on a date.
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The question is, more often than not, of your relationship and dating experience, have you initiated?
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Of all the times you've been on a date, you've hooked up with a guy, you've been in a relationship, like, who initiated?
03:24:18.760
I would say, relationship-wise, I have initiated most of them.
03:24:23.860
Yes, okay, most women will initiate the relationship conversation.
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I'm talking about the initial stages of courtship.
03:24:31.100
Yeah, getting to the relationship, the relationships, the initial, I'd say I definitely was the one to go up to the person or pursue them.
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You're not going to believe us, no matter what we say, so I don't see a point in answering this.
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Your perspective has been thoroughly ingrained into yourself.
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Why are you asking us if you're just going to call bullshit?
03:25:09.840
I agree with what you're saying, but I also agree with it.
03:25:12.280
Yeah, it's absurd to say that, generally speaking, like, for example, let's take the first kiss, for example.
03:25:26.380
It's crazy, like, for you, I mean, maybe you guys are outliers on this, but, like, most men's experience, most women's experiences, the guy initiates, for example, the first kiss.
03:25:42.840
Is that a lot of work, like, talking to a girl and getting her number and taking her on a date or initiating the date?
03:25:53.940
It's a very privileged position to say, oh, is it a lot of work?
03:25:58.980
Well, we're the ones that are putting ourselves out there to be rejected.
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And throughout the course of the initial stages of dating, there are, like, dozens of potential points of rejection that men face.
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From approaching you to asking for your number, asking for a date, setting up the date, dealing with flaking.
03:26:29.900
Going, trying to, you know, if you want to move things forward from there, taking the top off, whatever, you know, I'm sure your imagination can figure out the rest.
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Yeah, it's not a big deal, but I'm just saying, like, the burden falls on men.
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And a lot of men struggle to navigate these dozens of potential points where men can be rejected.
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But I don't object to women taking on some of the burden on this front.
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But women don't, and they don't need to, because they can just find a guy who will.
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You said women don't take on the burden, but these girls are saying that they have done that.
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Generally speaking, I would say most women don't initiate.
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Women have initiated with me, although it's rare.
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I was about to ask, have you ever rejected somebody?
03:27:57.800
Okay, so I think everybody needs to learn to navigate rejection.
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If you can't handle rejection, then that's a personal issue.
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Like, you can move, as a woman, if you want, you can just sit back and let guys come to you.
03:28:12.080
You don't necessarily have to navigate rejection because you can pick amongst the men or deal with the men that will take all the initiative.
03:28:25.060
Maybe really, like, attractive guys can do that.
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But most men do not have the option to, let me just sit back.
03:28:30.320
Let me just go to a bar and just wait for a girl to come up to me.
03:28:35.760
99 times out of 100, as a dude, like, say an average dude, if you go out to a bar or a nightclub and you just stand there at the bar, ain't no chick talking to you the entire night.
03:28:47.560
Right. So what's the point you're trying to make here?
03:28:50.540
Should we feel sorry? Like, what do we do about that?
03:28:54.380
Well, we're talking about whether dating and relationships and sex is easier for women to attain.
03:29:01.040
So point made, it's easier for women, but who fixes that? What is there to be done about that?
03:29:12.640
I'm just, I'm acknowledging the reality of the dating landscape.
03:29:17.720
I think what you're getting at is that it's making men not want to date anymore.
03:29:23.840
Because they're tired of giving effort, you think?
03:29:27.200
Well, I hear you, but I feel like that's, like, a moving target.
03:29:30.840
Well, like, I've got, again, I stated that, like, the woke feminist culture, I think, is making it harder for men and confusing men and not understanding where, how to approach women nowadays.
03:29:46.540
I mean, I feel that in, like, girlfriends, friendships with women.
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Like, it's really hard for me to, like, get on the same level with the younger generation.
03:29:57.620
You find it hard to connect with other women your age?
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Do you think that's, like, a generational thing?
03:30:11.100
Kind of, but I also think it's just, like, politics and just how things are now.
03:30:17.200
Like, woke culture and things that have just, like, sprung up within the last, like, ten years.
03:30:26.800
Like, what about a woman that you met who was younger than you?
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What about her would signal woke, I can't connect with her?
03:30:35.260
Well, I think it's a lot with the feminist movement as well and just feeling superior over, like, I forget the woman's name that was here, but, like, thinking, like, she deserves more because she's a woman and I just don't agree with that.
03:30:59.100
Because, like, I feel like a lot of women I talk to nowadays, they always say, like, oh, I hate men.
03:31:03.820
Or, like, they put down, like, there's this phrase, like, toxic masculinity.
03:31:16.600
I'm saying it is unfair to say you hate men because, like, as you guys already know, I think it's unfair to generalize.
03:31:21.320
And I hate men is generalizing, like, half of the planet, so...
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As someone who has experienced sexual abuse, I don't look for who I can sleep with.
03:31:48.460
Okay, let me get through some of these soup chats here.
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This podcast is controversial because Brian speaks the truth and some people find the truth offensive.
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Yo, Ty Collin, the bygone, thank you for the 50, man.
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Hoflation, the concept of men having to work 20x harder than their grandfathers did for women 20x worse than what their grandmothers were.
03:32:29.640
Why would we want to put in the traditional work when the modern woman is so non-traditional?
03:32:41.520
I think, like, back in the day is, like, romanticized a lot.
03:32:47.020
I don't think it was as perfect as everyone tries to make it seem.
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Like, I'm sure there were women that were having sex before marriage.
03:32:59.000
Look, I think a lot of guys try to do it when it comes to the Hoflation thing.
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You know, they try to be romantic and do the flowers and pay for the date and take a girl out on dates.
03:33:16.840
Like, women fucking clown on dudes who do that shit.
03:33:21.300
And then that same girl is going to just go hook up with some dude who never had to do any of those things.
03:33:29.660
So, guys are, like, realizing, hey, there's two standards here.
03:33:38.300
And I never made anyone feel unappreciated for doing those things or felt like...
03:33:42.460
Yeah, I think that also comes to, like, who you're choosing to date as well as a guy.
03:33:49.300
And then there's also women who don't and actually appreciate it.
03:33:52.360
Sure, there are some women that I suppose appreciate it.
03:33:54.780
But there's a lot of women out there who will maybe claim that they want traditional courtship.
03:34:00.080
However, if you look at their behavior, you know, they are...
03:34:13.220
They'll just, like, go over to that hot dude's place.
03:34:20.180
However, they'll have a different standard for another guy over here who...
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Let me get through the rest of these soup chats.
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But I wait until marriage because I love to see a purpose.
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We're the ones on the side watching y'all suffer.
03:35:04.340
Learn these girls to the following body count paternity.
03:35:11.700
Body count, paternity, lowered STD risk, greater ability to parabond, and finally the worst
03:35:22.680
So, this kind of just ties back into our body count discussion.
03:35:25.140
The microchimerism, I read a study that apparently, and this could be bogus.
03:35:33.260
If you've had sex with a guy, and I think it's if he blasts inside of you, let's say, you
03:36:02.500
The reason why body count matters to most men is simple.
03:36:06.160
If you've given away the most intimate part of yourself to a lot of men, then your intimacy
03:36:11.440
If an entire basketball roster of men have slept with you, then your intimacy is worth
03:36:17.480
Why do men always say they want these, like, good women or, like, virgin women, but they
03:36:26.480
give attention to women who are not like that all the time?
03:36:30.780
Like, I feel like in this day of, like, social media, most women that get attention are not
03:36:39.920
So, why be traditional if they're the ones getting all the attention?
03:36:47.320
I mean, social media, like, look at the girls who are popular on social media.
03:36:52.680
It's not girls that are covered and, like, being virtuous.
03:36:56.780
It's women who are showing their body and doing what they want to do.
03:37:08.780
So, men want perhaps what is uncommon, which is not spreading your butt cheeks on Instagram.
03:37:24.080
Well, yeah, there's a bunch of simps, for sure, following chicks.
03:37:27.600
I feel like every guy I see these days, like, opens their phone and their socials in front
03:37:30.980
of me, and it's just, like, like, because that's what they like.
03:37:37.480
Well, men are visual creatures, and men, I think, certainly have a higher sex drive than
03:37:45.500
Are you saying, like, it's fine that all these men, like, they have the gall to complain
03:37:48.760
about these things, but then their entire timeline is just, like, various cheeks?
03:37:52.540
Like, that's fine because they're visual creatures?
03:37:54.280
Or do you think they should have some self-control?
03:37:56.960
Why should women, why should women as the gatekeepers of sex be the ones with the self-control
03:38:00.980
when men can't even, like, get ethots off of their timeline?
03:38:07.800
You're saying men are visual creatures, so that's why their socials are so full of,
03:38:12.040
like, ass and titties, but, like, why does being a visual creature excuse virtual promiscuity
03:38:20.260
If that's, like, not okay for a woman to be posting and showing off and doing, then why
03:38:31.920
But I'm asking, like, why is it okay to justify it then?
03:38:36.940
Like, by your viewpoints, you should find it disgusting.
03:38:39.380
If you find promiscuity disgusting, you should be sick of it by a guy's phone who's full
03:38:48.220
I mean, I personally think porn is, for example, porn's not great.
03:38:53.500
I don't think, me personally, I follow one account on my personal Instagram, which is my whatever
03:39:05.340
I'm not liking their fucking bullshit pictures.
03:39:08.640
But that would be an enigma against the majority.
03:39:13.020
But my recommendation to men is don't be following these chicks on Instagram.
03:39:19.020
So you agree that they should have some self-control?
03:39:23.440
Don't be simping over these chicks that wouldn't give you the time of day in public.
03:39:37.040
Ladies, what is your opinion on Brian not wanting to go down on girls ever?
03:40:17.240
I mean, it's just like, I don't really enjoy doing that.
03:40:24.220
I don't expect a girl, like if a girl didn't want to go down on me, that's...
03:40:27.360
But in a relationship, I'm saying if you were in a relationship with somebody...
03:40:34.320
And what if she didn't want to return the favor if you didn't?
03:40:43.780
Do you think it emasculates you to please a woman?
03:40:50.980
No, I don't think it's emasculating, but people are entitled to having sexual boundaries.
03:40:56.420
In the same way that a woman, if she didn't want...
03:40:59.240
Like, men are really just not allowed to have preferences, standards, and boundaries.
03:41:05.660
If you stated it like you don't like oral sex, that's one thing.
03:41:08.340
If a girl doesn't say that you'll get your sex.
03:41:27.640
I'm saying, what if you were in a relationship with somebody who was happy to go down on you,
03:41:32.520
but as soon as she realized you wouldn't return the favor, she rescinded her offer.
03:41:44.300
I don't think it has to be a vindictive tit-for-tat thing.
03:41:49.580
You know, people are entitled to have varying preferences, like...
03:42:08.080
They probably wouldn't be long-term compatible.
03:42:10.300
Well, that's not what I'm saying, even if it was a one-night stand.
03:42:13.160
Well, definitely don't go down on someone on a one-night stand.
03:42:20.860
Bro, you can't go down on someone on a one-night stand.
03:42:25.720
Bro, guys, don't go down on chicks on a one-night stand.
03:42:34.960
I don't understand how that's different than having sex.
03:42:45.120
In some ways, oral sex is more intimate than sex, I think.
03:42:54.600
Like, I don't want to see your eyeballs right there all the time, unless I've been with you multiple times.
03:42:59.380
I mean, I would say the bare minimum, if you are, as a guy, going to do that, you need to be in a monogamous, committed relationship with a girl.
03:43:09.600
So, I mean, that should be your base standard, I think.
03:43:12.440
But, okay, we've established that women, some, excuse me, that there's a hookup culture.
03:43:22.280
In a one-night stand, you have no guarantee that they didn't sleep with someone earlier that day, they didn't sleep with someone yesterday.
03:43:28.960
It would make me very uncomfortable to sleep with, go down on a girl, or even kiss a girl who fucked a guy the night before.
03:43:43.580
I find it, again, disgusting, if I were to sleep with a girl who fucked a guy the night before.
03:43:52.820
So, for a one-night stand, that's why I don't recommend, like, as a dude, going down on a girl.
03:44:02.300
I thought you meant in general, you'll never go down on anybody.
03:44:13.600
Like, the amount of shit, if there was a table of guys saying, girls who don't suck dick,
03:44:21.080
Because guys do say that, actually, quite often.
03:44:25.220
Actually, women are way more, like, vicious when it comes to this shit than men are.
03:44:32.080
I feel like if men were saying that, I would say fair.
03:44:41.780
Yeah, but I feel like most women would find it objectionable for being like, if guys were
03:44:45.940
like, oh, if she doesn't suck dick, there's something wrong with her.
03:44:52.600
I don't know what that fucking term is, but, like, a lot of women would be like, wow, that's
03:44:56.720
But all of you at this table, like, were coiled because I have a sexual boundary.
03:45:01.200
If a woman had a sexual boundary that says, look, I don't feel comfortable sucking dick,
03:45:05.420
I don't think any of you would be like, huh, what the fuck is wrong with you, Elle?
03:45:11.000
I think it's fine to have a boundary, but I also think...
03:45:13.060
It's perfectly acceptable for men and women to have sexual boundaries.
03:45:16.720
I also think that a lot of men expect women to put out.
03:45:19.240
And, like, you really can't win if you're not putting out, you're a prude, and if you
03:45:29.400
So, and I do hear it a lot, you're gonna say that it's not true, but I do hear a lot
03:45:32.820
of talks about, literally, there are memes, like, all over the Discord, everywhere, like,
03:45:36.940
if she doesn't suck dick, if she doesn't do this, if she doesn't put out, she's not worth
03:45:42.340
Like, why are you chasing after somebody who won't even, like, get you off?
03:45:48.980
You know, they're gonna expect us to pleasure them.
03:45:55.720
That's why, that's why I'll recoil if I hear you say you don't eat pussy, just as I'm sure
03:46:00.800
if a girl is proudly saying she doesn't suck dick, men would recoil in the same way, because
03:46:10.860
Even if you're not proudly saying it, the fact that you don't, it's gonna garner a response,
03:46:20.980
Sure, but I wouldn't, if a girl told me, and she was just like, hey, Brian, I'm just,
03:46:30.940
I mean, whether that be a potential future partner, or just a casual conversation like
03:46:36.620
the one we're having, I'm not gonna be like, the fuck is wrong with you?
03:46:40.840
Okay, well, I'm glad you wouldn't do that, but a lot of people would.
03:46:44.540
Maybe in online spaces, but like in a in-person conversation, like most guys aren't gonna be
03:46:49.160
like, in mixed company, most guys aren't gonna be like, you don't suck dick?
03:46:58.260
Like, have you been around, have you been around?
03:47:00.440
No, I don't, I don't really know, because I don't party.
03:47:04.940
Like, they talk about this stuff openly and frequently.
03:47:14.180
After you hook up with a guy, do you share with your girlfriends the details of your first
03:47:29.580
Guys really aren't saying, girls will share with their girlfriends the size of a guy's
03:47:35.700
Sure, an encounter, but I'm saying men will more frequently talk about, like.
03:48:01.320
Red-haired girl letting people do what they want is complete anarchy.
03:48:05.180
Society is defined by concrete rules and values.
03:48:08.220
Be promiscuous and promoted, it will slowly break down society.
03:48:11.660
The Roman Empire fell from within due to similar things you promote, dysfunction.
03:48:25.120
I'm a little Asperger-y and I'm a 43-year-old, successful and fit, and I can't count how many
03:48:29.840
times I've been told I'll make some girl really happy someday.
03:48:41.380
We go through an astronomical amount of rejection just to get a chance at a date.
03:48:44.660
I checked out 10 years ago in my 20s and increasingly less interested in even trying.
03:48:53.140
I mean, a lot of people are checking out of the dating marketplace.
03:48:58.320
Brian, for the love of God, please explain the difference between sexual attention and
03:49:14.000
So, and this kind of relates to high body count.
03:49:18.060
A guy will hook up with a girl with a high body count.
03:49:22.500
But there are guys who will disregard certain things like your promiscuity.
03:49:30.200
And then, so there's sexual attention and then there's relationship.
03:49:49.740
You all make this terrible conclusion that men are wifing these Insta 304s.
03:49:53.440
If your goal is to be a wife, don't follow the likes in this case.
03:49:58.800
They'll leave the wife or they'll cheat on the wife for the other one.
03:50:08.300
It's better than Hannah Jo Mama seems to be the popular one.
03:50:23.580
So, again, do you think it's easier for guys to get laid?
03:50:37.380
All I'm saying is that, listen, they have side chicks.
03:50:43.320
So, how is it so hard if they have side chicks?
03:50:49.800
I know that it is easier for women to have sex with a guy.
03:50:53.800
Like, I could probably just have sex with any guy I want to.
03:51:15.300
Edie, after the show, would you like to hook up?
03:51:49.700
I know we just met, but like, 10,000 night stand?
03:52:05.160
If that's the answer to your question that you want.
03:52:24.980
Avery, after the show tonight, wife, would you like to, would you hook up 10,000 night stand?
03:52:33.720
No, because I'm doing the three date rule now, remember?
03:52:55.740
I don't know what I'm even trying to prove here.
03:53:08.580
Any final thoughts here before I wrap up the show?
03:53:20.500
I play online in the Japanese servers, so good luck.
03:53:36.240
To the people saying they were giving up, don't give up on dating.
03:53:48.760
Here, let me just send an asteroid just to end the show, I guess.
03:53:56.640
I kind of lost it there at the last hour of the show.
03:53:58.500
So, guys, last, oh, actually, let's do Twitch really quick.
03:54:03.800
Guys, on your way out, if you can like the video, go over to twitch.tv slash whatever.
03:54:16.820
You can link it to your Twitch quick, free, easy way to support the show every month.
03:54:39.160
I have been married 15 years and have never cheated on my wife.
03:54:44.400
Even if he did cheat in your hypothetical, who has the name, title, lifestyle, and kids?
03:55:16.440
You could have been anywhere in the world, but you were here with me.
03:55:21.940
Thank you to everyone who super chats and supports the show.
03:55:32.320
Any women who want to be on the show, DM at whatever, at BD underscore Atlas.
03:55:38.440
My DMs are open if you're short or have a large labia.
03:55:47.320
And just a reminder, we are going to take a couple weeks off.
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But yeah, we'll be live again Tuesday, 7 p.m. Pacific.