Whatever Podcast - Dating Talk #7

00:00:00.340 Welcome to the Whatever Dating Talk podcast, coming to you live from Isla Vista, Santa Barbara County, California.

00:00:07.060 Every Tuesday and Thursday at 7 p.m. Pacific, I'm your host, Brian Atlas,

00:00:12.540 the most publicly rejected man in the history of the world, so I guess who better to talk about dating.

00:00:19.560 I'm joined by my co-host, Kiki.

00:00:24.300 She's a bit shy.

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00:01:01.140 For the sake of debate, I may play devil's advocate and take on a position I may not necessarily agree with.

00:01:07.340 Without further ado, we're going to have the guests introduce themselves,

00:01:10.860 so please tell us your name, age, occupation, and relationship status, starting with you.

00:01:17.680 Hi, I'm Mary.

00:01:18.480 Into the microphone.

00:01:19.420 Oh, sorry.

00:01:20.060 Hi, my name's Mary.

00:01:22.660 I'm 21, and I'm an entertainer at Spearmint Rhino.

00:01:28.540 And what was the last question?

00:01:30.220 Relationship status.

00:01:31.520 Oh, relationship status?

00:01:34.460 Complicated.

00:01:35.660 It's complicated.

00:01:36.960 It's complicated.

00:01:37.980 And explain to those who don't know what the Spearmint, you said an entertainer at the Spearmint Rhino.

00:01:42.800 Can you explain that?

00:01:43.560 So, a stripper at Spearmint Rhino Gentleman's Club.

00:01:51.120 And what else?

00:01:53.640 That's basically it.

00:01:54.920 It's pretty simple.

00:01:57.020 Hi, I'm Elena.

00:01:58.620 To the microphone.

00:01:59.540 Oh, sorry.

00:02:00.280 Hi, I'm Elena.

00:02:01.720 I am 20 years old, and I am a student at UCSB, and I am currently in a relationship.

00:02:07.720 Hi, I'm Sydney.

00:02:11.060 I am 21 years old.

00:02:12.900 I'm a waitress working on Actress, and I'm single.

00:02:20.480 Hi, my name is Raina.

00:02:22.200 I'm 21.

00:02:23.100 I'm a student at UCSB, and I'm single.

00:02:26.860 I'm Liv.

00:02:27.900 I'm 20.

00:02:28.820 I'm a student at UCSB, and I'm single.

00:02:33.440 I'm Alondra.

00:02:34.680 I'm 24.

00:02:35.520 I'm a dental assistant, and I'm single as well.

00:02:40.700 So, wait.

00:02:42.000 Single, single, single, single, single?

00:02:44.020 Oh, relationship.

00:02:45.420 Did I?

00:02:45.780 Oh, okay.

00:02:46.280 Sorry, yeah.

00:02:46.560 Relationship, single, single, single, single.

00:02:47.740 Okay.

00:02:48.300 Got it.

00:02:48.800 Complicated.

00:02:49.160 And we're joined again.

00:02:50.580 Raina was here last show.

00:02:53.560 Welcome.

00:02:54.500 Thank you.

00:02:54.740 Did anybody message you from...

00:02:57.580 You get some DMs?

00:02:58.480 Yeah, I got some DMs that, like, they stalked my followers, and they were like,

00:03:02.880 how do you know this guy, my friend, like, he plays basketball professionally.

00:03:09.160 Well, because on the last show, you said that your type was six foot four NBA players.

00:03:14.080 I did not say that.

00:03:15.180 You're putting words into my mouth.

00:03:17.020 Maybe I'm misremembering.

00:03:18.100 I said high morals.

00:03:18.880 And I also think, like, another part of my standards is, like, they have to be emotionally

00:03:22.700 intelligent, or, like, at least the same level as me.

00:03:25.940 Okay.

00:03:26.780 Yeah.

00:03:27.300 Got it.

00:03:27.940 And it sounds like four of you go to UCSB.

00:03:31.000 Can you just, again, go through, just tell us your major.

00:03:33.940 I'm currently a psych major with a minor in art.

00:03:36.720 Remember, guys, up into the microphone, like, an inch away from the mic.

00:03:40.160 I am a psychology major.

00:03:42.140 I'm an acting major.

00:03:44.060 I'm a stats and data science major.

00:03:46.480 I'm in cosmetology.

00:03:49.540 Okay.

00:03:50.140 Very cool.

00:03:50.800 Very cool.

00:03:52.220 So, this is a question I've asked before.

00:03:55.200 I'm going to ask it again.

00:03:57.820 Four of you said you were single.

00:03:59.160 One of you said it was complicated.

00:04:01.040 So, when you say you're single, what precisely do you mean by that?

00:04:06.440 Are you talking to somebody?

00:04:08.180 Are you hooking up with somebody?

00:04:09.860 Have you been celibate for three years?

00:04:12.080 What do you mean by single?

00:04:14.220 And Alondra, we'll start with you.

00:04:17.340 Like, single when I want to be, I guess.

00:04:19.900 Like, you know, there's times where you get lonely,

00:04:23.160 and there's other times where you don't even want to talk to men.

00:04:26.160 What do you do when you get lonely?

00:04:28.780 Go down the roster.

00:04:29.980 See who's open.

00:04:31.860 So, you got the roster.

00:04:33.820 Sometimes.

00:04:34.820 It's a little shaky right now.

00:04:37.060 The roster's slim.

00:04:37.960 We're looking for some bench warmers.

00:04:40.540 Okay.

00:04:41.580 I like that, though.

00:04:44.700 I like that.

00:04:45.960 So, how many do you currently have on the roster?

00:04:51.080 No good ones, so zero.

00:04:57.300 Zero?

00:04:57.880 Okay, zero on the roster.

00:04:59.300 Okay.

00:04:59.620 When was your, like, last term or last long-term relationship?

00:05:05.880 2019.

00:05:06.820 So, it's that now.

00:05:07.620 Two or three years?

00:05:08.440 Like, before COVID.

00:05:09.620 Yeah, right before COVID, yeah.

00:05:11.260 Okay.

00:05:12.360 Got it.

00:05:14.320 I'm single, like, just recently.

00:05:16.780 Well, a couple months out of a relationship.

00:05:19.220 I'd say, like, three or four months.

00:05:21.240 I'm just taking it slow.

00:05:23.380 Finishing my school.

00:05:24.860 Seeing what happens kind of thing.

00:05:26.940 I don't know.

00:05:28.340 When's the last time you hooked up with somebody?

00:05:32.700 Probably, like...

00:05:34.260 Tuesday.

00:05:36.580 No, not Tuesday.

00:05:38.340 I don't know.

00:05:39.280 A couple weeks ago, I guess.

00:05:42.180 Okay.

00:05:42.980 Fair enough.

00:05:44.580 I feel like I already said this.

00:05:45.860 Well, yeah, but we got new people, so...

00:05:47.280 Okay.

00:05:48.840 Being single means that I'm not dating anyone right now.

00:05:51.960 Like, I could be talking to people, but I'm not, like, committing myself to one person.

00:05:58.760 Yeah, I mean, I'm single.

00:06:00.160 I like what she said, single when I want to be, but I have no one on my roster, not talking

00:06:06.180 to anyone, kind of just doing me right now.

00:06:08.380 Okay, rock and roll.

00:06:11.680 And so, why is it complicated?

00:06:14.820 Okay, so it's complicated because, I mean, like, I've been seeing this guy.

00:06:18.860 Into the microphone, please.

00:06:19.980 Sorry.

00:06:20.860 Okay, complicated, like, not in, like, a tricky term, like, a negative connotation.

00:06:26.800 Like, complicated as in, like, he does music, so he's on tour right now.

00:06:31.580 So, he's gone, just got out of a relationship, and I'm, like, I love my freedom.

00:06:39.040 So, we're seeing each other, I would say.

00:06:41.940 So, I guess single, but also, like, I'm a pretty loyal person, so, like, it's complicated

00:06:48.580 because I'm, like, I've committed myself to a person, but, like, I don't know.

00:06:54.360 It's, like, it's pretty, like, loosey-goosey.

00:06:56.740 Like, it's not, I'm not, like, hooking up with anybody else by, like, complicated.

00:07:01.340 Does that make sense?

00:07:02.900 So, you said you're kind of committed to him, but he's not committed to you.

00:07:07.640 Is that what you're saying?

00:07:08.480 No, like, I would say he is.

00:07:10.100 Like, he's a really nice guy.

00:07:11.560 Okay.

00:07:12.000 Is he a musician?

00:07:13.200 Yeah, he is.

00:07:14.120 Okay, rock, rap, rapper?

00:07:15.600 So, he's actually on tour right now with Revolution.

00:07:19.580 They're a reggae group.

00:07:21.280 Do you know that?

00:07:22.180 All right, they're going to find out who it is, probably.

00:07:25.140 Oh, okay, well, whatever.

00:07:26.420 On tour with Revolution.

00:07:27.280 I know Revolution, though.

00:07:28.200 Yeah.

00:07:28.360 They're a local band.

00:07:29.160 So, it's a reggae band, but the band he's currently in, he, like, plays guitar, is, like, all.

00:07:35.840 Oh, sorry.

00:07:36.840 Oops.

00:07:37.160 I was saying way too much.

00:07:38.420 Hey, it is.

00:07:38.800 Whatever.

00:07:39.280 It is what it is.

00:07:40.420 It's, like, an alternative reggae, like, kind of TV band.

00:07:43.300 Do you want to share his social security number while you're at it?

00:07:46.600 Yeah, actually, I do.

00:07:47.840 It's 000.

00:07:49.160 Just kidding.

00:07:50.360 His mother's maiden name.

00:07:52.320 Yeah, I don't know that one.

00:07:53.440 Okay.

00:07:53.660 So, that's why it's still complicated.

00:07:56.420 Got it.

00:07:57.380 And he's cool with you working at, did he meet you at the club, at the Spearmint?

00:08:02.220 Okay, so, yes, but it was through, like, these older guys that come in, and he was, like, their son's friend.

00:08:10.940 So, he didn't, like, participate in the usual club activities.

00:08:15.420 He was, like, really chill.

00:08:16.540 And I ended up just, like, kind of, like, hanging out with him outside of the club.

00:08:23.080 So, we did meet in the club, but I got to know him outside of the club rather than, like, get a dance and be, like, hey, where are you from?

00:08:31.360 What's up?

00:08:31.880 Isn't it a pretty common thing that women who are strippers, typically, they don't date customers?

00:08:37.600 But it doesn't sound like he was quite a customer.

00:08:40.800 Yeah.

00:08:41.580 He was just, like, a tag-along buddy.

00:08:43.840 Definitely don't date customers because, like, the people that come in there are, you know, they already have an idea of the girls that are working.

00:08:53.100 So, basically, it's just, it will never be the outcome that you want it to be.

00:08:57.260 You're never going to find, really, a husband in the club that's come and seen your goodies before, like, getting to know you.

00:09:06.720 And just for those watching, the Spearmint Rhino, it's full nudity.

00:09:11.980 So, when you say goodies, it's all goodies.

00:09:13.940 It is every single goodies.

00:09:16.640 Like, all of them.

00:09:17.140 All the goodies.

00:09:17.860 The cookie, everything.

00:09:19.200 Chocolate chips, everything.

00:09:21.640 Okay.

00:09:22.400 Have you ever dated a customer?

00:09:24.240 I actually have not dated a customer.

00:09:26.560 But it's recommended, it sounds like, from what I've heard, to avoid a lot of girls working in the club, they don't want to.

00:09:33.780 It's happened before, but I would say, like, those dating terms are more of, like, a sugar daddy type thing.

00:09:39.520 Have you done that?

00:09:40.920 I've had sugar daddies, but it's definitely, you have to be very aware of yourself and protect yourself in those type of relationships.

00:09:49.700 And it's definitely, like, you present yourself in a different way than you would regularly dating somebody.

00:09:57.040 Like, you're presenting yourself as the persona you are in the club rather than your outside self when you have a sugar relationship.

00:10:05.600 And how long have you been working at the Spearmint?

00:10:08.880 So, I've been working at the Spearmint for a year, actually, now, in August.

00:10:14.600 But prior to that, I danced in my home state.

00:10:19.660 And I took a year off.

00:10:20.960 Where's that?

00:10:21.940 Colorado.

00:10:22.880 Colorado.

00:10:23.520 Yeah.

00:10:23.800 So, I started working.

00:10:26.760 How long have you been, how old are you again?

00:10:28.600 I'm 21.

00:10:29.500 21.

00:10:29.900 And how long, so you've been, have you been dancing since you were 18?

00:10:32.560 Yeah, I started three days after I was 18.

00:10:34.920 Okay.

00:10:35.440 Yeah.

00:10:35.840 So, you were eyeballing it for a bit there.

00:10:38.580 Well, I was delivering to the strippers.

00:10:42.640 Let's keep it at that.

00:10:44.300 Okay, so you're a drug dealer.

00:10:46.040 Well, no.

00:10:47.760 What else would you, why would you be big?

00:10:50.000 I was delivering goods to strippers, underage.

00:10:55.240 So, drugs?

00:10:56.040 We are not going to say drugs.

00:10:58.180 No.

00:10:59.300 Don't say drugs.

00:11:00.120 What?

00:11:01.240 I mean, what?

00:11:02.660 But, yeah, I was familiar with the club scene when I had started.

00:11:05.760 And after turning 18, they were like, why aren't you just in here making money?

00:11:12.180 It was like pretty crazy teenager.

00:11:14.620 So, I was like, okay, yeah, why not?

00:11:18.000 And I honestly love it.

00:11:20.980 So, I took a year off, came to California, went to school, did the whole regular thing,

00:11:26.860 lived with really nice girls, pretended to be really nice.

00:11:30.300 I am really nice, but.

00:11:31.500 Wait, why would you have to be vague about what the delivery is?

00:11:34.160 Like, if you're delivering Uber Eats or DoorDash, you know, you could just, it's okay.

00:11:41.480 I won't press you because that's fine.

00:11:43.120 We're just online.

00:11:44.460 So, anyways, we're going to move on to the main topic of today.

00:11:50.200 And so, we're talking about preferences, standards, and boundaries when it comes to dating.

00:11:55.540 More specifically, are men allowed to have preferences, standards, and boundaries?

00:12:00.880 But before we get into that specific question, I'm going to ask the panel.

00:12:06.420 I want you to list some preferences or standards that you have when it comes to men.

00:12:13.120 I want you to list at least three physical traits and at least three personality behavioral traits.

00:12:21.540 And if you want, you can list more than three for both, but.

00:12:24.120 So, at least three.

00:12:28.680 Alondra, let's start with you.

00:12:30.600 Okay, so three physical, three personality, right?

00:12:33.660 Yeah, three physical or three personality behavioral traits.

00:12:38.360 I guess physical, taller than me.

00:12:41.700 I'm not too picky on height, but as long as they're taller than me.

00:12:45.220 How tall are you?

00:12:46.760 I'm 5'4 and about like 5'7 in heels, so.

00:12:50.880 So, 5'8?

00:12:52.000 Yeah, anything above 5'8 and up, we're good.

00:12:53.980 Okay.

00:12:56.300 I like, I'm a dental assistant, so I love teeth.

00:12:59.640 Nice smile.

00:13:00.620 Has to have a nice smile.

00:13:03.240 And I kind of like I'm on the skinnier side.

00:13:08.100 I like a nice little bird-chested man.

00:13:11.340 Bird-chested.

00:13:12.520 Yeah, you know, like really skinny.

00:13:14.520 Like stick thin.

00:13:15.900 Not like, well, yeah, kind of.

00:13:17.380 But, you know, there's like skinny that goes to the gym and is nice and fit.

00:13:21.020 That's nice.

00:13:22.240 But then there's like skinny that's just like, you know, just.

00:13:26.420 Like Machine Gun Kelly, kind of.

00:13:28.580 In a way, yeah.

00:13:29.600 Right there.

00:13:30.220 He's kind of like, well, he's tall and kind of thin.

00:13:32.920 And lengthy.

00:13:33.040 Yeah, exactly.

00:13:33.820 So that's.

00:13:34.760 Something like that, yeah.

00:13:36.380 Got it.

00:13:36.820 Now, personality-wise, I like humble men.

00:13:43.480 Humble down to earth.

00:13:45.320 I like goofy men that know how to take jokes and give good jokes because some men take it

00:13:52.180 too far.

00:13:54.580 And probably a talkative man because I tend to talk a lot.

00:14:01.400 So if he can talk more than me, that's always nice.

00:14:04.480 I like to listen.

00:14:07.620 I'm a gym rat.

00:14:08.920 Or recently a gym rat.

00:14:10.440 So anybody that works out for me is a plus.

00:14:13.640 I mean, I would say height, but I've really just learned to go with the personality.

00:14:22.780 I don't know.

00:14:27.160 I'm not, I like dark hair, probably dark hair.

00:14:30.980 And a nice smile helps.

00:14:34.380 Personality-wise, just I like more than the bare minimum.

00:14:38.460 Like, I don't want to have to beg you for things like, I don't want to have to beg you

00:14:43.020 for flowers every now and then.

00:14:44.360 I don't want to have to beg for compliments.

00:14:49.740 Yeah.

00:14:50.180 And then funny, funny is really, is a good one.

00:14:55.500 Yeah.

00:14:57.440 I feel like I don't have, like, those types of standards.

00:15:02.780 Like, yeah, the height that we talked about last time.

00:15:07.260 I feel like I'd prefer them to be athletic, I guess.

00:15:10.440 And then, like, I don't know, not, like, physical.

00:15:15.360 I don't have that type of, like, type.

00:15:18.040 Like, I feel like all the guys I've talked to are, like, different, you know?

00:15:22.200 It's not so much a type, but just.

00:15:24.080 Like, physical.

00:15:25.000 Preferences.

00:15:25.780 Preferences.

00:15:26.300 Yeah.

00:15:26.660 So tall.

00:15:27.940 Athletic.

00:15:29.240 Fit.

00:15:30.360 I like when they, like.

00:15:31.340 Big dong.

00:15:32.460 If you want, you can say it.

00:15:34.260 No, I like when they have, like, clean cuticles.

00:15:37.500 If that's brand new.

00:15:38.260 That's fine.

00:15:38.860 Like, I like when they get their, like, hands and feet done.

00:15:41.600 I don't know.

00:15:42.000 And then personnel.

00:15:42.760 So, like, clean hands, clean fingers.

00:15:44.480 Like, some hygiene.

00:15:45.060 Like, having good hygiene.

00:15:46.020 Sure, sure.

00:15:46.660 And then, what was the other one?

00:15:48.140 Personality?

00:15:48.860 Yeah.

00:15:49.180 Three personality or behavioral traits.

00:15:52.300 They have to be funny.

00:15:54.840 They have to be, like, how I said earlier, emotionally mature.

00:15:57.680 And then, yeah, just be able to, like, talk to me.

00:16:03.300 Yeah.

00:16:03.820 I don't know.

00:16:04.640 Okay.

00:16:05.060 I know.

00:16:05.280 I like, for personality, definitely goofy.

00:16:11.420 I like goofy, funnier, for sure.

00:16:13.540 Someone that I can, like, just mess around with.

00:16:16.740 Kind to other people is a big one for me.

00:16:19.400 I like when they can be, like, generous to others.

00:16:22.340 Like, open doors.

00:16:23.360 Just be nice and general.

00:16:26.220 And just, like, smart.

00:16:27.580 You know, be able to have, like, an intelligent conversation.

00:16:29.880 Just an overall good person.

00:16:31.000 Um, physically, I'm a gym rat.

00:16:35.220 So, I like, I've noticed I like a back on, like, back.

00:16:38.520 Like, muscly backs.

00:16:39.780 I think that's really attractive.

00:16:41.720 And eyes.

00:16:43.000 I like brown eyes.

00:16:44.920 And then a nice smile.

00:16:46.260 Those are my big ones.

00:16:47.960 I don't really care about height that much.

00:16:50.920 Yeah.

00:16:52.540 Yeah.

00:16:53.120 So, physically, I'm not very picky, I guess.

00:16:56.900 I definitely want them to be taller than me.

00:16:59.780 Because I'm 5'3".

00:17:01.700 So, it's kind of short already.

00:17:05.980 Again, like, gym would be cool.

00:17:07.940 Like, tone.

00:17:09.260 Fine with that.

00:17:09.800 I've always been into dark hair guys.

00:17:11.260 Kind of like you said.

00:17:14.480 Personality wise.

00:17:16.060 Kind of, like, keeping the role going.

00:17:18.020 I like funny guys.

00:17:19.080 They've got to have a sense of humor.

00:17:22.840 Definitely respectable.

00:17:24.520 Or respectful.

00:17:25.020 Gotta make sure that, I don't know.

00:17:31.980 I don't really, I'm not very picky.

00:17:33.760 Respect.

00:17:34.500 Okay.

00:17:34.780 Just respect, basically.

00:17:36.380 Okay.

00:17:37.380 So, we'll start with physical.

00:17:39.560 I would say, right?

00:17:42.440 Is that what I'm starting?

00:17:43.280 Sorry.

00:17:46.580 Sorry.

00:17:48.020 Um, okay.

00:17:49.820 So, I like a guy that has a bit of steez.

00:17:55.180 Like, good fashion or, like, their own kind of, like, swag and their own kind of style,

00:18:00.260 like, dressing wise.

00:18:02.720 I also like, obviously, a guy that's, like, taller than you.

00:18:05.820 I just feel like that's what makes a lady feel feminine.

00:18:08.920 Skin is when you can, like, get wrapped up nicely.

00:18:13.040 Looked down to occasionally.

00:18:16.120 And, and third, I would say, like, nice eyes or, like, an appealing face.

00:18:24.840 And, um, okay.

00:18:27.580 Personality.

00:18:28.920 I would say I like a guy who's funny that can, like, take a joke and also serve jokes,

00:18:34.600 but also, like, shoot the shit.

00:18:35.960 Like, be, like, have a good back and forth.

00:18:39.440 I like a guy who's, like, self-aware.

00:18:43.380 So, they're, that means, like, aware of, like, others, including myself.

00:18:48.140 But that includes, like, being polite, respectful, but also, like, self-aware of themselves to where

00:18:54.000 they have, like, emotional control and understanding.

00:18:58.080 And then, um, like, a third would be, like.

00:19:05.960 Um, like, a family friend type of person.

00:19:13.060 Does that count in, like, self-awareness?

00:19:17.420 A what?

00:19:18.000 A family friend?

00:19:19.100 A family friend.

00:19:19.980 No, not, like, I would hook up with you.

00:19:21.840 Like, no, like, a family friend type of person.

00:19:24.320 Like, involved, like, with other people.

00:19:26.680 Well, actually, wipe that.

00:19:29.100 I like a person that's independent.

00:19:30.740 That has, like, their own stuff going on and are, like, a strong personality.

00:19:35.960 Like, I like a strong personality.

00:19:37.840 I don't like a timid guy.

00:19:40.120 Yeah.

00:19:40.740 There.

00:19:41.220 That's a good one.

00:19:42.540 Cool.

00:19:42.860 So, um, really quick, like, did, did any of the girls hear any of the preferences or standards

00:19:50.020 that anyone else listed that you would object to?

00:19:56.180 You didn't hear anything, like, objectionable, like, oh, she wants a tall guy.

00:20:00.900 Terrible.

00:20:01.520 How terrible.

00:20:02.020 We all agree on that.

00:20:02.680 No, I think, okay, cool.

00:20:04.800 So, um, similarly to the last question, I want to go around the table, uh, list some

00:20:11.400 preferences or standards that you think men have for women.

00:20:16.240 I want you to list at least three physical traits and at least three personality behavioral

00:20:22.560 traits.

00:20:23.860 We'll start with you.

00:20:26.120 Okay.

00:20:26.980 Physically, I'm just gonna, like, start down the list.

00:20:30.020 That's how my brain works.

00:20:30.860 But, um, physically, I feel like everybody wants a pretty or, like, a hot chick.

00:20:36.260 So, somebody that's, like, nice to look at, everybody has their preference on, like, what

00:20:40.800 feature is the best.

00:20:42.320 Like, maybe they have a cute nose or maybe they like their eyebrows.

00:20:45.420 But I feel like that's one huge standard is, like, somebody that's attractive.

00:20:53.540 Maybe.

00:20:54.460 I don't know.

00:20:55.140 Um, but, um, second, maybe, like, a clean girl.

00:20:59.860 Like, somebody that's clean.

00:21:02.020 Like, you said, cuticles for a guy.

00:21:04.100 Hygiene.

00:21:04.300 For a girl.

00:21:05.300 Like, maybe.

00:21:06.480 Nails done.

00:21:07.080 Yeah.

00:21:07.100 They just know that they shower.

00:21:09.120 Probably good enough.

00:21:10.280 Cool.

00:21:10.380 Um, three is a lot for, I can't really.

00:21:15.700 For what guys want physically.

00:21:16.860 Yeah, physically.

00:21:17.940 I don't know.

00:21:18.560 Maybe, like, honestly, this is gonna get raw.

00:21:21.560 But, like, girl a big butt or some boobs.

00:21:25.980 One or the other.

00:21:27.280 Maybe they like a skinny chick.

00:21:28.680 Something like that.

00:21:30.080 So, like, a, like, a sexual, physical trait.

00:21:34.460 Other than being pretty.

00:21:35.860 So, that's, like, tits or ass or maybe, like, neither.

00:21:38.080 Yeah, I suppose you could have broken it down into the various physical traits if you wanted to.

00:21:43.860 I don't know.

00:21:44.480 I guess.

00:21:45.560 And then, three, I get, I've heard, like, maybe a mature lady.

00:21:51.880 Like, a lot of guys that I know, like, want, like, mommy-type girlfriends to take care of them.

00:21:58.160 And then, probably funny and easygoing.

00:22:03.240 There we go.

00:22:03.880 We'll keep it short.

00:22:07.240 So, I pretty much was gonna say the exact same thing when it comes to physical traits.

00:22:11.600 Because I feel like there's not a lot to go around.

00:22:14.800 Like, big butt or big boobs, small waist.

00:22:18.980 Like, physically fit.

00:22:21.220 Or, like, a pretty face type of thing.

00:22:23.360 There's, I don't really have anything to go off of that.

00:22:26.160 Maybe more, like, a, maybe more of a, just a girl who, like, looks feminine.

00:22:31.180 If that makes any sense.

00:22:33.480 And then, did you say personality ones?

00:22:35.260 Personality?

00:22:35.900 Yeah.

00:22:38.240 Definitely someone who looks, or at least seems like she has everything together.

00:22:43.280 If that makes also sense.

00:22:44.760 What do you mean by that?

00:22:46.340 Someone who has something.

00:22:48.500 Like, they know how to go about their life independently.

00:22:51.180 So, like, an independent woman.

00:22:53.080 And they don't have to rely on other people.

00:22:55.360 And kind of, like you said, to keep, like, a mommy figure type of thing.

00:23:01.560 And look like they can take care of you, but also live on their own.

00:23:07.420 So, the guys want, the guys want a girl who can take care of them.

00:23:14.740 Yeah.

00:23:16.000 How so?

00:23:17.260 Financially?

00:23:18.820 No.

00:23:20.120 I don't think a lot of, I don't like, I don't think a lot of guys would.

00:23:23.120 I mean, I mean, well, I don't know how to explain that.

00:23:37.060 Maybe not.

00:23:37.660 Okay.

00:23:38.180 Maybe not.

00:23:38.580 I'm just going to move on.

00:23:39.640 Well, yeah.

00:23:40.040 So, I mean, we'll keep going.

00:23:42.260 Go ahead.

00:23:42.860 Okay.

00:23:43.120 So, I learned, so I work for the City College football team.

00:23:51.020 And I do their photography.

00:23:52.060 So, I've learned that they, like, I just get to talk to the guys.

00:23:57.060 And I've learned that, you know, some guys like women who are very high maintenance.

00:24:01.680 Because they like to know that they come from something.

00:24:04.920 Erroneous.

00:24:06.220 Erroneous.

00:24:07.980 Guys like women who are high maintenance.

00:24:10.520 I've had a few of my friends.

00:24:12.240 Right.

00:24:12.660 No.

00:24:13.460 I've had a few of my friends that have said, like, oh, I like a woman that's high maintenance.

00:24:17.920 Because that's how I know.

00:24:18.860 So, that's how I know that she comes from something.

00:24:21.700 That her family comes from something.

00:24:23.920 And then I've had.

00:24:24.540 So, like, spoiled?

00:24:25.880 Yeah.

00:24:26.080 A little bit.

00:24:27.000 He, like, one of my friends likes him spoiled.

00:24:29.100 And he has a very specific type.

00:24:30.480 He likes him skinny.

00:24:32.100 Like, he likes him petite.

00:24:33.620 And high maintenance.

00:24:35.120 And then I have friends that, like, um.

00:24:37.800 Is this a football player?

00:24:39.860 Yes.

00:24:40.680 He wants to throw it around.

00:24:43.560 No.

00:24:44.140 And then I have, like, one of my very good friends also likes him, like, more laid back.

00:24:48.640 Chill.

00:24:49.160 Likes, like, a sneaker head.

00:24:50.360 Like, likes to just, like, you know, just chill.

00:24:53.400 And then the other one likes to go rape.

00:24:54.960 You know what I mean?

00:24:55.520 Like, it's just.

00:24:55.980 It depends on the butt.

00:24:57.760 Yeah.

00:24:58.000 And then big butt.

00:24:59.080 But then there's a difference with, like, petite girl big butt.

00:25:02.120 And then, like, thick big butt.

00:25:03.340 Of course.

00:25:04.020 So, it's really interesting getting to hear, like, these perspectives.

00:25:06.600 Because I'm like, you guys are weird.

00:25:08.320 But, you know.

00:25:10.660 I don't think there's any guy that likes high maintenance.

00:25:16.320 I disagree.

00:25:18.480 He's got to be.

00:25:19.420 There's no way.

00:25:20.160 There's no way.

00:25:21.200 Just his reason was because he knew.

00:25:23.420 That's how he knows that she comes from something.

00:25:25.820 Like, family-wise.

00:25:26.600 Like, money-wise.

00:25:28.420 So, is he a brokie?

00:25:30.500 No.

00:25:31.560 Like, but so.

00:25:32.200 It's not at all.

00:25:34.080 But what is the appeal of dating someone?

00:25:38.160 I mean, I kind of get it.

00:25:39.100 I can also say something.

00:25:40.060 Because she's like a woman that knows what she wants in a way.

00:25:42.040 And knows how to, like, handle herself and take care of herself.

00:25:44.980 And, like, keep herself up there.

00:25:46.360 Well, I would actually make the argument that the woman who grew up with nothing.

00:25:50.440 Yeah.

00:25:50.460 That's what I was going to say.

00:25:50.900 She actually is probably more capable of.

00:25:53.780 She wants to make the money.

00:25:54.320 I agree with that.

00:25:54.920 To provide for herself.

00:25:55.800 But being.

00:25:56.920 Like, if you've just been handed everything.

00:25:58.940 Yeah.

00:25:59.480 If you've been handed everything your entire life.

00:26:01.680 Like, I don't think you're going to.

00:26:04.020 I don't know.

00:26:04.580 It depends.

00:26:05.140 No, I agree with that.

00:26:05.780 But I do think there is also something to people may be drawn to people within their socioeconomic level.

00:26:14.980 Right.

00:26:15.920 Sorry, did you finish all the?

00:26:17.740 Yeah, I'm good.

00:26:18.140 Okay.

00:26:19.200 Okay, yeah.

00:26:20.020 I feel like I agree, though.

00:26:21.020 Everyone has their own preferences.

00:26:22.440 So it would be, like, whatever that guy likes.

00:26:24.880 Like, the type of body on a girl.

00:26:26.900 And then a pretty face.

00:26:28.180 And then, yeah, like, cleanliness.

00:26:29.600 And then personality, I guess.

00:26:33.880 Independent.

00:26:36.360 I feel like guys like funny girls.

00:26:39.400 And.

00:26:41.700 What?

00:26:43.020 Do they not?

00:26:44.980 I'm going to be honest.

00:26:47.260 I don't think we care.

00:26:49.100 For me, and I think a lot of guys, we don't give a fuck if you're funny.

00:26:55.720 We do not care.

00:26:57.120 I don't care.

00:26:57.960 What if she's not pretty?

00:26:58.880 And I've never.

00:26:59.860 What if she's not pretty?

00:27:01.060 She has to make up for it somehow.

00:27:02.620 Like, not not pretty.

00:27:02.640 But, like, yeah.

00:27:03.140 You know?

00:27:03.600 Like, give her a fuck if she's not pretty, but she's funny.

00:27:06.640 Like, you know, sometimes men aren't cute.

00:27:08.400 But they're funny.

00:27:09.620 But they really like the personality.

00:27:11.340 It does.

00:27:11.700 A hundred percent.

00:27:12.260 If he is not.

00:27:13.900 Say that he, like, the.

00:27:14.840 Oh, he's a ten, but, you know.

00:27:15.940 But, like, say that he's, like, a solid six, but he has jokes and can make me laugh.

00:27:20.020 Like, the joke.

00:27:20.780 Like, oh, like, we like a funny guy because we laugh when our eyes are closed.

00:27:24.440 You know?

00:27:25.240 Like, have you heard that?

00:27:26.280 Like, girls go for the funny guys because when they laugh, their eyes are closed and they can't look at me.

00:27:30.720 It's a thing.

00:27:31.900 Well, so I agree with you that I think a lot of women enjoy a guy who's funny.

00:27:37.840 I'm not sure if there's a symmetry there.

00:27:39.440 I don't know if men.

00:27:40.860 I don't.

00:27:41.500 Honestly, a lot of men, they don't give a fuck if you're funny.

00:27:45.040 Really?

00:27:45.460 And I don't think.

00:27:46.380 It's the ass.

00:27:48.800 No.

00:27:49.560 Honestly.

00:27:50.360 I will say this.

00:27:51.160 I'm not saying that men strictly.

00:27:53.840 I'm not saying that men strictly want.

00:27:57.460 All they care about is looks.

00:27:58.840 But personality-wise, I think funny is, like, low on the totem pole.

00:28:06.580 Personality-wise, yeah.

00:28:07.700 I think most guys would probably prefer, like.

00:28:11.540 A dull girl.

00:28:12.380 Bitch.

00:28:13.300 A bland bitch.

00:28:13.840 Yes.

00:28:14.460 A bland girl.

00:28:15.660 Damn.

00:28:16.120 I thought I was funny.

00:28:17.380 I'm going to say I think a lot of guys just want a super chill, mellow, demure.

00:28:22.840 Demure.

00:28:24.100 Just, like, submissive.

00:28:26.060 Submissive.

00:28:26.580 Submissive.

00:28:27.260 Quiet.

00:28:27.980 Peaceful.

00:28:28.640 That's what Andrew Tate wants.

00:28:29.160 Funny chicks.

00:28:30.840 Andrew Tate.

00:28:31.420 We should pull up a video, maybe.

00:28:33.000 That's what he wants.

00:28:34.600 What?

00:28:35.140 Andrew Tate.

00:28:36.560 He knows a thing or two.

00:28:38.300 But we'll get back to Andrew Tate.

00:28:41.520 We'll have you give your take.

00:28:43.820 So, I think, yeah.

00:28:45.820 I mean, it's just, it's the same answer every time.

00:28:48.260 It's like, all guys are going to have their own preferences.

00:28:53.340 Yeah, just generally speaking, though.

00:28:55.500 Yeah.

00:28:56.680 Generally, I think, looks-wise, most guys aren't going to want a super lazy girl, whether it's,

00:29:03.120 like, you work out all the time or, you know, you go out and do things.

00:29:06.540 You don't sit in bed all day.

00:29:08.220 But then again, some guys like the home body.

00:29:10.220 So, it's like, there's not, I really don't feel like there's any actual type that a guy

00:29:15.840 looks at, personality or, like, or just physical.

00:29:19.500 It's like, you know, whether you're thin or you're thicker.

00:29:23.380 Ass, tits, pretty face.

00:29:25.360 Like, that's pretty much the main thing.

00:29:28.220 If you keep up with yourself, you know, I feel like guys really look maybe at, like,

00:29:32.320 hygiene.

00:29:34.060 Personality-wise, I would think that, yeah.

00:29:37.920 If some guys actually do like it where they feel like the girl doesn't have their life

00:29:43.320 together, so they're, like, either, like, their protector or, I feel like guys like to

00:29:48.100 be the protector sometimes.

00:29:49.560 I don't know.

00:29:49.980 So, you're saying guys like when a girl doesn't have her life together?

00:29:53.780 No, no, no.

00:29:54.140 I'm saying some guys do want the mommy type, and then other guys want, you know, that not

00:30:02.040 not have their life together.

00:30:03.100 I don't know how to say it the right way, but.

00:30:05.460 To, like, help her.

00:30:06.140 Help her.

00:30:06.780 Yeah.

00:30:07.180 Yeah.

00:30:07.600 Yeah, exactly.

00:30:08.540 Captain Save-A-Home?

00:30:09.420 Yeah, Captain Save-A-Home.

00:30:10.340 Situationally.

00:30:10.920 I don't know.

00:30:11.900 But, like, like, I don't know.

00:30:15.280 Some guys like the independent woman, and then other guys like to be their protector,

00:30:19.900 I guess.

00:30:20.400 I don't know if I'm saying it the right way, but.

00:30:23.000 That makes sense.

00:30:23.380 Do you guys get what I'm saying?

00:30:24.380 Yeah, that makes sense.

00:30:25.740 As long as they got it.

00:30:27.160 We got you.

00:30:29.460 Well, I feel like looks-wise, they all do seem to go for ass, boobs.

00:30:34.420 What do they go for?

00:30:36.300 It's, like, unrealistic sometimes, but, you know, sometimes they have, like, this unrealistic,

00:30:41.200 you know, curvy, flat tummy, big boobs, big butt, but at the end of the day, they're

00:30:45.800 going to settle for what they like.

00:30:47.740 But, like, personality-wise, I feel like they split into two categories.

00:30:51.480 Like, some men do like, like she said, like, the mommy type.

00:30:54.760 They want to be taken care of.

00:30:56.020 A girl that will cook for them, clean for them, do their laundry, you know, be there

00:30:59.920 to listen, kind of just baby them a little.

00:31:02.200 And some men do like a girl who, I get what you were trying to say.

00:31:05.860 Like, the men like to be dominant, feel dominant.

00:31:09.560 They like to feel dominant, pretty much.

00:31:11.140 But a baby behind closed doors.

00:31:12.480 And then dominant on the outside.

00:31:14.680 Like, they want to build, bitch.

00:31:15.680 That's what I was trying to say.

00:31:16.820 Yeah.

00:31:17.340 Like, some men don't like a girl.

00:31:18.620 Like, they kind of feel threatened if the girl has more money than them, you know?

00:31:21.320 Because now they're feeling like, well, what can I give to you?

00:31:23.460 Totally.

00:31:23.580 And so, that's, they kind of split two ways on what men like.

00:31:27.540 It seems like, at least, from a girl's point of view.

00:31:30.980 That's why we're here.

00:31:31.720 The breadwinner.

00:31:33.580 Yeah, that whole discussion in terms of who's the breadwinner, that is an interesting one.

00:31:38.800 Um, I think, uh, because I do think, at least in the past, one of the ways men made themselves

00:31:47.480 attractive to women is by being a provider.

00:31:51.440 But that's, that's, that's still to this day, but that's kind of gone for the most part.

00:31:55.740 Yeah, we balanced it out.

00:31:57.200 Because women are, women are going to college, getting jobs.

00:32:00.520 A lot of women are out earning men.

00:32:01.940 And actually, they did a study that, uh, women who live in cities who are, uh, single, it's

00:32:08.160 not even single, who are unmarried and childless between the ages of 18 and 29 are out earning

00:32:13.920 their male counterparts.

00:32:16.000 In, in, I think even in Santa Barbara, they released a study recently throughout numerous

00:32:21.380 major cities.

00:32:22.080 Um, in that, in that specific, uh, age demographic, never married, no kids.

00:32:29.040 Um, but that's changing.

00:32:31.200 So, but you also hear these stories of, amongst older professional women, that they're failing

00:32:40.240 to find men who are financially attractive.

00:32:45.500 Mm-hmm.

00:32:46.740 So, there's, there's that going on.

00:32:48.900 So, yeah, um, so, just curious, show of hands, or maybe we can go around the table.

00:32:57.900 Do you think that, since we're on the topic of finances, do you guys think that guys care

00:33:04.960 about how much money a woman makes?

00:33:08.240 Hmm.

00:33:09.860 I can, I mean.

00:33:11.060 Let's start with you.

00:33:14.160 I, no, I don't think they care.

00:33:16.560 I think as long as you're not, like, a mooch and, like, being, I mean, at this age, at,

00:33:23.160 like, in our, all, in our 20s, I think everybody, man or woman, is kind of, like, you know, just

00:33:30.080 creating their financial structure.

00:33:32.100 But, so, as of now, no.

00:33:35.780 I don't think they care.

00:33:36.820 But, at any point, because, yeah, if you're in college, sure, like, most guys, they're

00:33:42.660 not, like, thinking so much, I'd say women, too, they're not really so concerned with the

00:33:49.280 other person's finances.

00:33:50.960 But, I think once you start getting into the, into, uh, your profession, you get a bit older,

00:33:56.080 then it is a bit more of a consideration.

00:33:57.860 I think, as our generation grows to be in our 30s and 40s, that it will matter more, maybe,

00:34:06.720 to men, if you are, like, financially, like, okay.

00:34:10.940 But, like you said, like, in the past, like, the generation of our parents, it was, you know,

00:34:17.220 men were taught to be the providers for their families.

00:34:20.000 But, it's changing now.

00:34:22.660 So, I think, yeah, as we get older, maybe, yes, they will probably care.

00:34:29.520 But, like.

00:34:30.780 So, wait, as men will care more as they get older?

00:34:37.000 Of our generation.

00:34:38.700 Okay.

00:34:39.540 So, like, this generation now, as of 2020, too.

00:34:46.420 I think that's the year.

00:34:47.700 Yeah, I think that's the year, too.

00:34:50.000 Um, I think that it was very much, men were, like, breadwinners.

00:34:55.740 I mean, that's how they would provide.

00:34:58.760 But, I think as we kind of balance out as we get older, I mean, it might make a difference.

00:35:05.020 So, I'm going to say, yes, maybe they'll care if a woman is financially stable as we get older.

00:35:12.480 Right?

00:35:14.000 Maybe.

00:35:16.780 Yeah.

00:35:17.260 So, kind of building off of that.

00:35:19.300 I think it depends.

00:35:20.380 I think there's different types of men.

00:35:22.740 There's the man who doesn't care what they make and likes.

00:35:27.420 So, say it's, like, you're dating or involved or with whatever, a guy.

00:35:32.780 And they make a lot of money, say.

00:35:34.900 And, say, you make a lot or don't make a lot.

00:35:37.000 It might not matter.

00:35:37.620 Or, they just want to pay for everything or, like, take care of you in a way to make it seem like they're the caregiver of the relationship or whatever it is.

00:35:44.700 Or, there's the one that, like, just.

00:35:50.820 Wants a 50-50.

00:35:51.760 Yeah, 50-50.

00:35:54.940 Or, there's a, I think it's also, like, a thing if they don't want to pay for everything or give a lot.

00:36:01.240 Say, like, the woman doesn't make a lot and they just take, take, take, but don't seem very appreciative of it.

00:36:06.320 I think that's where, like, it kind of gets up to be a big problem.

00:36:11.240 Sure.

00:36:11.520 Yeah.

00:36:13.100 But, yeah.

00:36:15.300 Actually, let's just switch up the question.

00:36:17.500 Switch up?

00:36:17.760 Okay.

00:36:18.040 Yeah, so.

00:36:20.560 Who pays on a first date?

00:36:25.980 Alondra.

00:36:27.240 I guess whoever initiated the date, whoever asks, because I feel like if you're asking, or I'll put it this way, since usually men ask.

00:36:35.460 If I'm asking you to go out and I'm picking the place, then, I mean, obviously, I'm not going to expect your pockets to be at that level.

00:36:42.880 Like, what if I pick, like, a fancy restaurant and you're in pockets right there?

00:36:45.840 Wait, so this is a first date, but you're, you're going to pick.

00:36:48.560 But let's see, I invite, yes.

00:36:49.600 If I invite them and I pick this place, I wouldn't expect them to pay.

00:36:54.460 So, are you paying for everything?

00:36:55.960 I'll pay.

00:36:56.320 Or is it split?

00:36:56.920 So, I guess it kind of, it depends.

00:36:58.200 The answer is, it depends on who asks who.

00:37:00.020 Who's initiating the first date.

00:37:01.940 Okay.

00:37:02.460 So, if I ask, then, yeah, I'll pay.

00:37:04.180 Sure.

00:37:04.760 But if he asked.

00:37:06.080 So, I'll ask the question.

00:37:08.740 A guy asks you out, first date, does he pay or do you split?

00:37:13.860 If a guy asks me out and he wants to go out with me, like.

00:37:19.760 For dinner or drink.

00:37:20.660 Yeah.

00:37:21.180 You know, if you want me to come out with you, then I would expect you to pay.

00:37:26.100 If, you know, however, we are young.

00:37:29.060 If he wants to go out and have a good time and, you know, we get there, we have drinks,

00:37:33.680 the bill comes out a little bit more expensive than he was anticipating it was going to be.

00:37:37.120 And he's like, yo, you know, it's a hard time.

00:37:40.080 I wanted to be, I wanted to go out with you.

00:37:42.000 But, you know, times are hard.

00:37:44.100 I'd be like, look, I'll split with you.

00:37:45.460 Or, you know, how hard are times?

00:37:47.380 Because, you know, I'd help out.

00:37:51.120 But, you know, initially, I would think that you would pay for it if you were asking me out.

00:37:54.560 If he asked to split, is there going to be a second date?

00:37:59.180 Or is that just a deal breaker?

00:38:00.660 It depends.

00:38:00.980 No, it really just depends on the circumstances.

00:38:02.920 Sure.

00:38:03.280 But, you know, if you're, like, asking me out and then you make it seem like, hey, I've got everything.

00:38:09.840 And then, you know, we finish the date and it's like, yo, can we split?

00:38:15.200 I'd be like, yeah, that's fine.

00:38:17.600 And then maybe, yeah, I don't know.

00:38:21.860 I don't ever want to say no, there would be no second date.

00:38:25.280 But at the same time, it's like, I don't know.

00:38:28.800 I really don't know.

00:38:31.200 If a guy asked me out on a date, I would expect him to pay.

00:38:34.920 But, like, I would offer to be like, do you want to split it?

00:38:37.540 Usually, they'll say no.

00:38:38.940 So, I haven't had someone, like, say yes.

00:38:41.100 But I'll probably, like, get the dessert or, like, the tip maybe.

00:38:45.060 Like, something like that.

00:38:46.160 So, I'm not, like, just putting it all on him, you know?

00:38:48.580 What if you offered a split and he's like, okay.

00:38:54.360 I wouldn't immediately be like, there's no date.

00:38:56.380 Like, I would assess how the date went.

00:38:58.780 But would you be upset by that?

00:38:59.720 You offer a buddy set and he takes you up on your offer.

00:39:03.200 I feel like I wouldn't be mad because I offered.

00:39:04.660 Okay, sure.

00:39:05.600 Yeah, but that's just me.

00:39:06.680 But would it be a deal breaker to split?

00:39:10.800 I don't think so.

00:39:11.860 Like, it depends where we go to.

00:39:12.840 If it's really expensive, like, I don't expect him to pay the full thing.

00:39:15.940 Sure.

00:39:16.100 Or I'll get the dessert, you know?

00:39:18.240 Kiki, what do you think?

00:39:20.540 She's a baby.

00:39:23.420 Personally, I'm always one to split.

00:39:25.680 Like, I prefer splitting.

00:39:28.200 I'm also the one that asks the guys out.

00:39:30.360 And all I've, like, I've gone up to a guy at a bar and be like, hey, I think you're really attractive.

00:39:34.200 Can I get your number?

00:39:35.080 Go out for a drink sometime.

00:39:36.520 And, you know, like, I'm always one to, like, I'm down to, like, buy the drinks since I've offered to buy the drinks.

00:39:42.460 And I have before.

00:39:43.200 Like, I've gone out with a guy.

00:39:44.540 I asked him out.

00:39:45.820 We went to dinner.

00:39:46.860 He bought dinner.

00:39:47.800 And then we went to the bar and I bought the drinks.

00:39:49.580 And the bartender was kind of taken back by that.

00:39:51.200 He's like, oh, like, kind of made a comment about it.

00:39:52.980 And I was like, I don't know.

00:39:54.400 For me, like, I'm comfortable enough.

00:39:55.940 Like, I'm happy to split the bill.

00:39:57.660 And there's totally a second date if we split the bill.

00:39:59.940 It doesn't affect me.

00:40:00.840 Wait, so you said that you're going up to guys asking them out on dates?

00:40:05.780 Yeah.

00:40:06.400 More often than the reverse.

00:40:08.900 I haven't had a guy ask me out in, I don't remember.

00:40:13.220 But, I mean, like, I'm more comfortable now going out and being like, hey, I think you're really attractive.

00:40:19.220 Can I get your number?

00:40:20.020 Like, let's go out for drinks or something.

00:40:22.140 That's just me.

00:40:23.700 Are you on any dating apps?

00:40:26.560 I'm on Tinder, but I don't use it.

00:40:29.300 I'm, like, never really on it, but I have it.

00:40:32.340 Yeah.

00:40:33.280 Same with me.

00:40:34.140 I am very down to split anything, especially at this age.

00:40:37.360 Like, it would be more expected, like, when I'm older, if a guy asks me out on a date to say, like, to, like, pay for the bill just because we're older and we have the finance to do so.

00:40:48.160 But I think at this age, at any point in time, I think it's fine to split the bill, especially if it's an expensive restaurant and they're like, I want to go out with you, blah, blah, blah.

00:41:00.360 But then I don't think if you put it all on him, it's a little hard to afford at this age, if that makes sense.

00:41:08.280 Sure.

00:41:09.080 And so you were saying that when you got a bit older, at that point, you might feel a bit more of an expectation.

00:41:18.700 If they're the one to initiate it.

00:41:21.420 Okay.

00:41:21.620 It's kind of, like, a little.

00:41:25.700 They asked, they should pay.

00:41:27.620 Okay.

00:41:29.960 Spearman Rhino Girl.

00:41:32.300 Okay.

00:41:38.380 Oh, oh, sorry.

00:41:39.860 I was waiting for you to ask questions.

00:41:41.700 So sorry.

00:41:45.380 Okay.

00:41:45.780 I would say, I mean, split it.

00:41:50.920 If they're, like, a cool person, like, I like to vibe with somebody before.

00:41:55.880 So I would like to be, like, friends on the initial level.

00:41:59.640 Let's say if it's an older man, then I expect him to, like, pay.

00:42:04.120 But if we're, like, in the same age range, then I would say split it.

00:42:08.780 Or if we got dinner and then went to the bar after and got drinks, then if he pays for dinner, then I'll pay for drinks.

00:42:15.820 So I would say, like, equal.

00:42:18.160 Because you're just getting to know each other.

00:42:20.180 So there's, I mean.

00:42:22.720 Okay.

00:42:23.360 Right?

00:42:23.680 I have a bit of a hot take on this one.

00:42:26.760 So probably going to get hate from both men and women on this.

00:42:32.340 I love this.

00:42:33.260 So this whole idea of whoever asks should pay, I do feel like ignores the fact that de facto, the vast majority of men, they have to be the ones who initiate and ask for a date.

00:42:50.920 Now, occasionally a girl will go up.

00:42:56.940 Maybe sometimes there's outliers.

00:42:58.640 But I'd say most men's experiences, especially the average man's experiences, if he wants to go on a date, to go anywhere, he's going to have to initiate almost every single step along the way.

00:43:11.480 So, by the way, 2022, feminism, equality, all that.

00:43:17.220 So, boom.

00:43:19.420 Yeah, I guess we'll go 50-50.

00:43:22.540 So I think that's my take.

00:43:25.380 And, yeah.

00:43:28.240 Right?

00:43:29.820 That's fair.

00:43:30.620 You can't be feminist until the check comes.

00:43:34.240 Shit's 50-50.

00:43:35.620 Agreed.

00:43:36.540 Okay.

00:43:37.440 So, anyways.

00:43:40.680 Let's read some quick super chats.

00:43:42.360 And then I'm going to come in with my take kind of on the whole standards thing.

00:43:48.840 So we just have two here.

00:43:50.500 We'll get through them really quick.

00:43:51.920 And a couple interesting comments.

00:43:53.700 Really quick, ladies.

00:43:55.100 Vitaly ZDTV asks, I don't think that's the real one.

00:43:59.240 Would any of you date a felon?

00:44:01.560 Really quick, just yes.

00:44:03.140 We'll go around the table.

00:44:04.320 Alondra?

00:44:04.880 No.

00:44:07.260 Maybe.

00:44:08.360 Is it a maybe?

00:44:09.540 Murder.

00:44:09.900 Murder, no, but if it was like assault, maybe he changed or something.

00:44:16.040 Okay, what about tax evasion?

00:44:19.920 Has he changed?

00:44:21.260 No, he's going to continue evading tax.

00:44:23.580 Oh, then no.

00:44:25.560 Murder, no.

00:44:27.380 No.

00:44:29.560 Yes.

00:44:30.640 I have a crazy story about that.

00:44:32.760 So.

00:44:34.160 One of my ex-boyfriends is in prison for murder.

00:44:37.860 Oh, shit.

00:44:39.100 Yeah.

00:44:39.260 No names.

00:44:40.340 So, why don't you tell us a little bit about that?

00:44:44.940 Wait.

00:44:45.620 You were with him while he was, did you meet him?

00:44:50.780 Out.

00:44:51.000 Yeah, we were just kids.

00:44:52.860 So he's actually, we were just teenagers when it actually happened.

00:44:56.680 And we hadn't dated for a few years.

00:44:59.400 We were just kids.

00:45:00.820 And, you know, I knew his whole family, everything like that.

00:45:03.860 He's a good person and some bad circumstances happened.

00:45:07.580 And the environment we were in at the time happened to be an area where a lot of people recklessly carried guns.

00:45:15.900 And the worst of the worst happened.

00:45:18.180 And he's currently in prison right now for murder.

00:45:21.780 And aside from that, I've also, I've also dated like a couple felons.

00:45:31.400 I, well, maybe I shouldn't say too much.

00:45:34.760 But, yeah, I also, I might say this as well.

00:45:37.920 I caught a felony charge when I was 17.

00:45:40.860 And thankfully, it got wiped off my record.

00:45:43.640 So knowing.

00:45:44.000 Was it the drug dealing?

00:45:45.300 It actually was for, it was for that.

00:45:49.200 But, so I would say you can't really judge anybody for that kind of stuff.

00:45:54.220 I mean, it is a hard life to come after, especially if you catch a charge like that, after 18.

00:46:00.440 I think people can be rehabilitated, you know.

00:46:03.100 Yeah.

00:46:03.220 But, so tell us about, so you met him in prison or?

00:46:07.120 No, we were kids.

00:46:08.360 We were teenagers together, and we had dated previous to that.

00:46:12.180 And he went through some hard circumstances where his parents had, they had been together.

00:46:18.980 He was one of seven, and he was the last one.

00:46:21.760 And his mom had been with his dad for years and years and years.

00:46:25.780 And as soon as they got a divorce, she decided that she was going to leave him in his sophomore year alone in Colorado.

00:46:33.520 What was the crime that he committed?

00:46:35.640 He committed murder.

00:46:37.040 Oh, duh.

00:46:37.480 Okay.

00:46:37.880 Yeah.

00:46:38.080 Was it in self-defense, or was it just, let's not get into it.

00:46:42.820 We won't get into it.

00:46:43.680 But how long were you dating him?

00:46:45.680 Well, again, we were kids, so it's not like we were, like, probably three years.

00:46:52.900 Did you visit him in prison?

00:46:54.280 I did visit him while he was still in jail, previous to COVID.

00:46:57.920 So you were with him for three years.

00:46:59.160 At what point in the relationship did the murder happen?

00:47:02.660 So we were, like, off and on.

00:47:05.200 At one point, we had a really strong relationship where he was in a difficult area where I knew he was seeing other girls, but, like, I supported him because he was my friend.

00:47:15.580 And whatever, we were dating on and off.

00:47:18.240 It's a huge, long story, but at probably the end, probably, like, year three.

00:47:24.380 I mean, I still talk to him.

00:47:25.700 I still get letters and everything like that.

00:47:28.060 So shortly after he went to prison is when, or shortly after he was arrested is when the relationship ended.

00:47:37.920 It had ended, like, a few months, like, a little bit before that, but we were, like, off and on.

00:47:44.560 We were, like, really close friends.

00:47:46.540 So I guess it had ended previous to that, but we were still close.

00:47:50.000 Okay, got it.

00:47:51.000 Because we were kids.

00:47:52.420 Good times.

00:47:53.220 Okay.

00:47:53.560 Yeah.

00:47:54.040 I'm sure Vitaly here appreciates all your answers.

00:47:57.680 Okay.

00:47:58.720 Let's see.

00:47:59.440 American Network against Labia Plasty.

00:48:02.540 I'm with you, Brian.

00:48:03.420 Labia love.

00:48:04.180 All labia matter.

00:48:06.280 Yes.

00:48:07.800 Justice for Audis.

00:48:09.460 Okay.

00:48:10.280 Let's see.

00:48:11.680 Steven Stifler.

00:48:13.480 Ask the ladies to...

00:48:14.940 Stifler back again.

00:48:16.760 Dude, he did this...

00:48:17.480 I don't know what this...

00:48:18.820 No.

00:48:19.300 Stifler.

00:48:20.220 Read the question.

00:48:21.000 I can't read this.

00:48:22.020 I don't know.

00:48:22.640 I don't know how to do it.

00:48:23.300 On a scale of one to ten.

00:48:24.420 Ask the ladies to rate themselves on a scale of one to ten.

00:48:26.900 We can do this at the same time.

00:48:27.840 Ready?

00:48:28.520 One.

00:48:29.840 Are you all going to give the same answer?

00:48:34.400 Yes.

00:48:35.800 Why don't we just go around the table?

00:48:38.060 Alondra.

00:48:38.940 Honest answers?

00:48:40.860 Honest answer.

00:48:41.900 Ten.

00:48:42.220 Rate your physical appearance.

00:48:43.900 Ten.

00:48:44.180 Ten.

00:48:44.680 Ten.

00:48:45.720 Okay.

00:48:46.020 Say it.

00:48:46.880 You're a ten.

00:48:47.380 You're a fucking ten.

00:48:48.380 Just to be clear, we're not, you know, considering personality, any of these things.

00:48:53.820 Like, ten.

00:48:54.280 Strictly looks ten.

00:48:55.420 Okay.

00:48:55.720 Strictly looks, I guess, a ten.

00:48:58.080 I don't...

00:48:58.420 I already said this.

00:48:59.260 I'm a ten.

00:48:59.640 Yeah, I'm a ten.

00:49:01.600 Ten.

00:49:02.580 Ten.

00:49:03.200 Ten all around.

00:49:05.160 You are a ten.

00:49:07.000 Oh, me?

00:49:07.880 Oh, God damn it.

00:49:10.400 Yeah, probably a ten.

00:49:12.900 Okay.

00:49:15.020 Everyone's a ten.

00:49:16.640 Everyone's a ten.

00:49:17.240 I like that guy.

00:49:18.440 I mean, Stephen Stifler.

00:49:20.080 I don't like him.

00:49:21.900 I don't want to be honest.

00:49:22.740 Ten, though?

00:49:23.360 Really?

00:49:23.540 I don't want to be honest.

00:49:24.520 You don't think we're ten?

00:49:25.240 I asked you this yesterday, and you didn't answer.

00:49:27.180 It's a little bit...

00:49:27.800 Don't you think it's a bit hubris?

00:49:29.820 You know, a little bit of hubris?

00:49:31.220 Can I be honest?

00:49:32.920 What do you think you are?

00:49:34.060 I'm, like, a six.

00:49:35.960 That's what I'm...

00:49:36.700 But are you funny?

00:49:37.780 Do you get those extra points if you're funny?

00:49:39.620 Like, 6.9, maybe on a good day?

00:49:42.000 I don't know.

00:49:42.700 Personally, like...

00:49:43.100 I need to lose a bit of weight, so...

00:49:43.900 I think I'm, like, a seven.

00:49:45.360 A strong seven.

00:49:46.320 Oh, there we go.

00:49:47.020 Thank you for the...

00:49:48.060 I do say ten when I look in the right mirror, but I don't think...

00:49:53.100 Okay, I think...

00:49:54.640 Yes.

00:49:55.660 Okay.

00:49:56.700 Confident-wise, I will say ten, but, like, seven is, I feel like, is a good number because...

00:50:01.380 Damn, Mike David.

00:50:02.220 I don't know.

00:50:03.200 See, I agree.

00:50:04.060 There's, like, days where I'm just, like, shit.

00:50:05.960 Like, I look like a mess.

00:50:06.860 Like, I'm not feeling my best.

00:50:08.140 Yeah.

00:50:08.440 But, like, there's days where I'm, like, in the gym, and I'm just, like, okay, like, I look

00:50:11.640 really good.

00:50:12.480 I know I'm not a perfect ten.

00:50:14.360 Right.

00:50:14.580 But, like, I also, like, I'm working on myself to, like, be the most confident and, like,

00:50:19.520 feel the best that I can, and, like, you know, when I feel the best I can, like, yeah, like,

00:50:23.040 I'm a ten.

00:50:23.500 Like, I'm...

00:50:23.820 And it's, like, what's the standard of ten?

00:50:26.180 Yeah.

00:50:26.380 So, it's, like, what are we comparing ourselves to if there's a standard?

00:50:30.200 Yeah.

00:50:30.400 To me, you see, you can't just...

00:50:32.100 To each their own.

00:50:34.600 To each their own.

00:50:36.460 Okay.

00:50:37.860 All right.

00:50:39.540 No comment.

00:50:42.020 So, okay, I'll ask one question, then.

00:50:45.620 So, I asked this the last time.

00:50:48.080 If y'all are ten...

00:50:50.080 Seven.

00:50:51.700 You deserve a guy who's a ten, right?

00:50:53.640 So, who's a ten guy that you...

00:50:56.440 I mean, you would deserve?

00:50:59.800 Brad Pitt, when he was, like, 22?

00:51:02.760 I don't know.

00:51:03.380 I don't think it's...

00:51:04.120 Brad Pitt?

00:51:04.800 Looks matter.

00:51:05.440 Yeah.

00:51:05.980 I mean, looks matter.

00:51:07.300 Looks matter.

00:51:08.120 But, like, for me, personally, like, I don't know.

00:51:10.780 If they're funny and they have a good personality and they have, like, the aspects that I want

00:51:14.300 personality-wise, like, kind, good person, okay, then, you know, say you're not, like,

00:51:19.080 a ten, like, good looks, okay, like, I don't care, that's fine.

00:51:22.400 Like, if you can treat me well and you're a good person...

00:51:24.840 Well, I certainly...

00:51:25.960 I think Stifler here...

00:51:28.120 Oh, is he a ten?

00:51:29.120 Is he a ten?

00:51:29.640 Well, he may very well be.

00:51:31.640 But, so, he has...

00:51:32.960 Hmm.

00:51:34.320 He's asking, you know, just strictly looks.

00:51:37.700 Yeah.

00:51:38.280 And I certainly agree with you that your personality, who you are as a person, can make you more

00:51:44.180 attractive to a person or make you a better partner.

00:51:47.280 I think if you ask most guys if they'd rather be with a ten, but she's a bitch, or a girl

00:51:52.640 who's, like, six or seven, but she's really sweet, great, feminine, submissive, like, all

00:51:57.680 this stuff, they're gonna go with the girl who's less physically attractive.

00:52:03.720 That's me.

00:52:04.360 That's my take, anyways.

00:52:05.100 Agreed.

00:52:05.720 That's nice.

00:52:06.600 So, thank you, Stephen Stifler, for the question.

00:52:09.460 Mike Davis is roasting you guys in the chat, so let's see what he has to say.

00:52:14.180 Um, Mike Davis, $5.

00:52:17.920 Mike Davis, thank you for the...

00:52:19.200 How about it themselves?

00:52:20.240 What are they, then?

00:52:21.140 Thanks, brother.

00:52:22.040 Mike Davis, thank you for the $5 super chat.

00:52:24.320 All these girls definitely are a ten combined.

00:52:27.320 Oh, I didn't see that part.

00:52:29.940 Not my...

00:52:30.460 Well...

00:52:31.900 Not my words.

00:52:32.900 Not my words.

00:52:33.700 It's Mike Davis's words.

00:52:35.280 We have some other super chats here we're gonna go through.

00:52:37.920 Uh, Stephen Krug with the $5 super chat.

00:52:42.500 It might be super chat.

00:52:43.740 Uh, Stephen, good to see you again.

00:52:45.360 Thank you for the $5 super chat.

00:52:47.780 Stephen, or sorry, David Buss, evolutionary psych.

00:52:51.600 Sorry, guys.

00:52:52.680 Mumbling, stumbling.

00:52:53.960 English is my second language.

00:52:55.080 Says, mates are all about equal mate value.

00:52:58.280 The tens match with tens.

00:52:59.920 Fives match with five on intelligence and looks.

00:53:03.420 Stephen, you have to stop drinking while you're...

00:53:05.940 I need...

00:53:07.080 Dude, I'm slurring my words.

00:53:08.900 You think they're drinking?

00:53:11.020 I'm...

00:53:11.320 I'm totally sober, but English is my second language.

00:53:14.980 Uh, Stephen, you gotta stop being liquored up every time you watch the show,

00:53:18.120 because we cannot comprehend what you're saying.

00:53:20.140 But thank you for the $5 super chat.

00:53:21.420 Um, says mates are all about equal mate value.

00:53:25.460 The tens match with tens.

00:53:26.620 Fives...

00:53:26.860 Okay.

00:53:27.680 Uh, any...

00:53:28.560 Anyone have a take on this?

00:53:29.520 I wanna say...

00:53:30.800 Sure.

00:53:31.180 Come on in.

00:53:31.960 Like, personally, I would never...

00:53:36.380 Okay, if I were a perfect ten, I would not see a guy on the street who is trying to...

00:53:42.060 Or if he's trying to talk to me and, like, let's not...

00:53:44.680 Like, let's say he's not the perfect ten.

00:53:46.080 And I'm not gonna completely brush him off and be like, you're not a ten, you can't talk to me.

00:53:50.980 I'm not, you know, give the guy a chance, you know?

00:53:54.180 I'm all about give the guy a chance.

00:53:56.540 But at the same time, you know, if I'm...

00:54:00.780 Let's say I was, like, a four, and a ten comes up to me, I'm probably gonna be like, shit, why is he talking to me, you know?

00:54:08.360 But...

00:54:08.880 Or why is he giving me the time of day?

00:54:12.100 So, I don't know.

00:54:14.020 It's just kind of like...

00:54:15.240 It kind of just goes way back to when we were talking about preference in a person.

00:54:20.080 That's...

00:54:20.320 One.

00:54:21.740 Now I get that.

00:54:22.640 Now, that makes sense, you know?

00:54:24.120 Okay.

00:54:24.780 More Super Chats.

00:54:25.800 Steven, thank you again.

00:54:27.160 Mike Davis, $5 Super Chat.

00:54:28.980 Women do not out-earn men.

00:54:31.740 They legally make more money and don't know how to avoid Uncle Sam.

00:54:36.560 So, it looks that way on paper.

00:54:39.780 Women do not out-earn men.

00:54:41.620 They legally make...

00:54:42.860 Don't women make less in the office, too?

00:54:46.060 Like, aren't we, like, paid a little bit less than men?

00:54:49.620 Debunked.

00:54:50.420 It's been debunked.

00:54:52.500 The wage gap.

00:54:53.780 Debunked.

00:54:54.880 I disagree.

00:54:56.120 We can talk about it.

00:54:57.660 We can talk about it if you want.

00:54:58.900 I just...

00:54:59.560 I just worked at a job where, like, it was discussed throughout employees.

00:55:03.360 It wasn't legally discussed, but, like, we discussed it.

00:55:06.680 Men were making 50 cents more than females.

00:55:09.900 50 cents?

00:55:10.460 50 cents more than females.

00:55:12.220 And they had...

00:55:13.200 Oh, 50 cents more.

00:55:13.920 Okay.

00:55:14.380 I thought you were saying 50% more.

00:55:16.140 No, no, no.

00:55:16.540 50 cents more per hour.

00:55:18.660 And the male, like, supervisor had a desk.

00:55:22.500 And the female supervisor did not have his own desk.

00:55:25.000 So, I'm kind of like...

00:55:25.760 His?

00:55:26.320 The female supervisor did not have her own desk.

00:55:29.160 Excuse me.

00:55:29.680 Okay, sure, sure.

00:55:30.280 Her own desk.

00:55:30.520 But, I'm like, that's kind of...

00:55:32.300 Please respect.

00:55:33.360 Yeah.

00:55:33.960 Her pronouns.

00:55:35.140 Her pronouns, excuse me.

00:55:35.740 Please, please.

00:55:37.240 But, yeah, no.

00:55:38.200 I mean, it may have been debunked.

00:55:39.400 It was a while ago, for all I know.

00:55:41.220 But, no, women are paid less and not treated as well.

00:55:46.740 Erroneous!

00:55:48.060 Erroneous!

00:55:49.380 I mean, so, okay, the wage gap...

00:55:51.720 We're going in...

00:55:53.140 We're hitting a whole bunch of things.

00:55:54.400 Yeah.

00:55:55.200 The wage gap has been debunked by various economists.

00:56:00.020 Basically, what the wage gap is is...

00:56:01.820 I mean, and the number's always fluctuating.

00:56:03.740 It's, what is it?

00:56:04.560 80 cents on the dollar to what a man makes.

00:56:07.100 That's when you look at the broad, the entire population, and you add up all the money men

00:56:11.980 make, all the money women make, and you don't adjust for things like hours worked.

00:56:16.280 You don't adjust for educational level.

00:56:20.100 You don't adjust for...

00:56:22.200 What else?

00:56:23.900 The seniority.

00:56:25.840 You don't adjust for the type of job.

00:56:27.640 You don't adjust for overtime.

00:56:29.000 You don't adjust for all these factors.

00:56:30.980 If you really look and break down, you know, compare like to like, it's payscale.com recently

00:56:38.560 did a study, and it's, like, the wage gap, as it's so-called, it's really an earnings gap.

00:56:45.220 But it's been reduced.

00:56:47.340 It's, like, 99 cents to the dollar.

00:56:50.240 No comment?

00:56:57.540 No comment.

00:56:58.120 I honestly have no knowledge when it comes to...

00:57:00.840 If anyone disagrees, you're free to disagree.

00:57:04.160 I mean, I would also...

00:57:05.840 I've never worked in a workspace, though, where that came into play, like, because I am really

00:57:11.520 young still.

00:57:12.400 I've only ever worked in retail.

00:57:14.320 I'm a nanny right now, so it's, like, I get paid my own pay.

00:57:18.860 So I've never had to come into the wage gap situation, and I've never actually really had

00:57:24.360 any knowledge on wage gap personally, because I've never had to talk about it, and I've

00:57:29.380 never had to be aware of it.

00:57:31.180 So I don't really have anything to say on that, as far as I just don't know.

00:57:38.340 Word.

00:57:39.560 Yeah, cool.

00:57:40.560 I mean, I would just ask that, as far as the wage gap goes, if it was truly the case that

00:57:47.360 employers could pay women far less, then why would they hire men?

00:57:53.920 That, to me, it's like, if you can pay a woman less, then only women would get hired.

00:57:59.100 And it's also, since the 1960s, it's been written into law.

00:58:03.720 It is illegal to, for the same job, you know, equal pay, equal work.

00:58:08.580 It's illegal to do that.

00:58:10.140 So if you can prove, if you can show that you're being paid less than your exact counterpart,

00:58:17.420 you would have the basis of a, you could litigate.

00:58:25.440 Good times.

00:58:26.460 Okay.

00:58:27.080 So, okay, we're going to continue with the Super Chats here.

00:58:34.880 Let's see.

00:58:35.580 Okay, we got, did, Mike Davis.

00:58:40.080 Mike Davis again.

00:58:41.700 Yo, Mike Davis, Mike Davis, coming in clutch.

00:58:45.900 I think he's turning around.

00:58:47.080 I think he's becoming a supporter.

00:58:48.380 Mike Davis, thank you for the $5 Super Chat.

00:58:51.320 Much appreciated, man.

00:58:52.100 Listen, fellow kings, the best advice when it comes to women is to watch what they do,

00:58:57.240 not what they say.

00:59:00.180 Word.

00:59:00.880 I suppose that applies to both genders, though.

00:59:03.200 Watch what they do, not what they say.

00:59:07.460 Wise words from Mike Davis.

00:59:08.880 Thank you, sir.

00:59:10.340 Let's see.

00:59:12.020 Stephen Krug with the $2.

00:59:13.580 Please Google picture of Crazy Hot Matrix.

00:59:16.840 Stephen, we may, right now we have Eric on the ones and twos.

00:59:21.600 You sure?

00:59:22.560 You might butcher it.

00:59:23.900 You might butcher it, my friend.

00:59:25.940 What does that mean?

00:59:26.720 Um, also, wait, Eric, can you also Google, uh, payscale.com wage gap while we're at it?

00:59:37.080 We believe you.

00:59:38.060 I'm bored.

00:59:38.940 We believe you.

00:59:39.760 We believe you.

00:59:40.620 We're just too young to, like, actually know.

00:59:42.440 I'm bored with that.

00:59:43.940 A little bit.

00:59:44.820 We'll, we'll just pull it up real quick.

00:59:46.120 Just real quick.

00:59:46.520 This girl has to be at Spirit, I know, by 10.

00:59:52.520 We'll get her out.

00:59:53.480 We'll get her out.

00:59:54.340 We have a shift to clock in for.

00:59:55.880 We'll be fine.

00:59:56.140 I'll push it.

00:59:56.380 I'll push it a little bit.

00:59:57.340 Her VIPs are waiting there.

01:00:00.040 No.

01:00:01.200 We'll wait.

01:00:02.280 Eric.

01:00:02.740 We're fine.

01:00:03.400 Maybe those $5 super shots should be thrown on stage instead.

01:00:06.740 Give her the one.

01:00:08.260 Eric, do you have it?

01:00:09.520 The Crazy Hot Matrix, um, whoops, hold on.

01:00:12.420 Oh, he's coming for you, too, right there.

01:00:14.480 The Crazy Hot Matrix, um, let's see.

01:00:19.160 Uh, can you, uh, control mouse wheel that a little bigger, Eric?

01:00:25.000 There we go.

01:00:26.020 Oh.

01:00:26.400 Oh.

01:00:26.660 Oh, what the fuck?

01:00:27.780 Nothing I've ever heard.

01:00:30.760 The Crazy Hot Matrix.

01:00:32.380 Danger.

01:00:33.520 Uh-oh.

01:00:34.360 Facts.

01:00:36.180 Okay, you can, uh, did you pull up pay scale, Eric?

01:00:40.080 No.

01:00:40.720 Okay, forget it.

01:00:41.420 Yeah, just forget it.

01:00:42.200 You don't have to.

01:00:42.580 No, don't do it.

01:00:43.120 That applies to the pay scale.

01:00:44.100 Forget it, Eric.

01:00:44.900 Okay.

01:00:45.980 Uh, Brixen, do you wear the Slame flannel every pod?

01:00:52.140 Garbage fries.

01:00:53.100 Thank you for the $2 super chat.

01:00:55.400 I've switched it up.

01:00:56.420 I've worn three flannels.

01:00:58.500 I can't speak English, guys.

01:00:59.680 Sorry.

01:01:00.560 Uh, this is, yeah, I've only worn three different flannels, so I switch it up from time to time.

01:01:06.020 And then Steven, real quick, while we're on the super chats, $5 super chat.

01:01:10.060 Thank you, man.

01:01:10.480 Appreciate it.

01:01:10.960 Uh, the power trip type of personality in women, also in men, in different contexts, try to weaponize perceived misogyny for their own financial benefit.

01:01:20.460 Steven, I'm telling you, man, lay off the liquor, dude.

01:01:22.340 I can't understand what you are saying, but thank you for the support, man.

01:01:25.740 You sound like one of those nerds.

01:01:27.000 The power trip type of personality, trying to weaponize perceived misogyny for their own.

01:01:32.900 Bro, you got to write a book, dude.

01:01:34.500 You're eloquent as fuck.

01:01:35.640 I'm sorry.

01:01:36.140 I'm just not smart enough.

01:01:37.540 Steven, I'm not smart enough for you.

01:01:39.740 Okay, let's.

01:01:40.260 Yeah, yeah, we're gonna, we're bringing it back here.

01:01:43.380 Um, hold on just a sec, guys.

01:01:45.340 Okay, so, we were talking about standards, preferences.

01:01:53.980 Yeah, we're back.

01:01:54.560 Oh, my God.

01:01:54.960 We're back.

01:01:55.820 Boundaries.

01:01:57.040 Okay, they didn't like the wage gap talk, but, uh, you know, it's okay.

01:02:01.460 Uh, so, in our last show, uh, we had a bit of a heated, heated debate on a couple things.

01:02:10.260 Yeah.

01:02:10.700 Not, not you and me so much, but the armpit hair chick.

01:02:14.160 Feminist.

01:02:14.740 Feminist, yes.

01:02:16.000 Is that, is that, is that, is that crystal?

01:02:18.420 Yeah.

01:02:18.900 Crystal woman?

01:02:19.880 Uh-oh.

01:02:20.700 The crystal lady guy.

01:02:23.760 Yeah, so, um, one of the big preferences and standards that a few people on the panel took quarrel with,

01:02:33.260 and I'm gonna go through some other preferences and standards that men have,

01:02:36.520 but one of the big ones, or two of the big ones, is, so, one of the big things that men care about is,

01:02:44.800 and some people disagree, is, and this is, okay, so, one of the things men value in a woman is sexual purity.

01:02:52.080 So, low body count.

01:02:53.920 Okay.

01:02:54.900 Men like,

01:02:55.460 I figured that would come up.

01:02:56.700 Men, men like women with a low body count.

01:03:00.280 Um, so, that was the big one that came up.

01:03:03.780 Uh, so, why don't we talk a bit about body count?

01:03:07.300 Does body count matter?

01:03:09.460 No.

01:03:10.300 No.

01:03:10.700 No.

01:03:11.240 No.

01:03:12.120 No.

01:03:12.700 No.

01:03:12.920 No.

01:03:13.200 Wait, forgot.

01:03:14.000 No, actually.

01:03:14.620 No.

01:03:14.800 Well, for both.

01:03:15.460 We can say both, but let's say, should, I mean, if we want to frame it from the men's preference perspective,

01:03:21.640 should a woman's body count matter?

01:03:23.440 Or, we can keep it gender neutral.

01:03:25.900 Neither, no.

01:03:27.460 Should the body count matter?

01:03:30.520 I mean, no, but unfortunately, like, it does, to some degree.

01:03:36.160 What's the degree?

01:03:38.420 Like, of course, like, guys always talk about wanting a lady with a low body count, but do they have a low body count?

01:03:46.260 I don't know.

01:03:46.800 It's different.

01:03:47.160 I don't think it should matter.

01:03:48.860 I don't think that it's.

01:03:49.660 It's different.

01:03:50.080 As long as you're safe and you're, like, you know, I think that's a question that doesn't really matter to some people.

01:04:01.140 To some people.

01:04:02.360 Okay.

01:04:03.160 So, I'm going to give my take.

01:04:06.620 I'm going to just say a lot of men prefer women with a low body count.

01:04:12.620 Right.

01:04:12.840 If you line up 100 men and you say, would you prefer a girl who slept with fewer men?

01:04:17.900 They'd say yes.

01:04:18.760 No guy's going to say, if a guy has a girlfriend, no guy, he's going to say, no.

01:04:23.960 Obviously, I prefer not to date a whore.

01:04:26.260 Right.

01:04:26.700 No guy's going to be like, gee, I really wish, you know, my last girlfriend, or I really wish my current girlfriend had slept with more men.

01:04:33.940 No guy's going to say that.

01:04:35.400 Well, no guy, no guy or girl is going to, like, prefer to date somebody who's slept around.

01:04:44.220 But if they meet somebody.

01:04:45.960 Yeah.

01:04:46.460 For me, it's like, I would prefer, you know, to date somebody who, like, but if I meet them and I vibe with them and their body count's high, so what?

01:04:55.140 I'm not going to just, it's not going to be a deal breaker.

01:04:58.120 That's what I'm trying to say.

01:04:59.220 Like a whore.

01:04:59.420 But, I like a good whore.

01:05:02.420 I do, too.

01:05:02.980 Like, not a whore, but, like, you know, like, I don't know.

01:05:06.160 Experience, I guess.

01:05:07.320 No.

01:05:08.100 Yeah, like, honestly, like, I don't care.

01:05:10.460 Body count for me doesn't care at all.

01:05:11.800 Not one bit.

01:05:12.600 But, like, if they have a higher body count, they've been around a block, they kind of have some experience.

01:05:18.040 They kind of know, like, okay, because some guys don't know where stuff is.

01:05:22.740 At all.

01:05:23.800 So, hold on.

01:05:24.360 Let me ask you a question on that.

01:05:26.660 So, who do you think will be more experienced?

01:05:30.620 A guy who's had three long-term relationships each lasting a year and they were having consistent sex?

01:05:37.000 Or a guy who's slept with 70 women and he's, the most amount of times he's slept with one woman is, like, three times.

01:05:44.620 The guy that had the long relationships knows those three girls' bodies and knows what those three girls, like, not what, like, the specific, but, obviously, you have to, like, know your partner.

01:05:57.520 But versus the guy that's had the 70, he kind of, like, I don't know, you learn new tricks.

01:06:03.480 That's all I'm saying.

01:06:04.420 Not on a one-night stand, sorry.

01:06:06.340 I mean, if you really want to go deep, like, well, no pun intended, in terms of exploring things sexually, like, that shit's really not going to, I mean, I don't know.

01:06:17.740 On a one-night stand, it's going to be kind of basic.

01:06:21.760 I mean, I don't know.

01:06:23.520 Yeah.

01:06:25.260 Anyways, okay.

01:06:25.980 Okay, so, so you, you seem adamant, body count doesn't matter.

01:06:31.680 Not one bit.

01:06:32.680 Not a bit.

01:06:33.340 Okay.

01:06:33.740 So, even, like, the guy had 100 bodies.

01:06:37.680 I have, I have a friend that does.

01:06:40.760 Like, I have a friend that has 99, you know, and it, it doesn't matter.

01:06:47.320 Personally, I don't, I doesn't, as long as you're clean and you're safe, I don't care.

01:06:53.200 I don't even need to know, if I'm, if I'm in a relationship with a person, I don't even need to know how many people you've been with.

01:06:58.840 Like, obviously, if we're, like, at, like, a small function and there's a girl in the room that you've slept with, I'd like to know, like, oh, yeah, her.

01:07:05.400 And I was like, okay, cool.

01:07:06.280 Like, but, I don't care.

01:07:08.640 That's just me.

01:07:09.460 So, it seemed like everyone here said, shouldn't matter.

01:07:13.260 No.

01:07:13.880 Okay.

01:07:15.220 What's your body count?

01:07:16.780 What's my body count?

01:07:19.600 That's a great question.

01:07:20.660 I mean, stopped keeping track after five, because it just did not happen.

01:07:24.680 After five?

01:07:25.680 I mean, you can keep track a little bit.

01:07:27.800 After five, right?

01:07:29.360 After five, but you got to think about it.

01:07:31.340 Like, it all depends on when you lost your virginity.

01:07:33.720 If I, if I lost mine.

01:07:34.620 When was that?

01:07:35.800 When I lost mine?

01:07:36.760 Sure.

01:07:37.000 At 17.

01:07:37.920 Okay.

01:07:38.980 And 24?

01:07:40.100 24.

01:07:40.540 Okay.

01:07:40.860 So, do you know, but do you know what the body count is?

01:07:45.460 It's definitely, it's, it's, um, somewhere between, like, maybe, like, 15, 25, somewhere

01:07:53.320 around there.

01:07:55.440 15 and 25?

01:07:56.660 Yeah.

01:07:57.040 Okay.

01:07:57.300 In that range.

01:07:57.800 Sure.

01:07:57.940 Um, I mean, my body count's 10.

01:08:02.760 I mean, considering when I lost my virginity, it was a young age, um, to a boyfriend that

01:08:10.080 I had for a long time.

01:08:11.460 But, yeah, so from then to now, it's 10 or 11.

01:08:16.580 Two.

01:08:16.980 I mean, I don't usually say mine just because I, like, I don't think it matters enough for

01:08:23.100 people to know it.

01:08:24.340 That's kind of where I, like, I haven't even told boyfriends.

01:08:27.040 Like, I don't tell them because I'm like, there's no need for people to know it.

01:08:31.400 But have they, they've asked?

01:08:33.260 Yeah, I haven't said it.

01:08:34.720 I've had a boyfriend ask and I've, I've had friends ask just because, like, you know,

01:08:39.640 and it's not crazy, but I'm like, if I'm safe and clean, I don't think it matters

01:08:43.320 enough to say it.

01:08:44.900 Let me, I'm just curious.

01:08:47.260 So, past doesn't matter?

01:08:49.180 No.

01:08:49.820 Okay.

01:08:50.280 But a little bit earlier, you said you wouldn't date a felon.

01:08:53.340 Who murdered?

01:08:54.460 So, his past does kind of matter.

01:08:56.960 That is bad.

01:08:57.760 That is bad.

01:08:59.080 Past doesn't matter.

01:09:00.440 Clean, safe, healthy, whatever.

01:09:01.760 But, like, murder, I feel like, is a different than sleeping around.

01:09:06.920 It is a bit different.

01:09:07.680 I'll give you that.

01:09:08.260 That's jail.

01:09:09.440 Two.

01:09:10.840 Two?

01:09:11.260 Okay.

01:09:11.480 I'm going to call upon my Fifth Amendment right.

01:09:16.340 She's pleading the fifth.

01:09:18.380 She is pleading the fifth.

01:09:20.120 I am pleading the fifth.

01:09:21.600 Okay.

01:09:22.340 Well, multiply it by three and that's the real number.

01:09:26.960 So, okay.

01:09:28.900 One.

01:09:29.280 Would you be willing to give a range or an over-under?

01:09:36.200 Under 10?

01:09:37.640 No.

01:09:38.880 Over 10?

01:09:40.020 Yeah.

01:09:40.740 Well, yeah.

01:09:41.160 Over 20?

01:09:45.100 She doesn't like this question.

01:09:48.120 Nope.

01:09:49.780 Over 30?

01:09:50.700 No.

01:09:51.180 It's 10 and 20.

01:09:53.440 Okay.

01:09:54.220 Internet sleuths.

01:09:55.020 Do the calculations.

01:09:56.660 Okay.

01:09:57.720 So, that is one of the things that guys care about.

01:10:02.840 Just what?

01:10:04.100 Is body count.

01:10:05.140 But it's like, how do you ever prove that?

01:10:08.020 Like, I could give you any number off the top of my head.

01:10:10.500 How are you going to prove all 20 bodies?

01:10:11.900 Yeah, because I heard that guys lower their body, too.

01:10:14.460 They divide by three.

01:10:15.840 Yeah.

01:10:16.660 And I'm like, it's mine.

01:10:18.580 I don't know.

01:10:19.220 That's why you just got to take it.

01:10:20.900 Take whatever you say.

01:10:21.300 Well, yeah, of course.

01:10:22.380 Take it with a grain of salt.

01:10:23.180 Well, someone could lie.

01:10:25.420 Everybody lies.

01:10:26.420 But, I mean, like, if someone in your circle was privy to, like, if it wasn't a mystery

01:10:31.980 or a secret.

01:10:33.020 Right.

01:10:33.400 That someone else in that social group or friend group slept with a lot of people.

01:10:38.420 Like, I mean, there's people talk.

01:10:39.940 People know.

01:10:41.160 Then, guy might be like, eh, not really.

01:10:45.080 That's kind of an issue.

01:10:46.540 Don't want to take her seriously.

01:10:47.640 Yeah, I guess, like, if you slept with the whole football team, like, that makes sense.

01:10:54.200 But it's, like, after that, like, how, you know?

01:10:57.860 So, in those, if the guy...

01:10:59.640 What if she slept with the whole baseball team, too, but she didn't tell you that part?

01:11:01.540 Baseball boys have booty, though.

01:11:02.840 Don't.

01:11:03.320 Don't just...

01:11:04.180 What if that was her thing, though?

01:11:06.840 Exactly.

01:11:07.240 There's nothing wrong with it.

01:11:08.400 Nothing at all.

01:11:09.820 But that's what I'm saying.

01:11:10.740 Like, they would know she slept with the whole football team because they talk.

01:11:13.980 But it's like, how would you know any further than that?

01:11:16.560 They all talk to the point of, like, group chat talk.

01:11:19.960 She's outing the group.

01:11:20.840 No, I'm not.

01:11:21.480 No, I'm saying, no.

01:11:22.420 It's not even, like, I'm not even talking about the team.

01:11:23.860 I'm just talking about, like, in high school.

01:11:25.180 Like, boys have...

01:11:27.000 Boys talk about everything with everyone.

01:11:30.020 And then...

01:11:30.520 They have group chats?

01:11:31.620 Yeah, I just think it's fun.

01:11:32.600 Like, girls are just like, oh, yeah, like, I'm talking to, like, these two boys.

01:11:35.460 And then she thinks that the two boys don't know each other.

01:11:37.680 And I'm like, they do.

01:11:39.100 Wait, guys talk about everything with each other?

01:11:43.500 Not about everything.

01:11:44.420 Because isn't it...

01:11:48.260 I don't know.

01:11:48.720 It seems like...

01:11:50.140 Eh, we don't have to go into that.

01:11:51.640 So...

01:11:52.240 I wrote...

01:11:55.140 Okay, so I've written down a whole list of preferences, standards, and boundaries.

01:12:03.540 But before I get into the list, it's a long list.

01:12:07.800 You're not going to work.

01:12:09.860 What time is it?

01:12:10.600 No, we're going to try to end in, like, 40 minutes or so.

01:12:15.560 So...

01:12:15.960 I'll make it.

01:12:17.660 Yeah, she'll make it.

01:12:19.060 She'll make it.

01:12:20.120 Yeah.

01:12:20.740 So...

01:12:22.380 Maybe we should pull up the Andrew Tate video.

01:12:27.180 Please do it.

01:12:29.680 Hmm.

01:12:30.180 Decisions, decisions.

01:12:32.540 Mike Davis is here.

01:12:34.200 So...

01:12:34.700 I'm so sorry.

01:12:36.660 Look at that comment.

01:12:38.020 What comment?

01:12:38.480 Oh, Mike Davis.

01:12:39.600 Oh, Mike Davis.

01:12:40.300 He paid $5 to say that.

01:12:42.040 What'd he say?

01:12:43.060 He'd be the type of guy to pay to him.

01:12:44.200 Red hair has the highest body count.

01:12:46.220 Probably smells like the whole penitentiary down there.

01:12:49.740 Damn, cuz.

01:12:53.220 Should we pull up the...

01:12:55.100 Okay, we'll pull it up.

01:12:57.020 Well...

01:12:57.660 Do you know...

01:12:58.540 Eric, do you know how to pull it up?

01:13:01.580 I'm going to pull it up.

01:13:02.540 Um, put it on, um, Meredith over here.

01:13:08.580 Meredith, why don't you tell us a little bit about working at the Spearmint Rhino.

01:13:13.720 Tell us about how frequently you work, how much money you make, etc., etc.

01:13:18.360 Craziest story.

01:13:21.440 Craziest story, please.

01:13:22.680 Oh, my gosh.

01:13:23.680 I don't even know if I could...

01:13:25.540 I mean, there's been so many crazy stories that I don't know if I could hone in on one

01:13:29.800 without, like, a lead into it.

01:13:33.620 But I work generally, like, four to five days a week.

01:13:38.240 Mmm, depending.

01:13:39.800 Depending.

01:13:40.260 Usually four.

01:13:41.260 Five is when I'm, like, trying to hit heavy.

01:13:42.940 But, I mean, money varies so much that I can't really give you a range.

01:13:49.920 I would say, like, most dancers would say they probably make, like, $80,000 a year.

01:13:58.440 So, somewhere around that.

01:14:02.340 Somewhere around more than minimum wage.

01:14:05.980 No, what's so...

01:14:06.580 Um...

01:14:10.940 I don't know what...

01:14:12.660 Give me a question.

01:14:13.780 How about that?

01:14:14.400 Like, give me something to...

01:14:16.480 Like, would you want to know how it affects, like, my view on standards and boundaries and

01:14:23.260 dating men?

01:14:24.260 Like, that kind of area?

01:14:26.140 Or what kind of stuff do you want to know?

01:14:27.900 Like, how much do you make in the night?

01:14:29.640 How much do I make in the night?

01:14:31.200 Well, it depends.

01:14:32.420 It varies.

01:14:33.160 It really depends on the night, whatever is going on, what time of month it is.

01:14:39.080 Like, have people just paid the night?

01:14:40.200 What time of month it is?

01:14:41.560 Like, not for...

01:14:42.740 Do you work when that's happening?

01:14:44.360 Yeah.

01:14:45.000 Actually, we do.

01:14:46.080 But I'm not saying it in that manner.

01:14:47.920 I'm saying it in the manner of people, like, having just paid rent or, let's say, around

01:14:53.660 a holiday.

01:14:54.300 It just all depends.

01:14:55.460 Like, you could leave with $65 or you could leave with $1,400.

01:14:59.800 It just kind of depends on the night.

01:15:03.140 And how many...

01:15:03.740 Warren.

01:15:03.980 Eric, let's have you pull up the video for us.

01:15:09.160 Okay, go ahead and play it.

01:15:10.480 You know what's so attractive about younger women?

01:15:14.780 Because a lot of these dudes talk about fertility and looks and stuff.

01:15:18.420 I don't actually think it's that.

01:15:19.720 I think that in the modern world, in the days of old, right, you'd meet a woman, you'd get

01:15:23.740 married, you'd be together, whatever, whatever.

01:15:24.960 In the modern world, if I meet a girl who's 33 and single, I know the amount of dick that's

01:15:29.200 been through her before me is just simply unattractive.

01:15:32.140 I don't care how nice you are.

01:15:33.360 Yeah, yeah.

01:15:33.620 But you're 33 years old.

01:15:35.180 How many men have fucked...

01:15:36.300 If I get a 19-year-old girl, I might be your second or third man, right?

01:15:38.840 I'm going to be dude number fucking 29?

01:15:40.940 Yeah.

01:15:41.140 And all the trauma and heartbreak and bullshit they put you through, you're going to try

01:15:44.740 and bring to my door?

01:15:46.040 Yeah.

01:15:46.280 Like, well, if my last man cheated, I don't give a fuck.

01:15:48.500 Yeah.

01:15:48.820 Like, I don't care.

01:15:49.820 Like, why is that my problem?

01:15:50.920 So, if you pick up older women, you have to accept they've been on the carousel longer.

01:15:54.760 They've had more fucking rides, more spins.

01:15:57.480 Yeah.

01:15:57.640 I don't want that shit.

01:15:58.600 When I see a beautiful young woman, I know that she has a very low body count.

01:16:01.860 And also, no, but the truth is this, women's mentality is absolutely connected to sex.

01:16:08.060 If a woman sleeps with a bunch of men, it's harder to penetrate her mind and make her fall

01:16:11.820 in love with you.

01:16:12.040 It is unattractive, too.

01:16:12.960 And it's unattractive.

01:16:13.680 It is.

01:16:13.900 But if she's had 30 dudes inside of her, is she really going to think, you know what,

01:16:17.740 this guy's so, so, so special?

01:16:19.100 Or is she going to think, you know what, he talked to me real quick, let's go get a new

01:16:20.840 guy?

01:16:21.240 Whereas if a woman's only been with a few guys, she's much more likely to fall in love with

01:16:23.760 you and be a better partner.

01:16:24.460 The likelihood of her falling completely in love with you and staying loyal to you and really

01:16:28.900 believing you're the only man for her after being through so much trauma

01:16:31.760 and so many men and sleeping with so many dudes and having her heart broken and having

01:16:35.240 those memories of her ex and all that crap she's been through is far less likely than

01:16:38.960 meeting a nice, young, beautiful girl who hasn't been with many men.

01:16:41.280 And she goes, you know what, this is the guy, I like him.

01:16:43.600 Every woman who knows this and every man who watches this can be honest.

01:16:45.780 Women fall in love with the person they lose their virginity to or their second or third

01:16:48.240 guy.

01:16:48.520 They really remember them.

01:16:49.380 They really love them.

01:16:50.240 Any woman who slept with 50 dudes, she doesn't even remember who most of them are.

01:16:52.460 She doesn't care.

01:16:53.200 If a woman slept with a bunch of men before you, she's less likely to stick it out through a difficult

01:16:56.280 period in a relationship.

01:16:57.040 She's more likely to just say, you know what, new answers, new dig.

01:16:59.160 That's a pretty good answer.

01:16:59.940 And that's the truth.

01:17:00.960 Let me make something clear.

01:17:01.860 If I meet a beautiful 30-year-old woman, I'm not saying I won't sleep with her.

01:17:04.320 That's pretty fucking old.

01:17:06.000 30?

01:17:06.760 I know.

01:17:07.200 What are you, crazy?

01:17:08.860 There's been times I was drunk.

01:17:10.840 Okay, bring it back, Eric.

01:17:13.160 Okay, reaction to the video, Alondra.

01:17:19.380 It's little.

01:17:20.040 It has to be.

01:17:20.760 His confidence just has to be.

01:17:22.780 Listen to what he's saying.

01:17:24.360 He's saying the younger girl has no, she hasn't had any partners.

01:17:28.300 She has nobody to compare me to, so it's easier for her to fall in love with me because she

01:17:32.480 has nobody to compare me to.

01:17:34.400 So it must not be that good if you're worried about all the guys in her past.

01:17:38.660 I get worrying about, okay, she's ran through.

01:17:42.320 I get that part.

01:17:43.800 But he's making it sound like he has to impress someone.

01:17:49.440 In order to impress her mentally, she can't have too many partners.

01:17:52.200 Wait, but, okay, so before you said that body count doesn't matter, but then you just said

01:17:56.040 that I get if she's ran through.

01:17:59.440 So what is the difference between having a high body count and being ran through?

01:18:03.380 No, there's not a difference.

01:18:04.300 But I'm saying, like, terminology-wise, that's what they refer it to.

01:18:07.780 If she's had a lot of partners, she's ran through.

01:18:08.640 Right.

01:18:08.940 No, I know what getting ran through means.

01:18:11.460 Right.

01:18:11.760 But, I mean, that's sort of the comparable thing to guys don't want a girl with a high body

01:18:16.420 count.

01:18:17.260 They don't want a girl who's been ran through.

01:18:19.360 Right.

01:18:20.120 Okay.

01:18:20.640 So what's the question?

01:18:22.820 Well, I mean, but I'm just pointing out that earlier you said body count shouldn't matter.

01:18:27.820 Right.

01:18:28.080 But you're acknowledging now that guys don't want a girl who's been ran through.

01:18:32.680 Or you're not saying that guys don't have that preference, but you're saying...

01:18:36.520 I mean, they can have that preference, but I'm saying that's where their head is at when

01:18:39.620 they've had a lot of partners.

01:18:41.240 That it's like, okay, that's what they refer to her as.

01:18:43.920 And that's exactly what he was saying.

01:18:45.280 And she's had a lot of partners that she's ran through, so now it makes it harder for

01:18:50.340 him to win her over.

01:18:53.280 Okay.

01:18:53.700 So the confidence is just low, is what it sounds like.

01:18:55.700 And then, just to the camera, show again what you were doing.

01:19:01.180 Oh, no, this.

01:19:02.080 You were doing this.

01:19:03.820 This.

01:19:04.320 This.

01:19:04.720 So, you're saying he has a small penis.

01:19:08.180 Yes.

01:19:09.380 I don't like that kind of talk.

01:19:12.340 Okay, go ahead.

01:19:13.340 For me, it's like, it does kind of go to body count, being that I know that there are 19-year-olds,

01:19:23.180 younger girls, who have higher body counts than a 33-year-old woman.

01:19:27.000 Sure.

01:19:27.220 It's possible.

01:19:27.960 I don't think it's the age.

01:19:30.460 There could be a woman who's in her 40s, who literally her whole entire teenage life

01:19:35.160 saved herself for marriage, married the man that she lost her virginity to.

01:19:39.100 The 40-year-old virgin?

01:19:40.940 Are we?

01:19:41.660 No.

01:19:42.320 She got married, and then obviously lost her virginity, or not 40, but somebody who waited

01:19:47.540 until marriage, lost it, and then they divorced, and she's dating, and maybe has two to three

01:19:55.640 or four more bodies now, but it's like, then there could be, you know, a 20-year-old girl

01:20:02.680 not too far from her, who has over 20 bodies.

01:20:07.320 Like, it's, I don't think it's an age thing.

01:20:09.540 I mean, I agree with you that there could be an outlier, like a woman who's 35.

01:20:14.660 Yeah.

01:20:15.760 Who slept with less men than a woman who's 19.

01:20:19.780 Because times have changed.

01:20:21.140 We are in a time now, like, our-

01:20:24.420 Aren't people having more bodies now, though?

01:20:26.280 Yeah.

01:20:26.620 Like, we're in a time now where, from our, like, I don't want to start, like, getting

01:20:32.500 into this, because I know there's going to be, like, controversy over it, but it's like,

01:20:36.640 I feel like our age now, we don't respect, like, not me personally, but, like, some people

01:20:44.780 just don't respect relationships as much, and they'd rather have a good time.

01:20:48.160 You know, more power to you, do whatever you want.

01:20:51.220 But, you know, older people of the older age, obviously, it was a different time for them.

01:20:58.900 Relationships were a lot more common than sleeping around.

01:21:04.280 So, I don't know.

01:21:05.220 It's just-

01:21:06.160 Yeah.

01:21:06.740 I mean, I definitely think promiscuity has steadily been on the rise, and probably ever

01:21:11.340 since social media, dating apps, it's been much more heavily on the rise.

01:21:16.920 But, I mean, what he's kind of trying to say is it's both about age, but also about body

01:21:22.840 count, and, I mean, I think most of us here in 10 years' time are going to have slept with

01:21:31.640 more people than the number that we currently slept with.

01:21:35.200 So, if you look at a 19-year-old versus a 29-year-old, the likelihood that the 29-year-old

01:21:41.080 has had far more sexual partners is, it's, I don't know what the percentage would be,

01:21:48.440 but, I mean, it's much more likely that someone who's 29 has slept with more people than at 19.

01:21:53.160 I know some 18, 19-year-old girls that have been through 100-plus guys.

01:21:57.380 I'm not even exaggerating.

01:21:58.960 They've told me.

01:21:59.900 They've been like, I've slept with 100 guys.

01:22:01.800 Freshman, first semester, you know, ran through.

01:22:06.760 So, you know, it is what it is.

01:22:11.160 That's what I was saying.

01:22:12.240 It's just like, it's kind of, for me, body count still doesn't matter in my, but, you know,

01:22:21.660 it's just, but you're, so you're, you're more likely to find someone, men or, a man or a woman

01:22:29.360 at age 19, 20, 21, who's had fewer sexual partners than if you're also looking in, say, 29, 30, 31.

01:22:37.960 Yeah, and there's also girls who now are, and I know quite a few, who are tired of the men our age,

01:22:45.060 so they go older, so obviously they are going to have a higher body count, which obviously means

01:22:50.200 we don't care, in a sense.

01:22:53.120 I think women care less about body count.

01:22:55.140 Yeah, yeah, and then guys, yeah, obviously a 20-year-old boy isn't going to want to date

01:23:00.320 a 30-year-old woman.

01:23:01.220 If he's into that, cool, that's fine, but it's most likely that the older men, that's why

01:23:06.160 pretty much sugar daddies exist, is because they want the younger woman to spoil, and, yeah, so, I don't know.

01:23:15.260 Yeah, I feel like body count doesn't matter, and girls shouldn't be held to the standard

01:23:19.360 that we should have a lower body count, and, like, I said this last time, but people have

01:23:23.740 their pasts, like, you don't know what they're going through, and if they, like, had used sex

01:23:27.360 as a means of making themselves feel better.

01:23:30.160 Like, I know people who have gone through that, but that doesn't change, like, the type of person

01:23:35.080 that they are, their relationships, like, from then on, you know?

01:23:38.360 It could have an impact on their relationships.

01:23:40.640 How?

01:23:40.940 I mean, he listed a couple reasons, but I think it's just a thing that guys want.

01:23:48.560 Yeah, but I don't think, like, we all said we don't care about body count, so why should

01:23:52.940 guys care about it?

01:23:54.600 Well, do you think that attraction is symmetrical?

01:23:59.620 In other words, things that men find attractive in women, do you think women find those exact

01:24:05.660 same things attractive in men?

01:24:07.120 Oh, no, probably not.

01:24:08.340 Right, so there are things that men value in a partner that women don't care about.

01:24:14.660 Well, he said, like, I feel like even if they have less bodies or more bodies, that wouldn't,

01:24:18.440 like, change the relationship that she's going to go into, you know?

01:24:21.840 Like, maybe her sample size, I guess you would call it, is, like, less, so she would maybe

01:24:26.740 fall for him more easily, but, like, I don't understand what he was saying about that part.

01:24:30.100 I mean, my impression is, is if I'm talking to a girl and she's slept with a hundred women

01:24:36.280 before, or sorry, a hundred, she could be a bi, she could be a bi.

01:24:40.480 What'd you say it earlier?

01:24:41.480 Like, identify her gender, like you called me out on.

01:24:44.220 Yeah, that was a mix-up.

01:24:46.740 If she, if I'm talking to a girl and somehow comes about, she's like, yeah, I've slept with

01:24:52.980 a hundred men before, bruv, I mean, she's.

01:24:59.460 You wouldn't like her?

01:25:00.320 Like, that would make her less attractive?

01:25:02.100 A hundred percent.

01:25:03.240 One?

01:25:03.760 Okay, should I get into the reasons?

01:25:05.440 Yes.

01:25:05.600 I mean, she, she's going to be, I'm going to be number hundred one.

01:25:10.300 To me, I'm going to think, okay, like.

01:25:13.080 But the past is in the past.

01:25:13.640 She's not going to be able to, like, I'm, I'm immediately going to think, and I could

01:25:17.140 be wrong, but, like, my gut instinct's going to be, she's not going to be able to commit.

01:25:23.460 That's my, that's my thinking.

01:25:25.440 She's unlikely to want to commit.

01:25:27.020 In the same way that a guy who's a player, and just running through, like, I'm sure you

01:25:31.500 could.

01:25:31.700 Play the game, remember?

01:25:33.400 But, but if, and again, I think girls don't care so much about body count, but if a guy

01:25:38.540 is a player, and let's say you genuinely, like, you are really, really after a long-term

01:25:43.200 relationship with someone, and you know for a fact that guy's a player, and he's slept

01:25:48.440 with a whole bunch of people, you're probably.

01:25:51.880 It's action speech louder than words, though.

01:25:54.740 I guess.

01:25:55.400 So I'll give you a couple reasons why body count matters.

01:25:57.300 The first is STDs.

01:26:00.560 If someone slept with a lot of people, they're more likely to have an STD, be it incurable

01:26:05.860 or curable.

01:26:07.260 So I don't think it's a particularly controversial take for people to not want to get an STD.

01:26:13.420 So if you've had a lot of sexual partners, you could have an STD.

01:26:18.100 If you're promiscuous, you could have an STD.

01:26:21.100 If you just hooked up, if you're hooking up with a bunch of people, you could have an

01:26:25.920 STD.

01:26:26.520 So there's that.

01:26:28.160 I mean, does anyone here want to get an STD?

01:26:32.160 No.

01:26:33.100 What question is that?

01:26:35.120 When we talk about, like, body count, like, having multiple people, what if somebody's been

01:26:39.280 in, like, singular relationships?

01:26:41.360 Some people are born with STDs.

01:26:43.080 It's a lot of people.

01:26:44.160 So not necessarily, like, hooking up every single one.

01:26:47.300 Not necessarily, like, hooking up with somebody, like, or randoms and all of that.

01:26:53.860 But, like, having singular little things or relationships, not multiple people at a time

01:27:00.840 or every day of the week or whatever it may be.

01:27:05.180 I have a question, though.

01:27:06.320 My mom is a nurse.

01:27:07.820 She, and she delivers babies.

01:27:10.580 She had a couple come in, and this is why I say some people are born with STDs.

01:27:14.000 She had a couple come in who obviously both had one.

01:27:17.120 Their baby was delivered with one.

01:27:19.120 What percentage of people would you say were born with an STD?

01:27:23.220 It's not common.

01:27:23.340 It's not common.

01:27:24.260 But if it happens, it's not that child's fault.

01:27:27.880 So their body count throughout the years.

01:27:29.840 Well, I still wouldn't want to sleep with them.

01:27:31.540 Yeah, obviously not.

01:27:32.260 I understand that.

01:27:33.080 But it's like some people, it's like they couldn't help.

01:27:36.040 That's what I'm trying to get out.

01:27:37.220 It's like just because you sleep with a lot of people or if you have an STD doesn't mean

01:27:40.960 you sleep with a lot of people.

01:27:43.280 What do you mean?

01:27:43.720 Well, I mean, we have to think exceptions don't make the rule.

01:27:49.280 Yeah.

01:27:49.820 So yeah, the very first time you have sex, you could get herpes.

01:27:53.640 Yeah.

01:27:54.060 Sure.

01:27:54.740 Just like you could get pregnant the very first time you have sex.

01:27:56.500 For sure, but I think that's an outlier case.

01:28:01.620 I think that's an outlier situation.

01:28:03.940 So the fact of the matter is if you sleep with 100 people versus you sleep with one person,

01:28:09.560 two, three, four, five, six, seven, you're at a higher risk of getting an STD.

01:28:15.620 Yeah.

01:28:16.080 Yeah.

01:28:16.420 It is what it is.

01:28:17.300 So that's a reason why I think that's a reason why I think both men and women should value

01:28:24.800 a partner who's not promiscuous, but those days are gone.

01:28:29.060 But people have their past and depends on the type of person.

01:28:31.640 Their past includes herpes and HIV.

01:28:33.640 Okay.

01:28:34.040 As long as you're clean though, like you stay clean, you get tested, you're safe about it.

01:28:38.980 That's different.

01:28:39.980 Because I do have friends where she's been with her partner and like with her partner

01:28:45.960 and he, you know, was being shady and gave her an STD without telling her and she found

01:28:50.520 out because she was with her next partner and she gave it to him, you know?

01:28:55.360 So it looks shady, but that's why I'm like, it doesn't matter as long as you're, you get

01:29:00.040 tested, you're clean, you're safe.

01:29:02.620 You know what you're up to.

01:29:03.820 Yeah.

01:29:04.140 You know what you're doing.

01:29:05.720 So be safe about it.

01:29:06.800 It's not hard to be safe.

01:29:07.840 Well, you mentioned like get tested, but I mean, you said you're, I don't mean to bring

01:29:19.640 this up in this sort of way, but of these sexual encounters you've had, have you been

01:29:24.320 tested before every single one?

01:29:27.240 Yeah, I get tested.

01:29:27.800 I'm very safe about it.

01:29:29.060 Every single, before you have sex with the person for the first time, every single time

01:29:32.580 both of you get tested.

01:29:33.720 It's either protection or tested.

01:29:35.680 Okay.

01:29:36.180 Well, it's plausible.

01:29:36.840 I'm very, very safe about what I do.

01:29:37.960 Yeah, but it's plausible.

01:29:38.740 You could still get an STD even with a condom.

01:29:40.940 Yeah.

01:29:42.700 And I mean, there's also.

01:29:44.000 And with the partner too.

01:29:46.240 Yeah.

01:29:46.600 I mean, and then there's even afterwards, like some people are asymptomatic.

01:29:51.400 Yeah.

01:29:52.060 I had like one of my friends, his girlfriend went out of town and she was being shady and

01:29:56.700 gave it to him.

01:29:57.560 And you know, females don't realize that they have an STD until much.

01:30:02.520 But like female symptoms come up later than male symptoms I've learned.

01:30:06.020 So the males can tell if they get their symptoms a lot quicker by whatever than we do.

01:30:12.120 So he's the one that found out, you know?

01:30:13.640 So it's just, it's, yeah, you just gotta be safe.

01:30:16.080 I'll give you guys another reason.

01:30:18.280 Here we go.

01:30:19.100 Another reason.

01:30:20.180 So it's evolutionary hard wiring.

01:30:23.200 It's biological.

01:30:24.180 So it comes down to paternity.

01:30:29.400 So a woman who's promiscuous, who sleeps with a lot of men, you cannot guarantee paternity

01:30:36.520 if she gets pregnant, for example.

01:30:38.700 And so this is like a evolutionary thing in men.

01:30:41.820 And if she sleeps with a lot of the men, she slept with other men.

01:30:46.260 And, you know, most of the time, like back, I guess back in the day, this is gonna sound

01:30:51.620 very unscientific, but like when people first got together with a partner, you know, there,

01:30:56.760 there wasn't condoms and birth control and 50,000 years ago.

01:31:02.540 You think that if she gets pregnant and it's uncertain who the dad is, she might put it on

01:31:06.360 one person specifically?

01:31:07.960 Well, there's still do that.

01:31:09.340 Females still do that.

01:31:10.320 No, I'm not saying back then.

01:31:11.400 I'm just saying in general, like now and then.

01:31:13.360 I don't know.

01:31:13.820 Well, this is more so like throughout evolution, throughout hundreds of thousands of years

01:31:19.020 of human evolution.

01:31:20.080 In the past 40 years, you know, we've figured out DNA, we can do paternity tests, but still

01:31:25.040 that doesn't undo hundreds of thousands of years of evolution and hard wiring.

01:31:29.420 So men are hardwired to be repulsed by promiscuous women.

01:31:34.600 And there's also intellectual reasons too, for why, why men dislike women who have,

01:31:40.320 a promiscuous past, who are promiscuous, who have a high body count.

01:31:44.400 And so that hardwiring though, like you could not guarantee who the child is, who the child

01:31:51.620 belongs to, who the father is.

01:31:52.980 As a woman, you get pregnant, you know, the kid's yours.

01:31:55.200 As a man, you might not know.

01:31:56.920 So that's, that's another reason why a woman who's promiscuous, she's a bad bet for paternity.

01:32:06.840 They don't like that one.

01:32:08.000 Okay.

01:32:08.980 I mean, I could, I, that's, that's a fair one.

01:32:11.600 That is a fair one.

01:32:12.360 It doesn't make sense.

01:32:12.560 And it comes down to trusting your partner and being loyal with your partner.

01:32:14.900 But I do understand what you're saying.

01:32:16.340 And I agree with that.

01:32:17.380 I feel like I see both sides.

01:32:18.580 In, in the same way, like, so speaking on evolution, hardwiring, biology, in the same

01:32:25.440 way that most women want a man who's physically larger than them, be it height or size, it

01:32:32.100 comes down to a protection thing.

01:32:34.160 So, and you know, evolutionarily speaking, I think one of the reasons why women find guys

01:32:40.880 who, who are tall, attractive.

01:32:42.060 I mean, if you ask someone to intellectually articulate, why is it that you want, and not

01:32:47.180 all women want a guy who's taller than them.

01:32:49.880 I'd say if you line up a hundred women, most of them are going to say, I would like a guy

01:32:53.820 who's at least my height or taller.

01:32:55.840 It comes down to protection.

01:32:57.140 A guy who's bigger is more capable of protecting you.

01:33:00.560 And word.

01:33:02.940 I lost my train of thought.

01:33:04.580 But, uh.

01:33:04.940 Do a little windows thing.

01:33:06.240 Yeah.

01:33:06.500 I need to do this for myself.

01:33:07.700 Um, so there's evolutionary reasons, um, yeah.

01:33:15.300 So, it's like the point we're trying to get across that body count should matter, or.

01:33:20.660 It matters to men.

01:33:21.240 For men.

01:33:21.960 For men, right, which I'm, which I hear that part.

01:33:24.520 It's not, okay, like, I understand what you're, the point you're making is that it's a standard

01:33:27.740 for men.

01:33:28.620 Obviously, the topic of tonight.

01:33:30.580 And it's not a bad standard.

01:33:32.100 That's why, like, I hear what you're saying.

01:33:33.340 It's not a bad standard to have, like, if that's your standard, that's your standard.

01:33:37.020 If a guy said he didn't like me because of my body count, by all means, that's okay.

01:33:41.060 I'm not going to be mad at him.

01:33:42.780 But I just think it comes down to the point we're trying to make is that nobody really

01:33:46.960 knows body count for sure.

01:33:49.900 So, why does something that you can't prove or really, like, come all the way down into

01:33:55.920 detail and, like, track down matter?

01:33:58.240 I mean, somebody could, certainly your partner could lie about it.

01:34:01.500 It could come up.

01:34:02.380 The guy could be curious.

01:34:04.180 Right.

01:34:04.620 I think it's the number that's scary because, like, she's saying, people lie.

01:34:09.080 If I were to tell you I have 100 bodies, you'd be like, nope.

01:34:11.480 If I tell you I have two, you'd be like, okay, let's go for it.

01:34:14.340 As they do.

01:34:15.580 Yeah.

01:34:15.800 They lie.

01:34:16.400 Everybody lies about certain things.

01:34:17.580 People lie about a lot of things.

01:34:19.220 Exactly.

01:34:19.940 A lot of things.

01:34:20.680 And then, I mean, my other take is, is that, I don't know.

01:34:26.480 To me, it's just, if I'm talking to a girl and I'm interested in pursuing her and I know

01:34:34.040 that she fucked a guy last night, I don't know, I'm going to feel a certain type of way

01:34:41.100 about, like, I'm just going to be kind of like, she fucked a guy last night, then I'm

01:34:44.420 on a date with her or whatever.

01:34:45.400 Like, granted, even if we're not, you know, it's our first date, we're not in a relationship,

01:34:50.360 I'm going to look at that and be like.

01:34:52.620 Yeah.

01:34:53.380 Yeah.

01:34:53.820 You're going to have a concern.

01:34:54.800 That's reasonable.

01:34:55.600 By the way, there's probably no way I'm going to ever know that.

01:34:58.280 Most girls wouldn't, most girls are not going to be like, by the way, I fucked a guy last

01:35:01.680 night.

01:35:01.940 By the way, I just came from a hookup.

01:35:03.320 But, like.

01:35:03.820 So, let's have dinner.

01:35:04.980 I'll pay.

01:35:07.620 The dating meta is as, as it is, you have to assume, like, people are on dating apps, social media,

01:35:15.400 people are very promiscuous, both men and women.

01:35:18.220 By the way, I just want to make something clear.

01:35:20.200 If a woman had a preference for a guy who had a low body count, I think that's totally

01:35:23.520 fine.

01:35:24.120 I don't think a lot of women care as much as men, but if a woman had that standard too,

01:35:28.480 I'd be all for it.

01:35:29.700 If a girl said, I don't want a guy that's fucked a hundred women, to me, that's not shocking.

01:35:34.560 I think it's safe to say personally that, and this might sound wrong, a girl is already

01:35:41.220 going to assume that a guy's body count is higher.

01:35:44.700 Yes.

01:35:45.280 Especially if he's attractive.

01:35:46.600 If he's attractive as well.

01:35:47.600 She's going to assume that it's higher.

01:35:49.060 Or sports.

01:35:49.080 Or if he spits games.

01:35:50.280 Especially sports.

01:35:50.680 Like, a girl, if I am talking to a guy, I'm automatically in my head, whether he has

01:35:54.800 a body count of two or 50, I'm going to assume it's going to be closer to the higher side

01:36:00.440 than two.

01:36:01.040 And if he does have one lower, on the lower side, that's great, but I'm going to assume

01:36:09.060 and, you know, expect the worst, hope for the best.

01:36:12.180 Right.

01:36:12.540 Which is so unfair for us to do, but I feel like everyone's so quick to judge.

01:36:16.360 You know, like, I'm also, like, I'm a church girl.

01:36:18.260 I go to church.

01:36:18.860 A lot of my football boys go to church, and I know, like, some people who go to church

01:36:23.480 and, like, absolutely, like, saving themselves from marriage.

01:36:26.000 And then there's some people, like, you know, it's just, it's, yeah, it's just really, it's

01:36:30.180 hard to, like, tell.

01:36:31.380 You can't judge a book by its cover.

01:36:33.200 Yeah, we accept it before it comes out.

01:36:35.040 To hurt our feelings.

01:36:35.900 We're just, like, we just, like, okay, whatever.

01:36:39.920 Raina, speaking of athletes.

01:36:43.160 Sorry, babe.

01:36:43.700 What?

01:36:44.020 Sorry, babe.

01:36:45.920 What?

01:36:46.360 What about the NBA player?

01:36:47.740 Did he get in touch with you?

01:36:49.520 I don't think he's going to watch.

01:36:50.680 I hope he doesn't watch this.

01:36:53.560 Why?

01:36:55.040 Never mind.

01:36:55.940 Okay.

01:36:57.380 Let's read a couple super chats here.

01:36:59.160 By the way, guys, we're going to wrap up in probably about 20-ish minutes.

01:37:03.380 So if you have any super chats you want to get them in, get them in now.

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01:37:21.540 Super chats, let's see.

01:37:23.400 Oh, we got quite a few.

01:37:26.060 Hold on.

01:37:26.320 I'm going to try to catch up here.

01:37:28.120 Oh, I think we got that one.

01:37:30.560 Steven Krug with the $2 super chat.

01:37:33.340 Whiskey is life.

01:37:34.340 This is how my, this is my body count.

01:37:36.740 69,420.

01:37:38.180 Nice, 69.

01:37:44.360 Good one.

01:37:45.360 Thank you, Steven, for the support.

01:37:47.180 Appreciate it, man.

01:37:49.100 We got Brandon here.

01:37:51.380 Salad City Rebel, $5.

01:37:53.340 Thank you for the $5, man.

01:37:55.160 Appreciate it.

01:37:55.840 What is the hottest thing a man can do to impress a woman without effort or awareness that he's doing it?

01:38:02.260 Really quick, just because we're running a bit low on time.

01:38:04.340 Really quick, just give a short answer.

01:38:05.580 We'll go around the panel.

01:38:06.600 Alondra.

01:38:07.100 What is the hottest thing a man can do to impress a woman?

01:38:11.300 Just one thing that just comes to mind.

01:38:13.060 Like, I don't get the, I guess, open doors.

01:38:19.420 Open doors, that's the hottest?

01:38:21.460 It's sad.

01:38:22.420 It's sad that that doesn't happen anymore.

01:38:23.760 The bare minimum.

01:38:24.360 Chivalry?

01:38:24.980 Is dead.

01:38:25.500 Yes, literally.

01:38:26.640 Chivalry is dead.

01:38:28.840 It's rare.

01:38:29.680 It's not dead.

01:38:30.100 What did Dave Chappelle say in Women Killed It?

01:38:33.760 I hear that one.

01:38:35.000 Not my words.

01:38:35.800 Dave Chappelle's.

01:38:39.080 Overprotectiveness.

01:38:40.180 You want a guy to be overprotective.

01:38:41.760 I like the.

01:38:42.780 Jealousy?

01:38:43.400 I don't know.

01:38:44.060 Exactly.

01:38:44.620 There's a borderline on here.

01:38:45.840 No, it's not.

01:38:46.880 I don't know.

01:38:47.720 I like, I like the, I'm not even, I just like the dominant guy.

01:38:54.220 I like to be protected.

01:38:55.260 I know what you're talking about.

01:38:56.800 Yeah.

01:38:57.420 You want two men to fight over you.

01:39:01.040 No.

01:39:01.660 And beat the shit out of each other.

01:39:03.260 No.

01:39:03.740 Okay, I got that wrong then.

01:39:05.440 No.

01:39:06.740 Actually.

01:39:07.220 Okay.

01:39:08.120 I don't know.

01:39:08.880 Honesty.

01:39:10.960 Like being honest.

01:39:12.200 Yeah.

01:39:12.420 Okay.

01:39:12.780 Opening my car door and not letting me walk on the side of the street.

01:39:19.940 It's the littlest things, but as soon as like somebody like moves me to the inside of

01:39:24.380 the street, it makes the biggest difference.

01:39:26.380 I notice it without hesitation every time.

01:39:28.740 I love that.

01:39:28.900 Is that because like there's the cars and you're more likely to get hit?

01:39:32.080 Yeah.

01:39:32.200 Like it's a protection thing.

01:39:33.460 It's just like in case they're, like I do it with my little brother.

01:39:35.600 Like I was taught that, you know, in case there's like an, like, you know, it's just

01:39:39.460 a thing.

01:39:39.980 Like they just put, grab your shoulder and they move you.

01:39:41.880 Like I have guy friends that do that and I notice it.

01:39:44.360 I don't care about that.

01:39:45.200 I love when they hold my hand.

01:39:46.440 No.

01:39:47.000 I just like the car door.

01:39:48.560 Why does the guy have to do that?

01:39:51.080 It's a protective thing.

01:39:52.260 It's a protective thing.

01:39:53.620 Okay.

01:39:54.200 So that's kind of like falls into traditional gender roles.

01:39:58.080 Would you consider yourself a traditional woman?

01:40:01.000 Not necessarily.

01:40:01.880 I mean, I asked the guys out and.

01:40:04.600 Okay.

01:40:05.720 Yeah.

01:40:06.080 I mean, it's just for me, it's just, it shows a sense of protectiveness and a sense

01:40:09.380 that he cares without having to say words.

01:40:11.780 What if he wants you to be the meat shield from the oncoming car?

01:40:15.860 I am five feet tall.

01:40:17.420 I don't know how much I'm going to be able to help him.

01:40:20.580 Okay.

01:40:21.220 Got it.

01:40:22.800 Same thing.

01:40:23.720 Kind of doing the little things to show that they care.

01:40:26.560 It doesn't have to like, you don't have to limit it to protection and it could go on

01:40:30.420 both sides, the men to the woman, woman to the men, but kind of doing things to show

01:40:33.540 that you care about that other person.

01:40:36.080 I just, I don't, I don't have anything good to say.

01:40:44.340 What is the hottest thing a man can do to impress a woman?

01:40:47.120 I mean, I don't even think.

01:40:48.200 Besides spend racks at the strip club.

01:40:51.100 Okay.

01:40:51.680 That's hot too.

01:40:52.300 Whatever.

01:40:53.220 But, literally.

01:40:55.420 But, I don't know.

01:40:57.420 The hottest thing a man can do, instead of impress, the hottest thing a man does that

01:41:01.920 he's not aware of, I love the hat flip.

01:41:04.520 I'm going to keep it simple.

01:41:05.380 I'm not going to give it a thing.

01:41:06.620 The front to the back.

01:41:08.440 Hat flip.

01:41:08.940 What?

01:41:10.460 The hat flip.

01:41:11.440 What's that?

01:41:12.100 Where they take their hat off.

01:41:12.860 Where they're wearing like a hat and they go to do something and then they like flip

01:41:17.400 their hat backwards.

01:41:19.080 Like, I don't know.

01:41:21.160 I find that so attractive.

01:41:22.560 It's not impressive, but it's hot.

01:41:24.660 I love flexing.

01:41:26.340 Flexing.

01:41:26.840 Okay.

01:41:28.220 Thank you, Brandon, for that very generous super chat and good question.

01:41:34.400 We got MD.

01:41:36.840 Is that what currency is that?

01:41:39.980 Is it?

01:41:40.400 Does anybody know what currency that is?

01:41:44.020 MD 40?

01:41:47.120 Well, thank you for the 40 currency that we're not sure.

01:41:50.700 In the chat, guys, what is the currency?

01:41:53.600 It looks...

01:41:54.580 Is it?

01:41:55.740 Is it like...

01:41:56.200 What is your body count?

01:41:59.600 What is my body count?

01:42:01.740 He hasn't gone down on a girl since 2008.

01:42:05.920 No dividing.

01:42:07.740 My body count...

01:42:09.200 I'm a man of God.

01:42:12.740 That's such a bullshit.

01:42:14.080 You made us answer.

01:42:17.040 You know, I'm a very discreet individual.

01:42:20.280 Look at your podcast.

01:42:21.260 I'm a highly, very discreet individual.

01:42:24.700 I don't kiss and tell.

01:42:27.320 So, yeah, I think it's zero.

01:42:29.640 Yeah, I take it back.

01:42:30.860 I don't even know what sex is, actually.

01:42:32.800 Yeah, I'm a man of God.

01:42:33.680 I'm a virgin.

01:42:34.500 What is that?

01:42:35.780 Next question.

01:42:36.460 What is penetration?

01:42:38.620 It's a Mexican pesos, Carlos says.

01:42:41.580 Okay, cool.

01:42:42.200 Thank you for the 40 Mexican pesos.

01:42:44.180 Much appreciated.

01:42:45.600 909, $5 super chat.

01:42:47.100 Thank you for the $5 super chat.

01:42:48.260 Appreciate it.

01:42:49.540 Consider this.

01:42:50.360 Women sleep with who they want.

01:42:51.920 Men sleep with who they can.

01:42:53.420 This is why body count is important to consider.

01:42:56.200 So, that's actually 909.

01:42:57.580 Thank you for the $5 super chat.

01:42:58.760 That's a fantastic point.

01:43:00.660 So, one of the other reasons why I think it matters more to men...

01:43:05.360 Could we hold the pause?

01:43:06.740 It's easy for you guys.

01:43:08.760 It's easy for guys, too.

01:43:10.200 No.

01:43:11.560 Hold on.

01:43:12.920 Erroneous.

01:43:13.540 He's kind of a good point.

01:43:15.060 He does kind of a good point.

01:43:17.400 Like, women, if you think about it, though, like, I don't...

01:43:20.800 He's kind of got a point, because it depends.

01:43:22.740 Like, we have a broad spectrum where...

01:43:24.840 Okay.

01:43:25.520 We have a broad spectrum where, like, okay, half of these guys like ass, half of these

01:43:30.900 guys like boobs.

01:43:31.940 Women, we have, like, a good chance of having either, you know?

01:43:35.060 Like, I'm talking us down.

01:43:36.900 Yeah.

01:43:37.400 It's the odds of we have a much higher, like, if we shoot our shot versus if they shoot

01:43:44.920 theirs.

01:43:45.420 You have the power when you shoot your shot, and I've learned that.

01:43:47.860 You genuinely, like...

01:43:49.340 We are more likely.

01:43:50.360 Yeah.

01:43:50.660 And I don't know what it is, but, like, for me, I think it's hot.

01:43:53.520 Like, I do.

01:43:54.220 I think it's fun.

01:43:54.760 But, like, when I go up and I'll be like, hey, like, can I get your number?

01:43:56.940 Like, let's go out for drinks, whatever.

01:43:58.560 I hold all the power and all the cards, and then if he says no, okay, whatever.

01:44:03.560 But, like, with guys, though, it's harder.

01:44:05.620 Not harder, but, like...

01:44:07.020 They just have to do a little extra.

01:44:08.740 Yeah.

01:44:08.960 Because women are kind of used to, like, a bunch of different...

01:44:11.500 Like, at the bar.

01:44:11.680 Okay, a lot extra.

01:44:12.580 I'll give it to you.

01:44:13.200 Yeah.

01:44:13.380 Like, it goes back down to all the questions we ask.

01:44:15.660 Right.

01:44:15.960 Men usually have to pay.

01:44:17.220 Yeah.

01:44:17.360 Men usually have to plan out the first date.

01:44:18.820 They have to make sure they're consistent.

01:44:20.420 At almost every single step along the way, men have to take the initiative.

01:44:26.540 Right.

01:44:26.740 Yeah.

01:44:27.000 So, when the woman does it, it's different.

01:44:29.060 But, yeah, most of the time.

01:44:30.080 But, so, when women do it, let me ask, like...

01:44:32.920 You hold the power.

01:44:33.840 Do you guys think...

01:44:34.360 It's fun.

01:44:35.420 No, it's fun to hold the power.

01:44:36.600 When you do it, it's fun.

01:44:39.620 Wait, so you think you hold...

01:44:40.800 When you approach the guy, you hold the power?

01:44:42.960 I actually think it's the opposite.

01:44:44.280 When the guy's coming to you, you're in a stronger negotiating position.

01:44:49.100 I agree with that, but it's more, like, for me, I think it's more fun.

01:44:51.760 Like, I have the cards in my favor, when I'm, like...

01:44:54.700 Well, you can...

01:44:55.140 I feel more powerful.

01:44:56.180 That's what it is.

01:44:57.000 You can be more assertive.

01:44:58.200 Yeah.

01:44:58.500 You can kind of dictate terms.

01:44:59.700 I feel more powerful versus, like, having the guys come up.

01:45:04.080 Like, at the bar, if, like, a cute girl has, like, a bunch of guys coming up, she's kind

01:45:07.200 of tired and she's over it.

01:45:08.160 But then if she does it, and she goes after the one guy that she wants, so I get it.

01:45:12.740 Really quick, do you guys ever DM guys out of the blue?

01:45:19.560 Yeah.

01:45:20.280 Do you receive DMs out of the blue?

01:45:22.580 Okay.

01:45:24.000 Interesting.

01:45:24.800 So, thank you for the super chat.

01:45:28.720 Sorry, guys.

01:45:29.340 It's getting late.

01:45:30.020 We're, you know, the brain's going slow at this point.

01:45:32.400 Um, but so you think...

01:45:35.180 I don't know.

01:45:36.120 It might be the type of guys I...

01:45:37.860 Well, okay.

01:45:38.440 So, you have...

01:45:39.920 You told us last time...

01:45:41.620 Don't expose me again.

01:45:42.480 No, no, no.

01:45:42.840 I won't expose you.

01:45:43.600 You have, uh, very high standards.

01:45:47.280 Yes.

01:45:47.480 That's what you said.

01:45:48.540 Yes.

01:45:49.080 So, you...

01:45:49.880 I also just, like, I was thinking about this after I left last time.

01:45:52.800 Like, I think I just get the ick really easily.

01:45:55.960 Like, I'm really picky, but there's not, like, a specific type of guy that I look for, you

01:46:00.220 know?

01:46:00.380 You get the ick really easily.

01:46:01.820 Yeah, like...

01:46:02.200 What causes the ick?

01:46:03.540 Like, the way they tie their shoes.

01:46:05.320 I don't know.

01:46:05.720 Like, random things like that.

01:46:07.240 I just...

01:46:08.440 It's the cuticles.

01:46:09.760 Oh.

01:46:10.380 No.

01:46:10.920 Okay, yeah.

01:46:11.420 Like, I like them to have, like, clean appearance.

01:46:15.200 Like, I don't have, like, oh, blonde hair, blue eyes, or dark hair, brown eyes.

01:46:18.880 Like, I'm just, like...

01:46:20.420 I don't know.

01:46:22.020 You're picky in a different way.

01:46:23.320 Yeah.

01:46:23.820 I pick it based on personality and what I said.

01:46:25.840 Like, I need to talk to them.

01:46:27.340 And he has to be tall and an NBA player?

01:46:29.500 No.

01:46:30.440 Height for me, yes, but...

01:46:32.660 Sorry.

01:46:35.340 Okay.

01:46:35.700 But do you think that maybe because you have very, very high standards that you're maybe

01:46:43.120 projecting that onto, oh, if I have high standards, then a lot of guys must also have very high

01:46:49.480 standards?

01:46:50.860 Um, I wouldn't say that.

01:46:52.860 I don't know.

01:46:53.080 Because guys...

01:46:54.480 Honestly, most guys don't have any standards.

01:46:56.060 I'm gonna say it.

01:46:56.540 No, yeah.

01:46:57.040 A lot of guys don't have any standards.

01:46:59.080 They'll tolerate a whole bunch of bullshit.

01:47:02.480 So, yeah.

01:47:03.480 They do have standards, though.

01:47:05.440 A low body count.

01:47:07.020 Well, that's one of the important ones.

01:47:10.280 But honestly, like, here's the...

01:47:11.800 Most men actually can't even dictate that one.

01:47:14.880 Like, most men just...

01:47:17.240 Here's the thing is that...

01:47:18.840 And this is getting into a whole other topic, but...

01:47:21.760 Most men are not attractive enough to really have that sort of...

01:47:25.740 They settle pretty much.

01:47:27.040 Yeah.

01:47:27.340 So, a lot of men date down...

01:47:29.120 Or they go after multiple.

01:47:30.640 If they can't get with the first one, they'll go after the second one.

01:47:33.000 And I'm like, oh, can't make that shot.

01:47:34.800 On to the third one.

01:47:35.520 But their ego...

01:47:36.700 It's more like...

01:47:38.120 They will shoot their shot.

01:47:38.980 They're like, you're...

01:47:39.540 I've had this happen in my DM.

01:47:41.140 I've seen it.

01:47:41.580 You're gorgeous.

01:47:42.580 And then it's like, sorry, not interesting.

01:47:44.140 They're like, you whore.

01:47:45.160 No, literally.

01:47:45.900 Yeah, that's weird.

01:47:46.420 Like, you're not even that cute.

01:47:47.000 That's just weird.

01:47:47.620 Yeah.

01:47:48.360 It's like the ego just...

01:47:50.000 Yeah, that's weird.

01:47:50.780 Like, guys, if a girl rejects you, even if she's not tactful about it, just take the L.

01:47:56.320 Like, don't be like...

01:47:58.320 Or even if she's...

01:47:59.160 Certainly, if she's polite, just take the L.

01:48:00.940 Like, move on.

01:48:01.860 Just be like, hey, that's cool.

01:48:04.000 Don't keep trying.

01:48:04.640 Have a good one.

01:48:05.100 Like a guy...

01:48:05.480 But yeah, don't be like, if she rejects you, be like, you fucking ugly bitch.

01:48:08.740 I didn't want you anyways.

01:48:09.480 That shit's weird.

01:48:10.460 Don't do that.

01:48:10.480 Well, this guy, like, asked me one time...

01:48:12.820 Or, like, a couple days ago.

01:48:14.140 You saw it.

01:48:14.840 This guy asked me for nudes.

01:48:16.360 And he was like, you sell nudes?

01:48:17.580 And I was like, no, stop asking that.

01:48:19.000 You've asked me that, like, five times.

01:48:20.420 And I've ignored you every time.

01:48:21.400 And he was like, you're an ugly, horrible law.

01:48:24.420 And I was like, oh.

01:48:25.700 So you wanted to see me.

01:48:26.920 You wanted to pay for my body, like, two minutes ago.

01:48:29.260 And I told you no.

01:48:29.560 You wanted to pay for me the ugly whore?

01:48:31.400 But you didn't.

01:48:32.100 And now, all of a sudden, I'm just...

01:48:33.440 Save that for the seventh date, guys.

01:48:35.620 Asking for nudes.

01:48:36.380 Okay.

01:48:38.140 So, consensus with the table.

01:48:42.300 Is it easier for men or women to get laid?

01:48:45.660 Women.

01:48:46.020 Women.

01:48:46.820 Women.

01:48:47.920 Yeah, she still thinks it's nice.

01:48:49.060 I don't know.

01:48:49.880 Okay.

01:48:50.740 I'll give you an example.

01:48:52.080 So, you could probably go on Tinder right now.

01:48:54.360 Go in your DMs right now.

01:48:55.940 And find a guy to have sex with tonight.

01:48:58.540 Okay, fine.

01:48:59.220 I agree.

01:48:59.720 Okay, so it's 9 p.m.

01:49:02.300 So, let's say...

01:49:03.720 I know it's Thursday.

01:49:04.460 Let's say it's a Monday or Tuesday.

01:49:06.420 It's currently 9 p.m.

01:49:08.100 You could have a guy at 10 p.m.

01:49:11.080 Go to his place.

01:49:12.300 He goes to yours.

01:49:13.960 As a guy, like, for a girl you don't know.

01:49:17.680 For a girl you don't know, yeah.

01:49:18.660 For a girl you don't...

01:49:19.480 Well, of course...

01:49:19.900 That's what I mean.

01:49:20.620 For brand new.

01:49:22.080 There's no such thing as last minute pussy on a Tuesday.

01:49:25.460 You can't...

01:49:26.200 There's no guy unless you're...

01:49:27.740 There's no guy that's going to convince a girl at 10 p.m.

01:49:30.980 that they've never met before.

01:49:32.200 Hey, let's fuck.

01:49:33.240 Impossible.

01:49:33.600 They have to work harder for it.

01:49:35.600 They got to take her on a date, meet up in person.

01:49:38.060 No girl's going to just, like, immediately.

01:49:40.080 But any girl, if she was so inclined, I don't think most girls, though, would just want to...

01:49:44.520 Hey, let's fuck.

01:49:45.520 You know, they'd maybe want to date first, whatever.

01:49:48.180 Maybe there's some girls.

01:49:49.000 I don't know.

01:49:50.180 I know a few.

01:49:50.760 Depends on where you're at.

01:49:51.580 I know a few.

01:49:52.020 Or you could just walk outside right here on the street.

01:49:57.600 I don't know if I would do that.

01:49:59.240 Go up to a guy.

01:50:00.300 Be like, hi, do you want to fuck?

01:50:03.120 And they would...

01:50:04.200 The first might not say yes.

01:50:06.200 They might have a girlfriend.

01:50:07.220 But you ask five, at least one is going to say yes for sure.

01:50:10.800 Guaranteed.

01:50:11.100 But it might go back to the guy, like...

01:50:12.680 In fact, we can go out down there tonight.

01:50:15.520 I will do it for you.

01:50:16.660 I will go up to guys.

01:50:18.580 Can I record it?

01:50:19.220 Sure.

01:50:19.700 Well, you and me will go out together.

01:50:22.020 And I'll go up to guys.

01:50:23.180 You don't even have to say anything.

01:50:24.120 I'll be like, hey, you see that girl over there?

01:50:25.560 She kind of thinks you're cute.

01:50:26.740 She's wondering if you want to...

01:50:27.980 Boom, boom, boom.

01:50:29.340 I'll get you laid tonight.

01:50:30.500 But do you think that's going to go back to a guy, like a girl going up being like,

01:50:34.080 hey, you want to fuck?

01:50:34.860 Do you think the guy's going to go back to like, how many guys has she asked to do this?

01:50:38.340 And then that goes back to body count.

01:50:39.940 Yeah.

01:50:40.560 Like it all goes back to like...

01:50:41.660 Because then it looks like, oh, she's a whore.

01:50:43.240 She's trying to get some.

01:50:43.980 She probably does with every other guy, regardless of it being her first time.

01:50:46.140 Or are you talking about the principal?

01:50:47.180 But most men are so sex starved.

01:50:49.060 So most, a lot of men are sex starved.

01:50:52.420 Most men, like they're not getting any.

01:50:54.440 And they've done studies on this.

01:50:55.840 Like the majority of people that are either virgins or sexless between the age range of 18 and 29,

01:51:04.080 these are people who are reporting having had no sex in the past year.

01:51:07.700 It's 10% more men.

01:51:11.160 And so one of the reasons for that is there's this concept called hypergamy.

01:51:15.920 So, ah, man, we're getting into it.

01:51:19.640 So, let me ask, let me go around the table.

01:51:23.360 Of the men that you see on dating apps, social media, maybe not social media,

01:51:26.880 of the men you see on dating apps, if you've been on dating apps,

01:51:29.900 or that you see on a day-to-day basis,

01:51:32.060 what percentage of men would you say you find physically attractive?

01:51:36.560 Really quick, Alondra.

01:51:37.500 Um, maybe like a good, I don't know, that's kind of being generous.

01:51:45.900 Maybe like 40, honestly.

01:51:47.540 40%?

01:51:48.380 Damn.

01:51:49.120 I don't, it's hard for me.

01:51:51.260 I go to the same places every day.

01:51:54.260 I'm in school for eight hours, and then I go to the gym.

01:51:56.660 So at the gym, I'm a gym girl.

01:51:58.780 I think gym guys are attractive.

01:52:00.060 So all, most of the guys in there are attractive to me.

01:52:03.140 But if we're talking about on the street, probably about, yeah, 30, 40%.

01:52:09.020 Okay.

01:52:10.800 Like 10?

01:52:11.980 10%.

01:52:12.120 Like the boys here all look.

01:52:13.380 Yeah, I don't really like the guys here.

01:52:15.100 Okay, so 10% of the guys that you see on a day-to-day basis.

01:52:17.980 Like not even that, though.

01:52:19.420 Less than 10% of the guys you see.

01:52:20.740 Yeah, is that mean?

01:52:21.420 Like, that's just my own opinion, though.

01:52:23.320 And they're, it's around Isla Vista?

01:52:25.000 Yeah, like I'm not into like surfer, skater boy.

01:52:27.740 Okay.

01:52:28.160 By the way, so just to clarify, Isla Vista is a college town.

01:52:30.960 So the men she's seeing, she's not seeing a lot of 30, 40-year-old guys.

01:52:34.120 She's seeing guys in her age range, 10%.

01:52:37.220 Yeah, that sounds so mean.

01:52:39.280 That's totally fine.

01:52:40.040 What do you think?

01:52:40.900 I don't know.

01:52:41.340 I'm with her like at the gym.

01:52:42.640 Like I think the guys at the gym are very attractive.

01:52:45.040 But like I find a lot of guys out in the Isla Vista area very attractive

01:52:48.820 because I'm not from the California area.

01:52:50.880 I'm not from Santa Barbara.

01:52:52.920 I think they're pretty to look at.

01:52:54.540 I wouldn't necessarily like go talk to any of them.

01:52:57.640 But I think, I think they're good looking.

01:52:59.780 I think they're handsome.

01:53:00.520 I think they're cute.

01:53:01.220 They're just not our type.

01:53:02.600 Okay.

01:53:03.340 Yeah.

01:53:03.960 Percentage?

01:53:04.680 Like 60.

01:53:07.880 I should have asked this specifically.

01:53:09.860 Has everyone been on the dating app?

01:53:11.860 Yeah.

01:53:12.420 Okay.

01:53:12.720 The dating app is low for me.

01:53:13.680 What percentage of the men on dating apps would you say you find attractive?

01:53:16.820 Like 20 on Tinder.

01:53:18.680 Okay.

01:53:19.600 I'm just going to say the same as Reina.

01:53:21.440 But also.

01:53:22.140 10%.

01:53:22.780 I'm in a relationship.

01:53:23.340 Well, yeah.

01:53:23.640 You have a boyfriend.

01:53:24.900 Before your boyfriend.

01:53:26.700 We won't get you in trouble.

01:53:27.860 Don't give me trouble.

01:53:30.380 Probably like 10 to 15.

01:53:32.160 10 to 15% of men you find attractive.

01:53:33.980 Okay.

01:53:34.760 I would have to, I would have to agree with her.

01:53:36.820 Probably 10 to 15.

01:53:38.380 Okay.

01:53:38.760 Dating app is like very limited.

01:53:41.160 It's like.

01:53:41.900 Okay.

01:53:42.400 For my experience.

01:53:43.920 So, so just to tie this all together.

01:53:45.140 So, the thing is, is that if a lot of, if the majority of women are only finding 10

01:53:50.600 to 20% of the men attractive, most of the women, there's going to be a sort of a agreement

01:53:56.640 on that 10 or 20%.

01:53:59.000 So, what you have is basically 80% of the women that are going after 20% of the men.

01:54:04.580 And they've done studies.

01:54:05.360 Why they, it's easier for them when girls are like throwing themselves at you.

01:54:08.420 Well, but here's the thing.

01:54:09.560 That top 20%, and I think it's actually, it's probably shrinking.

01:54:12.380 It's the top 10%.

01:54:13.400 They, the top tier of men, super attractive men, they have an abundance of choice.

01:54:20.020 Yeah.

01:54:20.220 I, but I would actually say they, they don't have it when it comes to sleeping with a girl.

01:54:26.260 They actually don't have it anywhere near as easy as even an average looking girl.

01:54:32.460 I think an average looking girl can run circles around even like a top tier model, like model

01:54:38.620 looking guy.

01:54:39.540 He'll get success.

01:54:40.760 But an average girl, like you, just to sleep with a guy, just to sleep with a guy for, for one time.

01:54:47.560 Like if you really wanted to, yeah, it's easier for girls.

01:54:49.940 I'll admit that.

01:54:50.600 Yeah.

01:54:51.220 So, like I said, we can go down there.

01:54:54.040 You, you could get laid tonight.

01:54:55.960 Easy, easy, easy.

01:54:59.420 Um, okay.

01:55:00.480 So, we kind of went very deep into that super chat.

01:55:02.520 We're just going to get through the rest of these.

01:55:05.240 Garbage fries with a $2 super chat.

01:55:07.560 What's Kiki's body count?

01:55:08.880 I'll marry her regardless.

01:55:10.220 Kiki is a virgin.

01:55:13.060 Her chastity, her virtue.

01:55:14.860 She's a baby.

01:55:17.360 It's not hers.

01:55:18.300 Okay.

01:55:18.600 Can you hold it up for the camera?

01:55:20.200 Oh.

01:55:20.560 The child.

01:55:21.520 With the alcohol?

01:55:22.540 Yeah, with the, with the flask.

01:55:24.780 Can you like.

01:55:25.420 Can we do a little zoom in Eric?

01:55:26.740 A little like Mufasa moment?

01:55:28.120 What is it?

01:55:28.420 Just like.

01:55:29.100 Ah, Savenia.

01:55:31.020 Okay.

01:55:31.920 Uh, yeah.

01:55:32.840 So, adopted.

01:55:34.360 She's a very caring person.

01:55:36.600 Yeah.

01:55:36.960 Uh, her virtue's intact, guys.

01:55:39.780 Trust.

01:55:40.320 Okay.

01:55:41.360 Thank you, Garbage Fries.

01:55:43.240 Mike Davis.

01:55:44.180 He's back.

01:55:44.920 Gosh.

01:55:45.800 Dude, Mike Davis, I'm.

01:55:47.820 He has money, though.

01:55:48.940 I'm liking Mike.

01:55:49.820 He has money, clearly.

01:55:51.280 I'm changing my tune with Mike Davis.

01:55:53.100 Andrew Tate.

01:55:54.720 Understand the incel much more than he understands women.

01:55:57.380 He transitioned from a webcam business to pimping incels.

01:56:00.460 Think about it.

01:56:01.020 Um, I don't know about that.

01:56:04.300 I mean, it seems like a lot of the men that follow him just seem like kind of normal guys.

01:56:09.640 I don't know.

01:56:10.220 Yeah.

01:56:10.480 It's a bunch of.

01:56:11.060 But Mike, Mike Davis.

01:56:12.900 I'm going to keep it shut.

01:56:13.380 I'm going to keep it shut.

01:56:13.400 But.

01:56:13.920 Thank you for the.

01:56:14.840 Go ahead.

01:56:15.360 No, no, I went like that.

01:56:17.200 Oh, the small.

01:56:19.420 Body shaming.

01:56:20.820 How dare you, sir?

01:56:22.320 Ego shaming.

01:56:23.220 How dare you?

01:56:24.480 Um, let's see.

01:56:25.640 They're slut shaming girls, though, so.

01:56:27.500 Wait, who?

01:56:28.620 Or like, I don't know.

01:56:29.600 They're not slut shaming.

01:56:30.800 Well, if they have a higher body count, they're less likely to want to talk to her.

01:56:34.700 But I don't think it's shaming.

01:56:36.060 It's just a preference.

01:56:39.780 Guys have a preference.

01:56:40.880 Guys have a standard.

01:56:42.120 I have a preference.

01:56:42.880 I prefer to be bigger than this.

01:56:45.360 Whoa.

01:56:45.680 And his ego not doing nothing.

01:56:46.880 And his ego not like.

01:56:48.520 I don't like that kind of talk.

01:56:51.980 But it's a preference.

01:56:52.460 Well, I understand the ego thing.

01:56:54.280 Agreed.

01:56:54.620 It is how he uses it.

01:56:55.720 But like, I don't know.

01:56:56.900 His ego is just fucking.

01:56:58.080 Yeah.

01:56:58.280 He'd be the type of guy that drives like those like little loud cars with like, yeah, with

01:57:03.340 like all the extra engine shit.

01:57:05.260 Yeah, that's him.

01:57:06.900 Okay.

01:57:07.280 So I have a question.

01:57:09.340 So this is acceptable, right?

01:57:11.440 This thing is if this is acceptable.

01:57:14.120 Is this is that acceptable?

01:57:16.420 Here's the thing is the inside of a girl is about four and a half, five inches deep.

01:57:21.820 Cavernous vag energy.

01:57:23.480 Eight inches.

01:57:24.580 Six inches.

01:57:25.300 Seven inches even.

01:57:26.560 I mean, it doesn't.

01:57:27.860 It's it's gonna, you know, so.

01:57:29.920 Well, it's not so much that.

01:57:31.700 Let's not talk about genitalia.

01:57:33.200 Okay.

01:57:33.900 Moving on.

01:57:34.640 Moving on.

01:57:35.520 Mr. Josh Raines.

01:57:36.760 Two dollars.

01:57:37.120 Two dollars.

01:57:37.260 What's one thing each girl is most insecure about?

01:57:43.440 Actually, we were doing five and five and up.

01:57:46.760 Mr. Josh Raines.

01:57:47.520 Sorry.

01:57:47.800 Sorry, man.

01:57:48.280 We got to move on.

01:57:49.960 Time.

01:57:50.400 Time.

01:57:50.680 I'm sorry, Josh.

01:57:52.220 Mike Davis.

01:57:53.200 Five dollars super chat.

01:57:54.620 Women want a man with a high body count because it's social proof they have game.

01:57:58.860 Men know what they want and don't care about society's opinions.

01:58:03.700 Well, I mean, I do agree.

01:58:04.820 Like, I think what we can actually go around the panel on this.

01:58:10.500 Would any of you want to date or sleep with a guy who's a virgin?

01:58:14.420 I have.

01:58:17.260 Sure.

01:58:18.500 I'll rock his world.

01:58:20.080 Oh, okay.

01:58:20.960 Well, interesting take.

01:58:23.360 But I think if you ask a lot of women, they might be a bit turned off by that because the

01:58:27.700 guy's going to be...

01:58:28.620 What if he's watched porn all of his life?

01:58:31.140 I know a woman that was turned off by that.

01:58:32.880 I don't think watching porn is the best teacher of how to fuck.

01:58:37.860 Not that.

01:58:38.680 I don't know, but like...

01:58:39.940 I mean, unless you just want...

01:58:42.160 No, I'm saying as long as he doesn't just...

01:58:44.680 It's not like vanilla.

01:58:47.560 I don't know.

01:58:48.460 Vanilla?

01:58:48.980 You can teach him.

01:58:49.900 You don't know what vanilla sex is?

01:58:51.280 No, I'm familiar, yeah.

01:58:52.740 Okay, then.

01:58:53.300 He's a man of God, actually.

01:58:55.140 He doesn't even know what sex is.

01:58:57.120 No, I know I've had one of my friends, like his girlfriend would not sleep with him

01:59:01.840 because he was a virgin.

01:59:03.140 His girlfriend.

01:59:04.140 And I was like...

01:59:04.420 Girlfriend what?

01:59:05.160 Girlfriend would not sleep with him.

01:59:07.140 Girlfriend of like a year.

01:59:08.160 Girlfriend wouldn't sleep with him because he was a virgin.

01:59:10.020 I'm like, so how is he, you know?

01:59:12.320 How's he gonna live with him?

01:59:14.340 It's weird.

01:59:15.620 But I mean...

01:59:16.520 No, that doesn't matter.

01:59:18.160 What?

01:59:19.260 She wasn't a virgin?

01:59:20.560 She was not a virgin.

01:59:21.520 He was.

01:59:22.060 And she's like, I'm not sleeping with you if you're a virgin, but they were dating.

01:59:25.800 Hold on.

01:59:26.560 What did she want him to do?

01:59:28.080 Everybody knows you never go full retard.

01:59:30.340 Never go full retard.

01:59:31.800 What?

01:59:32.420 Wait, what?

01:59:33.240 She was dating him, but she didn't want...

01:59:36.580 But she...

01:59:37.440 Was she fucking somebody else?

01:59:38.700 I don't even know.

01:59:39.440 He was a virgin and she wouldn't date with him.

01:59:41.340 What?

01:59:42.640 That's weird.

01:59:43.880 Okay, so women want a man with high body count because it's social proof they have game.

01:59:47.720 I mean, word.

01:59:49.900 Okay.

01:59:50.320 Thank you, Mike Davis.

01:59:51.040 Much appreciated.

01:59:51.580 Okay, so I didn't really fully give my final take on the whole preference.

01:59:58.940 I should have done it earlier.

02:00:01.360 But before I do that, I want to open it up to final thoughts to the panel.

02:00:10.000 So if you have a final thought or you want to ask a question to either me or the panel or Kiki, feel free.

02:00:17.220 Start with you.

02:00:17.720 Thank you.

02:00:17.760 Thank you.

02:00:21.580 My final thought is that, like, over all of the questions of, like, does the body count matter, all of that kind of stuff, I think that, or, like, should they pay first?

02:00:36.540 I think that instead of looking at people's physical traits, their financial traits, or how many people they've had sex with, I think that we all should find somebody that's compatible with us and just honestly be looking for a good person.

02:00:52.500 And, like, yeah, that's all.

02:00:57.060 That's my final thought.

02:00:59.540 Final thought or question for the panel?

02:01:01.140 I mean, I don't have a question, but I guess final thought, kind of pretty much the same thing she was saying.

02:01:05.980 I don't think it really matters about all the outside things as long as you're happy and it works with whoever you're with or whatever you're doing.

02:01:12.260 And if you're happy, go for it.

02:01:16.000 Yeah, I mean, I stand by what I said.

02:01:18.360 I don't think a body count matters at all as long as you're safe, clean.

02:01:22.580 And, like, obviously if you're with your person and you have a past, like, talk about your past.

02:01:26.520 But, yeah.

02:01:28.100 Yeah, basically the same thing.

02:01:30.420 I don't think you should categorize any of the genders based on their physical body count or, like, their personal.

02:01:37.900 What about their height, though?

02:01:39.360 That's a physical thing.

02:01:40.460 This is just personal.

02:01:42.520 Like, everyone's is different.

02:01:44.780 I just, like, like what we were saying, like, you would prefer to be, like, smaller, you know?

02:01:48.680 I like my head at their heart.

02:01:51.060 That was cute.

02:01:52.080 I like my head at their heart because you can, like, hear the little heart.

02:01:54.800 That was cute.

02:01:55.200 No, don't do any of this.

02:01:58.040 I saw you eyeing it.

02:02:01.020 He's going to look for, like, the heartbeat sound.

02:02:02.820 No, yeah.

02:02:03.220 And then, like, when you hug them, like, when they're from behind, like, their arms are just, like, right there.

02:02:06.980 Like, I like that height of shades.

02:02:09.200 But what if a guy likes a woman who hasn't been ran through?

02:02:14.560 No, I'm saying, like, everyone can have their own preferences.

02:02:16.620 Like, you shouldn't, like, classify that.

02:02:19.580 Got it.

02:02:19.980 That, yeah.

02:02:21.500 Yeah.

02:02:22.080 I mean, I'm in agreeance.

02:02:23.760 It's, like, as long as you're happy, that's all that matters.

02:02:28.040 High body count or not.

02:02:29.860 Money or not.

02:02:31.440 Height or not.

02:02:32.860 I feel like everybody deserves to be with the person they want.

02:02:36.720 And the right guy will be with the right girl if her body count's high or low.

02:02:41.860 The right, and vice versa.

02:02:43.580 Like, it's just, if they like each other and they put things aside, that's what's going to happen.

02:02:48.800 And if they aren't compatible, then they will find people that they are compatible with.

02:02:52.620 So, at the end of the day, it's, like, you're going to be with who you're happy with.

02:02:55.920 And that's what matters.

02:03:00.280 Yeah.

02:03:01.020 I guess final thoughts on everything.

02:03:02.980 Have whatever preference you want.

02:03:05.160 If body count matters to you, that's okay.

02:03:07.200 But I think, in the end, whether it's male or female, just have a preference that you yourself can meet.

02:03:14.540 You know, don't be over here saying you don't like a high body count when you yourself have had many partners and all that.

02:03:22.500 Well, Andrew Tate, okay, so Andrew Tate, he probably has a very high body count.

02:03:27.660 Exactly.

02:03:28.240 I don't think so.

02:03:28.800 But he has a desire for a woman with a low body count.

02:03:31.760 So, do you take quarrel with that?

02:03:34.760 Yes.

02:03:35.040 Or do you think it's hypocritical?

02:03:36.140 It's very hypocritical.

02:03:37.340 If he becomes disrespectful.

02:03:38.660 Is it, though?

02:03:38.740 Is it because couldn't, you know, you want, for example, if you want a guy who's taller than you, but you're not tall, right?

02:03:50.660 So, there's asymmetries in what people find attractive.

02:03:53.980 Right.

02:03:54.880 So.

02:03:55.580 I think the right people are going to have the right compatibilities, though.

02:03:59.620 A tall guy who wants a short girl, he's going to find a short girl.

02:04:02.340 And if she wants to be with a tall guy, she's going to be with him.

02:04:06.880 And it all comes down to, like, if a guy, if the body count really is an issue with him, he will say, look, you're cool, we hung out, but, like, you know, it's not going to work and it's just going to end there.

02:04:19.580 Alondra, you wanted to come in?

02:04:20.780 I just feel like that's, like, a horrible comparison because it's, like, okay.

02:04:23.780 It's not the best.

02:04:24.580 It's not the best, but, okay, let's think about it, like, this way.

02:04:26.840 Like, okay, what if a girl, if a girl wants someone who has a lot of money, who can buy her all this designer stuff.

02:04:33.620 That's a good one.

02:04:33.980 What if she can't buy it for herself?

02:04:36.180 Why do you want a man that can buy it for you?

02:04:38.780 She's a brokie, but she wants a guy who is rich.

02:04:41.180 Exactly.

02:04:41.420 You're setting a standard for yourself that you yourself can't reach.

02:04:44.420 So it's, like, why is your standard you want a girl with a low body count when you yourself are ran through?

02:04:51.200 Like, why do you get to have all the fun and you want her to be, like, fresh?

02:04:54.800 Yeah, that's hypocritical.

02:04:56.800 Wait, what's the question?

02:04:57.720 Why you get to have all the fun and you got your fun in and now that you are done with it all, your high body count is there.

02:05:07.960 Now you want someone who has a body count of two or a virgin, like he was saying, a fresh, meat, 19-year-old.

02:05:16.680 Well, I don't think every guy has a high body count.

02:05:19.360 But we're talking about Andrew Tate.

02:05:20.360 Oh, we're talking about Andrew Tate?

02:05:21.960 Well, Andrew Tate's, I mean, this guy's, I think his net worth is, like, $500 million.

02:05:27.720 Oh, yeah.

02:05:28.920 Kickboxing champion, fit, 6'1", beautiful bald head.

02:05:36.260 So, I mean, he's definitely an outlier.

02:05:38.300 He is not, by any stretch of the magic, he's not a normal guy.

02:05:42.160 Yeah.

02:05:42.560 He's, like, at least financially-wise, he's...

02:05:45.840 He meets other standards, I guess.

02:05:47.060 Yeah, I mean...

02:05:47.640 What's high for a guy?

02:05:49.100 In terms of...

02:05:49.900 Body count.

02:05:50.760 What would be high for you?

02:05:52.360 For a guy to have?

02:05:53.460 For you, personally.

02:05:54.320 Like, I want to know, for personally, like, a guy, meaning you...

02:05:57.960 Oh, what's high in the girl?

02:05:58.960 What would be the deal-breaker for you?

02:06:00.520 Yeah.

02:06:02.080 It's hard to say, because it would depend on age.

02:06:05.000 So, I mean, if...

02:06:05.660 My age, 20.

02:06:06.780 20?

02:06:07.660 Yeah.

02:06:09.120 Your age.

02:06:10.200 I don't know how old you are.

02:06:10.840 Maybe someone in your age range, because you're a little...

02:06:13.080 So, I have other...

02:06:14.320 Can we ask how old you are?

02:06:15.500 Do you mind if we ask that?

02:06:16.100 Yeah, I'm 33.

02:06:17.280 Okay.

02:06:17.520 I'm 33.

02:06:17.900 So, then, say that you are going on, like, a Tinder date with this 33-year-old woman.

02:06:21.620 Sure.

02:06:22.000 And you guys, whatever, go home, whatever.

02:06:24.580 Her body count, what would be that, like, eh, deal-breaker kind of thing for you?

02:06:29.260 Like, no second date.

02:06:31.520 Oh, man.

02:06:32.040 If it is a date.

02:06:32.320 I mean, so, there's other factors, too, that come into play.

02:06:37.580 But you just said body count matters.

02:06:39.260 No, it does matter, but, like, I'm not...

02:06:43.120 It's not just, like, one thing, so, I mean, if...

02:06:46.260 It's hard to put it at a precise number.

02:06:49.460 Also, you know, you are looking at other...

02:06:51.760 Range.

02:06:52.160 Range.

02:06:52.980 Above, below.

02:06:53.480 Plain and simple.

02:06:54.480 Plain and simple.

02:06:55.400 It's a simple question.

02:06:56.580 It's tough, I mean...

02:06:57.140 The man was too stunned to speak.

02:06:59.200 So, like, someone around my age, like, 30 to 33, I'm going to start raising my eyebrow

02:07:07.480 probably above 20.

02:07:09.620 Okay.

02:07:09.960 I'm going to start raising my eyebrow a bit.

02:07:12.680 Like, no-go deal-breaker, probably, like, I want to say more than 30.

02:07:18.560 Can I ask, what if she was a high-profile person?

02:07:21.480 Or, like, celebrity?

02:07:22.520 Oh, yes.

02:07:23.460 That's what I was talking about last time.

02:07:25.120 High-profile person.

02:07:26.280 I'm sure you talk to other influencers, no?

02:07:28.300 Yeah, what if, like, an influencer who, like, has, like, however many million followers

02:07:32.740 on Instagram, like, wanted to go on a date with you and she had a high body count,

02:07:36.080 like, would that, would you take quarrel with that?

02:07:38.540 It would go into, like, clout, I would think.

02:07:41.020 I mean, I don't, honestly, I don't care about, I don't care about how much money a girl has.

02:07:45.540 No, yeah, but I'm saying, what if she just has a high body count because she's, like, famous?

02:07:48.900 Because she's famous?

02:07:52.460 I mean, I don't, I don't think it makes it any worse or better.

02:07:57.180 But it's, like, what if it was over 20 and she was 30 and you guys got to know each other?

02:08:01.240 In fact, I think women who have a lot of status, who have a lot of money,

02:08:03.860 are probably a little, are more picky.

02:08:06.500 I would think they'd be more cautious about it.

02:08:08.120 They're more picky.

02:08:08.860 People talk?

02:08:09.420 They're, yeah.

02:08:10.260 Everyone talks.

02:08:10.720 I mean, there's probably still some that, you know, have a high body count, but.

02:08:15.400 Yeah.

02:08:16.360 But, I mean, yeah, I don't.

02:08:18.060 Because a lot of people keep their stuff like that.

02:08:19.100 Honestly, and, like, I don't, a lot of, a lot of girls who are, like, super successful,

02:08:26.280 like, they're not, they're not really sliding into guys' DMs like that.

02:08:31.860 They got it.

02:08:32.620 Like, a super, Drake, he'll slide into, he would slide into a girl on this panel's DM.

02:08:40.000 Nick Cannon.

02:08:40.560 Like, a, like, a really successful, high status, like, social status guy, he'll get

02:08:48.780 with an average girl.

02:08:50.020 They don't care.

02:08:51.120 You could be a 19-year-old in college, no money, but if you're attractive and you're

02:08:56.140 good looking, a very, like, a rich, you know, guy with status could be an NBA player, could

02:09:03.300 be an athlete.

02:09:04.900 Well, yeah, so would you take Coral with a girl if she was, like, not a celebrity, maybe,

02:09:09.100 what if she was, like, an actress?

02:09:11.600 But she, but you're tying it to body count.

02:09:14.580 Well, because I'm asking, like, would you take Coral with it if she had a higher body

02:09:18.840 count, but just because she.

02:09:19.880 Because of her high status?

02:09:21.820 Not, like, because of it, but just because she has more, no, go.

02:09:25.020 Like, what she's saying, like, would it, having a high status, would it cancel out the

02:09:30.340 fact that she had a high body count?

02:09:33.220 What's that?

02:09:34.500 She said, like, right?

02:09:36.000 Is that if she had.

02:09:38.080 Would it cancel it out?

02:09:39.180 Yeah, like, would it cancel it out?

02:09:40.820 No, but I don't care.

02:09:41.640 I don't care about a girl's status at all.

02:09:43.700 He's saying he does a whole standard.

02:09:45.420 It's just the body count.

02:09:46.480 Okay.

02:09:47.300 It does, like, the amount, for me, how much money a girl makes does not fucking matter.

02:09:51.900 She could work at Starbucks.

02:09:52.940 I don't care.

02:09:54.040 I do not care.

02:09:55.340 But.

02:09:55.700 At all.

02:09:56.040 20 is 20.

02:09:56.900 What's that?

02:09:57.460 30.

02:09:57.680 He said 20 is 20.

02:09:58.780 So above 20, you would just be, like, 30 is 30.

02:10:00.700 So, here's the thing, like, I know we're in 2022, like, people will be hooking up,

02:10:06.360 like.

02:10:07.120 Hookup culture.

02:10:08.020 Hooking up.

02:10:08.520 So, what I would, for long-term commitment, the lower, the better.

02:10:17.620 So, like, I'm going to be.

02:10:18.500 What if she had a pass?

02:10:19.080 What if she had a crazy pass?

02:10:23.460 Not, like, a crazy pass.

02:10:24.520 It sort of depends, right?

02:10:25.620 And here's the other thing.

02:10:26.540 I don't drink.

02:10:27.540 What?

02:10:27.940 Okay.

02:10:28.480 I rarely.

02:10:29.320 He's like, wait.

02:10:30.080 I rarely drink.

02:10:31.080 And when I do, it's one drink, two max, a glass of wine, a beer.

02:10:35.920 So, I don't drink a lot.

02:10:37.000 I don't party.

02:10:37.540 I don't go to the club.

02:10:38.180 I don't go to the bar.

02:10:38.940 That's something I'd want in a partner, too.

02:10:41.320 So, I mean.

02:10:45.180 So, you wouldn't date a girl with a pass?

02:10:46.680 When you say pass, do you mean just.

02:10:49.820 And I saw a comment.

02:10:50.180 I don't have a pass.

02:10:51.240 I'm just, like, saying for people who do.

02:10:54.180 So, when you say pass, you just mean high body count?

02:10:56.300 Well, like, maybe they're going through something like what I said earlier or, like.

02:10:59.660 But it doesn't, it doesn't really matter.

02:11:02.420 Sort of, okay.

02:11:03.820 To address, like, what if they were going through something.

02:11:06.740 For the, as an example.

02:11:09.420 Tongue tied.

02:11:10.120 English is my first language.

02:11:11.600 First?

02:11:12.460 Wait.

02:11:13.780 What do you speak?

02:11:14.660 You've said that multiple times.

02:11:15.980 English is my second language.

02:11:19.440 What's your first?

02:11:20.400 French.

02:11:20.960 I speak a bit of French.

02:11:22.480 I was born in France, so.

02:11:24.380 Oh, that's cool.

02:11:25.540 Focus.

02:11:26.200 Sorry.

02:11:27.540 Sorry.

02:11:27.980 He just said it.

02:11:29.460 So, for example, like, I would not want to date a woman who's a single mother.

02:11:33.380 You wouldn't?

02:11:33.940 I would not want to date.

02:11:34.660 You wouldn't be a stepdad?

02:11:35.720 Fuck no.

02:11:36.440 What if it was a widow situation?

02:11:38.920 That's what I was going to say.

02:11:40.160 Okay.

02:11:40.380 I was going to get to that.

02:11:41.720 So, whether it's a girl who she just, you know, got knocked up, baby daddy dipped, whatever

02:11:51.560 it is, versus she's a widow, it doesn't, that doesn't really change anything.

02:11:57.000 But she can't control either one of those.

02:11:59.800 Baby daddy leaves.

02:12:00.860 She can't control that.

02:12:02.220 Baby daddy dies.

02:12:02.620 I feel like at this point we're just trying to convince him out of his own preference.

02:12:05.520 That's true.

02:12:06.140 No, no.

02:12:07.680 It's okay.

02:12:08.200 Like, you guys can ask questions.

02:12:09.360 It's totally fine.

02:12:09.980 I'm not.

02:12:10.200 No, right, but I see, like, where you're coming from, because it's like, no matter what it

02:12:12.980 is, at the end of the day, his preference is a low body count.

02:12:15.300 Well, it's, but bringing it back to the single mother thing, whether she's a widow, whether,

02:12:19.760 you know.

02:12:20.580 Like, you just wouldn't date her at all?

02:12:22.080 Well, it's because there would be, and I don't recommend men dating single mothers, because

02:12:27.780 the fact of the matter is, like, a girl who does not have a child, she's going to be incredibly

02:12:33.780 busy, probably more stressed than would a childless mom, sorry, woman, and she might have expectations

02:12:47.440 that in a long-term relationship, she's going to want you to financially support, but the

02:12:52.560 thing is, is that you coming in as a guy who's not the biological father, like, and I've

02:13:00.320 really, I've went on, like, one or two dates with girls who are single moms, it's impossible

02:13:05.400 to, they'll flake last minute, it's impossible, which I.

02:13:09.020 So you're speaking out of, like, experience.

02:13:11.220 Experience.

02:13:11.900 It's not just, like.

02:13:12.360 I've never had a, like, I've never, I don't think I've even slept with a girl who's had

02:13:16.860 a kid, but I've been on two dates with single moms, and tried to arrange a second date,

02:13:24.220 flaked, like, oh, my, my kid has this thing, I got, sorry, 30 minutes, I'm already at the

02:13:29.760 place, or whatever, you know, I'm already waiting.

02:13:32.500 So, scheduling-wise, it's a pain in the ass.

02:13:36.240 Do you think in your age range it's harder to find.

02:13:39.760 No, there, there's a lot of single people.

02:13:41.680 But, no, with babies.

02:13:42.160 There's a lot of single people.

02:13:43.220 With babies.

02:13:44.140 I think, I feel like, you know, in, like, 30s, I feel like it's maybe harder to find a

02:13:51.240 girl, unless she chose not to be a mom.

02:13:53.860 Honestly, there's a lot of.

02:13:55.360 Really?

02:13:55.740 Because I know, like, for us, it's like, we always put a time on it, but I think time

02:14:00.120 starts running out, so girls do have children in their 30s.

02:14:04.100 I'll say this, there's a lot of women that have focused on their career and have put finding

02:14:09.140 a relationship and having a family second.

02:14:12.000 So, I mean, there's a lot, a lot of women, in my age range, even, that don't have any

02:14:19.980 kids, but I mean, I'm, I'll, most of my recent relationships have been with people around

02:14:26.080 my age, like, I want to say between 29, 28, 29 to 34 in that age range, but, like, I'd

02:14:33.460 be willing to, I'll date younger.

02:14:36.700 I would actually say it's my preference to date someone younger.

02:14:41.060 So, word.

02:14:43.380 So, how did we get on to the single mom thing?

02:14:45.540 I forgot.

02:14:46.100 I don't even know.

02:14:46.800 I was giving an example.

02:14:47.600 We were talking about, like, body count.

02:14:49.120 Body count.

02:14:50.320 Dating and social status.

02:14:51.460 Yeah, no, but I, honestly, there's a couple other reasons why not to date a single mom.

02:14:55.760 I mean, first, like, in her hierarchy of what she's paying attention to, and, like, you're

02:15:02.680 down here.

02:15:03.700 You're going to be way lower.

02:15:05.560 So, I mean, whereas if you're dating a girl who doesn't have a kid, you might be her second

02:15:13.000 priority.

02:15:14.660 You know, they're going to be, maybe their career is their first priority.

02:15:16.800 Maybe not, but, like, you're always going to come after the kid, so, and I don't have

02:15:22.160 kids, so, and the kid's not mine, and so, I don't know.

02:15:28.880 It's just a big headache, and then, oh, but you couldn't, you wouldn't be able to discipline.

02:15:33.380 She expects you to, if you, if she expects you to provide financially, if you're in a

02:15:38.280 long-term relationship, and, but it's still her kid, so she's probably going to have an

02:15:43.760 issue if you need to discipline the kid.

02:15:45.780 So, you have, you have all the responsibility, but none of the authority that would normally

02:15:51.400 come with, you know, being a father.

02:15:53.520 So, to me, that's slavery.

02:15:56.280 No, if you, if you have responsibility, but no authority, to me, that's slavery.

02:16:05.320 I'm being a bit extra.

02:16:06.780 I mean, we might go over, but I was just going to say, personally, if I did have a child, and

02:16:11.280 the father was absent, and somebody came in, and was willing to help, and take on responsibility,

02:16:17.060 yes, there would be some fine lines that you can't cross, but, you know, if you are going

02:16:23.540 to take on that responsibility, and you want to be in my child's life, then, yeah, I am

02:16:28.760 going to treat you like the dad.

02:16:30.140 If that is the responsibility you want to take on, but if not, it's totally fine as well.

02:16:34.940 You can walk away.

02:16:36.140 And, well, the other thing, too, is once a woman has a child with someone, like, there's

02:16:42.400 a greater likelihood that the, the bio dad is, is involved, and that messies the relationship

02:16:49.400 that you would have with her, and then she's maybe wanting to, you know, reconcile the

02:16:54.680 relationship with a bio dad, and then he's around, and if it's shared custody, he's coming

02:16:59.780 by, maybe she has resentment, and it's just a whole fucking thing.

02:17:04.000 I've been through it, I've been through it, though.

02:17:04.760 And as a guy who does not have a kid, like, why would I put myself in a situation where,

02:17:10.540 to me, that, that is not a, when I have other choices, why would I pick what is essentially

02:17:19.700 a detrimental choice in a partner when I could date a woman who doesn't have any other kids?

02:17:24.520 I'm just speaking because I've been through both scenarios.

02:17:27.740 You have a kid?

02:17:28.740 No, I don't have a kid.

02:17:29.880 I have dated somebody who does, and I went through the whole messy situation.

02:17:36.160 Me and her are good now.

02:17:37.960 Me and him aren't together, but me and her are good.

02:17:40.540 We have, we've grown a relationship.

02:17:43.480 Wait, was it a relationship with a woman?

02:17:45.420 No, I was with the guy.

02:17:46.860 You were with the guy, and I see, okay.

02:17:48.640 Yeah.

02:17:49.440 It was messy at first.

02:17:51.400 Everything settled down, but I'm just telling you my viewpoint from being on both sides of

02:17:56.980 it.

02:17:57.180 I was, you know, so it's like, I know, I'm not a mom, but listening to her side of the

02:18:02.880 story, I know completely how she felt with him.

02:18:07.260 It was like, it was just a whole mess, but I can see both sides.

02:18:11.920 It's where, as the person where it's like, you don't know what you're walking into, and

02:18:18.020 then the one with the child, it's like, you know, you want that family, but at the same

02:18:24.200 time, it's going to create a mess.

02:18:25.840 If the person said, who doesn't want to be the dad, you know, it's just, yeah.

02:18:31.260 And also the other thing, not to sound like a total ruthless asshole, but like, if you're

02:18:35.620 dating a single mother and you're dating her for a long time, and you're like a genuinely

02:18:39.500 good dude, you will get an attachment to the kid.

02:18:43.380 If you're like, you know, helping take care of the kid or whatever, if the kid is starting

02:18:48.100 to view you as the father figure, and you're helping take care of him, if that relationship

02:18:53.000 ends, you have, like, you know, you're going to not only be kind of sad about the end of

02:19:01.400 the relationship, but also there's this kid that you've built a bond with, and when you're

02:19:08.000 just, you're not the bio dad, you'd have no rights there.

02:19:10.900 I'm not saying that a guy should if he's not the bio dad, but what I'm saying is, it's

02:19:14.420 sort of like a double breakup in a way, like, you've, in the same way if they had like a

02:19:17.960 dog or something, and you got really attached to the dog, and you really liked their dog

02:19:21.700 or something, yeah, I don't know if any of you have dated, and you're looking at me

02:19:24.860 like, this guy's fucking crazy.

02:19:26.660 I will.

02:19:27.480 No, but like, if you had a partner, and they had a dog, it was their dog, clearly, and it's

02:19:34.620 kind of like, you really like the dog, you know, you really like the dog, and then, oh,

02:19:39.800 you break up, okay, you never see the dog again, you know, so.

02:19:44.200 Can I say too, I will say, I'm, so I'm from Nevada, but in the state of Nevada, and I'm

02:19:49.900 not sure the exact like timeline, but if you are with a pregnant woman, and the child is

02:19:55.720 not yours, and you're there with her when she gives labor, and you're with her for six

02:19:59.400 months after the child is born, you legally become the, like, in like some sort of legal

02:20:06.560 situation, you become the father in the legal stance.

02:20:11.920 Like, I, yeah, but it's a custody thing, it's a custody thing.

02:20:15.880 All right, guys, don't date pregnant women.

02:20:18.220 In Nevada.

02:20:18.800 In Nevada, I guess.

02:20:20.140 Well, I mean.

02:20:20.840 And don't quote me on the timing, don't quote me on the like the right thing, but like my

02:20:24.680 mom is like CPS, she told me about this stuff, but yeah, if you're with a woman, and she's

02:20:29.860 having a child, you're with her when she has the child, and you stay with her six months

02:20:33.240 after the child, and the father is not in the picture, you're now in the picture, and

02:20:37.100 your name now becomes under that.

02:20:39.320 So when you leave, you're still legally responsible for those, that child's support.

02:20:46.680 Word.

02:20:47.680 Mom, if you're seeing this, I'm wrong.

02:20:48.800 Really quick, just around the panel, would you guys date, you get, most of you are pretty

02:20:53.680 young here, so I mean, would you date a guy who has a kid?

02:20:58.700 No.

02:20:59.020 When you could date, I mean, I don't think any of you would have trouble finding a guy

02:21:03.100 who doesn't have that sort of, sorry to say, this baggage, would you, you can find very

02:21:10.540 easily a guy who doesn't have a kid.

02:21:11.720 So would you date a guy who has a kid?

02:21:13.160 No.

02:21:14.600 I have.

02:21:15.240 You have, okay.

02:21:16.120 I would.

02:21:17.240 Okay.

02:21:17.560 Not now.

02:21:21.840 Seeing that I have a boyfriend, I don't really, I'm just gonna, okay.

02:21:26.500 Let's say you're, if you were single before your boyfriend.

02:21:31.720 I would say, I mean, it also depends on my age, but right now, no, maybe later on, it

02:21:38.100 could change.

02:21:41.300 Potentially.

02:21:42.040 I also agree, maybe later on in life.

02:21:44.420 Yeah, later on.

02:21:45.220 Okay, fair enough, fair enough.

02:21:46.460 Last super chat here, MD with the Mexican pesos, apparently.

02:21:51.140 What is the definition of minus body count?

02:21:53.800 What?

02:21:54.260 Sorry, dude, I don't know what you're talking about.

02:21:55.760 Minus body count?

02:21:57.180 There's, is this a math question?

02:22:00.740 I said, skip it.

02:22:01.960 Yeah.

02:22:03.040 Thanks for the 40, though.

02:22:05.540 For the 40?

02:22:06.380 How much can anyone convert?

02:22:07.720 How many Mexican pesos?

02:22:08.180 I think it's like $2 or something.

02:22:10.000 Okay, got it.

02:22:11.320 Very much.

02:22:12.020 Okay, so, I think we all did final thoughts.

02:22:18.100 Should I give my take?

02:22:20.700 Final take?

02:22:21.380 Sure.

02:22:21.540 Okay.

02:22:21.900 What time is it?

02:22:23.000 Oh.

02:22:24.240 Yeah, we should probably, we're gonna wrap up.

02:22:25.880 We're gonna wrap up.

02:22:27.520 For her sake.

02:22:28.880 It's fine.

02:22:29.600 Okay.

02:22:30.020 It's okay.

02:22:30.960 She texted the boss.

02:22:32.020 So, you know, I think.

02:22:32.900 Oh, okay.

02:22:33.620 But I will.

02:22:34.660 So, I think, here's the thing, is like, if you asked a lot of men also in your life,

02:22:40.120 like, or if you asked a guy who you were dating, I think a lot of guys are not like,

02:22:45.160 oh, does body count matter?

02:22:46.320 Do you care?

02:22:46.660 Most guys would be like, nah, baby, I don't care.

02:22:48.500 But I think, like, deep down, men would have an issue with someone who has a high body

02:22:55.040 count.

02:22:56.060 There are outliers.

02:22:57.120 There are guys who are polyamorous.

02:22:58.440 There are guys who are swingers.

02:22:59.520 They probably don't care.

02:23:01.420 There are guys who are cucks who probably invite.

02:23:03.720 The more, the better, right?

02:23:05.320 But I'd say the vast majority of men, and probably the majority of men that you're attracted

02:23:09.220 to, are going to have an issue if you have a promiscuous past.

02:23:16.420 So, the thing is, men cannot truly be honest with their thoughts because it kind of goes

02:23:21.220 against political correctness, the narrative.

02:23:24.840 I think if men were honest with how they thought, you know, their dating preferences, it would

02:23:32.540 almost certainly is met with contempt, reprisal, disdain, mockery, shaming language.

02:23:40.340 I mean, we did the small penis thing, small dick.

02:23:43.240 Like, you know, accusations of being an incel, insecure, toxic, misogynist, small dick, patriarchy,

02:23:51.760 all this.

02:23:52.040 We're not going to get into that.

02:23:52.680 Yeah, we're not going to get into that.

02:23:54.020 So, you know, I think women are entitled to their preferences, standards, and boundaries.

02:24:01.900 I think men are entitled to their preferences, standards, and boundaries.

02:24:07.620 I think the preferences, standards, and boundaries that men have are different than those that

02:24:14.420 women have.

02:24:15.200 I don't think that there's a symmetry in what people find attractive and what people want

02:24:18.600 in a partner.

02:24:20.320 And word.

02:24:22.580 Word.

02:24:23.580 Word.

02:24:24.160 Anyone, really, anyone want to come in, or?

02:24:28.060 My head hurts.

02:24:28.980 Yeah, it's been a long time.

02:24:31.180 Okay, so we're going to wrap up here.

02:24:33.540 Just want to see real quick if we have any final Super Chats.

02:24:36.720 No, I don't think we do.

02:24:38.540 Okay, so thank you for tuning in tonight, guys.

02:24:42.780 It was a very, I think it was a good little discussion.

02:24:46.480 I really appreciate you guys coming on and giving your insights into everything.

02:24:49.740 So, yeah, thank you again, guys, for tuning in.

02:24:53.100 You could have been doing anything else, but you're here with me.

02:24:56.460 I appreciate that.

02:24:57.700 We will be live again Tuesday at 7 p.m.

02:25:00.200 I want to thank the panel for coming.

02:25:01.840 Thanks for watching.

02:25:03.280 And we will see you next time.

02:25:06.180 See you guys.

02:25:06.680 Bye-bye.

02:25:22.740 Bye-bye.

Whatever Podcast - February 02, 2023

Dating Talk #7

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