Whatever Podcast - Dating Talk #8

00:00:00.000 from Ila Vista, Santa Barbara County, California.

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00:01:34.220 Without further ado,

00:01:35.400 we're going to have the guests introduce themselves.

00:01:38.320 So please, tell us your name, age, occupation, or school.

00:01:44.360 Political orientation.

00:01:46.200 Are you a feminist? 1.00

00:01:48.000 And relationship status.

00:01:49.480 We're adding a few.

00:01:50.580 Let's start over here.

00:01:53.020 Oh, with me?

00:01:54.080 Yes.

00:01:54.700 Oh, okay.

00:01:55.420 My name's Kayla.

00:01:57.000 What was it?

00:01:57.640 Age?

00:01:58.640 Name.

00:01:59.740 Age.

00:02:00.520 Occupation or school.

00:02:02.400 Political orientation, if you want to share.

00:02:04.100 Do you identify as a feminist, if you want to share.

00:02:08.520 And relationship status.

00:02:10.100 Okay, so my name's Kayla.

00:02:11.540 I'm 20.

00:02:13.640 Sorry.

00:02:14.300 I'm 20.

00:02:16.260 I go to UCSB.

00:02:18.320 I am a liberal.

00:02:21.040 And I would consider myself a feminist. 0.99

00:02:24.580 And I'm also single.

00:02:26.800 What do you study at UCSB?

00:02:28.760 Neuroscience.

00:02:31.020 I'm Christy.

00:02:32.260 I'm 20.

00:02:33.240 I'm a liberal.

00:02:34.300 I'm a feminist. 1.00

00:02:35.240 And I am a cannabis photographer.

00:02:38.520 Relationship status.

00:02:39.520 Oh, I'm single.

00:02:41.840 I'm Sydney.

00:02:43.000 I'm 21.

00:02:44.220 I'm single.

00:02:45.320 I'm a student.

00:02:46.420 I'm studying acting, trying to get into the acting major.

00:02:50.640 And I would consider myself a feminist. 0.99

00:02:56.540 Did I miss one?

00:02:58.460 You did relationship status, right?

00:03:00.180 Yeah, I'm single.

00:03:01.060 And political orientation.

00:03:03.340 No opinion.

00:03:06.280 Hi, I'm Hensley.

00:03:07.500 I'm 22.

00:03:08.800 I'm a stripper. 0.99

00:03:10.680 I go for the green party.

00:03:12.800 And I'm single.

00:03:15.000 And I'm single.

00:03:16.460 Hi, I'm Gabby.

00:03:17.380 I'm a student at UCSB studying sociology.

00:03:19.500 I'm 21, and I'm currently single.

00:03:22.760 Hi, I'm Maxwell.

00:03:24.140 I'm 25.

00:03:25.220 Move to the microphone.

00:03:26.080 Microphone, please.

00:03:28.420 Sorry.

00:03:29.380 I'm Maxwell.

00:03:31.120 I'm 25.

00:03:31.860 I am a software quality analyst for video games.

00:03:36.440 So I play video games.

00:03:38.980 It's actually more boring than it sounds.

00:03:41.620 And I don't...

00:03:43.660 Let's not get into my political affiliation.

00:03:46.180 It's going to take up the whole chat for the rest of the show.

00:03:49.100 Plot synopsis?

00:03:50.640 Into the microphone, please.

00:03:52.360 Communist.

00:03:53.320 Anyway.

00:03:54.560 Marxist?

00:03:55.100 I am single.

00:03:56.320 Yes.

00:03:56.980 Okay.

00:03:57.220 Feminist? 1.00

00:04:00.200 Yeah.

00:04:01.040 It's...

00:04:01.360 Yeah.

00:04:01.640 Okay.

00:04:03.360 Okay.

00:04:04.640 And yes, I'm dressed like Faye Valentine from Cowboy Bebop.

00:04:07.420 I was told cosplay was an option.

00:04:10.940 So I went with it.

00:04:12.380 Into the microphone, please.

00:04:13.420 Everyone else did the normal thing.

00:04:15.600 And now I'm stuck like this.

00:04:19.740 So yeah.

00:04:20.480 Yes, I am in fact dressed as Faye Valentine.

00:04:22.820 And that's why I'm here.

00:04:24.100 Like this.

00:04:25.420 What did you think of the Netflix?

00:04:27.880 I don't know what you're talking about.

00:04:30.140 We do not acknowledge that here.

00:04:33.320 In this family.

00:04:34.200 It seemed...

00:04:34.640 It got pretty poor reviews.

00:04:36.180 It seemed.

00:04:36.820 The adaptation or whatever.

00:04:38.480 I couldn't get through the first episode.

00:04:40.320 I'm really sorry, Yoko Kano.

00:04:43.780 But I do have a lot of Cowboy Bebop merch in my house.

00:04:49.080 So everyone here is single.

00:04:52.920 Okay.

00:04:53.360 So when you say you're single, what does that mean?

00:05:00.880 What does that really mean?

00:05:02.080 Let's start with Faye over here. 1.00

00:05:03.420 Um, uh, my really serious boyfriend moved to Italy for work and we decided not to stay

00:05:12.080 together because we don't live in a Hallmark movie. 0.98

00:05:13.920 So now I'm just on my thought shit. 0.99

00:05:16.120 Um, uh, I'm seeing a professional game player right now. 0.95

00:05:22.840 Um, so you're, you're seeing somebody.

00:05:25.060 I'm seeing multiple people.

00:05:26.720 Multiple people.

00:05:27.700 Yeah.

00:05:28.440 I can't limit myself.

00:05:30.000 But you didn't wait.

00:05:30.900 I thought you said you were single.

00:05:32.260 Uh, so you're single.

00:05:33.280 I am because I'm not going to move to Italy for four years.

00:05:36.320 But you're seeing multiple people.

00:05:39.320 I just met them.

00:05:42.120 Single by definition alone.

00:05:43.520 Yeah.

00:05:44.060 Like.

00:05:44.400 Okay.

00:05:44.800 We haven't had the conversation.

00:05:46.420 I actually don't think I've ever had that conversation.

00:05:49.180 I'm just like, we're, we're in a relationship now.

00:05:52.160 And they're like, okay.

00:05:53.520 But you're currently sleeping with somebody.

00:05:57.640 Well, we don't sleep, but yeah.

00:06:00.600 So you're an insomniac?

00:06:04.720 Yes, but.

00:06:06.000 I, when I say sleep, I mean it in the, uh, biblical sense.

00:06:11.520 Um. 0.99

00:06:12.280 Are you currently having penet, penetrative sex with someone? 1.00

00:06:18.920 Biblical sex. 1.00

00:06:19.720 Uh, okay. 0.99

00:06:20.520 Well, if we're going biblical, who's getting penetrated?

00:06:24.520 So you like to peg.

00:06:26.860 You like to peg your partners.

00:06:28.940 Uh, yeah.

00:06:30.600 More power to you. 1.00

00:06:32.720 Sick. 0.99

00:06:33.600 Okay.

00:06:34.160 And you said you're currently seeing multiple people.

00:06:37.040 What, how many concurrently?

00:06:39.060 Um.

00:06:40.780 I went on like four first dates in the last, yeah, like four first dates in the last couple

00:06:45.380 weeks.

00:06:46.360 A guy I was seeing who I thought was cute told me he just wanted to be friends.

00:06:49.480 And so I was like, okay, I need, I need attention.

00:06:52.240 And so I, I went and got it.

00:06:56.720 Got what?

00:06:57.740 Attention.

00:06:58.540 The internet's a beautiful thing.

00:07:00.100 And by attention you mean sex?

00:07:01.900 Uh, no, just mostly dates.

00:07:03.800 Okay. 0.98

00:07:04.240 Sex with one, the one I'm still seeing. 1.00

00:07:06.140 Got it. 0.99

00:07:06.500 Okay.

00:07:06.680 So one of them you're still seeing.

00:07:08.020 One of them, one of them passed the, uh, test of not being incredibly weird or boring.

00:07:13.720 Okay.

00:07:14.740 And what, define weird or boring.

00:07:18.900 Um.

00:07:19.680 What, what does that constitute?

00:07:20.800 One of them asked me for feet pics within 10 minutes of me leaving the date.

00:07:24.100 That's pretty normal.

00:07:24.980 Uh, yeah.

00:07:25.920 But he wasn't going to pay me for them.

00:07:27.680 So what's the point?

00:07:30.360 Um.

00:07:31.320 If he had paid, you would have thought about it?

00:07:33.800 Uh, oh, absolutely.

00:07:35.600 My rent's not cheap.

00:07:36.980 I live in LA.

00:07:38.020 Uh, it's, it's expensive.

00:07:40.200 Uh, one of them lied about his age by 15 years.

00:07:43.400 Uh, yeah.

00:07:45.740 He was as old as my father, which.

00:07:48.660 Nice.

00:07:49.280 Yeah.

00:07:50.380 That was a whole thing.

00:07:52.220 Uh, and one of them, my phone broke for a couple of days and he texted me, hey, 18 times

00:07:58.860 in those two days.

00:08:01.380 So he was out.

00:08:02.860 Yeah.

00:08:03.820 Yikes.

00:08:04.460 Yeah.

00:08:05.220 Okay.

00:08:05.740 Don't do that.

00:08:07.020 Don't, please don't ever do that.

00:08:09.820 Okay.

00:08:10.280 And we have Gabby.

00:08:11.340 So you said you were single.

00:08:13.060 Yes.

00:08:13.400 By the way, thank you for, Gabby's a return, return visitor.

00:08:17.800 Um, has anything changed?

00:08:20.040 You were single last time.

00:08:21.040 You're single this time.

00:08:22.580 Nothing has changed.

00:08:23.600 I'm as single as it gets.

00:08:24.800 I'm not.

00:08:24.980 Did you get any DMs?

00:08:26.600 Like people who saw the show and then they DMed you? 0.98

00:08:29.340 I got that.

00:08:30.060 Okay.

00:08:30.240 That first person you interviewed followed me today.

00:08:33.080 Actually.

00:08:33.600 What's his name?

00:08:34.360 Brandon.

00:08:35.140 Yeah.

00:08:35.300 I think that's, I think that's him.

00:08:37.000 He said he was on your podcast.

00:08:38.240 Or I saw he was on your podcast.

00:08:39.580 Yeah.

00:08:39.700 Okay.

00:08:40.020 He followed me.

00:08:40.540 He's a good guy.

00:08:40.920 He didn't reach out.

00:08:41.820 Oh yeah.

00:08:42.080 He just followed me.

00:08:42.940 Yeah.

00:08:43.060 So I noticed that.

00:08:43.740 But I did get.

00:08:44.360 He's a good guy.

00:08:44.900 You guys should maybe link up.

00:08:46.520 I didn't watch the podcast, but yeah, um, he just followed me.

00:08:51.240 He reached out, but no, I'm as single as it gets.

00:08:52.980 I'm not talking, texting, snapping anybody at the moment.

00:08:55.780 Okay.

00:08:57.320 Hensley.

00:08:58.280 Hi.

00:08:59.760 So you're single.

00:09:01.180 Yes.

00:09:02.660 Tell us about that.

00:09:04.600 Um, I mean, kind of just by definition, I guess, uh, like I'm seeing someone, but I

00:09:14.820 don't know, it's definitely still single.

00:09:20.240 Sir, are you texting?

00:09:22.040 I, I, I'm trying to communicate to Chris some very important information.

00:09:27.160 So you're seeing somebody, but it's not official. 0.99

00:09:32.680 So y'all fucking. 0.99

00:09:35.920 Chris, when I talk, please switch to me. 1.00

00:09:38.100 Um, so, okay.

00:09:42.060 Interesting.

00:09:42.920 Okay.

00:09:43.280 How long have you guys been seeing each other?

00:09:45.480 About a month.

00:09:46.580 A month.

00:09:47.120 Okay.

00:09:48.320 All right.

00:09:50.280 Hi.

00:09:52.040 Um, yeah, I'm single, not seeing anyone, not talking to anyone, kind of just doing my

00:09:59.520 thing, I guess.

00:10:02.500 Nothing since the last show?

00:10:05.500 No, no, I was here last week and I've had like more followers and more DMs or well, I've

00:10:12.120 gotten like a few DMs or like people asking about the podcast, but no.

00:10:17.460 Okay.

00:10:18.260 Yeah.

00:10:19.780 Um, yeah, I'm single.

00:10:21.280 I'm not seeing anyone.

00:10:22.020 I'm not talking to anyone.

00:10:23.080 Just kind of hanging out also.

00:10:25.380 Okay.

00:10:26.400 When was your last relationship?

00:10:27.860 Um, God, when I first moved for college, so like two years ago, but we actually just

00:10:35.600 stopped talking like, like four months ago, five months ago.

00:10:40.360 Yeah.

00:10:40.760 When, and when was the last time that you were, you saw somebody?

00:10:46.980 Um, him.

00:10:47.660 I haven't been like interested in dating really since then.

00:10:51.160 I'm still trying to work on some stuff before I put myself back out there.

00:10:55.340 Wait, so this was before you started university or?

00:10:59.120 Yeah.

00:10:59.540 Uh, we broke up when I moved to college.

00:11:01.560 And so you were 18 then?

00:11:04.260 Yes.

00:11:04.880 And you're 20 now?

00:11:05.820 Yes.

00:11:06.220 So nothing in the two years?

00:11:08.500 Well, like nothing serious, like, you know, nothing I would consider more than like, not

00:11:12.540 even talking actually.

00:11:13.500 Yeah.

00:11:13.580 Nothing serious past then.

00:11:14.820 I just haven't really, I don't know.

00:11:16.860 Isla Vista doesn't have the best dating pool to pick from.

00:11:21.060 So.

00:11:21.600 It does not.

00:11:22.520 How so?

00:11:24.620 Okay.

00:11:25.040 Where do I start?

00:11:26.240 Yeah.

00:11:26.460 Just start.

00:11:27.440 Mostly just being a college town and especially this college town of all of them.

00:11:30.700 It's just like, you know, very hookup based, which is fine.

00:11:34.040 Like totally do your own thing.

00:11:35.080 Like, but it's just not somewhere that I would like, you know, if, if the love of my life

00:11:39.840 is in Isla Vista, I sincerely want the second choice.

00:11:46.960 You want the second choice.

00:11:48.780 Yes.

00:11:49.240 You don't want the love of your life to be in Isla Vista.

00:11:52.580 I just truly believe it isn't.

00:11:54.080 But on the off chance that it is, um, I don't know.

00:11:58.580 I think I can, I think I seek higher things for myself.

00:12:02.480 Take notes.

00:12:02.920 What, what is your primary, uh, gripe with the men in this town?

00:12:08.680 Um, just like.

00:12:10.340 Or three.

00:12:11.300 If you want to list.

00:12:12.300 Okay.

00:12:12.500 Well, three, just in the interactions I've had with like my guy friends and like the

00:12:16.340 guys I'm around, they can be the sweetest people in the world.

00:12:18.740 And then I'll just like hear how they talk about women or hear like, you know, like what

00:12:23.040 they do, like put them through and like, you know, how do they talk about women?

00:12:26.840 Just like, like.

00:12:28.580 If they have a boyfriend, it doesn't matter.

00:12:30.080 Yeah. 1.00

00:12:30.320 Shit like that. 1.00

00:12:31.060 And then just like being disrespectful and just like not treating them well. 1.00

00:12:36.080 It's like, oh yeah.

00:12:36.820 Like super.

00:12:37.980 And like my friend today was like, I'm so into this girl.

00:12:40.160 Oh my God.

00:12:40.620 That's my wife. 1.00

00:12:41.760 And then like, all of a sudden he's like, yeah, she like went up to me at rock fire and

00:12:45.620 like said one sentence and walked away.

00:12:47.360 I'm done with her. 1.00

00:12:48.120 Like, like not like fuck her. 1.00

00:12:49.960 And I'm like, really? 1.00

00:12:51.400 Like over one interaction, but I don't know if he's watching, but I already told him off

00:12:56.440 for that.

00:12:56.860 I'm like, that's a little petty.

00:12:58.040 I think you can, I think you should give him a second chance.

00:13:01.020 Wait, he's upset that she talked to another guy.

00:13:04.500 Is that?

00:13:04.940 No, she, he's upset that she like didn't have like a long interaction.

00:13:08.300 She's like, oh, hey, what's up?

00:13:09.700 And then like left, you know, it wasn't like a conversation.

00:13:12.880 It was like a, hey.

00:13:14.720 Wait, she's upset.

00:13:16.020 He's upset.

00:13:17.380 That they ran into each other.

00:13:19.320 Yes.

00:13:19.960 It was a short conversation.

00:13:22.200 Yeah.

00:13:22.640 Like the way he explained it, she like, she snubbed him basically or.

00:13:26.300 Yeah.

00:13:26.920 But like, yeah.

00:13:30.620 That's justified.

00:13:31.660 That's fair.

00:13:32.360 What do you think?

00:13:33.680 Or sorry.

00:13:34.140 What's your single situation?

00:13:37.900 I am like, I guess, newly single.

00:13:41.360 Would you say?

00:13:42.180 I don't know.

00:13:42.860 I guess so.

00:13:43.680 Explain that.

00:13:44.720 Well, I was seeing someone, but it was long.

00:13:49.800 Long distance.

00:13:52.460 So we're going to wait on that.

00:13:56.240 But I'm like a relationship girl.

00:13:58.140 I don't, I don't like going to just hook up with random people or none of that.

00:14:03.360 So I want to be in a relationship.

00:14:05.200 That's like all I care about.

00:14:07.980 Well, not all I care about, but you know what I mean.

00:14:09.960 So your long distance relationship, it recently ended.

00:14:13.520 Yeah.

00:14:13.740 But it was, it was a shorter relationship.

00:14:16.240 So, um, and it started off long distance.

00:14:19.520 So we're just going to wait it out and see how it goes.

00:14:22.740 And how long was the relationship?

00:14:27.780 Four months.

00:14:29.020 Four months.

00:14:29.920 Mm-hmm.

00:14:30.380 And did you guys meet here?

00:14:32.220 And then.

00:14:32.700 No.

00:14:33.100 No, we met in my hometown.

00:14:33.660 It was always long distance.

00:14:34.980 Right.

00:14:35.500 Yeah.

00:14:36.700 Dang.

00:14:37.180 Okay.

00:14:37.760 And it just ended.

00:14:38.820 Mm-hmm.

00:14:39.420 Okay.

00:14:40.240 Rest in peace.

00:14:41.900 Only four months though.

00:14:42.940 That's not, that's not too bad.

00:14:44.660 Okay.

00:14:45.100 So, uh, first question, first topic of today, who should initiate?

00:14:52.740 Initiate what?

00:14:56.220 Oh.

00:14:56.740 Sorry guys.

00:14:57.180 We got the motorcycle coming through.

00:14:58.940 Um.

00:15:00.220 First kiss or.

00:15:03.200 So who should initiate?

00:15:05.260 Who, who does initiate when it comes to dating?

00:15:08.660 Uh, I date both.

00:15:12.060 I date everyone.

00:15:14.360 So.

00:15:14.480 Oh, you're buying.

00:15:15.440 Uh, yeah.

00:15:16.120 Okay.

00:15:16.460 Uh, I'm like a heat seeking missile.

00:15:18.340 Like if I find you hot, um, I'm, I've home.

00:15:22.540 I've honed in, uh, the drone strike is about to happen.

00:15:26.440 Um.

00:15:29.200 It's like, I'm like you, I can't talk.

00:15:31.840 The drone strike.

00:15:32.680 Yeah.

00:15:32.960 I, I've, I can't talk to too many people at once.

00:15:35.280 I find it very, very exhausting, which is why I decide after like one date if I'm going

00:15:41.720 to keep seeing somebody.

00:15:42.820 Um, but like, yeah, I just, I'm like, yeah, you, you seem safe.

00:15:48.900 Uh, I'm very often wrong, but I'm getting better at it.

00:15:54.040 That's called personal growth.

00:15:55.600 Um, so since you're bisexual, let's, when it comes to your interactions with other women, 0.94

00:16:06.500 do you find you're having to initiate or is it kind of split? 0.98

00:16:10.880 Girls are scary. 1.00

00:16:12.940 They're pretty and they smell good and they're soft and, uh, I'm, they usually approach me

00:16:20.400 first guys usually approach, uh, me first also.

00:16:23.600 So I guess I'm never, I pick people, but I'm never the one initiating.

00:16:28.620 If that makes sense.

00:16:30.420 Okay.

00:16:30.860 Uh, because I'm scared to talk to anyone ever, which I know sounds weird considering I'm

00:16:36.640 dressed like this on a live broadcast.

00:16:42.020 Uh, I'm terrified of people though.

00:16:44.940 You're terrified of people.

00:16:45.960 Uh, just pretty ones.

00:16:48.240 Yeah.

00:16:51.720 So then you don't initiate when it comes to dating.

00:16:55.380 Uh, it depends.

00:16:57.300 Okay.

00:16:57.880 Like, like on like apps, like if I want to talk to you, I will definitely be the first

00:17:04.440 one to send a message.

00:17:05.740 If I'm at a bar, I will hide fully, uh, until someone approaches me and then I'll probably

00:17:14.180 get more scared and run away.

00:17:16.360 Okay.

00:17:17.340 Gabby.

00:17:18.480 Um, I don't really think it should be pinpointed to either a girl or a guy should, I feel like

00:17:23.400 it should be mutual.

00:17:24.460 I feel like both parties should understand, be able to understand like social cues and

00:17:28.460 signals.

00:17:29.120 And once you're both on board with it, I feel like it's just up for grabs for anyone to

00:17:33.480 initiate first.

00:17:34.280 So yeah.

00:17:34.820 Of the dating experiences, relationships that you've had, who would you say initiated more

00:17:45.420 often than not?

00:17:46.800 You or the guy?

00:17:47.680 No, guys always initiate first.

00:17:49.520 I will not initiate.

00:17:50.740 You won't, you won't initiate.

00:17:52.340 Not because I feel like guys should.

00:17:54.180 It's just because I've, I'll admit like I'm not the most confident.

00:17:56.780 I'm not the most bold.

00:17:57.660 So I will just let guys come to me.

00:18:00.460 Yeah.

00:18:00.940 Okay.

00:18:01.400 Better take.

00:18:02.620 And I guess that kind of encompasses the reason why you don't initiate, you think, you

00:18:07.800 don't think you have the confidence to?

00:18:10.060 Yeah.

00:18:10.520 I'll admit like, I'm not like bold.

00:18:12.020 You don't want to take an L?

00:18:12.660 I'm not confident.

00:18:13.600 Okay.

00:18:13.900 I wouldn't say like, I'm scared of rejection.

00:18:15.940 I'm just, I don't know.

00:18:16.940 I just don't have that.

00:18:18.160 I have like, I'm very introverted.

00:18:19.780 So yeah.

00:18:21.260 Ensley?

00:18:24.040 I mean, for me particularly, I think it's, it kind of, I initiate if I see someone and

00:18:32.180 I'm like, oh, I want that.

00:18:33.420 If I want that, I'm going to go try and get it.

00:18:35.660 But if it's a situation where like, I don't notice you and you initiate it, then it's more

00:18:39.460 of like, oh, hi, it's nice to meet you.

00:18:41.820 That's how like a conversation kind of starts.

00:18:43.600 But I definitely like, it's more for me seeing something I want.

00:18:48.940 And then that's when I'll like go talk to someone.

00:18:52.780 But a lot, that's kind of rare and far in between.

00:18:56.100 So a lot of times it's people initiating it towards me.

00:19:00.780 Have you ever initiated anything with a customer at the strip club?

00:19:05.520 No.

00:19:05.960 No, I'm, other than to buy a dance, no.

00:19:11.620 But would you, would you date a customer?

00:19:13.720 It's not that I'm against dating a customer.

00:19:16.160 It's more that the people who come into the strip club are not people you're trying to

00:19:20.200 date.

00:19:22.160 Hmm.

00:19:24.480 Um, yeah, I mean, I kind of agree with what she said.

00:19:27.240 It's more so like, I don't think it should be pinpointed to either like the guys have to

00:19:32.200 do it or the girls have to do it. 1.00

00:19:34.820 Personally, I like to make the first move and I'm comfortable with going up and like shooting

00:19:39.860 my shot first.

00:19:41.400 But like she said, like if you see something that you want, then go for it.

00:19:45.020 But then if you don't like notice this person and they go up and then you start a conversation,

00:19:49.420 that's one thing.

00:19:50.740 Um, but I think it's more fun when I initiate it.

00:19:57.400 Um, personally, I don't think I really initiate that often.

00:20:00.260 I'm like pretty shy when it comes to those things.

00:20:03.620 I'm also like just, I guess it doesn't work either way for me because I'm bad at initiating

00:20:07.920 because I'm too shy and like I don't want to deal with that.

00:20:11.180 But then when someone initiates with me, I'm like the worst at reading signals and like

00:20:15.420 obvious flirting will literally go straight over my head. 0.62

00:20:17.840 And I'll just be like, oh, like what a fun buddy.

00:20:22.360 Can you give us an example of a time where a guy gave you an obvious signal and it just

00:20:26.980 totally whooshed over your head?

00:20:29.720 Um, uh, pretty recently I was like, oh, like my good like friend is like texting me again.

00:20:38.420 Like, oh, I wonder if they want to hang out with all of us.

00:20:40.800 But now they, yeah, they just wanted to hook up.

00:20:44.100 Love that.

00:20:44.960 Yeah.

00:20:45.440 It just took me a sec.

00:20:46.420 I had to like ask my roommates and I'm like, look, like they've been texting me.

00:20:49.740 They're like, oh, like probably thinks you're cute.

00:20:52.580 And I'm like, really?

00:20:53.480 I think it's been a while.

00:20:54.360 I think they just want to hang out again.

00:20:56.260 But I was wrong.

00:20:59.800 Um, I feel like I have initiated my fair share.

00:21:05.160 Um, I also think that in general, just the way that I am, I want a man to come up to me and

00:21:13.140 tell me that he thinks I'm attractive.

00:21:15.780 And like, I don't, who, who would I be to go up to him and be like, you're so handsome.

00:21:20.820 I'm not going to boost an ego like that.

00:21:23.380 I want him to do it to me.

00:21:25.420 So you want it to be done to you, but you would not go out and do it.

00:21:30.600 If he's special, I would.

00:21:32.080 If he's special.

00:21:33.240 If he's really special.

00:21:34.080 If he's the most gorgeous man I've ever seen in my life, I am going to go up to him and never

00:21:38.860 leave him alone.

00:21:40.160 But other men, I feel like I'm just, you know, whatever.

00:21:44.800 So you'd be a stalker is what you're saying.

00:21:48.160 With the right man, I feel like you should.

00:21:52.400 And is that purely looks?

00:21:54.520 Because you mentioned gorgeous.

00:21:56.720 Okay.

00:21:57.280 I, I am definitely a looks person.

00:21:59.060 I'm not going to lie.

00:21:59.900 Like I do.

00:22:00.600 Of course, there's always the initial attraction.

00:22:02.380 So I do see people and I'm like, oh, that's someone that I would want.

00:22:06.080 I don't think I've ever really been with someone because of their personality.

00:22:12.540 Like, obviously the guys that I choose to be with have a good personality as well as

00:22:17.540 looks, but I haven't like fallen in love with someone's personality and just completely

00:22:22.220 disregarded what they look like as well.

00:22:24.760 So have you ever pursued a guy?

00:22:26.960 Yes.

00:22:27.720 Okay.

00:22:28.960 What did you do to pursue him?

00:22:31.660 And we're going to go around the table with this question.

00:22:35.400 Let me think.

00:22:36.780 Well, this story.

00:22:37.680 Okay.

00:22:37.920 So I had a friend who, she introduced me to this guy and she like kind of had a crush

00:22:44.320 on him.

00:22:46.140 But it was one of those things that wasn't serious.

00:22:47.920 And before I ever talked to him or did anything, I made sure it was okay with her.

00:22:52.520 Wait, your friend liked?

00:22:54.080 Yes.

00:22:54.960 She liked him, but there was no mutual interest.

00:22:58.640 And so I was like, is it okay that I talked to him?

00:23:00.560 And she was like, yeah, sure.

00:23:01.560 Whatever.

00:23:02.740 And so I was the first one to text him and I saw him at a football game.

00:23:08.960 This was in high school.

00:23:10.140 I saw him at a football game and decided to go up to him and just start talking to him.

00:23:14.660 But I didn't really like flirt or anything until he did it back.

00:23:20.060 I wanted to know that he felt the same way without like making a fool of myself and being 0.75

00:23:24.360 like, you're so hot. 0.98

00:23:26.080 So.

00:23:27.120 And did you get him?

00:23:28.360 I did.

00:23:28.860 We dated for two years.

00:23:30.460 Wow.

00:23:30.580 And was that the only time that you had pursued somebody?

00:23:36.560 I feel like once someone, I want to say the us pursuing each other always goes both ways.

00:23:44.620 I feel like it's like we, a guy will say that I'm cute or something and then I'll be

00:23:49.540 like, I want him now.

00:23:51.240 And then I pursue him.

00:23:53.320 But I feel like it almost always starts with a guy.

00:23:55.660 Okay.

00:23:55.920 So have you ever, have you ever pursued a guy?

00:24:01.980 And if so, what specifically did you do to pursue him?

00:24:06.480 I mean.

00:24:06.800 Hey Chris, can you get some champagne by the way?

00:24:09.640 I mean like most definitely.

00:24:10.860 It's in the refrigerator.

00:24:11.900 But I feel like I kind of did it in like, like a crazy way.

00:24:14.760 You know, like I wouldn't let them know I'm pursuing them, but it'd be like subconscious

00:24:18.140 things.

00:24:18.640 Like, oh, I know he hangs out with these people that I'm friends with.

00:24:22.220 I'm going to make sure to invite them over to my house tonight. 0.99

00:24:24.220 So they bring him and like shit like that. 0.99

00:24:26.680 But. 1.00

00:24:26.980 You are a stalker. 0.67

00:24:29.540 I didn't say I wasn't.

00:24:30.940 It's just, you know.

00:24:31.920 Every girl is on the low. 1.00

00:24:33.180 Oh, obviously.

00:24:34.320 Let's be honest.

00:24:35.360 Every girl is a stalker? 0.98

00:24:37.240 No.

00:24:37.780 On the low?

00:24:38.500 No.

00:24:38.720 To some extent.

00:24:39.540 I feel like most girls have a little tinge. 1.00

00:24:41.220 We just know how to like find out information.

00:24:43.580 That's what it is.

00:24:44.300 You're giving away our secrets.

00:24:45.860 Right.

00:24:46.380 I'm sorry.

00:24:48.000 What's social media?

00:24:48.800 Hensley, can you open that?

00:24:50.080 You're in charge of the champagne.

00:24:52.460 Have you ever pursued a guy?

00:24:56.340 And what did you do to pursue him?

00:24:58.560 Yeah.

00:24:58.900 I mean, I like to make the first moves.

00:25:01.600 I moved out to Santa Barbara a year ago.

00:25:03.600 And then I definitely didn't.

00:25:05.600 But I feel like guys don't get complimented enough.

00:25:09.320 I don't.

00:25:09.800 Like I kind of disagree with you with the ego boosting thing.

00:25:12.700 I don't think guys get as many compliments as women do. 1.00

00:25:17.220 So when you say like the littlest little compliment to them, it like makes their day.

00:25:21.240 And they definitely remember that.

00:25:22.940 So like even if like one of my friends like gets a haircut, be like, oh, like haircut.

00:25:26.900 Nice.

00:25:27.160 Love it.

00:25:27.520 But they remember that.

00:25:29.240 So I remember I was at the gym and I saw this guy.

00:25:32.200 He comes in and like literally turned my head. 0.99

00:25:34.460 Oh, shit. 0.99

00:25:36.260 Why was I asked? 1.00

00:25:38.420 Wait, I bartend.

00:25:39.980 Do you want me to do it?

00:25:40.820 Yeah.

00:25:41.140 I used to work in the champagne room.

00:25:42.780 Is it going to spill?

00:25:44.360 Not if you cover it in the top.

00:25:45.980 I used to work in the champagne room.

00:25:47.200 I don't know.

00:25:48.580 She worked at the champagne room. 0.51

00:25:49.820 I mean, she's got it.

00:25:50.660 This actually like expensive microphones, please.

00:25:54.200 I need like a toe.

00:25:55.640 Oh, she got it.

00:25:57.980 Hi, I am.

00:26:01.580 Okay.

00:26:02.160 I did it.

00:26:03.060 Thank you.

00:26:03.760 I think you're okay.

00:26:05.420 Oh.

00:26:07.600 This is for Mike Davis.

00:26:10.860 Thank you, Mike.

00:26:14.600 God bless you, Mike.

00:26:15.740 What?

00:26:16.620 Oh, you guys wanted some.

00:26:17.820 I mean, it's more so like a celebratory thing for me and Mike Davis, but I need to see IDs.

00:26:24.660 Who's over 21? 0.76

00:26:25.700 Oh, I am.

00:26:26.700 If I can get an extra cup.

00:26:28.260 Yeah, but I need an extra cup.

00:26:29.440 This is empty.

00:26:30.040 You got to mix it with your water, I think.

00:26:32.500 I drank my water.

00:26:33.960 I'm hydrated.

00:26:34.720 I'm ready.

00:26:35.240 Is yours empty?

00:26:35.800 I'll just take your cup.

00:26:37.000 Oh, no, it's not empty.

00:26:37.880 Oh, never mind.

00:26:39.020 We'll drink later.

00:26:39.660 Yeah, we'll drink later.

00:26:40.560 We'll drink later.

00:26:41.400 Hey, buddy.

00:26:42.440 I don't remember what we were talking about.

00:26:43.160 I'm sorry, Mike.

00:26:43.880 We were talking about, have you ever pursued a guy?

00:26:47.780 Oh.

00:26:48.040 Like, what did you do?

00:26:49.420 Tell us the situation.

00:26:51.400 I guess the most recent situation was about a month or two ago.

00:26:55.880 I was at the gym, and this guy walks in and, like, completely turned my head.

00:26:59.580 I go to the gym daily.

00:27:00.560 I've never seen him before.

00:27:02.540 Thought he was really handsome.

00:27:03.820 Obviously can't talk to him at the gym.

00:27:06.380 And I was out at the bar, like, Rockfire, like, later that night, and I saw him, and I

00:27:13.300 was like, oh, shoot.

00:27:13.940 Like, out of the gym.

00:27:15.040 I have to say something.

00:27:15.860 And so I just kind of, like, walked up to him.

00:27:17.180 I was like, hey, I think you're really handsome.

00:27:19.040 Can I get your number?

00:27:20.380 Put my number in his phone.

00:27:22.600 Yeah.

00:27:23.360 I was, like, kind of proud of myself for being, like, that brave because that, like, takes

00:27:27.200 a lot.

00:27:27.480 Like, this guy was really handsome.

00:27:29.580 Did you guys end up hooking up?

00:27:32.960 No.

00:27:34.580 What happened?

00:27:40.340 We, like, we texted, like, for a little bit, and we're supposed to go on a date.

00:27:42.780 I ended up not responding because I didn't see the message, and now I kind of, like,

00:27:47.340 it's like a work situation now, so I can't make a move.

00:27:51.640 A little bit, but it's okay.

00:27:55.680 Ensley.

00:27:56.040 Have you ever pursued a guy?

00:28:00.140 I have.

00:28:00.940 Articulate specifically what you did to pursue him.

00:28:04.920 I really enjoy pursuing men.

00:28:06.780 It really catches them off guard.

00:28:08.100 Is he changing the angle?

00:28:11.080 Go ahead.

00:28:11.900 I don't know.

00:28:13.040 Okay.

00:28:14.800 So, the guy I'm actually seeing right now, I kind of pursued. 0.97

00:28:17.480 He's a go-go dancer at Wildcat, the shitty kitty.

00:28:21.320 And I remember, like, I remember I had, like, seen him before. 0.97

00:28:25.620 Wait, hold on.

00:28:26.400 He's a stripper. 0.88

00:28:28.300 He's a go-go dancer.

00:28:30.040 They keep their underwear on.

00:28:31.560 Okay.

00:28:32.260 Got it.

00:28:32.780 Yeah.

00:28:33.320 But he's a dancer.

00:28:34.320 Yeah.

00:28:34.640 And it was Queer Night at Wildcat on a Sunday. 0.54

00:28:40.300 Y'all should check it out.

00:28:41.120 It's pretty fun.

00:28:42.020 But they were hosting, the drag queens were having a audience participation show. 0.92

00:28:49.360 And my friend, we were celebrating her graduation.

00:28:51.720 She was super sloshed.

00:28:52.980 And she, like, threw me up there to dance.

00:28:56.100 And I was, and lo and behold, this guy who I've seen around town who I have a crush on

00:29:00.020 is one of the judges.

00:29:01.080 And I was like, this is very Pride and Prejudice.

00:29:04.760 I like this. 0.87

00:29:06.780 So he gave me a shitty score.

00:29:09.080 And I walked up to him after.

00:29:10.700 And I was like, it's okay. 0.95

00:29:12.240 You gave me a shitty score.

00:29:13.280 I still have a crush on you. 0.60

00:29:14.740 Oh.

00:29:15.280 And then we just started talking.

00:29:17.520 And he was like, I actually got to get back to work.

00:29:19.340 And I was like, will you have a great night, handsome?

00:29:21.700 Gave him, like, a kiss on the cheek and then walked away.

00:29:24.320 And then ended up seeing him again later that week and started talking.

00:29:28.800 Hell yeah.

00:29:29.400 Yeah.

00:29:30.020 It was a cute little thing.

00:29:31.940 I love that.

00:29:32.300 And this is the guy that you're currently seeing?

00:29:33.640 Mm-hmm.

00:29:33.980 Mm-hmm.

00:29:34.420 Okay.

00:29:35.060 Got it.

00:29:35.880 Go-go dancer.

00:29:36.720 Congrats.

00:29:37.380 Good for you.

00:29:38.400 Yeah.

00:29:38.560 Get it.

00:29:39.880 Gabby.

00:29:40.900 I have never pursued a guy.

00:29:42.800 Ever?

00:29:43.340 Not once?

00:29:44.480 No, never.

00:29:45.320 What is, like, what is, like, the most you've ever done that could be kind of considered

00:29:53.360 a pursuit?

00:29:57.820 I don't know.

00:29:58.700 Did you look in a guy's direction once?

00:30:01.480 Yes.

00:30:01.920 Has that happened?

00:30:02.900 No, the thing is, like, guys will pursue me first.

00:30:06.020 And then it always ends up switching to me pursuing them.

00:30:09.260 You know?

00:30:09.880 Like, so that's my situation.

00:30:13.040 So.

00:30:13.260 It switches.

00:30:14.140 Yes, it switches.

00:30:14.860 A guy, like, comes to me first.

00:30:16.940 And then we try it out.

00:30:19.240 And then it just turns to me pursuing them.

00:30:21.820 So that's, like, my situation.

00:30:23.600 How quickly does it change?

00:30:25.520 After, like, a few months, I would say.

00:30:27.280 Not quickly.

00:30:28.120 After you dropped all your hoes, is that what happens? 1.00

00:30:30.380 That's always a situation.

00:30:32.260 I don't have hoes. 1.00

00:30:33.420 Like, if I'm talking to someone, I will, like, only talk to them.

00:30:36.380 Right.

00:30:36.640 So.

00:30:37.740 Okay.

00:30:38.280 But, yeah.

00:30:40.100 Huh.

00:30:41.280 Okay.

00:30:42.240 So.

00:30:42.880 It switches.

00:30:45.000 So you think it's a situation where the guys are losing interest?

00:30:48.500 Yeah.

00:30:48.820 Over time?

00:30:49.520 Yeah.

00:30:49.780 And then you're like, you want to keep it going?

00:30:51.540 Every time they lose interest, I'm the one that's like.

00:30:53.200 Then you're the one always hitting them up to hang out.

00:30:55.640 Yeah.

00:30:55.880 Okay.

00:30:56.480 Exactly.

00:30:58.000 Actually, specifically because of what she said, every long-term relationship I've ever

00:31:02.740 had was somebody I pursued.

00:31:06.960 Except for one time where I went to a swingers party and ended up dating a couple in Simi Valley.

00:31:14.280 That's not, that's unimportant.

00:31:15.920 Wait.

00:31:16.240 Let's talk about the swingers party.

00:31:17.820 I got set up on a date, so I went to a swingers party.

00:31:20.640 Because I already looked nice.

00:31:22.640 And then I ended up going home and living with a couple in Simi Valley.

00:31:27.720 They had a big house.

00:31:28.860 And then they had a tinier house behind their big house.

00:31:32.640 At swingers parties, isn't it just a bunch of couples or just a bunch of people and they 0.98

00:31:36.920 just, everyone fucks everyone? 0.95

00:31:38.240 There's the option to, you have the option to. 0.95

00:31:42.660 I did not do this at the party, but there was, again, like I just was already all dressed

00:31:53.160 up.

00:31:53.480 I was like, I have nowhere to go.

00:31:54.900 Dates did me up.

00:31:56.080 Let's go somewhere.

00:31:56.920 And then swingers parties ended up, for some reason, high on my list.

00:32:02.280 It was late at night.

00:32:05.280 There are rooms where you can do that privately.

00:32:08.720 It's not like an orgy where everyone's just like about with their bits aflutter in the wind.

00:32:15.600 But you don't have to.

00:32:18.940 You can't just meet people.

00:32:21.100 Like a lot of people there actually don't want to just get right into it.

00:32:25.640 Because that's not safe.

00:32:27.420 And also, you need chemistry.

00:32:29.980 And that's not easily identifiable.

00:32:33.300 Wait.

00:32:33.800 So, okay.

00:32:34.100 You're polyamorous.

00:32:35.380 No.

00:32:36.600 I'm strictly monogamous.

00:32:38.980 But you said you were at points.

00:32:41.060 You're dating concurrently.

00:32:42.760 Multiple people.

00:32:43.280 Okay, let me be more specific.

00:32:46.540 A dude, a rich dude in Simi Valley was paying me to date his wife.

00:32:52.520 Because she was annoying him.

00:32:54.160 They are now divorced.

00:32:59.420 Not a great relationship.

00:33:01.020 He was awful.

00:33:03.460 But I did get my last iPhone out of it. 1.00

00:33:05.680 So, thanks, asshole in Simi Valley, for paying me to date your wife that you 1.00

00:33:13.260 couldn't stand, even though she's a lovely person. 1.00

00:33:16.080 Damn. 1.00

00:33:16.520 Shots fired. 1.00

00:33:17.600 Okay.

00:33:19.120 He doesn't know how to use the internet.

00:33:22.380 Is he just, he's very old or? 1.00

00:33:24.420 He's very stupid. 1.00

00:33:26.120 Okay. 1.00

00:33:26.820 Got it.

00:33:27.500 Got it.

00:33:28.400 Let's, we're going to just read a couple super chats that we got here.

00:33:32.720 Let's see.

00:33:33.600 Chris, you want to, actually, let's see.

00:33:36.420 We have some regular chats, too.

00:33:39.700 Okay.

00:33:40.240 Stifler, ask the ladies to rate themselves on a scale of one to ten. 0.83

00:33:45.460 Okay.

00:33:46.580 We'll do that.

00:33:47.720 I would say a ten.

00:33:49.880 A ten?

00:33:50.640 Yeah.

00:33:51.300 Okay.

00:33:52.300 Like a seven and a half to eight.

00:33:55.600 Okay.

00:33:56.760 Yeah.

00:33:57.280 I'm a ten.

00:34:00.100 I'm a ten.

00:34:01.380 Okay.

00:34:01.780 Wait, that, that's not what you gave yourself last time.

00:34:04.600 I think it is.

00:34:05.800 I think you said like eight or nine.

00:34:07.300 I don't think I did.

00:34:08.720 She's a ten.

00:34:09.820 Okay.

00:34:10.100 We're talking looks, by the way.

00:34:12.020 Oh, she's definitely a ten. 1.00

00:34:13.440 Does that change the answer?

00:34:14.500 Back on this side, does that change?

00:34:15.980 Twenty.

00:34:17.420 Just looks?

00:34:18.320 Yeah.

00:34:20.460 Okay.

00:34:21.620 Gabby?

00:34:22.900 Eight, nine on a good day.

00:34:24.820 Okay.

00:34:25.840 What did I give myself earlier?

00:34:27.760 I don't think you rate, well, what do you rate yourself?

00:34:31.880 It might have been a one.

00:34:33.380 Believe it or not, I do look better when I'm not dressed like this.

00:34:35.980 I'm going to give myself a solid four and a half.

00:34:39.080 Okay.

00:34:39.720 Yeah.

00:34:40.180 All right.

00:34:40.800 There you go.

00:34:41.280 There's some answers there for you guys.

00:34:44.020 I'm kidding.

00:34:44.620 I'm a ten.

00:34:45.380 I love myself.

00:34:47.620 Stay positive.

00:34:49.740 Eat pretty low.

00:34:50.260 Okay, so every, y'all tens, well, you were, you had some, seven and a half to eight.

00:35:04.740 Some modesty.

00:35:05.900 Oh, it's good.

00:35:06.560 Some modesty over here.

00:35:09.480 I peaked.

00:35:12.260 Okay, so ten.

00:35:14.260 Ten.

00:35:15.980 Ten.

00:35:16.800 What do you rate your dog?

00:35:17.760 He's a ten.

00:35:18.500 Ten.

00:35:19.080 He's a 20.

00:35:20.460 The dog's a 20.

00:35:20.980 What are we, what are we rating him on?

00:35:23.400 If it's like guard dog status, he's really not a ten.

00:35:27.120 He's a zero, maybe.

00:35:28.280 He's a good boy.

00:35:28.600 Yeah, we're rating him on good as boy.

00:35:30.460 We're rating him on good as boy.

00:35:32.600 He's 20 out of 10.

00:35:33.920 Yeah, that's correct.

00:35:35.180 That is factual.

00:35:37.660 So don't you think it's a bit of hubris to rank yourself as a ten?

00:35:41.700 No.

00:35:42.200 No.

00:35:43.400 Hubris, no?

00:35:44.440 Everyone's a ten.

00:35:45.780 Everyone's a ten.

00:35:46.560 Yep.

00:35:46.740 So Brad Pitt is a ten and Danny DeVito is also a ten.

00:35:49.900 Okay, Brad Pitt pre-Botox is a ten.

00:35:54.180 He's had Botox?

00:35:55.100 Danny DeVito is a ten.

00:35:57.900 Looks?

00:35:58.700 Okay.

00:35:59.820 Yeah, he's a cool guy, but looks-wise.

00:36:02.240 Ten.

00:36:03.040 Come on.

00:36:05.340 I'll die on this one.

00:36:06.080 We're going around the table.

00:36:08.540 Do you guys, everyone know who Danny DeVito is?

00:36:10.880 Yes.

00:36:11.000 Physically, strictly, physically speaking, what do you rate him?

00:36:15.700 I think for some people, he's a ten.

00:36:18.100 For me, personally, like a zero.

00:36:21.700 What?

00:36:22.980 Everybody is somebody's ten.

00:36:24.780 Yeah.

00:36:25.160 That's true.

00:36:25.660 Absolutely.

00:36:26.280 I'm my own ten.

00:36:28.160 And I think objectively, we're young, hot, in our 20s.

00:36:32.480 Like, we're pretty close to ten.

00:36:34.580 We're the closest to ten.

00:36:35.340 Okay, let me rephrase.

00:36:36.240 I'm rephrasing.

00:36:37.580 I'm going to rephrase the question. 0.84

00:36:39.060 I'm the ugly minority. 0.67

00:36:40.320 If you lined up a hundred men, and they weren't trying to sleep with you, and they could run

00:36:51.080 away after they gave you their answer, what do you think, you know, if you averaged it

00:36:57.620 out, those hundred men would rate you, on a scale of one to ten, looks-wise?

00:37:01.240 Where did we find them?

00:37:02.180 Where did we find these men?

00:37:05.200 How did we get a hundred men?

00:37:06.900 Did we find a hundred men on Reddit?

00:37:08.240 Let's just say it's, let's just say the hundred men, it's a cross-section of various backgrounds

00:37:18.360 and nationalities and even sexual orientations.

00:37:23.920 Oh, are they saying it to our face?

00:37:27.480 Right, you're overthinking this.

00:37:29.460 No, no, I'm not.

00:37:30.480 You're overthinking this.

00:37:30.960 Because if they're saying it to our face, I have a very mean death glare.

00:37:34.300 Okay, they're, you're behind bulletproof glass, and they have five, they have a five-minute

00:37:47.520 head start to get away from you. 0.74

00:37:49.340 Only five?

00:37:50.300 Okay.

00:37:50.480 Okay.

00:37:51.420 What, what do you rate yourself?

00:37:53.220 Or what, what would the guys, what would the guys rate you?

00:37:55.200 The guys would rate me a ten.

00:37:56.460 Period.

00:37:56.920 Okay.

00:37:57.800 I stand by my seven and a half to eight.

00:37:59.700 Thank you.

00:38:00.100 Thank you.

00:38:00.940 Okay.

00:38:01.580 Sydney.

00:38:02.360 No, I, I stand by my ten regardless.

00:38:04.500 I know you don't like that answer, but like, like I don't really care personally, but.

00:38:09.420 Okay.

00:38:10.320 I'm in the ten group now.

00:38:11.920 I'm not disagreeing.

00:38:12.620 There, there's no moving.

00:38:13.700 Okay.

00:38:14.180 I'd say seven.

00:38:15.380 Okay.

00:38:17.220 Answering this would require me to care what men think.

00:38:20.600 So. 1.00

00:38:21.200 Damn. 1.00

00:38:21.840 Valid. 1.00

00:38:22.580 Yeah.

00:38:22.860 Okay.

00:38:24.840 So.

00:38:26.220 Thank you, Stifler, for the question.

00:38:28.180 Let's see here.

00:38:30.600 American Network against labiaplasty, outies over inies, hashtag all labia matter.

00:38:37.480 Thank you.

00:38:38.140 That's my nonprofit organization that left that comment.

00:38:40.960 So, thank you.

00:38:42.760 Yes.

00:38:43.260 Agreed.

00:38:43.780 I think you asked me that the first show.

00:38:45.540 Mm-hmm. 0.85

00:38:46.460 Question about the labia size. 1.00

00:38:49.400 I don't know if we should.

00:38:50.360 Well, the first question was, does size matter?

00:38:52.860 So, at the very end, I was like, we got to do it for women, too.

00:38:55.840 What?

00:38:56.120 No.

00:38:56.320 The first question was height.

00:38:58.180 Oh, definitely.

00:38:58.680 But we did talk about size.

00:38:59.500 We did talk about size.

00:39:00.840 Okay.

00:39:01.820 So.

00:39:03.340 Yeah.

00:39:04.500 Okay.

00:39:04.980 First super chat here.

00:39:07.440 Therefore, I am five.

00:39:08.620 Thank you for the $5 super chat.

00:39:10.600 You know what?

00:39:11.080 We'll just do five and over since.

00:39:14.140 Okay.

00:39:14.640 Brian is the type of guy to only hold hands on the first ten dates with a girl.

00:39:19.860 No.

00:39:21.540 Thank you for the $5, man.

00:39:22.860 Appreciate it.

00:39:23.960 Yeah.

00:39:24.260 Well, I am a man of God.

00:39:25.660 So, you know, I'm a virgin.

00:39:28.700 So, yeah, that actually sounds par the core.

00:39:33.060 Par the course?

00:39:34.600 What's that saying?

00:39:35.760 Par for the course.

00:39:36.560 Par for the course.

00:39:37.540 Thank you.

00:39:38.720 Okay.

00:39:39.020 You want to pull the next one, Chris?

00:39:41.720 Yes.

00:39:42.100 It's Mr. Beautiful Mike Davis.

00:39:44.940 Thank you, Mike.

00:39:45.620 Mr. Beautiful.

00:39:46.580 Yo, what up, Mike?

00:39:47.260 By the way, we poured some champagne.

00:39:50.660 Yeah.

00:39:51.080 Can I still get a cup of that?

00:39:52.400 Yeah.

00:39:52.700 Is there more?

00:39:53.460 You're over 21, right?

00:39:54.300 I am 21.

00:39:55.280 I'm 25.

00:39:56.220 Okay.

00:39:56.540 I'm basically in the ground compared to the rest of this panel.

00:39:59.860 We'll get you some.

00:40:00.860 Thank you.

00:40:01.120 So, Mike Davis, we poured in a little champagne.

00:40:05.420 Brian, you better put some booze in those cups. 0.99

00:40:07.140 This pack of females are talking like politicians. 1.00

00:40:09.540 Okay.

00:40:09.840 Thank you, man.

00:40:10.320 Appreciate it.

00:40:11.460 By the way, Mike Davis.

00:40:12.620 So, yeah, we did pour some liquor.

00:40:15.360 We're also celebrating my massive lawsuit victory.

00:40:18.380 So, that is another.

00:40:20.900 So, popping champagne.

00:40:22.600 And then, by the way, Mike.

00:40:26.860 Who's here every week.

00:40:28.260 Yeah.

00:40:28.560 Mike, you've been here almost every week.

00:40:30.540 Thank you for the support, man.

00:40:31.440 Appreciate it.

00:40:32.400 Can you be the first one to do a channel membership?

00:40:36.820 I think it's like $2.50 or $5.

00:40:39.300 So, instead of Super Chat, join the channel.

00:40:42.880 Become a member.

00:40:43.620 And then we'll highlight you whenever you become a member.

00:40:46.660 And then when you chat, you get a cool icon next to your name.

00:40:49.220 So, Mike, we're going to be looking out for that.

00:40:51.440 All right.

00:40:54.180 Mike Davis with the $5.00 sheep chat.

00:40:57.120 Glad you're bringing back the delusional segment again.

00:41:00.140 I think that was what I was talking about.

00:41:03.820 He paid $5 to call us delusional.

00:41:06.960 Oh, he'll pay more.

00:41:08.060 Don't worry.

00:41:08.460 He'll pay more.

00:41:10.800 Yeah, I mean.

00:41:13.820 Mike, if you don't remember what I said last podcast, you can Venmo me.

00:41:17.120 And you can roast me all you want.

00:41:20.240 Honestly.

00:41:21.440 I'll charge $3.00 for a moment.

00:41:24.600 They're into degradation, Mike.

00:41:26.120 Okay.

00:41:27.560 Steven Krug with the $5.00 sheep chat.

00:41:29.480 Show the dog we want to meet him.

00:41:32.040 He's kind of sleeping right now.

00:41:33.920 Nope.

00:41:34.860 I don't know if we.

00:41:35.600 Maybe.

00:41:36.940 Maybe we should let sleeping dogs lay.

00:41:42.020 Oh, my God.

00:41:42.780 If he starts moving around, I'll let him pop his little head up.

00:41:46.940 Yo, what's up, Brandon?

00:41:48.660 Brandon with the $5.00 super chat.

00:41:52.080 Thank you, man.

00:41:52.900 Salad City Rebel.

00:41:54.180 Shout out to Kensley.

00:41:56.040 I think.

00:41:56.520 Does he mean Hensley?

00:41:57.520 I think he means Hensley.

00:41:58.980 Very close.

00:41:59.460 And the Vice Accountability Group, Gabby is a solid 10.

00:42:02.800 Absolutely drop-dead gorgeous.

00:42:04.500 Wow.

00:42:05.120 That's Brandon, by the way.

00:42:07.020 He's, Brandon is a very good guy.

00:42:11.360 So, just saying.

00:42:14.560 Just saying, yeah.

00:42:16.340 Yeah, really cool guy.

00:42:17.400 Really good guy.

00:42:18.240 He's a good guy and a cool guy.

00:42:21.220 All the above.

00:42:22.820 And then, what was he saying about Hensley?

00:42:26.380 I run a little support group, weekly support group.

00:42:29.840 For?

00:42:30.740 Vice Accountability.

00:42:33.460 It's basically for, like, just a safe space for talks on mental health,

00:42:37.180 overindulgence, better coping mechanisms, and healthy living habits.

00:42:42.000 But it's really just a safe, non-judgmental space to come and share.

00:42:47.660 And it's for, it's kind of like Naranon, or what's that called?

00:42:52.380 N-A. 1.00

00:42:53.080 N-A? 0.98

00:42:54.240 Narcotics Anonymous.

00:42:54.980 Narconics Anonymous.

00:42:56.060 Yeah.

00:42:56.620 It's, no, it's not associated with A-A or N-A.

00:42:59.780 We do have, like, people who come, and, you know, like,

00:43:02.660 I've struggled with alcoholism, so, like, that's part of my struggle,

00:43:05.640 and I'm open about it.

00:43:06.560 But some people come there to work on their lateness,

00:43:09.360 and some people come there to work on fentanyl,

00:43:11.380 and some people come there to work on love and sex addiction.

00:43:14.860 It's really just an open, safe space for anybody.

00:43:18.200 So you used to booze.

00:43:20.340 I did used to booze.

00:43:21.860 Should I take away the champagne?

00:43:23.700 Oh, I just can't handle it.

00:43:25.060 Please, God.

00:43:26.160 Okay.

00:43:26.620 Got it.

00:43:27.500 Got it.

00:43:28.320 And then we got a few more Super Chats here.

00:43:30.420 Let's see.

00:43:32.300 Mr. Mojo Rising, what's up, purple hair?

00:43:34.060 Thank you, man.

00:43:34.440 Appreciate it.

00:43:34.960 Okay.

00:43:36.560 So, tens, really?

00:43:40.920 Really?

00:43:42.100 Why is it so hard to believe?

00:43:43.380 I'm just finishing that up.

00:43:44.020 Everyone is somebody's ten. 0.70

00:43:46.360 I mean, I guess if, but if you view yourself as a ten, then you're just...

00:43:51.120 I don't.

00:43:52.020 I'm self-actualizing.

00:43:54.520 Sure, but to answer the question, I guess, for the rest of the panel,

00:43:57.420 I mean, where, you can't really improve from there.

00:44:00.400 You can go to 11.

00:44:00.940 Exactly.

00:44:02.820 I've peaked.

00:44:04.880 It's just like...

00:44:06.760 I don't know.

00:44:07.320 It's like where, like, I'm my own ten because at the end of the day, like, I go home with

00:44:12.520 myself.

00:44:13.020 Like, it's my opinion that matters.

00:44:14.240 I have to...

00:44:15.620 So, like, that's what I think of me, and it took me a while to get there, to where I'm

00:44:20.380 at.

00:44:20.640 Like, I definitely didn't have this kind of confidence when I was younger.

00:44:24.140 So, yeah.

00:44:25.340 I'm a ten.

00:44:25.740 But wouldn't it also be confident to have some, like, be self-aware and be like, here's

00:44:32.040 a reasonable and fair self-assessment of my appearance?

00:44:38.680 And it is.

00:44:40.300 And I can still, like, I'm still improving every day.

00:44:42.480 Like, you know, like, still in the gym, still working on myself, still growing as a person,

00:44:46.140 but I'm a ten.

00:44:47.960 And I think it's, for men, they want women to be humble kind of thing.

00:44:51.680 It's just, like, instilled in society that we're, like, not supposed to think of ourselves

00:44:55.360 as tens because we're supposed to, you know, be reasonable and have, like, this other number.

00:45:00.780 But, I mean, if we want to be a ten, like, why not?

00:45:04.300 Yeah.

00:45:04.920 But, okay.

00:45:06.080 If you want to be a ten, why not?

00:45:07.780 But you have to live in reality.

00:45:10.420 You have to operate in reality.

00:45:11.820 But you don't have to rate yourself.

00:45:13.840 And if you walk around with a ton of confidence, like, who's going to tell you different?

00:45:17.020 Like, you could be the prettiest girl in the world, and somebody will still call you

00:45:19.920 ugly.

00:45:20.200 Confidence is 100% fake. 0.95

00:45:22.200 Nobody knows if you have it or not, so you might as well fake it until you make it.

00:45:25.300 You get more places with faking confidence than you do without it.

00:45:29.020 Than being humble.

00:45:30.280 Yeah.

00:45:30.480 I suppose the issue becomes, if you believe you're a ten, then when it comes to your dating

00:45:38.920 prospects, certainly you believe you deserve a ten.

00:45:43.020 So, then, are your expectations for a partner higher than what you could realistically land?

00:45:53.280 For example, a guy who lives at his house, who plays video games all day, who doesn't

00:45:58.780 have a job, who smokes weed, all he's doing, he's just playing video games, he's kind of 0.94

00:46:03.640 a bum. 0.87

00:46:04.020 I don't think that guy's a ten. 0.88

00:46:11.340 I don't think he can be a ten.

00:46:12.760 And if he says, I want a Victoria's Secret model, or I want, you know, he's not going

00:46:18.920 to get it.

00:46:19.280 He's not going to get it.

00:46:20.000 But I think he knows he's not a ten kind of thing, because it's also, it has to do

00:46:25.140 with a lot of, like, I think your mental health and, like, your confidence, as we were saying.

00:46:28.940 Like, the people who are, like, living that kind of life, I don't think they're sitting

00:46:33.620 in their room with a bunch of happy thoughts, wanting to spread, like, joy and love and work

00:46:38.060 on themselves.

00:46:38.640 They want to stay in their bubble of negativity, and that's what drags down their number, because

00:46:42.240 they don't, they aren't a ten to themselves.

00:46:46.560 They don't treat themselves as a ten.

00:46:47.780 They don't see themselves as a ten, and that's why they want to project it out onto the world.

00:46:53.340 But at the end of the day, I think, like, if we're a ten, we're, like, we're pretty girls

00:46:57.040 who go out in the world confidently, and we're working on ourselves every single day,

00:47:00.100 and we want to grow and get better.

00:47:01.680 We're looking for other people who are trying to grow and be better and work on themselves

00:47:05.700 just as well, and that's the energy that we're going to be attracted to.

00:47:08.980 So we're going to see people as a ten, even if they're not a ten, because we see the

00:47:12.880 growth that can be made there.

00:47:14.040 Yeah.

00:47:14.400 And everyone has their specific type, and that could be someone's type, you know?

00:47:19.360 Like, that's not my type, but that could be somebody's.

00:47:22.940 Like she said, like, everyone's a ten in somebody's eyes.

00:47:27.240 Like, there's people, to me, like, I don't need a solid ten, honestly.

00:47:30.440 Like, I'd be...

00:47:31.720 But you're a ten.

00:47:32.960 I am, but it doesn't mean I need...

00:47:33.560 So you deserve a ten, don't you?

00:47:34.980 But if he has the person...

00:47:37.340 If he has the aspects that I want, cool.

00:47:42.580 That's what I need.

00:47:43.540 Yeah.

00:47:44.280 What are we doing over there with your McDonald's toy?

00:47:46.440 Anyone I choose to be with who I, like, see myself staying with forever is a tent to me,

00:47:52.480 no matter what they look like.

00:47:54.900 Looks-wise? 0.96

00:47:55.500 I've dated really ugly guys.

00:48:00.600 Also, when you're, like, super into someone, I feel like they get more attractive in your

00:48:04.860 eyes, like, no matter what they look like.

00:48:06.580 And then you get out of it.

00:48:07.680 Yeah.

00:48:08.180 Yeah.

00:48:09.340 And then you're like, well, what the hell?

00:48:10.620 And I'm like, oh, this is going...

00:48:12.120 Just delete those Facebook photos.

00:48:14.180 Hide the Instagrams.

00:48:16.100 All right.

00:48:16.520 So here's what...

00:48:17.440 Here's how we're going to settle this debate.

00:48:19.240 I got my scouter on, but we're going to ask the chat.

00:48:26.660 Chat.

00:48:30.220 Clockwise.

00:48:31.060 Ratings.

00:48:31.620 Oh, no.

00:48:34.100 Chat.

00:48:35.260 Rate.

00:48:35.800 You can rate me, too, and you can rate Kiki.

00:48:38.080 Kiki, what do you think about this?

00:48:40.080 Can I have more champagne?

00:48:41.460 Good answer, Kiki.

00:48:43.080 Okay.

00:48:43.760 So chat.

00:48:45.120 Let us know.

00:48:46.900 Clockwise.

00:48:47.380 So, okay, we're going to move on.

00:48:50.500 Now I'm not reading the chat.

00:48:52.540 We're going to move on.

00:48:54.220 Okay.

00:48:56.240 Hold on.

00:48:56.780 I'm just looking at the chat here.

00:48:58.180 I see some good ones.

00:48:59.040 Wait.

00:48:59.540 Clockwise starting with who?

00:49:02.940 Whichever way is clockwise.

00:49:05.380 You?

00:49:05.940 So starting with Hemsley?

00:49:08.160 Wait.

00:49:09.160 Why would we start in the middle?

00:49:10.320 Start at one of the girls at the end.

00:49:11.660 Yeah.

00:49:12.260 Start here with Kayla, is it?

00:49:16.200 Start with Kayla.

00:49:17.380 Move around.

00:49:18.660 End with Faye.

00:49:20.020 Purple hair.

00:49:22.440 Okay.

00:49:23.340 I know who I'm getting tense from.

00:49:25.280 I know my target audience.

00:49:32.040 Just waiting on the chat, getting a little bit of the chat coming in.

00:49:35.680 Yeah, that's fair.

00:49:37.040 I'll take the four.

00:49:38.160 You're correct.

00:49:40.120 Oh, look at Andy.

00:49:40.700 Thank you, Andy.

00:49:41.720 Yeah, he's sweet.

00:49:43.840 Kayla is a 29.

00:49:45.060 Nice.

00:49:45.660 Thank you, Carlos.

00:49:47.040 I will go on that lobster dinner.

00:49:49.920 Thank you, Steven.

00:49:50.840 I like the eight.

00:49:53.940 We got two fives.

00:49:54.600 Just the one eight.

00:49:55.620 Yeah, no.

00:49:56.120 Nice.

00:49:56.660 I told you they want us to be humble.

00:49:57.960 But combined, we're a 10, though.

00:49:59.980 So I feel like, we'll go out tonight by our own drinks.

00:50:03.480 I was going to say, it's good that we're going out tonight, then.

00:50:05.980 Okay.

00:50:06.300 Thank you, chat, for your...

00:50:08.420 Mario's rough.

00:50:09.620 Smooth.

00:50:09.940 Tough crowd.

00:50:12.020 Let's see what Mario looks like.

00:50:13.520 Can we pull up what Mario looks like?

00:50:15.300 Yeah, Mario, look at what you look like.

00:50:17.120 He looks like Danny DeVito in that picture.

00:50:18.640 Not going to lie.

00:50:18.920 I was going to say, maybe like a Kentucky farmer, but like...

00:50:21.880 Chris, can you hide this super chat?

00:50:23.600 Oh, rude.

00:50:26.900 Oh, wait.

00:50:27.480 Did I read it?

00:50:28.580 Did I read it yet?

00:50:29.620 Yeah, I think he did.

00:50:30.660 You have not read it.

00:50:31.500 You have not read it.

00:50:32.100 Yeah, let me read it.

00:50:32.800 Mike Davis with the $5 Soup Chat.

00:50:35.440 Whoa, that booze hit quick. 0.93

00:50:36.380 It makes no difference how you feel or what you convince yourself

00:50:38.520 you either are or you aren't.

00:50:40.140 It ain't that deep.

00:50:41.220 Oof.

00:50:42.300 Mike Davis coming in hard.

00:50:45.400 Mike is so real.

00:50:46.980 He is.

00:50:48.200 He's a handsome guy, by the way.

00:50:50.460 What do you guys rate Mike?

00:50:52.200 10.

00:50:52.840 I mean, his thumbnail's a bit on the smaller side, maybe.

00:50:55.900 Keep sending us money.

00:50:57.820 I think he looks good with the glasses.

00:50:59.880 He's a good-looking dude.

00:51:01.040 So, Mike Davis.

00:51:01.720 Mike Davis is a 10 for sure.

00:51:04.720 Okay, so moving on from this.

00:51:10.260 I think I'm aggravating some people here.

00:51:13.600 They were quick to answer, though.

00:51:14.940 Oh, we both got two.

00:51:15.540 They were so excited for that.

00:51:16.600 They were waiting.

00:51:17.580 They were like a crowd participation.

00:51:18.600 They were waiting.

00:51:21.480 Why don't we, Chris, just highlight a few of them.

00:51:23.500 Ooh, smooth POV.

00:51:24.480 What's up, man?

00:51:24.940 Good to see you.

00:51:26.880 Let's see.

00:51:28.080 Yeah, just.

00:51:28.400 Just, okay.

00:51:31.180 Five, five, five, six, seven, three.

00:51:32.660 Ten, ten, ten, ten, ten, ten, ten, ten.

00:51:33.900 A thousand?

00:51:34.700 Who's a thousand?

00:51:35.480 Kiki.

00:51:36.260 Can we dial these into a phone?

00:51:37.600 Can't see.

00:51:37.640 The whole body can't really rate.

00:51:39.000 Oh, my God.

00:51:40.320 You know what?

00:51:41.340 So real.

00:51:42.740 Maybe we need a couple people to do a couple spins. 1.00

00:51:45.760 Just throwing it out there, you know.

00:51:47.900 I don't think we do.

00:51:49.140 We're all comfortable.

00:51:50.700 Will you get demonetized if I flip people off?

00:51:53.520 No, you can, if you want to do the bird.

00:51:56.720 You got the most tens.

00:51:59.060 Did I?

00:51:59.620 I also got the most four.

00:52:00.700 Mike is a ten for sure.

00:52:03.600 Okay.

00:52:04.100 So we're going to go back to the topic of initiative.

00:52:08.840 So we sort of talk a little bit about during the initial phases.

00:52:15.660 Have any of you ever kissed a guy first?

00:52:18.940 Gone in for the kiss first?

00:52:21.020 Yep.

00:52:21.300 Yeah.

00:52:21.520 Kayla, we'll start with you.

00:52:25.420 I don't know.

00:52:27.840 I think I just block those things out.

00:52:31.120 What?

00:52:31.840 And I...

00:52:32.400 I feel like I haven't.

00:52:36.060 You block those things?

00:52:37.820 Well, okay.

00:52:39.480 Are we talking in relationships?

00:52:41.200 Like, am I dating this person?

00:52:43.440 No, first kiss.

00:52:44.280 First kiss.

00:52:44.780 First kiss.

00:52:45.240 First kiss.

00:52:45.760 I've never done that.

00:52:47.740 Why not?

00:52:48.380 I mean, I don't want to be weird.

00:52:54.020 But...

00:52:54.420 You know, like, I don't want him to be like, ugh.

00:52:57.280 Do you think that would happen if you went for the first kiss?

00:53:00.020 Who knows?

00:53:01.200 Who knows?

00:53:02.040 It could happen.

00:53:03.100 It could happen.

00:53:04.060 It could happen.

00:53:04.500 And then that's why I just decided to remove myself from any situation that that would... 0.99

00:53:09.120 You know, I don't ever want him to be like, that bitch tried to kiss me. 1.00

00:53:13.440 Could you imagine? 1.00

00:53:14.320 Could you imagine?

00:53:15.820 Could you imagine?

00:53:17.780 The nerve.

00:53:18.700 You're not in middle school, honey.

00:53:20.020 It's horrible.

00:53:20.900 Do it.

00:53:21.640 I can't.

00:53:22.400 I can't. 1.00

00:53:22.440 Because then he's going to be like, that bitch had the balls versus any other bitch. 1.00

00:53:26.460 Not, that bitch tried to kiss me. 1.00

00:53:27.920 I promise. 1.00

00:53:28.960 I promise.

00:53:29.820 I promise.

00:53:30.860 She's absolutely right.

00:53:31.780 It's a good thing to just...

00:53:33.020 And if he dodges it, okay. 0.99

00:53:35.980 He might like balls and kiss. 0.99

00:53:36.860 Oh my God. 1.00

00:53:37.300 No man's going to dodge a kiss. 0.83

00:53:39.340 Absolutely not.

00:53:40.060 No one's going to dodge a kiss.

00:53:40.980 Just do it.

00:53:42.900 Please.

00:53:43.600 He's not going to be like, oh my God, she tried to kiss me.

00:53:45.260 Yo, she tried to kiss me. 1.00

00:53:47.040 But like, I feel like sometimes a man has tried to kiss me, even one that I've been

00:53:51.820 interested in, and I've been like...

00:53:53.840 Yeah, because sometimes they're gross.

00:53:55.200 Yeah?

00:53:55.940 That's true.

00:53:56.620 That's true. 1.00

00:53:57.160 Women are gross. 1.00

00:53:58.880 That's true. 1.00

00:53:59.660 That's true.

00:54:00.480 Wait, so a guy who you're interested in has tried to kiss you, and you...

00:54:05.820 Why?

00:54:06.160 Yeah.

00:54:08.020 Well, does he deserve it?

00:54:11.500 That's the biggest question, I feel like.

00:54:13.460 The self-worth.

00:54:14.440 I love it.

00:54:15.220 What?

00:54:17.040 Um, does he deserve it?

00:54:19.260 Yeah.

00:54:20.260 Does he deserve...

00:54:21.420 That's a reward, if anything.

00:54:22.820 A kiss is a reward that a woman gives to a man. 1.00

00:54:25.740 Yeah, or a man gives to a woman. 0.99

00:54:27.940 Okay.

00:54:28.540 But when you do it, it's a reward.

00:54:30.680 Yeah.

00:54:31.420 Have you ever been rewarded by a kiss?

00:54:33.520 Yeah.

00:54:34.880 Okay.

00:54:35.900 Yeah.

00:54:36.480 Okay.

00:54:36.920 All the time, I feel like.

00:54:38.120 Yeah.

00:54:38.900 Okay.

00:54:40.260 Um, that's interesting.

00:54:41.460 So, what, what would be a scenario in which you feel a guy would be deserving of being

00:54:47.800 rewarded with a kiss?

00:54:49.480 If I loved him.

00:54:52.640 High bar.

00:54:55.080 If you...

00:54:56.120 Stop the cap. 0.94

00:54:57.140 Hold on.

00:54:57.480 Okay.

00:54:59.040 So, you only kiss men that you're in love with?

00:55:01.760 Um, honestly, that's been the trend.

00:55:04.200 Like, okay, or I can see myself loving them, I think is a better way to put it.

00:55:11.620 You can...

00:55:12.880 Like, if I'm like, oh, I want to date this person, I want to be with this person, whatever,

00:55:16.880 then I think that maybe I should kiss them, but if it's some random guy at a club, no.

00:55:23.520 Have you ever kissed a guy at a club?

00:55:27.440 Randomly?

00:55:27.980 Yes.

00:55:28.860 At a party?

00:55:30.740 At a party?

00:55:32.560 Um, at a party, sure.

00:55:34.400 I mean, that was when I was, like, in high school, mainly, and so I feel like now I'm at...

00:55:39.480 You're at the club?

00:55:41.080 Now I'm at the club.

00:55:43.340 Okay.

00:55:44.360 Now it's just different, and I don't...

00:55:46.500 I feel like guys are a little bit less...

00:55:50.660 In high school, I felt like I was really trying to grab male attention and try to be, like,

00:55:55.460 the hottest girl in the room, and, like, I wanted to go up to them and be flirty and

00:56:00.200 try and kiss them, and now I feel like I'm...

00:56:02.400 The right person will just come to me, so I don't need...

00:56:05.140 I mean, sure, it's fun for some people.

00:56:07.100 To me, it's just not.

00:56:11.660 Have you ever...

00:56:12.400 Have you ever initiated the first kiss?

00:56:16.960 Um, definitely.

00:56:18.180 Like, I, like, before, like, back in high school, I would always just, like, wait for

00:56:22.060 someone to kiss me, but then, like, this one time, this guy was, like, going in for the

00:56:25.600 kiss and, like, straight punched me in the face.

00:56:27.740 Nice.

00:56:28.240 And literally ever since then, I have gone for the first kiss.

00:56:32.120 Can you elaborate?

00:56:32.840 Like, he head-butted you?

00:56:34.080 No, like, punched me. 0.83

00:56:34.960 Like, with his face.

00:56:35.420 Like, he was trying to, like, put his arm, like, around me. 0.98

00:56:38.100 What the hell is your type? 0.94

00:56:38.620 What is your type? 1.00

00:56:39.860 Like, the worst.

00:56:42.520 But, yeah.

00:56:43.180 Same.

00:56:43.800 Ever since then, I literally just went for the first kiss, and, like, that was actually mortifying.

00:56:46.740 I never want that to happen again in my life, so I'll just, like, I'll do it.

00:56:52.200 Sydney?

00:56:53.200 Yes.

00:56:55.140 The first guy, when I moved out here that I was seeing, we were, like, hanging out for,

00:57:00.100 like, a while, and we still didn't kiss, and then we were, like, I was, like, are you

00:57:03.020 gonna kiss me?

00:57:03.580 And he's, like, I'm thinking about it.

00:57:04.900 I was, like, okay, well, you should.

00:57:06.340 And then I did it.

00:57:06.940 So, how many times had you guys been hanging out?

00:57:17.180 Like, three or four.

00:57:18.580 We took things really slow in the beginning.

00:57:20.800 So, he was just scared to make a move?

00:57:23.540 Yeah.

00:57:24.320 Now that I think about it, like, our first time hanging out, like, hung out all night.

00:57:29.320 Nothing.

00:57:29.940 Not even, like, touching nothing.

00:57:31.140 Would you have kissed him that night?

00:57:33.060 The first night?

00:57:33.680 No.

00:57:33.900 i liked how i liked how slow no honestly because like with my yeah honestly like you would not

00:57:39.820 have kissed him the first night i mean if it was right maybe but like i liked how slow things were

00:57:45.520 going because like in my past i've gotten it like guys either were just wanting like physical stuff

00:57:50.520 or like moving in and so quick or something but i liked how like slow it was going but then like

00:57:55.340 after by like the fourth date i was the fourth like time hangout it's like kind of like okay

00:57:58.580 like i'm ready for like first kiss like come on let's go yeah so i liked how slow it was in the 0.99

00:58:03.540 beginning but then you didn't really you kind of went for it but you're like stop being a bitch go 1.00

00:58:09.780 for it right he needed a little shove and it worked but why didn't you just you could have gone for it 0.89

00:58:15.740 right yeah but you kind of you sort of went for it but it was kind of like hey dude you do it a little

00:58:24.760 bit i mean he needed a shove he needed like a little help because he was taking a minute was it starting

00:58:30.080 to become a turn off for you that he wasn't initiating no it was more so like what the hell

00:58:35.600 because i knew that we were like that these were dates and that we were like together for a bit but

00:58:40.100 i was more so like okay like why is this like taking so long i knew that he wanted to but he just

00:58:44.660 didn't so i like he needed some help and i was like all right kiss me so yeah ensley

00:58:52.940 um no never kiss the guy first no i do like the eye contact like the conversation lulls and then

00:59:02.260 you do eye contact and then it's like can you demonstrate on gabby

00:59:05.320 and then yeah then you kiss do you do the triangle what's the triangle oh see when we go out

00:59:18.340 tonight i'll show you okay and from this episode of cosmopolitan magazine okay uh gabby have you ever

00:59:26.740 i mean no not that i can remember i don't remember initiating the first kiss ever okay yeah so i said

00:59:32.780 yes but i think every kiss i've ever had is like first kiss with someone has been like mutual

00:59:37.460 like we both initiated and it was understood both initiated yeah like it was

00:59:44.120 we well we did the looks we just made eyes at each other until something happened but someone

00:59:51.280 kind of has to you know go in first i guess yeah i guess it's me about 50 50 i don't okay and no they

01:00:01.900 seem pretty synchrony like synchronized uh just like synchronized swimming but with making out

01:00:07.520 on your roommate's couch um like that gotcha so two questions related to that not not your thing

01:00:17.400 specifically but is it a deal breaker or turn off if the person tries to kiss you either too soon

01:00:23.700 or takes too long like you're like waiting for them to to do it definitely a deal breaker if it takes too

01:00:31.080 long like because it starts feeling kind of platonic yeah like if i wanted a friend i'd have a friend

01:00:38.180 sure we're dating so let's sure do dating stuff like kiss and to add to the question also have you 0.97

01:00:45.780 ever had a situation where a guy just waited too long to make a move even though you were interested

01:00:51.160 in him he just waited too long and then you just lost interest gabby um i don't think it's a deal

01:00:58.500 breaker i really like taking things slow so for me that just it's the turn on actually i don't like

01:01:04.300 when guys are trying to move into things too fast so if a guy the first time hanging out just tried to

01:01:09.780 kiss you that is that too fast it's not like a turn off but yeah so you like to take things slow yeah

01:01:15.880 what do you mean like i'm not gonna hook up with you the first week hi chris oh there we go 1.00

01:01:23.660 hold on i got something for you chris that's a fucking 50 dkp minus what the fuck was that shit 1.00

01:01:33.040 i like taking things slow don't do that shit chris okay you like taking taking things slow okay 1.00

01:01:40.540 hensley i get bored very fast and i also like not to be one of those chicks where it's like all my 0.99

01:01:47.740 friends are guys but like if you don't kiss me on the first date you're homeboyed very quickly

01:01:52.800 so first date they have to kiss you if the date goes well yeah absolutely if they don't it's that's

01:02:00.520 then it's done it's done so all right cool has there ever been a circumstance though where he

01:02:06.500 it just like the circumstances it just didn't happen and even then done so or you're like i can't

01:02:14.080 imagine a circumstance not once popping into my head like it hasn't happened yet it hasn't happened

01:02:20.020 yet you're like hey i got it i gotta go or he's gotta go i get bored so fast it's no all right make

01:02:26.860 your moves quick guys um it's kind of a turn off if he does it too fast like 15 minutes into the day

01:02:36.040 where he like goes in for a kiss i was just like no like that's a bit of a turn off um too slow

01:02:42.100 for me isn't bad i kind of like taking things slow when it comes to like building a relationship

01:02:46.780 i like that but like four dates and to kiss like to kiss me that's a bit much but yeah like first

01:02:53.380 date if it's like a kiss on the cheek good night or like a peck if it's like going well yeah but like

01:02:57.040 not like full-blown like make out session um i feel like i agree with like four dates would be a

01:03:04.040 little much but like anything before that just kind of like adds to the chase so i feel like it's a lot 0.86

01:03:08.920 more fun uh we we have a new bitch oh it's a male dog my bad um we have a new dog in the studio 1.00

01:03:24.260 there we go nice 1.00

01:03:26.140 dog dating is super easy so i feel like there's not yeah they fuck okay kayla 0.99

01:03:35.120 or wait christy sorry did you answer the question yeah like four dates would be like a little much 0.97

01:03:41.080 but anything before that like the chase is fun um i also like to take things slow so i think it's sweet

01:03:48.800 when a guy is i would take it as he's being shy or something like that i think that's sweet

01:03:54.000 and i'm kind of the same way so yeah i feel like if i really really liked the person no amount of time

01:04:02.260 could be like a deal breaker i would probably ask though like do you just see me as a friend

01:04:06.600 if he was taking too long yeah okay got it so i want to propose to the not not that kind of propose

01:04:16.680 so i'm gonna paint a scenario here for you guys and i want you to tell me if that would be kind of

01:04:23.740 exciting for you you'd be like no no no no no so let's say you're going on a date with a guy

01:04:28.180 first date and you haven't kissed him yet like maybe you met somewhere but he just got your

01:04:35.020 number whatever maybe dating app dm whatever it may be the very so okay you're on the first date

01:04:42.520 you're walking up you're meeting each other walking up towards each other the very first

01:04:49.160 thing he says is hey so would you be down to just get the whole first kiss thing out of the way right

01:04:54.760 now what would you think of that would you go for it or what could he redeem himself after that or

01:05:02.500 i think he could redeem himself and say it was like a joke but you wouldn't you wouldn't go for

01:05:07.900 it because that's kind of kind of ballsy not gonna lie it's kind of cute yeah i like that i think i'd go

01:05:12.420 for it i i kind of fuck with that like if it's like if we have like a strong texting street the vibes 0.90

01:05:17.760 are like they're over text message like we had a connection when we got each other's number 0.93

01:05:21.600 and then like we walk up she's like hey do you like i i kind of like that i haven't gotten that

01:05:26.040 before but i kind of like that it's kind of ballsy right it is i kind of like we're gonna have so

01:05:30.960 many things to try to do so i definitely go for that yeah i would like it yeah and like she said

01:05:38.820 if there was a texting streak before absolutely but if there wasn't like if this is kind of like

01:05:42.520 your first time meeting the person y'all could kiss and if they were a bad kisser then you could be

01:05:47.420 like yeah thanks for that i'm good i'm gonna peace out thank you so much i'm glad we got that out of

01:05:53.060 the way it's called being fiscally responsible gabby i don't think i would like it if the guy first

01:05:59.800 thing no yeah because imagine how many other first dates he's tried that on so yeah it would just make

01:06:05.700 me feel kind of not special yeah okay it would you'd feel not special yes okay

01:06:14.920 um yeah okay we've got some figured out oh he's limping he's got a little limp he'll get over it

01:06:25.740 he's kind of a drama queen all right sorry guys we got we got dogs in the studio here

01:06:31.300 so i shouldn't have revealed that's my i've had that in the arsenal for a little bit um

01:06:40.640 so now all the guys might try that i've tried it as an experiment how to go i've tried it only two

01:06:50.520 times it worked once the other time didn't work what happened what'd she say when you tried that 0.99

01:06:56.200 yeah but did you go on the date no we continued hanging out i mean i wasn't i didn't push it it

01:07:01.480 was just i was just like oh yeah i'm just joking

01:07:03.420 what was her response when you said it though i'm kind of curious like what what would she say

01:07:10.060 it wasn't a bad response she wasn't like oh

01:07:11.920 yeah uh and i you know i moved on really quick but uh you recovered yeah it was a recovery there

01:07:20.680 was a recovery i was just like no i didn't say okay so i didn't say i was joking i think i just said

01:07:25.780 oh yeah i figured i'd just give the shot you know but it's cool anyways how's your day going just 0.97

01:07:30.600 move on to something else but uh yeah guys try it out that's that's some gangster shit guys 1.00

01:07:36.900 it takes some balls though take some balls she'll definitely remember that shit though like no guy 1.00

01:07:41.960 well some guys might do that but all right try it out guys okay so 1.00

01:07:46.260 who here is on the dating app just show of hands

01:07:51.080 not gabby hensley you all three of you dating app not no dating apps have you ever been on the dating

01:08:00.560 app yeah farmers only um you know i am from texas so that is like the whole dream but no

01:08:08.960 i was on tinder and hinge and i think maybe bumble for like actually three hours

01:08:16.600 bumble's weird bumble is weird wait why is bumble weird just like we have to make the first you have

01:08:24.280 to talk first heaven forbid i i always do but i don't want to have to see i couldn't figure it out

01:08:31.460 that and hinge honestly because tinder you download no yes like that was easy for me and then like

01:08:37.980 bumble was complicated you couldn't figure it out i didn't take the time to i don't care enough

01:08:41.960 honestly like i just and then you know sorry i was always confused if you're bi too because i was

01:08:47.040 like if we're both chicks who asked to do it first on bumble yeah is that kind of confusing bumble

01:08:53.500 like got a lawsuit for that also oh yeah actually they picked which one was more masculine i got a

01:08:58.940 check do it yeah like bumble sent me a check really sent you a check yeah it was only for men because

01:09:04.860 men were i don't know there's something discriminatory on bumble against men that the

01:09:08.940 girls have to message first it was like discriminatory i think it was yeah so can we know how much the 1.00

01:09:12.780 check was i think it was like 50 bucks or something really yeah what about to change my identity on

01:09:18.200 bumble real quick i'm on the league uh wait so okay bumble's weird because yeah so is hinge i never

01:09:26.000 figured out i wonder how it works with gay men on bumble that's why they don't go elsewhere 0.74

01:09:30.840 i feel elsewhere my assumption would be for gay men and for gay women on bumble either one can

01:09:37.640 message first but for a straight couple for if you're straight the woman has to message first so 1.00

01:09:45.040 is that why you guys thought was weird because y'all had a message first yeah i mean messaging first is

01:09:52.520 just it sucks like it gave me a little empathy towards guys who have to message first like if they 0.87

01:09:57.660 pick up line sucks it'll be such a like you're out of here and then i'm like do my pickup lines suck 0.97

01:10:02.320 probably okay so anyone else on why you didn't like bumble you thought it was weird yeah i just think 0.96

01:10:11.840 it's weird why it just is you know when you know when certain things just rub you the wrong way

01:10:17.440 no you're gonna have to articulate it for me okay first of all i feel like the crowd on there

01:10:26.520 is just like maybe they got banned from tinder and then they got banned from him that's why i was on

01:10:32.500 bumble and now they're on bumble oh you got banned i got banned from tinder what did you do i think i

01:10:37.320 just got reported a lot for like um trolling no i think like a lot of people thought i was a catfish

01:10:44.260 profile and i got reported did you have your stripper photos on there no i didn't have anything

01:10:49.640 like it's because you're a 10 it's because you're yeah i guess it's because you're a 10 but then i use

01:10:54.980 my grandma's phone number and then the same thing happens my grandma is also banned from tinder

01:10:59.480 i think they use uh image recognition so if you reuse the same uh photos in your new profile

01:11:07.200 it'll ban you again i don't they can also ip ban you i got ip banned on tinder yeah you can get

01:11:13.200 your what are you guys doing on tinder jesus no i never mind say it say it why did you get banned

01:11:21.780 on christian mingle i was gonna say i disagree because i got banned too and then i used a different

01:11:27.120 phone number and now it works for me so i was gonna agree but i was like no one needs to know

01:11:31.860 that part but we're right there so i found it out you can do it three times before they ip ban you

01:11:35.780 because my friend logged in i'm only on number two and right now i'm like i'm good so but it's like

01:11:42.440 photos but maybe it's like more mature photos of me you know like i'm older now i don't know what

01:11:46.480 the deal is but i'm playing it safest you definitely should you should just dispute the ban i don't even

01:11:52.700 know how i can't figure it out it's very hard their customer service does not respond i've never

01:11:56.680 been banned though okay so bumble y'all have every single one of you been on bumble i just don't

01:12:02.380 like i don't like the user interface that's my main problem it's a graphic design thing sounds like

01:12:07.580 that's cope for having to initiate uh no uh because i always send the first message but again i don't

01:12:12.760 like having to like what if he has a funnier like what if he has a funnier opener what if he

01:12:20.900 shines me and then it comes after mine that's a terrible comedy special

01:12:24.480 so kayla you were on bumble what was your go-to first message since you had a message oh i i never

01:12:32.540 messaged anyone but you were on bumble yeah for like three hours okay then you just deleted it okay

01:12:38.240 yeah i didn't message any because you deleted it because you had to message also i just don't i hate

01:12:45.040 dating apps and so i'll say i break up with someone i'm like whatever i'm gonna get a dating app and then

01:12:51.080 i do and then i'm like uh i didn't want to be on here in the first place have you ever met someone

01:12:57.320 from a dating app christy oh i was just smiling no but have you ever uh met someone off of a dating

01:13:05.680 app well i'm here because of a dating app so yeah great experience so well okay i mean uh romantically

01:13:13.620 um i actually don't think so no i like i don't really use dating apps to actually date around i

01:13:19.940 just kind of like looking what's going on you know so for valid validation not even for validation it's

01:13:26.200 like i don't reply to like half my messages i don't really swipe on anyone i just kind of look at

01:13:30.760 what's going on savage okay interesting who's around curiosity yeah curiosity okay and on you said

01:13:38.860 you were on bumble too uh yeah i'm banned on bumble oh my sis how do you get banned on bumble

01:13:44.080 what are you doing it's a really tough life what are you doing it was like just my venmo and my bio

01:13:51.300 and they don't like that you see how far the termites have spread and how long well they've dined

01:14:00.180 i think you're done yeah i'm not gonna lie if i see if i see a chick's venmo 1.00

01:14:06.740 on a dating app that's an instant instant report i'm sorry christy you know what it was probably

01:14:15.240 it was probably me i got you banned on bumble i saw you not only did you have your venmo you

01:14:23.180 you had your only fans also you had your only fans linked and had to report you yeah because

01:14:30.560 you're trying you're trying to get these simps okay sydney you were on bumble why didn't you like

01:14:35.740 it i was on it for like two days and i i couldn't figure it out well so i was like i don't like this

01:14:40.920 app but i've also been like i don't know i didn't like it and then i found out that i've been cheated

01:14:47.500 on via bumble so i was like i really don't like this app because i just can't i don't know it

01:14:53.100 takes i'm not a fan of it i've never dm'd anybody on bumble first it was just irritating for me so i

01:14:58.000 just didn't do it why didn't you message anybody on bumble just i i just didn't i guess i like had

01:15:04.320 it for a few days i wasn't on it much i like swiped a few times i just wasn't interested but i've had i

01:15:09.900 have tinder like i've had really good experiences with tinder i'm out in santa barbara because of tinder

01:15:15.700 so yeah bumble's an interesting one yeah i'm not a fan but you can do it like friend you can like

01:15:22.820 switch it to like friends so when i had it that's why i did it i didn't switch it to romantic i did

01:15:27.820 it for friends which sounds pathetic but no make friends well because it was i was new out here i 0.97

01:15:33.200 didn't have any girlfriends so i was like fuck it it's impossible to make friends as an adult you have 0.98

01:15:38.200 to go outside which we haven't been allowed to do for three years so i'll give my take really quick 0.98

01:15:44.600 on bumble so did you get banned too um did i i don't know i know i got i got banned from tinder

01:15:53.460 because i did a experiment on there and i ended up matching with like the vp of something at tinder

01:16:01.380 and uh yeah they banned me um hey no no bull spit thank you for becoming i think that might

01:16:09.300 chris is that our first ever member mike davis you're leaving our first member mike davis you're

01:16:15.000 breaking my heart hey man thank you hold on let me do i'll do super chats really quick

01:16:18.740 um uh let's see here hold on okay i'm gonna read this mike davis uh go full screen chris mike davis

01:16:29.440 uh or sorry why thank you for the 20 super chat man really appreciate it i got to sign out give this

01:16:36.960 20 to the girl who keeps begging for venmo i love i like helping the less fortunate i will never send

01:16:43.800 a young girl i ain't trying to catch a case peace who is that because a few of is that that's you 1.00

01:16:50.420 yeah because i was on here last time and i was like hey if you want to keep like roasting people

01:16:54.780 just venmo me oh yeah mike davis before you leave become a become a member um we need you as part of

01:17:02.400 these mike we need you as part of the uh whatever warriors so uh thanks man thank you for the 20

01:17:09.420 dollar soup chat let's see here we also got uh new bull spit became a member thank you man appreciate

01:17:16.420 it i think that's our first ever uh membership

01:17:20.640 hey chris can you boost the computer volume to 60 yes it's the keyboard yes i'm oh it's already at

01:17:34.420 oh put it to 70 okay um thank you no bull spit for becoming a member uh i don't i'm not sure what tier

01:17:42.340 you joined at but uh yeah appreciate it man and let me i while i have it here let me get your super

01:17:50.420 chat no bull spit with the 10 super chat hey man thank you for the support much appreciated how long

01:17:56.720 in a relationship does one pass gas in front of their partner and why do girls try so hard to hide 1.00

01:18:02.260 farting and going number two in front of their partner okay really quick let's go around the panel

01:18:06.360 say i don't hide these things i have ibs um like sorry that's it like um uh if you don't want to

01:18:18.800 love my ulcerative colitis as much as i hate it then that's going to be a problem but also everyone

01:18:25.580 on the microphone please microphone about it microphone closer to the mic oh yeah no everyone

01:18:30.680 i've dated has been weirdly okay with it more okay than i am with it so claps to them okay gabby

01:18:37.800 i've never been in a relationship so i don't really know never wait never been in a relationship i've

01:18:43.000 never had a boyfriend no so i couldn't really answer this question but i have been like on and off with

01:18:49.520 somebody for like the past three years you've been on and off what i was why and why was he

01:18:56.120 consistently breaking up with you i don't know i mean i feel like the most the best answer is he

01:19:03.900 was a frat guy so oh yeah that explains it all he was a frat guy what frat no i cannot say say the

01:19:12.520 frat no but we there's so many guys and it just are you in a sorority no no okay there's so many

01:19:18.500 guys in frats just like to this even though we've been or we had been i i have no contact with him

01:19:27.960 at all anymore but to this day like even though i had known i had known him for three years i would

01:19:32.680 not what was the question fart or pass gas in front of him at all even though i've known him for

01:19:38.840 that long since freshman year hensley real quick on this one um there has to be an accidental slip

01:19:45.060 first and then once that bridge is broken then it's free range good answer sydney yeah i kind

01:19:52.760 of agree with you i've never had that issue i mean i've never been in like a really like serious

01:19:57.440 long-term relationship so yeah i don't really have yeah i mean once you're comfortable enough with

01:20:03.840 them i feel like just like whenever it slips up just like well it's out of the way now so

01:20:08.200 yeah i guess yeah i can see it by that okay no bull spit thank you for that

01:20:17.480 very intriguing question we got mike oh no mike we already got this one from mike davis

01:20:25.360 and then i don't know if we got this one mike davis with the five dollar soup chat i'm

01:20:30.020 maybe a four my mental game is strong i get girls with game and earning dough most women are a 1.00

01:20:36.020 asexual they're married to the money i do love sectionals i think it's a great house

01:20:44.260 asexual i'm not sure what that means unless you meant asexual okay well mike davis thank you man

01:20:51.580 much appreciated mike i hope we hope to see you next time man thank you for tuning in mike davis

01:20:56.360 okay so where were we we were talking about bumble did i get my take i did not get my take on bumble

01:21:02.300 okay bumble uh yeah the girl message is first and uh even though the woman has to message first on 1.00

01:21:10.320 bumble overwhelmingly y'all just say hi y'all can't even the one app the one dating app where you can

01:21:20.680 it's the power is in your hands y'all can't even muster 0.97

01:21:25.900 some clever shit i'm just saying that y'all just say hi hi how's it going 0.95

01:21:32.080 but hey you know i had a really good one what did you say my my one would always be what is the best 0.97

01:21:40.440 form of potato and you could rate their questions because if they said french fry they're basic but

01:21:46.600 if they said something super extravagant like a twice big potato with this and that and that

01:21:52.020 they're too much the correct answer is tater tots or hash browns yeah word okay so

01:22:00.240 all right that's a that was a good one thanks i'm sure that got you plenty of guys

01:22:07.700 they they were interested in it america likes potatoes it should be more of a pickup line

01:22:13.280 bring back the potato pickup lines but yeah so what i've noticed on on bumble is

01:22:19.080 there are some girls that would when i was on it they would read my profile comment on something 1.00

01:22:27.280 do something a bit creative but like 95 of the messages were just

01:22:30.820 hi and i've heard a complaint from women on tinder if a guy just says hi 0.99

01:22:35.780 it's not very good it's not not great um i think it's a low likelihood of response

01:22:44.140 if a guy just says hi so when the tables are turned y'all fucking up okay so uh do you respond 0.90

01:22:53.260 to the highs though when someone says yeah i'll still respond because i'm a i mean here's the thing

01:22:58.280 like yes i do because that's what you gotta work with what you get you know so uh i still would respond

01:23:10.880 but uh it the idea for the app is kind of funny because it's so token because it's all like oh

01:23:21.200 let's let's empower women let's let's give them they they can do it but like my experience on bumble

01:23:29.400 was they say hi and then they're immediately passing to you the conversational burden so it's just like a

01:23:37.360 it's just a totally token thing so that's been my experience they say hi and then you have to

01:23:44.300 you have to carry the conversation from there so uh that's been my experience anyways not all the

01:23:50.780 time there's definitely some girls that they can bring it but a lot of time they say hi and then

01:23:55.560 they expect you to do the typical you have to be the one who's clever and you know saying all the 0.54

01:24:00.780 shit at you know and then you have to ask them out i don't think i've ever had an experience where 0.95

01:24:05.800 they might say hi but they're not going to ask for my number they're not going to set up a date 0.98

01:24:10.600 so it's very it's a very token like thing um

01:24:15.600 word okay so

01:24:19.940 well i think people say hi a lot on these apps because it's like these are very physical based

01:24:27.360 apps you know it's like so the high is just an extension of their profile photo you know

01:24:31.140 it's like they're not really saying much because they just want you to look at their photograph

01:24:34.580 anyways and then nod or disagree with it i got something to say about that i always try to open

01:24:42.760 with like something to do with like whatever's in their bio or pictures yeah uh my ex who moved to

01:24:50.340 italy for work like he had uh a picture of a warhammer 40k figure in place of the pot from

01:24:57.600 like the pottery scene in ghost and i thought that was hilarious um no one else will but um

01:25:04.060 like that's why i mentioned him and i mentioned it in my first message to him like i try to relate

01:25:09.180 to something just to show that like hey i actually looked at what you wrote and also put on your profile

01:25:17.900 um not going to mention the fact that you're 6'4 at deadlift god i hope he doesn't watch this

01:25:24.780 um but like i always try to put an effort in just because they are very physical apps i know 90%

01:25:33.580 of these guys i match with are not looking at a single thing i write uh and i want to make sure

01:25:42.000 they are and occasionally i'll drop in a little quiz you quit you quiz them uh yeah i'll like mention

01:25:48.680 something that wasn't in my bio like i'll be like oh like i said in my bio like this and they'll be

01:25:54.220 like oh yeah huh and then like try to like write a paragraph playing off of that and i'll be like i

01:25:58.020 never wrote that i got you you're in jail and i just it fizzles out from there okay all right so

01:26:08.160 just going back around really quick coming back to initiative do you prefer it when the guy initiates

01:26:17.000 or would you rather initiate kayla i prefer when the guy does yeah like and overall yeah the guy

01:26:25.080 i think it's more attractive when he does but i think it's more fun when i do

01:26:29.460 i like to allure to it but it's more fun when the guy makes that first physical move

01:26:36.860 the guy for sure i'm just so clueless i need them to give me a clear sign

01:26:42.020 i did see something too that one of my girlfriends told me was um like how they always say like oh

01:26:50.140 like she wears the pants but it's like she sews the pants and he wears them wait what essentially

01:26:56.160 like what kind of like so like girls will like put out those first few signs and then making the 1.00

01:27:02.280 guy think that he made the first move like that's what i did with an ex of mine i would like put out

01:27:07.120 those first few signs he's like oh okay and then he shot the shot so he thinks that he like made the

01:27:11.980 first move so like i sewed the pants but he wears them type of thing you know yeah that's kind of what

01:27:17.800 i was like you know if you see someone at a club you can give vibes like i know guys like

01:27:22.500 i would like to be like oh you expect to just know off a look or something but

01:27:26.640 like you know the look like you can like you pass by you're like oh i'm so sorry i touched their

01:27:31.020 shoulder absolutely love that but like something like that and then they're just like oh okay like

01:27:36.180 i saw her like let me go and it's just like no like we saw you first like okay you know so why do

01:27:42.480 you prefer that the guy take initiative well going back to what i said before i sometimes feel weird

01:27:50.560 doing stuff like that like i feel like an odd person

01:27:53.720 i'm just clueless and i can't take hints so it's good self-awareness i think it's attractive when

01:28:03.440 he kind of goes for it i don't like reaching for details kind of like i don't want to ask for your

01:28:10.960 number i don't want to like get all your information i want you to want to get that from me

01:28:15.940 agree with her it's more attractive and also like i said before i'm not the most confident or bold so

01:28:21.960 what was the question i have lost track of the conversation well i'll just ask a new one 0.68

01:28:27.840 um agree or disagree if a guy doesn't have the balls to approach you that's not the type of guy

01:28:33.480 you want anyway yeah i mean like if again i'm clueless if you don't show clear signs you're attracted

01:28:41.960 to me i don't know at all uh i'll just think you're a real good pal i would agree i'm pretty

01:28:50.420 clueless too i disagree like if i'm not immediately noticed sometimes yeah i disagree i mean i don't

01:28:58.400 think like especially in like a bar setting like there's a lot going on like he doesn't have to

01:29:03.440 automatically see me but i can definitely kind of introduce myself and then he'll see me for the

01:29:09.180 rest of the night you know i also disagree i feel like oh like the lead up to it is like really fun

01:29:15.420 so just like oh are they going to talk to me are they not going to talk to me and then like if they

01:29:19.260 do if they don't i also disagree and i agree with you girls i think that having someone come on like

01:29:26.080 that's just it's nice okay it is it validates a little bit you know all right interesting okay

01:29:34.280 so um i think your dog is digging for something there it was a dead body um so if i recall

01:29:44.980 every single one of you said said you were feminists considered yourself feminists yeah not 1.00

01:29:51.940 hensley i don't think i said anything about it you might have omitted on that one yeah i didn't

01:29:56.900 really acknowledge it too much you two though said yes i'm like i feel like the a more like

01:30:04.560 modern definition of feminism it's kind of like aligning with a political party completely and 1.00

01:30:09.880 totally it's if you're a feminist you're expected to be certain things that if you do disagree with 1.00

01:30:15.860 someone on something they're going to tell you you're not that anymore i agree with that but like

01:30:20.920 i'm a feminist by definition of you know men are equal to women well isn't that just egalitarianism

01:30:26.980 but so i mean feminism i think is different than being an egalitarian or egalitarian uh well an 0.67

01:30:38.960 egalitarian truly believes that men and women are equal and they fight for equality between men and

01:30:45.980 women but feminism that's something different i feel like maybe it's morphed into something 0.99

01:30:53.120 different but generally on the basis of being men and women are equal like raising women to the

01:30:58.480 standard of what they should be which is equal to a man from where it used to be was yeah so so

01:31:02.880 feminism feminism is essentially women's advocacy yeah i don't consider it seeking equality 0.99

01:31:10.200 you want to come in on this go ahead uh no i just it's different entire like they're different

01:31:17.760 concepts entirely uh i feel like feminism itself is such a nebulous weird term um that's kind of

01:31:25.780 become meaningless thanks to uh terminally online twitter weirdos uh but uh there's one group here

01:31:34.680 that needs advocating for and there's one that doesn't what can you which one uh woman uh i think 1.00

01:31:41.240 i disagree men absolutely need to be advocated for in certain areas yes but which areas also supports

01:31:49.780 men no it doesn't it does no it doesn't it's about dismantling toxic masculinity uh which hurts men

01:31:56.740 just as much as it hurts women there's no such thing as toxic masculinity there's just right it's 0.98

01:32:01.540 it's called masculinity whoa oh no there's there's just there's toxic people there's no such thing

01:32:09.020 as there's absolutely toxic masculinity is there such thing as toxic femininity yes yes absolutely god

01:32:15.480 i don't i don't see the point in making it a gendered term i people are just toxic masculinity 0.99

01:32:23.020 there's egalitarianism and then there's equity sorry you were talking no go for it i like please

01:32:27.720 please please go for it uh yeah there's uh like egalitarians it's like everybody say you have

01:32:34.780 like a one foot tall person a two foot tall person and a three foot tall person and you give them all

01:32:39.880 the same size box to see a baseball game over a fence i'm taking this from an image macro so i've seen

01:32:45.120 it i know what you're talking about uh equity is everyone gets boxes high enough to see over the fence

01:32:51.420 and i mean that's that's reducing a very complex egalitarianism is everyone gets the same size

01:32:58.840 box i mean i know the image you're talking about that's reducing a very complex issue to a very

01:33:05.580 sort of base level but it doesn't is it wrong because that's what egalitarianism is

01:33:12.380 well you're talking about equity so there's equality of opportunity and equality of outcome

01:33:19.040 so i don't believe in equality of outcome but i do believe in equality of opportunity

01:33:24.040 so equality of outcome would be if equality of outcome is you just you set up society so everyone

01:33:32.800 gets the same outcome but that doesn't take into consideration that people have different

01:33:36.760 personality traits and they have different uh competency so and equality of outcome is

01:33:43.780 frankly impossible that's very true so i think on average men aren't dying because they can't get

01:33:48.800 life-saving medical procedures actually what men aren't dying because they're they can't get

01:33:54.940 life-saving medical procedures are well are we talking about covid because actually men were more

01:34:00.340 impacted no we're talking about abortion roe v wade yeah we're talking about roe v well men don't have any

01:34:05.460 uh reproductive rights to begin with so he's got it uh they do but we don't have to talk about abortion

01:34:14.340 um i'm i'm well okay i'm not gonna go in there but uh hot button issue uh so next question no we can

01:34:26.480 no it's good it's good it's it's fun for uh for the viewers it's good debate um wait so you said that

01:34:32.420 men don't need advocacy uh no i didn't say men don't need advocacy i they don't need play that

01:34:38.820 back as much i think men actually need more advocacy hot take that's a hot take i'm because

01:34:47.000 like men's mental health has been men's mental health has been but that's because of again toxic 0.61

01:34:52.280 masculinity which is pushing down your emotions there's no such thing as toxic i was raised as

01:34:56.800 the sun in my family there's just toxicity but i don't see the point in gendering these terms i mean

01:35:02.000 what why not just call toxic behavior toxic behavior why because because toxic masculinity is 0.64

01:35:08.320 is going to be a divisive masculinity isn't is wonderful no it's not specific to men

01:35:15.060 masculine and feminine behaviors aren't necessarily specific to the gender you would think they would

01:35:21.480 be assigned to uh and those mine like i know plenty of like old school women who are like women should 1.00

01:35:30.320 be in the kitchen uh and women men should be the breadwinners whatever and that's also a toxically 1.00

01:35:38.220 masculine behavior so traditional gender norms you think that's toxic i don't think so uh too many

01:35:45.080 like like depends on how uh hard line you are about enforcing them yeah and i don't enforcing them i

01:35:52.500 don't think that should be enforced i think women should absolutely have the choice if they want to 0.83

01:35:56.240 work and pursue a career absolutely but if a woman also wants to be a housewife i don't think that 1.00

01:36:02.480 should be shamed either yeah no neither should be shamed but there are i have plenty of friends with

01:36:08.280 mother-in-laws from hell who what's that have to do with uh because they're the one who like they have

01:36:14.280 my friends have careers they're women with careers and jobs and like they do that and they like hire a 1.00

01:36:19.680 nanny or sometimes their husband stays at home and he's a stay-at-home dad and their mother-in-laws

01:36:25.200 are just nightmares about it shaming their sons for staying home and taking care of their children

01:36:31.140 calling it babysitting raising your own kid is not babysitting uh and then shaming the mothers for

01:36:36.820 working uh that is also a toxically masculine trait uh that is why what does masculinity have to do 1.00

01:36:45.780 because it's a masculine can't it just be toxic uh i mean you it could but you'd be just ignoring

01:36:53.720 the definitions of most socio-political terms that's just toxic like that that that mother-in-law is just 0.98

01:37:02.280 toxic straight toxic doesn't matter like whether she's a female or male like just but there is 1.00

01:37:07.040 such thing as toxic femininity just not in this example that you're setting up for her so i feel 0.97

01:37:11.760 like you're putting her in a poor straw man position where it's like toxic femininity i think of like 0.90

01:37:18.400 the vixen the woman who uses sex specifically just to like or very feminine features to like be a damsel 0.95

01:37:24.720 in distress to like get like men or money or certain things like that and like toxic masculinity where it's

01:37:31.320 like you know like the gym boy the testosterone that we need to play football we need to do all

01:37:36.420 i don't think that's toxic i mean it can be though can you agree to a certain extent because it's all

01:37:42.380 a guy wanting to play football is toxic can i get an example how that could be toxic i'm i just i'm just

01:37:47.140 curious how could that be toxic well i'm saying in their own levels like um like a man just being like

01:37:53.160 i need to be in this male position because like i'm a man so i need to be strong and i need to be buff

01:37:59.700 and i need to be into these very male things to prove my masculinity that's i think that's desirable

01:38:06.000 i think that's admirable i don't think that's toxic i think that that's just like you know like

01:38:11.240 males have these traits and maybe you know like i don't know personally i don't think that's toxic

01:38:16.340 that could have just been how they've grown up like their dad is just like oh you have to do this

01:38:19.400 this and this that could be something they're super into i have a lot of guy friends i have a lot

01:38:23.300 of football friends who are super into that and that's kind of how their life is because that's

01:38:27.800 the future that they see for themselves they want to go d1 they want to do all this stuff

01:38:32.180 and that is what their life surrounds themselves as because that is their future i get that you know

01:38:38.740 just like my future is like this so i surround myself around this i don't necessarily see that

01:38:42.900 as toxic they can go about it in a toxic way absolutely but i don't see that as toxic but what

01:38:48.620 about what we were saying like with earlier with mental health how like men like oh yeah men's mental

01:38:53.140 health is a lot like i don't know statistics but like women's mental health is taken care of much 0.94

01:38:57.820 more than men's for a reason i don't understand and i think a lot of it is because again the word

01:39:03.300 toxic masculinity is like they feel like they can't open up to be exactly yeah men don't and again i have

01:39:08.600 a lot of guy friends but they don't feel the need like when they have issues it takes a while to get

01:39:13.480 them to open up about it because men feel like they can't open up about it and when they do open up

01:39:17.540 about it to their other guy friends it takes a minute and they don't even open up about it to

01:39:22.360 like oh i'm struggling with this this and this they're just like yeah man rough day like that's

01:39:26.200 it so men's mental health is a lot lower talked about than females and it's really hard on them

01:39:33.720 isn't it like and again i don't know the stats but isn't it like men's suicide is a higher rating than

01:39:39.320 women men's successful suicide attempts are much higher than women however women do attempt suicide

01:39:45.420 much more than men and that's because men tend to choose things like guns and uh knives whereas

01:39:52.580 women tend to choose things like pills i got my that makes it i got my master's in psychology 1.00

01:39:56.920 okay so this i'm not arguing that i'm just saying like i don't know a lot more than a gun does okay

01:40:02.660 so i'm just gonna come in really quick so just on this topic so i'm not entirely sure if that's

01:40:07.780 actually true so as far as women attempt suicide more i'm not even sure if that's true

01:40:14.980 men certainly commit suicide more i believe 80 successfully the vast majority of suicides

01:40:20.660 are committed by men the vast majority of homeless are are men the vast majority of workplace deaths

01:40:25.480 are men uh the vast majority of uh military deaths are men i mean there's there's ways in which both men

01:40:32.380 and women are disadvantaged but i mean to say that there's one group that needs no advocacy

01:40:39.820 and another group that needs a bunch of advocacy i think you can make a very strong argument that

01:40:45.660 it's it's actually in today's day and age men actually need more advocacy advocacy there's more

01:40:51.060 women going to college for example that's another one that's a choice men aren't supported as much too 0.65

01:40:57.260 keep in mind yeah but wait so hold on just so i'm clear when it comes to university back when there

01:41:02.720 was a underrepresentation of women in university it was the patriarchy and and uh sexism but now that 1.00

01:41:10.820 there's more women in college it's just men's choices well what are the men doing are they going

01:41:15.660 to trade school that's a perfectly respectable thing in fact i personally as a person who went

01:41:20.280 into a graduate level education think that trade school is much more respectable than a college

01:41:24.340 education in most uh instances you're making more money you're not drowning in debt and you have a

01:41:29.800 job that's actually useful uh and you're not working retail to pay off a master's degree

01:41:34.220 uh my my degree has nothing to do with what i do again i am a software tester and i got my degree

01:41:41.040 in psychology i want to just open this up to the other people on the panel if they want to come in

01:41:45.240 on anything kayla do you have any any take on this about just just what or just what we've been

01:41:50.660 talking about um well i have a few thoughts on toxic masculinity and i think that you mean it

01:41:56.900 doesn't exist i think to the microphone please it oh sorry i think that it does exist for certain

01:42:04.140 people um for example if we have so growing up in texas there's a lot of a man should do this and a

01:42:12.200 woman should do that and while i personally stand by gender norms i like them for my relationships um i 1.00

01:42:19.720 don't believe everyone should be that way but i have seen people be raised by men who say you have

01:42:26.900 to do this you have to do that and their kids turn out very depressed because you know maybe you have

01:42:33.600 a child who's transgender and they feel they cannot be that way because of the norms pushed on to them

01:42:41.560 that's just how i feel about that i don't think it applies to everyone though um i mean it's a

01:42:51.440 complicated issue but like i mean it's gonna be a pretty boring answer but where i pretty much stand

01:42:55.560 is both sides face so much hardship and like different varying degrees different ways but like

01:43:01.900 the hardest part about finding a solution to any of it is literally like conversations being pit against

01:43:07.640 each other like oh one group faces more one group faces less no no no no when in reality it's like

01:43:12.300 you know there's toxicity on like femininity and there's toxicity in masculinity but i i think toxicity

01:43:18.900 knows no gender yeah men can be toxic women can be toxic dogs can be toxic this dog's good though 0.90

01:43:27.740 this dog's chilling but but uh what let me just finish this thought here so um but actually go ahead

01:43:35.060 uh can i turn my attention our attention to the comment who thinks this incredibly cheap wig is 1.00

01:43:39.100 real hair uh bro get it together please maybe it's just it might be a very uh convincing wig you know

01:43:49.600 it's it was twenty dollars very very convincing okay uh gabby do you have a take on this um i agree

01:43:56.700 with her like every i mean both genders have like their hardships so yeah i mean i'm also honestly i i'm

01:44:03.040 i think the whole this war between the genders is a psyop i think it's a psyop if you turn men

01:44:12.440 against women blacks against whites democrats against republic republicans gay gay people against straight 0.97

01:44:18.540 people then you start ignoring the one that really matters which is class so i i think class is kind 0.95

01:44:26.440 of it's really just that's why you have major corporations amazon uh pretty much every single

01:44:34.680 corporation is buying into all the woke stuff because it's very token it's very easy and it keeps

01:44:39.900 people divided um but then you have amazon which they'll paint an airplane rainbow but as soon as you 0.96

01:44:49.060 try to unionize you just try to start a union they're gonna bust that shit up so trying to unionize

01:44:56.060 is pretty much the most left-leaning thing you can do but anyways i'm kind of derailing that into a 0.96

01:45:01.080 political conversation i'll sign off on that i co-sign that it's a psyop actually it's 100% a psyop

01:45:06.440 absolutely start dividing people and then the there there's not going to be class uh unity between the

01:45:13.680 poor i'll say this and this might be controversial i think that a poor woman and a poor man have far

01:45:22.220 more in common than does a rich woman that then a rich woman has with a poor woman you're absolutely 0.98

01:45:30.220 right so i think it's a psyop i think it's just keeping us distracted anyways i'm getting almost

01:45:36.680 conspiracy conspiracy theory here we'll bring it back um so okay where was i um what were we talking

01:45:46.380 about it started with feminism yeah it started with feminism now we're at psyops oh right okay

01:45:52.660 we're talking about feminism so um i kind of like what you said though about um like bringing up how

01:46:02.980 like people were raised differently like in my family like i was raised like i have a younger sister

01:46:07.260 and a younger brother and me and my sister would be painting our nails and my little brother wanted to

01:46:11.720 paint his nails and my mom's like okay or like sorry and then we were always like like raised like

01:46:18.420 my parents like from a young age my parents didn't care like we don't care if you're like gay straight

01:46:21.780 whatever as long as you're a good person and nice human we don't care and that made a huge difference

01:46:27.580 for us growing up like my little brother always had the same opportunities like painting nails like we

01:46:33.120 dyed our hair and he dyed his hair pink with us you know like i think it doesn't yeah i think it

01:46:37.840 definitely does like make a difference mentally where you come from as well definitely word okay

01:46:45.360 chris can you pull up the twitch we got shout out the twitch homies and we're gonna wrap up here in 1.00

01:46:50.460 about 10 15 minutes okay twitch all right guys this is our uh twitch activity feed if you want to go

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01:47:13.920 chats here guys if you want get your super chats in we're gonna wrap up here in about um five ten

01:47:19.260 minutes uh we have mr mike davis who is in a car because he's always on the go this is his last

01:47:27.680 message before he's leaving mike davis five dollar super chat thank you man brian last thing when's the

01:47:32.520 next show so that i can dismantle the next pack of females so we're gonna do a show tuesday next show 1.00

01:47:42.120 will be tuesday and then we'll be live again on thursday too so uh tuesday thursday 7 p.m pacific

01:47:47.020 time but we won't do the show if you're not there mr davis yeah the show's not happening if you're

01:47:51.900 not there so we need you in the chat pronto no bull spit no bull spit with a five dollar super chat hey

01:48:01.960 man thank you much appreciated men never open up because no one actually cares and if they do open

01:48:06.380 up to someone they're looked as they're looked as weak or will be used against them in the future

01:48:11.360 uh facts okay go to therapy no bull spit uh anyone you guys want to go around the panel really quick

01:48:17.540 on this one thoughts on this one yeah go to therapy he needs therapy or just go to therapy

01:48:22.300 if you think that you're going to be looked down upon or it's going to be used against you go to

01:48:26.380 therapy you have doctor patient confidentiality and they don't well okay there are bad therapists

01:48:31.940 out there i'm not gonna lie and pretend there's not i've had plenty uh but like yeah like find a

01:48:38.620 therapist that works for you they won't look down on you uh i know it's a huge fear for men that you

01:48:44.840 will be seen as weak and will be looked down upon if you express your feelings uh women have a lot 1.00

01:48:50.800 of similar insecurities they deal with and eventually as you get older you do the thing you're afraid to

01:48:56.200 do like and no bull spits uh example like express your feelings and it turns out more often than not

01:49:03.920 uh if you are around someone who you trust it's gonna turn out okay 0.80

01:49:09.920 uh my therapist is also the crackhead at 7-eleven chris it's okay damn savage i mean i don't

01:49:19.820 necessarily agree that like the straightforward answer is oh just go to therapy because a lot 0.83

01:49:24.160 of people cannot afford a therapy or there's it just doesn't really work with them so we'll go to

01:49:28.440 7-eleven no sometimes it's hard if you tell a guy hey just go to therapy like you know it doesn't

01:49:34.700 either doesn't work with them or they cannot afford it there's a lot of financial hardships that go with

01:49:39.060 it there's a lot of bad ones yeah i don't think also i don't think men like when they have opened 0.99

01:49:45.620 up to their partner that shit doesn't go good what do you mean go good and that's toxic femininity we 1.00

01:49:54.140 have an example toxic femininity yeah what do you mean like a woman telling a man that he can't yeah 1.00

01:50:00.060 like thinking you're weak for expressing your emotions like i mean if you're a woman and you 0.99

01:50:06.080 think your partner's weak for having feelings you suck just if you're anyone sorry and you feel like 0.89

01:50:12.280 your partner's weak for having feelings like it's hard opening up to someone especially like in a 0.97

01:50:17.120 new relationship being like hey babe like this is my situation like i remember my last relationship my

01:50:22.140 first time having a panic attack that was really hard to try it and like be like oh yeah by the way

01:50:26.460 this is my situation like it's hard opening up in general and like even more so for guys like how he

01:50:31.340 said like they have this fear of having to be like masculine and have to have like kind of like

01:50:35.680 hold down the floor like it's really hard for guys more so than women i i feel like personally because

01:50:41.780 you know when we're with our girlfriends we talk about all the time when they're with their guys they

01:50:45.080 don't talk about that type of stuff they feel like you know they don't and women are more allowed to 1.00

01:50:50.180 be like emotional that's what people have painted us as is emotional creatures and that in the comments

01:50:56.560 they said if you are a cop or a military and your employer finds out you lose your job that is true 1.00

01:51:01.000 if a cop goes to therapy for what he has seen he will lose his job that's not actually true my brother

01:51:07.280 is a police i'm in a military family wait your brother's a police officer yes and in texas okay and so

01:51:15.120 the laws may be different versus you know um but i do know that the police force wait does have an issue

01:51:23.820 with that i have a question because sometimes after like if there's a use of force incident like

01:51:28.340 a shooting don't they sometimes offer the police officer to offer therapy but then they also can

01:51:34.680 say that you are not allowed to work for a certain amount of time and things like that okay like you

01:51:39.960 cannot you can no longer go on those types of like jobs like you can't respond to those things

01:51:46.480 anymore huh okay interesting and i don't know if it's like that across the united states but

01:51:51.540 i would assume yeah it might vary from state to state and department to department christy did

01:51:57.720 you have anything um about which subject yeah which uh what what was it oh the super chat um oh yeah

01:52:07.120 like men never open up this one well i think a lot of people go through that like they think that

01:52:12.460 opening up is like weak and it is more accepted for girls to do that but that's a case of like i'm

01:52:18.020 really using like toxic masculinity toxic like femininity but it just like boils down to toxic

01:52:23.500 older gender norms and stuff like that as an overall like oh like you know women are more 1.00

01:52:30.280 emotional which may be true but men aren't allowed to be emotional and whatever but it literally just

01:52:35.800 boils down to like both sides perpetrating like this stereotype like a toxic woman being like no you 1.00

01:52:41.440 can't but a lot of people blame it on our hormones too like they make jokes about like oh it must be

01:52:47.280 her time of the month but then like men don't have those kind of jokes available like you know 0.99

01:52:52.420 what i mean kind of like it's stupid they don't have a scapegoat no they don't it's like oh yeah 0.96

01:52:55.860 it's my time you know you can't do that but when it's us like yeah well i mean it is 2022 i mean 0.98

01:53:00.600 apparently apparently men can get pregnant to each their own that's news to me okay so uh hensley did 1.00

01:53:08.080 you want to come in on this or no okay yeah i mean honestly my advice to guys is if you have a

01:53:14.660 girlfriend like i don't know she wants don't don't share don't share your problems with your

01:53:21.740 girlfriend because it's just not i mean i disagree i don't think you're not with the right person if

01:53:26.320 you can't share your problems with them exactly and i think it opens up the dialogue to where they

01:53:30.980 feel more comfortable sharing with you they're gonna lose given that i honestly they're gonna lose

01:53:36.080 attraction for you no if you know if they lose attraction for you for having feelings they are

01:53:42.900 not the one cut them off but also talk to your homies more have give bro hugs here's the thing 0.99

01:53:49.040 like men don't often share their feelings because they end up just not all the time but they end up

01:53:56.640 just upsetting their girlfriend wife whatever and then they're left to console their girlfriend or wife

01:54:04.120 wife on her feelings because of how his feelings made her feel wrap your head around that one i i

01:54:11.140 completely understand you say because i used to be that type of girlfriend like if my boyfriend's

01:54:14.920 upset obviously i did something wrong oh my god they're upset because like i'm not doing enough or

01:54:19.340 whatever but that just comes from growing as a person and growing in a relationship but you have to

01:54:23.300 learn that like you know it's not my fault they're feeling this way and stuff like that and that's just

01:54:27.740 like growth as a person i don't know for me with like my the last guy that i was seeing i got frustrated

01:54:34.280 because he wouldn't open up to me about stuff and i could tell he was like seriously going through it

01:54:38.480 but he wouldn't talk to me and then once he finally did talk to me about stuff it almost like opened up

01:54:43.200 like a new door of like trust and attraction because he felt comfortable talking to me yeah that's

01:54:49.380 where i want to ask gabby what do you think gabby i definitely believe that a guy should be able to

01:54:53.680 talk to their girl about their feelings and if not if she doesn't really accept it or she turns it

01:54:59.020 like on herself and feels bad about it then she's not the one can i ask you a quick i want to go around

01:55:04.800 the table on this because it's kind of related if you were dating a guy and somehow he got into a fight 0.99

01:55:12.100 with someone else say another guy and you saw him get his fucking ass whooped is that gonna be a 0.99

01:55:20.720 turnoff for you that happened definitely not that happened to you my my most recent ex got jumped and 0.99

01:55:26.860 he broke his jaw or his jaw got broken by like five guys holy shit jesus and this is when we were first 0.66

01:55:32.160 initially talking can we can we get a a do you want like a little story quick story quick story it was

01:55:39.260 halloween and we weren't paying attention to the guys whose house it was and we brought hella guys and

01:55:43.420 then we were leaving they got mad threw rocks at the car the guys in the car got mad and then

01:55:48.040 like it was like 10 guys on like four of my friends and so your ex-boyfriend got his jaw smashed

01:55:53.240 yeah but this is when we were still in the talking phase like we weren't even like oh like a fish or

01:55:57.140 anything and like it was like i met his parents like literally earlier that day and i'm like calling

01:56:01.880 him at the hospital i'm like hey you met his parents because of the fight no before early in that day i

01:56:06.400 like went to his house for the first time and i was and you you've been hanging out how much like

01:56:11.140 three months oh okay okay fine sure and it was like a friend group it's like high school you know

01:56:15.120 right yeah that makes sense but and then i was like with him through all his recovery and he was

01:56:19.700 like you know you can like i know we're just hooking up you can like leave if you want i totally

01:56:22.860 understand like we're still friends it's cool and i was kind of like i like stick around like you can't 0.51

01:56:28.940 really talk or anything so just hang out yeah damn can we get an f in the chat for her ex-boyfriend 1.00

01:56:35.580 that yeah sorry about fucking sorry about his jaw jesus kayla you had something it actually 0.97

01:56:42.360 happened in isla vista oh my god oh my god um so isla vista dangerous place del faia we were there 0.94

01:56:51.200 for a party and he lived there um at the time and so there was a party going on they had a barricade

01:56:57.380 whatever and so we're just trying to get up to his apartment and we're like hey um we need to get up 0.87

01:57:01.920 to the apartment and i was like he lives here and they were like every bitch says that and i was 1.00

01:57:05.980 like no like he lives here like we can show you proof if you need that but this is his house like 0.78

01:57:10.840 you shouldn't need that um and so i'm kind of like yelling at the guy like i'm getting a little bit loud 0.54

01:57:15.280 and the guy at the barricade pushed me and called me a bitch and so my boyfriend at the time punched

01:57:23.120 him across the face and then got like i don't how many how many people it was like five guys it was

01:57:27.780 like five guys so you got pushed he punched the guy and then they jumped him right i actually had

01:57:34.840 that same situation kind of not like a boyfriend it was just like a random fat guy that was like

01:57:39.300 protective of me and it was a random fat guy frat no it was at my own house what's what's him being

01:57:46.560 fat has to do um okay no it was at my own it was at my own house on he was deltopia well because

01:57:52.460 some guy was getting like mouthy protective of you yeah yeah he's trying to get some no white

01:57:57.420 night no no like i was like trying to like get out my own house and like a guy was like getting

01:58:01.920 mouthy and i like he kind of got aggressive and i like pushed him back and then he literally like

01:58:05.940 this guy hit me in the face like he slapped my face and i was like and i was like ready to like

01:58:09.720 push back and then this guy one of the frat guys like goes like yo and like grabbed him through

01:58:14.960 my he's like you don't do that to a female and i was like it was kind of like i appreciated that

01:58:18.600 because you know like i shouldn't have to like as a female like you don't hit in the face too i was 0.98

01:58:23.720 like that threw me back and then before i could do anything he handled it and i was like i don't

01:58:27.260 even know what the guy's name still wait so kayla the guy who you you were dating him for a bit

01:58:32.300 yeah okay we were dating for like a year no it was like eight months at that time okay and 0.99

01:58:42.020 he was coming to your defense i feel like that's maybe right did i lose attraction he got his ass 0.97

01:58:47.840 kicked right yes badly yes it wasn't a fair uh maybe that's yeah and it was like that i there's 0.97

01:58:55.100 still like blood on the sidewalk yeah the sidewalk still has like his blood on it it's so gross is

01:58:58.820 this recent no it was like a year ago i know it was like six months ago yeah hensley um it's a turn 0.99

01:59:07.300 off for me i gotta say like if if you see your guy get his ass kicked yeah it's a turn off 0.97

01:59:14.500 yeah okay that's that's kind of what i was suggesting yeah gabby i already answered this 0.98

01:59:22.400 but no it's not a turn off not a turn off um we'd both be swinging together so like if we're going

01:59:27.940 down it's a bonding activity i think if the guy started it i like that i like that my roommate and 0.99

01:59:33.980 i got into a picture if the guy's like walking all up he's like i'm gonna beat your ass out of 0.98

01:59:37.820 nowhere and then gets kicked then it's like that's that's pretty gross okay got it but if it's

01:59:43.520 unprompted or if it's like he didn't prompt it then like whatever do we uh is that all the super

01:59:48.280 chats i think there's just one from steven krug steven krug with the five dollar super chat good to

01:59:53.720 see you again man thank you for tuning in dogs are too good for you for humans that's true facts

02:00:00.120 facts all right uh let's um actually before we pull up the clip our little ending clip here uh

02:00:09.760 i want to open it up to you guys if you have a final thought or a question either for me or for

02:00:15.460 someone else on the panel or the panel uh why don't we start with you if you want a final thought

02:00:20.860 or question i've never had a thought in my life thank you facts okay i want to ask you who should

02:00:26.020 initiate going back to our initial question who should initiate because i don't think you answered

02:00:31.320 that who who should initiate i think it would be great if women initiated i would invite it uh but

02:00:41.600 it's very rare i think if you were to ask most men they'd maybe been hit on once twice the guy's

02:00:49.880 really exceptionally attractive maybe more but i mean i would say even an average girl is

02:00:55.740 running circles around even like a top tier guy in terms of the attention that they're getting

02:01:03.780 from the opposite sex uh so i mean who should initiate probably i mean if you want to live in reality i 0.94

02:01:13.720 mean men have to initiate so 0.85

02:01:17.960 probably men should initiate if they want to get any because if men don't initiate if they don't

02:01:27.640 make the first move then they're never going to get any most men if you take most men you put them

02:01:35.900 in the nightclub you put them in a party you put them in the bar they could they'll stand there the

02:01:40.380 entire night and not one person will come up and talk to them they will stand there alone the entire

02:01:44.980 night you put a a girl even an average looking girl someone's she's going to get attention a guy's 0.99

02:01:52.880 going to approach her so as a guy you have to if you don't that's the end of your gene pool buddy um

02:02:00.160 so yeah i mean we just men just have to live in reality you gotta we have to take initiative so who

02:02:07.360 should initiate probably men because if you're a man and your expectation is i'm gonna wait for a girl to 1.00

02:02:12.480 initiate if you think women should initiate you're gonna be very lonely so that's my take 1.00

02:02:18.660 um i had a thought final final thought or question that's you want me to come back to you

02:02:28.420 maybe okay sydney how many girls have initiated with you how many girls have initiated with me

02:02:34.720 yeah because you said like an average guy gets like maybe one or two but like for you i i consider

02:02:39.660 myself fairly average no i'm just i'm just asking i'm just asking like six you went to

02:02:45.160 ucsb right six point nine no you didn't no i thought you did okay yeah we had a class maybe

02:02:51.040 how many girls have came up to you at a party here well i don't really party okay but how many

02:02:59.160 occasionally i party but i don't go to bars and clubs so i did a little bit when i was younger how

02:03:04.300 many girls have come up to me and like initiated that first move like okay so of the times i've 0.97

02:03:08.920 been to bars or nightclubs i went a little bit when i was younger maybe a couple dozen times i feel

02:03:15.300 like that's kind of a lot um at a bar or club never never and i've been probably a couple dozen times to

02:03:25.980 a bar club never been initiated on uh instagram dms that doesn't count well i mean it's very low um

02:03:35.660 and also i'm out there on social media too so you'd think it'd actually be higher um i've had

02:03:41.920 two or three girls in the 10 years i've been doing social media dm me no way 10 or sorry yeah 10 years

02:03:50.120 two or three girls and not in santa barbara either some chicken chicago a chicken munch like canada or 0.93

02:03:56.180 some shit and one chicken oregon so it's rough as a dude like girls really aren't unless you're like 0.91

02:04:04.740 really good looking or your social status is you know you got serious clout um yeah girls just really 0.99

02:04:12.240 aren't initiating like that uh and then i'm trying to think on dating apps a little bit higher

02:04:20.000 um i do get it a little more girls that will initiate on dating apps but 0.76

02:04:25.140 okay hinge for example like your channel on dating apps do i put my channel like like whatever yeah

02:04:33.940 you're like no i don't put my link i mentioned like if it asks if there's an occupation field i'll say

02:04:39.500 that i'm a content creator or i do uh social media or i'm you i'm a youtuber um but i i don't put my

02:04:47.300 link i'll put my instagram in my stuff so yeah i honestly i don't think i want women looking at my

02:04:55.580 content just because i don't know it's i'd rather meet a girl and have her judge me in person than

02:05:03.580 my persona that i've created online uh so uh so yeah uh but dating apps definitely i would say

02:05:13.440 a little a little bit more but like on hinge fuck

02:05:21.020 i'll get maybe one like a week maybe one like a week and but i'm sending likes out and i'll get

02:05:31.040 i'll get a decent amount of matches when i'm initiating on hinge but them liking me first it's

02:05:37.640 one week so yeah tinder and okay i haven't been on tinder in a long time on tinder

02:05:44.720 probably like occasionally they might message first if we match but mostly i would have to message first

02:05:54.160 so my experience has been overwhelmingly like i have to initiate so that's been my experience

02:06:00.400 does that adequately uh answer your question

02:06:04.680 okay christy i don't have any questions nothing no final thought think of right now okay me neither

02:06:12.340 nothing oh man hensley back to you all right really quick chris um once you yeah guys we're

02:06:19.560 gonna wrap up in five minutes if you want to do last minute super chat chris can you pull up twitch 0.98

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02:07:09.020 to play or react to a video uh it's been stuttering it's been stuttering there's been lag so we're

02:07:15.940 going to be trying a new way to uh play a video and i'm just realizing we should have zoomed this

02:07:22.520 camera in a bit more because it could definitely be a bit tighter but anyways that's something for

02:07:26.280 next time um we're going to try to play this can you guys when the video is playing if it is lagging

02:07:33.280 or stuttering one in chat if it's lagging or stuttering all right chris go ahead and uh play it

02:07:40.440 all right do i uh come over here you got a window you got a window over here it's in the window mode

02:07:46.860 and then i think yep and then oh you got to start from the beginning and then press play okay before

02:07:53.380 you play it uh girls we're going to have you react to this clip this is our little you know fun little

02:07:58.640 clip just to end end the show go ahead chris here's a question here's a serious question 0.99

02:08:03.980 okay ladies if you didn't have a vagina like say it was a terrible train accident right and the 1.00

02:08:12.580 doctor was like we have to remove your pussy right away or you're gonna die 1.00

02:08:18.620 how would you keep your man past you get a two month guilty i can't leave the bitch right away 1.00

02:08:28.280 because she just lost her pussy in the train accident can't just walk right out on her 1.00

02:08:35.820 how would you keep your man past that if you didn't have a vagina pause it 1.00

02:08:45.360 okay we're gonna go around the table one you bring it back chris uh kayla 0.99

02:08:52.180 um you know i've never thought about that i've never even considered that but now that i'm

02:09:01.020 thinking i would hope that in the event that that happened i was married or something so i could pull

02:09:08.000 the like you married me because you loved me right you know what i mean i think that's what i would pull

02:09:15.380 and if he if he left whatever but he was asking what would you what would you do to keep your man

02:09:21.220 what are some things given the circumstances terrible train accident but are there certain

02:09:29.160 things because okay intercourse is off the table that's gone but i'm still amazing sure of course

02:09:37.580 yeah we know that okay that's been established throughout the show um but are there things

02:09:44.140 things that you would do maybe change flowers okay christy like maybe he got into a train accident 0.99

02:09:53.920 after me just out of the blue and he lost his penis yeah like a hand for a hand you know so there's 0.99

02:09:59.540 just okay there's the dog is going up the stairs okay can you uh call him back 0.99

02:10:06.140 so okay um but do you want to actually answer the question oh um i actually don't know i literally

02:10:18.080 have not thought about this like maybe like okay sydney go ahead i don't even know how to answer this

02:10:24.520 honestly i have no commentary on this i mean give us something okay i mean there's other ways

02:10:34.180 to like she said flowers are like there's other ways to show love your partner and that's how i'm 0.94

02:10:41.080 gonna end that ensley he could fuck other people but also we would have to get like an exotic animal 1.00

02:10:50.640 together i mean because there's no stds that way though too yeah no i'd be chilling i'd be like 0.99

02:10:55.780 yeah you go have fun i'm come back and give me cuddles and we can take care of our pet tiger

02:11:00.520 and then yeah i kind of like that gabby sex is not what makes up an entire relationship but i do 0.72

02:11:09.120 agree that it is an important part of a relationship so i mean i would try to do my best to still please 0.99

02:11:16.300 him without a vagina but yeah what and when you say please him like like blowjob okay yeah okay sure 0.99

02:11:26.880 uh one i didn't buy the strap-on harness for decoration wait so repeat that i didn't buy the 1.00

02:11:33.120 strap-on harness for decoration uh nor did i buy the custom dual density silicone uh phallus that goes

02:11:40.980 with it for decoration two there's two holes so now we're just on an equal playing field

02:11:46.500 that is so good that was a lot of detail that was a lot of detail oh that i left out so much oh that's

02:11:55.960 okay okay uh chris why don't you play the rest of the clip but yeah they did they definitely did not

02:12:03.380 take the bait on this one wow nothing you can talk you can talk 1.00

02:12:13.080 suck his dick okay mouth 1.00

02:12:18.720 oh asshole okay great you see what i'm saying now i've been getting pussy bean the whole show right 1.00

02:12:29.360 but but i give women the opportunity to say i'm gonna make myself worth more but you just classified 1.00

02:12:34.980 yourself as a series of holes but but you know i'm 0.97

02:12:39.980 i'm supposed to treat you special but you're just a bunch of holes for yourself 0.89

02:12:45.620 no one said learn how to play xbox learn how to play pool tell better stories get another 1.00

02:12:53.960 bitch that got a pussy to come on in 1.00

02:12:55.580 well look whatever all right bring it back 1.00

02:13:01.660 okay rest in peace patrice o'neill the legend the goat rest in peace

02:13:08.020 okay yeah you guys did not um take the bait on that one but uh

02:13:13.300 but uh okay so uh yeah that's uh that's pretty much it i know you guys kind of didn't have

02:13:21.580 did you have anything hensley fine thought my i guess my final thought if i had to come up with

02:13:27.180 one is just like it's kind of funny that like men keep their notifications on for dating apps

02:13:32.940 like they get they're like oh i got a match on tinder i'm like at 2 a.m

02:13:41.000 that's swiping time wait do you mean when you're dating them or just in no just like guys in general

02:13:49.100 like they're always like they're like oh i matched with this girl it's like and girls

02:13:52.760 match with like 20 guys and they're like one of these might get a date but like y'all if y'all get

02:13:57.840 one match you're like you're planning the date you're planning the wedding you're like already

02:14:01.860 asking for information wow damn okay and did you guys final thought i don't think

02:14:10.580 my brain is like off right now yeah we're okay got it i i will say for emotions and not talking 0.95

02:14:18.360 about it with your girlfriends it's because us guys save it for the locker room i will say that

02:14:22.560 that's what locker room talks all about yeah

02:14:25.000 word word okay cool so uh we're gonna wrap up thank you guys for tuning in tonight

02:14:33.240 you could have been doing anything else but you're here with me appreciate that we will be

02:14:38.760 live again tuesday at 7 p.m potentially maybe sunday if i uh can uh wrangle an interview uh

02:14:48.860 so yeah we'll be live again with the dating show tuesday at 7 p.m pacific i want to thank the

02:14:54.480 lovely panel for coming and giving their deep philosophical insights on the topics of dating

02:15:01.600 and relationships thank you guys for watching and uh chris if you want to go wide here

02:15:08.440 and uh we will uh see you next time all right see you guys

Whatever Podcast - February 02, 2023

Dating Talk #8

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