Whatever Podcast - July 17, 2023


Dating Talk #84


Episode Stats

Length

5 hours and 12 minutes

Words per Minute

200.26273

Word Count

62,606

Sentence Count

5,105

Misogynist Sentences

531

Hate Speech Sentences

312


Summary

On this episode of Whatever Happenings, Brian and Kiki are joined by a special guest, Brittany Vazquez, to talk about how she was born on Valentine's Day and what it means to be a millennial in 2019.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Dating Talk podcast. Thank you for tuning in tonight. You could have been anywhere in the
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00:02:12.940 Without further ado, we're going to have the guests introduce themselves. So please tell
00:02:16.540 us your name, age, occupation, and where you're from. Go ahead.
00:02:20.240 Hi. I'm Brittany Venti. I'm a YouTuber. And I make content that sometimes makes people
00:02:28.920 mad at me, but that's okay. And yeah. And I have an OnlyFans where you can see pictures
00:02:36.340 of my cats. Like literally, I made in the top 10% doing that. Nice. Nice. Okay. I, the
00:02:44.680 whatever actually has an OnlyFans too, OnlyFans.com slash whatever. And it features Kiki. So maybe
00:02:49.260 we could get a collaboration going with, with Kiki and your cats, do a little OnlyFans collaboration.
00:02:54.160 Yeah. Well, one of them passed away. So it'll just be. Oh, rip. Okay. RIPs in the chat
00:02:59.500 for Brittany's cat. Yeah. RIPs in the chat. And age, please. I'm in my 20s. So 30? I'm
00:03:11.520 37. You're not 37. Come on. Okay. 38. But what's your actual age? I'm in my 20s. 20, 21,
00:03:22.200 29. 20 enough. 20 enough? Isn't it? Hold on. Is it? Can I Google this? Let me see. Brittany
00:03:29.060 Venti. Brittany Venti age. 26 years old. Oh, you're, you're born on Valentine's Day.
00:03:37.220 Apparently. According to the internet, it could be wrong. The internet's always correct.
00:03:40.640 Apparently I'm 26 and I'm born on Valentine's Day. Okay. I like that new ID.
00:03:43.920 30. Okay. So Brittany Venti is 30 years old. 36. 36, 37. What about you? I'm Sean. I run
00:03:55.380 a YouTube channel called Think Before You Sleep. I am in my 30s. 32. Like everything? Oh, and
00:04:06.900 just where, did you guys say where you're from? Location? Oh, I'm from New York, but I'm in
00:04:12.460 Texas now. Okay. So Brittany is in her 20s dating a 32 year old. So, oh no, but actually
00:04:19.760 no, you said you were 38. So she's actually older than me. Yeah. It's like a cougar kind
00:04:26.160 of. Yeah. Is 30, is late 30s cougar territory? Are you a cougar? Confirm or deny? Hold on.
00:04:33.880 There's a bug here. Nice. That was like some karate kid. Let me get you some chopsticks.
00:04:38.960 That was some karate kid shit. It was annoying. Did you actually get it? Yeah, I did. That was
00:04:42.540 fucking good. Yeah. Fucking reflexes. Okay. Good shit. Okay. I won't grill you guys too much on
00:04:48.060 that. Go ahead. Is it my turn? Yes. Okay. Can you hear me? Is it working? Bro, hello. Okay. Hello.
00:04:53.720 Hello. Okay. My name's Anna. I do YouTube. I am a freelance artist for AAA gaming and I own my own
00:05:00.800 business and I do cosplay and sell calendars on Indiegogo. Age? I am in my 20s. I do not
00:05:09.100 give out information that dox myself. Bro, you guys are dorks. Why don't you guys share
00:05:11.960 your age? Because I don't give out information that'll get me doxed. Why would your age get
00:05:17.360 you? Birth certificates. Birth certificates. What? There's all kinds of ways to talk. Yeah.
00:05:22.580 So, yeah. How about, but, okay. On my channel, I say I'm nine. That's an ongoing joke. That's
00:05:28.020 fucking weird. Okay. It's okay. I've never heard, I don't think giving your age would. It does
00:05:35.800 because then they would know what year you're born and then they can verify information on
00:05:39.920 you. Everyone's birth certificate is public. So if anyone just pays the fee, they can look
00:05:44.420 it up. This is now an internet safety class. I know. So, yeah. Just stuff like that. Don't
00:05:49.420 give out. But, I mean, couldn't you argue, for example, like A-list celebrities are very
00:05:56.980 much, could potentially be subject to doxing yet it's public information. They have security
00:06:04.240 though. Do they? I swear to God, J-Lo turned 35 like three years in a row. So, it seems like
00:06:11.100 some of them are less. She's 36 now. Yeah. 37. But isn't some of this stuff public information?
00:06:19.260 It is. Right. Well, no. I mean, your birth dates is, isn't it like out there? It might
00:06:27.180 be. A lot of things are out there. Are you doxing us live on air? How is it doxing if it's
00:06:31.680 screen share? Oh, shit. Okay. All right. I mean, it's already publicly available, isn't it?
00:06:38.960 I don't think so. No one's gotten it right yet. You said your name's Ann? No, Anna.
00:06:46.920 I mean, you're 14. 28? No.
00:06:53.100 The reason I push back on the age refusal is... You need to know how many eggs we have left.
00:06:59.520 Oh, that thing? No, no. I'm in my 20s. But it's just like, okay, if you're not prepared
00:07:04.420 to share your age, what... Well, I mean, I'll share other things, but I just don't want
00:07:09.140 something that'll get me doxed. But, I mean, wouldn't... I've never heard of someone getting
00:07:18.780 doxed because you know their age. It's a thing. Just stay off of Kiwi for them. Wait, didn't
00:07:24.860 Destiny's wife not say her age, though, when she was on here? I don't recall. I'm pretty
00:07:30.380 sure. Maybe someone could, like... But she's in... Isn't she under immigration process or
00:07:35.220 something? Because I know that it can... If it gets out there... If what gets out there?
00:07:43.360 That if that information gets out there, you're undergoing immigration, let's say somebody decides
00:07:48.240 to, like, steal that identity somehow is just because you're going through the immigration
00:07:53.320 process. Like her getting doxed? Or identity stolen for immigration purposes.
00:07:58.720 Yeah. I mean, getting your information out there always has that risk in general, too.
00:08:02.180 I know because I immigrated here, so that was my main concern was that, oh, like, if somebody
00:08:07.460 would steal that, that's an expensive green card, you know, so... I don't mean to sound stupid,
00:08:13.080 but what is dox? What is that slang for? Like somebody gives out all your personal information,
00:08:17.200 so it's, like, your social, where you live, your phone number, everything about you.
00:08:21.600 Like your real identity. Oh! Yeah, so if you know what, like, swatting is, so, like, somebody
00:08:25.840 will call the cops and they'll be like, oh, this person at this address is going to do
00:08:29.560 this thing and the cops show up and... And they arrest your ass. No, like, so it's... People's
00:08:36.000 dogs have gotten killed because the cops think that something's going, so they'll just break
00:08:39.020 into your house and try to stop whatever's bad happening. People do bad things, so I just try
00:08:44.120 to avoid it. So why do we have a second amendment? I'm sorry, did I irritate you all?
00:08:47.060 Depending on the state, apparently. A little bit, but if... I'm sorry. I am just letting
00:08:51.880 you guys know if, like, there's any, like, it is a little... I'm not sure if I buy the
00:08:58.320 I don't want to be doxed thing because I don't think simply by virtue of stating an age, not,
00:09:08.220 you know, I don't think because, you know, you just go 91, 92, 93, 94, 95, 96. It's such a small metric
00:09:16.700 that someone could just, like... Yeah, but, like, using that logic, we shouldn't put locks
00:09:20.720 on our doors because they could just be broken, right? What? It's like a deterrent. It makes
00:09:26.660 it harder. It doesn't mean it'll stop people, but it does make it harder. Yeah, anti-dox is more about making
00:09:30.020 things harder. I suppose, but I question if that's the genuine reason. No, it is. So I already had to move
00:09:39.980 because of problems, so I just don't want to go through all that again. Okay, fair enough. I'll let
00:09:47.040 it slide, but it, it, my, my hesitation with this is because when, when people are so unwilling to
00:09:53.640 share such a basic biographical information... Well, you saw, you saw our... Well, you saw our...
00:09:57.000 ...information... Oh, no, I'm sorry. Benny Chan donated $99. These no-age beaches are annoying as hell.
00:10:04.980 P.S. Maddie is bae. Always have her on Brian. My, my, yo, uh, Benny Chan, thank you, man.
00:10:12.700 My concern is just if you're so unprepared to just provide, like, a basic biographical
00:10:17.600 information, a piece of information about you, are you going to be, like, having a good
00:10:22.340 faith conversation with us and, like, being willing to share other, you know, engage in
00:10:26.860 the dating-related conversation. I will, just don't ask me, like, my address. Well, you saw our IDs
00:10:30.140 before the show, though. Well, you guys showed me your Costco cards or whatever the fuck.
00:10:34.220 I should be, like, on the ID. Here, okay, here, I'll do something. Ask me a very personal
00:10:39.140 question, I'll answer it. No, we're going to move on. Go ahead. What about you?
00:10:42.700 Hi, I'm Lana. I'm 39. Thank you very much for disclosing your age. Much appreciated.
00:10:49.960 You're welcome. I'm an accountant. I am also a mom. And last but not least, I do OnlyFans.
00:10:57.600 Okay. So, an accountant. As an accountant. Both types of accountant. Go ahead. What about you?
00:11:04.960 My name is Jasmine Jafar. I am 28, and I am an OnlyFans creator as well as a licensed attorney.
00:11:11.360 Licensed attorney. Okay. Rock and roll. Thank you for sharing your age. What about you?
00:11:18.520 Guess who's back in the motherfucking house? Byronique Barbie! How y'all doing?
00:11:24.700 Let's fucking go.
00:11:26.020 I'm blessed to be in my dirty 30s. I am 33 for about two more months, okay? I am a stand-up comedian. I am a social media content creator. And I am possibly in training to be a school bus driver with a little badass kid. So, what's up?
00:11:44.000 Shut up. Let's fucking go. Okay. All right. And you said you're two weeks away from 34?
00:11:52.600 Oh, no. Two months.
00:11:53.640 Oh, two months. I got two more months.
00:11:55.540 Yeah. It's all downhill at 34. Okay. What about you?
00:11:58.120 I'm Josie. I'm 27. I'm an unprofessional cyclist. I'm content creator, digital creator. I do computer stuff on the side. Cyber security. Yeah. Stuff like that.
00:12:11.160 Yeah. In your pre-show messages to us, you told us that you do some work for your social media OnlyFans assistant and the IT girl, and that you answer DMs on behalf of OnlyFans girls. Is that correct?
00:12:23.040 Yeah. And also for guys who have Tinder that kind of have a hard time to hit it with chicks. I've done that for like a few guys.
00:12:32.060 Like you get paid? You get paid for that?
00:12:33.520 Yeah. And I answer like DMs on OnlyFans for girls because they don't have time to do it. So, like I keep it interesting, you know, but I don't really feel like being in the front. I'm a little too, I'm a woman of God, as you see, so.
00:12:49.480 Yeah. Okay. And you two have OnlyFans. Do you have OnlyFans? Do you have OnlyFans? Do you have OnlyFans?
00:12:54.060 Oh, no.
00:12:54.500 No, no, no. Okay. So, question for you guys. Do you guys have someone who messages on your behalf?
00:13:00.600 No, I actually don't. So, I actually do all of it.
00:13:03.380 You do it all.
00:13:03.960 I'm not kidding.
00:13:04.680 But would you admit it if you did have somebody that messages on your behalf? Would you admit to that?
00:13:10.800 Probably not. But I, for me, it's really important to run my page in a way I feel good about and I feel it's ethical. So, I forego probably a lot of income by going through it myself.
00:13:20.460 Fair enough. What about you?
00:13:21.760 No, I definitely don't. I do it myself.
00:13:23.940 Okay. Yeah, I've definitely heard that there's a lot of girls who have OnlyFans who they have their own management.
00:13:29.560 And they'll have somebody typing messages.
00:13:32.920 It'll be a dude even. A guy will be messaging with a dude, sexting a dude.
00:13:36.740 Yeah, Andrew Tate did that.
00:13:37.380 Andrew Tate did that, exactly.
00:13:38.960 Yeah, I'm a musician as well. I've done a lot of computer work because I was immigrating here.
00:13:44.820 From where?
00:13:45.640 Yeah, Montreal.
00:13:47.360 A to Paul Francais?
00:13:48.180 Oui.
00:13:48.520 C'est bien ça?
00:13:49.080 Oui, Montreal.
00:13:50.740 Can we hear the Canadian National Anthem?
00:13:53.760 No.
00:13:54.340 Rip, okay.
00:13:54.980 This is America, Brian.
00:13:56.360 Okay.
00:13:56.700 Oh, okay.
00:13:57.700 Thank you.
00:13:58.040 Yeah, cool. What about you?
00:14:00.560 My name is Veronica. I'm 35 years old. I'm a student. And my major is occupational therapist. And I do modeling, like, photo shoots.
00:14:12.240 Okay.
00:14:13.020 And I help take care of my mom.
00:14:15.280 All right, got it. And what about you, Madison?
00:14:18.540 My name is Madison. I'm 18 years old. I'm from San Diego, California. I'm a student at Santa Barbara City College studying econ and accounting.
00:14:26.060 And I do the whatever podcast.
00:14:29.820 And I'm a host at a bar.
00:14:32.360 Rock and roll. Okay, cool.
00:14:34.200 By the way, we were going to have Sophia, who was on the show about two weeks ago.
00:14:38.440 So, she, at 6.50, we aimed to go live at 7.00. She said she was going to be here soon. She's messaging chat. So, I'm leaving this up to chat.
00:14:49.000 She messaged me just now at 7.15, saying she was here. Keep in mind, we ask people to be here at 6.00 p.m.
00:14:56.220 The show, we try to start the show at 7.00. Do we, do we go get her, chat? Or is it, I mean, because the table's full. We sat Madison down.
00:15:09.560 So, chat. Oh, Nick, is there, can you pull up the, by the way, we are going to do a burping contest later on. Be sure to stay tuned.
00:15:19.640 No, we're not. I'm absolutely not doing that. Okay, fair enough. It's just going to be them, too.
00:15:25.720 She wins by default, I guess.
00:15:28.940 Okay, Eric, or excuse me, Nick, can you pull up the pop-out chat? Do you know how to do that?
00:15:34.520 Yeah, if you can get that going.
00:15:36.380 While we wait for that, to see what the chat is saying, some people are saying, yes, it looks like.
00:15:41.580 Let me see.
00:15:42.300 Let's go around the table once more. So, if you can, please tell us what your current relationship status is.
00:15:50.980 Are you single? Are you in a relationship? Friends with benefits? Talking stage? Situationship? Relationship? Married?
00:15:58.280 If you are single, how long have you been single? Also, what's your longest relationship? Go ahead.
00:16:02.580 Oh, my God. It's so complicated.
00:16:03.880 Yeah, I know. There's a lot.
00:16:05.120 It really shouldn't be. We're in a relationship, Sean and I.
00:16:08.520 Okay.
00:16:09.700 She kind of answered for me.
00:16:10.820 She answered for you. How did you guys meet, by the way?
00:16:13.520 On the internet, like everybody else.
00:16:16.020 What's that?
00:16:16.640 On the internet, like everybody else.
00:16:18.420 Was it like, did you slide in the DMs or?
00:16:21.160 So, one of her viewers was a fan of mine.
00:16:25.700 Oh, sorry about that.
00:16:26.880 You're fine, you're fine.
00:16:27.860 Sent her a message and then she sent me a message on Patreon and then we ignored each other for months.
00:16:34.500 You had a hair.
00:16:34.880 Taking tics off me.
00:16:35.700 No, you had a hair in my mouth.
00:16:37.200 Okay.
00:16:37.420 And then she invited me on to a show and then two years later we went out.
00:16:45.520 Yeah.
00:16:45.800 I didn't know what he looked like for like, I think like a year and a half.
00:16:50.280 So, I just liked his content and messaged him and he came on my show.
00:16:54.120 Gotcha.
00:16:54.800 Okay.
00:16:55.100 How long have you guys been together?
00:16:58.580 Almost a year.
00:16:59.340 Yeah.
00:17:00.380 Okay.
00:17:01.580 Congrats.
00:17:02.460 Almost anniversary coming up.
00:17:03.980 Mm-hmm.
00:17:04.440 Good times, good times.
00:17:05.660 And by the way, guys, I think before you sleep, it's a very good channel.
00:17:10.160 Recommend you go check it out.
00:17:11.320 The link for that is in the description.
00:17:13.560 Hopefully, he doesn't do a hit piece on us after his appearance here.
00:17:16.480 But, yeah.
00:17:18.180 What?
00:17:18.380 What?
00:17:18.740 Huh?
00:17:19.060 I've already faced.
00:17:19.700 People think I haven't faced off.
00:17:20.960 So, I've done it like a bunch of times now.
00:17:22.140 As long as you just don't do it on your main channel, I already think so.
00:17:24.000 Well, yeah, no, you've done some live streams, I think, on your channel.
00:17:27.300 Yeah, like a lot.
00:17:28.220 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:17:29.120 But, very cool.
00:17:30.480 Okay, so, you guys met online.
00:17:33.600 Was it, well, you already went into it, so let's move on.
00:17:37.720 What about you?
00:17:38.460 I'm engaged.
00:17:39.740 Hey, okay.
00:17:41.160 Yeah, it's been like a month now of the engagement, but we were, and we just had our seven-year anniversary on July 3rd.
00:17:49.240 Oh, congrats.
00:17:49.980 Thank you.
00:17:51.060 Thank you.
00:17:53.580 Okay.
00:17:54.440 I'm currently single.
00:17:55.980 My longest relationship was seven years.
00:17:59.180 Were you married?
00:18:02.260 Not legally.
00:18:03.940 Not legally.
00:18:05.440 So, basically, like...
00:18:06.680 Was it a common law marriage, or...?
00:18:08.380 We had a child together.
00:18:10.760 Okay.
00:18:11.880 So...
00:18:12.680 You have just one kid?
00:18:14.020 Mm-hmm.
00:18:14.820 Okay.
00:18:15.860 Yeah.
00:18:16.060 So, when did you guys split up, or...
00:18:20.280 Yesterday?
00:18:22.540 No.
00:18:23.280 No, no, no.
00:18:24.080 So, I'm basically, like, widowed.
00:18:26.480 He passed away.
00:18:26.940 Oh, shit.
00:18:27.360 Sorry to hear that.
00:18:28.040 Yeah.
00:18:28.480 Last year.
00:18:29.080 So, I'm sorry.
00:18:29.820 Okay.
00:18:31.760 And you have...
00:18:32.580 How old's your kid?
00:18:34.340 She's five.
00:18:35.240 Five years old?
00:18:35.840 Yeah.
00:18:36.020 Okay.
00:18:36.420 Cool, cool.
00:18:36.760 And then, have you been dating at all since he passed, or not still kind of getting over
00:18:44.940 things, or...?
00:18:45.440 Not really.
00:18:46.180 Like, I recently tried, and, I don't know, like, you know, make a little content with
00:18:57.160 an old, you know, friend of mine, but other than that, mm-mm.
00:19:01.660 Okay.
00:19:02.380 What about you?
00:19:03.460 I am single, and my longest relationship is about four years.
00:19:07.740 Okay.
00:19:08.400 Four years.
00:19:10.440 How long have you been single?
00:19:12.400 Two and a half years.
00:19:13.880 Two and a half years.
00:19:15.360 When did you start your OnlyFans?
00:19:19.020 2021?
00:19:20.340 I want to say, like, June or July.
00:19:22.880 Probably June.
00:19:24.000 So, it's been about two years.
00:19:25.460 Were you still dating the guy when you had started your...
00:19:28.000 No.
00:19:28.400 We broke up, like, November of 2020, so...
00:19:31.360 And then, and you started your OnlyFans in December?
00:19:34.840 No.
00:19:35.360 June of 2021.
00:19:37.180 Ah, okay.
00:19:37.880 Yeah.
00:19:38.340 So...
00:19:38.660 Sure, sure.
00:19:39.200 Before I took the bar exam.
00:19:40.800 Before you took...
00:19:41.400 And you passed the bar?
00:19:42.340 Yeah.
00:19:42.740 Okay.
00:19:43.720 Here in California?
00:19:44.460 No, I don't want to say what state, just for privacy reasons, but...
00:19:47.940 Sure.
00:19:49.280 Okay.
00:19:50.420 And so, do you think, has having started OnlyFans, has that had any negative impacts when it comes
00:19:58.120 to finding a potential partner?
00:20:00.220 Not at all.
00:20:01.220 Nothing?
00:20:01.760 Nothing.
00:20:02.400 No negative...
00:20:03.240 Nothing.
00:20:03.720 Because, yeah, just the kind of guys I like wouldn't have a problem with it.
00:20:07.420 The kind of guys you like wouldn't have a problem with it.
00:20:09.100 No.
00:20:09.600 Any guy that I would have dated before...
00:20:11.280 So, two years ago, I didn't even have an Instagram, nothing.
00:20:13.980 Okay.
00:20:14.200 And I wouldn't have dated any guy at that point that would have had a problem with me having
00:20:18.700 an OnlyFans, so...
00:20:20.200 Okay.
00:20:21.520 Yeah.
00:20:22.180 Got it.
00:20:24.340 What about you?
00:20:25.240 Well, y'all, I'm still single as a motherfucking Pringle, but you know what?
00:20:29.620 I just met a real sexy, sexy French slash Mexican nigga this past week, you feel me?
00:20:36.820 So, I'm hoping that'll go somewhere, baby.
00:20:39.540 Y'all pray for me.
00:20:40.480 You guys are talking?
00:20:44.020 Yeah.
00:20:44.600 Or, wait, how long?
00:20:45.820 How long?
00:20:46.120 Well, we just met on Tuesday.
00:20:48.440 Oh, nice.
00:20:49.660 Well, I hope it goes well.
00:20:50.400 We're supposed to have our first little date on Friday, but he gonna come to my comedy show
00:20:55.440 this Wednesday, and then we gonna go on a date Friday, so I'm looking forward to this
00:20:59.960 week, y'all.
00:21:00.620 Best of luck.
00:21:01.520 Thank you.
00:21:03.800 What kind of date?
00:21:04.960 Yeah, where are you going?
00:21:06.160 Well, of course, we gotta eat, because y'all see a bitch, I love to eat.
00:21:09.400 So, we definitely go to eat, and then after that, you know, I don't know, it's a surprise.
00:21:15.340 I told him I like spontaneous shit.
00:21:18.380 Spontaneous.
00:21:19.160 So, surprise me.
00:21:21.080 But we gonna eat.
00:21:22.320 That's first on the list.
00:21:23.520 You better believe that.
00:21:24.300 It's like, surprise me, but don't F up, you know?
00:21:26.120 Yeah, yeah.
00:21:28.660 But we gonna eat.
00:21:31.080 Yeah, you?
00:21:33.100 My God, I don't know if I'm divorced yet, but divorce was married.
00:21:39.400 Longest relationship, six, seven years.
00:21:44.180 Currently in a relationship, yeah, taken for two years.
00:21:50.780 Was your marriage your longest relationship?
00:21:53.760 Yeah.
00:21:56.040 Yeah, divorce is not fun for both parties.
00:22:01.420 Brian?
00:22:02.420 What?
00:22:03.580 Yeah, you say all the time that women have everything to gain out of a divorce.
00:22:10.040 But if you want to talk about it after we can, I can share my experience.
00:22:13.620 She thinks she's getting divorced.
00:22:16.000 Okay, well, I kind of missed, sorry, I was dealing with some fucking shit here.
00:22:20.640 Which is, I said that I'm divorced, I've just gone through it.
00:22:25.260 Divorce, I don't even know if it's finalized or not, but.
00:22:29.600 But, okay, you brought up that I've kind of not been in favor of marriage.
00:22:34.420 Yeah.
00:22:34.580 And one of the reasons I think that is because, generally speaking, the negative consequences of divorce tend to disproportionately impact men.
00:22:46.240 But, so, in your case, it negatively impacted you in so far as.
00:22:51.720 I just want to say, I agree, I agree.
00:22:52.860 Were you the breadwinner?
00:22:54.480 I agree with you with the marriage.
00:22:57.460 I don't think that it's the worst that can happen to you between a divorce or having a child by accident.
00:23:06.600 I would say you should be a lot more afraid of having a chick pregnant by accident.
00:23:11.900 And there are chicks out there that will tell you I'm on birth control just to have a baby because the biological clock is.
00:23:19.320 It's true.
00:23:20.240 It happened to two of my friends.
00:23:21.560 So, and trust me, between all the people that I know that I've gone through a divorce versus the people that have to pay child support out of nowhere without being ready for it,
00:23:33.340 the ones who have had children are a lot in hot water compared to the ones that are just divorced without children.
00:23:43.100 My God, sorry, I stutter.
00:23:44.820 So, you're current, but you said you're currently going through a divorce, correct?
00:23:47.820 I don't even know if I'm divorced yet.
00:23:49.560 I just didn't really look into it.
00:23:50.760 Like, I'm in a new relationship right now.
00:23:52.360 It's doing really good.
00:23:53.380 Who initiated the divorce?
00:23:54.460 You or the guy?
00:23:56.260 Him.
00:23:57.160 So, you were served divorce papers?
00:23:59.300 Yes.
00:23:59.840 Okay.
00:24:00.500 Who was the breadwinner in that relationship?
00:24:03.160 Him.
00:24:03.620 Okay.
00:24:04.040 Did he pay for your attorney's fees?
00:24:05.860 We just had one attorney's.
00:24:07.140 We just did a mediation with one attorney.
00:24:09.380 I'm not, my parents didn't raise me to be a bitch.
00:24:15.840 Your parents.
00:24:18.300 So, you mean, like, to go after, how long were you married again?
00:24:21.100 Seven?
00:24:21.340 Seven.
00:24:22.220 Okay.
00:24:22.600 So, like, you're talking about alimony.
00:24:24.420 I don't like how a woman kind of tried to destroy guys going through a divorce.
00:24:31.580 Like, where I'm from, it's more...
00:24:33.660 In Canada?
00:24:34.820 It's brutal in Canada.
00:24:36.160 No, Montreal is Quebec.
00:24:37.680 Quebec is not Canada, Brian.
00:24:39.880 Well, it isn't...
00:24:40.780 It quite literally is Canada, but...
00:24:43.340 Oh, the chat is going to get fired up.
00:24:46.000 I'm not aware of the...
00:24:47.060 I'm waiting for the chat right now, sorry.
00:24:48.760 I'm not aware of, like, the beef that Montreal or whatever has with the rest of Canada.
00:24:53.940 Is there, like, a...
00:24:55.580 What is it?
00:24:56.160 Secession?
00:24:56.680 What is it?
00:24:57.620 Are they trying to secede from Canada?
00:24:59.140 Are you sure you want to go down that road?
00:25:00.800 Yeah, let's...
00:25:00.880 Fuck it.
00:25:01.220 Let's talk about secession in Canada.
00:25:02.780 Oh, God.
00:25:03.060 The independence of Quebec versus the ones that want to be, like, Canada.
00:25:09.700 There's Team Quebec and there's Team Canada, okay?
00:25:12.340 Then...
00:25:13.060 I'm not impressed by your performance.
00:25:15.240 Okay.
00:25:16.060 This is America.
00:25:17.320 Like, what are we talking about?
00:25:20.300 No, but you mentioned that...
00:25:22.180 Well, okay.
00:25:22.700 In any case, so you're in a two-year relationship, correct?
00:25:24.940 Yeah.
00:25:25.440 Okay.
00:25:26.140 Two years.
00:25:27.380 All right.
00:25:28.600 Got it.
00:25:29.940 Cool.
00:25:30.880 What about you?
00:25:31.380 Um, I'm single.
00:25:33.080 I was dating someone, but they recently stopped talking to me.
00:25:37.380 Um, and yeah, my relationships never really last.
00:25:41.100 They only last, like, three months, and that's it.
00:25:44.200 Oh, I'm sorry.
00:25:45.980 I'm sorry.
00:25:46.820 Oh, yeah.
00:25:47.640 I don't know.
00:25:48.400 You too?
00:25:49.260 90-day.
00:25:50.120 That 90-day probation period.
00:25:52.700 Babies like a job.
00:25:54.600 They came back.
00:25:55.760 That's why they have 90-day fiancé, probably.
00:25:57.860 Right, right.
00:25:58.820 Uh-huh.
00:26:00.500 All right.
00:26:01.620 Got it.
00:26:02.260 Sorry, guys.
00:26:02.780 I'm trying to fucking...
00:26:03.560 We got a person who's late who wants to still come and be on the show, so I'm texting on
00:26:07.820 my phone trying to coordinate with them.
00:26:10.040 Let her man.
00:26:12.040 They want her.
00:26:12.900 I don't know, bro.
00:26:14.000 What?
00:26:14.200 Is that what the chat's saying?
00:26:15.040 I think they want her.
00:26:16.060 Let her man.
00:26:16.480 They were talking about her, at least earlier.
00:26:18.760 All right.
00:26:19.120 Yeah.
00:26:19.380 I might send...
00:26:20.920 I might send...
00:26:22.660 Nick, if you want.
00:26:24.460 Let me just see if she's still fucking here.
00:26:26.540 Actually, yeah, Maddie, if you can go.
00:26:27.880 I'll go.
00:26:27.900 Do you have the access thing?
00:26:29.640 I'll get it.
00:26:30.160 See, if you wanted to maximize your craft, you would have had chat donate for her to...
00:26:33.920 Right.
00:26:34.540 Yeah.
00:26:36.320 They would have.
00:26:36.920 I don't know if they want her that bad.
00:26:38.400 They would have.
00:26:38.860 No, yeah, they would have, I feel.
00:26:40.400 Yeah, if you want to...
00:26:43.340 She's going to have to sit in the back, though.
00:26:45.060 No, Mike.
00:26:45.600 I mean...
00:26:46.740 Do you want...
00:26:47.620 You could just...
00:26:48.640 Swap her at the doll.
00:26:49.580 Swap her at the doll.
00:26:50.580 Huh?
00:26:50.880 No, she'll be in this...
00:26:52.080 She'll be fucking just sitting behind us.
00:26:53.800 Like, I don't know if it's even worth it.
00:26:55.800 I don't know.
00:26:56.440 Didn't she drive from Bakersfield?
00:26:58.720 Oh.
00:26:59.160 Yeah.
00:26:59.560 Oh.
00:26:59.960 And see, that depends where she came from.
00:27:01.940 If she would have came from out here, I would have said, no, leave her ass outside.
00:27:05.620 Just let her sit.
00:27:06.800 It's a long drive home.
00:27:07.340 But if she came...
00:27:08.060 Yeah.
00:27:08.440 If she came far...
00:27:09.900 What's the equivalent of Bakersfield?
00:27:11.380 Because I keep hearing Californians shit on it.
00:27:13.740 So...
00:27:14.140 Like, is that like the Bronx in New York or...
00:27:16.480 Basically.
00:27:17.360 Okay.
00:27:18.200 It's just like a nowhere...
00:27:18.940 It's to get out?
00:27:19.940 There's nothing in Bakersfield.
00:27:21.780 Right.
00:27:22.020 Yeah, there's just like...
00:27:22.500 Besides a train.
00:27:23.040 It's like middle-of-nowhere jack shit to do.
00:27:26.060 And nothing.
00:27:27.260 Do you want me to get her or no?
00:27:28.680 She needs some excitement in her life living in Bakersfield.
00:27:32.820 That's fucked up.
00:27:33.560 I feel bad if we like just make her go back home.
00:27:35.800 Should we vote?
00:27:36.640 Yeah, let's vote.
00:27:37.420 Yeah.
00:27:38.300 Keep in mind, she's been on the show before.
00:27:41.000 She was late for that show.
00:27:42.400 But was she good?
00:27:43.200 Six...
00:27:43.840 Was she good?
00:27:44.680 Yeah.
00:27:44.840 You mean like content?
00:27:45.560 People like her.
00:27:47.580 Well, we don't have a microphone to give her really.
00:27:50.240 She and...
00:27:52.240 I'm trying to think.
00:27:53.940 You have a dunce hat to sit in the corner and put her a dunce hat on?
00:27:55.720 Well, yeah.
00:27:56.080 I think she faces into the corner or something.
00:27:58.460 But look, we told her, hey, be here at 6 p.m.
00:28:01.660 She texts me at 7.15 saying she's here.
00:28:04.980 Like...
00:28:05.140 That's on you.
00:28:07.420 She didn't warn you?
00:28:08.360 She was late?
00:28:08.880 She didn't warn you?
00:28:09.420 She told me at 6.50 I'm almost there.
00:28:11.820 Oh, okay.
00:28:12.680 All of you showed up at like 6 pretty much.
00:28:15.460 Except for, you know.
00:28:18.440 But let me...
00:28:19.560 I'll see.
00:28:20.540 Wait for chat to donate then.
00:28:22.240 Yeah, let us super chat this side.
00:28:24.180 Yeah.
00:28:25.520 I mean, that wouldn't be the deciding factor, but...
00:28:28.340 What is the deciding factor?
00:28:30.160 The whatever verse they bring Sophia.
00:28:32.280 Yo, James.
00:28:32.780 Is that her name?
00:28:33.500 Would you date a Where's My Hug Son?
00:28:36.040 Also, think before you sleep.
00:28:37.600 I binged your content a while back.
00:28:40.300 It's fantastic.
00:28:41.420 Thanks.
00:28:41.820 Hey, James.
00:28:42.560 Thanks for the donation there.
00:28:44.860 Yeah.
00:28:45.240 Glad you enjoy this content.
00:28:47.080 Sorry, guys.
00:28:47.780 I'm trying to get this figured out.
00:28:49.680 Madison, why don't you ask the panel a question?
00:28:51.140 Because I know you're dying to.
00:28:52.560 I wanted to know what kind of content you made.
00:28:54.940 Or like, what do you do?
00:28:56.920 I started out with manosphere content.
00:28:58.760 Then I changed to anti-woke content.
00:29:00.880 Oh, nice.
00:29:02.060 Did you used to consider yourself MGTOW?
00:29:04.740 Yeah.
00:29:05.720 Okay.
00:29:06.160 Not like anymore?
00:29:08.400 I mean, looking at facts, data, and stuff like that, it seems like a lot of it, as I
00:29:14.200 forget who was saying it, but divorce seems to suck for both sides.
00:29:16.720 It just seems like vet your partners properly.
00:29:18.800 Things like COVID, like, kind of say, like, well, if, if, hmm, that's all I'm saying on
00:29:27.340 the podcast.
00:29:29.000 Let me just say, like, there were a lot of laws that were ignored after a certain time
00:29:33.840 period.
00:29:34.520 And so it's like, if laws can be ignored there, then laws don't really matter.
00:29:37.260 It's really just culture that matters.
00:29:38.420 So that changed my perspective on that quite a bit.
00:29:40.740 And so I started moving away from that and just focusing on culture.
00:29:43.220 Or, and so that basically was it.
00:29:48.500 Okay.
00:29:49.240 Gotcha.
00:29:49.720 But yes, yeah, I mean, it was technically the shorter part of my time as a content creator.
00:29:53.900 That was, like, three years ago.
00:29:55.560 And did you previously consider yourself as MGTOW?
00:29:58.540 Yeah.
00:29:59.120 Okay.
00:29:59.700 But I know that that can range in terms of how that sort of manifests itself.
00:30:04.100 That could be anywhere from someone who's, like, completely just will not even, like,
00:30:09.020 be friends with women all the way to.
00:30:11.060 Not that far.
00:30:11.520 A guy who will, like, hook up with women, but, you know, they won't cohabitate and they
00:30:16.160 won't have, like, long-term relationships or get married to women.
00:30:20.880 So, like, where would you say, when you were MGTOW, where did you fall?
00:30:24.520 I kind of just focused on my career and just focused on myself.
00:30:26.840 Okay.
00:30:27.160 So you weren't really, like, dating or anything?
00:30:28.700 Not really, no.
00:30:29.320 Gotcha.
00:30:29.800 Okay.
00:30:30.960 Cool.
00:30:32.140 Anything else, Madison, for the table while I deal with this Sophia situation?
00:30:36.300 Yeah.
00:30:37.020 How many of you were single?
00:30:38.120 Well, I feel like you don't really count.
00:30:42.640 You're, like, you're, like, you're, like, talking to someone.
00:30:45.320 Oh, okay.
00:30:47.380 I can put my hand in.
00:30:48.860 Yeah, what's the sitch?
00:30:49.560 I'm saying I'm single.
00:30:50.540 I mean, she said single.
00:30:52.120 Single me single.
00:30:53.560 Yeah, I guess.
00:30:54.120 Madison, can you go grab her?
00:30:55.480 Yeah.
00:30:57.680 I'll be back.
00:30:58.440 And then if you could set her, set up her chair for, yeah, she's going to be in the back.
00:31:04.440 I guess you can kick it silently.
00:31:07.560 That's what it's going to be.
00:31:08.780 That's what, if she wants to leave, she can, but we can't, it's hard for us to accommodate
00:31:13.240 somebody that's almost an hour and a half late.
00:31:15.840 Right.
00:31:16.340 Yeah, you know.
00:31:17.760 Why do you let her in?
00:31:19.640 Because they want her.
00:31:20.540 Yo, Brandon, good to see you in the chat, man.
00:31:30.840 Much appreciated.
00:31:31.440 Thank you.
00:31:32.320 Hey, Nick, can you boost the audio?
00:31:33.840 I think it's a bit low.
00:31:34.520 Can you make sure it's at 80?
00:31:35.920 Do you know how to do that?
00:31:38.080 Yeah, yeah, perfect.
00:31:38.980 Thank you, man.
00:31:39.880 Sorry, guys.
00:31:40.540 A little clusterfuck here because fucking situation.
00:31:43.000 This question has been looming over my head.
00:31:44.760 Can I ask it?
00:31:45.600 Sure.
00:31:45.800 So earlier, the topic of someone else managing OnlyFans came up.
00:31:50.540 And I think you said that you wanted it to be ethical.
00:31:54.880 Yeah.
00:31:55.000 Is that what you meant, that somebody else managing it, in your opinion, wouldn't be ethical?
00:31:58.660 If somebody is speaking to people as you, I don't think that's ethical.
00:32:03.060 I think that's because somebody's pretending to be you and someone's paying to talk to you
00:32:07.400 and they're talking to someone else.
00:32:08.660 And as somebody who does that, I would also agree that it's not ethical, but I don't care.
00:32:12.760 I like money, so.
00:32:13.820 You're lying.
00:32:15.060 You're having someone else pretend to be you and this person thinks they're talking to you.
00:32:19.080 You think that's ethical?
00:32:21.040 Yeah, but they donate with the assumption of, like, that they will be able to talk to
00:32:27.580 you, get with you, things like that.
00:32:28.940 Because that's how a lot of guys are, like, even if you give a hundred disclaimers, right?
00:32:33.500 I make sure not to facilitate parasocial relationships.
00:32:36.500 So I don't offer a girlfriend experience.
00:32:38.460 I don't do any of that.
00:32:39.460 I have a limit on how much content you can buy.
00:32:41.380 If somebody messages me multiple times, I'm like, hey, this is unhealthy.
00:32:44.580 This is erratic.
00:32:45.120 They do it anyway, to be honest.
00:32:47.200 I don't have a lot of that.
00:32:48.340 And I have a lot of fans.
00:32:49.660 The DMs can get pretty toxic, but that's what I'm here for.
00:32:52.780 I think I weed them out.
00:32:53.700 How bad is it?
00:32:54.360 Like, what are you seeing as someone who manages that?
00:32:57.680 Oh, my God.
00:32:58.420 Okay, let's say, sorry, I'm, like, thinking TOS right now.
00:33:04.420 So, like, I don't even know if, okay.
00:33:08.440 Like, the amount of guys that cheat on their wife like that, it's sad.
00:33:15.460 They have kids or, like, I'm spending, like, my kids' Christmas gifts on you right now.
00:33:23.980 What the, are you not answering stuff like that?
00:33:26.680 It's, like, I can see that somebody who hasn't been used to see comments like that on social media
00:33:33.600 or, like, just started on OnlyFans, it's hard.
00:33:36.420 It's a lot.
00:33:37.200 Especially as a woman, right, like, reading that and seeing, like, husbands cheating and everything.
00:33:40.960 I would say most of them don't really have, like, a father figure around.
00:33:45.400 So, I would say that it's pretty traumatizing to think that there are men like that in the world to me.
00:33:50.420 Like, I have two amazing parents that are still together, a good father figure.
00:33:54.280 Like, my mom, she was in California.
00:33:56.980 Like, she stayed at my house, like, last month.
00:34:00.260 So, it's, for me, I know they're just jerks.
00:34:04.360 Like, sorry.
00:34:05.180 Like, I know, and I'm just, like, what the heck.
00:34:08.720 But, you know, for people who don't have a father figure, it hits harder psychologically.
00:34:17.500 Are you talking about the women on OnlyFans?
00:34:19.100 Yeah.
00:34:20.280 To have, like, men say certain things and they just don't necessarily, some of them just don't, how could I explain that?
00:34:30.140 So, you're saying because of that?
00:34:30.760 It just hits them different.
00:34:31.920 I don't know.
00:34:32.280 I don't really know how to explain it.
00:34:33.940 It's just, it's sad.
00:34:36.240 So, you're saying that's where you come in to talk to those men on their behalf because they don't feel comfortable?
00:34:41.000 No, because they want to save time.
00:34:42.880 Let's be honest here.
00:34:43.600 Yeah, no, I understand that, but that's, I didn't know the relevance of the father figure.
00:34:46.360 Just because I'm, I guess I'm good at handling it, like, back and forth.
00:34:50.340 I just run into the same circle.
00:34:52.800 They're happy.
00:34:54.420 She's happy.
00:34:55.320 I'm happy.
00:34:56.360 So, like, yeah.
00:34:57.680 Do they ever just reject their purchases if they're, like, I'm spending my kids' college fund on this or?
00:35:03.260 401ks, wife's savings, mom's savings, college kid's savings.
00:35:08.280 Yeah, I've seen it.
00:35:10.260 Meet me or my kids' life is in jail party.
00:35:15.780 That's super unethical overall.
00:35:17.900 They do a lot of mental manipulation to try to get stuff, and I'm just like, meh.
00:35:24.100 Do you see that?
00:35:25.100 I don't see that.
00:35:25.280 I would say it's the other way around.
00:35:26.500 I would say the people who are chatting to these men, they're manipulating the men.
00:35:30.920 Yeah, they're manipulating emotions, especially by pretending to be somebody they're not.
00:35:33.540 Oh, yeah, it's totally mutual.
00:35:34.700 I mean, I wouldn't say that there's no, like, manipulation coming from the women's side.
00:35:38.680 I mean, if anything, it's a lot coming from the women's side.
00:35:41.860 That's the whole business model, you know?
00:35:44.380 I'm just saying it's not very.
00:35:46.660 And there are a lot of guys that aren't doing that.
00:35:48.980 Oh, yeah, definitely.
00:35:49.880 Great people on there, yeah.
00:35:51.460 No, some of them are not.
00:35:52.680 There's a lot of couples on there together.
00:35:53.660 I would imagine it's hard to have, like, a healthy relationship and then also, like,
00:35:58.000 pursue that sort of girlfriend simulator relationship with someone for the men that do do that.
00:36:03.720 Some of the girlfriends find us for their boyfriends.
00:36:07.540 Like, some girls are, like, into it.
00:36:09.560 So I have a lot of couples that watch me together or, like, a guy who's girlfriend.
00:36:13.200 Oh, yeah, there's definitely some cuck queens out there and such.
00:36:16.200 Wait, were you asking?
00:36:17.080 I don't know what a cuck queen is.
00:36:18.540 Compromising my relationship because I was in it?
00:36:20.560 No, no, no.
00:36:20.640 Okay, okay.
00:36:21.040 I was asking.
00:36:21.480 I was saying, rather, the people that are purchasing it, it must be hard for them to
00:36:29.060 maintain a happy relationship.
00:36:32.200 Unless it's, like, a cuck queen type of thing.
00:36:34.800 But people who are going to be in.
00:36:36.140 It's like what he defines a relationship, right?
00:36:37.480 People who are going to be disloyal are going to find a way to do it without OnlyFans ever
00:36:42.680 existing.
00:36:43.740 I mean, the boundaries of a relationship are determined by the two people in the relationship.
00:36:48.280 Anything online makes it easier.
00:36:49.480 Yeah, Instagram makes it easier.
00:36:52.140 If a man provides enough, he can get away with a lot.
00:36:55.980 No, hey, man.
00:36:57.440 Maybe not for you, but, you know.
00:36:59.040 No, that's true.
00:36:59.700 I've seen that happen.
00:37:01.220 I've seen relationships where the man is married and the wife knows that he has, like, another
00:37:05.360 mistress that he fully takes care of.
00:37:07.500 I'd say, if she knows it's wrong, it's 2023, relationships are coming all different.
00:37:12.720 No, no, if she knows, I'm sorry, it's wrong.
00:37:14.560 If she knows, it's wrong.
00:37:16.160 Just at least be classy.
00:37:17.240 From the beginning of time.
00:37:18.240 Like, don't ask, don't tell, you know.
00:37:20.660 You think if the girl knows it's wrong?
00:37:21.960 Seems kind of toxic.
00:37:23.080 No, I mean, personally, like, if my boyfriend was to just go and, like, you know, get with
00:37:29.540 some random chick, he doesn't even remember her name.
00:37:32.280 I'm like, you know what?
00:37:33.480 That's on you.
00:37:34.220 I don't want to know.
00:37:35.120 Don't tell me.
00:37:35.680 It's going to hurt me.
00:37:36.520 And at the end of the day, I know, I grew up around guys.
00:37:40.280 I kind of understand how a man's brain is wired.
00:37:45.920 It's not like women cheating.
00:37:47.820 Women cheating versus men cheating is two completely different things.
00:37:52.580 I think that's used too much as a pass, though, because what if women were like, yeah, sorry,
00:37:57.760 babe, I cheated on you.
00:37:59.800 Why did he say sorry, I cheated on you?
00:38:01.280 Wait, wait, hold on, hold on.
00:38:01.840 But, babe, I cheated on you.
00:38:03.700 He had more money.
00:38:04.540 And you know, as a woman, I biologically have to go for resources.
00:38:08.020 So...
00:38:08.220 Well, go ahead.
00:38:08.800 Bye.
00:38:09.380 Bye, bitch.
00:38:09.800 But it doesn't get a pass in the same way.
00:38:12.400 I don't think either are acceptable.
00:38:14.120 I'm a little bit of a romantic.
00:38:15.900 I wish that we could bring back more romance and relationships.
00:38:18.280 Honestly, if it would just not tell you and you would not find out somehow, like, I don't
00:38:25.860 want to know and I don't want to find out.
00:38:27.960 Like, the I don't want to find out part, that's what's important.
00:38:32.180 Make sure I don't find out.
00:38:33.580 It means make sure you don't get her pregnant.
00:38:36.400 Make sure you don't come back with an STI, stuff like that, you know?
00:38:40.160 But surely it'll manifest in some other way.
00:38:41.820 Like, typically, if you're an addict to one thing, you're probably an addict to multiple
00:38:45.380 things and things like that.
00:38:46.400 So it's like, it's, you may be thinking, it's like this, there's this direction over here
00:38:49.840 where this person's going that you don't want to know about, but it's probably manifesting
00:38:52.580 other ways that are affecting you.
00:38:54.520 Personally, I would certainly want to know about that.
00:38:56.040 No, I, I, honestly, I, I don't know.
00:38:58.080 I'm not a guy.
00:38:58.660 I haven't been one in a while, so.
00:39:00.900 Wait.
00:39:01.600 I, I, I couldn't say, but.
00:39:04.320 You used to be a man.
00:39:06.040 That's a joke, Brian.
00:39:07.080 Oh, okay.
00:39:07.960 Sorry.
00:39:08.560 Just wanted, hey, it's 2023.
00:39:09.920 You never know.
00:39:10.280 You never know.
00:39:10.300 Be careful these days.
00:39:11.920 It's not a given anymore.
00:39:14.140 Well, let's, let's move on.
00:39:15.620 Brittany, just one thing.
00:39:16.700 You said, you mentioned that you think people should try to reintroduce some romance into.
00:39:23.020 Yeah, I think it's been sucked out of the life of everyone.
00:39:25.860 This whole thing of the terminal men versus women war has just sucked the romance at everything
00:39:32.240 and everyone's just very low trust and it's very sad to see.
00:39:35.200 And I really wish that romance brought back because as we've taken it out, we have all
00:39:39.940 these very undefined relationships and people are unhappy about it and having to, and everyone's
00:39:44.880 just having to settle for so little because the bar is just so low and it's really sad for
00:39:49.800 both genders.
00:39:50.780 Can you clarify or maybe expand on what you mean though by, by romance?
00:39:55.240 What, what does that look like?
00:39:57.080 Like two people who genuinely like each other and want to commit to each other and are only
00:40:02.080 into each other.
00:40:03.300 Okay.
00:40:03.920 Because when I think of romance, I tend to think of perhaps like romantic overtures such
00:40:08.520 as, for example, buying girl flowers.
00:40:10.760 Those are nice too.
00:40:11.480 Those are pleasantries, I suppose.
00:40:13.240 Yeah.
00:40:13.360 But it's the foundation that really matters too.
00:40:16.180 Okay.
00:40:16.720 Those are symptoms.
00:40:17.680 That comes after you have a good foundation, right?
00:40:19.940 Okay.
00:40:20.180 So more like actual genuine liking of the person versus perhaps the transaction, the, you know,
00:40:27.080 how I think things tend to be looked at almost in a transactional way.
00:40:30.680 Whereas like, what can this person provide, whether it's finances, whether it's, you know,
00:40:36.140 whatever it may be.
00:40:36.900 And that's not to say that men should therefore date ugly, unattractive women that they're not
00:40:41.820 attracted to.
00:40:42.460 And women should date men that they're not attracted to.
00:40:45.180 Obviously, for example, if you want children, there needs to be money there in order for you
00:40:49.220 to raise the children.
00:40:51.160 Sure.
00:40:51.340 So like looks and being able to provide for a family certainly do matter.
00:40:56.680 But it has become a lot more transactional.
00:40:59.400 And I think that's what's given the rise to things like OnlyFans and why so many guys and
00:41:05.940 girls are buying into it.
00:41:07.540 And sort of like this parasocial thing.
00:41:09.900 Do you think people have to think it's very romantic?
00:41:11.820 OnlyFans because there's not enough romance?
00:41:14.060 I think that with the rise of relationships becoming more and more vague, like at the
00:41:20.820 beginning of the show, for example, he was like, whether you're in a situation ship, this
00:41:23.820 or that, and it's like 10 different labels instead of just like dating or committal boyfriend,
00:41:28.180 girlfriend, et cetera.
00:41:29.280 So if you think that was more clear, people wouldn't get on OnlyFans and make money?
00:41:33.280 I think that OnlyFans is happening due to the fact that, for example, because most of the
00:41:38.220 customers are guys, even though there are some girls, and so I think that they're using
00:41:42.480 that as a replacement for sex in the same vein as porn.
00:41:46.760 And I don't think it's good for either party overall.
00:41:49.440 Like Japan's probably a decent example.
00:41:50.340 And it affects children, too.
00:41:51.860 Yeah, Japan, too.
00:41:52.840 What do you mean?
00:41:53.280 Like porn affects children or OnlyFans?
00:41:55.820 Well, you could also make the argument if men were getting romance or getting sex from
00:42:01.700 women that there would not be such a market for pornography and OnlyFans.
00:42:06.580 Like upwards of 90% of men watch porn.
00:42:08.880 Upwards of 90% of men are single.
00:42:10.680 I mean, a lot of normal people with relationships or jobs, like normal people are on OnlyFans.
00:42:15.180 But that might be contributing to why they're single.
00:42:19.640 Yeah, because if you can say he watches porn every day, like why would you work out?
00:42:23.180 Why would you work on your career?
00:42:24.260 Why would you do all that stuff that you can just get on your computer?
00:42:25.260 Well, the majority of people that watch porn, like that work out also, they're not working
00:42:29.120 out because they're on OnlyFans.
00:42:30.380 I don't think that's...
00:42:31.160 But just because that one person, like there's people that do, it doesn't mean that there
00:42:34.040 also aren't like a lot of people who don't because pornography exists, because it's there
00:42:37.940 and so easily available.
00:42:39.320 So are you just saying that or is there some like statistical evidence for this?
00:42:42.920 Is this just what you feel?
00:42:44.760 Like I said, you can look at societies like Japan where they have this massive price.
00:42:48.300 There's a huge porn industry in Japan.
00:42:49.900 Like every single part of the relationship is compartmentalized where people are going
00:42:53.140 to like men can go to strip clubs, women can go to like host clubs, just like the male
00:42:58.480 version of that.
00:42:59.080 But it just doesn't seem to be like a very...
00:43:01.360 And you think that's the reason that Japan is like that?
00:43:03.500 Because I mean, like Europe is super open with sex.
00:43:05.620 We're kind of uptight here in the US.
00:43:07.580 And like, are you seeing that countries that watch more porn, you're seeing more of this?
00:43:12.480 It's that mixed in with the lack of connection, especially things like without violating
00:43:16.380 TOS, people being less connected because of COVID, people getting on Discord conversations
00:43:20.180 and having friends through that versus having actual real friends and people kind of compartmentalizing
00:43:24.640 that.
00:43:24.840 So social media in general.
00:43:25.880 Yeah.
00:43:26.000 So if you mix that in with lack of social skills, which is kind of a pretty prevalent
00:43:30.100 problem in Japan, like we're getting a lot of that here.
00:43:32.900 But do you think that like, are you saying that you think the majority of men on OnlyFans
00:43:36.620 don't have social skills?
00:43:38.380 Like, are you saying that porn in particular, OnlyFans in particular is different than all
00:43:42.880 these other forms of social media that's making people less connected?
00:43:46.420 You think OnlyFans and porn in particular is an issue?
00:43:49.700 I'm thinking it's all kind of mixed in together as like, maybe people should move a little
00:43:53.860 bit more away from, you know, log, maybe like if you, if all of your friends are on Discord,
00:43:58.300 maybe check your life a little bit.
00:43:59.960 Yeah.
00:43:59.980 Okay.
00:44:00.200 I agree with you on that.
00:44:00.680 Or if all your presence, if you're on the computer all the, if you're not a concentrator
00:44:03.600 and you're on the computer all day, maybe, maybe check yourself a little bit.
00:44:06.480 Yeah.
00:44:06.640 I agree.
00:44:06.980 I have something to add on to that.
00:44:07.940 So I think that it's, um, all of it as well, but it's specifically with OnlyFans, um, as
00:44:15.280 the, as the nature of any other pornography, it's a replacement for sex.
00:44:18.980 So I think in that specific area is what it's replacing.
00:44:22.880 So instead of like maybe going and trying to get a girlfriend or committal relationship,
00:44:27.060 uh, they might turn to OnlyFans.
00:44:29.480 And I think that's why it's become so popular too.
00:44:32.540 And versus other social media, let's say Discord, that would be more like a way of, um, replacing
00:44:38.660 friendship.
00:44:39.640 I don't, I don't know why people think it's like a replacement for sex.
00:44:43.040 I don't think if you, if people watch porn, they're like, oh, I don't ever want to see
00:44:46.240 a real woman naked.
00:44:47.220 I don't think.
00:44:48.100 Well, men get ED from it though.
00:44:50.720 Yeah, that can happen.
00:44:51.660 But like porn addiction in general is so misunderstood.
00:44:54.180 It's such a, it's not even recognized by the DSM-5, the APA.
00:44:58.020 Like it's not recognized for a reason.
00:45:00.280 And a lot of it also has to do with, they've done studies with moral incongruence.
00:45:03.680 So they've looked at men who've watched porn and they've compared men who think they have
00:45:08.000 a, cause a lot of it is just what you think you have a problem.
00:45:09.900 Like, do you feel like this is interfering with your daily activities, et cetera?
00:45:12.860 You wouldn't know unless you stopped for a long period of time.
00:45:15.540 No, but they find that the men that think it does, they also have negative attitudes
00:45:18.660 towards porn.
00:45:19.340 They have some like moral opposition to it.
00:45:21.460 They're extra religious.
00:45:22.420 They find that those men don't actually even watch more porn than normal men who are living
00:45:26.240 normal, healthy lives, but they have a, like, they are like, sex is normal, right?
00:45:30.640 And they're like, oh my God, I have an addiction because I'm not supposed to be doing this.
00:45:33.940 God is mad at me, whatever.
00:45:35.340 And then they, because they're normal, they turn to it again and again and again.
00:45:39.600 And they think that's an addiction when it's not.
00:45:41.760 Some people are uncomfortable with social interactions in general, whereas porn and OnlyFans kind of gives
00:45:51.080 you that opportunity to have that fantasy without having to overcome that social anxiety to go
00:45:58.280 and talk to a woman, go on a date and everything.
00:46:00.700 It's definitely easier.
00:46:01.540 I mean, think about what's easier, hanging out with a friend or messaging on Discord, right?
00:46:05.560 So in that same sentiment, I think you have voiced that you don't think that it's a replacement,
00:46:10.920 but if that's not the case, then why when someone's horny, they turn to porn?
00:46:15.580 Otherwise, what would they have to turn to?
00:46:17.540 There are a lot of men in relationships that turn to porn.
00:46:19.840 Like, if your girlfriend isn't there with you in the moment, a lot of, like, upwards of 90% of men watch porn
00:46:24.900 and not 90% of men are single.
00:46:27.420 And also to add...
00:46:28.620 But that could also reflect on their relationship.
00:46:30.560 It could mean that they're not satisfied to some degree.
00:46:32.980 But you're making that up.
00:46:34.860 No, not even that the woman's not good enough, but, like, that maybe they're so used to porn
00:46:39.820 that they need those options, because that's one of the most common things you hear from guys
00:46:43.160 when you ask them, why do they watch porn?
00:46:44.240 Even when I'm in relationships and I'm having a ton of sex, I masturbate.
00:46:47.280 Like, I don't...
00:46:47.780 Like, sometimes you want your little alone time, and it's...
00:46:50.140 In moderation, I'm not saying it can't be a problem, but, I mean, anything.
00:46:54.160 Drinking in moderation, gambling in moderation, porn in moderation.
00:46:56.660 What do you guys think about...
00:46:58.240 Do you think that if a guy is horny and he goes out and tries to find a woman in public,
00:47:02.960 that that's better than going online?
00:47:04.860 To go meet a woman for the first time and go out?
00:47:07.740 To just hook up?
00:47:08.820 Yeah, you're just going out to, like, hook up.
00:47:10.140 I think hook up culture is just as terrible.
00:47:13.000 Right, so it's like, what is worse?
00:47:14.740 Go online and beat it?
00:47:16.100 But why do you have to meet someone at a club?
00:47:17.360 Why not like that?
00:47:18.320 Both are bad.
00:47:18.820 Like a random person.
00:47:20.120 Both are bad.
00:47:20.940 But, I mean, some people benefit from it.
00:47:22.420 It's an industry, so this is a free country, you know?
00:47:25.200 Why is it bad?
00:47:27.040 Psychologically.
00:47:27.800 That's all.
00:47:28.320 It's not bad for you.
00:47:29.540 It's not bad for you.
00:47:30.080 No, no, no.
00:47:30.140 Why is it bad for, like, what's wrong with hook up culture?
00:47:33.200 I don't engage in it personally because I'm boring, but I'm just going to.
00:47:36.120 Sexual diseases.
00:47:37.000 Sting of motherhood.
00:47:38.260 For starters.
00:47:39.160 Pregnancies.
00:47:39.660 Inability to hold a long-term relationship.
00:47:41.760 But why would we want to stop it for everybody else?
00:47:44.060 Like, we don't want to do it.
00:47:44.860 Why don't we don't?
00:47:45.520 We can just not do it.
00:47:46.100 Well, we didn't say we're going to stop it.
00:47:46.940 We just said we don't like it.
00:47:48.480 It doesn't mean you can't do it.
00:47:50.240 Is it better if someone stays home, though?
00:47:52.180 You don't like it for everybody or you don't like it for yourself?
00:47:53.100 If you stay home, you're not going to get someone pregnant.
00:47:55.520 You're not going to get an STI.
00:47:56.660 There we go.
00:47:57.300 You're beating.
00:47:57.880 You're just masturbating at home.
00:47:59.800 I mean, as he was saying, kind of skirting TOS here.
00:48:04.340 I mean, couldn't you say that we as a society, in order to stop the spread of a certain disease,
00:48:08.580 we actually enacted laws to prevent certain activities, certain mandates.
00:48:14.260 And you could.
00:48:15.020 I mean, I'm not trying to fucking compare hookup culture to COVID here.
00:48:17.980 But you could argue, like, for example, like, there's a rise in STDs.
00:48:24.480 Okay.
00:48:25.260 Since the advent.
00:48:26.220 Like, gonorrhea?
00:48:27.600 What kind of STDs?
00:48:28.340 Syphilis, gonorrhea.
00:48:29.580 Okay.
00:48:29.740 I think something actually recently in Texas, women in Texas, I forgot which city, but in
00:48:37.580 the past three or four years, there's been, like, 150%-fold increase in syphilis in women
00:48:44.120 in some, like, Texas city or some shit.
00:48:46.120 So I think we can educate people on that, right?
00:48:49.160 We can educate people on safe sex, but at the end of the day, it's their decision.
00:48:53.220 I have no interest in telling people, don't be a kid.
00:48:54.780 Yeah, but, like, come on, let's not kid.
00:48:56.380 Like, people will be fucking without condoms and shit.
00:48:58.780 Yeah, and that's their decision.
00:49:00.440 I'm not going to sit here and be like, stop, I don't care.
00:49:01.960 But all the education on safe sex is not going to get someone to change that behavior.
00:49:05.160 So what is us saying, like, oh, this is so wrong, hookup culture?
00:49:07.420 Well, also, even if you wear a condom, you can still get herpes.
00:49:10.120 Yeah, you can, but I'm saying these are, we should tell people about the risk, but if they want
00:49:13.680 to engage in it, I don't care enough to tell them to, like, what, why, it's not our business.
00:49:19.800 What about drug, like, what about drug use?
00:49:21.980 What do you mean, what about drug use?
00:49:23.140 Well, I mean, you know, we can, in our personal lives, we can say, okay, well, drug use is
00:49:27.180 bad, but you can also say, hmm, maybe society-wide, this isn't, like, the best thing.
00:49:32.100 Maybe we should, I'm not saying we should fucking, like, pass laws to, like, ban hookup culture,
00:49:36.600 but, like, we could say, we could say, like, okay, this is not, this is not good.
00:49:42.020 So you, and you're doing this because you don't want people to get more STDs, and you
00:49:46.440 feel like this is, like, a pertinent issue in society right now, the rise of STDs, and,
00:49:50.200 like, we should just be really pushing.
00:49:52.220 Well, there's other factors why I think hookup culture is not great.
00:49:55.160 Okay, why?
00:49:56.360 You want the other factors?
00:49:57.660 Yeah.
00:49:57.760 Well, I mean.
00:49:58.800 Because if it's just the rise of STDs, I don't feel like this is.
00:50:00.740 I don't think men or women are happy with hookup culture.
00:50:03.520 Who are you to say that they're not happy with hookup culture, though?
00:50:06.980 Like, I'm not.
00:50:07.840 How often do you hear, it's either men who are incapable of finding a relationship, or
00:50:12.260 women who, you'll hear from women, I'm tired of these fuckboys, these guys, they just want
00:50:16.300 to fuck, like, I think both men and women are desirous of long-term relationships, and
00:50:20.400 hookup culture is, doesn't coincide with building long-term relationships.
00:50:27.520 For some people, it does.
00:50:28.700 Like, I mean, there are people who complain like that, but there are a lot of people who
00:50:31.240 don't.
00:50:31.780 Like, we're in a bubble.
00:50:32.500 There's a lot of online communities that are like, this is terrible, but I feel like
00:50:35.560 if you don't.
00:50:36.140 Average girls who go to college, or average guys who go to college, will, are just as
00:50:41.040 likely to say, oh, hookup culture sucks.
00:50:43.280 Can I ask?
00:50:43.680 So if everyone thinks that, why do some people still choose to engage in it?
00:50:47.740 Because everybody's so horny.
00:50:48.720 We need sex, y'all.
00:50:50.280 Stop acting like y'all don't know.
00:50:51.640 We're horny.
00:50:52.600 I just don't know.
00:50:53.660 Motherfucker's horny.
00:50:54.540 That's a part of hell.
00:50:56.060 Y'all don't know that that's a part of being a healthy human.
00:50:58.680 You have to fuck.
00:50:59.880 Yeah, but.
00:51:00.460 Are you willing to die in order to achieve that?
00:51:03.820 Well, obviously everybody is.
00:51:05.520 Obviously everybody is, right?
00:51:07.980 Because of who I love.
00:51:08.980 Because they feel fucking, and they know the risks.
00:51:11.280 Who's dying?
00:51:12.200 Who's dying?
00:51:12.780 You're in a very vulnerable position when you open up your body like that to a stranger
00:51:18.140 or somebody like you just met.
00:51:19.660 I don't know.
00:51:20.120 I don't understand.
00:51:20.700 We all strangers, though.
00:51:22.360 In the beginning.
00:51:23.420 The thing is, are you saying you've never had a one-night stand?
00:51:26.520 Are you saying you've never had a one-night stand?
00:51:29.240 No.
00:51:29.880 Oh, shit.
00:51:30.660 You're missing out, girl.
00:51:32.400 Do you drink?
00:51:33.080 I haven't yet.
00:51:33.480 Stop the cat.
00:51:35.660 Well, no, they always come back.
00:51:37.140 Sorry.
00:51:37.660 What do you think?
00:51:38.200 I think one of the main ingredients in a hookup is alcohol.
00:51:43.000 So what are they going to do?
00:51:44.480 Should we ban alcohol?
00:51:45.760 I don't know, Brian.
00:51:46.480 What do you think?
00:51:47.500 I mean, you could actually make an argument.
00:51:49.460 Go back to that.
00:51:50.160 I just don't understand how whoever has had a one-night stand, like women, aren't you
00:51:57.760 kind of scared that you could do things that you're not comfortable with or hurt you?
00:52:04.240 You're such in a vulnerable position with somebody you don't really know.
00:52:07.640 I don't know.
00:52:07.980 It would freak me out.
00:52:10.000 I can be comfortable like that.
00:52:13.160 Or if you're rolling, girl, you don't think about none of that.
00:52:16.760 I guess I'm in the bathroom before that instant kicks in, so yeah.
00:52:20.420 Take a look, Colt.
00:52:21.840 Take a look.
00:52:24.500 You're funny.
00:52:25.220 Single men are one of the main money makers for OnlyFans, so there's that aspect, too,
00:52:31.620 right?
00:52:32.040 Yeah, they're one of them, but they're also nonsense.
00:52:33.900 But it's like, obviously, there are some couples, but it's a lot of mass, probably like
00:52:40.520 80%, I guess, right?
00:52:41.100 I think you'd be surprised about the amount of women who don't care if their man watches
00:52:45.200 porn or is on OnlyFans.
00:52:46.920 Yeah, and like I said, there's definitely cut queens.
00:52:48.780 There's people of every way.
00:52:49.900 I don't think they're cut queens.
00:52:51.320 I just think that they don't care.
00:52:53.160 Like, I wouldn't care if my boyfriend watched porn.
00:52:55.400 Some people are neutral.
00:52:56.280 Some people are against it.
00:52:58.960 Well, don't search for stuff.
00:53:02.420 You won't find anything.
00:53:03.500 If you don't know, you don't know.
00:53:04.600 You're fine.
00:53:05.020 Isn't it a cut queen?
00:53:05.520 You're saying they enjoy it?
00:53:06.800 Yeah, the women that enjoy their men looking.
00:53:09.680 I don't think.
00:53:10.260 Some women just don't care.
00:53:12.360 Like, if you're allowed to look at women online, I don't have to be the only woman you ever
00:53:15.560 see ever.
00:53:16.040 I mean, that's how you facilitate your relationships.
00:53:18.280 But the thing is, I think that affects how committal a relationship is, depending to what
00:53:23.360 degree, especially.
00:53:25.480 And how so?
00:53:26.480 Because wouldn't it be more romantic if a guy only has eyes for you and only sees you
00:53:31.500 and vice versa?
00:53:32.240 The girl only is interested in you.
00:53:33.340 Well, you can be romantic yourself.
00:53:35.540 Why do I have to?
00:53:36.180 I don't want to be romantic.
00:53:37.120 Why do I have to be romantic?
00:53:38.160 Because we all have to live in this culture.
00:53:39.800 So we should all be romantic and commit to each other so you feel better?
00:53:44.440 No.
00:53:44.880 Romance facilitates really healthy relationships and happy families and not having, you know,
00:53:50.040 for example, single mothers, having to struggle and raise your kid.
00:53:53.020 It's hard.
00:53:53.460 My single mother raised me.
00:53:54.780 It's not easy.
00:53:55.640 Can I ask you, do you go through his phone?
00:53:58.560 No.
00:53:59.900 Well, there you go.
00:54:00.520 Oh, shit.
00:54:02.020 Because why do you not go through his phone?
00:54:04.180 Because you don't want to know.
00:54:05.700 Because she trusts him.
00:54:06.040 Why would I go through her phone?
00:54:06.980 I mean, like, relationships are based on trust.
00:54:08.860 Exactly.
00:54:09.700 Well, I wouldn't date somebody that consumes porn because I also don't.
00:54:14.220 So I hold someone else to the same standards.
00:54:16.140 What if you went through his phone and found a whole bunch of porn, though, girl?
00:54:19.480 What would you do?
00:54:20.900 What if?
00:54:21.520 It's happened.
00:54:22.720 Like any other relationship.
00:54:24.700 You don't want to know.
00:54:26.040 No.
00:54:26.360 Like any other.
00:54:26.820 You got a little nervous.
00:54:27.980 Yeah.
00:54:28.120 You like.
00:54:28.760 You like.
00:54:30.820 Is that wrong?
00:54:32.360 Oh, no.
00:54:32.920 I'm pretty confident in.
00:54:34.820 That's one of the first things I find out when I date someone.
00:54:37.000 So I'm actually pretty confident I wouldn't find anything on it.
00:54:38.700 So you find out.
00:54:39.620 How do you find out?
00:54:40.320 Yeah.
00:54:40.400 When you first date someone, how do you find out?
00:54:42.320 You ask them and you trust.
00:54:43.660 You just ask for their laptop right away.
00:54:45.380 It goes through their history.
00:54:45.800 So if you guys were dating someone on the first date and you had some sort of requirement
00:54:50.480 and deal breaker and you voiced that and they lied to you, I'm pretty sure if you found
00:54:54.160 out they lied that you would probably break up with them, too.
00:54:56.440 How are you finding out or not finding out?
00:54:58.420 Are you checking?
00:54:59.240 What are you doing?
00:54:59.900 Are you with them 24-7?
00:55:01.040 Right.
00:55:01.280 I mean, there's a little Chris Rock joke.
00:55:03.220 People don't like if you're trying to hide your porn from your girl.
00:55:06.280 They don't find it in Fort Knox.
00:55:07.660 They find it in the VCR.
00:55:08.820 So if anybody's lying in a relationship.
00:55:11.420 If you need to hide in a VCR.
00:55:13.120 No porn all day be.
00:55:14.620 Oh, sorry.
00:55:15.040 It's an old joke.
00:55:16.440 I don't know.
00:55:17.340 This is an old joke.
00:55:18.000 This is from the 2000s.
00:55:19.760 It's easier to hide it nowadays.
00:55:20.960 You can literally clear history right away.
00:55:23.040 But I don't think porn is responsible for single mothers.
00:55:25.360 I don't think so at all.
00:55:26.680 I think that's just men who are disloyal.
00:55:27.760 It's probably.
00:55:28.460 I would think it's a contributing factor.
00:55:30.040 What I'm trying to say.
00:55:31.720 It's the lack of commitment.
00:55:32.940 And therefore, the lack of romance.
00:55:34.440 That's really prevalent nowadays.
00:55:35.780 Which is why we have all these vague relationships.
00:55:37.660 Honestly, I wouldn't like to find out if my boyfriend was watching porn.
00:55:40.880 I wouldn't like it.
00:55:42.120 So I don't go through his phone.
00:55:43.600 Because I don't want to know.
00:55:44.760 But, you know.
00:55:45.260 He probably doesn't.
00:55:45.940 But then why be okay with it?
00:55:46.680 Like, what's stopping you from, like, just saying, hey, I'm not comfortable with this.
00:55:49.900 This is my relationship boundary.
00:55:52.080 That's fine.
00:55:52.620 But you can't make it all of our relationship boundaries.
00:55:54.560 Yeah.
00:55:54.660 I do understand where you're coming from, though.
00:55:56.880 I do get where you're coming from.
00:55:58.240 Because if all of us women would just keep our fucking legs closed, you know what I'm
00:56:02.320 saying, and wait until marriage, we wouldn't be in this whole fucking shit show of a, you
00:56:06.340 know what I feel me?
00:56:06.880 Every, the romance would have stayed and everything.
00:56:08.660 But we horny.
00:56:09.820 I keep telling y'all.
00:56:10.740 We need sex.
00:56:11.520 So we can't just wait for somebody to marry us to give it up.
00:56:14.760 Shit.
00:56:15.580 Take forever.
00:56:16.420 You be fucked around and die.
00:56:17.760 You know, some women really are tanking the coochie stock, though.
00:56:21.980 Like, big stuff anyway.
00:56:23.800 And it's going to get harder for all of us.
00:56:25.380 Oh, my God.
00:56:26.300 You're in a happy relationship.
00:56:27.840 Congrats.
00:56:28.580 Very romantic.
00:56:29.720 I mean, I'd be terribly hurt if I would find out that my boyfriend, like, had a one-night
00:56:33.620 stand with one chick.
00:56:34.900 But for me, I'm just...
00:56:36.320 But then why accept it?
00:56:37.740 I don't want to know.
00:56:38.880 Honestly, I'd rather not know because it's going to hurt me.
00:56:41.540 It's going to hurt my feelings.
00:56:42.460 But you're okay with not knowing, even though, like, it could possibly be true?
00:56:48.160 Wouldn't you want to break up?
00:56:49.460 I mean, I know he doesn't.
00:56:51.800 He's got to start all over.
00:56:52.220 I don't think he does.
00:56:53.460 So if I have any reason to believe, then that means I would find out.
00:56:58.160 That means you effed up.
00:57:00.080 You know?
00:57:00.540 It's like, make sure I don't find out.
00:57:03.260 That's it.
00:57:03.940 You know?
00:57:05.140 I don't know.
00:57:05.880 I know it's weird, but that's just me.
00:57:07.980 You'd just rather not know.
00:57:09.300 I know it's weird.
00:57:10.060 Because you put in all this work in this relationship.
00:57:12.460 And, you know, just don't find out.
00:57:14.780 Because guys hook up.
00:57:16.420 Guys hook up.
00:57:17.360 Women are emotional.
00:57:19.300 Most of the time.
00:57:20.020 But then would you get a pass if you cheated?
00:57:22.080 No.
00:57:22.320 Because the guy had more money and you're a woman, therefore you need resources?
00:57:26.080 Would that get a pass?
00:57:26.920 No, because it's totally different.
00:57:28.960 Men and women are different.
00:57:30.340 But women, according to biology, using the same logic, women go for the resources for their children and everything.
00:57:35.480 So if a woman cheated for the same reason of resources, they wouldn't get that pass.
00:57:39.760 Of course not, because you go for the resources, therefore you go for the relationship, not for the one night stand.
00:57:47.820 Like a guy goes to a chick to bang a chick and what's her name again?
00:57:52.160 I don't know.
00:57:52.960 Like if you go for the resources, you go for somebody else.
00:57:56.080 That's another relationship.
00:57:57.200 That's emotional.
00:57:58.460 That's still a lack of commitment, though.
00:58:00.120 Of course it is.
00:58:00.560 And that speaks volumes on not just the micro, but the macro, right?
00:58:04.740 The little detail says a lot about the situation, what they'll do.
00:58:08.200 What I'm saying is that if a man protects and provide enough, he's going to have a pass most likely.
00:58:20.220 Are you?
00:58:21.020 I don't think a woman would get a pass for that, though.
00:58:23.260 Not a pass.
00:58:23.680 Because that is, you can get his money.
00:58:24.960 He's most likely going to get away with it, you know?
00:58:27.520 Wait, so let me ask.
00:58:28.380 I agree, that's true.
00:58:29.140 If you meet like the love of your life, you guys get married, happy, and 20 years down the line,
00:58:33.880 you find out that he's had one one night stand a year.
00:58:36.780 What do you do?
00:58:38.600 Why did I find out?
00:58:39.480 That's a question.
00:58:40.780 Is he that dumb?
00:58:41.520 I found out.
00:58:42.160 I didn't want to find out in the first place.
00:58:43.440 Well, maybe one of the girls hits you up.
00:58:45.940 I'm stuck it up.
00:58:46.780 You're a hole in lies.
00:58:47.980 I'm going to be like, you're a liar.
00:58:49.240 You're a hole in lies.
00:58:50.820 You're a lying liar who lies.
00:58:52.380 I didn't want to know.
00:58:53.260 Like, no, no.
00:58:54.640 So in that situation, what do you do?
00:58:57.320 I tell the chick she's a fucking liar.
00:58:59.840 Like, you're lying.
00:59:00.340 What if she shows you evidence?
00:59:01.720 Huh?
00:59:02.020 What if she shows you evidence?
00:59:03.520 Like, like, legit receipts?
00:59:04.940 Here's, like, pictures of them together, hooking up, stuff like that.
00:59:08.340 DMs, letters.
00:59:09.220 You're never supposed to let a chick see you sweat, though.
00:59:11.620 So you got to pretend like you, like, bitch, you don't know what you're talking about.
00:59:14.400 You know, like, well, I don't know about that.
00:59:16.300 Right, right, right.
00:59:18.280 Well, do you accept it or you're like, I'm done?
00:59:21.720 I'd be pissed.
00:59:22.560 I'd probably get over it.
00:59:23.920 But that's me.
00:59:24.780 I'm not saying that it should be a standard for everybody.
00:59:27.180 But that's just myself personally.
00:59:29.380 I can get over that.
00:59:30.900 I grew up around guys and I can understand, like, guys, they go for a hookup.
00:59:35.820 It's so not emotional.
00:59:37.340 Like, they can literally bang anything without giving a single fuck.
00:59:42.280 Thank you.
00:59:42.720 I don't know.
00:59:44.840 I just feel like if I was the kid of a parent like that, I wouldn't want a parent who was
00:59:48.600 doing that behind the...
00:59:49.860 Of course not.
00:59:50.640 I don't have kids.
00:59:51.960 So that's a bad example.
00:59:53.640 Of course.
00:59:54.340 But, like, it hurts to be cheated on.
00:59:58.420 But that's not all men.
00:59:59.520 It's like, I've seen people get cheated on.
01:00:00.900 It seems to hurt.
01:00:01.540 So wouldn't it be more romantic if he was just into you?
01:00:05.080 Of course.
01:00:05.960 Of course.
01:00:06.800 But if I find out...
01:00:08.420 Is that reality these days?
01:00:10.000 No, it's not.
01:00:11.280 Why can't it be?
01:00:12.100 But it can be.
01:00:12.660 Is that fair to the other person, to settle for them?
01:00:15.780 Huh?
01:00:16.220 What?
01:00:16.640 To, like, settle.
01:00:17.400 Like, oh, I accept that they're going to have bad behaviors.
01:00:19.780 I don't accept it.
01:00:21.320 I don't want to know.
01:00:23.420 But if he's putting all your damn bills, then you ain't got a choice.
01:00:27.040 Shit.
01:00:27.360 You got to sit there and shut the fuck up and take it.
01:00:29.220 But if you know that you can get a man that will not cheat on you, why would you do that?
01:00:33.760 I have a man that's not going to cheat on me.
01:00:35.480 Do you think they don't exist?
01:00:36.700 No.
01:00:37.200 I have one.
01:00:38.080 I have one.
01:00:38.900 I have one.
01:00:39.500 That's not true.
01:00:39.760 I have one.
01:00:41.360 My man wouldn't.
01:00:42.620 How do you know if you're not looking?
01:00:44.100 You don't want to find out.
01:00:45.260 Maybe he...
01:00:45.820 No, because I told him and he was like, I wouldn't do that.
01:00:48.600 What the heck are you talking about?
01:00:49.480 I'm like, I'm just letting you know.
01:00:50.780 Conclusive evidence.
01:00:50.960 I'm just letting you know if it happens.
01:00:52.600 If it happens.
01:00:53.520 Because it's always when you're not ready that shit happens.
01:00:56.280 I'm pretty superstitious about that.
01:00:57.680 I'm an athlete.
01:00:58.260 Sorry.
01:00:59.220 Knock on wood.
01:01:00.920 Knock on wood.
01:01:02.500 But Brian said, don't knock on the table.
01:01:05.180 Oh, my bad, Brian.
01:01:08.200 It's particle board, not wood, anyway.
01:01:10.460 Did he leave?
01:01:11.780 I'd rather just set my boundaries.
01:01:13.520 I was like, hey, if you don't want to break up with me and it was just a mistake, it's like,
01:01:17.000 please don't tell me because that's going to hurt me.
01:01:19.980 Wait, but does that make him feel like he can just treat you any sort of way?
01:01:23.580 No.
01:01:24.700 That's me.
01:01:25.440 I told him that.
01:01:26.540 I told him that.
01:01:27.780 You didn't tell me that.
01:01:29.900 It comes to us as like, so if a guy hears that, what they're hearing is like, oh, she's weak,
01:01:33.400 she's desperate, I can do what I want.
01:01:35.000 And they're going to take advantage of you.
01:01:37.160 And it's the same vice versa.
01:01:38.560 If a guy had low standards like that, they would be called a simp.
01:01:40.900 Okay, but men, women aren't held to the same standards.
01:01:45.780 Right, but they're balanced.
01:01:47.360 It's not a direct thing.
01:01:48.480 But he's not cheating.
01:01:49.880 He's not cheating.
01:01:50.780 I mean, not that I know of.
01:01:51.920 And you know what?
01:01:52.520 I'm fine mentally.
01:01:53.580 Like, look at me.
01:01:54.040 Like, I'm doing fine right now.
01:01:55.400 Are you?
01:01:55.960 Are you?
01:01:56.680 Maybe.
01:01:57.000 I don't know.
01:01:57.520 You doing okay?
01:01:58.280 I'm not sure.
01:01:59.040 Let's move on.
01:02:00.060 I have a couple questions for some of the panelists here.
01:02:03.220 Some of you were so kind to provide some answers to some of our pre-show questions.
01:02:08.120 So, starting with Jasmine, who is an attorney, in your Instagram, you describe yourself as
01:02:16.680 a lawyer and ho.
01:02:18.120 Yes.
01:02:18.580 Did someone just fart?
01:02:19.700 No.
01:02:20.260 The chair.
01:02:23.240 So, your Instagram, in your bio, it says, lawyer and ho.
01:02:28.900 Correct.
01:02:31.660 So, when you say you're a ho, you mean you just do OnlyFans?
01:02:36.200 Is that what a ho is?
01:02:37.440 I don't know what a ho is, but I thought.
01:02:38.980 Okay, just a question for the two girls here who do OF.
01:02:42.340 Excuse me.
01:02:43.020 Based.
01:02:43.480 That was a little.
01:02:44.320 Do you do BG content?
01:02:46.800 Yes.
01:02:47.340 BG content or solo content?
01:02:49.340 I have both.
01:02:50.760 Huh?
01:02:51.100 I have both.
01:02:51.820 Both.
01:02:52.020 Yeah, I do both, too.
01:02:52.920 Gotcha.
01:02:54.600 So, have you ever, when I think of a ho, I mean, well,
01:02:59.540 I don't know, maybe I'm reaching hard.
01:03:00.780 Here, have any, either of you done any prostitution?
01:03:03.660 No.
01:03:04.080 Is that what ho is?
01:03:04.860 No.
01:03:05.160 I thought it was just, like, slang.
01:03:06.620 I'm reaching there a little bit.
01:03:07.720 I was going to do 304 because I learned what that means recently.
01:03:10.120 I suppose that works.
01:03:11.140 But I thought more, like, normal people wouldn't know.
01:03:13.240 Sure.
01:03:13.840 You said that when you were bored studying for your bar exam,
01:03:19.500 you went on a different date every other day.
01:03:22.360 Correct.
01:03:23.180 Okay, and this is also the time when you started your OnlyFans.
01:03:25.520 Yeah, so after law school, it was, like, two months where you're supposed to do nothing
01:03:28.320 but study for the bar.
01:03:29.560 I'm really good at standardized tests, so I knew I only needed, like, a week.
01:03:32.600 So, I was like, well, what do I do?
01:03:34.360 So, I started in OnlyFans and went on a bunch of dates.
01:03:36.980 Yeah, it says here, I ended up going on, or you ended up going on 33 dates in around
01:03:41.040 2.5 months.
01:03:42.280 Yep.
01:03:42.640 Just a point of clarification.
01:03:44.000 Are these 33 dates all first dates with different guys?
01:03:47.400 Yes.
01:03:48.080 Okay, so perhaps it was, you went on more dates, but some of them were second dates.
01:03:52.180 Is that, would that be fair?
01:03:53.400 I saw four out of 33 more than once.
01:03:55.780 You kept, like, did you keep it, like, a spreadsheet, or?
01:03:58.060 I actually kept a list in my phone.
01:03:59.660 Kept a list in your phone.
01:04:00.640 Yes, I could talk to my friend about it.
01:04:02.200 Of the first dates?
01:04:03.360 Yeah, of the 33 guys.
01:04:04.440 Of the 33 guys, how many did you hook up with?
01:04:06.820 Have sex with?
01:04:07.680 Sure.
01:04:08.020 Just one.
01:04:08.740 Only one?
01:04:09.380 Yeah.
01:04:11.720 And then I'm friends, out of the four I saw again, I'm still friends with three of them.
01:04:16.720 You're still friends with three of them?
01:04:18.060 Yes.
01:04:19.200 How, like, in person, you meet up in person, or?
01:04:21.320 A couple of them, yeah.
01:04:22.680 I just went to one of their birthday parties.
01:04:24.520 Okay, and how did you secure these dates?
01:04:26.780 Was it dating apps?
01:04:27.600 Yeah, it was the first time I downloaded Hinge, so I did all of them on Hinge.
01:04:31.280 All of them on Hinge?
01:04:32.140 Yes.
01:04:32.300 Okay.
01:04:33.080 And what percentage of men do you think could go on 33 different dates in three months?
01:04:39.360 Probably a very low percentage.
01:04:41.060 Very low percentage?
01:04:41.880 Yeah.
01:04:42.140 Okay.
01:04:43.860 I just found that interesting.
01:04:44.480 I don't know, maybe, yeah.
01:04:45.540 Um, so, and you only hooked up with one.
01:04:49.980 Yeah.
01:04:50.500 Did you do any content with him?
01:04:52.880 No, this was, like, right when I was starting my OnlyFans.
01:04:55.920 So, like, just, so I went, I went to Egypt and Dubai for a little bit.
01:04:59.160 Then I came back, and I was like, well, I still have, like, a month and a half.
01:05:02.300 So, I went on all these dates, and I was just starting OnlyFans.
01:05:05.660 And, I mean, I told all of them, but we didn't make content.
01:05:08.360 I didn't actually start doing BG content until this last February.
01:05:10.840 Did you ever go on two dates in one day?
01:05:13.220 Yes, once.
01:05:14.060 Did you ever go on three dates in one day?
01:05:15.740 No.
01:05:16.360 Okay.
01:05:17.480 Okay.
01:05:18.380 Interesting.
01:05:19.120 Um, so, it just seems like a lot of time, you know?
01:05:24.100 Yeah, but I was bored.
01:05:25.160 It was, like, kind of, like, the middle of COVID, and my law school friends had all gone
01:05:29.040 back to their, like, home states to study, because the bar was going to be, um, virtual.
01:05:33.700 Yeah.
01:05:33.980 And so, um, I was dating that guy earlier, and then I went back home for a little bit,
01:05:40.060 came back, and I'm, like, I don't have anybody to hang out with.
01:05:43.080 I'm bored.
01:05:44.320 Sounds like a great thing.
01:05:44.700 I want to see the study.
01:05:45.880 I mean, I want to see the city I was in.
01:05:47.960 So, I was, like, why not?
01:05:49.960 Okay.
01:05:50.660 Well, so, and you said that you think a very small percentage of men could go on 33 different
01:05:56.100 first dates in a three-month period of time?
01:05:58.080 I mean, I don't know if they were really trying.
01:05:59.720 I don't know.
01:06:00.360 I'm not a male.
01:06:01.540 But I guess my, I would say it's easier for someone like me to go on 33 dates.
01:06:05.180 What do you mean someone like you?
01:06:06.440 A woman that's, like, I guess, somewhat conventionally attractive.
01:06:09.860 Who's not me?
01:06:10.500 Because my social anxiety could never.
01:06:12.960 Like, 33 men?
01:06:14.660 Like, huh?
01:06:15.340 They were all really nice.
01:06:16.600 I didn't have a bad experience.
01:06:17.600 It doesn't matter.
01:06:18.420 Like, 33 new persons.
01:06:20.220 Like, oh.
01:06:20.720 Did you ever forget or, like, mix up their names?
01:06:23.260 Yeah.
01:06:23.400 Yeah, but it didn't matter because I only saw four of them more than once.
01:06:25.780 So, sometimes on my phone, I would write, like, pizza guy or something.
01:06:29.700 I have a question for the table.
01:06:30.980 So, it sounds like you kept an Excel spreadsheet type thing to keep track of all these.
01:06:35.320 It was notes in my phone.
01:06:36.300 Fair enough.
01:06:37.260 Lawyer, I mean.
01:06:38.540 So, have any of you, and I've heard this from both men and women, that they might keep, like,
01:06:45.040 some people keep a fuck list, which I think is a bit vile.
01:06:49.620 But, I shouldn't have said that before I asked the question.
01:06:52.300 Have any of you ever thoroughly documented your romantic pursuits, whether it's, you know,
01:07:00.660 you actually wrote down in a diary or a spreadsheet on a computer, listed out all the people that
01:07:06.080 you've gone on dates with, or I've heard some people, they'll, like, keep a list of all the
01:07:12.420 people they've slept with and include various details, such as certain sizes of appendages.
01:07:19.660 Where did you hear that?
01:07:20.920 Who told you that?
01:07:22.040 I've never heard some women on the podcast say that they keep a list.
01:07:24.840 I just wrote their names down and put stars by my favorite.
01:07:27.260 Where do you hang out to meet people like that?
01:07:29.960 Whatever podcast.
01:07:30.900 This isn't a new thing.
01:07:32.420 So, just going around the table, have you ever kept a list of partners?
01:07:38.740 I mean, does mine count?
01:07:40.380 So, I should have to raise my hand over it?
01:07:41.400 Yes.
01:07:41.880 Two dating lists.
01:07:42.560 It's my dating list.
01:07:43.740 Brittany, we'll start with Brittany and go around.
01:07:45.860 Brittany, what about you?
01:07:46.960 No.
01:07:47.700 No.
01:07:48.440 Yes.
01:07:48.800 Tell us a little bit.
01:07:50.420 Was it a fuck list, or was it a...
01:07:51.860 No.
01:07:52.280 So, I made a list of, like, every guy I've ever kissed, or, like, you know, and then
01:07:57.500 I put, like, a comma next to their name.
01:07:59.200 Did you rank?
01:08:00.540 No.
01:08:01.180 No.
01:08:01.340 I did, like, put little things.
01:08:02.540 In your middle school diary.
01:08:03.140 Stars.
01:08:03.760 No, it's on notes in my phone, but it was so that way I could remember.
01:08:07.600 And so, I would put, like, a little thing next to it, like, this guy is, like, from this
01:08:12.120 city, or, like, this nationality, and stuff like that.
01:08:15.340 What about you?
01:08:16.040 No.
01:08:16.600 Mm-mm.
01:08:17.180 I mean, the one you know about.
01:08:18.300 Is there also a fuck list, too?
01:08:19.760 No.
01:08:20.660 Byronique, what's up?
01:08:21.720 What you got for us?
01:08:22.580 No, I try to forget most of the ones I didn't fuck.
01:08:25.420 That's how bad it's been.
01:08:27.140 So, I definitely won't be making no lists.
01:08:30.420 Try to forget.
01:08:32.120 What?
01:08:32.820 Bad little points.
01:08:33.620 What about you?
01:08:34.840 Lists, um, no.
01:08:37.440 No.
01:08:38.320 No.
01:08:39.880 Okay.
01:08:40.540 All right.
01:08:41.300 And just really quick touching on this 33 dates thing.
01:08:44.140 So, and Al's kind of getting to this a little bit.
01:08:47.440 Do you guys think, and I'm opening this up to the panel, do you guys think that, compared
01:08:52.840 to men, that women have dating on easy mode, as compared to men?
01:08:56.120 Yes.
01:08:57.340 It depends what you mean.
01:08:57.740 What do you mean by dating?
01:08:58.920 Yeah.
01:08:59.040 Do you mean just going on dates, getting that foot in the door, or do you mean having,
01:09:02.320 like, a healthy, meaningful relationship?
01:09:07.100 I would say both.
01:09:08.160 You could say both.
01:09:08.900 You got to define dating.
01:09:10.000 Well, one is, I would say for the-
01:09:11.900 No, for anything, I think just women have it easy.
01:09:15.280 Honestly.
01:09:15.780 Like, if you just go out there, regardless of what type of women you are, trust me, like,
01:09:20.380 you'd just be like, who wants this?
01:09:22.200 Somebody's going to be like, me.
01:09:23.880 You do that as a guy, you're going to get arrested.
01:09:25.880 But that's not a, that's not a, yeah, that's not a-
01:09:28.480 That's a great way to do a stalker.
01:09:29.580 I feel like dating involves relationships.
01:09:31.680 Hold on, one microphone at a time, guys.
01:09:33.060 Go ahead.
01:09:33.460 I feel like dating involves also, if you're just talking about being able to fuck, or
01:09:36.920 being able to go on dates, then yeah, women have it easier.
01:09:38.880 But if you're talking about facilitating actual meaningful connections in relationships,
01:09:42.400 I don't necessarily know how women have that easier.
01:09:45.180 But I mean, couldn't you make the argument that at least, like, for example, you were able
01:09:48.520 to get 33, secure 33 dates in a three-month time period, one of those led to, was it a
01:09:55.440 relationship?
01:09:55.640 He's one of my friends.
01:09:56.640 It didn't relate to a relationship, but-
01:09:57.960 Okay, but you hooked up with him in any case, but perhaps it could have.
01:10:00.820 At least you have the opportunity there, because for a lot of men's experience on, for example,
01:10:05.820 dating apps, it might be, they don't get any matches.
01:10:09.040 They don't get any matches.
01:10:11.540 Maybe they get, like, maybe-
01:10:13.880 Dating apps are unique, though.
01:10:15.300 I know a lot of people date that way.
01:10:16.260 You need to get all dating apps.
01:10:17.440 Yeah, why would you use dating apps?
01:10:18.360 I'm not-
01:10:18.640 Dating apps are horrible.
01:10:19.560 Yeah.
01:10:19.940 Dating apps are so bad.
01:10:21.100 Like, I tried.
01:10:21.840 I did a social experiment, okay?
01:10:23.300 I, like, created profiles for, like, some of my friends with, like, their pictures and
01:10:27.120 everything.
01:10:27.520 My God, that's, like, so depressing.
01:10:29.100 Like, guys, you need to delete dating apps.
01:10:32.540 Go out there.
01:10:33.140 Find something you're into.
01:10:34.420 I don't know, man.
01:10:35.340 Woodworking, beer tasting.
01:10:37.160 Go meet some new people.
01:10:39.000 You're going to meet somebody, but please just delete dating apps.
01:10:41.920 Like, it's so dumb.
01:10:42.140 I completely disagree.
01:10:43.180 I had, like, I'm not good at going out and meeting people.
01:10:47.220 And I can never tell if, like, someone I'm actually interested in is interested in me
01:10:50.740 back.
01:10:51.300 So, I remember when I started college and, like, Tinder became a thing.
01:10:54.900 And it was, that weight lifted off my shoulder.
01:10:57.160 Like, oh, my gosh, this guy's actually interested in me.
01:10:59.000 Do you have OCD?
01:10:59.140 Oh, you just doxed yourself.
01:11:00.140 Do you have OCD?
01:11:01.200 Tinder came out when you were in college.
01:11:03.080 Okay, hold on.
01:11:03.960 2012, you were in college.
01:11:05.580 Okay, so you're, okay, okay.
01:11:07.040 It's figured out.
01:11:08.140 We know your exact birthday, but.
01:11:09.360 I graduated high school early, so.
01:11:11.240 Do you have OCD?
01:11:13.340 Maybe mild, not, like, super.
01:11:15.140 I like organized chaos.
01:11:15.820 Yeah, you like organized things.
01:11:17.540 Chaos.
01:11:18.180 I like organized chaos.
01:11:20.080 So, it's like.
01:11:20.320 So, organized, okay.
01:11:21.300 No, not.
01:11:22.440 But you like things to have, like, label, be identified, like, nothing let you.
01:11:27.140 No, so do you know who Adam Savage is?
01:11:29.660 No.
01:11:30.220 He did Mythbusters.
01:11:31.360 So, he has a channel.
01:11:32.420 It's really good.
01:11:32.960 You should check it out.
01:11:33.640 But, so he believes in organized chaos, so I went to art school, and so it's one of those
01:11:37.880 things where you have to see all your stuff, so that way you can visualize how you're going
01:11:41.520 to utilize it.
01:11:42.140 That's ADHD brain, basically.
01:11:43.940 I wouldn't say that.
01:11:45.520 But, it was just something that, I mean, as compared to going to a bar, and I'm like,
01:11:50.080 okay, I'm not interested in that guy, I'm not interested in that guy, I'm not interested
01:11:52.540 in this guy.
01:11:53.340 It's kind of a waste of my time, and I don't have a lot of time to spare.
01:11:56.520 So, when I was on Tinder, I was like, okay, I like this guy, I don't like this guy.
01:12:00.580 Don't you think that you want satisfaction?
01:12:03.060 Like, quickly, as quickly as possible?
01:12:05.560 Like, are you willing to start a friendship to just try to maybe find a friend, a best
01:12:10.820 friend, and that best friend could potentially lead to a happy relationship?
01:12:14.400 Because that's what I found out, you know, I got married.
01:12:17.920 Well, I did get that, but this is when I'm in college, and I don't have, I was in college.
01:12:23.080 I'm like, I kind of want to go on dates.
01:12:24.940 I want to have a boyfriend.
01:12:25.900 I want to do that, but I don't have time to go out and do it, so I'll do this for an
01:12:29.940 hour.
01:12:30.420 I go do my work.
01:12:31.460 I'll check in in a couple days.
01:12:32.260 Did you guys meet each other on dating apps?
01:12:33.780 No, no, no.
01:12:34.700 There you go.
01:12:36.000 Well, I wasn't really looking for a serious relationship when I was in college.
01:12:39.860 I just wanted to casually date.
01:12:41.780 So, casually fuck?
01:12:43.080 No, casually date.
01:12:44.020 That's two different things.
01:12:44.680 Oh, okay.
01:12:45.600 Dating apps can be useful.
01:12:47.500 I think that's the point, Anna.
01:12:48.560 They're useful for social studies.
01:12:50.680 Not really.
01:12:51.560 You could.
01:12:51.760 But it's not like you, it's impossible to find someone on a dating app.
01:12:54.740 You could, but it's not the most effective way to do it, because you can't really feel
01:12:59.520 someone out the same way on a dating app that you would in real life.
01:13:02.080 It's still depressing and, like, superficial.
01:13:04.060 How, like, not really.
01:13:05.560 I mean, they ask you guys to put their height and stuff, and, like, they just seem to be
01:13:09.160 all obsessed with that now.
01:13:10.180 Well, you don't attract to.
01:13:10.560 Well, there's other aspects of attraction, too, that you can't see online, right?
01:13:14.160 You can't, you don't know their smell, right?
01:13:16.340 You don't know.
01:13:16.780 Exactly.
01:13:17.260 Like, I'm a very, like, one-on-one person.
01:13:19.960 It's like, if there's a vibe with somebody, or just if there's a friendship, like, I ended
01:13:24.020 up, you know, I'm, like, I'm pretty much dating my best friend right now, and we're,
01:13:28.160 I mean, I've never been this happy in my life, honestly.
01:13:31.160 And I think that's what was lacking in my previous marriage, is that there wasn't a
01:13:35.160 strong friendship in the beginning.
01:13:37.480 There was just...
01:13:38.160 Yeah, that's definitely, I think most people would prefer not to be, like, yeah, I met
01:13:41.540 on a dating app.
01:13:42.020 I think most people would prefer to meet in real life.
01:13:44.560 It's, but it's not always possible, right?
01:13:46.420 Yeah.
01:13:46.920 But, I'm kind of curious why the question was asked about, like, men versus women, and,
01:13:54.000 like, who has it harder.
01:13:54.960 It's already done.
01:13:55.940 Sorry, what's that?
01:13:56.580 Why was the question asked in regard to men versus women who have it worse?
01:14:02.220 Why was it asked?
01:14:03.940 Well, I mean, she mentioned that she had gone on 33 dates in a three-month time period, which
01:14:11.140 I think is, I would say that in order for you to be able to pull that off as a guy, that
01:14:16.900 puts you in the top, like, 1% of men who could pull off securing that many dates, whereas
01:14:23.760 I think, like, honestly, if a woman was so inclined, I would say, honestly, the top 50%
01:14:28.140 of women could very easily secure that sort of attention from men.
01:14:33.080 So, if that's true, then what?
01:14:35.060 Yeah, but who really cares?
01:14:36.320 I mean, these are pretty superficial relationships anyway, so...
01:14:38.980 I mean, I guess I saw the city, but, like...
01:14:40.400 Not necessarily, but because at least you have the opportunity there for one of these scenarios
01:14:44.820 to potentially maneuver into a relationship.
01:14:48.480 I would say with dating apps, you're right, but I don't think it's that way.
01:14:51.880 But you're right that a lot of relationships are not facilitated through online.
01:14:56.280 You kind of see both genders complain about dating and the lack of commitment in general.
01:15:00.960 So, I don't think being able to just, like, date around and, like, sleep around is the
01:15:05.240 same thing as, like, a committal relationship.
01:15:08.180 But I see what you're saying, but, for example, I don't know everyone's philosophy on this,
01:15:16.220 but I would say most modern relationships, it's the way most relationships start.
01:15:22.620 I don't think it's typically, okay, let's go on 10 dates, then hook up, then sleep together,
01:15:29.260 then get into a relationship first, then sleep together.
01:15:32.180 I think the way it works for most adult relationships is people hook up fairly early on,
01:15:38.960 and then they continue hooking up, and then they find themselves in a relationship.
01:15:42.660 Not for everybody.
01:15:44.040 I'm not sure if that's the case.
01:15:45.460 Like, it does happen for sure, but in terms of that actually leading up to commitment,
01:15:50.440 I don't hear that many stories of, like, that actually turn out to be a healthy, long-term relationship.
01:15:56.140 But I guess it depends what your goals are in dating.
01:15:57.860 Like, I don't know if her goal in dating is to marry, right?
01:16:01.000 Like, I don't know what your goal is.
01:16:02.700 Well, I mean, one thing I would like to do to go around the table is a lot of you have said,
01:16:10.840 hey, here's my longest relationship.
01:16:13.440 Or maybe a better question to ask is, have any of you here had a long-term relationship
01:16:19.200 where you hooked up, had sex with a person relatively early on in said relationship?
01:16:25.740 So let's say within the first one, two, or three dates.
01:16:29.260 Sophia, let's start with you.
01:16:30.120 Sophia, what about you?
01:16:30.820 Okay, well, my boyfriend and I, we did have sex, and we've been in a relationship for a year now, so.
01:16:41.700 Well, okay, can you clarify?
01:16:43.320 You said you had sex at how quickly?
01:16:46.120 Like, kind of quick.
01:16:48.060 Like, 30 minutes, or what were we?
01:16:51.140 Not 30 minutes, but like a month after.
01:16:56.100 Oh, okay, like, we weren't hanging out that much because we met, and then we started dating, and then we had sex.
01:17:04.260 So you're friends prior?
01:17:06.160 Yeah.
01:17:06.620 That gives context.
01:17:07.660 Yeah.
01:17:08.060 It's a little bit different than just, like, meeting someone the first time and then having sex three days later.
01:17:11.920 Where did you guys meet?
01:17:13.180 Through one of my friends.
01:17:15.200 She was friends with him, and then we became friends and started dating.
01:17:19.640 Wait, so last show, you guys, you said you'd broken up with your boyfriend, or are you guys back together?
01:17:24.620 Well, yeah, we're back together, but he didn't, like, want to break up, break up, but he was just thinking about, you know, a little time apart, because we're, like, together all the time.
01:17:33.280 Okay, but now you guys are back together.
01:17:34.640 Yeah.
01:17:34.980 After your last appearance on the show.
01:17:36.560 He didn't, like, hearing me say I'm sickle.
01:17:37.980 Oh, you're all back together now?
01:17:39.060 Yeah, good for you.
01:17:40.520 Congratulations.
01:17:41.180 Okay, so, what about you?
01:17:43.840 Oh, I'm sorry, what was the question again?
01:17:45.940 Yeah, hold on, I got...
01:17:47.520 Have you ever had a long-term relationship with a guy where you hooked up relatively quickly?
01:17:56.160 So, for a second or third date?
01:17:58.860 I never really had a long-term relationship.
01:18:04.480 Never.
01:18:05.340 Sadly.
01:18:07.900 Never had...
01:18:09.060 Wait, hold on.
01:18:10.080 You're age again?
01:18:11.560 35?
01:18:12.040 I'm 35, yeah.
01:18:12.780 The longest relationship I've ever had, like, they only last, like, three months, sadly.
01:18:18.180 Why?
01:18:22.180 I think because I'm too clingy.
01:18:24.760 You're too clingy?
01:18:25.800 What does that mean?
01:18:26.760 Have you ever slashed someone's tires?
01:18:29.060 I'm sorry?
01:18:29.520 Have you ever slashed someone's tires?
01:18:31.160 No.
01:18:31.460 What does clingy mean?
01:18:33.080 Like, to attach, like, need their attention all the time.
01:18:35.820 Like, you have, like, an anxious attachment style.
01:18:37.680 Yeah, I do have that.
01:18:39.220 Dependent, affective dependent.
01:18:40.780 Is that the word?
01:18:41.760 Like, yeah.
01:18:42.680 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
01:18:43.340 I'm just, like...
01:18:44.540 Wait, scare them off.
01:18:45.380 I think they just give up on me easily, like...
01:18:47.160 So, they usually end things with you after about three months?
01:18:49.720 Yeah.
01:18:49.780 Okay.
01:18:50.500 Wait, so the longest concurrent period of time that you've ever dated a guy was a three-month
01:18:54.620 period?
01:18:55.200 Yes, that's it.
01:18:56.400 Do you want to get married one day or have kids, or...?
01:19:02.560 Yeah.
01:19:03.720 Okay.
01:19:04.580 So, okay, your three-month relationship, how quickly would you say you guys hooked up?
01:19:09.760 Was it relatively quickly?
01:19:11.860 Maybe in, like, two weeks after dating?
01:19:17.100 Yeah.
01:19:18.100 I think.
01:19:19.100 Okay.
01:19:20.100 So...
01:19:21.100 I'm not sure if...
01:19:22.100 Is that...
01:19:23.100 I'm trying to figure out how to best frame this, because someone, for example, you could
01:19:25.880 see someone only two times in a month versus...
01:19:32.200 I don't know how I want to...
01:19:34.880 Or you could hang out with someone five times in a one-week period, so, you know, I don't
01:19:40.240 know how exactly I want to frame it, but in any case, you said, what, two weeks or what?
01:19:43.760 Yeah, two weeks after, probably.
01:19:45.760 How many meets?
01:19:46.880 How many meet-ups?
01:19:48.280 First meet-up, second meet-up, third meet-up?
01:19:49.880 No, probably, like, 10 in the memory.
01:19:56.380 Okay, moving on, what about you?
01:19:59.060 I mean, alcohol was involved every single time, okay?
01:20:06.780 But they always come back, you know?
01:20:09.100 That's the problem.
01:20:10.940 So, like, it's like, I don't have a one-night stand.
01:20:13.020 I never had a one-night stand, because the ones I had, I mean, they came back, you know?
01:20:17.260 So, you have, okay, but you're, so you're saying that you did sleep with the men on the
01:20:20.460 first time you met, the first night you met them?
01:20:22.800 Actually, no.
01:20:24.540 Not that I think about it.
01:20:25.980 What?
01:20:26.780 Because we were always, like, friends before.
01:20:30.860 Okay, so, cycling is a small community, okay?
01:20:35.080 So, it's, you kind of, you're, you most likely, like, run into each other before.
01:20:43.500 Like, you most likely know the person, you've seen him before.
01:20:47.260 Like, it's just how it is.
01:20:49.920 Mm-hmm.
01:20:50.520 So, you know, you go to races, you've heard that name, you've seen, yeah.
01:20:58.060 You know.
01:20:59.480 Yeah?
01:21:00.020 No?
01:21:00.840 Okay, surfing, for example.
01:21:02.560 Like, you surf, right?
01:21:04.060 Sure.
01:21:04.720 Okay.
01:21:05.340 Do you, there's, are there, like, girls at the beach that, like, you see on a regular basis,
01:21:09.360 like, just because they're there?
01:21:11.080 Or it's always new people?
01:21:13.060 Usually.
01:21:13.520 I mean, I'm, when you're out surfing, you're, I mean, some people like to socialize, but
01:21:17.700 I don't like to talk to people.
01:21:18.380 But just to see, like, just what you see, like, not talking to people.
01:21:22.940 Just, do you see faces that you recognize?
01:21:24.940 You're at, depending on the swell, you're at fucking C Street, you're at Ring Con, you're
01:21:29.340 at a different spot.
01:21:30.440 Okay, no, no, so you're an introvert, like, introvert.
01:21:33.080 No, he's a sigma male.
01:21:34.500 He does not see women.
01:21:35.960 Eh.
01:21:37.180 Focused.
01:21:38.200 Honestly, I would be the same way if I were, like, having to go out and, like, surf.
01:21:41.440 I would, like, probably just pay attention to surfing.
01:21:44.260 Well, yeah, like, I, when I'm surfing, it's not social hour.
01:21:48.140 Like, I want to go out, catch some waves, enjoy myself.
01:21:50.380 But you don't notice, like, what's around you, what people are saying?
01:21:52.740 No, I'm very aware of, like, you, as a surfer, you have to be aware of the lineup.
01:21:56.660 You don't want to be snaking anybody.
01:21:57.980 You don't want to be dropping in on anybody.
01:21:59.760 But it's not social hour, especially, like, on a big swell.
01:22:02.860 Like, you're not trying to fucking flirt with the chick when the waves are double overhead
01:22:06.600 and there's, like, risk of drowning and shit.
01:22:09.240 Like, it's not exactly your first priority, but.
01:22:12.780 So your point is, like, when you're not on dating apps, that generally you'll have not
01:22:16.460 actually met the person the first time that you're having a one-night stand with.
01:22:20.580 So does it constitute a one-night stand?
01:22:22.700 Well, it's just that, like, you would just go hang out.
01:22:24.580 So, okay, how can I explain it?
01:22:25.760 Like, for anyone, okay, so I'll take cycling as an example.
01:22:29.420 Is we don't go on first dates, like, it's more somebody is just going to hit you up
01:22:34.560 and be, like, you're, like, you want to, you know, you want to go for a ride or something.
01:22:39.300 You want to go do some PEDs?
01:22:41.740 No pun intended, Brian.
01:22:43.500 Huh?
01:22:43.980 Okay.
01:22:44.620 Here, let's move on.
01:22:45.460 What about you?
01:22:46.120 You know, Brian, I just must say I wish you would have more niggas on the show from where
01:22:49.780 I'm from that talk like I talk because then you could get a very different opinion on things.
01:22:53.360 I think you would find out that men do, can go on more than fucking 34 dates in a month.
01:23:00.220 You feel me?
01:23:00.680 It depends on who they are, where they from, who raised them.
01:23:03.180 You get what I'm saying?
01:23:04.380 So what's crazy is I was just telling my girl, V, on the ride up here from South Central L.A.,
01:23:11.400 you feel me, from L.A., from the hood, is that, you feel me, I don't mean to make it a race thing,
01:23:16.500 but it is a race thing because being a black woman,
01:23:19.320 I've never heard a black woman say that she's fucked on the first date and that nigga end up marrying her.
01:23:25.440 Never have I heard that.
01:23:26.500 But I have white friends and Hispanic friends that have told me they got down with the get down on the very first date
01:23:33.300 and now they got a ring from that same man that fucked him on the first date.
01:23:37.940 Yeah, that's kind of my question.
01:23:38.660 So how do you explain that?
01:23:40.240 That's kind of my question, too.
01:23:40.720 You understand what I'm saying?
01:23:42.060 How do you explain that?
01:23:43.380 She was good.
01:23:44.640 Did I know it was before?
01:23:45.800 I don't think it got nothing to do with no good.
01:23:47.260 Madison was gesturing back here.
01:23:49.420 What were you trying to say?
01:23:50.660 Oh, I just wanted to say, like, my boyfriend now, like,
01:23:53.240 we probably hooked up within four days of knowing each other,
01:23:56.680 started dating, like, a week or two after,
01:23:58.920 and now we're in a long-term committed relationship.
01:24:01.300 And see, that pisses me off because I've never heard a black bitch be able to say that,
01:24:05.020 and that really hurts me.
01:24:06.600 Racism is alive and well.
01:24:08.180 I'm getting very fucked up.
01:24:09.680 Like, that's wild.
01:24:11.160 Like, it's so fucked up.
01:24:11.920 And people think us black bitches just be talking shit to talk shit.
01:24:14.480 Hold on, Brittany Venti is half, you're half black, half white?
01:24:19.660 I'm a third nigga.
01:24:23.140 I'm saying my biological mother is black.
01:24:25.080 Okay, yeah, yeah.
01:24:25.440 I say was because she passed.
01:24:26.680 Okay, gotcha, gotcha.
01:24:27.960 I'm 25% black, too.
01:24:29.940 Oh, quadrant power.
01:24:31.660 Y'all kill me with these percentages, though.
01:24:33.700 Look, we got, y'all kill me with these percentages, baby.
01:24:37.060 This is a very diverse panel, okay?
01:24:38.800 We have diversity here.
01:24:39.840 My dad is 50% Asian, but race-wise, he is black with straight hair.
01:24:45.600 You've got the 3C going for you.
01:24:47.440 Race-wise, he would be black.
01:24:49.280 Yeah, I got my hair for my mom.
01:24:50.200 He's skinned, he's black.
01:24:51.360 And I'm a quarter Caucasian trailer trash.
01:24:55.440 I don't know.
01:24:56.160 Trailer trash.
01:24:58.300 I don't, if I say that, then everybody looking at me crazy.
01:25:02.200 You got trailer jeans?
01:25:03.460 I don't look no type of white, now do I?
01:25:06.300 Neither does my dad.
01:25:07.360 That's true, like, white people are like, I'm 8% Polish and 25% German.
01:25:15.760 I just say my foundation's shade.
01:25:18.540 Yeah.
01:25:18.940 You know, like, what was the question again?
01:25:24.780 How long, oh, so that guy that I dated the longest for four years, I didn't have sex with
01:25:29.020 him for six months.
01:25:31.020 Yeah.
01:25:31.920 The more I like someone, the longer I wait.
01:25:33.680 I do that, too.
01:25:34.920 Yeah.
01:25:35.240 I think that's ridiculous.
01:25:36.500 That's 100% true.
01:25:38.040 It's, like, scary.
01:25:39.300 I mean, I've never, like, gone long-term with anyone that I've went on dates with.
01:25:42.320 I need to gather data.
01:25:43.120 But I never, like, have sex with them.
01:25:44.940 Because, I mean, personally, I'm, like, traditional.
01:25:48.460 That's not me.
01:25:49.260 I just want to gather data.
01:25:51.340 Wait, but I have a question.
01:25:51.740 I don't have an Excel spreadsheet, like, literally, but I have one in my head.
01:25:56.200 And if I like somebody, I don't want my judgment clouded.
01:25:58.940 So I wait.
01:25:59.420 So hold on.
01:26:00.140 And I know you want to come in here really quick, Brent.
01:26:02.640 Excuse me, Brittany.
01:26:04.300 So you're saying that the guys that you think are, you want to pursue for long-term relationships,
01:26:10.920 you're going to make them wait for sex.
01:26:12.980 But the guys that you would not consider for long-term relationships that are not worthy,
01:26:17.240 let's say, you'll just fuck them right away.
01:26:18.980 No, because I don't, I don't just fuck them.
01:26:21.160 I mean, I just don't do it.
01:26:22.200 You've never just, you've never.
01:26:22.880 I've never had a one-night stand.
01:26:24.620 Never.
01:26:25.300 So.
01:26:25.760 Have you ever slept with a guy the same night you met him?
01:26:28.380 One.
01:26:29.160 And that's the guy I make BG content with now.
01:26:31.800 So.
01:26:32.580 Okay.
01:26:33.600 But it's not a relationship, right?
01:26:35.020 It's not a relationship, no.
01:26:37.300 But I make him wait longer.
01:26:38.280 Brittany, if you wanted to come in.
01:26:39.380 I had a question for my quadrant sister here.
01:26:41.860 So you said that in your long-term relationship, there was a hookup, even though you had known
01:26:46.780 each other prior within the first few dates, and you said you're traditional.
01:26:50.220 Weren't you kind of worried that maybe it would leave an impression on him?
01:26:53.700 Because I feel like guys, as a tendency, not always, obviously, especially nowadays, will
01:27:00.240 view, like, if she were to sleep with me on the first night, well, doesn't she do that
01:27:04.720 with everyone else, sort of thing?
01:27:06.440 Like, were you worried about that sort of thing?
01:27:09.280 Not really.
01:27:10.560 I mean, like, I don't usually do that, but I did with him, and there was, like, alcohol
01:27:14.660 involved.
01:27:15.960 But, so, like, after that, we were just, like, inseparable, and we're still together now.
01:27:21.100 And, like, with my relationship, like, we're very traditional.
01:27:25.180 I don't let him watch porn.
01:27:26.720 I don't, you know, I even, like, say, like, liking girls' photos on Instagram is cheating
01:27:31.600 or anything like that because, you know, you don't need to look at another girl.
01:27:36.940 Maybe you've just got better stuff to do than taking your dad.
01:27:40.060 I don't know.
01:27:40.580 Like, I feel like I've got better stuff to do.
01:27:42.580 Like, it's just going to bring bad stuff, like, to, you know.
01:27:46.960 Well, I don't know.
01:27:47.860 Like, there's only two guys on this panel, so I'm wondering if Brian thinks that.
01:27:51.780 No, it would, definitely.
01:27:53.660 No, no, no.
01:27:54.040 I was going to ask.
01:27:54.600 If he thinks that, like, if a girl slept with you on the first night, would you automatically
01:27:58.960 think, like, does she normally do that?
01:28:00.980 Is she a hoe?
01:28:01.620 That type of thing.
01:28:02.580 Um, I certainly think that some men will view it that way, but me personally, I don't necessarily
01:28:10.260 think that the quickness with which a woman will hook up with you on an individual level
01:28:15.980 is necessarily an indicator of past promiscuity or current promiscuity.
01:28:21.720 Why?
01:28:22.200 Because sometimes it's just, like, you know, random.
01:28:24.100 She just either wants you, it could be that she just, she wants you that bad.
01:28:28.900 How do you know it's not just a cope?
01:28:31.180 What do you mean?
01:28:31.580 Oh, on the guy's end?
01:28:33.320 Yeah, yeah, for, like, ego purposes.
01:28:35.200 Like, oh, yeah, I was just such a chad.
01:28:36.860 You know, she had to.
01:28:37.900 It could be.
01:28:38.540 It could be.
01:28:39.060 Instead of, like, well, you know, she was, like, basically naked on her Tinder or whatever
01:28:42.940 it was.
01:28:43.640 Well, I mean, for example, there might be girls, and I've definitely heard from girls
01:28:48.680 on this who, they're virgins, and they don't want to wait for, like, the perfect in love
01:28:54.080 moment.
01:28:54.600 They just kind of, almost in the same way that some guys will view their virginity, is like,
01:28:59.300 yeah, I kind of just want to lose it.
01:29:01.480 So some girls will just, you know, sleep with the guy really quick, even though they're a
01:29:06.000 virgin.
01:29:07.200 You don't think it reflects on the committal level at all?
01:29:10.960 What do you mean?
01:29:12.000 Like, if you just met a girl, meaning there's no prior friendship, you haven't really seen
01:29:15.360 her around, you just go on the date, you met on a dating app, whatever, and she just, like,
01:29:19.800 sleeps, so you don't think that she did that with other guys?
01:29:23.240 Well, I mean, it could be, to some degree, an indicator.
01:29:26.480 I think there's stronger indicators of potential promiscuity, because I don't think it necessarily,
01:29:34.540 if a girl sleeps with someone quickly, that it necessarily means that they sleep with a
01:29:38.760 lot of people, for example, someone who's a serial monogamist, you know, they could have
01:29:45.020 long-term relationships and not really be into, like, going out, partying, clubbing,
01:29:50.520 going on, you know, having one-night stands, but they do, they don't have any qualms with
01:29:57.080 hooking up quickly, but they also, but they also aren't just, like, racking up numbers.
01:30:03.260 What's that?
01:30:03.800 But wouldn't that be promiscuous?
01:30:05.380 What do you mean?
01:30:06.320 Like, to do that.
01:30:07.400 Well, I'm not sure if serial monogamy is promiscuity.
01:30:10.760 No, not serial monogamy, I mean, like, on the first night, and they're doing that a lot.
01:30:15.580 That's, like, a repeated pattern of behavior.
01:30:18.860 I don't think that, I don't think you are necessarily promiscuous if you sleep with someone quickly.
01:30:26.540 I think promiscuity has more to do with the amount of partners that you're sleeping with.
01:30:31.720 But when somebody who does that on the first night a lot have a lot of bodies, though?
01:30:36.640 They're more likely to, yes, but it's not, I don't think it's a given.
01:30:39.820 It's not a given, but there's a pretty high likelihood.
01:30:43.660 I don't know.
01:30:44.000 I mean, that just meant that the wine was good, I mean.
01:30:46.440 I mean, I slept with him, I mean, not necessarily quickly.
01:30:48.960 But you guys were friends prior, so there's that context.
01:30:50.960 We didn't have sex, and, you know, a month or two months in, I had sex with him,
01:30:55.180 which I don't think that'd be too quickly for, like, hookup culture now.
01:30:58.140 But I did that, and I don't have a high body count, but I don't do that often.
01:31:03.340 But the context is different for yours.
01:31:05.180 Yeah, but I'm just saying, because also, like, I used to party a lot in high school, you know,
01:31:10.540 and I didn't have sex with anyone.
01:31:14.000 Because it's just, like, the logic, it comes across to me, like,
01:31:18.040 if a woman has sex with all these other guys on the first night, they're a hoe,
01:31:22.160 but if they do it with me, they're not a hoe.
01:31:24.320 That's how it kind of comes across.
01:31:25.480 I understand, like, what you mean by that, and just, like...
01:31:29.100 Because if I were a guy or a girl looking for a long-term relationship,
01:31:32.520 and somebody did that on the first night, especially if I were a guy and it's a girl,
01:31:36.200 like, that would be the first thought.
01:31:37.840 Like, what is their pattern behavior?
01:31:39.560 But when somebody wants to come in and do that, that's it.
01:31:41.780 Like, a guy would turn down the pussy, like, come on.
01:31:44.920 Okay, well, what if it's natural?
01:31:46.780 What if you're just both feeling each other, you're really clicking, and it is romantic?
01:31:50.460 Yeah.
01:31:50.800 Like, is that okay?
01:31:51.900 Like, you just, it feels right in the moment.
01:31:54.420 Well, I would put it like this.
01:31:56.080 Even for me, if it felt right and amazing, that wouldn't happen for me.
01:32:00.380 Even if it was the perfect night, and I'm just meeting this person.
01:32:03.180 So, and I'm clearly not the only person in the world that exists like that, right?
01:32:06.780 So.
01:32:08.800 But I guess it depends, too, like, what's your end goal?
01:32:11.280 Like, I don't know, does everyone here want to get married?
01:32:13.340 In a long-term committal relationship?
01:32:15.400 Like, what are your standards?
01:32:17.420 Well, I mean, if, what are my standards?
01:32:20.800 Yeah, yeah.
01:32:22.720 I prefer long-term relationships.
01:32:24.480 I'm not particularly interested in just, yeah, having sex with someone once.
01:32:28.900 That's, to me, that's kind of pointless, to sleep with someone once and then never talk
01:32:33.680 to them again.
01:32:34.180 That's kind of, like, what's the, for me, it's like, what's the point?
01:32:38.500 Waste of time.
01:32:39.120 If I want to, if I have sex with someone, I want there to be a continuity, I want to
01:32:43.160 continue seeing them, with the hope that it does become something long-term, but, you
01:32:48.240 know, sometimes, whether that's on her end, or there's, I, something.
01:32:53.400 But what's the point?
01:32:54.220 Like, what's the end game?
01:32:55.540 Of what?
01:32:56.440 Dating?
01:32:56.840 Yeah.
01:32:59.800 Long-term relationship.
01:33:02.160 Maybe kids.
01:33:03.780 So, no marriage, right?
01:33:05.480 I'm not in favor of marriage, no.
01:33:07.080 So, wouldn't a woman that's, like, generally higher quality, wouldn't they want that commitment
01:33:13.440 and security?
01:33:14.960 You mean marriage?
01:33:16.080 Yeah.
01:33:16.440 If you were looking for a high-quality partner, you're spending your time with, wouldn't you
01:33:19.880 expect them to want marriage and security?
01:33:22.740 Would I expect them, would I expect them to want marriage before having sex, or would
01:33:27.020 I just want them to expect marriage in general?
01:33:29.820 As the end of the relationship.
01:33:30.700 Yeah, and having kids, because otherwise it's a baby mom, isn't it?
01:33:33.500 Um, are you saying because if you have a kid with somebody, that's, like, just baby mama,
01:33:38.980 that's, like, not a real family?
01:33:40.780 Because my parents aren't married, they're still together and happy.
01:33:44.200 Yeah, some, some people will opt out of it, and they'll be in the committal relationship
01:33:47.200 still, but it is still a baby mama, right, and a baby dad.
01:33:50.040 Well, I mean, in Europe, or even just in Quebec, like, a lot of people don't get married, and
01:33:54.440 I'm sorry, like, calling somebody, like, baby mama, that's a little...
01:33:56.980 No one would call them their baby mama, they would say, that's my girlfriend.
01:34:00.060 Wait, what's wrong with calling a baby mama?
01:34:02.700 No, that's, if they're together...
01:34:03.980 She wants the smoke, Brittany.
01:34:05.400 If they're together, it's your girlfriend, right?
01:34:09.240 If you guys had a baby right now, would you just be a baby mama?
01:34:12.140 It would be your girlfriend slash baby mama, or baby daddy, yeah.
01:34:14.980 No one would say that.
01:34:15.800 So then when is it a baby mama?
01:34:16.580 Nobody says that.
01:34:17.660 I mean, I think maybe they mean in a sense of, like, they're not together.
01:34:21.660 You know, like, when you think of baby mama, you think of, like, some guy who has a pregnant,
01:34:25.960 like, not pregnant, but, like, with a child's girlfriend, or not girlfriend, they're not
01:34:29.080 together, and, like, they're not together, and so that's his baby mama, but not his girlfriend.
01:34:34.360 That's what they usually think.
01:34:35.660 I hear you, but I've heard on so many occasions the term they use for it when they're not married.
01:34:41.920 Yeah, when they're not married and they have a kid, his baby mama, his baby daddy.
01:34:43.880 Even if they're together?
01:34:45.340 Yeah.
01:34:45.580 Because technically, even if you're married, you're the baby's mama, so...
01:34:49.140 It's his house.
01:34:50.680 Like, I don't know, like...
01:34:51.820 Because they would just say wife, or a spouse, mother of my children.
01:34:53.200 So why wouldn't they just say girlfriend or boyfriend?
01:34:54.960 It's my spouse.
01:34:56.260 People can be committed to each other forever, or whatever, and not want to sign a marriage
01:35:02.300 contract.
01:35:03.120 They could just be...
01:35:04.260 They could have a ceremony, or whatever, and just not want to do a marriage contract.
01:35:08.280 It would still be, like, technically a marriage.
01:35:09.800 But then you, as the woman, you're having the kid, and what protection or guarantee do you
01:35:15.820 have?
01:35:16.400 Like, you have a kid with this guy, your fertility...
01:35:17.640 What kind of protection for what?
01:35:19.060 Well, like, what if the guy just leaves you?
01:35:22.120 They could just, like...
01:35:22.740 They can leave you if you're married, too.
01:35:24.260 But there's more of a commitment.
01:35:26.020 Alimony.
01:35:26.680 There's more of a commitment and a legal stake in things.
01:35:29.340 Like, they have a...
01:35:29.840 Okay, so now they're tied to you because they have to be, even though they don't want to
01:35:33.340 be.
01:35:33.540 No, but they will think about it more before going into it with you and having that commitment
01:35:37.280 with you.
01:35:38.080 So that's my point.
01:35:39.120 It's like, what's the point if you're not getting married?
01:35:41.180 It's like, you're just...
01:35:42.540 It's a relationship, but it's like baby mama, baby daddy.
01:35:45.440 It just seems like people don't want the label, even though that's what it is.
01:35:47.060 Why isn't it a girlfriend and boyfriend?
01:35:48.260 No, it's not.
01:35:48.980 Because it's a degrading word from the label.
01:35:50.960 They don't want, like, the discipline of the label.
01:35:51.840 It's a degrading word.
01:35:52.820 Somebody would call my mom a baby mama.
01:35:54.840 Like, she would walk out of here so fast.
01:35:56.940 Yeah.
01:35:57.200 So people clearly don't like the word, but they still do the thing that the word means.
01:36:00.660 So it just...
01:36:00.900 Only disrespectful people would say that.
01:36:02.240 If you're married, you're still the baby's mama.
01:36:04.840 So, like, I don't understand.
01:36:06.040 Marriage is just a paper.
01:36:07.040 It's not a baby mama.
01:36:08.200 Why is it not a baby mama?
01:36:09.480 If you guys have a baby, you're the baby...
01:36:11.360 If you're not married, it's a baby mama, baby daddy.
01:36:12.920 And who did...
01:36:13.700 Is that in the dictionary?
01:36:14.840 It's a mom and a dad.
01:36:15.960 Like, it doesn't matter.
01:36:16.680 Like, there's common law in places.
01:36:18.800 Marriage is kind of useless unless you're very Catholic.
01:36:22.260 And my dad is an atheist.
01:36:23.940 And for him, it was just something that was disrespectful to do because he doesn't believe in that religion.
01:36:29.620 So, like, marriage was kind of off the table for him and...
01:36:32.780 Well, it has a lot of benefits, right?
01:36:34.580 Like, what if somebody gets into an accident and, you know, you have to be the one that decides...
01:36:38.920 That's what notaries are for.
01:36:40.120 What?
01:36:40.580 That the notaries...
01:36:41.940 Notary, you mean?
01:36:42.680 Notary.
01:36:43.260 Oh, notary.
01:36:43.940 Yeah.
01:36:44.260 There's multiple things.
01:36:45.760 Loss of consortium.
01:36:46.920 Like, you can sign in front of, like, somebody to say, if I die, this is what happens.
01:36:53.420 Yeah, you could do that.
01:36:55.360 And the same thing with, like, property and things like that.
01:36:57.580 But there are things that come with marriage that are beneficial to both people.
01:37:00.700 And it's a symbolic way of saying, this is our commitment and also we have a stake in it.
01:37:05.640 So, we're going to really think about it before we go into it.
01:37:07.440 Versus baby mama, baby daddy.
01:37:08.700 Well, guess what?
01:37:09.240 I could just leave the state.
01:37:10.780 But you're assuming that it just jumps from wife and husband to baby mama, baby daddy.
01:37:14.200 Like, there's no type of relationships in between.
01:37:15.720 Like, there's nothing in between.
01:37:16.620 If you're married, then it wouldn't be baby mama, baby daddy.
01:37:18.180 But if you're in a long-term relationship and it's your boyfriend and girlfriend, then it's baby mama and baby daddy?
01:37:22.280 Like, where are you getting that?
01:37:23.080 By definition, yeah, you're not married.
01:37:24.140 What is the definition of baby mama?
01:37:25.360 You don't have legal rights to each other.
01:37:26.640 What is the definition of baby mama?
01:37:27.980 Legal rights to each other.
01:37:28.940 Legal rights to each other.
01:37:30.140 That's like the mother of your child.
01:37:31.640 So, if you don't have legal rights to each other, then it just jumps to be like, where are you getting that?
01:37:35.400 I just don't understand.
01:37:36.220 Because that's how the terms used.
01:37:37.280 English is how we use it.
01:37:38.160 It's not how we use it.
01:37:39.100 No, I'm just saying you're the only one who's saying it's used like that.
01:37:41.900 Just because somebody didn't tie the knot doesn't mean that it's baby mama, baby daddy, whatever.
01:37:47.820 That's degrading.
01:37:49.740 But then why not get married then if you don't like the term?
01:37:52.920 Because maybe some people just don't want to.
01:37:54.420 Am I the only one that's heard this as a term of endearment?
01:37:58.600 Probably.
01:37:59.020 I hear people say this in a positive tone.
01:38:01.440 Okay, we're getting way too caught up on the baby mama.
01:38:05.320 It seems like a lot of people don't want the discipline of the label.
01:38:08.960 Like, oh, it's just not well defined versus like, this is my wife or this is my husband versus this is a...
01:38:13.560 I'm sorry, I arrived in the U.S. pretty late.
01:38:17.300 Like, I was like 18, so the times that I heard the word like baby mama or baby daddy for the first time,
01:38:23.500 that was not in circumstances that were very flattering.
01:38:27.560 Okay, well, I have a child, and we weren't married, but we lived together.
01:38:32.440 Everything was together.
01:38:33.840 But we were going to get married one day.
01:38:36.780 That was our goal.
01:38:38.160 So we considered ourselves as a family.
01:38:40.480 We considered ourselves...
01:38:40.760 Yeah, but then we're together together, like still together together.
01:38:43.040 Did he call you baby mama?
01:38:44.580 Never.
01:38:45.400 Then that's...
01:38:45.820 Never.
01:38:46.360 Well, that was your circumstance, because unfortunately, you know, he passed and everything.
01:38:50.640 But you were planning to.
01:38:51.400 It's kind of like an engagement.
01:38:52.060 But during that time, that...
01:38:53.080 So if you're planning to, it's not baby mama.
01:38:54.880 I just want to definition.
01:38:55.500 Well, she's basically saying she was engaged.
01:38:57.180 So she's not a baby mama then, if she's engaged.
01:38:58.920 If you're engaged, it's not a baby mama.
01:39:00.420 If you're married, it's not a baby mama.
01:39:01.780 But if you just have a kid and you're in a relationship, it's baby mama.
01:39:04.800 It's not partner or girlfriend.
01:39:06.300 Because the difference between not being married and legally speaking and having the baby outside of it,
01:39:14.020 there's a difference in commitment.
01:39:15.560 It goes to...
01:39:16.400 Well, legally, as a lawyer, we never use the term baby mama if the mother and father are not married.
01:39:21.300 Well, that's how it's used.
01:39:22.660 Plenty of people use it that are still together and have a kid.
01:39:25.140 That's how it seems to be used.
01:39:26.960 And I'm not the only one who's noticed that she pointed out as well.
01:39:29.440 I think when people are in a relationship, they don't use it.
01:39:31.780 It seems like she even clarified when usually they're not together.
01:39:34.780 I mean, that's most of people's idea of that.
01:39:37.280 But also...
01:39:37.840 I've kind of heard both.
01:39:38.300 I think it depends on what slang you use, though, because it's like a slang.
01:39:41.940 It could be depending where you're from, too.
01:39:43.760 But the point is, one is more committal.
01:39:46.080 If you're willing to commit to someone, you are legally bound to them.
01:39:49.080 That's more of a commitment than just, I'm going to have a baby with somebody,
01:39:52.740 and there's no plans to have that commitment with them.
01:39:55.460 Yeah, that is completely different.
01:39:57.080 Yeah, that's like, oh, we just hooked up and we are having a baby together.
01:40:01.540 Then, okay.
01:40:02.280 But you're not...
01:40:02.420 It's an accident.
01:40:03.160 It's different.
01:40:03.500 Living together, building a life together, that's different.
01:40:06.300 Okay, kind of semantics.
01:40:07.340 Here, let's go back to this thing.
01:40:08.460 Okay, you said that you made a guy who you wanted to be in a relationship, you made him
01:40:14.160 wait six months.
01:40:15.420 I didn't know if I wanted to be in a relationship, but yeah, six months.
01:40:17.820 Before having sex.
01:40:18.700 Yes.
01:40:19.760 And I slept naked in the bed with him and everything.
01:40:22.340 I've done that a lot of times.
01:40:23.480 Actually, every guy except one that I've had sex with, I slept a whole night in the bed naked.
01:40:27.380 And then what's the...
01:40:28.380 Yeah.
01:40:29.360 What is the quickest...
01:40:30.380 I like to sleep naked.
01:40:31.940 I like being naked.
01:40:32.740 What's the quickest period of time that you've hooked up with a guy?
01:40:35.620 I just told you, the guy I do BG content with now, we hooked up the same day we met.
01:40:39.580 But that was an anomaly for sure.
01:40:42.360 Okay.
01:40:42.800 What would you say is your average is of all the men you've slept with?
01:40:47.600 Two to six months.
01:40:50.140 No, I'm like being 100%.
01:40:51.900 I'm Persian.
01:40:52.740 I grew up like...
01:40:53.540 I have to be home at 11 p.m.
01:40:55.360 Where would I...
01:40:55.920 Iran?
01:40:55.940 Yeah, my parents are.
01:40:57.480 I was born here.
01:40:58.380 You're 39.
01:40:59.460 No, she's 39.
01:41:00.500 I'm 28.
01:41:00.880 Oh, excuse me.
01:41:01.420 Excuse me.
01:41:02.080 Okay, I got mixed up.
01:41:03.160 You're 28.
01:41:03.860 Yes.
01:41:03.980 Well, in any case, you've been an adult for...
01:41:06.940 Yeah, but even if I'm...
01:41:08.900 I've only moved out in the last four or five years.
01:41:13.020 And before that, I had to be home at 11.
01:41:14.480 When would I procure said high body count?
01:41:17.480 I don't even...
01:41:18.100 Did you have a car?
01:41:19.700 Yeah, but I had to be home at 11.
01:41:21.740 I wasn't...
01:41:22.440 Well, to be fair...
01:41:23.000 Afternoon delight.
01:41:23.820 To be fair, though...
01:41:24.320 To be fair, if she's saying she's going on...
01:41:25.920 All these dates, right?
01:41:27.740 That means that there's guys willing to go on the dates with her.
01:41:30.620 So, like, if they're already willing to do that, like, that doesn't necessarily mean
01:41:33.480 she has to sleep with them that they're getting that.
01:41:35.900 She's clearly able to, like, replicate it a lot, right?
01:41:38.340 Just number-wise.
01:41:39.740 Sure.
01:41:39.940 So, I think it's believable if you're not sleeping with every single one, if you're able to replicate
01:41:44.220 it so much, just statistically.
01:41:47.760 Also...
01:41:48.200 Two to six months, that's a little suspect.
01:41:52.000 Yeah, but you've seen how bad simps are online.
01:41:55.000 I told you, I like to get to know, and if I have sex with someone...
01:41:57.140 It's not that you're a simp for doing that, though.
01:41:58.600 I start filling in gaps, and I'm very analytical, and so I want to, like, take in all the information,
01:42:03.520 get to know the person, and then I'll sleep with them.
01:42:06.300 Okay.
01:42:06.960 Well, I guess, I mean...
01:42:08.080 I also like making them wait.
01:42:09.320 I like making them sleep in the bed.
01:42:10.260 Do you feel like it...
01:42:11.140 You like making them wait?
01:42:12.360 What do you mean?
01:42:12.940 Like, I like making them control themselves.
01:42:16.460 Yeah, honestly, having sexual discipline is, like, a green flag.
01:42:19.440 Like, if I was sleeping in the bed naked with you, and you, like, you need to be on your
01:42:23.240 best behavior.
01:42:24.140 If you're not, it's a no.
01:42:25.380 Do you feel like it clouds your judgment?
01:42:27.160 If I have sex too early?
01:42:27.860 Yeah, that's what I'm just saying.
01:42:28.600 This doesn't make any sense to me, because the guy who you are now currently fucking,
01:42:32.080 who you do porn with...
01:42:33.320 Yeah.
01:42:33.940 ...speaking of sexual discipline, you slept with him, like, the first time you met,
01:42:38.560 so where did these rules go when you met him?
01:42:40.360 Because I knew I wouldn't like him.
01:42:42.080 And he asked me, like, he asked me about my star sign, I wouldn't...
01:42:45.860 You wouldn't like him?
01:42:46.780 Yeah, because he asked me my star sign.
01:42:47.800 So do you like him now?
01:42:49.100 No.
01:42:49.480 I mean, he's, like, a friend.
01:42:50.480 Hold on, just to be clear.
01:42:51.600 The guys you do like, you make them wait for the reward or sex.
01:42:56.080 Yeah.
01:42:56.320 However, the guy who you dislike, you fuck him immediately.
01:42:59.660 Well, I've only slept with seven people, so clearly I don't...
01:43:02.480 If I just dislike you, it doesn't mean I automatically have sex with you.
01:43:05.940 Okay.
01:43:06.600 So what's your question?
01:43:07.580 But of the seven people you've slept with, the one that you slept with the quickest,
01:43:12.360 I find it interesting that you didn't like him.
01:43:14.280 Yeah, I liked him the least.
01:43:15.800 Isn't that interesting how that works?
01:43:16.820 He met the threshold for I'll have sex with him, but he didn't mean anything.
01:43:19.760 So he's just, what, very physically attractive?
01:43:22.000 No, he just felt like a vibe, and I wanted BG content.
01:43:26.360 He felt like a vibe.
01:43:27.760 Yeah, he felt like he'd be good for the role, and he's great for the role.
01:43:30.180 He would be good for the role.
01:43:33.220 Okay.
01:43:33.980 But would it be better if she did just sleep with every single guy she went on a date on?
01:43:37.900 No, and I don't think it's a bad thing for a woman who waits, but I guess my sticking
01:43:43.760 point with it is, is when you had a way you moved previously, where it was like, okay,
01:43:52.200 I'm just going to hook up with guys really quick, and then you did that throughout your
01:43:56.340 20s, and now you're 30, and okay, now, hmm, I want to find a relationship.
01:44:01.400 I want to settle down with a guy.
01:44:02.640 Well, that's clearly not me.
01:44:03.140 Now, I'm going to switch up my behavior, and the guys in my past, they were all jerks,
01:44:09.220 they were all assholes, slept with them quick.
01:44:10.820 Wait, I have to interject here, because earlier you said that it doesn't reflect if the woman
01:44:16.660 sleeps with you on the first date.
01:44:19.500 What do you mean?
01:44:20.340 That kind of contradicts that.
01:44:21.520 You said earlier.
01:44:22.520 I don't see, I'm not sure there's a contradiction there.
01:44:25.000 So, earlier you said it doesn't necessarily reflect if the woman sleeps around or not,
01:44:28.900 but then you're saying that.
01:44:30.080 No, I'm saying on the sole metric of the quickness with which a woman might sleep with
01:44:37.480 someone, I don't think you can necessarily assume that she's promiscuous or has a high
01:44:42.920 body count based on the quickness that she sleeps with someone.
01:44:46.840 Now, it could be a factor amongst other factors that might lead you to believing that, but.
01:44:52.520 But, okay, I see what you're saying, but you also said that them sleeping around a lot
01:44:58.420 isn't necessarily a good thing, which I agree, I'm anti-hookup culture in general.
01:45:02.280 Sure.
01:45:02.640 Well, okay, let me ask you a question.
01:45:04.320 If a woman who's a virgin sleeps with someone the first night she meets them, is she automatically
01:45:09.260 promiscuous?
01:45:09.920 Um, it wouldn't be a pattern behavior yet, but it is a promiscuous thing to do.
01:45:13.820 That's unlikely.
01:45:14.820 It is a promiscuous thing to do, objectively speaking.
01:45:16.820 It's a little weird.
01:45:17.820 Yeah, and it seems out of behavior, like if she on drugs, she's drinking.
01:45:19.680 It's the beginning of promiscuity.
01:45:20.680 It's less likely.
01:45:21.680 She's on the path to promiscuity, I suppose you could, she's taking her first step.
01:45:24.820 But still promiscuous behavior.
01:45:25.820 It is.
01:45:26.820 It, well, I think the obvious promiscuous behavior would be, the one that immediately
01:45:35.280 comes to me is sleeping with many people.
01:45:39.240 That to me is the clearest definition of what promiscuity is.
01:45:41.940 Well, that's what it is.
01:45:43.500 Yes.
01:45:44.500 So, what I'm trying to say is if you sleep with someone quickly, it doesn't necessarily
01:45:49.780 mean that you're promiscuous.
01:45:51.440 For example, let's say the first person you ever slept with, you ended up dating them for
01:45:55.740 two years, and then you were single for a little bit, and then the next person you sleep with,
01:46:00.560 you then have a three-year relationship, you sleep with them on the second date, and then
01:46:04.560 your third relationship, you slept with them the first night.
01:46:08.560 You've slept with three people, but all of them you slept with relatively quickly, but
01:46:12.700 they all ended up becoming long-term relationships.
01:46:15.340 I don't think you could consider that woman, or man, promiscuous.
01:46:19.480 I think that they got lucky at that point.
01:46:21.940 Yeah, they got lucky.
01:46:22.940 That's what I was going to say.
01:46:23.940 Yeah, sure.
01:46:24.940 I still think that doesn't change that it's promiscuous behavior.
01:46:27.760 It is.
01:46:28.760 Because when you're doing that, you don't even know the person.
01:46:30.760 There's no commitment there at all, right?
01:46:32.660 It's not even really a situationship at that point.
01:46:35.100 You just met this person.
01:46:36.600 Yeah, you just got lucky.
01:46:37.600 I think if you're going to make a bet, though, the best predictor of future behavior is past
01:46:42.880 behavior.
01:46:43.880 So, if you don't have much to go on, and you're like, I wonder what kind of person
01:46:46.760 this is, then you would be like, okay, if she's doing this with me, it's a good guess to say
01:46:51.920 she's done this with other people.
01:46:53.080 Now, that's not 100% sure.
01:46:54.420 Like, in my situation, I've only done that once, and so he would be wrong, but I don't
01:46:58.580 think he would be wrong in making that assumption, which is, I think, what you're saying.
01:47:02.280 Yeah, basically.
01:47:03.240 But the point is, the relationship didn't work, and I think that's what she's talking
01:47:06.060 about, is that these, like, relationships where they just met each other, they instantly
01:47:10.160 had sex, like, what's the odds that's going to work?
01:47:12.560 Because it's dangerous behavior.
01:47:14.020 There's a lot of risks involved when you get that intimate with someone in general.
01:47:16.640 Like, you barely know that person.
01:47:17.600 Like, what I said earlier, like, you're opening up yourself to somebody, like, in such a vulnerable
01:47:21.960 position, like, there's a risk with, like, hooking up, hooking up with somebody, and hookup
01:47:26.700 culture is, you're putting yourself in danger.
01:47:28.700 The whole point is to see the person's crazy before you do anything serious.
01:47:31.700 Well, I think we should also add some context to the situation, too, because, for example,
01:47:37.360 if, certainly if you meet someone at a nightclub, and you're both intoxicated, and you hook up
01:47:42.360 relatively quickly in those circumstances, you know, that is perhaps not the best starting
01:47:49.180 point for a serious relationship.
01:47:51.200 However, if, you know, you met at, I don't know, some, you met in person at some sort of
01:47:58.600 shared hobby, or, you know, you had a conversation that, about expectations in the
01:48:06.260 relationship, and, you know, you didn't meet at some, in some sort of party environment where
01:48:11.080 alcohol was involved, or another contextual thing might be people who are traveling around.
01:48:17.080 If the person that you're about to sleep with, they're in town for two days, and they live
01:48:23.200 3,000 miles away, and they don't.
01:48:24.740 I don't think that makes it less promiscuous, though.
01:48:26.960 I understand what you're saying with the different contexts of the situations, but I have to ask
01:48:32.180 the question, what would someone that does partake in hookup culture and likes to have
01:48:36.940 casual sex, they go on a date, what would they do?
01:48:39.680 They would have sex.
01:48:40.540 Yeah.
01:48:40.660 Generally speaking, they like that they would have sex with them, right?
01:48:42.880 So, then what does it say about somebody, if they're doing that, they just meet someone
01:48:47.240 and then they're having sex?
01:48:48.160 Because I know for me, as somebody that's against that, that I wouldn't do that.
01:48:52.560 Okay.
01:48:52.800 So, I'm betting that other people, like, just pattern behavior also wouldn't want to do that.
01:48:59.100 So, somebody that is promiscuous, they do sleep on the first day.
01:49:03.340 That's what a hoe would do, right?
01:49:06.280 Short-term, like, slang, right?
01:49:08.920 Yeah.
01:49:09.080 So, I think it does reflect her behavior, just by definition.
01:49:14.280 There's a probability that maybe she's not.
01:49:16.200 If you're lucky, maybe she was just really in that mood, maybe she just really had a good
01:49:20.020 date, there's a possibility, but very likely that she's just promiscuous.
01:49:25.300 If she doesn't text you after and she ghosts you, then, yeah, she's definitely promiscuous.
01:49:29.940 Yeah, but what if the guy sucks?
01:49:31.900 Like, what if you go into it and you're like, oh, this guy's awesome, we're vibing, we have
01:49:35.000 so much in common, and then it's like, don't ever touch me.
01:49:39.960 Why would you do that?
01:49:41.480 Well, you don't know until you sleep with him.
01:49:43.020 Also, you could grow sexually in that relationship.
01:49:45.720 Yeah, there's that too, but.
01:49:47.420 Go ahead, Sophia.
01:49:48.340 I mean, if you could stay with them if you really like them and grow with them and figure
01:49:52.420 out what, you know, works right for you and, like, all that.
01:49:56.480 Well, what if it's so bad, you're like, I don't ever want to see this person again?
01:50:00.140 Like, is that okay?
01:50:01.760 Why can't you do that with getting to know them first, though, and then you sleep?
01:50:05.220 Well, no, I'm just saying, hypothetically, like, you're just like, I never want to, like,
01:50:09.120 this person's into some weird shit.
01:50:10.740 I don't ever want to see, like, it ruins your image of them.
01:50:13.920 That makes sense.
01:50:14.320 You're like, no, I can't.
01:50:15.180 Like, I'm out of here.
01:50:15.980 Yeah, exactly.
01:50:16.520 Is that okay?
01:50:18.500 I can get that, but, like, I mean, personally, if they're just, like, bad or they're a virgin,
01:50:22.640 I mean, you could grow with them, you know, and work sexually to, like, you know, get what
01:50:29.020 you like.
01:50:30.060 Yeah, that's always an option.
01:50:30.700 You don't have to just break up with someone just because they're not good at sex.
01:50:34.060 I mean, I feel like that's very superficial.
01:50:36.140 If you really like them, you'll probably work through it.
01:50:38.140 I agree.
01:50:38.580 I don't think that's, like, a good reason.
01:50:41.400 I think in the grand scheme of things, though, at the end of the day, it really just depends
01:50:44.700 on what people are looking at.
01:50:46.060 But I think if somebody wants a long-term commitment, and therefore marriage should
01:50:50.780 be the goal, and therefore you should do things that a person that wants to get married would
01:50:54.760 do.
01:50:54.940 And I don't think sleeping around with people on the first night is something that someone
01:50:58.340 wants to get married wants to do.
01:50:59.660 Yeah.
01:51:01.060 That's fair.
01:51:01.660 They're very out of practice.
01:51:03.220 Well, to get back to the original thing, though, I guess my quarrel is, you know, there can be
01:51:11.920 trends that I've noticed where, for example, a woman throughout her 20s, she'll gladly engage
01:51:19.060 in hookup culture, sleep with people relatively quickly, and then, or even, you know, within
01:51:25.800 the same time frame, she'll have one standard for one set of guy, and then another standard
01:51:30.360 for another set of guy.
01:51:31.660 So the guy who, he's just really attractive or whatever, she'll sleep with him quick.
01:51:36.720 She doesn't have any expectation of a relationship.
01:51:39.980 However, the guy she wants a relationship from, she makes him wait for sex, even if maybe he
01:51:46.020 wants sex.
01:51:47.000 What's the problem, though?
01:51:48.220 But it seems...
01:51:48.700 Well, it's like two standards.
01:51:50.760 Well, I mean, she has a standard for the guy she wants to sleep with because she doesn't
01:51:53.640 want anything else.
01:51:54.380 But like, for me, like I said, the reason I wait, the more I like a guy is because I
01:51:57.400 don't want my judgment clouded by sex.
01:51:59.040 I want to see what kind of person they are.
01:52:00.340 I want to see how emotionally intelligent they are.
01:52:02.120 I want to get to know them.
01:52:03.020 I want to see them on a bad day.
01:52:04.420 And if I have sex with them, my brain is going to want to fill in those gaps and be like,
01:52:08.000 oh, no, he's great.
01:52:08.720 So I wait.
01:52:09.440 I'm not just doing it for no reason.
01:52:12.560 But it's just, it's a, it's an odd standard to have.
01:52:16.400 So what if the woman does have that standard?
01:52:18.700 Why is it odd?
01:52:19.620 Because to you, it seems like it doesn't actually matter if they have that standard that they'll
01:52:23.640 sleep with Chad, but not the nerd or whatever, because as long as they're sleeping with you,
01:52:29.420 that's what it kind of seems like.
01:52:31.380 What do you mean?
01:52:32.020 Well, because it's like you're commenting on that style, right?
01:52:36.440 Of, oh, well, will you hook up with a Chad, but then make this other guy wait?
01:52:40.680 Because he's kind of like being portrayed in this situation as a simp.
01:52:44.440 I'm not saying that waiting makes you a simp, by the way, obviously.
01:52:49.500 Like, I think waiting for sex is a good thing.
01:52:50.820 And I don't expect them to be like waiting for me.
01:52:53.400 But it's just that it seems like, because you said you are okay with a girl doing it
01:52:58.180 on the first date and you could see that being a long-term thing.
01:53:01.580 Who said that?
01:53:02.540 Brian said that?
01:53:03.700 Yeah.
01:53:04.240 I know he ain't.
01:53:05.260 Brian.
01:53:05.940 What?
01:53:06.160 You said you would think about marrying a bitch that literally took on a birthday.
01:53:10.440 Well, hold on.
01:53:10.740 I'm not in favor of marriage, but.
01:53:12.840 Well, you would consider a long-term relationship with a girl that give it up on the first night.
01:53:18.240 Or kids.
01:53:19.600 You would consider that truly deep down in your soul and heart?
01:53:23.760 That's a good question.
01:53:24.660 I mean, look, again, you have to understand there's other criteria with which you can
01:53:32.880 assess promiscuity.
01:53:34.580 To me, I don't think the quickness with which a woman sleeps with someone is necessarily
01:53:40.160 like the sole indicator of promiscuity.
01:53:42.700 But that's what they do.
01:53:43.840 But you be talking about these girls be out here getting ran through.
01:53:47.100 Okay, so for example, you can make the argument that women who are promiscuous, more likely
01:53:52.760 than not, do sleep with people quickly.
01:53:55.100 However, not all women who sleep with people quickly are promiscuous.
01:53:59.020 So you're saying that women that aren't promiscuous do promiscuous behavior?
01:54:03.960 He's saying promiscuous.
01:54:05.460 We're looking at the, let me use a legal term.
01:54:06.940 I'm not entirely following, but I think you're a little too stuck on some comment that I previously
01:54:11.820 made when it comes.
01:54:12.700 He's looking at the totality of the circumstances.
01:54:13.320 I'm coming to the one you just made.
01:54:14.440 Right, because you're saying that women that aren't promiscuous do promiscuous behavior.
01:54:20.160 So you're saying that don't make sense.
01:54:22.240 It's not entirely.
01:54:23.820 So you're saying the only criteria for promiscuity is dealing with someone?
01:54:28.120 Promiscuous behavior would be fucking a lot of dudes.
01:54:29.680 I understand what you mean.
01:54:31.120 Like, I mean, with my boyfriend, I did it pretty quick than, like, any other guy I dated.
01:54:36.020 And I don't think that necessarily makes me promiscuous.
01:54:38.620 But I think you're meaning in the stance of doing it a lot.
01:54:42.480 Because you could, like, have sex with someone, like, right when you meet them the first night,
01:54:47.260 but never do it again.
01:54:48.060 It doesn't make you promiscuous.
01:54:48.960 What does a woman have to do for you to declare them promiscuous?
01:54:51.840 Give us a list.
01:54:52.580 Is it just she sleeps with one guy on one night the first time?
01:54:55.300 And it's, like, is it an elements test?
01:54:57.060 Are we looking at the totality of the circumstances?
01:54:59.060 Are there degrees to promiscuity?
01:55:00.700 Sorry, I was distracted by her giving middle finger.
01:55:02.460 What are we giving middle finger to?
01:55:04.580 Somebody said what I already addressed on the first episode I was on is that I sound like a man.
01:55:09.880 I'm so sick of people.
01:55:11.080 Your mama look like a man, bitch.
01:55:13.680 You don't sound like a man.
01:55:15.340 But to answer your question, promiscuous behavior, especially if it's repeated, right?
01:55:20.060 Only time can tell.
01:55:20.980 So, promiscuous behavior, if a woman engages in promiscuous behavior, and to you, promiscuous behavior could literally just mean sleeping with a man one time for the first time, and then it's done.
01:55:30.420 She's in that box.
01:55:31.780 She's promiscuous.
01:55:33.220 She might be.
01:55:34.020 Yeah, I agree.
01:55:34.420 She might be, but he's saying that she may not be here.
01:55:37.220 I would say so, yeah.
01:55:38.640 You would say that she's, okay.
01:55:39.800 Would you say dressing?
01:55:40.860 You could change, though.
01:55:41.700 You could change.
01:55:42.360 Brittany, let me ask you a question.
01:55:43.440 Would you say that showing cleavage or dressing in a revealing manner is promiscuous behavior?
01:55:49.420 Well, I think that cleavage has a degree, right?
01:55:53.160 Because some women are more curvy than others, and, for example, you can't get away with wearing the same things on a societal level if you have bigger breasts than girls who have smaller breasts.
01:56:03.740 I totally get that.
01:56:04.920 That's kind of true.
01:56:05.320 So, for example, I saw on one of the episodes the one where the girl flashed, which, by the way, was really messed up for her to do.
01:56:12.380 Yeah.
01:56:12.900 But, like, for example, Madison, I think her name is?
01:56:15.760 Right, your name?
01:56:16.320 Yes.
01:56:16.520 So, like, you were wearing this cute blue top, but it was, like, a lingerie top.
01:56:20.660 It even had, like, garter belts on it.
01:56:22.320 And as somebody who's grown up wearing normal clothes and getting called a whore, if I wear something that has, like, any cleavage because I'm more curvy, I get curious.
01:56:30.240 So I check the comments to see, like, I wonder if anyone mentions, like, it's a lingerie.
01:56:33.700 I know it's fashion.
01:56:34.620 I know it's fashion.
01:56:35.560 But, like, I noticed, like, in that example and in general that girls that are more petite, skinnier, they get away a lot more wearing the same clothing.
01:56:41.960 Oh, no, you're totally right.
01:56:43.280 I mean, I would borrow, like, some of my friends' clothes that are, you know, like, D-cups and, you know, I would get away with pretty much anything versus they would be told, like, no, go home, go get changed.
01:56:54.540 Um, I'd like to say also that I'm anti-porn and I noticed a comment that one of my friends sent me was that I had a top on and it's, like, from Brandy Melville and most of the models that they have.
01:57:05.800 Yeah, I've had that, yeah.
01:57:06.520 And I was having a low shirt and someone said, like, oh, the person, um, it was, like, kind of, like, a little, like, kind of, yeah.
01:57:15.980 And I had, like, the one with the buttons down the middle?
01:57:18.040 Yeah.
01:57:18.340 Yeah.
01:57:18.500 And, um, and someone said the girl at the lowest hanging top is anti-porn and it's, like, well, I have breasts, you know.
01:57:26.360 Yeah, and cleavage will happen sometimes.
01:57:27.900 And if any other girl that, you know, doesn't, like, it looks modest on her.
01:57:32.540 Yeah.
01:57:32.840 But, you know, I can't control that, you know.
01:57:35.680 Yeah.
01:57:35.860 And I just thought that's weird because what I'm wearing has nothing to do with, you know, being anti-porn.
01:57:40.360 Yeah.
01:57:40.600 And obviously there's a way you could dress promiscuous and be curvy or, like, a skinny girl doing it too, but it just seems like there's different standards.
01:57:46.740 So, I don't necessarily believe, like, a centimeter of cleavage equals promiscuous.
01:57:51.580 Well, I think you're too hyper.
01:57:52.700 Girls have different body types.
01:57:53.080 There's something like that.
01:57:53.580 We can't leave our tits at home, you know.
01:57:55.780 Well, I think you are a little too hyper-focused specifically on the cleavage component of what I said.
01:58:00.620 But, for example, regardless of your.
01:58:02.380 Well, that was why I added the end part.
01:58:04.040 Because a lot of people will do that.
01:58:04.920 They'll literally wear the same top and one has bigger chest.
01:58:07.380 Sure.
01:58:07.540 One has a smaller chest.
01:58:08.380 Yeah, and it's, like, can't relate to having big tits.
01:58:11.640 So, I'm just coming on that.
01:58:11.980 Like, I actually just made a video.
01:58:13.500 Sure.
01:58:13.820 I look promiscuous in everything.
01:58:15.300 My view of promiscuity, while I suppose the quickness with which you sleep with someone could, you could make some inferences about their promiscuity,
01:58:24.940 I think ultimately the main thing you'd have to look at is how many sexual partners they have, how many people they're sleeping with.
01:58:33.580 Well, how many is too many of you?
01:58:35.020 But they can lie to you.
01:58:36.020 Huh?
01:58:36.200 They can lie.
01:58:36.800 They ain't got to tell you the truth.
01:58:38.240 Yeah.
01:58:38.520 But he's saying the definition of promiscuity is sleeping with multiple people.
01:58:43.800 That's the real number.
01:58:46.400 We have to define promiscuity.
01:58:47.800 So, you have very interesting definitions.
01:58:49.680 He's saying the definition, which is the most widely accepted, is somebody who has a lot of sexual partners is a promiscuous person.
01:58:55.120 That is the definition, but there's also promiscuous behavior, right?
01:58:58.720 Like, there's a difference between having, like, a little bit of cleavage or wearing a mini skirt and then, like, having your ass cheeks falling out of a skirt and having, like, your nipples almost showing in a shirt.
01:59:08.400 So, you're saying you could engage in promiscuous behavior, though, and not be promiscuous, then?
01:59:11.960 Are we separating?
01:59:12.220 There's a line to where it is or isn't promiscuous in terms of, like, dressing, fashion-wise, for example.
01:59:16.560 So, he's saying that, yeah, if sleeping with someone on a first date is promiscuous behavior, that doesn't necessarily mean they're promiscuous because promiscuous has a definition.
01:59:24.700 But promiscuous behavior means you did sleep with multiple people.
01:59:27.540 So, I think for the time, it does mean that because...
01:59:30.020 What do you mean the time?
01:59:30.940 Like, it just changes?
01:59:31.540 Meaning they could decide, meaning later on, maybe they stop doing that and they're no longer a promiscuous person.
01:59:35.140 So, to you, the definition of promiscuous doesn't mean to sleep with multiple people.
01:59:37.880 The word promiscuous means to do that behavior, right?
01:59:41.500 So, you're not separating behavior from promiscuous.
01:59:43.920 It's like, is promiscuous behavior different from promiscuous women?
01:59:47.500 Promiscuous women have promiscuous behavior.
01:59:49.480 And if somebody has promiscuous behavior, then they are promiscuous women.
01:59:53.600 They're necessarily promiscuous.
01:59:54.920 They are promiscuous.
01:59:55.400 So, if you have promiscuous behavior, for that time being, unless you change later on...
01:59:58.440 What do you mean that time?
01:59:59.380 So, you're...
02:00:00.020 So, a certain amount of time passes.
02:00:00.980 Does promiscuous mean that you have multiple partners?
02:00:04.480 Or no?
02:00:04.960 Because that's what the widely accepted definition of promiscuous means.
02:00:08.080 It doesn't mean that you...
02:00:08.940 You say more than one?
02:00:10.240 I guess that's what it means.
02:00:10.920 That's what it means.
02:00:11.540 Or, I mean, having many...
02:00:13.020 Having many transient sexual relationships.
02:00:16.720 So, I'll put it this way.
02:00:17.420 If a girl was a virgin, but then she had an OnlyFans, and she does full nude, full engaged
02:00:23.280 porn on her site, wouldn't she be called promiscuous, despite her being a virgin?
02:00:28.040 So, you're...
02:00:28.600 No, not really.
02:00:29.140 That might be the perception, but is it true?
02:00:32.460 Yes, because...
02:00:33.920 Yo, Adam, thank you for the 20 gifted memberships.
02:00:36.680 Appreciate it.
02:00:37.140 Go ahead.
02:00:37.360 Yes, because that's how the language is used.
02:00:40.820 Language is used how people actually use it.
02:00:43.960 That's how...
02:00:45.040 Even if a dictionary says, this is a young thing, you use it very differently than the
02:00:48.500 rest of us.
02:00:49.180 But if they don't know the actual definition and what something means, then they're using
02:00:52.040 these words wrong.
02:00:53.100 You're using it different than how we would use it, for instance.
02:00:55.640 What makes you right?
02:00:57.140 Either there's a definition...
02:00:57.760 We're basically saying the same thing.
02:00:59.160 It's just people are drawing the different lines.
02:01:01.460 Promiscuous women have promiscuous behavior.
02:01:03.660 But not all promiscuous behavior necessarily means a promiscuous woman.
02:01:07.980 That's what he was saying.
02:01:09.100 That distinction.
02:01:09.620 Are we talking about right now or in the future?
02:01:10.900 There's just some kind of logical fallacy.
02:01:12.360 I forgot what it is.
02:01:12.740 I mean, if that's the message that you're sending, maybe...
02:01:16.360 You know, if you show cleavage, you're sending promiscuous...
02:01:19.660 So, you're defining promiscuous women as any promiscuous cleavage is arranged, right?
02:01:24.640 Okay, promiscuity is inherently about sexual non-selectiveness with numerous people.
02:01:31.220 Right.
02:01:31.540 So, if you have an OnlyFans, that could qualify.
02:01:34.140 Even if you're a virgin, you're still...
02:01:35.660 But you're posting pictures of yourself online.
02:01:37.940 You're not touching other people.
02:01:38.880 You're showing your intimacy.
02:01:39.900 While sleeping on the first date may not mean the woman is promiscuous,
02:01:44.020 it does mean she has poor sexual boundaries.
02:01:47.320 Either way, it is a red flag.
02:01:49.780 Not necessarily, but it could be a red flag.
02:01:52.080 But I think sexual discipline is very important.
02:01:53.640 How do you know she's being faithful?
02:01:54.600 She just slept with you on the first date.
02:01:55.680 She could just lie.
02:01:56.920 She could.
02:01:57.240 But you did, too.
02:01:58.700 Huh?
02:01:58.900 Well, whoever the man is, did, too.
02:02:00.540 He slept with her on the first date, too.
02:02:02.700 The exception doesn't make the rule of people.
02:02:04.920 So, like, would you commit to a girl, she's only slept with you,
02:02:07.000 but she has the OnlyFans and she's fully nude?
02:02:10.260 What is...
02:02:10.820 Hold on.
02:02:11.420 One second.
02:02:12.460 I want to...
02:02:12.660 She really...
02:02:13.300 Okay, she's farming here.
02:02:14.500 Okay.
02:02:15.600 Sorry.
02:02:16.020 Repeat the question.
02:02:16.960 So, if a girl was a virgin and she had full nude OnlyFans,
02:02:20.960 it's pornographic, it's intended to make men coom, right?
02:02:24.540 Cooming, yeah.
02:02:25.100 So, she's a virgin, she only had sex with you, right?
02:02:29.100 She's no longer virgin because she had sex with you,
02:02:30.680 or she intends to, at the very least, right?
02:02:33.040 Would you consider being in a long-term relationship,
02:02:35.980 meaning, like, the equivalent of marriage and having kids with her?
02:02:38.520 Would you consider that promiscuous?
02:02:41.140 Would I...
02:02:41.860 Hold on.
02:02:42.240 Well, there's two separate questions there.
02:02:43.400 Would I get married to her?
02:02:44.860 Would I have kids with her?
02:02:45.960 Yeah.
02:02:46.200 And would I consider it promiscuous?
02:02:49.260 Well, as far as having options go,
02:02:51.960 I would much rather date a woman who doesn't have OnlyFans.
02:02:55.940 Why?
02:02:57.000 Why?
02:02:57.960 Well, it's just better options.
02:03:00.180 Why?
02:03:00.500 Because it's not promiscuous?
02:03:02.600 Can you just buy...
02:03:03.960 Is it promiscuous to have an OnlyFans?
02:03:05.780 It's a different word.
02:03:06.560 It's a different word.
02:03:07.760 I don't think having an OnlyFans necessarily means you are promiscuous.
02:03:13.420 But it's different.
02:03:14.360 There's other factors with which you can disqualify a potential partner besides promiscuity.
02:03:19.500 But it's disqualifying her, but why?
02:03:21.520 For example, having your nude content online may be a boundary for some men that doesn't
02:03:26.020 want to have a relationship.
02:03:26.800 It's not exclusivity.
02:03:27.260 Like, you see they're either not exclusive with you that she's had 30 sexual partners
02:03:32.080 or she's not exclusive with you, as in she's had lots of people on the internet looking at her.
02:03:36.340 But why are we throwing this under the promiscuous umbrella?
02:03:38.380 Because you're saying that promiscuity, please.
02:03:40.400 Hold on.
02:03:40.820 Hold on.
02:03:41.100 I feel like this is almost a semantic...
02:03:43.080 It's too semantic.
02:03:44.080 No, because you're saying you would not prefer that.
02:03:46.620 And I agree.
02:03:47.140 I also wouldn't prefer a guy who had an OnlyFans showing their bubble.
02:03:49.960 That's a different...
02:03:50.800 Give me the God show.
02:03:51.620 Completely different.
02:03:51.960 Come get...
02:03:52.760 Let's hear the God show.
02:03:54.460 You're saying that you wouldn't date her, which is fair, right?
02:03:57.040 Okay.
02:03:57.600 But you're saying that you wouldn't date her.
02:03:59.840 It's like, okay, but why?
02:04:00.900 Why do you have an averse to OnlyFans if it's not promiscuous?
02:04:03.320 Sure.
02:04:03.620 Well, okay.
02:04:03.940 For example, if I do want to have kids with a woman and she has her nude photographs online,
02:04:07.700 not ideal, the kids may be subject to bullying.
02:04:12.340 Right.
02:04:12.680 I agree.
02:04:13.300 Also, I think there's some reputational concerns of, you know, amongst my peer group...
02:04:17.980 But why?
02:04:18.560 Because it's promiscuous, right?
02:04:19.860 She's not exclusive to you.
02:04:20.860 I don't think it's about promiscuity.
02:04:22.040 I think it's just like a societal, cultural...
02:04:25.320 It's an L for a guy.
02:04:25.540 I'm norm, yeah.
02:04:25.560 Hold on, let me finish.
02:04:26.520 It's like a societal, cultural thing that there are...
02:04:29.440 Why?
02:04:30.220 I think porn and showing your body naked online is stigmatized.
02:04:34.740 Not because of promiscuity, but just on its own, it's stigmatized.
02:04:39.540 Why?
02:04:40.720 Why?
02:04:41.080 Wouldn't it be because it's promiscuous?
02:04:41.580 Are you trying to get me to say that it's promiscuous?
02:04:43.360 I think you're getting really stuck on the promisc...
02:04:45.900 What would be the other version?
02:04:46.020 Because that's why I would say no.
02:04:47.420 Because I would be like, yeah, that's kind of promiscuous behavior.
02:04:49.680 I don't want that to be the father of my kids.
02:04:51.220 They have an OnlyFans.
02:04:51.840 I don't know if it's promiscuous behavior to have an only word.
02:04:54.840 Can we get a different word, though?
02:04:55.300 Yeah, the right word.
02:04:56.080 Or can you just define promiscuous?
02:04:57.800 I don't think we disagree on the actual underlying meaning,
02:05:01.600 but I'm not sure if the word usage here is precise.
02:05:05.220 You defined it earlier, which is why I further asked you.
02:05:08.120 Because you said it's to be sexual multiple people,
02:05:10.320 and that is being sexual multiple people.
02:05:11.960 It's having an OnlyFans.
02:05:12.820 They're not touching you.
02:05:14.300 They're looking at you.
02:05:15.420 They're selling sex for money.
02:05:16.540 So wait, selling sex for money virtually
02:05:18.620 is the same thing as having multiple partners?
02:05:20.420 Like, is that just...
02:05:21.220 It's promiscuous.
02:05:22.220 It is promiscuous.
02:05:22.960 Okay, what is...
02:05:23.980 Somebody defined promiscuous, and let's go by that definition.
02:05:26.060 Well, he said non-exclusive behavior.
02:05:28.480 I think we're too stuck on the promiscuous.
02:05:29.820 As a lawyer, like, my term is defined.
02:05:31.100 At least one of them is making money.
02:05:33.100 Yeah.
02:05:35.140 Sorry.
02:05:36.060 Yeah.
02:05:36.300 Did I adequately answer your question,
02:05:39.240 or do you feel like I haven't addressed your...
02:05:42.220 I feel like it's either because it's...
02:05:44.740 Because those things that you've said,
02:05:46.160 like being bullied and the stigmatization,
02:05:48.560 that comes from the act of it being promiscuous.
02:05:51.880 That's why it's stigmatized.
02:05:53.620 That's why you're called a hoe.
02:05:54.700 It may be...
02:05:54.720 Right?
02:05:55.240 That's why she had hoe in her bio, for example,
02:05:56.880 because she's aware of the stigma that it says.
02:05:58.780 I don't think taking new...
02:06:00.100 Even though it's like a joke or a play on it.
02:06:02.760 It's like the self-awareness of the joke.
02:06:04.360 So can you just define promiscuity, please?
02:06:05.360 But okay, so we're basically having an argument about words.
02:06:07.800 He did earlier, and I said I agree,
02:06:09.500 and that's why we expanded on the question.
02:06:10.960 But let's disregard our...
02:06:12.180 But your examples don't fit the definition.
02:06:13.620 Hold on, hold on.
02:06:13.860 Let me just say...
02:06:14.620 Let's disregard this disagreement on what promiscuity is,
02:06:22.900 but let's get to the actual bare bones of it.
02:06:24.960 What exactly is your argument?
02:06:27.900 Or are we just arguing about, well, what is promiscuity?
02:06:32.060 Because I think it's just we're going to...
02:06:34.820 We're certain...
02:06:36.140 What's the fucking term?
02:06:37.040 Well, the point is it's bad for a reason
02:06:39.100 or undesirable to certain people for a reason,
02:06:41.380 and I feel like you're not acknowledging the reason that it's bad,
02:06:44.340 which is because it's viewed as promiscuous behavior.
02:06:46.580 It's a promiscuous thing to do.
02:06:48.480 I think it's bad for other reasons.
02:06:49.900 But he said it earlier, and I agreed with it.
02:06:51.760 So then promiscuous behavior is separate from promiscuity.
02:06:54.960 If promiscuity certainly means having multiple partners,
02:06:58.000 then promiscuous behavior doesn't mean...
02:06:59.620 Because you could have promiscuous behavior and not have multiple partners.
02:07:02.020 Right, but you're selling yourself sexually for men's gratification to the masses.
02:07:05.880 And that means that you have multiple partners?
02:07:08.120 Yeah, selling your physical body, you're selling...
02:07:10.100 So I just negated your definition since I don't have multiple partners.
02:07:12.860 So if someone sees you on YouTube and they think you're really hot
02:07:15.400 and they pause it on a hot...
02:07:17.180 Into the mic.
02:07:17.860 View of you.
02:07:18.500 No, but you're...
02:07:19.080 And then they jerk off to that.
02:07:20.620 That's not what OnlyFansGirl is doing, though.
02:07:22.500 Her whole job...
02:07:23.400 So promiscuity to you involves selling sex.
02:07:25.280 It's not just having multiple partners.
02:07:26.740 It could be a multitude of things, right?
02:07:28.940 It could be selling sex.
02:07:30.520 It's generally giving out sex, even if it's transactional,
02:07:34.260 even if it's just them.
02:07:35.480 It's intended to make a guy coom.
02:07:37.600 That still counts.
02:07:38.620 So you're redefining promiscuity away from his definition.
02:07:41.140 That's all I wanted.
02:07:41.540 No, no.
02:07:42.340 He defined it earlier as like...
02:07:44.220 Having multiple partners.
02:07:45.480 No, he defined it earlier as giving away sex to multiple people.
02:07:48.580 I said that could also, if you rewind it,
02:07:50.080 that could also apply to OnlyFans.
02:07:51.440 And that's what I said.
02:07:52.220 So I was agreeing with that definition.
02:07:53.120 But you're quite...
02:07:53.720 I mean, if the example you provided was,
02:07:56.760 this girl's a virgin, she's only been with you,
02:07:59.720 but she does post her nude photos.
02:08:02.740 But using the words that just came out of your mouth,
02:08:04.860 that's not promiscuity.
02:08:06.720 You're selling your sex to multiple men.
02:08:08.200 Multiple men are engaging in a transaction with you that's sexual...
02:08:10.400 You're selling your sexuality to multiple men, not sex.
02:08:13.940 Which kind of ruins the point of a marriage.
02:08:16.260 Where's the intimacy, then?
02:08:17.200 Isn't that the whole point of the relationship,
02:08:18.500 is to have that intimacy?
02:08:20.280 You're selling your intimacy.
02:08:21.340 You're getting rid of the thing that makes you exclusive to the other person.
02:08:24.160 Like, this is something...
02:08:24.680 What if it's a couple?
02:08:25.200 Even if they see you in clothes,
02:08:26.560 they're not going to know exactly what the person looks like naked
02:08:28.500 unless they show themselves an OnlyFans.
02:08:29.840 I think we're arguing over semantics here, so...
02:08:32.660 But there's a difference between...
02:08:34.740 There is a difference between your girl, like,
02:08:37.360 sleeping with other men versus her posting nude...
02:08:42.540 I don't know if exactly...
02:08:43.340 So if you were in a relationship, right...
02:08:46.320 I don't think either are ideal,
02:08:48.320 but I think they're different things.
02:08:50.420 So if you were in a relationship
02:08:51.720 and your girl sent her news to another guy,
02:08:53.400 wouldn't you consider that cheating?
02:08:55.880 Yes.
02:08:56.700 Why?
02:08:57.980 Isn't that promiscuous?
02:08:59.240 No, it's not.
02:08:59.960 It's not about being promiscuous.
02:09:02.060 I don't think that's promiscuous.
02:09:03.760 So it's not a good thing?
02:09:05.800 I think we both agree it's not a good thing.
02:09:07.360 But it's cheating, isn't it?
02:09:08.580 Yeah.
02:09:08.800 It is cheating,
02:09:09.360 but I don't know why you need to tag on the promiscuity label to it.
02:09:12.760 Well, I thought we were okay with adding labels here.
02:09:15.300 In that case, like,
02:09:16.220 let's never call someone a hoe then, right?
02:09:18.280 Forgo the labels at that point.
02:09:19.960 It just seems like it's when it's confusing.
02:09:21.960 Are you just, like, arguing to argue?
02:09:23.260 I'm a little confused here.
02:09:24.240 But it's not...
02:09:26.960 Can I insert an example?
02:09:29.800 So Marilyn Monroe married multiple times.
02:09:32.220 She was the first model for Playboy, right?
02:09:35.120 Nude.
02:09:35.240 I mean, it was in consensual, unconsensual.
02:09:39.700 Okay, then what about Iman, David Bowie's wife?
02:09:42.620 She posed...
02:09:43.200 Excuse me.
02:09:44.500 Jesus Christ.
02:09:44.960 She's posed nude for multiple magazines.
02:09:47.880 Heidi Klum.
02:09:48.760 I can go and name off so many models that do nude, you know, photos.
02:09:52.920 Or what about somebody that does nude modeling for art school?
02:09:55.720 It's the context.
02:09:56.660 So do you go to a museum to jerk off?
02:09:58.420 No, you don't.
02:09:59.140 Some people do.
02:10:00.100 That's why a museum isn't porn.
02:10:01.900 It's the difference.
02:10:03.080 I went to the tape museum.
02:10:04.240 I fucking went hard.
02:10:05.480 Okay, let me do some super...
02:10:06.880 Let me do some super chats.
02:10:09.300 All right, we got Mr. Cappadocia here.
02:10:11.820 OF girls sell a product to addicts in the same way a dealer does, and they rationalize it.
02:10:17.120 Then talk about ethics, right?
02:10:18.620 She knows she sells poison and knows it.
02:10:20.320 And blonde has a weird, I don't want to know complex.
02:10:23.060 Whole panel is about denial tonight.
02:10:24.940 Mr. Cappadocia, thank you very much.
02:10:26.380 This came in like over an hour ago, so I think this was related to our discussion on...
02:10:29.640 To me?
02:10:30.660 Yeah.
02:10:31.440 So, I mean, if somebody owns a donut shop, right?
02:10:34.680 Like, people can enjoy the donut in moderation.
02:10:38.180 It's not a detriment to everyone who gets a donut, even though a donut could be unhealthy
02:10:41.860 if you have an unhealthy relationship with food.
02:10:43.880 Right, but if you...
02:10:44.800 I don't know if I'm allowed to say the word.
02:10:47.680 M-U-R-D-E-R.
02:10:48.780 If someone did that to someone once, wouldn't they be considered a M-U-R-D-E-R-E-R?
02:10:54.360 It says spelling bee now.
02:10:55.140 So what are you calling me?
02:10:56.300 A murderer?
02:10:56.760 No, I'm not calling you one.
02:10:58.540 Yeah, a life-ender.
02:10:59.080 I'm not selling a product to addicts.
02:11:02.020 Muck duck?
02:11:02.500 My point is, if someone owns a bar and there are some alcoholics, but they're selling
02:11:08.880 the alcohol to everybody, then are they selling a product to addicts?
02:11:14.660 Technically, some of them are, but are they responsible for that?
02:11:17.540 So porn addicts are actually a very small portion of porn.
02:11:20.280 But they're not the alcohol.
02:11:21.360 You are the product.
02:11:23.600 Okay, so I'm selling...
02:11:25.100 What are you...
02:11:25.420 Wait, what?
02:11:25.780 That's her knowledge.
02:11:27.060 All right, here, let's move on.
02:11:28.240 All right.
02:11:28.500 Bender the Offender.
02:11:29.380 Hey, good to see you in the chat, man.
02:11:30.500 Ladies, if your dream man got you pregnant, but he did not want the child and you did,
02:11:35.240 what would be your response to him?
02:11:36.920 Let's start with you, Sofia.
02:11:37.920 Go ahead.
02:11:39.760 I don't know.
02:11:40.740 That would suck.
02:11:43.280 What would I do?
02:11:46.500 Have the kid, I guess?
02:11:49.020 Okay.
02:11:50.280 What about you?
02:11:51.200 I would have the kid.
02:11:52.740 Okay.
02:11:53.020 I'm pro-life, so get the fuck out would be my response to that.
02:11:58.140 Okay.
02:11:59.040 Sorry.
02:12:00.820 I would have the kid and say, I see you in court, motherfucker.
02:12:04.320 Yeah.
02:12:07.020 I would do the same thing she would do.
02:12:08.940 I think I definitely wouldn't be attracted, and it wouldn't be my dream man who had that
02:12:14.960 sort of attitude.
02:12:17.440 Yeah.
02:12:17.980 I agree with that, you know?
02:12:19.600 Yeah.
02:12:19.900 That would definitely not be my dream man.
02:12:22.360 Yeah, exactly.
02:12:23.040 I didn't even see that part.
02:12:23.980 Go ahead.
02:12:25.200 I think it's a challenge, and if I got into that position, I think I could do it.
02:12:29.380 I wouldn't want to raise a child on my own, but I definitely think I would step up and
02:12:33.620 do it.
02:12:35.000 Brittany, what about you?
02:12:36.860 Wait.
02:12:37.680 I'm not a girl.
02:12:38.700 Yeah.
02:12:38.920 It says ladies.
02:12:40.480 It's still your participant.
02:12:41.400 Wait.
02:12:41.720 Sorry.
02:12:42.040 Hold on.
02:12:42.420 Pronoun check.
02:12:44.400 I identify she, her for this question.
02:12:46.660 Okay.
02:12:46.960 Go ahead.
02:12:47.260 Go ahead.
02:12:47.560 You can answer them.
02:12:48.340 Well, I would find it interesting to know what a guy would do in the reverse.
02:12:51.020 What if he wanted to keep the baby, but she didn't.
02:12:53.120 Well, if he gets pregnant.
02:12:54.200 What do you mean that?
02:12:54.640 Like, if he gets someone else pregnant, and then, like, she doesn't want to keep her
02:12:57.600 or whatever.
02:12:58.080 Like, the reverse of that situation.
02:12:58.640 Guys, men can get pregnant, too, now, remember?
02:13:00.780 No, they can't.
02:13:01.500 What's that term?
02:13:02.340 Like, people who give birth, or what was that?
02:13:04.800 Birthly person.
02:13:05.680 Birthly people, yeah.
02:13:06.420 Yeah, no.
02:13:06.940 That's ridiculous.
02:13:08.720 That's not it.
02:13:09.940 So, what would you do in that situation, Brittany?
02:13:14.020 But did not want the child and you did?
02:13:15.820 I would bet them prior for that.
02:13:17.300 Think before you sleep, doesn't want to have a kid.
02:13:20.420 That wouldn't happen.
02:13:21.080 And you do.
02:13:21.720 We would have that discussion before sex.
02:13:23.640 You got the SNIP?
02:13:25.140 No.
02:13:25.500 Wait, are you guys waiting until marriage, or what?
02:13:27.160 I don't know if that's too much TMI, but you guys waiting until marriage?
02:13:30.120 We are waiting until marriage, but.
02:13:31.860 Oh, okay.
02:13:32.240 Oh, congrats.
02:13:32.780 These are conversations we had before.
02:13:34.800 Okay.
02:13:35.320 Gotcha.
02:13:36.000 Okay.
02:13:37.200 If it's kind of the part of, like, why you don't have one-night stands or have sex, too.
02:13:41.280 Good for you.
02:13:41.980 It's a little bit, even the constant situations.
02:13:44.160 Like, if you have sex on the first date, but you knew each other years before and you've
02:13:46.880 already pre-vetted a person, that's a little bit different than just you met the person yesterday
02:13:50.140 or today.
02:13:51.400 Okay.
02:13:51.540 So they both weren't just?
02:13:53.340 No.
02:13:53.680 Born again.
02:13:53.920 No.
02:13:54.440 Oh, born again.
02:13:55.480 Okay.
02:13:56.540 Like Chad.
02:13:57.680 No, no.
02:13:58.080 Chase.
02:13:58.180 We didn't wait, if that's what you're asking.
02:14:00.420 Yeah, we're joking.
02:14:01.680 Huh?
02:14:02.060 We didn't wait.
02:14:03.020 Yeah, he's joking.
02:14:03.960 About, like, the, oh, we're waiting until marriage.
02:14:06.660 Oh, that was a joke.
02:14:06.960 Oh, you didn't wait.
02:14:07.860 He's being sarcastic.
02:14:09.100 Wait, I'm thinking of sarcasm.
02:14:10.480 I think they just misheard me.
02:14:11.840 Oh.
02:14:12.400 No, you said that you were waiting until you two would get married to have sex.
02:14:15.780 For kids.
02:14:17.300 Oh.
02:14:18.160 To have kids.
02:14:19.340 Yeah.
02:14:19.440 I think I was talking about the, until after we had a conversation about, and then.
02:14:24.480 Oh, so you got, wait, so you're saying that you guys hooked up on the first date?
02:14:27.640 No.
02:14:28.100 I'm confused.
02:14:28.640 Oh, my God.
02:14:29.100 You went from, like, hooking up two babies and that, yeah.
02:14:32.580 Wasn't there.
02:14:33.220 I'm confused.
02:14:34.440 Tempting.
02:14:35.600 They have already had sex.
02:14:37.520 They are waiting until they get married to have children.
02:14:40.180 Oh.
02:14:40.720 No, the conversation about abortion is what he was asking, right?
02:14:43.680 So we would have had that conversation before we had sex, is what I was saying.
02:14:48.060 Word.
02:14:49.060 Word.
02:14:49.660 Like, you should, that's why you shouldn't have, like.
02:14:52.380 Let me ask the, let me ask the panel a question here related to this question from Bender,
02:14:56.620 the Offender.
02:14:57.100 Good to see you back in the chat, man.
02:14:58.180 Thank you for your patronage.
02:15:01.200 What would you tell a guy in this scenario who says he gets his girl pregnant, you know,
02:15:07.320 maybe he thought, maybe she was on birth control, but, you know, sometimes it's not 100% effective
02:15:13.280 or, in any case, he doesn't want to have the kid.
02:15:16.680 Would you tell the guy you should have just kept it in your pants?
02:15:21.000 Like, no.
02:15:21.860 He took a risk, though.
02:15:23.040 Yeah, I would.
02:15:23.780 It's, like, a little too late for that.
02:15:26.560 Okay.
02:15:27.420 Do you think, is anyone here pro-choice?
02:15:29.820 Just out of curiosity.
02:15:31.680 I'm kind of, I'm kind of, like.
02:15:33.480 Yeah, I'm kind of.
02:15:34.180 It depends on the situation.
02:15:35.200 You mean for abortion?
02:15:35.720 It depends on a lot of things.
02:15:37.160 Like, obviously, I think everyone at the table is going to agree, like, yeah, no third
02:15:40.420 term and things like that.
02:15:41.820 Yeah.
02:15:42.220 So.
02:15:42.700 Don't have, like, death.
02:15:43.420 That's also, like, very rare.
02:15:44.940 Or something like that would be nuances.
02:15:46.400 Yeah, there's certain nuances.
02:15:48.400 Okay, but what about just, like, a woman who.
02:15:51.140 Don't get me started.
02:15:52.260 Yeah, I don't know how deep we want to go down the rabbit hole on this.
02:15:54.540 Is it TOS friendly?
02:15:56.440 Eh, it's fine.
02:15:56.980 I think abortion, talking about abortion is fine, but.
02:15:59.380 You might get flagged.
02:16:00.860 Eh, eh, it's fine.
02:16:02.120 I think it would just get demonetized.
02:16:03.620 I think people would just get annoyed, too.
02:16:05.960 No, it's just.
02:16:06.400 Already demonetized?
02:16:08.040 Uh, kind of a little bit.
02:16:09.740 But.
02:16:10.840 Yeah, where's Mike Davis?
02:16:11.740 It is interesting that people, for example, who might consider themselves pro-choice, you
02:16:18.140 know, they might say, well, it's a woman's choice, blah, blah, blah.
02:16:20.580 And they would scoff at someone telling a woman who's opting to get an abortion, well, you
02:16:26.880 should have kept your legs closed.
02:16:27.860 But when it comes to men who are in the identical situation, it, you often hear from people who
02:16:34.660 might consider themselves pro-choice, oh, well, you should have just been more careful.
02:16:38.580 You should have not had sex then.
02:16:39.840 But if you were to say that to a woman who opts for an abortion or wants to get an abortion,
02:16:45.800 Yeah, I'm not sure it's the inverse.
02:16:46.720 It's not fair, but.
02:16:47.620 Like, the prior question.
02:16:49.640 No, they're both stupid things to say, although they're true, but, like, you know, it happens
02:16:54.860 like, oh, well, it should have.
02:16:56.320 I feel like.
02:16:56.980 I feel like.
02:16:57.280 Are you on Whippets, by the way?
02:16:58.400 Are you still, like, did you take drugs before you came here?
02:17:00.980 Okay.
02:17:01.160 No.
02:17:01.580 All right.
02:17:02.780 Okay, here, let's move on.
02:17:04.500 Mr. Cappadocia, ladies, fill out your dating profile.
02:17:06.880 Do you vape slash smoke?
02:17:07.880 Do you have pets?
02:17:08.480 How many?
02:17:09.740 Ooh, Cappadocia, you're killing.
02:17:11.040 Okay, political leaning, most unusual turn on.
02:17:13.960 What would you.
02:17:14.900 Just for the sake of moving the conversation along, I'll have the girls answer one of these.
02:17:20.180 So, let's do the political leaning question.
02:17:23.640 What are your political leanings, starting with Miss Brittany Venti?
02:17:29.760 That's Princess Brittany Venti.
02:17:32.400 I think I would lean right, but I don't, I think I'm one of those people that's, like, technically
02:17:39.720 politically homeless.
02:17:41.040 I feel like that's becoming more common nowadays.
02:17:43.440 Sure.
02:17:43.880 Because it depends on what the thing is, right?
02:17:46.260 Okay.
02:17:46.560 It's like, I'm pro-gun.
02:17:48.160 Are you pro-Trump or against Trump?
02:17:50.900 Depends which year you ask, right?
02:17:52.720 This year, right now.
02:17:54.340 Depends what his policies are.
02:17:55.680 No, no, right now, right now, at this moment.
02:17:57.440 Is he saying he'll lower my taxes?
02:17:58.940 Whoever's lowering my taxes, who I'm going for.
02:18:00.780 So, libertarian.
02:18:03.560 I guess it depends who's running, literally, because, like, that Kennedy is running, he's
02:18:07.640 running as...
02:18:08.200 I mean, more like libertarian mentality, like more in the middle.
02:18:11.260 Are you talking about RFK?
02:18:12.580 It depends.
02:18:12.700 It depends who it is.
02:18:13.500 I'm not going to be like, oh, I'm always going to vote Republican or always committed
02:18:16.840 to being Democratic.
02:18:18.220 That seems dumb.
02:18:19.280 Like, why wouldn't you just go by policy?
02:18:21.200 But, yeah, I'm pro-free speech, pro-right to own a gun to defend yourself, especially
02:18:25.580 being a woman.
02:18:26.760 You're four times weaker.
02:18:27.860 You should be able to protect yourself.
02:18:28.340 So, are you happy that Elon Musk took over Twitter?
02:18:32.100 You know, he needs to unshadow-ban my account because you can't even untick the thing about,
02:18:36.600 like, sensitive content, and he won't even unshadow-ban me.
02:18:39.400 So, yeah, I'm disappointed with Elon.
02:18:43.360 Since you identified she, her, I guess this applies to you, too.
02:18:45.820 That was the last question I identified.
02:18:47.120 Well, he says ladies.
02:18:48.400 Oh, okay.
02:18:49.000 You want...
02:18:49.400 Political leanings?
02:18:52.480 Probably center-right.
02:18:53.680 I would have been more, like, I think the more you listen to politics, the more you listen
02:18:57.260 to what types of people.
02:18:58.020 Like, you think, like, Dan Crenshaw had a very, like, hard right lean, and then during COVID
02:19:02.980 he changed a little bit.
02:19:04.020 So, I thought seeing people on the right do the kind of things that I was very, very
02:19:07.860 against people on the left doing, and the people on the left doing the kind of things
02:19:10.240 that they would, said they wouldn't do, like, pushed me a lot more center.
02:19:14.060 Sure.
02:19:14.480 It's like everybody's kind of an asshole in politics.
02:19:16.420 Got it.
02:19:16.920 What about you?
02:19:17.340 So, I actually got started on this whole online thing because I'm so against, like,
02:19:22.960 politics in pop culture.
02:19:24.860 So, I watched Star Wars, and I went and saw the Disney, you know, The Last Jedi, and I
02:19:28.860 was like, what the is this?
02:19:30.540 Because they started putting politics into Star Wars, and I'm very against that.
02:19:34.300 And I honestly have no interest in politics, so I'm not even educated enough to talk about
02:19:38.760 it.
02:19:39.200 But I'll answer one of the questions.
02:19:40.740 Will you vote?
02:19:41.160 I let my partner vote for me, so he picks.
02:19:45.600 Is it illegal?
02:19:47.140 No, no, no.
02:19:47.680 Like, I'm just like, what do you...
02:19:48.840 Do you want to repeal the 19?
02:19:50.760 No, no, no, no.
02:19:51.380 Is that what you're saying?
02:19:51.960 That's not what I'm saying.
02:19:53.780 She has a point, though.
02:19:55.100 Actually, think about it.
02:19:55.900 Because if you're in the same household, and you're, like, voting against each other's
02:19:59.400 interests, like, cancel.
02:20:01.060 It's a little weird.
02:20:01.740 It sounds like a divorce happening.
02:20:03.140 Or your own person.
02:20:04.860 Yeah, shared values.
02:20:05.900 Pretty important.
02:20:06.320 Well, it's...
02:20:06.760 So, in the last California election, I did go, and I was reading the policies, and so
02:20:11.100 it wasn't based on, you know, what party is for which one.
02:20:14.320 Did you vote for Newsom?
02:20:15.940 Fuck no.
02:20:16.880 Thank God.
02:20:17.620 Let's try to keep it moving, though.
02:20:19.760 Who the hell likes Newsom?
02:20:20.800 Okay, what about you?
02:20:21.480 I don't know, but he won, so, I mean...
02:20:23.840 Here, don't worry about it.
02:20:24.660 Go ahead.
02:20:25.140 Go ahead.
02:20:26.240 I would just say I'm apolitical, because for me, I...
02:20:28.700 That's fine.
02:20:29.020 So, itemize everything, and there's no one party that has everything.
02:20:34.100 Word.
02:20:34.620 What about you?
02:20:36.040 Libertarian left, center left, I would say.
02:20:37.900 Okay.
02:20:38.820 Byronique, what's up?
02:20:39.660 I'm from the streets, baby.
02:20:40.640 I don't do all that politics shit.
02:20:42.140 Obama for life.
02:20:43.320 You understand what I'm saying?
02:20:44.500 That's all I'm gonna say, baby.
02:20:46.100 I don't know what that left, right shit y'all talking about even me, baby.
02:20:50.000 Obama.
02:20:50.660 Bring it back.
02:20:53.200 Okay.
02:20:53.680 I like your vibe.
02:20:54.580 What about you?
02:20:55.920 Right.
02:20:56.940 Okay.
02:20:57.640 Trump 2024.
02:20:58.240 Let's go.
02:20:59.860 I don't know much about politics on the show.
02:21:01.920 Fair enough.
02:21:03.020 I'm moderate.
02:21:04.480 Okay.
02:21:05.180 Also, you described yourself, Sophia, as a radical feminist last time on the show.
02:21:09.400 Is that still the same?
02:21:10.600 Yeah.
02:21:11.020 Okay.
02:21:11.560 What does that mean, to be a radical feminist?
02:21:13.600 You already asked me this last time.
02:21:15.220 Well, there's some new people here.
02:21:16.480 There's some new viewers.
02:21:17.320 So, why don't you...
02:21:18.560 I mean, I feel like it's a broad definition to, like, define it, you know, with feminism and whole.
02:21:24.260 I mean, like, the dictionary definition is, like, you know, the women's rights, and here in America, I feel like my feminism, like, for me, as a feminist, it's more so of, like, a social thing.
02:21:38.400 The social standards and society, for me.
02:21:41.440 I mean, the only right, like, rights we're, like, whoops, sorry, working here for is, like, abortion.
02:21:50.140 But my opinion's about abortion, so.
02:21:54.160 So, are you, like, um, I think I know what you mean, because I've seen...
02:21:57.800 Because radical feminist is really different in the dictionary definition than how it's actually applied on the internet.
02:22:03.240 It more of a means, like, right-wing feminist.
02:22:05.340 That's more of a how I see it.
02:22:07.220 Yeah.
02:22:07.880 In terms of their cult humor stuff.
02:22:09.340 So, are you, like, anti-woke, for example?
02:22:12.220 A little.
02:22:13.000 I mean...
02:22:13.300 Like, do you like offensive humor?
02:22:15.040 Like, how do you feel about, like, certain offensive words, things like that?
02:22:18.600 I mean, I think, you know, some offensive words are offensive because they're, you know, offensive.
02:22:24.320 But, um, I don't really think about that too much, about the wokeness thing or whatever.
02:22:30.080 Because, I mean, I think it's okay to not, like, you know, normalize, like, I don't know, little, like, racism.
02:22:37.680 But not to, like, the biggest extent.
02:22:39.320 So, how do you feel about, like, cancel culture, for example?
02:22:42.040 I think it's kind of stupid.
02:22:43.640 Okay.
02:22:44.040 Well, there you go.
02:22:44.520 Yeah.
02:22:44.780 Yeah.
02:22:45.220 But, um...
02:22:46.780 You're not a third-wave feminist, are you?
02:22:50.040 She's a fourth-wave feminist.
02:22:51.700 But, um, one thing is, I would say a radical feminist because I'm very anti-porn.
02:22:56.460 Yeah, that seems to be one of the biggest differences.
02:22:58.140 You're an actual feminist, like, at the pure definition of it.
02:23:01.620 So, that's why, um, because, like, with liberal feminism, I'm pretty sure they're, like, super, like, only fans this and that.
02:23:07.400 They think promiscuous is empowering.
02:23:10.040 Like, men didn't make that up.
02:23:11.960 And so, that's why I kind of, like, come to terms with radical feminism is what I'd call myself because if I just said feminist, they'd be, like, oh, liberal feminist, you know?
02:23:20.080 Yeah, you have, like, blue hair.
02:23:21.320 Yeah.
02:23:21.640 And you, like, fuck every person that comes into the room.
02:23:23.940 Yeah, so one thing is, like, that's why I say radical feminism, or feminist, because I'm very anti-porn.
02:23:30.260 And, um, I agree with some of their other things, but that's one of my big ones.
02:23:35.920 But are you one of those feminists that you have to tear down a man to, you know, rise women up?
02:23:40.320 Because that's what's going on in comics right now, where they have to switch out all the male superheroes with female superheroes,
02:23:45.300 because that's the only way that they feel it's empowering to women.
02:23:48.720 No.
02:23:49.420 I mean, I think one thing is that there's a problem with that, where, like, on both sides, like, with feminism,
02:23:55.080 and I don't know what the other side would be, but, like, maybe let's just say red pillars.
02:23:58.720 Like, they're creating this war between, like, men and women.
02:24:02.160 They're both doing it.
02:24:03.280 It's very divisive.
02:24:04.060 Yeah, and we need to stop dividing each other and come together.
02:24:06.700 I mean, biologically, yes, we do have some differences.
02:24:10.460 But, um, like, one thing, like, calling a woman emotional, I mean, I just think that's a little insensitive.
02:24:16.300 It's not true.
02:24:17.160 I mean, we're caretakers.
02:24:18.760 We have empathy.
02:24:19.520 But we're not emotional.
02:24:20.860 We're emotional.
02:24:21.780 Um, men are emotional as well.
02:24:23.580 Humans are emotional.
02:24:24.080 Men are emotional, too.
02:24:24.940 Being emotional is not a bad thing.
02:24:26.840 It's just one thing is we have, yeah.
02:24:27.480 It's very feminine.
02:24:28.220 It's just society is stigmatized being emotional.
02:24:31.160 Another thing I have a problem with is this feminine, masculine stuff.
02:24:34.700 I mean, that's the thing.
02:24:36.140 It's, like, I mean, noun definition, feminine means female, you know, sex or gender.
02:24:42.620 And, but the adjective, um, definition could be, like, um, I'm trying to think.
02:24:48.760 There was this one word I just didn't really like, but it was, um, I can't remember it.
02:24:55.040 But it's just, like, you know, emotional is one.
02:24:58.020 And another one is, I'm trying to think of the word.
02:25:00.300 I can't remember it.
02:25:01.140 But it was, like.
02:25:01.880 But are, okay, are there temperamental differences between men and women?
02:25:05.320 I mean, I'd say, yeah.
02:25:06.640 I mean, with testosterone.
02:25:07.460 We balance each other, right?
02:25:08.960 Yeah.
02:25:09.380 But, like, the, the modern, like, super leftist feminist would say no.
02:25:12.860 They would say men and women are exactly the same.
02:25:14.460 But some of them have said, like, dumb things.
02:25:16.200 Like, men, women are just as strong as men.
02:25:18.260 The one that's obviously very scientifically.
02:25:19.700 I think that's a very small person.
02:25:22.060 Anita Sarkeesian.
02:25:22.900 Oh, God.
02:25:23.500 Fucking.
02:25:24.320 That's, like, a modern.
02:25:25.520 Tropes of whatever.
02:25:27.200 Marxist, communist, feminist.
02:25:29.160 Yeah, I think she said that there's no physical strength differences between.
02:25:32.320 It's, like, if you look at the world records, it's, like, double.
02:25:34.560 Like, the highest deadlift for a man is, like, 1,200.
02:25:36.720 The highest for, you know, is, like, 500.
02:25:38.300 Yeah, they've done that for, like, grip strength, too.
02:25:40.720 Like, they'll just take out of the population just a bunch of, ton of women, ton of men,
02:25:45.660 compare their grip strength.
02:25:46.600 It's pretty, I mean, it's kind of self-evident that there's strength differences naturally
02:25:52.080 between men and women.
02:25:53.060 But, sorry, Sophia, go ahead.
02:25:55.180 I think you were about to talk about the patriarchy and the oppression.
02:25:58.080 I never brought that up.
02:25:59.120 She brought divisiveness.
02:26:00.640 That's more, like, a lefty thing.
02:26:02.500 Because, like, I see how a lot of radfems are on Twitter and things like that and forums
02:26:07.160 and things like that.
02:26:07.860 It's very different in terms of, like, how they think, in terms of what's offensive
02:26:12.340 or, like, being delusional, things like that.
02:26:14.780 But I agree with the divisiveness thing.
02:26:17.460 It's a problem.
02:26:17.900 In regard to, like, red pill.
02:26:20.220 Like, now it's been co-opted to, you know, mean, like, manosphere, red pill, whatever term
02:26:24.620 you want to use.
02:26:25.720 It's very much, like, the same thing that feminists.
02:26:28.620 Sorry, hold on just a second.
02:26:29.920 $100.
02:26:31.660 If you can't define your feminism or other brands of feminism, you're probably not a feminist.
02:26:37.500 Mr. Meeple, thank you for the TTS.
02:26:41.640 Much appreciated.
02:26:42.540 Do you have a response to him?
02:26:43.880 I mean, like I said, it's a very broad thing to define.
02:26:46.340 I mean, I said the dictionary definition.
02:26:48.760 If that's good enough for you.
02:26:50.480 Which is, like, a Camille Pauly feminist.
02:26:51.980 It means, you know, like, the dictionary definition for feminism is the rights for women rights
02:26:59.060 or whatever.
02:26:59.820 It's because it's niche.
02:27:01.180 That's why it's, like, a very niche thing versus, like, leftist feminism, communistic
02:27:06.620 feminism.
02:27:07.120 It's very popular.
02:27:08.280 And, like I said, I mean, for America, I'd say it's more social for me with my feminism
02:27:13.360 that I, like, personally believe.
02:27:15.260 And in other countries, I mean, with radical feminism, another thing is we do care about,
02:27:19.200 like, other countries and what women's problems are there, you know?
02:27:22.960 And because it's, like, we're not all living in America.
02:27:25.060 America's not just one place, you know?
02:27:26.700 Yeah.
02:27:26.920 And all over the world, there are problems for, in different countries, in third world
02:27:30.820 countries.
02:27:31.400 So, like, I do care about that as well.
02:27:32.820 But specifically here in America, I'd say it's more a social thing than a right thing,
02:27:38.180 like, or policies, government, you know, all that.
02:27:41.120 But, I mean, you just said you were fighting for equal rights for women.
02:27:45.120 I never said I was fighting for equal rights.
02:27:47.280 Equal rights is BS.
02:27:48.420 Sorry.
02:27:48.660 I thought I heard equal rights, but maybe you're referencing, like, other countries.
02:27:53.040 What do you think about, do you believe in the patriarchy?
02:27:59.800 Yeah, I believe in it.
02:28:01.300 No.
02:28:02.560 What, what's, what is the...
02:28:04.100 Oh, now I changed my mind.
02:28:05.400 What's the patriarchy?
02:28:07.700 I mean, it's a system, well, like, I'll say my definition on that is that it's a thing,
02:28:13.120 a social thing, a society thing, that is causing disadvantages for women and men.
02:28:17.880 It's not just lifting up men.
02:28:19.340 It causes problems for you as well.
02:28:21.060 I mean, like, with the red pill stuff, I mean, like, telling guys that they shouldn't cry,
02:28:25.360 I mean, we're human beings.
02:28:26.740 You have emotions.
02:28:27.860 Use them.
02:28:29.220 Okay, well, there's a lot there.
02:28:30.720 I'm not sure exactly how the vulnerability stuff falls into.
02:28:32.800 I mean, like, with the patriarchy, vulnerability is, like, a thing.
02:28:35.940 I mean, men are being told not to show emotions.
02:28:39.200 And, I mean, society does that.
02:28:40.680 Communities do that.
02:28:41.480 Your environment does that.
02:28:43.300 And a whole bunch of other things.
02:28:44.820 I mean, I don't disagree with you that perhaps men are taught to not be vulnerable.
02:28:51.140 But I think, let's keep it within the context of romantic relationships.
02:28:56.760 Men are typically, if men are vulnerable in front of women, especially early on in a relationship,
02:29:01.900 they're typically punished for that.
02:29:03.640 So, it's reinforced, men's supposed lack of vulnerability is reinforced by women's punishment of said vulnerability.
02:29:13.500 I mean, I don't think that's always true.
02:29:15.160 I mean, just because one girl says on Fresh and Fit, like, oh, if a man cried, I'd break up with him.
02:29:19.320 Or if my boyfriend cried, I'd break up with him.
02:29:20.940 That doesn't mean all women are like that.
02:29:21.920 Okay, let me ask you a question.
02:29:23.740 Would you say, generally speaking, that women are attracted to men who approach them in a confident way
02:29:28.600 or men who approach them if they're a bit shy or nervous?
02:29:31.520 I mean, women are all different.
02:29:33.500 We all like different things.
02:29:34.740 Generally speaking.
02:29:35.420 I mean, generally speaking, it depends on the person.
02:29:38.300 I mean, some like confidence.
02:29:39.040 This is like a layup for you here.
02:29:40.360 I mean, I'm just saying that, like, you can't just generalize everyone.
02:29:43.760 That's another problem is we're generalizing everyone, men and women.
02:29:47.560 And it's selling ourselves shorts because we don't all like the same things.
02:29:51.340 I like shorts.
02:29:52.180 Would you, or any guys, would you be turned off by a woman who cries in front of you early on
02:29:57.940 or, like, she's way too emotional?
02:29:59.460 No.
02:30:01.420 Yes.
02:30:02.320 So it's the same thing.
02:30:03.860 So it can go both ways.
02:30:04.420 If a girl, yeah, if a girl cried on the first date, I'm like, okay, what's going on here?
02:30:08.600 You're going to think, okay, this girl's like, she has issues.
02:30:11.200 Sure.
02:30:11.560 Maybe not want to go out with her again.
02:30:13.100 Yeah, but I'm not sure if that's a, if that's a one-to-one to the example I gave where a guy's
02:30:19.260 a bit shy or nervous when approaching you.
02:30:21.800 Oh, yeah, that's, I mean, two different things.
02:30:23.360 I think that's, I mean, some guys like, or some girls like shy guys.
02:30:27.300 Emotional.
02:30:28.040 I think guys approaching at all.
02:30:29.340 Well, vulnerable, vulnerable is different than being emotional.
02:30:31.440 Okay, so how does someone being nervous versus confident relate to being vulnerable?
02:30:35.440 Well, that's being, if you approach a girl and you're a bit nervous, maybe, let's say
02:30:40.200 a confident guy approaches a girl and then a nervous guy approaches the girl.
02:30:44.780 Neither of them are creepy, but one guy's kind of a bit nervous and then the other guy's
02:30:48.720 confident, who do you think is going to be more successful?
02:30:51.220 The confident guy.
02:30:52.020 But if the confident guy later has a vulnerable moment with you, that's fine.
02:30:56.180 Right.
02:30:56.660 But this idea that vulnerability is, is some sort of desired trait in men.
02:31:02.020 It is, it is.
02:31:02.840 I don't think vulnerability means shy and nervous.
02:31:04.880 Hold on, hold on.
02:31:05.460 Wouldn't it be a vulnerable thing instead of just being the super mega confident guy to
02:31:10.600 like, actually, maybe you approach a girl and, hey, you're not Superman.
02:31:14.120 Maybe you are a bit nervous.
02:31:15.420 I think if a guy approached me and was like, hey, I'm really nervous, but you're
02:31:18.700 so, I think that's fine.
02:31:19.880 Yeah.
02:31:20.300 Men don't really approach that much now.
02:31:20.880 I think a lot of women, you can say that, but a lot of women are going to look at a
02:31:24.180 guy who approaches them like that and versus, compared to a guy who just steps
02:31:28.920 confidently and the guy who steps a bit nervous or a bit shy or whatever, he's
02:31:34.160 going to be punished for it.
02:31:35.060 No, we're going to look at so many other factors.
02:31:37.440 Like, are we physically attracted to him?
02:31:39.140 What did he say?
02:31:39.940 Like, there's so many things about the person.
02:31:42.380 Is the nervous guy like freaking out?
02:31:43.140 Or like, what is it?
02:31:43.760 He doesn't have like the nervous guy in the chick flick movies and like, he's still
02:31:46.620 like the taller guy, the guy who works out and generally the one that women like.
02:31:51.280 You might think a confident guy is cocky.
02:31:53.440 Yeah.
02:31:53.800 Yeah.
02:31:54.100 I think there's another side to this coin.
02:31:55.940 Okay.
02:31:56.120 What if a guy was confident, but his confidence is like, you know, you're walking down the
02:32:00.900 street and you get catcalled by that guy.
02:32:02.260 He's like, hey, mommy, what's up?
02:32:04.180 You looking good.
02:32:05.260 Like, even though that's confident, that's not attractive.
02:32:07.800 Well, I think that goes into the realm of cocky.
02:32:10.300 But come back home.
02:32:11.720 But cocky and confidence kind of go intersect.
02:32:13.880 Are confident men not vulnerable ever?
02:32:16.100 Huh?
02:32:16.340 Are confident men not vulnerable men?
02:32:18.700 They can be.
02:32:20.040 Okay.
02:32:20.360 I think all people are capable of being vulnerable.
02:32:22.800 Exactly.
02:32:23.020 Whether by choice or circumstance.
02:32:25.160 Yeah.
02:32:25.420 So just because someone approaches you and they seem more confident doesn't mean that
02:32:28.940 they're not a vulnerable person in other, like.
02:32:31.060 Am I out of touch here?
02:32:34.720 Is it not a thing that women are attracted to confident men?
02:32:37.260 Am I off base here for saying that?
02:32:38.780 And I don't think that's confident.
02:32:40.020 Like, am I, is that, is that a stretch to say that women are attracted to confident
02:32:43.120 men?
02:32:43.320 But confident and vulnerability are not mutually, like, you can be both.
02:32:44.700 They're not mutually exclusive.
02:32:45.600 I feel like when you're vulnerable, if you're like, oh, hey, I'm nervous to a girl, I feel
02:32:48.520 like that's kind of confident because.
02:32:49.920 Yeah.
02:32:50.080 If you're like, hey, I'm really nervous, but I found you really attractive.
02:32:52.520 Let me ask you guys a question.
02:32:53.800 How important is like when you're first meeting a guy, how important is the vibe or the guy
02:32:59.180 being able to carry a conversation?
02:33:01.140 Would you say that's fairly important?
02:33:03.180 Do you think a guy who's shy and nervous is as capable as a guy who's confident of eliciting
02:33:08.040 said vibe?
02:33:09.660 I'm going to be honest with this answer.
02:33:11.320 Hold on, let me just finish.
02:33:12.300 Who is as capable of eliciting the vibe or being able to, you know, maneuver a conversation
02:33:19.200 that feels, you know, good or organic?
02:33:21.800 I think those are different traits, though.
02:33:23.560 Like, that's different than vulnerability.
02:33:25.380 That's confidence and vulnerability.
02:33:26.660 Being shy and nervous is being vulnerable.
02:33:28.160 There's a crucial detail that you are neglecting here.
02:33:31.520 Like, how hot is he?
02:33:33.080 And this applies to both men and women.
02:33:34.900 Like, how much are you willing to, like, something that's quirky on an attractive woman
02:33:39.380 is maybe, like, weird on an ugly girl that's, like, a beast.
02:33:43.200 Yeah, because if you get catcalled by a guy that's, like, really hot, what are you
02:33:46.200 going to do?
02:33:46.540 Like, huh, getaway model.
02:33:47.900 Like, no, you're going to be like, hi.
02:33:49.700 That's not always true.
02:33:51.060 I mean, I feel like that's always true.
02:33:52.260 I mean, come on, give me a break.
02:33:53.320 It's not always true.
02:33:54.720 It doesn't mean that if you're hot, you get a pass for everything.
02:33:57.040 But it certainly allows a little more wiggle room.
02:33:59.220 If you're catcalling someone, I don't think most people find that.
02:34:01.480 Okay, well, let's move away from catcalling.
02:34:02.580 No, okay, well, if it's a really hot guy and he's vulnerable.
02:34:06.340 People, like, there's that one thing or, like, that meme where it's, like, an ugly guy, you
02:34:10.200 know, the drawing, and it's, like, high, and it's, like, sexual harassment.
02:34:13.520 Like, the HR meme?
02:34:14.320 And it's, yeah, and it's, like...
02:34:15.680 There's the difference between harassment and, you know.
02:34:17.180 And then, like, an attractive guy doing the same thing, and it's, like, flirting.
02:34:20.400 And I feel like there's no difference.
02:34:21.560 If you are catcalling someone, if you're doing something, you know, sexually harassing someone...
02:34:24.020 It depends on the approach.
02:34:25.000 If they're, like, a baby girl, like, no matter how they look, it's, like, you're cringed.
02:34:28.680 No, I'm, like, terrified of that regardless of how hard a guy is.
02:34:31.520 There is definitely truth when it comes to, like, two guys that are exhibiting the exact
02:34:37.920 same behavior.
02:34:39.400 If one guy's really attractive and the other guy's, you're not attracted to him, you might
02:34:44.700 say, that guy's creepy, and then the really attractive guy, he's just flirting.
02:34:49.040 It depends on that.
02:34:50.040 Or it could be aggressiveness.
02:34:51.180 I mean, facts are in that.
02:34:52.860 One is not aggressive enough.
02:34:54.960 Step one, be attractive.
02:34:56.260 Step two, don't be unattractive.
02:34:56.800 But there's still social understanding.
02:34:57.940 Like, I mean, for guys, you still have to work out.
02:34:59.720 You still have to dress properly, do your hair properly.
02:35:02.180 So there's still some sort of social skill in being physically attractive versus the guy
02:35:05.480 who, I don't know, is, like, wearing, like, a stained t-shirt or something like that
02:35:11.580 or, like...
02:35:12.640 Sure.
02:35:12.880 And, like, not working out, can't be strong, can't protect you.
02:35:16.600 I don't know, but this whole idea of that men should be vulnerable, I don't think that's...
02:35:24.280 I don't buy it either, honestly.
02:35:25.800 Is it just in the context of approaching someone?
02:35:28.000 Well, that's one example I've provided.
02:35:29.440 That's one example.
02:35:29.820 So if a guy's confident approaching you, but then later he's going through something
02:35:32.820 and he opens with you and he's vulnerable, and he maybe even cries, maybe somebody died,
02:35:36.360 I don't think that's...
02:35:37.420 Yeah, that's...
02:35:37.980 I think a lot of women would, for example, like, if a woman saw her boyfriend or partner,
02:35:44.100 like, get beat up in a fight, I'd...
02:35:47.200 I don't...
02:35:47.940 Look, I don't know if they've done a study on this shit, but, like, there's a...
02:35:50.880 I would say a fair amount of women would lose attraction for their partner in that situation.
02:35:55.540 What percent?
02:35:56.120 How hard did he fight back?
02:35:57.500 Yeah.
02:35:58.040 How hard did he fight back?
02:35:58.780 Okay, you want to talk about the Joe Rogan?
02:36:00.920 That's true.
02:36:01.440 No, yeah, there was a Joe Rogan interview, and obviously, look, this is one singular woman who
02:36:06.100 happened to be an MMA fighter, but she was...
02:36:08.480 You'd almost think because she's an MMA fighter, she would almost have more of an understanding,
02:36:13.020 but she said, hey, I was at a fight with my boyfriend, I was there in the corner, and
02:36:18.180 he got knocked the fuck out, and I shortly broke up with him afterwards because it was
02:36:22.440 just so...
02:36:23.460 I lost traction to see my partner who, you know...
02:36:27.040 The way that he reacted by the time that he was hitting the floor, that was the face
02:36:32.400 that he made, like, how are you such a...
02:36:35.620 So bad at, like, getting beat up, at least, like, take it, but he was just like, oh, it's
02:36:40.560 the ick.
02:36:41.220 That's a lack of maturity, though, in her heart.
02:36:42.700 Can't someone be confident enough to be vulnerable?
02:36:45.040 Like, doesn't vulnerability take on it?
02:36:46.020 Exactly.
02:36:46.160 Like, in martial art, there's some pride into just losing with dignity, and he totally lost
02:36:53.540 it, and that's what turned her off.
02:36:55.500 You're on the side of the...
02:36:56.740 I think her name was Miriam...
02:36:58.400 Miriam Nakamura?
02:36:59.260 I'm into martial arts as well, so I can kind of understand where she's coming from.
02:37:02.700 Oh, so, okay, if your boyfriend, like, got scorched up in a fight and made some, like,
02:37:06.440 face, then you'd...
02:37:07.600 Like, a little loser face that can't take defeat.
02:37:10.400 There we go.
02:37:10.900 Exhibit A.
02:37:11.900 Exhibit A.
02:37:12.540 Don't be vulnerable.
02:37:13.640 Hold on.
02:37:14.420 Thank you.
02:37:14.760 Because I think...
02:37:15.380 Take it like a freaking man, you know?
02:37:17.360 What's the point in pointing this out?
02:37:19.240 You could say the same thing for, like, the statistic about how men leave their terminally
02:37:24.140 ill wives.
02:37:25.260 Like, what would be the point in me pointing that out?
02:37:26.500 I mean, there's a difference.
02:37:27.460 To, like, demonize other gender?
02:37:28.580 I don't know why.
02:37:29.360 Well, what...
02:37:30.220 A guy who tries to be tough is not confident.
02:37:31.900 Don't both genders leave, are more likely to leave their partner if there's some sort
02:37:36.120 of illness?
02:37:37.700 I don't know what the stats are.
02:37:38.420 But men do it more often statistically.
02:37:39.960 I don't think that's true.
02:37:41.040 A lot of men leave women right after they leave.
02:37:43.220 I don't think that's true.
02:37:44.620 It's not much narrative.
02:37:45.700 Well, look at this.
02:37:46.300 I definitely think women are leaving their partners more often in these terminal illness situations.
02:37:52.360 Because, well, as a man, if you're in the provider role, you know, if you've got cancer
02:37:59.700 or some shit, you're less capable of being a provider.
02:38:01.940 If the stats disagree with you, well, how do you explain that?
02:38:04.960 Because they do.
02:38:06.000 Disavow.
02:38:06.660 Okay.
02:38:07.040 Disavow.
02:38:07.440 That's for sure.
02:38:08.180 So, aren't women nurturing anymore?
02:38:09.720 Like, that's something that women always aren't into?
02:38:11.180 Look, I don't know.
02:38:11.780 I could be wrong.
02:38:12.540 I don't know the stats specifically on this topic.
02:38:14.920 I haven't looked at it.
02:38:15.340 Either they, or you just don't want to look at them because they disagree with you.
02:38:17.780 Because I take care of my men when I'm sick, right?
02:38:19.820 But that, first off, I think a lot of issues with, like, a lot of statistics is there's
02:38:24.060 this issue when it comes to studies of, I forgot, of not being able to duplicate.
02:38:30.220 Replicability.
02:38:30.960 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
02:38:31.580 So, like, you know.
02:38:32.520 Well, that's been replicated, though.
02:38:33.320 Okay.
02:38:33.760 So, what's the Google search I look up?
02:38:35.760 Because I'll look it up.
02:38:37.000 What do I look up to find this?
02:38:38.360 Who?
02:38:38.640 I mean, just type in the question.
02:38:40.260 Who's more likely to leave?
02:38:41.440 Men leave their terminally ill wives.
02:38:43.700 Men leave terminally ill wives more frequently.
02:38:48.420 Well, it's just to find the statistic.
02:38:50.500 But my point is, like, it's kind of divisive to, like, point out, like, this other statistic
02:38:54.700 when you can easily bring up ones like this that demonized men's lives.
02:38:57.360 It's like, what's the point?
02:38:58.180 Also, no statistic on that.
02:38:59.300 I found, okay, here's what I found.
02:39:00.360 This also violates my marriage vows.
02:39:02.460 Here's what I found.
02:39:03.380 Wait, can I say this real quick?
02:39:04.580 Because one thing I'd say is if you break up with your boyfriend just because he lost
02:39:07.520 a fight, like, solely off that, I don't know the whole thing, like, what happened
02:39:11.860 there, but solely off that, why can't we just say they're a shitty person?
02:39:15.480 Why would you break up with your boyfriend?
02:39:16.300 You didn't truly love the person.
02:39:17.060 Like, it's just that.
02:39:17.860 Well, there's probably other problems.
02:39:20.640 But there's, I think there's an evolutionary biological argument you can make.
02:39:24.480 If a woman witnesses her partner or her boyfriend get fucking scorched in a fight, somewhere
02:39:31.280 in the lizard brain, she's going to be thinking, is he going to be capable of protecting me
02:39:36.000 in some sort of self-defense scenario?
02:39:38.740 So even if it's not, you don't intellectualize it, you're like, okay, well, I still love him,
02:39:42.860 blah, blah, blah.
02:39:43.220 There could be somewhere deep down inside you where you're like, I have, you lose attraction
02:39:48.780 for that guy.
02:39:49.400 We don't act on all the stuff deep inside us.
02:39:50.840 Who got knocked out in fights in the MMA and they're so with their women?
02:39:55.060 Yeah.
02:39:55.220 What's that?
02:39:55.660 How many other guys in the MMA got knocked out and they're so with their women?
02:39:58.820 How hard they fight back.
02:39:59.540 That's no question.
02:39:59.660 You have a biological inclination to be racist, but you reason your way out of it.
02:40:03.740 Yeah.
02:40:04.060 You have an in-group bias, kin selection, group selection.
02:40:06.680 Yeah.
02:40:06.880 I was just reading.
02:40:07.440 It's not about getting knocked out, it's about how you get knocked out, how you react.
02:40:12.600 You do, though.
02:40:13.420 We don't all, we're not just all, and there's to our evolution and our biology, and so a lot
02:40:19.100 of people, reason can override your genes, so if you like somebody, you're not going to
02:40:23.040 be like, oh my God, he can't protect me if my neighboring village comes and attacks.
02:40:26.460 I don't think we are 100% beholden to our evolution necessarily, but there are certain
02:40:33.880 things that could have an impact in a relationship.
02:40:36.720 Do you want to be with someone where you get beat up and they don't like you because
02:40:39.680 you, like, is that the kind of person you want to be with?
02:40:41.980 No, I wouldn't, but I mean, I would assume that it's not an attractive thing to see your
02:40:46.960 partner get fucking scorched in a fight.
02:40:49.300 You have to be attractive 24-7 to your partner to be loved.
02:40:52.320 Well, would you want to be with someone that lost respect for you and doesn't respect you
02:40:55.700 anymore as a human being?
02:40:56.600 Why would you do that?
02:40:58.200 I don't know.
02:40:59.320 That doesn't happen.
02:41:00.520 Well, obviously it did with her.
02:41:02.300 It happened one time.
02:41:02.580 Look, I'm not saying all women are going to operate like that.
02:41:04.940 Yeah, but what if someone were to say the same thing and like, oh, well, there's guys
02:41:09.100 out there, once their wife gets pregnant and now they have stretch marks and have their
02:41:12.400 kids, now they're not attractive, now they want to leave them.
02:41:14.580 These guys out here.
02:41:15.680 Yeah.
02:41:16.080 You know?
02:41:16.520 You should all get beat up and if your girl leaves you.
02:41:18.220 It would seem like I'm pushing a narrative.
02:41:19.660 It just seems.
02:41:20.220 Dodge bull.
02:41:20.620 And you know what?
02:41:21.220 Well, would you agree that that may very well be the case, though, that for some men, after
02:41:27.660 a woman goes through pregnancy, they may very well lose attraction for their partner.
02:41:32.100 But if I said that, I would get called a feminist.
02:41:34.960 I would get called, like, lipped hearted.
02:41:36.660 I'll say it for you.
02:41:38.760 I mean, that does happen, though.
02:41:40.580 I mean, men do, like, lose attraction for the wives when they get pregnant.
02:41:44.460 Both men and women lose attraction for their partners for a wide variety of reasons.
02:41:48.380 And those are shitty men and those are shitty women.
02:41:51.320 They weren't best friends in the first place, I think, if they do that.
02:41:54.800 Because if two people are best friends in the first place, I don't think that they would
02:41:59.040 give up on each other that quickly over stretch marks.
02:42:01.780 Like, I think it's their relationship has to be deeper than that.
02:42:04.560 You dodge the bullet if she's leaving you because you got jumped.
02:42:07.360 Like, you dodge.
02:42:07.880 That's a great thing.
02:42:08.600 Bye.
02:42:09.120 That's what I think you should do.
02:42:10.700 Like, I can tell you.
02:42:13.340 I mean.
02:42:14.360 Did you literally just get blown the fuck out?
02:42:16.440 Is that why you tried to leave?
02:42:17.620 You're blown out?
02:42:18.900 What's that?
02:42:19.440 She's trying to derail the podcast.
02:42:21.220 Yeah, I'm trying to run away.
02:42:22.320 By hanging dong or something.
02:42:23.160 So, okay.
02:42:23.880 According to this study, it says women, a woman is sick.
02:42:26.800 It's bullshit.
02:42:28.060 But obviously bullshit because I, you know.
02:42:29.980 Because, yeah.
02:42:30.760 I'm an expert in studies, right?
02:42:32.800 A woman is six times more likely to be separated or divorced soon after a diagnosis of cancer
02:42:38.260 or MS than if a man in the relationship is the patient.
02:42:43.060 Six times?
02:42:43.920 Hmm.
02:42:44.380 I don't buy that.
02:42:44.740 I don't know if it's six times.
02:42:45.640 I don't buy six times.
02:42:46.380 That's ridiculous.
02:42:46.980 You know what's not been replicated, though?
02:42:48.700 Your 2018 graph of sexlessness in men.
02:42:50.860 Oh, look.
02:42:50.920 The Guardian says it's seven times more likely.
02:42:53.760 Yeah, but you can say that statistic you bring up and you can be like, that's not true.
02:42:57.200 The 2018 graph you show is not replicated in any other year, yet you love to show that
02:43:01.640 graph.
02:43:01.900 There must be some other factors here.
02:43:04.740 I just donated $99.
02:43:06.920 This lawyer female has been unironically womansplaining this entire time with her pseudo-intellectualism.
02:43:13.820 Guys, she's a lawyer.
02:43:15.760 Brian, she's a lawyer.
02:43:17.780 Ladies, she's a lawyer.
02:43:19.760 Chat, she's a lawyer.
02:43:21.560 Everyone don't forget she's a lawyer.
02:43:23.680 She's been writing this multiple times.
02:43:25.980 I think, yeah, I've seen him write this multiple times and pay you a lot of money for it, so
02:43:29.640 you're welcome.
02:43:30.700 Well, to say this, I am also an OnlyFans creator.
02:43:33.560 You should subscribe.
02:43:34.820 Haram.
02:43:35.500 Okay, let me pull up some other chats here.
02:43:37.640 All right, Pot.
02:43:39.920 Brittany, would you be down to read this one?
02:43:41.980 Which one?
02:43:42.820 On the screen.
02:43:44.200 Why?
02:43:45.400 Oh, my God.
02:43:46.080 Come on.
02:43:46.340 Help me out here.
02:43:47.120 My voice is hoarse.
02:43:48.280 So he wants to be ready to read it.
02:43:49.440 But it says, like, Helmet Girl read it.
02:43:51.080 That's him, I do.
02:43:51.800 Oh, shit.
02:43:52.280 Okay, I didn't even see that.
02:43:53.280 See, I didn't even read it.
02:43:54.240 Okay.
02:43:55.300 I don't think Madison here.
02:43:56.880 Madison, you want to know?
02:43:57.500 It's doing, like, the round reading.
02:43:59.840 Yeah, I'll trigger it again.
02:44:02.980 Please let Helmet Girl read this.
02:44:04.400 The only girl ever on this podcast who rates a 10 overall is Kaiser Helmet Girl.
02:44:08.400 Beautiful face.
02:44:09.200 Beautiful smile.
02:44:09.940 Beautiful figure.
02:44:10.740 Beautiful personality.
02:44:11.980 Commitment.
02:44:12.480 Monogamy.
02:44:12.840 That's why her boyfriend put a ring on it.
02:44:15.580 Oh, congratulations.
02:44:17.260 It's a promise ring.
02:44:20.360 It's a promise ring.
02:44:21.860 Yeah, that is really cute.
02:44:23.400 All right.
02:44:23.880 Rock and roll.
02:44:24.380 Thank you, man.
02:44:24.940 We have, hold on here.
02:44:27.020 Let me get Kale up on some Super Chats.
02:44:30.760 Let's see.
02:44:33.040 We have, did we do this one?
02:44:34.900 Yeah, we did this one.
02:44:36.320 We have, all right.
02:44:40.500 You know what?
02:44:40.960 I think, think before you sleep here.
02:44:43.440 Should read this one.
02:44:44.680 Oh, God.
02:44:45.500 I'm in front of the glass.
02:44:48.420 Marriage is a legal commitment between two people to accept the benefits and be recognized
02:44:52.160 as such.
02:44:53.280 Historically, it was a security rooted in religious standards and intended to be forever, but
02:44:58.100 with divorce being more common, I believe it's losing its value and meaning.
02:45:01.360 Word, Word, Mayor Moore.
02:45:05.580 Hey, good to see you back in the chat, man.
02:45:06.920 Thank you for the, uh, community enforcement, community help and stuff like that.
02:45:09.580 So, we're missing a lot of things that people had in the past and that's why their relationship
02:45:12.480 was easier to be faithful.
02:45:14.660 Oh, let me wait until Brittany's back to, to read that one just because, uh, it was a lot
02:45:18.120 What happened to Mike Davis, Brian?
02:45:20.280 I don't know.
02:45:20.980 Mike Davis, where you at?
02:45:22.980 He got ate by a bear.
02:45:24.680 Okay, wait.
02:45:25.280 I'll wait until Brittany's back.
02:45:26.260 You weren't there to save him.
02:45:28.080 Oh, oh, this one, he did it as a TTS and here, a lawyer, girl, do you want to read this?
02:45:33.260 Yeah, this is the same.
02:45:33.860 I told you, he's done it a bunch of times.
02:45:34.840 Yeah, can you read it again?
02:45:35.900 Hey, guys, just to remind you, she's a lawyer.
02:45:37.560 She's a lawyer, guys.
02:45:38.300 Guy, that lady is a lawyer.
02:45:39.200 She's a lawyer.
02:45:39.800 Everyone, don't forget, she's a lawyer.
02:45:40.860 Holy God, shut up.
02:45:41.880 Nobody cares.
02:45:42.320 You care.
02:45:42.720 You just paid $200 to say that twice.
02:45:44.320 Did she get commission on that one?
02:45:45.200 Because it's like, say your lawyer a couple more times.
02:45:48.460 I'm a lawyer.
02:45:49.300 I think he likes you.
02:45:51.220 Yeah, he's probably subscribed.
02:45:52.660 And his name is Suits.
02:45:54.820 What's the lawyer's name?
02:45:55.800 Jasmine Jafar.
02:45:57.360 Yo, Curtis Reynolds, big thank you for your very generous soup chat here.
02:46:01.800 Thank you, man.
02:46:02.600 There are ss many flavors, I think he meant as many flavors of feminism today, as there
02:46:08.860 are genders.
02:46:11.020 There's all kinds of feminists out there.
02:46:12.780 I mean, I don't think you should compare that to genders.
02:46:15.800 I think it's sarcasm.
02:46:17.100 I know, but I'm just saying.
02:46:18.280 I just think that's a stupid comparison.
02:46:21.140 Shots fired.
02:46:22.120 Okay.
02:46:23.420 Leif Erikson, thank you for the many guesses on.
02:46:29.600 Argentinian, Henry Cavill calling you his friend.
02:46:34.860 Henry Cavill.
02:46:36.040 Oh, excuse me.
02:46:38.960 The Witcher.
02:46:40.300 Superman.
02:46:41.140 Yeah, that one's for me.
02:46:44.680 What is ARS?
02:46:46.060 Anybody?
02:46:46.800 What currency is that?
02:46:48.120 Chat?
02:46:49.340 ARS.
02:46:49.960 ARS.
02:46:51.360 Argentinian.
02:46:52.000 Argentina.
02:46:53.060 Anybody?
02:46:53.720 Chat.
02:46:54.300 Hello?
02:46:55.820 Thank you very much.
02:46:56.620 It's like $3 American.
02:46:57.300 Yeah, exactly.
02:46:57.960 Leif Erikson, thank you very much.
02:46:59.000 Appreciate it.
02:46:59.780 We have the sweet tea guy, Brynan, TBYS.
02:47:02.840 Love your stuff.
02:47:04.420 Think before you sleep.
02:47:05.380 Quick review of the manga, Gantz.
02:47:07.300 It's a favorite of mine and always wanted to hear you talk about it since you mentioned
02:47:10.360 it a couple times in corn posts.
02:47:12.660 Community posts.
02:47:13.280 Okay.
02:47:13.820 Oh, excuse me.
02:47:14.860 Community posts.
02:47:15.840 I thought I gave a review of that manga.
02:47:18.040 It's like, it's a manga that's very hard to recommend because there's a lot of weird
02:47:22.280 stuff in it.
02:47:22.820 But the story base, if you remove the weird stuff from it, it'd be like a really, really
02:47:26.760 good story.
02:47:27.160 So, probably we'll never get an anime.
02:47:30.380 All right.
02:47:31.840 We'll never get a good anime because they cut it halfway.
02:47:35.840 We have the real Mr. Meatball here.
02:47:39.140 And he says, promiscuous means actively sleeping with a lot of people.
02:47:44.380 Baby mama is mother of baby out of wedlock.
02:47:49.240 So.
02:47:49.800 Baby mama is not.
02:47:51.760 Holy fuck.
02:47:52.900 Dictionary.
02:47:54.060 Oh my God.
02:47:55.640 Baby mama is a sling.
02:47:57.160 Thank you.
02:47:57.440 It doesn't mean.
02:47:58.660 That's impressive.
02:48:00.200 Yeah.
02:48:00.420 That's wild.
02:48:01.240 I drank water before I got back.
02:48:03.120 Okay.
02:48:03.600 I'm still.
02:48:04.100 Is it, is it like a gastrointestinal thing or.
02:48:08.140 Um, I don't know.
02:48:09.680 Is it all the time or.
02:48:11.140 No.
02:48:11.260 It's when I drink things.
02:48:12.620 When you drink things.
02:48:13.400 Yeah.
02:48:13.720 Okay.
02:48:14.300 Or if I eat certain acidic foods.
02:48:16.120 So maybe it's like reflux.
02:48:17.360 Okay.
02:48:18.040 It's because we had alcohol last night.
02:48:19.180 Do you burp in your sleep?
02:48:20.740 No.
02:48:21.040 I wonder if it's worse for someone to be a snore or sleep burper.
02:48:27.960 Do you, can you burp in your sleep?
02:48:29.320 I assume you can.
02:48:30.340 She said no.
02:48:31.240 How do you feel about it?
02:48:32.100 Is that, is that possible to burp in?
02:48:32.920 Is it hot?
02:48:33.540 Probably not.
02:48:34.160 Are you neutral?
02:48:35.040 I'm neutral.
02:48:35.640 Okay.
02:48:36.280 Well, it's not like I can control it earlier.
02:48:38.280 You could see I'm trying to cover it, but like, I can't.
02:48:41.400 Like sometimes I try to mute it and it gets more basic.
02:48:43.660 So how was school for you?
02:48:44.900 Was school fun?
02:48:46.000 Did you?
02:48:46.400 Um, I don't think it was happening when I was that young.
02:48:48.700 I think that happened more of a like later in my teens.
02:48:51.820 And is there a reason or.
02:48:52.920 Think before you burp.
02:48:53.240 I don't know.
02:48:54.020 I wish I could have insurance.
02:48:55.200 That should be Brittany.
02:48:56.780 That should be Brittany's channel.
02:48:58.140 Think before you burp.
02:48:59.080 My opinion is probably acid reflux.
02:49:00.740 Because the better she eats and the less alcohol she drinks, the less she burps.
02:49:03.260 Do you have an acidic stomach too?
02:49:04.780 Like you need to take like.
02:49:05.700 Okay.
02:49:05.940 We don't need to talk about it.
02:49:07.180 I have allergies.
02:49:08.220 I don't want to put Brittany on the spot with the burping stuff.
02:49:10.580 But, uh, okay.
02:49:11.620 Promiscuity is the practice of engaging in sexual activity frequently with different partners
02:49:16.500 or being indiscriminate in the choice of sexual partners.
02:49:20.320 Activity would entail.
02:49:21.700 Wait.
02:49:22.240 Activity would entail OF.
02:49:23.760 Any photos and dress?
02:49:25.380 I agree with the first definition of sexual activity.
02:49:27.180 Because that's why you would consider it cheating.
02:49:28.520 Most people in committed relationship.
02:49:29.940 If you sent.
02:49:30.720 If their partner sent news to the opposite gender.
02:49:32.880 Or if you're gay.
02:49:33.560 I guess the same gender.
02:49:34.560 It says frequently.
02:49:35.260 So what if they did it once?
02:49:36.860 It would still, it would still be promiscuous.
02:49:38.640 I mean, I feel like you could use promiscuous as an adjective to describe something, you
02:49:42.460 know?
02:49:43.040 I mean, like, in like the 1950s and for a while after that, sex or sexuality was promiscuous.
02:49:48.960 That's how we would describe it.
02:49:50.920 I mean, I need to talk.
02:49:51.680 Like, if we talked about sex, even if you had sex with one person, you were described as promiscuous.
02:49:57.220 Since you're making the claim, you need to define, that's all I'm saying.
02:50:00.560 The person making the claim, an affirmative claim, needs to define the term.
02:50:03.500 Lawyer.
02:50:03.780 Your definition wasn't.
02:50:05.060 I'm getting tried.
02:50:05.680 You just got lawyers for me.
02:50:07.300 Your definition wasn't matching your own.
02:50:09.100 You were contradicting yourself.
02:50:10.680 Yeah.
02:50:10.980 So if you are having sexual activity with multiple people, meaning including, like, images, anything
02:50:17.000 like that.
02:50:17.940 So now you're considering.
02:50:18.940 So what's sexual activity?
02:50:20.300 So, for example, if you were on OnlyFans selling nudes, that would be sexual activity.
02:50:24.500 If you were to literally have sex with someone, that would be sexual activity.
02:50:30.220 But you said some outfits can also be.
02:50:31.020 If you kiss someone, that still counts, even though it's not having sex.
02:50:33.760 But you said some outfits.
02:50:34.820 But you said some outfits count, too.
02:50:36.300 Some outfits are.
02:50:36.860 So that's sexual activity.
02:50:38.040 Some outfits are promiscuous.
02:50:39.220 So if you go to a strip club and they're not wearing anything and they're dancing, yeah,
02:50:41.660 that's sexual activity.
02:50:42.440 Is a man who is masturbating to multiple different online girls, is he promiscuous?
02:50:49.800 If he's looking at a lot of different women online, is he promiscuous?
02:50:55.980 Could be.
02:50:57.000 Could be.
02:50:57.460 He could be?
02:50:58.260 I mean, that's true.
02:50:58.900 So all you guys who are watching porn and it's not just one girl, or even if it is one
02:51:04.880 girl, are promiscuous.
02:51:06.680 But in my definition, because, you know, if I'm in a relationship, if somebody consumed
02:51:10.740 porn, like, I would consider that breakup.
02:51:13.020 So if they're single, then it's not promiscuous?
02:51:15.200 It would be promiscuous to me.
02:51:16.700 And what about the girls who just, they don't do off, but they just post.
02:51:19.180 What if they're single?
02:51:20.040 Are they still promiscuous?
02:51:21.340 Bikini pics on Instagram.
02:51:24.200 Are they promiscuous?
02:51:24.900 So your question was.
02:51:26.400 I think we're beating a dead horse on it.
02:51:27.620 I feel like we already talked about it.
02:51:28.940 Yeah.
02:51:29.340 Way too much.
02:51:29.780 Yeah, we're like single.
02:51:30.540 By the way, it was Argentine Peso, apparently.
02:51:32.700 I just said that.
02:51:33.780 Oh, okay.
02:51:34.460 I didn't hear you.
02:51:34.880 How much was it in American dollars?
02:51:35.620 Speak of dollars.
02:51:36.480 Here, let me do the, yeah, wait.
02:51:37.980 One thousand.
02:51:38.600 What was it?
02:51:39.040 One thousand?
02:51:39.740 One thousand.
02:51:40.920 It's probably ten bucks.
02:51:41.720 Aren't they in like a financial collapse or something?
02:51:44.100 I just know red mean good.
02:51:46.240 Huh?
02:51:46.920 Wait.
02:51:47.320 A thousand Argentine pesos is.
02:51:50.260 What?
02:51:50.680 I almost don't want to reveal it.
02:51:52.580 How much is it?
02:51:53.860 A million dollars.
02:51:54.800 I think it's like four dollars.
02:51:56.560 What?
02:51:57.860 Whoa.
02:51:58.460 Hey, you guys are abusing.
02:52:01.200 You guys are abusing.
02:52:02.600 I said that joke.
02:52:03.340 I wasn't serious.
02:52:04.040 I turned it to you.
02:52:05.340 Everybody's going to change their like location on YouTube to Argentina so they can fucking abuse,
02:52:10.120 abuse the fucking.
02:52:12.080 Okay.
02:52:12.740 No more.
02:52:13.260 I'm going to, I guess I have to.
02:52:14.600 Wait, was it ten thousand or was it?
02:52:16.220 It was one thousand.
02:52:17.680 This is one thousand.
02:52:18.400 It's right up there.
02:52:19.360 Bro, what the?
02:52:20.480 Yo, YouTube.
02:52:21.720 What the fuck?
02:52:22.520 Well, it's the same thing with Brazilian.
02:52:24.800 So that's like 50.
02:52:26.300 Only USD, only BC and only euros.
02:52:30.940 Wait, I wait.
02:52:32.600 Hold on.
02:52:33.560 Okay, whatever.
02:52:34.640 So I have some more questions for those of you who so kindly provided some pre-show information.
02:52:41.760 So hold on.
02:52:42.460 Let me just pull that up.
02:52:43.660 Okay.
02:52:44.240 We have here from, let's see, Lana, right?
02:52:49.620 Yeah.
02:52:50.840 You said you typically date guys that are either significantly older or younger than you.
02:52:57.040 I have.
02:52:57.700 So what do you mean by that?
02:52:59.320 So I've either dated like men who are like a little like between 10 and 15 years older
02:53:05.980 or between like seven and 10 years younger.
02:53:10.640 Okay.
02:53:12.080 Typically.
02:53:12.800 I mean, I've had six relationships.
02:53:14.320 I would say there was like two of those were like around my age, but the others weren't.
02:53:20.480 Were younger or older?
02:53:21.980 Both.
02:53:23.060 Okay.
02:53:24.040 Did you have better relationships with younger guys or older guys?
02:53:29.580 Probably the younger ones, actually.
02:53:32.120 Interesting.
02:53:33.260 Yeah.
02:53:33.800 Why do you think that is?
02:53:34.860 I don't know.
02:53:35.400 I would say like the first relationship I was in, he was really, really controlling
02:53:40.860 and jealous and chauvinistic.
02:53:45.300 And he was older.
02:53:46.820 And he was older.
02:53:47.740 Hmm.
02:53:48.620 Yeah.
02:53:49.120 Okay.
02:53:50.560 And I would say, hmm.
02:53:53.100 Are you considered a cougar?
02:53:55.660 Are you a cougar?
02:53:56.980 I mean, I wouldn't date like anyone who's not in their 30s.
02:54:00.920 Oh, okay.
02:54:04.260 All right.
02:54:05.220 I mean, you said significantly older or younger than me.
02:54:08.240 And you're 39.
02:54:09.040 Yeah.
02:54:09.620 I mean, that was in the past.
02:54:10.320 I'm thinking like some frat boys or something, you know, senior in college.
02:54:16.520 No, like, okay, I dated someone who was seven years younger than me a while ago, but he
02:54:20.000 was like a blues musician.
02:54:21.780 You know what I mean?
02:54:22.080 That's fun.
02:54:22.700 That's not a, I think in your 30s, you know, it's like, eh.
02:54:26.060 Yeah.
02:54:26.660 Whatever.
02:54:27.800 You also said you want to debunk the myth that men don't want to date moms.
02:54:33.820 Yeah.
02:54:34.100 And so you're a mom.
02:54:34.920 Yeah.
02:54:35.480 You have one kid, if I recall, correct?
02:54:37.780 Okay.
02:54:38.380 Yeah.
02:54:38.860 So please debunk the myth.
02:54:42.160 Yeah, it's just not true.
02:54:43.820 I have no problem getting the men that I want.
02:54:48.580 I mean, I do.
02:54:49.800 You don't think.
02:54:50.700 Go ahead.
02:54:51.120 It's like, it's weird.
02:54:51.980 It's, it's like, okay, well, I don't know if you guys know this, but the two, I worked
02:54:56.920 for like a search engine company.
02:54:59.140 Yahoo.
02:54:59.760 That does corn search engines.
02:55:02.520 And the two most.
02:55:03.380 You work for Bing?
02:55:04.180 No.
02:55:04.640 No.
02:55:05.440 Corn search engine company.
02:55:07.560 So Bing?
02:55:08.240 Cornography?
02:55:09.360 Yeah.
02:55:10.400 Like, so they.
02:55:12.280 Okay.
02:55:12.680 Yeah.
02:55:12.820 Anyways, other and other marketing companies in the corn industry.
02:55:17.600 Sure.
02:55:18.440 And so, yeah, the top two most searched subjects on there are either like MILF or teen.
02:55:26.900 Yeah.
02:55:27.200 I took some MILF.
02:55:28.280 Yeah.
02:55:28.780 Yeah.
02:55:29.100 And lesbian.
02:55:30.200 MILF.
02:55:30.540 Are you not allowed to say porn?
02:55:32.940 I mean, I just don't want to say.
02:55:34.140 I mean, you just can't say a lot.
02:55:35.560 Yeah.
02:55:35.960 Yeah.
02:55:36.660 You can't say great.
02:55:37.640 It's like the central focus of the condo.
02:55:39.340 You definitely can't say it.
02:55:39.980 The YouTube bots will pick it up if you say it a lot.
02:55:42.640 Yeah.
02:55:42.840 And then you get flagged.
02:55:43.620 Okay.
02:55:43.880 I was just wondering.
02:55:44.460 Well, I mean, you don't think that there's, there's certainly men out there, if you compare
02:55:52.460 two options, that would probably prefer to date someone who doesn't have kids.
02:55:58.600 Yeah.
02:55:59.060 And I'd say the same for women.
02:56:00.600 I'm sure most women who don't have kids would prefer to date a man who doesn't have kids.
02:56:06.780 I think it goes, it's the same for both genders.
02:56:09.980 Yeah.
02:56:10.420 I think there's some who will and some who won't, but it's not because there's a lot
02:56:17.500 of people who are like, oh, nobody's going to want you if you're a single mother and things
02:56:22.460 like that.
02:56:22.680 You don't think it makes it harder?
02:56:24.640 I mean, for me, it doesn't seem to make it harder.
02:56:26.860 I have a question though.
02:56:27.860 Are you talking about sex wise or dating wise, like relationship?
02:56:30.780 Yeah.
02:56:31.080 Like dating wise.
02:56:32.100 Really?
02:56:32.380 Yeah.
02:56:32.700 And that's interesting because a lot of time you hear that, you know, it's hard for a single
02:56:36.280 woman to get boyfriends or, you know.
02:56:38.380 I think it's just hard to find time to go on dates.
02:56:40.900 Yeah.
02:56:41.460 Well, there you go.
02:56:42.840 There you have it.
02:56:43.520 I think logically it makes it harder.
02:56:45.540 But it's not hard to, it's not like men don't want you.
02:56:48.720 No, I agree that it's not that men don't want you, but it is with any filter that you
02:56:53.480 add, it's going to make the dating pool smaller.
02:56:55.540 So the people that don't want that are automatically opted out.
02:56:58.380 Because there are guys that don't want to date someone who has kids and vice versa.
02:57:02.020 So I think it does make it harder, but it's not impossible.
02:57:04.540 Because like, not to say that there are simps for dating you, but like there are simps
02:57:08.080 out there that will tolerate like anything for a crumb of coochie, right?
02:57:11.600 Yeah.
02:57:11.920 So like.
02:57:12.740 Yeah, but there is men who are, have like, who are literally like, who is going to want
02:57:17.760 you as a single mother.
02:57:20.000 You just attract different guys.
02:57:21.440 You either get the really virtuous ones or maybe you get ones that have like a certain
02:57:27.020 way about them.
02:57:28.060 Like it just attracts different men.
02:57:29.260 Yeah, some guys are like, okay, I don't want to date someone who already has kids.
02:57:32.260 And some guys are like, they're really attracted to that, you being a mom for whatever reason.
02:57:40.040 But I think any filter, like anything, like even if you say like, I want to date obese
02:57:43.720 people, right?
02:57:44.400 That's going to automatically make your dating pool smaller if you say like, I'm a mom.
02:57:47.380 Like I know girls who are, don't have kids, but they're just attracted to dads.
02:57:52.060 They just like dads.
02:57:53.320 Like they think dads are hot.
02:57:54.320 Yeah, a lot of women do like that.
02:57:54.880 Yeah, which I do too.
02:57:56.880 Yeah, because it, you know, reflects what women tend to be into and they're looking
02:58:00.580 for a protector and a provider and a good father is, you know, that's what it represents.
02:58:06.160 Right.
02:58:06.440 Versus if someone already has a kid with somebody else, that means that, okay, the dad is going
02:58:13.280 to be in the picture regardless because whether you like it or not, the kid is somebody else's
02:58:20.000 kid.
02:58:20.380 Would you guys get married to, or be in a long-term relationship with a guy who has
02:58:25.720 children?
02:58:26.920 I am.
02:58:27.180 If he was like perfect in every other way.
02:58:28.620 I am.
02:58:29.560 Yeah.
02:58:29.980 So I'm, I'm fine with it.
02:58:32.000 What about you guys?
02:58:33.060 Possibly.
02:58:33.560 I mean, I don't know if I'm infertile or not, but I've had medical struggles.
02:58:37.660 So I mean, if he's the perfect guy and we got married and everything, you know, worked
02:58:42.140 out well, I would probably.
02:58:44.160 Yeah.
02:58:44.340 When I was younger, before I had kids, I was in a relationship with someone who already had
02:58:48.480 a child.
02:58:48.920 So can I get a raise of hands?
02:58:51.780 Like who would date a guy, given he's like perfect guy otherwise, if he had a kid?
02:58:55.200 Not a preference, but not a deal breaker.
02:58:57.260 Not a deal breaker.
02:58:58.000 Not a deal breaker.
02:58:58.880 I mean, my fiance has a daughter.
02:59:00.560 I mean, I used to think that it was a deal breaker until I was like, okay.
02:59:04.700 I don't trust you.
02:59:06.640 Aside that, whatever.
02:59:07.580 For me personally, it's a deal breaker.
02:59:09.440 Unless I had kids, then it wouldn't be.
02:59:11.640 Well, let's ask the two men here, unless any of you identify as a man.
02:59:18.440 I do, by the way.
02:59:19.640 You identify as a man?
02:59:21.120 Yeah, I'm a man.
02:59:21.800 Whip it out.
02:59:22.180 You can change it whenever you want.
02:59:23.060 Those are the rules.
02:59:23.780 Those are the rules, I guess.
02:59:25.260 Whenever I want the man's restroom.
02:59:26.700 So would you, given the option between a woman who has a kid and a woman who doesn't want
02:59:35.820 a kid, which would you prefer to date?
02:59:38.720 Who has a kid and a woman who doesn't want one?
02:59:40.620 No, no, sorry, sorry.
02:59:41.480 Excuse me.
02:59:42.200 A woman who has a child and a woman who doesn't have a child.
02:59:46.960 Generally the one who doesn't, but it depends on how old you are.
02:59:49.380 Like obviously the older you get, and if you're trying to get someone relatively in the same
02:59:52.700 age range, it's going to get harder and harder for that to happen.
02:59:54.640 So generally no, but if I'm like 45, like it's not going to be feasible, probably.
03:00:01.720 I mean.
03:00:02.760 Well, if you don't have any kids, you know, you can.
03:00:05.540 I guess, but like you're going to.
03:00:06.840 You can probably get it like.
03:00:08.400 I mean, are you at the point where it's like, if you're that old, like how old is their kid?
03:00:11.660 It's not like they're one.
03:00:12.540 So they're probably going to, they're probably going to be 17 or 18 at that point, maybe 13,
03:00:17.240 12, something like that.
03:00:18.360 Sure.
03:00:19.560 Well, are you dating guys who have kids themselves?
03:00:23.760 I mean, like I prefer that because I think, I feel like they just have more of an understanding,
03:00:29.380 you know, and the, just the maturity level that comes with being a parent is attractive
03:00:36.720 to me.
03:00:38.120 Got it.
03:00:39.120 Yeah.
03:00:39.920 Okay.
03:00:40.460 I mean, at least for me, it, it's certainly not ideal to, no offense to date a woman who
03:00:46.100 has a kid.
03:00:49.220 And I think, I think most men who don't have kids themselves, it's like.
03:00:54.060 Yeah.
03:00:54.520 I mean, also.
03:00:55.040 Not an ideal move.
03:00:55.780 It depends on your age range.
03:00:57.260 Like when you're older, I mean, in your 50s, 60s and you get remarried.
03:01:00.620 I mean.
03:01:01.360 I mean.
03:01:01.780 In the dating league there, most people have kids.
03:01:04.340 So it doesn't really matter.
03:01:05.140 But.
03:01:05.180 Well, I suppose you get.
03:01:06.520 You should be in your 30s.
03:01:07.880 You're a little younger, but you know, you still have time.
03:01:12.240 Well, so my mom never had a problem.
03:01:13.820 So my parents got divorced right before I started high school or they broke up right
03:01:17.260 before I started high school.
03:01:18.300 My mom had three kids living at home.
03:01:20.000 She never had a problem finding a guy.
03:01:21.600 Same with my grandma.
03:01:22.800 She had a kid and she married a guy and he had like a couple of kids, but that was way
03:01:28.360 like, you know, like 15 years later.
03:01:30.840 But when she first divorced her husband, she didn't have a problem dating at all.
03:01:36.360 I think it really depends on how crazy the baby mom or baby dad are.
03:01:40.760 I'm sorry.
03:01:41.080 Yeah.
03:01:41.280 I know you guys don't like that.
03:01:42.520 But that's what they are once they're separated, right?
03:01:45.100 I don't know.
03:01:45.980 I mean, make fun of guys for like mansplaining.
03:01:49.100 Are y'all kind of women-splaining right now?
03:01:52.020 Like, sorry, but.
03:01:53.040 I just think it's a suboptimal move as a guy who doesn't have kids to date a woman who
03:01:58.620 has kids.
03:01:59.120 I think that applies both ways.
03:02:00.820 Sure.
03:02:01.180 I agree.
03:02:02.120 I think I might be the only girl at the table that I view it as a deal breaker because
03:02:05.060 I don't have kids.
03:02:05.860 Just a little closer to the mic.
03:02:07.840 Because I don't have kids, I would view it as a deal breaker.
03:02:10.600 But I think we also have to consider that people are a whole package, right?
03:02:16.620 We don't get to like pick one thing and you take it for what it is for the most part.
03:02:20.980 People can improve, but that's one of those things.
03:02:23.380 Like, do you like the person enough to have that as one of your cons?
03:02:27.140 Is it worth it to date them?
03:02:28.860 But for me, it's always a deal breaker as of now, unless I had children later in life
03:02:32.780 or something like that.
03:02:34.800 So, you can't pick and choose.
03:02:36.260 You get what you get.
03:02:38.140 You can pick and choose your partner, but if you see someone you like, you can't just
03:02:41.300 be like, oh, I don't like this one thing about them.
03:02:43.440 Exactly.
03:02:43.900 It really depends on the nature of the priorities.
03:02:45.080 It's going to be a huge deal breaker for me because I'm like so not ready for that, but
03:02:48.980 it's just, I'm like, okay, it is what it is.
03:02:51.600 Like, I, you know, yeah, okay.
03:02:55.340 But I, it's worth it.
03:02:55.620 Okay, hold on, hold on.
03:02:56.460 Just to bring it back to your thing.
03:02:58.160 So, you said you wanted to debunk the myth that men don't want to date moms.
03:03:02.720 But when it comes to just optimizing, you know, your potential match, hold on just a sec.
03:03:09.240 I meant men, not like young boys who are.
03:03:13.040 Hi, Brian.
03:03:14.160 I've been loving your show so much.
03:03:16.280 Thank you, man.
03:03:16.740 Thanks for the great content.
03:03:18.940 I'm waiting to hear back from whatever on Nick.
03:03:21.860 I'm excited to hear from the ladies and gentlemen on tonight.
03:03:25.680 I'm so happy to see Byronique Barbie back on.
03:03:29.120 What's up, girl?
03:03:30.100 Yo, can we?
03:03:31.700 Yo.
03:03:32.140 What are you doing?
03:03:33.140 Emily.
03:03:34.280 Emily, thank you very much.
03:03:36.220 Can we get some W's in the chat for our homegirl, Byronique?
03:03:39.200 She's the fucking legend.
03:03:41.160 Seriously.
03:03:41.740 Y'all put me to sleep.
03:03:43.020 I'm sorry, shit.
03:03:45.280 I ain't been talking.
03:03:46.340 Speak up, girl.
03:03:47.800 Yo, we got, you got.
03:03:48.720 Y'all talk about the same shit in circles and circles.
03:03:51.200 Damn, can we get something else popping over here?
03:03:53.140 What you want to talk about?
03:03:54.340 We'll come to it soon.
03:03:55.920 We're listening.
03:03:56.440 Y'all fucked me up tonight.
03:03:58.380 I don't even know.
03:04:00.080 I got a perfect question for you.
03:04:01.600 I will, I will loop it in, in like three minutes.
03:04:04.740 Okay.
03:04:05.100 So, okay.
03:04:06.200 Debunking the myth that men don't want to date moms, right?
03:04:09.320 Yeah.
03:04:09.680 You're about to say, well, little boys, they don't want to date.
03:04:13.200 Yeah.
03:04:13.480 I'm talking about like, I'm not talking about like, okay.
03:04:15.940 Like, there's a certain point where men become more mature and they want to settle down.
03:04:23.080 And that pool of men, I think.
03:04:26.560 Want to settle down with a single mom?
03:04:28.360 I would say that pool of men aren't as discriminant.
03:04:32.520 And they might be okay with it.
03:04:34.300 Mm-hmm.
03:04:38.840 I don't doubt that you're able to find men who want to date you or hook up with you or even
03:04:44.640 marry you, become the stepfather of your children.
03:04:47.820 And however, but I think looking at it from just a maxim, like optimizing, if there was
03:04:55.400 you and then an identical version of you that didn't have a kid, do you like, do you think
03:05:01.320 most men would pick for your...
03:05:02.820 It may not be most, it may not be the majority of men, but there's still a decent amount of
03:05:09.040 them.
03:05:09.660 But, but okay, let's say there's an identical version of you, but without a child.
03:05:13.800 No, I, I think some men like...
03:05:16.760 Some men...
03:05:17.760 I, I, and I'm also basing this on like, like I, I, you know what I do.
03:05:22.760 And a lot of men are attracted to me for that reason.
03:05:25.400 They like the MILF status.
03:05:28.060 Seriously, I had like two friends in college that were like super into like...
03:05:32.240 MILFs.
03:05:32.880 MILFs, like so into it.
03:05:34.300 Like they had, they wanted nothing to do with girls their age.
03:05:36.320 They're into older women or they're into MILFs.
03:05:38.640 Those two are different things.
03:05:39.440 Like, you know, a lot of like attraction comes from a subconscious, like idea of like, like
03:05:49.900 reproducing, right?
03:05:51.520 So a woman who, like a lot of women or a lot of men are attracted to women who are curvy,
03:05:56.180 right?
03:05:56.380 Because they represent being able to bear children, right?
03:06:00.040 So you're saying because you've given birth to a child before, that means that you are,
03:06:06.560 you've demonstrated your ability to bring a child to term?
03:06:09.800 Maybe that's why guys like MILFs because they, like, it's not clear to me.
03:06:14.320 I just want to point out one thing.
03:06:16.320 I would be, not that there aren't good guys out there that would love kids because they
03:06:20.700 just like kids and they just haven't had their own.
03:06:22.840 But I would be a suspect if I were a single mom and a guy was like, went out of his way
03:06:29.360 to be like, yes, that's what I want.
03:06:31.380 And it's like proactively going for, I'd be like, I don't want my kids to get touched
03:06:35.300 against their will.
03:06:36.060 So I would, I would be careful.
03:06:37.620 Also, another thing I'd like to say, I mean, you're 35.
03:06:41.020 Oh, I don't know.
03:06:41.860 Don't get me wrong.
03:06:42.680 Like there's no men coming in my house.
03:06:44.540 But, um, yeah, you have to be careful.
03:06:46.000 No, like I, like I, where I'm at now, I would be, I would be fine if I was even single
03:06:52.520 for the rest of my life.
03:06:54.380 And I just was a mom.
03:06:55.740 Well, can I ask, cause your situation's a little bit different cause you're a widow.
03:06:59.000 Do you think that that plays into it?
03:07:00.520 Cause a lot of people like my, I'm engaged to a guy with a kid.
03:07:04.000 So, and if most of it is dealing with the other parent, so because you're in that situation,
03:07:09.680 they don't have to deal with another parent.
03:07:11.280 Like something very tragic happened to you.
03:07:13.420 That's a, that's a good point.
03:07:14.300 Cause I definitely think like one of the reasons why I'm either a man or a woman wouldn't want
03:07:19.400 to deal with someone who, you know, uh, like the, the, uh, what's the term?
03:07:24.480 The, the, the, the other parent, the other parent is one.
03:07:28.700 One, there's always that risk of reconciliation.
03:07:32.140 And then two, like, okay, what if the fucking ex is psycho?
03:07:36.120 So I think you are in a very unique situation, a fairly unique situation because you're a
03:07:41.600 widow.
03:07:41.760 I think that does make it different, but I don't think that, that excludes, for example,
03:07:47.420 the, you know, concerns when it comes to, well, you know, you've got the kid and then there's
03:07:52.640 some financial concern, like financial components of that.
03:07:55.400 Uh, I think like some men just like, like, like, like, like it because they want to be
03:08:02.500 like the hero and come and save the day for me or something like, you know, like, Oh,
03:08:06.740 like there's no, yeah, there's no father.
03:08:08.840 I can't save you.
03:08:09.960 The hero complex.
03:08:11.340 Yeah.
03:08:11.880 Maybe that's it.
03:08:13.160 Captain Sava.
03:08:14.460 Mr.
03:08:15.500 Yeah, literally.
03:08:16.360 But, um, like to answer your question, yeah, that, that might be a component in that because
03:08:23.720 I mean, for me, like I've had like the love of my life and we had a child together and
03:08:28.380 like, if I don't ever do that again, I'm okay with it.
03:08:31.400 The loss of someone, like having to date somebody that lost somebody is like, you need to be
03:08:38.240 comfortable with the fact that you can love somebody while you still love someone else
03:08:45.880 who has passed.
03:08:47.040 But I've had, I have a friend that actually did that, but he found a girl that was in
03:08:53.320 the same situation and they can both accept that.
03:08:56.200 Okay.
03:08:56.360 We still love somebody.
03:08:58.300 Right.
03:08:58.620 And we're still sad that we lost somebody, but we're happy together and we can just find
03:09:04.320 the best in each other.
03:09:06.140 And sorry, it's a difficult thing to talk about.
03:09:09.960 How does this tie into Miss Barbie over here?
03:09:12.540 You said you had a question for her.
03:09:13.620 Well, I was finishing up with the mom thing, but I'm trying to loop it back in here.
03:09:20.800 And Brittany, no, you're not the only one because I don't fuck with niggas that got
03:09:24.080 kids either.
03:09:25.700 So you ain't the only one, baby girl.
03:09:29.660 Okay.
03:09:30.020 Okay.
03:09:30.860 So the question is, what, I guess, what is the benefit of, like, let's say there's an
03:09:38.060 identical version of you that didn't have a kid.
03:09:41.540 Like, why would a guy pick the woman with a kid?
03:09:46.860 Like, just looks-wise identical?
03:09:48.540 Because I'm a different person as a mom than I was before I had children.
03:09:54.240 I just, I don't see the, like, there's no real benefits that I'm aware of.
03:09:59.300 Like, if someone likes me for my personality and for the person.
03:10:01.260 No, but I'm saying, like, you have a, let's say there's an identical version of you.
03:10:07.640 One of them, the identical version, does not have a kid.
03:10:10.740 What would, like, why would someone pick?
03:10:12.760 Like, a guy who has no kids, specifically, right?
03:10:17.100 Because usually-
03:10:17.480 Or even a guy who does have kids.
03:10:18.960 Well, usually you do want to date other parents because, like, they understand, you know, it's
03:10:23.100 just-
03:10:23.560 Okay, fine.
03:10:24.060 How about the guy who doesn't have kids?
03:10:25.160 Okay.
03:10:25.320 The guy who doesn't have kids, I mean, unless he's, like, has, like, a MILF thing, he probably
03:10:31.340 would go to the kid, the non-
03:10:34.600 He likes their, responsible, nurturing, nurturing, providing, hardworking.
03:10:39.120 Those are some things that might, you have more of because you're a mom.
03:10:42.460 But you said you were wanting to debunk the myth that men don't want to date moms.
03:10:46.720 And I would say, generally speaking, for example, I think a lot of men who don't have kids would
03:10:52.920 prefer to not date-
03:10:55.720 Yeah, a lot, but not all.
03:10:57.060 But then it's not really, it's not really debunking the myth.
03:11:03.500 It is.
03:11:04.300 Is it a myth?
03:11:04.920 I don't think it's a myth.
03:11:05.820 I think it's true that most people, men or women, who don't have kids would prefer to
03:11:12.500 date someone who also doesn't have kids.
03:11:15.540 I'm not seeing that.
03:11:16.020 Is that a myth?
03:11:16.700 I'm not-
03:11:17.160 Or is that true?
03:11:17.800 Yeah, I'm just not seeing that in my life.
03:11:19.980 Well, wait.
03:11:20.660 And in other people, because I just know so many people way before I had kids, I noticed,
03:11:24.000 like-
03:11:24.440 Have you been doing much dating, though?
03:11:26.020 I'm trying to recall your answer.
03:11:28.300 I don't think you've been dating much, have you?
03:11:29.940 I'm not, but even though I may not want to date people, they have wanted to date me.
03:11:35.540 Well, wait.
03:11:36.220 So have you actually gone on dates with these people?
03:11:39.120 Or they just want to go on dates with you?
03:11:41.280 No, yeah.
03:11:42.000 Or do they just want sex from you, which is probably the more realistic thing?
03:11:44.500 No, like, for example, like, people who know me through friends and da-da-da and found
03:11:50.940 out that, like, I moved back to, like, my hometown and stuff, and they know about, they
03:11:56.000 know I have a kid, this and that, or they know we have mutual friends, and then they're
03:12:00.620 interested in meeting me or getting set up with me.
03:12:03.960 Like, I'm not looking, but it's coming to me.
03:12:08.340 In other words, see, I was on a date gap.
03:12:10.420 So guys are DMing you, like, I don't, you should not confuse, you should not confuse,
03:12:15.420 like, sexual attraction for relationship attraction.
03:12:17.840 No, these, they were not trying to just hook up.
03:12:20.520 Not these guys.
03:12:21.280 Like, they're pursuing you.
03:12:22.140 Well, yeah, but let's, let's not ignore the fact that men, let's not ignore the fact
03:12:26.200 that men will lie about their intentions to sleep with women.
03:12:30.660 But these were, like, these were, like, really grown men.
03:12:33.380 I'm talking about-
03:12:33.960 Let's not ignore the fact that really grown men will lie about their intentions in order
03:12:38.040 to sleep with women.
03:12:38.720 There is a big maturity difference between, like, 18-year-olds and 40-year-olds.
03:12:43.400 Okay?
03:12:43.800 I mean, when you're 40, okay, not always, but I'm just going to say, when you're at
03:12:48.160 a different, if you were at a different stage of your life when you're 40 and you want to
03:12:52.600 get married and you haven't, you know, had kids, haven't been in a relationship, and you'd
03:12:56.100 probably want to get married unless you don't want that at all.
03:12:59.440 Vermillion wants to know, did they commit?
03:13:02.720 Who?
03:13:04.020 He's, uh, he's a chatter.
03:13:06.300 He's in the chat.
03:13:07.040 Did who commit?
03:13:07.440 These guys?
03:13:09.020 These guys.
03:13:10.120 I didn't want to date them because I wasn't ready.
03:13:12.860 Okay.
03:13:13.260 Fair enough.
03:13:13.360 So wait, what use is attracting a person if you don't want to date them, though?
03:13:16.660 I wouldn't want that.
03:13:17.380 Well, they're people that are propositioning you, right?
03:13:19.340 You also get to know them, you know?
03:13:21.280 Yeah.
03:13:21.400 I guess it's a factor, but I mean, like, initially, I was assuming it was because you weren't
03:13:24.860 physically attracted to them, that you didn't want to date them.
03:13:28.800 No, I just emotionally wasn't ready.
03:13:30.760 Oh, okay.
03:13:31.460 And there's also that, but, you know, sometimes you get to know someone and they're not the
03:13:34.620 person that you, I don't know.
03:13:36.400 Yeah.
03:13:36.520 Well, and also some guys can't have kids and they want to be a father.
03:13:41.200 That's true.
03:13:41.900 That's another thing I was saying.
03:13:42.840 It's like that you're mature, you're hardworking, you make sacrifices for your child that maybe
03:13:47.380 if you weren't a mom, you wouldn't make.
03:13:48.960 It can indicate or can be an indicator of some of those traits, some guys might think.
03:13:53.360 Yeah.
03:13:53.620 And I've just known so many people who, it's like, I found out that they got with a woman
03:14:01.000 who had kids and they didn't have kids.
03:14:03.540 I just know so many stories about that.
03:14:04.980 Being a mother is feminine.
03:14:06.660 And if someone's a mom, she probably has some of those feminine traits you know she does
03:14:10.540 because she's showing you by the way she's a mother.
03:14:13.840 A lot of guys are turned on by a good mother.
03:14:16.360 I would say that.
03:14:17.200 And vice versa, like a lot of women are turned on by a good mother.
03:14:19.700 Yeah.
03:14:20.700 I can tell you I had one experience with a single mother and she, we had gone on one
03:14:27.460 date, which took forever to schedule.
03:14:29.860 And then on our second date, she, 10 minutes before we were supposed to meet, said, my teenage
03:14:38.680 daughter is having a issue.
03:14:41.700 Sorry.
03:14:42.100 Can't meet you.
03:14:42.940 How old was this woman?
03:14:44.100 But some guys like when you play hard to get.
03:14:46.140 She was.
03:14:46.960 On accident.
03:14:47.860 Because you're in your 30s.
03:14:48.780 You're dating a woman with a teenager?
03:14:51.180 Like, I think it was.
03:14:52.460 So she was in our 40s.
03:14:53.620 She was in your teen pregnancy.
03:14:54.200 I think she was like 39.
03:14:58.400 Okay.
03:14:58.940 A bit older than me.
03:14:59.840 A bit older than me.
03:15:00.420 But, like, canceled on me, like, 10 minutes before we were supposed to meet.
03:15:07.240 So, I mean, and that's the furthest I've ever gone, like, with a single mother.
03:15:13.480 I've heard some pretty bad stories from men where it's like, okay, there's an expectation.
03:15:18.300 Well, I think one of the other big things that you often hear is, eventually, down the
03:15:22.740 line, there's going to be an expectation, if you're in a relationship with a single mother,
03:15:27.000 that the single mother is going to expect the guy to provide.
03:15:31.220 Not just for you, but for the kid.
03:15:33.540 And so that adds, like, sort of a double duty to provide for a child that's not yours.
03:15:38.700 The issue with that, though, is there's all the responsibility, but none of the corresponding
03:15:44.080 authority.
03:15:45.140 So, a woman who's a single mother, she might expect you to provide, but she might not expect,
03:15:51.160 like, she might not allow you, as the guy, to have any authority over the child.
03:15:57.460 Is that something you would want?
03:15:59.380 Well, if I'm, I wouldn't date, okay, I wouldn't date a single mother, but it's, to me, if you're
03:16:06.340 going to be responsible.
03:16:07.880 Wait.
03:16:08.440 Providing for a child, you, and you're going to step in as a stepfather, you know, yeah,
03:16:14.260 you don't, you aren't given authority over the kid.
03:16:17.580 Was the date that you had with the single mom before you decided that you wouldn't date
03:16:22.120 single moms?
03:16:23.600 I mean, I'd always been kind of hesitant, but I was like, I guess I could give it a shot.
03:16:30.160 And, I mean, it basically just confirmed some of the things I had already kind of thought
03:16:35.420 about.
03:16:36.580 You know, I, I'm in a position where I'm not, I'm not, I suppose you could say I have other
03:16:43.320 options where there's plenty of women to date that don't have children.
03:16:46.880 So I'm not like in a situation, at least in my age cohort, where it's like, man, it's
03:16:52.400 kind of tough out there in terms of options.
03:16:54.720 But to bring it back to what I'm trying to remember what I was saying.
03:16:58.400 Oh yeah.
03:16:58.860 You don't have authority over the kid.
03:17:00.980 Like most single moms are not going to like allow you to discipline their kid, but they
03:17:06.480 will expect you to provide for their kid.
03:17:08.560 So it's all the responsibility with none of the authority.
03:17:11.420 But wouldn't it be responsibility to have to parent a whole child?
03:17:16.340 Yeah, he's saying, he's saying a lot of responsibility, but not, not authority to
03:17:20.340 go with it.
03:17:21.040 Yeah.
03:17:21.420 That may be the case in a lot of situations.
03:17:24.220 Not all like, you know, I've seen it.
03:17:27.940 Would you expect the guy to provide for your daughter?
03:17:29.780 Um, I have a hard time even imagining like letting someone live with us, let alone provide
03:17:37.820 for us.
03:17:38.480 Cause I just, well, it's plausible.
03:17:40.760 You could at some point, if you do get into a relationship with a guy, you'd some point
03:17:45.420 there'd be an introduction and then maybe after a year, two years, three years, you know,
03:17:50.940 maybe you guys, I mean, if I'm already financially, right.
03:17:55.460 But if I'm already financially independent on my own and then they come in, what am I going
03:17:58.980 to do to stop working, stop making money and just be like, okay, now it's on you.
03:18:02.100 That might be the case for you, but there's definitely single mothers out there that are
03:18:04.980 going to expect a new man coming into their life to have some, maybe not immediately,
03:18:10.680 but down the road.
03:18:11.780 And actually there are some single mothers who have an expectation that the guy start providing
03:18:15.500 instantly.
03:18:16.220 I mean, for example, you hear these stories of women wanting men to pay for the babysitter
03:18:19.860 like on the first date.
03:18:22.140 Yeah.
03:18:22.580 I mean, that's another reason to not.
03:18:25.300 Yeah.
03:18:25.720 A guy might not care about that though.
03:18:27.260 If he has a lot of money and he didn't care about that.
03:18:29.600 If he has a lot of money, he has better auctions probably.
03:18:32.920 Yeah.
03:18:33.060 But maybe he likes her over enough over the other women.
03:18:36.440 That does happen.
03:18:37.100 It depends on if he offers versus if she demands, right?
03:18:40.500 If he's like a traditional man or has some, some traditional values and likes, likes to
03:18:46.260 be, most men, like the kind of men that I'm attracted to, they enjoy being the provider.
03:18:52.300 So I, and they would probably like want me to not do anything.
03:18:57.540 Are you a traditional woman?
03:18:59.340 Deep down, I kind of am, but I don't, not fully.
03:19:02.420 You do porn.
03:19:03.000 But I'm not fully.
03:19:05.280 I mean, like right now, like I'm single.
03:19:08.640 No, but I mean, simply by virtue of you doing OnlyFans, I mean, aren't you in essence, not
03:19:13.840 a traditional woman?
03:19:15.160 Yeah, I'm not fully.
03:19:17.160 I have some traditional values.
03:19:19.320 Okay.
03:19:19.780 Sure.
03:19:20.380 That may very well be the case, but should a guy be.
03:19:22.140 Like my lifetime before I did OnlyFans, which was, you know, a while, like a long time.
03:19:28.580 Um, I never did anything like that and I was always loyal and, you know, I wanted, we lived
03:19:34.300 like in the country and wanted to have a bunch of babies.
03:19:36.780 You know what I mean?
03:19:37.640 Yeah.
03:19:38.200 And like stuff like that, but.
03:19:40.500 Sure.
03:19:41.060 Things have changed a little bit.
03:19:42.560 As you can see.
03:19:44.240 Okay.
03:19:45.520 Fair enough.
03:19:46.500 Um, by Ronique, what's, you said you're from, did you say South Central?
03:19:52.800 Well, I was born in Compton.
03:19:54.440 Compton.
03:19:54.860 Raised in South Central LA.
03:19:56.200 What's good, baby?
03:19:57.860 Yo.
03:19:59.020 What is the dating meta?
03:20:01.140 What is the dating meta in South Central?
03:20:04.220 Oh.
03:20:04.460 In Compton?
03:20:05.060 How, how does it move?
03:20:06.300 I would love to bring you out there, baby.
03:20:08.280 Show you around.
03:20:09.240 I think I'm down.
03:20:10.660 Would I, what, you think it's safe for me?
03:20:13.840 No, it ain't, but, uh.
03:20:16.140 I mean, it's better than it used to be, man.
03:20:18.780 We could go in the daytime early morning before the gangsters wake up.
03:20:23.680 That's true.
03:20:25.200 Yeah, they don't get up until about 2 p.m.
03:20:27.800 So you, baby, we'll be good if we go before that.
03:20:31.180 That's true.
03:20:31.900 All this stuff we're talking about on here, though, it's, like, so irrelevant in the hood.
03:20:38.160 Is it some white people shit?
03:20:39.380 Yeah, it really is.
03:20:40.260 Are we talking about some white people shit?
03:20:41.500 It's relevant in the hood.
03:20:41.860 It really is.
03:20:42.180 It's so irrelevant.
03:20:42.960 Like, all this baby mama, baby daddy, like, debating on if that's a bad thing to say, a good thing to say.
03:20:49.120 Who gives a fucking hood?
03:20:50.180 Okay, then I have a question for you, then.
03:20:52.640 So, in the hood, somebody that, like, what's up, I mean?
03:20:56.500 Wait, Byron, can you just scoot into the table a little bit?
03:20:59.460 Go ahead.
03:20:59.720 Like, is it, like, if, like, a guy, a guy that doesn't pay his child support, how is it seen?
03:21:05.940 Okay, in the hood.
03:21:06.580 Well, first off, in the hood, a guy probably ain't, can't, cannot be put on child support, because I'm going to give you an example.
03:21:13.980 My homegirl from back in the day, you feel me, she got pregnant by the guy, the guy didn't want the baby.
03:21:19.940 She said he was going to school.
03:21:21.400 So, at the time she got pregnant, he was going to school to be a fireman.
03:21:25.240 When he found out she was pregnant, and she threatened him, she said, okay, you want to play me and say this ain't your baby?
03:21:30.260 I'm going to prove it's your baby.
03:21:31.300 We're going to do a DNA, and I'm going to put that child support on your ass.
03:21:34.020 Do you know he stopped going to school to be a fireman?
03:21:36.700 Because he knew they would be taking so much of that damn fireman check, because, you know, they get paid well, right?
03:21:42.380 Like, he gave that dream up and started slinging in the hood, because that way, on paper, I don't know if he was slinging.
03:21:51.600 I heard he was slinging something else.
03:21:52.500 Was he slinging?
03:21:53.400 He was slinging.
03:21:54.160 Come on, Brian.
03:21:56.080 What was he slinging?
03:21:57.200 He was slinging.
03:21:58.320 Y'all don't know what's slinging?
03:21:59.460 Girl, you lived in the hood.
03:22:00.720 What's up?
03:22:01.680 I'm dumb.
03:22:02.180 Slinging dick.
03:22:03.400 Oh.
03:22:04.120 Okay.
03:22:04.700 He was slinging some dick.
03:22:05.320 If you want to say he was slinging dick, he was slinging, but I ain't finna get all in the memory.
03:22:08.820 But just know he gave up the fireman dream.
03:22:11.640 He started slinging on the corners, that thing.
03:22:14.500 You understand what I'm saying?
03:22:15.460 Okay.
03:22:15.580 Because now, the court, when she tried to go to court and get child support on paper, that man don't work.
03:22:21.020 He don't got no job.
03:22:22.100 Ah.
03:22:22.200 So, guess what?
03:22:22.840 Now, he's beating the system.
03:22:23.980 Now, she cannot get no child support from his ass.
03:22:26.240 So, you understand what I'm saying?
03:22:27.440 Things work differently in the hood.
03:22:29.420 People find ways to get around things.
03:22:31.780 You understand what I'm saying?
03:22:32.840 We hood street smart.
03:22:34.540 You understand?
03:22:34.980 Sometimes street smart is better than being book smart.
03:22:37.340 I just want to let y'all know that.
03:22:38.420 I would just not ask, so I wouldn't get in trouble.
03:22:41.600 But what if he goes to prison?
03:22:43.000 Is that, like, a good...
03:22:45.200 What's he going to do then?
03:22:46.380 What do you mean if he go to prison?
03:22:47.380 He can't pay child support if he's in prison either.
03:22:49.620 Okay, but he's not living like a good life.
03:22:51.780 Yeah, slinging might involve some prison time.
03:22:53.240 Well, look, that's what it is in the hood.
03:22:54.640 We understand that's stupid.
03:22:55.920 We understand that's not the right choice.
03:22:57.520 We understand that's not smart.
03:22:59.040 But these are the risks that motherfuckers in the hood is willing to take.
03:23:04.220 And it's simple as that.
03:23:06.020 It's no other way to put it.
03:23:07.620 He would have more severely low consequences.
03:23:09.200 But that's why you have to be careful.
03:23:10.980 See, I don't date niggas in the hood no more.
03:23:13.680 You understand what I'm saying?
03:23:14.400 I don't do that because I lived that life in high school.
03:23:17.140 Wait, Byronique.
03:23:18.940 Didn't you say you said you don't date...
03:23:21.360 Not in the hood no more.
03:23:22.160 I can't say that.
03:23:23.060 I can't say that.
03:23:23.560 I know.
03:23:24.120 You don't date certain...
03:23:25.380 You don't date certain...
03:23:25.740 Because I already got clout for her letting her pass.
03:23:28.320 But let me tell you...
03:23:30.500 Please don't say that.
03:23:32.300 You said that dudes like me, kind of your type.
03:23:37.720 Yes, yes.
03:23:38.760 What's up?
03:23:39.300 How you doing?
03:23:39.600 Hey, I told you already what's up.
03:23:42.400 Last time I was here, but you still ain't slitting my DMs.
03:23:45.600 I'm still waiting, so, you know.
03:23:47.700 You got the ting right now.
03:23:49.240 And she has no kids.
03:23:50.180 Also, whatever podcast marriage.
03:23:51.560 No kids.
03:23:52.000 I got a fur baby.
03:23:53.260 I got a fur baby like dogs.
03:23:55.080 Oh.
03:23:55.340 Dogs?
03:23:56.080 Mm-hmm.
03:23:56.720 But you got a guy right now.
03:23:58.440 I can't...
03:23:59.420 Oh, you was listening.
03:24:00.880 I heard that.
03:24:02.100 I didn't even think he heard.
03:24:03.220 He was over there.
03:24:03.940 But she said it ain't that serious.
03:24:05.880 Like, you're fine.
03:24:06.700 I can't step on any toes, you know?
03:24:08.520 Like, I can't, you know.
03:24:09.860 Don't you want to be an alpha?
03:24:11.120 You can't just let him win like that.
03:24:12.400 Alpha, I don't know.
03:24:13.200 That's very beta.
03:24:14.240 Why have some...
03:24:15.120 What did you tell him again?
03:24:16.840 Don't put a woman you love.
03:24:18.640 Now you're being the vulnerable guy.
03:24:20.640 How's it...
03:24:21.200 Wait, how's it beta?
03:24:23.240 Beta, beta, whatever.
03:24:24.160 I don't like that alpha, beta bullshit.
03:24:26.100 Me neither, but...
03:24:27.500 To not want to, like, get in between, like...
03:24:32.560 She hasn't gone out with this guy yet.
03:24:34.380 Right?
03:24:34.480 Because if he was the one, you wouldn't be an option.
03:24:40.240 So you got to win her over.
03:24:43.060 You get points for not, like, stepping on other dudes' toes.
03:24:47.780 Because you never know.
03:24:48.500 But that's what's friends with him.
03:24:49.560 That's a new kind of personal relationship.
03:24:51.820 No, even if it's a stranger.
03:24:53.900 Even if it's a stranger, I make my best efforts.
03:24:56.960 No, he's not your homie.
03:24:57.760 That's not the same.
03:24:58.620 She hasn't even been out with this guy.
03:25:00.040 She's putting it out there.
03:25:01.000 It doesn't matter.
03:25:01.780 I don't like to step on toes.
03:25:03.640 You're not.
03:25:03.920 She's literally putting it out there.
03:25:05.460 That sounds non-confrontational, though.
03:25:05.860 Don't you want to, like, be, like...
03:25:07.940 Be a fucking...
03:25:09.140 What?
03:25:09.620 Yeah, like, be, you know, masculine.
03:25:12.000 Be like, what's up?
03:25:12.980 This is my girl.
03:25:14.420 I don't think...
03:25:14.900 Yeah, go for it.
03:25:16.060 That's a direct.
03:25:16.660 That's sexy.
03:25:17.300 Yeah.
03:25:17.780 I don't think it's masculine to fucking, like, mog other dudes and, like, tip their chicks.
03:25:22.480 You're not mocking him.
03:25:23.220 She hasn't even gone out with this dude.
03:25:24.540 Yeah.
03:25:24.680 I think the most masculine thing is be like, hey, there's plenty of options out there.
03:25:28.420 Let me get a properly single girl.
03:25:30.020 I'm not going to steal.
03:25:30.940 No, that's single.
03:25:32.020 That's single.
03:25:32.920 Bro, that's how dudes get fucking clipped is by stealing chicks.
03:25:36.740 I'm not trying to get clipped.
03:25:38.080 But they're not committed.
03:25:39.020 They ain't clipping nobody out here in Santa Barbara.
03:25:41.520 Stop playing with me.
03:25:42.780 Bro.
03:25:43.320 Stop playing with me.
03:25:44.560 Yeah.
03:25:45.200 Go for it.
03:25:45.880 Oh, hold on.
03:25:46.520 She hasn't gone out with this guy.
03:25:48.820 Listen, Byronique.
03:25:50.060 Byronique.
03:25:50.700 I come from the mean streets of Santa Barbara.
03:25:55.320 There's some fucking...
03:25:56.800 You don't even know, dude.
03:25:57.840 Listen, have you been to the west side?
03:26:00.360 No!
03:26:01.140 Have you been to the west side of Santa Barbara?
03:26:02.500 I did see some cholos outside today pulling up.
03:26:05.260 I was a little...
03:26:05.780 I was shocked.
03:26:06.240 On the west side, the houses are only worth a million dollars.
03:26:08.260 I was tripping.
03:26:09.560 I'm from the mean streets of Santa Barbara.
03:26:13.620 Of Santa Barbara.
03:26:15.080 High cost of living.
03:26:16.700 You can't call in your vato up there.
03:26:19.120 Wait, you're going to get jumped by the college students or the retirees.
03:26:22.320 That's what you're afraid of?
03:26:23.420 Listen, look.
03:26:24.580 I'm...
03:26:24.980 Listen.
03:26:26.200 Don't sleep on Santa Barbara.
03:26:28.160 There's some criminal...
03:26:29.660 There's some criminal enterprises in Santa Barbara.
03:26:34.100 Okay?
03:26:34.460 There's like real estate fraud or like...
03:26:36.600 Right!
03:26:37.180 Real estate fraud!
03:26:37.940 Listen.
03:26:39.340 Yeah.
03:26:42.160 Listen.
03:26:43.500 I roamed...
03:26:44.680 There's the Mesa.
03:26:46.080 The Mesa.
03:26:47.440 The Mesa.
03:26:48.900 The Mesa.
03:26:50.320 That's like five hours from here.
03:26:51.820 I know.
03:26:52.840 Montecito.
03:26:54.860 Montecito.
03:26:56.140 Oprah's out there.
03:26:57.980 Oh.
03:26:58.540 That's...
03:26:58.940 That's...
03:26:59.400 Prince Harry.
03:27:00.940 Prince Harry.
03:27:01.520 That's Oprah living out there.
03:27:02.660 It ain't nothing who's popping, I'm sure.
03:27:04.740 Ain't nothing.
03:27:05.520 Oprah's not having it in her area, baby.
03:27:10.160 No.
03:27:10.840 I'm just...
03:27:10.860 I'm just saying, like...
03:27:11.960 Not Oprah.
03:27:12.660 Oprah be out there in the wine fields reading her magazines and stuff, honey, drinking her
03:27:16.900 peanut bread.
03:27:16.920 That's more like Martha's been here vibes.
03:27:18.460 Yeah, that ain't...
03:27:19.240 She ain't having it.
03:27:21.160 So, okay.
03:27:23.080 Do you think I would do good if I moved to Compton?
03:27:25.780 Do you think I'd do good with the women in Compton?
03:27:27.640 Okay, see, and this is where I get a lot of flack, because people are like, it's hard
03:27:34.060 for me, knowing that my preference is white chocolate, it's hard for me, a black woman,
03:27:39.540 especially a black woman from the hood, to get white chocolate, because they all think
03:27:43.740 that...
03:27:44.100 They assume that black women don't want them.
03:27:46.460 And this is true, I'm gonna be honest with you, because most black women be like, bitch,
03:27:51.060 you want a white man for what?
03:27:52.500 Like, you know what I mean?
03:27:53.320 That's their attitude about it.
03:27:54.800 Like, they just want to stick with their own kind, but to me, that's kind of closed-minded,
03:27:58.240 and it's like, there's so much more out there, not even just with white chocolate, but with
03:28:02.220 other cultures and dating, you know, other cultures, but...
03:28:04.680 Wait, can you scoot into the table?
03:28:05.680 Just, you're getting clipped a little bit on the...
03:28:07.600 Oh, it...
03:28:08.320 Just, we...
03:28:08.760 Do you hear these here?
03:28:09.400 We gotta see you in the...
03:28:10.200 They ain't happening.
03:28:11.040 They ain't having all this thickness.
03:28:12.720 There we go.
03:28:13.500 We gotta see you in the frame.
03:28:14.900 They not...
03:28:15.640 Look.
03:28:16.480 Shit.
03:28:17.080 You hear this crying?
03:28:18.220 Everybody listen.
03:28:20.800 What the?
03:28:22.140 It ain't happening.
03:28:23.060 I'm stuck on the side here, so like...
03:28:24.800 But no, you know, so I understand why a lot of other race men do not approach black women
03:28:32.660 because they feel like black women is not gonna get in the time of day.
03:28:36.200 They would not be completely wrong thinking that way, because most black women would not
03:28:40.260 get in the time of the day.
03:28:41.860 But there are some of us, you understand what I'm saying?
03:28:45.700 Look at Serena.
03:28:47.440 You know, she got her a white man.
03:28:48.720 Tina Turner, RIP, got her a white man.
03:28:50.740 You feel me?
03:28:51.080 So there are some of us, you feel me, that are willing to go that way.
03:28:55.940 So it just really, really depends.
03:28:58.200 Now, going in the hood and Compton...
03:29:01.080 No.
03:29:02.080 You ain't.
03:29:03.340 I wouldn't do good.
03:29:04.060 Yeah, I've heard it.
03:29:05.080 I wouldn't pull.
03:29:06.220 No.
03:29:07.100 I don't know.
03:29:07.940 I doubt it.
03:29:08.280 That's too bad.
03:29:08.900 Your podcast might skyrocket.
03:29:10.760 That could be fun.
03:29:12.080 Yeah.
03:29:12.300 I should get a tour bus and go to different cities.
03:29:14.980 You need to.
03:29:15.320 I should go to Alabama.
03:29:16.600 You need to, because you need to get different perspectives, because all this same type of
03:29:20.300 people...
03:29:20.460 All these white people.
03:29:21.560 You should come to Bakersfield.
03:29:23.220 All these same type of...
03:29:24.000 Yeah.
03:29:24.580 Bakersfield would be good.
03:29:25.420 Because even white people in L.A. is very different than white people in Kansas, or in Texas,
03:29:30.820 or in Florida, you know, or in New York.
03:29:32.360 Or anywhere else.
03:29:33.100 It's very true.
03:29:33.420 It's very, very different.
03:29:34.700 You feel me?
03:29:35.140 Some white folks is down with the get down.
03:29:37.620 But out here in L.A., it's the bougie, the Hollywood, the Beverly Hills, you know, it's the 90210.
03:29:43.140 It's that.
03:29:43.800 So, you really need to go on tour, Brian.
03:29:45.820 You need to take this shit on the road, and I would love to see all the different perspectives,
03:29:49.800 and you give black folks a chance to come on here and get their opinions, because it's
03:29:53.740 very different.
03:29:54.800 You're going to get some very different opinions, so you've got to be ready, and you've got to
03:29:57.560 be open-minded, baby, because you're going to hear many different things, and many
03:30:00.920 different takes on things, but that's what it's about.
03:30:03.040 That would be funny, but, like, what's the point?
03:30:05.240 How is he going to get him a baby mama when literally another man looks in the direction
03:30:13.280 of the girl he wants, he's going to be like, nah, bro, bro code, bro code, I can't.
03:30:16.460 Oh, you're saying he's going to bitch out.
03:30:18.460 That's what you're saying.
03:30:20.160 He's doing it with you.
03:30:21.320 Those are fighting words.
03:30:22.320 How are you going to get a baby mama?
03:30:24.380 I have faith in Brian that he'll come around.
03:30:27.760 Oh, yeah.
03:30:28.180 He'll stand his ground.
03:30:30.160 If he really wants somebody.
03:30:31.700 See, he don't really want me like that, because if he did, he would be.
03:30:34.400 And that's what it is.
03:30:36.120 Like, us women have to realize, if a man really, really wants you, he will go to the hell's
03:30:40.700 end, you feel me, and back to really get you.
03:30:42.800 And he'll try to take you from whoever you with.
03:30:46.220 It don't matter if you marry with kids, 10 kids, 20, he don't get a damn.
03:30:50.220 That's how you get clipped.
03:30:51.380 If he really wants you.
03:30:52.360 That's how you get clipped.
03:30:52.960 If he really wants you and is really interested, it won't nothing stop that man.
03:30:56.760 Yeah.
03:30:57.140 Who's clipped?
03:30:58.060 Killed him.
03:30:58.500 Killed him.
03:30:59.180 Oh.
03:30:59.680 Oh.
03:31:00.100 Unaligned.
03:31:00.240 You've never been to New Jersey?
03:31:01.860 No.
03:31:02.380 Okay.
03:31:02.980 Wait.
03:31:03.180 Don't men want a woman who's, like, highly in demand?
03:31:06.920 Huh?
03:31:07.480 Don't men want a woman who's in high demand?
03:31:10.440 No?
03:31:11.160 Well.
03:31:11.800 They got a fuck about that, though.
03:31:13.460 No, it's different.
03:31:14.200 It's like, you don't want...
03:31:16.340 If a girl is, like, has a bunch of suitors, you don't want that.
03:31:22.840 Why not?
03:31:23.600 But wouldn't attractive women have that?
03:31:25.680 I mean, you're attractive, you're attractive.
03:31:26.980 It wouldn't make her more attractive.
03:31:28.340 It depends how...
03:31:29.220 Yeah.
03:31:29.420 It wouldn't make her more attractive because men don't need a cosign to find a girl attractive.
03:31:34.420 But does that come with that?
03:31:35.140 Like, pre-selection.
03:31:36.920 Well...
03:31:37.280 So you, like, mid...
03:31:38.900 What's that?
03:31:39.200 Yeah.
03:31:39.640 Your high comes with that.
03:31:41.060 No, it's not.
03:31:41.660 No.
03:31:43.200 Part of it is how out there you are on social media.
03:31:47.160 In what way?
03:31:48.440 Well, like, if you have a social media presence, excuse me, then you're going to have much
03:31:55.640 more sutures, much more options.
03:31:58.800 And that bothers you because...
03:32:01.640 What do you mean?
03:32:02.440 Why does it bother you if she has a lot of options?
03:32:05.320 Or suitors?
03:32:06.200 It's not so much...
03:32:07.840 It depends...
03:32:08.640 Maybe I should clarify.
03:32:10.920 If she's, like, dating around, she's going on a bunch of dates...
03:32:14.420 For example, if I go on a first date with a girl and I find out that she's, like, dating
03:32:18.160 other dudes while she's...
03:32:19.720 Even if it's a first date with me, I'm done.
03:32:22.340 I don't want to...
03:32:22.700 I'm not going to see her again.
03:32:23.900 Are you dating other men?
03:32:25.000 Like, would you go on two dates in one day?
03:32:26.760 Mara donated $99.
03:32:28.340 So you wouldn't meet her on a dating app?
03:32:29.880 Because if you're on a dating app...
03:32:31.260 Hold on.
03:32:32.000 Values, respect are openly shamed.
03:32:35.040 Total respect for anyone who wouldn't intentionally get in the middle.
03:32:39.240 Wait, what?
03:32:40.200 Uh, Maramor.
03:32:41.240 Not sure...
03:32:42.000 What is this?
03:32:43.060 He's talking about you getting in the middle of her and her date, I think.
03:32:47.220 Respect are openly shamed.
03:32:48.380 Total respect for anyone who wouldn't intentionally get in the middle.
03:32:50.880 We're saying to go for it.
03:32:52.240 He's saying you're right and not going for it.
03:32:54.040 Yeah.
03:32:54.460 Okay.
03:32:55.040 Just a little bit.
03:32:56.300 Me?
03:32:56.660 Yes.
03:32:56.880 But then what about dating apps if you meet somebody...
03:32:58.820 Thank you.
03:32:59.120 Thank you, Sophia.
03:32:59.820 Thank you very much.
03:33:00.280 So what is it about you?
03:33:01.720 She wouldn't be...
03:33:02.600 One...
03:33:02.820 Form a line, please.
03:33:04.120 One at a time.
03:33:04.960 Okay.
03:33:05.160 So she wouldn't...
03:33:06.880 So ideally, she wouldn't be on Instagram or have a public Instagram at least, right?
03:33:12.320 Sure.
03:33:12.600 And she wouldn't be on a dating site, so you would have to meet her in person or something
03:33:17.600 like through friends.
03:33:17.700 Or I could just be like first there.
03:33:20.420 What is it about you then?
03:33:21.460 The new one on the dating app.
03:33:22.460 Like just downloading the dating apps.
03:33:25.140 Like I can save her.
03:33:26.560 Wait, okay.
03:33:28.460 So like you saw like my Instagram, like the way that it is, that would bother you?
03:33:34.580 I don't know.
03:33:35.240 I didn't do a thorough review of your Instagram.
03:33:37.800 I saw some bike photos or something.
03:33:39.940 Yeah.
03:33:40.080 It's like, I mean, I could let my dad manage that account that I wouldn't care.
03:33:43.720 Like that gives you a pretty good idea of how my DMs are.
03:33:46.380 Wait, what was the original point?
03:33:48.140 I'm trying to return to the original.
03:33:48.940 Well, you say like you don't want a girl that has like Instagram and stuff.
03:33:52.560 Like a social media follower.
03:33:53.740 Why it's a turn off if she has a lot of suitors and then you said, I don't like girls that
03:33:57.700 date around.
03:33:58.180 I want her to only be on a date with me.
03:33:59.820 But if you meet her on a dating app, what is it about you that would make her just be
03:34:03.280 like?
03:34:03.680 Not, well, okay.
03:34:06.040 Not all women on dating apps are just like going on tons of dates.
03:34:10.100 Although a fair amount of them are.
03:34:12.600 But women, when we're on a dating app, we have to like lower our, we have to make it manageable.
03:34:16.980 And then between a bunch of people, we don't have a preference because we don't know much
03:34:20.500 about you yet.
03:34:21.360 Right?
03:34:21.620 So if she goes out with you, you expect something about you for her to be like, I'm not going
03:34:25.460 to talk to anyone else until this one date happens.
03:34:28.180 Pretty much.
03:34:29.000 Yeah.
03:34:29.200 You basically just, you, even before you've even, I've come onto your radar, you need to
03:34:35.360 have been single for like three years.
03:34:37.140 No, I'm kidding.
03:34:37.740 But, uh, yeah.
03:34:39.120 Well, do you tell this to the girls up front?
03:34:40.880 Like, Hey, like, I don't want you to be seeing other people.
03:34:44.180 Do you have her screenshot her combos on the dating app?
03:34:46.340 No, no, I'm not like, I'm not the type of guy that's like going to go through a girl's
03:34:50.260 phone, but, uh, I'm going to like ask some questions.
03:34:54.260 I'm going to be like, who are you seeing?
03:34:56.280 Anybody else right now?
03:34:57.960 Well, to find a girl without an Instagram, cause like everyone uses it, not even just
03:35:01.960 to post photos, but just communicate or like consume content.
03:35:05.000 Right.
03:35:05.700 So wouldn't that be a small percentage of girls that you're limiting yourself to?
03:35:09.300 No.
03:35:09.460 Well, I didn't say I, if, if a girl has an Instagram, that's not like an immediate no
03:35:14.620 go for me.
03:35:15.600 I think you should just get off dating.
03:35:16.780 I'm trying to remember what the original string was where I mentioned Instagram.
03:35:21.180 You said girls with following.
03:35:23.120 So she asked you if a girl has a lot of suitors, is she still desirable?
03:35:26.560 And you said no.
03:35:27.340 I don't know if that's the original string.
03:35:29.240 Only you men hit the DMs and stuff and that you could just come and take your women and
03:35:33.500 that Instagram is pretty much like a dating app.
03:35:36.100 That's how you get like blue check marks sliding in your DMs and stuff.
03:35:39.460 Okay.
03:35:39.720 Well, the original thing, uh, uh, the original thing was, let me see, uh, total respect for
03:35:46.020 anyone who wouldn't intentionally get in the middle.
03:35:48.480 So this was about me saying, I don't want to step on any toes.
03:35:51.060 I think that's what initially brought on this conversation.
03:35:54.580 Um, so I'm trying to.
03:35:56.240 And then she said, isn't it hot if, you know, there's a lot of people in competition for
03:36:00.720 the girl?
03:36:01.320 No, no, no.
03:36:01.520 That's not what I said.
03:36:02.080 I said that hot women naturally are going to have a lot of guys that are, cause they're
03:36:07.840 hot.
03:36:08.100 Yeah.
03:36:08.400 It doesn't necessarily make them more attractive.
03:36:10.480 The thing about dating.
03:36:12.480 It doesn't make the girl more attractive.
03:36:13.760 Does it make her less attractive?
03:36:15.560 But is that realistic though?
03:36:16.940 It could, it could make her more, uh, less attractive.
03:36:19.700 What's that?
03:36:20.260 I agree.
03:36:20.940 Like, that's annoying.
03:36:21.640 Like I, like if you could have like a guy that's hot with like a bunch of like girls
03:36:25.820 hanging around versus not, obviously like I would also choose like not, but naturally
03:36:29.700 in the territory, we have an attractive woman or attractive guy.
03:36:32.940 There's going to be people who want them.
03:36:35.000 So like, don't you think that's really difficult to achieve?
03:36:38.700 What you're saying is a hot woman who also magically has no guys into her, but she's still
03:36:43.340 really hot and diamond in the rough, like a chick flick, uh, diamond.
03:36:47.580 But would you say that's realistic?
03:36:48.740 No one noticed her.
03:36:51.320 Well, would you, do you want her to have watched this podcast and been like, okay, I saw Brian
03:36:55.880 on this dating app.
03:36:56.620 Now I'm not going to talk to her.
03:36:57.580 Cause why would she do that?
03:36:58.800 She sounds like a lunatic if she just saw you and was like, oh my God, I will not talk
03:37:02.760 to her before she even meets you.
03:37:04.360 Okay.
03:37:04.680 Let me, I guess I could also frame this.
03:37:06.560 Like, is it unrealistic of me to want a woman who's not promiscuous?
03:37:13.020 No, that's possible.
03:37:14.300 But would you say that a majority of people are, well, a majority of women are promiscuous.
03:37:20.740 So then therefore, is it unrealistic for me to desire a partner that is not promiscuous
03:37:26.540 despite the majority of people engaging in promiscuity?
03:37:30.020 If she's talking to multiple people on an app, is she promiscuous?
03:37:33.260 I think, no, you mean selective.
03:37:35.220 You want someone who's selective.
03:37:36.440 So she's not going to choose to go on dates with all the guys in her queue or whatever.
03:37:41.100 No, so she'll have guys that she matches with, but she's not going to actually go on dates
03:37:46.640 with every single one of them.
03:37:47.460 I guess I'm delusional.
03:37:48.640 Yeah.
03:37:48.900 I guess I'm delusional.
03:37:49.820 That's not how dating works though.
03:37:51.400 When you're dating somebody, you are allowed, the man is allowed to date multiple people
03:37:55.940 at the same time and the woman is too.
03:37:58.220 Because unless you say, hey, we're in a relationship, you have to lock that down and say, hey, we're
03:38:04.140 in a committed relationship in order for all that other side shit to stop.
03:38:07.000 You know what?
03:38:07.540 I disagree with this.
03:38:08.880 I think it's entirely reasonable for both men and women to be properly single and dating
03:38:15.040 one person at a time.
03:38:16.480 I don't think it's that hard.
03:38:18.080 I agree.
03:38:18.580 But she has to do that before she goes on a date with you.
03:38:21.320 Like she has to already not, like if she's on a dating app, why do you expect you to be
03:38:25.160 the only person she's considering?
03:38:26.920 Even if you're on a dating app, you can date just one person at a time.
03:38:31.280 It doesn't mean that that given date is going to go the distance.
03:38:34.980 It doesn't mean it's going to turn into a long-term relationship.
03:38:38.260 But I think, and I think for both men and women, if you actually want the likelihood
03:38:43.000 of any one given interaction of actually, you know, going further, I do actually think
03:38:47.740 dating one person at a time, and maybe it only lasts for one date.
03:38:51.880 Maybe it's only two dates.
03:38:52.820 Maybe it's only three.
03:38:53.860 I actually think that's going to be the thing that's going to be most likely to yield.
03:38:58.800 So what if she's going on one date a week, and then she's not talking to anyone.
03:39:02.200 She goes on the date.
03:39:02.820 She's like, I don't like him.
03:39:03.660 Next week, she goes out with you.
03:39:04.620 I think that's okay.
03:39:05.380 Okay.
03:39:05.700 I think that's okay.
03:39:07.220 No, I know what you're saying.
03:39:08.500 It makes sense.
03:39:09.180 But it's like, we go on a first date.
03:39:10.400 She has, we go on a first date on Wednesday.
03:39:12.580 She has a date with a guy scheduled for Friday.
03:39:15.420 She has another date scheduled for Saturday.
03:39:17.640 She's dating multiple dudes.
03:39:19.420 But if she dated you and she didn't have the date scheduled yet, she came home and she's
03:39:22.280 like, Brian ain't it.
03:39:23.180 And then she scheduled another date.
03:39:24.340 Well, I ain't it.
03:39:25.040 So I don't care.
03:39:26.320 And that's why people do that.
03:39:27.620 So what if you were date number 32 on my list, and I had gone out on 33, but I waited until
03:39:33.880 every date was over before I pursued that?
03:39:36.100 Because I kind of did do that.
03:39:37.800 Would you date me?
03:39:39.380 No, you don't.
03:39:40.380 Would I?
03:39:40.960 Just on that soul factor?
03:39:42.520 Well, you said you don't.
03:39:43.860 Is that unattractive?
03:39:44.920 It's really, well, okay, look.
03:39:46.760 I'll just reiterate.
03:39:47.700 It's really not that hard.
03:39:49.840 And this is what I think people in the past did.
03:39:52.340 Now I think we're inundated with options.
03:39:54.460 It's really not that hard to date one person at a time.
03:39:57.120 But dating one person at a time just means that when you have a date scheduled, you're
03:40:01.480 not scheduling other dates until that date is finished.
03:40:05.140 I kind of laser focus in on a girl.
03:40:07.320 Like if I'm not, you know.
03:40:09.880 That into her?
03:40:10.600 Okay.
03:40:10.920 I get what you mean, because I also suffer from one-itis.
03:40:14.460 It's not one-itis.
03:40:15.520 It's like, it's hard to date multiple people because it's a lot and you just want to focus
03:40:19.980 on one person.
03:40:21.200 But given the criteria that you've given, wouldn't that be like the top, top percentage of women?
03:40:27.740 What do you mean?
03:40:28.680 That are meeting all those requirements that you said.
03:40:31.940 What, which ones?
03:40:34.300 The ones.
03:40:34.960 What are the requirements that I said?
03:40:36.380 The requirements that you said were she has to date one person at a time, basically close
03:40:41.700 to zero social media presence and also be very attractive and not have suitors.
03:40:46.300 So if you want that top percentage of women, then is that realistic?
03:40:50.180 Like do you think that you qualify to get that?
03:40:52.320 Well, when it comes to the social media presence, I don't think I, I made that claim.
03:41:00.080 You said that you wanted someone with low social media presence, preferably without an Instagram.
03:41:04.400 So like pretty low, pretty like uncommon.
03:41:06.540 That would, that would be preferable in the same way that it would be preferable for a woman
03:41:09.580 to, to date a billionaire.
03:41:12.700 So like, do you think that small percent is realistic?
03:41:15.800 Realistically, realistically, okay.
03:41:17.760 Realistically, I don't have an issue dating a girl who has an Instagram.
03:41:21.100 Now there's scales to her online presence.
03:41:24.020 For example, if she like, for example, if the Instagram's private, okay, then she's
03:41:30.020 like, or is it public?
03:41:31.520 And then is it public?
03:41:32.660 And is she posting like kind of revealing photos that, you know, there's degrees to it.
03:41:38.900 Yeah.
03:41:39.140 So let's say there are degrees to it.
03:41:40.840 I agree.
03:41:41.920 But let's say you want someone with like close to none.
03:41:45.760 It's what it came across is to, to me, like you don't want her posting herself at all,
03:41:50.000 preferably.
03:41:50.720 Right.
03:41:51.100 I don't really care.
03:41:52.640 So would it be, would it be my preference?
03:41:54.860 Yes.
03:41:55.260 It'd be pretty hard to find someone like that.
03:41:57.180 And I know because for me, that's also a green flag.
03:41:59.360 When I was dating, it's a guy, you know, low social media presence and things like that.
03:42:04.500 So that's why I'm asking, do you think it's realistic?
03:42:06.320 Cause that's a small number of people.
03:42:07.440 And I know, cause I've experienced that.
03:42:10.000 I, I, here's the thing though.
03:42:11.420 You're, you're saying, well, is it, and I think you're trying to get at, oh, Brian, you're
03:42:14.900 kind of delusional for wanting this, but, uh, or you're saying you're, I think you're
03:42:18.780 trying to say, well, Brian, are you of a certain status or character where you could command
03:42:24.800 a woman who moves like that?
03:42:27.300 Um, but I don't think, I don't think like, for example, uh, that's not really a factor
03:42:32.900 in, in, in terms of a woman's physical attractiveness.
03:42:38.600 I mean, which thing?
03:42:40.520 So, okay.
03:42:42.240 Like a girl who doesn't have, for example, like let's say a girl who's below, like below
03:42:50.760 average in, in her physical appearance.
03:42:53.420 She might not have a social media presence.
03:42:56.360 Like, that's not going to be the thing that's a deal maker for me.
03:43:01.280 Right.
03:43:01.680 You have to be attracted to her in the first place.
03:43:03.200 That's a assume.
03:43:03.800 So like already, already that's a filter, right?
03:43:06.040 Cause every time you had a filter, like naturally it narrows down, whether it be being a mom
03:43:09.640 or whatever.
03:43:10.400 So if you're getting a girl, low social media presence, obviously it's the spectrum, but
03:43:14.340 low social media presence.
03:43:15.480 And also they aren't taking, um, any photos themselves or like, even if it's just like they're
03:43:21.140 showing their outfit, if that's a problem, like every time you do that, you're adding a
03:43:23.980 filter, right?
03:43:24.720 So then you have this very small dating pool.
03:43:27.460 So I'm asking, do you think that you could get that?
03:43:30.280 Is it realistic?
03:43:30.720 Let me, let me clarify.
03:43:31.400 Let me clarify.
03:43:32.180 So I would date a girl who has Instagram.
03:43:36.000 But she posts like photos of her, like, uh, just pictures of her.
03:43:39.600 It's not particularly provocative, but I don't know what your definition of that would be
03:43:42.860 for that.
03:43:43.460 So like she's posting her outfits.
03:43:45.700 She's posting herself.
03:43:46.660 I would.
03:43:47.160 And I do.
03:43:47.860 And I have dated women who have Instagram for longterm.
03:43:51.480 Yes.
03:43:53.000 Okay.
03:43:53.400 And you're all, and they also have to be attracted.
03:43:55.740 To me, that's not, I, some guys have different standards when it comes to that, but would
03:43:59.900 it, would it be my preference if someone had like low or no social media presence?
03:44:04.160 Yeah.
03:44:04.440 I, I, I share that sentiment, but then also you have to get a woman that meets those
03:44:08.680 requirements and it also is okay with not having the security of marriage from you that
03:44:12.220 might bury your children.
03:44:14.960 That might be really difficult to get.
03:44:16.580 Don't you think?
03:44:18.660 Okay.
03:44:19.420 Like, I don't follow.
03:44:20.740 I'm sorry.
03:44:20.980 Maybe like, it's my brain stills that explain, explain the interrogation to me.
03:44:25.060 Where are you going with this?
03:44:26.240 So if you're asking for a woman that, you know, has low body count, cause you expressed
03:44:32.100 that earlier, uh, has low social media presence.
03:44:35.240 Um, also is attractive, but has no guys around that also want her, which is kind of out of
03:44:40.560 her control to an extent.
03:44:41.740 And also this girl has to commit to you only you one at a time.
03:44:45.460 And then also has to not want the security of marriage and have your children.
03:44:49.440 Don't you think that's going to be really difficult to find?
03:44:52.440 No, not really.
03:44:54.300 Why?
03:44:54.700 I think you can.
03:44:55.840 I mean, I, I, I, I've found it, but you're like, are you in a relationship?
03:45:01.300 Huh?
03:45:01.680 Are you in a relationship?
03:45:02.640 Well, I don't, I don't, I'm not going to talk about my, uh, no, no.
03:45:04.980 Oh yeah, spill it, spill it, spill it, spill it, spill it, spill it, that's the real reason.
03:45:12.100 He got something going on his damn self.
03:45:14.600 You see what I'm saying?
03:45:15.680 You owe it to your super chatters.
03:45:17.380 I gotta keep certain things.
03:45:18.940 What's your sign, Ryan?
03:45:19.320 No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
03:45:20.660 What's your sign?
03:45:21.040 Wait a second.
03:45:21.720 Taurus, Taurus.
03:45:22.400 Taurus, oh, okay.
03:45:23.560 Oh, one of those.
03:45:24.720 So whether you found someone or not, I understand if you want to keep it private, I get it.
03:45:29.180 But those are a lot of things, like, and it's a very small amount of women.
03:45:32.840 And so, like, what do you personally view yourself as to get, like, there's this tiny
03:45:37.700 group of women that are top quality, right?
03:45:39.700 Because I agree, like, I also share the sentiment of, like, it would be top quality for a guy
03:45:43.060 unless it's his job, uh, social media, et cetera, et cetera.
03:45:45.840 So, like, what do you rate yourself?
03:45:48.020 How do you view yourself to get that small quantity?
03:45:50.120 What do you bring to the table, Brian?
03:45:51.700 What do I bring to the table?
03:45:53.820 Because it's really hard to get that.
03:45:55.260 A hot woman, no beta orbiters at all, even though it's not due to her own fault, no social media.
03:46:00.020 Well, I've stated, hold on.
03:46:01.440 And I've stated on my podcast, when it comes to physical appearance, I consider myself, look, just looks-wise, I'd say, like, six.
03:46:09.480 And I would date a woman who's in, within that range, anywhere from five, I think, five to seven.
03:46:16.200 So, if a woman is a seven, and then all those prior requirements that we discussed earlier, like, don't you think that would be difficult?
03:46:24.640 So are you calling him a low-value man, basically, like, indirectly, kind of?
03:46:28.200 He's saying that he's a six, right?
03:46:30.220 So, like, if I, okay.
03:46:31.480 Looks-wise.
03:46:31.880 So, if a woman were, like, top-notch, they would probably want a guy of similar caliber, and what he described as top-notch, so.
03:46:38.840 He just said he'd be difficult to get that.
03:46:39.360 It might be difficult to get that.
03:46:40.800 Or a seven.
03:46:41.700 I mean.
03:46:42.020 It might be, even with a seven, it might be difficult, even just, like, if she were ugly with those requirements.
03:46:45.420 So you're calling him a low-value man?
03:46:47.420 No.
03:46:47.900 Yeah, you are.
03:46:48.360 I'm basing off of his answer.
03:46:50.380 So, even if you remove looks, I don't think, perhaps society has changed, I don't think wanting a woman who dates one person at a time, who isn't posting, like, promiscuous, or, excuse me, who isn't posting, revealing photos online, and isn't promiscuous, I don't think that's asking for much.
03:47:11.320 But also, she'll commit to you without marriage, and have your children, without any sort of, like, thing to fall back on.
03:47:17.620 Strong label.
03:47:18.100 And then not work.
03:47:19.920 Like, how would that work?
03:47:21.680 Well, where are you getting that other stuff from?
03:47:24.000 Well, you're saying that you would be for having a long-term relationship, and if she's working, a lot of guys are probably going to want her, considering she's, like, assuming that she's out in public, around guys, if she's attractive.
03:47:38.680 So, I would imagine you would find that ideal if the woman relied on you to provide.
03:47:43.980 I would imagine that would be conducive to your standards.
03:47:46.860 Well, where did you get the idea that I want to, hold on, so you're saying I want to be a provider?
03:47:53.020 I'm just.
03:47:53.780 Well, you said long-term relationship, and you also want someone who doesn't interact with men, so how is she going to get money?
03:47:59.520 I didn't say, hold on, hold on, I didn't say that.
03:48:01.220 Well, if she's attractive, naturally, if guys interact with her, she's going to attract some, you know, like beta orbiters, right?
03:48:08.660 If she's attractive, you don't want to date an ugly woman.
03:48:10.960 That wouldn't be fair.
03:48:13.300 Beta orbiters?
03:48:14.200 I'm just trying to, okay.
03:48:15.540 That you're going to have, like, other guys hit on her, and, like, is it going to bother you?
03:48:19.040 Because wouldn't that be really hard if a woman had a job where she's interacting with a lot of guys, whatever the job may be,
03:48:24.380 and then, like, also magically be attractive and not have simps or beta orbiters?
03:48:31.060 Okay, like, I think you know the answer to that question, honestly.
03:48:33.320 Like, you're just asking to ask.
03:48:35.420 If men hit on her at her job, like, there's nothing I can do about that.
03:48:41.000 I'm not sure exactly what.
03:48:43.040 Yeah, but you said it's not ideal.
03:48:44.460 You don't like that.
03:48:45.980 Well, certainly it's not ideal.
03:48:47.860 Is this the fucking interrogation here?
03:48:50.360 I wish I could go back to the Compton dating.
03:48:52.280 It's, I think for both men and women, it wouldn't, it's not an ideal scenario for your significant other to be hit on by someone else.
03:49:03.760 I agree with you, but it's a lot of lists of requirements, so if you only consider yourself average, wouldn't that be hard to get a woman that's of that value?
03:49:12.360 But aren't you sitting in his studio right now, like, his YouTube channel, and you're here calling him, like, a low-value man, like, he's got nothing going for himself?
03:49:18.780 I didn't call him, I didn't call him an average.
03:49:20.520 I'm based off of what he said as the answer, right?
03:49:23.980 And the list of requirements that make it harder, even if you didn't factor in.
03:49:27.540 Well, he said what his preferences were.
03:49:29.940 He has preferences, and you're saying that he's being delusional.
03:49:32.820 It's an uncommon preference, so to get that.
03:49:35.240 What is an uncommon preference?
03:49:37.360 Oh, to find a woman that's really attractive, that also doesn't have sense.
03:49:40.820 I literally just said I would date a woman between, like, a five and a seven.
03:49:46.280 That's within the, I consider myself to be a six.
03:49:49.420 That's not top 1% of women.
03:49:50.700 It's not a lot, it's just having standards for yourself, which I think it's totally fine.
03:49:55.180 You can have standards for yourself, but I'm just pointing out that it would be really difficult to get that.
03:49:58.640 Suits donated $99.
03:50:01.400 Okay, I apologize to the lawyer.
03:50:03.840 I thought she was bad.
03:50:05.460 Who is this slow person across from Brian?
03:50:08.500 I'm just, what are you digging at?
03:50:11.060 Like, I feel like you're trying to clip farm me, but I'm, like, not entirely sure how, but...
03:50:15.640 No, you're totally clip farm me.
03:50:16.860 That's my story.
03:50:17.800 You're doing a good job, though.
03:50:19.060 I'm kind of confused.
03:50:19.720 I'm clarifying it, so if I had a...
03:50:22.880 Okay, so here, okay, look, look, look, look.
03:50:25.320 I'm not, I'm not in favor of marriage.
03:50:29.020 Right.
03:50:29.440 Okay.
03:50:30.000 That disqualifies you from a lot of attractive, high-quality women.
03:50:32.820 There are a meatball donated $100.
03:50:35.080 On a scale from 1 to 10, what do the people on the panel consider themselves on overall value?
03:50:41.420 Here, we'll...
03:50:43.020 Here we go again.
03:50:44.200 Let me, let me, we'll finish off this thread with Brittany here, and then Mr. Meatball, we'll come back to that.
03:50:51.620 So, I, are you, are you saying that I'm too selective, I'm too picky, or I'm just, I'm trying...
03:50:59.320 I'm not making any definitive statements.
03:51:01.180 I'm based off of your answer you gave.
03:51:02.560 You're just saying it's going to be hard for...
03:51:03.800 Well, okay, fine.
03:51:04.700 I agree with you.
03:51:05.620 In 2023, it will be hard to find a woman who's not promiscuous.
03:51:09.360 I agree.
03:51:10.440 Yeah, in the same way that's hard.
03:51:11.400 I agree with you.
03:51:12.100 Yes.
03:51:12.380 That's for me to not find a guy that doesn't watch more.
03:51:13.800 I agree with you that in 2023, living in California, it's going to be hard for me to not find a woman.
03:51:19.700 Actually, I actually don't think it's that hard to find women that don't post, like, super revealing photos on Instagram.
03:51:25.500 I don't think it's that, I really don't think it's that hard.
03:51:27.720 It's not.
03:51:28.180 I think most...
03:51:28.800 I'm better alone than in bad company.
03:51:30.100 Like, most normal women aren't, like...
03:51:31.440 In a vacuum now.
03:51:32.960 I don't really date content creators.
03:51:35.100 I'm not dating OnlyFans girls, so I don't think it would be that hard.
03:51:38.960 And most of the women I've dated do not post...
03:51:42.200 Hold on.
03:51:44.020 Oh, my God.
03:51:44.380 Young Simba, $333, donated $99.
03:51:48.960 What is the purpose of Helmet Girl?
03:51:51.580 Yeah, what?
03:51:52.420 Madison, what?
03:51:54.240 She's, uh...
03:51:55.160 She's, um...
03:51:56.860 I don't know.
03:51:57.560 What is she...
03:51:57.600 I don't have a purpose.
03:51:58.500 She's just aimlessly hanging out here in a World War I helmet.
03:52:02.720 I didn't know she talked until today.
03:52:05.540 Perhaps I can answer it like this.
03:52:07.300 Most of my previous long-term relationships were with women who were not promiscuous, who had minimal or no social media...
03:52:16.880 Let me think.
03:52:18.460 I'm trying to...
03:52:19.460 Like, minimal social media presence.
03:52:23.140 And what was the other one you were asking about?
03:52:25.580 Um...
03:52:26.460 Attractive, no social media preference, is okay with not getting commitment marriage, but has to bear children.
03:52:32.340 Right?
03:52:33.000 That's a risk.
03:52:35.420 No, there was another one I'm trying to recall.
03:52:38.040 There was not being promiscuous, low social media presence.
03:52:42.420 I'm trying to remember the other one.
03:52:43.500 I forgot.
03:52:43.680 But, uh...
03:52:45.680 I would say, of the women I've had long-term relationships with, or even short-term relationships with...
03:52:50.680 Actually, most of them fall within my standards.
03:52:54.060 Okay.
03:52:56.620 So...
03:52:57.340 It seems like the conversation's not really going anywhere.
03:53:00.220 It just seems like a lot of filters.
03:53:01.440 A lot of filters.
03:53:02.040 Well, I can tell you that I've gotten the types of women that fall within that framework.
03:53:07.340 Especially in California.
03:53:08.260 You're kind of like that girl from TikTok who's like, I want a conservative who's a liberal, but like on reverse.
03:53:15.340 You know, like I want a conservative woman who's kind of a liberal, it's like...
03:53:21.760 Well, I consider myself somewhat politically moderate, but, uh...
03:53:25.400 You're Democratic.
03:53:26.740 You voted Democrat.
03:53:27.400 I'm Democrat.
03:53:28.220 What?
03:53:28.340 Did you vote for Joe Biden, Brian?
03:53:29.960 He voted for Newsom.
03:53:30.780 Did you?
03:53:31.280 No.
03:53:31.720 Yeah, he did.
03:53:32.980 He did?
03:53:34.260 Why are you guys speaking for me now?
03:53:36.260 See, like you voted blue, like it's like you're out for like 95% of conservative women.
03:53:41.700 So, like, sorry.
03:53:43.180 The man likes what he likes.
03:53:46.400 Let him...
03:53:46.760 We all got our preferences.
03:53:48.500 Let it be.
03:53:49.420 Oh, yeah.
03:53:49.800 You're allowed to have preferences.
03:53:51.040 Absolutely.
03:53:51.500 Let it be.
03:53:52.200 But, yeah, like sometimes, you know, it's not going to match all of your preferences and
03:53:55.200 you're like, you know what's in...
03:53:56.960 How do you say that?
03:53:58.100 Is it despite of or...
03:54:00.600 Yeah.
03:54:01.340 I think that's the word.
03:54:02.440 Sorry.
03:54:03.560 Yeah, that...
03:54:04.920 Even if...
03:54:06.120 Yeah, despite...
03:54:07.420 But, okay, look.
03:54:08.180 I get what you're trying to do because something that we often do on the show is we kind of...
03:54:13.180 Have conversations with women and, like, oftentimes we'll be like, well, that's kind of delusional
03:54:17.360 that you want that.
03:54:18.460 For example, a woman who might want a certain tier of man when it comes to, you know, or
03:54:24.180 even their own self-assessment of their own physical attractiveness or a woman who wants
03:54:30.060 a guy who's six feet tall and makes six figures, that's a very small proportion of men.
03:54:34.820 I sort of get what you're trying to do.
03:54:36.280 You're basically trying to set me up so that, oh, look, the tables are turned.
03:54:40.220 Brian actually is kind of delusional in terms of what he wants in a partner.
03:54:44.000 No, I don't think you're delusional.
03:54:45.240 But I do...
03:54:46.840 The thing is, is that it may very well be the case that there are a majority...
03:54:51.320 And, I mean, I think this echoes what I say, that if you look around, we're talking about
03:54:56.200 hookup culture.
03:54:56.880 A lot of people are both...
03:54:58.580 Well, I'd say more so women, but that's another conversation, are promiscuous.
03:55:02.680 So, am I...
03:55:06.300 Is it a smaller proportion of women that are not promiscuous that I desire as partners?
03:55:11.160 I suppose.
03:55:12.220 But I'm advocating...
03:55:13.500 Hold on.
03:55:14.200 But I'm advocating for a return to some degree to moving away from the madness that is hookup
03:55:21.400 culture.
03:55:22.720 Yeah.
03:55:23.240 I don't disagree with your standards.
03:55:25.180 I think people are allowed to have their standards.
03:55:27.080 But it's worth assessing.
03:55:28.780 You're trying to do a gotcha where it's like, okay, Brian, you're actually the delusional
03:55:33.340 one here.
03:55:33.980 I don't think that people should just settle, right?
03:55:37.980 Because that's not fair to the other person.
03:55:40.060 I'm aware that, like, my dating preference of, like, just simply by saying I don't want
03:55:43.940 a guy that watches porn, that consumes any type of porn, I know that's going to make it
03:55:48.840 smaller of a dating group, but I accept the risk that it's worth it because to me it's
03:55:53.440 that important.
03:55:54.040 That level of commitment is important.
03:55:55.340 You, like, you have high standards.
03:55:58.440 It's good to have high standards.
03:55:59.720 I agree with high standards.
03:56:00.840 I think you have something, like, good going for yourself.
03:56:04.160 It's like, I don't know.
03:56:04.860 I feel like you describe yourself as, like, you don't...
03:56:07.400 Do you see yourself as a high-value man or, like...
03:56:10.040 I mean, I don't like that word, but you know what I mean.
03:56:11.900 Yeah.
03:56:12.200 I don't like those characterizations because I think there's different...
03:56:19.980 I'm just trying to portray it in a way that conveys the message.
03:56:23.380 We all get the message, but you know what I mean.
03:56:25.440 Like, the...
03:56:25.720 Yeah.
03:56:26.060 So, I don't like just a across-the-board word like that.
03:56:33.840 I don't like this idea...
03:56:35.600 High-value.
03:56:36.960 Would you consider yourself a good candidate or somebody that has, like...
03:56:40.600 I think in some realms of endeavors, I am, and in others, I'm not.
03:56:47.320 I think in some realms, for example, I think when it comes to my success, finances, I think
03:56:54.540 I'm doing fairly well.
03:56:58.600 When I could be, for example, I could be in a little better physical shape, I think I have
03:57:06.380 my head screwed on fairly well.
03:57:09.720 I don't drink, I don't smoke, I don't do drugs, I don't go to bars, I don't go to clubs, I
03:57:13.260 don't party.
03:57:15.360 So, in certain areas, yes.
03:57:19.240 I think...
03:57:20.720 It's hard to say.
03:57:25.380 So, I don't know.
03:57:27.000 Well, I would just say, like, you have, like, something good going for you right now, like,
03:57:30.340 that your show is doing really good, and honestly, it's better to...
03:57:34.580 I know that, like, there's some people in the chat that said it's, like, better being,
03:57:38.620 like, in the desert than having a nagging wife.
03:57:40.620 I just say better being alone and in bad company.
03:57:42.780 That's Proverbs 2119, by the way.
03:57:44.900 Yeah, that one.
03:57:45.920 Yep.
03:57:46.260 Well, better being alone and in bad company.
03:57:48.140 So, it's like, you have high standards.
03:57:49.080 Bro, look at this fucking psycho.
03:57:51.140 What are you doing?
03:57:52.160 I hate the taste of water.
03:57:54.040 You're...
03:57:54.720 No, no, no.
03:57:55.100 It's not even about you, like, you poured, like, a...
03:57:57.100 What did you pour?
03:57:57.720 Oh, yeah, Mio.
03:57:58.320 You haven't had that...
03:57:59.140 Bro, but you're...
03:57:59.960 Bro, you're stirring it with your finger.
03:58:02.540 You're a fucking psycho.
03:58:03.820 Yeah, what else did you touch you?
03:58:04.540 I'm not gonna touch you with it.
03:58:05.600 Bro, that...
03:58:06.480 No, it's just like...
03:58:07.400 It's water.
03:58:07.440 You don't let her have a straw.
03:58:08.520 Bro, but it's just like...
03:58:09.000 I know, exactly.
03:58:09.780 Thank you.
03:58:10.120 You said we can't have straw.
03:58:10.900 He took my straw away.
03:58:13.100 Did you wash your hands before?
03:58:14.420 Yes, I just went to the bathroom.
03:58:16.560 Okay, I'm just kind of a germifaz.
03:58:17.920 I'm like, I'm...
03:58:18.400 You made your bed by taking your straw.
03:58:19.740 On your behalf, on your behalf...
03:58:21.700 You took my straw.
03:58:22.660 I asked for it, and you took it.
03:58:23.940 Yes, banned.
03:58:24.580 And I told you I wasn't gonna sit...
03:58:26.020 This is an authoritarian regime.
03:58:27.540 I was looking for the gotcha Twitter clip by taking her straw away.
03:58:30.320 Yeah, exactly.
03:58:31.360 How dare you?
03:58:32.020 You took my straw.
03:58:32.820 I said I needed it.
03:58:33.540 But yeah, my point is, if you view yourself that way, where you're like, I'm not sure if
03:58:36.560 I'm, like, really high value, then it might be hard to get someone that's also considered
03:58:40.600 high value, because, like, all the filters, right?
03:58:43.200 Because generally, people will consider that high value woman.
03:58:45.460 Well, I mean, I don't like it as a blanket term, because I think in some, as I said, in
03:58:50.300 some realms of endeavor, I, if you, I don't like, you know, like, in the same way with
03:58:55.300 this, like, alpha beta shit, I don't like those terms.
03:58:57.880 Yeah, they're cringy.
03:58:58.660 High value, low value, it's kind of like, eh, it's like, okay, well, there's men who are,
03:59:02.820 like, when it comes to success, money, doing good on that front, but there's men who are,
03:59:08.280 like, billionaires, you know?
03:59:10.460 So, you know, in terms of percentiles, I'm doing well.
03:59:15.460 But I don't think that is, that is the, as an entire package that makes you high value.
03:59:22.760 For example, I'd like to have a, when it comes to my physical fitness, and I mean, some of
03:59:28.540 this is out of my control, for example, I have a pretty, I've had a pretty catastrophic back
03:59:33.120 injury.
03:59:34.900 So, you know, I'm not, I was in better physical fitness when I was younger.
03:59:39.840 So I think when it comes to my physical fitness, and I think men have a duty to be physically
03:59:44.500 strong, I, in that dimension, I consider myself to be lacking.
03:59:49.420 And I think in order to be, like, total package as a high value man, even though I don't like
03:59:54.560 that term, you need to have a certain degree of command over your body and a certain level
04:00:02.320 of physical strength, which had I not had, for, I, had, if I, had I not had a back injury,
04:00:09.260 I'd be much more of a, I'd be physically stronger than I am currently.
04:00:15.080 So within that specific realm, I, I consider myself to be lacking.
04:00:20.040 Can you still open a jar?
04:00:22.300 I mean, I did request, no, I, I, I.
04:00:24.520 Yeah, I mean, I remember me being the one who just, like.
04:00:26.860 Yeah, you were, you were helping me out with, with, with the mic, but.
04:00:29.420 Can you change a tire?
04:00:32.040 I, I mean, honestly, if you have enough money to pay somebody to do it for you, no money,
04:00:36.580 no, no women's gonna give a crap, like, sorry, but.
04:00:40.580 Yeah, but it's, like, hot if a guy could, like, it's, like, a bonus point.
04:00:44.980 Sure, sure, sure, I'll give it to you.
04:00:47.220 Well, okay, so let's say you're in a tight situation, it's only you two.
04:00:50.540 Hold on.
04:00:51.280 Sailor underscore girl underscore is underscore autistist donated $99.
04:00:56.080 Autistic girl is fixated on this because as if she's lived such a life of privilege
04:01:02.040 that she cannot psychologically process that men can have standards.
04:01:06.680 By not being fat and having an acceptable face and body,
04:01:09.900 she speaks from a high ground of entitlement.
04:01:13.140 Wait, who's the autistic girl?
04:01:14.500 He's talking about Brittany.
04:01:15.540 You don't know anything about Brittany if you think she's had a privileged life.
04:01:18.780 Brittany is an orphan that's been on her own since she was, what, 15, 16 years old?
04:01:22.640 16.
04:01:22.900 Yeah.
04:01:25.040 Ultimately, I don't think it's asking that much for, I think the three things were,
04:01:30.740 a woman who is, dates one person at a time, who isn't promiscuous,
04:01:36.260 and who has minimal social media presence.
04:01:41.680 I don't think that's really asking a whole lot.
04:01:44.540 It's not.
04:01:45.540 I don't think.
04:01:45.800 It shouldn't be, unfortunately, nowadays, it is, right?
04:01:49.300 But you're trying to make it out like I'm looking for a 1% woman, which I don't think is the case.
04:01:54.840 And even if you were to be fine.
04:01:57.460 It is.
04:01:57.880 And it's unfortunate in the reverse, too, of asking for basic things that it gets treated the same way.
04:02:03.460 Maybe in YouTube podcast world, but I don't think it's a very low percentage of women in general.
04:02:09.080 In this world, maybe.
04:02:11.420 I mean, especially in California, he wants someone presumably local, right?
04:02:15.540 I'll just say, maybe I've gotten lucky, but of the things that I want in a partner, I've been able to find them.
04:02:24.440 Like, I've had numerous long-term relationships.
04:02:28.620 I've been able to find them.
04:02:30.640 I think if somebody wants something bad enough, they can get it.
04:02:33.720 Speak it into existence.
04:02:35.380 I didn't manifest that shit.
04:02:36.720 I feel like that's not said if it's the other way around, though.
04:02:39.540 If a girl were like, you know, as he said earlier, I want a six-foot guy or, like, a tall guy.
04:02:44.740 Like, let's say even, like, 5'11".
04:02:45.380 The height standards of women is absolute BS.
04:02:49.580 It's like, if you've done martial art, like, honestly, short guys, short guys in the chat.
04:02:53.980 If you're short, martial art, any, like, karate, kickboxing, jiu-jitsu, like, you're good.
04:03:03.280 You're good.
04:03:04.220 You do that?
04:03:05.960 Because women that do that as well, they know that short kings can kick ass.
04:03:13.160 So, yeah.
04:03:14.140 That's true.
04:03:15.120 Word.
04:03:16.280 Yeah, but you shouldn't settle for someone that doesn't want to.
04:03:18.480 Once you do, martial art is hot.
04:03:20.100 Like, I'm sorry.
04:03:21.080 Oh, wait.
04:03:21.520 We had...
04:03:21.920 Okay, Mr. Meatball here.
04:03:23.320 Hold on.
04:03:24.560 We've got to get back to him.
04:03:25.420 Their alamed meatball donated $100.
04:03:28.460 Thank you, man.
04:03:28.860 On a scale from 1 to 10, what do the people on the panel consider themselves on overall value?
04:03:36.080 Okay, so we have...
04:03:38.020 Let me pull this up.
04:03:39.100 Hold up.
04:03:40.260 Also, Stifler here.
04:03:41.320 Ask everyone to rate their looks on a scale of 1 to 10.
04:03:43.280 Isn't it always Stifler?
04:03:44.280 We are going to start...
04:03:46.840 Every time I'm at it.
04:03:48.080 On looks?
04:03:48.760 Who are we going to start with?
04:03:49.860 Oh, which one are we doing?
04:03:50.920 I think...
04:03:51.600 There's two different ones.
04:03:52.580 Oh, okay.
04:03:53.260 Yeah, because it says overall value.
04:03:54.100 Scale of 1 to 10, what do people consider...
04:03:55.560 Oh, okay.
04:03:56.440 Because overall value...
04:03:57.360 Here, we'll do looks and then overall value.
04:03:59.620 So you'll just do two.
04:04:01.420 Let's start with Sophia.
04:04:04.780 On looks-wise, I don't want to rate myself.
04:04:07.720 But overall value, I mean, six, maybe.
04:04:12.860 I don't know.
04:04:13.180 I'm a human being, so not perfect.
04:04:17.000 Did you do whippets today?
04:04:19.680 I'm not on drugs.
04:04:21.260 I don't smoke weed, so...
04:04:23.340 Okay.
04:04:23.560 Can't stop saying that.
04:04:25.860 I don't need Narcan.
04:04:29.360 Okay.
04:04:30.100 You need a DeCelsis, the energy drink you had last time.
04:04:33.140 What about you?
04:04:33.880 For looks.
04:04:36.540 Looks and then overall.
04:04:39.780 I would say maybe seven.
04:04:42.440 And then seven for the value part portion.
04:04:47.860 Okay.
04:04:48.560 What about you?
04:04:50.700 I'll just say one.
04:04:51.980 Fuck that question, honestly.
04:04:56.240 I'm working on an AI thing that you can look at yourself in it,
04:05:00.000 and it tells you what you are on a scale of 1 to 10.
04:05:02.340 And I looked at myself in it.
04:05:04.400 When I woke up, I was like, I didn't think I look good.
04:05:07.340 I was like, oh, my God, I'm at 1.
04:05:08.460 And it said I was like a 7.5.
04:05:10.380 I was like, oh, okay.
04:05:11.140 I'm like, AI is cool.
04:05:12.440 Okay.
04:05:12.780 Okay.
04:05:13.120 I like AI.
04:05:14.380 It says I'm a 7.5 out of bed.
04:05:16.700 So, you know.
04:05:19.020 Yeah.
04:05:19.420 Maybe I can sell it to you.
04:05:20.540 So, like, when you ask, the girls don't have to, like...
04:05:24.180 You know, they can just look at themselves,
04:05:25.920 and the AI is going to tell them what they are.
04:05:27.780 That'd be funny if you had, like, a segment where it's they rate themselves,
04:05:31.600 and then it shows you what it says.
04:05:33.620 I have it on my phone.
04:05:34.160 That'd be so funny.
04:05:35.260 But, you know, like, when the girls...
04:05:36.100 I kind of like that, actually.
04:05:37.040 I like that.
04:05:37.100 Well, when the girls rate themselves, like, I'm a 10 out of 10,
04:05:39.500 and then the rate thing is, like, you're a 4.
04:05:40.720 And you know what's funny?
04:05:42.040 The people, like, girls, like, when they smile,
04:05:44.760 anyone who smiles, the AI actually rates them higher
04:05:50.360 when you have a smile on your face.
04:05:52.920 I thought that was interesting.
04:05:54.580 Makes sense.
04:05:55.160 It's like it has a soul.
04:05:56.100 Yo, Byronique, what's up?
04:05:58.020 So, in Compton, I'm a 20.
04:06:00.020 Straight up like that.
04:06:01.240 No chaser.
04:06:02.420 You're a queen.
04:06:03.200 You feel me?
04:06:04.040 Thank you, darling.
04:06:05.120 In Beverly Hills, not so much.
04:06:07.080 We not even going to fuck with that.
04:06:09.140 And then personality-wise, if people will really get to know me,
04:06:12.280 take the time to get to know me,
04:06:13.540 and not look at the color of my skin,
04:06:15.680 I think I will be a 10 all-around with personality for sure,
04:06:19.480 in my heart.
04:06:20.260 You know what I mean?
04:06:20.720 But people don't look at that.
04:06:21.740 They see a black bitch from the hood.
04:06:23.340 So, it's just disgusting.
04:06:25.320 So, it's hard to deal with.
04:06:27.420 I think you're a queen.
04:06:28.660 Yeah, I think you're awesome.
04:06:29.800 One overall value, 0.347.
04:06:35.660 Is that like a genuine answer?
04:06:37.720 I mean, how to rate someone's overall value on a numerical scale?
04:06:42.120 It's just bizarre.
04:06:42.320 Well, you said one for looks?
04:06:44.140 Yeah.
04:06:44.680 You think you're a one?
04:06:45.540 Yeah.
04:06:45.780 Is that like a troll answer?
04:06:48.600 Is that like...
04:06:49.720 Well, I don't look at people.
04:06:51.100 I don't look at myself or look at people like,
04:06:52.640 are they an eight or a nine?
04:06:53.820 Like, I'm not 12.
04:06:54.940 Like, I just...
04:06:55.580 That's like a whimsical and arbitrary thing.
04:06:58.040 It's like bizarre.
04:06:58.760 It's silly, in my opinion.
04:06:59.940 I could say that person's overall attractive.
04:07:02.720 I find myself conventionally attractive, yes,
04:07:04.620 but I don't...
04:07:05.100 I'm not like...
04:07:05.580 Oh, so then you're not a one, then.
04:07:07.660 Number one.
04:07:08.500 I'm beyond the scale.
04:07:09.220 Tell me if there's some deep analysis
04:07:10.500 I'm supposed to be doing here, Frank.
04:07:12.100 It's just...
04:07:13.380 I think it's a juvenile question,
04:07:14.640 so yes, I gave a juvenile answer.
04:07:15.640 It's like back in middle school.
04:07:17.000 Why is it a juvenile question?
04:07:19.380 Because rating people...
04:07:20.820 Like I said, I don't look at people like,
04:07:22.420 are you an eight or nine?
04:07:23.400 Especially on overall value.
04:07:24.480 Would you date a guy who's shorter than you?
04:07:26.200 I'm five feet, so no.
04:07:27.960 Would you date a guy that's shorter than you?
04:07:30.780 There's like no guys that are shorter than you.
04:07:32.400 Let's say there was, though.
04:07:33.360 Would you date a guy who's shorter than you?
04:07:34.400 No, but I would date a guy who's like five seven.
04:07:36.640 Well, so...
04:07:37.300 Like, it's not that deep, though.
04:07:38.540 I mean, probably even like five five.
04:07:40.200 Yeah, maybe.
04:07:41.800 Okay.
04:07:42.600 Yeah.
04:07:42.740 But you wouldn't date a guy who's shorter than you.
04:07:44.120 There are men who are four eleven.
04:07:46.120 No, I wouldn't date a guy who's shorter than you.
04:07:47.560 Why is that?
04:07:48.520 Because I think that's too short.
04:07:50.280 I don't even like being that short.
04:07:51.580 At that point, he's a legal midget.
04:07:51.760 But isn't height quite literally a numerical measurement?
04:07:56.340 But if someone's 6'2", and someone's 5'11",
04:07:59.520 I'm not like, ooh, but he has a man bun,
04:08:01.100 so is a man bun worth 0.2% more than...
04:08:03.680 Like, I don't look at people like that.
04:08:05.000 But you wouldn't date a guy who's shorter than you.
04:08:07.000 I wouldn't...
04:08:07.480 But wait, I don't get how this is related.
04:08:09.680 Well, you said...
04:08:10.160 So because I wouldn't date a guy that's shorter than you,
04:08:11.920 I think it's juvenile to rate someone's face,
04:08:15.240 but it's not juvenile to rate someone's physical height.
04:08:19.600 No, I think it's also juvenile.
04:08:19.980 Which is a numerical measurement.
04:08:21.400 I think it's also...
04:08:22.080 It's not numerical.
04:08:22.920 It's not numerical to say,
04:08:23.980 I wouldn't date someone shorter,
04:08:25.140 but I would date someone taller.
04:08:26.180 How is that numerical?
04:08:27.000 Well, it's quite literally their...
04:08:29.200 Height is numerical.
04:08:30.560 Well, it's physical.
04:08:32.220 Yeah, well, height is numerical,
04:08:33.500 but me rating them,
04:08:34.580 I'm just saying here's the threshold.
04:08:36.020 But you are rating their height.
04:08:37.740 It's a threshold.
04:08:38.540 I'm saying if you're below me,
04:08:40.240 no, if you're above me, yes.
04:08:41.380 I'm not like,
04:08:41.760 but if you're extra above me,
04:08:42.980 then that's two points higher.
04:08:44.300 If you're extra below me...
04:08:45.000 They're both related to physical attractiveness,
04:08:46.880 are they not?
04:08:47.740 No, I don't rate guys heights
04:08:49.400 on a scale of 1 to 10.
04:08:50.580 I just say,
04:08:51.120 is it okay or is it not okay?
04:08:52.480 But they're both within the physical realm
04:08:54.760 and height is a numerical measurement.
04:08:57.640 Yes, height is a numerical measurement.
04:08:59.340 Weight is also a numerical measurement.
04:09:01.020 Sure.
04:09:01.400 But I wouldn't date somebody's,
04:09:02.460 first of all, value on a numerical scale
04:09:04.720 and I wouldn't date someone's looks
04:09:06.180 on a numerical scale.
04:09:07.000 I'm attracted to you
04:09:07.740 or I'm not attracted to you.
04:09:08.700 I'm not like,
04:09:09.540 ooh, he's a 9, he's an 8.
04:09:10.140 So it's like a binary thing?
04:09:12.040 For height, yeah.
04:09:12.720 For height, yeah.
04:09:13.500 It is binary.
04:09:14.560 If you're shorter than me, no.
04:09:15.980 If you're taller than me, yes.
04:09:17.140 Or I could even have a...
04:09:18.700 If you're 5'5, yeah.
04:09:19.880 If you're 5'5, yes.
04:09:21.180 So you wouldn't have a preference
04:09:23.100 for a guy who's 5'10
04:09:24.860 versus a guy who's 5'1?
04:09:26.320 No preference whatsoever.
04:09:27.740 Well, preference is different
04:09:29.000 because it could be number 25
04:09:31.520 on my list of preferences.
04:09:32.860 You said this earlier too.
04:09:34.420 If there is just a preference,
04:09:35.700 like you may prefer a girl
04:09:36.840 that has a private Instagram
04:09:37.980 versus one who doesn't,
04:09:38.820 but it doesn't really matter.
04:09:40.060 It's not like something
04:09:40.780 you're really looking at.
04:09:42.340 Unless you're like,
04:09:43.180 two people are exactly the same,
04:09:45.060 then yes.
04:09:46.680 Okay, sorry.
04:09:47.780 Man brain is not wired
04:09:51.860 the same as a female brain.
04:09:54.260 Women, we overthink this question
04:09:57.420 way too much.
04:09:59.700 And every time,
04:10:01.020 every episode,
04:10:03.020 there is this response
04:10:06.000 to the question that comes back.
04:10:08.340 Okay, like guys just kind of think
04:10:10.120 on like a logical,
04:10:11.500 like straight,
04:10:11.860 it's not that deep.
04:10:14.280 No, I think I'm being
04:10:15.040 more logical here.
04:10:15.960 Yeah.
04:10:16.120 No, no, I think that you just,
04:10:17.320 women, we are wired
04:10:19.360 to overthink things.
04:10:21.760 Like it's deeper than that.
04:10:23.320 But for guys, it's like,
04:10:24.020 okay, it's really not that deep.
04:10:25.480 People have a threshold,
04:10:26.620 but once you go into numerical,
04:10:28.200 oh, you're an eight and a half,
04:10:29.160 he's a nine.
04:10:29.720 I just don't,
04:10:30.760 I don't know if you guys
04:10:31.540 walk around doing that.
04:10:32.580 No, I don't.
04:10:33.160 I don't walk around doing that.
04:10:33.700 It'd be really autistic to do that.
04:10:35.180 Yeah, it'd be like,
04:10:36.420 you'd be like insane.
04:10:37.640 I think.
04:10:38.000 I think you're like juvenile, honestly.
04:10:39.740 It's like a gotcha moment.
04:10:40.900 If a girl says she's a 10,
04:10:41.900 then chat's going to be like,
04:10:42.760 oh, she delusional, you know?
04:10:44.920 That's why you should do the AI test.
04:10:46.400 They say they're 10,
04:10:46.960 you have the AI tells them
04:10:48.160 in their report.
04:10:48.960 It's so funny.
04:10:50.300 You really should do that.
04:10:51.100 But for the way that women think
04:10:52.560 it's a stupid question, yeah.
04:10:54.760 You two don't want to answer the,
04:10:56.140 you two don't want to answer the question
04:10:57.560 because you consider yourselves
04:10:58.460 to be 10.
04:10:59.060 Is that correct?
04:10:59.800 No.
04:11:00.420 Me?
04:11:00.540 I mean.
04:11:01.000 Do you consider yourself a 10?
04:11:02.100 I mean, no.
04:11:03.760 Nobody considers themselves
04:11:04.760 a 10 here.
04:11:05.360 I wouldn't consider myself perfect.
04:11:05.880 But then when they,
04:11:06.780 when you, as a woman,
04:11:07.840 when you say that
04:11:08.740 about yourself,
04:11:09.440 like people always like friends
04:11:11.440 hit me up like,
04:11:12.200 oh, why would that bitch say
04:11:13.080 she's only a five?
04:11:13.900 That's like disrespecting yourself.
04:11:15.520 So if you don't say you a 10,
04:11:17.160 then you're kind of lowballing yourself.
04:11:18.980 Like that's how a lot of people view it.
04:11:20.880 Like, so everybody in the world
04:11:22.560 should be confident enough
04:11:24.280 to think that they're a 10.
04:11:25.720 I love that bitch
04:11:26.700 that you have on here
04:11:27.920 that is actually a trans
04:11:29.420 with the little pink
04:11:30.480 and she said,
04:11:31.100 she's a certified bad bitch.
04:11:32.440 She is the most confident bitch
04:11:34.480 I have ever met in my life.
04:11:36.220 She sits at this table
04:11:37.260 and she owns this shit
04:11:38.360 and she don't care
04:11:38.960 how many people
04:11:39.560 talk shit about her
04:11:40.320 in this fucking stupid chat.
04:11:41.860 She don't give a fuck
04:11:42.520 how many people
04:11:43.060 give her side eyes
04:11:44.080 at this motherfucking table.
04:11:45.480 She holds her shit.
04:11:46.460 She lets her titties hang out
04:11:47.780 and her big shape
04:11:49.200 and she's just proud of herself.
04:11:51.400 And I love that
04:11:52.620 because everybody
04:11:53.520 and I guarantee
04:11:54.640 she would not say
04:11:55.640 she's not a 10.
04:11:56.120 The offender donated $99.
04:11:58.920 Speaking of filters,
04:12:00.120 women who get cosmetic surgery,
04:12:02.220 wear makeup every day
04:12:03.360 and use social media filters
04:12:05.320 are all liars.
04:12:06.480 I've said my piece.
04:12:08.300 That's another thing.
04:12:10.080 Word?
04:12:10.900 I concur.
04:12:11.800 I love how
04:12:12.440 what she did.
04:12:13.880 You know how Kiko
04:12:14.640 went off at Chase
04:12:15.920 and that she pretty much
04:12:17.620 like turned around
04:12:18.200 the chase and said,
04:12:19.120 yeah, I think
04:12:19.660 if you suck dick,
04:12:21.000 that's pretty gay.
04:12:22.580 She didn't care.
04:12:24.340 Kiko defended her
04:12:25.640 and she just like
04:12:26.580 said, yeah, sorry Kiko.
04:12:28.000 He's right.
04:12:28.700 That's pretty gay.
04:12:29.820 I love her energy though.
04:12:31.580 She's a whole fucking vibe
04:12:33.160 and she's confident.
04:12:34.320 She's the definition
04:12:35.020 of being confident
04:12:35.860 and believing in yourself.
04:12:37.120 Everybody should be
04:12:37.960 sitting up in this world
04:12:38.940 that confident
04:12:39.620 about themselves
04:12:40.500 and we will have
04:12:41.260 a much better fucking world
04:12:42.420 and everybody
04:12:42.860 will have a better life.
04:12:44.240 I disagree.
04:12:44.520 I think better questions
04:12:45.700 are do you find yourself
04:12:46.720 conventionally attractive?
04:12:47.800 How important is physical
04:12:48.660 attractiveness to you?
04:12:49.840 Do others find you
04:12:50.660 attractive in your opinion
04:12:51.540 but to be like
04:12:52.180 one to ten,
04:12:53.180 what are you?
04:12:53.700 I've never thought
04:12:54.600 that way in my life.
04:12:55.760 So you don't think
04:12:56.380 some people are more
04:12:57.280 attractive than others?
04:12:58.020 Yes, I do
04:12:58.540 and I think there's
04:12:59.180 an objective component
04:13:00.360 to beauty
04:13:00.720 and also a subjective
04:13:01.440 component to beauty.
04:13:02.200 So once you get
04:13:02.840 to numerical,
04:13:03.680 I mean they've done
04:13:04.240 studies where people
04:13:05.020 from different countries
04:13:05.940 are attracted
04:13:06.400 to different BMIs,
04:13:07.660 different waist to hip ratios,
04:13:09.180 all of that.
04:13:10.020 So it's not objective
04:13:11.640 this person's an eight
04:13:12.540 because they think
04:13:13.640 they're an eight.
04:13:14.120 Sure, there might be
04:13:14.720 some variance
04:13:15.360 but I think overall
04:13:16.120 That's why the variance
04:13:16.980 means that the one to ten
04:13:18.500 is just a bizarre way
04:13:20.080 to rape.
04:13:20.720 It's juvenile.
04:13:21.680 You're like 12 to me
04:13:22.600 if you're sitting there
04:13:23.120 like she's an eight.
04:13:24.440 But shouldn't everybody
04:13:25.680 have confidence in themselves
04:13:26.860 whether they look
04:13:27.740 like Beetlejuice
04:13:28.880 or they look like Beyonce.
04:13:30.620 Everybody should have
04:13:31.500 fucking confidence
04:13:32.100 in themselves
04:13:32.660 whatever their shape,
04:13:33.580 their body type.
04:13:34.600 If you got a bad back,
04:13:35.600 you got a bad hip,
04:13:36.520 bad knees,
04:13:37.100 you can't drop it low.
04:13:37.860 It don't matter.
04:13:38.600 You should be confident
04:13:39.380 in yourself and love yourself
04:13:40.660 because the world
04:13:41.580 ain't going to show you
04:13:42.340 no fucking ease.
04:13:43.260 You feel me?
04:13:43.800 So you got to love
04:13:45.080 on yourself
04:13:45.540 and be confident.
04:13:46.580 Everybody should be
04:13:47.240 sitting here really
04:13:47.920 in reality saying
04:13:48.900 that they are
04:13:49.720 a ten and beyond.
04:13:51.140 You know what I mean?
04:13:51.840 Because you should love
04:13:52.800 yourself enough to say that.
04:13:54.540 Well I mean a woke feminist
04:13:55.680 say that so I don't
04:13:56.780 want to say that
04:13:57.500 because then it's like
04:13:58.700 screaming that I'm
04:13:59.420 a woke feminist.
04:14:00.760 And the overall value
04:14:01.960 one is very strange.
04:14:03.580 We're rating people's value
04:14:04.780 like as human beings?
04:14:05.820 Like what does he mean?
04:14:06.860 No it's just the difference.
04:14:07.480 But isn't,
04:14:08.020 we all make value judgments.
04:14:10.120 Yes.
04:14:10.760 So if you're asking me
04:14:11.920 if I think I'm
04:14:12.380 a valuable person,
04:14:13.580 yes.
04:14:14.080 And I think we all are.
04:14:15.540 Some maybe mean.
04:14:16.800 It's not about your value
04:14:18.180 as a human being
04:14:18.960 but like on the dating marketplace
04:14:20.720 and the sexual marketplace
04:14:21.800 you are making
04:14:24.620 judgment calls
04:14:25.720 and value calls
04:14:26.380 about potential partners.
04:14:28.060 Yeah that's true.
04:14:28.880 Based off of physical appearance.
04:14:29.880 Is that what they mean by
04:14:29.900 overall value?
04:14:31.080 Is your overall value.
04:14:32.040 If I find you
04:14:32.900 attractive enough
04:14:34.080 it's in the dating marketplace.
04:14:36.260 So overall value
04:14:37.060 in the dating marketplace?
04:14:37.880 Oh shit.
04:14:38.760 I agree with Tom Stenzel.
04:14:40.060 What makes you valuable
04:14:40.960 in the dating marketplace?
04:14:42.640 It could be a variety of factors
04:14:44.040 obviously
04:14:44.500 it's different
04:14:46.740 whether you're a woman
04:14:47.520 whether you're a man
04:14:48.200 because men and women
04:14:49.440 are attracted to different things
04:14:50.780 different qualities
04:14:51.620 physical appearance
04:14:53.340 personality.
04:14:54.460 They don't know that
04:14:55.220 just by looking at your picture
04:14:56.420 though on some fucking date.
04:14:57.640 No but okay
04:14:58.040 he's saying
04:14:58.520 okay there were two questions.
04:15:00.320 There was Stifler
04:15:01.300 asking rate your looks
04:15:02.960 specifically your looks
04:15:04.820 on a scale of 1 to 10
04:15:05.700 and there was the TTS
04:15:07.300 or I forgot
04:15:08.600 it was a TTS
04:15:09.180 or Streamlabs donation
04:15:10.200 asking for overall value.
04:15:13.580 Fine I changed my answer
04:15:14.500 9.22735.
04:15:16.280 Beautiful.
04:15:16.840 Okay let's move on.
04:15:17.660 What about you?
04:15:18.620 Okay so overall value
04:15:20.160 in the dating market
04:15:21.460 or just 1 to 10
04:15:24.900 your looks
04:15:25.320 and then your overall value.
04:15:27.960 Okay well I think
04:15:28.900 that's okay
04:15:29.600 let me put it to you like this
04:15:31.740 so 1 to 10
04:15:33.260 your looks
04:15:34.040 and then
04:15:35.060 if you can incorporate
04:15:36.780 for example
04:15:37.720 your personality
04:15:38.620 like overall
04:15:39.740 as a catch
04:15:41.240 where do you put yourself
04:15:42.960 on a 1 to 10 scale?
04:15:44.620 That's what he
04:15:45.300 I think he's getting at
04:15:46.460 by overall.
04:15:47.780 Okay well
04:15:48.380 So if you could incorporate
04:15:49.420 personality
04:15:50.040 personality
04:15:50.180 Okay
04:15:51.340 well personality wise
04:15:53.900 like I'm
04:15:55.600 I'm a 10
04:15:57.140 Okay
04:15:58.840 Because yeah
04:15:59.420 I'm a loyal friend
04:16:00.620 I'm
04:16:01.200 whatever
04:16:03.220 Sure
04:16:03.440 All the things that I am
04:16:04.480 Sure
04:16:04.820 People don't need to know
04:16:05.920 but whatever
04:16:06.460 and then looks wise
04:16:08.000 I'd say
04:16:08.480 for being almost 40
04:16:10.980 and being a mom
04:16:11.980 I'm probably like a 9
04:16:13.880 I took some MILF
04:16:15.220 Okay
04:16:16.360 I think it's kind of funny
04:16:19.440 because like all my friends
04:16:20.700 like when you know
04:16:21.560 early 20s
04:16:22.400 and I remember
04:16:23.020 like most of my friends
04:16:24.580 were guys
04:16:25.240 but they were all like
04:16:26.180 dating like older women
04:16:27.780 like their friends
04:16:28.680 moms and stuff
04:16:29.760 and it was not like
04:16:30.720 just one
04:16:31.300 it was like most of them
04:16:33.000 so it's just like
04:16:34.020 What?
04:16:34.960 Yeah
04:16:35.460 Like younger guys
04:16:37.520 that go for younger women
04:16:38.840 I don't know
04:16:39.260 maybe they're just like
04:16:40.220 Older
04:16:40.480 Yeah
04:16:40.960 Yeah
04:16:42.100 Yeah
04:16:42.380 Like younger guys
04:16:43.280 that go for older
04:16:44.360 Yeah
04:16:44.940 Yeah
04:16:45.180 That happens
04:16:45.760 It's a thing
04:16:46.360 Yeah
04:16:47.020 I've seen it
04:16:48.160 Star Wars girl
04:16:48.920 What about you?
04:16:50.320 So I think there's a difference
04:16:51.780 between how I perceive myself
04:16:53.220 and how other people
04:16:54.280 I think I'm
04:16:55.820 probably
04:16:56.180 because I see myself
04:16:56.880 in goblin mode every day
04:16:58.060 so I would say
04:16:59.760 natural state
04:17:00.920 I'm like a 4 or a 5
04:17:02.520 but my personality
04:17:03.620 I found is what
04:17:04.620 people
04:17:05.380 at least you know
04:17:06.280 guys find attractive about me
04:17:07.940 So based on
04:17:10.040 my perception of myself
04:17:12.000 4 or 5
04:17:12.840 and based on guys
04:17:13.780 like a 7 or an 8
04:17:14.600 Maddie can you stop
04:17:15.280 doing cocaine back there
04:17:16.280 please
04:17:16.540 Sorry
04:17:17.940 Just let me finish
04:17:19.800 this live
04:17:20.320 Oh was it
04:17:22.300 sorry
04:17:22.480 heroin
04:17:22.840 my bad
04:17:23.360 Okay
04:17:24.280 What about
04:17:25.060 Oh shit
04:17:26.960 I don't think
04:17:29.480 it's like a correct
04:17:30.200 answer to this one
04:17:30.980 either
04:17:31.220 it's like
04:17:31.800 you're like
04:17:32.740 the chick
04:17:34.040 who thinks
04:17:34.360 she's like
04:17:34.660 the 12
04:17:35.100 or the guy
04:17:35.820 who thinks
04:17:36.060 she's the 12
04:17:36.600 or like
04:17:37.180 you're self-deprecating
04:17:38.120 saying you're a 4
04:17:38.880 I'm just gonna say
04:17:40.500 I'm a 10
04:17:40.940 in all race
04:17:42.160 Yeah
04:17:42.660 Over 9,000
04:17:45.160 It's not quantifiable
04:17:49.840 There's a sound drop
04:17:50.400 on that one
04:17:50.880 Okay
04:17:52.600 Alright
04:17:53.180 We're just getting
04:17:54.720 troll answers
04:17:55.220 at this point
04:17:55.940 Okay
04:17:56.260 Let's move on
04:17:57.200 Thank you for that
04:17:57.640 TTS Super Chapman
04:17:58.720 Let's see
04:18:00.900 Curtis Reynolds
04:18:02.040 We already read this one
04:18:03.440 Did we?
04:18:04.600 Are you sure?
04:18:05.880 She's right
04:18:06.340 I shouldn't have
04:18:06.780 compared it to gender
04:18:07.660 since
04:18:08.820 what is it
04:18:11.400 since there are
04:18:12.140 clearly more flavors
04:18:12.980 of feminism
04:18:13.440 than the two
04:18:14.780 actual genders
04:18:16.400 Okay
04:18:16.860 Just FYI
04:18:18.560 What's up?
04:18:19.420 I got 10 minutes
04:18:20.440 because it's a long
04:18:21.220 drive back to the ghetto
04:18:22.400 Okay
04:18:22.960 Yeah
04:18:22.980 That's all I got
04:18:24.180 to get out of here
04:18:25.100 Okay
04:18:25.600 We have
04:18:26.480 SweetTeaGuy
04:18:27.920 Where have you
04:18:29.000 reviewed Gantz
04:18:30.200 TBYS
04:18:31.100 I'll watch
04:18:31.480 read that
04:18:31.940 when this is over
04:18:32.640 Oh
04:18:33.900 I made a community
04:18:34.620 post about it
04:18:35.240 like a long
04:18:35.860 ass time ago
04:18:36.540 like I don't
04:18:36.920 remember when
04:18:37.320 that was
04:18:37.800 It's good
04:18:40.120 But it's got a lot
04:18:41.040 of weird shit
04:18:41.480 in it
04:18:41.960 Alright
04:18:44.360 We have
04:18:44.700 TheGingerMenace
04:18:45.840 here
04:18:46.120 Hey
04:18:46.300 Thank you so much
04:18:46.940 for your
04:18:47.260 I really appreciate it
04:18:48.620 Anna
04:18:49.700 It's so good
04:18:50.200 to see you here
04:18:50.820 I'm Overlord
04:18:51.480 DVD's
04:18:51.980 Queen Wrench
04:18:52.620 So we are
04:18:53.200 in the same
04:18:53.780 community
04:18:54.320 I'm friends
04:18:54.780 with Matt G
04:18:55.300 So great to see
04:18:55.920 the Star Wars girl
04:18:56.660 on this channel
04:18:57.180 Loves
04:18:57.460 Hello
04:18:58.180 Thank you
04:18:59.380 Thank you
04:19:00.460 TheGingerMenace
04:19:01.900 She is a menace
04:19:02.980 Oh here we go
04:19:04.180 It's because she has
04:19:04.560 no soul
04:19:05.540 Federica
04:19:07.680 What
04:19:08.940 Oh god
04:19:10.300 I never thought
04:19:11.280 about this
04:19:11.720 until right now
04:19:12.420 I wanted to go
04:19:13.440 I'm not sure
04:19:15.360 what this is
04:19:15.940 in response to
04:19:17.080 Thank you for the
04:19:18.160 Four dollars
04:19:19.500 Yeah YouTube
04:19:20.180 YouTube needs to like
04:19:22.000 adjust the
04:19:24.700 different currencies
04:19:25.620 because it should not
04:19:26.340 be red
04:19:26.760 I don't know why
04:19:27.600 it doesn't just
04:19:28.320 convert it to
04:19:28.880 American currency
04:19:29.580 You can do that
04:19:30.080 on Google
04:19:30.440 in seconds
04:19:30.740 It's because
04:19:31.420 they're probably
04:19:32.320 using a VPN
04:19:33.180 to do different
04:19:34.000 countries
04:19:34.380 so they can
04:19:34.900 super chat less
04:19:36.080 but get red
04:19:37.140 Wow
04:19:37.840 Okay sweet tea guy
04:19:40.080 thank you for the 50
04:19:40.760 Anyone who likes
04:19:42.760 gory mature stories
04:19:43.780 read Gantz
04:19:44.400 Wild Story
04:19:44.940 Is this guy on
04:19:45.780 like the marketing
04:19:46.400 team of Gantz
04:19:47.200 or something
04:19:47.500 It's a wild story
04:19:48.980 that has weird
04:19:49.580 stuff attached to
04:19:50.460 it but has hard
04:19:51.240 anime in 2027
04:19:52.460 to 2030
04:19:54.280 2025 is when
04:19:55.600 the author will
04:19:56.120 get the film
04:19:56.580 TV rights back
04:19:57.360 Okay
04:19:57.780 Is it up to
04:20:00.000 redo healer level
04:20:01.020 I haven't seen
04:20:02.160 that one
04:20:02.420 I heard that one
04:20:02.960 was up
04:20:03.260 Yo we got
04:20:03.740 Bender the
04:20:04.220 offender here
04:20:05.200 50 dude
04:20:06.060 good to see you
04:20:06.600 in the chat
04:20:06.920 thank you so much
04:20:07.440 for your soup chat
04:20:08.040 man
04:20:08.240 thank you everybody
04:20:09.280 for all your
04:20:09.720 patronage
04:20:10.180 ladies how drastically
04:20:11.140 do you think
04:20:11.520 the modern woman's
04:20:12.220 day to day life
04:20:12.940 would be changed
04:20:13.620 if social media
04:20:15.020 didn't exist
04:20:16.560 It would be amazing
04:20:19.600 No wouldn't
04:20:21.400 I'd be a lawyer
04:20:22.820 needing my billable
04:20:23.800 hours instead of
04:20:24.580 making all this money
04:20:25.520 because I'm a lawyer
04:20:26.900 Because she's a lawyer
04:20:28.460 guys in case you
04:20:29.400 missed it
04:20:30.360 She's a lawyer
04:20:30.840 An attorney
04:20:31.960 Yeah for that one
04:20:33.160 reason
04:20:33.520 Yeah no
04:20:34.180 But neither of us
04:20:35.220 used social media
04:20:36.600 before
04:20:36.940 I didn't have
04:20:37.440 social media
04:20:38.560 until I was 27
04:20:39.360 Is it like a hit
04:20:42.200 because I think
04:20:42.620 everybody's social skills
04:20:43.620 would be better
04:20:44.040 without social media
04:20:45.300 What do you mean
04:20:46.800 there's a benefit
04:20:47.280 to it but there's
04:20:47.960 also a massive
04:20:48.520 negative to it
04:20:49.380 I mean but
04:20:50.480 none of us
04:20:51.700 would have met
04:20:52.220 if it wasn't
04:20:52.820 for social media
04:20:53.560 That's true
04:20:53.980 There would be less
04:20:56.620 girls getting
04:20:57.260 kidnapped by creeps
04:20:59.360 I think actually
04:21:00.820 that was happening
04:21:01.660 more before
04:21:02.500 Yeah people were
04:21:03.860 out more
04:21:04.320 Yeah and like
04:21:05.100 it was harder
04:21:05.560 to catch them
04:21:06.140 so like serial killers
04:21:06.960 for instance
04:21:07.380 But you know
04:21:07.880 like the old chat rooms
04:21:09.100 and stuff
04:21:09.600 It's really hard
04:21:10.320 to be a successful
04:21:11.000 serial killer now
04:21:11.980 Yeah
04:21:12.540 I think we're thankful
04:21:14.200 for all of the great
04:21:15.260 things social media
04:21:15.940 gave us like
04:21:16.800 being able to
04:21:17.660 be here tonight
04:21:18.520 and like be on a stream
04:21:19.840 and everything
04:21:20.380 Oh yeah
04:21:20.760 But with that said
04:21:22.380 I think overall
04:21:23.280 if we got rid
04:21:24.100 of social media
04:21:24.680 it would change
04:21:25.320 for the better
04:21:25.840 Yeah I agree
04:21:27.240 I don't know
04:21:28.380 I don't think so
04:21:29.080 But then you miss out
04:21:29.800 on the free speech
04:21:30.380 benefits that are
04:21:31.120 helping otherwise
04:21:31.880 There are pros and cons
04:21:33.140 I know but we lived
04:21:33.960 before without
04:21:34.980 Crime was actual
04:21:35.920 I know but if you had it
04:21:37.220 to take that away
04:21:38.060 it'd be a dystopian future
04:21:39.380 It's not going well
04:21:40.840 If we took away
04:21:41.620 social media
04:21:42.180 Yeah because then
04:21:43.600 we wouldn't be able
04:21:44.080 to communicate
04:21:44.540 with each other
04:21:45.140 as much in terms of
04:21:45.960 like when people
04:21:46.480 are trying to censor us
04:21:47.440 or when the government
04:21:47.920 Or free press
04:21:48.280 We can organize better now
04:21:49.980 We could focus
04:21:51.340 on other things
04:21:52.200 Also like we see
04:21:53.920 what's happening
04:21:54.460 all over the world
04:21:55.320 a little bit better
04:21:56.280 I mean that's why
04:21:57.060 people think a lot
04:21:57.800 of stuff that happens
04:21:58.640 now like you know
04:21:59.480 like a student
04:22:00.360 beating a teacher
04:22:01.160 is like you know
04:22:02.220 a Gen Z thing
04:22:03.060 when it's always happened
04:22:04.160 But now we hear
04:22:05.500 about it more
04:22:06.120 I like how social media
04:22:07.520 gives normal people
04:22:10.400 a voice
04:22:11.360 basically that
04:22:12.020 not everything
04:22:12.920 is on either
04:22:13.680 Fox News or CNN
04:22:14.940 and that we can just
04:22:16.000 have those
04:22:16.560 alternative platforms
04:22:18.020 and you know
04:22:19.040 somebody can have
04:22:20.040 like a camera
04:22:20.720 or an iPhone
04:22:21.300 basically
04:22:21.820 and just broadcast
04:22:23.220 something
04:22:23.860 then you get
04:22:24.600 a higher and higher
04:22:25.300 budget
04:22:25.660 but pretty much
04:22:26.480 the little guy
04:22:28.260 can make it
04:22:29.320 and you have
04:22:30.820 so many things
04:22:31.520 that you can
04:22:31.880 listen to now
04:22:32.620 so it's pretty much
04:22:33.680 everything is so
04:22:35.260 like on demand
04:22:36.080 you know like
04:22:36.480 we didn't have
04:22:37.200 you know
04:22:38.380 Tim Poole
04:22:40.040 with Tim Cass
04:22:41.140 or Dan Bongino
04:22:41.880 Matt Walsh
04:22:42.760 all the daily wire
04:22:43.640 like that's all
04:22:44.480 like there's none
04:22:46.200 of that on
04:22:46.920 but we also
04:22:47.560 didn't have girls
04:22:48.360 eating emojis
04:22:49.360 like popcorn
04:22:50.460 on TikTok
04:22:51.320 either
04:22:52.000 so
04:22:52.440 it's like a
04:22:54.340 six second video
04:22:55.180 like scroll
04:22:55.820 you know
04:22:56.360 well here's something
04:22:57.580 that came up
04:22:58.180 during like the
04:22:59.340 coup
04:22:59.580 so all the kids
04:23:01.000 had to do
04:23:01.440 like the virtual
04:23:02.000 school right
04:23:02.520 so a lot of parents
04:23:03.240 found out what
04:23:03.780 they were doing
04:23:04.280 to their kids
04:23:04.960 in school
04:23:05.540 so like my
04:23:06.280 stepdaughter
04:23:06.760 we saw her
04:23:07.740 virtual school
04:23:08.380 so we were
04:23:08.780 seeing the stuff
04:23:09.400 that parents
04:23:10.160 didn't get to see
04:23:11.140 so you know
04:23:12.360 all of the
04:23:13.180 hey if you want
04:23:14.280 if you feel like
04:23:14.900 this today
04:23:15.540 then let's just
04:23:16.600 put you on drugs
04:23:17.480 and stuff like that
04:23:18.880 we have a chat
04:23:19.580 here that's why
04:23:20.280 there's a drug
04:23:21.240 shortage now too
04:23:22.320 apparently
04:23:22.800 we've got Pat
04:23:23.560 here
04:23:23.880 the purpose of
04:23:25.280 Helmet Girl
04:23:25.660 is to set the
04:23:26.340 standard for the
04:23:27.200 panel
04:23:27.460 she's an overall
04:23:28.220 10
04:23:28.620 values are more
04:23:30.240 than looks and
04:23:31.000 money
04:23:31.320 she definitely
04:23:32.360 has the looks
04:23:33.680 if she moderated
04:23:35.500 her on podcast
04:23:36.980 the chat would
04:23:37.700 make it rain
04:23:38.720 if she moderated
04:23:40.320 her on podcast
04:23:41.120 the chat would
04:23:41.580 make it rain
04:23:42.060 I think she
04:23:42.520 yeah
04:23:43.340 stick around
04:23:44.360 for the after
04:23:45.300 show for about
04:23:46.240 10 minutes
04:23:47.040 she's high value
04:23:48.440 where Madison
04:23:49.660 will be running
04:23:50.580 the after
04:23:51.380 show
04:23:51.720 okay
04:23:52.040 and then
04:23:52.980 let's see
04:23:53.900 voice crack
04:23:54.800 nice
04:23:55.140 what else
04:23:56.160 do we have
04:23:56.540 okay we're
04:23:56.940 caught up
04:23:57.340 on chats
04:23:58.220 I think I had
04:23:59.720 one other thing
04:24:00.540 Sophia
04:24:01.460 yeah
04:24:02.680 yes
04:24:04.180 so do you believe
04:24:05.900 in the patriarchy
04:24:06.720 yeah I do
04:24:08.040 I like how it's
04:24:10.640 talked about like
04:24:11.100 it's a mythical
04:24:11.580 creature
04:24:12.100 like
04:24:12.680 do you believe
04:24:13.540 in the unicorns
04:24:14.540 messy
04:24:15.320 do you think
04:24:17.040 women are
04:24:17.500 oppressed
04:24:17.880 I mean I think
04:24:19.620 in both ways
04:24:20.260 we are both
04:24:20.780 oppressed
04:24:21.180 you know the
04:24:21.960 patriarchy
04:24:22.440 causes more
04:24:23.580 disadvantage than
04:24:24.420 it does for
04:24:25.200 advantages for
04:24:26.720 men
04:24:26.980 I feel like
04:24:28.380 think before you
04:24:29.120 sleep has some
04:24:29.940 thoughts on this
04:24:30.840 topic
04:24:31.160 huh
04:24:31.600 I'm trying to
04:24:34.120 rope you in here
04:24:35.220 a little bit
04:24:35.580 oh
04:24:35.920 what
04:24:38.200 well you're
04:24:39.160 I mean I
04:24:40.300 don't want to
04:24:41.560 put words in your
04:24:42.020 mouth but I
04:24:42.400 would consider you
04:24:43.320 at least from the
04:24:44.000 videos I've seen
04:24:44.580 would you consider
04:24:45.520 yourself an
04:24:45.920 anti-feminist
04:24:46.760 it depends on
04:24:47.600 which
04:24:47.880 so I would have
04:24:50.140 said yes a year
04:24:50.940 ago but there's
04:24:51.520 there's like
04:24:52.240 back to the
04:24:54.500 plantation
04:24:54.900 there's Camille
04:24:56.320 Poly of feminism
04:24:57.100 and there's
04:24:57.520 there's all the
04:24:58.320 woke shit
04:24:58.760 I'm against all
04:24:59.320 the woke shit
04:24:59.800 but like
04:25:00.200 if women are
04:25:01.080 saying like
04:25:01.800 Camille Poly
04:25:04.880 stuff like
04:25:05.300 again like
04:25:05.780 the anti-porn
04:25:06.520 stuff I agree
04:25:07.360 with on the
04:25:07.740 Radfem part
04:25:08.320 the free speech
04:25:11.400 stuff I agree
04:25:11.840 with and that's
04:25:12.260 certainly not the
04:25:12.720 woke shit
04:25:13.120 oh
04:25:14.000 tit has
04:25:15.020 underscore
04:25:15.520 n underscore
04:25:16.220 skin underscore
04:25:17.260 means underscore
04:25:18.180 you underscore
04:25:19.020 win donated
04:25:19.860 ninety nine
04:25:20.660 dollars
04:25:21.200 the patriarchy
04:25:22.560 is a hoax
04:25:23.220 perpetrated by
04:25:24.180 generations of
04:25:25.180 women to
04:25:25.640 control men
04:25:26.340 plus all
04:25:26.880 resources within
04:25:27.860 a society
04:25:28.560 to get them
04:25:29.340 to do the
04:25:29.800 vast majority
04:25:30.620 of work
04:25:31.280 from hard
04:25:32.080 labor to
04:25:32.520 innovation
04:25:32.940 and then to
04:25:33.960 extract those
04:25:34.880 resources from
04:25:35.780 those men
04:25:36.380 w slash
04:25:37.280 minute effort
04:25:38.080 i mean i
04:25:43.680 don't believe
04:25:44.120 in the
04:25:44.300 patriarchy
04:25:44.620 that's what
04:25:45.100 you're asking
04:25:45.480 okay yeah
04:25:48.100 no what do
04:25:49.340 you say to
04:25:49.660 that i think
04:25:49.960 it's just
04:25:50.200 divide and
04:25:50.580 conquer
04:25:50.780 strategy
04:25:51.300 sophia
04:25:51.960 i mean i
04:25:53.020 understand that
04:25:53.820 there's a lot
04:25:54.320 of division
04:25:54.840 i mean on
04:25:55.660 social media
04:25:56.160 and with
04:25:56.800 like feminism
04:25:57.720 even you know
04:25:58.920 and one thing
04:26:00.020 i'd want to say
04:26:00.740 about like how
04:26:01.440 you said you
04:26:02.280 kind of change
04:26:02.940 your answer
04:26:03.380 because one
04:26:03.760 thing with
04:26:04.080 feminism is we
04:26:04.840 all kind of get
04:26:05.320 grouped into one
04:26:06.140 with like this
04:26:07.360 whole like i
04:26:08.080 don't know like
04:26:08.440 tiktok liberal
04:26:09.420 feminism like we
04:26:10.420 want to show our
04:26:10.940 nipples like you
04:26:12.520 know stuff but
04:26:13.720 um i think it's
04:26:15.380 funny because a lot
04:26:15.860 of people said that
04:26:16.500 my anti-porn thing
04:26:17.440 is very conservative
04:26:18.200 but it's also a
04:26:19.020 rad femme it is
04:26:20.400 it is so um
04:26:22.040 it is a feminist
04:26:22.800 position radical
04:26:23.780 feminist just
04:26:24.720 saying well i
04:26:25.400 think there's two
04:26:26.060 feminist positions
04:26:27.060 on it there's
04:26:27.620 like hey you
04:26:28.860 should do
04:26:29.820 whatever you
04:26:30.200 want you're
04:26:31.080 allowed to
04:26:31.780 engage in sex
04:26:32.500 work and then
04:26:32.960 the other side
04:26:33.420 of the coin is
04:26:34.040 sex work is
04:26:35.460 exploitative and
04:26:36.500 bad and etc
04:26:37.160 so it's a lot
04:26:38.020 of trafficking or
04:26:39.100 like there's
04:26:39.960 plenty of
04:26:40.360 companies that
04:26:41.160 people watch
04:26:41.720 who have
04:26:41.980 trafficked
04:26:42.700 women but
04:26:43.240 could it be
04:26:43.900 the case that
04:26:45.620 feminists all
04:26:47.060 get grouped up
04:26:47.980 together we
04:26:49.660 do but isn't
04:26:51.500 that justified
04:26:52.960 why would that
04:26:54.420 be justified
04:26:54.820 well okay for
04:26:55.280 example um and
04:26:56.740 you often hear
04:26:57.560 talk of and we
04:26:59.220 will wrap up
04:26:59.840 here in about
04:27:00.240 five ten minutes
04:27:01.040 you often hear
04:27:02.120 talk of like
04:27:02.820 systematic
04:27:03.580 oppression yeah
04:27:06.460 right yeah
04:27:06.940 that's bullshit
04:27:07.420 that's common
04:27:07.900 shit yeah and
04:27:09.060 so couldn't you
04:27:11.740 argue that one
04:27:12.300 of the biggest
04:27:12.680 systems in this
04:27:13.620 country and in
04:27:14.740 other countries is
04:27:15.540 the uh higher
04:27:17.040 education so
04:27:18.380 you look at
04:27:19.400 universities for
04:27:20.180 example almost
04:27:21.160 every single
04:27:21.780 university in this
04:27:22.920 country has a
04:27:23.820 woman studies
04:27:24.380 program a gender
04:27:25.240 studies program a
04:27:26.400 feminist studies
04:27:27.560 program what do
04:27:28.720 all of these teach
04:27:30.100 across the board
04:27:31.140 doesn't matter what
04:27:31.980 state you're in
04:27:32.720 doesn't matter if
04:27:33.500 it's a private
04:27:34.040 college a public
04:27:34.980 college they all
04:27:36.120 teach patriarchy
04:27:37.680 theory in these
04:27:38.860 feminist classes
04:27:40.620 patriarchy theory is
04:27:42.320 the bedrock of
04:27:44.520 feminism it is the
04:27:46.300 core tenant of
04:27:47.520 feminism so is it
04:27:50.520 any surprise that
04:27:51.420 all feminists get
04:27:52.500 grouped together when
04:27:53.300 the main the
04:27:54.360 mainstream feminist
04:27:55.360 view is that there's
04:27:56.640 this patriarchy
04:27:58.180 i'm gonna be
04:27:59.500 completely hold on
04:28:01.220 let sophia answer
04:28:01.960 this um i mean i
04:28:03.400 understand what you
04:28:04.280 mean by that but i
04:28:05.500 just there's a whole
04:28:06.620 bunch of different
04:28:07.140 takes from all
04:28:08.080 different types of
04:28:08.780 feminists you know so
04:28:10.220 that's one thing is i
04:28:11.200 understand what you
04:28:11.820 mean like we all
04:28:12.800 believe in the
04:28:13.240 patriarchy but i
04:28:14.300 mean well what is
04:28:15.220 the patriarchy i'm
04:28:17.080 well i already
04:28:17.720 answered this when
04:28:18.860 like three different
04:28:19.920 times did you yeah
04:28:21.480 oh i must be a bad
04:28:23.760 but um you just want
04:28:26.840 to get a gotcha
04:28:27.660 moment right clip
04:28:28.760 this radical feminist
04:28:30.120 doesn't know what the
04:28:31.520 patriarchy is but um
04:28:33.600 like i say i mean i
04:28:35.040 don't believe that
04:28:35.600 there's this like big
04:28:36.700 bad patriarchy that's
04:28:37.940 uplifting men so much i
04:28:39.280 i believe it in a way
04:28:40.260 that it's causing
04:28:41.700 disadvantages for both
04:28:42.760 of us i mean it's not
04:28:44.940 just a one-sided thing
04:28:46.020 and i think that's why
04:28:47.280 a lot of people have
04:28:48.020 these stances on the
04:28:48.860 patriarchy because they
04:28:49.940 think that woman hold
04:28:51.500 no accountability and
04:28:52.380 just want to blame the
04:28:53.220 patriarchy which it's
04:28:54.620 causing problems for
04:28:55.780 both genders like i say
04:28:57.420 people kind of do that
04:28:58.200 in general though a lot
04:28:59.020 of people who don't
04:28:59.540 want to work find some
04:29:00.480 excuse to blame like
04:29:01.760 people who are like
04:29:03.600 five nine will say i'm
04:29:04.980 not six foot therefore i
04:29:06.380 can't get it like okay
04:29:07.300 but you're still taller
04:29:08.100 than almost all women so
04:29:09.660 but i'm sorry but in
04:29:10.720 colleges right now i
04:29:11.920 noticed because i came
04:29:13.120 here first on an f1 visa
04:29:14.760 which is a student visa
04:29:15.840 and when you know you
04:29:17.320 had like those courses
04:29:18.340 and i'm sorry they
04:29:19.240 literally teach young
04:29:20.960 women to hate men and
04:29:24.060 then i heard that and i
04:29:25.060 was sitting here me with
04:29:26.600 a bunch of my guy
04:29:28.540 friends and barely any
04:29:30.020 women friends and i was
04:29:31.680 like that's kind of
04:29:33.180 bullshit yeah yeah it is
04:29:34.780 nice but they're they're
04:29:36.820 kind of playing on human
04:29:38.340 psychology to like if
04:29:39.520 if things happen to you
04:29:40.840 that are bad and you're
04:29:41.600 not a person who takes
04:29:42.200 responsibility you'll
04:29:43.400 always fall for the
04:29:44.060 psychology so they
04:29:44.680 pretty much teach you to
04:29:45.640 cry like a little bitch
04:29:46.840 instead of yeah i mean
04:29:48.460 it goes both ways like
04:29:49.720 with red pillars they do
04:29:50.580 the same thing with women
04:29:51.400 they do you a lot of
04:29:52.100 red pillars i'm sorry
04:29:53.220 but red wouldn't red
04:29:54.940 pillars like what i hear
04:29:57.560 mostly on what people
04:29:58.980 would call red pill
04:30:00.160 podcasts is yeah it's
04:30:02.280 hard to be a man stop
04:30:03.880 being a little bitch
04:30:04.960 and yeah life is hard
04:30:06.000 no a lot of them are
04:30:06.680 literally telling men to
04:30:07.720 complain yeah and be
04:30:09.160 wusses they tell men to
04:30:10.560 complain oh yeah they
04:30:11.920 say like oh i'm not
04:30:12.900 tall enough oh i didn't i
04:30:14.260 don't make this much
04:30:15.080 money it's like what most
04:30:16.100 which ones are you
04:30:17.300 watching which ones are
04:30:18.440 you referring to
04:30:19.200 fresh a bit yeah
04:30:21.100 seriously they say that
04:30:22.540 yeah because i haven't
04:30:23.500 heard that like that
04:30:24.340 man they don't tell men
04:30:25.140 to go whine like little
04:30:26.180 bitches i thought they
04:30:27.000 wouldn't more
04:30:27.400 their podcast is kind
04:30:29.340 of based on that
04:30:30.080 like little bitches
04:30:30.880 they may like slide in
04:30:33.300 some sort of like
04:30:34.000 self-improvement thing
04:30:34.860 but most of the time
04:30:35.500 they're complaining about
04:30:36.200 men aren't tall enough
04:30:37.200 or women get too many
04:30:38.220 dates or like yeah
04:30:40.000 things may be the way
04:30:40.740 they are i mean i know
04:30:41.300 they had debates where
04:30:42.720 it was like different
04:30:43.520 people arguing but i
04:30:45.000 don't know if it was
04:30:45.640 like it was on fresh
04:30:46.920 and fit i don't know if
04:30:47.540 it was like fresh and
04:30:48.600 fit's opinion on do you
04:30:50.200 think that do you think
04:30:51.460 that men are not
04:30:53.920 struggling in specifically
04:30:56.600 unique ways to them when
04:30:57.860 it comes to the dating
04:30:59.480 landscape yeah but
04:31:00.760 everybody can struggle in
04:31:01.800 a unique way it doesn't
04:31:03.000 mean you should be a
04:31:03.640 no i think i think i
04:31:06.180 think the difference is
04:31:07.300 though is that i think
04:31:08.880 men struggle more when
04:31:11.920 it comes to dating than
04:31:12.740 do women yeah and the
04:31:14.080 solution is don't use
04:31:14.800 dating apps yeah i mean
04:31:16.740 why are people still
04:31:17.720 using those things like
04:31:18.560 there's like i think i
04:31:19.560 think i mean so you're
04:31:20.820 saying like just do cold
04:31:21.800 approach in the street
04:31:22.540 like just no be be in a
04:31:24.340 community be have friends
04:31:25.740 i mean you either yeah
04:31:27.240 back in the days you go
04:31:28.740 to church every sunday and
04:31:29.700 you have a community of
04:31:30.360 people or you go to some
04:31:31.480 sort of sports event every
04:31:32.720 sunday or every whatever
04:31:33.800 day or you have a friend
04:31:35.320 who'd introduce you to a
04:31:36.720 group of friends who then
04:31:37.580 has a girl that you might
04:31:39.100 like or a guy that you
04:31:39.900 might like yeah get into
04:31:40.880 something like social that
04:31:42.280 you like you know like if
04:31:43.500 it's like woodworking i don't
04:31:45.120 know and uh you there's
04:31:46.780 like wood craft that has
04:31:48.780 like you know classes and
04:31:50.260 stuff and there's actually
04:31:51.100 plenty of women in that
04:31:52.120 but people aren't finding
04:31:53.100 enough excuses to go out
04:31:54.380 and socialize and that's
04:31:55.240 why all these problems are
04:31:55.980 happening yeah men are like
04:31:59.080 completely relying on dating
04:32:00.500 apps to find women they're
04:32:01.540 not even trying like they'll
04:32:03.160 stare at you at the grocery
04:32:04.720 store awkwardly but never
04:32:07.000 actually come up and say
04:32:08.180 hello or make conversation
04:32:09.960 or even do basic
04:32:10.600 conversational things like
04:32:11.460 say oh uh like find an
04:32:13.620 excuse to talk about some
04:32:15.060 vegetable chicks next to her
04:32:16.400 or something like that or
04:32:17.120 make some sort of excuse to
04:32:17.960 talk to her they usually
04:32:19.100 compliment my shoes but my
04:32:20.640 shoes are nice but this is i
04:32:22.540 mean this is kind of putting
04:32:23.600 the entire burden of
04:32:25.020 initiation on men but men
04:32:27.260 were you know biologically
04:32:29.120 wired to be hunters right
04:32:31.240 and now they don't even do
04:32:32.300 that one thing that they
04:32:33.240 were wired to do do you want
04:32:34.860 women to ask you out or do
04:32:35.820 you want to be the one who
04:32:36.300 asks the women out well i
04:32:37.700 actually think they're scared
04:32:39.200 of rejection i like it if a
04:32:40.840 chick simps all the simps for
04:32:42.160 me i like it if a girl
04:32:43.820 walks up to you i don't want
04:32:45.840 your dms just got flooded
04:32:47.360 dm me i don't i think it's
04:32:51.060 fine if a girl dms a guy
04:32:52.220 but men complain and i wrote
04:32:53.780 that to you men complain on
04:32:55.840 the dating apps like my
04:32:56.880 friend complained to me
04:32:57.660 that every single guy that
04:32:58.840 she talked to on the dating
04:32:59.820 app was complaining how bad
04:33:01.400 the dating app was yet
04:33:02.460 doesn't try in person
04:33:04.240 because it's oh but you're
04:33:05.260 you're a beautiful woman i
04:33:06.340 don't want to approach you
04:33:07.520 you have a better chance in
04:33:08.720 person than you do on a
04:33:09.700 dating app of course you're
04:33:11.000 going to be more superficial
04:33:12.000 when you're going through a
04:33:13.020 date you have to i mean
04:33:14.240 no dating apps are just
04:33:15.840 superficial i mean tinder
04:33:17.080 you just swipe on a photo
04:33:18.320 you don't know it's so good
04:33:19.320 person and also tend to
04:33:20.920 talk to them and dating apps
04:33:22.500 they're not for dating if
04:33:23.740 you're on a dating app it's
04:33:24.880 for people who want to
04:33:25.660 have sex not dating not
04:33:27.020 necessarily it really is
04:33:28.660 i think it is but it's
04:33:31.080 harder people get married
04:33:32.780 it's just sex though i know
04:33:34.180 i mean there's rare cases
04:33:35.420 but it's not that right
04:33:36.760 most of the time it's just
04:33:37.900 sex i don't know
04:33:38.580 here's the other side of
04:33:40.200 the coin of what you said
04:33:41.200 of like putting all the
04:33:42.100 responsibility on men and
04:33:43.420 how that's unfair the
04:33:44.800 other side of that coin is
04:33:45.800 if you take all the
04:33:46.480 responsibility off the men
04:33:47.560 that weakens them they're
04:33:48.880 no longer masculine because
04:33:50.120 they can't take responsibility
04:33:50.960 yeah you're going to
04:33:51.360 complain about how society
04:33:52.280 is are you just going to
04:33:53.020 say here's what i can
04:33:53.900 change i could not use
04:33:54.720 this dating app i could
04:33:55.420 go learn how to socialize
04:33:56.320 i'm gonna get what i want
04:33:56.940 anyway yeah men used to
04:33:58.840 get rejected all the time
04:33:59.920 and be okay with it
04:34:00.720 people should do that in
04:34:01.560 general game for them
04:34:02.560 and it's something that
04:34:03.260 like guys whining is such
04:34:05.700 a turn off
04:34:06.460 uh but what earlier in the
04:34:08.980 conversation we were talking
04:34:10.280 about well men should be
04:34:11.120 vulnerable
04:34:11.480 i do say that
04:34:13.080 i do not claim that
04:34:14.800 i don't know exactly
04:34:15.920 no but i'm pretty sure you
04:34:17.920 guys were like
04:34:18.660 i didn't say that
04:34:19.900 i didn't know i said that
04:34:21.240 men should be vulnerable
04:34:22.660 but that's not being a
04:34:23.920 complainer
04:34:24.720 yeah
04:34:25.120 a complainer versus like
04:34:26.660 i have these feelings
04:34:28.180 everything yeah it's
04:34:29.100 actually
04:34:29.460 one thing i'd like to
04:34:31.120 say though
04:34:31.680 is not being vulnerable
04:34:32.900 i think so men need to
04:34:34.580 be these these emotionless
04:34:36.400 people that just
04:34:37.160 accept the extremely rude
04:34:39.880 ways in which they can be
04:34:41.040 rejected
04:34:41.520 brian brian brian are you
04:34:42.700 saying that i said that
04:34:43.600 because i did not
04:34:44.360 there's just something
04:34:46.080 that they should be able to
04:34:47.600 it's just like
04:34:48.320 no big look
04:34:49.840 i said no don't be a
04:34:51.340 pussy that's what i said
04:34:52.460 look as a man you should
04:34:53.720 you ought to strive to be a
04:34:55.580 strong individual and just
04:34:56.840 let rejection roll off your
04:34:58.340 back but like let's be
04:34:59.720 honest it fucking sucks to
04:35:00.940 be rejected
04:35:01.520 and so just dismissing men's
04:35:04.460 frustrations when it comes
04:35:05.980 to getting rejected
04:35:06.760 especially like there are
04:35:08.400 men who will get either
04:35:09.720 brutally rejected or will
04:35:11.520 just face rejection after
04:35:13.000 rejection after rejection
04:35:14.140 and it's a very privileged
04:35:15.580 position to just say oh
04:35:17.240 just you know men just go
04:35:18.620 back to accepting being
04:35:19.680 rejected when when women
04:35:21.300 almost never face that sort
04:35:23.940 of rejection when it comes
04:35:25.080 to romance
04:35:25.600 women may get rejected
04:35:27.260 patrice o'neill says this
04:35:28.800 he says women don't really
04:35:30.300 get rejected on the front
04:35:31.400 end they get rejected on
04:35:32.680 the back end
04:35:33.440 would it be masculine if a
04:35:35.900 guy sat there and cried
04:35:36.980 about it
04:35:37.520 what's that
04:35:38.560 would it be masculine if
04:35:39.800 a guy
04:35:40.000 no i don't think you
04:35:40.820 should i don't think you
04:35:41.660 should cry about it
04:35:43.140 but do you think men
04:35:44.540 should
04:35:44.880 online nowadays
04:35:46.100 also i want to say like
04:35:48.680 what do you think men
04:35:49.240 should do brian
04:35:50.000 you keep saying
04:35:50.720 vulnerability
04:35:51.200 solution
04:35:51.940 but um
04:35:53.040 there's also a thing like
04:35:54.240 emotional intelligence which
04:35:55.840 is another thing i mean
04:35:56.800 because men aren't told to
04:35:57.960 be you know emotionless and
04:36:00.160 it's like we're human beings
04:36:01.280 we all have emotions
04:36:02.320 yeah
04:36:02.960 you know
04:36:03.380 you want someone who's
04:36:04.460 emotionally intelligent
04:36:05.260 yeah she was essentially
04:36:06.320 agreeing with you earlier
04:36:07.580 about that
04:36:08.380 i think the difference is like
04:36:10.340 there's a misunderstanding at
04:36:11.600 the table about
04:36:12.540 dignified traits and
04:36:14.880 undignified traits right
04:36:16.100 so someone opening up and
04:36:18.000 being vulnerable a
04:36:19.060 dignified version that would
04:36:19.940 be like maybe you know the
04:36:21.240 person and their mom just
04:36:22.580 died and they like feel
04:36:23.740 really sad very extreme
04:36:25.040 case right
04:36:25.600 versus undignified be like
04:36:27.420 man these women don't want
04:36:29.240 me these hoes
04:36:30.620 like they have too high
04:36:32.580 standards for asking me to
04:36:33.360 wash my ass
04:36:34.220 which by the way
04:36:35.040 read street soap for that
04:36:36.360 if you guys want soap
04:36:37.260 i mean it's not that deep
04:36:38.420 i think you guys are
04:36:39.040 underestimating the average
04:36:40.440 man's experience
04:36:41.420 for example on a dating app
04:36:42.940 i know some of you say
04:36:43.740 well get off the dating apps
04:36:44.720 the reality is though is
04:36:46.000 that like 50 percent of
04:36:47.060 people are meeting online
04:36:48.300 they're meeting on dating
04:36:49.460 ships that's fair enough
04:36:52.160 and that's fair enough
04:36:53.060 but there's nothing
04:36:54.860 traditional about men
04:36:55.720 anymore we have to
04:36:56.940 split the bills with
04:36:57.760 them there's nothing
04:36:57.780 traditional about women
04:36:58.420 anymore it goes both ways
04:37:00.020 it's not a whole big
04:37:01.460 gender thing i thought men
04:37:02.480 are supposed to lead
04:37:03.220 women so when men get
04:37:04.140 weaker isn't that
04:37:05.040 essentially what's making
04:37:06.000 the women weaker and
04:37:07.260 follows suit to the
04:37:08.180 precedent that they're
04:37:09.040 setting like sleeping on
04:37:10.140 the first night how many
04:37:10.980 women were becoming
04:37:11.980 single mothers before
04:37:13.120 hold on just one thing
04:37:14.620 it's a fair point to say
04:37:15.800 that yes as men we
04:37:16.940 ought to take some
04:37:17.740 responsibility there's like
04:37:18.800 the super trad con line
04:37:20.740 which is basically as men
04:37:22.460 like we bear full
04:37:23.560 responsibility like as
04:37:24.940 leaders like the position
04:37:26.660 we find ourselves in you
04:37:27.760 can say oh it's fully
04:37:28.680 men's fault however um i
04:37:31.920 think in order to be a
04:37:33.520 leader you need to have
04:37:34.700 people willing to follow
04:37:36.280 and feminist feminism has
04:37:38.160 taught women to not follow
04:37:40.060 here's the thing though a
04:37:41.300 lot of women desire those
04:37:43.220 traits in men that are you
04:37:45.500 know that you could
04:37:46.140 consider leadership traits
04:37:47.540 uh assertive decisive
04:37:49.920 etc leadership dominant
04:37:51.580 whatever you want to say
04:37:52.440 women want these traits in
04:37:54.540 men but they don't want to
04:37:55.640 follow they want the
04:37:56.700 leader but they don't want
04:37:57.440 to follow what do you
04:37:59.140 mean like if you say okay
04:38:00.420 if you want if you hold on
04:38:02.280 if you want a man to be a
04:38:03.780 leader in a relationship
04:38:05.620 you need as a woman you
04:38:07.480 need to be prepared to
04:38:08.540 follow but most women don't
04:38:10.500 want to be followers most
04:38:12.380 women want to be approached
04:38:13.200 in person though so how is
04:38:14.520 that really like well if if
04:38:17.180 men want to approach us in
04:38:18.440 person because we're
04:38:18.940 talking about being in
04:38:19.520 person or being on a dating
04:38:20.520 app i think a lot of women
04:38:21.640 like when men approach us in
04:38:22.880 person and if you're in that
04:38:23.720 bottom 50 percent who can't do
04:38:25.640 well on a dating app or
04:38:26.540 whatever then i think
04:38:27.520 approaching in person gives
04:38:28.540 you a better shot because we
04:38:30.100 have to like lower our like we
04:38:32.580 have to filter out a lot of
04:38:34.540 men on dating apps that we
04:38:35.560 wouldn't filter out in real
04:38:36.560 life there used to be a lot of
04:38:37.480 social stigma for a guy who
04:38:38.620 had to ask a chick out online
04:38:39.740 and now it's like everybody's
04:38:40.780 doing it i think there's a
04:38:42.960 so it's like they're more
04:38:44.040 scared they're getting more
04:38:45.300 and more scared even like
04:38:46.520 that's true i well i mean
04:38:48.320 there's me too there's you
04:38:50.220 know you see these gym
04:38:51.280 tiktok videos of guys who
04:38:52.920 even glance in a girl's
04:38:54.080 direction or don't even
04:38:55.760 glance in a girl's direction
04:38:56.820 and they basically like try to
04:39:00.080 destroy this guy's reputation
04:39:01.660 honestly girls who do that
04:39:04.100 should go to jail literally
04:39:06.980 i'm sorry but as somebody who's
04:39:08.680 like a gym rat i'm sorry if
04:39:12.420 you are in a situation where
04:39:13.860 you're struggling and you're
04:39:15.060 like on the bench press or
04:39:15.940 whatever and you're actually
04:39:17.020 struggling if like you can't
04:39:20.260 just that it's like an
04:39:21.260 unwritten rule in a gym like
04:39:23.180 you don't fake that kind of
04:39:25.140 stuff because if you're
04:39:26.900 actually in distress you know
04:39:29.100 you need somebody to help you
04:39:30.200 out you don't fake that because
04:39:33.180 after that like if it actually
04:39:34.900 happens and they all think well
04:39:37.120 no she's just trying to like you
04:39:39.720 know she's probably has like a
04:39:41.200 hidden camera somewhere and
04:39:42.780 like she just wants to ruin my
04:39:43.840 life guys are not gonna go
04:39:45.120 help you out because they think
04:39:46.700 you're trying to like ruin their
04:39:48.560 life well that seems that's
04:39:50.160 really paranoid to go to that
04:39:51.560 extent what do you like oh they
04:39:52.960 have a secret camera on them for
04:39:54.580 well and i'm pretending to
04:39:55.720 struggle where do we draw the line
04:39:57.380 i mean girls don't do shit like
04:39:59.720 that seriously i mean there's a
04:40:01.760 bad girl don't do that well sean
04:40:03.420 made a great video on that the
04:40:04.840 gym thing well pretty much
04:40:06.160 it's like okay it's not that deep
04:40:09.280 like just don't pretend like you're
04:40:11.460 freaking dying under a heavy
04:40:14.520 did someone do that i don't think
04:40:16.180 that's why men are like this and then
04:40:21.640 they go like oh you're harassing me
04:40:23.300 get the hell out of here they film it
04:40:24.980 and they post it i know but they want
04:40:27.380 attention they want attention they want
04:40:29.340 to be a victim they want that 15
04:40:30.760 minutes of yeah but his life is ruined
04:40:32.560 and after i know somebody is
04:40:34.240 struggling the guy we're not gonna go
04:40:36.080 help her out i don't think anyone
04:40:37.780 here agrees with that which guy is
04:40:39.500 this i mean everybody's been pretty
04:40:40.620 much ridiculing the chicks are doing
04:40:41.880 this i don't even know i mean i
04:40:43.880 didn't pretend like she was
04:40:45.560 struggling okay i don't think anyone
04:40:49.800 agrees with this i think everyone is
04:40:51.320 here is absolutely against that and i
04:40:53.460 think y'all go to the gym also i'd
04:40:56.000 say this isn't a common problem what
04:40:57.800 by the way i mean men are like it but
04:40:59.760 it's not so no i think the point you
04:41:03.140 were trying to make is that women want
04:41:04.540 this thing but they're unwilling to
04:41:06.080 compromise when they get that thing
04:41:07.960 because a guy that they claim to want
04:41:10.080 is going to expect something in return
04:41:12.300 and women are unwilling to give up that
04:41:14.520 is that what you were saying sort of i
04:41:15.860 mean someone here but i think it was
04:41:17.680 you josie uh brought up uh there's this
04:41:20.400 video of this like liberal woman
04:41:22.540 progressive woman that kind of went viral
04:41:24.440 like two weeks ago maybe three weeks
04:41:27.020 ago yeah and she's like well i really
04:41:29.660 want a guy who's going to pay for me
04:41:30.960 open open the door to my car you know
04:41:33.340 be like kind of that traditional man
04:41:35.680 but also has these progressive values
04:41:38.240 oh i remember that thank you male only
04:41:40.400 gyms and female only gyms
04:41:42.280 problems so there are those and the male
04:41:47.740 only gyms become very similar to bath
04:41:50.640 house is well yeah in that sense yeah
04:41:54.040 and i have no women friends so i'd be
04:41:57.480 alone
04:41:57.940 but i agree with mr brian on the thing
04:42:02.620 about uh college for example like being
04:42:04.940 an example of that indoctrination you're
04:42:07.020 talking about that women are taught to
04:42:09.080 hate certain aspects of masculinity that
04:42:10.620 is true and that does happen i think
04:42:12.260 that does affect um how the women are
04:42:14.320 reacting but overall i think a lot of
04:42:16.860 women are just following suit to what
04:42:18.420 the men are leading them to do because
04:42:21.040 women tend to be more agreeable right
04:42:22.780 so i think ultimately the man has to be
04:42:27.080 masculine take a lot of responsibility
04:42:28.800 so you're saying they should all leave
04:42:31.660 dating apps or
04:42:32.460 i think well i mean like dating apps
04:42:35.820 overall aren't aren't that effective i
04:42:37.920 mean you don't have to delete them but
04:42:39.100 they're not that effective they're not
04:42:40.240 that great so you're saying you should
04:42:41.240 take initiative and try to reach out in
04:42:42.980 person
04:42:43.360 yeah i think men should take initiative
04:42:44.840 i think yeah if you're struggling you
04:42:46.260 should do that but then he said
04:42:47.020 because like follow them i don't
04:42:48.200 understand these things aren't in
04:42:49.220 isolation like there's a whole load of
04:42:51.620 social issues that come with you
04:42:52.920 only do this on an app like where are
04:42:55.360 your friend groups are you going out
04:42:56.820 and doing stuff what kinds of people
04:42:58.820 are you meeting this if you're solving
04:43:00.180 this problem with an app it means
04:43:01.100 you're not going out and doing other
04:43:02.100 stuff that you should be doing
04:43:02.920 yeah and you're gonna have a lots of
04:43:04.520 other social issues i disagree i mean i
04:43:07.400 i got confidence from dating apps
04:43:09.540 whereas before like people were always
04:43:10.940 really mean to me guys are always
04:43:12.600 really mean to me and then when i was
04:43:15.200 having my life and doing my own thing
04:43:17.040 and then i got on dating apps and then i
04:43:19.260 was like okay the pressure is off
04:43:20.740 because i already know this person is
04:43:22.180 interested in me and they want to go
04:43:24.080 out on dates we have things in common
04:43:25.660 and it's not going to be you know some
04:43:28.180 guy trying to use me or anything like
04:43:29.880 that and i mean i my ex i dated for
04:43:32.060 almost two years i don't think they're
04:43:34.220 bad i think that men should what men
04:43:36.720 and women should just not solely rely on
04:43:39.120 the dating apps they should take
04:43:40.780 opportunities that they find through
04:43:43.440 friend groups through if they're not
04:43:45.500 working for you it doesn't mean all is
04:43:47.200 doomed that's what we're saying okay i
04:43:48.840 well just to go back to your point about
04:43:50.840 men should start approaching women more
04:43:52.960 in public uh one it's pretty hard to do
04:43:56.320 cold approach uh and the other thing i
04:43:58.540 would say is that i think i mentioned me
04:44:00.940 too men are much more cautious about you
04:44:04.480 know oh my god if i say the wrong thing
04:44:06.780 or i i misstep i'm gonna be accused of
04:44:09.760 harassment or you know whatever it may be
04:44:12.420 also we've stigmatized i think like it's
04:44:15.340 such a faux pas now to like date within
04:44:17.500 the workplace whereas i think in the
04:44:18.840 past a lot of people would date in the
04:44:19.960 workplace people are so like that that's
04:44:22.680 yeah the workplace thing that's not a
04:44:24.580 great idea but um you could say college
04:44:27.160 in the past but not really anymore why
04:44:28.620 can't what happened sorry and what
04:44:30.800 happened to people just saying hello to
04:44:32.560 each other if if you have say hello to
04:44:34.820 a woman that you're passing by you think
04:44:36.300 she's attractive and she does like turns
04:44:38.600 her head or if she says hello back to you
04:44:42.220 and smiles like are you gonna do you
04:44:43.520 think it's easy to pick up a girl like
04:44:45.220 cold approach okay i don't know i'm i
04:44:47.080 think it depends on the neighborhood by
04:44:48.380 the way uh coming from brooklyn in the
04:44:50.420 in some of the most ghetto parts where it
04:44:52.060 was just straight up her ass there's a
04:44:54.120 difference between like approaching a
04:44:56.200 woman in a cafe nicely and you know you
04:44:58.880 don't look like you're a hobo or
04:45:00.020 something versus a guy going hey yo baby
04:45:02.100 girl back dead ass oh like there's a
04:45:04.720 huge difference okay also can i say i
04:45:07.620 mean i think it's kind of a little
04:45:09.320 stupid to say that men are scared to
04:45:11.160 ask women out because of me too because
04:45:12.700 it's not like people are being falsely
04:45:15.260 accused like that i mean it's not
04:45:17.080 saying it doesn't happen but it's not
04:45:18.800 like people with something to lose are
04:45:20.400 afraid like henry cavill the dude that
04:45:21.680 played superman in the witcher he got
04:45:23.520 semi-canceled because he said he's
04:45:25.380 afraid to approach women this is the man
04:45:26.940 that plays superman because he's afraid
04:45:29.060 of getting me too'd so i have two
04:45:32.080 friends i think that's a little i know
04:45:33.740 people that have value right people want
04:45:35.760 high value men it's a bit paranoid yeah
04:45:38.040 but then just meet the i know but
04:45:39.520 look what happened to johnny depp you
04:45:41.060 know you could fall in love with
04:45:42.380 someone and think that this is the best
04:45:43.620 person ever and they completely betray
04:45:45.200 you i mean that was kind of both
04:45:46.760 mutually abusive it wasn't like he's just
04:45:48.800 innocent and i didn't even follow up
04:45:50.800 like that but that's one thing i could
04:45:52.060 see from that situation it's not like
04:45:54.060 drug addict it's not like woman she cut off
04:45:56.760 his finger i'm not saying she wasn't the
04:45:58.760 worst one but it's like he was still an
04:46:00.300 addict he still had a ton of other
04:46:01.940 problems like but she cut off his finger
04:46:04.440 she took a shit on his bed and tried to
04:46:07.540 blame it hold on tried to blame it on a
04:46:09.880 chihuahua and it was a giant human size
04:46:13.240 shit she tried to blame that shit on a
04:46:15.740 chihuahua you know the stuff she said in
04:46:18.280 front of like the entire world on tv like
04:46:21.520 me too but ultimately i mean i think
04:46:24.160 also i look me too is maybe a smaller
04:46:26.380 component of it but i think it's also
04:46:27.840 just men do now have access to dating
04:46:31.680 apps where rejection has a little bit
04:46:35.140 less of a sting um also it like it takes
04:46:37.900 a bit of skill some finesse you know some
04:46:39.660 game some riz whatever the fuck you want
04:46:41.360 to call it to approach somebody i don't
04:46:43.280 like that term i prefer game but
04:46:45.780 finesse to to yeah to like approach
04:46:48.420 someone in person it's uh it's pretty
04:46:50.900 hard you know and it is kind of a bit of
04:46:53.080 do you want the guy who wants to approach
04:46:54.280 a chick on a dating app or the one who
04:46:55.500 can approach them in person like which
04:46:57.260 society do you want well through social
04:46:59.840 blue and red pill right there pick yeah
04:47:01.760 it's it's but it's it's not easy to
04:47:04.960 approach women in public apparently it's
04:47:06.820 not easy for you guys on dating apps
04:47:08.260 either so oh oh shit who is that mr pay
04:47:12.760 to win yo thank you for the uh gifted
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04:47:35.080 it is okay boom all right oh my god this
04:47:38.000 guy is out of his oh my another 50 is it
04:47:41.700 like 20 dollars how much is that uh that's
04:47:44.100 that's like 250 i think oh that's cool
04:47:46.000 yo dude mr pay to win you're fucking
04:47:48.340 legend dude you're paying to win fucking
04:47:50.660 fucking hold on hold on hold on hold on
04:47:55.000 i'm a fucking legend you're fucking
04:47:57.320 legend sir alraz yo dude thank you for
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04:48:05.600 thank you so much for the gifted membership
04:48:07.540 like i got gifted one uh last week that was
04:48:10.180 a b check so thank you for that
04:48:11.740 ah c'est très bien ça merci beaucoup
04:48:14.400 um i have a question if there's time oh so um it's more of a statement i guess
04:48:20.700 oh bro this guy is out oh my god did someone steal his parents credit card
04:48:25.380 he is on fire mr pay to win come over to youtube
04:48:30.820 uh he is on fire how do i say it like it with a
04:48:34.120 he's on fire it's like a quebecois
04:48:36.960 wait i want you to say mr pay to win is on fire
04:48:42.160 say he's on fire
04:48:44.580 mr pay to win it offer no no no no not in french just in english
04:48:49.840 um mr pay to win is on fire there you go he's on fire
04:48:54.320 thank you very much thank you very much oh you had the little flare at the end
04:48:58.660 uh by year britney i think you wanted to yeah so i was thinking about what you said oh
04:49:03.840 like women should approach men but the problem but the problem with that is that
04:49:08.480 when women approach men women don't know how much the guy actually will like them and that's
04:49:13.040 a problem because women aren't really the initiators if they do it can be seen as desperate
04:49:16.820 so when you're a woman approaching a guy it it hits a lot harder in the ego for a lot of women
04:49:22.920 because it's like you're already supposed to be like value to an extent right you're supposed to
04:49:26.480 be pursued so rejection for women is terrible yeah imagine you get rejected you're like oh my god
04:49:30.540 some like i don't have value as a woman and i get like men also get that ego shot but it's a
04:49:35.280 different kind because you're supposed to be doing it so imagine you you go out of your comfort
04:49:39.000 zone to that point of like approaching a guy where you're already supposed to be wanted as a
04:49:42.900 woman and they get rejected if i feel like that's i'm not sure i totally agree but let's say for
04:49:49.840 the sake of argument let's say i concede to your point that yes it it hits women's ego harder but
04:49:55.020 wouldn't you agree that if a woman a woman has a much better success rate if she were to go up to
04:50:01.120 a guy versus a guy going up to a girl um in what regard the right relationship or sex sex yeah
04:50:08.000 relationship maybe not because he feels like oh sherry wants me i don't have to try
04:50:11.460 then you have to deal with like women that you don't like approaching you and that's
04:50:15.260 uncomfortable yeah imagine like obese i mean guys okay i'll trade you know what i will glad i will
04:50:22.260 trade places with women you got i'll trade places uh you guys can come hit on me 50 chicks can slide
04:50:30.240 my dms a day if some are you gotta ride the bus if some women i'm not attracted to hit on me fine i
04:50:37.000 don't that's a i will take that trade every single time but the average american woman is like obese
04:50:42.220 you sure you want that yeah it happens like he's land whale so to speak right maybe you know what my
04:50:47.660 friend used to say a win is a win maybe he likes a win is a win a win is a win um my friend used to
04:50:52.820 say yeah sometimes buddy you just gotta take the bus back home mike sorry one thing i want to say
04:50:58.560 though is i think it's funny because i mean just from my experience i was i do not get hit on like
04:51:03.280 that i mean maybe a little after the podcast but no i actually don't every guy i've dated
04:51:09.480 that might be a factor she lives in a nice neighborhood yeah i live in baker so i do live
04:51:15.920 in the suburbs but um but my grandma's from crenshaw so she knows what's up um but bro this guy oh my god
04:51:24.900 this guy this guy is insane holy shit oh my god oh my god wait say he's on see what excuse me
04:51:30.880 yo dude oh my god that just triggered a burp that's one of our um that's one of our like triggers
04:51:36.420 it's our 500 subs wait say he's on fire who is on fire mr pay to win is on stays on fire
04:51:42.860 pay to win is on fire oh fuck i didn't mean to trigger one more time
04:51:47.440 mr pay to win is on fire oh my god this guy is on fire okay holy shit this guy's a madman
04:51:56.020 one thing i was saying yo wait you know what the most gangster shit would for you to do mr pay to
04:52:01.240 win is now come over to youtube and drop some memberships or stream labs yeah yeah pay off the
04:52:07.020 youtube police there you go 30 percent one thing i was saying though is every guy i've been on a date
04:52:12.800 with i asked him like and i genuinely i did not get asked out like that or anything i'm being so
04:52:18.840 genuine right now i don't know because you're a feminist but yeah it's not even you're okay with
04:52:23.540 that it's not even that i mean i was i'm even talking about high school they don't really care about
04:52:28.260 that but i don't know i struggled with guys coming up to me or you know getting at me but um one thing
04:52:36.120 i i was talking to someone about that and i think they just said that it might be because i'm
04:52:39.680 intimidating but besides that the average woman does not get hit on that much i mean maybe she's
04:52:45.520 easy depends because honestly like you're adorable as fuck like i think that like honestly i'm like
04:52:52.840 you're so sweet sorry the average woman well okay an average woman could download tinder and like
04:52:58.840 it's insane but meeting someone in person is completely different but are those are those people
04:53:04.840 so much more exciting go to the club you're gonna get it's like no who's going for like a
04:53:10.540 relationship those are not the guys dumb idea no drunk guys like it's mostly guys that don't
04:53:15.960 actually want a relationship well i i do think i do think dating apps have definitely disincentivized
04:53:21.820 men to like approach a girl in real life because hey this is much much easier you know i can just go
04:53:29.200 and the rejection isn't as bad uh but they're not so they're not the confident man for doing shit
04:53:34.900 so even if a shy awkward guy comes up to you nowadays they're way more confident than any of
04:53:40.220 the guy on the app that's confident i don't think so i think girls are still gonna curve that dude
04:53:44.580 if he comes up to you like he steps to you shy and awkward but i would respect that okay but he does
04:53:50.180 it a couple times he's not attracted to me six feet tall no but if a five ten person approached you
04:53:54.680 different i almost think the stigma has like reversed like how you were saying how like
04:53:59.180 what 10 20 years ago if you met someone online that's kind of weird yeah if you're a guy who has
04:54:04.760 to grow out online you'd be ridiculed yeah whereas now i feel like it's it's less acceptable like we've
04:54:11.960 we've regressed or reverted i don't know it's less acceptable now to approach a girl in person i think
04:54:18.560 it is we want it i just all the women i know are like why don't they do this depending on contact
04:54:23.960 wait but okay yeah depending how you do it yeah don't hate creep how socially palatable are you
04:54:29.940 especially if you have to use dating apps or like again all your friends are on discord or you're not
04:54:33.700 really going out and doing stuff that much it just means you're probably not very socially confident
04:54:37.220 so there's there's other problems that circle around using dating apps to um start relationships
04:54:43.080 look it's just hard to uh it's hard out there for yeah i should just say men are scared
04:54:51.840 they're scared here you know what let's do an experiment maddie we're gonna have you it's my
04:54:56.960 time you're gonna pretend to be a dude and you're gonna pick up maddie oh i am yeah so okay here's
04:55:02.940 how we're gonna do it oh my god uh maddie you're gonna get the microphone this is uh
04:55:07.180 my instagram is sophia jordan by the way ph and jordan with an e
04:55:13.300 you're welcome hey chat one in the chat if you guys can hear us can you get pop-up chat
04:55:20.440 pop-up chat where's the pop-up chat hey chat can you guys hear us
04:55:25.640 okay they can hear us yeah i was so rich i've been high school i mean even now like i still
04:55:38.900 asked out every guy i've been with so
04:55:40.640 oh my god i would still run away if i'd see people that i've been with in high school like
04:55:46.700 i would think like no i'm still like ugly so fine no i'm the guy yes you're gonna be the guy
04:55:53.000 jordani with a ph just start and then turn into role play i think this is good enough you're welcome
04:55:59.720 i don't know you're just you're just gonna be trying to actually can you guys scoot that way
04:56:05.960 just a tad and then we'll we're gonna put it we're gonna put it here okay so madison
04:56:10.360 where are we you're gonna be no but you're you're the dude you're the dude and yeah just
04:56:16.640 hold it center madison i'm walking on the street no no no no she picks this she picks the scenario
04:56:21.900 okay all right so we're like we're both in the line to get like boba okay okay can i hold this
04:56:30.220 up sure okay go so you're behind me are you okay okay oh i'm sorry i should have let you go before
04:56:38.260 me you're all right i'm so sorry um are you here by yourself oh boy oh no no no no jail time
04:56:47.240 i will run out of the bone shop does that does that mean you're single
04:56:50.960 ah sorry no it doesn't mean oh no i have a boyfriend i'm sorry okay well he must be a really
04:56:57.980 lucky guy he is i have some pointers you're creepy man okay hold on so you give a couple
04:57:05.440 approaches like that and then you get better and don't do that here do you want to try again
04:57:09.140 we can do it wait that's that's you put on the spot to approach a girl wait can a boy try it
04:57:15.660 huh there's three boys here can one of you guys try it and show us three boys one two three i should
04:57:22.660 try it yeah i want to see how okay sofia wants to do it i want to do it okay i'm gonna be a man
04:57:29.020 yeah but that was a big l you that was a massive i know how to guarantee coochie every time yeah i
04:57:35.580 think it was just so are you alone that wait wait am i madison don't be don't be don't have a
04:57:42.140 boyfriend be single you're on the spot yeah okay wait me again yeah try yeah give it a go we'll give
04:57:48.580 you another go then sofia goes yeah go ahead okay you're an elevator or an elevator okay what the
04:57:55.880 fuck oh my god that's so creepy okay that's already don't talk
04:58:00.600 the elevator broke so you're stuck so you have to talk wait hold on let's adjust i feel like we can
04:58:07.960 adjust this uh can you can you me oh look it's mike davis hi mike davis these females really think
04:58:17.420 they be special i've been tuned out for a while and two minutes in it just another batch of copy
04:58:22.740 and paste puppets god definitely tuned out as well he's just doing reruns and that pickup
04:58:29.260 interaction was on the spectrum you know good to see you mike davis we missed you he just called
04:58:36.620 you not special i know i still love him it's okay i don't bring myself down to it how are we
04:58:42.560 gonna live not being so special oh my god i'm so hurt apparently we don't need to be special
04:58:47.880 he's funny though i sometimes was so special it's okay i i roast myself all the time for entertainment
04:58:53.680 so no last time i got roasted so bad i know i watched it but i asked for it though you took it
04:59:01.300 well yeah you did guys they thought i was upset i was like no i thought you were super funny like
04:59:06.900 you seem super cool i was like i like her perfect scenario okay i know how to get bitches go okay
04:59:12.340 take two we're going in an elevator oh ladies first after you thank you cringe
04:59:17.460 okay peanut gallery let them let them do it let's say you're i'm attractive to you okay
04:59:24.920 so oh what floor are you going to oh four okay well now you know where she lives
04:59:30.100 i'm getting out first oh actually um here's my what is it doors closing doors closing
04:59:41.940 can i get your number no here's here's my number zero game zero game okay i would just give you my
04:59:55.320 number i would just not even talk to you but i would just give you my number hey if you ever feel
05:00:00.280 like hanging out here's my number great you never get texted no i'd tell you to fuck up so fast
05:00:06.680 attracted yes and single why wouldn't you if you were attracted and okay if i was attracted to you
05:00:13.700 that that's like a difference i feel like that's it's hard to be like the girl in the situation because
05:00:18.560 i don't know how the guy looks you know well he's like well at the end of the day he has to be
05:00:22.100 somewhat attracted oh attracted to him okay yes i didn't know right if there's no like attraction
05:00:28.620 i want to see the next scenario go ahead sophia go i'm going go go go
05:00:34.120 i don't know i smell something weird go ahead go ahead sophia go go this is why women shouldn't
05:00:47.540 approach see we're not i i'm not good at this but men can practice this you literally murdered
05:00:57.400 sophia okay what's the scenario let sophia pick the scenario let's starbucks starbucks like waiting
05:01:05.420 in line yeah am i studying we just got in starbucks we walked through the door yeah okay oh are you
05:01:13.140 maddie yeah i'm mike davis how the fuck do you know her name how do you know my name already that's
05:01:21.500 kind of weird i know your boss i saved him i saved him in the forest and proudest girl
05:01:28.840 getting attacked by a shark and you thought i was bad i was like
05:01:32.720 she's not doing she's not trying you're the reason why you have a job now because brian's still alive
05:01:41.640 i so want to drop the arsler right now that was like the most pathetic okay yeah i actually want
05:01:47.140 you to try it i'm gonna try you should try it she's gonna try okay um so we're just walking
05:01:52.980 to starbucks um hi hi you're really pretty by the way thank you i appreciate it gorgeous thank you
05:02:02.980 um are you single uh yes i am i'm single too okay it was good it was good i'm single too i don't know
05:02:15.260 what you'd say but like let's just ignore that okay but like like that's just nice girls just want
05:02:20.360 that you know like you guys are over complicating this but it's like you know do you want to try
05:02:25.880 yeah i absolutely like slattery is britney secretly by hello here's my number or snap
05:02:33.860 here's options we'll exchange yeah okay that one was pretty good that one just had to be
05:02:38.900 not probably the best one yeah that was really good you gotta have a casual conversation you gotta
05:02:44.580 like actually present some like typical objections that a woman would you just gotta call her pretty
05:02:51.240 yeah okay they're usually just gonna say they're taken or not taken if you're if they're not
05:02:56.580 interested i think we've established though that it's not easy it's not that hard i just did it
05:03:01.420 all right we'll have britney go yeah you did great but you're good you said you've approached guys
05:03:06.760 you've asked about guys so like i'm kind of you know you like know what to do yeah
05:03:11.820 i've never done that okay we're we're oh yeah no worries hey thank you so much for coming
05:03:17.260 appreciate it yeah bye nice to meet you all right so we're in a we're walking down the street
05:03:24.640 we're about to pass each other we're waiting at a bus sign okay yeah we're waiting at a bus stop
05:03:28.740 okay okay well i'm not but like you are i see and i'm like she rides the bus she's in a car
05:03:35.740 hey hi
05:03:38.680 and that's how you do it and that is exactly how you do it ladies and gentlemen
05:03:47.780 can it be a dollar bill it's simple just like men are over complicating this just open your big
05:03:54.080 black wall i would say sophia's pretty right like you just need to have casual conversation for women
05:03:58.800 nothing creepy you know like don't be like damn you got a fat ass like just be like you're really
05:04:04.220 pretty i feel like i have a lot of money or be like i own 15 burger kings oh gosh yeah when i
05:04:11.420 come into my lamborghini that it's rare and weird like being like oh i know people don't do this
05:04:15.720 anymore but like you really caught my attention your turn no we're done we're everyone's trying to go
05:04:23.120 yeah we're done you can just put it back thank you damn very much you didn't give her a chance i
05:04:27.940 got the furthest by giving her the money i got the furthest all right let me do this
05:04:31.940 like y'all can fight over me every guy out there just do what sophia just did
05:04:36.560 all right it wouldn't be that i have a girl i dated who said that she saw me as a boyfriend but after
05:04:41.620 having sex three days later she said that she changed her mind because my schlong was too big
05:04:46.800 for her i mean what the fuck she was 30 this is in japan fyi with a japanese woman poor women
05:04:53.140 with a japanese woman poor excuse yo black lotus thank you very much for your uh
05:04:57.760 donation there appreciate it uh is he trolling and everyone clapped
05:05:04.480 congratulations what a legend totally happened and then our last one here brian explain hoflation to
05:05:12.660 these girls right meow thank you tyler appreciate it uh explain those hoflation okay hoflation
05:05:20.520 where the hose are flated
05:05:21.700 um so hoflation is this term i've heard that is is uh basically
05:05:35.380 inflation it's inflation but with hoes
05:05:41.000 like there's a lot of them and you can you expand on that so basically i think it goes
05:05:47.460 fuck i i forgot i've said it before but it's slipping my mind a little bit uh modern men have
05:05:55.120 to work five times harder as their grandfathers to get women 10 times worse than their grandmothers
05:06:01.940 and this is based on what just obvious science and statistics and like peer-reviewed document and
05:06:08.540 like it was harvard studies i think they did a study by har from harvard on the inflation it was
05:06:13.240 very but they're modern men so maybe that's why yeah call women hoes it was a very reputable
05:06:19.320 study yeah harvard stanford yale but well there modern men compton community college don't go after
05:06:26.900 women they don't approach and they want the women to pay half of everything yes so of course it's
05:06:31.580 harder for them i think women should honestly pay for the whole date
05:06:35.000 i'm a feminist they should um half and half you're gonna get a blue haired one with that
05:06:41.820 i know you know what's funny about the hair the color in the hair i actually i i used to like the
05:06:50.140 women who had colored hair like red or blue because this was back in the day before it meant
05:06:55.720 she was like a raging sjw woke feminist type chick it just meant she had daddy issues or she was a
05:07:00.860 rocker or or you're getting one or she was a weeb an og weeb and wanted to look like an anime girl
05:07:06.440 or an artist because back in the day i used to dye my hair like dark purple like not bleach it but
05:07:12.000 just like purple over because i wanted to be like anime girl yeah just so like not a lipid woman
05:07:16.400 but like you're just jealous okay uh i guess that's inflation okay cool uh we're gonna wrap up
05:07:25.280 there i don't know if we're gonna do an after show i don't really we did the after show already
05:07:28.720 yeah we kind of did the after show madison i'm okay with anything because i do have work tomorrow
05:07:35.420 morning but um yeah let's we're just gonna wrap unfortunately guys no after show tonight
05:07:40.920 but uh unless is there something that could occur to uh like a what's it called a subathon
05:07:49.400 i don't know exactly what it is um no we're just gonna wrap up it's already been five hours so
05:07:55.360 okay cool uh final thoughts before we wrap up anybody final thoughts well thank you for having
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05:08:05.480 it's a soap company that i helped design some of the soaps and scents and uh we're creating healthier
05:08:10.720 ingredients so and they look really cool there's an ocean one now
05:08:14.560 nice hell yeah anyone wants to i get some soap can you hook it up with some soap if i brought some i
05:08:22.920 would give you it but i didn't bring any i'm hurt i am hurt that was very i can ask them to send you
05:08:28.500 some very inconsiderate of britney to not think of my soap i gave his parents so i can only carry so
05:08:34.660 much in luggage it's okay i forgive you i forgive you um anybody like one pound you get like one pound
05:08:39.800 before you you get maxed out on that shit like a couple pieces of clothing will max you out on the
05:08:43.900 luggage thing oh last thing britney venti would you be down to participate in a whatever hosted
05:08:52.620 boxing match with pearl like literal boxing actual boxing no i'm gonna break a nail i'm not gonna date
05:08:59.220 her up with a like she gets her face i'm not ugly enough to do that i mean maybe pearl would
05:09:03.040 oh my god isn't she like six foot britney's already proven her street cred before yeah
05:09:07.740 she's just by you what the fuck isn't she like six foot who pearl pearl yeah like i have something
05:09:13.200 to lose you know oh brutal maybe just like a roast battle oh my god not a boxing match okay
05:09:22.540 well unfortunate what about um britney venti versus is there someone you just hate online right now
05:09:30.180 besides me i'm not gonna box anyone i have nails to take care of my hair is long they might pull it
05:09:36.620 but is there like paper up is there any creator that you would want to like i'll we box them
05:09:42.840 who like we sports who do you want to who do you want to go i'll we sports box anyone like you know
05:09:48.580 the weave controls and you yeah okay i'll do that i won't physically box someone what if what if like
05:09:57.920 the money was there like it was a big how much money is worth is brain damage worth yeah i already
05:10:03.980 have health issues don't hit but i'll we i'll we sports box yeah but the defense status low too
05:10:11.340 that's true but i feel like cte is not super common and like women you know well yeah because there's
05:10:18.680 no women fighters yeah well like like there's not women football i mean oh with soccer you could
05:10:24.900 you could compare because soccer has a lot of uh brain damage because they do like the headbutts
05:10:28.520 yeah the headbutts yeah but like great i'm gonna i'm gonna get canceled for what i just said
05:10:32.540 um okay cool uh okay anybody else final thought before we wrap up subscribe to our only fan i have
05:10:40.620 something to say that's super important since everyone keeps asking my instagram is so nobody gives a
05:10:46.420 no people actually keep asking my instagram sophia jordaning jordaning with an e she has a boyfriend
05:10:53.880 now guys she used to be single no um i'm gonna start a twitch and i'm gonna stream scar scar starcraft
05:11:00.700 okay yeah should we do a starcraft one or two yeah should we collab we'll collab yeah okay very cool
05:11:09.060 very important all right okay cool well last call guys please hit that like button on your way out
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