INSANE Girlfriend Revenge Story？! Girls CONFRONT Brian？! She SHOOTS Her Shot？! ｜ Dating Talk 284
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In this episode, I talk with my friend, Camila, about why she doesn t want to go to college and what she's learned from her psychology class. We also talk about a recent story about a monkey that was bullied at the zoo and how he dealt with it.
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Hi, my name's Gigi. I'm 19. I'm from Sacramento, but I am here in Santa Barbara for school, and I'm majoring in psychology.
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And you're at the City College or the University?
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Okay. And have you taken any psychology classes?
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Have you taken any tests or essays or anything?
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Okay. Can you relay to me one takeaway that you've learned from your psychology class?
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The class that you're currently in, when's the last time you had a class? Like two days ago?
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Um, I didn't go to class last week, so like it's been like almost two weeks.
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For any particular reason? Like you did a concert or something or?
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Would you say, some people, look, I'm pragmatic about this. Some people go to college for social
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reasons. Their parents make them in some cases. Do you feel like, and there's no wrong answer
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on this, do you feel like you are not super interested in college?
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I am. I don't skip school often, but me and my friends, the weather was just getting nice,
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Yeah, I don't feel like I'm being forced or anything to go to school.
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And how long has, it's at the city college, is it semester or quarter?
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Semester. How long has the semester lasted so far? It started back in January?
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Okay. So you've been taking this class for like two months now?
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Okay. Tell me one thing you've learned from the class.
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Uh, I graduated from University of Texas in Arlington.
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Um, currently a import car model and OF creator.
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So, I think the more interesting that happened recently was, you know, the little monkey
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So, with the little monkey, and it was interesting to me how they handed him a little stuffed animal.
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So, with, like, Harry Hollow study was that they made a study on a monkey where they gave
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And the monkey still preferred the cloth mother, despite the metal mother starting to feed the
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monkey food, showing that, like, it's just innate in, like, humans and animals to want
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to feel comforted, just, like, over the need for food.
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But that's not something you learned at university, though, because that happened recently.
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But the Harry Hollow stuff I learned in university, that's part of my study in psychology.
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...something new related to this recent monkey happening.
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...in relating to what I just saw recently and then what I learned.
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I want to get through the intros, but really quick, I did have a thought on this, and maybe
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this is already too spicy for so early on in the show.
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There was a monkey that was being bullied, a baby monkey?
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His mom abandoned him, and because you are, like, a priming animal in a whole zoo in Japan, he had no one else really protecting him.
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And so, everybody, or every other monkey within the zoo was bullying him, throwing him around, beating him up.
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And so, the zookeepers decided to give him a little, like, monkey-cloth stuffed animal, and he was just carrying that little stuffed animal around, because that's his only comfort.
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Anytime that he would get beat up, he would run to it for comfort.
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Who here felt sad about the little monkey that was abandoned by its mom?
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And then, are you pro-choice or pro-life, or...?
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Okay, so you don't give a fuck about the monkey?
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So, the question I was going to ask is, and I saw some discourse about this online, is, on one hand, you have a lot of women who are upset that this poor monkey, an animal, many monkeys are deemed actually kind of almost pests in many countries.
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Um, and they're often quite annoying for tourists in certain countries.
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Uh, women seem to have more empathy for this abandoned monkey than, for example, like, the millions upon millions of, of, uh, babies who, human babies, who are aborted.
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So, I was curious how you might reconcile the empathy for this monkey, which is an animal.
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I would say it doesn't have as much, uh, worth or value as a human baby, for example.
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Well, I understand that, but personally, for me, having empathy for a monkey is just humanity.
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I feel like, as a human, you should have empathy for animals, other humans.
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But in terms of being pro-choice, in my opinion, it's more of the fact that, like, there are so many other circumstances that could happen to a woman, and I don't think that it's virtually right for, to force a woman to go full term, not knowing everything that could have possibly happened to her.
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Okay, so you're saying, like, there might have been incest, or there might have been essay, for example.
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Well, if I were to sit here and grant, in the instances where there is life of the mother, incest, or essay, that we would actually be willing to grant abortion in those instances,
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would you then be against the instances in which women are just pure, like, you know, they're having consensual sex with a boyfriend, or they just have, like, a hookup at a frat house, oopsie, pregnant, would you be against abortion in those instances?
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So your issue isn't necessarily these, you know, extenuating circumstances.
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I don't think that, like, giving birth and having to, like, give birth to her child is not only just for those circumstances as well, but also, like, there's so much more to, like, having a child.
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You could have a child, but then, next thing you know, you're still living within your parents' household.
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You are not economically well-off enough to give this child the best life it possibly could.
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And so now you're bringing in a life that could have so much more difficulties and traumas, and then now you yourself are also still figuring out your own life while having to raise something else.
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And so for me, personally, I just believe in giving birth and providing a life as easy as possible.
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I mean, granted, life is not perfect, but just lessen the chances.
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So of the people who are currently struggling economically, financially, should we just unalive them?
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The people that are alive, but they're struggling financially.
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And, like, my thing is, like, if this is your choice...
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But if you are given the choice whether or not you want to give birth and raise a child within the same difficulties that you did,
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knowing that you are currently not in a position to give your child a better life, why would you do that again?
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I mean, it kind of worked for all of human history.
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Most people were in extreme poverty, comparatively speaking.
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You know, maybe not tens, but they had huge, large families.
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And I think the other thing I would perhaps ask you is, would you grant to men the same allowance?
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So, for example, let's say a guy gets a woman pregnant and she wants to keep the child, would you allow the man an escape from being a father?
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If he himself feels like this is not within his own path and that there's other things that he has to do in life,
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but it's the mother that wants to keep the child and believes that she herself and her family can help with this child, by all means, that's hers.
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But, like, within that circumstances, don't, like, then guilt him into it.
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Because at the end of the day, it's more like it's her body.
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I mean, there's a couple different scenarios, but let's say there was a guy who, you know, he met a girl at the party, got her pregnant.
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And then you'd be okay with him not having some way, because as the law currently stands, she can completely go ahead with the pregnancy.
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So if she wants to get the abortion, she can have it.
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They can be forced through the court system to pay child support anywhere from 18 to 21 years.
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Sometimes if the child has health issues that would extend into adulthood, they actually, I think, sometimes might have to pay support.
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In any case, are you okay with men not paying child support?
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Like, being able to escape child support legally?
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I think that this is where you would have the communication with that partner during the moment that you found out.
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And I feel like it's important for men as well to be like, okay, like, if he himself wants to stay at that moment, wants that child, then you should make a legal agreement for him to pay child support continuously throughout the child's leave.
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No, but assume in a situation, the woman wants to keep it, she needs financial support, but the man, he didn't want any part in being a father, any sort of parental responsibility.
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In that situation, do you think the man should have a legal escape from having to pay child support?
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Within that situation, yes, because he himself doesn't want the child, cannot help with the child.
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Do you think a really, would you be okay with, like, a billionaire woman getting an abortion?
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So she has the financial ability to raise the child.
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In fact, she could pretty much birth the kid and have full-time staff taking care of the kid.
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But you would still be okay with a billionaire woman having an abortion.
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Because she himself doesn't want the child of a woman.
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Would you be okay with a billionaire man, say I, you know, say I make millions of dollars a year, I knock up a woman, she wants to keep the kid, I want to, I don't want to, you know, wasn't my intention.
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I am a live streamer, and I dropped out of college.
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It's like a really small community on TikTok, and you just battle other people, so it's like streamer against streamer.
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And do you have a, like, background in dance, like ballet?
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Yeah, I was a dancer my whole entire life, too.
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I was going to ask you to show me, like, a pirouette or a plie or something.
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I work as a church secretary, custodian, and an usher part-time at the Coast Coliseum.
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And so you're, are you a, what is it, what's the term for, like, a certified massage therapist?
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I am a sales manager, and I graduated college a long time ago.
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I am a full-time software engineer, a part-time real estate agent.
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I'm a social media influencer and runway and commercial modeling.
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And I am a president and founder of my nonprofit, Creating Wings.
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And I have done my bachelor's undergrad in electronics, mathematics, and physics.
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My master's in finance and other master's in computer science.
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And I have recently finished postgraduate diploma in artificial intelligence from University of UT, Austin.
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You said computer science, so you do software engineering?
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Do you have, I guess, what are the, do you have a visa?
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So, you had to go through the citizenship process, though, for that?
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I came on a green card and then became a citizen.
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And I'm trying to think if I had some other question for you on some of this.
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Because I, most of my study was in India, and it was way cheaper.
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Yeah, I did New York Fashion Week, Milan Fashion Week, Paris Fashion Week.
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My daughter is in college, so I have a lot of time to just enjoy my life now.
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I live in New York City now, but I'm from Wisconsin, where I went to school for communication graphic design.
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Twice on Kill Tony, and I think I'm on, like, my seventh appearance on Legion of Skanks.
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And usually they give you, like, what, a one or two-minute set on Kill Tony?
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I knew I had to start doing stand-up now because I'm getting older, and I don't want to end up getting famous for my comedy before it's too late,
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like, or get famous for being amazing when it's too late, like, you know, like Galileo or Van Gogh or JonBenet.
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I do have to be careful because you want to make sure that you don't impersonate the greats when you do it.
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And, you know, some of those people were really legends.
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Like, for example, I met one of the legends once.
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You ever have your punchline fucked up by a repressed memory?
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But you do also have to be careful when you do stand-up because you don't want to be, like, the obvious thing.
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Like, I didn't want to be sitting up here talking about, like, how much I love dick because then I'd just become the answer to the question no one is asking.
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I don't have any, I don't have his cat noise, but I figured I'd play.
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I'm currently working in retail, but I do have my esthetician license, and I want to pursue my cosmetology.
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And then eventually I want to, like, run my own business and have my own hair salon.
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Education-wise, I did go to Chaminade University.
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Instead, I'm more interested in trade school and cosmetology.
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I'm from Quebec, Canada, and I only have my high school diploma.
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We have a very geographically diverse group here.
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And it does skew a little on the older side with the panel here.
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Nobody else does, like, sex work or anything?
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Are we going to give her the sex worker label?
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I mean, I tend to prefer the panels that have fewer...
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Like, oh, you only bring on OF girls, blah, blah.
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But here we have a group of pretty normal people.
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You're Indian, and you're in there, and you're from New York or something.
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I'm originally, actually, like, from Germany, born there.
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No, I'd love to be a U.S. citizen, but I am not.
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But really quick question, and here, you know what I got to ask?
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Parents became citizens because my grandparents were in the Vietnam War.
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I'm trying to remember the names for the belligerents.
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They're the South, and Americans was helping the South.
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It's been a minute since I played Battlefield Vietnam, sorry.
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My dad is a citizen, but my mom has a green card.
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So question for the very diverse people here at the table.
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Let me see if I can find the actual notes on this.
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Well, normally I do this a little later on, but figured why not?
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So I'm going to present a hypothetical to some of you here.
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In a morally neutral, blame-free hypothetical conflict between the United States and either your birth country or country of your parents' origin, where neither side is right or wrong, to which country is your allegiance?
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So, yes, United States, but, you know, I love equally both the countries because that's my mother country.
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But if it's any conflict, I will always be with United States.
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I would say United States, especially with what's going on in Germany right now.
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Like, we have all of the, like, other Muslims coming in and, like, kind of taking over.
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And, by the way, just to be clear, this, when I ask this question, it doesn't mean that you, you know, if the country of your origin speaks a different language or, you know, you have family there or it doesn't mean you have to completely revoke an affinity for your home country or, you know, the cultural ties or anything like this.
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It's purely just if there was some, you know, conflict, to which country is your allegiance.
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It almost reminds me a little bit of the Olympics.
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There was a bit of a, you know what I'm talking about, with Alyssa Liu and Eileen Gu, where Alyssa Liu, they're both, I'm trying to remember the, I don't know the exact background.
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But Eileen Gu, like, I think, I don't know if she was born in China, but grew up her whole life in San Francisco, goes in, but she's, like, half white, half Chinese.
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She, even though having lived in the United States pretty much her whole life, represents China in the Winter Olympics.
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And, there's, like, this big kind of drama conflict there.
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And, then, you have, like, based Alyssa Liu, the ice skater, who represented the United States.
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Well, I think there was also a guy that was Ukrainian that skated for the United States.
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If you're in a relationship, how long have you been in the relationship?
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If you're single, how long have you been single?
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What's the longest relationship you've ever had, starting with you?
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We have been together for about two and a half years.
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And, is he, is it long distance, or is he here?
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Okay, not too far, but, I mean, a plane, it's a plane ride.
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I have gone and visited him the past two times, but he is coming in April to visit me.
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And, it's, you're both, for both of you, it's your first year in college?
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Quite a party school, party area too, I guess you could say.
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I'm talking to someone, um, just kind of scared to get in a relationship.
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But in that year, have you had a situationship?
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Like, what was the period of time that that situationship lasted?
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How long have you, the situationship, how long have you been in it?
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Um, how long have you been doing OF, by the way?
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Um, it's just more like, I feel like there's, every sex worker is different.
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Um, personally for me, my circumstances may be a lot more surprising than the normal stereotype.
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Uh, the guy you're dating, is he also a OnlyFans?
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The longest relationship I've ever been in is, uh, two years.
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I am on them, but I haven't touched it in like three months.
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And the last guy I saw tried to kiss me and I don't want to do that.
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Well, in your messages to us, you included a very interesting anecdote.
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So, when I was 17, I was dating a guy four years older than me.
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And he was living with me for a couple, like, months.
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And it was because his house was in foreclosure.
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He ended up cheating on me while I was on the vacation.
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While he was staying with me, I looked through his phone.
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So then that same day, I went to my first boyfriend's house.
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So he then ate me out with his friend's semen in me.
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So if you're out there, I did you so dirty.
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No, after that, I never did anything like that ever again.
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You know, I have some thoughts on this, but I'd like to hear from the women at the table.
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Just so I understand, the guy you were seeing at the time, he cheated on you.
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And you were upset, you go console yourself with your ex-boyfriend.
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I was alone in the Lyft, you know, I went home.
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But normally, I think in your notes you said you normally don't like it when men go down.
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I still had to make sure there was some in there.
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Did you, after finishing that act, did you at least tell the current boyfriend, I know
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Oh, I confronted him that same night I found out.
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So, just, I don't know if you want to share your thoughts going around the table.
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But honestly, if I found out that a guy who was living in my house cheated on me, I mean,
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that, like, come on, like, really, like, that's...
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But, so, do you have a sense of, like, fair game, kind of?
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It's, like, kind of, if you go low, I'll go lower.
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You know, they say that the best revenge is moving on.
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In what form of, like, cheating did you find out he was participating in?
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In what form of cheating did you find out that he was participating in?
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Um, he was going to another girl's house while I was, um, away on a vacation and seeing other
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Like, he didn't bring them inside, but he had them drop him off at the house, and he
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That's, um, while it's not something I would do, I think that it's a great story.
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I mean, you know, you, consequences for your actions.
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So, I completely agree with her, because as a woman, we do a lot for a man when we are
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We pour the whole heart out and everything, and when we found out that somebody is cheating,
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whereas we are giving them so much of love and respect and everything.
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I had used something completely different, but as brutal.
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Do you want to tell us what that was, super quick?
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So, my last boyfriend, he cheated on me in the sense that he came to United States, and
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we met on Hinge, and he said, you know, whatever relationship status, he said, you know, I said,
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I'm completely monogamous, and we were dating for three years, and I did every possible thing,
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even I put a fast for him, you know, for his long life.
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And I realized that he was just here alone, because the wife is taking care of the kid
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in college back in India, and he is at an executive position at a very big company where
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I used to work, so I know him through LinkedIn and all.
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And when I realized that his wife is coming, from eight hours talking, he completely, like,
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Just because my three-year period is over, and now the wife is coming, so I applied all
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my software engineering mind, found his wife, called his wife, that I used so many tactics
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to do that, and God helped me with that, and I told his wife, and the wife was completely
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shocked, and then I realized from the wife Instagram, like, he did not have any post with
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wife on his social media, but the wife does.
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And I realized, like, he met me in U.S., went to India, and then went on a vacation with his
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wife, and he told me I'm going to a temple because my mother passed away, you know, he
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used his mother who passed away in every conversation, like, he's such a saint.
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So it's like when you're heartbroken, so I told his wife, like, I completely ruined, because
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they belong to a completely orthodox traditional family.
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And I not just told his wife, but I spread the news in all his relatives on Instagram.
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For you, you were young, and I think that you and the boyfriend at the time were just
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in a position where you didn't respect yourselves at all, just to be real.
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You're a grown woman, and you just said completely unapologetically that you sought out and made
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You're accountable for your actions, and to say that God helped lead you to ruin someone's
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life, that's a completely different story than a 17-year-old who did something sideways.
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Like, he's cheating the wife, and he said I had no...
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That no matter what he did, you're responsible for your actions, and to say that God helped
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I slept over it, and I asked God, if I can reach his wife somehow, that means you want
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I was, like, focusing on something else, so I kind of, like, zoned out.
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And did you go, did you go on dates with him, or...
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That's why he used to live in my house, I used to live in his house.
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His wife was in India, but he was living here for three years?
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So, did you ask the wife how she would feel if you were to tell everyone else?
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No, I did not, because I know the Indian culture, the wife is promoting the behavior.
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Because, according to him, he is cheating, and the wife caught years ago.
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So, that means it's a repeating behavior, and the wife is still, like, due to the social pressure, the wife is still with the...
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Well, yes, it could be a repeating behavior, but at the same time, maybe, like, there's so much situations where you don't know.
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She could believe that he could change, or that, like, there's family involved.
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There's just so much within it, and I think it's just more of a respect thing for her as well to ask whether or not she would be okay with you telling everyone else.
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Yeah, I mean, I guess I don't want to linger on that for too long, but there could be some argument made that it's acceptable to tell the direct person that is affected by this.
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I was distracted by a tech thing going on, but the going to the family, that seems...
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I think people might side with you on the going to the wife thing, letting her know, but I think that ought to have probably been the extent of it.
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Telling the whole family seems particularly malicious and vindictive.
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I feel like you were young, so I feel like when somebody cheats, especially when that guy is older, when you're young, I feel like you don't really, like...
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I don't want to say you don't think about it, but...
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Yeah, so what I'm saying is, like, you can still take the accountability for it, but I think because you were so young, it's like, you don't really think about it, so you just do it.
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I wouldn't, like, justify that, but as I don't...
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I think there's a certain element to keeping your dignity intact, right, and taking the higher ground.
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I'm sure you're sorry for it now, and as long as, you know, you're sorry...
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I was really banking on that, but I mean, you know, I think eventually you're gonna have to, like, just come to terms with yourself eventually and just kind of feel bad about it a little bit, because in the end, you've given him the validation for cheating on you, right?
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I mean, she definitely got revenge on the dude.
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You basically forced him to be almost kind of gay, to be honest.
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If he's, like, into that, he might be, like, dope, I guess.
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I personally find that fucking one of the most disgusting things ever.
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I remember once, this girl never actually ended up making on the show, but she sent in pre-show notes similar to you.
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I wish she came on the show, because I would have had some words with her.
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She was dating this guy, and I'll open this up to the panel to give your input.
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This girl was dating this guy, and she says he, after she went down on him, he didn't like to kiss afterwards.
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And so, what she wrote was, I guess she didn't like that, right?
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So, she said, the next time that they hooked up and she received his seed, I guess you could say, she kept the seed in her mouth and spit it in his mouth.
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Now, I think that that's fucking a sex crime, to be honest.
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If it was up to me, I was the fucking cops.
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If I was the judge, you're going on the sex offender registry.
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I mean, you're going to prison, like, that's completely, I'm sorry.
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If a guy has stated, just even kiss, like, even if she, you know, she, and he has an issue with kissing, then you're going to, that's.
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That would actually be illegal because it's a bodily fluid.
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That person could have had a disease or something.
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In my, I mean, I don't know how the courts would view it, but that's, I mean, it's.
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I don't know, like, look, fuck, I don't know if I should.
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If a girl did that to me, do I fucking, you know what?
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There's some things I'm not going to say on the internet.
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I think even for a very mentally stable man, that would be extremely triggering, like, and
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you probably would not even be able to control what you did next.
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I would restrain myself, but there would be a temptation.
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Speaking as a woman, keeping that in your mouth is both disgusting and a weird challenge.
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Well, I mean, some women have different appetites, but.
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By the way, speaking of beach weather, it's been very nice in Santa Barbara.
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I feel sorry if there's anybody viewing from a cold region.
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Who's in the cold region, lives in the cold region?
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Well, back home, like today or yesterday or in a couple days, what's the temperature?
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Can you ask the women why they think Trump won over Kamala?
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Well, I need like a one sentence answer if you'd like to answer the question.
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Because he was like going to be a better president.
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I don't think America's ready for a female president.
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He had coherent sentences and you could understand him.
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I think that the left is just getting too far extreme that some people, even the lean
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She doesn't make any sense when she responds something.
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Because the American issues the American people are facing, she doesn't think about that.
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Maybe because she has a camel toe in life.
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Because they were saying Kamala and then camel toe Kamala house.
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Let's continue on with the relationship status.
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Like what the fuck could a guy do that would be even equivalent to that?
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I feel like there's nothing a guy can do that's as gross.
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Do the little deed and then go do the deed with them.
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Well, I mean, I don't think HIV would transfer that fast.
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I'm assuming that's the one that ended seven years ago?
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How many times were there periods where you guys were in the same city?
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Anytime he was on leave, I would either visit him or he would come and see me.
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Do you know how many times, sometimes there's long distance relationships, you might see
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So you might even be like, do you think you only saw him?
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So maybe you were in your mid-20s when you met?
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And the point of clarification, you're saying it's your first boyfriend.
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Have you had a situationship in the past seven years?
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I guess you could have a hoe phase in college.
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It was Art Institute of Dallas for like less than a year.
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Even your most gracious host has had a hoe phase.
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A 3-0 foe, a strumpet, a slut, a sloot, a whore.
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When you say hoe phase, though, that can mean something pretty, nothing too crazy, you know?
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Still hoe phase, but not like Bonnie Blue, fucking hundred dude, gangbang type shit.
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Can you explain to the audience and to the table, what was the hoe phase?
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Um, I did the dating apps, Tinder, Plenty of Fish, when that was popular.
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And, um, I'd meet the guys, and obviously we'd have a few dates, I guess, meetups or whatever.
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And you said this was, like, going on for a period of, like, a couple years?
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And would you go on, like, a date every week, or?
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Um, it was with that boyfriend that I was with, so...
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I had sex with my coworker that I knew for a couple months.
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And then I had sex with another man that was my friend for a couple years.
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And then I did that again, and then I broke up with him.
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Uh, you've had some shorter-term flings, it sounds like.
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The women that come on here and claim they're Christian, and...
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Well, I mean, just because, look, people come on the show, and they are Christian, or claim to be Christian,
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I don't think that would preclude you from just whatever happens on whatever podcast isn't necessarily
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a broader indictment of Christianity as a whole.
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Hey, we, we gotta, we gotta have, I'm sorry, can you repeat that?
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Uh, what, and, how long have you, you said two years that you've been celibate?
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Or, uh, what is it, what was the word you used?
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Um, I'm assuming you want to, you want to get married?
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Um, I assume you want to marry a Christian man?
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So you meet a great guy, Christian guy, but he's like, look, we're both, you know, we're
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in our mid-30s, neither of us are virgins, we have our past, I don't want to wait.
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Uh, well, you've struggled with dating, is that correct?
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The issue is, is that the type of man who's going to be willing to wait, uh, look, people
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I think if you put that boundary down, and they still pressure you, then they're not
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So they still keep pushing and pushing and pushing, and you've said, no, this is where
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we stop, and they keep pushing, that's probably a sign that that's not the one.
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So what, what's the age range of men you would date?
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Have to be Christian, or at least share your outlook, it seems.
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Okay, so that's only 15% of men are six feet and over, so of the remaining 15% of men of
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the population, and I'm assuming it, I mean, you're six feet, they're six feet, you're probably
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like, the guy who's just same, your same height, I'm assuming that's still less than ideal,
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Like, that's your bare minimum, but you'd probably like 6'3", right?
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Okay, well then we're talking about like, less than 10% of the population, how many kids
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Okay, well, I mean, I guess I'd give you some feedback here, can you turn your head that
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And you recently, I did know that you have very short hair too.
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Oh, this is a good topic, actually, the head shave thing.
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But before we get into that, I think, well, one thing, I think you're going to have to
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A waiting until marriage Christian man is not, I, Frank, look, there's Christian men with
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tattoos or there's Christian men without tattoos that are okay with tattoos.
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But it's like, the kind of guy you're going for that's chaste is going to be okay with chastity,
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okay waiting until marriage, also considering, notwithstanding your past indiscretions, the
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short hair, the tattoos, you read like liberal visually.
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Like you read, so, I mean, the pool of, look, hey, the pool of men that you're choosing
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from and that are going to choose you, it's the Venn diagram.
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The Venn diagram of Christian men waiting until marriage and then you, which is 33-year-old
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with extensive sexual history and neck and blasted, not super blasted, tattoos, like
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physically basically look like a liberal and short hair.
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That Venn diagram is like, there's very little overlap or perhaps none at all.
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Can I ask you a question though, like, just a hypothetical.
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Let's say, you've struggled so far to find a guy.
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Let's say 10 years goes by and then you just, you've been, you've been, uh, why do I keep
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There's fucking cobwebs down there and shit.
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I guess I'll just spring break, Cancun, just like get some dick.
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Off the top of my head right now, Gabriel Basso.
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Like, it'd be great if I just had, like, a constant stream of, like, 20-year-old virgin supermodels.
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Who were, like, super based and submissive and, like, agreed with me on everything.
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Like, I'm probably not going to be just running through, like, 20-year-old supermodels.
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I do understand that looks matter, but character matters most.
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But, I mean, I would say, I mean, if I were to actually give advice, I mean, you got to make yourself probably more appealing to that demographic.
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Because you're demanding that your future husband has all of these qualifications.
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So, what are you preparing to give up or give to him in that relationship so he wants to marry you?
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Because you have all of these qualifications that you want in him.
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What they call Ephesians, Titus, Proverbs as a biblical wife.
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I'm sure that there's, and I mean this in the most respectful way, I'm sure that there are younger women and more fertile women that can offer the same.
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So, you would have to either lower your standards or change something about yourself in order for that man to want to desire you or want you as a wife.
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I understand that, and I think a lot of Christianity today is very weak, and it's not, it's so Americanized right now.
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And so, maybe they're not, like, they're just Christian by name, and a man wants a God-fearing woman.
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But a Christian man, the one that you talk about, wants a woman with a low body count, young, who's going to support him in anything he does.
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I mean, preferably Christian men want virgin women.
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Obviously, in 2026, it's probably not the norm, but I would say less than five.
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We all know that, you know, men don't normally desire women with high body counts.
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So, like I said, you would have to sacrifice something at that point, and that would probably be maybe giving it up before marriage.
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I mean, I respect that, like, you've, you know, accepted that you may die alone, and that's fine.
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But, yeah, I think the, like, the man that you're looking for is probably slim to none without sacrificing something yourself.
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I mean, I think it's, by the way, I think it's totally fine for you to have this standard where you want to wait until marriage.
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I'm just trying to be pragmatic and realistic about the probability, you know, how many men in their, you know, mid-30s are still inclined to wait to have sex, wait until marriage.
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Of course, there's Christian men at all ages, but it's going to be difficult.
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And it might, because, for example, I think they're, you're an attractive woman, you're an attractive woman, but I think that there are men who, for example, would date you, but they are, they're like, look, I'm not a virgin.
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They would otherwise be great boyfriends or great husbands, but I think a lot of guys today, and again, your standard's perfectly fine, but a lot of guys today are just, they don't want to wait, and they'll find somebody else.
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And so, like, so a guy could otherwise be a good partner to you, a good boyfriend, good husband, but that could be a sticking point for them in the same way it's a sticking point for you.
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Again, not trying to get you to change your, your preference or whatever, but it is a consideration.
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I wouldn't throw all my chips in destiny, that's for sure.
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I'm carving a fucking path my own way, regardless of what the world throws at me.
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I'm a Hindu and I do believe in like astrology and destiny a lot.
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So you were destined to get cheated on all this time?
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Because of my, some karmas in my last life or something, I have done something wrong.
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We once had a girl on the show who she, she said in the past life, she dated Hitler.
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I think she did date Hitler in a past life, but she dated a guy who in his past life was
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Let's say you had, at the time, you were in a relationship, you were in a relationship,
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Your boyfriend, or it could even be your husband, whichever you prefer for this hypothetical,
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Going around the table, for all the women, you want to shave your head.
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Now, I know most of you probably wouldn't want to do that in actuality, but let's say
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To be fair, I have plans on shaving my head soon.
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I'm hitting a milestone on TikTok, woo, so I just wanted to donate my hair.
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Like, it's like you make a lot of diamonds in the day and you, like, move up in leagues.
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So you start at D5 and then you make your way all the way to A1.
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Okay, but we have to cut the hair so I can at least still donate it because that's the
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She does hair so she'll know how to cut it right.
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I can't reach, but I'm going to give somebody my proxy.
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I don't think I should do it, though, because I think optically that would be really...
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And you can do it, like zigzag, do whatever you want.
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Would you shave your head for a million dollars?
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If you said no, how much would it cost to shave your head?
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It's just I have the money I have that I live a happy enough life.
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Like, money isn't a massive decider for me, even if it's a ridiculous amount.
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But, I mean, if you have $100 billion, you can give to the charitable organizations of your choice.
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You're generations upon generations, completely set financially.
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Then still clean, but you can still pop in every dad.
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It's always interesting to me, the women who would not do it whatsoever.
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I'm like, look, I get somebody, somebody offers you 10K.
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A lot of women, I think, would take that, but whatever.
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That's like generational wealth, never have to work again money.
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And then you ask them, like you could ask a girl that she would never do it.
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It would take you millennia to make that much money, and you won't...
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Can you also ask their opinion on how Trump is doing?
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I guess going around the table really quick, just so you can give me one sentence answer,
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I want to say approve, but because there's some things that I don't agree with what he's
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Emma, E-Money, thank you very much for your chat there.
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I do want to finish up on the relationship status.
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We have two together, and he had a son from his previous marriage.
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Longest relationship, six years, my second marriage, and the last relationship, more than
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Married two times, first marriage, did he have to pay you alimony?
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Shit, we should have done the mother-daughter episode or something.
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So you had a kid with your first husband, and you have just one kid?
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Oh, while you were pregnant, you initiated the divorce?
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Actually, divorce was not an option in my community that time, but I never returned back
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to his house because he wanted a baby boy, and I delivered a baby girl.
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I think I recall in your notes, they wanted you to get an abortion.
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So you escaped that situation, is that correct?
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I'm not going to dive into the Indian laws relating to marriage, divorce, whatever, but
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you did have a marriage in the United States, correct?
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But the marriage took place in the United States?
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He came to India, we got married, and then he applied for the green card.
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Did the United States courts oversee your divorce?
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My longest relationship, we were sort of together for almost 20 years, and we were officially
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And sorry, did you say you were married or not married?
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I am dating someone right now, and then my longest relationship was in high school.
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I have three, so they are not with my husband that I am currently with.
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And how long have you been married to your current husband?
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So my first two boys are from my first marriage.
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So two boys from your first marriage, and then one from a relationship?
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So I was with him for seven years, about five years into the relationship.
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And are you planning to have kids with your current husband, or no?
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And does he have kids from any prior relationships?
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Your first marriage, how long were you married to the guy?
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So I was married to him for about a year and a half.
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We had shared custody up until I moved to Ontario.
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And then your third child, child support from the ex?
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Unfortunately, because I live in a different province than my daughter, I have access rates.
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There was no, it was never, it wasn't because I was into anything nefarious or I was a bad
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It just, the circumstances were just not there.
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But given that when I moved to Ontario, I didn't have a setup.
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So he obviously got custody, but I settled in court.
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We're going to jump into some topics now, but first I have to do my very delayed introduction.
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And Nathan, if I could have you, as we go through, just pull some of these up.
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You can also mute a microphone, pop a bottle of champagne.
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We'll do whichever, because I already offered it.
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For either the Cristal pop, which is one Ethereum, or the regular champagne pop, she's going to shave her head.
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So guys, this is going to be a potential first for the whatever podcast.
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So if anybody wants to see that, we do need a champagne pop.
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Rachel, we're going to get you on the show soon.
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And Natalia with the big gifted 50 memberships.
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I apologize, Natalia, but I'll do a little manual ding for you.
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And I hope you're safe, by the way, because I think you're – I'm not going to, like,
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say where, but you're not in the United States.
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You're in somewhere else, which may or may not be near conflict zones.
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No fucking drones are coming from Natalia.
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Protection prayers for, I don't know, Natalia.
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Drops the Prime sub, Happy, thank you for the Prime.
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And by the way, guys, I'm not like playing World of Warcraft.
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It's very time-intensive, money-intensive, effort-intensive to do a production like this.
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I'm not just sitting in front of a computer playing fucking Ark Raiders, Fortnite, World of Warcraft.
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You know, that's – so, you know, we need your support on Twitch.
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Don't give it to – oh, man, I'm making enemies right now.
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Give it – hey, we – they're just fucking – what are they doing?
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There's nothing wrong with the video game guys.
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It's not like – you know, you buy merch from a band or another content creator and it's
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I actually took the time to make sure that the blanks, the material we print on, it's
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actually comfortable, actually feels good.
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So, you'll actually want to wear the shit, not just have it hanging, sitting in your closet
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Any women who want to be on the show, you can DM us at whatever on Instagram.
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Yeah, DM us there if you want to be on the show.
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I'm the founder of the nonprofit and grassroots movement, tab over, Big Labia Matter, or BLM
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All labia can't matter until Big Labia Matter.
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As someone who only dates women with large labia, this is important for me, like it hurts
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10,000 labiaplasties a year in the United States alone.
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Fucking Iran, Venezuela, Ukraine, Middle East, immigration, ICE.
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These women, they're chopping their bits off.
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Oh, if you can't catch the full shows, we have a Clips channel.
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Behind the scenes, hate mail, and then pull it up in the stream yard.
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Behind the scenes, hate mail, research studies, a bunch of other stuff.
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I'm going to go through it one day on stream, probably.
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If you're my Caucasian, you will join the Discord.
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If you want to learn how to become a master debater, you get the course.
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Thank you, everybody, on Twitch there for the primes, too.
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I can't do the show without you, you know?
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Because fucking Athletic Greens, they're not coming around anytime soon.
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Audible ain't coming around to the whatever podcast anytime soon.
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Where are those little stupid mobile games?
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What was that video game that was like dog shit, but it was doing a bunch of sponsorships?
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I was fucking addicted to that for like six months.
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Luckily, I didn't spend any money, but that's like...
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You might be wondering, Brian, what the fuck does that have to do with dating?
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Now, we can't show the clip because HBO or whatever will copyright us.
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In the final episode of A Night of the Seven Kingdom, which is a prequel to Game of Thrones,
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So, Raymond Fossaway of House Fossaway, their sigil is an apple, but he became...
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There's the red apple Fossaways and the green apple Fossaways, but that's another conversation
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Basically, Raymond Fossaway, who just had participated in this trial by seven combat, he showed up big
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Earlier in the show, Dunk encounters a prostitute.
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And she was getting funky, down and funky with Steph...
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And then she links up with our homeboy, Green Apple Fossaway, Raymond Fossaway.
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But she doesn't tell him that she was a prostitute, and he's, like, gonna marry this chick, and...
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He's gonna marry this chick, and she's like, oh, I think I might be pregnant with Raymond
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And Dunk here, who kind of fucking fucks up the bro code, he knows that she's a hoe.
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Sir Duncan the Tall, he knows that she's a hoe.
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So his homeboy fought for him, could have died for him, took injuries for him, for Sir Duncan
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the Tall, and he's not gonna let his boy know that he's dealing with a hoe.
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And so, I'm curious what y'all think, like, I don't know.
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She's pregnant by somebody else, but she's saying it's Raymond Fossaway's...
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But she was being a prostitute for this other night, or Lord, or some shit.
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Yeah, but I'm like, yo, Sir Duncan, how are you gonna, like, fucking honor, protect the innocent?
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Like, as a knight in Westeros, if you become a knight, although, to be fair, no spoilers,
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if you're a knight, Sir Duncan the Tall, protect the innocent.
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Like, there's, like, a prostitute, and she's, like, hooking up with people is all I really
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A Knight of the Seven Kingdoms might be...
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Terrible fucking name, by the way, for the show.
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So, Cersei Lannister is married to the fucking king.
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Now, look, there's some issues in the marriage.
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And her kids, Cersei Lannister's kids, are the brother's kids.
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Everybody thinks it's the kids of the king, Bobby B., Robert Baratheon.
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It could totally throw the realm into complete fucking chaos.
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All because Cersei Lannister is a trifling bitch.
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Like, at the end, like, I wish that she had gotten a little bit worse.
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Like, whatever you just used in Game of Thrones.
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Wait, does Jon Snow have a stronger claim to the throne?
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Yo, chat, does Jon Snow have the stronger claim to the Iron Throne?
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Because Daenerys was the direct daughter of the Mad King Aerys Targaryen.
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Daenerys Targaryen, the one with the dragons, the dragon queen, she doesn't know that that's technically her relative.
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Rhaegar Targaryen was Daenerys' older brother.
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You just have to be honest in every relation, whether it's some relationship, your husband or wife, or if it's a friendship.
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Well, that's the thing, is that Jon Snow, or Aegon Targaryen, has learned of his parentage.
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And he then cuts off dating Daenerys Targaryen, and then she just fucking scorches all of King's Landing.
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For the sake of the realm, do you keep secretly giving it to your aunt, Daenerys Targaryen, to keep the peace?
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You know, look, I think, look, the Targaryens were inbreeding a lot.
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Queen Daenerys went, you know, she fucking, you know, destroyed King's Landing, burned everyone alive, basically.
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I think Jon Snow, he should have just kept, you know, piping her.
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But wasn't that a really good example of don't bang crazy?
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Well, at that point, we hadn't established that she was crazy, you know?
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The ending of Game of Thrones was fucking dog shit, by the way.
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Because he's not finished a series, right?
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And it's like that was like an example of what not to do.
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The girl in the right corner is super hot and red.
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Thank you for the, looks like you bought a hoodie there.
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Don't let me forget before the end of the show.
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That'd be pretty cool, though, to do it on the whatever podcast.
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I was going to go live and do it, but it's okay.
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Camilla, you describe yourself as a professional spoiled brat.
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I feel like when you have a platform and you put yourself out there,
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you could choose to fully be fully transparent,
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But weren't you just agreeing with her when she was talking about,
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you should always be honest in all your relationships,
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but I play up a personality so I can get money.
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So you're saying clearly that as an OnlyFans girl,
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you have no relationship with any of these men?
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There's a few of them that basically believe that I'm a therapist, per se,
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But in terms of actual dating relationship, no.
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Does the guy that you're saying, does he know that you do it,
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that the point of OnlyFans is not just the sexual gratification.
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It's the feeling of a relationship with that person,
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and being let into something that's private and intimate with them.
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So you're saying that in your personal relationships,
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but in your persona, you're portraying something which isn't honest.
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and within the OF community, is just rage bait.
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People hate you regardless of what you do as an OF creator.
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If I may ask, you say that people are going to hate you no matter what
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Why do you think people hate somebody no matter what if they're an OF girl?
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Well, clearly it's because of the reason of selling your body for money.
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See, now, that's where I would disagree with you
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but I feel like there's a much smaller portion of the population
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I hate this porn star because she's a porn star.
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It's also that you're creating relationships with these people,
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or you have somebody that's speaking and typing for you.
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who you would never have an actual relationship with
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you're stopping them from actually finding a healthy relationship with someone
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and creating bonds that truly exist for them in their private lives.
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that any of these regulars of yours are so dedicated to you
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and really finding someone in their own personal or private lives?
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oh, you are going to eventually meet me or anything like that either.
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it's just more of the fact of companionship, right?
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And so whenever they have difficult days or something,
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oh, I'm going to go on a date with this person.
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I guess I'll ask the other girls on the table,
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So, you rate yourself lower in attractiveness in terms of looks than her?
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Well, and I think also, like, you have an insane, like, educational record.
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What would that have to do with her looks, though?
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I, for me, I see attractiveness as in, within everything.
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Well, even looks aside, like, she has really nice teeth.
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Well, I'm saying, you're saying, what, if it's just looks still?
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I'm saying, if it's just looks still, I still think she's very beautiful.
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Can you tell me a celebrity that, a female celebrity that you think is a nine in looks?
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Is there, like, an American, like, an Indian American that we could look up?
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So, face alone, I wish, this won't be shocking, Christina Hendricks.
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Uh, first show is Priyanka, whatever, whatever.
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Um, that's going to be really easy for my producer to, my white producer to.
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But you would say face equivalent, um, and keep it there for a sec, Nathan.
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Can you, uh, control mouse wheel up on this page?
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Uh, control, like, scroll the mouse wheel so it makes it bigger?
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So, also, part of how I base my scale is, part of how I base my scale is on prior episodes.
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And one of the things that stood out to me is, um, when you had Andrew on, and he described
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how many times you get a second glance on the street.
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And while I know that the body is wrecked, I, in L.A. just yesterday, and in New York constantly,
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It even surprises me at the rate that it happens.
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So, if we're basing it off of that scale that was described on a prior episode, I'll give it to myself.
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And I did, if you recall, um, much love and respect to Andrew.
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I, I think that is not the correct way to frame it.
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No, um, no, I just think it was not the right way to frame it.
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Because the reality is, even average or even way below average looking women, uh, there's
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no shortage of supply who, uh, of men who, uh, would have sex with them.
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Uh, so, this idea that you would rank your attractiveness based on the lust or sexual attraction
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Because a man could look at a supermodel and look at an average woman and experience, to
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some degree, somewhat similar levels of lust for both of them.
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Um, thus, it would not be a reasonable metric, uh, to use, I, I think, in the assessment.
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Uh, so, so for looks, if we're not talking about men lusting, what would you say is a
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And I would have actually said a seven if I was allowed for the record, but if, how would
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Are you, are you talking more like symmetry, like age on the face, that sort of stuff too?
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However, there are objective measurements that we can take of the face.
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So while beauty in the strict philosophical sense is subjective, uh, it is grounded, like
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So that would be facial symmetry, facial harmony, interpupillary distance, you know, various
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other facial thirds, um, certain other things that, that are measurable.
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Like, so that would be the objective components of beauty.
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Um, and so, uh, in this case, yes, it would be those measurements.
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I mean, I would, if you want a, an assessment on the, like, if I had to put a descriptor
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to the number, I would say five average, six cute, seven pretty, eight beautiful, nine
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Then I would definitely air myself on cute more so than beautiful.
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I think just like everybody else here, you're hard on yourself.
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But are, is your rating still, uh, eight or does that change with my new metric?
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Uh, with how you just described it, especially with the word descriptors, I would say a six
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So from your perspective, we would be a looks match.
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Again, I did put body at a three, so we're lower on the body.
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Well, you can just judge it off of, uh, face, I guess.
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That's an, that's overrating, but, um, I'm not an eight, but okay.
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Uh, and you gave yourself a nine, but so you're still settling for me.
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Um, now you guys might be wondering, Brian, why do you ask this?
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Like, but I think it is an interesting temperature check.
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I don't think I'm a little bit, look, I don't think I'm anything special.
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Maybe if I lost a little bit of weight, we could get five, 5.5, maybe six.
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If I'm lucky, you know, um, you know, thinned out in the face a little bit and the body.
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But, uh, the reason I bring it up is because I do think there is a tendency, not with all
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women, because you got, most of you are pretty reasonable.
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I'm not really going to challenge much of the six, six stuff, even if I think there might
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have been some, I could actually give you guys ratings.
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But, uh, I do think that there is, when it comes to dating and men can be guilty of this
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too, where men are delusional and think they're more attractive than they actually are.
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I do think this phenomenon is a little bit, perhaps a little bit is an understatement.
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And this phenomenon is a bit more common in women where they assess themselves as more
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And this can extend beyond just looks, even better personality, funnier than they actually
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No offense to you, the comedian, um, more likable, whatever, whatever other characteristics.
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I do think there's a tendency for women to assess themselves as a little bit higher than
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And so it is worth discussing because I do think that, and look, men can do this too.
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You can have a guy who's like, what's he bringing to the table, but he wants to date a supermodel.
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He needs to reassess his standards and the type of woman he can realistically get.
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Likewise, women who think that they're more attractive than they actually are, they're going
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to be, uh, aiming for a certain caliber of guy that, and this is, well, this is actually
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a difference between men and women, you might be able to sleep with that guy and never get
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So sometimes women can get what I, uh, limited sexual access to a guy.
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And then that, that in and of itself will be a bolster to their erroneous self-assessment.
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Uh, but I do think it's important to know where you stand.
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Otherwise, like I said earlier, you know, if I'm with, if me, fucking pasty below, like
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average, below average looking guy, 36, if I'm trying to, Oh, I, I deserve a 10 out of
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10 elite supermodel, like it's not going to fucking happen.
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Somebody had specific disagreements to me on the rating thing.
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On the questionnaires, like in the DMS or whatever.
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Um, it was you who disagreed with the looks rating?
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No, it wasn't in your notes, but it was, uh, in the form I just filled.
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I don't always, um, agree because I think, uh, some people are really harsh on themselves
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and I feel like you're being harsh on yourselves as everybody here has said.
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So, I, I don't really think I'm being particularly harsh, but, um, on myself anyways, uh, but
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can you, can you further explain your disagreement?
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Um, my disagreement, like sometimes I think like, like yes, looks matter and like, yes,
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you should be like attracted to someone, but I also feel like, uh, personality sometimes
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It can make someone more attractive or less attractive.
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Like if, if a guy's like funny, I tend to be more attractive.
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I mean, yeah, we can have a separate conversation about how personality fits in, especially with
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women's attractiveness to men or like qualifiers, like power or whatever, but we're just talking
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And men aren't like when they first see her, they're not, they're not saying like, wow,
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I wonder if she, you know, I wonder if she likes kids.
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I, I look at a woman and I'm like, does she want to bear me seven children?
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That's a factor or 10 even, you know, what was your question?
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I want to finish up the thing on the rating, but, uh, would I, would I date a disabled?
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Like what would that make the rating go down is what I'm saying.
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However, would it like practically speaking, would it be more optimal to date a woman who
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So he could, yeah, I mean, I don't think, I mean, look, if she otherwise, if she's, uh,
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otherwise attractive and meets my other metrics, yeah, if she was like missing an arm, that's
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But, uh, yeah, I, I would, it wouldn't be a deal breaker, but, um, uh, I could see it
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presenting, uh, like possible problems, I guess.
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Like, but, but no, it wouldn't be a deal breaker.
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But yes, realistically, if, if you're dating somebody who is disabled, as you put it,
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It's, you know, like if you're ableist, you know, you're.
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Because if you look at the opposite of the, of the disabled definition, it's someone who's
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If you're missing even any part of your body, you're not fully able bodied.
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So I think if you were missing a, like one singular toe or like a, I don't think that
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that would be like, even if you were a woodworker, I don't, Oh, look, I'm not a, maybe you need
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the, the pinky, you need the pinky to rest.
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I had an uncle that was missing three toes and it really messed him up.
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Well, in any case, uh, not a deal breaker, but back to the looks rating thing, um, your
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I think sometimes people can be too harsh on themselves and like also other people.
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They think they're more attractive than they actually are.
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Um, but I agree with you that, so men, for example, they can bring other things to the
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table to make themselves appealing or attractive to women.
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I'm not suggesting that looks are the only thing that matter, the be all end all, uh, plenty
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of women date average looking men, plenty of average looking men, date average looking
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Um, some people date up, some people date down.
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Some people are with their mostly looks equivalent, but I think to ignore the power that looks
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Uh, I think if you're exceptionally good looking, whether you're a man or woman, you move through
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the world in a very different way than an average looking person, uh, both for men and
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for women, although perhaps the benefits are somewhat different.
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Uh, and certainly when it comes to dating and, uh, one's romantic prospects, it certainly
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Well, I would like her to respond and then you can ask.
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Like, do you think, do you think an average looking guy is going to have the same optionality
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as like a 10 out of 10 fucking giga chad male?
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Like, um, I do think that a more attractive person might have, like, more chances that
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with, um, a person that's, like, also, like, the same attraction level as them, because
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usually people are geared toward, like, when they're, like, kind of just as attractive
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as each other, like, that's kind of how it goes.
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So they would be able to date more attractive people?
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Okay, so an average guy who lives in Idaho who works at Walmart, he's maybe on par with,
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like, like, a male supermodel in terms of his ability to, uh, pull attraction from women?
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Then probably not in that case, but it also, it always depends on the situation, too.
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Put the male supermodel in that Walmart in Idaho.
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Do the women in that Walmart, do you think they would, like, in terms of their attraction
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to these two men, the average versus the average looking guy who's just an employee there,
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uh, you think they're going to be, like, there's going to be an equal distribution of attraction?
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So, I agree, but I would say there's also situations where, like, depends a lot of the time.
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Because some people date, um, some people are really, really attractive and they end up
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I'm interested in more general principles here.
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I acknowledge that there are, uh, people who can end up with somebody who's more physically
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Uh, that definitely happens in both directions.
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Um, but, uh, I guess I'm looking more for, as a general principle.
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But, yeah, I guess as a general principle, like, usually more attractive people will find, like,
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Like, if you look at it only in that sense, then yes.
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Well, it's not just more attractive people will get the more attractive people.
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If a really attractive man was so inclined, he could, like, basically have a harem of, like,
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And they would be, they would, you, you give an average-looking woman access to a top-tier
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To be with that guy who's just a better, frankly, truthfully genetic potential.
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I'm not saying all women are going to tolerate poor behavior from men.
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And I'm also not even saying, even if the guy is more attractive than the girl he's dating,
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But I am saying that in a, the dating marketplace is very competitive.
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So you could have, and this is what we actually see on dating apps,
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so you have basically 80% of the attention on dating apps from women.
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And so that's going to encompass the most attractive women, attractive women,
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All their attention, regardless of their own standing,
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is still going up towards the most attractive men.
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And so if a man was so inclined, he could have like 20 girlfriends.
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And so what you'd have happening is some really attractive guy.
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This average girl is just happy to be gang dick by some really hot dude.
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And then the guy who's actually her looks equivalent,
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who's on their equivalent league, he can't get her.
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He, the average man, no longer has access to the average woman
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because she's getting limited sexual access to a guy who's more attractive.
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For me, the intelligence level so that I can talk to some person
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brings a lot of attractiveness, whether the face is not as attractive.
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But yeah, I do look for some physical for the first time,
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like the hair and height, for example, and whether he's fit.
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So, you know, sometimes it's not like how symmetric the face
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and how good looking or what's the color of the face.
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It's mostly, I first exchange like the LinkedIn or like,
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Yeah, I mean, sometimes it reflects in your personality.
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Have you ever heard of something called pretty privilege?
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So, statistically, women, or generally people who are better looking
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So, if you are unattractive, the chances of you getting that job that you wanted over somebody
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that's really, really pretty isn't going to happen.
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Really quick, I just need to shout some people out.
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Curtis, thank you for the 100 on, I believe, Venmo.
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MC Rocker, thank you for the 12 over on Cash App.
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I think, and you guys feel free to weigh in, I think for women, I think for women it's
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really hard to date a guy who's stupider than you.
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Not sure if I can say the same thing about men.
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Men are okay with dating women who are less intelligent than them.
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I don't think men really look for that as a priority in women.
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I think it's good to, if the woman is intelligent, ideally she would have like a very high IQ
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because if your desires of having children, you want to confer as many benefits to your
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If she's intelligent and you're intelligent, I think IQ has to some degree.
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Intelligence, to perhaps a large degree, can be genetic-based.
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Not to say that, you know, we are not completely beholden and slaves to our genetic destiny,
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Like, if you want to have intelligent kids, it's probably good that you don't get with
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I don't know if I'll get cancelled, but I do think, absent that, I don't think men
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care that much about a woman's intelligence.
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I mean, both of my ex-husbands, they don't like that I'm more educated than them because
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So, I mean, they feel so inferior, like they try to just make some, oh, she is just part-time
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masters or like something to just pull me down in front of the society.
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Well, I think, look, a woman having intelligence is a plus, although I want to caveat it with
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I think sometimes people who are intelligent, and I think they've actually done studies on
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They tend to be a little higher in trait neuroticism.
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So, that's like susceptibility to negative emotion, or you have a higher...
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You experience negative emotion more, more sensitive to having negative emotion.
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If you're simple, like intellectually simple, in some ways it's like ignorance is bliss.
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But if you're really intelligent, then you sometimes see things in the world, and you
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ponder things, and you philosophize, and you're like...
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I don't know if I'm explaining this the right way.
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So, like if my mother-in-law say that having a girl or boy, it's on me, and if I'm like innocently
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dumb or something, I say, oh, yes, it's my problem, you know?
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And then I will be happily ever after, you know, just aborting all my girl, child, and
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And everybody happy, I'm still married to my first husband, yes.
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And I'm still, whatever violence is happening, I will still be happy.
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I actually don't think education means you're smarter than everybody.
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I think men in general, they don't want you to be remedial, but I mean, not having a lot
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of experiences in the sense that they can teach you something, right?
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So, it's about them showing you experiences that, like my husband, I consider very, very
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There was a lot that, like, I was very misinformed about, and I had my own opinions and this and
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that, and when he was able to show me and have these conversations with me, I'm not as
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smart as him by any means, but I learned through him.
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So, I don't think, like Brian said, I don't think it matters to a man how intelligent you
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I think it just matters your willingness to learn through him and to be able to kind
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of embrace whatever he believes in at that point.
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So, I don't think education really correlates to how smart you are.
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Like, you can still be very intelligent and not ever go to college.
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So, intelligence isn't necessarily linked to, like, your education.
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Yeah, that I say, because a lot of people have their startups and they are so successful,
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And I have, like, two master's degrees, but I cannot say that I'm a very intelligent person,
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I feel like does, is some of that, like, cultural, though?
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I mean, whenever I talk, it's my emotional, like, intelligence, like, my past experience.
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Trying to think if there was anything else on the looks thing.
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Um, you had a resource on the Whatever Discord that was awesome that was a chart of the ratings,
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the 10 to the 1, with a few photos of some celebrities.
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Do you, I don't know if it's still available on there, and I'm wondering if that's still
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available on there, if you agree with it overall.
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Yeah, I don't think we have to pull it up, but I know what you're talking about.
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I'm just curious, because that was another thing that I used to base my decisions, and
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when I saw, like, like you said, you consider yourself a 4, 4.5, and you're saying you think
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I'm below you, and when I saw, like, some of those 3s and 2s, they were, like, genetic
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Yeah, no, I mean, um, well, I, I think you're, like, talking about, like, 0.51, where it's,
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Um, but, like, 4, 3, I mean, it's, I don't think you're getting into.
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Uh, I'm trying to think if there's anything else on the looks rating.
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By the way, uh, Nathan, have you checked the research tab for the, like, the AI stuff?
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If you want to start pulling those, there's, looks like there's two batches.
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Uh, Lisa, it looks like you had other disagreements, too.
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Uh, well, you write, you feel like there's more to dating than just looks.
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A person can be attractive, but it's more about the personality than the looks.
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I mean, personality obviously matters for both men and women.
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But I think, I think looks is going to be kind of the first thing.
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Um, you don't agree with the whole thing about asking people if they're a virgin right away?
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Yeah, so that, um, means that there has to be, like, a sort of, like, level of dating where you, um, are able to open up to the person more about, like, um, personal things like that.
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Um, and then also, like, that's not something that, um, I would personally answer, like, on the first date.
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I think maybe, like, um, maybe, like, more of the third date.
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Okay, but you go to, like, divine liturgy and...
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Um, why do you object to being asked that question?
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It's not necessarily that it's wrong to ask that question.
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It's more so just, um, you have to be, like, in a comfortable spot, like, to answer that question.
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Um, it's not something that I personally would answer on a first date.
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I mean, if other people do, that's fine, but it's not something that I personally prefer.
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Well, that's hinting at you not being a virgin.
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Um, people are going to make some assumptions, then.
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Let's say you're on a date with an Orthodox Christian man, and he...
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He asks you on the first date, uh, if you're a virgin,
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Like, say the date goes well, like, um, and then if he asks me that question, like,
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I would probably answer, but if the date goes wrong, and, like, if I'm not comfortable with,
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like, answering that, I don't see why I would answer that.
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I'm going to come right back to this conversation.
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Um, it's just, um, like, not something that I'm comfortable with on the first date, so...
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But for them, if it's a requirement for them, and you really, really like them, like, you
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really like them, he's perfect in every way, and it's a requirement for him to know that
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Or if he, like, if you're a virgin, this is the one thing that is going to determine whether
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Um, I mean, if that's the only thing that matters, then maybe I would answer it.
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Maybe they could say, like, you know, instead of going, hey, so, like, have you ever done
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It could just be like, hey, like, so what are your views on this?
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Well, if we could parallel, an absolute deal breaker for her is, do you want to have sex
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Isn't it fair for her to ask that on a first date?
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So, it's a sexual question, and it's a deal breaker, and something that's really important
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So, if you're on a date with a man, the virginity question is, or body count question, is a deal
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breaker potentially for them, and it's a sexually related question.
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Um, but, again, I would say, like, if you're not comfortable with a certain question, I
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don't think you have to answer it on the first date.
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Um, maybe they'll, um, be like, okay, um, that's really important to me, then this doesn't
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Um, and then, at that point, you would just have to, like, find, um, like, what, like,
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Like, that's why you go on dates to, like, find a good match.
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But, like, why, why is it, like, why is it bad to ask?
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Like, really quick before you answer, I'm going to let this TTS come out.
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An educated woman with degrees, big red flag.
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Almost certainly an unmanageable and destructive level of feminist indoctrination that provides
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That a working woman who has, who is educated is a red flag.
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And I wear sari whether I'm comfortable or not.
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Somebody donated, looks like you bought a T-shirt and a hoodie.
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But it seems like, is it fair to say that for Christian, how old are you again?
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For Christian men, perhaps even Orthodox Christian men, that this could be something that's important
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Okay, so, I mean, the read here from the male perspective would be, like, they're just going
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to assume your refusal to not answer the question, she's not a virgin.
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And I feel like they would assume that with other women in the church who are also not
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virgins if they refuse to answer that question.
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Or it might just be, like, you have to feel more comfortable to answer that question, like,
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Yeah, I feel like that's something, like, is not typical, like, first date questions.
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Usually it's, like, what's your favorite color?
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That's not really, like, something I see on, like, first dates.
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So, it's kind of like, and, you know, if it's a first date, like, I'm not sure if I
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I don't know if I would, like, feel comfortable sharing, you know, very intimate details about
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Say, for God forbid, something happened to my husband and, you know, dated somebody.
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I don't think I would want on a first date to, like, give him my whole...
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I don't think, like, it's something that I'm going, hey, like, I'm going to go on a first
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date and tell this guy my body count, but at the same time, I feel like it's unfair because,
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like, for example, you're waiting to be comfortable with them.
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What if you guys are, like, a month in, you guys aren't dating, but you guys have been talking,
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and all of a sudden you find out he has a body count of 70?
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Don't you wish you would have known that sooner before you got deeper into it?
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Um, well, it depends because in my, like, dating, I like to take things more slow rather
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than to, like, rush it, so the way that I date, I tell the guys straight up, hey, I
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just like to take things kind of slower, um, and then...
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But I'm saying for you, like, what if you fell for someone in a time span of a month,
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and you're a Christian, how would you feel if this person that you've created a relation,
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somewhat of a relationship with, all of a sudden tells you, hey, I have a 70 body count.
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Are you going to wish you knew that sooner before getting deeper in?
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Probably, but at that point, I don't think it, like, would matter if it didn't work out.
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But if I can, let's change the body count to...
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The body count isn't just about the body count.
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So it's the choices you make and the way you behave.
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So in the same sense, let's say that you get, you ask a guy, do you have a criminal record?
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And he goes, I'm not comfortable discussing that with you.
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I'll be comfortable to discuss that maybe a month or two from now.
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There really isn't a difference there because if it's something that matters and it's a personality
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indicator, it's critical to know that right off the bat because, frankly, you don't want
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to waste time with someone who doesn't align with you.
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If I like someone on the first date, like, very impressive personality, and maybe I might
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But if I meet somebody on the first date and I say something looking fishy or something,
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Well, yeah, but you already don't like the guys, so...
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If I'm really comfortable on the first date, then, yeah, I might share that, so...
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But I think what we're getting at here is it's seeing...
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If they ask the question, are you going to feel upset that they asked it?
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I might feel a little uncomfortable, but I would probably answer it.
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Like, if that was a deal-breaker for him, and if that was serious, then, yeah, I would
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I think he just wants evidence of your self-control.
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It wasn't just, like, that you would feel discomfort with it.
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You specifically wrote you don't agree with asking people if they're a virgin right away.
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You have an actual issue with the question itself being asked.
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Um, it's not necessarily, like, an issue asking it.
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I mean, you pointed out that it perhaps is a bit not normal.
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But actually, I mean, I can't actually see any objection.
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Look, if you're dating intentionally, and you're like, I'm trying to see if you're going
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to be a future girlfriend, I understand, like, you know, to be fair, though, I mean, just
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thinking about it in my head, you know, maybe there's not, there's certain questions you're
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I would say important and hard questions right up front.
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I feel like it's better to not waste your time.
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If it's something that's important to you, and it's potentially a deal breaker, like,
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You want to have kids, you want to get married.
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On a first date, you're not, probably not planning to have kids, like, anytime soon, but I think
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And if they say no, that's a complete misalignment.
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You probably want to, why would you continue dating them?
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So like for, in this case, it's like they're perhaps asking the question, because if it's
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important to them, they, I mean, it's maybe you want to date them, and this revelation
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But wouldn't you want to get out sooner rather than later?
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Like if there's something about me, uh, that would be a problem for a woman, I'd rather
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So for me, I just kind of want to get, I want to know the details.
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I'm going to, one day I'm going to show my, my girlfriend application.
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You know, I'm asking, I think I'm asking way more invasive questions.
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She's on fucking psycho, whatever the, psycho, what the, um,
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psychotropic, no, not, not, not psychedelic.
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Like if you, like for example, if a woman has schizophrenia, I think I'd rather know
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up front, but like, I feel like if you don't ask that, maybe you can tell, I guess, but
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We have a very mentally healthy panel, I guess.
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Uh, we have a, hold on, uh, TTS here coming in right away from Brian.
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Do you value honesty and people being up front with you?
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Ask and answer the hard questions on the first date.
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Look, I get that it can feel a bit like interrogation or interviewee or autistic to like ask some
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I get that like the vibe or whatever, you know, the vibe.
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Yeah, if it's important and look, people are busy, who wants to waste time?
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Like, well, I'm going to take a girl on four dates, pay for the, by the way, it's an interesting
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Now, so now it's like both of you are investing your time, but from the male perspective,
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it's not, look, I mean, depends on what kind of expectations, what kind of lifestyle you're
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But from the guy's perspective, it's like, it's not just his time.
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But even just from time perspective, like I'd rather a red flag or a deal breaker surface
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immediately than it surfaced six months into a relationship.
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I spent, I gave this guy three years from, I gave him my best years and deal breaker two
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So in an arranged marriage setup, like Indian arranged marriage, you have a-
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This applies to like 0.0001% of the population in the United States.
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She has to, she's got to take a genetic test.
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She's got to take, I'm going to, in fact, I'm adding IQ test.
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I'm, she's got to do the water level test.
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All the girls, I printed this on the back of the questionnaires, guys.
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I don't know if you guys are familiar with the water level test.
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I think I'm going to have my, you know, girlfriend prospects do that.
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So, you know, like, then I realized, yes, is in India, we use all the, before even the
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girls and the boy meet, we check, okay, what's the color of the girl?
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The caste, is it the caste system or is that something else?
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But you're saying how great the system is and you have two arranged marriages that are
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You know, like, I like American system, to be honest.
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There's 1.4 million, billion, excuse me, 1.4 billion people in India.
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I think India's a little bit ahead in population.
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And I wonder if that 3.40 is factoring in legal immigrants as well.
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So one of my husband's, like, my, I hit above my, like, he's way better than me in every
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But one of his things when he told me, and a lot of girls are going to come for me for
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this, or come for him for this, was one of his requirements was that I had to lose weight.
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And he, deadass, looked at me and said, I, if you want to, if I have to spend the rest
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of my life with you, you're going to have to lose weight.
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So he said, wait, he was like dating you though?
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So he was, and he was like, yo, listen, you kind of fat.
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But his exact words were, because I remember we were in a restaurant and a firefighter
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And he looked at her and he looked at me and he said, if I'm going to spend the rest of
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my life with you, you're going to have to give me something to look at.
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I don't even think I could get away with that.
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Like, like, why not, but why not just start out with a skinny woman?
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Like, if you're going to pick, like, go on the date, like, were you catfishing?
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Then why did he, if it's important to him, I mean, good for you though that you've lost
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It's because I had all, like, I had all the aspects that he wanted.
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I was very, I gave him all of, like, everything that he wanted.
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You said yourself, Brian, though, that men will sleep with a woman and not necessarily go
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And he said, if we want to go all the way and if you want me to really take you serious,
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If he goes, I mean, whether he's saying it that way and getting to the point or going,
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hey, babe, like, maybe we should go take a walk together.
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And I think the fact that you accepted it means that you knew it, too, that you weren't giving
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yourself as much as you could and that you wanted to do better for you, too.
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And I had more value in my, like, I felt my self-worth was more after that because I had
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tried so hard to lose the weight, be a better person, go to church, all of that.
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And he is the most wonderful person you'll ever meet.
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And to carry a baby, you know, if you are fit, then it's easier to carry the babies.
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Like, as much as we have this modern thing where women are saying, I love the fact that
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I'm fat, all the women who, celebrity-wise, that say that they love that they're fat got
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on GLP-1s and are now some of the skinniest broads you see.
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So, I mean, if we're really being honest, and I'm speaking to someone where I understand
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But I also know that when I did lose weight, and I lost 80 pounds and unfortunately put it
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back on, when I lost that weight, I feel better about myself in every way.
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So, to absolutely say, like I said, him pushing you there, I mean, you're stunning.
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And because, I mean, it wasn't just the weight thing.
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It was, like, changing my entire life around and losing the weight.
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Like, in a way that I never thought I could see in a man.
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So, I mean, it may not be the nicest way to say something, but it got me to where I am.
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We met each other on Discord playing video games.
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And you're going to find a 240-pound woman.
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And the first date, what you're going to do, just so romantic, she's going to swoon after this.
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You're going to call her fat and be like, listen, you want a piece of this?
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Yeah, but that is not going to fly for like 90 minutes.
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But like my, you have to understand that men are not, like when they're really, really nice and they say stuff to you that sounds so perfect, that's not a man.
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A man is direct and they need to get whatever it is out.
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If you want something with them, you have to allow them to be able to say what they have and not be all emotional about it.
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Because they know, and I think Brian can agree, they know that sometimes when they say something, it doesn't come out the way that they want it to, but they mean well.
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You kind of just got to accept that and maybe just ask, like, wait.
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Did y'all, you know, have, it was the first date he said that?
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We had been dating for, I think it was like, oh, like a month.
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Had you guys been intimate though, prior to this, the statement?
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Well, he, he was basically like, I can't do this.
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I think that's an even better test than the bow.
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If a woman's willing to go through that, that's your ride or die.
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Not a lot of women are going to be okay with that.
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What percentage of women don't have some degree of like.
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Insecurity about something to do with their body?
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It shows a level of devotion from the woman, right?
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I know that we talk about how men like younger women.
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That they can improve and mold into the woman that they want.
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Because they can control a broken woman more.
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I guess we're going to move on to next topic here.
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Because someone from your past came back into your life.
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They were just like random little things I threw out.
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Talking stage where the guy was totally playing you.
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I'm not sure if you're asking me a specific question.
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Would that still have not been acceptable to you.
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That's just a bad picture of you in actual life.
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And I looked like the dad from Stranger Things.
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The guy that I was in that situationship with was Asian.
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I don't find Asian men attractive usually.
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The way that they look is just too feminine for me.
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Especially like the K-pop people I find very gross.
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I could never see myself getting married to one.
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Well, for example, historically, you, like 300 years ago, wherever you were living, there
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Especially like if you were in China, Korea, Japan.
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Unless you were like were in port and there was like American Dutch traders coming or some
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And I was like, I feel like it would be like if you were just not attracted to.
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Like you just exit yourself out of the gene pool, basically.
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Like a lot of people like to tell me like I'm being racist to my own race.
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I think people can have racial preferences when it comes to dating.
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I'm not, I'm not putting that label on, but I think, and obviously we don't live in a
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We live in a modern setting, especially in America, multiculturalism.
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There's, there's black people, white people, Arabic people, you know, all kinds of skin
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So there's no shortage of opportunity to date outside of your race.
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But it does occur to me from like a more analytical perspective that it would be historically in
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If you didn't find your own race attractive, it would be pretty somewhat dysfunction.
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No, actually I'm the most attracted towards Indian men still, but I don't trust them.
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Uh, and you said you don't date Asian guys too?
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You know, like, yeah, you know, I'm related to every Asian.
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Well, yeah, I've, I've heard that from some Asian women.
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And I have a brother and I do not want to do that.
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But don't you think that'd be like, don't Asian men have.
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I'm going to go somewhere with the, that thing.
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If I have any further thoughts on the race thing.
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Maybe we've got to pass them to the Asian girls.
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Thank you for the gifted 10 over there on Twitch.
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Also, the first picture I don't think looks like me, but okay.
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Can you eat the chocolate and then pocket the wrapper, please?
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Does anybody have any disagreements about anything?
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Any disagreements from anybody on any other topics?
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Otherwise, I have further show notes to get into.
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I was going to get into something from you, if I recall.
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Like, give me the bullet point version super quick again for the new people who joined.
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Ex-boyfriend came in me, ejaculated in me.
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I went to current boyfriend, and he ate the ejaculation from me.
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You think things should be equal in a relationship.
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You said never 50-50, but 100% from both parties.
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So when you say things should be equal in a relationship, what do you mean?
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I just mean, like, you know, just reciprocation, I guess.
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What do you guys think about if there's a disagreement?
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Who do you think, if you even think this, should lead that situation?
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Like, just like, just like a friend that knows a little bit into the relationship.
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Personally, I'm, when I'm in a relationship, I'm friends with their friends.
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Like, it's a whole friend group as soon as we, like, start.
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Y'all, like that Spice Girl song, if you want to be my lover.
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I think you gotta delay the meeting the friends for very long.
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I don't agree on telling your business to your friends.
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And I also don't believe that 100% from both parties at all time is possible.
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Well, it would have to, like, there would have to be communication in that, like, if
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you're not fully at 100%, let's say you're 30, like, I can do more for you in that relationship,
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Because, obviously, no one's going to be at their 100% every single day.
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I just think, like, you have to be able to find the balance between both of them and
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And if a man wants to, you know, help out, sure, I guess.
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They're my half-siblings, so that's what I grew up with.
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Can I share something about observations from...
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Oh, well, we got Vietnamese woman here, too.
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My own anecdotal experience, when it comes to the Asian women, the Vietnamese and the
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You know, with the Chinese, the Mongolians, of course, is very pleasant.
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Isn't that a common conception within the Asian community, that there's actually the most
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racism in any community is Asians against other Asians, and that Japanese and Chinese
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are determined to be, like, superior than, like, Thai, Filipino, or Vietnamese?
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And I'm speaking from things I've heard from other people.
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But I've heard that that's actually a thing within Asian communities.
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Well, colorism is really big within Asian communities, just like how her metric is.
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Like, although I think toxism is just individual.
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By the way, I'm not saying all Vietnamese women and Filipinas are toxic.
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Yeah, and my aunt is Vietnamese, and she's not as toxic as my mother is.
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I think it's just more like woman within the Philippines, Vietnam, and then honestly kind
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I think it's just more Southeast Asian woman or more vocal.
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And I think that's where the toxicity comes from.
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I feel like women within Southeast Asia are more vocal because they have to do so much
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within even like in Asia itself, and even when they come to America, they do so much
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that they have to feel like their voice is being heard.
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Well, I also think like historically, you have to consider the fact that, you know, you had
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like Japanese, Korean, Chinese immigration under different circumstances than, for example,
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like Vietnamese, a lot of Vietnamese immigrants were fleeing under like war-torn country circumstances.
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So I think, I don't know, I'm just kind of blabbering a little bit.
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But look, I'm, by the way, no shade, no shade, just saying.
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But anecdotally, I've, by the way, I've known some very pleasant Filipino women, known
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I mean, I did have a toxic Vietnamese ex, though.
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Hey, at least I'm willing to date an Asian.
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I found one that I would, but I never did anything.
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Yeah, because white guys never date Asian women.
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Okay, I'll do that, but I won't date them.
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I'll, you know, it's you, you guys are so, you guys are really toxic here towards Asian
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By the way, just to be clear, just to be clear, because I feel like I'm about to be labeled
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I mostly date white women and Latinas and Asian women.
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I feel like white women are more toxic than, they're like the most toxic.
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Just to be clear, you can find toxicity everywhere.
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I've known plenty of toxic white women, Latina women.
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I feel like men seek out Asians because they're less toxic than white women.
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Like you said, Asian men are more feminine.
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And it's not just looks-wise, it's culturally as well.
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It's more acceptable to be feminine in quite a few cultures currently.
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Like we want like rough hands and we want that kind of thing.
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So, and men want feminine and tiny and like I could throw her around and you're gonna find
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I don't know if I agree that you might make the argument in terms of physical appearance, but
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in terms of personality, I don't know if I would agree.
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By the way, there's like a book, like Asians are very varied culturally.
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Like, you know, China, Korea, Japan, Vietnam, Thailand, Cambodia, you know, there's plenty
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of other countries, Philippines, Singapore, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera.
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There's like these cultures definitely differ quite substantially.
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I, you know, I'm curious when it comes to Chinese men, for example, I don't know if it's
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actually the case that you could say that Chinese men are less masculine than the
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Well, are you talking about the Chinese American or are you talking about Chinese men?
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Well, I, and I don't know, do you go to China or visit China?
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Yeah, I don't, I don't think I would necessarily agree.
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Like my dad, for example, I think is a very masculine man.
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My impression of many Asian cultures and Chinese culture is it's a bit more traditional.
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Which would probably, I would suspect, perhaps lean more, I mean, but then you hear about,
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you know, there's the tiger moms, or I don't know the exact term, where like the moms are
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kind of a little bossy and dominant, and I think you see that sometimes in Japan, where
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they'll like the, the, the Japanese wives kind of a little bossy with the husbands.
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So I've heard, of course, I'm sure that's not the case for all dynamics, but I think
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that in many Asian countries, there's a more traditional dynamic, whereas here you have
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like boss babes, super liberal women who are handpacking the men, and you've got like soy
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boy, like, I don't know, are they, wait, hold on, I was about to say that people be changing
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gender here, but then I, I did remember about Thailand.
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And you're also like, in California though, like California men are very different than
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Like they're definitely a lot more, like coming from the Midwest, like Midwestern men are still
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Like some farm boys, way different than California dudes.
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I saw that thing, like a guy was doing an interview with a bunch of Chinese women.
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They were saying that, I mean, correct me if I'm wrong, but they were saying that like
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men from China, like in China are more cold than most men.
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Like they're more standoffish, they're more like.
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I think Asian men in general is, Asian culture in general doesn't really accept mental health
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Yeah, I think, I think a lot of our men need more of that because it's, it's not, it's not
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Uh, um, you wrote that you, you personally think most women, your words, not mine.
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Uh, most women are immature and are stupid, sadly.
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There are only a few women you can sit back and appreciate, appreciate sight.
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I can, I can appreciate a man's work ethic more than a woman.
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Women just do way too much and cannot take accountability for anything.
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Therefore, if the woman can't take accountability, she shouldn't be in a relationship.
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Most likely they're going to push their insecurity onto the man, which usually makes the man look
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And she'll just play victim and blame everything on the man instead of reflecting, not reflecting
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I think you should maybe apologize to all the women here for what you just said.
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Because sitting back, you know, like if I got to know you, then that obviously would
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I just have a very, like, I just keep this facade for everyone that like, it's just a
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lot of women, especially on the show, like you guys see it, you know, like, exactly.
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And I, and it doesn't go for, that's why I said it doesn't go for every single woman
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out there because if you know yourself and you know that, that comment wouldn't bother
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Would you say, could you relate it more to people your age versus women overall?
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I just, I honestly wrote that because when I was in high school, they had asked me a
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Do you think a woman should become president or can be president?
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Like, and I, I went to a pretty liberal school while I transferred.
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But I just was like, women, like sometimes when they're under pressure, they don't think
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I can admit that I can do things based on emotion.
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And I think it's great that like a young, like a young woman says it because the problem
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They're the ones that are setting the course for.
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They've got their cats and their wine and their, with their weed or whatever.
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And they, you know, I wasn't talking about you specifically, but I literally heard middle-aged
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women sit there and go, age is just a number.
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And I've watched other women sit there and tell younger women, well, just go out, live
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your life, go and ride the carousel as much as you can.
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And it completely sabotages younger women from getting.
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Like, and my, and I remember like it was go to college, go to, you know, go and get an
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A man, a man's not going to want you if you, if you work, like you're never, a man is never
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You have to, no one ever told, like I'm a millennial and nobody's ever told me that
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men just want a nice girl, a complacent girl.
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And had somebody had told me in my twenties that all I had to do was be pretty and nice
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and I could just write out that my life doing my nails and taking care of my children and
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homeschooling them, my life would have been a lot different than I wouldn't have made
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So good on you for being so young and like actually recognizing that, that women are
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That's why I actively, I will, I will say that millennial women are a problem.
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That's why I actively started watching this show.
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Like I see why the aim of the show is to make women aware, not just women, but make people
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And I really do hope that people who are younger learn that lesson because it can get to the
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It really can get to that point where, oh shit, it's too late.
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I know a millennial, she went on vacation and she talked about going to a cave party.
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Like no one wants to see you dance around in a bikini.
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It's like, honestly, for me to look at that, it's, well, it's so pathetic.
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I mean, I mean, somebody who has the word stepmom in their search history wants to see that.
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And I think more young women should take that on and accept, because that, like you said,
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They can just go, eh, well, you know, he was mean to me.
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He said a naughty thing to me, so I don't have to, like, I don't have to accept that.
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Everything is abuse when it comes to women.
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And the women that say that they've been abused in these relationships are people who have never
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Like they, they don't even know the half of it when people are actually staying and being
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It's so, no, and it's like the thing my husband said to me, right?
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Like a lot of women would look at that and go, wow, he's abusive.
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And I, it's not that it's, he wanted what was best for me.
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And yeah, I think a lot of millennial women should just kind of take the, I have a question
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since the topic of abuse came up, I have a question and it's not, it's not a heavy
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question or anything, uh, I, I had a girl, I think it was a couple of shows ago, ask me,
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uh, I do pretty well, but she would ask me and you know, I would like to, uh, whoever
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I'm with long-term, she doesn't have to work.
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Um, but she asked, well, what would that entail?
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Like what if your girlfriend wants a luxury bag?
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Uh, well, let me, let me tell you, let me ask the question first and I'll, do you guys
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Let's say I'm got a, you know, long-term girlfriend.
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If I don't buy my girlfriend, a Louis Vuitton purse?
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Well, he's saying that he supports her and financially supports her.
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So like, as far as like the buy it yourself thing, that's not an option.
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I think that if her biggest priority is getting a bag, she should re-evaluate her priorities
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How about, how about, I'm trying to think of another example I could give.
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Like if you get yourself nice things and won't get her something nice.
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I buy myself a McLaren or Ferrari, but she gets a Toyota.
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Like she wants to start doing something where the supplies and the stuff to do it would be
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Does it contribute to anything like as far as their living?
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Because I, this girl, you know, we were talking about it.
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And she got, I would say, oh, I'd get her a bag at Costco or Amazon.
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If you have style, you can rock that Amazon bag just as good as you can rock that Louis bag.
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But, I guess, from my perspective, it's, even if I could afford it, I would, and I'm fully providing, I'm taking care of everything, I would still want authority over purchases.
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I mean, not in totality, but, okay, you want to spend, like, if my girlfriend were to come to me and I'm taking care of everything, oh, I want a $3,000 bag.
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Because my dad is the only moneymaker in our family.
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Oh, you're, wait, you said your mom was kind of toxic or, switches, please.
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So, I asked my second husband that my wedding ring, because this is America, I need it prettier, you know?
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And I say, if you want, I can buy from India from my own money, because I have money in India.
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And he got, like, I don't know what metal it was, like, $200.
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So, you know, do you think this is a financial abuse?
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He don't let me spend my own money and what I want to wear every day as a sign of a marriage.
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You said that he won't let you spend your own money.
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I will say this, and apologies, I'm speaking to someone who's not married.
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But when you get married, the point is that it's not your money or his money.
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But he said, do not buy clothes for my daughter, because it's my daughter, not his.
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It's from my own salary also, like, whatever joint account.
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Lisa, you wrote, when your ex cheated, then went to jail the same day?
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He went to jail for punching someone, and then the person went into the hospital.
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You have other interesting opinions you share on the podcast.
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You believe, your word's not mine, you believe women should be stay at home and help their husbands.
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You're a Christian, so you're traditional.
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You don't think women should be pastors and speak in the church.
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You say women belong at home, married with kids, not working full time, and men should provide and protect.
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Even churches have embraced the modern too much to the point that there's female pastors, and you don't agree with that.
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You think society needs to regress women, women belong in the kitchen, making our husbands a sandwich.
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Like, me personally, I do want to work, not full time, but, like, I want to cook, I want to clean, I want to take care of kids, but I would also like to have a job as well, just because I feel like me personally, I would get bored from just, not bored, but as fulfilling as that would be, I think it would also be cool to have a job.
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Isn't that a really good example of wanting it all, though?
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Like, the pie is only so big, you can only cut so many pieces out of it.
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Yeah, but it's, like, even, like, I mean, I joke about it with my boyfriend all the time, like, yeah, I don't, like, I just want to sit at home on my ass and do nothing, but it's, like, he would also, like, say, me and him do get married, he would also want me working.
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So if you're, again, okay, imagine there's a pie, and you cut out a slice, and that pie is your time, and you cut out a slice for your husband, of course, I'm making the food analogy.
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You cut out a slice for your husband, you cut out a slice for your children, if you're cutting a slice for a job, your husband and your child are getting less of a slice.
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Well, that's why at one point you'll have to get to a place where your job is making money without you fully being there for it.
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Exactly, and, like, for example, like, I want to be, like, a teacher.
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When I'm teaching, my kids are going to be in school.
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If you have the kids, and you have the husband, teach Sunday school.
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I mean, I help assist teaching Sunday school at my church, and it wouldn't take me away from that.
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It would be something you do one day a week, and you still get that fulfillment, and you still get that ability to teach.
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Yeah, like, I want to be a teacher, but as, like, a teacher, like, yeah, I need to prep, and all of that is going to take time as well.
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Like, I'm not going to nurture my husband or my children less because I also.
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And again, I don't want to speak about something I don't understand.
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So I'm going to ask the people here that have children, even when your children get older, could you still find the time to do it all?
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Personally, I mean, I, when I graduated from college, I had to go find a job, you know, being straight out of school.
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But my ultimate goal was to be a stay-at-home mom.
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And that's what I did for the, you know, the first several years of our marriage.
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And so financially, I had to go back to work when my son was, like, three.
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And so now I am very fortunate to have a job where I am working from home.
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So I am at home if the kids need me, if one's home sick from school or something like that.
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So I don't feel necessarily like I'm taking time away from my kids or my husband.
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I feel like everybody feels that their needs are met.
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You know, my house isn't as clean as I would like for it to be, maybe.
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When I was growing up, you know, my only dream was having a husband.
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And my grandma, you know, taught me all the things to be a perfect wife.
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So my only dream is I will be having an arranged marriage.
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My husband will be as good as my father, you know, like my father with my mom.
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And then I will be just sitting and not doing anything, raising kids, taking care of guests and house.
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But what happened is during my first marriage, my father asked that you got a job offer.
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Can you ask your to-be husband and in-laws that are you allowed to be work?
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So now when I'm working, because they like me to work because they want extra money,
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but my husband will not contribute equally in home, you know, like they say, Indian men
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doesn't work, do the house stuff, you know, like raising kids or anything.
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So then I say husband and wife should complement each other.
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If a woman is just like house maker, then husband should do all the other responsibilities.
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If woman is 50, like doing job as well as taking care, husband should also.
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But they both should complement each other, like to be a perfect couple, you know.
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Yeah, like if me getting a job would affect my family, then obviously I'm not going to.
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But if like everything, like it works, then it works.
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And I don't want to say that I'm taking the stance of like don't work.
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I'm just saying that like knowing that you're a little bit younger, are you doing the same
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I'll tell you, as a mom that does work, a married woman that did work and had three
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kids, choosing to go to work is probably the worst thing you can do for your children.
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It's the worst thing you can do for your children because they don't take on your personality.
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They take on the government's values and whatever they decide to put in your school.
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So my children are now products of the government because I made a choice.
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So I had to, my son who's 17, I had to take him away from everything like technology, electronics,
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this and that, and really force him back into my values.
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Because he believed in the whole like men can be women, blah, blah, blah, blah, all that
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crap that all came out of the public schools.
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So I'm telling you as a mom who sent her three children to public schools, it's not a good
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As a person with a stay at home mom, it was probably the most miserable thing ever.
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It made me and my siblings lives probably like if she had a job, I believe our entire
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But do you think you're going to be like your mother?
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So you'll probably be a better mother than her.
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But like, I feel like, like what you're saying is like principles, like how are you going to
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What are they not going to believe right from wrong?
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Like, I feel like that, like definitely has a play in how like there you are, but at
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the same time, it's like, are you saying it's because she was a helicopter mom that was overbearing
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or are you saying it's because she wasn't fulfilled and took it out on y'all?
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She wasn't fulfilled and took it out on all of us.
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But like you say, like you admit that you're not going to be like your mother, right?
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And then you can, you know, you can kind of build off that.
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But as like, I can tell you, and living in Canada, obviously it's not the same as living
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in America, but in Canada, there are things that we are not like, if my son comes home
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and says, I'm a girl, we're not allowed to tell him no, we have to affirm it.
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The government should not be stepping into that because they will take your kid and put
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So that's why I'm saying like, it's so important that your values go into your children than
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the government's values going into your children.
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You already said you're not going to be like your mother.
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So I, I mean, I would definitely maybe seek out someone that can provide your young, your
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beautiful, you can seek out somebody good enough.
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And that can provide, so you can stay at home with the children.
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Trust me, it's more fulfilling than working 40 hours a week.
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Let's say, you know, you, you end up with your current boyfriend or whatever, you guys
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get married and, uh, let's say he becomes, I don't know, either through his job or some
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other way, very wealthy to the point where financially speaking, you don't have to work,
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uh, under that sort of circumstance where it wasn't a financial decision, would you, and
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That's why I'm saying if my family will prosper still from me working, if it's going to
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deteriorate my family, then one hundred percent, I'm not going to do it.
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And like I said, like, that's why I went back to work.
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It's because financially, I, we, we, I had to, yeah, if I, if, if we could, you know,
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be financially well off where I didn't have to work, yeah, my butt would be at the house.
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I would be cleaning and cooking and, and, and actually, to your point, like you were talking
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about the schools, we actually homeschool our daughter.
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My, my, my, my younger son, he is still in public school, but you know, where I am, they're
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And he's actually talked to me about staying at home to do homeschooling.
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I'm just like, uh, I think you want to do that just so you can wake up later in Canada.
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Like it's like, if you're living off, if there's only one income in the house, like you're killing
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Like it's just not, no, it's not feasible in Canada.
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In India, like we have so many maids and servants and drivers, like my mom had three kids, but
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Like when, when I had my daughter, I have all the help.
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Otherwise, you know, all the family members and maids and servants, they were, so it's
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so easy, you know, you just going to, I guess, to your notes, Priyanka, you did write,
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You said a lot of conversations around women's issues are centered only on the, the United
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States, but women's struggles are also deeply shaped by culture, family systems, and traditions
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Like when I married and came to America, I thought he has American mentality, not India,
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but his, his mom came to our house and say, why my son is doing the dishes.
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The man in my house doesn't do dishes, but I say, I'm also a software engineer as your,
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you know, and I have a daughter also to take care of.
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So, you know, sometimes even it's, it's culturally sometimes very difficult.
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Well, it is a difficult position where both people are working and then I do it all.
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I cook, like I clean, I cook, I take care of my son.
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Like if he calls me up and says, Hey, I need this.
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Well, I mean, like, I'm actually going to Scotland to go and coach the rugby.
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And I feel like, like from the sounds of it, your family, is your family doing worse because
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you're working or are you, like, are you guys in a good position?
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We're in a, we're in a fantastic position, but I feel like my, my husband's an electrician.
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So let's say if we were in Florida, he would be probably making, doing, be doing better,
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like be able to support me, which it's like, that's not what our plan is, but like, he would
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But Canada takes a lot of taxes, a lot of taxes, but yeah, no, like I, why can't you do
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I'm going to blow up his spot a little bit, but like, I left for a week cause I had a,
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And, uh, I come back home and he's like, I bought dishwasher, dishwasher pods or whatever.
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My husband is so out of the loop when it comes to cleaning that he can't even, he can't even
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I don't even like for my husband to load the dishwasher.
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Well, he's not even that he'll pick up the broom and I'm immediately insulted that he
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Like my husband, I make his tea every single night before he goes to bed.
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Because you know, uh, when we were talking initially on the matrimonial app, uh, we had the
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same conversation, you know, like if I'm, uh, I'm working, will you share the responsibility?
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Because growing up, I never did dishes or anything.
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I grew up in a business class family with a joint family of people.
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I learned to do everything, cooking, cleaning, stewing, whatnot.
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But it's just the shared responsibility because see, I have a full-time software engineer job
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I'm going to just get a sugar mama and she can still do all the work.
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She can work and she still has to come home.
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Well, like I came out here and whenever I have to go on trips for work, like I'm out
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I don't want my family to feel my absence as much as possible.
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So before I actually go on these trips, I will prep their meals.
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Their dinners for this week are ready in the fridge and all you got to do.
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He told you guys your age, uh, thought a certain way.
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So you were, were you in college when you met him or?
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And he was the, he was the football coach at that college?
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He was actually the football coach at my college.
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So no, actually it was really, it was really interesting how it all started.
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So, um, I went to a very small college and he was the football coach and, um, he was actually
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I was engaged at the time to like my high school boyfriend and I was doing work study
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And I remember like his ex-wife at the time, well, ex-wife, wife at the time would come
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up and she would like see him, have lunch with him or whatever.
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I even offered like, Hey, if you all want to go out on a date, I'll, I'll babysit your
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She ended up, uh, leaving and moving back cause they're from South Carolina.
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Um, he and I became friends and then he got a job back in South Carolina to try to get,
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be closer to his son cause he didn't want to be four states away.
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Oh, I thought you were right for moving your hand.
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We ended up like staying in touch and started a long distance relationship after they got
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a divorce and 20 years later and three, two kids were, we're here.
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Well, so you said women need to remain pure as long as possible, preferably until marriage
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Yeah, there are actually, um, it's, there's, um, there are studies that have been shown
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that the higher, the body count, the higher your risk of cervical cancer, HPV and things
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And so it's not, I mean, for me, it's more morality, but for others, it's, there's also
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Just curious who here is a, uh, Christian who's Christian.
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Oh, you're Christian, Christian, Christian, Christian.
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I don't get the impression, but, uh, not that, not that that's any shade, but, uh, okay.
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Nicole, uh, to you, uh, so you're waiting until marriage.
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Um, we covered some of that earlier on in the show.
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Uh, but I mean, you've, what's the definition of a date?
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Well, I mean, like when I say the term date, people want to map on that.
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You're hanging on individually one-on-one with a guy you like.
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That's, that's like women will do this thing where it's like, oh, I've never dated, but
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Um, but you've had some situationships short term.
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Uh, why do you think it's short-lived with a lot of these guys?
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But like, why do you, were the guys just, it was them?
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He was just pulling me away from them and dragging, like just dragging me away from them.
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Um, whether there was like a different situation where there, we just didn't vibe, I guess.
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But, uh, did you like go into those relationships seeking like an actual long-term thing?
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And I was seeking validation and love in all the wrong places.
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You did write here, uh, actually, can I, the, you sent a, I don't want to like, you sent a message about someone, can I share it, or you prefer not?
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You said you wanted to shoot your shot with Chase, who's been on the show previously, but only if he's single.
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I, I spoke to him, uh, geez, it's been a couple months since I spoke to him.
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I don't know what his current relationship status is.
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Actually, you know what, before we get into the notes, I want to do some questionnaire stuff
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because, no offense to everyone, the questionnaire stuff's a bit more interesting.
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Uh, going around the table, what is the minimum yearly income to be your future husband?
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Um, 250K, though, that is, I think, to be top 1%, it's 400,000.
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I think I said 50, but honestly, as long as it's an honest job, I don't really care.
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I mean, um, if I fell for someone, and if he's a really good guy, then it's negotiable.
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But at least whatever I am making, but ideally, like, half a million.
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Now, when you say if he's a really good guy, because you said if he's a really good guy,
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But, but you wouldn't date a guy who works at McDonald's, correct?
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So, it's, you would go lower, but I'm suspecting it would still be.
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With living in New York, I tried to pick a number that was a little bit lower than mine,
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Uh, you said you think it's realistic to want a husband that can provide.
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If you do want to take on the role of staying at home, be a stay-at-home wife, uh, the husband
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Yeah, because he will be at least three years, something elder than me, so when I will be
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Like, it all depends on what he is, you know, if he's completely in love with me.
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You gotta make, you gotta make half a mil a year to, oh man.
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Do you think a man that makes 500K is going to want a 47-year-old single mom?
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I mean, that's why I'm not even looking for marriage.
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Somebody who makes 500K is going to go for, like...
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Unless she did, you have to go into, like, the 60s, 70s, 80s.
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Actually, like, my colleagues in my office, that's the reference, you know?
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Like, in software company, they're not dating you, right?
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And, like, somebody in California is easily making 500 if he's in...
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Let's just say, like, let's say 20% of the men were making 500K.
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What makes them want a 47-year-old woman, single mom, and couldn't get a woman that's 25, 30, you know?
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Like, you can't have kids anymore, I'm guessing.
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Like, a man that makes 500K, I'm sorry, doesn't want a woman that's 47.
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My father was industrialist, so I came up from a very wealthy family.
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So, when my father was looking a guy for me, I said, I do not want a man with money.
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Even if we take the kid part out of it, which it definitely factors in, let's take the kid part out of it.
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Of your coworkers who are not single, of the men you know in software that are making that 500K, how many of them, even at your age or older, are dating or married to women in their 20s or early 30s?
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No, I know they're the same age, but they're not going after women that are in their 40s, right?
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I mean, my personal experience, a lot of colleagues did ask me.
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I feel like, say the man was like 55, would that, and he does make 500K, would that be more like...
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He's probably going to go for somebody that's in mid-30s.
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So, I said, God, if you are not able to give me love, then give me money.
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If a man is providing me romance and love and everything, I will do everything I negotiate on the money part.
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But if it's just like a arranged marriage, you know, set up, then...
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You know, if she's not good looking, she better be my fucking slave.
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I don't think you're in a position where you can negotiate.
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I'm already done marrying, so I'm not even thinking.
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But if you say, no, even today, if you don't want to marry, but what is the criteria?
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That is my current criteria, which is completely opposite to, like, what I was thinking 30 years ago.
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You were 30 years ago, and if you were asking for a man who was making 500K, you probably would have gotten that.
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Because what you were saying about men who are 55...
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So, what you were saying about men, like, what if they're, like, 55?
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Now, I'm only speaking for New York, which is different than everywhere else.
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Men at 55, I'm telling you right now, I've gone on a few dates where they've been like,
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yeah, I might settle down in, like, five years.
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I might start having kids in, like, five years, maybe.
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And if they are looking to settle down, they're like, maybe, like, a 33-year-old.
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Like, they're still trying to, like, start having kids and start having a family at,
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I think you're at a point where, you know, you may have to settle for a man that's retired.
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And I'm sorry, but, like, for someone your age and with a child, it is a big ask from
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No, I think maybe a bus driver might be an option.
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If I may make one other point, I used to work, my first office job was for a company that sold
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So, the majority of my time was working with people that were elderly.
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You say you don't want to marry, I can promise you something right now.
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You don't want to be a person that's alone in the end.
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And I'm telling you now, when you get to 65, 75, ma'am, you do not want to do it alone.
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It broke my heart to see the people who had no birdies versus the people that had somebody.
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Actually, I don't know whether you believe in astrology or not.
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So, all the astrologers to my dad told that marriage will not be successful.
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Do you believe in God or do you believe in astrology?
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It's time of birth, date of birth, place of birth.
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Astrology is very complicated than zodiac sign and just, you know, it's very complicated.
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Like, all your planet situation and all my planet situation, so it's very complicated.
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But if I were to tell you that I'm a cancer, knowing what you know about cancers, would you be like, I see that, Brian.
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If you just say cancer, then you're dividing the whole world in 12 people, right?
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If I were to tell you I'm a cancer, Jupiter rising, fucking moon...
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And you know, like, both of the marriage, I do not want to go away with that.
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It's like hands-proofed, you know, like for me.
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How do you figure God and astrology go hand in hand?
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If Pluto is not a planet anymore, do you just worship eight?
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Yeah, even we worship sun every day because that's a living proof that we have God.
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Well, that's what we're saying is that we can't...
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You're just reiterating theosophy at that point.
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And you're asking whatever astrology to give you a husband or a boyfriend or whatever,
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Well, I think it's more like she built herself to be so successful, though.
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So if that's what her goal is and then what she wants in the end.
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Yeah, I mean, she has a right to feel that way.
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I mean, you can believe in what you believe in, but that's not God, though.
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You know, I know I just needed one loving husband.
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I will not settle until all these college women around here want to get with this 36-year-old.
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It's got to be a harem, and they have to be okay with it.
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Have you ever heard the popular slang of calling something cope?
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Follow your heart, but I'm telling you now, this isn't just, like, a some people thing.
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I needed to save my daughter from both my husband.
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You have a child in your womb, and they wanted to kill.
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But the person you are also informs the person your daughter becomes, and she's still young.
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So what if she sees you going, I don't need marriage.
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Whatever happened to you before, that's before.
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But what are you planning to do for your future at this point?
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How are you going to help them when you can't...
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I'm creating an artificial intelligence-based chatbot for women's financial independence.
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Helping women be financially independent is a detriment to society.
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Financial independence doesn't mean that you have to divorce your husband or live single.
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But it means you're not dependent on your husband.
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So that is something happened to your husband one day.
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And you say, I do not have any idea what the finances are.
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And the woman, like, what she did, she went off and she got a job and stuff like that.
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But if you believe in God, you believe in one flesh.
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Like, you're supposed to depend on him financially and all of that.
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And you making women financially independent is...
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That doesn't translate into I don't need a man.
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It's just that you should be just aware of finances.
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And whenever my father is in trouble, she used to help her with that emergency fund.
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So you're saying that women should hide money from their husbands?
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Yeah, you just said earlier that it's all about honesty.
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And now you're saying it was good that she lied and deceived.
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So are you saying that women that don't work don't know anything about finances?
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That's why it doesn't matter what I help people.
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But do you think without AI, they wouldn't be able to do that?
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It's just that I am helping women one-on-one who comes to me by looking at me.
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Like, I can help a million women at a time.
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You shouldn't be telling them to be financially independent.
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My husband and I can't afford to live in Canada on, like, just on one salary.
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And if he told me tomorrow, if he had started making $250,000 and he said, I need you to
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I wouldn't go, well, I need to be financially independent.
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But if you're creating an AI chat bot to talk to people about their finances, that's taking
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that opportunity away from an actual person and that's putting these resources into, again,
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teaching a lesson that doesn't need to be taught for many people.
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And if that lesson does need to be taught, shouldn't a human being have that job and that can support
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Aren't you taking financial independence away from the humans that are doing that job right
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now by creating a bot that can do it for 10,000 people instead of 5,000 people having
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an actual job that they can make money off of it?
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It's a lot of, like, he put a pillow on my face and he sit on top of it.
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But that's the problem is you're taking your bad experiences and you're sabotaging women
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Because you're sitting and going, I've had a bad relationship.
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Therefore, you're going to have a bad relationship and you need to be independent from your husband
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No, because I've had bad experiences too with men.
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But I can tell you that I'm not financially independent from my husband, even though I
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And my husband is one of the best people on this planet, I believe.
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And telling women, younger women, that they should be financially independent because
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you had a bad experience with men is plain sabotage.
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If a woman gets cheated on, do you think that she should go out and tell every other woman
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Even, you know, my father was the best husband in the world.
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And I think there is a lot of men who is as good as my father and more good maybe than
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It's just that if a woman is stuck somewhere, she should...
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And I'm not like forcing my app to all the women in the world.
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I'm just saying the help is available to whoever wants it.
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So you're saying instead of the woman taking accountability for choosing the man that she
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chose, that she should just be financially independent and refrain from any type of responsibility, any type of accountability?
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It all depends on what woman wants to ask the app.
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It has job option, career option, education option.
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If she's in a domestic abuse situation, what she should do as a first step, a lot of women
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I don't think anyone should ask AI those things.
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You're saying you're creating a life coach, essentially, an AI life coach.
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Like I said, you're telling women that they shouldn't trust the men that they're with,
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that they should always have a backup plan, when in reality you should be telling women
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In her defense, like in other cultures, or even within her case, she was in an arranged
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Not everyone has the ability to choose the right man.
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So I feel like it genuinely is a privilege to be able to be married to someone that loves
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you and want to provide for you and take care of you.
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No, I'm just saying, like, I think within her perspective, it's more like she just wants
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to create an outing for a woman who doesn't have that choice.
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There are outs, no matter what, there is an out.
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And like I was saying, like, well, yes, because you can call the cops.
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Well, we're talking specifically about America.
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That she was in India and that's what happened to her.
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He said that he hate my daughter because of her skin color.
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But because of your culture, they chose your husband, right?
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Okay, so, but you're telling Western women based on your experience with your culture.
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But domestic abuse also happens within America as well.
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And I understand that, like, from an outsider point of view, that it's like, oh, you could always call the cops.
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But I feel like when you are within that situation, there's so much that goes within it.
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And, like, there's just, like, you could, you can feel like you want to call the cops or your child or life is in danger, for example.
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I agree that people can be in really scary situations that they feel that they can't escape.
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If they're in that terrible of a situation, do you think AI is going to help them?
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But you didn't know the architecture of my AI at all, you know?
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Because I believe that human capital is more valuable than AI, no matter how good the architecture of the AI is.
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The other day I asked ChatGPT how old, this is like a week ago, I said, how old was Joe Biden when he left office?
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Like, yo, that's some weird wishful thinking, ChatGPT.
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Going back to what you were saying, there is a way out, okay?
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I was in, as a child, I was in a very difficult situation.
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There was people that went and saw her and all of that.
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You always have a choice to get out of the situation.
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But there's never a situation that you can't get out of.
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Did your mother have the financial stability to be able to get out of that situation?
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But at the same time, a lot of people also feel like it's a burden to ask for help from their family.
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But the conversation of financial stability, and again, I'm not speaking for the entire world.
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Any sort of financial situation, there are sources to resolve that.
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And I'm not even talking about government sources.
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I'm talking about churches, community, nonprofits.
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Like, there are so many of those from every angle that if you put in a little bit of footwork, that financial, even when you were talking earlier about being pro-choice, that financial break, that gap can be filled by these programs.
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And I'm speaking as someone who, fortunately, thank God, I have an amazing job right now that I can provide for myself.
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And I got out of it based on the decisions I made for myself and the work that I put in and not selling myself short.
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But here in America, there are resources to help you and save you and push you forward, even without leaning into shitty, badly run government ones.
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Yes, but also, like, the thing within, like, Asian culture, for example, it's just, even if you are no longer within Asia, it's still ingrained within you, like, to not ask for help.
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A divorce is also, like, looked down upon within Asian culture, for example.
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I'm working with other NGOs, and they are feeding information to my AI.
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So I am working with all other nonprofits, you know?
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No, but in the West, it doesn't matter what culture you are, there is a way out.
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And if you're married and you're in that sort of situation, I don't know how far I can go in this situation, the husband pays an alimony, right?
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It's whether or not you want to take the accountability for it.
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And what I mean by accountability is you chose the wrong man.
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And I hear what you're saying about it being harder.
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There's also other cultures, including very traditional Christian cultures, who, I mean, if you look at Catholics, like, divorce is a sin.
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So, but still, it's harder, but it's still a choice.
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So, so if you see what she's saying, like, at least here, even if it's hard, the choice is still there.
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Well, even in Christianity, even way back when, what would happen is that, like, if there was a situation like that, the woman was removed or whatever, the man was ostracized from the, from the community that he was, like, thrown out of the church.
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Nobody talked to him, and he still had to pay the woman.
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They were still married, but they still had to, he had to pay a certain amount and stuff like that.
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There's bad men in the world, and there's bad women in the world, too.
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And at some point, we both, like, as women, we have to take responsibility for that.
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I know that you could, like, let's say he abuses you.
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Yes, what he did was wrong, but I chose that man, and I should have chose better for me, is what I'm saying.
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You've got to take some responsibility, and then after that, you're able to grow from that.
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But then taking that experience and telling women that, well, you know, you can be financially independent if something bad happens.
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I also have one non-profit, Jess, as the other.
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So women will go to these non-profits when they needed it.
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I'm not asking, like, everybody has to use this AI.
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Only the woman who is coming to me, she will go to the app, you know.
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Mine is also another one, and everybody is using AI for all different purposes.
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That's a dangerous thing, though, because, again, AI has some really valuable uses.
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But guns are not awesome if they're used for the wrong thing.
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And if they're used, a chainsaw is not as good of a hammer when you need to use a hammer.
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Graph-based Rack technology, we are feeding the chatbot to what to say.
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As someone who is an AI, do you know what Maltbook is?
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So Maltbook is a social media where AIs communicate with each other.
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And you talk about what's being fed into the AI.
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Maltbook is using API to just post comments in there.
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My point is that you're saying what's fed into the AI, so it's just reflecting what's
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So AI has a human bias, then, if it's being fed by humans.
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So if you're going to a chat GPT and say, suggest me a lip color, it says Maybelline,
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But if you're going to RAG-based, and if you use L'Oreal-specific chatbot based on RAG,
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and if you ask, what is the best lip color for me, it will only recommend L'Oreal.
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The person who puts the most money in is the person who wins with your AI?
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No, the other non-profits I'm collecting data with.
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So a woman's being abused by her husband, and she's supposed to go, dear AI, what do I do next?
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Yeah, she can talk to any language, to the app, if you're so impersonal.
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I don't think right now, but he's asking in general.
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We're going to buzz her hair, slash cut it off, for the champagne pop.
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We'll do it a little bit later, but we will do it.
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We should also pull up the bow video here in a moment.
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I have another chat coming in from Based Justin.
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Feminist indoctrination results in young ladies focused on becoming the men they wish to marry.
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Nature will have healed when only 5% of young women go to college, but it's still a scam.
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Thank you, Based Justin, for your message there.
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Nathan, can you grab me a champagne bottle from the refrigerator?
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It's been a while since we had a champagne pop.
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You have to donate an Ethereum for the crystal.
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This would be a good moment to ask you guys to like the video if you're enjoying the stream.
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All right, guys, W's in the chat for Indy here.
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This would be a good time if you want to go ahead and pull up Twitch.
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Gigi, can you give the Twitch, do the Twitch thing for me?
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Just read the Prime subs and be like, thank you.
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It's been, I don't know, it's been two hours since we got a Prime sub.
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And our good, our homegirl, Gigi here, she will thank you and say your name.
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Yeah, and you guys should be like, yeah, send in some Prime subs, pass it down.
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Okay, we're going to shave your head on the stream.
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I mean, do you have a preference of who does it?
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It absolves you of any risk of somebody coming at you.
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I feel like, Chad, do you want me to shave her head or should I have one of the girls do
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We're not going to do it right now, but we will do it in a moment.
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How tall are you going around the table and what's the minimum height of a man you would
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I'm 5'4", and the minimum I would date is 5'5".
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I don't know if this is going to make any sense, but Nathan, the water level test one,
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the one with the blue water, if you can get that going on the window tab.
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So guys, I've updated my questionnaire here a little bit to include on the backside something
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called the water level test, and Nathan, show the audience because it's, you know, the
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I got it wrong at first because I didn't read the word water.
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It's going to be in the, where is it, the Media tab under Resources.
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It'll be the first one, and then you'll just click it and then go to the Window tab.
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Okay, so this is what's on the back of the paper.
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Draw a line to show where the water line would be.
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So starting with, starting with, I guess I'll just hold it up to the monitor.
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Starting with, starting with the woman next to me going around that way.
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I don't know if this, this is probably better.
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I, yeah, I didn't read the question fully at first.
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This might be the stupidest thing I've ever done.
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I think that is, I think you got it right.
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You did add a bit of water, but it's about the one.
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I just know it's supposed to be parallel to the table.
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Maybe you just don't know how to draw straight.
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Apparently, maybe you guys are just all really smart.
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Apparently, and there's a difference between men and women when you test them on this, women fail it more than men.
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Not to say that all women fail it, but I think they've done this test on college campuses, and women fail it at like 2x the rate that men do.
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Hey, that's very sexist and misogynistic of you.
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I figured you were going to do some type of intelligence test, because I've seen videos where you are asking all kinds of historical questions.
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Okay, Sam, you think women are the – you agree with the statement that women are the primary victims of war?
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So the statement is women are the primary victims of war, not men.
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You circled it stating you agree, but that it depends.
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Yeah, it depends like what kind of people they are.
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Sometimes they do brutal things to the women after the war.
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Or, like, they cut their private parts, and then they rape them, and then they slowly kill them, and stuff like that.
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So it all depends on what kind of war it is.
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I think it's pretty – I think it's pretty – I think it's pretty 50 feet in different ways.
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It's like the men are generally the ones that – like, physically that are being affected, but then their families are having to deal with post-traumatic stress when they – if they come home.
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The men that survive it still have – my father had full disability from PTSD.
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So, I mean, also, men go through that during war also, right?
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I'm saying men are the main sufferers, and then their families also suffer, not to the extent that the men do, but they suffer as well.
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But the claim is not about women don't suffer in war.
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We're trying to just test if you think women are the primary victims of war, not men, to which you seem to think – is it 50-50?
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Like, some of the war I knew about is, like, something brutal happened with the woman after the war.
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Yes, there's no dispute that bad things happen to women.
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Like, somebody killed you is one thing, and then somebody has, like, brutally raped you over the years.
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But men experience that in war too, right?
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Like, they experience rape and torture and all that.
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Just the same thing that you're saying women experience, men experience too, and then they die.
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Well, I'm even willing to grant that this happens more to women, and just for the sake of argument, I'd be prepared to grant that – let's even say it never happens to men and only happens to women.
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Men are still the primary victims of war because – well, I guess let me ask you a question.
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How many men would you be willing to kill to prevent one rape?
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Because my religion is I cannot kill even a mosque.
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So the hypothetical – okay, let's say – I guess you don't kill – are you familiar with the trolley problem, the trolley dilemma?
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Here, really quick, Nathan, can you Google, like, insane trolley problem?
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And then it should be probably the first result.
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I don't think that's the exact phrasing, but just for context.
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And then just the website, probably the first result, I'm assuming.
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You can pull the lever to divert it to the other track, killing one person instead.
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You pull the lever to prevent five people from dying.
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I think it's something like if you have a relative or something.
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And then we're going to put the one woman at the bottom.
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We don't laugh at calling it a rape trolley.
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So, if you don't pull the lever, the woman gets raped.
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If you do pull the lever, the woman doesn't get raped and five men die instead.
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I would just save five men because it's their life, you know?
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Well, in any case, what I'm trying to get out there is bad things definitely do happen to women.
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But, again, the question is, are women the primary victims?
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For example, a man who is not on the front line, who's in the internal of the country, and he's safe.
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And then there's, like, a woman, there's, like, an invading army, and she gets raped.
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In that instance, if you're comparing that woman to the man who's safe in a different city, then in that individual example, she's the primary victim.
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But the question is not about individual victims.
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So, for example, you'd acknowledge that some men are raped, right?
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And are there some women who've never been raped?
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But, in general, would you say that this is a crime that mostly impacts women?
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But it depends, like, some cases is extremely bad for the woman.
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Because they lose their either father or brother or somebody they're dependent on.
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And then also victim of rape and brutal murder of them.
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I think it's worse for the dad that died, though.
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Okay, let's say your loving husband, hypothetical loving husband, he gets shipped off to war.
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Between you and the husband who died, who's the primary victim of war?
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Okay, so then can't you map that on to, like, all men and all women?
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Priyanka, you think women can't be sexist towards men?
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Is it possible for women to be sexist towards men?
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You also said people of color can't be racist towards white people.
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I mean, my point is, like, nobody should be racist whether you're color.
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Here in America, can a black person be racist towards me?
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I mean, nobody should be racist towards each other.
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You say that women do not have equal rights.
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Well, the statement is women do not have equal rights to men in the USA, to which you agree.
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I mean, it's just my personal experience as in, like, the job and career and opportunities, the salary.
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And, you know, it's just, like, a perspective, you know?
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Like, if you're a woman, you just got, like, you should do not do this.
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I mean, it's sometimes, you know, there is a – I still feel that even in the U.S. is the case.
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So, I mean, discrimination can exist in corporations, but typically a right – corporations typically don't grant you rights.
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The government would grant rights as far as – just for simplicity's sake, rights don't really exist, but we're not going to – we're not going to get into that.
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But, like, for example, the right to bear arms, you would agree that both men and women have that right to have firearms in the United States?
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So, is there a right that men have that women don't?
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You said in USA, and I'm just talking about my situation with my ex-husband, you know, so I'm just, like –
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But this is specifically about the USA, and then in parentheses you say, better than India, though.
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So, I acknowledge that, yeah, shit is whatever.
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It's bad in India, although there's definitely some men's rights issues in India.
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Like, my American husband said that he can go to the swimming pool, but I cannot swim because I'm a woman.
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There's no law in the United States that prevents women from swimming.
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I'm just saying, behind the scenes, a lot of things are happening.
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If you were married and you told your husband, no, you can't go to the swimming pool, would this be evidence of men not having rights?
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I think this is just a language barrier thing, to be honest.
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Wrong for high body count men to prefer to date low body count slash virgin women.
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So, why would it be wrong for a lot of you, you all can be, feel free to weigh in, what would actually be wrong with a guy who has a high body count and he wants to date a woman with a low body count?
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Well, he can want all he wants to, but getting that, it's a lot of times a woman with a very low body count has higher standards.
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And if she finds a man who has a body count, like, you know, a big one, then she's probably going to shy away from him.
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Well, just to be clear, I don't have, like, if a woman doesn't want to date a guy with a high body count, that's totally fine.
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But I think you would acknowledge, not all the time, but typically men who are able to bed many women tend to have attractive traits.
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So, she can have that specific standard about not wanting to date, you know, a guy with a high body count.
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But I don't know if I would call into question, I don't know, the, the, like, I agree.
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I don't think a guy who has a high body count would have an inability to attract women with low body count.
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No, no, he could probably attract, I mean, obviously, I mean, but also guys will do it with about anything.
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So, I mean, it's, I mean, if he's got a high body count, maybe he's attractive, maybe he just has, you know, do anything.
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Well, I think also just morally, a guy with a higher body count has a completely different lifestyle than someone who, more than likely have a different lifestyle than someone, a woman with a lower body count, too.
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So, in that case, he's not approaching her with the intent, probably the same intent that she wants within a relationship.
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Well, let's, let's grant for the sake of the convo that he's had his fun.
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He's done run through a hundred chicks, but he's like, you know what?
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The women that I find to, that, that I just find more attractive and that I think are just better, make for better girlfriends are the women with low body counts.
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Well, is he going to that date with, like, being fully transparent within it?
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I mean, if she asks him, he can be honest, sure.
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Then I feel like if he's fully transparent, then I feel like she could give him the chance, but then that's on her.
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Right, but the question, the statement is wrong for high body count men to prefer to date low, low body count or virgin women.
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This doesn't say include or incorporate anything about the woman's proclivity to date or not date a high body count man.
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It's simply the desire from the high body count man to prefer to date low body count woman.
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I mean, he can prefer, that's his, that's his personal choice and personal opinion.
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You know, like you all say, like, you don't want to date age, that's your personal choice.
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So, it's okay for him to have that, but saying he's going to get it is a difference.
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Although, I do think it might actually be the case that high body count men might actually outcompete low body count men in getting low body count women.
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Because men who have high body counts typically tend to have traits that are more attractive.
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Women are a bit more forgiving on the body count promiscuity thing.
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Not to say that women can't or don't care about it.
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I just tend to find that they care less about it or they don't care at all.
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Also, women like to tame the wild beast, too.
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So, if he's, like, gone out and done a bunch and you're the one that gets him to stop, I mean, that's another thing.
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Well, I think that comes with, like, with women, the more women that a man has around him, the more attractive he is.
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So, I think a man with a high body count, you want them to have a high body count because they're just more attractive to us that way.
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When it becomes, when it's about a man and who we're trying to have kids with or whatever, it's always, you know, we see it as, like, the man's super attractive and he's, you know, everybody wants him.
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It came up earlier and somebody asked in a TTS or something about the bow video.
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I show it to future girlfriends as a tutorial so they know how to behave and act properly like a lady of good repute.
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She has to bow immediately as soon as I get home.
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This was after a long podcast day, you know, immediately right to the laundry.
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And then, of course, as you see, she has my dinner ready, ready to go as soon as I'm home.
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She's cut if she lollygags, cracks open the beer for me, stirs my noodles, obviously.
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I find that the eye-hand coordination for women is suspect a little bit.
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If she's trained as an athlete in archery or, like, the cello, then I will allow it.
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But, yeah, so going around the table, would you bow for your boyfriend, your husband?
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So, in the Bible, what does it say wives should be?
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So, would it be in contradiction of Christian ethics for a husband?
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Although it's a bit culturally peculiar, perhaps, and a bit eccentric, I don't think it's actually
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Reconcile with me your refusal to obey your husband's...
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First time, I believe, the first time a girl comes over, she should do laundry.
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But to, like, I don't know, read the Bible or something.
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I got to find something to disagree with you guys on, I guess.
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Going to Sam, you say men are more privileged in society than women, or you agree with the
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As we learned, I'm sexist towards women, so I just think that throughout history, men
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have always been the person that we look up to or we follow, so I don't see why it should
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Because I would rather look up to a man than a woman.
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So why wouldn't I assume that men have it easier?
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And not in all aspects, because obviously women have, you know, they're pretty privileged
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and whatnot, just I think men have a higher success rate than women.
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But you realize how many presidents have there been?
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So Trump has had two terms in between Joe Biden.
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But in terms of the total number of presidents...
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Because there's a lot of presidents that have been repeated.
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I mean, if you go back to like 1980, only George Bush Sr. and Joe Biden have not had a second term.
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That's how many presidential terms, I guess, are you paying?
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That would mean there were only two presidents that had two terms.
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It does say 45 different individuals have served as president.
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Oh, well, actually, no, it does, because when they pass away, like Nixon...
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Yeah, there have been presidents who have died, I guess.
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Oh, he said, it says the difference exists because Grover Cleveland served two non-consecutive
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terms, and then Donald Trump served two non-consecutive...
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Only 45 men, like, throughout the entire history of the United States have been president.
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Like, I don't think we can map on male privilege to all men because 45 men have been president.
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But I think it also applies to, like, when I would just go out into the city and I would
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Like, most of the finance bros, it's like they're all guys.
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Well, with the president thing, it'd almost be like me saying, well, Taylor Swift is...
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Like, but that wouldn't map on to all of women's experiences, you know?
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I think it also depends on, like, what they go into.
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Maybe the majority of people who want to go into finance are men, and maybe that's why.
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A woman's career, money status, makes her more attractive to men.
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Um, that's just what I've noticed from, like, my friends that, who are, like, very successful.
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That I see that, um, men tend to, like, go towards them just because of their status.
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And, like, her wealth and how much she makes and stuff.
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Well, I mean, I'll just tell you the male perspective.
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Obviously, not all men probably share my perspective.
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But generally speaking, I would say, uh, men don't really prioritize or even care about
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Not to say it might be a nice, I mean, it can actually and sometimes be a detriment.
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For example, I recall an instance where I was dating a woman who was, I think, finishing
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And, like, she was insanely busy to the point where it fizzled out.
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It was, like, a pain in the ass scheduling.
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Like, I would be much more, even though, great, she's got a great career.
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You eventually make good money, like, down the road because you fucking met, uh, student
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Uh, I mean, it just, it's kind of, I think men would prefer a woman who's a bit more
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available, works a more reasonable job in terms of the hours than even the doctor.
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I think a man, you, you put the, hmm, how do I frame this the best way?
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A 30-year-old woman who's a doctor and then you have a 20-year-old barista, men are picking
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the 20-year-old barista over the 30-year-old doctor.
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You can change the age to 35-year-old doctor, 25-year-old barista.
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A lot of men pick the 25-year-old barista over the female doctor.
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Uh, not all, I mean, some men might disagree with me, but I think most men, it's, uh, it
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And I think one of the reasons is when it comes to money, even women who make a lot of money
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typically are not as generous or generous at all with their money.
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Uh, I think a lot of women, even if they make good money, even if they out earn a guy, they
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still might not in all cases might have an expectation that the man pay for dates.
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I remember when I was younger, I actually was, uh, briefly dating this girl who was a lawyer
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She was making three X as much as I was making at the time.
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Uh, so even when women do make money, like, even if men were inclined to care about money,
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a limiting factor in men's, even if they, you know, wanted to care, did care, uh, we wouldn't
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actually receive any benefit from dating a wealthy woman.
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Cause like women don't spend money on men in the same way.
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Like not all women, some women you'll get, you'll, okay, you've been dating a guy for
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But like a woman who's got a lot of money, I don't know.
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If the woman had offered to pay for your date, like, would you have let her?
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Cause I'm not just like, it's just the principle of the thing, you know, like, is that, you
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Like, I didn't know like how some guys are like that.
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Uh, just, I was just like, I just, uh, a question.
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I just said like, if she had offered to pay for your date, would you have let her or was
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Like she didn't even offer and she expected it from you.
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Uh, I'm fine paying for everything, but I, I kind of like it if a girl simps, to be honest.
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With me, it's probably like, I would expect him to pay for the dates, but I love like getting
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presents and gifts for my, you know, for my significant other.
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So I might not pay for dinner, but I'll get you like a really nice pair of sunglasses or something.
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Like out of the blue, just to let you know, I was thinking of it.
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And by the way, to be clear, it's not even about the money necessarily.
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It's like a girl who's, who is going outside of a typical role.
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If she's doing like, if she's doing that, and, uh, uh, that's a good dynamic.
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My perspective, the girl has to like the guy more than the reverse.
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Donate like $50, $51, and then I'll put my jacket on.
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If you do another champagne pop, I will, um, I'll get her an Arby's t-shirt to wear for
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Uh, just pass it down through the guests, please.
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It's been a minute since we got champagne pops.
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And, you know, I feel like shit, you know, inflation, we're about, I don't know if recession's
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You know, I feel like, uh, you know, we, so some people, uh, you know, disappeared a little
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No, the first one, I think I was pretty, pretty fast with it.
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Nathan, can you just get me, uh, the, the solo cups?
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Here, while I'm pouring, do you guys want to talk amongst yourselves about something?
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I do think it's really cool these guys thought to put the cushions on the chair, so it was
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Wrong for a man to dump his girlfriend if she regularly turns him down for sex.
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Wrong for a man to dump his girlfriend if she regularly turns him down for sex.
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Oh, yeah, I agree because I couldn't do anything for a while with one of my boyfriends and he didn't break up with me.
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Yeah, like I forced it for a while and it was not good.
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That's kind of proof then that if he couldn't do that for you, your body...
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That's your body's way of saying, like, we're not a good match.
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So if anything, he should break up with you because that's six months of wasted time.
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I guess you're right, but we had a good connection.
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Like, we didn't have to do that for us to have a good time and stuff like that.
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You do not have to answer it, but was there, like, any medication or anything involved at
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That's your body telling you, like, I'm not into bro.
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But birth control can definitely mess with that.
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When you weren't having it, did he still have a really healthy sex drive?
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Yeah, he was having sex with someone else.
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See, I consider that abusive when you, like, on either side of the woman's...
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And I wanted to talk to him, but he doesn't even talk.
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Yeah, I find that abusive because sex is a very important part of your relationship and
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Is refusing to have sex or vice versa, I think that's abuse.
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I'm so open to tell him, you know, what I exactly want.
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Indy donated 50 and said, I'll take the jacket.
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I'll give her the Arby shirt, but he wants the jacket.
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Indy can help a lot of girls, Chakra Stahl, who've never tried it.
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If you made a deal with him, I don't know if I can interfere with that, I guess.
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I was not a party to the negotiations there, Indy.
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I'm just curious, though, like, are men allowed to be like, you know what, I just don't feel
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like going to work, so I'm just not going to go to work.
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Like, assuming, you know, you know what I mean?
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Like, I'm just not in the mood today, and I just don't want to go to work.
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But I mean, it's like, do you care about your partner's needs and striking a balance between...
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Like, if it's a manipulation tactic, then no, that's wrong.
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But I think if it's, like, manipulation, or you getting back at them for something, or
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holding out for whatever reason, I don't think that's right.
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I mean, that is a need that men have generally more than women.
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And so, like, it's more important to them than it is to us a lot of times.
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I've seen a lot of women sit there and tell their husbands, well, if you do this, we'll
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Well, if you do this, we'll have sex tonight.
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And then the men always come back and complain.
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I would be like, oh, if you clean that, we can do it.
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Yeah, you have no desire to be with them at that point.
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I personally think chore play is great when the woman does it, though.
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Like, seeing a woman scrubbing the floor kind of gets me randy.
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So, I think that works, like, from men to women.
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If it's, like, the man has to do the chores to get some...
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Like, if it was heavy or, like, make him go to the store for me because I didn't want
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But, yeah, I mean, look, if part of being in a monogamous relationship is you guys are
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I, of course, like, look, if your girlfriend's sick, you're sick, and you're not feeling well,
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Like, they're just not having sex, turning you down.
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I think, you know, I think it can be, you can address it first.
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If that were to happen, there's a bigger question that needs to be.
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It wasn't like I was silent about it the whole time.
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And, like, I didn't tell him that I wasn't getting that feeling anymore.
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But there was, like, a mutual connection where I was like, okay, we have a good connection.
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Here, we're going to do past should not matter.
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I'm married, so I won't say the exact number, but it's below five.
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Here, bring it back so she can walk it out.
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Priyanka, you agree getting laid is harder for women?
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But so for you, it's harder to get laid than, like, an average-looking Indian guy who's 50?
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No, it's because I need to be, like, very much emotionally involved and committed to be able to...
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In general, do you think it's harder for women to get laid?
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So, to get laid, to get sex, is it harder for women to get sex?
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Yeah, because they're shy and they don't go and, like, directly...
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Like, men are directly asked, you know, you know, like, sex or something, but women are shy and they don't...
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And do men typically get rejected if they just directly ask a woman to fuck?
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If we had a 50-year-old Indian software engineer, he would have an easier time getting laid than you?
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Because sometimes, you know, I don't even recognize the vocabulary, you know, we are using, so...
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So, like, my sisters and all, you know, like, the top of the friends.
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You write that you will keep your last name or hyphenate in marriage.
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Isn't it kind of the traditional thing, though, in marriage that you take your husband's last name?
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Yeah, but the only reason I want to do that is because I'm...
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He has another daughter, but my last name is...
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Priyanka, you write, or you agree, men should pay on first dates?
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Husband should be willing to die protecting you.
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You will keep your last name or hyphenate in marriage.
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In, like, both of my marriages, the last name was same.
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Same, last name, because we use the religion...
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Jen is a religion, then a caste, and we both have that.
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My mom has her last name still, but there's only, like, a one-letter difference.
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Well, so, but let's say you marry an American guy, and he has a different last name than you.
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Look, I mean, it's plausible that you can marry for money, you can marry for other reasons,
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but why would that prevent you in the other scenarios or other reasons in which people could marry?
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Because the last two marriages were arranged, you know, that's why.
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I have a question, would you only get married if you were in love with a man?
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Because of the bad experiences, you know, so nothing is permanent, so that's why now I do not want to...
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But you said husband should be willing to die protecting you, that's permanent, that's really permanent, that he has to die for you,
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but you won't spend a few hours on a Saturday changing your last name?
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And she can't be bothered spending a few hours on a Sunday fucking calling up credit cards and blah, blah, blah, changing her shit?
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Yeah, because all the men I committed to, you know, all of them, and they cheated.
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So, you know, I do not want to have all the hesitation.
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Like, are you just going to keep dating awful men?
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So, like, if you get married, you're probably going to try and date somebody that doesn't cheat on you, right?
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All of your bad experiences gone out the window.
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I mean, if it was a deal breaker, I would take him too.
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When I was younger, I did have an Indian dentist.
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Oh, I thought you were reading that off the table.
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I think we're pretty much done with the questionnaire.
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I just thought that would be fucking genius is I should just like buy 10 burkas on Amazon.
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You know, I basically helped you just now.
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I'll turn the camera off so you're not in front.
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And men can donate money to progressively put the women in the burkas.
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Can I door dash a fucking burka to the studio?
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If somebody threw a ball at the teacher, I was like, oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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You're that girl of like, if I do something wrong, I can be like, yo, I need your help
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Husband should be willing to die protecting me.
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And, you know, men should pay on first dates.
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Husband should be willing to die protecting me.
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If we're allowed to, and it's okay to say men should.
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Well, no, I mean like for the bullet one, he's willing to take a bullet for me.
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Well, I think also if you talk, if you want to bring, you know, go back into faith, like
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bring, you know, a lot of women have issues with the part of the Bible where it says wives
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They don't think about the next part that said husbands treat your wife as Christ did
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If a man loves me, if he is willing to die for me, you know what?
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If the man is doing all these things, sacrificing in those ways, providing, protecting, willing
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to die for you as Christ did, then the least the women can do is not be quarrelsome, be
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I don't get the impression that a lot of women are doing that because it's contrary
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to modernity and feminism and boss babe and having lived in a feminist culture.
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I think if men are obligated to take a bullet for you, I think you have a duty to give them
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The whole man taking the bullet for the woman thing stems back to when in society, if a man
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in a relationship dies, the woman can't go on to go anywhere else.
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So it's an outdated concept that just needs to, pun not intended, die.
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Because there was a time in culture, like a very long time ago, where if a man died, the
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She had to go with his family and they had to take care of her.
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And that's something that has not happened for a very long time.
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So it's something that kind of just needs to go away.
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This notion that it has to be the man that dies for the woman.
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If the husband should be willing to die or the boyfriend should be willing to die, maybe
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That can be reasonable because women should, you know, provide a lot of things to the table.
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If a man has to die for her, that's a high expectation.
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So then there should definitely be a lot of expectations for women, like staying at home
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Like if you have a good husband, you should definitely submit to him.
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And you should definitely do all of those things in a godly relationship.
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I think if men, like even like a random dude sees a woman in distress, should protect her
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But like, but for that to happen, I think we'd have to abolish abortion.
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Why are they, why are those two things related?
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Well, because I think that women have a duty, just like men have a duty to protect us.
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And women also have a duty to nurture and protect children.
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Because a patriarchy was built around protecting women and children and stuff like that.
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And if women are just out, you know, unaliving their babies, then there's absolutely no reason
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I don't think, I don't think that, I think if you're married, because you asked, you know,
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what if it's only a virgin can the man die for?
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I don't think that should apply because, you know, if you're married, you've become one flesh
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And the man is the husband and he should, it's like God, husband, wife, kids, like we
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And I think that, you know, whether you're a virgin or, or not, you know, you could be
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on your, your second marriage, you know, and, and, and that's okay.
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And if the man loves you and he wants to spend the rest of his life with you and commit to
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Ooh, you mentioned alpha male stuff earlier, like the alpha male.
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The guy dying, like jumping in front of the bullet, protecting his woman or letting her
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die and that, so he can find another woman and reproduce with her.
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I feel like that's kind of beta soy boy energy, to be honest.
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I think, I think, well, they run, but I think like a true cerebral alpha male, she's got to
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Like, I think it's more alpha to let the woman die.
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I don't think so, because for example, you said you're now infertile and you and your
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current husband aren't planning on having, like, I don't think you should die for that.
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Like, the whole, like, getting with a nut, like, letting, like, say you were in a position
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Like, I don't think your husband should just let you get shot so that he can find someone
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Well, it's not, I mean, it's not, the having kids part isn't the primary thing necessarily.
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Okay, Genghis Khan, this guy had dozens of wives, dozens of concubines.
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Do you think he would sacrifice his life to save the life of one of his wives or concubines?
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This guy had the largest contiguous land empire in all of human history.
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The motherfucker was an alpha male, but he's not sacrificing his life for one of his many,
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Genghis, Genghis Khan, fucking millions of bodies in fucking Asia.
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He's clearly, like, arguably, you could say the epitome of a historical alpha male.
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So, I mean, again, I think alpha beta male distinction, super cringe, but your point, I think it's interesting.
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I do think it actually, from an outsider's perspective, technically, I think, would be more alpha male to just be like,
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oh my god, I love you, let me die for you, blah.
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That's completely narcissistic and selfish.
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But why do I have to fucking die for a woman?
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Girl, she will be back on Tinder at the funeral.
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I think that passport bros are totally going in the wrong direction for a few different reasons.
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So passport bros are guys that believe that all Western women are cooked,
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so if they go to another country and they buy a wife,
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that they're going to be so much better off by doing that,
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because they're going to find a submissive woman,
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And my biggest argument against this is an argument that Brian often makes against marriage,
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is that marriage is not financially beneficial to a man.
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you end up being the one who has to pay for it.
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if anybody here has ever watched the super trashy TV show,
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women from other countries can be just as much of 304s and just as difficult and make your life a nightmare.
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the way a K-1 visa works is if you marry someone from another country and bring them to America,
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You'd have to check on the exact amount of years,
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you're still responsible for that person as if you were still with them.
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And it's actually just not good for Western culture in general.
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I think that most of these passport bros look like the guys on 90 Day Fiance.
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I think there's a lot of propaganda behind that.
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but that's what I'm saying is that they really quick here.
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A lot of them are just looking for a green card.
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they don't have a genuine interest in these guys.
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I do think there's a component of go to where you're appreciated.
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Some of these women are doing it from a transactional lens,
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I don't think it's fair to say that all like foreign women are purely approaching dating from a transactional lens.
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We took her into our house for like two months and let her stay with us.
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Cause she had nowhere to stay and talking to her.
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She was literally just trying to find somebody to marry her so she could stay here.
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And I remember talking to her and we were talking about,
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I dated a guy that had kids and he got his son on the weekend.
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I would just give my kids to my mother and I would go off with the boy.
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but did he intentionally go in order to seek a wife or did he go there,
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And so her intention to marry him was to get her family out of poverty.
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we're going to blast through some of the other notes here.
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I saw something about 1600 men on a dating app.
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you can do a thing where you don't pay for the full membership,
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but you can pay $3 to see who all of your matches are.
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I just went through and went through all of them.
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And ultimately it did not lead to a single date.
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There was one date that ultimately just got canceled and it wasn't because I have high standards.
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Like I'm absolutely willing to give people a shot and give it a go.
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Any man who must say I am the King is no true King.
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I have one more example I would like to share about a Game of Thrones dating scenario.
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So your father went down to King's Landing to become the hand of the King,
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goes on the war path for your now slain and beheaded father.
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Now he has all these alliances and he committed,
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And then the Lord is not a particularly attractive man.
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Or something like that had to marry one of them.
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He made a sacred vow and promise to Lord fray that he would marry one of his
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He meets some low born or I don't know if she's low born,
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but he meets some like nurse chick on the battlefield and he falls in love
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And then he knocks her up and then marries her breaking his vow,
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he's also making tons of fucking other terrible military errors in the North,
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he offers up his like nephew or cousin from house Tully house Tully.
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All because this motherfucker broke his marriage vow to house fray.
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I think there was a much more like a pleasant way to like,
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The daughter that ended up getting married was fucking,
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the cousin or whatever actually mogged the shit out of this fucking,
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you girls definitely know what I'm fucking.
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you dated a guy who had just gone out of prison back in your twenties twice.
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Because everybody makes the assumption with me being a thick girl.
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They just assumed they were black men and they were not,
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you think Brian would like church more than he thinks.
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And I think so even more so now that I've been in this area today,
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I understand that everybody has their own faith journey,
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but the community that you find there surprises you.
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if you're more of an introvert and you have so many of the ideals and you say
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that you respect Christianity on such a large level that I think it would
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You would meet a good girl that would impress you.
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There's some beautiful women looking for a man there looking for that.
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Joe Rogan made a great point where he said that now that he starts going to church,
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And I think that it might be a little hard at times that you might kind of think
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if you're dealing with like the worst and it would give you a positive light on
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people that I think is really healthy and it's a beautiful community and it's
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really good people and the ritual and the love of God,
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they are Orthodox Christians and Rachel got me on that road.
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I knew that Protestant was not the move anymore,
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And I was in a really bad situation in the church I was in.
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it's a cult of personality where it's about the pastor.
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The center is the rituals that existed that way since the beginning.
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It's the people that existed since the beginning.
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And it's the way that it's been written out since the Bible.
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was drawn toward Greek Orthodoxy because the Bible is written in Greek.
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there's a lot of words where it gets translated into English as the same word.
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And so the Greek really gives me that context where when I have those
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it allows me to really dig in and find the true meaning of what's being said in
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I think there's a quite a strong value in Christian ethics and I'm not,
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for society to be a built around Christianity,
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you don't believe in God or you don't believe in Christ.
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I have not received in front of me definitive proof that of God's existence.
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it would be beneficial for me to claim I'm a Christian,
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Go with Rachel and Andrew next time they're here.
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the only thing you have to do to be a Christian is to accept Christ.
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you need to go to church and you need to believe in God is not Christian.
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Like I'm not saying you have to believe in God.
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but it's just the first thing that comes to mind.
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You don't know if you like a food till you try it.
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he has to have the desire to look for it is what I'm saying.
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Otherwise he's just going to go and he's going to be like,
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things that I think are based and true and et cetera.
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I don't know the correct framing of it in terms of some of the,
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You understand putting people in their correct leagues,
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but you think guys should recognize their league too.
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People shouldn't marry or push out kids until they're at least in their mid
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The whole thing about women mature faster than men and the brain at 25.
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And I just think that it's good that if the conversation and that point keeps coming up,
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the women maturing faster than men thing is not about psychological.
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Women reach like puberty and things like that faster than men do.
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So that's the first point is to sit there and say,
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we all know that women are more mature than men.
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it doesn't mean like the brain isn't full until then it's a very specific part of the brain.
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And it's the part of the brain that's decided that's attached to decision-making and impulsive decision-making.
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I was just listening to Andrew make the point that I don't want 18 year olds to vote because 18 year olds,
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is because your prefrontal cortex does not finish its development until 25.
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it is a biological fact that that is how the brain works for almost everyone besides like specific genetic like outliers.
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The deterioration does not happen as fast as the growth.
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If you take that first bump on a roller coaster,
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So I think that's just something to consider is that I think anybody here,
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if you have a conversation with someone who's 18 versus someone who's 27,
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The number 18 was created by a society that had no concept of how a brain works.
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It couldn't study chemical reactions in the way that we now can.
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So 18 is an arbitrary number that just got thrown out there that we're going,
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Shane Gillis even made an awesome skit about this with Gillian Keeves,
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So I think that 25 is really the only scientifically and biologically measurable.
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Now that's not me saying don't get married at 18,
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we shouldn't have the same expectations of an 18 year old that we do of a 28 year old.
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like a woman takes on her husband's personality,
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they're still like the maturity doesn't change unless they have a man to actually give them the experiences and stuff like that.
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It's okay for a woman to have a baby at 20 or 21 because she's taking on her husband's personality and his traits and stuff like that,
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Women are easily influenced by the environment around them.
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So I don't think that's correct is what I'm saying.
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but now also let's think about like the military.
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You can go fight for your country and die for it at 18,
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but you can't have a beer or you can't have a cigarette.
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do you think that the voting age and then maybe the service age should be pushed back as well?
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So the military age is a completely different thing.
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Cause anybody here who knows somebody closely that was military or has served themselves knows that the,
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one of the biggest things that a military teaches you is how to fall in line.
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And it trains you into how to fall in line and how to be a machine that does what the military tells you to do.
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So I don't agree with the age being pushed back because with that being said,
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So it is actually better to get married and have children at a younger age versus when you're 30,
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it's only about like maybe 50% of women that get married.
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I want to make the point that it's misrepresenting my argument to say you're telling somebody to have a kid at 30 or 32.
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I'm saying it'll be more successful after 25 when those impulsive decision-making skills are cemented.
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You have a young son dating and the quality of women,
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I see you talk a lot about like on a first date,
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they should do laundry or like dishes or stuff like that.
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I think that women today should start instead of men forking out the money and,
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paying for suppers and taking them out and planning all of these days.
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clean their house and prove what kind of wife or quality of wife they could be.
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Like he's obviously not like they want his time.
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And then they want him to take him like to go out for dinner all the time.
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because at a young age they have mental illness,
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And they have to be accepted if they're overweight and stuff like that.
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I don't think I do not advise my son to date women that are overweight.
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I tell my son that he shouldn't date a woman that's overweight because they come with issues.
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Do you think any of that is related to what you said to her earlier,
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that she was just applying her situation to most people?
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I dated my husband for a month while I was overweight.
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When you were overweight and you just lose all the way.
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Most of them are all about instant gratification.
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Would you advise your son to do the same thing that your husband did?
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I would advise my son not to date a woman.
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I don't think it's healthy to base women on people on Tik TOK.
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it's most what I need is it's not only Tik TOK,
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Like there's a lot of overweight women that sit there and say like,
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You don't have to accept the person the way they are.
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my son does not have to date an overweight chick because she's having a
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he has to date her because she's someone he's into.
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I think that men that are attracted to overweight women,
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but I'm saying like most of them are probably have a fetish or they're,
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they're low value men because a high value man is not going to go after
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So then are you saying your husband was low value at one point?
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So then would you allow your son to have the ability to choose to tell a
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woman to lose the weight if he likes her to that extent?
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She doesn't want that girl to feel basically what she felt.
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Cause obviously it wasn't not that you felt great about it.
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But you don't want another girl to feel that way.
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because my friend who also goes live was supposed to do it.
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I said the only way I'm doing it is if you do it.
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I feel like the optics of it would look fucking really bad.
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I think it's worse if she's asking you to do it,
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Drop us a check if you have a Prime sub available
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Is it against TOS to offer a VIP badge in exchange for Prime?
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Is it TOS to offer a VIP badge for if somebody drops a Prime?
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Yeah, let's do, let's save, we'll like have the haircut be the cherry on top at the end
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Let me Google that to make sure I'm using that word.
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You need to frame like a little bit of her hair.
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Thank you for the gifted 20 subs over there on Twitch.
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YouTube thing doesn't work, but Twitch does for some reason.
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Are there any topics that any of you guys wanted to hit on before we get into the rapid
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Uh, I've done a segment called Big Brother Brian, where, uh, sometimes you might find
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that guys won't be honest with you about, maybe you have a question, but they're not
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I will give you the straight answer, even if it hurts feelings.
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Should I message Chase, or should I wait for him to message me?
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Why the fuck would he, why the fuck would he message you?
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He doesn't, Chase isn't, like, watching this podcast and that, like, one girl's like,
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Because you're honest, don't mean you have to be mean.
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I mean, obviously, no fucking chance either way, but should I wait for Megan Fox to DM me?
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She wasn't asking if she should wait for Chase to DM her.
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How does somebody, is Chase going to, like, have, like, a vision appear to him, like, wow, this girl who I don't fucking know, I'm just going to miraculously find her?
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If you like somebody and they don't know who the fuck you are, yeah, you got to be the one that reaches out.
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He's an attractive base dude who has people that follow him.
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You really think he doesn't have those DMs blowing up every day?
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So my question is, do you think I will survive alone?
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I mean, I think sometimes it can be lonely in later adulthood if you don't have a family.
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I mean, you already have a daughter, though, but I don't know.
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But you have a daughter, but her whole life can't be you.
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She has to go have her own life and her own family.
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In college, like, she's not living with me, but, like, I get used to it.
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When you were young, what was the one thing you wanted the most?
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I think that's your answer, then, is that eventually you're going to still want that love.
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Getting into the questions here, so we're going to do, let's see.
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Not everybody's going to get to answer this, but name one continent.
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North America, South America, Australia, Antarctica, Europe, Asia, and oh, my gosh, I am blinking
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It's the guys that you said earlier that you, people would think you date, but you don't
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I was just trying to celebrate Black History Month on date.
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How many, I'm going to pick on the Canadian here.
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It's probably the best answer we've gotten to that.
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All right, Lisa, what is the capital of California?
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Can you scoot your mic to the edge of the table?
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What country is directly north of Mexico, Lisa?
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What country gifted the Statue of Liberty to the USA?
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And Germany gifted the Statue of Liberty to the US.
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So, okay, Germany occupied the country during World War II.
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Which country gifted the Statue of Liberty to the US?
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Wait, which countries did Germany occupy during World War II?
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I wouldn't categorize Germany as occupying Austria.
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But so Austria gifted the Statue of Liberty to the US?
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Maybe if you ask the question a different way, maybe if you mimed it to her.
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The colors of the flag that gifted the Statue of Liberty include white, red, and blue.
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The United States gifted the Statue of Liberty to itself.
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To the 140 and not-so-erudite debates and watching last week's Stating Pod with Andrew,
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We ain't getting no sponsorships from Athletic Greens.
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They were occupied by Germany during World War II.
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There was a famous general who went by Charles de Gaulle.
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And there's an airport named after that general.
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Which country gifted the Statue of Liberty to the USA?
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I would love to get you in a room full of carbon.
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Plants absorb carbon dioxide and give out oxygen to humans.
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What country, I'm going for Lisa again, what country is immediately south of the United
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Uh, for you, what is a thousand divided by ten?
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Damn, the, the, I need to get our better fucking chairs.
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Uh, maybe if you scoot in a little bit, so it's like less of a lean in.
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Uh, if today, if today is Monday, what day is it in three days?
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If you have three quarters, how much money do you have?
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How many nickels, got to pronounce it that properly, make a dollar.
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No, no, no, no, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, hold on.
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How many branches of the U.S. government are there?
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You probably had to do this for your citizenship.
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If you get it wrong, I get to continue with you.
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What country did the U.S. gain its independence from?
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The United States gained its independence from France,
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Are you going to recite the alphabet right now?
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A-B-C-D-E-F-T-H-I-J-K-L-M-N-O-P-Q-R-S-T-U-B-W-X-Y-N-C.
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I found out on the ground when I got out of the airport.
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How many days of the week and with the letter Y?
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Do you guys want the food now or should we just wait until?
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If a dozen eggs costs three dollars, how much is each egg?
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Why do you say the wrong one and then say the right one?
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I'm making Andy to do one more donation so we can get him going.
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Currently on pilgrimage at the Dutch pilgrim from Netherlands to Portugal on foot.
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I saw the NL and I was like, you must be Dutch.
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By the way, I don't like big cities, but Amsterdam is, I actually really like Amsterdam.
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Do you know what year the War of 1812 started for you?
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We got to take a victory where we can take a victory.
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Where did the attack on Pearl Harbor take place?
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W's in the chat for Lisa redeeming herself one question at a time.
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Since you say maybe, could you tell us some other countries it maybe could be?
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Your legal name on your driver's license is Gigi.
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I do, but my Chinese name used to be the legal name, but then I got it legally changed to Gigi.
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If you were born 10 years ago, Lisa, how old would you be today?
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So if you were born 10 years ago, how old would you be today if we just do the math?
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If you were born 10 years ago, how old would you be today?
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If you were born 10 years ago on March 1st, how old would you be today?
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Are you sure you want to homeschool your children?
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Get, like, an assistant, maybe, or, like, an aide.
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If you were born 10 years ago, how old would you be today?
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How old would you be if you were born 10 years ago?
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Say you were 70, but you were born 10 years ago.
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So, like, numbers are not working in my brain.
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If you were born 10 years ago, that means you were born 10 years ago, so you don't want
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Chair 6, does Java use a virtual machine or compiler for you?
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It's the first World War, so you got to go back.
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Name one Allied power and one Axis power from World War II.
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I think we'll just start serving it out at the moment right now.
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If you want to start putting them on plates and just passing them.
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I thought we already named all three allied, didn't we?
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If you guys could just reach back and start grabbing them and passing them.
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Maybe pass them down just so it's a little easier.
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You can also bring them over to me, Nate, and I can pass.
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I honestly don't want to eat, but I know I need to.
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It actually comes in, like, this weird tube contraption.
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We're getting the pizza passed out for our hungry guests here.
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Put it in the refrigerator, Nathan, if you can.
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What percent of men, and just be wary, I'm going to go around on this, so don't take a bite quite yet.
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Or, well, I mean, just time it properly if you can.
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What percent of men do you think are over six feet?
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Uh, what percentage of men make at least one million dollars a year?
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Does that, does that medication, does it zonk you?
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Uh, do any of you keep a list on your phone of all the men you've been with?
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That piece is so mid, you had two pieces on what?
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Have you ever slept with someone the same day you met them?
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We're the only honest ones here at the table.
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What's the quickest you've ever slept with someone?
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Does it count if I knew the person prior, then, like, met up with them, and then did it?
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No, that's why I'm just trying to understand the circumstances.
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I'm trying to see from your point of view, like, does it count?
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Does mine still count if I knew the person online beforehand?
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I knew him nine years prior, but then we just started talking.
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I'm curious, would any girls here drive four hours for some dick?
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No, she has some details, but let's just do the first names.
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Dane, Sean, Jake, Matt, John, Brandon, Sam, Matt.
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There wasn't, like, a fucking Brayden in there.
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Just to clarify, I talked to this person online for a while beforehand, but about like nine
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Uh, has anyone here, just show of hands, anyone here ever had a threesome?
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Uh, we already talked about the ho-face stuff.
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Has anyone here ever hooked up with two guys in a 24-hour period?
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Remember I told you the Uber ride home was the 15 minutes in between.
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Maybe, maybe 30, because I did spend a little time with my ex.
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Let's say you saw two people, and they both had penises.
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And you saw one of them, S-ing the D of the other.
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You saw two people engaging in sexual intercourse, but they both had penises.
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But one of them, during the intercourse, yells out at you, sees you, because you're a voyeur
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Do they look like a woman, besides from the penis?
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They have a wig, poorly done makeup, and fake titties.
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But I feel like a lot of my exes would argue otherwise.
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There's bananas back there if you're looking for.
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We are going to do each other's hair soon, but we're going to do hers.
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Biologically, XY chromosomes with a vagina.
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If you had the question, if you said that a woman is someone who identifies as a woman,
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if I came up to you and said, I identify as Vietnamese, would that be okay?
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Personally, I don't care what people identify as in terms of their sexuality.
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Because race is what, like, your parents are born as, what you...
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They're still going to have the same DNA and the same biological makeup.
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Okay, well, then can I say that if they identify as a female, do you not consider them as a female, though?
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Like, they do the same thing, but they make it known that they're still a guy at the end of the day.
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I'm not saying, like, don't go into a relationship or approach a man without, like, the consensus of telling them who you actually are.
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Because I feel like they deserve to know that part as well.
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But biologically, that's what makes them a man.
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But why is it okay to you to choose a gender but not choose a race?
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If someone feels like they identify as a certain sex, it's not my business.
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Does that mean I'm American or am I still Canadian?
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I would not say that I'm Vietnamese or Chinese or black or anything like that.
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It's what you earn through how people treat you, through what you go through through your life, through those specific instances.
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If a male comes to me and says, like, oh, my cramps for my period, anybody here who's had cramps would go, yo, that ain't right.
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My perspective is just how people want to identify if it's none of my business.
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Like, if someone comes in the restroom, like, I will not feel comfortable if a trans...
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Like, if they just come in the restroom, I don't feel comfortable.
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Maybe they claim and they did everything, but I don't feel safe.
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My aunt is, like, completely, like, she's lesbian.
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She dresses up like a guy, but she still uses the women's bathroom, you know.
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Not even a binder, just a sports bra, you know, just to make it look like she has less.
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And just to be clear, I have people that I love dearly that are trans.
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And that's part of why I think this discussion needs to be had, too, because if anybody here
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knows somebody who's trans, it is expensive.
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The female to male have to go through HRT for their entire lives.
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Well, even after all the surgeries and hormones and stuff like that, there's still not men.
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I actually have some that haven't been on my head in my purse.
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Do you want me to grab one I didn't actually use?
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Chair 6 should get a refund on a degree or two.
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Like, I don't even understand what he wanted to ask me.
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Chat, can someone else super chat and be the deciding answer?
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VM is a completely different thing than Java in a virtual machine.
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And if they don't, you're going to have really fucked up hair.
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I wish you had some fabric scissors or something at least.
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Now, I want, now I'm willing to give you a, uh, he's trying to get out of it.
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You just blue balled all your, all your, you're shaving it regardless.
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He's just trying to, he's just trying to not do it.
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Somebody can save you within the next 10 minutes or five minutes.
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Listen, if a guy, if an alpha guy's not going to take a bullet, he's not going to give money
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I'm sorry, I'm sorry, none of them are balling.
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What number episode are you up to at this point?
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Imagine being the first person in almost 300 episodes to do something.
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So like Ethereum equals a TikTok universe in my eyes.
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So, um, if we do get that, I will not shave my head.
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I don't know if Indy's still watching, but he, I can't.
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I guess Indy would have to consent to this arrangement.
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He's going to, it's going to make the episode title a lie.
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I don't know if you guys finished off the convo about like the trans thing or whatever.
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I thought I maybe had a couple notes about the trans thing.
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I almost wonder, is it like, cause you're a little tipsy, right?
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Because I am actually doing it like for my whole like actual.
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I was at a party in Brooklyn where a guy genuinely asked.
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He, he was getting to know a girl and he was really, really into her and they got home
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and they started hooking up and he found out it was a guy and he still went through with
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Now, my friend, my other friend Dex, shout out Dex at that party said, here's the deal.
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If you're a vegetarian and you think you're eating a hot dog that's vegetarian and it,
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If you never have a meat hot dog again, you're still a vegetarian.
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But if you start craving that beef, you're not a vegetarian anymore.
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I would think that when a guy found out it was another guy, he would like.
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I've actually dated men who would say they would be okay with it.
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I thought we were going to party after this.
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Do you have a sweatshirt I could wear over this?
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I don't want to wear this while I get my hair cut.
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It looks cheap, but it's expensive for some reason.
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She looks like an angel with the highlighter.
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Well, you wouldn't know until you talked to me.
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Are you in the extremely warm part of Florida or more of?
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Yeah, my husband and I are eventually going to move there.
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I'm not trying to trip over on the stairs.
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Either the chat picks or you guys can pick for me.
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Rage Against the Machine is kind of a little woke.
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They rage for the machine these days, Brian.
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Because I don't want to cut my hair and get it dirty.
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She doesn't want to get hair on her sweatshirt.
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Yeah, when you get hair on your hair, it gets itchy.
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She's just trying to make her money back after the book.
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So, Gigi, you're going to cut the hair and I will buzz.
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And then we'll probably have you, you know what?
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I'm going to have you, wait, wait, don't sit down.
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And then I'm almost thinking, here, let's do this.
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And then, Gigi, why don't you stand up and you'll be behind her?
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Chat, come up with some good bald jokes for the roast session.
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Brian, can you take a before and after picture?
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When you go home, people are going to be like, what the ass?
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I'll sign something if it's really that binding.
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It has nothing to do with the state of New York.
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Look, she had, like, over the course of fucking eight hours, like, two.
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Honestly, every single, like, name of my lives on TikTok have been, I'm going bald.
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Yeah, not just on the whatever podcast, but on my TikToks, on my live streams.
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I say I'm going bald once I hit the certain goal.
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She can say it before she started drinking, too.
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Let me think what's the best angle is the thing.
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You'll scoot the chair that way, but then you'll face this way, kind of.
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Make sure with the blue, make sure that you're the one behind her, not in the black, because
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Wait, Indy, is that to cut the hair or is that for a champagne pop?
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Okay, this is what you're going to type, Nathan.
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21-year-old woman appears on the podcast and agrees to have the host cut off her hair and
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However, since agreeing, she has consumed precisely two, because those were like half filled.
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Well, the last one, I think, was higher, I think.
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She had three glasses of champagne over the course of eight hours.
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Four hours in, we got the out of the champagne.
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Prior to drinking, but now she is currently semi-tipsy, and she had three glasses of champagne.
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That must have been, like, ridiculous to type that.
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She's like, oh my god, this beautiful hair is going away.
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Even though she agreed earlier while sober, what matters at the time the act happens is whether
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she currently has the capacity to give valid consent.
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Here's how this generally, consent must be ongoing.
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Do you, are you a heavyweight when it comes to drinking?
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Yes, I need a whole bottle of Chopin to be okay.
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Because I think you're, I'm, you're drunker than me.
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The safest approach would be postpone the haircut.
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I'm not laying down, passed out, drunk, like, oh my God.
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This is like her idea in the first place, essentially.
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You have this recorded of her saying all of this.
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But it literally says even like consent before she.
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I want him to be the one to say that this is okay.
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Do you have any receipts where you can show us like that you were planning to do this?
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Well, Gigi, just grab a handful of her hair and go for it.
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You were encouraging her earlier to grow it out.
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Yeah, because guys don't like short hair, apparently.
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How about you let her go on her own Lives?
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But like, they just switched owners, so that's why.
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She can't, because she's going back to Florida.
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I will shake on it, but I will actually shake my head.
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You have blue balling all of that, Gigi, too.
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Because if you say that, that makes it seem like you're going to regret it, which means
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No, he's making me feel like I'm going to regret it because he's now like taking too long
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Okay, can I just say, as the person who has not been drinking, you're overthinking this
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No, but now, okay, we're both intoxicated and we're both overthinking it at this point.
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And it literally says her consent before she was drinking doesn't matter.
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But it goes out the window because she's been drinking.
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If you have a shot before you get a tattoo, the tattoo artist isn't like.
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When you get a tattoo, you sign off on something saying that you're not intoxicated.
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I almost, we could do, aren't you in town for like two days or some shit?
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We could just, I could fucking come here and just stream the fucking.
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Or I could just fucking take a, I don't even need to stream it.
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I know, it's probably like totally overthinking it.
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I mean, there, some people are like, mostly everyone's just saying do it.
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This is worse than like asking your girlfriend where she wants to go eat.
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What if we add that this is all being recorded live?
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It recorded as an oral agreement prior and throughout.
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Just like the optics are fucking terrible, bro.
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Or we might even just be able to fucking come in.
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45 minutes for an hour and a half for the shot or something.
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Yeah, how much alcohol is even in that champagne?
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I'm going to give you a field sobriety test.
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I'd rather follow the tip of something else, but...
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Hold on, I've got to play a sound for that.
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I'm supposed to be, like, way closer doing this.
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This reminds me of some type of a stroke test.
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It's not going to get to the point where you're going to wake up tomorrow and be like,
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You're not going to, like, go do it on your own.
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You're going to do it on the whatever podcast, but we have to postpone it.
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Hey, Chad, I'm sorry, but it's like, it's way too much.
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The landscape, guys, it's way too much of an optics.
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It's actually a W because you don't want to see Brian fucking canceled for scalping a...
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Well, when you put it like that, you might get canceled.
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But you are going to scalp me when I'm sober.
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It's too much liability at this point, but maybe, shit, we might even try to do it either
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I do leave tomorrow, but I can do something about that.
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We might have to just get you back out for another show.
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So we'll have you on another panel ASAP, and then we'll do it at the top of the show.
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Now the Rose session is going to be Rose St. Brian for not going through with it.
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Yo, but Indy, I feel bad, so if you want to chop it up after the show, Indy, I'll make
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I literally didn't think about, like, oh, okay.
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Technically, you guys are supposed to pop one more.
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Maybe I'll do a, like, a fucking complimentary crystal pop.
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I think dating-wise, there's nothing that gets a woman going more
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Also, please leave a nice comment once the live ends.
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Were the other champagne pops in furtherance of the haircut?
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Or was it just the one champagne pop at the beginning?
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You don't want to see the whatever podcast getting canceled.
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I'm thinking like liabilities in terms of, you know.
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We probably should have done it before, but in the moment, it wasn't a consideration.
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I feel like I'd just come in tomorrow and just.
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You could have been anywhere in the world, but you're here with me.
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Thank you to everyone who super chats, donates and supports the show.
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Any girls who want to be on the show, you can DM out whatever on Instagram.
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At least do an IG live when you do it so he can see it.
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I'll either get you a refund for the, for the, yeah, I'll get you sorted, but you send
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That was very anticlimactic fucking in there.
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It's not your fault, but we just got to be cautious.
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You know, don't want to, don't want to, you know, optically guys fucking people be trying
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We'll get it figured out, but we are going to, we are going to do it.
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Thank you for watching and we will see you next time.
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Did anybody like, did anybody lie about their body count?
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What do you, Nathan, Nathan, bro, bro, bro.
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So what we do when I say, okay, oh, seven's in the chat.