RAGE QUIT CRASH OUT?! She REJECTED 3 Billionaires?! Hater DEBATES Brian?! E-GIRLS! | Dating Talk #265
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8 hours and 4 minutes
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177.71404
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359
Summary
It's the first episode of the Whatever Dating Talk podcast, where we try to make sense of the modern dating hellscape we live in. This week, we're joined by GridOne, a Twitch streamer who's watching the show on his phone.
Transcript
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Welcome to the Whatever Dating Talk podcast, where we try to make sense of the modern dating
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hellscape. I'm your host, Brian Atlas. Ooh, wow, completely scuffed. What, who, what is,
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Grid, the, the, the stream is, we have the stream right in front of you. Why are you watching it
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on your fucking phone? By the way, guys, Grid One's in the studio. Um, we, he's, he's literally
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watching, Grid One is watching the stream on his phone. When he literally, he has the,
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we've got the computer monitors. He sees, he sees us in 4k, uh, live. Okay. Um,
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That's a fucking 50 DKP Minus! Oh my goodness. What the fuck was that shit?
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Welcome, Grid One, to the Whatever podcast, where my wrath, nobody is, uh, immune to my wrath. Um,
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Grid One was here in California for, uh, TwitchCon. Anyways, a few quick announcements. This podcast
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Whatever. Even if the designs are cool, you never want to wear them. They're just uncomfortable. So
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you will join the discord. By the way, guys, we have 33,000 members in the discord and well,
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33,072. I kind of like repeating numbers. So can we get that before the end of the stream?
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33,333. That's like what? I don't know. Less than 300 people. 33,333. Let's get over that.
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Appreciate it guys. All right. Without further ado, we're going to have the guests introduce
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themselves. So please tell us your name, age, occupation, where you're from and education. Go
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ahead. My name is Soph. I'm 19. I'm a seasonal stagehand and traveler and I'm originally from
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South Florida. All right. And, uh, any education? Are you going to college or? Uh, yeah. I recently
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graduated, uh, for a trade school for audio engineering called, uh, Conservatory Recording
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Earths and Sciences in Phoenix, Arizona. And you're a musician, right? Yes, sir. Okay. What kind of music do you do?
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Um, really anything. Uh, recently I've been experimenting more with, with ambient drum and
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bass, but I like to branch out into whatever I can. Okay. Like recently I just kind of sing.
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Do you sing? Yes. Can I sing? No, but I do it anyways. Sure. Yeah. And you also do urban
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climbing, urban exploration. Uh, you call it that? Yeah. Well, do you do urbac? It's called urbax.
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Yeah. So it would be urbax for sure, but you'd mostly do climbing, right? Yeah. That that's my
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thing. So whether it's like side of a boulder, I really like going up, you know, South Florida
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doesn't really have any mountains. So did you email us the video you took earlier today? No,
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I didn't. I'm sorry, man. Well, maybe like not now, but when you get up, you can email it to us
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and we'll show the stream. But Nick, we do have a video of some of her climbing in the discord.
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Uh, it's actually quite impressive. So Nick, it's going to be in the, hmm, where did I put it?
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Where did I put it? Oh, I think it was behind the scenes tab. Yeah. The first one, uh, you'll
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click the first video, make it full screen. And you, you sent us some voice notes too. So here's
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what I did. I, I, pause it. I created a montage of some of your climbing and I overlaid the voice
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note that you sent to me. Oh God. So it's, it's going to be very, uh, I love it already. Let's
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It's me, bro. No balls, bro. I got fire ticks. Trust, trust, trust. I know I'm not that like
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woman lead, but you said you're casting girls and I'd be girl and I'm pretty dude-ish, pretty
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dude-ish. But I got tits and a pussy. Makes me a woman type shit. You know what I mean?
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Type shit. Type shit. Type shit. I literally fly out. Like I'm in Florida right now, but
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I literally fly out just to ramble. Ramble time. Talk about towers and shit or whatever
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the fuck y'all talk about. Oh God. On the whatever podcast. My fault. This is all joke. My fault.
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But if you want me, I'll fly out. No joke. Just for fun. Fuck it. Why not? The only payment
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I ask is that you let me climb on the roof of your facility and I'll take a video from
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the roof of your facility and promote the whatever podcast. No balls. You won't get an urban climber
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on your podcast. No balls. No balls. No balls. I don't even know what no balls is. I don't
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know what it is that y'all yap about. I just saw one of your videos. Don't talk about dudes
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and things. I don't know. I got a boyfriend. He's pretty dope. I don't think he's allowed
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on the podcast, but if he can come, he's great, dude. I love my boyfriend. Shout out
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my boyfriend. Shout out my boyfriend. I don't even know what I'm saying. You're not going
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to respond, but if you want to respond, if you want to get probably one of the most androgynous
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people you've gotten on the podcast. Shout out. That's 19 and from South Florida and was
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living out of her car for two years and climbs big ass towers. Oh God. Hell yeah.
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Yeah. Count me in, bro. I'll fly out just for it. I saw that you got a Kyber on there.
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Shout out my girlfriend. I'll be down. You can stop it. All right. We get the idea. We
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get the idea. That's cool though. How long you been doing urban climbing for? I mean, not
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that long. I mean, when I was young, I would always just be scaling palm trees and climbing
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Publix rooftops. Are you kidding me? Oh God. Sorry. Hearing my own voice scares me, but it hasn't
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been too long. I mean, it's only been like a couple of years, but it's not, I'd say my niche,
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but it's, it's accidentally what got this whole algorithm thing started up. I was just
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like a small town ranch girl in rural Colorado until, what was it? Late May. And then I made
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one little video. And then next thing I know, a couple of months later, boom, 200 K boom.
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I'm in LA. It's weird. I'm not used to it. That's why I don't really know how to act,
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uh, put on like a persona. I'm just, I'm me on voice memo and right here, you know,
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what's the tallest structure you've ever climbed? Um, I think tallest. Well, there was a
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500 foot that I topped out with my friend that was somewhere in Pennsylvania. Um, there might've
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been, I might've hit like a bridge in, in Germany that was a little taller. Ooh, I cannot do the
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conversion right now, but I did hit a hundred meter windmill with my friends. They took me
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up there. Are there girls that like other girls that do this? Cause I feel like it's mostly guys
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urban climbing stuff. It is mostly dudes, but, um, do you, do you, is there a fear response
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in you when you do that stuff? Not anymore. I mean, like you, you're 500 feet up, no harness,
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right? You don't, you don't hook into anything. You're at, you're climbing some tower that's
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sometimes not even meant to be climbed. Right. It's just bars, you know, but it's not like a ladder.
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Um, no fear. Well, I mean, there is the automatic amygdala response of like, yo, don't fall. You
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probably will die, but they're not is the looking down and getting, when you look down in place of
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it, there's just like a, an adrenaline rush. Like even me, if I watch like a, have you done
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any free solo stuff? Uh, a little bit. When I was out in Colorado, I was, you know, driving from stage
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gig to stage gig and there were, there would be some, you know, cliff sides and I'll be like,
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I don't really have a harness. I'll just, I'll just free solo it. Like what, would you ever,
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what, what's his name? Alex Honnold or what that, you know who that is? Yes. Yes. I don't know if I
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said his name right. Like he free soloed El Cap. Yeah. Yeah. Would you ever do that? If, okay. I
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would need training. Or you're, you're not like a rock climber. I want to be, but I've never really
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had much rocks grown up, you know, Florida. It's probably a different skill set. It is. Yeah. Cause I
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guess urban climbing is very mechanical. It's just like peg, peg, peg, peg, peg for like a good half. Like I feel
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probably for rock climbing, the grip is a bit more cause the bars, it's just whatever. Yeah.
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It's mechanic. Exactly. Yeah. But like, I would love to like truly get into rock climbing and free
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soloing and just send something crazy. Cause even for me though, watching those videos,
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like my hands get all clammy, just even watching it. So I can't even imagine doing it. Have you ever
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fought like slipped and fell? Knock on wood. Sorry. That's a Slav thing. Slav say when they say
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knock on wood, but knock on wood, no, not yet. Hope I don't, you know, life is worth living.
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And you're from Florida. Yes. Born and raised. Yes. So you're Florida woman. You know how there's
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Florida man? You're like Florida woman. Yes. She knows. You're also from Florida. Yes. Yeah. Okay.
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Well, that's cool. Um, all right. So, uh, Oh, one quick thing guys, I forgot to mention this during the
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intro for the merch stuff. If you guys do buy something, it comes through stream labs. So
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thank you. I don't know why these didn't come. It's shop.whatever.com. So we'll shout you guys
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out. Veroxies. It sounds like a house of the dragon, dragon name or something. Uh, we'll give
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you guys shout outs. If you guys get something at the merch shop. Thank you guys. Okay. Uh, what
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about you? My name is Shay. I am from San Diego. Um, I am currently a UCSB student. I am going to be
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doing poli sci major with a minor in math. And then what was the other question? Uh, are you,
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you're freshman year, right? Yes. Okay. Uh, and you said you're studying poli sci with a minor in
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math. Okay. What do you want to do, uh, after college politics or lawyer? We will see. I don't
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think I want to go into law, but I, I'm just so interested in it. I also am kind of considering
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sociology though. So we'll see. Okay. Changing your major. Okay. Gotcha. And, um, so no idea what you
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want to do, not even a, like a suspicion or, or hint, maybe like something with sales.
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I was kind of thinking about like medical device sales. Obviously that is so different than
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my major. So we definitely have to see, but I feel like interacting with people is something
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that I really want to do. Sure. Yeah. What about you? Uh, my name is Mahi. I'm from the Chicago
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suburbs and I'm also a UCSB student and I'm 18 and my major is psych and brain. Psych and brain.
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What do you want to do with that? Um, I want to get a PhD in clinical psychology.
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Okay. You want to be a psychologist, psychiatrist, psychologist, psychologist. Okay. Gotcha. And
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sorry, you said you're from where again? The Chicago suburbs, Chicago. Okay. Chirac. Sorry.
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Uh, Chicago suburbs. Okay. Um, like born and raised or, um, I was born in North Carolina,
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but we spent most of my life in like Illinois. Spent most of your time in, um, gotcha.
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Okay. Okay. What about you? Hey, my name's Brie. I'm originally from Los Angeles, uh, born and
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raised, um, in the San Fernando Valley. Okay. Um, I have been a matchmaker slash dating coach for the
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last five plus years, taking a break now, um, to care for my mom who's, uh, who's sick with stage
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for cancer. So. Sorry to hear that. Um, age. My age? I just turned 36. 36. Gotcha. Yeah. This month.
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The fifth. And any college education? I studied communications. Yeah. At, uh, uh, got a bachelor's.
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No. Sorry. What, which college? Uh, I went to Pierce. Pierce. Pierce. Yeah. Pierce. Okay. Yeah. Yeah.
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Where's that? In, in San Fernando Valley. Okay. Gotcha. Yeah. In Woodland Hills. Okay. So you
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got your bachelor's like you completed. Okay. Dropped out. I dropped out. I had a, a, a child
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at, um, 20, almost 21. So yeah. Okay. All right. And, uh, let's see. So your, your kid
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is 16? 15. 15. Okay. All right. And, uh, matchmaker. I'll, uh, I'll dive into the matchmaker
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stuff once we get, well, a little later on in the show. What about you? My name's Hannah.
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I'm 26. I'm from San Diego and I studied entrepreneurship and architecture at NYU. And I kind of used my degree.
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I went to go to business school and now I work at a fintech startup doing operations. Gotcha.
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So you live, are you living in California? I live in San Diego. San Diego. Yeah. But
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and you're from New York. Did you San Diego also? I went to NYU. Okay. There's my confusion. Yeah.
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And you, so you got your degree in entrepreneurship and architecture and architecture. Yeah. I went
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to a weird school. It was Gallatin. So you sort of take your interests and merge them together
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into a degree. Um, mainly went there for a business school. Okay. Gotcha. What about you?
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I'm Bella. I'm from Los Angeles. Also the San Fernando Valley. Um, yeah, I go to Santa Barbara
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community college and I'm studying communications. Uh, first year, second year, second year. And
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so you're, uh, are you 18, 19? I'm 19. 19. Gotcha. Studying comm. Do you have a sense of,
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uh, what you want to do for work? Are you going to, are you going to transfer to a two years?
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I'm going to tag to UCSB. Go to UCSB and continue with, uh, comm. Yes. Okay. And then from there,
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do you have ideas of what you'd like your career to be or? No, I'm very much like a people person.
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So obviously comms is a good major for that. And we're going from there. Okay, cool. What about
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you? Hi, I'm Kennedy. I'm 20 and I study communications in Santa Barbara at SPCC and I own a clothing line.
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Um, all right. And, uh, you said you study comm? Yeah. Communications. Gotcha. And where are you
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from? I'm from Dana Point, California. Dana Point, California. All right, cool. What about you?
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I'm Karina. I'm 33. I just turned 33 last week. Um, this past week. Um, yeah, I'm a repossession
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agent from South Florida. Um, I've been doing that for five years. I recently got saved. So I'm a
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newborn, uh, born again, Christian as of a year and a half ago. So I do a lot of ministry work via
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social media and online coaching. All right. Uh, how long, you said you've been doing repo for
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five years? Yes. And, uh, you're repoing cars. Do you repo other stuff or? Just cars. Just cars. So
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you have like a tow truck. Yeah. And how quick can you, uh, like what's the process for repo?
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Well, I don't know. How does that work? Um, well, so we use an application on our phone and they give
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us accounts and we run these accounts to try and locate the vehicle. And if the vehicle is there,
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we hook it and book it, hook it and book it. Yeah. And so like you just, you back your truck or
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whatever into the thing, you slide the thing under. Yes. And so what, it had gone in 60 seconds
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basically. Yes. Have you ever had any, um, altercations? Um, I've had a few, I had a bouncer
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come out with a gun. Um, I had a whole family lock me in their driveway. Like I, I hooked up to the car
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and they closed the gate on me. So yeah, that was interesting. But what did you carry? No,
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not at this company. Oh, okay. Cause I feel like it can be kind of a dangerous job, you know?
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How did you get out? Yeah. What did you do when you got locked in? Um, well, the daughter swung on
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me a few times, but the, the brother, um, kept blocking it. So every time she would like lift her
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arm to swing, the brother would hold her back. So I was, it was fine. Um, in those kinds of
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situations, I tend to get a little bit snarky cause you know, um, yeah, so I didn't really help,
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help the matters and make them good at all. Um, but I did, um, I did, I did get out eventually.
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The, the, the father, um, opened the gate for me. Yeah. So good times. Um, and, uh,
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do you get a commission? How does that work? I'm a, I, I'm paid salary here. Yeah. At this company
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at the other company I used to work for, it was, it was a commission per car.
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All right, cool. Well, uh, welcome everybody. We're going to go around the table once more.
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What's, uh, your current relationship status. If you're single, how long have you been single
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and longest relationships starting with you? Uh, I'm currently taken. I love my boyfriend.
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He's dope. Uh, and my longest relationship, uh, about three months. So is that your current
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boyfriend or? We're actually pretty new. Oh, how long have you been seeing your current boyfriend?
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Uh, about a month. One month. We, we met each other at a show back when I was in Florida. It was like
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deep in Miami and he was visiting in from Pennsylvania and he was with all his friends and he's like,
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oh, we're just driving in for the show. And I was opening, I was opening for this email band called
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to set my friends on fire. And they were like, you just want to come with us? And I'm like,
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yes, please get me out of Florida. So I joined them on the road trip. And then from that day
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up until when I flew out to LA, we were in literally jointed at the hip for like the past month.
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Shout out. He's flying in like on Wednesday. I love you, Lance. Sorry. All right, cool. Does he also
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do the, uh, urban climbing stuff? Not as much as I do. So our first day I did take him on a tower,
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but it wasn't really that high up. It was only like a hundred, 150 feet. Was that his first time? Yes.
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Okay. Did you tell, you tell, told him what you were going to do, right? Yes. Like imagine
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showing up to a date with a girl and she's like, all right, we're climbing this shit.
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It was literally first day. Our, actually our first kiss was on that road trip up somewhere
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in like North Carolina. And it was at a, oh, wow. So romantic. Just climbing. Oh,
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we kissed at an abandoned pool. Wait, question for you. Um, let's say he showed up to the date,
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right? I know you told him what you're doing, but he shows up, he, he sees it. He sees the thing he's
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about to climb and he's like, eh, you know, I'm not really, I'm not going to do it. Are you, is,
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is it deal breaker? No, no, not at all. What if he's like, he's, he's like, I'm scared. He says,
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you're fine. Yeah, of course. Okay. Of course. No, it's totally understandable. It wouldn't be like,
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it's not a deal breaker. A deal breaker for me is like intellect. Like if, if you cannot intellectually
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keep up with whatever conversation I got going on, if something I'm rambling about is quote unquote
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too deep, that's my deal breaker. But if you don't want to join me on whatever risk taking
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bullshit I do, dude, understandable, protect your life, you know? Makes sense. Yeah. Okay. Uh,
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all right. What about you? Um, I have been in a relationship for six months at this point and my
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longest relationship was like one and a half, two years. All right. So the current relationship,
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uh, six months, does he also go to UCSB? No. Is it long distance? Yes. It's long distance. Um,
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you're wait, remind me you're from San Diego. Is he in San Diego? Yes. Where, where's he though?
00:23:10.360
Um, right now he's a senior in high school, so he's graduating next year and then NYU is where he's
00:23:17.620
trying to go. I see. Okay. Uh, so you guys went to the same high school. Sorry. Uh, you guys went to
00:23:26.380
the same high school then? We met at work. Okay. Yes. Um, and he, so he's 18 or? Yes. Okay. Uh,
00:23:34.560
but he's just a grade below you. Okay. We're like the same age. Gotcha. And, uh, wait, hold on. So,
00:23:42.320
okay. He's in San Diego. Yeah. Are you planning to like go back to visit him? Um, I visit him actually
00:23:48.900
two weeks ago and that was really nice. We, um, went out, we went to like some restaurants.
00:23:56.340
That was super fun. We actually went rock climbing. No way. Yeah. Let's go. But it was an
00:24:00.880
indoor one. We, we don't do all that risky stuff. Still though, that's hard. Yeah. Okay. Um,
00:24:07.040
do you think that the fact that you guys, I, you know, I wouldn't even say it's long distance.
00:24:10.980
I would say it's medium. Medium. For sure. You're in a medium distance relationship. Uh,
00:24:15.380
you think it's going to present any complications or issues for you guys or?
00:24:20.180
It has a little bit. Um, but I feel like our communication is really strong. So we just talk
00:24:26.800
through our problems. We have like little date nights every once in a while where we just like
00:24:32.140
call, watch a movie or play video games. And that has been, it's honestly been really good so far.
00:24:39.020
I can see this definitely improving our relationship. Improving the relationship. Okay. Uh,
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we have a chat coming in here from Adzils. Thank you, man. Appreciate it.
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Adzils donated $200. Yo, thank you, man. Hey, Brian, your favorite Brit is back. Give me a salute.
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Fine, sir. Hashtag free Felicity. Hashtag Brian. I see fight. Hashtag Michael Jackson is king.
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Amen. Uh, Adzils. Appreciate it. Uh, thank you, man. Michael Jackson is king.
00:25:09.160
Sure. Michael Jackson is king. You're, you're really big.
00:25:12.840
Michael Jackson fan. By the way, uh, I think I've shared this a few times before on the show.
00:25:18.200
When I was young, I actually, I went to, don't worry, nothing happened. Went to Neverland Ranch
00:25:27.180
And I met Michael and he was chill. He was cool.
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Nothing weird, you know, got a bunch of free food. Neverland Ranch.
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Oh, yeah. Hard. Yeah. So W. Michael Jackson or I, RIP. Anyways, um, good talk. Uh, relationship
00:25:44.880
status for you? Um, I'm currently in a relationship of a little over two years.
00:25:48.840
Two years. Okay. Uh, and, um, longest relationship I'm assuming. Okay. And you guys met in high
00:25:56.060
school and? Yeah, we met junior year. High school sweethearts. Um, does he go to UCSB?
00:26:03.240
No, he's back in Illinois. He's at Urbana-Champaign, UIUC. He's in Chicago. Got it. Oh, no, Urbana-Champaign.
00:26:10.060
So that's not. It's like. Different part of Illinois. Yeah. And, uh, so long distance then.
00:26:15.140
Mm-hmm. Um, how long, so it's been, wait, you're a first year, right? Yeah. Okay. So you just moved
00:26:19.660
here. Okay. Any, any issues with the long distance? Um, a little bit, but we were used
00:26:25.940
to being, like, five minutes apart. So, like, going from that to, like, long distance, obviously
00:26:30.200
there'd be complications, but honestly, it's been going pretty well. Gotcha. Okay. Um,
00:26:36.380
and are you guys planning to try to see each other? Like, he comes here, you go there, or
00:26:44.500
are you guys going to kind of more so wait maybe till the holidays? Like, I don't know if
00:26:47.720
you're planning to go home during Christmas? Um, yeah, the next one I'm seeing is going
00:26:50.760
to be Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving. Because he's also a biomedical, like, engineering, so
00:26:54.700
it's kind of hard for him to come visit and, like, ignore school for a long time. Uh-huh.
00:26:59.300
But I know in May, for sure, he'll come visit because he gets out earlier since UCSB is on
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a quarter system, so he'll come for, like, a week. Is he the one? Yeah, I honestly would
00:27:07.340
say that's why I want to, like, do long distance because he's, like, halfway across the
00:27:10.520
country. Gotcha. All right. What about you? Um, funny you ask. Uh,
00:27:17.680
that's a little complicated at the moment. Tell us. Been with my current partner for
00:27:23.680
over five years. Uh, we got engaged, actually, in New Zealand, um, this February. Um, but
00:27:32.060
I'm not wearing my ring at the moment. Taking a little bit of space. Uh, yeah. Just, yeah.
00:27:39.280
Just to, um, I don't know, reassess, I guess. And, uh, I have bigger fish to fry, honestly.
00:27:45.880
So, um. What do you mean bigger fish to fry? Like, as far as, like, my personal life is
00:27:50.720
concerned, um, romantic love isn't at the forefront of my mind at the moment. So, so
00:27:58.040
just taking a little space, I mean, yeah. But five plus years, not my longest relationship.
00:28:03.500
Um, my only other relationship has been with, um, my son's father for seven and a half years.
00:28:10.060
And those are the two relationships I've had. Were you ever married? Never married.
00:28:13.800
No. Okay. Um. But definitely planned to be. Uh, really quick, just on the, your son's
00:28:20.100
father. Yeah. Uh, are you guys co-parenting? We are now. Yeah. Okay. It took us a really
00:28:27.180
long time to get there, but, uh, but we are now. Okay. Uh, does he pay you child support?
00:28:31.560
Um, no, he doesn't. Do you pay him child support? No, I don't. Okay. Is there, has this been
00:28:42.220
litigated in the court or has it been handled informally? Informally. It's a long story, but,
00:28:48.460
um, yeah, no, it's just not worth it to. Okay. And you said you were 19 when you got pregnant?
00:28:53.080
Technically. Technically. And then you had your kid when you were 20. Correct. So he was
00:28:58.060
also young? Correct. Young guy? He was, um, 24 and I was, I think, 18, 19. So not too big
00:29:05.360
of an age difference. My current partner is, um, 18 years older than me. So quite a, quite
00:29:12.800
a bit. So he's 53. 53. 53. Okay. Yeah. And you're 36. Um, it's complicated though. How long
00:29:22.080
has it been complicated and how long have you not been wearing your ring? Um, it's been complicated
00:29:28.580
for, for a bit. Um, he has a child from a previous marriage. He's been previously married. I have not
00:29:37.820
been married, but you know, long-term relationship and I also have a kid. So it's been really hard
00:29:43.880
to do that. Um, the blended family, um, for us. So that's been quite a challenge, I would
00:29:52.380
say. Among other things. And, uh, among other things. So you said you took the ring off because
00:30:03.140
you guys are, were engaged. Yeah. I mean, technically. So how long have you had the ring
00:30:08.360
off? Um, recently, like a few days ago, a few days ago, but this is not the first time
00:30:14.780
I've taken it off. So. All right. Okay. Not the first time you've taken it off. No, it
00:30:19.380
isn't. What is there specific reason you guys are fighting? Um, yeah, things are just, um,
00:30:27.600
they're not, they're clashing, you know, and I would say that I don't feel like he necessarily
00:30:35.000
knows how to provide certain things that I've very vocally tried to, um, you know, get him
00:30:42.480
to provide as far as like emotional support goes, things like that. Cause like I said,
00:30:45.760
my life is at a pretty rocky moment. Um, and yeah, and he just doesn't get it. And, um,
00:30:52.360
he doesn't get it. He doesn't get it. There, there is also a cultural difference. So he's,
00:30:56.380
um, he's Bulgarian. Um, so he's from Bulgaria. So there, yeah, it's a, what's the difference?
00:31:05.460
Um, I think he was just raised very differently. Um, how so I have a way more traditional
00:31:15.600
understanding of love and relationships based on my, you know, personal life experience with
00:31:21.480
my parents, my grandparents, et cetera. Um, he also has his own kind of version of that
00:31:27.220
and it, and it's just very different and it's not necessarily wrong. It's just different.
00:31:34.500
Just a reminder for everyone, please don't read the chats as they come on the screen.
00:31:39.440
Okay. Um, okay. So you say he's not providing, you say he's not providing, um,
00:31:50.020
emotional support. What does that mean? You know, it's so funny. I think a lot of guys don't
00:31:59.800
necessarily know what that means. Um, it really just means to be present, like present, present,
00:32:05.940
like emotionally present, not just there's a, there's a very distinct difference between being
00:32:10.100
physically present and actually being emotionally present and saying, Hey, I recognize and acknowledge,
00:32:16.660
you know, what you're going through in your life. You know, my mom is very sick. Um, you know,
00:32:23.240
very sick. And, you know, my son is also having, you know, his, some of his own personal issues as
00:32:29.480
well. Teenager. Yeah, exactly. Difficult period. Totally. Totally. So I just really require a certain
00:32:36.640
level of support. And that's what I mean by that. And I'm just not receiving it at the moment. And I'm at
00:32:42.360
an age where, I mean, I don't have my biological clock ticking because, because once again, I already
00:32:47.700
have a child. So I'm, I'm okay with not having any more children, but marriage is impaired. Like that,
00:32:53.780
that is very important for me. And so we've been together for long enough where I feel like
00:32:58.800
it's either you do or you don't. And that's that. Oh, so he's, you guys have been, how long have you
00:33:05.740
guys been engaged? Since February of this year. Oh, okay. So wait, are you saying that he's not
00:33:13.480
wanting to pull the trigger on the actual marriage? Correct. Okay. Uh, and he's not providing you the
00:33:20.500
emotional support, uh, that you need at this moment. Okay. Yeah. Um,
00:33:26.940
Hmm. Hmm. Okay. Uh, we'll come back to that a little later, but okay. What about you? Um,
00:33:37.800
I'm currently single. My longest relationship was five, maybe five and a half years. Yeah. And it was
00:33:44.380
just my honestly high school boyfriend and he was not great. So, sorry, you've been single how long?
00:33:53.060
Um, since maybe three years ago. Yeah. Single for three years. Gotcha. Okay. Uh, who broke up with
00:34:02.800
who? The five-year relationship? I broke up with him. Broke up with him. Yeah. Was it ever on again,
00:34:06.760
off again, or was it pretty much just clean? It was on, on again, off again. Yes. How many times?
00:34:10.980
Um, I don't know, maybe five or six. And in each of those instances, was it always you ending it?
00:34:18.940
Um, no, it was the other times it was him mostly. Um, and I think part of it. All the other times.
00:34:26.780
Yeah. Except for the final one. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. Why would he break up with you five times?
00:34:31.300
I think part of it was maybe emotional manipulation, honestly. And I, I had a. How did you
00:34:36.500
emotionally manipulate him? No, he emotionally manipulated me. Did I get that in reverse?
00:34:41.160
I think, I think I was very attached and we met when I was very young and I was looking for marriage
00:34:49.460
and kids and family. Um, I took steps towards that and I just felt that he didn't over that time.
00:34:58.080
And you don't have any kids? No. Okay. No. So he didn't, he also didn't want that.
00:35:03.300
Yeah. He was just honestly abusive and yeah. Okay. And cheated on me in the end. Cheating.
00:35:11.900
So. Okay. Yeah. You said you met him when you were very young. Was he about the same age
00:35:16.760
as you or? He was four years older. So I was 17 and he was 21. Wow. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. Is
00:35:25.340
that, this is in California, right? Yeah. Cause you're from California. Yeah. I'm pretty
00:35:29.420
sure that might've been a crime, but, um, I don't know. I know there's like Romeo and
00:35:35.240
Juliet, but I don't even think California has that. California. Not in California. Yeah.
00:35:40.260
So yeah. Okay. All right. A little, uh, so you were a junior in high school. Yeah. I was
00:35:47.580
a junior in high school and I was selling weed on college. No. So I took college classes since
00:35:53.840
I was 15 and a half cause my school didn't have AP classes. Okay. I went to sort of a charter
00:35:58.960
school that worked like a college. You go in twice a week, get your homework. And I supplemented
00:36:05.080
that with college courses at night. Okay. A little bit of a yikes there with, he was 21
00:36:12.160
and you were 17. A little bit of a yikes. A bit of a yikes, I guess. Uh, okay. And you
00:36:19.120
said he was abusive. Um, may I ask how so? Uh, emotionally, verbally, physically, physically.
00:36:25.280
Yeah. Okay. It got that way. All right. Uh, was that reciprocated? Um, honestly at the
00:36:32.920
beginning, yes, but to me at that time I would consider it more so like fighting back. Like
00:36:40.220
I would yell back at him and then I sort of got to a point where I grew a lot and I stopped
00:36:46.820
doing that, but he sort of continued with what he was doing. So, you know, he treated me badly
00:36:53.000
and I ended the relationship. Gotcha. Um, any police intervention at all where police
00:36:59.140
ever called for, cause you said it got physical a few times. So yeah, no. Okay. Um, and then
00:37:06.620
you've been single for three years, any, anything in that time period, like a situationship or,
00:37:12.640
um, not a situationship. I was in one other relationship during that time. So I've had two
00:37:17.740
boyfriends. Um, when did that end? That was last year around this time. How long had you
00:37:23.860
been dating the, this other guy? Um, maybe like three months, three months. Okay. Not
00:37:28.960
very long, but you guys did call each other boyfriend girlfriends. Okay. So you've been,
00:37:34.480
and you said earlier this year, uh, last year at this time. So a year ago. Yeah. Okay. So
00:37:39.280
you've been, we could say you've been single for one year instead of three, any besides this
00:37:44.780
three month guy. Has there been anything long or just him? Um, I sort of have gone on dates
00:37:51.060
and seen maybe one other guy, but not really, um, a boyfriend. All right. Gotcha. But you,
00:37:59.900
you've been dating and are you on any dating apps currently? I used to be, but I sort of had a bad
00:38:05.580
experience with that and I guess ended like my time on the apps. Fair enough. Did you put that in
00:38:12.820
the notes? Yeah, I did. I'll get, I'll get to that later. Okay. Okay, cool. Um, all right. So
00:38:19.140
single for one year, three years ish. And, uh, I had another question on this, but maybe it'll come
00:38:27.780
to me later. What about you? I've been single for all 19 years of my life. All 19 years. Girl
00:38:33.500
blasters. Yeah. I'm mad about it. Uh, keep it that way. Have you had a situationship? I mean,
00:38:40.180
of course, like never, never like an official boyfriend. No. Uh, what's the longest period of
00:38:46.160
time? I guess, regardless of how you would categorize it longest period of time, you've
00:38:50.360
seen a guy. Yeah. So I was exclusive to, um, a guy that I lived with for, um, in a co-ed
00:38:56.900
house for about six months, six months. Okay. Uh, but not boyfriend, girlfriend. No. And when you
00:39:03.060
say you were exclusive to him, are you saying it was one directional? No, it was, I mean, I'd hope it
00:39:09.100
was both directions though. Um, I don't know for sure. Well, did, did you guys ever have like any
00:39:15.260
overt conversation? Like, yeah, I mean, are we, they were definitely seeing each other people? Yeah. I mean,
00:39:21.200
we know that, um, we both knew that, um, we both knew that we didn't want to be like sleeping with
00:39:25.600
other people because it's just like our personal preference. So that's what we did, but there were
00:39:30.380
no labels or anything. Okay. Got it. And, uh, besides the six month, any, any other kind of
00:39:38.600
situationship? No. Two month, three month, one month? No. I mean, yeah, maybe a few weeks. A couple weeks.
00:39:44.620
Yeah. Okay. And with, there's, has there been a couple of these few week ones? Yeah. I'd say
00:39:50.800
two. Three, two, three. Okay. And, uh, they last what, two, three weeks? Yeah. And then is it, you lose
00:39:57.520
interest, they lose interest, mutual? I mean, one was they lost interest and the other one was I, um,
00:40:03.460
lost interest in the fact that they wanted other people, you know, all the time. Sure. The six month
00:40:11.200
one, who ended that? I'd say it was mutual. Um, we both were going to the same school and that's why it
00:40:18.800
was, um, um, exclusive, but he lives in Utah. So during the summer, it kind of got hard. I went
00:40:26.200
to see him in Utah and it all kind of like collapsed there. Wait, was, uh, the six month
00:40:32.300
one, was this here in Santa Barbara? Yes. Okay. I see. All right. Uh, any guys in the picture
00:40:38.360
currently? No. Nobody? No. Not even texting? Nope. A little sneaky link? Nothing? No, not
00:40:44.120
at all. Okay. And then for you, since you're also single, any guy in the picture right now?
00:40:48.720
Not right now. Nothing? No. Not even a little flirtation? Not a, you know, nothing? The guy
00:40:54.160
you, nothing? No. They're married to the bed. I'd rather be single than just date someone I'm
00:41:00.760
not going to marry. Preach. Uh, what about you? I'm single for all my life. So 20 years
00:41:07.740
now. Okay. Uh, longest anything? I've never been in a situation. Nothing. Okay. Uh, wait,
00:41:18.680
like a week? No. Not a week? No. Have you been on a date? No. Have you held hands with
00:41:24.760
a guy? No. No? First kiss? Yes. Oh, okay. First kiss. All right. Uh, okay. Um, like hookups,
00:41:35.160
anything like that? Yeah. I mean. Here and there? Yeah. I mean, college, you know. College
00:41:40.600
stuff. Um, but no boyfriend, no. No boyfriend, no situationship. Okay. With the hookups, have
00:41:46.520
you ever, like, is it just like a one-time thing or will you? One time. I've never. Never
00:41:51.620
done a two-for-one deal or what? No. That doesn't even make sense. What's the one that
00:42:00.800
you get? Um, uh, so it's a one and done. So you're like a little player, you know? Well,
00:42:07.360
like you're breaking these guys' hearts. I wouldn't. Like they're all trying to wife you
00:42:10.820
up and you're like, nah, I'm good. I wouldn't say that. Um, okay. I think, you know, kind of
00:42:18.380
what she said, um, there's been opportunities for people to, or men to take me out, but I
00:42:26.820
just, realist, like realistically, I don't think it would, those options would have worked.
00:42:33.120
Are these guys for the streets? Is that what you're telling me right now? We're dealing
00:42:37.560
with, we're dealing with college boys. So not everyone is, um, gotcha. Yeah. Okay. And
00:42:44.140
what about you? Um, I'm single. All right. How long have you been single? A year and a
00:42:49.140
half. Any guys in the picture currently? No. All right. A year and a half. Longest
00:42:54.120
relationship? Two years. Two years. Who broke up with who? Me. All right. Any ever
00:43:00.120
married? No. Any kids? No. All right. Um, and you're, I think in your notes, if I recall
00:43:08.600
correctly, you're celibate. Yes. You've been celibate for a year and a half? Yes. Okay. All
00:43:13.320
right. Uh, okay. Since my salvation, that, that's a year and a half ago. Tell us the
00:43:19.440
story on that really quick. So you like, you, something about in your notes, you, you went
00:43:24.220
to hell. Yes. Tell us that story if you can. Okay. Um, the long version or the short
00:43:31.020
one? Uh, short one. Give me one sec. I'm going to let this chat come through.
00:43:34.900
Adzils donated $200. Good man. Not a bad word on the King. I was worried. I thought
00:43:43.000
I'd have to come to Santa Barbara to stomp on your dumpy. All jokes aside. Oh, all is
00:43:48.660
well, Brian. Great run of shows recently. Yo, Adzils. Thank you, man. Appreciate it. Uh,
00:43:55.300
it. What do you guys think? Yo, Adzils, you want me to ask the, do you guys like, I don't
00:44:00.260
know what, he's got some obsession with Michael Jackson, the King of Pop. Uh, do you guys
00:44:05.440
like Michael, MJ? Hell yeah. Of course. You guys like Michael Jackson? He's iconic. Oh,
00:44:09.200
Adzils most will tell you. Iconic, yeah. Does anybody know how to moon? No. Wait, what's
00:44:12.800
it called? Moon dance? Moonwalk. Moonwalk. No. Moonwalk. Anybody know how to moonwalk?
00:44:17.680
I can. Wait. I can two-step. No dancers here? No. No. I can throw down. Okay. Well. Like, I can
00:44:22.680
slam dance, but moonwalking, no. All right. Sorry, Adzils. I was going to see if anybody
00:44:27.340
can bust a moonwalk for you. Uh, yo, Jean, thank you for the, uh, looks like you bought
00:44:32.680
some merch here. And then, uh, Ray, no, it was Brooke. Brooke, thank you for the t-shirt
00:44:37.780
purchase. Thank you. Uh, go ahead with your, uh, your story. Okay. So essentially I was
00:44:42.720
on drugs. I did a lot of cocaine for two months of my life last year. Um, one night I just did
00:44:48.360
way too much and I actually died and I got sent to hell. Um, all I can say to
00:44:55.140
describe what hell was for me, because I do believe that hell is going to be
00:44:58.400
different based on everyone's life here on earth and the way that they sinned and
00:45:01.740
their weaknesses and everything. But for me, it was a dark black abyss of
00:45:06.060
nothingness. Um, demons were laughing all around me. I was being tortured. It was like
00:45:11.640
I was being held down and I couldn't move. It was just a whole blackness away from
00:45:18.420
consciousness. It was consciousness away from God is basically what I would
00:45:21.640
describe it as. Um, and while I was down there being tortured, it felt like
00:45:26.220
forever. Don't really know how long it was. Um, God's voice came in through the
00:45:31.320
darkness and said, you can wake up now. And when he spoke, the demons started to
00:45:35.420
tremble. Um, just like in the Bible, it says demons shake at the sound of his voice.
00:45:40.100
Right. So they started to tremble and I woke up on my bathroom floor. I still
00:45:45.220
thought I was dead. I walked around the house, like completely, like didn't even
00:45:50.320
know what was going on. And then when I got back to the bathroom, I looked into
00:45:54.400
the mirror, I saw blood on my face. I must've like cracked my face. I have a
00:45:58.020
scar actually. I must've cracked my, my face open on the, on the counter when I
00:46:02.440
went out and fell down. But the blood is how I realized I was still alive.
00:46:06.780
Damn. Yeah. Uh, so you, you OD basically. Yes. Damn crazy. Yes. Uh, so
00:46:14.300
you're, you've, were you religious before that or? Nope. Okay. But then you found
00:46:19.560
God, you found, you're a Christian. What denomination? I'd like to say more of a
00:46:24.060
charismatic Christian. What is that? I don't know what that is. Um, is that a
00:46:28.560
denomination or? Well, uh, so basically it's just, we're very into, um, the miracle
00:46:36.000
working power of Jesus and the Holy Spirit and, you know, deliverance, healing, uh,
00:46:42.440
speaking in tongues. Do you know, do you know how to speak in tongues? I mean, it's
00:46:48.080
a gift of the Holy Spirit, so. But you, you have the gift. Yes. Can we get a
00:46:53.080
demonstration? Can I ask something? Is it? Hold on, hold on. Can we get a
00:46:56.960
demonstration? Ah, you're going to put me on the spot like that. Go ahead.
00:47:01.680
Ha, she, kese, re, basa, namah, ta, she, kese, kere, basa, nanah, ta, she, kese,
00:47:07.620
siku, sata, ta, ta, shamanatata, swatata, ta, shakese.
00:47:22.400
I totally understood everything you just said. Um. So you can interpretate the
00:47:26.200
tongues. I'm an interpreter. I interpret. I'm an interpreter.
00:47:32.340
Oh, I just wanted to know if it was similar, the charismatic Christian, to like Foursquare, like Pentecostal.
00:47:45.680
And do you consider yourself, so you're born again?
00:47:49.760
Were you ever, do you have to be Christian first to become born again?
00:47:57.460
Born again is just you're dying to your old self and you're reborn with Christ.
00:48:01.420
You could be a Christian before and then be born again.
00:48:12.040
No, but like, are you, now are you a born again virgin?
00:48:27.460
Now, it doesn't like wipe away everything that I've done.
00:48:39.780
So, it took me a few months after becoming a Christian to actually shut down the page.
00:48:47.560
And then just curious, I actually, nobody else here does OF, OnlyFans, any like sex work stuff?
00:48:56.200
So, nobody here, I mean, you did it in the past.
00:49:03.180
You did it in the past, but you don't do it anymore.
00:49:30.720
So, I think we've had one or two matchmakers on the show before.
00:49:35.480
You said you've been doing matchmaking for five years, is it?
00:49:39.220
And you work with quite a variety of clientele.
00:49:50.640
And so, basically, somebody comes to you, hey, dating apps suck, dating sucks, help me
00:50:08.660
So, you're a professional matchmaker and a dating coach.
00:50:18.140
If somebody tells me they're a matchmaker and a dating coach, the question that it always
00:50:34.920
Honestly, I just had a really unconventional start.
00:50:37.700
Like I said, I met the father of my son very young.
00:51:08.880
No, but like, honestly, you're just like ignorant.
00:51:11.020
And I would say that I was raised in like a very extremely like sheltered household.
00:51:17.140
Like my, excuse me, my dad was, you know, the breadwinner.
00:51:24.900
So she was very like present, but almost suffocatingly so.
00:51:44.820
But, you know, when you're raised in like an extremely sheltered household, a lot of times
00:51:53.660
And so I met like the probably worst candidate of a person for me.
00:51:59.500
And, and like I said, it was like this whirlwind.
00:52:04.340
And yeah, I met him through my best friend at the time who I had known since kindergarten.
00:52:11.920
She was like, yeah, she was like a sister to me.
00:52:20.160
I, it's, I just, I was young and dumb, honestly.
00:52:25.160
You also in your notes, you say you've turned down a handful of billionaires and very, very
00:52:33.700
You say some of them are very down to earth and act like regular people.
00:52:36.760
Money and power only changes people if you allow it to.
00:52:39.940
And it certainly doesn't equate to happiness or having an easier time.
00:52:44.880
Um, you say some of your clients want and try to date you, uh, you're flattered, but you've
00:52:54.580
always kept things professional, never crossed that boundary.
00:52:59.400
So you, when you say you've turned down a handful of billionaires and they're very wealthy,
00:53:03.520
high level executives, you're talking as clients or you're talking as men who are interested
00:53:14.040
So for, from the client angle, just why would you turn someone down?
00:53:21.200
No, honestly, most of, um, the clients that I've worked with have actually been a pleasure
00:53:27.720
Of course you always have, you know, the stragglers.
00:53:30.360
There's always the exceptions to the rule, but to be honest, I've had really, really good,
00:53:38.640
As far as I go, I just don't ethically feel good.
00:53:41.080
Sorry, when I say, uh, like you've turned down a client, not for dating, but as your
00:53:56.720
Moving off of the clients then, uh, just purely romantically, not even clients.
00:54:09.280
And then, and then there have been extremely high level executives for like billion dollar
00:54:28.620
I feel like I would, like what, why, you know, just the, you know, wasn't feeling it.
00:54:34.460
I would, if a, if a girl billionaire was like hitting me up, you know, I'd, I'd probably
00:54:41.140
I'd probably feel it, you know, although there are all the female billionaires are a bit
00:54:46.460
on the older side, you know, well, I guess the male billionaires are too.
00:54:49.840
So for me, um, it's not about money, status, power.
00:54:59.240
No, I really, I really truly care about like, like how, like how the person is like their
00:55:05.800
values, their morals, like where they come from, how they grew up.
00:55:09.820
Can we have, you know, long, intimate conversations, things like that.
00:55:21.140
Assuming they're a good person, let's say they're a billionaire.
00:55:29.060
But you mentioned you want to have those long, deep, deep convos.
00:55:34.980
What if everything else about them, I'm not saying they're perfect, but they're good.
00:55:40.080
But they, you can't have long, deep convos with them, but they're a billionaire.
00:55:52.040
They're a good person, but you're never going to have some deep philosophical convo.
00:55:59.400
My current partner, I don't have deep philosophical conversations.
00:56:06.320
So, so to be clear then, if you can't have those, you would, you would date a billionaire?
00:56:26.140
Even if she worked at Chick-fil-A and there was a lack of capacity for really deep convos,
00:56:37.100
So, how does that go when you turn down a billionaire?
00:56:55.520
I always maintain a level of respect and professionalism.
00:56:58.960
I mean, that's very important in anything you do.
00:57:03.020
You just have to sort of set the line and the boundary.
00:58:40.740
The one that I'm specifically referring to now with you.
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I'm sure most of you have career ambitions of some sort of or the other.
01:01:25.000
But you know I don't want to maximize all the potential traits.
01:02:08.940
Essentially offer you like the trad life stream.
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A little closer to the mic if you're speaking please.
01:02:43.680
My hobbies include turning my lifestyle into businesses.
01:02:57.740
Where I rent out my car and other people's classic cars around San Diego.
01:03:05.320
You can have your own private collection of amazing cars.
01:03:10.160
Every single car you could possibly ever want you could possess.
01:03:16.320
Why do you want fucking random people farting in your car?
01:03:20.240
It's just for photo shoots and it's like their special moment in their life.
01:03:44.980
Like I had a shopping addiction honestly when I was younger.
01:03:51.040
So if I buy things and you know don't use them anymore.
01:04:10.300
Is he a follower of Jesus on the narrow path to eternal life?
01:04:42.880
I don't feel comfortable having someone hold me back that much.
01:04:46.740
If I enjoy making money it excites me more than spending money honestly.
01:04:51.520
So if that's the only thing they can offer is their money and kindness then that just wouldn't
01:05:02.960
Well I suppose they would offer you some of the other positive traits that you would desire in a person.
01:05:21.400
So I've been hand making clothes since I was 14 and I've been selling them online ever since.
01:05:29.160
I said no because not even with holding someone back from working I'd love not to work ever again.
01:05:35.940
It's more of the power of like the fact he could change his mind or find something better and then I'm just stuck.
01:05:43.800
Well let's assume does it change anything if you in the hypothetical you know he stays with you.
01:05:59.620
Yeah if I know that it's going to be a forever thing then.
01:06:08.960
That's a lot of money you're going to get in the.
01:06:12.880
She'd actually prefer five years because she can get the money.
01:06:16.920
No so I guess then the hypothetical would have to grant you he stays with you forever but you stay with him forever.
01:06:25.720
So it's not like no loophole where well okay I divorce him in five years and then I get to do my career in college and all that stuff.
01:06:46.220
I think no because it's kind of a part of my personality honestly.
01:06:59.740
And it's something I'd want to do but I would honestly take yeah a five year break or like ten year break to raise kids or something like that.
01:07:15.340
Like that's something like I see for myself like doing it like most of my life and I think it'll be like fun and I want to help people so.
01:07:29.560
I want, I love learning so if I didn't have college then I would just be stuck.
01:07:36.080
And I think that building your own career is so rewarding and being successful enough to support yourself and support those you love is so important to me.
01:07:46.020
But assuming in this situation, in the hypothetical, you would stay with this person for your whole life, wouldn't you be able to manifest these things through the wealth of your husband?
01:08:12.460
Does that require a lot of traveling or can you stay local?
01:08:15.660
Um, it depends where you, it depends where you're at.
01:08:18.540
Like if you're in a major city, maybe like LA, you could maybe stay local.
01:08:22.300
There's probably traveling medical device sales people.
01:08:25.120
Um, do you think that like when you're 60 or 70, 80, whatever.
01:08:36.460
You think you're, you're going to look back at life and be like, man, that one time I sold that MRI machine.
01:08:44.580
That was the pinnacle of fulfillment in my, it's like, I sold that fucking MRI machine and I, you know, he gave me this rebuttal and then I, he raised this objection and I countered it with my sales tactics.
01:09:02.280
What is the ultimate fulfillment of medical device sales?
01:09:06.940
So someone I know who's in medical device sales, she works for a company that takes placentas to use them as arm grafts.
01:09:16.280
And being able to bring that into other hospitals to help people who don't have access to that, like currently, I think is so important.
01:09:24.860
And obviously not just, you know, the placentas, there's other technology.
01:09:29.660
But I think expanding on that and furthering that is really important.
01:09:39.260
I understand that historically there always have been divine masculine and feminine roles that naturally we fall into.
01:09:45.280
And maybe us being at our young age and also having like a Gen Z mindset of hyper-independence, the girl boss mentality.
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I don't think that's fundamentally wrong because I think we all should embody that.
01:10:02.140
For example, the first time I ever had a door held open for me, I resisted it.
01:10:10.120
Let me be like a hyper-independent, strong woman in peace.
01:10:12.560
I think it is part of a man's job to break that.
01:10:18.120
And I don't like being given things without working for them.
01:10:21.320
I don't think autonomy should be assigned a gender.
01:10:26.120
But then again, when I'm 80 years old and I got my cottage in the middle of like rural Colorado with the love of my life and we're tending the goats, hell yeah.
01:10:43.260
I don't think this is necessarily so black and white.
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Isn't that the point of a relationship, unity and harmony?
01:10:51.760
But my ideal life would be building a business with somebody.
01:10:55.080
Pursuing a creative endeavor or a financial endeavor with somebody.
01:11:00.040
In my case, it would be traveling the world or pursuing something that we aspire together as one.
01:11:27.920
So most of you won't trade your college, career, educational ambitions for a billionaire.
01:11:37.700
Would, if, hypothetically, we presented to you a scenario, new hypothetical.
01:11:44.160
You get to work, you get to have a job, but it changes a little bit.
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You have to drop out of somebody, I don't know, some eccentric, I don't know, the owners
01:12:01.380
But the owner of Walmart is super eccentric, approaches you, and just really likes you
01:12:07.740
And they say, I want you to drop out of college, forget your career plans, but I'll pay you
01:12:18.640
Honestly, I'd be surprised if, no offense, I'd be surprised even if at your peak, any of
01:12:24.020
you ever even end up making a million dollars in here.
01:12:33.960
You just greet people at the door, welcome to Walmart, you get paid a million dollars
01:12:38.940
You can't quit after five years, oh, I've made five mil, I'm going to, no, you got to
01:12:45.740
All right, you know what, we can even, you work till you're 50, I don't know, whatever,
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50, retirement, they pay you a million dollars a year.
01:12:52.580
Over the course of your, you know, you'll make 30, 40 M.
01:12:55.420
You can pursue any kind of romantic relationship you want, and you get to work.
01:13:04.400
To be honest, I'm sorry, I still know, and that's not because of my relationship ideals,
01:13:10.200
If I am a door greeter for five years of my life, disregarding the whole man thing, I
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consistently crave change, adaptability, adventure, and naturally I fall into, like, I'd fall into
01:13:24.000
It's an average 40-hour work week, so it's like, you can still climb towers and shit on
01:13:29.360
the weekends, after work, before, it's not like, you know, you get breaks and shit, you
01:13:36.540
Now, I think it's all, I think it's all conditional, you know, maybe if it's somebody that I'm deeply
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intertwined with, I would, my stance would be a maybe.
01:13:46.340
You could build your own tower and climb that shit with a million a year, but okay.
01:13:57.960
You can work at the Walmart in Hawaii if you want to.
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You can work at whatever Walmart in the country you want.
01:14:06.140
I mean, maybe you can't move every two weeks, but if you want to move, you can move.
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Because it's, well, okay, it's not given, I'm not getting it for free.
01:14:41.100
Obviously, it's not worth a million dollars to be a door greeter.
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Yeah, it's like maybe 30, 40K a year in reality.
01:14:54.860
You said you'd take it because you're earning the money.
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Like, I'm genuinely really interested in psychology, and I want to do that.
01:15:17.680
You can psychoanalyze the people as they come into Walmart.
01:15:21.960
A lot of characters in Walmart, you know, here's my couch, sit down.
01:15:38.240
You can't do your little car thing, your clothes thing?
01:15:50.960
I mean, you get to smile at people and be pleasant, but not super fulfilling, I would
01:15:56.780
What if you're just really bad at greeting people or don't want to be on your feet all
01:16:26.600
And then at your peak of your career, I guess, what do you think you'll be earning?
01:16:58.500
Between the husband and this new thing, which of the two do you prefer?
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You take the $1 million greeter job at Walmart?
01:17:20.860
I wouldn't take it because since I do have my own business and I do feel confident that
01:17:28.080
I will work hard enough to do well, hopefully I'll be making more than a million a year.
01:17:38.400
I also think the job, like she said, could be pretty boring.
01:18:40.260
But your calculus here is you plan to go on to make a lot of money with your business.
01:18:47.120
So you think you'll actually out-earn this Walmart $1 million a year greeter gig.
01:18:53.900
Let's just say, you know, maybe, okay, you do go on to be very successful and you make
01:19:22.700
Some of you take the $1 million a year greeter job, which requires you to kick it in the Walmart
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But you won't marry, and you have to give up all the other stuff too, right?
01:19:38.360
You'll give up college, give up your preferred career for the Walmart greeter $1 million a year
01:19:51.180
There's, like, really good videos on how much a billion is.
01:20:03.800
Don't mind if I interject, but why are we placing so much stress on finance and money?
01:20:08.280
A billion versus a million when it comes to your lifestyle?
01:20:13.080
A billion versus a million is a huge difference.
01:20:17.680
You might think a million is a lot, but, like, probably.
01:20:19.960
I mean, if you're really frugal, that could, it'll set you up really well.
01:20:27.080
After a certain point, your lifestyle can only get so good.
01:20:31.220
But, okay, a million, that's, like, you're going to buy a fucking condo in Southern California,
01:20:37.340
and you're still going to have to have the job.
01:20:39.120
You're still going to have to work until you're retired, even if you get a million-dollar windfall.
01:20:43.720
Now, you can invest it and blah, blah, blah, but a billion, you're good.
01:20:51.220
You don't have to worry about money for the rest of your life.
01:20:53.000
The only reason I say this is because some people crave lifestyles that require higher wealth.
01:21:01.120
You know, obviously, I've just recently seen some of these Beverly Hills mansions.
01:21:08.420
But the reason that I have the answers that I do are not because of any feminist basis or any hyper-independent basis.
01:21:20.220
You'd have to ask the rest of the panel on that one.
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That's not my, but at least my standpoint is, sorry, I just crave a simple life.
01:21:29.080
And the life I crave does not require a billion dollars.
01:21:34.020
So I don't put so much emphasis on a man's financial status or how much I'm making.
01:21:39.580
As long as I'm making enough to lead a life that makes me and my long-term partner happy, that's truly all I care about.
01:21:45.360
So that's more traditional than, I guess, you're letting us to believe.
01:21:53.160
And I don't think that there's so much stress on money, money, money.
01:22:02.360
Well, I mean, it's interesting you bring that up.
01:22:04.560
Although if we look at divorces, the primary thing cited to for the reason for divorce is financial issues in the relationship.
01:22:12.140
So this idea that finances are completely separated from relationships are ridiculous.
01:22:17.580
Even feminist liberal women frequently want men to be providers despite their claims of desiring equality.
01:22:28.220
Who here would consider themselves more liberal or would consider themselves feminist?
01:22:35.780
I'm not, I'd say as far as the political compass goes, right or left.
01:22:59.440
I would say lean more towards traditional values and conservatism.
01:23:33.940
I wouldn't be all the way up there, but you know.
01:23:48.640
I would say I lean towards more the conservative side.
01:23:54.300
And I'm not all the way feminist, but I do agree with some of the values.
01:23:59.200
I understand it's not completely black and white.
01:24:14.860
Even if you're a feminist, not a feminist, everybody can just answer the question.
01:24:18.820
You might want to scoot into the table a little bit just so you're closer to the mic.
01:24:42.160
I don't know if you went on like a formal, not formal, but you went on the first date with
01:25:01.240
So it's kind of a bit more common when you're both young.
01:25:06.980
So if a guy asks me out, then he should probably pay.
01:25:17.960
Going back to you and you, you guys say, well, whoever asks should pay, if he asks, he should
01:25:25.440
How many times have you, how many first dates would you say you've had?
01:25:44.580
Of the seven or eight first dates, did you ask, first dates, first dates, did you ask
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Yeah, it's just kind of like, yo, let's hang out.
01:26:03.860
I understand that, you know, it's not like dinner in a movie, especially when you're
01:26:07.940
young, you're not always doing, like, a really formal date, but who's the one who's taking
01:26:13.900
the, I guess the easiest way I could frame it, the sort of initial initiative of requesting
01:26:31.160
You say men should pay, if men ask, they should pay.
01:26:36.500
Yeah, more informal, like that, just a hangout, but I haven't really, not directly, like, do.
01:26:41.920
Well, have any of you, have you been on a formal date where the guy's like, hey, let's go,
01:26:46.560
or I guess you could have said, hey, first time hanging out, really, or whatever, let's
01:26:57.640
Not just, I don't know, Netflix and chill, or let's hang out.
01:27:01.340
Uh, you, you have formally asked a guy out for dinner, first date, I'm not talking about
01:27:09.800
Not for a first date, I haven't formally asked like that before.
01:27:13.300
So, how many formal first dates have you been on?
01:27:18.220
Three, three, I'll need, you don't need to tell me exact, just an approximation, three,
01:27:27.020
And was it always the guy who asked for the formal date?
01:27:41.480
So this idea, well, whoever asks should pay, does conveniently ignore the fact that de facto
01:27:47.120
men are initiators, men are the askers, uh, almost all the time.
01:27:53.360
So it's kind of, look, I would, this idea of whoever I should pay, I could be on board
01:27:58.540
with that if it was the case that men and women asked each other out at comparable rates,
01:28:11.080
Sometimes if there's not going to be a second date, I will pay half usually.
01:28:16.540
Cause you know, and I've definitely paid for dates as well.
01:28:24.860
Like I get, if you're dating a guy, you know, okay.
01:28:28.820
I just want to say that I'm like, I don't mean my boyfriend has a really weird way we
01:28:33.220
met, but I just want to like, it started because I kind of like told him first that
01:28:40.760
So cause you said, I guess I, I kind of initiated us like talking, getting to know each other
01:28:56.080
Let's, uh, maybe Felicity, when you get them home, are you guys done with your pizzas?
01:29:04.260
We'll leave them there for a little bit, but just if you guys want to nibble, um, wait,
01:29:10.380
sorry, you were saying something about, you hit on your boyfriend.
01:29:17.500
We met through a mutual friend and, um, the person who introduced us also liked me and
01:29:24.340
we all kind of knew it, but I was interested in my boyfriend.
01:29:27.620
So we kind of, I confessed to him like secretly and then we kind of started seeing each other
01:29:41.800
Let me just get back to the original point here.
01:29:49.460
I'm trying to remember where I was going with that.
01:29:52.160
Um, you were making a point about how you're more feminist.
01:30:00.920
And because of this, you don't care as much about money.
01:30:05.120
Then again, to be fair, I've never really had a formal date.
01:30:07.700
I mean, most recent one was I got taken out to Dave and Buster's, you know, once my boyfriend
01:30:12.220
I'm not sure how that's relevant, but thank you for sharing that.
01:30:13.940
So, going back to this, uh, who here said they were feminist and also said men should pay
01:30:29.880
And I've also paid for dates, like first dates too.
01:30:36.560
And also, I was the one who asked my boyfriend to date me.
01:30:41.860
Although I would say there's no dispute that women do ask men out.
01:30:45.860
There's no dispute that women do pay for first dates.
01:30:48.700
But what I'm trying to get at is I'm, I'm talking more so in averages.
01:30:56.260
The majority experience would be men are going to be the initiators and men are going to pay
01:31:02.400
Not to say that there aren't instances where women will initiate, where women will
01:31:07.680
I don't, I don't have an exact, you know, there was a study on it.
01:31:18.500
95% of the time, the guy pays for the first date.
01:31:22.720
I'm curious, though, to hear from any women here who, like for you, for example, have you
01:31:37.460
How many first dates do you think you've been on?
01:31:42.360
I don't know about hundreds, but quite, quite a few.
01:31:48.720
I mean, look, if you, you've been dating since you were 18, you know, you go on two or three
01:32:13.700
The guy actually reached over and grabbed my food, which I was disgusted by.
01:32:40.560
Like mutual, mutual hangout, but like not directly.
01:32:47.260
On a dating app, did you ever say to a guy, hey, let's go out?
01:32:58.380
By the way, guys, just people, audio, podcast, so instead of, like, just.
01:33:27.360
You guys have probably rejected tons of men, but hundreds of men have asked you out.
01:33:35.680
This includes, like, Instagram DMs, dating apps, in person.
01:33:53.000
It's like, fuck, I'm repoing this dude's car, but he's kind of cute, you know?
01:33:56.660
In South Florida and Miami, I get a lot of the old men.
01:34:04.140
Going to you, how many times have you been asked out?
01:34:08.200
And, by the way, not saying you actually went out with, you could have rejected them, but
01:34:34.360
Online, a couple dozen, but in person, it was always like, we were friends, and then it
01:34:40.120
So, there was, it's a hard conversation, because it's like, I didn't ask him out, he didn't
01:34:45.540
So, I've never really been on, like, a formal date.
01:34:50.300
I guess to kind of wrap this all together, link it all together, I was asking you guys
01:34:55.360
about, would you give up college and career for a billionaire?
01:35:00.580
Would you give up college and career for a job that pays you a million dollars?
01:35:09.220
Like, who doesn't, why would you not pick the billionaire?
01:35:18.820
Seems like, hold on, all you guys wanting to do all this work, and I gotta go to class
01:35:36.040
You can meet a, you meet a billionaire, you, you never have to work a day in your life.
01:35:48.160
Maybe dozens or hundreds of generations of your future, well, great-great-great-grandchildren
01:36:03.700
I've seen what wealth does to people generationally, especially being from South Florida, going to
01:36:10.600
school and living in like a very, very, not just, you know, actual status, like how much
01:36:24.080
So then ultimately though, this wouldn't have really anything to do with the money.
01:36:29.460
You can still be an obscenely wealthy and you could raise your kids in such.
01:36:34.320
I'm not suggesting that, I mean, you can take care of your kids exceptionally well, but
01:36:41.620
In fact, you can hide the degree of your wealth.
01:36:45.740
You know, you don't need to let on to your children, by the way, you know, we're super
01:36:49.360
You can, I mean, they might get some hints through your lifestyle.
01:36:52.000
You can still raise them simply with financial stability.
01:36:56.180
It's just a matter of locking myself down to a Walmart.
01:36:59.600
Now, if you were to tell me like, Hey, or to a billionaire man, it's personality based.
01:37:07.540
I would rather be sleeping on the streets with somebody.
01:37:09.560
If that somebody aligns with my soul, you'd rather be homeless.
01:37:25.880
But what I'm saying is, look, if the billionaire just so happens to be my aligned karmic soul
01:37:32.680
twin, the other end of my red string, and he just so happens to be a billionaire, beautiful.
01:37:36.780
But that's not what I, that's not what I think about when I think of relationship and marriage
01:37:52.920
Like, I love shopping and I love, like, doing nothing.
01:37:57.600
Like, my whole life, just shopping and doing nothing, traveling.
01:38:01.060
Yes, you travel, shop, hang out with your billionaire boyfriend, husband, whatever.
01:38:06.120
Have kids eventually if you want to have kids or not, whatever you want to do.
01:38:13.100
Why is work, I don't understand why this idea of work as fulfillment.
01:38:23.920
So, well, first off, if even I, if we're going to view it from the frame and lens of it is
01:38:31.820
more so within the male traditional or male gender expectation, traditional gender roles
01:38:37.180
that men, men are primary breadwinners or men are supposed to get fulfillment from work,
01:38:45.020
Even I take the female billionaire over my really fulfilling gender.
01:38:52.040
The reality is, the reality is, now, some of you may go on to have fulfilling careers.
01:38:59.720
However, I would wager for the vast majority of people, 97, 95% of people, you're going
01:39:08.860
to be slogging away, slaving away for some megacorp, some corporation, doesn't, cold corporation,
01:39:18.720
Your boss is going to say, be here at this time.
01:39:23.800
Some of you may go on to be self-employed, whatever.
01:39:25.860
However, then you're, uh, you're a slave to somebody else, which would be your consumer
01:39:34.180
This idea that ultimate fulfillment comes from career seems a bit misguided.
01:39:38.520
I don't think even really successful people who have had fulfilling careers, uh, they sit
01:39:44.000
on their deathbed and they think, wow, I closed that fucking sale.
01:39:50.800
The, I think ultimate fulfillment from life will come from, uh, family primarily will come
01:39:57.820
from friends will come from those sorts of, uh, 1,000%.
01:40:01.940
Again, not to say that you can't enjoy and get fulfillment from a career, but in terms
01:40:07.860
of ultimate fulfillment and, and to finish my point off, I think most people don't even
01:40:16.960
I think most people have jobs and like, unless you're some rock star or, you know, you're
01:40:24.600
doing some really, I can maybe see like, if you're a doctor or like in healthcare or something,
01:40:30.400
there can be some degree of fulfillment where you're like, there are some jobs where there's
01:40:37.540
But if you're just like, I don't know, an HR manager for like NVIDIA or like you're, you're
01:40:44.560
some like project manager for, um, what's like kind of like a, like Microsoft.
01:40:59.520
I didn't hire that one person deathbed reminiscing like you're on your deathbed
01:41:09.740
I sat in an office for fucking like 30 years of my life.
01:41:16.140
Like, look, some of y'all might have cool jobs, I guess.
01:41:19.140
That's the exact, most people aren't, most people aren't.
01:41:33.740
Is that not the circumstance you gave us with the Walmart question though?
01:41:36.040
Like, yeah, you're earning mega bread, but at the end of the day, it's the same exact
01:41:38.700
You're greeting people out of Walmart 40 hours a week.
01:41:41.720
Unless you truly enjoy greeting people out of Walmart.
01:41:44.320
Is that not the same exact thing that you were just talking about with your office job that
01:41:49.420
Well, that is to assess, that is to assess if, so what I'm trying to achieve there is
01:41:57.100
the billion, if you're married to a billionaire, the sort of passive wealth that that passes
01:42:02.420
on to you and opens up to you far exceeds if you just earned a million dollars per year.
01:42:09.600
But some people get bogged down in, well, I want to earn it and I want to work, blah,
01:42:14.780
So I just ask, okay, but I guess the reason I bring that up is, well, if you're married
01:42:20.260
to a billionaire, you're going to have, probably have a maid, you're going to have a private
01:42:27.520
Your husband, who's a billionaire, is never going to be like, okay, show up.
01:42:32.720
You got to wake up at 7 a.m. and you got to stay here and you can't leave until, like
01:42:40.880
Show up, 8 a.m., 9 a.m., 10 a.m., stay there, do your job.
01:42:46.540
Sometimes you can have a chill boss or whatever, or sometimes you have a boss like me, who's
01:42:50.620
a little snarky sometimes, a little snappy, a little snarky.
01:42:55.100
And then, you know, show up here, do this, do that.
01:43:03.740
You can open yourself up to obscene levels of wealth through marrying a billionaire and
01:43:09.160
never having to work, but some people pick, oh yeah, I'll just do menial, like for 40 years,
01:43:16.160
I'll just greet people at a Walmart, which is like low-skilled job.
01:43:25.900
Honestly, if I was going to do a 9 to 5 job, I would have picked the billionaire, but I'm
01:43:34.360
I'll be working a lot, but after I get my PhD, then I can pick what I want to do.
01:43:41.500
I can, I also kind of want to write, like try writing a few books.
01:43:47.360
But if I know, like if I wasn't doing psychology, if I probably would have gone into like marketing
01:43:51.240
or something, I probably would have, yeah, married a billionaire because then I didn't
01:43:56.900
And that's something also why I picked psychology, because I don't want a 9 to 5 job.
01:44:06.060
People did used to work in agricultural societies where they would all work together as a family
01:44:12.740
So I think working is a fundamental part of life that we're kind of ignoring here.
01:44:18.700
It's not throwing out all your work to marry some billionaire for money.
01:44:22.300
Like there are other parts of life that work together that I think the questions ignore.
01:44:27.060
Well, so you're saying, so if I were to go back in time when we were like an agrarian
01:44:32.760
or agricultural society or even like industrial, I don't even know.
01:44:38.220
So, okay, some family's living on the farm and all the kids fucking wake up at 5 a.m.
01:44:46.880
The boys, the girls, the wife, they're all working, milking cows or some shit, whatever.
01:44:54.300
You think if they were given the opportunity, hey, you guys can live on your farm, still
01:44:58.700
live on your farm, but like all the shit will just be automated for you?
01:45:04.960
I think living like that makes you sluggish and kind of messes up your brain.
01:45:10.080
I think there's good things about work that, you know, you can find fulfillment in that
01:45:16.340
So, you think if I went down to like, went back to like, what is it, fiefdoms or like
01:45:26.480
They're just like in some like super rainy place in Europe and there's just like muddy
01:45:31.200
ditches like in England and it's just fucking cloudy and miserable all the time.
01:45:35.840
Their entire life is just shoveling fucking dirt and mud.
01:45:39.320
You think they wouldn't, like they wouldn't take, not even for a million dollars, they're
01:45:42.700
just like, hey, somebody can come do this job for you and all your benefits, you keep
01:45:53.400
Well, why do older people get jobs even if they don't need the money?
01:46:00.400
I would say that has to do with a lack of imagination.
01:46:04.340
So, these people, when they're older, they get bored.
01:46:06.500
Uh, I think that that's just, there's things to do absent work.
01:46:13.800
Uh, if you're, I mean, you might say, well, traveling eventually gets boring.
01:46:21.640
Are we defining work as something that gives us a salary, something that can, is earned
01:46:33.460
You're still slugging around logs, but you're working towards something.
01:46:41.060
Because it's such a Western mindset that work is fulfillment.
01:46:43.240
It is fulfillment if you're working towards something that brings you passion.
01:46:48.900
Do I want to be a stagehand slugging around amps for the rest of my life?
01:46:56.020
I slug around gear for four hours a day and I get to see a beautiful show and that is
01:47:05.400
Is this like a dating podcast or a money podcast?
01:47:10.420
This is completely, it's literally baked into the question is, would you date?
01:47:14.920
Because she turned down billionaires and then it segues into like, because I think,
01:47:20.260
and this is actually, you say it's not about dating, but I'm actually prepared to completely
01:47:24.220
refute and destroy your point here, is it's actually, this is probably one of the most
01:47:29.480
pressing issues as it relates to dating, as it relates to marriage, and as it relates
01:47:36.140
I mean, you can't really extract having children from, well, I mean, people can be child-free
01:47:41.480
or whatever, but for the furtherance of humanity, people need to have children, obviously super
01:47:48.340
important, if we have put propaganda out there, which, if we've put propaganda out there to
01:47:57.840
propagandize women to put career first and say family comes secondary, which has been the
01:48:08.240
case, which has been massive amounts of, unfortunately, extremely successful feminist propaganda, then
01:48:15.920
that's going to have an impact on how late people get married, it's going to have an impact on
01:48:20.420
fertility, if you start having kids, look, to be clear, you can have kids into your late 30s,
01:48:25.700
even 40s, it becomes harder, some people face fertility issues, we're below replacement, at
01:48:31.760
least of the, I mean, it depends which, which country you're looking at. If you look at the so-called
01:48:38.540
native populations of a lot of European countries, feminist propaganda below replacement level,
01:48:47.780
going to be massive population collapse, massive demographic changes in not just the United States,
01:48:54.540
well, sorry, I should say not just in Europe, but also in the United States, Western countries,
01:48:58.820
we see this happening in Korea, Japan, et cetera, it's going to be massive, massive societal issues.
01:49:04.480
Um, the reason it's related to finances is, uh, women have been propagandized. I'm not saying,
01:49:14.220
I'm not saying, oh, just become a trad wife and get married and have kids at 18. That's not
01:49:18.700
necessarily, it's not necessarily what I'm saying, but there's been a massive push to, to be like,
01:49:27.500
okay, boss, babe, boss, babe, boss, babe, career, career, career. That's ultimate fulfillment. And,
01:49:34.140
uh, husband, marriage, secondary. And then it has a negative impact on the children too,
01:49:40.000
because if you want to be a boss, babe, career woman, that's great. Well, that's where it becomes
01:49:46.940
complicated. So I personally think, look, I, to be clear, I'll preface this by saying both parents
01:49:53.400
can work and that doesn't mean your child's going to turn out terribly. That's not the case. Uh,
01:50:00.980
however, if we're talking about maximizing results, if we're talking about min maxing,
01:50:07.120
if we're talking about what's most optimum, what's most optimal, I think the most optimal thing
01:50:12.960
would be you have the parent taking care of the child, not here's a, okay, go to childcare where
01:50:22.320
some minimum wage worker isn't going to change their diapers as frequently as they should, isn't
01:50:26.860
going to feed them as frequently as they should. Uh, I think the ultimate thing would be, honestly,
01:50:32.220
look, if you're rich enough as a woman and your husband's cool with it, even better for the husband
01:50:37.600
to be staying at home than pawning your child off to some fucking daycare or a great nanny or whatever
01:50:46.340
it is. Uh, but the re economic reality due to a bunch of reasons in order to actually, for most
01:50:53.180
people, the financial and the economic reality, two people will have to work in order to have a
01:50:59.960
family. There's a bunch of reasons for that that we don't have to get into, but I do think it is the
01:51:05.880
best for the child. If we do approach it from a more traditional dynamic dynamic is husband breadwinner
01:51:13.320
wife, stay home and take care of the kids. That's the best thing for the children. And I believe once
01:51:20.900
you do have children, your selfish ego driven desires for fulfillment from career, I, I believe,
01:51:31.980
and this applies to men too, right? Your selfish desires as a man ought to take a backseat to the
01:51:39.100
interest of your children. You had something good. Yeah. So as a woman that works in a male dominated
01:51:45.780
industry, I've been a repo agent for five years. So I work 10 to 12 hour shifts. I used to do night
01:51:51.580
shifts and then I switched over to day shift. When you're young, it looks and appears like this is
01:51:57.660
how you're going to find fulfillment is by having a steady career and be able to take care of yourself,
01:52:02.200
right? It's something that like, it gives you that independence to where, Oh, any man can come into
01:52:09.240
your life and they can leave and you'll be all right. Right. But that is not how we were designed.
01:52:13.180
We were not created to have that kind of discord. The woman was actually created as the helper to the
01:52:20.280
man. Okay. They're created to be an emotional support to the man while the man provides because
01:52:25.820
they are actually built for that 40, 50, 60 hour work week. And so now that I'm older and marriage
01:52:32.560
and I have found a new perspective on everything, um, there's no way I'd be able to take care of a
01:52:38.840
family. I can barely take care of myself because I get home so tired that cooking, even just a steak
01:52:45.460
is like a whole chore. So I end up with ramen or something super fast and go to sleep just so I can
01:52:51.780
do it all over again. There is no fulfillment. It's like being in a hamster wheel. And I would
01:52:57.920
absolutely have somebody wanted to go out on a date with me that wasn't billionaire that had the same
01:53:03.560
values as me and was, um, supportive in me being able to minister to people, even, um, financially
01:53:12.040
supporting my vision, um, with God. Then yeah, I would absolutely take that over working 40, 50, 60
01:53:20.240
hours, um, by myself. I understand where you're coming from, but I think that also kind of, there's a
01:53:26.240
difference between job and career like we talked about before. Well, even if you have a job or a,
01:53:35.060
well, sorry, even if you have a career, I don't think this actually challenges anything that I said
01:53:39.580
as it relates to, uh, what's best for the children. Yeah. I mean, I'd also like to, you know, I went on
01:53:47.540
for a bit there in response to what I said, does anybody have any objections? I feel like I don't agree
01:53:53.720
because I grew up with like two working parents and my mom, like she loves her job and she's a
01:53:59.340
food scientist. And obviously she's a food scientist, food scientist. Yeah. And she obviously
01:54:04.360
like, I mean, I could say in elementary school, I was kind of sometimes felt like sad because I had
01:54:09.240
to take the bus and some parents would drop their kids to school. But then as I grew older, I realized
01:54:13.560
like my mom's her own individual. Like she is still a very good mother. We had dinner as a family
01:54:19.240
every night. We, on the weekends they'd spend as much time as they could. And I feel like they had a
01:54:23.280
very, both my parents worked, but they still treated us like really good. And, and even in
01:54:27.560
high school though, my mom actually would have to drive an hour to work and drive an hour back
01:54:31.620
and would do like full days. And my dad was actually like cooking us dinner and he was doing a lot for
01:54:37.520
us, but I didn't ever feel like neglected by my mom. Like growing up, I still think she's like the
01:54:41.760
best mother she could have been. So I feel like it depends. Like maybe if some, if, but if you are a
01:54:46.560
parent and you're not giving enough attention to your children, yeah, then I could see you'd feel
01:54:50.340
neglected and that's not the best parenting, but coming from a person who's both parents worked
01:54:55.480
and they both worked a lot of hours, I still never felt neglected. And I think I grew up to be like
01:55:00.060
pretty. Yeah. And just to be clear, to reiterate here, the, the suggestion, the suggestion is not
01:55:06.240
that, you know, oh, everybody who's grown up in like a two parent household where, you know,
01:55:13.020
the man worked and the woman stayed home and took care of the kids, that all the children under that
01:55:18.720
dynamic always turn out like perfectly. And then in the other dynamic where both parents go out and
01:55:24.280
work, the children always turn out awfully. That's absolutely not the case. Uh, but I'm, I'm just
01:55:29.760
looking in terms of what is optimal, what is best. And again, my position would just be, uh, while it,
01:55:36.720
while it works, it can work. Things can be totally fine. I, again, I do think, and it sounds like it was
01:55:44.720
perfectly fine for you. There's no disputes there. I do think it is the best to have at least one
01:55:52.380
parent there who's taking care of the kid. Yeah. Like that's the, that's the most optimal.
01:55:58.580
That's the most optimal. And especially, I don't want to send my kid to, uh, to daycare,
01:56:04.280
to childcare. Yeah. Don't want to do it. So any objections from anybody else on panel? Wait,
01:56:10.800
actually, sorry. Before you do keep that, save it, save it. I need to let some chats come
01:56:16.440
through. Sorry for the delay guys. I apologize. I should have got it in sooner. Sorry, man.
01:56:22.060
I'm donating Brian. I love yours and Andrew's work. I saw your post of that evil woman wanting
01:56:28.480
to hurt your innocent cat. Oh yeah. That's crazy. Happens to your cat. Me and the boys are ready
01:56:34.000
for war. Yeah. There's some, there's some wicked evil people out there, man. Say some weird
01:56:40.380
shit. Uh, but thank you, Teddy Westside. Sorry for the delay on that. Thank you for, uh, appreciate
01:56:45.780
your first time, uh, sending a, a dono here. Thank you, man. Doc Venabilis has missed donated
01:56:50.900
$200. Yo, thank you, man. These young ladies have been sold a bill of goods. Did you mean
01:56:55.720
a false bill? Any of you value motherhood over boss bimbo? You will reach age 50, childless,
01:57:01.380
oh shit. Driveled hoo-ha, and Zoloft dependent. Anybody want to respond to, uh, Doc Venabilis?
01:57:09.480
May I? Yeah. I do want to be a mama. I do want to be mama's self. I absolutely. So there
01:57:14.620
will, but I also do want to work. Maybe it's not as much as in the future my husband works,
01:57:20.200
but also keep in mind our age groups here. We just left. I'm talking 17, 18, 19. I left home
01:57:27.520
a little earlier than usual. I left home at 17, and I've been living alone since then. We just
01:57:31.820
barely stepped into adulthood. I get it. Biologically, we're fertile. We can pop out kids
01:57:37.200
now, but that's really not the move, and we've seen it several times before. It's good to wait
01:57:41.340
until you're in your 20s. Our brains are developing. So you know what? I'm seeing this. If you don't
01:57:46.720
want me asking, how old are you? 33. 33. How old are you, sir? 36. 36. You guys are coming from a
01:57:52.440
perspective of a decade over us. Yeah. So it's not like we're inherently wrong. You're inherently
01:57:59.160
right or vice versa. We have to take into account. We're still developing. I'm still, and this is to
01:58:05.680
prove your point. I do want to be a mama, and I do have those random spurts of, damn, I kind of want a
01:58:11.040
kid right now. I kind of want baby fever, brother. I want to be sitting there making pies for my kid,
01:58:15.000
but at the end of the day, I also still want to fulfill something for myself. So why can there
01:58:18.660
not be both? Why can I not build something along with my partner, and when the time comes, you know,
01:58:25.160
if the split is, okay, we're going from 50-50 work, building something for our family, and then once
01:58:30.740
we build that family, maybe my work is a little bit less and his is a little bit more. It's not so
01:58:36.880
black and white. It's not about some boss bimbo shit. It's about just general autonomy. It is all in
01:58:42.120
our divine nature. It is, as you were saying, I'm not inherently Christian, but I do believe
01:58:46.680
in that value that while they're, look, I'm androgynous. I'm super androgynous. What does
01:58:51.380
that have to do with anything? Because I'm saying I have a masculiness, and so I have a lot of masculine
01:58:55.840
aspirations, but at the end of the day, it's natural. It's in our DNA to want to nurture. I'm
01:59:01.840
sorry. I talk really loud. Continue. Go ahead. But you got to give us at least a little bit of the slack
01:59:05.860
of, we're still developing in ourselves. I want to ask a question. Let me do a quick response,
01:59:11.120
and I'll let you go, then I'll let you go. So, you know, I understand that I'm a bit older than
01:59:16.320
some of you. However, I also was also once 18, 19, 20. And if somebody asked me when I was 18,
01:59:24.260
19, 20, slogging away through college, and they were like, hey, Brian, you know, you have your little,
01:59:30.420
you know, your ambitions with, you know, you want to do career, you want to get an education. Mind you,
01:59:37.500
at least Mike's, I know people have varying experiences in college. I found college to
01:59:42.240
frankly be a massive waste of time. I always thought, well, at least after I dropped out,
01:59:48.680
never to let college get in the way of your education. In any case, I'm sure the college
01:59:56.500
girls are going to love that one. If somebody proposed to me, Brian, if at 18, some billionaire
02:00:04.980
woman came along and was like, hey, I'll marry you. You don't have to work. We're good.
02:00:12.440
There's no question. I don't, you know, back when I was 18, who knows what I could, you know,
02:00:17.740
who knows? I would have taken it. And you might say, well, Brian, retrospectively, trust me,
02:00:23.540
at 18, I would have taken that shit. Even, even though the male biological imperative is to
02:00:30.860
provide, still take it, still take the trade. So that's just what's in it. I don't know. It's
02:00:37.080
kind of interesting. It's kind of interesting. Oh yeah. Oh, well, hold on. I want to go in order
02:00:42.680
here, but really quick. Wait, did I, did the one from pasty George come in a message from the
02:00:49.560
government of Canada? Pasty George. I'll let you guys go after this. Hold on. Sorry for the delay,
02:00:54.320
Pasty. I'm sorry. Since ancient times, men have worked for the sake of their families.
02:00:59.680
Their actual fulfillment is knowing they have a legacy, which is their kids. Women have lost that
02:01:05.640
because of feminism. Good point, Pasty George. Thank you, man. Good to see you in the chat.
02:01:10.620
Sorry for the delay, man. My bad. I was in, I was in the midst. So I think you go, you go, you go.
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So going back to what we were talking about before, the world is also changing. We, you can
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work from home now. Well, it depends. It depends where we're talking about. Sorry, I didn't mean to
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interrupt you. Go ahead. But you can work from home. Both parents can have a job, work from home,
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and still take care of their children. And they can still be attentive too. Like you can have different
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schedules. Like for example, my mom works at 4 a.m. to like 12. And then my dad is always working.
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Um, but it, that's always worked for us because she's still there to take care of us. There's
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always been, like the point is you can have two parents working and it can still be beneficial
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for the kids and you have an extra income as well. Okay. What did you have? I would just say
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that I would honestly give up my businesses to raise kids, you know, if it worked for our family.
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I like my want and need to build something for myself has almost zero impact on situational
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choices. But I think after your kids age out, when it's 25 years down the line, I'll still want to keep
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working and do something productive. And I want to ask everybody here if you would do that as well.
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Yes. Yes. To an extent? Yes. Do, do what? Can you, do what? If you would give up just for a time,
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your career is to raise kids and then go back to it. If you were given the choice. I think that's,
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if the answer is yes, how long? Are we talking career pursuits long-term? Like, you know,
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her studying for her PhD or are we talking careers in your day-to-day job? Like,
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wait, wait, wait, hold on. Let's, let me make this simpler. Uh, who here wants kids?
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Show of hands. You don't want kids? No kids? Maybe it'll change. Who knows? I already have one.
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Yeah. Yeah. You want more kids? Maybe kids? No kids? Don't want kids. Okay. Maybe it'll change.
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Who knows? As of right now, no. Well, no, no. So just to be clear, I don't mean, I don't mean like,
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uh, kids right now. I, you know, I, I totally understand that, but maybe. Yeah. Down, as of
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right now, down the line. In your late, mid, late twenties, early thirties, even then a hundred
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percent certain. I mean, maybe, maybe it would change, but yeah. But don't even see it down the
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line. No. Why? Just curious why. I'm just curious why. Um, that's just like not the life I see for
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myself. I like kids and everything, but I kind of just want to work and I would want to get married,
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but I'm happy with just those two. What's the point of getting married? I, anyways. I mean,
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I want a partner though. I want a partner for life. Just have a boyfriend for life. Well, I don't,
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I kind of like that. You've been dating a boyfriend for two years. He's also on board. I'm assuming with
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the no kids. Yeah. I mean, he, I, he, I'm, we've talked, I mean, I don't know. He like, he
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isn't pressure me or anything. I mean, he maybe wants kids, but after being with me, I think he's also
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just realizing he maybe doesn't want it. So like, have you guys had the convo or I
02:04:20.100
had a convo, like nothing serious. It's just, I said, like, if I were to marry someone, they
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have to be, they have to respect that. I probably won't have kids and I don't want to feel pressured
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about it. And so, and he said, and he was fine with it. And I mean, I don't think he, I mean,
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we don't really know. I know. I don't really want kids. He doesn't think he wants kids either.
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So sure. Uh, why don't you guys want kids? Just, I just don't see it. Don't want to push out a
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football out of the, absolutely not. Babies are big, you know, might be painful. What
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about you? I just don't see myself being something that a child like not needs growing up, but
02:04:58.180
I don't, as of right now, I'm not kind of that nurturing, loving person. I do believe
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that a child deserves to be 100% cared for and nurtured to the fullest. And I think as of
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right now, I'm not someone that would be very like empathetic if something, I don't
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really know how to explain it, but. If it was your child that came out of your body,
02:05:21.640
I think you would, you would feel that. George donated $200 and four cents. If women are still
02:05:28.460
developing mentally until the age of 25, then why do they have the right to vote at 18?
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Shouldn't they be incompetent and thus denied voting until age 25?
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Humans, Pasty George, humans are still developing mentally until the age of 25.
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That'd actually take longer to develop mentally.
02:05:48.400
Well, so then should we, uh, including both men and women, should we raise the voting age
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That leans into a whole different conversation.
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Yeah. With that in mind, can we still buy a gun at 21, but can't vote until 25? Or are we
02:06:05.800
You gotta, hold on. Please don't make me have to remind you once more. I've, how many times
02:06:10.580
has it been? Five, 10? You gotta speak closer to the mic, okay?
02:06:18.060
Um, well, this is leaning to a whole other conversation, but if we're going to be changing
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voting age to 25, why don't we change all the other things that come with adulthood
02:06:28.020
Here, read this from Rachel Wilson. Read that from Rachel Wilson.
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Stop the cope. You don't want the responsibility and don't want to have to think of anything
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Appreciate that, but, uh, I do want the responsibility.
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Uh, somebody else had, had something I think you wanted to jump in. I'm going to step away
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Um, yeah, I just wanted to say, actually, when I was, um, 18, um, right before I actually
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met the, the father of my son, I met someone who was much older than me at the time, uh,
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too, but who wanted, who actually gave me the offer to settle down. Um, and I didn't take
02:07:14.840
it because I just wasn't attracted to him and he was much older and all of these things.
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And he told me, like, I'll put you through school and I'll do all these, you know, these
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things. And, and then I, you know, kind of refused it and went on to meet my now ex.
02:07:31.040
And I can just tell you that, um, being older and a little bit wiser that if, not that if
02:07:38.240
I could go back in time because I would never not want to have my son, but I, I will say
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that that choice of me refusing that, like, an easier life as opposed to, like, the struggles
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that I endured for decades and the trauma that I endured for decades after, um, it changes
02:08:01.860
you, you know, it really changes you. So I would just, I know you guys are all very, very
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young and you don't have, you know, you don't have as much life experience, but, um, it really
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does change you as a person. Yeah. And, um, yeah, that's all.
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And I think had I gone through or had any of us had that retrospective stance that you have,
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and it seems like you have a little bit as well. We probably would agree with that.
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However, I, well, so when I was like younger, like you got your age, 18, 19, 20s, whatever,
02:08:31.640
I never wanted kids either. And I was all about like the feminist movement and moving towards,
02:08:37.200
you know, just a career, figuring my life out, like no guy's going to come in the middle
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of that. Like no kids, never wanted kids ever. Um, but there comes a point when you get
02:08:47.940
to a certain age where like you realize it was kind of backwards the way that you were
02:08:52.980
thinking and the reality of like all those years wasted kind of hits you. And I'm not
02:09:01.200
saying it in a way that I'm going to, I'm trying to say that I don't agree with your perspective
02:09:06.660
because I've been there. I've, I've been there. I've thought those same things and I'm not arguing
02:09:11.360
that I'm better than or, or worse than anybody. I am just saying out of my experience that I hope
02:09:17.740
it resonates with you now. And maybe one day you'll look back and be like, Oh, you know,
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I was just like trying to give you loving advice, um, for the future.
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Yeah. Same for me as well. Like, cause, cause when you're young, you know, um, you don't,
02:09:33.020
you don't see the foreseeable future. You're thinking about, you know, your present moment and how
02:09:37.420
you want to, you know, thrive. And as you should, I mean, I don't want to take that away from any of
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you. You should focus on yourselves and your life and your betterment and your personal growth and
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development. But honestly, like when you're in a car scrounging for change because you can't afford
02:09:53.500
McDonald's, you know what I mean? As opposed to like being, having your school paid for and like
02:10:00.860
it, it's just a completely different lifestyle.
02:10:03.440
You know, once you're living it, you know, you guys have a wisdom and I can't speak for the rest
02:10:07.660
of the ones who are, you know, 18, 19, you know, our age, but at least the way I see it is,
02:10:11.480
I don't know this. I haven't lived through this circumstance yet, but I can look in your eyes
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and I can tell that there is truth in this. It's just not a truth that I or any of us have experienced
02:10:21.220
yet. And maybe that's something we just naturally have to go through. I think I'm already getting baby
02:10:25.920
fever, man. You know, if I were given that opportunity that he was the hypothetical that he was talking
02:10:30.300
about marrying a billionaire, it was, it was a pretty weird hypothetical because it was all
02:10:34.160
based on money. But let's say my karmic, you know, the love of my life, you know, same with
02:10:39.760
y'all, the love of your life, your absolute dream man also happened to be grinding and give you that
02:10:45.640
easy life when you're in the midst of the struggle that we haven't experienced yet. We probably take
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it too. We're just not there yet. That is the beauty of feminism. It's not, it's to have the
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choice. It's to have the choice of to be a stay at home mom or to be hardworking and everything
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in between. That's truly what it is. It's to have the free will. If you want to be a child
02:11:05.520
wife, hell yeah. I can see myself being a child wife when I'm like 80, cooking pies for my
02:11:09.380
grandkids, milking, milking the cows, you know, bringing some, some cereal. My dad comes home.
02:11:17.020
By the way, just to your point, it's never too late to find love. I just want to let you
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guys know that because I feel, no, it's no, honestly, it's truly not. No, I've, I've met
02:11:29.140
people personally. I've worked with people who are significantly older and they're 60s,
02:11:34.320
70s and they've gotten married and they found love. So like, I wouldn't say that there, if
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you want to have kids, there is obviously a very biological timeline. Of course. Yes.
02:11:47.020
There's, you know, but to find love and to find like a meaningful connection, you can
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find that at any point in time. So I met an 80 year old the other day who told me that
02:11:56.320
he just got married. Yeah. And also there's always adoption and other options as well for
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having a kid. I'm 19 and I want kids. I find it really strange when I meet other women that
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are not maternal and don't have that instinct, but like to each their own. I do think some women
02:12:13.500
should not be mothers. I agree. But it's weird and unnatural to not be maternal. Like,
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do you know what I mean? To not crave that is, that's like, I think literally in our DNA.
02:12:28.000
I think it depends. It depends on how you're, how you're raised. Yeah. So for me, I was raised.
02:12:34.360
No, no, no. I'm saying, um, wanting a child or not wanting a child. It really, it depends on how
02:12:39.680
you're raised and like, you know, the nature versus nurture type thing. That's what I'm
02:12:44.740
saying. I suppose. I don't know. I just find it a little, um, sociopathic when I meet a
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woman that's not maternal at all. Maternal in nature, I think we all have, but she does
02:12:55.880
bring up a good point. Extensive family abuse and trauma can warp your perception of what
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family means. That that's what I mean. Our nurture is all, I don't know about y'all, but
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I've been taking care of little animals since I was like four years old. I got a
02:13:10.800
gator tattooed on my foot cause I took care of a little gator. I called, he was my, he
02:13:14.500
was my son, right? We all have that. But a lot of people go through traumas that turn
02:13:19.100
them away for the same reason that a lot of people are opposed to love, opposed to
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marriage because there's, there's a nature, nurture a nature dynamic. That's all I'm
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going to say. But I agree with you. I'm 19 and I also want kids. And this is coming
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from someone who, like you said, is pretty dude-ish, you know, in, in demeanor. I got, I got
02:13:35.080
a fair amount of androgyny, but at the end of the day, I'm girl. I want to soulfully
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scrambling around. I'll teach him how to climb towers. That's my train of thought.
02:13:42.540
Yeah. For me, I feel like I came from a house that wasn't very.
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Nurturing. Nurturing. So obviously there's a lot of love or there was a lot of love in
02:13:53.480
my household and everything, but there wasn't like, let's say I'm like, I lost a tennis match
02:13:58.840
or something like that. There's no like, like, like there wasn't like, okay, I'll
02:14:03.780
take you guys to go get pizza or I'll bake you cookies. Like when you're sad, it's more
02:14:14.080
So it's not that, you know, I don't feel like, um, like obviously like I would love to
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have children, things like that. But where I'm at currently in like kind of my head space
02:14:24.480
is I wouldn't want to give a child like a disservice because I can't do that for someone
02:14:34.120
$29 donated $200. Your mindsets of not wanting children will eventually kill off the species.
02:14:42.780
South Korea is a prime example of this. Quit drinking the feminist Kool-Aid. You will regret
02:14:51.480
Uh, yo, Teddy, Teddy Westside. Wait, is this like a, a how I met your mother?
02:15:00.840
Teddy, Teddy Westside. Yo, thank you, man. Teddy Westside. Uh, appreciate it. Send in another
02:15:06.300
one. Confirm or deny if you're a how I met your mother fan. You got pasty here.
02:15:10.620
The government of Canada. Pasty George donated $200 and four cents. Nice. Many women infected
02:15:17.540
with feminism should heed the warnings from women like Kate Mulvey, Nora Vincent, Candice
02:15:22.980
Owens, Rachel Wilson, Bettina Ant, and more. Their stories and advice are gold. Yo, pasty
02:15:29.940
George. Thank you, man. By the way, pasty George here. Uh, he's a Canadian. He's a very intelligent
02:15:35.080
Canadian man. Very intelligent. So, you know, you should always listen to a Canadian. I don't
02:15:42.940
know what I just said. I'm Canadian. You're Canadian?
02:15:45.440
Both of my parents were born there. Oh, do you have citizenship or? I could get it, but
02:15:50.200
I don't actively have it. Uh, oh, I have a question, but I know you wanted to come in.
02:15:54.200
What, what did you have to say? Yeah, no. Um, I guess I kept getting interrupted every time
02:15:58.660
I tried to say this. It's okay. Um, no. So I understand feeling like you don't have the
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nurturing ability. I was raised by my father, right? I, my mom left to Argentina and then
02:16:08.600
I got involved with drugs really young and I just was always like trying to be like my
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dad. So that's why I have more of that masculine side to me. Um, but when it comes from you, when
02:16:22.000
the baby is in your body and it's being formed, I definitely think that it would just naturally
02:16:29.120
come to you. And I think we get in our own head space about how we're supposed to feel
02:16:35.120
and if we are actually built for this, but like you are, you are built for this. And until
02:16:41.360
that time comes when like, there's no way that you're going to see your own flesh and blood
02:16:45.240
and not have love and affection and empathy for it. There is something spiritual about it.
02:16:50.900
Yeah. There is something absolutely spiritual about it. Right. With the point of feminism,
02:16:55.660
I'm a feminist, but I want to be a mother and I am, if this is the situation, willing to
02:17:04.380
try that same home lifestyle. If that is what's best for my family, but I don't want to give
02:17:09.160
up, not my, but our creative pursuits for this. I know identical twin sisters raise equally
02:17:15.940
one wants children. The other does not. Oh, I'm sorry. Sorry. But it's, I've seen it first
02:17:22.900
in, you know, I watched my little sister be born and that was, and like I said, I'm not
02:17:27.740
inherently Christian, but I am omnistic. So I believe in your faith. I believe in, I believe
02:17:35.700
in a God, a creator. And there is nothing more pure and holy than seeing a newborn child
02:17:41.080
and that awoke something in me at a very young age. And I want that. Just not yet. Yes.
02:17:48.860
Can I say, I want to say something controversial. Is that okay?
02:17:53.340
It's a little bit controversial because as a mom, I can tell you, yes, having a child
02:17:59.880
does change your life and it does make you look at the bigger picture, of course, because
02:18:06.060
how can you not? You know, you're literally alive to keep another human being alive. However,
02:18:12.720
I will say not everybody is inherently born with a maternal instinct. I've seen it. I've experienced
02:18:19.200
it. Even myself because of the things that I, I would say I am very nurturing, but because
02:18:26.260
of what I endured in that relationship, it deeply affected me and traumatized me and it
02:18:32.960
really actually affected my son. And it affected me being a parent to my son because of the previous
02:18:40.840
experiences. So it's all like a learning curve and experience. And to your point also, I think
02:18:46.640
it is wise for you to know your limitations and for you to know like where you're at, to have
02:18:53.740
that self-awareness because I myself didn't. And I think now looking back, it potentially caused my
02:18:59.600
son a lot of unnecessary harm. So yeah, I think you're both right. Yeah.
02:19:07.840
So next question here. Uh, okay. Would you rather clean sewers for a hundred thousand dollars or have
02:19:19.980
a high profile fulfilling job, but you make zero, you make no money? What do you mean by high profile
02:19:28.520
fulfilling job? Uh, you're an attorney, you're a doctor, you're, but you can't make any money from
02:19:33.820
it. Can't make any money. So clean sewers for a hundred thousand dollars or whatever. You can,
02:19:41.600
you can pick the job, whatever it would be. You can't, can't be like rock star or like it can't
02:19:48.420
be something like where the status is like insane. Wait, are you getting any money from anywhere else?
02:19:55.140
Yeah. Good question. No. So like you're not surviving then because you make money, uh, unless you marry
02:20:02.020
a rich guy or, uh, you just have, I don't know. Yeah. You're not making money. So it's like a high
02:20:07.320
profile unpaid internship versus a dirty work job, but you're getting paid fat stacks. No, it's not an
02:20:13.880
internship. You're not fetching coffee for a doctor's office. You're, you're the doctor. You're the lawyer.
02:20:19.960
Correct. So it's volunteer work essentially. Sure. It's volunteer.
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Interesting one. I'm gonna get back to you on that. I'm gonna get back to you.
02:20:28.680
You got to pick one. Here else. Can I start? Can I start? Okay. We'll come back. I got to pick
02:20:32.860
real quick. Which do you pick? Well, I mean, you need money to survive in this world. So I would
02:20:36.280
obviously pick the one paying you money. You can't live without the money. Okay. What do you pick?
02:20:41.600
Yeah. I'd have to do the sewer. Cause how can I see that? Sewer. I think. Oh, sorry. My bad. I meant the opposite.
02:20:47.920
I would do the non paying. Okay. Yeah. Just live in poverty, but yeah. Yeah. I think the fulfilling job you said,
02:20:54.140
if you have a husband, you know. Maybe does that kind of destroy the purpose of the hypothetical a
02:21:03.740
little bit? Chat should, uh, let me ask the chat. Um, Hmm. Should there be chat? Do we, do we allow
02:21:14.540
them to like have a rich? I mean, I don't know. Yeah. We got all the hypotheticals.
02:21:19.460
What if you're a doctor and you take donations? How about, how about this? Um, let's just fast
02:21:24.460
forward. You are married, but, uh, your husband isn't earning enough. Like, uh, he earns enough
02:21:36.740
where you guys are just getting by. You're just getting by, but you guys are going to have
02:21:41.200
like face certain financial issues, blah, blah, blah. So you're not like destitute, but
02:21:48.600
yeah. How about that? So we're, if, if it means taking care of not just myself, but the family
02:21:57.420
that I build, I'll do whatever, I'll do whatever it takes. I'll clean up dog shit. Sorry for
02:22:01.720
my language, but I will do what I have to do to take care of the family that we'll have down
02:22:05.280
online. What about you? Yeah. Yeah. Sewer still then. I stick with my choice. I think just
02:22:13.740
getting by is just getting by. So I'd, I'd stick with my choice. I'd take whatever it gives
02:22:19.340
the most money, which is sewers. I agree. Sewer. I don't like this question. I feel like this
02:22:30.700
is like setting up for some sort of like checkmate that's kind of like already on a very intricate
02:22:36.860
thing. It's definitely a setup. It's a setup. That's what it feels like. It feels like a
02:22:41.300
setup. How is it? You're, I think you're overthinking it to be honest. I got to overthink
02:22:45.240
it. We're on the whatever podcast. I think the root of the question is money versus the
02:22:49.760
fulfillment. Look, here's the point of the question is here's the point of the question. I guess
02:22:54.620
you, uh, if you ask men and women, this question, men are far more likely to pick the sewer job
02:23:00.320
and women are far more likely to pick the unpaid, but like, uh, you know, kind of more, more
02:23:06.200
glamorous, let's say career. That makes sense. Yeah. I mean, that checks out because men are a bit
02:23:11.480
more money motivated than women are providing motivated. I think let's, let's shift that
02:23:16.240
mentality. If we're talking about a traditional providing, you know, let's, let's, let's get money
02:23:21.540
out of this money is here to provide, right? So that's easy for, as a woman to say, but let me
02:23:29.220
explain why this will never go away. Okay. So this idea, so just to be clear, your contention
02:23:36.820
is with me saying men are more motivated to get money. Okay. Yeah. Is that, was that, do you,
02:23:43.240
do you disagree? Is that your contention? No, actually you think women are just as motivated
02:23:48.360
as men are. I think recently we've been getting more and more motivated, but if we really zoom
02:23:53.280
out on the time scale, no. Yeah. So men have historically been more on the must provide
02:23:59.040
for my family. I would even argue modern day today. Yes. No, I agree. Well, men are more
02:24:05.560
motivated to make money because of the, the binary that we've established for several millennia
02:24:11.840
already. It's kind of ingrained within us. Who established it? Ourselves. Is it men? You think
02:24:17.400
so? Yeah, that's how it started. I'll, I'll, I'll frame it like this. Uh, so I think when it comes
02:24:23.320
to survival needs, I would argue that men and women have comparable motivation as it relates to making
02:24:29.440
money related to survival, right? That's the most important thing. You need money to survive. You need
02:24:37.280
food, you need water, you need a house, you need shelter, et cetera, et cetera. Both men and women need
02:24:43.660
those two things. Both of them, whether you're a man or woman, you're paying the same rent. You're
02:24:49.520
paying the same, well, men actually, maybe I'm being a bit pedantic. Men probably pay a little bit more
02:24:55.240
for food because we have a higher calorie requirement. Anyways, that's kind of irrelevant. Um,
02:25:00.640
very minor fucking nitpick on my, myself, I guess. Um, however, uh, the, I would say the second
02:25:09.020
most important, uh, biological imperative, uh, next to survival would be to have kids to reproduce
02:25:18.920
and the, the, the mechanism by which people reproduce is engage in monogamous. Well, it doesn't,
02:25:28.880
I guess, I suppose it doesn't have to be monogamous, but you need to have a relationship. You need to
02:25:32.660
date. You need to be appealing to the opposite sex. Women's finances are nearly completely irrelevant
02:25:39.920
to your attraction to the opposite sex. Men overwhelmingly don't care for certain, uh, you
02:25:49.420
know, to be charitable. There are certain economic and financial realities to like most people,
02:25:56.200
both people are going to need to work. That's the economic reality, but the woman's money or her
02:26:01.740
success doesn't make her more attractive to men. Whereas the same isn't really true in the opposite
02:26:09.360
direction. Um, now I know most of you, a lot of you are young, you're in college. You probably don't
02:26:14.480
give a fuck about, Oh my God, he's got a great job. You don't care. You're dating college guys.
02:26:18.980
They're broke. You probably don't care. You're just like, he's fun. He's cool. He's hot. That's
02:26:23.980
probably all you care about. Maybe he's a good person, the dream, you know, not very few men at the
02:26:29.320
college age already are millionaires. If they are fantastic, but it's at least the dream or the
02:26:33.960
ambition of, Hey, I'm broke right now, but I want to start a business and I want to care for you and
02:26:38.440
your family. And I am 19 years old, so I don't have that yet, but I'm going to start that. That's
02:26:42.160
what my boyfriend is. I would argue, um, perhaps ambition as a woman gets older, becomes a bit more
02:26:48.260
of a priority. I think most 18, 19, 20 year old women are going to prioritize fun, good personality,
02:26:56.100
hot. I don't think most really. No, I, I have dated people who have had no ambition and it is
02:27:04.500
terrible. I need someone who, I'm not, I'm not suggesting that they have no ambition, but, um,
02:27:12.800
I would say I definitely look for that and intellect and you need to be emotionally, um,
02:27:19.260
um, emotionally intelligent too. You need to be able to communicate. You need to have
02:27:23.980
emotional intelligence plan for a future. We'll talk about emotional intelligence.
02:27:28.000
I also think that also depends like slightly on the way that you were raised and brought
02:27:32.660
up in my opinion. Yeah. But just to finish my point here on this, um, so as a man, if you want
02:27:41.460
to get romantic attention from the opposite sex, not to say, look, you could be broke and
02:27:48.980
fucking pulling, but, uh, for most men, uh, women place, I would say women, it's actually
02:27:59.540
women who uphold this year. We were talking about who set that up women, even in 2025, women
02:28:04.400
that have had the vote for a hundred years. Um, this idea that like, there's some evil patriarchy
02:28:10.460
that's like insisting that men pay for first dates. And it's actually just women's own individualistic
02:28:16.180
preferences that there's a tendency towards wanting men to pay for first dates. You enjoy
02:28:21.060
the benefit of not having to pay for the date. Women uphold this. There's no like evil male
02:28:26.680
conspiracy to be like, Hey men, we all want to waste money on dates. Not at all. It's actually
02:28:31.460
women who uphold this. So for a guy to be able to, and it really from pretty much anywhere across the
02:28:39.060
board for a guy to get laid, for a guy to get romantic interest back from a woman, for a guy to
02:28:45.420
uh, get into a relationship, for a guy to get eventually get married. Um, he has to,
02:29:02.140
maybe look, I'll, I'll frame it like this. Let's say 50% of this country is conservative.
02:29:09.620
99% of conservative women want men to pay for first dates. And then the other 50% of women are liberal.
02:29:15.420
Even liberal women, progressive women, Kamala voters, Democrats, even liberal women love the
02:29:25.480
benefits of traditional gender dynamics. So long as it benefits them. So even liberal women, yeah,
02:29:31.800
guys should pay for the first date. Maybe I'm not saying all, but even if I were to be conservative
02:29:37.220
and say, you know what, it's, uh, of the 50% of the women who are liberal,
02:29:42.880
20%, uh, well, so I guess, here, let's just say 50% of liberal women want men to pay for first dates,
02:29:49.700
right? You can, you can bicker with me on that if you think it's less or you think it's more.
02:29:55.220
That means 75% of women have an expect, uh, uh, one directional gender expectation that men pay for first dates.
02:30:01.740
Okay. You've just introduced finances mattering when it comes to dating, getting laid, getting
02:30:09.620
relationship. So finances are absolutely inextricably linked from dating, even casual dating.
02:30:19.240
So I see the paradox you're trying to bring up and I cannot speak for myself. The paradox of no,
02:30:25.960
no, I understand what you mean. Like feminism are providing for yourself,
02:30:29.360
but enjoying the benefits of traditional values that are seen in conservatism.
02:30:33.140
I cannot speak on that. I can only speak from my own experiences.
02:30:37.400
I have never, like I said, never had a formal date. Every time something has happened,
02:30:41.240
I've paid for it just out of the love and care. Money does not matter to me. It is loyalty because
02:30:45.580
that is harder and harder to find, especially knowing that in our generation materialism,
02:30:49.220
it goes both ways on a broad generalization. Like I said, there are exceptions. We have a lot of
02:30:53.540
exceptions in this room, including myself, including her. There's materialism that goes both ways.
02:30:58.460
You know the reason I haven't had that many partners? I've had two or three.
02:31:02.640
I don't, I don't really show my body and that is what men seek out. That is what men desire.
02:31:06.440
I'm a little stinky. Uh, I, I do fairly quote unquote boyish masculine stuff, but when it comes
02:31:12.600
down to it, I am loyal and I'm, I'm feminine in my essence when I am loved and cared for.
02:31:17.160
We, um, how do I explain this? I did not develop masculinity or in other words, this cover to
02:31:25.760
gain male attention. It was to avoid male advantage. You know what I mean? I, I cover myself up to avoid
02:31:34.400
objectification. That, that's a whole other train of thought, but the materialism itself goes both
02:31:41.840
So just to be clear, you're like, what, what do you think about Muslim majority countries where
02:31:47.160
the women cover up? I mean, I'm, are you in favor of, I mean, the United States is pretty
02:31:52.860
liberal on this. Like they, we don't have like requirements to wear hijab. We don't have
02:31:57.780
requirements to wear that sort of Muslim garb. So you, would you be, are you, but there's rampant
02:32:03.700
objectification in the United States. So are you just curious, are you more, which way do you lean?
02:32:08.780
Like, well, on one hand, how do you balance women's freedom to dress as they like? The United States
02:32:16.800
women can dress however they want, but that entails like some degree of objectification.
02:32:21.560
There's objectification either way. I was dressed exactly like this when I was sexually abused,
02:32:25.260
when I was 12. And I don't mean to start like trauma dumping, but it does not matter. You're
02:32:28.640
closed. I'm sorry. But I mean this to say, Muslim women will still get raped. They'll still get
02:32:33.400
sexually assaulted. They'll still get abused. No matter what you're wearing, I'm covered head to toe.
02:32:37.320
And that abuse will still happen. So the reason in these Muslim countries, they, they do this is
02:32:41.860
to prevent, well, I mean, there's, there's actually quite a bunch of reasons, but one of the, uh, even
02:32:47.120
if it's an unintended consequence would be the limiting of sexual objectification of women.
02:32:52.960
Yeah. So, okay. Well, um, I'm a little bit confused here though. You said that, uh, it's so, so men,
02:33:01.780
you, you dress the way you do. So men don't objectify you. You said that that's what men do.
02:33:07.760
Men are men just objectify women. If they're wearing like a tank top, I guess, I don't know
02:33:12.640
why that would be the case. I don't mean that entirely, but the generalizations go both ways.
02:33:16.420
So do, are women like perfect angels that don't objectify men? No, not at all. That's exactly what
02:33:21.860
I'm trying to say on a broad sense. Now, like I said, there are exceptions on men's case and women's
02:33:25.860
case. It's, it is human to have bias and to have very fast assessments because it's, it was about
02:33:34.200
survival. Let's, let's date back millions. Let's, sorry, not millions. Let's date back several
02:33:38.260
millennia to hunter gatherer situations. Men looked at the size of a woman's hips to determine if those
02:33:45.720
hips could bear his children because back then it was about survival. Same thing with, with a man's
02:33:51.840
strength, with a man's ability to carry a deer on his back. This is, this is some amygdala. I don't
02:33:57.060
know how to explain this. This is innate, you know? So I don't think it's the bias that we should keep
02:34:02.360
attacking on each other. Men objectify women. Women objectify men, this and this and this.
02:34:06.860
There's a middle ground to this. And I believe that's what should be focused on in saying that.
02:34:11.040
Where are you right now? I'm, I don't know. You're not really addressing my, any of my central
02:34:16.040
points or arguments here. Um, I, I'm just trying to make a statement and try to find some sort of
02:34:20.860
middle ground. So yeah, but the width of women's hips, birthing hips, I, I'm a little confused.
02:34:27.440
Because I'm saying generalization and bias and judgment is innate. I'm confused by the segue.
02:34:30.620
It is innate. Okay. We were talking about materialism with finance. Well, yeah, I was going to make my
02:34:37.940
motivation point, but I'll get to that in a moment here. Message from the government of Canada.
02:34:43.760
Pasty George donated $200 and four cents. Many ambitious men are now older, divorced,
02:34:51.840
and lost half, if not most, of their hard-earned wealth to women who wanted men with ambition.
02:34:57.640
Others gained families with traditional non-feministic women.
02:35:03.900
Yeah. Maybe just don't get married, gentlemen. Don't get married.
02:35:10.140
I disagree. Uh, yeah, I mean, uh, wholeheartedly.
02:35:16.200
Well, I guess, uh, really quick, I, I want, uh, once she's back from the bathroom, I want to finish
02:35:21.340
up my point about men's and women's different motivation because I didn't finish my point on
02:35:26.180
that, but really quick to do a segue on marriage. Uh, tell me what I, as a man, what do I get in
02:35:33.460
marriage that I can't get from a long-term, like forever girlfriend?
02:35:46.600
Oh, okay, sure, if you're a Christian. What about from a, uh, secular perspective, though?
02:35:56.880
Do you wait until marriage? So you're a virgin?
02:36:15.220
Wait, so hold on, you were, uh, you said you were, initially you said you were single for
02:36:19.640
three years, but there was a guy who you dated for like...
02:36:28.620
Okay, um, okay, well that's a different topic, but, uh, so you are a hundred percent waiting
02:36:39.240
Uh, well, okay, um, I suppose that's a compelling argument if you're a Christian man, but I think
02:36:44.940
the greater argument if you're a Christian would be, I mean, that's, it's beyond just
02:36:52.220
sex while you get married, uh, as a Christian man.
02:36:55.320
And so, what about from a secular perspective, though, what, what can I get out of marriage
02:37:01.480
that I can't, if I just stay with a girl for the rest of my life, but we never get married?
02:37:11.960
Well, um, so I guess, uh, so then aside from what do men get out of marriage besides fulfilling,
02:37:19.760
like, a component of their religious faith and sex, I guess?
02:37:24.000
I think marriage represents the highest version of love.
02:37:31.660
I think marriage in and of itself is sacred, and there is sanctity in it, and it's not just
02:37:40.460
about religion, and it's not just about children, but it's about mission, and it's about purpose,
02:37:46.940
and if you are married to the right person, key word, right person, then it can be a very
02:37:55.200
beautiful and fruitful thing, not just for you, yourself, but for everybody that you're
02:38:03.860
It's greater than just two people, in my opinion.
02:38:09.360
But, I mean, from a secular perspective, if I just, I can't actually think of a difference
02:38:13.680
if I just stay with my girlfriend for the rest of my life, and we have kids, versus get married,
02:38:21.280
I think there's putting a higher amount of trust into that person.
02:38:28.760
I think there's a higher level of trust if you don't get married.
02:38:33.900
Well, once, so I think when there becomes a, basically if you get married, and you're
02:38:39.700
the breadwinner, and a woman could be the breadwinner, so this could be an issue if, for
02:38:48.540
women too, and women do end up sometimes paying alimony and this sort of thing, it does sort
02:38:56.640
So, if you're vaguely unhappy in the marriage, if there's this idea of, well, if I leave, I'm
02:39:07.360
going to reap certain financial benefits through alimony, community property, I almost feel like
02:39:13.480
that that pushes, can actually be the thing that pushes someone over the edge into getting
02:39:23.560
So, I actually think that there can be a compelling argument in the other direction, that if you
02:39:32.420
can't get anything financially out of breaking up with your boyfriend, you won't, you're
02:39:42.760
Like, the binding can lead to being trapped and shackled in this, whereas with a boyfriend,
02:39:48.440
With a husband or a wife, there's, it's almost like you're locked in, you know, but.
02:39:53.000
Well, I mean, people get divorced all the time, but I think the thing, the thing is, is that
02:39:58.820
like, let's say you're dating a guy and you're not married, it would seem like, you know, maybe
02:40:09.060
He takes care of the kids fine, but you're just vaguely, you know, whatever.
02:40:15.400
Oh, and if I divorce him, I get alimony for 10 years and I get 50%.
02:40:26.800
That what could have been worked out in just a boyfriend, girlfriend relationship, maybe
02:40:37.540
ooh, that money looks really good and I can fuck new people.
02:40:46.600
I think if you're only intending on being married for materialistic reasons, like assets, like homes,
02:40:54.540
like whatever the person has and you're one, either with the wrong person or your intentions
02:41:01.660
are not right to, you're not in the, in the position to be married.
02:41:10.540
So everybody, everybody here, every, all the women here are fine signing a prenup.
02:41:17.560
My current situation said, asked me to, and I said, yes.
02:41:21.740
That's, I mean, we have some really angelic women here at the table, but if I actually draw
02:41:26.940
my attention to what actually play, like realistically plays out when it comes to divorce, women don't
02:41:35.780
seem particularly generous when it, when the lawyer gets involved and the lawyer says, by
02:41:41.660
the way, you're owed, not just, ah, your husband can be a nice guy.
02:41:46.080
You're entitled to, and you're owed alimony for this many years, thousand bucks a month,
02:41:54.060
You get 50 and 50% of the house, 50% of the car, 50% of X, Y, Z.
02:42:00.100
Eh, lawyers are going to be very convincing lawyer.
02:42:03.940
You know, maybe you're a really, uh, as a woman, you know, you're very, uh, angelic and
02:42:09.220
you would never think about, you'd never think about demanding or wanting your entitlements
02:42:15.420
when it comes to divorce, but invariably it seems to be the case that when women do get
02:42:20.520
divorced, ah, all of a sudden they start talking about what they're owed.
02:42:25.380
So we can, you know, maybe you guys are all outliers here and you would never demand anything
02:42:30.660
in a marriage, but it seems, it seems, go ahead.
02:42:38.020
Then I feel like the assets should be divided because.
02:42:43.580
Perhaps, but, um, I think situations such as those, um, are only acceptable.
02:42:52.360
Like if, you know, you guys are high school sweethearts, for instance, right.
02:42:56.980
And then you go through life and you have your kids and everything is la-di-da, but then,
02:43:03.540
you know, um, you guys stop having things in common, you know, life starts lifing and your
02:43:11.360
kids grow up and then you have like nothing in common and like one party chooses to seek
02:43:16.240
out another person, for instance, you know, I then think that that's an acceptable reason
02:43:21.840
if you're older, if you're not, you know what I mean?
02:43:25.380
But if, if any other circumstance, then I, then I do think it's wrong.
02:43:33.100
To go after, um, somebody for monetary reasons.
02:43:37.400
Well, I mean, you might say it's wrong, but it seems like women are not shy about doing
02:43:43.840
Women frequently attempt to, uh, get alimony, do community property.
02:43:55.700
Uh, except when that, when that lawyer who has a financial incentive, because he'll get,
02:44:03.300
he'll get some sort of, either he'll get paid more hourly or he'll get some, you know, I
02:44:09.520
They, they get some degree of the settlement or whatever.
02:44:18.720
Uh, and like a naive woman who's going through the divorce process, who's not familiar with
02:44:25.540
She's going to probably defer to him on this or, well, whether the lawyer is a man or woman,
02:44:30.000
she's going to defer to the lawyer and the lawyer is going to be like, Hey, look, you
02:44:34.080
know, I know you're not really, you know, but you're, you are entitled to X, Y, Z.
02:44:38.160
And, uh, we're just trying to protect you and look out for your financial interests.
02:44:41.860
Your husband's trying to screw you over here in the divorce.
02:44:44.160
Lawyers are going to be very convincing and law women who might otherwise have good intentions.
02:44:50.540
And the, the other thing here is even if, uh, even if you're a Christian woman, uh, in
02:44:56.760
the event of a divorce, really your faith isn't what oversees the divorce proceeding.
02:45:02.180
The state oversees the divorce proceedings and the state dictates that there's certain
02:45:06.620
laws and, uh, you know, uh, you're sighing over there.
02:45:15.600
Um, if I get married, divorce isn't on the table.
02:45:26.360
That's why I'm not, you know, the amount of restoration that it has to go down in the
02:45:30.020
spirit, like the spiritual realm, God has to restore everything that is broken in a divorce
02:45:35.120
because a marital covenant is a sacred act under God.
02:45:39.980
That represents the love Jesus has for his bride.
02:45:46.180
Divorce is not, is not on the table unless there's like actual real harm being inflicted
02:46:00.660
What if though, under your guys' perspective, well, I'll actually just ask everybody.
02:46:11.940
He's not emotionally abusive, verbally abusive.
02:46:17.980
He treats the kids fantastically, but you're just vaguely unhappy.
02:46:26.480
He treats you well, but you're vaguely unhappy.
02:46:30.660
Have you ever been in a relationship or dating a guy where the guy was loyal to you?
02:46:36.480
He wasn't abusive in any sort of way, but you just were vaguely unhappy.
02:47:00.780
Well, it wasn't just because of that, but we did end up breaking up, obviously.
02:47:14.260
You've never, there's, there's a guy you were dating, you know, he wasn't abusive, treated
02:47:24.420
So every single guy who hasn't abused you and has been loyal, there's never just been
02:47:38.680
I mean, listen, we're, we're people and we're humans and we go through things and we have
02:47:45.060
experiences that take from us and that give to us.
02:47:48.300
And there are always going to be points in our lives when, you know, we feel better than
02:47:57.420
However, I'm still maintaining whatever relationship I have, because to me, it's, it's more worthwhile
02:48:06.440
to save something than just to move on, in my opinion.
02:48:10.880
Well, I guess the question here is then the follow-up question.
02:48:14.140
Uh, if you're married, assuming all those things, he's loyal, treats the kids well, he's
02:48:21.260
not abusive to you in any sort of way, but you're just, you've fallen out of love with
02:48:46.500
I'd say, like, obviously it depends on situation to situation.
02:48:52.220
You're married and you have, I know some of you said you don't want kids.
02:48:55.720
So whatever your circumstance is, but let's assume two kids, treats the kids well, he's
02:48:59.540
loyal, treats you well, but you've fallen out of love with him.
02:49:06.920
If you try to fix it and you can't fix it, then yeah.
02:49:13.020
Maybe I'm just like really young, but I feel like if I'm, whoever I marry, I know, like,
02:49:17.800
I know they're going to meet my partner for life and I feel like I'd be with them for
02:49:24.040
But you think in the history of romantic relationships, somebody has thought that exact thing and
02:49:30.340
then a year, two years, three years, four years, five years later, things change, fall out
02:49:36.220
I mean, yeah, if I wasn't happy, then I would, but I don't know if I'd ever have married
02:49:41.060
Like the divorce rate, I think it's what, over 50% or something.
02:49:44.500
I, you know, I, some people probably make mistakes when they get married, but I feel
02:49:48.440
like most people, when they get married, I don't think they're thinking like, I think
02:49:55.460
Like, this is my person, one, two, three, four, five, six, however many years goes by.
02:50:01.580
So like, I don't think people get married, like going in with the expectation of like, by
02:50:05.720
the way, I'm getting, I'm going to get a divorce.
02:50:07.960
I don't think they go into it with that expectation.
02:50:16.180
I wouldn't get a divorce because I think that you can work on those things.
02:50:20.420
I think you go in and out of happiness throughout a very long relationship.
02:50:23.620
I think my happiness is based on my own mental state and that I'm responsible for me.
02:50:31.700
And I think you can work at falling back into love.
02:50:34.680
I think even if it takes 10 years, 15 years, I would keep working at that because we'd probably
02:50:41.860
And I think things like loyalty and commitment are more important.
02:51:21.740
Pasty, you probably dropped like $2,500 already just on this night, dude.
02:51:39.940
Pasty, do you also speak a little bit of French?
02:51:50.300
Chair 1, my mother was a residential school survivor and became a feminist because of it.
02:51:55.620
You claim that you suffered similar trauma, and that is why you hide your femininity and embrace feminism.
02:52:02.640
Where did residential school survivor come from, Mr. Pasty George?
02:52:05.780
I had my effeminate for a long string of reasons, and because, you know, I don't want a trauma dub, I'll just keep it plain and forth.
02:52:23.960
No, my birth name's Sophie, but I went by Sophia.
02:52:26.700
I wore tiaras and everything, and I was bullied for it.
02:52:36.280
So, I lost touch of my femininity at a very young age.
02:52:41.060
So, I developed a masculine coat because it wasn't girls bullying me.
02:52:44.760
It was dudes bullying me saying, I'm too girly.
02:52:49.360
But I was still taking advantage of my femininity.
02:52:53.040
So, it doesn't do anything at the end of the day.
02:52:55.340
So, part of my coming of age experience in the past, like 17, 18, 19, has been trying to embrace my feminine from the inside out.
02:53:08.600
Shout out to Grid One Motorsports in the studio.
02:53:21.400
Yeah, we'll have Grid One do a little cameo later.
02:53:24.020
A little later in the show, we'll do a little cameo.
02:53:34.740
Chair 3 is an example of Brian's point about the need to be raised by a stay-at-home mom.
02:53:38.900
Her mother selfishly prioritized her career over raising her.
02:53:55.160
I mean, I don't know if there's anything wrong with me.
02:54:03.780
I don't think there's anything wrong with what I've been doing in my life.
02:54:10.300
I don't know if you have a follow-up for her, but there it is.
02:54:18.100
No, I need to finish my point about motivation,
02:54:19.880
and then we'll get into some of the other questions here.
02:54:23.820
So I guess we kind of got a little sidetracked there.
02:54:29.340
So my original claim was men are more motivated to make money.
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I think men are more motivated by the binary to provide.
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I don't know if that necessarily means material.
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but that's a whole other train of thought, but you can continue.
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And then also I think it really depends on how you're raised.
02:54:56.880
Like I'm way more motivated by money than my twin brother.
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Yeah, I understand that there are women who are super motivated
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I would say just as a sort of average or general principle,
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I would say that I think men are more motivated, generally speaking.
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Not to say there's women at this table who are probably more motivated
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I feel like you have to give it a few more decades to see
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because I feel like only the past few decades women have really been
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finally encouraged to be motivated and to seek out more than they ever been used to.
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But if you give it a few more decades in time, you'll see the difference.
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Yes, I think men are primarily biologically wired to protect, provide, and lead.
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However, I will say that nowadays in today's current society,
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and I think they will continue to change and adapt.
02:56:06.760
Yeah, I agree that things are changing, but there still is that society.
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So you agree with her, you agree with her, you agree with me.
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Yeah, I think they're wired to provide and that, yes,
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there has been an uprise on women becoming more motivated
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to do more entrepreneurial things and make money.
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But I do think that there's still that societal pressure that, you know,
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men kind of grow up learning, like, you need to be the provider, make money,
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things like that, along with, like, a biological, in a biological way as well.
02:56:49.860
I'll give a quick response, then I'll let you go.
02:56:52.120
So my primary argument here as to why I think this is the case,
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but if we look at our biological imperatives, survive, reproduce.
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So both men and women, you need to make money to survive.
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So I'd be prepared to grant that the survival motivation
02:57:20.680
But added on top of that would be the, I guess,
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the reproduced side of the biological imperative.
02:57:28.840
Men, generally speaking, are not assessing women
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Like if she, sometimes it can actually be a detriment
02:57:45.080
the career boss babe can actually be a negative versus a positive.
02:57:51.960
Overwhelmingly, though, I would say men prioritize other things
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in terms of what they find attractive in women.
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I'm talking about other characteristics, other personality traits,
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then like ambition, success, et cetera, et cetera.
02:58:07.080
Well, I think men can want a woman who's ambitious,
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just perhaps ambitious in other ways, like family ambition.
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You know, you could be health-oriented ambition.
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But career ambition, typically not a massive priority for men.
02:58:28.560
but a good amount of women, I'd say the majority of women,
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do have certain gendered expectations that men provide.
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for men to just be more motivated to make money.
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Because I think both men and women, but you could even argue,
02:58:59.620
I think you could word that a little bit differently.
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Well, you said men are more romantically motivated.
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And so, like, for most men, probably, like, first few steps to,
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even if you're just, like, strictly looking for casual sex,
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They want the girlfriend, but obviously they want sex, too.
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And, like, if the bottleneck to getting sex is,
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okay, well, take me on three dates, and you have to pay.
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I'm not, by the way, I'm not saying that that's, like, verbatim,
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But just an approximation of the dynamic, if the bottleneck to getting sex
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as a man is you have to be somewhat financially coherent and, like,
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be able to afford the first date and pay for the first date,
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and also I think women are, you know, there's other factors that can make
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a man appealing besides just his willingness to pay for the first date,
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but being also financially secure is another component,
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then men will do the thing that gets them the girlfriend
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I know most women you probably want the boyfriend, too,
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He's not going to praise you on your money when it comes to getting laid.
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He's just going to praise you on your body and how you dollar yourself up
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I just wanted to bring up the point that women...
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Yeah, men want a physically attractive woman, but...
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because women having intellect, I'm not talking about feminine,
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I'm just talking about intellectual women, scare men away.
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I think, actually, high intelligence is incredibly attractive
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for a couple of reasons, but I think primarily...
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Well, if you want to, at least when it comes to having kids,
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if you want to confer the maximum benefits to your kids,
03:01:49.320
So, like, this idea that men just want, like, drooling, dumbass women,
03:02:05.260
Okay, so going back to what a few of you guys said,
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I actually disagree that it is a biological thing.
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I think that men learn this through their environment and...
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Like, you guys are saying that they're wired to do that,
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and I think that it's something that goes back so far in history.
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It relates to your point as well that you're saying women have these expectations
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What I was saying was that men have these expectations.
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They're learned, they're conditioned to want to provide, okay?
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So, that being said, women are then kind of forced into that as well,
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to being the more submissive or the person who doesn't go out, make money, provide.
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They have these expectations, so they are telling a woman to stay at home
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Like, this is, you're kind of saying that it's all on women, but it's really not.
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Well, I didn't actually say that it's all on women.
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Well, I'm saying that this is something that women do tend to uphold,
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but I'm not saying it's strictly women or strictly men.
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I think there's a shared responsibility as it relates to this.
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I think that's just important to keep in mind, though.
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You were responding to them saying, they said that there's a nature component.
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So, I think that it's, I don't know if it's exactly 50-50,
03:04:09.700
but I think that there's both a nature and a nurture component.
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But you think when it comes to, like, men paying for dates
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and women having an expectation that men pay for dates,
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We can all agree that this is a mix of nurture and nature.
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But women have higher faculties and women have intellect,
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and they can come to a determination that, well, hold on,
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a man's height has actually really no bearing on really anything.
03:05:02.460
So, it's interesting, though, women's attraction to tall men,
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I think it's a very, very high percentage nurture, though,
03:05:20.300
then I would say it's also nature that women are drawn to men
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I'm just going to chime in and say that I love my short kings.
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By the way, to be clear, I don't know the exact breakdown,
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but I think it's a combination of nature and nurture.
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And can I say that I think that, to your point about how most men
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don't necessarily care about how much a woman earns, for instance,
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like in her career, in her job, et cetera, maybe it's controversial.
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But I think that if a man does put a very high emphasis on this,
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I think that the more money a man makes, in fact, the less he cares.
03:06:25.860
The more money a woman makes, even if she has the capacity to fully provide,
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She's going to look for somebody who's also high-powered and high-earning too.
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Whereas a man's like, so when a man makes a bunch of money,
03:06:54.000
When women start making more money, their dating pool shrinks.
03:06:58.000
Because, I mean, unless you're willing as a woman,
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Like, for example, the doctor, he'll date nurses.
03:07:15.820
But once women make money, they want a guy on her level.
03:07:28.200
Look, don't have, like, an insane amount of debt or something.
03:07:32.720
But, I mean, look, if she's really amazing, whatever.
03:07:41.180
If she's, like, amazing otherwise, $100,000, whatever.
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If she's nice, wants kids and values, you'd be like...
03:08:00.600
But, okay, you have, like, $100 in your savings account.
03:08:04.300
Can we at least come to a mutual understanding across the whole panel that the fundamental
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male need to provide is a very rocky gray combination of nurture and nature?
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Well, I think it is, but I think other people think it's mostly...
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There is a nurture aspect and there is a nature aspect.
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Can we all agree that to some way or another, there's a nurture and nature aspect?
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But we're saying that whether the percentage is 10 and 90, 80, 20, it doesn't matter.
03:08:40.200
So, this idea that, okay, well, if there's a massive difference between...
03:08:45.360
We try to find some sort of, like, noodle ground.
03:08:49.220
So, there's a massive difference between something being 99% nature and 1% nurture and something
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Just sometimes it's nice to establish what it is we agree on so we can kind of get more
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We agree that it is nurture and nature, correct?
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I don't even understand this line of logic, though.
03:09:16.520
Like, can we find some common ground between Republicans and Democrats?
03:09:26.680
Like, 99% of Democrats and Republicans probably agree.
03:09:41.720
Any sort of compromise, any sort of, hey, you have a differing opinion that I do based
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You have a differing opinion than I do based on your experience.
03:09:52.920
It just feels like we're just trying to argue instead of debate.
03:09:55.260
Let's find some sort of common ground and understand...
03:09:57.340
Well, conversation might be the common ground thing.
03:09:59.500
But when you're actually debating, unless through my rhetorical prowess, if I can change
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your mind, but this whole agree to disagree, nah, I'm good.
03:10:28.780
I've been able to, from what you have explained, I'm understanding a little bit of the male
03:10:33.800
But it seems like through all the women that have come through your podcast, it seems like
03:10:38.120
we haven't been able to show you at least a little bit of what it is like to be a woman.
03:10:46.240
Yet you still uphold a lot of these, like, hardcore, traditional values.
03:10:52.660
So the entailment is, I need to change my position.
03:11:08.140
No, I believe you can be firm in your beliefs and stay true to what you believe in.
03:11:13.040
So I don't understand this, like, virtue signal of, like, well, we can, like, sing kumbaya
03:11:29.680
But your common ground seems that you're trying to establish with the, like, nature versus
03:11:38.900
It's, like, technically true, like, but the difference here is she might think that nurture
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is 90% and I think it's, or 99% and I think it's 50%.
03:11:51.680
I think what the main point that she's trying to get across is that this is starting to
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feel a little bit like an attack rather than a debate.
03:11:58.580
And I think we need to kind of have a conversation.
03:12:04.420
It just feels like we're going in circles and I think let's try to bring some other
03:12:11.260
Well, I mean, we have other topics, but to your point, the point of debate is not, I'm
03:12:18.240
going to completely change my worldview to accommodate your differing position.
03:12:29.900
Most people, even if they can be, like, proven wrong logically, are going to stick to their
03:12:40.160
I'm here, really, to put on a fun show, but to convince the audience, right?
03:12:47.040
To convince the audience, I don't go into these ever expecting to change somebody's mind.
03:12:53.760
But most people are so, so hopelessly a nerd to their own...
03:13:00.760
You're so hopelessly a nerd to your worldview that you're not going to...
03:13:06.360
Like, even if I provide compelling logic, you're not going to change your perspective.
03:13:12.980
I just haven't seen proof of that compelling logic yet.
03:13:15.140
If anybody has noticed, I've already shifted a little bit of my mentality to understand some
03:13:20.120
more traditional values that maybe I didn't see at first.
03:13:26.780
Can I just say, I think men and women are inherently different.
03:13:38.200
Like, a world full of women alone is going to be catty BS.
03:13:53.820
And then a world full of men alone is going to be completely lonely.
03:13:58.520
Well, I'd actually like to ask the women this because I actually hear this feminist talking
03:14:04.600
Like me as men, I would never want 50% of the population to disappear.
03:14:12.700
Don't think the world would be better without women.
03:14:19.880
And you guys might object to this, but feminist position that the world would be better without
03:14:35.660
So you can still have, like, baby girls, I guess.
03:14:40.680
No, but the world would be better without toxic masculinity.
03:14:44.540
But the world would be better without hardcore toxic masculinity and hardcore toxic femininity.
03:14:53.780
I think men just need to chill the fuck out a little.
03:15:28.820
Some of these women just proved that they are willing to sacrifice their family for their happiness.
03:15:34.420
Most men will sacrifice their happiness for their families.
03:15:43.180
Men will sacrifice their happiness for their family.
03:16:02.740
I can't even disagree with you, Mr. Teddy Westside 25.
03:16:20.920
I can confirm that she does not smell like cigarettes.
03:16:28.540
Should we debate if she smells like cigarettes?
03:16:36.200
Many men find intelligence in women very appealing and attractive, but they are turned off by intelligent
03:16:41.820
women who are turned into knee tards when infected by feminism.
03:17:24.380
So you had said that you would be okay with if she had $100 in her bank account.
03:17:31.840
But you were kind of on the fence and not okay with her having $100,000 in debt.
03:17:43.020
Yeah, so you said that you were okay if you dated this girl at Chick-fil-A, but you made
03:17:46.680
a lot of money, but the girl at Chick-fil-A only had $100 in her bank account.
03:17:53.140
But you had a slight inclination, like a problem, if she had $100,000 in debt.
03:18:01.840
No, it's for my, because I struggle with the debt piece ever since I left OnlyFans.
03:18:06.700
So I want to know why the $100 is different from the debt to you.
03:18:12.260
Well, the difference would be that if she has $100 in her bank account, I guess the entailment
03:18:27.380
I'm just asking why the debt piece was so important to you to just, you were almost to say, no,
03:18:38.280
One of them has a net worth of $100 and then the, and zero debt.
03:18:45.720
And then the other guy has a net worth of negative $100,000.
03:18:58.120
Well, so I'm just wondering why, why the debt was just so important to you.
03:19:03.600
Well, like in, let's say it's like a traditional marriage dynamic.
03:19:06.660
I, I don't, I think, do you take on your partner's debt when you marry them?
03:19:17.120
Uh, that, in any case, that would be a financial liability in the relationship.
03:19:24.960
No, I just, I just wanted to know why it was important to you.
03:19:29.980
Well, yeah, it would be, I mean, it's not, it's not like a positive.
03:19:36.920
But, because when I left OnlyFans, I had, I had a 780 credit score from last year.
03:19:42.360
But my, this past year of my life, I've dropped down to a 470.
03:19:46.360
Because I had to give up that huge chunk of income and I had like a lot of stuff go wrong.
03:19:51.840
Um, so I really would kind, it would kind of suck if I met someone and they turned me down
03:19:59.300
because I had all this credit, this credit debt that I just obtained.
03:20:06.160
It wasn't anything against your question or why.
03:20:07.980
I'm just like, for my personal, I'm like, wow, if that's really that important, maybe
03:20:15.440
Well, I mean, I don't know what kind of, I'm assuming you want like a more traditional
03:20:22.040
So like a guy is going to be looking at the liabilities of a woman who he's interested
03:20:26.960
in long-term relationship with, um, like, uh, coming into a relationship with a hundred
03:20:37.200
And if you're going to be looking to him to like help you with the debt, that's going to
03:20:42.040
have some sort of impact financially on, on you, the family.
03:20:46.180
I don't know if you're planning on having kids.
03:20:47.660
Um, he's going to look at that as a liability and he might say like, for example, okay,
03:20:54.540
well I can just date a woman who has zero debt.
03:21:01.080
But I don't think it's an imminent no for some guys, depending on how much, you know,
03:21:12.280
I don't know if it's going to be a deal breaker necessarily for a guy, but it depends his financial
03:21:17.620
It depends what you're, if you're looking for him to save you basically.
03:21:23.880
But, um, I, I wouldn't say having debt is ever a positive.
03:21:32.240
If, I mean, if, if he otherwise likes you, but that will be that, I mean, it's literally
03:21:37.800
going to be a financial liability in the relationship and in the marriage.
03:21:42.940
So, uh, I'm trying to think of like a, um, yeah.
03:21:52.300
I mean, but I even said like, if the woman's perfect, um, that wouldn't be a deal breaker.
03:21:56.580
But the, the, the point I was trying to make there was not make a statement about, uh, my
03:22:04.920
My position there was more so to articulate that men really like in terms of a woman's
03:22:11.420
finances, um, even if you're really high earning guy, uh, it is like the, the hundred
03:22:20.700
K in debt that that's obviously less than ideal, but men don't care about woman's money.
03:22:28.360
Like if, like to the same degree that women care about it, like if, again, if you're a
03:22:35.660
doctor and if you're a female doctor, female attorney, really good chance.
03:22:40.340
I don't care if the guy's really cool and good looking, whatever.
03:22:43.440
You're probably not dating the guy who works at McDonald's, even if he's like a great guy
03:22:55.200
But there are some, some super successful cutthroat lawyer is going to date the manager at McDonald's,
03:23:05.060
I mean, it happens, I guess, but it's the, I'm just doing a comparison here.
03:23:20.640
Whenever a feminist's views and ideologies are challenged, they always resort to the I'm
03:23:25.540
feeling attacked claim and, or they tone police the conversation, just waiting for the claims
03:23:32.180
I don't know that that was directed towards Pasty, but I don't feel attacked at all.
03:23:36.200
I feel this is just a normal conversation and debate.
03:23:39.500
So I don't know where that came from, but I don't feel attacked at all.
03:23:44.220
I think we're just trying to have a normal conversation.
03:23:48.280
I do kind of smell like I always smoke cigarettes.
03:23:54.060
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Felicity, if you want to sit here and then as I get up, you can switch to my seat when she's back.
03:24:48.640
If you want to do, like, this stuff, this string of stuff.
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I'm going to be dead honest, I do not remember.
03:25:39.440
Um, I know that it's early 1900s, so I'm going to say, like, 1910 to 1915.
03:25:48.200
How about if you know it for sure, don't say anything.
03:26:17.900
I'm off zero sleep, and I can't think back to what I learned in freshman year of high school.
03:26:37.240
I just think I gotta remember what happened in high school, which I really don't remember,
03:27:21.180
Algeria, Romania, Philippines, Moldova, Germany.
03:27:41.700
Ireland, Great Britain, or, I mean, Britain, depending on your opinion.
03:27:57.180
Oh, well, are we supposed to name ones that aren't said?
03:29:26.600
Mexico is not to the side, but, well, it's, it's there.
03:30:18.560
We're not going to get to all the countries, but there's one left.
03:30:32.540
I'm going to make an observation about the way this podcast is set up and designed.
03:30:47.740
And I was like, is there something I should know about this podcast?
03:30:53.160
I don't wait to make her criticism until I'm back.
03:31:11.360
What would you want the minimum yearly income to be for your future husband?
03:31:17.260
Uh, if he makes 50 and I make 50, we can make it work.
03:31:33.000
Um, that really just depends on what I'm making.
03:31:47.500
Well, I mean, I want to be making at least, like, 100K.
03:32:06.800
Are you planning to live in Southern California?
03:32:21.560
I've dated guys making 200 to millions of dollars.
03:32:33.160
I would say in Southern California, 3 to 500,000.
03:33:06.120
Because I could never see myself living in California.
03:33:11.300
I'd live in, like, a rural part of either Montana or Idaho, Colorado.
03:33:16.260
But, to be honest, I might not even live in the States.
03:33:30.400
Can I just say the cost of living, like, is exorbitant and absolutely insane.
03:33:46.500
Yeah, that's kind of why I picked the amount that I picked.
03:33:55.200
So, it's, like, to have a whole family and a house and, like, that's not enough.
03:34:04.600
Would you rather cross paths with a random man or a random bear on a hike?
03:34:36.820
It's, like, a random man that you would pass on the street.
03:34:50.600
But if we're talking black bear versus some random Chicago tweaker, yeah, I'm going to choose the black bear.
03:34:56.080
The point is that it's random, so you don't know.
03:35:23.260
I'm a good climber, so I'm actually going to choose...
03:35:24.880
I'm going to choose the bear simply because I have more survival...
03:35:40.460
I've actually come across a bunch of bears in Colorado, and most of them have been chill.
03:35:46.280
They just kind of square you up, unless they got kids or unless they're a brown bear.
03:35:49.660
But if we're thinking average bear, average bear is a black bear.
03:35:52.080
Black bears, as long as you ain't fuck with them, they ain't fuck with you.
03:36:10.560
So, I actually got chased by a black bear up a mountain in New Hampshire.
03:36:15.400
So, I know firsthand that I'm going to choose the man.
03:36:19.140
So, you're the only one that picked bear, and you picked bear because why you think the
03:36:29.140
If both of them had a threatening demeanor, I'd rather...
03:36:33.260
I think I could outrun a bear before I could outrun a man.
03:36:37.980
You're probably right, because I've never been chased down by a bear.
03:36:42.580
You might not be able to outrun either, honestly.
03:36:45.840
But I'd rather die from bear than die from man.
03:36:55.260
It took forever, and I almost like gave up and sacrificed myself to save my dog.
03:37:02.500
But I was with a man, a guy, and he chopped up a branch and started just whipping them at
03:37:09.360
the bear, and one of them got the bear in the forehead, and it ran up a tree and left
03:37:14.240
Okay, so you think the random man is more of a threat, basically, is what you're saying?
03:37:31.540
You ever, like, walk through the Fort Lauderdale Bright Line Station at, like, three in the
03:37:42.480
I will have to change my answer if it's a hiking situation.
03:37:44.660
Most male hikers I've met, they're pretty chill.
03:37:47.820
So, if it's a hiking situation, I guess I choose a man.
03:37:49.920
If you're on a hike, like, yeah, I was going to say, what type of men do you typically
03:38:00.520
I was thinking, like, average city male and city bear, but, like, male hikers, they can
03:38:06.420
I've had some great conversations with male hikers on the top of a 14er, dude.
03:38:19.920
Like, um, so, but, like, a city man is, like, a regular man, too.
03:38:30.240
All I'm saying is that when I randomly walk down the streets of Fort Lauderdale and I
03:38:36.460
see a man, I'm in a lot more of a threat than I'm walking down a random trail and I see
03:38:41.780
So, I didn't put that into perspective of, we're on a hike.
03:38:46.220
I could probably juke out the man, but when it comes to, like, threat, a man can do a lot
03:38:53.740
But, like, why do you think the man would potentially be a threat?
03:38:58.560
I don't hate men at all, but I naturally fear men.
03:39:05.920
Because of what has been done to me by men in the past.
03:39:30.600
I'd rather just get ripped to shreds than the bear her to-do list.
03:39:40.640
I couldn't help but notice, conveniently, you say you claim you're not very feminine,
03:39:53.180
It was only at that moment when I wasn't here to defend myself, defend the podcast,
03:39:57.600
that you wanted to do this sisterhood thing of basically trying to throw the show,
03:40:05.680
I find that very convenient, typical feminine strategy, reputation destruction,
03:40:12.980
especially when somebody's not there to defend themselves.
03:40:19.380
You seemed like, conveniently, when, and Felicity's not, no offense to Felicity,
03:40:24.940
but she's not particularly equipped to make a defense of the whatever podcast.
03:40:30.340
So, again, conveniently, while I was gone, you chose, despite, what are we at?
03:40:34.960
We've been streaming for nearly four hours now.
03:40:37.140
You've had plenty of opportunity to raise your criticisms.
03:40:40.520
The moment you chose to raise your criticism happened to be the moment I was briefly away from the table.
03:40:53.680
For one, it's everything down to all bright white lights.
03:41:00.540
I understand we're given water and everything, but something about being in here for, maybe this is just because of my ADHD brain,
03:41:08.640
but, like, seated here for seven hours at a time in constant interrogation, in constant conversation, in constant debate,
03:41:16.040
that's the reason I've taken a couple steps out, is just because the way my attention span works, I really can't stay like this for a while.
03:41:23.100
And I've talked to a couple girls, and they kind of say the same thing.
03:41:26.160
Like I said, I understand that this is supposed to be a discussion, but it seems like every question has some sort of ulterior motive.
03:41:35.920
To be fair, then again, I didn't look at any of these podcasts coming in before.
03:41:40.960
Like, y'all were going to ask me, like, ask us some silly, crazy questions about, like, some dating experiences.
03:41:45.820
But we're really doing, like, a deep dive into feminism, and to be honest, I'm not equipped for this.
03:41:50.080
I was not mentally prepared to dive into a whole debate on gender roles, and you know what?
03:41:55.660
Although I'm rolling with the punches, to be honest, my brain's fried, dude.
03:41:59.040
I've been traveling nonstop in 10 hours straight.
03:42:03.020
10 hours, dude, 10 hours total sleep over the course of a week.
03:42:06.260
So every time I pause on, like, an answer, it's like, oh, you're done.
03:42:13.360
There's something a little, like, I don't know.
03:42:18.140
There's a lot of, like, police interrogation attacks.
03:42:20.220
Like, the bright overhead lights going right on you.
03:42:23.040
Like, seven hours straight, you're sitting here just having the same exact conversation.
03:42:34.200
Okay, so bright lights feels like you're in a police interrogation.
03:42:42.820
I typically, like, first off, this is like a Hollywood movie trope.
03:42:48.880
The swinging light at the dark room, total trope.
03:42:55.440
Maybe if you actually look at, like, modernity, you look at modern police interrogations, the room is lit.
03:43:12.460
I don't know if you've ever been on a film set.
03:43:21.180
Actually, there's way more, like, I don't know if you've ever done anything on stage.
03:43:26.280
Where the lights are literally blinding and you can't even see the audience.
03:43:30.960
I don't really understand the criticism about the lights.
03:43:34.900
Um, you said we, you were anticipating talking about dating.
03:43:38.540
Yeah, I thought it was, I honestly thought it was going to be, like, some really silly conversation.
03:43:42.800
I was not equipped to dive right into all this.
03:43:46.060
So you kind of caught me off guard with a lot of these questions.
03:43:55.060
I thought this was going to be, like, some real silly, just casual banter.
03:44:00.740
How could that possibly be the case when you even admitted yourself that you talked to three girls or a few girls who had been on the show before?
03:44:08.920
So on one hand, you're playing this sort of game where you say, well, Brian, I didn't know what I was getting into.
03:44:14.380
But on the other hand, you talked to girls who had been on the show who told you what you were getting into.
03:44:20.900
I talked to them literally a couple hours before then.
03:44:23.980
So I had, like, two hours to be like, oh, shit.
03:44:25.740
Now, I actually dispute, though, that we haven't been talking about dating.
03:44:31.260
We've actually pretty much only talked about dating for the vast majority of the show.
03:44:39.720
I presented a really compelling case for why it's actually really related to dating.
03:44:47.380
It was still within the lens and framework of a dating conversation.
03:44:50.640
I could go, like, if we're having a feminism debate, if I started going off and, like, oh, the 18-whatever Seneca Falls Convention and blah, blah, blah, and I'm trying to think of some other stuff.
03:45:03.660
If we start getting into, like, draft conversations and, like, women's suffrage in the 1920s.
03:45:08.800
It's all in the lens of dating, and I understand.
03:45:10.160
Then we could be like, okay, we're getting a little bit off of dating.
03:45:14.300
But the conversation has been pretty much about, like, gender roles, dating, et cetera, et cetera.
03:45:24.480
I guess, though, I mean, I think, I don't know if you reiterated this, people are free to get up and step away from the table if you want to use the bathroom.
03:45:36.540
It sounded like when I was away, you were saying, we're not allowed breaks.
03:45:48.520
So I don't really think that this is really a fair characterization at all.
03:46:01.680
Is it typical in police interrogations that you're provided with breaks whenever you want?
03:46:15.480
I don't have any rebuttal against that because you do have a good point.
03:46:18.160
And also, any of you, if, I mean, we'd like you guys to say, but if any of you were like, you know what?
03:46:27.560
Like, you can't just walk out of a police interrogation.
03:46:30.840
Well, I guess there's, I'm not going to get into the, I mean, if you can be arrested and being interrogated, in which case you're not free to leave.
03:46:47.520
Then again, it could be a factor of my ADHD brain and my sleep deprivation.
03:46:50.960
So I will actually take you up on the bathroom break and the energy drinks.
03:47:00.940
We're just, you know, with our energy drinks and our pizza.
03:47:05.900
And I'm just confused about the, like, the bright lights.
03:47:13.460
Like, Felicity's gotten you refills like four times or something.
03:47:19.000
I said we absolutely do get water and we do get food.
03:47:20.920
But there's just something about the environment and the atmosphere that it, I don't know, man.
03:47:26.560
It's, maybe, I'm just not used to the Hollywood shit, dude.
03:47:31.240
But this is the first time I've gone on an eight-hour long podcast like this.
03:47:40.240
But I think most men would be just chilling, having a conversation for eight hours.
03:47:48.160
In fact, shouldn't women be better attuned to just sitting around having a conversation?
03:47:54.160
I don't think it's particularly physically hard to do it.
03:47:56.520
I'm not that good at sitting in one place for too long.
03:48:07.680
You know, as far as you not, there should have been perhaps an effort on your part to have watched the show that you requested to be on and flew all the way from Florida to be here to do and took a train and did XYZ to be here.
03:48:29.420
Don't you think that says more about you than it would say about me?
03:48:45.980
So isn't that more a lacking on your part than anything that I'm doing on the podcast?
03:48:53.840
Like you asked to be on the show, you know, you saw Kybra's clip, like that was clearly the clip that you saw with Kybra, clearly like a contentious adversarial conversation that we were having with her.
03:49:05.240
So I don't understand where the confusion here is.
03:49:14.180
I knew exactly there would come a point where I'm sitting here.
03:49:20.900
You said you knew exactly what you were getting into, but then also didn't, I'm a little confused.
03:49:29.020
For example, when you were setting up the table, I noticed that in the interview with Kybra, you had Kybra sitting specifically right here, which is very interesting that you put me right here as well.
03:49:40.240
It seems like you also made comments about, well, aren't you homeless?
03:49:43.740
Bringing up a lot of personal things that had nothing to do with the concept of anything we were talking about.
03:49:47.980
It just seems a lot of it was, well, what, what's the criticism of the positioning of where people, what's the issue with the positioning?
03:49:54.880
And then I'll do the, I'll adjust the homeless thing.
03:50:11.380
So I think it's perfectly fair if you're, yeah, I know, shocked.
03:50:16.160
I think it's perfectly fair if somebody accuses you of something to at least have some sort of evidence to be able to back it up.
03:50:32.620
No, actually, I would like to listen to her talk because we're having a back and forth and you keep forgetting that there's a whole panel, man.
03:50:37.860
So I'm going to take back and let you say what you have to say.
03:50:43.960
You conveniently, again, brought it up when I was gone and Felicity was here.
03:50:49.800
Conveniently wanted to make a criticism when I was away.
03:50:53.500
I think I'm not being particularly belligerent, but I'm challenging you on your assertions.
03:51:00.220
I think it's fair for you to explain your criticism.
03:51:06.140
I mean, this is really milquetoast pushback here.
03:51:15.680
But what about the positioning did you object to?
03:51:25.960
There is no grand conspiracy, to be dead honest.
03:51:30.300
I'm going to grab another energy drink, if that's okay.
03:51:38.180
Well, I've been having to pee for the past, like, while.
03:51:42.660
You're done because I'm giving you, like, a little bit of pushback on your criticisms of the show?
03:51:52.880
I'm just asking you, what is the objection to the placement of people?
03:51:59.060
I'm trying to understand what the objection there is.
03:52:04.080
No, it was just one of the weird alignments I noticed here.
03:52:33.720
If you want to talk about it when you come back.
03:52:39.180
I think she brought it up because the questions were about geography and World Wars history.
03:52:46.560
So a lot of us haven't been in school for 10 plus years, which, you know, that seemed like a gotcha.
03:52:52.860
I think that was just her point in bringing it up once you left.
03:52:55.500
Felicity asks, but you would acknowledge that that was like a three-minute filler conversation that she undertook while I was gone.
03:53:03.640
And the 99% of the rest of the time of the podcast has been mostly...
03:53:14.440
Yeah, look, I think she's young and I think she's inexperienced and I've...
03:53:22.820
I want to stand up for her because she's obviously brought up the fact that, like, she's had issues with men.
03:53:27.740
And, look, I think you've been nothing but respectful.
03:53:34.160
Like, I have absolutely nothing bad to say about you or anything that you've done.
03:53:38.240
But I also want to kind of stand in the middle for her as well because she's clearly uncomfortable.
03:53:53.000
And she had no problem amongst the women who weren't going to push back.
03:54:01.240
If I was black and she said she had a bad experience with a black person, that that would be ever a justification to say you're uncomfortable with a black person?
03:54:12.020
I'm not going to allow you to do this feminist thing where we're going to say...
03:54:16.760
Because somebody has had a bad experience with men, that they can then map that onto all men in the same way that I would object if somebody's had a bad experience with a black person.
03:54:26.060
That you can then map that onto all black people.
03:54:35.520
And I can see that you're clearly irritated, which is fair.
03:54:50.020
And I get, and I get you're also uncomfortable, and you're also perturbed.
03:55:11.160
Like, I'm not pointing you out, and I'm not saying that you have done anything wrong at all.
03:55:16.520
I do think she is being very respectful, and it is...
03:55:23.980
I think just, like, we should just tone it down a notch and, like, restart.
03:55:30.720
Like, if somebody's coming and making a claim against me, none of you here are gonna come to my defense.
03:55:37.640
I think it's perfectly reasonable that, like, I don't think it's...
03:55:43.600
My frustration isn't so much with the content of what she's saying.
03:56:00.980
I want to explore why she thinks what she thinks.
03:56:15.680
And once again, I don't think you've done anything wrong, necessarily.
03:56:24.100
...when I was away from the table, and she was like, you know what?
03:56:29.820
She didn't say that verbatim, but that's the impression on it.
03:56:37.360
I wanted to actually explore the content of what she was saying.
03:56:49.660
Do you want to start with a different question?
03:57:01.960
Look, my position is, if somebody is going to forward a criticism, I think it's a bit cowardly
03:57:14.120
Oh, because of what this person's saying, which is crazy.
03:57:20.700
I do think if you ask somebody to defend their position, and they, like, run away, and they
03:57:30.880
won't actually back it up with any evidence for the claim, yeah, I think that's a bit cowardly.
03:57:39.940
I didn't want to get bogged down in this meta conversation.
03:57:44.960
So, if you bring something up, I'm going to want to address it, like, simple as that.
03:57:52.660
If you can't handle the heat, stay out of the kitchen.
03:57:57.000
I mean, we're literally in a open forum, like, debate setting.
03:58:04.140
If she didn't want to receive pushback, she probably shouldn't have voiced her criticisms.
03:58:12.280
Like, if somebody accused you of murder, are you supposed to just say, you know what,
03:58:25.940
So, in this case, I disagree with her assessment.
03:58:28.920
I think it's fair for her to mount a defense of her position.
03:58:35.700
And do you want to ask us, like, another question about the relationship stuff?
03:58:42.900
Well, I think, is she, did she, is she returning?
03:58:51.440
Well, I mean, I will want some explanation upon return, but for the time being, I'm going
03:59:00.940
Yo, someone, thank you for the, it looks like you bought some t-shirts.
03:59:25.480
Trying to move things on, but draws my ire once more.
03:59:55.280
I actually went to college to be a cop when I was 20.
04:00:04.280
We do not condone violence on the whatever podcast.
04:00:20.400
You are complaining about being tired, but you won't shut up.
04:01:39.700
I'm not really used to, like, sitting in one place, but, like, eight hours should be
04:02:09.060
I want to give her a hug, but she's crying, man.
04:02:27.600
That's a completely ridiculous, ludicrous fucking accusation.
04:02:32.900
I was perfectly polite there, and I said, if you need to take a break, take a break.
04:02:36.080
But you double down on your fucking bullshit accusations.
04:02:40.240
Never is it ever the goal to make somebody cry.
04:02:52.460
She can say that I'm trying to make people cry, but I defend myself, and I'm the bad
04:03:00.260
I literally said, go take a break, and I was about to get into it, and then...
04:03:18.820
I want to say, the World War II, World War I questions are not to make you guys feel
04:03:25.640
It's just lighthearted because Brian's not here.
04:03:38.920
Those are just the questions that I typically ask because I'm not a debater.
04:03:43.400
You know what's actually kind of funny about this?
04:03:47.020
Like, the chair four, if she didn't say anything, and I was just like, yeah, take a break,
04:03:55.780
Actually made it worse because it's kind of like, I don't know.
04:04:21.920
As soon as he left the table, she went off to trash talk his show while in the company
04:04:35.240
I mean, technically, that's exactly what happened.
04:04:52.040
If some panelists feel tired, should I do a coffee pop to help stimulate their minds and
04:04:59.980
We don't, like, require somebody to send in, like, a pop.
04:05:06.940
Like, we just have energy drinks back there for the guests.
04:05:15.040
Most people, I mean, most people just opt to not have the energy drinks, I guess.
04:05:29.460
Chair, one running away from Brian's simple questions is what feminists do.
04:05:34.240
They always run away when their viewpoints and positions are challenged.
04:05:42.040
I mean, I just don't understand why that was so escalated.
04:05:48.680
You came back and you asked about it, and I feel like it just got really out of hand,
04:05:54.280
Well, I think there's a tendency sometimes, if you feel like you're on the back foot,
04:06:01.040
like, if you've said something and you're not really prepared to defend it,
04:06:32.000
Pelagic, you can include more with 100 super chat.
04:06:43.220
Guys, $200 TTS, $100 read, Venmo, Cash App, whatever pod.
04:07:25.580
Now that everybody is thoroughly uncomfortable.
04:07:42.620
About, like, the seat placement and everything.
04:07:51.880
Most people, like, isn't it kind of a privilege to get chair one?
04:08:05.820
I mean, I sometimes have a general read on people, and I'm like, okay, who's going to be, like,
04:08:15.360
Well, she said, like, her friend was in chair one, right?
04:08:18.120
Maybe she's thinking there's some, like, ulterior motive.
04:08:26.660
I mean, I put the person who I think is going to, like...
04:08:29.880
I tend to put the people who I feel get a sense who are more conversational.
04:09:03.840
Entitlement, tone policing, sexism, misandry, false allegations, beck, etc.
04:09:10.720
These are some of the reasons why men are moving away from women influenced by feminism.
04:09:31.260
Well, you got a little irritated, but I don't think tone policing is...
04:09:35.580
Because you weren't irritated before until it started becoming like a back and forth.
04:09:44.900
I think you both were just irritated with each other.
04:09:47.140
I was irritated that she kind of started wanting to put on the tears.
04:10:20.740
I know girls that I would, like, never invite here because they're way too sensitive and would get offended.
04:10:31.320
Bro, this was such a mistake that this girl said.
04:10:36.680
Because now it's like, okay, I'm going to console you for 30 minutes in the bathroom.
04:10:42.060
This is why I'm like, whenever I'm upset, I don't want to be consoled.
04:10:46.420
Just let me chill out for like 10 minutes and then I'm good.
04:10:59.440
No, but like that thing, I feel like sometimes if somebody's upset, just let them fucking cool off for like 5, 10 minutes.
04:11:05.780
Now she's like, I'm going to affirm all your feelings and let's have a fucking therapy session in the whatever podcast bathroom.
04:11:17.420
It's just, I don't think it's productive, especially in this scenario where it's like, just listen to your music on the balcony.
04:11:23.600
I mean, she's seen a message from the government of Canada.
04:11:31.080
If chair one is not used to sitting in one place, as she claims, then why did she come on the podcast when she was informed before the show on how long it could last?
04:11:44.960
Are we just like shit talking her while she's not even here to defend herself?
04:11:51.000
I'm just asking because like, it's like we're talking about her.
04:11:55.800
Well, we're talking about the situation that just happened.
04:11:58.100
No, it feels like we're having like all these kind of fair game.
04:12:00.560
And she's not even coming back to like defend herself.
04:12:08.720
There's some long therapy session in the bathroom.
04:12:11.640
Brian, it was clear she was reading the chat, so I called her out.
04:12:17.480
Well, I'm going to get off the meta conversation then.
04:12:22.160
I know some of you guys sent in some pre-show notes, so we'll just do that.
04:12:31.420
If it's the first one, I'd prefer not to talk about that.
04:12:40.020
Like, can I read it and you just say no comment?
04:12:50.560
Situationships, you say people are scared of commitment.
04:12:56.960
You said lots of mismatched expectations in relationships, parentheses, who is expected
04:13:06.980
I know we kind of talked about that, but what's your position on that again?
04:13:10.620
From what we all talked about, it seems like there's a general expectation that men should
04:13:17.240
That's what I was talking about, but obviously that's not how everyone feels.
04:13:28.280
I think we should move more towards like a even split.
04:13:47.360
Somebody has to ask somebody out for the date, right?
04:13:50.440
But I think people should just communicate that more is what I was trying to get with
04:13:57.400
And also when you're in a relationship, how you're feeling, where you stand.
04:14:04.240
Like we talked about earlier, the having kids and stuff like that.
04:14:08.280
I feel like that conversation can come up too late into relationships.
04:14:23.800
Like, do you think, like what about the other things though?
04:14:34.800
Obviously that's not going to happen overnight.
04:14:41.200
I don't think it'll be equal necessarily, but I think it should be more common.
04:14:48.700
Well, like for example, I asked my boyfriend out.
04:15:01.260
But you guys weren't like mutual friends or something first?
04:15:04.300
We were, but I like officially asked him to be my boyfriend.
04:15:09.040
Oh, so you guys had already been dating though.
04:15:15.700
So you guys never even like hung out romantically and.
04:15:25.680
The point is that I officially asked him to be my boyfriend when that's not a very common thing.
04:15:35.700
Have any of you guys asked a guy out officially?
04:15:40.140
There's like been dating a guy for three months, but you're not boyfriend girlfriend yet.
04:15:46.320
And then there's like making those initial efforts and initial moves.
04:15:51.940
So if you've already been dating the guy for a period of time, like you'd agree you can be dating somebody and he's not your boyfriend.
04:16:00.860
I would say like you're in a situation ship at that point, probably.
04:16:08.060
But somebody can be in the talking stage for one, two, three months.
04:16:12.820
Like, has anyone officially asked a guy to be their boyfriend?
04:16:22.820
So if you've asked a guy out a hundred times to be your boyfriend.
04:16:29.200
If the guy asked you or ninety nine of your boyfriends or whatever.
04:16:36.700
The point I'm trying to make is just that it's not as common as I think you're thinking it is.
04:16:40.600
So, like, have you ever asked a guy out to be your boyfriend?
04:16:58.220
But the point is that's two of how many people are we?
04:17:13.900
I think you guys have the same position, that women ask men out less.
04:17:19.480
I don't know why you're arguing with me for that.
04:17:38.680
In your opinion, dating apps seem to be more about finding male validation
04:17:44.860
People don't see online people as real individuals.
04:18:04.360
Wait, so you're saying dating apps, it's about men finding male validation
04:18:14.820
In my opinion, dating apps seem to be more about finding male validation.
04:18:20.600
I think that women seek male validation and vice versa as well.
04:18:29.180
So you're saying that the women are looking for male validation?
04:18:36.300
I think both people are more, okay, let me just clarify since no one else is reading this.
04:18:41.560
What I wrote was I think dating apps are more about people finding like validation or like
04:18:48.720
hookups rather than actually a relationship and building a solid foundation and a connection.
04:18:57.580
I mean, the, I think both men and women can use dating apps for validation or to receive
04:19:06.780
And I don't know if this is how you've meant to frame it, but my, like I said, I wrote that
04:19:12.300
Maybe my original misinterpretation was that men use the dating apps to like get validation
04:19:18.120
from women more so than women use it to get validation from men.
04:19:23.880
It's just, it's just my, my only gripe there would simply be, I agree with you, both men
04:19:28.440
and women do get validation from dating apps without any genuine intention of like meeting
04:19:37.120
I would argue though, that it's more so the case that women use dating apps for validation
04:19:43.120
I agree with the, like it's way, for example, um, I think if you're a guy on a dating app
04:19:51.020
and a girl's like, Hey, I'd like to go on a date with you.
04:19:53.380
I think it's way more likely that the guy's going to take her up on that than like you're
04:19:58.340
a girl on a dating app and the guy's like, Hey, I'd like to take you out on a date.
04:20:01.440
A lot of women, they just enjoy the attention, the validation, uh, not to say that men don't
04:20:09.400
do it, but to say that this is more pronounced in women.
04:20:13.220
I somewhat agree with you, but I do think that, um, like the standard of modern dating
04:20:21.340
is, I just think that people in general have just become a lot more flaky, less reliable
04:20:27.500
and less dependable, you know, cause I know plenty of people who, you know, have maybe
04:20:34.340
reached out via, uh, you know, Instagram or social media or whatever to a guy, for instance,
04:20:40.140
you know, to show interest and then the guy like never responds, you know?
04:20:45.420
It also does occur, does it occur less than what a guy to respond to or a guy to, um, approach
04:20:57.500
Uh, speaking of which, uh, you know, I think it's fair game.
04:21:02.520
I was asking you before, so you were originally supposed to appear with a friend on the show
04:21:08.540
and she like, by the way, I didn't say this before the show, this is, she's been trying
04:21:15.040
We were, we've been talking to her, to your friend since 2023.
04:21:20.080
So this is a third time that she's flaked on us last minute, by the way, last minute.
04:21:33.180
Um, she was supposed to be on the show today and then she claimed she fell off a horse and
04:21:50.620
She's all, she's, unless these are from like a-
04:22:10.380
Just walking around her, maybe that's from a different day.
04:22:28.480
Just thought it was related to your thing here.
04:22:37.720
When women say stuff like we should base the relationship on our feelings, she wants the
04:22:43.080
relationship to be focused solely on her wants and needs.
04:22:47.360
Traditional non-feministic women do not think that.
04:23:00.200
Moving on here in the notes, we have, let's see here.
04:23:15.740
Honestly, she'd have to pay like a $300 deposit if she wanted to.
04:23:21.920
This is the third time she no-show, well, flaked, no-show, whatever.
04:23:33.180
Like, no, yeah, I mean, that's how it typically is.
04:23:45.540
You said you had a man try to scare you by talking about serial killers and punching
04:24:03.560
I just went in stone-faced, and he was, you know, punching inches from my face, and I just.
04:24:13.840
And, yeah, that's a good example of, you know, evil masculinity out there.
04:24:18.400
But I think most men in general have a positive view towards women and want to protect them.
04:24:31.320
He was talking about boxing or something and was just.
04:24:49.420
He, I think he was genuinely trying to scare me.
04:24:54.940
But, like, were you guys just, like, on a date, and then all of a sudden he starts being,
04:24:58.020
like, trying to punch you and talking about serial killers?
04:25:01.880
It was, started off talking about, you know, death metal, serial killers.
04:25:12.180
But it just seemed to me, like, what I read from it was he was trying to get a response,
04:25:50.940
Like, it was a date so that he could get something out of it.
04:25:54.700
And I think people treat relationships as transactional now rather than, you know.
04:26:13.680
You also said women are to blame for hookup culture.
04:26:20.740
Women control, you say this, women control access to sex.
04:26:24.240
And when it's given away so easily, it conditions men to expect it.
04:26:31.740
I think when women just allow men to access to their bodies with nothing in return, no commitment,
04:26:38.280
nothing, it sort of ruins dating for the rest of us that have high standards and are waiting
04:26:43.600
for people that will treat us with respect and value us for more than just our bodies.
04:26:49.200
I think it creates more men that seek out women's bodies instead of a relationship.
04:27:14.500
No, I feel like it goes both ways, I feel like.
04:27:16.780
I mean, I agree with what you say, but also I feel like it's also...
04:27:20.880
You could also say that about like sex work and like OnlyFans and stuff like that.
04:27:24.580
I feel like hookup culture itself, I feel like it goes both ways.
04:27:28.440
Like I know a lot of men who treat women really disrespectfully and like they're the ones who
04:27:33.980
always, we're getting with multiple women and I don't know, I just...
04:27:37.640
I think the punishment for that would be you never have a fulfilling relationship with
04:27:43.380
I think if men act like that towards women, they should be punished for their actions and
04:27:48.560
I think when men act like that, yeah, that's their reward.
04:28:01.100
I thought it was like one of those little spoons.
04:28:14.720
It has, yeah, it's a tennis racket with a pearl.
04:28:36.880
Yeah, that's all I was making my point with that statement.
04:28:41.260
I think a lot of women tend to think like if I have sex with him, he'll want to date me.
04:28:49.600
Like if you offer him sex, he's going to say yes.
04:28:57.720
Why would he want a relationship with a woman who's going to give that out to anyone?
04:29:02.560
I think men always naturally have the expectation of getting sex in return for something.
04:29:10.600
And I think you're completely right in the fact that it's up to us to decide whether to allow access or limit that.
04:29:56.260
No, I think we're pretty much done with your notes, Hannah.
04:30:04.760
You said that couples in college shouldn't restrict each other.
04:30:10.420
Your partner is not your parent, should not tell you what you can and can't do.
04:30:14.380
If you want the best for your partner, you shouldn't tell them they can't go out.
04:30:19.760
Maybe also, like, what to wear, that sort of thing?
04:30:26.900
So you're fine with a guy saying, boyfriend saying, don't wear that?
04:30:36.360
You say, because you should want them to have as much fun as they can.
04:30:40.520
As long as they're respectful, they should be allowed to do whatever they want.
04:30:54.960
I think you should be able to wear what you want, but I also think men can have their own standards.
04:31:01.540
And, you know, if they don't want a girl who's going out and partying, they should not be with that woman.
04:31:07.460
Whereas other men do appreciate that and want that.
04:31:14.980
I think you should be able to wear whatever it is you want and have the autonomy to do that.
04:31:19.840
However, I do think that if you're in a respectful partnership and your significant other does have an issue with something you're wearing, they should be able to freely vocalize that and then at least have some kind of a maybe conversation or something.
04:31:40.280
Because, I mean, with the going out thing, right?
04:31:43.220
Like, I think it's reasonable that if you meet somebody and they're single, you perhaps expect them to be acting in a way that's commensurate with being single.
04:31:54.740
But once you're in a relationship, I think the thing, like, for example, when it depends how we approach the logic here.
04:32:04.600
So if the logic is, well, things that are acceptable when you're single, can they ever become unacceptable when you're in a relationship?
04:32:11.340
I think we would agree, like, for example, you can technically sleep with whoever you want when you're single.
04:32:17.100
But when you're in a relationship, that would be cheating.
04:32:20.080
In this case, it's like, what is the sort of acceptable behavior that you can and can't do once you're in a relationship?
04:32:27.700
And so, I guess my question is, maybe this might help paint a picture or articulate the male position.
04:32:36.940
Would you be okay with your boyfriend going to a strip club?
04:32:44.480
I mean, I would never go to any type of strip club, like, filled with all men.
04:32:48.920
All I'm talking about was more just, like, the college aspect of it.
04:32:52.180
Like, going to frat parties and going to house parties.
04:32:54.820
Especially, like, I came, this is, UCSB is known as a party school.
04:32:59.540
But my boyfriend has no problem with it because he does the same.
04:33:05.020
All I'm saying is I think people do it in a way, like, they're trying to prevent their partner from cheating.
04:33:11.520
So, I think it's more they're trying to prevent cheating, even though I don't, if someone's going to cheat, they're just going to do it.
04:33:17.500
I feel like putting these, like, preventative measures in place doesn't give any, like, use.
04:33:23.860
And also, like you were saying, like, if you don't want someone who's partying, like, you shouldn't be with someone like that.
04:33:29.380
But I have a lot of friends who now are struggling because their boyfriends knew they partied in high school and they knew they went out.
04:33:35.660
But now, all of a sudden, it's a problem that they're in college, even though they knew that's how they always were.
04:33:41.760
I think if you're scared of your partner cheating, you shouldn't be with them.
04:33:46.980
So, then what's the objection to the strip club?
04:33:50.720
I just think it's just, like, half naked woman.
04:33:56.580
I mean, but in terms of, like, the cheating component of it?
04:34:01.400
Well, a strip club is mainly just for, like, sex and not having, obviously.
04:34:16.940
I mean, I wouldn't compare going to a strip club, like, compared to a frat.
04:34:21.580
Like, I don't think it's at all, like, measurable.
04:34:23.680
Like, a lot of people have broken up with their boyfriends just for going to strip clubs.
04:34:27.420
Like, even if they didn't engage in anything, it's just kind of, like, why are you there?
04:34:30.980
Well, I mean, my position on this would be, I think it's far more likely that somebody cheats at a bar or club versus cheats at a strip club.
04:34:39.080
Because the difference is, when you go to a bar or club, there's people who will fuck you there.
04:34:49.360
I mean, but strippers will do it for a price, right?
04:34:54.160
Well, sure, then we're getting into prostitution.
04:34:58.740
I mean, but you go to a strip club, trust me, the strippers definitely don't like the male clientele.
04:35:18.460
They'll give the men attention, but it's just...
04:35:27.700
If I step into a club, there's a better chance of getting laid in the club than getting laid at the strip club.
04:35:34.840
Well, why do a lot of young guys go to, like, house parties because they want to get some...
04:35:46.480
You can party sometimes, but I don't like that.
04:35:52.620
I'm assuming when you say she's not coming back on the show...
04:35:55.580
I'll come back to this topic really quick, but I just have to address this.
04:36:18.440
I mean, it's probably not going to be a rage quit on camera, but I'll film it, put it on the Discord, I guess.
04:36:28.780
Felicity, if you want to continue the conversation momentarily.
04:36:41.780
Um, I honestly think that, like, girls, we don't always go out for, like, oh, I want
04:36:52.720
Whereas guys, I think that's more of their goal when they go out.
04:36:57.200
We kind of were like, oh, I want to go out with my girls.
04:36:59.520
But, like, when you walk up to, like, a group of guys that's out, especially here...
04:37:06.440
I think it's fine to go out every once in a while, but, like, I don't know.
04:37:12.260
Just the values that someone that parties a lot has, it doesn't align with mine.
04:37:18.560
Partying once in a while is fine, but if they're, like, doing it every weekend, not my thing.
04:37:27.600
I think if somebody is out partying on a consistent basis, it clearly means that there's a disconnect
04:37:36.080
going on in the relationship that should be further looked into, I would say.
04:37:40.920
I mean, to be fair, like, college age, they, like...
04:37:45.520
Yeah, I mean, when you're young, it's different.
04:37:47.120
But, like, as you get older and you mature and you grow, that sort of becomes less of a priority.
04:37:52.300
Because, like, we talked about, it's typically, like, you know, family.
04:37:59.560
So, um, if that is to occur, like, on a very consistent basis, then there's probably some
04:38:11.080
Yeah, like, if somebody has the freedom to go out and do whatever you want and you have
04:38:19.860
And also, like, UCSB, like, I honestly, I like going out every weekend.
04:38:24.220
And especially, like, it's all me and my roommates.
04:38:28.160
And he's probably, like, he's not going to be here the whole year.
04:38:32.800
And a lot of them are single and we like going out.
04:38:35.640
Like, we, I worked a lot in high school and I came to a good college.
04:38:39.460
And then, but also, UCSB is known as a work hard, play hard school.
04:38:46.840
Well, can I ask you, like, how is your relationship now?
04:38:50.220
Like, you started off being, like, normal distance and now you're long distance.
04:38:54.320
Like, has that changed anything in the relationship?
04:39:01.760
Like, we, we lived, like, five minutes away from each other.
04:39:04.180
We went to the same school and that was how it was for two years.
04:39:06.560
And the summer, right before we left, we were together all the time because we have
04:39:12.120
But it has been hard, but I wouldn't say it's been super difficult.
04:39:19.540
So, he honestly helps me with a lot of my chem stuff right now.
04:39:24.360
But I feel like I honestly would not recommend this, though.
04:39:27.660
Like, I'm doing it just because I can see myself marrying him.
04:39:30.300
I don't think for sure, like, I'll be marrying him.
04:39:32.640
Like, obviously, there might be things that come up.
04:39:34.380
But I wouldn't, I wouldn't be putting this effort in for anyone.
04:39:37.820
Like, if I couldn't see myself marrying him, I wouldn't have done it.
04:39:40.840
I would have just ended it and then done whatever I wanted here.
04:39:46.220
Yeah, I mean, usually, honestly, I hear really bad things about relationships that end up
04:39:56.300
And I honestly feel like it's going to improve our relationship, like, in the long term.
04:40:01.800
Yeah, because now that we're apart, we have more time with our friends and doing things
04:40:08.280
that are actually really important to us versus, like, seeing each other every day.
04:40:12.380
Because when you're near each other, that's, like, what you want to do.
04:40:16.180
So I feel like it's kind of good for us to have our independent lives a little bit more
04:40:21.460
and then also reconnect, like, at the end of the day.
04:40:26.200
And then, like, when I went back home and we met, it was so nice.
04:40:31.200
It was, like, it was amazing being able to see them in person and, like, you know, so...
04:40:47.980
Obviously, like, it's halfway across the country.
04:40:50.900
But I don't know if I would have wanted to go to the same school with my boyfriend either.
04:40:54.900
Even if we had the chance to, I feel like it's just you're too close together.
04:40:59.420
And that's why also a lot of, like, high school-college relationships don't work out.
04:41:03.460
Because you're not letting your partner grow and you're always, like, clinging to each other.
04:41:09.500
And, obviously, it would have been nice if we're closer.
04:41:13.420
And it's also been, I guess, nice getting used to, like, a different life.
04:41:17.780
But then also knowing when I go back home, I have him.
04:41:21.180
And the next time you're going to see him is Thanksgiving.
04:41:35.760
Wait, so you are or you're not comfortable with him going out and partying?
04:41:42.460
I think, like, I want him to have fun, honestly.
04:41:44.800
Like, he's also really not the type of person, to be honest.
04:41:47.720
Like, he'll go out maybe, maybe, honestly, like, no, maybe every, not every.
04:41:57.460
I told him, you should be going out every weekend.
04:41:59.840
Sometimes he'll be texting me, like, oh, like, I'm just going to stay.
04:42:10.580
When we started dating, I actually started taking him with me to a lot of the parties.
04:42:15.440
Like, I feel like you should have a balance of life.
04:42:18.960
And I know in med school, he's not going to go to parties.
04:42:21.340
He's not going to go clubbing and, like, stuff like that.
04:42:36.280
I would not encourage my boyfriend to join a frat.
04:42:45.920
The more of them there are, the less brain cells, you know?
04:42:53.420
I think because for a guy to go out, it's so hard.
04:42:55.620
Like, in welcome week, for a lot of colleges, like, they can go to every party.
04:42:59.360
But now, like, he has a hard time getting into a lot of parties.
04:43:02.660
Because, like, either he has to pay, like, $20.
04:43:08.860
I just thought it would be nice for him to join a frat.
04:43:11.460
Because, like, he could easily, like, party, like, a lot more.
04:43:15.120
But also, like, he's in a lot of, like, really hard classes.
04:43:22.060
He had, like, track to meet other guys who are more similar to him.
04:43:25.160
So, obviously, in a frat, I didn't want, like, he shouldn't have been, like, a top frat.
04:43:28.460
Because they're usually not really the smartest guys.
04:43:30.760
But if he was, like, a mid-tier, kind of, he would have probably found people similar to him
04:43:36.200
So, I thought, like, it would have been nice for him.
04:43:38.040
It would be more similar to in high school for how it was.
04:43:46.260
But, honestly, a lot of it was just because it's easier for him to go out.
04:43:52.340
Like, I know in college, like, if it was hard for me to go to parties, like, what do you really do?
04:44:06.860
The standards of hookup culture were, for the most part, set by women since the dawn of feminism
04:44:13.580
and the propaganda of female sexual liberation.
04:44:17.200
You sleep around on a whim, but blame men for it.
04:44:34.240
He's already thrown down, like, $5,000 at least on just this episode.
04:44:42.620
I mean, he's donating all this in Canadian, so he's spent, like, $5,000, basically.
04:45:00.680
Okay, so finishing off this, I did want to come back to this conversation about men should
04:45:08.180
They should, you know, you're saying men should not, you know, try to control their girlfriend.
04:45:15.120
Like, just let her go to bars and clubs and parties, et cetera.
04:45:22.500
Like, I would, I know for me, and I know a lot of the people around me, like, they would
04:45:33.200
Like, sometimes women go out and they do cheat.
04:45:37.740
So I don't really want, like, any limitations preventing me, like, thinking, like, oh, like,
04:45:47.220
Like, I know how to be respectful and still do what I want to do.
04:45:50.900
If your boyfriend, like, let's say you texted your boyfriend and you go out next weekend.
04:46:02.820
But, like, can you wear something less revealing?
04:46:04.760
Would that become an issue in your relationship?
04:46:07.220
Or would you, I guess, at the least have a conversation about it?
04:46:11.800
I mean, I feel like I would never really wear anything, like, too revealing.
04:46:25.880
But, like, I mean, it's literally the next weekend for us, for UCSB.
04:46:40.820
I mean, we have a few, but that's, like, one of them.
04:46:46.220
How about you have the conversation, and he's like, look, babe, I'd feel way more comfortable
04:46:53.600
He doesn't want you in a burqa, but he's like, hey, can you, you know, put on something
04:47:11.560
Maybe can you put a jacket on or, you know, something like that?
04:47:15.800
I mean, if it really is, like, reasonable, then sure.
04:47:20.520
Would you feel the type of way about it, though?
04:47:22.660
I mean, I really don't think I would ever dress a certain way where, because I feel like
04:47:27.620
I never, there's a limit, and I would never exceed a limit.
04:47:30.580
Like, even I don't want people looking at me in a weird way.
04:47:32.700
Like, I do it where I feel, like, good about myself, but also, like, I don't want any unwanted
04:47:39.460
What do you think about, would you date a guy who plays video games?
04:47:45.860
Do you think it's okay for a girlfriend to tell her boyfriend to not play video games
04:47:54.340
I mean, if he was only ever playing video games and nothing else, then.
04:47:59.540
It wasn't, like, catastrophic to the relationship, but there was times he wanted to play video games
04:48:11.640
I feel like I could understand, like, why the woman would want that, because she feels,
04:48:16.140
But I feel like if he does it in moderation, if that's his hobby, like, you can't, you
04:48:19.460
shouldn't be able, you shouldn't really stop him.
04:48:20.920
Because I think a lot of women have a strong preference to date men who don't play video
04:48:33.320
It's a bit of a gendered issue as it relates, not the video games, but as it relates to,
04:48:36.800
like, going out, partying, and why men, perhaps more so than women, have a more vested interest
04:48:43.440
in not wanting their girlfriend to party, even if that's how they even met.
04:48:48.040
I think things can change once you're in a relationship.
04:48:51.220
It's like, okay, well, you're, like, the guy could go in thinking, well, she's single,
04:48:56.300
Now that I'm in a relationship with her, I kind of, like, don't want her going out
04:49:01.400
because, and, well, there's a few reasons, but because the experience that men and women
04:49:10.060
Like, if I go out to a bar or club and just mind my business the entire night, no girl's
04:49:16.660
I could go out 10 nights, 20 nights, 30 nights.
04:49:21.340
I just have my, my beer, whatever, just at the bar, not, not scowling, but just, you
04:49:33.800
Maybe if you're a really good looking guy, maybe occasionally, like, a girl might come
04:49:37.580
Well, if you're really good looking, that's different.
04:49:42.460
But you put any girl in a bar or club, average looking, good looking, really good looking,
04:49:51.100
This doesn't mean she's going to cheat, but I do think it's a bit of a different dynamic
04:49:54.920
that, and we do have to factor in, like, okay, the difference is here.
04:49:58.440
So I think the big thing is, I guess I would paint it like this.
04:50:02.880
Would you be okay with, like, your long-term boyfriend going to, I know you say he goes
04:50:11.420
But, like, we understand the dynamics in these parties.
04:50:14.420
Not to say that women never, like, will flirt, never initiate, but, like, usually the guy
04:50:27.500
But if a guy gets hit on once a night, the woman gets hit on ten times a night.
04:50:33.720
I mean, you just have to, like, think about it, though.
04:50:35.340
There's, like, especially here, there's so many beautiful women that go here, and all
04:50:41.460
I don't know, like, it's just, I think people overestimate how much their girlfriend will
04:50:45.780
get hit on, because in reality, you're surrounded by a beautiful woman.
04:50:48.860
Like, you have to be able to show maybe just a little interest.
04:50:51.340
Obviously, like, guys will come up, you shut them down, they leave you alone.
04:50:54.940
But also some guys, I feel like here, or at least what I've seen, like, they want you
04:50:59.440
to show a little interest, and then they'll go up to, they'll keep talking, whatever.
04:51:03.460
Yeah, and look, I think things have changed quite a bit, you know, with social media, dating
04:51:10.380
There's, like, before dating apps, I mean, before social media, if you wanted it, you
04:51:16.700
can slide into somebody's DMs, you can match with them on the dating app.
04:51:19.680
You had to approach somebody, whether that's at a party, whether that's after class, whether
04:51:25.620
You had to approach somebody in person, or you can meet through friends, whatever.
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But now, I think it is the case that men are going to, at least in person, are going to
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shoot their shot less often, but it definitely still happens.
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But I think you take, like, an average girl, average guy, you put them in a bar, nobody's,
04:51:45.120
like, the guy's just going to sit there all night twiddling his thumbs, and the girl, you
04:51:50.760
know, she might get a couple guys hitting on her.
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So I think there's just this difference we have to be aware of as to why men more so than
04:52:02.520
And I think the other thing is, is that men, like, we, I get that women will shoot their
04:52:13.520
And so, I think when you're in a relationship, like, for example, do you think the way the
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majority of women go about putting themselves out there, it's not to do the thing that guys
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typically do, which is, okay, I'm going to hit on 10, guys might be like, all right, I'm
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I think women will be like, I'm going to go to the place and put myself in the situation
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Not that some women shoot their shot, but, so I think men and women, men are salesmen, women
04:52:52.700
are marketers, so y'all make yourself, you put yourself in the environment that would
04:52:59.080
facilitate a man approaching you, but you won't actually generally, like, go and shoot
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your shot, or you won't hit on, like, 10 dudes in the night, whereas men will, maybe you guys
04:53:08.740
have seen some dude at the party bouncing from girl to girl, shooting a shot, rejected,
04:53:15.920
And so, I mean, it's literally like that on, like, dating apps, for instance, like, I know
04:53:21.220
a lot of guys who will literally go on dating apps and just swipe, swipe, swipe, swipe, swipe,
04:53:26.120
like, that's, like, totally normal, whereas women, you know, it's like, we only swipe for
04:53:31.240
the guys that we're somewhat interested in, you know?
04:53:36.580
And so, but I think, though, when you get into a relationship, obviously the guy needs to
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give up his strategy, so the guy gives up his strategy of, I'm going to just flirt with
04:53:49.700
a bunch of girls, but we don't ask women to give up their strategy, which is...
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Well, the woman's strategy is put yourself in these environments to be approached.
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That's the woman's strategy, but you continue doing this strategy, even in a relationship.
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I mean, I know a lot of girls, like, we just like to go out and we just like to dance.
04:54:23.540
Also, I feel like it's more than just that you say, like, we market, and I agree with
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that we market ourselves, but I think it's more strategic than that.
04:54:30.740
Like, we'll put ourselves in the guy's eye line.
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Like, just us going isn't, like, marketing ourselves.
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I feel like a lot of times, like, I like to go out because I actually have fun.
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So I'm not going to say women only go out to get male attention, but I'm not going to
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say, especially if it was a woman single, she's not only going out for fun.
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My objection there would be, if it's really the case, these women hate it when they get
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Why aren't there, like, just female-only nightclubs and bars?
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If it's just, I want to dance with my girlfriends.
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There is some component of the mixed-sex dynamic.
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Or you would just go to your girlfriend's house.
04:55:24.740
But it's, like, it's not just, like, a different environment, though.
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Like, it's, like, you're with a bunch of people.
04:55:30.620
Like, I am meeting, like, a lot of girls who are, like, a lot nicer, like, in these parties.
04:55:34.280
But also, like, I can't go to clubs and I can't go to bars.
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So these house parties and these frats are, like, what we have.
04:55:41.260
Well, I guess, but, I mean, once people turn 21, you know, there are these environments.
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And nothing's actually, and I would actually say overwhelmingly the people who do throw the parties,
04:55:52.500
But what is stopping, like, even women who are under the age of 21 from them hosting or throwing the parties
04:55:57.780
and saying, you know what, just women, only women can come in, never see it.
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And then, I guess the other, is anybody here in a sorority?
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Yeah, so why don't the sorority girls, if it's just about, well, let's cultivate the environment to party,
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why aren't the sorority houses just having parties at the sorority houses amongst her sisters?
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Like, literally, my friend last, on Friday night, was at a little get-together with her.
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Are the sorority houses throwing parties at scale that the frat parties are doing?
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Like, historically, like, frats have always just thrown.
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I can't name a, like, I don't know any sorority that would throw parties.
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But so that would, I think that would speak to my point, which is, it would speak to my point, which is nothing is stopping sororities from just hosting girl-only ragers.
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You can even have non-sorority girls come over.
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But also, none of the houses are built for it, though.
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Like, these frat houses are, like, are actually built for it.
04:57:18.420
I mean, you can throw a party kind of wherever, I guess.
04:57:25.880
There is, I think there's a dynamic here where it's like, people do go to these parties.
04:57:30.920
But I think there's a component there of, am I going to meet, am I going to meet a guy?
04:57:37.400
If you're in a relationship, then, yeah, it's like, probably 99%.
04:57:44.380
But maybe there's still, like, ooh, I get to reject a guy.
04:57:51.100
You don't have to go to a party or a strip club or a sorority or whatever to meet somebody.
04:57:54.920
I mean, you can literally go to the grocery store.
04:58:00.920
There's always a time and place to meet someone.
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Like, for example, a girl could get hit on at Trader Joe's.
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Should the boyfriend be like, no, you're not allowed to go to Trader Joe's because you might get hit on?
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But I think I would say that when it comes to parties, bars, nightclubs, these are, like, very purposeful, intentional social gatherings.
04:58:27.740
And, like, you know, I've never seen some girl getting finger banged in the middle of a Trader Joe's.
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But I was young once and I saw some crazy shit go down at college parties.
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People, like, fucking in the corner over there.
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People, like, fucking in the fucking bushes or some shit.
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I'm just saying, like, it's a different vibe at Trader Joe's.
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And, also, there's, like, a component of, when it comes to cheating, there is a degree
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So, like, there are circumstances that could be tempting.
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But then, why would you want to be a partner who gets tempted like that?
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Why would you want to put yourself in a position, though?
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You would want your partner to experience these things to see how they react.
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And I feel like I would, if my, like, boyfriend is getting.
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Like, I kind of also want to see, like, how my boyfriend responds to things.
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Because then it also shows me who he is as a person.
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And if I don't like what he's doing, then I don't want to, like, think.
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Like, I don't want to take away all these scenarios from him.
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And then later, when we're more serious, I find out that he actually, like, does, can get tempted pretty easily by other women.
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Well, I think people can make mistakes, regret those mistakes.
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Question, if anybody was, like, question, would you, if Brad Pitt hit you up?
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He's like, you know what, leave your fucking fiancé or whatever.
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Well, no, you're in an age gap, so, I mean, you're probably fine with Brad Pitt.
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I'm just saying there's certain temptations, you know.
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I'm not saying it's a guarantee, but, um, here, we have some chats come through that
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Then we're going to continue on with the notes.
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My brother has been married to an Asian woman for two years now in Southeast Asia, and he
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noticed that feminist women back home are insecure and seek constant validation, while traditional
05:02:09.400
Well, uh, uh, well, how about this final thought on this?
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This is, uh, I'm going to do, I'm going to read it off here because I wrote it down.
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I'm going to create a dream world for, for all of you.
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So, would you be okay with your long-term monogamous partner going to a nightclub bar
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or party-type environment where throughout the course of the night, he's going to get
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approached, flirted with, and sexually pursued by numerous attractive women, some of which
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might be more attractive than you, could potentially be a better partner than you.
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These women are buying him drinks, getting him drunk, and enthusiastically, enthusiastically
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want to sleep with him that night and steal him away from you.
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All the friends he is going out with are single, by the way, and they're all kind of
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They want to do some hood rat shit, but he's like wife, wifey with you, you know?
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They're like, our boy is all locked up with his girlfriend, whatever.
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Maybe they don't have the highest opinion of you either, right?
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And he does this regularly, once or twice a week, I guess instead of spending time with
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If he would go for them, then I don't want him.
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If he would go for that, then I don't want him.
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It's not that he would go for that, but that's the position that he finds himself in.
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The only thing that bothers me about that is just, like, he prefers to go out than spending
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Like, and also, this was, like, if he did this, obviously, like, I can't help that he
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So, if he did this every, like, two, three weeks, like, sure, if this is how he wants to spend
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Well, how about he, uh, you spend as much time with him as you want, then?
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So, if he put himself there, no, I probably wouldn't be with that man.
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I mean, as a partner, like, nobody just wants girls harassing their boyfriend just in general.
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But I would expect, like, the reaction out of my partner to respectfully decline.
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And also mention, like, hey, I have a girlfriend so that he...
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I don't understand why, if you're in a relationship, you want to put yourself in a position to be tempted in any way.
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Because there's not always going to be, like, a consistency.
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There might be one night where, you know, he's feeling a little weak or she's feeling a little weak or something.
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It's like, why are you going to put yourself in a position where lust can take over?
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The Bible says, I'm going to bring it to the Bible because this is the truth, right?
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I know, but I have to bring it up because that's where my heart is.
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Yeah, but that's not going to be compelling to an atheist.
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And I don't know why, if you're in a relationship, that you would put yourself in a position to be tempted.
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She's like, I want to see what my guy's going to do and how he's going to react.
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And then 10 years later, like, he somehow ends up at a party.
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It's not like I want him to be constantly tempted.
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But I want to see how he acts in these situations.
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Like, I don't want, obviously, someone who's lustful for other women.
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But if he's not put in these situations, how will I ever know?
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To play the devil's advocate, though, like, how would you know?
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I feel like if you find out your, like, husband's cheating on you, maybe you don't find it immediately.
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But, I mean, with social media, with, like, all their apps and everything, like, I feel like you could find it on his phone.
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So, it's better to find out sooner than later the temptation of lust that you were talking about.
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It's like, if you detach yourself from lust or from any temptation, this could go with drugs.
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But let's say in that situation, I'd rather find out sooner than later, I could let my boyfriend roam free with dozens of models.
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And I know that at the end of the day, because we are built on a foundation of trust, he'd still choose my stinky ass.
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Because it's down to the soul, you know what I mean?
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I guess the point of the dream world hypothetical, it's to articulate the point of the gender difference.
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So, what I described there, where your boyfriend, he goes to the club, and all these girls are hitting on him and trying to buy him drinks, and they want to fuck him that night.
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They want to sleep with you that night, if they can.
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And so, it's like, when you flip, when you kind of put it in that paradigm, it's like, I don't know if I'd feel comfortable with, like, hordes of women just, like, enthusiastically offering up sex to my boyfriend.
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Because from us men, it's like, if we go to the club and we're being good, girls ain't coming.
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And also, like, as far as you go, I mean, okay, I'm not going to even talk about, like, looks.
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But, like, because you are sort of, like, a notable figure, women will 1,000% talk to you, you know, try to associate with you because they know who you are.
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I think for that level of clout, like, you need to be either, like, it has to be an interest of hers or, like, you have to be proper famous and be, like, a musician, actor, like, something else.
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Like, girls don't really, like, girls don't really, I think they don't really care that much.
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Like, if you're, like, semi-famous on YouTube, like, girls don't really give a shit.
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But, like, if I was at a club and some girl was, like, hey, yo, that's that guy with that pod.
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But they're not, like, the girl would be, like, oh, okay.
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I don't think they're going to, like, I think, unless, again, unless she's a fan, then that's a different dynamic, though.
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But, like, a girl could see somebody who's got real high status, like, famous athlete, musician, actor, whatever.
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Even if she's not really familiar with him, that status will become attractive in that context.
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But a YouTuber, I don't think girls give a shit.
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Like, especially at, like, the parties, the UCSB.
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Like, you said, like, it's a lot, like, the majority is men.
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But I was going to say, what I've seen, like, I would say it's, like, maybe, like, 30, 70, 60, 40.
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That was ultimately my point is even if women will go up to guys, I would say, and I think that attention is a bit skewed.
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So, like, you'll have, you'll have, say you have 100 girls in a club, 100 guys in a club, 100 girls in a party, 100 guys in a party.
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Like, men will more proportionately distribute the romantic or sexual interest to all the girls.
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Whereas, like, I think the girls are going to, like, hyper-focus in on, like, 10 of the dudes out of the 100.
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And you actually see this with, like, dating apps, for example.
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I feel like recently men get shyer and shyer and, like, more and more scared of, to talk to women.
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But I would argue, though, that if you do look at the frequency of which people get approached at the bar or club, to your point,
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that even if it is the case that women do occasionally approach men,
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what I'm trying to talk about here is, even though that happens, it's overwhelmingly, overwhelmingly the case that women are going to be the ones who get approached.
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Like, I would say, you put an average dude, like, think about the last time you went to Target or Walmart or CVS.
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No girls are, that guy's not talking to anybody the entire night if he's just kicking it.
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You put the girl who works at CVS in a nightclub.
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Bro, she's getting, she's, seven dudes, ten dudes are coming in to talk to her.
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Like, I just want to, like, I know women, it's, yeah, if you look at it, majority women get hit on more.
05:13:16.300
But if your partner is respectful, why does it matter?
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Like, she would reject him and go on with her night.
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Like, I know so many people who, their boyfriends still limit them.
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Like, I feel like you shouldn't, relationships shouldn't be like that.
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Like, you shouldn't be restricting your partner.
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I don't understand really what they're worried about.
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I feel like they should also be, not like happy, but like, they should be, I don't know.
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Like, they should be happy that their partner is also rejecting and they should also have more trust in a relationship because of that.
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Do you think, like, in all instances of somebody cheating that, like, there was major issues in the relationship?
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Or could it be the case that, like, alcohol, hot dude, hot girl, oops, made a mistake, cheated?
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But then also, if you found out your partner cheated, shouldn't you, I guess, kind of be glad that you found out and you aren't, like, putting a lot more effort into the relationship or spending more time with them?
05:14:24.540
I think that's how my partner also thinks about it.
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Like, we are kind of, like, we don't, we're putting each other, like, we don't care that we're putting each other, like, we're in these situations.
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It's because if one of us ever messes up, then that kind of just shows the type of person we are and that we wouldn't want to waste any more time or effort that we're putting into the relationship.
05:14:41.780
Well, I think that's a compelling point, and it's a good argument.
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I think what I would point to, though, is that people make mistakes.
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I think it's okay for people to, in a relationship, to do, it's called, like, mate guarding.
05:15:12.960
So, like, trying to, you might consider controlling or whatever.
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I do, I personally consider more so having boundaries.
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And it's like, hey, I don't want you doing X, Y, Z.
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That's the thing about today's modern women influenced by feminism.
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She will often sabotage or guilt trip him from enjoying his chill time.
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Wait, can you just, again, just, if you're going to speak, please speak into the microphone.
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Do you want to repeat it into the mic so we can?
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I love how he's just, like, putting out statements and, like, there's not really any questions, but.
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Was it some, some, it was a, it was a, it was a Vancouver chick, wasn't it?
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Some girl from Vancouver broke this guy's heart.
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Okay, we're going to get into this thing really quick, but you're, welcome back.
05:16:45.040
I did tell you, though, we would try to at least finish off your criticisms when you did rejoin.
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Yeah, just, again, though, can you just speak closer to the mic?
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You said when you came back, you'd be fine to finish off the convo we were having.
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You know, I'm not really used to sitting in one place for like eight hours of time and just talking and talking.
05:17:27.580
So, I had to take a little step out, but I'm all good.
05:17:39.320
Your great, great, great, great ancestors before they came to the United States, do you know your family tree?
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They're from this tiny little Moldovan village called Chilukani, and we all got butt-fucked by the Russians.
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Do you know when, like, your family, like, immigrated here?
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I was going to say, if you've been here a couple generations, I was going to say, like, shit.
05:18:05.680
Going back to, like, 1700s, 1900s or whatever, your ancestors came here on a boat, and the journey took six to eight weeks, and half the people on the boat died, and you're sitting, and fucking, you got scurvy and shit.
05:18:23.660
I wish that was the case, but my dad smuggled my mom across the border by plane.
05:18:33.840
Your dad sat on an airplane for 20 hours coming from Moldova.
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You know, you got a transfer in fucking Paris or England.
05:18:45.560
I was planning on staying there and just becoming, like, a goat farmer.
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I just wanted to get through the conversation super quick.
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Do you want to at least elaborate a little bit?
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Maybe this is just because sitting in one conversation and talking about, from what it seems to me,
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Boy, girl, boy, girl, at least from my perspective, under this white light for, like, eight hours straight.
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I'm offended on her behalf that you're throwing sorority girls under the bus.
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Plenty of high IQ conversations happening at SIGAP.
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Trust me, big, big, high IQ conversations happening at SIGAP, at, what is it, ATO, at, I don't know the other frat, too.
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I don't know, you're, like, 36 years old, sir, if you don't mind me asking.
05:20:04.400
He's just kind of, like, sitting here, like, asking about the intricate dynamics of, like, Greek life.
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It's just, for eight hours straight, I can't really concentrate on it much, and I'm...
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It's just all new to me, so I need to take a step back, but...
05:20:24.440
Hey, man, this is your show, and you let me in on here, so I'll take breaks as needed, but it's, like...
05:20:39.800
...seven hours straight, but you wanted to continue the conversation, so that's just me finishing it up, but, like...
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What does any of that have to do with your original criticisms?
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We have a 33-year-old, 26-year-old, 36-year-old...
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Like, sometimes the panel's younger, sometimes the panel's older.
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We try to diversify the panels a little bit, just so it's not just, like...
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It just kind of rubbed me off the wrong way, considering...
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Why can professors who are, like, in their 50s, 60s, and 70s talk to them for hours on end, but I can't have a one-time...
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And, by the way, they have to, like, pay the professors.
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Some of them are going into debt, taking on student loan debt.
05:21:47.980
I mean, I don't actually see the issue with somebody who's older talking to a younger adult.
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So, is it, like, if a father talks to his adult, like, young adult daughter, that's weird because he's older than her?
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I'm just ready to move on to the next conversation.
05:22:31.520
You brought up, Brian, it's kind of weird that you're...
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Well, about the professor comment, but she still thinks it's weird.
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If it wasn't a big deal, you wouldn't be like, just move on.
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I just genuinely want to talk about something else.
05:23:31.020
I just genuinely want to talk about something else.
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Weren't we just going back to our whole conversation?
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If I say, hey, I want to hear your criticisms, I'll address them, then we'll move on.
05:23:41.640
But now you're doing a stone wall where you're like, eh, I'm just not going to state my criticisms.
05:23:45.740
But I already did several times, and you're just kind of picking at them, so I'd rather just continue with the conversation we were having before.
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I spoke my mind, and that's all I really have to say.
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But I was asking for clarification on what your criticisms were.
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I'm really not even pushing all that hard here.
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But you're like, oh my god, you're like imploding in.
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I would rather just discuss something else, man.
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Come back ready to talk about, join the conversation that we're having.
05:24:36.640
But the moment I step back in, it's like, I was trying to contribute to their conversation.
05:24:40.960
Yeah, no, but when you were back there, I said, hey, when you come back, and before you left, you said you needed a breather.
05:24:48.040
We said we would revisit the conversation so you could have the breather, and then finish off the conversation.
05:24:54.840
I said, I just want to have the convo, and then we'll move right.
05:25:00.840
We'll move right back into the dating conversation.
05:25:03.040
But I think it's fair when you, like, I step away from the podcast, and you're like, yo, fuck this podcast.
05:25:09.000
It's really superficial, especially considering that, like, a 36-year-old man is leading a full-grown conversation, almost like, really, like, gritting into, like, 18, 19-year-old girls about our relationship with birth and sex.
05:25:23.300
And we're still discovering this process, and every time we make a remote flaw and lapse in judgment, it's just, look, maybe I have this wrong.
05:25:34.560
Maybe I have this incorrect, like I said, I'm not really used to Hollywood or being filmed for eight hours straight, but it's just something I'm a lot used to it.
05:25:41.420
Trust me, if you're on the Hollywood film set, they film for 12 hours, so I don't, I don't.
05:25:48.340
Like, major shows, like, if you look at Game of Thrones, it's an absolute fucking grind.
05:25:57.440
But, again, the age thing, I can't really change my age.
05:26:10.380
Like, you think this would be a more productive conversation if some, like, frat boy who's never had a girlfriend was leading the convo?
05:26:15.720
No, I just, I wasn't expecting, like, an eight-hour straight conversation about just pretty superficial topics.
05:26:25.620
I think this has actually had, the conversation has had massive amounts of depth.
05:26:29.860
Superficial would be, like, what's your favorite sex position, which we've never done any of that.
05:26:47.460
I think that the nature of the conversation has actually been quite deep.
05:26:52.960
We've talked about all kinds of different things.
05:26:55.360
We've talked about, I think oftentimes I have criticisms that people find the show is superficial.
05:27:04.140
You know, we talk about what's your body count or, you know, what do you rate your looks on a scale of one to ten?
05:27:17.460
Which, I think that that's actually a pretty valid conversation.
05:27:24.240
It's just, at least on my shoes, it's been eight hours straight of this.
05:27:28.540
And I really have admiration for these guys' stamina.
05:27:35.920
So, I just want to let y'all take the rest of the conversation.
05:27:43.200
I'd rather just go back to the conversation we were having.
05:27:50.220
You had your, you know, objections to those critiques.
05:27:57.940
Like, we've been ruminating on this for too long.
05:27:59.660
Look, you got to understand, it's not your podcast.
05:28:02.940
So, you're not going to really dictate the terms of what we talk about, what we don't.
05:28:06.940
I think it's fair game, especially as the host.
05:28:10.300
If somebody raises a point for me to engage them on that point.
05:28:13.440
If I want to talk about banana bread for the rest of the show, you guys will be hard-pressed to actually prevent me from even doing that.
05:28:22.280
I'm going to be so down to talk about banana bread for the rest of the show, dude.
05:28:24.900
In any case, though, I guess the final question here is, you said that it's a very superficial conversation.
05:28:34.240
Why don't you ask a profound dating-related question that's actually profound?
05:28:48.680
Can y'all tell me some sweet stories about, like, the hardest you've fallen in love?
05:28:58.460
I just wanted to lighten it up a little bit, man.
05:29:05.740
That sounds more superficial than what we've been talking about, but...
05:29:12.740
Can you guys tell me a little moment where you spooned your boyfriend and he was a small spoon,
05:29:35.280
To answer Chair One's question, I'm just quoting facts from the statements and experiences of many men who had relationships with feminist women.
05:29:44.640
Also, we all know you are hurting, and you show it LOL.
05:29:56.680
I spoke my truth for the past, like, seven hours.
05:30:29.260
Well, objectively, the earth isn't flat, you know?
05:30:37.340
You brought me back on here, and I'm trying to, like, have a group discussion, and it's immediately back to boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom.
05:30:56.240
By the way, five hours is not eight hours, just saying.
05:31:03.180
Uh, here, we're going to do, uh, a little, uh, okay.
05:31:08.120
Andrew Tate, ask everyone to rate their own looks on a scale of one to ten.
05:31:13.920
Ask everyone to rate their own looks on a scale of one to ten.
05:31:24.840
If I doll myself up correctly, I could work my way up to a five, and that's about it.
05:31:41.280
I guess it's going to have to be a six or an eight, if you have to pick one.
05:32:18.340
So if it was, like, Kamala Harris who asked it, would you be fine with it?
05:32:32.240
Um, because we as people are so multidimensional and it's, no, it's the truth.
05:32:44.240
This is the most, like, basic of the basic of questions in my life.
05:32:53.200
I am becoming superficial like she accused me of.
05:32:56.540
What's that Eminem lyric, like, I am whatever you say I am.
05:33:01.600
This, this is exactly the same, this is exactly the same response that I would give to anybody
05:33:29.960
Yeah, I think people judge on different scales depending on what you're attracted to.
05:33:47.740
Oh, I should have started over here on this side.
05:34:52.860
No, he's two inches shorter than me, regularly.
05:34:59.140
But he doesn't like me to wear heels, which I think is ridiculous, because I love my femininity.
05:35:28.320
Some people can really, like, pull off the bald man.
05:36:15.700
You would then assess a guy with a perfect full head of hair is up here, right?
05:36:21.600
Like, full head of hair, up here, bald, like full on bald.
05:36:54.460
So, some men are better looking than other men.
05:37:00.340
But you could maybe, like, let's say you had a hundred men in a room.
05:37:09.020
You could maybe be like, like, if I were to ask you.
05:37:13.440
But you could be like, could you put them in order of which one is most attractive?
05:37:26.120
Well, I mean, it wouldn't exactly work out this way.
05:37:34.400
You're able to establish this guy's better looking than this guy.
05:38:11.480
I thought you wanted the other girls to get involved in the convo.
05:38:24.040
It's like, okay, you want the other girls to, like, have their time.
05:38:47.440
If you engaged in the debate earlier, I would have been just like, that's fine.
05:38:51.280
But you're like, you want, hey, move the conversation on.
05:39:12.580
So, ultimately, the point I was trying to make here was, was that you would be able to create
05:39:18.360
And then, if we were to look at that hierarchy, we would be able to attribute some sort of ranking
05:39:27.840
And it could be the case, for example, it wouldn't be like, well, you know, if it's a one to
05:39:32.740
10 scale, 10% are 10, 10% are nine, 10% are eight.
05:39:36.800
It could be like, you know, there's three who are 10, five who are nine, 10 who are eight,
05:39:46.320
10 who are seven, 20 who are six, 20 who are five, 20 who are four, five who are three,
05:39:58.120
So, the point is, is that you, you abhor, you abhor the conversation, right?
05:40:11.760
I find it banal and I just don't, I think there are way better uses of our brain cells.
05:40:20.160
Well, I, I guess my objection here is just simply.
05:40:23.040
I mean, look, I know I'm not ugly and I know I'm not Adriana Lima.
05:40:26.760
Like, I was a professional model, a signed model at that.
05:40:33.140
And that's literally all I'm going to say about that.
05:40:53.620
Also, you are a 5 on the attractiveness scale of 1 to 10.
05:40:57.940
You won't answer because you do not have much to offer.
05:41:05.780
And that's why you're behind the screen and I'm in front of it.
05:41:17.580
Did you get paid for your looks ever in your life?
05:41:41.040
Has anyone ever noticed how blue Brian's eyes are?
05:41:49.520
But I feel like they were more blue when he was younger.
05:42:00.400
I know you're trying to goon over my young pictures or whatever.
05:42:17.940
You can think however you want about my outward appearance.
05:42:21.040
But, like, I don't need anybody's validation for how I feel about myself.
05:42:29.600
But you also didn't like the question, what you bring to the table.
05:42:35.900
What do women bring to the table is my question.
05:42:39.940
I can think of things, but I'm curious what you guys think.
05:42:46.900
You've been talking about that for, like, the past.
05:42:51.400
I know it's not your fault, but you guys don't be whispering back there.
05:43:05.940
I said fucking, and I didn't have anything to follow it up with.
05:43:14.020
Is that, like, a legitimate question right now?
05:43:22.160
You know that you would not be in existence right now without one of us, correct?
05:43:33.620
So, like, for example, she doesn't want to have kids.
05:43:41.580
I assume she brings something to the table for her boyfriend to want to be with her unless she is the table.
05:43:48.320
But, like, this idea that women, like, that's the ultimate, defeat, or women have children.
05:43:54.660
Are they, first off, are women actually doing a good job of having children?
05:44:00.320
Do you want to be in a relationship with a woman, and why?
05:44:07.340
Do you want a man or a woman, and why would you want a woman?
05:44:10.100
I guess he's asking for, like, what positive traits do you bring to a relationship?
05:44:28.940
What positive characteristics do you have as an individual that you could bring to a partnership?
05:44:35.580
Well, really quick before you answer that question.
05:44:37.780
You said, like, this women bring children, but okay, how about, like, when a guy is dating
05:44:44.420
an 18, 19-year-old, 20-year-old woman, there's not an expectation that she get pregnant anytime soon.
05:44:50.540
So it's like, what is a woman bringing to the table beyond just children?
05:45:14.840
Men, it's like, you need men to have children also.
05:45:41.000
I feel like every girl has, like, I dated a narcissist story.
05:45:49.160
And I think you can see signs when you're younger and also ignore those signs at the same
05:45:54.120
time, and then when you're older, you learn not to ignore the same thing.
05:45:57.000
But how is a man going to benefit from your intuition?
05:46:03.380
She has an intuition that he should not date her.
05:46:07.220
I mean, I'm not saying you can't have a great intuition.
05:46:13.900
Why are the majority of men, you know, dealing with loneliness, with higher suicide rates?
05:46:22.100
Well, how is your intuition going to help that?
05:46:24.900
Because you are bringing something that a man does not innately have.
05:46:33.340
They operate from a different operating system.
05:46:50.760
I mean, I know plenty of women that are like, I'm not spiritual.
05:47:02.100
Look, if women can ask men what they bring to the table, that's fine.
05:47:05.200
I think it's fine when men ask women what they bring to the table.
05:47:08.480
I think the difference is, is that men tend to better answer the question.
05:47:29.240
So, I mean, I think people bring all kinds of different things into a relationship.
05:47:35.140
So, I think that, obviously, both men and women care about looks.
05:47:41.380
So, looks-wise, I think I'm pretty average-looking, but I think I do have one or two things in my
05:47:49.520
That's probably positive characteristics on looks.
05:47:54.260
Don't think it's, like, most of what I'm bringing.
05:47:58.240
The other thing I bring, though, is in terms of my success, I'd probably put myself in top
05:48:08.440
Well, I guess, are we using percentile or percent?
05:48:15.660
This would mean that I am more so looking for a more traditional dynamic.
05:48:22.500
So, whoever I'm with never have to work a day in their life.
05:48:28.300
Not to say that I don't have any expectations of a woman.
05:48:35.180
You might not value that, but there are plenty of women who highly, highly value that.
05:48:39.480
And then the other thing I would say is I have my head on pretty fairly straight.
05:48:50.560
Some women might not care about that, but I have my head on fairly straight.
05:49:18.400
How much of your personal success can you attribute to a woman?
05:49:29.700
So, your mom having you, raising you, caring for you, you would say that contributed nothing
05:49:43.200
I mean, your question is completely incoherent.
05:49:44.860
You're talking about my success with my business?
05:49:50.400
Okay, your argument is incoherent, and I'll explain why.
05:49:54.020
And you wanted to do this, like, straw man, basically.
05:50:02.080
You said, how much of your current material success is related to your mother?
05:50:11.780
Well, then I would have to say that your parents are, like, probably the number one influence
05:50:16.200
But you wanted to not make it about my parents or my mom.
05:50:21.760
So, my parents raising me would entail both my mom and my father.
05:50:39.620
Like, yes, I'm prepared to sit here and say, yes, both my mom and father shaped me.
05:50:48.600
But, I mean, a lot of it is also, like, I'll give them props.
05:50:58.940
And I would attribute my success to, look, I had wonderful parents.
05:51:08.300
Still a fantastic relationship with my parents.
05:51:13.060
But, like, in terms of, I don't even know how to quantify this.
05:51:17.880
My parents didn't give me a million dollar loan.
05:51:24.200
And so, perhaps, I don't know, how do we extend this to any other?
05:51:28.980
So, then, by this logic, anybody who's ever successful, ever, what percentage do we attribute that to their parents?
05:51:45.220
Even if you had shitty parents, that can motivate you.
05:52:00.580
And I used that pain as motivation to become rich.
05:52:09.840
We're talking about what you bring to the table.
05:52:14.160
And it was like, well, all I'm hearing is blank.
05:52:21.860
Oh, all I'm hearing is that you have no addictions and that, or whatever.
05:52:33.060
I mean, uh, I mean, I'm just trying to, there's obviously like, I don't know if you guys want
05:52:42.500
I like treat my girlfriend well and like will care about her and love her.
05:52:49.200
Like, but I feel like that's just like, it's not even worth saying.
05:52:52.540
I'm trying to think of specific things outside of just like the bare minimum givens.
05:53:04.480
There's probably other, I'd say like, I'm like a, maybe a six or seven on the funny scale.
05:53:11.080
But sometimes my humor is like, that was funny.
05:53:16.060
Some people, you know, humor, humor is kind of a, uh, some people might think I'm like
05:53:20.740
fucking Koreans, but I think I'm, uh, probably like slightly above average when it comes to
05:53:31.360
You, you asked me what I bring to the, what do you bring to the table?
05:53:42.300
Well, no, I am very emotionally intelligent and I'm also intelligent period.
05:54:08.640
When you say you have goals and ambition, you're talking about your career, right?
05:54:12.280
I'm talking about wanting to make, like, what is your question?
05:54:18.080
No, when you say you have goals and ambitions, that's related primarily to like education and
05:54:26.760
That's, men would not view that as something you bring to the table.
05:54:37.240
That is a very different, that is not a comparison.
05:54:39.800
Women don't give a fuck about, it's not worth anything.
05:54:42.600
Women don't give a fuck about my Pokemon card collection.
05:54:45.040
I don't actually have a Pokemon card collection.
05:54:46.880
But I don't think like men want someone who's like lazy.
05:54:52.780
Well, I just know, I know a lot of men who wouldn't want someone lazy.
05:55:01.960
Well, they just want, I don't know who you know.
05:55:04.180
But out of the people I know, yeah, that's a very important factor.
05:55:21.400
But your ambition and the money that you're going to reap from said ambition.
05:55:27.440
He brags about how his wife is a doctor all the time.
05:55:39.800
Um, again, you can point to the, uh, the exception to the rule, but I think.
05:55:45.480
I'm just saying like, I feel like the type of men.
05:55:47.500
That I go for, I'm probably guessing that she goes for, like they want ambitious, like
05:55:52.120
And that's what they'll tell you because feminism has sold you on a lie that you must put career
05:56:01.300
I'm telling you your, your peers, even if they're your friends are going to be terrified to
05:56:06.040
ever challenge any of the mainstream narrative related to this.
05:56:09.960
I'm telling you if, if I don't know if you have any honest male friends.
05:56:16.480
And then there's the guy who's the guys who you're dating.
05:56:19.580
I'm telling you, I'm telling you, especially living in the, in the California, living in
05:56:30.440
I'm telling you men are really uncomfortable actually even putting forth, even like milquetoast
05:56:36.220
conservative positions, but we're 20 years older than me.
05:56:40.800
There's 18 year olds who are more conservative than me.
05:56:44.300
You don't know what our generation is like, and you don't know who I surround myself with.
05:56:55.600
So I think just, you can say that there's a nurture that's occurring where these men are
05:56:59.640
like basically brainwashed into believing this sort of thing.
05:57:02.980
But I would say that if we're having a conversation about nature, not nurture, then men don't
05:57:09.940
really care about the intellect is different than like your career.
05:57:21.200
Let's say you as a woman or any woman is like really, really big on like college and really
05:57:32.760
Do you think if, uh, what do you think if a guy's like trying to have sex with her, you
05:57:38.580
think it's going to help him to be like, honestly, I like your personality.
05:57:49.120
I'm not trying to get with someone who's just trying to have sex.
05:57:52.360
But the point is, is that men, like, for example, if a girl has tattoos and the guy
05:57:56.540
doesn't like tattoos and it's not going to help him, then he's not going to get with
05:58:01.840
If he doesn't like the tattoos, men will, men will sleep with women that don't meet
05:58:12.740
Well, she's like more liberal in a liberal area.
05:58:15.460
I think liberal men actually do care if a woman has a job.
05:58:18.740
Cause I think even if let's go 50, 50, you have to work.
05:58:24.180
But you're thinking like ambition as just like career.
05:58:27.400
Like we're just saying like, we want to do something with our lives.
05:58:30.620
Like we are striving to do something better for ourselves.
05:58:35.660
So if we're talking, I'm, I'm, that's good for you.
05:58:40.180
Like you're just saying like, oh, we're putting our career over everything.
05:58:42.360
Like you're making me seem like we're so ambitious that like, but I'm not saying it's
05:58:51.240
Uh, except I would think that my boyfriend in 2025 wants to be the only person bringing
05:58:58.960
money to the table and I can just spend whatever I want whenever.
05:59:09.240
But what I'm talking about here is attraction and it doesn't, I don't think it's an attraction
05:59:19.520
Like they might care from a pragmatic economic financial perspective.
05:59:23.640
Like shit rent's expensive, but not like I'm more attracted to that woman because of
05:59:31.860
Whereas I would argue you look at hyper six, like status, for example, status can do a
05:59:39.420
If he's rich and he has status, it can do a lot of heavy lifting.
05:59:41.960
But like, for example, Beyonce billionaire, I think, uh, Beyonce is a billionaire, massive
05:59:49.700
One of the most popular music artists of all time.
05:59:52.500
You put her in a club next to like some batty 21 year old who has no money.
06:00:00.200
I'm telling you the dude, the guys in the club aren't looking at Beyonce.
06:00:04.380
Like, well, I can promise you they are looking at Beyonce.
06:00:07.240
Well, if they, if you, if they're going to pick, they're picking the 20 year old, 21
06:00:18.200
I'm just, I'm just saying, look, genuinely speaking, I'm telling you, they really do.
06:00:26.300
But so I kind of associate like intelligence also with ambition.
06:00:29.920
Like if you're so intelligent, I feel like you would want to do something with that intelligence
06:00:34.600
and therefore you're trying to do something with your life.
06:00:39.140
Like if you're saying like, oh, like men don't like women who are ambition, you're basically
06:00:42.920
saying like, they don't like women who are intelligent.
06:00:46.760
I'm not saying it's wrong that you're ambitious.
06:00:49.260
My, my primary argument here is that it's great for you if you're ambitious, wonderful,
06:00:57.720
A guy's not going to be attracted to someone who's lazy.
06:01:00.220
If you just lay around and you don't do anything, you're not going to like that.
06:01:04.100
So I, this question, what do you bring to the table?
06:01:07.360
The only reason that I don't like it, and I don't know if this is the reason that you
06:01:10.280
don't like it is because every time that I have been asked this question, it had to do
06:01:16.000
And that was why I didn't like to have that question asked.
06:01:24.000
But then that's a guy who actually cares about the finances or whatever.
06:01:32.780
Generally, generally speaking though, even young guys.
06:01:43.260
It comes first for women as well, but that's not the only thing that anyone looks for in
06:01:50.500
So do you guys think there's perfect in terms of what men want, what women want?
06:01:55.160
It's just men want the exact same things as women.
06:01:58.860
There's, is it fair to say that there's differences between what men find attractive, what women
06:02:04.760
So I think in this specific regard, I believe in asymmetry exists.
06:02:19.960
They place more value on, on money, et cetera, et cetera.
06:02:28.740
Men are extremely visual and women, you know, I mean, once again, things are,
06:02:36.240
But yes, fundamentally, I think women do tend to like men who are masculine or exhibit
06:02:44.100
masculine qualities who want to lead, provide, protect.
06:02:48.320
I mean, you just said like, you know, my, my woman is not going to have to worry about
06:02:52.920
Like to me, that shows that you're a masculine man.
06:03:04.000
Uh, we have a chat coming in here from our good Canadian message from the government of
06:03:13.560
Therefore, why would I waste my valuable time showing my face to used up 304s with high
06:03:23.540
I had to work hard for my money and never lived on easy mode until now.
06:03:44.580
Uh, do you think you'll be better looking in 10 years time?
06:03:52.500
Wait, let's get, uh, you want to beckon her back on this?
06:04:13.600
Uh, better looking in 10 years time, better looking?
06:04:20.600
Um, no, but I don't think that'll, there'll be, um, like big decline.
06:04:41.680
Um, I'm going to consistently stay just like super 10 all the way through.
06:04:48.220
I should have dug in on the 10 thing a little bit.
06:04:50.880
Um, and then better looking now or better looking 10 years ago at 23?
06:05:01.140
Will you be better looking at 43 than you were at 23?
06:05:04.540
Um, were you like, yeah, because I was strung out at 23.
06:05:15.540
Listen, I'm going to explain that the 10 is going to be a 10 from when I was born to when
06:05:35.740
Would you, um, so you don't care when it comes to like who you would date though.
06:05:42.340
And he's going to be the one that God chooses to send to me.
06:05:45.200
So are you going to date an obese four foot 11?
06:05:49.580
my track record, I, I've never had, I've never had a type.
06:05:56.400
I mean, I've had some questionable ones, so we'll see.
06:05:59.880
Uh, and then you better looking in 10 years time.
06:06:04.320
I feel like I'm going to be uglier in 10 years time.
06:06:09.100
No, my, my lineage ages horribly did George donated $200 and four cents.
06:06:15.200
After this segment, especially the young ones don't care about women.
06:06:40.600
There is nothing better to do than watch the whatever podcast.
06:06:46.300
And you must have a lot of money to spend on this.
06:06:59.640
Things are a bit on the fence with your fiancee, you know?
06:07:09.200
Um, it's an uncomfortable truth maybe for, for women.
06:07:13.120
Uh, there's not, like, because I think women will attribute how they feel towards men and
06:07:17.800
think men must feel like there's reciprocity, there's symmetry.
06:07:33.700
Now, they could care about, well, nah, I won't get into that, but, um, guys, we got
06:07:46.180
And we've aged, advanced all of you, although most of you don't think you're going to be,
06:07:50.860
Um, but we'll do it anyways, just because it's fun.
06:09:32.560
This is how none of us are going to look, by the way.
06:09:42.660
I was planning on living to see 20, let alone, what is it, 80?
06:10:30.720
Find the fucking, no, you don't have to find it.
06:10:35.660
And now, the next AI we've done, we've gender swapped all of you.
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If you're single, would you date the male version of you?
06:11:38.440
Would you, if you were single, would you date the male version?
06:11:59.480
You wouldn't date, you only date white guys or what's going on?
06:12:28.780
He looks sort of like my, I don't know, a little bit, but way better looking.
06:12:53.680
Okay, well, the eye got a little fucked up there, but assume he, his eye's normal, I
06:13:28.320
Like, you meet a guy, and you're like, damn, he's so handsome, and then you're like-
06:13:41.100
He's good-looking, and you're like, ah, he's gay.
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His hair's not all fucked up like it usually is.
06:15:30.340
Well, not myself, but I would date her, I guess.
06:15:36.060
I feel like you're using a different app for you.
06:15:43.660
I mean, to be fair, though, it has to make up for, like, the other one.
06:15:47.720
The age-advance one was way more favorable for you guys and really harsh.
06:16:03.100
If we were the last man and woman on Earth, I would ditch her because she's a strong, independent
06:16:31.460
Uh, you're, you, did you, your repossession agent, repo agent, did you repo your soul?
06:16:49.320
No, it's been going off for the past, like, two hours.
06:17:05.580
What do you, can you, can you explain what you mean?
06:17:10.160
Because you're a repo agent and you, like, found Jesus or.
06:17:26.760
Um, because I, I've been delivered from addiction.
06:17:32.020
Was it, you said it was cocaine or other stuff too?
06:17:47.920
I was waiting for you to bring that back up so that I can chime in.
06:17:59.260
So you're just like crashing on couches or what?
06:18:16.800
But I'm still like, I don't have a place where I reside.
06:18:21.400
Is there, have you ever, uh, like slept in your car?
06:18:38.540
If I was, if I lived in a hotel for a year, am I homeless?
06:18:45.180
She's not like, she doesn't have to be like sleeping on the street.
06:18:47.160
By, by this extension, renting is not your home either.
06:19:04.760
If you don't have money per day or per week or whatever for that hotel, you are homeless.
06:19:14.640
No, I don't, well, you don't need to explain the whole thing.
06:19:16.700
I'm not going to explain the whole thing, but let me explain.
06:19:18.680
So I was homeless hoping, hopping from hotels to Airbnbs and all over the place for a few weeks.
06:19:24.920
And then I was gifted a place to stay for the last few months.
06:19:30.820
So how long total have, wait, so you, you are homeless or you're not homeless?
06:19:40.980
You've been gifted a place like it's your own place?
06:19:43.100
No, it's just a temporary stay while I find a place to live.
06:19:51.560
Do you share the bedroom or is it your own bedroom?
06:20:15.920
Also, even if you were living in the hotel, you wouldn't be homeless.
06:20:18.100
Well, that's not a fun situation to be stuck in someone else's place and having to find.
06:20:22.060
Well, I think it's better than having to pay rent.
06:20:48.320
So if you have roommates, you don't have a home?
06:21:00.620
But, I mean, you have a place to stay temporarily.
06:21:03.580
So if I'm hotel hopping for three years, I've been homeless for three years?
06:21:07.380
In the same way that somebody who's been living on the streets for three years is homeless?
06:21:15.560
If you've been hotel hopping for, and by the way, she's been living rent-free at a house
06:21:30.200
If I'm staying at the Ritz-Carlton and I'm switching between different Ritz-Carlton's.
06:21:40.100
If I'm going from Ritz-Carlton in Miami to Ritz-Carlton in New York to Ritz-Carlton in Santa Barbara,
06:22:08.980
If you're hotel jumping and every single night you are paying for a hotel, you're not homeless.
06:22:18.340
If she loses her job tomorrow and she does not have money to pay for the hotel, she is then homeless.
06:22:33.080
I don't want to talk about fucking hotels and homelessness.
06:22:40.780
I'm temporarily not residing anywhere permanently.
06:22:51.540
Is she homeless like she said she's been living in the house?
06:23:06.380
Experiencing confidence should be taken seriously.
06:23:09.560
Women just need to be submissive, peaceable, have reasonable morals.
06:23:14.260
But feminism is leading women to become the man they desire.
06:23:17.380
You really seem to object to what he had to say there.
06:23:46.100
Being homeless means not having a house or apartment and actually living on the streets.
06:23:51.520
That is not homelessness if you are staying in a hotel, P&B, temporary,
06:23:58.360
So why don't you give her a house then if you have so much money to drop?
06:24:01.120
Well, I guess it's not living on the streets, but I do see it as less secure.
06:24:34.900
A billionaire who's hopping from a luxury hotel to luxury hotel or the person who has
06:24:41.680
a mortgage but has a house but they're living paycheck to paycheck?
06:25:01.420
The reason I was given a place to stay was because if I, I can't disclose who it is because
06:25:16.480
I have my dogs and if I couldn't continue to, like I could have ended up on the streets
06:25:23.860
but if I had to do that, I'd have my dogs and I wouldn't be able to go to work anymore.
06:25:28.120
So I needed a place to keep my dogs so that I could go.
06:25:31.460
But like what is the proportion of people who are paycheck to paycheck in this country?
06:25:35.200
Like this idea that it's the degree of secure, isn't it the case like a majority of people
06:25:44.240
This means they're one paycheck away from like complete catastrophe.
06:25:48.660
Yeah, they're less secure but that doesn't mean they're homeless.
06:25:51.920
It's, I don't understand, I don't even understand that.
06:25:57.040
I thought we like, I guess discussed that it was a non-secure living.
06:26:04.860
When I was a little boy, my mother was homeless for a year and was actually living on the streets
06:26:09.820
while I was put into a foster home because she lost her job over a bullsh-tee reason.
06:26:21.940
I want you to go to Skid Row in Los Angeles and be like, we're the same.
06:26:34.300
If I go to Skid Row, you know I'm going to minister to everybody over there.
06:26:45.840
I want you to go up to a homeless person in Santa Barbara and just be like, man, I relate,
06:27:14.280
Okay, you think OF is demonic, but we're not going to get, nobody here does OF, so whatever.
06:28:00.520
You say relationships only work when the guy loves the girl more.
06:28:03.500
It doesn't mean the girl loves them very little,
06:28:10.700
I think if, like, women are internally done with the relationship,
06:28:15.580
they still will keep trying and holding on to the relationship,
06:28:18.820
but I feel like when men are done in a relationship,
06:28:25.760
I think that, uh, I think men, they'll just linger in that shit.
06:28:33.440
I think when a girl's done, I'm not saying she's going to dump the guy right away.
06:28:42.320
I feel like women will stay in it and try to keep it working,
06:28:45.200
but if a man is just done, they will just break it off.
06:29:00.320
I think it's way more often the case that when there's a breakup,
06:29:03.320
the woman's already got the next guy in line, ready to go.
06:29:13.620
That's actually scientifically proven that men are emotionally more damaged by breakups.
06:29:33.960
I just think that both parties usually have difficulty with, with breakups.
06:29:40.400
I also know men that will lead women on for sex as well.
06:29:46.260
So men stay in relationships too, for different reasons than us.
06:29:51.920
But I will say that like when, when, um, the partner of a man, like, let's say they,
06:30:00.420
it's old age and the woman dies before the man, the man will immediately,
06:30:05.540
I've seen it many times, immediately find somebody else as a replacement.
06:30:16.160
I feel like girls, like girls are more likely to have guys in the friend zone.
06:30:19.520
You have guys waiting in the wings and, uh, I don't know.
06:30:29.200
George donated $200 and four cents to chair four.
06:30:38.340
And I never blamed my mother for losing her job because her boss was racist.
06:30:42.980
But since you laughed at her misfortune, you can say, Felicity, just stay for it.
06:31:04.500
You said body count shouldn't define who you are as a person.
06:31:10.800
I'm trying, I'm trying to rush through this guys.
06:31:13.640
Body count shouldn't define who you are as a person.
06:31:17.980
Well, you know, with high body counts are still very genuine people.
06:31:21.580
Your own boyfriend, your own boyfriend doesn't agree, uh, with you on this.
06:31:26.040
However, W boyfriend, you know, can we get some W's in the chat for Mahi's boyfriend?
06:31:32.480
You guys have a great relationship, but, um, you guys fight on the body count thing.
06:31:36.820
I don't want to say we fight about it, but we disagree about it.
06:31:42.240
You said that your friends, um, you, you know, girls.
06:32:09.000
Some people be putting up 30 freshman quarter, you know, first freshman quarter, you know,
06:32:15.520
Um, like, obviously, like sometimes maybe it does reflect your personality if you are
06:32:20.020
sleeping with a lot of people, but I feel like a lot of people like to generalize if
06:32:23.600
you have a high body count that it automatically means you're just like a bad person, like
06:32:29.320
But like the people that I've seen is like, they're all like still very intelligent.
06:33:04.220
I just feel like people automatically assume that they're lesser than or like they don't
06:33:10.380
Like, I just think like I've seen people who are like the exact opposite of that.
06:33:16.940
I was here and unfortunately, um, if I, if he doesn't scoop me up now, he's, he's going
06:33:23.000
to leave me here and he's my only, um, way to get to LA.
06:33:39.540
Do you want to just say goodbye into the microphone or whatever?
06:33:53.140
It's, it's just like, I got a lot of other stuff going on and this was kind of like the
06:33:58.700
worst time to have it all going on because there's like three cameras with all of this
06:34:12.080
There's just, there's just a lot going on and outside world.
06:34:18.100
So it's like, there's literally like cameras and people watching while I have all this
06:34:24.760
So it's, it's just that, but my ride's down here and he's been waiting for me for the
06:34:30.920
And if I, if I don't catch it with him, he's going to leave me here and I'm not going to
06:34:44.280
You said that, you know, body count shouldn't define who you are as a person.
06:34:47.420
Uh, we often, you know, just go around the table on this, um, body count, um, if I'm
06:35:01.420
Do you want to do, you don't have to give an exact number.
06:35:41.580
By the way, Pacey, George has a nice comment for you.
06:36:13.260
And you, when you used to do OF, were you, like you didn't do, did you do hardcore stuff?
06:36:19.700
Uh, the only men that I brought in were my actual boyfriends at the time.
06:36:24.320
Do you want to stay for the roast session that we're about to do?
06:37:03.780
I wasn't even planning on coming out to LA for this date.
06:37:07.140
I was probably going to like bail out last minute.
06:37:11.140
Couldn't make it because I was stuck in Florida and I was stuck in like a conservatorship situation.
06:37:16.620
And literally on Wednesday, I like fled from that shit and used like the last little bit of money for my last seasonal job to go to the one place where I knew I could probably couch up and make something work out.
06:37:26.800
And I thought I was making money from this and I realized I'm not getting paid for this.
06:37:35.660
I don't know why the assumption would be anything to the contrary.
06:37:42.760
Well, I'll just survive these eight hours of getting roasted so I can get.
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So, it's like I sat here and I'm trying to hold myself together.
06:38:11.560
Four more hours and then you can get free food.
06:38:17.240
Like, you didn't travel all this way for fucking free pizza.
06:38:26.340
Genuinely speaking, though, I know we disagreed.
06:38:28.140
I know we had a heated moment earlier on in the show.
06:38:36.200
It sounds like there's some other stuff going on with your life.
06:38:40.720
I'm sure there's, you know, a lot going on there I have no idea about.
06:38:45.540
I, again, I know we had a little heated moment exchange.
06:38:51.720
I hope that if you're on, if you're moving to Cali or heading back to Florida or whatever.
06:39:03.140
And if there's anything, you know, else beyond just the disagreements on the podcast going on in your life,
06:39:09.420
I wish you Godspeed in resolving all those, all those things or, you know, so, yeah.
06:39:23.180
And by the way, also another compliment for you, another compliment.
06:39:27.040
I, you're, the, the urban climbing stuff is actually quite impressive.
06:40:03.620
Brian belaboring the point with his tism was more triggering.
06:40:07.840
I, I am autistic, so that's probably part of it.
06:40:29.420
I'm just, I'm just making shit up at this point.
06:40:43.400
Uh, but really quick on the finalize the body count conversation.
06:40:47.660
Um, do you think men are insecure if they do care about the woman's body count?
06:40:51.060
They're like, oh, she's got a body count of 15.
06:40:54.840
No, but I do think like some, I understand it, but I think some men take it to like a
06:41:03.320
level of just like disrespecting the woman as a whole instead of just kind of respecting
06:41:10.420
I mean, instead of like, I don't know, I feel like they just kind of disrespect her of who
06:41:13.740
she is and doesn't, and just judges her like completely.
06:41:22.100
I just got to do some private cons here really quick.
06:41:41.400
Well, I actually don't, I don't actually see the issue with guys caring about this.
06:41:47.100
Women have all kinds of preferences, standards, whatever.
06:41:49.640
If a guy doesn't want to date a girl because she's hooked up with X amount of guys, I think
06:41:59.600
I don't even think you, it doesn't necessarily mean you're a bad person, but you do acknowledge
06:42:07.440
Like I feel like people just kind of look down on them for their body count.
06:42:11.200
I wouldn't say bad person, but they do look down.
06:42:13.300
Uh, curious on this, like maybe going around the table, would you date a guy?
06:42:20.160
I know some of you guys are in a relationship, so hypothetical if you were single, uh, would
06:42:24.520
you date a guy who previously had sex with men?
06:42:39.300
If he was open and transparent about it and didn't hide it in like secrecy.
06:42:44.540
He's like, you know, when I was younger, I had slept with a couple of dudes S to the
06:43:02.940
Um, how about this, just for the sake of it, uh, used to be bi.
06:44:04.980
Y'all are the one who, oh, don't make me think about gay male sex.
06:44:16.100
I'm just saying, I'm just saying, imagine, imagine your boyfriend, like, doggies by another
06:44:42.560
You're just so cute sitting over there with your little necklace and your little polka dots
06:44:55.760
And I just think, you know, you're going to be a great psychologist when you're older.
06:45:06.340
Also, Hannah, Hannah, oh, my God, my little Margot Robbie.
06:45:11.040
You were just, like, the perfect little Barbie.
06:45:22.220
Oh, my God, my little cutie, little Christian girl.
06:45:28.800
I love that you have your little clothing business.
06:46:04.060
You are, like, just the cutest little felon ever.
06:46:23.900
If you can't see yourself marrying your high school partner, you don't think there's any.
06:46:31.320
People say as you grow older, you shouldn't focus on looks, but you personally, you want
06:46:37.420
It makes it harder for you to stay mad at them.
06:46:52.980
You said you weren't attracted to them, and it was so easy for you to stay mad at them.
06:46:59.840
I mean, I was super young back then, so that's also a lot what had to do with it, and I think
06:47:04.820
I was very insecure, so I thought they were the best I could do, but I think I've grown
06:47:11.260
But also, I still do think attraction matters a lot to me, and it is an important thing
06:47:19.420
Um, look, I think whether you're a man, you're a woman, I think women care about looks, men
06:47:24.720
care about looks, totally acceptable for both genders.
06:47:27.980
I actually don't have any issue with your position.
06:47:49.400
A little sassy Shay wants to, you know, be a little sassy.
06:48:20.620
She says she wanted to talk about, by the way, superficial.
06:48:23.520
She said she has some fire past sex locations, LMAO, like Taco Bell backshots.
06:48:46.960
Not to be rude, but that's, like, fucking, like, really gross.
06:49:00.720
Good for her, but that's just, like, Taco Bell is just dirty.
06:49:04.660
What are some other, like, chain Mexican restaurants?
06:49:24.080
She's forgetting about the El Pollo Loco back shots.
06:49:47.660
We're going to do, uh, we're going to lower the TTS.
06:49:57.060
You guys got, get these girls a slice of pizza.
06:50:14.140
It's just, we can't use the microwave as the issue because it interferes with the Wi-Fi.
06:50:29.540
Rub two pizzas together and just warm them up that way.
06:50:37.120
We're going to do $69 TTS if you guys want to get a roast and $69 TTS.
06:50:41.300
The girls are giving me daggers with their eyeballs because they're like, Brian, oh, my
06:51:26.500
Don't, don't, you know, save the big slices for you.
06:51:31.500
Wait, is that a piece of glitter on your mustache?
06:51:49.140
Okay, I'll have to go to the bathroom and fix it then.
06:52:00.840
You're talking about fucking glitter on my beard, lady.
06:52:08.540
Hey, Felicity, is that like a little hair grown from your mustache?
06:52:51.400
Okay, so this is a video of Brian's ex-girlfriend.
06:52:59.100
Would you bow for the perfect man if he asked you to?
06:54:20.600
Like, every time they walk through the door, I just bow.
06:54:51.720
So what does it say should wives in the Bible, right?
06:55:08.560
So if your husband said, hey, babe, I'd like you to bow for me, why would you not do it?
06:55:15.720
Well, I would hope that he wouldn't ask me that.
06:55:18.140
But if he did, I would have to if he was my husband.
06:55:22.360
But I don't feel like God is going to send me someone that's going to make me bow to him.
06:55:25.300
So God will only send you a husband where there's never any disagreements, where he just agrees with you 100% on everything?
06:55:35.480
I don't think the guy that God has for me is going to make me bow before him.
06:55:39.500
I think also it says submit to your husbands as Christ does the church.
06:55:47.560
And it also says that husbands should die for their wives as Christ died for the church.
06:56:01.200
I'm not sure about the submit to each other thing.
06:56:15.760
In the biblical marriage, does the husband submit to the wife?
06:56:22.880
Look, I'm not going to argue that specific theological point.
06:56:26.640
But from a Christian perspective, Christian worldview, the wife should be submissive to the husband.
06:56:35.340
It also says that if he asks you to do anything that goes against what God asks you, you're not allowed to go against what God says.
06:56:45.560
So if he's asking you to do something immoral, you wouldn't do that.
06:56:51.360
So he's supposed to have this positive view and, you know, only ask good things of you as God would the church.
06:57:00.860
Of course, whether it's biblical submission or even regular submission in a secular relationship, if your boyfriend or husband says, okay, well, I'm dominant.
06:58:05.940
Remember when Thin Brows wasn't your Caucasian when she refused to remove her makeup so you could get an Apple iPhone Air?
06:58:13.200
It was such an easy, simple act of kindness, too.
06:58:23.220
He was going to do an iPhone Air pop for me so I could buy an iPhone Air.
06:58:26.880
But then the girl wouldn't, like, do something that he asked, so he didn't do it.
06:58:37.340
She could have been the homie, but she wasn't the homie, so whatever.
06:58:49.020
As a Woodland Hills local and Valley homeboy, I've analyzed Chair 4's liberal sass.
06:58:57.740
Redirect all LA-304's to Fueroa Street for reprogramming.
06:59:58.020
If all of the panelists do this easy, simple, selfless act of kindness of removing all of their facial makeup, then Brian gets a free iPhone Air.
07:00:10.580
What if I just don't want Brian to get a free iPhone Air?
07:00:42.860
You're going to give us a kickback for taking off our makeup?
07:01:26.220
If you don't do the iPhone AirDrop, I'm going to have my homegirl here come to fucking
07:01:38.940
My homegirl here is a fucking repossession agent, son.
07:01:43.920
If he wants to give me the Lamborghini, I'll remove my makeup.
07:01:49.380
If he wants to pay us, I'll take off my makeup.
07:01:56.140
Pasty George, we're going to fucking repossess your fucking maple leaf.
07:02:07.780
We're going to take your hockey pucks, Pasty George.
07:02:32.600
Pasty George, you know how Diddy had like a hundred cans, a thousand cans of like baby
07:02:39.300
Pasty George has like stacks on stacks on stacks of maple syrup.
07:02:48.680
Pasty George, he loves that on breakfast, on lunch, on dinner.
07:02:54.100
Sometimes if he's having a bad day, he puts a little hair, he puts a little bit of maple
07:03:25.400
It doesn't include Felicity because she is not a panelist.
07:03:31.020
So if the other girls, once the TTS got lowered.
07:03:50.560
Thank you, Felicity, for pointing at fucking Sherlock Holmes over here, pointing out the
07:04:21.360
Well, like the Caucasian mountains in the Caucasian actually don't lie.
07:05:20.300
I would never say this, but I'll have to explain it.
07:05:31.340
Like, you could even say that to a white person, right?
07:05:34.820
For, like, a black person to say that to a white person.
07:06:13.680
What are you going to check my fucking 23 on me?
07:06:23.440
Because she doesn't want to be related to it all.
07:06:37.300
Don't think people understand what a billionaire is.
07:06:45.640
Most of you will be in debt for most of your life.
07:06:49.940
Chance of anyone getting to $1 million in the U.S. is 6%.
07:06:59.960
I know you sent in, like, a hundred a while ago.
07:07:04.960
I'm pretty sure I got it, but it was a bit delayed.
07:07:12.740
Brian, I don't like sports cars or expensive cars, remember?
07:07:17.700
Besides, I'd rather go canoeing on my reservations lake than drive an overpriced car.
07:07:23.600
However, I do like going skidooing and a-teeving.
07:07:43.720
These convos matter, cause modern datings is twisted.
07:07:47.580
We got to reevaluate politics, manners, culture, and figure out why things fell off.
07:08:20.920
Okay, Bree, we're going to blast through these.
07:08:35.320
You said that you've had a lot of clients try to date you.
07:08:38.440
You're a dating coach, professional matchmaker.
07:08:41.160
You said you worked with a matchmaker agency in OC, and there was one matchmaker.
07:08:49.100
They were dating multiple clients at the same time on the side, which is, I guess, against
07:08:57.460
She was supposed to be matching them with actual people, but she was just hooking up with
07:09:07.560
Some of the clients complained about her, and she was using her personal girlfriends
07:09:14.840
So, you're not supposed to charge the girls for matchmaking.
07:09:20.500
You know, what's actually interesting related to something we talked about earlier is the
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I think men are a bit more motivated when it comes to dating, relationship, sex, to the
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point that, like, I don't think any girls here, like, would pay money the same way men
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will pay money, whether it's sex, whether it's a matchmaker.
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Hey, do you want to recruit any of these girls?
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Yes, I'll point them all in the right direction.
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But it is interesting, like, women would never even think about spending this kind of money.
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And so, it's just interesting, the differences between-
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So, I should switch careers, is what you're saying?
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But yeah, you were talking about this girl who's, like, dating the dudes, whatever.
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She was supposed to pay him back, but when she, whatever, she dumped him and never paid him back, I guess.
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You talked, okay, young mom, toxic relationship.
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And then we talked a bit about your background, like Christian background, more like traditional family, so and so forth.
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Trying to see if, okay, I think that's pretty much it for your notes.
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Did you want to go in a little bit in detail in, like, the matchmaking stuff?
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Like, are there, how about, can I ask you a question?
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And she was like, she actually didn't like working with women because she said the women were, like, way too picky.
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Honestly, the women are the hardest to work with.
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They're actually pretty easygoing, even though they're powerful, affluent, have clout, and et cetera.
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And when you say that, like, just high expectations.
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And do you ever have to break it to a woman and be like, look, you're not going to get that kind of guy?
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But, like, so when a woman comes to you, like, do you ask her what she wants?
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You thoroughly interview the client, obviously, because they're the paying client.
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And then, yeah, of course, you have to also interview the female, you know, potential counterparts as well.
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And then based on those interviews, you know, and your, you know, expertise, intuition, et cetera, then that's how you make the matches.
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So what, I guess, like, would a girl, would a woman come to you and say, I'm a guy who's this tall, makes this much money, this kind of career, whatever, like, and do you ever have to tell the girl, be like, look, you're not going to get six foot three.
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Unrealistic ask for a woman is just, like, extremely wealthy.
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That's, you know, height is very important for most women.
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I mean, like, literally 90% of the women I work with are, like, I only want a guy who's, like, so that's hard, you know, to get them to agree to date, you know, guys that are not at a certain height.
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But, obviously, if they're a client of ours, then that's not typically an issue.
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For men, it's usually they're much, much, much older.
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And they don't want, they want women who are basically supermodel, beautiful, no kids.
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Certain eye color, certain hair color, certain skin.
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And, but they're not really working with that physically.
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I also once thought about taking flight lessons and buying a plane.
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There's, like, two or three more things super quick.
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Then we're, promise you guys, we're getting out of here soon.
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Won't linger long, but I want a quick thing on this.
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Do you guys think that women have equal rights to men in the USA?
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You guys said you think women don't have equal rights?
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Just what, I guess, what is the right that men have that women don't?
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It's not necessarily, it's not necessarily, like, well, okay.
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I guess maybe not right is the same word, but there's definitely not equal treatment.
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Like, even the Equal Rights Protection Act wouldn't get passed, and that has gone through many
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Like, making men and women literally equal in the Constitution.
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It's been tried a few times, but specifically during, like, civil rights movement in the
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I was going to say, like, isn't it Equal Rights of the 1960s or something like that?
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So, Equal Rights Act of 1965 and 1964, the voting ones, those were passed.
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But there was a specific one for women and men, and directly saying, like, in the Constitution,
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But you do realize that it's sort of an English practice, but when you refer to men, like, it's
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not, that's not actually, I know this might be hard to wrap it up, it's not actually gendered.
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Like, mankind, for example, that refers to all of men and women.
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It's, there is gendered language in there, and the point of it was to try to make it equal.
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Like, I know you said you don't think that exists.
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Okay, well, I mean, as far as the etymology of men, somebody could probably break this down
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I don't know if somebody's able to send in a TTS.
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But there is something with, like, men, the term men, or the term man, or mankind, more
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The point is, there are so many aspects of life where women and men are not equal.
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But treatment, if somebody's a jerk to you, that's not, like, government-enforced...
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Well, government isn't enforcing equal treatment, either.
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Like, I think we do have equal rights with men.
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But I feel like you're just saying, like, societally, we're still not equal to men.
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Like, the way we're looked at, just as, like, a whole society view, I feel like there's
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a lot more that men can do that we can't, or, like...
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I feel like women still get a lot more self-shame than men.
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I think we're looked at a lot more differently than men, I feel like.
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Like, I just feel like in aspects, I feel like women just have so much...
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I feel like there are less expectations on them.
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Like, men are praised for, like, having a lot of partners, for instance.
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Like, the more partners a man has, sort of, like, the more clout he has.
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But then, like, for a woman, it's, like, there's stigma around it.
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And also, like, men are praised for taking care of their baby.
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And then if they take a break, they're abandoning their child.
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Well, let's just, let's examine one thing at a time here.
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And we won't examine everything, obviously, just for the sake of time.
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The, like, the difference in, like, slut-shaming or whatever.
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I think neither men or women should be promiscuous.
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I don't think it's good on the individual level, whether you're men or women.
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I do think there are some differences between, clearly, differences between men and women as it relates to this, the potential impact of promiscuity on somebody.
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Women carry, just because women face the risk of pregnancy, I think there's a bit of a higher burden there.
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Like, if a woman is promiscuous, there is a potential higher risk there.
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But also, kind of more from a dating lens, it's actually kind of, it's, like, about the difficulty of it.
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It's kind of, like, hard for a guy to be a slut.
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Like, you take an average girl or even, like, an ugly, not to be mean or whatever, an ugly woman, she can be a massive slut.
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Not so sure, like, an ugly guy, like, who's otherwise average, the ugly woman who's otherwise average, she can be a massive slut.
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Ugly guy who's otherwise average, he can't be a slut.
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So, I think there's just a difference where it's, like, for women to get laid, you just kind of have to show up.
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Whereas for a guy to get laid, it actually takes, like, something, you know?
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Like, you have to have game, or if you lack game, you have to be good-looking.
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If you lack that, you have to be, and sometimes you can be an amalgamation, but you have to have status.
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But, like, look, I'm not, and there are, well, I was going to say there are average guys who are plowing through chicks or whatever, but he's probably got game.
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A woman can have no redeemable characteristics besides that she's just offering up pussy, and she can – I would actually argue this.
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I think an unattractive, average, unremarkable woman, she can get laid more than a top-tier guy.
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Well, it's sort of – it's like, well, why – what's the difference here?
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The reason why men get big-upped, yeah, man, that's dope, is because if something – like, for example, if you pat your head, that's easy to do.
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But what if it's difficult for somebody to do that?
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So there's a level of difficulty when it comes to getting laid that exists in men or some men that does not exist in women.
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If I walk up – and we've done this – I've actually done this experiment back in the day.
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I thought you're – I can even be, like, as tactful about it as one could be.
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Should we – after the show, do you want to have sex?
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I feel like y'all could go up to a – and by the way, I wasn't – that was just for the sake
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I wasn't actually rudely propositioning you guys.
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That's why it's – now, again, I don't think promiscuity is good in men.
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And especially what bothers me is these guys will lie to women.
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They'll – you girls can probably relate to this.
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Well, not signaling any of you out, but some dastardly thing guys will do is they'll tell
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the girl that he has, like, a more serious interest in her just so he can get laid, and
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They'll lie to the girl, and he has no interest.
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Now, look, some women are fine with casual sex.
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But there's definitely a component of guys misrepresenting their interest, making them
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seem like they want something more, but they don't.
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But they led you on to think that they wanted more.
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So, yeah, I don't think men should be promiscuous because no bueno.
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There were actually two constitutions in Canada.
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In the former one, the government had less control than it has now.
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Also, social spending was much better back then compared to today.
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We have another one coming in from Bug Pullout.
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Equal Rights Act 2020 added gender identity language.
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Well, I mean, obviously, you listed a bunch of things.
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I obviously don't have time to debate you on every single one of them.
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But I haven't actually heard a truly compelling way in which men possess rights that women don't.
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Is there anything you can point to super quick?
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Do you think, really quick then, do you think women are oppressed in the USA?
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Oppressed is too far, but I don't think we're equal.
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Do you think men are more privileged in society?
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I think, actually, women possess certain rights that men don't, and I actually would make the
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argument that in many metrics, like the worst life outcomes, men disproportionately occupy
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I feel like women always have to, like, prove...
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I guess, like, if we look at, like, the most negative outcomes in life, you look at homelessness,
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you look at suicidality, you look at workplace deaths, you look at violence, men are more
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Men are more likely to be victims of violent crime.
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For the sake of conversation, men are more likely to commit violent crimes.
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And, you know, if we look at education as a metric by which men or women can have it
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better, even at UCSB, the school you guys go to, I believe the breakdown is 60-40, something
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like that, 60% women, 40% men, women are much more.
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Ever since the 1980s, women have been more likely to go to college, graduate from college, get
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a college education, get a degree, if these are all metrics that in the past, when women
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have to, to get a job where men can, men can what?
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Men can get jobs easier because they don't have to prove themselves.
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People automatically assume men are going to be better at specific jobs.
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Um, women have to go to college to compete with men who are not college educated.
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She has to work harder to prove herself, especially in a male, demonstrate it, demonstrate it.
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So she, your, your position would be that she has to go to, I don't know if you have to
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go to med school for you, you do like a graduate program or whatever.
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So the, the guy who dropped out of city college gets her job, a clinical psychologist, or does
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she have to go do all the schooling to become a clinical psychologist harder to get the same
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When you take a test, does the professor be like, okay, here, um, here's a coloring book
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for all the men coloring the lines and the women, uh, here's like advanced, uh, here's
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like a 100 point, a hundred point multiple, multiple answer.
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Uh, the, the women get the hundred question, multiple choice questionnaire.
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You have a way of trying to just make arguments sound stupid when they're not.
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But if, if the metric, if the, and actually, well, I won't go there, but.
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If the metric is, uh, your, your argument is, well, the, the women have to work harder.
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You think the professors are just benevolently sexist towards men and they're like about college.
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Aside from the fact that women are more likely to go to college.
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So wouldn't this, wouldn't an extension of that, it wouldn't just be the workplace.
07:32:31.280
It would make sense to me that if women broadly have things harder, they have to work harder
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in, at a job, I would assume they have to work harder in college too.
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Again, I never let my, uh, I never let college get in the way of my education.
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Look, I'm fine with college sort of ish, but I, I don't think that college is necessarily
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an indicator of one's, uh, intelligence or one's capacity for knowledge or wisdom or
07:33:15.740
I don't have the proper, I don't have the 1230 AM and I don't have the proper bonafides.
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Uh, what would, if I graduated from UCSB, would that be, would what I'm saying matter more?
07:33:31.480
If I graduated from UCSB, would my, would I say hold more weight for you?
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If, if I graduated from Harvard, would what, what I'm saying here hold more weight?
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I mean, it's just making the show go on longer.
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I wish Rachel Wilson was on this show to put some of these delusional feministic panelists
07:34:09.780
in their place because they will always be bad faith with Brian because he is a man.
07:34:26.500
Let's just prove them wrong that it's not just because, because Brian is a man that you're
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Because that's, I was, I was actually ready to, I was ready to move on.
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I don't, I actually, and to be fair, I don't think she's refusing to answer the question
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because I don't think it has to do with the fact that I'm a man.
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To be fair to her, I don't think it's because I'm a man.
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I think if it was a woman arguing this, she'd probably be the same.
07:35:14.340
Um, if women can be sexist towards men, can, uh, people of color be sex or, excuse me,
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can people of color be racist towards white people?
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Like in a Hispanic person, be racist towards pale pasty white.
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Well, I'm just, I get, I understand there's different categories of racism, but I think
07:35:48.340
in the like common parlance, is that even a word?
07:35:51.200
Uh, I feel like it kind of, like, I feel like it's not comparable though.
07:35:55.900
Like obviously there is, and I feel like you have to make that clear.
07:35:58.920
Like there can, you can't be racist to white people, but not to the same degree of everyone
07:36:04.060
Well, are you talking systemic or just across the board?
07:36:06.160
You can't be systemic to, you can't, there can't be a systemic racism towards white people.
07:36:21.360
Well, how about like, for example, um, if we're talking about affirmative action in the
07:36:26.520
university system, so we've, we've often, often seen, um, that with the preferential
07:36:33.200
enrollment, for example, Asian Americans, uh, and I, well, are you, you're in, in the
07:36:41.820
UK, for example, are you like, uh, what's your ethnicity?
07:36:47.360
So they would, some in the UK, they would consider, consider Indian Asian, right?
07:36:51.580
I don't know if you would make that distinction, but we're South Asian.
07:36:56.520
Um, so I think this would actually, you would fall under this criteria at Harvard, um, in
07:37:01.620
order for you to, you're, you're like SAT scores, other metrics to be able to get into Harvard.
07:37:07.540
Um, it actually would be, uh, it has to be higher than a white person's.
07:37:14.300
And it also goes in a different direction though.
07:37:16.740
Um, you have to have higher SAT, way higher SATs than the black person or a Latino person
07:37:24.420
And so this was discrimination towards, uh, Asian people.
07:37:32.880
But if it's the case, for example, you say white people, um, if it's harder as a white
07:37:38.520
person to get into Harvard than it is for a Latino person or a black person, just, and
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Um, Harvard was doing preferential stuff with SAT scores.
07:37:55.920
Like I've seen people sue because of it, but I don't.
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But so would it then be like some sort of evidence if at Harvard, it was harder to get into Harvard
07:38:07.380
But that's not like the systemized race that I'm talking about.
07:38:10.820
It's not the scale compared to everyone else's though.
07:38:25.520
Like I'm just talking about like every, like Indians, like the white people colonized us
07:38:35.500
But I don't, that's never really happened to white people.
07:38:40.700
Well, you know the origination of the term slave?
07:38:50.520
Well, if you look at like the Muslim conquests into Europe, they absolutely took slaves.
07:38:57.340
But in like recent day, like in the past few like centuries.
07:39:01.240
When did they expel, like when, when was the, so the Muslims made it up to, was it
07:39:17.820
Because that's really what we truly learn about.
07:39:19.600
But then I would just turn this around at you and say, well, when was slavery ended?
07:39:23.020
Just because something happened a long time ago doesn't mean.
07:39:27.780
African-American slavery in the United States is more recent.
07:39:31.920
And like, so like, so in India too, we haven't even had, they haven't even had a hundred
07:39:37.600
I mean, I would point out that actually Western countries, which are a white majority actually
07:39:43.700
have ended slavery sooner than like other countries.
07:39:46.540
But I'm just saying like white people have never had that type of like oppression.
07:39:58.540
Other races have definitely enslaved white people.
07:40:02.600
And just to be clear, you know, the plight of African-Americans or at least their ancestors.
07:40:11.760
And the past few like centuries, it's still happened.
07:40:14.640
I realize that certain things are more in recent history.
07:40:18.900
Like for every, mostly all, every other race has been recent except for white people.
07:40:23.140
Slavery is not my field of expertise, but we do see that there's in fact, slavery still
07:40:31.700
And it's not white people who are enslaving people.
07:40:35.100
But I'm just saying like nothing of that, nothing has ever really happened to white people in
07:40:44.120
You know, I'm, again, this isn't my wheelhouse.
07:40:46.740
I do think that there might actually be some, some evidence that in say the past 200 years,
07:40:56.720
But anything like wide scale, like to the degree of every other race.
07:41:00.460
Right now there are more slaves than there ever were during the period of period of period
07:41:11.100
yeah wait grid you want to just sit down really quick because we're wrapping the show here so if
07:41:26.060
you want to do your do your little cameo do your little cameo grid uh why don't you do you want to
07:41:31.700
just felicity you want to scoot over one oh wait felicity you scoot over one and grid's taking
07:41:37.440
chair one oh uh have him go that way have him go that way but wait hold on um i don't want to no go
07:41:46.480
ahead go ahead come come sit um so we were talking about like can people of color be racist towards
07:41:53.840
well i'm just saying here i want to move off of i'd agree with you generally like white people have
07:41:59.320
certain uh like white people are the majority of the country perhaps they confer some benefits from
07:42:05.580
this but i'm when i'm talking about racism i want to and i acknowledge that there are systemic there
07:42:10.480
is systemic racism whatever um if a white person walks up to a black person and calls them the n-word
07:42:18.480
and then beats them up is that racism why are you thinking about it yeah of course right uh if a
07:42:24.860
black person walks up to a white person says i you you piece of shit white person beats them up is that
07:42:30.240
racism take a little longer on this answer this isn't systemic this is individual racism or do you
07:42:40.140
is that i mean adding the n-word to it is racist okay the black person calls them i'm not going to
07:42:46.700
say it but calls them the c-word and i understand that that doesn't carry as much weight as the n-word
07:42:52.420
well yeah that is but i said from the beginning like you can be racist towards white people but
07:42:57.700
it's not systemized racism but okay so here i'll remove the slur component because there's a
07:43:04.200
there certain slurs are more offensive than others uh black person walks up to a white person says
07:43:09.760
uh hey uh whitey or maybe i should not is that pro i don't know hey white per i don't like white
07:43:18.260
people boom punches them in the face yeah that's racist if if the black person did that did i say
07:43:24.180
the white person does it to the black person no you had it right yeah you were good yeah
07:43:29.180
so it's racist both ways yeah oh okay i just said there it's white people don't face systemized
07:43:36.140
oppression like systemized racism like all the other races though like i'm not saying i'm not denying it
07:43:40.720
but i think also like there's different levels to it and if uh can i if i were to go to india
07:43:48.200
and people there were like tolerant could there be systemic racism against white people in non
07:43:58.580
yes why why the hesitation like if i went to china and you still really understand well if i went if i
07:44:10.220
went to china and like what are my hopes of ever like infiltrating the ccp and like having any sort of
07:44:17.620
power in their government um like what as a as a white person in china you would agree that
07:44:25.480
chinese people are the majority people in china so what i don't have i don't have systemic power
07:44:32.180
in china i'm white chinese people have systemic power in fact i would argue actually america is quite
07:44:40.080
uh you can't own property uh yeah scooting to the table just sorry yeah you're good um yeah in china
07:44:47.600
you can't own property there's a lot of freedoms if you're you know if you live in america say that
07:44:52.780
systemized racism though you can't you can't vote in their elections you can't i would say that's
07:44:56.800
individual racism yeah if you wait in china if i'm in china yeah like that's still not systemized
07:45:01.740
racism because there's never been a period in that place where white people were oppressed
07:45:06.080
like wide scale well what what if okay how about this um the the chinese government passed a law that
07:45:14.060
only like native born chinese people can ever have a place in the and i don't know the immigrant i don't
07:45:20.940
know if you can like move to canada and become a canada you can move to china and become a citizen
07:45:25.500
but what if china passed a law and said hey even if you move here as a white person and we grant you
07:45:33.900
citizenship you can never uh have any role in government would that be systemic racism
07:45:38.980
i guess but that that's not existent anywhere in the world so it's just well hold on absolutely it
07:45:45.960
absolutely does absolutely you can't be you don't think asian countries are racist they're racist
07:45:53.100
against each other well i'm asian i'm right yeah i would know that yeah indians and the pakistanis the
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yeah angladesh i don't know that's somewhere over there uh you know that's more religion
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like indians and pakistanis that's well it's also nationality too they're different but a lot of it's
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rooted in religion religions are systems as well sure yeah i know but i'm just saying like indian
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and pakistanis it's not like yeah it's like countries are a thing it's like a lot of it is just because
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of religion that's why there's so much conflict between them well i mean you could take yeah you could
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take the chinese and the uh uigur the uigurs the uigurs and um and they're they're yeah and tibet i
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mean tibet taiwan um yeah you go a little further um chinese occupied mongolia they took um way back
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in the day i mean obviously this has been a few hundred years but they took slobs isn't there like
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a caste system in like india too like yeah um well i mean they expelled the seek right in india the
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seek no from afghan i don't know it's it's a little slightly north of there but they expelled the seeks
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are dope are like though i like the seeks yeah they got their little daggers and shit any seeks do
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we have any do we have any seeks in the chat w seeks um they're cool uh pretty badass but yeah i mean
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i don't know i you you can't envision like a like you look at latin america you look at africa you
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look at uh asia white people are the minority in all those places you don't think it's possible for
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white people to experience like systemic racism in the non-white majority countries don't don't forget
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the boar that's it right now oh in south africa i don't think it's very comparable to
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well i think minorities actually probably have more rights in the united states than like if
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you're a minority in any of these countries yeah it's true like for example you can be japanese oh
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yeah i honestly but also i'm not very educated about like all this like yeah i just know my wheelhouse
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either yeah but i'm just saying like i i always like i just in my opinion i just think you system
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my systematic racism can't be applied towards white people i'm not super educated on it i don't know how
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to work in other countries i just know in the western world just for the sake for the sake of convo i'd be
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willing to grant that in white majority countries this could be the case but how could it ever be the
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case in like in an asian dominated country or or like in africa they're black like i i don't really
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understand that but for example i actually think if a japanese person moves to the united states and
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become a citizen they become an american if i move to japan i don't know i don't even know if i can
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become a citizen never because i'm never gonna be japanese immigrants right now i don't know if i move
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to india and i've lived there for 20 years am i an indian i mean i don't think you'd honestly face
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a lot of racism in india well i'm not even asking that i'm just saying if i move to india do but do i
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become an indian no you have to go through the right steps no i'm saying i let's say i don't know the
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citizen if you can even do that but let's say you can if i become a citizen of india am i indian
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technically yes i mean by nationality but i like if i move to i mean i'm american but i'm indian i was
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born here so sure but i there would be a bit of a distinction here i'm talking like if if i'm
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but that's national if i moved to well if i moved even then though i don't know if i would
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like i can i can have a neighbor who's japanese korean vietnamese who's indian who's pakistani who's
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who's black who's whatever uh who's from uh costa rica who's from mexico whatever they can become
07:49:55.960
an american they can become an american i can't become if i move to mexico i'm not mexican and i like
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i become a citizen or whatever i'm not mexican i mean the perfect example my wife is chinese she
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is now an american citizen i can never become a chinese citizen ever yeah so it seems like almost
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like america's kind of super dope we are dope we are i feel like america's not quite as bad as people
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make it out to be you know so um i just don't understand like if i what what systemic power if i went
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to like nigeria what systemic power i don't know i honestly like in school i study mostly like
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systemic racism in the western world so i really cannot tell you what would be in asia africa and
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i really sure but i mean just you don't even need to be a study it or be an expert like isn't it just
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simply purely through reason through uh through reason through rationality through logic isn't it
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logically possible that in like hold on we're almost done hang tight hang tight almost done
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just hang tight i can't just wait just wait just wait just wait i'm so sorry i have a two-hour drive
07:51:09.140
hannah i'm wrapping so much i appreciate it 10 minutes 10 minutes hannah very rude hannah disappointed
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okay so uh i guess my final thing on this and i'll let the rest of the chats come through
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um i just if if the country's like majority uh japanese 99 japan's 99 japanese white people don't
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have any systemic power in these countries japanese people have systemic power in this country
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how could you not face potential systemic discrimination
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as a white person in a non-white majority country
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okay well i'll leave it i'll leave it there i'm just saying logically it's a good
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possible conversation to have but it's late to have yeah we'll let the chats come through
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sorry for the delay guys george donated 70 dollars care to asking the question if a brian
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a man if he went to college is a feministic shaming tactic pathetic
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i actually got a degree in psychology it was the worst money ever spent
07:52:14.260
nice uh okay yo uh pasty it was a shaming tactic but i'm not going to take it personally it is what
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it is uh thank you aloo aloo donated 69 dollars ain't no billionaires ever looked at chair force way oh
07:52:29.340
shit she's a mid-feminist transformer that brings nothing but high body count and stds what the
07:52:35.020
fuck the fucking cap hey be nice to my homegirl feminist motherfuckers oh wait she's not my caucasian
07:52:40.220
everyone you want to see the receipts actually yes after the show you can show me the receipts
07:52:45.300
i'll show you i want the proof um i'll show you why do i have to lie pasty george donated 70
07:52:53.860
dollars yes ethnic minorities can be racist to caucasians i am first nations korean not only have i
07:53:02.060
experienced racism but i have seen caucasians receive it too enough of the bulsh tea
07:53:08.100
oh i have a scenario i have a scenario um when barack obama was president let's say he didn't
07:53:15.600
want to hire a white janitor at the white house would that be would that be racist
07:53:21.740
yes okay and what if hmm how do i how about this uh okay well there's nothing to argue then
07:53:32.140
it would be it would be racist i guess yeah it would be systemic okay i mean multiple times
07:53:36.580
to me i think you can be racist to white people but it's not systemized racism like every other race
07:53:42.520
has gone to through and like the western world can i ask you a question how about this final one on
07:53:47.420
the race thing and then i'll move it off uh a black owned corporation say it's a big corporation
07:53:53.280
um we'll just say not multinational but we'll say that it's uh national so black owns company
07:54:01.560
black owned corporation black ceo black majority black maybe there's like a whatever
07:54:06.580
dole yeah we'll just say like in this hypothetical scenario there are like really successful um black
07:54:13.660
owned companies really successful black majority like uh the the executives black majority right
07:54:19.300
uh if they were like you know what we don't want to hire white people would that be systemic yes
07:54:26.780
every like no but would it be systemic no but it's a national company massive influence massive
07:54:34.380
system would that be racist what's the like what is like the definition of systematic well you use the
07:54:41.360
term so yeah well like i would think of a to me like honestly i haven't i learned about this maybe a
07:54:46.440
year or two ago but to me it's like like a wide scale movement and i feel like one company doing
07:54:54.440
that is in a wide scale obviously it's racist but it's not systematic to that type of scale
07:54:59.120
mythology well i would say there would have to be some some like broad broad system that enabled it
07:55:06.620
so in this case if there was like a broad hiring policy like for example if a major corporation
07:55:12.100
said we're not hiring black people would this be regular racism or would it be systemic racism
07:55:17.600
wait let's just have her i'm not like saying there's like different types i'm just saying like
07:55:24.400
and the generality of it like the racism against people of color have always been it's always been
07:55:29.400
systemized and white people in the western world have never been through a systemized racism like i'm
07:55:35.900
not i wouldn't say be like in different scenarios like oh that's systemized racism that's racism
07:55:40.280
i would just it is racism but i'm just saying are spanish people white
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okay so i mean there were massive amounts of uh like north african muslim conquests into uh
07:55:54.900
i don't know what the historical term for the region was into i guess modern day spain i don't know if
07:56:00.360
it was like anatolia or some shit back in the day into portugal uh these were um and there were
07:56:06.420
massive like hundreds centuries centuries centuries and uh yeah white people were absolutely uh
07:56:13.940
probably systematically oppressed by the uh muslim invaders into spain and portugal and then you see
07:56:20.400
this in like some of the uh more eastern around like even wasn't that a time where slaves were just
07:56:28.220
like normalized in general like every nation did that yeah go ahead yeah so let's say that we had a
07:56:34.380
system where she wanted a job and she wanted a job and she wanted a job and i was had a set of rules
07:56:42.340
in front of me that said i could only hire her with over any of these other ladies would that be
07:56:49.080
systemic racism based on a race by the way just look i'm just saying the racism that people of color face
07:56:55.580
is systemized racism i'm not going to be like in every different scenario it's just it's well because
07:57:00.720
i've said this like so many times you just kind of keep asking in different ways right but but we
07:57:05.200
have that system currently it's called dei well didn't didn't trump take it away that's most of
07:57:12.900
it's gone yeah not all of it so we don't have it it's still kind of remaining in the corporation
07:57:16.560
it is it is um just for to be fair to the panelists i do have to move it off of the race
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sure sure uh we're gonna let the chats come through then i'll get you guys out walker donated
07:57:26.060
69 get these girls more pizza just a million if they want if you want pizza we got you
07:57:31.360
you dumb bimbo of course you would never call them out bc they are black and black people can't be
07:57:37.420
racist in your racist world view grow up oh shit uh thank you man appreciate it all right we have
07:57:44.740
a pasty george here oh shit nay pasty's gonna make the next cameo pasty george donated 70
07:57:51.520
dollars grid one is that really you he should have sent you look great man what a surprise i have
07:57:57.720
glasses and wear a black cat oh shit you guys are homies nice yo pasty uh by the way something's
07:58:04.360
coming up but uh thank you pasty george we have one from british east india company
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british east india company donated 69 dollars two more following india's independence in 1947
07:58:20.820
the treatment of anglo-indians shifted from a privileged position under british rule to a
07:58:26.120
marginalized one as the community faced suspicion and resentment
07:58:30.120
yeah true uh thank you uh thank you for that appreciate it british east india company oh my god
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yo wait pasty pasty george donated one thousand dollars this is for you appearance by grid one
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motorsports thank you brave and a decent man he's a pioneer uh pasty um i don't know if you want to
07:58:55.360
send in one final chat because it's the end of the show i can't do a champagne pop because i need to
07:58:59.620
get everybody out pasty can are you fine if i just save it for i'll do the champagne pop next
07:59:04.480
sunday if you're fine with it yeah i don't drink anyway so okay yeah uh thank you pasty though guys
07:59:09.300
w's in the chat for pasty what a fucking legend barrier wisdom donated 69 dollars so racism changes
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by zip code now hates hate you don't need a system to be ignorant chair three please don't major in
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sociology don't buy that school taught propaganda open your eyes to reality
07:59:29.060
even if we go ahead and grant that there is systemic racism in white majority countries wouldn't
07:59:36.600
the logical extension have to be that there's systemic uh systemic racism towards non-white
07:59:43.060
people in not white non-white countries like i just think that's logically consistent
07:59:47.720
in fact you could even argue that minorities minorities in white countries they're treated
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better than white people are treated in non-white countries
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i mean right now i mean i don't know i really don't know how it is in the rest of the world i
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haven't done any research or anything like for example um look there's crimes that happen in all
08:00:13.220
sorts of countries but i believe in certain i don't want to use like some kind of like out out
08:00:21.040
there woozy-wazy thing but like for example if you're a white person in certain african countries
08:00:25.300
like they'll just kill you a white person in south africa no not in south in there's certain african
08:00:33.700
uh african countries that uh molly is one they'll even do this to like for example if you're
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i feel like hate crimes are everywhere i know black person there's like some witchcraft shit voodoo
08:00:45.520
shit they'll kill black albinos i don't know because they're like oh the i know that sounds
08:00:52.440
crazy but it's actually true and it's such a random i shouldn't even have gone there i mean it's an
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interesting fact yeah it's that's i probably should it's just like an exception kind of argument
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probably shouldn't have made it kieran marken question for chair three who did the white slave
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traders buy slaves from in africa i never said there's never been like a person of color
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on person of color like i've never said there wasn't that i just said i never like ever said
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deny that ever okay um all right well uh okay we're gonna get this all wrapped up here let me
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hey thanks for having me on i appreciate the cameo man it was good to finally meet you man it's been
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this is like two three years in the works sure um are women just as physically strong as men
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anybody how about five final one i swear i promise i promise are women the primary victims
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of war okay are women the primary i swear i'm sorry am i being a goblin yes you like actually
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really freaking are oh my gosh shay i thought we were cool i have a flight to catch i know i'm
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wrapping so i have an 8 a.m all right tell you what if you guys are down we'll run it back we'll
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run it back okay anyways i'll wrap the show all right gg well played gg well played are we forgetting
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anything nick are we good i think i think we're good i yeah we're good all right gg well played guys
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to the wonderful panel i know we went a bit late but you guys were you guys were dope it was very fun
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talking to you um i had a i had a good time i don't know about the rest i don't know about them but
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okay um i do appreciate you guys for coming on you guys were very very cool thank you we will be
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he's been he's pretty he goes back to like 2023 i think is when you first episode 30 episode 30
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you didn't drop a tts during the show i was thinking about you should have that would be
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that would have been like really rude and everybody was like it'd be legend to actually drop that would
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be funny at least once so we hear the little the race car sound effects that would be cool
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uh well next time maybe next show you can just uh yeah next time in california but yeah it was
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my pleasure thank you for coming man thank you everybody else for coming all right uh oh sevens
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in the chat good night guys good night guys and we will see you guys next time good night