00:21:37.720I'm Tanika. I'm over 40. I'm a grandmother, a massage therapist, a singer, a writer, a dancer, a content creator, a government agency worker, resource community, community resource provider, and soon to be music therapist.
00:21:55.820All right. And where are you from? Did you say that?
00:28:40.460Aiding and abetting, which is treason, aiding and abetting, trying to stop an election proceeding, which is treason, civil disorder, and then I had six misdemeanors.
00:28:49.960So I don't remember, because I was so traumatized, honestly, at the time, I didn't really study the charges.
00:28:55.360And so you had a lawyer, I'm assuming?
00:28:57.360and initially when i first uh was arrested i had a public defender and i made bail when i met when
00:29:05.420i made bail i went the next day to pay it and washington decided that i was a danger to society
00:29:11.220so they revoked my bail as i went to go pay my bail they kidnapped me and um essentially i was
00:29:18.880kidnapped and incarcerated for a month so nobody knew where i was they were flying me around on
00:29:24.960con air and um oh so you were being shifted between different detention facilities yes
00:29:30.040now how long were you uh in detention for or in jail okay five weeks five in total yeah without
00:29:37.240being able to the first three weeks unable to contact anyone my friends were calling around
00:29:42.820where is she my clients had no idea where i was wow i didn't know where i was the uh i couldn't
00:29:48.520believe where i was the eventual disposition you you were found now i understand that trump
00:29:54.020pardoned everybody correct but you were found at that time uh guilty of what what were you
00:29:59.860treason treason wow right what a patriot so what a patriot unfortunately there was a lot of
00:30:06.700misconceptions um i'm being called a fed and but unfortunately i was um incarcerated and my family
00:30:15.180hired a mobster attorney that was a criminal attorney that was a rhino who hated trump and
00:30:22.180And he was having a very deep relationship with the prosecutor, and he was telling her she's going to cooperate, and he never even asked me.0.62
00:30:32.620So the whole time I was incarcerated, not once did he contact me.
01:00:43.100And so they kidnapped me because he had made false allegations to DHS after, like, obviously he's this awful person and they have documentation of that.
01:00:53.820um he said that they like my kids were obviously in danger or something so they sent the DHS and
01:01:01.940the sheriffs to my house and my kids weren't home and the sheriff deputy he ended up arresting me
01:01:08.180right there for obstruction in my own house and then when I was at the jail I'm like I'm trying
01:01:14.300to bond out and she's like you don't even have a charge I don't know why you're here and I was
01:01:18.860like you need like help me they can because i've been to jail and i'm like they cannot me um and
01:01:24.640then they said that they would drop my case if i apologize to the deputy um and so i pled guilty0.85
01:01:30.940what small town shit um the guy you're currently you said you're single yeah i'm single but i was0.94
01:01:37.140in like a situationship um but he was a cheater yeah you wrote situationship slash complicated0.99
01:01:42.760did. Prop the door open all the way, but you're not seeing him anymore. When's the last time you
01:01:50.240saw him? On the way here. And you, what? But not like that. Like two days ago? Four. But not like
01:02:00.800that. What you mean when you say not like that, you mean sex? Yeah, no, I did not have sex with
01:09:22.620If they're a Muslim or Islamic, I would like to say that they practice things in other countries that I think are despicable that Brian said we shouldn't talk about during the show.1.00
01:30:54.980A lot of things you love are bad for you.
01:30:58.520for you cake i think everything's bad at this point in life wait what was the question i forgot
01:31:03.460there's another question over here she just had to you just had to bring that up just had to bring0.96
01:31:10.240it up i try not to talk the question was do you like your ass ate i love it i knew it's a good1.00
01:31:15.440conversation with women in the room you know but look don't make it don't don't get it twisted0.99
01:31:20.940what the heck was that oh um that's fine oh just like you know that it's 656 just silence it if
01:31:27.960Yeah, it's just, look, the goal is to make the woman come before you, preferably multiple times, if she's able to do that, but without doing that.0.99
01:56:46.860Yeah, I think, you know, there's something called grace.
01:56:50.740And maybe the person that Gina wants to manifest also had a past, also has found the Lord, and doesn't look at the things the way typical men would look.
01:57:01.420Maybe they've had so much fun that they would rather have someone complimenting their life as a companion, and sex is not their most important thing.
01:57:24.160But what you'll find, and this differs a bit when it comes to people who are religious, where they both have a desire to perhaps attempt to wait for marriage.
01:57:33.280But like in a more, this phenomenon will occur even like among non-religious women.
01:57:39.760So you'll have a woman one week who gets cracked by just some random dude, and then she comes across, like literally it can be even concurrent, consecutive.
01:57:49.400And then another guy comes along who she marks as, ooh, this guy's like potentially long-term material.
01:57:58.060She might actually withhold the sex from him, and it's not even like a genuine standard that she has.
02:46:16.400Of course you'd want to America's dope. Of course you'd want to come here.
02:46:20.540However, from the citizenry perspective of America, from the law enforcement perspective of America, we should also deport them, right?1.00
02:46:31.300So I guess I'm not asking for your understanding of why they come here, but them being here illegally, what should we do with them is the question.0.99
02:46:42.300you know that's that puts me between a rock and a hard place as somebody who has a father of their1.00
02:46:46.760children who's here illegally like so that does kind of mine is too and he tried to murder me1.00
02:46:52.520i have a little bit of like a what i want my my ex-husband to be deported considering he's the
02:46:57.960father of my kids sure how about this legally because he's helping hold on stop let let's
02:47:05.080make this super simple let's say he gets uh he's allowed to stay but all the rest have to go how
02:47:10.660about that or just say you don't have kids with an illegal immigrant that's hard but that's okay
02:47:24.260well yes or no isn't he legal now though right because you're married to him doesn't that make0.59
02:47:28.800him legal and he's working with the government illegal he committed a felony he can never get
02:47:32.140his green card so he can never get his green card um okay everyone gets i see what you're saying
02:47:38.740And that has nothing to do with him, so I see why you're putting that point in there.
02:47:41.840But I'm just going to say that, like, I'm not against it enough to say everybody has to get deported.
02:49:16.260Slaves partially built the country.1.00
02:49:17.800Like, I don't know, like, who, most of the people who build any building that you're going to be in or step in is most likely been, like, physically built properly by an immigrant.1.00
02:49:36.080Okay, so you're talking about buildings.0.99
02:49:37.520Yes, I'm talking about, like, actually building things.
02:49:42.160Okay, but so the reason that is partially is because when you can hire someone legally and, you know, they're willing to work for a lower wage, that's going to drive the actual, like, citizen tradesmen out of those jobs because they charge a higher rate.0.96
02:49:58.580And they can't compete against these illegal immigrants who are more than happy to be paid like less than, you know, what a typical going salary for that sort of thing would be.0.95
02:50:08.880But even that aside, they are here illegally.1.00
02:50:11.760They're breaking the law just by virtue of them being here illegally or having crossed the border illegally.0.98
02:54:37.540people are putting off it's one of the factors why i mean it's many factors why people are not
02:54:43.520like getting married and having kids it's just financially and economically a total clusterfuck
02:54:48.940so i think one of the ways we can address that sort of secondary issue is make it easier to
02:54:55.480cheaper to rent or own a house uh but yeah rent is crazy you should not be having throwing so much
02:55:03.440of your income towards rent and we can drive that down massively by freeing up 10 million pieces of1.00
02:55:10.180housing stock in this country thank god my rent is cheap because i have foreigners living with me0.99
02:55:15.220so it makes my rent much cheaper okay marry them you're getting houses in san jose for a house is1.00
02:55:22.200like five thousand but i see your point i just want to tell you that i hear your point and i see0.98
02:55:25.980your point i don't necessarily feel the same way simply because i love fucking foreigners i don't0.98
02:55:34.020not literally fucking foreigners i fucking love foreigners yeah wait wait one thing i hear what1.00
02:55:41.160you're saying yes i love you're saying no i love mexicans right mexicans are fucking dope they're0.99
02:55:46.740cool people uh however we we have to balance like this isn't this this has nothing to do with like0.95
02:55:53.560racial animosity or anything love mexicans i get it i love i i'm a big mexicans are very cool
02:56:00.900they can be cool visiting or in their country and uh but but are you saying just mexicans
02:56:07.780being important just for example just everybody asking i was like wait it could be anywhere from
02:56:13.960south america it could be people who've come from illegally from pakistan or india or russia
02:56:19.040or anywhere they could be white they could be white but because they're here illegally you
02:56:24.520just want them not here right yes they've gone through the legal process and they've done it0.57
02:56:28.540legally you don't mind them being here wait sorry what's that i'm talking i'm talking about the0.99
02:56:32.440legal immigrants right however i i am okay with limiting the amount of legal immigrants also
02:56:39.420i i mean this is completely coherent we have we have a lot of people in this country and um
02:56:47.320And I think I am okay with also limiting, not completely doing away with, legal immigration also.
02:56:56.140Because, I mean, look, for example, if we were to just, say we were to make, in order to become a legal immigrant, you just had to, like, cross the border and be like, sign one piece of paper and then you become a legal immigrant.
02:57:11.060All those other factors, so, I mean, we could, it is more complicated.
02:57:16.920I understand. No, I understand that. But this idea that just because they're doing it legally means that it's necessarily desirable to have like high influx of immigrants, period.
02:57:30.080So if you want it to be limiting, what would be your stipulations for having them having it be limited?0.94
02:57:37.040Yeah, I mean, there can be some bona fide reasons for legal immigration.
02:57:42.520I would say one of the big things is they need to be in a good place financially if they want to come here, and they need to be prepared to – typically, I mean, I'd like to see highly intelligent people immigrating here.1.00
02:57:57.380I want to do as much brain drain from these other nations as possible to a degree.1.00
02:58:02.160I don't want them like completely gigafucked so like they're all – their entire country is retarded.1.00
02:58:06.860Can we deport the highly unintelligent people here that are citizens then?1.00
03:03:09.360Um, so, so is the question, is the question drafting itself or is the question war period, just the war? Okay. So that's different. That's different. Are we voting on whether or not you can be drafted or, uh, or are we voting on the, like, I don't understand. I was talking about a voting issue.
03:03:27.080If only draftees can be men and draftees will be sent to war, then women should not have a say on, like, if we go to war or not.0.57
03:03:36.560But only draftees are not sent to war.0.80
03:20:32.980So in terms of a man having a say, men will eventually, while it is true, of course, men can't get pregnant, don't get pregnant, don't go through the pregnancy.
03:20:45.340Are you going to bring up the artificial uterus?
03:20:46.880No, I was simply going to say that there are downstream legal, financial, other considerations that men may have as it relates to, yes, that woman's pregnancy.
03:21:00.600So, for example, perhaps then you would have to concede that you would have to make an allowance for if you're going to allow some women to have.
03:21:11.580I did just have a thought that I actually haven't thought before.0.91
03:21:14.220And it's like, if you, if the vote is pro-life, then I guess, then it would just be women.
03:21:21.980But maybe, I guess if it ends up being pro-choice, then the men would be more involved.
03:21:28.360Like, because then there would be children, like, you know what I mean?0.68
03:21:34.420Okay, well, I was simply just going to say that in terms of men having, being invested in it,
03:21:42.040And obviously, if they don't want the abortion or if they're fine with it, or, well, if they do want the abortion, say, but the woman doesn't, that man will then be on the hook for 18 years of child support where he otherwise did not want.
03:21:58.000So, anyways, can you read this one for us?
03:22:01.620Your body, your choice, your responsibility with great power to unilaterally decide if child is even born or not comes great responsibility to unilaterally take care of the child.
03:22:11.780It's not the man's nor the government's responsibility.
04:08:16.920But when you date a woman and a woman is timid and insecure and won't eat and is constantly looking at her appearance versus a girl who just thinks she looks amazing, is willing to dance, is really, it's probably amazing in bed.0.88
04:08:35.160And it does affect how a man experiences a woman.0.62
04:08:37.860Here's the cope. Here's the cope is you want to make it out to be like those beautiful women, they are suffering from like severe insecurity. And the women who are perhaps not necessarily at their peak or, you know, at the ultimate level that they could be in terms of their body or face, that these women are like overly confident and the true, genuine beautiful women, no offense.
04:09:07.860uh these women are of course insecure or it could be the case that the woman could be like true
04:09:14.800genuine beauty and have a corresponding the same corresponding level of confidence in that scenario1.00
04:09:21.940um the man is still going to prefer the woman who's beautiful and doesn't have like major body1.00
04:09:29.840image issues no i'm not talking about the the other side where these women are overly confident
04:09:34.900and think that they're in their own delusions you did rate yourself a 10 no i i actually didn't my
04:09:41.360friend did and i'm like fine but i because i so but but i think it's an unfair comparison to say
04:09:46.580well here you know what maybe like from a purely looks perspective body face maybe i'm not like a
04:09:53.620giga stacy i maybe i'm not like 10 out of 10 victoria's secret supermodel but i'm very confident
04:09:59.720and that's going to translate to being comfortable in the bedroom and being sexual and sexy and
04:10:05.380sensual and all this stuff that all might be true. But what you're doing is you're saying,
04:10:10.240well, the, the other women who say that they, you're saying, would you rather be with like
04:10:18.680a woman who's super, super actually beautiful, but she's really insecure versus me? Who's like,0.98
04:10:24.360say not you but like an average woman but she's super confident well that's like a false dichotomy1.00
04:10:31.520there are women who are insanely beautiful who well i don't know what okay there are women who
04:10:37.960are insanely beautiful who don't have body image issues okay but if you're putting all the value
04:10:43.440on how a woman looks i'm putting some okay no but it sounds like you're putting a lot of value
04:10:49.460Because, again, if you're wired to get the hottest woman and have the clout and contribute to your hookup body count, that's one thing.
04:11:04.860I do think it's fair to quickly address that point.
04:11:07.240The idea that it is somehow some deficiency or pathologically, psychologically incorrect for a man to want to, not saying he can necessarily get, but want to get the most beautiful woman he can, as if that is somehow incorrect to do.
04:11:28.900much in the same way that women also want to get the most attractive man they can get,
04:11:35.580of course, considering the other things that both men and women care about.
04:11:39.280There's nothing wrong with the push towards wanting an attractive person.
04:20:43.160But you're like, Brian, I forgot the exact framing, but you were hinting at, Brian, you're lacking in masculinity because you choose among the women who've demonstrated high levels of interest in you.
04:20:56.800Well, that was before you went into how you're dating was before the podcast, and I think you have some valid points, and I think it's a mess for both sides.
04:21:04.240I think men and women are often dating multiple people at once.
04:21:08.720It's really hard to take each other seriously.
04:21:11.900I do agree with you that, first of all, and to just flip it, when I was on the dating apps,
04:21:19.680and I had a lot of success with them because I knew how to handle them, and that's what I actually taught classes on.
04:21:26.080Just like with the Bumble and the high, high, high, high, high, when a guy writes to a girl and actually reads what she writes in her profile,
04:21:35.660doesn't just like her picture, a girl also pays attention to that.
04:24:05.800The reality is that once, and look, I'm not saying I'm anything special.
04:24:11.500I'm getting a level of attention from women that basically average women get from men.0.89
04:24:17.840Like, average women who have fucking 300 followers on Instagram who are nobodies are going to get, like, this level of romantic or sexual pursuit by men.0.78
04:24:29.560So I'm basically, like, the equivalent – I'm basically, like, if I was a chick, in terms of the attention I get from women, I'm basically a three.0.91
04:24:36.720Like, that's the level – like, well, there's a difference, right?
04:24:40.860But so from my perspective, though, why and look, to be clear.
04:24:47.480In the past year, like even when I've gotten DMs, if there's a girl who I'm interested in, I'm not saying I'd never shoot my shot.
04:24:56.960I'll still shoot my shot. I'll still take the initiative.
04:25:00.460It's not like I'm only I'm I'm not only sourcing from the women who in the past three, four years, whatever, have come to me.
04:34:04.020That's not exactly your half right.0.99
04:34:06.920So, yes, I do prefer a traditional dynamic with a woman.0.95
04:34:09.800i prefer uh i do prefer her to be submissive so if i'm with a woman long term she's never0.81
04:34:17.820gonna have to work everything's gonna be taken care of i'm paying all the bills and i and i'm
04:34:25.060going i i'm very decisive i will i will lead that relationship uh however so there's a difference
04:34:32.440between like what in practice i do in my individual relationships and how i observe0.85
04:34:39.220like the social and cultural landscape so what i see is there are definitely traditional women
04:34:44.680out there there and by the way like i feel like being traditional is it's not like a on off switch
04:34:52.800or it's not like completely black or white like i have premarital sex so it's like well okay brian0.94
04:34:58.080you want to have sex with women before marriage i don't want to get married so that's going to like0.59
04:35:02.720put me further away from like a very very strict definition of like what we mean by traditional0.97
04:35:08.820but in terms of like the roles between myself and a woman i'm going to be paying for everything
04:35:15.240she's never going to have to like this is a girl who i'm with long term right
04:35:19.300and we have kids she's never going to need a job everything's going to be taken care of
04:35:24.560um so there's that um trying to think what the other component here is uh
04:35:32.520so you wouldn't say that's chivalrous well so that's responsibility what i'm saying is
04:35:38.880i think that on an individual level i can have components of chivalry but i think you can be a
04:35:47.820provider in a relationship absent chivalry perhaps like you might frame that as chivalrous or
04:35:54.600whatever i guess what i would say as it relates to this though i think when we're thinking of
04:36:00.000chivalry i'm doing a sort of not just me brian but like a sort of society-wide criticism of
04:36:07.840our and i have criticisms of men are women holding up their traditional uh expectations i would say
04:36:17.400broadly speaking no now there are women who are traditional but are women deserving of chivalry0.92
04:36:24.640broadly speaking given the landscape in the united states abso-fucking-lutely not now you0.99
04:36:32.720might still get it like you could be a stripper a sex worker a prostitute and guys will still pay0.96
04:36:37.940for your date and do those chivalrous things that's not chivalry it's part of chivalry but0.90
04:36:43.440from a bird's eye birds exactly bird's eye view down perspective a bird's eye perspective i look0.69
04:36:49.300at what's going on and it's like women are not traditional but they expect men to be traditional
04:36:55.180that's a raw deal for men the women don't deserve it they might still get it because
04:36:59.960when it comes to when it comes to dating men want to do the most optimal thing so1.00
04:37:05.760the most optimal thing is to like pay this debate over who should pay the most optimum thing even1.00
04:37:12.780if she's a fucking leftist libtard feminist pay for the date because even some of these feminist1.00
04:37:17.780women they're not about the 50 50 confusingly enough so yes the most optimum move is to pay1.00
04:37:26.260for dates does the woman deserve it fuck no well that's why i would say don't take women0.99
04:37:32.400to expensive dinners especially on a first date just take them for coffee i don't even deserve1.00
04:37:37.120coffee oh well if you don't think a woman deserves the woman you're going on with don't deserve
04:37:41.300coffee to be paid for what do you deem undeserving right okay that's chivalry what do you deem pulling
04:37:49.660your chair out that's opening the door we have to separate we have to separate my behavior in
04:37:55.780the context of a relationship with a woman who meets my standards and who i've assessed does
04:38:01.740fall into a category of woman who i think is deserving of that sort of treatment and what i
04:38:08.740see out there in terms of uh let's say how women not all women but a lot of women are moving so
04:38:17.060let me ask you do you think a sex worker deserves chivalry um well if she's a woman if she's not
04:38:23.280coming as a sex worker on a date no so she's um she say she's an only fans girl but this is a
04:38:29.080genuine interest in dating this guy does she deserve chivalry yes everyone there we go you're
04:38:34.000feminist you're not conservative what the hell i'm just decency towards women i don't know what0.70
04:38:39.320decency how is it wait i don't understand i don't a woman's more like act like a man
04:38:43.640so so feminine roles gender roles for men regardless of scenario in all instances
04:38:52.240regardless of you don't think a woman needs to be uh emblematic what i will say and i and i think0.90
04:38:59.220this, and I tell this to women all the time, women sometimes come with a sense of entitlement
04:39:04.200on dates. They don't even say thank you. They have this expectation that men should spend0.98
04:39:08.660a fortune on dinner. And I think that's wrong. And I think that does take advantage of men
04:39:13.980and it leaves a very bad taste. But you have an expectation yourself. Well, of course I
04:39:19.360have standards like everybody else. But so you're entitled then is what you're saying.
04:39:22.360I don't feel, when I was dating, my standards were, if I'm interested enough in a man to give him my time, we can go for a 20-minute coffee date.
04:39:47.040So you're saying, look, I guess I agree with you in the part about, like, it's okay for women to want men to do these chivalrous acts or to be providers and protectors.0.63
04:39:57.520The entitlements can definitely be an issue where a woman wants to make a big stink about it and, like, preemptively have, like, some attitude or entitlement.0.72
04:40:06.780uh, even a man who's inclined to be a provider, the entitlement component, even if he's a hundred
04:40:12.220percent willing to do the behavior in which the woman wants, if she comes with an attitude and
04:40:17.380is entitled, that's an issue, but that's not what we're really talking about. Your position is0.98
04:40:22.000women. There's no standard for women, women. You can act however you want and you still deserve1.00
04:40:28.320the chivalry. That was your point. That was literally what you said. No, you said, does a
04:40:32.500sex worker deserves chivalry which which would be like the hold on which would be the biggest
04:40:36.540manifestation of lacking of traditional values does it so does a pimp deserve loyalty i don't0.98
04:40:42.260understand does she deserve to be degraded does it no no no no you're you're very tricky you know
04:40:49.100you think you're clever here you smuggle in a lot of things so no no no she's smuggled here's what
04:40:54.980she does so tell me not not receiving chivalry here's what you do like me so you want to it's
04:41:01.680sort of a straw man so you smuggle in oh you you want women to be degraded is there a scenario in
04:41:08.060which a guy could go on a date with a woman and it's 50 50 and she's not degraded i don't know i'm
04:41:13.380not i'm not for him i'm not for a man going 50 50 okay but if let's assume in a situation where0.98
04:41:19.380she but a woman should always offer i don't like women who are entitled but is it degrading to a
04:41:24.420woman to go 50 50 on a dinner i i won't use the word degrading that's their choice i'm just saying0.98
04:41:29.400that's what you're smuggling it you're smuggling in the word degrading never did she or did she
04:41:34.960not use the word degrade or degrading oh no when i said when a woman does not get what she's not
04:41:40.380regarding to chivalry not receiving chivalry isn't an implication of receiving um yes so so a woman
04:41:48.480can date a man and there can be like it can be like a completely egalitarian maybe oh a man and
04:41:55.000woman say you have like true true blue egalitarians she's an egalitarian he's an egalitarian they're
04:42:02.500both polite respectful people the man does not pay on the date that wouldn't be degradation
04:42:08.580that wouldn't be degrading that's degradation and that if that works for them that works for you
04:42:12.300that was the implication of what you were saying i didn't really understand what you were asking me1.00
04:42:17.840i thought you were asking me if a what if a sex worker goes on a date does she not does she deserve0.98
04:42:22.900chivalry and my answer was yes right but that doesn't mean i have a counter question if she's
04:42:27.620not i'm not saying hold on you can be respectful and kind and yeah um that's treat someone well
04:42:35.140yeah absent chivalry chivalry is another layer above that okay so you and i do not have a
04:42:42.120connection on what chivalry is because those things that you just mentioned
04:43:02.360Right, so men can be polite and respectful to women absent chivalry.
04:43:08.300Okay, so how are you defining chivalry?
04:43:09.760So this would be like a one-directional treatment that women receive and men give.
04:43:15.020So this would be things like opening the car door, pulling her seat back to let her on, observing the sidewalk rule where you walk closer to the road, paying for the date, being like sort of, I don't know if leading necessarily falls under chivalry.0.64
04:43:32.120That would be more just masculine gender role.
04:44:42.400I don't have an objection to me doing these specific actions related to chivalry or as you might categorize as chivalry with the woman I'm dating.1.00
04:44:54.340I'm saying as a social commentator, what I see on the dating landscape is I think women move in a certain way that is unbecoming of a lady.0.94
04:45:04.640And ladies or women who are not ladies do not deserve chivalry.0.77
04:45:10.440Now, I'm not saying that if the woman, say, she's a sex worker, does only fans or, you know, she's not traditional, you should you should still be respectful.
04:45:23.880That doesn't mean you get to abuse her because no.
04:45:26.520However, these additional things that are associated with traditional gender roles, women need to uphold their traditional gender roles to, from my perspective, be deserving of the male traditional gender role treatment.0.89
04:45:41.700Your position is women can do whatever they want, and men should still be chivalrous.
04:45:46.620I've never said that, and I feel like your blanket statements actually hurt everybody.0.99
04:51:39.040When you are doing your dating profiles for men and women, the first picture should always be looking straight at the camera and smiling.
04:51:46.420No, that's not what I'm talking about.
04:51:48.100I think we should get rid of dating apps.
04:51:49.440But part of that, part of people who subliminally choose certain pictures, there's a whole psychology behind it.
04:51:55.880And if you are choosing pictures where you're with your sunglasses or posing or you're looking away, that's telling the world you're not honest.
04:52:18.940I'm asking if, okay, if we can say men should provide, men should pay on first dates, men should protect, men should do X, Y, Z, what are we allowed to say women should?0.73
05:13:49.420Okay, about, I wanted to say that women do want to, look, I chose a profession, psychotherapy, where I could also be a mom and somewhat of a traditional wife.
05:14:04.280I understand that there's a lot of women who believe career is more important than family, and then they have regret, you know, when they're 35, 40, that maybe they should have done something differently.
05:24:10.840the mother's the first teacher the mother's the first feeder the mother's essentially god to an
05:24:17.060infant okay so raising you have to feed the man can't feed the baby right and if we're the if
05:24:25.600the woman is the the natural nurturer if the woman is the natural nurturer we're providing
05:24:31.900nurture to the man then we have to provide that same nurture to the children and it takes a
05:24:36.640significant amount of time i was taught that the woman the mother should stay with the children
05:24:42.640at least until the age of five six when they start to enter regular school what about the
05:24:49.500children socializing they can socialize you can have play dates i'm an only child and they say
05:24:55.280that there's like a there's a very crucial developmental period between two and four
05:24:59.480where if you don't socialize with other children your age and get like that you don't have to go
05:25:03.500Well, look, I think ultimately, though, in terms of what's best for the children, is it, okay, we're going to put you in daycare, child care, preschool, however you want to frame it, or especially with like, okay, maybe you didn't do daycare, but a lot of women will throw their kids in daycare, some minimum weight, who knows, like the quality of care that the young children are going to get.0.59
05:25:25.820It's going to be basically a minimum wage worker0.75
05:27:29.660I knew I could not give them the best me, the best mother by being home with three kids that literally were just so much.
05:27:40.560And he worked so much that he was never home to help me with those kids, which is not what I signed up for and which is not what I got married for.
05:28:11.780No, I think when you, when you make this statement that I was so hands on with my kids, but yeah, we're going to have a babysitter for date night. We're going to like have help. I don't, I don't, I again, when people have traditionally been at home raising kids, it wasn't just by themselves.
05:28:33.480They had schools of moms, they had their parents, they had aunts and uncles.
05:28:40.320A lot of people don't have that support system.
05:28:43.440And I think, you know, you can't make blanket statements.
05:28:46.520I think just like she was saying, this is what worked for her.
05:28:49.320I also agree with a lot of what you're saying.
05:43:13.180Hold on, we'll hide it for now, because we'll finish this point, then we'll do it later.
05:43:17.860So, yes, I agree that, you know, you have a son, you have a daughter, they can diverge from you in values, in politics, this happens all the time, right?
05:43:27.440But you can do your best to be there for your children, and try to impart your worldview and your perspective, and I think that I have a, me and my girlfriend, who I have kids with.
05:59:32.540Well, that would just confuse people more.
05:59:34.280I think the problem is that you want your point to be so correct that it's very hard for anybody to sit here and have a conversation with you because you're so not willing to see any other perspective.
05:59:46.260No, I hear and I listen to the other perspective, but just because someone has a different perspective doesn't mean that they're right or that I need to accept it.
05:59:54.640totally agree so if but if i believe i can sit here with everything that you've said tonight
05:59:57.700and even though i respect you you agree with some i agree with i think we'll get you on board0.99
06:00:02.340eventually i i agree with some but i also understand that like it's just your fucking0.80
06:00:07.780opinion it doesn't mean shit for my life because i live my life differently i say true things for0.84
06:00:11.440the most part but um well hold on this this this idea though i don't know um uh i kind of
06:00:21.040if i have a worldview i have a duty to push back against worldviews that diverge from mine
06:00:30.020and that are contrary to mine so i'm going to be i'm supposed to be an advocate for myself
06:00:37.440in my perspective much as you guys are here to be advocates advocates for your perspective
06:00:42.720even if they diverge from my here to convince anybody of anything i'm here to share my life
06:00:48.920experience how i live life in my own perspective i'm not here to change your mind her mind nobody's
06:00:54.300mind well i'm here to change minds i just feel like he doesn't listen to what we have to say
06:00:59.360i listen he will listen to an extent you got knocked up on the one night stand
06:01:04.060okay you were listening i was listening now look sometimes
06:01:10.140sometimes i do forget certain details you know i think she said she was single or something i think
06:04:23.740Ryan, there are people who divorce for reasons that they should not be divorcing.
06:04:32.020There are certain situations where things can be worked through and people are too quick sometimes to end a marriage, especially with children.
06:04:42.780But in my case, that was not the case.
06:04:49.900It took a while to, that's a whole other discussion is the broken family court system.
06:04:55.360The family court system is anything but for the family.
06:04:57.840And I can understand why a lot of people are not getting married today because they probably know someone who's been through a really shitty dysfunctional divorce.0.69
06:05:16.140You know, but it really makes me sad when we have record numbers of men and women who are single today.
06:05:21.580Like, I think it's 60% more men and women are single today than 50 years ago.
06:05:26.660And when men and women are not in relationships and they're not getting the benefits of relationships, that does negatively affect society.
06:11:41.060are you my are we we good we good we we homies we straight we straight go ahead
06:11:46.880like heterosexual what you gotta say man i'm gonna get it just wait a second okay um
06:11:52.340okay deep breath go ahead am i like you're like all you women here are my caucasian except you've
06:12:04.060been kind of mean to me so you're but it's with love y'all y'all my caucasians you're my caucasian
06:12:10.000like my my caucasian am i your you know what i mean i'm your caucasian you're my caucasian is he
06:12:17.640your you know you're trying to boy stop no never never no i see what you're saying0.92
06:12:26.180you're black but like you know how black i know what you're saying and no eminem like i know black0.96
06:12:33.740people are like you're my i understand i'm not gonna say it but no i would never you would never0.99
06:12:38.120am i am i your no okay you can be my wife i had a black guy in texas give me a hard r0.82
06:12:45.300whoa okay that's crazy you went a black man in texas he gave he told me i was a hard r0.91
06:12:50.800okay okay so technically okay bear with me i'm technically i'm african-american
06:12:58.860because who's from africa he was born in france hold on my dad hold on my my dad was born in
06:13:05.000north africa my mom was born in america so if my dad's born in africa my mom's born in america
06:13:11.560technically no african-american no no technically he's rich i'm not black no i think i'm not black
06:13:22.360no but you don't look no i'm african-american no hey babe no yes i know what you're saying
06:13:31.140and no no no i'm not black but i'm african-american i hear what you're saying like charlie
06:13:35.040starren no what does african-american mean yeah she's from south africa what does it mean to be
06:13:40.060african-american so no like i'm asking you're asking me yes what it means to be technically
06:13:45.680because technically doesn't one of your parents have to be from let me just tell you this we0.72
06:13:50.620didn't name ourselves african-american oh shit well that's not what i asked though i'm just0.91
06:13:56.280I'm going to answer your question, so let me answer it.0.94
06:13:58.540The question is, you can't talk if I'm answering the question, so let me answer it.
06:14:02.820Like, the question was, does one of your parents have to be from Africa?
06:14:05.980So, again, to answer the question, the term African-American for black people in America literally means a descendant of African slaves here in America.
06:14:23.820So it's specific to descendants of slaves.
06:37:07.900what denomination just christian non-denomination yeah non-denomination okay not like catholic or
06:37:14.980orthodox or even protestant just non-denominational christian like do you go to church yeah i go to
06:37:21.480church every sunday same okay so you're waiting until marriage um has that been the your standard0.56
06:37:28.920throughout your life definitely not so you have had premarital sex yes yeah yeah i used to be
06:37:35.720but you said in your notes now you say you're now single you did say that it's complicated
06:37:41.320you're relate when asked the relationship status question in the messages you said it's complicated
06:37:48.080so were you recently involved with a guy somewhat well i've still been you know like dating like on
06:37:56.240the apps trying to find my person um how long you've been celibate two months that's fairly
06:38:04.100recent i feel like now i do take offense to when you said that you don't trust any of our judgment
06:38:10.840because i was under the assumption that you were celibate and living this christian life for a lot
06:38:14.980longer well i've been christian so for well i just feel like earlier you made such a comment
06:38:21.160that seemed a little condescending because you were like i don't trust any of your judgment
06:38:24.980yeah that was about looks i thought that was about like um there was like two conversations
06:38:32.480going on at that time and i thought that was about a completely different we were telling her
06:38:36.540she was beautiful okay oh she said so i misunderstood i thought that was a part of
06:38:40.280a different conversation okay so you've been celibate for two months who was the guy you
06:38:45.680were involved with two months ago um just someone who wanted access and i allowed it when i shouldn't
06:38:56.020have he's crying well how did you meet him a dating app okay and at that time were you christian
06:39:02.100yeah and at that time was your standard waiting until marriage no obviously not well that's what
06:39:09.880you it's possible you wanted that at that time but you sinned essentially okay well this has been
06:39:16.820something that i've honestly been kind of wrestling with since my last relationship
06:39:21.940my last relationship ended a year and a half ago the eight-year-long relationship um
06:39:29.060i came to god in the middle of that relationship um my ex said that he was a christian but like he
06:39:38.200was definitely not living in that way like i wasn't living in that way even when i found god
06:39:43.300um so it was just like a big learning experience as to like what does it mean to be a christian
06:39:51.640what does it mean to actually be pursuing god and to be following christ but so okay you
06:39:58.920were it was complicated with guys so the guy that you hooked up with who you met off a dating app
06:40:04.980was this a one-time thing yeah like a one-night stand basically so you you met up with him
06:40:13.780and like it was the first date or whatever and then you guys hooked up we had been talking for
06:40:19.100like a while sure i understand that you're you're back and forth texting maybe phone calls whatever
06:40:24.180but the first time actually meeting up in person uh you guys didn't hook up is that correct
06:40:29.520yeah okay and then did you guys hook up again like another day or was it one
06:40:35.660now was the last time was it mutual or was it he didn't want to keep seeing you you wanted to keep
06:40:42.660him i just i realized that i can't keep putting my worth in the validation in the attention of men
06:40:55.800Okay. So would you say that this has been a pattern of behavior where you've had, you know, the, the one night stands or the flings or the casual hookups and it was harmful. That's why. But as recently as two months ago, is that correct? Um, you said it was two months ago. You, you've been celibate for two months.
06:41:16.560full decision yeah okay yeah now this does tie back into something we were talking about earlier
06:41:22.240where um it's it can be a bit hard to take a woman seriously who says she's waiting for marriage
06:41:30.040but as recently as two months prior had a not just like you were dating a guy and you guys
06:41:36.620were hooking up you had a one night stand a one-time sexual encounter you know what i mean
06:41:43.080you know i know what you mean but then also before i was actually going to bring this up too
06:41:47.920you're coming at it from kind of like a worldly view yeah well even from what i was going to say
06:41:57.720before is if you're actually like for lack of a better term like equally yoked with a man
06:42:05.660in christ then he should be able to understand where you're coming well you know okay here's
06:42:12.240my objection to this so you're saying well brian from a secular perspective of course like there's1.00
06:42:17.720going to be grounds for you feeling frustrated by a girl who like just gives her pussy away but then1.00
06:42:22.160when it she fucking lands on you oh no three months or whatever yeah however christian men1.00
06:42:27.740should also find some level of frustration by christian women who claim to be wanting to wait0.99
06:42:33.160until marriage but then like in recent history have engaged in like degenerate everyone has to0.60
06:42:39.440start somewhere brian well but i think there's a component like you'll have christian women who0.99
06:42:44.080like oopsie every couple months who do these oopsies every couple months and they claim or
06:42:49.760they say that they're waiting until marriage and i think it can be troubling at least i think these0.87
06:42:57.080christian men can take quarrel with wait so you are open to having casual sex but i'm the good0.97
06:43:07.600christian boy that you're gonna make way but i'm not open to having casual sex it is so0.99
06:43:14.020months ago you fucked a guy after knowing him okay that's her past that was recent history0.99
06:43:22.020hold on oh okay okay so you had sex let me ask where did you meet the guy like you went to a0.99
06:43:28.900bar to to meet up for the date what you go to okay you matched with a guy on a dating app0.57
06:43:35.200yeah where did you did you guys go on a date yeah we went and got coffee okay and then from
06:43:43.740the coffee shop you went back to his house my place back to your place and then how soon how
06:43:50.560long were you at the coffee shop a couple hours we were just chatting a couple hours okay and then
06:43:56.440whose idea was it to go back to your place what's your point can you be nice to her i don't think
06:49:58.800I think it's possible to have a great relationship with a woman and sex occurs early on in said relationship.0.54
06:50:05.840These things can develop concurrently.
06:50:08.280So there is some merit to the clouding the judgment or am I with them because I actually enjoy them or are they fulfilling my sexual desires?
06:50:17.860But I do think fulfilling someone's sexual desires is an important component of a relationship.
06:50:24.220and then you can also find you can also encounter a situation which presents itself with your
06:50:31.440situation where it's like okay we're gonna wait and this could either be in wait till marriage or
06:50:36.780wait like long periods of time and look i don't think sex is a particularly complicated procedure
06:50:43.500i think you can both learn what each other likes and you can both improve and improve in the ways
06:50:50.820that will be beneficial to your sexual partner however there is also a degree that i don't think
06:50:56.800can be ignored when it comes to sexual compatibility sometimes in a relationship
06:51:01.000if the sex just ain't working that's going to cause friction in the relationship now it can be
06:51:07.740worked on and you can try to you know figure it out yeah but i mean are you going to be trapped0.99
06:51:13.520in a fucking relationship that especially like look if you're a virgin you're both virgins you0.99
06:51:19.340don't know what else has been out there but imagine you're a girl you probably been cracked1.00
06:51:23.700by some chad who's like laid it fucking down how are you gonna go and then you're gonna be with1.00
06:51:29.200this guy for the rest of your life and the sex is trash divorce within three years fucking guarantee0.99
06:51:35.620it even though christian saying i'm just saying when two people love no disagrees two people love0.99
06:51:41.680each other i'm sorry if you're not this has to be good it has to be good that's the way the lord
06:51:46.540made it okay but sometimes have has anybody here like not had bad sex with somebody i have i have
06:51:54.380bad sex before i have sex with somebody before i was your boyfriend i'm sorry that's mean0.77
06:52:00.620no it was with the guy oh was that like he was like really really obese and like0.74
06:52:07.900it was like literally like an inch or like i couldn't feel it at all and he had to like put
06:52:12.140put his flap on top of me it was so bad did you get paid for that yeah like 1300 for like 30 minutes0.51
06:52:18.960but like oh my god it traumatized the fuck out of me true all right any thoughts ever again any of0.99
06:52:25.040the women on the like waiting until marriage thing but just fucked like two months ago another thing0.99
06:52:30.680i feel like you're coming at it at a like a perspective where christians can't make mistakes0.98
06:52:37.280just because they're a christian that doesn't make any sense very flawed so yeah christian
06:52:42.620being christian doesn't mean to be perfect but it it is an eyebrow raise when a girl says she's
06:52:50.980waiting until marriage like okay i i've had experiences where i remember there was this
06:52:57.240one christian girl slid into my dms like back in 2023 and then she was like saying oh i'm so into
06:53:04.160you brian but i'm waiting i'm waiting until marriage and i was like look hey i'm not i
06:53:08.640have pro-christian sentiment but i'm not christian yet yet yet i'm not a christian yet
06:53:15.260and uh but she was like well oh you know if you could reconsider and i was like listen
06:53:21.180this topic is boring you seem like a good use what's that the topic we've been talking about
06:53:25.480it for like two hours i find it so interesting i'm saying like calm down baldy yeah but her and
06:53:31.640i find it it's it seems like it's going in circles to me all right well please don't interrupt me
06:53:37.300while i'm trying to yeah not this this is great we can have the religious thing i'm just saying
06:53:42.220the being waiting for marriage that we've been talking about that for a long time back to what0.98
06:53:47.100i was saying before i was rudely interrupted it was very rude of me super rude i get fucked uh0.98
06:53:53.480so anyways where was i with that bad boy this christian girl 2023 she dm's me oh brian i'm0.99
06:54:01.240waiting until marriage, but you're so my type, blah, blah, blah. And I was like, look, Hey,
06:54:05.040I respect that you're waiting until marriage, but it's just not the right fit. And then that was it.
06:54:08.880We talked for a day and then off she goes. She reached back out to me. Um, I don't know when
06:54:14.120this was, maybe it was a couple of months ago. I forgot the timeline reaches back out. And, um,
06:54:19.760it wasn't even to like relink. It was, we didn't, we didn't meet in person, but it was just DMS.
06:54:25.280and um she was like talking shit she's like brian ever you know your podcast has changed0.97
06:54:33.520you're so mean blah blah blah blah and i was like all right but then i were i just for research0.99
06:54:39.180purposes i was like hey three years ago you said you and she wasn't a virgin three years ago you
06:54:44.160told me you were waiting for marriage how's that going bad so christian girl tried to i feel like
06:54:53.460us not that i anything happened with her but had i like pursued her and i was doing all the things1.00
06:54:59.300and taking her on dates and waiting for pussy she apparently in like i don't know this was a year1.00
06:55:04.400ago christian girl waiting for marriage told me she's waiting for marriage doesn't want to fuck1.00
06:55:09.080me hey that's fair you don't want to fuck that's fine i'm not interested but hey good luck she1.00
06:55:15.040cracked a dude within like and this is while she had the standard of waiting until marriage1.00
07:42:59.800So I don't think it's wrong though for a guy if his preference is to be in a relationship with a woman who gets on birth control or is on birth control, it's okay to have that preference.
07:43:15.800Now, if you're like really being toxic and coercive and pressuring beyond, like if you're just, you know, push, push, push, that can become problematic.
07:43:28.640but i don't think it would be wrong just if like the girls like say it's beginning of dating and
07:43:36.140the girl's like listen i don't want to go on birth control and the guy's like well i don't feel
07:43:40.560comfortable having sex if you're not on birth control that's respecting both people's consent
07:43:46.900yeah and he doesn't want to have sex she doesn't want to not have sex without you know without
07:43:52.060protect whatever it is so i do think that um i think it's okay for a man to have a boundary
07:43:58.380related to making sure the sex is safe and there's not an unwanted pregnancy i mean i don't know did
07:44:04.600you say you're a pro-life like or pro-choice i forgot choice well for you i i forgot did you
07:44:10.600say like would you if you got i would never personally get an abortion i don't okay so you
07:44:15.580would handle that right so i think it's even more important with somebody who would not get an
07:44:19.680abortion to make sure you're really clear upfront about, Hey, what would happen if you did get
07:44:25.220pregnant? You know, even if on your own birth control, what we, what would you do in that
07:44:28.620instance? So I think in your case, I think it's a good idea that the man be like, look,
07:44:35.280you're not, you know, if he's pro-choice or whatever, you're not going to abort the kid.
07:44:41.060Do we want to have an unwanted pregnancy? You're 21. He's however old you were like in high school
07:44:47.260at the time when this was going on so it's like do you want to be in high school and pregnant but
07:44:51.560in high school i might have had different views also on like abortion but so if the guy doesn't
07:44:57.180want to have a baby then why doesn't he just get snipped yeah exactly 19 year olds should not get
07:45:01.780the sex that's completely ridiculous it can be permanent so it's like that like in the same way0.98
07:45:08.160that there's birth control options for women that don't sterilize them like a woman who's 19 who0.92
07:45:13.420doesn't want to get pregnant at 19 should not get her tubes tied there's other options for her or
07:45:18.220use condom but like i don't think look i think it's okay for a guy if his standard is i don't
07:45:25.120want to be with you unless you're on birth control yeah um i think that that's fair i think that's
07:45:31.780i think it's fair now when he starts pressure abusing you and like he's trying to be coercive
07:45:38.720enforce you after you've told him no that's a problem yeah but if if you're like hey i've been
07:45:44.080having issues with the birth control and he's like i just i don't want to family has told me i'm like
07:45:49.900a completely different person on it like my sisters my parents like changes you completely
07:45:55.880but i don't think like if if the guy wants to walk away from the relationship because there's a
07:46:04.840material change. Like she wants to get off birth. I mean, he can opt to stay in the relationship and,0.52
07:46:10.060you know, weigh the balance. But if say his standard for having sex is I, he doesn't want
07:46:15.720to have sex. If there's not birth control involved, then I don't know. There's gotta be
07:46:21.320determination of is, is it worth it to continue? Um, but so I agree with you. There should be more
07:46:30.780male birth control options that'd be great men need more power in that realm uh but it is
07:46:37.500complicated it is complicated and yeah and as it currently stands yeah that there's like dozens of
07:46:46.920options for women there's like barely any options for for men unfortunately um but do you think men
07:46:54.420would even like in general be like oh like birth control i'm not doing that that's for girls so if
07:47:00.140there's the the vasal gel the non-hormonal option for men i think a lot of men would do it or they
07:47:07.160could just pull out pulling out i want to ask you all something it's pretty good all of you
07:47:14.660something okay we're talking about like how to prevent pregnancy we're talking about condoms
07:47:21.840iud's i'm not yeah we're talking about all of these other methods all right i'm not judging
08:06:46.520You're helping people that is fulfilling, especially say you're in healthcare.
08:06:50.460You're taking care of people that can be fulfilling in a way that
08:06:53.440your external, outside your family, you know, people can be charitable outside their family.0.95
08:06:59.900But I do think that there's a psychological operation that's been done to convince women
08:07:08.560that you are somehow not complete or not full if you don't concurrently pursue a career
08:07:17.040with the raising of children. Do you think both can't be true at the same time?
08:07:21.500No, but what I don't understand is, look, most women are not going to have some, like, superstar career where they're, like, fucking saving this person and saving this animal and doing all this shit.0.96
08:07:32.520Most women who are in career pursuit are going to work for some, like, cold, heartless corporation.0.99
08:07:39.260They're going to work in the HR department.1.00
08:09:27.860Ultimately, there's a couple of factors here.
08:09:29.560I don't think from an evo-psych biological perspective that a woman who's a doctor does not increase her attractiveness simply by virtue of that job in contrast to the way that a male doctor is going to be much more attractive and appealing to a woman as compared to the guy who works at McDonald's.
08:09:52.600So now I want to make one thing clear.
08:09:56.200I think high IQ and intelligence in a woman is, uh, do I want to say attractive?
08:10:03.980I would say it is my preference to date an intelligent woman, a woman who's has a high
08:10:10.380IQ because that would confer benefits to our children.
08:10:13.140And also I do think it's typically better to date intelligent people because if you're1.00
08:10:17.460like with someone who's like really fucking stupid, that's a liability.1.00
08:10:21.280That's a liability a lot of the time.1.00
08:10:23.340But so I think intelligence is a valuable trait in women.1.00
08:10:26.660I think high IQ is a valuable trait in women.1.00
08:10:30.660But I think a woman's ambition should not be, I want to be a boss babe and make a fuck1.00
08:13:42.220Another reason men don't really care about the woman's money is y'all don't share that shit.0.99
08:13:47.160So even if I was inclined to be attracted to a woman who makes a lot of money, for most women, generally speaking, like you still want men to pay on dates.0.99
08:13:57.400So it's like, even if the woman is successful, we don't actually reap any benefits from aligning with like perhaps down the line, like far down the line when we're like, okay, we're going to live together or whatever.0.91
08:14:10.840And we're going to like have a family.
08:14:14.120Men don't reap initial benefits to like dating high earning women because even high earning women don't want to pay for dates, even though they can afford the dates.
08:14:22.020So even if I was inclined to want to date successful, high-earning women, I don't get a benefit.
09:05:33.780kind of at the last minute to everybody else.
09:05:36.360yeah well the the other thing my big gripe with it is it's just they stack uh i mean i guess i
09:05:45.860already said this but they'll stack against the conservative special guest uh and then if if it's
09:05:51.960like a progressive liberal special guest they'll give them like what what's the word for like soft
09:05:58.700softball opponents yeah like easy opponents and they'll give conservatives hard opponents well
09:06:03.760And then also let them finish their argument.
09:06:06.240Like with the whole premise of voting people out, usually if it's a conservative in the middle, the moderator will be like, oh, we have to move on.
09:06:14.900But if it's someone else, if we're going to say, okay, finish your thought and then we will move on.