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00:50:06.280But what I'm saying is sometimes it's okay to let go because if it's the other way around, let's say it's like the man's mom or dad, you know,
00:50:14.260and the woman has to be there to comfort them, it is okay to not be okay, and that goes for all sexes.
00:54:47.520And that was way better than just getting my parents all stressed out.
00:54:51.580Oh, my God, he's upset, blah, blah, blah.
00:54:53.440It's way better for me to just go and deal with it and just be like, eh, whatever.
00:54:57.480But the other, really quick, and I'll let you make your point, I think the other thing is people claim to be depressed or whatever, dealing with something.
00:55:06.200I think a lot of the time that's because their life circumstances aren't in check.
00:55:11.480And going to therapy, wasting your time in therapy for your life circumstances, you're not going to really have an improvement in said life circumstances by talking to a therapist.
00:55:23.300But you can, like, recognize that by talking to a therapist.
00:55:25.660Well, for example, like, if I think, as a man, go get in really good shape.
00:56:24.200So you're statistically proven your body wants to go through whatever trauma, whatever negative emotion you have for 90 seconds.
00:56:32.180So after you've processed it, so it's going back to what you were saying about how you were talking about it and then you want it to stop, like, you feel worse when you keep bringing it up.
00:56:40.340Well, it's because your body processed it for 90 seconds and wants to get rid of that.
00:56:44.220So it's, like, you talk about it, you've talked about it for 90 seconds, and then your body automatically wants to return back to homostasis.
00:57:21.480So if you continue to press the issue after 90 seconds and you're, like, of course it's going to heighten your senses because it's, like, your body is trying to get back to regular.
00:57:33.080If that was the case, why aren't therapy sessions only 90 seconds?
00:59:35.800If you're, even as a woman, if you can't handle just hearing a man's point of thought, that's like a you thing.
00:59:42.560Like, you got to at least be open to hearing your partner out.
00:59:46.580Well, I think that I think even a very emotionally intelligent woman might run into something that just innately, regardless of your level of intelligence or IQ or EQ, you're going to witness a level of vulnerability in your partner that will give you.
02:10:31.920my primary argument is these surgeries are not medically indicated and they're dangerous.
02:10:36.800But wouldn't it be fair to say that a person who wants to like undergo a plastic surgery and is fully aware of all of the risks and everything,
02:10:47.020isn't it fair to say that like they can just make that decision for themselves?
02:12:01.560you're going to keep getting all these surgeries,
02:12:02.820but have you looked in the mirror and actually loved yourself for you because you're going to keep getting these surgeries and you're still going to hate yourself and want to change it again.
02:18:12.640so it's not even within the purview of my dictatorship.
02:18:18.140you'd let people choose to have surgery on say their knee or their shoulder or like someone had like a bones for their shoulder or whatever.
03:35:18.120Well, I would argue while it is the case, I'm not denying that this phenomenon happens in the reverse.
03:35:24.620I think it's way more often the case, like if a woman is going to have a one-night stand, that guy is going to at least be attractive enough.
03:35:36.120She's going to be – the guy is going to be at least attractive enough that she would be in a relationship with him on the sole metric of looks.
03:35:44.180Now, oftentimes though, you'll see an even different thing.
03:35:49.660Relationship-minded women who otherwise wouldn't have hookups might break that rule if the guy is really fucking good looking or really attractive.
03:35:57.600They might not otherwise really be into hookups, but he's so attractive, it's overwhelming, she's seduced, whatever.
03:36:04.240Whereas for men, when men are trying to engage in casual sex, they go the opposite direction.
03:36:10.660A man will have casual sex with a woman that on the sole basis of her physical appearance, he would never be in a relationship with her because she just doesn't meet his baseline level of what he wants for a girlfriend in terms of her looks.
03:36:24.980Brian, I be doing that to guys all the time.
03:37:38.420My argument here is that for a woman to sleep with a guy, he typically has to be at least good looking enough that she would be in a relationship with him.
03:38:06.540Now, the issue is though is when – if a woman isn't aware of her own standing in like the social order or whatever, she – I know it's – oh, my God.
03:38:17.300He's explaining something to me that I disagree with.
03:38:26.800Because women have sexual – like for example, if I step to a girl that's outside of my league, I'm not –
03:38:36.080she's never – it's never considered in her brain, well, I'm not really that attracted to the guy, but he's offering dick, so I guess I'll fuck him for the experience.
03:39:06.680But what I am saying is guys will keep you around.
03:39:10.000They'll sleep with you once, twice, three times, situation ship, friends with benefits.
03:39:13.640And on the sole basis of your looks, they're not going to give you commitment.
03:39:17.440You have at least that limited, limited sexual access to men outside of your league, whereas men don't get any access to women outside of their league.
03:39:38.940This is an actual phenomenon that happens.
03:39:40.780And so what ends up happening is you'll have women who are dealing with a certain caliber of guy, and you'll be chasing those dudes who will never give you commitment.
03:40:09.520So I guess ultimately my point here is it's important to know where you stand because it's very easy as women for you to deal with really attractive men that are going to be jerks or mistreat you or not give you the commitment you're looking for.
03:40:33.280Some of them, look, some of y'all want to fuck around.
03:40:40.560Hey, whatever, whatever, you know, no judgment.
03:40:42.640But I guess if I were to reframe it a little bit like this, do you think, imagine like the average looking dude, average above average looking dude.
03:40:55.100Let's just say he could constantly be getting attention from like really beautiful women.
03:41:02.060But those really beautiful women never wanted a relationship.
03:41:06.240They'd fuck him once, twice, keep him around like friends with benefits.
03:41:12.460Do you think the average looking guy would then go and look at the average woman who's willing to be in a relationship with him and be like, yes, I'm going to stop having sex with women who are way more beautiful than you and who are doing all these things for me.
03:43:53.260Once you guys get out of college and then one day you guys are all going to be a very successful career women, you're going to have your own snazzy apartment.
03:44:04.220Everything can be set how you want it.
03:44:06.600Once you've had that experience, it's going to be very difficult to go backwards to living, like once you've had your own bathroom, you've lived alone, had your own bathroom.
03:44:20.120It's really hard to go back to sharing the bathroom.
03:44:23.140Once you've had your own bedroom, it's really hard to go back to having a fucking triple.
03:44:30.220Yeah, I think I get what you're saying.
03:44:34.880People do play comparisons when it comes to dating.
03:44:37.700So it's like if the next guy you deal with doesn't measure up to another guy you've dealt with, perhaps on a more casual front, you're going to be like, damn, the sex was better with that guy.
03:44:51.300Maybe you deal with a rich guy or a guy with status.
03:44:55.560Once you've had that experience, it's like you are going to, whether up front or not, you are going to be playing a comparison game.
03:45:03.460I would say if I was just running through really hot, well, I guess I would be, if a bunch of really hot model chicks were running through me, but they won't give me commitment.
03:45:16.000But now I got to like settle for that, settle for the average girl.
03:45:20.200I'm going to be like, damn, I'm going to be less stoked.
04:23:35.740Then you treat them like they're stupid, but not because they're a man or a woman, because they're stupid.
04:23:39.220But I think one thing that's interesting to me about that is it seems like it's often the case when a bad thing happens to women or a bad thing happens to a minority, somebody in a minority group, whether they're Hispanic or they're black or they're Asian, whatever it is, there is this yearning to the bad thing that happened to them happened because they're part of this identity group.
04:24:05.100A bad thing happened to a woman, and it happened because she's a woman.
04:24:09.340But we don't put this sort of same thing on them.
04:24:12.500So, give me an example of something that, like, someone, like, something that might happen to me, and then I might say, like, okay, it's because I'm a woman.
04:24:20.280Well, you mentioned Black Lives Matter recently, so I guess I'll take it in that direction.
04:25:42.600But why would suddenly, after, like, so many centuries of sexism and women being less than, and, like, suddenly, yeah, okay, we have the same rights.
04:25:53.440But suddenly, like, men are really going to treat you the same.
04:26:13.000But I think that off first bat, a lot of people, maybe myself, if I was given two options, the first thing, because that's what we're trained to think, is that, like, men are going to do a better job at certain things.
04:26:31.180Um, there, there maybe has been some studies that actually, that actually maybe point out that in some surgical practices, women have some degree of better, like, hand-eye coordination, or I don't know the exact, anyways, that's, that's besides the point.
04:26:51.000I, like, for example, and this would kind of just make sense without, like, a study needed, like, assuming women have smaller hands, they're better able to, like, make sort of, like, if you have big, big man hands or some shit, it's kind of, like, hard to, you know, like, with really small instruments, you know, so.
04:27:09.140I think that men are better than women at some things, and women are better than men at some things.
04:27:35.660Oh, okay, just making sure that's not.
04:27:38.040But, so I guess, is there, and one thing, actually, you mentioned that, you mentioned that there was a lot of sexism for long periods of time.
04:27:47.380Are you talking, like, about the vote?
04:28:25.440Broadly, voting is very recent, past 200, 300 years.
04:28:30.020Yeah, women's voting is, like, past 100 years.
04:28:33.120So I think the differential, so in the United States, I think the difference is, like, 50 years from when all men could vote and from when all women could vote.
04:29:11.900Like, but up until the very end, it was just men who were this and men who were that.
04:29:16.600Well, the point I'm trying to make is that for the vast majority of human history, most men and most women didn't have any power, didn't have any say.