Whatever Podcast - She Dated ＊50＊ Men In 50 Days？! ｜ Dating Talk #105

00:00:00.000 Welcome to the whatever dating talk podcast. Thank you for tuning in tonight. You could have been anywhere in the world, but you're here with me. I appreciate that. We're coming to you live from Santa Barbara, California every Sunday and Tuesday at 5 p.m. Pacific. I am your host, Brian Atlas. I'm joined by my co-host Kiki. Yep, she's back there. She's a bit shy. 0.94

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00:02:06.360 If you can't catch the full shows, we have three clips channels. Links in the description. Go subscribe. Without further ado, we're going to have the guests introduce themselves. So please tell us your name, age, and occupation. Go ahead.

00:02:20.300 Hi, I'm Zoe. I am a student at Santa Barbara City College. I'm majoring in psychology, and I'm 18.

00:02:28.180 18. All right. Welcome. Hi, I'm Sam. I'm 18, and I also go to Santa Barbara City College, and I'm running track next semester, and my major is business entrepreneurship.

00:02:39.460 What do you run for track? I run sprints. Sprints. Hurdles? No. No hurdling? No, can't. What about you?

00:02:46.960 My name is Claire. I use she, they pronouns. I am 21 years old. I am a part-time nanny, a part-time research assistant, and a full-time student at UC Santa Cruz, from which I will be graduating next year, spring of next year, with a B.A. in politics and a B.A. in Spanish studies.

00:03:06.960 She, they pronouns. 0.87

00:03:09.100 Yeah. That should be one of your questions.

00:03:12.400 Disavow that. What is they?

00:03:18.420 They? I mean, it doesn't associate with one gender. I mean, I feel like this would be a longer conversation, but they doesn't associate with one gender or the other, because, I mean, essentially, gender is a social construct, so.

00:03:31.360 I'll save it for now.

00:03:32.260 Maybe we'll come back to that after we get through all the intros. Could I just have you scoot your mic that way?

00:03:37.980 This way?

00:03:38.800 Yes.

00:03:39.420 Okay.

00:03:41.300 Hi.

00:03:41.620 Also, please provide your pronouns for us.

00:03:44.420 Okay. I am a she all the way, so. My name is Alexa. I'm 27 years old, and I live, what else are we supposed to do? Oh, and I'm a project manager.

00:03:52.400 Speak a little louder, please. Go ahead.

00:03:56.640 I'm Emily, and I'm a student at Cuesta College in San Luis Obispo. I'm studying criminal justice, but I plan on going into probation once I graduate, if I graduate.

00:04:09.520 You want to be a probation officer?

00:04:10.900 Yeah, but I might just go right into the, like, workforce. I don't need a degree.

00:04:17.220 All right. Age?

00:04:18.640 I'm 18.

00:04:19.480 Okay. Welcome.

00:04:20.060 Hi, my name is Sophia. I'm 24, and my occupation, I am the Southern California field representative for the Leadership Institute, and you can guess my pronouns. I'm sure you'll get it right, and if you don't, I don't care. I won't get offended.

00:04:37.140 Okay. What about you?

00:04:39.820 Hi, my name is Amy. I am 23 years old. I'm currently a student at Cal State Fullerton.

00:04:47.220 Did you say your age? Sorry.

00:04:48.820 Yeah, I'm 23.

00:04:49.780 23. Okay, got it. Thank you.

00:04:51.200 My name is Lynn. I'm 22, and I work in retail, and my pronouns are she, her.

00:05:00.760 Actually? Wait, actually? Or are you memeing?

00:05:04.220 No, like, actually.

00:05:04.820 No, she uses she, they, I mean, she, her pronouns.

00:05:07.380 Okay.

00:05:07.640 Is that an answer?

00:05:08.480 Yeah.

00:05:08.700 I'm Nicky Phil, 30 years old, behavioral scientist, certified relationship coach, book author, YouTuber.

00:05:16.080 Okay, welcome, everybody. Welcome, welcome.

00:05:18.300 All right, so we're going to go around the table once more.

00:05:21.780 What is everyone's current relationship status?

00:05:23.860 So, are you single? Are you in a talking stage, situationship, friends with benefits, relationship?

00:05:28.340 Are you married, polycule, sex cult, harem?

00:05:31.980 If you're single, how long have you been single, and what's the longest relationship you've ever been in? 0.72

00:05:35.940 Go ahead.

00:05:36.360 So, I'm single. I've been single for 18 years, and I guess I, like, was in a talking stage, but that's over. I ended that shit. Yeah.

00:05:50.220 Okay. So, you've been single for 18 years?

00:05:53.920 Yeah.

00:05:54.460 I mean, I certainly hope you were single for the vast majority of the, I mean, are people really dating at two?

00:06:01.260 I don't think they are.

00:06:01.760 Like, people aren't really dating at two, so.

00:06:03.220 No, but.

00:06:05.240 Okay.

00:06:05.780 Yeah.

00:06:06.840 But, so, I mean, what's the longest period of time that you've ever dated a guy?

00:06:12.520 Never. Like, I haven't dated anyone. Like, I've gone on dates, but, like, one date.

00:06:19.360 Have you had, like, what about, like, a situationship that lasted, like, a month or two? Have you had that?

00:06:23.980 I guess I was in, like, a talking stage for a month, but, like, that's it.

00:06:31.860 Yeah. I went to an all-girls school for seven years.

00:06:35.600 Oh, for high school?

00:06:36.240 For high school and middle school, so.

00:06:37.900 Okay.

00:06:38.180 Yeah.

00:06:38.740 Yeah.

00:06:39.160 So, what about, you go to SBCC, right?

00:06:42.380 Mm-hmm.

00:06:42.480 Do you live in Ivy?

00:06:43.840 No, I live at Beach City, like, the apartments.

00:06:46.940 Yeah.

00:06:47.380 And you two are friends, right?

00:06:48.700 Yes.

00:06:48.840 So, you guys go out and party here in Alvisia, I assume?

00:06:51.740 Last night specifically.

00:06:52.960 Yeah.

00:06:53.140 Last night specifically. Okay.

00:06:54.380 Mm-hmm.

00:06:54.740 And then the day before and the night before.

00:06:58.060 And then, yeah.

00:06:59.340 So, I mean, you know, typically, what I hear when you're in college, it's, people aren't

00:07:05.160 really dating in the sense that they go out on a date, it's, like, let's hang out, let's

00:07:10.320 go party together, people hook up. 0.99

00:07:12.540 Basically, like, let's fuck, pretty much. 1.00

00:07:14.320 Yeah. 1.00

00:07:14.560 So, I mean, have you had that experience?

00:07:17.780 No.

00:07:18.820 Wait, no.

00:07:19.760 Yes, she has. 1.00

00:07:21.120 Oh, shit. 1.00

00:07:21.760 Well, yeah, okay, there we go. 1.00

00:07:23.540 Oh, that's, okay, good, good.

00:07:25.200 So.

00:07:25.900 I have not.

00:07:27.120 Your friend is throwing you under the bus here a little bit.

00:07:29.960 She says yes.

00:07:31.600 She's, she's incorrect.

00:07:33.780 Wait, really?

00:07:34.960 Yeah.

00:07:35.900 Okay, I'm not going to say it.

00:07:36.900 Okay, we just, we, we just met last night, kind of.

00:07:40.500 We have, like, mutual friends, but, yeah, I'm not going to get into detail about everything.

00:07:48.960 Do you guys live together?

00:07:50.800 Okay.

00:07:52.140 Yeah.

00:07:52.500 What?

00:07:52.680 Do you guys live together?

00:07:54.020 Are you housemates?

00:07:54.920 No.

00:07:56.040 Her roommate and me, we grew up in the same hometown, so we've been friends for, like,

00:08:00.800 years, and I met her through my friend.

00:08:04.620 They're roommates.

00:08:05.640 So she comes and visits.

00:08:07.240 Yeah.

00:08:07.640 And she's moving next semester.

00:08:10.280 Comes and visits.

00:08:12.760 At Beach City, and, like, we go out.

00:08:14.660 Oh, you don't live in Santa Barbara?

00:08:15.980 No.

00:08:16.580 Oh, okay.

00:08:17.280 I live in San Luis Obispo.

00:08:18.640 Oh, okay, got it.

00:08:19.800 Okay, gotcha.

00:08:20.520 Okay.

00:08:22.240 So nothing.

00:08:24.420 Like, I've gone on dates with guys here.

00:08:27.860 Sure.

00:08:28.180 And, like, I've hung out with guys here for, like, a period of time.

00:08:32.000 And I've, like, kissed one guy here.

00:08:34.840 But, like, I don't really, not, yeah.

00:08:39.100 I'm just going to leave it at that.

00:08:41.260 It looks like your friend is privy to some details.

00:08:44.740 Well.

00:08:45.100 Oh, yeah, last night we got married.

00:08:49.780 Yeah.

00:08:50.060 Both of us got married last night.

00:08:51.320 To each other?

00:08:52.000 No, no, no.

00:08:52.420 No.

00:08:52.780 So these guys came to the apartment, like, randomly.

00:08:56.340 I was sitting outside waiting for somebody to open the door.

00:08:58.880 And these two random guys woke up to me and my friend.

00:09:01.660 And they were, like, can we come inside?

00:09:03.160 And we were, like, yeah, sure.

00:09:04.420 And we all, like, we wanted all girls to be there.

00:09:06.840 But whatever.

00:09:07.920 And this guy just, like, got on his knee and proposed to me.

00:09:11.060 So now I'm, like, kind of married to him.

00:09:13.400 Where's the ring?

00:09:13.940 I don't know his name. 0.99

00:09:15.500 That's pathetic. 0.99

00:09:16.800 If I were to propose to you, I would do something. 1.00

00:09:19.720 I'd bust this out, you know.

00:09:21.620 Oh, wait, wait, wait.

00:09:22.320 I found.

00:09:23.840 There's a.

00:09:24.360 That's the wrong thing.

00:09:25.180 That's actually your ring.

00:09:27.400 Okay.

00:09:28.200 Well, I've never been proposed to, so I don't know.

00:09:30.120 Wait.

00:09:30.420 Okay.

00:09:30.960 Okay.

00:09:31.320 Be honest with us, though.

00:09:32.300 I feel like you're underselling your dating experience a little bit.

00:09:35.840 I mean, I have a lot to say.

00:09:37.720 But she finished.

00:09:38.480 She finished.

00:09:39.020 She finished.

00:09:39.360 No, I, like, I have my roster.

00:09:43.580 Oh, okay.

00:09:44.240 Okay.

00:09:44.540 There we go.

00:09:45.020 There we go.

00:09:45.480 Like, I have a few on the burner.

00:09:47.660 But I just don't particularly, like, like to take it to a certain point.

00:09:55.240 Like, I kind of cut things off.

00:09:57.140 I like to cut things off.

00:09:58.000 Which point are you talking about?

00:10:01.760 Like.

00:10:04.420 You got it.

00:10:05.780 P in the V?

00:10:06.560 Are we talking P in the V?

00:10:07.580 Yeah, sure.

00:10:08.140 You don't like to take it there?

00:10:10.060 Have you taken it there?

00:10:11.480 No.

00:10:12.080 Never?

00:10:13.000 Never.

00:10:14.760 I, I, yeah, she's, she's never.

00:10:17.840 I can promise you that.

00:10:20.520 Stop the cap. 0.94

00:10:23.520 So you have a roster.

00:10:24.840 I cannot cap it.

00:10:25.740 Yeah.

00:10:25.800 You have a roster.

00:10:27.240 Okay.

00:10:28.420 And when you say you have a roster, how many people are on your roster?

00:10:31.300 Um, let's think.

00:10:37.060 I don't even know.

00:10:38.140 I don't even know that.

00:10:38.740 I guess, like, four, but.

00:10:39.960 You guessed, like, four.

00:10:40.700 I kind of, I just cut one off, so.

00:10:42.160 You just cut one off.

00:10:42.840 So now it's three?

00:10:43.880 Now I guess it's three.

00:10:44.680 Or it was five?

00:10:45.560 It was, no, it's, it's three now.

00:10:47.460 Three now.

00:10:48.080 So what does that mean that you have three guys on your roster?

00:10:50.420 Are you, you're kind of hanging out with all of them?

00:10:52.920 Like, how many of the three guys or the four, well, when did you cut it off with the most

00:10:57.820 recent one?

00:10:58.220 Um, it was.

00:11:01.660 Yesterday?

00:11:02.340 No, wait, let me think.

00:11:04.160 It was on Tuesday.

00:11:05.560 Tuesday.

00:11:06.280 Okay, so in the past week, have you seen all four of them?

00:11:09.840 Um.

00:11:11.440 Like, you hung out with all four of them.

00:11:13.540 I've seen them around.

00:11:15.000 One of them asked me out, but I didn't go, because I didn't want to go.

00:11:18.800 And then, um, but he, that guy actually, okay, one of the guys on my roster, he tried

00:11:25.820 to, like, get with me and my roommate, and he's saying, oh, like, we're going to see which

00:11:30.220 one I want.

00:11:31.400 And I'm like, I don't want you now.

00:11:33.540 Like, so he's kind of coming off of the roster at this point.

00:11:38.200 Wait, but you, I mean, you're not exclusive with him.

00:11:40.420 He's not exclusive with you.

00:11:41.640 What's it matter to you if he tried to get with your house, like some other girl? 0.88

00:11:45.680 Because that's weird.

00:11:46.660 Because he.

00:11:46.880 But you're seeing three other guys.

00:11:48.400 But it's not about that.

00:11:49.740 It's about the fact that he is, like, purposefully trying to go for both of us, and he said, like, 0.99

00:11:54.760 I'm trying to stir some shit up. 0.99

00:11:56.780 Okay, sure, I get that. 0.99

00:11:58.240 That's fair.

00:11:58.620 So, me and my roommate are, like, get away from us.

00:12:02.480 So, do you think these guys you're seeing, do you think they also have a roster?

00:12:06.360 For sure.

00:12:07.000 For sure?

00:12:07.620 And actually.

00:12:08.280 For shizzle?

00:12:08.980 Oh, for shizzle. 0.98

00:12:09.920 For shizzle.

00:12:10.160 Like, one of them, I was walking with one of them, and then another guy, the other guy

00:12:16.240 on the roster comes, and, like, he for some reason knew about it, and he's like, how was

00:12:19.920 that crossover? 0.99

00:12:21.160 And I'm like, what the fuck? 0.99

00:12:22.720 And then I'm in my car, and I see him walking up, like, the hill with a girl, and I was like, 1.00

00:12:29.540 okay.

00:12:30.280 And then another, like, that same day, I saw him walking to class with a girl, and then

00:12:34.480 I saw him with his arm around a girl in the span of, like, three days.

00:12:38.740 So, that's why I cut things off with him.

00:12:41.520 Oh, that's the one you cut things off with?

00:12:43.040 That's the one I cut off.

00:12:43.900 Okay.

00:12:44.160 Yeah.

00:12:44.660 So, then you've got the other three guys on the roster.

00:12:47.680 Mm-hmm.

00:12:49.140 Is there one in particular that you like more than the others?

00:12:55.540 Or they're all the same?

00:12:57.240 Yeah, but that's the one that, like, is trying to get with me and my roommate, so.

00:13:01.300 Brian, you're not live on X.

00:13:03.400 That's fine.

00:13:04.160 Yeah.

00:13:04.640 That's fine.

00:13:05.000 X. 1.00

00:13:05.340 So, the one you want the most is the one that is trying to fuck your housemate. 1.00

00:13:14.680 Yeah. 1.00

00:13:15.080 But I don't really want him.

00:13:16.320 Let's be clear.

00:13:17.500 I don't really want him.

00:13:18.560 But he's on your roster.

00:13:19.220 He's on my roster just so I can have a roster, like, just for fun.

00:13:23.060 How do you have a roster, but you don't really want any of them?

00:13:26.480 I do want them, but, like, it's just for the ego boost.

00:13:30.460 Like, it's just to have a little fun.

00:13:33.660 Yeah.

00:13:34.600 Okay.

00:13:35.420 Mm-hmm.

00:13:36.380 It's for the ego boost.

00:13:39.020 Partially.

00:13:40.400 So, they're just there for validation.

00:13:42.780 Yeah.

00:13:43.680 A little bit.

00:13:46.680 Okay.

00:13:47.860 All right.

00:13:48.500 Good times.

00:13:49.420 Mm-hmm.

00:13:51.380 Here, moving on.

00:13:52.760 What about you?

00:13:54.200 Uh, wait.

00:13:55.360 Like, what do you want to know, though?

00:13:56.640 Oh, so, current relationship status. 0.99

00:13:59.040 Very fucking single. 0.98

00:14:00.560 Very. 1.00

00:14:01.000 Very effing single.

00:14:02.140 Very.

00:14:02.900 Okay.

00:14:03.500 Very.

00:14:03.760 And we do have, you were so kind to provide us with your dating app profile, which we will

00:14:09.420 review later.

00:14:10.700 Yeah.

00:14:10.880 But you're, despite the dating app presence, you are very effing single.

00:14:15.900 For a lot of reasons.

00:14:17.160 For a lot of reasons.

00:14:17.960 I was in a two-year relationship with a guy throughout high school.

00:14:21.660 Sure.

00:14:22.180 And he broke up with me because I found out I was bipolar.

00:14:25.540 He found out that you were bipolar?

00:14:27.400 Mm-hmm.

00:14:27.860 I got diagnosed.

00:14:28.320 Type 1 or type 2?

00:14:29.660 Type 1.

00:14:30.560 Is that, that's the bad one, right?

00:14:31.960 Anxiety.

00:14:32.600 That's the anxiety one.

00:14:33.800 Is that the bad one?

00:14:34.440 No.

00:14:34.680 That's the manic and depressive.

00:14:36.880 I mean, I guess they're both kind of bad.

00:14:38.000 No, type 2 is depressive.

00:14:39.020 I don't know what the bad one means.

00:14:40.920 Type 2 is depressive and hypomanic, so you're not technically as manic as bipolar 1.

00:14:45.420 Well, I'm definitely not depressed, but I found out I was bipolar.

00:14:48.420 He left me.

00:14:49.000 Are you, are you currently in a manic phase right now?

00:14:52.360 No, I'm hungover.

00:14:53.460 You're hungover?

00:14:55.060 Very.

00:14:55.540 When's the last time you had a manic phase?

00:14:57.820 Is that what the, it's called?

00:14:59.180 I don't really tell if I like have that, I guess.

00:15:01.700 You don't know?

00:15:02.200 You're just in it and you're, you're riding the wave?

00:15:04.460 Well, most of the time, I get really manic like a week after I drink a lot.

00:15:11.120 We should have you back on the show because, I mean, you said you're hungover, so we'll have you back in a week.

00:15:14.500 I went to Belltopia weekend this past year.

00:15:17.840 Oh.

00:15:18.580 Yeah, that was bad.

00:15:20.120 Okay.

00:15:20.620 I like went on the Easter Bunny shoulders and stuff and almost fell off a DJ stand, so.

00:15:25.420 Okay.

00:15:26.120 So you're very single.

00:15:27.280 Okay, so you're dating a guy for two years in high school.

00:15:29.900 You broke up.

00:15:30.460 How long ago did you guys break up?

00:15:32.300 A little bit over a year and a half ago.

00:15:34.240 A year and a half ago.

00:15:35.120 Okay, so for that year and a half, what's the dating life looked like for you?

00:15:39.020 I'm really closed off with men now because he was like my best friend.

00:15:50.420 And so when you're like with somebody for so long, you get so attached, especially your first love.

00:15:55.840 Because we were each other's first everything.

00:15:57.560 I was even his first kiss.

00:15:58.900 So when you like let go of something like that, I feel like it just hurts so much.

00:16:04.980 And it's going to hurt me probably for the rest of my life because he'll always be there somehow.

00:16:09.560 For the rest of your life?

00:16:11.420 I mean, yeah.

00:16:12.040 He was like my first love.

00:16:14.220 Like that doesn't...

00:16:15.480 I feel like for me, that's not going to go away.

00:16:18.100 So are you still in love with him?

00:16:19.360 Not in a way where it's like in love, but I definitely loved who he was and I still appreciate him as a person for sure.

00:16:30.760 Okay. 0.81

00:16:31.700 Even though he left me in a really fucked up way, I still... 0.96

00:16:34.680 He's still a good person. 0.91

00:16:35.800 He cheated on you, correct?

00:16:36.920 No.

00:16:37.860 Wait.

00:16:38.940 Never cheated, but like I have been cheated on.

00:16:43.380 Have been cheated on.

00:16:45.300 Okay.

00:16:45.580 Oh, wait.

00:16:45.980 Hold on.

00:16:46.260 I'm looking at the wrong notes here.

00:16:47.400 Hold on.

00:16:48.360 No, he found out she was bipolar.

00:16:50.600 No, he found out I was bipolar.

00:16:52.280 Yeah.

00:16:52.720 Can I interject for a second?

00:16:55.720 So I know it's not my turn, but I just want to comment on what you were saying.

00:16:59.640 There's definitely hope you will get over it.

00:17:01.800 I know what you mean.

00:17:02.620 Like it does stay with you.

00:17:04.460 So I dated a guy for three months.

00:17:07.560 It took me two years to get over him.

00:17:09.900 And during that time we were dating, I was really depressed.

00:17:14.060 I had a lot of anxiety.

00:17:15.320 And it was coming out very strong then.

00:17:19.500 And that eventually led to the breakup.

00:17:21.800 And I mean, we were only together for three months, but he was my first serious relationship.

00:17:27.640 I mean, I'm just saying.

00:17:28.300 All right, moving on, moving on.

00:17:29.680 It took me a while.

00:17:30.540 It took me a while to get over it.

00:17:31.700 But I did.

00:17:32.360 And like, it's not like I never think of him.

00:17:34.500 She's been broken up with him for a year and a half.

00:17:36.520 I'm like, yeah, I'm better now.

00:17:37.940 But they dated for two years.

00:17:39.140 I have a lot of hot.

00:17:40.960 You have a lot of what?

00:17:44.680 I have friends in my phone that I, they're cool.

00:17:49.400 You know, like, I don't want to say I have a roster because I don't look like a hoe a little bit. 1.00

00:17:54.280 No, no, no.

00:17:54.900 This is a judgment free zone.

00:17:57.120 Okay.

00:17:57.540 Zero judgment.

00:17:58.840 Speaking of rosters, though, tell us about it.

00:18:00.700 I've talked to a few people who were like, I've talked to an NBA player.

00:18:07.900 Okay.

00:18:08.480 I've talked to a couple musicians.

00:18:11.860 Like famous?

00:18:13.740 Yeah.

00:18:14.700 Yeah?

00:18:15.240 As someone.

00:18:16.220 Here, tell us their names.

00:18:17.100 Why not? 1.00

00:18:17.860 Fuck no. 1.00

00:18:20.400 Any other professional athletes? 1.00

00:18:22.700 Just one NBA player?

00:18:24.860 Like a track star, too.

00:18:27.580 Track star?

00:18:28.340 I was going to say a track star because you're a track girlie. 1.00

00:18:30.400 Yeah.

00:18:30.700 Yeah.

00:18:31.980 Okay.

00:18:32.700 He's a very good runner.

00:18:34.520 Like someone who runs, unless you're like Usain Bolt, that's, you're basically just a ventriloquist.

00:18:39.200 Well, then I wouldn't count that.

00:18:40.340 You might as well just be a ventriloquist.

00:18:41.700 Okay.

00:18:42.580 So, any, so musicians, any actors or anything?

00:18:49.060 I, like one actor, it was through mutuals because I have a lot of friends down in LA.

00:18:54.380 Sure.

00:18:54.580 And so everybody's kind of like friends with everybody somehow, I would say, in a way.

00:19:00.660 Sure.

00:19:01.320 So, you said you have a roster, though.

00:19:05.180 How many?

00:19:06.100 Hold on.

00:19:06.540 You were, like, throwing your friends under the bus, like, oh, I got stories.

00:19:10.740 Now, you can't be bashful now.

00:19:12.600 I mean, there is this one guy.

00:19:15.080 What do you mean?

00:19:15.800 I hung out with him on, what was it?

00:19:22.500 Okay.

00:19:22.960 I'm not going to say the specific date.

00:19:24.220 Yesterday?

00:19:24.620 It's going to sound wrong.

00:19:25.280 No.

00:19:25.580 Today?

00:19:26.140 No.

00:19:27.260 Oh, are you guys hooking up?

00:19:29.560 Um, somewhat, I guess.

00:19:33.440 I'm trying to be a little bit of, like, a celibate, like, not fully, but I'm not trying 0.88

00:19:39.100 to just have sex with a bunch of guys, right? 0.90

00:19:41.540 Like, just so I could do it, I guess. 0.99

00:19:44.620 Like, I'm trying to find someone who's more genuine, and I want to, like, have sex with

00:19:50.100 somebody who also feels the same way, like, there's some type of feeling, instead of having

00:19:54.820 a hookup where it's, like.

00:19:56.000 They don't, they don't just want you for sex.

00:19:57.720 Yeah. 0.95

00:19:58.100 Okay.

00:19:58.440 They want to pursue something more.

00:20:00.140 I'm, like, even if I don't even, like, want a relationship with them, I still want to be

00:20:03.320 their friend, and I still want to talk to them, you know, as a friend, if it doesn't go

00:20:08.740 anywhere far.

00:20:11.520 How long have you been so then?

00:20:12.860 Four days.

00:20:21.320 Four days.

00:20:22.420 Okay.

00:20:22.960 Somewhat, you said somewhat celibate. 0.74

00:20:25.160 But he is, the guy I did have sex with, he is the only guy I've had sex with in, like, 0.66

00:20:31.300 two months.

00:20:32.360 Two months.

00:20:33.060 Yeah.

00:20:33.200 Okay, sure.

00:20:33.760 So I'm trying to, like, space it out.

00:20:37.760 He's cool.

00:20:39.140 I puked in his roommate's bathroom, though, so.

00:20:42.860 It was love at first sight.

00:20:45.380 At first puke, I guess.

00:20:45.620 His roommates got really mad about it.

00:20:47.200 Hey, at least it was in the bathroom.

00:20:49.240 It wasn't his bathroom.

00:20:50.200 Yeah. 0.55

00:20:50.840 That's where you're supposed to barf. 1.00

00:20:51.960 I didn't make it to his bathroom.

00:20:53.740 Oh.

00:20:53.940 Okay.

00:20:55.080 And then, but before you met him, did you have a roster?

00:20:58.740 No, I had a situationship, actually.

00:21:01.080 Have you ever had a roster?

00:21:04.260 Yes.

00:21:04.980 Do you currently have a roster?

00:21:07.400 I.

00:21:07.640 Because you're seeing this guy, right?

00:21:08.820 He's the only guy that you're hooking up with, but are there other guys that you're kind

00:21:11.720 of entertaining?

00:21:12.680 For attention?

00:21:14.860 Yes.

00:21:15.700 For attention?

00:21:16.400 What do you mean by that?

00:21:17.280 Not attention, but it's, it's like everybody does it, you know?

00:21:21.360 Do they?

00:21:22.020 Like, you just, you text people, like, hey, you're cute.

00:21:24.900 Like, this and that.

00:21:25.540 And you have, wait, so you text them that and you have zero intention of, like, dating

00:21:30.940 them or, like, you're flirting with them?

00:21:33.900 Like, I mean, if they offer to hang out, I'm like, hey, I'll get to know you.

00:21:38.320 Okay.

00:21:38.520 But if, if they just want sex, I usually don't talk to people like that anymore. 0.92

00:21:43.560 Well, if they wanted more, would you hook up with them?

00:21:45.940 Depending on how I feel about them.

00:21:50.320 But what about two-month guy or whatever?

00:21:53.920 What about this current guy that you're seeing?

00:21:58.040 I still have to get to know him.

00:21:59.480 Well, you're not exclusive with him, right?

00:22:01.360 Okay.

00:22:01.760 I wouldn't care if he did anything with other people.

00:22:03.940 Do you want to be exclusive with him?

00:22:06.040 I don't know yet.

00:22:07.080 You don't know yet?

00:22:07.660 After two months?

00:22:08.980 No, no, no, no, no.

00:22:09.780 Like, he's the only person I have had sex with in the past two months.

00:22:13.940 Oh, how long have you known him?

00:22:16.360 Three weeks.

00:22:17.680 Okay.

00:22:18.160 So, we've been texting and stuff.

00:22:19.660 He's a cool guy, but.

00:22:21.220 Yeah, of course.

00:22:22.240 I don't know.

00:22:22.980 I don't know him that well.

00:22:24.880 Okay, so it's still developing.

00:22:26.740 Yeah.

00:22:27.060 Okay.

00:22:27.260 But I had a really bad situationship over summer.

00:22:30.540 That broke me hard.

00:22:33.580 Like, it was horrible.

00:22:34.500 Give us the plot synopsis.

00:22:36.960 So, we met on Hinge.

00:22:38.420 Hinge, okay.

00:22:39.420 And I was supposed to go to Newport for the 4th of July, so my Hinge was in Newport.

00:22:43.640 And he's from L.A.

00:22:45.680 And so, we drove up here, actually, for the 4th of July.

00:22:48.500 Got a hotel room, everything.

00:22:50.340 Great night.

00:22:51.100 Had fun.

00:22:52.000 Whatever.

00:22:52.680 He goes back, and we're still texting, like, you know, kind of talking.

00:22:57.560 Like, I enjoyed my time with him.

00:22:58.800 I thought he was cool.

00:22:59.460 We had a connection.

00:23:00.660 So, he invites me to go stay with him down in L.A. for three days, I think.

00:23:06.220 And he introduced me to his whole family, all of his friends, like, his second family,

00:23:11.720 like, people who, like, watched him grow up.

00:23:13.980 And they were all telling me, they're like, oh, he's never brought a girl around, ever.

00:23:17.840 And he's 20.

00:23:18.980 He's never had a girlfriend, which is a huge red flag, kind of.

00:23:21.800 Like, at least, like, I don't know.

00:23:24.440 It was kind of a red flag a little bit.

00:23:26.480 Okay.

00:23:27.000 But I'm the only girl he's ever brought around.

00:23:29.300 And so, I go back home from that trip, and everything was good.

00:23:32.720 Like, everything was fine.

00:23:34.180 All of a sudden, he's like, I don't want a relationship.

00:23:37.200 I don't want any of this because I just, I'm not ready for it.

00:23:41.380 And I'm like, you're 20 years old, though. 0.56

00:23:44.060 Like, how are you, if you're not mentally ready for a relationship, that proves how immature you are.

00:23:50.360 And I'm not going to waste my time on that.

00:23:52.400 But for, like, three weeks after, I cried a lot.

00:23:55.400 Because it was, like, a weird, it was, like, a one-time thing connection where it's, like, we got along so well. 1.00

00:24:00.680 But fuck him. 0.99

00:24:02.980 So, he told you that, and then did you immediately cut it off? 1.00

00:24:07.300 No.

00:24:07.980 For three weeks after that, we would, like, we would continue talking, calling, like, crying on the phone.

00:24:12.920 Like, I would get drunk, and then drunk call him.

00:24:16.440 Drunk call him?

00:24:16.920 Yeah, I actually went and saw, maybe, I went and saw him again, actually, after we ended, to, like, clear the air, I guess.

00:24:26.780 Unannounced?

00:24:27.720 Like, you just dropped by his house?

00:24:28.820 No, no, no, no.

00:24:28.920 Oh, you let him know he was, you were gone by?

00:24:31.000 Yeah.

00:24:31.560 Okay.

00:24:32.180 We planned it, because I felt, we both felt like we needed that to happen. 1.00

00:24:36.100 But honestly, he's a freaking asshole. 1.00

00:24:39.500 Like, big asshole. 1.00

00:24:40.840 Well, you said it was, like, when I first asked you about it, you said it was terrible and awful. 1.00

00:24:46.060 Well, it, not, not the, like, part where we were fine, but the, the aftermath was really toxic and not good.

00:24:54.720 Like, he was just so...

00:24:57.400 He no longer wanted to see you? 1.00

00:24:59.020 Is that the asshole part? 1.00

00:25:01.300 No. 1.00

00:25:02.420 There's just a lot.

00:25:03.100 Sorry, I didn't mean to cut you off.

00:25:04.280 He was so what?

00:25:05.380 There's just a lot more to it.

00:25:06.960 Because he's the first guy I've, like, genuinely liked since my ex, who literally left me for, like, a reason that hurt me.

00:25:15.520 Like, every time I've always found a connection with a person...

00:25:19.060 Okay.

00:25:19.880 ...they usually leave because they can never handle emotions.

00:25:24.260 They can never handle emotions?

00:25:26.000 Yeah, like, they can't speak on their emotions.

00:25:28.440 They can't, like, handle things like that.

00:25:30.820 Because, obviously, being bipolar, I'm a lot more emotional, and most guys can't handle that.

00:25:37.000 They can barely handle, like, a little bit of, like, anger and sadness.

00:25:42.620 Yeah.

00:25:43.760 Have you ever slashed anybody's tires?

00:25:47.080 No.

00:25:48.460 I'm not that type of person.

00:25:50.100 I don't like to stoop low.

00:25:51.900 Okay.

00:25:52.700 Wait, how did that question even come to mind?

00:25:55.220 It just slid through my brain. 0.97

00:25:58.080 I just don't like stooping low because then it makes me feel like a shitty person.

00:26:03.220 Even if they are a bad person or they've done something bad, it's like, their karma will get them on their own.

00:26:08.560 Is there a treatment for bipolar?

00:26:11.500 You can be medicated.

00:26:13.480 Are you medicated?

00:26:14.800 Yes.

00:26:16.440 I am.

00:26:17.800 I'm not scared to say it either.

00:26:19.600 No, well, I'm not...

00:26:20.680 The way you said it, though, I'm...

00:26:22.400 Sounded like you're not.

00:26:23.980 No, I am.

00:26:24.720 Okay, you take medication for it?

00:26:26.060 Not heavy, but when you are manic, you do have to take them to sleep, but that's kind of it.

00:26:32.300 I struggled with anxiety for a long time, too.

00:26:34.360 I took meds for that, but I, like, slowly got off of them because I don't want to, like, rely on them forever. 1.00

00:26:40.800 Wait, but the way you painted it, it sounded like the guy was this huge asshole, major jerk. 1.00

00:26:47.080 But I haven't really heard anything so far that would indicate that he was an asshole. 1.00

00:26:51.420 I don't want to expose him too much because he might be watching this. 0.97

00:26:56.800 Can you give us, like, a vague hint about what... 0.91

00:27:02.660 He said some really shitty things.

00:27:04.760 He said mean things. 0.99

00:27:05.700 Gotcha.

00:27:06.100 Okay.

00:27:06.840 About me personally that I told him about my personal life that's happened to me with, like, my past and growing up.

00:27:13.100 Because I didn't really have...

00:27:15.220 I had a good childhood, but mentally I really didn't.

00:27:18.240 And I told him a lot about that.

00:27:20.120 And he kind of, like, used it against me.

00:27:22.400 And that's when I knew, like, I don't want to do this anymore.

00:27:25.860 Okay.

00:27:26.740 Got it.

00:27:27.680 All right.

00:27:28.740 Do we...

00:27:29.220 Okay, roster.

00:27:30.240 You said at one point you had a roster.

00:27:32.660 I...

00:27:33.100 I have...

00:27:34.640 What's the most amount of men you've had on a roster at once? 0.99

00:27:37.700 What the fuck? 0.99

00:27:45.340 You can be open. 1.00

00:27:46.960 This is open.

00:27:47.840 I wouldn't say I have rosters.

00:27:49.900 I would say I have people that I'm into that I've gone on dates with.

00:27:53.840 And I'm into them.

00:27:55.120 And I try to give it a chance.

00:27:56.360 But most of the time it's, like, they give up.

00:27:59.740 Because they have the roster.

00:28:02.580 You know?

00:28:03.200 And so they kind of give up over time.

00:28:05.220 Because they're, like, reaching out to other people.

00:28:08.140 Yeah.

00:28:08.580 And then I just don't really care for it anymore.

00:28:11.040 Okay.

00:28:11.740 So how many of those people?

00:28:13.520 We won't call it the roster.

00:28:15.200 Like, right now?

00:28:16.320 Well, just the most at any point.

00:28:20.800 Three guys talking to at the same time.

00:28:23.120 Four or five.

00:28:24.400 Maybe, like...

00:28:26.960 30.

00:28:30.300 30?

00:28:31.260 Is the most.

00:28:32.260 It was, like, my junior year of high school.

00:28:36.180 In high school?

00:28:37.120 Okay.

00:28:37.540 Like, junior, senior year.

00:28:38.740 Like, within your high school?

00:28:40.040 Because wouldn't word spread, kind of?

00:28:42.120 No.

00:28:42.960 It was another high school?

00:28:46.680 Up and down California.

00:28:50.380 Up and down California?

00:28:52.400 Yeah.

00:28:53.740 In high school?

00:28:54.880 But I'm not, like...

00:28:55.920 At what?

00:28:56.340 16?

00:28:57.600 16 or 17?

00:28:58.280 It was right after me and the ex broke up.

00:29:02.040 How quickly after the breakup did you arrive at 30 on the roster?

00:29:06.080 That summer.

00:29:07.440 Well, okay.

00:29:07.980 We broke up in March.

00:29:08.980 Broke up in March.

00:29:09.760 And then, what, by May, June, you had the roster of 30?

00:29:13.500 It's, like, June or July.

00:29:14.960 I mean, it was summer.

00:29:15.880 Like, hot girl summer.

00:29:17.420 You know?

00:29:18.720 Are you sure it's not, like, 31 or 32?

00:29:21.620 Or it's, like, exactly 30?

00:29:23.460 I don't know specifically.

00:29:24.700 It could be more than 30?

00:29:26.120 Less than, maybe 29, 28?

00:29:27.700 I mean, that was last year, you know?

00:29:30.800 I don't really remember.

00:29:31.760 It's a daze.

00:29:32.680 It's a daze.

00:29:33.560 So, how did you meet, like, Hinge, right?

00:29:36.300 Did you meet them on dating apps?

00:29:37.440 Yes.

00:29:38.160 But you were, you said you're 16 or 17?

00:29:40.000 No, no, no.

00:29:40.640 Last year, I was 17 last year.

00:29:43.360 I was not on dating apps.

00:29:45.000 I would actually, like, on Instagram, people would, like, DM me through my TikTok.

00:29:49.680 You have a TikTok?

00:29:50.560 Yeah.

00:29:51.000 Okay.

00:29:51.280 Do you have a following on there, or just...

00:29:53.220 I have 47K.

00:29:54.940 Okay.

00:29:55.220 What do you post?

00:29:56.340 Just dance-type stuff, or...?

00:29:58.120 I go live sometimes.

00:29:59.360 Okay.

00:30:00.060 You know, got to get the bands somehow.

00:30:02.840 There you go.

00:30:03.280 Get the bands.

00:30:04.220 And you said up and down the California coast.

00:30:08.440 Maybe not the coast specifically.

00:30:10.300 I don't know.

00:30:10.680 Oh, sorry.

00:30:10.940 Inlands.

00:30:11.820 It's just people would, like, just text me on Instagram, and, you know, if I found them attractive...

00:30:17.220 The Pacific Northwest?

00:30:19.140 Who knows?

00:30:20.160 Pacific Northwest?

00:30:21.280 I don't know.

00:30:23.480 Okay.

00:30:23.960 I don't want to...

00:30:24.880 I don't like that anymore, though.

00:30:26.180 I'm not like that anymore.

00:30:27.580 I was like that.

00:30:29.500 Not going to blame it on the breakup, but I definitely was a lot more immature last year.

00:30:35.000 Right.

00:30:35.320 Because I...

00:30:36.140 Yeah.

00:30:36.960 I was a lot more immature.

00:30:38.460 But...

00:30:38.780 So, would you...

00:30:39.740 Were you, like, hooking up with all these guys?

00:30:43.380 No.

00:30:43.920 Not at the same time, maybe, but, like, the 30 guys, had you hooked up with them?

00:30:48.020 No.

00:30:48.580 No.

00:30:48.960 Okay.

00:30:49.080 Maybe, like, two.

00:30:49.980 A couple of...

00:30:50.600 Okay, two.

00:30:51.140 Got it.

00:30:51.500 Okay.

00:30:52.100 But that was, like, it.

00:30:53.900 Pretty much.

00:30:54.800 Right now, though, I'm, like, very single, but I'm not closed off anymore.

00:30:59.940 At least.

00:31:01.540 But you've been dating a guy for three weeks.

00:31:03.420 No, no, no.

00:31:03.860 We're not dating.

00:31:04.900 You're what, then? 1.00

00:31:05.980 You're fucking? 1.00

00:31:06.860 No. 1.00

00:31:07.480 We're just getting to know each other.

00:31:08.860 Wait, I thought you...

00:31:09.500 I thought you are... 1.00

00:31:10.260 No, but you are fucking. 1.00

00:31:11.980 You said you... 1.00

00:31:13.100 It was one time.

00:31:14.660 Four days ago.

00:31:15.760 Four days ago.

00:31:16.720 Have you talked to him since?

00:31:17.880 I'm trying not to, because I puked in his roommate's bathroom.

00:31:22.700 Oh, so you were, like, intoxicated.

00:31:25.320 Very.

00:31:26.720 No, no, no, no, no, no, no.

00:31:27.940 It's not like that.

00:31:29.380 I was aware.

00:31:30.940 No, no.

00:31:31.260 That's not what I'm saying.

00:31:31.960 But, but, but so you're trying to not, the guy that you broke your celibacy for, you're

00:31:36.840 now no longer trying to talk to him because of the happenstance.

00:31:41.960 Because I'm just scared he, like, thinks I'm, like, crazy or something now.

00:31:45.660 I mean, isn't it pretty common if you've been, you've drank a lot of alcohol to...

00:31:49.840 I mean, yeah.

00:31:50.420 I just don't know his opinion on it, to be honest.

00:31:52.820 I haven't really asked.

00:31:54.520 So, you're just...

00:31:55.500 We've been snapping.

00:31:56.480 Oh, snapping.

00:31:57.580 Yeah.

00:31:58.440 So, you are talking to him?

00:32:01.200 With my face and not, like, texting.

00:32:03.540 Oh, you don't write any messages.

00:32:05.200 It's just photos?

00:32:06.060 No, I just take a photo, send it.

00:32:08.940 And he sends what back?

00:32:10.480 A photo of his face, too?

00:32:12.420 Sometimes the ceiling.

00:32:14.460 Oh, I thought you were about to say something else.

00:32:16.120 Okay.

00:32:16.340 No, not that.

00:32:19.820 He sends photos of the ceiling?

00:32:22.400 Yeah, because I send photos of the ceiling sometimes.

00:32:24.440 Is this how people communicate in 2023?

00:32:26.240 Here's a photo of my face.

00:32:27.360 Yeah.

00:32:27.980 Dude responds back.

00:32:29.340 Here's the wall.

00:32:30.740 Unfortunately.

00:32:31.420 Yeah, that is how.

00:32:32.840 That's how they do it?

00:32:33.120 Most of the time, it's, like, kind of, like...

00:32:35.160 Have you tried high?

00:32:37.760 High?

00:32:38.500 Have you...

00:32:39.000 Is it a drone?

00:32:39.520 Maybe sending a high could work.

00:32:41.360 How you doing?

00:32:42.200 How's it going?

00:32:43.760 I mean...

00:32:45.080 You know what?

00:32:46.380 You could even communicate to him with smoke signals.

00:32:50.480 If we're going to be, like, non...

00:32:52.880 It's not nonverbal.

00:32:54.920 It's non-linguistic.

00:32:59.040 Smokestack signals.

00:33:00.200 I don't know. 0.99

00:33:00.340 The fuck is that right? 0.99

00:33:01.740 You've never heard of smoke signals? 0.99

00:33:03.140 Yodeling from mountaintops?

00:33:04.360 I don't know.

00:33:05.360 That's how they used to communicate back in the day.

00:33:08.460 What, your day?

00:33:09.060 You would know.

00:33:09.640 Back in my day, yeah.

00:33:10.480 I'm a boomer over here.

00:33:12.560 Okay, so...

00:33:13.340 Do you want to...

00:33:16.940 Do you have your phone on?

00:33:17.660 You just say, what's up?

00:33:18.660 How's it going?

00:33:19.380 I don't know.

00:33:20.480 You're... 1.00

00:33:20.640 I swear to fucking God if he's watching this. 1.00

00:33:22.980 I'm going to be so embarrassed. 1.00

00:33:24.220 This is the guy you broke your celibacy for.

00:33:27.620 My mom just texted me.

00:33:28.860 I'm watching.

00:33:30.180 What's her...

00:33:31.100 Yo, is your mom...

00:33:33.380 Is she...

00:33:33.940 Hi, mom.

00:33:34.540 What's her name? 0.99

00:33:35.980 Don't fucking watch this, please. 1.00

00:33:38.000 Is your mom single, by the way? 1.00

00:33:39.400 No, I have a wonderful stepdad.

00:33:41.000 Never mind.

00:33:41.740 Oh, you're into milfs?

00:33:43.380 Never seen her.

00:33:43.680 I mean, I'll show you a picture of her.

00:33:46.180 You want to see a picture?

00:33:47.400 Sure, why not?

00:33:48.140 Okay.

00:33:48.700 Wait, should I text him?

00:33:50.880 I cannot show his name.

00:33:52.320 Just...

00:33:52.920 Okay, fine.

00:33:55.020 Moving on.

00:33:56.040 Oh, wow.

00:33:56.580 He looks hot in that way.

00:33:57.600 Hold on.

00:34:00.480 I can confirm he looks cute.

00:34:01.900 What about you?

00:34:02.820 Oh, I'm kind of scared you're going to grill me now, but mine's a little less exciting.

00:34:07.960 I'm in a situationship slash single.

00:34:10.200 I've been single for three years, and my longest relationship was a year long.

00:34:15.460 Single for three years, in a situationship, with a man or a woman?

00:34:19.920 With a man.

00:34:20.620 Okay.

00:34:21.720 You're bi, correct? 0.70

00:34:25.640 I don't know where you got that from, but I guess you could say that.

00:34:30.300 I don't know.

00:34:30.660 I think girls are really pretty, but I'm definitely more attracted to guys.

00:34:34.140 Well, I think you showed us your dating profile before the show, and it said maybe you indicated

00:34:39.200 something that you were interested in women.

00:34:41.500 I don't know.

00:34:41.980 Most people have that impression of me.

00:34:44.240 I'm not sure why.

00:34:44.960 So you're in a situationship.

00:34:46.060 How long has the situationship been for?

00:34:47.920 About two months.

00:34:48.820 Two months?

00:34:49.360 Yeah.

00:34:49.940 And my understanding is you are...

00:34:52.340 Let me just pull this up here one sec, guys.

00:34:54.140 Mm-hmm.

00:34:54.380 And we have quite a bit of pre-show information from everybody here.

00:34:58.420 So you're Christian.

00:35:03.380 Mm-hmm.

00:35:03.780 You're a virgin waiting for marriage. 0.73

00:35:05.080 Is that correct?

00:35:06.100 Not necessarily, like, until we tie the knot, but I'm waiting for the person I feel like

00:35:09.600 I'm...

00:35:09.960 You know, like, we have a strong connection, and, like, I feel like we're going to be together

00:35:12.860 forever, and, like, in the event that it doesn't work out, like, I wouldn't be disappointed

00:35:16.640 in myself.

00:35:17.180 Can you scoot your microphone that way?

00:35:18.640 Yeah.

00:35:19.340 Like this?

00:35:20.080 No, no, no.

00:35:20.520 Just, like, keep scooting it.

00:35:23.880 Yeah, yeah, that's good.

00:35:24.700 I also found a picture of my mom.

00:35:26.780 Show me later.

00:35:27.440 It's fine.

00:35:30.620 Okay, we'll talk after the show.

00:35:34.080 Well, in your first message to us, you said that you're a Christian and a virgin waiting 1.00

00:35:38.300 for marriage.

00:35:38.800 However, I think you clarified later on, saying that you're saving yourself for the person

00:35:43.460 you feel like you're going to marry, which is different than waiting for marriage.

00:35:47.640 Yeah, that's, like, that's why I made that clarification, because I don't want to necessarily

00:35:50.820 wait to, like, the day that we get married, but if I feel like we have a strong... Because

00:35:54.180 I just...

00:35:55.180 My whole thing is, like, when I lose my virginity to someone, I want it to be about, like,

00:36:00.720 our connection and our emotions.

00:36:02.360 Sure.

00:36:02.800 And, you know, like I said, I've been single for three years, and none of my relationships

00:36:05.820 have been really healthy, and they were when I was in high school.

00:36:08.800 So, yeah, I'm just waiting for the person that I feel like we have a strong connection,

00:36:13.420 and we'll probably, you know, be together for a really long time.

00:36:16.300 Okay.

00:36:17.840 And what I...

00:36:18.780 In your pre-show notes, and thank you for being so detailed...

00:36:21.620 Yeah.

00:36:22.100 You mentioned that you're Christian.

00:36:25.580 However, you said you have very liberal views, strongly support LGBTQ community, feminism,

00:36:33.760 women's rights in general.

00:36:35.080 You are pro-choice, correct?

00:36:37.580 Mm-hmm.

00:36:38.880 Especially the choice to have an abortion.

00:36:40.740 You're into socialism and unconventional family dynamics.

00:36:45.580 Mm-hmm.

00:36:45.740 What does that mean really quick?

00:36:47.060 What is unconventional family?

00:36:48.560 I'm going to use a small...

00:36:49.520 Like polyamory?

00:36:50.200 Excuse me, polygamy? 0.94

00:36:51.160 Yeah, like polyamory or gay relationships or... 0.65

00:36:54.380 Since you don't like the they-them, some non-binary relationships. 0.97

00:36:57.520 It's not that I don't like them, and I'm not using that word in the pronoun sense.

00:37:02.940 Um, I just...

00:37:05.280 The pronoun thing is confusing to me to...

00:37:08.720 I can explain it to you later.

00:37:10.840 Well, it's...

00:37:11.480 Or right now.

00:37:15.420 Look, I just don't...

00:37:17.240 I feel like if you look at somebody, you can have a pretty reasonable assessment.

00:37:20.620 That's the issue, is that we've been following that tradition for so long that men and women

00:37:24.700 look a certain way.

00:37:26.600 And whoever created that, you know, where did you learn that from?

00:37:29.280 I don't think men and women look a certain way, and that's what we're trying to change.

00:37:32.440 I mean, every single person here is, besides Q and me and Nick, are female.

00:37:37.900 Okay, and how many people are in this room, and how many people live in the world?

00:37:42.160 Like, we're such a small percentage.

00:37:43.860 I've made...

00:37:44.500 I've...

00:37:44.940 Just by looking at you guys, I can make, like, I don't need to see your gonads.

00:37:49.020 I don't even need to see your chromosomes.

00:37:50.540 I can make a determination pretty simply.

00:37:52.920 I mean, you're...

00:37:53.500 Yeah, but you're basing that opinion on a group of nine people, and like, you are specifically...

00:37:58.100 You say...

00:37:58.440 I'm pretty sure, like, 99% of people I'd be able to, like...

00:38:01.040 Okay, but you just said...

00:38:02.040 You said, reach out...

00:38:03.480 Girls, reach out to me.

00:38:04.460 So, obviously, people who identify as a girl are going to reach out to you, and you're

00:38:07.720 going to have girls in here. 1.00

00:38:10.140 Wait, what?

00:38:10.960 Because you say you're, like, girls...

00:38:12.140 I say casting women, yeah. 1.00

00:38:13.780 Women. 0.81

00:38:14.320 Sorry, women. 1.00

00:38:15.140 Well, girls, women, yeah. 1.00

00:38:16.420 Yeah.

00:38:16.940 Female.

00:38:17.480 Yeah, so, obviously, people who identify as a woman are going to reach out to you. 0.80

00:38:21.400 Okay.

00:38:22.520 So, you can't make that assessment based on just who's on your podcast.

00:38:25.600 Well, I mean, I could walk around Isla Vista and with probably a 99% certainty determine

00:38:30.920 whether someone's a male or a female.

00:38:32.640 Okay, let's do that experiment, then.

00:38:34.140 I'm down.

00:38:34.520 You think...

00:38:35.140 What do you think my percentage rate would be on that?

00:38:38.300 You think I'd be off?

00:38:38.780 I think you'd be surprised with the college kids, yeah.

00:38:41.200 I think I could probably even someone who...

00:38:43.100 I would say even somebody who considers themselves non-binary, I think I could guess whether they're

00:38:47.780 male or female.

00:38:48.540 Well, that's the issue.

00:38:50.200 Well, do you at least acknowledge that somebody who's non-binary is male or female?

00:38:54.440 No, they're not male or female.

00:38:55.620 They're non-binary.

00:38:56.760 No, we're talking...

00:38:57.420 That's gender. 1.00

00:38:58.080 I'm talking about sex. 0.50

00:39:01.140 Do you know the difference?

00:39:01.860 I'm not going to try to guess someone's biological sex.

00:39:05.640 What?

00:39:06.500 For what reason would I do that?

00:39:07.740 You do acknowledge there's a difference between gender and sex, though?

00:39:10.240 Yeah.

00:39:10.600 Okay.

00:39:11.140 Mm-hmm.

00:39:11.560 But you do...

00:39:12.600 So male and female, that's in reference to sex, not gender.

00:39:15.500 Okay.

00:39:16.760 So then what was your question?

00:39:17.200 We can have a conversation about man and woman.

00:39:20.040 Okay.

00:39:20.700 Okay.

00:39:20.920 Those are genders.

00:39:22.060 Sex and female is... 1.00

00:39:24.020 Or male and female are sex, and man and woman is a gender.

00:39:27.960 So you can't use female interchangeably with gender because it's not the same definition.

00:39:33.840 Let me ask you a question.

00:39:34.740 Do you acknowledge that somebody who...

00:39:36.960 Identifies as non-binary can be male or female?

00:39:41.720 Biologically, yeah.

00:39:42.860 Okay.

00:39:43.340 Do you acknowledge that somebody who identifies as a woman could be a male?

00:39:49.360 Biologically?

00:39:50.140 Yeah.

00:39:50.540 Well, we're talking about sex.

00:39:51.920 I mean, yes.

00:39:53.740 Okay.

00:39:54.100 But I mean, I think if...

00:39:55.920 I think if someone...

00:39:57.380 Because you're talking about trans people, obviously, right?

00:40:00.180 Are non-binary people trans?

00:40:01.820 Well, you said if someone identifies as a woman...

00:40:05.440 In that specific, yes.

00:40:06.500 If some...

00:40:07.000 If a...

00:40:08.140 If...

00:40:08.500 Yeah.

00:40:10.000 Well, I mean...

00:40:11.280 I mean, yeah.

00:40:12.260 Biologically, they started as a male, but I like to consider them a female because...

00:40:15.600 I mean, that's...

00:40:16.220 I'm just gonna...

00:40:16.780 I'm gonna respect your preference.

00:40:17.860 No.

00:40:18.820 Well, you cannot become a male or female. 0.71

00:40:24.280 I think that's just a difference in opinion between you and I right here.

00:40:27.740 I would say even mainstream people who are transgender would agree that you cannot become a different sex.

00:40:34.880 You cannot become a female. 1.00

00:40:38.420 You cannot become a male. 0.57

00:40:39.980 We...

00:40:40.380 There...

00:40:40.580 There is a conversation about becoming a man or becoming a woman.

00:40:44.140 That's very different, though.

00:40:46.280 I mean, what about, like, if you get, like, a gender reversal surgery or...

00:40:51.900 Like, I don't...

00:40:53.140 Isn't that essentially kind of...

00:40:54.700 I mean... 0.99

00:40:55.080 You can get fake tits. 1.00

00:40:56.180 That doesn't make you a male. 0.99

00:40:57.520 At its core...

00:40:59.160 Yeah, you still have, like, XX chromosomes or XY chromosomes. 0.59

00:41:02.620 Sure.

00:41:02.840 But you can transition as much, you know, as you want to, as you need to.

00:41:08.480 I mean, there's...

00:41:09.480 You can identify as a...

00:41:13.140 You were born as a female.

00:41:14.640 You can identify as a male.

00:41:17.440 Mm-hmm.

00:41:18.120 Or, excuse me, you were born as a female. 0.71

00:41:19.940 You can identify as a man.

00:41:21.680 Mm-hmm.

00:41:22.920 Yeah.

00:41:23.800 But you can't...

00:41:24.560 You're not a male.

00:41:25.880 Your sex can't change. 0.99

00:41:27.340 Like I said...

00:41:31.400 I mean, you have hormones.

00:41:33.260 I mean, there's different surgeries you can get.

00:41:35.240 I mean, I think, essentially, you're inserting yourself with biologics of the opposite gender.

00:41:42.520 Like, what would you say about hormones, then?

00:41:44.220 Like, do hormones do nothing?

00:41:45.260 Do you think that the difference between male and female can be diminished to just the endocrine system?

00:41:51.980 I think in this day and age, yeah.

00:41:54.060 Just the endocrine system.

00:41:55.340 Mm-hmm.

00:41:55.720 What about the muscular skeletal system?

00:41:58.660 What about the cardiovascular system?

00:42:00.620 Do you not acknowledge there's differences...

00:42:02.260 I do acknowledge that, but different...

00:42:04.520 There's no therapy to change someone's cardiovascular system, for example.

00:42:09.640 That is true, but...

00:42:10.380 Or their muscular skeletal system.

00:42:12.460 Estrogen and testosterone does change stuff like muscle mass, though.

00:42:14.840 It might have an impact, but it doesn't...

00:42:17.040 For example, there's certain differences when it comes to the angle of, like, I believe, the hip, for example.

00:42:23.560 Okay, then I would agree.

00:42:24.780 Yeah, there's some...

00:42:25.600 Okay, let me phrase it this way.

00:42:27.740 There are some biological aspects that, yeah, you just can't change with surgery.

00:42:31.900 But we, like, as time has gone on, we've accepted more transgender people.

00:42:37.140 We've offered them more care.

00:42:39.420 There are, like, there are drastic ways you can go about, you know, appearing as the gender that you would like to identify with.

00:42:47.240 Okay.

00:42:49.400 Go ahead.

00:42:50.940 I would just like to ask a question.

00:42:52.480 So, if gender and sex are two different things, and gender is a social construct, then what's the point of getting sex reassignment surgeries if you're transgender, other than, like, what is it called?

00:43:06.360 Body dysphoric, body dysmorphia, which is, like, even if you're not transgender, you can have that.

00:43:12.820 You can...

00:43:13.320 So, what's the question?

00:43:14.080 You can be, like, anorexic, whatever.

00:43:16.100 Like, what's the point of sex reassignment surgeries if gender and sex are two different things, and gender is a social construct?

00:43:22.700 I think that's the issue that Brian and I were running into, is, like, yes, they are two different things.

00:43:27.660 Gender is a construct, and sex is something factual and biological.

00:43:31.280 But I think, and like we were saying, there are some aspects that you're not going to be able to change completely when it comes to your sex.

00:43:37.280 But why try to change anything at all if gender and sex are separate, and gender is a social construct?

00:43:42.720 Why try to change?

00:43:43.580 Because people who are trans, they feel extremely uncomfortable and troubled by the fact that they still have biological parts of the gender they do not identify with. 0.65

00:43:53.620 So, don't you think that we should be approaching that issue from the psychological point?

00:43:59.760 Like, why do you feel uncomfortable instead of putting them through these drastic surgeries?

00:44:04.480 I mean, are you talking about adults?

00:44:07.880 Because I feel like kids would be a different...

00:44:10.420 Well, in general.

00:44:11.660 Okay, I'm going to speak for adults, then, because I think kids would be way different.

00:44:15.620 But can you rephrase?

00:44:16.560 What was the question again?

00:44:17.740 Here, let's move on.

00:44:18.960 Okay, yeah, that's a whole other conversation.

00:44:20.360 That's another conversation.

00:44:20.780 Yeah, sorry to stray away.

00:44:21.880 You did say unconventional family dynamics, though.

00:44:24.120 So, you're saying, like, kids growing up and, like, polygamous polyamorous?

00:44:27.620 Yeah, or, like, gay relationships.

00:44:28.740 Because I see a lot of, like, propaganda that are like, oh, if you have a child in a gay relationship, 0.74

00:44:34.480 your child is more likely to grow up gay.

00:44:36.600 And there's statistics that show, like, whether a child grows up in a heterosexual or a homosexual household,

00:44:41.680 they have the same probability of being gay or not.

00:44:44.540 Okay.

00:44:45.220 Yeah.

00:44:45.700 I mean, typically, though, when I think of unconventional family dynamics,

00:44:50.020 if there's two loving parents in the household, cool.

00:44:54.040 Yeah.

00:44:54.420 What I think, where I think it probably gets a little difficult is if there's, like, three parents,

00:45:00.780 so it's, like, polyamory, I think that's probably a little, can be troubling.

00:45:06.400 Oh, I think another one that comes to mind, like, unconventional, because you said, like,

00:45:09.920 two happy parents, like, single moms, like, I think you can, like, there are plenty of

00:45:14.380 single moms out there. 0.99

00:45:15.140 And I think you can, like, you know, completely raise a child by your own.

00:45:18.920 I mean, it's going to be really difficult.

00:45:20.060 And if you have a support system, that'll make it a lot easier.

00:45:22.320 But, yeah, I support those kind of family dynamics as well.

00:45:27.120 Okay.

00:45:27.600 I mean, I think it's better if you can have two parents in the household.

00:45:30.600 I mean, arguably, yeah.

00:45:32.280 Statistically proven, too.

00:45:33.400 Yeah.

00:45:33.860 I mean, I'm not saying it's better to have a single mom, but I think you can definitely

00:45:38.000 do it.

00:45:38.820 Like, it's not impossible.

00:45:39.760 It is done, yeah.

00:45:40.540 Yeah.

00:45:41.320 But I think if you have two parents in the household, it's probably better for the child.

00:45:45.760 I mean, probably, yeah.

00:45:46.900 Yeah.

00:45:47.920 And then social, gee, there's a lot.

00:45:50.340 Socialism, okay.

00:45:51.180 I feel like we should move on to the relationship status now.

00:45:54.380 No, no, I'll get through it really quick.

00:45:55.960 Okay.

00:45:56.180 So, there's the socialism.

00:45:58.080 So, what's that mean to you?

00:46:00.480 I mean, think about absolutely everything in this country you have to pay for.

00:46:04.920 Like, the parking spot I'm in right now, I should be paying for that. 0.71

00:46:07.400 Isn't that ridiculous?

00:46:08.500 Like, you have to, everything is capitalized upon. 0.88

00:46:10.980 If we had a socialistic society, number one, people wouldn't be as rich as they are right

00:46:15.100 now, and we wouldn't have class differences like we have right now.

00:46:17.940 Like, I think we live in a system where they purposely want different classes.

00:46:23.120 They purposely gatekeep education.

00:46:25.360 Why is education so expensive?

00:46:27.500 You know?

00:46:27.780 You mean, like, higher education?

00:46:29.240 Higher education.

00:46:30.320 Yeah.

00:46:30.520 Why is education so expensive?

00:46:35.400 Probably because the government, you cannot discharge your student loans through bankruptcy.

00:46:44.520 Therefore, these companies, both the government and corporations that issue student loans have

00:46:54.160 no incentive to deny people student loans because it can't be discharged in bankruptcy.

00:46:59.780 So, yeah, that's probably part of it, I reckon.

00:47:04.160 Yeah, but isn't that, but that's the thing is, like, isn't that unfair?

00:47:07.620 Like, because you're talking about all these corporate, like, if we didn't live in such

00:47:10.640 a capitalistic society, we wouldn't have a conversation about all these big corporations

00:47:14.340 because they'd be under control.

00:47:17.020 So, are you proposing what?

00:47:19.380 Like, how should society look?

00:47:21.360 I mean, obviously, I'm not going to change the whole society by myself, but how should

00:47:25.700 it look?

00:47:26.260 I mean, look at countries like Norway.

00:47:28.020 Like, Norway's a really small one, so it's a little bit hard to compare.

00:47:31.040 Isn't Norway capitalist?

00:47:32.500 No.

00:47:32.680 No, they're socialist.

00:47:33.780 They also have a population of six million, though.

00:47:36.340 Economically, though, aren't they capitalists?

00:47:38.240 No.

00:47:39.420 They have a socialist.

00:47:40.760 I'm not super...

00:47:41.760 There's two public universities, and you don't have to pay to go.

00:47:45.880 Well, you can have free education, but still live in a...

00:47:50.040 I'm not...

00:47:51.040 This is not a topic I'm super well versed in.

00:47:52.960 And that's the other thing, too.

00:47:53.780 Maybe chat can tell me.

00:47:56.480 I'm pretty sure Norway, it's still a capitalist society.

00:48:00.800 No, I have a friend from Norway.

00:48:01.840 My ex is Norwegian, so I can actually answer this one.

00:48:04.560 It's not a capitalist society, but it is very hard to live there.

00:48:07.520 They do have free health care and free education, but they also have to serve in the military.

00:48:11.220 Yeah, and they...

00:48:11.920 It's not an obligation.

00:48:13.560 But let me ask, so...

00:48:14.660 For men, it is.

00:48:15.680 Let's just make sure we're talking about the same thing.

00:48:17.360 So in Norway, you mentioned a parking spot earlier.

00:48:20.380 Yeah.

00:48:20.760 You're saying in Norway, you don't...

00:48:24.100 Look, this is not a topic I'm particularly well versed in.

00:48:27.900 There's no currency in Norway?

00:48:29.940 Don't they have kroners, isn't the Norway kroners?

00:48:32.060 Yeah, but not absolutely everything you have to pay for.

00:48:34.840 Like, you have to pay for absolutely everything in this country.

00:48:37.520 You have to pay for...

00:48:38.360 I've been to Norway.

00:48:39.600 It's very expensive.

00:48:40.880 It's everything's 40% tax as well.

00:48:41.560 But that's because a lot of people have a lot of money because...

00:48:44.220 No, they don't.

00:48:44.900 The average salary of a Norwegian individual is like $67,000.

00:48:49.920 And it's more expensive to live there.

00:48:51.460 It's $14 for McDonald's.

00:48:52.660 Well, they're also very wealthy because of their...

00:48:55.660 The government set up a fund related to their natural resources.

00:49:00.300 Their...

00:49:00.940 What is it?

00:49:01.420 Oil?

00:49:02.520 I think so.

00:49:02.920 Like very...

00:49:03.300 That one, I'm not sure.

00:49:04.440 I don't know.

00:49:05.140 I don't know where we're...

00:49:06.200 Welcome to the Whatever Dating Talk podcast.

00:49:10.500 Okay.

00:49:11.000 So you...

00:49:11.600 Society, you shouldn't have to pay for things is what you're saying.

00:49:14.760 Everything should be free?

00:49:15.940 No, I don't think everything should be free.

00:49:17.740 But you mentioned the parking spot.

00:49:19.020 That should be free.

00:49:19.520 That's something I shouldn't pay.

00:49:20.600 Okay.

00:49:20.840 Like when I go...

00:49:21.400 Sorry, I'm going to heat it because this is something that makes me mad.

00:49:23.480 Like when I go to school, for example, UC Santa Cruz.

00:49:26.180 Yeah.

00:49:26.700 It's either I go and I pay for parking and there's not...

00:49:31.100 Like I could drive up there and there's like no parking.

00:49:32.820 And I'm like, what am I going to do?

00:49:34.100 I'm just going to be late for class.

00:49:35.340 I have to risk getting a parking ticket.

00:49:37.300 Like parking in a spot I'm not supposed to.

00:49:39.840 Or I take the bus that never comes like at the time it's going to come.

00:49:43.740 Like why is transportation so difficult for me?

00:49:46.780 Like to go to the school that I pay so much money for already.

00:49:50.960 I have to pay for coffee.

00:49:51.760 I have to pay for...

00:49:52.160 It's just like I already pay you guys all of this money.

00:49:54.960 Where is it going to?

00:49:57.840 So coffee should be socialized?

00:49:59.980 It was just an example.

00:50:01.320 Because I had this one day.

00:50:02.300 I was like, I got to pay for parking.

00:50:03.680 I got to pay for my coffee.

00:50:04.900 And it was like seven...

00:50:05.600 And it's like I already give this school so much money.

00:50:08.000 They should be offering some resources for free.

00:50:10.960 Coffee should be free.

00:50:11.940 We should not be paying for coffee.

00:50:13.880 If you pay $20,000 of tuition to your college...

00:50:18.900 But so then you could also make the argument that it pays for your library.

00:50:22.280 It pays for your professors.

00:50:23.620 Your tuition actually does go to something.

00:50:25.720 Do I think schools...

00:50:26.580 I paid a hellacious amount of money for school.

00:50:28.800 But that was a choice that I made.

00:50:31.160 It's a choice of also which school you go to.

00:50:33.140 You can choose to go to a community college first.

00:50:36.080 I'm a big advocate for community college.

00:50:37.860 Save a lot of money.

00:50:39.200 Save a shit ton of money.

00:50:40.620 And then decide to transfer at that point.

00:50:42.020 You can save so much money.

00:50:43.020 I think it is ridiculous that you have to spend so much money on parking UCSD.

00:50:46.880 I don't know where that I looked at it.

00:50:48.680 Seven deadly simps donated $100.

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00:51:08.220 Thank you, seven deadly simps.

00:51:09.800 Appreciate it.

00:51:10.600 Appreciate it, man.

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00:51:22.220 Um, socialism.

00:51:24.120 Okay.

00:51:25.000 We'll get, we'll come back to all that stuff.

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00:51:39.940 Wow.

00:51:40.500 Okay.

00:51:40.680 He added to something new there.

00:51:41.820 Thank you.

00:51:42.220 I appreciate it.

00:51:43.120 Um,

00:51:43.800 and just the last thing.

00:51:45.060 Okay.

00:51:45.280 So,

00:51:45.660 but,

00:51:45.920 so you're a Christian,

00:51:46.620 But, like, don't some of your views kind of counter to Christian doctrine?

00:51:53.880 I mean, I feel like you're asking me so many questions I could talk a lot about.

00:51:57.540 I feel like we should move on to the relationship side.

00:51:59.100 I know.

00:51:59.520 I just –

00:52:00.160 People don't want to hear me blabber.

00:52:01.640 Well, here's the last thing.

00:52:02.440 I mean, so the one that strikes me as the most kind of contradictory a little bit is –

00:52:10.760 so you're pro-choice, right?

00:52:13.100 But when it comes to Christianity, the Christian doctrine, wouldn't that indicate that you ought to be pro-life?

00:52:23.360 I mean, it could.

00:52:25.020 Like, what – like, are you talking about a specific doctrine?

00:52:27.680 Like, what are you talking about?

00:52:28.720 Like, a document?

00:52:29.600 I can't cite to a specific –

00:52:31.080 That's what I'm saying is, like, do you even know it's a core religious value of Christianity if you can't even tell me where it's at?

00:52:36.340 Well, I'm not particularly well-versed in the Bible, but perhaps – I don't know if –

00:52:41.680 You knit me together in my mother's womb.

00:52:45.160 And what – can you interpret that in modern English, please?

00:52:48.940 So that's a Bible verse saying that God created you inside your mother's womb.

00:52:55.100 And there's another Bible verse.

00:52:56.800 I'm blanking on it, but, like, he knew you, like, even before then.

00:53:01.280 Does anybody know that Bible verse?

00:53:03.100 Like, the one, he knit you together in your mother's womb, and then there's another one, but I can't think of the second one right now.

00:53:09.500 Mm-hmm.

00:53:10.280 Well, okay.

00:53:10.800 Something like he knew you before you were created.

00:53:12.520 There's a lot of notes.

00:53:13.100 In your mother.

00:53:14.120 Yeah.

00:53:14.320 Like, he knew you before you became an actual person.

00:53:16.940 Like, he knew your soul and your, like, spirit.

00:53:19.320 Yeah, that's the idea.

00:53:20.300 I can't remember, like, the exact verse, but –

00:53:23.000 Yeah.

00:53:23.360 I don't know exactly what it is, but it's something like that.

00:53:25.420 Grim Reaper 69 donated $100.

00:53:27.960 Yeah, thank you, man.

00:53:28.680 Appreciate it.

00:53:29.100 The question for the ladies, if the Grim Reaper comes and says, should I take your life or your husband's, who do you choose? 1.00

00:53:37.300 We'll go around the table on this.

00:53:38.500 We'll start with you.

00:53:39.040 Go ahead.

00:53:39.980 My husband?

00:53:41.300 Of course.

00:53:42.020 Sorry.

00:53:43.820 It depends on the situation, you know?

00:53:46.500 Just – however you take the question. 0.94

00:53:49.580 I mean, if he's a shitty husband, bye, but if, like – 0.94

00:53:54.120 Let's say he's a good husband. 0.97

00:53:57.820 If I love him enough, yeah, I would take mine.

00:54:01.260 Okay.

00:54:02.140 I'd take mine.

00:54:04.580 Depends if we have kids. 0.72

00:54:06.480 I'd say probably take the – I'm sorry, I'm off into my husband, but I'll take care of the kids.

00:54:11.260 If you have kids, you.

00:54:13.040 No, if we have kids, him.

00:54:15.760 Oh, okay.

00:54:16.440 Okay, yeah, yeah, the Grim Reaper takes the husband. 0.98

00:54:19.180 Yeah.

00:54:19.300 If you don't have kids, also the husband.

00:54:21.500 I'll sacrifice.

00:54:22.120 I'll sacrifice. 0.96

00:54:22.520 Oh, you'll sacrifice.

00:54:23.340 Okay, all right.

00:54:24.080 I'm going to heaven.

00:54:24.620 It's okay.

00:54:25.000 Emily, what about you?

00:54:26.040 Into the mic.

00:54:26.580 If I had kids, me.

00:54:29.260 I'd want my husband to make sure they're safe.

00:54:31.540 If you didn't have kids.

00:54:32.580 If I didn't have kids, probably –

00:54:34.000 Also the husband?

00:54:34.820 Probably – no, probably still me because I wouldn't marry someone unless, like, I really loved them and I wouldn't want to –

00:54:39.100 Wait, still you.

00:54:40.340 So, it would be me either way, but if I had kids –

00:54:43.760 Wait, you get saved or you get –

00:54:45.220 No, I would die.

00:54:46.040 So, both ways.

00:54:47.420 Both situations.

00:54:48.220 If I had kids, even more me because I'd want my husband to make sure they're safe.

00:54:52.460 Take care of them.

00:54:53.040 Yeah.

00:54:53.740 And then if we didn't have kids, I just wouldn't want to be alive without my man.

00:54:57.440 Sophia?

00:54:58.660 Me because I know that I would go be with Jesus and also because there is no greater love than to lay down your life for another.

00:55:09.280 So, definitely me.

00:55:09.860 If it's just the two of us, me, but we have kids, him.

00:55:17.000 Lynn?

00:55:17.600 I'd say me, especially if I have kids.

00:55:23.480 Okay.

00:55:24.420 Bender, the offender, donated $99. 0.80

00:55:26.940 Yo, what's up, Bender?

00:55:27.600 Thank you.

00:55:27.880 American Idiot by Green Day was ahead of its time and the Skittles Colored Lady proves it. 1.00

00:55:33.240 I don't flex on him. 0.94

00:55:36.100 Do you have a response?

00:55:37.980 Besides that?

00:55:38.880 Is that – that was the response?

00:55:40.080 Okay.

00:55:40.460 Well, Bender – A, Bender the offender.

00:55:42.240 Good to see you in the chat, man.

00:55:43.080 Much appreciated.

00:55:44.680 Okay.

00:55:45.260 So, here, moving on.

00:55:48.580 Maybe we can come back to some of that stuff later.

00:55:50.940 What about you?

00:55:51.780 I'm recently single.

00:55:53.500 Recently single?

00:55:54.440 Yeah.

00:55:54.660 How recently?

00:55:56.120 Like, we've been, like, on and off kind of trying to do the breakup, but, like, it would be officially, like, a month and a half.

00:56:03.020 Okay.

00:56:07.080 Longest relationship was, like, three and a half, almost four years.

00:56:10.440 Three to four years.

00:56:11.120 Okay.

00:56:12.380 And I had – you provided some pre-show notes here.

00:56:14.760 I'm just going to go through them really quick.

00:56:16.400 So, you said two out of your three of your serious relationships came from Tinder.

00:56:19.980 I did.

00:56:20.660 Dating app.

00:56:21.320 Okay.

00:56:21.600 Yeah.

00:56:21.860 You also did a challenge that you – 50 dates in 50 days with 50 different guys.

00:56:28.780 That was the attempt, yeah.

00:56:29.940 So, I didn't start dating until I was 19.

00:56:32.800 I was homeschooled for most of my life.

00:56:34.180 So, I graduated early, and then I was in college at, like, a very young age.

00:56:39.520 So, I was, like, I legally can't date anyone for a while.

00:56:43.280 And then once I was – everyone kind of called me a prude. 0.50

00:56:45.840 So, I was, like, screw it. 0.55

00:56:46.640 I'm going to see what's out there. 0.53

00:56:48.520 And I was, like, go big or go home.

00:56:51.240 So, I was, like, I'm going to go on 50 dates – 50 days with 50 different guys.

00:56:54.060 And so, my longest relationship was date 14 on the first attempt.

00:56:59.260 And then we were together for almost four years.

00:57:01.000 And then we broke up very viciously.

00:57:05.140 And then I was, like, might as well finish it.

00:57:08.180 So, I was, like, I'll go on – I'll try and keep going.

00:57:10.820 And then my next relationship was date number nine.

00:57:13.760 And then that ended – he got deported.

00:57:16.080 He's the one from Norway.

00:57:16.800 He got deported, funny enough.

00:57:18.300 No.

00:57:19.600 Did he overstay his visa?

00:57:21.120 Take his arrest.

00:57:21.700 No, yeah, exactly.

00:57:22.880 Yeah, he had to go.

00:57:24.300 Oh, man.

00:57:25.000 And then last relationship was a friend that turned into –

00:57:28.680 So, this whole – okay, 50 dates, 50 days, 50 different guys.

00:57:34.540 So, the first one, 14 dates in – now, so, what you're saying is prior to finding your relationship

00:57:43.780 from date 14, you went on 14 dates with 14 different guys within that two-week period,

00:57:51.400 before meeting him.

00:57:52.460 Yeah.

00:57:53.120 So, you went on a date with a new guy every single day without miss?

00:57:56.860 Without miss.

00:57:57.580 One day, I even went on two dates in one day.

00:58:00.220 Okay.

00:58:01.360 And then just a question, though.

00:58:02.680 So, date 14, did you know – like, so, you had the first date.

00:58:06.620 Did you – like, you knew right away?

00:58:10.020 Yeah.

00:58:10.600 After our date, I got in my car and I was, like, I can marry this guy.

00:58:14.680 And then I said, that's a weird thought.

00:58:17.020 And then I was, like, I really like this one.

00:58:18.980 And then did you cut it off with –

00:58:21.280 Yeah, I had two more weeks lined up and I cut all the guys off.

00:58:24.940 Oh, you had two more dates lined up?

00:58:26.660 No, I had two weeks upcoming.

00:58:28.120 Oh, you had two weeks upcoming?

00:58:30.060 Yeah.

00:58:30.460 You pre-booked?

00:58:31.360 I pre-booked.

00:58:32.220 Two weeks and you cut them all off?

00:58:34.040 I cut them all off.

00:58:34.440 What about the previous 14 guys?

00:58:36.920 I ghosted them.

00:58:38.180 You ghosted them?

00:58:38.980 Yeah.

00:58:39.480 I really liked this one.

00:58:40.700 Okay.

00:58:41.120 And then you did that – then you broke up with that guy and then you did this again,

00:58:45.400 but you only got to date nine.

00:58:46.740 Yep.

00:58:47.040 So, then you had nine dates in a row.

00:58:49.140 Yep.

00:58:49.820 And then, again, your most recent relationship, I guess, 12 dates in a row.

00:58:54.380 I went on 12 dates and dating in the Bay is very different than down here.

00:58:58.740 Sure.

00:58:58.900 I told myself I wasn't allowed to date for six months and I kind of, like, put myself –

00:59:04.320 because I'm a serial monogamous.

00:59:05.580 I've been in relationships for, I think, the past nine years altogether,

00:59:08.420 except for those little stints.

00:59:10.120 Sure.

00:59:11.800 I highly recommend women do it because – 1.00

00:59:13.940 You recommend women do what you did? 1.00

00:59:16.440 Yes.

00:59:17.160 So, reason being is because I feel like –

00:59:19.420 Ha-lam! 1.00

00:59:20.580 I feel like a lot of women are picky and they don't give a lot of guys a chance. 1.00

00:59:23.620 So, if you have to book it out, you have to actually give people a chance

00:59:26.440 and I think that would be good for women. 1.00

00:59:28.580 Are you really giving men a chance, though, if you're dating 14 of them in a two-week period?

00:59:35.380 You're giving guys a chance that you never would have talked to.

00:59:37.320 And then if you find – like, the guy I ended up in a relationship with

00:59:39.760 is someone I never thought I would ever actually date.

00:59:41.900 Like, he was not someone who, like, in the profile –

00:59:45.360 I thought he was cool, but I didn't actually –

00:59:47.400 You weren't physically attracted to him?

00:59:47.840 I didn't know until I went on the date, huh?

00:59:49.360 You weren't physically attracted to him?

00:59:51.700 No, he was a very attractive guy.

00:59:53.160 He's just not my typical type.

00:59:54.900 Was he attractive, that right there?

00:59:57.740 I mean, all the guys were attractive.

00:59:59.060 It was – I mean, in their own ways.

01:00:00.260 But, I mean, you couldn't go on dates with guys.

01:00:02.700 He was a little – he was very – I don't really go for blondes, and he was a blonde. 1.00

01:00:08.380 So, it gives me a chance.

01:00:09.920 Well, okay, so you – the first time you tried this,

01:00:14.800 you were able to secure 14 dates with 14 different guys in a 14-day period.

01:00:20.840 Yep.

01:00:21.020 And it sounded like one of the days you did two dates –

01:00:24.160 In one day.

01:00:24.700 You did – have you ever done three dates in one day?

01:00:26.760 No, that's too much.

01:00:28.400 Have you done – was it just one time you did two dates in one day,

01:00:31.320 or have you done that a couple times?

01:00:32.840 I've only done it once.

01:00:34.040 Okay, gotcha.

01:00:35.100 Well, I mean, the first thing I would say to that is women have dating on easy mode. 1.00

01:00:39.500 I agree.

01:00:40.620 Women absolutely have dating on easy mode. 1.00

01:00:44.020 Even I can never get 50 dates in a week.

01:00:46.460 Or 50 dates in a week.

01:00:48.340 Pre-scheduled for – like, an average guy is, what, lucky to get one date in a month or something?

01:00:59.000 Two.

01:00:59.360 Yeah.

01:01:00.060 Two?

01:01:00.500 Two in a month.

01:01:01.620 Yeah, women have dating on easy mode. 1.00

01:01:03.740 That's – I mean, look, I know it's – it's not a shock to me, but it's like, yeah, you got that shit on easy mode. 0.98

01:01:10.160 But I would like to say, also, the dates weren't like I was getting free meals every time or anything like that. 0.95

01:01:14.080 I have a question.

01:01:14.580 Do you have a brother?

01:01:15.800 Don't.

01:01:16.440 You don't have any siblings?

01:01:17.700 I have – I mean, I have half and step.

01:01:20.520 Half and step?

01:01:21.240 Yeah, my dad's on his third marriage, so.

01:01:23.060 Good times.

01:01:23.660 So, you have a half-brother?

01:01:28.960 No.

01:01:29.580 Half-sisters.

01:01:30.220 Oh, half – okay, okay.

01:01:31.260 Never mind.

01:01:34.700 Let's see.

01:01:37.240 You said in your messages to us,

01:01:39.060 I hear stories of women getting the red carpet brought for them on the first date. 0.77

01:01:43.220 I feel like I'm lucky if a guy will pay for a meal for me in the Bay.

01:01:46.940 Don't get me wrong.

01:01:47.940 I've had some amazing dates, but men in the Bay have no clue how to date.

01:01:50.820 I agree.

01:01:54.140 So, you want the guy to pay for the first date? 0.79

01:01:57.080 Is that –

01:01:57.340 I would like that.

01:01:57.940 You want them to –

01:01:58.680 And it also doesn't have to be dinner.

01:02:00.000 Like, I'm totally down for coffee or, like, ice cream.

01:02:02.120 But you'd want them to pay in the –

01:02:03.520 I would love the offer.

01:02:04.740 I had a guy one time on a date for a coffee date, walk up in line with Starbucks.

01:02:10.460 He goes, oh, I forgot my wallet.

01:02:11.880 Walked back to the door.

01:02:13.660 I paid for –

01:02:14.060 I have no problem paying for my own meal.

01:02:15.300 That's perfectly fine, or my own coffee.

01:02:17.080 I paid.

01:02:17.740 He walked right back to me.

01:02:18.740 He goes, I do this so I don't have to pay for girls' stuff. 0.60

01:02:21.340 Okay.

01:02:22.020 So, hold on.

01:02:25.620 So, the 14th date –

01:02:28.620 Hold on.

01:02:30.120 I'm trying to –

01:02:30.700 I lost my train of thought.

01:02:33.520 14 dates.

01:02:38.300 It's a lot.

01:02:39.080 It's very hard.

01:02:39.880 I remember.

01:02:40.360 Would you tell the guys that you were doing this?

01:02:43.740 No.

01:02:44.440 But, I mean, everyone's casually dating, so it's –

01:02:47.080 Yeah, but most guys are –

01:02:48.160 Most guys are not, and frankly, most men don't have the capability to go on a date every single day of the week.

01:02:55.160 At all, guys.

01:02:55.800 It's a lot of work.

01:02:57.020 I'd say even, like, really attractive guys, I'd say guys even more attractive, like, than your looks equivalent.

01:03:01.940 It's, like – it's not going to be that easy to schedule a day – a date every single day of the week.

01:03:09.800 It's every part.

01:03:10.100 Because guys, like, if you make yourself available to them, I'm free this day, they're going to take that opportunity, whereas women are typically not as flexible with – 1.00

01:03:18.720 Yeah, I mean, but like I said, I also did it because it made me – it forced me to give multiple – like, different types of people a chance that maybe –

01:03:26.460 Sure, that's fine.

01:03:26.580 Different races, different ethnicity, all that.

01:03:28.560 And so –

01:03:29.440 Different ages, too.

01:03:30.680 Sure, but what you did, and I get flack for this, what you did is actually one of my arguments for why I think men should not pay for first dates.

01:03:41.340 Because we don't – I don't want to feel like a sucker.

01:03:43.120 I'm going on a date with you, and you just went on 10 dates in the past 10 days with 10 different men.

01:03:48.680 Oh, you have a – you said you went on two dates in the night, so I'm going to go on a date with you, and then afterwards you have a date with another guy.

01:03:55.600 I'm going to feel a certain type of way about that.

01:03:57.740 Absolutely, and I respect that.

01:03:58.920 So like this expectation of traditional treatment when you have so many options and you're dating so many people, it's like I'm not going to pay for you.

01:04:06.940 I'm not going to be traditional when – like it's – I get that we're not – we wouldn't be exclusive, but if I found out, if I went on a first date with a chick and she saw a guy after me, you're not – yo, you're not getting any traditional treatment.

01:04:21.800 Well, like I said, you can go on the date, and you – I actually am all for like going out and doing things that don't cost little to no money.

01:04:28.580 Even if it's free.

01:04:29.800 Like you can go on a hike, I think it's a nice thing.

01:04:31.140 Honestly, if I knew – like if I knew this going into the date, somehow I became privy to the fact that you were dating multiple dudes.

01:04:36.900 Even if there was no expectation that I was going to pay, I would just cancel on you.

01:04:42.020 I wouldn't go on a date with you.

01:04:43.600 If I found out this chick was dating this many dudes, goodbye. 1.00

01:04:47.120 They can have you.

01:04:47.740 But if it's just a date, then why?

01:04:51.200 Like if you're not like sleeping around.

01:04:53.400 It doesn't matter.

01:04:54.340 It's just like –

01:04:54.540 I mean, you're just getting to know people.

01:04:56.100 I feel like it's different if you're actually like building something with this person.

01:04:59.900 Especially if it's a first date.

01:05:01.000 I like a girl that's properly single and that's not talking to 50 other dudes.

01:05:05.520 I concur.

01:05:07.640 Not only – hold on.

01:05:09.420 Not only had she been on 14 dates prior, probably still texting with them,

01:05:13.840 and she had a date planned out for the next 14 days.

01:05:16.700 So let's say I had a genuine interest in her.

01:05:19.820 I wanted to set up a second date.

01:05:21.620 Oh, you're booked up for two weeks. 1.00

01:05:23.820 Fuck out of here. 1.00

01:05:24.460 I'm not dealing with that. 1.00

01:05:25.900 I'm going to find a girl that's properly single, and then I'm going to talk to her. 0.99

01:05:28.880 But it's also like you're meeting these people on a dating app,

01:05:32.220 and you're just meeting with –

01:05:33.580 like if it's your first meeting, like you didn't –

01:05:36.360 Oh, she's free to do it. 0.62

01:05:37.660 If it's your first time, like you're just getting to know them.

01:05:40.840 That's great.

01:05:41.340 Like when I go like on date –

01:05:42.260 like when I was on a dating app and I would go on like dates,

01:05:44.800 like it wasn't even like really a date.

01:05:47.080 It was just like, hey, I'm meeting you in person.

01:05:50.840 Look, you're free to move in that way.

01:05:53.480 But what I'm saying is if I knew as a guy –

01:05:55.560 I don't know what you're saying, but like if it's just a date,

01:05:57.960 like you're just getting coffee or lunch or something,

01:06:00.120 then I don't –

01:06:01.040 I kind of understand like why you say like you wouldn't want to pay.

01:06:05.040 Like, okay, fair.

01:06:06.260 I think –

01:06:06.780 I don't even want to go on the date anymore.

01:06:08.500 Exactly, but that's the part that I don't understand.

01:06:10.120 Because like not paying, like okay, I get it.

01:06:11.640 It would set you apart though,

01:06:13.160 and then she might want to go on another date with you. 1.00

01:06:15.200 From the 14 –

01:06:16.180 the 30 other men she's going on a date on.

01:06:18.600 Because if all the guys have like the same mindset and they don't pay,

01:06:20.580 like she was saying like this guy like went out to his car

01:06:22.720 to grab his wallet so that he wouldn't have to pay.

01:06:24.960 What happened to the days of like liking the person

01:06:28.600 and you both like each other?

01:06:31.660 They have to –

01:06:32.060 Even for women.

01:06:33.560 No, here's the thing.

01:06:34.580 It's really hard to find someone that you actually like,

01:06:36.220 and if you are a woman who's career-oriented

01:06:37.880 or you focus on school,

01:06:39.060 I would love to know how you're supposed to meet someone

01:06:40.800 if they're not in your immediate proximity,

01:06:42.600 and I'm not dating someone that I work with personally.

01:06:43.900 I think it's personal reference though.

01:06:45.960 Yeah.

01:06:46.440 I wouldn't want to be with the guy who's like going on dates personally.

01:06:50.140 But here's the thing.

01:06:51.000 You could also go on a date with a guy

01:06:52.460 who's sleeping with three different women.

01:06:53.760 Why would you be more okay with that

01:06:55.600 and not to have him actually going to go meet someone

01:06:57.900 and genuinely find someone?

01:06:59.300 As soon as I found someone that I was like,

01:07:00.920 this guy's great.

01:07:01.880 I have no desire to even talk to these other men.

01:07:04.300 And out of respect, I wasn't exclusive with him.

01:07:06.380 I mean, it's one date.

01:07:07.520 But at the same time, it was something where

01:07:08.920 if I saw that there was actual potential,

01:07:11.540 I cut it all off.

01:07:12.560 And I have no problems doing that too.

01:07:14.180 If I was that guy who really liked you

01:07:16.420 and I knew that you had –

01:07:17.760 he felt flattered.

01:07:19.840 He honestly –

01:07:20.680 when we actually were in a relationship,

01:07:22.060 I said, as soon as I met you,

01:07:23.300 I cut it off with every other guy.

01:07:25.480 I think it's out of respect.

01:07:26.760 And it makes a man feel more special.

01:07:28.160 If you know she had options

01:07:29.360 and she chose you and you chose her,

01:07:31.400 even after the first date,

01:07:32.740 you knew there was potential.

01:07:34.000 There's difference of that.

01:07:35.180 If you're going out on a date with someone

01:07:37.020 and you're hooking up 0.95

01:07:38.360 or you're doing whatever you want to do,

01:07:39.360 that's perfectly fine.

01:07:40.160 But that's your choice.

01:07:41.280 But if you're just going to go get to know people,

01:07:43.360 I mean, if someone's actually looking for a relationship

01:07:45.220 and they want to meet someone,

01:07:46.420 by all means,

01:07:47.520 why should you waste your time going on –

01:07:49.860 I think it's mean when a girl leads a guy on for so long. 0.92

01:07:52.880 You go on seven dates

01:07:53.760 and the guy's paid for everything.

01:07:54.900 I think that's messed up

01:07:55.660 and the girl knows it's not going anywhere

01:07:57.080 or the guy's just trying to hook up with the girl.

01:07:59.580 I don't think it's bad if you actually say,

01:08:01.580 hey, I'm looking for something.

01:08:02.680 And if you're giving people a shot,

01:08:05.660 and I think that's a big thing,

01:08:06.640 it's like our date ended up being like six hours long.

01:08:09.120 And it was just because we wanted to talk

01:08:10.480 and we got to know each other

01:08:11.400 and we really found each other intriguing

01:08:13.280 and, you know, he's very articulate.

01:08:15.560 Look, so just to bring it back to what I was talking about.

01:08:18.260 So originally what I was saying is

01:08:20.600 in that situation,

01:08:21.940 I would not want to pay for the first date.

01:08:23.520 I wouldn't even want to go out.

01:08:24.720 I wouldn't even bother going out with a girl 1.00

01:08:26.560 who's doing that.

01:08:28.840 I mean, you're kind of gamifying courtship and dating.

01:08:32.960 I get it.

01:08:34.260 But – and you might say, well, you're single.

01:08:38.100 You don't owe it to a guy to only be talking to him.

01:08:41.520 Personally, I think it's pretty –

01:08:43.760 it's actually very easy to date just one person at a time.

01:08:46.840 But –

01:08:47.900 Oh, I only date.

01:08:49.160 Like I said, I cut it off.

01:08:50.280 No, but you were going on dates.

01:08:51.500 There's a difference between going on first dates

01:08:53.400 and dating around.

01:08:54.420 Like if you're going on multiple dates with multiple people,

01:08:57.000 there's a difference than going on first date.

01:08:58.920 To me, I mean, to me –

01:08:59.640 Because you went on a date and then that was it.

01:09:01.320 And then you knew whether you want to go on another date or not, right?

01:09:04.860 Did you kiss any of those guys on the first date?

01:09:07.060 A few of them.

01:09:08.120 Yeah, exactly.

01:09:09.080 I mean –

01:09:09.440 In my defense, one of them –

01:09:11.440 It wasn't by choice on some of them.

01:09:13.820 One guy like picked me up and put me upside down and kissed me.

01:09:16.220 It was very awkward.

01:09:17.800 Okay.

01:09:18.340 All right.

01:09:19.100 I'll just say like, look, you don't owe it to a guy to only be talking to him.

01:09:23.400 And we as men, we don't owe it to you to adhere to outdated, unfair gender roles

01:09:28.420 like paying for the first date.

01:09:30.300 You can get your own ride.

01:09:31.600 You can open your own door.

01:09:33.060 You can pay for your own meal.

01:09:34.620 And if you're going to be entertaining dozens of other men

01:09:37.260 while you're talking to us, then out the window goes traditional gender roles. 1.00

01:09:42.820 So can I ask on this part?

01:09:44.160 When you're saying talking to someone, I mean, I'm a –

01:09:47.240 I don't really –

01:09:47.880 I mean, if you're on a dating app, I think it's nicer to meet people

01:09:51.180 as soon as you can in person.

01:09:52.600 Like, yeah, you can have cordial conversation.

01:09:54.840 There's some people who will spend weeks talking to someone

01:09:57.080 and then they meet them and feel like, hey, there's no real chemistry

01:09:59.500 or they're really good at texting, but in person,

01:10:02.460 they're not that very articulate or they're not that comfortable.

01:10:04.440 Sure.

01:10:04.640 Like, you're able to portray a different mask of who you are,

01:10:09.440 I guess you can say, through text.

01:10:11.160 I meet people.

01:10:12.480 We match.

01:10:12.860 I say, hey, you know, are you free this day?

01:10:14.720 They say, yeah.

01:10:15.380 Like, and that's as quick as it is.

01:10:16.560 So it's not like they've invested weeks of conversation or that.

01:10:19.860 I think that's messed up.

01:10:21.420 But if you said, hey, I think you're attractive.

01:10:24.000 You think I'm attractive.

01:10:24.800 I think we have really good banter.

01:10:25.800 I thought your profile was cool.

01:10:26.680 Do you want to meet next Thursday?

01:10:27.560 I feel like most guys would actually prefer a girl who does that 0.99

01:10:30.600 versus investing all this time texting and then you find out

01:10:34.580 she's dating other people or you meet her in person

01:10:36.360 and then she's like, hey, you know, I'm not really feeling it. 0.96

01:10:39.200 And you're like, damn it, you know, I've been talking to this girl 0.97

01:10:41.140 for like two weeks. 0.99

01:10:41.720 You can meet up relatively quickly and still not be dating like 20 other men

01:10:46.120 at the same time.

01:10:47.060 Is your issue that she had like the two weeks like pre-scheduled

01:10:50.300 or that she was going on dates every day?

01:10:53.340 The whole thing just makes me uncomfortable. 1.00

01:10:56.160 The whole fucking thing is uncomfortable. 0.99

01:10:57.400 Is it because you can only get two dates a month? 0.99

01:10:59.500 Is that why?

01:11:00.540 Is it because you're jealous that women have it on easy mode?

01:11:03.320 I think it's pretty normal.

01:11:04.900 It has nothing to do with jealousy.

01:11:06.520 That's just not a woman that I want to associate with. 0.99

01:11:09.820 That's personal reference too.

01:11:11.400 Everybody has different references.

01:11:13.140 Right, and if everyone has different opinions,

01:11:14.760 like you can totally respect someone's preference to not want to date

01:11:17.500 somebody who's dating around with multiple people.

01:11:19.780 Like dating around with multiple people is really simple.

01:11:22.480 It just means you're going out with multiple people.

01:11:24.440 And a lot of men like Brian don't want a girl

01:11:27.380 that goes on multiple dates, but some guys don't care.

01:11:29.880 I'm just trying to like understand.

01:11:31.740 Like if she's just meeting with people,

01:11:34.200 like she's not like hoeing around, so to speak. 0.99

01:11:36.680 Like she's not sleeping around, whatever.

01:11:38.760 She's just meeting people, talking to them.

01:11:40.840 Like I don't, she's not even like emotionally invested at that point.

01:11:45.220 She's just getting to know them.

01:11:47.240 I'm just trying to like understand.

01:11:48.660 I don't know.

01:11:49.380 Let me try to put it this way.

01:11:50.840 Let's say, because I'm not, for me,

01:11:52.940 I don't really have an interest in one night stands 0.97

01:11:55.160 or just fucking a girl once and maybe stringing her along a bit. 0.98

01:11:58.560 I'm dating. 0.99

01:11:59.260 Like if I'm pursuing a girl, let's say we do hook up.

01:12:02.180 I want there to be continuity.

01:12:03.340 I want to continue seeing her.

01:12:04.420 I want it to, maybe it leads to a long-term relationship.

01:12:09.420 So my issue would be, if this is going to be my future girlfriend,

01:12:13.500 if this is going to be my future wife,

01:12:14.880 if this is going to be my future mother of my children,

01:12:17.260 I'm going to feel a very strong type of way

01:12:19.920 if I found out that the first time I met her, 1.00

01:12:23.460 the first date I had with her, oh, fuck. 1.00

01:12:26.360 Getting passionate there. 1.00

01:12:27.420 And she was on a, she, after her date with me,

01:12:31.580 she went on a date with another guy. 0.99

01:12:33.980 That to me is just kind of fucking scummy. 0.99

01:12:36.000 I don't know what to say. 0.99

01:12:37.980 Wait, wait.

01:12:38.740 But I think that's different.

01:12:39.620 When you went on a date with somebody that you actually liked,

01:12:42.720 then you wouldn't go on another date with a different guy, right?

01:12:45.880 No.

01:12:46.160 When I saw potential, I cut off all future dates

01:12:48.240 because out of respect to him, I don't want to keep doing that.

01:12:50.920 No, right.

01:12:51.620 But, okay.

01:12:52.660 So it was just before, like if this was like your future wife

01:12:55.840 and you were like married or the mother of your children

01:12:58.760 and you found out that she was, she had like 14 days of dating,

01:13:03.440 you were the 14th guy, but after you, she didn't see anyone.

01:13:06.300 What does it matter?

01:13:07.160 Like, if she, like, I understand like body count,

01:13:09.400 but this is different.

01:13:10.120 Like, it's not a body count.

01:13:11.380 It's just, she's meeting people.

01:13:12.560 Well, she, okay.

01:13:13.000 So she gave an example of where in one day

01:13:16.500 she went on a date with two different men.

01:13:19.400 That's like, to me, it's like, what's going on here?

01:13:23.520 But if you were interested in the first guy.

01:13:25.340 I'm trying to, I'm trying to find a long-term relationship.

01:13:27.480 Okay.

01:13:27.680 So if you were, if you went on, so one day you went on a date

01:13:30.620 with two guys on the same day.

01:13:32.320 Yeah.

01:13:32.500 If the first one you felt some kind of way for,

01:13:35.460 would you have broken off the second one the same day?

01:13:37.960 Yes.

01:13:40.280 Okay.

01:13:40.980 Let's say, for example, well, first off,

01:13:45.440 I would say that while she might've broken it off

01:13:47.980 with all those other guys, she may have very well,

01:13:50.980 there might've been some other contenders.

01:13:53.180 Were there some other contenders?

01:13:54.460 Or all 13 of those guys were just no-goes?

01:13:58.140 There was like one or two that like, I was like,

01:14:00.760 okay, I could see going on a second date.

01:14:03.020 Right.

01:14:03.280 Maybe that kind of thing.

01:14:03.600 Okay.

01:14:03.760 Let's say you didn't, sure.

01:14:05.080 Let's say you didn't meet the guy who you were like,

01:14:08.140 whoa, this is the one.

01:14:09.080 Okay.

01:14:09.340 I'm cutting everybody else off.

01:14:10.740 But there were a couple that you wanted to continue seeing.

01:14:13.700 Maybe second date, right?

01:14:15.220 Okay.

01:14:15.440 So you go on a second date with them.

01:14:16.640 And then eventually it maybe leads to something more long-term with those guys.

01:14:21.200 I mean, the whole time I'm seeing you, I'm going on dates with you,

01:14:24.220 whatever, you're talking to other guys, who knows what else you're doing.

01:14:26.840 You're saying you're not doing anything else with them.

01:14:29.660 I'm not.

01:14:30.220 No.

01:14:31.400 Maybe you move that way, but a lot of people don't move that way.

01:14:34.200 Agreed.

01:14:35.140 I just would feel, I'd feel a certain type of way about that.

01:14:38.500 I would, I would.

01:14:39.940 And I respect that, but it's also one of those things like,

01:14:42.120 would you argue that if men had the option to do that, they would do that?

01:14:46.940 Because I think most of the men that I know, and I primarily work with men,

01:14:50.920 would love that.

01:14:51.740 Like, I see it from the, yeah, they would love to go on 14 different dates.

01:14:55.620 Men don't have the capability of doing that. 1.00

01:14:58.320 But the argument could be that if a woman has to be more open, 1.00

01:15:01.480 she's going to give other guys a shot, 1.00

01:15:02.940 and she could potentially meet someone.

01:15:05.320 So if, if girl, I agree.

01:15:06.520 I, I see girls and I admittedly in the same way of like,

01:15:09.180 if you're on a dating app, you swipe and it kind of gives you like a fun

01:15:13.900 left, right, left, right kind of thing of your, what you're doing.

01:15:16.180 And you put everyone to basically a picture and a profile.

01:15:18.400 That's all it is.

01:15:19.440 If women said, okay, I'm going to go on, let's, let's make it more tame. 1.00

01:15:24.420 Let's say five dates this month.

01:15:26.740 Whether or not I have actually liked someone,

01:15:28.720 I have to give more men a shot.

01:15:30.200 And I think that actually works in men's favor. 0.92

01:15:32.940 Cause if a woman is going to say, okay, I have to go on. 1.00

01:15:35.180 Like I said, I typically most, a lot of the guys that message,

01:15:39.160 obviously they would have to be respectful in their comments.

01:15:41.860 Rippin Lips donated $100.

01:15:44.660 What do you all think about Donald Trump?

01:15:47.580 Is he a misogynist?

01:15:49.440 Would you vote for him?

01:15:51.980 Okay.

01:15:52.980 Thank you.

01:15:53.500 Rippin Lips.

01:15:54.980 We can only do one question per TTS.

01:15:57.500 So would you vote for Donald Trump?

01:16:00.080 We'll do that one.

01:16:01.820 Never.

01:16:03.240 Oh, that's it?

01:16:05.340 Okay.

01:16:06.420 No.

01:16:07.240 No.

01:16:08.400 Hell yeah.

01:16:09.640 Yes.

01:16:10.660 Yes.

01:16:12.300 I don't really get into politics.

01:16:14.900 Nick, Nick, Nick.

01:16:16.360 Huh?

01:16:16.920 I don't really get into politics just because I think it's a lot of time.

01:16:22.080 And so I just don't vote in general.

01:16:25.720 Okay.

01:16:26.160 There you have it.

01:16:26.680 Thank you.

01:16:26.940 Rippin Lips.

01:16:28.100 Okay.

01:16:29.260 I'm trying to think.

01:16:31.040 Look, ultimately just look, I'm probably most guys don't mind.

01:16:34.260 Right.

01:16:35.060 Most guys.

01:16:35.680 Okay.

01:16:35.880 Whatever.

01:16:36.780 But, but can I say if, if more women gave other guys a shot, 1.00

01:16:40.240 that wasn't their typical type or whatever, you know, ridiculous. 0.98

01:16:43.220 So you're doing them a favor? 0.98

01:16:44.400 That's even worse.

01:16:45.500 Oh, she's giving me a favor.

01:16:47.540 I'm just saying it's not even a favor.

01:16:49.120 It's saying women can't be as picky, which I think is a good thing. 1.00

01:16:52.420 Cause you actually, cause like I said, nothing about my ex.

01:16:55.160 I thought he was a great guy and he's one of those things.

01:16:56.700 But if I just saw his profile, he had a, like, it was fine.

01:17:00.220 It wasn't anything that really stood out physically.

01:17:02.380 He wasn't my initial attractive type.

01:17:04.360 But once I met him and I got to know him, I'm a sapiosexual.

01:17:06.380 So as soon as I get to know someone, if we can have a really good conversation,

01:17:08.920 I found myself very attracted to him.

01:17:11.520 So you're more so, you more so mean dismissive cause you were still picky.

01:17:14.900 I mean, at the end of the day, it ended up being two out of 50.

01:17:17.080 Yeah.

01:17:17.380 So, so, so dismissive.

01:17:19.600 So a lot of women, and when they see profiles, they dismiss men on all kinds of parameters. 0.99

01:17:25.440 And then you could also argue that men, I mean, depending on the guy, a lot of guys are

01:17:29.400 still picky, even if they say, aren't the criminal a crime.

01:17:33.840 So, I mean, but your motivation was simply to be more open to the idea.

01:17:38.080 Yeah.

01:17:38.640 Open to it.

01:17:39.240 Cause it challenged me to actually say, okay, everyone has like what they're naturally attracted

01:17:43.880 to, can I, can I venture out of that?

01:17:46.200 And he was someone that was outside of that.

01:17:51.200 She's just being open, Brian.

01:17:52.720 She's open.

01:17:53.660 Would you guys rather have somebody who's dismissive?

01:17:57.380 I don't know.

01:17:57.720 Well, I wouldn't know.

01:17:58.820 I would be dismissed.

01:18:00.620 I mean, that's a good point, but like, but like in general, like, would you rather have

01:18:05.080 women be more dismissive or dating more guys? 0.99

01:18:09.120 It's, it's a bias because if she's dating me, then yeah, I would want her to be dismissive.

01:18:14.200 But if I'm, if I'm the one, if I, if I want to be seen by her, then I would want her to

01:18:17.880 give me a chance.

01:18:19.860 Yeah.

01:18:20.340 But so if, how do I say it?

01:18:22.540 It's like, would you rather the scenario where a girl looks at your profile and she's

01:18:27.000 dismissive and she's like, oh no, or she gives you a chance and then, you know, maybe 0.88

01:18:31.160 you guys really hit it off.

01:18:32.140 And, uh, and like she said, that guy that you were actually interested in, like you

01:18:36.100 never thought that you'd be interested in him.

01:18:38.080 So, you know, maybe it's the same way.

01:18:39.460 Maybe she's, uh, she's like really into you and she just never would have thought based

01:18:42.980 on your profile.

01:18:43.820 Well, I mean, again, that's a bias because if it's me, we talking about me, then yeah,

01:18:48.380 I'm pretty sure I can charm any woman. 0.99

01:18:50.140 But if it's somebody else, I might be more self-aware to know that I'm, this woman's not 0.97

01:18:55.500 going to like me.

01:18:56.820 Like there are a lot of guys who, it's understanding just how selective women are. 0.94

01:19:01.060 Women are extremely selective. 1.00

01:19:02.700 Y'all all know y'all are extremely selective.

01:19:05.000 So women dismiss men. 0.81

01:19:06.900 Women have a million turnoffs. 1.00

01:19:08.640 So once one of those, the offender donated $99.

01:19:13.080 The reason most men don't like when a woman has multiple dates lined up is that if Brian,

01:19:18.400 for example, is the 14th dude in line, he would have to wait for the date.

01:19:22.840 And it's not a guarantee that the woman likes him dot.

01:19:25.660 It's a waste of time and money for men. 1.00

01:19:28.100 So you'd rather have a dismissive.

01:19:29.640 I'd rather just, like if a girl told me, by the way, Brian, I just had five dates this

01:19:37.520 week.

01:19:37.880 I've got five.

01:19:38.440 I've actually, I was on a date with a girl who is totally unremarkable.

01:19:44.460 Not like, and she told me, oh, she just downloaded Hinge.

01:19:47.780 She'd already been on three dates.

01:19:49.300 She had two dates planned for the weekend.

01:19:50.880 And I just lost all interest.

01:19:52.460 I mean, I appreciate her telling me, but I'm like, they can have you.

01:19:55.920 That's my thought process.

01:19:57.140 Look, I get it.

01:19:57.740 We're not.

01:19:58.180 They don't have you.

01:19:59.220 Like, it's just a date.

01:20:00.900 Right.

01:20:01.240 But if you're talking to that other dude, it's like, for me, like, I just don't want to deal

01:20:07.040 with that.

01:20:08.220 It's the principle.

01:20:09.400 Like, I don't want to.

01:20:11.480 Okay.

01:20:12.040 So what's the principle?

01:20:13.280 Your attention is divided.

01:20:15.400 You're not, like, if you were, I know, look, I know you said you're not sleeping with all

01:20:22.020 these guys, but it's kind of like the same principle as when it comes to body count. 0.99

01:20:25.480 If you're fucking five other dudes and you're trying to sleep with me, it's like, fuck no, 1.00

01:20:29.020 I don't even want to have sex with you. 1.00

01:20:30.180 I don't want anything from you. 0.91

01:20:31.460 And I respect that.

01:20:32.340 I think that's perfect.

01:20:32.860 But it's almost the same thing.

01:20:34.980 With body count, your sexual attention is divided.

01:20:38.320 With going on this many dates, your romantic attention is divided.

01:20:41.860 I don't just want your sexual attention.

01:20:44.480 I want your romantic attention.

01:20:46.300 I want your emotional attention.

01:20:47.840 And if you're talking to 14 other guys, to me, to some degree, it's, for example, I would

01:20:52.880 think if I went on a date with a girl and she found out that I went on a date with two

01:20:58.220 other girls that night, I would see how she might feel a little, like, a little off by 0.97

01:21:02.560 that.

01:21:02.820 She might feel a little disrespected.

01:21:04.640 She wouldn't feel sexual.

01:21:06.340 Here's another question, though.

01:21:07.580 Don't you think that a lot of women would actually, to be honest, be kind of attracted to

01:21:11.760 that, because you're a guy who's in demand.

01:21:13.340 Well, that's a fair point.

01:21:14.480 There is a differential there between men and women, because I think women typically 0.99

01:21:18.860 are, how do I articulate this?

01:21:22.500 Q, you got something for this.

01:21:24.300 I have a thought on this, but I feel like you might.

01:21:27.440 I'm trying to understand what you're saying.

01:21:29.100 So if you could describe it.

01:21:30.000 Well, she's saying that, she's saying, for me, for example, it would be kind of, it would

01:21:34.880 certainly be a turn off if a girl was sleeping with other men or dating other men, but a woman, 1.00

01:21:39.340 some women might view a guy who's getting with other women as more desirable because 0.99

01:21:44.880 women, like, pre-selection. 1.00

01:21:47.120 Yeah, because it signals to other women that this guy has things that women desire.

01:21:51.400 And if you don't feel special at the end of the day, if you and I were to go on, if you

01:21:56.060 and I were to go on a date, and I went on two, three dates prior, and you felt some type

01:22:00.520 of way, I could easily talk my way out of that.

01:22:02.700 I could easily explain to you, you're different.

01:22:05.580 I see you different.

01:22:06.480 I'm a guy.

01:22:07.060 I have less options.

01:22:08.020 I have less opportunities.

01:22:08.920 So I have to take advantage of my opportunities.

01:22:11.320 You're more selective.

01:22:12.800 You can afford to dismiss guys.

01:22:14.380 You can afford to tell guys, I don't really, you know, you can afford to do that.

01:22:18.060 Me, you can understand.

01:22:20.060 He's just being a guy.

01:22:21.240 And at the end of the day, women are still wired to know men are just being men. 0.74

01:22:24.900 So you know we can compartmentalize, you know, you know we can compartmentalize sex and emotion.

01:22:29.140 You know we can compartmentalize, you know, liking a woman but not wanting to be with her. 1.00

01:22:33.100 So all of these things still leave the door open for you to understand that you have a

01:22:37.360 shot, whereas with guys, what Brian is saying is he's much more serious about the way he

01:22:42.420 approaches dating.

01:22:43.480 So because he's much more serious about the way he approaches dating, when he sees a woman that

01:22:47.340 does things like go on multiple dates, he don't know if he can take her seriously because 0.88

01:22:51.180 that by default is showing that her strategy for dating is basically bullshitting. 1.00

01:22:57.560 That's what he's saying. 0.97

01:23:00.800 Yes!

01:23:02.320 That's awesome!

01:23:04.320 Pretty much, pretty much what...

01:23:05.920 Brian, that's a good point.

01:23:07.200 But that's why I feel like you don't tell somebody on a first date that you're, that

01:23:11.860 you've just gone on 13 other dates with guys until you're in a serious relationship and

01:23:16.000 then maybe if it comes up, you're like, oh, by the way...

01:23:18.300 That's a breakup, that's a breakup, goodbye.

01:23:20.280 I don't know, I feel like that guy's like serious.

01:23:22.160 He was flattered.

01:23:22.880 If you've been dating for like two years, I mean, if it was before you, or if they ask

01:23:29.340 you, anyway, but no, I see your point now.

01:23:33.140 I mean, if I knew that a guy, if I was like his third date that day, it would be, it would

01:23:36.940 be a turnoff.

01:23:37.380 But if we had been dating for like two years, whatever, we're serious, and he goes, oh,

01:23:40.620 by the way, I was on this dating app, I was seeing a bunch of girls, but I picked you, 0.95

01:23:44.160 I would feel like flattered.

01:23:45.440 I'd be like, right?

01:23:47.000 Well, also one thing that I'd like to clarify...

01:23:49.060 I feel special.

01:23:49.860 Yeah, sorry to cut you off.

01:23:50.640 One thing I would like to clarify is, I get as far as the romantic attention, I agree with

01:23:55.200 that.

01:23:55.620 But if you're just matching with someone and you set a date right then and there, you

01:23:59.660 have not romantically invested anything in me.

01:24:01.980 Exactly.

01:24:02.220 I haven't romantically invested anything in you.

01:24:04.500 When we meet in person, it's going to be the first time we actually both invest time.

01:24:07.260 And I think that that's a fair piece.

01:24:08.820 I think it's, I think, personally, I think it's the whole texting back and forth, seeing

01:24:12.540 what they're going to say, waiting the three hours or whatever, because I see some people

01:24:15.560 that are like, I don't want to seem too available or too needy.

01:24:18.240 It takes a lot of time.

01:24:19.820 It's a waste of time.

01:24:20.040 But if you're like, hey, we matched.

01:24:22.260 I think you're cute.

01:24:22.960 I like something about your profile.

01:24:24.280 I verbalized that.

01:24:25.180 Are you free tomorrow at four for coffee?

01:24:27.880 I feel like that's a fair investment.

01:24:30.260 Neither of you have done it.

01:24:30.980 The last thing I want to add to that is that it's really hard to get to know someone on

01:24:35.860 a dating app unless you see them in person.

01:24:37.840 I'm not opposed to meeting in person.

01:24:40.820 I'm not, my argument is.

01:24:41.760 So if a girl was meeting.

01:24:44.100 It's the frequency with which you are meeting.

01:24:47.620 What if it wasn't a date?

01:24:49.220 What if you didn't call it a date?

01:24:50.900 No, I don't think you're, I think you're failing to.

01:24:54.640 I don't have an issue.

01:24:55.660 Like, I don't, it's not like you have to, I actually agree that you should not spend

01:25:01.560 weeks on end being a pen pal with someone.

01:25:04.520 I think you should meet up fairly quickly.

01:25:06.560 What I object to is how many dates you were going on. 0.98

01:25:10.300 First off, I don't know how you have the fucking time to do that. 0.99

01:25:13.220 I don't sleep. 0.99

01:25:13.980 I do it all throughout the day.

01:25:15.520 Were you unemployed?

01:25:17.000 No, I would do it on my lunch breaks.

01:25:19.360 On my lunch breaks.

01:25:20.760 Yeah, like it could be a 15 minute date.

01:25:23.200 It doesn't have to be three hours or whatever.

01:25:25.160 At the same time.

01:25:25.680 Some days it was like, I mean.

01:25:27.020 You both got to eat, right?

01:25:28.140 Okay.

01:25:29.100 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

01:25:30.300 Why 50?

01:25:32.320 I don't know.

01:25:32.660 I just came up with a number.

01:25:33.560 I'm an extremist.

01:25:34.120 She was gamified.

01:25:34.620 So I was like, might as well.

01:25:35.820 Well, because here's the thing too.

01:25:37.260 If you actually have to, I'm sure it came from the movie, to be honest.

01:25:40.240 The 50 first date.

01:25:41.380 50 first date.

01:25:42.260 Like, I think.

01:25:43.240 Wait, that, he went on, he kept having the same date with the same woman.

01:25:47.960 No, I haven't seen the movie.

01:25:49.000 I just heard the number.

01:25:50.000 No, she had like ambitia. 0.95

01:25:52.000 I'm pretty sure.

01:25:52.780 I haven't seen it.

01:25:53.500 Adam Sandler, right?

01:25:54.320 The number's the same.

01:25:54.880 She had amnesia.

01:25:56.140 She had short-term memory loss. 1.00

01:25:57.400 She had some amnesia or some shit. 1.00

01:25:58.960 So we went on 50 dates with the same chick. 0.99

01:26:02.860 Every single, like.

01:26:04.280 Hello?

01:26:04.800 I haven't seen the movie, so I don't know.

01:26:05.700 I think that's where the inspiration came from.

01:26:08.020 I think that's where it came from.

01:26:09.120 That's like the hoe version of that movie. 1.00

01:26:15.660 Okay.

01:26:16.160 I see your point.

01:26:16.820 I see your point.

01:26:17.180 I'm just saying like, it's very easy to be dismissive, see something on someone's profile

01:26:21.260 and think like, oh, I'm not going to waste my time with them versus if you meet in person,

01:26:24.020 then, you know, you can't really get to know someone online just based on their profile.

01:26:28.180 So if you give them a chance.

01:26:29.500 That's not what I'm arguing.

01:26:31.540 That's not what I'm arguing.

01:26:32.000 But what are we supposed to do?

01:26:33.520 Like, be like super picky or dismissive or whatever?

01:26:35.660 Like, if you get matched with, like, I don't know, 100 guys in a day, then, and you're sitting there like super dissent.

01:26:42.400 Like, no, not this one, not this one.

01:26:43.480 Then, like, no one gets any chance, but she's just open.

01:26:46.460 Be even more selective then.

01:26:48.560 Only go on the dates.

01:26:49.780 I mean, I personally, like, I'm very, like, picky on dating.

01:26:52.800 You also do this?

01:26:53.060 No, I'm very picky on dating apps.

01:26:54.420 20 dates in three weeks.

01:26:55.280 Like, I understand what she's like, no, I'm very picky.

01:26:58.640 I understand what she's saying.

01:26:59.460 And I think like, oh, that's good.

01:27:01.180 Like, you're being open.

01:27:02.700 Like, me, I'm super picky.

01:27:04.220 So if I see, like, one thing in your profile that's off to me, like, it doesn't even have to be, like, a red flag.

01:27:09.040 I'm just like, eh, I don't like that.

01:27:10.360 Exactly.

01:27:10.880 Because I don't want to, personally, I don't want to waste my time if I don't think that it's going to lead anywhere.

01:27:14.620 But, like she was saying, like, you never know because you might meet somebody and you might think, like, oh, I never thought it.

01:27:19.320 I mean, that was me with my ex.

01:27:20.400 Like, he was not my type at all.

01:27:22.800 I never thought I would have, like, dated someone like that and ended up dating.

01:27:26.580 That's cool.

01:27:26.780 Look, ultimately, I'm just saying, for me personally, maybe there's a bunch of men out there.

01:27:31.280 They wouldn't mind if they were date number 22 in your game that you're playing.

01:27:35.800 But I would not appreciate someone I'm going on a date with having, look, you don't owe me anything, right?

01:27:46.320 If you want to go on three dates yesterday and the day before and sleep with a bunch of men, that's fine.

01:27:51.400 That's your call.

01:27:52.160 And I know you weren't doing that.

01:27:53.440 But I'm also free to have a standard of preference and a boundary of not wanting to date a woman who is moving and operating in that way. 1.00

01:28:03.080 Some men might not care.

01:28:04.540 Some men might even be like, ooh, competition.

01:28:06.480 Okay, I want to be the winner.

01:28:07.620 Cool.

01:28:07.960 That's fine.

01:28:08.880 Me personally, I'm just going to opt out.

01:28:10.820 I don't want to be involved with a woman who's gamifying like that and who's dating that many men.

01:28:16.300 Yeah, I mean, he was essentially playing the Bachelorette in a sense.

01:28:20.940 And honestly, I was offered to be on the Bachelorette.

01:28:24.920 I would never.

01:28:26.080 Which season?

01:28:27.080 It was two years ago.

01:28:28.720 So I would never.

01:28:30.580 Yeah, that dynamic is just like, okay, I don't want that dynamic.

01:28:36.240 So here's the question.

01:28:37.260 Because if you haven't met these people, let's say you're trying to find someone.

01:28:41.360 You're trying to date.

01:28:42.040 You're trying to find a long-term relationship.

01:28:43.500 Yeah.

01:28:44.000 What is an acceptable amount to you?

01:28:45.900 Because, again, if you go on a first.

01:28:47.880 I don't think you're going to like my answer to this.

01:28:49.420 Do you want to date one guy at a time?

01:28:51.420 Well, I don't think it's that hard to date one person at a time.

01:28:54.260 But, I mean, well, my joke answer would be.

01:28:56.100 But to meet them.

01:28:56.520 My joke answer should be before she even became aware of my presence on this earthly plane,

01:29:02.420 she has to have committed herself to me.

01:29:04.920 No, I'm kidding.

01:29:05.280 I'm being a bit deceived.

01:29:06.380 She watches the podcast, and she's like, one day.

01:29:08.500 But she has to have been celibate for two years before she even knew me, basically.

01:29:15.640 No, that's my joke answer.

01:29:18.300 But, no, I think be properly single when you're dating.

01:29:23.980 What does properly single mean? 0.99

01:29:25.880 Don't be currently fucking anybody, and don't be. 0.99

01:29:28.120 But she's not. 0.99

01:29:28.860 No.

01:29:29.340 She wasn't.

01:29:29.860 I wasn't doing any of that.

01:29:30.840 It's a first date. 0.99

01:29:31.840 No penis in and around the mouth either. 1.00

01:29:33.760 Yeah, agree. 1.00

01:29:34.180 None of that.

01:29:34.780 I didn't do any of that.

01:29:35.440 That's cool.

01:29:36.240 Also, just don't be dating, like, 14 days, 14 guys in, like, the past 14 days.

01:29:41.440 That's also probably, like.

01:29:42.260 So, but is it acceptable if a girl goes on a date once a week?

01:29:45.280 I was going to say, what if, like, what's the number?

01:29:47.180 What if she scheduled the dates on the day of?

01:29:49.720 It's a spectrum.

01:29:50.860 It is a spectrum, okay?

01:29:53.040 So, it's a spectrum.

01:29:55.820 Like, one date a week?

01:29:59.940 Yeah, I don't know.

01:30:00.740 It's still a little.

01:30:02.100 I'm raising an eyebrow there.

01:30:04.160 Is it a total deal breaker?

01:30:05.640 Maybe, maybe not.

01:30:07.420 Would it be preferable if it was once a month?

01:30:09.720 Yeah, it'd be preferable.

01:30:10.960 Would it be preferable if it was once a quarter?

01:30:14.760 Q1, Q2, Q3, Q4?

01:30:17.600 Yeah, you know.

01:30:18.720 I have a question.

01:30:19.780 So, if there's, like, a.

01:30:20.580 Is she a virgin? 0.99

01:30:21.320 Preferable.

01:30:22.540 If there's a single girl.

01:30:24.240 Why are you looking at me that way?

01:30:26.780 So, you would want somebody who's a virgin? 0.93

01:30:28.940 Yes.

01:30:30.640 Yeah.

01:30:31.820 Wait, how old are you again, though?

01:30:33.620 Well, she doesn't have to be a virgin, but that would be. 0.99

01:30:36.060 That would be optimum.

01:30:38.080 Why?

01:30:38.880 Why does that matter?

01:30:39.160 Would I prefer low body count?

01:30:40.280 Yeah. 0.77

01:30:40.800 Low body count, virgin. 0.99

01:30:42.140 Well, she doesn't have to. 0.61

01:30:43.080 A girl doesn't have to be a virgin. 1.00

01:30:44.420 To answer your question, I'm 34.

01:30:46.040 Okay.

01:30:47.100 So, what do you expect at your age?

01:30:49.080 That most women are going to be virgins at your age? 0.98

01:30:51.880 Or with low body counts?

01:30:52.980 No, I'd say women around my age probably are typically not virgins, but low body count.

01:30:58.180 Yeah, you're typically in the 50s range, probably.

01:31:01.320 The 30s to 50s.

01:31:02.720 You think that's the range at?

01:31:04.540 Well, yeah.

01:31:05.020 What's your range right now?

01:31:07.640 That's a very forward question for just meeting her.

01:31:10.820 It's not that forward.

01:31:12.920 I'd say I don't regret anyone I have slept with because I have always felt somewhat connected

01:31:18.800 to them.

01:31:20.520 That's the first time I've heard that.

01:31:22.060 Like, even if it was a one-night stand, I still enjoyed who that person was, which is why

01:31:29.720 I...

01:31:29.960 Haram!

01:31:31.300 Well, because that's how women are wired. 1.00

01:31:34.200 Like, sex for women is very emotional. 0.88

01:31:37.020 I mean, it depends.

01:31:38.740 If I'm, like, super drunk, accidents happen.

01:31:43.320 What?

01:31:44.880 But you don't even regret those?

01:31:46.480 So, if you're sober drunk and accidents happen, you don't regret the accident happening?

01:31:49.020 Because sexual regret is something that...

01:31:49.680 I try not to live my life in regrets.

01:31:51.760 Because if I do, then it just makes me, like, overthink it.

01:31:54.420 Well, let me ask you a question.

01:31:55.960 So, you thought people kind of, within my age range, their body count's going to be about

01:32:00.100 50?

01:32:00.380 It's going to be like that.

01:32:01.900 I mean, come on.

01:32:02.800 You have to experience...

01:32:03.900 I mean, some of these chicks. 1.00

01:32:05.040 Isn't that going to be...

01:32:05.400 Some of these chicks.

01:32:06.620 Maybe lower.

01:32:07.400 That was a little bit dramatic.

01:32:08.420 Yeah, it's going to be a minority.

01:32:09.780 It's going to be a minority. 1.00

01:32:10.480 They do that shit in their freshman court, first freshman court. 1.00

01:32:13.760 Of college. 1.00

01:32:14.740 Like, so what...

01:32:15.740 People your age.

01:32:17.260 Yes.

01:32:17.340 Let's say between 18 and 20.

01:32:19.320 Yeah.

01:32:19.520 What would you say is, like, for a girl, maybe you know some girls, what would you say is, like,

01:32:24.220 the average body count for that age range?

01:32:26.300 Especially with, like, college life.

01:32:28.780 I feel like at the beginning of college, most people have around, like, six or seven, I

01:32:33.960 would say.

01:32:34.940 Really?

01:32:36.040 Most people that I know, at least.

01:32:38.500 What if I told you that...

01:32:39.380 What if I told you the average girl loses her virginity at 18?

01:32:43.120 I mean, that's just...

01:32:44.760 I'm talking about people that I know.

01:32:46.500 Maybe not, like, five or six, like, you know.

01:32:50.240 She belongs to the street.

01:32:51.420 Like...

01:32:51.900 Not me personally, but...

01:32:54.580 So you said...

01:32:54.600 Did you say on the low end, six or seven?

01:32:57.360 And then what's...

01:32:58.320 What do you think is the average, 10?

01:32:59.620 The stretch could be 10.

01:33:01.100 I mean, like, come on, like...

01:33:03.540 I feel like...

01:33:04.820 Yeah, there's people who have, like, 25.

01:33:07.420 Yeah, I...

01:33:08.260 There are some...

01:33:09.140 Well, come on.

01:33:09.940 We're in Santa Barbara.

01:33:11.080 Not me.

01:33:11.780 Come on now.

01:33:12.600 To each their own.

01:33:13.040 Come on now.

01:33:13.700 I think she has a point.

01:33:14.460 I think it also depends on what kind of circles you're around or what kind of circles you're a part of.

01:33:19.500 Oh, hold on just a sec.

01:33:20.660 Mike Davis donated $100.

01:33:22.780 Uh-oh.

01:33:23.120 Here we go.

01:33:23.900 You already know them.

01:33:24.900 Bachelorette wanted you on there for the diversity and would have greeted you week three latest.

01:33:29.520 They wanted me on that granny show. 0.94

01:33:32.240 F no.

01:33:33.400 Also, you talking all soft and baker.

01:33:35.960 Let's get some alpha energy in the room. 0.72

01:33:38.020 Check these hoes. 1.00

01:33:40.340 You can go if you want.

01:33:41.780 Oh, okay.

01:33:42.200 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

01:33:42.680 But, oh, that's Mike Davis, guys.

01:33:46.780 The guy, he owns, like, 20...

01:33:50.060 Sorry, like, excuse me, 230 Burger Kings.

01:33:53.300 Oh, wow.

01:33:53.880 Yeah, he's...

01:33:54.320 He got money.

01:33:55.040 He's killing it. 0.92

01:33:55.900 Okay.

01:33:56.880 All right, well, let's move on from that.

01:33:58.100 We still haven't gone all the way through with the...

01:33:59.620 I was going to say, did we even finish the whole relationship status?

01:34:02.460 Not really.

01:34:03.360 Short, like, half a sentence.

01:34:04.900 Really quick, really quick.

01:34:05.760 So, I just think it depends on what kind of circles you're a part of, because in Christian circles, like, it's not common for women to be in their, like, what's it called?

01:34:13.900 Their late 20s and be a virgin, looking for that one man that they're going to marry. 1.00

01:34:18.640 And that's preference, you know?

01:34:20.440 Like, people just live differently, but I'm not judgmental towards any of it.

01:34:25.320 Because did you ask, like, what is he expecting?

01:34:29.200 Because he's, like, 30, and does he expect to find a virgin?

01:34:31.140 I'm saying, like, they're out there, definitely.

01:34:33.060 And, like, in Christian circles, like, it's quite common, actually.

01:34:35.760 So, like, it's...

01:34:36.800 But the whole world isn't Christian. 0.99

01:34:38.420 No, I know, but I'm saying, like, if that's what you want, then you can find what you want, because it exists.

01:34:43.060 Just depends, but...

01:34:44.880 Well, also, my question is, are you Christian?

01:34:46.680 Huh?

01:34:47.060 You're not Christian, are you? 1.00

01:34:48.380 I'm a man of God.

01:34:49.640 Let's just say that.

01:34:50.560 What does that mean?

01:34:51.640 I'm a man of God.

01:34:52.340 What does that mean?

01:34:53.780 Don't worry about it.

01:34:54.560 I'm worrying about it.

01:34:55.560 You're worried?

01:34:56.220 Yeah.

01:34:56.700 The Christian woman is... 1.00

01:34:57.900 I'm concerned.

01:34:58.620 No, I want to know what that means for, like, a man of God.

01:35:01.860 I'm a man of God.

01:35:03.200 I'll keep it vague.

01:35:04.180 I'll keep it vague for now.

01:35:05.280 I'm sorry.

01:35:06.840 I'm trying to think if we closed up on that.

01:35:09.320 Here, let's get everybody's relationship status.

01:35:11.480 We're already an hour and a half in, and we haven't even got that.

01:35:13.840 What about you?

01:35:14.560 Go ahead, Emily.

01:35:16.260 I'm single.

01:35:18.880 My first relationship was...

01:35:20.540 I actually messed up earlier.

01:35:21.560 I'm 19, not 18.

01:35:22.940 I don't know why I said that.

01:35:23.940 I just had a birthday, but...

01:35:25.020 It's fine.

01:35:25.260 Thank you.

01:35:26.020 So, my first relationship was right after I graduated high school.

01:35:30.160 We were talking, like, in our senior year a little bit, and then we started dating for

01:35:35.380 six months, and then I moved to San Luis, and then I found out he cheated on me.

01:35:40.900 Probably, like, that was, like, the second time.

01:35:43.260 I'll be honest.

01:35:43.860 I already knew he did before, but I forgave him, and then...

01:35:47.220 This was in high school, right?

01:35:48.560 This was after I graduated, so this was in 2022 still.

01:35:52.500 So then, yeah, we ended that relationship December of last year.

01:35:56.260 Then I was single up until, I think, May.

01:36:02.580 But I didn't date him exclusively.

01:36:04.700 We just dated for about three months, and then recently ended it.

01:36:08.600 So, I'm just completely...

01:36:08.960 So, you ended it when?

01:36:11.540 We ended things in September.

01:36:15.180 I think September 7th, or something like that.

01:36:17.660 Oh, so, like a...

01:36:18.600 Recently.

01:36:19.540 Less than a month ago.

01:36:20.400 Yeah, the guy that I was not exclusively with, but we were dating.

01:36:24.620 What do you mean, not exclusively with?

01:36:25.960 So, we went on a date probably, like, twice a week, and, like, we were spending, like...

01:36:32.020 We would spend, like, the whole day together about, like, twice a week, and, like, we're

01:36:35.200 talking every day, but it wasn't...

01:36:37.840 Like, we never had a conversation, like, where I'm just seeing you, and we're boyfriend and

01:36:41.700 girlfriend, and I tried to, and which is why we ended things, so...

01:36:46.180 Oh, you tried to, and then...

01:36:47.740 Yeah.

01:36:48.200 I wanted to make it exclusive, because I really liked him, and he kind of said, like, oh, I

01:36:54.400 don't want to tie you down.

01:36:55.420 Like, I really like what we have, and I was like, oh, like, I don't...

01:36:58.740 I like what we have, but I want something more, and I know I'm going to resent you if

01:37:01.900 I keep seeing you, so I cut it off, and then...

01:37:04.480 Wait, you would resent him?

01:37:05.680 Yeah, I knew that if I didn't cut him off after he just told me he didn't want a relationship,

01:37:09.260 I knew that I would resent him if I kept seeing him, so I was like, I can't see you anymore,

01:37:13.280 and then we stopped talking for, like, four days, and then he sent me, like, a really

01:37:17.960 long paragraph saying, like, I want to be in a relationship with you, and eventually I just need

01:37:22.840 to take it slow right now because I have stuff to work on, but, like, you're the one person

01:37:28.000 that I want to be in one with if you want to take it slow, and then we took it slow for

01:37:32.160 about two weeks, and then he changed his mind and was like, yeah, never mind.

01:37:36.080 He kept you strung along there for a little bit?

01:37:39.120 For, like, two weeks, yeah.

01:37:39.880 He was like...

01:37:40.220 How long were you dating him total?

01:37:43.000 We started dating in the beginning of June, so that's June, July, August, September.

01:37:50.620 It would have been four months if we would have...

01:37:52.520 So, okay, you really liked him.

01:37:53.900 You started the conversation about exclusivity, boyfriend, girlfriend.

01:37:58.800 He said no, basically.

01:38:02.160 Basically was like...

01:38:02.760 And then you kind of broke up with him, sort of cut things off.

01:38:06.860 It was in the same day.

01:38:07.560 But then you continued seeing him for a two-week period?

01:38:10.420 So, yeah, what happened was the last day we saw each other...

01:38:14.480 No, it wasn't the last time we saw each other.

01:38:16.200 So when I told him I wanted to be in a relationship with him, he said that he didn't want to,

01:38:20.220 that it wasn't something he was looking for, and that was in August.

01:38:23.220 And then, so I said, all right, I can't see you anymore.

01:38:26.180 Went home that day, didn't talk to him for, like, a week, and then he hits me up saying,

01:38:31.280 hey, I really miss what we had.

01:38:32.560 I don't want to lose, like, a possibility of having something meaningful,

01:38:35.140 and I want to be in a relationship eventually, and I want to do that with you if you want

01:38:38.960 to take it slow.

01:38:40.160 And I was like, yeah, like, totally for it.

01:38:42.300 Then we saw each other, went on, like, two more dates, and then he just did it over text

01:38:47.760 and was like, hey, we had that last conversation, but I just changed...

01:38:52.280 I'm not ready for a relationship.

01:38:53.880 So he was really vague, and then...

01:38:55.700 Have you spoken to him since the breakup?

01:38:57.500 No, not at all.

01:38:58.240 You said that was September 7th?

01:38:59.880 Yeah, we haven't spoken at all.

01:39:01.020 And then you said that you, I don't know if this is his current boyfriend or previous

01:39:05.880 ex-boyfriend, you said in your pre-show notes, you've cut one of your boyfriends off, but

01:39:10.620 he still sends you money and sometimes weed.

01:39:13.840 Oh, I included that?

01:39:15.620 Yeah, actually, he wouldn't be too mad if I, like, explained that.

01:39:19.700 He's probably watching, but...

01:39:21.300 Wait, is this the recent guy?

01:39:23.020 From high school, no.

01:39:24.120 The old ex-boyfriend, okay.

01:39:26.140 Old ex-boyfriend.

01:39:26.920 From how long ago did you break up with him?

01:39:28.500 I broke up with him...

01:39:30.280 A year and a half?

01:39:31.500 Almost a year ago, yeah.

01:39:32.620 A year ago.

01:39:33.340 Okay, so...

01:39:33.960 Almost a year.

01:39:34.340 You still talk to him, though, and he sends you money and weed?

01:39:37.680 No, we actually don't talk.

01:39:38.940 I talked to him for the first time...

01:39:40.260 I talked to him for the first time yesterday, but before that, it had been, like, probably

01:39:45.320 four months, and he would, like, hit me up on Telegram every once in a while.

01:39:49.660 It's, like, a messenger app that, yeah.

01:39:52.020 And I wouldn't really open it, but, yeah, I would just get a package every couple months,

01:39:56.520 and it would be a letter and some weed and some cash sometimes.

01:40:00.920 So, yeah.

01:40:02.940 You're, like, shocked.

01:40:05.120 Well, I mean, it's not...

01:40:06.420 Wait, but you said he sends you money sometimes in weed.

01:40:09.220 How much money would he send you?

01:40:12.200 Like, you want, like, in total?

01:40:14.980 Sure.

01:40:15.660 Total.

01:40:16.320 It's not that much.

01:40:17.260 Like, three grand.

01:40:18.960 I mean, that's not nothing.

01:40:21.640 So, you just, you broke up with him, and he'd send you, in total, three grand.

01:40:25.480 In total, yeah.

01:40:26.280 He sent me some for my birthday, and then before that, he sent me money to buy a car.

01:40:30.560 How much in weed would he send you?

01:40:33.040 Like, a thousand in weed?

01:40:34.340 Oh, probably more than that.

01:40:35.580 More than that?

01:40:36.400 Probably.

01:40:36.960 Two thousand in weed?

01:40:38.400 Probably around two.

01:40:40.360 Maybe a little over that.

01:40:41.180 Two thousand in weed.

01:40:42.320 Okay.

01:40:42.720 Yeah.

01:40:43.800 I would just sell it.

01:40:45.320 Oh, wait.

01:40:45.780 I still get it.

01:40:46.820 He's fueling you.

01:40:47.500 So, he cheated on you, but he still sends you money, and you guys broke up, and he also

01:40:51.980 sends you drugs.

01:40:53.340 Okay.

01:40:55.040 Well, don't make it sound like that.

01:40:56.500 Yeah, don't make it sound like that.

01:40:58.000 That's literally what's happening.

01:40:59.860 It's a federally legal drug now.

01:41:01.460 Like, do you smoke weed?

01:41:02.060 But...

01:41:02.580 I don't.

01:41:03.500 But...

01:41:03.820 Well, it is a drug.

01:41:05.020 Yeah, it is a drug.

01:41:05.960 Wait, but...

01:41:06.440 No, it's actually...

01:41:06.980 No, not state legal.

01:41:07.880 No, it's federally illegal.

01:41:09.920 Okay, okay, look.

01:41:10.460 That's fine.

01:41:11.540 So,

01:41:12.900 question.

01:41:14.480 You were dating this guy, the most recent guy, for...

01:41:18.360 Since June.

01:41:19.880 Did the guy, your ex-boyfriend, send you money or weed during the time period that you were

01:41:24.900 talking to this new guy?

01:41:27.200 Um, yes, but I never asked for any of it, and I never...

01:41:31.740 Oh, he just sends it?

01:41:32.640 Yeah, I never asked for any of it.

01:41:34.440 I never...

01:41:34.940 You don't ask?

01:41:35.020 He just sends you?

01:41:35.640 I've never asked for money.

01:41:37.380 No, I've never asked for money.

01:41:38.540 I've never asked him to send me weed.

01:41:39.900 I cut him off of all contact a really long time ago, and that's probably when the packages

01:41:46.580 started rolling in, because he had my address, and so there was no, there was no, like, verbal

01:41:52.460 contact.

01:41:53.320 Like, we weren't speaking, but I would get a letter, and that's how he would talk to me,

01:41:56.400 and then he would include, like, maybe a couple grams, and then it started being more, and then

01:42:00.360 it was just...

01:42:00.420 This is wild.

01:42:01.100 Would you write him back?

01:42:01.820 This is...

01:42:02.380 Wait, hold on.

01:42:03.160 This is wild.

01:42:04.240 Like, not only...

01:42:05.680 Okay, earlier I said dating on easy mode.

01:42:09.380 You have life on easy mode.

01:42:13.400 Like, you have broken up with this man, and he is sending you thousands of dollars and...

01:42:21.780 Marijuana.

01:42:23.840 Huh?

01:42:24.180 Like, I... 0.99

01:42:27.620 Women don't send me shit when I break up with them. 1.00

01:42:30.280 To be fair, I don't think... 0.99

01:42:31.680 Wait, to be fair, I don't think he's ever...

01:42:33.680 She doesn't even ask...

01:42:33.700 She doesn't ask for it.

01:42:34.760 It's a pretty privilege.

01:42:35.860 To be fair, I don't think, like, anybody's ever gone through, like, some of the stuff I

01:42:39.460 went through in that relationship.

01:42:40.700 Like, it was...

01:42:41.380 I think he feels really bad for a lot of what he did.

01:42:44.380 He's making it up to you, but...

01:42:45.320 He's trying to make it up, a lot of it, and it really...

01:42:47.340 I mean, like, he's a great person.

01:42:49.000 I feel like that takes some really selfless to do that, so...

01:42:52.540 I mean...

01:42:52.820 He's trying to get back with you, though, right?

01:42:54.820 Maybe.

01:42:55.680 I would never let money make me get back together with someone.

01:42:59.120 I've told him that.

01:42:59.800 Like, it doesn't matter how much money you send me.

01:43:02.020 It'll never make me want to be with you, but...

01:43:05.420 Thank you.

01:43:06.500 You deserve way better, girl.

01:43:09.020 Is there some component, though, of you...

01:43:11.980 Are you stringing him on a little bit?

01:43:14.280 Are you leading him on?

01:43:15.620 Well, she said she didn't write him back.

01:43:17.520 No, yeah, I never...

01:43:18.260 Can you scoot your microphone that way?

01:43:19.840 So, yeah, I am...

01:43:21.160 Turn it so this is facing you straight.

01:43:23.820 Thank you.

01:43:24.620 That's a good question, because I actually felt really guilty about that for a long time

01:43:28.900 after we broke up, because we stayed in contact after we broke up for, like, maybe two or three

01:43:34.240 months, and that made me feel really guilty, because...

01:43:36.980 Right.

01:43:37.100 Yeah, that does feel like leading somebody on when you know someone's still in love with

01:43:40.560 you and you're letting them still talk to you and, like, speak to you every day.

01:43:44.820 It just...

01:43:45.480 Whether you're telling them you want to be with them, even just talking to them gives

01:43:50.240 them that hope. 0.99

01:43:50.960 So, I cut it off because I was like, yeah, that's just fucked up. 0.95

01:43:53.940 But he would still, like, send me letters and talk to me, even after I cut everything 0.96

01:43:58.340 off.

01:43:58.720 So, it wasn't my choice.

01:44:00.360 Is he...

01:44:00.880 Was he around your age?

01:44:02.220 Same age?

01:44:02.720 Yeah, we're the same age.

01:44:03.480 He's sending you thousands...

01:44:05.200 You're 19.

01:44:05.860 He's sending you thousands of dollars, and...

01:44:09.440 Is this guy a drug dealer or something?

01:44:10.900 What?

01:44:11.120 Does he grow weed? 0.90

01:44:12.880 Yeah, he's a drug dealer. 1.00

01:44:14.080 He's a fucking drug dealer. 1.00

01:44:14.840 He hit you up on fucking Telegram. 1.00

01:44:16.880 That's how you know he's a plug. 1.00

01:44:18.240 No comment.

01:44:21.980 All right.

01:44:23.420 I...

01:44:23.900 This...

01:44:24.340 Okay.

01:44:24.900 I'm... 1.00

01:44:25.340 I am constantly surprised by this shit. 1.00

01:44:28.040 Okay. 1.00

01:44:28.920 Well, hey, hey, good for you.

01:44:31.120 Making some money.

01:44:32.020 Okay.

01:44:32.200 You wanted to talk on, let's see, in your pre-show notes to us.

01:44:38.360 Man, there's so many pre-show notes from all you...

01:44:40.540 Thank you, guys.

01:44:42.140 I'm not sure I'm going to cover everything, but...

01:44:45.200 Oops.

01:44:45.900 Actually, we're going to go around the table, get everybody's relationship status really

01:44:51.460 quick.

01:44:51.740 Really quick before, though, I'm going to do this chat.

01:44:54.240 Vivina, hey, thank you so much for the donation.

01:44:57.680 Brian, do you just say you prefer under five feet to sound as crazy as the six-foot

01:45:01.960 preferences girls have? 1.00

01:45:03.340 I've watched over 70 of the shows.

01:45:05.120 Q-Pill...

01:45:06.140 Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.

01:45:07.300 First off, Q-Pill is a top-tier guest. 0.51

01:45:11.100 Vivina. 1.00

01:45:12.800 Q-Pill is a fucking giga-chad. 1.00

01:45:15.060 Whoa, what the fuck? 1.00

01:45:16.180 And... 1.00

01:45:16.700 And I will have you...

01:45:19.060 I will not tolerate...

01:45:22.120 Vivina.

01:45:22.960 Vivina, you need to respect...

01:45:25.960 You need to apologize to Q. 1.00

01:45:28.500 Yeah, with the bottom-tier pussy. 1.00

01:45:30.500 Whoa. 1.00

01:45:32.380 Fuck. 1.00

01:45:33.480 Whoa, that was... 1.00

01:45:34.800 Oh, my God.

01:45:37.980 Wait, you said... 0.99

01:45:38.300 Damn, that got heavy. 0.99

01:45:39.380 You literally said you prefer short girls, though. 0.99

01:45:41.520 That's...

01:45:41.900 I do.

01:45:42.540 But, like, you're 5'2", right?

01:45:44.020 Yeah.

01:45:44.200 I'll tell you.

01:45:44.940 5'1". 0.99

01:45:45.780 Sorry, you guys are way too fucking tall. 1.00

01:45:47.380 What the fuck? 1.00

01:45:48.580 I've gotten giants over here. 0.99

01:45:49.540 I mean, I like short guys.

01:45:50.580 You guys are way too tall for me.

01:45:52.400 I'm sorry.

01:45:52.860 I like short guys, so it's not like...

01:45:55.680 Yeah.

01:45:56.120 I would like you anyways.

01:45:57.300 No, that's not...

01:45:57.920 I'm not trying to, like...

01:45:58.860 That's not what I was getting at.

01:46:00.220 It's kind of a joke, but...

01:46:01.860 Do I prefer...

01:46:04.260 Yeah, okay, so...

01:46:05.220 He literally talked about this earlier, too.

01:46:07.100 He, like...

01:46:07.600 If you're not, like, 4'11".

01:46:10.040 No, I mean, I kind of joke a little bit about it

01:46:12.560 because it's kind of the mirror image.

01:46:14.460 You don't often hear, like, men having

01:46:16.300 super strong high preferences,

01:46:18.140 so when I say, like,

01:46:19.140 in the same way that women will reject men

01:46:21.400 for not being over 6'0",

01:46:22.560 I'll reject women for being over 5'0". 1.00

01:46:24.680 It's revenge. 0.96

01:46:27.440 It's revenge preference.

01:46:29.020 What if a girl is, like... 1.00

01:46:30.080 What if a girl is, like, my height,

01:46:31.820 but she doesn't care if you're tall or short? 0.99

01:46:34.180 Would you still...

01:46:34.440 What?

01:46:34.740 It doesn't matter.

01:46:35.420 You still...

01:46:35.940 I like short.

01:46:36.640 Sorry.

01:46:37.200 Collateral.

01:46:37.640 You're too tall.

01:46:39.080 In the same way, like, you know

01:46:40.460 how a lot of women will be like, 1.00

01:46:41.760 oh, he's too short.

01:46:42.940 Yeah, you're too tall.

01:46:43.660 Sorry.

01:46:44.700 Well, I'm blessed to be 5'2",

01:46:46.420 because I personally like short guys anyways.

01:46:49.140 Like, my ex was 5'6".

01:46:51.840 Okay.

01:46:52.700 Cool.

01:46:53.240 Story, bro.

01:46:54.080 Yeah.

01:46:55.940 No, but when it actually comes to height,

01:46:58.480 I do have a slight preference

01:47:00.120 for short women.

01:47:05.560 So I'll... 0.77

01:47:06.360 So you like virgins and short... 1.00

01:47:07.960 Oh, do you want to hear my preferences?

01:47:10.180 Here, let me get my list.

01:47:11.120 Let's get your ties a little... 0.99

01:47:11.800 I'm trying to get my fucking list here. 0.99

01:47:13.480 I have it written down, 0.99

01:47:14.500 because it's quite a...

01:47:15.220 So this is, like,

01:47:15.960 your perfect woman written on paper.

01:47:19.980 There's no such thing as perfect.

01:47:21.100 Hold on.

01:47:21.400 Not perfect, but, like,

01:47:22.620 someone you would prefer...

01:47:23.880 Build a wife. 1.00

01:47:24.680 Build a wife here. 1.00

01:47:25.520 Yeah.

01:47:25.640 Build a wife. 1.00

01:47:26.360 Where's my notes?

01:47:27.180 Hold on.

01:47:27.920 Okay, here.

01:47:28.660 You ready, guys?

01:47:29.520 Okay, here's what I want.

01:47:31.220 So we'll start with looks.

01:47:32.480 I've written this down.

01:47:33.180 Okay.

01:47:33.520 Wait, Q, don't read.

01:47:34.680 Don't read.

01:47:35.380 What if he has the same type, though?

01:47:37.100 Oh, okay.

01:47:37.960 So any race is fine.

01:47:40.200 Okay.

01:47:41.280 That's a good start.

01:47:42.500 But...

01:47:43.480 Oh.

01:47:44.920 Slight preference for Asian women

01:47:46.220 and white women. 1.00

01:47:47.560 Okay.

01:47:48.000 Slight preference for petite,

01:47:49.420 fun-sized, short women. 0.95

01:47:50.580 Fun-sized?

01:47:52.240 Five-twos, a bit tall, 0.89

01:47:53.700 but, you know, whatever.

01:47:55.180 No, I...

01:47:55.980 So, okay, when it comes to height,

01:47:57.020 no issue dating a woman

01:47:57.900 who's taller than me.

01:47:58.660 Don't care.

01:48:00.320 Height, for me,

01:48:00.960 it's never going to be a deal-breaker.

01:48:02.120 She could be really tall.

01:48:03.120 She could be taller than me.

01:48:04.500 Not a deal-breaker.

01:48:05.460 Still would date her.

01:48:06.940 Whereas I would say for guys,

01:48:08.700 height's going to be a deal-breaker

01:48:09.660 for 90%, 95% of women.

01:48:11.620 Really?

01:48:12.340 If a guy's shorter than you,

01:48:13.440 like, that's 100% deal-breaker.

01:48:14.840 Whereas for men,

01:48:15.560 I'd say most men, like, 0.79

01:48:17.760 the...

01:48:18.220 You would say the equivalent

01:48:19.040 of a guy being shorter than a woman 0.51

01:48:22.160 would be a woman being taller than the man. 1.00

01:48:23.900 I would say there's more men

01:48:27.860 or would be...

01:48:28.800 There's more men

01:48:29.700 who would be willing

01:48:30.300 to date a woman taller than them

01:48:31.900 than there are women 1.00

01:48:32.780 who would be prepared

01:48:33.440 to date a woman...

01:48:35.080 There are more women 1.00

01:48:36.440 prepared to date a man

01:48:37.800 who's shorter than them.

01:48:39.040 So, strong preference

01:48:40.880 for no plastic surgery. 0.98

01:48:42.160 So, no fake tits, 0.99

01:48:42.960 no fake lips, 0.99

01:48:43.560 no BBL,

01:48:44.140 no lipo.

01:48:46.000 And I really mean this.

01:48:47.760 I mean it when I say it.

01:48:48.660 Like, okay,

01:48:49.720 so maybe this is going to sound

01:48:50.600 like I'm kind of simping,

01:48:52.160 but this is going to sound cool.

01:48:54.560 So, I think women are beautiful 1.00

01:48:56.240 as they are.

01:48:57.240 He's getting vulnerable right now.

01:48:58.680 Huh?

01:48:59.520 No, it's not even vulnerable.

01:49:00.680 I just think women are beautiful 1.00

01:49:01.660 as they are

01:49:02.280 without the need

01:49:03.200 for undergoing dangerous,

01:49:04.380 expensive,

01:49:04.920 and frankly,

01:49:05.600 unnecessary cosmetic surgery,

01:49:07.560 which I honestly think

01:49:08.720 makes them look worse

01:49:09.720 at the end of the day.

01:49:10.920 So, I would, for example,

01:49:12.720 and I'm not...

01:49:13.780 It's not like...

01:49:14.460 Okay, here's an example.

01:49:15.620 I'd prefer a girl. 0.99

01:49:16.660 Let's say she had small boobs. 1.00

01:49:17.740 I'd rather her be... 1.00

01:49:19.680 have small boobs 0.99

01:49:20.360 or even flat 1.00

01:49:21.040 than have her with fake tits. 1.00

01:49:22.660 Okay. 1.00

01:49:23.380 I'd rather have a girl 0.97

01:49:24.380 with a little belly

01:49:25.140 than lipo.

01:49:26.280 I'd rather have, like, 0.99

01:49:27.300 a small ass 0.99

01:49:28.320 than a BBL. 1.00

01:49:29.480 Yeah.

01:49:29.780 Small upper lip

01:49:30.520 over lip fillers.

01:49:32.540 So, you can take any woman 0.58

01:49:34.080 with any of these procedures.

01:49:35.420 Let's say she's had them.

01:49:36.800 However they were before,

01:49:38.580 I would prefer them

01:49:39.400 as they were.

01:49:40.480 So, there's that.

01:49:41.500 Minimal makeup

01:49:42.180 or no makeup,

01:49:42.980 a little mascara

01:49:43.540 or eyeliner is fine.

01:49:45.540 Here's a big one.

01:49:46.440 Very important. 0.98

01:49:47.180 Large labia. 0.84

01:49:48.300 Huge. 0.86

01:49:48.800 Very important.

01:49:52.300 It's not a deal breaker.

01:49:53.220 I don't really care.

01:49:53.880 I just say that.

01:49:54.820 I mean, I do.

01:49:55.900 You know, it's a preference.

01:49:56.960 Yeah.

01:49:57.740 Where did the organization

01:49:59.460 that you started come from?

01:50:00.540 Or, like, what is that? 0.90

01:50:00.900 Big labia matter. 1.00

01:50:01.800 It's a grassroots movement.

01:50:04.420 We are...

01:50:05.120 Okay.

01:50:06.420 BLM. 0.71

01:50:07.200 We are...

01:50:09.900 You know...

01:50:10.420 Yep, that's the one. 0.99

01:50:11.560 Big labia. 0.98

01:50:11.900 Okay. 0.64

01:50:12.940 Oh.

01:50:13.440 Under construction.

01:50:14.300 We're still getting set up.

01:50:15.280 But, you know,

01:50:16.180 it's going to be big

01:50:18.040 in a couple years.

01:50:19.000 They're going to be people

01:50:19.460 in the streets.

01:50:21.060 Wearing shirts with it.

01:50:21.720 In the mean streets.

01:50:23.060 Chanting BLM. 0.68

01:50:24.000 Okay.

01:50:24.560 Great.

01:50:25.160 Look, women are allowed 1.00

01:50:26.400 to have a penis size preference. 1.00

01:50:28.000 I'm allowed to have 0.99

01:50:28.760 a labia preference.

01:50:29.400 Yeah, I think it's fine.

01:50:30.880 How do you, like,

01:50:31.460 go about finding out, like...

01:50:33.000 Is that a first date question?

01:50:35.220 How does that go?

01:50:35.560 You try to...

01:50:36.240 See, that's the difficult...

01:50:37.440 Well, first off,

01:50:38.000 it's not a deal breaker.

01:50:38.880 Like, if a woman's got an innie, 1.00

01:50:40.060 that's cool.

01:50:40.580 That's fine.

01:50:41.600 Innie, outie, it's all good.

01:50:43.100 Right?

01:50:43.340 I'm not tripping.

01:50:44.240 Do I have a slight preference?

01:50:45.800 I'm not going to lie.

01:50:46.640 I kind of do.

01:50:48.300 What?

01:50:48.740 I'm allowed to have

01:50:49.300 a labia preference?

01:50:50.260 I'm allowed to have

01:50:50.840 a labia preference?

01:50:51.540 Y'all be talking...

01:50:52.460 Huh?

01:50:53.300 What?

01:50:53.640 That thing.

01:50:54.200 Go ahead.

01:50:54.600 Go ahead.

01:50:54.880 What's up?

01:50:55.080 No, I feel like

01:50:57.520 it's similar to people

01:50:58.480 who are like,

01:50:59.020 oh, I prefer a circumcised 1.00

01:51:00.700 or uncircumcised.

01:51:01.700 Exactly.

01:51:02.180 No, I can see that. 0.99

01:51:02.880 It's like all dicks 1.00

01:51:03.640 are ugly, though. 1.00

01:51:04.420 Whoa. 0.62

01:51:04.860 What?

01:51:05.940 Whoa, that is deeply hateful.

01:51:07.480 Like, they're not... 1.00

01:51:08.420 Shut up, bitch. 1.00

01:51:11.500 Wow. 1.00

01:51:12.520 Listen to me.

01:51:13.180 Yo.

01:51:13.540 Listen to me.

01:51:14.740 I'm not, like...

01:51:16.000 They're cool or whatever,

01:51:18.980 but, like,

01:51:19.940 in general,

01:51:20.820 like, 1.00

01:51:21.940 no vagina or dick 1.00

01:51:23.340 is, like, 0.99

01:51:23.800 genuinely good looking.

01:51:25.080 I guess.

01:51:26.000 Disavow.

01:51:26.760 Disavow.

01:51:27.840 Disavow.

01:51:28.120 Like, personally, 0.99

01:51:29.280 like, when I look at a dick, 0.99

01:51:30.300 I'm, like, 0.99

01:51:30.740 I'm not gonna be like,

01:51:31.560 oh, it's cute.

01:51:32.140 Oh, my God, it's so pretty.

01:51:32.600 You've never seen 0.99

01:51:33.380 just a beautiful cock? 0.99

01:51:34.820 You've never seen 1.00

01:51:35.220 an attractive-looking penis? 0.99

01:51:36.620 Like, no. 1.00

01:51:38.120 What?

01:51:39.280 They feel good,

01:51:40.300 but they don't look nice.

01:51:41.820 What about the statue of David? 0.99

01:51:43.720 The fuck is that? 0.99

01:51:44.600 I'm thinking the same thing. 1.00

01:51:45.880 You don't know

01:51:46.540 the statue of David?

01:51:48.040 He's got...

01:51:48.880 I mean, it's, like,

01:51:49.440 he's flaccid, so...

01:51:50.540 He's got his little PPO.

01:51:52.600 You've probably seen it.

01:51:53.680 Okay.

01:51:54.040 So, okay.

01:51:55.120 I'm just saying...

01:51:55.820 No, no, no, Nick.

01:51:56.640 Don't pull it up.

01:51:57.540 I heard you typing, Nick.

01:52:00.560 We're gonna get in trouble

01:52:01.460 for that one.

01:52:02.700 Can you just blur it out?

01:52:04.120 It's art.

01:52:04.460 Why is this a statue?

01:52:05.540 Yeah, it's art.

01:52:06.060 I feel like YouTube

01:52:07.040 is so wacky.

01:52:07.760 I wanna see what it looks like.

01:52:09.080 Don't, don't, don't.

01:52:09.840 Yeah.

01:52:10.280 I mean, then again,

01:52:11.340 I think we're in textbooks.

01:52:12.600 But I'm just saying, like...

01:52:13.940 What's that?

01:52:14.640 Like, why would you... 1.00

01:52:16.280 Like, a vagina's a vagina, 1.00

01:52:18.020 you know? 0.99

01:52:18.980 Look, it's not that...

01:52:20.460 I'm down with innies,

01:52:21.540 I'm down with outies, 1.00

01:52:22.520 I'm down with middies. 1.00

01:52:23.380 That's kind of, like,

01:52:23.800 in the middle, right?

01:52:24.740 It's in the middle.

01:52:25.340 I didn't know about that.

01:52:26.560 It's, like,

01:52:27.040 not a full-blown outie,

01:52:28.440 but it's, you know.

01:52:30.640 Look, it's a sad state of affairs

01:52:32.200 that women are shamed 0.99

01:52:33.420 if they have a large labia. 0.97

01:52:35.980 It's very sad.

01:52:36.720 I would agree.

01:52:37.340 In the same...

01:52:37.820 Like, I don't think anybody,

01:52:39.480 man or woman,

01:52:40.000 should be shamed 0.99

01:52:40.640 for their genitalia. 1.00

01:52:41.760 Yeah. 0.97

01:52:43.040 Like, if a man's...

01:52:43.960 Oops.

01:52:44.340 Has a micropenis,

01:52:45.360 he got cut.

01:52:45.780 He's cut, uncut.

01:52:48.100 That one's a little tough.

01:52:48.940 He's got a statue of David,

01:52:50.480 though, kind of.

01:52:51.940 He has a micropenis.

01:52:52.580 Well, he's flaccid, guys.

01:52:55.360 It was probably cold

01:52:56.160 back in the day,

01:52:56.760 and he's naked.

01:52:59.020 He's got global warming 1.00

01:53:00.380 or whatever that shit is. 0.99

01:53:01.360 No, but it's crazy, though, 0.99

01:53:02.740 to see, like, how...

01:53:04.180 Like, what's it called?

01:53:05.280 Like, our beauty standards

01:53:07.540 have changed over the years, right?

01:53:08.920 Because we see, like,

01:53:09.860 statues that were created,

01:53:12.520 I don't know,

01:53:12.820 hundreds of years ago,

01:53:13.760 and then versus, like,

01:53:15.220 today's beauty standards.

01:53:16.600 That's right.

01:53:17.320 Actually, and if you look

01:53:18.240 of statues of women

01:53:19.640 from back in the day, son,

01:53:22.640 they didn't have these big, 0.83

01:53:23.820 like, giant fake titties on them. 0.93

01:53:25.400 No, because small. 0.86

01:53:26.400 They had, like, B-cups.

01:53:27.060 Yeah, no, no.

01:53:28.100 That's true.

01:53:29.280 There's a statue of Venus

01:53:30.960 or the painting of Venus,

01:53:31.820 whatever,

01:53:32.120 and she has, like, a cub

01:53:33.360 or, like, her... 0.55

01:53:34.620 I read somewhere, like,

01:53:35.820 fun fact, like,

01:53:36.460 her breasts are the size 0.76

01:53:37.640 of, like, a wine glass, 0.98

01:53:38.740 so, like, not very big,

01:53:39.780 but that was, like,

01:53:41.100 small breasts 0.77

01:53:42.660 were considered,

01:53:43.340 attractive back then.

01:53:45.400 I'm going to, look,

01:53:46.040 A-cup all day 0.99

01:53:46.940 over some giant fake titties. 1.00

01:53:48.260 That's all I'm going to say. 0.97

01:53:48.880 Wait, finish your list,

01:53:49.800 finish your list.

01:53:50.220 Okay, so that's pretty much

01:53:51.400 looks-wise, right?

01:53:53.320 Personality.

01:53:54.380 I'd say I like

01:53:55.500 more introverted women. 1.00

01:53:56.920 Quiet, calm, soft-spoken.

01:53:58.800 Maybe a little bit shy.

01:54:00.180 Maybe a little bit nerdy.

01:54:02.240 Brings me peace,

01:54:03.320 doesn't quarrel,

01:54:03.940 doesn't party,

01:54:04.500 doesn't drink,

01:54:05.060 doesn't do drugs,

01:54:06.240 doesn't go to bars or clubs.

01:54:07.900 Oh, you don't drink?

01:54:09.020 I don't.

01:54:09.480 I mean,

01:54:10.520 very rarely.

01:54:11.880 And if I do...

01:54:12.480 Celebratory champagne.

01:54:13.520 So the other person

01:54:14.140 has to drink rarely.

01:54:15.420 Just not...

01:54:16.600 So when I say

01:54:17.940 doesn't drink,

01:54:18.600 like, if she has

01:54:19.100 a glass of wine at dinner,

01:54:20.380 that's fine.

01:54:21.380 But I'm talking, like,

01:54:22.100 a girl who parties.

01:54:23.220 Yeah, he means...

01:54:24.140 Like an alcohol.

01:54:25.980 Oh, God.

01:54:28.140 That's how girls... 1.00

01:54:29.220 That's how you view

01:54:29.820 girls taking shots? 0.98

01:54:31.060 What is that?

01:54:31.640 That's what they be doing.

01:54:32.660 That's what they be doing.

01:54:33.500 The whole stretching out

01:54:34.300 the lips around the shot glass.

01:54:36.340 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

01:54:36.720 You never take shots. 0.97

01:54:37.340 I'm gross. 0.55

01:54:38.220 No. 0.96

01:54:38.620 Yeah, you put your whole mouth on it

01:54:40.680 and then you go like that.

01:54:41.700 They do it all the time.

01:54:43.380 Low body count.

01:54:44.960 Okay.

01:54:45.560 What's low to you?

01:54:46.900 Yeah, number-wise.

01:54:49.080 Like under 10?

01:54:50.440 Definitely under 10.

01:54:51.480 Definitely under 10.

01:54:52.120 Under 5?

01:54:52.540 We'll go under 10.

01:54:53.320 I mean, it's a spectrum, right?

01:54:55.180 The lower, the better.

01:54:56.800 Is it a ratio?

01:54:58.440 No.

01:54:58.680 The ratio, that's BS.

01:55:02.600 That's BS.

01:55:04.800 But yeah, I mean...

01:55:05.920 But would you say

01:55:06.540 you have a high body count?

01:55:08.780 First off, I'm a man of God

01:55:10.080 so I don't reveal my body count.

01:55:12.260 You don't have to say

01:55:13.020 like a specific number

01:55:14.520 but I'm saying

01:55:15.300 if you're being so like,

01:55:17.560 oh, I don't want a girl 1.00

01:55:18.420 who has a lot of bodies.

01:55:18.940 I'm going to plead the fifth

01:55:19.860 on answering that question.

01:55:22.280 Exactly.

01:55:23.640 Oh, what do you mean?

01:55:26.220 Because you like,

01:55:27.220 you don't have to say

01:55:27.900 like a specific number

01:55:28.940 but have you had sex 0.62

01:55:29.800 with quite a few people?

01:55:31.220 Like more than 10?

01:55:34.360 That's a yes.

01:55:34.920 That's a yes.

01:55:35.500 That's a yes.

01:55:36.040 Okay, and then you're saying

01:55:37.460 you want a girl 0.98

01:55:38.120 with the lower body count and stuff.

01:55:39.520 Okay, I see what you're saying.

01:55:40.480 So you're saying

01:55:40.900 like it's a double standard kind of?

01:55:43.200 Yes, there is a double standard.

01:55:45.000 If you're really into somebody

01:55:46.280 and they have like

01:55:47.180 a body count over 10

01:55:48.320 and they're your age, right?

01:55:49.820 They're your age.

01:55:50.480 Yeah.

01:55:50.900 Would it be a deal breaker

01:55:52.520 if you truly have

01:55:53.740 a connection with them?

01:55:54.640 Well, age is a factor too

01:55:55.640 so obviously a woman 1.00

01:55:56.480 who's a bit older

01:55:57.320 is going to likely

01:55:59.140 have had more sexual partners

01:56:00.360 than somebody.

01:56:00.780 What are you trying to date?

01:56:00.800 Like a 22-year-old or something?

01:56:02.740 Sure, I'll date somebody

01:56:03.660 22, 21, sure.

01:56:05.560 What if you met

01:56:06.160 your perfect woman

01:56:07.080 and she was a virgin

01:56:08.040 and she asked you

01:56:09.140 your body count

01:56:09.740 and that was the deal breaker

01:56:10.680 for her?

01:56:11.700 She wouldn't date you 0.70

01:56:12.260 because you had

01:56:12.660 too high of a body count.

01:56:13.500 I mean, if that is

01:56:14.740 a deal breaker for her,

01:56:15.900 that's fine.

01:56:18.340 You wouldn't like

01:56:18.800 regret it though?

01:56:19.580 Like if she like

01:56:20.660 met like every single point

01:56:22.320 on your list

01:56:22.720 and was a virgin.

01:56:23.860 Regret what?

01:56:24.600 Like sleeping around.

01:56:26.320 I wouldn't say

01:56:27.120 I really slept around

01:56:29.200 a whole bunch

01:56:29.780 but...

01:56:30.660 Body count over 10?

01:56:31.900 Huh?

01:56:32.700 Well, no,

01:56:33.300 but I'm saying like

01:56:34.040 well, if you value

01:56:35.840 like there is a double standard

01:56:37.140 if you value that

01:56:38.140 then you find a woman

01:56:39.460 who's a virgin

01:56:40.080 but she also prefers 0.67

01:56:41.380 to be with somebody

01:56:42.000 who's a virgin

01:56:42.360 and she could be like

01:56:43.140 the perfect woman for you

01:56:44.140 and meet every single one

01:56:45.040 of your points.

01:56:45.300 You can reject anybody

01:56:46.180 for any reason you want.

01:56:47.240 Well, no, I know

01:56:47.720 but there's billions

01:56:48.900 of people in this world

01:56:49.860 though.

01:56:50.480 Both men and women

01:56:51.400 are allowed to have

01:56:52.080 preferences, standards

01:56:52.880 and boundaries.

01:56:53.500 If there's a criteria

01:56:54.380 with which a woman 1.00

01:56:55.120 wants to reject me,

01:56:56.380 that's fine.

01:56:57.000 I'm saying that

01:56:58.540 usually women 0.99

01:57:00.000 who have low body counts

01:57:01.240 or are virgins

01:57:02.000 also prefer men 0.57

01:57:04.700 with low body counts

01:57:05.600 or virgins.

01:57:06.340 Perhaps.

01:57:06.900 Although I would say...

01:57:07.900 I'm just saying

01:57:08.540 you're making it harder

01:57:09.340 for yourself.

01:57:10.020 Like you're decreasing

01:57:10.700 your chances.

01:57:11.760 Well, I've neither confirmed

01:57:12.940 or denied

01:57:13.880 what my body count is

01:57:14.920 but for the sake

01:57:16.740 of this show

01:57:17.720 I feel like

01:57:18.200 I probably shouldn't

01:57:19.260 but so...

01:57:22.260 This card needs to...

01:57:23.440 And I was like

01:57:24.140 making the argument

01:57:24.900 in general

01:57:25.240 not like specifically

01:57:26.660 directly at you.

01:57:27.260 I think women care far less 1.00

01:57:27.640 about body count

01:57:28.340 than do men

01:57:28.940 generally.

01:57:30.260 I mean...

01:57:30.720 It depends.

01:57:31.220 Generally.

01:57:31.780 But I was also like

01:57:32.640 making the argument

01:57:33.340 like yeah, generally

01:57:34.500 because like

01:57:35.060 that's what I'm saying

01:57:35.980 like I was saying earlier

01:57:36.960 it also depends

01:57:37.760 on what kind of circles

01:57:38.600 you're a part of

01:57:39.220 and so if you want

01:57:39.880 to find a woman

01:57:40.700 who is a virgin

01:57:41.720 or low body count

01:57:43.080 or whatever

01:57:43.460 then typically like

01:57:44.380 you find that in

01:57:45.340 like a lot of

01:57:46.100 Christian circles

01:57:46.620 but those women 1.00

01:57:47.560 those Christian women

01:57:48.260 also prefer guys 0.64

01:57:49.420 who are virgins

01:57:50.500 or low body count

01:57:51.280 But what about people

01:57:51.780 who aren't Christian?

01:57:53.160 Well...

01:57:54.080 I'm saying someone

01:57:54.800 that's looking for it though.

01:57:55.940 Yeah, like if you're

01:57:56.660 looking for that

01:57:57.320 then that's where

01:57:58.180 you would typically

01:57:59.000 find that.

01:57:59.660 I want to do...

01:58:00.300 I do want to challenge

01:58:01.160 you there a little bit

01:58:01.900 because there's this idea

01:58:02.820 that like

01:58:03.860 only conservative

01:58:05.480 or religious

01:58:06.840 or Christian women

01:58:07.880 have some like

01:58:09.240 exclusive claim

01:58:10.800 to non-promiscuity

01:58:12.060 and virginity. 0.99

01:58:13.080 I don't think

01:58:13.800 that's the case.

01:58:14.360 Well, I'm not saying

01:58:14.940 that, just in general.

01:58:17.000 Whether I agree

01:58:17.980 or not with someone

01:58:18.900 with their politics

01:58:19.880 like a liberal woman 0.99

01:58:21.000 could be non-promiscuous.

01:58:22.780 Absolutely.

01:58:23.420 I mean there are

01:58:23.860 exceptions but like

01:58:24.660 that's rare.

01:58:25.600 Or like a non...

01:58:26.720 an atheist

01:58:27.660 non-political woman

01:58:28.740 could be...

01:58:30.960 Yeah, it's just

01:58:31.400 less likely.

01:58:31.980 ...non-promiscuous.

01:58:32.900 Yeah.

01:58:33.460 So...

01:58:33.860 I don't think it's

01:58:34.440 based on religion

01:58:35.200 and stuff like

01:58:35.760 everybody is.

01:58:36.520 I mean just like

01:58:37.280 statistically...

01:58:38.020 I would say...

01:58:38.540 Yes, I would say

01:58:39.160 that women who are 0.99

01:58:39.960 religious probably

01:58:40.600 lean more towards

01:58:41.720 non-promiscuity

01:58:42.780 than their more

01:58:44.440 liberal atheist

01:58:45.820 counterparts but...

01:58:46.880 Yeah, and I'm

01:58:47.540 saying like...

01:58:48.180 But you don't have

01:58:49.100 exclusive...

01:58:50.500 You don't have

01:58:51.780 like exclusive...

01:58:53.140 What's the word?

01:58:55.880 Claim to

01:58:57.040 non-promiscuity.

01:58:59.160 Like...

01:58:59.680 What do you mean?

01:59:01.000 He's saying that

01:59:01.720 you don't have to

01:59:02.220 be Christian to...

01:59:03.020 Oh, no, I'm not

01:59:04.180 saying that.

01:59:04.680 Butler donated

01:59:05.520 $99.

01:59:06.940 Hey, Butler,

01:59:07.300 think about it.

01:59:07.440 Here's why high

01:59:08.360 body count make 0.92

01:59:09.260 you filthy.

01:59:10.480 Condoms do not 0.99

01:59:11.320 protect against

01:59:12.100 genital herpes.

01:59:13.680 60 bodies equals

01:59:14.940 exposure to 12

01:59:16.080 partners who are

01:59:17.020 infected.

01:59:17.920 100 bodies equals

01:59:19.280 you're not clean.

01:59:20.580 Thus why they

01:59:21.280 can't test for it

01:59:22.240 in corn.

01:59:22.900 It would destroy

01:59:23.820 the industry.

01:59:25.420 Based.

01:59:26.020 Yo, thank you,

01:59:26.580 Jay Butler.

01:59:27.020 Appreciate it.

01:59:27.620 Yeah, definitely

01:59:28.120 condoms do not

01:59:29.460 prevent the

01:59:31.200 herp derp and...

01:59:32.860 They just prevent

01:59:33.540 no children sometimes.

01:59:35.560 And other

01:59:36.200 STDs, but yeah.

01:59:37.900 Yeah.

01:59:38.280 Yeah.

01:59:38.800 What were we

01:59:39.220 talking about?

01:59:39.680 I don't remember.

01:59:40.400 Low body count?

01:59:41.040 You're a dream girl.

01:59:42.000 Well, no, you were

01:59:42.540 saying...

01:59:42.700 I'm talking in general.

01:59:43.260 I think you were

01:59:43.780 saying something

01:59:44.640 about, well, if you

01:59:46.680 have been with all

01:59:47.780 these people, then...

01:59:48.640 I'm just asking why

01:59:49.520 your preference is

01:59:50.240 that if you've been

01:59:50.940 with people, like...

01:59:52.400 Well, you don't...

01:59:52.720 Who knows how many

01:59:53.480 people you've been?

01:59:54.540 You don't know.

01:59:54.640 I mean, I don't,

01:59:55.300 but I'm saying...

01:59:56.080 Okay, sure.

01:59:56.840 So let's say I did

01:59:57.600 have a high body count,

01:59:58.460 right?

01:59:58.920 Yeah, but...

01:59:59.060 So you're saying,

01:59:59.640 well, Brian, you

02:00:00.300 shouldn't have this

02:00:01.000 preference for women

02:00:01.740 who have a low body

02:00:02.560 count.

02:00:02.780 Is that kind of...

02:00:03.600 No, no, no.

02:00:04.100 I'm asking why is it

02:00:05.320 your preference?

02:00:05.660 Oh, why is it my

02:00:06.560 preference?

02:00:07.120 Like, why do you

02:00:08.240 specifically want a

02:00:09.180 woman like that? 1.00

02:00:10.100 With low body count?

02:00:10.980 Yeah.

02:00:11.260 I'm going to defer

02:00:11.900 to Q on this because

02:00:12.840 Q...

02:00:13.860 Oh, okay.

02:00:15.660 Because all the

02:00:16.400 research indicates

02:00:17.320 that there are gender

02:00:18.300 differences between

02:00:19.200 our sexual behavior.

02:00:20.860 That's why we're 0.60

02:00:21.280 sexually dimorphic. 0.94

02:00:22.220 First of all, you 0.93

02:00:22.820 have paternity

02:00:23.400 uncertainty, which is

02:00:25.140 women who sleep 1.00

02:00:26.540 around.

02:00:27.440 There's less likelihood

02:00:28.120 of them knowing

02:00:28.680 who the father

02:00:29.120 of their child is,

02:00:30.100 and to a man,

02:00:31.000 the ultimate

02:00:31.360 disrespect is him

02:00:32.260 raising a child is

02:00:32.960 not his.

02:00:33.780 He's invested in

02:00:34.400 resources to help

02:00:35.140 the next man's

02:00:36.140 offspring.

02:00:37.440 That's extremely

02:00:38.900 detrimental to his

02:00:40.360 genetic legacy.

02:00:41.880 The second thing is

02:00:43.000 women, like I said, 1.00

02:00:43.980 experience a lot more

02:00:44.840 sexual regret. 0.72

02:00:45.980 Women come with a 1.00

02:00:46.520 lot more emotional 0.95

02:00:47.160 baggage.

02:00:47.980 They sleep with guys, 0.98

02:00:48.820 they rack up bodies.

02:00:49.440 I don't know if you

02:00:49.800 guys have just seen

02:00:50.260 Brittany Renner, but

02:00:50.940 Brittany Renner just

02:00:51.620 said she had 35

02:00:52.440 bodies.

02:00:53.180 When she said she had

02:00:53.820 35 bodies, she said

02:00:54.900 a lot of them, half

02:00:55.760 of them were one-night

02:00:57.340 stands, and she said 0.93

02:00:58.280 she wished they hadn't

02:00:59.320 have been that way.

02:01:00.140 So that tells you

02:01:01.660 right there that a lot

02:01:02.680 of times when women 0.83

02:01:03.440 sleep with a man, they 0.99

02:01:04.500 want that man to like

02:01:05.300 them.

02:01:05.500 They want something out

02:01:06.280 of that man.

02:01:07.060 So if you don't get

02:01:08.040 it, you become bitter,

02:01:09.660 you may regret it, it

02:01:11.500 may affect you

02:01:12.040 emotionally, it may

02:01:12.740 damage you emotionally.

02:01:13.860 That's another thing.

02:01:14.580 So you carry that into

02:01:15.560 the next relationship

02:01:16.400 that you're in.

02:01:17.440 So now those guys are

02:01:18.360 wondering why you are

02:01:19.200 the way that you are

02:01:19.840 when in reality it's

02:01:20.940 just because you don't

02:01:22.040 feel valued, you don't

02:01:23.140 feel validated.

02:01:24.100 You gave your body to a 1.00

02:01:25.160 man who didn't

02:01:26.100 appreciate you, who

02:01:26.800 didn't give you what

02:01:27.380 you want, you knew

02:01:27.960 what you wanted out of

02:01:28.760 it, you didn't get it.

02:01:29.900 So you feel some type

02:01:30.700 of way.

02:01:30.980 I agree with you.

02:01:31.800 The next thing is the

02:01:34.320 orgasm gap.

02:01:35.640 Men have an incentive to 0.99

02:01:36.800 want to procreate because

02:01:37.940 we orgasm 99% of the 0.95

02:01:40.260 time when we have sex.

02:01:41.460 The majority of women do 0.98

02:01:42.820 not orgasm when they 0.98

02:01:43.720 have sex. 0.94

02:01:44.500 So what did you just do? 1.00

02:01:45.680 You just wasted your

02:01:46.420 time. 0.96

02:01:47.220 Also, women describe sex 0.99

02:01:48.800 as better when they like

02:01:50.240 the guy.

02:01:50.840 They're attracted to the

02:01:51.600 guy.

02:01:52.080 So if you sleep with a 0.99

02:01:52.840 man that you don't know,

02:01:54.040 you might feel some type

02:01:55.300 of a way yucky or I

02:01:56.440 wish I hadn't done this 0.94

02:01:57.400 to experience sexual 0.96

02:01:58.280 disgust.

02:01:58.960 So there's differences.

02:02:00.180 All the research aligns

02:02:01.100 with what y'all call the

02:02:01.960 double standard and that's

02:02:02.820 why I say it's not a

02:02:03.560 double standard, it's

02:02:04.580 different standards because

02:02:05.440 the standard sexual

02:02:06.660 behaviors y'all exhibit are

02:02:08.040 not the same standard of

02:02:09.320 sexual behaviors that men

02:02:10.300 exhibit.

02:02:10.840 But then you could also

02:02:11.620 argue that stats prove

02:02:12.640 that pair bonding happened

02:02:13.660 for both men and women.

02:02:15.400 The higher body count a

02:02:16.560 man has also, the less

02:02:17.720 likely he is to pair bond.

02:02:18.760 Jay Butler is our, he's a

02:02:42.240 anti-herpes activist and

02:02:44.700 he's in here every week

02:02:45.840 just going hard on the

02:02:47.480 herpes training.

02:02:48.400 So he does raise a very

02:02:51.440 good point about, let me

02:02:52.880 just see here, having

02:02:57.160 herpes.

02:02:57.680 It's a good point.

02:03:00.780 So okay, one by one and

02:03:02.400 we'll come back to the

02:03:03.060 body count thing.

02:03:03.820 Actually, or you want,

02:03:06.200 let's have, did you want

02:03:07.780 to finish your point before

02:03:08.520 we go on to the...

02:03:09.480 I was finished.

02:03:10.340 She was saying about

02:03:10.920 pair bonding.

02:03:11.560 Oh, pair bonding.

02:03:13.200 You were saying something

02:03:14.040 about that?

02:03:14.320 No, I was saying the

02:03:14.960 argument is that, because

02:03:15.840 he's saying that men and

02:03:16.800 women have different 1.00

02:03:17.300 reactions when it comes

02:03:18.100 to sexual promiscuity in

02:03:20.220 that sense.

02:03:21.020 But stats actually show

02:03:22.000 that pair bonding is

02:03:22.900 something that negatively

02:03:23.680 affects both men and

02:03:25.340 women, the higher your 1.00

02:03:26.280 body count is.

02:03:27.420 So it is harder for a

02:03:28.360 man to actually find

02:03:29.820 someone too, long term.

02:03:31.540 The pair bonding, it

02:03:32.440 affects us both.

02:03:33.500 My understanding, though,

02:03:34.420 is it's more, it's more

02:03:36.560 pronounced in women. 1.00

02:03:37.700 It affects women to a 1.00

02:03:39.040 higher degree than men.

02:03:39.860 Do you know why?

02:03:40.220 To a higher degree, but

02:03:40.720 I'm saying it happens for

02:03:41.760 both.

02:03:42.080 You're saying it only

02:03:42.800 happened to women. 1.00

02:03:43.560 No, no, I didn't.

02:03:44.260 I never said that.

02:03:45.460 I never said that at all.

02:03:46.420 You just said that.

02:03:48.100 How dare you say that?

02:03:49.720 How dare you?

02:03:51.380 You were going to say,

02:03:52.660 though, why?

02:03:53.680 Yeah, I was going to say,

02:03:54.480 do you know what promotes

02:03:55.240 pair bonding?

02:03:56.580 Do you know the hormone

02:03:57.580 that's involved?

02:03:58.280 Oxytocin.

02:03:58.920 Exactly.

02:03:59.680 And who typically

02:04:00.260 releases more of that?

02:04:01.900 Women. 0.81

02:04:02.860 Exactly.

02:04:05.620 Is that simple?

02:04:06.620 Oxytocin and dopamine,

02:04:07.340 I mean, people have to

02:04:08.220 It's oxytocin and

02:04:09.040 vasopressin.

02:04:10.200 But oxytocin, but

02:04:11.460 vasopressin, it makes us

02:04:13.080 territorial.

02:04:14.880 You know, oxytocin is

02:04:16.340 what bonds us.

02:04:17.480 And you release that

02:04:18.300 during childbirth,

02:04:19.440 during breastfeeding,

02:04:20.780 when you're hugged,

02:04:21.580 when you're touched.

02:04:22.420 Women release oxytocin a 1.00

02:04:23.520 lot more than men do. 0.79

02:04:24.920 There was a TED Talk

02:04:26.580 on this, and I can't

02:04:27.380 remember the names of

02:04:28.140 the different chemicals

02:04:29.440 released in your body,

02:04:30.880 but the studies showed

02:04:32.640 that, yes, women release 1.00

02:04:34.940 this love hormone when 0.94

02:04:37.860 they have sex, but men 0.85

02:04:39.960 don't. 0.80

02:04:41.500 So men, typically, when 0.99

02:04:42.880 they have sex with a 0.87

02:04:43.680 woman that they're not

02:04:44.680 committed to, they might

02:04:46.700 not be interested in her

02:04:48.200 anymore.

02:04:48.480 They might fall out of

02:04:49.440 love, whatever.

02:04:49.920 Yeah.

02:04:50.260 But so for men, when men

02:04:52.180 start producing the love

02:04:53.220 hormone, it's once they 0.92

02:04:55.060 are committed.

02:04:56.200 It doesn't have to be,

02:04:57.680 and in the TED Talk,

02:04:58.900 they said it doesn't have

02:04:59.640 to be like you propose

02:05:00.340 or you're married,

02:05:00.880 whatever, but you have

02:05:01.880 to have a certain

02:05:02.560 commitment to this woman.

02:05:05.040 You have to decide for

02:05:05.840 yourself, and so it is

02:05:07.400 different for men and

02:05:08.120 women. 0.81

02:05:09.220 She's correct.

02:05:09.960 I think it's like the

02:05:11.380 matter of who views sex

02:05:12.960 as a commitment.

02:05:13.800 I feel like women

02:05:14.640 generally view sex as a

02:05:16.980 commitment in just a

02:05:18.360 broad, like in a big

02:05:19.360 generalization, a lot of

02:05:20.440 women think like if I 1.00

02:05:21.200 have sex with a man, 0.98

02:05:22.800 like subconsciously you 0.97

02:05:23.980 think he's going to date

02:05:24.780 you, he's going to want

02:05:25.520 to take you seriously,

02:05:26.280 but for men, it's actually

02:05:28.380 the exact opposite.

02:05:30.200 Like you could argue,

02:05:31.020 like she said, men don't

02:05:32.120 release vasopressin until

02:05:33.340 they start like carrying

02:05:34.840 out like tasks and duties

02:05:36.580 for a woman.

02:05:37.200 Like once they start

02:05:37.860 accomplishing things for

02:05:38.780 her, then they'll 1.00

02:05:39.700 release that love

02:05:40.320 hormone, but if they're 0.99

02:05:41.020 just having sex with a 0.95

02:05:41.980 woman, it's never, it's 0.91

02:05:43.380 never going to come like

02:05:44.440 that because they're just

02:05:45.300 not wired that way, but

02:05:46.620 that's why men have more 1.00

02:05:47.960 casual sex and women, I 0.90

02:05:50.380 would argue, don't have 0.99

02:05:51.680 as much casual sex 0.94

02:05:52.800 because for women, it's 1.00

02:05:54.320 not casual.

02:05:55.080 Like we attach way more

02:05:56.240 feeling to it.

02:05:57.180 So like, because you're

02:05:58.260 running the risk of

02:05:58.720 getting pregnant at the

02:05:59.820 foundation.

02:06:00.900 Well, that's part of it,

02:06:01.620 but it's also like the 0.99

02:06:03.420 quote, women give sex for 1.00

02:06:05.460 love and men give love 1.00

02:06:06.620 for sex.

02:06:08.600 Yes. 0.96

02:06:09.140 Word?

02:06:10.200 Word.

02:06:11.720 Where were we before I,

02:06:13.240 we were talking about.

02:06:13.940 We need to finish here.

02:06:15.080 Oh, I pretty much.

02:06:17.940 Um, yeah, I mean this

02:06:19.920 kind of, I already said

02:06:21.680 like peace and doesn't

02:06:23.200 quarrel, but like I think

02:06:24.400 one of the most important

02:06:25.140 things you need to do as a

02:06:25.960 guy is protect your peace

02:06:27.020 at all costs.

02:06:28.020 So a quarrelsome woman is 1.00

02:06:29.840 enough to upend your life.

02:06:31.880 And look, a man who's got

02:06:34.420 serious issues will also 0.99

02:06:36.100 severely fuck up a woman's 1.00

02:06:37.640 life, but you add mental 1.00

02:06:39.040 illness into the picture,

02:06:40.420 could ruin your life.

02:06:42.140 So one of my preferences,

02:06:44.160 I don't know if I want to

02:06:44.960 go ahead.

02:06:45.540 No, you should say it. 1.00

02:06:46.360 No mentally ill women. 0.98

02:06:48.780 Well, I'd say no major 0.98

02:06:49.860 mental disorders like

02:06:51.040 bipolar, BPD, any cluster

02:06:52.720 B personality disorders.

02:06:54.760 APD, BPD, HPD, MPD, no

02:06:57.720 self-harm, suicidal

02:06:58.580 ideation.

02:06:59.320 I got a question.

02:07:00.240 Wait, I have a question.

02:07:00.920 What if somebody was like

02:07:02.220 severely like depressed,

02:07:03.400 like had like what's it

02:07:04.920 called, like like major

02:07:06.320 depression and went through

02:07:07.680 that phase of having like

02:07:09.480 suicidal thoughts, but then

02:07:10.540 worked through it and is

02:07:11.920 doing better, like had that

02:07:12.780 history, but has like taken

02:07:14.300 action and responsibility.

02:07:15.240 Would that be an exception

02:07:16.500 or would you still like no?

02:07:18.520 Yeah, that would be my

02:07:19.240 question.

02:07:19.600 What if you knew they had

02:07:20.740 like a solid support system

02:07:22.240 like they see a therapist,

02:07:23.000 they see a psychiatrist

02:07:24.060 consistently?

02:07:25.500 Red flag.

02:07:26.700 Why is it a red flag?

02:07:27.800 So you're calling me a

02:07:28.900 red flag?

02:07:30.020 Well, I'm probably a red

02:07:31.460 flag to you.

02:07:32.320 I'm here.

02:07:32.720 I am maybe because I'm

02:07:34.700 bipolar.

02:07:35.880 OK, so well, there's

02:07:37.040 degrees to there's degrees

02:07:38.880 to that.

02:07:39.440 Exactly.

02:07:39.900 Bipolar can manifest itself

02:07:40.720 in different ways.

02:07:44.060 Look, it's possible that I

02:07:45.700 could meet a woman who has

02:07:47.440 one of these things and

02:07:48.600 she's got it under control.

02:07:50.020 So I'm just I get what

02:07:54.780 you're saying.

02:07:55.140 Like what if it could be

02:07:56.040 genetic?

02:07:56.840 Like she can't.

02:07:57.520 It is.

02:07:58.240 But what if you're genetic

02:07:59.300 and you're and you're

02:08:00.140 short?

02:08:00.480 Yeah.

02:08:00.700 But see, that's what he's

02:08:01.460 talking about.

02:08:01.860 I mean, this is dating is

02:08:03.120 not fair.

02:08:03.880 Like at the end of the day,

02:08:05.040 dating is not fair.

02:08:06.460 Attraction is not fair.

02:08:07.940 It's just the way it is.

02:08:08.900 We have certain proclivities

02:08:10.300 and tendencies to want to

02:08:12.360 date people who are, you

02:08:14.460 know, don't possess certain

02:08:15.700 qualities.

02:08:16.400 And when you talk about

02:08:17.380 personality disorders, a lot

02:08:18.800 of those are genetic.

02:08:19.860 So we run the risk of our

02:08:20.860 kids possibly being exposed

02:08:22.480 to that or them having that

02:08:24.240 themselves, like our kids

02:08:25.760 being like that.

02:08:26.460 But it can obstruct the

02:08:27.340 relationship.

02:08:27.980 It can obstruct our ability

02:08:29.420 to bond.

02:08:30.020 It can obstruct the way we

02:08:30.880 resolve conflict, the way

02:08:31.860 we manage conflict.

02:08:33.200 And that's why it's more of

02:08:34.240 a headache dealing with a

02:08:35.040 woman who has those kind 1.00

02:08:36.040 of issues.

02:08:36.380 I've dated women who've been

02:08:37.720 in therapy, and I will say

02:08:39.180 that therapy doesn't always

02:08:40.620 work the way that it should.

02:08:41.800 It doesn't work if you don't

02:08:42.720 apply it.

02:08:43.220 And they still fall into

02:08:44.600 the same behavioral

02:08:45.360 patterns, the same

02:08:46.160 behavioral tendencies that

02:08:47.140 create conflict in a

02:08:48.020 relationship.

02:08:48.560 And after a while, it's just

02:08:49.820 cyclical.

02:08:50.440 It recurs over and over, and

02:08:51.800 then you're just like, I had

02:08:52.660 enough.

02:08:52.960 I can't do it.

02:08:53.640 I don't want to do it.

02:08:54.380 Can I add to that?

02:08:55.340 I mean, I can't speak for

02:08:56.180 everyone.

02:08:56.480 I can only speak for myself.

02:08:58.060 But I mean, I don't deal

02:08:59.760 with them as bad anymore, but I

02:09:00.820 deal with like debilitating

02:09:01.720 like panic attacks.

02:09:03.600 And I've been seeing a

02:09:04.800 therapist, and I see a

02:09:05.560 psychiatrist.

02:09:05.860 Like, I'm not secretive about

02:09:07.040 that.

02:09:07.820 And I think when most people go

02:09:10.400 to therapy, they think this

02:09:11.720 therapist is like a doctor.

02:09:12.640 They're going to fix all my

02:09:13.680 problems, and I'm going to be

02:09:15.060 good.

02:09:15.680 And it's really like that

02:09:16.640 therapist is just there to

02:09:17.960 listen to you and support you,

02:09:19.080 and you have to put in the

02:09:20.120 work for yourself to get to

02:09:22.460 that place where you can

02:09:24.060 communicate with your

02:09:24.840 partner.

02:09:25.400 And when you do have, like,

02:09:26.500 for me, if I had a panic

02:09:27.420 attack, I could, you know,

02:09:28.960 calm down from that and then

02:09:29.900 like explain to them like what

02:09:31.500 happened.

02:09:32.340 And I just feel like, like for

02:09:34.320 me personally, going to

02:09:35.180 therapy, like I've learned how

02:09:36.400 to communicate with people so

02:09:38.000 much better.

02:09:38.580 That's cool.

02:09:42.540 Yeah, that's what therapy is.

02:09:44.080 Can confirm.

02:09:44.960 And you have to put in the

02:09:46.620 work.

02:09:47.060 You can't just, like, yeah,

02:09:48.400 she said it.

02:09:48.720 A lot of people just go on,

02:09:49.880 like, medication, and then

02:09:51.260 they think it's going to be

02:09:51.960 a problem.

02:09:52.040 I mean, that's your preference

02:09:53.000 though.

02:09:53.440 Some men can handle women, 0.70

02:09:55.880 like, with that.

02:09:56.620 Men with a lot of patience.

02:09:58.680 Do you not have patience?

02:09:59.880 It depends.

02:10:01.020 I'm patient.

02:10:01.520 It depends.

02:10:01.960 I'm pretty patient.

02:10:02.960 I'm pretty patient.

02:10:03.740 Yeah, I have selected.

02:10:04.320 But it's in the same way that,

02:10:06.420 see, I think maybe this is a

02:10:08.860 shocker because most men are 0.89

02:10:09.960 not really open with their

02:10:11.300 preferences, standards, and

02:10:12.260 boundaries.

02:10:12.980 Women often never hear men 0.98

02:10:14.900 actually articulate what they

02:10:16.840 want.

02:10:17.460 It's better if a man speaks 1.00

02:10:19.460 about it, though.

02:10:20.720 Right.

02:10:21.100 But look, I mean, you said

02:10:23.820 that, sorry, what was the

02:10:24.900 word you used?

02:10:25.460 You said handle?

02:10:27.420 Not handle.

02:10:27.920 We don't want, I don't want

02:10:29.620 to have to handle somebody.

02:10:30.980 I meant it in a way where

02:10:32.100 it's like, they're capable of

02:10:33.900 sitting there and listening to

02:10:35.800 you and, like, understanding

02:10:37.680 it.

02:10:38.160 But why, why, if you're

02:10:40.840 dealing with a man who has

02:10:41.820 options, and there's a woman. 0.97

02:10:44.380 Oh, if he has options, I'm

02:10:45.260 not going to talk to him.

02:10:46.660 Like, if I want to pursue

02:10:47.800 something with him, and he

02:10:50.400 doesn't, and he's still seeing

02:10:51.780 those people.

02:10:52.540 Sure.

02:10:52.940 Whatever, bye.

02:10:54.000 But in the same way that

02:10:54.840 women, just like her, she went 1.00

02:10:57.200 on 14 dates with 14 different

02:10:59.540 men in 14 days.

02:11:00.980 She picked, of those 14 men,

02:11:03.720 keep in mind she had 14 other

02:11:05.120 dates planned for the next two

02:11:06.520 weeks, she picked the most

02:11:08.060 optimum men of the 14.

02:11:10.440 In that same way, men are also

02:11:12.300 entitled, well, maybe entitled's

02:11:14.860 not the right word, men are also

02:11:16.320 able to pick the most optimum

02:11:18.820 partner.

02:11:19.980 Sure.

02:11:20.260 So, I, my personal view is that,

02:11:25.720 and I don't see how this is like a

02:11:27.780 crazy hot take, is, don't date 0.99

02:11:31.060 people who have mental illness. 0.60

02:11:33.940 I think it's actually commendable for

02:11:35.680 Brian to admit that he can't handle

02:11:37.640 that because there is, no, no, no,

02:11:38.880 no, no, no, no, it's not a question

02:11:40.340 of handling.

02:11:41.080 No, I'm just trying to.

02:11:41.840 In the same way that I don't want

02:11:43.100 to handle a woman who's a murderer.

02:11:44.680 No, I know that.

02:11:45.340 I'm just, what I was trying to say.

02:11:46.540 I don't want to handle a woman 1.00

02:11:47.260 who's a pyromaniac. 0.93

02:11:48.420 That's kind of different, though.

02:11:49.020 Yes, you shouldn't have to handle it.

02:11:50.560 It's not your responsibility to

02:11:52.360 handle it.

02:11:52.760 I was just trying to make a point of,

02:11:54.300 I know men that will get into

02:11:56.820 relationships with women that have

02:11:58.200 disorders like that and lie and act

02:11:59.980 like they can, and then when the

02:12:01.420 woman is disappointed after a 1.00

02:12:03.020 couple weeks or months because they

02:12:04.160 realize this man just left them in

02:12:05.960 the side of the dirt when they

02:12:06.780 had a manic episode, like wouldn't

02:12:08.440 you rather have a man dismiss you 1.00

02:12:10.600 right away for your mental illness 0.86

02:12:12.860 rather than lead you on for months 0.92

02:12:14.320 thinking that he can deal with that

02:12:16.040 when he actually can't.

02:12:17.260 Like I feel like that's more

02:12:18.520 respectful that he could admit that

02:12:19.780 he doesn't want to be in a

02:12:21.500 relationship with someone like that

02:12:22.540 because it would just make it more of a.

02:12:23.560 But I also don't tell people

02:12:24.700 right away that I'm bipolar, you know?

02:12:26.840 Like if I'm on a date.

02:12:28.000 No, but why wouldn't you just.

02:12:28.820 We're just having a conversation about it.

02:12:30.980 No, yeah, I'm just, I'm just saying

02:12:32.360 like it's actually better of being

02:12:34.540 a better person to state your

02:12:36.260 preference straight out like that

02:12:37.440 than lying to someone saying that.

02:12:39.040 Yeah, I'm fine with that and then

02:12:40.100 after a couple weeks they realize

02:12:41.420 what that actually entails and then 0.99

02:12:43.240 they're like oh fuck no and then 0.99

02:12:44.400 they've just hurt your feelings and 1.00

02:12:45.860 and treated you like shit. 1.00

02:12:46.720 Well I could see that because if 1.00

02:12:47.820 someone was like oh I don't want to

02:12:49.700 I don't want to see you anymore 1.00

02:12:50.680 because you're a mental mental 1.00

02:12:51.860 illness I'd probably be like I. 1.00

02:12:53.040 That's a little fucked up. 0.99

02:12:53.900 Okay, I don't want to have a 1.00

02:12:54.720 relationship with you.

02:12:55.520 I mean we're probably just

02:12:56.300 incompatible like at the end of the

02:12:57.460 day then yeah.

02:13:00.620 Sure, you do you.

02:13:02.020 Word.

02:13:02.340 Look, again, could I meet a woman 0.78

02:13:06.280 who does have one of these disorders 0.99

02:13:07.800 and she's got it really fucking 0.99

02:13:09.600 under control and she's got a strong 0.97

02:13:11.240 constitution and a strong mind?

02:13:13.500 Yeah.

02:13:14.260 Yes.

02:13:14.860 However, it is kind of my general

02:13:17.040 practice unless proven otherwise in

02:13:18.920 some way to avoid people who have

02:13:21.120 like cluster B personality disorders.

02:13:23.360 It's just like I dated a girl who had 0.95

02:13:25.440 BPD.

02:13:25.880 wasn't good, was not good and I luckily

02:13:30.980 it wasn't that severe but even for like

02:13:33.900 that caused so much issues in the

02:13:36.500 relationship and so I think one of the

02:13:39.380 most important things you can protect

02:13:40.860 for from a man. 1.00

02:13:42.260 I mean look women can do this shit too. 1.00

02:13:44.860 I think women and women are very 1.00

02:13:46.380 selective already.

02:13:48.260 Don't get involved with men who have 0.99

02:13:50.320 the capacity and capability to 1.00

02:13:51.900 absolutely fucking destroy your life 0.98

02:13:54.080 and it happens to be the case that 1.00

02:13:55.620 people who are mentally unstable 0.77

02:13:56.880 if you 0.77

02:13:57.980 if you break up with somebody

02:13:59.760 the normal thing is

02:14:01.300 oh hey sorry it didn't work out

02:14:03.300 I wish you the best

02:14:04.140 take care.

02:14:05.080 You break up with the wrong 1.00

02:14:06.220 fucking person 1.00

02:14:06.980 and they will stalk you 1.00

02:14:08.280 they will ruin your fucking life 1.00

02:14:10.340 they will 1.00

02:14:10.760 stress you the fuck out

02:14:12.400 they will aid you 0.93

02:14:13.220 so

02:14:13.480 both men and women

02:14:14.780 but I you know I'm speaking from

02:14:15.880 the male perspective

02:14:16.620 you should not get involved

02:14:18.080 with women who have the capacity 1.00

02:14:19.740 to absolutely fucking destroy 1.00

02:14:21.820 and ruin your life. 1.00

02:14:22.500 same with women 0.99

02:14:23.240 you should not get involved

02:14:24.100 with men who have the capacity 0.99

02:14:25.680 to absolutely fuck up your life 0.98

02:14:27.780 so you gotta you gotta be 0.88

02:14:29.080 very selective here.

02:14:31.880 Depends.

02:14:32.320 So they have to be pretty 0.99

02:14:33.260 pretty mentally ill for you 0.99

02:14:35.080 not to want to be with them 0.98

02:14:36.320 because I feel like that's like

02:14:37.560 what do you mean?

02:14:39.280 Like

02:14:39.560 this is like common sense

02:14:40.860 to be near.

02:14:41.400 No no yeah no

02:14:42.360 and I'm agreeing with you

02:14:43.360 but I'm just saying like

02:14:44.540 I thought you meant like 0.97

02:14:46.040 if you have any mental

02:14:47.200 because you said psychiatry therapy

02:14:48.720 that's a red flag

02:14:49.460 so it sounded like you were like 0.88

02:14:50.680 any mental illness period

02:14:52.180 but it sounds like

02:14:53.160 like

02:14:54.000 I said

02:14:54.300 like even anxiety

02:14:55.500 what's that?

02:14:56.340 Like even anxiety

02:14:57.260 you would have been

02:14:57.980 Well I mean look

02:14:58.300 I have anxiety

02:14:59.200 I used to have panic attacks

02:15:00.420 and what I did was

02:15:01.840 occasionally I still have

02:15:03.480 some anxiety

02:15:04.540 I saw like a person

02:15:07.700 who specialized in it

02:15:08.680 I had like a month of sessions

02:15:09.940 and luckily you know

02:15:10.860 I was able to

02:15:11.680 overcome

02:15:12.360 Have you ever been depressed?

02:15:12.980 Huh?

02:15:13.280 Have you ever had like

02:15:14.100 a stage in your life

02:15:15.260 where you felt

02:15:15.860 somewhat depressed?

02:15:17.020 Have I ever been depressed?

02:15:21.000 It doesn't have to be like

02:15:22.340 extreme

02:15:23.260 it's just like

02:15:25.040 you had a point in your life

02:15:26.560 where you felt really down

02:15:27.240 People say there's like

02:15:28.180 there's clinical depression

02:15:29.680 right?

02:15:30.200 So

02:15:30.440 I'm not

02:15:32.360 I don't think I've had that

02:15:33.900 but like

02:15:34.320 are there periods in my life

02:15:35.860 where I have

02:15:36.420 not been happy

02:15:38.260 or been upset about things

02:15:39.500 or

02:15:39.860 depressed?

02:15:41.980 I suppose you could say yes

02:15:43.160 but I didn't

02:15:45.020 Well I think this is a big difference

02:15:46.740 between men and women 0.90

02:15:48.060 and so

02:15:48.740 I think

02:15:49.740 talk therapy

02:15:50.660 well it's not clear to me

02:15:52.300 if that even

02:15:52.760 helps women

02:15:53.820 but

02:15:54.100 as a man

02:15:56.260 I don't want to talk

02:15:57.900 about my problems

02:15:58.500 I want solutions

02:16:00.060 to my problems

02:16:00.720 talking about my problems

02:16:01.820 does nothing

02:16:02.620 so

02:16:03.680 I am kind of

02:16:06.220 talk therapy

02:16:07.220 to me

02:16:07.760 is kind of 1.00

02:16:08.700 Bullshit 1.00

02:16:09.220 What about 1.00

02:16:10.480 cognitive behavior therapy?

02:16:12.540 What are your

02:16:12.960 opinions on that?

02:16:14.140 I think

02:16:14.480 I haven't

02:16:15.520 I'm not super

02:16:16.200 familiar with it

02:16:16.880 but I think

02:16:17.260 that's like

02:16:17.900 changing your

02:16:19.020 behaviors

02:16:19.680 and changing your

02:16:21.400 thoughts

02:16:21.800 I think

02:16:22.860 but that's like

02:16:23.920 something that's

02:16:25.440 actionable

02:16:25.980 but just going to

02:16:27.180 a therapist

02:16:27.680 to almost like

02:16:29.120 talk therapy 1.00

02:16:29.760 is bullshit 1.00

02:16:30.240 to me 0.99

02:16:31.300 I don't think

02:16:32.400 that would help me

02:16:33.020 I want either

02:16:33.760 Everybody's different though

02:16:34.720 So my view on it

02:16:36.300 is if I have an issue

02:16:37.480 I need

02:16:39.020 I either need

02:16:39.960 to have a solution

02:16:40.720 or if there is

02:16:41.620 no solution

02:16:42.180 then I need

02:16:42.980 to accept

02:16:43.960 the situation

02:16:44.700 and talking

02:16:46.220 about it

02:16:46.720 for me

02:16:47.640 is not

02:16:48.120 really gonna

02:16:48.920 be alleviating

02:16:51.420 in any sort of way

02:16:52.180 Yeah you can always

02:16:52.320 go out and do

02:16:53.020 things too

02:16:53.620 like go on a run

02:16:54.580 or go on a hike

02:16:55.460 it'll help

02:16:56.540 like the anxiety

02:16:57.440 and like being sad

02:16:58.580 or going out

02:16:59.340 with like friends

02:17:00.180 going to get dinner

02:17:01.020 or something

02:17:01.520 but for other people

02:17:03.580 like

02:17:04.640 If it works

02:17:05.080 for other people

02:17:05.640 that's fine

02:17:06.140 Sometimes it's better

02:17:07.120 because they're not

02:17:08.280 like they're not

02:17:09.140 in an environment

02:17:09.800 where they're around

02:17:10.600 people who they are

02:17:11.520 able to speak to

02:17:12.680 if they are down

02:17:13.580 and so sometimes

02:17:15.040 it's like your therapist

02:17:16.540 truly doesn't know

02:17:17.860 maybe who you are

02:17:18.920 but it's sometimes

02:17:19.580 nice to just

02:17:20.360 let it all out

02:17:21.460 and someone's just

02:17:22.080 listening

02:17:22.440 and you get that

02:17:23.600 advice at the same time

02:17:24.980 Sure

02:17:25.800 and there

02:17:26.980 I think there perhaps

02:17:27.940 might be some benefit

02:17:29.000 if you are

02:17:30.020 like grieving

02:17:32.180 there are therapists

02:17:33.780 that can

02:17:34.180 I think hospice

02:17:35.800 will actually offer

02:17:36.840 if you had a loved one

02:17:39.500 in hospice

02:17:40.120 and they passed away

02:17:40.880 they'll offer therapy

02:17:42.320 and there's people

02:17:43.140 who are specialized

02:17:43.840 in helping people

02:17:45.660 deal with grief

02:17:46.780 when a loved one dies

02:17:48.240 I think that's okay

02:17:49.940 but like

02:17:50.700 the

02:17:51.660 I don't know

02:17:52.480 me personally

02:17:53.020 I don't think

02:17:54.580 going to somebody

02:17:55.820 and talking to them

02:17:57.820 about my problems

02:17:58.900 for me anyways

02:18:00.420 would be particularly helpful

02:18:01.620 if it helps other people

02:18:03.020 cool

02:18:03.300 but

02:18:04.100 yeah

02:18:04.920 Okay continue

02:18:05.780 That's pretty much it

02:18:07.560 just look

02:18:07.960 ultimately at the end of the day

02:18:09.020 you need to protect your peace

02:18:10.060 this is my advice to men

02:18:11.740 and I suppose to women too

02:18:12.880 somebody who's quarrelsome

02:18:15.040 it's 0.99

02:18:16.040 gonna fuck up your life 0.97

02:18:18.260 and you know 0.99

02:18:19.120 add some of these other things

02:18:20.080 into the picture

02:18:20.580 can ruin your life

02:18:22.060 so

02:18:22.500 I think people

02:18:23.720 should be very very careful

02:18:24.820 with who they get involved with

02:18:25.920 I have a question

02:18:27.020 Yeah

02:18:27.360 Do you know

02:18:28.500 the book called 0.84

02:18:29.620 Why Men Love Bitches? 1.00

02:18:31.440 Why Men Love 0.94

02:18:32.100 Have you heard of that book?

02:18:34.460 No

02:18:34.820 It's good

02:18:35.240 It's a good book

02:18:37.660 Who wrote it?

02:18:40.000 I don't know her name 0.90

02:18:41.240 Why Men Love Bitches? 1.00

02:18:42.740 Yeah 0.88

02:18:42.940 Look it up

02:18:43.480 Look it up

02:18:44.340 Is it like a joke?

02:18:45.820 Like is it actually

02:18:46.660 making the argument

02:18:47.360 that men love 1.00

02:18:48.360 bitchy women? 1.00

02:18:49.900 Yeah 1.00

02:18:50.140 Yeah that's bullshit 1.00

02:18:51.240 That's absolute bullshit 1.00

02:18:52.680 It's not like bitchy 1.00

02:18:54.720 it's like they don't want 0.75

02:18:55.480 a woman that 0.96

02:18:56.040 can be walked all over

02:18:57.420 Yeah

02:18:57.900 You have to read the book

02:18:59.060 to understand

02:18:59.720 The name is like

02:19:00.820 a catch

02:19:01.280 a tension grabber

02:19:02.380 What's like the top

02:19:03.300 three

02:19:03.900 things that it's

02:19:06.320 Um

02:19:08.660 I didn't finish the book

02:19:10.000 but

02:19:10.280 it was my friend

02:19:12.540 and she took it back

02:19:13.300 Well what's

02:19:13.760 you read it?

02:19:14.880 Oh no

02:19:15.240 I've just heard of it

02:19:15.960 I just know that

02:19:16.900 the

02:19:17.160 No I

02:19:17.860 I know

02:19:18.360 I've just heard of it

02:19:18.800 What's it called?

02:19:19.220 I can explain 0.98

02:19:19.920 Why Men Love Bitches 1.00

02:19:21.860 Love Bitches? 1.00

02:19:23.180 Why Men Love Bitches 1.00

02:19:24.260 I can explain it 0.91

02:19:25.180 I've read half the book

02:19:26.620 and I just heard

02:19:27.440 one woman say 0.98

02:19:28.180 that it's

02:19:28.660 Why Men Are Attracted

02:19:29.480 to a Strong Woman

02:19:30.940 who stand

02:19:31.380 hold on

02:19:31.700 let me

02:19:31.880 let me

02:19:32.200 find the Amazon

02:19:33.340 here I'll

02:19:34.520 I'll read it

02:19:35.040 for everybody here

02:19:35.780 do you have it Nick?

02:19:37.980 October

02:19:38.380 and it's okay

02:19:41.140 released in October

02:19:42.920 October 1st of 2000

02:19:44.320 oh whoa

02:19:44.860 whoa

02:19:45.880 October 1st

02:19:46.800 it's October 1st

02:19:47.680 okay

02:19:48.680 2002

02:19:50.240 let's see

02:19:51.820 the

02:19:52.240 discover why men

02:19:54.460 are attracted to

02:19:54.980 strong independent women

02:19:55.960 with a straightforward

02:19:56.600 accessible dating guide

02:19:57.640 from New York Times

02:19:58.500 blah blah blah

02:19:59.280 okay

02:19:59.460 do you feel like

02:20:00.480 you are too nice

02:20:01.260 why men are attracted

02:20:03.820 to a strong woman

02:20:04.540 who stands up for herself

02:20:05.520 with saucy details

02:20:06.860 on every page

02:20:07.580 this no-nonsense guide

02:20:08.960 reveals why

02:20:09.540 a strong woman

02:20:10.300 is much more desirable

02:20:11.680 than a yes woman

02:20:12.520 who routinely sacrifices herself

02:20:14.700 the author provides

02:20:16.020 compelling answers

02:20:16.660 to the tough questions

02:20:18.120 women often ask 1.00

02:20:18.860 why are men so romantic

02:20:20.200 in the beginning

02:20:20.740 and why do they change

02:20:21.740 why do men 0.78

02:20:22.540 take nice girls 1.00

02:20:23.260 for granted

02:20:23.740 why does a man

02:20:24.920 respect a woman

02:20:25.660 when she stands up

02:20:26.480 for herself

02:20:27.260 yeah

02:20:28.640 uh

02:20:29.460 it's just about

02:20:31.600 being an independent woman

02:20:32.800 and like

02:20:33.560 oh is that what men want 0.60

02:20:34.580 that's well

02:20:35.800 wouldn't you make the argument

02:20:37.160 if you're independent

02:20:39.160 you don't want to be

02:20:39.800 in a relationship

02:20:40.280 sorry

02:20:41.340 say that again 0.67

02:20:41.880 if you want to be independent

02:20:42.960 you don't want to be

02:20:43.680 in a relationship

02:20:44.240 I don't agree with that

02:20:46.600 I think like

02:20:47.420 you can be independent

02:20:48.360 and still be in a relationship

02:20:50.040 but the literal meaning

02:20:51.800 so saying self-sufficient

02:20:53.040 is one thing

02:20:53.700 but saying that you want

02:20:54.640 to be independent

02:20:55.220 means you do not want

02:20:56.240 anyone

02:20:57.080 yeah

02:20:57.640 because the opposite

02:20:58.260 of that is interdependent

02:20:59.460 I mean

02:21:01.480 I just

02:21:02.020 I disagree with that

02:21:02.940 the title

02:21:05.480 immediately

02:21:06.120 I like to be independent

02:21:07.040 in different ways

02:21:07.960 like with relationships

02:21:09.240 though

02:21:09.680 I think the book's

02:21:10.980 mostly about

02:21:11.680 not um

02:21:13.100 not losing

02:21:14.020 your entire life

02:21:15.100 for a man

02:21:16.120 it's like

02:21:16.660 not being

02:21:17.340 completely obsessed

02:21:18.380 to where you

02:21:19.060 like

02:21:19.340 have your identity

02:21:20.600 like you lose

02:21:21.220 your identity

02:21:21.900 like you lose

02:21:22.600 your identity

02:21:22.960 but like

02:21:24.280 would you want

02:21:24.780 your girlfriend

02:21:25.280 to not have

02:21:25.780 any sort of

02:21:26.360 identity or personality

02:21:27.400 to where she's

02:21:27.980 only revolving around

02:21:28.880 she changes

02:21:29.480 that sounds pretty dope

02:21:30.340 yeah

02:21:31.160 no you'd just be dating

02:21:32.440 like you'd just be dating 0.88

02:21:33.560 like a puppet 0.59

02:21:34.120 like perfect

02:21:35.060 great

02:21:35.660 awesome

02:21:37.340 sign me up

02:21:38.920 sign me up

02:21:40.500 where are all these

02:21:41.220 puppets

02:21:41.520 you say that

02:21:41.820 but like after a while

02:21:42.720 you'd get pretty turned off

02:21:43.820 if a girl was just 0.99

02:21:44.720 completely 100% of the time

02:21:46.820 only focusing on you

02:21:48.440 she'd like

02:21:49.220 to not focus on herself

02:21:50.440 would be

02:21:50.840 she'd neglecting 0.65

02:21:51.680 all of her

02:21:52.260 like educational needs

02:21:54.360 physical needs

02:21:55.020 going to the gym

02:21:55.520 she wouldn't be doing

02:21:56.080 any of that

02:21:56.440 she'd be only focusing

02:21:57.260 wouldn't that be unattractive

02:21:58.060 so you like needy girls 0.69

02:21:59.200 that's like such a

02:22:00.140 I don't ever think

02:22:00.960 it's ever happened

02:22:03.000 like that

02:22:03.420 in nationality

02:22:04.140 there is women like that 1.00

02:22:05.200 that will lose

02:22:05.820 I have known women 0.98

02:22:06.780 in high school

02:22:07.200 that will forget

02:22:08.080 about everything

02:22:08.960 going on in their life

02:22:10.020 because one man

02:22:10.740 looks in their direction

02:22:11.440 and then they're

02:22:12.020 obsessed with it

02:22:12.600 that's dope

02:22:13.160 sign me up

02:22:14.080 where she at

02:22:14.560 so you like needy girls 0.69

02:22:15.780 huh

02:22:16.120 you like needy girls

02:22:17.500 you'd have to present

02:22:19.880 to me the behaviors

02:22:21.000 I mean

02:22:21.460 the title of the book

02:22:22.600 like constantly stuck to you

02:22:23.740 you didn't text me

02:22:24.580 back fast enough

02:22:25.740 oh I don't like that

02:22:26.860 like you said

02:22:27.200 okay well that's someone

02:22:28.060 that would ruin your life

02:22:28.940 after you broke up with them

02:22:29.940 but then she's quarreling

02:22:31.260 yeah

02:22:31.760 see I want a girl

02:22:32.840 who is

02:22:34.100 however I'm acting

02:22:36.000 she's cool with it

02:22:37.300 like post you on Instagram

02:22:38.760 no like for example

02:22:39.440 let me just clarify

02:22:40.240 that point I just made

02:22:41.040 so for example

02:22:42.060 I'm a bit introverted

02:22:44.960 I'm the type of person

02:22:46.020 that needs a bit of space

02:22:46.860 so I'm not

02:22:47.360 at least certainly

02:22:48.780 early on in a relationship

02:22:49.920 I can't see you every day

02:22:51.260 like one

02:22:52.020 I'm just very busy

02:22:52.700 with my work

02:22:53.300 I've got a lot of stuff

02:22:54.620 going on

02:22:55.180 I'm not gonna be

02:22:56.720 calling you every day

02:22:57.920 so I'm not gonna be

02:22:59.920 texting you every day

02:23:00.760 I'm super busy

02:23:02.040 I'm preoccupied

02:23:02.800 you can't even shoot

02:23:04.160 one text though

02:23:05.020 wait so let's see

02:23:05.660 that's pretty tough

02:23:06.140 for me not gonna lie

02:23:06.900 it's pretty hard

02:23:07.940 so

02:23:09.440 it's pretty tough

02:23:10.140 if you're dating a person

02:23:11.300 yeah

02:23:11.640 that's fair

02:23:12.320 you don't text them

02:23:13.820 every day

02:23:14.560 just like

02:23:15.040 how are you doing

02:23:16.020 how early on

02:23:16.680 are we talking here

02:23:17.380 early on

02:23:18.960 no you're not getting

02:23:20.000 a text every day

02:23:20.680 from me

02:23:21.040 even if you're

02:23:22.980 in a relationship

02:23:23.960 with them

02:23:24.760 how early on

02:23:26.280 boyfriend and girlfriend

02:23:26.820 we've been

02:23:28.240 talking for a month

02:23:29.340 no

02:23:30.020 I mean

02:23:30.600 after you're official

02:23:32.100 it depends

02:23:32.420 no you first go

02:23:33.480 on a date with somebody

02:23:34.420 yeah you might not

02:23:35.460 if it went super well

02:23:36.960 would you text them

02:23:37.620 the next day

02:23:38.140 maybe like

02:23:38.640 six months in

02:23:39.720 you might get

02:23:40.440 a couple texts a week 0.99

02:23:41.220 what the fuck 0.99

02:23:42.300 what 1.00

02:23:42.960 okay then you're

02:23:43.800 obviously not

02:23:44.720 into the woman

02:23:45.440 yeah you're not

02:23:46.600 into her

02:23:47.200 if you're texting her

02:23:48.240 like

02:23:48.520 I think part of it

02:23:50.160 okay you gotta understand

02:23:51.160 part of it with me

02:23:52.220 is that

02:23:53.240 I'm

02:23:54.000 I'm an OG

02:23:54.840 okay

02:23:55.640 I'm a boomer

02:23:56.360 okay

02:23:56.640 we forgot

02:23:57.280 I didn't used to

02:23:58.120 hold on

02:23:58.400 let me show you

02:23:58.920 my old phone

02:23:59.580 okay hold on

02:24:00.440 one sec guys

02:24:01.360 you could write her

02:24:02.080 a letter

02:24:02.480 wait I forgot to ask you

02:24:04.220 this used to be my phone

02:24:05.640 okay

02:24:06.100 you see this thing

02:24:07.300 you see this

02:24:08.440 yeah

02:24:08.800 looks like

02:24:09.600 it's like

02:24:10.220 from like

02:24:10.520 yeah

02:24:10.760 and then

02:24:11.580 look

02:24:12.100 I had this one

02:24:13.180 boom 1.00

02:24:13.660 look at that shit 1.00

02:24:15.620 it has the 1.00

02:24:16.360 what was it

02:24:16.920 do you still use it

02:24:18.100 huh

02:24:18.600 no

02:24:19.320 I have a

02:24:20.060 I still have a home

02:24:21.360 button though

02:24:21.820 on my

02:24:22.300 respect

02:24:23.720 keep the home

02:24:24.260 iPhone SE 2022

02:24:25.240 it's better

02:24:26.040 I like the home button

02:24:27.080 I remember when people

02:24:30.560 didn't have

02:24:31.260 access to you

02:24:32.720 24-7

02:24:33.640 and this kind of

02:24:35.320 applies in the

02:24:35.800 workplace to you

02:24:36.460 where it's like

02:24:37.440 I don't know

02:24:38.720 some jobs

02:24:39.340 it's like

02:24:39.720 you got a cell phone

02:24:40.500 okay you're getting

02:24:41.060 texts all the time

02:24:42.160 you're responding

02:24:42.620 to emails all the time

02:24:43.420 I remember

02:24:44.780 when

02:24:46.160 people didn't have

02:24:49.320 constant access

02:24:50.120 to you

02:24:50.760 so I'm an OG

02:24:52.660 so I just

02:24:53.800 huh

02:24:54.480 I'd get really annoyed

02:24:55.560 if the guy I just

02:24:56.300 started dating

02:24:56.800 was texting me

02:24:57.500 every single day

02:24:58.280 that would literally

02:24:58.900 turn me off

02:24:59.560 so fast

02:25:00.160 I would still want

02:25:01.020 somebody to be like

02:25:01.740 hi how are you

02:25:02.500 how's your day

02:25:03.160 also I'm like

02:25:03.780 a little

02:25:04.080 I'm a little autistic

02:25:05.000 so like

02:25:05.540 here's my thing

02:25:06.420 right

02:25:06.620 what is the utility

02:25:08.540 I'm a little autistic

02:25:09.640 probably

02:25:10.080 so like

02:25:10.760 what is the utility

02:25:11.660 probably

02:25:12.080 what is the utility

02:25:13.480 of just

02:25:14.380 like

02:25:15.160 oh hey

02:25:16.460 you know

02:25:18.220 like what

02:25:18.620 what is it

02:25:19.080 what purpose

02:25:19.760 does it serve

02:25:20.500 I mean like

02:25:21.800 wow I'm such a 1.00

02:25:22.460 fucking asshole 1.00

02:25:23.160 okay 1.00

02:25:23.480 they know that

02:25:24.020 yeah

02:25:24.280 you're realizing it now

02:25:25.720 yeah

02:25:26.060 I'm so quick

02:25:26.640 yeah like

02:25:27.240 no I understand

02:25:27.920 what you mean

02:25:28.320 I actually switched

02:25:28.980 to a flip phone

02:25:32.340 because I

02:25:32.920 exactly what you were saying

02:25:34.240 I just got like

02:25:34.940 so fed up with it

02:25:35.480 I was like

02:25:35.660 don't text me

02:25:36.200 like if you need

02:25:36.680 anything like call

02:25:37.440 and it's like

02:25:38.040 it's been a hard transition

02:25:38.940 but like

02:25:39.260 I get that

02:25:40.140 like desire for

02:25:40.940 like

02:25:41.640 you don't always

02:25:42.640 want to be on your phone

02:25:43.400 all the time

02:25:43.940 however if you're

02:25:44.680 in a relationship

02:25:45.560 then yeah

02:25:46.120 like she said

02:25:46.680 like it would be

02:25:47.500 a huge turn on

02:25:48.100 it's like

02:25:48.520 hello

02:25:48.920 like we're dating

02:25:49.640 like you can't text me

02:25:50.680 like at least once a day

02:25:52.100 because I feel like

02:25:53.000 there is like

02:25:53.520 different

02:25:53.840 like you know

02:25:54.180 and girls

02:25:55.120 like they like to know

02:25:56.420 like if you're

02:25:56.900 especially like

02:25:57.360 if you're dating

02:25:57.860 like they like to know

02:25:58.760 that you're thinking

02:26:00.020 about them

02:26:00.540 or even if like

02:26:01.360 they're interested

02:26:01.860 like that

02:26:02.380 like that's something

02:26:03.560 that girls look for 1.00

02:26:04.320 I know what you mean

02:26:04.820 what I recommend to men

02:26:06.180 is

02:26:06.520 who might be like me

02:26:08.320 who are semi-autistic 1.00

02:26:09.920 and assholes 1.00

02:26:11.440 probably 1.00

02:26:11.960 you should

02:26:13.300 what I think I probably am

02:26:15.280 like most people do

02:26:17.240 there

02:26:17.480 yeah maybe I'm not

02:26:19.320 diagnosing right

02:26:20.020 gentlemen

02:26:20.640 if you have an iPhone

02:26:22.080 I'm looking into this

02:26:23.460 yeah I'm looking

02:26:23.960 there's a thing

02:26:25.980 in the accessibility

02:26:27.180 section of your iPhone

02:26:29.880 where you can

02:26:30.800 automatically

02:26:31.460 send out

02:26:32.380 a text message

02:26:33.240 every single day

02:26:35.020 at a specific time

02:26:36.180 how did you find out

02:26:37.980 about that

02:26:38.540 it's a thing

02:26:39.800 so just

02:26:40.600 if your chick

02:26:42.080 wants good morning text 1.00

02:26:43.280 just schedule that shit 1.00

02:26:44.480 I honestly would not mind that 0.99

02:26:46.160 I was saying

02:26:46.980 girls about that 0.94

02:26:48.140 yes

02:26:48.360 yeah no

02:26:48.740 the guy that I was talking to last

02:26:50.060 I was like

02:26:50.740 can you just set a

02:26:51.560 like can you text me goodnight

02:26:52.700 I was like

02:26:52.960 can you set a reminder

02:26:53.680 on your phone

02:26:54.240 and he like

02:26:54.720 he wouldn't do it

02:26:55.160 I'm like

02:26:55.340 I don't even care

02:26:56.240 if you schedule a text

02:26:57.060 like

02:26:57.360 I need consistency

02:26:58.840 I don't even care

02:26:59.860 you know don't tell me

02:27:00.880 but I don't care

02:27:01.440 you're not used to it

02:27:02.520 I'm not used

02:27:03.780 I text who I'm with

02:27:05.480 every single day

02:27:06.980 see that's too much

02:27:07.820 but I'm 18 years old

02:27:09.040 wait

02:27:09.240 she also snapped 0.94

02:27:10.000 on the ceiling

02:27:10.560 I'm old

02:27:10.980 she called me old guys

02:27:11.940 no no no

02:27:12.700 can we

02:27:14.560 can we get some

02:27:15.140 paper towels

02:27:15.980 it's okay

02:27:16.620 it's just some water right

02:27:17.600 yeah

02:27:18.000 it wasn't too big

02:27:19.240 it didn't fall

02:27:20.560 into your lap

02:27:21.080 no it's not

02:27:21.960 no Alexa jumped 0.67

02:27:22.920 like she was 0.77

02:27:23.420 the wicked witch of the east 0.73

02:27:24.380 but

02:27:26.760 what I was saying

02:27:28.020 though was like

02:27:28.460 I'm 18 years old

02:27:29.840 about to be 19

02:27:30.640 so it's a lot different

02:27:31.740 for me

02:27:32.300 yeah

02:27:32.680 because it's like

02:27:33.600 everybody's in college

02:27:34.560 you have free time

02:27:36.340 like 1.00

02:27:37.520 damn you 1.00

02:27:38.020 is that the good team 1.00

02:27:38.880 people

02:27:39.200 obviously have time 1.00

02:27:40.420 oh shit 1.00

02:27:40.860 we don't 1.00

02:27:41.420 we don't have

02:27:42.060 oh yeah

02:27:43.300 we don't have any paper towels

02:27:44.400 she's mommy material

02:27:45.300 for real

02:27:45.880 I am mom of all of my friends

02:27:47.500 so

02:27:47.820 sorry

02:27:48.580 sorry

02:27:48.860 continue with your point

02:27:49.620 go ahead

02:27:49.900 no no no

02:27:50.320 what I'm saying is like

02:27:51.200 we're both 18 years old

02:27:53.440 we're young

02:27:54.020 we have time on our hands

02:27:55.540 even though we're in college

02:27:56.600 we're not

02:27:57.540 having like a serious job

02:27:59.780 we're still going to school

02:28:01.100 but it's like

02:28:02.000 we don't have a serious job

02:28:03.140 so I'm able

02:28:04.600 to text the person

02:28:05.620 I'm with every day

02:28:06.380 and usually

02:28:07.260 it's the same way around

02:28:08.480 like

02:28:08.860 sure

02:28:09.300 hey what are you doing

02:28:10.200 like how's your day

02:28:11.160 oh do you want to like

02:28:12.320 FaceTime

02:28:13.080 if you have time later

02:28:13.960 you want to

02:28:14.980 go on a phone call

02:28:15.860 so I can hear your voice

02:28:16.920 it's like the little things

02:28:18.200 but I would argue

02:28:18.860 one thing about that too

02:28:19.880 is

02:28:20.180 when this is one thing

02:28:21.360 that I think

02:28:21.860 the younger generation

02:28:22.980 doesn't do

02:28:23.620 is like

02:28:24.980 you don't give them

02:28:25.660 a chance to miss you

02:28:26.740 I would agree

02:28:28.260 I think

02:28:28.940 when did I get

02:28:30.060 to text you back

02:28:30.800 all you do

02:28:31.640 is think about them

02:28:32.420 so imagine

02:28:33.040 if you actually

02:28:33.620 did that a little bit

02:28:34.360 too

02:28:34.480 by the way

02:28:34.820 I'm not

02:28:35.200 I'm not doing this

02:28:36.460 as like a game

02:28:37.360 I'm just genuinely

02:28:38.440 so busy

02:28:39.460 oh same 0.96

02:28:40.100 I suck at texting

02:28:41.460 I'm not a good texter

02:28:43.140 admittedly

02:28:43.960 but in person

02:28:45.460 you'll have my

02:28:45.980 undivided attention

02:28:46.880 however

02:28:47.840 like because to me

02:28:50.600 it's like okay

02:28:51.280 I pick up my phone

02:28:53.100 then how's your day

02:28:55.020 it's very token

02:28:56.260 to me

02:28:56.740 I don't know

02:28:57.300 so

02:28:57.580 yeah I like

02:28:58.580 I have to like

02:28:59.260 consciously make the decision

02:29:00.600 like okay

02:29:01.220 like next five hours

02:29:02.880 like I'm not texting him

02:29:04.080 or else I will text him

02:29:05.900 because like I want to

02:29:06.960 but like now I have to like

02:29:08.800 play a game

02:29:10.060 it's not playing a game

02:29:11.420 it's going and focusing

02:29:12.420 on you and doing your thing

02:29:13.420 and then when you get

02:29:14.040 to talk to him

02:29:14.720 it's like

02:29:15.000 it's that whole thing

02:29:16.300 of also saying like

02:29:17.160 again

02:29:17.980 even if you're not texting them

02:29:19.500 you're still thinking about them

02:29:20.480 this whole five hours

02:29:21.380 so it's one of those things

02:29:23.180 it's like have your own life

02:29:24.340 do your own thing

02:29:25.200 text your girlfriends

02:29:26.360 that's what the book says

02:29:27.740 oh okay

02:29:28.620 there you go

02:29:29.040 yeah the book

02:29:29.600 oh yeah we were talking

02:29:30.300 about the book

02:29:30.820 Why Men Love Beaches

02:29:32.560 I don't think

02:29:35.660 that's true

02:29:37.080 I don't think men love 1.00

02:29:38.740 bitch women 1.00

02:29:40.660 love is strong 1.00

02:29:41.220 I don't think

02:29:41.920 yeah the title

02:29:42.660 is not

02:29:43.280 love is a very

02:29:43.780 men don't like 1.00

02:29:44.520 bitchy women 1.00

02:29:45.060 the title's not 0.98

02:29:45.820 representative of the book

02:29:46.800 it should be

02:29:48.000 the book

02:29:49.080 mathematics

02:29:50.140 we talk about biology

02:29:52.000 true

02:29:54.320 like what

02:29:54.880 it's just like

02:29:55.720 I don't know

02:29:56.760 it's okay

02:29:57.360 I think they're trying

02:29:59.320 to like make the word

02:30:00.180 positive or something 0.99

02:30:01.500 bitches 1.00

02:30:02.100 yeah that's what I 0.99

02:30:03.140 that's what it seems like

02:30:04.480 because I don't think

02:30:05.200 that's a woman 1.00

02:30:05.940 is a bitch 1.00

02:30:06.420 if she's strong 1.00

02:30:07.000 so I think it's 1.00

02:30:07.560 a stupid title 1.00

02:30:08.300 oh yeah 1.00

02:30:08.740 the title's probably

02:30:10.500 it's not clickbait

02:30:13.220 but it's like

02:30:14.000 attention getting

02:30:15.760 oh what

02:30:16.360 oh

02:30:16.740 yeah

02:30:17.320 like the subtle 0.98

02:30:19.580 art of not giving a fuck 0.98

02:30:20.640 I actually haven't 0.92

02:30:21.340 I've been recommended

02:30:22.300 it's a good book

02:30:23.000 it's on my list

02:30:23.720 but just like the title

02:30:24.940 is just like really out there

02:30:25.880 good times

02:30:26.500 we're almost

02:30:28.900 three hours in

02:30:29.820 and we still haven't

02:30:30.480 gone all the way around

02:30:31.420 relationship status

02:30:33.960 oh my apologies

02:30:40.020 senior jay butler

02:30:41.540 so important

02:30:42.500 um

02:30:44.200 what was the question

02:30:45.320 would you

02:30:45.840 okay really quick

02:30:46.740 we'll go around the table

02:30:47.400 on that

02:30:47.760 would you sleep with

02:30:48.940 someone who had

02:30:50.000 general herpes

02:30:51.440 no

02:30:52.840 or date

02:30:53.440 be in a relationship

02:30:54.260 with no

02:30:54.780 why the

02:30:56.680 no

02:30:57.580 some women 1.00

02:30:58.480 that's so unfair

02:30:59.780 unless I like

02:31:01.480 seriously love them

02:31:02.640 unless

02:31:03.140 I love them

02:31:04.480 but we would have to

02:31:05.520 like use protection

02:31:06.540 to not want to get a disease

02:31:06.920 or whatever

02:31:07.660 but that doesn't work

02:31:09.320 sometimes either

02:31:10.080 so

02:31:10.400 if we have a strong

02:31:12.000 connection

02:31:12.360 we're in a serious

02:31:12.960 relationship

02:31:13.440 and they're like

02:31:14.020 hey this is something

02:31:14.860 that I deal with

02:31:15.740 I would probably be like

02:31:17.460 I don't know if I was

02:31:18.680 really into them

02:31:19.160 we have a strong

02:31:19.640 connection

02:31:19.960 they're not seeing

02:31:20.440 anybody else

02:31:20.940 I'd be like

02:31:21.380 let's figure out

02:31:22.960 a way

02:31:23.680 like

02:31:24.080 I don't know

02:31:26.100 to do it

02:31:27.540 where it's safe

02:31:28.240 and also

02:31:30.240 if we're not

02:31:30.580 sleeping with other people

02:31:31.320 it's not like

02:31:31.720 we're like

02:31:32.100 spreading it around

02:31:32.700 either

02:31:32.920 so

02:31:33.220 sure

02:31:34.920 but

02:31:35.660 but what if

02:31:36.100 you break up

02:31:36.660 what if

02:31:38.440 what if

02:31:39.040 you catch it

02:31:39.400 what's your name again

02:31:40.640 what are you

02:31:42.180 what are you doing

02:31:42.580 under the table

02:31:43.140 are you texting

02:31:44.460 no no no no

02:31:45.300 rude

02:31:45.640 I just

02:31:46.520 he texted back

02:31:48.120 oh who's he

02:31:49.080 who's he

02:31:50.720 the three week guy

02:31:52.080 wait did we ask you

02:31:52.880 to text

02:31:53.180 I think

02:31:53.500 did we ask you

02:31:54.140 to text him

02:31:54.540 yeah

02:31:54.680 what was that

02:31:56.720 I just said hi

02:31:57.520 he was like

02:31:59.200 he said I watched

02:32:01.520 and I was like

02:32:04.700 wait really

02:32:05.260 and he's like

02:32:05.780 no yeah

02:32:06.360 I heard the entire story

02:32:07.820 and is he still

02:32:09.400 down for you

02:32:10.300 or no

02:32:10.700 I told him

02:32:13.440 if he wanted me

02:32:14.140 to call him after

02:32:15.020 so we'll see

02:32:16.140 what he

02:32:16.640 he says

02:32:17.640 wait he

02:32:17.980 he wants you

02:32:18.720 to call him

02:32:19.140 no I asked him

02:32:20.000 if he did

02:32:20.340 because he was

02:32:20.780 like kind of

02:32:21.260 concerned

02:32:21.660 he's like

02:32:22.120 don't

02:32:22.560 don't say my name

02:32:23.380 and I was like

02:32:23.820 no I won't

02:32:24.780 I'm not that 0.99

02:32:25.280 fucked up 0.99

02:32:25.840 okay 0.98

02:32:26.280 cool

02:32:27.400 but yeah

02:32:28.500 good times

02:32:29.060 so you'd be cool

02:32:31.880 with the

02:32:32.680 I guess

02:32:34.740 I mean

02:32:35.080 there's a lot

02:32:35.500 of people out there

02:32:36.000 that don't have herpes

02:32:36.980 that's also an option

02:32:37.860 yeah

02:32:38.540 but that

02:32:39.820 yeah that's

02:32:40.760 I mean

02:32:41.100 it's just tough

02:32:41.740 for me

02:32:41.980 because I'm not

02:32:42.360 having sex 0.83

02:32:42.780 with the person 1.00

02:32:43.240 until we're

02:32:43.800 in a committed

02:32:44.220 relationship

02:32:44.700 so it's not

02:32:45.320 like I'm going

02:32:45.660 to know that

02:32:46.180 like right off

02:32:46.740 the bat

02:32:47.160 you know

02:32:47.640 what about you

02:32:48.180 I'm saying

02:32:48.920 I'd have to be

02:32:49.680 in a committed

02:32:50.060 relationship

02:32:50.500 long term

02:32:50.880 and then we talk

02:32:51.340 about it

02:32:51.600 but it wouldn't

02:32:51.780 be a deal breaker

02:32:52.340 for you

02:32:53.380 not if it's

02:32:55.060 a potential

02:32:55.520 lifelong partner

02:32:56.740 no

02:32:57.000 okay

02:32:57.180 Emily

02:32:58.220 what about you

02:32:58.700 probably deal breaker

02:33:00.720 okay

02:33:01.860 Sophia

02:33:02.480 the only person

02:33:03.780 I would sleep with

02:33:04.740 going forward

02:33:05.480 is my future husband

02:33:06.640 and if

02:33:08.320 he has a past

02:33:10.500 but has

02:33:12.500 you know

02:33:13.500 changed

02:33:13.920 and that's the situation

02:33:15.620 then we can figure it out

02:33:16.440 together

02:33:16.780 okay

02:33:17.580 it's a deal breaker

02:33:19.740 for me

02:33:20.380 yeah

02:33:22.820 I would say

02:33:23.440 that it's also

02:33:24.340 a deal breaker

02:33:24.940 was this just

02:33:27.520 to the girls

02:33:28.300 I think

02:33:28.780 oh

02:33:29.200 Q

02:33:30.420 no

02:33:31.260 it was

02:33:31.680 the guys

02:33:32.060 too

02:33:32.260 it's probably

02:33:33.340 a deal breaker

02:33:33.920 100%

02:33:35.440 a deal breaker

02:33:36.040 for me

02:33:36.420 100%

02:33:37.000 it's just

02:33:38.000 look

02:33:40.500 I mean

02:33:40.920 for you

02:33:42.640 if it's not

02:33:43.200 okay

02:33:43.680 I just think

02:33:44.220 there's a lot

02:33:44.600 of fish

02:33:44.860 intimacy

02:33:45.100 and

02:33:45.800 if you don't

02:33:48.700 have it

02:33:49.180 I guess

02:33:50.040 I mean

02:33:50.340 if you already

02:33:50.800 had it

02:33:51.380 then

02:33:52.360 well

02:33:52.680 like

02:33:53.200 okay

02:33:53.660 whatever

02:33:54.020 but

02:33:54.660 if you didn't

02:33:56.240 have it

02:33:56.640 why

02:33:59.240 well

02:34:01.080 I just think

02:34:01.720 that like

02:34:02.120 like I said

02:34:02.560 it's not something

02:34:03.120 I'm gonna know

02:34:03.880 like right off the bat

02:34:04.860 we're not gonna go

02:34:05.440 on a date

02:34:05.740 and be like

02:34:06.160 do you have herpes

02:34:07.060 like

02:34:07.860 I would hope

02:34:09.280 they would disclose

02:34:09.920 to you

02:34:10.320 early

02:34:10.980 I mean

02:34:11.980 I know

02:34:12.200 you're

02:34:12.380 you're not

02:34:12.860 I know

02:34:15.160 that you're

02:34:15.420 not trying

02:34:15.800 to jump

02:34:16.240 in the sack

02:34:17.300 immediately

02:34:17.760 because you're

02:34:18.760 like waiting

02:34:19.340 yeah

02:34:19.900 you're a virgin 0.71

02:34:20.680 you're waiting 1.00

02:34:21.140 for your

02:34:22.600 long-term partner

02:34:23.360 I get that

02:34:24.140 but your

02:34:24.720 long-term partner

02:34:25.440 need not be

02:34:26.140 someone who has

02:34:26.720 herpes

02:34:27.040 I mean

02:34:27.760 I definitely

02:34:28.660 prefer that

02:34:29.580 but like

02:34:29.920 in the scenario

02:34:30.620 that

02:34:30.900 because I don't

02:34:31.540 think that's

02:34:31.860 just gonna

02:34:32.140 like come up

02:34:32.760 in regular

02:34:33.460 conversation

02:34:34.180 so if

02:34:35.560 like we're

02:34:36.080 that should

02:34:36.440 be on them

02:34:36.860 to disclose

02:34:37.340 that

02:34:37.560 yeah

02:34:37.820 but why

02:34:38.160 would they

02:34:38.460 bring it

02:34:38.740 up

02:34:38.880 if they

02:34:39.120 want 0.88

02:34:39.320 sex 0.99

02:34:39.620 wait

02:34:41.220 why would

02:34:41.640 they bring

02:34:42.060 it up

02:34:42.340 why would

02:34:43.380 they disclose

02:34:43.980 it

02:34:44.180 yeah

02:34:44.320 why would

02:34:44.700 they disclose

02:34:45.040 it with you

02:34:45.420 if they

02:34:45.800 because that's

02:34:46.560 the moral

02:34:47.020 and ethical

02:34:47.620 thing

02:34:47.940 to do

02:34:48.380 yeah

02:34:49.000 but not

02:34:49.420 everyone

02:34:49.760 would do

02:34:50.620 the moral

02:34:50.960 ethical

02:34:51.240 thing

02:34:51.500 I think

02:34:52.060 that's

02:34:52.480 like

02:34:52.740 I think

02:34:53.280 oh is

02:34:54.820 Nick you

02:34:55.440 think

02:34:55.640 there might

02:34:56.480 be

02:34:56.680 there might

02:34:57.120 be some

02:34:57.560 there might

02:34:58.880 be some

02:34:59.380 criminal liability

02:35:00.340 to not

02:35:01.040 disclosing

02:35:01.640 like if

02:35:03.180 there's

02:35:03.640 if you

02:35:04.220 know

02:35:04.680 if you

02:35:05.320 know

02:35:05.660 that you

02:35:06.120 have

02:35:06.600 whatever

02:35:07.740 it is

02:35:08.200 and you

02:35:08.460 have 0.99

02:35:08.840 sex 1.00

02:35:09.120 with 0.99

02:35:09.240 somebody

02:35:09.440 without

02:35:09.680 disclosing

02:35:10.320 I mean

02:35:11.440 then that

02:35:11.840 consent

02:35:12.260 there's

02:35:12.900 no

02:35:13.120 it's

02:35:14.020 not

02:35:14.240 consent

02:35:14.900 or I

02:35:15.280 don't

02:35:15.360 know

02:35:15.500 whatever

02:35:15.720 so

02:35:16.020 if

02:35:17.100 they

02:35:17.220 tell me

02:35:18.360 early on

02:35:18.840 then it

02:35:19.120 is a

02:35:19.400 deal breaker

02:35:19.780 but if

02:35:20.120 it's

02:35:20.280 like

02:35:20.540 yeah

02:35:21.160 I'm not

02:35:21.360 going to

02:35:21.580 throw away

02:35:22.180 a whole

02:35:22.680 developed

02:35:23.040 relationship

02:35:23.700 sorry

02:35:24.320 hold on

02:35:24.640 Curtis

02:35:25.180 Curtis

02:35:25.220 Leone

02:35:26.020 donated

02:35:26.540 100

02:35:27.220 women 1.00

02:35:28.620 want

02:35:28.980 to

02:35:29.100 text

02:35:29.340 today

02:35:29.660 because

02:35:30.020 they

02:35:30.280 are

02:35:30.460 paranoid

02:35:30.860 that 0.99

02:35:31.200 you're

02:35:31.440 cheating

02:35:31.800 if

02:35:32.520 I

02:35:32.720 missed

02:35:32.960 texting

02:35:33.500 my

02:35:33.800 chick 0.95

02:35:34.000 she

02:35:34.200 accused

02:35:34.600 me

02:35:34.800 of

02:35:34.980 cheating

02:35:35.340 I

02:35:36.000 mean

02:35:36.240 I

02:35:36.420 was

02:35:36.620 cheating

02:35:37.040 on her 0.78

02:35:37.600 I

02:35:38.600 wanted

02:35:38.920 to see

02:35:39.380 how much

02:35:39.920 I could

02:35:40.220 get away

02:35:40.820 with

02:35:41.220 so

02:35:41.740 their

02:35:41.940 text

02:35:42.300 request

02:35:42.720 is

02:35:43.040 reasonable

02:35:43.620 Curtis

02:35:44.960 Leone

02:35:45.560 hey

02:35:45.720 thank you

02:35:46.000 very much

02:35:46.500 man

02:35:46.820 for your

02:35:47.260 TTS

02:35:47.840 that

02:35:47.980 really

02:35:48.160 appreciate

02:35:48.500 this

02:35:48.960 reminds

02:35:49.300 me

02:35:49.460 of that

02:35:49.740 Mitch

02:35:50.020 Hedberg

02:35:50.400 joke

02:35:50.760 it

02:35:50.940 goes

02:35:51.120 something

02:35:51.440 along

02:35:54.640 I

02:35:55.260 still

02:35:55.600 do

02:35:55.840 but

02:35:56.020 I

02:35:56.160 used

02:35:56.400 to

02:35:56.620 too

02:35:57.020 okay

02:36:02.860 thank

02:36:04.060 you

02:36:04.220 Curtis

02:36:04.440 appreciate

02:36:04.820 it

02:36:05.160 okay

02:36:06.020 so

02:36:06.380 we

02:36:07.540 went

02:36:07.820 over

02:36:08.000 your

02:36:08.200 relationship

02:36:08.660 situation

02:36:09.280 you

02:36:10.100 can

02:36:10.400 do

02:36:10.560 an

02:36:10.700 impression

02:36:11.220 a

02:36:11.680 Mort

02:36:11.880 impression

02:36:12.220 can

02:36:12.460 we

02:36:12.560 hear

02:36:12.680 that

02:36:12.820 really

02:36:13.000 quick

02:36:13.260 okay

02:36:17.560 um

02:36:18.180 let me think

02:36:19.260 of what

02:36:19.500 to say

02:36:19.820 really

02:36:20.060 quick

02:36:20.340 like

02:36:20.980 from

02:36:21.220 Madagascar

02:36:22.020 he's

02:36:23.300 so

02:36:23.460 cute

02:36:23.940 more

02:36:24.960 do

02:36:25.720 it

02:36:25.880 he's

02:36:26.260 a little

02:36:26.480 lemur

02:36:26.840 do

02:36:27.820 it

02:36:28.300 okay

02:36:29.040 stop

02:36:29.400 stop

02:36:29.720 stop

02:36:30.220 stop

02:36:30.340 stop

02:36:30.800 do

02:36:31.400 it

02:36:33.000 yes

02:36:33.760 you

02:36:33.980 can

02:36:34.440 just

02:36:35.700 do

02:36:36.060 it

02:36:36.400 Emily

02:36:37.280 okay

02:36:37.960 good

02:36:39.280 King Julian

02:36:39.840 can you

02:36:40.280 please

02:36:40.800 bring your

02:36:41.260 kitties

02:36:41.780 upstairs

02:36:42.560 no

02:36:43.420 Mort

02:36:43.720 no

02:36:44.360 kitties

02:36:44.700 come upstairs

02:36:45.280 she has

02:36:45.780 allergies

02:36:46.520 please

02:36:47.420 King Julian

02:36:47.920 I want

02:36:48.300 to pet

02:36:48.660 them

02:36:48.840 so

02:36:49.460 bad

02:36:50.300 oh 1.00

02:36:53.600 shit 1.00

02:36:53.860 get rid 1.00

02:36:56.280 of 0.99

02:36:56.380 Shia 0.97

02:36:56.680 that was

02:36:57.660 good

02:36:57.860 I'm gonna pretend

02:37:03.640 like you

02:37:03.940 didn't just

02:37:04.280 make my 1.00

02:37:04.660 dick go 1.00

02:37:05.040 soft

02:37:05.360 you asked

02:37:07.560 for it

02:37:08.000 what 0.99

02:37:08.360 the fuck 1.00

02:37:09.320 wait 1.00

02:37:11.020 question

02:37:11.520 if a guy

02:37:12.360 if a guy

02:37:13.020 asked you to

02:37:13.580 do that

02:37:13.880 in bed

02:37:14.240 would you

02:37:14.520 do it

02:37:14.840 never

02:37:15.880 in bed

02:37:16.920 no

02:37:17.240 but I've

02:37:17.820 had multiple

02:37:18.340 guys

02:37:18.640 like I'm

02:37:19.020 I've had like

02:37:20.000 one guy

02:37:20.360 was dating

02:37:20.820 thought it

02:37:21.220 was hilarious

02:37:21.940 so Emily

02:37:23.480 let's say

02:37:23.860 you and me

02:37:24.200 were dating

02:37:24.580 and I was

02:37:24.960 like Emily

02:37:25.460 can you do

02:37:26.780 the Mort

02:37:27.080 voice

02:37:27.420 while I'm

02:37:27.920 while we're

02:37:29.080 being intimate

02:37:29.640 no

02:37:30.140 that's a fetish 0.92

02:37:31.560 what if

02:37:31.840 no no no

02:37:32.300 but like

02:37:32.600 what if

02:37:33.080 you really

02:37:33.480 cared about

02:37:34.020 me

02:37:34.280 I believe

02:37:35.420 in kink

02:37:35.820 shaming

02:37:36.880 I believe

02:37:37.700 in kink

02:37:38.040 shaming

02:37:38.320 you believe 0.81

02:37:38.640 in kink

02:37:38.960 shaming

02:37:39.100 yeah

02:37:39.300 but

02:37:39.980 you

02:37:40.840 listen

02:37:41.380 I'm

02:37:41.760 I'm

02:37:42.020 kind of

02:37:42.280 the

02:37:42.320 person

02:37:42.480 like

02:37:42.660 it

02:37:42.960 depends

02:37:43.300 I'm

02:37:43.680 kind of

02:37:43.880 the

02:37:43.960 person

02:37:44.260 like

02:37:44.540 you know

02:37:46.840 you got

02:37:47.160 if the

02:37:47.680 your

02:37:48.040 lady friend

02:37:48.900 if she

02:37:49.380 has something

02:37:50.440 kind of

02:37:50.740 interesting

02:37:51.160 or if

02:37:52.260 your guy

02:37:52.560 has something

02:37:52.980 kind of

02:37:53.280 interesting

02:37:53.700 maybe indulge

02:37:55.420 them in it

02:37:55.860 you know

02:37:56.060 what I mean

02:37:56.420 and if it

02:37:58.080 happens to be

02:37:58.620 the case

02:37:58.940 that I'm

02:37:59.300 into you

02:38:00.080 saying some 0.99

02:38:00.880 weird shit 0.99

02:38:01.240 like in the 0.99

02:38:01.600 Mort accent 0.99

02:38:02.160 just fucking 0.99

02:38:03.460 go for it 0.99

02:38:04.020 the Mort's

02:38:04.320 not sexy

02:38:05.100 though

02:38:05.260 I feel

02:38:05.500 like a

02:38:05.920 like a

02:38:06.440 sexy

02:38:06.920 impression

02:38:07.140 let's hear a

02:38:09.200 sexy thing 0.99

02:38:09.860 can you

02:38:10.220 can you do

02:38:10.840 a sexy

02:38:11.140 thing

02:38:11.380 I can't

02:38:11.740 do a

02:38:12.020 sexy

02:38:12.300 Mort

02:38:12.660 oh yeah

02:38:14.880 you just

02:38:15.780 came in

02:38:16.260 in a

02:38:16.480 really

02:38:16.680 interesting

02:38:17.100 time

02:38:17.540 okay

02:38:18.980 what about

02:38:20.020 you

02:38:20.200 Sophia

02:38:20.520 okay

02:38:22.620 so

02:38:23.020 currently

02:38:23.580 single

02:38:24.100 longest

02:38:25.680 relationship

02:38:26.380 like official

02:38:27.820 relationship

02:38:28.800 was three

02:38:29.320 months

02:38:29.720 yeah

02:38:32.700 that was

02:38:33.340 really

02:38:33.560 like my

02:38:34.020 only

02:38:34.380 like

02:38:34.760 real

02:38:35.760 relationship

02:38:36.240 that I

02:38:36.540 considered

02:38:36.860 because I

02:38:37.300 had another

02:38:37.700 one

02:38:37.980 but it

02:38:38.240 was like

02:38:38.700 like a

02:38:40.600 week of

02:38:41.060 being official

02:38:41.600 and from

02:38:42.740 like first

02:38:43.220 date to

02:38:43.540 break up

02:38:43.860 like three

02:38:44.260 weeks

02:38:44.540 so it

02:38:44.800 was really

02:38:45.140 like nothing

02:38:45.740 so my

02:38:47.520 in the

02:38:48.140 pre-show

02:38:48.420 information

02:38:48.840 you provided

02:38:49.420 you're

02:38:49.900 my

02:38:50.200 understanding

02:38:50.380 you're a

02:38:50.760 christian

02:38:51.060 correct

02:38:51.360 yes

02:38:51.760 and you're

02:38:52.880 also waiting

02:38:53.560 for marriage

02:38:54.040 is that

02:38:54.360 correct

02:38:54.740 yes

02:38:55.200 and you're

02:38:55.820 a virgin

02:38:56.140 uh

02:38:57.200 no

02:38:57.780 oh okay

02:38:58.500 yeah

02:38:59.060 like what

02:38:59.880 is it

02:39:00.060 called

02:39:00.240 re

02:39:00.580 born again

02:39:01.600 whatever

02:39:01.900 yes

02:39:02.420 so you

02:39:02.860 okay

02:39:03.220 yeah

02:39:03.620 um

02:39:04.480 I wanted

02:39:05.260 to

02:39:05.440 can you

02:39:06.040 be a

02:39:06.280 born again

02:39:06.700 virgin

02:39:06.960 well

02:39:07.280 okay

02:39:07.700 so

02:39:08.100 I messed

02:39:08.980 up

02:39:09.300 and um

02:39:10.560 and now I

02:39:11.440 regret it

02:39:11.940 and so

02:39:12.540 I'm not

02:39:13.540 gonna mess

02:39:13.820 up again

02:39:14.140 because I

02:39:15.440 have done

02:39:15.800 that mistake

02:39:16.380 once already

02:39:17.500 sex is a 0.99

02:39:18.100 mistake 0.99

02:39:18.540 for me it

02:39:19.820 was I

02:39:20.140 regret it

02:39:20.760 so um

02:39:21.600 and I

02:39:22.580 I think so

02:39:24.260 I'm a christian

02:39:25.140 so I base

02:39:25.780 um my

02:39:26.540 worldview

02:39:27.040 I have a

02:39:27.500 biblical worldview

02:39:28.140 so I believe

02:39:28.820 that sex was 0.63

02:39:29.520 intended for

02:39:30.080 one man and

02:39:30.680 one woman

02:39:31.200 husband and

02:39:32.040 a wife

02:39:32.400 um

02:39:33.080 but I

02:39:33.620 also I

02:39:34.280 wanted to

02:39:34.800 wait until

02:39:35.220 marriage

02:39:35.580 before I

02:39:37.240 slept with

02:39:38.100 my ex

02:39:38.520 um

02:39:39.380 and so

02:39:41.040 I

02:39:41.340 I do

02:39:41.620 regret it

02:39:42.240 but because

02:39:43.120 I made

02:39:44.220 that mistake

02:39:44.720 once already

02:39:45.440 now I'm

02:39:45.940 even more

02:39:46.340 determined

02:39:46.680 to not

02:39:47.200 make that

02:39:47.540 same mistake

02:39:47.940 again

02:39:48.260 because

02:39:48.860 and this

02:39:49.500 is like

02:39:49.860 an advice

02:39:50.240 that I

02:39:50.480 would give

02:39:50.800 to um

02:39:51.660 younger

02:39:51.980 women or 0.69

02:39:52.500 women my 1.00

02:39:52.920 age

02:39:53.040 whatever

02:39:53.300 who uh

02:39:54.660 who haven't

02:39:55.940 who are

02:39:56.460 who are

02:39:56.940 virgins

02:39:57.200 and haven't 0.98

02:39:57.600 had sex

02:39:57.940 yet

02:39:58.100 and

02:39:58.340 or maybe

02:39:59.060 on the

02:39:59.320 fence about

02:39:59.700 it or

02:39:59.980 struggling

02:40:00.280 whatever

02:40:00.600 um

02:40:02.380 I would

02:40:02.640 say

02:40:03.020 that for

02:40:04.540 me

02:40:04.840 waiting

02:40:05.280 until

02:40:05.520 marriage

02:40:05.900 it would

02:40:06.280 have been

02:40:06.480 really

02:40:06.980 difficult

02:40:07.380 but it

02:40:07.900 would have

02:40:08.080 been so

02:40:08.520 worth it

02:40:09.060 so

02:40:10.240 and so

02:40:11.040 you just

02:40:11.540 had that

02:40:11.840 one guy

02:40:12.380 yes

02:40:13.720 okay

02:40:14.100 gotcha

02:40:14.620 so

02:40:15.620 let's

02:40:16.760 like I've

02:40:17.060 like had

02:40:17.520 like stuff

02:40:18.460 in high

02:40:18.760 school but

02:40:19.280 not all

02:40:20.520 the way

02:40:20.700 yeah

02:40:21.200 no

02:40:21.400 okay

02:40:21.580 um

02:40:22.480 you said

02:40:22.920 your current

02:40:23.420 relationship

02:40:23.860 situation is

02:40:24.600 complicated

02:40:25.240 lol

02:40:25.860 um

02:40:28.140 that's

02:40:28.780 sadly kind

02:40:29.440 of over

02:40:29.700 this is

02:40:30.020 this is

02:40:30.280 like very

02:40:30.680 like fresh

02:40:31.840 so it's

02:40:32.480 uh

02:40:32.800 it's like

02:40:33.720 kind of

02:40:34.300 sad

02:40:34.520 but um

02:40:35.220 so

02:40:36.220 okay

02:40:37.120 so I was

02:40:37.720 talking

02:40:38.340 to someone

02:40:39.800 that I

02:40:40.540 have known

02:40:41.020 for five

02:40:41.620 years

02:40:41.960 um

02:40:42.760 it's

02:40:43.240 it's complicated

02:40:44.480 because of like

02:40:44.960 the little details

02:40:45.600 like when I first

02:40:46.240 met him he was

02:40:46.800 married

02:40:47.120 and then his

02:40:48.260 wife just 0.99

02:40:48.920 decided

02:40:49.360 uh

02:40:50.020 that she just

02:40:50.540 wanted a

02:40:50.840 divorce

02:40:51.060 like she

02:40:51.720 um

02:40:52.400 they were both

02:40:53.100 like Christian 0.99

02:40:53.520 when they got

02:40:53.940 married but

02:40:54.480 she left the 0.66

02:40:55.240 faith

02:40:55.460 left the

02:40:55.800 church

02:40:56.020 left him

02:40:56.480 said

02:40:56.780 it's been

02:40:57.300 fun but

02:40:57.640 I'm ready

02:40:57.880 to move

02:40:58.140 on with

02:40:58.380 my life

02:40:58.860 um

02:40:59.700 and then

02:41:01.020 I found out

02:41:03.140 about their

02:41:03.600 divorce

02:41:04.180 like

02:41:05.400 January

02:41:06.580 2022

02:41:07.340 so then

02:41:08.900 when I

02:41:10.260 like we were

02:41:10.680 already friends

02:41:11.340 but then we

02:41:11.760 started talking

02:41:12.400 more and

02:41:13.240 I have liked

02:41:14.600 him like before

02:41:15.680 I even like knew

02:41:16.380 what he looked

02:41:16.760 like I like

02:41:17.280 I overheard a

02:41:18.280 conversation that

02:41:18.960 he was having

02:41:19.500 at our

02:41:19.940 university

02:41:20.340 went to

02:41:21.100 the same

02:41:21.660 school

02:41:21.920 and um

02:41:23.220 and I didn't

02:41:24.180 like look around

02:41:24.700 to see who it

02:41:25.260 was and I

02:41:25.720 regretted I'm

02:41:26.200 like who was

02:41:26.840 that guy I'm

02:41:27.220 never gonna I

02:41:27.720 thought I was

02:41:28.060 never gonna like

02:41:28.560 see him again

02:41:29.180 because I thought

02:41:29.740 like oh our

02:41:30.520 university is so

02:41:31.140 big but I

02:41:31.660 ended up I

02:41:32.240 didn't meet

02:41:32.840 him and we

02:41:34.080 did become

02:41:34.480 friends and

02:41:35.140 then I found

02:41:35.540 out he was

02:41:35.900 married not 0.64

02:41:36.940 like he wasn't

02:41:37.440 wearing the

02:41:37.780 ring I just

02:41:38.300 didn't put two

02:41:38.800 and two

02:41:39.040 together um

02:41:40.120 but then

02:41:40.460 immediately like

02:41:41.260 shut down all

02:41:41.880 my feelings for

02:41:42.500 him and then

02:41:43.260 we were just

02:41:44.040 friends for for

02:41:45.320 a while and

02:41:45.860 then there was

02:41:46.180 like at one

02:41:46.700 point it was

02:41:47.560 like fall 2020

02:41:48.240 where we were

02:41:49.200 um talking on

02:41:50.340 the phone um

02:41:51.180 I was going

02:41:51.500 through a rough

02:41:51.920 time and um

02:41:53.520 and also I

02:41:54.160 was like still

02:41:54.560 hung up over

02:41:55.300 hung hung up

02:41:57.080 over my ex

02:41:57.620 yeah um

02:41:58.600 wait can I

02:41:59.020 just jump in

02:41:59.700 here really

02:42:00.000 quick so yeah

02:42:00.720 can I just

02:42:01.500 read this to

02:42:02.400 you what you

02:42:02.920 wrote to us

02:42:03.500 and then maybe

02:42:03.960 that'll help

02:42:04.440 guide the

02:42:04.740 conversation a

02:42:05.300 little bit

02:42:05.500 so you said

02:42:06.340 I know I

02:42:06.780 want to marry

02:42:07.300 my best friend

02:42:08.100 oh hold on

02:42:08.740 okay well

02:42:09.220 there's a good

02:42:09.820 time to interrupt

02:42:10.640 you I guess

02:42:10.960 there are

02:42:12.680 multiple court

02:42:13.520 settlements for

02:42:14.420 purposeful

02:42:15.020 transmissions of

02:42:15.920 herpes filth of

02:42:16.800 one million dollars

02:42:17.740 or more for the

02:42:19.080 panel one by one

02:42:20.180 would you date a

02:42:21.100 person with her

02:42:21.900 please and don't

02:42:23.360 say no to this

02:42:24.080 answer then turn

02:42:24.920 around and say

02:42:25.740 your body count

02:42:26.620 doesn't matter

02:42:27.480 wait uh Jay

02:42:28.460 Butler you just

02:42:29.100 you asked this in

02:42:29.760 your previous and

02:42:30.380 we just I don't

02:42:31.040 know if you're

02:42:31.340 just tuning back

02:42:31.980 in but uh we

02:42:33.320 we just uh went

02:42:36.000 around the table

02:42:36.480 on this would you

02:42:37.660 date a person

02:42:38.380 with wait hold

02:42:39.240 on did he ask

02:42:40.500 would you sleep

02:42:41.140 with the person

02:42:41.840 and then he

02:42:43.980 said date well

02:42:46.140 the previous one

02:42:47.480 he says would you

02:42:48.080 sleep with someone 0.99

02:42:48.740 who had genital 0.99

02:42:49.280 herpes and then

02:42:50.940 the next this one

02:42:52.100 is would you date

02:42:53.160 I think he added

02:42:55.240 the last part where

02:42:56.120 he says don't say

02:42:57.600 you wouldn't date

02:42:58.300 them and then say

02:42:59.040 body count doesn't

02:42:59.800 matter I think

02:43:00.880 that's actually very

02:43:02.000 that's a good

02:43:02.420 argument he included

02:43:03.080 that yeah because

02:43:04.580 like people people

02:43:05.420 who like oh body 0.99

02:43:06.180 count doesn't matter

02:43:06.800 would you be so

02:43:07.360 quick to defend

02:43:07.980 and then they'd be

02:43:08.760 like I wouldn't

02:43:09.240 date someone with

02:43:09.780 herpes but it's

02:43:10.400 like they got

02:43:10.800 herpes because

02:43:11.520 of their body

02:43:11.980 count most likely

02:43:12.720 so you know

02:43:13.460 what their

02:43:13.760 rebuttal would

02:43:14.300 be though well

02:43:14.960 you can get

02:43:15.680 herpes the first

02:43:16.360 time you ever 0.98

02:43:16.820 have sex true 0.79

02:43:17.380 but what was

02:43:17.920 the body count

02:43:18.420 of the other

02:43:18.820 person that they

02:43:19.840 had sex with 0.77

02:43:20.440 because usually 0.99

02:43:21.160 it's because

02:43:21.660 they've had like

02:43:22.240 20 partners and

02:43:23.020 then when you

02:43:23.300 have sex with 0.99

02:43:23.740 them you've 1.00

02:43:24.060 had sex with 0.97

02:43:24.520 their 20 partners 0.99

02:43:25.220 and then you

02:43:25.600 get their herpes

02:43:26.140 and I'm not

02:43:26.860 saying that that's

02:43:27.640 like what I

02:43:28.520 that was just

02:43:29.180 I'm uh

02:43:30.660 what's it called

02:43:31.960 that's the argument

02:43:33.940 that they would

02:43:34.520 make but I think

02:43:35.060 it's a poor

02:43:35.420 argument because

02:43:36.060 like yeah

02:43:36.940 typically the first

02:43:38.400 time you have

02:43:38.760 sex like more 0.96

02:43:40.100 like you're not 0.95

02:43:40.920 likely to get

02:43:41.660 herpes under

02:43:42.220 those circumstances

02:43:42.900 your risk of

02:43:44.140 getting herpes

02:43:44.640 increases the more

02:43:45.420 sexual partners

02:43:46.000 you've had so

02:43:46.680 um good times

02:43:49.200 so Butler do 0.68

02:43:51.640 you want you

02:43:52.020 want us to go

02:43:52.440 around again but

02:43:53.100 this time date

02:43:54.500 a person okay

02:43:55.040 really quick uh

02:43:56.020 would you instead

02:43:56.660 of would you sleep

02:43:57.320 with a person who

02:43:58.100 has herpes would

02:43:58.640 you date a person

02:43:59.380 who has herpes

02:43:59.920 just yes or no

02:44:01.000 I don't know

02:44:03.400 it's kind of the

02:44:04.900 same thing

02:44:05.420 yeah it's the same

02:44:06.300 thing I mean if

02:44:06.760 you wouldn't sleep

02:44:07.160 with them why date

02:44:07.740 them no

02:44:08.140 also I'm not

02:44:09.220 going to sleep

02:44:09.560 is it the same

02:44:10.160 answer the answer

02:44:11.440 you gave before

02:44:12.080 is it the same

02:44:12.660 answer for

02:44:13.020 me it would be

02:44:14.040 different well

02:44:14.860 because for me it

02:44:15.560 was like the

02:44:16.000 first scenario

02:44:16.500 would I sleep

02:44:17.060 with them well

02:44:17.600 the first I

02:44:18.860 mean like the

02:44:19.420 first standard

02:44:20.600 is that when I

02:44:21.160 committed relationship

02:44:22.220 Raven DT donated

02:44:23.740 one hundred dollars

02:44:25.040 remember when you 0.94

02:44:26.740 have sex you are 0.99

02:44:28.000 also having sex 1.00

02:44:29.200 with all of their 0.74

02:44:29.980 past partners

02:44:31.040 um not

02:44:34.280 literally

02:44:35.100 I'm just saying

02:44:37.340 I'm just saying

02:44:37.360 if they carried

02:44:37.880 anything over

02:44:38.500 but um

02:44:39.400 technically

02:44:40.280 Raven DT

02:44:41.360 uh there is

02:44:42.780 something to be

02:44:43.320 said there though

02:44:44.380 when it comes to

02:44:45.460 potential STD risk

02:44:46.960 when it comes to

02:44:47.900 I don't know

02:44:50.060 like what is this

02:44:50.700 soul tie stuff

02:44:51.720 it's your exposure

02:44:52.640 to all of the STDs

02:44:53.940 like don't you guys

02:44:54.620 remember in health

02:44:55.320 class when they

02:44:55.940 showed you just

02:44:56.920 because you are

02:44:57.520 losing your 1.00

02:44:57.960 vagina and having 1.00

02:44:58.500 sex with one 1.00

02:44:59.080 person they have 0.92

02:45:00.000 had sex with two

02:45:00.640 people that person 0.97

02:45:01.840 they had sex with 0.55

02:45:02.380 had sex with a 0.97

02:45:02.940 hundred so then 0.94

02:45:03.600 you're actually 0.99

02:45:04.140 having sex with 0.98

02:45:04.780 105 people 0.83

02:45:05.900 got it

02:45:06.880 well let's come

02:45:07.520 back to you

02:45:08.060 Sophia so

02:45:08.720 I'm not gonna

02:45:10.360 make this like too

02:45:10.960 long but yes

02:45:11.660 oh well I was

02:45:12.220 just gonna read it

02:45:12.760 to you so you

02:45:13.420 said you want to

02:45:13.860 marry your best

02:45:14.400 friend I did

02:45:15.180 want to marry him

02:45:15.980 yeah and he was

02:45:16.960 my best friend

02:45:17.520 not anymore though

02:45:18.520 no okay so

02:45:20.720 so anyway so

02:45:21.840 when we were

02:45:23.040 getting like kind

02:45:24.200 of close like on

02:45:24.880 the phone um I

02:45:26.540 then I like backed

02:45:27.360 away because he was

02:45:28.400 still married but

02:45:29.280 then I found out

02:45:29.860 that he was

02:45:30.560 divorced and then

02:45:31.220 we started talking

02:45:32.060 more frequently so

02:45:33.180 like I said I

02:45:34.160 had liked him

02:45:34.780 from the

02:45:35.520 beginning shut

02:45:36.600 my like completely

02:45:37.860 shut those feelings

02:45:39.240 down but then I

02:45:40.260 started to like him

02:45:40.800 again didn't think

02:45:41.620 that he liked me

02:45:42.180 that way but then I

02:45:43.160 found out he does

02:45:43.920 but then he wasn't

02:45:45.040 ready for a

02:45:45.520 relationship so we

02:45:46.640 were kind of like

02:45:47.420 for almost two years

02:45:48.420 now we had been in

02:45:49.440 this um like like

02:45:52.260 emotionally it's like

02:45:53.640 we're dating but

02:45:54.660 we're not officially

02:45:55.420 dating but we're

02:45:56.260 definitely more than

02:45:56.880 friends um for

02:45:58.840 certain periods of

02:45:59.880 time like we'd be

02:46:00.500 talking on the

02:46:01.100 phone um like

02:46:03.640 for hours and

02:46:04.740 several times a

02:46:05.500 week um and

02:46:06.600 then for uh

02:46:07.960 several months he

02:46:08.600 just kind of

02:46:09.080 disappear and uh

02:46:10.320 and as of

02:46:10.700 recently um so I

02:46:13.020 had just moved to

02:46:13.700 California last

02:46:14.940 month like maybe

02:46:15.660 like six weeks ago

02:46:17.760 little over six

02:46:19.040 weeks ago and um

02:46:20.740 and the last time I

02:46:21.460 saw him the last

02:46:22.160 time I spoke to him

02:46:23.160 really was um right

02:46:24.480 before I left I

02:46:25.660 went to visit him

02:46:26.360 that was my first

02:46:27.020 stop on my way I

02:46:28.780 I drove um and

02:46:31.720 he hasn't called

02:46:33.820 or texted me once

02:46:35.420 to check up on me

02:46:37.140 see how I was doing

02:46:38.120 and that really hurt

02:46:40.020 and there's just

02:46:41.560 nothing left there

02:46:42.680 anymore like it's

02:46:43.280 nothing that I can

02:46:44.020 do because I'm the

02:46:44.900 one reaching out to

02:46:45.560 him and he doesn't

02:46:46.120 respond um he

02:46:47.480 doesn't call he

02:46:48.120 doesn't take my

02:46:48.680 calls or text back

02:46:49.800 or give me a call

02:46:50.740 back or anything

02:46:51.380 and um and I let

02:46:53.380 him know like how

02:46:54.340 hurtful that was

02:46:54.920 like hey like I'm

02:46:56.020 essentially like all

02:46:57.460 on my own here

02:46:58.140 like I didn't really

02:46:59.160 know anyone when I

02:46:59.980 moved here and I

02:47:01.180 could just use the

02:47:01.920 you moved here for

02:47:02.740 him no no he's back

02:47:03.660 in Virginia oh so I

02:47:05.200 moved away but also

02:47:06.260 but it's hurtful it's

02:47:08.120 hurtful I moved for

02:47:09.200 my job but it's like a

02:47:10.040 temporary contract so I

02:47:11.000 only here until this

02:47:12.420 school year and then I

02:47:13.180 plan to move back to

02:47:13.940 Virginia and also it's

02:47:15.440 not like we're in a

02:47:16.060 relationship because he

02:47:16.960 said I I very much

02:47:18.360 wanted a relationship

02:47:18.920 like I wanted to marry

02:47:19.640 him but he said he

02:47:20.360 wasn't ready for a

02:47:21.100 relationship and he

02:47:22.480 kept saying that like I

02:47:23.980 shouldn't base my

02:47:25.200 life decisions based

02:47:26.520 off of like I said

02:47:27.400 well I'm gonna I'm

02:47:28.460 gonna wait until you

02:47:29.220 know whether you're

02:47:29.740 ready or not like

02:47:30.240 that's how much I like

02:47:30.900 this guy um and he

02:47:31.920 said well no don't

02:47:32.500 base your decisions

02:47:33.180 off of that like he

02:47:33.780 was like trying to

02:47:34.320 encourage me to like

02:47:35.000 date other people at

02:47:35.780 the same time like he

02:47:36.820 also has uh feelings

02:47:39.180 for well he says he's

02:47:40.500 like so like emotionless

02:47:42.280 and doesn't have

02:47:42.820 feelings whatever but

02:47:43.720 then he did want to

02:47:45.800 like be with me at one

02:47:47.700 point like he agreed

02:47:48.500 he agreed to go on a

02:47:50.080 date but then like I

02:47:51.640 know how it sounds but

02:47:52.520 he agreed to go on a

02:47:53.320 date and then it

02:47:54.440 evolved from he was

02:47:55.800 saying like last

02:47:57.140 summer he said he

02:47:58.540 doesn't think that he's

02:47:59.400 capable of a healthy

02:48:00.160 relationship but I

02:48:01.520 think a lot of that

02:48:02.080 has to do with like

02:48:03.380 the hurt from the

02:48:04.220 divorce and then it

02:48:06.160 went from that to okay

02:48:07.120 now I just need because

02:48:07.980 he is a Christian I

02:48:09.160 just need to figure out

02:48:10.080 if it's if it would be

02:48:11.180 morally right for me to

02:48:12.440 to remarry because he

02:48:13.880 already been married and

02:48:15.260 he's divorced and also

02:48:16.220 he's like Christian 0.98

02:48:17.380 leaning Catholic and so

02:48:18.560 am I in the Catholic

02:48:19.680 church yeah they're very

02:48:21.340 strict on divorce well

02:48:23.400 he's divorced well

02:48:25.480 aren't they more

02:48:25.980 strict on the divorce

02:48:26.960 thing well yes but but

02:48:28.600 so in America like if

02:48:30.260 one person wants to get

02:48:31.280 divorced there's really

02:48:32.120 nothing you can do it's

02:48:33.920 just a matter of time and

02:48:34.980 so that's the position

02:48:35.880 that he was in like he

02:48:36.600 tried to work it out and

02:48:38.280 there was just nothing

02:48:38.920 that he like he couldn't

02:48:39.920 convince her otherwise

02:48:40.680 so now the question is

02:48:42.180 like like biblically like

02:48:44.960 morally would it be right

02:48:46.040 for him to remarry or

02:48:47.500 would that be a sin if he

02:48:48.720 remarried and the only way 0.94

02:48:50.640 he could do that is if

02:48:51.520 he got his first

02:48:52.240 marriage annulled okay

02:48:53.960 so there's a lot there

02:48:54.980 there's a lot there

02:48:55.780 for sure so question

02:48:58.200 when you met him and

02:49:00.720 you were talking with

02:49:01.580 him he was married at

02:49:03.380 that point because you

02:49:04.000 said you guys were

02:49:04.500 talking for two years

02:49:05.360 well we were we were

02:49:06.340 friends but we were

02:49:07.040 mostly just friends

02:49:08.020 through mutual friends

02:49:09.040 so every time I see him

02:49:10.180 it would be like in a

02:49:10.880 group setting well but

02:49:12.460 was he still married when

02:49:14.100 it seemed like your

02:49:15.040 interaction started veering

02:49:16.700 into a romantic realm

02:49:17.940 instead of a friendship

02:49:18.860 realm a little me on

02:49:20.620 my part I felt I felt

02:49:22.160 an emotional you were

02:49:22.920 having feelings for a

02:49:23.880 married man wait wait I

02:49:25.440 did but that's when I

02:49:26.600 took a step back and I

02:49:28.020 stopped talking to him on

02:49:29.080 the phone well I mean

02:49:30.300 but that's when I stepped

02:49:31.280 back you're lusting after

02:49:32.320 a married man I know

02:49:33.400 that's why I took a step

02:49:34.180 back because I realized

02:49:35.800 that wasn't good and

02:49:36.500 you're still pursuing him

02:49:37.800 romantically no no but

02:49:38.960 okay so that was that was

02:49:40.480 fall 2020 we were talking

02:49:42.060 on the phone and I

02:49:42.840 realized that oh I'm

02:49:43.860 starting to catch feelings

02:49:44.840 for him and then I took a

02:49:46.520 step back and I did not

02:49:47.940 call him on the phone he

02:49:48.760 actually at like I was

02:49:49.680 going through a really

02:49:50.260 rough time with like my

02:49:51.060 depression everything and

02:49:51.840 he asked if I want to get

02:49:52.740 lunch and I said no and I

02:49:54.640 did I wanted to get lunch

02:49:55.880 with him but I knew that

02:49:57.340 that's not a good idea and

02:49:58.520 then when I saw him like

02:50:00.600 okay so then so okay so

02:50:02.480 timeline okay so that was

02:50:03.440 fall 2020 that was fall

02:50:04.520 2020 right okay then I

02:50:05.800 got over those feelings

02:50:06.700 because I didn't because I

02:50:07.940 took a step back I didn't

02:50:08.820 talk to him for a long

02:50:09.440 step back she did take a

02:50:10.740 step back and then when I

02:50:11.500 found out that he was

02:50:12.720 taken when I found out that

02:50:14.480 he was divorced divorce

02:50:16.000 happened that's when that

02:50:17.960 like and I asked him

02:50:18.900 about it like what

02:50:19.460 happened and it was you

02:50:21.940 wasn't it you were the 0.77

02:50:24.060 poison apple okay that's

02:50:26.080 not that led to his imminent

02:50:28.260 divorce you right I saw his 0.99

02:50:33.000 wife now ex-wife at a

02:50:34.340 coffee shop I wanted I never

02:50:36.040 met her but I recognized her

02:50:37.260 from pictures I did not I

02:50:39.380 didn't even go up to her

02:50:40.560 because I didn't want to

02:50:41.160 cause problems for them even

02:50:42.700 though there was nothing

02:50:43.340 between us wow I thought

02:50:45.880 about it but no I want to

02:50:48.220 go up to her and be like

02:50:49.040 hey I'm friends with your

02:50:49.860 husband and I was like no

02:50:50.660 that's a bad idea I'm not

02:50:51.620 gonna do that I'm the woman

02:50:52.820 only hung out in group

02:50:54.180 settings hi I'm the woman

02:50:55.520 who wanted to steal your

02:50:57.140 husband from you she's 1.00

02:50:58.340 living in LA now and she's

02:50:59.660 like definitely not living

02:51:00.560 as a Christian like she

02:51:01.360 just she was just like I'm

02:51:02.500 done like it's been nice

02:51:03.520 but I want a divorce now I

02:51:04.940 want to move on with my

02:51:05.980 life okay okay whatever

02:51:07.380 how old is this guy well

02:51:10.340 okay he's uh I'm so I'm

02:51:11.880 24 he's 26 how much did

02:51:16.800 he tell you about his

02:51:17.800 problems with his

02:51:18.540 marriage um what do you

02:51:22.500 mean like I know did he

02:51:23.980 tell you about the

02:51:24.680 arguments and fights they

02:51:25.780 got into and private

02:51:26.720 things about their marriage

02:51:27.600 when I asked but I don't

02:51:30.560 really you ask um like

02:51:33.300 well I asked like general

02:51:34.420 because like okay I want

02:51:35.260 to know you know like what

02:51:36.700 happened send the nuke

02:51:39.860 well I think it's important

02:51:42.280 but don't you guys think

02:51:43.820 like it's important to know

02:51:44.720 like if like a man got a

02:51:46.260 divorce like what happened

02:51:47.460 like you know what led up

02:51:49.180 to that after the divorce

02:51:50.020 after the divorce but not

02:51:51.260 during the marriage no no

02:51:52.860 during the marriage no no

02:51:53.960 during the marriage I didn't

02:51:54.980 know actually whenever I

02:51:56.480 would ask him sometimes like

02:51:57.740 like how's like because we'd

02:51:59.460 be like talking just as

02:52:00.580 friends and I'd be like how's

02:52:01.480 your wife and I never met

02:52:02.860 her I wanted to meet her but

02:52:04.400 but but but then but then

02:52:05.640 listen listen no because I

02:52:07.100 I'm also like a very

02:52:07.920 outgoing person very

02:52:09.260 Christian hold on hold on 1.00

02:52:10.840 no no I'm I'm a very

02:52:11.780 outgoing like you guys are

02:52:13.220 like spinning this completely

02:52:14.200 the wrong way I'm just a

02:52:15.020 very outgoing person so

02:52:15.840 like we'd meet in like

02:52:16.680 group settings and be

02:52:17.360 like hey how are you

02:52:18.100 doing how's your wife you

02:52:19.100 know whatever just being

02:52:20.000 friendly wait but then

02:52:21.700 but no it's just like it's

02:52:23.680 like hey how are you you

02:52:25.120 know and also I was just

02:52:26.720 like well I was like when

02:52:28.640 can I meet your wife

02:52:29.340 because what yeah well

02:52:31.240 because because it was well

02:52:33.240 because it was weird to me

02:52:34.820 that I'm friends with him

02:52:36.160 and I've never because I

02:52:37.380 have married friends and

02:52:38.500 I'm friends with both of

02:52:39.380 them and that's fine but

02:52:40.920 but you had romantic

02:52:41.980 feelings for you at first

02:52:44.780 and then that was over I

02:52:46.120 even remember like sometimes

02:52:47.240 we'd like hang out and I

02:52:48.200 remember thinking like thank

02:52:49.100 God he's not my husband

02:52:50.000 so like no those those

02:52:51.880 romantic feelings were like

02:52:52.880 like buried but clearly

02:52:54.480 they were never buried if

02:52:55.960 you considered being

02:52:56.820 marrying him after he had

02:52:58.140 a divorce

02:52:58.520 so then they were never

02:53:00.440 buried

02:53:00.780 okay but I didn't have

02:53:02.100 anything to do with it

02:53:02.800 when he like brought up

02:53:03.920 like any like frustration

02:53:05.000 or anything that he had

02:53:05.980 in his marriage I

02:53:06.600 immediately like I didn't

02:53:07.480 ask any more questions

02:53:08.360 get some help

02:53:09.120 I did the right thing

02:53:12.800 question question question

02:53:13.860 so you guys are taking

02:53:15.480 this all the wrong way

02:53:16.840 like you you were kind

02:53:18.660 of semi-quasi involved

02:53:20.100 with this guy for what

02:53:21.080 two or three years

02:53:21.920 no the only time we

02:53:23.220 would hang out was

02:53:23.920 would be in group

02:53:24.500 settings and then when I

02:53:25.260 was going through a

02:53:25.740 really hard time then

02:53:27.140 we'd like talk on the

02:53:28.040 phone like one-on-one and

02:53:29.180 then that led to me

02:53:29.940 having feelings and

02:53:30.440 then immediately I took a

02:53:31.600 step back I was like no

02:53:32.300 but okay he got divorced

02:53:33.260 right but then there was

02:53:34.260 a after the divorce you

02:53:35.520 were pursuing him correct

02:53:36.640 only after the divorce

02:53:38.120 and but he would he and

02:53:40.620 I even I asked you

02:53:41.700 reciprocate the romantic

02:53:42.900 what happened yes after

02:53:45.560 the divorce but you're

02:53:47.700 saying that you go you'll

02:53:49.720 text him and call him and

02:53:51.020 he just doesn't respond

02:53:51.940 like yes right as of but

02:53:55.080 like you'll send one text

02:53:56.440 and he doesn't respond or

02:53:57.580 you'll send like seven he

02:53:59.160 doesn't respond you'll call

02:54:00.300 him he doesn't respond

02:54:01.120 what what's the degree to

02:54:03.140 which are you a scammer 0.64

02:54:04.480 like when no because some 0.61

02:54:06.040 women will be like he never 1.00

02:54:07.500 texted me and the woman

02:54:09.560 didn't even she never even

02:54:11.980 sent a text either oh no I

02:54:13.400 I text him like or so how

02:54:15.060 many how many what what

02:54:16.480 color is the text green blue

02:54:17.860 usually is it no it's blue

02:54:19.320 it's blue how many blue

02:54:20.840 quite a lot it didn't start

02:54:23.240 off that way how many blue

02:54:25.300 without a response well

02:54:27.600 because he like I would text

02:54:30.320 him like every day and then

02:54:31.940 he wouldn't he responded like

02:54:33.420 three times my and that was

02:54:34.680 just like do you have your

02:54:35.540 phone on you no I don't okay

02:54:37.580 I delete the messages okay

02:54:40.620 yeah I was like I'm so how

02:54:43.880 many it was never an issue in

02:54:45.480 the past like blue text 10 a lot

02:54:48.580 like unresponded 20 how many

02:54:50.240 oh yeah like a lot how many how

02:54:52.000 many how many give me a number

02:54:53.160 he wants a number I don't

02:54:54.280 know the number is it 30 30

02:54:56.200 plus you have to scroll up to

02:54:57.760 see the top okay yes but it

02:54:59.620 wouldn't be like one it wouldn't

02:55:00.820 be like all at once Sophia

02:55:02.520 Sophia you gotta have dignity

02:55:03.560 like three like if if it's

02:55:05.640 three no but it wouldn't be all

02:55:06.580 at once it would just be like

02:55:07.820 like every day or you know and

02:55:09.900 also because for the past six

02:55:13.060 weeks that's how it's been

02:55:13.840 yo this is some intervention 0.99

02:55:14.860 shit Sophia that's why I cut 0.99

02:55:17.420 things off even like if he two 0.99

02:55:19.840 I'm done after two the biggest

02:55:21.820 rug is that he was married and

02:55:24.140 then just like wait how many

02:55:25.500 phone no not right away a lot

02:55:28.200 because I'm in trouble sometimes

02:55:30.300 and I need help yeah like I'm 1.00

02:55:32.040 here this motherfucker's in 1.00

02:55:33.100 Virginia what's he gonna do for 1.00

02:55:34.380 you send me money and then I'll

02:55:35.860 repay him I literally have run

02:55:38.220 out of money multiple times and I

02:55:39.640 had to ask my friends to loan me

02:55:41.860 money and then I always pay them

02:55:43.000 back I literally like I don't have

02:55:45.760 money for gas and food because my

02:55:47.840 job doesn't pay me enough it's

02:55:49.080 tough out here in California ain't

02:55:51.720 that the truth thank you so my

02:55:54.220 question my question is when you

02:55:55.620 were going through these tough

02:55:56.500 times you had no other friends

02:55:57.680 that you could reach out to like

02:55:59.460 some girlfriends or something that

02:56:00.580 you know I did but I did but I feel

02:56:03.200 bad because I know that like I have

02:56:04.840 a lot of friends who also like don't

02:56:06.200 make a lot of money and I feel bad

02:56:07.300 asking from them and he works as an

02:56:08.860 engineer and also we are really

02:56:10.180 close so we are like our

02:56:11.840 relationship is like our

02:56:12.940 friendship is where I I can ask him

02:56:16.920 for when I mean we were really

02:56:18.340 close and so like close he's

02:56:19.880 somebody that I can I can I very

02:56:22.060 close can tell all my problems to

02:56:25.380 all the problems and like he knows

02:56:28.760 about like everything going on in my

02:56:29.960 life and so if I'm in trouble and

02:56:31.880 like need like help to pay for gas or

02:56:35.020 food whatever then I can ask him for

02:56:36.400 money and I do always like pay it

02:56:39.000 back and I know that it's not going

02:56:40.800 to be hurting him financially because

02:56:42.220 he's an engineer and he makes a lot

02:56:43.820 of money and he has a lot saved up and

02:56:45.780 versus like I have a friend who she

02:56:49.260 has a friend in he always sends me

02:56:51.480 money when I so I have a question

02:56:53.100 he works national guard he's army

02:56:55.320 national guard on the border he

02:56:56.440 doesn't make a lot of money so I feel

02:56:57.500 bad asking from like my friends who I

02:56:59.500 know do you only have guy friends

02:57:01.680 centers no I have a diagnosis here I

02:57:04.200 have a diagnosis I can I can kind of

02:57:06.380 think why he stopped responding to you

02:57:09.020 you kept hitting him up for money no I

02:57:13.060 not just I'm cutting it somebody's

02:57:15.280 asking me no and I repaid him for

02:57:17.540 everything yeah even though I'm

02:57:19.260 struggling financially I sent him

02:57:20.380 nine hundred and fifty dollars

02:57:21.280 because I repaid him for like the last

02:57:22.760 one he sent me and then also like he

02:57:24.180 paid for my to get my open water

02:57:26.980 scuba certification because this was

02:57:28.900 like last summer why do you need that 1.00

02:57:30.380 shit son because he was struggling for 1.00

02:57:32.140 work you're struggling for money last 0.99

02:57:33.760 let me be that's why that was before I

02:57:36.620 moved to California keep up huge

02:57:38.620 priority I'm I'm in I'm in the last

02:57:41.740 summer that was awesome and I also

02:57:44.020 couldn't afford it that's the first

02:57:45.280 thing homeless people go I just

02:57:47.620 want someone's homeless I need to get 0.99

02:57:49.120 my fucking scuba shit last summer let 0.99

02:57:51.760 me get some oxygen tanks I need to 1.00

02:57:53.840 walk not this summer let me go get to 0.92

02:57:56.440 fucking stocked up on my oxygen takes 0.92

02:57:58.420 okay that's not what I'm living in the 1.00

02:58:00.160 cardboard box let me get the fucking 0.99

02:58:01.540 oxygen tanks on my box I live in my 0.99

02:58:03.860 car no I'm just kidding um but no that

02:58:05.980 was last summer and uh and he he was

02:58:09.100 getting his open water scuba and I said

02:58:11.400 I wanted to get mine but I didn't have

02:58:12.800 the money and so he paid for me I said

02:58:14.020 I will repay you and it's been like a

02:58:15.800 year so I'm like I've said I would

02:58:17.280 repay him so it's time so even though

02:58:18.760 I'm struggling I and also because of

02:58:20.440 like the situation like he's not

02:58:21.580 texting me whatever so I was just like

02:58:22.580 okay you know what I just want to pay

02:58:23.580 everything back and then like so you

02:58:25.960 guys done are you guys done seeing

02:58:27.320 each other I mean I think I mean

02:58:29.360 there's nothing well yeah he's not

02:58:30.500 he's not responding to you right any

02:58:31.840 friendship nothing yeah okay can I add

02:58:34.320 something like if you're spamming some

02:58:37.220 someone and they're not responding like

02:58:39.900 I don't like I don't know I'm what I'm

02:58:43.380 trying to say is like if you want him

02:58:45.080 you have to like cut things off or just

02:58:47.060 like ghost him because then he'll come

02:58:48.600 back to you like I don't think this is a

02:58:50.840 healthy relationship

02:58:51.420 when did he get divorced when did he

02:58:56.180 get divorced

02:58:56.780 they separated spring 2021 and then I

02:59:05.660 don't know when the divorce became

02:59:06.800 official so you don't even know if

02:59:08.740 they're technically divorced no no no

02:59:10.100 they are because when in January because

02:59:12.340 he told you 2020 yes spring 2021 I know

02:59:15.800 that they separated I didn't ask him when

02:59:18.120 the then when the divorce became

02:59:19.500 official but in January 2022 so so like

02:59:22.860 almost a year later I asked him and he

02:59:24.360 said yes they were by then divorced so 0.99

02:59:28.660 I think what the fuck you said earlier 0.99

02:59:31.420 that you were saying the reason he 0.99

02:59:33.340 didn't want to pursue a relationship

02:59:34.400 with you is because he struggled with

02:59:36.180 the idea of because he's Catholic so he 0.71

02:59:39.880 had a divorce and that that wasn't he

02:59:42.220 didn't feel comfortable marrying again but

02:59:44.200 like my question is how how did you jump

02:59:46.440 from not even in a relationship with him

02:59:50.460 to asking him to marry you after he just

02:59:52.900 oh because like when not after not right

02:59:56.280 after he got out of the doors no no it

02:59:58.000 started with um actually when I did not

03:00:02.600 think that he liked me that way but when

03:00:03.980 I found out that he got a divorce I was a

03:00:06.460 lot closer with my other friends from

03:00:08.940 that group guy friends because they were

03:00:10.440 single so I'm just gonna ignore what

03:00:12.160 you're doing

03:00:12.600 sorry sorry sorry that's Nick Nick

03:00:14.880 controls that yeah sure okay um but

03:00:19.200 anyway so my my initial thought like

03:00:21.640 after I found out that he got divorced

03:00:23.340 wasn't like oh

03:00:24.220 it wasn't it wasn't here's my chance or

03:00:29.700 whatever it was more just like well I

03:00:33.180 can now I can talk to him freely and

03:00:35.600 because he was one of my closest friends

03:00:38.400 but I wasn't as close with him as as I

03:00:40.340 was with my other friends um because my

03:00:42.380 other friends were single and so it was

03:00:43.620 like a lot easier and so I'm like well

03:00:44.880 now we can like start talking more and

03:00:46.500 whatever um and that's how it started

03:00:49.020 out

03:00:49.260 yeah like okay separate I don't know

03:00:54.300 when the divorce became official but

03:00:55.840 separated spring like April like 2021

03:00:59.360 and then we started talking like

03:01:01.040 February 2022

03:01:01.900 if I was the ex-wife I would be a little

03:01:03.420 suspicious I would too I'm not gonna lie

03:01:05.280 the ex-wife like she decided to leave 1.00

03:01:07.220 him why why would she care oh my sweet so

03:01:08.980 much child I think I think she would be

03:01:11.360 more suspicious that you know exactly why

03:01:13.920 they divorced we're still not done I don't

03:01:16.080 understand like you don't understand the

03:01:18.360 problem with another woman being that 1.00

03:01:19.820 involved in someone else's relationship

03:01:21.460 like you know every detail you're talking

03:01:23.680 like after the divorce why would she care

03:01:25.080 after the divorce I mean I still would I

03:01:27.120 I was married to that person at the same

03:01:29.260 time but she doesn't care like she just 1.00

03:01:31.000 left him

03:01:31.340 hold on hold on just a sec

03:01:31.920 $99 she wrecked her home then got alpha 1.00

03:01:35.580 widowed

03:01:36.180 that's not what happened

03:01:37.620 you were kind of talking to a married

03:01:42.060 man just saying all right what what

03:01:43.800 okay

03:01:44.560 what do you mean that literally was what

03:01:46.840 happened you were talking and had

03:01:48.940 feelings for a man who was married

03:01:50.020 you guys don't like the words came out

03:01:53.480 of your mouth you said now you said

03:01:55.860 well okay I boundaries I took a step

03:01:58.080 back but yeah we had boundaries you

03:02:00.640 had feelings for a guy who was married

03:02:02.500 and you had a but I'm really proud of

03:02:05.780 like I said like really good boundaries

03:02:07.120 because I knew that like at one point I

03:02:08.880 didn't before I knew he was married I

03:02:10.820 had feelings for him so I'm not gonna do

03:02:12.280 anything where like like I start having

03:02:14.240 feelings for him as soon as I started

03:02:15.620 having feelings I took a step back so

03:02:17.200 like the whole time I didn't even like

03:02:19.260 hug him until like that's after they

03:02:22.880 got divorced that's that's

03:02:24.060 considerate of you that's like like

03:02:26.080 serious like I mean we would be

03:02:27.340 hanging out with because like I hug my

03:02:29.340 friends you know like like hello

03:02:30.660 goodbye whatever the friends I give I

03:02:32.980 give my friends hugs and we would we

03:02:34.840 would be hanging out and I don't know

03:02:35.960 what you guys are laughing about but

03:02:37.000 we'd be hanging out in a group and like

03:02:39.500 we go fishing was it the vicarious hug

03:02:41.260 like you were hugging your friends but

03:02:42.760 you were really wishing it was like

03:02:44.760 one second too no it's like when we

03:02:47.480 say goodbye it's like hey it's been

03:02:48.820 nice hanging out whatever goodbye hug

03:02:50.500 like I don't know why that's weird and

03:02:54.060 okay and then I would just like skip

03:02:55.760 him you'd skip like out of yeah because

03:02:59.120 he's he's married I'm not gonna be 0.92

03:03:00.480 hugging a married man but I hugged my

03:03:02.080 other friends because they were like

03:03:03.060 single are they also on the phone for

03:03:04.860 hours no no that was after the divorce

03:03:08.440 I'm sorry but if I was the wife and I

03:03:11.960 found out what would you do tell us what

03:03:13.600 she would do but like she doesn't care so

03:03:17.620 let's move on here but thank you Sophia

03:03:20.260 for being open and sharing sharing that

03:03:22.580 with I regret it I'm never coming back

03:03:24.120 it was good it was good it was a I'm

03:03:28.600 kidding I'm kidding okay we have I need

03:03:30.740 to get caught up on a couple chats we'll

03:03:32.120 get we'll continue with the rest of the

03:03:33.780 status of the panel ladies what yearly

03:03:36.800 salary would you consider low for a man

03:03:38.900 now Bender I do want to point out some

03:03:41.600 of these women are in university

03:03:42.660 college so I for a lot of these women I 1.00

03:03:45.180 don't think that they are really all

03:03:47.460 that preoccupied with money at this

03:03:50.920 point right like any of us have a salary

03:03:52.940 job yeah yeah like some of these girls 1.00

03:03:55.240 are 18 19 but we will ask the question

03:03:57.960 maybe you can try to frame it from I'd

03:04:01.840 say 20k 25k currently yeah or no in

03:04:06.080 general like if I'm married to somebody

03:04:07.720 like 20 you trying to live in Idaho

03:04:10.360 what's up Montana what's up well because

03:04:13.100 California you ain't living in

03:04:14.960 California maybe Bakersfield I mean even

03:04:17.440 Bakersfield okay I'll give it 30k 30k

03:04:21.220 okay what about you I don't really know

03:04:24.000 as long as like he has a job and like

03:04:26.120 it's a steady job then that pays like

03:04:30.420 somewhat well okay what's too low is

03:04:34.800 that the question yeah yes what's too

03:04:37.840 low would you consider low for a man

03:04:39.300 how about bare minimum let's just do

03:04:41.680 bare minimum today to go oh if he he's

03:04:45.720 gonna be making like 70 80,000 I feel 1.00

03:04:48.780 like what the fuck says the socialist 0.98

03:04:51.040 hello I told you I'm not gonna I'm not 0.99

03:04:54.160 gonna fix society by myself so I gotta I

03:04:57.180 gotta live with it like what do you mean

03:04:59.300 that's that's a very like you you said

03:05:02.420 you're a socialist but the guy needs to

03:05:04.300 make 70 to 80 thousand dollars but like I

03:05:06.620 just said I'm not gonna change the world

03:05:08.520 by myself so I have to yeah but what your

03:05:10.920 partner can't be in indigent indigent I mean it's 1.00

03:05:15.280 like no money makes no money basically like

03:05:17.260 broke if he's I probably don't want to be

03:05:19.880 with him if he's broke I want that's a very

03:05:22.260 for somebody who's a socialist that's a

03:05:24.480 so why don't you actually you know what

03:05:28.980 would do you believe in reparations the

03:05:31.080 script do you believe in reparations for

03:05:34.620 african-americans like in what like giving 0.71

03:05:37.920 them back like land money like what are we

03:05:40.240 talking about I think I would need more

03:05:44.280 context I think that's how I don't know

03:05:46.080 how you cash on you right now cash on me

03:05:48.120 yeah I do you want some yeah would you give

03:05:50.340 it to me because some people I don't know

03:05:52.100 are slaves I don't know why I think the

03:05:55.840 context is just off right now it's do you

03:05:58.620 have any cash in your wallet I do can you

03:06:00.520 I I feel like this has to come out the

03:06:02.900 Q's mouth I'm just cute I told you it's

03:06:11.040 the it's the wrong context oh sorry sorry

03:06:12.900 sorry yeah I don't know why I'm that was

03:06:15.560 really random I think he wants to talk

03:06:18.780 about it he's getting a little sleepy I can

03:06:20.280 see I think so okay so 70 to 80k

03:06:25.880 socialist by the way I'm not gonna fix the

03:06:29.640 country by myself like if you can't beat 0.99

03:06:31.600 him fucking join him change you want to see 0.99

03:06:33.400 in the world I Claire it starts with you 0.99

03:06:35.700 I'm not gonna do it by myself so do you

03:06:39.640 think I feel like most you'd be like you

03:06:42.560 like communist socialist men right not

03:06:45.100 communist communism and socialism is not

03:06:47.340 the same thing you're like socialist men

03:06:49.000 yeah okay all right are they like are

03:06:53.940 like okay whatever okay what about you I

03:06:57.060 work in tech so like low for where I live in

03:06:59.560 survival is like 70 to 80 yeah so bare

03:07:02.700 minimum 70 80k yeah Emily what about you

03:07:05.640 like the lowest yeah bare minimum we know

03:07:09.420 you previously did a drug dealer so that

03:07:11.580 might skew things right does it yeah if

03:07:14.580 it's not if it's legal I'm just kidding

03:07:16.320 um probably the lowest would be like 40 or

03:07:20.640 50 okay Sophia I mean depends where we

03:07:26.460 would live obviously I I would want uh what

03:07:29.400 was the question again just bare bare minimum

03:07:31.900 like to date or like Mary well yeah Mary okay so

03:07:37.140 like Mary like I would want um my husband to 1.00

03:07:40.140 be able to um provide for me and a family and

03:07:44.380 you you wouldn't want to work correct like um I

03:07:46.940 would like to be a stay-at-home mom now if like

03:07:49.120 the situation like the going got tough and I

03:07:51.880 had to get a job then obviously like like you

03:07:54.400 know I'll do what I have to but yeah I would

03:07:56.380 like to be a stay-at-home mom and not work how 1.00

03:07:57.860 how many kids do you want um I don't know

03:08:01.500 like are you a one and done do you think or

03:08:04.260 do you want like multiple um so since I'm

03:08:06.740 like Christian leaning Catholic um like

03:08:09.660 Catholics she wants 10 like they it's 1.00

03:08:12.760 basically however many children the Lord

03:08:15.060 will bless us with and so that's what I'm

03:08:16.820 like leaning towards is like whatever I'll

03:08:18.880 have a lot of kids I don't care I'll have

03:08:19.980 10 I don't know God but not a Christian 1.00

03:08:22.680 saying 10 10 kids is a lot of mouths to

03:08:24.500 feed that's the thing you got to think

03:08:25.960 about right so like Catholics don't even 1.00

03:08:30.500 believe in um well they think like

03:08:32.640 contraception is like morally wrong but

03:08:35.500 there is a thing called natural family

03:08:37.480 planning so if we were in a really tight

03:08:40.360 financial situation where it's like okay

03:08:41.880 right now we can't afford to have any

03:08:43.340 more kids then you know that's where a

03:08:45.160 natural family planning comes in translation

03:08:47.160 you can only bust nuts certain times of

03:08:51.080 the month yeah basically yes sweet

03:08:54.340 you can do that if you're not Christian 1.00

03:08:57.540 you just have sex on your cycle yeah 1.00

03:08:58.880 yeah it's actually like more effective 0.99

03:09:00.480 than um using a condom but it doesn't I

03:09:02.980 mean it doesn't uh dope what's called

03:09:05.520 protect against a cd spot uh Amy what

03:09:08.440 about you minimum um I say bear would be

03:09:12.360 like 60 70 around that range um I'd say

03:09:18.180 bear like starting out would be 35,000

03:09:21.060 okay all right all pretty reasonable all

03:09:24.220 right we have a chat here from vivina

03:09:26.100 okay sorry q not into the multiple girl

03:09:27.920 situation you've got going on I might

03:09:29.740 have missed an update do you still have

03:09:31.020 three or did main girl step it up I think 1.00

03:09:34.260 she's asking about your oh the last time

03:09:36.320 yeah yeah um no I actually chilled out a

03:09:40.300 little bit but main girl main girl is she 1.00

03:09:43.660 she there we good okay all right we have

03:09:50.960 former okay let's see uh do I pull the one

03:09:58.540 up do an interesting question do a good one

03:10:02.620 spice it up

03:10:03.860 uh okay I'm a 25 year old Catholic 0.99

03:10:12.540 virgin who's very ugly so no man wants to 1.00

03:10:14.620 date me I've offered men hundreds to 0.98

03:10:16.400 thousands of dollars to go on dates with

03:10:17.740 me but they say no I would like to offer

03:10:19.600 Brian 500 plus a fly out to visit me via

03:10:23.540 wire transfer 72 yeah with it sounds like

03:10:27.140 process anyways um so let's see here we

03:10:32.240 have I need to do some it's a girl 0.99

03:10:35.260 offering you free money it's all you've

03:10:36.720 ever wanted

03:10:37.220 she might be obsessed with you too moving

03:10:40.800 on

03:10:41.100 josh how much to kick a boonie cap wearing

03:10:43.640 oh wait sorry I don't know why that okay

03:10:45.700 um black brown that might be tos hold on

03:10:51.860 uh hold on let me read this before

03:10:55.680 that's a little tos I don't know um okay 0.99

03:11:06.740 fuck it um 59 euro I'll explain that race is 1.00

03:11:09.920 actually spectrum gender is not Sunday 1.00

03:11:11.600 Monday and Tuesday I'm black the rest of

03:11:13.180 the week I'm white but some Fridays I will

03:11:15.080 identify as Native American if the mood

03:11:16.920 strikes because it's my truth and you must 0.56

03:11:18.620 believe me

03:11:19.160 all right okay thank you man appreciate it

03:11:22.000 thank you thank you um puffy Vegas twice in

03:11:24.740 my life I have took home trans you can 0.99

03:11:27.460 tell the difference both I turned them

03:11:28.940 down ps I can't streamline apparently

03:11:31.640 they don't know correct spelling and

03:11:32.920 grammar either yeah my my audience is

03:11:36.240 like primarily illiterate so uneducated 0.90

03:11:38.880 it's pretty dope 0.55

03:11:40.440 Brian you're getting but hurt over

03:11:43.620 something you can't control women have 1.00

03:11:45.020 it easy I think alexa's method works in 1.00

03:11:46.940 our favor she removes herself out of the 1.00

03:11:49.140 pool just be the best version of

03:11:50.720 yourself also men pay on the first men

03:11:52.700 pay on first date or no second date

03:11:54.260 you're not a 10 uh so uh

03:11:58.600 the last part confused me well the whole

03:12:01.600 like paying on the date thing so I mean I

03:12:03.680 say this right so you're gonna lose

03:12:07.580 women if you don't pay for the first 1.00

03:12:08.900 date I acknowledge that like if you want

03:12:10.420 to min max your dating you should pay for

03:12:12.020 the first date I am starting to kind of

03:12:13.840 lean towards more just like okay just 0.98

03:12:15.860 fucking pay for it but 0.96

03:12:17.600 so you've been going on dates I'm too 1.00

03:12:22.360 busy for that shit how long has it been 0.99

03:12:24.660 you've been on a date 1.00

03:12:25.460 it's been I'm a busy I'm busy it's been

03:12:30.100 10 years

03:12:30.620 what do you mean like a date like uh

03:12:32.900 like have you hung out with somebody

03:12:34.220 recently honestly I kind of feel like

03:12:36.100 it's better if the girl just like comes 1.00

03:12:37.620 over to my place right away that's kind

03:12:39.800 of the book so you're kind of expressing

03:12:42.980 yourself a little bit what do you how

03:12:45.700 how's that exposing myself nothing it's

03:12:48.720 just it's just your your instead of

03:12:51.280 like oh are you gonna do watch disney

03:12:53.000 movies let's let's go out to this place

03:12:57.880 it's just like and I'm kind of busy let's

03:13:00.680 just kick it at my place whatever it's

03:13:02.180 good what to watch movies or what yeah to

03:13:04.800 play card games yeah well backgammon chess

03:13:08.420 whatever you want to do but I'm like the

03:13:10.260 lion king or something exactly that's 1.00

03:13:12.140 my that's my go-to shit um puffy 1.00

03:13:15.520 vegas all women cheat I don't believe 1.00

03:13:18.620 can't be faithful okay I don't believe

03:13:22.940 can't be faithful puffy vegas she's 27

03:13:26.120 I'm 49 she beautiful I love you she

03:13:31.000 said I love you I never bought her

03:13:32.360 anything she's beautiful I never bought

03:13:34.660 her anything okay is this is this like 0.53

03:13:37.200 song lyrics or some shit like it I don't 0.94

03:13:39.200 know should be around all right puffy 0.89

03:13:40.720 vegas my neighbor is 27 I'm 49 she told I

03:13:43.300 told I love told me I love

03:13:47.400 bro puffy puffy okay all right all right

03:13:50.800 that's he is struggling puffy is the is a 0.99

03:13:55.840 fucking giga chat okay let's go uh amy 0.99

03:13:59.520 what's your dating situation what's up 1.00

03:14:01.100 um I'm single right now I'm not talking

03:14:04.880 to anyone not sleeping with anyone

03:14:06.800 okay um wait hold on are you also

03:14:12.200 waiting until marriage um not necessarily

03:14:15.640 my principle is just to sleep with a 0.96

03:14:17.720 boyfriend not just you know just a

03:14:19.720 stranger have you had that yet yes uh my

03:14:24.260 longest relationship was five years okay

03:14:27.080 gotcha um let's see and in your pre-show

03:14:30.520 notes to us you said let's see not much

03:14:34.260 besides being cheated on and not having a

03:14:37.240 place in the market there's all this talk

03:14:39.200 about wanting a traditional woman but

03:14:40.540 there's no place in the market for us what

03:14:41.960 do you what do you mean by that um the

03:14:43.480 last part I guess oh are these two kind

03:14:46.440 of different I guess um I guess not but

03:14:49.200 I'll respond to the last part uh I feel

03:14:51.720 like they're in the market right now there's

03:14:54.360 a lot of IG models and a lot of only fan

03:14:57.920 models too that and a lot of girls who 1.00

03:15:00.860 post very productive pictures online which

03:15:03.920 I'm not saying is necessarily a bad thing

03:15:06.180 but I feel like a lot of men who do say I

03:15:10.240 want a traditional woman and gravitate 1.00

03:15:12.340 and go for those women first and versus 0.99

03:15:16.700 someone who keeps a very low radar we

03:15:20.360 don't really get noticed well I I kind

03:15:24.400 of disagree with you because I think I

03:15:27.600 mean I you I haven't heard much from you

03:15:29.640 so far but you're saying you're the

03:15:31.200 opposite of that you're the opposite of

03:15:33.120 the IG model the only fans girl I think

03:15:36.720 there's actually a huge demand for women 1.00

03:15:39.160 like you

03:15:39.920 um sorry hold on um okay all right um hold

03:15:46.800 hold on dude she really wants you accept her

03:15:49.560 free money at least there's a text her

03:15:51.880 every day yeah it's not like you'll text

03:15:54.680 her every day anyways yeah okay let me

03:15:58.020 just hold on hold on one second uh men

03:16:02.160 like Brian are my type they said uh dm

03:16:07.800 dm her she wants cuddles and hand 1.00

03:16:10.620 holding or him who knows we don't need

03:16:12.900 so um Amy what I was going to say is

03:16:15.960 that I mean but you often hear men say

03:16:19.100 well the Instagram models the only fans

03:16:21.400 girls like those aren't the girls that 1.00

03:16:23.180 you want to have a relationship with

03:16:24.840 right by the way W I want to see W's in

03:16:27.720 the chat guys there are no only fans

03:16:30.840 girls at this table right nobody here 1.00

03:16:33.260 does only fans no I've been offered like

03:16:35.800 by multiple people to be like a manager

03:16:38.260 for that but no okay but nobody yo I'm

03:16:43.800 trying to move away from bringing on all

03:16:45.640 these OF girls and porn stars I mean look

03:16:49.200 I'm not there's going to be some more in

03:16:51.040 the future but I am trying to move away

03:16:52.320 from it why is there a reason honestly

03:16:55.240 they're kind of obnoxious and they don't

03:16:57.680 like specifically I don't think they're

03:16:59.660 representative of like normal women 100% 0.99

03:17:02.940 so and they're just like some of them

03:17:09.480 have come on the show and been like

03:17:11.180 very nasty so or they want to shout I've

03:17:14.680 seen a few content on tiktok senior yeah

03:17:17.440 that's what made me watch these was the

03:17:18.920 girls on there and then the episode with

03:17:20.660 Candace Owens where she just like ripped 1.00

03:17:22.480 into look we will we will continue we are

03:17:27.000 going to continue probably having them on

03:17:28.560 but I am trying to like there was a point 0.99

03:17:31.740 where it was like every fucking show it's 0.95

03:17:33.760 like half the panel most of the panel 0.97

03:17:35.360 yeah only fans girl like so now I'm

03:17:37.720 trying to rebalance it where it's like

03:17:39.700 let's bring on some more regular girls 1.00

03:17:42.160 let's say I guess we're regular that well

03:17:44.980 I'm undecided on you but you care to

03:17:50.160 explain I'll tell you later later why

03:17:54.040 can't you say it right now say it say it

03:17:56.940 I'm just teasing you okay so Amy sorry

03:18:01.060 the TTS came in we you were saying that

03:18:03.580 there's not a place in the market for

03:18:05.400 women like you who are not out there 1.00

03:18:07.900 shown their TNA basically is what you're

03:18:10.640 saying yeah because I'm not on any

03:18:13.120 dating apps and that's just a principle

03:18:14.560 that I made for myself there there have

03:18:17.960 been moments where I'm like oh maybe

03:18:19.380 should maybe should I get on but I'm

03:18:21.320 always I always you know eventually say

03:18:25.100 okay no I'm not gonna do it because I do

03:18:27.520 believe that everybody has made themselves

03:18:31.040 very easily accessible especially online

03:18:33.920 and anybody and anybody like and everybody

03:18:36.520 could find you with a search and they

03:18:39.120 could DM you on anything and I just don't

03:18:43.100 necessarily like that type of attention I

03:18:45.040 feel like it's very tiring that has

03:18:47.600 happened to me for like two weeks when

03:18:49.760 one of my TikToks went went viral and I got

03:18:53.520 many requests and I eventually just took

03:18:56.620 off that that Instagram account and I made

03:18:58.840 a new one well it was very tiring what did

03:19:01.460 you do on TikTok it was like a very it was

03:19:04.040 like a gym video canceled no I was I didn't

03:19:08.520 get canceled it was just uh it was a gym

03:19:10.440 video and people were supportive but like

03:19:12.580 men were trying to get my attention and I 0.57

03:19:15.980 didn't like just like working out yeah was it

03:19:19.480 one of those gym videos that was like oh my

03:19:21.300 god look at this guy no no I don't even

03:19:24.800 remember the context of it rude yeah on

03:19:28.040 your phone get off okay I think I think I

03:19:30.380 said something along the lines of like you

03:19:32.760 can't go to gym expecting to fix all your

03:19:35.740 problems you gotta you know fix your mind

03:19:37.480 too I think that was pretty much the

03:19:39.280 context of the video okay and but you're

03:19:41.620 saying that you being cheated on not

03:19:44.460 having a place in the market is that a

03:19:46.820 little different than the whole traditional

03:19:48.240 woman but there's no place in the market 1.00

03:19:50.020 for us um I kind of think of them as the

03:19:52.600 same because how I think my my problem is

03:19:56.020 I don't know how to find men like like

03:19:59.560 traditional men you know good attention I

03:20:02.360 am I'm Christian Christian okay um I mean I

03:20:07.260 would say that there's like if we put you

03:20:11.580 next to an Instagram baddie I would say I

03:20:15.760 would think most men would prefer you over 1.00

03:20:19.420 the chicks the chick who's on Instagram or

03:20:23.200 who has OnlyFans eventually but I don't

03:20:25.840 think I mean eventually I don't think at

03:20:27.640 first like at first glance I would be a

03:20:29.440 first pick I think I think you're underselling

03:20:32.000 yourself to be honest like I agree with

03:20:35.620 Brian you're underselling it yeah I think it's

03:20:38.220 just it's just hard for me right now I don't

03:20:40.780 know where to look it's not even like I am

03:20:43.140 looking but I just haven't been approached in a

03:20:45.720 very long time yeah why I mean it's

03:20:49.080 definitely hard and because you said you're

03:20:51.360 not on dating apps which I think that's a

03:20:53.180 good thing but obviously that's the way a

03:20:55.320 lot of people are meeting nowadays you don't

03:20:57.100 have a big presence on Instagram that's

03:20:59.160 also in some case well it's also considered a

03:21:02.260 dating app to some degree a lot of people

03:21:03.760 will meet on Instagram so yeah it's going to

03:21:08.260 be harder for you but I think that that's not

03:21:10.860 necessarily a bad thing and I think it's

03:21:13.920 discouraging sometimes it really it really

03:21:17.760 does yeah yeah no I mean and you consider

03:21:21.740 yourself a bit more introverted oh yeah

03:21:23.700 bit more on the shy side I'm not

03:21:25.860 necessarily shy like I think I'm more

03:21:28.560 ambivert yeah like a mix it depends on the

03:21:32.580 day yeah and it's hard because men aren't

03:21:35.340 doing the pursuing anymore right yeah if you're not on

03:21:39.440 dating apps then like men aren't like you know

03:21:41.560 asking you out on dates and stuff why do men

03:21:43.220 have to do it though that is that's a man's

03:21:45.660 role that's a fair point why can't we do it I

03:21:48.600 mean I've done it multiple times yeah Amy

03:21:50.320 yeah start kidding on dudes I mean you go to

03:21:52.820 Trader Joe's be like I think I'm okay I like I like my

03:21:56.580 peace I mean maybe some women do but I've done it

03:21:59.960 um I don't I'm not like lonely enough to like be

03:22:06.060 like out there but um but I am like I have like my

03:22:10.460 faith of like you know God has someone for me

03:22:12.940 eventually but I wonder how okay yeah it will

03:22:16.260 happen it's best to not look because the best people

03:22:19.660 come around it's just like I'm wondering you know

03:22:22.320 wait wait say that again the best people come around

03:22:24.640 when you're not looking they come out of nowhere only

03:22:27.560 women can say that why is that that's what I'm saying 1.00

03:22:31.060 agree with that well you as women are the pursued 1.00

03:22:35.160 typically like men we have to do the pursuing we have

03:22:37.740 to approach I've done it before sure that's fine but

03:22:40.420 most women don't we as men like let's let's talk about 0.53

03:22:44.480 dating apps or nightclub if I step foot into a nightclub

03:22:47.700 what I don't go to bars or clubs not my scene and I go in

03:22:52.960 the corner I have my drink whatever or I'm at the bar

03:22:55.480 whatever maybe nobody's coming to talk to me the entire

03:22:59.120 night as a woman if you go to a bar or club you're going 1.00

03:23:04.060 to get hit on someone's going to approach you yeah same

03:23:06.840 same thing with dating apps as a guy if you're on the

03:23:09.120 dating app if you don't take initiative you're not going

03:23:12.200 to you're shit out of luck it all just depends on the

03:23:15.080 girl though you know some girls do walk up to guys some 1.00

03:23:18.760 girls don't yeah but it's that's the exception not the 1.00

03:23:20.860 rule yeah most girls don't most most women do not 0.97

03:23:23.420 approach men you approach men you approach men let's

03:23:28.400 let's see some game okay I I actually here I approach men

03:23:32.460 more than we're at a frat party we're at a frat party okay

03:23:35.180 well I don't have like I don't have liquid courage so this is 0.98

03:23:45.780 gonna be harder all right let's fucking sig out 0.99

03:23:51.340 that's a horrible frat by the way 0.98

03:23:57.400 it's gonna at least wear it correctly

03:24:01.880 there you go you got it there you go yeah okay

03:24:07.120 we're waiting for you to spit game yeah yeah he's waiting

03:24:16.320 the thing is I would never walk up to him

03:24:18.080 beer pong huh yeah no pretend he's the guy of your dreams

03:24:24.660 just go just come yeah okay what's up so 0.99

03:24:31.440 yeah yeah you got no fucking game it's not about spitting the game it's like you 0.98

03:24:38.800 have to make the eye contact that's how I am I'm a very big you walk up to the 0.99

03:24:43.480 dude and you just no no no wait you say the blue eyes thing earlier yeah oh we didn't 0.99

03:24:49.080 talk about the blue eyes shit yeah you were kind of creeping me out for a second there 0.99

03:24:52.760 she was doing it with brown eyes don't do that because it's honestly just you 1.00

03:24:57.660 well if you're fucking staring at me like that I would never hit on you in the first place 0.99

03:25:04.460 yeah you got no game I'm sorry that was weak she died that's also because you're old and I don't 0.99

03:25:12.460 want to like make it weird like I could hit on him

03:25:16.040 you know you do know what a role play is right

03:25:23.680 I'm gonna cry now

03:25:27.060 you're cool but just not my type

03:25:30.900 I think the feeling is mutual but um so okay so what was the whole thing here since we brought

03:25:39.120 up the blue eyes thing what's the blue eyes thing you don't like men with blue eyes you're

03:25:42.540 really about to make me say it again you didn't say it on camera okay okay okay so listen listen

03:25:48.520 chat listen to what she's about to say actually with blue eyes okay I actually steeped in racism

03:25:53.040 but go ahead about an eye color racist no are you racist I'm full Native American why would I 0.91

03:26:00.080 like want to be racist what would you have against it's because you don't like white people

03:26:03.900 who said white people are the only ones with blue eyes what are you saying nothing go ahead 0.97

03:26:10.120 okay I'm just fucking around go ahead well I was at a frat party once like specifically like 0.98

03:26:14.620 a month ago I would say yeah and I meet this guy and he's really cute and I'm like oh I can't really 0.87

03:26:21.140 see like what he looks like a little bit because it's kind of dark and there's like lights or whatever

03:26:25.660 and so I take him outside and we start making out and like a light comes on and so I open my eyes and

03:26:32.480 he's still making out with me but with like these piercing blue eyes just staring at me they weren't

03:26:38.140 close the entire time we were making out so when I when he like opened his eyes I literally was like

03:26:44.100 I gotta go and he like kind of followed me around the whole party and I literally just looked at him

03:26:49.080 and I was like your eyes are just really creepy like I can't make out with you like it just it gave

03:26:55.360 me chills it's just like it's just a preference it gave you chills do I have those yes specifically

03:27:01.400 like that color oh thank you this color yes what color are my eyes like icy blue icy cold

03:27:08.900 murderous blue dope okay maybe not murder I wonder if any women are into that the whole murderous 0.99

03:27:17.580 thing oh yeah I bet there's plenty you'll find they write books about it good shit everyone loved 0.98

03:27:24.700 Ted Bundy so okay I'm I'm too old my eyes are too icy and cold and murderous but I think you're cool 0.99

03:27:32.300 oh fuck I'm so depressed oh my god I need to go to talk therapy now okay um you have all of us 0.98

03:27:40.560 what do you mean you could talk to all of us about your problems yeah that's actually why I started 1.00

03:27:46.100 this podcast fuck therapy let me start a fucking dating podcast um instead of going to therapy okay so 0.99

03:27:54.820 oh um it's sophie with a ph okay um hold on let me see if okay uh so amy you also had a couple 0.99

03:28:06.420 other notes here um she's not here she's not here oh she did no she went to the bathroom okay I didn't

03:28:11.800 even see her okay she's just yeah good idea nick very very smart nick guys do me a favor

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03:29:01.500 drop us a prime sub if you have one okay so uh lynn you have uh relationship status uh I am very

03:29:09.740 single right now very single what does that mean um I haven't been in a relationship for a year and a

03:29:15.400 half year and a half what but I feel like okay you haven't been in a relationship for a year and a

03:29:20.660 half when's the last time you went on a date or hung out with a guy in a romantic sort of way

03:29:26.860 I guess technically two weeks ago you only is this somebody you've been seeing for a while or

03:29:37.220 no so it was somebody that I went to high school with um he's been texting me like consistently for

03:29:43.380 a while and I kind of just always brushed him off uh but then one day he was like hey do you want to

03:29:48.180 hang out and I was like screw it why not um so I went to go hang out with him and then we just hung

03:29:54.440 out for like a couple hours and then the next day he ghosted me so like it wasn't really romantic

03:29:59.720 but it could have been I guess did y'all smash no smash I put it in my pre-show notes that that you

03:30:09.920 what that I haven't had sex in two years oh okay we'll talk about that so you've been celibate for

03:30:16.660 two years yes why did why did he he it sounded like he was really like up on you and then he ghosted

03:30:24.100 you so did you like do something weird did you did you say anything that was maybe like a red flag 0.99

03:30:32.040 I think I wanted to fuck he yeah he did want to he did want to fuck this and I straight up was like 0.99

03:30:40.880 listen I don't have sex outside of like relationships like it's it's not gonna happen um and I think 0.99

03:30:46.080 that's all he wanted I think at some point like some part of him wanted to have a relationship with

03:30:50.360 me but I think he wanted the sex first and I wasn't willing to give that up so yeah good for 0.81

03:30:54.740 you girl thank you I do think Q what are your thoughts on that though do you think my personal

03:30:59.860 view is I think in the way most relationships I think tend to play out is it's not hey let's go on

03:31:09.680 10 dates be boyfriend girlfriend then have sex it's typically have sex fairly early on continue hooking

03:31:17.860 up you start liking each other then you become boyfriend and girlfriend yeah typically with men

03:31:23.060 because um sexual attraction is the primary factor you don't know a woman commitment is a big thing 1.00

03:31:30.260 for a man it's I say commitment is equally as risky as sex is for a woman because as you said a woman has 0.99

03:31:37.640 the ability to fuck up your life so you need to know this woman you need to know what this woman is 0.98

03:31:41.760 about you need to know what her mindset is her attitude her values her personality all these things you 0.99

03:31:46.080 have to learn but what you do know is you would smash her because she's attractive enough 1.00

03:31:50.000 facts that's just facts son you guys want low body count but then you're playing into that like 0.98

03:31:57.960 having sex with the woman very early on well because we because normally we let things just develop we go

03:32:04.040 with the flow I think it would be like a weeding out type situation where they're they're not they're

03:32:08.620 not wanting the women yeah we don't promiscuous so they're going for the ones that haven't so if she 1.00

03:32:12.180 sleeps with you then you're weeding her out because she's having sex with you no no no not 1.00

03:32:16.760 not necessarily see some women think if I sleep with him then he's going to think I'm a whore 0.99

03:32:20.380 but that's not necessarily the case but you're adding to their body count and yet you want women

03:32:24.960 with low body count not if she continues sleeping with me and only me okay but if it doesn't work 0.99

03:32:30.940 out if you guys break up then that's one more added that's if it doesn't work out I mean a girl 0.84

03:32:35.440 could be a virgin and then sleep with you on the first date and just stay with you yeah 0.98

03:32:42.860 well yeah exactly girls don't do it don't sleep with guys wait until marriage because they're not 1.00

03:32:52.420 going to commit um wait wait wait wait wait wait I think I'd stay with her forever if she slept with 1.00

03:32:58.620 you even if we probably there were like like core just like incompatible like irreconcilable

03:33:05.000 differences huh oh I'm being a little facetious here don't take okay but uh but don't like you

03:33:12.860 don't have to promote like everybody has to be a virgin everybody has different preferences like

03:33:17.940 I think a good I think a good like measure to it would be like don't do what you don't want your

03:33:25.940 partner exactly you know like if I could be a traditional woman I would want a traditional man

03:33:31.520 who would have a lower body count which I know it is like a pipe dream but I think I understand that

03:33:38.520 men are more of like facial creatures it's actually not a pipe dream and I would actually argue that

03:33:43.620 there are more women who have higher body counts than there are men who have high body counts

03:33:48.760 I haven't heard of that honestly I think I usually say the other way around but maybe because

03:33:54.880 well I think what happens is you have like a very small percentage of men at the top

03:33:59.020 like insanely high body counts and then you have like women who are kind of in the mid-tier who are 1.00

03:34:05.480 like getting 10 20 30 40 whatever and then you have dudes who are in that top percent for like 100 200

03:34:11.620 300 right and then you have dude and then you have the rest of the dudes who are getting nothing

03:34:18.180 yeah the men the men like virgins low body counts yeah the smaller percentage of men skew to average

03:34:23.460 to where the average male body count is higher than a woman's by about one or two bodies but it's

03:34:28.620 like you said it's that hyper strata of men that get so many bodies that they naturally just make the

03:34:34.060 average higher than a woman's right yeah word word 0.96

03:34:38.300 moving on

03:34:43.100 I thought somebody was going to say some

03:34:46.060 okay um I mean my personal stance is

03:34:49.420 and I'm gonna have Maddie come in on this too actually is I think that you can sleep with 1.00

03:34:56.060 someone fairly early on and that can that can flourish into a serious committed monogamous 0.88

03:35:03.280 long-term relationship I would say mo I've had multiple long-term relationships my longest was five

03:35:08.720 years all of my long-term relationships it wasn't like let's date for three months and then have sex

03:35:14.660 let's go on 10 20 dates and then have sex it was within the first three dates we hooked up

03:35:20.780 and those became healthy long-term relationships yeah because y'all got to understand the average 0.97

03:35:26.220 man is not a whore like he he just can't get multiple women so when he finds a woman that he 0.99

03:35:31.580 can finally have sex with and that sex is repetitive he's going to typically stay where 0.99

03:35:35.500 he knows he can get sex so once he has sex he probably likes you he know you know he's attracted 0.98

03:35:41.120 to you physically you guys do things after you pillow talk you cuddle whatever whatever promotes

03:35:46.340 that bonding and then that's what it is that's what it becomes it becomes a routine he can't

03:35:50.240 afford men can't typically afford to just sleep with a woman then just move on to the next most

03:35:54.720 men don't have it like that most men are not that desirable word word madison uh what's the

03:36:03.080 sitch sitch with frankie frank who's frank her boyfriend her boyfriend oh uh so uh i don't know 0.91

03:36:10.940 we were talking about this like the other week but basically my boyfriend and i we we had sex like

03:36:19.540 the first time we ever had hung out ever alone like we didn't really go on dates before that i wasn't

03:36:25.740 really looking for anything like like you said earlier i'm pretty sure like things just kind of come

03:36:30.020 to i wasn't really looking for anything he was looking for a wife but i didn't know that at the

03:36:34.340 time and i don't know i feel like it it really helped us move forward in our relationship not

03:36:41.800 even just like a relationship but a friendship in a way like it helped us no not not like that

03:36:48.280 not like that i just i just like fumbled my words but i don't know now we're going like one year

03:36:55.420 strong they've been dating for a year that's cute shout out i just feel like that's really like i'm

03:37:01.040 super happy for you but i just feel like that's relatively rare no that's pretty normal i'd say

03:37:05.420 most i'd say most adult relationships again i don't think it's let's wait three months then have

03:37:11.100 sex i would say most relationships the way they develop is they the people hook up relatively early

03:37:18.000 on and then they continue seeing each other and then it becomes a relationship yeah i guess i just

03:37:22.460 don't have but i mean yeah you're you're you haven't had yeah for me it's just it's the

03:37:26.980 opposite experience so it's like oh you're a virgin goodbye i'm not gonna get try to get to know you

03:37:31.620 anymore well yeah but well i think that's that's fair but it's also doing you a favor because you're

03:37:37.340 not wasting your time on a guy yeah like why why would you want to waste time on the guy that

03:37:42.280 doesn't want to move at the same pace as you know 100 i mean the thing is for me is um like a lack

03:37:49.000 of communication like i'll tell some like i'll be straight up with a guy like about that about

03:37:54.000 myself particularly and instead of like if i'm like if that's not what you're looking for that's

03:37:58.560 that's totally fine you know that's like that can be an irreconcilable difference but most of the

03:38:02.840 time it's like oh no it's fine that doesn't change anything and they slowly distance themselves from me

03:38:08.100 and i'm left questioning like what happened i just have to assume that that is what happened that

03:38:13.700 they didn't like that about me is brian we know our marriage did somebody ask

03:38:20.660 um okay so to go back to lynn um i had a couple questions for you here so you you you have been

03:38:29.020 celibate for two years yes good times uh all right and you said you had that although or maybe not

03:38:37.780 although you have a tattoo for an ex from an ex or of an ex can you show us yeah it's right here

03:38:45.840 oh wait the microphone can you maybe stand up the microphone's blocking it a little bit

03:38:50.900 what's it say it says and angel 9498 and and and angel a n a n g a n space angel yeah it's his name

03:39:04.020 angel no um it's an angel because so he was my high school boyfriend i dated him when i was a

03:39:09.340 freshman yeah um and he passed away oh sorry and after he died like i just had like a really strong

03:39:15.260 presence of him being with me so he became my angel so i got a tattoo that says an angel and then his

03:39:22.200 birthday how long were you dating him for uh a year yeah well sorry sorry to hear that he uh passed

03:39:27.920 away that must have been rough especially uh at a young age like that um i didn't know i put that

03:39:35.580 in my notes

03:39:36.040 i'm just trying to think like how how would i feel if a girl i was dating had a tattoo

03:39:46.400 of like an ex-boyfriend i will say i didn't sleep with him like we weren't sexually it was just my

03:39:53.980 first serious relationship through high school and the way he died was really tragic it was like

03:39:58.720 a car accident so like so there was any kind of like sexual bond it was just emotional

03:40:05.860 i'd feel if i was i dated a girl who had a tattoo of her ex yeah it bothered me what was it it would

03:40:19.060 bother me it was it was his name with like a basketball and it was a basketball did he pass

03:40:24.900 or no he passed in the tragic basketball no no he was not he didn't pass away um she just had it

03:40:31.380 because i guess of their connection and he used to bother me and i used to ask her i was like you

03:40:35.200 know you got a tattoo of your ex on your back right like it just she was like i'll get it covered

03:40:39.920 up i just could never get past it i couldn't get past it okay i think that's fair i think most

03:40:45.460 people would have a problem with that but in this regard this is a different yeah yeah it is

03:40:51.900 different because like there's people that will just do it kind of um impulsively like i would

03:40:57.160 never get it like if he if i would never get a tattoo for someone if they were like alive this

03:41:01.320 was purely because like he died and he was like someone that like yeah and he helped me a lot like

03:41:06.600 through high school because he was a senior when i was a freshman so like coming into high school

03:41:09.780 and also i was a transfer student from like a different area so he helped me a lot like

03:41:14.840 getting adjusted to the school so he was like yeah he was my boyfriend but he was my freshman he uh

03:41:20.480 he skipped a grade he skipped a grade so he was also young oh okay whatever because he's born in 98

03:41:26.360 and he graduated like i would get one huh i would get one for like my first love if he passed personally

03:41:32.180 word word uh lynn you also said hookup culture has literally ruined dating i don't trust anyone

03:41:38.500 and hate going out with guys because they always try something thinking it's okay and i won't just

03:41:42.860 hook up with someone on the first date or outside of a relationship also fun fact something funny

03:41:48.100 to okay the celibacy thing yeah yeah um so do you have like and maybe some of the other girls here 1.00

03:41:55.080 might also have a standard on this do you have like a hard and fast rule when it comes to

03:41:59.080 how quickly you'd hook up with the guy like is it yeah i feel like i put it kind of harshly like

03:42:04.520 it's not like oh we have to be like i have to be your girlfriend in order for us to have sex like i 0.83

03:42:09.860 think and i mean i'm not even saying that i wouldn't have sex with someone the first time we hang out

03:42:13.500 like if it feels right it feels right but never say never and like for me too is like if i say no

03:42:19.380 then don't push it and if you push it then like it's a hard it's a hard no and that's my thing is

03:42:24.160 like with the guy who i just hung out with like he kept trying to like touch on me and i was like

03:42:28.800 dude stop yeah that's a yikes and so like i mean it's just situations like that but yeah my thing

03:42:36.440 is like i don't know what what it is about me but um whenever guys hit me up to hang out i'm like all

03:42:41.660 right we can hang out but like just so you know it's very unlikely like that anything's gonna happen

03:42:45.960 they're like oh yeah that's fine like i just want to hang out and then they'll try shit and then i'm 0.79

03:42:50.320 like no and then they continuously do it so in that factor of like i don't like going out with guys 0.95

03:42:56.220 because i've just been in that situation a lot of times and it's like it sucks because it's like

03:43:01.360 i'm not opposed to the idea of having sex like it has been on really long time since i have had sex

03:43:06.080 but it's just i'm not going to do it someone who's not going to respect like my basic boundaries

03:43:10.460 that's another difference she's not laughing at you she's laughing in there that's that's another

03:43:15.600 difference between uh body count too where she just said a woman touches me i'd never say no like

03:43:21.800 that's not gonna happen i'm not gonna say no i'm not gonna be repulsed i've turned down i've turned

03:43:27.420 down no i've turned yeah i've turned like i've turned down probably twice i've probably turned

03:43:32.420 down two women and that was just because i just wasn't attracted to them and they were just trying 1.00

03:43:36.840 to force themselves on me but most of the time most men are not going to tell a woman no don't touch

03:43:42.560 me like women y'all have to go months weeks years without sex if a man has the opportunity to go 1.00

03:43:50.580 months weeks or years without sex when he can have it anytime he wants he's going to have it

03:43:53.980 anytime he wants that's that's also a difference like i say we're sexually dimorphic it's exhibited

03:43:59.440 in our behaviors there you have it folks the one thing i will add though is i have turned down men

03:44:04.980 who like i was sexually like attracted to straight into the mind sorry i have turned down men that i

03:44:09.140 was like sexually attracted to it's just a matter of like i'm not gonna do it just to do it like i'm

03:44:14.540 not gonna like i'm not gonna if i see someone who i'm like oh like you're really hot like i would 0.93

03:44:18.220 have sex with you that's not enough for me like i can like a 10 could walk in the room right now 1.00

03:44:23.060 and if he was like oh let's hook up right now i would still say no because for me it's like more 0.99

03:44:28.000 than just the act yep so that's it for you guys you just take no accountability no responsibility

03:44:32.680 what do you mean you just uh you have sex because that's just the way that men are like you're not

03:44:37.720 going to take any like accountability for like saying no because you know like we discussed like

03:44:42.160 women also look for men like women with low body counts or virgins also look for men with low 0.95

03:44:46.980 body counts or virgins but you're just like oh we're men where it's just the way we are so you're

03:44:50.000 going to take no accountability well it's the reality of the situation it's not about avoiding

03:44:53.720 accountability it's about realistic expectations can you not have self-control it's about realistic

03:44:59.400 expectations you can in theory but will you find a man who actually demonstrates that to the degree

03:45:04.480 that you're talking about highly unlikely that's just the reality it's not that hard to just

03:45:08.500 according to according to you it's not hard for a woman to but once again you're not a man

03:45:13.020 you're not a man so you can't say that and you won't find men who agree with you in that regard

03:45:19.580 i mean again it just goes back to it depends um what circle you're a part of where you're meeting

03:45:25.760 no it depends on it's biology like part of it is biology but you can absolutely exercise self-control

03:45:32.300 you are you talking about dick discipline yeah if that's what you want to call it basically that's

03:45:37.920 what you're talking about and like i said in theory you can't just like use that an excuse and be 0.74

03:45:41.640 like oh well that's not an excuse that's that's not an excuse that's called explanation it's

03:45:46.240 an explanation it is true that men have uh like acknowledge biology is different yeah yeah

03:45:50.780 yeah so what i'm what i'm saying what i'm saying is what i'm saying is you're operating on

03:45:56.520 should-be's what you think why can't this happen why can't this be well it just sounded like you

03:46:02.380 were like using that as an excuse like oh like no that's how we are that's how you interpret it i'm

03:46:06.640 explaining human behavior that's wrong yeah i'm explaining human behavior word we got a chat here

03:46:11.440 we have hold on thally thank you man thank you so much for your uh uh donation hey brian

03:46:17.800 yeah she's actually coming this month i think she's going to do a double up she's going to be on two 0.99

03:46:25.460 shows i forget the dates but she will be here uh this month so yeah looking uh very much looking

03:46:30.940 forward to having mary back she's great every time we have son of hacks um since you'd like to

03:46:37.700 read why don't you read this one oh i like to read out loud go okay sure into the mic go ahead

03:46:44.600 wait no read it out loud why so i so i don't have to read it you just read it oh i'll read it would

03:46:52.560 any woman on the panel be a homestead honey live in a food forest with livestock drinking fresh morning 1.00

03:46:57.180 smoothies living self-sufficient with a permaculture design consultant traveling around the world

03:47:01.220 turning farms into paradise yeah i would i would that's an introvert's paradise right there that

03:47:06.500 sounds amazing yeah like my dream that and kids as long as i can have cows that i don't eat

03:47:12.180 like i just want a pet cow are you vegan no i no i like i mean like i want a pet cow like i don't

03:47:18.340 yeah like i like i just want one that i can like keep okay i want the same thing and i want like a cow

03:47:24.040 like just for milk and i want one of the ones with the long hair not eat word we have a question

03:47:28.180 here stifler ask everyone to rate their looks on a scale of one to ten we're gonna go around the

03:47:31.560 table starting with you go ahead ten i'd give myself like a seven nine eight eight point five when

03:47:40.980 i work out emily i'd say like yanny i don't know six and a half seven six uh i'd say six

03:47:53.520 q uh six point five you're more you're more than that but i give myself a six i sometimes i say

03:48:03.760 six point nine on a good day wait so ten now i feel like really conceited um i don't know how to

03:48:13.960 explain my reasoning

03:48:16.100 female in power nine nine you're nine yeah i think i mean i mean it's kind of hardest i mean

03:48:24.940 based on my own opinion not everyone's going to be attracted to me but i i don't think there are a

03:48:29.460 lot of perfect tens out there and i think i'm a conventionally attractive person so so you're one

03:48:34.560 point off of a ten i mean here okay i'm just gonna come out and say i'm just gonna come out and say

03:48:40.820 it there are no tens or nines at this table that's your opinion that rating your looks like it's it's

03:48:49.080 like looks are very subjective there's not exactly like a there's no like standard like there there is

03:48:55.300 some degree of objectivity to it there is yes but like maybe i don't want to put myself in that

03:49:01.000 standard maybe like my rating of it is not based on that standard well but okay so but you're here's

03:49:07.040 the thing your perception of yourself does not determine how other people view you or see you in

03:49:13.100 the world right but it said okay so here if i think i'm a billionaire but my bank account which is

03:49:21.740 something that that's external if i have a hundred bucks in it i'm not a billionaire yeah obviously

03:49:28.980 if okay if if i was obese and honestly look i'm no just i'm a stress eater i need to lose like 20 or

03:49:39.640 30 pounds i'm kind of i got a dad bod right now it's i'm disappointed in myself i'm working on it 0.69

03:49:45.300 i can't sit here with my fucking dad bod and say i'm a 10. now if i was obese that would be even worse 0.99

03:49:52.460 right right now i've just got a dad bod but still i'm fucked up i'm fucking up wow i got okay that was 1.00

03:49:59.840 intense um i can't claim the you can't claim like you can't claim to be a 10 if you got a dad bod 0.98

03:50:07.220 you know i got a dad bod right now i can't claim 10. well i can claim 10 because i you don't have a dad

03:50:13.240 bod i have i'm not saying you do i'm just yeah i don't yeah yeah but that's beside the point like

03:50:19.900 it's not personally like i don't know how i don't know how to measure it so in my eyes i'm a 10

03:50:27.640 that's not based on any standard that i like believe in yeah

03:50:32.720 she's confident and she feels good about herself do does any i have some makeup remover does anyone

03:50:39.480 here want to revise their answer i will do it i will do it can i have one what is that actually

03:50:45.700 can i have one of those so i don't have to wash my face when i do that yeah right

03:50:49.400 wash your face i'll do you want to i'm good i mean i've had that is it expired i just did my 0.68

03:50:57.380 makeup for fun makeup remover expires yeah you want to do it sophia yeah you want to do it too

03:51:04.500 what is this trying to prove yeah i don't know i don't even know right now

03:51:08.800 uh have you ever had women actually take the wipes no this is our first time actually normally 0.97

03:51:14.640 i reject do you want emily you want to no i'll take one but unless you'll pay for my makeup pay

03:51:22.020 for your makeup that you're going to take off in an hour anyways no i'm just kidding actually it's

03:51:25.800 really not that much i mean like feel like women can wear makeup and still can we see see without 1.00

03:51:31.580 the lipstick just the lipstick you're not why does it matter like why does it matter

03:51:38.520 i don't know i don't have chapsticks then my lips are going to get really dry oh no but the thing

03:51:43.600 is wait wait hold on i don't care you said you major in psychology but my lip is this is going

03:51:47.760 to be something that what's your point this is something that psychologists do it's actually

03:51:51.900 scientifically determined and what they oh so you think the color makes it prettier uh basically how to

03:51:57.140 measure attraction and what the markers are for beauty for like the standards of beauty there are

03:52:01.720 a lot of markers like facial symmetry a certain like certain dimensions of the face uh proximity

03:52:06.980 of your eyes versus your nose things like that so what they do is basically you can tell how

03:52:11.120 objectively attractive somebody is just cross-culturally so if i was to take a picture of you and show it

03:52:16.120 to different groups of men and they rate you then most of them would rate you similarly

03:52:20.840 no uh actually um like beauty in different cultures is perceived very differently no it's not

03:52:28.640 culturally no no it's not there is objective but also culture very much yeah yeah but we're in the

03:52:33.820 united states no no not even that beauty is objective because that's how you that's how it

03:52:38.280 becomes a phenomenon you can't say we just talked about like in the beginning of the podcast how beauty

03:52:42.000 standards change yeah but wait but i'm telling you i'm telling you that's not true i'm telling you

03:52:45.960 that's not true that's not true at all it can't it wait it has not no it i think i i might have

03:52:51.300 something but let me come let you come in right after i can show you a myriad of studies where it's

03:52:55.540 cross-cultural okay regardless so would you say so somebody who is deemed

03:53:00.240 a 10 in one culture let someone who's exceptionally attractive in one culture you you say could be deemed

03:53:09.980 ugly in another culture yeah i think let's talk about major cultures let's not talk about 0.99

03:53:14.960 beauty but let's not talk about some like 300 person tribe if you're talking about like west

03:53:19.640 modern western cultures then modern western cultures are going to agree because they're all

03:53:23.040 modern western cultures but i would argue that an exceptionally attractive woman in japan or korea 1.00

03:53:27.740 is going to be deemed attractive regardless very attractive also attractive in a western country

03:53:34.260 but at what like time period too it doesn't matter the 1600s son what are we talking about

03:53:41.380 well if you look at pictures of what like in the 1600s what they deemed attractive you would find

03:53:46.200 it ugly today modern modern modern day yeah modern day it's gonna modern day it's gonna be more

03:53:50.880 similar even across uh cultures whatever because like i'm saying like there's an objectivity to beauty

03:53:56.380 but then there's also like cultural yeah but like culture also changes over time in victorian

03:54:01.180 london england uh like i don't i don't care what the date the meta was change that's what i'm saying

03:54:08.300 i think certain aspects i think the only reason they've changed lately is because of plastic surgery

03:54:13.380 like women have had makeup for hundreds and hundreds of years but plastic surgery getting new lips boobs 1.00

03:54:18.440 ass that's all something that's going to change your looks from a six that's true a ten so that's when 0.87

03:54:23.740 women can't really call themselves i'm a ten i actually disagree i disagree with you on that

03:54:27.640 i think it makes women less attractive less attractive well true but i'm just saying in 0.97

03:54:31.980 the sense where a woman could look completely different so like a man could look at a it would

03:54:35.900 be an entirely new person so like they're no you're the same person but you got a bunch of plastic in

03:54:41.340 you well i've seen people look really different is what i mean like they would look drastically

03:54:45.400 different so like somebody would look at them and who's not very intelligent might not know that

03:54:49.760 they've had a lot of plastic surgery and consider them an eight or nine sure i i i don't know 0.69

03:54:55.460 i got a good vision for fake tits and it's just i don't think because you're you're over your 30s 1.00

03:55:00.780 you're a lot more intelligent than young men who are 20 18 that men my age do not know how to tell 0.96

03:55:07.080 whether a woman's so young men are being catfished yes because they don't have the provision they 1.00

03:55:14.380 haven't developed the fucking bro i can see that shit i could tell if a woman has some fake titties in a 1.00

03:55:19.940 burka that's how good my shit is she's like boom am i gonna get canceled for this shit she's wearing 1.00

03:55:26.340 a full-on uh nick hat is that i don't know look she's fully covered up i know if she got some fake 1.00

03:55:35.020 titties so wait i think a good test would be like do any of us have plastic surgery like do i have 0.97

03:55:39.440 any work fake fake titties any work i mean i don't make it a habit to like stare at women's chest 1.00

03:55:45.000 in like you know i i tried to look at people in the face but are you you want me to just do i look 0.99

03:55:51.420 glance at your titties i can look at your titties no you don't have fake titties i can tell okay uh 0.98

03:55:56.980 the t-shirt's a little tough with the t-shirt i honestly i don't think any girls here have fake 0.99

03:56:01.240 titties no and i haven't even taken like a solid gander at any of the titties here 0.95

03:56:06.040 i haven't you know i'm it's almost in my peripheral vision i'm just looking at you in 0.87

03:56:12.920 the eyes i'm looking at you in the eyes right now it's a little creepy i'm not even looking 0.99

03:56:18.160 right you don't like men with blue eyes just my peripheral vision i know you don't got fake titties 0.94

03:56:24.980 why would i need to huh why would i need to like i just i like no he's just saying he's recognizing 0.88

03:56:32.640 when people have plastic surgery or not oh one question on the whole 10 thing right uh do you

03:56:38.060 think all women are 10s no oh okay all right that's fine you know i mean if they think they're

03:56:47.080 10 they can think they're like go ahead but word word word okay we got to get back to a couple

03:56:55.280 things here oh we have to do her dating app we're going to do a quick dating app review

03:56:59.080 of her dating profile uh we're going to check it out nick if you're able to pull it up what were

03:57:04.560 the other things whoa uh next one uh that uh okay i go wait what's the quick quick rant thing

03:57:14.360 what was that blue eyes blue eyes the blue eyes thing okay we already covered that yeah she goes

03:57:17.980 crazy for tattoos and brunettes they do hi okay um next oh oh that's just a photo this is her photo 0.96

03:57:27.240 so chat this is kind of like chat this is like you swipe left you swipe right although it's hinged

03:57:31.380 so it's like or dislike or not like this is figuring out my dating goal uh my greatest strength marvel 1.00

03:57:37.540 movies you had to be there it smells like nasty ass pussy in here that's like that was a frat party 1.00

03:57:42.920 and i literally walked in it smelled like the like gross ocean is that what pussy smells like what 1.00

03:57:49.140 the fuck what kind of pussy are you around i will it smelled disgusting in there is that our 1.00

03:57:56.160 like it smelled fishy as very this is a very sexist statement for you to say you are misogynist 1.00

03:58:03.260 how dare you say that that i pussy smells like one did like fish wow like if you don't take care of 1.00

03:58:11.420 yourself you get a little fishy yeah i think you're self-snitching on yourself yo flan life thank you for 1.00

03:58:16.740 all the gift of membership sorry we missed it um next uh my vulnerable side okay i'll fall for you

03:58:23.200 if you open the car door stop the cap next

03:58:26.500 are you crying there okay that was like the day my ex-boyfriend broke up with me and you documented it 0.99

03:58:37.100 yeah i i ranted like you ever seen these like tiktoks and videos of women who are crying and shit 0.94

03:58:42.460 and like and they get their phone oh i'm so sad let me just get up to my camera okay oh let me make

03:58:54.080 sure the angle's good like it's so weird it's kind of in the moment people like i don't know it's so

03:59:00.760 fake i actually accidentally took that picture oh okay i like went to go on snapchat and it took the

03:59:06.640 pictures i was like okay wait nick can you go back to it real quick okay nice next one

03:59:10.900 my life behind the scenes wait is that what is it my party is that a party that's my party trick

03:59:20.020 what i can do the splits what is that the splits and twerking i thought she was twerking wait nick can

03:59:25.120 you go to back to the open the car door one open the car door go back to the twerking one

03:59:33.460 i want i could show you a video i want a gentleman but

03:59:42.500 what are you can i not have fun and dance at a party 0.98

03:59:47.120 it's just like the demands for it's a fucking joke though like oh you'll fall what the car door 0.96

03:59:56.420 thing no like me doing the splits it's like me having fun i'm literally intoxicated 0.99

04:00:00.340 okay what are you you're telling me like when you're intoxicated you know everything you're

04:00:06.340 doing at all times if you're really drunk i mean i don't i don't know you well enough but i i guess

04:00:11.180 what i'm trying to get at is there is there is a demand from whenever i see a demand of i want a

04:00:18.980 guy to pay for the first date i want a guy to do all these like gentlemanly chivalrous things but

04:00:24.620 then you conduct yourself in a way that is not the car door thing was kind of a joke too because

04:00:32.680 it's just something so simple you should do it it's like you're opening a door for somebody i guess

04:00:37.140 what i'm trying to get at if you want to be treated like a lady you want to conduct yourself 1.00

04:00:41.740 like a lady why is it so black and white like it doesn't have to be like that i mean twerk when i

04:00:46.820 think look you're free to twerk i'm not saying there should be yeah you're a man saying you don't

04:00:52.240 like twerking like no i don't girls twerking like dancing no to have fun i i a girl twerking

04:01:00.640 would be like i'm like that's not wifey material right like do you not like girls that dance in 1.00

04:01:08.220 general then well i mean this i have a hot take on this but we we're speaking about something very

04:01:14.100 specific you're like on the floor at a frat party look you're free to do it i'm not saying there should

04:01:19.060 be some ban on it however yeah i have fun with my life no that's good for you i'm i'm an i am a

04:01:26.420 dinosaur who uh doesn't drink who doesn't party who doesn't do any drugs who uh i get i'm a little

04:01:37.100 boring you know um she's shaking her head um miss christian over here is down with well i'm young 0.99

04:01:43.800 this i'm supposed to know i know that's how it's not like i'm opening my fucking legs for the whole 0.98

04:01:48.040 world like it's just having fun we can talk about that too but um no but i guess what i'm saying is 0.89

04:01:55.800 is that there's without saying you shouldn't you can't do it you shouldn't do it but what i do

04:02:01.640 think a lot of guys are going to look at that and if you do not think it's funny that's cool but like

04:02:07.840 and i'm not saying i mean i know you said the car door thing whatever you you say you probably don't

04:02:12.940 even give a fuck about that but i would say there are a lot of women out there who request gentlemanly 1.00

04:02:19.820 treatment to request chivalrous treatment want the guy to pay for the first date want the guy to be 0.98

04:02:24.320 provider but they are not conducting themselves in a way that is in a ladylike behavior and i would

04:02:33.440 say like going to party i'm not perfect i'm human like that's that's fine but can we agree that

04:02:41.820 twerking is not ladylike behavior i love it it's fun that's good that's totally fine nice one nick

04:02:49.060 um that's totally fine i'm not like hating on you or anything am i hating you should try it out

04:02:55.340 sometime twerking i'm i'll pass on that why i feel like that'd be fun to say like on the table right 0.97

04:03:01.760 here can you please someone's gonna have to donate a fuck ton of money for me to ever fucking twerk 0.96

04:03:06.240 somebody donate a grand he'll do it right now you'll do what right now donate if somebody's 0.98

04:03:11.600 from to me yeah yeah she'll do all right i did she will twerk no wait that might be too

04:03:16.720 no i will you will yeah it's just like uh you know hold make it a like make it a thing though

04:03:24.620 like even if i'm not here right now like in your next podcast if somebody sends a grand

04:03:29.500 well we have a champagne pop if somebody donates a thousand dollars we'll pop a ball of champagne

04:03:34.720 right now that's cool yeah okay wait what's your point though for the record i do agree with you

04:03:43.200 on this oh well thank you very much no look look i'm not saying i'm not like sorry i haven't asked

04:03:49.100 i'm i don't know if that real but like the how dirty was that floor by the way yeah oh i was blacked

04:03:56.800 out in that for sure that was last year actually that's when i had my guy should pay for the first

04:04:01.280 date actually the four days ago with the guy or whatever i offered to pay half oh that's so nice

04:04:09.960 of you i don't do it all the time if the guy busts out his card like and he doesn't ask anything really

04:04:15.840 but like i can tell by the vibe like if they like oh you want to pay a little bit of this too and then

04:04:22.060 i get that vibe and then i'll offer look it's 2023 there's equal rights there's feminism if you want 0.99

04:04:27.200 to go to part look i know that's how a lot of young people move um they go out they party they

04:04:33.780 get drunk they dance um that's fine but i guess my objection to it is is then don't turn around and

04:04:45.660 demand men act in this i don't demand anything that's fine um but the whole car door thing that

04:04:51.600 is kind of a chivalrous thing of i want a guy to open the car door that is kind of a traditional

04:04:56.620 just so gentlemanly that's where i agree if you want jewelry you gotta act ladylike right like because 1.00

04:05:02.640 a lot of people demand like a lot of women will demand men act like gentlemen men act in the

04:05:08.400 chivalrous manner which is well they demand that men act chivalrous but chivalry is something like you

04:05:16.060 you think it's just something that will automatically manifest itself in men and not something that

04:05:21.380 women ought to try to nurture in men through their own behavior i mean like for me i like a guy to 1.00

04:05:29.980 be himself and i feel like most of the time on first dates they put up this front and i don't like 1.00

04:05:34.200 it it's like a front of like trying to be so gentleman and i don't like that you like an asshole 0.98

04:05:39.300 no not an asshole but i like somebody to be themselves sure not putting up a front where it's 0.98

04:05:45.620 like oh i'm this like gentleman blah blah blah sure no i want to know you i want to know who you are not 0.98

04:05:50.460 this guy that you're trying to like put out word i have the scam blocker the one in the brown top

04:05:58.640 with short blonde hair is the only one i'm attracted to uh because of her character based or not 1.00

04:06:05.880 question mark i think that's you do sophia do you want to say anything to him thanks are you

04:06:10.700 are your dms open no only what their dms open they can message you uh sure we have puffy vegas

04:06:19.560 49 300 of wife have offered me i what does this even say dude i can't read that thank you puffy 0.92

04:06:26.920 vegas but what the fuck spell check please thank you man appreciate you love you okay we have let 0.67

04:06:32.540 me see where we're at oh amy i had another question for you based off of your notes here uh let's see 0.98

04:06:37.280 the delusion of a villain arc what's a villain arc what do you mean by that um i don't know if you

04:06:42.080 guys ever heard of it but i'm pretty sure you guys have you guys have heard of a villain arc

04:06:45.660 um it's usually like what would happen if let's say you get like broken up with like you get really

04:06:52.160 like heartbroken and then all of a sudden you're posting like all these gym videos i've been one of

04:06:56.860 those people i will say that um but you'll you start acting like you know f everybody like i'm gonna do

04:07:04.080 my own thing like screw this screw that and then you just have a very negative view of the world 0.95

04:07:09.080 that's that's a villain arc rude rude get off your phone

04:07:14.300 what do you say what do you say what do you say okay i kind of called him in the bathroom not gonna

04:07:21.000 lie whatever what did he say and i was just like hey i'm i'm sorry for talking about it and he was

04:07:27.280 like i low-key wish you mentioned my name and i was like no no no no no because i don't i don't

04:07:33.260 want to expose myself either at the same time sure um oh uh okay so villain arc so you're saying

04:07:38.660 that like someone gets dumped and then they use that as justification to just become a piece of 0.93

04:07:44.060 shit yeah i mean i think people like maybe like i understand we all go through like our phases you 0.97

04:07:52.660 know the five stages of grief like especially after something like you know a breakup that happens but i 0.92

04:07:58.380 don't think you should like allow yourself to be in that villain arc for a long period of time you

04:08:04.400 gotta get up yeah i definitely think social media promotes that sort of thing too because uh

04:08:10.740 i don't know it seems like there's almost this trend it seems a little more pronounced in women where 0.97

04:08:16.660 it's like it's quirky to kind of be toxic and yeah i to me it's just like also i almost wonder if

04:08:26.540 men deal with rejection a lot more than women so it's like when women do get rejected by a guy

04:08:32.020 uh they just they don't know how to handle rejection so it's like okay i got curved by 1.00

04:08:40.820 like two dudes now i'm just going to be a piece of shit the rest of my life 0.99

04:08:43.420 um i think that's some real shit i don't know okay all right yeah i think that women don't like uh 0.99

04:08:51.160 like nice guys who are like nice all the time but i think my advice to men would be like still be a 0.98

04:08:56.740 gentleman still be sure as maybe playfully tease her a little bit you know like you can't be a little bit

04:09:02.000 you can like uh yeah you can tease her i don't know i'm tired i'm sorry but like you don't have 0.99

04:09:07.640 to be like nice 100 of the time like it's okay you know women like that but don't be an asshole or 0.94

04:09:13.660 whatever i i think what i'm trying to say with the villain arc thing is you know once you get out of 0.95

04:09:19.140 relationship or whatever like don't don't try to hate you know like things have passed things have

04:09:26.400 happened don't hate all men because one man did you wrong don't don't try to say that i think it's

04:09:33.500 very unfair for the very good men that are out there this goes for a woman too if a woman has ever 0.99

04:09:38.480 cheated on you or wronged you please don't hate the whole population of women because not all of us are 0.96

04:09:44.100 like that i think please have more if any if anything from my christian faith that i could

04:09:50.800 share is just have please have grace with each other okay i think that's a big thing i think

04:09:55.680 another thing to point out is like a lot of people say nice guys finish last and girls will even say

04:09:59.740 nice girls will finish last and there's a difference of like and i'm like have tried to talk to some of 0.97

04:10:05.420 my guy friends about this because they're genuinely nice guys and they're like i went on this date and

04:10:09.400 like i just don't know why she won't call me i don't understand it and it's like there's a difference

04:10:13.600 between kindness which i think is people something everyone should have and focus on but niceness

04:10:19.380 sometimes means that you've been to everything for this person and it's being in a really healthy

04:10:25.980 relationship is being able to say no to things and having healthy boundaries and i think that

04:10:30.080 sometimes what happens is people get so enthralled by somebody and they want to be with that person

04:10:36.160 i'll be there i'll cancel all my plans to be with you i'll do this i don't have a life

04:10:39.640 and it's saying like hey i need to have enough self-respect to say it's okay to say no to people

04:10:44.800 sometimes and say when you're not comfortable with things and it's it's okay to be kind but nice

04:10:49.560 sometimes gets i think people think saying yes and being a yes person is the way to do it and most

04:10:54.920 people respect people who have healthy boundaries yeah or it becomes a nice guy syndrome here let me

04:11:00.520 let me redirect the conversation here just because i want to try to get through all these there was a lot

04:11:04.600 of pre-show notes and then we do have to wrap up here pretty soon so i'm hungry i'm mcdonald's we

04:11:11.360 got there's food afterwards um so let's see uh you said oh uh you went out with a guy punched he got

04:11:20.520 punched in the face and then bit by a dog on the first date was there a second date oh my gosh

04:11:24.560 can you explain i've been on some very short short version so we went out crazy just when we went

04:11:33.320 out to dinner it was fine his friend was having a party nearby so we decided to go and some chick 0.78

04:11:39.040 punched him in the face randomly just randomly she goes you look like you have a face worth punching 1.00

04:11:43.640 he was a bit of a dick though i'm not gonna like he was there's a there's multiple reasons there 0.99

04:11:47.640 wasn't a second date and then he tried to get handsy with me while i was holding this dog and the 0.99

04:11:52.520 little fluffy dog was looking out for me and just bit him everywhere yeah this dog was like

04:11:58.580 don't come near her dog was looking out but i was like he had a rough night yeah that's l after l 1.00

04:12:06.580 fucking punched in the face by chick damn bit bit by dog um you broke up with your three and a half 1.00

04:12:12.060 year relationship via text because he was cheating with his buddy soon-to-be ex-wife who was leaving 1.00

04:12:17.080 her husband for cheating yep okay i think that's pretty valid that's pretty valid was it the crazy

04:12:22.480 part was it was one of those things and sort of like how you're saying like try to be nice

04:12:26.280 even like walk away and have a flex and just kind of just whatever i was too nice and too

04:12:31.860 yes person for for a long time that was the same way yeah and i i had a feeling he was cheating and 0.99

04:12:37.060 i even said like went up to his dead ass and i was like look if you don't think i'm the one for you 0.98

04:12:41.240 let me know we can end this and like just don't waste my time and like we live together everything 0.99

04:12:46.500 he's like no i love you i want to grow old with you we went on a vacation with my grandparents

04:12:50.340 to like idaho and then we came back and i i got a feeling i work in tech too so i found out through

04:12:58.520 the ipad he was cheating on someone that it's the girl that you have a feeling with even when you're

04:13:03.700 together we used to go on double dates with this couple yeah and so i yeah he and then when i when

04:13:10.320 i caught him i i confronted him via text and he he kept denying it and i screenshotted exactly what he

04:13:15.900 sent to her saying you're the most beautiful woman woman i've ever seen i want to be with you

04:13:19.500 and he goes well you should have seen this coming and so we were supposed to go to new york together

04:13:24.580 that weekend he had a flight a few hours before mine and so he left i broke up with him text i moved

04:13:32.100 all my shit out of the apartment and never spoke to him again wow cheating i broke up almost a four 0.86

04:13:38.980 relationship we do have to move we we can't linger on that for too long um you said i think that most 0.98

04:13:45.020 people don't actually know what they want expect way too much from their partners even though they

04:13:49.680 can't articulate it themselves if you don't know what you want how's your partner supposed to yeah

04:13:54.940 i think sorry answer no well i was gonna ask you said if you don't know what you want how's your

04:14:01.380 partner supposed to what do you want i want someone who has a high level of integrity i want someone

04:14:07.860 who's kind not nice and i want someone who is very disciplined and that's something that because

04:14:14.020 the thing is like people talk about oh i want this job i want this lifestyle yada yada whatever it is

04:14:18.020 i think if you focus on core values and characteristics of people that is something that you can go a lot

04:14:23.860 further with because they will end up being there and like if i can say something real quick so i am

04:14:28.500 like a big advocate for it's called the four pillars and i want to say this was like a study done

04:14:33.300 back like during the clinton administration where they said

04:14:35.680 if you can agree with these four things in your relationship the probability of your relationship

04:14:40.300 ending is like 10 percent and it number one is finances because number one reason people get

04:14:45.500 divorced in this country is money fights and money problems number two is in-laws number three is kids 1.00

04:14:50.640 whether or not to have them and how to raise them and number four is religion and if you can agree on

04:14:55.540 those four things i think a lot of people don't talk about that they see oh we have the same spotify

04:14:59.460 playlist or you know very shallow things that people try to find hobbies your partner doesn't need to be

04:15:05.540 everything for you we are social animals it's it's not fair to put everything on a guy in this

04:15:11.460 situation to be your best friend your confidant the one that's supposed to provide you excitement but

04:15:16.280 also stability and security it's not fair to ask one person to give you all these things when most of

04:15:21.080 us can't even give it to ourselves sure so it's looking for what you need not necessarily what you

04:15:25.420 want got it um let's see a lot of sorry can i add to that real quick i think a lot of people just jump

04:15:31.380 into marriage because oh i love this person and um i think that you need to be smart and intentional

04:15:35.360 about dating and ask those questions before you get married to see if like you are really compatible

04:15:39.520 and not just compatible like oh we get along well but like actually like would the marriage work out

04:15:43.560 yeah and i think another thing on that too is this is the first time in human history we

04:15:47.540 especially in the u.s that we marry for love we don't marry for compatibility and the problem is if

04:15:52.220 you just marry for love love is fickle and you have to like for me if i find a couple that's been

04:15:58.200 married for a long time and you can tell they're still genuinely love in love i always ask them

04:16:02.320 like give me the secret i need to know because i do not come from a family with where relationships

04:16:07.280 have been successful and uh recently one of the guys that i asked he's been married for 28 years

04:16:12.620 and they absolutely love and adore each other he goes love is a choice that you have to make every

04:16:16.640 day i don't like my partner every day but i love him and i choose to stay a lot of women leave 1.00

04:16:20.860 relationships now not because they're unhappy but it's because they think they could be happier 0.90

04:16:24.840 and that's a big issue that shit was profound yep yeah another thing uh that ben uh shapiro said 0.89

04:16:33.460 that really stuck with me was also pick a partner that that with values that you would like with your 0.98

04:16:40.500 kids to have that's another thing so going back to the four pillars thing that's that's usually the

04:16:45.760 one so most people don't care if their partner is like for like for instance like religion some

04:16:50.300 people don't care if your partner's religious or not if they're not but it's when you have kids

04:16:54.980 and now it's okay are we raising so that's actually the reason my most recent relationship

04:16:59.020 ended i love him he's a wonderful person i have no ill will towards him we're still friends but i

04:17:04.780 want to raise my kids christian and he does not and we it's it's hard to break up with someone that

04:17:09.760 you genuinely are like we get along in every other way sure but you can't have half a kid

04:17:13.620 okay i'm gonna come back to a couple things here we were talking a little bit about rosters early

04:17:20.620 on in the show and i just wanted to kind of go around the table um have you ever had a roster

04:17:25.060 of guys what is i i feel like i need to know multiple men at the same time yeah yeah how many

04:17:31.840 like what's like two two usually it's like just like two or three like nothing major well we know

04:17:38.040 just do the first date was i know if i don't go on second second dates are really hard so as soon

04:17:42.940 as i go on a second date with someone i'm usually not talking to other people okay emily what about

04:17:46.300 you ever had a roster no never no i've no actually they never overlapped any of the guys i've dated

04:17:54.760 okay no overlap sophia any overlap yeah no i mean i've been like interested in two guys at the same

04:17:59.920 time i wasn't dating both of them at the same time sure yeah same like i was interested but i've never

04:18:05.000 like was talking to them or seeing them or anything yeah amy no roster for me

04:18:10.140 lynn uh no once i'm interested in someone it's only them gotcha uh i would want to ask this uh

04:18:19.060 sugar daddies earlier on we were i overheard before the show this was related to the dating app thing

04:18:25.900 you have a couple sugar daddies currently no no you used to never i had one oh

04:18:34.300 and basically how did you meet that i got banned from tinder because when i first signed up i didn't

04:18:42.220 know there was like an age thing where you can like move around the ages so i kind of just um yeah

04:18:48.860 18 plus i left it there and there was like old men popping up and i'm like this is kind of weird

04:18:56.060 and then i guess they would find my instagram dm me on instagram a bunch of stuff and did you have

04:19:04.780 your instagram in your bio because on your dating app oh i got banned from tinder but let me let me

04:19:09.840 at one point in time i was fucking around and i was like i'm just gonna like all these old men and 0.96

04:19:15.200 see what genuinely happens so they start texting me on tinder and they're like i will send you like 0.96

04:19:21.800 three grand right now i could be your sugar daddy i'll take you out i'll pay for everything like 1.00

04:19:26.560 this and that and i i was just like okay like here's my venmo they sent me money but i got banned

04:19:34.360 from tinder because of that how much money total do you think you made from the venmo thing off tinder

04:19:39.520 specifically maybe a grand life once again life on easy mode there's no way to my rent for my parents 0.94

04:19:49.000 there's literally there is literally no guy i don't care how fucking attractive he is 0.95

04:19:53.640 on the face of this planet that can instantly get money from women on a dating app but they just 1.00

04:19:59.600 offered you money and you refuse it you don't you that money went to rent though because i help my

04:20:07.380 parents out hold on just a second yo nico thank you my name is nick long time watcher first time

04:20:13.880 commenter just had a son we named him nick jr love watching nick at night as he sleeps so peacefully

04:20:20.500 fucking got me my gf wants to give him her last name could any advice what did he just say 0.85

04:20:28.280 nickelodeon it's i think he's memeing uh any advice on what wait my girlfriend wants to give 0.99

04:20:35.480 him her last name do you not get it yeah the first name she doesn't want and then the last name 0.99

04:20:40.400 that i'm not gonna repeat no if you holy fuck i oh my if you put the first name and the last name 0.99

04:20:46.480 together they're just making a racist comment yeah i didn't i just realized that that's it did i say 0.99

04:20:51.700 it no nobody said it no you just said nick jr nick and i didn't get that either

04:20:56.660 anyways okay um we uh your sugar daddies yeah oh life on easy mode yeah no life on sure i got

04:21:08.920 the money but i put it towards my rent for my parents i gave it to them for rent yeah life on

04:21:13.340 easy mode sure that's not how old are these men like women don't have life on easy mode like that's

04:21:18.640 not that just because we can that's easy get money that that's easy mode that's easy mode

04:21:24.740 yeah if i could easily pay my rent with somebody's money that's easy you're telling me you don't have

04:21:33.480 to work an hour a minute of your time and you can pay your rent with somebody else's money i still work

04:21:38.640 no but you don't get paid that much you paid the rent with that if you really wanted to finesse

04:21:43.160 you could get on the sugar daddy websites you could get all the dating oh you were on seeking

04:21:47.940 no sugar daddy.com as a joke too i just want to like preference i'm not going on there specifically 0.97

04:21:55.240 to like find a sugar daddy it's like i'm doing it to like see piece of shit no but i'm just like 0.70

04:22:03.000 seeing how this works because i like i was like interested i was like okay i'm just gonna sign up 0.93

04:22:07.680 see what happens but i mean you also said when you were on the dating apps which are people genuinely

04:22:12.340 go on there to try to find whether it's casual whether it's more serious you were just like

04:22:17.440 well i mean i suppose it's no i didn't go on there just for the sugar daddies i mean like it was just

04:22:23.260 like wait so okay these dudes just sent you a thousand and then you got banned because of the

04:22:29.840 age thing no because of the money oh they don't allow things like that on there yeah and rightfully

04:22:35.720 so they should protect men from predatory women but um anyways there's not men on dating apps who

04:22:43.160 are preying on women the same way that women are preying on men on dating apps for money 0.96

04:22:46.760 okay for money but like money wise for for what i didn't ask for any of it i was just like here's

04:22:53.460 my venmo you want to do you go ahead that look i think men have some accountability in this you 0.97

04:23:00.100 shouldn't men don't fucking send women you don't know money like come on guys don't you need to 0.99

04:23:07.500 watch barbie like you really need to watch no fuck that what is that related topic of sending money 1.00

04:23:13.740 to someone you don't know have you guys seen barbie i've seen barbie how is it related what does that 0.99

04:23:18.480 have to do with the money it doesn't have to do with the money but he's talking about how women 0.99

04:23:22.280 have life on easy mode yeah if you watch barbie that explains everything okay yeah but i don't

04:23:28.020 i don't need to hear another woman explain to me how hard her life is but when i hear someone sit 1.00

04:23:33.660 here and tell me that they paid their rent with somebody else's money i can just look at that and

04:23:38.340 decide i don't need to hear somebody on a movie tell me how bad my life is as a woman no i sorry i

04:23:44.140 don't care about that movie there definitely is female privilege like people talk about like white 1.00

04:23:47.440 male privilege like i don't think that's a thing but like female privilege like i have uh

04:23:52.020 my car like i got like flat tires whatever broken down on the side of the road um multiple times

04:23:56.960 since moving to california and i like realized i'm so glad that i'm a young female because people

04:24:02.100 actually stop and help me and if i was yeah i totally i was a man people would not help me

04:24:06.680 that's true also just just just to add on to your point when it comes to was it mostly men stopping

04:24:11.980 to help you with your car yes so when it comes to male intervention uh women if you're out in public 1.00

04:24:18.760 you basically have let's say you're at a party type environment let's say you're just not even a

04:24:25.040 party type environment let's say you're walking in a shopping mall you basically as a woman have 1.00

04:24:30.340 male bodyguards like not every man will intervene however let's say for example a guy is attacking you

04:24:39.520 physically other men who don't know you who have no relationship to you who are not your siblings or

04:24:45.540 your brother or your boyfriend total strangers owe you nothing if they see someone attacking you

04:24:50.980 say a man's attacking you they will intervene on your behalf behalf and not just try to stop the 0.94

04:24:56.740 fight there'll probably be a group of men a horde of men who will beat the shit out of the dude yeah 0.99

04:25:03.240 because biology whereas as men if we're even if it's an unfair situation if three dudes are fucking us 0.91

04:25:08.920 up if three dudes are like no no other men are going to intervene on our behalf so women basically 0.98

04:25:16.620 have that additional privilege of you basically have free bodyguards when you're out in public

04:25:20.840 there's this famous there's actually this famous clip where it's from like some indian tv show very old i don't know if this is a perfect example nick we're not going to google it but

04:25:38.280 a woman slaps a man and it's on a tv show a woman slaps a man he slaps her back all the men that were behind the scenes like 20 dudes it's like the how could she slap this is like this was an internet meme um

04:25:44.280 um she's like he's like how could she slap slaps her back right she slaps him he slaps her back

04:25:47.180 he slaps her back he slaps her back he slaps her back 0.95

04:25:55.440 a woman slaps a man he slaps her back all the men that were behind the scenes like 20 dudes

04:26:02.760 it's like the how could she slap this is like this was an internet meme um she's like he's like

04:26:09.220 how could she slap slaps her back right she slaps him he slaps her back look I don't think you

04:26:16.400 should hit anybody however if you hit somebody you should be prepared to be hit back instigating

04:26:21.640 something yes I agree with that part so all the men despite the fact that they all saw her slap 0.97

04:26:27.580 him first all that guy got the shit kicked out of him by like 20 dudes so there's something in men 0.88

04:26:33.620 that it's like this protection thing where if they see a woman like being hit by a man they're 0.95

04:26:40.040 going to intervene on your behalf total strangers so that's another privilege yeah no I mean it does

04:26:46.240 it's like pros and cons because um I am more vulnerable so when um I'm stuck on the side

04:26:51.100 of the road and I have a flat tire and I know how to change a flat tire but I like their situations

04:26:55.400 I got a flat in my spare tire so anyway and then it's like and I don't have cell service I really

04:27:01.420 need help I have been very fortunate that everyone who stopped uh was very nice and had good intentions

04:27:06.600 but you never know you never know what their intentions are and I am more vulnerable so pros and cons

04:27:10.420 but why should I watch the barbie movie explain it to me explain it to me there's a specific scene

04:27:16.680 in the barbie movie where yeah um one of the characters gives a monologue about like kind

04:27:23.600 of the societal like standards that women are subject to and personally it really aligned

04:27:34.060 with me and like how I go through life and like I kind of realized that women like it's a lot 0.99

04:27:42.440 to get into right now but we can get into it go ahead no I don't know if I want to but like

04:27:48.220 I just think that that movie really puts it in perspective for men to like understand what

04:27:56.100 we go through as women that you might not understand well try to explain it to me I I don't have time 1.00

04:28:02.920 to watch it now but if you can give me a 30 second one minute sure we have the privilege okay doesn't

04:28:09.020 mean no no no we don't I'm trying to I'm trying to understand here I'm trying to understand please

04:28:13.440 if you can okay I'll try to articulate it I can't get any words out so okay yeah we do have this like

04:28:21.320 privilege in some ways but also like you as a woman I feel like I can't walk alone at night

04:28:28.060 because something might happen to me and um before I have you continue can we just address

04:28:34.260 that specific one really quick Q do you have anything on this because I do you want to come

04:28:39.080 in on that or um about her walking well the feeling that she at night she is more likely to be victim of

04:28:46.600 violent crime um I have because yeah because if I walk alone at night I'm more likely to be a victim

04:28:52.320 of violent crime so even though I think it's the case that women might feel more more vulnerable

04:29:00.540 the reality is if you look at crime statistics men are more likely to be victims of violent crime

04:29:05.500 okay but I mean how like what what's statistics like where are these coming from first of all

04:29:13.580 department of justice various okay crime statistics I'll have to see those statistics but it's it's

04:29:19.400 true men are more likely to be victims of violent crime okay sure it's true but murder assault

04:29:26.180 okay what about getting because I think something that I fear is like not only violent crime

04:29:32.720 SA are you talking about no like getting kidnapped like getting like sex trafficked that's like my

04:29:37.340 men using their privilege as sex trafficked against to be honest like as a full-grown woman you're not

04:29:42.800 the biggest like priority to be sex trafficked or kidnapped they primarily go against just so we're

04:29:48.200 not getting oh true let's stay away from trafficking but but um your biggest fear is to be trafficked so

04:29:55.180 your biggest not to be just to be like abducted and then shipped to some latin american country

04:30:00.140 like is that genuinely big jump but but isn't that what traffic what yeah you know when you say

04:30:05.400 trafficking yeah like cities like rooseville like roosevelt rooseville what rooseville yeah it's

04:30:11.020 like it's very close to there yeah it's near sacramento there's a lot more trafficking that's that goes

04:30:15.760 on that we even know about but like isn't that typically like some some they bring in a woman from 1.00

04:30:23.400 overseas yeah it's usually children and immigrants that are victims i will say in that area too to

04:30:29.040 adult women it's people in that area it's a lot of people coming in on mass like american women

04:30:35.460 getting abducted it's not common but it happens it happens so it's very a very real thing you know so

04:30:41.620 so i used to work with an organization that actually fought to rescue victims of that for several years

04:30:47.540 okay so one in six individuals that you know one out of six people that you know either know someone

04:30:52.540 or is a victim of human trafficking most people don't understand just let's go into that one in

04:30:57.160 six people of who you know or in in the sense of like you know someone or you know someone who knows 1.00

04:31:03.700 someone whoa whoa that's a bullsh just on its face that's the most that's such a fucking bullshit 0.99

04:31:08.540 how can you know somebody who knows somebody what kind of statistics is that give me the the 1.00

04:31:14.780 percentage risk yeah but what what does it i know somebody who knows why are they taking statistics on

04:31:21.940 i know somebody who knows somebody who was a victim of a crime what that's just you're trying to you're

04:31:28.080 trying to use words to paint things in a certain way what is the actual likelihood of someone in the

04:31:33.320 united states being trafficked so i i'd have to bring back the stats just because it's been a couple

04:31:39.460 years to get the exact piece the highest rate for where trafficking happens though is the victims are

04:31:43.960 actually brought here u.s u.s but do you see how disingenuous disingenuous disingenuous it is to use

04:31:52.800 language one in six people mike davis donated one hundred dollars you don't blame the kid for being

04:31:58.980 a brat you blame the parents i don't blame women they don't know any better i blame this new generation 0.99

04:32:06.320 of low t beta sissy bonehead men for allowing this i'll become an african dictator to show you 0.98

04:32:13.100 how it's done okay thank you very much mike davis appreciate it he's going to be an african dictator 0.90

04:32:18.040 i do think it's like you're using language in a way to one in six people know somebody or they're

04:32:26.460 one in six people have either been trafficked or know somebody who has yes that's such a weird way

04:32:35.700 of one in six people eats candy or know somebody who eats candy that's just like a weird framing of

04:32:46.100 a statistic i mean it's just the way that i framed it right now but it's one of those things as far as

04:32:50.920 like how it is a lot more prevalent than what most people think and most people are trafficked by someone

04:32:55.280 they know that's what most people don't realize it's it's not necessarily people coming from india

04:33:00.340 or vietnam and being brought to the country yeah that happens a lot but you'd be surprised at how

04:33:04.520 many people are actually in the u.s i would say one is one too many and it is a thing that yes of

04:33:10.280 course it's a terrible thing i don't know the statistics it might not be like like obviously

04:33:14.120 it's not as prevalent here but it does happen it is a real thing it was actually the biggest business

04:33:18.560 in the united states of america and that's funny you say it's not as prevalent here okay the biggest here

04:33:23.620 let's bring it back to this hold on okay we're moving on but they're also okay so hold on so you

04:33:30.700 mentioned the barbie barbie movie what are some of the other things other what what are some of the

04:33:36.920 you said that women have if i watch the barbie movie i would be enlightened to the plight of women 0.56

04:33:41.040 okay well first of all like the beauty standard um and kind of just like

04:33:49.060 traditional values that men like and like like you you were just saying like you have to be a

04:33:56.840 you should be a virgin if like that's your type or whatever that's your type low body whatever you 0.99

04:34:01.620 said okay like these standards like it just it's just not like healthy and like i don't know i just

04:34:11.580 what's what's not healthy like having like putting women to these standards i just so so men are not

04:34:19.480 allowed to have preferences standards and boundaries that's not what i'm saying but it's just interesting

04:34:24.020 that a large majority of men have these standards so would you hold your kids to standards at all

04:34:28.860 like does that matter to you your children having morals what are the it well yeah so then why would

04:34:34.680 a man not be allowed to want a woman to have morals and standards and like why is that so wrong what

04:34:39.680 are the standards that men have that you object to high uh the body count thing you would men should

04:34:44.380 not be able to if a woman slept with 300 people that should men should just tolerate that okay that's 1.00

04:34:51.120 unrealistic but i'm but no that's not what i'm saying like i'm okay it's just interesting that we have

04:34:57.300 to like live up to these standards that are like and for what is basically what i'm thinking like

04:35:03.180 it just it's a lot of pressure on women that's not the only thing that's like actually but wouldn't 1.00

04:35:08.680 you say that women are more are pickier and more selective than men are so there's actually a greater 0.89

04:35:12.820 pressure on men when it comes to standards women are more picky women are just naturally more selective 1.00

04:35:19.240 than men because of it's just biological i have a question i do you think it would be do you think it

04:35:25.660 would be better for little girls across america did not be held to any standards growing up like no 0.98

04:35:31.780 standards for like you know how they carry themselves how they act in public who they

04:35:36.740 you know like do you think that would be better for society if little girls 1.00

04:35:40.400 then going into women had no standards to be held to 0.99

04:35:42.960 i mean not necessarily it depends on the standards but

04:35:48.440 um yeah you're talking about the primary are you talking about like unrealistic stand like a lot of

04:35:54.600 unrealistic standards on women yeah like body the body count thing is like if i could say 1.00

04:36:00.980 like the body count thing that's not really like the main one it's like the way you look like but

04:36:06.900 you gotta be having you have to like slim waist big boobs big but all these like things that 1.00

04:36:13.320 women feel that they have to be like in order for a man to like them and like living under the male 1.00

04:36:20.860 gaze and things like that that's what sorry it's just the buzzwords the male gaze okay

04:36:27.080 see any sort like it's so interesting to me that that basically like male male sexuality is

04:36:33.800 pathologized like if men are like looking in your direction you basically just want to pathologize

04:36:39.560 and almost crim actually in the uk in the united kingdom they attempted to criminalize staring okay i'm

04:36:46.120 not saying the male gaze like that i'm saying what is the male gaze okay a guy looking at you

04:36:51.240 you know like the no that's not what it is there's the female gaze which is like women typically like 1.00

04:36:58.860 men who are like really strong or like like they live in they like like these certain things about

04:37:06.380 men that's like living under the female gaze if like you are doing a certain thing to yourself in

04:37:12.260 order to please a woman so for women it's like act like doing things that you like to yourself so 0.92

04:37:22.160 that you can please a man can i can i ask you something do you think women actually amplify the 1.00

04:37:29.040 pressure that they put on themselves and i say that because you just talked about trying to trying 0.95

04:37:35.220 to trying to live up to live up to a standard you notice this you notice other women with big boobs 1.00

04:37:40.720 you notice the women in magazines you notice the women on social media and everything like that 1.00

04:37:44.320 you're comparing yourselves to those women you still get approached by men right men still find

04:37:49.480 you attractive so if men still find you attractive if men still come your direction

04:37:53.960 then what is it that you what makes you insecure you're doing it to yourself yeah you mentioned there's 0.99

04:38:00.560 this pressure on women to have thin waist big boobs big ass the pressure on themselves 0.99

04:38:04.960 didn't you didn't you say earlier you're currently dating like three or four men 0.99

04:38:09.060 okay you have a roster of three or four men or was that your friend i don't know no that was me

04:38:15.020 are you struggling to get men not particularly do you think you need to modify anything about you to

04:38:22.060 attract men there well i mean you said you're a 10 right yes but there have been times where i felt

04:38:28.840 like and still there you go you just said it what you just said it there have been times where i felt

04:38:34.780 like i felt like i had to act a certain way look a certain way in order for a man to like me

04:38:40.520 but no one told you to act but that's how it is in our society but okay so and you mentioned like

04:38:47.400 unrealistic body standards etc um who do you think is more picky when it comes to dating men or women

04:38:53.760 um well it's personal i mean i went to an all-girls school for like i said for seven years so it's

04:39:02.400 kind of like yeah i don't really know like i honestly don't know okay because of that well who

04:39:07.060 do you think if you had if you had to if you had a ballpark you think men are more selective or women

04:39:11.980 are more selective um well i guess it's difficult to say because i think women get approached by men more

04:39:20.480 so they can reject men more or like so if they reject men more don't you think there would be

04:39:25.700 more criteria for them men have to meet do you think there's more do you think there's more

04:39:30.620 criteria men have to meet to attract women or vice versa i guess women are i don't know like

04:39:38.700 it's impossible for her to acknowledge that men in that that men are somehow to at a deficit in one

04:39:46.280 realm of human endeavor because i i recognize that men struggle for reasons well let's let's keep it

04:39:55.460 to the body thing right so okay um okay you said that when it comes to appearance that there's this

04:40:02.940 like expectation that women have to live up to of like a certain body type and because of the barbie 1.00

04:40:08.340 movie i didn't see the barbie movie but i guess it touched on it in the movie that women have it harder 1.00

04:40:14.160 when it comes to body type just living in society just living in society do you think that that same

04:40:20.760 pressure exists for men yes now here's my hot i don't think it's a hot take but here's my position

04:40:25.820 um i would actually argue that depictions of aspirational bodies for men are far harder to

04:40:33.020 attain than what you see of women so the aspirational body type for a man is far harder than the aspirational

04:40:41.540 body for a woman for the average person probably yeah well like it depends on the person and their 1.00

04:40:49.200 body well the the other thing i would add to let me ask do you care about a man's height would you

04:40:54.520 want to do you care about height not maybe not as much as other women i've heard what what's your 1.00

04:41:01.900 ideal height for a guy you're 5'1 right yeah ideal height for a guy like i guess like 5'7 okay

04:41:08.780 would you date it would you want to date a guy who's like 5'2 probably not probably not it depends

04:41:15.140 on who they are if they're a really good guy we'll have to see sure do you like really skinny guys

04:41:20.320 um like who have no muscle do you like a muscular guy um a little not like super like bodybuilder

04:41:28.000 gigantic steroids you like some muscles okay it's not gonna be like a deal breaker do you like fat guys 0.89

04:41:33.080 what like what don't don't worry i'm gonna i'm getting somewhere go ahead um like fat obese it's

04:41:43.780 like this is so big boys are better just go ahead i guess it's not really my type i've never been

04:41:49.820 into a guy that sure is like that okay um do you have any like when it comes to race or skin color

04:41:55.780 do you have any preferences there not okay um so what i would argue um let me ask if a guy's

04:42:03.340 lacking in the bulge is that deal breaker no don't care okay that's fine um would you prefer a guy like

04:42:10.040 if a guy was balding would that kind of be a turn off or unattractive well i'm 18 so some some guys

04:42:16.240 start balding early i don't know i probably i mean it's not like okay well let's say think forward to

04:42:23.660 25 some of the men in your age cohort uh are gonna start losing their hair like i wouldn't want them

04:42:30.940 to be balding but like if they were if i really love them like but would you generally speaking

04:42:35.840 like do you find men who are not balding more physically attractive yeah i guess most women do

04:42:41.700 so i mean kind of going on this whole thing of well the body expectations of women are like really 1.00

04:42:48.560 intense and there's so much to work up to i would actually argue that for men it's way

04:42:53.440 harder because of the things that both men and women we judge each other for there are far more 1.00

04:42:59.720 things that men can that are outside of men's control that women judge men for so height penis 0.98

04:43:06.480 size physical size um if they're losing their hair that's a big thing for a lot of women a lot of women 1.00

04:43:13.560 don't like that um i'm not saying men are not subject to like societal standards i'm just saying that

04:43:20.840 women have it worse like disavow yeah a bit like no no not a bit like they do have it worse that's my 1.00

04:43:28.640 opinion and i think that like the the whole like thing with bodies and like the beauty standard like

04:43:34.820 that's not even like half of what's wrong with society sure there's more but just speaking

04:43:40.520 specifically on the body thing that's like the one like topic that men kind of like are

04:43:48.500 no i feel like i agree with q that it's women who kind of did that to themselves because if you look

04:43:54.960 if you look at it really when that body started to become trending it was when the kardashians did it 0.98

04:43:59.480 that's when everybody wanted the small waist the big boobs the big ass so it's like women we did 1.00

04:44:05.100 that to ourselves by making that popular by praising those women by giving them all of our attention and 0.97

04:44:11.000 money and then now guess what it's not a trend anymore and all of them are getting their bbls

04:44:14.600 removed and now we're admiring being skinny again it's like we create these standards for ourselves

04:44:19.640 but i think that's what the park was actually about well it's not really like women specifically who are

04:44:25.340 like doing that i think men also are the ones who are praising it and it's not just women

04:44:31.680 you cannot argue that a woman getting a woman getting surgery on her own body is her only decision

04:44:39.060 that's not a man's decision that is literally but it's like in our society you can't blame that on

04:44:45.640 anybody else like in some ways men created some of the standards that are for women well look it's not

04:44:53.040 just sorry sorry to disappoint you it's not just women who created at all yes but men men like okay 0.99

04:44:59.500 men men are attracted to women with big breasts like men are attracted to women with big asses 1.00

04:45:07.300 however like most i would say most men that's not like there are some men who just have a big titty 0.99

04:45:15.200 fetish whatever like that's i think that's really not gonna be first off you don't want to be with a guy

04:45:20.960 that doesn't like you the way you are obviously you should take good care of yourself you should be

04:45:25.800 in good shape you should uh you should have good hygiene etc but like if i think i think you've

04:45:34.700 spoken on this queue and we have nick over here like you have three men sitting in front of you i

04:45:38.640 earlier i said i don't like women with plastic surgery i don't i even said it's it's not even like 1.00

04:45:45.380 i really want a girl with fake uh with big boobs i said i would prefer a girl with small boobs i'd 1.00

04:45:51.040 prefer a girl with a little belly than lipo belly i'd prefer a girl with small upper lip than lip 1.00

04:45:55.480 fillers i'd prefer a girl with like a smaller ass than than with a bbl and q i'll know about you but 1.00

04:46:02.920 i'm saying you're not you're not a fan of plastic surgery i'm not a fan of any alterations 0.98

04:46:06.820 so you got three guys here that aren't really into plastic surgery and the majority of men could

04:46:13.440 think like that too but it's just as women we have praised these these women the famous ones that do 0.83

04:46:18.500 it so much we think oh that's the that's what i have to do i have to look like them i need to be

04:46:22.200 like them i need to get the money like them all the men will like me like they like them but it's like

04:46:26.580 the most but like most men like you said don't actually care about that they don't actually like

04:46:32.280 that but we see the famous women doing that and it's what we admire and we want to be like

04:46:36.780 them refined underscore randy donated 99 are men or women lacking more nowadays in terms of

04:46:44.880 husband slash father and wife slash mother and explain your take bring back chase mary and josie 0.93

04:46:52.500 ann on the same panel hashtag christ is king amen yo randy thank you very much man appreciate it um

04:46:59.080 are men or women lacking more nowadays i mean i think both men and women are i don't i'm not trying

04:47:04.660 to play the blame game here where it's like just like i think both men are lacking and i think women

04:47:11.440 are lacking i think we both got to level up um did you want to finish your point really quick or did

04:47:16.340 you kind of have it i don't remember that's that's fine um can i add something really quick i do think

04:47:22.380 that it is a lot harder for men because us women put the expectation on things that men cannot physically 0.78

04:47:28.060 change besides maybe like working out okay but like in terms of like penis size and like height

04:47:32.960 that's something us women put the pressure on men for on the other hand us women we're the ones who 1.00

04:47:38.440 willingly choose to scroll on social media and compare ourselves to other to other girls like the

04:47:44.000 guys said they guys will praise anything yes well and and that's that's kind of what i was saying

04:47:50.180 earlier is that when it comes to like judging other people just on a purely physical basis in terms of

04:47:55.500 what we find attractive physically in the opposite sex again my my position would be women have far 1.00

04:48:01.520 more criteria when it comes to physical attractiveness for men that are completely outside of men's control

04:48:06.740 height penis size balding sexual stamina sexual function a lot of these things are totally outside

04:48:13.280 of men's control whereas like what the the big thing i'd say with women is weight and that's within your 1.00

04:48:20.120 control what men don't really care about your height women don't really bald so that's not 0.90

04:48:25.440 factor so when it comes to hair that's totally not a factor with women um 1.00

04:48:29.220 this is gonna be kind of vulgar loose pussy is not nearly as prevalent as men with like 1.00

04:48:36.640 average or below average penis size that's it plus kegels you can fix that shit 1.00

04:48:41.680 just saying okay i didn't mean to take it there but to answer the super chat i think that um the 0.99

04:48:47.360 sexual revolution is screwing all of us over or has screwed us all over also on the physical front i 0.72

04:48:52.500 would argue that physical disability is a far bigger disadvantage for men than it is for women 0.51

04:48:57.600 isn't it sad we're only talking about physical appearance though and not who people actually are

04:49:02.060 like i mean physical attraction is huge why would that be sad why you gotta she brought it up she

04:49:07.380 brought it up here let me just finish my point here physical disability far bigger disadvantage

04:49:12.980 for men so first uh sexual function for men with spinal cord injuries 1.00

04:49:17.360 fucked whereas a woman you can still i mean you can still fuck i guess um i would argue a woman in 1.00

04:49:23.780 a wheelchair could get laid far easier than than a man in a wheelchair i'd say she could get laid more 1.00

04:49:29.760 easily than an able-bodied dude

04:49:32.120 walk if you can't run away also males who are not uh neurotypical are going to struggle far more

04:49:39.700 than women when it comes to dating too so there's a whole bunch of things um is there anything else

04:49:43.100 from the barbie movie though that you wanted to okay barbie movie was just an example i think

04:49:48.720 everyone should watch the clip of the woman i don't know what part it was in but she's explaining

04:49:55.000 like the struggles that women go through anyway um but that's like appearance and all that is it's 0.76

04:50:00.940 really not like the biggest sure thing it's also like the wage gap when women are work like women

04:50:08.620 work in the same field as a man and a man gets paid more what is like what is that about and just the

04:50:14.280 wage gap's been debunked a million times yeah it doesn't exist yeah did they mention the wage gap in

04:50:21.000 the movie i i think they did but um i don't really remember exactly but there is there's not a wage gap

04:50:30.400 there's an earnings gap and the earnings but like it's a very you basically the whole like trope of

04:50:37.860 women make 75 cents to a dollar it's the number's always changing that doesn't account for like 1.00

04:50:43.740 dozens of different factors it's basically comparing all the money that men make and all the money that

04:50:49.580 women make in this country without factoring in people that don't work hours work hours work 1.00

04:50:55.420 um overtime overtime overtime it's also the type of profession it just it's across the board also

04:51:04.120 if a woman takes time off of maternity leave so say you take decide to stay at home and raise your 0.99

04:51:08.820 kid for two three years you are two or three years behind in your career like that is a factor you have

04:51:13.220 to face and as far as the barbie movie it does talk about like because i did see it and i actually do

04:51:19.100 like the monologue that she says i do think it has this idea of it you everyone is held to such a

04:51:24.500 high expectation that's not achievable and they're shamed when they can't even get near it it's like if

04:51:29.340 someone's overweight and they're working out in the gym people make fun of that person but that person's

04:51:32.880 trying to better themselves and that and for women i would say where we do struggle is we live in a

04:51:38.540 society where it's we you know we try to own our sexuality where we you know we try to do this and

04:51:43.240 then we're criticized and crucified by public if we don't or if we do and then at the same time it's

04:51:49.160 like if we're this you know quiet girl you know it's something that people don't necessarily always

04:51:54.180 think is the most appealing thing or if you're the plain jane is like an insult for people but i would

04:51:59.240 say it's both sides because if you don't like a girl and and i've called some friends out for this 0.89

04:52:03.820 looks aren't everything you should really get to know a person exactly but why is it that when a

04:52:07.700 woman makes an insult to another woman the first thing she comments is her looks because women are more 1.00

04:52:11.920 aware of each other than anybody else and that's what i just said women are the term 1.00

04:52:15.860 intersexual competition yeah it's intersexual competition actually isn't the first insult 0.98

04:52:22.180 a woman's gonna say to another woman is she's a slut yeah yes isn't that the go-to yeah that is true 1.00

04:52:29.460 yeah so um 0.98

04:52:31.060 intrinsic awareness of body count can i quickly add one more thing sure sure um i just i remembered in the

04:52:41.260 monologue it says like if you're too skinny well like you're not good enough if you're and then if

04:52:48.940 you like gain weight you're not good enough if you it's like you can never add like you can never be

04:52:55.200 good enough in that's it's just like it's just untrue it's just untrue like no okay put it putting

04:53:02.540 it simply of course like you can be good enough but it's like in this world that we live in with all

04:53:09.680 these standards like physically sometimes you can't like live up to like the perfect standard

04:53:17.540 you can't live up to the perfect standard well that's just comes down to acknowledging that

04:53:23.860 you're not perfect yeah and there's hundreds of different standards everybody else has a different

04:53:28.080 standard of like what they want somebody else to be but to continue to compare yourself is just

04:53:33.240 putting yourself further and further back of being eventually confident and like having that

04:53:39.280 like you don't need to compare yourself to other people and if a woman's like struggle i just i feel

04:53:45.920 like to base struggles for women solely to a parent is kind of disrespectful like i feel like

04:53:51.820 well but that's kind of all you've been mentioning is appearance and a wage gap that doesn't exist when i

04:53:56.960 would say like the biggest struggle women face is people saying that you can just become a woman 0.98

04:54:03.340 that's in my opinion the biggest struggle women face is you can just put on some tits and makeup and be 1.00

04:54:09.860 one of us but i yeah i don't believe in that and i think that's the biggest struggle we face

04:54:13.980 i agree i mean i respect that but while we're on the subject of uh appearances and attraction can i say

04:54:21.860 something real quick really quick okay so i think i have a different take so i think that um men are a

04:54:26.880 lot more visual and women are a lot more emotional so yes men will be looking for that uh physical 0.92

04:54:32.320 attraction a lot more and and you said like women also but i think like personally and uh and a lot of

04:54:37.640 my friends that i know like we don't really like if a guy has a good personality that's what we find

04:54:42.100 attractive looks are kind of like secondary but you have to actually get to know that person in person

04:54:46.820 so like on a dating app you know i just see like a bolding guy and i'm like oh swipe left whatever

04:54:50.480 but then if i were to like meet that same guy in person and he had a very charming personality then

04:54:55.620 i maybe i wouldn't mind that he was balding there's i mean you can say that and look there is something

04:55:00.660 to be said that men are a little more visually focused women are a bit more men fall in love with

04:55:05.420 a little bit more personality but i would i would actually argue that that looks are very important

04:55:10.920 to both and again like my position my position would be is women are actually far pickier than men 1.00

04:55:16.180 when it comes to physical appearance because there's so many things that women care about that 1.00

04:55:20.060 are absolutely out of the control of men height penis size physical size like for example i think the 0.58

04:55:25.400 men find a far wider range of body types yes appealing like you've got thick you've got skinny 0.69

04:55:32.680 you've got fit whereas like a skinny guy like i would say if you look at a woman who's skinny well 0.81

04:55:39.620 skinny can mean different things to different people but a woman who's has no uh gym training 1.00

04:55:46.080 who's not an athlete she could like an 18 year old woman could just be exist and have an attractive body 1.00

04:55:53.460 but like most women 1.00

04:55:55.280 an 18 year old guy who isn't an athlete or doesn't have some degree of muscular development

04:56:02.700 like just a straight up skinny dude that's not attractive to most women

04:56:06.200 so i think there's a far narrow narrower range that men can fall into to be deemed physically attractive

04:56:13.620 um i i mean i actually want to go around the table on this really quick what percentage of men that you

04:56:18.140 see on dating apps or that you see in real life do you find physically attractive like what percentage

04:56:24.220 would you say you find physically attractive probably like

04:56:28.440 50 like maybe like 60 percent of them wow okay what about you 60 percent of men you find physically attractive 50 60

04:56:38.440 okay what about you well it's kind of like like explain a little bit here here's a different on a dating app right

04:56:44.320 because obviously like if you're out in the streets you're gonna see people that are

04:56:48.520 outside your age cohort let's say on dating apps right what percentage of men do you swipe yes on

04:56:52.960 i don't have any okay what about you 15 15 what about in the street how many what percentage of men

04:57:00.980 do you find physically attractive

04:57:02.380 say like 35 okay what about you that's a really hard question i feel like mine would be like

04:57:11.440 15 20 15 20 on a dating app i'm low it's maybe like five percent five percent yeah you pick yeah

04:57:18.020 same um i would say very low because when i look at somebody i usually don't think most people are

04:57:25.000 attractive but for me it's very like if i'm emotionally attracted to you then i will become

04:57:29.780 physically attracted to you as well yeah okay um i'm not on any dating apps but on the street

04:57:36.180 it's very low maybe 10 but like you could have like in my case like you could have like perfect body

04:57:42.260 whatever and i still won't find you attractive because i don't know your personality just saying

04:57:45.520 um also i i do gotta get going it is a little bit yeah we're gonna wrap up here in just a sec we'll

04:57:49.960 wrap up here in just a sec um so you said 10 yeah on the street because i don't have a dating apps

04:57:56.820 so you find 10 men physically attractive it's very rare for me lynn what about you um when i was on

04:58:03.120 dating apps i was probably swiping right on like uh like 10 okay can i add something sure putting it in

04:58:12.940 the perspective of like in a classroom like at my school i feel like i would think like 50 percent

04:58:19.180 of the boys in my classroom are attractive so just that's where my reasoning okay sure sure um

04:58:25.920 so i mean five percent you said even a really muscular guy like a 10 out of 10 and like i still

04:58:33.480 won't find them attractive because like i don't like i don't know i have like a specific type like

04:58:38.360 okay maybe like i don't know two percent if like somebody like really catches my eye but like

04:58:42.180 when when girls in middle school like drooling over the guys in magazines i'm just like i don't

04:58:45.860 know i don't see it that's just me personally like if you're too attractive i will not go near you i

04:58:49.700 think a lot of girls though yeah like if you're too hot like it makes you less hot if you're really

04:58:54.960 hot it makes you less hot like um like conventionally attractive men like i don't find them attractive

04:58:59.960 okay fair enough um was there anything else with the barbie movie paid was there patriarchy was it

04:59:06.700 i don't remember though i think everyone should watch the monologue and yeah that's all i'll say

04:59:11.880 um i want to come back to something you really said or you said you said that the biggest thing

04:59:19.740 that's facing women is what was it people putting on a costume and trying to be us claire do you have

04:59:27.880 anything on that i mean obviously i don't agree with it i i don't know what else to say to i mean

04:59:36.880 that's just what you think and i don't think that same way but yeah multiple people don't agree with

04:59:41.020 that but i mean it's just like a matter of fact it doesn't matter what you put or wear on your body

04:59:46.620 if you're a biological male you'll never be a female or a woman so i mean you can dress up like one 1.00

04:59:53.180 like you can dress up like a mime but it's the same thing it's a costume okay but a mime dresses

04:59:59.760 up for a performance that's also the same thing in my you think it's a performance yeah you don't

05:00:04.660 think it's genuinely how they feel in their court um i think i think most of the time which way this

05:00:11.160 no no no to that way scoot it closer towards you no no not you sorry it's just the microphone was

05:00:18.740 her face was blocked go ahead go ahead oh i think you were in the middle of talking oh yeah um yeah

05:00:24.920 i do absolutely think it's a performance and i think that most of these times these people are

05:00:29.580 assigned an affirming therapist they're not actually looking into anything deeper into their

05:00:34.160 into their life they're just saying oh okay you you think you're a woman all right here's some

05:00:38.460 hormones here's some sexual reassignment surgery here's a way to make me and my company some money

05:00:42.760 i'm pretty sure they have to do a psychological evaluation before yeah no not really i've there's

05:00:47.260 so many you should really look into stories of people talking to private journalists people who

05:00:52.200 have transitioned come back years later that sue their parents and their doctors for letting okay so

05:00:56.800 you're talking about children let's talk about adults oh yeah because that's a completely different

05:01:01.040 subject but the entire world isn't on that page with you where they like to lump them into each

05:01:06.880 other so the rest of the country doesn't believe that there's a distinction between that they think

05:01:11.460 that children have every right so because half the country doesn't think that way just means i

05:01:15.360 shouldn't think that way no i this is my opinion we're talking about my opinion right so my opinion

05:01:19.860 is that you cannot wear a costume and become a somebody else's jet i don't think no matter how many

05:01:25.860 breasts a man puts on no matter how many hormones he takes no matter how many dresses he wears he's never 0.83

05:01:31.000 going to be a woman he'll never have my experience as a woman and he'll never be able to have 0.99

05:01:35.080 children or procreate or be a mother like a woman so it offends you when someone identifies yeah 1.00

05:01:39.660 and why does it offend you it offends me because you're trying to be me and you're not me they're

05:01:45.960 not trying to be you they don't want to be you women yeah they no wait so why does it so why does 1.00

05:01:52.260 it offend you because they're trying to be they're not trying to be you it offends me because the

05:01:56.580 country can't distinct with the fact that like you can be a cow that's fine do whatever you want 0.91

05:02:01.640 but you're not gonna i'm not done talking so you can be a cow do whatever you want but i don't 0.99

05:02:05.320 think it's right to let biological men live in sororities with other females i don't think it's 0.90

05:02:09.960 right to let them into bathrooms with other females i don't think it's right to let them play sports 1.00

05:02:15.360 with females and win against them i think that's wrong so when nobody else likes to distinctualize 1.00

05:02:21.860 that with just being a woman yeah there's there's a bigger conversation that needs to be had okay

05:02:27.100 sure i mean i agree with emily okay i think there's a i think there's a very important

05:02:31.960 distinct okay i should we wrap am i are we going over time or it's okay well we'll talk about it

05:02:37.220 for a bit then i'll wrap up okay okay cool yeah i don't want to take up all your time yeah that's

05:02:40.540 good go ahead um i have one last question afterwards and then we're done okay okay guys we're gonna we'll

05:02:44.580 get out of here soon this shit's getting deep yeah i was just gonna say i think there's an important 0.95

05:02:48.500 distinction and i was watching a video on this the other day and agree with important distinction 0.99

05:02:52.660 between people who are doing it because it's a trend and then people who are genuinely trans

05:02:57.100 and i think people who are doing it as a trend ruin the the representation of actual trans people

05:03:03.620 and the image of actual trans people who feel like i'm not comfortable in my body i don't think this is

05:03:08.880 the body i was supposed to be born in right you know right that's that's but i believe that's a

05:03:13.940 mental illness and i believe that needs to be looked at yes a lot deeper and not just reaffirmed into

05:03:19.180 okay yeah take this surgery take these hormones and potentially ruin your life 1.00

05:03:23.180 i think we're doing those people with gender dysphoria a huge disservice because it is a very 1.00

05:03:27.160 serious surgery and i find it personally offensive because they talk about like like oh if you're

05:03:31.720 transgender you can get this like like big surgery and when i like as a woman for like uh endometriosis

05:03:37.460 which is like a women's issue um i needed uh surgery which is a minimally invasive surgery they 0.99

05:03:42.540 wouldn't give it to me in the united states i had to go out of the country and then even when it comes

05:03:45.620 to abortion they say oh it's a women's right women's health care whatever no they don't care

05:03:49.180 about women's health and they don't care about women's right because they didn't give or they 1.00

05:03:52.520 don't care about women's choice because they didn't give me the choice to get the treatment 1.00

05:03:55.220 that is the closest thing that we have to cure they said no here go on birth control pills and i said

05:03:59.880 absolutely not i'm not going to take birth control pills for the rest of my life and uh yeah but what

05:04:04.560 does that have to do with trans people um it's all related it's all really they talk about like um

05:04:08.720 like i just find it very offensive because like i don't know why you care about people's gender and sexuality

05:04:13.840 trans people can get surgery so easily i couldn't get surgery and then also just abortion is like 0.95

05:04:18.780 a side note it's all related like they say they care about women but they don't okay uh here here's

05:04:26.120 a question i'm gonna try to fuse that into the dating thing do you think it's uh do you think it's

05:04:31.360 wrong for a man to not want to date a trans woman do i think it's here um when it okay i don't think 0.99

05:04:42.720 it's necessarily wrong especially when it comes to like the sexual aspect because you there might

05:04:49.280 be a guy that's like okay let me try this relationship with a trans woman who may still

05:04:54.840 have you know male biological body parts for some people they might just not be able to get over that

05:05:01.260 hump which is like i feel like is understandable um so yeah i think again it all comes to preference

05:05:08.360 and standard what about if they got the surgery to to change but i still couldn't get over that part

05:05:16.400 so they had a i don't know gender reassignment surgery well what's the term i don't know um

05:05:24.540 bottom surgery yeah um yeah would that would that also be would you object to that like oh i don't

05:05:33.560 want to be with someone who has the what's it called the inverted i don't know gender reassignment

05:05:41.600 surgery no there's a term for the oh okay bottom surgery i don't know the medical term whatever the

05:05:47.060 surgery right would you object to that do i object to that yeah i mean i mean yeah i probably would

05:05:52.600 object to that i mean because that person's like a woman and you say you're attracted to women so

05:05:56.520 no they're not a woman in your opinion um wait is it real yeah it's really okay go ahead um so

05:06:07.120 what were the four things that you said one of them was children right whoa that's totally

05:06:11.680 hold on that's not related that's not related to what you just said no it is for like if you

05:06:16.680 if because children is one of the important things in our relationship and if you meet someone

05:06:22.400 and if you really want kids like if you want your own biological kids from your partner yeah then

05:06:29.780 that's fine yeah so like to say like oh even if you've like if you've transitioned but you still

05:06:34.700 won't date me that's not fair i mean if someone really wants biological children it is fair okay then 0.96

05:06:40.340 that's a standard they say i want a partner who can have biological children with me yeah but like

05:06:45.280 the only person who doesn't fit that is going to be someone who's trans your definition of woman is 1.00

05:06:50.700 extremely different my definition of a woman is someone with a uterus who can have children 0.99

05:06:54.980 and i mean some women can have children and that's very sad but there's still a woman because of every 1.00

05:06:59.620 hormone in their brain body and every bone in their body is female it has to do with chromosomes i i have 0.96

05:07:04.640 since i want to come back to the whole dating like trying to focus it on dating what is a woman 0.99

05:07:11.200 and i want to start with you we'll go around the table great

05:07:15.760 um a woman is someone who i like identifies as a woman i don't really know we'll let everybody finish

05:07:26.340 go ahead

05:07:26.760 it's kind of like i'm not really like one side or the other side it's like i'm not against trans people

05:07:36.860 never will be like that's just not i would say a woman is somebody who is capable to have children 1.00

05:07:46.300 but at the same time people can also identify as a woman i don't i don't have a problem with that

05:07:52.200 sure you do you but i truly know that i am a woman i can have children i get a period every month

05:07:57.820 like i yeah well i mean i would also i would just point out that there are there are women who 1.00

05:08:05.440 are infertile for example they're still women even though they can't have children but go ahead 1.00

05:08:09.960 uh i definitely i want to clarify this because i don't want to i don't want it to seem like oh

05:08:14.400 i'm a woman today but a man tomorrow i'm that's to me like i said there's an important distinction

05:08:18.320 and to me that's someone who's following it for the trend to me a woman is someone who identifies with

05:08:23.120 it and like that is identifies with what identifies as being a woman but not just like any day of the

05:08:29.700 week that they feel like like they're it's part of their identity okay yeah an essential part

05:08:35.880 identifies as what so what is a woman what is a woman you accepted her answer why is my answer not

05:08:41.700 acceptable your your your answer your answer is just make sure i'm making sure i'm understand a woman

05:08:48.020 is a woman who identifies as a woman with some degree of continuity so it's not just okay

05:08:54.840 to monday i'm a man tuesday yeah okay so there needs to be some continuity it needs to be part

05:09:00.140 of your idea like you genuinely feel like i okay do not feel like i was supposed to be born on this

05:09:04.580 body so woman a woman is a is someone who identifies as a woman essentially essentially okay what about

05:09:11.420 you i think for a woman it is someone i i don't even want to say i want to say can i don't want to say

05:09:19.100 can have children because there are women who can't have children i still do identify those as women i

05:09:23.260 identify trans people as a trans woman because you have an entire different past than a woman who 0.93

05:09:28.980 was born that way and i think that's a big distinction people i agree with that for sure

05:09:33.120 yeah yeah because i think it's it's it's i i do get upset sometimes when someone says i'm a woman

05:09:37.860 and it's because our experiences are different i i recognize a woman if someone says i am a trans

05:09:42.760 woman and this is how i identify i respect the hell out of that and the choices that they made 1.00

05:09:46.100 whether or not they make the surgery or not but they have a completely different upbringing than

05:09:51.120 than mine i would agree with that yeah it's sort of like when people say i don't see color that's

05:09:56.020 kind of the problem is because you're not recognizing someone's background and what they had to do for

05:09:59.660 where they're at they have a completely different experience i recognize that for sure i mean not to

05:10:04.900 derail the conversation but like wasn't that martin luther king's whole thing to be colorblind

05:10:11.260 colorblind in a sense but okay let's not go that's just that's a whole nother can of worms what about

05:10:16.820 what is a woman a woman i don't think i really need to answer this it's somebody who was born as a

05:10:26.560 female and is a female today it's pretty simple a woman is a human person with two x chromosomes 0.79

05:10:33.260 amy a woman is someone with female chromosomes you said xx right i was kind of confused with which

05:10:41.460 was x and xy but um someone who is able to produce uh kids someone who has gets a period every single 0.72

05:10:48.840 month for the vagina well some women don't have yeah yeah some women don't have periods uh lynn what 1.00

05:10:55.920 about you um a woman is someone with xx chromosomes okay uh q a woman is an adult human female 0.99

05:11:04.000 that's also my definition a woman is an adult human female 0.99

05:11:07.620 i think i'm just saying i'm just saying thumbs up that's all yeah i think i would agree with

05:11:15.700 with her on the trans woman topic i would consider them trans women not women because there is a

05:11:22.360 difference a woman is a adult human female and now that everybody wants to say gender is a construct

05:11:28.960 they want to deconstructualize the entire society that we've lived in since we were the conception of

05:11:35.680 humans literally we have always gone by male female genders and now that everybody wants to 0.54

05:11:40.620 diminish that and just oh what's a woman what's a what's a kid what's like that doesn't make it we

05:11:45.920 know what a woman is a woman is an adult human you know you think you know what it is yeah i know what

05:11:50.700 it is and i know that a lot of other people are confused yes okay okay so bringing it back to the

05:11:56.600 dating thing you said that you would object to somebody if they've undergone bottom surgery a guy

05:12:04.780 not wanting to date a trans woman who has undergone bottom surgery you would object to that yes 1.00

05:12:10.980 can you articulate your reasoning and logic i'm i i mean what's the question like but it's well

05:12:21.740 it's especially interesting because you said you're you know you're a virgin you're saving

05:12:26.800 yourself for the person you feel like you're going to marry so let's say somebody like you want to

05:12:34.260 pursue someone long term for a long-term relationship and have biological children with that person

05:12:39.680 if you're a trans woman you are incapable of and that's why i was making that distinction earlier and

05:12:46.480 like you said some not all women are fertile not all women can have so why so i think what why do 0.99

05:12:52.020 you object to a man not wanting to have a relationship or have sex with a trans woman well 0.73

05:13:01.720 what what why wouldn't they well i i think first they would have to present their argument like why

05:13:06.840 wouldn't they want to date what's the reason for not wanting to date a trans woman people are allowed 0.96

05:13:11.420 to have genitalia preference but you said if they have bottom that's not the same as 1.00

05:13:16.100 a i don't know what the fucking term for it that's not the same as like a natural grown pussy 1.00

05:13:23.740 i don't know how to frame this but yeah it's just hard to form a rebuttal when there's not like an 0.99

05:13:28.480 initial it's because you think everybody works on this as as somebody who has had sex at least one 0.99

05:13:34.580 time once if my penis was inverted i don't know the fucking procedure i don't know um first off my 0.99

05:13:44.840 understanding is that when they go they do the procedure they have to take like lifetime antibiotics 0.99

05:13:50.460 so because it's you're essentially creating a wound into your cavity your pelvic cavity or something

05:13:57.680 and uh it doesn't naturally lubricate and the composition would be different and i would just

05:14:06.520 know like it ain't like 0.99

05:14:10.580 am i gonna get canceled for this that's not pussy 1.00

05:14:15.680 i'm probably gonna get canceled yeah you probably will all over tiktok tomorrow no but it's not like 0.96

05:14:23.220 it's not it's not the same at all it's just not the same right i'm not trying to hate on anybody

05:14:30.380 it's just like people i have a genitalia preference for i mean we talked about the 0.97

05:14:35.500 large labia shit but that's another conversation i have a genitalia preference for 1.00

05:14:39.500 for female pussy i'm not i don't want male pussy i want female pussy 1.00

05:14:47.600 i mean when you put it that way i feel like it's okay to have a preference i don't know i just i just 1.00

05:14:53.760 think that like there's ways around like you said it doesn't lubricate naturally okay there's lube

05:14:57.840 like i don't know i think there's ways around it what if i want natural 0.98

05:15:00.940 juice pussy juice i want i don't want to use ky jelly i want i want a chick that's just 1.00

05:15:09.200 it's like a river like the floodgates are opening i mean i guess yeah i think 0.99

05:15:14.740 having a genitalia preference i have a gen that's fine yeah preferences all day and now that it's he

05:15:19.880 wants to have a preference about someone's genitalia it's an issue but we've been talking about 0.82

05:15:23.560 it's okay yeah but it took him literally it took him explaining to you that he wanted natural lube 0.98

05:15:28.760 in a female vagina to for you to understand it like you see what i mean like he had to break down 1.00

05:15:34.940 what we're talking about so what is that supposed to mean that not everybody has this blind view of 0.98

05:15:40.780 gender like you do that a blind i think you have the blind no we had to just he had to just 0.97

05:15:46.720 like explain in very detail the difference between a man-made and natural vagina no i i 0.98

05:15:52.660 told i completely understood the difference i said what was what would be his objection to dating

05:15:56.720 someone trans and that's what he explained to me and i said it's difficult to form a rebuttal when

05:16:00.480 there's no initial argument i'm also just attracted to females i'm not attracted i'm not attracted to

05:16:06.980 males i'm not attracted i'm not attracted to males regardless of the the drugs that they're 1.00

05:16:15.100 ingesting and the plastic surgery that they've had and see that's the other thing you're like

05:16:19.880 i'm not into plastic surgery there you go like but i'm just not i'm not attracted to males

05:16:25.300 but it's okay can i add no we're talking about sex we're not talking about gender we're talking

05:16:31.420 about sex i'm not a no no go ahead go ahead go ahead go ahead um okay i understand like this is a

05:16:37.940 topic of conversation and like this is a podcast yeah but like why does it matter so much like why can't

05:16:43.660 we just like let people do what they want to do like it's not like that's totally fine it's not

05:16:47.820 yeah so it's but but if we're having a conversation if she's saying you're a bigot for not wanting

05:16:55.280 what that is some people's position and you said earlier you you object you object to men who wouldn't

05:17:05.260 want to sleep with a trans woman who's had uh bottom surgery yeah but then after you explained 1.00

05:17:11.920 your genitalia preference and i said that's fine yeah yeah but he had to explain it for you to 0.98

05:17:16.780 prove you but you object usually i don't know how are we in a crazy world where i need as a man 0.98

05:17:24.940 a straight man need to explain that i am only sexually attracted to females 0.94

05:17:31.600 i think i don't think it like matters to a lot of us we really don't care i think it's more of

05:17:39.380 like please just admit that you are a biological male or female and just why should i why should

05:17:45.820 people admit it i don't know i just because it's a fact it's a fact do you it doesn't matter and why

05:17:50.660 does it change it doesn't matter on surface level but when it gets into legislation and biological men 0.97

05:17:55.600 being allowed into female prisons where now these female inmates are getting r-worded that's when 1.00

05:18:00.660 it's wrong so yeah it does matter it's fine until like a certain standard but that's not really like

05:18:06.460 yeah well then do you do you object to a guy not wanting to sleep with a trans woman no like oh i 0.88

05:18:13.320 actually i'm not going to say anything but you wouldn't what i'm didn't say wouldn't i didn't say

05:18:18.560 it's okay you you wouldn't sleep with a trans man i understand why i understand if men or women 0.60

05:18:25.480 don't want to sleep with transgender people that's just their preference but yeah okay final question 1.00

05:18:31.980 on this um brain work you got it we support 0.90

05:18:40.160 is it

05:18:43.880 let me do some chats i'll come back to it okay

05:18:48.040 and then we're gonna i i'm serious guys i know we're gonna wrap it up right

05:18:52.280 yo w's in the chat for nemesis and michael matroke the fourth bring back chase oh okay that's

05:18:56.020 that's membership normally if you don't worry okay um let me do these last two chats and i'm

05:19:00.220 sorry guys i know we're going a little late here we're going to wrap up right now men have to meet

05:19:03.180 more criteria than women honestly the more beers i down the more my standards for women also fall 0.97

05:19:07.680 eventually the chick may weigh more than me fat skinny hot and ugly no shame 1.00

05:19:11.440 hashtag slam pick okay calutronic that okay there you have it we have uh gp here hey man thank you 0.78

05:19:18.560 so much for the uh donation it's coming in here in just a sec it's women competing against women to 1.00

05:19:24.960 keep up with the kardashians trying to reach what women feel is ideal not what men think is ideal i've

05:19:30.660 yet to meet one dude that finds those ridiculous duck lips attractive major turnoff i guarantee you like 0.91

05:19:36.320 when it comes to like the fake lips anyone here had any have you had it oh you're looking at me but 0.93

05:19:41.040 i've never never had it you've had some filler like i think if you ask most men they'd say i prefer i

05:19:48.160 don't like the lip filler stuff like women you do that for like and do that on your own what about 1.00

05:19:52.880 the men that will say i'll pay for you to get this stuff done those guys are they're building

05:19:57.600 degenerate yep they're build a bear yeah that's that's a no good um okay oh uh christian believes in

05:20:11.120 abortion mm-hmm yeah we got some christian ladies here do you object to her considering herself 1.00

05:20:17.120 christian but she believes yes well like i said uh the two bible verses i knit you together in my

05:20:22.080 mother's womb and i think that um and the reason i am so uh like pro-life like very passionate about

05:20:27.280 it is because i know that it is an issue um that uh really deeply affects god and and really saddens

05:20:33.680 him and grieves him because um they are the most vulnerable and whenever a group of people like that

05:20:39.120 are being oppressed um god has big problems with that like if you go like read throughout the bible then

05:20:45.440 it's always when people are being oppressed that's what's um closest to god's heart and so like

05:20:49.920 for that reason because i'm a christian it's also like close to my heart and so i'm out here like

05:20:53.680 fighting the pro-life uh battle because uh because of my christian faith can i ask a question yeah do

05:21:00.880 you think god's saddened by the amount of people amount of children in foster care right now oh absolutely

05:21:05.760 okay then let's talk about that because most people who are getting abortions are people who can't

05:21:09.520 afford to sustain a child's life i don't think that that's a solution i don't think killing an innocent

05:21:13.520 life as a solution we have to consider the what the child's life is going we have to consider the

05:21:20.000 long-term consequences i was in the foster system was not that bad okay but that's your personal

05:21:25.600 experience i think instead of uh what if she got aborted yeah getting a chance at life because

05:21:33.040 okay go ahead so with abortion i view it as say you financially cannot take care of a child you had

05:21:43.040 something happen to you or in general like sometimes things happen it has to happen for 0.99

05:21:50.000 reasons like you don't want to bring a kid out into the world and have them have a shit life yes but at 0.99

05:21:54.560 the same time i also don't support women who go around and sleep around don't care about anything 1.00

05:22:00.160 and then they get the abortion because they fucked up and started sleeping around yeah don't you and 0.99

05:22:04.080 didn't use protection didn't care about their bodies for it that's when i'm against it okay i think 0.95

05:22:09.760 instead of uh funding sorry no no go ahead i'll wrap up after you finish instead of uh funding

05:22:15.920 planned parenthood i think all that money should go into the foster home system right and also sorry

05:22:25.040 and also i think the a lot of the pro-choice arguments that i do here although i understand

05:22:30.880 there's some like obviously special circumstances about it yeah um what i'm hearing from that argument

05:22:36.720 is that i want to have sex freely without the consequences and also you're choosing to lay 0.89

05:22:42.000 down and have sex with you know random strangers without that considering all of that too if you 0.96

05:22:47.360 do that to yourself you are putting yourself in a position where you are going to get pregnant yeah 0.98

05:22:52.000 and then you're killing something that could have been so amazing in your life with somebody who you

05:22:57.840 love like a lot and also please be careful with the people that you choose to sleep with if that

05:23:03.760 person you don't think that could raise your child with you do not sleep with them please 0.99

05:23:09.360 and please don't complain about it later that they but sometimes we'll have y'all back y'all we'll have

05:23:14.000 y'all back for a political debate on this last question last question m1 grand would any of the girls 1.00

05:23:19.040 date a guy who would who legally owned a firearm just a yes or no yeah yeah wait no you wouldn't date

05:23:25.760 a guy who owned a gun it depends on the situation you would i would i wouldn't do the guy who doesn't

05:23:30.480 own a firearm it'd be a requirement yes depends on the situation like you said with personally

05:23:37.120 i'm not allowed to own a gun i'm not allowed to own any of that because i am mentally ill whatever

05:23:41.280 i don't care about that oh yeah she can't she straight up never not never i don't even not

05:23:47.920 never no not never i can but oh they have to i thought it was forever you couldn't but you said you

05:23:53.520 wouldn't date a guy that owns if he was like if he like if i knew like it would not be a good idea

05:24:01.120 to have that in the house with i know i could like handle it obviously i'm not like gonna do anything

05:24:06.240 but with the person who has the gun if i have a feeling that i can't really trust it i wouldn't

05:24:13.600 feel comfortable especially if i have children i really would not want a gun like in the house where

05:24:19.040 it's like because sometimes people like put it in places where it's like accessible well what if i

05:24:22.880 mean it could be kept safe yeah it just depends on the person but if you wouldn't you almost want it

05:24:29.120 more if you had kids because then no yeah let's say there's a situation where there's a home invasion

05:24:35.280 and it's you your husband your two kids three men break into your house you don't know what they're

05:24:42.160 about maybe you got some beefs with some people i don't i don't know they're trying to break into your

05:24:48.080 house they could be on drugs maybe they're just trying to steal something maybe they want to

05:24:53.600 they're violent who knows in that situation would you want your would you prefer your husband to not 0.92

05:25:00.720 have a firearm well yes obviously but i'm just saying sometimes with different circumstances it's like

05:25:08.560 i don't know it kind of worries me guns worry me i'm it worries me a little bit yeah we won't

05:25:14.640 linger on that too long we gotta wrap i just it was popped up so i wanted to read it um are we all

05:25:18.880 caught up let me just make sure double check we're caught up on oh guys go to twitch.tv slash whatever

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05:25:27.920 got all our chats we're good we're good okay guys uh i'm going to those of you on twitch i'm going to

05:25:32.800 send a raid to stay safe he's playing uh like a druid on hardcore or something uh okay guys 0.93

05:25:39.200 fuck sorry hold on i'm pulling out my fucking okay last call guys hit the like button please 0.99

05:25:44.800 on your way out thank you for tuning in tonight you could have been anywhere in the world but 0.99

05:25:47.680 you're here with me i appreciate that thank you to everyone who super chats donates and supports the

05:25:52.320 show big thank you to the wonderful panel thank you for your patience here i know we went a little

05:25:56.320 late tonight thank you to all our chat mods any women who want to be on the show dm out whatever 0.98

05:26:00.320 on instagram we will be live again with a very good panel on tuesday 5 p.m pacific q will be joining

05:26:06.480 us again so be sure to tune in for that let me send the raid over on twitch while i'm doing that

05:26:11.040 any final thought really quick from anybody or thank you for having yeah thank you it was a good

05:26:16.480 panel it was a good panel we should all come back like this entire group specifically i'm i'm down to

05:26:22.000 have anybody here back um i thought it was a very good panel i know uh some people you know god we 0.99

05:26:27.840 talked about politics we talked about barbie we talked about man pussy it's been all over the place 1.00

05:26:34.160 so uh if you guys want to come back that'd be lovely okay on twitch i'm sending you guys to say 0.98

05:26:38.560 stay safe tv tell them whatever sent you thank you guys on twitch okay i'm think it's raiding now

05:26:45.680 in just a sec all right guys um once again we'll be live again tuesday 5 p.m pacific we'll see you

05:26:51.040 next time oh seven's in the chat good night guys oh should we do body count really quick wait wait

05:26:56.800 really really wait pause uh really quick what's your body count zero really yes

05:27:02.000 really yeah they said it earlier why are you what about you no comment over 10.

05:27:12.080 it's okay no comment okay zero i can count on one hand i'll just say one hand one one

05:27:20.000 three thirty three oh okay all right cool cool okay there it is all right guys um oh sevens in the chat

05:27:29.120 oh sevens in the chat good night guys bye

Whatever Podcast - October 02, 2023

She Dated ＊50＊ Men In 50 Days？! ｜ Dating Talk #105

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