Whatever Podcast - Single Mom w⧸ Neck Tattoo Brings NOTHING To The Table？! ｜ Dating Talk #90

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00:02:05.760 Without further ado,

00:02:06.480 we're going to have the guests introduce themselves.

00:02:08.260 So please tell us your name, age, and occupation.

00:02:11.200 Go ahead.

00:02:11.420 I'm 23, and I model and do OnlyFans and some acting.

00:02:18.080 All right.

00:02:18.560 Welcome.

00:02:19.820 My name is Linda.

00:02:21.000 I'm an intuitive mindset coach, and I'm 36.

00:02:24.880 I'm also studying to be a marriage and family therapist.

00:02:29.160 All right.

00:02:29.700 Welcome.

00:02:30.860 Hi.

00:02:31.260 My name is Jenna Fox.

00:02:32.680 I'm 26 years old, and I'm a mattress actress.

00:02:37.640 Are you actually 26?

00:02:39.460 Yes.

00:02:39.960 Because you kind of...

00:02:41.040 I forget the years every...

00:02:42.500 No, 26 years old.

00:02:43.480 Okay, what about you?

00:02:43.900 27.

00:02:45.100 Oh, wait.

00:02:45.840 Oh, you're 27.

00:02:46.760 27.

00:02:47.500 I forgot all the time.

00:02:47.760 Okay, there we go.

00:02:49.060 What about you?

00:02:50.080 My name is Camilla.

00:02:51.120 I'm 21, and I do OnlyFans.

00:02:53.380 All right.

00:02:53.980 Welcome.

00:02:54.920 My name is Caitlin.

00:02:56.180 I also do OnlyFans, and I'm 21.

00:02:58.440 Okay.

00:03:00.000 My name is Carissa.

00:03:01.380 I'm 21, and I'm a nursing student.

00:03:04.780 Fun.

00:03:06.220 My name is Kira.

00:03:07.220 I am 28.

00:03:09.620 And any...

00:03:11.880 Oh, I'm an accounting manager.

00:03:14.620 All right.

00:03:15.560 My name is Madison.

00:03:16.840 I'm 18.

00:03:17.960 I'm a student studying econ and accounting. 1.00

00:03:20.840 Oh, fuck. 1.00

00:03:20.860 Hold on, guys. 1.00

00:03:22.020 We're getting some lag.

00:03:23.160 Lag.

00:03:23.260 Lag.

00:03:24.060 Lag.

00:03:24.500 Lag.

00:03:25.080 Lag.

00:03:27.840 It's pretty bad.

00:03:28.800 Okay.

00:03:29.120 I'm going to fix that.

00:03:30.900 Hold tight here just a sec.

00:03:32.620 Guys, when you say lag, is it the FPS?

00:03:35.040 Is it the frame rate?

00:03:38.180 Hold on.

00:03:39.240 Is it the FPS?

00:03:40.900 Is it the frame rate?

00:03:43.760 No sounds on guest one.

00:03:47.160 Testing, testing.

00:03:48.220 Oh, she wasn't close to the mic.

00:03:50.160 Oh.

00:03:50.680 Sorry.

00:03:51.140 I might have been nervous.

00:03:52.120 No, no, no.

00:03:52.400 You're good.

00:03:52.840 I was speaking first.

00:03:53.420 I was going to tell you, but you ended already.

00:03:55.880 I'm anxious.

00:03:57.200 Barely any lag.

00:03:58.860 Some buffering.

00:04:00.120 Jesus.

00:04:00.520 Frame rate.

00:04:01.760 Let's see.

00:04:03.200 Good times.

00:04:04.260 Welcome to the whatever podcast.

00:04:07.540 There was always something.

00:04:10.000 I'm going to try to fix it really quick.

00:04:12.260 Give me one second, guys.

00:04:13.940 What we are going to do, and Madison, maybe keep tabs on it.

00:04:18.120 Current relationship status.

00:04:20.980 Single talking stage situationship. 1.00

00:04:23.240 Actually, fuck. 1.00

00:04:24.060 Let's wait until I get back. 1.00

00:04:25.580 Madison, take it away. 0.66

00:04:27.000 Okay.

00:04:28.600 I didn't finish, but I'm a student studying econ and accounting.

00:04:33.800 I do the whatever podcast, and I'm a host at a bar.

00:04:40.560 I guess if you didn't hear me, I'm Keep.

00:04:42.820 Yeah.

00:04:43.400 Rigo, because you weren't close enough to the mic, so reintroduce yourself.

00:04:46.700 Okay.

00:04:47.000 Hi, again.

00:04:47.560 I'm Keep.

00:04:48.480 I'm 23, and I model, do OnlyFans, and some acting.

00:04:53.860 Can you read me now?

00:04:54.060 Wait.

00:04:54.280 Is it Keek?

00:04:55.380 Keep.

00:04:55.840 Keep.

00:04:56.160 Like the verb.

00:04:56.840 Oh, okay.

00:04:57.500 My mom was a hippie, so. 1.00

00:04:59.100 Oh, is that like your full name?

00:05:00.700 Yeah.

00:05:01.040 Keep Chambers.

00:05:01.960 Oh, that's cute.

00:05:02.980 Thanks.

00:05:04.860 Nice.

00:05:06.040 Come on, Madison. 0.94

00:05:07.100 What?

00:05:08.280 Fix your stream.

00:05:12.680 Should I just do the relationship thing?

00:05:14.420 Can you talk?

00:05:14.520 Have a conversation?

00:05:15.640 Hello?

00:05:16.700 Hello?

00:05:17.100 Hello.

00:05:18.280 Okay.

00:05:20.620 What was your guy's, sorry.

00:05:22.240 There was like one, wait, you said you stream.

00:05:25.640 What do you do on Twitch?

00:05:26.980 Do you do on Twitch?

00:05:28.420 Games like GTA, Halo, scary games.

00:05:31.500 And you do it with like other people?

00:05:33.440 Mostly myself, but I had a friend coming on tonight.

00:05:36.280 When did you start like doing that?

00:05:41.020 Maybe middle of last year.

00:05:43.360 Nice.

00:05:43.800 And you guys said you were filming earlier.

00:05:47.540 What do you guys film?

00:05:50.440 We film like interviews.

00:05:51.960 Like with public interviews, we'll ask like questions that promote our OnlyFans.

00:05:57.240 So just like basic public opinion too.

00:05:59.520 Like what kind of questions you'd be asking?

00:06:06.340 Like who do you believe has a heart in society, men or women?

00:06:11.560 What's the freakiest thing you've ever done?

00:06:14.720 Are you subbed to Girls OnlyFans? 0.78

00:06:16.380 If yes, who would you ever subbed to my OnlyFans?

00:06:20.820 Things like that.

00:06:21.780 You guys do that together?

00:06:23.300 Yeah, there's like a group of girls. 1.00

00:06:24.740 We have like separate platforms, but we go together.

00:06:27.220 That's cool.

00:06:29.320 Did you fix it?

00:06:33.180 It's like I don't want to talk.

00:06:34.840 They said one.

00:06:38.260 All right. 0.99

00:06:39.280 I've got some real fucking conversationalists here with me tonight. 0.99

00:06:42.420 Okay. 0.95

00:06:42.820 So current relationship status, single, talking stage, situationship, friends with benefits,

00:06:49.320 relationship, married, polycule, sex cult.

00:06:53.140 How long have you been single, if you're single, and your longest relationship?

00:06:57.500 Go ahead.

00:06:57.780 My longest relationship was four years, and I've only had long-term relationships.

00:07:04.600 I haven't really had many situationships, but I've tried, and it's just a hard dating

00:07:10.660 pool out there.

00:07:11.460 I live in Hawaii, so like there's not many people.

00:07:13.900 You just see the same people.

00:07:15.300 Every time you're on an app, you see them in the store if you scrolled past them or whatever.

00:07:19.040 So yeah, I've been trying, but I'm moving, so I'm not trying too hard.

00:07:24.280 You're currently single, correct?

00:07:25.420 Yeah.

00:07:25.960 How long have you been single?

00:07:27.540 Um, for like three years, since 2020.

00:07:33.280 Three years.

00:07:34.200 Yeah.

00:07:34.820 Okay.

00:07:35.460 I'm going to Texas soon, so I don't really want to start dating someone in Hawaii if I'm

00:07:38.920 going to be moving.

00:07:39.680 Aren't you moving to LA?

00:07:41.080 No, I'm moving to Texas.

00:07:42.260 Oh, you're moving to Texas.

00:07:43.480 Awesome Texas, yeah.

00:07:43.580 Okay.

00:07:44.260 When are you moving?

00:07:46.100 I'm aiming for fall, but I want to experience all of Hawaii that I haven't experienced yet.

00:07:51.900 Okay.

00:07:52.200 I want to do all the hikes I haven't done, do like OFTV out there and stuff, and show people

00:07:55.920 great restaurants and beautiful views.

00:07:58.360 What's your longest relationship?

00:08:00.020 Four years.

00:08:00.700 Four years, okay.

00:08:01.900 When did you guys break up?

00:08:03.440 Well, you said you were single for three years, and you're 20, so was this like a high school

00:08:07.540 relationship, partially?

00:08:08.800 Started in high school, and then went on, so yeah.

00:08:13.080 Okay.

00:08:13.960 What about you?

00:08:15.000 I am single.

00:08:17.380 My longest relationship was about four and a half years.

00:08:22.520 I've been single, really I've been single for about three years.

00:08:27.720 I did have a really short-term relationship a few months ago, but all of my relationships

00:08:33.640 have been pretty long, so it's hard to count that one.

00:08:36.900 Okay.

00:08:38.300 Yeah.

00:08:38.800 All right.

00:08:40.400 What about you?

00:08:41.660 Single, Pringle, longest relationship two years, and that was in 2018.

00:08:52.920 How long have you been single?

00:08:57.720 Since 2018.

00:08:59.520 Okay, so four or five years.

00:09:03.440 I believe so, yeah.

00:09:05.020 All right.

00:09:05.580 What about you?

00:09:07.160 Single.

00:09:08.280 Longest relationship was two years, and I've been single for like a year now.

00:09:13.960 Why did he dump you?

00:09:14.980 Why did he dump me?

00:09:17.900 I think I ended up, I ended it, I ended that way.

00:09:21.160 Oh, you ended, oh, okay, excuse me.

00:09:23.760 You ended it, okay.

00:09:24.920 That's crazy.

00:09:26.740 What about you?

00:09:27.460 I'm currently single.

00:09:28.460 I'm currently single.

00:09:29.420 My longest relationship was about almost two years, and that was about a year ago, almost

00:09:37.020 a year ago, so it's been about a year in February.

00:09:40.860 Okay.

00:09:41.580 Yeah.

00:09:41.800 I am in a relationship, and it is also my longest relationship of, so far, two years

00:09:50.660 and going.

00:09:51.500 All right.

00:09:52.080 Got it.

00:09:54.520 I'm currently single.

00:09:57.280 I have been single for nine years, and my longest relationship was eight months.

00:10:04.900 Longest relationship, eight months.

00:10:06.800 Okay.

00:10:07.320 Got it.

00:10:07.920 Manson, what about you?

00:10:09.120 I'm currently not single.

00:10:11.100 I am taken.

00:10:12.340 My current relationship is my longest relationship.

00:10:15.840 It's been 11 months.

00:10:18.100 All right.

00:10:19.000 Got it.

00:10:19.720 Okay, so besides Madison and you over there, everyone here is single.

00:10:25.940 So what does being single really mean, though?

00:10:28.600 Because, I mean, come on, for some of you who are single, there's a guy in the picture.

00:10:32.900 No.

00:10:33.860 Right?

00:10:34.580 Come on.

00:10:36.080 Yeah.

00:10:37.000 You got a guy in the picture right now.

00:10:38.960 And what do you mean by in the picture?

00:10:41.100 What do you mean by in the picture?

00:10:44.140 Yeah, I mean, yeah.

00:10:46.160 It's not a situationship, because it's like, we're just like hanging out.

00:10:51.840 I think it's like pretty understood.

00:10:53.260 Oh, wait, hold on.

00:10:54.060 Just let her finish. 0.99

00:10:54.640 We're like just hanging out, whatever, but it's like, I don't know.

00:11:01.240 You're just hanging out?

00:11:02.780 Yeah.

00:11:03.800 How long have you been just hanging out with said individual?

00:11:08.500 Probably like a month.

00:11:10.560 So like, I don't know if I can take it seriously yet.

00:11:13.300 It's not been that long.

00:11:14.620 That's why it's like not even made it to the situationship.

00:11:17.020 It's not even the situation.

00:11:18.900 What is it?

00:11:19.420 Like, would you consider it a talking stage, or?

00:11:23.400 I guess.

00:11:25.160 Okay.

00:11:26.000 I don't like labels.

00:11:27.720 Is he the only guy you're seeing?

00:11:29.280 Yes.

00:11:30.440 What about you?

00:11:31.960 Yeah, no.

00:11:33.180 No guys right now.

00:11:35.120 Don't really feel like, I just don't want to answer the phone.

00:11:38.000 Oh, Brandon.

00:11:40.820 Thank you, man.

00:11:41.180 Brandon Mills donated $200.

00:11:44.140 It's your boy, Champagne Papi.

00:11:46.300 Let's start the donos and get some Ws in the chat for Brian.

00:11:50.680 Also, can I have a whatever t-shirt?

00:11:53.580 Hey, Brandon.

00:11:54.220 Thank you, man.

00:11:54.940 By the way, Brandon is in Santa Barbara, so we're going to, we were going to try to have

00:11:59.340 him come by today, but just didn't work out.

00:12:02.680 So Brandon will, right?

00:12:04.700 I think he'll be here on the Tuesday show.

00:12:06.440 And yes, when you come by the studio, you can have a whatever t-shirt.

00:12:11.780 So we'll see you on Tuesday, man.

00:12:13.820 Thank you, Brandon, for that TTS.

00:12:16.020 Sorry.

00:12:16.380 Go ahead.

00:12:17.740 Yeah, no.

00:12:18.380 I just don't feel like entertaining anyone right now.

00:12:21.860 I just feel like I'm pretty content.

00:12:24.940 Content?

00:12:25.680 Yeah.

00:12:26.380 Doing my own thing.

00:12:27.460 There's nobody, like, nothing.

00:12:29.300 Not at all.

00:12:30.080 Because you said that you've been single for like a year, about?

00:12:33.340 Yeah.

00:12:33.940 I mean, but has in that year.

00:12:35.040 I mean, you go out with people.

00:12:36.620 I mean, you go on a date, but it doesn't mean you're going to do anything.

00:12:38.700 It's just kind of like a dinner.

00:12:42.000 Okay.

00:12:42.660 You know, it's not that big of a deal.

00:12:44.200 It's just kind of like, eh, I want to socialize today.

00:12:46.660 Sure.

00:12:46.880 You kind of can pick and choose.

00:12:48.540 Okay.

00:12:49.940 All right.

00:12:50.700 So nothing.

00:12:52.980 No.

00:12:54.160 Zilch.

00:12:54.520 None.

00:12:55.100 Zero.

00:12:56.040 Nope.

00:12:57.240 Okay.

00:12:57.720 All right.

00:12:58.080 What about you?

00:12:59.180 No.

00:12:59.680 No men or women in my life.

00:13:01.460 No.

00:13:01.920 Okay.

00:13:03.560 Nobody.

00:13:05.580 I'm finally taking a step for myself.

00:13:08.820 So I feel like my whole life I've always been, like, a very relationship-oriented person.

00:13:14.960 So I had the four-year relationship.

00:13:16.580 And then after a year went by, I had another three-year relationship.

00:13:19.320 So I'm finally, like, okay, let me settle down and just not try to find myself more.

00:13:25.460 So I'm taking myself on trips and going on a lot of girls' trips out the country, seeing

00:13:29.560 more cultures and not focusing on guys right now.

00:13:33.160 Focusing on my work.

00:13:35.120 Okay.

00:13:37.420 What, lag?

00:13:39.340 Nick, can you pull up the regular chat?

00:13:41.580 What about you?

00:13:42.640 You said you've been single for nine years.

00:13:44.600 Can you tell us what's up?

00:13:46.820 Ultimately, I am waiting for my husband.

00:13:51.480 Pop-out chat.

00:13:54.260 I've had two situationships, you could call them, in between.

00:13:58.540 But as of the past four years, I am not sexually active, and I do not intend to be.

00:14:07.180 And I'm ultimately going to be waiting for my husband.

00:14:09.700 So nine years seems like a long time, but I have an ultimate goal at the end of it.

00:14:15.260 Nick, can you get the pop-up chat?

00:14:16.820 Yeah.

00:14:18.280 And those, like, two situationships that you had where they just ended because it wasn't

00:14:24.500 what you were looking for in a husband, or was it more casual?

00:14:29.240 Ultimately, yeah.

00:14:31.320 I'd say none of them were casual.

00:14:33.900 I'd say that with the two situationships that I had, I definitely was in love with either

00:14:40.640 man, but ultimately, it was not God's plan.

00:14:45.520 And the first one ended up getting sick and passed away.

00:14:49.860 The second one, he was insecure.

00:14:54.480 And I think we liked each other.

00:14:56.420 I loved him.

00:14:57.100 I don't know if he loved me back.

00:14:59.860 But overall, it would have not worked out.

00:15:03.720 And yeah, so that was, that's...

00:15:10.280 So you're a born-again virgin.

00:15:12.140 Yes.

00:15:12.520 Correct.

00:15:12.900 I am.

00:15:13.460 I am a born-again virgin.

00:15:14.600 But you said, and when did you make this decision to be a born-again virgin?

00:15:22.360 You could say officially four years ago.

00:15:24.980 Prior to one incident, one night, I was not active like two or three years prior to that.

00:15:34.400 Prior to the incident, four years ago?

00:15:35.920 So it's been, it's been a long time.

00:15:38.140 Okay.

00:15:39.220 So you were born-again virgin like seven years ago?

00:15:43.920 Pretty much.

00:15:45.180 Okay.

00:15:45.980 Not technically, but pretty much, yeah.

00:15:48.440 Okay.

00:15:49.480 And so you want to wait until marriage?

00:15:51.720 Yes, I do.

00:15:53.160 Okay.

00:15:53.460 And I'm not backing down this time, so...

00:15:56.960 You're not backing down?

00:15:57.920 No.

00:15:59.200 What do you mean, you're not backing down this time?

00:16:02.080 Meeting...

00:16:02.380 Are you talking about the situation four years ago?

00:16:04.940 It was just a really hot dude?

00:16:06.080 Oh.

00:16:06.220 And it just happened?

00:16:07.360 So the one night that I messed up the seven years, and now it's technically four, that

00:16:14.580 was a very weak moment in my faith.

00:16:17.640 And now my faith is much stronger, and I am ultimately waiting.

00:16:23.460 Okay.

00:16:24.540 So there's a commitment behind it this time that's actually real.

00:16:29.920 So it was like a one-night stand?

00:16:33.160 Yes.

00:16:33.340 That one indiscretion?

00:16:35.280 Yes.

00:16:36.260 Okay.

00:16:38.360 So it's Cancun, or what was the situation?

00:16:41.520 It was in Australia.

00:16:42.740 Australia.

00:16:43.740 Okay.

00:16:44.740 The Australian gentleman, they're very strapping and charismatic.

00:16:48.200 Okay.

00:16:49.200 So...

00:16:50.200 Was it an Australian guy?

00:16:51.200 I will say, though, I was pressured into it, and I did not want to do it.

00:16:55.200 But ultimately, it was consent, so I have full responsibility for that, but yeah.

00:17:04.900 I did not want to do it, but ultimately, it was my fault, because I said yes in the end.

00:17:10.340 I don't know if that's a rabbit hole I really want to go down, but you said...

00:17:16.380 Okay, so you consented.

00:17:19.140 You said yes.

00:17:19.880 Yes.

00:17:20.040 Yes.

00:17:20.640 I absolutely...

00:17:20.880 But could this be a retrospective thing?

00:17:23.780 Like, in the moment, you said yes, but obviously you faltered when it came to your commitment

00:17:32.200 to waiting, to being a born-again virgin, so I'm just trying to...

00:17:38.160 Can you phrase that in a different way?

00:17:41.760 Well...

00:17:42.480 What are you trying to get at?

00:17:44.060 You were pressured.

00:17:45.540 You said you were pressured, but you said you also consented, so I'm just...

00:17:48.640 Yes, he kept asking, like, I mean, we were obviously getting heated, but at the same time,

00:17:55.940 I said, no, that's for my husband, we're not doing anything else, and I had a weak moment.

00:18:02.880 My faith was not strong at that point in time, and I said yes, so there's not much more to

00:18:11.640 it than that, it's just...

00:18:13.640 Okay.

00:18:14.100 Yeah.

00:18:14.600 Got it.

00:18:15.000 Okay, so, a couple of you said single, no guy in the picture, I'll take your words for

00:18:24.800 it, sort of, kind of, ish.

00:18:27.720 I'm trying to think where we were.

00:18:32.040 You're like a coach, correct?

00:18:33.740 Mm-hmm.

00:18:34.520 Yes.

00:18:35.560 And so you coach women, is that correct?

00:18:40.080 Yes, I coach mostly women. 1.00

00:18:41.360 I would say about 80% of my clients are women, 20% men.

00:18:46.380 Okay.

00:18:47.420 Do you have kids, by chance?

00:18:48.620 You have kids, correct?

00:18:49.220 I do.

00:18:49.660 I have a son.

00:18:50.500 You have one son?

00:18:51.300 Mm-hmm.

00:18:51.480 Okay.

00:18:53.180 Oh, yeah, in your Instagram bios, it says, a woman putting other women on game. 1.00

00:18:57.220 What do you mean?

00:18:57.600 Yeah, so there are a lot of women who aren't aware of the mind games that a lot of men play. 1.00

00:19:14.460 And this isn't like a man versus woman, and I'm like all anti-men or anything.

00:19:19.540 But because largely my clients come to me to be put on game, I just go down the rabbit

00:19:29.800 hole of what red flags to avoid, what green flags to look out for.

00:19:36.400 That's a huge conversation.

00:19:38.220 I would say I do, for my male clients, I do somewhat the same.

00:19:47.660 I can coach women really deeply because I am a woman, and I do have that experience, but

00:19:52.120 I can't go full-blown with a guy.

00:19:56.640 At a certain point, I can maybe get him 70% of the way.

00:19:59.680 At a certain point, I send him off to a male coach who can actually, has that lived experience

00:20:07.600 to take him deeper.

00:20:09.400 I specialize in relationship coaching, people who are healing from narcissistic abuse, healing

00:20:16.700 trauma, releasing obsessive overthinking patterns.

00:20:20.540 Essentially, in short, what I do is I help people release low vibrational life circumstances,

00:20:26.820 which is a huge range of things.

00:20:29.680 To transform their life and to put them in a higher frequency so that they can essentially

00:20:35.680 have stronger discernment to attract better, whether it's purpose, whether it's relationships,

00:20:42.320 whether it's...

00:20:43.200 Is it general life coaching or more framed from dating-related coaching?

00:20:51.140 It's everything.

00:20:52.260 I do...

00:20:56.260 Relationships and regular life is so synced, and everything affects everything else.

00:21:04.080 So, largely what I go really deeply with is people releasing low habits, obsessive overthinking

00:21:11.920 patterns, strengthening their confidence, and really ultimately strengthening their discernment,

00:21:19.060 which naturally segues into relationships.

00:21:23.200 So, it's not just relationships.

00:21:24.860 But it's mindset, which is...

00:21:29.860 Okay.

00:21:30.540 We'll come back to a couple of those things here.

00:21:33.160 So, a few of you have so kindly provided me some pre-show information, so I'm just going

00:21:39.320 to ask a couple questions here.

00:21:41.560 Keep, you say you wish dating was more honest. 0.97

00:21:45.300 Dishonest.

00:21:47.060 Yeah.

00:21:47.980 Yeah.

00:21:48.960 So, what about dating or relationships or whatever do you find to be dishonest?

00:21:55.720 Is it on the men's part, the women's part, both?

00:21:57.880 What's kind of your stance right there?

00:21:59.320 It might be on both.

00:22:00.360 I only know women's from my point of view and what friends tell me, so I don't really

00:22:03.560 know how honest they are.

00:22:05.320 But I know from my point of view, I try to be very honest, and I'll end up in...

00:22:10.080 Not anymore, because I'm trying to take a break from the apps and going out and meeting

00:22:13.620 people, but when I was trying and seeking someone that I could be with, I'd be on the

00:22:19.040 apps, or I'd be meeting people in person, and they would act like, oh, you're the only

00:22:24.140 person I'm talking to, and I just want to be with you, and dropped all my... all my

00:22:29.680 hoes, I don't know if I can say it, I don't know if I can say it on here, but I dropped 1.00

00:22:33.100 all my hoes for you and everything, and then the next minute, they wouldn't talk to 1.00

00:22:37.840 me for a week, and then I would be like, okay, I'm going to go on another date, and

00:22:41.260 that they'd see I was on a date, and they'd get mad, like, well, you ghosted me for a

00:22:44.580 week, I didn't think you were really into me, and they're like, no, I am, and then

00:22:47.060 they would ghost again, and then find out they were hooking up with, like, other people

00:22:50.380 in the town, and it's just too messy, and I would rather people just be honest.

00:22:55.220 If you just want to hook up with someone, just say you want to hook up.

00:22:57.420 If you want more than that, say you want more than that, but...

00:23:00.680 Was this in Hawaii?

00:23:01.760 Yeah.

00:23:02.280 Okay.

00:23:03.500 So primarily dishonesty when it came to intentions?

00:23:06.780 Yeah, yeah.

00:23:07.320 Okay, so these guys would say, I'm only talking to you, only got eyes for you, but in reality,

00:23:14.360 they weren't.

00:23:15.560 Yeah, and then if it was like, okay, if you want to date other people, I can too, and then

00:23:18.740 I would try, and then they'd get really mad at me, and like, how could you?

00:23:21.520 How would you date someone else?

00:23:22.680 And it's like, you're dating three other people, I just want them on one date.

00:23:26.360 And you said that you'd prefer if people were more upfront with their...

00:23:31.320 So, I think you said something along the lines of, if they just want to hook up, they should

00:23:37.340 say that, and if they want something serious, they should say that.

00:23:40.340 Yeah.

00:23:40.840 Okay.

00:23:41.500 That would be ideal, but that's not reality.

00:23:43.560 I know, but it would be so easy.

00:23:45.660 But don't most...

00:23:46.640 I feel like most relationships start a bit more casual, and then you continue seeing each

00:23:52.960 other in a casual sort of way, and then eventually you end up, you figure out, oh, we both kind

00:23:58.540 of like each other, then you end up in a relationship.

00:24:01.200 I guess, but all my relationships that started that way didn't really end well, so for the

00:24:05.420 next one, I want to start as friends, and then make them wait, and wait, and then see

00:24:09.080 if they actually really want me, and see if we really get along before I have casual relations

00:24:14.440 with them.

00:24:15.160 Wait, so start as friends?

00:24:16.920 Yeah.

00:24:17.220 Yeah.

00:24:17.320 Or even start with, like, a crush, but I'm still not going to jump into any romantic feelings

00:24:22.040 right away.

00:24:22.440 I think people naturally just like to play games with people, men and women.

00:24:27.040 That's true.

00:24:27.860 It's like a cat and mouse game. 0.72

00:24:29.720 Okay, so you, when you say wait, do you mean wait to have sex? 1.00

00:24:33.900 Kiss, have sex. 1.00

00:24:35.520 Okay. 1.00

00:24:36.020 I could cuddle, but...

00:24:37.180 Cuddle, but wait to do...

00:24:38.620 Okay.

00:24:39.260 Yeah.

00:24:40.700 It could work.

00:24:42.080 It could work, but...

00:24:43.000 I also feel like it's just, like, harder to just be friends with people, especially if

00:24:47.440 you're finding them off of dating apps, because the intention is not to just be friends,

00:24:51.840 you know?

00:24:52.480 Oh, I'm not just talking about dating apps.

00:24:53.840 Yeah, yeah.

00:24:54.020 I'm talking about, like, meeting people in person, friends of friends, or...

00:24:58.260 I don't know.

00:24:58.600 I did fire dancing, so I'd meet some fire dancers sometimes that never really liked them enough

00:25:03.020 to even consider casual before dating or anything, you know?

00:25:07.400 Okay, so, I mean, there's a couple things there.

00:25:10.280 So, you said in your past relationships, though, that you didn't...

00:25:17.500 You typically wouldn't wait.

00:25:18.880 Like, you'd pretty early on...

00:25:21.400 Yeah. 0.99

00:25:21.960 Get intimate, kiss, have sex, whatever, maybe. 0.99

00:25:24.360 Yeah, maybe within, like... 0.71

00:25:25.540 I still would make them wait, like, a week or so, but I feel like that might not have been

00:25:28.840 long enough.

00:25:29.560 I mean, I did date them for a long time, but the attachment, I think, happened a little

00:25:34.260 bit too quickly than it should have, and I ended up...

00:25:36.760 On your end or on the guy's end?

00:25:38.240 On both ends, I think.

00:25:39.680 I ended up breaking up with the relationships I was in because I eventually was just over

00:25:44.560 it, and one relationship, I was being, like, the mother to someone, basically.

00:25:50.780 Like, I paid for their...

00:25:53.200 Oh, that sounds great.

00:25:53.980 Like, rent, all their food, clothes, everything.

00:25:56.540 Oh, that's great.

00:25:56.620 But I'm not your mom.

00:25:58.100 That's great.

00:25:58.420 Get your own job.

00:25:59.440 I was like, come on.

00:25:59.740 Okay, so you were a sugar mama, kind of. 0.99

00:26:01.700 And I didn't want to, and he would make jokes about it.

00:26:03.600 It would be at a dinner with friends, and he'd be like, I love having a sugar mama when 0.99

00:26:06.340 I'd have to pay for his meal because he was broke.

00:26:08.720 I was like, that's not funny.

00:26:09.780 It's not a good joke.

00:26:10.700 I'm just helping you out, but...

00:26:11.940 You do OnlyFans, though, right?

00:26:13.220 I do.

00:26:14.480 How much...

00:26:15.300 Oh, a couple of you do kind of...

00:26:17.880 OnlyFans.

00:26:18.700 Do you guys...

00:26:18.720 OnlyFans.

00:26:20.340 Traditional content.

00:26:21.060 You can make some pretty good money doing that, right?

00:26:25.160 I can.

00:26:25.380 And you...

00:26:26.580 How old was the guy at the time when you were dating him?

00:26:29.700 He was the same age as me.

00:26:31.200 Okay.

00:26:32.120 Yeah.

00:26:33.100 How much...

00:26:33.620 Well, were you out-earning him?

00:26:35.560 Well, yeah.

00:26:36.520 Well, yeah.

00:26:37.040 But that's okay.

00:26:37.860 I mean, I can out-earn someone, but I don't want to pay for your entire life.

00:26:42.680 You know?

00:26:42.940 Like, he had a job, and then he quit his job to party, and he would go out and drink with

00:26:46.940 his friends while...

00:26:48.660 It was just kind of gross.

00:26:51.060 I didn't really like it.

00:26:51.240 How long were you dating him for?

00:26:53.140 That one was two years.

00:26:55.640 I had the four year, and then I had one year, and then two years.

00:26:58.000 So how long were you paying the rent and everything for?

00:27:00.580 We moved in...

00:27:01.600 He moved into my place because he got kicked out because he was living at a frat house,

00:27:05.040 and they threw a party, and they got in trouble, and I was like, fine, you can come live with

00:27:08.400 me.

00:27:09.460 So I let him live with me for free when I was in this one condo, which was $5,000 a month 0.94

00:27:14.800 for a one-bedroom, one-bath, because Hawaii is ridiculous.

00:27:17.700 And so I let him live there with me for free at first, and then we went to go rent another

00:27:23.080 place, rented a house together, and he said he was going to pay for some of the rent, or

00:27:27.940 at least, like, maybe cook some food, or do something, and didn't do anything, just played

00:27:32.760 video games, made a mess, didn't...

00:27:35.160 It was...

00:27:36.540 Sounds like a legend. 1.00

00:27:38.000 Sounds like a fucking legend. 0.95

00:27:39.440 Okay, so, out of curiosity, for those of you who do OF, how much do you guys make? 0.95

00:27:46.940 I think it varies.

00:27:48.880 Let's say if you have that monthly average, if you have to average it over a year, per

00:27:52.960 month or per year, you make six figures a year?

00:27:56.360 Yeah.

00:27:57.120 Seven figures a year?

00:27:58.180 No, not seven figures a year.

00:27:59.260 Mid-six?

00:28:01.620 I don't know if I should say.

00:28:03.580 That's fine.

00:28:04.800 IRS isn't watching or anything.

00:28:06.320 Oh, they know how much I make.

00:28:09.160 Yeah, they know.

00:28:09.740 You pay your taxes.

00:28:10.840 Yeah.

00:28:12.640 What's the most you made in one month?

00:28:14.540 Six figures?

00:28:15.940 Have you had the six-figure month?

00:28:17.520 No, but close.

00:28:18.600 Close.

00:28:19.200 Okay.

00:28:19.420 I'm up to it.

00:28:19.980 All right.

00:28:20.740 What about you?

00:28:21.960 How much are you making on OF?

00:28:24.360 I'm not going to disclose. 0.97

00:28:25.320 Top 0.001, whatever the fuck it is. 0.98

00:28:29.180 What about you? 0.98

00:28:30.320 Yeah, I'm not disclosing that.

00:28:33.280 I'm legally not allowed to disclose that.

00:28:35.700 You're legally not allowed to.

00:28:36.740 Yeah, I'm legally bound.

00:28:39.180 I give you permission to.

00:28:41.220 Well, I'll tell you my lawyer.

00:28:43.420 That's fine.

00:28:44.500 But in any case, I mean, it sounds like you're probably out earning this guy.

00:28:50.020 Yeah.

00:28:50.840 It's okay.

00:28:51.720 I mean, I don't mind doing that.

00:28:55.400 Oh, bro.

00:28:56.120 Too soon.

00:28:58.040 Thank you, man.

00:28:59.660 That's awesome.

00:29:00.040 Dude, thank you.

00:29:01.120 Anyways, who else do you know that drops this back-to-back-to-back-to-back-to-back?

00:29:06.340 Tuesday is going to be lit.

00:29:08.320 I said, let's get some W's in the chat for Brickson.

00:29:11.340 Hashtag pot the champagne.

00:29:13.160 Hashtag insta-rate.

00:29:14.480 Hashtag I'm going to drop a Bitcoin next.

00:29:17.260 Thank you, man.

00:29:17.780 Appreciate it.

00:29:19.180 Thank you so much, Brandon, for your patronage.

00:29:21.820 That does trigger the champagne, so we'll do the champagne.

00:29:24.140 And, Mary, if you can bring it over to me here.

00:29:27.840 It's very nice of that person.

00:29:28.940 Does that mean we can drink some?

00:29:30.620 What's that?

00:29:31.500 Does that mean we can drink some champagne?

00:29:33.200 Yes.

00:29:33.900 Oh, did you unscrew it?

00:29:35.620 You got to pop it.

00:29:36.240 I just took the top of it.

00:29:37.280 Okay.

00:29:38.320 I'm trying to remember how to do it.

00:29:39.520 I'm like nervous, too.

00:29:41.120 Can I do it?

00:29:41.720 No, I know how to do it.

00:29:42.600 Take an eye out. 0.98

00:29:44.480 I fucking watched a YouTube video on how to do it. 0.99

00:29:48.500 Don't give me a black eye. 1.00

00:29:51.060 You like it.

00:29:54.140 Just wrecks the screen.

00:30:00.320 You're scary.

00:30:01.480 Dude, what are you doing, Nick?

00:30:02.580 Move. 1.00

00:30:03.000 What the fuck? 1.00

00:30:03.560 Are you retarded? 1.00

00:30:05.800 Why would you stand directly in the line? 1.00

00:30:08.100 Jesus Christ.

00:30:10.520 You have to know how it feels once, I guess.

00:30:14.640 Brandon Melz, thank you for the champagne bottle pop here.

00:30:19.760 I don't know.

00:30:20.600 We'll let the people serve as they'd like if you guys want any. 1.00

00:30:23.880 Oh, fuck. 1.00

00:30:24.480 I poured it pretty shittily. 1.00

00:30:26.980 Shittily.

00:30:27.460 Shittily.

00:30:28.220 Shittily.

00:30:28.840 I'm going to take that word.

00:30:29.980 All right.

00:30:30.000 Pour.

00:30:30.300 If you're above the age of 21, feel free to.

00:30:34.060 No.

00:30:34.620 I think I'm doing it.

00:30:38.060 Thank you, Brandon.

00:30:38.780 Appreciate it.

00:30:39.800 Oh, did I drop the R word?

00:30:41.620 Okay.

00:30:42.400 Goals.

00:30:43.000 Nick, you were standing right there, bro. 1.00

00:30:46.480 I was trying to open the shit. 1.00

00:30:48.020 Cheers. 0.99

00:30:49.700 Cheers.

00:30:50.600 I watched a YouTube instructional on how to open it, so I got it figured out.

00:30:54.380 Okay, so.

00:30:55.160 Thanks, Shittily.

00:30:55.660 I have a question.

00:30:56.220 I'm not going to hold it the right way.

00:30:57.200 What's your question?

00:30:57.740 Um, so.

00:31:00.700 While you were dating this man, did you find that it was hard for you to respect him?

00:31:05.460 At first, I respected him, but then it became, like, turned into resentment and more, yeah,

00:31:11.500 I started to not respect him as much.

00:31:13.600 Yeah.

00:31:14.000 And it felt like I was, like, a caregiver or a mother, and I'm not old enough to be a caregiver

00:31:18.380 or a mother.

00:31:18.880 I should be doing that on my own, taking care of myself before I'm taking care of someone

00:31:22.240 else yet.

00:31:22.680 But, so, at first, it was, like, no, I understand, like, he was still in college, but then he

00:31:27.420 dropped out of college.

00:31:28.400 He had a job, but then he quit his job.

00:31:30.600 So, at first, I was, like, you're still trying, so it's okay.

00:31:33.320 I'll help you out.

00:31:33.960 Like, I'll help you meet ends and whatever you need, but then it just became, like, he

00:31:39.360 wasn't trying anymore and was just backpacking off of whatever he could get from me and what

00:31:43.500 I would provide.

00:31:45.380 Do you think that with you having, you know, kind of the upper hand on a lot of things,

00:31:49.800 that it changed, like, maybe the attraction or, like, probably the dynamics of your relationship?

00:31:57.320 Yeah.

00:31:57.720 He got way clingier than he was.

00:31:59.480 Like, you were more dominant in it?

00:32:00.440 Yeah.

00:32:00.680 He got way clingier than he was beforehand, because I think he saw me kind of drifting

00:32:05.520 away and not feeling fulfilled as much.

00:32:09.080 And so, he got extra clingy, and I was more distant and not really sure if I was feeling

00:32:14.160 the same anymore.

00:32:14.840 So, it just kind of, like, kept pushing and pushing away until it was, like, I no longer

00:32:19.260 have love for you, or at least, like, you're not the same person that I was dating, you know?

00:32:25.140 So, okay.

00:32:25.880 To go back, you said that in your previous situations, you didn't really wait.

00:32:31.640 Maybe you'd wait, like, a week or something, but now you want to wait longer periods of

00:32:36.120 time.

00:32:36.380 When you say, like, wait longer, what do you mean?

00:32:39.140 Like, three months?

00:32:40.000 Six months?

00:32:40.840 What do we start out as friends?

00:32:42.400 Whatever.

00:32:43.640 I mean, if it starts off, like, with the attraction and the idea of, I could date this person,

00:32:48.040 then I want to go on multiple dates, maybe after a month or so, a month or two.

00:32:53.520 But that depends on how much time you spend together.

00:32:55.620 Like, if you're only hanging out, like, once a week, then that time will be longer.

00:32:59.640 But if we're hanging out, like, every single day, it's going to feel, like, a lot longer

00:33:03.060 to get to know someone way quicker if you're spending every moment with them.

00:33:05.980 Okay.

00:33:07.840 What if I told you that guys would feel, I don't know if disrespected is the right word,

00:33:16.160 but a lot of guys would take issue with, like, for example, say two weeks ago, you hooked

00:33:24.040 up with a guy the first night you met him.

00:33:26.300 And then you meet the guy, and you're like, oh, I want to have a relationship with this

00:33:29.620 guy.

00:33:30.860 And then you're like, I'm going to make him wait three months.

00:33:33.820 A lot of guys are going to, like, see that if they know that you've had a different standard

00:33:37.960 beforehand.

00:33:38.640 They're going to be like, they're going to have an issue with it.

00:33:42.180 My standard was not that far off.

00:33:44.080 I think I mean also not just, like, sleep right away.

00:33:46.580 I also mean, like, I moved in with the people I was with, like, a month into dating, two months

00:33:51.180 into dating.

00:33:51.620 My new rule is, like, let me date you for, like, a year before we get a place together

00:33:55.200 because it's just too much too soon.

00:33:58.160 I wouldn't just say just sleeping with someone.

00:33:59.900 Also, I wouldn't be in that situation because I do not have one-night stands and haven't

00:34:05.040 had one-night stands since maybe high school.

00:34:07.740 So I don't think that situation would ever come up anyway.

00:34:11.480 Okay.

00:34:12.360 Well, let's go around the table on this. 0.92

00:34:14.720 How long do you guys think you should wait before having sex with somebody new?

00:34:19.720 We'll just start with you if you want to reiterate.

00:34:21.780 I'm down to wait, like, three weeks, three, four, depending on how often we're hanging

00:34:26.920 out and how much I'm into you.

00:34:28.920 Okay.

00:34:30.120 I don't like a blanket exact time frame or date.

00:34:35.860 I really think it's about feeling out the person.

00:34:38.400 But I do not encourage any of my clients to have sex too early or if they're not ready

00:34:45.540 or they're not feeling comfortable.

00:34:46.640 As far as, like, actually getting into a relationship, one thing I do know as far as, like, time frames

00:34:53.620 that seem to work out pretty close in line across the board is, like, if he's not committed

00:34:59.940 into a relationship within, like, two, three months maximum, he's just not going to.

00:35:04.980 There are always exceptions to the rule, but never assume that you're one.

00:35:08.860 And so as far as, like, having sex, I can't put a time frame on it.

00:35:14.080 It's really how often are you communicating with them?

00:35:16.620 Is this man consistent?

00:35:17.980 Is he clearly initiating?

00:35:19.220 Is he clearly pursuing?

00:35:20.220 I mean, just properly vetting him is the best advice that I could give.

00:35:28.820 It's really hard to just give a blanket statement without knowing the person, knowing how much

00:35:33.360 they're talking, and knowing what that woman specifically is really dealing with. 0.64

00:35:38.340 Okay.

00:35:40.360 Kind of, like she said.

00:35:41.940 I don't put a time frame on it. 0.76

00:35:43.280 If I'm really into you and I want to have sex, we're going to have sex, basically. 0.99

00:35:48.820 And if you fuck me and then leave and you weren't ready for a relationship, that's fine, too. 1.00

00:35:53.340 You weren't ready for it. 1.00

00:35:54.300 So I'm not going to pressure you into anything.

00:35:57.460 Yeah, I kind of feel that.

00:35:58.580 I feel like it's just about the connection.

00:36:00.120 I don't think you necessarily have to put, like, a time stamp on it, because even if it's,

00:36:03.600 like, three months down the line, you're not feeling it.

00:36:05.040 You're just not feeling it.

00:36:05.940 So it's just kind of whenever the sexual tension and things like that.

00:36:10.660 Sure.

00:36:10.880 That's what I was going to say, was it depends on the tension.

00:36:14.860 I like to wait until the tension really, really builds.

00:36:17.740 That could be a month.

00:36:18.740 That could be two months.

00:36:19.420 That could be three months.

00:36:20.580 Whenever that tension is, you can't ignore it, then that's when it's good to happen.

00:36:26.260 What do you guys mean by tension?

00:36:28.020 Like, wait until you can't wait anymore.

00:36:29.640 Right.

00:36:29.780 When you're, like, begging.

00:36:30.720 You're, like, oh, my gosh, it's been too long.

00:36:32.340 Just kiss me.

00:36:33.020 Take me right now.

00:36:33.980 Like, sometimes it's just, like, you get teased with cuddles and whatever and nice dates and flowers

00:36:40.300 or whatever for so long until you're, like, ah, please.

00:36:43.000 So, like, temptation type thing?

00:36:44.880 Yeah.

00:36:45.500 Yeah, sure.

00:36:46.360 I guess so.

00:36:46.840 You could say that.

00:36:47.480 You could say it like that.

00:36:48.080 So, with the current guy that you're seeing now, how long did you wait with him?

00:36:55.240 We haven't had sex yet. 0.55

00:36:56.400 Oh, you guys haven't had sex? 0.89

00:36:57.860 It's been about a month.

00:36:59.380 Yeah, we're going on a month.

00:37:00.340 A month.

00:37:01.560 How many times have you hung out, though?

00:37:04.360 Pretty often.

00:37:04.880 Because it can vary.

00:37:05.740 Like, you know, you could be seeing someone for a month and hang out two times.

00:37:09.180 Or you could be seeing someone for two weeks and hung out, like, three or four times a week, you know?

00:37:13.360 Yeah, I'd say three or four times a week.

00:37:15.340 Three or four times a week?

00:37:16.800 And has he just not gone for it?

00:37:18.400 Or you're kind of...

00:37:19.740 I kind of, yeah.

00:37:20.940 I make it kind of hard.

00:37:23.000 So, it's, like, if he really does...

00:37:26.340 Stop the cow! 1.00

00:37:27.380 Nick, can you boost the audio a little bit?

00:37:29.040 If he really does pursue that, then I'm, like, okay.

00:37:33.000 You know.

00:37:33.360 So, he wants it, but you said no.

00:37:35.540 Like, you guys are just waiting.

00:37:37.280 Yeah.

00:37:37.520 You're waiting?

00:37:37.880 Yeah, I'm waiting.

00:37:38.880 Well, we're both waiting until, like, I know that he's sure and then I know that I'm sure as well.

00:37:43.960 It sounds like he's respecting you, too.

00:37:45.840 And, like, your decision, which is really beautiful and not always that common, you know?

00:37:50.500 Some guys are like, well, I'm not going to get it, then bye.

00:37:52.740 Yeah, no.

00:37:53.380 If they can actually wait and respect, like, if you want to wait, that's just kind of shows their character.

00:37:58.240 But is that disrespectful for a guy to say, well, if you don't want to have sex with me, then we're on a different timeline, goodbye.

00:38:04.220 If that's not what they want, if that's what they want, sure.

00:38:07.080 Well, earlier you said, well, you wish that guys could be up front about what they want.

00:38:11.020 Well, yeah.

00:38:11.140 Isn't that a guy being up front about what?

00:38:13.000 Yeah.

00:38:13.300 Yeah, but if it's, like, come to a time and he's like, okay, it's been too long, and she said, well, I told you already, I wanted to wait.

00:38:19.040 And if he's already had it, then that's still him.

00:38:22.400 Like, don't be pushy.

00:38:23.480 And I've had guys tell me, like, I'm just a very touchy person, I'm a sexually active person, and I'm like, okay, well, then you're just not a person for me, if that makes sense.

00:38:34.240 Yeah.

00:38:34.540 Okay.

00:38:35.320 Mm-hmm.

00:38:36.940 So is it, you've been seeing him a month?

00:38:39.680 Mm-hmm, almost a month.

00:38:41.060 Okay.

00:38:41.700 What about you?

00:38:43.720 Till marriage.

00:38:45.680 You're waiting till marriage?

00:38:46.900 Yeah.

00:38:47.440 Are you, have you had anything before, or?

00:38:50.880 No.

00:38:51.220 Okay, so you and your boyfriend, you're waiting till marriage?

00:38:53.480 Correct.

00:38:54.140 Okay, got it.

00:38:54.920 What about you?

00:38:57.040 I am waiting till marriage as well, so I think that the best thing to do is to wait till marriage. 0.96

00:39:01.680 I think that when you have it too soon, you kind of risk the relationship.

00:39:08.300 I think there's, you know, like a certain amount of respect, you know, that comes with having to wait.

00:39:13.600 I think that as a woman, one thing for me, if I can know that he is willing to wait for me, and not just wait for me, but wait till our wedding night, then I know that he is in for the long haul, and I know how he feels about me.

00:39:28.060 So, I mean, it's not even just, you know, like about my faith, it's ultimately about if I want to give this relationship the absolute best chance that I can, then I think that we have to establish some kind of foundation.

00:39:44.680 And I think that, ultimately, I think that waiting till marriage is what people should do. 1.00

00:39:51.260 It's obviously not what I actually did.

00:39:54.320 But, of course, there's always, you know, there's always regrets, and so, yeah.

00:40:02.040 I have a question.

00:40:02.660 That's my stance on it.

00:40:03.800 Do you expect the man to be, to have the same mentality, like to wait for marriage as well?

00:40:10.480 Yes, I do.

00:40:12.280 Okay.

00:40:12.740 And I will not pursue anyone who...

00:40:14.440 So, will you pursue someone that has had sex before?

00:40:19.040 Yes.

00:40:19.840 Okay, so they don't have to be a virgin?

00:40:21.080 Yeah.

00:40:21.500 Okay.

00:40:21.820 Okay.

00:40:23.240 Okay.

00:40:24.320 Yeah.

00:40:25.080 And how long are you waiting to, like, like if there was a time frame, like, you're going to be engaged for a year, you want to date for three years, like, what does that look like?

00:40:36.100 I think that's a good question.

00:40:37.760 To be honest, I'm not entirely sure.

00:40:40.000 It ultimately kind of just depends on, I think, the person.

00:40:46.340 I don't know if I have met him yet, but when I meet him, I know that I'll know because of how, you know, how he respects me,

00:40:54.100 and how ultimately, you know, his faith comes first, and if his faith comes first as well, if he is ultimately submitted to God, then I'm able to submit to him, and we're able to wait for each other.

00:41:09.660 Go ahead.

00:41:09.940 So do you think if he wants to have sex with you, it's kind of, like, disrespectful? 0.55

00:41:14.160 Would you, like, would you take that the wrong way?

00:41:16.700 No.

00:41:17.260 No. 0.94

00:41:17.580 I mean, I would want him, you know, I would want him to want to have sex with me, but I would want him to wait.

00:41:25.100 I would want him to have the self, you know, control and, you know, the willpower to be able to hold off because I think there's a certain amount of respect.

00:41:34.240 There's a certain amount of, you know, like, value in something that you have to wait for it, you know?

00:41:40.540 Right.

00:41:40.740 It's like a pearl, you know?

00:41:41.760 It takes a long time for that pearl, you know, to become something, and it's inside of a clam, and it's not until you open it.

00:41:49.060 Sorry.

00:41:50.000 No, you're good.

00:41:51.140 So is it, like, it's a very priceless thing. 1.00

00:41:54.400 Is it vaginal penetration that you would consider sex, or is oral sex still on the table? 0.99

00:42:00.460 I always wondered that. 1.00

00:42:01.700 Yeah.

00:42:02.040 So that's a very good question.

00:42:03.920 Like, would you, you know, like, go down on him before you married him?

00:42:07.160 Or let him go down on him?

00:42:07.720 I've thought about...

00:42:08.840 You've thought about it?

00:42:09.500 No, no.

00:42:10.380 I have thought about that question in my mind.

00:42:13.560 Would or would I not allow that?

00:42:15.900 And at one point, I might have.

00:42:18.140 And at this point, I do not think I would.

00:42:20.480 I have a twofer.

00:42:21.980 Did you...

00:42:22.920 In fact, no, I would not.

00:42:24.360 Okay.

00:42:24.780 Oh, sorry.

00:42:26.300 Did you come to this conclusion?

00:42:29.060 Like, did you find God after the situation happened with the Australian guy? 0.89

00:42:33.780 Or did you already have this...

00:42:36.260 Like, is it your religion?

00:42:37.600 Or did you just find God and decide this is the path you want to go down?

00:42:41.860 Very good question.

00:42:43.440 So I have always been a Christian.

00:42:45.700 It's, you know, there's been certain points in my life where my faith has very much slacked.

00:42:55.280 And then there's been times when it's picked up.

00:42:58.820 But overall, God has always been constant in my life.

00:43:02.960 And he is the number one thing.

00:43:04.400 There's nothing else that I would ever do that I think...

00:43:07.700 Like, I...

00:43:09.700 At this point in my life, I'm not going to choose just any man.

00:43:14.260 I can't because I know exactly what it is, who I want.

00:43:20.120 And whether or not I find him is not really up to me.

00:43:23.960 It's ultimately up to God.

00:43:26.200 And can you repeat your question?

00:43:29.420 I just want to make sure I'm, like, targeting...

00:43:31.260 Let's move on.

00:43:32.020 You can move on.

00:43:32.800 I have an additional, like, question, though.

00:43:34.840 Okay.

00:43:35.060 Like, about, like, the... 0.99

00:43:36.560 Like, would you consider oral sex, like, also saving yourself for marriage something? 0.96

00:43:40.760 But, like, you said you're saving yourself for marriage, too, right? 0.98

00:43:43.420 Like, what would the definition of that be?

00:43:46.060 Like, just nothing sexual at all?

00:43:48.260 What about soaking?

00:43:49.280 Mormons can do that, right? 0.83

00:43:51.060 Is that a thing?

00:43:52.080 I don't even know what that is.

00:43:53.300 It's a thing, but, like...

00:43:54.360 Oh, you used to be Mormon. 0.99

00:43:55.240 That's not even...

00:43:55.880 No, but I'd just do it for fun.

00:43:57.440 I'd have an accent.

00:43:58.940 I'd be like, can you just put it in and we can fall asleep like that?

00:44:01.640 Soaking is so fun.

00:44:03.920 It didn't always end up working, but, like, maybe twice.

00:44:06.720 It was just nice and peaceful.

00:44:08.560 Cuddling.

00:44:08.960 On top?

00:44:09.520 On top.

00:44:10.160 No, just, like, spooning.

00:44:11.560 Spooning, cuddling.

00:44:12.960 I'd be like, can you just fall asleep with it in?

00:44:15.600 You got to try it.

00:44:16.400 Just soft?

00:44:16.640 It's, like, super intimate.

00:44:18.540 No, it's not hard, and then it slowly gets soft.

00:44:21.640 But imagine it just, like, falls out.

00:44:24.360 I'm sorry.

00:44:24.840 No, it's really intimate and kind of cute, but it honestly doesn't always last like that.

00:44:28.920 Cute?

00:44:29.440 Yeah. 1.00

00:44:30.340 Spooning with a dick in. 1.00

00:44:31.740 Cute? 1.00

00:44:32.320 Yeah.

00:44:32.380 Okay.

00:44:32.840 It's like, okay, goodnight.

00:44:34.060 But then it doesn't always end up as just soaking, but...

00:44:37.820 I feel like it's, like, Kegels kind of, like, trying to keep it in there.

00:44:39.920 Well, soaking is, like, putting it in and letting it sit there while someone else is, like,

00:44:43.400 shaking the bed to, like, do the act.

00:44:46.140 I feel like that's a little bit different.

00:44:47.740 It's different.

00:44:48.920 I don't know about that.

00:44:49.980 It's different, and then we would just use soaking as a term for when we wanted to do it.

00:44:53.220 We'd be like, should we soak? 0.99

00:44:56.980 Soaking is bullshit, though. 1.00

00:44:58.220 I think it's still having sex. 1.00

00:44:59.580 Yeah, I think that counts. 0.97

00:45:00.180 It's still having sex.

00:45:01.200 That counts.

00:45:01.840 Loopholes on loophole. 0.86

00:45:03.080 It's kind of silly.

00:45:04.640 I don't know.

00:45:05.640 Let them have it.

00:45:06.660 They need a win.

00:45:07.360 Let them have that win.

00:45:08.540 Definitely counts.

00:45:10.000 You had a question for Maddie.

00:45:11.320 Go ahead.

00:45:11.640 Yeah, well, I already asked her.

00:45:12.840 I just wanted to know what it meant to you.

00:45:14.320 Yeah, it's just anything that involves, like, lust.

00:45:20.440 And so I would include anything that's, like, sexually immoral. 0.99

00:45:24.140 And so that would include, like, oral sex, anal sex, like, all of that. 1.00

00:45:28.220 Oh, god damn. 1.00

00:45:28.980 Okay. 0.99

00:45:29.280 The back door.

00:45:29.780 All right.

00:45:30.280 There you have it, folks.

00:45:31.320 So just going back to the whole, like, how long should you wait thing.

00:45:34.480 Who here has had a one-night stand?

00:45:36.800 Or, excuse me, let me clarify.

00:45:39.680 Because one-night stand means something kind of very specific.

00:45:42.240 Have you ever slept with someone, maybe, the first time ever meeting them?

00:45:49.600 Show of hands. 1.00

00:45:51.180 Bro, you guys are full of shit. 1.00

00:45:52.320 Come on. 1.00

00:45:52.860 I mean, on set.

00:45:53.320 Come on.

00:45:54.500 Well, yeah, but, I mean, like, more, like, with a civilian, let's say.

00:45:58.740 Absolutely not.

00:45:59.700 First time meeting?

00:46:01.080 Come on.

00:46:01.220 Absolutely not.

00:46:01.740 I'm too scared of this.

00:46:02.640 I get tested.

00:46:03.380 Yeah, I'm too scared of STDs, or they could be a serial killer, or they could be, I don't

00:46:08.480 know, as a woman, it's kind of scary.

00:46:09.860 I don't want to.

00:46:10.260 No.

00:46:11.060 None of you have been, like, at a party or a club, and you met a guy.

00:46:14.040 Making out.

00:46:14.680 My friends won't let me.

00:46:16.200 But, no.

00:46:17.120 Not for one.

00:46:17.740 I'm always with my girlfriends, and they would.

00:46:19.540 Stop the cap. 0.94

00:46:20.600 I'm calling cap on all of you. 0.84

00:46:21.400 Deadass series.

00:46:22.640 Okay, all right.

00:46:23.440 Fair enough.

00:46:24.300 The other thing, Keep, that you had, I wish I could just meet someone in the park or coffee

00:46:27.960 shop, like a fairy tale, but I know real life isn't like that.

00:46:33.380 Yeah, don't we all?

00:46:34.860 Just the idea of, like, sitting there, like, studying, or, like, on a video, or doing something

00:46:40.340 on your phone, drinking a coffee, and someone comes by and just, like, starts up some banter.

00:46:46.120 Like, that's just, like, the classic movie trope that, of course, like, a Hallmark movie,

00:46:51.620 you know, that is ideal, but I know it's not realistic, but.

00:46:55.660 Show of hands.

00:46:56.160 Who here would prefer to meet someone organically, like, in person, instead of, like, a dating

00:47:01.340 app, or social media, Instagram? 0.97

00:47:03.560 You know, the meet cute, or whatever the fuck it's called. 0.98

00:47:05.620 Yeah, the meet cute. 0.98

00:47:06.020 They'd come to you, up to you at Trader Joe's, or, you know, at the park, or at the beach.

00:47:10.620 Trader Joe's.

00:47:11.140 Trader Joe's.

00:47:11.860 I love Trader Joe's.

00:47:13.360 Trader Joe's.

00:47:13.860 Is that where you met your current guy?

00:47:16.120 Where did I?

00:47:17.560 No.

00:47:18.160 Oh, okay.

00:47:18.660 All right.

00:47:19.740 Well, just to, okay, I'm going to come back to that really quick.

00:47:22.480 I do want to ask, because I forgot to ask this earlier.

00:47:25.480 Those of you who do OF, you, you, you, you, what kind of, you don't have to be specific,

00:47:32.020 but do you do solo content, GG, BG, so girl, girl, boy, girl?

00:47:37.580 I do solo content, and I've done a video with an ex before, which is one.

00:47:45.480 Okay.

00:47:45.700 And if I do ones with girls, it's not, like, girl, girl content, it's more like, ooh, jump

00:47:50.660 around with their boobies or something, like, not, like, hardcore intense stuff, really.

00:47:54.980 But you have done one or some BG content with an ex?

00:47:58.680 Yeah.

00:47:59.120 Okay.

00:47:59.300 I've done a couple of them.

00:47:59.920 What about you?

00:48:01.600 I'm full on.

00:48:03.080 Full on, okay.

00:48:04.240 All right.

00:48:05.000 Yeah.

00:48:05.820 Solo, girl, girl.

00:48:07.460 I haven't done boy, girl, but girl, girl, for sure.

00:48:11.780 Solo, completely solo.

00:48:13.660 Any BG?

00:48:14.480 No BG?

00:48:14.960 No.

00:48:16.200 Okay, coming back to you, so you were given quite a head nod there.

00:48:21.360 So, what are we talking about?

00:48:24.020 Well, I come from the porn world, so.

00:48:26.360 But, I mean, were you doing one-on-one scenes with men? 0.92

00:48:29.260 Were you doing group, like, orgy type stuff?

00:48:31.720 Everybody.

00:48:32.260 What's the biggest group scene you've done?

00:48:34.660 I've blown 15 guys.

00:48:37.920 Nice.

00:48:38.400 Okay, all right.

00:48:39.560 In one sitting.

00:48:40.900 It was really fun.

00:48:41.520 Haram!

00:48:41.920 That was crazy.

00:48:42.620 Is that, is that what they call a Bukkake?

00:48:46.280 Yes.

00:48:46.800 Blowbang Bukkake. 0.99

00:48:48.000 Yeah.

00:48:48.200 Okay.

00:48:48.680 All right.

00:48:49.500 So, 15 is the most.

00:48:51.740 Yes.

00:48:52.500 Okay.

00:48:53.480 DP?

00:48:54.260 15 is the most guys, but I've done 16 in an orgy as far as, like, men and women.

00:48:59.740 Okay.

00:49:01.280 DP?

00:49:02.440 No.

00:49:03.000 Oh, okay.

00:49:03.440 It's in the works.

00:49:03.820 Only use one hole.

00:49:05.160 Huh?

00:49:05.500 Only use two holes, actually. 0.98

00:49:06.620 Mouth and puss. 0.93

00:49:07.760 Good to know. 0.98

00:49:09.000 What's up? 0.99

00:49:09.560 I've been in a 15, 16-girl orgy before. 0.96

00:49:12.940 I forgot I did that. 0.95

00:49:13.700 All girls. 0.60

00:49:14.500 All girls. 0.60

00:49:15.540 Okay.

00:49:15.820 Bunch of girls. 1.00

00:49:17.020 All right.

00:49:17.380 Very fun.

00:49:17.580 We've done it twice.

00:49:18.620 The first time was only a few girls. 0.99

00:49:19.880 Sure.

00:49:20.000 When I was 15.

00:49:20.940 Okay.

00:49:22.040 And so, just to bring it back to your thing, and maybe show of hands also from the girls,

00:49:26.480 you said that, I wish I could just meet someone in the park or coffee shop like a fairy tale,

00:49:30.300 but I know real life isn't like that.

00:49:32.460 Show of hands, who agrees with that?

00:49:34.340 I think most of you said...

00:49:35.380 Wait, what was the question?

00:49:36.640 Would you prefer to meet someone organically, kind of more, like, meet cute, meet in a park,

00:49:41.000 coffee shop, whatever?

00:49:42.520 Yeah.

00:49:43.600 Okay.

00:49:45.040 Okay.

00:49:45.960 Well, for you guys specifically, don't you think that the fairy tale thing would be for

00:49:52.100 a guy to not meet a girl who's done sex work?

00:49:55.220 No, this isn't, like, Cinderella or anything.

00:49:58.040 It's real life.

00:49:58.640 Like, at least if you're honest about it, and they have a problem with it, then that's

00:50:02.480 fine, too.

00:50:02.940 They have a problem with it.

00:50:03.920 But if they don't, good to go.

00:50:05.400 What kind of man do you think would want that? 1.00

00:50:09.360 I'm just curious.

00:50:11.320 I haven't dated a man since freshman year in high school, and there's countless of them

00:50:18.160 in my DMs asking to take me out.

00:50:20.480 They know what I do.

00:50:21.360 But do you think that they would want to marry someone like that?

00:50:25.840 I don't want to marry anybody.

00:50:27.080 I don't want to marry anybody.

00:50:30.940 Yeah.

00:50:31.380 I don't even want children.

00:50:32.540 If that was, like, the next part of that.

00:50:35.040 I've never met a single person who didn't, didn't, like, who cared, I guess.

00:50:42.240 I've never met a single man who's cared about it.

00:50:44.120 None of my exes cared.

00:50:45.160 The people that I've tried dating before or gone on dates before, none of them cared.

00:50:50.260 They all supported it.

00:50:51.680 They had no issues with it whatsoever.

00:50:53.820 They said, if it empowers you and if you're making money and you're supporting your family,

00:50:57.280 which I do with my money.

00:50:58.240 I have very struggling parents, so I support my parents with my money.

00:51:02.640 And very upfront about that.

00:51:03.360 Can I ask you a question?

00:51:04.120 Very upfront, too.

00:51:05.080 Has a guy ever lied to you to get laid?

00:51:07.900 Or do you think men have ever lied to you to get laid?

00:51:11.280 In what way?

00:51:11.920 Because I don't let just anyone have sex with me. 0.95

00:51:13.700 I mean, I'm a guy, and I know men frequently will lie to get laid, so they'll gas you up. 0.92

00:51:21.560 No, babe.

00:51:22.400 It doesn't matter.

00:51:24.000 No, I really strongly don't think so.

00:51:26.700 So I've honestly never had those questions, either.

00:51:29.500 I've never questioned it once, because if I did and I could tell that they weren't being honest,

00:51:34.780 I feel like I have a pretty good radar, and I just wouldn't let them.

00:51:38.340 I wouldn't entertain them.

00:51:38.920 Sure.

00:51:39.300 Well, okay, before I continue on with that thread for a little bit.

00:51:43.700 But why can't, you know, you often, I mean, you said that you'd like to meet someone in the park or coffee shop.

00:51:50.940 What is stopping you from going up to a guy?

00:51:54.760 I'm shy, I guess.

00:51:56.760 Okay.

00:51:57.240 And I also am, like, submissive and shy, so.

00:52:00.880 Sure.

00:52:01.480 I would if I could, and sometimes I'll, like, have a couple drinks or, like, I'll have a cocktail,

00:52:06.000 and I'll be, like, go up to someone, say they're cute, get their number, talk on Instagram for a little bit,

00:52:10.280 and then I won't really follow through, because, I don't know, things come up or whatever, but I'm more shy.

00:52:15.400 That's the only reason.

00:52:16.520 So if I have someone that can come up and talk to me and start some banter and chat with me,

00:52:22.280 and I enjoy it and they get my number, then even better, because then in the future,

00:52:26.780 if I'm too shy to make a move or whatever, then they can take the reins, I guess.

00:52:33.560 Okay.

00:52:34.300 It's just me.

00:52:34.920 Anybody else here?

00:52:35.820 Would you, maybe you want someone to approach you in the Trader Joe's, park, coffee shop?

00:52:42.060 Would you go up?

00:52:43.340 Have you gone up to a guy?

00:52:45.340 Yeah.

00:52:45.720 Yeah.

00:52:46.220 Come on.

00:52:47.200 Come on.

00:52:47.840 It's not that hard these days.

00:52:49.060 No, it's really not.

00:52:50.460 It's as simple as just, it's simply just, you're really attractive, and that's it.

00:52:55.800 Like, it doesn't have to be like, a lot of guys will, specifically guys, will come up

00:53:00.960 and be like, you're really attractive, like, can I get your number?

00:53:03.380 It doesn't have to be like that.

00:53:04.500 It has to be, I have more respect for a guy if he's just like, I just want to let you know

00:53:08.580 you're really pretty.

00:53:09.520 I'm like, okay, thank you, and they walk away.

00:53:11.420 That says so much more than a guy being like, let me get your snap.

00:53:16.880 Like, that's so ugly.

00:53:17.840 Because guys can be creepy.

00:53:18.840 At least ask my name.

00:53:20.000 Huh?

00:53:20.620 If they talk to me at first.

00:53:22.260 So, you want to meet a guy in public organically, but you also want him to just compliment

00:53:27.580 you and walk away and never talk to you again?

00:53:30.740 That leads to something.

00:53:32.580 Oh, I see what you're saying.

00:53:33.640 Have you ever been in a major city?

00:53:34.940 You never see people, like.

00:53:36.240 Yeah, it happens, and it also doesn't happen.

00:53:38.280 It could lead to, like, someone pulling a gun at you.

00:53:38.940 If I'm in LA, and I approach a girl somewhere, like, I'm never seeing her again.

00:53:45.720 Maybe.

00:53:46.040 Unless I get her contact info.

00:53:47.580 Yeah.

00:53:47.960 I would say that's so disappointing when, like, a really attractive guy, or even if they're

00:53:51.860 cool or not, comes over, and they compliment you, and then you don't hear from them, and

00:53:55.520 it's like, wait, I didn't get your information.

00:53:57.960 I'll never see that person again.

00:53:59.800 It's kind of a bummer.

00:54:00.980 It feels good, and you're like, oh, I just got a compliment, but then you, like, look back,

00:54:04.860 and you're like, what if they were really cool, and we could have hit it off?

00:54:07.620 That's true.

00:54:08.820 I mean, there are also situations where, like, the only time I've really hit on a guy is

00:54:12.280 if, like, he's my waiter, and I just leave my number.

00:54:15.560 Or, like, it doesn't need to be super in your face.

00:54:18.800 Like, it can just be, like, hey, like, I thought you were really good looking.

00:54:22.380 Like, here's my number.

00:54:23.960 Text me.

00:54:24.920 Sure.

00:54:25.860 Simple as that.

00:54:26.580 It doesn't need to be.

00:54:27.500 Some women do it, but it's pretty rare. 1.00

00:54:29.560 Yeah, I've definitely done it a couple times.

00:54:30.960 Women are more confident now, though. 1.00

00:54:32.200 Yeah, I've definitely done it a couple times.

00:54:34.220 Okay.

00:54:35.420 So, I don't do it, and I don't advise that people do it.

00:54:39.880 If they're, if you're looking for, so it can go deep.

00:54:43.680 For me personally, and a lot of the women that I coach, like, we all have masculine and

00:54:48.820 feminine energy within us, but me personally, like, I'm more of a core feminine energy,

00:54:54.260 especially in relationship.

00:54:56.480 So, essentially, masculine energy is more of the initiator, and at most I would, like,

00:55:04.240 look in a guy's direction and smile, and if he doesn't initiate and come converse, then

00:55:11.420 that's okay.

00:55:12.240 Then nothing's going to come of it.

00:55:13.960 But I personally don't initiate.

00:55:16.980 It's not that I'm not comfortable doing it.

00:55:19.180 I'm just not going to, because you have no idea what, are they single?

00:55:23.760 Are they married?

00:55:24.740 Are they taken?

00:55:25.840 Are they really, truly interested in anything more than sex?

00:55:29.700 All those things you just listed are things that men would face, too.

00:55:33.960 in a scenario where they would approach?

00:55:35.620 Yes, of course.

00:55:36.860 Yeah.

00:55:37.020 Okay.

00:55:37.540 Yeah.

00:55:38.000 Well, that's not a very good reason to not approach, then.

00:55:40.280 Yeah, I think women should be a little bit more cautious in general, and this is a blanket 1.00

00:55:44.240 statement, because we have all gender spectrums.

00:55:48.160 We have all sexualities, but just for sake and ease of conversation, as far as straight,

00:55:54.540 I'm going to just use straight male, female example. 1.00

00:55:58.220 We can switch it up a little bit more.

00:56:00.100 But I just, I feel like a lot of women have been in a situation like her, and I have been

00:56:06.960 in the past, too, where you're with a guy, and it may start out initially okay, and a

00:56:11.760 little, the reciprocity is there, but over time, you get more in your masculine energy,

00:56:17.340 and he gets more in his feminine energy, and he is sloughing.

00:56:20.140 This is just, her example is a little bit, a good extreme example of sloughing off on the 0.78

00:56:25.060 bills, or maybe he's playing video games, or maybe he wants you to be the breadwinner.

00:56:28.560 And there's nothing wrong with the roles being reversed, but I think in general, it's best 0.97

00:56:35.040 if you are wanting a man who is a bit more in his masculine energy of provider, protector,

00:56:44.320 initiator, then I think it's best to just start out from day one.

00:56:48.100 Typically, relationships end how they start.

00:56:51.000 So if you're the initiator, it oftentimes is with a man who's more in his unbalanced

00:56:58.180 feminine energy. 1.00

00:56:59.380 There's nothing wrong with that.

00:57:01.020 There are those situations that are reality, but I just don't think that they are the norm.

00:57:07.000 Kind of depends on what you're looking for.

00:57:09.040 But because I've spoken to so many women, and they're wanting more of that man to be in

00:57:14.580 his core masculine energy, which does not mean he's hugely in his masculine energy, and you

00:57:20.320 have to be submissive and just do whatever he says.

00:57:22.120 It's more of a balance.

00:57:24.220 Maybe, I know this may sound a bit robotic, but just for sake of explaining it, oh, I would

00:57:32.800 consider myself 60, 70% more in my feminine energy, and I'm looking for somebody who is

00:57:38.080 60, 70% more in their masculine energy, because I think over the long term, that can go the

00:57:44.660 distance, and not in a codependent way, where the woman is extremely in her feminine energy, 0.86

00:57:49.600 and the man is extremely in his masculine energy, or vice versa, and there's control dynamics

00:57:54.780 at play.

00:57:55.500 And it's not a robotic 50-50 either.

00:57:58.520 So that's just me.

00:58:00.440 It's just what I advise.

00:58:01.520 So you had something.

00:58:02.120 Go ahead.

00:58:02.500 Yeah.

00:58:02.820 So would you call a man who's just shy feminine? 0.80

00:58:08.080 Because that's not in his natural, like, it's just not in his personality to initiate some,

00:58:13.780 like, I just feel like some men are just a little bit more, you know, conservative, and

00:58:17.500 they just keep to themselves, but I don't feel like that makes them feminine, and I feel

00:58:21.040 like, you know what I mean?

00:58:22.220 That's just my question.

00:58:22.960 Yeah, I don't have, I really just stray hugely away from blanket statements.

00:58:27.440 Masculine isn't just like, oh, masculine, and like, feminine is just dainty either.

00:58:32.240 It's not really quiet.

00:58:33.200 If he's a bit more hesitant to initiate, you could say he either is, it's all dependent,

00:58:45.300 he either is essentially meant to match with a woman who is more comfortable and wants to

00:58:50.120 stay more in her masculine energy and is just more of that dominant role, or maybe more of 1.00

00:58:54.220 a 50-50 type of relationship, which in my personal opinion is rare, and so no, I wouldn't, like,

00:59:04.320 just, I wouldn't shame him or, like, even say that he's necessarily feminine, no.

00:59:10.700 But if he is looking to be in his masculine energy more so, and have a partner that is

00:59:17.760 a bit more in her feminine energy, then it's, I mean, that's something that has to grow and 1.00

00:59:23.620 evolve within him, I would say.

00:59:28.020 Thank you.

00:59:30.540 Thank you.

00:59:32.360 Thank you.

00:59:32.920 Okay, so, to bring it back here, we were talking about the, what was it, the freaking,

00:59:44.620 wait, hold on.

00:59:46.000 A lot of things.

00:59:46.900 Oh, meeting someone in public, blah, blah, blah.

00:59:50.080 Okay.

00:59:51.660 What you were saying that you haven't encountered, like, any guys at all who've had any issue with

00:59:57.480 you doing adult content.

00:59:59.720 No.

01:00:00.720 I haven't had a single one.

01:00:01.560 I think one of my exes, he didn't have any problem with me doing content, he just didn't

01:00:06.200 want me to film with other guys or film explicit with other girls, and I respected that and

01:00:11.280 didn't do it when I was with him.

01:00:12.940 And then I dated someone who was, like, do whatever you want, I still didn't want to film

01:00:15.960 with other guys, but I would do things with girls, and he was, like, I know you're not

01:00:19.460 attracted to girls in that way, so do your thing. 0.97

01:00:23.460 And there's definitely, I think, a subset of men that, when it comes to shorter-term relationships

01:00:27.640 or even, like, a relation, like, long-term relationship, they're okay with it, but, and

01:00:34.480 maybe some of you don't want this, but I've definitely heard from a lot of men that when

01:00:38.400 it comes to, like, marriage, having kids, that's when the problem really manifests itself.

01:00:45.720 You guys are all very attractive.

01:00:46.860 I'm sure you have no problem finding men to have sleep with or even have relationships

01:00:51.880 with, but...

01:00:53.000 I went long-term.

01:00:54.060 I went long-term, and I also plan to hopefully retire before I have kids and get married,

01:00:59.860 and by that time, I won't be doing this anymore, and I'll be able to have passive income from

01:01:04.980 whether it's, like, houses or real estate or something that I can invest in, so I don't

01:01:09.080 have to do this forever, but right now, I enjoy what I'm doing.

01:01:12.400 It's taking me to beautiful places.

01:01:13.680 I'm seeing parts of the country I've never seen before, I'm supporting family, I'm supporting

01:01:18.340 myself, and supporting the future that I plan to have.

01:01:23.520 Sure, I mean...

01:01:24.000 Everyone I've been with has seen it that way.

01:01:25.960 Yeah, and I'm sure it's been very financially rewarding, and don't shoot the messenger here,

01:01:30.400 but there's definitely a pretty substantial subset of men that when it comes to long-term relationships,

01:01:37.160 marriage, and having kids, like, it's kind of a suboptimal choice to pick someone who

01:01:42.120 has their nudes on the internet.

01:01:45.460 Maybe.

01:01:46.180 Rephrase the question.

01:01:47.360 I don't really know.

01:01:47.940 Or the statement.

01:01:49.120 It was a statement.

01:01:49.440 It was a statement.

01:01:50.620 And, look, you're still, like, there's a lot of sims out there that are going to be fine

01:01:54.720 with it, but...

01:01:55.400 It's more of, like, in my head, it's like, you can't bake your cake and eat it, too.

01:02:02.220 Like, I know what I signed up for.

01:02:03.620 I'm not delusional.

01:02:04.660 I'm not going to sit here and be like, oh, I can't wait to find the man.

01:02:07.960 Like, it is what it is.

01:02:09.000 I've come to terms.

01:02:09.780 If I find somebody, I do.

01:02:10.620 If I don't, I don't.

01:02:11.260 Like, I'm not going to sit here.

01:02:12.880 Like, I could, you know, people plan for 10 years down the road, I want to get married,

01:02:17.800 the white picket fence, the whole nine.

01:02:18.820 I couldn't be, I might not be here.

01:02:20.340 Like, it doesn't matter.

01:02:21.140 You live day by day.

01:02:21.880 You do day by day.

01:02:22.700 You do the best you can every day.

01:02:24.500 And if that means in five years I have a man, I have a man.

01:02:27.280 If it doesn't, then it simply doesn't.

01:02:29.140 Like, it's not like I'm going to dwell on the fact that I, oh, I don't have a boyfriend.

01:02:33.220 Like, it just doesn't matter.

01:02:34.040 And I, to add to that, I very much believe that wherever I'm going to end up, wherever

01:02:40.220 I'm supposed to end up, whether that's with somebody, whether it's not, I'm going to end

01:02:43.700 up there by default.

01:02:45.360 There's nothing I can do to not get myself there, and especially with my goals that I

01:02:51.900 have.

01:02:52.760 Okay.

01:02:53.780 Found it.

01:02:54.420 Let's do a couple super chats here, unless anyone has any additional things to add.

01:02:58.220 We have Puffy Vegas here.

01:02:59.180 Hey, thank you, man.

01:02:59.660 I tried to use TTS.

01:03:00.540 I couldn't get to work.

01:03:01.320 But to the girl in the hat, I never S with the woman who I know was Mary slash girlfriend. 0.64

01:03:07.860 I've turned down 40 plus women for that reason. 0.99

01:03:10.720 Is this to you, Madison?

01:03:11.620 Yeah, because last stream I said something.

01:03:15.040 I think I was just like, every, he said something saying that he gets a lot of like women with

01:03:22.320 husbands.

01:03:22.460 Oh, hold on.

01:03:23.500 Archie Bunker donated $101.

01:03:25.320 The chest tattoo girl is talking pure pseudoscience. 0.99

01:03:30.680 Sounds like a quack therapist.

01:03:33.200 Hey, Brian, you Canadian?

01:03:35.220 You sound too smart to be American.

01:03:37.880 Also get one of the Red Scare Girls, i.e. 0.61

01:03:41.040 Dasha Nekrasova, on the pod.

01:03:43.180 I have no...

01:03:44.280 Who?

01:03:44.580 Red Scare Girl. 1.00

01:03:46.540 Who the fuck is that guy? 1.00

01:03:48.100 I have no idea who those girls are. 1.00

01:03:50.260 Red Scare Girls, is that like a communist thing or something?

01:03:54.900 I'm not Canadian.

01:03:56.520 Bordello girl, $222 donated $99.

01:04:00.640 Oh, hey.

01:04:01.200 It's Lauren.

01:04:01.820 Wonderful panel, Brian.

01:04:02.940 Everyone lovely.

01:04:04.420 I have a question for the panel.

01:04:06.340 Do you believe in love at first sight?

01:04:08.740 Or must it be a friend?

01:04:10.600 Very curious.

01:04:12.300 I think that's Lauren.

01:04:13.540 Hey, Lauren, thank you very much.

01:04:16.120 So to Archie Bunker, no, I'm not Canadian.

01:04:20.460 Canada's kind of an L, not going to lie.

01:04:22.460 I feel like we should annex Canada, but...

01:04:24.680 Okay.

01:04:25.580 Oh, thank you.

01:04:26.260 No offense.

01:04:26.840 Just thanks.

01:04:27.780 Somebody...

01:04:28.240 Are you Canadian?

01:04:28.840 Yeah.

01:04:29.700 Oh, yeah, we should definitely annex Canada.

01:04:31.980 Everyone's from Canada.

01:04:33.060 Great. 1.00

01:04:34.060 Just fuck it. 1.00

01:04:35.440 But... 1.00

01:04:36.160 And Bordello girl. 0.84

01:04:38.100 I'm pretty sure that's Lauren.

01:04:39.180 Thank you, Lauren.

01:04:39.720 Good to see you in the chat.

01:04:41.380 Do you believe in love at first sight?

01:04:43.320 So we'll do that real quick.

01:04:45.340 We'll go around.

01:04:46.220 I wish.

01:04:47.500 I don't really think so, just because people see...

01:04:50.520 It's like judging a book by its cover, so you see something.

01:04:52.960 You might be super into it, or hormones, or whatever is going on in your body.

01:04:57.580 You might, oh, I'm in love with this person.

01:04:59.600 And then you can hear them talk and be like, never mind.

01:05:03.420 I don't think so.

01:05:04.500 That'd be ideal.

01:05:05.120 It'd be amazing.

01:05:08.160 Is it possible?

01:05:09.220 Sure.

01:05:09.480 Or is it extremely unlikely?

01:05:11.820 Yes.

01:05:12.160 I think most of the time when people explain love at first sight, they're just going based

01:05:15.720 off of physical attraction or some kind of chemistry or something along those lines.

01:05:21.680 Does it have to be romantic?

01:05:24.240 I mean, yeah, it's love, so yeah.

01:05:27.060 Because I believe I found my person, my love, but he's literally my best friend.

01:05:31.400 So that's what I'm asking, like, does it have to be, like, sexual, I guess, in a way?

01:05:38.640 I guess there's different types of love.

01:05:39.600 Because he's literally my, like, he's my soulmate.

01:05:41.880 We're just friends.

01:05:42.660 We've been friends since, like, grade school.

01:05:44.400 But he's, like, my soulmate, my other half.

01:05:46.460 That's not love.

01:05:48.920 That's a different type of love.

01:05:50.120 Why don't you marry him, then? 1.00

01:05:51.740 Because he's gay. 0.98

01:05:53.340 That's definitely not love, then. 1.00

01:05:55.140 Shit. 1.00

01:05:55.500 This is my love. 1.00

01:05:56.400 Like, I will take a bullet for him. 1.00

01:05:57.820 Like, I love him. 1.00

01:05:59.280 Yeah, but in a platonic way.

01:06:01.020 Yeah, but most people don't find that either.

01:06:02.680 Wait, it was love at first sight?

01:06:04.200 No, literally.

01:06:05.080 He's my other half. 0.87

01:06:06.760 But he's gay. 0.71

01:06:08.560 Did you? 0.95

01:06:09.120 Wait, hold on.

01:06:09.920 I believe that.

01:06:10.580 True.

01:06:11.300 Love at first sight with a gay man. 1.00

01:06:12.720 Let me just parse that for a second.

01:06:16.600 So at first, were you romantically interested, and then you found out he was gay, and you were

01:06:20.780 like, shucks? 0.79

01:06:21.660 I knew he was gay before he knew he was gay. 0.98

01:06:24.040 You knew he was gay before he knew he was gay? 0.82

01:06:28.980 Yeah.

01:06:29.320 When did you get it?

01:06:31.080 We just knew it.

01:06:32.720 It's not just like me.

01:06:34.160 His family knew it.

01:06:35.160 We knew it before he could call himself out and be like, yes, I'm gay.

01:06:38.920 He was in denial.

01:06:40.320 Not denial.

01:06:41.060 He just never put a label on it.

01:06:42.640 But he would never say he was gay.

01:06:44.300 But we knew he was gay.

01:06:45.740 And then later came out, it's like, yeah, I like men.

01:06:49.040 Okay.

01:06:52.400 Yeah, okay.

01:06:53.280 What about you?

01:06:54.300 No, I don't believe in love at first sight.

01:06:56.040 Sure.

01:06:56.260 What about you?

01:06:58.940 Not even in Trader Joe's.

01:07:00.580 Not even in Trader Joe's.

01:07:03.740 No, not really.

01:07:07.520 I think it's possible, but not necessarily likely.

01:07:11.760 I think that love comes softly oftentimes.

01:07:14.880 All right.

01:07:15.400 There you have it, Lauren.

01:07:16.660 Thank you for the TTS.

01:07:18.720 Oh, we have Fede.

01:07:23.140 Okay.

01:07:24.280 Girls, you should never fly out for a guy. 0.60

01:07:26.300 Just a single AF Argentinian 500.

01:07:30.280 Thank you.

01:07:30.680 Thank you.

01:07:31.280 We have Puffy Vegas.

01:07:33.000 These OF girls are so full of it, I can't even believe. 1.00

01:07:35.920 I've known so many OF, and they all put it out in 20 minutes.

01:07:40.120 I mean, listen, they-

01:07:41.240 What?

01:07:41.640 It's crazy to say. 1.00

01:07:42.920 Put it out in 20 minutes like fuck in 20 minutes. 1.00

01:07:45.040 That's so not true. 1.00

01:07:45.900 I take their word for it.

01:07:47.600 It's so not true.

01:07:49.140 I believe them, Puffy Vegas.

01:07:50.640 If you put yourself in that position, then-

01:07:52.800 Never been a single one of my friends who does OF that would ever put out in 20 minutes.

01:07:56.640 No.

01:07:56.960 They might flirt with someone, but they won't take them to bed afterwards. 0.57

01:08:00.740 Here's the thing, though.

01:08:01.900 If you did- 0.99

01:08:02.920 If anyone here at the table did fuck someone within 20 minutes, would you admit to it? 0.99

01:08:08.260 Yes. 0.99

01:08:08.620 Would you admit to it?

01:08:09.580 Yes.

01:08:10.140 Why not?

01:08:10.780 It's character development.

01:08:11.620 People lie.

01:08:12.520 Why not, though?

01:08:13.160 That whole thing.

01:08:13.280 Lying.

01:08:13.780 It's a thing, kind of.

01:08:14.480 It is a thing, but-

01:08:15.720 Yeah.

01:08:16.500 People lie about all sorts of things.

01:08:19.320 20 minutes is crazy, doesn't it?

01:08:21.840 Have you ever-

01:08:22.840 Wait, hold on.

01:08:23.500 You said your ex-boyfriend, who you were financially supporting in a $5,000 a month apartment, was

01:08:29.540 in a fraternity. 1.00

01:08:30.460 I guarantee you, him and his fraternity bros were fucking chicks within 20 minutes. 1.00

01:08:35.140 Yeah, probably, but no OF girls. 1.00

01:08:37.420 He said specifically OF girls.

01:08:39.600 None of those girls were OF girls. 0.91

01:08:40.980 They were college girls, and there's-

01:08:42.840 College girls put out too.

01:08:44.440 Whatever.

01:08:45.100 I think there's so many different types of people ever.

01:08:46.900 Maybe there are some OF girls who do that, but not a single one of my OF friends would

01:08:51.560 do that.

01:08:52.220 I'm a porn girl, and I don't do it.

01:08:54.380 So, like, genuinely, I don't know.

01:08:57.300 That's just not a thing.

01:08:58.120 My friends will go out and party, and they'll flirt all night, and then they'll just go home

01:09:01.620 alone, and they won't go home with the guys that are begging them to go home.

01:09:05.540 Yeah.

01:09:05.860 And I know that because I'm sitting in the bathtub waiting for them to get back from the club.

01:09:08.940 So, hold on.

01:09:09.580 None of you here, or maybe you specifically, have ever known a girl who's had a one-night

01:09:16.500 stand.

01:09:17.160 Come on.

01:09:17.620 Of course I know.

01:09:18.140 Of course I know.

01:09:18.840 Of course you know her.

01:09:19.420 We never said OF.

01:09:20.860 But it's when you're talking specifically OF.

01:09:22.840 Oh, okay.

01:09:22.860 You're talking about a group of people.

01:09:24.540 Of people.

01:09:25.160 Specifically OF girls. 0.93

01:09:26.340 I do know OF girls. 1.00

01:09:27.800 Like, I do know OF girls. 0.98

01:09:28.740 I definitely-

01:09:29.460 She knows.

01:09:30.240 She knows.

01:09:30.540 I said, but not all of us know.

01:09:32.020 No, but that's with anything.

01:09:33.480 You don't categorize anything at all, but definitely, I know people who haven't, like,

01:09:38.020 also-

01:09:38.380 The first 20 seconds.

01:09:39.080 We said 20 minutes, not one-night stand.

01:09:41.600 One-night stand can be hung out with them all night.

01:09:42.760 Yeah, sure.

01:09:43.060 Okay, 20 minutes.

01:09:44.060 And also, you said earlier-

01:09:45.120 It's the same thing.

01:09:45.620 Do we know, have we ever done a one-night stand?

01:09:48.520 And then you just said, we didn't know anyone.

01:09:50.660 We know people who've done them, but we, I don't know who says they did or not, but-

01:09:55.780 Word.

01:09:56.060 You know what I mean?

01:09:56.900 I know people who have done it.

01:09:57.960 I have some friends, and they can do what they want, but it's not me.

01:10:00.840 There you have it.

01:10:01.440 We have Stifler here.

01:10:02.920 Ask the ladies to rate their looks on a scale of one to ten. 0.74

01:10:06.120 We'll go around the table, starting with you.

01:10:08.120 Go ahead, Keep.

01:10:09.260 Three.

01:10:11.800 Is that, like, a troll answer, or-

01:10:13.620 No, I don't want to say hi and then get roasted, and I don't want to say low.

01:10:16.740 Well, say, how about, say the truth.

01:10:20.520 No, this is a little game.

01:10:22.140 I see the game that people play.

01:10:23.740 Zero game.

01:10:24.220 These boys love to say, what do you think you are?

01:10:26.520 She wishes she was a ten.

01:10:27.900 She wishes she was a nine.

01:10:28.740 Okay, so you do think you're a ten.

01:10:30.160 No, I didn't say I was a ten.

01:10:31.260 Oh, well.

01:10:31.800 I got self-conscious issues.

01:10:32.820 You just don't take it personally, what they say.

01:10:35.320 Yeah.

01:10:35.700 I know, but I also-

01:10:37.640 I think you're a ten.

01:10:38.680 You think I'm a ten?

01:10:39.520 I think you're a ten.

01:10:40.300 Thank you.

01:10:40.600 I think you're a ten, too.

01:10:41.880 Kiss. 1.00

01:10:43.240 What the fuck? 1.00

01:10:46.120 What? 1.00

01:10:46.480 So, do you want to just, instead of a troll answer, do you want to actually-

01:10:51.180 I'll say five or six.

01:10:54.580 Is that your final answer?

01:10:56.400 Yeah, I think there's so many more beautiful women in the world, and I think I'm okay.

01:11:01.380 It's a game.

01:11:02.180 It's a tired narrative.

01:11:03.560 It's just-

01:11:04.340 It really isn't.

01:11:05.120 It is.

01:11:06.140 It is.

01:11:06.680 It is.

01:11:06.780 Your own self-assessment of your physical attractiveness is quite crucial when it comes

01:11:11.620 to dating. 0.99

01:11:12.140 If you think you're hot shit, if you think you're a ten, whether you're a guy or a girl, 1.00

01:11:16.480 this happens more so to men, but you're going to face plant into reality. 1.00

01:11:20.780 If you think you're hot shit, and you're not, reality is going to come. 0.99

01:11:25.960 So, let people face plant. 1.00

01:11:27.440 Let people face plant.

01:11:29.480 What do you mean?

01:11:30.140 It's life.

01:11:30.640 Life teaches you.

01:11:31.700 Yeah, but why be delusional?

01:11:32.820 It's a tired-

01:11:33.680 You don't have to be delusional.

01:11:34.800 It's not tired.

01:11:34.820 It's great.

01:11:35.440 It is tired.

01:11:35.860 You ask every show.

01:11:37.280 You don't ask about emotional availability or maturity.

01:11:40.300 You know, you don't mix it up at all.

01:11:42.280 It's just, it's the same thing when guys ask, what do you bring to the table?

01:11:46.700 It's just, and even guys who know game will tell you this.

01:11:50.800 They will tell you this.

01:11:51.800 It's not coming from a man or a straight man, but men who know game know that it's essentially

01:11:56.820 a setup, and they're placing themselves above you and you below, and maybe, I'm not

01:12:02.000 saying all men that ask that question know that or are aware of that, but a lot of them

01:12:05.720 are.

01:12:05.880 That's where it started.

01:12:07.300 It's a power struggle.

01:12:08.780 It's a power.

01:12:09.260 We're talking about dating, so it is kind of relevant to dating.

01:12:13.600 What if it changes?

01:12:14.840 Because sometimes I'm like, oh my gosh, I feel like a 10 today.

01:12:17.400 I'm super confident.

01:12:18.360 Love myself.

01:12:18.920 It's not about your confidence.

01:12:19.740 I'm like, I'm a three. 0.81

01:12:20.820 I look like a troll. 0.94

01:12:22.520 Feel like a troll.

01:12:23.500 I feel like it changes and fluctuates too.

01:12:25.780 It's just predictable.

01:12:26.960 You say something low.

01:12:28.280 Okay, you're humble.

01:12:29.080 You say something high.

01:12:30.260 They roast you.

01:12:31.160 It just seems pointless and tired.

01:12:33.420 It's really not pointless.

01:12:34.260 Yeah, I don't give much energy to things that I don't think have much value, so I'm not

01:12:40.440 going to answer it.

01:12:40.640 So you think, well...

01:12:43.180 Rating looks I don't think really has much value.

01:12:46.080 Do you think looks is not an important factor when it comes to dating?

01:12:53.380 For most people, to an extent, it is, yes.

01:12:55.740 But we don't need to play this game of like...

01:12:57.840 It just feels so...

01:13:00.040 It's just so juvenile.

01:13:01.460 It really is.

01:13:01.760 How is it juvenile?

01:13:03.100 Would you date a guy who's shorter than you?

01:13:05.740 No.

01:13:06.880 That's quite literally a measurement.

01:13:08.660 I'm five feet tall.

01:13:09.500 That's...

01:13:10.640 A man could still be shorter than you, and I assume you have a preference for the taller

01:13:14.900 the better, I would imagine.

01:13:16.460 No, not necessarily.

01:13:18.260 Taller than me would be great, but...

01:13:20.060 Taller than me?

01:13:21.060 Taller than me would be great.

01:13:22.240 Oh, taller than you.

01:13:23.380 Yes.

01:13:23.920 Okay, so if you had a guy who's 5'1", next to a guy who's 6 feet, all things being equal,

01:13:30.340 which do you pick?

01:13:31.820 If everything was absolutely equal...

01:13:34.000 Sure.

01:13:34.680 ...they're literally the exact same person, but a height difference would naturally be

01:13:38.720 the taller person.

01:13:39.280 Okay, so height matters, which is quite literally a measurement, a numerical measurement.

01:13:45.240 I've only dated short kings. 0.99

01:13:46.840 That's bullshit. 0.99

01:13:47.240 I'm not saying that looks don't matter. 1.00

01:13:48.820 That's bullshit. 0.98

01:13:49.160 I don't mean to. 0.99

01:13:49.860 They just gravitate towards me.

01:13:50.960 If the board, like, looks in general matter to most people, you can't get into a relationship.

01:13:56.540 Hold on just a sec.

01:13:57.480 Swordless donated $100.

01:13:59.880 Girls, you are all pretty sure.

01:14:02.660 But the only one there is Maddie, especially as she is sitting in the correct place, D. 0.98

01:14:08.020 Yo, swordless.

01:14:10.200 Thank you, man.

01:14:10.500 Very much appreciated.

01:14:11.640 That's our homie from overseas.

01:14:15.620 Good to see you in the chat, man.

01:14:16.720 Thank you very much.

01:14:17.320 Appreciate it.

01:14:18.480 Go ahead.

01:14:19.920 I don't give energy to things I don't think are important like a rating scale.

01:14:25.020 But so you were saying that looks aren't that important?

01:14:28.220 Looks are, to an extent, for most people, important in dating.

01:14:31.700 But delegating it into this scale and asking it over and over, it's just, it's not, it's

01:14:39.500 not helpful.

01:14:40.720 It's super helpful.

01:14:41.940 It's actually very, very helpful.

01:14:43.540 It's not helpful.

01:14:43.600 And I can explain it to you.

01:14:44.600 But I do like to give people an opportunity to answer before I get into it.

01:14:47.920 But it's harmful.

01:14:49.740 It's what?

01:14:50.720 It's not helpful.

01:14:51.820 To know how you're, where you land in the sexual or dating marketplace when it comes

01:14:57.320 to your physical appearance?

01:14:59.560 Yes.

01:15:00.600 Don't you think in order to have a fair assessment of the type of guy that you can get, you need

01:15:06.060 to have an accurate self-assessment of the type of woman you are when it comes to your

01:15:10.540 looks and to your personality?

01:15:12.240 Sure.

01:15:12.460 But it's not just looks.

01:15:13.340 And you guys really only do the scale based on looks.

01:15:15.420 It's based on emotional.

01:15:17.920 Availability and maturity and mentality, your daily life, whether you have integrity or

01:15:24.500 not.

01:15:24.880 And the same old tired question is about looks.

01:15:28.060 It's just like, if you, this is what I, the issue here, the issue here is that you, it's

01:15:40.100 a dating podcast, but you're not really going any deeper than surface level on so many of

01:15:47.020 these topics.

01:15:47.560 We go, we go pretty deep.

01:15:48.420 It's so surface level on a lot of it.

01:15:50.020 Well, speaking of surface level, um, well, hold on.

01:15:53.440 First off, I would just say to something that you'd said earlier, looks is, I would say the,

01:15:58.280 one of the ultimate things that matters when it comes to dating.

01:16:00.720 If you don't have physical attractiveness, nothing gets off the ground.

01:16:04.320 Yeah.

01:16:04.540 So looks is incredibly important.

01:16:06.220 But, so you're saying that this question is perhaps superficial.

01:16:09.480 Is that correct?

01:16:10.300 I'll get to you in a sec.

01:16:11.120 Go ahead.

01:16:12.220 Yeah.

01:16:12.720 It's just, can you speak straight into the mic?

01:16:15.340 Yes.

01:16:15.720 It's superficial.

01:16:16.420 And you said it's, the conversations we have on the show is very surface level.

01:16:21.560 We need to be deeper.

01:16:22.300 A lot of them, yes.

01:16:22.580 We need to go deeper, I think.

01:16:23.880 If you're, if you're looking for real change and not just entertainment and hits of entertainment

01:16:28.620 and feeding people's egos, then you're just giving the same old tired narrative.

01:16:35.300 People are rating each other's looks.

01:16:36.700 You're not really helping people at large find a partner that is going to be solid for

01:16:44.820 them when you're just reiterating the same narrative on physical attractiveness.

01:16:48.940 What is the scale?

01:16:49.780 It's the same question when men ask, what do you bring to the table?

01:16:54.140 Just, I mean, unsolicited.

01:16:55.500 You object to the question of men asking what?

01:16:57.760 I'm not, it's already, I'm not interested.

01:17:00.100 If you're asking me.

01:17:00.780 That's a pretty reasonable question.

01:17:02.240 I understand from like a more like superficial level what they're saying.

01:17:08.060 Like, is this connection going to be reciprocal?

01:17:10.500 But over time, men have started to ask this question to essentially have the woman already

01:17:17.960 like subservient and just essentially explaining what she has to offer.

01:17:24.580 Like, it's instead of getting to know somebody and not like drilling them with an unequal like 0.96

01:17:34.280 power dynamic.

01:17:36.380 Unequal power dynamic?

01:17:37.960 Yes.

01:17:38.500 By asking, what do you mean by?

01:17:40.140 What do you bring to the table?

01:17:41.800 It's already like this expectation.

01:17:43.560 Is that a comment?

01:17:44.480 Do you guys get asked that question?

01:17:45.820 I'm not saying you don't get it a lot, especially now since it's been regurgitated, but since

01:17:52.560 it's been regurgitated over and over on a lot of these shows, of course you're going to get it.

01:17:55.780 Well, are you, hold on, this question that you're referring to, what do you bring to the

01:17:58.600 table?

01:17:58.880 Are you talking within the context you're like one-on-one on a date with a guy?

01:18:02.420 Because we are on a dating panel here.

01:18:04.220 I'm not on a date with any of you.

01:18:05.740 So we are having, like, we can have meta conversations like this, but-

01:18:09.480 Right, when you're on a date.

01:18:10.720 Like, if somebody were to ask me-

01:18:11.680 Okay, we're not on a date right now.

01:18:12.600 We're on a dating panel where we're talking about dating-related things.

01:18:15.180 Yeah, no, I understand this.

01:18:15.940 It's within, I really had no intention of asking what you bring to the table, but perhaps

01:18:20.440 it's a good question I ought to ask, but we can bring it back to the rating thing.

01:18:25.140 Yeah, no, I'm just talking about dating in general.

01:18:27.400 I'm not talking about you asking me specifically, obviously.

01:18:30.020 I just, that's an immediate red flag.

01:18:34.580 I already know that he is, like, somewhat programmed by red pill rhetoric, and so it's

01:18:40.100 just, I'm not interested, because typically relationships end how they begin, and that's

01:18:45.380 just, it's a red flag.

01:18:46.800 Ladies, unsolicited advice, it's a red flag. 0.82

01:18:50.100 A guy need not even be red pill to ask such a question.

01:18:54.260 Wait, what's a red pill?

01:18:54.780 A guy, like a normal dude who's never even heard about red pill.

01:18:57.920 Hold on.

01:18:58.060 A guy who's not even heard about red pill could ask somebody, so, like, what do you

01:19:02.500 bring to the table?

01:19:04.700 It would be extremely rare before any of this rhetoric was spread.

01:19:09.600 It's not common.

01:19:12.640 But don't you expect when you're on a date and you're interested in a man that he has

01:19:19.540 something that he has to bring to the table?

01:19:21.280 Don't you expect him to bring something to the table?

01:19:24.200 So, therefore, don't you think that there should be some kind of equal...

01:19:30.180 Like, it's fair for him to ask that as well.

01:19:32.820 Yeah.

01:19:32.920 100%.

01:19:33.280 Yeah.

01:19:33.520 Like, he has things that he wants, and he has things that he thinks, you know, like,

01:19:37.560 are good for his life, and some kind of woman that he's looking for.

01:19:41.540 So, therefore, isn't it a fair question to simply say, well, you know, you can phrase

01:19:49.520 it however you want.

01:19:50.660 Maybe it's not, what do you bring to the table?

01:19:53.280 But maybe it's, what kind of woman are you? 1.00

01:19:55.420 What are you...

01:19:57.980 How are you going to nurture me?

01:20:00.460 How are you going to nurture our kids?

01:20:01.840 Like, I think there's a lot of things that a woman can bring to the table, and therefore, 1.00

01:20:05.440 we should know that, and we should be able to say that when we're on a date.

01:20:11.100 What do you think about that?

01:20:12.280 Yeah.

01:20:12.560 I don't...

01:20:13.440 I'm not, like, saying that this is necessarily, like, the worst thing ever when you're coming

01:20:21.540 at it from a more balanced place.

01:20:23.480 But specifically, this community, and I get it.

01:20:27.040 You want reciprocity.

01:20:28.020 You want equal give and take.

01:20:29.080 But to, when men ask this question, I, it's already the little thread that essentially

01:20:36.380 is telling you that they're into this type of rhetoric.

01:20:41.540 The reason why men ask what women bring to the table is because society and women place 0.97

01:20:45.520 a burden of performance on men to produce.

01:20:48.220 But women somehow believe she gets a free ride off of a man's hard work. 1.00

01:20:53.980 Well put, Alvin Sam.

01:20:55.440 That was lovely.

01:20:56.520 Continue with your point.

01:20:57.300 Go ahead.

01:20:59.080 So nobody's assuming that they get a free ride off of a man's hard work.

01:21:03.360 It's about reciprocity.

01:21:04.700 This specific question, and I could say it over and over again, and it's...

01:21:08.160 You've already explained it.

01:21:09.220 Let's go back to the 1 to 10 rating thing.

01:21:11.080 So you, okay, you object to the 1 to 10 question.

01:21:14.620 Yeah.

01:21:14.820 Because it's surface level, it's inauthentic.

01:21:19.100 Yes.

01:21:20.540 It's repetitive.

01:21:21.880 Do you believe authenticity is important?

01:21:23.920 Yes, hugely.

01:21:25.420 Okay.

01:21:25.680 Well, do you think representing yourself realistically is important?

01:21:30.900 Yes, absolutely.

01:21:32.140 Well, I mean, I noticed on your Instagram, almost every single photo of you has a face filter

01:21:36.560 on it.

01:21:38.160 Do you think that's inauthentic to be misrepresenting your physical appearance by using a face filter?

01:21:44.420 I'm not misrepresenting when it tells you that there's a face filter being used.

01:21:48.860 You...

01:21:49.380 It usually doesn't tell you if there's...

01:21:51.940 If somebody were to ask, do you use a face filter?

01:21:54.600 Yeah, but it's...

01:21:55.580 Why aren't you comfortable in your authentic self?

01:21:58.360 There are a lot of videos and photos where I have no face filters.

01:22:02.660 Okay, but most of them you're using a face filter.

01:22:04.900 Why aren't you just comfortable being your authentic self?

01:22:08.040 I am comfortable being my authentic self.

01:22:09.740 It doesn't mean that I can't use a filter.

01:22:11.680 Why do you feel the need then to use face filters?

01:22:13.320 I don't feel the need to use a filter.

01:22:15.560 Are you on any dating apps?

01:22:16.820 Yes.

01:22:17.920 On the dating apps, do you post any photos which have you in a face filter?

01:22:22.820 Or is it completely authentic?

01:22:25.540 Most of them are professional photos, so they're authentic.

01:22:28.900 There's no, like, Instagram filter.

01:22:32.680 Some of them, yeah.

01:22:34.120 Isn't that inauthentic to misrepresent your physical appearance?

01:22:40.000 To an extent, yes.

01:22:42.280 Do I look shockingly completely different than I do on my Instagram?

01:22:47.000 I guess you guys could go tell me.

01:22:49.980 But it's the same thing as, like, do women wear makeup? 1.00

01:22:54.460 Yes, women wear makeup. 1.00

01:22:55.500 Most of the time it's very apparent that they're wearing makeup.

01:22:57.580 Are they wearing heels? 0.96

01:22:58.780 Are they falsifying their height?

01:23:00.800 No, you can see that they're wearing heels.

01:23:02.800 It's a totally different thing than pretending to be somebody that you're not.

01:23:08.900 Like, you're mirroring to somebody what they want mentally, emotionally,

01:23:13.420 and you're not actually that.

01:23:16.340 Would you object to it?

01:23:17.200 Sometimes I use occasional filters, as many women and people do. 1.00

01:23:21.540 And as long as it's, like, do what you want.

01:23:24.780 I don't judge or shame people.

01:23:26.400 But, like, I don't think, I know that I don't look very different than I do online.

01:23:32.340 Can you scoot your microphone that way just a bit?

01:23:35.220 Just, um, would you object to a guy lying about his height on a dating app?

01:23:39.700 I mean, is it a huge discrepancy?

01:23:44.680 Is it an inch or two?

01:23:45.680 Is it intentional?

01:23:46.740 Does he know that he's off?

01:23:48.720 Or is he, like, I don't know, maybe I'm 5'10", maybe I'm 5'9"? 0.55

01:23:51.420 He's 5'9", but he puts his six feet, or 6'1".

01:23:55.140 Yes, that's, like, a four-inch difference.

01:23:58.200 That's pretty big.

01:23:59.840 That's not, like, something that...

01:24:02.580 Do you have any photos on your, any of your dating apps

01:24:05.240 where you're not wearing any makeup at all?

01:24:06.700 Um, yes, one.

01:24:09.180 One.

01:24:09.720 Yes, I put one where it's just, like, no makeup, smiling,

01:24:13.020 because I don't want them to all look at it.

01:24:14.080 Well, hot take here, like, if you're wearing a full face of makeup on a dating app,

01:24:17.140 you are kind of misrepresenting your physical attractiveness.

01:24:19.980 Men know that women wear makeup. 0.81

01:24:21.660 And you can tell that when women are wearing makeup most of the time. 1.00

01:24:25.600 It doesn't, whether men know that women wear makeup or not,

01:24:30.720 it doesn't change the impact, that initial visceral reaction

01:24:35.360 to seeing an attractive woman.

01:24:39.880 It doesn't, like, it doesn't change what the impact is having.

01:24:46.480 I don't really know what you're saying.

01:24:48.400 I don't know how we got...

01:24:49.220 Well, I mean, you're talking a lot about,

01:24:51.000 you're accusing this question of being very surface level and inauthentic,

01:24:55.220 but I just, I'm seeing if you're consistent in your demand for authenticity.

01:25:00.060 Yeah, I mean, I'm not being inauthentic by wearing a filter,

01:25:04.380 especially when it says, hey, here's a filter,

01:25:06.560 and here are other pictures of me not having a filter.

01:25:09.440 And the filters that I use are so subtle.

01:25:12.140 Are they?

01:25:12.880 Yes.

01:25:13.980 Are they?

01:25:14.660 Yes, they are.

01:25:15.540 I've seen a lot of face filters, just in general,

01:25:18.240 and they're pretty transformative.

01:25:20.900 Oh, face filters, yes, there are some very transformative face filters

01:25:25.900 where you look like a different person or you look like the opposite sex.

01:25:29.960 A lot of those, the opposite sex ones are different. 1.00

01:25:33.440 But anyways, like...

01:25:35.900 But okay, so I'll let the rest of the girls answer the question, 0.99

01:25:39.520 but I'll kind of address why I do think it is important

01:25:41.880 to have an accurate self-assessment of your own physical attractiveness,

01:25:45.900 and if you can break that down to a number, then I think it's fine.

01:25:49.100 What about you?

01:25:50.600 What question?

01:25:51.060 Your looks on a scale of one to ten.

01:25:54.460 Solid seven.

01:25:55.180 Okay, what about you?

01:25:56.520 Yeah, I'd say 7.58.

01:25:58.580 I'd say the same, 7.8.

01:26:00.940 Like a 5.5 to 6.

01:26:04.120 I think like a 5.8.

01:26:06.540 Eight.

01:26:07.460 Okay.

01:26:08.420 So the reason I think it's important is, and I've said this already,

01:26:13.920 in order for you to be able to get a partner that's conceivably on your level,

01:26:18.900 you need to have a reasonable self-assessment of where you stand.

01:26:22.020 And I think it's the case, like, men aren't really getting gassed up in the same way

01:26:26.860 that women are going to get gassed up by society, by their friends. 0.99

01:26:30.320 Oh, my God, you look so amazing, but you're fucking 400 pounds overweight. 0.99

01:26:34.800 Some guys like that, though. 0.99

01:26:37.040 I will say...

01:26:37.860 Sure.

01:26:38.220 Okay.

01:26:38.420 There are some guys who have a fetish, whatever.

01:26:40.160 I feel like I think, and it's not just better.

01:26:42.320 Sometimes that's just, like, what they're into.

01:26:44.200 Like, looks-wise, I think a lot of...

01:26:47.980 There's...

01:26:48.620 Appearance-wise, a lot of it is objective and subjective.

01:26:52.180 Like, instead of looking at objectively, like, what you are on a scale...

01:26:55.060 If you're obese...

01:26:55.620 I could find...

01:26:56.340 Not even just that, though.

01:26:57.400 If you're obese, like...

01:26:58.820 I could find one celebrity or one person, like, super attractive,

01:27:01.980 I'm obsessed with, beautiful to me,

01:27:03.780 and then I could tell my friend, they're like, 0.98

01:27:05.240 ew, he's butt ugly. 0.98

01:27:06.120 Like, I don't find him attractive. 0.99

01:27:07.320 I find this guy attractive.

01:27:08.160 Like, people have types and tastes and whatnot,

01:27:10.840 but, I mean, there is an objective standard, though,

01:27:15.720 when it comes to beauty.

01:27:16.860 Yeah.

01:27:17.440 100%.

01:27:17.840 Absolutely.

01:27:18.720 So, wait, where were we?

01:27:20.400 I just wanted to bring up that sometimes some people have, like,

01:27:23.920 thanks for other people.

01:27:24.740 I know friends that are super hot,

01:27:26.760 and they will only date guys with dad bods

01:27:28.900 and, like, are not also super hot, you know?

01:27:32.360 Right, but they're...

01:27:33.000 They like more average people

01:27:33.900 because that's just what they're attracted to.

01:27:35.260 That's what they would say is a 10 on their scale.

01:27:37.440 And then they would look at,

01:27:39.660 you could bring in, like, someone else.

01:27:41.940 But even, like, his point is, like,

01:27:44.000 there's still a standard, like,

01:27:45.260 there's still a reason why, like,

01:27:47.360 you know, like, the percentage of people

01:27:48.820 liking a specific type of person is, you know,

01:27:51.100 super uncommon than to what you would consider

01:27:53.000 to be, like, the stereotypical beautiful woman 0.99

01:27:54.780 or the stereotypical beautiful man.

01:27:56.580 Yeah, I'm not disagreeing.

01:27:57.480 I was just bringing up another little point.

01:27:59.220 But, no, I'm not disagreeing with that.

01:28:00.740 I agree with that.

01:28:01.260 I think the primary issue is this,

01:28:03.480 is that if you...

01:28:04.760 One of the primary issues,

01:28:06.120 if I had to distill it down in dating,

01:28:09.120 is that women, and both men,

01:28:11.420 both men and women,

01:28:12.540 women want the best man that they can get. 1.00

01:28:14.840 But women will confuse sexual attraction 1.00

01:28:17.540 and relationship attraction.

01:28:19.900 So there's plenty of guys that will sleep with you, 1.00

01:28:22.280 keep you along, even long-term,

01:28:24.580 string you along,

01:28:25.120 but they have really no intention

01:28:27.220 of either committing or marrying you

01:28:31.260 or ever having anything long-term. 0.97

01:28:32.600 But guys will keep women around for sex. 1.00

01:28:35.200 So, and women can... 1.00

01:28:37.460 Women can do the same. 1.00

01:28:38.680 Yeah.

01:28:39.320 Well, women can shoot much higher out of their league 1.00

01:28:42.600 than men can when it comes to getting sex. 1.00

01:28:45.660 Yeah. 0.99

01:28:46.080 So, okay, men will sleep with women 1.00

01:28:49.740 who they would never have a relationship with.

01:28:54.080 Yeah.

01:28:55.280 Women don't really move like that. 1.00

01:28:57.140 Like, in order for you to sleep with a guy,

01:28:59.040 let me explain.

01:29:00.060 In order for you to sleep with a guy,

01:29:02.040 he needs to at least be physically attractive enough

01:29:05.200 for you to be in a relationship with him.

01:29:08.220 You don't...

01:29:08.760 You wouldn't sleep down.

01:29:10.920 Like, you'll...

01:29:11.960 Here's where it's different.

01:29:13.400 You'll sleep with a guy, 0.99

01:29:16.040 and if he's more attractive,

01:29:17.500 then you'll sleep with a guy. 0.99

01:29:18.800 And if you know it's just gonna be casual.

01:29:20.980 Whereas men, it's the reverse. 0.98

01:29:22.580 Men will sleep with a girl, 1.00

01:29:23.660 and she'll be less attractive than he is.

01:29:27.740 Disagree.

01:29:28.620 A hundred percent disavow.

01:29:30.500 Wait, can you say that again?

01:29:31.360 Say that again?

01:29:31.900 Say that again. 0.71

01:29:32.840 Okay.

01:29:33.720 Men will sleep with women 1.00

01:29:35.280 who they would never have a relationship with.

01:29:37.620 Right.

01:29:38.120 And you don't...

01:29:38.580 When it comes to physical attractiveness.

01:29:40.060 Okay, okay.

01:29:40.960 So, in order for a woman to sleep with a man, 1.00

01:29:43.660 that man has to be at least physically attractive enough

01:29:48.520 to be in a relationship with.

01:29:50.380 But the same is not the case for men.

01:29:53.300 So, a man will sleep with a girl 1.00

01:29:54.800 of a certain level of physical attractiveness

01:29:58.320 that he will never commit to.

01:30:00.300 But women will project that same thing. 1.00

01:30:02.540 And what is that scale?

01:30:04.080 What do you mean?

01:30:04.520 Like, what is...

01:30:06.300 Like, are you saying they're gonna sleep with more attractive women 0.98

01:30:08.700 but never commit to an attractive woman?

01:30:10.260 Or what do you...

01:30:10.760 Like, what's the...

01:30:11.080 No, what I'm saying is,

01:30:11.940 is a guy who's a nine...

01:30:15.260 Right. 0.99

01:30:15.480 ...will welcome the easy sexual access 0.98

01:30:18.020 to a girl who's like a five or a six. 0.89

01:30:20.020 A hundred percent.

01:30:20.480 But he's never gonna commit to her.

01:30:22.300 Whereas most women, it's the reverse. 1.00

01:30:24.520 Women will perhaps bend their rules 1.00

01:30:26.140 when it comes to casual sex or one-night stands

01:30:28.120 if the guy is attractive enough.

01:30:30.640 But it doesn't go the other way.

01:30:32.240 But you said relationship.

01:30:33.520 Yeah, you're saying relationship.

01:30:34.700 Like, we won't sleep with them.

01:30:35.960 We'll bend...

01:30:36.640 We would date them.

01:30:37.300 We'll bend our, you know...

01:30:39.120 We're more likely to sleep with attractive women. 1.00

01:30:41.800 I mean...

01:30:42.480 Men, if we want a relationship.

01:30:43.940 I mean, attractive men.

01:30:46.120 And...

01:30:46.520 Not date them.

01:30:47.340 Date less...

01:30:49.380 Yeah.

01:30:49.580 Less according to looks.

01:30:50.960 Yeah.

01:30:51.140 That's what you're saying, right?

01:30:51.940 For you to sleep with a guy,

01:30:53.080 he has to at least be attractive enough physically

01:30:55.800 for you to be in a relationship with him.

01:30:58.280 But it's not the case for men.

01:30:59.480 No, not at all.

01:31:00.100 Actually, not at all.

01:31:01.180 I feel like that's an old way of thinking.

01:31:02.580 I would much...

01:31:03.320 No, it's pretty...

01:31:03.900 So hold on.

01:31:04.560 To be clear, you...

01:31:05.880 The men that...

01:31:06.860 I mean, I disagree, but go ahead.

01:31:08.780 Like, I would much...

01:31:10.340 Like, I don't want...

01:31:11.660 Okay.

01:31:12.760 I don't want a guy who's...

01:31:15.000 I mean, yes, physically attractive

01:31:16.220 on a scale of a 10 on the standard.

01:31:19.000 Yeah, sure.

01:31:19.800 But I would much rather date somebody

01:31:21.580 who's below that

01:31:22.460 because that's just how it naturally...

01:31:24.460 Like, beautiful women date men 1.00

01:31:26.060 who aren't as attractive.

01:31:26.980 That's literally known.

01:31:28.500 You will never...

01:31:29.460 You will see a woman who is a... 1.00

01:31:31.360 Like, Megan Fox... 0.96

01:31:32.520 Wait, so hold on.

01:31:33.200 ...dating somebody who...

01:31:34.460 Yeah.

01:31:34.560 And MGK...

01:31:35.100 Like, come on, bro.

01:31:35.840 Like, you're telling me 0.99

01:31:37.020 Megan fucking Fox... 1.00

01:31:38.500 Pete Davidson again. 1.00

01:31:39.580 Bro, Pete Davidson. 0.98

01:31:40.640 Are you crazy? 0.99

01:31:41.580 Like, that is crazy. 0.98

01:31:42.800 No 10 out of 10

01:31:43.640 is ever going to date a man...

01:31:44.700 Nicki Minaj.

01:31:45.080 That is a 10 out of 10.

01:31:45.820 And Cassie... 1.00

01:31:46.660 He just got a big dick. 1.00

01:31:47.360 Okay, just to address that... 1.00

01:31:48.880 What was that?

01:31:50.340 Nicki Minaj.

01:31:51.980 No offense to Nicki Minaj's husband. 0.99

01:31:52.600 It's like what the big dick comment. 0.99

01:31:54.180 Cassie. 0.99

01:31:55.120 No offense to Cassie's husband.

01:31:57.080 But this is all anecdotal anyways

01:31:59.060 because it's celebrities.

01:32:00.160 MGK, I would argue...

01:32:01.980 Come on.

01:32:02.460 Is hot in the rocker way.

01:32:03.900 He's tall.

01:32:04.800 He's tall.

01:32:05.400 What to you is it...

01:32:06.360 What to you on a man's scale...

01:32:08.280 Like, is it 10?

01:32:08.960 Please, please give me...

01:32:09.820 No, no.

01:32:10.020 I want an example.

01:32:11.120 Young Brad Pitt, I would say,

01:32:12.280 is like approaching a 10.

01:32:13.500 Okay.

01:32:13.940 Yeah, I could agree with that.

01:32:15.100 Approaching a 10.

01:32:16.180 MGK.

01:32:16.440 Wait, approachable?

01:32:18.240 But Megan... 1.00

01:32:18.900 Okay, Megan Fox is what?

01:32:20.060 In her mid-30s?

01:32:20.920 Dude, she's literally... 1.00

01:32:22.180 She's so hot. 0.97

01:32:22.200 But she's one of... 1.00

01:32:23.400 She has a couple kids. 0.72

01:32:24.940 She's a sex icon. 1.00

01:32:26.300 No, but she's literally 1.00

01:32:27.120 on the magazine

01:32:27.820 for like world...

01:32:28.740 She's a very attractive woman.

01:32:30.400 Her... 1.00

01:32:30.920 Adriana Lima.

01:32:31.880 Yo, yo, yo. 0.99

01:32:32.360 She's a very attractive woman.

01:32:33.600 That's what I'm saying.

01:32:34.520 Come on.

01:32:34.960 But she was more attractive 0.99

01:32:36.280 when she was 21.

01:32:37.280 Please name a woman...

01:32:38.460 No, she's still not.

01:32:39.320 Please name a woman...

01:32:40.840 Please name a celebrity

01:32:42.580 or woman who is dating a man...

01:32:44.760 Like, a woman in the... 0.99

01:32:45.920 That is known to be

01:32:46.500 one of the most beautiful women 0.78

01:32:47.660 dating a man of the same caliber.

01:32:50.380 Wait, hold on.

01:32:50.900 Repeat the question.

01:32:51.940 Who?

01:32:52.420 Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds.

01:32:53.620 I don't think Ryan Reynolds is attractive.

01:32:54.900 The only ones.

01:32:55.560 Yeah.

01:32:56.060 And I also think...

01:32:56.960 I don't think Blake Lively

01:32:58.180 is that good looking.

01:32:59.140 Men are able to make up 1.00

01:33:00.700 for their lackings

01:33:01.840 in physical appearance

01:33:02.960 with...

01:33:03.400 100%.

01:33:03.820 With personality.

01:33:04.440 With status, personality,

01:33:05.720 100%.

01:33:06.360 Which is why I'd rather date him

01:33:07.660 not a 10 to 10

01:33:08.620 who has none of that.

01:33:10.340 But that's almost proving my point.

01:33:12.760 But Megan Fox

01:33:13.360 has a good personality

01:33:14.500 and status.

01:33:15.200 Can you scoot your mic

01:33:15.900 this way, please?

01:33:17.220 But Megan Fox

01:33:18.080 has a good personality

01:33:19.060 and status

01:33:19.880 and she's still dating lower.

01:33:21.900 And what does he have?

01:33:22.680 He has some music

01:33:24.060 and pink hair 1.00

01:33:24.740 and spikes.

01:33:25.320 I'm not privy

01:33:26.100 to all the details

01:33:27.580 of the MGK

01:33:28.940 and Megan Fox thing.

01:33:29.900 Those are just examples

01:33:30.540 that we were bringing up.

01:33:32.240 Okay.

01:33:32.660 So, wait.

01:33:33.200 What's the point?

01:33:35.400 That women date below.

01:33:36.640 Women date below 1.00

01:33:37.660 the average...

01:33:38.980 Like, I would much rather

01:33:39.880 date somebody

01:33:40.380 who's less attractive.

01:33:40.960 That's almost...

01:33:42.320 Are we agreeing then?

01:33:43.920 It almost reinforces

01:33:44.860 my point.

01:33:45.780 The men that they end up

01:33:47.680 in long-term relationships with

01:33:49.580 ends up being different.

01:33:52.220 With more beautiful.

01:33:53.220 Wait, what?

01:33:53.860 If you're saying

01:33:54.780 like I...

01:33:55.640 If I date somebody

01:33:56.860 who's less...

01:33:57.920 Also, we shouldn't use

01:33:58.760 celebrities

01:33:59.300 because that involves

01:34:01.440 like status...

01:34:02.660 Yeah, I guess.

01:34:03.160 People that we don't know.

01:34:03.920 Whatever.

01:34:04.640 Like, it's still saying

01:34:05.820 like I would much...

01:34:06.860 Okay.

01:34:07.460 The...

01:34:07.900 Generally speaking,

01:34:09.140 like a girl 0.67

01:34:09.800 who's average

01:34:10.580 could hook up

01:34:11.480 very easily

01:34:12.320 like just go on Tinder...

01:34:13.760 100%.

01:34:14.340 It's so much easier

01:34:15.260 for a girl to hook up 1.00

01:34:16.000 with a guy than is for...

01:34:16.680 And hook up with a guy

01:34:17.720 who's more physically

01:34:19.340 attractive than she is

01:34:20.360 because said guy

01:34:21.540 welcomes 0.97

01:34:22.500 the easy access to sex.

01:34:24.300 100%.

01:34:25.220 If I go up to a guy

01:34:26.380 right now

01:34:26.800 no matter what

01:34:27.680 and like I want to have 1.00

01:34:28.760 sex with you, 0.99

01:34:29.420 they're not... 0.92

01:34:29.920 Why would they...

01:34:30.360 No?

01:34:31.140 Like...

01:34:31.700 Why do we keep pushing

01:34:33.160 this casual hook up

01:34:35.040 and we're not talking

01:34:36.240 about actual relationships?

01:34:37.800 That's a different conversation. 0.99

01:34:39.060 What the fuck is going on? 0.99

01:34:40.080 Like a lot of this is about... 0.99

01:34:41.000 It just sounds like

01:34:42.000 it's like men like 1.00

01:34:42.940 well they can hook up

01:34:43.820 with more people

01:34:44.480 and it's like

01:34:45.220 who cares?

01:34:46.020 Like that's not going to

01:34:46.720 sustain a long-term relationship

01:34:47.840 and a lot of those

01:34:48.580 connections don't build

01:34:50.120 into something more

01:34:50.800 but this is a dating podcast

01:34:51.980 most people are dating

01:34:52.900 to become...

01:34:53.580 to turn into a relationship.

01:34:55.620 Well, I mean there's all...

01:34:56.280 Not everybody is.

01:34:56.980 But a lot of people are.

01:34:58.240 I don't agree with that.

01:34:58.960 I don't think you need to date

01:35:00.420 to be committed

01:35:01.160 and marry and have kids 1.00

01:35:01.940 and do all this other shit. 1.00

01:35:03.080 I mean... 1.00

01:35:03.680 No, you don't have to

01:35:04.640 but I'd say a large majority

01:35:05.860 would like that.

01:35:06.360 But that's not the normal anymore.

01:35:07.340 Like it's a different time now.

01:35:08.920 Yeah.

01:35:10.280 But the point I'm trying

01:35:11.760 to make is

01:35:12.420 is that...

01:35:14.840 Okay.

01:35:15.740 This all stems

01:35:16.580 from the 1 to 10 rating thing.

01:35:18.960 So if you have a girl

01:35:20.040 who has a delusional

01:35:23.000 or inaccurate self-assessment

01:35:25.040 of her own physical attractiveness

01:35:26.520 she's... 1.00

01:35:28.300 Let's say she's chasing

01:35:29.400 after a certain tier of man.

01:35:32.540 To marry or just hook up with?

01:35:36.340 They can coincide.

01:35:38.200 I...

01:35:38.640 Like because if...

01:35:40.040 I thought it was separate.

01:35:41.060 A second ago it was separate.

01:35:42.260 A second ago it was just about

01:35:43.200 casual dating

01:35:43.860 and not turning into a relationship

01:35:45.420 and now it's...

01:35:46.120 No, they're related.

01:35:46.960 That's what I just said.

01:35:47.540 Related.

01:35:48.020 Exactly.

01:35:48.340 Because...

01:35:48.660 That's what I just said.

01:35:49.300 Because a girl 1.00

01:35:50.480 could hook up

01:35:51.420 with a guy

01:35:52.260 who's more attractive

01:35:53.840 than she is

01:35:54.460 if we're just using

01:35:55.280 some objective rating scale

01:35:56.760 of 1 to 10

01:35:57.460 that guy very well

01:35:59.580 is not going to ever

01:36:00.940 commit to her.

01:36:02.040 But she's able to get 0.53

01:36:03.060 sexual access from him. 0.55

01:36:05.880 So

01:36:06.360 she either thinks

01:36:08.360 well

01:36:08.920 didn't work with this guy

01:36:10.060 let me keep chasing

01:36:11.060 men of this caliber.

01:36:13.760 So then she's going to

01:36:14.840 look at the guy

01:36:15.640 who's actually

01:36:16.480 on her looks level

01:36:17.500 who's actually

01:36:18.280 her looks equivalent 0.50

01:36:19.200 and she's going to think

01:36:20.620 I'm settling for him.

01:36:22.980 That's where women 1.00

01:36:23.780 get into trouble

01:36:24.740 if they think that

01:36:25.520 they're more attractive

01:36:26.560 than they actually are.

01:36:28.140 They're going to be

01:36:28.680 chasing dudes

01:36:29.560 throughout their 20s

01:36:30.400 who are just never

01:36:30.980 going to commit to them

01:36:31.780 keep them in situationships

01:36:33.400 casual sex

01:36:34.540 one night stands.

01:36:36.580 The rating scale

01:36:37.540 is not the way

01:36:38.260 to solve this.

01:36:39.620 The rating scale

01:36:40.440 is not the way

01:36:41.200 to solve this.

01:36:41.620 I'm not saying...

01:36:42.080 It's discernment

01:36:42.700 solves this.

01:36:43.680 Like your own

01:36:44.780 like

01:36:45.460 life mirroring

01:36:47.080 to you

01:36:47.700 issues

01:36:49.380 is

01:36:50.080 hopefully

01:36:50.880 I mean

01:36:51.800 this is

01:36:52.960 survival

01:36:55.920 of the fittest.

01:36:57.940 You said like

01:36:58.440 the whole scale

01:37:00.320 thing was a

01:37:01.060 surface level

01:37:03.160 question you would say?

01:37:04.600 Is that how you

01:37:05.320 phrased it?

01:37:06.620 Yes.

01:37:07.340 And you also

01:37:08.240 compared that

01:37:08.960 to what

01:37:09.700 do you bring

01:37:10.540 to the table

01:37:11.100 like that

01:37:12.120 as a surface level

01:37:13.360 question as well.

01:37:14.040 right?

01:37:15.300 Yes.

01:37:15.960 But you would say

01:37:17.220 that if a man

01:37:18.860 were to ask you that

01:37:19.740 you would obviously

01:37:20.720 right off the bat

01:37:21.760 judge him for something

01:37:22.980 but I think that

01:37:24.020 surface level questions

01:37:25.160 are almost necessary

01:37:27.040 nowadays

01:37:27.480 because they say

01:37:28.620 a lot more about people

01:37:29.700 than just

01:37:31.120 the flat out question.

01:37:33.080 Doc Vinabley donated

01:37:34.340 $100.

01:37:36.120 Okay.

01:37:37.020 Let's go deep.

01:37:38.440 IQ test.

01:37:39.600 Girls.

01:37:40.400 Can you name

01:37:40.960 seven books

01:37:41.700 that you have read

01:37:42.480 other than the

01:37:43.060 Harry Potter series

01:37:44.200 Hunger Games

01:37:45.320 or the Bible?

01:37:46.540 Who read the Bible?

01:37:47.840 Um.

01:37:48.600 Who read the Bible?

01:37:49.800 Here each of you.

01:37:51.340 Maybe you can do

01:37:52.020 the Bible one.

01:37:52.600 Here name three books.

01:37:53.500 Go.

01:37:54.280 Of those

01:37:54.840 Sorcerer's Stone.

01:37:57.020 No he said

01:37:57.900 not those.

01:37:58.960 Oh not those

01:37:59.760 books in general?

01:38:01.380 Yeah.

01:38:02.000 I'd be reading.

01:38:03.500 A little life.

01:38:04.720 Sorry.

01:38:05.300 I wasn't listening.

01:38:05.980 I was pointing at her 0.96

01:38:06.560 saying she should do

01:38:07.160 the Bible verses.

01:38:10.140 Okay.

01:38:10.620 We have to wrap

01:38:11.700 the show early anyway

01:38:12.540 so we're going to

01:38:13.140 move on.

01:38:13.480 Sorry Doc.

01:38:14.140 Does anyone here

01:38:14.680 name seven books?

01:38:15.620 Do you want to

01:38:15.900 name seven books?

01:38:16.620 It's the same thing.

01:38:17.800 I'm not going to

01:38:18.400 sit here and listen.

01:38:19.220 Okay.

01:38:19.640 Thank you for your

01:38:20.280 participation.

01:38:20.980 Appreciate it.

01:38:22.120 Did you have a point

01:38:23.000 that you were

01:38:23.940 arriving at Madison?

01:38:25.060 Yeah I think I kind

01:38:25.920 of made it.

01:38:26.300 Do you want me to

01:38:26.660 repeat it?

01:38:27.280 Well it was a

01:38:28.200 question right?

01:38:29.580 Yeah.

01:38:29.920 So your question.

01:38:30.520 Don't you think

01:38:31.360 that surface level

01:38:32.200 questions are most

01:38:32.940 necessary to ask

01:38:33.820 these days because

01:38:34.660 it says more about

01:38:35.540 someone like you

01:38:36.420 said some man

01:38:39.320 asking you what

01:38:40.420 do you bring to

01:38:40.900 the table?

01:38:41.740 You obviously think

01:38:42.540 a little more into

01:38:43.360 it and obviously

01:38:44.840 judge him in a way

01:38:46.860 saying he's a little

01:38:48.500 more red pilled.

01:38:50.600 It's going to be a

01:38:51.240 red flag.

01:38:51.560 that you object to the

01:38:53.840 surface level

01:38:54.340 questions.

01:38:54.900 I'm just saying

01:38:55.360 not all surface

01:38:56.600 level questions.

01:38:57.260 I don't know where

01:38:57.880 that conversation

01:38:58.700 could go but if

01:38:59.740 somebody is already

01:39:00.600 like initially like

01:39:01.920 bringing up red

01:39:02.680 pill rhetoric then

01:39:03.680 I know that we're

01:39:04.440 just not going to

01:39:04.980 be a match.

01:39:06.520 Like I'm not

01:39:06.960 interested in that

01:39:07.640 subset.

01:39:08.180 Okay fantastic.

01:39:09.660 Wait I'll quickly

01:39:10.420 say that if I did

01:39:11.560 bring that up with

01:39:12.280 my ex maybe and

01:39:13.200 if I said what

01:39:13.820 would you bring to

01:39:14.260 the table and he

01:39:14.880 said nothing having

01:39:16.500 you pay for out my

01:39:17.240 bill is why I play

01:39:17.940 video games and do

01:39:18.960 nothing then maybe

01:39:19.840 I've been like okay

01:39:20.780 I won't get into

01:39:21.340 a relationship with

01:39:22.000 him so he wasn't

01:39:23.100 going to tell you

01:39:23.600 that.

01:39:24.640 Yeah but if he had

01:39:25.560 nothing to say what

01:39:26.940 would he say if he

01:39:27.640 had nothing to say?

01:39:28.740 It's like a guy

01:39:30.540 asked that and the

01:39:31.440 girl has nothing to 1.00

01:39:32.720 say then everyone

01:39:33.780 blames him for well

01:39:35.120 why'd you ask that?

01:39:36.040 It's like well if you

01:39:38.380 have nothing to bring

01:39:39.080 to the table can you

01:39:39.920 blame him?

01:39:41.200 That's why you work

01:39:41.660 on yourself so you

01:39:42.460 have something to

01:39:43.100 bring to the table

01:39:43.540 so when you're asked

01:39:44.340 that question it

01:39:45.100 doesn't seem as crazy

01:39:46.800 to be asked it and

01:39:47.520 you can be like

01:39:48.740 if you really want

01:39:49.560 to know I can

01:39:50.060 yeah.

01:39:50.840 It's not offensive

01:39:51.680 like almost nothing

01:39:53.180 offends me it's just

01:39:54.840 it's giving me that

01:39:56.000 inkling of like I'm

01:39:57.140 not interested and

01:39:58.020 it is a bad

01:39:58.500 connotation.

01:39:58.600 And you can say

01:39:59.260 whatever you want to

01:40:00.060 say it's not going

01:40:01.060 to actually give you

01:40:02.040 most of the time a

01:40:03.540 proper like understanding

01:40:04.620 of that person their

01:40:05.360 actions are going to

01:40:06.060 show that not some

01:40:07.120 answer.

01:40:07.560 Right but it's tip of

01:40:09.100 the iceberg it'll

01:40:09.980 leave you there.

01:40:10.860 Well okay disregarding

01:40:12.000 your objections to the

01:40:13.160 actual question what do

01:40:16.280 you bring to the table?

01:40:17.180 Disregarding your

01:40:19.260 actual objections to

01:40:20.340 somebody asking you

01:40:21.000 that question what do

01:40:21.820 you bring to the

01:40:22.340 table?

01:40:24.720 I'm not going to

01:40:25.800 answer this question

01:40:26.680 this is just something

01:40:27.540 that I wouldn't answer

01:40:28.840 in a date I'm not

01:40:30.620 going to answer here

01:40:31.400 I'm not going to

01:40:31.960 answer how many books

01:40:33.080 I've read.

01:40:34.720 Okay.

01:40:35.600 It's that power dynamic

01:40:36.960 and I know a lot of

01:40:37.980 you don't see this and

01:40:39.180 don't maybe even have

01:40:40.540 that level of

01:40:41.380 understanding or

01:40:42.080 discernment and it's

01:40:42.940 a different generation 0.83

01:40:44.160 but it's it's a thing

01:40:47.200 Powered diet.

01:40:50.480 Do you expect a guy to

01:40:51.220 pay on the first date?

01:40:53.560 Yes.

01:40:54.280 That's a great question.

01:40:55.860 That is a good question.

01:40:56.480 Can we go around the

01:40:57.080 table with that one?

01:40:58.040 Give me just a sec.

01:40:58.920 We will go around the

01:40:59.580 table on that.

01:40:59.980 Raven decadinated 0.96

01:41:01.240 one hundred dollars.

01:41:03.100 The answer is nothing.

01:41:05.240 She brings nothing to 0.73

01:41:06.300 the table.

01:41:06.800 That's what he's

01:41:10.100 inferring by your

01:41:11.060 choice to omit

01:41:12.340 answering that

01:41:12.980 question but

01:41:13.580 okay so

01:41:14.580 what do you expect

01:41:17.140 men to bring to the

01:41:17.940 table?

01:41:19.900 Integrity.

01:41:21.240 Clarity.

01:41:22.640 Consistency.

01:41:24.200 A strong

01:41:25.680 connection to

01:41:27.900 divinity.

01:41:28.700 Not necessarily

01:41:29.320 religion but

01:41:30.360 some kind of

01:41:31.620 purpose-based

01:41:33.420 lifestyle.

01:41:36.800 Emotional

01:41:38.120 availability.

01:41:39.080 Emotional

01:41:39.360 maturity.

01:41:42.300 So what is the

01:41:43.240 female equivalent 0.80

01:41:43.920 of that?

01:41:46.300 The same.

01:41:48.160 Then why wouldn't

01:41:48.860 you just say that

01:41:49.580 at the table

01:41:50.160 when he asks you?

01:41:53.220 I could repeat

01:41:54.180 myself over and

01:41:54.960 over again.

01:41:55.540 This is a

01:41:56.220 this audience

01:41:57.980 and everything

01:41:59.760 is a very

01:42:00.640 specific

01:42:01.300 subset

01:42:02.340 of the population.

01:42:03.880 A small

01:42:04.460 percentage of the

01:42:05.140 population.

01:42:05.620 So a lot

01:42:06.920 of people

01:42:07.260 aren't really

01:42:07.800 watching this.

01:42:09.120 The majority 0.87

01:42:09.720 of people

01:42:10.140 aren't watching

01:42:11.120 this.

01:42:11.880 No offense

01:42:12.260 you guys have

01:42:12.760 a great

01:42:13.000 following.

01:42:14.180 And they're

01:42:15.320 not into

01:42:16.180 this community.

01:42:17.780 So I'm

01:42:18.160 wanting somebody

01:42:18.940 outside of this

01:42:19.820 small community.

01:42:20.640 Into the mic

01:42:21.040 please.

01:42:21.680 I'm just

01:42:22.280 wanting somebody

01:42:23.000 outside of this

01:42:23.800 small community

01:42:24.340 and once I see

01:42:25.580 that somebody

01:42:26.020 is kind of

01:42:26.660 programmed by

01:42:28.340 this community

01:42:29.000 and we could

01:42:30.140 get into like

01:42:30.700 the matrix and

01:42:31.280 the red pill and

01:42:31.740 the blue pill.

01:42:32.220 Right but that's

01:42:32.680 not my question.

01:42:34.560 Why would you

01:42:35.780 not just say

01:42:36.700 those same

01:42:38.240 things that you

01:42:39.000 just said

01:42:39.620 I'm sorry

01:42:40.640 you just said

01:42:42.040 you know like a

01:42:42.500 list of all of

01:42:43.140 these things that

01:42:43.800 you would want

01:42:44.460 in a man which

01:42:45.480 are very good

01:42:45.980 things by the

01:42:46.560 way you know

01:42:47.580 but at the

01:42:48.560 same time if

01:42:49.540 he asks you

01:42:50.300 that why

01:42:51.040 why is it so

01:42:52.960 wrong of him

01:42:54.880 to ask you

01:42:55.840 so that you

01:42:56.980 have the

01:42:57.320 opportunity to

01:42:58.260 respond to him

01:42:59.040 in that way.

01:42:59.680 it's not

01:43:00.520 wrong it's

01:43:01.320 specifically more

01:43:02.180 or less the

01:43:02.700 terminology and

01:43:04.100 then the alarm

01:43:05.280 that kind of

01:43:06.340 tells me that

01:43:07.160 he's into this

01:43:07.880 community which

01:43:08.620 I'm personally

01:43:09.340 not interested in

01:43:10.300 somebody from

01:43:10.900 the red pill

01:43:12.300 community so

01:43:13.420 can you ask

01:43:15.820 it's a very

01:43:17.440 it's a red flag

01:43:18.540 essentially.

01:43:19.380 Okay it's a red

01:43:20.240 flag if somebody

01:43:21.060 asks what you

01:43:21.860 bring to the

01:43:22.320 table.

01:43:23.260 Yes.

01:43:23.900 Okay I assume

01:43:25.080 do you bring

01:43:26.200 things to the

01:43:26.780 table?

01:43:27.040 No I don't

01:43:30.160 bring absolutely

01:43:30.980 just nothing.

01:43:31.960 Are you just

01:43:32.240 being facetious

01:43:32.860 or?

01:43:33.940 I mean I'm

01:43:34.480 looking for a

01:43:35.100 partner that is

01:43:35.760 on my level so.

01:43:37.040 What's on your

01:43:37.520 level?

01:43:38.540 What do you

01:43:38.800 consider on your

01:43:39.720 level?

01:43:39.920 You're trying to

01:43:40.840 without using the

01:43:41.960 terms.

01:43:42.120 I'm literally

01:43:42.640 having a good

01:43:43.740 faith conversation.

01:43:44.600 I just told you

01:43:45.360 integrity, clarity,

01:43:46.860 consistency, being

01:43:47.860 purpose based, living

01:43:49.120 a more purpose

01:43:49.680 based life, being

01:43:53.300 transparent, having

01:43:55.500 authenticity.

01:43:56.140 I mean these

01:43:57.520 are just general

01:43:58.720 characteristics that

01:44:00.320 I would look for

01:44:01.080 in somebody and

01:44:01.760 vice versa but that

01:44:02.680 specific terminology

01:44:03.940 it it's just going

01:44:06.500 to tell me hey I

01:44:07.420 don't want to waste

01:44:07.940 either of our time.

01:44:08.900 You object to the

01:44:09.880 specific question or

01:44:11.240 the specific

01:44:12.460 terminology.

01:44:14.420 Would you want a

01:44:15.300 guy to you said

01:44:16.400 you had a kid.

01:44:17.900 Would you want a

01:44:18.500 guy to like pay for

01:44:20.220 a babysitter so that

01:44:21.320 you could go on a

01:44:21.840 date with him or

01:44:23.080 would you handle

01:44:25.080 that?

01:44:25.360 As I'm getting to

01:44:26.440 know him no.

01:44:28.760 Like right in the

01:44:29.540 down the road?

01:44:31.100 Well if we're going

01:44:31.980 to become in a

01:44:32.820 long-term relationship

01:44:33.700 that's leading to

01:44:34.400 marriage it's going

01:44:35.840 it's we're going to

01:44:38.120 become a family at

01:44:39.440 some point down the

01:44:40.760 line.

01:44:41.820 So would I ask him

01:44:42.940 initially to pay for

01:44:43.960 a babysitter when I'm

01:44:44.920 just getting to know

01:44:45.540 somebody?

01:44:45.980 No.

01:44:46.780 Do you have kids?

01:44:47.720 Yes.

01:44:47.940 I have a son.

01:44:49.060 Are you married?

01:44:49.940 No.

01:44:50.480 Okay.

01:44:51.580 Is the father in the

01:44:53.780 picture at all or?

01:44:54.680 No he's not.

01:44:56.260 So you pay child

01:44:58.780 support?

01:44:59.860 Nope.

01:45:02.400 Is it like a one

01:45:03.380 night stand or

01:45:03.900 something?

01:45:04.640 No.

01:45:04.900 Gone wrong?

01:45:05.920 No.

01:45:06.220 Gone pregnant? 0.66

01:45:07.240 No.

01:45:07.960 Okay.

01:45:08.240 I've never had a

01:45:08.700 one night stand.

01:45:09.660 Okay.

01:45:11.780 Good times.

01:45:13.560 Good times.

01:45:15.120 Yeah.

01:45:15.260 Did you have it

01:45:17.980 looked like you had

01:45:18.600 another question or

01:45:19.420 is this bringing up

01:45:20.720 judgment of shame?

01:45:21.820 No.

01:45:22.220 No.

01:45:22.340 No.

01:45:23.020 Not at all.

01:45:23.940 No.

01:45:24.200 No.

01:45:24.300 No.

01:45:24.420 No.

01:45:24.740 It's just it's

01:45:28.440 just like why it why

01:45:31.360 are you single?

01:45:32.860 Like is it different

01:45:34.440 because you have a kid

01:45:35.920 or is it like like is

01:45:37.120 it harder?

01:45:37.740 Like I'm just I don't

01:45:39.340 know if it's necessarily

01:45:40.520 harder.

01:45:41.060 I just haven't met that

01:45:42.560 person yet.

01:45:43.240 I've been in multiple

01:45:44.020 long-term relationships.

01:45:45.960 But why has it not

01:45:46.880 worked?

01:45:48.220 If like you you obtain

01:45:49.620 so much knowledge like

01:45:51.600 I don't like if it were

01:45:53.420 me coming to you it's

01:45:55.180 like asking someone it's

01:45:56.400 like asking a doctor if

01:45:57.420 the medicine worked and

01:45:58.180 it's not working for

01:45:58.720 them.

01:45:59.200 So it's like how you see

01:46:01.100 what I'm saying like if

01:46:01.760 it hasn't worked for you

01:46:02.700 how can you guide others?

01:46:03.880 I'm just trying to be

01:46:04.540 Yeah.

01:46:04.780 A lot of people do feel

01:46:05.660 that way.

01:46:06.180 I don't personally feel

01:46:06.900 that way.

01:46:07.320 I don't feel that every

01:46:07.940 family therapist has to

01:46:10.220 be married in order to

01:46:11.500 give you the same tools

01:46:12.560 that it takes to

01:46:13.220 sustain a marriage.

01:46:14.140 I haven't met that

01:46:15.100 person yet.

01:46:15.940 Right.

01:46:16.260 I there's a lot of

01:46:17.940 people have all the

01:46:19.400 tools and haven't yet

01:46:20.360 met that person and I'm

01:46:21.520 sure I'll get a lot of

01:46:22.100 pushback of oh this this

01:46:23.560 or that is wrong.

01:46:24.940 I mean right from you

01:46:25.940 but from the community

01:46:26.720 right to guide a family

01:46:28.380 I would expect you to

01:46:29.400 have a family because you

01:46:31.000 can or to guide a family

01:46:32.620 to become a family I

01:46:34.040 would expect someone who

01:46:35.340 has experience and you

01:46:36.900 see what I'm saying

01:46:37.240 that's just me personally.

01:46:38.760 Most of my relationships

01:46:39.400 have been around three

01:46:40.260 four years long.

01:46:41.160 Right.

01:46:41.420 So I'm not like I've

01:46:42.540 never been into casual

01:46:43.540 dating.

01:46:44.220 That would scare me.

01:46:44.780 I'd be like holy like 0.99

01:46:46.160 holy shit she's been in 0.99

01:46:46.880 a relationship for three 0.99

01:46:47.360 to four years it didn't

01:46:47.960 work out like that's

01:46:49.040 fine and then you see

01:46:50.240 what I'm saying you're

01:46:51.180 like what advice could

01:46:52.520 you give me.

01:46:53.660 Well if that scared you

01:46:54.580 and you didn't want to

01:46:55.240 come see me you would

01:46:55.960 probably just want to

01:46:56.860 specifically make sure

01:46:57.740 that you go to somebody

01:46:58.580 who is in a long-term

01:46:59.540 marriage.

01:47:00.760 I you know what I mean

01:47:01.900 like that's if that's a

01:47:03.660 specific some people

01:47:05.100 won't see therapists who

01:47:06.480 only have a master's

01:47:07.460 degree they really

01:47:08.460 specifically want

01:47:09.280 somebody with a

01:47:09.860 doctorate and that's

01:47:10.740 that's completely fine.

01:47:13.220 Yeah.

01:47:14.220 Yeah we just have to

01:47:15.020 agree to disagree

01:47:15.620 because it I just I

01:47:17.700 couldn't like that's

01:47:19.920 like taking parenting

01:47:20.680 advice from someone

01:47:21.600 who's not a parent.

01:47:22.300 You see what I'm

01:47:22.560 saying like it just

01:47:23.300 wouldn't make sense to

01:47:24.720 me.

01:47:25.280 Yeah to an extent but

01:47:26.100 there are a lot of

01:47:26.920 people who are teachers

01:47:30.340 who are not parents.

01:47:31.500 There are a lot of

01:47:31.940 people who are family

01:47:33.460 therapists who are not

01:47:34.440 parents and you're just

01:47:35.920 I get the right right

01:47:38.200 you get the level of

01:47:39.360 understanding but it's

01:47:41.340 yeah and people are

01:47:43.620 their right to have

01:47:45.100 that that's completely

01:47:46.440 fine.

01:47:46.980 Yeah.

01:47:47.700 Okay.

01:47:48.180 Well this all stemmed

01:47:49.220 from the one to ten

01:47:50.100 rating question.

01:47:51.540 Basically look the point

01:47:52.600 I'm trying to make is

01:47:53.500 is if you think you're 1.00

01:47:54.640 hot shit and you're 1.00

01:47:56.040 not reality is going 1.00

01:47:58.740 to slap you in the 0.91

01:47:59.400 face and it plays out 0.99

01:48:01.340 a little differently

01:48:02.000 between men and

01:48:02.720 women as a guy if you 1.00

01:48:03.820 think you're fucking 1.00

01:48:04.520 hot shit and you're 1.00

01:48:06.180 like obese and a 1.00

01:48:07.700 basement dwelling troll 0.98

01:48:08.580 and you live with 0.96

01:48:09.020 your parents like

01:48:09.800 you're not going to

01:48:11.500 go get a Victoria's

01:48:12.580 Secret model.

01:48:14.060 The difference though

01:48:15.200 between men and

01:48:15.900 women is that men 0.98

01:48:18.400 will welcome the easy 0.98

01:48:19.840 access to sex so you 0.97

01:48:22.440 have women who are

01:48:23.300 capable of you know

01:48:26.080 maybe they're a little

01:48:27.660 overweight maybe they're

01:48:28.520 average looking whatever

01:48:29.300 it may be they can get

01:48:30.500 with like guy who's

01:48:31.860 maybe more attractive

01:48:32.600 than them and

01:48:33.700 unfortunately a lot of

01:48:35.800 guys are gonna string

01:48:37.940 that type of girl 1.00

01:48:38.600 along and then she's

01:48:40.280 either she's gonna get

01:48:41.460 hurt she's gonna be

01:48:43.120 like he doesn't want to

01:48:44.000 commit or she's just

01:48:44.820 gonna keep chasing after

01:48:46.340 a certain tier of guy

01:48:48.180 and then once you've

01:48:49.500 been with a certain

01:48:50.280 tier of guy the guy

01:48:51.820 who's actually on your

01:48:52.780 level who you once

01:48:54.480 you've been through a

01:48:55.200 bunch of guys in your

01:48:55.860 20s who you're gonna

01:48:56.600 want to settle down with

01:48:57.460 when you're in your late

01:48:58.080 20s or 30s the guy

01:48:59.980 who's actually on your

01:49:00.680 level you're gonna settle

01:49:01.460 for him and it's not

01:49:02.600 gonna make for a

01:49:03.240 healthier productive

01:49:03.880 relationship in my view

01:49:05.240 I think a lot of that

01:49:07.880 stems from from a

01:49:09.700 modern standpoint of

01:49:11.100 women overall in the

01:49:14.320 dating world have

01:49:15.460 unreal expectations of

01:49:17.780 what they expect out of

01:49:19.520 a man but not out of

01:49:20.680 themselves if that

01:49:21.840 makes sense so it's

01:49:22.800 like women expect men 1.00

01:49:25.260 to do this and that

01:49:26.200 but they but then it's

01:49:29.440 it's toxic femininity 1.00

01:49:31.540 when you say okay well

01:49:32.980 can you can you clean

01:49:34.500 the kitchen it's like

01:49:35.580 then everyone's like

01:49:36.940 whoa whoa whoa whoa

01:49:37.560 whoa you can't say

01:49:38.220 that it's like I believe

01:49:41.220 very heavily in in

01:49:42.580 gender roles yeah me 1.00

01:49:43.940 too it works it's been

01:49:45.840 proven to work and I

01:49:47.840 think modern from a

01:49:50.020 modern standpoint it's

01:49:51.340 becoming less and less

01:49:53.120 we're gonna we're gonna

01:49:54.120 move did you have a

01:49:55.000 final thing to touch on

01:49:55.860 this I do agree to some

01:49:56.980 extent gender roles are 1.00

01:49:58.360 huge I don't like

01:49:59.640 blanket statements I

01:50:00.420 don't think that they

01:50:01.040 work for everybody but I

01:50:02.080 think that they're great

01:50:03.240 but I the rating the

01:50:05.740 looks rating thing I

01:50:06.760 think that we can

01:50:07.640 replace that woman 1.00

01:50:09.880 having to chase with

01:50:11.660 the like similar to work

01:50:14.100 that I do healing

01:50:15.060 releasing chasing

01:50:16.960 patterns not chasing

01:50:18.200 having stronger

01:50:18.900 discernment and only

01:50:20.000 entertaining men that

01:50:20.800 are clear and consistent

01:50:21.480 in their words and

01:50:22.180 actions instead of a

01:50:24.500 physical rating scale

01:50:25.760 word okay we have

01:50:28.740 Ripley glass here hey

01:50:30.420 Ripley thank you man keep

01:50:32.260 your lovely don't listen 1.00

01:50:33.180 to the Bible thumpers on 1.00

01:50:34.120 the other side of the

01:50:34.680 table two of them can't

01:50:35.760 drink haven't lived enough

01:50:36.720 to understand dating our

01:50:37.580 life keep your whole meal

01:50:39.060 and a snack I'd eat every

01:50:41.100 day hit me up on IG most

01:50:44.180 men don't want virgins that's 1.00

01:50:46.300 cap but thank you thank you

01:50:49.580 I guess yeah there you go

01:50:52.740 Ripley appreciate it man

01:50:53.720 I would say that like if

01:50:57.340 given the opportunity yeah

01:50:58.460 most men actually would

01:50:59.340 prefer women who are 0.99

01:51:00.080 virgins but it's pretty

01:51:01.280 rare so expectations you

01:51:03.160 know any discreement on

01:51:05.920 that I mean that's just like

01:51:06.800 saying a fairy tale like a

01:51:08.020 fairy tale beginning is just

01:51:08.900 hard to find like it's just

01:51:09.840 hard to find a virgin and 0.96

01:51:10.980 women may want the same 1.00

01:51:12.380 thing yeah nobody talks

01:51:13.740 about that and women want 1.00

01:51:15.060 virgins 0.72

01:51:15.500 sometimes you never know

01:51:17.140 but a guy might say he

01:51:18.440 wants a virgin I see that

01:51:19.860 all the time but I've 0.79

01:51:20.680 never met a male though my

01:51:21.840 age that was a virgin ever 0.99

01:51:22.940 a guy might say he wants a 0.50

01:51:24.360 virgin because like in his

01:51:25.340 mind he might be like oh

01:51:26.600 it's tighter or it's

01:51:27.700 whatever I'm the first one

01:51:28.720 to christen it that's just

01:51:29.900 like how a male's brain I've

01:51:31.820 heard them say this before

01:51:32.680 so purity it's how they say

01:51:34.080 yeah the purity but they

01:51:35.180 say all that too and that's

01:51:36.120 acceptable and when they say

01:51:38.040 all that they can say all

01:51:39.980 that but then when it comes

01:51:41.060 to it sometimes I've also

01:51:42.480 had friends who were guys who

01:51:44.580 were with a virgin and it's 0.59

01:51:46.900 totally okay if anyone is

01:51:48.300 like there's nothing wrong

01:51:49.160 with it but then they ended

01:51:50.300 up being kind of

01:51:50.920 disappointed because they

01:51:51.780 were like I couldn't

01:51:53.220 actually have fun she didn't

01:51:54.320 know what she was doing it

01:51:55.460 felt more like a chore or

01:51:57.040 something and that's not all

01:51:58.000 the cases that's not every

01:51:59.040 case but there's like the

01:52:00.260 fantasy that we build up in

01:52:01.280 her head and reality is so

01:52:02.500 much different than anything

01:52:03.840 you can imagine just like

01:52:04.920 imagining a guy's gonna like

01:52:07.380 yeah do some big grand

01:52:09.600 romantic gesture or

01:52:10.720 something ends up just

01:52:11.720 being a flop or something

01:52:12.880 sure well that so there's two

01:52:14.180 things there I mean the

01:52:14.960 this girl in question I

01:52:16.040 don't obviously we don't

01:52:16.820 know the details but

01:52:17.800 temperamentally she could 0.99

01:52:19.820 have just been even though 0.97

01:52:21.740 she had sex with this guy 1.00

01:52:23.760 could have just been kind of 0.85

01:52:25.660 not super into it but as far

01:52:27.200 as her not knowing what to

01:52:28.660 do I actually think that

01:52:30.340 reflects more on the guy

01:52:32.140 because if you know what

01:52:32.860 you're doing as a guy you

01:52:33.720 can take a girl and show her

01:52:35.840 teach her so if you know

01:52:38.040 what you're if you know what

01:52:39.660 you're doing in the bedroom as

01:52:40.580 a guy you like you can

01:52:43.700 some don't know

01:52:44.540 sure I completely agree with

01:52:46.240 like men wanting purity it

01:52:47.420 makes sense like 100% makes

01:52:48.800 sense I don't know why

01:52:49.660 there's there should be no

01:52:51.320 debate for that I don't know

01:52:52.220 it's so like bad to say you

01:52:53.940 want a virgin it's not that

01:52:54.720 big of a deal but it's like

01:52:56.220 is does it you you should

01:53:00.260 maintain that purity yourself

01:53:01.460 then I feel like if you sit

01:53:03.740 here and you're like I want a 0.99

01:53:05.060 virgin and I want I want 0.84

01:53:06.240 somebody who's really pure

01:53:07.220 100% I agree with you go

01:53:09.180 crazy but you also shouldn't 0.99

01:53:11.220 have slept with 150 women 1.00

01:53:12.380 just for you to teach me

01:53:13.680 baby girl it takes maybe to

01:53:15.320 sleep with two people for

01:53:16.340 you to understand and two

01:53:17.900 people consistently to

01:53:19.100 understand what you like and

01:53:20.500 what they like so hypothetically

01:53:22.280 if I was a virgin 100% I

01:53:25.000 mean I wouldn't be upset if

01:53:26.040 my man had two partners

01:53:27.840 because it's like you weren't

01:53:29.300 you live 20 something years and

01:53:30.700 you could have slept with 50 0.93

01:53:32.060 women but you chose to you 1.00

01:53:33.820 chose to learn and gather and

01:53:36.980 whatever you need to do and

01:53:38.640 you found me and that was

01:53:39.700 that that's totally fine but 0.99

01:53:42.280 don't be out here fucking 150 0.99

01:53:44.500 women and expect to get a pure 1.00

01:53:45.980 woman yeah you're not you're 0.98

01:53:47.960 not totally wrong the the one

01:53:50.300 thing I would just point out

01:53:51.160 though is I don't think it's

01:53:53.600 wrong for a guy let's say if a

01:53:55.560 guy has slept with a lot of

01:53:56.820 women I don't think it's wrong

01:53:58.380 for him to be attracted to a

01:54:00.220 woman or want a woman who's 1.00

01:54:02.400 had a low body count or who

01:54:04.860 is even a virgin it's like 0.69

01:54:06.040 fetishes right 100% I don't

01:54:07.940 I think if a guy slept with

01:54:09.180 50 girls and he meets a 0.94

01:54:10.200 virgin it's like oh my like

01:54:11.820 now I want it because no one's

01:54:13.080 had it yeah it's it's what men

01:54:15.240 do men like the it's like

01:54:17.960 something that's never been

01:54:18.480 touched before like 100% you're

01:54:20.220 gonna want to be that it's like

01:54:21.320 a trophy like you want that and 0.99

01:54:23.100 shit I'm not gonna sit here in 0.99

01:54:24.080 line say I wouldn't want a 1.00

01:54:24.820 virgin you a dude who's a 0.99

01:54:27.380 virgin it's like a chase it is 0.62

01:54:29.000 fun is it feels easier it's like

01:54:31.880 he's so strong in your values to

01:54:33.660 be 26 and a virgin well okay

01:54:36.660 there's different let's say

01:54:37.660 there's there's uh I mean

01:54:41.840 there's there's guys who are

01:54:43.280 like just whether it's their

01:54:44.640 looks or their personality like

01:54:46.660 either might repel women so 0.99

01:54:49.040 they involuntarily haven't been

01:54:51.820 able to or there are certainly

01:54:52.940 men who are super attractive men

01:54:55.180 but they're like waiting whether

01:54:57.140 it's for religious reasons or

01:54:58.820 they're not particularly inclined

01:55:00.540 to just have casual sex so um

01:55:03.200 but I guess the I don't think

01:55:07.040 you're totally wrong I definitely

01:55:08.140 think there is something to like

01:55:09.420 men should lead sort of by 0.99

01:55:11.440 example and not be fucking man 1.00

01:55:12.820 whores and then expect women to 1.00

01:55:14.260 be but there's there is a bit of 0.99

01:55:16.840 difference though between men and

01:55:18.820 women but I guess the one thing I 1.00

01:55:21.200 would say is though is that in

01:55:24.060 order for you want in order for you

01:55:25.860 to want to be with someone or want

01:55:28.020 a certain quality in the partner

01:55:29.280 do you need does do you need to

01:55:33.240 possess that same characteristics in

01:55:35.620 order for you to want that

01:55:37.480 characteristic in a partner no no

01:55:39.880 so in the no but I wasn't

01:55:42.480 disagreeing with you I think that's

01:55:44.260 100% I think if you you're right

01:55:45.740 like it's not wrong for a man who 0.99

01:55:47.280 slept with 30 women to want or 50

01:55:49.440 women 100 women to want someone

01:55:50.960 that's pure I think it's totally

01:55:52.400 normal no but you can't expect that

01:55:54.400 it's because it's not about

01:55:55.520 characteristic it's about it's

01:55:57.120 about action like it's weird to

01:55:59.960 say oh he can't want a woman that's 0.99

01:56:03.400 a virgin because he's had this many

01:56:05.000 bodies whatever slept with this many 0.92

01:56:06.680 girls but then it's not the same

01:56:09.640 token with characteristics because in

01:56:12.560 that sense I do want somebody that is

01:56:14.480 different from me I want somebody

01:56:16.080 that lacks the part that I that I have

01:56:18.980 strengthened and vice versa so I don't

01:56:21.860 it's you don't want to be with

01:56:23.080 somebody that's just like action so

01:56:24.600 it's like right I expect your actions

01:56:27.420 to be the same as my actions sure not

01:56:30.480 my character yeah and I think where I

01:56:31.980 agree with you is I don't think men

01:56:34.160 should be striving to just be absolute 1.00

01:56:37.840 fucking man whores just running through 1.00

01:56:39.520 a bunch of chicks me personally I 1.00

01:56:40.800 prefer you know longer-term

01:56:43.220 relationships if I sleep with a girl I 0.80

01:56:44.740 want there to be continuity I have no

01:56:46.180 interest in sleeping with a girl once

01:56:48.080 and then never never talking to her

01:56:49.900 again no point so I don't think like

01:56:52.260 guys should really be trying to just

01:56:53.720 like if you're only gonna sleep with a

01:56:55.560 girl once I me personally like look

01:56:57.300 guys can move however they want one I

01:56:59.700 don't think it's worth your time as a

01:57:00.760 guy there's a whole bunch of reasons

01:57:01.900 why I'm not gonna get into it but in

01:57:03.760 any case I think if you are gonna

01:57:05.280 sleep with a girl you should at least 1.00

01:57:06.480 have an intention maybe you only see

01:57:09.420 each other for a month maybe you find

01:57:11.300 out you don't like each other whatever

01:57:12.360 but at least have some sort of a

01:57:14.360 connection yeah of like wanting to be

01:57:17.120 wanting there to be some content it's

01:57:19.020 moving with intent but I wouldn't

01:57:20.500 object to like a guy who's in the past

01:57:22.180 he slept with a hundred women I

01:57:23.460 wouldn't sit there and I wouldn't be

01:57:25.180 like hmm he can't it's wrong for him to

01:57:30.320 want to date a woman with a low body 1.00

01:57:32.200 count I wouldn't object to that no it

01:57:34.120 like I said you can it's a preference

01:57:35.760 you can want what you want in the same

01:57:37.320 way that a lot of times we desire

01:57:38.960 traits in a partner that we don't

01:57:40.880 possess ourselves like maybe you want

01:57:42.980 someone who's wealthy but you're not

01:57:44.880 wealthy yourself you find the fact that

01:57:46.980 they're wealthy attractive but you're

01:57:48.300 broke you know exactly or they're 0.84

01:57:50.280 funny but you're not particularly

01:57:51.540 funny or whatever it may be so we all

01:57:53.820 desire traits in partners that us

01:57:56.960 ourselves don't necessarily possess

01:57:58.520 right but at what point does it become

01:57:59.760 delusional when you can't have that

01:58:01.080 what do you mean like at what point

01:58:02.640 like at what boundary when it comes to

01:58:03.940 body count or like yeah I mean sure

01:58:05.820 like at what point does it become

01:58:08.100 delusional to think like because I've

01:58:11.360 done this I can of course I can have

01:58:12.480 that on the guy's part like delusional

01:58:15.780 both yeah you can speak from the guy's

01:58:18.020 part at what point for you for a guy

01:58:20.560 if you slept with 250 women for you to 1.00

01:58:23.120 sit back when they'd be like yeah nope

01:58:25.660 I'm over this I really would like just

01:58:29.560 a pure virgin I really want that at what 0.82

01:58:33.600 point does it become completely

01:58:35.440 delusional I don't think it becomes

01:58:37.780 delusional at any point whether you can

01:58:39.800 but are you proving that for your

01:58:41.200 lifestyle but okay if you let's say

01:58:43.080 you're up front with a girl and

01:58:44.500 because some women who are more 1.00

01:58:46.260 chaste let's say who don't have high

01:58:49.000 body count or who are virgins they

01:58:50.740 themselves might object to partnering

01:58:52.360 with someone as a right hearing with a

01:58:54.380 guy who's was a but then there's also

01:58:56.480 liars that's true that's true and

01:58:59.180 there's also a subset of women who are 0.98

01:59:01.420 not as preoccupied with body count as

01:59:03.840 men are the same I think women care about 0.99

01:59:07.000 it less there's certainly women that do 1.00

01:59:08.400 care about it I can 100% women care 1.00

01:59:10.740 about it a little less than because

01:59:12.040 it's almost expected of men to do what

01:59:13.820 they do it's expected like I'm not it

01:59:16.440 would be a little bit delusional of me

01:59:18.320 to think I'm going to marry a virgin or

01:59:20.260 I'm Mary I'm going to be with a virgin 0.94

01:59:21.860 it's men do what men do best and that's

01:59:24.400 chase and seek and get the break wait so

01:59:27.560 you'd be down for a virgin like if I knew 1.00

01:59:29.260 a virgin could I get you guys linked up 0.94

01:59:30.740 or what probably not no okay so you're 0.92

01:59:32.680 not down for the virgin I mean I'd be

01:59:33.860 down if there was like an emotional

01:59:34.800 connection right fair enough what's up

01:59:36.740 does body count matter to you to me to

01:59:39.920 me we should ask the table this yeah

01:59:42.600 body count matters okay yeah to me oh

01:59:46.500 wait I should have asked the table well

01:59:47.980 okay yeah it matters okay so because it

01:59:51.720 matters you won't answer that question

01:59:52.900 what do you mean will you answer what

01:59:54.720 your body count what my body count yeah

01:59:56.340 well we got to go around the table

01:59:57.340 really quick before I get to me but so

02:00:00.620 I have something quick quick show of

02:00:02.100 hands go ahead okay so I completely

02:00:07.220 agree sorry I just lost my dream I had

02:00:10.920 it I lost it okay we'll come back to me

02:00:13.060 okay okay so show of hands who here

02:00:16.200 thinks body count there's always two ways

02:00:19.660 to look at it because you could you could

02:00:20.960 think I got it as hold on you could think

02:00:23.080 of it as okay body count matters to the

02:00:26.660 guy does it matter to the girl do you 0.92

02:00:29.560 object to men caring about body count let's 0.99

02:00:31.780 do that show of hands wait well you

02:00:33.940 would object to men caring about body 0.99

02:00:36.380 count about a woman's body so like I as a

02:00:39.160 woman would I be mad if he asked me my

02:00:40.700 body count sure is that the class or if he

02:00:43.100 cared or if he cares about my body count

02:00:45.240 yeah would you do you do I get offended

02:00:47.380 to that do you take issue with it do you

02:00:49.100 take issue with it no I don't take issue

02:00:51.140 with it I just think it's something you

02:00:52.300 ask in high school or something like so

02:00:54.280 juvenile okay fair enough yeah no I don't 0.98

02:00:56.740 take issue with it you don't take issue

02:00:58.340 with it I don't care yeah not at all

02:01:00.320 okay so we should go around the table

02:01:05.700 what's everybody's body count I think

02:01:09.740 probably five probably five okay yeah

02:01:15.360 all right might be a little bit higher

02:01:16.460 really only slept with the people I've

02:01:18.200 been with in like a couple other

02:01:19.480 situations sure okay thought it would be

02:01:22.160 with them I'm not gonna share my body 0.88

02:01:24.480 count plus or minus ten I'm not gonna

02:01:29.420 share my body count okay I have two

02:01:32.980 industry-wise maybe 50 but personal life

02:01:36.980 two okay is it men and women let's do a

02:01:41.440 breakdown for both nine men and three

02:01:48.080 women okay 11 men zero women wait you 1.00

02:01:53.780 you do to have you guys I wish I wish

02:01:57.020 okay all right just on a web I pay

02:02:00.000 Lincoln IG bio I pay for that I'm zero

02:02:03.180 with me repeated I don't think four

02:02:10.180 eight okay there you have it no what's

02:02:15.380 yours and well I don't reveal my body

02:02:18.080 seven you so you made us answer but you

02:02:20.200 can't I did I did I I am a I'm a man of

02:02:24.440 God I do not reveal my okay man of God

02:02:27.000 plus or minus 10 right well whatever all

02:02:30.560 the girls said plus or minus 10 no I

02:02:34.760 don't disclose I don't disclose okay how

02:02:38.000 good your poker face Brian I have a

02:02:39.380 question for you what's up do you think 0.69

02:02:42.600 that it is hypocritical of men who expect 0.98

02:02:45.000 women to be virgins but theirs is like 1.00

02:02:50.180 over you know like 50 over 100 over 250

02:02:52.660 that's you think it's we were just

02:02:54.100 talking about that well yeah but I'd like

02:02:55.700 to hear from Brian like what is what is

02:02:58.500 your particular position on it because

02:03:01.320 you were kind of vague no I don't I

02:03:04.200 don't excuse me I don't think it's

02:03:05.940 hypocritical

02:03:06.820 um but aren't they contributing to you 0.97

02:03:11.220 know like you know so like a lot of

02:03:12.700 these men they look at the hoes and you 1.00

02:03:16.440 know like they'll say oh she's a hoe and 1.00

02:03:18.320 things like that but isn't it like isn't 0.97

02:03:20.200 it hypocritical because you're

02:03:23.120 contributing to it you're actually making

02:03:26.740 them into a hoe because you want a good 1.00

02:03:28.660 time like I'm not saying you I just want

02:03:30.360 to say that not sure not you but just

02:03:32.240 you can call me a hoe maker call me a hoe 0.99

02:03:34.380 no I don't I don't I don't but I am

02:03:38.200 saying like any man that has like over

02:03:41.340 you know 50 over 100 over 250 like you

02:03:44.000 know I mean especially inside I think

02:03:46.540 especially inside the red pill space for

02:03:49.420 you to say that and I've seen some men

02:03:51.460 on here and I completely agree with most

02:03:53.420 of what they say but then when they say

02:03:55.020 their body count I just I don't

02:03:59.640 understand it why would you not have that

02:04:03.160 same expectation of yourself if you're

02:04:06.220 going to expect that of a woman and I'm

02:04:08.140 not saying that you know like you should

02:04:10.480 have you know like only 10 like I mean I

02:04:15.040 think 10 is right where I would probably

02:04:17.920 want it you know for like a man sure but

02:04:19.960 at the same time if it is like over 10 or I

02:04:23.800 mean I prefer it to be lower but if it's

02:04:25.360 over 10 over 20 over 30 like you've had men

02:04:29.920 on here that are upwards of like 200 and

02:04:32.800 they're inside the red pill space and I

02:04:34.900 just think it's very hypocritical I don't

02:04:37.540 okay yeah so I see what I see what you're

02:04:39.340 saying so I don't think it's wrong or

02:04:43.420 hypocritical for a man to want even if he

02:04:47.620 has a high body count I don't think it's 0.91

02:04:49.180 hypocritical for him to want a partner

02:04:52.540 with a low body count however I think it 0.99

02:04:55.240 would be hypocritical if he said women

02:04:58.120 should have low body counts but he 0.99

02:05:01.380 sleeps with a lot of women and he's he's

02:05:03.580 contributing to the high body count I

02:05:07.240 think that would be hypocritical however

02:05:09.740 what is the number that you think is high

02:05:12.560 for a woman no for a man for both for

02:05:15.520 body count well for age for a man who 0.59

02:05:18.800 wants a woman that is pure because if you 1.00

02:05:22.000 had 250 women and you want a virgin I 1.00

02:05:25.880 understand biologically why you would

02:05:29.020 want that but what makes you think that

02:05:31.620 she'll want you I mean she waited for you

02:05:34.480 so why why would yeah that and I don't

02:05:38.620 compare it sure I I don't know if a woman 1.00

02:05:41.920 wanted to disqualify a guy because of his

02:05:44.060 past sexual experiences I'm totally okay

02:05:47.860 with that I don't have a double standard

02:05:49.220 where it's like women are not entitled to 1.00

02:05:51.060 have a preference when it comes to if

02:05:52.860 they don't want to date a guy who's a 1.00

02:05:54.580 fucking who's a man whore who slept with 1.00

02:05:55.980 a lot of chicks totally cool I both men 1.00

02:05:59.420 and women are allowed to have their 0.99

02:06:00.520 preferences standards and boundaries when

02:06:02.020 it comes to that sort of thing but again I

02:06:05.080 just to reiterate I do not object to a

02:06:09.080 guy who has a high body count preferring a

02:06:12.620 woman with a low body count or who's a 1.00

02:06:14.260 virgin that's like saying like I

02:06:16.340 understand the girl says I want a guy 0.98

02:06:17.760 who's wealthy but the guy's like I

02:06:18.940 don't want a girl's broke it's a it's just a preference 1.00

02:06:21.060 like it is a preference it's simply a

02:06:22.740 preference you can't it's well I

02:06:24.540 understand the preference but it's more

02:06:25.860 the expectation that I have a problem

02:06:27.700 with because I think the expectation

02:06:28.820 there's no expectation it's you can want

02:06:33.340 something and not expect it no but I

02:06:35.920 think I sort of get what you're meaning

02:06:37.300 like guys who are like man these women 1.00

02:06:39.680 out here and I try not to you I

02:06:41.620 certainly think I don't use this sort of

02:06:43.480 language like these women out here 1.00

02:06:45.660 shouldn't be fucking sluts and whores 1.00

02:06:47.740 like sleeping around with a bunch of 1.00

02:06:48.980 dudes but then they go out right and 1.00

02:06:51.460 fuck a bunch of chicks and have casual 1.00

02:06:53.040 sex with them have one night stands 1.00

02:06:54.240 that's where I think it gets hypocritical 0.84

02:06:56.400 but I don't think it's necessarily

02:06:58.220 hypocritical as a guy to prefer a woman

02:07:03.100 with a low body count but you have a high 0.99

02:07:05.700 body I don't agree with that yeah yeah

02:07:07.580 and like I think the preference is fine

02:07:09.060 my my position is more I think that if

02:07:11.660 that's an expectation that that man has

02:07:15.860 and he has upwards of a hundred you know 0.86

02:07:18.540 I think then it becomes hypocritical

02:07:21.200 I mean I think I think there's

02:07:22.280 accountability I think there's

02:07:23.340 accountability on both sides I think I

02:07:26.040 think men should you know it's a tough

02:07:31.420 but I think men ought to not you ought to 0.91

02:07:39.040 at least be open to a continuity I don't

02:07:42.380 think like I don't think men should be 0.99

02:07:44.420 having one night stands with women if a 0.99

02:07:47.140 girl's in town for the fucking week and 1.00

02:07:48.700 you meet her at a bar like I my 0.99

02:07:52.260 recommendation to men for a variety of

02:07:53.920 reasons some of some of which I'm not

02:07:55.440 gonna get into is probably just don't

02:07:58.280 sleep with her it's just not to me if

02:08:01.220 given the option of and I've had this

02:08:02.680 option before like if a girl is in town

02:08:04.920 and she's gonna be in town for a night 0.86

02:08:09.240 and we can fuck once to me it's not 0.98

02:08:11.140 even worth my time like it's not worth 0.99

02:08:13.000 it to fuck a chick once like so I don't 1.00

02:08:17.720 know if that adequately answers you 0.99

02:08:19.480 and also similarly I would say women if 0.97

02:08:22.220 you're out you're traveling you're in 0.99

02:08:23.880 fucking Vienna for three days don't go 1.00

02:08:26.900 fuck an Austrian dude you know just 1.00

02:08:29.180 saying I have a question that's kind of 1.00

02:08:31.860 up topic is that okay yeah sure it's

02:08:33.620 like kind of same topic a little bit

02:08:35.120 off work it's good how do you guys feel

02:08:36.920 about like everyone how do you guys

02:08:39.000 feel about when women are virgins a lot 0.53

02:08:42.080 of times they're seen as like you guys

02:08:44.520 like the trophies or like people crave

02:08:48.000 them like use them as a fetish

02:08:49.660 sometimes want to have that purity but

02:08:52.840 then a lot of times when a man is a

02:08:54.780 virgin they'll get called out by their 0.98

02:08:56.680 friends I'm like dude you're a virge we 0.97

02:08:58.580 got to get you laid or like it becomes

02:09:00.960 like a joke and they make fun of them

02:09:02.640 instead which I mean I don't see it that

02:09:04.740 way but it's all over the internet it's

02:09:06.680 all over the bros and how they treat

02:09:08.400 other guys when I don't know if they

02:09:11.460 deserve that but that's kind of like the

02:09:13.000 standpoint it's like oh you haven't 0.99

02:09:14.420 fucked yet like I don't see it that way 0.98

02:09:16.440 either like my very first boyfriend he 0.99

02:09:19.440 was a virgin and he made me wait till 0.80

02:09:21.160 he was ready and I like fully respected

02:09:22.980 that like it honestly said a lot more

02:09:25.380 about him as women I think we respect it

02:09:27.900 but I think as a lot of the guys will

02:09:29.600 look at them and be like yeah you're a

02:09:31.700 verge like come on let's get your weight 1.00

02:09:33.360 like I know someone that is easy or

02:09:35.700 something like you see that all the time

02:09:37.080 in college which is why a lot of guy a

02:09:39.420 lot of guys aren't virgins these days

02:09:41.040 because it's kind of yeah it's almost

02:09:43.580 masculine to have a variety of women or

02:09:47.000 to have been with a variety of women

02:09:48.640 which is weird but that's society and

02:09:51.980 it's feminine to not have partners to 0.98

02:09:54.160 not have had excess amount of partners

02:09:56.360 they use it as their roster too it's like

02:09:58.240 I've been with this one yeah no it's a

02:10:00.420 flex well it's it shows masculinity

02:10:02.700 like I can get these girls girls like 1.00

02:10:04.780 well I've been with these people they'll

02:10:06.160 look and be like it's like because men

02:10:07.940 are because if you go back like men are

02:10:10.820 meant to chase the woman not vice versa so

02:10:14.600 it's like when a guy has all these women 1.00

02:10:16.360 he's just quote-unquote conquered that

02:10:18.500 many women so it's not that doesn't work 1.00

02:10:21.020 the other way around I mean unless you

02:10:22.820 want it to like okay I think another

02:10:24.740 component of the double standard thing

02:10:26.320 is it's way easier for women to get 1.00

02:10:28.280 laid I'm donated nine yeah thank you 0.80

02:10:30.420 often red dress promiscuity is a double

02:10:33.840 standard that benefits men and not 0.95

02:10:35.860 women society treats men and women

02:10:38.440 differently in this men are considered

02:10:40.960 studs while women are considered three 0.99

02:10:43.080 hundred and fours women would rather pick 1.00

02:10:45.960 men with experience in the bed what's a

02:10:50.400 three oh four it's like an area code I'm 1.00

02:10:53.940 pretty sure no it's it's a stupid kind 0.94

02:10:56.920 of juvenile calculator thing where if 0.99

02:10:59.480 you type in through a phone to

02:11:00.620 calculator it spells home back to the

02:11:06.680 playground okay yeah to the playground

02:11:09.220 so Alvin Sam thank you very much yeah

02:11:12.460 there's definitely I mean double

02:11:13.500 standards when it when it comes to that

02:11:14.960 sort of stuff and and I think just

02:11:17.700 before it came in I was mentioning

02:11:18.900 comparatively speaking it's more

02:11:21.380 difficult for men to get laid than it is

02:11:22.880 for women to get laid so there's a 1.00

02:11:27.060 there's a difference there more

02:11:28.920 wait it's harder for men to get laid

02:11:31.200 yeah I'd say because women are so scared 1.00

02:11:35.180 to increase their body count men they

02:11:37.240 don't there's that there's also that but

02:11:39.260 then there's also like if women want to 1.00

02:11:41.040 have sex they're gonna have sex because 0.99

02:11:42.960 yeah like if a girl if you go up to a 1.00

02:11:45.220 guy and you're like I want to fuck you 1.00

02:11:46.720 you can do that you can say if a guy 1.00

02:11:49.500 comes up to you and says I want to 1.00

02:11:50.960 fuck you whoa you're gonna be like 1.00

02:11:52.340 whoa whoa that's see that doesn't work 1.00

02:11:54.480 yeah yeah it has to be it has to come

02:11:56.560 with a woman who wants to do that 1.00

02:11:57.920 whoa yeah something like either you're

02:12:01.040 the type of woman that's down for that 1.00

02:12:02.260 and that's cool like mad respect to

02:12:03.920 you you do what you got to do but for

02:12:06.220 the majority I feel like if a man went

02:12:07.780 up to you and just came on you that

02:12:09.060 strong it's not working good I just

02:12:11.860 have a question for you I know like in

02:12:13.720 the past you mentioned that is

02:12:16.720 different if a man has a high body

02:12:19.000 count than it is for a woman and I was

02:12:20.980 just asking do you still agree with that

02:12:23.680 and if that's the case why do you think

02:12:25.060 so so okay in the past I've said it's

02:12:30.100 different well it is for a couple of

02:12:34.940 reasons one as already previously stated

02:12:37.240 it's more difficult for men to get laid

02:12:40.740 than this for women to get laid so 1.00

02:12:42.640 there's a certain degree of props or

02:12:46.580 respect that comes with like it's it's

02:12:50.360 kind of impressive to some degree if a

02:12:53.920 guy is like he has he has game and you

02:12:57.060 can like he he's a ladies guy like he's 0.58

02:12:59.260 got game he knows how to smooth talk

02:13:01.060 whatever like that's a that's kind of

02:13:03.460 reflective of either his status his

02:13:05.500 physical attractiveness to a degree and

02:13:07.640 his charisma so there's some coinciding

02:13:12.640 traits that would necessitate him being

02:13:15.420 able to sleep with a lot of women

02:13:16.900 whereas like any woman if she was so 0.97

02:13:20.260 inclined could like she need not be

02:13:23.660 charismatic she need not be funny she

02:13:25.980 not need not be even particularly

02:13:28.080 physically attractive and she could get 1.00

02:13:31.680 in if she wanted to okay here's the way I

02:13:35.980 often like to put it an average woman has 1.00

02:13:39.260 the equivalent sexual pool of basically

02:13:41.340 like a top tier male athlete a list

02:13:44.940 celebrity musician actor like if a woman

02:13:48.200 was so inclined she could sleep with five

02:13:49.940 guys a day five new guys a day average

02:13:52.060 woman if she wanted to yeah whereas in 1.00

02:13:56.280 order for a guy to be able to do that he

02:13:58.580 has to be in like the top 1% of people

02:14:00.820 and usually for a guy to be able to do

02:14:02.820 that he's going to have to have like

02:14:03.940 some pretty insane status so either

02:14:05.900 athlete musician actor do you would you

02:14:13.480 say that a woman that has a high body 1.00

02:14:15.400 count is would you say that she is not a 0.70

02:14:19.180 high value woman and if that's the case 1.00

02:14:21.760 would you say the same thing for a man

02:14:23.560 who has a high body count as in not a

02:14:25.900 high value man well I don't like this

02:14:28.220 term I in the same way I don't like the

02:14:30.900 term high value woman high value man

02:14:32.760 because it's kind of I don't know it's

02:14:35.960 kind of like the alpha beta thing I don't

02:14:37.840 like that sort of terminology but do I

02:14:41.280 think a woman who has slept with a lot of

02:14:45.040 men who has a high body count do I think

02:14:47.580 she's a she would be a sub optimal 1.00

02:14:50.000 partner yes am I less attracted to her

02:14:55.120 because of that yes would you say the

02:14:58.880 same thing for a man though would you

02:15:01.880 think it's the way that a woman sees 0.99

02:15:03.820 them I don't think so because again this

02:15:06.460 kind of goes back to like men and women 0.84

02:15:08.260 valuing things differently like a guy who

02:15:12.160 slept with a lot of women he's he's

02:15:14.720 probably had to bring something to the

02:15:17.240 table either charisma humor personality

02:15:21.300 status or looks usually a package and so

02:15:26.760 he's he's going to be attractive that

02:15:30.080 type of guy is probably the type of guy

02:15:31.560 that a lot of women are going to find 1.00

02:15:33.600 attractive so it's not some women if it's 1.00

02:15:36.740 within your personal value system to not

02:15:39.540 want to date a promiscuous man you may not

02:15:41.660 particularly want to partner with someone

02:15:43.880 who has that sort of past but he's going to

02:15:46.300 have the requisite attraction triggers to be

02:15:49.280 deemed attractive by a vast majority of men

02:15:51.160 whereas a woman with a high body count 1.00

02:15:52.920 anyone any woman could go get a high 1.00

02:15:55.720 body count and it's not going to it's

02:15:58.840 never going to positively impact her

02:16:01.820 attractiveness to men in any capacity so

02:16:05.180 you would agree that typically women I 1.00

02:16:09.720 know you mentioned this before but I

02:16:11.160 guess I just want to confirm that women 1.00

02:16:13.200 are sort of the reason why hookup culture

02:16:17.120 exists so I think obviously look both both

02:16:24.320 people play some role to a degree however

02:16:26.840 women gatekeep sex so you could argue that 1.00

02:16:33.300 because women control access to sex because 1.00

02:16:35.640 they gatekeep sex that they're ultimately 0.99

02:16:38.000 the ones that control whether there's a

02:16:40.360 hookup culture or not I would disagree I do

02:16:45.740 agree that typically you know it takes for

02:16:49.140 consensual sex of course it takes a woman 1.00

02:16:52.140 it takes a woman to to say yes in order for 1.00

02:16:56.400 a man to say yes so like you said like it 0.97

02:16:58.040 takes two to tango basically I would say

02:17:01.460 though though women permit sex I would argue 0.99

02:17:07.380 ultimately at the end of the day it is the

02:17:10.500 men's fault that it even continues because

02:17:12.240 it's a man's responsibility to say no it's 1.00

02:17:14.920 their decision they can say a woman said

02:17:17.100 yes to me but now it's up to me to decide

02:17:19.440 will I actually commit to this well I mean

02:17:22.600 there's a whole bunch of dynamics at play

02:17:24.400 here but since men are the pursuers there's

02:17:27.160 there's a component there of as a woman if 1.00

02:17:31.700 you're the one who's being pursued then

02:17:33.860 you're kind of the one who's gatekeeping the 1.00

02:17:36.300 the other thing I would say is that shit sorry 0.99

02:17:42.180 it evaded damn it I had something good but 0.99

02:17:44.460 it fucking slipped my mind could you repeat 0.99

02:17:46.200 your last statement one more time sorry I 1.00

02:17:48.940 would agree that women allow that sex take 0.99

02:17:53.500 place but ultimately is the man that

02:17:54.820 decides if he is going to continue with

02:17:57.020 her agreement essentially and so I would

02:18:00.680 argue that ultimately it is the man's fault

02:18:03.900 because it is his job to say no even if she

02:18:06.140 says yes I completely agree and so I I have

02:18:11.020 this you know kind of metaphor so like if

02:18:13.700 you take it back to the Bible and you think

02:18:15.760 of Adam and Eve right so ultimately you

02:18:17.960 know like the serpent came to Eve why

02:18:19.840 because she's more emotional and she's

02:18:22.240 pretty much more easily manipulated but

02:18:26.960 then at the so she took the apple okay

02:18:30.780 hold on let me just let me cut you off 1.00

02:18:32.860 really well he owes Stefan donated $100 I

02:18:37.840 love how the single woman who has an 0.99

02:18:40.000 only vans and a child is a life-slash

02:18:42.260 dating coach do you have a response to

02:18:45.080 that I don't she doesn't have an OF but

02:18:48.020 she does you have a kid correct yes I

02:18:50.780 have a response to that um it would

02:18:53.200 pretty much be my same response to her

02:18:55.720 earlier beautiful okay didn't mean to

02:18:59.180 cut you off however and I listen I

02:19:01.660 don't object to religious arguments

02:19:03.980 however not ever not everybody

02:19:06.400 subscribes to your religion therefore

02:19:09.320 it's not no but it's just a story

02:19:11.060 right so okay ultimately ultimately all

02:19:14.600 right she gave the apple to Adam and

02:19:16.360 Adam could have said no so ultimately

02:19:18.000 the fault is on Adam because why it is

02:19:20.740 his role right if you just think about

02:19:22.820 the story all right so men are supposed 0.96

02:19:24.620 to be leaders men are supposed to be you

02:19:26.760 know in charge they're supposed to be

02:19:29.280 the caretakers the providers and he's

02:19:31.280 supposed to say no to her when she's

02:19:33.740 out of line so therefore if he says and

02:19:37.140 you know like if he permits it and she's

02:19:39.480 being promiscuous and he's going to

02:19:40.760 permit it ultimately he has a certain

02:19:43.660 amount of accountability that if he is

02:19:46.080 going to lead her he is leading her in

02:19:48.440 the completely wrong way so ultimately

02:19:51.520 yes inside of like the dating scene

02:19:55.940 he's not responsible for every single

02:19:58.120 woman but he is responsible for himself 0.97

02:20:01.360 and how he carries himself and therefore

02:20:03.420 I think that she has a point and I

02:20:06.440 completely agree I think men have women

02:20:10.340 have a lot of responsibility they are

02:20:13.200 indeed the gatekeepers of sex but then

02:20:16.320 it comes down to also ultimately the man

02:20:19.360 because she would have absolutely no

02:20:21.440 power if men just said no

02:20:22.780 okay but in order for you to be a

02:20:25.840 leader you need to have people that are

02:20:28.300 prepared to follow and the fact of the

02:20:30.380 matter is you can be a fantastic leader

02:20:32.640 but because you have feminist propaganda 1.00

02:20:35.140 it is impossible for men to lead women 0.97

02:20:38.580 demanded equality you got it that it's

02:20:41.120 very hard you can't lead someone who 0.98

02:20:43.380 wants to fucking mutiny and who who is 0.98

02:20:45.780 not prepared to follow here's the thing a 0.99

02:20:47.840 lot of women want leadership and 1.00

02:20:50.160 they're honestly biologically and

02:20:51.760 evolutionary evolutionary attracted to

02:20:55.100 leadership traits in men decisive dominant

02:20:58.740 masculine leader however again you these

02:21:06.340 same women do not want to follow so and I 1.00

02:21:10.440 agree with you I think there's a lot of

02:21:11.940 now I feel like that just become a common

02:21:14.000 thing now that's just now trying to be this

02:21:17.220 trend in my opinion and look I think I

02:21:19.380 think both men and women bear

02:21:21.020 responsibility here I think both men and

02:21:22.860 women have accountability but to say that 1.00

02:21:25.360 that men bear full responsibility there's a

02:21:29.660 lot of women who don't want to follow 1.00

02:21:31.060 it's only a small percentage of men who

02:21:34.000 participate in this was the point that's

02:21:36.120 why so many women find themselves in 1.00

02:21:38.600 situationships ladies stop gaining bodies 0.99

02:21:42.220 and start gaining muscles thanks brixian for

02:21:45.380 the new muscles mommy preference what yo

02:21:48.540 valdiv uh thank you very much for your

02:21:50.380 tts man appreciate it who are you talking

02:21:52.360 who's the muscle mommy at this table 1.00

02:21:53.860 i mean i work out can we get some bicep

02:21:56.440 little double buys is this a muscle mommy

02:21:58.440 right here i might be it might be her okay

02:22:00.980 there you have it she's got some guns 1.00

02:22:02.400 too there you go um i was actually be out

02:22:05.820 there i actually had written down the

02:22:07.440 percentage there because that was the that

02:22:09.120 was one of the points i was going to make

02:22:10.240 is that um when it comes to well shouldn't

02:22:16.140 you know your your point was it's men's

02:22:20.960 fault kind of like when it comes to

02:22:22.740 culture like it's it's men to blame but

02:22:25.800 if i told you if i were to tell you that

02:22:28.300 more women engage in hookup culture than 0.99

02:22:31.360 do men what would you say to that i would

02:22:35.360 say that the women wouldn't be able to if 0.98

02:22:37.800 the man didn't if if the man said no in

02:22:40.340 the beginning okay hold on let me just

02:22:42.720 clarify one thing let's say there's one

02:22:44.880 percent of men who are like hyper attractive

02:22:47.100 men who can have their pick of a bunch of

02:22:49.860 women who are never going to commit to 1.00

02:22:51.440 them that one so i mean you're telling

02:22:54.100 okay so well my position is it's not like

02:22:59.120 an equal distribution of people engaging

02:23:00.940 in hookup culture there's a higher

02:23:02.460 proportion of women who are engaging in

02:23:04.200 hookup culture than there are men because 0.70

02:23:06.020 women are more capable of engaging in 1.00

02:23:08.260 hookup culture so what's happening is and

02:23:09.960 this is backed up by what's going on on

02:23:11.820 dating apps you have women who are swiping 1.00

02:23:13.840 no on 90 90 of men they're matching with a

02:23:16.720 very small percentage of men on dating

02:23:18.120 apps these same preferences can be with

02:23:21.000 these same preferences can be observed

02:23:23.960 generally speaking although most people

02:23:26.300 are meeting online so dating apps social

02:23:28.180 media instagram but even before all of

02:23:31.480 these women are trying to get the best 1.00

02:23:33.200 that they can

02:23:34.100 big teddy donated 99 dollars oh this

02:23:37.720 question is for camilla oh is she gone

02:23:39.540 rip 0.82

02:23:39.960 well we'll pull it we'll trigger it again

02:23:42.860 break up because you wanted to start an

02:23:44.960 only van

02:23:45.660 how do you even live with yourself

02:23:48.280 brother you should have waited till she 0.60

02:23:49.860 came back from i'll trigger it when she's

02:23:51.860 back

02:23:52.120 i'll trigger when she's back is it is that

02:23:54.800 actually do you know cody yes she did

02:23:57.100 date a cody

02:23:57.680 yeah awkward so when she gets back that'll

02:24:02.280 be good we'll pull it back up um so

02:24:05.040 where she comes

02:24:06.460 the data is out um you have a small

02:24:10.820 subset of men you could argue that that

02:24:12.760 small subset of men should you know not be

02:24:17.320 doing that but oh we got something for

02:24:19.860 you some a little we'll pull it up here in

02:24:21.840 a sec 0.99

02:24:22.180 uh but oh shit can you grab that man or i 0.98

02:24:27.640 got i got it 0.99

02:24:28.380 um but if like a larger portion of women 1.00

02:24:32.920 are

02:24:33.380 participating in an activity then could you

02:24:40.040 say there's a higher burden on women i think 0.82

02:24:42.660 it's on them but like i've said yes

02:24:45.380 women that's why you know it comes down to 1.00

02:24:48.400 leadership and so obviously you know like

02:24:51.500 you said about eve we do tend to fall more

02:24:55.600 and this is why we need a leader i'm not

02:24:58.460 saying this is i'm not this isn't to say that

02:25:00.420 there's a superior inferior sort of way to

02:25:04.260 say it but this is why we need a man who

02:25:07.300 does have self-control and i would argue that if you have self-control that makes

02:25:10.800 you a great leader

02:25:11.860 alvin sam donated 99

02:25:14.640 hookup culture is entirely on the woman 1.00

02:25:17.960 women have a greater urgency than men to attain a relationship

02:25:21.660 therefore she needs to make the right choice

02:25:24.940 therefore it is entirely her fault

02:25:27.660 it is not men's fault because men are judged whether he succeeds

02:25:31.760 i think um sometimes it's hard to make the right choice though as a female

02:25:37.300 like you said earlier how guys can lie just to get into your pants

02:25:40.640 sure so you'll think you're making the right choice and they end up just doing

02:25:44.400 it to get another body on their roster so that they're looked up to because they

02:25:48.200 you know when reality what you were hoping for was something different and i think that

02:25:53.440 happens a lot of the time too and also

02:25:55.860 oh cole tell that asian b to take her hat off 1.00

02:26:02.860 um okay thank you cole no no no hold on oh actually i'm not gonna play that thank you cole 0.97

02:26:11.440 appreciate it um also i don't know if you meant it this

02:26:15.540 way but when you said women gatekeep sex yeah because guys they want it and the girls can get 1.00

02:26:21.500 it but they gatekeep it i don't know if you mean it this way but it almost sounds like

02:26:25.000 because a woman doesn't want to have sex they're restricting sex but guys want it all the time and 0.94

02:26:31.000 we'll just give it and want it all the time but since we don't want to give it we're gatekeeping

02:26:35.560 it and gatekeeping is kind of a term that is usually like not the best thing like oh you have this

02:26:43.160 hair product that is going to make your hair amazing but you're gatekeeping it because you

02:26:46.840 don't want anyone else's hair to be amazing well i mean there there's certain there's different

02:26:51.260 definitions of being a what gatekeeping is but perhaps that's just a semantic uh difference

02:26:59.740 but basically gatekeeping is essentially you're the one who is controlling who gets to go in who

02:27:07.020 doesn't yeah you're at the gate you keep certain people out you allow access to certain people and i

02:27:14.940 feel like that makes sense for if it's if it is just a bunch of hungry men that want to have a bunch

02:27:20.540 of sex and add to their rosters if we have to be and choose the right person then we should be

02:27:25.100 gatekeeping if that is the case you know sure so this ties into what i forgot earlier is that i think a

02:27:32.380 lot of the issue is that it's this us versus them it reminds me of that spider-man emoji where they're

02:27:37.340 all just pointing at each other it's just this like divide and there's an argument for both sides

02:27:43.660 because i think about the same like analogies um of eve being able to be more manipulated and a man 1.00

02:27:52.140 being the leader and all that but it really unless you just want to go on and on for entertainment

02:27:56.860 purposes which is fine as far as education and healing and change and all of that we have to like

02:28:04.860 come together and less pointing the finger and that's just what i was thinking and also earlier you

02:28:09.820 were saying um me you were saying that um and i think it's just a matter of semantics honestly

02:28:17.420 because a lot of people like misdrew like masculine and feminine energies but a man like constantly just

02:28:24.620 leaking his sexual energy and like chasing women and again no judgment blame or shame on either side

02:28:30.620 shame and judgment and blame don't help again it just creates a bigger divide but that's not really

02:28:35.740 integrated masculine energy that's just like wounded masculine energy and i think that when we go

02:28:41.340 deeper into these layers i like the layers because we can actually just go beyond the surface and that's

02:28:49.900 kind of what i wanted to add on from earlier word i'm gonna re-trigger this and then i'll come back to 0.52

02:28:55.660 the whole hookup thing oh shit donated 99 this question is for camilla this is your ex cody 0.82

02:29:05.740 it's embarrassing that we had to break up because you wanted to start an only vans how do you even 0.99

02:29:11.740 live with yourself um cody we broke up my sophomore year of high school because you wanted to sleep with 0.85

02:29:18.700 guys your sex tape actually got leaked in high school so i don't know what you're talking about

02:29:24.620 um second of all i look really well i love my nighttime routine on the occasional wednesday

02:29:31.020 jack docker donated 99 kate is it pink i hope it's pink i wonder if it's pink can you tell me

02:29:38.860 if it's pink i really wanna know if it's pink is it pink bfr i hope it's pink

02:29:43.740 this has to be a joke subscribe to her only fans and you'll find out if it's pink i've seen it it's 0.95

02:29:50.380 pretty big oh and then we keep keep and uh your friend you guys have to take off that's so that's

02:29:57.340 fine i want to say bye that was a lot bye bye i love you bye so nice to meet you all let's collab

02:30:03.420 one yeah all right see you guys um we're gonna maybe move can you two move like take their seats

02:30:10.380 yeah so you can you sit there and then they'll have you sit where she was sitting yes do i move 0.85

02:30:16.380 them uh just leave them leave the mics leave the mics don't don't worry just

02:30:25.900 oh yeah that's fine the girls had to leave so we're gonna uh get them situated um wait so okay

02:30:33.260 the first thing there was big daddy i guess your ex was in the chat uh okay cody to be exact

02:30:40.220 and then jack doherty is love you jack oh in that seat wait let me see

02:30:46.540 can you be in that in that seat yeah we're gonna just readjust this

02:30:52.060 um

02:30:55.420 is this the guy who you're dating this is the guy who you're dating jack no no why is he asking if it's 1.00

02:31:03.340 pink he i assume he's talking about the pussy the okay wow we do uh like we know him we do like we 0.99

02:31:11.020 film videos with him he does his own content too yeah i've heard his name are you guys dating him 1.00

02:31:16.380 absolutely not he has a girlfriend mckinley mckinley oh he has a girlfriend my favorite people on the

02:31:20.860 earth but yeah they're great together well there you have it okay um is this like an inside joke or

02:31:26.700 something yeah well what i guess here we have uh we have something here from bordello girl hello

02:31:34.060 again lovely chat question for the panel in chat have you ever dated someone your total opposite and if

02:31:38.620 so what attracted you to them i need to get up really quick so if you guys want to go around the

02:31:41.740 table on this one go go ahead you can go first um my total opposite

02:31:50.060 i don't think so i think that's probably the flaw that i have is i go for people that are just like me

02:31:55.500 like just a lot of energy and i feel like i should stop doing that so definitely not

02:32:04.780 my mind just goes to like what in what sense opposite um like when i was younger in my early

02:32:11.580 20s i was dating people who were probably like energetically my opposite i was kind of

02:32:18.780 operating a bit more in my masculine energy and them and their feminine won't get too deep into that 1.00

02:32:24.460 but um physically i mean in what sense i guess so i'm not gonna go on about that i'll pass it over

02:32:32.860 um yes short answer i usually go for like i said earlier guys who have strengths in the in the areas

02:32:43.580 that i lack and vice versa just because i feel like it makes it run smoother and it's just by default

02:32:51.980 um looks and occupation i guess and what they like to do no i'd say someone who's who shares common

02:33:03.340 interests would definitely be somebody that i'm interested in um wait is it did i ask have you ever

02:33:13.420 dated one anyone who's like been the opposite of you and what attract what did you find attractive

02:33:19.340 um about that i wouldn't i would say no my first relationship i thought we were the same but it

02:33:27.340 ended up that we were complete opposites but i was not attracted to that at all so i wouldn't say

02:33:33.100 that i have ever done that um so i i always try to stick with people that have the same values as me as

02:33:40.460 much as possible yeah for myself um i would say opposite in some ways um maybe opposite in personality

02:33:49.740 to a certain extent but um that would really be all because i prioritize my values and my beliefs and

02:33:58.540 that would be those would have to be the same um i wouldn't say i've dated anyone that's the opposite

02:34:06.380 of me but the opposite of like what i look for in a person and it didn't really go well so all right

02:34:13.420 there you have it let me get some of these chats we have puffy vegas starting with the brown haired girl 0.93

02:34:17.740 ending in 778 6.5 776 7 7.5 that's obviously came through before the other girls left uh we have

02:34:27.900 puffy i think i'm a 10 out of 10 girls rate me i have 57 million views on youtube channel no filters

02:34:34.380 i've interviewed over 1 000 women all beautiful and i never use a filter once p.s i'm a 40 i'm 48 with a

02:34:41.020 dad bod girl in 20s date him i guess uh the girl with the tattoos would never in a million years

02:34:48.380 be she's beyond delusional to think that i'm high that i'm high value man like me would be with her

02:34:56.140 okay puffy vegas maybe we can arrange a date i guess um we have blake wilson i would say that

02:35:02.780 what each person brings to the table is not surface level example support care encourage self-growth

02:35:08.380 and this is our lives each party should display value in the other's life equally ps miss in the

02:35:14.300 front right corner let's go out hashtag gorgeous fortunately she left um she had to leave but blake

02:35:21.820 thank you so much uh for your super chat much appreciated is there a bug in here uh and then we

02:35:27.980 have stefan i will donate my life savings for caitlin camilla to show their toes on camera also caitlin

02:35:33.820 please tell me if it's pink is this like what is it what is this pink thing what the fuck i don't 0.83

02:35:38.540 know i think it's because we did a bit where it's like i have a phone and i go up to right in person

02:35:44.460 and i'm like hey um don't talk to the mic and i'll let you see the rest of this picture and it's

02:35:49.900 like a blurred picture of me like on my of or whatever what's the one time it just depends

02:35:55.580 whatever the editors want to put on there um and someone was like oh my gosh like as a joke

02:36:02.940 it's like oh my gosh it's pink as a joke and now it's just a running thing um yeah yeah here's

02:36:10.540 another one haram hey guys let me see those okay um how much i guess they're asking how much for a

02:36:18.700 foot check link in ig bio yeah or just venmo me link in my instagram no they're asking how much they

02:36:25.660 have to pay me pay you to see my that's right this is the reverse the reverse why are they paying you

02:36:32.620 to see my feet that doesn't make sense it makes a lot of sense to me can i have you uh tilt the

02:36:37.100 microphone up towards you so it's like straight up straight up uh can you tilt the microphone a 0.99

02:36:40.780 little bit so brian's your pimp now yeah no that's right p-i-n-p dirt my fucking shoulder off 0.99

02:36:47.660 okay we have camilla is more pink than caitlin's no way you're paying for this there's no way you guys 0.98

02:36:55.740 probably had this set up so they would do this by the way guys guys get your chats in now if you

02:37:00.860 want to because we are uh i'm not going to talk about it but we have to wrap at 10 tonight so we

02:37:06.940 got about 20 20 ish minutes 25 minutes left uh so if you want get your chats in now because this is

02:37:13.100 going to be one of our shortest shows in a very very very long time so get them in guys um well i got

02:37:21.180 a question since this is kind of relevant like in your rowdy huh huh what'd you say in your outie

02:37:27.580 huh huh oh were you asking me yeah well both of you because the any

02:37:35.420 what are you going to ask for proof now caitlin also any if i'm i mean i don't know if y'all prefer

02:37:42.940 that but unfortunately why is that a sad thing you know what archie bunker you know what will be

02:37:49.740 interesting ask the panel to rate their intelligence from one to ten there we go is 0.97

02:37:55.100 that i don't feel like having oh there it is holy shit there's a lot coming in biologically men want 0.96

02:38:01.740 to spread seed first if you make it easy for any group or status of man then they have no reason to 0.84

02:38:07.740 deny biologically women seek protection social and financial security and family i agree both need more 0.92

02:38:15.900 value and responsibility yes word thank you mayor more appreciated we have another one coming in um

02:38:22.780 intelligence anybody who who here's a 10 in intelligence obviously the whole table right

02:38:29.740 okay sorry bro they don't want to get 100 sorry for miscommunication i wanted to see the host's feet

02:38:37.340 wouldn't be opposed to caitlin's too bro i'm i'm pricey i'm pricey i'm not doing it for free i am

02:38:44.780 expensive you want to see my feet are you talking about madison no i'll split it with you please show

02:38:51.100 your feet uh you'll split the money with me yeah please if i show my i'll give you i'll give you 30

02:38:59.340 30 crazy percentage please whip out one toe

02:39:06.780 the whole thousand one no because once they no not for 30 come on one toe come on you do it if there

02:39:16.300 wasn't a million people watching you do it you do it i don't think madison would do it i think you

02:39:20.780 would i i do have a wiki feet but not bro some weirdos please describe a wiki feet no just some

02:39:26.380 like weirdos you can look up people uploaded my feet to wiki feet it's so how did they get your

02:39:32.540 feet i got like instagram photos there's a picture of your surfing there's a picture of me surfing

02:39:36.540 and my feet are visible do you get pedicures out no oh why the how many guys do you a lot a lot

02:39:43.580 of people get pedicures oh my gosh you need to get a pedicure you'll never go back word then you

02:39:48.380 could really let's have if you want to scoot over maybe i don't know um hey gang was looking for a

02:39:53.340 few feet and cooch picks myself a lot for filming and editing service all right these guys are trolling

02:39:57.980 there you have it that is cool um uh okay so we had we had some videos to react to um 0.78

02:40:05.180 shit there let me just double check everything here uh okay we're gonna do that we we did all that 0.62

02:40:11.020 one sec guys i'm just making sure we hit most of the points um okay yeah let's let's react to the 0.59

02:40:25.420 video so you before you pull it up um nick wait did we get through all the uh chats here yeah i think 0.86

02:40:32.140 we did um you guys do tick tock shit christ we actually i think that's how i found you i think 0.92

02:40:39.820 i messaged you right and i i on my for you page or whatever one of your tick tocks came up and it 0.97

02:40:44.620 was uh it was interesting it was an interesting one so uh we're gonna we're gonna react to your

02:40:49.260 tick tock three of them we have three of them they're all pretty much the same just mine just

02:40:53.100 yours why just mine i like to pick on people when just kidding um yeah she's she's uh in the clear

02:40:59.340 really i'm in the clear nothing she's in the clear i'll bet i didn't do a huge deep dive but

02:41:05.500 well you found that instagram picture i don't know how which one the one on the cover i haven't seen

02:41:10.220 that picture in like over a year that was impressive i think it's you don't have that

02:41:14.060 many posts on your instagram i was looking for better ones by the way let's just go oh thanks

02:41:19.020 all right um nick if you can pull up the first video okay go ahead and press play oh 0.84

02:41:25.820 shit how tall are you pause it's too loud too loud too loud uh lower it lower it lower it uh 0.97

02:41:34.860 scroll it back start from the beginning baby k baby okay go ahead how tall are you like uh five 0.99

02:41:41.260 eight i hope on the edge of that for me please no why not why are you trying to get me on blast dude

02:41:47.900 just super quick i'm like five six all right oh so now you're changing it you got me um so you're

02:41:56.300 you're five five okay it's okay we still love our short kings next one control tab over all right

02:42:03.260 play this one how tall are you five eight five eight yeah are you sure yes i'm five eight okay caitlin

02:42:09.580 if you're gonna step on the um edge of that for me that'd be really really nice come on

02:42:17.500 you're um you're five six oh for real yes oh i thought i was five eight you thought how'd you

02:42:23.420 think that i don't know somebody told me holy guys is it you're basically six foot though you round up

02:42:29.900 okay thank you yeah you're welcome next next next lower the volume a little bit i think it's peaking

02:42:36.620 well you can play it how tall are you five eight five eight okay are you sure about that are you

02:42:45.260 sure about that i'm positive okay can you confirm or deny no sir you're five six i'm not five six

02:42:53.020 you're five five i'm not five five no she's probably five five she's actually four eleven oh

02:42:58.140 god so you're definitely five five i guess i'm just curious um how much do you weigh 115. like 112 i think

02:43:14.140 uh last time i checked like 97. like 109. 120. 102. i have a a scale here so what i think we're gonna do

02:43:25.900 we need to confirm if like weight so um i think where do we set this up at i think we honestly uh

02:43:33.020 where do we do it hmm oh get out of frame yeah get out what are you doing camila okay 0.94

02:43:39.020 holy expo oh shit it got all scuffed it with the exposure um was this this one i feel like was i need 0.81

02:43:45.580 a my camera was all up on this um okay i think we're gonna do it hold on i'm gonna get up i haven't weighed 0.96

02:43:52.220 myself in a long time but i like weighing myself i feel like it's like like i'm i kind of look fine

02:43:57.580 so it's like okay i feel like i am like yeah okay 125 yeah so it kind of i don't know i don't know

02:44:04.700 i'm actually curious myself so if we could all right so can you see we're getting he's gonna add like

02:44:11.740 wait to it be like yep you're 250. what did you say 115. checks out wow whoa did you think she lied 0.99

02:44:22.780 exactly she's 118 guys whoa whoa whoa okay what about you let's have you do it wait is that like a bath

02:44:31.740 thing like are you saying what was that how tall are you he's he's he's gonna say you're like lying

02:44:36.860 about your way or whatever oh my gosh yeah okay okay okay make sense make sense four pounds off

02:44:44.140 it's always up and down okay what about you check it out 97 98. oh my how much stay still stay still 103 0.99

02:44:58.460 no actually he caught my ass he's gonna do a lap around the gotcha 0.98

02:45:01.980 all right i'm not gonna have everybody do it but uh man you guys are shameless i feel like it's 0.99

02:45:09.500 really easy to tell when a man's under five five you guys are lying about your weight darn what's up 0.99

02:45:15.660 there guys it is a hard surface gentlemen it's a fucking i don't know what it is all right there 0.99

02:45:22.300 you have it um i just thought that was funny 118 and close that's the equivalent guys that's the 0.96

02:45:29.740 equivalent i wasn't offended by that okay that's fine i actually that was i'm just i guess what i

02:45:35.980 am saying though is like a lot of women would be kind of salty i'm not like a lot of women like i feel 0.98

02:45:41.100 like if you did that on tick tock and you you asked a woman her weight and you were like oh well

02:45:46.460 here's a scale yeah they freak out but if you ask you either why you get canceled why you get

02:45:50.860 canceled why but didn't i know what i weigh right now no just stay stay stay stay stay we're we're

02:45:57.020 done with a bit um huh no like a uh you get canceled like tick tock is very camilla if you ever come

02:46:07.420 everyone's so sensitive now i'm 26 i own a construction business uh camilla if you ever come to

02:46:12.220 pensacola hit me up i'm 26 on the concert boom construction business so i'm good with my hands

02:46:18.140 there you have it and then i think we're caught up on chats there uh i think we have to wrap in

02:46:26.060 about 15 minutes uh final thoughts anybody i do want to touch on good touch on um the i sent it in the

02:46:38.620 one of the the second one i forgot what it was the women supporting women's toxic behavior sure 1.00

02:46:46.300 i'm just curious to hear from standpoint like if i gave you a scenario for example your home

02:46:50.060 girl comes to you her man cheated on her she slashes his tires what are you saying i would tell 1.00

02:46:56.940 her boyfriend or her ex i mean i mean that isn't a behavior that no one should condone even if

02:47:03.340 oh can i just i should mention this before the show if you can just like lean back because you're

02:47:10.540 kind of blocking if you yeah i know it's hard it's okay go ahead um perfect it's i mean it's a bad

02:47:22.380 behavior i don't think i don't think just because you're best friends it it means that you shouldn't

02:47:28.460 be able to point out her wrong i mean we should be holding each other accountable that's the only way

02:47:33.340 to uplift women and even men too i think it's important that men also point out the bad behavior

02:47:41.100 even if that means you know ruining a four-year relationship down the drain it has to be what it

02:47:46.300 has to be and so i'd say tell them i agree i don't condone that behavior i just hear a lot of

02:47:52.780 girls are like yeah girl like yes like yeah it's so common yeah it's extremely common for women to 1.00

02:48:01.340 support women's toxic behavior extremely i think because with women like thinking you're being a 0.85

02:48:07.260 good friend is supporting someone which is which is a good like a good friend trait but it's also if

02:48:12.780 you're a good friend you're gonna support someone but at the same time confront them right if you're

02:48:17.660 if they're doing anything like yeah yeah all right final thought anybody else

02:48:30.620 hello no no oh about the same question no just about like final thought on anything

02:48:37.100 once again this is a perfect example of how men need to carry in relationships men need to carry

02:48:50.460 conversationally men need to do everything i have six women here at the table everything who are 1.00

02:48:55.420 incapable no offense guys of carrying a conversation no i know do you want our

02:49:01.340 end this is not a relationship situation this is a podcast hold on brian you have to clarify

02:49:08.140 i literally got up at the beginning of the podcast and i was like guys i need to

02:49:11.500 fucking figure out what's the technical issue come on y'all y'all give us a talk 0.92

02:49:17.020 do you want our ending thoughts or like a new topic i think we're ending in like 10 minutes yeah 0.98

02:49:21.980 so it could be a new topic if it's something quick or

02:49:24.460 um i think i guess just adding to what i was talking about earlier um you know when it comes

02:49:35.580 to leadership in men i think you know with hokapulture and everything like that i think it's

02:49:39.980 very very important that especially men should practice self-control i think that's a huge factor

02:49:46.700 when it comes to being a good leader because if you can't control your own body don't expect me to

02:49:51.420 let you control anything else in a relationship and so i think it's i mean you can have everything

02:49:57.500 but if you lack self-control you you've lost everything period yep i completely agree i think

02:50:05.340 that a lot of men these days um they they want to be leaders but they don't want to accept the

02:50:14.860 responsibility that is required of becoming a leader and you can say the exact same thing for women i 0.99

02:50:21.260 understand in that you know like she wants to be a leader she wants to be super dominant and you know

02:50:26.700 so it goes both ways but at the end of the day um i think that even the most strong woman as long as 0.94

02:50:33.100 she has you know some morals in her heart and you know she is truly seeking something real she will 0.59

02:50:40.460 submit to a good man and especially um you know coming from the christian perspective um it is extremely

02:50:48.540 important that christian men first submit to god because at the end of the day how can you expect 0.59

02:50:56.300 any christian woman to want to submit to you if you are not first submitted to god it's extremely

02:51:01.820 important and um and if you uh if you become that leader then you will find the right woman i think 0.96

02:51:09.900 one of the greatest benefits of right now i mean like we think about the hookup culture and everything

02:51:14.300 and you know how like there's no real women out there that are worthy of me right like that's 0.97

02:51:21.180 the constant argument but at the end of the day doesn't it make it so much easier to find the right

02:51:25.660 one because now you have a lot less to go through like you can say nope not her not her not her not her

02:51:31.500 but at the end of the day if you know what you want then wow i mean what a blessing it's just made

02:51:38.540 it so much easier so but at the end of the day what are you doing sorry i'm bored that's rude to

02:51:44.620 her sorry i'm so sorry i apologize okay i do i'm sorry say it with your chest i apologize to you

02:51:57.980 i didn't know if you had anything else to say but i wanted to just follow up to that

02:52:01.740 yeah i do agree i think that the stronger your discernment gets the smaller that your dating pool

02:52:05.660 gets and people think that that's a negative thing they get into scarcity mindset and feel

02:52:09.420 like oh my god like my dating pool is getting smaller when you're actually just getting you're

02:52:13.420 like honing in more clearly to what you want so you can more quickly cut out what you do and don't want

02:52:18.940 um so another thing i want to touch on with this community um specifically red pill community and i know

02:52:27.100 that when these shows just say men and all men that's not really the case these are more

02:52:32.140 more this is a little bit more of a tame one compared to others but there's still a lot of

02:52:37.980 red pill rhetoric and it's very it's silly to me that there are a lot of um there are a lot of men in

02:52:49.340 these communities who shame and judge women for choosing the wrong men but then on the flip side they

02:52:56.540 shame and judge women for like like not choosing better when their standards are too high and

02:53:03.660 standards the men's standards or the women's the women's the women's standards so they judge and

02:53:10.620 blame and shame women for choosing wrong and essentially what they're saying is not having 0.67

02:53:15.420 good enough standards then they're judging and blaming and shaming women for having too high standards 0.99

02:53:21.260 and so it's just this it's again just this like pointing the finger when we could all really just 1.00

02:53:26.140 like go within and like align to i think i think most men don't really give a fuck if you date a scumbag 0.99

02:53:33.980 like that's on you you hear it a lot in this community they'll like say oh you didn't choose 0.99

02:53:39.820 you chose wrong or whatever it's just something that i hear a lot i haven't i mean i've watched a 0.69

02:53:46.540 decent yeah if you date a dude who's a scumbag a lot of times we choose wrong as women great

02:53:52.460 absolutely and i'm not saying that we don't we do it's vital to take full accountability and like 0.94

02:53:58.140 when i'm coaching people and i am the hardest on myself and when i'm coaching people i go

02:54:02.940 in on these women um like in a loving space um you have to hold people accountability you know

02:54:09.340 accountable just like you would call you would lovingly call out a real friend but um it's

02:54:18.540 harmful because a lot of these men are looking up to certain men who spew a lot of this rhetoric and

02:54:26.300 i'm not like referring to you specifically but these men will shame women and say that they're like

02:54:34.940 getting played and that they're falling for the games and it's their fault and you know

02:54:40.780 understandably the lesson's the lesson but these same men are falling for the men that they look up

02:54:47.260 to like running the same game on them like a lot of these men in these communities don't have integrity

02:54:54.780 they're they may be financially successful but erroneous erroneous yeah but they're

02:55:01.980 grandstand keep going it's not a moral grandstand i really don't like everybody judges to an extent 0.89

02:55:09.980 but i don't get your point men are shaming women because women are picking shitty men but are you

02:55:17.900 and then also judging and shaming women for saying to choose better so it's they're judging and shaming 0.62

02:55:23.180 no matter what you do it's a lose-lose situation is what i'm saying and i'm not even saying men i'm

02:55:27.980 saying the men in this community i don't know specifically it's not all men i don't know 0.99

02:55:33.660 specifically what you're talking about but if a woman dates a guy who is a scumbag that's on her 0.92

02:55:41.900 and people are fair to say you probably shouldn't have done that yeah no of course a guy dates a 0.94

02:55:48.220 but that's not shaming or that's just saying the truth but um it's one thing to make mistakes

02:55:57.500 it's another to keep dating the wrong guys and they're not holding yourself accountable

02:56:02.700 so i'm just gonna say it like specifically andrew tate he is literally it just got leaked that he's

02:56:09.980 literally doing exactly allegedly what he's been accused of and and these men are looking up to him

02:56:21.740 and judging and blaming and shaming women for falling for the same type of guys that these men

02:56:27.260 are falling for these men are getting played by these men that they look up to and then judging

02:56:32.460 and blaming women for getting played by the same kind of men and that's just the silly thing that well

02:56:37.500 i'm not sure specifically what you're referencing but i would point out that i believe it was

02:56:40.860 yesterday or the day before andrew was actually released from house arrest so there who knows

02:56:46.620 how the court case is going to proceed and maybe they find him guilty maybe they don't in any case

02:56:51.820 it's pending uh it's a pending criminal case right innocent until proven guilty we don't know what

02:56:56.860 the situation is um and regardless if they find enough evidence to what what's fine what's your thing

02:57:02.380 about andrew tate i don't get it what regardless if they find enough evidence against him

02:57:07.180 he's still his voice is literally being emotionally mentally and physically abusive in these in these

02:57:15.100 leaked messages so regardless if they find enough evidence look i don't i'm not really

02:57:19.900 i don't disagree okay i don't disagree hold on i don't disagree with you andrew tate has has said

02:57:24.780 from his own mouth some very damning things for example when he was on the uh full send the nelk

02:57:29.580 podcast or whatever he said that he would take men for everything that they had and no i i don't excuse me

02:57:36.060 excuse me let me clarify i don't think he verbatim said that but he said that he was like behind

02:57:40.860 the keyboard and he was managing only fans girls and he my my view is is he did it sounded a little

02:57:47.660 like fraud but dollars just tat girl knee ee it's a real job get me in the next part i have a new

02:57:55.100 tube hi sam hi sam hi sam miss you uh thank you sam i look i think tate has said some damning things but

02:58:01.580 i can't be a market strategy we can we can i overall he has some very good he has some good

02:58:08.220 messages for men and points i want to say this and he's i do agree he does i have to say he's made

02:58:13.500 out to be so which one is it it can you can be both i guess but it can be both he's he's misconstrued

02:58:21.740 by the media a lot of the time like if you watch his whole podcast he has some good stuff to say

02:58:27.100 and a lot of people are just mad because it's the truth and it targets a group of people that are not

02:58:33.980 usually targeted yeah and i understand that and i'm not like triggered by anything he does says or

02:58:38.220 anything my issue is more that it's like a harmful thing to spread he does say a lot of very truthful

02:58:43.900 things about men having integrity and being transparent and yet the opposite is actually what

02:58:49.500 he's doing and this happened this has happened a lot with people um mirroring to the world to this

02:58:57.740 to be this iconic man with integrity and yet very real things get leaked about them that shows

02:59:05.740 otherwise it's not just him i don't have anything personal against him i just think it's very okay

02:59:11.020 get off your grandstand we get it andrew tate has said some damning things like it's okay cool

02:59:15.740 are you gonna land the plane are you arriving at your point no i already made it okay that's not

02:59:20.700 that wasn't my point all right we have haha when chest girl chest tat girl needs to shut the yapper 1.00

02:59:26.060 yep there you have it and then we have gianni hey camilla huge fan loved you in the mr beast video

02:59:31.500 uh hold on it's getting pulled up was wondering if you could wish me a happy 12th birthday thank you

02:59:37.260 i just pooped in my pants there you have it happy 12th birthday i love you i don't know if it's gonna get

02:59:42.620 12 years old yeah there it is happy 12th birthday buddy there you have it thank you for wishing him

02:59:47.100 a happy birthday then we have mr cappadocia hey thank you for the 50. women have a psychological 1.00

02:59:52.620 trait called own group preference meaning men as group prioritize the well-being of women and so do

02:59:57.980 women there have been experiments in this but the real world makes it abundantly clear women have a 0.99

03:00:04.220 i think it's in group and out group preference so actually women have an in-group preference and

03:00:10.460 actually men have a out group preference for women so women have a very strong in-group preference

03:00:16.140 for each other and men have a slight out group preference for women yes so thank you mr cappadocia

03:00:21.980 appreciate it we have ninja smokehouse camila it's unfortunate you've chosen to ruin your life so

03:00:26.620 oh wow okay glad you like your nighttime routine red pill this red pill that girl and mill needs to 0.82

03:00:31.980 take accountability for her bad decisions and stop giving advice corner girl is 411 brian i did make that

03:00:39.580 very clear thank you oh he's he's mentioning that because i i only date women whose height start was 1.00

03:00:45.500 starts with four but uh yeah all right jason pestana 69 69 thank you man girl in brown talking like we

03:00:52.860 got all day move along pal kate is it pink oh my god boom roasted it okay i think you asked your friends

03:01:01.580 to send all that half okay okay okay no it is what it is okay yeah i mean you're making money yeah

03:01:08.380 what's up can i add something last thing and then i feel like you get pushed back when your own masculine

03:01:13.100 energy expresses truth and then they what they really want is their feminine energy really just wants to 1.00

03:01:18.860 be like gossipy that's really what it is it's like it's just they want entertainment they don't want

03:01:25.180 education what do you mean i'm not sure what you're talking about okay so when a woman steps into her 1.00

03:01:32.780 masculine energy energy and expresses a like a very clear truth that is against whatever said ideology

03:01:43.900 they who are supposed to be such high value men which i don't resonate with any of these terms by the

03:01:48.380 way but they all they do is they like say a bunch of wild things and they just get in there

03:01:55.100 feminine gossipy energy and yet they're masculine that's just i there's just so much it's just there's

03:02:01.660 so much hypocrisy hypocrisy in these communities all right well who knows but i mean you've mentioned

03:02:08.460 a couple of these buzzwords before you mentioned you keep mentioning the red pill look red pill equals

03:02:16.380 the truth equals reality see it's it's an analogy from the the film the matrix seeing the world as it

03:02:24.060 truly is embracing the truth even if said truth is painful or uncomfortable right women can take the

03:02:30.380 red pill too yes i do i love the matrix movies and i completely understand this concept but just because

03:02:38.220 you're spewing some ideology it does not make it the red pill truth because a bunch of wounded men who

03:02:45.340 are just projecting at women feel that it is because it's making their ego feel better yeah but i mean when

03:02:50.780 it comes to objective truth earlier on in the conversation we were doing the one to ten rating

03:02:55.260 system and you refuse to have a good faith conversation about that i didn't refuse to be

03:03:00.380 good faith just because i'm not answering a question doesn't mean i'm bad faith that's kind of

03:03:05.020 bad faith no it's not it's just something that it would go against a boundary of me like

03:03:10.700 i wouldn't answer this if i were like dating somebody so like if i was on a date i would not like

03:03:16.860 answer this so why would i go against my own boundary and answer it then it's not bad faith i

03:03:20.620 haven't yelled or screamed or done anything i'm just speaking truth i'm just being grounded they say

03:03:25.260 i'm triggered and upset i'm not triggered i'm not upset it takes there's nothing you could do say to

03:03:30.780 trigger or upset me like trust me it's just it's just funny you give a little pushback and it's like no

03:03:38.460 no no well we debate on the show but um i mean and and again this really ties in like one of the red

03:03:48.140 pills a woman could take is not confusing sexual attraction for relationship attraction or marriage

03:03:55.580 attraction and we already talked about this men and women they have we have different sexual strategies

03:04:01.580 so you as a woman you wouldn't want to project your experience onto how men operate so as i already

03:04:07.660 previously said for a woman to sleep with a man that man has to typically be at least physically 1.00

03:04:12.780 attractive enough to be in a relationship with whereas men will sleep with women of a certain 0.97

03:04:17.980 physical attractiveness oh hold on jimmy donaldson donated 99 chest tap been pleading the fifth this 0.94

03:04:25.660 whole damn time move it along pal go take care of your kids asian girl please remove the headwear brian 1.00

03:04:32.220 i love the flannel keep up the hustle wednesday of dropping thank you appreciate it look the red pill would 0.98

03:04:37.580 be just having an accurate self-assessment of your uh you know own physical attractiveness so that

03:04:42.780 you can maneuver in the sexual marketplace the relationship marketplace the marriage marketplace

03:04:50.300 accurately and not get hurt as a woman i think there is some truth to what red pill says but not

03:04:57.660 everything and i think this is another thing that gets tricky is because andrew tate for example i know he

03:05:03.580 doesn't identify with red pill i'm just using him as an extreme example because it's obvious okay

03:05:07.820 final points and then we have to wrap he um he uses um a lot of pimps do this like pimps will say

03:05:16.460 complete absolute truths they will like shock you with some truth and it will get you to trust them

03:05:20.940 because you're like well he was honest about that and he does this in certain instances and it this

03:05:26.860 is what men do this is what a lot of convincing men do to play women as well um women could do it too but

03:05:32.700 i'm going to use this example with men i'm not anti-men or anti-women um but so it's just

03:05:41.980 it's and this is actually what drew me to red pill i was like oh my gosh these guys actually are saying

03:05:46.620 some some truthful facts can you land the plane please but once you look into it deeper it there's

03:05:52.060 a lot of hypocrisy and there's ultimately a lack of integrity and it's feeding wounded

03:05:58.140 men instead of guiding them to actually fully emotionally heal it's it's superficial they're

03:06:06.140 chasing money and women and that is not integrated masculine energy okay quickly can you give me three

03:06:12.780 things that the supposed red pill gets wrong um one example is they well i'll just use i think it was

03:06:25.100 rollo tamasi he specifically said that something along the lines of women find men who can who are with a

03:06:35.660 bunch of women ideal like women go for men who have a lot of women and actually there's been a study on

03:06:42.620 it and i forget it's like a letter it's like hx or something the study that was done that is actually

03:06:47.500 contradictory to that because women cannot women do not find that evolutionary evolutionarily attractive 0.96

03:06:54.300 because typically those men don't have enough resources to actually sustain their family and they 0.78

03:06:59.020 would be abandoned so that's just one you said three um what is another you're hold on women 1.00

03:07:06.940 women absolutely there's a component of social proof when it comes to what women find attractive a lot 1.00

03:07:12.700 of women will need cosigns from either their other girlfriends they'll like check with their girlfriends 0.99

03:07:18.060 oh is this guy what do you think about this guy men don't need cosigns from their male friends

03:07:22.380 to pursue a chick so but this i if if a guy is capable of getting 10 10 women other women are 1.00

03:07:31.500 going to find him attractive by virtue of social proof yeah kind of like what we were talking about

03:07:35.420 earlier though it's not really about is he capable it's like does he have strength over his like lower

03:07:42.140 desires that's really what's ultimately attractive sure some wounded women don't care and they'll just 1.00

03:07:47.340 take a man that like cheats on them or like as an open relationship and there can be positive

03:07:53.020 open relationships i'm not saying no really open relationships camilla i just paid for your

03:07:57.660 only fans now i can't feel my left leg caitlin can you feed me grimace shake while i pee

03:08:04.460 brian take my innocence please thank you for subscribing love you uh luke thank you man appreciate it

03:08:12.780 i don't know about the innocence thing but i'm not sure about that one buddy um

03:08:19.660 i wish we had more time to uh probably get into this really i have many more but i know you have

03:08:24.220 to cut me off so yeah what and like i don't know this

03:08:31.500 there's there's like a red pill ideology and then there's just generally the red pill

03:08:36.220 so look i don't i don't claim to subscribe to a red pill ideology like i just use red pill as an

03:08:44.220 analogy for the truth for example lizzo's not a 10 to me that is the truth she's obese you cannot be a

03:08:52.780 10 and be obese do you object to that i don't deal with a numerical i'm not dealing with that numerical

03:09:00.540 stance we keep going to the physical attractiveness things well it's important

03:09:06.060 don't you think that physical don't you think that physical attractiveness is important when

03:09:11.660 you're trying to scout though i mean yes physical attract you're not going to talk to someone that

03:09:15.980 you're not attracted of course but it's it's on both sides it's not just one-sided and also like

03:09:21.180 you know they say like whatever certain things each culture finds very largely different things

03:09:27.580 attractive even women have people have different preferences some people would find there is no 1.00

03:09:32.940 culture in the world for either men or women that finds obesity attractive across the board

03:09:42.540 you okay yeah i understand this but you're using a rather extreme example it's not extreme

03:09:47.660 what percentage of people are obese was it 50 or something yeah it's not an extreme example

03:09:54.220 it's not an extreme example but it's never just because one little thing hasn't ever been like a

03:09:59.340 characterization of physical attractiveness doesn't i don't know it's do you think

03:10:04.940 okay do you think liz does attend whoops i don't i'm not doing the scale thing it's pointless

03:10:11.980 no okay all right well we're gonna i'm not getting anywhere so we're gonna wrap there if you want you

03:10:17.900 can come back i know we had a little heated discussion but we could pick it up another time um guys last call

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03:10:44.380 live again okay tristan tate donated 99 that's lizzo is 100 to 10th she's so bad fr i would let her

03:10:53.260 lick big mac sauce off my left cheek sorry brian gonna have to disagree well there you have it tristan

03:10:59.900 tate uh i guess uh you know everybody has their taste so uh there you go um we will be live again

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Whatever Podcast - August 07, 2023

Single Mom w⧸ Neck Tattoo Brings NOTHING To The Table？! ｜ Dating Talk #90

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