Ali Dawah - ADVICE TO UMM ABDULLAH & HUSBAND

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00:00:14.320 hear assalamualaikum guys before i start this video insha'Allah i want to insha'Allah thank

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00:01:08.800 get straight into the video as you guys know a controversial matter from a couple on instagram

00:01:13.520 that they have decided to come as a family and decided that the sister and the brother decided

00:01:18.000 that he wants to get married again and they've chosen on that and he's gone and got married again

00:01:24.640 brothers and sisters when it comes to polygamy obviously we have to be very very careful we

00:01:27.680 cannot make rash decisions and i totally disagree with the way they went about it because polygamy

00:01:32.560 can work and sometimes it does ruin lives as well so i totally disagree with the way they went about it

00:01:38.320 and dropped insha'Allah so i want to make that very clear now i'll be discussing this matter in a few

00:01:43.200 angles yeah but i want to make something very clear i want to make a disclaimer in no way shape

00:01:47.360 or form am i endorsing this couple am i endorsing anything they do yes i appreciate and value that

00:01:54.720 they call for marriage in this time of zina in this era of zina left right center billboards wherever

00:01:59.600 you look zina zina zina everywhere yeah i appreciate and value that they promote a halal marriage

00:02:07.920 gathering and coming together in in marriage yeah i appreciate video before yeah but i want to make

00:02:13.680 a disclaimer that in no way shape or form does that mean i endorse everything they do that they are i

00:02:18.960 mean no no no no no sorry let's make that very very clear no way shape or form am i encouraging or

00:02:23.760 endorsing that however i'm not going to be like those who have been tamir may allah have mercy on him said

00:02:28.560 that some of them some people are like flies they see never no good in people all they see is the bad

00:02:33.600 they land on the bad the poo you know poo i'm sorry they land on the poo they land on bad places 0.75

00:02:38.880 because they're like flies they never see any good in people i don't want to be that they're good

00:02:43.520 outweighs they're bad from what i can see however i have advice for them also i have advice for them

00:02:49.520 also and also have advice for everyone so let's listen carefully let's go to the so this is uh she

00:02:56.400 obviously she released that they got married and she put up there she got a bit of backlash 1.00

00:02:59.760 in her second post a sister comments and goes if she likes to share her man's private parts i'm not

00:03:07.360 going to mention it then allow it she'll allow herself to be disrespected by her husband and 1.00

00:03:11.920 friends she'll tolerate anything for the sake of allah but not respect herself as a mother and a woman

00:03:16.160 of allah either way it will only affect her children blah blah blah blah etc etc etc yeah i find this comment

00:03:22.880 and many comments disgusting yeah it's actually vile for this is to think that polygamy is just

00:03:30.320 about sharing your husband's private parts it's a bit disturbing because another marriage relationship

00:03:36.160 is more than that i'm going to come to the pros and cons of polygamy but i'm just saying in general

00:03:41.120 it's a disgusting statement and for they've been brothers getting gas getting excited they've been

00:03:45.440 sisters heartbroken saying we saw you as a couple ideal couple and broken our dreams which i'm still

00:03:50.560 trying to find out why uh and i'm going like once again i said i'm not endorsing i'm not on their

00:03:54.880 side totally i'm going to come so can be patient with me i know you guys are enraging yeah but what

00:03:59.520 i find funny is they say we have two extremes the liberals and the super haram police yeah the super

00:04:04.160 everything you cannot breathe oxygen is haram yeah and then we have the other liberals uh for them

00:04:09.520 everything is halal everything is halal yeah everything is halal but polygamy is haram yeah okay by the way 0.90

00:04:14.400 uh so they take that from the probably the haram police yeah so now the thing is the liberals when

00:04:21.040 it comes to our religion when it comes to homosexuality by the way we don't conduct uh uh

00:04:25.760 incite any kind of violence towards them when it comes to homosexuality when it comes to shirk

00:04:31.200 worshiping other than allah subhanahu wa ta'ala when it comes to innovation in the religion when it

00:04:35.280 comes to certain aspects of the religion major sin etc the youtubes that they follow that do commit

00:04:39.360 commit sins they can have woohoo amazing but when a couple who come together made a decision

00:04:46.160 moving forward in a something that is halal fully halal they lose the plot 0.96

00:04:55.280 they lose the plot absolutely mental when i was in his comments i felt like somebody committed shirk

00:05:01.280 do you know shirk is worse than anything on this planet anything that you can think as evil and 0.52

00:05:08.000 are disgusting shirk is worse than that associating partners allah is worse than that so i'm just a 0.82

00:05:14.720 bit baffled where our priorities are so for our liberal brothers and sisters i relate with you in a way 0.90

00:05:23.280 where the way where they went about it was wrong and i'm going to come to that i'm going to come to that

00:05:27.920 but but also one thing is is that these comments are absolutely vile disgusting if two couple has made

00:05:37.520 a decision that their partner wants to get married again for me and you you know what we need to do

00:05:44.640 none of your business some of you sisters are acting and behaving like it's your husband that's going 1.00

00:05:50.080 to marry it again like look look you have a right to not want it for yourself even have a right some

00:05:56.160 scholars some opinions say that you can even stipulate in the contract he's not allowed to get married again

00:05:59.360 some say that some say no you can't but don't make something halal haram and with the haram please don't

00:06:06.800 make what's haram uh what's halal haram and vice versa now there is also a lot of slander going about

00:06:16.720 a lot of slander going about now this is a book from sheikh salah al-fawzan yeah okay

00:06:22.080 shaykh salah al-fawzan summary of islamic jurisprudence yeah this is the punishment for

00:06:28.640 slander i want to talk about slander this is the reason why i want to talk about slander because

00:06:31.120 there's accusations that are being made towards this couple yes this these people i don't know

00:06:37.040 if they are true or not but according to the sharia allah says in the quran if i'm saying in

00:06:42.400 surah nur when aisha the prophet's wife was slandered why did they believe in men and women did not think 0.99

00:06:48.160 good of themselves why did they not think good why is it that we were binoculars like i can't wait

00:06:54.880 for them to make that mistake and there's these issues going about that the sister was is a model

00:07:00.720 and all these kind of accusations yeah okay to me i'm sorry i've got to be real islamically the pictures

00:07:07.920 that you i've been getting sent pictures this picture look she's her she's going out etc in the eyes of 1.00

00:07:13.200 allah subhanahu wa ta'ala you're a kathab liar you're a kathab liar you're a liar sorry you are a 1.00

00:07:19.040 liar you are a liar because according to the sharia it doesn't work like that and to the 1.00

00:07:24.880 islam that allah says in the quran in this book and those who accuse chaste women and then do not 0.99

00:07:28.720 produce four witnesses lash them lash them 80 lashes and do not accept from them any testimony

00:07:34.160 ever after those and those are the defining disobedient yeah one of the one of the uh seven

00:07:39.920 destructive sins is standing a chaste woman or it can be a man and these are the consequences the 1.00

00:07:45.440 legal punishment for sandra in this world is lashing the rejection of his testimony and considering him

00:07:50.640 considering him a defined disobedient wicked person as long as he does not prove what he has claimed

00:07:55.120 as for his punishment in the hereafter it is stated in the verse in which allah exalted

00:07:59.360 he says indeed those who force accuse chaste unaware and believe in women are close in this world

00:08:04.080 and in the hereafter they will have great punishment on the day when their tongues their hands and 0.87

00:08:08.960 their feet will bear witness against them as to what they used to do that day allah will pay them

00:08:12.880 in their full in in for their true recompense and they will not and they will know that it is allah

00:08:19.440 who is the manifest truth and perfect injustice these accusations are massive accusations now if this comes

00:08:27.280 out and if it's true and it can be established islamically not i saw cctv camera not i saw pictures and

00:08:36.080 it looked like her it was her eyes oh i can see it from the jacket and the background if you go to

00:08:40.720 an islamic court you will get lashed like it's happy days they will get you lashed it's not that 1.00

00:08:47.040 it's a massive deal to accuse somebody of anything so please for the sake of allah

00:08:54.160 unless you have a disease in your heart against somebody and you're looking for his mistake then you

00:08:58.560 have a problem up here the problems up here if you're jealous because of certain issues then the

00:09:03.520 problem is with you i personally when it comes to the issue of polygamy yeah in my marriage documentary

00:09:08.240 personally myself i was approached for polygamy yes i was i'll be honest with you i had sisters

00:09:12.800 in in a decent way some inappropriate which i think probably fake accounts approach me in a decent way

00:09:18.160 you know kind of would you would you want to be in a polygamy polygamy marriage can i be your co-wife 1.00

00:09:22.960 etc yeah all of this stuff i discuss it in my marriage documentary yeah okay my views on it how i feel

00:09:28.960 about it how it's been misused i'm going to be talking all about it i'm going to be interviewing

00:09:32.480 sisters that were used yes brothers who use it the other angle brothers who abuse this marry divorce

00:09:38.240 marry divorce sisters use and abuse them chuck them away yeah pass them around to their friends 1.00

00:09:42.960 yeah we're going to be talking about all this car this is the discuss evil side of it yeah and not

00:09:47.200 that the act is the polygamy is evil but what these brothers are doing and we know and some 0.82

00:09:51.520 sisters and brothers hate it because of those who misuse it we understand but in general i admire and i

00:09:58.000 honor i honor and admire a man a man who is truthful and he has he says look i'm a polygamous man i'm a

00:10:08.000 polygamous man yeah i admire and honor the man who would go and say to his wife look darling this is

00:10:15.600 something that you're not going to like but i would rather tell you this and go about it the right way

00:10:20.480 then go and do haram i'm sorry i admire and honor such a man now in this country it's not allowed

00:10:27.840 yeah it's not allowed you can have girlfriends you can have side chicks you can have mistresses 1.00

00:10:31.280 you can abuse women as much as you like have girlfriends left right center but get married 0.72

00:10:36.240 again and no i believe it's hypocrisy i believe polygamy is a solution for mankind it might be hard it might be 0.88

00:10:42.960 hard for our sisters of course but also we can say the same as men look why do men have to go why did

00:10:48.640 in world war ii men have to go why do we have to go you go what i can say well as a female why do you

00:10:52.720 go what there's things that we may not like that we have to do you might not like but it's there for

00:10:57.360 a better reason but it's up to you some you might not choose to my point is this in this country non-muslim 0.56

00:11:04.000 men practice polygamy they have girlfriends and mistresses and side chicks and they use and abuse 0.99

00:11:09.200 girls and they have their girlfriend and they have their wife islam says it's there to legislate it in the 1.00

00:11:14.720 right way so if a man wants to get married again he honors the wife and says look this is what i

00:11:19.520 want to do etc etc etc he honors himself and obeys the law of his lord by not going and committing

00:11:26.960 zina and adultery yeah going against the laws of allah subhanahu wa ta'ala he goes and does it in

00:11:31.440 the right way and honors the woman he wants to marry her maher going to her dad the wedding doing it

00:11:36.080 properly in a halal manner not using it let me buy you a gucci bag a parada you know i'll buy you this

00:11:41.040 lipstick and bobby brown whatever you want to call it you know i use it for a bit take you in a few

00:11:44.960 holidays and bye bye i've used you goodbye no it has to be done in the right way i also admire more

00:11:52.240 the sister the sister or the wife that allows it because i know how much it's a big thing for a

00:11:58.720 female i know so regarding this issue nobody can come and say it's haram nobody can come and say if

00:12:04.560 then haram nobody can say none of that however however the way you guys went about it i know

00:12:12.000 because you guys were watching inshallah maybe i'm sure you guys going to watch it together both the

00:12:16.080 brother and his two wives they're going to probably watch it together yeah the way you went about it

00:12:19.840 was wrong ali radiallahu an says do not tell the people what they are not ready to hear do you want

00:12:26.320 them to disbelieve in allah and his messenger now why did he say that why did ali radiallahu an

00:12:30.640 find the need to say that because shaqa bin rothaymin explains to us that when you make this

00:12:39.440 statement when you go to people and say something to them and especially just randomly just popping a

00:12:43.680 picture it's not wise my brother and sisters that are watching it's not wise for you to go just drop

00:12:50.000 it like that if he was going to do it you can have a process a whole video this is what we decided this

00:12:55.360 is the reason it's not for everyone you can't just drop it like that because you've done two things

00:13:01.760 in your comment section there is statements of kufr being uttered that's on your shoulders why because

00:13:08.160 you have caused that indirectly because when you say that shaqa bin rothaymin explains that if you

00:13:14.240 say to somebody that a statement and as a muslim they're not ready to hear they're going to say

00:13:20.640 you're a liar whoever said that is a liar all the billah allah in his messenger said it 0.95

00:13:26.240 so do you see how you are causing them to utter words of kufr why because they're not ready to hear 0.99

00:13:32.480 it there's shaqa bin rothaymin says there's a step-by-step process to explaining it the second

00:13:37.840 thing is they you can actually cause them to say no i i reject this i reject this i'm never accepting

00:13:43.840 this you fall into disbelief you've caused somebody to leave the fold of islam so when you do stuff

00:13:50.320 like this you have a responsibility i've said this from day one brothers and sisters if you guys are a

00:13:56.080 public figure on instagram you have a responsibility you can't just come out left right center and after

00:14:02.640 this and that that it's not right it's wrong so me personally i would say that was wrong that was wrong

00:14:10.320 for you guys to drop it like that if you're going to do it do it in a proper way explain it why you

00:14:14.320 came to that decision etc you know but have you committed haram no but with this aspect i don't

00:14:21.600 know if it's haram what you've done you're causing people to stay statements of kufr now another issue

00:14:26.160 is that you guys do rukya you're rakis if i'm not mistaken yeah now you guys should know better you

00:14:33.040 guys should know well well better you know evil eye exists so yadi i understand you guys are trying to

00:14:41.440 show certain things but you know there's a comment that you made your post you made aki that you say

00:14:46.480 oh it's okay to take your wife behind the bush every now and then and then you explain it but it's a dirty

00:14:51.280 statement aki it's a dirty statement i know what you meant and yeah but it's a dirty statement aki

00:14:58.320 and i would advise you please abstain aki because there's some things you do that's inappropriate

00:15:01.920 well like people miss me left i sent it to refute guys i don't i assume the best i'm not one of those

00:15:07.280 people that die look for refutation but seriously there's certain things please be considerate have

00:15:13.280 limits enough yes we understand you're promoting marriage good but you know have limits and showing off

00:15:19.280 i'm not seeing you show it off but i'm seeing showing people out there you know

00:15:25.120 you do you do rukya you should know better yeah you don't need to show every single thing of your

00:15:30.240 life yeah this is probably advice from me to you guys another thing is i message you guys which

00:15:36.720 i'm a little bit upset about and i just since i'm talking about this is that you guys do rukya and you

00:15:42.240 know how evil music is and i message your first wife uh our sister and i respect i mentioned a

00:15:49.360 respectful manner you can see the message there and i message you you didn't see i assume the best

00:15:53.760 but your wife saw it you're playing music drakes yeah that song hey kiki i love you whatever the hell

00:15:59.680 it was yeah and you're actually playing the music and you do rukya you're rocky how does this work i don't

00:16:04.720 understand it's that me trying to help people to quit smoking and i give them cigarette you know the music

00:16:09.920 the effect music has so why do you and it it looks contradictory you know i'm just advising you

00:16:17.120 you know hope you understand inshallah yeah because i've privately advised you as well and another thing

00:16:22.000 for those who you know want need rukya done and calling these rakis whoever you can do rukya on 0.91

00:16:28.800 yourself we've done a video with my teacher i'll link the video why do you guys if you believe that these

00:16:34.640 rakis have some kind of superpowers like a dragon ball z and fire comes out and they have the special

00:16:39.680 followers this can this can be maybe minor shirk this can be actually kufr they don't have the

00:16:46.480 power they're reciting quran you can do this to yourself and for those rakis who are charging 1.00

00:16:52.000 ridiculous amounts ridiculous amounts i've heard of stories where they gain 50 people together and

00:16:59.120 charging them 50 pound each and they're doing like a mass uh thing uh rukya session come on man 0.91

00:17:04.720 we have to please and i'm telling you guys you can do it on yourself you can do it somebody can do

00:17:15.760 it on you you can do it on yourself if you're getting this perception that this person has

00:17:20.480 superpowers wallahi you're falling into dangerous places yeah going to this peer sahab peer super

00:17:26.480 sahab yeah give this yeah read this blow on this do this and most of the times these rakis they're not 1.00

00:17:31.760 qualified they are not qualified and i'm not talking about them i'm talking in general they're not

00:17:34.720 qualified they speak they do are the jinn is inside the jinn is lying to them your auntie did this in

00:17:38.720 pakistan the auntie did nothing and they're causing fitna between the families so we talk about this

00:17:43.040 with my sheikh i don't want to go into too much detail and in a nutshell i want to inshallah once again

00:17:48.240 say that what they have done is not haram it is halal it is halal regarding the law of the land

00:17:57.280 well i i believe yeah doing two um like actual um legal uh marriage in this country is allowed if you

00:18:09.520 do two of them are this allowed yeah so getting married again i i don't know the aspects of it okay

00:18:15.120 but like i said to you like i said to you before sisters it might be hard to swallow etc but at the

00:18:19.840 end of the day we know some situation of sisters who go and say to their husbands literally go and 1.00

00:18:23.280 commit zinnah but i don't want to know and go and disobey allah's laws go tarnish allah's laws

00:18:30.240 trample on it but no don't i mean i'm sorry yeah brothers and sisters this issue is a big issue it can

00:18:36.880 be misused there's pros and cons of polygamy yep if it's misused there is but if this couple are happy 1.00

00:18:42.880 me and you should be quiet none of your business and but again then for this couple please you

00:18:49.200 don't have to put everything out there you don't need to put everything out there so that's it that's

00:18:53.920 it really brothers and sisters inshallah may allah bless you guys for watching till next time

00:18:58.000 assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi barakatuh inshallah uh let's uh keep everything halal inshallah

Ali Dawah - June 13, 2019

ADVICE TO UMM ABDULLAH & HUSBAND

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