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The journey to marriage is filled with uneasy excitement, especially when it comes to getting married as a Muslim family. In this episode, I discuss the pros and cons of polygamy and how it can work in halal marriages.
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the journey to marriage is filled with uneasy excitement but if that is the story you wish to
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hear assalamualaikum guys before i start this video insha'Allah i want to insha'Allah thank
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get straight into the video as you guys know a controversial matter from a couple on instagram
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that they have decided to come as a family and decided that the sister and the brother decided
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that he wants to get married again and they've chosen on that and he's gone and got married again
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brothers and sisters when it comes to polygamy obviously we have to be very very careful we
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cannot make rash decisions and i totally disagree with the way they went about it because polygamy
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can work and sometimes it does ruin lives as well so i totally disagree with the way they went about it
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and dropped insha'Allah so i want to make that very clear now i'll be discussing this matter in a few
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angles yeah but i want to make something very clear i want to make a disclaimer in no way shape
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or form am i endorsing this couple am i endorsing anything they do yes i appreciate and value that
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they call for marriage in this time of zina in this era of zina left right center billboards wherever
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you look zina zina zina everywhere yeah i appreciate and value that they promote a halal marriage
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gathering and coming together in in marriage yeah i appreciate video before yeah but i want to make
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a disclaimer that in no way shape or form does that mean i endorse everything they do that they are i
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mean no no no no no sorry let's make that very very clear no way shape or form am i encouraging or
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endorsing that however i'm not going to be like those who have been tamir may allah have mercy on him said
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that some of them some people are like flies they see never no good in people all they see is the bad
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they land on the bad the poo you know poo i'm sorry they land on the poo they land on bad places
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because they're like flies they never see any good in people i don't want to be that they're good
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outweighs they're bad from what i can see however i have advice for them also i have advice for them
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also and also have advice for everyone so let's listen carefully let's go to the so this is uh she
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obviously she released that they got married and she put up there she got a bit of backlash
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in her second post a sister comments and goes if she likes to share her man's private parts i'm not
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going to mention it then allow it she'll allow herself to be disrespected by her husband and
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friends she'll tolerate anything for the sake of allah but not respect herself as a mother and a woman
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of allah either way it will only affect her children blah blah blah blah etc etc etc yeah i find this comment
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and many comments disgusting yeah it's actually vile for this is to think that polygamy is just
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about sharing your husband's private parts it's a bit disturbing because another marriage relationship
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is more than that i'm going to come to the pros and cons of polygamy but i'm just saying in general
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it's a disgusting statement and for they've been brothers getting gas getting excited they've been
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sisters heartbroken saying we saw you as a couple ideal couple and broken our dreams which i'm still
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trying to find out why uh and i'm going like once again i said i'm not endorsing i'm not on their
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side totally i'm going to come so can be patient with me i know you guys are enraging yeah but what
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i find funny is they say we have two extremes the liberals and the super haram police yeah the super
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everything you cannot breathe oxygen is haram yeah and then we have the other liberals uh for them
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everything is halal everything is halal yeah everything is halal but polygamy is haram yeah okay by the way
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uh so they take that from the probably the haram police yeah so now the thing is the liberals when
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it comes to our religion when it comes to homosexuality by the way we don't conduct uh uh
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incite any kind of violence towards them when it comes to homosexuality when it comes to shirk
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worshiping other than allah subhanahu wa ta'ala when it comes to innovation in the religion when it
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comes to certain aspects of the religion major sin etc the youtubes that they follow that do commit
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commit sins they can have woohoo amazing but when a couple who come together made a decision
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moving forward in a something that is halal fully halal they lose the plot
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they lose the plot absolutely mental when i was in his comments i felt like somebody committed shirk
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do you know shirk is worse than anything on this planet anything that you can think as evil and
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are disgusting shirk is worse than that associating partners allah is worse than that so i'm just a
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bit baffled where our priorities are so for our liberal brothers and sisters i relate with you in a way
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where the way where they went about it was wrong and i'm going to come to that i'm going to come to that
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but but also one thing is is that these comments are absolutely vile disgusting if two couple has made
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a decision that their partner wants to get married again for me and you you know what we need to do
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none of your business some of you sisters are acting and behaving like it's your husband that's going
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to marry it again like look look you have a right to not want it for yourself even have a right some
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scholars some opinions say that you can even stipulate in the contract he's not allowed to get married again
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some say that some say no you can't but don't make something halal haram and with the haram please don't
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make what's haram uh what's halal haram and vice versa now there is also a lot of slander going about
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a lot of slander going about now this is a book from sheikh salah al-fawzan yeah okay
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shaykh salah al-fawzan summary of islamic jurisprudence yeah this is the punishment for
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slander i want to talk about slander this is the reason why i want to talk about slander because
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there's accusations that are being made towards this couple yes this these people i don't know
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if they are true or not but according to the sharia allah says in the quran if i'm saying in
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surah nur when aisha the prophet's wife was slandered why did they believe in men and women did not think
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good of themselves why did they not think good why is it that we were binoculars like i can't wait
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for them to make that mistake and there's these issues going about that the sister was is a model
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and all these kind of accusations yeah okay to me i'm sorry i've got to be real islamically the pictures
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that you i've been getting sent pictures this picture look she's her she's going out etc in the eyes of
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allah subhanahu wa ta'ala you're a kathab liar you're a kathab liar you're a liar sorry you are a
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liar you are a liar because according to the sharia it doesn't work like that and to the
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islam that allah says in the quran in this book and those who accuse chaste women and then do not
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produce four witnesses lash them lash them 80 lashes and do not accept from them any testimony
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ever after those and those are the defining disobedient yeah one of the one of the uh seven
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destructive sins is standing a chaste woman or it can be a man and these are the consequences the
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legal punishment for sandra in this world is lashing the rejection of his testimony and considering him
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considering him a defined disobedient wicked person as long as he does not prove what he has claimed
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as for his punishment in the hereafter it is stated in the verse in which allah exalted
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he says indeed those who force accuse chaste unaware and believe in women are close in this world
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and in the hereafter they will have great punishment on the day when their tongues their hands and
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their feet will bear witness against them as to what they used to do that day allah will pay them
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in their full in in for their true recompense and they will not and they will know that it is allah
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who is the manifest truth and perfect injustice these accusations are massive accusations now if this comes
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out and if it's true and it can be established islamically not i saw cctv camera not i saw pictures and
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it looked like her it was her eyes oh i can see it from the jacket and the background if you go to
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an islamic court you will get lashed like it's happy days they will get you lashed it's not that
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it's a massive deal to accuse somebody of anything so please for the sake of allah
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unless you have a disease in your heart against somebody and you're looking for his mistake then you
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have a problem up here the problems up here if you're jealous because of certain issues then the
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problem is with you i personally when it comes to the issue of polygamy yeah in my marriage documentary
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personally myself i was approached for polygamy yes i was i'll be honest with you i had sisters
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in in a decent way some inappropriate which i think probably fake accounts approach me in a decent way
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you know kind of would you would you want to be in a polygamy polygamy marriage can i be your co-wife
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etc yeah all of this stuff i discuss it in my marriage documentary yeah okay my views on it how i feel
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about it how it's been misused i'm going to be talking all about it i'm going to be interviewing
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sisters that were used yes brothers who use it the other angle brothers who abuse this marry divorce
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marry divorce sisters use and abuse them chuck them away yeah pass them around to their friends
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yeah we're going to be talking about all this car this is the discuss evil side of it yeah and not
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that the act is the polygamy is evil but what these brothers are doing and we know and some
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sisters and brothers hate it because of those who misuse it we understand but in general i admire and i
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honor i honor and admire a man a man who is truthful and he has he says look i'm a polygamous man i'm a
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polygamous man yeah i admire and honor the man who would go and say to his wife look darling this is
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something that you're not going to like but i would rather tell you this and go about it the right way
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then go and do haram i'm sorry i admire and honor such a man now in this country it's not allowed
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yeah it's not allowed you can have girlfriends you can have side chicks you can have mistresses
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you can abuse women as much as you like have girlfriends left right center but get married
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again and no i believe it's hypocrisy i believe polygamy is a solution for mankind it might be hard it might be
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hard for our sisters of course but also we can say the same as men look why do men have to go why did
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in world war ii men have to go why do we have to go you go what i can say well as a female why do you
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go what there's things that we may not like that we have to do you might not like but it's there for
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a better reason but it's up to you some you might not choose to my point is this in this country non-muslim
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men practice polygamy they have girlfriends and mistresses and side chicks and they use and abuse
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girls and they have their girlfriend and they have their wife islam says it's there to legislate it in the
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right way so if a man wants to get married again he honors the wife and says look this is what i
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want to do etc etc etc he honors himself and obeys the law of his lord by not going and committing
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zina and adultery yeah going against the laws of allah subhanahu wa ta'ala he goes and does it in
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the right way and honors the woman he wants to marry her maher going to her dad the wedding doing it
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properly in a halal manner not using it let me buy you a gucci bag a parada you know i'll buy you this
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lipstick and bobby brown whatever you want to call it you know i use it for a bit take you in a few
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holidays and bye bye i've used you goodbye no it has to be done in the right way i also admire more
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the sister the sister or the wife that allows it because i know how much it's a big thing for a
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female i know so regarding this issue nobody can come and say it's haram nobody can come and say if
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then haram nobody can say none of that however however the way you guys went about it i know
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because you guys were watching inshallah maybe i'm sure you guys going to watch it together both the
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brother and his two wives they're going to probably watch it together yeah the way you went about it
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was wrong ali radiallahu an says do not tell the people what they are not ready to hear do you want
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them to disbelieve in allah and his messenger now why did he say that why did ali radiallahu an
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find the need to say that because shaqa bin rothaymin explains to us that when you make this
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statement when you go to people and say something to them and especially just randomly just popping a
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picture it's not wise my brother and sisters that are watching it's not wise for you to go just drop
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it like that if he was going to do it you can have a process a whole video this is what we decided this
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is the reason it's not for everyone you can't just drop it like that because you've done two things
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in your comment section there is statements of kufr being uttered that's on your shoulders why because
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you have caused that indirectly because when you say that shaqa bin rothaymin explains that if you
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say to somebody that a statement and as a muslim they're not ready to hear they're going to say
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you're a liar whoever said that is a liar all the billah allah in his messenger said it
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so do you see how you are causing them to utter words of kufr why because they're not ready to hear
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it there's shaqa bin rothaymin says there's a step-by-step process to explaining it the second
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thing is they you can actually cause them to say no i i reject this i reject this i'm never accepting
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this you fall into disbelief you've caused somebody to leave the fold of islam so when you do stuff
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like this you have a responsibility i've said this from day one brothers and sisters if you guys are a
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public figure on instagram you have a responsibility you can't just come out left right center and after
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this and that that it's not right it's wrong so me personally i would say that was wrong that was wrong
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for you guys to drop it like that if you're going to do it do it in a proper way explain it why you
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came to that decision etc you know but have you committed haram no but with this aspect i don't
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know if it's haram what you've done you're causing people to stay statements of kufr now another issue
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is that you guys do rukya you're rakis if i'm not mistaken yeah now you guys should know better you
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guys should know well well better you know evil eye exists so yadi i understand you guys are trying to
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show certain things but you know there's a comment that you made your post you made aki that you say
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oh it's okay to take your wife behind the bush every now and then and then you explain it but it's a dirty
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statement aki it's a dirty statement i know what you meant and yeah but it's a dirty statement aki
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and i would advise you please abstain aki because there's some things you do that's inappropriate
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well like people miss me left i sent it to refute guys i don't i assume the best i'm not one of those
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people that die look for refutation but seriously there's certain things please be considerate have
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limits enough yes we understand you're promoting marriage good but you know have limits and showing off
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i'm not seeing you show it off but i'm seeing showing people out there you know
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you do you do rukya you should know better yeah you don't need to show every single thing of your
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life yeah this is probably advice from me to you guys another thing is i message you guys which
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i'm a little bit upset about and i just since i'm talking about this is that you guys do rukya and you
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know how evil music is and i message your first wife uh our sister and i respect i mentioned a
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respectful manner you can see the message there and i message you you didn't see i assume the best
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but your wife saw it you're playing music drakes yeah that song hey kiki i love you whatever the hell
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it was yeah and you're actually playing the music and you do rukya you're rocky how does this work i don't
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understand it's that me trying to help people to quit smoking and i give them cigarette you know the music
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the effect music has so why do you and it it looks contradictory you know i'm just advising you
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you know hope you understand inshallah yeah because i've privately advised you as well and another thing
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for those who you know want need rukya done and calling these rakis whoever you can do rukya on
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yourself we've done a video with my teacher i'll link the video why do you guys if you believe that these
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rakis have some kind of superpowers like a dragon ball z and fire comes out and they have the special
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followers this can this can be maybe minor shirk this can be actually kufr they don't have the
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power they're reciting quran you can do this to yourself and for those rakis who are charging
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ridiculous amounts ridiculous amounts i've heard of stories where they gain 50 people together and
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charging them 50 pound each and they're doing like a mass uh thing uh rukya session come on man
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we have to please and i'm telling you guys you can do it on yourself you can do it somebody can do
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it on you you can do it on yourself if you're getting this perception that this person has
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superpowers wallahi you're falling into dangerous places yeah going to this peer sahab peer super
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sahab yeah give this yeah read this blow on this do this and most of the times these rakis they're not
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qualified they are not qualified and i'm not talking about them i'm talking in general they're not
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qualified they speak they do are the jinn is inside the jinn is lying to them your auntie did this in
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pakistan the auntie did nothing and they're causing fitna between the families so we talk about this
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with my sheikh i don't want to go into too much detail and in a nutshell i want to inshallah once again
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say that what they have done is not haram it is halal it is halal regarding the law of the land
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well i i believe yeah doing two um like actual um legal uh marriage in this country is allowed if you
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do two of them are this allowed yeah so getting married again i i don't know the aspects of it okay
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but like i said to you like i said to you before sisters it might be hard to swallow etc but at the
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end of the day we know some situation of sisters who go and say to their husbands literally go and
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commit zinnah but i don't want to know and go and disobey allah's laws go tarnish allah's laws
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trample on it but no don't i mean i'm sorry yeah brothers and sisters this issue is a big issue it can
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be misused there's pros and cons of polygamy yep if it's misused there is but if this couple are happy
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me and you should be quiet none of your business and but again then for this couple please you
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don't have to put everything out there you don't need to put everything out there so that's it that's
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it really brothers and sisters inshallah may allah bless you guys for watching till next time
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assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi barakatuh inshallah uh let's uh keep everything halal inshallah