Ali Dawah - February 23, 2022


CAN MEN & WOMAN BE FRIENDS？ - OLD IS GOLD


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Length

6 minutes

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178.70114

Word count

1,230

Sentence count

81

Harmful content

Misogyny

5

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Toxicity

1

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Hate speech

3

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Summary

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Do you think male and females can only be friends, nothing more? Do you think it's possible for a guy and a girl to be more than friends? Is it possible for two people to be friends if there's no attraction between them?

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00:00:20.640 Yeah, yeah, I've got loads of male friends. If there's no attraction there, then there's...
00:00:24.320 What if they get attracted?
00:00:26.320 If you had a chance to do it, would you go?
00:00:30.000 Do you believe male and females can only be friends?
00:00:57.520 Yes, of course.
00:00:58.720 Have you ever had male friends?
00:01:00.240 Yes.
00:01:00.960 Has any of them been attracted to you and wanted to be more than friends?
00:01:04.480 Some, but not all.
00:01:05.840 Do you think male and females can only be friends, nothing more?
00:01:10.240 I don't think so.
00:01:10.880 I don't know. I think it's an experience and I met a lot of boys and I wanted to be friends,
00:01:21.920 but it just can't.
00:01:23.760 Yes, of course.
00:01:24.320 Yes, of course.
00:01:25.280 They can.
00:01:25.840 Yeah.
00:01:26.400 Did you ever have a friend that was just friend, but he liked you?
00:01:30.880 Yes, it happened.
00:01:32.880 Okay, but does that mean they can still be friends?
00:01:36.080 Um, it's difficult because if there is one person that liked the other one, it can be confusing
00:01:43.840 after.
00:01:44.400 Can they just be friends, nothing more?
00:01:45.840 Yeah, they can.
00:01:47.360 Yeah.
00:01:47.920 Have you ever had an experience where you saw a guy as a friend, but he wanted to be more than friends?
00:01:53.440 Yeah, I have.
00:01:54.640 So if you've been through that, doesn't that show like they can't really be friends?
00:01:58.480 Okay.
00:01:59.040 Do you believe male and females can only be friends?
00:02:02.400 Yes.
00:02:03.200 Yeah, I do, yeah.
00:02:04.480 Okay.
00:02:05.360 Why?
00:02:06.320 Because if a girl and a girl can be friends, why can't a guy and a girl?
00:02:09.600 Do you believe male and females can only be friends, nothing more?
00:02:13.360 No, they can't.
00:02:14.320 Why not?
00:02:15.440 Because once they start hanging out, they create a bond.
00:02:19.040 Do you think male and females can only be friends?
00:02:21.600 Only be friends?
00:02:22.800 Well, they can be, yeah, yeah.
00:02:24.640 Just friends?
00:02:25.440 Yeah, just friends.
00:02:26.320 Yeah, that's possible.
00:02:27.040 Okay.
00:02:27.600 Yeah, yeah, I've got loads of male friends.
00:02:29.600 If there's no attraction there, then there's no attraction.
00:02:31.360 What if they get attracted?
00:02:34.160 Yeah.
00:02:36.000 Do you think male and females can only be friends, nothing more?
00:02:38.880 Who?
00:02:40.160 No, naturally not.
00:02:41.840 It's not possible, it's not possible.
00:02:44.320 No.
00:02:45.120 They can't.
00:02:45.840 No.
00:02:46.640 No.
00:02:47.200 I believe there's always...
00:02:49.200 Was it a no, sorry?
00:02:50.240 It was a no.
00:02:50.800 Can I carry on?
00:02:52.960 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:02:53.440 There's always inside, there's always feelings there that will make it more than friendship.
00:02:57.360 Okay, so have you ever gone through that experience?
00:02:59.440 No.
00:02:59.840 You haven't, are you sure?
00:03:01.040 No.
00:03:01.840 I'm joking, I have, yeah.
00:03:02.880 Okay, all right.
00:03:03.680 Okay, if that's the case then, how could male and female just be friends?
00:03:06.000 Because you've got friends, but you're saying, if I had the chance, I'll go out with her.
00:03:10.080 Well, for me, I've got self-control still.
00:03:12.080 So, for me, you know, you do feel attracted to some of them.
00:03:16.000 Yeah, but, um, I don't, if she's my friend, she's my friend, you know what I mean?
00:03:20.800 Okay, have you ever had a feeling towards a friend that's just female, but, like, has feelings
00:03:26.320 occur?
00:03:26.640 Friend zone.
00:03:28.560 Friend zone.
00:03:29.120 If you had the chance, would you go out with her?
00:03:33.360 Definitely, yes, I would do it.
00:03:35.440 She's awesome. 0.83
00:03:36.080 She's hot. 1.00
00:03:37.040 Why wouldn't I do it?
00:03:38.800 Let's go.
00:03:39.920 Okay, cool.
00:03:40.960 Okay, dude, you're not regarded, right?
00:03:43.200 I can see how you can get them a feeling.
00:03:44.960 Okay, yeah.
00:03:45.920 Here's the condition.
00:03:47.680 If the girl is not hard, yes.
00:03:48.720 Rob, you're drunk, let's go.
00:03:50.240 If she's not hard, yes.
00:03:52.320 If she's hard, definitely, they will.
00:03:55.200 It's not that hard.
00:03:56.160 It's not that hard.
00:03:57.200 Okay, do you believe male and females can only be friends?
00:04:00.400 Yeah.
00:04:01.280 Have you ever had the female friends?
00:04:02.560 Of course.
00:04:04.080 Have you ever been attracted to them?
00:04:05.680 Of course, yeah.
00:04:06.640 Does that mean can they be friends though?
00:04:08.160 Of course, yeah.
00:04:08.240 Because you're saying, you had female friends,
00:04:09.920 but you was attracted to them.
00:04:11.760 Do you believe male and females can only be friends?
00:04:15.200 Can only be friends.
00:04:16.160 Being friends.
00:04:16.580 Nothing more.
00:04:17.360 Just being friends.
00:04:17.440 They can be friends, yeah.
00:04:18.480 Of course they can.
00:04:19.760 Have you ever had female friends?
00:04:21.120 Have you ever been attracted to them?
00:04:23.440 Yeah.
00:04:24.400 Could they only be friends?
00:04:25.360 do you believe male and females can only be friends absolutely yes okay have you ever had
00:04:32.220 female friends yes have you ever been attracted to them of course can they still be friends can
00:04:37.480 male and female just be friends yes definitely have you ever had a female friend that you was
00:04:41.320 attracted to yes does that mean can they be friends now brothers and sisters we'll see what
00:04:46.860 the females had to say now the males it clearly contradicts what the females are saying completely
00:04:52.220 completely so they're like you know what no even that guy remember that guy um uh with that girl
00:04:57.340 where he's like if i said to him if you had the chance would you go out with him he's like hell 0.71
00:05:01.740 yeah of course i'll go out with him so you know what this shows this shows that there's a conflict
00:05:06.180 of interest here exactly and that's why that girl walked off she's like oh my god i can't believe 1.00
00:05:10.240 what he said i think we should go into the scientific studies let's check out the studies
00:05:13.920 and see what the studies say men and women can just be friends assuming that they're both heterosexual
00:05:20.460 in this case appears to be not true this is fascinating they did it uh... uh... the study
00:05:27.420 where they brought in eighty eight pairs of undergraduate opposite sex friends into a science lab 0.99
00:05:33.600 and they followed standard protocol as far as anonymity confidentiality et cetera but also got
00:05:40.220 people to agree verbally and in front of each other that they weren't going to discuss the
00:05:43.680 study they were going to talk about what they said to the researchers amongst themselves after
00:05:48.220 leaving the testing facility what they tested was presumably you were just friends and they
00:05:53.440 separated the the op the men and that the man and the woman they said okay tell me do you
00:05:58.400 have any how attractive do you find your friend to be how attractive do you think your friend
00:06:03.880 finds you to be how interested in pursuing a relationship with your friend are you okay what
00:06:09.260 do you think they found
00:06:12.760 you you tell me
00:06:13.780 okay the results show that there is a huge
00:06:16.900 gender difference the women 0.99
00:06:19.160 did not find on the whole the men to be particularly attractive
00:06:23.060 and had absolutely no inkling that they would ever have a romantic relationship with the men however
00:06:27.700 the men
00:06:28.640 number one
00:06:29.900 found the women attractive number two
00:06:32.000 had a much higher
00:06:33.260 estimation of how attractive the women found them to be
00:06:36.380 and also indicated yeah i would actually be into having a romantic relationship uh... with
00:06:41.780 this woman
00:06:42.500 so the results really seem to indicate that
00:06:45.640 men have the harder time being just friends whereas for women it really appears to be much 0.98
00:06:51.560 more straightforward to be just
00:06:52.560 right