Ali Dawah - February 23, 2022CAN MEN & WOMAN BE FRIENDS？ - OLD IS GOLD
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Summary
Do you think male and females can only be friends, nothing more? Do you think it's possible for a guy and a girl to be more than friends? Is it possible for two people to be friends if there's no attraction between them?
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Has your porn and sex addiction affected your studies, work, marriage and family relationship?
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Are you stuck with feelings of guilt, shame, remorse and despair?
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Or has your addiction progressed from pornography to zinnah?
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Itaskia is the place where Muslim males and females struggling with pornography
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Yeah, yeah, I've got loads of male friends. If there's no attraction there, then there's...
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Do you believe male and females can only be friends?
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Has any of them been attracted to you and wanted to be more than friends?
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Do you think male and females can only be friends, nothing more?
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I don't know. I think it's an experience and I met a lot of boys and I wanted to be friends,
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Did you ever have a friend that was just friend, but he liked you?
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Okay, but does that mean they can still be friends?
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Um, it's difficult because if there is one person that liked the other one, it can be confusing
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Have you ever had an experience where you saw a guy as a friend, but he wanted to be more than friends?
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So if you've been through that, doesn't that show like they can't really be friends?
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Do you believe male and females can only be friends?
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Because if a girl and a girl can be friends, why can't a guy and a girl?
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Do you believe male and females can only be friends, nothing more?
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Because once they start hanging out, they create a bond.
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Do you think male and females can only be friends?
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If there's no attraction there, then there's no attraction.
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Do you think male and females can only be friends, nothing more?
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There's always inside, there's always feelings there that will make it more than friendship.
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Okay, so have you ever gone through that experience?
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Okay, if that's the case then, how could male and female just be friends?
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Because you've got friends, but you're saying, if I had the chance, I'll go out with her.
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So, for me, you know, you do feel attracted to some of them.
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Yeah, but, um, I don't, if she's my friend, she's my friend, you know what I mean?
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Okay, have you ever had a feeling towards a friend that's just female, but, like, has feelings
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If you had the chance, would you go out with her?
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Okay, do you believe male and females can only be friends?
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Do you believe male and females can only be friends?
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do you believe male and females can only be friends absolutely yes okay have you ever had
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female friends yes have you ever been attracted to them of course can they still be friends can
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male and female just be friends yes definitely have you ever had a female friend that you was
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attracted to yes does that mean can they be friends now brothers and sisters we'll see what
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the females had to say now the males it clearly contradicts what the females are saying completely
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completely so they're like you know what no even that guy remember that guy um uh with that girl
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where he's like if i said to him if you had the chance would you go out with him he's like hell
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yeah of course i'll go out with him so you know what this shows this shows that there's a conflict
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of interest here exactly and that's why that girl walked off she's like oh my god i can't believe
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what he said i think we should go into the scientific studies let's check out the studies
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and see what the studies say men and women can just be friends assuming that they're both heterosexual
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in this case appears to be not true this is fascinating they did it uh... uh... the study
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where they brought in eighty eight pairs of undergraduate opposite sex friends into a science lab
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and they followed standard protocol as far as anonymity confidentiality et cetera but also got
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people to agree verbally and in front of each other that they weren't going to discuss the
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study they were going to talk about what they said to the researchers amongst themselves after
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leaving the testing facility what they tested was presumably you were just friends and they
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separated the the op the men and that the man and the woman they said okay tell me do you
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have any how attractive do you find your friend to be how attractive do you think your friend
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finds you to be how interested in pursuing a relationship with your friend are you okay what
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did not find on the whole the men to be particularly attractive
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and had absolutely no inkling that they would ever have a romantic relationship with the men however
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estimation of how attractive the women found them to be
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and also indicated yeah i would actually be into having a romantic relationship uh... with
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men have the harder time being just friends whereas for women it really appears to be much