Ali Dawah - March 14, 2021


COWARD HUSBAND LED HER TO SUICIDE - REACTION VIDEO


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Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

202.90323

Word count

1,887

Sentence count

2

Harmful content

Misogyny

11

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Toxicity

29

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Hate speech

36

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In this video, we find out why this tragedy happened and what caused it. Aisha's father said that he had initially paid 1.5 lakh in dowry, but her in-laws demanded more. As per reports, police obtained Aisha s causal records which shows she had a 17 minute long conversation with her husband before taking the extreme step.

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00:00:00.000 Asalaamu Alaikum, my name is Aisha, Arif Khan and whatever I want to do
00:00:08.000 You can see from the video the sorrow in her eyes
00:00:10.000 What an evil person that you cannot, as a man, take care of the woman that you married
00:00:15.000 Let alone give a dowry, you ask them for dowry, yeah? 0.74
00:00:18.000 You bully her, you bully her so much to push her to that verge
00:00:23.000 And then on top of that you tell her to send you a video?
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00:00:40.000 Asalaamu Alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, brothers and sisters and dear friends
00:00:42.000 Hope you guys are well inshaAllah, welcome to this video
00:00:44.000 In this video, brothers and sisters, a sister called Sister Aisha
00:00:47.000 And we're gonna find out why this tragedy happened, what caused it
00:00:51.000 So here's the video, let's get straight into it inshaAllah
00:00:54.000 Asalaamu Alaikum, my name is Aisha, Arif Khan
00:00:59.000 And I'm going to do whatever I want to do, I want to do it from my own
00:01:05.000 I don't have any pain or pain, but what do I say?
00:01:12.000 I understand that God's life is so much and I feel so happy
00:01:17.000 And dear dad, when will we fight ourselves?
00:01:21.000 How do you control yourself?
00:01:23.000 How do you control yourself?
00:01:24.000 I don't want to do it
00:01:25.000 So far now, you can see from the video the sorrow in her eyes
00:01:29.000 This last bit specifically here
00:01:31.000 You can see the sorrow in her eyes, even though she's trying to hide it
00:01:35.000 Let's carry on
00:01:37.000 Her father said that she was harassed by her in-laws for a diary
00:01:49.000 And was eventually sent to her parents' house by her husband 0.99
00:01:52.000 As per reports, police obtained Aisha's causal records which shows she had a 17 minute long conversation with Arif before taking the extreme step
00:02:04.000 Arif Khan reportedly told his wife, if you want to die, then die, but send me a video first
00:02:11.000 Aisha's father said that he had initially paid 1.5 lakh in dowry, but her in-laws demanded more 0.61
00:02:20.000 Brothers and sisters, I'm going to go to a verse in the Quran
00:02:25.000 And subhanAllah, anytime, whenever we do not obey by the commandments of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
00:02:31.000 These tragedies happen, all the time, we do not learn lessons
00:02:34.000 What Allah has prescribed, we don't take it 1.00
00:02:36.000 And when we don't take it, subhanAllah we suffer 1.00
00:02:38.000 It's like a medication that you have to take
00:02:40.000 It's bitter, it's disgusting, but it's good for you
00:02:43.000 And the more we turn a blind eye to this reality
00:02:47.000 What happens is, we all end up suffering brothers and sisters, subhanAllah 1.00
00:02:51.000 In this verse, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says
00:02:53.000 Men are caretakers of women 1.00
00:02:55.000 Since Allah has made some of them excel the others 0.91
00:02:58.000 And because of the wealth they have spent, so the righteous women are obedient 0.97
00:03:01.000 And guard the property and the honour of their husbands in their absence
00:03:04.000 With the protection given by Allah
00:03:06.000 And Allah talks about us for the rebellious women 0.99
00:03:08.000 And the precautions to be taken step by step
00:03:11.000 Now here Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is very clear saying
00:03:13.000 That men are the providers, the maintainers, the caretakers of women 1.00
00:03:18.000 Now a lot of, sadly, the whole feminist movement has made this out to be 1.00
00:03:23.000 As if it's some kind of, you know, women are just, you know, they can't work, etc 1.00
00:03:28.000 No, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is saying that men have to take care of their wives
00:03:32.000 Okay, even so much so when it comes to the dowry
00:03:34.000 It's the men that give the dowry, not the women 1.00
00:03:37.000 In this very instance they say, traditions from the Hindu Indians, subhanAllah
00:03:40.000 That the woman has to give the dowry 1.00
00:03:42.000 I've never heard something like this in my life
00:03:44.000 Bizarre thing, subhanAllah, it's ajeeb, yeah 1.00
00:03:47.000 Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has stated clearly that the men are the ones that give the mahr 0.98
00:03:51.000 Not vice versa
00:03:53.000 Because of the status of a woman, subhanAllah 1.00
00:03:56.000 And not only that, when it comes to caretaking and maintaining
00:03:59.000 This is the same principle that applies
00:04:01.000 Me personally, when it comes to, for example, for my wife, etc
00:04:05.000 There might be times where I might have a difficulty with payment
00:04:08.000 For example, let's say when it comes to rent, yeah
00:04:11.000 And my wife, may Allah bless her, has said, you know what, I can contribute
00:04:14.000 And I said, look, thank you, may Allah bless you
00:04:16.000 But no, that's my duty
00:04:17.000 This doesn't mean that in a very, like if I was really, really struggling
00:04:21.000 And there's not a problem, yeah
00:04:22.000 She doesn't have to
00:04:24.000 The question here is this
00:04:25.000 The point is that she does not have to
00:04:27.000 When it comes to shopping, the rent, and things that she needs
00:04:30.000 To a certain extent, there's a limit
00:04:32.000 Okay, this is what I can give a week, etc, yeah
00:04:34.000 Okay, and the thing is, if that's what I can provide
00:04:36.000 I can say, okay, this is what I can provide
00:04:38.000 Anything that extra she wants that I cannot, she has a right to go and work
00:04:41.000 But the point is, even the mahr that's given to her, that's hers 0.97
00:04:44.000 You cannot touch it
00:04:45.000 This is the status that Islam has given to women 1.00
00:04:47.000 If you read this book, yeah
00:04:49.000 It's by James Tooley
00:04:51.000 The Miseducation of Women 1.00
00:04:53.000 Let's read one specific bit, brothers and sisters, yeah
00:04:55.000 It says
00:04:56.000 Women magazines are full of stories about women's current unhappiness and surveys
00:04:59.000 To explore why Top Sunday, the UK's best-selling health and beauty magazine
00:05:03.000 For instance, revealed in its summer 2001 survey that
00:05:06.000 Only 9% of working women and 4% of women with their preschool children
00:05:10.000 Say they choose to work full-time
00:05:11.000 In fact, if given the chance, 78% of all working women would quit their jobs tomorrow if they could 1.00
00:05:17.000 And a similar percentage think that their work is damaging their health
00:05:20.000 Causing ailments such as headaches, constant exhaustion, backache, anxiety, forgetfulness, insomnia, irritable bowel syndrome and migraine
00:05:27.000 Family Life says the report is being driven to the breaking point by women's current lifestyles 1.00
00:05:33.000 So, this man, this evil man, you have killed her
00:05:38.000 You have killed her, you have caused her death 0.95
00:05:42.000 Why? 0.57
00:05:43.000 Look, if somebody's coming and saying they're suicidal
00:05:46.000 Or for example, they're saying they're going to kill their self
00:05:48.000 What kind of a vile person do you have to be to say to that person, you know what?
00:05:51.000 If you're going to do it, record yourself 0.99
00:05:53.000 You're an evil person 1.00
00:05:54.000 And not only that, you're a coward 1.00
00:05:56.000 Let me tell you why you're a coward 1.00
00:05:57.000 Because Allah says you are the protector and the maintainer 0.99
00:05:59.000 You did not protect her
00:06:00.000 You pushed her to the point, yeah?
00:06:03.000 You pushed her, you played a part
00:06:04.000 I'm not going to say it's totally your fault
00:06:06.000 You played a massive part, okay?
00:06:08.000 This sister, may Allah forgive her
00:06:10.000 Yes, some scholars say that people commit suicide
00:06:12.000 You know, you're not supposed to ask for forgiveness
00:06:14.000 There's a different opinion on the matter
00:06:15.000 But may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala have mercy on her, forgive her, okay? 0.98
00:06:17.000 We know the asr that hadith said 0.95
00:06:19.000 The one who kills their self commits suicide
00:06:21.000 Will kill their self that way till the day of judgement, yeah? 0.99
00:06:24.000 The point is this 0.92
00:06:26.000 But Allah says he will forgive any sins except shirk 1.00
00:06:28.000 So, it's at his discretion we ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to have mercy on her 1.00
00:06:32.000 But you are supposed to be the protector
00:06:34.000 How did you protect her? 0.98
00:06:35.000 You greedy person 0.98
00:06:37.000 You greedy 1.00
00:06:38.000 You're greedy
00:06:39.000 You're asking for a diary 1.00
00:06:40.000 Who the hell are you? 0.99
00:06:41.000 Who the hell are you? 1.00
00:06:42.000 Why should a diary be given to you? 0.99
00:06:43.000 Allah is telling you 0.99
00:06:44.000 You have to give a diary to her
00:06:45.000 Number one
00:06:47.000 Protect her
00:06:48.000 You didn't protect her
00:06:49.000 You failed
00:06:50.000 You failed
00:06:51.000 Just as this verse talks about the extreme
00:06:52.000 A rebellious woman
00:06:53.000 And how to
00:06:54.000 The precautions are in place
00:06:55.000 To de-escalate the situation
00:06:57.000 About a rebellious woman
00:06:58.000 When Allah tells you that you should be to take 0.99
00:07:00.000 A protector and maintainer
00:07:02.000 A caretaker of a woman 1.00
00:07:03.000 You are the other evil 0.72
00:07:04.000 You are the other evil 1.00
00:07:05.000 You are the other evil 0.99
00:07:06.000 Yeah?
00:07:07.000 You didn't protect her
00:07:08.000 And you can't even maintain her
00:07:10.000 What kind of a man are you?
00:07:11.000 What kind of a man are you?
00:07:12.000 What kind of a man are you? 0.98
00:07:13.000 I don't give a damn 0.98
00:07:14.000 This whole 0.80
00:07:15.000 Feministic 0.54
00:07:16.000 Perception of you know
00:07:17.000 We go on days
00:07:18.000 Everyone pays 50-50 0.95
00:07:19.000 Everything is equal
00:07:21.000 You know everything
00:07:22.000 This is nonsense
00:07:23.000 Yeah?
00:07:24.000 Men are there to protect
00:07:25.000 And maintain
00:07:26.000 The woman 0.98
00:07:27.000 Yeah?
00:07:28.000 Look after them inshallah
00:07:29.000 This doesn't make them unable
00:07:30.000 To look after their self
00:07:31.000 But that is the right Allah 1.00
00:07:32.000 Subhanahu wa ta'ala has given it 0.99
00:07:33.000 So much so
00:07:34.000 That today
00:07:35.000 The feminist movement
00:07:36.000 Has made it seem as if that's a bad thing
00:07:37.000 You know
00:07:38.000 No no no
00:07:39.000 It's a bad thing
00:07:40.000 You know
00:07:41.000 Yeah?
00:07:42.000 Okay until you reach the ages of 30
00:07:43.000 A career woman 40
00:07:44.000 You can't have kids
00:07:45.000 You're left alone
00:07:46.000 And this was having a pandemic
00:07:47.000 Of career women
00:07:48.000 Realising that they are lonely
00:07:49.000 You know?
00:07:50.000 Subhanallah
00:07:51.000 Subhanallah
00:07:52.000 Subhanallah
00:07:53.000 Subhanallah
00:07:54.000 To deal with this person
00:07:55.000 What an evil person
00:07:56.000 That you cannot
00:07:57.000 As a man
00:07:58.000 Take care of the woman 0.99
00:07:59.000 That you married
00:08:00.000 Let alone give her dowry
00:08:01.000 You ask her for dowry
00:08:02.000 Yeah?
00:08:03.000 You bully her
00:08:04.000 You bully her so much
00:08:05.000 To push her to that verge
00:08:07.000 And then on top of that
00:08:08.000 You tell her to
00:08:09.000 Send you a video 0.99
00:08:10.000 Before killing herself 0.97
00:08:11.000 Subhanallah
00:08:12.000 How are you going to answer Allah 0.99
00:08:13.000 On the day of judgement?
00:08:14.000 Brothers and sisters
00:08:15.000 Wallahi
00:08:16.000 This is what we're saying
00:08:17.000 If you abandon the Quran 0.72
00:08:18.000 And the Sunnah
00:08:19.000 You are bound to suffer
00:08:20.000 And just as we
00:08:21.000 Tell the brothers to fix up
00:08:22.000 And act like men 0.66
00:08:23.000 If we was to do the same
00:08:24.000 About our sisters
00:08:25.000 When it comes to it
00:08:26.000 In the very verse it says
00:08:27.000 And women
00:08:28.000 Those righteous women
00:08:29.000 Who are obedient to their husband
00:08:30.000 Obedient?
00:08:31.000 Oh my gosh 1.00
00:08:32.000 Rip her head off 0.99
00:08:33.000 Oh how dare you say that? 0.99
00:08:34.000 Wallahi brothers and sisters
00:08:35.000 My dear sisters specifically
00:08:36.000 We're calling out a brother
00:08:37.000 For his wrongdoings
00:08:38.000 While he's not following
00:08:39.000 What Allah has ordered
00:08:40.000 Yeah?
00:08:41.000 Okay?
00:08:42.000 And we are asking
00:08:43.000 The women are obedient to who? 1.00
00:08:44.000 A good man
00:08:45.000 Nobody's asking you
00:08:46.000 To be obedient
00:08:47.000 To a man
00:08:48.000 Who is violating your rights
00:08:49.000 Like this person
00:08:50.000 You think Allah is talking about 1.00
00:08:51.000 Obedience to this kind of men?
00:08:52.000 Huh?
00:08:53.000 Let's be real here
00:08:54.000 InshaAllah
00:08:55.000 We ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala 0.99
00:08:56.000 To forgive her
00:08:57.000 And we ask this guy
00:08:58.000 To repent
00:08:59.000 And wallahi
00:09:00.000 That's the haqa 1.00
00:09:01.000 Of this person
00:09:02.000 On the day of judgement
00:09:03.000 It's going to be peak
00:09:04.000 It's going to be peak problem
00:09:05.000 Sisters inshaAllah
00:09:06.000 Share this with your friends and family
00:09:07.000 Wallahi it's very disturbing
00:09:08.000 And so sad
00:09:09.000 To see
00:09:10.000 That this poor sister 1.00
00:09:11.000 SubhanAllah
00:09:12.000 Was pushed to this level
00:09:14.000 And what else can we say?
00:09:15.000 Till next time
00:09:16.000 Assalamualaikum
00:09:17.000 Wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh