Ali Dawah - March 14, 2021


COWARD HUSBAND LED HER TO SUICIDE - REACTION VIDEO


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

202.90323

Word Count

1,887

Sentence Count

2

Misogynist Sentences

11

Hate Speech Sentences

36


Summary

In this video, we find out why this tragedy happened and what caused it. Aisha's father said that he had initially paid 1.5 lakh in dowry, but her in-laws demanded more. As per reports, police obtained Aisha s causal records which shows she had a 17 minute long conversation with her husband before taking the extreme step.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Asalaamu Alaikum, my name is Aisha, Arif Khan and whatever I want to do
00:00:08.000 You can see from the video the sorrow in her eyes
00:00:10.000 What an evil person that you cannot, as a man, take care of the woman that you married
00:00:15.000 Let alone give a dowry, you ask them for dowry, yeah?
00:00:18.000 You bully her, you bully her so much to push her to that verge
00:00:23.000 And then on top of that you tell her to send you a video?
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00:00:40.000 Asalaamu Alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, brothers and sisters and dear friends
00:00:42.000 Hope you guys are well inshaAllah, welcome to this video
00:00:44.000 In this video, brothers and sisters, a sister called Sister Aisha
00:00:47.000 And we're gonna find out why this tragedy happened, what caused it
00:00:51.000 So here's the video, let's get straight into it inshaAllah
00:00:54.000 Asalaamu Alaikum, my name is Aisha, Arif Khan
00:00:59.000 And I'm going to do whatever I want to do, I want to do it from my own
00:01:05.000 I don't have any pain or pain, but what do I say?
00:01:12.000 I understand that God's life is so much and I feel so happy
00:01:17.000 And dear dad, when will we fight ourselves?
00:01:21.000 How do you control yourself?
00:01:23.000 How do you control yourself?
00:01:24.000 I don't want to do it
00:01:25.000 So far now, you can see from the video the sorrow in her eyes
00:01:29.000 This last bit specifically here
00:01:31.000 You can see the sorrow in her eyes, even though she's trying to hide it
00:01:35.000 Let's carry on
00:01:37.000 Her father said that she was harassed by her in-laws for a diary
00:01:49.000 And was eventually sent to her parents' house by her husband
00:01:52.000 As per reports, police obtained Aisha's causal records which shows she had a 17 minute long conversation with Arif before taking the extreme step
00:02:04.000 Arif Khan reportedly told his wife, if you want to die, then die, but send me a video first
00:02:11.000 Aisha's father said that he had initially paid 1.5 lakh in dowry, but her in-laws demanded more
00:02:20.000 Brothers and sisters, I'm going to go to a verse in the Quran
00:02:25.000 And subhanAllah, anytime, whenever we do not obey by the commandments of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
00:02:31.000 These tragedies happen, all the time, we do not learn lessons
00:02:34.000 What Allah has prescribed, we don't take it
00:02:36.000 And when we don't take it, subhanAllah we suffer
00:02:38.000 It's like a medication that you have to take
00:02:40.000 It's bitter, it's disgusting, but it's good for you
00:02:43.000 And the more we turn a blind eye to this reality
00:02:47.000 What happens is, we all end up suffering brothers and sisters, subhanAllah
00:02:51.000 In this verse, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says
00:02:53.000 Men are caretakers of women
00:02:55.000 Since Allah has made some of them excel the others
00:02:58.000 And because of the wealth they have spent, so the righteous women are obedient
00:03:01.000 And guard the property and the honour of their husbands in their absence
00:03:04.000 With the protection given by Allah
00:03:06.000 And Allah talks about us for the rebellious women
00:03:08.000 And the precautions to be taken step by step
00:03:11.000 Now here Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is very clear saying
00:03:13.000 That men are the providers, the maintainers, the caretakers of women
00:03:18.000 Now a lot of, sadly, the whole feminist movement has made this out to be
00:03:23.000 As if it's some kind of, you know, women are just, you know, they can't work, etc
00:03:28.000 No, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is saying that men have to take care of their wives
00:03:32.000 Okay, even so much so when it comes to the dowry
00:03:34.000 It's the men that give the dowry, not the women
00:03:37.000 In this very instance they say, traditions from the Hindu Indians, subhanAllah
00:03:40.000 That the woman has to give the dowry
00:03:42.000 I've never heard something like this in my life
00:03:44.000 Bizarre thing, subhanAllah, it's ajeeb, yeah
00:03:47.000 Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has stated clearly that the men are the ones that give the mahr
00:03:51.000 Not vice versa
00:03:53.000 Because of the status of a woman, subhanAllah
00:03:56.000 And not only that, when it comes to caretaking and maintaining
00:03:59.000 This is the same principle that applies
00:04:01.000 Me personally, when it comes to, for example, for my wife, etc
00:04:05.000 There might be times where I might have a difficulty with payment
00:04:08.000 For example, let's say when it comes to rent, yeah
00:04:11.000 And my wife, may Allah bless her, has said, you know what, I can contribute
00:04:14.000 And I said, look, thank you, may Allah bless you
00:04:16.000 But no, that's my duty
00:04:17.000 This doesn't mean that in a very, like if I was really, really struggling
00:04:21.000 And there's not a problem, yeah
00:04:22.000 She doesn't have to
00:04:24.000 The question here is this
00:04:25.000 The point is that she does not have to
00:04:27.000 When it comes to shopping, the rent, and things that she needs
00:04:30.000 To a certain extent, there's a limit
00:04:32.000 Okay, this is what I can give a week, etc, yeah
00:04:34.000 Okay, and the thing is, if that's what I can provide
00:04:36.000 I can say, okay, this is what I can provide
00:04:38.000 Anything that extra she wants that I cannot, she has a right to go and work
00:04:41.000 But the point is, even the mahr that's given to her, that's hers
00:04:44.000 You cannot touch it
00:04:45.000 This is the status that Islam has given to women
00:04:47.000 If you read this book, yeah
00:04:49.000 It's by James Tooley
00:04:51.000 The Miseducation of Women
00:04:53.000 Let's read one specific bit, brothers and sisters, yeah
00:04:55.000 It says
00:04:56.000 Women magazines are full of stories about women's current unhappiness and surveys
00:04:59.000 To explore why Top Sunday, the UK's best-selling health and beauty magazine
00:05:03.000 For instance, revealed in its summer 2001 survey that
00:05:06.000 Only 9% of working women and 4% of women with their preschool children
00:05:10.000 Say they choose to work full-time
00:05:11.000 In fact, if given the chance, 78% of all working women would quit their jobs tomorrow if they could
00:05:17.000 And a similar percentage think that their work is damaging their health
00:05:20.000 Causing ailments such as headaches, constant exhaustion, backache, anxiety, forgetfulness, insomnia, irritable bowel syndrome and migraine
00:05:27.000 Family Life says the report is being driven to the breaking point by women's current lifestyles
00:05:33.000 So, this man, this evil man, you have killed her
00:05:38.000 You have killed her, you have caused her death
00:05:42.000 Why?
00:05:43.000 Look, if somebody's coming and saying they're suicidal
00:05:46.000 Or for example, they're saying they're going to kill their self
00:05:48.000 What kind of a vile person do you have to be to say to that person, you know what?
00:05:51.000 If you're going to do it, record yourself
00:05:53.000 You're an evil person
00:05:54.000 And not only that, you're a coward
00:05:56.000 Let me tell you why you're a coward
00:05:57.000 Because Allah says you are the protector and the maintainer
00:05:59.000 You did not protect her
00:06:00.000 You pushed her to the point, yeah?
00:06:03.000 You pushed her, you played a part
00:06:04.000 I'm not going to say it's totally your fault
00:06:06.000 You played a massive part, okay?
00:06:08.000 This sister, may Allah forgive her
00:06:10.000 Yes, some scholars say that people commit suicide
00:06:12.000 You know, you're not supposed to ask for forgiveness
00:06:14.000 There's a different opinion on the matter
00:06:15.000 But may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala have mercy on her, forgive her, okay?
00:06:17.000 We know the asr that hadith said
00:06:19.000 The one who kills their self commits suicide
00:06:21.000 Will kill their self that way till the day of judgement, yeah?
00:06:24.000 The point is this
00:06:26.000 But Allah says he will forgive any sins except shirk
00:06:28.000 So, it's at his discretion we ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to have mercy on her
00:06:32.000 But you are supposed to be the protector
00:06:34.000 How did you protect her?
00:06:35.000 You greedy person
00:06:37.000 You greedy
00:06:38.000 You're greedy
00:06:39.000 You're asking for a diary
00:06:40.000 Who the hell are you?
00:06:41.000 Who the hell are you?
00:06:42.000 Why should a diary be given to you?
00:06:43.000 Allah is telling you
00:06:44.000 You have to give a diary to her
00:06:45.000 Number one
00:06:47.000 Protect her
00:06:48.000 You didn't protect her
00:06:49.000 You failed
00:06:50.000 You failed
00:06:51.000 Just as this verse talks about the extreme
00:06:52.000 A rebellious woman
00:06:53.000 And how to
00:06:54.000 The precautions are in place
00:06:55.000 To de-escalate the situation
00:06:57.000 About a rebellious woman
00:06:58.000 When Allah tells you that you should be to take
00:07:00.000 A protector and maintainer
00:07:02.000 A caretaker of a woman
00:07:03.000 You are the other evil
00:07:04.000 You are the other evil
00:07:05.000 You are the other evil
00:07:06.000 Yeah?
00:07:07.000 You didn't protect her
00:07:08.000 And you can't even maintain her
00:07:10.000 What kind of a man are you?
00:07:11.000 What kind of a man are you?
00:07:12.000 What kind of a man are you?
00:07:13.000 I don't give a damn
00:07:14.000 This whole
00:07:15.000 Feministic
00:07:16.000 Perception of you know
00:07:17.000 We go on days
00:07:18.000 Everyone pays 50-50
00:07:19.000 Everything is equal
00:07:21.000 You know everything
00:07:22.000 This is nonsense
00:07:23.000 Yeah?
00:07:24.000 Men are there to protect
00:07:25.000 And maintain
00:07:26.000 The woman
00:07:27.000 Yeah?
00:07:28.000 Look after them inshallah
00:07:29.000 This doesn't make them unable
00:07:30.000 To look after their self
00:07:31.000 But that is the right Allah
00:07:32.000 Subhanahu wa ta'ala has given it
00:07:33.000 So much so
00:07:34.000 That today
00:07:35.000 The feminist movement
00:07:36.000 Has made it seem as if that's a bad thing
00:07:37.000 You know
00:07:38.000 No no no
00:07:39.000 It's a bad thing
00:07:40.000 You know
00:07:41.000 Yeah?
00:07:42.000 Okay until you reach the ages of 30
00:07:43.000 A career woman 40
00:07:44.000 You can't have kids
00:07:45.000 You're left alone
00:07:46.000 And this was having a pandemic
00:07:47.000 Of career women
00:07:48.000 Realising that they are lonely
00:07:49.000 You know?
00:07:50.000 Subhanallah
00:07:51.000 Subhanallah
00:07:52.000 Subhanallah
00:07:53.000 Subhanallah
00:07:54.000 To deal with this person
00:07:55.000 What an evil person
00:07:56.000 That you cannot
00:07:57.000 As a man
00:07:58.000 Take care of the woman
00:07:59.000 That you married
00:08:00.000 Let alone give her dowry
00:08:01.000 You ask her for dowry
00:08:02.000 Yeah?
00:08:03.000 You bully her
00:08:04.000 You bully her so much
00:08:05.000 To push her to that verge
00:08:07.000 And then on top of that
00:08:08.000 You tell her to
00:08:09.000 Send you a video
00:08:10.000 Before killing herself
00:08:11.000 Subhanallah
00:08:12.000 How are you going to answer Allah
00:08:13.000 On the day of judgement?
00:08:14.000 Brothers and sisters
00:08:15.000 Wallahi
00:08:16.000 This is what we're saying
00:08:17.000 If you abandon the Quran
00:08:18.000 And the Sunnah
00:08:19.000 You are bound to suffer
00:08:20.000 And just as we
00:08:21.000 Tell the brothers to fix up
00:08:22.000 And act like men
00:08:23.000 If we was to do the same
00:08:24.000 About our sisters
00:08:25.000 When it comes to it
00:08:26.000 In the very verse it says
00:08:27.000 And women
00:08:28.000 Those righteous women
00:08:29.000 Who are obedient to their husband
00:08:30.000 Obedient?
00:08:31.000 Oh my gosh
00:08:32.000 Rip her head off
00:08:33.000 Oh how dare you say that?
00:08:34.000 Wallahi brothers and sisters
00:08:35.000 My dear sisters specifically
00:08:36.000 We're calling out a brother
00:08:37.000 For his wrongdoings
00:08:38.000 While he's not following
00:08:39.000 What Allah has ordered
00:08:40.000 Yeah?
00:08:41.000 Okay?
00:08:42.000 And we are asking
00:08:43.000 The women are obedient to who?
00:08:44.000 A good man
00:08:45.000 Nobody's asking you
00:08:46.000 To be obedient
00:08:47.000 To a man
00:08:48.000 Who is violating your rights
00:08:49.000 Like this person
00:08:50.000 You think Allah is talking about
00:08:51.000 Obedience to this kind of men?
00:08:52.000 Huh?
00:08:53.000 Let's be real here
00:08:54.000 InshaAllah
00:08:55.000 We ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
00:08:56.000 To forgive her
00:08:57.000 And we ask this guy
00:08:58.000 To repent
00:08:59.000 And wallahi
00:09:00.000 That's the haqa
00:09:01.000 Of this person
00:09:02.000 On the day of judgement
00:09:03.000 It's going to be peak
00:09:04.000 It's going to be peak problem
00:09:05.000 Sisters inshaAllah
00:09:06.000 Share this with your friends and family
00:09:07.000 Wallahi it's very disturbing
00:09:08.000 And so sad
00:09:09.000 To see
00:09:10.000 That this poor sister
00:09:11.000 SubhanAllah
00:09:12.000 Was pushed to this level
00:09:14.000 And what else can we say?
00:09:15.000 Till next time
00:09:16.000 Assalamualaikum
00:09:17.000 Wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh