Ali Dawah - December 19, 2021


GIRLS BOYFRIEND GETS CALLED OUT!! - MARRY HER


Episode Stats


Length

7 minutes

Words per minute

222.07062

Word count

1,736

Sentence count

131

Harmful content

Misogyny

23

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Toxicity

17

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Hate speech

12

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Summary

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In this episode, we talk about the sexualisation of women in the modern world and how it affects our perception of women and how we treat them. We also talk about what we should do if we find ourselves in situations where we are sexually objectified by society.

Transcript

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00:00:00.160 Islamnet is raising funds to establish a masjid and community centre in Norway.
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00:00:30.000 For just a walk.
00:00:32.000 Okay, that's nice. Can I ask you guys a question?
00:00:34.400 Sure.
00:00:34.880 And I want you guys to be honest with me, as females walking down the road, do you get sexually harassed?
00:00:40.160 Like catcalling and stuff like that?
00:00:42.080 I don't let it.
00:00:43.200 You don't get it?
00:00:44.000 No, I don't let it.
00:00:45.120 Oh, you don't let it?
00:00:45.760 I wouldn't let anyone. Even if someone tried, they would just get a bang in their face.
00:00:48.640 That's good, that's how you should be. Make sure you go for the chin uppercut, yeah?
00:00:51.680 The thing is, sister, though, what I was trying to say is, do you get catcalling?
00:00:54.320 When I mean sexual harassment, I don't mean being touched.
00:00:56.640 Yeah, yeah, yeah, a lot.
00:00:57.680 Okay. Now, what do you think this stems from?
00:01:00.720 Like, I know some people think that, like, some people have this belief that I think that
00:01:04.960 we Muslims think that it's the way the woman dresses, yeah? 0.70
00:01:08.560 I don't necessarily believe that totally, yeah?
00:01:11.040 Because there are girls who wear the hijab that gets harassed as well. 1.00
00:01:14.240 So it's not necessarily that.
00:01:15.600 I believe it starts from top, meaning women are sexually objectified. 1.00
00:01:20.480 And there is no respect.
00:01:21.600 And like, we're talking about the pornography industry as well, yeah?
00:01:24.560 And even when we're looking at, for example, banners, posters,
00:01:26.880 women are always in a sexualised way. 1.00
00:01:28.240 I never see a woman dressed up, let's say, normally, and she's doing an ad about mathematics. 1.00
00:01:33.920 You know, sometimes you go on safari and you want to write, like, a school teacher.
00:01:38.080 Yeah.
00:01:38.480 There will always be, like, a weird sexual outfit, you know.
00:01:42.560 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:01:43.040 A pencil on the ear, a little glass on.
00:01:44.160 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:01:44.960 A little glass on.
00:01:45.360 Why?
00:01:46.400 Because men think that women are objects, and they can use them. 0.98
00:01:50.960 Look, there's a beautiful woman walking here with dresses to have fun in a restaurant, 1.00
00:01:54.880 and there will be a man coming on her. 0.95
00:01:56.800 Exactly.
00:01:57.200 Like, give me your number. 0.99
00:01:58.640 If she doesn't give her number, oh, you're ugly anyway. 1.00
00:02:00.880 Yeah. 0.99
00:02:01.280 That's so disrespectful to her. 1.00
00:02:02.560 Not only disrespectful, sister, that is absolutely disgusting, because we know how women are insecure. 1.00
00:02:07.360 The society's made them insecure. 0.95
00:02:08.960 For you to go and call a woman ugly, you actually really, because she's not going to just ignore that. 0.99
00:02:13.680 She's going to, she's going to actually think there's something wrong with me.
00:02:17.600 And this is where it's really sad, because as females, what happens, I feel like sometimes I feel for you guys.
00:02:21.920 I'm a guy, yeah?
00:02:22.800 I feel for you guys, because you are coming across men who you don't know what they want from you.
00:02:27.040 You cannot trust them.
00:02:28.320 I came to Islam nine years ago, yeah?
00:02:30.160 I was one of those men that I'm talking about, yeah?
00:02:32.320 And I hated myself and how I was before, because society made me like that.
00:02:38.000 And I wanted to rectify my ways and change my ways.
00:02:40.560 You know why? 0.66
00:02:40.960 Because I looked at women as sexual objects. 1.00
00:02:42.880 But when I came to Islam, Islam humanized a woman to me. 0.84
00:02:46.320 Islam told me a woman has more to offer than a beauty.
00:02:49.280 So as Muslims, I'm told, even if a girl is wearing a mini skirt, I have to lower my gaze.
00:02:54.720 God tells me in the Quran, tell the believing men to lower their gaze. 1.00
00:02:58.640 Allah doesn't say, lower your gaze if she's wearing a hijab. 0.99
00:03:01.920 Allah says, no, if there's a woman, lower your gaze, don't look. 1.00
00:03:04.800 Why?
00:03:05.440 Because we believe that, as I should teach my kids, boys, that, you know we have the concept.
00:03:11.440 We used to have it back in the days.
00:03:13.120 Oh, she's acting like a, excuse my language, she's acting like a ho, treated like a ho. 1.00
00:03:17.760 That's nonsense. 0.74
00:03:18.800 If a woman is not even respecting herself, you should have respect for her. 0.99
00:03:22.800 I was coming back from like a restaurant, I was quite drunk, you know, looking normal.
00:03:26.800 I was wearing just a normal jacket, normal jeans.
00:03:29.440 Yeah.
00:03:30.000 And these men started shopping money in my face.
00:03:32.160 Seriously? 0.98
00:03:32.560 Like, it's for sex, and I got beaten up because of them, but yeah. 0.99
00:03:36.720 They beat you up? 0.99
00:03:37.600 Yeah, so just think how men are inside their heads. 1.00
00:03:40.640 They're so insecure, their egos are so high.
00:03:43.680 Yes. 0.99
00:03:44.080 It's disgusting. 0.90
00:03:45.040 That's why I do not know a woman, because my boyfriend, he's a Muslim, he's a great guy. 0.83
00:03:49.920 I trust him with everything.
00:03:52.000 Well, you tell him, say a message from Ali Dawa, he has to marry you. 0.98
00:03:56.240 Oh, yeah?
00:03:56.880 No, no, if he's watching this, let me tell you why, yeah?
00:03:58.960 Sister, to us, a woman's security, if I'm interested in a woman, I have to speak, let's say I'm getting to know her. 1.00
00:04:05.520 Okay.
00:04:05.840 I have to speak to her dad, because the reason I need to speak to her dad is because if I have ill intentions, I don't want to speak to the dad, yeah?
00:04:13.360 Of course.
00:04:13.920 He spoke to my dad already.
00:04:15.040 He has to speak to her, tell him I'm on his case now, yeah?
00:04:18.960 He has to speak to your dad, number one, number two, sister, yeah?
00:04:21.920 He needs to make sure you guys get married, yeah? 0.99
00:04:24.480 Number two, you have a right, are you a Muslim? 0.95
00:04:26.480 No, I'm not.
00:04:27.280 Okay, we can marry from the people of the book, the Christians, yeah? 0.96
00:04:30.000 Okay, if I'm not mistaken, you do have a right to dowry, yeah?
00:04:33.840 So, something that you can ask for, money, code, whatever it may be, yeah?
00:04:37.760 Ask for whatever you like, okay?
00:04:39.120 Don't be shy, okay?
00:04:40.480 Okay, the reason we have this in place, sister, is because, so, a man cannot use and abuse a woman.
00:04:46.320 Because if I'm after the wrong things, I don't want to speak to your dad, I don't want to speak to your brother, they're the last people I want to speak to.
00:04:51.520 Number two, like, for example, my wife asked for a mahr, yeah?
00:04:55.680 I can't give you the amount, yeah?
00:04:56.800 It's between me and her.
00:04:58.160 She asked for an amount, yeah?
00:04:59.520 That's her right.
00:05:00.400 I had to give that.
00:05:01.120 Now, if I have bad intentions, I wouldn't want to pay that much money.
00:05:04.560 Of course not, it's your money.
00:05:05.760 But it's, yeah, but it's her right, and the stamp tells it's her right.
00:05:09.360 Even when you get married, he has to provide for you.
00:05:11.840 Yeah.
00:05:12.400 He has to pay for the rent.
00:05:13.520 You can't say to you, go and work, because you can't pay the rent.
00:05:17.600 It's your choice.
00:05:18.080 Yeah, sorry.
00:05:18.480 I love working, though.
00:05:19.280 Exactly.
00:05:19.680 But it's my choice.
00:05:20.480 If you want to work, that's your money.
00:05:22.640 Of course.
00:05:23.040 He can't touch your money.
00:05:24.240 Of course.
00:05:24.720 Exactly.
00:05:25.200 But in a nutshell, I believe, do you not think it's the society that makes men like this?
00:05:30.640 Why are they like that?
00:05:31.600 They don't listen, they're not religious folks, but throughout time as well, like,
00:05:36.240 ever since we, like, from a young age, everyone was just like, oh, if a girl does this, this
00:05:40.160 or that, she's a hoe, she does this, that. 1.00
00:05:42.240 Yeah, but when a guy does it, it's okay. 0.99
00:05:44.080 If a guy, if a guy has sex with 15 girls, oh, it's fine.
00:05:48.080 No problem.
00:05:48.640 That's the thing, that's what they say, oh, body count, they call it back up now.
00:05:52.560 Yeah, body count.
00:05:52.880 Yeah.
00:05:53.120 When it's a guy, the more, the bigger, yeah.
00:05:55.120 Oh, yeah, the more it is, the more it is, well done.
00:05:57.440 Now, the thing is, they're both wrong.
00:05:59.680 But why is it for a guy, it's a...
00:06:02.320 Because he's winning, you know, he's...
00:06:03.920 They're trying to say he's a man, he looks masculine, better, he looks like he can have
00:06:09.440 any girl.
00:06:10.160 Exactly, and most of them lie anyways, I don't try to...
00:06:12.640 Yeah, of course, yeah, my body count's 200, are you sure?
00:06:15.760 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:06:16.800 And is it a right thing, because these girls that you're sleeping with, you're actually 0.84
00:06:20.720 destroying them, because they may...
00:06:22.320 Do you think it's called a beat and delete?
00:06:23.520 No, it's not.
00:06:24.240 It's not, it's wrong, and you're psychologically disturbing these women. 0.97
00:06:27.440 That's why there's no women walking these streets that are broken, because they don't 1.00
00:06:31.120 know how to trust, they don't know how to love, because they've been broken and had
00:06:34.400 false promises so many times.
00:06:35.920 That's why in Islam, it's so fundamental that when you go about things the right way, you
00:06:40.960 say, look, speak to my dad, no, bye-bye.
00:06:42.800 Exactly.
00:06:43.800 Simple as, because when you do that, trust me, if he really loves you, he doesn't mind speaking
00:06:48.320 to your dad, even if you said, I want 5,000 pounds as a dowry, he will, you know why?
00:06:53.200 Because I want to spend the rest of my life with him, why wouldn't I?
00:06:55.680 And then not only that, check this out, I don't want to hold you guys longer, yeah?
00:06:59.440 Check this out.
00:07:00.160 In Islam, we have something called Wulima.
00:07:02.160 So that means when you get married, you have to announce it.
00:07:06.160 Not secret, not, oh, this is my girl, I'll keep her on the side.
00:07:09.120 No, you have to announce it to the community, so people know.
00:07:13.120 So it's to avoid these kinds of things.
00:07:14.960 But anything you would like to say?
00:07:16.640 Any last words?
00:07:17.760 I just hope that men change over time.
00:07:20.080 Because the generations, they just get worse and worse and worse.
00:07:23.840 I am hoping to God to change.
00:07:25.760 There are more respectful men out there.
00:07:27.520 Yeah, because there are some, I have the great ones.
00:07:30.800 Yeah, yeah.
00:07:31.360 And I just hope every single girl finds the right one as well.
00:07:34.720 IslamNet is raising funds to establish a masjid and community centre in Norway.
00:07:38.560 Every person who prays there, every kid that learns about Islam, every youngster that memorises the Quran,
00:07:43.760 all of this and so much more can be on your scale of good deeds.
00:07:47.280 Click the link and donate what you can.