Ali Dawah - December 19, 2021GIRLS BOYFRIEND GETS CALLED OUT!! - MARRY HER
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about the sexualisation of women in the modern world and how it affects our perception of women and how we treat them. We also talk about what we should do if we find ourselves in situations where we are sexually objectified by society.
Transcript
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Okay, that's nice. Can I ask you guys a question?
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And I want you guys to be honest with me, as females walking down the road, do you get sexually harassed?
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I wouldn't let anyone. Even if someone tried, they would just get a bang in their face.
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That's good, that's how you should be. Make sure you go for the chin uppercut, yeah?
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The thing is, sister, though, what I was trying to say is, do you get catcalling?
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When I mean sexual harassment, I don't mean being touched.
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Like, I know some people think that, like, some people have this belief that I think that
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we Muslims think that it's the way the woman dresses, yeah?
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I don't necessarily believe that totally, yeah?
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Because there are girls who wear the hijab that gets harassed as well.
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I believe it starts from top, meaning women are sexually objectified.
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And like, we're talking about the pornography industry as well, yeah?
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And even when we're looking at, for example, banners, posters,
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I never see a woman dressed up, let's say, normally, and she's doing an ad about mathematics.
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You know, sometimes you go on safari and you want to write, like, a school teacher.
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There will always be, like, a weird sexual outfit, you know.
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Because men think that women are objects, and they can use them.
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Look, there's a beautiful woman walking here with dresses to have fun in a restaurant,
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If she doesn't give her number, oh, you're ugly anyway.
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Not only disrespectful, sister, that is absolutely disgusting, because we know how women are insecure.
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For you to go and call a woman ugly, you actually really, because she's not going to just ignore that.
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She's going to, she's going to actually think there's something wrong with me.
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And this is where it's really sad, because as females, what happens, I feel like sometimes I feel for you guys.
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I feel for you guys, because you are coming across men who you don't know what they want from you.
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I was one of those men that I'm talking about, yeah?
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And I hated myself and how I was before, because society made me like that.
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And I wanted to rectify my ways and change my ways.
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But when I came to Islam, Islam humanized a woman to me.
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Islam told me a woman has more to offer than a beauty.
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So as Muslims, I'm told, even if a girl is wearing a mini skirt, I have to lower my gaze.
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God tells me in the Quran, tell the believing men to lower their gaze.
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Allah doesn't say, lower your gaze if she's wearing a hijab.
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Allah says, no, if there's a woman, lower your gaze, don't look.
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Because we believe that, as I should teach my kids, boys, that, you know we have the concept.
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Oh, she's acting like a, excuse my language, she's acting like a ho, treated like a ho.
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If a woman is not even respecting herself, you should have respect for her.
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I was coming back from like a restaurant, I was quite drunk, you know, looking normal.
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I was wearing just a normal jacket, normal jeans.
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And these men started shopping money in my face.
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Like, it's for sex, and I got beaten up because of them, but yeah.
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Yeah, so just think how men are inside their heads.
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That's why I do not know a woman, because my boyfriend, he's a Muslim, he's a great guy.
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Well, you tell him, say a message from Ali Dawa, he has to marry you.
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No, no, if he's watching this, let me tell you why, yeah?
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Sister, to us, a woman's security, if I'm interested in a woman, I have to speak, let's say I'm getting to know her.
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I have to speak to her dad, because the reason I need to speak to her dad is because if I have ill intentions, I don't want to speak to the dad, yeah?
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He has to speak to her, tell him I'm on his case now, yeah?
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He has to speak to your dad, number one, number two, sister, yeah?
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He needs to make sure you guys get married, yeah?
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Number two, you have a right, are you a Muslim?
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Okay, we can marry from the people of the book, the Christians, yeah?
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Okay, if I'm not mistaken, you do have a right to dowry, yeah?
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So, something that you can ask for, money, code, whatever it may be, yeah?
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Okay, the reason we have this in place, sister, is because, so, a man cannot use and abuse a woman.
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Because if I'm after the wrong things, I don't want to speak to your dad, I don't want to speak to your brother, they're the last people I want to speak to.
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Number two, like, for example, my wife asked for a mahr, yeah?
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Now, if I have bad intentions, I wouldn't want to pay that much money.
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But it's, yeah, but it's her right, and the stamp tells it's her right.
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Even when you get married, he has to provide for you.
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You can't say to you, go and work, because you can't pay the rent.
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But in a nutshell, I believe, do you not think it's the society that makes men like this?
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They don't listen, they're not religious folks, but throughout time as well, like,
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ever since we, like, from a young age, everyone was just like, oh, if a girl does this, this
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If a guy, if a guy has sex with 15 girls, oh, it's fine.
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That's the thing, that's what they say, oh, body count, they call it back up now.
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Oh, yeah, the more it is, the more it is, well done.
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They're trying to say he's a man, he looks masculine, better, he looks like he can have
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Exactly, and most of them lie anyways, I don't try to...
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Yeah, of course, yeah, my body count's 200, are you sure?
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And is it a right thing, because these girls that you're sleeping with, you're actually
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It's not, it's wrong, and you're psychologically disturbing these women.
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That's why there's no women walking these streets that are broken, because they don't
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know how to trust, they don't know how to love, because they've been broken and had
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That's why in Islam, it's so fundamental that when you go about things the right way, you
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Simple as, because when you do that, trust me, if he really loves you, he doesn't mind speaking
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to your dad, even if you said, I want 5,000 pounds as a dowry, he will, you know why?
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Because I want to spend the rest of my life with him, why wouldn't I?
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And then not only that, check this out, I don't want to hold you guys longer, yeah?
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So that means when you get married, you have to announce it.
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Not secret, not, oh, this is my girl, I'll keep her on the side.
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No, you have to announce it to the community, so people know.
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Because the generations, they just get worse and worse and worse.
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Yeah, because there are some, I have the great ones.
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And I just hope every single girl finds the right one as well.
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IslamNet is raising funds to establish a masjid and community centre in Norway.
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Every person who prays there, every kid that learns about Islam, every youngster that memorises the Quran,
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all of this and so much more can be on your scale of good deeds.