Ali Dawah - September 26, 2021LADIES COMPLAIN ON HUSBAND ANSWERED BY ALLAH
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Summary
Jummah Kutbahayyat Al-Qurani is a message from the Holy Qur'an that explains the role of men in the household and the role they play in the maintenance and protection of women. As a woman, do you find a man more attractive when he is not toxic masculinity?
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300 families over 1 000 orphans are going to benefit please help me reach my target now
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yes that's correct not only does it encourage you to read it tells you how many verses you've
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read how many pages you read how long you've been on it and best of all the hasana counter
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download the qurani app now and have a ramadan with allah subhanahu wa ta'ala's book like you've
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never had before as a woman do you find a man more attractive when he's not talking about toxic
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masculinity yeah but as a woman do you not find it a bit more attractive or you know that's where
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a male's role is uh you know in decision making as well yeah but in my family i actually i'm from
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wales and i was one of eight so i actually i do everything i decorate i fix the car i do everything
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and my ex-husband didn't uh he didn't think of me in that sort of in a way of being um somebody who
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can do things because he was the clinician the dentist so i was just somebody who was stupid
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no i don't think you're stupid because i could do because i can do all those things i can fix
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things i was the one that opened up our dental practice i do all the decoration i did all the
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equipment um no you look like a very intelligent woman i don't i don't think anyone should call
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you that i can see it from you that you're very intelligent intelligence rather than yeah you know
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i i say to people do you think the word doctor comes from indoctrination because they don't
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actually think they just regurgitate information like a parrot yeah so would you say those things
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that you were forced to do is it because you chose choose to do yeah i choose i like to help
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people i want to look after people i'm i'm the forever mom i want to help people that's my but
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shouldn't your husband be doing some of those things no he didn't do any of them no no but
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shouldn't he be doing it that's why i said did he ask you to do it no i think because he felt that
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he was um uh higher than me i was lower than him because of his degree so we believe in the sight
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of god almighty you are better in degree in your closeness to god so it's not about what degree you
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have how pretty you are how handsome you are what money you have these mean nothing can i ask you
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something sister yeah yeah uh sister yola yeah okay open the quran in a random place and choose a verse
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because this is the whole book is a message from god almighty we have made our heirs to what is left
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by parents and relatives and to those whom our oaths have bonded give them their share indeed allah
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is ever is ever over all things a witness and i believe that do you know why let's read that when
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i was going through bad times in my life yes i started seeing love hearts everywhere wow and i
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believe that was my mum and dad from heaven sending me their love because i believe their spirit is with
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god now and he is there looking after them and it's because they were such good people that they
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actually went to that level if people are bad they have to come back and relive the bad things
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until they learn that they've got to be good before they can go to the next level as muslims we don't
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believe in reincarnation but this is a very important verse you open so it says and for all we have made
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it highest to what is left by parents and relatives and to those whom your oaths have bound to you to
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give them their share indeed allah has ever all things witnessed men are in charge this is very
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interesting yeah because we were talking about this this is very interesting yeah yeah because we was talking
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about you know the patriarchy etc in the household yeah men are in charge of women by the right of
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what allah has given one over the other and what they spend of maintenance from their wealth so uh so
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here it's talking about men should be the maintainers and protectors of women so what that means is for
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example that we are like full-time bodyguards to our relatives so this can be daughter sister mother but
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that and this is so profound that we are talking about this and look at the verse you open it's talking
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directly about that because me for example like i'm giving myself an example not that i'm a good
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example but i have to provide the rent i have to do the shopping i have to give basic necessities to
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my wife and uh when i married her she asked for dowry do you know what dowry is yes yes so and she
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did give me an installment plan though so basically it was what she asked me she gave me installment plan
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and she said if i can't pay her she'll forgive me but the point is the following we are the
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maintainers and protectors of women and that's her right i can't touch that money so i have to provide for
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her and and and maintainer so if i'm walking down the road and someone pulls a knife out i can't
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tell her darling go and protect me i have to do that yeah but today women feel as if no i can go
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and and there's nothing wrong with earning by the way you know you're you're a professional you're a
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nutritionist yeah yeah but my son no i own a dental practice my nutrition i do as a free i give free
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advice because i have this just i want to help i want to help people yeah i want to make a difference
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yeah i've got some information why shouldn't i use it yes i don't want to make a living from it i want
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to help people yeah not exactly you know and here about for example uh it carries on so righteous
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women are devoutly obedient guarding in their husband's absence what allah would have given them
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but those why so here it talks about for example also when there's a conflict that's about to happen