Ali Dawah - December 31, 2023MESSAGE TO MODESTY STREETS DAUGHTER
Episode Stats
Words per Minute
234.33278
Summary
In this episode, we discuss the problem of ungrateful kids, especially towards their parents, and the root cause of the problem. In this video, we will explore the root of this problem, and explore the rights of a mother and father, as well as the role of a child.
Transcript
00:00:00.000
also i had left my mom's house not because of anything other than the fact that it was a toxic
00:00:03.960
environment and it was not good for my mental health brothers and sisters please donate as we
00:00:10.520
have come together one ummah to get the necessary aid needed to palestine and gaza donate now
00:00:15.960
inshallah wherever you can and allow us to reach that aid with one ummah to our brothers and
00:00:20.120
sisters in palestine one day palestine will be free assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
00:00:24.960
brothers and sisters and dear friends when it comes to issues like this pertaining to individuals
00:00:28.660
their family members etc it's not something that i like to get into it's nothing to do with me
00:00:32.840
it doesn't concern me and i try to stay away from stuff like that but when i see a reoccurring pattern
00:00:37.880
of ungrateful kids ungrateful children especially towards their parents in today's time like the
00:00:42.960
prophet ma'am said a day would come where the woman the mother will be giving birth to her slave master
00:00:49.040
some of the scholars understood this as that she'll be giving birth to a child who'll be telling her
00:00:54.460
what to do you know who'll be bossing her around like a slave so we see this in current times
00:00:58.200
alhamdulillah the prophet peace be upon him spoke the haq today i'm going to share with you guys
00:01:01.200
inshallah what's going on with our sister modesty street i think that's what she's called uh we're
00:01:05.300
going to be talking about inshallah her daughter who's left the house now why am i talking about
00:01:08.560
this i'm talking about this because i want this to be a lesson for everyone for that matter it's
00:01:12.520
not pertaining to these individuals anytime i speak about a specific individual i'm actually
00:01:15.600
talking to a wider audience i'm talking to thousands if not millions of people who are going
00:01:18.720
to go through this this can be something that affects my house yes this can be something that affects
00:01:21.620
your house this is something that affects our children and you watching this who as a young
00:01:25.360
individual this will affect you and you should watch this very very carefully and listen okay
00:01:29.140
so we're going to get straight into it yeah this came out in public i don't know if the
00:01:32.360
her daughter came out publicly or vice versa my wife saw this yeah i don't know nothing about it
00:01:37.700
my wife saw it and said look did you hear about this etc she was a bit disturbed as well she was
00:01:41.220
like you know it's sad it's sad to see these things happen and for it to go public it's even more
00:01:45.080
sad however i'm going to come and touch on a few stuff and i'm going to get straight into
00:01:48.840
what the cause of the problem i believe is generally not specific to this family
00:01:52.500
and that what are the rights of a mother and father specifically a mother in this incident
00:01:57.260
let's first hear the recording of her daughter yeah i'm going to blur her face the reason i'm
00:02:01.540
going to blur her face is number one again just her identity number two because she's just got too
00:02:06.100
much makeup she's 17 years old you're 17 years old and you've got eyelashes you've got so much
00:02:10.260
makeup going on okay okay etc so i i'm just gonna uh blur that inshallah but let's just watch and hear
00:02:15.740
for ourselves i've tried keeping this off of social media for like the past seven months but now it's
00:02:20.420
completely getting out of hand so as you guys may know my mom has publicly addressed me on social
00:02:23.620
media a few times and i just want to start off by saying i don't want to slander my mom in any way
00:02:28.080
matter of fact i don't want any form of scandal because i just hate being problematic and i just
00:02:32.100
wish it never came to this obviously i never wanted to make this video but because so many rumors have
00:02:36.980
surfaced online i just felt as though i needed to say my part online my mom mentioned a sum of
00:02:41.000
£5,940 no i didn't steal it from her i worked to get that money and it was later then taken out of my
00:02:46.320
account by her and her husband over the past couple of weeks i've been attempting to getting
00:02:50.640
contact with her privately um literally just requesting for that doesn't make any sense
00:02:55.340
sorry i'm not i'm not with it right now um i basically contacted her just politely requesting
00:02:59.660
for my money back my mom however responded online for thousands of people to see which i think is
00:03:05.480
completely unnecessary yesterday when i messaged her pretty much asking how my siblings were
00:03:08.760
and whether or not she had even seen my previous messages i was then pretty much sworn out and was told
00:03:13.260
to get lost and that's when i said have a nice life and keep making tawaf for me i think what i
00:03:17.660
said was completely taken out of context and what i meant by that message was me not genuinely
00:03:21.060
understanding how she can go to umrah make tawaf for me but then post it to social media
00:03:25.420
whereas she could have literally just reached out to me to tell me that she made tawaf for me or to
00:03:28.920
like ask me how things are do you know what i mean i didn't in any way mean to come across as
00:03:33.560
though i was disrespecting tawaf i was just shocked because she was mean to me on text but when it came to
00:03:38.540
her going to umrah she posed doing a tawaf with your red love heart do you know what i mean also i had left my
00:03:42.820
mom's house not because of anything other than the fact that it was a toxic environment and it was
00:03:47.100
not good for my health i don't want to get into too much detail but no i didn't leave to be with
00:03:51.460
some guy i left for the sake of my sanity and my well-being anyways guys i'm gonna leave it here i am
00:03:55.860
so tired it's 5 a.m now and obviously wedding season and that if you know you know anyways take care of
00:04:00.740
yourselves guys so now guys i'm gonna get straight into it we were talking about tawaf okay i want to touch
00:04:05.580
up on this okay uh in a way where we really need to understand there is great amounts of disrespect
00:04:09.960
happening towards our parents by immature childish uh entitled spoiled a brat now i'm not referring
00:04:17.500
to her i'm saying in general that's what's happening but talking about tawaf and that your
00:04:22.780
mom did tawaf for you yeah you should thank allah subhanahu wa ta'ala my sister i don't know what your
00:04:26.560
name is that your mother yes your mother has gone to tawaf and doing tawaf for you and it's clearly
00:04:30.780
evidence of the quran and sunnah that you can do this the fact that she's doing that for you number two
00:04:34.300
it reminds me of an instance of abdullah ibn umar he saw once talking about tawaf yeah he saw a man
00:04:39.700
carrying his mother on his shoulders or in his hands he was carrying because she was old and he
00:04:45.340
was doing tawaf and once he finished tawaf he came to abdullah ibn umar and he asked this very simple
00:04:49.740
question did i pay back my mom for what she has done for me do you know what abdullah ibn umar said
00:04:55.200
he said you did not pay her back for the one off she said when she was giving birth to you i'll repeat
00:05:02.060
again you did not pay her back you know that tawaf that you've done seven times carrying her it was
00:05:07.120
really hard yeah you did not pay her back probably for one off she said in pain when she's giving birth
00:05:13.060
to you how could anyone for that matter i'm gonna go with the default position let's suppose your
00:05:17.300
mother is a very very evil person which i doubt she is okay and i just want to make something clear
00:05:21.360
i have no affiliation with the sister i do not know her so i don't want to come across as i'm just
00:05:24.700
defending i'm defending the truth i'm defending whoever it is for that matter for the sake of allah
00:05:28.420
i don't agree with everything the sister does i don't know much about her
00:05:31.320
anyways just cut into the chase you need to understand something my dear sister you're 17
00:05:35.480
years old i have to blur your face because you're caked up you've got eyelashes they are quite big
00:05:39.920
you're saying you're doing this video five in the morning you're doing it five in the morning
00:05:43.620
why have you got so much makeup on five in the morning look at your nails look at your eyelashes
00:05:47.640
now before somebody feminist getting a tantrum and she can do what she likes ripping your hair out
00:05:51.320
you can rip your hair out go to turkey and get hair transplant okay i do not care about anyone on
00:05:55.980
their penis okay 17 years old and the way you're dressed etc blah blah blah this is why it's so so
00:06:00.800
important brothers and sisters very very vital and once again i want to give a disclaimer i'm not
00:06:04.520
seeing no one our sister didn't do a good parenting etc she's made her own side where she talks about
00:06:09.740
putting boundaries in place and in today's age when there's boundaries in place it's as classed as
00:06:14.680
toxicity yes it's this this toxic energy or whatever you want to call it for that matter today
00:06:19.960
kids label labels are used yeah and the word narcissism i've heard the word narcissism from left right
00:06:25.620
center everyone's a narcissist yeah toxic toxic negative energy or toxic energy etc what's toxic
00:06:31.000
energy these days oh when mom comes and tells you don't do this don't hang around with those
00:06:35.240
people they're not good for you don't hang around with them they're not good for you warning you trying
00:06:39.280
to guide you your mother wants the best for you okay and i'm going to go through a few evidences
00:06:43.140
where the quran and sunnah allah told us in the quran that after you worship him you do not even say
00:06:48.520
off to your mom your parents you don't say off to them yeah let me tell you something my dear sister
00:06:53.240
do not ever ever think that you will ever have prosperity in your life if your mom on your father
00:06:59.520
or your father's displeased with you specifically your mother if they are displeased with you
00:07:02.780
wallahi uksum billah i swear upon the rab of the kaaba that your mom did tawafin wallahi you will
00:07:09.820
never see any prosperity and i'm telling you from an experience that i know of people whose lives are ruined
00:07:15.720
till this day because they would insult their mother the prophet ma'am said may his face be
00:07:21.380
rubbed in dust may his face be rubbed in dust may his face be rubbed in dust for the parent for a child
00:07:27.540
whose parent reached old age and it doesn't look after them if we cannot today no matter what your
00:07:32.640
mom has done unless she's put put your life in danger or some kind of which i highly doubt okay
00:07:37.360
she is your mother okay no matter what happens for you to leave home for you to leave home look you live
00:07:42.840
in the uk you can do whatever you like but for you to leave home it's a disrespect to your mother
00:07:46.480
and for your mom who from her side of the story again okay for her to say that she's been saving
00:07:51.300
up for you with her money her wealth that she's been doing it for you and your well-being i would
00:07:55.580
say you're 17 year old you are making the biggest mistake in your life okay you are making the biggest
00:07:59.840
mistake in your life and you will come to that realization and let me tell you my dear young
00:08:02.780
sister your friends around you none of them care about you none of them care about you trust me i know
00:08:08.700
i've been young i've been with friends who i would fight for who have got done all kinds of madness
00:08:13.200
for and when the day came one day i got jumped none of my friends were there your friends will not be
00:08:17.940
there for you the ones who truly love you is your mother your father your siblings okay amongst all
00:08:22.640
of them it's allah subhanahu wa ta'ala allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and the prophet muhammad peace be upon him
00:08:26.200
put them first i want to recommend the book to you called beauty sick the reason i'm saying this is
00:08:29.580
because the fact that i see your nails i see your eyelashes i see the way your makeup and it's five in the
00:08:33.920
morning it's the sickness of beauty okay my dear sister you're a muslim woman okay i honor you like
00:08:39.320
my younger sister like my daughter okay i'm telling you something listen to your mom return back to your
00:08:44.720
house this is just a request it's not a legal thing no proceedings in place apologize i would say go and
00:08:49.600
kiss your mother's feet wallahi let me tell you something before islam i used to be very harsh to
00:08:53.940
my mom i used to be very rude to my mom i never listened to my mom wallahi when i came to islam
00:08:58.240
wallahi when i came to islam and my mother knows wallahi i came to my realization society made me
00:09:03.840
something i wasn't i didn't respect my mom my mom had endless nights worrying where i am am i dead
00:09:08.020
am i alive so much worries wallahi i regret those till this day and i do everything in my power to
00:09:13.400
serve my mother and i'm still not a good son and i'm still not good of a son i'm telling you as a
00:09:18.040
individual maybe could be old enough to be your father yes i think i'm old enough to be your father
00:09:21.640
if i had a kid at 17 yes you should be 17 years old but the point is this go back to your mom
00:09:26.760
and b say i'm sorry ask her forgiveness yes this is my recommendation to you okay but please wallahi
00:09:34.940
i'm telling you allah subhanahu wa ta'ala of not of man one of the tabiin said when his mother died he
00:09:40.180
cried he said my doors to jannah have been closed wallahi you will never ever get a mother nobody will
00:09:46.860
ever replace your mother and wallahi something my mom would say to me she would say to me the day you
00:09:51.860
have kids you will say to me you see my mom will say that i will tell her oh mom you have not loved
00:09:57.340
me enough meaning that your love to your own kids will be so great you will think that you would
00:10:02.040
expect your mom to love you more if that makes sense yeah so the point is what you will never get
00:10:06.580
another mother yes and obey your mom there is many hadith and quran hadith uh ayahs in this like we know
00:10:12.560
the prophet ma'am al-fim in front of the narrator of abu huraira a man came and said who has more right
00:10:16.240
over me he said your mother then who he said your mother then who he said your mother then who he said
00:10:20.880
then your father then your father yes this doesn't mean we respect our fathers read the book
00:10:26.040
al-adab al-mufraq you might not know basic principles etiquettes how to treat your parents
00:10:30.340
your father your mother wallahi if you want blessings i speak to everyone anybody that wants
00:10:35.680
blessings and prosperity in your life if you disobey your parents if you make your parents upset
00:10:40.760
wallahi i'm telling you your life will be in misery you will not see any barakah in your life
00:10:47.120
and i'll end on this so much so the prophet peace be upon even said a form of jihad is what's serving
00:10:53.920
your parents there was a man who came to offensive jihad and he said i left my parents weeping to come
00:10:59.620
and join the course he said go back and make them happy and smile just the way you made them cry
00:11:05.560
yes go back and there are many many hadith your mother looked after you yes your mother carried
00:11:12.520
you she had endless sleepless nights to look after you she suckled you yes when you was helpless
00:11:20.040
she had to change your nappies and you today have grown and all of a sudden miss independent
00:11:26.460
and all of a sudden you might see there's an attack i'm saying this because i care about you my sister
00:11:30.620
i say this because i care about you my sister okay i have no affiliation with your mother i do not know
00:11:35.720
i've i've met her her and her brother once yes other than that wallahi al-adhim allah is my witness
00:11:40.580
i do not expect anything from her nothing i'm not doing this video for nothing but that it hurts me
00:11:46.480
to see this video and my wife showed it wallahi my wife even said to me can you imagine maybe our
00:11:51.400
daughters that grow up one day this might happen to us and wallahi it can that's why allah says he will
00:11:57.240
test us with our children no alayhi salam was tested with his own son yes and guidance is from
00:12:02.300
allah subhanahu wa ta'ala brothers and sisters anytime this order happens in your house look
00:12:07.060
internally what sins are you committing what riba are you involved in what major sins who did you
00:12:12.580
oppress wallahi let me tell you something it is these things that generally is the reason why we see
00:12:17.920
disorder sometimes it's a test sometimes no alayhi salam can we blame no alayhi salam no it was a test
00:12:23.200
so i ask allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to make it easy on the sister with his daughter with her daughter
00:12:28.040
and i ask our young sister who is going through this wallahi do not make this mistake honor your
00:12:33.320
mother and your father both of them yes and the day will come where you will regret what you're doing
00:12:38.580
and i ask you gently and kindly return back to your house apologize to your mother and accept that she
00:12:45.020
has boundaries and there should be boundaries my dear mother's parents who are watching this fix your
00:12:51.420
children at a young age because if you don't and once again disclaimer i'm not accusing anybody of
00:12:56.940
not doing that i'm just saying generally if we do not install the deen and the love of allah subhanahu
00:13:02.960
wa ta'ala and the quran in our children do not be surprised when they grow up they go astray and this
00:13:08.940
can happen to households which already do that i'm saying try your best make dua ask allah when you see
00:13:14.500
things going wrong ask what mistakes have you done that has caused these things to happen in your house
00:13:19.800
okay these things happen and again it can be that a mother or a father who have raised their
00:13:24.440
children upright but they have gone astray like look alayhi salam and his his son many examples in
00:13:29.820
history but generally let's focus on this otherwise we are going to lose our kids to the system and they
00:13:34.860
are going to go and follow this and that and destroy their life wallahi that's all i have to say sorry
00:13:39.640
for blabbering on but at the end of the day this is something that i really really touch me uh and i really
00:13:45.140
hope that this affair is uh resolved inshallah and may allah subhanahu wa ta'ala make it easy on them
00:13:48.580
anything i said wrong is for myself and shaitan anything good from is from allah and its messenger
00:13:52.700
uh to my young sister i am sorry if i come a compassionate i'm not going to go at you
00:13:56.220
but genuinely care about you please please i urge you go and speak to your mom um delete these videos
00:14:02.580
etc and wallahi if that happens and this is just a video of nasir reminder wallahi if needed i would
00:14:07.800
do this video as well but in nutshell i'm doing this because i want the wider audience to understand
00:14:12.740
this and i ask you guys to fear allah subhanahu wa ta'ala in backbiting and accusing things of she
00:14:17.860
left the house because of uh of a guy etc fear allah this is the honor of another woman this is slander
00:14:57.860
Allah will inshallah build the house for you in Jannah