Ali Dawah - October 23, 2015
Non Hijabis are sl*ts?!!
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Summary
In this video, I discuss the growing problem of judgement within the ummah, especially within the practice of wearing the hijab and the niqab, and how this affects the way we dress and how we treat one another.
Transcript
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Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh brothers and sisters and dear friends welcome to this video
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obviously the title does seem a bit controversial but that was not my intentions and instead my
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intentions was basically to catch your attention because this is a matter that's a big problem
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within the ummah and i thought i would discuss this in detail obviously a lot of people suffer
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from and unfortunately we have a lot of judgmental people both practicing individuals and non-practicing
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which i'm going to touch up on inshallah but the main reason i did this video was obviously
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a sister that i knew not personally who got in contact with our team about a year a year half
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a year a year and a half ago who was basically practicing the deen who wore the niqab who wore
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the hijab she was practicing a religion certain things happened in her life major issues which
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led her to taking off the niqab and the hijab off well obviously um uh we don't want to carry on
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any further before we actually listen to the recording so what we're going to do is i'm just
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going to briefly a two to three minute uh recording i want you guys to listen to where she's coming
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from and inshallah i'm going to discuss it further
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assalamualaikum um here's my short experience okay i used to be fully veiled i struggled a lot
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with it with family acceptance friends society whatnot um i was very into my religion very
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like intensely into the religion islam and um i remember one night i i was going out the
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mosque and um i was attacked my two men i was abused that very night from the both of them
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and they've caused uh awful amount of damage i cannot explain the amount of damage they've caused
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that i was still suffering um it's affected my way of thinking and affected how i dress
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it just drove me insane so then slowly well no not slowly actually i remember i made this decision
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while i was taking a bath actually it just said you know what i want to take it all off now but i know
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that if i take it all off things will be different however i still want to take it off so as i take
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the the full veal off um go back to how i used to dress which is just like any westernized girl would
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dress um all the sisters that i had close to me many have left me a lot of people online judge me
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not only me but they judge a lot of people who are not able to wear who are not really covered but um
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and that affects us a lot because it hurts you don't know the trouble of somebody you don't um
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i i remember when i was on dean sometimes i was harsh to people in terms of hijab and whatever
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and now when i see other people do it to others and me especially it hurts it affects me and i think
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wow was that really how i was so i hope you listen to this with the intention
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of changing within like listen let my less let my experience be a lesson to you don't let the deen
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don't let it harden your heart don't let it make you arrogant humble yourself just the way allah could
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give you hidayah within seconds he can take it away even faster um it's hard out here it's it's very
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hard i'm struggling a lot especially from muslim people all around the world they're very touch
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mental they're not very supportive and it hurts because you're meant to be my family do you know
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what i mean um yeah thank you for listening you've heard it for yourself um and obviously everybody has
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their own struggles in their different ways but uh what really hit me and really really like got to
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me with this sister's story is that the fact that she's saying that when she was practicing the religion
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when she was wearing the niqab and the hijab she had sisters there who said we are gonna through thick
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and thin we are together unfortunately these sisters didn't really stick to their word which we do not
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know why but it's sad that we have practicing individuals practicing sisters or practicing brothers
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with this case is practicing sisters that instead of helping the sister out of the issues that she's
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gone through that has led her to this she has indirectly and directly received messages basically
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saying if you don't wear the hijab or you're dressing up these in certain ways you are a
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slut this is the word that they're using against her and this really really touched me it really hurt me
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and that's why i thought you know i need to make this video because this is a growing problem
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and this happens a lot you know unfortunately there's certain things i've witnessed myself
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where individuals look down upon me because of the certain way i dress and that's why i thought
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the best way to go about this is to address this inshallah so this video can really benefit you guys
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now one of the main causes and reasons behind this is that once an individual starts practicing the
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religion and starts wearing the niqab or hijab or start starts praying doing the extra plays etc
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what happens and the main cause of this is that arrogance kicks in what is arrogance arrogance
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is a trait of shaitan thinking that you are better than another individual which can be a variety of
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reasons oh for example he's this color or i'm this color or he's from that caste and i'm from this
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caste he's from this tribe my tribe is higher in the matters of deen individuals do the same thing
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as the shaitan did so you are actually carrying the sunnah of the shaitan this is what you are doing
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because you are looking down at an individual why because now that allah has guided you
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to the right path externally and maybe internally you think you have the right to look down upon
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another sister or another brother and say you know what look at this person doesn't feel allah
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dressed up like a slat or look at this brother dressed up like a kuffar this is arrogance this is you
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know what this actually means it means that you are thinking you are guaranteed jannah you're going
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jannah and what you're doing is you're like ah look at these guys man look at them selling out there
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hereafter or look at them heading to the hellfire we know from a narration of the prophet muhammad
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peace be upon him where he says an individual will live their life like the people of jannah and there
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will be a hand span between him and jannah and what is in himself overtakes him and he ends up in the
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hellfire by acting like the people of the hellfire and the prophet muhammad peace be upon him says a
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similar thing where he says there will be certain individuals who live the life of like the people
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of the hellfire and when there is a hand span between him and the hellfire whilst deep in his
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heart overtakes him and he starts acting like the people of jannah and he enters jannah now what do we
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learn from this think about this really carefully this shows us whoever it is we're in the dawah or you're
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a sheikh or you're a scholar it gives us no right to think hey i'm saved wallahi brothers and sisters
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i don't know where i'm going to be tomorrow wallahi i'm telling you straight up i don't know where i'm
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going to be tomorrow i don't know if i'm going to be a disbeliever i don't know if i'm going to turn
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against islam and we have many examples i don't need to give names individuals who were on the deen
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when you look at them like whoa they were strong and today you look at them you're like whoa he's gone
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off the track this should make us realize hold on a second i'm not guaranteed jannah
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so who do you think you are and i don't mean this in any disrespectful way my dear sister my
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dear brother who's practicing the religion may allah bless you guys and make your path easy
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but who do you think you are to look down at another individual a sister that doesn't wear the hijab
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or a brother that's struggling in certain ways with clothing or whatever it may be wallahi who do you
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think you are to look down at that person this is arrogance this is you thinking you're better
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you're thinking me i got the ticket the jannah allah has given me it because i'm praying my
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salana how do you know you're not going to stop praying your salah tomorrow so what we learn from
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this is my brothers and sisters is to be humble always why do we pray every day we pray every
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day asking allah to what allah keep me on the sarat al-mustaqeem keep me on there you're always
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asking allah for guidance always for guidance forget you and me who are me and you the prophet
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said oh the one who tosses and turns the hearts around as you please as you will keep
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my heart firm on the deen the prophet muhammad is making a dua to allah and saying he's making
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a dua to allah to sit stay on the right path and anytime when has ever the prophet muhammad
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all the narrations that we have from his life when has he ever looked down upon an individual and
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said oh you're going to hellfire or you're doing this or you're doing that even the man who came and
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said oh rasulullah make zina permissible for me what did he do hey you you're going to the hellfire get lost
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no he said sit down can you imagine if today somebody came and said that to us we would
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probably try to kill him so that shows that we should learn something about the character of the
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prophet muhammad peace be upon him never look down on anyone uh prophet ibrahim he's the one who
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smashed the idols with his own hands and when he made a dua he said oh allah divert me from ever
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worshipping other than you so we've got two prophets who are making dua to allah and asking for
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guidance and whereas we ourselves what are we doing we practice our religion a little bit think
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we're a little bit pious and what do we do start spotting people ah look at him look at her hijab
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well like i've i've had people telling me that another sister in the car don't give me salam
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or or they know individual sisters who wear the niqab and they've told their friends oh i don't give
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that sister salam why oh because she wears a niqab like this what seriously or a sister in hijab
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mashallah look you're wearing the correct way but how could you walk past another believer and
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not give them salam why oh she's wearing trousers or jeans is it wrong of course it's wrong nobody's
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saying what the way she's dressed is right but it's arrogance on your behalf to not give her
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salam and drift the moral way just the way this sister was drifted away instead
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salam alaykum sister that salam that you might say to her maybe she's going through some difficulty at
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home she would say you know at least a brother or a sister on the deen has acknowledged me and said
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salam alaykum you don't know how it can touch an individual's heart obviously so we've discussed
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that practicing individuals are looking down on certain individuals and saying
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you know you're a slut for not wearing the hijab etc etc okay but then we have the other extreme
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what's the other extreme now we have sisters uh who don't wear the hijab they look at the sisters
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that wear the hijab and go oh she's an undercover hoe now this is another extreme now what you need to
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understand is sister look if you have your own struggles and you can't wear the hijab may allah
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bless you may allah give you the courage and the strength to do that just because you're not wearing
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a hijab it does not give you any right to look down upon them because yes you're right their uniform
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represents something and they should step up to that standard i have nothing to say to that you are
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right however you can't look at a hijabi sister or a brother in a phobe and expect perfection yes they
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should not see in public i'm 100 with you with that but you can't look at them and say hey look at her
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she's doing this don't pick on everything because what happens is it means that you have a disease
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in your heart like ibn tamir said it says some individuals they are like flies they have this
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disease in their heart where they don't land on good places they look for bad places like wounds you
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know and they land on there so you need to sometimes see the good in people and say you know what
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the sister's at least trying to wear the hijab at least she's trying that brother he's trying to lower
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his gaze look at the good in people and don't look down on them and say oh she's like that you know what i
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don't wear the hijab but you know i'm not like her well like this is an excuse within yourself
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why don't you be the better person why don't you say you know what this sister wears the hijab
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she has a boyfriend i'm gonna wear the hijab and not have a boyfriend so coming back to the main point
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of practicing individuals looking down uh not non-practicing because there's a lot of people
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that don't wear the hijab or outlook appearance they don't look practicing but they do practice their
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religion yeah and obviously they should better their self by wearing the hijab uh lowering the gaze for the
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brothers uh brothers wearing the correct way of hijab this is very important as well hijab is not just for
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the sisters so i would appear to say they might not look like oh they're uh they're a muslim but
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well i'm telling you from my personal experience i have seen sisters who wear correct way of a buyer
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correct way of hijab and wallahi the words that they have uttered like they will say certain words
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wallahi as a man i feel like opening up the earth and going inside for a few days and coming back out
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later wallahi i'm telling you as a man i feel like you know what i just want to disappear from
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this planet this existence and i'm thinking how do you see that as a sister who wears a hijab or a buyer
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or a aki who has a beard or a foe your outward appearance is important but some individuals they
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don't have the inner modesty the inner ayah is not there the outer appearance we've got nothing to say
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whereas we have certain individuals certain sisters they don't cover up they don't wear the hijab
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modest dressed and they have a good hamdulillah an amazing uh an amazing way they have an amazing
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khaya so obviously they can better their self and perfect their self by wearing the hijab and a sister
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who's wearing the hijab that doesn't have that inner modesty can perfect herself by having that inner
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modesty and understanding what khaya is and it's not just an outer appearance and neither does it mean
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it's just an inner thing they both go together and obviously from this i don't want you guys to think
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that every single hijab is like this or every single non-hijab is like that nobody's saying that
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okay guys so i don't want to keep you guys long i want to wrap it up but once again i really want to
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uh push push this point really uh forward is that look if you see a brother or sister who doesn't look
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in the out outward appearance as a muslim you have a disease in your heart indeed if you say to them
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oh they don't look like a muslim look at this individual look at the way of hijab that means you have
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disease in your heart and you're carrying the sunnah of the shaitan because you're being arrogant and
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looking down an individual based on what you don't know nothing you don't know the struggle they're
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going through never forget that at one point you didn't wear the hijab as a brother you didn't use
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to lower your gaze or pray so who gives you the right to uh to judge anybody and last but not
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least brothers and sisters the matter of slander don't forget that every time you walk past the
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sister and say ah she's done this or she's done that or she's look at she doesn't wear the hijab
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she's a slut or you're uh you're a non-hijabi and you look at a hijabi sister and go ah look
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out she's a undercover hole um undercover hijabi these are all slander these are all slander and
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allah sent down revelation when islam happened against aisha radiallahu anhu so you need to
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understand quran came down quran came down for the matter of slander and