Ali Dawah - THE END OF THE BITTER TRUTH SHOW - ALI DAWAH APOLOGISES

00:00:00.000 the wife does address it to the husband that he will shame her he'll be oh it's your fault you

00:00:04.320 can't be satisfied what i say is depend how you approach it so if your woman goes to you you 1.00

00:00:08.560 don't perform properly that's going to demasculate you yes when it comes to the issue of haya this

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00:01:07.320 brothers and sisters and dear friends hope you guys are well inshallah so i have not been on twitter

00:01:10.920 for the past two and a half three years it's the best decision i've made alhamdulillah it's just toxic

00:01:14.360 unnecessary arguments and you've got a lot of people who are like i said before like ibn tamir says

00:01:18.720 they're like flies you know they look at the mistake and the fault they're just literally hunting for your

00:01:22.800 mistake alhamdulillah so what i did is brothers and sisters i totally came off it however now

00:01:27.040 there's been a video circulating around uh about a specific clip that was taken out when we were

00:01:32.000 discussing a specific issue and um and i'm going to discuss and talk about that because there was a

00:01:37.600 question asked the sheikh asim al-hakim i'm going to be talking about that i'm going to be talking

00:01:41.400 about the clip we're going to watch it for ourselves and my take on it and um what i have to say on this

00:01:46.440 matter inshallah yeah because i think it's very very important because at the end of the day

00:01:49.280 it is the honor of these sisters who come to the show and the honor of these brothers that are on

00:01:53.800 the line um myself i don't really care about what people say about me like i'll be honest i do not

00:01:57.420 care unless it's someone close to me that i know who goes out like a certain individual i don't even

00:02:01.920 want to mention who's i believe the backstabber when someone who can have my phone number he can call

00:02:05.320 me and advise him but he doesn't and he goes and uh takes the side of an enemy over his muslim brother

00:02:09.480 that's the only thing that hurts me so before i get into all of that i just want to mention to you guys

00:02:13.420 why i started the bitter truth show i didn't start the bitter truth show because i was bored and i thought let me

00:02:17.660 say you know i want to do some uh free mixing whatever you want to call it yeah okay i started

00:02:21.300 the bitter truth show because the biggest threat we have to do on my divorce rates people are getting 0.95

00:02:24.960 divorced left right center for the most pettiest stupidest reasons me and my wife are aware of okay 0.99

00:02:30.180 we hear this story so i thought to myself what can we do to do this do to combat this because divorce 0.97

00:02:36.200 rates are happening left right center you know so i thought to myself you know what we can discuss

00:02:40.840 these topics we need to have the say of the sisters we don't want to talk on their behalf neither

00:02:46.060 they should talk on our behalf we want to hear them so we spoke to people of knowledge before the

00:02:51.340 show during the show in and even after the show of certain things that need to be improved we're

00:02:55.480 human beings the people that we spoke to were high senior scholars high senior scholars yeah that's

00:03:02.320 why i'm going to make it very clear we don't come out of our own ideology i wake up one day and give

00:03:07.160 myself a fatwa and go i'm going to do this because i'm a person of hawa i just i'm into my desires

00:03:11.420 i just want i wake up and go how can i disobey allah and his messenger today i don't want to go

00:03:15.860 hellfire yeah not i'm saying go hellfire like you know certain things etc but i don't wake up saying

00:03:21.120 i want to disobey my lord i came to this religion because i love this religion and you guys know what

00:03:25.500 i inshallah do for the inshallah is for the sake of allah yeah so these accusations no problem you can

00:03:30.380 throw out at me but my guests especially the sisters their honor is great in my eyes and especially

00:03:35.700 the woman and we know one of the seven uh sins major sins is what to dishonor or talk about a 1.00

00:03:41.980 sister in a certain way so i have the i'm doing this video to defend their honor and also give

00:03:46.300 some clarifications and wallahi before i get into that i've been to the kaaba two times in the past

00:03:51.380 year i have made du'a you guys might say this guy's out of his mind i don't care i have made du'a for

00:03:57.920 four projects i'm working for marriage documentary the bitter truth show another thing that i'm working on

00:04:02.320 and salah salam project salah plus where we teach new and born muslims how to pray salah yeah uh

00:04:06.500 inshallah there might be a link that you can donate yeah so i made du'a why i said oh allah

00:04:10.360 make these projects a sadaqa jari for me now you're thinking because you hold that opinion that

00:04:14.940 oh it's free mixing look at this guy how could you ask for a sadaqa jari on something that you're

00:04:18.440 committing a sin that is your opinion which i'm going to come to we have spoken to people of knowledge

00:04:24.040 so your opinion means zero to me whoever it is shaykh asim al-hakim even he's come out if he says he

00:04:30.040 believes it's free mixing i respect your opinion but that is your opinion sheikh with all due respect

00:04:36.100 i follow i encourage people to follow you alhamdulillah there's certain views that you have

00:04:39.960 like for example if a person misses salah or if a person doesn't pray salah he's a kafir that's your

00:04:45.280 opinion i respect it but i'm not going to come now and be like your opinion is the opinion my dear

00:04:50.600 may allah bless you and preserve you you give great benefit to the ummah and i always tell people to

00:04:55.560 follow your uh watch your videos however we have spoken to far senior scholars yes and i know you

00:05:02.780 are a high student of knowledge but we're speaking to people who are on the level of an alum and they

00:05:07.000 have told us this is not free mixing period and the people i've spoken to in the book i don't want

00:05:12.020 to give names yeah because we're going to start attacking them yeah i've spoken to they did not

00:05:15.480 say to me it's free mixing they said to me that this show is two issues number one tabarush

00:05:21.200 makeup and i try my best not to look to the opposite gender so i don't know who's wearing 0.78

00:05:26.120 makeup because i don't know my wife is a co-producer she usually deals with that so i'll come and tell

00:05:30.000 listen tell them to you know if they're dressed up in a certain way dressed like this if they're

00:05:33.700 wearing lipstick whatever take it off yeah okay uh for that matter so in that instance that was the

00:05:38.780 case so to me i know alhamdulillah in front of allah i will stand i know alhamdulillah it is not

00:05:43.740 free mixing the second thing was sisters who don't wear the hijab who wear hijab on the show

00:05:47.640 because we control we say look you want to come on you have to you know the hair showing yes sister

00:05:52.580 amira would like we said before she was not a hijab she became and alhamdulillah started wearing

00:05:55.760 the hijab after the show may allah bless her and her husband for having massive contributions to the

00:06:00.600 show so guys let's come to this clip and watch it for ourselves and see what exactly was the issue

00:06:05.600 because i believe people exaggerated it but i have to be just and there's something that i'm going to

00:06:11.600 inshallah talk about in a minute so let's watch it here is the clip but it's not satisfied in the

00:06:15.040 bedroom the wife does address it to the husband that he will shame her he'll be oh it's your fault

00:06:19.500 you can't be satisfied what i say is depend how you approach it so if your woman goes to you you 1.00

00:06:23.920 don't perform properly that's going to demasculate you but if she goes to you that let's try something

00:06:28.760 different or the thing is you approach it in a way that you don't attack the man you don't attack the

00:06:33.280 man but you kind of approach in a different way if you go straight at him of course he's going to

00:06:37.260 so guys that was the clip that you saw now if you watch the entire video there is context to it

00:06:42.700 there is absolute context to it and she is talking about a woman we're talking about for example why

00:06:48.720 do women go down the level of being disloyal to their husbands this is a phenomena that is happening

00:06:54.360 there are women who are cheating on their husbands or going down that route why do we address these 1.00

00:06:59.740 issues you might be shy about it i am not because these issues need to be discussed so there was a

00:07:05.180 context however i accept because there was some woman i don't know if it was an sali one who came to the

00:07:11.040 prophet mahmad peace be upon him about intimacy about intimate stuff yeah okay now they came to

00:07:16.600 the prophet peace be upon him to your guys logic you can say oh well why is a non-mahram woman speaker

00:07:20.900 yes that's the mystery of allah understandable and what did the prophet peace be upon him do he got

00:07:25.140 aisha the other his wife to address the issue so this is where i'll put my hands up and say the

00:07:29.300 following the scholars who gave us the fatwa that is not free mixing and there is nothing wrong with

00:07:33.560 the show and we are talking about issues pertaining to what look let me read you some of the stuff

00:07:36.720 yeah do women do men want career wives this is breaking down the family unit okay sisters who 1.00

00:07:42.060 want to be boss babes or whatever this is destroying the family unit which has a ripple effect on the

00:07:46.540 umma what did we discuss after that can i spy on my wife's phone yes you should not spy on your 0.99

00:07:51.860 wife's phone we discussed that an important topic that causes so many arguments in the marital unit 1.00

00:07:55.740 yeah should in not get involved in marital disputes again one of the biggest factors of marriage 0.99

00:08:00.360 divorce divorce is happening and why does her virginity matter for so many men men they end 0.90

00:08:06.360 marriages because of this so we advise men how to deal with it and we try to get the sisters to

00:08:10.800 understand the psychology of a man why you uh will you marry a divorcee again a big phenomenon a big

00:08:16.900 issue of divorcees they come with these baggage etc we talk about this phenomenon why there's so many

00:08:21.660 divorced single mothers who are not married there's this uh stigma on them yeah who belongs in the 1.00

00:08:27.260 kitchen another issue which causes so many problems in the marital unit why men get second 1.00

00:08:32.080 wives another big issue subhanallah which is causing the breakdown of the family unit

00:08:36.500 real problems we're trying to deal with real problems okay ex-wives using kids subhanallah the

00:08:42.480 biggest dhulam oppression happening on men where they get divorced and their wives do not allow them

00:08:48.600 to see the kids yes and this is a major sin to break kinship yes there we go what do we discuss we

00:08:53.660 discuss all that should married married couples have single friends it is um irresponsible instagram

00:08:59.040 couple so we're given a false reality of what marriage is yes uh so uh we've done how to be a

00:09:05.140 good muslim husband um you name it guys look divorce pandemic okay um we've done about good but good bad 0.98

00:09:12.660 and ugly side uh side of dating apps okay these muslim apps okay and why uh wife is mother-in-law some big 1.00

00:09:19.340 problem these are all things we don't sit down with the sisters i would be lah and chit chat like oh yeah

00:09:24.540 sister how you doing we come and we have alhamdulillah like we the fatwa we follow is what

00:09:28.760 when we're giving dawah in speaker's corner to non-muslim women free protocols we follow from 0.99

00:09:34.880 scholars which is number one it's what that it's in public number two is pertaining to dawah number

00:09:40.160 three when the dawah is done you go your separate ways those women we speak to who are sometimes half 1.00

00:09:43.800 naked we can't control what they wear in the bitter truth show we can so this whole issue of free

00:09:48.020 mixing this done this is not even an issue for me prove it to this move it to the side i just want to

00:09:52.800 apologize and say yes when it comes to the issue of higher this clip should have not been there and i

00:09:58.840 am going to cut it out inshallah okay it should have not been there okay why because at the end of the

00:10:03.480 day it's distasteful not a matter of haram it is distasteful okay why even though she's talking about

00:10:09.700 a woman who's not satisfied and talking about that why because the discussion is what it can lead her 1.00

00:10:14.940 to go down the wrong path so it's us for us men to understand and to cater to our wives that's what

00:10:21.740 the discussion was at hand however that little clip on its own it's distasteful so to me that's

00:10:27.300 why i want to apologize that again it's a sensitive issue and i want to say the scholars who have given

00:10:33.320 us the fatwa of the show are free from this specific incident why because just because they gave us a

00:10:39.120 fatwa does not mean that they condone every little thing that happens there so this issue like i said

00:10:44.160 before it is distasteful a non-mahram two non-mahram individuals speaking about the issue even though

00:10:50.580 it's pertaining to something that is so important maybe it is best that it should have not been and i

00:10:56.380 am very very careful with this you've seen in many episodes where there's a specific thing i want

00:11:00.100 to talk about pertaining to intimacy i hold back i go look there's some sisters here i don't want to 0.97

00:11:03.320 get into detail we are very careful to that so anyone that knows from the previous episode in many

00:11:08.240 multiple occasions we have said that even hijab they want to mention something because the sisters

00:11:11.780 are there we don't even get to it because we know the higher elements and this one it was a mistake

00:11:17.600 we own up to it we ask you guys myself to forgive me but the honor of the sister who's talking about

00:11:23.220 this and the honor of the brother should never be in question because we were discussing a real

00:11:27.040 important issue the intentions were there for the sake of allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to deal with this

00:11:30.980 issue and that they will benefit muslim couples who are watching this and anyone that watches the

00:11:35.420 bitter truth show knows and alhamdulillah will testify how much it's benefited their marriages i've got

00:11:40.880 couples coming to me most of the times alhamdulillah when they see me that they watch it with their

00:11:45.360 partners and it has helped them so for anyone other than that free mixing this that no problem

00:11:51.140 like i said before that is your opinion you want to follow it all day every day alhamdulillah i know

00:11:54.920 i am clear in front of allah subhanahu wa ta'ala insha'Allah why because we are clearly it's not

00:11:59.760 free mixing alhamdulillah to me it's the matter is clear we have got a fatwa from a senior senior

00:12:03.400 scholar alhamdulillah shaykh asim hakeem i respect your opinion that is your opinion may allah bless and

00:12:07.700 preserve you that's all i wanted to say insha'Allah again please forgive me like i said before it was

00:12:11.660 distasteful and that clip will be taken out and we'll be more careful insha'Allah going forward

00:12:15.880 but the show as a whole alhamdulillah it's a biggest a a big blessing for the ummah insha'Allah

00:12:20.300 and i urge couples to watch it insha'Allah and you can benefit we're not perfect but insha'Allah

00:12:25.440 the bitter truth show will carry on brothers and sisters insha'Allah with many more episodes where

00:12:29.480 we're dealing with the real issues that face the family unit and cause the divorce race to happen 0.57

00:12:33.520 and the breakdown of the family unit insha'Allah that's all i wanted to say insha'Allah

00:12:36.400 uh and uh the way the question was even asked to shaykh asim hakeem but again like i said he holds a

00:12:41.480 more staunch uh stricter opinion and i respect that that's all i want to say brothers and sisters may

00:12:46.060 allah subhanahu wa ta'ala bless and preserve you guys forgive us for our shortcomings and just know

00:12:49.360 wallahi i genuinely believe in this project wholeheartedly my intentions is not i'm doing it for

00:12:55.700 this or for that etc allah subhanahu wa ta'ala knows yeah other than that if you guys want to carry on

00:12:59.840 slandering and dishonoring the guests etc wallahi on your maqiyama it's i should give you guys a gift

00:13:05.020 on your maqiyama your good deeds will be given to these individuals because of your lack of

00:13:09.060 knowledge of speaking about a matter you don't know and on your maqiyama if you run out of good

00:13:12.680 deeds you'll be carrying their sins is it worth it i don't think it's so i'll leave it to you guys

00:13:17.140 insha'Allah till next time assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

Ali Dawah - April 04, 2024

THE END OF THE BITTER TRUTH SHOW - ALI DAWAH APOLOGISES

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