Ali Dawah - THE REALITY 4 ｜｜ I WANT A PIOUS WIFE!!!＂

00:00:00.000 Assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh brothers and sisters welcome back to the reality show part 4

00:00:18.780 the video is called i want a pious wife and obviously we all want a pious wife but this

00:00:22.920 is not what the video is about my whole topic is based upon basically hypocrisy and double

00:00:27.620 standards of certain men so as you know um you know some people out there some men out there have

00:00:33.580 girlfriends are looking for girlfriends you know but when i ask them a question regarding which you

00:00:38.640 see the clip in a minute you know how would you react for example if your sister had a boyfriend

00:00:42.560 they get really angry and one of them was like i'll lose my composure you know it really affected

00:00:47.060 them i just wanted to show the hypocrisy you know when they have a girlfriend it's okay but when

00:00:50.860 their sister or their daughter or etc has a boyfriend they don't like it you know that's that's the

00:00:57.600 this is what the whole show is about basically and also some men that go out there and sleep

00:01:01.320 around have girlfriends but when it comes to marriage is like no i want a woman that's untouched 1.00

00:01:05.140 i want a pious wife you know we're going to give like talk about hadith and also how men reacted

00:01:10.720 to certain questions we asked them now as you know my channel has moved from muslim youth movement

00:01:14.720 uh you can still watch reality part one two and three on muslim youth movement but from now on um all

00:01:20.200 the reality shows will be on my channel so inshallah subscribe and also you can check out the videos

00:01:24.160 at the end of the um link um at the end of the video as you know a couple of weeks ago the video

00:01:30.080 got deleted because somebody reported it and i think it's one of the guys that i interviewed

00:01:34.000 obviously i didn't cover their face but we told them when we was doing an interview but anyway

00:01:38.080 you know maybe i uh i should have covered their face so basically enjoy the video and don't forget

00:01:43.360 to subscribe uh salaamu alaykum i'll see you right after the clips um do you have a girlfriend yes sir

00:01:48.560 you have a girlfriend okay what i want to know is how would you feel how would you like if your

00:01:53.440 sister had a boyfriend and she was she was going out with someone and you know do you get what i'm

00:01:59.360 trying to say yeah yeah i get it yeah is it like a long term well let me put it like this yeah we we

00:02:05.200 don't know we don't know if it's long term but she's going out with some guy and you don't know what

00:02:09.600 they're doing but they're going out and obviously in a girlfriend boyfriend relationship you know what

00:02:13.040 really happens like how would you feel as a brother i won't be comfortable with it you won't be comfortable

00:02:17.360 yeah yeah you wouldn't like it i wouldn't like it definitely okay okay how about okay my third

00:02:23.120 question is basically if you was to get married yeah and if your wife had let's say for example

00:02:29.600 had sexual relationships before before with couple of guys would you accept that and marry her would

00:02:34.800 you say no i would accept it i would mind it but i i would have to accept okay okay you mind it but

00:02:39.600 you're saying i'll accept it yeah yeah because at the end day if for example if you if if i go around

00:02:45.280 and do these kind of stuff with girls like obviously i'm not going to expect my wife to be 1.00

00:02:50.960 pious or virgin do you get it because i'm doing it yeah what i'm saying is i would mind it when

00:02:57.120 she had sexual relationships before yeah but because i love her and i want to marry her because 0.98

00:03:01.920 you love her i i need to accept it you need to accept i don't want to accept it but i need to

00:03:05.920 you don't want to accept it but you accept yeah have you got a girlfriend yes i do you have a

00:03:10.000 girlfriend yes okay now what i want to ask you is this here you find out that your sister has a

00:03:15.200 boyfriend how would you feel how would you act i wouldn't really like it i mean it is something you

00:03:21.360 know being a muslim it's not really a part of our culture and everything yes but when i go out do it 1.00

00:03:28.400 it's a different thing because me my girlfriend she's not muslim she's not muslim yeah she's not 0.89

00:03:32.880 so i don't think it's it's wrong in their culture okay but it is in ours so i wouldn't really be

00:03:40.320 you know i wouldn't appreciate it you wouldn't appreciate i would try to find out who that guy

00:03:44.000 is and you know try to tell her that this is not the right thing this is not how you do it okay

00:03:48.800 yeah i think that's about it okay but don't you think yeah like this is what we're getting at

00:03:52.720 here don't you think it's a bit like okay for example it feels me like all right you got a girlfriend

00:03:56.480 yeah then how does it work when you say okay like my sister can't have it i know it's right

00:04:00.400 like i'm a muslim myself yeah i know how it is yeah isn't that a bit of double standards like

00:04:05.120 is it like can you tell us can you tell us where the problem arises that's when it becomes hard

00:04:09.520 that's when it becomes hard that's how i mean if she starts asking me questions about it okay what

00:04:15.040 if you do it yeah then it's hard for me to explain to her yeah this is this is the hard part

00:04:19.840 this is where this is where i would actually go blank listen you got a girlfriend yeah no girlfriend

00:04:24.480 yeah okay how would you feel if your sister came home and said you know what look i'm dating

00:04:29.120 this guy and you don't know if he's serious or not but she's saying look here i'm i'm with some

00:04:32.800 guy it's fine you're fine you won't mind that okay all right how about you're getting married yeah

00:04:38.960 okay yeah and then your wife comes up to you and says yeah look previously i've i had these

00:04:44.800 couple relations and she wants to take off her shoulder she's been honest with you and she's

00:04:47.360 saying look i was with three father guys and she was sexually like do you get what i'm trying to 0.91

00:04:51.280 say yeah it's happened how would you feel would you say you know what nah i ain't gonna carry on

00:04:55.120 with this or would you say you know i don't mind it was a past i'm just gonna leave it right before

00:04:59.280 we're getting married it's not happening right before we're getting married oh if it's right

00:05:02.640 before you're getting married it's not happening you're not taking it no i'm not taking it you're

00:05:06.240 not taking it okay if it was yeah all of that's supposed to come out during dating that's during

00:05:12.400 day okay during dating not right before just before we get married not before engaged not during

00:05:16.640 engagement either that's all dating stages do you have a girlfriend no you don't have a

00:05:21.040 girlfriend no do you have a girlfriend no okay let's suppose you have a girlfriend yeah okay yeah

00:05:26.400 and um how would you feel for example if your sister do you have sisters yeah yeah you have

00:05:30.640 sisters how would you feel if your sister came home and said she's dating she's got a boyfriend

00:05:34.720 they were weird i want to find out who he is yeah make sure he's all right so it's amazing

00:05:38.480 like you wouldn't mind no no okay i wouldn't mind but i want to know him you would want to know him

00:05:43.040 yeah i'm here with carlos carlos doesn't want to show his face for certain reasons he knows best

00:05:47.120 okay carlos do you have a um girlfriend yeah you have a girlfriend yeah okay um carlos what would

00:05:52.880 you do if your sister came home one day and said that you have a you um she's got a boyfriend i would 0.51

00:05:58.240 be angry oh you'd be angry okay all right so excuse me for asking you this yeah but so you can have a

00:06:04.720 girlfriend but when he says has a boyfriend you'll be angry is there any reason why why double standards

00:06:08.720 listen yeah you know to be honest i'm a man right and my sister um she wouldn't know

00:06:19.360 how to decide who is a good you know a good fella or a good chap you know okay all right so what about

00:06:26.160 your girlfriend that you're with now isn't it the same for her like she can't decide for herself as 0.51

00:06:30.080 well well i decided for her right you decided for her okay let's pass on that question so that's your

00:06:35.600 opinion so uh how about if your wife yeah you're getting married yeah and your wife she's she's had

00:06:41.520 previous relationships she's been with different guys would you tolerate that would you would you

00:06:44.800 carry on the marriage or would you say no i ain't gonna have that no clean sheet bro i i prefer clean

00:06:49.680 sheet you prefer clean sheet okay so isn't that double standards you can go around do what you want

00:06:53.440 just like don't get me wrong yeah but you can go around do what you want but when it's when when

00:06:58.400 um like do you get what i'm trying to say so when your wife's gone out there and maybe she's made

00:07:02.400 like mistakes or something you won't allow that it's my right though i can decide whether i want

00:07:07.120 to have a right don't get me wrong i'm not saying that what i'm i'll just like get my perspective i

00:07:11.120 just think that's double standards i just think that women who do such things should really think 1.00

00:07:16.800 twice because like who really wants to marry something like that yeah but who wants to marry

00:07:20.240 someone like you now guys do you have a girlfriend no to be honest not at the moment now

00:07:24.720 not at the moment yeah yeah okay but you're looking not looking but i was busy in it there's

00:07:30.320 no time for them okay okay what about you man's engaged i'm gonna get yeah yeah okay okay that's

00:07:34.640 good man now i want to ask you a question yeah you found out for your friends your sister has a

00:07:39.120 boyfriend yeah what would your reaction be i'll start getting mental i lose my composure yeah i swear

00:07:46.400 that i'll find out who the guy is okay and like tell him to stay away from her yeah okay all right now

00:07:53.360 i'm gonna ask you a question yeah yeah now obviously now you have you're saying you you if

00:07:59.200 you had a girlfriend yeah okay now don't you think it's a bit of a double standards yeah where you say

00:08:04.080 okay you have a girlfriend yeah but when it comes to your sister you're like oh hold on a second hold

00:08:08.240 on a second like i'm just giving you like give the people a different story that's a completely different

00:08:12.400 story okay okay can you explain that i would never go out with a girl that's wearing a headscarf in it 1.00

00:08:17.040 because i would like that because my sister wears a headscarf that's so funny so obviously i don't respect

00:08:22.400 that yeah i thought it doesn't feel nice yeah yeah you're going out different girls yeah it's

00:08:26.240 completely different story you're a guy she's a girl you're supposed to look after your little 0.97

00:08:29.440 sister you get me okay but all right i've got to be real with you yeah but what about the person

00:08:32.880 you're with what about she's a sister to a person as well you get what i'm trying to say that depends

00:08:37.360 that depends if family allow it or not if they don't then i'll stay away from her you're gonna get

00:08:41.600 married your wife tells you that she had a past yeah would you have a past relationships and stuff

00:08:49.360 happen do you get what i'm trying to say would you carry on or would you be like nah nah nah it ain't

00:08:52.560 happening nah man wants a virgin yeah you actually have no past behind but also i told you depends

00:08:58.640 on the feelings who's the girl you might really love the girl okay okay but i've got to be real 0.55

00:09:02.320 with you again yeah okay if you want a virgin don't you think you should be a virgin yourself

00:09:07.440 have you got a girlfriend no no yeah you haven't got a girlfriend either no not yet why not not yet

00:09:12.560 okay okay how would you like it if you go home your sister you found out that your sister's dating

00:09:18.080 so much you've got a boyfriend how would you feel would you like it uh not particularly i wouldn't

00:09:22.720 let i date the boyfriend nah none of that none of that okay okay okay but isn't that double standards

00:09:28.640 for example you're saying you can have girlfriends but when it comes that's what guys do no but

00:09:32.960 exactly it's what it's what all like relatives will do like you're gonna be protected but when

00:09:38.160 you're doing it you're like it's cash man like okay okay okay you gotta give me some info here so

00:09:42.720 you're telling me that it's like a guy thing yeah like it's your family you protect your family

00:09:47.280 yeah yeah but but i'm just i'm just saying from my perspective yeah how come it's okay for you to

00:09:52.000 have a girlfriend but then when it comes to your sister maybe that's somebody else's sister it's 0.93

00:09:55.440 fucked up i don't know no no it's cool no way to be honest no just way to be honest i think no yeah 0.87

00:10:02.240 it's just a family thing like i don't think anyone's got that perception that it's wrong when it's with 0.97

00:10:08.480 someone else because it's outside of the household it's not someone you know you know but and you

00:10:15.360 think yourself is a good guy do you have a girl uh girlfriend obviously fam oh so you got a girlfriend

00:10:20.240 yeah okay okay okay okay all right so what would you do yeah if you found out your sister has a

00:10:26.800 boyfriend how would you react are you mad madone oh clap her i'll take my man and nab him family okay 0.62

00:10:32.960 all right let me get this right yeah so you're telling me you can have a girlfriend but when it's your 0.94

00:10:37.120 sister having a boyfriend you get all switches isn't that hypocrisy obviously my sister always 0.96

00:10:41.680 a difference oh it's different now now for real for real this is brother ibrahim bin mansoor yeah

00:10:47.120 oh he's gonna give you a little like that was a little joke so bro you know what i'm doing out here

00:10:51.520 yeah i'm just trying to like you know you know how the reality show you've watched a couple of them

00:10:55.440 you've been in the first one obviously what advice do you give these guys out there who go around

00:11:00.480 sleep around with girls do all kinds of crap but when it's their boyfriend sorry when it's their sister 0.84

00:11:05.280 they get more protective so hold on a second now don't they think what if someone did that to 0.99

00:11:08.800 their own sister and they're behaving like that and what if they're going out with someone you

00:11:12.480 get what i'm trying to say okay what advice do you give because you're married now obviously

00:11:15.600 and you've you've went through that stage mashallah you know you didn't get into all that

00:11:19.120 girlfriend your boyfriend thing how did you do it and how could you advise the views out there

00:11:23.280 okay alhamdulillah wassalaatu wassalaam ala rasooli wa ba'du salamu alaikum brothers and sisters

00:11:27.760 again just to clarify no i don't have a girlfriend technically i do because my wife is a 1.00

00:11:33.200 girl and she's my friend oh shut up man look look on a real twin yeah yeah the prophet sallallahu

00:11:40.720 alaihi wassalaam was approached by a boy and you all know this hadith but i want you to look at it

00:11:44.000 differently he was approached by a boy sallallahu alaihi wassalaam uh who said that ya rasulullah

00:11:49.360 make zina permissible for me because he was that desperate like he needed to he needed a beat you 1.00

00:11:55.120 know what i'm saying so the prophet basically said to him would you like for someone to do this

00:11:59.920 to your mom or to your sister and the boy was like nah of course not obviously then the prophet

00:12:06.800 sallallahu alaihi wassalaam obviously you know the message got through to him and he realized you know

00:12:09.920 that you know we don't want that someone to do that to one of my own women why am i going to do that

00:12:13.520 someone else's woman right and the prophet sallallahu alaihi made the offering now do you know what the

00:12:17.200 scholars say about this hadith yeah they say that if a man comes to hear about this and understand this

00:12:23.120 right that if they violate someone else's sister their sister may get violated then one of the

00:12:28.800 ways that allah punishes them is by making sure that happens to their sister by making sure that

00:12:33.680 happens to their daughter by making sure that happens to their mom or their auntie and so on

00:12:37.680 and so forth assalaamu alaikum brothers and sisters uh welcome back and you saw what we saw and we only

00:12:44.560 we experienced as well we was there yeah subhanallah it's crazy man it's you know the double standards the 0.91

00:12:49.600 hypocrisy out there man you know bro where does this come from man how do they get this kind of

00:12:53.360 mentality you know i think it's it's just i think that's creeped in inside of like especially the 0.97

00:13:00.400 muslim because there's nothing there's nothing to do with islam and obviously islam never promotes 1.00

00:13:03.760 anything of course of course but obviously when we're in a society this is obviously that like

00:13:08.720 promotes music movies and all these they have like uh you know in the music videos the man he's got

00:13:14.320 yeah it's all the girls and this and that and they all come to him and obviously when it's the

00:13:19.440 other way around you don't see a woman with all men in her video because then it's like otherwise 0.95

00:13:23.920 yeah this girl's yeah yeah yeah so we know what it is in it so it's just like it's crept within us

00:13:30.000 in it like it's just somehow and in the movies and that it's just a lot of them just it's being

00:13:34.080 forced down and then now it's just a thing that we don't notice in it yeah we don't know it's like you

00:13:39.680 see in the video the guy you ask them like this and that your girlfriend and now he's like nah nah

00:13:44.400 some of them like yeah yeah then then you ask them about their sister sister the guy this one

00:13:51.440 of the guys was saying his work he goes oh if that happened to my sister if i found out i lose my

00:13:55.360 composure yeah i was like damn that's a deep word like you know he was so affected by it emotionally 0.52

00:13:59.680 and basically but you see the hypocrisy yeah but also you do see these men out there most of them 0.92

00:14:04.880 they're like they understand it's wrong they know it's wrong but they justify they justify

00:14:08.800 to themselves like you saw it because when when you tell them like oh that's that's someone else

00:14:13.040 this is just the way you feel like right there they're like in their head they're thinking nah

00:14:17.360 you know he's got a point but then at the same time they're trying to justify yeah they're trying

00:14:19.840 to justify it to themselves you know subhanallah you know yeah basically a couple of days ago before

00:14:24.720 i was like working on this project yeah i watched this video man subhanallah it really hit me hard

00:14:29.920 man you know basically it's a story of this guy basically it's in an arab country this guy didn't want to be

00:14:35.760 named and he sent his story to the newspaper so they can publish it so people can learn a lesson

00:14:40.320 out of it because the stuff he went through i'll tell you now you'll be shocked bro this guy he's

00:14:44.640 in college he meets a girl ends up doing xena with her and basically um couple of months later the

00:14:51.120 brothers find out come knocking at his door trying to attack him and saying blah blah blah you did this

00:14:55.680 kind of stuff yeah and this this guy goes get the hell away from me man i don't know your sister go 1.00

00:14:59.840 find her pregnancy somewhere else you get i'm trying to say so she was pregnant yeah yeah she 0.79

00:15:04.320 was pregnant and so what happened is these brothers didn't have nothing on him so what could they do

00:15:08.400 they can't do nothing so they left and went so what this brother says is in the news uh he's basically

00:15:13.600 in the newspaper he's like a couple of years went by i was in university and one day he goes i left i

00:15:19.280 was i left uni and i was just on my way home i came home and i found my mom on the floor and i was like

00:15:24.320 what's going on he goes i grabbed my mom and i said mom what's what's happening are you okay she

00:15:29.600 goes he goes all i can he goes all i can remember she's screaming and she just passes out and i'm

00:15:34.080 trying to wake her up she goes this it's happened a couple of times and he goes when uh when she

00:15:39.200 finally woke up she went your sister and i said what happened to her what she got killed or something

00:15:43.680 yeah and he goes um your sister and i goes mom what happened to my sister he goes his sister fell

00:15:48.480 pregnant by the neighbor whoa he goes and he goes he lost the control so what he did was he ran to

00:15:56.080 the neighbor's house obviously broke the door whatever start attacking this guy yeah but subhanallah

00:16:01.200 this guy goes that guy said one word yeah that went through my heart like a dagger he said to me

00:16:08.080 go find your sister's pregnancy somewhere else it's got nothing to do with me it's got nothing to 0.98

00:16:13.440 do with me because it made me remember same what i said to that girl a couple of years ago not only

00:16:20.400 this it doesn't end here look i can see you're already sure but it doesn't end there what happens

00:16:24.080 is next is a couple of years go past and this guy says he goes through a mental illness problem because

00:16:28.800 uh not like you know frustration because of what happened this is really big yeah so what happens is

00:16:32.640 he uh ends up you know gonna get married to his bride subhanallah and on the uh marriage day

00:16:37.520 the uh his wife comes and says uh before subhanallah and he goes he goes he says to the guy you know

00:16:45.520 please don't expose my sin and may allahs want to expose you on the day of judgment she said that to

00:16:49.440 him yeah she says that to him please yeah he goes he goes subhanallah he goes he goes you know please

00:16:56.080 you know how much more can i take yeah you know he's uh saying to allahs and he goes i had to take that

00:17:01.600 upon me and like you know i had to swallow it and i had to carry on yeah he goes uh many years passed

00:17:06.560 i had a beautiful daughter six years old he goes he says it there specifically because she was like

00:17:11.200 the moon you know he described as fun and mashallah and basically he goes one day um we came home

00:17:16.720 obviously in the arab country they probably have a guard or something yeah because my daughter ran up

00:17:20.400 to me and it's really getting to me man subhanallah he goes my daughter ran up to me and goes 0.96

00:17:26.000 um the god raped me whoa the god raped can you believe it but subhanallah it was and this is this 0.97

00:17:34.000 is this is what we're trying to say bro yeah you know because in the quran allah subhanallah says 0.99

00:17:38.240 you plan yeah yeah but i plan as well and i am the best of planners and this verse i will catch up

00:17:43.920 on what i'm trying to say yeah because what happened here is this bro the girl he committed zina with

00:17:50.480 had a brother yeah he had to suffer that pain allah subhanallah made the same happen to his sister

00:17:55.680 yeah so he can feel the same thing what happened to the girl's brother yeah that sister was going

00:18:00.320 to get married one day and she was going to have to explain to her husband yeah that she committed

00:18:04.400 zina yeah so allah subhanallah made her marry a woman that's committed zina so he can feel the same

00:18:09.360 pain as what that woman went through that sister had a father how would the father feel man how would

00:18:14.880 the father feel that's why allah subhanallah punished him for his daughter as a father so he can understand

00:18:20.400 that's deep bro that was really really deep man so basically whatever is basically reciprocate

00:18:25.520 it's gonna come back bro it will come back allah subhanallah is jealous of his woman yeah he will

00:18:32.080 vengeance don't think the reason why i said allah subhanallah plans you guys know you plan and allah

00:18:37.280 subhanallah plans and he's the best of planners is because you get these brothers out there saying i

00:18:41.440 check my sister's phone out i see where she's going i follow her she can't do nothing like that 1.00

00:18:45.200 who are you trying to fool who are you trying to fool you know allah subhanallah the almighty man the one

00:18:50.240 who created you you're going to be catching up well i hear stories that sisters they're on lockdown 0.96

00:18:55.680 and they still do it yeah you know when i'm a sister i don't mean like hijabi like no no no no 0.97

00:19:00.880 i'm trying to say they still do it who are you fooling allah subhanallah will punish you yeah you

00:19:05.600 think you're going to go out there and do that to other people's sisters that's not going to happen

00:19:07.840 to you keep dreaming man just keep your dream that's powerful man that's scary man that's scary

00:19:12.960 thoughtful right that's that's the mindset though that we should carry in it zina is such a big thing 0.98

00:19:17.920 when you commit it you're not only transgressing against yourself yes you're transgression yeah

00:19:22.800 you're you're harming someone else as well isn't it it's just very very very powerful very very deep

00:19:28.240 man it's very deep but even though it is deep and even though okay look you did it you don't know and

00:19:34.240 you know what obviously for inshallah from this you do take home that you know what somehow i didn't know

00:19:39.760 okay you didn't know what's the next step then isn't it yeah alhamdulillah you're alive

00:19:44.400 innit yeah you're watching this video if you are if not share it out there's you're still

00:19:49.360 breathing innit you're still alive allah hasn't taken your soul yet yeah the doors of repentance

00:19:53.200 are open yeah you heard it from me and brother gulad guys be real man come back to the real world

00:19:57.920 you know that's why you know it's a reality show you know come back to real life you know valentine's

00:20:02.480 day is coming up don't go around doing silly stuff come on man you don't need that how many how

00:20:07.280 many stories i get man of these relationships too many fam you'll be shocked man yeah yeah like i said guys

00:20:13.280 before you click away just wait for the end of the video because we've got four links that will

00:20:17.360 be interesting part one part two and part three reality show also a little video of brother imran

00:20:21.920 ibn mansur of the nasir sessions uh it'll be straight after the video finish subhanallah thank

00:20:26.240 you very much for watching please subscribe and all i want from sisters out there is to share this

00:20:31.360 video and brothers and try to tag along uh tag some people which can benefit from the video as well

00:20:36.400 just remember though it takes two hands to clap so even though we're brothers coming and all that yeah

00:20:42.400 sisters play a role as well yeah yeah yeah no definitely definitely which we're going to be

00:20:45.520 touching up in the later shows inshallah so assalamualaikum take care

00:20:48.960 assalamualaikum

Ali Dawah - March 18, 2014

THE REALITY 4 ｜｜ I WANT A PIOUS WIFE!!!＂

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