Ali Dawah - UPDATE ON MY MARRIAGE DOCUMENTARY AND....

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00:00:05.280 hope you guys are doing well update on my marriage documentary and I've got one good

00:00:13.800 news for you guys inshallah I'm not gonna keep you guys long gonna quickly wrap it up as you

00:00:18.360 guys know there's been some delays some footage got stolen our car got broken into blah blah blah

00:00:23.160 we are trying our best to get the marriage documentary out for you guys it's very crucial

00:00:28.800 for every single one of you guys to watch and I want to do the best job I can I don't want to

00:00:32.640 rush it put out then you guys don't benefit here I want to do it properly and it's well inshallah

00:00:37.500 so every single one of you guys benefit now just so get things a bit spiced up a bit more excited

00:00:42.540 I'm going to be telling you guys the content that's going to be in there I've told you guys

00:00:45.780 briefly before as well so I'm going to briefly tell you guys about some content I'll be sharing

00:00:50.220 in that video as you guys know the struggles I went through every single one of us go through

00:00:55.200 this looking for the right person I've met many sisters many sisters unfortunately didn't work out

00:00:59.820 lovely sisters may Allah bless them all and give them the best in the hereafter those who I've

00:01:04.740 agreed in disagreed with had some conflicts whatever it may be but we all go through that phase looking

00:01:10.900 for partner over partner meeting meeting meeting not going well not going well when you want to give

00:01:15.120 up you come to a point where you just like I don't want to get married anymore you come across wrong

00:01:18.640 individuals I came across wrong individuals I came across wrong individuals I was asked a weird

00:01:24.980 question which put me off affected my iman I came across racism wanted to marry someone's sister got

00:01:31.220 rejected by the family wanted to marry an Eritrean sister got rejected by the family I had times where

00:01:36.680 I just thought you know what I don't know how much more I can bear it because you know in the times I

00:01:41.360 live in it's hard it's hard I don't have to be real with you guys it's a sexualized environment

00:01:46.180 even me I feared for myself I said look I just want to get married and do this the halal way 1.00

00:01:51.160 do you know what I'm trying to say so I'm going to discuss with you guys how I dealt with it

00:01:54.800 when I came home and something mad happened I was on the mat crying to my lord you know and some

00:02:01.260 people might say okay I'll cry men don't cry cut the rubbish I cried to my lord the one who created me

00:02:06.640 and there's nothing to be ashamed of we all go through struggles how I dealt with it for example

00:02:12.000 financially when I was going through financial struggles and when my family was against me

00:02:16.360 marrying a hijabi not that with me I didn't I didn't say I just want to marry hijabi I preferred 0.87

00:02:22.060 it I got to know sisters who didn't wear the hijab as well but I said look I can help you guys in it

00:02:26.900 etc anyway that was discussed in the marriage documentary I don't want to give too much away

00:02:29.820 yeah so discussing that how I dealt with it how I dealt with my family my dad not wanting me to

00:02:36.460 marry a sister who's a Muslim you know trying to convince him going through madness going through 0.99

00:02:43.580 racism going through financial struggles I'll be discussing with I'll also be discussing istakhara

00:02:48.420 how to do istakhara a lot of us think we know how to do istakhara no we don't we really don't know

00:02:53.480 how to do istakhara I'll be telling you guys step by step when to do istakhara how to do istakhara

00:02:58.900 and what's the procedures what do I ask to make I'll also be discussing that I'll also be telling

00:03:04.780 you guys the madness I went through I got catfish if you guys know what catfish is a sister approached

00:03:10.160 me for marriage using somebody else's pictures but the sister was actually real somebody else's

00:03:16.140 pictures however I'll be telling you guys about the same sister who said that she threw herself

00:03:23.460 out the window yes she said that she threw herself out the window yeah because her family would

00:03:29.880 wasn't allowing us to get married this whole madness of it was crazy right okay I've got someone

00:03:37.640 throwing herself out the window and there's me like it's crazy I'm going to tell you guys that as well

00:03:42.620 yeah also also rejection now one of the biggest things that I personally found it hard is when I'm

00:03:49.920 not compatible with a sister how do I say no it was hard for me or for example dealing with rejection

00:03:56.980 when a sister didn't find me compatible right how do I deal with that rejection and when I'm in

00:04:02.000 rejection people call it rejection but there's I believe there's a greater wisdom behind it do you

00:04:06.740 know what I'm trying to say we shouldn't see it as rejection but a blessing in its format if that

00:04:12.420 makes sense yeah I'll be talking about that how to deal with that I'll also be sharing with you guys

00:04:16.640 yes for example um I will sign up to single Muslim yes I was and I'll be telling you I'll be showing

00:04:23.820 you guys my profile picture yeah you guys got me laughing head off and weird and I was my biography

00:04:29.300 was just like wow I don't know what I was thinking yeah you might be laughing at that I'll be sharing

00:04:33.880 that with you I'll be telling you guys is it good to get to know somebody uh on social media which

00:04:39.200 websites to look for which ones to look out for which ones to stay the hell away from going to marriage

00:04:44.800 events I went to marriage events yes will you sit down four sisters four brothers then my uh the

00:04:49.380 wallies are there as well I went there is it good did it work out I'll be telling that as well with

00:04:53.940 you guys I'll be sharing that with you guys as well also social media can we get to know someone

00:04:58.700 from social media is it safe well me personally I did approach this on social media that I found

00:05:03.420 compatible to myself how did I go about that how did I do that how did I approach them was it right

00:05:08.580 was it good was it bad also approaching people in public for example we live in a society where

00:05:14.880 when I see a sister that I'm interested in yes we should lower our gaze but you're gonna get married 0.80

00:05:19.040 right you know nobody's saying go and get uh you know binoculars and oh yeah do you get what I'm

00:05:23.680 trying to say no but if you see a sister how do I go about the right way well we asked this question

00:05:28.240 to Mufti Menk yes Mufti Menk we asked him in today's age a young brother let's say like myself I feel a bit

00:05:35.320 young yeah how do I go and if I see a sister I like what am I supposed to do follow her to her 0.91

00:05:40.680 house and like go hey hey uncle yeah I just basically followed your daughter from uh bloody 0.91

00:05:45.480 white chapel so yeah boom get a slap in your face yeah how do we go about it can we approach the 0.94

00:05:50.600 sister ourself obviously for marriage purposes only how to go about that secondly secondly also for 1.00

00:05:57.900 sisters if a sister sees a brother that she likes how does she go about it you know should she go

00:06:03.400 approach him should you get somebody else to etc all this Mufti Menk tells us how to go about it

00:06:10.540 also I'll be discussing when things are when you really want to marry someone and it doesn't go

00:06:15.120 right how do you deal with it how do you just rebel no how is the right way to deal with it and lastly

00:06:21.080 but not least these are just some of the contents you know just some some of the content I will also

00:06:24.920 also not all show I'll be also showing you guys my wulema yes I'm going to share with you guys

00:06:31.200 my wulema obviously I'm not going to see my uh wife's face or the family members whatever

00:06:35.980 they'll be able to learn that but you will see a preview of the wulema not a preview but just a

00:06:39.880 little bit of the wulema how it went inshaAllah I'm just going to share that with you guys very

00:06:43.920 briefly that's about it so keep an eye out be patient bear with us inshaAllah so anyways now good news

00:06:52.540 number two swiftly moving on yes now guys as you guys know one of the biggest problems that we have

00:06:59.580 in today's time is going like we have questions we have these questions for example I'm a new reaver

00:07:06.700 I've got tattoos can I remove them is it okay if I keep them do I get a sin for that a sister might come 0.99

00:07:12.460 and say I work at Tesco's sometimes I have to grab pork or alcohol is this permissible a brother

00:07:18.460 I'm a bus driver I sometimes I cannot stop and play the door as a marit or how do I go about it we need

00:07:25.420 these questions answered for example how do we go the right way about divorce also what's the how do you

00:07:31.660 pay zakat what is the correct way to pay how do I calculate it these are questions that all of us ask

00:07:36.860 but we need to go to reliable people to get our answers Allah swt said in the Quran that we need to go to

00:07:42.780 the people of knowledge right the ulama yes we have ulama all around the world but specific ones for

00:07:48.780 example we have we have scholars in Saudi Arabia which we know alhamdulillah and the big ulama may

00:07:54.700 Allah have mercy on them and we go there we have brothers that ask on our behalf but sometimes we

00:07:59.820 need scholars in our own lands we need individuals that we can go up to and ask them this is a problem

00:08:08.140 this is a problem so I've found a little solution right now no I'm not that scholar yeah don't come

00:08:13.820 to me I'm a nobody yeah I'm a zero and I don't need this to be humble I am nobody don't take nothing

00:08:20.540 from me nothing if I come to you and say haram haram haram is that throw it in the bin Ali Dawah is nobody

00:08:27.980 yeah okay so guys the one of the most reliable scholars that we have in the United Kingdom of Shaheeth Mal Haddad right

00:08:38.140 now now guys I want to give you guys now we need to understand because I'm gonna go and approach him

00:08:42.940 and ask these questions you have a right to know who is this sheikh who is he studied under what is

00:08:47.900 his qualifications right you have a right to ask this so I'm going to give you guys a brief introductions

00:08:53.260 which some of you guys if you don't know it much and you don't know these scholars I'm talking about

00:08:56.780 much might fly right over your head but just bear with me so you guys can have an understanding and you

00:09:01.900 can check up these big ulama right sheikh Itham al-addad has studied studied under sheikh

00:09:08.620 Abdullah ibn Aqil right he studied with the sheikh directly for 13 years and when sheikh

00:09:13.340 moved to London he studied on and off 10 years but was always in contact sheikh Abdul ibn Aqil is

00:09:19.020 one of the biggest one of the ulamas in Saudi Arabia may Allah have mercy on him 1.00

00:09:24.060 Shaheeth started studying with him in 1991 onwards for 13 years yeah and also sheikh ibn Aqil would

00:09:34.380 have basically back in those days they would write letters he didn't have no text or email so they

00:09:39.260 would write letters and he would be writing he would write in letters to sheikh Uthaymeen's 0.58

00:09:45.340 sheikh Uthaymeen one of the biggest ulamas yeah of our time one of the biggest ulamas of our time 0.70

00:09:52.380 sheikh Uthaymeen's teacher he's also known so i'm just going to read it out yeah is uh sheikh Abdul Rahman

00:09:57.500 at Saudi right he is the teacher of he's the sheikh of sheikh Uthaymeen yeah too many sheikhs yeah 0.92

00:10:05.020 sheikh Uthaymeen's teacher so Shaheetham's teacher sheikh ibn Aqil would write letters back and

00:10:11.900 forth asking him questions right so this was obviously uh brought to the attention of sheikh

00:10:18.860 Haitham and sheikh Haitham said look why don't we compile these letters because these are questions

00:10:22.860 you know people can benefit so sheikh Haitham was one of the individuals who came up with this idea

00:10:28.540 to compile these letters in a book format this book was widely spread and praised there was amazing

00:10:35.020 positive feedback and was praised by many scholars he was praised by many scholars and one of those was

00:10:40.300 with sheikh Uthaymeen he praised this book yeah subhanAllah so we're talking about an individual

00:10:45.500 Shaheetham had that a book that the letters that he put forth yeah has was praised by sheikh Uthaymeen

00:10:51.900 right and also Shaheetham also studied with uh sheikh uh ibn Jibreel uh he studied uh the book from uh

00:10:58.940 ibn Taymiya called Aakidat Tadmuriya Aakidat Tadmuriya i don't know if i can pronounce that right

00:11:05.180 he they uh completed the book in the lifetime he studied with the uh with the sheikh uh sheikh

00:11:12.380 studied with his uh other teacher sheikh ibn Jibreel for 11 years this is the same sheikh this is the

00:11:19.020 same sheikh in a gathering he pointed out sheikh Haitham and said this man is an alim this man is an

00:11:27.020 alim right and this shows you who sheikh Haitham is right he's been praised by these scholars now obviously

00:11:34.380 may Allah bless all of them but one of the biggest things when i was speaking to sheikh Haitham

00:11:40.380 and generally asking for this introduction in 1992 he studied sheikh Haitham studied with sheikh bin

00:11:46.700 Baz raheem Allah sheikh bin Baz if you guys don't know you need to know who sheikh bin Baz is the one of

00:11:54.540 the biggest ulama of our time sheikh bin Baz may Allah have mercy on him sheikh Haitham studied with him

00:12:00.300 about 11 years 11 years until the sheikh passed away uh and obviously sheikh Haitham moved uh to

00:12:07.100 london and also sheikh Haitham al-hadad studied roughly about one and a half to two years with the

00:12:13.340 current mufti of saudi arabia who's also known as sheikh Abdul Aziz al-Sheikh sheikh Haitham studied also

00:12:18.780 with him his credentials go on further but um i just wanted to give you guys a brief introduction

00:12:24.300 to the sheikh that we are going to be getting these fatwa and these nasiyah from now on with the new

00:12:31.420 series with the new new show so guys i'm going to give you guys an email address i'm going to give you

00:12:37.420 guys an email address where you guys can send all your emails to send your questions to this email

00:12:42.780 address the first one that we received uh so far is from a sister who has two husbands yes you heard it

00:12:50.700 right she's got two husbands we're going to tell you how she fell into that and also sheikh is going 0.98

00:12:55.820 to tell us how she can fix that and not to fall into that again and you guys can benefit of how to

00:13:02.220 go about the right way of divorce so that is going to be our first topic on our first show very soon

00:13:08.380 inshaAllah so guys keep tuning that's about it from me may Allah have mercy on every single one of you

00:13:14.060 guys may Allah grant you guys jannah inshaAllah send your questions in here and we will be giving you

00:13:19.260 your nasiyah inshaAllah and also by the way guys i'm a bit indecisive about what i'm going to call

00:13:24.140 the show yeah the the name of the show so if you have any good ideas comment in the section below

00:13:29.020 i might pick it so guys assalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh may Allah grant every single one of us

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Ali Dawah - January 21, 2017

UPDATE ON MY MARRIAGE DOCUMENTARY AND....

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