Classically Abby - 5 Things You NEED To Know If You're Trying To Get PREGNANT!

00:00:00.000 Hello Classic Crew and welcome to today's video where I'm going to be sharing

00:00:03.540 five things every woman should know when she's trying to conceive.

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00:00:30.580 newsletter at classicallyabby.substack.com. In today's video, I want to talk about trying to

00:00:35.740 get pregnant. I think that talking about getting pregnant can be a little bit uncomfortable for

00:00:40.480 some people, but I am somebody who thinks we should be super open about it, we should talk about the

00:00:45.260 process if we can, and hopefully we can help each other. And I want to give you guys some things I

00:00:50.480 learned when I was trying to conceive that hopefully can help you a little bit and maybe give you some

00:00:55.700 more information. I hope that this video is helpful to you because I think that trying to conceive

00:01:01.960 can be a weird and sort of lonely experience. So I want to talk to you guys about it and hopefully we

00:01:07.260 can open up a conversation. So make sure to leave in the comments any other tips and tricks that you

00:01:12.860 might have for conceiving and let's get into today's video. Number one is figure out what your

00:01:18.620 approach to getting pregnant is like. I think that this is kind of a funny one, but I had this assumption

00:01:24.120 that I was going to be very casual about it. That I would just be like, oh, we'll try, we'll see how

00:01:29.120 we do, we'll just take it easy. That was not my personality at all. It turns out that I was super

00:01:37.080 scientific about it and I really wanted to know the best way, the best times for us to get pregnant,

00:01:43.180 the best methods, like everything that I could learn about trying to conceive, I learned. I read

00:01:48.020 everything. I watched all the videos. I did everything I could to give us the best opportunity

00:01:54.120 to get pregnant quickly. Now you may be somebody who is more casual and just wants to take it easy,

00:01:59.980 but I think it's important that you kind of recognize and go with the flow with who you are.

00:02:05.320 If you're someone who wants to be more casual about it, that's great. It's good to know certain

00:02:10.160 things just so you can be more effective, but it's not bad to be more, have more fun with it and be

00:02:16.460 more casual with it. If you are somebody who wants to be more scientific and rigid, that's also great.

00:02:22.060 Get all the information that you can and then kind of try to relax a bit because it can drive your

00:02:26.360 spouse crazy. But I think it's really important to just kind of know yourself and know your personality

00:02:33.500 and I would say it's good to kind of balance it out a little bit. So if you're somebody who is more

00:02:41.040 like me and who is more like type A when it comes to trying to conceive, also try to bring in the

00:02:46.860 casual nature of it and like the fun nature of it that you guys are doing this fun thing together.

00:02:52.320 And if you are somebody who is more casual about it and doesn't want to take it so seriously and

00:02:56.400 wants to be able to just kind of wing it, maybe read up a little bit just so that you can have the

00:03:02.000 best chance of conceiving. Number two is when to take an ovulation test. So I have done loads of

00:03:10.180 research on this and I'm not a doctor, okay? So of course everything I say in this video, this is

00:03:14.460 just my own research, my own understanding. Ask your doctor if you have any questions. But from my

00:03:19.460 understanding, the best time to take an ovulation test is not first thing in the morning. You actually

00:03:25.460 want to take your ovulation test about four hours after you wake up in the morning. And this is

00:03:31.980 different than a pregnancy test, okay? So a pregnancy test you take first thing in the morning as soon as

00:03:36.800 you wake up because that is when your urine is the most pure. Like it hasn't been watered down by how

00:03:43.260 much you drank that day. And so you can get the most clear result. With an ovulation test, you're

00:03:49.100 looking for a surge in your luteinizing hormone. And that doesn't happen until about four hours after

00:03:55.080 you wake up. Now you don't see this information on the box. On the box, they'll tell you to take it

00:04:01.000 when you wake up. And you might be ovulating that day and then not know it because you took your test

00:04:07.480 too soon. So I used to take two tests a day. I would take one about four hours after I woke up and

00:04:13.260 then I would take one a little bit later in the day. And sometimes I would get a positive ovulation

00:04:18.780 test later in the day than I did in the morning. And that, you know, obviously you want to try when

00:04:25.680 you're ovulating. So it's important to actually know when the best time is to take an ovulation

00:04:32.260 test. Now, if you didn't already know just as far as the best times to conceive, the best time to

00:04:38.180 conceive is right in the middle of your cycle. Technically, you are supposed to, most women 1.00

00:04:44.280 generally will ovulate like day, if you have a 28 day cycle, day 14 would be like the day that you

00:04:50.620 ovulate. So five days before is when you can start trying. So then you can start taking those

00:04:57.280 ovulation tests five days before that midpoint of your cycle. And you can start seeing because

00:05:03.580 sometimes you'll be a little early. Sometimes you'll be a little late. Not everyone is like

00:05:07.640 clockwork. And so sometimes you just kind of have to test to see. So finding out what day you're

00:05:13.780 ovulating can be really helpful to conceiving. Now I will put a link in the description box below

00:05:18.640 to the ovulation strips that we used. It also comes with some cheap pregnancy tests and you can

00:05:25.360 get them on Amazon. It's by a company called MomMed and they are very, very cheap. So if you want to

00:05:32.080 take three ovulation tests in a day, it's not going to be a terrible thing because you have so many

00:05:36.440 extras. And I found that to be very helpful and very useful. And I didn't feel like I was stressing

00:05:41.700 out about using too many ovulation strips. So that is something I recommend having and they're really

00:05:47.420 easy to use. Okay. Number three are the best pregnancy tests. So there are a bunch of pregnancy

00:05:53.980 tests on the market. You can really get from any, any store you can get from like the Dollar Tree,

00:05:59.220 although the Dollar Tree ones never worked for me. And people have said to me that the Dollar Tree

00:06:02.840 ones work. I did not find that to be the case, but you can get them at Walgreens or CVS. And like I

00:06:07.780 said, in that MomMed box, you'll be able to get like cheap pregnancy tests. Now the cheaper the 1.00

00:06:13.200 pregnancy test, the less HCG it will detect in your urine. So HCG is the pregnancy hormone and

00:06:20.280 it's basically, it tells you if you're pregnant. So a cheaper pregnancy test can generally only detect

00:06:26.400 a certain amount of HCG in your urine. And that means you have to wait longer. So you can wait

00:06:31.700 two weeks, like past your missed period, and then you can take the pregnancy test. Now, if you're like

00:06:38.340 me and you're a crazy person, you want to take a pregnancy test as early as possible. The two-week 1.00

00:06:43.740 wait is really, really long. The two-week wait is when you, is from when you try to that missed period,

00:06:49.960 and it can feel like forever. And so I used to want to take pregnancy tests a little bit earlier in my

00:06:56.380 cycle. So if you're like me and you want to be able to test early, the only tests I really liked

00:07:01.080 were first response. First response gets a really accurate reading for a really low HCG level

00:07:08.340 in your urine, and they also are not going to fade over time. So this happened to me, and it made me

00:07:16.120 crazy. I got some other tests that said that they could do early detection, and they were cheap, and

00:07:22.760 they had a blue line on them. I think they were store brand. And I took the test, and it came back

00:07:27.200 positive, and the next day it had faded, and I didn't see the line anymore. And it was like, it just

00:07:32.540 stressed me out. Whereas a first response test, it does not fade. So you can be able to be

00:07:38.320 like, oh no, I was pregnant yesterday, and I'm pregnant today. So I highly recommend first

00:07:44.080 response. They are a little more expensive, but you can get them on Amazon for cheaper.

00:07:48.720 And those are the tests that I liked taking. Number four is the two-week wait itself. So I read

00:07:55.900 a book by Emily Oster called Expecting Better, and I found that book to be great. I highly recommend

00:08:01.960 that during pregnancy. I also recommend it during the time you're trying to conceive. It's just a great

00:08:06.940 book, and it basically tells you the data for a bunch of different things that were told during

00:08:12.540 pregnancy, and it allows you to make an informed decision about what you want to do. So for example,

00:08:18.200 a very famous example is that Emily Oster says, if you have sushi, sushi is generally said to be off

00:08:25.480 limits for pregnant women. But the risk for sushi, if it's not, you know, gas station sushi, is that

00:08:31.260 you're going to get salmonella. Now, salmonella is not good to have. It's not comfortable to have.

00:08:36.000 It makes you feel sick and awful. But it also is not directly harmful to a baby. So if you were to

00:08:43.220 get salmonella, it would make you feel sick, and it wouldn't be good for you. But it's not going to

00:08:47.480 directly harm your baby. Things like listeria or toxoplasmosis are directly harmful to a baby.

00:08:53.640 So those are the things you want to avoid. So things like that. Those are things that are in her book,

00:08:57.540 and they're great. And she doesn't say, that means you should eat sushi. It just means you can make an

00:09:02.260 informed decision. Do you want to get salmonella while you're pregnant? Then maybe don't eat sushi. 0.99

00:09:07.220 If you don't mind the risk, the teeny tiny risk, then you can have sushi. In any case, one of the

00:09:13.920 things in her book that I thought was very helpful was her discussion of the two-week wait. Now, the two-week

00:09:19.420 wait, again, is that period between when you try to conceive and when you have a missed period.

00:09:25.260 And it can feel endless. It's half the month. And so basically, most women decide they are not going

00:09:33.120 to drink at all during those two weeks. But that can make you sort of crazy. Because if you're not

00:09:38.480 conceiving month after month, then those two weeks can really, you're trying to act as if you're

00:09:45.120 pregnant before you are. And then if you're not pregnant, you feel like, well, I guess I should have 0.97

00:09:52.060 just lived my life the last two weeks. So what Emily Oster says, as far as drinking during the

00:09:57.820 two-week wait, is that you're not going to hurt a developing fetus during those two weeks if you

00:10:04.220 have one drink, you know, or have half a drink or anything like that. That's not going to hurt

00:10:09.440 the baby. And I'll let her talk about the science in the book so you can read it. Because I can try and

00:10:13.920 describe it to you, but I'm not going to get it perfectly correct. So I would recommend actually just

00:10:17.860 reading the book. But that gave me peace of mind when we were trying to conceive. Because it just

00:10:24.260 meant that I didn't have to totally alter my life during those two weeks that we were waiting, and

00:10:29.820 then be disappointed. So if you have a glass of wine during your two-week wait, you will not hurt your

00:10:35.780 baby. Last but not least, is how hard it can be to conceive. I think there's this misconception that you

00:10:43.600 can get pregnant like that if you have unprotected sex. And that's just not the case. You have to time 1.00

00:10:50.080 it. You have to time it to the right time where you are ovulating, and things are just meant to be.

00:10:55.760 And even then, even if you got all the timing right, it's something like 33% chance that you'll

00:11:01.620 actually conceive. It's a super low rate. And so it's not as easy as you might think. And I think that

00:11:09.860 it's important for us to know that so that we have good expectations going into trying to conceive,

00:11:16.120 so that we're not totally taken aback when it maybe doesn't happen the first month. But I think

00:11:21.900 it's just important to keep in mind how hard it can be to conceive, because it isn't as easy as you

00:11:27.000 think. And with that in mind, don't assume you can plan when you will have a baby. It doesn't mean

00:11:33.160 that you'll immediately get pregnant as soon as you decide to start trying. And I think that's

00:11:37.080 really, it can be a hard thing to accept because we all want control over our lives and our timelines,

00:11:42.520 but we don't have control over this. So it's very important to recognize that things can take a

00:11:48.540 little bit of time. So that is it for my video today. I hope you guys enjoyed it. Let me know

00:11:54.720 your thoughts in the comments. If you've conceived and you have some good tips and tricks, leave them

00:12:00.220 in the comments below. And if you are trying to conceive but haven't yet, I would love to know if any of

00:12:05.000 these tips are news to you. If you're not already subscribed to my channel, make sure to subscribe

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00:12:19.000 much for watching, and I'll see you guys in my next video. Bye!

Classically Abby - April 28, 2022

5 Things You NEED To Know If You're Trying To Get PREGNANT!

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