How I Stayed Ladylike EVEN At College!
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Summary
In this episode, we re talking about how I stayed classic on a not classic college campus and why it s important to stay classic even in situations where you don t feel like you re sticking out like a sore thumb.
Transcript
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Hello Classic Crew and welcome to today's video where we're going to be talking about how I
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stayed classic on a not classic college campus. So it's officially September which means that
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so many of you guys are going back to school and I remember when I was going to college
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it was really difficult to stay classic. College is not the place for this. For a lot of people
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college is an excuse to act like you're at summer camp all year long. You don't have any parental
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supervision, you're hanging around with your friends all day every day and it's an excuse
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not to be classic. So I think that it's a really important thing to try to keep in mind how to be
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classic even when you're in a situation that isn't conducive to that sort of behavior. Now if you've
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been on my channel for a long time you know what classic means but for those of you who are new
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classic means being the best version of yourself, holding to traditional values, and presenting
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yourself in the best way possible. We like to view things realistically as classic women and in doing
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so we are able to live our happiest and most fulfilled lives. So this can be something you aim
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for in high school, in college, at any point in your life but today we're going to focus on those of you
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who are going back to school and want to stay classic. So here is how I stayed classic in college.
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Now disclaimer, I was not as classic in my high school and college years as I am now. It's something
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that I'm very open about on my channel that I really had to learn to be this classic version of
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myself and I think that's a great thing because it shows that this is a process for all of us and
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it's something that you're not just born with. It is something that can be learned and so even though
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in my college years there were a lot of times and there were a lot of ways that I was classic there
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were some ways that I weren't and I've constantly tried to improve myself over the years. So if you
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are feeling a little overwhelmed or like maybe you're not as classic as you would like to be now
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don't worry you are not alone. I was there. It's a process. Before we get into today's video make sure
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to subscribe to my Substack newsletter where you will get access to my exclusive podcast Classically
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Abbey alive as well as my book club and a bunch of other awesome things. So I would love if you
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would join us over there and let's get into today's video. Number one is dress like a lady not like a
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schlub. When I was in college the people who put in effort stood out. I would say maybe 90% of people
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really didn't put an effort into their looks and didn't put an effort into their clothing and often
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it looked like they had just rolled out of bed. Being classic means recognizing how important a
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first impression is. You do not have a second chance at a first impression. So that means that you really
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have to put effort into the way that you look and into the way that you dress. So I remember in college
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I was constantly asked where I was going because I wore dresses a lot and that wasn't something that
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people wore. Most of the time people were wearing leggings and kind of a schlubby sweatshirt or something
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like that and even taking the simple step of putting on an easy dress made a huge difference.
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So taking the time to present yourself well, brush your hair in the morning, put on a little bit of
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mascara, put on a pretty dress or a cute outfit that you feel good about, those are going to be things
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that are actually going to really leave a lasting impression on your colleagues, on your teachers,
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and make you feel good about yourself. I constantly talk about how important it is to take care of
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yourself physically because that's something that actually goes along with good mental health
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and taking care of yourself, taking care of your appearance, those are things that are just going
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to make you feel better and actually accomplish what you want in the long run. Now if you feel
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like you're sticking out like a sore thumb a bit, don't worry about it because the fact of the matter
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is no one is not going to be your friend because you're dressed well. You might just kind of end up
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with that persona of somebody who does dress well and I always loved that. I always loved being the person
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who is known for wearing cute outfits and I loved that. So don't worry about it. Just because you
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aren't the norm doesn't mean that that's a bad thing. It's actually a great thing especially if
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you look and feel your best. Number two is don't treat dating frivolously. When I was in college I did
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not treat dating frivolously. Everyone on college campuses is trained to think that they should be
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going out and hooking up and hanging out with people in a way that doesn't lead to relationships
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and I was out there trying to date for marriage which meant I didn't date very much to be honest
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but it meant that when I did date it was actually for a purpose and I didn't waste my time. I didn't
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get hurt. I didn't end up in situations that were really devastating. I think it's really important
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to take yourself seriously and give respect to yourself by not putting your body out there in
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the way that everyone else is going to be encouraging you to do on a college campus. Dating for fun is
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never actually fun. It ends up being really messy and painful. So dating for marriage, dating seriously,
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that is going to keep you classic, keep you feeling your best and make sure that you are really being
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true to what's best for you. Number three is don't do drugs. I did not touch drugs in college. I've
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never touched drugs so it's not like much has changed but I didn't do drugs in college. I really
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didn't drink in college either and I am so glad I did not touch those things because people make
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the worst decisions when they are high or drunk and away from home. It's so easy to get wrapped up
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in things when you are inebriated and you don't want to be caught in a situation that you're not
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in control of when you aren't around people that you can trust. It's just a terrible idea and not
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only that, even if you're in a safe situation, doing drugs and drinking a lot ends up getting in the way
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of why you're at school. You're at school to learn. You're at school to make friends and socialize
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but not to waste your time by letting yourself get totally out of control. And again, it is so easy
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in college to get caught up in the culture which does encourage drinking and drugs. But being a
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classic woman means saying no to those things and recognizing that it's most important for you to
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study hard, make friends, and stay collected. And those are things that you can't do if you are
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high or drunk. Number four is stay close with your family. When I was in college, I stayed really close
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with my parents. I stayed close with my family. I lived at home for the first couple of years. And
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I'm so glad that I did. I think that a lot of the time, again, people get caught up in the culture of
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college campuses, which is kind of like summer camp. No one is going to be telling me what to do.
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I have no responsibilities. And it's so important to retain that support system from home.
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So even if you're not living close to home, make sure to have regular calls with your parents. Make
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sure to stay in touch with your siblings. And they'll also remind you of what is important.
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Because when you're at college, everyone there is still trying to figure themselves out. And a lot
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of them want to break away from what they're coming from. And so if they're totally starting from scratch,
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they're going to be judgy of you if you feel like the traditional values you grew up with are
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actually good and important. So it's good to call your parents and check in. It's good to call your
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siblings and check in and have that support system of the people who love you and care about you and
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want to see you grow and be happy. And you know that you can always depend on your family. So stay
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in touch with your family. Make sure you don't let yourself get caught up in the craziness that is a
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college campus. And in doing that, you'll stay classic. Last but not least is work your hardest.
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When you're at college, it's easy to get caught up in the idea that college is not about your work.
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It's not about studying. It's about socializing and having friends and doing all of the stupid
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things that people do when they think there are no consequences. But the fact of the matter is
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that you can have a great social life and work hard at school. And you should definitely work
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at having both of those things. If you have no social life, you'll be unhappy and it won't be good
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for you either. But you should try to take advantage of this time in your life where you're actually
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getting to learn things that will benefit you in the future. So going to your classes, studying for
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your tests, writing your papers, learning and finding knowledge in things that are actually
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important and that will inform your work later, that is invaluable. I loved school when I was in
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college. I worked really hard. I went to all of my classes unless it was a Jewish holiday. I was
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always studying for my tests. I wrote all my papers. And I think I came out of college feeling
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really confident in what I'd learned. And that was huge to me. I didn't want to go to college,
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come out with a degree that I didn't care about and I hadn't worked for. And I got my degree in
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operatic performance. And it was something I loved. And I felt really equipped to be an opera singer
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in the world. And I think a big part of that was because I worked so hard and because I cared about
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the topics. So let your college experience be fun and social, but make sure that you're actually
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doing the work. Because being a classic woman, as we know, is about being the best version of you.
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And the best version of yourself is the version of yourself that takes the time to learn. So work
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your hardest because at the end of the day, you're never going to regret having done your best in
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school. So that's it for today's video. Let me know if you are going back to school this fall.
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I'd love to hear. I'd love to know what you guys are most excited for for this fall semester.
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Thank you so much for watching. Make sure you're subscribed to my Substack newsletter if you are
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as well as my book club and some other awesome opportunities. If you aren't already following
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me on social media, it's at Classically Abbey absolutely everywhere. Thank you so much for
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watching, and I'll see you guys in my next video. Bye!