Men, STOP Hooking Up ｜｜ A Jewish wife talks about sex!
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Summary
If everyone could just wait until they got married, the world would be a much better place. In many ways, not hooking up is harder for men and it s a lot harder to get across to them why it s bad for them.
Transcript
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Hello Classic Crew and welcome to today's video where we're going to be talking about why men
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should stop hooking up. I did a video entitled Ladies, Stop Hooking Up a few months ago. After
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making that video, many angry people said that I had different standards for men and for women,
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that I thought men could sleep around while women should wait. Here's the deal, both men
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and women should stop hooking up. Honestly, if everyone could just wait until they got married,
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the world would be a much better place. So men, here's my advice to you. Stop hooking up. In many
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ways, not hooking up is harder for men and it's a lot harder to get across to them why it's bad for
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them. There appear to be only positives and upsides to it because the immediate negative consequences
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aren't as obvious. But just because you can have sex in a way that seems like it's carefree
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doesn't mean that's actually the case. You might think that you'll have street cred if you sleep
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with a certain number of women. That's a bunch of lies. First of all, sleeping with a certain number
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of women to prove to your male friends that you can keep up is a useless endeavor. The same guys who
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care or would be impressed with your number are the same guys who don't deserve your respect in the
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first place. And at the end of the day, it won't make people like you. It will rot your relationships
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and poison your friendships. Being confident in who you are, personable, fun, and charming will make
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you cooler and more popular than any number of women that you sleep with would. Second, a good
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woman would love to be with a man who saved himself for marriage and for her. She will know that you
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take sex seriously enough to wait for the right person. There's a male fear that if you're a virgin,
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it would indicate that you have no appeal or that you're bad at sex. That's not the way it works.
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A woman won't think that no woman would sleep with you. She will think that you had options
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and still made the harder choice. Good women want a good man. And if you're confident in your choice
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to wait until marriage, it will only reflect well on you. Plus, when you get married, now you get to
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learn how to have sex together. And that's a beautiful opportunity for you both. And hopefully,
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since you'll be married your whole lives, you'll have plenty of time to figure out how to have a great
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sex life. Third, having multiple partners before marriage does not add to your relationship. It
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opens the door to comparisons, jealousies, and other drama, especially if one or both of the
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partners has a history of no-strings-attached hookups. And even though those feelings can be
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dealt with, it's easier when they're not there to begin with. You might think there won't be any
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consequences regarding pregnancy if you sleep with someone because, hey, you're a man. Guess
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what? You are responsible for the child that you helped to create, even if you're not the one
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carrying it. And that child will change the course of your life. And choosing to end that child's life
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through abortion is not a solution. You will still carry the death of your unborn child with you.
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Taking the life of your own child so that you can continue to sleep around promiscuously
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is a horrific way to live. You might think that you won't catch feelings if you sleep around.
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Even if you don't catch feelings, you're training yourself to think of sex as no more than a
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physical act. You are training yourself to view it as eating or going to the bathroom or any other
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physical need you just have to fulfill. You are losing all of the more important and beautiful
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aspects of being intimate. Also, you are sleeping with another person and it's not all about you.
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You might be leading this woman on or giving her the wrong idea, and that's just plain wrong.
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You might think that you just like sex and you want to do it no matter what.
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STDs, pregnancy scares, hurting women who actually care about you, treating sex like a
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compulsion, and losing out on the opportunity to meet the right woman isn't fun. Hooking up is wasting
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your time. It's like endlessly scrolling on Twitter, swiping on Tinder, or playing video games mindlessly
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for hours on end. You are titillating yourself for the surge of dopamine that takes meaning out of
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your life. Let's be honest. Getting married is one of the most important choices you can make in your
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life. It sets you on the path of meaning. It's vindicating to love and be loved by someone who
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you would give everything to and who would do the same for you. People think of marriage as something
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for the future. They say they're too selfish to get married or too immature or they're just not ready
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for such a huge commitment. You may have used these excuses yourself or you've definitely heard a
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friend say them. But here's the truth. You don't flip a switch that tells you that you're ready to
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get married. You don't flip a switch at 30 or when you've slept with a certain number of women or at
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any other life milestone and know that it's time for you to settle down. Your own mentality and the
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choices that you make are the only things that can prepare you to get married. You have to take the
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steps to make you capable of marriage. And that starts with stopping hooking up. Because hooking up
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doesn't just stop you from moving forward. It actively moves you back. Now here's the thing.
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Sex is awesome. I can say that as a married woman. But sex before marriage sucks. Even if you want to
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say it's fun, it means nothing, leads to nothing, and prolongs those relationships that don't have a
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future. Having sex before marriage is irresponsible and sad. Don't lose out on the women who you might
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actually have a future with by casually sleeping with the women who you know are not right for you.
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Don't lose out on what sex can really mean to you by bringing sex to its basest level. The more you
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treat sex like another bodily need, the more difficult it will be for you to turn it into something more
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when you really love someone. Some feminists say that women should act more like men and hook up in
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the same way that men do. But here's the truth. Men should act more like women. Treat sex with the
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respect it deserves. Don't waste your time sleeping around and treating sex like it's just another
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bodily need. Don't waste your time sleeping around instead of finding someone to spend your life with
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and actually moving your life forward. Don't waste your time sleeping around and becoming a stagnant
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version of yourself who doesn't grow or change but instead stays treating sex like a cool new toy
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instead of a God-given gift. Marriage doesn't just happen to you. It's something you build your life
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towards and prepare yourself for. And when something as great as marriage is waiting for you, you want
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to start making yourself ready as soon as possible. So if you actually want to be a good man and have a
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good relationship, stop hooking up and be the kind of man that any woman would want as a husband.
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