Classically Abby - November 11, 2020


Men, STOP Hooking Up ｜｜ A Jewish wife talks about sex!

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Abby Shapiro
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Length

6 minutes

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Word count

1,365

Sentence count

92

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Misogyny

9

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Toxicity

4

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12

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If everyone could just wait until they got married, the world would be a much better place. In many ways, not hooking up is harder for men and it s a lot harder to get across to them why it s bad for them.

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00:00:00.000 Hello Classic Crew and welcome to today's video where we're going to be talking about why men
00:00:05.460 should stop hooking up. I did a video entitled Ladies, Stop Hooking Up a few months ago. After 1.00
00:00:14.680 making that video, many angry people said that I had different standards for men and for women,
00:00:19.740 that I thought men could sleep around while women should wait. Here's the deal, both men 1.00
00:00:24.800 and women should stop hooking up. Honestly, if everyone could just wait until they got married, 1.00
00:00:31.340 the world would be a much better place. So men, here's my advice to you. Stop hooking up. In many
00:00:38.180 ways, not hooking up is harder for men and it's a lot harder to get across to them why it's bad for
00:00:43.380 them. There appear to be only positives and upsides to it because the immediate negative consequences
00:00:48.860 aren't as obvious. But just because you can have sex in a way that seems like it's carefree
00:00:53.980 doesn't mean that's actually the case. You might think that you'll have street cred if you sleep
00:00:58.840 with a certain number of women. That's a bunch of lies. First of all, sleeping with a certain number 0.99
00:01:03.860 of women to prove to your male friends that you can keep up is a useless endeavor. The same guys who 0.99
00:01:09.120 care or would be impressed with your number are the same guys who don't deserve your respect in the
00:01:14.320 first place. And at the end of the day, it won't make people like you. It will rot your relationships
00:01:19.360 and poison your friendships. Being confident in who you are, personable, fun, and charming will make
00:01:25.700 you cooler and more popular than any number of women that you sleep with would. Second, a good 1.00
00:01:31.160 woman would love to be with a man who saved himself for marriage and for her. She will know that you
00:01:36.700 take sex seriously enough to wait for the right person. There's a male fear that if you're a virgin,
00:01:41.920 it would indicate that you have no appeal or that you're bad at sex. That's not the way it works.
00:01:47.260 A woman won't think that no woman would sleep with you. She will think that you had options 1.00
00:01:52.480 and still made the harder choice. Good women want a good man. And if you're confident in your choice 0.93
00:01:59.040 to wait until marriage, it will only reflect well on you. Plus, when you get married, now you get to
00:02:04.900 learn how to have sex together. And that's a beautiful opportunity for you both. And hopefully,
00:02:10.180 since you'll be married your whole lives, you'll have plenty of time to figure out how to have a great
00:02:15.700 sex life. Third, having multiple partners before marriage does not add to your relationship. It
00:02:21.520 opens the door to comparisons, jealousies, and other drama, especially if one or both of the
00:02:27.020 partners has a history of no-strings-attached hookups. And even though those feelings can be
00:02:31.700 dealt with, it's easier when they're not there to begin with. You might think there won't be any
00:02:35.720 consequences regarding pregnancy if you sleep with someone because, hey, you're a man. Guess
00:02:40.280 what? You are responsible for the child that you helped to create, even if you're not the one
00:02:45.740 carrying it. And that child will change the course of your life. And choosing to end that child's life
00:02:51.160 through abortion is not a solution. You will still carry the death of your unborn child with you. 0.79
00:02:56.320 Taking the life of your own child so that you can continue to sleep around promiscuously
00:03:00.740 is a horrific way to live. You might think that you won't catch feelings if you sleep around.
00:03:05.760 Even if you don't catch feelings, you're training yourself to think of sex as no more than a
00:03:10.620 physical act. You are training yourself to view it as eating or going to the bathroom or any other
00:03:15.660 physical need you just have to fulfill. You are losing all of the more important and beautiful
00:03:20.760 aspects of being intimate. Also, you are sleeping with another person and it's not all about you.
00:03:26.020 You might be leading this woman on or giving her the wrong idea, and that's just plain wrong.
00:03:30.680 You might think that you just like sex and you want to do it no matter what.
00:03:34.260 STDs, pregnancy scares, hurting women who actually care about you, treating sex like a 0.99
00:03:40.100 compulsion, and losing out on the opportunity to meet the right woman isn't fun. Hooking up is wasting 0.84
00:03:46.460 your time. It's like endlessly scrolling on Twitter, swiping on Tinder, or playing video games mindlessly
00:03:52.920 for hours on end. You are titillating yourself for the surge of dopamine that takes meaning out of
00:03:59.100 your life. Let's be honest. Getting married is one of the most important choices you can make in your
00:04:04.680 life. It sets you on the path of meaning. It's vindicating to love and be loved by someone who
00:04:10.920 you would give everything to and who would do the same for you. People think of marriage as something
00:04:15.740 for the future. They say they're too selfish to get married or too immature or they're just not ready
00:04:20.880 for such a huge commitment. You may have used these excuses yourself or you've definitely heard a
00:04:25.740 friend say them. But here's the truth. You don't flip a switch that tells you that you're ready to
00:04:30.340 get married. You don't flip a switch at 30 or when you've slept with a certain number of women or at
00:04:34.640 any other life milestone and know that it's time for you to settle down. Your own mentality and the
00:04:40.000 choices that you make are the only things that can prepare you to get married. You have to take the
00:04:44.900 steps to make you capable of marriage. And that starts with stopping hooking up. Because hooking up 0.64
00:04:51.160 doesn't just stop you from moving forward. It actively moves you back. Now here's the thing.
00:04:57.960 Sex is awesome. I can say that as a married woman. But sex before marriage sucks. Even if you want to 0.99
00:05:04.540 say it's fun, it means nothing, leads to nothing, and prolongs those relationships that don't have a
00:05:10.620 future. Having sex before marriage is irresponsible and sad. Don't lose out on the women who you might 1.00
00:05:16.480 actually have a future with by casually sleeping with the women who you know are not right for you.
00:05:22.280 Don't lose out on what sex can really mean to you by bringing sex to its basest level. The more you
00:05:27.820 treat sex like another bodily need, the more difficult it will be for you to turn it into something more
00:05:32.660 when you really love someone. Some feminists say that women should act more like men and hook up in 1.00
00:05:38.800 the same way that men do. But here's the truth. Men should act more like women. Treat sex with the 1.00
00:05:45.080 respect it deserves. Don't waste your time sleeping around and treating sex like it's just another 0.96
00:05:50.340 bodily need. Don't waste your time sleeping around instead of finding someone to spend your life with
00:05:55.560 and actually moving your life forward. Don't waste your time sleeping around and becoming a stagnant
00:06:01.320 version of yourself who doesn't grow or change but instead stays treating sex like a cool new toy 0.92
00:06:07.320 instead of a God-given gift. Marriage doesn't just happen to you. It's something you build your life
00:06:13.160 towards and prepare yourself for. And when something as great as marriage is waiting for you, you want
00:06:18.760 to start making yourself ready as soon as possible. So if you actually want to be a good man and have a
00:06:24.620 good relationship, stop hooking up and be the kind of man that any woman would want as a husband. 0.72
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