Classically Abby - Why YOU Should Dress Modestly ｜｜ Get the attention you deserve!

00:00:00.000 Hello beautiful ladies and welcome to today's video where we're going to be 1.00

00:00:03.800 talking about modesty, why it's important, and why it doesn't mean looking like 0.83

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00:00:12.400 Modesty. It's a concept that some women truly hate. It's also a concept that a lot of 1.00

00:00:17.600 women embrace. First off, what is it? Modesty is dressing in a way that doesn't 0.99

00:00:22.920 sexualize your body. I get the appeal of not wanting to dress modestly all the

00:00:26.800 time. Even for those of us who do dress modestly, sometimes it's hard. It's fun

00:00:31.680 to dress in a way that makes you desirable. It's fun to be noticed. But the

00:00:36.120 question is, who do you want to be desirable to? And do you want to be

00:00:40.280 noticed for being beautiful or being sexy? Modesty is about treating your body with

00:00:45.700 respect. It's about recognizing reality, that men are visual creatures, not

00:00:50.820 emotional ones. It's about leaving things to the imagination. It's about dressing

00:00:55.180 beautifully and attractively, but not garishly. It's about embracing femininity.

00:01:00.340 And it's about dressing in public in a way that's appropriate for everyone, from

00:01:04.840 children to grandparents to moms and dads. Modesty is a way for you to respect

00:01:10.240 yourself and respect others. When you go to the park and you're surrounded by

00:01:14.260 families with children, is it fair to dress in a way that's distracting? No.

00:01:18.580 Instead, dress in a way that's appropriate for the occasion. When you meet a guy and

00:01:23.300 immediately have a connection, you have one chance to make an impression. Do you want

00:01:27.920 him to leave having your body at the forefront of his mind or you as a person?

00:01:32.240 If you are wearing something incredibly revealing, it will be difficult for him

00:01:36.380 to focus on your personality. Instead, he might be focusing on your physical appeal.

00:01:41.300 Of course there are men who will look at you this way no matter what. But more men

00:01:45.500 will think of you as a sex object if you dress like one than if you dress like a 0.99

00:01:49.280 lady. Does that mean you should look like garbage when you meet someone? Absolutely 1.00

00:01:53.420 not. You should look attractive. But if you're dressing immodestly, you're not

00:01:57.860 leaving anything to his imagination. And you're not giving him an opportunity to

00:02:02.040 get to know you. I'm guessing you don't want to attract the kind of man who is

00:02:05.660 only looking to spend one night with you. But when you dress immodestly, men are

00:02:09.920 wired to have one thing on the brain. When you go to a work meeting, do you want to

00:02:14.580 have cleavage and leg showing? No. You want the people there to listen to you and 1.00

00:02:19.200 engage with your ideas, not your sexuality. Dressing modestly is such a

00:02:24.120 feminine thing to do because it accentuates your figure instead of 1.00

00:02:27.660 revealing it. And here's the thing. You can dress modestly and beautifully. There

00:02:33.660 are so many examples of this. Look at Kate Middleton, Michelle Obama, and Ivanka Trump.

00:02:39.180 Nobody looks at them and thinks, wow, they're frumpy. But in today's day and age

00:02:44.640 where everything goes, it's hard to know what's modest and what's not. Women like 1.00

00:02:49.920 JLo and Shakira dancing in sparkly leotards and being praised for their

00:02:53.680 bodies doesn't really help either. Because at 50 years old, do you want to be 0.66

00:02:58.140 trying to be praised for your body or praised for your family, for your body, or

00:03:02.700 for your wisdom? Treating your sexiness like it's your best feature is a losing

00:03:06.940 battle because time always wins. And now you're competing with other women too. So

00:03:12.040 what's the difference between beauty and sexiness? Beauty is both inside and out. 0.97

00:03:16.900 It's about how your soul shines through your eyes and through your smile. It's

00:03:21.280 about how your external features complement your personality. Sexiness is

00:03:25.780 just about your body. Modesty reminds us what's important. Of course, it's amazing

00:03:31.600 to keep in shape. It's amazing to work out and stay fit. But I hope that when I'm 50,

00:03:36.820 people are talking about my accomplishments as a mother, as a wife, and as

00:03:41.260 a woman with values, not my muscle tone. So what does modesty really mean? It means

00:03:46.580 not wearing something that shows off every curve and crevice of your body when

00:03:51.060 it might be better off left in the bedroom. It means not wearing something

00:03:54.520 that could easily be mistaken for lingerie. It means not wearing something

00:03:58.480 you'd be embarrassed to see your family in. I get the pull toward wanting to dress

00:04:02.460 immodestly, and I'm not criticizing anyone for it. I'm just offering you an

00:04:07.120 alternative. So ladies, let's be classic, and let's dress like the ladies we are. I'm

00:04:12.840 hoping to do some more videos on how to dress modestly and fashionably, what the

00:04:17.100 difference is between beauty and sexiness, and why making everything about

00:04:20.880 sexiness isn't good for society as a whole. Let me know what you guys think in

00:04:25.080 the comments. I'd love to hear your thoughts. Thank you guys so much for

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Classically Abby - April 17, 2020

Why YOU Should Dress Modestly ｜｜ Get the attention you deserve!

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