You Want To Be A BRIDGERTON Lady？？ You Can Be A Lady RIGHT NOW.
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In this episode, I talk about why everyone is obsessed with Bridgerton and how you can incorporate that kind of thing into your life right now. I also talk about how being a lady never goes out of style and why you don t need to be a lady.
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Hello, Classic Crew, and welcome to today's video where we're going to be talking about
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why everyone is obsessed with Bridgerton and how you can incorporate that kind of thing into your
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life right now. If you've scrolled on Instagram, you've probably seen a ton of reels that are all
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kind of inspired by Bridgerton, and they're all the idea that somebody watched Bridgerton and
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then realized that that's how they wanted to live their life. They love the idea of being a character
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in Bridgerton or dressing like Bridgerton or anything else from the show. Now, I've watched
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Bridgerton, and it happens in sort of a fictional history of the Regency era, and there are things
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about the show that I really liked, and there were things about the show that I didn't think were very
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appropriate. There are very many inappropriate sex scenes, so just as a warning for those of you who
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haven't seen the show. But anything Regency era is very kind of romantic and inspiring, and so many
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of the videos that I've been watching have made me think that women think that this stuff is really
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entirely out of their reach when you can be a lady right now, and you can kind of have the modern
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version of a Regency era romance right now, and that you can act like a very fancy lady right now.
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All of these things are entirely available to us, and just because there is something very fanciful
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about the Regency era doesn't mean that we can't bring that into our lives today. Now, I really
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believe that there is something so special about being a lady, and that we have the capability to
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be ladies today, in 2021. Now, does that mean that we get to wear the beautiful Regency era gowns and
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have somebody do our hair whenever we want? No. But it does mean that we have the flexibility to
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incorporate that kind of thing into our everyday lives. The thing is that being a lady never goes out
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of style. And when you watch these sort of reels and TikToks showing women embracing their femininity
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and embracing the idea of being a lady, it makes me sad to think that the culture has eschewed lady-like
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behavior and being a lady and being dressed up and fancy and all of those things as patriarchal
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or oppressive or even just out of fashion. The fact is, women love this stuff. That's why Bridgerton
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does so well. That's why all of these women are making these videos. So I wanted to share with
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you a few different reasons why Bridgerton is so popular, how you can incorporate this kind of thing
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into your modern day life, and why being a lady is pretty dang awesome, if you ask me. So let's get
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into it. The first thing I want to mention is the music in Bridgerton. What they did for the music in
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Bridgerton was that they actually took a bunch of modern day songs by artists that you know and
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recognize, and they turned them into classical music. They made classical versions of those songs.
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And so when you watch these TikToks or reels on Instagram, a lot of the music that you're hearing
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is the classical version of Thank You Next by Ariana Grande or something like that. And the thing for me
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is, I think people are so intimidated by classical music, but this is a perfect example of why you don't
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need to be. The reason that people love the music from Bridgerton is because they already know the
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tunes. It's not that classical music in and of itself is scary. It's that it can be overwhelming
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to be introduced to not only a new style of music, but also new melodies. The way that they turned
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new songs into classical versions of themselves is actually a great way to introduce people to
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classical music. Because then you're not totally freaked out by the new kind of style, that classical
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style with only instruments like a violin or a cello that maybe you don't hear every day, since you
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already know the melody. And that really does make it so much less intimidating. Classical music, as an
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opera singer, you guys know, I love classical music. And I think that there is so much potential
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for people to really learn to love it. Because the fact of the matter is that classical music isn't in
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and of itself scary. It's just that people are not familiar and they feel bad for being overwhelmed.
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When you first try and learn something entirely new, you really do have to take baby steps. And so I
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actually think it's a really cool thing that they did that. They kind of remind me of that band Two
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Cellos, who I've seen in concert, who take new songs and they play them on the cello. And it's just a way to
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introduce people to instrumentation and classical music. So the way that you can incorporate this into
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your life is you can listen to classical music. Now that you've heard it and you like it and you
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kind of think it's fun, you'll be able to approach classical music with a little bit less fear. And
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once you listen to it a little bit, you'll be able to listen to it a little bit more. And then you'll
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eventually be listening to it a lot. And it really does make you feel classic and elegant. Having
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classical music on while you study, or having classical music on while you read, or
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having classical music on while you are eating dinner with your husband or your fiancé or your
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boyfriend or your family. All of those things really do bring a tad of elegance into your home
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and will make you feel just that little bit more Bridgerton appropriate, if you know what I mean. So
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I think that this is something that can be incorporated into your life in 2021 so easily.
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This is not something that only existed in the Regency era. And you can totally have that
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in 2021. Like that is so available to us. How lucky are we that we get to be able to pull up Spotify
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and find every single classical music piece that's ever been written? It's pretty awesome. So
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take advantage. We get to do it. And just like they have in Bridgerton, we get that opportunity too.
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Number two is having good manners and acting like a lady. One of the things that you'll see on these
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Instagram reels and TikToks is people going from, oh, I watched Bridgerton to, hello, grab the carriage
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and, oh yes, please, turn the channel down. And, oh yes, please, I'd love a glass of sherry. You know,
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that kind of thing. Because there's something really fun about seeing people act in a way that
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sort of seems foreign to us. It's like very formalized. But the fact is, it doesn't have to be
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formal to be ladylike. Having good manners never goes out of fashion and it will only ever help you.
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I think acting like a lady is something that was entirely appropriate in the Regency era and in
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Bridgerton and is something that can totally be transferred into our daily lives nowadays. Being
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eloquent and thoughtful about the things that we say, addressing people with respect, and having a
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little bit of formality in the right situations is a really wonderful thing. It makes you feel
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a little bit more grand. And it's not to say that you are better than anybody else. It's just to say
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that you feel like you can be taken seriously. And I love that. I think acting like a lady makes me
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feel like I have so much worth. And I think that that is an invaluable thing for women from the time
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that they're nine to the time that they're 99. Women always should feel like they are special,
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like they have worth. And acting with good manners, acting like a lady, bringing attention to detail,
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acting like a lady is something that is frowned upon in today's day and age when it absolutely
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shouldn't be. Being a lady is so important because it shows pride in what we can do and how we behave.
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And I think that is incredibly lovely. Number three is the romantic tension in Bridgerton that everyone
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is longing for. The main reason for this tension is that everyone in Bridgerton is dating for marriage.
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Now, I'm not saying that there are not issues in that era where people were getting set up with
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people who they didn't want to marry and then kind of forced to marry them. I am not saying that any of
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that is a good thing. But what I'm talking about is the idea that people took marriage seriously and
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took dating seriously. And when you are dating for marriage, that tension that exists in a show like
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Bridgerton or even in a movie like Pride and Prejudice exists now in a good way. Not the bad
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kind of tension, but the good kind of romantic tension. The kind of tension that builds because
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you know that this is building towards something and it's exciting and it's new and it's taking a
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relationship in the right order as opposed to Tinder dating and swiping and hooking up with a bunch
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of different people and not building romantic tension in the same way. The reason that a hand
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touch or taking someone's arm in a Pride and Prejudice kind of movie or in Bridgerton is so
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romantic is because they take touching seriously. They treat it with the respect it deserves. The
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relationship between men and women has weight. And I think that that is something that is so well
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played out in a show like Bridgerton. And the reason there's romantic tension in a show like
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Bridgerton is because these things are taken seriously. Now this can be brought into nowadays
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because we can date for marriage. As somebody who is a proponent of dating for marriage, I know that
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romantic tension builds in a similar way. When you're dating for fun and you're not taking any of it
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seriously, the romantic tension is there but it's very different. It's not in the same way as a show
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like Bridgerton where dating really does matter. And that is something I think that you can very easily
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bring in today's day and age and maybe you'll have that same sort of romantic tension as they do on
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Bridgerton. Even though I don't like that there are a lot of sex scenes in Bridgerton, one of the things
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I think people are into about the show is the fact that Daphne, who is one of the main characters,
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is a virgin on her wedding night and how romantic it is for her. Hello! Of course we can bring this into
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today's day and age. As somebody who is a proponent of waiting until marriage, you can have that same
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experience. Daphne's character is incredibly sheltered and I honestly think that that intimate scene,
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which I'm not a proponent of watching, is very inaccurate to what probably would have actually
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been her experience as someone who had no idea what was going on. I would probably guess that she'd be
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giggling quite a bit more than she was in that scene. But in any case, it is so special to wait
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until marriage and to share that experience with your husband for the first time and to know that
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when you do have sex for the first time, you're doing it with someone who is committed to you,
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mind, body, and soul. And that is something I think is incredibly important and also makes it look
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very attractive on this show. Now, again, not a great thing that she really doesn't know anything
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going into it. Not a proponent of that. I think that women should definitely know how all that
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works and what to expect. I don't think women should be kept in the dark. That's not what I'm a
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proponent of. But I do think that the idea of waiting until marriage is really special and the idea
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that, yes, women who watch the show are going to look at it and think, wow, that's really special,
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that the two of them share this experience together, even though he has had his many experiences.
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I'm not a huge fan of that. But the idea that for her it was so special, I think that that is
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something that we can totally live out in today's day and age. And you can take kind of inspiration
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from Bridgerton to find romance for yourself by waiting until marriage. The fifth and final thing
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that I want to talk about is dressing like a Regency lady. Now, we can't dress in beautiful gowns
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every day because it's just not socially acceptable, unfortunately. Whoever decided that we were not
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going to wear gowns anymore, I know the whole history, but whoever decided, we have a beef. Not a huge fan
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about that because now we have to wear athleisure half the time, or at least many people choose to.
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But in any case, dressing like a lady can 100% be a part of your ladylike life. Dressing like a lady
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is something that you can totally incorporate into your life, and it's something that I love doing.
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You don't have to just have a Regency era gown to feel beautiful. There are so many beautiful dresses,
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beautiful tops and pants that look wonderful and make you feel put together and ladylike. And I think
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that this is something that is really, I understand why women are looking to Bridgerton and saying,
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I wish my life were like this, because they haven't been taught the value of embracing their femininity,
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the value of embracing their womanhood, and the value of embracing being a lady. So when they watch a
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show like this, they just long for something that to them feels totally out of reach and doesn't feel
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like they could actually accomplish, when you can. You can dress well every day. You can take care of
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your looks and feel beautiful every single day. Now does that mean that you have to have an hour
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and a half to get ready every morning? Absolutely not. But you can decide what will make you feel
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beautiful and like a lady and incorporate that into your everyday. And my point isn't necessarily
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that you have to do your hair and have to do your makeup and have to wear a certain thing to feel
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like a lady. I think that there is some flexibility and there is a spectrum. For me, part of feeling like
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the lady is doing a full face of makeup. But for another woman, it might just be throwing on some
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mascara and some lip balm and she would still feel beautiful. And I think that is so important,
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is knowing that you can be a lady every single day. But I think the reason so many women watch
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Bridgerton and wish that this is something they could have and long for it is because it feels like
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a fantasy. It feels like this is something that they can't incorporate into their everyday.
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And being a lady is something that you can do every day and feel every day and be every day.
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So those are the five reasons I think that Bridgerton is much more available to us than women might
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realize. And watching Bridgerton just made me realize how many women long to be ladies but don't
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necessarily give themselves the opportunity. And I hope that this gives a little bit of insight into the
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fact that you can absolutely feel like a woman and feel like a lady, even if you're not in the
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Regency era. So let me know your thoughts in the comments below. I'd love to hear what you guys think.
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