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00:06:30.000It pops up in the middle of the screen.
00:19:09.000During the moment, like, I kind of stayed quiet because I had to process my thoughts.
00:19:13.000You know, sometimes when you're angry, it's like, you say, you're going to say the wrong things, and then you're going to be like, God dang.
00:19:20.000You know, but then after a mile, I fucking snapped because...
00:20:24.000So for you to sit here and tell me that you don't want anything with me after you told me the first time that you wanted some shit with me, like, that's an insult to me and a fucking disrespect.
00:20:41.000Okay, I've never been in a serious relationship before.
00:20:43.000He was like my first time, like, first love type of shit, yeah.
00:20:48.000First time this happened to you, where you thought you had a future with this guy and Once you ask him, hey, what are we he didn't want to commit?
00:24:01.000But went to the beach and he was like, you know, he just asked me to be his girlfriend when we went to the beach that night and we just chilled there.
00:25:58.000Cam Two Times goes, ladies, if you treat a man right and show wife material traits, other women will call you a pick-me, and that's okay, because we call modern women that shame good women skip-mes.1.00
00:26:23.000And then we got here, Dave Wright goes, a woman that's 30 plus years old is considered an old lady, but I got to respect my elders two mil on the way.
00:30:32.000And I knew when I came here, bro, when I came here, I was like, somebody in this podcast is going to say that shit, and I'm a little offended.
00:31:15.000But there's some Colombians that have Arabic ethnicity.
00:31:19.000It's just a lot of Miami people are white as fuck, but when you go to like Barranquilla or Cartagena- Cali, Cali, they look like you, fool.1.00
00:39:55.000He was very feminine, and that's what I liked about him, but I guess me just wearing the pants is probably what scared him away, and he never wanted to admit to that.
00:41:33.000I just learned a lot about him throughout the relationship towards the end of it.
00:41:38.000Okay, what was like the main deal breaker if you can give us because you're speaking in broad terms like what was it that made you say I'm done?
00:44:07.000How long were y'all with each other up until that point?
00:44:11.000We had already at some point kind of like given each other space so we had been talking on and off or like dating on and off for like about six months but we just weren't compatible.
00:44:21.000What was the biggest deal breaker for you?
00:44:25.000And I'm assuming you initiated the breakup?
00:44:52.000What didn't he communicate that bothered you?
00:44:56.000Well, sometimes men need space, and instead of saying, hey, I need space, he would kind of just not respond for a whole day, and I'm like, it's okay if you need space, just give me a heads up.
00:45:05.000And then come back randomly and be like, hey, everything's normal, and I'm like...
00:45:09.000Maybe he's working, maybe he's just working, but I'm busy.
00:45:45.000Okay, so, generally speaking, if they made less money than you, you broke with them, and if they made more, but what made them not compatible?
00:45:55.000So, they want kids, you don't want kids?
00:45:57.000I like to say I'm traditional in some sense, not completely like identify as a traditional woman completely like to the definition, but I like to say I lean towards more traditional side.
00:46:06.000So, you know, if somebody's not initiating completely, then I kind of just give them space to be who they are and allow them to be that, but that's not for me, right?
00:46:16.000So I like men who take initiative, who...
00:46:22.000I'm more comfortable in that space where I can be more feminine and have somebody where if you need your space, you're going to say that.
00:46:30.000If I have a place where I need advice, I can ask for advice and just allow you to be who you are, not necessarily completely against the idea of gender roles.
00:46:39.000So you want them to do most of the pursuing?
00:58:41.000But I'm being realistic about beauty standards, although I don't necessarily agree with the scale from 1 to 10, and I think it's bullshit and it's fabricated.
01:03:57.000During the pandemic when everything was shut down, women were still trying to find a way to get makeup and their nails done, even in the middle of a pandemic.1.00
01:04:04.000So if that doesn't speak to the volumes, that woman understands that her value is based on her looks, then I don't know what else proves it.
01:04:09.000And that's why they get defensive when you say they're not a 10.
01:04:14.000Because that's where they hold their value.
01:08:19.000But I think in 2023, women have over-inflated sense of self-worth thanks to internet, dating apps, social media.1.00
01:08:26.000What it's basically done is it's made women feel really special and made them think that they're more attractive than they really are.0.55
01:08:31.000And what ends up happening is you get very egotistical females that command and want and think that they're entitled to a top-tier guy, when in reality they don't.1.00
01:08:39.000Well, personally speaking, I think that I would do that personally.
01:08:50.000But I think that most women that don't do that is because they just think of themselves only.0.78
01:08:57.000But generally speaking, I feel like women should compliment men more because men actually think more or less of themselves than women do.0.94
01:09:04.000Because they'll look at another guy and be like, damn, I wish I had that body.
01:09:08.000Or damn, I wish I had that haircut or that skin color or them eyes and all that shit.1.00
01:09:14.000And that's why they don't think that they should be as complimented as much.
01:09:17.000But I think that every man should be complimented.
01:09:22.000But that's why I think it's never going to happen.
01:09:23.000And I would argue that as technology gets better, And women get more options and the world becomes more interconnected.1.00
01:09:31.000Average guys are going to continue to be less and less visible and most of them aren't going to do it.
01:09:35.000Why is a girl going to go out of her way to compliment a guy when she got millionaires and celebs and athletes and shit like that DMing her on Instagram?0.99
01:10:05.000I completely agree with what you're saying.
01:10:06.000And if you look at it, like, if you look at, and this is just something that I've just noticed, like, if you look at celebrities, and it's typically the more respected men who, just generally speaking, if you look at their wives, their wives don't look like they have 16 surgeries and, you know, fillers every other weekend,
01:10:23.000They look like normal women, and they don't, Poor 20 hours in the week into their appearance.1.00
01:10:29.000They get up, they wash their face, they put on some sunscreen, a little bit of whatever.
01:10:32.000They go and do what they need to do, take care of the house, take care of the kids, go to work, whatever.
01:10:36.000They're quote-unquote, again, with the scale that we're speaking of, they're average women, physically speaking, but that's the woman that maybe doesn't fit into that book.0.99
01:11:16.000So I think, if anything, we should be more honest with girls about where they really stand because most girls sit there and say, I mean, you guys aren't as bad, but we've had girls, oh, I'm a 10, I'm a 9, blah, blah, blah.
01:17:23.000Alright, John A.V. John A.V. says, Ladies, do you agree that a girl having a negative relationship with her father should be a red flag for a man looking for a wife?
01:18:22.000I've been watching for about eight months now.
01:18:23.000The impact you guys had on my life is astronomical as well as Kevin Samuels and Tate.
01:18:28.000Over the last four months, I've been working out, quit corn and masturbation and about to go from washing cars for a living to selling them.
01:19:26.000Because, honestly though, when it comes to men, they think a lot of stuff is gay, realistically, like therapy and just things that women do and that actually help them with their mental health and well-being.
01:21:37.000What do you think works harder to self-improve to be attractive, men or women?
01:21:41.000I think women because we're more in tune with our emotions and men aren't and it also has to do with the social.
01:21:51.000A lot of the world sees that men that we don't we don't really it shows that the men that we don't really care about men and that's why men hide themselves.
01:22:01.000And if we don't look after men, they're going to think that we really don't care.
01:22:06.000Yeah, but the question is, who's more willing, like, who puts in more work to be more...
01:22:09.000Okay, and you think it's because women are more in tune with their emotions?0.99
01:22:35.000But I think men are starting to do more work now than ever before.
01:22:39.000Like, there's a lot of social media influencers that are male.
01:22:42.000So why do you think women put more effort in?1.00
01:22:46.000Like the other girl said that, it's very, I don't know, traditionally women express themselves, they talk to each other, they gossip to each other, and men are more close-up.
01:22:55.000How does that make you more attractive to men, though?
01:26:09.000Basically have all these assets to make them more attractive to women so they could actually even breathe on them, to be honest.0.69
01:26:21.000So it's harder for men to It's more work for men because women, we just wake up and we could just put on a wig or we could just do something and we could attract a man like this.
01:26:32.000Versus a man, he can't put on a wig or something.0.99
01:26:37.000Because even if his look is there, if he ain't got no money he broke, you'll probably hang with him for a while, but he's going to eventually fall off.
01:28:49.000So all of you think that it's easier for women to attract men than men to attract women, but six of you said that women work harder to self-improve than men do.
01:30:10.000Because women could be absolute retards, morons, bring nothing to the table, just be attractive enough, and a guy will come and rescue you.1.00
01:30:16.000But it doesn't work the other way around.
01:30:17.000Yeah, but they have to put the work in to be attractive if they're not an attractive woman.1.00
01:31:20.000Fixing all your traumas, blah, blah, blah, that's work.
01:31:23.000But at the same time, that's one small aspect of work.
01:31:27.000Putting on lashes is a small aspect of work.
01:31:29.000But physically getting up and going to work every single day and then dealing with your emotions and forming them into actual thoughts to lead a family, to lead a job place.
01:31:38.000To lead your future family, to potentially set yourself up for success to be somebody in the community that people respect, that's real work.
01:31:46.000And I'm not saying women don't do that, but to answer the actual question is that men have to do a lot more to attract a woman.
01:31:54.000If a man is confident and he looks good, great, he's attracted to a woman, but you're going to lose attraction really quickly once he doesn't know how to lead you, right?
01:32:01.000Once he doesn't know how to do what you need him to do.
01:32:04.000Rather, it is he's too masculine or too feminine.
01:32:06.000He has to do something to allow you to stay attracted to him.
01:32:10.000Versus as a woman, all I really have to do is be pretty, be, you know...
01:32:16.000Somewhat easy to get along with and have a decent conversation and not be a B-word.
01:32:21.000And I will probably be completely fine in a relationship.
01:32:48.000They get a guy and they're annoying or they're masculine or they're overbearing or whatever it is and they can't even keep a guy around.1.00
01:32:54.000So whenever I see girls struggling in relationships, I kind of just laugh because it's like, bro, you're fucking up because guys are simple.
01:32:59.000I don't think women understand how much work men have to do just to be in your face and you respond in a nice way.
01:34:18.000Anyway, so that's what I'm saying is I just found it interesting that six of you said that women work harder to self-improve, but the reality is that it's easier for women to attract men.
01:34:28.000I think men work a lot harder to get the opposite gender than women do.0.98
01:34:31.000Because I think if a girl's average, she still has options.
01:34:33.000But if a man's average, she has almost no options.
01:34:37.000Because women date up, unfortunately.1.00
01:36:03.000You gotta, like, have cheated on him or some shit, or he caught you sucking somebody's dick, like, it takes a lot for a guy to break up with a chick.
01:36:11.000Yeah, we can hit the Rumble Rants or whatever.
01:36:14.000Did anybody have anything that they want to add to that or disagree or whatever?
01:36:18.000I'm not gonna lie, I don't really see the correlation between the question you asked us, like the two, like which one have to put in the work more.
01:36:26.000I don't see the correlation between the two.
01:36:29.000So the first question asked is who's more willing to self-improve to attract the opposite gender?0.99
01:43:18.000I'm not going to sacrifice having somebody in my space just to get somebody.
01:43:22.000You got to understand that that was a general statement just because Because you won't do it doesn't mean that another girl won't hit up another sneaky link or a guy that she's had sex with before because how girls get around it is like they'll say, okay, I'll just go fuck an extra.1.00
01:43:31.000I'll go fuck a guy that I already hooked up with so I don't get my body count.1.00
01:43:33.000But it's the same thing because they're smashing bitches so it's the same like...1.00
01:44:01.000So you're saying if your guy went ahead and had sex with 10 other women and then comes back to you and has sex with you, now you get those 10 bodies?
01:44:16.000Let's say I break up with my ex, right?
01:44:20.000And then I break up with a guy and then I go back to my ex.
01:44:25.000Yes But my ex when I was with the guy was with has smashed 10 girls and I go and smash my ex I catch those 10 bodies too because he smashed 10 bitches.1.00
01:44:37.000So that whatever type of infection or STDs he got is still going to affect you.
01:45:22.000He said, oh, because girls normally go, oh, I'm going to go back to my ex to keep the body count the same.1.00
01:45:29.000But I said, at the end of the day, it's the same thing because you don't know if he went and smashed 10 bitches while you was with your mans.0.99
01:46:04.000Gone In the class where the teacher teaches you, oh, if you smash this person and if this person has been with 10 people, you also been with 10 people if you had unprotected sex with him.
01:46:14.000What if you don't have unprotected sex?
01:48:04.000Does anyone agree with Sova on the concept that you acquire the bodies of the individuals that your ex had sex with while you guys weren't together?
01:48:14.000Because if y'all agree, y'all just as dumb as him.
01:58:54.000Have you been with a guy before that, like, tells you, like, leads you and tells you what to do and what to not do and tells you, hey, this is what we're going to do, makes plans.
01:59:01.000Like, you ever been with, like, a dominant guy or a masculine guy?
01:59:04.000She looked like you could tell her what to do.
02:05:49.000No, but do you know in the state of Florida when a police comes to your house and sees that you're fucked up and there's only you two there, he has to make an arrest?
02:08:17.000And, yeah, I think that's the negative impact you have on society, and it's affecting everything, even the way we talk to each other, the way we date each other.
02:08:28.000Like, it's literally pulling society apart, men and women.1.00
02:08:36.000There's other ways that women could have been protected if feminism never became such a big thing.1.00
02:08:40.000There's other ways that women could have been kept safe.0.87
02:08:42.000I know there was, like, arguments, side, like, branches of arguments about, like, oh, what if there's a domestic abuse situation, blah, blah, blah.
02:08:48.000How will women escape that if they're dependent on men?1.00
02:08:50.000There's other ways that we could have advocated for society to protect us that would have worked, especially allowing us to remain docile would have worked in our favor in the long term.
02:09:32.000Ladies under 30, if a guy checked all the boxes except the provider, would you be willing to disclose 10 years worth of your sexual past for 10 years worth of his bank statements or assets?0.98
02:13:11.000The other day, since they know I'm not doing content, they're like, yo, can you take a video of me, of you, just with clothes on, blowing a kiss, saying my name, for like, 600.
02:19:45.000Well, that's what I was expecting today, and it was just, it felt like it stayed very on the surface level, but I had fun nonetheless, so, yeah.