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00:04:18.000Welcome to Freshly Podcast after our edition.
00:04:19.000This is part three of the three-peat, guys.
00:04:21.000As you guys know, we did a big episode earlier with Jay on how to get into trucking, from the beginning perspective, all the way up until getting your truck and becoming an independent...
00:04:34.000We had a good talk with him about being in a long-term relationship, how to manage that properly, live with your girl, and that gets your life destroyed.
00:04:39.000And we also did a Zoom call as well with a bunch of you guys answering questions on trucking, dating, relationships, whatever it may be, on Castle Club TV. And guys, as you guys know, which segues perfectly into it, Castle Club TV is our home base where you guys can go ahead and get all of our content.
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00:05:15.000We're creating a telegram group, right, where you go in there, we're going to vet you, and then we're going to put you into a telegram group respective to your major city, wherever you're in.
00:05:23.000We might have 14 with Birmingham, Alabama.
00:05:25.000We're going to talk with him off the side and make sure he's ready before he takes that on and does Birmingham, Alabama.
00:05:31.000But we got guys in major cities all over the United States, whether it's Dallas, Houston, New York City, Honolulu, Hawaii, Tokyo, Japan, obviously Miami, Florida, Tampa, New York City.
00:05:42.000Boston, Massachusetts, all these different places, man, 13 major cities all across the country, and internationally we're expanding, so if you're anywhere in the world, et cetera, or in the U.S., you want to go ahead and be able to join a group of like-minded guys, cowsclub.tv.
00:05:53.000Get into Brotherhood, and we'll see you guys in there.
00:09:52.000It was just interesting to me to see the demographic because I've been judged my whole life because I wasn't black enough or Hispanic enough or enough.
00:26:43.000I thought she was telling us that she was gonna get them taken out to be like no no no we we know do not take them out no yes I mean I drop off a lot of weight so my size of breast was like kind of the same sure and I like I was big and then when I drop all my weight yeah and that is why I did it yeah and I was not that big I mean yeah because I have these yeah of course of course Yeah,
00:28:23.000I went to school, work out, take care of the house, go back to the restaurants, take care of everything, and he's just high, smoking weed, getting...
00:37:29.000Ladies, this is bad advice because you're 18 years old right now.
00:37:34.000You're probably about maybe two years from being at your peak sexual market value, but if you took her advice, you would probably end up like her.
00:39:42.000I agree with what Monet said as far as you need to self-discover first.
00:39:47.000I feel like a lot of people Get into a relationship with somebody and they don't know who they are and that causes a lot of rift within the relationship because this person is trying to figure out themselves and this person is trying to figure out themselves.
00:39:57.000If you're 21 and you don't even know what you want to do in your career, how could you really establish a relationship, a real true loving relationship with anybody?
00:40:05.000If you truly don't know how to love yourself the same way you're trying to love somebody else, that's the disconnect.
00:40:09.000So you need self discovery and career discovery.
00:44:29.000So we got a bunch of different reasons here.
00:44:32.000Setting a professional background, self-discovery, having their career set up, more self-discovery, all experiences are valid, good or bad.
00:46:22.000I'm not trying to crack on you either, but this is the reason why the dating market is a shit show.
00:46:30.000It's because we actually have women who think that they don't want to get married, and their reason is because my husband is going to leave me when they have never been dumped in their lives.
00:47:02.000The second thing is, as you said, and I agree with what you said for the guy, you have to get out there, you have to date the bad boys and this and the other.
00:47:09.000Did it ever occur to you that making mistakes...
00:47:12.000Making mistakes with the guy that's what you said.
00:47:14.000You said there's nothing wrong with making a mistake with the wrong guy when you're younger.
00:47:17.000This is what causes that trauma that you have to heal from at 44 years old and single with three kids.
00:47:23.000It is a self-fulfilling prophecy that especially young, attractive women almost...
00:47:31.000You got to get out of there before it's too late because it's only going to be a matter of time before you are disqualified by every man you want in your life.
00:48:13.000With all due respect and all the love and I don't know who raised you, but on the respect of the panel and the respect of women that actually produce other people on earth,
00:49:00.000And I'm very professional with you motherfuckers.
00:49:03.000So what I'm going to say on the rhetorical state, and I'm so sorry that literally we went in a circle panel to figure out the wrong, the pros, the cons.
00:49:34.000If you're going to say that he's wrong, that's fine.
00:49:35.000But what did he say in particular that is incorrect and can you tell us why it's incorrect?
00:49:41.000Because when we went around and we asked what the age requirement, and these young ladies said their age is, the only thing is that we just said that you don't really know identifying.
00:49:52.000But I even said it's not wrong if you actually meet someone and you actually have that happen for you.
00:53:09.000I feel like that's the time for you to just truly self-discover before you decide, yeah, this is the person I want to be with for the rest of my life.
00:53:15.000This is the person I want to, you know, make kids with.
00:53:18.000A lot of people, they don't even know themselves, so I disagree with that.
00:53:46.000You do know that after 30, you have a higher risk of not being able to get pregnant.
00:53:54.000The reason why women should get married early is because They have a better chance of producing children.
00:54:06.000And on top of that, you can learn, if your man is a man that has leadership qualities and he can provide and protect you and everything of that nature, why would you not want to be with someone at a younger age?
00:54:23.000Because the older you wait, the less your sexual market value is.
00:54:27.000I'll actually answer that question for you, big teams.
00:58:09.000There's nothing wrong with wanting a man for his resources any more than it's okay for a man to want a woman because she's young and beautiful.
00:58:17.000That's what attracts us to each other.
00:58:18.000Just, I mean, you can be honest about what you want as a man.
00:58:54.000The point I was making was there are not going to be too many men that take you seriously, especially at 37, because I'm the same age as you.
00:59:04.000But there's not going to be a lot of men that take you seriously because of what you do.
00:59:09.000And it's a bad look on a man if it's like, yo, wait, that's your girl?
01:03:21.000Okay, so once every two months you guys were traveling, and you had a plumbing business and Airbnbs, and then the trip started to subside in the last six months that you guys were together.
01:03:43.000So I started to pick up within my makeup career and he started to come home to watch what I was doing and who was coming in and out of where I was working at.
01:03:50.000So he was getting distracted and misplacing where his work needed to be.
01:03:54.000So if you're supposed to be at work from 9 a.m.
01:03:58.000in the afternoon and you coming home at 11 a.m., that's a problem for me because you're watching me and who coming in and out of what my business is.
01:04:34.000So you're telling me your boyfriend or your husband had no problem with the fact that there were boyfriends and husbands of celebrity in the house with you?
01:05:25.000Don't, like, you're not going to sit here and tell us that you were the perfect housewife and that you did nothing wrong.
01:05:30.000Myron and Fresh, you guys used to ask this question all the time.
01:05:32.000Name one thing he did wrong and one thing you did wrong.
01:05:34.000And I guarantee you, if I asked you one thing you did wrong, you'd probably give me some bullshit answer like, I got married too young or maybe I was too naive.
01:05:40.000So, now I ask you, what did you do wrong?
01:09:48.000They thought that their guy was doing something, but then they find out later on that he's not doing that, and they're like, oh, he's lying, or maybe he's not making the money that they taught, or they just don't see a future with him.
01:09:57.000Would it be fair to say that you didn't see a future with him, so you said, I gotta get out now?
01:10:16.000So, don't you think like self-discovery and healing trauma and all those other crap that women talk about that they need to have done, don't you think men might find that as unattractive?
01:10:51.000Okay, so if we're interested in a woman's past, Why would a girl create a longer path for themselves where they could do dumb shit and make themselves less attractive?
01:11:12.000Just because you've taken a long time to get into a relationship doesn't mean that you're sleeping with multiple people like I said earlier.
01:11:18.000By definition of you being older when you get into a relationship, by definition that means you have more experiences because you've been on Earth longer, which means you have to have more experiences.
01:11:26.000Experiences, are you talking about sex?
01:11:58.000I don't know if you guys saw what I did there, but I just flipped it.
01:12:00.000Like, it's okay for a woman to, you know, disqualify a man because of his future.
01:12:04.000But if I say, well, we're going to disqualify you guys on your past, you look at me like I'm crazy or you don't even understand what I'm saying.
01:12:12.000I don't fault any woman for disqualifying a man if you don't see a future with him.
01:12:17.000To me, like, look, man, if a girl says, well, the reason I broke up with my boyfriend is because he was broke, good for you.
01:12:23.000Like, you don't need to be with broke-ass niggas.
01:12:26.000Like, I think we all know and understand that.
01:12:28.000By the same token, men like us also preach about not wifing up hoes or women with OnlyFans or women who think they need to find themselves.
01:13:12.000The reason why girls who are raised without a father or weak or absentee fathers end up on the stripper pole is because the only unconditional love a woman will truly experience in her lifetime is from her father.
01:13:25.000And when a little girl knows that no matter what, no matter what, that man is going to do whatever it takes, come hell or high water, to make sure she's happy, she's not going to give herself away to drug dealers.
01:13:35.000She's not going to give herself away to people who are broke-ass niggas.
01:13:38.000She makes this face because she knows I'm right, but this is exactly what I'm talking about.
01:13:43.000This is why we coined the phrase daddy issues.
01:13:46.000And here's another thing to go off of that self-love thing.
01:13:49.000Self-love is just like the aristocracy.
01:13:51.000A woman doesn't come up and just say, I'm a queen.
01:14:42.000Okay, you're the exception to the rule.
01:14:43.000I feel like a lot of women who were raised by two parents or some women who were raised by two parents, they actually have a more willingness to experience things that they were shunned from.
01:14:54.000So at the end of the day, they do end up going with the drug dealer or whatever you want to say, or the man who's not really necessarily the pick for them based off of their upbringing.
01:15:30.000Listen, I take responsibility for my actions, but it would be disingenuous of me to sit here and say, well, I was raised by a single mother, but I turned out okay.
01:15:37.000Yeah, okay, I'm successful, but I've still got a lot of issues that came from being raised by a single mom.
01:15:43.000And I'm not going to deny that just because I was raised by a single mom.
01:15:47.000So good for you for being the exception to the rule.
01:15:50.000But there's a reason why 85% of the prison population was raised by single mothers.
01:15:56.000Yeah, I think it's very important to note that just because you might not align with something doesn't necessarily mean that it isn't true still.
01:16:06.000If a majority of single-parent household children are fuck-ups, then it is what it is.
01:26:49.000If you knew your friend was cheating on somebody and you were close to the person that your friend, girlfriend was cheating on, would you tell that person?
01:27:18.000Okay, let's say your best friend was...
01:27:21.000Let's just say you had a brother, right?
01:27:23.000I don't know if you do or not, but let's say your best friend was dating your brother and you found out your best friend was cheating on your brother.