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00:08:23.000Yacht, right, on July 13th is a bit more expensive, or we're going to be able to do one on July 28th at the earliest and or early August, but we'll have it at 300 people and be able to give you guys at a way cheaper price point general admission.
00:09:47.000We're going to start on YouTube, but of course we're going to have to go into rumble once we talk about certain topics, if you know what I mean.
00:18:17.000Yeah, I gotta make that distinction because there's a group of people out there that call themselves foundationally black Americans and apparently there's a difference.
00:35:17.000Alright, so what I'll do is I'll read the chats and then I'll go and kick it off with some of the girls' questions here because I think someone told me that they're good.
00:35:24.000RamonTO4 says, Ladies, what factors do you believe should be prioritized when determining custody arrangements to ensure that well-being and emotional stability of the child is involved?
00:37:18.000But if he do have a girlfriend, respectfully, I honestly do not care because if I have a boyfriend, I would respect him to respect my child enough to respect me.
00:37:27.000Like, in order to be with me, you got to be with my child, too.
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00:45:15.000And guys, just so you know, we're prioritizing the Castle Club chats, man, and then we're gonna read the Rumble Rants and everything else like that.
00:58:03.000If you had to pick one, even if it's a 51%, 49%, what do you think has more concrete gender roles that they're expected to stick to by society?
00:58:12.000I'm going to still go with equal because we hold men to certain standards and requirements when it comes, and men do too.
00:58:19.000Do you think men hold women to the same strictness of standards that women are held to?
00:58:44.000Okay, so tell me why you think it's equal.
00:58:48.000I just feel like there's a lot of different examples that you can think of for either side as to gender roles that are still in force today.
00:58:55.000Okay, I disagree with both of you and I'll tell you why.
00:58:57.000I think with men, right, if you're not masculine, have your shit together financially, in the gym, training, etc., they're going to call you a soy boy, they're going to ridicule you, you're going to be made fun of, etc.
00:59:11.000There's real world ramifications for not performing as a man.
00:59:15.000However, and I'll take the female side here in a second to show you why it's not 50-50.
00:59:19.000On the female side, though, if you act like a boy or if you're more masculine and you chase a career and you make money, et cetera, society rewards you for that.
00:59:28.000They say, go get your bag, be successful, et cetera.
00:59:30.000So if you behave like a man, you're respected.
01:01:32.000But that's because I'm a traditionally masculine guy.
01:01:34.000I would argue a majority of men are not traditionally masculine men.
01:01:37.000And they don't put these same standards on women.
01:01:39.000Most guys don't have the balls to stand up to their girl and tell them, I need you to do X, Y, Z. Most guys kind of are happy just to have a girl take them seriously.
01:01:46.000And that's what I mean when I say female gender roles are not reinforced because the men don't reinforce them on the women.
01:01:51.000The women can act however they want, and they don't put boundaries on that.
01:01:55.000But on the other hand, it's not the other way around.
01:01:57.000I think that generally speaking, a lot of the people that will call men soy boys and shit on them for being not traditionally masculine are the same people that shit on women for chasing their bag and being masculine and not wanting to adhere to it.
01:02:13.000Yeah, it's guys like me, but we're a minority.
01:02:52.000But that's like feminist guys, that's not even necessarily just like generally feminine dudes.
01:02:57.000Like I know a lot of feminine dudes that also adhere to some, you know, norms that are currently- How would you define feminine, a feminine guy then?
01:03:06.000I think it's more related to just like expressing both aspects of yourself, like the feminine and the masculine, with a little bit less inhibition as to like how it looks socially.
01:03:18.000I think a lot of guys are more internally feminine than they think and that they act in a way that represses that a lot of the time, just unconsciously.
01:03:28.000We can talk about the feminization of men, but just to stick to the topic at hand, remember, it was...
01:03:33.000Which gender, right, is punished for not adhering to the roles more?
01:03:38.000And I argue that men are, because if I'm a guy, right, and I am one of these, oh, let me be 50-50, or let me, like, have a more feminine take on things, etc.
01:03:49.000Like, women aren't going to be as attracted and as aroused by me as if I were to be more traditional.
01:03:55.000But a woman, on the other hand, can be, let me prioritize my education, let me prioritize making money, let me act like a guy, be like a dude, whatever.
01:04:24.000Yeah, I just feel like the part that you're asserting about, you know, you having less options as a guy if you don't adhere to gender roles as strictly than a woman.
01:04:42.000If you're gonna talk about marriage rates, they've been plummeting.
01:04:46.000Divorce rates are high, women are initiating it.
01:04:48.000Most men struggle with finding a girl.
01:04:50.000Most guys, I forget which study it was, I think it was either in 2018 or 2020, a study came out saying that one in three men is either sexless or a virgin, hasn't had sex in years or is a virgin.
01:05:01.000So, you know, a lot of guys really struggle with women.
01:05:04.000And I mean, hell, I mean, I can go around the table here.
01:05:08.000Do you talk to most men that try to approach you?
01:05:44.000I mean, as in actually having a real chance with you, not just talking to him to get some out of him or attention or whatever, because girls love attention, right?
01:05:51.000I'm talking about a dude that you're like, okay, I can actually date this motherfucker.
01:06:14.000I met a lot of dudes who actually meet standards.
01:06:16.000But if you have high standards, that means by definition that a majority of men don't rise up because most men are not high to your standards.
01:10:30.000By men being feminized, do you think that, like, not even their woman itself, like, if your woman's family was to meet you and by you being a, say whatever you just said again, men, how you think they would feel upon that?
01:10:44.000Like, you know, you get what I'm saying?
01:13:05.000If you're with a man, right, and he's taking care of you, you think he's gonna say some shit like, hey, how long are you gonna take care of your girl?
01:13:20.000But for women, it's like, if you guys are gonna provide a role, The time clock is always going on when that provider role is going to finish, and you find a guy that can actually provide it.
01:13:35.000So, if the 50-50 implies that it's 50-50 in general, and ideas are equally taken into account, and he's not like the- But you raise your hand for a provider.
01:13:50.000If that side and then the man paying the bills means that he's also the leader and he calls the shots and shit, then I would take the 50-50.
01:14:02.000Okay, so you would take the breadwinner...
01:14:25.000I would probably, generally speaking, have a household that either...
01:14:31.000Has at least one joint bank account and a lot of the funds are just pulled.
01:14:35.000But like if the choice is a man that runs the house but also pays the bills and man that does not run the house and also doesn't pay the bills, I'm choosing the one that doesn't run the house and doesn't pay the bills that I pay half and half with.
01:15:42.000And this is kind of like a ideal mindset, but it's not real.
01:15:46.000If someone has 100% of the responsibility, aka bringing in the money, taking care of you, whatever, It's ludicrous to tell them you only have 50% of the authority.
01:15:55.000My word matters just as much as yours.
01:16:06.000Well, if you want it to be equitable between the two, an equal, you know, more egalitarian mindset, then you would have to bring half the financial things.
01:16:19.000You're 19 years old, so I'm not going to try to shit on you.
01:16:23.000But what I'm saying is that I promise you, as you get older, your standards on men are going to go up and you're going to be less okay with a 50-50 trade-off with a man.
01:16:31.000Because what I've realized with women is if they go 50-50 with a man, yeah, they'll tolerate it for a bit.
01:16:37.000But most girls don't want to do that, especially if you get older, you want to have children, etc.
01:16:41.000It's very difficult to work a full-time job while also rearing children.
01:16:44.000And then, yeah, you can always put them in childcare and everything else like that, but why do you want strangers dealing with your kids, especially in today's crazy world?
01:19:44.000Women need to understand that a lot of the modern conveniences that we have now, a lot of the inventions, a lot of the success that men have, it's drive from their need to compete for women.
01:19:56.000You guys think we fucking wear Rolexes and drive Lambos and all this shit for dudes?
01:20:00.000No, if it was up to us we'd live in a fucking cardboard box.
01:20:02.000We don't give a shit about none of that stuff.
01:20:03.000It's all a status symbol to attract the most women possible.
01:20:06.000So, when women, when there's no longer that need, right, that impetus or need for men to create, and the women are more self-sufficient, Why the fuck are we gonna help y'all?
01:20:46.000For a girl to be like, oh, okay, now I can finally be with a guy and submit.
01:20:50.000I had to break through so much bullshit to be able to see through the lies to tell you what it really is, right?
01:20:55.000But most men simply aren't going to do that because they're going to believe what the world tells them.
01:20:59.000They're going to believe pop culture and all this other shit.
01:21:02.000You think it's true that the majority of men don't care about being ambitious and satisfying their potential and shit aside from how it affects their situation with women?
01:23:32.000I was taught things a different way, including my culture, since you said big on culture.
01:23:38.000Like you said, I'm Haitian Jamaican and Bahamian, so my granddad's Haitian.
01:23:43.000I have a real Haitian granddaddy from the islands.
01:23:47.000So, you know, my granddaddy always, like, even though he was a provider for my grandmother, he always taught me, like, in order for a man to provide for you, you gotta provide for yourself.
01:24:40.000Yeah, I done talked to a few guys that really thought I only wanted to talk to them for money, but me being a provider myself and providing for not only myself...
01:24:48.000Let's go with this 50-50 mindset that you have.
01:24:51.000Let's say you were with a guy and Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday he wears heels, but then the other four days he wears regular clothing.
01:25:39.000You ain't gonna be with no nigga that's over here with me.
01:25:43.000Some people call it feminine because they express their emotions.
01:25:49.000That's why I want to know what you mean by that.
01:25:51.000I find it interesting how you would not accept a man that was partly feminine, but you expect us to accept women that are partly masculine.
01:26:02.000I find it interesting that women think it's appropriate to be part masculine and be part feminine, but if I was part feminine and part masculine, you guys would never accept me.
01:26:11.000So why the fuck do you think men are gonna accept you?
01:26:22.000What I'm saying, yeah, I'm doing that obviously for shock value, but the reality is regardless, whether it's wearing heels or twisting his hand like this or getting a pedicure or a manicure or being super metrosexual or being super interested in high-end fashion and taking longer to get ready than you, regardless of what Feminine trait I use, you would not like it.
01:26:43.000A majority of women would not like it.
01:26:44.000So what I'm trying to establish here is this.
01:27:02.000So I find it interesting, right, that you guys would never accept a feminine-ass woman But you guys expect us to accept super masculine women that wanna go 50-50, tell us that their opinion matters, tell us that they're equal to us, tell us that, you know, et cetera, all this bullshit.
01:27:17.000I genuinely believe That women want a man who's superior to them.
01:27:30.000But I'll be fucking damned if I get to a point where I'm the superior, bust my ass to build the body up in the gym, build my money up, build my status up, be able to speak eloquently, be charming and charismatic.
01:27:39.000And all these fucking things that you ladies want, by the way, because your standards are high, most of you.
01:27:43.000And then you're gonna sit there and tell me, well, my opinion matters more than you.
01:27:50.000And to be very frank with you, I don't listen to what women say most of the time because you guys don't live the same experience that we do.
01:27:55.000Most women are not equal to tell me anything because you guys don't live life as a man.
01:27:59.000Men live a significantly harder life than women do.
01:28:02.000We don't have certain opportunities and certain things that women have.
01:28:05.000And life is just easier for y'all, especially in 2024.
01:28:08.000So, I look at it as a man, it's my duty to not only be a leader, to be a provider, to be a voice of reason, etc.
01:28:15.000It's my duty to not let you lead anything, because you don't know what the fuck to lead.
01:28:19.000Because you live an easier life than we do.
01:29:25.000You already instilled to make sure to bring what you have to bring to your household.
01:29:30.000So if you trying to go, if you trying to be as a woman, if you trying to be a provider, like, I don't see no benefit because it's going to get to a point you're going to be like, this shit too much.
01:29:42.000Like, I'm not going to mention who, but I know a bunch of women that are super successful, make a lot of money, big social media phones, whatever.
01:29:49.000Behind the scenes, they're breaking down fucking crying.
01:30:23.000And I think whenever women are put in positions where they gotta earn resources and get into the job field, et cetera, they can do it for a period of time, but they can't do it long-term like a man can.
01:30:32.000Can I go back on a question you asked earlier about us needing men in our life?
01:30:37.000Because by you saying what you said, I really just thought about it, like sat back and thought about it.
01:30:40.000Personally, respectfully, I really now thinking about it and sitting back and realizing females do need men.
01:31:08.000So I would not mind a man coming in and straightening me up because it's like certain things I'm not adjusted to and men can give me that.
01:31:15.000I could be around 30,000 females and they could be like, no, girl, don't do this, don't do that.
01:31:20.000But as a man understanding and knowing and visually seeing it and able to like, Establish it to me like, hey, you really like, you need some guidance.
01:31:29.000Ain't no female because you need guidance like me.
01:31:31.000You're nicer than it about, I think women give each other terrible fucking advice.
01:32:20.000Straight up, females can tell you anything.
01:32:22.000I'm going to say women because at the end of the day, a female can tell me, oh, yeah, girl, this, that, that, and low-key hating, but a man going to be blunt.
01:32:30.000I never met a man that was not blunt and keep it sugar-coated.
01:32:34.000Like, if I'm not doing right, let me know.
01:32:57.000Listen, when I say 50-50, this is what I meant.
01:33:00.000Like, a man, yeah, you can do it as you please, but I just want to, as a female, my opinion, I want to voice it because some females, that cause depression.
01:33:08.000You should not allow your female to not be able to express themselves and how they feel without depression.
01:33:14.000Then it comes to closure, and then now you feel like a female not being, you know.
01:33:18.000So, you know, like he said, he listens to his female.
01:34:00.000I think most things that you said, you did make some valid points.
01:34:03.000I don't agree with everything that you said, but for the most part...
01:34:09.000Just like the small details that you said, how some women hold men to certain standards, I just feel like it just depends on the relationship, where you are, the generation, because certain standards that probably like my mom or my grandmother accepted from a man, I probably won't accept.
01:36:56.000She just deals with it because of other things.
01:36:58.000And he's been able to build up some attraction or whatever, but the reality is, when you look at what women are actually aroused by, it's a very small archetype of man.
01:37:53.000Your sexual market value isn't high enough to get what's ideal.
01:37:56.000You're dealing with fat losers because that's what you can attract.
01:37:59.000But if you were a bad bitch, because why is it that the girls that are models or celebrities or whatever, why is there either dealing with A, guys that are extremely attractive or guys that are extremely rich and have some kind of status?
01:38:09.000Because women understand something's got to come with it.
01:42:45.000Blackest Panther says, ladies, name one thing that you think is wrong with society, wrong in general, that might primarily be men's fault, and one thing wrong with society in general that might be women's fault.