Impaulsive with Logan Paul - E129 SECRETS TO SEX, LOVE, AND RELATIONSHIPS - IMPAULSIVE EP. 129

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00:02:12.340 And so I walked away and I went upstairs and I was like, my day's fucked. 1.00

00:02:15.540 I already know my day's fucked. It's 8.30 in the morning. 0.99

00:02:17.980 My day is over.

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00:02:24.760 And so she gave me a very, very nice blowjob this morning, 0.99

00:02:30.200 and my day reset automatically. 0.99

00:02:32.440 I woke up.

00:02:32.900 I was like, this is the best day ever.

00:02:35.500 And I walked downstairs, and I was, like, cheering.

00:02:37.720 Like, I was going nuts.

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00:02:51.920 That's all you got?

00:02:52.920 I did my best, man.

00:02:54.260 Does that not work?

00:02:56.180 It drizzled.

00:02:57.360 It never rains here.

00:02:59.520 I said this is impossible.

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00:03:09.180 Welcome back to Impulsive, the number one podcast in the world.

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00:03:19.580 Guys, I'm off today.

00:03:20.960 Why do I feel me too, which is bad,

00:03:22.860 because that means two out of three of us are off spencer i'm glad you know right now it's because

00:03:27.540 the rain and also because i'm still mentally recovering from aaron carter oh okay okay you

00:03:33.560 didn't have to go through that i know i got stuck in some traffic so give me the give me the low

00:03:37.680 down what did i miss what here's okay here was the summation all right it's it's clear

00:03:43.620 have you ever seen i don't want to say it have you ever seen text me he still texts me if i

00:03:49.720 Look there was one point where Mike goes

00:03:52.040 Do you feel mentally stable

00:03:53.520 And he goes do you think I'm mentally stable

00:03:55.660 Man to man

00:03:56.380 And I thought you were going to right there be like absolutely not

00:03:59.140 But you buckled

00:04:01.220 No no no

00:04:01.920 What happened was

00:04:04.520 He asked me

00:04:05.820 But the question he asked me made no sense

00:04:08.880 He was like I could ask you the same question

00:04:11.220 And I was like am I mentally stable

00:04:12.580 I was like I mean I feel pretty good

00:04:15.000 He didn't ask if he was like what do you think 1.00

00:04:17.280 I would have been like bro you're fucking out of your fucking mind 1.00

00:04:19.660 He did, he did. 1.00

00:04:20.480 No, he didn't.

00:04:20.900 He did. 1.00

00:04:21.400 Play that shit back, bro. 1.00

00:04:23.280 He just said it in like a weird way that didn't make sense. 1.00

00:04:25.860 We need an instant replay.

00:04:27.460 But yeah, it was crazy, man.

00:04:29.060 I'm a little disappointed you weren't here for that one.

00:04:31.040 Yeah.

00:04:31.680 And I had another piece of information I wanted to tell you.

00:04:34.440 Yeah, what do we got?

00:04:35.220 You're on today, yeah?

00:04:36.600 You're functioning at a high level?

00:04:38.600 I'm like 75% there.

00:04:40.200 Cool.

00:04:40.480 This might bring you down to 50.

00:04:42.400 Did you know that Will and Jada Smith staged an intervention for Jaden Smith

00:04:49.080 because he was vegan over fears that he was wasting away quotes wasting away they staged

00:04:55.160 an intervention like like they had they had an intervention like a real intervention and said

00:04:59.840 and said jayden you look gray and you're wasting away i don't know about that he was getting dark

00:05:06.740 circles under the eyes he just looked drained he was depleted he wasn't getting the where's this

00:05:10.880 from who's reporting this highest which no but it's all it's what on the latest episode of red

00:05:16.760 table talk this happened bro and and spencer's a vegan this is why i'll check it out let me check

00:05:20.620 it out and if you remember this is exactly what happened to me when i was vegan my friend sat me

00:05:27.840 down chloe goes yo you're gray and you look gaunt what did jayton say huh he's he's uh vegetarian

00:05:34.820 he said the following he said the following statement

00:05:36.800 please help me i also just want to say i'm a vegetarian that i've tried to be vegan and by

00:05:44.440 the way same like i've tried and and andre our cameraman there our middle eastern beautiful

00:05:49.880 exotic cameraman is one of the most beautiful humans i've ever seen in my life it's true and

00:05:55.140 so i'm gonna go back to what i always fall back on it's not for everyone but it's for some people

00:06:01.360 straight up like it's for that kid i could take it try it i think i mean we got one life on this

00:06:07.560 rock try being vegan give it a month give it a month see if it's for you because are there fat

00:06:11.300 vegans yeah can you be a fat vegan where would i find one yeah i mean if you're like major cities

00:06:18.240 you know major hubs where there's good trap foot traffic how many plants would you have to eat to 0.98

00:06:23.060 become a fat vegan dude i don't know dude i think you there's fast food that's vegan you know what

00:06:27.860 i'm saying you can go to kfc and get vegan chicken now like veggie grill when i go there i always 0.97

00:06:32.740 feel like a fat vegan plus carbs are a quick cop-out sometimes why'd you use so many c's

00:06:37.800 carbs are a quick cop out so much alliteration in one sentence well you know what i'm gonna i'm

00:06:43.140 gonna do some research all right i'm gonna look at look at my boy jayden i actually saw him at

00:06:47.260 cafe gratitude which is a vegan restaurant a couple weeks ago got his number we were texting

00:06:50.920 so i'll hit him up oh you got his number i'll be like hey are you okay what was your pickup line

00:06:54.340 i said yeah hey hey man today's guest is the four answers to succeed in love and life he's a master

00:07:01.360 in neurolinguistics psychology and sociology and says genetic energetics is the key to it all here

00:07:06.620 to tell us what that is

00:07:07.640 and help us

00:07:08.160 with all of our

00:07:08.700 dating and relationships,

00:07:11.160 it's Larry the Love Guy.

00:07:12.640 Ooh, yes.

00:07:14.180 Yes.

00:07:16.380 Yes.

00:07:16.940 This could be really good

00:07:18.020 or really bad.

00:07:19.320 I don't know.

00:07:19.800 For you?

00:07:20.900 Oh.

00:07:22.020 Spencer's girlfriend.

00:07:22.820 Spencer's girlfriend's here.

00:07:24.100 Spencer brought his girlfriend.

00:07:25.060 This is a dangerous episode 0.98

00:07:26.280 to bring your girlfriend. 1.00

00:07:27.220 Yeah, but she's consuming 1.00

00:07:28.000 shit content right now. 0.99

00:07:30.660 Larry the Love Guy. 1.00

00:07:32.260 Larry.

00:07:33.140 Welcome to the building house.

00:07:35.220 Welcome to the garage building.

00:07:36.500 Oh, this is great.

00:07:37.220 I love it.

00:07:37.440 It's our empire.

00:07:38.080 We built it out of stones.

00:07:39.000 Yeah, I like your shirt.

00:07:40.120 Hey, Larry, what's good?

00:07:42.060 Like, who are you and what do you do exactly?

00:07:44.060 Because I'm a little scared, dude.

00:07:45.120 I'm not so great with love.

00:07:48.880 Well, okay, who am I?

00:07:50.980 I'm called the Love Shepherd.

00:07:52.320 That's my AKA.

00:07:53.420 Like a dog, but with love.

00:07:55.300 Do you have a staff?

00:07:56.160 No, I don't have a tail.

00:07:57.740 Not like a dog.

00:07:59.060 Shepherd, like a staff, right?

00:08:00.360 Okay, okay.

00:08:01.060 It's a Burning Man name.

00:08:02.220 What can I say?

00:08:02.800 Oh, you want a Burning Man?

00:08:03.840 You're a burner?

00:08:04.740 Yeah, of course.

00:08:05.440 Jesus Christ.

00:08:06.340 How many years have you been to Burning Man?

00:08:08.120 Three now.

00:08:09.600 Over.

00:08:10.120 That's more than me.

00:08:11.420 One year more than me.

00:08:13.380 Okay, so you're the love shepherd.

00:08:14.940 What does it mean?

00:08:15.740 All right, so here's my shtick.

00:08:18.540 I've been, since I was a little kid, I was trying to figure out where love was, right?

00:08:22.960 And didn't get it from my family, so I've just been searching a long, long time.

00:08:27.080 And a little over a decade ago, I was introduced to a science called genetic energetics.

00:08:31.280 and it just blew me away

00:08:33.120 because it did something that no other typology,

00:08:37.760 no other kind of character assessment

00:08:39.680 or anything like that ever did.

00:08:41.680 Where did you get introduced to it?

00:08:43.820 I was, okay, so,

00:08:47.020 geez, I've got to give you the Reader's Digest version

00:08:48.580 because it's too long otherwise.

00:08:49.700 It's a podcast.

00:08:50.580 I mean, we could do this all day.

00:08:51.720 We've got nothing to do.

00:08:53.200 All right, so I've ever been in one of those situations

00:08:55.900 where you're in a relationship

00:08:56.740 and it's like going really bad, right?

00:08:59.380 And at that moment in time, 0.68

00:09:00.580 like the way you show up it kind of sucks right yeah so it's like oh yeah you know my life is 0.54

00:09:05.940 screwed up my relationship screwed up i don't want to talk to anybody so i went to this event 0.87

00:09:10.740 this little teeny like training program and i just wanted to mind my own business when i was there i 0.72

00:09:17.260 was in this like found an aisle where i could sit next to a wall so no one would talk to me

00:09:21.460 you know person next to me fortunately didn't want to talk so i was perfect i was there three days

00:09:26.840 And on the last day, this old guy gets up and he goes, I can tell you what went wrong

00:09:31.240 with your relationship and I can tell you where no one else has given you this information

00:09:34.620 before.

00:09:35.340 And I kind of went, well, cause I tried everything else.

00:09:38.280 Like I, you know, we went to therapists and psychologists and counselors and I was reading

00:09:43.020 books.

00:09:43.460 I studied Tantra.

00:09:44.600 I did like, you know, whatever could, I wanted to fix it, but I was not succeeding.

00:09:49.740 So after the event, I like scaled this guy down and he pulls out this book and he asked

00:09:55.260 me for a couple pieces of information and then he proceeds to tell me exactly what was going on in

00:10:01.120 the relationship and i go okay that's strange you know that's like coincidental maybe and then he

00:10:07.220 tells me a bunch of stuff about myself that like was hugely transformational when i look back

00:10:12.760 through my whole life and i went okay this is really interesting and i asked him what he was

00:10:17.680 doing with it had the guy who actually created this thing was created 40 years ago the guy who

00:10:22.340 created had passed away and he said i need some help with it really and i went okay i'm interested

00:10:26.980 because i was taking products to market at the time and i said i'll do it but it's got to be

00:10:30.560 real it's got to be efficacious i don't want to play with it and he said fine test it out so i

00:10:35.740 took two years and tested out like close to a thousand couples and the thing was with this

00:10:42.300 technique with this with this information genetic back then back then they called it match matrix

00:10:47.580 because the whole thing was designed to like help people in the dating world find their perfect match

00:10:52.240 right okay so i spent a couple years while i was helping them just interviewing people getting

00:10:59.180 their profiles talking to them about it and you know their whole contention was you had to find

00:11:03.880 someone that was a perfect match like they would come up with this profile you wanted to find 0.92

00:11:08.260 someone had the same exact profile like e-harmony kind of shit yes yeah yeah yeah matter of fact 0.81

00:11:14.020 we were talking to e-harmony about wanting to put this inside their dating machine yeah but they 0.74

00:11:19.020 didn't want to do it because it would have shortened the lifespan of their clients so

00:11:23.060 oh yeah the economics oh yo is e-harmony like planning on people not falling in love they want

00:11:30.760 that because oh come on look at repeat business dating sites guys you got to pay so much to get

00:11:34.860 in a dating site's got to make at least a hundred bucks off you or they're losing money which means

00:11:40.080 you've got to stick around for about six months so if you find someone in the first month that's

00:11:43.720 Those are like older datings, not Tinder, blah, blah, blah.

00:11:47.460 No, that's a different deal.

00:11:48.740 E-Harmony, Plenty Fish, all that.

00:11:50.540 You know, Plenty Fish actually.

00:11:51.420 What about Christian Mingle? 1.00

00:11:53.300 Farmers are on the list. 0.77

00:11:54.300 We can go to the long list.

00:11:55.600 They're endless.

00:11:56.160 There's thousands of them, right? 1.00

00:11:56.920 What's the Jewish one, Dylan? 1.00

00:11:58.860 J-Date. 0.98

00:11:59.460 J-Date. 0.97

00:12:00.040 Jewish singles, yeah. 0.79

00:12:01.980 No dating apps for this guy.

00:12:03.660 No dating apps for a producer, Dylan.

00:12:05.260 He just knows him.

00:12:05.820 He just shows up at Logan's Luau and swings his bat.

00:12:09.780 You know, it could have better success.

00:12:11.560 That's good.

00:12:12.020 I like that.

00:12:13.720 i still love that the back swing is good for that right genetic energetics man so so bottom line of

00:12:20.640 the thing is like i started interviewing people and the freaking thing was always right and then

00:12:25.800 i was um so i took all these years of psychology that i had behind me when i was interviewing them

00:12:30.160 and the sucky part is that i would like ask this couple for their information then i'd come back

00:12:35.440 with their profile and i'm going god i hope they match i really wanted to be a match because i was

00:12:39.440 being told they got a match as opposed to match or they just won't work and you know that's just

00:12:44.520 not the way it works there are lots of people in relationships that are not perfect matches

00:12:48.460 so i go back to them and i tell them what's going on but i would also give them information about

00:12:53.380 themselves they didn't have before and what happened is after about a year or so i was

00:12:58.960 starting to get emails and i get an email go hey dude thanks for saving our marriage or you know

00:13:04.740 i'm talking to my kid again and i'm going what and i'm thinking this isn't about dating this is

00:13:10.120 about relationships in general and so i started thinking this is way way bigger than dating and

00:13:14.980 we started doing other things with it took it into corporations worked with kids and bullying

00:13:18.880 when you said we is that you started a company off of it or did you involve the guy the zoltar

00:13:24.640 guy that gave you first information he actually hired me i took a percentage in the company and

00:13:28.540 about seven eight years ago i bought the whole thing okay because i i just you know was totally

00:13:33.300 focused on just dating right and that it was way bigger than that yeah it was way way bigger what

00:13:39.340 did he move on to out of curiosity after you bought the company i think he's in a glass box

00:13:44.400 oh he he might be cryogenically frozen zoltar have you never saw the reason i brought him up

00:13:50.120 is i saw one at this uh at this porn circus i went to last night and he i pushed him i don't

00:13:56.520 think you would have seen him there but no not that guy the zoltar guy and he gave me a little

00:14:00.300 ticket yeah exactly it said um health and fortune come full circle and sometimes it's good and

00:14:06.820 sometimes bad ride the winds of change and you'll succeed in the long term oh and try to figure out

00:14:11.600 your long-term goals i was like everything you needed to know to believe it yeah exactly it was

00:14:15.660 pretty broad i'll be honest yeah it's a little broad so is it possible i i'm curious i don't

00:14:20.280 know if you were gonna ask the slogan but is it possible to love a porn star and to find true love

00:14:24.340 I don't see why not

00:14:27.460 There we go

00:14:29.280 Mike still got hope

00:14:31.580 I have a question

00:14:33.280 Not to get rerouted

00:14:35.400 Not to get rerouted too early

00:14:37.940 Not to get rerouted too early

00:14:40.300 Is there such thing as a perfect match

00:14:44.060 Because you keep saying that

00:14:45.100 And I have this fear

00:14:46.140 Especially after watching the movie Her

00:14:48.080 With the robot 0.95

00:14:49.140 That

00:14:50.440 there is there is a large number of perfect matches in a world of seven billion people

00:14:57.880 like sure i'll meet a girl in la who you know i fall in love with and who i end up spending the 0.81

00:15:03.920 rest of my life with but how many of like her are there and in the movie her there was like 600 yeah

00:15:11.440 all right so here's the here's the reality of that one because people that are out after a

00:15:16.240 perfect match that's just a pipe dream really it truly is there are phenomenal matches and there

00:15:22.780 everybody literally everybody comes into our life for a reason and a purpose and it happens exactly

00:15:28.000 when it's fucking supposed to right so even this like why are we sitting here right now there's a

00:15:32.940 reason for it and it'll show up for all of us in some way through this either through information 0.89

00:15:37.560 feedback who knows what right so in relationships you're going to meet someone that might not be a

00:15:43.620 perfect match but there's going to be so many attributes about them that are important that

00:15:48.300 you know they show up in your life and you just got to go down that path so the key with this

00:15:52.940 stuff the reason why i like it is it helps you go down that path and successfully okay right so you

00:15:58.360 might not find your perfect match but you're going to know enough about someone to be able to navigate

00:16:03.280 the shit that comes up okay and that's the key thing because most of us look here's here's the 0.77

00:16:08.980 reality about relationships um think of like a three-legged stool okay so if you got a three-legged 0.99

00:16:14.600 stool and you take one leg out then you just got two legs and you're just balancing it right and

00:16:20.080 if you try and live on that you're going to fall over crash and burn more than once yeah so those

00:16:24.760 legs are what everybody looks for most relationships the first one is physical like all of us whether

00:16:29.740 it's men or women we're all going to base the relationship we want on some physical attributes

00:16:34.960 where they live how they look and it doesn't matter like you know women go all men are like

00:16:39.040 that no no everyone is like that right and even in business like hell if you're hiring someone to be 0.55

00:16:44.660 a jockey to ride your horse you're not going to hire a linebacker right yeah so the physical

00:16:48.540 attributes there and that's one way then the other one is like everything you know about the person

00:16:54.000 you know who are they what have they experienced what kind of traumas do they have what do they

00:16:57.560 believe what do they desire what are they passionate about in their life you know who

00:17:01.060 they dated not dated what kind of experiences and stuff do they bring with them so that's kind

00:17:06.340 of the who piece right that's what most of us based our relationships on so if it's a three

00:17:11.200 legged stool and you only got the physical and you got the mental part of it then you're just

00:17:16.780 kind of balancing so we get out there we're on these relationships it's going really great and

00:17:20.340 the next thing we know we fall over it's like right and we get up brush ourselves off and go 0.74

00:17:24.260 wow i fucked that up let's try this again and we fall over again and we get back up and go now i 0.81

00:17:29.420 i better talk to a shrink or something like coach i need you know someone to help me because we're 0.92

00:17:34.120 not sex isn't what it used to be all right so here's the key the third leg is energetics is

00:17:42.620 genetic energetics and what's so potent about this thing is it is genetic in other words you've got

00:17:49.320 an energetic type a frequency you vibrate out you vibrate out you vibrate out and it's with you your

00:17:55.720 entire life so like this is really kind of when i get it well i don't know where to go with this 0.71

00:18:02.700 there's so many different ways but i profiled all you guys oh shit i profiled you i profiled 0.96

00:18:07.640 ex-girlfriends i profiled your brother oh my god his brother oh my god you know so he's married by 0.89

00:18:13.760 the way and there are and there are there are things about those profiles that are going to 0.99

00:18:18.980 explain shit to you that you're going to go fuck no one nah that's impossible i can't i guarantee 0.99

00:18:23.020 You're very interested in hearing mine, because the last time I sat on one of your so-called stools, 1.00

00:18:28.000 they were talking about the three legs, was like 20 years ago.

00:18:30.360 I haven't had a relationship.

00:18:31.220 I don't even know what feeling something feels like.

00:18:34.080 I haven't even felt a butterfly or like, oh, I like this girl in literally over a decade.

00:18:38.900 Yeah.

00:18:39.560 Not one time.

00:18:40.540 We were in San Francisco.

00:18:41.620 The three of us were in a car, and that's when we found out that the one woman you truly loved is now married.

00:18:48.220 She got married.

00:18:49.200 Congratulations, Morgan Miller.

00:18:50.220 the last girl i dated was like literally 10 years ago it was like 2011 or something

00:18:56.580 next one's coming what you're describing is impossible unless you can prove me wrong right

00:19:02.860 now kind of game show ass let's prove you wrong okay wait all right so you have a large stack 0.59

00:19:12.040 of paper here well yeah because i you know i went through all that first of all that oh so this 0.83

00:19:18.480 system what it does is it profiles some very specific things how we communicate how we process

00:19:23.640 information how we handle money how we sexually engage where chemistry comes from how do you know

00:19:28.920 all that about like any of us do you have a camera in my room i don't i do but can we get one in his

00:19:34.700 room i don't know sorry people you're hanging out with have plenty of cameras yes now but what's it

00:19:43.840 based on so it's it's a combination of quantum physics and astronomy quantum so this is a it's

00:19:52.200 a crazy system and i only say that because when i was introduced to it that was my question like

00:19:56.980 how the hell does this work right and and because i didn't own the company i didn't even have any

00:20:01.740 part in the company that's guys going i can't tell you it just works who's that girl that's my

00:20:06.000 sweetheart she's looking at you like she she really will be in love with you for the rest of

00:20:09.820 life this whole time she hasn't taken her eyes off you i guess it's working i guess you got some

00:20:14.380 credibility so that's i mean that's why i spent a couple years and just interviewed all these

00:20:19.660 couples because i'm going is this crazy you know how can this be so accurate and it was just so

00:20:25.260 dead on accurate then we had a group of scientists come in and actually study the thing and they they

00:20:29.660 paid for it like a couple hundred thousand dollars in research and and proved that the system was 0.95

00:20:34.380 accurate all right so fuck me up doc my guy all right so so here's some fun 0.84

00:20:40.560 things right so communication style is what there's four lifestyles traits in 0.98

00:20:44.980 this thing and the first one is communication style right it's really how

00:20:48.100 how we communicate with each other and the energy around it and there's two

00:20:51.620 kinds there's one that's called figurative and the other structural so

00:20:54.780 I'm structural everything that comes out of my mouth I'm it's like I'm using the

00:20:58.600 words to mean exactly what I want to say and if you talk to me unless I know

00:21:02.220 know better i'm going to take you literally like webster's dictionary is my friend right but you

00:21:06.800 three don't talk that way so you guys not even close not even close so he's but he's probably

00:21:12.460 the closest to structural out of the out of the house and there's and there's a reason for that

00:21:16.720 but that we can get into but let's go you know so so the other one is figurative and figurative

00:21:22.360 people are just emotive right it's just like it's not the words as much as the emotion and

00:21:27.320 conveying the motion that's really important when you're communicating now you know if you've got

00:21:31.480 something really specific to say like here's the address you got to go to that address you can do

00:21:35.420 that yeah but otherwise it doesn't matter as much like you know if if i called you up and you were

00:21:41.220 coming over for dinner and i said uh you know when you're going to be here you you say i'll be there

00:21:45.580 in a bit i'm going what if i say what if i say like because my my thing would be like define

00:21:51.900 dinner like what if you're like is there a sarcasm pillar like that is so far out of

00:21:57.760 doesn't even compute like i might say like you might say what time you come for dinner i may say

00:22:03.060 like define coming i may say i may say like what if dinner comes to us you like i'm nothing i ever

00:22:10.000 say makes sense like it's a third pillar so here's it's not a third pillar it's just you having fun

00:22:15.300 with communicating right all right and and so what it means like if i'm going to have an interaction

00:22:19.320 with you and understand what the hell you're talking about i gotta ask you what the hell's

00:22:22.180 that mean right and and so the two different communication styles have these it's like two

00:22:27.500 different languages so if you're in a relationship with someone that's got a

00:22:30.260 different communication style oftentimes you have misunderstandings now my

00:22:34.380 sweetheart and I are the same communication style now we can have

00:22:37.160 disagreements but we rarely have misunderstandings now here's the other

00:22:41.600 deal you guys ever play with magnets when your kids you know when you push

00:22:43.980 them together and they repel each other right so what's going on when there's

00:22:47.880 those two different inner energetic frequencies is there they're discordant

00:22:51.860 so they're repelling each other so when you're around people that are different

00:22:55.640 communication style you get worn down everybody knows this right you get together with someone

00:23:00.920 you spend time with them and you go you've been like you you really like the person you really

00:23:04.960 want to spend time with them and like you're yawning and you're looking around just any place

00:23:09.240 but just sucking your energy energy vampire that's the word right and then as soon as you leave their 0.99

00:23:13.820 company you call your friends and all of a sudden your energy's back you're going shit i don't want 0.99

00:23:17.740 to do that again right but we encounter that all the time so here's the the trippy deal all three 0.85

00:23:23.400 of you guys are figurative communication style i'm structural so i'm right in here between this

00:23:28.460 energetic frequency i'm gonna take a nap when we're done with this show because you're tired

00:23:32.860 or because you're bored um neither because the energetic frequencies that are coming at me

00:23:37.760 are so different that they just wear me down yeah yeah right oh interesting so you know that's one

00:23:43.960 of the things that that happens in that environment now if you're speaking two different languages and

00:23:48.940 what do we do to communicate these days we use these freaking phones and we're

00:23:52.660 texting people all the time right yeah so we know that language like just our

00:23:57.460 words it's only seven percent of our communications so if there are two

00:24:00.400 different communication styles take that down to three and a half percent which

00:24:03.240 means ninety six point five percent of the time when you're texting someone

00:24:06.620 they have no clue what you're saying to them you know so why does texting blow up

00:24:12.400 all the time because we try to have these heartfelt important conversations on

00:24:15.820 texting it it's good for giving an address time to be there something like that but we you know 0.98

00:24:21.320 we start using this thing as a way of communicating it's like pick the damn phone up and make a call

00:24:26.040 or by the way girl or by the way go see the person go absolutely and like go because even 0.90

00:24:32.020 if you make the call you're still losing 60 of body language also the eye contact you're right

00:24:37.320 also the flip side though when some people call you up and they're talking for like 15 minutes

00:24:41.040 and you're like damn you could have just texted oh first of all don't ever don't ever people have 0.95

00:24:44.340 been calling me lately don't ever call me i don't know you fucking dare call me people people i got 0.98

00:24:50.680 like three people right now that are new in the funnel that by the way i'm not tight with they're 0.89

00:24:54.800 new business people and they'll just call me 12 you know 11 30 a.m yeah hey what's up and just 0.94

00:24:59.960 want to hop on the phone for a few minutes don't you fucking dare you don't you don't know me in 0.84

00:25:03.320 my notes i don't even talk to my mom that much in my notes uh on on show openers i have a line here 0.98

00:25:09.600 i don't do phone calls no i don't do phone calls i feel like this might be a millennial thing though

00:25:15.780 it is but jake does phone calls man that kid will call you and by the way you y'all have seen it he'll

00:25:21.760 call me and be like yo i'm like what's up he'll be like um uh you know come on you gotta be

00:25:28.840 discerning who you pick up the phone with right the key here is if you want to have an important

00:25:33.740 communication with someone you know like you said go see them that's the best right get on the phone

00:25:38.180 with them but don't rely on texting so you know that's not the only deal the the you know if we

00:25:44.300 look at the profile of you guys we actually profiled the almost the whole cast here the

00:25:48.680 whole team wow no one's safe did you profile danny yeah our assistant there we go she's literally

00:25:55.020 an angel sat down from so here's you know the heavens i want to know about danny so here's the

00:26:00.340 crazy thing everybody on this team except for your chef right is figurative talking style wow so you

00:26:07.460 guys like this is a this is a perfect environment yes it really is so communicating you want to

00:26:13.820 you know express something to somebody you guys are going to get it you know minus the chef

00:26:17.800 4k has no idea what we're saying ever she just hates everybody

00:26:24.520 when we talk do you think it could be because we're in la no you don't absolutely not because 0.84

00:26:31.040 are you sure because like there's a lot of like jive ass honkies here dude like i don't know i've

00:26:37.360 got more profiles on people in los angeles than i could shake a stick at it it's not and there's a

00:26:41.200 lot of there's a lot of structure so what did you find out all right i want to know about okay so

00:26:45.580 look at so you guys are all you guys are all the same same figurative communication style which is

00:26:49.820 kick-ass great there we go it's awesome for working well together then the next lifestyle

00:26:55.200 trait is called activity level and there's people either moderate active or they're super active

00:26:59.460 and the moderate active person is kind of like you know they're more methodical and when they

00:27:05.600 think about when they say something they may take a few moments moments longer to make sure that

00:27:10.720 you know they're communicating what they want and the super active person these folks got to

00:27:15.120 basically when i talk to them i say you stop yourself from finishing other people's sentences

00:27:20.280 right and they go yeah all the time you know so they're just being nice so you guys are all

00:27:24.600 moderate active which is cool so all of us here are that same speed yeah what was it moderate

00:27:30.340 active right i don't take it so literally just listen to how he describes it that just can't be

00:27:36.780 for me i i know i ask somebody a question i don't cut their answer if i answer for them yeah i'm

00:27:41.040 like how tall are you 6'3 that's dope where are you from connecticut me too i have full conversations 0.80

00:27:45.900 with people they don't get to say shit how can i be moderately active i'm hyper i'm ultra active 0.98

00:27:52.140 so question for you do you need to know what you're doing all the time like can you just chill 0.99

00:27:57.280 if you want to?

00:27:58.500 No.

00:27:59.020 I don't even know

00:27:59.680 what I'm doing right now.

00:28:01.140 I don't even know

00:28:01.900 where I am right now. 0.99

00:28:02.720 My brain is fucking gone. 0.99

00:28:04.760 On Sunday, 1.00

00:28:05.180 I'll lay out a float

00:28:05.980 and float around in the pool.

00:28:07.300 Yeah,

00:28:07.380 if he had a lazy river,

00:28:08.680 he wouldn't do anything.

00:28:09.800 It's true.

00:28:10.320 He would never leave it.

00:28:10.900 That's true,

00:28:11.480 but everybody knows.

00:28:12.320 So here's the deal.

00:28:12.960 The super active...

00:28:13.520 At the ranch.

00:28:15.740 Oh.

00:28:16.000 Something to think about.

00:28:17.080 Something to think about.

00:28:17.780 Something to think about.

00:28:18.900 That'd be crazy.

00:28:19.660 Look at that.

00:28:20.160 Look at that.

00:28:20.820 Oh my God.

00:28:21.420 It's coming home.

00:28:22.220 Oh my God, bro.

00:28:22.600 It's coming home.

00:28:23.220 That's his jam.

00:28:23.760 sorry sorry sorry sorry good i don't even know where the ranch is but i can imagine me either

00:28:28.080 yeah we don't have it so the super active person they like they're just like they love structure

00:28:34.920 from the time their head leaves the pillow in the morning till it goes back on the bed later at night

00:28:39.080 they love to know what's going on if they don't know what's going on they get all depressed and 0.96

00:28:42.640 shit right and and and it's wild like i i talked to this one gal she goes i can't be super active 0.93

00:28:49.560 and i go why she says well i you know i do yoga every day and i i like to go for walks on the 0.94

00:28:55.160 beach and i meditate and i went that's cool when you do that so i do yoga every day at six i walk

00:28:59.780 on the beach at noon and meditate every night at 5 30 exactly right so it the the key thing here is

00:29:06.800 like if we're talking to super active people we got to talk a lot faster like this because when

00:29:09.900 you talk like this they get all excited that sounds like ben shapiro he's super active but

00:29:15.480 to your point i never i don't have a set schedule so you maybe because i wake up and i know the

00:29:21.260 things i have to do for the day but i don't know when i'm gonna get them done yeah and and the key

00:29:25.760 is like look at if if my lady simone and i if all four of us five of us were like on the beach

00:29:32.420 just hanging out drinking my ties whatever that we're drinking right and we're gonna have them

00:29:37.900 all done she finishes her she's going all right guys what are you gonna do and i'm looking like

00:29:41.220 i'm not done with mine yet you guys aren't done i don't know we'll figure that out when i finish

00:29:44.720 it and she's going well i already know i'm either going out on those boats i'm either going out

00:29:48.780 surfing i'm going shopping i'm going sailing you guys figure it out and you know and we'd be going

00:29:54.180 can you just chill just relax you know it's like yeah right so is that where all the problems come

00:30:01.480 from is where we try to control that's not basically what happens i'd say i'd say do you

00:30:07.500 remember when we went to when we were in hawaii we were all in hawaii did you come with us on that

00:30:11.780 trip no i would andre would always say i don't know bro let's like chilling to see what happens

00:30:17.420 man and i would be and i would be like just a crazy pipe i would be like yo we have to do the

00:30:24.660 atvs by four if we miss that window then we have to go straight to dinner and and and they're like

00:30:29.520 we'll where and he'd be like well where are we gonna eat bro and i'd be like dude i've already 0.54

00:30:34.000 called made the reservations for 10 people chill the fuck out and he'd be like i can't get any 0.53

00:30:37.860 more chill than arnie so yeah so i got a bucket again i'm on the far end that's all right look at 0.57

00:30:46.400 the the key with this is this is your propensity right this is kind of where you have it it's not

00:30:51.760 going to nail everybody exactly right but it gets pretty damn close and the key is like you know if

00:30:58.360 i'm working with you guys knowing what your profiles are make it possible for me to first

00:31:04.440 ask questions if i'm not sure what the heck you said right and because we're all moderate active

00:31:09.060 that makes it easy but if like if we're dealing with money there's two different kinds of ways

00:31:13.920 of dealing with money and we're gonna have different conversations and then when we get

00:31:17.520 around sex i can tell you 95 of the relationships that aren't matched sexually they don't work over

00:31:24.460 time really unless they understand this unless they know what to do with it because the two

00:31:28.880 different sexual response types in this are radically different can we get can we go to that

00:31:34.040 Sorry, just for the tea for the viewers

00:31:37.420 You're thinking for the people

00:31:39.340 Of course

00:31:40.020 Because two of you are one kind

00:31:43.440 And another of you are one 0.92

00:31:44.740 These two are the same

00:31:46.700 Lately that actually might

00:31:49.060 I'm excited for this

00:31:51.020 Go ahead, lay it out

00:31:52.280 We're the same?

00:31:53.960 Hell no

00:31:54.640 He's saying you two are the same type

00:31:57.700 You want to hear this?

00:32:00.320 So the sexual response type

00:32:02.020 There's two kinds

00:32:02.740 there's a mental emotional and there's a physical right and the mental emotional person it's like

00:32:08.000 the prelude to sex is important so the emotional connection the romance kind of flowers music all 0.98

00:32:14.720 that kind of stuff you know that's like that's our foreplay oh shit i'm in so much trouble 0.99

00:32:19.620 i'm so fucked literally and the physical sexual response type 0.99

00:32:25.960 that our byline for them is when you're hot you're hot right yeah and so here's the this is 0.99

00:32:32.740 like i had this trippiest experience when i was doing all this trying to figure out if this thing

00:32:37.260 was all real about 10 years ago and i'm talking to this gal who is i've never even heard her swear

00:32:42.600 ever in my life right and she's awesome lady and i'm describing this and i'm saying yeah you know

00:32:47.900 flowers music all that's kind of it's wonderful she goes well i like all that stuff and i go well 0.98

00:32:53.200 do you need it and she goes no just fuck me yeah yeah yeah yeah and did that did that turn you off 0.98

00:33:01.940 um no but now you're still you're still a dude yeah so here's the reality for a lot of guys 1.00

00:33:11.740 right is that when a woman is like when she's hot she's hot and she just wants them that's like

00:33:16.800 really easy for a guy oh great yeah bring it on but the problem is is that if you miss the cue 0.76

00:33:22.440 then you got a big

00:33:24.480 then there's an issue

00:33:25.420 oof

00:33:26.080 is that how you get me too'd

00:33:27.220 yeah that sounds like

00:33:28.100 sounds like

00:33:28.640 sounds like a Weinstein moment

00:33:30.280 sounds like a lot of people

00:33:31.380 out here need this

00:33:32.020 she was probably like 0.65

00:33:32.700 I really love the movies

00:33:34.080 you produce

00:33:34.640 Miss Q comes in a plant 0.73

00:33:35.980 is that what you're getting 0.90

00:33:36.880 at right now

00:33:37.580 like is that what's

00:33:38.360 I don't know

00:33:41.440 I miss the Q of this

00:33:43.120 whole conversation

00:33:44.080 no no no

00:33:44.820 so the Q is like this

00:33:46.460 I

00:33:47.080 Oh no

00:33:54.280 Oh Harvey

00:33:55.660 Thank you

00:33:56.860 Return to sanity later

00:33:58.740 I must have missed a cue

00:34:01.220 Oh I am so sorry

00:34:04.460 He should have used that as an excuse

00:34:05.760 And used him as his attorney 1.00

00:34:07.340 He's like we've got to clear Miss Q here guys 1.00

00:34:10.040 Oh my god

00:34:13.280 Yo Mike's on today

00:34:16.260 you are this is a light-hearted topic this is good so so here's the deal you you

00:34:24.300 you're there you're physical sexual right you don't say you don't say so you know here's here's

00:34:32.120 here's the crazy thing right if you look at tantra if you listen to like a bunch of the

00:34:38.500 relationship gurus that talk about the man the masculine and the feminine they're gonna say like 0.99

00:34:43.240 all guys source from their cock, right? 0.96

00:34:45.460 Just where it starts, moves up, right? 0.99

00:34:47.960 BDE. 1.00

00:34:48.540 And then all women come from their head and their heart, right? 1.00

00:34:52.240 And it moves downward. 0.99

00:34:53.280 But that's not true. 1.00

00:34:54.900 50% of women source from their cock. 1.00

00:34:57.280 Oh, shit. 1.00

00:34:58.420 Of course, of course. 1.00

00:34:59.160 In this city, that's probably not that far off. 1.00

00:35:03.060 Transgender, maybe. 1.00

00:35:04.100 Maybe, that's what I'm saying. 1.00

00:35:05.840 The key is that a physical sexual response type woman, 0.97

00:35:09.060 she's coming like this, right? 1.00

00:35:10.980 Both directions.

00:35:11.660 so she's totally starting in her core and the mental emotional guys are starting up here you

00:35:18.100 know so we we can have a quickie it's great but it won't sustain us that's the key thing it's like

00:35:23.720 after a while that was fun that was fun can i have a little romance let me can do you love me

00:35:27.460 what is this one you are spot on this one you are spot on he's got a long-term girlfriend he loves

00:35:32.940 talent he's turned up by talent and like by the way i'm turning by the way you gotta stop with

00:35:38.400 this narrative it's not the only thing this is a good thing by the way every every girl that he

00:35:42.900 has over she'll be around for a little while you know like a little while and even if we don't want

00:35:49.140 her to be even if he doesn't want her to be there you should stick around for a little bit too

00:35:52.080 me yeah he's got he's got an uber on the way here for their return i'm an uber he's booking

00:36:03.580 round trip so that doesn't even exist all right so here's the big deal for you though

00:36:07.460 is that mental, emotional, sexual response type,

00:36:10.400 our sexual energy is all on the surface.

00:36:12.600 People can see it.

00:36:13.400 Like if we're casting people for movies in Hollywood 0.97

00:36:15.940 and we want like a sex queen or a sex game, right? 0.98

00:36:18.640 We want that really sexual flavor to come out. 0.99

00:36:22.200 We're going to look for a mental, emotional character, 0.68

00:36:24.560 an actor, right?

00:36:25.820 The physical sexual response type person,

00:36:28.020 their sexual energy is all held inside.

00:36:30.740 And so when they get someone that's the same type as them,

00:36:34.220 it's like they got the key to the lock. 0.97

00:36:36.500 It lets it out.

00:36:36.980 It's just like the bed's breaking. 0.99

00:36:38.380 That's why he likes porn stars. 0.97

00:36:40.480 No, no, no. 0.96

00:36:41.080 You miscued that.

00:36:42.760 Go come in a play, right?

00:36:44.000 You miswriting it.

00:36:44.920 So you're going to love this.

00:36:46.040 This is an interesting thing.

00:36:47.140 If you look at writers and directors in the porn industry, guess what most of them are?

00:36:51.540 Are they emotional?

00:36:53.340 Because they create scenes, right?

00:36:55.300 It's all about writing the scene.

00:36:57.240 So they want to get people all excited and hot, and then they stop into it.

00:37:01.980 That's the writers, right?

00:37:02.920 I can't speak for the porn stars.

00:37:05.520 yeah the actors don't really match the vibe it's always it's always a lot more awkward yeah you're

00:37:10.380 not gonna learn you're not gonna learn a lot from watching that's why porn scenes hey you're here

00:37:13.820 for your doctor's visit i meant cocter's visit and the writers looking on from the sidelines like 0.90

00:37:21.340 that's not how i fucking wrote i said at all did not see it like that right now i imagine this 0.70

00:37:26.980 yeah so so the key here is like if if those two are mismatched then the couple really have to do 0.95

00:37:34.740 more than just your basic sex right and if you think about freaky maybe right probably more

00:37:44.040 tantric than freaky okay and and by that i mean they need to connect energetically right they

00:37:49.180 need to be able to move energy because if you know mike's got a girlfriend and she and she

00:37:56.380 and these guys are engaging he's got to release that sexual energy otherwise it's like after a

00:38:02.300 it's like what's the point and that's where the miscue is so and what i'm talking about there and

00:38:08.660 i'll just i'll use an example so i had a girlfriend that physical sexual response type and one time i

00:38:13.040 was making her dinner so i got i'm making her dinner i got flowers i put on the music i had 0.99

00:38:18.900 candles lit and she's coming home from work and she gets the door and i go so you hungry and she

00:38:23.900 goes oh i'm hungry and i'm going she didn't want dinner no she wanted that big sausage pizza exactly

00:38:31.160 how'd you know i had so i knew it was your style so here's your profile your pizza profile it's

00:38:38.900 my pizza profiles off the charts really and they stack yeah so the key is though the cue for her

00:38:48.120 is oh i'm hungry now if i said oh let's eat dinner and then we'll you know we'll come out or you know

00:38:53.660 we'll go play later she'd go well that's you know that's cute he made dinner for me and that's okay

00:38:58.480 But other than consciously, the insider body is going, the guy blew it.

00:39:03.100 He missed the cue, right?

00:39:04.560 So you miss it once, maybe not so bad.

00:39:06.680 You miss it twice, three times, and their body starts to shut down.

00:39:10.440 They don't even know why.

00:39:11.560 So the most common thing I hear when there's two different sexual response types is the mental, emotional person will go, I don't know how to get them excited.

00:39:18.640 They just like lay there waiting for me to do something.

00:39:21.200 I don't know what to do, right?

00:39:22.940 So that mismatch is really problematic.

00:39:26.320 now when you know what's going on

00:39:28.860 you can accommodate for it

00:39:30.520 and that's the key to all this

00:39:31.960 like you know we've got different

00:39:34.300 communication styles I've got a different 0.71

00:39:36.520 activity level than my sweetheart

00:39:38.020 I understand the difference if I 1.00

00:39:40.400 didn't understand the difference we would blow the fuck up 1.00

00:39:42.700 what's the difference between a sweetheart 1.00

00:39:44.500 and a girlfriend 0.99

00:39:45.160 I don't know the time of day

00:39:48.580 day of the week is she a girlfriend

00:39:50.640 she's my beloved

00:39:51.800 I see what you're doing here

00:39:54.360 because you said sweetheart three times now.

00:39:57.500 There must be some sort of thing that's happening here.

00:40:00.480 I hate to put you on the spot.

00:40:02.900 Okay, so, man, I hate to do this,

00:40:06.680 but why don't you refer to her as your girlfriend?

00:40:09.680 Are they past that?

00:40:11.460 You know what?

00:40:12.340 It is past that, I would say.

00:40:14.800 But not a fiancé?

00:40:15.720 The term girlfriend is not one of her favorite terms.

00:40:19.060 Oh, it's a you thing.

00:40:19.900 It's a respect.

00:40:21.160 My beloved, my sweetheart.

00:40:23.040 What else you got?

00:40:24.200 Oh, I got lots of other stuff.

00:40:26.740 Like, do you say I adore you?

00:40:28.720 All the time.

00:40:29.280 Do you ever call our sweet cheeks?

00:40:31.320 Hot pants?

00:40:33.000 Cherry pie?

00:40:33.800 Crumb cake?

00:40:34.580 Oh, keep going. 1.00

00:40:35.460 Sugar tits. 1.00

00:40:37.460 Oh, yeah, that was it. 1.00

00:40:38.820 He goes, that was it.

00:40:39.840 He goes, there you can stay, and you can stop there.

00:40:42.000 And you can stop there.

00:40:43.400 Lollipop, whatever you want.

00:40:44.600 We'll just keep going.

00:40:45.900 Can you go?

00:40:46.960 Larry, how was Logan and Chloe's match?

00:40:49.160 Oh, wow. 1.00

00:40:50.300 What the fuck did you just do, Dylan? 1.00

00:40:52.500 I'm actually curious. 1.00

00:40:53.660 because chloe and i are friends and uh yeah all right so here's the deal chloe's structural 0.99

00:41:01.440 talking style so and you're figurative so it'd be real easy for you guys to have misunderstandings 0.55

00:41:08.320 or wear each other down energetically right so you can be best friends no question about that

00:41:14.140 but if you're hanging with each other all the time and you're communicating all the time that

00:41:17.260 things don't necessarily flow as easily as you might want them to hate that we're doing this

00:41:22.140 I'm so sorry, Chloe.

00:41:23.760 So, you know, she's got, and she's physical sexual response type. 0.99

00:41:27.660 You're mental, emotional. 1.00

00:41:28.580 Fucking fuck. 1.00

00:41:33.080 So, look at that. 1.00

00:41:34.160 Do you see some of the names?

00:41:35.040 There's an opportunity.

00:41:36.680 Do you see who's right next to her?

00:41:38.380 Tantric practices. 0.60

00:41:39.460 Oh, Karina.

00:41:41.720 Oh, no.

00:41:44.240 Just going right down the line.

00:41:47.000 Hey, hold on.

00:41:47.600 I don't even want to go there.

00:41:50.020 Wait, just regarding.

00:41:51.280 Just, okay, hold up.

00:41:52.900 Karina.

00:41:55.360 Or we could do your brother.

00:41:56.760 Yeah, let's do that.

00:42:00.140 Can I ask you a quick question?

00:42:02.060 Yeah.

00:42:02.340 Can you get out of, can you move out of one through, like, learning into the other, for example?

00:42:07.880 Or these are genetic.

00:42:09.380 They're genetic.

00:42:09.620 The reason I ask is because, to be honest with you, I always wanted to be a mental, emotional lover.

00:42:15.260 You know what I'm saying?

00:42:15.800 Like, I want somebody to be like, I watched a podcast the other day.

00:42:19.800 You were real funny

00:42:21.480 And I'm just like 0.99

00:42:22.180 Damn girl 0.99

00:42:22.780 Tell me more about my podcast 1.00

00:42:24.120 You know what I'm saying

00:42:25.300 Like how do I get there dude

00:42:26.640 Maybe next life 1.00

00:42:27.460 Or some shit 1.00

00:42:28.700 Cause right now 0.99

00:42:30.500 I'm just like stuck in this zone

00:42:31.900 Where they're just like 1.00

00:42:32.440 Yo you got a dick 1.00

00:42:33.420 I got a vagina 1.00

00:42:34.240 You wanna do things 1.00

00:42:35.400 I'm like fuck yeah 0.99

00:42:36.360 It's the closest I ever feel to GP 0.99

00:42:39.220 On a daily basis

00:42:40.620 And then you guys start a fire

00:42:42.500 Yeah

00:42:42.880 And then roast meat over

00:42:44.380 So the good news was that

00:42:45.520 Like you wanna come back to my cave

00:42:48.100 I have a cave 1.00

00:42:49.100 i have a fucking den you have a cave in a mansion 1.00

00:42:53.280 would you say based on my red light over the bed no i don't i can get it's warm do you think based 0.99

00:43:00.660 on my characteristics that i'm simply just a non-developed caveman no with yeezy no absolutely

00:43:06.300 thank you so much thank god absolutely it's close but here's here's an interesting thing so

00:43:11.200 we've got four lifestyle traits in this thing we went through you know communication style

00:43:16.360 and activity level we didn't talk about the money part that's you know compared to the others it's

00:43:21.160 cool but it's not as exciting right now the that we did the sexual part we haven't talked about

00:43:25.620 chemistry but there's also these things called modifiers and you have a modifier called the

00:43:31.060 engager modifier which we call the charisma trait it's like all these modifiers have an upside and

00:43:36.480 downside except for that one yeah and it and it's like everybody likes you when that when people

00:43:41.080 don't even want to like you when they like when people say they're like why does he get girls like 1.00

00:43:45.520 he's fucking stupid 1.00

00:43:46.580 and he's ugly 1.00

00:43:47.140 and all this shit 1.00

00:43:47.700 and I'm like 0.99

00:43:47.960 well very true

00:43:48.740 first of all

00:43:49.260 but second of all

00:43:50.080 I got the charisma modifier

00:43:51.740 alright people just 0.99

00:43:52.660 want to fucking 0.98

00:43:53.220 be with me dude 0.99

00:43:54.120 like I don't know

00:43:54.640 what to say

00:43:55.040 even if I want

00:43:56.080 to turn it off

00:43:56.580 I can't

00:43:57.040 and people tell you 1.00

00:43:58.760 shit that you don't 1.00

00:43:59.300 even want to hear about 1.00

00:43:59.980 right

00:44:00.180 people all the time 1.00

00:44:01.040 bro every fucking 0.99

00:44:02.040 time I go out 1.00

00:44:02.720 I have a 45 minute

00:44:03.640 conversation with

00:44:04.280 something about

00:44:05.180 some like

00:44:05.760 with someone 1.00

00:44:06.380 about some shit 0.98

00:44:07.060 and I'm just like 0.99

00:44:07.540 why is this happening

00:44:08.220 right now

00:44:08.520 but since I have

00:44:10.100 that modifier

00:44:10.560 I'm like

00:44:10.840 tell me more

00:44:11.520 like I'm very

00:44:12.420 yeah

00:44:12.820 so here's the

00:44:13.500 here's the

00:44:14.120 But the really cool thing about it is that, like, you make the best reporters, the best attorneys, the best investigators.

00:44:22.040 Because when you ask someone a question, they, like, go, I'll tell you everything.

00:44:25.820 Yeah.

00:44:26.340 Right?

00:44:26.700 They do.

00:44:27.320 They're just, like, it's hypnotic.

00:44:28.980 There's not, it's almost impossible not to answer your question.

00:44:32.960 You've got to have, like, your guard up not to do it.

00:44:35.380 Right.

00:44:35.640 And so you can ask people the most personal stuff, and they'll just spew it out.

00:44:40.480 Go, I've never told anybody that before.

00:44:42.340 I can't believe I just said it.

00:44:43.240 keep it a secret please i've always called it like ability to build rapport quickly like really so

00:44:48.620 like instantaneous for you it's genetic yeah it's just there yeah bam it's the charisma trait and

00:44:53.320 it's very it's it's very cool unless you know you just want to be by yourself i want to i want to

00:44:58.980 revert for a second i wanted to ask you something about uh the match between me and some of my past

00:45:05.700 relationships i sort of feel like it's a it's a me thing more than maybe a them thing i mean

00:45:11.960 agree that it is it ends up being like a mutual thing but uh subconsciously i feel like i was

00:45:21.480 anyway at a place where i was so emotionally unavailable and i say that all the time and i

00:45:27.200 and i really do believe i was where so at what point does the genetic energetics

00:45:32.200 match or mismatch so it's not even matter it's always an influence always has an influence yeah

00:45:39.800 right and there are you know there are you know we can use some let's use a movie star famous

00:45:48.100 movie star for this so jennifer aniston right her and brad pitt were a really great match 1.00

00:45:52.820 and then when she when they broke that off for the next number of years she kept dating people 0.95

00:45:59.120 that were not a good match for her why the same reason most people do because she didn't really

00:46:04.620 want to be back in a relationship right so we have we have a sense like if if we know it's not a

00:46:10.800 really good match if it doesn't feel exactly right and we really don't want a relationship we just

00:46:15.400 want to play or we just want to you know we're still kind of going through whatever we're going

00:46:18.860 through in life but not ready to commit to a relationship what's better than someone that

00:46:23.000 you know is not going to last i've heard that you date uh if if you've had like a traumatic or like

00:46:28.560 a big breakup you date reactively or you date uh what is it okay so say say i'm defensively is what

00:46:34.840 you do it is what a lot of people do they'll come out of a relationship and you know oh the guy

00:46:39.640 cheated on me or it was traumatic in one way or another and then they go out looking for another

00:46:44.480 relationship saying i don't want another cheater or i don't want another person that does this well

00:46:49.780 here's the the good news bad news is that whatever you ask for you're gonna get and when you say i

00:46:56.880 don't want another cheater universe doesn't hear i don't want it just hears cheater yeah so you get

00:47:02.640 what you're trying to avoid and and so people that come out of relationships and they have an

00:47:08.220 experience that didn't work for them what they need to do is get clear what they want as opposed

00:47:13.600 to what they don't want and ask for that it's that simple i mean it's that simple but if they're still

00:47:19.060 stuck in the trauma and the issues there and they're still living that they'll just draw it

00:47:22.860 back they'll come back i'm talking about like say say i had a relationship with a really independent

00:47:26.960 girl we broke up didn't work maybe the the rebound let's call it maybe she's a girl who

00:47:33.240 likes to be taken care of and i like that because it's the exact opposite of this

00:47:36.440 thing that i just had that clearly didn't work and i found myself sort of doing that

00:47:41.600 so is there any truth in that or am i making this so no i want to make sure i understand

00:47:45.980 what you're asking me so you date you date no you date uh how can i say this

00:47:55.420 you

00:47:58.320 we're close we're close now you're dating like the opposite person that you just dated

00:48:06.340 but you went like too far oh no hey you were there you were right there i feel bad for i was

00:48:13.240 I was coming in.

00:48:14.280 I was coming in now.

00:48:15.040 It's okay.

00:48:15.860 I feel like Spencer's going to handle it for you.

00:48:17.760 I said I was off.

00:48:19.040 No, you're not.

00:48:19.520 No, no, no.

00:48:20.140 You're talking about.

00:48:21.000 He said it good the first time around.

00:48:22.280 That's what I thought.

00:48:23.360 Yeah.

00:48:23.940 I think you're all figurative talking style.

00:48:26.420 I'm structural.

00:48:27.040 I need an interpreter.

00:48:28.360 No, you're dating an opposite reaction. 0.93

00:48:31.340 Equal opposite reaction.

00:48:32.480 It's science, guys.

00:48:33.200 Okay.

00:48:33.920 All right.

00:48:36.520 So you're saying to me you date one person and it didn't work, so you try someone totally

00:48:41.120 different, right?

00:48:41.800 Yeah.

00:48:42.400 Is that what you're.

00:48:43.020 not even not even just try i found myself being attracted to i mean that what i just said is is

00:48:48.500 anecdotal i dated a girl who's very independent could do her own thing and then we broke up and

00:48:55.520 then the next girl i was like yo i like that i'm taking care of this girl because the last girl

00:48:59.100 didn't need to be taken care of so all that first relationship is telling you that that doesn't work

00:49:03.980 for you like if you're being discerning wow she's just too independent i don't feel like i'm

00:49:07.720 contributing you know it's like there's there's nothing here for me to do or contribute so you're 0.99

00:49:13.220 gonna look so you know i need a leech ass girl maybe somewhere in between the two like you know 0.53

00:49:19.160 look at there's um all right here we're gonna pull this out because it's kind of interesting 0.80

00:49:25.520 there's a modifier called an enroller modifier and you've got it right and um my beloved has it

00:49:34.640 i have it right and it's a really it's got an upside and a downside the upside is is that

00:49:39.820 we're great at building teams we're super creative we can come up with all kinds of stuff

00:49:44.340 normally none of that stuff will come to be unless we got a back office like kick-ass people to help

00:49:49.260 us out then shit really happens so it's really powerful and we're it's kind of like the analogy

00:49:55.160 is if you're a orchestra leader and you've been given the job to run the new york philharmonic 0.95

00:49:59.640 you go out there and you pick the best people you know the best string the best percussion

00:50:04.140 whatever to be on your team because ideally what you want them to do is succeed at a level they've

00:50:08.320 never succeeded before can you relate to that yeah okay so that is a really cool attribute but 1.00

00:50:14.740 women who have the enroller modifier have something else going on and that's that they're 1.00

00:50:19.400 kind of a man in a woman's body right back to the so they don't really they're they're powerful 1.00

00:50:25.500 they're the most successful women in business but they're also the largest population of single 0.70

00:50:31.100 women over the age of 40 because they inadvertently emasculate their men wow you know who said this

00:50:36.520 wow oh what's his name oh the guy from canada yes the canadian dude arden stefan stefan aren't 1.00

00:50:44.460 aren't already stefan ardeal bro he said the same thing so these women by the way they're they're 0.99

00:50:49.740 all in their masculine most of the time and like you know you go to open the car door for them 1.00

00:50:54.320 they go what the hell are you doing i can open my own car do that myself sometimes they even 0.99

00:50:58.400 throw bitch in at the end i've had a couple they go i can open my own door bitch yeah and i'm like 0.99

00:51:03.320 first of all so so my so so my beloved is an enroller right and when i started when i first 1.00

00:51:08.540 went to open the car door for her she goes what are you doing yeah and i go i love to do that

00:51:12.600 it's my way of acknowledging you right but i used to you know run around open the door when we got 0.99

00:51:17.520 someplace it'll never happen for her she's not waiting for my ass to get around the car to open 0.87

00:51:21.500 the door she wants out right watchers reach over from the inside well then because we would never 0.82

00:51:26.440 get out because i'd be reaching yeah the door wouldn't open do you think people get better at

00:51:31.280 relationships as they get older uh i think from learning from like learn learn learn learn learn

00:51:38.040 we get better at everything as we get older that's why i think that's that's why i always

00:51:41.560 look at people that like spend a ton of time like um observing and uh like identifying things that

00:51:50.200 went wrong in their past relationships especially early in their life like in their first major

00:51:55.160 relationship or second major relationship i tell them to just move on i'm like move on take what

00:51:59.420 you know you learn and then just get to the next one because like how many people do you know that

00:52:02.840 really really really really really got it right the first time and didn't you know what i'm saying

00:52:07.200 like it's just i can't count no no i mean it's like you know how many times like how many people

00:52:13.780 like you learn and it's just like unless you find that perfect perfect match the first time so here's

00:52:19.800 the crazy thing the you know when i got into this right it was a dating application it was about

00:52:24.400 finding your perfect match let's find someone that's exactly the same profile yeah and the

00:52:28.360 reality is when you find someone that's exactly the same profile it's like having a mirror in

00:52:32.780 front of you that can really backfire if you're not in a place in your life where you're willing

00:52:37.200 to be totally vulnerable totally seen and you know and courageous you want to be intimate and 0.88

00:52:44.220 vulnerable and seen and a lot of people you know we got shit we're still working on right so if we 0.57

00:52:49.360 got stuff we're still working on and something comes up and we say something to our partner and

00:52:54.780 they just know they can feel it that's not the story you're not telling me everything right and

00:52:59.580 those relationships will blow up because they're not ready to really step into what i call courageous

00:53:05.780 intimacy they're just not that you know they're not that intimate or that courageous yet they're

00:53:11.200 not that radically honest yet they're still figuring out where they're at and and you know

00:53:16.140 once you get to that point then a match like that is great but otherwise they blow up a lot

00:53:20.740 and you know is that is that kind of like being emotionally unavailable because he talks about it

00:53:28.100 for himself a lot and like i i relate to that statement a lot i feel very emotional like

00:53:35.020 and and people like use that term like against me like you're 34 you better get emotionally

00:53:40.040 available soon or you're gonna die a lot you know like whatever but like i just am not like i just 0.96

00:53:45.320 i'm still working on myself so much because of the time that i've spent doing dumb shit in my 0.94

00:53:50.640 life that i still am trying to work on fixing and like anytime i think about a relationship

00:53:54.860 or like people be like do you like want kids i'm like i can't think about that like it's not on my

00:53:59.800 so you want to know why you haven't had a relationship you just answered it you're not

00:54:03.260 ready in your mind you're not ready you know you can go out to have fun enjoy meet people learn

00:54:09.020 from people have a great time but to get totally committed into a relationship it's not time yet

00:54:15.160 Yeah. So, I mean, that's whenever I find someone that it really just has not had someone show up in their life or people show up and they just they, you know, they kind of breeze through it.

00:54:26.260 That's me. Then it's usually because there's other things that they're doing are more important.

00:54:31.360 So, you know, ask yourself, do you want a relationship? You already answered it. Not right now.

00:54:35.340 Right now. I don't know. It's going to show up as soon as you decide, you know, I'm ready.

00:54:39.640 I guarantee you, you'll have more people show up and you know what to do with.

00:54:42.580 them right then it's just being discerning and you know based on everything i've learned and

00:54:47.360 experienced what do i really want here do i want someone that wants to be taken care of or do i

00:54:52.020 want someone that really can run their whole life you know i i love to take care of my my beloved

00:54:58.440 it's like one of my favorite things to do as a guy i you know i just i want to create i want to build

00:55:03.820 things for she doesn't need me to do any of that right so when she allows me to do that when i can

00:55:11.180 contribute and she receives that's absolutely phenomenal and i get that in that relationship

00:55:16.660 that's so valuable yeah right so if if i was all about well i'm just gonna do all this romantic

00:55:23.580 stuff for you and you know why don't you love it all the time it's just like that would seem

00:55:27.120 just ridiculously needy and she'd go dude no so how do how do we apply all this how do we how do

00:55:33.820 we take what you're saying and take our relationships to the next level how do maybe

00:55:38.800 these guys lock down you know i'm good old 10 out of 10 all right so your lady your lady's right 0.98

00:55:45.580 here in the studio right over there and and and we ran your profile and her profile oh shit this 0.94

00:55:53.460 is great all right should we start there you can we can if you like but i will tell you this that

00:55:58.340 you have some differences right yeah and and now and this is kind of a fun place to go because you

00:56:04.000 both have this thing called false attractions so chemistry guys chemistry you know what it is it's

00:56:09.400 brain chemicals there's like six of them neuro they're neurotransmitters oxytocin testosterone

00:56:14.340 pa norepinephrine and when you are hyped up on chemistry this is what it looks like

00:56:19.960 oh wow man you're so beautiful wow you just dented my car well it's okay no big deal you know it's

00:56:27.780 like everything is rose-colored glasses and there's this massive infatuation and chemistry

00:56:32.860 feels great but half the population can kind of follow their chemistry and the other half

00:56:38.540 when they follow it take them into a relationship where they have someone that's a different

00:56:42.240 communication style you and your lady have two different communication styles and you both have

00:56:46.740 false attractions so you've got a shit ton of chemistry right yeah but you do have two different

00:56:51.760 ways of communicating now does that mean it's not good right okay so so what's that mean that doesn't 0.84

00:57:01.660 mean that you x each other out fuck no it means that now you've got some information that tells 0.90

00:57:06.760 you look at when i got something important to communicate i want to make sure that she 0.98

00:57:11.500 understands or when she's saying something to me go honey i just got to make sure i understand you

00:57:15.160 what i think i heard you say is you feed it back right so it does take a little extra work oh yeah

00:57:20.180 but right now we're kind of in the phase of we just we just go at it i see it all it's hilarious

00:57:25.920 i love it yeah you guys are either yeah so here's it here's the go at it scenario that's really

00:57:32.020 crazy so i have these are clients of mine this happened a number of years ago and the gal is

00:57:37.120 figurative talking style like you are and the guy was structural and they're just they're going at

00:57:41.420 it they're they've been living with each other for like six months and they're having a huge

00:57:44.300 argument and all of a sudden the gal goes ah we're done we're through this is over i'm not doing this

00:57:48.800 anymore right yeah and he goes oh when he turns around he walks down the hallway goes in the

00:57:55.700 bedroom and he starts packing right and she fortunately she walks in five minutes later

00:58:01.700 and goes honey what are you doing and he goes well you said we're through we're done right

00:58:06.940 because because he took her literally like she'll take you literally right yeah and she goes no no

00:58:13.660 no i don't want you to leave i was just done arguing i just don't want to argue anymore i

00:58:17.620 love you right yeah yeah so the now the good news is they caught each other because if 10 or 15 0.99

00:58:23.840 minutes had gone by and he had left she'd walk into the bedroom and go that son of a bitch walked 0.99

00:58:28.480 out on me right and then it's his fault yeah yeah and he'd be going down the street calling his best 1.00

00:58:34.040 friend going she kicked me out yeah right it's her fault right so the key is is that you know that

00:58:41.160 the personalities there's a lot more there than just genetic energetics yeah but that piece gives

00:58:47.580 you an inroad of being able to take what you have and maximize it so instead of going into story

00:58:53.920 like you know what people typically do you say something and you're really clear and you think

00:58:59.500 you just expressed it exactly the way it needs to be and then they don't get it right and you go 0.98

00:59:05.060 shit dude you weren't listening to me you don't you must not care because i have told you this 0.99

00:59:09.660 three times now and you keep getting it wrong you must not be listening to me right you don't care 0.99

00:59:13.800 so that's a belief it's a story right and when that story comes up when we're in our stories

00:59:19.080 there is no love because right there there's some resentment or shame or blame or guilt

00:59:24.300 and that's what comes out of all the stories and the belief systems and that's where this piece is

00:59:29.620 really the most potent the reason why i do it is it gets us right to love faster than anything i've

00:59:34.400 ever worked with in my life you said chloe and i similar to spencer and angel had a different

00:59:39.320 communication style yeah okay so we would argue a decent amount not not like not like crazy toxic

00:59:47.940 like there are the occasional like blow-ups but i anyways am a little bit masochistic

00:59:55.380 where i sort of fuel off drama and it excites me i mean i think that's part of the reason honestly

01:00:03.180 i'm a fighter like i like conflict it's exciting to me i like i love storytelling i'm a creator

01:00:07.980 and I conflict is a part of every single story and so it became it got to a point where it became

01:00:15.080 a little unhealthy where I wouldn't necessarily try to make amends all every time because I'm a 0.97

01:00:21.220 little bit of a sick fuck you know so like that's what I'm saying maybe it's a me thing and and by 0.98

01:00:26.020 the way Chloe was the same way like we both just love that fire on fire dog Aries Aries where's 1.00

01:00:33.000 where's chloe okay yeah so she you know what you dig your heels in and if you're just gonna fight

01:00:38.320 like that then you know that's just where you are at that point in time and if you really really

01:00:43.960 wanted the relationship to last then you'd figure out a way where you can express that conflict the

01:00:49.320 way you need to and also connect like so you know she's structural so it's really easy to have the

01:00:56.440 misunderstandings and and you might want to like hold your ground great that's part of your character

01:01:01.160 That's part of your personality.

01:01:02.360 It's great.

01:01:02.880 It's not even that.

01:01:03.680 It's just like, I'm a jokester, so we'll be at the peak of an argument.

01:01:07.320 And any girl who's ever talked to me will know this about me.

01:01:10.200 Peak of an argument.

01:01:11.260 Or they'll be yelling at me, and then I'll just make a joke and just defuse everything.

01:01:15.660 And then they yell at me because I'm not taking them serious.

01:01:18.220 And I'm not.

01:01:19.500 That feels definitely.

01:01:20.200 And I'm not.

01:01:21.440 That feels like something that you grow out of, too, though.

01:01:23.780 Can I ask you?

01:01:25.140 Is there any bit

01:01:28.700 Inside of you that likes

01:01:30.840 Arguing with Angel 0.92

01:01:32.420 No

01:01:33.740 Angel

01:01:34.680 Tell us what happened

01:01:39.320 You want to come on the show Angel

01:01:42.440 We got in the car

01:01:44.820 We were supposed to pick someone up from the airport

01:01:46.960 He got so mad at me 0.84

01:01:48.540 He called me crazy Puerto Rican 0.96

01:01:49.760 And got in the car 0.94

01:01:51.500 That probably doesn't go over well

01:01:54.920 She told me

01:01:56.240 She told me to get out of the car

01:01:58.420 I got out

01:01:59.940 And he listened

01:02:00.980 I was like alright I'll get out

01:02:03.180 I can relate

01:02:06.500 No that's awesome 0.99

01:02:07.720 I do the same shit 1.00

01:02:08.860 Get out of the car 1.00

01:02:09.560 I'm like bet

01:02:10.100 Middle of traffic

01:02:10.900 Middle of traffic

01:02:12.060 Just walking

01:02:12.720 I don't have time for this

01:02:13.740 That's a good song

01:02:14.560 I'm like I'm gonna go to a cafe

01:02:15.740 And I'm gonna chill

01:02:16.680 This is just not

01:02:17.760 I love you guys

01:02:19.240 This is hilarious 0.99

01:02:19.820 But then she pulled the car 0.99

01:02:21.260 Off to the side of the road

01:02:22.640 And I'm like

01:02:24.000 i'm not getting in the car and she's like and she gets out and like i had like a tripod or something

01:02:29.320 at the back of the car she's like sets it on the ground she's like i'll put your stuff out here i'm

01:02:33.900 like oh my god i love i love this because i love when angel's like i could just see angel going up 0.91

01:02:40.100 to him he's walking down the street and she's just like get your ass in the car spencer and he's like 0.99

01:02:44.600 i don't want to and she's like spencer i will beat your fucking ass in traffic don't doubt me 1.00

01:02:49.980 And then he's just like, fine. 1.00

01:02:52.880 No, I actually walked back.

01:02:54.180 No, that's respect.

01:02:55.360 I walked down a side street, and I lost her, dude.

01:02:57.860 I evaded.

01:02:58.520 You evaded her?

01:02:59.840 She found me, though.

01:03:00.860 She found you.

01:03:01.340 She found you.

01:03:01.780 She found me.

01:03:02.300 I went to a restaurant.

01:03:03.300 That's great.

01:03:03.800 You know what's crazy, bro? 0.99

01:03:04.880 I would do the same shit, and then the girl would always be the one who was like, what 1.00

01:03:08.420 the fuck are you doing? 1.00

01:03:09.380 You told me to get out. 1.00

01:03:10.320 She's like, I wasn't serious. 1.00

01:03:13.280 Dude, girls play games. 1.00

01:03:14.100 Angel, by the way, you're an enroller, right? 1.00

01:03:16.660 Okay.

01:03:17.180 So is she.

01:03:18.040 Okay.

01:03:18.280 So, you know, there's that possible emasculation. 1.00

01:03:21.300 Like, I don't need you to fuck in the car. 1.00

01:03:22.500 Get out of the car. 1.00

01:03:23.180 Yeah.

01:03:23.760 But then she really wants me in the car.

01:03:25.380 Of course.

01:03:25.960 But Spencer, Spencer, I think Spencer is like a born problem solver.

01:03:30.300 And so he and so like we we may look at it and joke about him like kind of like slightly 1.00

01:03:36.200 like she'll be like, I'll beat your ass. 0.99

01:03:38.360 And you're just like, fine, like whatever. 1.00

01:03:39.500 But he knows that that's the way the argument is going to end amicably.

01:03:43.500 He can find a solution.

01:03:44.160 He's good at that.

01:03:44.880 He's a good problem solver.

01:03:45.780 Find the solution.

01:03:46.380 that's why he has a relationship

01:03:48.960 that's why he has a relationship

01:03:50.160 so what does it mean when you both

01:03:52.780 have false attractions

01:03:54.500 how do you take advantage of that I guess

01:03:56.860 oh you just love it up because you both

01:03:58.940 got a shit ton of chemistry but you got

01:04:00.960 to know that you also got rose colored glasses 0.96

01:04:03.100 on so you know you

01:04:04.940 may not be taking care of yourself

01:04:06.800 or she may not be taking care of herself

01:04:09.240 emotionally because

01:04:10.900 they're just there's this infatuation

01:04:13.360 with each other

01:04:14.020 so so you kind of owe it to each other to kind of almost protect each other and make sure that

01:04:20.640 is that really what you want you know is that the healthiest thing for you and speak your own truth

01:04:26.380 like if you guys can really speak your truth you can be discerning talk about what you really need

01:04:30.920 not you did this to me and you know that made that sucked and just say hey i feel this way and i you

01:04:37.020 know that doesn't work for me yeah and and she'll listen and if she does that to you and you listen

01:04:43.180 Then that's worth its weight in gold

01:04:45.500 That's awesome

01:04:46.240 Larry I want to do a segment with you

01:04:49.120 Because that's what we do here on this show

01:04:51.280 Let's do a segment

01:04:53.060 There we go

01:04:54.120 It's called Larry the love guy

01:04:56.240 Help me

01:04:57.580 As you can see on the screen

01:04:59.060 There's that flattering picture of you

01:05:00.660 Take that down

01:05:02.420 I want to give you scenarios

01:05:05.100 And have you give us advice on what to do

01:05:07.140 Should this ever happen in a relationship with us

01:05:09.560 I don't trust my partner

01:05:13.520 I don't trust her. 1.00

01:05:14.760 She a lying-ass bitch. 1.00

01:05:16.820 So trust is an inside job. 1.00

01:05:21.000 You can't trust anybody.

01:05:22.520 You can find someone trustworthy, right?

01:05:25.240 But if you don't trust someone, you don't trust yourself.

01:05:27.920 When you say, I don't trust someone,

01:05:29.340 that means you don't trust yourself to make a good decision.

01:05:31.920 That's what trust really means.

01:05:33.360 So if someone says, I don't trust her, that's a cop-out.

01:05:36.340 It's a cop-out.

01:05:37.200 I turn around and go, so where are you having a hard time figuring things out?

01:05:41.320 because that's an inside job so like so like if i say i don't trust my partner

01:05:46.580 you're saying that i don't if i say i don't trust my partner i don't trust myself to make

01:05:51.820 the right decision because the right decision is don't be with that person because they're

01:05:54.920 or be with them differently you know you just have to be discerning right so you can meet people

01:05:59.520 that are not trustworthy right they're not trustworthy so i choose not to encounter them

01:06:04.980 i choose not to do business with them or i do just a little bit of business here and i'm gonna

01:06:09.140 to manage it really tightly because you know what i've seen doesn't tell me that this is a person

01:06:14.880 that i should put my trust in so trust is like who am i putting my trust into and it's funny when

01:06:21.360 you when someone leashes out and they make a judgment i don't trust them first of all it's

01:06:25.640 a judgment it means they got stuff that they're dealing with that's where you gotta look first

01:06:30.840 it's funny when whenever i've had that statement in the past you know in back of my relationship

01:06:35.600 days when i would say i don't trust somebody it would always be somebody that i knew getting into

01:06:41.160 the relationship i wasn't gonna trust you know what i'm saying like i like you know right off 0.99

01:06:45.200 the bat if it's gonna be somebody that's gonna be a cheating line ass bitch as you so neatly put it 0.99

01:06:51.520 or by the way i've never dealt with it because i'm i'm i place the most trust in people like if 1.00

01:06:55.360 if i'm gonna be if you're in my circle i trust you that's it like you won't you said we're all

01:07:00.260 we all communicate the same way like it's pretty tight-knit yeah sure yeah i'm just talking i was

01:07:04.800 talking about girls more so because like sometimes you'll just like you'll get in a relationship with

01:07:08.940 a girl that you're just like yo i know this girl's probably gonna be like i mean but who will do that

01:07:14.580 like i won't do no not you no i was talking about myself i'm saying like and i don't mean a

01:07:18.120 relationship even i just mean like i just mean like a frequent seeing thing so i'm not surprised

01:07:23.940 by the fact that i don't trust them like i've never just been like out of nowhere oh my god i

01:07:28.100 can't believe that i can't trust you just don't put your trust in them right so you've already

01:07:32.420 figured out just kind of where the parameters are

01:07:34.460 this is a big one one of my friends

01:07:36.600 could use your advice here

01:07:38.100 I want to but it's hard to leave my

01:07:40.440 partner

01:07:40.860 so that gets

01:07:44.420 complex in a lot of ways

01:07:45.760 chemistry is a big one

01:07:48.560 so when there's a lot of chemistry

01:07:49.900 it's very hard to leave that person

01:07:51.840 and by the way

01:07:53.860 chemistry will last

01:07:55.520 a long time

01:07:57.080 when you've got people that just have that

01:08:00.080 strong chemical attraction

01:08:01.540 you know pulling away from it can be really tough after you get away from like a month or so you go

01:08:07.380 what the fuck was i thinking right so the now that's the chemistry piece now if it's not chemistry

01:08:13.260 it's going to be some other attachment right and this is where things get really tricky in 0.98

01:08:19.540 relationships is if like you are massively attached to something or you have expectations that have

01:08:26.500 been getting fulfilled and now they stop you know it's just a hard emotional place to get you through

01:08:32.560 so what do you do you back you take care of yourself that's it focus on yourself you get

01:08:38.880 together with your friends you get together with whoever your best buds are and you just

01:08:42.460 you know you haven't pulled you out of the hole huh yeah and by the way you be with people who

01:08:47.780 love you right you just got to drop into a place of love and that love that i'm talking about is

01:08:52.840 self-love right that's the key i uh i just want one final note on this i am just now realizing 0.97

01:08:59.500 halsey is fucking beautiful jesus christ anyways i just can't find anyone man damn i just can't 0.98

01:09:07.400 i'm looking for unicorns in a sea of horses fish all right so change your language man 0.99

01:09:13.200 it's not i can't you haven't oh yeah no shit you keep saying you keep saying can't the universe 0.99

01:09:21.680 Will give you that 0.99

01:09:22.320 That'll just keep happening

01:09:23.520 Manifest

01:09:24.840 So you haven't

01:09:25.960 I just read this slide

01:09:27.020 I'm not

01:09:28.660 I'm not saying I can't

01:09:30.040 I just

01:09:30.300 It also like

01:09:31.080 I'm not really looking that

01:09:32.580 I'm kind of just living dude

01:09:34.260 There you go

01:09:34.740 Training for a fight

01:09:35.580 Let it all hang out

01:09:36.380 Just keeping his head on a swivel

01:09:39.060 So that's a good excuse 1.00

01:09:40.000 But it's bullshit 0.99

01:09:40.600 Okay 0.97

01:09:41.160 It hasn't happened yet

01:09:43.520 We don't really have sex anymore

01:09:46.380 You made this slide

01:09:48.760 These pictures are

01:09:49.600 Dylan

01:09:50.260 Dylan

01:09:51.020 so that's the toughest one that's really one of the toughest ones because you know beginning a

01:09:57.140 relationship usually if there's a good sexual connection it's awesome and then when it starts

01:10:01.920 to shift you really got to look at why you know what's happened on there now if there's two

01:10:06.480 different sexual response types that's the number run reason why it shifts but there could be other

01:10:11.680 reasons and you just got to go deep into it and discover it and for a lot of people like just an

01:10:17.940 insane number of people you know what were we taught about how to have sexual relationships 0.99

01:10:22.380 where do we get it what on internet for porn that's bullshit did we get did our parents teach 0.99

01:10:27.740 us anything that's experience yeah what's that experience is that the answer well it's gonna be 0.98

01:10:32.640 it's gonna be experience or you know you go out and study and work with some people tantric

01:10:38.240 practices are great like going to sex class um you know what it's not necessarily a sex class but

01:10:44.240 it's learning how to move sexual energy, you know,

01:10:47.140 and sexual energy is a life force.

01:10:49.340 If we're not moving it, we're dying. 0.94

01:10:51.640 Our body needs sexual energy to be flowing through it.

01:10:55.360 So mental emotional, it's always there and moving.

01:10:58.360 Yours is contained within.

01:11:00.020 It needs to get released somehow, right?

01:11:02.740 And that's kugling energy.

01:11:03.740 Sometimes it comes in the form of onto ceilings

01:11:07.160 and all sorts of things.

01:11:08.700 Mine also I found is like,

01:11:10.880 I don't know if we need to get into this

01:11:17.100 You gotta watch out

01:11:19.880 Pretty much anywhere on the premise 0.90

01:11:21.000 I've had sex right there

01:11:22.420 Do you have one of those lights? 0.99

01:11:24.920 Oh we should

01:11:26.560 We should take a black light into Mike's room someday 0.99

01:11:29.000 Those love sex would be 0.99

01:11:30.000 Right now 0.98

01:11:31.240 We were talking about this

01:11:33.200 We were talking about it this morning

01:11:34.660 My mood

01:11:37.540 Can sometimes be so

01:11:39.700 because i guess probably because of what you described earlier can be so dependent on i was 0.92

01:11:43.480 telling him this morning i was having the most stressed out fucking morning i was like typing 0.79

01:11:47.840 away on the computer and we have this uh friend that lives here at the house and his whole goal 0.95

01:11:51.700 every day is to just annoy me he even will say it out loud he's like he's like i just do this just

01:11:55.820 to annoy me he said it in my face tomorrow i'm talking about evan he'll stand there and i'll

01:11:59.140 have my headphones and he knows i'm handling emails and i was so stressed out this morning

01:12:02.560 because there's this vendor who's owed me twenty thousand dollars for over a hundred days and

01:12:06.880 they're like well we have a net 9 000 day payment policy i'm like oh you're gonna pay me in 20 0.96

01:12:11.100 fucking years where's my fucking money so i'm stressing out losing my mind this morning and 1.00

01:12:16.420 evan's there like na na na na na idiot idiot in my face and so i walked away from the computer and 1.00

01:12:21.720 he lives here why oh because we love him he's the best he's the best and so and so and so i walked 1.00

01:12:26.680 away and i went upstairs and i was like my day's fucked i already know my day's fucked it's 8 30 0.87

01:12:30.760 in the morning my day is over and i got back in the bed and i remembered that my beloved was in 0.98

01:12:37.320 the bed okay and so she gave me a very very nice blow job this morning and my day reset automatically

01:12:45.820 i woke up i was like this is the best day ever and i walked downstairs and i was like cheering 0.91

01:12:50.960 like i was going nuts dude i went up to evan i was like what's good man how you doing he's like 0.99

01:12:56.120 fuck you man i hate you you're like i love you all right that's it you got it nailed and it was 0.99

01:13:01.560 so important to me and i realized i told him i went into his uh into the bathroom which i normally do 1.00

01:13:06.080 when he's naked and showering we have these weird conversations that by the way we've never talked

01:13:10.120 about on the podcast i don't know if you know this we're going down the path now it's so weird 0.94

01:13:14.060 and he's just naked he's like so what did she say and i his dick's just out and i'm just always 0.97

01:13:18.400 fully dressed it's so weird but i told him i was like yo i just got a blow job that changed my life 0.97

01:13:24.420 And he said, we've got to talk about this on the podcast.

01:13:26.260 Here we are.

01:13:27.780 Here we are.

01:13:28.600 Wow.

01:13:29.300 Wow.

01:13:29.780 That was meant to happen.

01:13:30.720 It was so important today.

01:13:32.820 This is truly prophetic. 0.89

01:13:35.060 Pathetic? 0.62

01:13:35.920 Prophetic. 0.99

01:13:36.280 So your question, right, if the couple are committed to each other,

01:13:39.840 then they've got to do some work on it.

01:13:41.660 They've got to do some work on it.

01:13:43.340 And, you know, I held it when I first got involved in this.

01:13:47.880 I was in this relationship, like I said, that was really going sideways.

01:13:51.300 and what we had was two different sexual

01:13:53.500 response types. And it started out

01:13:55.540 great, right? And then it got to the point

01:13:57.620 where, shit, I didn't know how to make her 1.00

01:13:59.400 happy. And so, like, I 0.99

01:14:01.540 went out searching. That's how I went down the path

01:14:03.400 of tantric studies. 0.76

01:14:05.860 And I thought, great, if I could

01:14:07.580 be a tantric lover, I could 1.00

01:14:09.180 win her back. Do they talk like pirates? No.

01:14:14.240 If I could just 1.00

01:14:15.580 be a tantric lover, I could win her back. 1.00

01:14:18.480 I got to have to 0.99

01:14:19.280 my heart why don't you do me a favor and walk my plank baby yes that's what they say

01:14:25.020 but i figured that would be the answer right and and the reality is i didn't have enough

01:14:31.080 information that time to know how to how to reset or get it right and it turned out i had so much

01:14:37.740 chemistry with this gal that i didn't see a lot of other stuff that i didn't like yeah when i

01:14:41.760 finally got away from it it's like that's when your friends go i don't know why you're in a

01:14:45.440 relationship with this gal and go what why didn't you tell me that when i was in it we don't want 0.98

01:14:48.880 tell you because we wanted to be successful oh shit what kind of friend are you right that's 0.99

01:14:52.580 usually called the isn't that usually called the honeymoon phase something like that like you you 0.99

01:14:56.520 call it uh the love you put the little love glasses on yeah because post post addiction

01:15:02.720 they call it the pink cloud when you come out of addiction the first like 90 days when you're clean

01:15:06.980 you're like everything in my life is amazing the life can't be better and they call it the pink

01:15:11.840 cloud because it's very you're looking at things very surface level and you feel a little bit

01:15:16.260 better because your neurotransmitters are coming back to life and all that stuff but then like

01:15:19.680 130 days go by and you're like damn my credit score is at 212 i haven't had a job in 36 years 0.98

01:15:26.200 i am 52 years old and i live with logan paul what the fuck went wrong you know what i'm saying and 0.98

01:15:30.620 that whole pink cloud just like that just like that where'd we go there what's wrong with that 0.89

01:15:35.120 well yeah bro that's i agree on this show i realized i realized a couple things one of them

01:15:39.700 is that i'm gonna have a kid before you you're gonna be uncle mike yes yeah that's gonna happen

01:15:43.960 You are going to be Uncle Mike, and you'll still be living here because I'm trying to do it soon.

01:15:47.980 That's the second thing I realized.

01:15:49.220 I'm going to get a surrogate and a girl with great genetics who wants to have a kid.

01:15:54.140 I'm going to do it.

01:15:54.760 Really?

01:15:55.300 It's on a family channel.

01:15:56.660 Wow.

01:15:57.240 A family channel without a spouse.

01:15:59.160 Yes.

01:15:59.300 And we'll work together to make sure that profile's right.

01:16:01.360 Yeah.

01:16:01.780 Yeah, yeah, yeah.

01:16:02.380 What do you think about the motivation?

01:16:06.740 I would say he's joking, but I don't know if he is anymore.

01:16:10.400 I don't know.

01:16:10.980 Because he says, you know why?

01:16:12.480 Because I know a girl

01:16:13.780 I know a girl who also wants to have a kid 0.99

01:16:16.140 Just a little too young bro 1.00

01:16:17.820 So if we get a surrogate 0.99

01:16:18.940 And I'm not joking 1.00

01:16:20.140 I don't want to be a dad 0.98

01:16:22.700 Every single girl you hang out with 0.98

01:16:26.260 If you ask them to be a surrogate 0.72

01:16:27.880 You say you found a girl that wants to be 0.69

01:16:29.600 Every girl you talk to

01:16:31.240 If you said hey would you want to be Logan Paul's surrogate

01:16:33.420 Do you know how many followers come with that 0.91

01:16:34.900 They're going to be like abso-fucking-lutely I will 0.75

01:16:37.180 No wait no no not the surrogate 0.97

01:16:39.280 The woman the mother 0.98

01:16:40.780 The mother of the child

01:16:41.760 Dude, by the way, it will still be an important part of the child's life, obviously.

01:16:45.540 It's just like at this time, it's not beneficial for her body.

01:16:49.380 So why would you do that?

01:16:51.220 Yeah, so why wouldn't you just plant the seed?

01:16:53.980 I have two.

01:16:55.060 You have two puppies?

01:16:55.680 Yeah.

01:16:56.080 Okay.

01:16:56.720 Because here's why.

01:16:58.820 Man, I'm going to be coming up in my prime probably like three, four years.

01:17:03.820 And if I can just be starting, what's so funny?

01:17:08.060 I'm still not in my prime.

01:17:09.660 Me neither, dude.

01:17:10.520 Seems optimistic.

01:17:11.760 yeah i thought men peak around like uh 26. peak what physically i don't know emotionally

01:17:18.500 it's not peaking it's like your brain is fully developed you're at the high yeah

01:17:22.380 technically the brains are probably right but our men in their prime they use the term peak

01:17:27.760 they use the term men's salaries peak when they're about 48 or 49. so why don't you wait a few years

01:17:32.280 brother yeah because god knows you better pick a chick based on your salary here's what i think

01:17:36.340 about it it's all about the money that's what that's what i've learned from this show money

01:17:40.180 It's all about the money

01:17:41.000 Yeah that's it

01:17:41.460 Yeah that's cool

01:17:41.960 As Grant Cardone says

01:17:43.340 Buy it

01:17:44.980 Buy it

01:17:45.380 Buy a jet

01:17:46.220 Yeah just get a

01:17:47.100 $50 million jet

01:17:47.960 And pay off your taxes

01:17:48.800 Forever

01:17:49.400 Never need to fly

01:17:51.460 Anything

01:17:52.080 Physical strength

01:17:53.200 Peaks at around

01:17:54.440 30 years of age

01:17:55.620 That looks like

01:17:56.480 You got a little bit

01:17:57.160 To go there bro

01:17:57.940 Yeah for 36

01:17:58.980 Alright now you're talking

01:17:59.800 Yo yo yo

01:18:00.760 Real talk

01:18:01.480 I told you

01:18:02.120 I wasn't peaking

01:18:02.880 Until I'm in my 30s

01:18:03.740 And you didn't believe me

01:18:04.540 You're talking about

01:18:05.780 Physical strength

01:18:06.580 Yeah you know

01:18:07.600 There's all kinds of stats

01:18:08.600 About that

01:18:09.220 Look at Jeff Bezos, bro

01:18:10.680 He's a perfect example

01:18:11.640 Remember that picture

01:18:12.340 When he was in the 80s

01:18:13.440 Alone in his room

01:18:14.120 Now he's the Terminator

01:18:15.200 Now he's completely bald 0.96

01:18:16.500 But he's jacked

01:18:17.580 And he's in many offices

01:18:19.500 All over the world

01:18:20.200 But that's a rough example

01:18:21.840 Because he had Miss Bezos

01:18:23.380 The whole time, right?

01:18:24.740 Wasn't she there since basement days?

01:18:26.760 Yeah

01:18:26.980 Or garage days? 0.56

01:18:27.460 Yeah, and now she's like 0.99

01:18:28.260 The richest woman in the world 1.00

01:18:29.060 Ever 0.98

01:18:29.440 I heard

01:18:30.460 What did I hear?

01:18:32.760 A lot of things

01:18:33.680 Yeah, you technically did

01:18:35.180 You're on a podcast

01:18:35.680 I heard

01:18:36.020 Someone told me like

01:18:37.320 Amazon's gonna go bankrupt

01:18:38.420 so they intentionally divorced

01:18:40.040 to split the wealth.

01:18:41.300 Yo, you should find that person,

01:18:43.060 make sure that they're never able

01:18:44.620 to use their vocal cords ever again.

01:18:46.600 That's what I said.

01:18:47.680 I said the same thing.

01:18:49.820 They're a trillion dollar company

01:18:51.620 with billions in cash

01:18:53.400 just sitting around.

01:18:55.020 How are they going to go bankrupt? 0.99

01:18:56.460 I don't fucking know. 0.98

01:18:57.600 You never know. 0.97

01:18:58.320 Hey, listen, dude.

01:18:59.300 I got to eat a meal,

01:19:00.780 but I want to do audio only.

01:19:02.420 It's this, but it's audio only.

01:19:03.700 So Larry, the love guy,

01:19:04.680 thanks for coming on Impulsive, man.

01:19:06.300 You're very welcome.

01:19:06.840 This was great.

01:19:07.220 It's a lot of fun being with you

01:19:08.880 Alright guys, hit that subscribe button

01:19:12.480 I'm going to do audio only right now

01:19:13.540 Exclusive on iTunes and Spotify

01:19:15.280 Until next time, we'll see you

01:19:17.560 Impulsive out 0.98

01:19:18.460 Boom

01:19:19.760 Do you have any relation to Larry the Cable Guy?

01:19:22.640 Bro, I was literally thinking that

01:19:24.960 I mean

01:19:25.400 Or were you layeredably

01:19:26.680 Or were you layeredably thinking that

01:19:29.740 I mean, I don't know if I see a resemblance

01:19:32.360 Per se

01:19:33.640 If he took his hat off 0.93

01:19:35.920 He doesn't have an accent, right?

01:19:38.280 He doesn't talk like that.

01:19:39.540 Yeah, no, it's fake.

01:19:41.000 No, yes, he puts it on.

01:19:42.240 Yes, Larry the Cable Guy doesn't talk like he's Larry the Cable Guy.

01:19:45.300 Yeah, it's fake.

01:19:45.680 That's got to be the biggest.

01:19:47.020 One of the worst secrets of all time.

01:19:50.600 One of the worst.

01:19:51.500 People want to know how the pyramids work, Bill. 0.99

01:19:53.140 Who gives a shit about that, dude? 0.99

01:19:54.780 He's probably an Illuminati puppet. 1.00

01:19:56.140 Oh, my God, bro.

01:19:57.660 That's it right there.

01:19:59.180 Larry the Cable Guy, my fake Southern accent.

01:20:02.980 Oh, no. 1.00

01:20:04.000 Oh, it's an ass. 1.00

01:20:04.500 I got hit with a Grant Cardone ad 1.00

01:20:06.720 By the way, what's good?

01:20:08.020 Me too 1.00

01:20:08.500 Me fucking too 1.00

01:20:09.840 What is good, bro? 1.00

01:20:11.440 Yeah

01:20:11.620 I did

01:20:12.760 I'll be old one day

01:20:14.500 He's playing

01:20:15.440 I'll tell you what

01:20:16.380 This is how he talks

01:20:16.900 A lot of people might not realize

01:20:18.140 Is you don't have a southern accent

01:20:20.020 How easily can you go in and out of it?

01:20:22.100 I can get into it easily

01:20:23.160 I'm like a

01:20:24.860 I'm a linguist chameleon 1.00

01:20:26.860 What the fuck? 0.99

01:20:27.620 I mean, I go to Wisconsin 1.00

01:20:28.700 And I'll hang out with my cousin

01:20:29.920 Just a guy

01:20:30.880 Talking like that

01:20:32.280 He, to be fair

01:20:33.900 He just ramped it up.

01:20:35.940 He ramps it up.

01:20:37.040 Let's go to lacrosse.

01:20:38.840 You know, I just pick stuff up. 0.97

01:20:41.820 My dad was a backwards preacher. 1.00

01:20:44.780 Yeah, he's still there. 0.93

01:20:46.100 My dad was a backwards preacher.

01:20:47.700 We're deep down to Larry the Cable Guy.

01:20:48.820 You can have any accent. 1.00

01:20:49.980 That's a backwards preacher. 0.95

01:20:51.320 What are the types of sexual responses that you were talking about? 0.94

01:20:55.500 Did we dive into them or not?

01:20:56.580 Yeah, there's mental, emotional, and physical.

01:20:58.040 Okay, okay, okay.

01:20:58.740 Why does when people do loving stuff with each other,

01:21:02.200 why does it make me want to barf?

01:21:03.900 like when somebody's like what you have for a babe i don't know please help me when someone says

01:21:09.100 babe i don't want to fight like this i love you i want to throw up what what circumstance have

01:21:16.100 you seen that happen i just don't like love is what's wrong with me i don't like it i'm maybe

01:21:22.560 i'm scared of it can you help me please hook me up with someone please i need help yeah well okay

01:21:27.280 so we're gonna go through our our list of uh 90 000 women and we'll get you about 10 000 i got

01:21:32.940 a i got a question i got a question from an audience member so i feel like he's gonna help

01:21:37.480 yeah let's go help him out no you got some for the not liking love stuff is it because i'm scared

01:21:42.740 like what's good so so here's the misconception with love this is kind of deep shit right so

01:21:50.600 people will attach actions and activities to love and that's the mistake yeah right so love is

01:21:59.440 totally something inside us right love's not an action love is not you did this for me or i did

01:22:06.260 that for you love is how you just show up it's a life force so if someone does something you don't

01:22:12.120 like and you want to calm you don't you're commenting on that you said well you don't 0.97

01:22:17.100 love me because you did that i hate that you know yeah that that's bullshit because it's not about 0.89

01:22:22.680 love it's just that it's something that they're doing that you don't like and you got to deal 0.95

01:22:27.020 with the activity and not bring love in and you know and and uh what's the word i'm after

01:22:33.620 confuse yeah well confuse but you're leveraging you leverage love against an action that's that's

01:22:39.860 a huge pitfall that'll always end up taking you into the ship can can uh unprocessed trauma

01:22:45.980 cause someone to not can you love someone else if you don't fully love yourself

01:22:51.120 you can look at you can be loving right we're back to to how we treat people right so a lot

01:23:01.700 of people there's lots of folks out there that'll do a lot for other people and they don't take care

01:23:06.100 of themselves right but can they really can you really just totally be in a loving space with

01:23:12.860 someone if you don't love yourself absolutely not you don't even know what love is yeah you

01:23:16.880 got to find the love inside first you know if you got to be able to stand up in front of the mirror 0.95

01:23:22.320 bare ass naked and go i love you i love you even with all the flaws i love you because you were an 0.82

01:23:27.540 how do you do that therapy all right look at you did that i know but that was almost like a 0.99

01:23:34.600 another quote that i said i meant to put a question mark on that how do you do that therapy

01:23:38.420 i register at the end but here's here's the deal i mean this is the hard cold fact 0.71

01:23:44.740 you got out I'm fucked no all right you gotta look at the most unconditionally loving thing 0.98

01:23:50.420 that you do you do every morning you get out of bed you decide to live another day yeah right 1.00

01:23:55.600 you love yourself so much you go I'm doing another day and then all the shit comes in and you got the 1.00

01:24:00.500 guy that's not paying you and all that stuff and you get pissed off then you get the blow job and 0.99

01:24:04.320 you're happy you know you got all this other stuff that happens but if you could just take a moment 0.89

01:24:09.240 at that at that moment that you chose hey i'm here doing life that's love no one's forcing you

01:24:16.420 to do that you made that decision we got lots of complications that go on but if you know

01:24:22.160 someone says i don't love myself bullshit you're breathing right now do you have a lot of other

01:24:28.660 things have you had traumas have you had challenges in your life yeah we all have and some of them are 0.99

01:24:33.120 more challenging than others but you're fucking breathing you know so give yourself credit for 0.84

01:24:38.400 loving yourself enough to show up and want to do another day love that you know that's yeah that's 0.95

01:24:43.760 huge i got a i got a question from somebody in the audience they said wait our physical audience

01:24:48.320 yeah our physical audience they said i want to know about our sexual responses

01:24:55.920 who is it do you know who sent that in i think it was my girlfriend oh 0.98

01:25:00.560 haven't we talked about you doing lovebirds so you're both you're both mental emotional 0.95

01:25:05.520 sexual response type there we go so here's the deal this is do you expect that or no yeah this

01:25:10.220 is okay this is this is where these guys here you should really be wearing these but that when you

01:25:16.380 got chemistry and then you have a sexual match that's like you can almost not pull that apart

01:25:21.580 yeah and so you know the fact that she's super active you're moderate active you know she's

01:25:27.800 structural you're figurative you guys can work that out figure it out i like to understand

01:25:31.600 One, understand the characteristics about don't go into story

01:25:34.300 and just accommodate for the differences.

01:25:36.360 That's it, man.

01:25:37.360 So by don't go into story, you mean like don't get out of the car

01:25:42.340 when it's moving through traffic.

01:25:43.320 Don't tell them to get out of the car.

01:25:44.780 Don't tell me to get out of the car.

01:25:46.160 Especially when there's a lot of traffic.

01:25:48.240 A lot of times in the past, they'll say, stop the car.

01:25:51.720 I'm getting out.

01:25:52.540 And as a driver, you need to know that they don't really mean that.

01:25:55.440 See, you say that.

01:25:57.900 You say that.

01:25:58.720 But do you know how many people, like when I had relationships back in the day, 0.80

01:26:01.360 girls that would be like stop the car now i'm getting it i'm like you won't do shit and i keep 0.99

01:26:05.260 driving then all of a sudden i start getting punched 65 stop the fucking i had one girl kick 1.00

01:26:09.740 my windshield out from the inside of the car from the inside with her bare feet no shoes 1.00

01:26:15.060 what bare feet wow okay wow kick the fucking windshield out six we were going 70 on i-95 1.00

01:26:21.520 in new haven connecticut her name was jackie she's a blonde for me saving long time ago 1.00

01:26:25.580 heavily drug-fueled situation. 1.00

01:26:30.180 Wow. 1.00

01:26:30.560 She was like, pull over right now.

01:26:32.500 I'm like, I'm not doing it.

01:26:33.520 Jack to the side of the face.

01:26:35.020 I'm doing 70.

01:26:35.940 Oh, my God. 1.00

01:26:36.240 And I was like, yo, if you fucking do that shit again 1.00

01:26:38.240 and just start bash, bash with her feet, 1.00

01:26:40.960 kick the windshield out while we're on the highway.

01:26:43.220 Know what it reminds me of?

01:26:44.380 Pineapple Express.

01:26:45.340 Yeah, super literally.

01:26:46.660 When his foot's just out of the window.

01:26:48.140 Stuck in the windshield.

01:26:50.100 Oh, no.

01:26:51.660 All right, so we're good.

01:26:52.420 That's good.

01:26:53.420 That's good feedback.

01:26:54.380 I like that.

01:26:55.020 Yeah.

01:26:55.260 What? 1.00

01:26:55.580 guys are good she's got she's got another modifier that you gotta know about oh shit 1.00

01:27:00.120 she's like she can turn your dick into a pineapple 1.00

01:27:03.800 no it's called it it's called it achievers right achiever modifier and here's the deal with 0.99

01:27:10.960 achievers when they're on task nothing else exists so um you know it's like i had this

01:27:18.000 girlfriend once who had achiever modifier and she just went through yoga teacher training and

01:27:22.280 she's like now she's got a class and so she'd start prepping in her head for the class before

01:27:26.800 she goes there right and then so she's leaving i'm going to go you know have a nice class and

01:27:31.040 i get one of those grandma kisses bye you know what that's super attractive it's like yeah it's

01:27:36.880 like where's the love well the reality is she was already at the class right so i was just an

01:27:41.840 interruption and the cool thing about an achiever is that when you're her focus yeah it's like the

01:27:49.340 best right but if she's working on another project or doing something else and you interrupt it

01:27:54.760 then that's not so boring have you ever tried to talk to angel while she was in the middle of 1.00

01:27:59.820 prepping for a sound bowl healing session she will fuck you up i bet she'll be like get out of this 1.00

01:28:07.040 room i don't even know you who are you i have sound three hours she's pretty chill she's pretty 1.00

01:28:12.220 chill but yo but the key is the key is with achievers they really get shit done so she's

01:28:17.640 the achiever she's achiever she can get stuff done right just you give her a task to get stuff done

01:28:22.640 in in work environments like usually like if you had someone on your staff here is an achiever

01:28:27.600 i'm wondering if you have someone danny danny she's fast focused where's danny she's like i

01:28:31.940 got something to do don't don't talk i think you know what i think she is where is danny where are

01:28:36.060 you yeah she is an achiever she's an engager and achiever so here's the deal by the way let's get

01:28:41.060 a full round of applause right now all right danny so here's the deal here's the way this works right

01:28:46.020 the the like the healthiest thing for you you probably love working with lists right

01:28:51.340 so she's got a list and she's got it in order of importance you've got to put things in order of

01:28:57.860 when you want to do them like one through ten so if one of the guys comes and says i want you to do

01:29:01.920 this thing that's number nine on your list it's like it makes you go crazy right literally so

01:29:06.420 so basically if she's got a list of things to do she puts it down in front of you guys it's the

01:29:11.060 Here it is.

01:29:11.700 Let me get it done.

01:29:12.780 If you need something badly, talk to me about it and let me see how I can move it around. 1.00

01:29:17.460 She's a surgeon with that shit. 1.00

01:29:19.060 Trust me. 1.00

01:29:19.540 It basically looks like this.

01:29:21.940 If it's a low item list on Logan's list, it's still above, which rightfully so, because she's his assistant. 0.76

01:29:28.700 But she is very good at prioritizing tax.

01:29:31.220 Like if Logan needs a washcloth, but you're missing a limb, she'll go get the washcloth for Logan first.

01:29:37.240 And she'll be like, let me handle that in a second.

01:29:39.440 Logan just got out of the shower.

01:29:41.060 i understand you're bleeding out your limb away your limb can wait yeah yeah so that's the you 0.97

01:29:46.540 know achievers are amazing they get shit done hell yeah but they also love to get stuff done

01:29:51.260 and they have a hard time like telling people hey i don't have space for it so you will over commit

01:29:59.280 if you're not careful and because she gets stuff done you guys will have a propensity to just keep

01:30:05.760 giving her more stuff and so if you overload her there's going to be a point where she goes this

01:30:10.700 isn't fun anymore right and that's when you gotta give a raise no it won't do it that actually

01:30:17.840 that by itself won't do it not everybody has modifiers though right no not everybody has

01:30:24.100 some people don't have some people don't modify the losers chef katie doesn't have modifiers

01:30:28.420 can we cut that oh this man does not have any modifiers so what that means is he can emulate

01:30:35.500 any of them

01:30:36.320 wow

01:30:36.620 that makes sense

01:30:37.780 that makes sense

01:30:38.540 but he brings the energy

01:30:40.120 all the time

01:30:40.880 what you see is what you get

01:30:42.060 with Dylan

01:30:43.000 what you see is what you get

01:30:44.020 that's so true

01:30:45.040 I like that

01:30:45.720 that is true

01:30:46.800 he's a true man

01:30:47.620 yeah

01:30:47.880 so that's how that all works

01:30:49.000 alright

01:30:49.760 that's all we got

01:30:50.740 thank you Larry

01:30:51.600 appreciate you

01:30:52.720 shout his socials 1.00

01:30:53.820 and shit 1.00

01:30:54.140 I'm a media 1.00

01:30:55.080 oh you know what

01:30:55.860 where can they find you

01:30:56.560 on social media

01:30:57.220 you find me

01:30:58.600 on Facebook

01:30:59.800 under Shine Top

01:31:00.640 but the thing to do

01:31:01.900 I want to give

01:31:02.520 a gift

01:31:03.640 to everybody

01:31:04.220 that listens to your show

01:31:05.160 so we have a free profile

01:31:07.960 is that where you got those by the way

01:31:10.100 I was going to ask

01:31:10.800 I'm going to give you guys the link

01:31:13.020 tell people to go get these profiles

01:31:16.360 they're free

01:31:17.080 they can go to the website

01:31:20.640 run their own profiles

01:31:21.760 yeah that will be in the description

01:31:25.100 alright thank you Larry

01:31:27.100 guys thank you for listening to Impulsive

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01:31:30.200 and we will see you next time

01:31:32.920 bye

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Impaulsive with Logan Paul - October 02, 2019

E129 SECRETS TO SEX, LOVE, AND RELATIONSHIPS - IMPAULSIVE EP. 129

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