Impaulsive with Logan Paul - JAY SHETTY WENT FROM MONK TO MILLIONAIRE - IMPAULSIVE EP. 39

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00:02:30.100 Hey, man, good to see you. 0.84

00:02:31.560 Hey, good to see you, man. How have you been?

00:02:33.300 good to see you is the most valuable phrase in los angeles fact because you meet so many people

00:02:39.800 right it's hard to remember who you met who you maybe saw somewhere like five years ago so instead

00:02:44.840 of saying good to meet you it's always good to see you yeah it's the classic cop out too if you

00:02:49.420 forget someone's name they're like hey spencer how's it going you're like uh oh good to see you

00:02:54.940 man exactly welcome back to impulsive the number one podcast in the world ladies and gentlemen

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00:03:20.940 love this but i'm gonna introduce our guest he's a special one ladies and gentlemen he is a

00:03:26.700 former monk with over 20 million followers he's got four billion views he was in forbes 30 under

00:03:33.940 30 and has set out on a mission to make wisdom go viral he's also invented the cannonball ladies

00:03:41.000 and gentlemen it's jay shetty thank you man thanks for having me guys thank you thank you very kind

00:03:47.020 i've got a pub diesel yes sir cannonball what a phenomenal attention very important thank you for

00:03:52.120 kind introduction of course dude thanks for being awesome thank you um you live in la yeah i just

00:03:57.500 moved here eight months ago oh congratulations new so yeah you're sort of new i'm still using it

00:04:01.860 have you said good to see you often i've seen good to see you to a lot of people a lot of people

00:04:05.760 been saying it to me too and now that you've shared that i kind of feel like yeah kind of used

00:04:10.320 a little bit yeah i feel used yeah i feel like people don't know my name i feel like people

00:04:13.840 genuinely mean it when they say it to you though like jay good to see you i hope so because it's

00:04:19.320 Like I'm looking at you now

00:04:20.680 And it's good to see you

00:04:21.600 You got beautiful eyes

00:04:22.440 Dude his eyes are

00:04:23.220 I wasn't expecting that

00:04:24.400 From you but I appreciate it

00:04:25.260 No thanks bro

00:04:26.020 Look I pulled up

00:04:26.940 This picture here actually

00:04:27.700 Just so I could

00:04:28.280 Point out your eyes 1.00

00:04:29.060 Look at these fucking eyes 1.00

00:04:30.600 They're real 1.00

00:04:32.200 They're real

00:04:32.680 No lenses

00:04:33.320 Look at this guy bro

00:04:34.200 You look like a 1.00

00:04:34.820 Indian creamsicle bro 1.00

00:04:36.700 It's like watching a movie 1.00

00:04:38.400 But it's just

00:04:39.580 Eyes

00:04:40.200 You guys are nice

00:04:42.720 I remember when I was young

00:04:43.860 Everyone would be like

00:04:44.380 You look like an alien 0.81

00:04:45.200 Or a cat 0.96

00:04:46.100 Nah but it's good now 1.00

00:04:47.120 You look like an Indian angel

00:04:48.220 Indian angel 0.97

00:04:49.100 okay like you could do no wrong did you grow did you grow into the eyes were the eyes a bit scary

00:04:53.240 when you're younger well i grew up overweight so at that time the eyes were the only thing 0.99

00:04:57.680 people notice people like oh the only thing you've got going for you is your eyes damn 0.63

00:05:01.000 that was pretty tough so in doing my research um on you i did read that you you grew up overweight

00:05:07.540 and you often got bullied yeah yeah a lot so did that um did that contribute to what you do now

00:05:13.700 your profession on uh and i'm not sure you know when i went through when i was young when i was

00:05:18.340 bullied and i think everyone goes through in different ways mine was for being overweight

00:05:21.280 and i grew up in an area that was somewhat racist too so i had that experience growing up in london

00:05:26.300 but for me it just made me know who my real friends were like the best thing about it was

00:05:30.940 like i knew who really was on my side and who wasn't so for me it just drew a clear straight

00:05:34.800 line between who i knew had my back and who didn't and i love that separation so i kind of didn't let

00:05:39.540 it get to me that seems like a seems like a perspective thing okay because uh when you're

00:05:45.800 young I mean who who's trying to fake to be your friend you know yeah I see it now and I'm sure you

00:05:52.460 do too and I actually have a question here I was going to ask when it comes to human interactions

00:05:58.520 like how can you tell who your real friends are and when you're young I feel like it's more obvious

00:06:02.100 but now that you're grown and me as well what's the key in identifying who the real ones are in

00:06:09.360 your life oh that's a great question man yeah I think about that all the time and I think

00:06:13.080 one of the big ones is people who have no agendas

00:06:15.500 like no people who don't want

00:06:17.560 anything from you you got an agenda Mike 1.00

00:06:19.260 not today you got a fucking agenda 1.00

00:06:21.560 eating and having this podcast 0.99

00:06:23.220 by the way I have a quick answer on this

00:06:25.620 one that I think is surefire

00:06:27.720 ask a bunch

00:06:29.720 of people who you think are your friends to

00:06:31.620 help you move yeah to help you

00:06:33.540 nice I like that

00:06:34.860 only your real friends will help you 1.00

00:06:37.580 move to a new apartment because that shit 1.00

00:06:39.440 sucks dude and all your fake friends will be like 1.00

00:06:41.560 oh you know my grandmother broke her hip on that tuesday and you're like it didn't even happen yet 0.99

00:06:45.820 so you can just test all your friends now tell all your friends just text everyone go i'm moving

00:06:49.540 and see who comes back i love that that's a great piece here's the here's the thing if they say yes

00:06:54.980 and they're down to help like you've got to move you gotta find it right away that's true act fast

00:06:59.620 yeah is that it just no no i mean there's a ton more there's a ton more that is great though i

00:07:04.080 really do like that one so i think the big thing is no agendas people who don't want anything from

00:07:08.460 you and i think that only comes out through time and i think that's the thing we want to figure out

00:07:12.100 like who our real friends are right now you're only going to figure out through time so don't

00:07:15.820 like pressure don't like pressure all your friends right now to give you like an ultimate answer i

00:07:20.260 think the second one is just around who's there for you when things aren't going right and i'm

00:07:24.520 sure you've experienced this i know i've experienced this in my life it's like when things are going

00:07:28.100 bad who's around who's still sticking around who's still messaging calling turning up at your home

00:07:33.780 who's there for you when no one else is watching right it's so easy to be there when everyone's

00:07:37.920 watching like on the podcast so easy that gets that gets tricky a little bit in la with especially

00:07:42.600 with like celebrities because even when things are going bad for logan paul they're still going

00:07:48.700 pretty fucking good bro so it's like it's like you know like it's he still has to ask that question

00:07:54.360 you know like are these people coming in at what seems like an opportune time you know so yeah but 0.96

00:07:58.700 for the most part i agree with that completely yeah absolutely yeah yeah when um i've said this

00:08:04.260 before publicly but when everything happened uh with uh the japan incident about a year and a half

00:08:10.000 ago i was surprised at how many people did reach out and and was surprised at how much love and

00:08:16.340 support i got versus people trying to distance themselves and stray away from me um hopefully

00:08:22.240 hopefully it's not the reason you said yeah for sure but but but maybe it is but um yeah it was

00:08:28.980 a quick way to

00:08:30.080 weed out the week

00:08:32.320 is what I like to say when we

00:08:34.680 cut ties or whatever it is.

00:08:38.120 That's awesome.

00:08:38.760 I feel like I've surrounded myself with a good group of people.

00:08:40.760 What do you think? That's nice, man. Yeah, it would be nice to meet

00:08:42.740 today. So far.

00:08:45.260 What's that tattoo on your neck? It's a microphone.

00:08:47.380 So this was the logo of the

00:08:48.760 magazine of the Source magazine in the 1990s.

00:08:50.840 I was a huge hip-hop and spoken word fan.

00:08:53.080 So I did a lot of spoken word growing up.

00:08:55.060 My work's very inspired by

00:08:56.840 rap and poetry and spoken word.

00:08:58.980 Hence there's a lot of lazy rhymes in a lot of my videos

00:09:01.600 But yeah, that was that

00:09:02.380 No, no, no, they're not lazy

00:09:04.440 You do do a lot of wordplay

00:09:06.140 Oh my god

00:09:07.100 I watched a ton of your videos this morning

00:09:09.860 And I want to relay one

00:09:11.540 Go on, this will be impressive

00:09:13.440 No, we spend more time

00:09:16.500 Obsessed with things

00:09:17.780 And not in love with people

00:09:20.220 When we should be in love with people and in love with things

00:09:22.140 I don't know, you do it better bro

00:09:23.260 I appreciate that

00:09:24.920 I'm a huge fan of rap, hip hop music

00:09:28.380 Eminem

00:09:29.720 Eminem

00:09:30.200 I've got a big poster still now

00:09:32.120 Of Eminem on my wall

00:09:33.480 Because I got through my teens

00:09:34.680 Writing a lot

00:09:35.380 You ever tried rapping?

00:09:37.060 A little bit

00:09:38.080 A little bit

00:09:39.160 Oh

00:09:39.420 Spit something

00:09:41.440 Oh wow

00:09:42.160 This is like putting me on the spot

00:09:43.840 I was about to roll with it

00:09:46.700 Keep it going dude

00:09:47.840 Do you have a favorite song of Eminem's

00:09:50.320 That like really inspired you?

00:09:51.600 Probably The Way I Am

00:09:52.700 Oh yeah

00:09:53.900 The Way I Am

00:09:54.620 If you remember it

00:09:55.260 The Way I Am

00:09:55.940 It's so real

00:09:56.600 It's amazing

00:09:57.120 Yeah

00:09:57.500 if you had

00:09:58.740 true rapping talent

00:10:00.140 and again

00:10:00.540 we don't know

00:10:01.500 because we never got to see

00:10:03.080 but

00:10:03.400 would you have become a rapper

00:10:04.820 like an inspirational

00:10:06.020 motivational rapper

00:10:06.860 that would be a cool idea

00:10:07.740 maybe we should figure that out

00:10:08.940 that would be fun

00:10:09.560 maybe I should get some skills

00:10:10.880 who knows dude 1.00

00:10:11.620 make it happen 1.00

00:10:12.120 who knows

00:10:12.380 it would be amazing

00:10:13.280 yo did you do something

00:10:14.100 with my brother

00:10:14.600 no I haven't yet

00:10:16.000 really

00:10:16.260 yeah I know

00:10:16.860 I'd love to though

00:10:17.500 I thought you guys have

00:10:18.420 no

00:10:18.820 when did you start

00:10:19.860 your

00:10:20.160 your

00:10:21.520 ascent

00:10:22.740 on the internet

00:10:23.580 so I released my first video

00:10:25.160 three years ago

00:10:25.940 2016

00:10:26.540 Jan 3rd damn yeah that was the first time I released a video that is ever that is quick yeah

00:10:31.620 it was crazy man it's been an insane three years and I only started working on my channels because 0.65

00:10:36.320 at that time I was creating a lot of content for HuffPost so all my content was on their channel

00:10:40.900 so I launched my channel it's 2017 March so it's been two years yeah and Ariana seems to love you

00:10:46.480 yeah not Grande now when you say Ariana everyone thinks Grande but it's not me on the brand side

00:10:51.320 yeah just put it out there Ariana Huffington yeah I mean hopefully Ariana Grande one day

00:10:55.860 will watch my videos too but ariana huffington if people still know huffington post yeah huge

00:11:00.880 amazing amazing woman was really integral in having my initial launch happen in 2016

00:11:06.140 when you when you started putting videos out i feel like everybody was like who is this guy how

00:11:11.300 does he how does he put together these these messages these are amazing um what was the

00:11:16.900 process like and we might dive into the actual monkhood but what was the process like

00:11:21.180 integrating with society again how did you come back in it was so hard i came back in 2013

00:11:27.860 and i'm a huge football fan soccer fan i didn't know who'd won the world cup i didn't know who

00:11:32.640 the president of the prime minister was like i didn't i'd lost touch with a ton of you were

00:11:37.340 tuned out i was i thought i'd kept in touch with the real world and i thought i was in tune but i

00:11:41.920 lost touch like you know you're living in another country you're in seclusion you're meditating a

00:11:46.520 lot you're doing work in that world and you completely disconnect so when i came back i

00:11:50.220 literally spent 10 months trying to figure out how i was going to reintegrate one of the biggest

00:11:55.400 things was i used to go to the library a lot and read so i spent a ton of time like catching up

00:11:59.640 on books i also spent a lot ton of time catching up on movies and tv shows so i watched how i met

00:12:04.380 your mother in 2013 which is very late but i got to binge watch the whole season there you go uh

00:12:09.660 prison break i went back to because that was something i left a long time ago so i was like

00:12:13.360 catching up with tv shows catching up with movies catching up with sports just to figure out where

00:12:17.640 the world had gone and 2010 to 2013 were pretty defining years like youtube blew up the iphone

00:12:23.360 blew up like so many things happened at that time and i was kind of like oh my god i don't even i

00:12:27.860 didn't even have a social media did you have a cell phone i not when i lived as a monk and before

00:12:32.560 that three years yeah logan logan can't handle that one bro that's blown his mind i will have

00:12:37.740 you know i i didn't get a cell phone until i was a senior in high school and it was an nv2 so i

00:12:44.740 I didn't even know what that is.

00:12:46.060 Nice.

00:12:46.800 I was late to the game as well.

00:12:48.900 And I graduated 2013, so I probably got a cell phone the same time you got a cell phone.

00:12:52.860 Oh, wow.

00:12:53.160 Wow.

00:12:53.540 So which win?

00:12:54.060 It's like two monks.

00:12:55.200 Yeah, it's like two monks.

00:12:56.620 So similar.

00:12:57.640 I mean, okay, ha, ha, ha.

00:13:00.060 We're funny.

00:13:00.600 We're laughing.

00:13:01.100 It's all jokes, right?

00:13:01.940 But I have a premonition that when I'm older and retired, I'm going to move to China and

00:13:10.120 wear a monk outfit climb to the highest mountain i could find and just live a peaceful life at the

00:13:15.500 top of a mountain wow okay with the goats i've always felt it i don't know what it is but i feel

00:13:20.980 like you're gonna be like will smith you're gonna hit your like 40s 50s and just be this dude that's

00:13:26.300 crushing it just spreading love and positivity bro because that's what it's about i want to be

00:13:30.900 jay shetty when i'm older oh i wish i was you when i was younger oh all right that's tight

00:13:36.380 so i mean why did you get into uh being a monk how does that even come about yeah it's crazy

00:13:42.200 man so i never grew up religious or spiritual or inclined at all i was totally what you expect any

00:13:46.820 teen in london to be i was doing everything drugs sleeping around multiple relationships trying to

00:13:51.600 make money doing everything that you expect and then every week i'd go to hear a speaker at my

00:13:56.800 university so where i was studying they'd always have celebrities entrepreneurs influencers at

00:14:01.520 that time coming to speak and i used to love rags to riches stories like i loved hearing about

00:14:05.940 people who went from nothing to something i was always fascinated so anyway one week i found out

00:14:11.060 that a monk was invited to speak and i was like i don't want to go who wants to go listen to a monk

00:14:14.920 speak yeah and my friends one of my friends was really into monks at the time and he was just like

00:14:19.380 no you gotta come i was like i'll come if as long as we go to a bar afterwards and he was like yeah

00:14:23.280 sure so that was like my in i was like i'm only coming if we're going out afterwards and he was

00:14:28.480 like yeah we'll definitely go out afterwards so i turn up and here's this guy he's indian he's

00:14:33.420 dressed in robes he's got an indian accent none of which is impressive to me at the time i born

00:14:38.460 and raised in london but when he starts speaking i'm like totally captivated and i'm just like wow

00:14:43.220 like this guy knows so much he's so wise he's happy he looks like he's living a meaningful life

00:14:48.440 and i was just like what does he have that everyone i've met like i've met people with

00:14:52.320 money i've met people with homes i've met people with great faces and abs and all the rest of it

00:14:57.740 i've met people with beautiful partners like what does this guy have and i realized what he had was

00:15:01.960 he has happiness like he was happy were you unhappy i wasn't i was like at a place where i

00:15:07.660 had access to a lot of stuff going for me in my life at that age at like 18 i was like things are

00:15:12.280 going for me i was like about to go off and work for a huge organization i was making enough money

00:15:16.660 i had a great looking girlfriend all the rest of it everything was going in the right direction

00:15:20.200 and then all of a sudden this guy made me believe that there was more than that and i was like wow

00:15:25.100 was there was there like one thing that he said that really stuck out to you because i i i got a

00:15:30.780 chance ironically to meditate with Deepak oh wow yeah Deepak's a friend yeah he's awesome and I saw

00:15:36.720 the same kind of things and I saw this like inner peace that is so visible when you when you watch

00:15:42.020 him and when you kind of spend time with him but but when I left I don't think I I wasn't inspired

00:15:48.980 to become a monk and I wasn't inspired to become like I loved it and I still from time to time

00:15:53.760 practice meditation with these guys but um was it something that that was said or that he showed

00:15:59.340 specifically that made you think like wow this is the route to inner peace and yeah well i found

00:16:03.880 out afterwards that he gave up jobs at google and microsoft to be a monk and what he was talking

00:16:08.160 about was the best use of your talents is when you use them to help other people so when you use

00:16:13.320 whatever talent you have to serve other people to make a difference in people's lives whether it's

00:16:16.800 making people laugh whether it's making people smile whether it's moving people emotionally or

00:16:20.680 whether it's doing charity work i heard you're doing a charity ride yeah in london which is

00:16:23.740 awesome like i want to hear all about it like when's that coming by the way it's in the works

00:16:27.340 we'll see yeah maybe we'll see you out there maybe we'll get you involved yeah that'd be awesome man

00:16:31.420 i'd love to genuinely genuinely seeing as it's where i grew up so he was saying that when you

00:16:36.500 use what you have to help other people that's when you're going to find happiness and i was

00:16:40.600 like oh that's interesting i've never heard that before because everyone's always talking about

00:16:43.500 getting and this guy's talking about giving so i spent from 18 to 22 age 18 to 22 i spent every

00:16:49.840 summer holiday half of it in bars steakhouses clubs living the life in london interning at

00:16:55.820 some of the biggest finance organizations and then spending the other half living in India as a monk

00:17:00.220 so I basically was testing both lifestyles to the extreme at that time and I consider myself

00:17:05.920 an extreme experimenter and that was one of the most extreme experiments I've ever done

00:17:09.780 where literally like six weeks I'd be living the high life in London and six weeks I'd be 0.99

00:17:14.740 sleeping on the floor and waking up at 4 a.m every day and that convinced me yeah that monk life was

00:17:20.820 good for me did you ever uh that's crazy to be going back and forth like that did did you ever

00:17:25.820 uh did you ever meet the guys or do you know anything about the guys from headspace

00:17:29.220 yeah i do yeah so i never met them i know andy pudding right yeah he's awesome great his story

00:17:34.300 is intense like he went through all of that terrible terrible like heartache and trent what

00:17:39.900 was his sister died something his wife or his fiancee broke up with him whatever and he gave

00:17:44.940 up a very similar trajectory to success he was like a huge agency guy right in london i think

00:17:51.720 right and he became a he became a monk as well right he did absolutely and then and then launched

00:17:56.060 headspace which is now one of the most you know successful mindfulness apps it's crazy to see the

00:18:00.640 similarities between your story and uh it's just insane yeah it's crazy story are you uh would you

00:18:06.060 say you're an extremist i i believe so i believe so when i get into something i'm all in like i

00:18:11.600 fall in love with that i get addicted can that ever be a bad thing of course it can yeah it

00:18:15.900 depends what you're addicted to and absorbed to so at that time i was addicted to testing two

00:18:20.060 different lifestyles one was breaking me one was building me and so yeah it depends what you're

00:18:24.780 addicted and absorbed to so the quality of being addicted is awesome it's what you're addicted to

00:18:29.020 that's the challenge very true yeah very true that's that's a dope very accurate soundbite

00:18:33.540 that i agree with because like i'm addicted to content creating but there was a time in my life

00:18:37.440 where i was uh addicted to video games wrestling i played world of warcraft and it was it was

00:18:41.520 horrible like no seriously i would sit my computer i got kicked out of my guild one time and i was

00:18:46.120 crying on the floor and you're still really bad at video games uh hold on i am a very good builder

00:18:52.920 in fortnite spencer's the shooter though yeah he my boy's got lasers um so correct me if i'm wrong

00:19:01.200 but it sounds like uh at the time you saw that monk speak would you have considered yourself

00:19:07.200 in a rut or unsure of what is to come in life. And then you took a big step to make something

00:19:16.600 happen. A lot of people are afraid to make that big step, afraid to jump into three years of

00:19:22.240 monkhood. If you're a kid in Kansas and you're unsure, you're 18, you're unsure what's to come

00:19:29.460 in life. And maybe you're feeling a bit down on questionable about your future. What would you

00:19:35.040 recommend my biggest recommendation would be experiment with a ton of stuff you don't need

00:19:39.720 to go do something for three years you can do it for three days but just go and experiment with

00:19:44.380 everything like we've got access to everything now you could experiment meditation you could

00:19:48.440 experiment shadowing an entrepreneur you could experiment with making content you could experiment

00:19:52.840 with anything and because we don't experiment with enough stuff we don't know that's why we feel

00:19:58.000 unsure that's why we feel insecure so my number one advice would be go experiment with whatever

00:20:02.380 excites you or what scares you either i completely agree that's that's like one of my biggest pieces

00:20:08.560 of advice and i talked to he's heard me say it a million times i when i was coming out of an

00:20:13.160 addiction that i dealt with for years in my life um the first things i the first things i started

00:20:17.220 to do was i i bought a i saw these things flying around the sky they were dgi phantom ones and

00:20:22.700 like two people had them like and i'm like yo i want one of those and i got and i started uh

00:20:26.120 taking video before he knew it i was hired to shoot weddings and i was doing drone flyovers

00:20:30.140 at weddings and then i bought a canon what are you gonna tell us all this stuff you could fly

00:20:34.520 drones drones yeah i had the dji phantom one a phantom two yeah and so uh and then i bought a

00:20:39.920 canon uh you know camera and i started taking pictures and and before you knew it like i

00:20:44.300 started building up this catalog of things that i knew how to do and they they made no sense they

00:20:48.180 weren't intertwined in any way and then i started practicing creative writing before you knew it i

00:20:52.560 knew how to take photos i knew how to write creatively and then social media hit absolutely

00:20:56.500 and they were looking for somebody who could take photos and write creatively and so it's like

00:21:00.720 get out there and try stuff that doesn't even make sense just anything that makes you happy

00:21:05.160 or feel any kind of passion i agree with you so much yeah well your story reminds me of steve

00:21:08.780 jobs like just throwing it out there but like steve jobs like thank you the next steve jobs

00:21:12.580 yeah the next steve jobs you never know drones like but you look at steve jobs like he studied

00:21:16.180 calligraphy at college crazy right calligraphy and you're like what's calligraphy got to do with

00:21:21.300 technology and there's this great conversation between steve wasniak the tool guy behind

00:21:25.660 apple and steve jobs and steve wasn't like looks at steve jobs and goes what do you even do like

00:21:30.340 you're not a marketer you're not a coder you're not a salesperson what do you even do and and

00:21:34.920 steve jobs goes he goes musicians play their instruments i play the orchestra and it's just

00:21:39.000 like he totally knew what he was doing but he knew how to apply calligraphy to technology

00:21:43.980 and that's my point like you may not recognize what you're studying right now what you're

00:21:48.160 learning right now is going to help you but you're going to look back and go oh wow like i built the

00:21:52.220 iphone because i studied calligraphy so and he says that right so one of the trickiest parts

00:21:57.440 about doing that is we live in a in a school system that makes it very difficult to do that

00:22:02.600 like i think you became uh you even though you had your friend bring you to that meeting you

00:22:09.280 still had to go out of your way to personally develop and i think we live in this system that

00:22:13.680 unless you're personally developing it's very hard to make those changes so what do you do you

00:22:18.780 how do you see the the system that we live in the educational system affecting that process

00:22:23.460 yeah absolutely so i think we live in a structure that's putting stuff into us rather than bringing

00:22:28.780 stuff out and education in latin actually means to bring stuff out of you so you've already got

00:22:34.600 talent potential genius passion whatever is inside whereas school's teaching you need to

00:22:39.200 know this you need to know that and i i was saying to someone the other day that i fell more in love

00:22:43.260 with english listening to hip-hop than i did from my class at school in english right like i felt

00:22:48.520 more in love with learning about something playing a video game like video games brought me into

00:22:53.220 travel as opposed to whatever it was that was right in school learning geography so my big

00:22:58.640 thing is like make sure that your learning is up to you right your learning is up to you your

00:23:02.460 learning doesn't end at school it's not at school and all of these things that you have access to

00:23:07.180 today are going to expand your learning so don't let your learning end at school you have a you

00:23:11.920 have a wife yeah yeah i'm married man yeah yeah congratulations thank you man got married three

00:23:15.680 years ago yeah amazing congratulations what's that like thank you what is that like i'm very

00:23:21.460 fortunate i have an amazing wife she's uh she's she's known me for a long time and she's super

00:23:26.660 committed to letting me live a life of passion and purpose she knows what an extremist i am

00:23:31.060 and it helps having a wife who gets that she's got it i mean i imagine she's got it she's got

00:23:35.400 to have that supportive trait in her to be married to you massively like literally like she told me

00:23:40.320 she was like when we get married she was like i want to live one mile radius away from my mom's

00:23:44.580 home and so i said yeah that's fine so we had this home in in london and literally two weeks

00:23:49.200 later we moved to new york because i got an office in new york and then last year we moved to la but

00:23:54.140 having said all of that she loves la so la saves la she did not like new york she loves la i'm on

00:24:00.140 the same page yeah yeah she's gotta miss mom though yeah she's a mom but we just my deal with

00:24:04.420 her was like i will fly you back every weekend if you let me live my day are you getting a chance

00:24:09.700 to go that's not my that's my sister well i hope you get a chance to go to london sometimes too

00:24:14.800 then why would you just assume that did i just assume your wife you did does she does she get

00:24:20.500 a chance to go back she does she does we go back like nearly every two three months yeah we love

00:24:25.060 that see my thing's like why live a life of you know if you can live a life of abundance live it

00:24:29.160 i don't not see her working like oh your wife doesn't work no but i'm just saying like yeah 0.99

00:24:34.980 because a woman working can't be someone's wife right what are you trying to say logan she should

00:24:38.740 just stay home as a homemaker i'm just what are you getting at here right now man i've lost that

00:24:44.060 simple how did you manage to spin out of that that happens sometimes did your sound cut out

00:24:48.260 yeah i've kind of pull the pull the yeah mess with the wire a little bit do those things when

00:24:52.620 you work out where you oh there we go there we go yeah you got it do you do you ever catch each

00:24:57.380 other getting in each other's way and like have to pull back in each other's way in what way um

00:25:02.460 like say you want to go do something and pursue your career does does she ever get in the way or

00:25:08.100 maybe vice versa so we try to work on a lot of that day one like i literally said the first thing

00:25:12.600 and this is not good relationship advice or maybe or maybe it is let's let's see where it goes i

00:25:16.760 literally one of the first times we met her i was like if you want to marry someone you you have

00:25:20.320 ikea here right or so i was like if you want to marry someone who shops at ikea on the weekends

00:25:25.040 and goes to the cinema i'm not your guy like i was just like that's not me like that's kind of

00:25:29.620 like you know the normal life like if you want someone who's going to do this thing on the

00:25:34.520 weekends and build their life around this like i have nothing against that and i respect that and

00:25:38.740 i have no issues with that but i'm not that person so i don't want to let you down you needed like a

00:25:43.060 queen dude like someone that was there for your journey like someone that was going to help support

00:25:47.040 grow you and that was just down yeah i needed someone who understood me because i felt i

00:25:51.060 understood myself well and i wanted to go all in on what i loved and what i thought was going to

00:25:55.260 help the world in my opinion and again it's my opinion but i needed someone who believed in that

00:25:59.600 and was happy to be there and same i wanted to support her goals i was like whatever your goals

00:26:03.480 or I'm going to back them too. And I think what ends up in relationships is we try and get the

00:26:07.080 other person to compromise to love our goals rather than loving their goals. And that was my

00:26:12.400 focus. I was like, how do we love each other's goals and support each other's goals rather than

00:26:16.020 getting you to be like, you've got to leave your life to support mine. I, um, I wrote down a quote

00:26:21.400 here that you just said, uh, relationships aren't about compromise. They're about, they're about

00:26:24.820 empowering the other person to achieve their goals, helping them to grow, become, to become

00:26:28.620 the individual they deserve to become so how are you helping her achieve her goals and what are

00:26:34.240 they are you comfortable sharing yeah yeah of course so my my wife's a vegan recipe developer

00:26:37.980 she develops vegan recipes for restaurants she's an incredible incredible cook send me those yeah

00:26:44.060 incredible recipe developer she's working on a restaurant right now in london it's a new

00:26:48.140 restaurant that's launching in july so she's designing the whole menu so she's like the best

00:26:53.060 thing in my life is my love my wife loves testing recipes in the kitchen i get to eat the food i get

00:26:58.860 to eat seems like a cop-out jay seems like a pretty easy way to compromise support i know it

00:27:03.960 does it probably does but no you know how do you say stay skinny yeah how do i stay skinny i just

00:27:08.940 uh it's the indian dna like it's like an indian thing but so you shed the layer from when you

00:27:13.520 were young and now you just literally no my wife keeps me healthy i always say my wife focused on

00:27:17.840 the body i focus on the mind and that's how we complement each other yeah did you say how you

00:27:22.080 met her i actually met her when i left being well i met her before i ever became a monk

00:27:26.140 and i thought oh wow she's she's gorgeous but i'm focused and i i wasn't a monk then and i was like

00:27:31.580 i'm gonna go off and become a monk and when i came back she used to come to my session so when i came

00:27:35.820 back from being a monk she's come to all of my sessions where i was teaching mindfulness

00:27:38.640 philosophy personal growth for personal growth reasons or personal growth crush on jay both

00:27:45.820 both both she's she's honest about both we literally just recorded a podcast for this

00:27:50.400 this was my first podcast on my podcast on purpose and my first episode is me speaking to my wife

00:27:56.240 about how we met oh that's awesome how we came together and everything so yeah so uh you do talk 0.98

00:28:00.580 about a lot about relationships and love tons do you have any advice for like a a fuck boy like 0.93

00:28:05.540 myself i'll take how's it going i'll take the advice too how's it going i just i don't know 0.83

00:28:11.800 bro i just like oh man jay i just my attention span is so short it's so short and i don't know

00:28:19.980 i haven't found like a couple girls that are able to hold it you know and nurture it yeah and help

00:28:28.160 me grow and become better this is yeah no this is you this is me and just girls you know so uh

00:28:33.980 my have i set unrealistic standards for people jay you think my things be transparent with who

00:28:41.460 you're dating right don't make someone believe you love them if you can't love them right

00:28:44.920 i just had this conversation that's the big one right like that's that's the big point don't make

00:28:50.440 someone believe that you love them if you don't love them because they won't question you they'll

00:28:55.100 question love oh right it's so funny they'll question love so be transparent with people

00:28:59.840 if you're in a space where you're just messing around and things are not serious that's cool

00:29:03.820 man i've got nothing against that but just be honest and transparent about but what if the sex

00:29:07.420 is so good that you want to just keep milking the relationship because it is a solid like healthy

00:29:14.380 functioning relationship between two people but also just like the sex is great sounds selfish

00:29:19.320 if if the sex is the only thing holding it together no but it's not the only thing it's

00:29:24.760 just like what if you're afraid to turn that key and go exclusive that's okay take your time just

00:29:29.900 be honest and transparent about it that's all it is right for me it's just transparency

00:29:33.420 relationships get messy when that person thinks that you want to give them more than you actually

00:29:38.660 do the problem is a lot of times like girls are a lot of times are rushing you know what i'm saying

00:29:44.300 they're just rushing and so like even if you say from the beginning guys to some guys um but but

00:29:50.500 but if you tell them from the beginning hey listen like this is gonna go real slow i can't even

00:29:54.400 promise you exclusivity from the start like this is gonna take a little while sounds like a brand

00:29:58.580 it's a brand partnership co-brands but uh but like in the beginning you know they're like uh

00:30:05.960 that totally works for me man like i have so much other stuff going on i've work and like

00:30:09.840 work out and all that stuff week two they're like whoa it's just like i don't know like i like

00:30:14.360 working out but i like spending time with you more and then like week three they're like um

00:30:18.360 hey can we talk about something i know like what are we you know you're just like yo how did this

00:30:23.720 just happen bro like you know what i'm saying so it's like sometimes you're very transparent and

00:30:28.000 then and then it becomes translucent and then it becomes opaque you know and you just got no idea

00:30:32.720 really what's going on yeah relationships are complicated man they're messy and and and my

00:30:36.960 best takeaway is be transparent and then wherever you're at just you're gonna attract what you're

00:30:42.060 putting out right so if you're self-aware if you know if you're getting if you're personally

00:30:45.140 developing if you're growing more you're gonna attract someone who's got that maturity too

00:30:48.780 and if you're not you're gonna attract someone who's immature too it's just the way it's just

00:30:52.160 the truth of it sort of no go on let's let's let's dive into it because i i'm pretty immature

00:30:59.380 but on the other hand i can also be very mature yeah so um most of my functioning relationships

00:31:05.660 that have worked are with people who can do the same like be an absolute goofball nice uh just

00:31:12.120 hilarious fun nonsensical person but also talk about uh intellectual things yeah which is that's

00:31:19.620 awesome that's a good combination it's yeah it's good it's just uh i don't know that's what i'm

00:31:23.920 saying my expectation is too high where like i gotta find the i want to find the unicorn yeah

00:31:28.360 you know it'll come with time it takes time i hope so jay takes time you gotta set what you

00:31:33.380 what you want out there

00:31:35.060 and then just

00:31:35.640 stick to the course.

00:31:37.600 Must be nice, Spencer.

00:31:39.120 Is Spencer in a relationship?

00:31:40.420 Oh, yeah, yeah. 0.78

00:31:41.660 She's awesome. 1.00

00:31:42.720 She makes noises 1.00

00:31:43.940 on those bowls. 1.00

00:31:44.940 Oh, yeah, sound bowls.

00:31:46.180 Oh, I love it.

00:31:47.040 Oh, wow.

00:31:47.600 Have you guys done it?

00:31:48.620 Nah.

00:31:49.520 She plays it 1.00

00:31:51.060 for the whole house.

00:31:51.920 Oh, wow.

00:31:52.300 She sits outside

00:31:52.980 and she goes,

00:31:54.240 it's amazing.

00:31:55.100 You just dive deep,

00:31:56.180 cooking up stir fry. 0.98

00:31:56.880 Her name's Angel.

00:31:58.080 It's pretty simple.

00:31:59.860 We're working on it here, though.

00:32:01.340 I think it's

00:32:02.260 cuffing season soon,

00:32:03.200 i feel it well a lot of times too like i think i think uh he asked these questions or like even i

00:32:08.680 ask these questions you know where i say like what you know like what does it mean like you know i

00:32:12.860 can't do this or like i have that and i think a lot of times it does come back to putting out

00:32:16.480 what you want you know what i'm saying because i think like sometimes i get go through this stage

00:32:21.080 where i'm like yo you know what it's time to settle down like i need that structure in my life

00:32:25.780 and then i get the structure there's no problem with it everything's great like the structure's 0.94

00:32:29.920 there and then guess what i don't want the fucking show you know i'm saying i'm trying to go to warwick 0.94

00:32:33.860 it's wednesday night i want to see some some booties and just like hang out drink some some 0.95

00:32:37.500 beers with my friends or whatever and so it's like i think i think a lot of times in life it

00:32:42.860 comes down to being very clear with yourself of what your true intentions are you know transparency

00:32:48.580 make it sound so simple but it's not it's not i'm not saying it's simple do you believe in dating

00:32:52.920 apps i don't do i believe in them like they do like yeah they exist like yeah you think you can

00:33:00.560 find true love on a dating app is that the best way to go about i think you can find true love

00:33:04.220 anywhere i don't think i don't think dating apps are excluded from that my whole thing with dating

00:33:07.860 apps too and i said this to everyone i've been saying to my assistant too is like she's on a

00:33:11.400 dating app by the way if anyone you know which one hinge yeah that's a little bit more upscale

00:33:16.460 yeah it's a move for speed it's got a nice interface like yeah it's not yeah anyway

00:33:21.120 it looks great yeah but but but my take around that is just like move offline uh online to

00:33:27.200 offline asap asap like just get out get on with it like safely though safely of course safely but

00:33:33.300 you don't want to be sitting on a dating app for like three months talking to like 10 different

00:33:37.120 people and then that person never sees you if someone doesn't want to see you in the next couple

00:33:40.940 of days after talking to you why are you wasting all that time anyway yeah so i i i do believe in

00:33:45.720 dating apps i think dating apps can be a great way to meet people if that's what works for you

00:33:49.260 and you feel you present your personality best but i think that's the question where do you feel

00:33:53.040 your most yourself mine is not on an app i'm a person-to-person guy so am i yeah and so and so

00:33:58.420 i still use them but i think another point to what i was saying before about being clear with

00:34:02.500 your intentions sometimes those intentions can be like skewed by what you think society wants from

00:34:10.380 you or your parents want from you too it's like it's like like like me i'm an older guy jay i'm

00:34:15.040 34 and i and i magically have stayed slightly younger looking but yeah i thought you were

00:34:19.380 younger i'm 31 right so so i like to think like sometimes i get into that mistake of saying well

00:34:25.540 i'm 34 like man i gotta settle down this is getting kind of weird or whatever and it's like

00:34:29.780 or or even you know sometimes like we have conversations about his dating too and it's

00:34:33.920 like i think for myself at least sometimes i think about dating as something that i i need to do this

00:34:39.960 like my my parents would want me to do this or like society will think i'm weird if i'm not

00:34:43.740 hat locking down a girl and so your intentions then get skewed by other people's

00:34:48.980 indoctrination on you but that's the norms right like who came my big thing with norms is like who

00:34:54.640 came up with this stuff like who came up with this stuff like why do you have to settle down

00:34:58.560 by the time you're 30 why do you have to buy a house before you're 40 why do you why do you have

00:35:02.640 to do any of that did cavemen have like one like like are humans as a species a monogamous

00:35:09.940 well i think we love averages right like we love making everything like this is the average of when

00:35:15.300 you should do this and this is the perfect time to do this and all that kind of like we love that

00:35:19.280 like we love love knowing stats and averages and data but the point is you can't live your life

00:35:23.440 like that right if you lived your life as a timeline everyone would have the same timeline

00:35:27.820 that would suck yeah it would be terrible and that's the thing everyone's rushing each other

00:35:32.140 with their timelines like in my culture like in an indie culture i got married at 28 getting married

00:35:37.260 to 28 is fairly late a lot of my friends got married at like 22 or 23 and i was just like

00:35:41.540 i don't even know if i got married at 22 or 23 i would definitely would have got divorced like

00:35:45.360 three times and then you know it just would have been natural so i feel like everyone's got to stop

00:35:49.400 judging and rushing their own timeline looking at what everyone else is doing right set your own

00:35:53.800 and it's hard it's super hard but if you want to live a real life you're not going to live it on

00:35:58.740 based on everyone else's timelines you talk a lot about the effect that mobile devices have

00:36:06.740 on people and how in some ways they can be uh toxic to society i don't need i'm putting that

00:36:13.880 word in your mouth yeah definitely uh go for it um do you think people learn more and can gain more

00:36:21.160 from the phone and the internet and the vast expanse of technology or uh through other people

00:36:28.660 yeah great question i i love this principle that i learned as a monk and it's i'll use this class

00:36:34.260 as an example so this glass is not good or bad it can either have water or poison in it right you

00:36:39.160 guys could have either filled it with poison we could have filled it with water or you could have

00:36:42.420 filled it with water that looks like poison or poison that looks like water either way but the

00:36:46.180 point is the glass is not good or bad it's what's in it and it's what i use it for and the internet's

00:36:51.100 the same thing the online world's the same thing social media is the same thing like social media

00:36:55.100 in and of itself is not good or bad it's what you're using it for you can go there every day

00:37:00.220 and smile and laugh and learn or you can go there every day and be depressed and get negative media

00:37:05.060 news that pulls you down so don't blame it on the thing look at how you're curating your feed like

00:37:10.620 what's on your feed what are you learning what are you seeing the whole time i i like that thought

00:37:16.560 process and me and spencer talk about this quite a bit from time to time um but my only my only

00:37:22.400 qualm with it is that uh you would live a rather sheltered life if you were to populate your news

00:37:32.440 feed with only positive good news messaging right and and because i think inherently

00:37:38.160 the internet as an average like you just spoke about is inherently a negative place i think it

00:37:45.260 has become one okay and i'm not saying that there's not great stuff there good news vibe

00:37:49.640 source all that stuff that could teach you how to develop yourself but when when you start sign

00:37:53.760 on to online the major news sources the major media or even the majority of all media are

00:37:59.280 delivering you chloe kardashian just broke up with her man yeah uh you know there's there's

00:38:04.660 venezuela's having a major meltdown in their country and so unless you spend a shit ton of

00:38:10.220 time curating this ultra sheltered ultra positive timeline yeah this device technically has more of

00:38:18.440 an innate ability to produce negative energy totally totally yeah so it's like you really

00:38:23.860 gotta work to limit what you're taking in or to or or spend a lot of time making sure you're

00:38:29.660 taking in positive stuff absolutely and see that's the mind right the mind because we know from caveman

00:38:34.220 days because of our protective mechanism the mind's wired to spot negativity i don't know if

00:38:39.140 you guys have heard about this read about this etc so please elaborate so so for example inside

00:38:43.420 the brain the amygdala is trained to protect itself because in the past we'd be walking and

00:38:49.540 you'd hear a rustle through the leaves and you'd there'd be a snake or a bear or a wolf and so our

00:38:54.100 brain's been programmed to spot negativity to protect ourselves so we've got that wired in us

00:38:58.700 so right now our brain is amplifying anything negative that comes our way because it's doing

00:39:03.960 it as a protective mechanism not realizing that now there's no tiger i mean there's no tiger bear

00:39:09.120 wolf snake hiding in the leaves next to us it's it's a negative comment on instagram

00:39:12.920 so it's just it's like an always on fight or flight exactly i've read about this and it's 0.98

00:39:18.200 funny because it's like our brains are telling us this shit is not good it's negative but we've 0.97

00:39:25.480 trained our bodies and our our like frontal minds or whatever you want to call it to think this is 0.97

00:39:31.900 the stuff i want more of totally and so you've got this battle within your brain that's one part of 0.98

00:39:36.620 it's telling you yo this is the shit you don't want and another part of your brain's just gobbling 0.98

00:39:40.400 it up and i think that goes back to the addiction there's a talk about there's a line between you 1.00

00:39:45.900 know being aware of what's going on in the world but then being consumed by it i think so many

00:39:52.180 people are consumed by it so yeah i like that it's healthy to fill yourself your social feed

00:39:57.940 with positivity and maybe check in once in a while but then where are you checking in because you're

00:40:03.540 saying those major news sources are the negative ones they're really not that major anymore in the

00:40:08.980 time that we live in yeah you have four billion views across all your videos in three years i mean

00:40:15.320 how how are fox news well i just mean in terms of news like technically he's not a news you know

00:40:20.940 channel i mean in a way but we choose to call that news you know they're focusing on stories

00:40:26.420 that they could be focusing on so many other positive stories there's equal if not way more

00:40:31.600 positive stories than there are negative stories yeah but they have created that brand and so

00:40:36.480 i think when you look at the impact of what those brands make those news brands make

00:40:41.000 that's really the substance that's what i really hope people start to tune into is what impact are

00:40:47.420 these brands making and that's who i'm going to consume who's making the best impact i'm going to

00:40:52.620 consume this person's content jay is there any rationale in saying um by looking at the negative

00:41:00.120 the negative content whether it is the uh xyz in venezuela venezuela or uh even the stuff that's

00:41:06.820 going on with the the fashion brands right now um is there any rationale in saying by looking at

00:41:12.700 the mistakes they've made and by the media publicizing them extravagantly we learn and

00:41:18.960 become better as a society because of it massive that's a great point and i'm so glad you brought

00:41:23.780 that up like every solution starts with a problem and every change starts with a problem the only

00:41:28.720 thing is we've now got to feel equipped enough and enthusiastic enough and energetic enough to be

00:41:34.320 like when i see pain i want to go solve that yeah right whereas a lot of our generation especially

00:41:39.360 like goes and looks at pain and goes oh i feel depressed like i can't do anything about that

00:41:43.980 the world's falling apart actually it should have the opposite impact like what you're saying like

00:41:48.060 we should look at all of the mess and go i'm gonna go sort that out right and that's how some of the

00:41:52.480 most incredible companies have come around like there's this great quote that i've been saying

00:41:55.920 often recently that you know we need to redefine the word billionaire to be someone who helps a

00:42:00.280 billion people because if you help a billion people you'll become a billionaire anyway yeah

00:42:04.620 cause marketing has gotten so has gotten so high not to i can bring it up again but those are those

00:42:11.380 are filled with those sacks that i won't mention are filled with uh are made of recycled water

00:42:18.080 bottles oh wow and so we just started to introduce recycled water bottles into the fabric oh wow and

00:42:24.000 the, you know, the founder of the company has gotten slightly obsessed with designing products

00:42:28.540 for life and a battle against planned obsolescence, as he calls it. So when every time you buy a,

00:42:33.020 an iPhone, you buy an iPhone, that's literally going to, you're going to be buying another

00:42:37.560 iPhone in the next, you know, six months to a year. And every company, even the best ones like

00:42:42.660 Apple are creating products that don't last and that will end up in a landfill. Right. And so I

00:42:46.840 think, uh, to your point, the smart people, the smart companies, smart organizations are starting

00:42:51.740 to build products that last forever yeah and that can deliver something back that has a positive

00:42:55.840 impact on the planet and society yeah where do you see the world headed i'm always so fascinated

00:43:02.140 to hear from people like yourself that post so much content um about these topics but when we

00:43:08.520 see all this negativity we see all these things blowing up where do you see the world headed

00:43:11.600 i'm an optimist so i look at it and i go i think the fact that exactly what logan was saying earlier

00:43:17.000 I genuinely believe that all of these things

00:43:19.760 have just raised our consciousness and awareness.

00:43:22.560 Like these things are forcing us to think bigger and better.

00:43:24.720 Like I'll give an example.

00:43:25.580 Like when things are all good and well,

00:43:27.120 we just get complacent, right?

00:43:29.000 And I mean, I'm not political at all,

00:43:30.940 but taking a political example,

00:43:32.780 like when you have a person you want in charge,

00:43:35.140 you kind of go,

00:43:35.640 oh, the world's going in the right direction, right?

00:43:37.640 I don't need to do anything about it.

00:43:39.120 As soon as you think whoever's in charge

00:43:40.780 is not doing what you think is right,

00:43:42.160 you're like, okay, I need to be an activist now, right?

00:43:44.220 So the world, when we're looking at

00:43:45.300 what's going wrong in fashion or the environment

00:43:46.900 or whatever it is it's forcing more change makers more change agents to go i'm going to do something

00:43:51.740 about that and so for me i'm optimistic and believing in the rebel believing in someone

00:43:56.760 who's going against the grain believing in that change maker who's going to go and make big

00:44:00.420 differences so you believe people are inherently good i do i believe that we are wired for service

00:44:06.620 but educated for greed like that's how i feel i feel like we're wired for service you look at any

00:44:11.260 child there's this video that went viral a few years ago on instagram it was this little girl

00:44:15.460 who crawled up to a television screen

00:44:18.540 in her parents' living room 1.00

00:44:19.620 and the cartoon character was crying

00:44:21.240 and she got a tissue, a handkerchief,

00:44:22.980 and started wiping the tissue

00:44:24.800 of the cartoon character crying.

00:44:27.160 And if you look at kids,

00:44:28.160 you look around,

00:44:28.940 I mean, all of us are kids, obviously.

00:44:30.560 Kids generally, as kids,

00:44:32.460 want to help each other,

00:44:33.940 want to fight for their friend,

00:44:35.100 want to defend someone,

00:44:35.920 generally when we're young.

00:44:37.180 And then education makes us believe

00:44:38.320 it's all about us.

00:44:39.100 It's all about me, me, me,

00:44:40.020 greed, greed, greed.

00:44:40.800 It's all about being the best,

00:44:41.880 having the tallest tower.

00:44:43.320 That stuff's trained, right?

00:44:44.900 that stuff's given to us you're not like that as a kid yeah we're warehoused yeah school is

00:44:49.520 warehousing you fifth grade after after fifth grade no more playing outside like you're

00:44:55.600 literally confined to a classroom yeah for 14 000 hours wow that's the actual 14 000 that's

00:45:03.440 10 000 hours to become a professional yeah at anything so we should have professional students

00:45:09.380 Professionals

00:45:10.280 No not professionals

00:45:11.500 That's what they're making

00:45:12.500 Professionals in society

00:45:13.680 Yeah

00:45:14.280 So okay

00:45:14.980 So backtracking a little bit

00:45:16.260 The reason why I asked

00:45:17.200 If you had a wife 0.92

00:45:18.240 Is because 1.00

00:45:18.880 You don't have children yet

00:45:20.660 Not yet

00:45:21.120 Not yet

00:45:21.640 So I don't have any parenting advice 0.97

00:45:23.020 Bullshit 0.98

00:45:24.240 I stay away from it 1.00

00:45:25.100 Liar

00:45:25.440 I stay away from it 0.99

00:45:26.520 Yeah so

00:45:26.880 I've been very conscious and aware

00:45:28.640 To not give any parenting advice

00:45:30.480 Wow okay

00:45:31.160 Because I believe that

00:45:32.020 Until you are a parent

00:45:33.060 You don't have

00:45:33.780 You have no idea

00:45:35.260 But surely you have a

00:45:36.360 I was just going to ask you

00:45:37.240 What your plan is

00:45:38.260 for educating your kid are you going to send him to a traditional school no so i've been researching

00:45:43.300 a lot about schools and and this is a great example i mean in line with this it's i actually

00:45:48.260 believe that more classrooms need to be outdoors like i'm like when did you ever learn something

00:45:52.340 sitting around in a room like how often okay but this podcast aside

00:45:56.280 but apart from apart from a podcast and listening but all of us we learn by being outdoors you learn

00:46:04.760 so much more by exploring and traveling and learning so i would love my children to have

00:46:09.700 an opportunity to travel the world and study at the same time and have that opportunity because

00:46:14.160 then they're going to meet more cultures they're going to get exposure to more people with different

00:46:17.600 backgrounds different socioeconomic backgrounds so they're not going to have a belief of what

00:46:21.720 success is and what isn't they're going to get to make their own mind up because you can't be what

00:46:25.360 you can't see if you've not seen a lot of different things how can you decide so i'll give an example

00:46:30.540 where i grew up in london if you made a hundred thousand dollars a hundred thousand pounds a year

00:46:35.820 you'd made it like that was like the benchmark of the people that i grew up around yeah for some

00:46:40.800 people that's like whoa i could never make that much money and for some people listening they're

00:46:43.640 like that's nothing man like i make that in a day right but it's like you're that expands based on

00:46:48.780 who you spend time with yeah so if you're always living in this little cocoon in this little space

00:46:52.680 which the world isn't anymore you're never going to get to experience life so yeah i'd want my kids

00:46:56.820 to have multiple experiences i'd also want them to have multiple role models like if i didn't meet

00:47:01.200 a monk when i was 18 i would have just carried on being what i was meant to be that's crazy and so

00:47:06.740 like someone meeting one person who's different could literally like switch your whole trajectory

00:47:12.400 and i know that for a fact if i did not meet a monk when i was 18 i reckon by now i would have

00:47:16.540 been divorced multiple times i'd have been traveling around the world trying to find out

00:47:20.200 what i wanted to do i've been wasting a lot of money like that's what my life would have been

00:47:23.540 it's crazy how that that catalyst can come at the most random times totally wherever

00:47:28.620 unplanned especially like man i'm sure you never thought a monk would change your life

00:47:32.780 100 man if someone ever told me you were gonna become a monk i would have laughed at them 1.00

00:47:36.160 and probably like chuck my bottle of beer at me like fuck you yeah do you still uh you still go 0.96

00:47:43.740 out yeah yeah go out where like go out to bars like so i haven't drank since i became a monk 0.99

00:47:48.340 so i haven't yeah so i've been sober for the last since uh 22 so you don't even remember what it's

00:47:53.300 like i remember what it's like i remember it's like i've got memories of getting drunk off my

00:47:57.460 face and playing drinking games and all the rest of it but let me tell you it's changed it could

00:48:02.600 be a good time you know it can't be it can't be becoming a monk getting away from that lifestyle

00:48:08.780 do you do you see that lifestyle in uh how do you see it affecting people which lifestyle the

00:48:16.240 drinking partying you know see i think everyone has to it's just it's just a question i think

00:48:21.900 i think the more people directed at anybody you're kind of judging that's a question well it just he

00:48:28.180 asked us you know the question is the occasional mornings where come downstairs at 1 p.m and

00:48:34.240 spencer's like he's already ran a marathon the morning and i my hair's all messed up and i got

00:48:38.460 like a beer belly and i come down like morning no you said yesterday you said do not tell me

00:48:43.920 all the things you've done spencer's at the top of the stairs there's like yoga pants i'm like 1.00

00:48:49.600 spencer you shut your fucking mouth so you gotta you gotta get on my grind stay stay out as late 1.00

00:48:53.840 as you do but then get up as early as spencer anyways and get the same amount of shit done 1.00

00:48:58.000 anyways it's definitely not judging it's um you know i spent a lot of time in that lifestyle too 0.51

00:49:04.480 i mean i went four years of college just partying partying partying but then to me it like hit me

00:49:11.060 where i'm like yo this is not for me so i'm always interested i think that's what it is i think

00:49:15.120 everyone should experience everything so that they can make their own choices but your choice should

00:49:20.000 be based on you i think the problem is people are living lifestyles because of how it impresses

00:49:24.640 other people right so too many people are doing things that they don't want to do because it

00:49:29.260 impresses people they don't even like and if that person goes oh yeah you're cool man like you're

00:49:33.200 amazing like i love what you're doing or oh yeah last night you were crazy like we're living for

00:49:37.420 that validation so if it makes you happy carry on doing it like i'm all for it but it's make sure

00:49:42.280 it's your choice make sure your choice isn't based on someone else's validation i feel like

00:49:46.880 it's another situation like you described with the cup where it's like not like a super clear

00:49:51.880 cut answer it's like dependent on like what you're you know how much you're doing it what

00:49:55.980 you're putting in it what you're getting out of it like you said you know so i don't think there's

00:50:00.400 like a true like cut like yeah yo it's partying bad it's partying good like some people go out

00:50:05.620 and party and meet their business partners and network and do a great job like you know keeping

00:50:10.160 it under control and so i think it's totally man there's like levels to it i think it's like a

00:50:14.220 balance thing definitely yeah absolutely but i think everyone gets to a point in life like

00:50:18.600 life's kind of like a computer game where you get to a certain level and you're like okay i need to

00:50:22.120 stop doing that and i'm gonna start doing this right and it's just you want to get to the next

00:50:25.600 level in your life and you're gonna change stuff and if you don't then you're not gonna get to the

00:50:29.220 next level yeah you start realizing to level up i need to let go of this i need to add this to my

00:50:33.300 life and that's a personal self-awareness choice right that's that shouldn't be forced by anyone

00:50:37.900 i've definitely had those level up moments and i'm sure i'll have more uh jay do you think do

00:50:44.180 you think money can buy happiness it's a good question so there's an awesome study that says

00:50:49.460 money can buy happiness if you spend it on other people and and i love it i love it so they did

00:50:56.960 this study where they where they gave people money and they told him to spend it on themselves

00:51:03.200 and half of them and they told the other half to spend on other people and they gave people

00:51:07.200 between five to twenty dollars and most of these were college students so whether you had five to

00:51:11.300 twenty dollars to spend on yourself to other people the three most common things people bought

00:51:14.700 were starbucks makeup and starbucks right so that's what people bought for themselves or for

00:51:20.020 each other did they conduct this study in la no but it was in the u.s they did mainly in the u.s

00:51:24.480 when they started out and in canada so they they trialed this out and they found that when they

00:51:28.980 asked people how much happier they were when they'd spent money on themselves bearing in mind these

00:51:32.280 people did not know they were in a study the people who said they spent the money on themselves

00:51:36.080 their happiness didn't go up or down it stayed the same the people who spend money on other people

00:51:40.200 their happiness went up by 10 to 20 percent at least well because it's not their money no so

00:51:44.840 then they tested it out so then they tested out with people with their own money okay where they

00:51:48.200 didn't give it and then they took it global so they did this all the way from africa through

00:51:51.860 communities which aren't as privileged all the way through the uk they did this globally and

00:51:55.920 they found the same thing hold true that we're happier when we're giving we're happier when we're

00:52:00.700 doing something for someone else and everyone's experienced that is that subjective or is that

00:52:04.740 like a scientific that was a scientific michael norton cambridge university study like that's

00:52:10.160 like but what about well i mean you ever heard like i'd rather cry in a lambo yeah right right

00:52:16.060 I don't believe that

00:52:18.700 I think anyone who's

00:52:20.700 Look this is my take

00:52:22.480 Stuff is great

00:52:24.000 I like nice things too

00:52:25.400 I drive a nice car

00:52:26.260 I love stuff too

00:52:27.960 But if you're pinning your level of happiness

00:52:31.300 On that

00:52:32.580 You are messing yourself up

00:52:34.640 It's not pinning it

00:52:37.180 For example there have been times in my life 0.96

00:52:38.880 Where I've been really fucking sad 0.95

00:52:41.500 Which is unlike me 0.94

00:52:43.080 In the past two years

00:52:44.420 like a level of sadness that i'm just like wow like okay i'm affected i'm affected things are

00:52:49.100 happening and both times i went out and i sat in my four hundred thousand dollar car and i swear 0.99

00:52:55.220 to god i was like i'm being a fucking pussy right now my life is not that bad i can't i can get 0.98

00:53:01.600 through this and see that's gratitude that changed your life not money yeah i feel like it could have 0.99

00:53:06.040 been other things that's different it's not money it was still gratitude the emotion was still

00:53:10.400 gratitude it was it was it because it made me but someone could feel that even if they were in an

00:53:16.440 average my point is it wasn't the money it wasn't like you had sat in a bathtub with like dollar

00:53:21.060 bills like he does that too maybe i know i was i was testing i was testing i was like i wanted to 0.94

00:53:26.080 see how far you know no fuck i'm just saying like it's gratitude man you you let gratitude change 0.99

00:53:30.920 your life which is perfect like you could have played with everyone so i'm not a shit head no 0.99

00:53:34.360 all right so far so good you could have played with kong too it might have made you feel the 0.95

00:53:38.060 you know what i'm saying like he's actually he's just a dog like i think you just use that as an

00:53:42.560 example correct where it could have been kong it could have been a meal prepared by your living

00:53:46.640 it could have been a million things you know what i'm saying i actually read a study um recently

00:53:51.860 about there being like a uh happiness quotient yes based on the area of the united states you

00:53:58.300 live in and so basically like i'm from connecticut and in fairfield county it's a wealthy place right

00:54:03.100 And so the quotient there was like $88,000 was like the cutoff.

00:54:07.640 And so, or 88 or like 92, some of that range.

00:54:10.100 And if you're making that amount of money, you're not working so hard your whole life

00:54:16.300 on wall street, not seeing your kids that you're making three 50, 400 a year, and you're

00:54:20.860 making more than 40 or 50, which are poverty level.

00:54:24.580 So you have enough to sustain your family and your kids.

00:54:26.840 And so they've actually started to produce these numbers of what you should aim to make

00:54:31.180 so that you're not grinding all day.

00:54:33.020 you're able to work on safety and by the way it's another average it's not going to be applicable

00:54:36.660 to everybody but sometimes they're starting to come up with like literal guidelines around what

00:54:41.900 your aim should be in terms of how much money you make and that's a personal metric right like

00:54:45.360 like for some of us we may say we absolutely love what we do like you were saying i love creating

00:54:49.100 content too like i love thinking about content all the time coming up with new ideas getting

00:54:53.540 with my videographer getting with my team making content launching a podcast you know i love that

00:54:57.620 like that's what i get my energy from so for me my metric of success is not the same as someone

00:55:02.680 else is and that's the point right it's like what is your metric of success success is super

00:55:07.560 subjective what is your metric of success my metric of success is how many people i can help

00:55:13.060 find their purpose like that's my goal like how many other people in the world can i help find

00:55:17.540 their purpose because i find mine and i absolutely love it life is meaningful it's fulfilling i work

00:55:22.920 hard but studies even show that when you're working purposefully you can deal with more stress and

00:55:27.200 pain than anyone else in the room so if you're working meaningfully and purposefully you can

00:55:31.940 actually work longer hours you can actually push your body and mind through extreme situations

00:55:36.200 because you love what you do so passion passion passion purpose meaning fulfillment i used to

00:55:41.960 think i used to think that uh my passion was just creating content and you know in a sense it is but

00:55:49.980 something i love more than just creating content is having the content that i create

00:55:54.720 be received that it affects people that that is the win for me the true win and that's why i've

00:56:01.400 been doing it for so long because i mean i i often ask myself um if i had graduated college

00:56:08.000 and uh was an engineer right now would i still be making videos and i'm i don't know i don't know if

00:56:13.660 the answer is yes but then again i i'm not sure there was a world where uh i was unsuccessful

00:56:18.680 on this path because of an unrelenting passion to just provide these things to make people laugh

00:56:24.800 yeah you know and there's like four massive human motivators right like you've got security

00:56:29.460 so there are some people in the world who just want security they just want things to be safe

00:56:33.140 and secure and like they're happy as long as everything kind of makes sense and you know

00:56:36.720 the gates on and all that kind of stuff and then the other one's like creative yeah and then the

00:56:41.140 other one's like creation wealth like they love it when they're like starting something new they're

00:56:44.820 launching something new and we all have a bit of this and then the third one's like what you were

00:56:48.500 saying like significance you get your significance from the fact that you create something that made

00:56:52.420 a difference in someone's life that's cool and the fourth one's knowledge that you just love

00:56:55.860 learning like there are some people in the world who just get a buzz from learning new things and

00:56:59.660 testing new things so yours is significance mine too we share that and you guys too maybe

00:57:04.260 the three cancers of the mind yes something you talk about yeah uh comparing complaining

00:57:09.800 and criticizing yes well you've done your research man you know how to prepare for jay shetty uh

00:57:17.300 okay i'm sort of using this as like a life coach

00:57:21.200 thanks for booking jay shetty this is good for me i hope so um i have a problem with comparing

00:57:28.140 yeah everyone does i've often i've well it's for me it's bad dude like i've often said like

00:57:33.820 i'll always run faster if i look to my right and there's someone there because i feel like i have 0.64

00:57:38.580 to fucking beat them and i have to win yeah but recently i'm like that person is ahead of me i 0.67

00:57:44.200 really don't like this and so i start slowing down and it affects me yeah so any advice i 0.99

00:57:51.180 how i can reconcile yeah definitely i'd give one simple tip is like just try go 24 hours without

00:57:57.100 comparing literally just like try it for a day like just for one day just anytime you think about

00:58:02.960 something comparing call one of these guys up write a script for something go out there and

00:58:06.820 do something like literally get that thought out of your head and just see how good you feel after

00:58:10.960 just not doing it for 24 hours because that's like a very simple test yeah simple experiment

00:58:14.960 you do that for 24 hours you're like wow like i feel great and my mind feels amazing right i feel

00:58:20.100 awesome the second thing is and it's interesting you said that that actually when you see someone

00:58:23.820 ahead it slows you down not yeah not always yeah but but it it often is uh sort of uh

00:58:31.440 demotivating maybe it's like it's like i mean i i was running so fast do i even keep going is it

00:58:37.740 is it worth running the same race yeah and and i think that's when you've got to come back to like

00:58:42.680 why you started yeah yep yep right like come back to like why did i start like and what you just

00:58:47.660 told me now like let me go back and just read some of those comments that are having an impact on

00:58:51.600 people where someone actually told me like logan this video made a huge difference in my life this

00:58:55.720 this message changed my life like that's those moments where you dig up all of that stuff

00:59:00.260 that usually you'd feel stupid reading but then you're like that's why i'm doing it i'm not doing

00:59:05.180 it because of that guy that girl that person i'm doing it because of that that's what i do yeah i 0.97

00:59:08.900 put out a gratitude tweet not two days ago because i was like damn yo like this is this is why yeah

00:59:14.640 and it's really cool that's the same with me like it's the same for me and i've i feel that way too 0.64

00:59:18.760 and i do that and i'll look at a message where someone said to me like jay i didn't commit

00:59:21.600 suicide because of this yeah i'll be like that's one we've been getting a lot of that lately because

00:59:25.980 we've been talking about mental health a lot on this on this show um do you have a because a lot

00:59:32.320 of people that watch our show have mental health issues that they're dealing whether it be anxiety

00:59:36.460 depression bipolar whatever do you have a a couple actionable tips for today that somebody can do if

00:59:44.200 they're struggling or feeling like uh they're never going to get out of this yeah simple things

00:59:48.640 maybe yeah simple thing one thing is find a friend for every emotion so don't find one friend and

00:59:55.440 dump all your emotions on them find a friend who can help you in every emotion so one of the biggest

01:00:00.320 challenges we do when we're feeling anxiety or depression or stress we find one friend and we

01:00:04.220 tell that one friend everything and that ends up pushing that friend away and that friend's like

01:00:07.440 god i can't deal because they get stressed they get stressed from your stress so find a friend

01:00:11.960 find a guide find a role model find someone in your life that's able to understand each emotion

01:00:16.520 well right whichever anxiety you have what about the isolators that that don't have anyone well i

01:00:21.980 think the fact is the fact that they're listening in like the fact that we have podcasts the fact

01:00:25.560 that you have all this online material the fact that there are apps for mental health tune yourself

01:00:30.040 in if you're an isolator you don't like being around people tune yourself in to wherever you're

01:00:33.700 going to find those answers they're there online that's what people didn't have before that's super

01:00:37.800 practical and and on a personal level like literally just again with that test try go a day

01:00:42.720 without complaining try to go a day without complaining and start using that energy to find

01:00:47.200 the answer on a podcast on an interview just make that switch the brain can't physically be in

01:00:52.500 gratitude and stress at the same time the brain can't be in physically in gratitude and anxiety

01:00:56.500 at the same time so the more you up your gratitude just making a list of everything you're grateful

01:01:00.380 for that in that immediately switches your brain out of stress it's awesome it's that simple just

01:01:06.380 start making a list of everything you're grateful for but another another question i think for for

01:01:10.720 audience people we have some older uh people watching the show now and especially for for

01:01:15.640 myself something i could relate to you did a lot of big brand and corporate um speaking right and

01:01:21.240 trying to help people with issues that impact them there what's uh what's some advice you have for

01:01:26.060 someone who literally is struggling to find any time to for self-development they're grinding the

01:01:30.640 60-hour work week they're coming home they got two crying kids they're putting food on the table and

01:01:35.000 then they're and they're watching a show and going to sleep like what's what's a piece of

01:01:38.340 advice for them to to find the time or find the the motivation i think the best thing is use your

01:01:44.120 commute right everyone's got to commute so if you've got to work whether your commute's a five

01:01:48.880 minute walk or whether commute's sitting on the train for an hour everyone's got to commute and

01:01:53.560 that's your time put some headphones on right listen to podcasts like i know we keep going

01:01:57.940 about the podcast but it's true it's like that's something that requires no effort pick up a book

01:02:01.680 get an audio book read a book on the train wherever it is anything in your commute your

01:02:06.060 commute is such a powerful time and i've been seeing that everywhere everyone's like i'm

01:02:09.300 listening to this while i'm commuting i'm listening to this while i'm traveling that's a great place

01:02:12.620 and the second thing is you need to start switching you know you need to start switching

01:02:17.340 that tv show in the evening for education because when you escape you come back to your problems

01:02:24.240 and the problem gets bigger and you have less insight when you educate yourself your problem

01:02:29.440 gets smaller and you have more insight and we're just escaping and that is a big switch for us but

01:02:34.540 as soon as you make that switch we know that the most successful people in the world choose

01:02:38.060 education over entertainment it's real it's so you've got to make that switch if you're watching

01:02:42.700 netflix for an hour a day or half an hour a day watch a documentary on netflix you can still watch

01:02:47.060 netflix right you can watch something else and you talk about television at night that they called it

01:02:52.600 tv program because it's literally a program for your mind literally and you're programming your

01:02:58.540 mind with whatever you put in. It's like creating a code for a website and that website pops up.

01:03:04.700 It's the same thing with what you're implanting in your mind. Every second of content that you're

01:03:09.440 consuming, that's creating your thought process. That's creating your anxiety. That's creating

01:03:15.120 what's keeping you glued down. So if you want to reverse that, you've got to go against the

01:03:19.720 program. You've got to program yourself with something healthy. And it seems like you have

01:03:24.120 to work i think i think i think that's the biggest thing like i think uh there's no easy magic fairy

01:03:29.800 dust like it doesn't work right i think i think people i think people get lazy and i think

01:03:34.740 laziness is probably one of the main contributors to non you know productivity and and scared too

01:03:40.340 that too people get really scared they see they think this is like some huge challenge oh i've

01:03:46.500 waited so long it's too late i'm too old blah blah blah it's not like that like there's so

01:03:53.080 many opportunities for everybody if you just get in take a first step take a move it's everything

01:03:59.220 opens up and your excuse to do that and and you thinking it's something bigger than it is is what's

01:04:06.560 keeping you locked down yeah yeah absolutely it's a choice i think everyone back at home or wherever

01:04:11.540 you're watching or listening like it's a choice and you're gonna have to make that choice at one

01:04:15.760 point you don't want to be sitting there living with regret you know so the the choice of pain

01:04:20.500 is hard but regret's much harder so much worse so switch to choice of pain right now and i think

01:04:26.220 like start small too 100 man yeah start small doesn't have to be a big change i always say to

01:04:31.700 people small step big priority what we try and do in changes in our life is like we try and change

01:04:38.940 everything at the same time so we're like this week i'm gonna eat healthy this week i'm gonna

01:04:42.300 go to the gym six times this week i'm gonna do this and it's actually the opposite this week i'm

01:04:46.460 just going to do one thing i'm going to make that my biggest priority i'm going to wake up earlier

01:04:50.660 as simple as that this week i'm going to do a gratitude journal every day one step big priority

01:04:56.040 right simple you said waking up early and i wanted to ask you about sleep because sleep is one thing

01:05:01.040 that uh it you can modify it immediately uh what's your take on sleep i love sleep now so as a monk

01:05:06.960 we slept four hours a day and we were trained to so that we would build a commitment to meditation

01:05:12.920 And you get into deeper forms of meditation

01:05:15.000 Because now sleep's not acting as a buffer for rest

01:05:18.200 So you're getting more refuel and rest from meditation

01:05:20.260 Now I sleep eight and a half hours a night

01:05:22.100 And I love my sleep

01:05:23.720 It helps me be more creative

01:05:25.020 Helps me be more alert

01:05:26.180 I genuinely believe too many people are sleeping too late

01:05:28.920 Most people I know are sleeping after midnight

01:05:31.240 When they don't need to

01:05:32.240 And therefore they're getting less quality sleep

01:05:34.320 Sleep before midnight is much more powerful for you

01:05:36.980 Much better for your refuel

01:05:38.120 Yes

01:05:38.400 So sleep before midnight

01:05:39.920 It said, science studies show

01:05:42.460 that the hours of sleep you get before midnight almost count as one and a half to two times the

01:05:47.320 quality of sleep that you get afterwards right so like when you're sleeping from 12 to 8 even

01:05:52.280 though you're sleeping eight hours if you actually slept from 9 p.m to 5 a.m that eight hours is

01:05:56.480 going to be strong and more powerful is that based on the cycle the day cycle or what is the sleep

01:06:01.160 cycles okay sleep cycles just and i'll give you i'll tell you why one of the reasons what happens

01:06:05.500 when we sleep late is and when we eat late a lot of people are eating just before they sleep so what

01:06:10.620 your body's trying to do when you've just eaten it's trying to digest so your body's trying to

01:06:14.000 sleep and digest at the same time that's running two different mechanisms at the same time so

01:06:18.280 another thing is eating earlier makes you sleep better there's all these simple things that we're

01:06:22.540 doing that are just screwing us up basically because we're making our body do more work

01:06:28.340 and therefore when we're sleeping we're not even resting you uh you just how long you been in

01:06:33.560 america for i moved here two and a half years ago two and a half years ago but you had you spent

01:06:38.760 time here before you came i had well i'd visited i'd been a tourist and run a universal and

01:06:43.000 disneyland oh okay so now you're now you're really here what's uh i like getting people's

01:06:49.320 opinions who are not here and are have watched on uh from outside of america and and live here now

01:06:55.900 what's the biggest problem we're facing as a people right now in this country i was gonna

01:07:00.220 start with the good stuff what's the best thing we have as a people in this country right now

01:07:05.620 oh i like that switch people here love taking risks and i love that like here if you have an

01:07:10.740 idea someone go yeah let's try it out and i love that like i've i've loved being here because of

01:07:15.720 that you know for me i've been far more embraced here than anywhere else and and i love that then

01:07:20.780 when i came out here and i was sharing what i was sharing i was just like yeah we love that

01:07:24.200 let's try that out and if no one took that chance on me i wouldn't i wouldn't have got to where i

01:07:27.920 am today so i i actually see a lot of good i think the biggest challenge is is apathy right like

01:07:34.880 looking at something and going i can't do anything about it and i think that doesn't align with u.s

01:07:39.460 culture like that's not what i've identified with the u.s growing up i see the u.s as a place of

01:07:44.240 opportunity as a place of change as a place of growth as a place of innovation and you look at

01:07:48.920 that it is that you look at all the apps we use they all come out of here you look at all the

01:07:52.420 brands we use most of them come out of here and so i feel like it's it's switching away from that

01:07:56.780 feeling of we can't do anything to actually like we we need to own this like we need to take

01:08:01.220 responsibility for this yeah is it is it we can't do anything or we're too lazy it's both right yeah

01:08:06.600 it's both and that's everywhere i can't say that's only the u.s it's everywhere it's that feeling of

01:08:11.060 just like oh my god everything's too bad i can't make a difference and it's like well you can make

01:08:15.500 a difference in one person's life that's good enough you can just start there that's huge yeah

01:08:19.400 that's huge yeah we've been we've been talking about that a lot lately you don't need to change

01:08:23.040 the world just change one person's life you're changing the world or change millions or billions

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01:08:31.860 in the world.

01:08:32.720 I want to go to the

01:08:33.380 audio only Q&A

01:08:34.480 if that's cool.

01:08:34.800 Okay, let's do it, man.

01:08:35.900 Jay Shetty,

01:08:36.380 thank you, bro.

01:08:36.820 Thank you for coming on Impulsive.

01:08:38.220 Ladies and gentlemen,

01:08:38.820 Jay Shetty.

01:08:39.320 Thank you, Impulsive.

01:08:40.080 Where can they find you

01:08:40.780 on the social media?

01:08:42.140 You can find me,

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01:08:46.580 20 million on Facebook,

01:08:47.780 though.

01:08:47.920 He doesn't need you there.

01:08:49.220 But hit him up on Twitter.

01:08:51.460 That's crazy, bro. 1.00

01:08:52.340 That's a lot of fucking numbers. 1.00

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01:09:08.640 Out

01:09:09.200 I want to know about handling rejection

01:09:12.900 Let's do it

01:09:13.760 Cause Jay I gotta say

01:09:15.320 Recently

01:09:17.320 You've been letting people deal with rejection too much

01:09:20.000 No I've been rejected

01:09:21.980 And it makes me

01:09:22.880 I enjoy being rejected 0.99

01:09:25.460 But also like damn 0.98

01:09:26.520 Like I got friend zoned recently 0.99

01:09:28.460 I got like 1.00

01:09:30.020 Girls leave me on scene 1.00

01:09:31.440 You know 1.00

01:09:32.240 No but it hurts

01:09:34.240 My ego bro

01:09:35.400 What do I do

01:09:36.260 What do I do

01:09:38.020 What part of you

01:09:38.740 Is it hurting

01:09:39.280 I just

01:09:40.500 I don't know bro

01:09:41.740 It's just

01:09:42.100 I honestly 0.99

01:09:43.100 My balls 0.98

01:09:44.180 It's just a boy like 0.99

01:09:46.940 Nah just like man

01:09:49.180 I'd like to consider myself

01:09:52.160 A cool guy

01:09:52.900 And uh

01:09:54.280 Sometimes

01:09:54.960 People don't think

01:09:56.080 I'm a cool guy

01:09:56.840 And it hurts my ego

01:09:57.800 It hurts the ego

01:09:58.400 is the answer

01:09:59.060 yeah it's ego 1.00

01:09:59.860 I got a fucking ego 0.99

01:10:00.740 so what 1.00

01:10:01.180 oh I assume

01:10:01.680 I think

01:10:02.740 I like to tell him

01:10:03.560 I feel like you

01:10:04.020 you always admit though

01:10:05.160 oh yeah

01:10:05.940 I mean we all do

01:10:07.120 yeah

01:10:07.500 all of us do

01:10:08.340 oh yeah

01:10:08.780 I like how you embrace it

01:10:09.960 yeah

01:10:10.200 me too

01:10:10.980 yeah exactly

01:10:11.500 I like how you embrace it

01:10:12.360 too many people like

01:10:13.200 shy away from that

01:10:14.140 no I don't have an ego

01:10:15.560 yeah

01:10:16.140 no I'm like yo

01:10:16.780 I absolutely do

01:10:17.800 please don't

01:10:18.800 please don't friends on me

01:10:19.760 I like to tell him

01:10:21.840 he he thinks sometimes

01:10:23.380 like that the girl

01:10:24.420 or whoever thinks

01:10:25.220 he's not cool enough

01:10:26.500 I like to tell him

01:10:27.620 that a lot of times

01:10:28.160 they just think he's too cool and they're like what we don't want it what it goes back to the 0.99

01:10:32.060 alpha thing again we don't want to deal with that shit we want some less cool safe guy like 0.99

01:10:38.020 this is the coolest kid in la there was a study done that showed girls actually like dad bods 0.99

01:10:45.920 more than oh yeah i saw that oh it's a huge yeah you're lying oh yeah i saw that yeah i saw that

01:10:52.240 so you shouldn't let it hit your ego because maybe that girl that friend zone you was looking

01:10:56.640 for a dad bod i'm right here baby okay yeah mike has mike has a dad bod okay okay bro i'm a i have

01:11:03.160 a dad bod too just in shape dad bod right like i ain't pushing anything crazy right so maybe we

01:11:08.600 need to get more pictures of that dad bod maybe that's what's gonna make the difference next ig's

01:11:14.000 like shirtless just after like a huge like pot roast dinner and just be like jay shetty said

01:11:19.080 this was a good idea you know what the you know what the study bases that on right it's it's based 0.97

01:11:23.320 on uh the comfort level level that female that women get out of seeing someone that they 0.99

01:11:30.020 because women are obviously very cautious and very um worried about their body and the shape

01:11:37.640 of their body and so when they see a man who's a little bit more lax about the shape of their body

01:11:42.340 they can identify they want a daddy they want a dad yeah well i think the thing is look no one

01:11:46.780 no one likes getting rejected right so if anyone sits and goes i love getting rejected i love it

01:11:52.640 when things go wrong i love it when someone says no no one does like let's be honest right like no

01:11:57.480 one loves failing or getting rejected what about sadists or like people that like being hurt

01:12:01.720 yeah but still rejections even more than hurt right like rejections rejections like an emotional

01:12:07.580 pain right because it's kind of like you don't agree with this oh yeah yeah yeah like you're

01:12:12.360 not feeling connected to me or this you're not agreeing with this and i think that's a big deal

01:12:15.920 so i think i think my two are we waving right now yeah she was she didn't want us to she wanted us

01:12:21.400 to keep going with the conversation sorry sorry j's fake wife i apologize i'm gonna download

01:12:27.940 hinge after this is that's cool it's a great it's a much more it's a much you on there it's a it's

01:12:33.120 a much more upscale app i i was saying before i go for speed and efficiency so i'm a tinder guy

01:12:37.420 it's just i can get through you know a couple thousand swipes in a day yeah i don't have to

01:12:40.940 read bios i'm just basing it simply up the shape of the face uh or whatever but uh yeah you should

01:12:46.320 you should hop on a couple LP self-care self-care self-care Jay yeah talking about talking about

01:12:52.100 self-care nice nice transition sometimes you just got to do it bro yeah because it's called

01:12:59.120 impulsive we'd never get anywhere if we got a lot to cover yeah it's true yeah self-care I mean it's

01:13:04.560 the biggest talking point right now I think too many people were hustling hard too many people

01:13:09.380 were pushing too hard too many people were burning themselves out and then realized oh wow like this

01:13:14.000 doesn't last this sucks this doesn't last like how long are you going to work that hard i've worked 0.53

01:13:18.880 for the past two years of my life while i've been doing what i was working seven days a week 0.93

01:13:22.040 but i was like that's not sustainable i can't do that but i was doing seven days a week i'm

01:13:25.920 meditating for two hours a day still and so i was making sure my self-care was a big part of that

01:13:30.020 and i think that's the big takeaway if you want to be successful you want to be rich whatever you

01:13:34.120 want to be if self-care is not a part of your routine if self-care is not a part of your day

01:13:38.280 you're not going to last more than a couple of years and i think that's where the kind of

01:13:42.360 awakening around self-care has come from what does that mean to you self-care like what are

01:13:46.060 you doing personally for me it's meditating every day like that's a huge part of my self-care it

01:13:50.160 helps me be more creative helps me more settled and most of all reminds me why i do what i do

01:13:54.540 when i meditate i keep going back i'm like it's not about the money it's not about brand deals

01:13:57.900 it's not about this it's about making an impact right so it helps me connect with that why

01:14:01.560 another piece of self-care that's awesome for me is i love getting away with my wife so we've

01:14:06.340 been making sure that we take a weekend off every month and we disappear even if it's close by

01:14:10.660 even if it's somewhere super close we get away for the weekend i switch off i don't look at my

01:14:14.700 phone for two days i just get to be that's awesome have you have you spent uh have you

01:14:19.600 spent any time with gary v i have yeah gary's a good friend so he so he's he's someone that

01:14:24.140 that worries me as a burnout like potential but he's big on self-care you just don't see it as

01:14:29.780 much because he's always grinding he made a shift yeah he made a heavy shift yeah you see the

01:14:35.060 difference in his pictures from a few years ago exercising is massive self-care yeah right just

01:14:39.660 hitting the gym and i'm not saying about looking a certain way right you can still get your dad

01:14:43.360 bod right you can still keep that but just get your blood but just get your blood moving like

01:14:47.000 movement exercise huge like for me that was a big thing like i was someone who focused on my mind

01:14:51.980 for so long but i realized my body wasn't catching up with my mind so last year i got a personal

01:14:57.000 trainer i got in the gym hasn't made any huge aesthetic changes but i feel much better because

01:15:02.000 i'm exercising every day for me exercise uh i can do nothing all day but as long as i've exercised

01:15:09.000 I will have felt accomplished absolutely paramount which is yeah which is really really awesome we

01:15:15.000 do we do self-care Sundays too okay just we kind of just kicked this off because we were doing

01:15:19.320 we'll do seven days a lot of times it's six days but if something pops up on the seventh day we're

01:15:24.660 working it right and so now we're we're trying as a as a household to kind of be a little bit

01:15:29.040 more mindful about these self-care Sundays so I'll go get a massage I'll go sit outside for

01:15:33.780 20 like any of that kind of stuff and then furthermore we all all all three of us in this

01:15:38.400 whole house works out every single day i mean that's that's the one thing besides trying new

01:15:42.260 things that i talked about before that was paramount to my personal recovery was just

01:15:46.580 working out either working out riding a bike running down the street playing frisbee anything

01:15:50.820 just get out and be active yeah and then the second level like that's the physical level it's

01:15:54.500 like getting your massage eating right that's a huge one huge eating right exercising all that

01:15:59.900 kind of stuff and then that's our step level is let's do a mental audit what kind of thoughts am

01:16:03.620 i letting into my head what are the conversations how do i speak to myself right like what are the

01:16:08.100 conversations i have with myself are they negative are they positive it's getting into that mental

01:16:12.220 emotional state like that step up step up i think in order to really achieve that step like what you

01:16:18.600 do every month is getting away unplugging yeah i it's i think a big thing is ask yourself when's

01:16:24.820 the last time you unplugged for a whole day a whole one day 24 hours and i take a month off 0.54

01:16:30.200 the year we just went to we spent the whole month of january this is dude that's a subliminal

01:16:35.680 Comment to Logan again

01:16:37.700 About unplugging

01:16:39.160 I just have thoughts on it

01:16:41.320 And we've had this discussion

01:16:42.520 Spencer's like yo

01:16:44.160 There's a lot of subliminal messages here

01:16:45.820 We're roommates

01:16:46.840 We have lots of discussions

01:16:49.900 And Spencer he's like

01:16:51.860 Yo I challenge you to put your phone down for a week

01:16:54.520 And I've done that

01:16:56.580 Multiple times

01:16:57.980 And every time I do it

01:17:00.020 It's like wow that was

01:17:02.080 Incredibly easy and I'm extremely 0.99

01:17:04.260 behind on work now and i've fucked myself like bro like i'm serious i got a phone i was 18 um 0.99

01:17:10.800 i followed like one person onto i didn't give i still like honestly i don't really give a shit 0.98

01:17:15.280 about social media i just like making stuff and so it's very easy for me to just be off all right

01:17:19.880 i'm gonna go live my life but unfortunately my life revolves around the mobile yeah

01:17:24.100 yeah i think my dude my thoughts too yeah my thoughts on that are i i agree with you and i

01:17:32.440 agree with spencer i think there's i think there's daily you should have daily times i don't think

01:17:36.720 it's healthy for anyone to take a week off like yeah i'll come back i'll have no job like the show

01:17:40.880 everything will put like it's not super healthy well but but four hours a day a day where you

01:17:46.140 don't look at your phone you don't watch the screen you don't interact like you just talk to 0.94

01:17:49.320 people why don't you fucking let jay talk man i'm with him i'm agreeing with you i'm agreeing with 0.99

01:17:53.720 you i'm yeah i'm i'm going off of what you're saying that there's a way of making it super 0.99

01:17:56.920 simple just don't look at your phone first thing in the morning that simple oh no right

01:18:01.860 That in itself will change everything

01:18:04.580 Because you're looking at your phone

01:18:05.640 You can tell me if you guys have ever done this

01:18:09.160 Maybe this won't apply

01:18:10.860 But we'll try

01:18:11.380 You would never let 100 people into your bedroom

01:18:14.960 The moment you wake up

01:18:16.400 Making sure you've never done that

01:18:18.160 I won't do it

01:18:18.760 I'm just making sure 1.00

01:18:20.360 You would never let 100 people walk into your bedroom

01:18:22.820 The moment you wake up

01:18:23.700 Why the hell would you let 100 messages or more

01:18:26.520 Let into your mind the morning you wake up

01:18:28.060 Your mind is still trying to wake up

01:18:30.340 Just like your body

01:18:31.860 your mind is still trying to wake up.

01:18:33.240 And when you let all of that energy rush in,

01:18:35.320 you literally are squashing your brain's ability

01:18:37.240 to deal with pressure, deal with stress and everything.

01:18:40.160 Or to set goals.

01:18:41.160 Or to set goals.

01:18:41.500 Or to do anything.

01:18:42.340 Or to focus.

01:18:42.660 Or to focus for your attention.

01:18:44.000 Anything.

01:18:44.660 And so my big advice is don't look at your phone

01:18:46.860 first thing in the morning.

01:18:48.240 Give it at least, I mean, like for me,

01:18:49.680 I give it two hours.

01:18:50.400 Give it at least half an hour.

01:18:52.040 Give it an hour.

01:18:53.060 Like just give your mind that time to get,

01:18:55.300 like your mind's not a Ferrari, right?

01:18:56.960 It's not gonna get into naught to 60

01:18:58.840 in however many seconds.

01:18:59.840 It needs time to warm up.

01:19:01.400 so let that happen the second thing is i always i've made a rule like generally try and don't

01:19:05.760 use your phone in the kitchen in the bedroom because it's more fun to eat and sleep with

01:19:08.700 people right so remove set zones in your home where you don't use technology right just zones

01:19:15.300 just areas where you're like okay we don't use our phone in that space and that really helps

01:19:18.900 because it disconnects you so i'm on social media all day too i get it it's part of my life too

01:19:22.960 but i know that in the evening before i'm going to bed and in the morning when i wake up those

01:19:26.420 are times what you said that i'm not looking at it those four hours a day those three hours a day

01:19:31.120 there's two hours a day half an hour a day the morning is the big one yeah i just keep hearing

01:19:35.840 about it from every research scientist every study because like for me and i i know for him

01:19:41.900 and i i would assume for you too it's like this eyes open immediately it's not like it's not like

01:19:48.400 grab a water it's not go take a piss it's wake up boom you some most of the time unfortunately 1.00

01:19:53.300 it's to shut off an alarm that's on your phone and that sucks because now you're already fucked 0.99

01:19:57.240 because you have a thing in your hand but like hot so maybe you get an alarm clock 0.97

01:20:00.500 all analog alarm clocks the real alarm clocks are going through the roof right now on amazon

01:20:07.620 because of these stuff yeah absolutely yeah timex i think that's the brand but i mean you can you

01:20:13.260 can definitely self-discipline yourself to just like replace that with meditate just sit down and

01:20:19.200 actually knock out your meditation right away and then you're getting your day started i agree but

01:20:26.100 I also think based on like what he was saying before,

01:20:28.200 like small steps,

01:20:29.140 like we are,

01:20:30.420 we are physically and mentally trained to literally grab that phone and

01:20:34.260 spend the first hour of our day laying in bed, 1.00

01:20:36.120 looking at shit that literally doesn't fucking matter to any of us. 1.00

01:20:38.800 You know what I'm saying? 1.00

01:20:39.300 It's complete and utter bullshit. 1.00

01:20:40.420 I yell at him all the time. 1.00

01:20:41.180 Cause he does this thing that I call consuming shit content. 0.99

01:20:43.220 It goes by elephant riding on a tank, 0.99

01:20:45.640 a bird flying down the street,

01:20:47.200 spitting on a swan.

01:20:48.320 Like it's just scrolling.

01:20:49.460 And I look in his eyes and it's just this dead stare in the phone.

01:20:53.560 And I do it too.

01:20:54.400 We all do it,

01:20:55.060 man.

01:20:55.240 I do it too.

01:20:56.100 but it's like, how do you, how do you not do that? Yeah. Or at least start.

01:21:00.680 And that's the big part. I remember when I first tried to develop this habit

01:21:03.660 and it was in London,

01:21:05.140 I literally used to lock my phone and my laptop and all my technology in my

01:21:08.780 car outside. Nice. And then I got a real alarm clock.

01:21:11.840 And now I've trained myself to wake up without an alarm clock.

01:21:13.880 So I sleep the same amount of time every day,

01:21:15.280 no matter what time I sleep and I wake up.

01:21:16.940 But the point you can do is have a real alarm clock. It's a,

01:21:20.340 it's a perfect change, right? It will change everything.

01:21:23.220 It will change everything. Get a real alarm clock, lock your phone away.

01:21:26.100 Don't look at it.

01:21:27.400 That's great advice.

01:21:28.580 I am going to attempt to do that.

01:21:31.240 What was that?

01:21:32.120 It came off from here.

01:21:33.220 It just hit me in the face.

01:21:34.240 Technical difficulties.

01:21:35.980 All right, yo, let's end there.

01:21:37.360 Buy a real alarm clock, kids.

01:21:39.160 And don't use your phone in the morning.

01:21:41.780 Just share these advice.

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