JustPearlyThings - 23 Year Old Woman REVEALS The State Of Modern

00:00:00.000 come back and say i was wrong sometimes i think about it but i just feel like it just just wasn't

00:00:05.000 meant to be and plus the idea of him potentially being with someone and i come back like months

00:00:11.020 later that's quite embarrassing i don't know you should you should call him should i i think you

00:00:16.300 should i'm gonna call him and said pal told me to call you yeah i mean think about it it's like

00:00:21.020 men like that are rare they're very rare they're not easy to replace and i had to learn that the

00:00:25.540 hard way because when i started to date men i realized these men were so useless like they

00:00:29.900 didn't know how to make decisions they weren't smart they were slow they were feminine and i just 1.00

00:00:34.820 hated every part of it so yeah i kind of missed that relationship you should call him and say i was

00:00:40.040 wrong i think it's horrible out here what do i have to do to get you back i'm this close what would you

00:00:49.420 what would you do if your ex called you oh me yeah my ex called me yeah and said that

00:00:54.520 did you break up with him or he break up with you he broke up with me because of the yeah i was too

00:01:04.340 combative so you know yeah i'm telling you guys from my experience like being that combative lady 0.73

00:01:10.900 it doesn't help you at all definitely what you nodded to you're in a traditional relationship what

00:01:17.000 happened um he okay so he i don't really want to say too too much but um he ended up cheating but

00:01:33.960 that was because he ended up not working at the time and i was looking after him at that point

00:01:41.320 because i'm that kind of person you might fall but you can get back up but if you don't want to get

00:01:48.760 back up then we have a problem so how is it traditional if he wasn't working i'm just a little

00:01:56.020 no i thought you meant how did it end no i asked if you i asked if you guys were in a traditional

00:02:00.340 relationship and you rose your hand yeah and so i was like how was it traditional if he wasn't

00:02:04.460 working we were mini it was it was almost like we were married but we weren't oh okay i would cook

00:02:10.960 for him i'd look after well he'd look after me at the first at first but that's how it went and then

00:02:17.920 it kind of went downhill that's how it ended but no i just i when i think of traditional i just think

00:02:22.560 of like protection and provisioning um and so i i just think of like usually they're working you

00:02:30.080 no no he was at first oh and then he lost his job yeah and then he cheated on you how did you find

00:02:35.900 out he cheated i've got some mad fbi stuff instagram i don't think it was instagram at that time i think

00:02:44.920 it was literally facebook at the time it's old school were you like going through his phone and

00:02:49.540 stuff no um i had a gut feeling and um i think i went on facebook and i saw a message from another

00:02:59.820 female like a woman to woman type thing oh she like messaged you yeah and what do you say when you 1.00

00:03:06.440 told him he can't he he didn't want me to leave but at that point that again if

00:03:15.940 me seeing him a certain way and then later on down the line you're a different person right so

00:03:23.640 did you ask him like why he cheated he basically said i i didn't have time for him i didn't have

00:03:32.460 enough time for him because i was out there working for you for both of us exactly and i gave him things

00:03:39.900 like i put money on his oyster card and he clearly took the oyster card to see the other girl so

00:03:45.180 would you go back to that guy oh hell no to slap him so have you have you ever been in a traditional

00:03:51.860 relationship outside of that or no um i think after that i had my injury but i've kind of suffered with

00:03:58.380 this for a while this kind of stole my late 20s so that's the reason why i haven't gone back into

00:04:03.860 dating but i would i would get back into it you said you're in a traditional relationship

00:04:10.700 yeah um the girl that i was seeing at the time was together for seven years

00:04:16.040 and um she had kids that weren't mines as well so i you know stayed and i provided

00:04:22.160 i wouldn't have you but where things started to go downhill for me was when you know i realized

00:04:29.140 the baby father one of them she was very paddy paddy with and you know it came to my attention

00:04:35.080 that he even had the key for the house all that kind of stuff and you know um

00:04:41.280 back then i had low self-esteem back then and um i did put up with it and i still did all the

00:04:49.060 things that i was doing that usual stuff like going to work studying at uni at the time and

00:04:52.640 you know make sure the kids are in bed at you know because she was also an alcoholic as well 1.00

00:04:57.280 so it was so many factors that was going on within that relationship it became toxic and i just

00:05:02.020 said yeah i had to go and you know um we're friends now though um because we stopped talking

00:05:09.800 for a period of time but we um you know we only started talking about last year but um

00:05:14.820 would i go back there um

00:05:18.040 boy i mean i still um i still do love her um you know because i haven't really like you know i've

00:05:28.900 you know i've had other relationships after that but you know to be honest with you no one kind of

00:05:34.520 matched up to her in certain things you know because besides from the alcohol and the baby father issue

00:05:41.040 you know um she was a good person those are some big issues yeah she was a good person and

00:05:47.180 you know but no wait wait she had an alcohol problem yeah she had um she was an alcoholic and 1.00

00:05:52.820 it just got a bit too much to me it was even affecting my grades at one point at university

00:05:57.140 and i just do you know i mean i had to go because within my last year as well and

00:06:02.400 you know um i was not gonna graduate from university with anything below a 2.1 you know i was on the

00:06:08.960 verge of getting a first and i ended up graduating with 2.1 which is not bad but you know um i'm a

00:06:14.060 well-educated person you know i went to school and all that and i you know getting a 2.1 for me was

00:06:18.120 you know but yeah things happen but you know um now she's doing really well but um you know i love

00:06:26.140 her from a distance i don't think i'd get back in that relationship you know i hope not yeah baby

00:06:30.960 father issues an alcoholic yeah it was just too much because the guy you know he was taking showers

00:06:36.220 in the house and you know she said it was her way of co-parenting but you know i know co-parenting

00:06:41.760 no no no no no no no no no no please stay away from that woman no for real please do so so what 1.00

00:06:49.640 have you guys found the biggest challenges to be in dating trust for me trust yeah like cheaters

00:06:57.000 you dealt with some cheaters wait i've had a few you know um i've had i've caught some of the

00:07:03.400 acts as well so yeah i mean i even caught her in an act with um one of my friends as well that you

00:07:08.520 go into that but that was that's another story but yeah she was at your friend's house um no um one

00:07:15.180 night i was actually coming back from work because i was actually doing a bit of overtime and i kind of

00:07:21.360 like snuck into the house and saw my mate there after a certain hours that you know that he should

00:07:27.440 not have been there and you know when i came to the house it just you know he was in the bedroom

00:07:33.280 at the same time like you know what was you doing in the bedroom and then i went through the phone i

00:07:36.780 saw certain texas and my name was your friend yeah he was my best mate at the time i'm not going to

00:07:42.120 what happened to him at the time you know when i found out you kick his ass i did a lot worse than 0.93

00:07:47.440 that and do you know i mean it kind of like you know messed up certain things to me back then as well

00:07:51.920 um so but yeah yeah wow so you infidelity has been like the biggest issue trust issues yeah trust

00:08:00.440 issues for me and you know all these guys you know there was always like you know he's my god

00:08:05.240 brother he's my cousin you know she had more fucking sorry she had more cousins than i did 1.00

00:08:09.600 you know male cousins you know it was just yeah it was just you know there was she had the answer

00:08:15.140 for everything it was always you know um some kind of excuse to reciprocate what is actually really

00:08:20.880 going on here you know um i went through a period where i cut off my whole family for her you know

00:08:27.380 my family warned me about her and i just you know because of love you know i i was willing to take

00:08:33.780 that risk why um why was she so able to like control you like that no i'm serious like did you not have 1.00

00:08:42.480 any like men in your life to say hey like this is crazy i did but again i just didn't care at the time

00:08:49.200 you know um i just you know still always tried to see the best in in what was going on and try to

00:08:54.440 you know save what we had and you know i was actually trying to help but at the same time you

00:08:59.520 know it got to a point one day when i said to myself like yeah i can't be your lover your man and

00:09:04.660 your doctor at the same time like you know you need help this is like you know this is seven years

00:09:08.660 you did this wow yeah i mean well it wasn't always that bad but it was it just got a bit toxic for me

00:09:15.100 and you know the kids i felt sorry for the okay that's why i stayed because the kids i felt sorry

00:09:20.520 for the kids you know because they're good children and i've seen pictures of them now and you know

00:09:26.200 they've grown and they're you know doing great things you know they're in school now one's going to

00:09:30.300 you know college but you know it just yeah was that hard on you to like have built a relationship

00:09:37.320 with the kids for seven years and then have it abruptly end yeah it was i mean she even had an

00:09:46.400 abortion behind my back as well that was what cut it for me because you know i was i started to

00:09:51.660 question myself you know we've been together for all those times yeah she had the um the coil

00:09:57.180 inside the implant but you know after we got it removed i want that view i had to question

00:10:03.360 myself as a man what's going on i was just banned on tiktok and we are demonetized on a daily basis

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JustPearlyThings - April 28, 2023

23 Year Old Woman REVEALS The State Of Modern

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