JustPearlyThings - April 29, 2023


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Length

8 minutes

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231.75299

Word count

1,939

Sentence count

2

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Misogyny

17

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10

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In this episode we discuss emotions and how to deal with them. How to control your emotions and the impact they can have on your mental health. We also discuss the difference between emotional men and emotional women and how emotional women deal with emotions.

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00:00:00.000 like kind of deviating is because we're speaking about emotions yeah and then and that's what
00:00:05.120 like again not say you are you're not but the emotions start to jump out of you yes and all
00:00:10.960 i'm trying to say as a man you said it's to be able to control your emotions i'm not saying cry
00:00:15.040 or don't cry it's you've got to be able to control your emotions 100 what we've seen there is you've
00:00:21.360 got emotional the mic's out and the answer you're not necessarily controlling your emotion and that's
00:00:26.800 where in today's society a lot of men are emotional and that's why they do a right thing that's why
00:00:32.720 gonna punch up this and do that but when you're in control of your emotions you're not really going
00:00:37.920 to be thinking irrational because when you're women like get emotional and then they'll start 1.00
00:00:42.960 for a cup at you are your bastard it is not gal i know but i'm saying that's generally yeah women are 1.00
00:00:48.080 more emotional and they're going to do their things just like rip your jacket yeah yeah it's emotional
00:00:52.080 yeah yeah but men are not really like that but if you are a man and you know how to control your
00:00:57.520 emotions you're not really gonna be losing it here then everywhere controlling emotion comes down to
00:01:02.160 the individual's character you know i'm saying to someone goes through certain trials and tribulations
00:01:06.400 traumas and stuff like that and then like they be able to like if they go through that for me for
00:01:10.960 instance yeah i've gone through personal issues like my dad had cancer yeah recently yeah and i went
00:01:14.800 through that and obviously it hit me hard but obviously i've been using gym i've been working on myself
00:01:18.480 mentally they manage my emotions for differently you know i'm saying to you i think there's a time
00:01:22.480 and place also to like you know break down and stuff like that as well i don't think me personally
00:01:28.240 i wouldn't go like if i was like seeing something i wouldn't go to the girl and break down to her
00:01:32.640 so it's not my character i would just do it in my own time because i like to self-reflect as he is
00:01:37.200 a man but i thought a lot of guys i know a lot of my friends they will be a bit more emotional though
00:01:40.880 they will break down and and you know they want me to handle certain things and i think a lot of females 1.00
00:01:45.200 do put a time limit until when okay cool you've been crying now for like three months when you're
00:01:49.440 going to go and get your shit together do you know what i'm saying so i thought a lot of things will 0.89
00:01:52.400 say oh i want a guy to be a bit more emotionally available but when he's way too much emotionally
00:01:56.880 available then he's like okay cool i've lost the spectrum you know you've been down for like three
00:02:00.640 months when you're going to get yourself together yeah women want strong men but i thought but there 0.82
00:02:04.800 isn't a lot of strong men though that's the truth because if i was i'm a girl i feel like i'm a strong
00:02:15.200 man yeah i understand i feel like it i move like it if i cry does that make me weak listen let me
00:02:20.720 explain it don't make you weak right then so you know what i would say it makes you weaker yeah
00:02:30.800 it depends how many times though i just think it's like it's like common sense it depends how
00:02:34.640 many times though guys wait wait wait so if a guy's crying more than the guy who's not crying like i
00:02:40.480 don't like what what the person the person who's not crying is boiling up their emotions they're going
00:02:46.000 to be emotionally weak their mental health is going to be what i'm trying to keep compared to
00:02:50.720 wait wait wait wait wait wait let me stop let me stop that's a feminine way to deal with things 1.00
00:02:54.800 women bottle up our emotions and we explode men are not the same he just said so this is this is why we're in 0.97
00:02:59.680 we're in a we're in a feminine like social order where the woman's like point of view is is assumed to 1.00
00:03:04.560 be everybody's point of view but and we're teaching men to have a woman's point of view let me break it
00:03:11.280 we're missing this is this will disappoint what you're missing because like early on when you
00:03:16.160 explained something you said i go gym so there's no way that man can have physically you may be strong
00:03:22.640 men i'm not saying you are but mentally you may be weak yeah and when pearly said about women
00:03:28.160 rinsing out men men get to a certain age and they commit suicide to me yeah and i apologize to
00:03:34.000 anyone who's knows someone who's committed suicide yeah but those people are mentally weak because to
00:03:39.040 me like for you to take your life you understand because of whatever circumstances and the men that
00:03:44.560 has a knock-on effect for all the people around your family your friends is that to me that's a
00:03:49.120 weak it's an easy option out the intent yeah but i'll be honest with you i know i know i know someone
00:03:53.680 that's committed suicide and i hear what you're saying in that but sometimes you're in it so much
00:03:57.440 and it's like you're lost your soul because you can get lost you know this is where everyone's got
00:04:01.840 to understand they're lost because they're not in control of their emotions it depends on the person
00:04:06.640 no no no they're lost they're lost because we live in a world where literally we teach we
00:04:11.440 men have no direction and they're taught to be women from like the age of like five years old where
00:04:17.360 they're told don't fight on the playground being in control of emotions is skill you know it's a skill
00:04:22.000 exactly it's not something that you just built with it's a skill and a lifestyle and situations
00:04:28.000 will even make you or break you do you know what i'm saying and also people around you a lot of my
00:04:32.480 me oh my generation a lot of man we didn't have no guidance we have no guidance we have no
00:04:37.120 male guidance taking back a step bro it's a skill to be able to control your emotions for men and women
00:04:43.680 it's not a great thing for even women to be losing their rag and getting over emotion it's not great
00:04:49.120 like it doesn't serve anyone any purpose because when you get angry you start saying things you
00:04:53.360 don't necessarily mean and it happens a lot of times in relationships and with women arguing even 0.98
00:04:57.600 in the office they don't have to be women or men yeah but like women actually do get something out 1.00
00:05:01.280 of it sometimes because like there's a reason we do the things we do right it's because we can
00:05:05.200 exert control over men manipulation yeah yeah exactly and so like it's not a good thing oh it's not oh i
00:05:10.720 didn't say it was a good thing i'm saying there's reasons that we do the things that we do you know
00:05:14.480 it's historical i understand i understand that like why do you think women are always like you 1.00
00:05:18.400 ever been in a relationship and you're like why is this girl always the victim like she's the victim
00:05:24.000 but there's a reason because like historically they could get resources and protection from a
00:05:27.840 guy if they were the victim so there's like biological like we don't undo biology that's what i'm saying
00:05:33.360 women are smart women are manipulative that's right and men can never really win but again if you're 1.00
00:05:39.840 and control your emotions and you've got your good sound faculties you know what it is you know
00:05:45.280 women are most and you still have it accordingly but i think what you said where like a lot of men
00:05:50.080 haven't been taught how to control their emotions wait wait wait so so i think like but i think your
00:05:55.120 point um it shows how important it is that women keep the families together but right now we're in a 1.00
00:06:00.640 society that women keep breaking up the families because we we leave men 80 of the time and a lot of the 0.93
00:06:06.240 times when men leave it's like extreme situations like one of the number one things is she's abusive
00:06:10.480 or i'm on substances like when men leave so and like so it kind of shows like how important it is
00:06:16.400 that we keep the family together because we don't like we have so many emotional men but whose fault is
00:06:21.120 is that the job is that the job for a female to keep to keep the relationship together a man should keep 1.00
00:06:26.720 the family together that's the man's job the man doesn't have a choice exactly okay if me and you
00:06:32.080 if me and you're in a relationship and i say or and you say i'm staying in this forever we have a
00:06:37.120 kid where i'm staying in this forever and i say no i'm not feeling it i'm leaving whose fault is that
00:06:42.480 mine i left yeah but then there's that i feel like a lot of men will be affected by that situation and
00:06:47.360 they've been talking about all getting to mental health and all these other things but i feel a man
00:06:52.240 that things can happen breakups happen all the time do you know what i'm saying to you a man can
00:06:55.920 i think you know carrying your life yeah exactly adapt and move on and yeah well i agree but it's
00:07:01.680 not that simple right no it's not that simple because a lot of times women financially ruin these 1.00
00:07:06.880 men like if you get divorced it's like you have you have out of all marriages you have a 15 chance of
00:07:11.520 a woman maliciously like taking away your kids and like going out to financially ruin you so out of 1.00
00:07:16.240 every 10 that means 1.5 are like and that's that doesn't even include the women that still get child 1.00
00:07:21.200 support still get alimony still take the kids away so that's one out of 10 where women are going out of 1.00
00:07:25.760 their way to ruin men so it's like it's like you could say oh just move on but that's easy to
00:07:30.400 know but i think some guys some guys become homeless some guys don't don't see their kids like they're
00:07:35.520 they're taking away everything you know what i think i think a man prioritizes i think when a man
00:07:39.200 prioritizes like the girl his girl over everything that's when these things can happen i think a man
00:07:43.920 should be on his purpose and the man should be on his ground and create like his purpose and then
00:07:48.080 everything will fit around you know what he's trying to do as well for sometimes when a man's just
00:07:52.640 fully on just trying to make a girl happy and fully trying to
00:07:55.760 you know please her all the time and then she gets frustrated and then you know you know lose
00:08:00.080 respect for him and then these things can happen you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are
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