JustPearlyThings - 35 Year Old Lady Tried To JUSTIFY THIS

00:00:00.000 are you married are you you're married am i you're married somewhat i just couldn't remember what

00:00:07.040 you said in the beginning i didn't answer that question okay i i see a ring i'm just yes there

00:00:12.240 is a ring there okay yes no it just surprises me because if you're still single at 35 i'm like

00:00:17.520 every guy you're in a relationship by 35 i wouldn't say every guy that i've been with

00:00:22.880 i would say in my younger days um you know when you're finding yourself and you don't really

00:00:29.680 women sometimes want a little bit more than men and what i wanted is not necessarily what he wanted

00:00:38.880 but they sell you this dream take you down the stream and kind of just leave you there

00:00:46.800 and that was my experience right but but that's still a situation ship if you weren't together

00:00:51.680 no we was in a relationship oh you were in a relationship yes we were in a relationship

00:00:55.440 and then he then went on to go and find what was appealing to himself and that's how that

00:01:04.480 relationship dissolved he cheated on you yes i i've never gone out i've never cheated on

00:01:10.400 an individual but i have had it happen to me twice i'm not picking the wrong guys because it doesn't

00:01:17.120 matter if you're you could be a really good guy i mean like what one of you said where you know

00:01:22.240 they went out and this guy was married but he was still out there looking for something else

00:01:26.880 do you know what i mean so sometimes you can't really how how tall were the guys how tall

00:01:35.840 i don't know i'm like five two so they were a little bit i don't know probably six okay six foot

00:01:40.720 and like how much money did they make roughly well at the time we were like teenagers so we were all just

00:01:46.640 grafting we arrived some of us were either still in college or you know doing a little saturday job

00:01:52.560 and stuff like that we wasn't in a state where as i am now in my 30s where i'm more established

00:02:00.800 so give and take you know we were still in college working so they had a bachelor's degree or they're

00:02:06.800 in college so they got a degree too yeah so they were yeah they were working i have i have a point i'm

00:02:11.600 just gonna i'm just gonna read i'm just gonna read some stats so once once a man earns over 300k

00:02:17.040 um the odds of him cheating increased by roughly 50 percent with a third of men um in that in that

00:02:22.560 higher income bracket cheating on their wives only six percent of these unfaithful men report that

00:02:27.280 their marriages were coming to an end or didn't love their wives anymore not the remaining 94 still

00:02:32.560 love their wives goes without saying that men don't cheat more um or women don't cheat more when 0.88

00:02:38.560 they're in a higher income bracket beyond wealth the men who are over six foot tall are statistically

00:02:43.840 38 percent more likely to cheat which is presumably just down to the opportunity intriguingly um

00:02:51.360 university degrees are 34 percent more likely to cheat okay so it's like if we're going after the 0.54

00:02:56.400 guys with all of these qualities like do you think we should maybe expect it on some level yeah i reckon

00:03:01.360 of course you can expect it more if a guy's over six foot kind of thing he he believes he's got more

00:03:06.880 power if you're making more money than that female you know you've got more power so girls have no i 1.00

00:03:13.760 feel like all of these external things right they only draw out what is innately in you already

00:03:19.520 you can be a billionaire and seven foot five but if you have morals and principles and you genuinely

00:03:24.720 love the woman that's would be you're not going to go it's just it's just nowadays bro there's there's

00:03:28.960 so much options accessibility i disagree with that i'll tell you i'll tell you why because

00:03:35.200 if you if you look at like nba players and like and professional athletes there are women that go to 1.00

00:03:40.240 those games and seek those men out trying to get them to cheat on their wives like there are girls 1.00

00:03:44.880 that have said word for word i i it took me years but i finally got him to cheat yeah so so my point is

00:03:52.160 even a good guy if you're telling me some of the most beautiful women you've ever seen in your life are

00:03:57.520 chasing you down hunting you they know everything about you trying to get you to cheat i i think

00:04:03.520 like people are human over the course of like a 20-year career not once yeah but if your relationship

00:04:08.560 is solely based around a sexual experience then of course there's always going to be someone with more

00:04:12.720 curvaceous booty just around the corner but if you're dealing with an actual woman on a spiritual 1.00

00:04:17.760 financial physical realm then there is nothing that you're going to give me that this woman doesn't 1.00

00:04:22.720 satisfy me with already and i'm talking from experience i'll be honest before any of my ex-girlfriends

00:04:26.400 call me out in the comment sections i was a serial cheater when i was young but i've seen firsthand

00:04:30.480 my eldest sister my youngest sister what they've gone through and the heartbreak that a man was

00:04:34.400 able to cause and it was almost god's way of showing me this is what you're doing to these

00:04:38.000 other women you're i can tell you i can tell you categorically 1.00

00:04:41.440 can i just ask you a quick question what's the longest you've been monogamous to a girl

00:04:52.400 five years five years okay but that's not 25 that's not no no but in the last in the last four

00:04:57.200 year in the last three and a half years in the last three and a half years yeah i've never ever ever

00:05:02.640 ever cheated it's never crossed my mind and because of my line of work i can go on my instagram right now

00:05:06.720 and i got blue ticks with two three million followers asking me to go to the estates to have

00:05:11.440 sexual intercourse and i say no why because from a mature standpoint i know that what i want in a 0.99

00:05:17.680 woman isn't just sex you know look at your mother look at your it's so much deeper than sex yeah but 1.00

00:05:24.000 i'm saying like that happens but i'm just saying like i think that even a good man can do it on a

00:05:30.080 bad day facts yeah that's my point like it's not that it's not that you're in love not if you're in

00:05:35.440 love that's it martin luther king didn't you know he had a stable of holes bro muhammad ali was out

00:05:40.080 here every other day with a different one the one thing i want to say is that um when you talk about

00:05:44.800 these high achievers these men who earn over 300 000 those men they they don't like that doesn't just

00:05:50.800 happen overnight you have to train your brain and you being a mogul and all of this like you be selfish

00:05:56.320 every single day you think me me me me me so any woman who wants to then weave in with that's that

00:06:01.680 wave of way of life you can't just come up here and expecting a man to change who he is and be a

00:06:06.880 different person because he needs you to weave into his life and a lot of women aren't willing to do 1.00

00:06:11.280 that these days you know and also part of the problem is these men are like the alpha males and 0.86

00:06:16.400 i know that's such a like a ridiculous word to use these days because people have used it and bastardize

00:06:20.400 it but i feel like these men like they're bred to be as successful as possible to provide

00:06:26.160 and also part of the problem is they all want to like every day and they like they're not in

00:06:30.960 control of themselves around women in the way that a man who well actually i wonder a lot of

00:06:36.080 these men who aren't in that situation who are like slagging these men off if they were in that

00:06:39.760 situation would you have these morals that you claim to have when no one's trying to you

00:06:43.760 i don't know i just think cheating is wrong man even though i've done it before i've done it before

00:06:48.400 there's nothing cool about it should not be glamorized we should not normalize it we're not

00:06:51.840 i'm not saying to glamorize it but i'm saying the last two million years the world has been one

00:06:56.560 way i'm not going to tell the world how to be and i think a lot of times women go into 1.00

00:07:00.000 relationships with like delusional expectations like the top 15 of men for the last two million

00:07:05.520 years have always cheated and now you're coming in and saying well he's going to be faithful to me

00:07:10.400 okay good luck my message to women is conduct yourself in a certain esteem yeah and if a man is 0.99

00:07:15.120 stupid or nothing to cheat and he's going to lose out and he will potentially go with a woman who's 0.90

00:07:18.960 going to cheat on him don't don't change your standards by any way and i think that sounds 0.99

00:07:22.960 really nice but it's not nice when they can't replace the guy and that's the sad thing is like

00:07:27.760 i'll talk to girls and they'll talk about how their mom or their mom left their dad because he cheated and

00:07:32.160 now she's dying alone and so it's like is it is it really a better option and that's what they don't

00:07:36.960 talk about i'd rather be alone so you'll be happy staying with someone that's consistently cheating on you 1.00

00:07:41.360 then they'll be alone that's that's cat what does that look like dying alone okay most women you 1.00

00:07:51.280 need 2.5 million to retire okay and and there's a lot of evidence to suggest that the uk is going to

00:07:57.120 start rolling back the benefits that mostly women are on so what does that look like dying alone um i

00:08:02.400 don't know on the streets being homeless could you work it out with your husband every woman that isn't 1.00

00:08:07.440 in a relationship is alone they might have a family they could have kids kids it doesn't

00:08:12.320 necessarily mean they're alone just because now you have to mooch off of everyone around you 0.99

00:08:16.400 instead of working it out with your husband i would rather do that i mean i mean i would do that

00:08:21.840 i look at it like this if you if you've left your husband you have to understand and you have to take

00:08:30.240 and hold the damage that was caused now if i was married and i've i've bought forth 10 children for

00:08:38.640 you and i felt that we've built our empire and we've got our uh you know our tribe and we're good

00:08:45.120 we're strong and then i was your world and you was my world and then we had our children you have to sit

00:08:53.120 down and think well why is she alone because the damage sometimes it's irreversible irreversible

00:08:59.200 it doesn't matter how many times you go and you sit down and you talk to somebody and you're like

00:09:04.320 well this is what's happened or have you tried this sometimes that's not enough so the damage

00:09:10.080 but who has to suffer in these situations the kids no no no and i was going to get there and

00:09:15.200 you know at the same time the damage can be unreversible so that's why they tend to be alone

00:09:21.520 and yes you're right it is the children that do end up suffering because you know they've growing up

00:09:27.840 thinking oh mommy and daddy's in love and you know they're always together no no no no no i'm just

00:09:34.320 speaking on this you know and then it turns out that that may not be the situation now i know quite

00:09:40.640 a lot of people that you know you grow in a household you hear an argument parents do it all the time

00:09:48.160 they think oh the children are in bed they're sleeping but actually no we're hearing everything

00:09:52.400 and it does affect the children i've worked with children and i've seen the damage that it's caused

JustPearlyThings - May 24, 2023

35 Year Old Lady Tried To JUSTIFY THIS

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