JustPearlyThings - A Toxic Modern Woman Got Schooled

00:00:00.000 imagine going on okay imagine going on your partner's phone and seeing that they search for

00:00:05.600 a certain thing so it could be and it's not me like i'm gonna be like baby is that an issue

00:00:12.000 is that an issue for you women yeah why are you looking for problems hey i'm not toxic so let's 0.91

00:00:17.360 not just but i'm just saying is that an issue for women what their men no no no i'm just saying

00:00:22.560 i think cold stuff i've heard but i've heard that's why like what what would you do if you

00:00:27.520 saw your i don't i don't want to know exactly i don't but are you okay with it are women 0.98

00:00:32.720 generally engaging with corn yeah as long as you don't cheat that's and as long as i don't know

00:00:38.400 is it seen as cheating because i'm women see it's cheating yeah i've gotten yelled at a bunch for

00:00:41.680 i'm curious out of the girls here is corn cheating yes raise your hand no no yeah yeah you guys say 0.99

00:00:48.640 yes oh no i have a question what if what if um so if you think corn is cheating if you say no to him

00:00:56.960 for sex can he then go do corn nah yeah but just not with me but all women are different can he 0.74

00:01:03.760 go and just yeah but can he go and just sleep with anyone else you'd rather him sleep with someone

00:01:08.560 else i don't rather him it's it's i'd rather not know about it do whatever you want to do if you're

00:01:14.080 gonna sleep with someone that person you i'd rather you pay that person and you never cheat on

00:01:19.840 someone that i personally know so i can just like at least and get to that situation but i'd rather not

00:01:25.120 know so is it cheating but that's why i just it's so complicated it's not that easy that's why i

00:01:33.920 really don't want to know are you okay with that in your relationship what like cheating as long as

00:01:39.040 you don't know as long as you don't know as long as you don't know as long as you don't know

00:01:53.840 i i i honor that so you just don't look you don't ever look for it yes almost unless there's something

00:02:01.840 kind of immoral if my partner was okay with it i'd almost look at you less yeah yeah what do you

00:02:07.840 mean because that's a judgment that's his character yeah but but listen if you're gonna

00:02:12.720 turn out why do you use the word partner i like that it's so common out here and i'm just like i

00:02:17.600 don't want to date a partner no no here's the thing about partnership right because we think

00:02:26.480 boyfriend girlfriend blah blah blah all of that with time partnership lasts longer because you

00:02:32.000 love your your boyfriend you're attracted to him today tomorrow is changing your body is changing

00:02:40.000 but that seems like it's 50 50 and to me i don't i don't want to okay if you like 50 50 relationships

00:02:46.080 i i prefer relationships that are a little bit in more traditional roles where i can like trust my

00:02:50.480 husband's decision making but that would still be a partnership wouldn't it imagine you had a

00:02:54.160 business partnership and his his interest in your business was 20 it's still technically a partner

00:02:59.120 i think for me partnership just means someone willing to work with you for the ups and the downs

00:03:03.520 for the good and the bad that's partnership see but partnership like that it sounds like you have the

00:03:08.240 same roles and the same input decision making where when it's a husband and a wife that's very clear it's

00:03:13.920 like different roles like the man's at the head yeah yeah but here's the thing right and i've seen it

00:03:18.000 happening to my mom what if your your husband is making the rules today but he can't make them

00:03:24.000 tomorrow because he's sick he got a stroke he've done it so you have to step up in his shoes and

00:03:28.640 continue the journey yeah in honor of him that's partnership i mean we could we could talk about

00:03:33.520 exceptions but i'm talking about the rule which is like most people are healthy this is it yeah it's

00:03:38.400 for better worse sickness and health yeah yeah um to me it's just when you when i hear partnership it

00:03:45.440 just sounds like 50 50. i just don't like the word so i just wonder why it's so common here

00:03:51.520 like i don't want a husband i don't want a partner i think it's just more figure of a speech

00:03:55.360 you just need something to say yeah um okay can i ask about the one-sided yeah yeah okay yeah sure okay

00:04:02.640 so you you guys do a little bit unconventional of a relationship right yeah totally can you tell me

00:04:08.720 about it so yeah so in the beginning you know i'll admit it gonna make me sound like a dick but in the 0.58

00:04:14.080 the beginning like i was like seeing girls behind your back and then eventually we came to terms

00:04:18.240 with the fact that you know we're just like what made it work the best was that i'm just fully up

00:04:22.960 front and honest about all of it and then we have like certain rules so like i don't have girls sleep 0.99

00:04:27.920 over i don't go on dates with girls um i shower if i see a girl you know i shower afterwards and stuff

00:04:33.680 like that um but i'll let you speak to it because it was like a big process in the beginning i mean

00:04:38.320 i mean it's definitely not normal no it was like step by step you know like um like i used to like

00:04:46.960 before or i i've always liked girls so it wasn't like a big deal for me like be actually attracted

00:04:53.520 for girls so and i don't think it was like a trend like for me at the time because like i would look

00:05:00.880 different so uh two girls that's what i mean and was like step by step so first thing like uh actually

00:05:09.520 we started our relationship really fast was like we started like dating for real like in two three

00:05:16.160 weeks it was like super super fast and was like one thing at the time one time at a time i wasn't

00:05:22.400 like okay with everything but like i think the way that we build this thing this like relationship

00:05:28.160 with a lot of like um um like uh rules like try and air was like i decided to stay through all of

00:05:38.000 that and we're really happy now but it was like of course it's not like she had never had a threesome

00:05:44.720 prior to prior to dating me she never had a threesome and now she's had like over 75 right so like 0.51

00:05:50.160 like even last night right we we go to the ministry of sound we see a girl we like and then she approaches

00:05:56.240 the girl likes us she comes back with us and it's cool but like it's more just like a fun thing for

00:06:00.880 us but i also see girls on the side by myself right but all the like love and affection and companionship

00:06:07.360 is with her and other girls are more just for fun didn't you guys do like you had multiple girls

00:06:13.200 living in the house yeah in 2021 um we moved two girls in and then we moved a third girl and we had

00:06:19.360 there was like some rotating girls in living for periods of time but at the height of it there was like 0.99

00:06:24.560 three girls besides her it got to be too much for her and she left and like i lasted like another 0.98

00:06:30.960 week after that and i just kicked the other girls out and moved her back in and said like let's not 1.00

00:06:34.720 live with girls anymore i was gonna ask if how do you not get jealous because i'm like i would be so

00:06:39.280 jealous yeah because two of the girls fell in love with me and it was like a big it was like it was like

00:06:42.720 non-stop drama i was trying to basically try what hugh hefner was doing where he was living with like like

00:06:47.280 on the girls next door and it sounded good in theory but in practice you know people there's like so much

00:06:53.200 drama every day about every little thing so it's like lots of stress lots of bs i think the jealousy

00:06:59.280 part is like about like i was okay like living with the girls but like the part is when you put a bunch

00:07:05.920 of people together to live together like the real world kind of thing it's like it's like those tv shows

00:07:12.160 like those um shitty shows you know that people start like arguing for nothing it's like so much drama

00:07:18.880 all the time and what would like make me like really bad is like was like for nothing like for

00:07:25.840 example oh i wanna apple juice and someone said oh but you should take orange juice and then no no

00:07:31.840 i'm gonna take oh my god did you see that she said that oh my god it's like everything every little

00:07:37.920 thing is like you know but the part about me not getting jealous is because i don't know i just don't like

00:07:44.080 like uh like my first relationship like i started like my relationship with when i was 18 it lasts

00:07:50.240 almost three years right and in the end of like my relationship like i was with such a nice guy but

00:07:56.320 it was like truly truly nice you know and i was he was really really cool and like in the end of our

00:08:02.800 my relationship with him like i tried to help him like to be with other girl you know that was like a

00:08:08.320 friend of him that he had a crush before and she was like really cool she was like so sweet and it was

00:08:13.760 like no you guys should be together now you know and like that thing about jealousy is something that

00:08:20.160 doesn't bother me so was like this because i think it's natural for the men to have other women so you 0.83

00:08:28.080 you were more annoyed with the girls in the house you weren't even jealous no whether i was jealous not

00:08:33.840 jealous but like superman is like the amount of bullshit that happens every day for nothing yeah because 0.52

00:08:40.800 like i used like i used to work i was like doing my like engineer job i'm like civil engineer i used

00:08:46.560 to work and they would come back home and they would treat me like the boss for example all the girls 1.00

00:08:51.920 would come with me with problems and like since like john works a lot i always took like the part of

00:08:57.520 the house as my responsibility so i hate for example imagine like a lamp uh is not working right it's like

00:09:05.200 like i don't i won't even go to him like to say oh that's not working let's no i'll go there try to

00:09:11.200 fix when he has to come to me to say oh that wasn't working i feel like i fail on that because like i

00:09:16.880 took that part for me you know so it was like i would come to the house and one of the girls oh did 0.99

00:09:22.240 you see that the maid didn't do that oh but she was supposed to do that and so it was like dude you

00:09:27.680 could have solved that why you're making this a thing you know go there talk to the person talk to

00:09:34.160 the maid like like you don't need me to like to come to see what's going on and then i would take

00:09:40.000 one part one side like oh i think it's better but then the other part would be like is the is would

00:09:46.800 you say the culture in brazil is a bit different is that it's much more open yeah like most girls are 1.00

00:09:51.760 bisexual like most girls are kind of like sexually liberated um like we would go out to the clubs 1.00

00:09:56.800 together we'd end up bringing home like you know two other groups of girls a lot of nights and we

00:10:01.360 had like a stripper pole in the house so there'd be a lot of nights we get back to the house there's 0.95

00:10:04.080 like 10 brazilian girls like running around naked in the house i'm like the only guy yeah i think we 1.00

00:10:07.760 have maria open yeah how does it work the other way around so if she brings back a dude well that's not 1.00

00:10:12.640 allowed i've got a question about this as well because this is i've never come across anyone that has this

00:10:18.480 set up do you think that you're okay with how you're living because he meets your other needs like does he

00:10:23.920 meet your needs emotionally so is that does that make it okay because like when like what i like

00:10:31.120 when he goes out like to the other place to bang is like he comes back happy if he's happy my life

00:10:37.520 it like becomes like so much easier you know like if it comes like if it comes back of a smile oh it's

00:10:44.320 okay i always ask how was your banging oh it's okay cool nice but like what joey says have a nice banging before i go

00:10:52.560 because i have a second place now like we were doing it like in the same house and i gotta be too

00:10:55.680 much like there was literally and this is like quality problems there's like periods of time when

00:10:59.680 those three girls live in the house where i was still having other girls over all the time and the 1.00

00:11:03.840 three girls would like be in their room while i would have other girls because you had like two 1.00

00:11:09.040 two floors place so it was like easier because the uh the up floor was like a a setup like with full nice

00:11:15.920 stuff the the bar you know so it would like use the other but it's like was too much of that time

00:11:23.200 so then why why do you think that you need more women is because you can't live without sex which is 1.00

00:11:27.360 what we're no i just like like i i devoted my whole life towards like you know the dating game and and i

00:11:33.040 just enjoy like going through the whole process and stuff like that and if you look like you know back

00:11:37.440 in history like monogamy isn't natural anyways it was mostly imposed by by the church and the state 0.92

00:11:42.640 to have familiar units and stuff like that it's not natural at all if you look at the animal kingdom

00:11:46.880 and stuff like that right there's like a tribal leader like in monkeys for instance and that

00:11:50.880 sleeps with all the different females and the females are all attracted to that tribal leader

00:11:55.520 but they'll go to other tribes and try to sleep with the alpha leader of that tribe 0.99

00:11:59.360 right and then there'll be like fights and stuff like that don't you think that's like

00:12:03.440 a self-esteem thing though because i'm trying to look at the i'm trying to get

00:12:07.520 also you're not a monkey because yeah because i'm thinking because i'm from a caribbean culture

00:12:14.240 and african culture i've got both sides and i'm telling you right now

00:12:21.120 i i'm too no it just could not happen like it could not happen and i think also in the uk like

00:12:29.920 what she's saying have you ever been have you ever been in a situationship yeah so you're sharing a guy

00:12:36.080 anyway without knowing yeah i've been in a relationship and the man's been for the streets

00:12:41.520 but yeah no i hear that i hear that but actually like that profile yeah like and allowing it to be

00:12:47.920 like part of the lifestyle would you rather they lie to you and you just don't know could you be okay

00:12:52.640 with it if you didn't know wait would i no i wouldn't beat up with that person but you wouldn't know

00:12:58.880 yeah yeah but they don't know that's the thing what i value most is like the truth you know yeah

00:13:04.320 it's like the thing is about like he can be like sure like that if he sits my by my side and he

00:13:12.160 opens his mouth like to tell me anything he can be sure like the truth hundred percent because there's

00:13:17.280 no lies yeah because men are gonna do what they want anyway and that's that's why it's better for

00:13:21.680 communication which i understand i think it's so it's so authentic i'll tell you something though

00:13:27.680 and i all do respect to you right but men will find it at least the men that i'm surrounded by and i'm

00:13:35.360 32 and i i'm surrounded by loads of men especially how quality men coaches blah blah blah but anyway

00:13:40.960 men will find it very difficult to get married to a prostitute just because of her work period 1.00

00:13:46.320 and other way around i think woman is the same right some men will marry a prostitute but on the 1.00

00:13:53.840 promise of like okay she will change her job blah blah blah but you will find it very difficult for

00:13:58.560 a man to settle down with a prostitute i've dated a lot of strippers for instance like that they were 1.00

00:14:03.280 like reversing it but did you get married to them no but like i had a lot of stripper girlfriends in 1.00

00:14:06.880 different places yeah girlfriends is different i wasn't married and having children to a stripper or a 1.00

00:14:12.160 prostitute now listen there's there's a lot of prostitutes that are amazing girls then they're 1.00

00:14:17.680 out there doing that job to support their families and their circumstances is just different a hundred

00:14:23.280 percent now but they do get pushed down or like not looked at because they're prostitutes or strippers 1.00

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JustPearlyThings - April 15, 2023

A Toxic Modern Woman Got Schooled

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