00:00:00.000you don't want to do i've actually said this in the past i respect you in the fact that
00:00:05.580you're willing to give a woman a life you're willing to provide for her so i respect that
00:00:10.560you can then tell her i want you to do this babe and she has to listen but a lot of women
00:00:15.080they want autonomy over themselves but i don't personally i don't want a man that's going to
00:00:20.260provide for me just so he can tell me to sit down and i'm a dog and i'm gonna sit down because i can
00:00:24.860make my own decisions let's understand something every man will give you a life it's just a matter
00:00:30.720of whether you're happy with not every man no no exactly every man will give you a life it's just
00:00:36.140a matter of whether you're happy with the man the life that man is capable of giving and this goes
00:00:40.300back into the earlier points we were saying you can find a good man who will work his ass off and give
00:00:45.740you the best life he can possibly give you give you every ounce of strength inside of him he'll give
00:00:49.680you all he has you can get that but if you're going to wake up and go no i don't want that life
00:00:54.680i want that life well then that comes with problems yeah and this is the cognitive dissonance
00:01:01.620that most females operate under where they sit and go i want that life but i want him to act like
00:01:06.460that guy i want the nissan and the mclaren you can't have both what about you need to decide and
00:01:14.220there becomes a degree of female maturity as you said earlier you get to a point where you're like
00:01:18.340you know what maybe all that glitz and glam and bullshit is it worth it it's not worth it you grow up
00:01:23.560right and and that's fantastic and you make a different decision and i'm saying that a lot of
00:01:28.240women get to that point the problem is in the modern world the shit women did before they got
00:01:33.800to that point from 19 to 24 pisses the man off to the point where he's never going to be as good as
00:01:39.300he could be it's different in your in your world right you met a man you stayed with that man dick
00:01:43.520i know plenty of people first man high school sweethearts the world was different only 40 50 years
00:01:49.960ago the second man they've been married forever 50 year marriages all that shit's gone and then
00:01:55.180we have to tie back into all the other sub points i've made into you've had a very fun life at your
00:01:59.920peak sexual value from 19 to 24 running around doing xyz now you're with this guy who can't give you the
00:02:05.840life he knows you've already lived part of him feels inferior his status is damaged because all the
00:02:10.980shit you did is on instagram and he ain't the one who gave it to you and now you're expecting a whole
00:02:15.400bunch of crap out of him and now when he comes and works his ass off and manages to save up and buy
00:02:22.160a bmw and picks you up hey i got bmw you go yeah i like mercedes and this is the point you're missing
00:02:30.980it's not about the fucking car it's about something larger than that it's about making him feel like
00:02:36.700he's a man again and now he's in charge a woman shouldn't have to make a man feel like a man you're sitting
00:02:41.460here going i'm an autonomous female i can fucking like that but you're what are you doing you're damaging the
00:02:47.460psyche of the man who's trying to love you is it worth it but what do you mean by loving can we break it down
00:02:54.460can we break it down does loving mean that you listen to what i have to say and also think about what i want and not just what you want is that what loving means if that's it i can i can subscribe to that but i'm not gonna subscribe to you sit down
00:03:03.460and you have to sit down it's not about that i'm a grown-ass woman i pay my own bills and you're gonna tell me what to do that's fine but it gets to a point it gets to a point where you have to sit and analyze the scenario you're in and try and realize and pick your battles and i'm telling you you may not realize it but a man does a whole bunch of shit for you that you don't know he's watching the shows you want to watch he's listening to you talk gossip about the girls at work he's fucking going yeah i like that dress
00:03:33.440address he doesn't give a fuck about any of it he's doing it for you but the second is back the other way
00:03:39.260you have some fucking issue with autonomy it's bullshit listen yeah he's right because women women talk nonsense for a long time
00:03:47.800and they say like yeah babe you're right yeah babe can't believe she did that it's true babe oh yeah that show is good yeah babe yeah it's true you become upset
00:03:54.700i agree men do a lot but women do a lot too as much as my if my man caters to me i will do anything to make him happy
00:04:02.740if he says oh babe i want to i like this meal i will i will make sure i can cook it for him because
00:04:08.480guess what he actually cares about what i want as well you can't just have a one-way relationship
00:04:13.440i'm just saying i'm just commenting i'm just saying if i was a woman and i had to make a man as attracted
00:04:20.720to me as possible my goal would be to give that man status and make him feel good about himself and i'd be
00:04:26.040very very careful talking too much about life experiences or opposing views not because he's out to oppress me
00:04:31.260not because he's an evil horrible person but because he's trying to find somebody with a similar
00:04:36.400life view he's trying to find somebody he can show the world to trying to find somebody he can feel
00:04:40.600like he can teach things to that's how you get the best out of a man i'll tell you how you get the
00:04:45.000best out of a man that's why i got clementine no no no but if you go into a man's room when he's playing
00:04:49.340video games and he's playing video games and you say all you do is play video games and you nag him he'll
00:04:53.560play video games if you walk in there and go you know what you're so smart i've seen you do so many
00:04:57.520amazing things and you said so many amazing things why do you waste your time playing video games you could
00:05:00.760show me so much now you're gonna get him off the fucking console yeah but it's an e i know it's an
00:05:07.180ego play i know your old girls are like why should i have to do that there's a lot because it tells you
00:05:11.960look pretty in the morning because you win it's because in the end you win you talk about why should
00:05:17.540i have to do that well why should you have to work hard in the gym to get six back because you win
00:05:21.700that's the game if you it's actually men are so simple we are so simple and the truth is women know
00:05:28.120it this is what's amazing women pretend they're confused you're not confused you know you're just
00:05:32.180egos are in the way and society's telling you something else and you just fucking refuse to be
00:05:37.320agreeable nice people so imagine you're dating a guy okay and it's your birthday and for your birthday
00:05:54.900he gets you let's say a five hundred dollar gift okay and you're you're happy right it's very it's
00:06:00.240thoughtful it's specific to you then you found out last year he got his ex-girlfriend an entire
00:06:07.360birthday party how does that make you feel he she she he went to he did the most he he rented out the
00:06:13.620nicest hotel in london he got her everything she wanted the year before manicure you don't care i don't
00:06:20.280i don't really care as long as he's he's making me happy okay we're different we're different people
00:06:27.400too it's a different relationship and maybe like you know he he bought her flowers every day 365 days
00:06:33.720a year and he didn't do that for me it's like well if that's what makes her happy he's gonna do it
00:06:37.400makes her happy i mean i get i get the angle what you're saying is like oh he she did you know he did
00:06:42.280all that for her why am i not good enough but the second you compare yourself you lose yeah yeah and i i agree
00:06:48.520but i'm just saying that's how men look at like your past is like basically like you've given it
00:06:55.060for free so okay so here's my question to that because all right i love like everything we're
00:06:59.500talking about okay so to all the viewers out there including myself right you live life there's gray
00:07:07.660area you live and you fucking learn right so where the fuck do we go from here so do i play the shame
00:07:14.340game where everybody walks away a fucking loser because i can do that i beat myself up my entire
00:07:18.360life for every decision i've ever made right it got me nowhere no so i i value myself i see the world
00:07:23.800differently through a series of events right so what the comes next because that's where i'm confused
00:07:29.880right because i'm not it's like i did if you don't if it's not like gifted to you like even in your
00:07:35.880situation like your dad provided you a life that like so many people would kill for like you know what
00:07:41.240what i mean so that's why it's like it's sucks because the reason i hate these conversations is
00:07:48.720because it's never about like empathy do i understand the the the scales and how someone
00:07:55.000may view for this this that and the third okay but moving forward then what so okay so i'm a i'm just
00:08:01.100like i said make it about myself i'm 30 single mom i my checkered past is all over instagram
00:08:09.900you know what i mean i have people like you she's a hoe she's a she's literally known for this okay
00:08:15.260so what would what would be your advice to people like me then but i don't believe in gray area i
00:08:19.180believe black and white okay well that's unfortunate because there's there's great i'll tell you what i just
00:08:24.620there's great as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis
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