JustPearlyThings - Aunty Jenny Catches Her Man Cheating In 4K

00:00:00.000 That's it. Oh, can you tell the story about when you caught the guy cheating in the bedroom? Yeah

00:00:09.480 Um, I've seen this guy for a long while and he's supposed to take me shop and he didn't turn up so I went to his house

00:00:15.360 But we used to hang out with all of his friends. I was one of the guys and then this lovely young lady up there

00:00:21.120 I said hi

00:00:23.120 And I asked where he was and she knew me because she's always upstairs now I'm not upstairs

00:00:27.260 And he just sort of like and she climbed into bed and he was just

00:00:33.980 And I was like and you can see him trying to I thought you're already in bed with her

00:00:37.580 Yeah, I can see him trying to dissing himself and I said to her

00:00:40.620 Is that your man?

00:00:42.300 She said yeah, I saw hug him up

00:00:44.300 Don't matter whoever's there you hug him up and she's like hold. I said hug him harder. She goes, would you like a cup of coffee?

00:00:50.940 I said yes, please

00:00:52.540 And she went downstairs and he said I said what do you want me to say?

00:00:54.940 What do you want me to do? Because I'm not gonna hit her. Do you want me to knock you out?

00:00:59.100 I said I

00:01:00.780 Do you want me to scream and shout?

00:01:02.780 I said I'm just gonna sit here

00:01:04.780 I think I had lunch as well

00:01:07.980 I ended up being her friend because they would hang out with all the guys and all the guys was like nah

00:01:11.500 When did you tell her?

00:01:13.100 Did you tell her?

00:01:13.660 She must be known now. She's watching this

00:01:17.020 I didn't tell her I was her friend

00:01:19.820 He's a player I said played at my mom's party. Yes, I said are you coming?

00:01:23.420 She said no, he didn't invite me. I said you come

00:01:28.300 How long did this go on for?

00:01:31.660 Until they split up until

00:01:33.420 Oh, stop. Yeah, you stopped anything with him. Oh, no straight away. Yeah, I stopped but it was just fun to go there

00:01:39.580 I said go there when he wasn't there. She goes oh, he's coming home soon

00:01:42.780 You know, I'm just popping out to the shops

00:01:45.180 I said I watched dinner and I thought this is what you're having for dinner

00:01:49.020 Yeah

00:01:51.020 Yeah, but I was nice about it and I didn't disrespect her

00:01:54.540 You know, I think that's and then one day I turned up and his whole car was covered in white paint

00:02:00.220 I was just like oh dear, what did you do?

00:02:01.900 You know

00:02:05.660 But yeah, he deserved what she gave him clearly

00:02:09.500 They put all the paint all over his car gloss as well

00:02:13.020 Yeah, you know what? I don't have that in me. I know some people have like ripped windscreen wipers off. They've keyed cars

00:02:20.300 They've done all of that. I just I feel like I don't have it in me. I could be so angry and upset, but I just you do it in your head

00:02:25.980 Do you think if we flipped the genders that it would be the same reaction like if I if I if I said oh

00:02:32.300 I cheated on a guy and he put paint all over my card and keyed it like people would have the same reaction

00:02:37.340 Of course

00:02:37.820 No, I think that's been that's petty. I think they expect the whole car to disappear

00:02:42.620 Do better

00:02:45.100 A man wouldn't do something like that you just come out the car be gone

00:02:47.900 No, but it's if they want it to be petty

00:02:49.580 It's just interesting because I feel like if it was the opposite like if I said oh

00:02:53.580 He keyed my car and did this after I cheated like it wouldn't result in people laughing. You know what?

00:02:58.380 I mean, yeah 1.00

00:03:00.380 I think he's pathetic 0.99

00:03:03.180 People would say that he's dangerous. Yeah, he's violent or he's unhinged 1.00

00:03:07.260 or abusive

00:03:09.260 Yeah

00:03:11.260 Women 1.00

00:03:13.260 I'll be like I'm glad it was the car and not me

00:03:17.340 I just think the way people are nowadays

00:03:19.340 Men are the villains in every scenario and

00:03:24.140 Anything that happens to a woman if you flip it on its head and it happening to a man 1.00

00:03:29.100 It's always worse because women are saints. We cannot do anything wrong. Do you think so?

00:03:34.300 Perfect. No, I do not

00:03:35.740 She said that tongue-in-cheek. I can see her smile

00:03:37.740 I do not think so, but I feel like society

00:03:41.820 I just think conversations to make it seem like that is the consensus

00:03:45.820 Well, it's even like when we talk about cheating like if the guy does it

00:03:49.740 It's always we demonize him, but if the girl does it the first question is always why 0.66

00:03:54.780 Like why what made her cheat? Why did she cheat? 0.99

00:03:57.500 No, I would I would say I would always ask why did the guy cheat? I always

00:04:02.540 I don't think that's you think you think that's common when you see it on when you see it on say tick tock

00:04:07.020 When they tell cheating stories, it's always that if you look at any cheating story on tick tock

00:04:11.100 If it's a girl telling it the story of how she cheated like they'll always say. Oh, well, why did she cheat? 0.99

00:04:15.500 What what yeah, but for the men it's like

00:04:19.420 You know if I say he cheated because he hasn't slept his wife hasn't slept with him in three years

00:04:23.660 They still make him out to be the bad guy

00:04:25.820 Okay. Yeah, fair enough. I don't think you're wrong. It's like, you know

00:04:28.860 One out of four marriages is sexless usually on the man's part or like on the woman's part. Yeah. Oh, wow 0.78

00:04:35.340 Yeah, one out of four I've known I've known somebody been married. It's really common. Yes

00:04:39.100 Yeah

00:04:41.420 Yeah, I don't think I could it's easy to slip into but you're when you have babies

00:04:46.540 When you look at it. No, I'm sorry. It's easy to slip into I honestly I just feel like

00:04:51.260 When we have conversations about sex in marriage like women have to be honest 0.99

00:04:55.180 There are points in your marriage where you have to make an effort where you have to look at your husband and say, okay

00:05:00.540 He needs take one for the team

00:05:02.540 He needs me in this capacity and I may not feel like it for the foreseeable

00:05:09.660 So let me avail myself in the same way you would want like your husband or your partner to avail

00:05:15.820 Himself in whatever other scenario or even the same

00:05:19.980 I just feel like it is not that uncommon for a woman to not want to have sex because

00:05:25.740 When you become when you are a woman of a house you've got a lot going on 0.98

00:05:30.620 Especially if you work as well

00:05:32.780 There's a lot happening and you have babies and stuff like that. I just feel like sometimes yes

00:05:38.780 Like the wife is required to make an effort 1.00

00:05:41.420 She's not always going to feel like it

00:05:43.180 But some women choose not to make an effort some women are like 1.00

00:05:46.060 I will wait until I feel like it and you will wait until I feel like it. Can I ask you a question?

00:05:51.660 So if he didn't feel like it you'd still do it

00:05:55.580 If he wanted to

00:05:56.700 I just feel like my husband's

00:05:59.740 But yes, like I will because he needs he needs me in that

00:06:05.900 I just feel like for men it's not always

00:06:08.780 I'm horny like it's

00:06:11.180 Like their way of connecting to you they're like they want to be close to you and they don't want to sit down and have a

00:06:17.020 Gossip about what you did they don't want to listen to your like

00:06:20.940 Stories that you say is going to be two minutes but actually it's an hour and a half

00:06:24.460 They want to connect like that way like just sometimes you have to avail yourself

00:06:28.860 Yeah, sure you watch one of my sure you watch me and one of pearls podcasts before pearl no

00:06:36.140 What's your opinion auntie? What if what if she doesn't feel like it?

00:06:38.860 I was like she don't feel like it, you know, just like

00:06:42.380 Read the book bend over and just like, you know, watch tv be on the phone

00:06:46.540 But you know what not not always because the fact of the matter is is if you are with someone that person loves you and understands you

00:06:54.700 So if you don't feel like it, there's going to be times of those that's fine

00:06:58.140 Yeah, yeah, you'll be alone, but then sometimes like you may not feel like it for like

00:07:01.660 Two months. Wow

00:07:04.700 That long

00:07:05.180 Don't look at me

00:07:07.180 Oh, that's about you

00:07:09.180 I'm not telling my story

00:07:10.380 Oh, right

00:07:11.100 Okay, okay, okay

00:07:13.260 It could be that

00:07:14.620 Okay

00:07:15.100 You might have had a baby, might have been traumatic, whatever

00:07:18.860 You know

00:07:19.180 So if you're having a baby, not talking about you, but just like, you know

00:07:24.140 If you was having a baby, you didn't feel like it. Is there other ways that you can please your man?

00:07:28.140 Okay, then just check in

00:07:29.580 We all know there's other ways

00:07:31.900 We're all grown unaware

00:07:33.820 No, because I said this before and I and I said that, you know, basically a woman shouldn't refuse a man 0.99

00:07:40.060 You know if her husband

00:07:41.180 Yeah, that you know, I mean

00:07:43.420 Yeah, exactly, but for women, they want to make love for a man. It's just like give me five minutes 1.00

00:07:47.260 Can I ask a question? I think that's okay

00:07:49.740 What happens if you're really angry at him about something he's done and he wants it right there and then?

00:07:55.020 Like, do you do it?

00:07:56.300 That can resolve the anger

00:07:57.420 What happened?

00:07:57.900 I don't know what happened

00:07:59.660 Sorry 1.00

00:07:59.980 We might as well have sex with a woman when she's angry 1.00

00:08:03.820 We're looking at conflict resolution here 1.00

00:08:07.340 You're so angry

00:08:08.460 That could be better than counseling

00:08:09.900 Yeah

00:08:10.300 I agree 0.97

00:08:10.940 I can't ever see me being so angry that I don't want to have sex with my man 0.60

00:08:13.900 You've never had makeups

00:08:15.580 Listen, that's the best kind

00:08:17.660 Sorry, mum 0.58

00:08:18.700 I'm just saying

00:08:19.500 I've never had makeup sex 0.70

00:08:20.860 You've never?

00:08:22.300 No

00:08:22.860 Neither have I, we're going to talk it out

00:08:24.620 Oh, yeah

00:08:25.260 Don't touch me

00:08:26.940 No, I thought 0.95

00:08:27.580 I wouldn't even say makeup sex

00:08:28.860 I always think of like you've sorted out

00:08:31.500 Yeah, yeah

00:08:32.700 It's not too 0.97

00:08:33.580 Come give me a hug and then it sucks 0.81

00:08:34.700 Yeah, it's not too solvent 0.81

00:08:35.900 And I feel like you've become closer

00:08:37.420 It's nice

00:08:38.700 Yeah, but that's where

00:08:40.220 That's why you get stuck in your toxic situation

00:08:42.940 I'm not having a go

00:08:44.620 Because I've done the same

00:08:47.020 But that's your choice

00:08:49.580 Yeah, if you resolve it

00:08:51.420 I think I don't see an issue

00:08:52.380 If you feel like it's resolved

00:08:53.740 Then it is resolved

00:08:54.460 If you're happy

00:08:55.100 I wouldn't do it to mask

00:08:56.780 I think mask is the perfect word 1.00

00:08:58.540 Mask the situation

00:08:59.340 You know that you can't have sex if you're not happy

00:09:01.260 You can't make love if you're not happy

00:09:02.620 Yeah, you have to feel it

00:09:03.180 So you've got to make sure that the problem is solved

00:09:05.180 You can't just say

00:09:05.980 Oh yeah, you know, everything's fine

00:09:07.820 But deep inside you're angry

00:09:09.820 Yeah

00:09:10.060 You have to clear it 0.97

00:09:10.940 Because you know you can't have angry sex 0.96

JustPearlyThings - May 29, 2023

Aunty Jenny Catches Her Man Cheating In 4K

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