Aunty Jenny Catches Her Man Cheating In 4K
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Summary
In this episode, we talk about cheating, cheating stories, cheating on a partner, cheating in the bedroom, cheating at work and cheating at home. We also talk about the impact cheating can have on a relationship and how to deal with it.
Transcript
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That's it. Oh, can you tell the story about when you caught the guy cheating in the bedroom? Yeah
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Um, I've seen this guy for a long while and he's supposed to take me shop and he didn't turn up so I went to his house
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But we used to hang out with all of his friends. I was one of the guys and then this lovely young lady up there
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And I asked where he was and she knew me because she's always upstairs now I'm not upstairs
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And he just sort of like and she climbed into bed and he was just
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And I was like and you can see him trying to I thought you're already in bed with her
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Yeah, I can see him trying to dissing himself and I said to her
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Don't matter whoever's there you hug him up and she's like hold. I said hug him harder. She goes, would you like a cup of coffee?
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And she went downstairs and he said I said what do you want me to say?
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What do you want me to do? Because I'm not gonna hit her. Do you want me to knock you out?
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I ended up being her friend because they would hang out with all the guys and all the guys was like nah
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He's a player I said played at my mom's party. Yes, I said are you coming?
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She said no, he didn't invite me. I said you come
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Oh, stop. Yeah, you stopped anything with him. Oh, no straight away. Yeah, I stopped but it was just fun to go there
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I said go there when he wasn't there. She goes oh, he's coming home soon
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I said I watched dinner and I thought this is what you're having for dinner
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Yeah, but I was nice about it and I didn't disrespect her
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You know, I think that's and then one day I turned up and his whole car was covered in white paint
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But yeah, he deserved what she gave him clearly
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They put all the paint all over his car gloss as well
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Yeah, you know what? I don't have that in me. I know some people have like ripped windscreen wipers off. They've keyed cars
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They've done all of that. I just I feel like I don't have it in me. I could be so angry and upset, but I just you do it in your head
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Do you think if we flipped the genders that it would be the same reaction like if I if I if I said oh
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I cheated on a guy and he put paint all over my card and keyed it like people would have the same reaction
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No, I think that's been that's petty. I think they expect the whole car to disappear
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A man wouldn't do something like that you just come out the car be gone
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It's just interesting because I feel like if it was the opposite like if I said oh
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He keyed my car and did this after I cheated like it wouldn't result in people laughing. You know what?
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People would say that he's dangerous. Yeah, he's violent or he's unhinged
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I'll be like I'm glad it was the car and not me
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Anything that happens to a woman if you flip it on its head and it happening to a man
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It's always worse because women are saints. We cannot do anything wrong. Do you think so?
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She said that tongue-in-cheek. I can see her smile
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I just think conversations to make it seem like that is the consensus
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Well, it's even like when we talk about cheating like if the guy does it
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It's always we demonize him, but if the girl does it the first question is always why
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Like why what made her cheat? Why did she cheat?
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No, I would I would say I would always ask why did the guy cheat? I always
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I don't think that's you think you think that's common when you see it on when you see it on say tick tock
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When they tell cheating stories, it's always that if you look at any cheating story on tick tock
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If it's a girl telling it the story of how she cheated like they'll always say. Oh, well, why did she cheat?
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You know if I say he cheated because he hasn't slept his wife hasn't slept with him in three years
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Okay. Yeah, fair enough. I don't think you're wrong. It's like, you know
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One out of four marriages is sexless usually on the man's part or like on the woman's part. Yeah. Oh, wow
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Yeah, one out of four I've known I've known somebody been married. It's really common. Yes
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Yeah, I don't think I could it's easy to slip into but you're when you have babies
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When you look at it. No, I'm sorry. It's easy to slip into I honestly I just feel like
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When we have conversations about sex in marriage like women have to be honest
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There are points in your marriage where you have to make an effort where you have to look at your husband and say, okay
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He needs me in this capacity and I may not feel like it for the foreseeable
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So let me avail myself in the same way you would want like your husband or your partner to avail
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Himself in whatever other scenario or even the same
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I just feel like it is not that uncommon for a woman to not want to have sex because
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When you become when you are a woman of a house you've got a lot going on
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There's a lot happening and you have babies and stuff like that. I just feel like sometimes yes
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But some women choose not to make an effort some women are like
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I will wait until I feel like it and you will wait until I feel like it. Can I ask you a question?
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But yes, like I will because he needs he needs me in that
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Like their way of connecting to you they're like they want to be close to you and they don't want to sit down and have a
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Gossip about what you did they don't want to listen to your like
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Stories that you say is going to be two minutes but actually it's an hour and a half
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They want to connect like that way like just sometimes you have to avail yourself
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Yeah, sure you watch one of my sure you watch me and one of pearls podcasts before pearl no
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What's your opinion auntie? What if what if she doesn't feel like it?
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I was like she don't feel like it, you know, just like
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Read the book bend over and just like, you know, watch tv be on the phone
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But you know what not not always because the fact of the matter is is if you are with someone that person loves you and understands you
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So if you don't feel like it, there's going to be times of those that's fine
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Yeah, yeah, you'll be alone, but then sometimes like you may not feel like it for like
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You might have had a baby, might have been traumatic, whatever
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So if you're having a baby, not talking about you, but just like, you know
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If you was having a baby, you didn't feel like it. Is there other ways that you can please your man?
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No, because I said this before and I and I said that, you know, basically a woman shouldn't refuse a man
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Yeah, exactly, but for women, they want to make love for a man. It's just like give me five minutes
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What happens if you're really angry at him about something he's done and he wants it right there and then?
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We might as well have sex with a woman when she's angry
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I can't ever see me being so angry that I don't want to have sex with my man
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That's why you get stuck in your toxic situation
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You know that you can't have sex if you're not happy
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So you've got to make sure that the problem is solved