JustPearlyThings - May 29, 2023


Aunty Jenny Drops Truth Bombs On Modern Women

Hosted by
Hannah Pearl Davis
She Called DRAKE a Beta and GETS REKT Modern Women Hate To Hear The TRUTH

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9 minutes

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2,028

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Misogyny

11

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Toxicity

4

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Summary

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In this episode, we discuss how to deal with the pressures of being a woman in a relationship with a man who wants you to lose weight, how to be a better woman, and how to stop making excuses for not wanting to go to the gym.

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00:00:00.000 going to say i think it's all down to approach how things are said i agree with you because if
00:00:05.320 let's say you're getting busy with your guy and then you're saying oh you're a bit heavy today
00:00:09.600 excuse me why are you saying it like that well handle my heaviness and get stronger then
00:00:14.180 it's just the way i wouldn't stop it's not funny imagine you're in the moment and all of a sudden
00:00:19.180 sorry what'd you say no i was just saying like if let's say you're in the moment you know your
00:00:27.240 minds in a different universe and then all of a sudden you hear silly comment like you're a bit
00:00:30.580 heavy today i mean is it true i mean like if he says it is it true like what does it matter how he says 0.91
00:00:44.480 it if it's true he's not saying you're ugly you know i hate you in the moment i don't think that
00:00:48.900 matters if it's true i think why are you saying it when we're in the moment because you can feel the
00:00:52.880 weight in the position yes yes i agree with that i said i think it's important that you date guys
00:00:57.860 that like your body type your body type can change thank god yeah i didn't look like this a couple
00:01:03.520 of babies ago i mean you've grown together as a couple though yeah so by what she said like he met
00:01:11.900 me one way he could be like oh but i want you to go back and go back to that but you could lose weight
00:01:16.840 to you now you could he doesn't care but i'm saying if he cared i probably would be more motivated
00:01:22.940 yeah that's what i mean it wouldn't just be like my internal i want to lose weight but he's like you
00:01:28.660 know can you buy me a chocolate then he'll buy me like a duo but that's just helpful that's just you
00:01:33.660 there are a lot of men who still expect their women to even if she doesn't look exactly like how 0.74
00:01:38.940 they met before kids they still expect their women to look somewhat the same so luckily your man's like 1.00
00:01:45.720 you know we can eat chocolate together whatever but there are a lot of men that like yeah she's 1.00
00:01:50.640 just you know and there are a lot of women that feel offended by it because it's like oh well i've
00:01:55.560 pushed out this baby but like well i just think sometimes men feel like they can't say things that
00:01:59.760 are true to us and like we want them to communicate it in a feminine way yeah and and they're not women 0.99
00:02:05.400 so when you say like it's how you say it it's very confusing to guys because they're like well
00:02:10.460 it's true men are required to be gentle with women because we are not like them so i think in 0.99
00:02:20.840 the same way we should not expect men to deliver in a way that a female would they need to recognize 0.99
00:02:26.660 that they're not speaking to a male so yes i feel like men should be able to be truthful but they should
00:02:33.460 do it gently because they're speaking to someone gentle yeah i just think that women need to grow 1.00
00:02:39.500 a backbone and stop making excuses because if you're fat you're fat if you gotta put on weight
00:02:43.840 you gotta put on weight my man told me i was four pound overweight i lost four pound he's the same
00:02:48.720 thing like what she said he goes hang on a minute what's all that hanging about you put on a bit of
00:02:51.580 weight in you a bit of heavy and i was like yeah you're right that's like about it but don't no but
00:02:57.520 what i'm trying to say is that it all depends on your relationship and how you talk to each other
00:03:00.620 because we're just quite straightforward and blunt to the point where people are oh my god did he
00:03:04.880 really say that i'm like yeah it's true and i'll tell him yes look at your big head you know to your
00:03:10.540 comment it was like uh because you said but did you feel like that so let's say the woman disagreed 0.99
00:03:15.480 and then he's like okay but i want you to you know like get fit and she's like no i don't really feel
00:03:20.640 like i need you if he then stepped out are you saying that's like wrong or like his eyes are not
00:03:26.160 gonna wonder i mean yes sit down and work it out like but he has he's like he's telling me like
00:03:31.700 babe please go to the gym ask something and i and i said no i don't feel like it your resolve can't be
00:03:37.500 then i'm just gonna step out on if like if there's a resolve that goes beyond us continuing this
00:03:43.320 conversation until we're both like not satisfied but there is some kind of middle ground here
00:03:48.720 but what's the middle ground leave me but again i think that's a lot of guys feel trapped in
00:03:53.860 marriages because they don't want their kid they don't want to put their kid at every statistical
00:03:57.000 disadvantage they possibly could yeah so it's like if they step this is just how they see it it's
00:04:01.760 like if they step out and you never find out because they're you're not doing the things that
00:04:05.940 they ask them to do they a lot of times guys feel like it's justified no i know i know someone that
00:04:10.620 said because he has a child he will never leave the his child's mom um but if he's unhappy he will go
00:04:17.860 about his business behind her back but he will never leave her and i said to him leave her he said
00:04:22.460 never because my son's there and i don't want him not not because he fears that she would keep him
00:04:28.160 away from him it's because he doesn't want his son to grow up outside of mom and dad lives here
00:04:35.200 but together they're happy the son sees happy parents i don't know because if they did i think
00:04:40.420 good on him yeah yeah what for cheating and staying yeah okay i think there should be some kind
00:04:48.800 of mutual agreement between the two parents if that's the case if they're not happy no him he
00:04:54.900 said him but what she don't know don't hurt her in it oh no no you don't think so no because she
00:05:00.780 can get infected by what she doesn't know might hurt her that's an extreme yeah if he cares so much 0.99
00:05:06.540 about his child he's going to care so much about his wife's vagina you don't know that because he 1.00
00:05:10.920 cares about his child yeah he's he's staying that's his standard he's staying because of his child 0.99
00:05:15.400 he could leave so because his standards are so high he's not gonna go out and cheat
00:05:20.580 and get something he's gonna be extremely careful because he's careful anyway that's why he's staying
00:05:25.160 there i don't agree do you guys believe a man can love you but still cheat yes yeah i do yeah i really
00:05:34.480 do like long-term cheating or do you like oh i've slept with this person and i i've realized i was wrong
00:05:41.140 i think sometimes they just fall into some stripper you know yeah but not not long time 1.00
00:05:47.100 i have a friend and he he reckons all men cheat in a certain type of way he said my friend he's
00:05:54.940 married he calls it like a transfer window like a window he said i have my window i do what i do
00:06:00.100 and then you know what i go back i'm a good dad i'm a good husband but that's it but when that window
00:06:04.680 opens it's open and when it's shut it's shut i don't think all men cheat neither do i i'm so sorry
00:06:10.600 yes i refuse no my man don't cheat i don't think all men cheat i just i do think they can sleep with
00:06:16.400 someone else else and still love you love you and care about you i've just had enough men
00:06:19.660 i think so but not like a long-term relationship with a whole other family exactly a double life
00:06:25.660 i don't know i really think guys can love two women at the same time yeah i really like i mean
00:06:31.060 how they did it throughout all of history i mean you're gonna you're gonna tell me that all
00:06:35.560 throughout all of history when it's 17 it's one man reproduced for every 17 women that none of them
00:06:41.000 loved their wives isn't it there's more there's more men than women so technically like there's
00:06:47.240 less yeah sorry so they have to double up repo yeah reproduce with more women i think historically 1.00
00:06:52.780 80 of 80 of women have reproduced historically where only 40 of men have i think sometimes i think
00:07:00.040 sometimes you find out who's who when you go to funerals and you find who's that that's uncle so
00:07:04.020 yeah but it's true and that's when you find out sometime that the man had a whole family that
00:07:08.840 nobody knew about and i'm not saying it's right i'm just saying that's how the world's always been
00:07:12.460 like i can't i can't change the world i think it happens more with people older than me than than now
00:07:19.620 it seems to be like for the old people i'll say like 60 and 70 you always know somebody and like
00:07:25.040 they have somebody down the road they've got a whole other family oh this oh this is sorry go
00:07:31.200 ahead go ahead no worries um i think men are women god has made us differently right so i'm gonna be
00:07:38.000 speaking to the mic um so in islam men can have up to four wives because god know who he's who he's 0.96
00:07:47.060 created men men they're not they're not like us you know we're maternal we're more loyal you know
00:07:56.000 that's what we want from a relationship and that's what we bring to a relationship whereas for men 0.92
00:08:01.140 they're more protectors providers they're more um you know go out there and do the hard jobs that
00:08:07.860 type of thing so for them what they want is to spread to put it bluntly spread their seed
00:08:14.800 and have as many kids as they can and have as many families as they can and i'm i mean i i think
00:08:21.980 that's fine do you think that he can love talking yeah he can sorry do you think that he can love
00:08:27.440 all his wives equally well yeah i mean i mean that's one of the constraints of in in islam if 0.81
00:08:33.520 you're getting married to more than one wife you must treat her both of them or four of them all four 0.96
00:08:39.400 of them equally so if you buy this one a car you need to get four cars that's so if you can't if
00:08:44.420 you're not that top guy that can do that you settle and you stay loyal to your one woman
00:08:49.940 because when they say i think people get mixed up when they saw so you can have four wives you have
00:08:55.120 to be able to afford four wives that's why it's a different yeah you need to treat the people the 1.00
00:08:59.860 men that i've known that have got other families they both have nobody's suffering they all and you
00:09:07.040 find that the reason why they don't want to leave the wife is because they've been together years and
00:09:10.080 pension houses and children and college and everything grandchildren but i've known people
00:09:14.200 have a secret family tucked away and nobody suffers because exactly what those kids are getting is
00:09:20.440 exactly what those kids are getting
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