JustPearlyThings - March 22, 2023


Aunty Jenny Got Tired Of Her BS


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Length

9 minutes

Words per minute

235.21973

Word count

2,232

Sentence count

130

Harmful content

Misogyny

6

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Hate speech

6

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In this episode we discuss the age difference between men and women when it comes to sexual grooming. What does it mean and why does it matter what age a woman is when she becomes a groomer? What is the difference between a child groomer and a child molester? And what is the role of a modern woman in this situation?

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00:00:00.000 at that age I don't I don't sort of say I don't know what I was doing yeah but again I feel like
00:00:05.820 I was in a vulnerable position and I got taken advantage of you you you were unwilling to make
00:00:11.480 wise decisions at that age up to 17 or whatever the situation ended a year ago you throughout
00:00:18.060 that whole time you've been you were incapable of making great decisions yeah I do agree so what
00:00:24.420 that does not need is more coddling that needs tough love yeah can I just say something right
00:00:28.540 she was um she was working huh oh she was working I you were old enough to work I have been in uni
00:00:37.020 um I'm old enough to work yes but I have recently left jobs no I don't mean that situation I mean
00:00:41.860 when everybody's talking about the age when they got together all I heard was they met at work yeah
00:00:49.220 I was working a legal job cashing hand from 15 years old that's what I'm trying to say so
00:00:53.880 all right then if I go to a workplace if you and me are going to work right and I see you at work
00:01:00.260 I'm obviously going to think you're an adult because you're working I'm not making excuses
00:01:04.240 unless you told him I am 15 years old I did tell him and he told me you look 21 and you're mature for
00:01:11.280 your age does I excuse it I don't think it does no I don't say an excuse just because I'm working
00:01:15.900 it doesn't excuse it I'm not saying it excuses it no but that's I'm not saying it excuses it and
00:01:21.760 this is what I mean about you modern people they always want you to be soft soft soft and when you're
00:01:26.160 trying to find out what happens they always want to blame the men I'm not blaming men because you're
00:01:30.040 not letting me finish saying what I'm saying you were there working illegally right so the first thing
00:01:34.840 the guy could have seen was that you're under eight that you're of age because you're working
00:01:38.800 so for a start whatever your background was you know you can work from the age of 15 16 as long as
00:01:44.900 you have a national national insurance number and your parents permission
00:01:48.200 and your parents permission and your parents permission so therefore quote the whole law
00:01:52.940 it doesn't matter and your parents permission to work on the age you need your parents did you
00:01:58.320 have your parents permission yes I did right so you had your parents permission to work so why
00:02:03.240 couldn't you have parents permission if your parents gave you permission to work
00:02:06.680 why couldn't you go to your parents say this guy's talking to me and I'm underage
00:02:10.340 Because you don't
00:02:13.900 Go to your parents
00:02:14.740 But they gave you
00:02:15.340 Permission to work
00:02:16.560 You don't
00:02:17.040 No
00:02:17.460 They gave you
00:02:18.100 Permission to work
00:02:19.040 Not necessarily
00:02:19.720 What I heard from
00:02:20.380 Mr. MTR
00:02:21.920 Yes ma'am
00:02:23.840 When you were first talking
00:02:24.920 And what I understood
00:02:26.620 You was
00:02:27.140 First going to say
00:02:28.380 Is that
00:02:28.780 You can't come out here
00:02:30.120 And call a man a groomer
00:02:30.940 Unless you've got evidence for it
00:02:32.180 You can't call my hair
00:02:33.340 You can't call my hair
00:02:34.480 And tell somebody something
00:02:35.920 I was trying to get there
00:02:36.800 I got that
00:02:37.560 And call somebody like
00:02:38.660 Oh yeah
00:02:39.140 I can turn around
00:02:39.900 And say my son's dad's an abuser
00:02:41.200 You know what
00:02:41.500 Because everybody knows
00:02:42.060 It's been out there
00:02:42.900 Because I've been falsely accused
00:02:43.880 I've taken him to court
00:02:44.700 It's been out there
00:02:45.580 I've got an injunction
00:02:46.420 It's been out there
00:02:47.380 But you're going to come on here
00:02:48.660 And you're going to say
00:02:49.480 All these things happen
00:02:50.400 And then you're going to
00:02:51.200 Turn around and say
00:02:51.960 Oh
00:02:52.620 I called the police
00:02:54.500 I could have gone to court
00:02:55.100 But I didn't press charges
00:02:56.060 So you did not press charges
00:02:58.820 He is an innocent man
00:03:00.080 So does that
00:03:00.580 You can't be sitting on
00:03:01.740 Social media
00:03:02.680 With a daughter
00:03:03.280 Do you see what I'm saying
00:03:04.780 You can't be sitting on
00:03:06.040 Social media
00:03:06.940 I'm going to put you off
00:03:07.460 You can't cut me off
00:03:08.280 No way
00:03:08.640 Because that's where
00:03:09.540 There's a disrespect coming
00:03:10.260 I'm older than you
00:03:12.280 I'm talking
00:03:12.840 I'm not finished talking
00:03:14.340 I am not finished talking
00:03:16.500 I'm not finished talking though
00:03:17.940 I'm not finished talking though
00:03:19.600 That's where the respect comes in
00:03:21.580 I'm not finished talking though
00:03:22.980 And that's the problem
00:03:23.780 With modern women 1.00
00:03:24.360 But I think
00:03:25.020 Modern women
00:03:25.600 Is modern women 0.99
00:03:26.400 That I think
00:03:26.900 You're disrespecting me
00:03:28.080 You're acting
00:03:28.680 Like a modern woman 1.00
00:03:29.680 Because I am
00:03:30.780 I am a modern woman
00:03:31.420 Obviously
00:03:31.660 I'm like a fucking
00:03:32.560 Modern woman 0.93
00:03:33.020 I don't give a thought
00:03:34.040 I am talking
00:03:34.420 I am talking
00:03:35.440 Add up to child
00:03:36.280 I'm talking
00:03:36.840 Add up to child
00:03:37.580 And that's the problem
00:03:38.660 Because he was trying to say
00:03:40.300 The same thing
00:03:40.980 You come on there
00:03:42.040 And you're saying
00:03:42.860 Obviously
00:03:43.760 Like you said
00:03:44.520 The people know who he is
00:03:46.460 The people know who he is
00:03:47.700 So as far as they're concerned
00:03:48.940 He was in a relationship
00:03:50.060 And the people already know
00:03:51.060 He is now a groomer
00:03:52.320 He is now a groomer out there
00:03:54.080 He is a groomer out there
00:03:56.080 Without a police record
00:03:58.420 He's a groomer out there
00:04:00.160 Who hasn't gone to court
00:04:01.380 For grooming her
00:04:02.620 This is what I mean
00:04:03.240 You're speaking on something
00:04:04.020 That you literally do not know
00:04:05.240 You're speaking on something
00:04:06.120 That you don't know
00:04:06.880 All right then
00:04:06.900 Listen
00:04:07.520 I am not disclosing
00:04:08.280 Has he been to court
00:04:09.060 I am not disclosing
00:04:10.160 What has he done to you
00:04:10.420 I am not disclosing
00:04:11.580 I am not disclosing
00:04:11.940 Every issue
00:04:12.560 I am not disclosing
00:04:14.020 Every issue
00:04:14.760 You said you didn't press charges
00:04:16.220 Yes
00:04:16.780 You said you didn't press charges
00:04:17.780 And I told you
00:04:18.260 So he's out there without any subsequent, anything to do with you.
00:04:22.340 So if he got any other charges out there, it's not from what he's done to you.
00:04:25.540 But it is true. 0.90
00:04:26.140 So you can't go out there and say, oh, I took him to court and I, oh, I could have gone to court and I didn't press charges.
00:04:32.260 Because if somebody does something and you press charges, if you don't press charges, don't talk about the man.
00:04:38.180 Don't talk about him on social media because people are going to be out there.
00:04:41.640 Do you know how many people.
00:04:43.000 I went to court with my son.
00:04:44.240 I can talk about him because we went to court.
00:04:45.740 Do you know how many people commit crimes and do not go to prison for it?
00:04:49.700 And those are the people that should be talking about it.
00:04:51.660 Those are the people when they commit crimes.
00:04:53.320 What does that mean?
00:04:54.320 Then when they commit crimes, if somebody commits a crime against you and you don't want to report it, shut up about it.
00:05:00.260 What if you're just not a snitch?
00:05:02.860 Then you deserve to get abused.
00:05:04.360 Oh, yeah, I said it.
00:05:04.920 What?
00:05:05.200 I said it.
00:05:05.820 I said it.
00:05:06.580 I said it.
00:05:07.420 If somebody's abusing you and you know that the police are going to stop you and you decide to sit there and you don't want to say nothing.
00:05:13.220 Well, then you ask for it.
00:05:14.880 No, that's not true.
00:05:15.360 Because you could have done something about it.
00:05:17.180 You could have done something about it rather than be a snitch.
00:05:19.680 So you don't want to be a snitch, but you want to sit there and be an abused person.
00:05:23.060 No, I don't want to sit there and be an abused person.
00:05:25.280 I'm going to be an abused.
00:05:25.740 But things happen.
00:05:26.900 He was a groomer.
00:05:27.680 It's like you trying to turn around to me and say, right, I shouldn't tell people.
00:05:32.520 Who's saying about it?
00:05:32.740 I shouldn't tell people I got hit by a bus and I got brain damaged because it's a bad thing to say.
00:05:37.680 Would you just take the bus company to court?
00:05:40.520 Wait, no, no.
00:05:40.900 Would you just take the bus company to court?
00:05:42.200 It's a little bit different than that because it's three sides to every story.
00:05:44.420 He's going to have his own explanation.
00:05:46.640 Of course.
00:05:47.000 If he would describe the situation, do you think he would describe himself as a groomer?
00:05:50.560 No.
00:05:51.320 But it is a moral, though.
00:05:52.500 No.
00:05:53.000 Is it what?
00:05:53.440 It is a moral.
00:05:54.400 I don't think he would.
00:05:55.200 For a 24-year-old to go for a 15-year-old.
00:05:57.120 Just because he wouldn't say that.
00:05:59.240 Yeah, but that's the story that she's telling us based off of things that she's recounting it.
00:06:02.120 When she was 16?
00:06:02.920 No.
00:06:03.320 See, he might then say, well, I didn't know she was working on a spot.
00:06:06.240 And I thought you had to be 18 years old to work on a spot.
00:06:07.560 It doesn't matter if it's legal.
00:06:08.920 It's still a moral.
00:06:09.600 Just because it's legal doesn't mean it's moral.
00:06:12.660 The whole point is we're going off of what she says.
00:06:14.660 Right.
00:06:15.080 And he doesn't have a platform to talk about it.
00:06:16.840 But I don't know you, right?
00:06:18.140 Of course.
00:06:18.740 I could absolutely be chatting shit right now.
00:06:20.700 That's the whole point.
00:06:21.860 That's the whole point.
00:06:22.540 But the thing is, if you file a police report and you show us a police report, it's different.
00:06:26.500 This happens.
00:06:27.080 She's not the only one who's done this.
00:06:28.400 Girls will come on the show.
00:06:29.640 And this is why it was on the list.
00:06:30.960 Because girls come on the show. 1.00
00:06:32.380 And it's the same story.
00:06:33.700 Oh, he abused me.
00:06:34.880 And they're always with him for multiple years.
00:06:37.040 It's never just one year.
00:06:37.980 Like, the first time I got hit, I left.
00:06:39.420 It's always multiple years.
00:06:40.520 You can have your reasons for doing that.
00:06:42.080 But to me, if someone's hitting me in the face, I'm getting the fuck out of there.
00:06:45.340 And I'm calling the police.
00:06:46.280 That's just me.
00:06:47.440 You don't know, though, unless you're in a situation.
00:06:49.740 No.
00:06:50.320 I know.
00:06:51.080 I've been in this situation.
00:06:52.020 If a chick cheat on me, I'm out. 1.00
00:06:52.900 I've been in this situation.
00:06:54.400 There's guilt tripping.
00:06:55.600 There's a lot of other fucking shit that goes on.
00:06:57.600 And I just think that.
00:06:58.360 I understand.
00:06:58.760 Okay.
00:06:58.900 But, and so then, and so then, I asked, did you file a police report?
00:07:03.320 And oftentimes, the answer is no.
00:07:05.340 And so then, we're going to a point where she can say, he did this, this, and this.
00:07:08.880 I have the evidence.
00:07:09.420 And wait, I don't, I don't, you might have evidence.
00:07:12.060 I have police logs, reports.
00:07:14.000 I'm not talking about you.
00:07:15.640 Okay.
00:07:15.980 I'm talking about the point.
00:07:17.320 Okay.
00:07:17.880 And so, the point is that many men get accused of crimes they did not commit.
00:07:22.340 And when there is no evidence and no police report, I don't know your personal situation,
00:07:26.680 but it's weird to me that you were there for multiple years, and you didn't press charges,
00:07:31.040 and you just continued to stay and get hit, because if someone hits me in the face, I'm
00:07:34.240 going to the police.
00:07:35.160 Right.
00:07:35.280 So, me personally, I wasn't there for multiple years.
00:07:37.560 It was about a year.
00:07:38.440 You said 17 to 21.
00:07:40.020 No, we was.
00:07:40.760 No, you said 15 to 21.
00:07:41.840 No, I'm saying he was grooming me from 15 to about, I was 17 years old.
00:07:47.480 And then that's when things started getting further on.
00:07:52.020 Well, I'm telling you.
00:07:52.880 And so, I'm not saying that.
00:07:55.340 Sorry, no, I know what you're saying is, again, it reiterates my point before why I got upset
00:08:01.340 about the list, because some women turn around and say, I've been abused. 1.00
00:08:06.360 I've been great.
00:08:07.980 I've been this.
00:08:08.780 I've been that.
00:08:09.300 And it makes the actual victims look bad.
00:08:11.840 And the actual victims not want to report it, because you feel like you're doing something
00:08:17.640 wrong by reporting it.
00:08:19.180 And especially if you've got someone in the back of your ear saying, don't report me.
00:08:22.160 I've got a daughter.
00:08:22.980 I don't want this to go wrong.
00:08:24.140 I don't want that to go wrong.
00:08:25.080 Like, you love this person, and this person is telling you all sorts.
00:08:28.440 It's hard for you to do that.
00:08:29.960 So, if you're not going to report it, then why would you go around telling everybody?
00:08:32.400 I don't go around telling everyone.
00:08:34.040 It just came up in the situation.
00:08:35.680 No, no, no.
00:08:36.080 If you're going to report it on a podcast for everyone to listen to, why don't you report it
00:08:39.060 to the police, where change can be had?
00:08:42.000 What's the police going to do, apart from put him on the sex offenders list and give
00:08:46.040 me a restraining order?
00:08:47.860 Protect other women.
00:08:48.800 I already have a restraining order.
00:08:51.540 Protect other girls out there.
00:08:52.880 Protect my grandchildren and his cousin and her sister and everybody, all the other females 1.00
00:08:58.780 out there.
00:08:59.200 That's what you're doing when you report something like that.
00:09:01.300 You're not thinking about yourself.
00:09:02.640 You're thinking about the whole, everybody around you and everybody around him.
00:09:06.900 You're protecting everyone else.
00:09:08.700 Once you let an offender go, you're leaving it for him to abuse everybody else.
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00:09:19.260 on this platform.
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