JustPearlyThings - Aunty Jenny Said This About CHEATING

00:00:00.000 do you guys think that corn you know what that stands for okay do you guys think that corn is

00:00:05.200 cheating no yes no yes once he does it in front once he watches it in front of me i know he's

00:00:13.200 there watching but if it's hidden it's cheating if it's like yeah you want to watch it it's like

00:00:17.680 it's like watching another movie i'm watching it though but if it's hidden i think it's cheating

00:00:22.800 because for you to hide it that must be wrong yeah yeah don't lie about it fine yeah i feel like you

00:00:29.120 can i don't think together no i don't want to do that but do you think it's cheating no i said if

00:00:36.880 you know if he has i just feel like he wouldn't want to do it in front of you why not i don't know

00:00:42.800 no don't do it in front of me like i don't no i don't i don't want i don't mean that in front of

00:00:46.560 you i mean like if he's there watching that he loves men ever watching the tv and yeah he's in

00:00:51.200 one room and he's watching it and he coming oh you're watching that rubbish again it's like it's

00:00:55.520 nothing to me but you wouldn't get mad if he's not as long as he's not he's open with it yeah

00:01:00.240 would anyone here be mad if their husband watched or boyfriend watched corn sorry can i just say 0.65

00:01:04.960 something it all depends on what kind it is if it's that sick perverted kind then yeah oh yeah

00:01:11.200 if it's like regular normal normal yeah any i'd be upset i don't think i'd be mad i'd be concerned

00:01:17.040 because what is what's what are you seeking from this variety why do you and so picking up a few

00:01:24.720 tips but then but then again to me that's a concern for me because what variety why do you want variety

00:01:31.120 just try this that's like what men want naturally i'm not saying all men cheat but men naturally want

00:01:36.800 variety you're telling me okay you can take the best man in the world if he had a bus full of models 1.00

00:01:42.320 waiting for him every day when he got home every single day begging to sleep with him most of you

00:01:46.960 guys are going to fail fair enough but i'm i'm putting my self in it if you want variety it's a

00:01:56.080 concern if you if you cannot exercise self-control it's a concern if i am to exercise self-control

00:02:04.400 and you don't give yourself that same parameter it's a concern i'm not saying i'll be angry

00:02:11.840 but if this is something to iron out it's not something that oh this is how you are that's

00:02:16.720 your makeup that's fine because i know what i want and as far as i'm concerned on the foundational

00:02:23.360 like morals principles standards we match and so if we're no longer matching it's an even bigger

00:02:29.760 concern and now we're talking about the longevity of our relationship i don't think it means that you

00:02:34.480 don't match no no but it's because i know what i would like and when you say what you would like what is

00:02:39.920 that so i not not to watch that and if if you're telling me these are the reasons why you watch it

00:02:47.040 let's iron out those reasons so you don't have to if you feel like your reason is just

00:02:52.080 i just like yeah and it doesn't mean he's doing it every day or even every week everyone knows why

00:02:56.320 they like it everyone knows why they like what they like no one just likes it and i'm not sure

00:03:00.960 but that's like but that's like a female point of view like to men it's just like a reaction they don't 1.00

00:03:06.160 think that much but then that's not what i then that's that's fine we don't have to but it's almost

00:03:11.920 like asking men not to be men but no not necessarily because in my experience i have what i have not

00:03:16.560 experienced that do you understand so i can't even speak to it because it's not like i've been with a

00:03:21.200 man that could explain his side of it all i can say is from my wants and if this is how you are that's

00:03:29.440 fine i'm not gonna like say change or it's you're just not for me yeah it sounds like you're not it

00:03:37.040 you haven't created a space where they could even come to tell you that they watch it it's that it

00:03:40.880 sounds like if they do it's in private like they wouldn't even tell you no it's if and this is what

00:03:45.440 i'm saying i wouldn't get angry to me it would be a concern so if you came to me or i caught you

00:03:51.600 i'm not gonna be oh no no it's like okay let's sit down and talk about it like why why why why

00:03:56.560 do you feel like you like this or whatever and like if if you're like this is how i am and i

00:04:02.640 can't really explain it or whatever i have the right to say but i don't like this i don't i don't

00:04:08.240 have to compromise on that so how can i just hang on can i just say something because from what

00:04:13.760 tell me if i'm wrong yeah you're talking about if like now if you found him watch it or if he suddenly

00:04:20.400 decided yeah but what i would say yeah and what i think you're saying is that yeah this is you

00:04:28.960 wouldn't be with somebody that does it anyway yeah and then if he happens to be doing it there's a

00:04:33.200 problem yeah and that i feel the same way i mean if i know if i know that my man does it and i'm with him

00:04:38.000 i knew that he done it before i got with him but if i'm with a man and then suddenly he starts doing

00:04:42.240 it well what's going on why all of a sudden you start you never showed it and i think that's what you're

00:04:46.080 trying to say because trying to change an individual is futile to me okay especially if

00:04:52.080 you do not see an issue ha like i don't have the energy to try and make you see or even see

00:04:59.760 it from my point of view if you don't you don't but i don't have to be i don't have to take it do

00:05:04.800 understand or or like i do have the choice i can i can just tolerate it like okay this is that i can

00:05:10.880 tolerate but my point is then i have a choice but before me making that choice i want to sit down

00:05:17.120 and understand i think if i had a man and he wasn't open about it in the first place and i found him

00:05:22.080 doing it other issues then i'll be angry yeah that's that i'd have issues then you'll be fine

00:05:26.720 if he said to me in the beginning that when i thought oh yeah sometimes i watch this i would

00:05:30.160 like okay then when i know it's down to me whether i'll stay with you or not yeah i want to know like

00:05:35.360 you know what kind can you imagine you know i've been with you for x amount of years and you're saying

00:05:39.680 i've always watched it and i've been like and i'm now choosing to tell you you're a liar but then 0.79

00:05:46.240 that's choosing to hide it no yeah but that's what that's when that's when i may get angry yeah

00:05:51.040 i agree but if it's happening we're going to talk about it okay i just think a lot of times like from

00:05:58.240 the men's point of view it's like we want them to be exclusive to us which is like compromising on

00:06:05.200 their mating strategy strategy which is to spread their seed but on the same time like when they try to

00:06:09.360 watch and i'm not saying you specifically i don't know your marriage or whatever yeah but like when

00:06:13.440 when you tell them that they can't even watch corn and that's cheating too it's like well what do

00:06:17.600 you want from me what can i do so i just tell him straight whatever they're doing on there i will

00:06:22.640 try it with you yeah i will auntie's ready to meet them in the middle yeah i will try it with you

00:06:29.040 you know i mean like you want to pick up some tips but then i'm gonna watch it let's let's have a go

00:06:32.880 what's another freaky stuff you know what i mean don't slap me either yeah

00:06:41.120 i feel like corn has saved a lot of marriages i've had a partner show me something and be like

00:06:48.160 let's try this really yeah were you down or were you mad she was down

00:06:55.040 she was down i was down but i it wasn't a case where i didn't know that he wasn't watching it because

00:07:01.040 i knew he watched it or he'd sometimes be like oh look at this like he'd send it to me and be like

00:07:05.920 i don't know how i'd feel if my partner showed me really if he sent you events and let's try

00:07:09.840 this tonight i don't know i feel like i would be like i'm not saying i would be against it but i i

00:07:15.360 don't know i think there's bad i don't know obviously everyone's different but to me for me

00:07:20.160 personally there's boundaries you could be watching it and doing all this but if you're putting more

00:07:24.480 attention on that than me then it's an issue i think that's so bad to be mine is tell me the

00:07:31.520 first place because if i find it later on we're done it's just a slippery slope yeah just tell me

00:07:36.320 who you are yeah show me introduce me to you and i'll choose if i want to be yeah i'm gonna show you

00:07:42.800 who i am yeah yeah i agree as long as you're transparent then there's no issue what do you want

00:07:48.640 just let me know no freaky stuff either yeah yeah it's definitely important to ask which kind

00:07:56.320 what to ask which kind yeah which uh because there's different levels and you find that women might 1.00

00:08:02.240 set up might accept some levels but then yeah if you're watching certain stuff i'm just like it's

00:08:08.800 like yeah yeah that's who they are as well yeah that's like a sicko who should be in my house

00:08:13.920 yeah yeah your interest i feel like that's a topic of conversation that you talk about no yeah

00:08:19.360 no 100 like i want to know i've never had that conversation though yeah i've never had that

00:08:25.360 conversation with a man i had it what what they're into yeah not not in corn i'm saying in in general

00:08:33.200 in the bedroom like oh yeah you know what they like and what they don't like i'm up for anything

00:08:37.520 because you're my man in it but no freaky stuff that's different that's not even copying nobody

00:08:44.080 that's me getting freaky there's a big difference yeah okay i'm gonna take a second to read as many

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JustPearlyThings - March 22, 2023

Aunty Jenny Said This About CHEATING

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